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Angela Simmons is seemingly coming into the new year a single woman. Fans have noticed that the star recently deleted almost all of the posts she had connecting her to boxer beau Daniel Jacobs.
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Did Angela Simmons and Daniel Jacobs Already Call It Quits?
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Angela Simmons is seemingly coming into the new year a single woman. Fans have noticed that the star recently deleted almost all of the posts she had connecting her to boxer beau Daniel Jacobs. The two went public with their relationship in August 2020. No more images of her supporting him, them cozying up together laughing. With almost all traces of Jacobs gone from her Instagram, fans of the Growing Up Hip Hop star believe this means that the couple has called it quits.
Even though Simmons might have thought she scrubbed her Instagram account of all the memories she shared with Jacobs, one video post from last October is still up. She is seen prepping for a boxing workout wearing a “TEAM JACOBS” sweatshirt, captioning the video, “Grinding #TeamJacobs Built Not Bought.” The “Built Not Bought” message, by the way, is one Simmons has used for some time to encourage making improvements to one’s body by putting in hard work and going about things the natural way.
Similarly, Jacobs only has one memory of Simmons on his account, too, even though his dates all the way back to when the couple first went public. In a post from August 2020, he shared a cute photo of the pair at an event posed together, which he captioned, “Wedding vibes tonight with her.”
If the couple has indeed split, this wouldn’t be the first time an ending to one of Simmons’ relationships has created headlines. The starlet has both dealt with and shared the ups and downs of her relationships with the public in the past. Back in December 2017, she announced that she split from then-fiance Sutton Tennyson. In November of 2018, he was shot and killed following an argument outside his Atlanta home. Tennyson and Simmons share a son, Sutton Joseph or SJ, who is now four.
Also, while we still don’t know who she was referring to, back in December 2019, Simmons went on The Breakfast Club and discussed what it was like for her to be in an abusive relationship in her past. According to her, the situation encouraged her to create the campaign Pressure Makes Diamonds with the mission is to help develop positive self-image and confidence in young women.
“I’m in a better headspace and I know that I’m done and I can focus in and get therapy and move on. But it’s a tough situation, it’s definitely tough to talk about when you’re in it,” she said at the time. “I know I have found there have been a lot of women who just don’t speak about it and they’re stuck in relationships and marriages or whatever it is, be it they stay for their kids, or they stay because they don’t have financial means to get out of it. But by all means you could wind up not here tomorrow and it happens to women all the time. So I just encourage people to get help. Even if you’re silently getting help, you’ve got to get help.”
While Simmons is to no newbie to having her love life, or lack thereof, magnified in the public eye, we hope that regardless of her current relationship status, she’s feeling positive going into the new year. Whether she’s still with Jacobs or not, encouraging and empowering other women to avoid toxic relationships and be their best selves seems to give Simmons just as much comfort as it offers others.
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Do you remember the petty beef between Wendy Williams and Evelyn Lozada? While talking about the upcoming season of VH1's Basketball Wives on her show, Wendy mentioned needing to apologize to Evelyn for the shade she threw at the reality star back in 2014.
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Wendy Williams Shockingly Wants To Apologize To This Basketball Wives Star
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Do you remember the petty beef between Wendy Williams and Evelyn Lozada? While talking about the upcoming season of VH1’s Basketball Wives on her show, Wendy mentioned that she wanted, even needed to apologize to Evelyn for the shade she threw at the reality star back in 2014.
Even though Wendy didn’t seem to be the most dedicated watcher of the series, yesterday on Hot Topics she inferred that she might be watching Basketball Wives‘ newest season. While talking about the show, Wendy referenced the newest promotional cast photo, where executive producer Shaunie O’Neal is seen standing in the forefront, while the other cast members are posed behind her.
“Basketball Wives is finally back,” Wendy said. “Well, you’ve been wondering about it. I haven’t really much thought about it, but all of a sudden I care about it a lot. Because corona is here, they’ve been off for over a year, and Shaunie is right there in front. Shaunie O’Neal is still the boss.”
Discussing Evelyn, Wendy mentioned that she thought it was time to offer the Basketball Wives vet an apology, referencing a brief feud between the two.
“They tell me that the star is Evelyn Lozada, who I told you I still need to apologize to,” she said. “Remember the shoes in Miami, the ex-husband and the jump-off, and the whole bid. You know what I’m talking about Ev, you got that.”
If you recall, back in 2014 Wendy and Evelyn got into a petty back-and-forth after Wendy shadily congratulated Evelyn on the birth of her born son. She implied that Evelyn only had the child to keep money in the bank from the reality star’s then-fiancé, former LA Dodger outfielder, Carl Crawford.
Wendy said at the time, “and by the way, Evelyn, very smart to name the child Carl Crawford Jr., just to make ‘ol cash register over here feel well. You should become involved in a lot of charity work. And also, talk to your man about opening you up another Dulce, except Dulce Beverly Hills, not Dulce Miami.”
As you can imagine, the comment wasn’t received very well. That same day, Evelyn publically embarrassed Wendy on Twitter, exposing some tea on the TV host’s then-husband, Kevin Hunter.
“Since u want me 2 open Dulce n LA. Maybe ur man can come 2 that store & purchase shoes 4 another woman like he did @ my Miami store. Bloop!” she tweeted.
Evelyn also added, “Oh…BTW…he purchased the Casadei suede over the knee boots triple platform just in case you wanted to know.”
Out of all the stars Wendy has offended over the years, it’s funny that Evelyn is one that makes it on her apology list. If anything, maybe Evelyn taught Wendy not to be so judgemental of other people’s lives, especially when the TV host had some problems within her own.
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Method Man could've been in the 2017 box office hit but was turned off by this.
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Method Man Explained Why He Rejected ‘Girls Trip’ Role
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Method Man recently revealed that he could’ve been in the 2017 box office hit Girls Trip. During an interview with Jemele Hill for her podcast, Jemele Hill Unbothered, the Staten Island emcee said that he read for the part of Stewart Pierce, the cheating husband of Ryan Pierce, played by Regina Hall. He said he turned down the role because he didn’t relate to or even like the character of Stewart Pierce. The role eventually went to Mike Colter.
“I was supposed to be that a** hole guy that [Mike] Colter played,” he said. “So when I read the script, I was like I feel like I’ve gotta take a shower. It was like I couldn’t relate to the guy. I like characters I feel like I can hang out with…But this dude was like, ugh. I didn’t like him. I’m sorry, I just didn’t like him.”
Playing a lawyer was a better choice for Method Man, born Clifford Smith, than a lying, cheating husband. Method Man currently stars on Power Book II: Ghost where he portrays lawyer Davis MacClean. He told Vulture that though he loves playing the role, he is still waiting to reach the turning point in his acting career.
“I know there’s a big, big something out there,” he said. “It hasn’t gotten me yet, or I haven’t found it yet. I’m not saying this right here isn’t a treasure in itself, because I mean, I’m on a spinoff of a show that was on for six seasons, with a rabid fan following, but in the same breath, you want to be able to challenge yourself more and step outside of comfort zones and just see how far you can take it, you know? I’m like Pac-Man right now. I’m trying to eat as many pellets as I can before the ghost gets me.”
He also shared that as he was preparing to play MacClean, he referred to the Academy Award winner Denzel Washington and the late Johnnie Cochran.
“Denzel [Washington] comes to mind off the top,” he said about his references. “In my acting class, I had to do a scene from Philadelphia with my scene partner, and I played the Denzel role, so it kind of prepared me for the work that I was going to do on Power. Also, Johnnie Cochran’s mannerisms inside and outside the court, because I needed something real and grounded. And then you know, add Method Man. I add Method Man to every character I [do].”
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Sources close to the production of "The Real Housewives of Potomac," claim that they are looking to cast two new cast members.
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Report: “Real Housewives of Potomac” Looking To Cast Two New Cast Members
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This season of “The Real Housewives of Potomac” was a doozy. It was by far the most memorable—and not necessarily for the best reasons. The women questioned each other’s marriages and relationships, folks made some ugly claims about the paternity of one of the wives’ children. And most notably, Monique Samuels and Candiace Dillard got into a physical altercation that left lingering psychological effects, specifically for Dillard.
After the fight, the reunion, and the claims about her children not belonging to her husband, Monique stated that she would not be returning to the show—in order to protect her family.
Apparently, she might not be the only one.
A report from The Jasmine Brand, claims that a source close to production said, “They’re trying to add two new women to Potomac.”
The source claimed, “Potomac needs to fill Monique’s role on the show. Before Monique quit, production was anticipating following the aftermath of Monique and Candiace – will they reconcile? Will the cast remain divided? Now that she’s gone, they’ll need to explore new people.”
Producers have reportedly begun working on casting the two new women.
“Real Housewives of Potomac,” premiered in 2016. It’s the eighth show in The Real Housewives franchise.
The women just completed their fifth season.
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Following her Verzuz with Keyshia Cole last week, Ashanti addressed her opponent's attitude and late arrival to the battle in a recent interview. Defending Keyshia, Ashanti dished on preoccupying the fans will waiting for the battle to get started and how the technical difficulties might have added to Keyshia's nerves.
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Following her Verzuz with Keyshia Cole last week, Ashanti addressed her opponent’s “attitude” and late arrival to the battle in today’s episode of Hot 97’s Ebro in the Morning. Coming to Keyshia’s defense, Ashanti said she did what she had to do in order to keep the fans preoccupied while they waited for Keyshia to get her set up together, and that it’s only natural Keyshia might have been on edge before hopping into the singing match.
After waiting for a longer time than expected to see the two R&B singers duke it out, fans finally got to see Keyshia and Ashanti go back-and-forth singing their classic hits last Thursday (Jan. 21). Before things could get started though, Ashanti and viewers had to wait over an hour after the battle was set to start for Keyshia to arrive and be ready. When discussing the delay with Ebro and his co-hosts, Ashanti said even though she expected the Verzuz to start on time, she felt it was her duty to both Keyshia and the watchers at home to keep the excitement pumped up until things were ready to begin.
“I obviously thought she was gonna be there a little bit sooner,” Ashanti said. “I just felt like as women camaraderie, if someone is late, you know, you hold on a little bit — I didn’t even realize so much time was going by, and we were sitting in the dressing room and I got a call like ‘Yo, we’ve got to figure out, what’s going on?’ and ‘Oh she’s not ready,’ whatever it is that was happening you know? I think there was something with her screen, or the sound, or something. I didn’t even know what was going on — I was like, OK, I have to go out because there’s just people sitting there. This thing has been already up and down—the cancelations, the postponements, now it’s late. So, I said, ‘I’m going to wait a bit longer, and then I’ll go out.’ So I did.”
Speaking on the backlash Keyshia received for her seemingly annoyed demeanor throughout the battle, Ashanti again defended the fellow songstress. As she saw it, with all the technical difficulties Keyshia supposedly had, mixed with general nerves leading up to the battle, she couldn’t fault Keyshia for coming across a bit tense.
“Everyone has their days, you know what I mean?” the “Foolish” singer said. “There was probably a lot of stuff going on. It’s a lot of pressure. When you think of that many people with eyes on you, you know what I mean? If her stuff wasn’t together, of course you’re going to be frustrated — So on top of being nervous and then having to deal with all of that, of course you’re going to be a little flustered. So I would just assume that played a part into it.”
When all is said and done, although people got tired of waiting for the Verzuz between Keyshia and Ashanti to go down both before and the day of the battle, at least not many were disappointed with the quality of the vocals when the singers did finally belt out their best hits. With many watchers agreeing Ashanti won the battle, harping over bragging rights seemed to be the least of Keyshia’s worries after the showdown.
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In a new interview, Cassie opened up about how her second pregnancy was "unexpected." In conversation with "pregnancy and parenthood" site Babe by Hatch, the singer discussed what it's like being seven months into the pregnancy following the birth of her daughter Frankie, who's just turned one this past December.
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Expectant Mother Cassie Says Baby Number Two Was “Unexpected”
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In a new interview, singer and model Cassie opened up about how her second pregnancy was “unexpected.” In conversation with “pregnancy and parenthood” site Babe by Hatch, she discussed what it’s like being seven months into the pregnancy following the birth of her daughter Frankie, who just turned one this past December. She shares both children with her husband, Alex Fine.
When talking with Babe, Cassie mentioned that her naivety on how fertile women become after giving birth, in addition to her venturing on the side of caution by avoiding the doctor’s office amidst the coronavirus pandemic, were both factors that contributed to the timeframe between her two pregnancies. Even though her lastest pregnancy came as a surprise, she shared that her family is excited to welcome their newest bundle of joy nonetheless.
“I’ve joked about this with my family, but I feel like I’ve been pregnant for nearly three years!” she said. “I had a four or five-month window between the two pregnancies where I remember drinking wine and then back to being pregnant. Before COVID, I was casually talking to my doctor about birth control, but once the stay-at-home order went into effect, I was lax about going to the doctor because I didn’t don’t [sic] want to go out of the house unless necessary. Of course, I had no idea how fertile you are after having a baby, so I delayed. And, here we are, seven months later!”
“Finding out was definitely one of those ‘Oh sh*t-moments!'” she added. “It was totally unexpected, but we’re so excited! I love that Frankie’s going to have a sibling super close in age. Plus, we’re home so much now anyway, and my entire house is all ‘baby’ so, in that sense, the timing is ideal. But after this, I need my body back for a minute before even considering another.”
When talking about the things surrounding her pregnancy that “keep her up at night,” she shared that it’s hard for her to imagine what having another baby in the house will feel like.
“Right now, I can’t imagine what it will be like to have two babies in the house,” she said. “We have our little routine: we wake up, eat, play, nap, and I’m trying to wrap my mind around how it will be to add a new person to the mix. Everybody says, ‘It just falls into place.'” But, like, for real, how does it work?”
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Female workers of the New York City's Metropolitan Transit Authority tell stories of discrimination and neglect they experienced after becoming pregnant.
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The Disrespect & Disregard Of The Pregnant Women Of New York City’s MTA
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Working for the city of New York is like reaching the promised land of jobs. Once someone lands a position as an employee under the New York City government, they stay for years and often retire from that position. It looks like gold on the outside, but what is gold doesn’t always glimmer.
One of the most coveted jobs in this city is a position with the Metropolitan Transit Authority (MTA). They have many different departments but the faces of the MTA are the bus drivers and train conductors. They are responsible for transporting over 1.6 trillion people a year. Without them, the city that never sleeps would be a snore. While they are near and dear to the heart of the Big Apple, they don’t get treated like they are, specifically the women. After speaking with a few women that have worked with the MTA for years, it has been made clear that the female bus drivers and train conductors are the most disrespected and disregarded.
The Plight of Pregnancy
The women of the MTA feel that they are dealt the most disrespect when pregnant. According to the ladies I have spoken to, once they are pregnant they are neglected, mistreated and rejected by their employer. After they reach later stages in their pregnancy, they request something called a reasonable accommodation, a position where strenuous labor is not expected or required. The women I spoke to were all denied this option. Like KJ, who worked 4:30 a.m to 12:30 p.m driving a bus throughout her pregnancy. Since she was denied desk duty accommodation, she continued to work so she could continue to stack her sick days to use after she gave birth. This meant driving a bus of disgruntled straphangers with swollen feet, a uniform that didn’t fit and a full bladder at times. KJ also worked through the COVID-19 pandemic while pregnant. Some days she would drive the bus in tears due to the emotional strain. She also fell down a few flights of stairs at work while pregnant because she was forced to walk too many flights to clock-in due to an out-of-service elevator. By the time she gave birth she didn’t have any sick days, so she was left with two weeks of maternity leave and two weeks of paid leave to bond with her baby. She was denied family medical leave three times.
While Crystal Young was working while pregnant, she was also denied a reasonable accommodation. After being diagnosed with a condition called hemoglobinuria, she had to continue walking the platforms, inhaling toxic materials and dealing with customers, including the emotionally disturbed, homeless and disruptive. Her rights to privacy were also violated when her diagnosis and request for an accommodation was being gossiped about by her colleagues. There was a breach in confidentiality. Young even met with someone in the women’s division while pregnant and was told that her pregnancy was not a reasonable accommodation issue.
Once a train operator named Jillian Williams gave birth while on the job and sadly lost her baby, the MTA was exposed over their alleged lack of accommodation of pregnant women. Williams was working in the East New York train yard standing and walking for long hours and operating a “20-pound hand switch that allowed her to move the trains around the yard” when her water broke, the Gothamist reported. Williams didn’t make it to the hospital and gave birth in a shack in the train yard. Once she did get to the hospital, her baby was pronounced dead. After the devastating experience that resulted in the loss of her child, she filed a lawsuit against the MTA.
After being blasted in the media, train conductor Marie* was swiftly granted her reasonable accommodation during her pregnancy. However, after Williams’ lawsuit, Marie said her accommodation was not renewed. After her primary physician cleared her to work her accommodation, she said the MTA’s doctor refused to clear her to work. So she sat at home with no pay as she awaited the arrival of her baby. Since she wasn’t working, she was unable to pay into her sick leave, something most workers do so they have more than the small time allotted to bond with their newborn child. Pregnant women are only allowed two weeks of leave after giving birth. Her calls for a reasonable accommodation continued to go unanswered even though she is willing to work.
Another worker named Darian Keene also filed a lawsuit against the MTA claiming that she was denied the chance to work light duty while pregnant. Her lawsuit stated:
In or about November 2014, Plaintiff was advised by her physician that her work and schedule as a conductor was too physically rigorous for a safe pregnancy, and directed her to work only light-duty assignments. Specifically, her physician advised her to avoid prolonged standing, heavy lifting, and climbing, and indicated that Plaintiff needed frequent bathroom accommodations. 13. On or about December 11, 2014, Plaintiff requested a light duty accommodation as her physician advised. 14. Defendant Transit refused to accommodate Plaintiff, claiming there was no light duty work available. 15. As a result, Plaintiff was forced to begin her maternity leave on or about December 22, 2014, when she was only approximately seven months pregnant, even though she was willing to work and able to work restricted duty.
Pregnancy is stressful enough but becomes more stressful when you are pushed out of work or forced to work under conditions that can detrimentally affect you and your unborn child’s health. The MTA is comprised of 20 % female conductors and bus drivers and 92 % of them are Black women. Black women are already more likely to experience childbirth complications and high birth mortality rates, so working in dangerous conditions can only increase the risk they are already facing. According to the New York State Health Foundation, Black mothers in New York are 2.3 times more likely than white women to experience such complications.
When the workers needed to be advocated for by their union, Local 100, they all said their cries fell of deaf ears. The women I spoke to claimed that once they reached out to their union representatives to ask for assistance as they fought for a reasonable accommodation, they were all led down roads that went nowhere. Calls were unanswered and their problems weren’t solved.
“Transit is doing what the union is allowing them to do,” Young said about Local 100’s lack of action.
What’s to Come
After Williams lost her baby, the MTA was blasted throughout the media, which forced them to react urgently.
Sarah Feinberg, the Interim President of the Transit Authority, told me in a statement that there are now announcer positions that are available for pregnant workers who need reasonable accommodation. Announcers ensure that riders are informed of the latest service-related information.
“Ensuring we can open these dedicated announcer positions is another strong step for women in NYC Transit and will enable pregnant women who have a medical necessity the ability to remain in the workforce for a longer period of time,” Feinberg said to me in a statement. “ This new policy came out of our pregnancy task force and the work of the women’s committee and builds on our joint efforts providing accommodations to those who need them. I’m proud to reach an agreement with TWU and make this a reality.”
Young, who is a shop steward, isn’t hopeful about this new development and said that it isn’t enough.
“You’re basically telling women that you have to apply and interview for a job that only lasts 90 days,” she told me. “Then you have to apply every 30 days. If you have a high risk pregnancy or issues or complications that could last your whole pregnancy, that 90 days isn’t doing anything.”
She pointed out that this announcer position is only for four women in the subway division, which has one-third female employees.
“You didn’t do anything for buses, car equipment, stations…the Union is just out of touch with reality.”
Young said there should be 150 positions for those who become pregnant or disabled while working.
When I spoke to Eric Loegel, the vice president of Rapid Transit Operations and Transport Workers Union Local 100, he also promised that change was near.
Loegel said he has already appointed a liaison, who is a female train conductor, between the pregnant workers who work on the subways and the union to ensure that their needs are met. He added that since his focus is subway workers, he is also working with the bus divisions to ensure female workers are also heard and advocated for.
