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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You’ve gotten many helpful responses here. I’ll just add one important point and two minor ones. It doesn’t matter that you’re at a small school and you assume he has fewer students. **Students aren’t the only people emailing us.** As faculty, we receive daily emails from: **1)** current undergraduate students, **2)** former undergraduate students, **3)** current graduate students, **4)** former graduate students, **5)** prospective undergrad advisees and prospective graduate students, **6)** colleagues in our department, **7)** our department chair, **8)** colleagues at our institution but in other departments, **9)** colleagues at different universities, **10)** academic journal editors, **11)** edited collections editors, **12)** professional organizations, **13)** conference organizers, **14)** conference participants if we’ve organized a panel/event, **15)** department administrators, **16)** department committee heads, **17)** university committee heads, **18)** university president/chancellor, **19)** general university newsletter, **20)** university office of the registrar, **21)** department and university IT, **22)** university presses, **23)** news outlets/other media if we have a public scholar profile, **24)** 50 TRILLION EMAILS about COVID and online/hybrid/F2F teaching... Honestly, the list goes on. We deal with this mostly unnecessary glut of information on top of our actual research, teaching, service, and family life. (As a side note, keep in mind that you probably don’t know his teaching load or the number of students in each class. It’s also often the case that at small schools, students email professors **more** frequently precisely because classes are more intimate.) You wrote in another response to someone “I don't want to schedule office hours just to chat.” If it’s not worth dropping by office hours, it’s not worth sending an email (unless you’re okay with not receiving a response. Sometimes it’s just satisfying to share a cool link). I care deeply about my students, but we’re not friends. It also kind of sounds like **you may be front-loading all your “chat” in the emails**, which he’d only be skimming, and **making it hard to see whether you have an actual, urgent question** that only he can answer. 250 pages/a week for a senior research seminar is normal, especially if some of it, as you say, is not actual reading but related media. And I agree with others he’s aware you’re crushing and wants to shut it down. There’s nothing shameful about your feelings. But know that good professors—who understand the asymmetrical power dynamic at play—enforce healthy boundaries. Take care.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This load is normal for humanities, and seems a little low for me tbh. It's a load I normally give to 2 and 3rd years, depending on the subject. What's the content of your email? As a professor I don't answer email that read rude, whiny, or entitled. If you are complaining about a perfectly normal amount of work I would ignore those too. Email1. A summary of a reunion could be noted, and doesn't need an answer. Email2. Probably missed it, or didn't even looked the remitent (for what you say he told you in class), just saw a student asking for unpaid extra time he doesn't have. Email3. Complain about the load, not worth answering. I teach 12 groups, that's a total of about 500 students, on top of my research, my tutoring group, and mandatory training my uni is giving us for the new normality. Emails right now are hard, and sometimes they fall in cracks, it's not personal. Do you really NEED his attention? Or what do you need the answer to?", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You’ve gotten many helpful responses here. I’ll just add one important point and two minor ones. It doesn’t matter that you’re at a small school and you assume he has fewer students. **Students aren’t the only people emailing us.** As faculty, we receive daily emails from: **1)** current undergraduate students, **2)** former undergraduate students, **3)** current graduate students, **4)** former graduate students, **5)** prospective undergrad advisees and prospective graduate students, **6)** colleagues in our department, **7)** our department chair, **8)** colleagues at our institution but in other departments, **9)** colleagues at different universities, **10)** academic journal editors, **11)** edited collections editors, **12)** professional organizations, **13)** conference organizers, **14)** conference participants if we’ve organized a panel/event, **15)** department administrators, **16)** department committee heads, **17)** university committee heads, **18)** university president/chancellor, **19)** general university newsletter, **20)** university office of the registrar, **21)** department and university IT, **22)** university presses, **23)** news outlets/other media if we have a public scholar profile, **24)** 50 TRILLION EMAILS about COVID and online/hybrid/F2F teaching... Honestly, the list goes on. We deal with this mostly unnecessary glut of information on top of our actual research, teaching, service, and family life. (As a side note, keep in mind that you probably don’t know his teaching load or the number of students in each class. It’s also often the case that at small schools, students email professors **more** frequently precisely because classes are more intimate.) You wrote in another response to someone “I don't want to schedule office hours just to chat.” If it’s not worth dropping by office hours, it’s not worth sending an email (unless you’re okay with not receiving a response. Sometimes it’s just satisfying to share a cool link). I care deeply about my students, but we’re not friends. It also kind of sounds like **you may be front-loading all your “chat” in the emails**, which he’d only be skimming, and **making it hard to see whether you have an actual, urgent question** that only he can answer. 250 pages/a week for a senior research seminar is normal, especially if some of it, as you say, is not actual reading but related media. And I agree with others he’s aware you’re crushing and wants to shut it down. There’s nothing shameful about your feelings. But know that good professors—who understand the asymmetrical power dynamic at play—enforce healthy boundaries. Take care.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m going to somewhat disagree with some comments here. Yes, professors are busy, but personally, I make a point to reply to every student email. Sometimes it takes me a couple of days, but it gets done. That said, I’ve mostly taught at teaching-focused institutions. It sounds like you’re at a school that focuses more on research than teaching, and that tends to put more of the burden on the students for getting by without help. And that’s because less of tenure and promotion is based on teaching at such institutions. At this point, I wouldn’t count on getting any communication that isn’t face to face. Ask critical questions after class or during office hours, but don’t expect a back and forth via email, especially if this professor has graduate students he’s working with.", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You’ve gotten many helpful responses here. I’ll just add one important point and two minor ones. It doesn’t matter that you’re at a small school and you assume he has fewer students. **Students aren’t the only people emailing us.** As faculty, we receive daily emails from: **1)** current undergraduate students, **2)** former undergraduate students, **3)** current graduate students, **4)** former graduate students, **5)** prospective undergrad advisees and prospective graduate students, **6)** colleagues in our department, **7)** our department chair, **8)** colleagues at our institution but in other departments, **9)** colleagues at different universities, **10)** academic journal editors, **11)** edited collections editors, **12)** professional organizations, **13)** conference organizers, **14)** conference participants if we’ve organized a panel/event, **15)** department administrators, **16)** department committee heads, **17)** university committee heads, **18)** university president/chancellor, **19)** general university newsletter, **20)** university office of the registrar, **21)** department and university IT, **22)** university presses, **23)** news outlets/other media if we have a public scholar profile, **24)** 50 TRILLION EMAILS about COVID and online/hybrid/F2F teaching... Honestly, the list goes on. We deal with this mostly unnecessary glut of information on top of our actual research, teaching, service, and family life. (As a side note, keep in mind that you probably don’t know his teaching load or the number of students in each class. It’s also often the case that at small schools, students email professors **more** frequently precisely because classes are more intimate.) You wrote in another response to someone “I don't want to schedule office hours just to chat.” If it’s not worth dropping by office hours, it’s not worth sending an email (unless you’re okay with not receiving a response. Sometimes it’s just satisfying to share a cool link). I care deeply about my students, but we’re not friends. It also kind of sounds like **you may be front-loading all your “chat” in the emails**, which he’d only be skimming, and **making it hard to see whether you have an actual, urgent question** that only he can answer. 250 pages/a week for a senior research seminar is normal, especially if some of it, as you say, is not actual reading but related media. And I agree with others he’s aware you’re crushing and wants to shut it down. There’s nothing shameful about your feelings. But know that good professors—who understand the asymmetrical power dynamic at play—enforce healthy boundaries. Take care.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Around 200 pages for a seminar is reasonable. I'm a second year undergrad and I have upwards of 400 pages reading in some weeks for seminars plus each course having at least 2 to 10 required books. Extensive note taking can be counteradvised. You must take only the necessary facts, diving into the details ia discouraged. And even if you do read and take notes, it is only what is expected. Also, is there a possibility your emails ended up in spam ?", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You’ve gotten many helpful responses here. I’ll just add one important point and two minor ones. It doesn’t matter that you’re at a small school and you assume he has fewer students. **Students aren’t the only people emailing us.** As faculty, we receive daily emails from: **1)** current undergraduate students, **2)** former undergraduate students, **3)** current graduate students, **4)** former graduate students, **5)** prospective undergrad advisees and prospective graduate students, **6)** colleagues in our department, **7)** our department chair, **8)** colleagues at our institution but in other departments, **9)** colleagues at different universities, **10)** academic journal editors, **11)** edited collections editors, **12)** professional organizations, **13)** conference organizers, **14)** conference participants if we’ve organized a panel/event, **15)** department administrators, **16)** department committee heads, **17)** university committee heads, **18)** university president/chancellor, **19)** general university newsletter, **20)** university office of the registrar, **21)** department and university IT, **22)** university presses, **23)** news outlets/other media if we have a public scholar profile, **24)** 50 TRILLION EMAILS about COVID and online/hybrid/F2F teaching... Honestly, the list goes on. We deal with this mostly unnecessary glut of information on top of our actual research, teaching, service, and family life. (As a side note, keep in mind that you probably don’t know his teaching load or the number of students in each class. It’s also often the case that at small schools, students email professors **more** frequently precisely because classes are more intimate.) You wrote in another response to someone “I don't want to schedule office hours just to chat.” If it’s not worth dropping by office hours, it’s not worth sending an email (unless you’re okay with not receiving a response. Sometimes it’s just satisfying to share a cool link). I care deeply about my students, but we’re not friends. It also kind of sounds like **you may be front-loading all your “chat” in the emails**, which he’d only be skimming, and **making it hard to see whether you have an actual, urgent question** that only he can answer. 250 pages/a week for a senior research seminar is normal, especially if some of it, as you say, is not actual reading but related media. And I agree with others he’s aware you’re crushing and wants to shut it down. There’s nothing shameful about your feelings. But know that good professors—who understand the asymmetrical power dynamic at play—enforce healthy boundaries. Take care.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a humanities major, but in terms of courseload, for each course in my major I expected to do roughly 10 hours a week of work outside of class for a B and roughly 20 hours a week for an A. How does that compare with the amount of work you're doing for the class?", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You’ve gotten many helpful responses here. I’ll just add one important point and two minor ones. It doesn’t matter that you’re at a small school and you assume he has fewer students. **Students aren’t the only people emailing us.** As faculty, we receive daily emails from: **1)** current undergraduate students, **2)** former undergraduate students, **3)** current graduate students, **4)** former graduate students, **5)** prospective undergrad advisees and prospective graduate students, **6)** colleagues in our department, **7)** our department chair, **8)** colleagues at our institution but in other departments, **9)** colleagues at different universities, **10)** academic journal editors, **11)** edited collections editors, **12)** professional organizations, **13)** conference organizers, **14)** conference participants if we’ve organized a panel/event, **15)** department administrators, **16)** department committee heads, **17)** university committee heads, **18)** university president/chancellor, **19)** general university newsletter, **20)** university office of the registrar, **21)** department and university IT, **22)** university presses, **23)** news outlets/other media if we have a public scholar profile, **24)** 50 TRILLION EMAILS about COVID and online/hybrid/F2F teaching... Honestly, the list goes on. We deal with this mostly unnecessary glut of information on top of our actual research, teaching, service, and family life. (As a side note, keep in mind that you probably don’t know his teaching load or the number of students in each class. It’s also often the case that at small schools, students email professors **more** frequently precisely because classes are more intimate.) You wrote in another response to someone “I don't want to schedule office hours just to chat.” If it’s not worth dropping by office hours, it’s not worth sending an email (unless you’re okay with not receiving a response. Sometimes it’s just satisfying to share a cool link). I care deeply about my students, but we’re not friends. It also kind of sounds like **you may be front-loading all your “chat” in the emails**, which he’d only be skimming, and **making it hard to see whether you have an actual, urgent question** that only he can answer. 