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Any experience with fisting?

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l0u91n

Be very, very careful, not for the reasons you might think but because.... ***it's fucking addictive!*** I love getting fisted. If I don't get to do it a few times a month, I start to crave it.

r/gayfisting is your friend As the other replier said the stretch is addicting. You'll have a collection of toys worth 4 figures before you know it.

Start slow, use j-lube (lot's of it) and be prepared for it to take a long time to actually get to be able to take a full fist to the wrist. And if you're not using gloves then be sure that nails are filled smooth. If using toys to train then use good quality silicone ones that are slightly squishy. Also get to know the difference between feeling stretched and being in pain. It sounds weird but while you can push your limits you should know when to stop your session, especially when starting out. If there's any blood then stop! A **tiny** tear might only show a little bit of pink in the lube. But if you keep stretching it then it can become something worse. At least don't play with anything larger (or much longer) should you see that. And take a few days between sessions to recover.

Any tops into fisting?

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jm6pfj

Fisting bottom here. Being fisted is amazing. It's down right additive. My partner tells me he really likes the sense of complete submission. As u/Brokenblacksmith said, it's all about the begging. Once he's had his hand in there and pulled it out, I'll literally say or do anything to get it back in there. He fucks me before, during, and after. Often I have to finish him off orally though because fucking my after a good long fisting session is like throwing a hot dog down a hallway. Plus by then, he's already pissed up my ass and that can get messy.

im not super into it, so i cant say for sure but of the few times i have fisted, the biggest turn on for me was the sounds my partner was making, amd how he was begging for more. however i enjoy those both "normaly" as well. depending on how extreme you fist and what size you are, i would say sex before is typical, it would also give the bottom a chance to losen up more. for me it was my partner who asked for it, but for somebi imagine its just a step up from fingering.

How to get rid of your gag reflex?

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i049nt

A tooth brush can really help you. When brushing your teeth, stick your tongue out and then put it on the front part of your tongue and start running it backwards. When you feel you are going to gag, stop there and then move the brush from side to side on the sensitive spot. Learn how to deal with not gagging. Do this every day and try go a little further every time. Eventually you may be able to bypass your reflex or at least reduce the sensitivity of it. Another tip is to breathe out so that all air is out of your lungs before you put something down your mouth as that also restless the sensitivity of your gag reflex.

Haven't gotten rid of it. A Dom I see likes that I haven't. Lol

The gag reflex is psychological. It’s there by evolution to freak you out when something is about to go wrong. You tame it by teaching yourself to go to a Zen-like state where you free yourself from that innate fear. Set up something with someone where you tell them in advance that you want to practice getting rid of your gag reflex rather than just getting them off ASAP (though ultimately with a happy ending for them of course). It might be a little bit embarrassing to be that honest, but there are definitely guys out there who will be turned on by it. Guys who aren’t my regulars usually have a hard time deepthroating me, and I enjoy training them to do better.

There is really nothing you can do but just train yourself to hold out longer before gagging. Gagging is a natural process and it is extremely hard to overcome. Heck my husband had a bad gag reflex until he had his tonsils removed a few years ago. I didn’t used to have one but I do now, go figure.

Not sure it's possible. If it were I think the guys in porn would get rid of theirs. Wishful thinking though. If you ever figure it out, let us know because I hate mine as well.

Is it ok if I gag?

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er511a

Love it when my cocksucker gags - I'll often grab the back of his head as I feel I'm about to cum and force myself down his throat, my balls on his chin, looking into his eyes, I cum powerfully when he chokes & gags & the tears run down his cheeks - beautiful.

I love when a guy gags on my dick--I love the feeling of knowing that my dick is going hard and deep enough into his face that his body can't physically handle it, and I also love knowing that he's forcing himself to take it anyway. The only important part for me is making sure he keeps going even if he throws up. Bonus points if he makes eye contact the entire time.

It’s *more* than okay for some guys. I don’t have much of a gag reflex, but sometimes I’ll kinda pretend if I know a dude is into that. 😅 (whoever said men can’t fake it clearly weren’t thinking of this scenario)

To choke is the second best compliment for a top, saying thank you is the first. Be proud he can choke you!

Yeah gag on my dick boy, it’s hot as fuck

how do i stop gagging so much while sucking dick?

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9ygyng

Practice.

I have the same problem and I've heard that when you brush your teeth just try and go further back. It's a good way to make sure you are practicing every day and you can progressively work your way up

I love gagging on cock

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Bottom boys who use poppers to open up their holes?

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khv90w

My partner doesn't seem to mind me huffing while he fists me.

not a big fan of poppers generally, don't enjoy the smell, but it did once help me take a fwb I could never take balls deep. So as a top, it might be a turn on if it's like the only way they can take me fully. Dunno how to explain that but I could see it being a turn on a bit. But generally eh, pausing every minute to re-use them can get annoying and i dunno, just usually not in the mood for super raunchy rough fuckin i guess.

I personally love poppers. I do like it when my bottom uses them as well. Not required of course but I don’t know, it’s nice when we are both in a popper high. For me, I get a feeling of being in love with the boy I’m with. Kind of strange I know. But I’ll start calling my bottom my baby, and just getting more romantic.

Lol i dont care if that means i get to fuck balls deep

Neutral to slightly negative, usually neutral. I mean, on the one hand, whatever it takes to take it, baby, yeah! But on the other hand, I like foreplay a lot, and the intimate responsivity during play too. I mean, if he’s struggling to take me, I’ll adjust our position or pace, or stay deeper and retune the action to subtle flourishes rather than wham-bams, or I’ll use whispers and kisses to relax him, or all of the above. Then the sex is hotter and lasts longer. If, instead, he takes an overeager sniff of poppers, dilates, and goes lust-crazy, *needing* the wham-bam-bam-bam, then it kind of robs us both of that better pleasure. There’s a middle ground though. I’ve gone all night before (something people say, but hardly ever literally do) with a guy who used poppers very sparingly. And he loved that slow, passionate sex. Poppers, to him, were more about heightening the sensation than loosening up and wiling out. I’ll never forget the way he said, “Feel it,” like he matured me as a top.

Desperate to try bondage, humiliation and pet play. Can’t find anyone

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6oj04t

Recon

Recon is your best bet. FetLife also works. There's also Craig's List, an adventure that will either inspire you or crush your soul.

Where are you at? If you're in a large US city you can probably join a more niche dating/hookup site (Fetlife or similar) and find someone near you with the same interests. Or just stick on Grindr and put it in your profile you want to try those fetishes out.

Where are you?

If you're in a small town it may be tough. I would suggest making friends online through Recon or similar sites and perhaps traveling to events like Dore Alley, Folsom, IML, or MAL. There are lots of workshops at all those and experienced people willing to train newbies.

Straight/bi guys: into making out/kissing?

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gak16b

It may not be popular but you asked personal preference... no , I don’t kiss on the mouth... nothing against it just not my thing with guys...

As a straight* guy I can totally confirm I like kissing

Bi here making out makes cumming that much stronger

Well for me making out/kissing is a must

Straight/flexible here. Top. I'm down to rim the right ass, but apart from that I don't put my mouth on a guy.

Can moaning be unattractive?

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i8xe6h

Don’t be ashamed of your moaning. I pefer some mones so I know the bottom is enjoying the time togeather. I’m sure your boyfriend actually likes them he’s just trying to annoy u

Only when it's fake do I find it unattractive

I love a guy who moans. The only time I can say moaning is unattractive when it is constant loud annoying moan that you sometimes see in porn. Then that a turn ofd

I’m a bottom myself and there’s nothing I hate more in bed than a silent top... I mean me, I can’t be quiet. When I’m enjoying it I can’t control the moans and such... but the guys who are crickets weird me out. Make some noise boo. But I also hate fake moans. They aren’t all the same and perfect... if they sound anything like a porn I’m immediately turned off.