Loegel, who has been the vice president of Local 100 for two years, admitted that the MTA has a legacy of not taking the issues that pregnant women face on the job seriously. He also acknowledged that employees have a mindset that the union doesn’t care about them. In competing against the Transit Authority’s outdated mentality, Loegel is committed to normalizing women having families while working. Besides appointing a liaison, he said the union is working on renegotiating contracts so that pregnant women are provided with desk duty, a paid leave of 10 weeks, more lactation facilities, maternity uniforms and upgraded women’s locker rooms and restrooms, which were built almost 100 years ago when women were not employees.
Due to feeling that the MTA and the Local 100 Union was being neglectful of pregnant women, Young decided to take matters into her own hands. She created a packet of resources that pregnant MTA workers need to have handy once they need to apply for reasonable accommodation, medical leave and family medical leave. The packet includes answers to frequently asked questions, forms, contacts, memorandums, policies that apply to pregnant workers and detailed information about the Family Medical Leave Act.
Though there is a lot of groundwork that needs to be done regarding the struggles of pregnant MTA workers, Loegel vowed to endure whatever comes with fighting for what they are entitled to.
“Women have been in this department for 40 years. Not a lot has been done in that time. I have made it a priority of mine to try and turn that around.”
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nWorking for the city of New York is like reaching the promised land of jobs. Once someone lands a position as an employee under the New York City government, they stay for years and often retire from that position. It looks like gold on the outside, but what is gold doesn’t always glimmer.\nOne of the most coveted jobs in this city is a position with the Metropolitan Transit Authority (MTA). They have many different departments but the faces of the MTA are the bus drivers and train conductors. They are responsible for transporting over 1.6 trillion people a year. Without them, the city that never sleeps would be a snore. While they are near and dear to the heart of the Big Apple, they don’t get treated like they are, specifically the women. After speaking with a few women that have worked with the MTA for years, it has been made clear that the female bus drivers and train conductors are the most disrespected and disregarded.\nThe Plight of Pregnancy\nThe women of the MTA feel that they are dealt the most disrespect when pregnant. According to the ladies I have spoken to, once they are pregnant they are neglected, mistreated and rejected by their employer. After they reach later stages in their pregnancy, they request something called a reasonable accommodation, a position where strenuous labor is not expected or required. The women I spoke to were all denied this option. Like KJ, who worked 4:30 a.m to 12:30 p.m driving a bus throughout her pregnancy. Since she was denied desk duty accommodation, she continued to work so she could continue to stack her sick days to use after she gave birth. This meant driving a bus of disgruntled straphangers with swollen feet, a uniform that didn’t fit and a full bladder at times. KJ also worked through the COVID-19 pandemic while pregnant. Some days she would drive the bus in tears due to the emotional strain. She also fell down a few flights of stairs at work while pregnant because she was forced to walk too many flights to clock-in due to an out-of-service elevator. By the time she gave birth she didn’t have any sick days, so she was left with two weeks of maternity leave and two weeks of paid leave to bond with her baby. She was denied family medical leave three times.\nWhile Crystal Young was working while pregnant, she was also denied a reasonable accommodation. After being diagnosed with a condition called hemoglobinuria, she had to continue walking the platforms, inhaling toxic materials and dealing with customers, including the emotionally disturbed, homeless and disruptive. Her rights to privacy were also violated when her diagnosis and request for an accommodation was being gossiped about by her colleagues. There was a breach in confidentiality. Young even met with someone in the women’s division while pregnant and was told that her pregnancy was not a reasonable accommodation issue.\nOnce a train operator named Jillian Williams gave birth while on the job and sadly lost her baby, the MTA was exposed over their alleged lack of accommodation of pregnant women. Williams was working in the East New York train yard standing and walking for long hours and operating a “20-pound hand switch that allowed her to move the trains around the yard” when her water broke, the Gothamist reported. Williams didn’t make it to the hospital and gave birth in a shack in the train yard. Once she did get to the hospital, her baby was pronounced dead. After the devastating experience that resulted in the loss of her child, she filed a lawsuit against the MTA.\nAfter being blasted in the media, train conductor Marie* was swiftly granted her reasonable accommodation during her pregnancy. However, after Williams’ lawsuit, Marie said her accommodation was not renewed. After her primary physician cleared her to work her accommodation, she said the MTA’s doctor refused to clear her to work. So she sat at home with no pay as she awaited the arrival of her baby. Since she wasn’t working, she was unable to pay into her sick leave, something most workers do so they have more than the small time allotted to bond with their newborn child. Pregnant women are only allowed two weeks of leave after giving birth. Her calls for a reasonable accommodation continued to go unanswered even though she is willing to work.\nAnother worker named Darian Keene also filed a lawsuit against the MTA claiming that she was denied the chance to work light duty while pregnant. Her lawsuit stated:\nIn or about November 2014, Plaintiff was advised by her physician that her work and schedule as a conductor was too physically rigorous for a safe pregnancy, and directed her to work only light-duty assignments. Specifically, her physician advised her to avoid prolonged standing, heavy lifting, and climbing, and indicated that Plaintiff needed frequent bathroom accommodations. 13. On or about December 11, 2014, Plaintiff requested a light duty accommodation as her physician advised. 14. Defendant Transit refused to accommodate Plaintiff, claiming there was no light duty work available. 15. As a result, Plaintiff was forced to begin her maternity leave on or about December 22, 2014, when she was only approximately seven months pregnant, even though she was willing to work and able to work restricted duty.\nPregnancy is stressful enough but becomes more stressful when you are pushed out of work or forced to work under conditions that can detrimentally affect you and your unborn child’s health. The MTA is comprised of 20 % female conductors and bus drivers and 92 % of them are Black women. Black women are already more likely to experience childbirth complications and high birth mortality rates, so working in dangerous conditions can only increase the risk they are already facing. According to the New York State Health Foundation, Black mothers in New York are 2.3 times more likely than white women to experience such complications.\nWhen the workers needed to be advocated for by their union, Local 100, they all said their cries fell of deaf ears. The women I spoke to claimed that once they reached out to their union representatives to ask for assistance as they fought for a reasonable accommodation, they were all led down roads that went nowhere. Calls were unanswered and their problems weren’t solved.\n“Transit is doing what the union is allowing them to do,” Young said about Local 100’s lack of action.\nWhat’s to Come\nAfter Williams lost her baby, the MTA was blasted throughout the media, which forced them to react urgently.\nSarah Feinberg, the Interim President of the Transit Authority, told me in a statement that there are now announcer positions that are available for pregnant workers who need reasonable accommodation. Announcers ensure that riders are informed of the latest service-related information.\n“Ensuring we can open these dedicated announcer positions is another strong step for women in NYC Transit and will enable pregnant women who have a medical necessity the ability to remain in the workforce for a longer period of time,” Feinberg said to me in a statement. “ This new policy came out of our pregnancy task force and the work of the women’s committee and builds on our joint efforts providing accommodations to those who need them. I’m proud to reach an agreement with TWU and make this a reality.”\nYoung, who is a shop steward, isn’t hopeful about this new development and said that it isn’t enough.\n“You’re basically telling women that you have to apply and interview for a job that only lasts 90 days,” she told me. “Then you have to apply every 30 days. If you have a high risk pregnancy or issues or complications that could last your whole pregnancy, that 90 days isn’t doing anything.”\nShe pointed out that this announcer position is only for four women in the subway division, which has one-third female employees.\n“You didn’t do anything for buses, car equipment, stations…the Union is just out of touch with reality.”\nYoung said there should be 150 positions for those who become pregnant or disabled while working.\nWhen I spoke to Eric Loegel, the vice president of Rapid Transit Operations and Transport Workers Union Local 100, he also promised that change was near.\nLoegel said he has already appointed a liaison, who is a female train conductor, between the pregnant workers who work on the subways and the union to ensure that their needs are met. He added that since his focus is subway workers, he is also working with the bus divisions to ensure female workers are also heard and advocated for.\nLoegel, who has been the vice president of Local 100 for two years, admitted that the MTA has a legacy of not taking the issues that pregnant women face on the job seriously. He also acknowledged that employees have a mindset that the union doesn’t care about them. In competing against the Transit Authority’s outdated mentality, Loegel is committed to normalizing women having families while working. Besides appointing a liaison, he said the union is working on renegotiating contracts so that pregnant women are provided with desk duty, a paid leave of 10 weeks, more lactation facilities, maternity uniforms and upgraded women’s locker rooms and restrooms, which were built almost 100 years ago when women were not employees.\nDue to feeling that the MTA and the Local 100 Union was being neglectful of pregnant women, Young decided to take matters into her own hands. She created a packet of resources that pregnant MTA workers need to have handy once they need to apply for reasonable accommodation, medical leave and family medical leave. The packet includes answers to frequently asked questions, forms, contacts, memorandums, policies that apply to pregnant workers and detailed information about the Family Medical Leave Act.\nThough there is a lot of groundwork that needs to be done regarding the struggles of pregnant MTA workers, Loegel vowed to endure whatever comes with fighting for what they are entitled to.\n“Women have been in this department for 40 years. Not a lot has been done in that time. I have made it a priority of mine to try and turn that around.”",
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HBO Max has confirmed that a "Sex and the City" reboot is coming to the platform. Sadly, it will not include Kim Cattrall's dynamic character Samantha Jones. Making us wonder if we need it at all.
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Do You Want Sex And The City Without Samantha Jones?
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If you ask me, the way the series “Sex and the City” was wrapped up, in both the show and the subsequent movies, I think it was sufficient. We got it. The stories have, in my mind, run their course. Still, the women of “Sex and the City” are so beloved, people are having a hard time letting them go. And given the fact that we’re in the era of reboot and remake, it should come as no surprise that people want to see what Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha have made of their lives since we last saw them.
After years of back and forth, it looks like a reboot is happening and officially coming to HBO Max. But the gang’s not entirely there.
Kim Cattrall, who played Samantha, will not be reuniting with her fellow co-stars.
In case you’ve missed it, Cattrall has been very vocal and very adamant about the fact that she is not interested in a reboot. In fact, she even got messy with it and told more than a few outlets that she and “Sex and the City” star Sarah Jessica Parker, who plays Carrie Bradshaw, do not get along with one another in real life.
In 2017, Page Six reported that first, she shut down the possibility of a third film, tweeting: “Woke 2 a @MailOnline [poop emoji] storm! The only DEMAND I ever made was that I didn’t want to do a 3rd film….& that was back in 2016.”
But it wasn’t just a creative problem. From early on, Cattrall felt like she was iced out of the friend group, mostly due to Parker’s actions.
And when the news of the third movie not happening came out, Cattrall said of her castmates, “Nobody ever picks up the phone and tries to contact you and say, ‘How you doing?’ That would have been the way to handle it,” she added. “This is, it feels like, a toxic relationship.”
It seems like the wounds are too deep to be mended. Cattrall was serious when she said she was done with the franchise. And as someone who knows a thing or two about toxic work environments, sometimes the audience has to go without for the preservation of a real life person’s mental, physical and psychological health.
It seems like it’s a wrap on Samantha
But the question is, knowing that she will be absent, is it even worth revisiting? Samantha Jones was and will forever be the most fascinating character on the show. We needed Carrie’s pathetic pining over Big, Charlotte’s evolution, and Miranda’s career-focused no-nonsense approach to balance out the antics of Ms. Jones, chile.
No offense to the other ladies but to me, it seems that the ensemble falls a little flat without Samantha bringing the flavor. More than just her sexual prowess, Samantha was often the only one of the group to call the other women out on their sh*t. And they had a lot of it.
I won’t go as far to say that I won’t be watching the reboot. I’m interested to see how the other three characters have evolved. But I hope everyone is clear about the fact that it won’t be as entertaining, as hilarious, or as socially relevant without her.
White women have always had more sexual freedom and agency in society. Still, now, unlike ever before, we’re in a more pro-hoe era. And it would have been fascinating to see how Samantha Jones navigated it all.
What are your thoughts? Do you want “Sex and the City” with Samantha Jones? Will you watch without her?
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"If you ask me, the way the series “Sex and the City” was wrapped up, in both the show and the subsequent movies, I think it was sufficient. We got it. The stories have, in my mind, run their course. Still, the women of “Sex and the City” are so beloved, people are having a hard time letting them go. And given the fact that we’re in the era of reboot and remake, it should come as no surprise that people want to see what Carrie, Charlotte, Miranda, and Samantha have made of their lives since we last saw them.\nAfter years of back and forth, it looks like a reboot is happening and officially coming to HBO Max. But the gang’s not entirely there.\nKim Cattrall, who played Samantha, will not be reuniting with her fellow co-stars.\nIn case you’ve missed it, Cattrall has been very vocal and very adamant about the fact that she is not interested in a reboot. In fact, she even got messy with it and told more than a few outlets that she and “Sex and the City” star Sarah Jessica Parker, who plays Carrie Bradshaw, do not get along with one another in real life.\nIn 2017, Page Six reported that first, she shut down the possibility of a third film, tweeting: “Woke 2 a @MailOnline [poop emoji] storm! The only DEMAND I ever made was that I didn’t want to do a 3rd film….& that was back in 2016.”\nBut it wasn’t just a creative problem. From early on, Cattrall felt like she was iced out of the friend group, mostly due to Parker’s actions.\nAnd when the news of the third movie not happening came out, Cattrall said of her castmates, “Nobody ever picks up the phone and tries to contact you and say, ‘How you doing?’ That would have been the way to handle it,” she added. “This is, it feels like, a toxic relationship.”\nIt seems like the wounds are too deep to be mended. Cattrall was serious when she said she was done with the franchise. And as someone who knows a thing or two about toxic work environments, sometimes the audience has to go without for the preservation of a real life person’s mental, physical and psychological health.\nIt seems like it’s a wrap on Samantha\nBut the question is, knowing that she will be absent, is it even worth revisiting? Samantha Jones was and will forever be the most fascinating character on the show. We needed Carrie’s pathetic pining over Big, Charlotte’s evolution, and Miranda’s career-focused no-nonsense approach to balance out the antics of Ms. Jones, chile.\nNo offense to the other ladies but to me, it seems that the ensemble falls a little flat without Samantha bringing the flavor. More than just her sexual prowess, Samantha was often the only one of the group to call the other women out on their sh*t. And they had a lot of it.\nI won’t go as far to say that I won’t be watching the reboot. I’m interested to see how the other three characters have evolved. But I hope everyone is clear about the fact that it won’t be as entertaining, as hilarious, or as socially relevant without her.\nWhite women have always had more sexual freedom and agency in society. Still, now, unlike ever before, we’re in a more pro-hoe era. And it would have been fascinating to see how Samantha Jones navigated it all.\nWhat are your thoughts? Do you want “Sex and the City” with Samantha Jones? Will you watch without her?",
"Do You Want Sex And The City Without Samantha Jones?",
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On the latest episode of "Peace of Mind with g to P. Henson," the actress spoke about the grief of sudden loss and having to tell her young son her father had died.
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Taraji P. Henson Didn’t Have The Heart To Tell Son His Father Was Murdered
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In her Facebook Watch show, “Peace of Mind with Taraji P. Henson,” the actress speaks of various ways to cope with the challenges of everyday life. They spoke about the specific type of grief people experience with the sudden loss of a loved one.
Henson has had her own experience with sudden loss with the father of her son. She spoke about coping with the loss and the particularly difficulty of breaking the devastating news of the loss to her then nine-year-old son.
“My son’s father was suddenly taken, murdered when he was nine. And I didn’t know how to tell him that. I told him he died in an accident. Later on in life, he found out and he came back to me and was like, ‘Why didn’t you tell me my daddy was murdered?’
And so then, we had to get therapy.”
Taraji asked therapist Sierra Hillsman what advice she’d give to parents who have to break such devastating news to their children.
Hillsman said, “I would definitely say use age-appropriate language explaining sometimes there are situations where people do evil things to other people. In this situation, somebody killed your father.”
Taraji said the way in which her son’s father was murdered was so heinous, she didn’t have the heart to tell her son the details.
“I didn’t have the balls. I didn’t. It wouldn’t come out. I hid it. ‘Cause I read the actual… it was in the paper. And I didn’t know how to tell him. He was stabbed to death; it was the worst way you could die. And I just didn’t have the words. I didn’t know how to tell a nine-year-old… that there was so much hate in the world that someone would do that. I tried to show him the happy side of life. I grew up in the hood and I wanted to keep that from him. I just didn’t have the words, and we suffered later for it.”
Her decision to sugar-coat the truth left her with a huge sense of guilt as a parent.
“I have so much guilt because I wish I would have known what I know now because I would’ve handled things differently. Maybe we wouldn’t have struggled so much. That’s why I go so hard for mental health because we don’t know and we think when our kids are acting out, we go ‘Oh they’re just being a teenager’ but most times there’s really something wrong, but because we don’t know we don’t talk about it. I don’t want us to not know, to not save our children. That is the guilt I have as a parent. We all have those things as a parent where I could’ve done this better and that haunts me.”
Hillsman said, “It’s important for you to not blame yourself for something that you did not have at that time.”
Henson said with what she knows now, she wouldn’t have broken the news to her son in that way but she often questions her parenting decisions. .
“I know that now. I know that. I’m not as hard on myself but I still carry that. I’m good some days and then some days if my son is struggling with something I go, ‘It’s your fault.’ If you didn’t …that’s just the guilt a parent carries. It’s not that I consider myself a bad parent, you know… I’m a Virgo too. That’s still a struggle for me and that’s something I’m constantly talking to my therapist about… Children don’t come with manuals, humans don’t and relationships dont. So, you just learn as you go and you try to do the best you can. But every parent feels like that.”
You can watch this episode of “Peace of Mind with Taraji P. Henson,” in the video below.
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Most dating apps boast about having a diverse membership base and how they integrate new features to support “all” people who utilize their platforms. I decided to do some sleuthing in order to see if these apps are “fat friendly” and inclusive as they claim to be, and what better way than to start with Tinder.
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Is Tinder Fat Friendly?
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As the COVID-19 pandemic continues to apply pressure on the world, we are continuing to grasp for any part of reality that we can hold on to. A large portion of this revolves around getting creative with how we go about cultivating relationships and intimacy. Despite it being around for years, people are flocking to online dating with more urgency, myself included.
Although online dating seemingly makes it easier to connect, for some of us, it’s more of a curse than a blessing. Being that I identify as a fat, Black femme, the way I navigate life isn’t comparable to your average thin, able-bodied Karen. And although I and even Ray Charles can see that we aren’t the same, I still wondered if my experiences with dating really existed in a vacuum.
Most of these dating apps boast about having a diverse membership base and how they integrate new features to support “all” people who utilize their platforms. From the outside looking in, this all sounds great on paper, of course, but part of me knew that something was amiss. Putting on my Sherlock Holmes cap, I decided to do some sleuthing in order to see if these apps are “fat friendly” and inclusive as they claim to be, and what better way than to start than with the most problematic app of them all — Tinder.
An app created in 2012 from the ingenious collaboration of Sean Rad, his college bros and a woman (who shortly after left to create Bumble), Tinder’s swipe format stems from the ye olde concept of “hot or not.” Swipe right on those who are hot, and, inevitably, swipe left on those who are deemed unattractive. From the start, one can see that Tinder’s MO is very much motivated by perpetuating societal beauty norms.
But now that it’s 2021, I’ve decided to turn down my side-eye and give Tinder some grace. First by embracing the minimal improvements that they have made in their eight-year existence, and also by giving them the benefit of the doubt. Without further ado, let’s get into the specifics.
Creating a Profile
In my opinion, creating a profile on Tinder is the easiest part of the process. I picked my top nine photos, making sure to include as many full-body pictures as possible to avoid being accused of being a villainous fat girl looking to dupe men with “bodily-ambiguous” images. I also toggled “Smart Photo” on to keep track of which photo was generating the most likes.
After curating a group of photos that would even give Anna Wintour chills, I proceeded with drafting the best profile summary possible, making sure to include as many facets of my personality as possible to appear multidimensional AF. Also, let’s not forget adding that favorite Beach House song (as I am a self-proclaimed stan of this band), and I linked my Spotify and Instagram to give potential matches a brief look into my life.