250 pages/a week for a senior research seminar is normal, especially if some of it, as you say, is not actual reading but related media. And I agree with others he’s aware you’re crushing and wants to shut it down. There’s nothing shameful about your feelings. But know that good professors—who understand the asymmetrical power dynamic at play—enforce healthy boundaries. Take care.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There seems to be a lot of comments saying this is a reasonable workload. I don't doubt this may be the case on some locations/fields, but this doesn't match up with my experience at all. In my undergrad I had a humanities major and a STEM major, and I almost never did any readings (some classes assigned them, but the material just repeated the lectures / were not covered in the final); in fact there was one semester when I had *more* readings from STEM classes. For my grad classes (also humanities) I actually have readings, but the usual workload is around two papers per week, each of them usually not more than ~40-50 pages, often less. I've had a class with 4-5 papers per week, and those could end up being closer to OP's 150, but I still don't think I've had anything near 250 in that class. So without knowing the OP's exact field and location, I don't think we can say this is too heavy just yet.", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You’ve gotten many helpful responses here. I’ll just add one important point and two minor ones. It doesn’t matter that you’re at a small school and you assume he has fewer students. **Students aren’t the only people emailing us.** As faculty, we receive daily emails from: **1)** current undergraduate students, **2)** former undergraduate students, **3)** current graduate students, **4)** former graduate students, **5)** prospective undergrad advisees and prospective graduate students, **6)** colleagues in our department, **7)** our department chair, **8)** colleagues at our institution but in other departments, **9)** colleagues at different universities, **10)** academic journal editors, **11)** edited collections editors, **12)** professional organizations, **13)** conference organizers, **14)** conference participants if we’ve organized a panel/event, **15)** department administrators, **16)** department committee heads, **17)** university committee heads, **18)** university president/chancellor, **19)** general university newsletter, **20)** university office of the registrar, **21)** department and university IT, **22)** university presses, **23)** news outlets/other media if we have a public scholar profile, **24)** 50 TRILLION EMAILS about COVID and online/hybrid/F2F teaching... Honestly, the list goes on. We deal with this mostly unnecessary glut of information on top of our actual research, teaching, service, and family life. (As a side note, keep in mind that you probably don’t know his teaching load or the number of students in each class. It’s also often the case that at small schools, students email professors **more** frequently precisely because classes are more intimate.) You wrote in another response to someone “I don't want to schedule office hours just to chat.” If it’s not worth dropping by office hours, it’s not worth sending an email (unless you’re okay with not receiving a response. Sometimes it’s just satisfying to share a cool link). I care deeply about my students, but we’re not friends. It also kind of sounds like **you may be front-loading all your “chat” in the emails**, which he’d only be skimming, and **making it hard to see whether you have an actual, urgent question** that only he can answer. 250 pages/a week for a senior research seminar is normal, especially if some of it, as you say, is not actual reading but related media. And I agree with others he’s aware you’re crushing and wants to shut it down. There’s nothing shameful about your feelings. But know that good professors—who understand the asymmetrical power dynamic at play—enforce healthy boundaries. Take care.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "*laughs in English major*", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You’ve gotten many helpful responses here. I’ll just add one important point and two minor ones. It doesn’t matter that you’re at a small school and you assume he has fewer students. **Students aren’t the only people emailing us.** As faculty, we receive daily emails from: **1)** current undergraduate students, **2)** former undergraduate students, **3)** current graduate students, **4)** former graduate students, **5)** prospective undergrad advisees and prospective graduate students, **6)** colleagues in our department, **7)** our department chair, **8)** colleagues at our institution but in other departments, **9)** colleagues at different universities, **10)** academic journal editors, **11)** edited collections editors, **12)** professional organizations, **13)** conference organizers, **14)** conference participants if we’ve organized a panel/event, **15)** department administrators, **16)** department committee heads, **17)** university committee heads, **18)** university president/chancellor, **19)** general university newsletter, **20)** university office of the registrar, **21)** department and university IT, **22)** university presses, **23)** news outlets/other media if we have a public scholar profile, **24)** 50 TRILLION EMAILS about COVID and online/hybrid/F2F teaching... Honestly, the list goes on. We deal with this mostly unnecessary glut of information on top of our actual research, teaching, service, and family life. (As a side note, keep in mind that you probably don’t know his teaching load or the number of students in each class. It’s also often the case that at small schools, students email professors **more** frequently precisely because classes are more intimate.) You wrote in another response to someone “I don't want to schedule office hours just to chat.” If it’s not worth dropping by office hours, it’s not worth sending an email (unless you’re okay with not receiving a response. Sometimes it’s just satisfying to share a cool link). I care deeply about my students, but we’re not friends. It also kind of sounds like **you may be front-loading all your “chat” in the emails**, which he’d only be skimming, and **making it hard to see whether you have an actual, urgent question** that only he can answer. 250 pages/a week for a senior research seminar is normal, especially if some of it, as you say, is not actual reading but related media. And I agree with others he’s aware you’re crushing and wants to shut it down. There’s nothing shameful about your feelings. But know that good professors—who understand the asymmetrical power dynamic at play—enforce healthy boundaries. Take care.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Emails are good for setting up office hour appointments and little else.", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Hm. I’m going to both echo and slightly disagree from other posters. I had a professor in undergrad that I had a huge crush on. While I won’t get into details, there are a few moments that I look back on and cringe at my behavior 🤦🏼‍♀️. It was probably pretty obvious in retrospect, but he did always reply to my emails, and he ended up as my thesis advisor and good friend postgrad. I would agree with others that your emails are a teensy bit superfluous. I would recommend in the future only emailing a professor if absolutely necessary. That being said, he should have sent you like a one sentence reply at the very minimum by email number 3. Do not let your crush cloud your judgement. As another poster said, you are placing a lot of emotional responsibility for your wellbeing on your professor. Just know that who you are doesn’t change based on whether or not someone likes you. Just do good work, and he will respect you for that at the very least. In terms of keeping up with readings: read the intro, highlight the thesis, find one interesting passage OR 2 points of evidence/support for the thesis, and then skim the conclusion. That should cut your time spent on the readings considerably.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can't directly speak about the reading. But I can for the emails. It is completely possible that your professor either missed those emails (but they did get to his inbox) or ment to respond but forgot or didn't get them. You are right that your emails didn't always have action items. Additionally, I've had profs not respond until the second or third email (reminders of the original email and content, not entirely new content like yours). Since you do have a class, I would approach your prof to discuss either setting up a meeting or to answer quick questions about an assignment or reading. If a longer discussion develops from those questions, great! For example, the additional info you sent in the third email would be a good opener. Just asking that they did receive would be appropriate. Even checking they received the second email and asking again to schedule a office meeting to go over it more (if necessary) also works. The content of the third email is a bit more problematic. Complaining about the amount of reading is going to bring up questions about you succeeding in a grad level course. To overcome this, I'd ask for reading strategies to help you handle the increased reading load for this class or future classes. Not responding to emails isn't personal. People miss emails or think they responded but didn't (had that happen). Learning to handle it is important.", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "From a faculty perspective-- I get dozens of emails every day and I have to triage. I don't ignore student emails but if it isn't urgent I don't get to respond to everything. Also students are off-limits. They just are. If someone I getting too friendly cool them off a bit, or ignore them. I don't let students friend me on social media, etc. The student-faculty relationship is a work relationship, not personal. It's okay to show an interest in the class, but starting a casual conversation isn't something I'm usually going to respond to by email. Don't think of that as a rejection-- it is just someone outside of your dating pool. There are a lot of people in life who will be outside of your pool, especially as you get older. Too old, too young, married, employee, sex you're not attracted to, employer, student, emotionally unavailable, etc. It isn't a judgement about you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can't directly speak about the reading. But I can for the emails. It is completely possible that your professor either missed those emails (but they did get to his inbox) or ment to respond but forgot or didn't get them. You are right that your emails didn't always have action items. Additionally, I've had profs not respond until the second or third email (reminders of the original email and content, not entirely new content like yours). Since you do have a class, I would approach your prof to discuss either setting up a meeting or to answer quick questions about an assignment or reading. If a longer discussion develops from those questions, great! For example, the additional info you sent in the third email would be a good opener. Just asking that they did receive would be appropriate. Even checking they received the second email and asking again to schedule a office meeting to go over it more (if necessary) also works. The content of the third email is a bit more problematic. Complaining about the amount of reading is going to bring up questions about you succeeding in a grad level course. To overcome this, I'd ask for reading strategies to help you handle the increased reading load for this class or future classes. Not responding to emails isn't personal. People miss emails or think they responded but didn't (had that happen). Learning to handle it is important.", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can't directly speak about the reading. But I can for the emails. It is completely possible that your professor either missed those emails (but they did get to his inbox) or ment to respond but forgot or didn't get them. You are right that your emails didn't always have action items. Additionally, I've had profs not respond until the second or third email (reminders of the original email and content, not entirely new content like yours). Since you do have a class, I would approach your prof to discuss either setting up a meeting or to answer quick questions about an assignment or reading. If a longer discussion develops from those questions, great! For example, the additional info you sent in the third email would be a good opener. Just asking that they did receive would be appropriate. Even checking they received the second email and asking again to schedule a office meeting to go over it more (if necessary) also works. The content of the third email is a bit more problematic. Complaining about the amount of reading is going to bring up questions about you succeeding in a grad level course. To overcome this, I'd ask for reading strategies to help you handle the increased reading load for this class or future classes. Not responding to emails isn't personal. People miss emails or think they responded but didn't (had that happen). Learning to handle it is important.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a humanities major, but in terms of courseload, for each course in my major I expected to do roughly 10 hours a week of work outside of class for a B and roughly 20 hours a week for an A. How does that compare with the amount of work you're doing for the class?", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Hm. I’m going to both echo and slightly disagree from other posters. I had a professor in undergrad that I had a huge crush on. While I won’t get into details, there are a few moments that I look back on and cringe at my behavior 🤦🏼‍♀️. It was probably pretty obvious in retrospect, but he did always reply to my emails, and he ended up as my thesis advisor and good friend postgrad. I would agree with others that your emails are a teensy bit superfluous. I would recommend in the future only emailing a professor if absolutely necessary. That being said, he should have sent you like a one sentence reply at the very minimum by email number 3. Do not let your crush cloud your judgement. As another poster said, you are placing a lot of emotional responsibility for your wellbeing on your professor. Just know that who you are doesn’t change based on whether or not someone likes you. Just do good work, and he will respect you for that at the very least. In terms of keeping up with readings: read the intro, highlight the thesis, find one interesting passage OR 2 points of evidence/support for the thesis, and then skim the conclusion. That should cut your time spent on the readings considerably.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m going to somewhat disagree with some comments here. Yes, professors are busy, but personally, I make a point to reply to every student email. Sometimes it takes me a couple of days, but it gets done. That said, I’ve mostly taught at teaching-focused institutions. It sounds like you’re at a school that focuses more on research than teaching, and that tends to put more of the burden on the students for getting by without help. And that’s because less of tenure and promotion is based on teaching at such institutions. At this point, I wouldn’t count on getting any communication that isn’t face to face. Ask critical questions after class or during office hours, but don’t expect a back and forth via email, especially if this professor has graduate students he’s working with.", "role": "assistant" } ]