I'm a top and I personally like it when my bottom partner moans. It's really a turn on for me. It also reassures me that what I'm doing feels good for my partner and feels good for me too. When he said that it sounded so fake is that maybe when he's doing something where he expects you to moan you don't moan and when he does something that he thinks doesn't feel good you moan a lot. That's why he thinks that you're faking it. I think he likes it because he teases you about moaning. It's like he's mating call telling you "let's fuck babe". 🤣🤣🤣 try holding your moan back for a while and let it out when you can't hild it anymore.

What’s an okay/hot level of moaning for you?

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goxz04

More. I love it. As long as it’s authentic. Just don’t fake it like 1990s Bel Ami porn where the bottoms sound like wounded sea otters or Peter Griffin holding his injured knee and going “ahhhhhhh sssssss ahhhhhhhhh ssssss”

I like to hear a low moan, breathing heavy then I love it when he gets louder when he cums

As long as it's authentic and not a porn influenced performance, any level is fine.

Total top here if you want my opinion: no over the top moaning(like a porn star) but most moaning is awesome if it's genuine it'll be hotter, whimpering and squealing really turns me on too.

Softly and not continuously

Why do I always whimper heavily when I am with a guy?

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k4n52r

Probably not what you want to hear... but that’s really hot. I don’t see a problem here unless your partner doesn’t like it

I like it when a guy whimpers. It’s hot

When my bottom whimpers or moans it just makes me harder inside him. I love seeing a boy struggle a bit on my cock

Because you're a good boy.

I do the same thing. Little whimpering noises, soft moans, tiny gasps. It always feels incredibly sexy and makes me even more aroused. I assume it's a natural sound of submission, like dogs and wolves will whimper when submitting to an Alpha.

How do I stop moaning everytime i get fucked?

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kik3qo

Moaning is so hot keep it going

I had worked myself out of moaning — embarrassed, moan loud and frequently, would constantly stifle with my mouth locked shut — until I found a top who broke me of that. In his opinion, most tops like to here the moans. Since he was also dominant, he said a bottom holding back on moans, on being loud, on being vocal — even crying — was resisting his domination. “Fuck what the neighbors think.” Made sense. I’ve stopped holding back. The tops really appreciate it.

Put his underwear in your mouth or get a ball gag

if it's natural and doesn't sound like a banchee keep it up general consensus on here at least is that natural moans = hot af, fake moans = not hot af

In my opinion... why would you want to stop... it's hot to hear how my cock causes the recipient to moan or scream in pleasure...

Tops, what kind of moans are you into?

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l9w1sh

Natural ones. The ones that feel I'm fucking it out of you and you're not putting on or exaggerating. "Porn moaning" is the most off-putting thing I can imagine. It's terrible when he sounds really feminine doing it for me because it reminds me of straight porn where a woman even looks at a cock and starts screaming her head off. hehe But anything natural. The forced stuff feels like performance art to me and leaves me cold.

Depends on the guy, really.Some moaning from certain guys is different from others. I was fcking doggy jacked dude and he was whimpering and grunting most of the time which i found hot. But also i was going missionary on a fem twink and he had his legs and hands wrapped around my body and was moaning "daddy" in his pitched voice which really turn me on. Really depends on a guy.

Uhm, natural, masculine and slightly “I’m hurting” moans. No feminine high-pitched moans and whimpers for me, sorry :(

The "fuck, it hurts, but don't you dare stop" moans.

i don’t want bottoms to moan for me, i want them to moan involuntarily, and whatever comes out it perfect

Tops, how do you like your bottoms to moan?

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gqz82e

I think your question is essentially whether tops are interested in a more high-pitched moan (that can be interpreted as more feminine) or if tops only like moaning that sounds more “masc.” I think it totally depends on the guy. Personally, I don’t like excessive moaning to the point where it feels like you’re just faking it (some dudes start moaning even when you touch a random body part and it’s like... wait nothing even happened yet lol). It also doesn’t have to be THAT loud (we can hear you, calm down lol). Whether the moaning is a higher or lower register is honestly the least of my concerns.

As long as you're moaning, do it however you like.

I'm mostly between 1 and 3. Most guys I've met love the fact that I'm 6'2, pretty toned, hairy, but once there's a dick inside me I am moaning like a slut 😏

however they want

In my experience most tops don't care *how* you moan as much as they care about you doing it. I've been told some bottoms can be very silent. I had a top point out how hot it was that I'd gasp and let out long and low moans while he was dicking me, he said most of his bottoms just scream or stay quiet

Do bottoms get more effeminate when they moan?

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ktmx7u

I feel like a bit of a walking paradox with this. I‘m a “masculine” (as identified by others, I know 🙄) total bottom and tend to be very expressive and verbal during sex. I can be passive to the point of complete submission or the most aggressive power bottom you’ve ever met. Either way I am definitely the grunting, growling type. I feel like this is probably not the default expectation for a total bottom and I’m slightly self-conscious about it. If I’m passive and submitting, I do think my moaning can pitch up a little the more ”dominated” I feel, just not to the point of sounding like a woman (which feels unnatural and performative to me). But I do think, subconsciously or instinctually, there‘s some kind of primal association between feeling passive and feminine. Can’t quite put my finger on it. If I’m power bottoming, it‘s straight up primal and animalistic. I’ll milk his cock with my hole, ride him, pull him deep into me, etc. I get really verbal and egg him on... “fuck yeah“, “your cock feels so good”, “pound that hole”, etc. Nothing remotely “girly” or delicate, except paradoxically I love talk about breeding... “knock me up”, “breed me”, “I’m gonna put a baby in you”. And that is absolutely tied to primal animal instincts around breeding, pregnancy, the purpose of mating. (For guys who are really turned \*off\* by this, I’m quite curious as to why...)

for me, when I used to have sex I remember making "feminine" noises and moans once my partner is inside me. It felt good and he seemed to like it. But if he had stopped and asked me to be more manly in my moaning then I could have done that just as well. Actually I remember doing it and he seemed to be equally turned on by that, and also by me calling him daddy, my man, a real man, etc. It all felt right in the moment and I loved saying it to him. Unfortunately I did fall in love with him when he only saw me as a hookup. I hope I will find a top boyfriend who can make me moan and doesn't break my heart :)

Bottom on the masculine side. Sub in bed. And I moan and beg like a girl when getting fucked. Loud, too.I was embarrassed about this for a long time. Would stifle my moans. Wound up with a dominant top who saw that as resisting being dominated. He wanted to hear every moan, beg, or cry, no matter how it sound or how loud it was. He “broke” me of holding back. I’m verbal even jacking off. I don’t know where the embarrassment / shame came from, if there is even any one place it started. It does feel a hell of a lot better not holding back. I’ve had more guys really get off on it than not. But man do I feel vulnerable moaning like that. I guess that’s the point.

I'm not that much of a vocal top during sex, bu that does not mean I'm not having a good time. I don't mind if the bottom I'm with is vocal or not, we both know what we want and how it gets done. I mean It does not turn me on as much as it could, sometimes I cannot help but laugh thanks to some comedians doing bits on similar sounding things. I just want to say in other sex/relationship subs this topic is pretty much bi-weekly if not weekly. Those posts just come off like the women making them want to force straight men to be more vocal, even if it's not natural. They do not want to hear any sort of replies that are not about these straight guys submitting no matter what. It's just so strange to me.

I don't like the forced verbal enunciations. For me it feels fake. I prefer the involuntary sounds that comes from special circumstances like when a dick hits the deepest part of an ass and the bottom squeals, or when a bottom chokes on a cock, or when the top is cumming and grunts with every ejaculation.

Impregnation kink?

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h14pl9

I’ve been trying to make my boyfriend pregnant for over 20 years. No luck yet, but we aren’t giving up trying.

Bottom, and my heart just fluttered at the thought of being impregnated

Bisexual top here - love impregnating boys and girls! It's interesting for men because some bottoms seem to enjoy the feminising aspect, but for a lot of them it's different to that, it's sort of primal; the idea of having that symbol of virility inside themselves, I think.

I love the thought of getting impregnated by a top. It's just so hot, taking their seed inside you! I'd love to find a top into it hehe.