Tinder Basic Vs Tinder Gold
Initially, I only used Tinder Basic because a bish is frugal and trying to conserve her funds. However, once Tinder announced that they were giving Passport, or the ability to virtually travel and swipe in other countries to all Tinder Gold members, I decided to make the transition to the paid subscription. For a whopping $14.99 a month, Tinder Gold offers the ability to see who liked you first, five daily super likes, a monthly boost, and the option to change the app icon from red to gold on your phone’s home page, which is inarguably the best and most effective feature they have.
In terms of my experience, the only true difference is that I am able to “travel” the world and see my endless likes from “BBW admirers,” “non-Black chubby-chasing wokefishers , ” and your local street pharmacist who is using Tinder as a way to procure clients and promote their latest SoundCloud track while looking to enjoy “good vibes” in their spare time. While using both membership plans, I have experienced men who have sent me messages that lack salutations but cut straight to the chase of hypersexualizing and objectifying my body without my consent, only to become volatile when called out for it. On the flip side, I have initiated messages where I introduce myself, resulting in no responses or immediate unmatches. I’ve even received communication from men telling me that their sole purpose in messaging me was to inform me that I was too fat to be attractive. Big yikes.
In addition to this, I have received a lot of messages where men not only fetishize me for being a fat, Black femme but also are pushing to have sex with me, even when I have explicitly stated that I am not interested in casual encounters. Because of this, on Tinder, I feel like I cannot win and therefore have taken a step back from using this app to protect my peace and edges.
Tinder’s Reporting Process
I’m going to make this portion as brief as possible because there is literally nothing monumental about the steps this app takes to protect its constituents. I have reported several instances of sexual harassment and bullying on this app, and they subject you to reliving the trauma and aggravation of these situations by having you describe the incident only to never follow up on the matter. Additionally, there are so many profiles with sexually explicit content and even d–k pics, and they are never removed. You’re subjected to this harm regardless of how much you pay to use the app.
The Verdict
Based on my unsavory experiences and Tinder’s lack of regard, I’m giving the app a fat-friendliness rating of negative 2 out of 5, and that’s honestly being generous. This app is truly ratchet.edu, and it really does nothing to serve the fat community, let alone people within that space who look like me. Of course, people will argue that Tinder is a “hook-up” app, and it’s not their responsibility to rebrand themselves to promote dating and relationships. However, I know so many accounts of people finding significant others and even marriage partners on this app. I also know that most of those people happen to be thin. I’ve even consulted other fat folx to get a scope of their experiences, and they have noted that they only see that thinner people are being asked on whole dates while they are being propositioned to sit on someone’s face every five seconds.
I can somewhat agree that Tinder isn’t obligated to change its casual-friendly vibe. However, they at least need to consider how they can go about having better preventative measures in place. That way, they can actually care for the welfare of members in order to actively enforce the harm reduction that needs to take place on their platform. Tinder may provide a space to “spark” certain connections for a certain demographic, but I think it’s high time to strike a match and watch it go up in flames. This, my friends, most certainly ain’t it.
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From the outside looking in, this all sounds great on paper, of course, but part of me knew that something was amiss. Putting on my Sherlock Holmes cap, I decided to do some sleuthing in order to see if these apps are “fat friendly” and inclusive as they claim to be, and what better way than to start than with the most problematic app of them all — Tinder.\nAn app created in 2012 from the ingenious collaboration of Sean Rad, his college bros and a woman (who shortly after left to create Bumble), Tinder’s swipe format stems from the ye olde concept of “hot or not.” Swipe right on those who are hot, and, inevitably, swipe left on those who are deemed unattractive. From the start, one can see that Tinder’s MO is very much motivated by perpetuating societal beauty norms.\nBut now that it’s 2021, I’ve decided to turn down my side-eye and give Tinder some grace. First by embracing the minimal improvements that they have made in their eight-year existence, and also by giving them the benefit of the doubt. Without further ado, let’s get into the specifics.\nCreating a Profile\nIn my opinion, creating a profile on Tinder is the easiest part of the process. I picked my top nine photos, making sure to include as many full-body pictures as possible to avoid being accused of being a villainous fat girl looking to dupe men with “bodily-ambiguous” images. I also toggled “Smart Photo” on to keep track of which photo was generating the most likes.\nAfter curating a group of photos that would even give Anna Wintour chills, I proceeded with drafting the best profile summary possible, making sure to include as many facets of my personality as possible to appear multidimensional AF. Also, let’s not forget adding that favorite Beach House song (as I am a self-proclaimed stan of this band), and I linked my Spotify and Instagram to give potential matches a brief look into my life.\nTinder Basic Vs Tinder Gold\nInitially, I only used Tinder Basic because a bish is frugal and trying to conserve her funds. However, once Tinder announced that they were giving Passport, or the ability to virtually travel and swipe in other countries to all Tinder Gold members, I decided to make the transition to the paid subscription. For a whopping $14.99 a month, Tinder Gold offers the ability to see who liked you first, five daily super likes, a monthly boost, and the option to change the app icon from red to gold on your phone’s home page, which is inarguably the best and most effective feature they have.\nIn terms of my experience, the only true difference is that I am able to “travel” the world and see my endless likes from “BBW admirers,” “non-Black chubby-chasing wokefishers , ” and your local street pharmacist who is using Tinder as a way to procure clients and promote their latest SoundCloud track while looking to enjoy “good vibes” in their spare time. While using both membership plans, I have experienced men who have sent me messages that lack salutations but cut straight to the chase of hypersexualizing and objectifying my body without my consent, only to become volatile when called out for it. On the flip side, I have initiated messages where I introduce myself, resulting in no responses or immediate unmatches. I’ve even received communication from men telling me that their sole purpose in messaging me was to inform me that I was too fat to be attractive. Big yikes.\nIn addition to this, I have received a lot of messages where men not only fetishize me for being a fat, Black femme but also are pushing to have sex with me, even when I have explicitly stated that I am not interested in casual encounters. Because of this, on Tinder, I feel like I cannot win and therefore have taken a step back from using this app to protect my peace and edges.\nTinder’s Reporting Process\nI’m going to make this portion as brief as possible because there is literally nothing monumental about the steps this app takes to protect its constituents. I have reported several instances of sexual harassment and bullying on this app, and they subject you to reliving the trauma and aggravation of these situations by having you describe the incident only to never follow up on the matter. Additionally, there are so many profiles with sexually explicit content and even d–k pics, and they are never removed. You’re subjected to this harm regardless of how much you pay to use the app.\nThe Verdict\nBased on my unsavory experiences and Tinder’s lack of regard, I’m giving the app a fat-friendliness rating of negative 2 out of 5, and that’s honestly being generous. This app is truly ratchet.edu, and it really does nothing to serve the fat community, let alone people within that space who look like me. Of course, people will argue that Tinder is a “hook-up” app, and it’s not their responsibility to rebrand themselves to promote dating and relationships. However, I know so many accounts of people finding significant others and even marriage partners on this app. I also know that most of those people happen to be thin. I’ve even consulted other fat folx to get a scope of their experiences, and they have noted that they only see that thinner people are being asked on whole dates while they are being propositioned to sit on someone’s face every five seconds.\nI can somewhat agree that Tinder isn’t obligated to change its casual-friendly vibe. However, they at least need to consider how they can go about having better preventative measures in place. That way, they can actually care for the welfare of members in order to actively enforce the harm reduction that needs to take place on their platform. Tinder may provide a space to “spark” certain connections for a certain demographic, but I think it’s high time to strike a match and watch it go up in flames. This, my friends, most certainly ain’t it.",
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During an episode of “Love & Hip Hop Unlocked,” Princess Love and Ray J reflect on one of their most memorable scenes, when he pushed her into the pool after an argument. Princess says that was her karma.
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Princess Love Says Ray J Pushing Her Into The Pool Was “Her Karma”
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Those of us who followed Princess Love and Ray J’s relationship from their early days on “Love and Hip Hop Hollywood,” are likely unsurprised about this couple’s dysfunctional on-again, off-again type of dynamic. In fact, I’m surprised they even made it down the aisle in the first place. But that’s neither here nor there.
I remember the exact moment that I knew their relationship was a bit of a mess.
It was the day Ray J pushed Princess Love into a swimming pool, when the two were supposed to be meeting to have dinner al fresco.
The last we heard, Princess and Ray J are still headed for divorce. But that could change at any minute. In the meantime, the couple don’t mind getting together to rehash the moments that got them here. And in discussing them with “Love & Hip Hop Unlocked,” the two laughed as they discussed the pool incident.
Surprisingly, Princess said being thrown into a pool by the man she loved as she was fully dressed, face beat, was “her karma.”
She said, ““That was my karma though because I was upset because I feel like he set me up, and I tried to push him in so, that was my karma.”
Before Princess sinks into the abyss, she throws two drinks and some food at Ray J, after he tells her, “Maybe it’s just time for me and you to just separate.”
In the clip, you do see her try to push Ray J into the pool. But even with wine stinging his eyes, his reflexes were too quick. He got his balance and ended up pushing Princess into the pool, where she dropped suddenly.
About that day, Princess claimed she was so upset because she felt like Ray J deceived her a bit about the nature of their meeting that night.
“He was being so nice in the beginning, and then he started saying this long speech, and then I started to see, oh this scene is so you can break up with me. Mona [Scott Young] was in there too. He was whispering to Mona. So I was like, ‘Oh, I see what you’re doing.’ The next scene after that, you did a scene with Teairra [Marí].”
Ray J said the timing of the scene with Teairra was coincidental. He said, “We was shooting late. I ran past Mona when I was running out the house.”
Yes, you read that correctly and no, it doesn’t make sense. But before he had time to perfect his lie, Princess cut him off, telling him to “stop playing stupid.”
For those of you who don’t remember, you can relive it in the video of some of “Love and Hip Hop’s” more memorable moments below.
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More than a year after initially announcing that they were going their separate ways, only to take a step back to try and do the work necessary to reconcile, Kenya Moore and Marc Daly's marriage is officially coming to an end.
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More than a year after initially announcing that they were going their separate ways, only to take a step back to try and do the work necessary to reconcile, Kenya Moore and Marc Daly’s marriage is officially coming to an end. Allegedly, Daly’s team says he was the one who was ready to move forward.
MadameNoire can exclusively report the news after a source, which ended up being Daly, revealed that following mediation, an agreement was made to end the more than three-year marriage. He says they “look forward to amicably continuing to co-parent” for the sake of their 2-year-old daughter, Brooklyn, and will continue to have “great care” for each other, surrounding their daughter with “an abundance of love and wisdom.” Daly plans to focus on “self-improvement” as well as helping people of color who were disproportionately impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic in Brooklyn, where his restaurant Soco is located.
After recently attending mediation, Kenya and I have agreed to end our marriage. I will always have great care for her and look forward to amicably continuing to co-parent our daughter Brooklyn with an abundance of love and wisdom. As always, in addition to perpetual self-improvement, my primary focus will continue to be helping the underserved and people of color in Brooklyn to recover from the negative impact of the COVID – 19 pandemic. This focus will take shape through using my restaurant as a “Community Hub” where positive and diverse perspectives on important topics such as economic empowerment, social activism and political engagement can be highlighted in a safe and productive forum. I’m blessed to be a positive change agent for not just my family but also my community. Peace and love, Marc Daly.
A request was made to Moore’s team to comment on the matter. A rep said she would not speak on the report: “NO comments from Ms. Moore. She’s off to celebrating her 50th birthday with friends and family.” The reality personality turns 50 on Sunday (Jan. 24).
As previously mentioned, the couple first announced that they were going their separate ways in September 2019. At that time, they put out separate statements about the decision.
“It is with profound sadness that I regret to inform my fans that I am divorcing my husband Marc Daly. Due to recent and ongoing circumstances, I can no longer continue in the marriage,” Moore said at the time. “My sole concern and focus is and will always be my daughter, Brooklyn, my miracle baby. She was made in love and true commitment. I ask for our privacy to be respected moving forward.”
“I have come to the difficult decision to separate from Kenya at this time. Our daughter has two parents that love her very much and in her best interests, this situation should remain as private as possible,” Daly shared in his own previous message. “I cherish our family’s good times together and will continue to co-parent in a loving way. Rumors, innuendo or false accusations only serve to hurt our family and will be addressed through counsel as the law permits. Please respect our privacy during this challenging period.”
Real Housewives of Atlanta viewers watched some of the ups and downs of the couple’s relationship in Season 12. During a RHOA After Show episode, Moore said that they first chose to split after bumping heads at his charity event, which was featured on the show.
Months after their split though, Moore told MadameNoire that she was open to making it work if Daly was, which was why she was keeping her wedding ring on.
“I think in my mind, where I am today, where my mental state is today, I am not divorced and I still feel like if my husband’s heart is in saving his marriage, then it could work out. So that’s why I wear my ring. And if it ever gets to a point where I don’t feel that way anymore, then that’s when I’ll take it off,” she said.
The pair wed in 2017 and welcomed their daughter in November of 2018.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nMore than a year after initially announcing that they were going their separate ways, only to take a step back to try and do the work necessary to reconcile, Kenya Moore and Marc Daly’s marriage is officially coming to an end. Allegedly, Daly’s team says he was the one who was ready to move forward.\nMadameNoire can exclusively report the news after a source, which ended up being Daly, revealed that following mediation, an agreement was made to end the more than three-year marriage. He says they “look forward to amicably continuing to co-parent” for the sake of their 2-year-old daughter, Brooklyn, and will continue to have “great care” for each other, surrounding their daughter with “an abundance of love and wisdom.” Daly plans to focus on “self-improvement” as well as helping people of color who were disproportionately impacted by the COVID-19 pandemic in Brooklyn, where his restaurant Soco is located.\nAfter recently attending mediation, Kenya and I have agreed to end our marriage. I will always have great care for her and look forward to amicably continuing to co-parent our daughter Brooklyn with an abundance of love and wisdom. As always, in addition to perpetual self-improvement, my primary focus will continue to be helping the underserved and people of color in Brooklyn to recover from the negative impact of the COVID – 19 pandemic. This focus will take shape through using my restaurant as a “Community Hub” where positive and diverse perspectives on important topics such as economic empowerment, social activism and political engagement can be highlighted in a safe and productive forum. I’m blessed to be a positive change agent for not just my family but also my community. Peace and love, Marc Daly.\nA request was made to Moore’s team to comment on the matter. A rep said she would not speak on the report: “NO comments from Ms. Moore. She’s off to celebrating her 50th birthday with friends and family.” The reality personality turns 50 on Sunday (Jan. 24).\nAs previously mentioned, the couple first announced that they were going their separate ways in September 2019. At that time, they put out separate statements about the decision.\n“It is with profound sadness that I regret to inform my fans that I am divorcing my husband Marc Daly. Due to recent and ongoing circumstances, I can no longer continue in the marriage,” Moore said at the time. “My sole concern and focus is and will always be my daughter, Brooklyn, my miracle baby. She was made in love and true commitment. I ask for our privacy to be respected moving forward.”\n“I have come to the difficult decision to separate from Kenya at this time. Our daughter has two parents that love her very much and in her best interests, this situation should remain as private as possible,” Daly shared in his own previous message. “I cherish our family’s good times together and will continue to co-parent in a loving way. Rumors, innuendo or false accusations only serve to hurt our family and will be addressed through counsel as the law permits. Please respect our privacy during this challenging period.”\nReal Housewives of Atlanta viewers watched some of the ups and downs of the couple’s relationship in Season 12. During a RHOA After Show episode, Moore said that they first chose to split after bumping heads at his charity event, which was featured on the show.\nMonths after their split though, Moore told MadameNoire that she was open to making it work if Daly was, which was why she was keeping her wedding ring on.\n“I think in my mind, where I am today, where my mental state is today, I am not divorced and I still feel like if my husband’s heart is in saving his marriage, then it could work out. So that’s why I wear my ring. And if it ever gets to a point where I don’t feel that way anymore, then that’s when I’ll take it off,” she said.\nThe pair wed in 2017 and welcomed their daughter in November of 2018.",
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We spoke with Chronicles of a Serial Dater author Ann Marie Sorrell about how to keep yourself from getting attached too quickly.
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How To Not Get Attached Too Quickly
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Everyone wants to skip ahead to the part of a relationship where they’re settled into a nice routine with a partner, comfortable, familiar, and blissfully attached. You know those couples who have been together for years, can finish each other’s sentences, and clearly have a history? Of course, it would be nice to fast forward through time and just be there with somebody. The dating phase can suck. It can be fun, but it can also lead to disappointment, and what feels like a lot of wasted time. Some people don’t have the patience for the getting-to-know-you phase so they just…don’t do it. They go from “single” to “in a relationship” after a few dates with someone. A new beau gets the title of “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” without earning it. There is a lot of talk of “we love that place” and “we do that all the time” when that “we” has only been seeing each other for a short time.
Unfortunately, jumping ahead five steps can often leave you ten steps behind, because rushing relationships is usually a waste of time. If you do it, don’t be too hard on yourself – a lot of people are guilty of this. You want to see the best in someone. You have high hopes. You want that connection. And when expectations have already come into play, you might let yourself get attached too quickly. More often than not, that will be your instinct, so you have to actively fight it. We spoke with Chronicles of a Serial Dater author Ann Marie Sorrell about how to keep yourself from getting attached too quickly.
Excitement is a rose-colored lens
It’s not like you start planning your wedding in your head with every man you simply pass on the street. If your imagination gets the best of you, it’s usually because there is some spark there. There is, in fact, some sense of ‘There could be something special here…’ There is something for your mind to grab onto, but then it runs with it. And that’s where you can get into trouble according to Sorrell. “It is very easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new connection and with this whimsical feeling, our blinders go up and our imagination starts to run wild,” she says. “We begin to imagine our lives with this person we’ve only known for a whole five minutes.”
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Singer and author Michelle Williams had to check a male fan who attempted to police her body and her life telling her it was time she had children. See what she had to say.
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For some reason, in the year of our Lord 2021, men are still telling women what to do with their bodies. And I’m not just talking about politicians—although they have a lot of nerve as well.
Recently, a man just scrolling on Instagram felt the need to tell Michelle Williams, gospel singer, former Destiny’s Child member, and author of an upcoming book on depression, that she needed to have children.
While Williams, like most celebrities, has become a pro at ignoring foolishness from their followers and lurkers alike, Williams took the time to respond to this man and hopefully he and others like him will learn something from this.
See how the exchange went down below.
Follower: Michelle I love you but you need some children…u r 2 bored…
Michelle: You’re an idiot!!!! [Several crying laughing emojis]
Follower: woooooooow that was uncalled for thank you.
Michelle: No, what’s uncalled for is you telling a woman that she needs to have children. What if that woman CAN’T have children?? What if that woman DOESN’T WANT children. WATCH YOUR MOUTH and FINGERS…. Don’t you ever let that come out of your mouth or your fingers on a comment section again to ANYBODY. I would have ignored by too many people need to stay out of a woman’s uterus!!! Now scram and be blessed.
Thankfully, this little conversation ended much nicer than most of the online dialogue we see.
Follower: my apologies Ms. Williams. I will never forget that…
You can see how it all went down in the screenshot captured by The Jasmine Brand below.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nFor some reason, in the year of our Lord 2021, men are still telling women what to do with their bodies. And I’m not just talking about politicians—although they have a lot of nerve as well.\nRecently, a man just scrolling on Instagram felt the need to tell Michelle Williams, gospel singer, former Destiny’s Child member, and author of an upcoming book on depression, that she needed to have children.\nWhile Williams, like most celebrities, has become a pro at ignoring foolishness from their followers and lurkers alike, Williams took the time to respond to this man and hopefully he and others like him will learn something from this.\nSee how the exchange went down below.\nFollower: Michelle I love you but you need some children…u r 2 bored…\nMichelle: You’re an idiot!!!! [Several crying laughing emojis]\nFollower: woooooooow that was uncalled for thank you.\nMichelle: No, what’s uncalled for is you telling a woman that she needs to have children. What if that woman CAN’T have children?? What if that woman DOESN’T WANT children. WATCH YOUR MOUTH and FINGERS…. Don’t you ever let that come out of your mouth or your fingers on a comment section again to ANYBODY. I would have ignored by too many people need to stay out of a woman’s uterus!!! Now scram and be blessed.\nThankfully, this little conversation ended much nicer than most of the online dialogue we see.\nFollower: my apologies Ms. Williams. I will never forget that…\nYou can see how it all went down in the screenshot captured by The Jasmine Brand below.",
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During a recent appearance on "Bachelor Happy Hour," James told "Bachelorette" alum, Rachel Lindsey, that it was “low-key frustrating" that the race of the contestants is even a topic of discussion.