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My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Hm. I’m going to both echo and slightly disagree from other posters. I had a professor in undergrad that I had a huge crush on. While I won’t get into details, there are a few moments that I look back on and cringe at my behavior 🤦🏼‍♀️. It was probably pretty obvious in retrospect, but he did always reply to my emails, and he ended up as my thesis advisor and good friend postgrad. I would agree with others that your emails are a teensy bit superfluous. I would recommend in the future only emailing a professor if absolutely necessary. That being said, he should have sent you like a one sentence reply at the very minimum by email number 3. Do not let your crush cloud your judgement. As another poster said, you are placing a lot of emotional responsibility for your wellbeing on your professor. Just know that who you are doesn’t change based on whether or not someone likes you. Just do good work, and he will respect you for that at the very least. In terms of keeping up with readings: read the intro, highlight the thesis, find one interesting passage OR 2 points of evidence/support for the thesis, and then skim the conclusion. That should cut your time spent on the readings considerably.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a humanities major, but in terms of courseload, for each course in my major I expected to do roughly 10 hours a week of work outside of class for a B and roughly 20 hours a week for an A. How does that compare with the amount of work you're doing for the class?", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1e8piex
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "From a faculty perspective-- I get dozens of emails every day and I have to triage. I don't ignore student emails but if it isn't urgent I don't get to respond to everything. Also students are off-limits. They just are. If someone I getting too friendly cool them off a bit, or ignore them. I don't let students friend me on social media, etc. The student-faculty relationship is a work relationship, not personal. It's okay to show an interest in the class, but starting a casual conversation isn't something I'm usually going to respond to by email. Don't think of that as a rejection-- it is just someone outside of your dating pool. There are a lot of people in life who will be outside of your pool, especially as you get older. Too old, too young, married, employee, sex you're not attracted to, employer, student, emotionally unavailable, etc. It isn't a judgement about you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m going to somewhat disagree with some comments here. Yes, professors are busy, but personally, I make a point to reply to every student email. Sometimes it takes me a couple of days, but it gets done. That said, I’ve mostly taught at teaching-focused institutions. It sounds like you’re at a school that focuses more on research than teaching, and that tends to put more of the burden on the students for getting by without help. And that’s because less of tenure and promotion is based on teaching at such institutions. At this point, I wouldn’t count on getting any communication that isn’t face to face. Ask critical questions after class or during office hours, but don’t expect a back and forth via email, especially if this professor has graduate students he’s working with.", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1ryf5dq
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "From a faculty perspective-- I get dozens of emails every day and I have to triage. I don't ignore student emails but if it isn't urgent I don't get to respond to everything. Also students are off-limits. They just are. If someone I getting too friendly cool them off a bit, or ignore them. I don't let students friend me on social media, etc. The student-faculty relationship is a work relationship, not personal. It's okay to show an interest in the class, but starting a casual conversation isn't something I'm usually going to respond to by email. Don't think of that as a rejection-- it is just someone outside of your dating pool. There are a lot of people in life who will be outside of your pool, especially as you get older. Too old, too young, married, employee, sex you're not attracted to, employer, student, emotionally unavailable, etc. It isn't a judgement about you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Around 200 pages for a seminar is reasonable. I'm a second year undergrad and I have upwards of 400 pages reading in some weeks for seminars plus each course having at least 2 to 10 required books. Extensive note taking can be counteradvised. You must take only the necessary facts, diving into the details ia discouraged. And even if you do read and take notes, it is only what is expected. Also, is there a possibility your emails ended up in spam ?", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1k8adef
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "From a faculty perspective-- I get dozens of emails every day and I have to triage. I don't ignore student emails but if it isn't urgent I don't get to respond to everything. Also students are off-limits. They just are. If someone I getting too friendly cool them off a bit, or ignore them. I don't let students friend me on social media, etc. The student-faculty relationship is a work relationship, not personal. It's okay to show an interest in the class, but starting a casual conversation isn't something I'm usually going to respond to by email. Don't think of that as a rejection-- it is just someone outside of your dating pool. There are a lot of people in life who will be outside of your pool, especially as you get older. Too old, too young, married, employee, sex you're not attracted to, employer, student, emotionally unavailable, etc. It isn't a judgement about you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a humanities major, but in terms of courseload, for each course in my major I expected to do roughly 10 hours a week of work outside of class for a B and roughly 20 hours a week for an A. How does that compare with the amount of work you're doing for the class?", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1omefk9
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "From a faculty perspective-- I get dozens of emails every day and I have to triage. I don't ignore student emails but if it isn't urgent I don't get to respond to everything. Also students are off-limits. They just are. If someone I getting too friendly cool them off a bit, or ignore them. I don't let students friend me on social media, etc. The student-faculty relationship is a work relationship, not personal. It's okay to show an interest in the class, but starting a casual conversation isn't something I'm usually going to respond to by email. Don't think of that as a rejection-- it is just someone outside of your dating pool. There are a lot of people in life who will be outside of your pool, especially as you get older. Too old, too young, married, employee, sex you're not attracted to, employer, student, emotionally unavailable, etc. It isn't a judgement about you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There seems to be a lot of comments saying this is a reasonable workload. I don't doubt this may be the case on some locations/fields, but this doesn't match up with my experience at all. In my undergrad I had a humanities major and a STEM major, and I almost never did any readings (some classes assigned them, but the material just repeated the lectures / were not covered in the final); in fact there was one semester when I had *more* readings from STEM classes. For my grad classes (also humanities) I actually have readings, but the usual workload is around two papers per week, each of them usually not more than ~40-50 pages, often less. I've had a class with 4-5 papers per week, and those could end up being closer to OP's 150, but I still don't think I've had anything near 250 in that class. So without knowing the OP's exact field and location, I don't think we can say this is too heavy just yet.", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1dw33pm
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "From a faculty perspective-- I get dozens of emails every day and I have to triage. I don't ignore student emails but if it isn't urgent I don't get to respond to everything. Also students are off-limits. They just are. If someone I getting too friendly cool them off a bit, or ignore them. I don't let students friend me on social media, etc. The student-faculty relationship is a work relationship, not personal. It's okay to show an interest in the class, but starting a casual conversation isn't something I'm usually going to respond to by email. Don't think of that as a rejection-- it is just someone outside of your dating pool. There are a lot of people in life who will be outside of your pool, especially as you get older. Too old, too young, married, employee, sex you're not attracted to, employer, student, emotionally unavailable, etc. It isn't a judgement about you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "*laughs in English major*", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1efwdx1
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "From a faculty perspective-- I get dozens of emails every day and I have to triage. I don't ignore student emails but if it isn't urgent I don't get to respond to everything. Also students are off-limits. They just are. If someone I getting too friendly cool them off a bit, or ignore them. I don't let students friend me on social media, etc. The student-faculty relationship is a work relationship, not personal. It's okay to show an interest in the class, but starting a casual conversation isn't something I'm usually going to respond to by email. Don't think of that as a rejection-- it is just someone outside of your dating pool. There are a lot of people in life who will be outside of your pool, especially as you get older. Too old, too young, married, employee, sex you're not attracted to, employer, student, emotionally unavailable, etc. It isn't a judgement about you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Emails are good for setting up office hour appointments and little else.", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1neo4p4
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This load is normal for humanities, and seems a little low for me tbh. It's a load I normally give to 2 and 3rd years, depending on the subject. What's the content of your email? As a professor I don't answer email that read rude, whiny, or entitled. If you are complaining about a perfectly normal amount of work I would ignore those too. Email1. A summary of a reunion could be noted, and doesn't need an answer. Email2. Probably missed it, or didn't even looked the remitent (for what you say he told you in class), just saw a student asking for unpaid extra time he doesn't have. Email3. Complain about the load, not worth answering. I teach 12 groups, that's a total of about 500 students, on top of my research, my tutoring group, and mandatory training my uni is giving us for the new normality. Emails right now are hard, and sometimes they fall in cracks, it's not personal. Do you really NEED his attention? Or what do you need the answer to?", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Around 200 pages for a seminar is reasonable. I'm a second year undergrad and I have upwards of 400 pages reading in some weeks for seminars plus each course having at least 2 to 10 required books. Extensive note taking can be counteradvised. You must take only the necessary facts, diving into the details ia discouraged. And even if you do read and take notes, it is only what is expected. Also, is there a possibility your emails ended up in spam ?", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1izxou1
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This load is normal for humanities, and seems a little low for me tbh. It's a load I normally give to 2 and 3rd years, depending on the subject. What's the content of your email? As a professor I don't answer email that read rude, whiny, or entitled. If you are complaining about a perfectly normal amount of work I would ignore those too. Email1. A summary of a reunion could be noted, and doesn't need an answer. Email2. Probably missed it, or didn't even looked the remitent (for what you say he told you in class), just saw a student asking for unpaid extra time he doesn't have. Email3. Complain about the load, not worth answering. I teach 12 groups, that's a total of about 500 students, on top of my research, my tutoring group, and mandatory training my uni is giving us for the new normality. Emails right now are hard, and sometimes they fall in cracks, it's not personal. Do you really NEED his attention? Or what do you need the answer to?", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a humanities major, but in terms of courseload, for each course in my major I expected to do roughly 10 hours a week of work outside of class for a B and roughly 20 hours a week for an A. How does that compare with the amount of work you're doing for the class?", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g10baza5