I’m a top who wants to impregnate bottoms

How sucking sub bottom's nipples make Dom alpha- sub bottom relations stronger ;)

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d6htb0

FUCK ME FRIDAY

top here, i kinda hate my body so wouldn't want my nipples sucked but would absolutely love to suck a bottoms nipples

Hmm, I just had my nipples pierced last Friday so guess I will have to see how that all works once they heal.

My nipples are extremely sensitive. I've literally had to yell at guys and pull their head up to get them to be more careful. There was one guy who was doing it so hard that it felt like rug burn the next day.

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How to stimulate nipples

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klfr88

Oooooh I loooove nipple play. Start with over the shirt sensually touching or teasing. But act like you’re NOT trying to turn him on. Just like put you arm over his shoulder and rest your arm and let your fingers every now and then touch his nipples. He’ll probably eventually turn red or ask what you’re doing. Just act innocent and keep doing it (if you can tell he’s enjoying it). You can also when your cuddling or laying beside each other start rubbing his chest and IGNORE his nipples. Get really close to them and then don’t touch them. Hell probably start to go mad thinking they’re going to be touched and then they’re not touched. Bonus points if you can use your nails (like if you’re scratching his chest intimately, then drag your finger just beside his nipple) You can also gently rub the area around the tip of the nipple and slightly pinch them from time to time. Maybe even pull on them or twist a little. The tongue is a great tool too when doing nipple play.

Paradise electro stimulation! As for yours try vacuum cups

Only just recently started, but generally I prefer much lighter contact. Hard punches and such just hurt and not pleasurably. Rubbing through a shirt, just brushing it up against by arm, just putting a finger on there and just wiggling back and forth, etc are all good. The guy I was FWB before loved for me to do that while also lightly rubbing his cock - not enough to cum, but to tease him a ton. Like a single finger from the balls to tip, meanwhile licking licking over one and rubbing my band against his other one. Drove him mad once I was able to get down just the right amount of force

How do I get larger nipples?

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h8uui5

I don't find that the pumps really work to make them larger permanently. They certainly fill up with fluid after being pumped but then they just go back to normal. Clamps are what you want... and a variety of them. I use cloths pins, vice-grips, and actual nipple clamps from the leather shops. These will all build up a column of scar tissue in the nipple and make them stick out more. At this point, mine look like they are prehensile.

Some use pumps.

There are a lot of pumps and things out there - but most folks start with snake bite suckers from places like Amazon - as they're cheap

Nude Resorts?

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jj86b6

Sawmill Campground is between Tampa and Orlando in central Florida. The more pubic areas shun overt sexual activity but walking along on the nature trails and look over there, a fuck bench.

The nude resorts in Palm Springs tend to be more cruisy than other places I've been. There is a gay campground in pennsylvania called The Woods. Clothing optional. They have a pool and dance hall and even a restaurant and stage. Things are pretty legit for the most part, but sex is always available if you want it. The crowds at all these places swing MUCH older except on the weekends.

I’ve been to a couple in Palm Desert, it’s been 20 years. It was fun, extremely hot during the day. We were on a lot of drugs and alcohol so it made it more fun than it was, I think. A couple guys hooked up in the hot tub at night, it was pretty low key.

CCBC in Palm Springs is nice. Cruising during both day and night. You can fuck out in the open or privately. You can sit in the pool or hot tub and watch guys fuckjng late at night right on the grass. The public porn rooms and steam room are closed during COVID. But if you don’t want to be cruised by other guys they are pretty cool about leaving you alone. I only go with my partner so we line to watch and maybe have guys watch us. Fuck in our room with the curtains open or out in the open. Rooms are nice and clean. Good location. I recommend.

There is a clothing optional campground on Lake Erie in Canada and it's men only. It's an older crowd than I like unfortunately though that seems to be most places. It's quite a bit cheaper than the other family friendly LGBT campground in the area and the facilities are top notch. They also don't have a liquor license and you can't buy alcohol there. This means you're also allowed to bring your own booze and drink it wherever you want and bring a cooler to the club. They throw free keggers at the pool and people who have trailers there throw events with free food and drinks. As for hooking up it usually happens in the forest and there's slings, benches, glory holes, etc. You can hook up wherever you want aside from the pool area and washrooms due to government health restrictions. I never saw anyone hook up in the club though. The downside is that you need clothes at the nearby beach or to go boating as it's not directly on a lake but there is one nearby, as well as restaurants. [http://www.get-tothepoint.com/](http://www.get-tothepoint.com/)

What’s your favorite poses for nudes? Sending or receiving

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efi32y

Tops please more POV pics from the bottom up looking up your junk and torso, it’s pretty hot!

I love seeing a 'basket-of-berries' shot from behind. Getting to see a dude's fuckhole, cock AND balls at a glance is fucking awesome!!

I like dickpics where you can clearly see the hand or the armpits. I also like it when bottoms have a picture where they are on their knees and spread their ass.

Doggy style. Ass and feet are the best

hands behind the back of your head

Do you guys do pet play?

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24xl3t

My partner calls me Baby Boy. Makes my penis swell.

as a bottom, i love it when a top calls me baby boy and i call him sir or daddy. the power dynamic is so hot

Oh yes. My boyfriend likes it a lot when I call him sir. And I love calling him sir. On weekends I will be eating breakfast and will just walk over and put a collar around my neck and put a leash on me. I know we will be having fun that day. If he does it, I instantly turn very submissive to his every want and demand. He wants me to suck him. "Yes sir." I love it and he knows it.

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I'm pretty big into pet play. I've never done anything so far, but I am quite eager. Collars, leashes, it's all extremely hot.

Is it ok for a sub to drink my piss?

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jlg2iy

Piss a bladder out first, then drink loads of water then when you can pee again then get him to drink it. It won’t be as concentrated.

Subs may have a little bit of piss, as a treat.

Sorry to break the circle jerk here, but Dan Savage covered this question in his column and a health professional wrote in to inform him that actually ingesting urine can lead to complications like gout. So yeah, the commenter here who got karma bombed for pointing out that urine is the body's way of expelling material it needs to get rid of is correct... I don't know how high the risk is, but if you care about your partner's health you should have them spit, not swallow. And if you *don't* care about your partner's health you need to get away from them asap...

If Bear Grylls does it, your sub can too

Urine is usually clean unless the person in question has an STI or Urinary infection. Hydrated top will also dilute any waste products you might be worried about.

Do most tops like it for their bottoms to swallow piss?

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j2sw0m

No. watersports is niche.

I like swallowing piss but only if they drink ALOT of water first.

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I think more Dom tops would be in to piss as it reinforces that are Dom and you are submissive.

Most guys ive been with dont really bring up piss unless its a real dom, but anytime ive asked, guys dont mind feeding me their piss. Swallowed so much piss off Grindr!! I wish i was in your situation. Having house buds to regularly feed me their piss is my dream

Tops: Would You Pee on Bottoms to Mark Your Territory?

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iej26q

Personally don't think it's hot, but if my bottom find it hot I will do it, cause I don't think it's gross

In the shower yes. I wouldn't be into them drinking it or doing it outside the shower. Not into being pissed on personally and it's more of a "if my partner wants to I'm down, but if not it probably won't ever happen"

For some reason I've been fantasizing about being peed inside of, but not on. I don't really get off to the idea of being used in a hookup, but this is the exception. "Wait, are you peeing inside me?" Also if it's not clear this is happening in the shower where it doesn't matter. Anywhere else? Nah, never.