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Last week, our Culture Editor Veronica Wells questioned the likelihood of “Bachelor” star Matt James selecting a Black contestant as the winner. Her op-ed piece was in response to a series of interviews James had with a handful of publications, which you can read more about here. Well, James recently addressed the speculation about the race of his potential bride-to-be and he’s quite agitated by the commentary.
During a recent appearance on “Bachelor Happy Hour,” James told “Bachelorette” alum, Rachel Lindsey, that it was “low-key frustrating” that the race of the contestants is even a topic of discussion.
“First off, people should, regardless of what they look like, want you to be happy with whoever you’re with,” he said. “And if you knew anything about me, if you were close to me, you would know that the last women that I dated were all Black women.”
James, who is biracial, went on to note that he has dated women of many races in the past and suggested that race should not be a factor when dating.
“When you’re dating somebody, if you’re excluding a race, then I don’t even know where to begin on that. What I’m looking for in a woman isn’t race-specific,” James added. “What I’m looking for may upset somebody. What I’m looking for isn’t a race. I don’t only exclusively date Black women. I don’t only exclusively date white women. I’ve dated all across the board, and I’ve found redeeming qualities in everybody, which is a blessing, and that’s why it’s so difficult for me throughout this season.”
Only time will tell how this all plays out.
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Cicely Tyson, who passed away on Thursday (Jan. 28) at the age of 96, was the very first woman to choose to be front and center on television with her natural hair on full display in 1963. She sported it in a TWA before there was ever a term for the look.
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An Ode To Cicely Tyson, A Trailblazer Of The Natural Hair Movement
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If you know your history, then you’re well aware that you can’t speak about natural hair without bringing up Cicely Tyson.
The acting legend, who passed away on Thursday (Jan. 28) at the age of 96, was the very first woman to choose to be front and center on television with her natural hair on full display in 1963.
After initially confusing her hairdresser by opting to cut her hair off and wear a TWA before it even had a name, the move would inspire so many young women, who at the time were opting for straight styles, to follow Tyson’s lead.
“That is what created the natural hair craze,” she said during an episode of Oprah’s Masterclass in 2014. “I got letters from hairdressers all over the country telling me that I was affecting their business because their clients were having their hair cut off so they could ‘wear it like the girl on television.’”
And while she looked beautiful with the style, it, like so many innovative ‘dos she would eventually wear, didn’t come from a quest for attention, a desire to try something different, or out of vanity. In just about every case, her hair changed to go with the roles she played as the actress immersed herself in her characters. That attention and respect for her craft not only would make her a legendary, pioneering actress, but as a wonderful added bonus, make her a trailblazer in the natural hair movement.
When I think of Tyson, and how daunting it must have been to choose to appear on East Side/West Side, on national television with her short, natural cut, boldly defying oppressive beauty standards at a time when representation was not even thought of as a conversation, it is awe-inspiring. It was a first step in normalizing Black hair as God created it: no conks, no shiny Supreme wigs, just tight coils. It was also the first in an effort that continues, despite attempts to deem the styles we’ve gone on to innovate and embrace as inappropriate, unprofessional, and not worthy of the cameras. But with initiatives like the CROWN Act law to create protections against discrimination based on race-based hairstyles, the freedom to wear these styles unabashedly, as Tyson did, can expand. It allows us to feel more confident about wearing our hair in braids or an afro for a job interview, or to be in the armed forces and be able to wear the cornrows and twists we love without fear of disciplinary action. But before we got here, it all began with one woman’s choice to walk into a hair salon in Harlem and fully commit to a role by shedding her strands, caring not how she was perceived. A revolutionary act that, interestingly enough, to Tyson, was a simple one: “Every time I changed a hairdo, it had not to do with me,” she said. “It had to do with authenticating the character that I was playing.”
She opened doors in more ways than just her performances on stage and screen. She paved the way in celebrating self-expression for Black women.
To see the ways in which she was a trailblazer in natural hair and protective styling, all the way up until her death at 96, hit the flip to look on in wonder of an icon who won’t soon be forgotten.
A photograph of Tyson around 1966 shows her wearing the teeny weeny afro that shook the TV world.
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The Black female security guard who punched a Pro-Trump "protestor" on the night before the Capitol Riots has reportedly been fired. The guard, who goes by the names Ashanti S. or Griselda Blanco online, claimed that she only responded in self-defense towards the protesters, who were both harassing and assaulting her.
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The Black female security guard who punched one of the Pro-Trump rioters on the night before the Capitol protests turned riots has reportedly been fired. The guard, who goes by the names Ashanti S. or Griselda Blanco online, claimed that she only responded in self-defense towards the protesters, who were both harassing and assaulting her. Ashanti, who is being deemed by many as a hero, is now receiving tons of support from people who have rallied behind her via social media.
In the now-viral tweet from user @deep_dab, with over 182k Likes and 53k Retweets, Ashanti is seen talking to one of the protesters when from the side, a hand comes towards her face by a white woman who has now been identified by Newsweek as Therese Duke.
After Ashanti punched Therese, things quickly escalated as she was grabbed by protestors, fellow guards tried to escort her away and other Trump supporters tried to get some jabs in towards her as well. In the aftermath, Therese is seen with blood all over her face. In video follow the punch from that same night, after being asked “who hit you?” She responded, “that girl punched me in the face, that Black girl.”
Since the altercation, which was posted on January 6, Ashanti has been using social media to share her side of what happened that night. In screenshots from a Facebook post where the 28-year old seemingly goes by the name “Griselda Blanco,” she said she never thought she would “go viral,” but that she was “harassed” and “jumped” by three of the protesters who surrounded her. She also confirmed that after the incident, she lost her job.
“Omg so never planned to go viral smh,” she said. “But yes that is in me in the video. They constantly harassed me and all 3 jumped me. Me hitting her was a reflex. I asked them constantly to stop touching me, following me, and bothering me, they kept surrounding me trying to steal my keys out of my pocket and trying to take my phone as seen in the video. Yes I lost my job. Yes I’m good. I’ll respond to everyone once I get my phones out of property.”
In another post she made it clear,” don’t come with no bullsh-t while I’m working bc I’ll say f–k this job real quick 😌 . Respectfully 😘 ”
A GoFundMe page was created in support of her, and it has raised almost $75,000 in a matter of a few days. On it, Ashanti continued to describe the event in detail through her own words. According to her, the incident happened at the Black Lives Matter Plaza in D.C. Once surrounded by the “Trump extremists,” Ashanti said she “honestly feared for her life” due to the group not wearing masks and assaulting her. She also informed us that in addition to losing her job, she’s apparently facing criminal charges.
“Hello. My name is Ashanti. I am a 28-year-old Black woman who lives in the DMV AREA. I recently was assaulted, attacked and harassed by a group of Trump supporters on Black Lives Matter Plaza in DC on January 5th, 2021. A video has surfaced where I was surrounded by a group of Trump extremists, and I honestly feared for my life,” she said. “The video makes me look like I am the aggressor, but it does not show what happened prior to my defending myself. People shoved me, tried to take my phone and keys, yelled racial epithets at me, and tried to remove my mask. I asked them to social distance and stay out of my personal space due to COVID. They refused, and I was afraid of being hurt and harmed. After being assaulted, I defended myself. I am now facing criminal charges. I have also been relieved from my employment pending an investigation, which places me in a hardship. I am asking for support and help with funds for my legal fees and to maintain the essential things that I need to survive during this time. Any amount of help is truly appreciated. Thank you in advance.”
Therese’s daughter, Helena Duke, has come out in recent days since the post has gone viral to denounce her mother’s actions in the video. Helena hopped on Twitter to let the world know that her mother, who ironically told her not to go to Black Lives Matter protests in the summer because “they could get violent,” was the one in the video who touched Ashanti before getting punched by her.
Helena told the New York Post that even though she was apprehensive about outing her mother, she decided to do it because Therese had previously kicked her out of the house for attending a Black Lives Matter protest. Overall, she thought her mother’s actions were just hypocritical.
“At first I was kind of uneasy about it, but I think it was definitely so hypocritical of her to end up kicking me out of the house for going to peaceful protests because she assumed they’d be violent, and then end up going to this, which was obviously a very violent attack on the Capitol — and end up harassing a cop,” the 18-year old said.
After watching the clip, it’s hard to comprehend how anyone could find Ashanti as the one at fault for how things escalated during the protests at Black Lives Matter Plaza. Unfortunately, even though she was only defending herself, losing her job and now being criminally charged is the system’s way of holding her responsible for the chaos Trump’s supporters brought to D.C., and have wreaked across the country. Like many other Black women who have been at the forefront of the movement for change, even though Ashanti’s being called a hero by some now, the impact of that night, both good and bad, are consequences she’ll have to deal with well into the future.
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In the aftermath, Therese is seen with blood all over her face. In video follow the punch from that same night, after being asked “who hit you?” She responded, “that girl punched me in the face, that Black girl.”\nSince the altercation, which was posted on January 6, Ashanti has been using social media to share her side of what happened that night. In screenshots from a Facebook post where the 28-year old seemingly goes by the name “Griselda Blanco,” she said she never thought she would “go viral,” but that she was “harassed” and “jumped” by three of the protesters who surrounded her. She also confirmed that after the incident, she lost her job.\n“Omg so never planned to go viral smh,” she said. “But yes that is in me in the video. They constantly harassed me and all 3 jumped me. Me hitting her was a reflex. I asked them constantly to stop touching me, following me, and bothering me, they kept surrounding me trying to steal my keys out of my pocket and trying to take my phone as seen in the video. Yes I lost my job. Yes I’m good. I’ll respond to everyone once I get my phones out of property.”\nIn another post she made it clear,” don’t come with no bullsh-t while I’m working bc I’ll say f–k this job real quick 😌 . Respectfully 😘 ”\nA GoFundMe page was created in support of her, and it has raised almost $75,000 in a matter of a few days. On it, Ashanti continued to describe the event in detail through her own words. According to her, the incident happened at the Black Lives Matter Plaza in D.C. Once surrounded by the “Trump extremists,” Ashanti said she “honestly feared for her life” due to the group not wearing masks and assaulting her. She also informed us that in addition to losing her job, she’s apparently facing criminal charges.\n“Hello. My name is Ashanti. I am a 28-year-old Black woman who lives in the DMV AREA. I recently was assaulted, attacked and harassed by a group of Trump supporters on Black Lives Matter Plaza in DC on January 5th, 2021. A video has surfaced where I was surrounded by a group of Trump extremists, and I honestly feared for my life,” she said. “The video makes me look like I am the aggressor, but it does not show what happened prior to my defending myself. People shoved me, tried to take my phone and keys, yelled racial epithets at me, and tried to remove my mask. I asked them to social distance and stay out of my personal space due to COVID. They refused, and I was afraid of being hurt and harmed. After being assaulted, I defended myself. I am now facing criminal charges. I have also been relieved from my employment pending an investigation, which places me in a hardship. I am asking for support and help with funds for my legal fees and to maintain the essential things that I need to survive during this time. Any amount of help is truly appreciated. Thank you in advance.”\nTherese’s daughter, Helena Duke, has come out in recent days since the post has gone viral to denounce her mother’s actions in the video. Helena hopped on Twitter to let the world know that her mother, who ironically told her not to go to Black Lives Matter protests in the summer because “they could get violent,” was the one in the video who touched Ashanti before getting punched by her.\nHelena told the New York Post that even though she was apprehensive about outing her mother, she decided to do it because Therese had previously kicked her out of the house for attending a Black Lives Matter protest. Overall, she thought her mother’s actions were just hypocritical.\n“At first I was kind of uneasy about it, but I think it was definitely so hypocritical of her to end up kicking me out of the house for going to peaceful protests because she assumed they’d be violent, and then end up going to this, which was obviously a very violent attack on the Capitol — and end up harassing a cop,” the 18-year old said.\nAfter watching the clip, it’s hard to comprehend how anyone could find Ashanti as the one at fault for how things escalated during the protests at Black Lives Matter Plaza. Unfortunately, even though she was only defending herself, losing her job and now being criminally charged is the system’s way of holding her responsible for the chaos Trump’s supporters brought to D.C., and have wreaked across the country. Like many other Black women who have been at the forefront of the movement for change, even though Ashanti’s being called a hero by some now, the impact of that night, both good and bad, are consequences she’ll have to deal with well into the future.",
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"The Black female security guard who punched a Pro-Trump \"protestor\" on the night before the Capitol Riots has reportedly been fired. The guard, who goes by the names Ashanti S. or Griselda Blanco online, claimed that she only responded in self-defense towards the protesters, who were both harassing and assaulting her."
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In case you hadn’t heard, there is plenty of misinformation when it comes to women’s bodies–especially our sexuality. Too many of us are not educated properly. And then we receive information from the media, adult films, song lyrics etc. And they don’t exactly paint the most realistic picture about what it takes for women to experience sexual pleasure. Because, to be honest, society has made it seem like it’s something for men alone to enjoy.
A part of that miseducation is the sense that using additional lubrication during sexual intercourse–particularly with a man–is not something you should do unless you’re a woman who’s older and in the midst of menopause. But according to Dr. Brandye Wilson-Manigat, OBGYN at the Pasdena Women’s Medical Group, lubrication is for everybody and it can make each sexual experience much more enjoyable. See what she had to say below.
MN: Who is lubrication for?
Dr. Brandye: Lubrication’s for everybody. Not just for the older ladies. I say that because it creates a different sensation. When you have more lubrication, depending on where you’re putting it, there’s more slip. There’s a little less friction in some instances. That extra slip gives a different sensation. I’m a big proponent of lubricant no matter how old you are. The idea is you only need it if it’s dry. And it’s like no. You can have quite a bit of fun, a lot more fun if you’re using some lubricant.
Now, they have warming and tingling and permutations of it. So you have some extra sensations you can add to the mix. For me, when I’m talking about sex, I’m talking about the five senses. How can we get the five senses involved and how can we amplify that? Because that’s what creates a memorable experience and that’s what gives you that positive reinforcement of: ‘Ok, sex is good. I want to keep having sex. Let’s do this!’ So I’m a big proponent of lubricant for everybody.
MN: Why do you think there is so much shame in women using lubricant?
Dr. Brandye: One, I think it goes to this idea of how is your body functioning. If you feel like you need more lubrication, there must be something wrong with you. And that’s the go-to, no matter what. Whether it’s lubricant or anything else, our default is ‘what’s wrong with you?’ The second piece though, we just have such little information about our bodies and the range of things that are possible. So, some women make a whole lot of lubrication. It could be that they’re very aroused or they’re not. Some women, they don’t make a lot of lubrication and they can be super aroused. So there’s not a direct line like if A is happening, B is going to show up. That’s a misunderstanding about that for women in general.
Thirdly, the images and things we see about our bodies and what’s supposed to happen, what aroused looks like—it’s a one-dimensional picture. It doesn’t show the range of what it all could look like, what it all could be. It doesn’t even show what you could be looking for. Some of it is porn and watching porn. You see the man and woman and as soon as they come on screen, she’s ready. They get into it and she’s having this great time. And it’s like, ‘Wait a minute! That’s not how it works.’
It’s like ‘Look dude, Ima need 15-20 mins. Can I get a little foreplay? Can I get something?’ So there are stories being told about what sex should look like for women and it’s not the case of what sex looks like for women.
MN: Which types of lubrication should women be using?
Dr. Brandye: I definitely want to make sure they’re using something that’s not going to change the pH in the vagina and make things go crazy. So you’re looking at a water based or a silicone based. They now have hybrids, which are water and silicone based. That’s the baseline. If you feel like you’ve used water-based lubricants and they’ve gotten too sticky or they’re not slippery enough, a silicone based might be a better bet.
Some people are using coconut oil because they want to go natural. You can use olive oil but you might smell like spaghetti. You can do that too just to add something different. And a lot of them you can use as massage oils to up the sensation and pleasure factor.
Use lube it’s good. You’ll like it. Your partner will like it. Have fun!
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nIn case you hadn’t heard, there is plenty of misinformation when it comes to women’s bodies–especially our sexuality. Too many of us are not educated properly. And then we receive information from the media, adult films, song lyrics etc. And they don’t exactly paint the most realistic picture about what it takes for women to experience sexual pleasure. Because, to be honest, society has made it seem like it’s something for men alone to enjoy.\nA part of that miseducation is the sense that using additional lubrication during sexual intercourse–particularly with a man–is not something you should do unless you’re a woman who’s older and in the midst of menopause. But according to Dr. Brandye Wilson-Manigat, OBGYN at the Pasdena Women’s Medical Group, lubrication is for everybody and it can make each sexual experience much more enjoyable. See what she had to say below.\nMN: Who is lubrication for?\nDr. Brandye: Lubrication’s for everybody. Not just for the older ladies. I say that because it creates a different sensation. When you have more lubrication, depending on where you’re putting it, there’s more slip. There’s a little less friction in some instances. That extra slip gives a different sensation. I’m a big proponent of lubricant no matter how old you are. The idea is you only need it if it’s dry. And it’s like no. You can have quite a bit of fun, a lot more fun if you’re using some lubricant.\nNow, they have warming and tingling and permutations of it. So you have some extra sensations you can add to the mix. For me, when I’m talking about sex, I’m talking about the five senses. How can we get the five senses involved and how can we amplify that? Because that’s what creates a memorable experience and that’s what gives you that positive reinforcement of: ‘Ok, sex is good. I want to keep having sex. Let’s do this!’ So I’m a big proponent of lubricant for everybody.\nMN: Why do you think there is so much shame in women using lubricant?\nDr. Brandye: One, I think it goes to this idea of how is your body functioning. If you feel like you need more lubrication, there must be something wrong with you. And that’s the go-to, no matter what. Whether it’s lubricant or anything else, our default is ‘what’s wrong with you?’ The second piece though, we just have such little information about our bodies and the range of things that are possible. So, some women make a whole lot of lubrication. It could be that they’re very aroused or they’re not. Some women, they don’t make a lot of lubrication and they can be super aroused. So there’s not a direct line like if A is happening, B is going to show up. That’s a misunderstanding about that for women in general.\nThirdly, the images and things we see about our bodies and what’s supposed to happen, what aroused looks like—it’s a one-dimensional picture. It doesn’t show the range of what it all could look like, what it all could be. It doesn’t even show what you could be looking for. Some of it is porn and watching porn. You see the man and woman and as soon as they come on screen, she’s ready. They get into it and she’s having this great time. And it’s like, ‘Wait a minute! That’s not how it works.’\nIt’s like ‘Look dude, Ima need 15-20 mins. Can I get a little foreplay? Can I get something?’ So there are stories being told about what sex should look like for women and it’s not the case of what sex looks like for women.\nMN: Which types of lubrication should women be using?\nDr. Brandye: I definitely want to make sure they’re using something that’s not going to change the pH in the vagina and make things go crazy. So you’re looking at a water based or a silicone based. They now have hybrids, which are water and silicone based. That’s the baseline. If you feel like you’ve used water-based lubricants and they’ve gotten too sticky or they’re not slippery enough, a silicone based might be a better bet.\nSome people are using coconut oil because they want to go natural. You can use olive oil but you might smell like spaghetti. You can do that too just to add something different. And a lot of them you can use as massage oils to up the sensation and pleasure factor.\nUse lube it’s good. You’ll like it. Your partner will like it. Have fun!",
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You have plenty of options when it comes to work you take on in your free time. Sometimes, your side hustle can give you more experience so you can eventually get a full-time job doing what you love. Better yet, you can even turn your side hustle into a lucrative self-owned business.