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This load is normal for humanities, and seems a little low for me tbh. It's a load I normally give to 2 and 3rd years, depending on the subject. What's the content of your email? As a professor I don't answer email that read rude, whiny, or entitled. If you are complaining about a perfectly normal amount of work I would ignore those too. Email1. A summary of a reunion could be noted, and doesn't need an answer. Email2. Probably missed it, or didn't even looked the remitent (for what you say he told you in class), just saw a student asking for unpaid extra time he doesn't have. Email3. Complain about the load, not worth answering. I teach 12 groups, that's a total of about 500 students, on top of my research, my tutoring group, and mandatory training my uni is giving us for the new normality. Emails right now are hard, and sometimes they fall in cracks, it's not personal. Do you really NEED his attention? Or what do you need the answer to?", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There seems to be a lot of comments saying this is a reasonable workload. I don't doubt this may be the case on some locations/fields, but this doesn't match up with my experience at all. In my undergrad I had a humanities major and a STEM major, and I almost never did any readings (some classes assigned them, but the material just repeated the lectures / were not covered in the final); in fact there was one semester when I had *more* readings from STEM classes. For my grad classes (also humanities) I actually have readings, but the usual workload is around two papers per week, each of them usually not more than ~40-50 pages, often less. I've had a class with 4-5 papers per week, and those could end up being closer to OP's 150, but I still don't think I've had anything near 250 in that class. So without knowing the OP's exact field and location, I don't think we can say this is too heavy just yet.", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g1b7vn6t
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This load is normal for humanities, and seems a little low for me tbh. It's a load I normally give to 2 and 3rd years, depending on the subject. What's the content of your email? As a professor I don't answer email that read rude, whiny, or entitled. If you are complaining about a perfectly normal amount of work I would ignore those too. Email1. A summary of a reunion could be noted, and doesn't need an answer. Email2. Probably missed it, or didn't even looked the remitent (for what you say he told you in class), just saw a student asking for unpaid extra time he doesn't have. Email3. Complain about the load, not worth answering. I teach 12 groups, that's a total of about 500 students, on top of my research, my tutoring group, and mandatory training my uni is giving us for the new normality. Emails right now are hard, and sometimes they fall in cracks, it's not personal. Do you really NEED his attention? Or what do you need the answer to?", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "*laughs in English major*", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g161psg1
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This load is normal for humanities, and seems a little low for me tbh. It's a load I normally give to 2 and 3rd years, depending on the subject. What's the content of your email? As a professor I don't answer email that read rude, whiny, or entitled. If you are complaining about a perfectly normal amount of work I would ignore those too. Email1. A summary of a reunion could be noted, and doesn't need an answer. Email2. Probably missed it, or didn't even looked the remitent (for what you say he told you in class), just saw a student asking for unpaid extra time he doesn't have. Email3. Complain about the load, not worth answering. I teach 12 groups, that's a total of about 500 students, on top of my research, my tutoring group, and mandatory training my uni is giving us for the new normality. Emails right now are hard, and sometimes they fall in cracks, it's not personal. Do you really NEED his attention? Or what do you need the answer to?", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Emails are good for setting up office hour appointments and little else.", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g146e1t7
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m going to somewhat disagree with some comments here. Yes, professors are busy, but personally, I make a point to reply to every student email. Sometimes it takes me a couple of days, but it gets done. That said, I’ve mostly taught at teaching-focused institutions. It sounds like you’re at a school that focuses more on research than teaching, and that tends to put more of the burden on the students for getting by without help. And that’s because less of tenure and promotion is based on teaching at such institutions. At this point, I wouldn’t count on getting any communication that isn’t face to face. Ask critical questions after class or during office hours, but don’t expect a back and forth via email, especially if this professor has graduate students he’s working with.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a humanities major, but in terms of courseload, for each course in my major I expected to do roughly 10 hours a week of work outside of class for a B and roughly 20 hours a week for an A. How does that compare with the amount of work you're doing for the class?", "role": "assistant" } ]
jcl1g194197n
My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Around 200 pages for a seminar is reasonable. I'm a second year undergrad and I have upwards of 400 pages reading in some weeks for seminars plus each course having at least 2 to 10 required books. Extensive note taking can be counteradvised. You must take only the necessary facts, diving into the details ia discouraged. And even if you do read and take notes, it is only what is expected. Also, is there a possibility your emails ended up in spam ?", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "My (undergrad) professor assigns 200 pages of readings a week and hasn't answered my last three emails :( I'm in a senior research seminar for my humanities major. The professor is someone I completely adore. I have, in fact, a bit of a crush on him. But he assigns so much in terms of readings - up to 250 pages a week but usually closer to 150. Do you guys think this is reasonable? Half of it is usually primary source material, half academic discourse, and then sometimes media pieces. So it's not like it's easy reading either. And then, and I'm not upset about it but it just makes me feel a bit embarrassed/rejected, he hasn't answered my last three emails! The first email was about something we were discussing in a meeting I had had with him. I thanked him for the meeting, sent him a picture which I had asked him a question about during the meeting, and commented about my interest in a memoir written by an academic he knows really well. No answer. That's fine, I guess, the email didn't have any action items. The second email was about my research proposal. I mentioned an author we had both been talking about, linked to a really interesting interview with him, and then asked the professor if he might be available to meet sometime in the next few days to help me refine some things for my research proposal, which would be due the following week. No answer. Ouch! I was really embarrassed. After this, when I went to class, I was a bit quiet. He noticed, and he was like, you're quiet today. have you done the readings? I was like yeah, of course I have. He said, so what's going on? I didn't say much. But I was actually a bit hurt that he hadn't been answering any of my emails, and I was also really tired... Anyways, I sent the third email a few days ago. In the email, I explained that I've always done the readings, all of them, take them really seriously, annotate extensively (my annotations document is about 70 pages now!), and then I mentioned that I find upwards of 200 pages of readings to be challenging (something all the classmates and I had agreed on - they were just too afraid to broach it with him), but that I still appreciated the readings and learned so much from them, and would even miss them after this class is over. I also asked if he assigns about this much in his grad classes. A few weeks ago, he'd said that I could take a grad class with him, so that's why I asked about that. No answer! I don't know what to do. Why isn't he answering any of my emails??", "role": "user" }, { "content": "There seems to be a lot of comments saying this is a reasonable workload. I don't doubt this may be the case on some locations/fields, but this doesn't match up with my experience at all. In my undergrad I had a humanities major and a STEM major, and I almost never did any readings (some classes assigned them, but the material just repeated the lectures / were not covered in the final); in fact there was one semester when I had *more* readings from STEM classes. For my grad classes (also humanities) I actually have readings, but the usual workload is around two papers per week, each of them usually not more than ~40-50 pages, often less. I've had a class with 4-5 papers per week, and those could end up being closer to OP's 150, but I still don't think I've had anything near 250 in that class. So without knowing the OP's exact field and location, I don't think we can say this is too heavy just yet.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1t21ft5b
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Unionize the adjuncts! The union at my school, while I’ve heard some rumors it’s not the strongest union you’d like to see, just got a raise to $7,000 per course! Finally they’re getting what they deserve.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">Is this normal!? It is normal, but it doesn't make it right. If you'd like some company for your misery, these articles all decry the new normal that is the exploitation of adjuncts in academia: * \"There Is No Excuse for How Universities Treat Adjuncts\" * \"The Great Shame of Our Profession\" * \"[Adjuncting] Can Kill You. Literally.\" * \"Are adjunct professors the fast-food workers of the academic world?\"", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tjo9z8o
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Unionize the adjuncts! The union at my school, while I’ve heard some rumors it’s not the strongest union you’d like to see, just got a raise to $7,000 per course! Finally they’re getting what they deserve.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, it's ridiculous and in many cases it's abused. It should be used as a kind of, \"well Dr. S got real sick so we need someone to cover his Calc 3 course this semester,\" or \"our tenure track candidate fell through and we need someone to help lower our teaching load\" but is instead used as \"Let's see how little we can pay\". I don't think all schools abuse it like this though.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1t4x9yne
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Unionize the adjuncts! The union at my school, while I’ve heard some rumors it’s not the strongest union you’d like to see, just got a raise to $7,000 per course! Finally they’re getting what they deserve.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That kind of pay is just straight up unethical. It’s not even minimum wage when you work in time spent outside of the classroom. Turn it down.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tr3jom1
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Unionize the adjuncts! The union at my school, while I’ve heard some rumors it’s not the strongest union you’d like to see, just got a raise to $7,000 per course! Finally they’re getting what they deserve.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The only adjunct work I've done paid that PER CREDIT HOUR if you taught less than half time. If you taught more than half time it went up even more. That sounds like a ridiculous amount even for adjunct.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1t0hu9yn
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, it's ridiculous and in many cases it's abused. It should be used as a kind of, \"well Dr. S got real sick so we need someone to cover his Calc 3 course this semester,\" or \"our tenure track candidate fell through and we need someone to help lower our teaching load\" but is instead used as \"Let's see how little we can pay\". I don't think all schools abuse it like this though.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That kind of pay is just straight up unethical. It’s not even minimum wage when you work in time spent outside of the classroom. Turn it down.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1ts92omy
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That's criminally low! I make approx $8k per course, because adjuncts and grad students at my university are unionized.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The only adjunct work I've done paid that PER CREDIT HOUR if you taught less than half time. If you taught more than half time it went up even more. That sounds like a ridiculous amount even for adjunct.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tv32rqh
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That's criminally low! I make approx $8k per course, because adjuncts and grad students at my university are unionized.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ask for more! They make a low offer because they think you'll accept it.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tb65742
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That's criminally low! I make approx $8k per course, because adjuncts and grad students at my university are unionized.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m not a professor, but that seems incredibly low! I am paid $1500 per term to TA a 3-credit course.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1t4g6wdq
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is what we pay undergraduate TAs and graders.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I was paid $1200-1600 about 10 years ago to teach some courses adjunct at a for-profit college. I calculated they were potentially making $50-70k off of the class. My current public institution pays ~$5000 I believe per course. So it's highly variable, and really unfortunate that they can pay so low. I guess turning it down is an option, but you've got to build up your CV if you want to move on to a better job.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tzcb0rs
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is what we pay undergraduate TAs and graders.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ask for more! They make a low offer because they think you'll accept it.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tkmcpwj