As a bottom I like that ;) But Im also into WS and drinking piss

I would prefer to piss down their throat and have them suck me off and then swallow me as I get hard down their throat and cum down it as well

Tried watersports for the first time

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afkv2c

What a lucky guy and hot story 😛 wish I could find more guys near me into WS

Hot! I have always been into watching guys piss..think its the whole growing up trying to catch a glimpse of a cock at a urinal, turned it into a sexual experience... was never really interested in swallowing piss, just watching! but one day, I had just finished sucking off a hot 18yo mexican guy and he had to piss, so I followed him into the bathroom to watch (I had not cum yet so was still super horny)...while watching him i got the urge so stuck my tongue into the piss stream to taste it...and not bad! But it ended there! A year or so later, this asian guy I was servicing a couple times a week and I talked about a little piss play...so I agreed to try it! So next time he came over, he came with a full bladder...and as soon as he walked in, I dropped to my knees, he pulled out his cock and put it in my mouth...and let if flow! It took a lot of work to swallow it all but I did...and then just continued to nurse and suck his cock until he shot his load in my mouth too! ​ After that we did piss play maybe once every couple weeks (we usually played 2-3 times a week). For me it was never about the actual piss, but about taking something from his body and putting it inside of me! This was also a guy who would save me all his cum from when he would JO, and bring it too me...I would use it as lube and shove it deep inside my ass with my dildo...he thought it was hot, knowing that none of his cum was ever wasted!

Talk to him about the taste. Coffee gives it a very unique strong odor and taste. Fruit juices are mild. Artificially sweetened drinks (like diet Coke) will pass the artificial sweetness straight through to the urine, which he might not enjoy.

Urine is sterile so as long as you don’t have an STD/I it’s fine to drink it.

Healthy urine is sterile, your kidneys make sure of that, so there are no major health concerns there.

Where is the most public place you have had sex

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ev12xj

I really want to do more or be outside more but I have had sex countless times in cars out in some parking lots, and I have been fingered on a trampoline...not my proudest moment? But this is an anon account, so.

Sucking dick while fishing at a pond till we were interrupted he then took me behind some bushes and fucked me. Given many road head

In order from least to most public... Sex club Gym shower Gym sauna Condo sauna Gym staircase Condo staircase University library washroom Pool (former work) washroom Public washroom Public park Train tracks Nude beach Stage used for a concert in a public park University quad Outside of a university building The last 3 were only at night.

In the gym

Train tracks, Six flags in the tram, at a club, parking lot of my college in the open, in car at the library and theater.

What are your experiences with having sex in public places?

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jspyli

I fucked this guy on a hiking path. It was late at night and over the summer. It was super hot!

I lost my virginity in some woods nearby where I live, it has a lot of public right of ways through it used by dog walkers. Met up with guy slightly older than me, we went down the path a little and I sucked him off there. second time I met him there I got fucked for the first time.

Lots. I can't host, so the park near my place is my go to spot. Usually sit on the park bench and have guys blow me there.

i did folsom street fair and dore alley where they fuck in the middle of the day and in broad daylight; does that count? ​ If you don't know what either are; search for them in pornhub.

well plenty. And given i live in a very conservative country i am astonished by the courage/stupidity of my younger self. Worse memory was when there was political unrest i stupidly thought regular places was safe. But was faced a minor police harassment due to increase police presence. Like now i laugh, they were there for oppositional political party activists, they were angrily confused because horny gay men wasnt in their radar at all and there was nothing in my or my hook ups idenity to suggest otherwise. The place was highly guarded because its a gov property. but over the course of years i have given numerous BJ there. Even fucked someone in there at night.

Best place for public sex?

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hfeh2y

Denny’s Parking Lot

Squirt.org will usually have a list of public places or beats in your area. Often other users leave comments and updates if a beat is patrolled or the best time of day/night to visit. Also, just as a precaution, be mindful of any local laws and penalties that relate to public sex or “indecent exposure”. Have fun!

I've always enjoyed public bathrooms and parks late at night.

If you're in a bigger city go for a bathhouse. It's public but everybody expects to see guys fucking. Plus you have showers handy.

Any other bottoms or tops have a rape kink/ fantasy?

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f4yqy7

I personally enjoy this kink but in the sense of just really intense power play. I also find rape something unforgivable and absolutely vial, but I love being 'controlled and forced' into sexual stuff with my people.

Yes. It seems to be a fairly common fantasy; as a sub, it’s definitely something I dream about. In BDSM Play, it’s often referred to as “consensual non-consent.” You really have to trust the top. There’s still a safe word. You are giving your consent for someone to do things to you without you agreeing (“non-consent”) until such time as you take control back. I’d love to trust someone that much. I haven’t, though, found anyone like that yet.

Years ago I played with a guy who was seriously into rape. Instructed me that he wanted to be tied down and fucked hard & raw with NO warmup. He was hot. Our session lasted a few hours. Amazing once I wrapped my brain around what he really wanted and the fact that I COULD give it to him. A few months ago I met a guy who said he wanted to be raped. I lubed up my dick and pushed in. He promptly jumped out of bed!! You have to be very careful about the words you use with a new partner - especially if you're the bottom!!!! The porn portrayal of rape is VASTLY different from the reality of having your hole taken brutally and with no preparation. The guys in the porn videos have been working their holes with dildos long before the camera starts rolling! Still think rape is hot??

I was fucking this dude one time, and we were acting out a pizza boy rape fantasy. In our aftercare, he told me that my cock started throbbing and felt like it got harder when he was begging and crying out "please don't rape me."

As long as it's roleplay and both sides are consenting then it's fine. I had one FWB who wanted to be roughed up and in my head I was thinking of suggesting the idea before instantly getting texted to "rape him". Made a lot of rules to follow and of course a safe word but after going through with they really enjoyed and it and too my surprise it only got rougher and dirtier after each session. It peaked at having two other tops I was comfortable with breeding him with me then finishing him off by fucking their loads and mine deeper into him.

RAPE ROLEPLAY?

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d0gbqq

Yeah. I’m super into it as a Top, but I will only do rape roleplay with a trusted bottom I’ve fucked before. On the scale or “I just met you” to “we are married” this one tends to the latter side. Super hot. Love it. Do it. Recommend it. This is NOT something you do with a guy you just met. This is something you do with a trusted companion.

I've done it but I really have to work my ass off to convince guys that they can get a lot rougher and more aggressive with me because they're all afraid that they might cross a line. Once I can get them to lose control though, it can be really fun being at their mercy.

It's a difficult thing for most people to talk about, either the fantasy of it or the reality that they've done. I haven't done it. You really have to trust a top, have done a lot of work with the top you are with, to make it all work out right. Even the top has to trust you in this. The article linked below is one of many articles out there about rape role-play, referred to as "Consensual Non-Consent." It outlines what you and your partner(s) need to do to make it safe and keep some out on the table if it gets too crazy, either before during or after. Your desire is perfectly fine. It's a common desire. It's a difficult desire to pull off. It takes a bit of work, experience, and planning so that it's not actually rape. [https://www.domsubliving.com/5-things-about-consensual-non-consent/](https://www.domsubliving.com/5-things-about-consensual-non-consent/)

r/gaystrugglefuck   You're welcome

Any other guys into "Free Use" or Consensual Non Consent?

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9hwdyc

I have been a part of scenes where I was used in a 'free use' type of way. I was at a sex club, sitting in the jacuzzi when a guy I didn't know came and sat down next to me (there were two other guys in the jacuzzi as well). The guy reached under the water, took my hand and put it on his sizable cock, which I began to play with. He then pulled me onto his lap where he fingered me openly. He got up to get out of the jacuzzi and I looked at him questioningly and he said, "come on, it's time for me to fuck that ass." We went to his room where he 'made' me beg for his cock loudly (the walls did not go all the way to the ceiling so everyone nearby could hear me. His cock was 9" long and he took me doggy style. I went to reach to close the door and he told me to leave it open. Two guys came over to watch and he loudly offered my mouth to them. So one guy pulled his cock out and had me suck him. The guy using my mouth pulled out and came on my face. His companion had been jerking himself and he came on my face too. Soon thereafter, the Dominant guy pulled out (he had not cum yet) and told me he would be back later. I took a shower and headed into the steam room. Now, the steam room is usually a quiet place where people feel their way to each other. I was sitting on the bench and the room was filling up. There was a guy standing in front of me when I saw the Dominant guy come in. He motioned to the guy standing in front of me and said something along the lines of that he should use me because I was a good fuck. The guy in front of me put his cock up to my lips and I began to suck him off. Very quickly, I was very popular and ended up getting fucked by three guys and sucked off several more. All of them came on my face and body. This was one of the most deliciously erotic days for me. I had just let myself be used. I never did see that Dominant guy again.