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If “Mo money, mo problems” is your mantra, this isn’t advice for you. More money means more cash to pay down your bills, round out your savings, save for a rainy day, go on spontaneous trips, purchase gifts for loved ones, and spend on the latest semi-pricey beauty items. As the cost of living steadily rises, sometimes having one stream of income just won’t cut it. A side hustle gives you financial security for unexpected occurrences, like moving costs…or a pandemic. As the impact of COVID-19 worsened last year, many people lost their jobs or were furloughed indefinitely; however, having a side hustle might’ve saved the day for some since they had the ability to stay afloat while on the job hunt.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you probably know a few people (at minimum) who boast about their side hustle. A side hustle, or side gig, is any employment you take on besides your full-time or part-time job. A side hustle gives you the power to call the shots. You can deny clients one week but work on a few projects for a range of clients the next. When working your side hustle, you can choose how much you earn and when you work. You can work on your side hustle early in the morning, during your lunch break, in the evenings, or on the weekends.
What Are Some Examples of Side Hustles?
You have plenty of options when it comes to work you take on in your free time. Sometimes, your side hustle can give you more experience so you can eventually get a full-time job doing what you love. Better yet, you can even turn your side hustle into a lucrative self-owned business.
Profitable examples of side hustles include:
Starting an Etsy shop
Baking and catering
Landscaping
Childcare
Pet care
Decorating
Music gigs
Hairstyling
Freelance copywriting, proofreading, transcribing, content writing, blogging, editorial writing, graphic design, photography, videography, fashion styling, etc.
Becoming a social media influencer
Tutoring
Personal shopping
Selling courses or lesson plans
Selling services on TaskRabbit
Now that you know what examples of side gigs are, see a few tips for making more money from having one.
1. Build Your Portfolio or Social Media Brand
These days, it’s nearly impossible to go far without some online portfolio or professional social media profile for yourself or your business. A professional, visually appealing portfolio is a golden ticket for more gigs and more prominent clients.
Not everyone needs a massive following on Instagram. However, if you’re trying to make money as a social media influencer, building your following online would help. If you’re not trying to become a social media influencer, creating an Instagram to display your artwork, jewelry, hairstyles, and so forth is invaluable. You can find potential clients and customers online, keep up with the latest trends, reach people outside of your city, and have a place where people can instantly read all of the great things your fans and past clients/customers have to say about you. If you’re selling classes or have a catering business, consider starting your own YouTube channel where you can show off your teaching or cooking skills. You have plenty of options when flaunting your skills online.
2. Get Certified
Consider getting certified to become more competitive. If you’re into copywriting, get a digital marketing certification. If you’re into graphic design, maybe consider a UX design certification. With so many choices, do your research to see what’s worth the investment.
3. Work on Your Professional Image
Look the part. If you sell baked goods or jewelry, invest in beautiful, affordable packaging. Have a business card handy or a professional email signature. Make it easy for your potential clients and customers to find you online and elsewhere. Update your headshots. And use a professional email address.
4. Network
Ask around and mention your side hustle to friends and family. They may know of people who need your services. Consider joining online groups based on your interests where they consistently post new gigs. Interview with multiple recruiters who can assist you in finding lucrative gigs down the line. Googling “recruiting agencies” or “staffing agencies” followed by your city is just a start. Some recruiters even offer online gigs working with companies and brands remotely across the world. Keep in touch with the recruiters you vibe with the most throughout the year. They’re people too! And they’ll remember you first whenever they come across great opportunities.
5. Try Out Multiple Online Platforms or in-Person Events
Rarely will you find all the gigs you want on one website. You may need a profile on Upwork, LinkedIn, Fiverr, and more. If you’re a photographer, you may have to shoot at a range of events, such as weddings, baby showers, and music events, to build your portfolio. Artists can sell their work at art fairs and on Etsy. Know your way around your city and online to figure out the multiple areas where you can make your presence known.
6. Know Your Worth
Research to figure out how much you should be charging. Recruiters usually ask for your rate upfront. If you’re a newbie, you may have to start on the low end, but don’t let anyone take advantage of you. If needed, you can take on an internship or even volunteer your services to gain exposure in your desired industry. If you have the experience and the evidence to prove your skills, don’t be afraid to charge what you know you deserve.
7. Don’t Give Up
It’s easy to get discouraged at first by the sheer amount of competition out there. Plus, working a side gig means more work beyond your 9 to 5. However, there are plenty of pros (um, more money, for one) as opposed to cons. Working a side gig can be exciting, too. Your recruiter may hook you up with a freelance writing gig for a magazine you love. A friend of a friend may ask you to cater an exciting event. You may end up styling on set for a high-end client. Keep grinding and working toward more financial freedom through your side hustle.
Alicia Ivory: Copywriter by day, writer for life, Alicia Ivory has loved writing and storytelling for as long as she remembers. She has written copy, blog posts, website content, and more for a range of fashion brands, including Foot Locker, Lands’ End, Century 21, Nautica, and TJ MAXX. She also writes fantasy and science fiction for kids, primarily with African American characters, and volunteers with organizations that promote the voices and varied experiences of African American authors and writers. Some examples include the Black Children’s Books & Authors (BCBA) and the Free Black Woman’s Society. Through BCBA, she edits articles written by underrepresented authors and coordinates with authors and their representatives for local events.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nIf “Mo money, mo problems” is your mantra, this isn’t advice for you. More money means more cash to pay down your bills, round out your savings, save for a rainy day, go on spontaneous trips, purchase gifts for loved ones, and spend on the latest semi-pricey beauty items. As the cost of living steadily rises, sometimes having one stream of income just won’t cut it. A side hustle gives you financial security for unexpected occurrences, like moving costs…or a pandemic. As the impact of COVID-19 worsened last year, many people lost their jobs or were furloughed indefinitely; however, having a side hustle might’ve saved the day for some since they had the ability to stay afloat while on the job hunt.\nUnless you’ve been living under a rock, you probably know a few people (at minimum) who boast about their side hustle. A side hustle, or side gig, is any employment you take on besides your full-time or part-time job. A side hustle gives you the power to call the shots. You can deny clients one week but work on a few projects for a range of clients the next. When working your side hustle, you can choose how much you earn and when you work. You can work on your side hustle early in the morning, during your lunch break, in the evenings, or on the weekends.\nWhat Are Some Examples of Side Hustles?\nYou have plenty of options when it comes to work you take on in your free time. Sometimes, your side hustle can give you more experience so you can eventually get a full-time job doing what you love. Better yet, you can even turn your side hustle into a lucrative self-owned business.\nProfitable examples of side hustles include:\nStarting an Etsy shop\nBaking and catering\nLandscaping\nChildcare\nPet care\nDecorating\nMusic gigs\nHairstyling\nFreelance copywriting, proofreading, transcribing, content writing, blogging, editorial writing, graphic design, photography, videography, fashion styling, etc.\nBecoming a social media influencer\nTutoring\nPersonal shopping\nSelling courses or lesson plans\nSelling services on TaskRabbit\nNow that you know what examples of side gigs are, see a few tips for making more money from having one.\n1. Build Your Portfolio or Social Media Brand\nThese days, it’s nearly impossible to go far without some online portfolio or professional social media profile for yourself or your business. A professional, visually appealing portfolio is a golden ticket for more gigs and more prominent clients.\nNot everyone needs a massive following on Instagram. However, if you’re trying to make money as a social media influencer, building your following online would help. If you’re not trying to become a social media influencer, creating an Instagram to display your artwork, jewelry, hairstyles, and so forth is invaluable. You can find potential clients and customers online, keep up with the latest trends, reach people outside of your city, and have a place where people can instantly read all of the great things your fans and past clients/customers have to say about you. If you’re selling classes or have a catering business, consider starting your own YouTube channel where you can show off your teaching or cooking skills. You have plenty of options when flaunting your skills online.\n2. Get Certified\nConsider getting certified to become more competitive. If you’re into copywriting, get a digital marketing certification. If you’re into graphic design, maybe consider a UX design certification. With so many choices, do your research to see what’s worth the investment.\n3. Work on Your Professional Image\nLook the part. If you sell baked goods or jewelry, invest in beautiful, affordable packaging. Have a business card handy or a professional email signature. Make it easy for your potential clients and customers to find you online and elsewhere. Update your headshots. And use a professional email address.\n4. Network\nAsk around and mention your side hustle to friends and family. They may know of people who need your services. Consider joining online groups based on your interests where they consistently post new gigs. Interview with multiple recruiters who can assist you in finding lucrative gigs down the line. Googling “recruiting agencies” or “staffing agencies” followed by your city is just a start. Some recruiters even offer online gigs working with companies and brands remotely across the world. Keep in touch with the recruiters you vibe with the most throughout the year. They’re people too! And they’ll remember you first whenever they come across great opportunities.\n5. Try Out Multiple Online Platforms or in-Person Events\nRarely will you find all the gigs you want on one website. You may need a profile on Upwork, LinkedIn, Fiverr, and more. If you’re a photographer, you may have to shoot at a range of events, such as weddings, baby showers, and music events, to build your portfolio. Artists can sell their work at art fairs and on Etsy. Know your way around your city and online to figure out the multiple areas where you can make your presence known.\n6. Know Your Worth\nResearch to figure out how much you should be charging. Recruiters usually ask for your rate upfront. If you’re a newbie, you may have to start on the low end, but don’t let anyone take advantage of you. If needed, you can take on an internship or even volunteer your services to gain exposure in your desired industry. If you have the experience and the evidence to prove your skills, don’t be afraid to charge what you know you deserve.\n7. Don’t Give Up\nIt’s easy to get discouraged at first by the sheer amount of competition out there. Plus, working a side gig means more work beyond your 9 to 5. However, there are plenty of pros (um, more money, for one) as opposed to cons. Working a side gig can be exciting, too. Your recruiter may hook you up with a freelance writing gig for a magazine you love. A friend of a friend may ask you to cater an exciting event. You may end up styling on set for a high-end client. Keep grinding and working toward more financial freedom through your side hustle.\nAlicia Ivory: Copywriter by day, writer for life, Alicia Ivory has loved writing and storytelling for as long as she remembers. She has written copy, blog posts, website content, and more for a range of fashion brands, including Foot Locker, Lands’ End, Century 21, Nautica, and TJ MAXX. She also writes fantasy and science fiction for kids, primarily with African American characters, and volunteers with organizations that promote the voices and varied experiences of African American authors and writers. Some examples include the Black Children’s Books & Authors (BCBA) and the Free Black Woman’s Society. Through BCBA, she edits articles written by underrepresented authors and coordinates with authors and their representatives for local events.",
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Black Twitter is busy roasting Keri Hilson.
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Keri Hilson Dragged For Saying Twitter Violated Donald Trump’s Rights
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Due to using Twitter to spread misleading information about the 2020, Donald Trump’s Twitter and Facebook have been permanently deleted. One person that took issue with this is singer Keri Hilson. The “Turnin’ Me On” singer posted a message on Instagram saying that if Trump can be so easily censored, we should all be concerned.
This may be funny but it is a little dangerous too. Take Trump out of it for a moment… a democracy must include freedom of speech. Imagine other leaders or popular figures not being able to voice their opinion if it opposes the majority of world leaders… our freedom of speech being taken from us slowly but surely (censorship). If the leader of the “free world” can be removed, imagine that same right of civilians. Imagine believing every time you read, ‘false information detected and propaganda, deceptive reports, and flat out lies being the only thing we see.
Trump being banned isn’t about him being deprived a First Amendment right. It’s about him posting information that is false and misleading that had the potential to incite a riot. Hilson didn’t see what happened at the Capitol in Washington D.C last week? We all have the responsibility to use social media platforms in an ethical, safe and respectful way and Trump didn’t do so. When we all sign up to use these platforms, we agree to abide by their rules and if we don’t they can surely censor us.
After using her freedom of speech right to post this nonsense, Black Twitter proceeded to drag her. Take a look at some of the tweets below.
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After years of blaming her former co-hosts, Tamar Braxton now believes her former network, WE tv is responsible for getting her fired from "The Real."
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For years after her termination from “The Real,” Tamar Braxton blamed her co-hosts for her firing. She felt like they had gone behind her back, to the higher ups at Fox to complain about her, resulting in her firing. Obviously, it was a rough time for Braxton. So rough in fact that she traces her mental health struggles back to that moment.
But now, nearly five years after her termination, Braxton is singing a different tune and turning her ire toward a different culprit.
On her new podcast, Under Construction, Braxton shared that she now believe WE tv was responsible for her being let go from the network.
In a conversation with former reality star, NeNe Leakes, who has her own grievances with Bravo, the network that hosts The Real Housewives franchises, Tamar said:
“I heard a rumor… allegedly… I didn’t have any answers, nobody had any answers as to what happened, the girls were getting blamed, it was ‘Tamar’s got an attitude problem’, of course all the reality TV storylines were the surface of everything. Do you know that years later, what I had heard through the grapevine what really happened. I heard that that network that I was working with at the time would not sign off, and allowed me and them girls to fall out in public, almost ruined my whole career, my livelihood, everything that I’ve worked for, and never said one time, didn’t say ‘Okay you’re the star of the network, we’re gonna have a meeting with you, we don’t want you to do the show no more.’ At least give me a heads up but no…pulled the plug and ain’t say nothing and allowed Loni to take the fall, Adrienne, Jeannie, Tamera, and myself. We up here battling and fighting as Black girls and they don’t care. Scratching and battling and pointing fingers. We’re not on a reality show, this is real life. When does reality TV stop being reality TV?”
To be fair, Tamar was the one who kept the fire of the feud with her former co-stars going, tweeting them, calling names. Loni Love received the brunt of her accusations, while the co-hosts kept it pretty cordial and very professional, always speaking highly of Tamar in interviews and on “The Real” itself.
Eventually, in 2019, she apologized to her former co-hosts for hurting them like she had been hurt.
“From my sisters, the ladies of the real, Iyanla, old and new Friends and whomever else I’ve EVER hurt, from being hurt. Please forgive me. I didn’t know love to show you love. Now I do thanks to my @david.adefeso.”
Given all of the misinformation Tamar has received over the years, this could very well be false too. We’ll probably never know the full truth.
You can listen to the full Under Construction podcast, “The Realities of Reality TV” below.
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It is no secret that waistlines in the United States are getting bigger than ever before. This phenomenon has been going on for quite some time, including over the last few decades. What is most alarming is the sharp rise in the rate of obesity in school-aged children, which in recent years has become a full-blown healthcare crisis. As concerned parents focused on the health of our families, and especially our children, at a time when traditional options like gym classes at school, organized team and intramural sports, and other activities at school or public options are unavailable due to COVID, what can we do to help our children understand and maintain a healthy lifestyle? What can be done for children who are obese or bigger than it is healthy for them to be? Given the immediate and long-term consequences of obesity, it is imperative we find healthy solutions for our children.
In searching for answers, I reached out to nutritionist Maria Elena Copens Seoane who offered some great advice.
Recommended diet and exercise options for the whole family
There are many types of healthy diets that a family can adopt. One of the best-known diets is the Mediterranean diet. Another healthy diet option is the Japanese diet. A good and easy guideline to remember regardless of which diet you choose is to ensure that each plate is composed of at least 50 percent vegetables. The vegetables can be varied in type and color. Twenty-five percent should be whole grain carbohydrates, and the final 25 percent a protein. The healthiest proteins are typically white meats such as fish and chicken or your choice of legume. If you eat meat, Seoane recommends the family only consuming red meat once per week.
Her top diet tips are the following:
Drink water and avoid sugary drinks.
Use your olive oil of choice for cooking and avoid saturated and trans fats.
Eat three portions of seasonal fruit of various colors and textures daily.
Eliminate and/or significantly reduce foods like cake, ice cream, bacon, bread, and try to grill your meat on the weekends as time permits.
As for exercise, she recommends that as a family, you start incorporating exercise in manageable increments. You could start by taking walks in the neighborhood three or four days per week, for 15 to 30 minutes initially. As the habit takes hold and endurance grows, this can increase in frequency and duration over time.
Her top exercise recommendations include the following:
Try to perform physical family activities together on the weekends such as playing a sport, going for a walk or hike, or going swimming.
Take pets for a walk in the evenings.
The important takeaway with exercise is that these activities must become part of the family routine, that way they are more easily sustained over time.
The best way to address the issue of your child needing to losing weight
To address the issue of weight loss, it is best to approach the conversation from the perspective of living a healthier lifestyle rather than from an aesthetic point of view. She recommends focusing on the benefits of a healthy lifestyle that comes with a balanced diet and regular exercise and how good a healthy lifestyle will make them feel rather than focusing on how they will look or how others will perceive them.
Safe ways to help overweight children lose weight
Some of the best strategies that enable children to lose weight in a sustained way include the following important actions:
Doing the research together. If your child understands what makes a healthy diet, learns about the benefits of exercise, and has, in general, more knowledge on the subject of health, then they are more likely to be invested in and remain committed to the process of weight loss.
Let them “play” in the kitchen where they can prepare, sample, savor, and cook food. Take up organic gardening, and participate in nutrition workshops where they can actively participate and begin to understand where food comes from, learn how the body works, what nutrients it needs, and more.
Incorporate sports routines or physical games into household chores or cleaning up (i.e., every time you throw a white into the dryer do five jumping jacks, and every time you throw a color into the dryer do five squats). That makes them move their whole body and work up a sweat while having fun and being helpful.
Make meals at home. By cooking at home, you can control the ingredients, how food is cooked, and the portion sizes.
How parents can better support their children
Parents lead by example and most children learn by watching. Parents have to adopt healthy living habits which will serve as an example for children.
Provide them with information on the importance of good nutrition.
Help them understand the concept of a “healthy dish.”
Have fixed mealtimes.
Develop healthy menus with the participation of your children that are a balance of vegetables, protein, and carbs.
Eat five times a day (breakfast, snack in the morning, lunch, afternoon snack, and dinner in the evening).
Get your kids used to eating breakfast every day.
Drink enough water daily (six to eight cups).
Encourage them to play sports or other regular exercises.
Provide healthy food items in the house and remove unhealthy and tempting food options.
Make sure the last meal of the day is “light.” Go heavy on vegetables and light on protein and make sure not to eat at least three hours before going to bed.
The best way to maintain weight loss
The best way to maintain weight loss is to keep a healthy menu that incorporates a balanced and nutritious menu and lead an active lifestyle. To do this, here are some guidelines to consider:
Identify the behaviors, addictive foods, and triggers that caused the weight gain in the first place. Avoid having those foods in the cupboard or fridge at home and supplement those food items with healthier options.
Always maintain an eating discipline of five times per day which boosts the metabolism and burns more fat at a steady rate.
Avoid snacking between meals. To do this, incorporating a routine of three strong meals and two planned snacks (one in mid-morning and one in mid-afternoon) is ideal. The snacks can consist of a serving of fruit in the morning and a bowl of natural yogurt with nuts and a spoon of honey in the afternoon.
Hydrate properly with water (six to eight cups per day). Light drinks or homemade natural fruit juices can also be included. Also, if they have no allergies and your kids like it, you can infuse the water or juice with things like chamomile, mint, cinnamon, a teaspoon of honey or stevia, to add a little variety.
Maintain a plan for regular exercise to help increase energy expenditure and a more active metabolism.
Limit consumption of refined sugars.
The bottom line is, like anything in life worth having, you have to work for it. The good news is through regular exercise and changing eating habits, healthy weight loss and maintenance of that weight loss is possible for children. Finally, Seoane recommends before you and your child embark on a healthy weight-loss journey together, be sure to establish regular consultations with a nutritionist or pediatrician.