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is what we pay undergraduate TAs and graders.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m not a professor, but that seems incredibly low! I am paid $1500 per term to TA a 3-credit course.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1t60nyrn
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is what we pay undergraduate TAs and graders.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That is what my community college pays our adjuncts. It’s incredibly low and it helps keep our tuition lower than any other school in the state. They’re also not allowed to have office hours so it falls on full time faculty to pick up some slack there when students need make up exams and other non-classroom things.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tllqppb
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is what we pay undergraduate TAs and graders.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That’s very low, even for an adjunct. But 100 contact hours for one class is quite high. That’s 7 hrs/wk for a 15 week course.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1ti9og70
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is what we pay undergraduate TAs and graders.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "And that's why I quit with an MA and went with a career path that saves me from being a hunger artist.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tbwty77
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I was paid $1200-1600 about 10 years ago to teach some courses adjunct at a for-profit college. I calculated they were potentially making $50-70k off of the class. My current public institution pays ~$5000 I believe per course. So it's highly variable, and really unfortunate that they can pay so low. I guess turning it down is an option, but you've got to build up your CV if you want to move on to a better job.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ask for more! They make a low offer because they think you'll accept it.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1t4m6578
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I was paid $1200-1600 about 10 years ago to teach some courses adjunct at a for-profit college. I calculated they were potentially making $50-70k off of the class. My current public institution pays ~$5000 I believe per course. So it's highly variable, and really unfortunate that they can pay so low. I guess turning it down is an option, but you've got to build up your CV if you want to move on to a better job.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’m not a professor, but that seems incredibly low! I am paid $1500 per term to TA a 3-credit course.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1t5quc7o
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I was paid $1200-1600 about 10 years ago to teach some courses adjunct at a for-profit college. I calculated they were potentially making $50-70k off of the class. My current public institution pays ~$5000 I believe per course. So it's highly variable, and really unfortunate that they can pay so low. I guess turning it down is an option, but you've got to build up your CV if you want to move on to a better job.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That’s very low, even for an adjunct. But 100 contact hours for one class is quite high. That’s 7 hrs/wk for a 15 week course.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tarhdyu
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I was paid $1200-1600 about 10 years ago to teach some courses adjunct at a for-profit college. I calculated they were potentially making $50-70k off of the class. My current public institution pays ~$5000 I believe per course. So it's highly variable, and really unfortunate that they can pay so low. I guess turning it down is an option, but you've got to build up your CV if you want to move on to a better job.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "And that's why I quit with an MA and went with a career path that saves me from being a hunger artist.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1tlg30mm
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That is what my community college pays our adjuncts. It’s incredibly low and it helps keep our tuition lower than any other school in the state. They’re also not allowed to have office hours so it falls on full time faculty to pick up some slack there when students need make up exams and other non-classroom things.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That’s very low, even for an adjunct. But 100 contact hours for one class is quite high. That’s 7 hrs/wk for a 15 week course.", "role": "assistant" } ]
996x1ttpsq1i
It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "That is what my community college pays our adjuncts. It’s incredibly low and it helps keep our tuition lower than any other school in the state. They’re also not allowed to have office hours so it falls on full time faculty to pick up some slack there when students need make up exams and other non-classroom things.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "It’s criminal what they pay adjuncts I was asked to adjunct teach a course for a university I am staff at. This course would force me to rearrange my entire schedule. They offered me $1600, plus the department head was very condescending. My other adjunct work pays $3500 at another university. Is this normal!? Thankfully I have a clinical license that allows me to have other employment opportunities and the adjunct teaching I’ve done supplements my income and gives me experience on my CV for when I complete my PhD. But it is absolutely criminal what they pay! It comes to roughly 16$/hour that you’re in class, not including the grading and office hours.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "And that's why I quit with an MA and went with a career path that saves me from being a hunger artist.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7afskpcqz
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Totally. Last year I wrote a letter for a student I had in 1996. That was my record.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Sure! I’ve written letters for students I had much further ago than 3 years, and regularly write for students who graduated in the last few years.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7afbwzl1x
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Totally. Last year I wrote a letter for a student I had in 1996. That was my record.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yep. Totally acceptable. I’ve written many a letter for a former student. Just maybe remind them of some classes you took of theirs, maybe a presentation you gave or paper you wrote, to help refresh their memory.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7afuupr2i
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, totally acceptable. I've done it, and former profs have also done it for me. One thing that would be very helpful if they say yes would be to share the pertinent information with them, like your CV, or resume, what classes you took with them and your grade, a sample assignment, and anything else that can be of help.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yep. Totally acceptable. I’ve written many a letter for a former student. Just maybe remind them of some classes you took of theirs, maybe a presentation you gave or paper you wrote, to help refresh their memory.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7afdyw4ih
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You might as well. They may not answer email till the new year. Most profs know that deadlines are around this time. The more info you can give them about yourself (personals statement, sop, transcripts, classes, resume) the easier it is to write the letter. Also, a list of deadlines and programs. The programs are going to ask the recommender the following questions or something similar: how do you know the student? How long? How would you rank them against other students? How highly you recommend the student. These are the fill-in questions. Then in the letter of Rec they’ll ask that you talk about their strengths and weaknesses, why you think they’ll succeed in the program, etc. So the more information the better. I wrote a letter of Rec for a student. I was once their TA. They gave me past assignments, and all application materials. No problem. They got into the program.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm in the same boat, but I'm also a little concerned it's too close to Christmas to just ask now. Should I worry about the timing, as in, might it be perceived a little rude?", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7af4hcgez
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You will remember them better than vice versa, so provide lots of details they can include! When you ask them to write a letter, remind them of a few details. e.g. I got an A in your class in Fall 201X, and we talked about XYZ.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm in the same boat, but I'm also a little concerned it's too close to Christmas to just ask now. Should I worry about the timing, as in, might it be perceived a little rude?", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7afufjawa
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You will remember them better than vice versa, so provide lots of details they can include! When you ask them to write a letter, remind them of a few details. e.g. I got an A in your class in Fall 201X, and we talked about XYZ.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, that is okay. As long as you don't harass them, it is fine.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7af7305b3
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. Especially if they already wrote letters for you, then it is quite easy to submit those letters to new schools. Even if they had not already written letters for you, if they remember you well, it’s perfectly reasonable to ask.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I'm in the same boat, but I'm also a little concerned it's too close to Christmas to just ask now. Should I worry about the timing, as in, might it be perceived a little rude?", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7aftyuv8t
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. Especially if they already wrote letters for you, then it is quite easy to submit those letters to new schools. Even if they had not already written letters for you, if they remember you well, it’s perfectly reasonable to ask.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, that is okay. As long as you don't harass them, it is fine.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7afp3g97u
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "As long as you phrase your request politely, then no. Also, if they have already written a letter for you before, then it should not be difficult for them to 'dust it off.'", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, that is okay. As long as you don't harass them, it is fine.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7afk90bt9
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This shouldn’t be a problem. I would suggest providing the professor the semester you had the class as well as provide the grad you earned and any particular discussions you might have had. Basically share anything that might allow the professor to remember you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, that is okay. As long as you don't harass them, it is fine.", "role": "assistant" } ]
zqc7af1e7xbu
Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. I usually ask students to update me on what they have been doing but as long as I remember them well enough, after checking old records, I’ve been fine with writing letters for students who have done other things for several years.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it appropriate for me to contact professors from 3+ years ago for letters of recommendation? I applied to grad schools right out of undergrad but didn’t get in anywhere. Waited a year and I’m trying again to different places, and I’m going to need to ask the same professors again. Not asking for anything to do with admissions, just etiquette. Is it appropriate for me to contact these professors?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes, that is okay. As long as you don't harass them, it is fine.", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv94y71hn7
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Everyone, please take under **serious** consideration when you read this, his discipline. He is in a very sought after field of computer science/cybersecurity. He can get multiple jobs offers almost anywhere in the world. So his ability to say \"goodbye\" to academia is somewhat also colored by having multiple, very safe alternatives. So his situation does not really apply to all academics in all disciplines.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Kind of interesting, but a weird start to tell the reader \"it really is a \\*job\\*!\" Who didn't think it's a job?", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv94484x70
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Everyone, please take under **serious** consideration when you read this, his discipline. He is in a very sought after field of computer science/cybersecurity. He can get multiple jobs offers almost anywhere in the world. So his ability to say \"goodbye\" to academia is somewhat also colored by having multiple, very safe alternatives. So his situation does not really apply to all academics in all disciplines.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It felt a little bitter. Especially when he was like why can't blog posts be as good as peer review. It just felt very meta bc he posted this on his blog. But tldr: he hates writing papers and the publication process which is ironic bc it's probably the longest blog post I've ever read.", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv94kz8yas
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Everyone, please take under **serious** consideration when you read this, his discipline. He is in a very sought after field of computer science/cybersecurity. He can get multiple jobs offers almost anywhere in the world. So his ability to say \"goodbye\" to academia is somewhat also colored by having multiple, very safe alternatives. So his situation does not really apply to all academics in all disciplines.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is some of the better quit-lit that I’ve read. Acknowledges the good stuff, isn’t too bitter", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv94vntbx0