Dom guy here, majorly into this. My partners husband is (most of the time) a cuck, and he's just available if I get home from work and want to work out some frustration. My boy also knows that I can walk into his work (a kinky establishment), take him out for 10 minutes and fuck him before dropping him back at work. He's also been a mouth for my friends to fuck when we're out if I choose to offer him. It doesn't happen often, but when it does it's so hot to just be able to treat him like property. For me, it only works because we have a very close, loving relationship that prioritises tenderness and us meeting each others needs. I couldn't walk up to a stranger like that, I wouldn't see the point. All of this stuff builds connection and a sense of ownership and responsibility.

Always down to be grabbed and used. Nothing hotter than a man “having his way” With me. I love the thought of a guy just walking up and taking what needs using me for pleasure and moving on.

Love it. Usually do this CNC role play with a friend in NYC. Leave my hotel room unlocked and he comes in and we act out our fantasy, complete with me begging him not to hurt me and resisting getting fucked. I always end up with a creamy hole 😍😍

I fantasize about being used casually and also being the "victim" in a CNC situation.

Is it moral to have a rape fantasy as a bottom

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c1xl1l

I am a rape survivor who has rape fantasies as the assaulted party. Our minds work out our issues in odd ways sometimes, and if that's how your psyche handles it, go with it. Working out why the power dynamic of non-consent arouses you is harmful to no one until you permit it to be so through your own actions, so just be conscientious of others. Fantasy is fantasy, and rape-play where a preconceived scenario is organized and negotiated in the same style as a BDSM session between two consulting parties, with safewords, discussion of soft and hard limits and all that, is a common thing for many people. When navigated respectfully for your own emotional health and that of any others also involved in your exploration of this, there is no moral issue.

Consensual non consent, or CnC, is a popular kink, and I think you may find you’re not even the only person in your social circle who has it it you ask around. Short answer, no, there is no moral standard you’re failing to meet by having this fantasy. Have you talked to your partner about it? They might be supportive and willing to help you explore it further. I highly encourage you to do some reading up on google about this just to add to your familiarity so you don’t feel isolated by what turns you on.

I was molested repeatedly by my much older brother when i was quite young (I was 4 or 5 and he was 16 - 17), which has lead to me having a fixation on incest role plays. I have never told anyone about the abuse, because I didn't think I would be believed, and it would probably kill my mother. I haven't really indulged the fantasy, but i feel like the fixation on it might be my way of making sense with it and getting some control over the very confusing feelings I've had about it growing up. Fantasies can be a safe way to explore and understand yourself. No one is getting hurt and just make sure you and your partner are on the same page about when 'no stop' means that he needs to stop.

as a rape survivor i get of by replaying it. i think the consent in that case can even have a healing effect. same reason i am a submissive bottom.

I wouldn't say I was raped but used to see a Top that very physical and loved rough sex. He liked when I told him to stop and he didn't or told him things like it hurts and I would scream or try and slap him away. I said I didn't call it actual rape as I kinda was into it too but the feeling of fleeing I had were real. I often fantasize about it still and do wish I could find another Top like him.

Bottoms, do you guys have some sort of a rape-fantasy?

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2w6c2b

You mean a fantasy where I'm pinned against the wall... the rough man presses his muscled body up against my back, rests his stubbled chin on my neck, and tells me in his deep voice "Don't try to resist. I know you want this, faggot."... he inches forward, and I feel his hard cock poke into my butt... my dick hardens in my pants, and I make some weak, feigned struggles against his strong hold to act like I don't want it, but his strength traps me in place... I hear his pants unzip... he quickly tugs my pants down so that my bare ass is exposed... I feel his warm, throbbing cock flop against my bare ass... he tells me that he's going to fuck my mouth before he rapes my ass... turns me around, pushes me down to my knees, holds my hair in one hand, pulls my jaw down with the other, maneuvers his cock into my gaping mouth, and starts to forcefully fuck my throat... I choke, but he continues the assault, raping my mouth over and over... my eyes fill with water from being choked, and I have to blink several times to keep my tears from spilling down my face... he pushes his cock all the way in and holds it deep in my throat, and he pinches my nose to cut off my breath... I look up at him pleading for air, and he's looking down at me, smirking, and says, "I own you, faggot"... after a minute of suffocation, he releases my nose and pulls his cock out, which is drenched in my saliva, and I gasp for air... in my weakened state, he easily picks me up, turns me around, and slams his cock in my hole... he lets his cock sit inside me the whole way as he wraps his big arms under mine and puts me in a wrestler's hold... I feel his warm breath on the back of my neck, and as I've stopped struggling and submitted to him, he tells me, "Good faggot"... he then proceeds to drill my hole while grunting and growling... at first I'm silent, but as my hole loosens up and his pounding starts giving me overwhelming pleasure, I can't hold back my moans... he starts pistoning his cock into me with greater speed, his pelvis makes a loud slap as it smacks into my ass with each thrust, and he's growling more than before... he pins me firmly against the wall, pressing all of his weight into me, he makes one last, hard, deep thrust into my ass, and I feel his cock spurting his warm load into me as he grunts loudly... he pulls out, zips his pants back up, turns me around, brings me close to his face, and looks me cold into the eyes to say "Tell anyone, and it will hurt a lot more next time, faggot."... I'm speechless, out of breath, and in a daze from the recent prostate pounding, so I just nod silently with a defeated look on my face... he gives me one last threatening look, and leaves me there, pants still down, with his cum slowly dripping through my insides...? Nah never had one.

Yes, I want to be used and abused. No bruises though. safe word is Vagina. Instant boner killer

Of course not......... *I'm lying*

Personally, absolutely not. While I definitely have a fantasy of bottoming for a gangbang, and of waking up while being fucked (or a dick being inserted into me) when sleeping with someone, that would be fully consensual.

Oh I absolutely have a bareback rape fantasy. And it gets really dirty and abusive.

Fess up: How kinky do you get?

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75qts1

I have one guy who got me into pet play. He'll pet me and call me a good boy and give me belly rubs. He'll fuck me real rough and call me puppy. Sometimes he'll lead me around by a leash or have me wear a collar. Sometimes I'll show up and he'll let one of his friends use me. It's fun.

Had a regular dom I used to meet take me to some woods, stripped me naked, bent me over a tree, fucked me raw, came in my arse and made me lick him clean. Then he pissed in my face before spitting on me and walking away. The single most degrading experience I've ever had... and honestly the hottest sexual encounter I've ever had.

hmm. I've pissed in someone's mouth (he actually sucked it right out of my dick), messed around in two public bathrooms, tied a guy up and spanked him. hard no to scat and blood though. nope, nope. but I'd probably piss on someone again if they were into it, I'm down with public sex lol, and I'll definitely turn someone over my knee and spank em with whatever object they like.

Love fisting, piss drinking and fucking, rough sex, biting, spanking, toys, some bondage, cum, spit and general dom/sub play. Will try most things except blood, shit, vomit, being restrained. cross dressing/sissification never had any appeal to me either but might do if the other guy was insanely hot. I'm lucky enough that I get fulfill most of my kinks fairly regularly. Usually me and the bf try to squeeze 2/3 long kink sessions in per week.

Everything but shit and blood. I won't usually stop it it's only a little messy ether. So far no one has even come close to shocking me. Talk to me when you have a boy tied up for two days and piss on his food and serve it to him in a dog bowl. That's a good start. Fucked two boys yesterday that sucked my dick after breeding them. Made boys piss in heir mouth while I do the same. If it's entered your mind I've probably had t times two. I like to cuddle but damn sluts can't switch gears and I have to keep them in their place.

Do you prefer soft/gentle or rough/aggressive sex?

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hypoce

Both, depending on situation/mood. Sometimes you want a bit more connection, intimacy and romance - sometimes you just want to be thrown around the room like a rag-doll and left covered in cum like the slut you are. Totally depends on how you're both feeling, and it can turn from one into the other in the same session.