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Given the immediate and long-term consequences of obesity, it is imperative we find healthy solutions for our children.\nIn searching for answers, I reached out to nutritionist Maria Elena Copens Seoane who offered some great advice.\nRecommended diet and exercise options for the whole family\nThere are many types of healthy diets that a family can adopt. One of the best-known diets is the Mediterranean diet. Another healthy diet option is the Japanese diet. A good and easy guideline to remember regardless of which diet you choose is to ensure that each plate is composed of at least 50 percent vegetables. The vegetables can be varied in type and color. Twenty-five percent should be whole grain carbohydrates, and the final 25 percent a protein. The healthiest proteins are typically white meats such as fish and chicken or your choice of legume. If you eat meat, Seoane recommends the family only consuming red meat once per week.\nHer top diet tips are the following:\nDrink water and avoid sugary drinks.\nUse your olive oil of choice for cooking and avoid saturated and trans fats.\nEat three portions of seasonal fruit of various colors and textures daily.\nEliminate and/or significantly reduce foods like cake, ice cream, bacon, bread, and try to grill your meat on the weekends as time permits.\nAs for exercise, she recommends that as a family, you start incorporating exercise in manageable increments. You could start by taking walks in the neighborhood three or four days per week, for 15 to 30 minutes initially. As the habit takes hold and endurance grows, this can increase in frequency and duration over time.\nHer top exercise recommendations include the following:\nTry to perform physical family activities together on the weekends such as playing a sport, going for a walk or hike, or going swimming.\nTake pets for a walk in the evenings.\nThe important takeaway with exercise is that these activities must become part of the family routine, that way they are more easily sustained over time.\nThe best way to address the issue of your child needing to losing weight\nTo address the issue of weight loss, it is best to approach the conversation from the perspective of living a healthier lifestyle rather than from an aesthetic point of view. She recommends focusing on the benefits of a healthy lifestyle that comes with a balanced diet and regular exercise and how good a healthy lifestyle will make them feel rather than focusing on how they will look or how others will perceive them.\nSafe ways to help overweight children lose weight\nSome of the best strategies that enable children to lose weight in a sustained way include the following important actions:\nDoing the research together. If your child understands what makes a healthy diet, learns about the benefits of exercise, and has, in general, more knowledge on the subject of health, then they are more likely to be invested in and remain committed to the process of weight loss.\nLet them “play” in the kitchen where they can prepare, sample, savor, and cook food. Take up organic gardening, and participate in nutrition workshops where they can actively participate and begin to understand where food comes from, learn how the body works, what nutrients it needs, and more.\nIncorporate sports routines or physical games into household chores or cleaning up (i.e., every time you throw a white into the dryer do five jumping jacks, and every time you throw a color into the dryer do five squats). That makes them move their whole body and work up a sweat while having fun and being helpful.\nMake meals at home. By cooking at home, you can control the ingredients, how food is cooked, and the portion sizes.\nHow parents can better support their children\nParents lead by example and most children learn by watching. Parents have to adopt healthy living habits which will serve as an example for children.\nProvide them with information on the importance of good nutrition.\nHelp them understand the concept of a “healthy dish.”\nHave fixed mealtimes.\nDevelop healthy menus with the participation of your children that are a balance of vegetables, protein, and carbs.\nEat five times a day (breakfast, snack in the morning, lunch, afternoon snack, and dinner in the evening).\nGet your kids used to eating breakfast every day.\nDrink enough water daily (six to eight cups).\nEncourage them to play sports or other regular exercises.\nProvide healthy food items in the house and remove unhealthy and tempting food options.\nMake sure the last meal of the day is “light.” Go heavy on vegetables and light on protein and make sure not to eat at least three hours before going to bed.\nThe best way to maintain weight loss\nThe best way to maintain weight loss is to keep a healthy menu that incorporates a balanced and nutritious menu and lead an active lifestyle. To do this, here are some guidelines to consider:\nIdentify the behaviors, addictive foods, and triggers that caused the weight gain in the first place. Avoid having those foods in the cupboard or fridge at home and supplement those food items with healthier options.\nAlways maintain an eating discipline of five times per day which boosts the metabolism and burns more fat at a steady rate.\nAvoid snacking between meals. To do this, incorporating a routine of three strong meals and two planned snacks (one in mid-morning and one in mid-afternoon) is ideal. The snacks can consist of a serving of fruit in the morning and a bowl of natural yogurt with nuts and a spoon of honey in the afternoon.\nHydrate properly with water (six to eight cups per day). Light drinks or homemade natural fruit juices can also be included. Also, if they have no allergies and your kids like it, you can infuse the water or juice with things like chamomile, mint, cinnamon, a teaspoon of honey or stevia, to add a little variety.\nMaintain a plan for regular exercise to help increase energy expenditure and a more active metabolism.\nLimit consumption of refined sugars.\nThe bottom line is, like anything in life worth having, you have to work for it. The good news is through regular exercise and changing eating habits, healthy weight loss and maintenance of that weight loss is possible for children. Finally, Seoane recommends before you and your child embark on a healthy weight-loss journey together, be sure to establish regular consultations with a nutritionist or pediatrician.",
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He may compare anything from your personality to your looks to your way of handling conflict to his previous significant other, and it could leave you thinking that his mind is stuck in the past. Read on for some of the best ways to handle this tricky scenario.
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Picture this: The new man in your life is kind, handsome, and romantic, and you have so much in common. Each date is better than the last, and for the first time, you’re starting to see a future for yourself in a long-term, committed relationship. There’s only one problem: He can’t seem to stop talking about his former partner. He may compare anything from your personality to your looks to your way of handling conflict to his previous significant other, and it could leave you thinking that his mind is stuck in the past. Whether your beau claims to have had a negative or positive experience with his ex, it’s not a good sign if he continues to reference his former relationship. So, what to do when your boyfriend compares you to his ex?
Well, the answer is complicated. Greta Tufvesson and Nikki Lewis, founders of matchmaking service The Bevy, recommend that you assess the nature of his comments before deciding on a response. Does he make occasional references to his S.O. or does he consistently bring up past relationships? Are his comments made playfully or with malicious intent? Does it appear as if he puts his ex on a pedestal, and anyone else would fall short by contrast? Is he still in contact with his ex or perhaps checking her social media pages regularly?
While these details may impact your response, being compared to a former girlfriend is never an easy situation to deal with. “Too many comparisons, whether posing you favorably or unfavorably, become too much if they’re done too often in either direction,” explains Tufvesson and Lewis. “In either scenario, it suggests he isn’t over her.” Read on for advice on what to do when your boyfriend keeps bringing up his ex.
Should your boyfriend compare you to his ex?
“Your boyfriend should not compare you to an ex unless it’s in a positive or appreciative light,” says Tufvesson and Lewis. If he makes it seem like his ex did everything right and you pale in comparison, that’s a clear red flag.
Though a former partner may come up innocuously in conversation, the frequency with which your boyfriend references an ex could be cause for concern. “A jab here or there is one thing, but constant negative comparisons are not OK,” says Tufvesson and Lewis.
Either way, it’s a sign that he might be stuck in the past and not giving your relationship the attention it deserves. “It could possibly signify he is not over his ex, and moreover, not deserving of you,” Tufvesson and Lewis say.
What should you do when your boyfriend compares you to his ex?
The answer isn’t cut and dry, according to our experts. The ideal response depends on the nature of the comments and how often they are made.
If it happens regularly, and it’s done with ill intent, that may be a sign that it’s time to move on. “If the comparisons are consistent and hurtful, you need to pull the plug on the relationship,” explains Tufvesson and Lewis.
Comments that don’t seem malicious, and are made in a joking manner, should be handled differently. Although your relationship likely can continue, the references to your boyfriend’s ex still must be addressed.
“If it’s less frequent and meant to be playful, you can ask him to be mindful that the comparisons hurt your feelings,” Tufvesson and Lewis explain. They add: “A good guy will understand and acquiesce.”
What does it mean when your boyfriend compares you to his ex?
The most important takeaway from those comparisons is that your boyfriend’s past connection is still on his mind. That could prevent him from being a contented, devoted, and fully present partner. “When your boyfriend compares you to his ex, it could reveal that he is not over his [past relationship], and not ready to commit to a relationship with you,” says Tufvesson and Lewis.
When decoding the meaning behind the comments, it’s important to pay attention to the frequency. The occasional comment may be harmless, although annoying. However, the more they occur, the more they pose a problem for your relationship. “Too many comparisons, whether posing you favorably or unfavorably, become too much if they’re done too often in either direction,” says Tufvesson and Lewis.
But no matter how often they occur, references to your boyfriend’s ex send one strong and clear message, according to Tufvesson and Lewis. “In either scenario, it suggests he isn’t over her.” He should resolve to fully move on from his prior relationship. And if he can’t stop living in the past, it may be best to go your separate ways and focus on a future with someone else.
RELATED STORIES:
Why Rushing Relationships Is A Waste Of Time
How To Use Social Media On Valentine’s Day After A Breakup
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While many would assume that having a partner with a significantly higher income is not as much of a problem as having a partner with a significantly lower income, it turns out that dramatic income disparities among couples can result in unexpected conflicts in relationships.
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In a perfect world, you’d find a soul mate who makes just as much as you do, but in reality, this happens much less often than you’d think. A 2019 survey conducted by Business Insider and Morning Consult found that 44 percent of coupled participants were either married to or in a relationship with a partner who made less than them while 30 percent were partnered with a person who made more. When you add it all up, 74 percent of people reported that they’d experienced some sort of income imbalance in their relationship while only 26 percent said that they made about the same amount of money as their partner.
While many would assume that having a partner with a significantly higher income is not as much of a problem as having a partner with a significantly lower income, it turns out that dramatic income disparities among couples, regardless of which end of the spectrum they fall on, can result in unexpected conflicts in relationships. Here are four ways that these issues manifest:
Resentment
When one partner makes significantly more than another, more than likely, they will be spending much more on living expenses and supporting the couple’s lifestyle. If the breadwinner has adopted a “what’s mine is ours” mindset, then all will be well. However, when the breadwinner has a heightened awareness of their financial contributions in comparison to that of their partner’s, resentment can grow.
“Each time the underearner feels disempowered, it builds a brick of resentment.” psychotherapist Kate Levinson, Ph.D., author of Emotional Currency explained in an interview with LearnVest.
Guilt
Similarly, when the partner with lower earning potential develops an increased awareness of the income gap that exists in their relationship, feelings of guilt may occur. In many instances, the partner may begin to feel bad that they are not able to financially contribute to the relationship in the manner that their companion is able to and may try to overcompensate in other areas.
Imbalanced decision-making
A significant income disparity within a relationship or marriage can also lead to an unhealthy power dynamic. One party may feel as though they should have more of a say in decision-making since they are the primary breadwinner. Adding to that dynamic, the other party may feel that they have less of a say since they don’t make as much. Over time, the partner with lower income may feel as though they do not have a voice within the relationship and that they have little control over their life.
Distrust
Dramatic income gaps in a relationship may also serve as a breeding ground for distrust. In some cases, the breadwinner may internally (or externally) question their partner’s motives for being in the relationship. They may wonder if their partner actually loves them or is only around for what they stand to gain.
Of course, imbalanced income doesn’t spell out trouble for every relationship. And for those in which it does, that still does not mean that the partnership is doomed. The first step to overcoming this hurdle is open communication about money and joint decision-making.
“A wage gap can impact the lower earner’s self-esteem, or it may be that the higher earner thinks they have more control, or that they should make the decisions about holidays or big purchases,” account and personal finance coach Anna Goodwin told Yahoo Finance. “The key is to communicate and respect each other even if the one person brings less money into the household. The biggest thing is to talk about it.”
And most importantly, partners must be committed to respect that is not contingent upon income. While easier said than done in some cases, couples may be able to accomplish this goal through marital and financial counseling.
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Jeffery Lemor Wheat is being held on $500,000 bond after being caught after a decade-long search.
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Man Accused Of Sexually Assaulting Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Members Found
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A man who has been accused of terrifying members of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. has been apprehended. Dating back to 2003, four members of the historic Black sorority reported being sexual assaulted in four different cities in Texas and DNA evidence has finally connected police to their suspect after searching for 10 years.
According to WFAA, Jeffery Lemor Wheat was arrested in Arkansas and later transferred to Texas. He is being held on $500,000 bond at the Collin County Detention Center and will be charged with felony sexual assault regarding a sexual assault that took place in Plano, Texas, Plano Police said. Dallas Morning News reported that Wheat does not have an attorney yet.
DNA was collected from the April 2011 crime scene due to the victim biting Wheat during the attack. She told police that Wheat also called her a few days after to apologize for sexually assaulting her. A similar incident was reported in September 2011 in Coppell, Texas by another member of Delta Sigma Theta. The blood from the April incident and semen from the September attack was determined to be a match, WFAA reported. In October, Corinth Police Department received a report of another sexual assault that was similar to the attacks from the prior months. After collecting DNA evidence from these three attacks, police were also able to get a led in a sexual assault from 2003 in Arlington, Texas. The DNA collected from the 2003 case, where another Delta reported being attacked, was a match for the three others. All four members were Black women in their mid-50s and 60s.
In November 2020, Wheat’s ex-wife identified Wheat in the surveillance footage where he is seen calling the Plano, Texas victim to apologize for the attack, WFAA reported.
“Our biggest fear is there are more [victims],” David Tilley of the Plano Police Department told WFAA. “That’s something that we wanna know. There may have been some unreported cases.”
The Plano Police Department are working with police in Arlington, Corinth and Coppell regarding the other sexual assault cases so that Wheat can be charged.
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You may be dealing with more stress, sadness and exhaustion than you think.
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Are You Dealing With Quarantine Fatigue & Seasonal Affective Disorder?
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During the winter time, many people experience seasonal affective disorder, which is characterized by depressive episodes that are associated with there being less sunlight which subside during the spring and fall. According to the American Psychiatric Association, people are most likely to experience this during January and February. This winter, people who are vulnerable or already experiencing S.A.D may be experiencing a double whammy due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Being in isolation and living in restrictive conditions can lead to “quarantine fatigue.” According to Dr. Luana Marques, quarantine fatigue is an “exhaustion associated with the new restrictive lifestyle that’s been adopted to slow the spread of COVID-19” and the symptoms include:
Feeling tense, irritable or anxious.
Changes in eating or sleeping habits.
Loss of motivation or reduced productivity.
Racing thoughts.
Interpersonal conflict.
Social withdrawal.
According to the Diagnostic Statistics Manual Fifth Edition, seasonal depressive disorder symptoms include:
Feeling sad or having a depressed mood.
Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed.
Changes in appetite; usually eating more, craving carbohydrates.
Change in sleep; usually sleeping too much.
Loss of energy or increased fatigue despite increased sleep hours.
Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., inability to sit still, pacing, handwringing) or slowed movements or speech (these actions must be severe enough to be observable to others).
Feeling worthless or guilty.
Difficulty thinking, concentrating, or making decisions.
Thoughts of death or suicide.
There’s also the “Zoom fatigue,” which “describes the tiredness, worry, or burnout associated with overusing virtual platforms of communication,” the Psychiatric Times noted.
Due to the conditions we are living in, your mental health is taking jab after jab. The level of stress we are all enduring isn’t what we were used to and due to the quarantine, we cannot also resort to the coping skills we once used. As a therapist, I recommend seeking therapy immediately if you feel you are experiencing symptoms of both seasonal affective disorder and quarantine fatigue. While seasonal affective disorder can subside in the warmer months, I can’t tell you when your quarantine fatigue will decrease because no one knows when quarantining and social distancing will be a thing of the past. One disorder may not be an issue come May but the exhaustion, irritability and anxiety associated with quarantine can still be present, so I recommend seeking help.
Since we are isolated, I recommend group therapy. Group therapy is effective because it creates a feeling of universality among its members along with a solid feeling of togetherness, something we can all use during isolation. Some states aren’t as restrictive as New York City, where I am located, so you may even be able to find a socially distanced group therapy option depending on where you are located. You can visit Therapy For Black Girls, Psychology Today and Ayana Therapy to explore your options.
Personally, I can say listening to podcasts has been extremely helpful. Hearing the voices of my favorite podcasters gives a certain comfort that is much needed during these rough times. If you need suggestions, I highly recommend “The Read” and “The Friend Zone.”
Folloing certain social media accounts that focus on improving and maintaining good mental health are beneficial as well. There’s a platform called Ethel’s Club, “a Black-owned social and wellness club designed to celebrate people of color” that offers virtual workouts, creative workshops, healing sessions, question and answer sessions and “wellness salons.”
Brown Girl Self Care’s account offers daily affirmations, resources and events, including a vision board party that will happening on January 30.
Other social media accounts you can follow include Dr. Jessica Clemons, Saddie Baddies and OmNoire.
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The two women at the center of a now-viral video from VH1's former show Signed have finally spoken out. Competitors Just Brittany and Kaiya have addressed the controversy stirred up by online users who claim both were judged differently on their performances by judges Rick Ross, The Dream, and Lenny S due to colorism.
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Women From VH1’s Signed Speak Out After Judges Are Accused Of Colorism
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The two women at the center of a viral resurfaced video from VH1’s former show Signed have spoken out. Competitors Just Brittany and Kaiya, who were both seen singing against each other in a clip grabbed from the 2017 show, have addressed the controversy stirred up by online by users who think the two women were judged differently on their performances by judges Rick Ross, The-Dream, and Lenny S due to colorism.
In the clip, both women sing on the instrumental of the rapper’s “Aston Martin Music.” Just Brittany is the first to perform and she receives quite positive feedback despite the shakiness of the vocals.
“Your future bright shawty, your future bright,” Rick Ross said, while The Dream added, “The music’s bright.” Judge Lenny S said, “Smartest move of her life.”
When Kaiya performed her version of the song, which included a display of her vocal range and her personal take on the melody, the feedback the judges gave her was more critical. Rick Ross said, “That wasn’t the best platform for your voice — you have a unique voice, and Britt did sound better than yours.” The-Dream agreed.
Since the clip has resurfaced, many viewers have called out the judges for their assessment of the two performers, with many believing that the judges were being colorist against Kaiya, who many believed performed better, and that they favored Just Brittany, mainly because she was a light-skinned woman with a certain look. Ross admitted himself in a behind-the-scenes clip he showed her “extra love” while making the short-lived series.
While speaking with The Shade Room about how the clip has gone viral and all the new support she’s been receiving, Kaiya said even though it’s been a shock to her, she thinks the conversation happening around colorism is important.
“The resurfacing of the video is so surreal,” the performer began. “I’m humbled that a lot of people have come out in support of my journey. Colorism is a topic that needs to be discussed wholly and not summed up in one response, but it’s very disheartening to know so many go through this male or female.”
“To pin Black women and men against one another, or make it where some are seen superior is sad,” she continued. “As the years go on, I hope it’s being addressed and rectified in the future.”
Sharing what her experience was overall on the show, Kaiya said she learned a lot and grew as an artist. When asked if she’s heard from any of the judges since the clip has gone viral, she said that even though she hadn’t, she’s open to the possibility of working with any of them again in the future.
“I’ve met some really talented people, we have developed friendships, and keep in touch. The guidance and critiques, I’ve received on my overall performance have been invaluable,” she said. Speaking on Rick Ross, The-Dream, and Lenny S she added, “The men are super busy — it will be awesome to work with them again!”
On the other side of the drama, Just Brittany shared on her Instagram that she’s “happy” to see the video was garnering attention because she also believes colorism is an issue in the music industry that can get light-skinned women more opportunities than their counterparts. Speaking on Kaiya, she said that the fellow performer was a great singer and that she’d like to see women of darker complexions have more representation in the industry.
“Just Brittany, that’s me in the orange hair,” she said pointing out that she was the first singer in the video. Speaking on the conversation surrounding why the clip has resurfaced she added, “I’m happy this video is making its rounds and I want to say that colorism definitely plays a role in lighter-skinned women, like myself, having more access in the industry. Kaiya is extremely talented and I wish darker women were seen more…”
Colorism in the music industry is nothing new. Even though this clip is from a few years ago, the fact that it’s resurfaced and people have been trying to hold the judges accountable shows that consumers are tired of the way preferences for individuals of a certain look negatively impact the breadth of performers they’re exposed to, and the overall quality of music that ends up being released. As for the ladies at the center of the clip, both Kaiya and Just Brittany are still putting out music and finding their stride (Just Brittany was recently on Love and Hip Hop Atlanta), hustling their way to the top.
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A recently released report by the U.S. Department of Labor stated employers let go 140,000 jobs last December. Women accounted for 100% of the overall jobs lost that month, and when the numbers were broken down by race, Black women were one of the most impacted groups by job loss and unemployment.
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Women Lost 140,000 Jobs Last December, Black Women Were Hit Especially Hard
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According to a recently released report by the U.S. Department of Labor, employers let go of 140,000 jobs in the month of December. When breaking down the net numbers, CNN reported that 156,000 women lost their jobs in the last month of 2020, while men actually gained 16,000 jobs. This means that women accounted for 100 percent of the 140,000 overall jobs lost in America’s economy that month. Even more worrisome, when the numbers were broken down by race, Black women were one of the most impacted groups by job loss and unemployment.
Helping to add more context to the conversation, Forbes shared that “The unemployment rate for women overall is 6.3% according to the December jobs report.” With that figure in mind, factor in that 8.4% of Black women are currently unemployed. As the business-based outlet explained, Black, Latina, and Indigenous women have been disproportionally affected when it comes to job loss because of their major role in service-based industries like restaurants, in retail, and in hospitality, all of which have been hit hard by the pandemic.