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Everyone, please take under **serious** consideration when you read this, his discipline. He is in a very sought after field of computer science/cybersecurity. He can get multiple jobs offers almost anywhere in the world. So his ability to say \"goodbye\" to academia is somewhat also colored by having multiple, very safe alternatives. So his situation does not really apply to all academics in all disciplines.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Definitely an fascinating and relatable perspective. I think a lot of what he says has merit, but also depends on field/university. It was well written and interesting to read! Thanks for sharing!", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv94s6kiuj
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Kind of interesting, but a weird start to tell the reader \"it really is a \\*job\\*!\" Who didn't think it's a job?", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Definitely an fascinating and relatable perspective. I think a lot of what he says has merit, but also depends on field/university. It was well written and interesting to read! Thanks for sharing!", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv943xxexc
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It felt a little bitter. Especially when he was like why can't blog posts be as good as peer review. It just felt very meta bc he posted this on his blog. But tldr: he hates writing papers and the publication process which is ironic bc it's probably the longest blog post I've ever read.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is some of the better quit-lit that I’ve read. Acknowledges the good stuff, isn’t too bitter", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv94npyd3l
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It felt a little bitter. Especially when he was like why can't blog posts be as good as peer review. It just felt very meta bc he posted this on his blog. But tldr: he hates writing papers and the publication process which is ironic bc it's probably the longest blog post I've ever read.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Definitely an fascinating and relatable perspective. I think a lot of what he says has merit, but also depends on field/university. It was well written and interesting to read! Thanks for sharing!", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv9435eusu
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is some of the better quit-lit that I’ve read. Acknowledges the good stuff, isn’t too bitter", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Definitely an fascinating and relatable perspective. I think a lot of what he says has merit, but also depends on field/university. It was well written and interesting to read! Thanks for sharing!", "role": "assistant" } ]
j5gv94cxw03s
The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "For what it’s worth, he’s an assistant professor in computer science in France, where every long-term academic position comes with the job protections we typically associate with tenure, so it’s not like he had the level of career investment we would typically associate with a tenured faculty member in the United States. Furthermore, the academic salaries in France are painfully low, particularly when compared to what one might command in industry.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "The Good, the Bad, and the Bye Bye: A Professor Shares Why He Left His Tenured Academic Job I found this article interesting and wanted to share it with the community, since it could be relevant to many people here: https://reyammer.io/blog/2020/10/03/the-good-the-bad-and-the-bye-bye-why-i-left-my-tenured-academic-job/", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I have to echo u/ethanfinni in that the article is **not** really relevant to a huge segment of the academic population. This guy is in a field where academia is overshadowed by a trillion-dollar industry with effectively infinite hiring capacities. In many other fields, the \"industry\", if any, is just companies surviving on government-funded grants (e.g., SBIR in the US), which is just academia with extra steps.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elbpufa3
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is bad judgement on the part of your advisor", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "1) Find out if there is an official policy about this kind of thing in your HR department so you know the exact level of screwed you both are. 2) Even if it's not officially barred, there are a lot of ways this could result in serious negative consequences for both of you. Consider never doing it again and taking it to your grave. 3) If you want to pursue a relationship, you need to change advisors.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elej1zka
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is bad judgement on the part of your advisor", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Where I work and, I believe, at most universities, this represents a serious violation by your advisor (and not by you) due to the power imbalance between the two of you. If you ever feel the slightest bit pressured or uncomfortable about this in any way, report it to your Dean and your campus Title IX office.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elamo9d2
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "As a contrarian voice to the fire and brimstone posted here, I have heard several stories from other friends and acquantances at other institiutions (if not also at my own) where this has happened. Is it unethical? yes. Is it dangerous? yes. but these people have gone on to graduate and navigated a very unethical and dangerous situation just fine. I can't give you any advice, but there is a way forward. Be smart, do your work, and don't run your mouth. If there's any silver lining, your advisor stands to lose a hell of a lot more than you do, giving you the upper hand.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Where I work and, I believe, at most universities, this represents a serious violation by your advisor (and not by you) due to the power imbalance between the two of you. If you ever feel the slightest bit pressured or uncomfortable about this in any way, report it to your Dean and your campus Title IX office.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elyo4f6g
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. This is a great opening line for an erotica.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Where I work and, I believe, at most universities, this represents a serious violation by your advisor (and not by you) due to the power imbalance between the two of you. If you ever feel the slightest bit pressured or uncomfortable about this in any way, report it to your Dean and your campus Title IX office.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2ellwpg5g
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "> The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. This is a great opening line for an erotica.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the very, very, very least I would create an anonymous email account and send a message to your ombuds asking for information about policies and procedures at your institution.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2el6qm52i
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "So both of you were sober and wanted it? Then congratulations, as for any other consensual, pleasant sex and relationship. Everything else depends on many things, such as any other relationships of both of you, and on where you are - what are the regulations and cultural (un)acceptance about it in your country, school and department. Probably best keep it secret from anyone who can harm you or your advisor with such knowledge, such as his/her other advisees. If relevant, best try to not make babies which would show before you can graduate. Or, if you are early in your degree and want to freely pursue a serious relationship with your advisor without so much waiting, you two may look into a possibility to have you switch to another advisor, if your school requires that to prevent conflict of interest or harassment.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Honestly this is a story as old as time. Check your hr policy. I don’t think it will ruin your academic career", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elmwn1ck
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "So both of you were sober and wanted it? Then congratulations, as for any other consensual, pleasant sex and relationship. Everything else depends on many things, such as any other relationships of both of you, and on where you are - what are the regulations and cultural (un)acceptance about it in your country, school and department. Probably best keep it secret from anyone who can harm you or your advisor with such knowledge, such as his/her other advisees. If relevant, best try to not make babies which would show before you can graduate. Or, if you are early in your degree and want to freely pursue a serious relationship with your advisor without so much waiting, you two may look into a possibility to have you switch to another advisor, if your school requires that to prevent conflict of interest or harassment.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the very, very, very least I would create an anonymous email account and send a message to your ombuds asking for information about policies and procedures at your institution.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elc4fwj1
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "So both of you were sober and wanted it? Then congratulations, as for any other consensual, pleasant sex and relationship. Everything else depends on many things, such as any other relationships of both of you, and on where you are - what are the regulations and cultural (un)acceptance about it in your country, school and department. Probably best keep it secret from anyone who can harm you or your advisor with such knowledge, such as his/her other advisees. If relevant, best try to not make babies which would show before you can graduate. Or, if you are early in your degree and want to freely pursue a serious relationship with your advisor without so much waiting, you two may look into a possibility to have you switch to another advisor, if your school requires that to prevent conflict of interest or harassment.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Pls stop giving advice until we get more details on what exactly happened.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elmmoqm4
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Honestly this is a story as old as time. Check your hr policy. I don’t think it will ruin your academic career", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the very, very, very least I would create an anonymous email account and send a message to your ombuds asking for information about policies and procedures at your institution.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2el9zhe4u
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I completely understand just how thrilled you may feel at the moment, but also, I feel your concern. Try not to panic. As someone else pointed out, relationships between advisee and advisor sometimes lead to beautiful relationships. In others, not so much. At this point, I’m not sure it’s helpful to talk about “should have’s,” so I’ve written out a few practical things to consider. 1. Read your institution’s policy regarding intimate relationships between members of the community. There is a wide range of rights and responsibilities that you need to be aware of—every institution is different (sometimes wildly). For instance, my current institution just added a new regulation that requires that ALL relationships be reported to HR, no matter how fleeting (obviously CYA for the institution, and legally questionable—this is something you will need to grapple with). 2. IF (and only IF) you have a trusted academic advisor / senior faculty member with whom you can share this with and can ask for real, grounded advice relevant to your department, institution, and discipline as a whole, then do it. Before you do, you need to be absolutely clear about your institution’s “mandatory reporting” policy and your trusted confidant’s position on the policy (there is no actual legal imperative that faculty act as mandatory reporters, so many have made an agreement to act upon the reporter’s wishes). If your institution holds all faculty responsible for reporting any questionable sexual engagements (and unfortunately, given the power differential between you and your advisor, this will be considered inappropriate), then you may need to go outside of your institution to have this discussion. If there is no faculty either in your home institution or your discipline more widely that you feel comfortable taking to, then a visit to the ombudsperson may be helpful. But, before you divulge anything to him or her, you need to first ask what their role is (for instance, at my current institution, the ombudsperson was NOT a neutral party and, therefore, I could not trust this person—the role has since been dissolved). 3. You need to have a serious conversation with your advisor about how you will be moving forward—preferably on neutral ground, away from the institution and not at either of your homes. This may be difficult, but it is incredibly important that you have a candid conversation and lay out your feelings and expectations. If you choose to move forward with the relationship (even if you intend to keep it to yourselves) it is imperative that you find a new advisor. This will protect both of you. If you are of the mind that this person is the only or best advisor for our academic advancement and career, then you will need to make a very difficult decision about which is more important: the relationship or your academic career. And finally (and I’m sorry to have to add this, but it is important to be aware of—I am the biggest romantic and am hoping for the best of all possible outcomes): 4. If, in your conversation with either a faculty member or otherwise, you may learn some unpleasant truths (e.g., this is part of a broader pattern of behavior of said advisor—which I am ardently hoping it is not), it might be prudent to have a chat with the Title IX coordinator. Before you do, find out as much as you can about how they will use any information you share with them. Anonymity can only be guaranteed to a very limited extent. If a certain number of reporters have come forward, it can trigger a full investigation, regardless of reporters’ wishes (at my current institution, that threshold is three). Once an investigation is instigated, anonymity is no longer guaranteed as the report must be sent as evidence to the defense attorney with all identifying information. Accordingly, anyone who views evidence in a Title IX case is bound by nondisclosure to not divulge any details of what they have read (again, this may be institutionally specific, so be sure to ask). I have, i’m sure, left important things out, and I certainly don’t intend to be alarmist. I know how confusing and difficult this must be to navigate, particularly given how complex the often shrouded and unwritten rules that everyone else seems to know are, coupled with the intense (and mixed) feelings you are having at the moment. As for your career, so long as you can be discreet and sort out any potential ethical issues quickly and quietly, you should be fine. These things happen, and even in the worst of circumstances, academics are not naive. We know these things happen, for better or worse your work will stand for itself. Sending big hugs. Edit/ Qualification: TT professor at R1 institution that is currently going through sexual misconduct lawsuit in a STEM field (across campus) and have recently been required to go through numerous training sessions as part of the institution’s redress", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the very, very, very least I would create an anonymous email account and send a message to your ombuds asking for information about policies and procedures at your institution.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2el83v4c7