I try to combine them into the same session to keep things interesting. Foreplay is soft and sensual with me. I aim to make you feel loved and wanted like a person neglected in their marriage wanting more. I give soft head to start with, but once I get going I can make you squirm. Fucking you is a different story. A whole other language because I can do anything. My intensity depends on the position we're in. If I'm sitting down while you're on top of me, I'm going to hold you close and whisper how beautiful you feel as I kiss you. If I'm on top, I'm going to be slapping my balls against your ass with one hand on your neck to pull you up as you arch your back, and allow me to spit into your mouth. Pace is a translation of your desire in sex. My desire for someone during sex oscillates. And so will the way I handle you throughout but rest assured, you will always be safe in my arms and wanted throughout.

rough feels better physically, mentally if i’m a bit off i’ll go for some gentle. gentle fucking also applies to situations where you need to be quiet for me

Deep and slow because I am into the mental game of feeling it penetrating all the way down. Also am tight and didn't take many so the idea of rough scares me

I generally lean towards gentle/loving. I don’t necessarily like to say “soft” because I want my man holding me tight, being firm and forceful when he fucks me, but in a tender way. I’m not super into being roughed up or dom stuff or anything. There’s always a time and place for that kind of thing, of course.

Any else fantasise about getting slapped in the face as you suck cock? or actually done it before?

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8qa1da

I think more about getting slapped in the face with my man's cock or getting spanked than I should 😋

i do that to my bf he loves it. he's a bitch.

I have a buddy who likes to slap me around some when I'm sucking his dick. It's never hard enough to leave a mark, just enough to make a good pop and show me who's in control. It's part of the roles we play. He's the dom top stud with the 8" dick and I'm the sub bottom cocksucker who'll do most anything to suck that dick. He also likes to spit on me and spank me.

My bitch love it. The harder i slap, the harder his erection is. And then there are some other things too...

Slapped by hand and with the cock yes

Bottoms who like to be slapped in the face

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6fi6oe

Yes please. Face slapping, spitting, dirty verbal talk and throat grabbing are all green lights in my book.

I love being slapped and spanked so much! It's the degrading factor that makes is so great

It's great--if we've talked about it beforehand. Nothing worse than a surprise slap but if I know the guy and consent to cut, that's great, especially if his cock is in my ass and he's calling me a fag as he does it.

Such a fucking turn on to rough up my bottom! Ass and face! But only with those who like it!

i'd rather my bottom slap me. i'll slap your ass though

Any experiences with "straight" guys?

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jmnjno

Yep. They're lots of fun... especially because they get up and leave immediately after they cum and then never contact you again.

A few, sadly they were only painful heartbreak. :(

Yes many. Some good mostly bad

As the only openly gay student in my high school (until the end of 12th when the valedictorian came out as a lesbian) I got bullied and picked on by some of the other students. At the same time, shortly after 9th started, I began getting notes in my locker and by the end of the school year I was very sexually active and was sucking off guys after school on a daily basis. Most of them, my secret hookups, were guys who were still in the closet and some were just curious but there were some, a few of the boys who bullied me, that just wanted their dicks sucked. I've always been promiscuous and I love sucking dick (and, yes, swallowing) so it was always a win for me.

They aren't straight.

Bringing up threeway fantasy with your top?

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jm5pvk

"Hey, what do you think about us having a threesome?"

There shouldn't be anything threatening about sharing your fantasies. I'm a top but I badly wanted to have a 3way with a guy I was having a 2-year fling with. When I mentioned my fantasy I could tell he didn't want to share me with someone else so that was that.

Maybe start by asking him about the time he did it and what didn’t work for him that time and how it could’ve been done differently for him to enjoy it. Then tell him what you’d expect from such an experience. Also was it with 2 tops and a bottom or him as the top and two bottoms? I think a scenario that may turn him off is if the top you invite is super dominante and fucks you really hard in front of him. This may be weird for your boyfriend and maybe even a bit emasculating for him if he sees another guy do this to you. I think only ankther Dom top would appreciate that (and you said your boyfriend isn’t quite so into these roles) So if you do it maybe look for someone more like your boyfriend, or someone who is even less dominant . And then you can always work up to a more dom/sub situation next time.

How do you guys arrange an orgy? Advice?

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k7w3mh

my first advice would be to wait for this pandemic to be over Otherwise, it's easier to arrange it with guys who you already know. With random guys from grindr it's always hard to arrange something. It's probably easier to just spontaneously invite them over when you already got some friends over. In the end, you can't really influence the dynamic and when people break into groups that's just how it is. As a host, your priority should be that everyone's comfortable and having fun.

Lots of friends or post on sites. If you go cruising or do hookups, you need to start handing out business cards with your contact info on it. Build up a network and go from there. It takes time and is work. I had 1 gangbang. My steady set it up. So I got lucky.

I never had those problems. First thing: stop sorting people into "tops" and "bottoms". If you have an equal number of tops and bottoms, then you're guaranteeing that men will match up in pairs: one fucker and one fuckee. Also, what about men who aren't into fucking or don't feel like fucking on the night? Just invite sex-positive *men*. It doesn't matter whether they're top, bottom, versatile, or side - just as long as they're into the idea of sex fun with a group of strangers. Not all sex fun will involve fucking. Another hint: invite more men than you need. Even after they say "yes", some men won't turn up on the day. I found about one-third of men said "yes" and then didn't show up. Invite men you know, rather than strangers off apps. Invite your friends, your friends with benefits, your fuck-buddies, etc. And then ask some of them (the ones who you think have good judgement) to bring another man with them, to get the numbers up. If you want men to change partners, then you can force this to happen by changing your own partner. You move on to another small group, leaving your partner alone. He'll also join another small group. That'll change the dynamic of those small groups, and maybe another man will leave those small groups and move on to other groups, like a chain reaction. Any time men look like they're too settled, you get up and change groups.

Post something on Recon

I hope you are not those who were caught by the police in Belgium. 😅

TOPS - How do you feel when couples hit you up on Grindr?

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kmp4gl

When I was on Grindr: I felt good and admired. Didn't do anything with them as I didn't (and still don't) want to be the third wheel. When I don't enjoy it, the others won't either and then it's best for them to really get the ones, who are enjoying the time.

I’ve been the third guy in one too many “open” relationships to take that risk again. I mean, three hot fuck buddies fucking like bunnies in heat? Sure! But an actual couple asking for me to join? No, not me. ...or asking me to bang one out, the other just watching? Double no! Thanks for the flattery, but I don’t get off on anyone’s non-participation or worse, humiliation. To each their own though. I’m not judging. Just saying I can’t get into that.

I've had 3-ways with couples a few times and it's less exciting than it sounds on paper. For me, it's always been spontaneous when we were all out together and hanging out afterwards or something. I've been hit up by couples on Grindr but never gone through with meeting them although I was intrigued a few times. Pros: if they're in love with each other, it's hot to see and be part of that energy. Cons: you usually end up feeling like a third wheel or novelty toy; even if you don't mind, it's kind of an awkward vibe. I would definitely be less interested if the setup is just that one wants to watch. That literally feels like being a human dildo. There are plenty of people into that but I'm not so much. I don't know if there's anything in particular that would make me more interested. It would just depend on the couple, the dynamic/situation, and how it came about. To me, it's more hot if there's a good connection between everyone and it happens naturally. Being hit up on Grindr without knowing the couple is definitely less appealing in general.

They better be two bottoms or im not interested.

I would be flattered, but if something is to happen, then I would like to discuss everything through, I won't just jump into the bed without any discussion or warning as to what they want or expect.

Should I cancel my PrEP appointment this week? What’s the point if I don’t hook up?

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gfoo52

I would keep the appointment and discuss everything you just said here with your doctor. It’s an office visit and a set of labs. You’re in and out in an hour. Wear a mask and wash your hands.

My GP basically told me to stop taking Prep until this is over. Unless I ignore the lock down. Which would be a different problem.