In essence, job insecurity has been one of the worst issues women have faced during the pandemic. Despite women holding slightly more jobs than men in the workforce for the first time in nearly a decade just before coronavirus became a widespread problem, in May, when coronavirus hit its first peak, 20.5 million jobs were lost and unemployment was heightened to 14.7 percent. Confirming how drastic the pandemic was, especially when it came to gendered job loss, in July 2020, McKinsey Global Institue reported that women’s jobs were almost twice as vulnerable to the crisis than men’s. That meant that the “pandemic and its economic fallout were having a regressive effect on gender equality.”
Simultaneously, Black women have also been disproportionally dealing with the coronavirus itself. In April, Dr. Ashley Denmark told MadameNoire that higher numbers of pre-existing health conditions within the Black community, a higher likelihood of living with multiple people, and a greater chance of being employed in service-based industries, as Forbes mentioned, contributed to the Black community becoming an at high-risk population for the virus.
“The result of these social determinants has led Black America to make up the majority of the essential workforce, which does not have the benefit to work from home during this pandemic,” she said at the time. “As a result, Black Americans are more vulnerable to contracting the virus and, in turn, bring it back to their community to spread, which is an at-risk population.”
By August, COVID-19 was the third cause of death amongst Black Americans, and Black women and their families continued to be left extremely vulnerable both in the job market and in the medical field. The vicious cycle of Black women who are lucky enough to keep their jobs by putting their health on the line to provide for their families through service-based, front-facing jobs, is one that continues to rear its ugly head.
Will all the issues concerning the job insecurity this group faces, the job loss and unemployment statistics not being in their favor, and coronavirus infection rates continuously on the rise within the community, it’s clear that the ways in which Black women have been disproportionally and negatively affected throughout the past year made for really bleak times. Perhaps 2021, with a vaccine finally available and with the hope that comes with a new year, will bring about better outcomes for all — especially Black women.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nAccording to a recently released report by the U.S. Department of Labor, employers let go of 140,000 jobs in the month of December. When breaking down the net numbers, CNN reported that 156,000 women lost their jobs in the last month of 2020, while men actually gained 16,000 jobs. This means that women accounted for 100 percent of the 140,000 overall jobs lost in America’s economy that month. Even more worrisome, when the numbers were broken down by race, Black women were one of the most impacted groups by job loss and unemployment.\nHelping to add more context to the conversation, Forbes shared that “The unemployment rate for women overall is 6.3% according to the December jobs report.” With that figure in mind, factor in that 8.4% of Black women are currently unemployed. As the business-based outlet explained, Black, Latina, and Indigenous women have been disproportionally affected when it comes to job loss because of their major role in service-based industries like restaurants, in retail, and in hospitality, all of which have been hit hard by the pandemic.\nIn essence, job insecurity has been one of the worst issues women have faced during the pandemic. Despite women holding slightly more jobs than men in the workforce for the first time in nearly a decade just before coronavirus became a widespread problem, in May, when coronavirus hit its first peak, 20.5 million jobs were lost and unemployment was heightened to 14.7 percent. Confirming how drastic the pandemic was, especially when it came to gendered job loss, in July 2020, McKinsey Global Institue reported that women’s jobs were almost twice as vulnerable to the crisis than men’s. That meant that the “pandemic and its economic fallout were having a regressive effect on gender equality.”\nSimultaneously, Black women have also been disproportionally dealing with the coronavirus itself. In April, Dr. Ashley Denmark told MadameNoire that higher numbers of pre-existing health conditions within the Black community, a higher likelihood of living with multiple people, and a greater chance of being employed in service-based industries, as Forbes mentioned, contributed to the Black community becoming an at high-risk population for the virus.\n“The result of these social determinants has led Black America to make up the majority of the essential workforce, which does not have the benefit to work from home during this pandemic,” she said at the time. “As a result, Black Americans are more vulnerable to contracting the virus and, in turn, bring it back to their community to spread, which is an at-risk population.”\nBy August, COVID-19 was the third cause of death amongst Black Americans, and Black women and their families continued to be left extremely vulnerable both in the job market and in the medical field. The vicious cycle of Black women who are lucky enough to keep their jobs by putting their health on the line to provide for their families through service-based, front-facing jobs, is one that continues to rear its ugly head.\nWill all the issues concerning the job insecurity this group faces, the job loss and unemployment statistics not being in their favor, and coronavirus infection rates continuously on the rise within the community, it’s clear that the ways in which Black women have been disproportionally and negatively affected throughout the past year made for really bleak times. Perhaps 2021, with a vaccine finally available and with the hope that comes with a new year, will bring about better outcomes for all — especially Black women.",
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Lifetime recently dropped the trailer featuring the first look of actress Danielle Brooks in the role of Mahalia Jackson in a new television movie for the network. Take a look inside.
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As we reported earlier, Danielle Brooks, perhaps best known for her role as Taystee in Netflix’s hit series “Orange is the New Black,” is set to portray legendary gospel singer Mahalia Jackson in a new film.
Last weekend, in promotion of the film “Good Morning America” debuted the first look from the television movie, produced by Robin Roberts.
Directed by Kenny Leon (The Wiz Live), the film follows Jackson’s life as a gospel star as well as the role she played in Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s inner circle.
In addition to scenes from the film, Brooks also spoke personally about the lasting legacy Jackson left on this earth.
“A lot of people don’t know that there would not be the famous ‘I Have a Dream’ speech without Mahalia Jackson. She shouted out, ‘Tell them about the dream!’ Mahalia Jackson was the voice for the people. Her music moved people. It did something. It changed people’s heart. We have to, have to remember Mahalia Jackson.”
The official description for the film from Lifetime reads as follows:
“Born in New Orleans, Mahalia began singing at an early age and went on to become one of the most revered gospel figures in U.S. history, melding her music with the civil rights movement. Her recording of the song “Move on Up a Little Higher” sold millions of copies, skyrocketing her to international fame and gave her the opportunity to perform at diverse settings including in front of a racially integrated audience at the prestigious Carnegie Hall and at John F. Kennedy’s inaugural ball. An active supporter of the Civil Rights Movement, Jackson sang at numerous rallies, including the March on Washington in 1963 alongside Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., in hopes that her music would encourage and inspire racial equality.
As we also reported Jackson’s story will be told in another feature film project starring singer Ledisi as Jackson and Columbus Short as Dr. King.
You can watch the trailer for the Lifetime movie, coming Saturday, April 3, in the video below.
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I took some time to evaluate the effectiveness of Tinder and opted to delete it altogether. After my unsavory experience, I decided to diversify my dating apps, being more intentional about what kind of relationship(s) I am looking for and what apps would warrant the best results. This inspired me to download OkCupid.
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As I continue on my virtual quest to find love, I took some time to evaluate the effectiveness of Tinder and opted to delete it altogether. Interacting with the app gave me zero joy. After my unsavory experience, I decided to diversify my dating apps, being more intentional about what kind of relationship(s) I am looking for and what apps would warrant the best results.
This inspired me to download OkCupid, an app created for folx to find deeper connections and, hopefully, “The One.” Created by Sam Yagan, Chris Coyne, Max Krohn and Christian Rudder, the platform is owned by Match Group, the dating app conglomerate that I discovered to be the owner of Tinder, Hinge and several other services. Knowing this, I was already leery about OkCupid and what it would have to offer. However, I tried to go into the process with an open mind and created a profile.
Creating a Profile
Making a profile on OkCupid was a straightforward yet very lengthy process. It starts off with basic questions such as your age, gender, sexuality, partner preferences, and what type of connection(s) you’re seeking (i.e. friendship, hookups, long and/or short-term relationships). Once that part is completed, you move on to the sections where you add pictures and pick from an endless list of question prompts to answer. Being that I am a Virgo, I knew it was my duty to go above and beyond when filling out my profile, making sure to write myself in a way that comes off as ambitious yet quirky.
As an aside, I love how OkCupid allows you to pick and change your pronouns in your profile. I also appreciate the variety of sexual identities that the app has for you to choose from as well. At this stage, it appeared that the development team was working hard to make the space as inclusive as possible, something I definitely wanted to see with Tinder.
As nice as that is, I still spent what felt like an eternity crafting my profile. Afterward, I took a quick break and went on to the next portion: IQupid.
Now, this was the part of exploring OkCupid that really made me question whether or not I was on a dating app or taking the SAT. The purpose of IQupid is to use responses to a number of questions as data for matching you with potential partners based on likes and “Dealbreakers.” The questions range from basic to thought-provoking, and some examples include queries on love languages, politics, and even COVID precautions and comfortability. However, the question that really struck a chord with me was “If one of your potential matches were overweight, would that be a dealbreaker?”
Referring to larger-bodied people as “overweight” is very problematic and comes from a place of medically oppressive body politics. Additionally, I noticed that there weren’t any questions asking if dating a thin or smaller person is a dealbreaker, so seeing any inquiry conflating fatness with undesirability was an automatic red flag for me.
(Note: I saw this question and another one similar to this a while back when I initially made my profile a few months ago. However, it has since then been removed.)
This question aside, I do feel that IQupid can be a fun way to get to know other people, but it doesn’t really show the full scope of their personality. I also observed that it is a waste of time because most people don’t even answer more than 10 questions in total.
Paid Membership Vs Free Membership
Like Tinder, OkCupid also offers both paid memberships and a free plan. However, this app’s membership model is split into three tiers: free, basic, and premium. OkCupid basic removes in-app ads and allows for users to eliminate options based on their IQupid-generated Dealbreakers. OkCupid premium not only includes all the features of OKCupid basic but also allows you to see who likes your IQupid responses as well as prospective matches regardless of whether you’ve answered those questions or not. As for the free option, that only allows you to chat with matches. All tiers of membership enable you to search for people based on their race, height, sexual orientation, and other filters. It also features the same swipe system as their “hot or not” cousin, Tinder.
I have used both the OkCupid Premium and free memberships, and comparable to my experience with Tinder, I really don’t see a difference between the two. In terms of my interactions on the app, I don’t have many matches, nor have I received a large number of messages. When it comes to the limited experiences I’ve had on OkCupid however, it has been a bit of a mixed bag. For instance, a small number of messages that I’ve received have been thoughtful and really showed that people have taken the time to read my profile.
On the flip side, I have found that most of the people that do like me and send me messages are either your quintessential denizens of the Fat Fetishist faction who only have “Message me to learn more” on their profile, or they are Incels whose IQupid answers align with alt-right ideals. For example, A large chunk of the commentary I have received has come from white men who “love my size” and are looking for me to “force them into submission” or perform free labor to teach them how to be better lovers to Black women. Unsurprisingly, I also get a lot of unsolicited invitations to “sit on their faces” and engage in a slew of other sexual acts. Honestly, it’s giving “same ish different platform.” Y’all know the vibes!
Oddly enough, OkCupid has triggered a resurgence of past partners reaching out to reconnect with me. I’ve awkwardly ran into a few former lovers, had some small talk here and there, and even exchanged numbers to yet again have more small talk that leads to nowhere. It’s a cute kiki in the moment, but definitely a long shot from what I’m looking for.
Lastly, a lot of men on OkCupid have horrible offline behavior. My absolute worst experience on the app was with a man who actually messaged me on Instagram. Initially, everything seemed fine. He briefly complimented my looks, and then the conversation went left after he mentioned how I looked as if “I lost weight” in my pictures and that “I’m lucky to be the only person during COVID that hasn’t gained weight.” Naturally, I was taken aback by his comment and told him that it was inappropriate, only to be met with being called “fragile, triggered and b*tcy [sic].” I gladly corrected his spelling to include the missing h prior to blocking and reporting him on both Instagram and OkCupid.
The Verdict
To be 100 percent transparent, I’m giving OkCupid a fat friendliness rating of -10/5. The app is not only blatantly fatphobic, but is also the antithesis of what I think an app designed to “find love” should be. I appreciate the attempts to make the app more sex positive and gender inclusive. However, when it comes to making the space including of fat folx, having questions that relate fatness to being unattractive is highly discouraging and doesn’t leave room for larger-bodied individuals to feel seen or desired when using the platform. I most definitely don’t approve of being sexualized or being met with violent behavior for setting boundaries on how I’d like to be treated.
Now, I know you’ve said and are still thinking, “Cheyenne, if these online platforms are causing you such strife, then why do you continue to use them?” Although this is a valid question, I think it’s also a good time to reiterate that dating as a fat, Black femme is difficult AF in general, and finding a space where we can do so freely is equally challenging. Divesting from negativity is always a good choice, but not acknowledging the harm and lack of diversity that these apps refuse to address doesn’t help to make the experience more equitable or even enjoyable, either.
OkCupid looks good on paper, and some may even say that it looks good on screen due to having an “aesthetically pleasing” color scheme and app interface, but the proof is most definitely in the pixelated pudding. This app has denied and will continue to find ways to deny fat people access to having fruitful experiences on the platform, and it shows.
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It starts off with basic questions such as your age, gender, sexuality, partner preferences, and what type of connection(s) you’re seeking (i.e. friendship, hookups, long and/or short-term relationships). Once that part is completed, you move on to the sections where you add pictures and pick from an endless list of question prompts to answer. Being that I am a Virgo, I knew it was my duty to go above and beyond when filling out my profile, making sure to write myself in a way that comes off as ambitious yet quirky.\nAs an aside, I love how OkCupid allows you to pick and change your pronouns in your profile. I also appreciate the variety of sexual identities that the app has for you to choose from as well. At this stage, it appeared that the development team was working hard to make the space as inclusive as possible, something I definitely wanted to see with Tinder.\nAs nice as that is, I still spent what felt like an eternity crafting my profile. Afterward, I took a quick break and went on to the next portion: IQupid.\nNow, this was the part of exploring OkCupid that really made me question whether or not I was on a dating app or taking the SAT. The purpose of IQupid is to use responses to a number of questions as data for matching you with potential partners based on likes and “Dealbreakers.” The questions range from basic to thought-provoking, and some examples include queries on love languages, politics, and even COVID precautions and comfortability. However, the question that really struck a chord with me was “If one of your potential matches were overweight, would that be a dealbreaker?”\nReferring to larger-bodied people as “overweight” is very problematic and comes from a place of medically oppressive body politics. Additionally, I noticed that there weren’t any questions asking if dating a thin or smaller person is a dealbreaker, so seeing any inquiry conflating fatness with undesirability was an automatic red flag for me.\n(Note: I saw this question and another one similar to this a while back when I initially made my profile a few months ago. However, it has since then been removed.)\nThis question aside, I do feel that IQupid can be a fun way to get to know other people, but it doesn’t really show the full scope of their personality. I also observed that it is a waste of time because most people don’t even answer more than 10 questions in total.\nPaid Membership Vs Free Membership\nLike Tinder, OkCupid also offers both paid memberships and a free plan. However, this app’s membership model is split into three tiers: free, basic, and premium. OkCupid basic removes in-app ads and allows for users to eliminate options based on their IQupid-generated Dealbreakers. OkCupid premium not only includes all the features of OKCupid basic but also allows you to see who likes your IQupid responses as well as prospective matches regardless of whether you’ve answered those questions or not. As for the free option, that only allows you to chat with matches. All tiers of membership enable you to search for people based on their race, height, sexual orientation, and other filters. It also features the same swipe system as their “hot or not” cousin, Tinder.\nI have used both the OkCupid Premium and free memberships, and comparable to my experience with Tinder, I really don’t see a difference between the two. In terms of my interactions on the app, I don’t have many matches, nor have I received a large number of messages. When it comes to the limited experiences I’ve had on OkCupid however, it has been a bit of a mixed bag. For instance, a small number of messages that I’ve received have been thoughtful and really showed that people have taken the time to read my profile.\nOn the flip side, I have found that most of the people that do like me and send me messages are either your quintessential denizens of the Fat Fetishist faction who only have “Message me to learn more” on their profile, or they are Incels whose IQupid answers align with alt-right ideals. For example, A large chunk of the commentary I have received has come from white men who “love my size” and are looking for me to “force them into submission” or perform free labor to teach them how to be better lovers to Black women. Unsurprisingly, I also get a lot of unsolicited invitations to “sit on their faces” and engage in a slew of other sexual acts. Honestly, it’s giving “same ish different platform.” Y’all know the vibes!\nOddly enough, OkCupid has triggered a resurgence of past partners reaching out to reconnect with me. I’ve awkwardly ran into a few former lovers, had some small talk here and there, and even exchanged numbers to yet again have more small talk that leads to nowhere. It’s a cute kiki in the moment, but definitely a long shot from what I’m looking for.\nLastly, a lot of men on OkCupid have horrible offline behavior. My absolute worst experience on the app was with a man who actually messaged me on Instagram. Initially, everything seemed fine. He briefly complimented my looks, and then the conversation went left after he mentioned how I looked as if “I lost weight” in my pictures and that “I’m lucky to be the only person during COVID that hasn’t gained weight.” Naturally, I was taken aback by his comment and told him that it was inappropriate, only to be met with being called “fragile, triggered and b*tcy [sic].” I gladly corrected his spelling to include the missing h prior to blocking and reporting him on both Instagram and OkCupid.\nThe Verdict\nTo be 100 percent transparent, I’m giving OkCupid a fat friendliness rating of -10/5. The app is not only blatantly fatphobic, but is also the antithesis of what I think an app designed to “find love” should be. I appreciate the attempts to make the app more sex positive and gender inclusive. However, when it comes to making the space including of fat folx, having questions that relate fatness to being unattractive is highly discouraging and doesn’t leave room for larger-bodied individuals to feel seen or desired when using the platform. I most definitely don’t approve of being sexualized or being met with violent behavior for setting boundaries on how I’d like to be treated.\nNow, I know you’ve said and are still thinking, “Cheyenne, if these online platforms are causing you such strife, then why do you continue to use them?” Although this is a valid question, I think it’s also a good time to reiterate that dating as a fat, Black femme is difficult AF in general, and finding a space where we can do so freely is equally challenging. Divesting from negativity is always a good choice, but not acknowledging the harm and lack of diversity that these apps refuse to address doesn’t help to make the experience more equitable or even enjoyable, either.\nOkCupid looks good on paper, and some may even say that it looks good on screen due to having an “aesthetically pleasing” color scheme and app interface, but the proof is most definitely in the pixelated pudding. This app has denied and will continue to find ways to deny fat people access to having fruitful experiences on the platform, and it shows.",
"Is OkCupid Fat Friendly?",
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In a preview for episode five of "Real Housewives of Atlanta," Porsha Williams gets candid with her mother and sister about her daughter Pilar's conception. In the clip, Williams explains that she essentially got pregnant on purpose because her on-again-off-again fiancé, Dennis McKinnley, met certain criteria.
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In a preview for episode five of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” Porsha Williams gets candid with her mother and sister about her daughter Pilar’s conception. In the clip, Williams explains that she essentially got pregnant on purpose because her on-again-off-again fiancé, Dennis McKinley, met certain criteria.
“When it comes to PJ, the parts that I do get sad about is that I wish we could have worked out and for Dennis to be in the house,” Porsha confessed. “But when I look at it, I know that Dennis is such a powerful father figure. I honestly feel like as much as I’m going to put into her to know about the real sh-t going on in the world, he will too.”
Williams went on to share that she selected McKinnley to be the father of her child.
“I picked him. She wasn’t no mistake. I laid down and I knew what was going to happen. I knew! I was like, ‘Oh, he got his own place.’ Look the leg started right here,” she said jokingly lifting her leg. “‘Oh, he got his own place. He got his own business. Oh, he ain’t got no kids. Oh, he said he wants marriage. Oh, he wants to be with me. Oh, he said I’m cute. Impregnant me!”
Naturally, folks proceeded to criticize Williams for having what they perceived as low expectations after a snippet of the clip began to circulate on social media. However, in her defense, she began the conversation by discussing how the death of her father, Hosea Williams II, impacted her dating life and led her to relationships that we abusive in nature.
“I don’t really identify with daddy issues, but unfortunately, once he died and I’m in those years of 14-17 when you’re starting to date and all of that, he wasn’t here. He died. That mindset of me just having a skeleton idea of what a man should be led me into seriously abusive situations.”