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I completely understand just how thrilled you may feel at the moment, but also, I feel your concern. Try not to panic. As someone else pointed out, relationships between advisee and advisor sometimes lead to beautiful relationships. In others, not so much. At this point, I’m not sure it’s helpful to talk about “should have’s,” so I’ve written out a few practical things to consider. 1. Read your institution’s policy regarding intimate relationships between members of the community. There is a wide range of rights and responsibilities that you need to be aware of—every institution is different (sometimes wildly). For instance, my current institution just added a new regulation that requires that ALL relationships be reported to HR, no matter how fleeting (obviously CYA for the institution, and legally questionable—this is something you will need to grapple with). 2. IF (and only IF) you have a trusted academic advisor / senior faculty member with whom you can share this with and can ask for real, grounded advice relevant to your department, institution, and discipline as a whole, then do it. Before you do, you need to be absolutely clear about your institution’s “mandatory reporting” policy and your trusted confidant’s position on the policy (there is no actual legal imperative that faculty act as mandatory reporters, so many have made an agreement to act upon the reporter’s wishes). If your institution holds all faculty responsible for reporting any questionable sexual engagements (and unfortunately, given the power differential between you and your advisor, this will be considered inappropriate), then you may need to go outside of your institution to have this discussion. If there is no faculty either in your home institution or your discipline more widely that you feel comfortable taking to, then a visit to the ombudsperson may be helpful. But, before you divulge anything to him or her, you need to first ask what their role is (for instance, at my current institution, the ombudsperson was NOT a neutral party and, therefore, I could not trust this person—the role has since been dissolved). 3. You need to have a serious conversation with your advisor about how you will be moving forward—preferably on neutral ground, away from the institution and not at either of your homes. This may be difficult, but it is incredibly important that you have a candid conversation and lay out your feelings and expectations. If you choose to move forward with the relationship (even if you intend to keep it to yourselves) it is imperative that you find a new advisor. This will protect both of you. If you are of the mind that this person is the only or best advisor for our academic advancement and career, then you will need to make a very difficult decision about which is more important: the relationship or your academic career. And finally (and I’m sorry to have to add this, but it is important to be aware of—I am the biggest romantic and am hoping for the best of all possible outcomes): 4. If, in your conversation with either a faculty member or otherwise, you may learn some unpleasant truths (e.g., this is part of a broader pattern of behavior of said advisor—which I am ardently hoping it is not), it might be prudent to have a chat with the Title IX coordinator. Before you do, find out as much as you can about how they will use any information you share with them. Anonymity can only be guaranteed to a very limited extent. If a certain number of reporters have come forward, it can trigger a full investigation, regardless of reporters’ wishes (at my current institution, that threshold is three). Once an investigation is instigated, anonymity is no longer guaranteed as the report must be sent as evidence to the defense attorney with all identifying information. Accordingly, anyone who views evidence in a Title IX case is bound by nondisclosure to not divulge any details of what they have read (again, this may be institutionally specific, so be sure to ask). I have, i’m sure, left important things out, and I certainly don’t intend to be alarmist. I know how confusing and difficult this must be to navigate, particularly given how complex the often shrouded and unwritten rules that everyone else seems to know are, coupled with the intense (and mixed) feelings you are having at the moment. As for your career, so long as you can be discreet and sort out any potential ethical issues quickly and quietly, you should be fine. These things happen, and even in the worst of circumstances, academics are not naive. We know these things happen, for better or worse your work will stand for itself. Sending big hugs. Edit/ Qualification: TT professor at R1 institution that is currently going through sexual misconduct lawsuit in a STEM field (across campus) and have recently been required to go through numerous training sessions as part of the institution’s redress", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Pls stop giving advice until we get more details on what exactly happened.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elnrlv74
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I didn’t read all of the comments but this is my opinion. Write down EVERYTHING just in case. Write it all down in great detail while this is still fresh in your mind. Make a video recording if you have to to make sure there is no doubt of the timing. Worst case scenario your advisor tries to throw you under the bus, but you have this defense at least. Best case scenario you have a memory written down in great detail never have to use it. Just protect yourself just in case", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the very, very, very least I would create an anonymous email account and send a message to your ombuds asking for information about policies and procedures at your institution.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2eliz8gxr
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I didn’t read all of the comments but this is my opinion. Write down EVERYTHING just in case. Write it all down in great detail while this is still fresh in your mind. Make a video recording if you have to to make sure there is no doubt of the timing. Worst case scenario your advisor tries to throw you under the bus, but you have this defense at least. Best case scenario you have a memory written down in great detail never have to use it. Just protect yourself just in case", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Pls stop giving advice until we get more details on what exactly happened.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2elvwr7by
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I agree with the notion of not going to HR because then this can easily get out of your hands. Your working on your dissertation, which is enough pressure to make you do rash things under the best of circumstances... I say listen to your advisor, pretend it never happened, and take care not to do it again. At least until you've submitted... Then you both can revisit the issue. Besides this I would say you should confide in a real life friend (not from your institution) about what happened just so there's a backing up of your story and the timeline.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Pls stop giving advice until we get more details on what exactly happened.", "role": "assistant" } ]
cku2eltidj6c
I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "If you both never tell anyone, and ensure you're never alone together ever again, this all could well blow over with minimal damage. If you're confident you can both do that I think the next thing to get under control is rumours. Those will hurt your career if there's any inkling that you got special treatment because of your close (sexual or not) relationship. And unfortunately those kinds of rumours have the potential to hurt your career more than your advisors, as you're the one who'll be out there on the job market relying on people's goods impressions of you.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "I became intimate with my advisor last night Not much more to add. The tension has been building between us as I work on my dissertation and last night things happened. I go back and forth. On one hand, it was absolutely thrilling. On the other, I’m afraid I’ve just torpedoed my academic career. Does anyone have advice on how to navigate this moving forward?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Pls stop giving advice until we get more details on what exactly happened.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrsso3au0re
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "many people are saying schools love to hire their own. so, if you do undergrad at one school, grad at another, post doc at a third, that's three schools that would love to hire you because you are one of their own. nice.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Definitely not a killer! I know folks who have done their undergrad and grad degrees at the same institution and done fine. I personally have switched university for each of my degrees (currently doing my master's at a different university than I did my undergrad at and will be starting my PhD in September at yet another university). In my experience, there are few plus sides I've found to changing universities: * more connections with researchers at the new university * while you mentioned they would still want to collaborate, you likely wouldn't get to know other people in their department * opportunity to pick up new skills * while the project sounds as though it would be the same, research groups within the same discipline do things differently * important because you never know what skills you'll need in your career * more \"life\" experience * experiencing a new city is great, you might find a new hobby or extracurricular", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrsso03u6x1
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "many people are saying schools love to hire their own. so, if you do undergrad at one school, grad at another, post doc at a third, that's three schools that would love to hire you because you are one of their own. nice.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can’t answer this generally but my I will give a little of my own experience. I work in both the Microbiology and Food Science departments in a R1 university in the southeast US. Over the past 4 years or so that I have been a grad student I get an email every time a new faculty (teaching and research) is hired by the departments. In these emails they give background for the new hires including where they went to school for undergrad/grad/postdoc. I would say roughly 60% of the hires went to our school for a degree or postdoc and maybe 30% have a degree and postdoc from our school. Maybe it’s a southern thing but my school loves to hire their own. Why wouldn’t they? They know how good you are, they know if you get along with students/faculty, you likely have recommendations from their own faculty, the hiring committee members might know you personally, and they know if you will fit into the school culture better than they ever could from a few interviews.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssoycmqsa
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Definitely not a killer! I know folks who have done their undergrad and grad degrees at the same institution and done fine. I personally have switched university for each of my degrees (currently doing my master's at a different university than I did my undergrad at and will be starting my PhD in September at yet another university). In my experience, there are few plus sides I've found to changing universities: * more connections with researchers at the new university * while you mentioned they would still want to collaborate, you likely wouldn't get to know other people in their department * opportunity to pick up new skills * while the project sounds as though it would be the same, research groups within the same discipline do things differently * important because you never know what skills you'll need in your career * more \"life\" experience * experiencing a new city is great, you might find a new hobby or extracurricular", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can’t answer this generally but my I will give a little of my own experience. I work in both the Microbiology and Food Science departments in a R1 university in the southeast US. Over the past 4 years or so that I have been a grad student I get an email every time a new faculty (teaching and research) is hired by the departments. In these emails they give background for the new hires including where they went to school for undergrad/grad/postdoc. I would say roughly 60% of the hires went to our school for a degree or postdoc and maybe 30% have a degree and postdoc from our school. Maybe it’s a southern thing but my school loves to hire their own. Why wouldn’t they? They know how good you are, they know if you get along with students/faculty, you likely have recommendations from their own faculty, the hiring committee members might know you personally, and they know if you will fit into the school culture better than they ever could from a few interviews.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrsso536c9n