Just beware of those sudden unplanned moments. What if some gorgeous man turns up and offers you a fuck? If you've got condoms handy for those moments, you should be fine.

No you should go just to ensure you maintain the right levels of prep in your body. Also to keep your records accurate.

If you don’t take PrEP consistently then don’t take it at all. It’s one of those few things in life that really is black and white. There’s no half assing this.

When did you last use a condom for sex?

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etkyu1

Um. Imma still use condoms. Have you not heard of Super Gonorrhea? Its Superbug strength Gonorrhea, resistant to most antibiotics.

Yesterday

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I am on prep, but i still use condoms with strangers

All the same get tested regularly specially if the person isn't a known partner. As /u/master-of-none mentions there are other pretty serious STI that you could get. Prep is great but whether it's worth the risk or not is your decision

Do you PrEP?

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6aocqi

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Yes - been on PrEP for a year or so. It's part of controlling risk to myself and my partners

Not on Prep yet, but thinking about it. Too many wild Friday nights end up on tequila and then a trip to the sauna / bath house. On the grindr issue, so many guys say they want bb, as they are on prep, but you ask for a pic of the receipt / bottle as proof and you get instantly blocked.

I don't have enough sex for prep. Once every year, maybe every other year. Always with a condom. If I did, I would.

Yep! Going on three years now. No adverse side effects, and TBH the quarterly testing and annual check-ups have gotten me way more face-time with a doctor for other health issues that I would have tried to tough out by myself. I have gotten other STDs twice in that three year period, but nothing a quick shot won't cure. I started PrEP in a clinical trial for a year, but now get it through Rx. I don't have sex with a ton of people (in a relationship where we occasionally bring in other dudes or other couples), but the freedom to play without that paralyzing fear of HIV is great. Edit to clarify: both times I caught something it was found with a throat swab. And who the hell wears condoms for bjs anyways?

Barebackers: how often do you get STDs? Could you give me an honest testimonial?

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ccomyi

I go bare more often than not. I’ve gotten an STI 4 times in 7 years. Those were all gonorrhea or chlamydia, and were cured by a nice round of antibiotics or an injection.

I also prefer bare. I'm thirty and stopped counting how many guys I've been with at age 19 (when I had been with 50 guys). I've had 4 STDs since age 17, all were caught while asymptomatic (caught early with zero symptoms and treated) with the exception of HPV when I was 18 (small wart that was burned off and have had no issues since). Get tested regularly. Don't bareback just anyone. Stay away from the parTy-ers. Get on prep. Have honest conversations with your partners and your medical professionals.

I love bareback, not a fan of condoms though I will wear them if the bottom insists on it, and I'm too horny to just get head. But frequency is hard to measure. I've gone years without getting anything, and once I was unlucky and got gonorrhea twice in a span of 2-3 months. In the past 6ish years, I think I've caught gonorrhea 5 times, potentially 6. It sucks, but as long as you go get it treated soon, discomfort is minimal. I just seem to have shitty luck, I know guys that have way more raw sex than I do and have never caught anything. Though I do live in an area where the CDC is actively worried about so called super-gonorrhea, and higher than average rates of infection. So the number of times I've had is definitely higher than normal. But like others have said, its not about how many people you fuck, its about whether they have STIs or not. If none of them do, you can never catch anything. If all of them do, you have a pretty high chance of catching something eventually. One last point about treatment costs though. If you are ever in the US again and suspect you've caught something, try to find the local LGBT center. Many of them offer free testing, and treatment if you have good reason to suspect you have been exposed to any STIs. If you can't find one nearby that offers that, look for a local (usually county/city ran) health center, they usually offer the same service, even though it might be more limited (eg only available certain days of the week, or at certain hours). But both of them do not require appointments, at least in my experience.

Welp, there goes my interest in BB lol

I've had chlamydia 2x in my life. I rarely use condoms. The first time I was in college (I was very always-condoms at this point) and a guy just stuck it in without asking. The second time was two years ago. I'm 30 now.

Can you get STDs if he didn't finish inside?

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e4ddvi

You can get them from precum. Go see a doctor, I’d be willing to bet you don’t have anything so shouldn’t freak out, but go get tested. The peace of mind when you get a negative result is amazing. You don’t have to tell the doctor it was w/ a man. You can just say you had sex, and and would like to be tested. You should be able to request all information is sent to you only.

You can get a STD/STI even WITH a condom and just from pubic contact (like pubic lice/genital herpes). Precum and penile secretions can also transfer. The penis and anal walls can also scratch, tear, and bleed mid fuck. Sex period is a risk. Cum isn't the only thing, just a large cause. Are you American? If you are I suggest you visit your local Planned Parenthood or CDC approved testing center where they DO ask if you have sex with men. It's up to you to answer how you want but those people are there to help you with the best of their knowledge. If you lie, say you are straight they might only take your blood, oral swab and have you do a piss test. They will still anal swab you if you request, but they won't pose the option if they assume you are straight. Why examine the ass and swab a person and waste labtime who won't admit to have had anal sex? Help them realize what they should be looking for. https://gettested.cdc.gov

Yes. It's a fact that you can catch something . IMHO consult a physician and weigh out your options so that next time you're aware of your options and consequences. Once you know reliable medical information you can decide how much risk you are willing to take. I tell you this as someone who barebacks very often.

FYI, as long as you are of age, the doctor *cannot legally* share your private health information with your parents. It would be a HIPAA violation and subject her to large fines.

Just talk to the doctor, and be open and honest. I'm not out ether but, going to the doctor and telling him/her honestly what happened is always better. The literally cannot tell anyone. At all. If they do you can sue them. They dont want that.

Has Anyone Caught An STD From Receiving Oral?

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ko4f4v

Yes - Gonorrhea.

I get that you’re worried and anxious. The waiting can be excruciating. But my question to you is, does safe oral feel different l? If I understand it correctly, you have to suck on a condom. Or am I mistaken?

What was the first STI/STD you ever got, and how or from whom did you get it?

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dsd5z0

Gonorrhea in my throat from sucking off 20+ strangers. Didn’t even know I had it. Just went in for a quick prick & that was it. I’ll be honest, I love topping bare, and I’ve never caught anything.

Crabs, got them when I lost my virginity. Was not fun.

Gonorrhea, hot pilot, bottoming. C'est la vie. Edit: To expand on this, there's a lot of stigma attached to stis that virtually anyone who is sexually active is fairly likely to contract at some point (unless you're sucking dick with condoms or something). As far as I'm concerned, more discussion is always good.

HIV. Got if from bottoming bareback for a fuck buddy who was negative. But in reality, he only thought he was negative. He had been infected since his last test, so he didn't know he had it which made his viral load high and much easier to infect me. That's a good lesson about guys who are negative, and guys who think they are negative. You're only negative if you abstain from sex for 3 months and then get a negative test result. Then as soon as you have sex, your status is unknown. At the time I wish PreP had been around, or the whole undetectable status thing was more talked about. That way I would never have got HIV.

Anyone have experience doing anal after hemorrhoid banding?

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e7nvly

What I read online from other gay guys is that it took a few months for all the pain to go away, and another few months to get some nerve endings back. So itll most definitely affect you and you should talk to your doctor about that concern. But it is probably still good to do

First change your diet. Try to eat more cereals and vegetables and less pasta and what comes from it. Take some anastastetich creams to keep it isolate and wash it each time you poop. I use cold water because helps to close the capillaries faster. Take some vaseline, it will help you to keep the ass not sore. (I also use vaseline each time after sex, easy to "heal" ) I had the problem and it took 2 months. But change the diet, eat healthy. Ah chocolate is not good since it make your poop dry. So less possible.

Did My Boyfriend just rape someone?

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ckj4xn

This is more a legal distinction I’d imagine. If he forgot in the heat of the moment I wouldn’t say it was ‘malicious.’ Unfortunate, sure. It’s different from a guy pretending to be wearing a condom and then removing it covertly to trick someone. It’s kind of partially on the bottom too to make sure everyone is wrapped up. Again, purposely tricking someone is different. I’m sure he’s just scared his wife is going to find out if he picks something up, which is pretty scummy anyway. If he can’t deal with the reality of cheating in his wife maybe he should just admit who he actually is.

Is your boyfriend to blame? Yes. Whether it was intended or not. It was a mistake, but he should have been more careful. Is it rape? Objectively.,.... Possibly? However if the guy feels like it was rape then you really need to take his feelings and concerns seriously. Even if you don't plan on hooking up again, sit down with him and talk it through. He's probably freaking out. He's angry and likely scared. Don't just walk away. It's a shitty thing to do.

Men that legitimately rape women avoid conviction. I don’t think something like this would go anywhere.

Wax or Shave?

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l4woyl

I wax my ass / hole as it makes it super clean for the top.

Shave. I shave everything once every couple weeks. My arms not so much because I don’t have a ton of hair there

I’ve done both. I’m a top, but my body hair grows so sparsely, big hairy bushy balls look oddly out of place on me. I even trim my chest and pits. I blend from neck to knees when I manscape. I always keep a happy trail and little bush above my dick, but trim my balls, dick, and hole extremely close. I used to shave them. I’ve had them waxed. Nowadays I use a rechargeable body groomer because it’s just so damn much easier. The biggest tip I can tell you, no matter the method: *after care!* Find a quality aftershave you like that is non-comedogenic, moisturizing, and long-lasting (to withstand friction throughout the day). Your hair shafts need to be lubricated as they regrow, or else you get ingrown hairs, or they feel like thumbtacks. Moisturize day and night for about four days afterwards, is what I do.

Wax... I really don't like body hair on me besides my armpits and face. Leg hair has started to bother me too as it is getting thicker with age. This pandemic has got me hairier than I have ever been and it kinda is driving me nuts.

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Tops do you shave your crotch? Bottoms do you like a bush crotch or shaved crotch

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ds49f5

I'm not opposed to a top having a bush but I do prefer either trimmed or shaved. I've always found it sexier and nice and clean

No. Shaving your pubes is unnecessary, and I wouldn't want to fuck anyone who does. Trimming is fine. Everyone can use a clean up now and again. But shaving makes you look fucking prepubescent. Fur is healthy and manly.

I prefer trimmed. Nothing worse than getting throat fucked and a wild hair goes up my nose and tickles me while I'm trying remind myself to breath.b

Had mine lasered off years ago. Prefer shaved partner.

I like shaved, and I keep my hole at least trimmed if I am expecting a good time. Same for my crotch, although it is shaved at the moment

What's that something you've wanted to try but haven't yet?

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6k6aig

Getting whored out by my top in a busy bar or sex club Sucking two cocks at once Wearing a butt plug all day and spending the day in public with my top knowing my ass is getting stretched out

Weekend sex toy to several guys. Sounds so simple, but it's headed off to a cabin in the woods on a Friday afternoon and letting go enough to be three or four guys sex toy for the entire weekend.

Being tied up and used

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I want to be the key owner of a boy (I only have access to key. Lock up that cock for as long as I want and see how slutty he gets after a month

What are some of your hookup horror stories?

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ka4lrf

Number 1 pet peeve, which is why I avoid uncut guys now. Dudes that want a bj but don’t clean their foreskin and their cock smells terrible. I had a dude with an 8.5” dick and it was the saddest fuck I ever had, he didn’t know how to use it. There was the dude during the snowstorm that I was blowing in his car and he was like “I hope you can make me cum blowing me because girls can’t.” And he came in like a minute.

Go to this guys house to bottom for him. He says to go into the bathroom and change. I was like change into what? He again said go into the bathroom and change. I walk in there and there is a pair of pink panties, a black tennis skirt and a white crop top.

This was a second meeting with a guy. First time was in a coffee shop to get to know each other. He came over to my dorm. But he brought a sandwich with him since he had skipped lunch earlier in the day apparently. He then started to eat it while we chatted about stuff and caught up with each other. After he had finished he began coughing a lot. He said it was because he had a problem with eating too fast and triggering his gag reflex. First red flag He then asked if he could wash out his mouth and brush his teeth. My dorm was in an old building so it had a sink and mirror in the bedroom. After gargling water he proceeded to use MY toothbrush to brush his teeth. Then came back over to my bed and began to kiss me. Could still smell and taste that egg sandwich on his breath btw We make out and then 69 each other. It was fine nothing special. Then he insists on being top, didn’t discuss it before meeting up. I was really annoyed with him by this stage but was horny enough to say yes. This man straight up did not know how to fuck. Didn’t stimulate any areas like the prostate or offer any further foreplay. So it just hurt more than felt good. Eventually he came. I then had to show him where the bus stop was because he got lost when he left. This happened my last year of my undergrad and as a result I have not hooked up with older men since. Might be unfair but that’s being my gut feeling since.This idiot was 33, assuming that his profile was true, and I was 22 at the time. But at least any tops I’ve bottomed for since have been good in t the sack

What is your hottest Story of watching others fuck?

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kkpx8n

never seen other fucked but ive seem my friend give a bj to another guy in the car after the club lol

Whats your story of fucking someone you know you shouldn't have?

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ivjgqn

Had sex with one of my dads friends when I was 19

We didn't get all the way there, but I flirted with my dad's boss's son at a work social. Could have gone very very poorly.

I used to bottom for a guy who is married (to a girl). Looking back, the sex might've been great, but I sometimes feel guilty thinking I could've ruined his marriage.

I played truth or day, I set myself to get a bet I couldn’t suck off my a guy in under 5 mins .. my dads best friend got to try it and he unloaded it and it’s our secret but he gets head a lot

Whats your hottest getting caught having sex and not stopping story

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gl4ceo

When I was in high school my fwb was in full on railing me mode and my step mom walked in as he was breeding me. He told me after while we were cleaning up. I had my head down and didn't see her. It was an awkward breakfast after lol

Met a guy on Grindr and we went to a wooded area to play. He was about 45 and I was probably 21. We went deep into the woods and found a quiet spot. We started making out and eventually after like 15 minutes of swapping head and him playing with my ass, he started fucking me from behind. He was about 6.5inches and thick so my tight ass was getting split. I was moaning too loud so he stuffed my underwear into my mouth to gag me which was so hot. He was fucking my brains out in a leap frog position, jackhammering me with my hands and knees in the dirt. Suddenly two younger guys in their late teens walked up on us and said we were breaking the law. I was on my knees in the dirt with my mouth gagged, panicking. Out of nowhere, the guy pulled out his wallet walks over to them with his pants around his ankles and a condom on his cock and paid them each 20 bucks to scram. I was in shock, I looked them in the eyes as they took the cash and just left us. He went right back to fucking me, harder and faster with every thrust. He stroked my dick as he fucked me, making me eventually shoot my load all over the ground. My orgasm caused my ass to tighten which put him over the edge almost simultaneously. When he was about to cum, he pulled the condom off and shot a huge load all over my ass, his gooey cum dripping down my asscheeks.

I got caught blowing an Arab straight guy by his GF years ago this was. She stormed out all mad and then kept on calling him but he had me back to sucking him by then he didn’t care lol.

I was on the mountain being doggied by my ex. A small winding road below was starting to experience a traffic pile up. People started getting out of their cars to check what was going on. Someone happened to look up, pointed to us, and soon several were looking at us. The pace of his strokes were starting to slow down and he nearly stopped. I told my guy I’d break up with him right now if he stopped so he picked up pace and kept going. A couple of folks flipped out their phones and pointed it towards us. I almost felt like a celebrity that afternoon.

At a house party one time me and two guys snuck off into a bedroom where they proceeded to tag team me. I was on my hands and knees on the bed with one guy pounding my ass from behind while I was sucking the other guys cock when the door opened. In walked a guy that I had a huge crush on at the time but he was in a long term monogamous relationship. He had apparently put his jacket in the room for safe keeping and was getting it to leave. The guy fucking me didn't stop and I didn't stop sucking the other guys cock and the guy getting his jacket did slowly while getting a good show and commented to have fun as he left the room