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Go with whoever is funding you", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can’t answer this generally but my I will give a little of my own experience. I work in both the Microbiology and Food Science departments in a R1 university in the southeast US. Over the past 4 years or so that I have been a grad student I get an email every time a new faculty (teaching and research) is hired by the departments. In these emails they give background for the new hires including where they went to school for undergrad/grad/postdoc. I would say roughly 60% of the hires went to our school for a degree or postdoc and maybe 30% have a degree and postdoc from our school. Maybe it’s a southern thing but my school loves to hire their own. Why wouldn’t they? They know how good you are, they know if you get along with students/faculty, you likely have recommendations from their own faculty, the hiring committee members might know you personally, and they know if you will fit into the school culture better than they ever could from a few interviews.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssor4omww
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Go with whoever is funding you", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not if it’s a good school for your PhD area.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssobpepau
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Go with whoever is funding you", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Emphasizing it really depends on the expertise. In my area of archaeology, there’s pretty much one person in the States who has published extensively. I got lucky to have met her in undergrad and continue working with her.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssoslv53a
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No, that's an antiquated point of view, based on conversations with professors at both institutions I've been at. Though I am a proponent of new schools in terms of exposure to new researchers, and exploring a new city gives a good nudge towards making it a new little chapter of life outside of school.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can’t answer this generally but my I will give a little of my own experience. I work in both the Microbiology and Food Science departments in a R1 university in the southeast US. Over the past 4 years or so that I have been a grad student I get an email every time a new faculty (teaching and research) is hired by the departments. In these emails they give background for the new hires including where they went to school for undergrad/grad/postdoc. I would say roughly 60% of the hires went to our school for a degree or postdoc and maybe 30% have a degree and postdoc from our school. Maybe it’s a southern thing but my school loves to hire their own. Why wouldn’t they? They know how good you are, they know if you get along with students/faculty, you likely have recommendations from their own faculty, the hiring committee members might know you personally, and they know if you will fit into the school culture better than they ever could from a few interviews.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssoxh7dd2
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a career killer, but I do advise looking elsewhere. If you're young and do a PhD you're basically spending the first ten years of your adult life on college campuses. The best you can do to experience more of the world is to travel a bit or go to a new city or a new school. Seeing how another place does things, meeting new people, and making new friends is a very important experience, and traveling for a PhD helps with that.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Complete myth! I did my BS, MS, and PhD in engineering at the same university and just got a TT offer at an R1.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssolb633u
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a career killer, but I do advise looking elsewhere. If you're young and do a PhD you're basically spending the first ten years of your adult life on college campuses. The best you can do to experience more of the world is to travel a bit or go to a new city or a new school. Seeing how another place does things, meeting new people, and making new friends is a very important experience, and traveling for a PhD helps with that.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can’t answer this generally but my I will give a little of my own experience. I work in both the Microbiology and Food Science departments in a R1 university in the southeast US. Over the past 4 years or so that I have been a grad student I get an email every time a new faculty (teaching and research) is hired by the departments. In these emails they give background for the new hires including where they went to school for undergrad/grad/postdoc. I would say roughly 60% of the hires went to our school for a degree or postdoc and maybe 30% have a degree and postdoc from our school. Maybe it’s a southern thing but my school loves to hire their own. Why wouldn’t they? They know how good you are, they know if you get along with students/faculty, you likely have recommendations from their own faculty, the hiring committee members might know you personally, and they know if you will fit into the school culture better than they ever could from a few interviews.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssomqpl0z
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a career killer, but I do advise looking elsewhere. If you're young and do a PhD you're basically spending the first ten years of your adult life on college campuses. The best you can do to experience more of the world is to travel a bit or go to a new city or a new school. Seeing how another place does things, meeting new people, and making new friends is a very important experience, and traveling for a PhD helps with that.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not if it’s a good school for your PhD area.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssop30ev2
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a career killer, but I do advise looking elsewhere. If you're young and do a PhD you're basically spending the first ten years of your adult life on college campuses. The best you can do to experience more of the world is to travel a bit or go to a new city or a new school. Seeing how another place does things, meeting new people, and making new friends is a very important experience, and traveling for a PhD helps with that.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’ve never heard of this. We have plenty of undergrads who stay for grad. The much more common advice is not to do your postdoc at the same place as your PhD.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssoe3qgn0
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a career killer, but I do advise looking elsewhere. If you're young and do a PhD you're basically spending the first ten years of your adult life on college campuses. The best you can do to experience more of the world is to travel a bit or go to a new city or a new school. Seeing how another place does things, meeting new people, and making new friends is a very important experience, and traveling for a PhD helps with that.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Emphasizing it really depends on the expertise. In my area of archaeology, there’s pretty much one person in the States who has published extensively. I got lucky to have met her in undergrad and continue working with her.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssowztsbr
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a career killer, but I do advise looking elsewhere. If you're young and do a PhD you're basically spending the first ten years of your adult life on college campuses. The best you can do to experience more of the world is to travel a bit or go to a new city or a new school. Seeing how another place does things, meeting new people, and making new friends is a very important experience, and traveling for a PhD helps with that.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It really depends. There are tons of geniuses in many fields that did their PhDs in their alma maters. However, it's worth mentioning that most of these were in top tier schools, and mostly in the West", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssowggyx9
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not a career killer, but I do advise looking elsewhere. If you're young and do a PhD you're basically spending the first ten years of your adult life on college campuses. The best you can do to experience more of the world is to travel a bit or go to a new city or a new school. Seeing how another place does things, meeting new people, and making new friends is a very important experience, and traveling for a PhD helps with that.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is not a problem at all in my field, as having momentum and making continued progress matter most. Funding to do an RA (not TA) with proper levels of focus matters, too, and I'm presuming that is part of the offer; if not, though, consider selecting the option with funding. In any case, it is fairly common to stay for a PhD, especially if you are at a school with a strong program aligned with your interests. Do keep in touch with the \"another school\" for a paper or two, and consider that they might be a good target for postdoc opportunity later.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssor6ek1w
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Complete myth! I did my BS, MS, and PhD in engineering at the same university and just got a TT offer at an R1.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can’t answer this generally but my I will give a little of my own experience. I work in both the Microbiology and Food Science departments in a R1 university in the southeast US. Over the past 4 years or so that I have been a grad student I get an email every time a new faculty (teaching and research) is hired by the departments. In these emails they give background for the new hires including where they went to school for undergrad/grad/postdoc. I would say roughly 60% of the hires went to our school for a degree or postdoc and maybe 30% have a degree and postdoc from our school. Maybe it’s a southern thing but my school loves to hire their own. Why wouldn’t they? They know how good you are, they know if you get along with students/faculty, you likely have recommendations from their own faculty, the hiring committee members might know you personally, and they know if you will fit into the school culture better than they ever could from a few interviews.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssovbwt6e
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Complete myth! I did my BS, MS, and PhD in engineering at the same university and just got a TT offer at an R1.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Emphasizing it really depends on the expertise. In my area of archaeology, there’s pretty much one person in the States who has published extensively. I got lucky to have met her in undergrad and continue working with her.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssooi5asm
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Complete myth! I did my BS, MS, and PhD in engineering at the same university and just got a TT offer at an R1.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It really depends. There are tons of geniuses in many fields that did their PhDs in their alma maters. However, it's worth mentioning that most of these were in top tier schools, and mostly in the West", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssooz8k4w
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Complete myth! I did my BS, MS, and PhD in engineering at the same university and just got a TT offer at an R1.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is not a problem at all in my field, as having momentum and making continued progress matter most. Funding to do an RA (not TA) with proper levels of focus matters, too, and I'm presuming that is part of the offer; if not, though, consider selecting the option with funding. In any case, it is fairly common to stay for a PhD, especially if you are at a school with a strong program aligned with your interests. Do keep in touch with the \"another school\" for a paper or two, and consider that they might be a good target for postdoc opportunity later.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssonk4ier
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not if it’s a good school for your PhD area.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I can’t answer this generally but my I will give a little of my own experience. I work in both the Microbiology and Food Science departments in a R1 university in the southeast US. Over the past 4 years or so that I have been a grad student I get an email every time a new faculty (teaching and research) is hired by the departments. In these emails they give background for the new hires including where they went to school for undergrad/grad/postdoc. I would say roughly 60% of the hires went to our school for a degree or postdoc and maybe 30% have a degree and postdoc from our school. Maybe it’s a southern thing but my school loves to hire their own. Why wouldn’t they? They know how good you are, they know if you get along with students/faculty, you likely have recommendations from their own faculty, the hiring committee members might know you personally, and they know if you will fit into the school culture better than they ever could from a few interviews.", "role": "assistant" } ]
mgrssoy7seni
Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Not if it’s a good school for your PhD area.", "role": "assistant" } ]
[ { "content": "Is it a career killer to attend the same school as undergrad for a PhD? I've been in my current physics research group at an R1 state school for a year. The problem we're working on is a long-term problem that I find inspiring and important. I've also received really strong mentorship here. I got into another school where they'd like me to work on the same problem, if I choose to go there. They said they'd like to collaborate even if I don't go there. I'm not married to the idea of an academic career, but I would consider it if I felt I was competitive. Logistically, staying at my current school would be easier, and I have momentum. Would staying at my current institution be a bad decision? Or is the important thing that I work with other groups of people and broaden my horizons?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Emphasizing it really depends on the expertise. In my area of archaeology, there’s pretty much one person in the States who has published extensively. I got lucky to have met her in undergrad and continue working with her.", "role": "assistant" } ]