This, of course, would explain Williams’s marriage to Kordell Stewart and the highly problematic dynamic that existed between them. Williams’ father died in 1998 after experiencing complications stemming from a bone marrow transplant, according to Distractify.
Check out a snippet of the clip below. For the full clip, click here.
Follow Jazmine on Twitter @jazminedenise
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In an Instagram story from a few days ago, Reginae Carter shared that her boyfriend, rapper Rayshawn "YFN Lucci" Bennett, wants the world to know that he's doing well despite being recently incarcerated for his alleged involvement in an ongoing murder case.
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In an Instagram story from a few days ago, Reginae Carter shared that her on-again-off-again boyfriend, rapper Rayshawn “YFN Lucci” Bennett, wants the world to know that he’s doing well despite recently being incarcerated for his alleged involvement in an ongoing murder case. It certainly seems as though she’s sticking by him during this situation and believes he will be out soon enough.
In a recent Instagram story, Reginae refers to Lucci by the nickname “Ray.” In addition to passing on the rapper’s message, she also thanked those who offered thoughts and prayers for them.
“Hey, guys! Ray wants you all to know he’s in good spirits and doing well. Thanks for all the prayers and well wishes… He’ll be home soon”
As we reported, Lucci turned himself into authorities on Jan. 14 at Atlanta’s Fulton County jail. His charges included “felony murder, aggravated assault, participation in criminal street gang activity, and possession of a firearm during the commission of a felony.” All that being said, even without considering the severity of Lucci’s charges, it’s interesting to see Reginae sharing Lucci’s message with the world. The highs and lows of the couple’s relationship have played out for the public to see since all the way back in January 2018 when they first became an item. At the time, Reginae’s mother Toya Wright was vocal about not being happy with her daughter and Lucci’s seven-year age difference, or the fact that Lucci had four kids with three different women. By early February 2019, the couple called it quits.
Then in July of 2019, Reginae visited radio station V-103 and shared why she was so stuck on Lucci and being committed to their relationship. For her, experiencing young love in the public eye and constantly having other people’s opinions being placed on their relationship was definitely challenging. She emphasized the importance of doing what she felt she needed to do in order to keep herself happy first.
“You know with growing up and being so young and having the relationship in the public and having everyone’s opinion and everyone feeling like their opinion matters, it’s like, it’s a little stressful,” she said at the time. “But honestly, I’ve been learning that no matter what, I gotta do what’s best for me and I gotta follow my heart. I gotta do what makes me happy.”
That didn’t last long though. That August, #Cucumbergate served as a major point of contention between the two, causing Reginae to cut ties with Lucci again.
In April of last year, Reginae finally seemed done with Lucci and his mischief for good. On an episode of T.I. & Tiny: Friends & Family Hustle, despite still feeling some heartbreak over their split, Reginae acknowledged that Lucci didn’t respect her in the way that she deserved throughout their relationship. Later that month, she even went as far as to say “I will never date a rapper again!” Her seemingly definitive statement didn’t last long though because by the summertime, she was once again entertaining Lucci and even defensive about getting caught hanging out with him in Miami. But she has since openly embraced their relationship, with the rapper throwing her a birthday bash during COVID and their relationship seeming stronger than before. Though it seems they’ve hit another bump with his arrest, it looks like she’s not going anywhere this time.
So many things have gone on between Reginae and Lucci it’s hard to keep track of their history together, let alone the messiness that surrounds their relationship. With Reginae being such a young and beautiful woman, it’s sad to see Lucci always letting her down, even when she continues to support him through low points like the one he’s in now.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nIn an Instagram story from a few days ago, Reginae Carter shared that her on-again-off-again boyfriend, rapper Rayshawn “YFN Lucci” Bennett, wants the world to know that he’s doing well despite recently being incarcerated for his alleged involvement in an ongoing murder case. It certainly seems as though she’s sticking by him during this situation and believes he will be out soon enough.\nIn a recent Instagram story, Reginae refers to Lucci by the nickname “Ray.” In addition to passing on the rapper’s message, she also thanked those who offered thoughts and prayers for them.\n“Hey, guys! Ray wants you all to know he’s in good spirits and doing well. Thanks for all the prayers and well wishes… He’ll be home soon”\nAs we reported, Lucci turned himself into authorities on Jan. 14 at Atlanta’s Fulton County jail. His charges included “felony murder, aggravated assault, participation in criminal street gang activity, and possession of a firearm during the commission of a felony.” All that being said, even without considering the severity of Lucci’s charges, it’s interesting to see Reginae sharing Lucci’s message with the world. The highs and lows of the couple’s relationship have played out for the public to see since all the way back in January 2018 when they first became an item. At the time, Reginae’s mother Toya Wright was vocal about not being happy with her daughter and Lucci’s seven-year age difference, or the fact that Lucci had four kids with three different women. By early February 2019, the couple called it quits.\nThen in July of 2019, Reginae visited radio station V-103 and shared why she was so stuck on Lucci and being committed to their relationship. For her, experiencing young love in the public eye and constantly having other people’s opinions being placed on their relationship was definitely challenging. She emphasized the importance of doing what she felt she needed to do in order to keep herself happy first.\n“You know with growing up and being so young and having the relationship in the public and having everyone’s opinion and everyone feeling like their opinion matters, it’s like, it’s a little stressful,” she said at the time. “But honestly, I’ve been learning that no matter what, I gotta do what’s best for me and I gotta follow my heart. I gotta do what makes me happy.”\nThat didn’t last long though. That August, #Cucumbergate served as a major point of contention between the two, causing Reginae to cut ties with Lucci again.\nIn April of last year, Reginae finally seemed done with Lucci and his mischief for good. On an episode of T.I. & Tiny: Friends & Family Hustle, despite still feeling some heartbreak over their split, Reginae acknowledged that Lucci didn’t respect her in the way that she deserved throughout their relationship. Later that month, she even went as far as to say “I will never date a rapper again!” Her seemingly definitive statement didn’t last long though because by the summertime, she was once again entertaining Lucci and even defensive about getting caught hanging out with him in Miami. But she has since openly embraced their relationship, with the rapper throwing her a birthday bash during COVID and their relationship seeming stronger than before. Though it seems they’ve hit another bump with his arrest, it looks like she’s not going anywhere this time.\nSo many things have gone on between Reginae and Lucci it’s hard to keep track of their history together, let alone the messiness that surrounds their relationship. With Reginae being such a young and beautiful woman, it’s sad to see Lucci always letting her down, even when she continues to support him through low points like the one he’s in now.",
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"In an Instagram story from a few days ago, Reginae Carter shared that her boyfriend, rapper Rayshawn \"YFN Lucci\" Bennett, wants the world to know that he's doing well despite being recently incarcerated for his alleged involvement in an ongoing murder case."
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Cynthia Bailey is speaking on her lawsuit against her ex-husband, Peter Thomas, and at the end of the day, the "Real Housewives of Atlanta" star says it's just business.
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Cynthia Bailey is speaking on her lawsuit against her ex-husband, Peter Thomas, and at the end of the day, the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” star says it’s just business. During an appearance on “The Wendy Show,” Bailey explained that Thomas breached an agreement that they had come to over a Bar One property that they both owned in Georgia.
“Peter and I had an agreement. It was a three-year agreement — a contract over a piece of property here in Atlanta,” the reality star explained. “He pretty much made the terms himself and I was like ‘Okay, so in three years I’ll sell this back to you, you pay me off, or whatever.’”
However, according to Bailey and her legal team, Thomas failed to uphold his end of the bargain within the allotted time frame. So when year three came and went, her attorneys automatically went into recovery mode.
“That didn’t happen,” reality star and businesswoman explained. “So, therefore, as soon as that date hit, then my lawyers went into ‘Okay, he’s in breach. We’re going to do everything we need to do to make sure you have the property again.’ It was as simple as that.”
When Wendy pressed her further, Bailey added that the timeframe that she allowed Thomas was more than generous.
“It was a three-year arrangement,” added, “which I thought was more than enough time for us to settle what we needed to settle.”
Last month, Thomas spoke to Straight From The A regarding the lawsuit filed by his ex-wife, sharing that he was both hurt and confused by the filing.
“When I found out that Cynthia is suing me for $170,00, I’m like, ‘Cynthia got my phone number, my number never changed,’ he said. “We don’t have no dispute that I know of for her not to even pick up the phone and call me. I was hurt when she did that.”
To that, Bailey says that she is shocked that Thomas spoke publicly about the suit at all.
“I have to be honest, I was a little surprised when Peter even brought this up publicly,” Bailey told the daytime talk show host. “I don’t talk about my ex. I don’t like to talk about our finances, our problems that we had in the past. I’ve moved on.”
Wendy offered her own two cents, adding that as a new bride and a woman who has graced the cover of Millionaires Magazine, Cynthia should just let it go. However, considering their history, we don’t blame her.
Bailey and Thomas wed in 2019 and divorced in 2017. The start of their union was plagued with a series of financial difficulties. In October, she married Fox News anchor Mike Hill in a star-studded wedding ceremony and thus far, appears to be living out her happily ever after.
Follow Jazmine on Twitter @jazminedenise
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Perhaps there were many things that, before the pandemic, you may have said, “I can’t live without that.” But then, you had to and…you survived, didn’t you?
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Studies have found people are actually happiest when they break away from their traditional way of doing things. And yet, we really are creatures of habit. We do certain things a certain way because that’s how it’s always been done. Going against the norm or developing a new routine can seem overwhelming, so people get stuck in their patterns. “That’s just the way it is.” How often do you hear that? But why is it like that? There were so many ways humans went about life before the pandemic because nobody stopped to ask, “But is there another way?” or “Is this necessary?” Though it can feel wrong to say something good came out of this widespread health crisis, perhaps it’s worse to say that nothing did and to not acknowledge the positive things that were borne from it. Maybe some of those include all the ways we learned we could do things differently because we had to. Necessity is the mother of innovation and wow did we have to innovate to get through the last year.
Perhaps there were many things that, before the pandemic, you may have said, “I can’t live without that.” But then, you had to and…you survived, didn’t you? Maybe you were even forced to find an alternative way to go about things, and that alternative proved to be better than the original way. Even when we get a handle on this virus and life can return to “normal,” many things might not go back the way they were because we learned a better way. Here are things the pandemic taught us we could live without.
A 9-to-5 schedule
Maybe the world was already coming around to the silliness of the arbitrary 9-to-5 schedule, but the pandemic really brought the point home. With most professionals working from home and homeschooling kids, getting work done during any set of rigid hours became out of the question. Work got done when it got done and companies didn’t crumble.
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"Studies have found people are actually happiest when they break away from their traditional way of doing things. And yet, we really are creatures of habit. We do certain things a certain way because that’s how it’s always been done. Going against the norm or developing a new routine can seem overwhelming, so people get stuck in their patterns. “That’s just the way it is.” How often do you hear that? But why is it like that? There were so many ways humans went about life before the pandemic because nobody stopped to ask, “But is there another way?” or “Is this necessary?” Though it can feel wrong to say something good came out of this widespread health crisis, perhaps it’s worse to say that nothing did and to not acknowledge the positive things that were borne from it. Maybe some of those include all the ways we learned we could do things differently because we had to. Necessity is the mother of innovation and wow did we have to innovate to get through the last year.\nPerhaps there were many things that, before the pandemic, you may have said, “I can’t live without that.” But then, you had to and…you survived, didn’t you? Maybe you were even forced to find an alternative way to go about things, and that alternative proved to be better than the original way. Even when we get a handle on this virus and life can return to “normal,” many things might not go back the way they were because we learned a better way. Here are things the pandemic taught us we could live without.\nA 9-to-5 schedule\nMaybe the world was already coming around to the silliness of the arbitrary 9-to-5 schedule, but the pandemic really brought the point home. With most professionals working from home and homeschooling kids, getting work done during any set of rigid hours became out of the question. Work got done when it got done and companies didn’t crumble.",
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"Perhaps there were many things that, before the pandemic, you may have said, “I can’t live without that.” But then, you had to and…you survived, didn’t you?"
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Tennis star Sloane Stephens lost three members of her family amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. In a series of tweets spanning from January 14 to today, the 27-year-old athlete shared that the deadly virus has claimed the lives of her grandmother, aunt. Then, her grandfather passed as well.
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Sloane Stephens Loses Grandmother, Aunt To COVID-19
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Tennis star Sloane Stephens lost three members of her family amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. In a series of tweets spanning from January 14 to today, the 27-year-old athlete shared that the deadly virus has claimed the lives of her grandmother and aunt. A week later, her grandfather died as well; however, it’s not entirely clear if his death was caused by COVID.
On January 14, Stephens revealed that her grandmother and aunt died within weeks of each other.
“My heartache feels endlessly deep,” she tweeted. “We recently put my grandma and aunt to rest within weeks of each other. Covid took Auntie Anna the day after Christmas and then took my grandmother home last Sunday.”
“They both helped me on my journey to being the woman that I am, she went on, “and provided me with the strength and faith that I hold onto as I face the new year without them. Grandma showed me how powerful we can be in life. How gratitude takes you farther. That kindness wins every time. We celebrate your beautiful soul, your big smile, your sassy ways- your whole heart.”
“My aunt taught me to never take no for an answer and fight for everything I dream of,” she reflected while sharing a family photo. “Fall down and get back up. And beyond anything, love yourself.”
“Grandma and Auntie Anna, I know I’ll hear your voices when I sit down to pray. You’re always with me. I love you Rest In Peace.”
Tuesday evening, she shared that her grandfather has also transitioned.
“I’ve watched this video from NY about 100 times today,” she captioned a clip of her video chatting with her grandfather. “My grandpa has gone to be with the Lord and the love of his life. One week apart from my grandma. Losing her was too much for his heart.”
“My grandpa was the kindest soul and I will miss him forever. I can only hope to fill so many lives with the love and happiness he did. He is the definition of love, kindness, generosity and a true example of family,” she went on. “All I ever wanted to do was to make my grandparents proud! I’m most proud they got to witness my tennis dreams come true & become a reality. I’m thankful for the time I had with both of them & grateful that I can see so much of them both in my mother, who continues to be my rock. Stories will be told of their great love. May they rest together in eternal peace.”
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"Sloane Stephens Loses Grandmother, Aunt To COVID-19",
"Tennis star Sloane Stephens lost three members of her family amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. In a series of tweets spanning from January 14 to today, the 27-year-old athlete shared that the deadly virus has claimed the lives of her grandmother, aunt. Then, her grandfather passed as well."
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When asked about who she had in mind to play her in a biopic, Lil Kim said she would want multiple people to do so, and then she would play herself at the tail end of the story. But she did have someone famous in mind who could play her as a young adult.
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With everyone getting the biopic treatment lately, it only makes sense that rap icon Lil Kim has something in the works. That doesn’t mean she’s ready to talk about it though.
“I have a secret but I can’t tell you,” she said about a possible project during an interview with Essence.com. “It’s dealing with me and my life a little bit, kinda.”
She said news of what’s to come would surface within the next month. In the meantime though, Kim said she was looking to have both a movie and a documentary-style project done on her life so that people can really get to know her story and not rely on what they’ve heard.
“I want people to know the real Kim,” she said. “All the other stories that everybody else tells, chile, don’t listen to it.”
When asked about who she had in mind to play her, the star said she would want multiple people to do so, and then she would play herself at the tail end of the story. But she did have someone in mind who could play her as a young adult, and that’s Teyana Taylor.
“It can only be a girl that’s from the hood that I’m from,” she said. “I love Teyana, she’s my only other thought. There’s nobody else in the industry at all but Teyana. But, even before Teyana — I love Teyana, but she’s from Harlem –before Teyana, I would love to give some little girls from Brooklyn a chance so I can connect. Really connect.”
Kim was previously portrayed by Naturi Naughton in the Notorious B.I.G.’s biopic, Notorious. We know that she wasn’t too pleased with that performance and made it known for years, including last year.
“Yeah, no. No. I hate that movie. To me it was like a spoof,” she said at the time. “It was something that I would have never approved. I didn’t like who played me. No. No, no, no, no.”
She stated, as she did in the conversation with Essence, that she would have preferred an unknown actress play her.
“I would go to Brooklyn and find a girl within that period that I feel represents Brooklyn, knows what it’s like to grow up in Brooklyn,” she said. “And then once I got in the movie and I get a little older, I would play myself from that stage. But from that point, I gotta go to Brooklyn and give some little girl from Brooklyn a chance to really, really show, I know who Lil Kim is for real.”
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nWith everyone getting the biopic treatment lately, it only makes sense that rap icon Lil Kim has something in the works. That doesn’t mean she’s ready to talk about it though.\n“I have a secret but I can’t tell you,” she said about a possible project during an interview with Essence.com. “It’s dealing with me and my life a little bit, kinda.”\nShe said news of what’s to come would surface within the next month. In the meantime though, Kim said she was looking to have both a movie and a documentary-style project done on her life so that people can really get to know her story and not rely on what they’ve heard.\n“I want people to know the real Kim,” she said. “All the other stories that everybody else tells, chile, don’t listen to it.”\nWhen asked about who she had in mind to play her, the star said she would want multiple people to do so, and then she would play herself at the tail end of the story. But she did have someone in mind who could play her as a young adult, and that’s Teyana Taylor.\n“It can only be a girl that’s from the hood that I’m from,” she said. “I love Teyana, she’s my only other thought. There’s nobody else in the industry at all but Teyana. But, even before Teyana — I love Teyana, but she’s from Harlem –before Teyana, I would love to give some little girls from Brooklyn a chance so I can connect. Really connect.”\nKim was previously portrayed by Naturi Naughton in the Notorious B.I.G.’s biopic, Notorious. We know that she wasn’t too pleased with that performance and made it known for years, including last year.\n“Yeah, no. No. I hate that movie. To me it was like a spoof,” she said at the time. “It was something that I would have never approved. I didn’t like who played me. No. No, no, no, no.”\nShe stated, as she did in the conversation with Essence, that she would have preferred an unknown actress play her.\n“I would go to Brooklyn and find a girl within that period that I feel represents Brooklyn, knows what it’s like to grow up in Brooklyn,” she said. “And then once I got in the movie and I get a little older, I would play myself from that stage. But from that point, I gotta go to Brooklyn and give some little girl from Brooklyn a chance to really, really show, I know who Lil Kim is for real.”",
"Lil Kim Says “Nobody Else” But This Singer Can Play Her In A Biopic",
"When asked about who she had in mind to play her in a biopic, Lil Kim said she would want multiple people to do so, and then she would play herself at the tail end of the story. But she did have someone famous in mind who could play her as a young adult."
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Those behind the BET Awards asked Meagan Good to present at the show in 2014 and make light of controversy that occurred the year before over her blue dress. She refused because there was nothing funny about what she dealt with. She said in response, they rescinded her invitation to present, which left her in tears.
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BET Awards Revoked Meagan Good Invite To Present Over Joke About Blue Dress
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Back in 2013, Meagan Good found herself embroiled in an unexpected controversy after she wore a low-cut blue dress to the BET Awards. A year prior, she married DeVon Franklin, who aside from being a producer also does some ministerial work. People saw her as a preacher’s wife because of that, and she was scolded by Christians online who said her look was inappropriate. The drama followed her even while she and Franklin promoted their book The Wait, and she was notoriously confronted on the book tour by a critic who asked her if she was going to cover up.
Good has long moved on from that drama over a dress, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t think back on it with annoyance. During an interview with The Daily Beast to promote her self-directed new film, If Not Now, When? she described the criticism she’s received as a “full-on assault, and it went on for years.” She said because of the backlash over her clothing, for a time, whenever she dressed up for an event or Halloween, “I definitely had the trauma of ‘I know I’m going out in front of the firing squad.'”
The year after the debate over her dress, she was still understandably sensitive about it. She shared a story with The Daily Beast about a time when those behind the BET Awards asked her to present at the show in 2014 and make light of everything that happened the year before. She refused because there was nothing funny about what she dealt with. She said in response, they rescinded her invitation to present, which left her in tears.
“The next year for the BET Awards, they reached out to have me present, and the script was me and Nick Cannon, and he was going, ‘Meagan, I see that you wore a different dress this year—a lot more covered up!’ and I’m like, ‘Ha-ha-ha!’ I called them and said, ‘I don’t feel like this is funny. For one, that was not a funny experience—it was traumatizing—and two, I’m not going to go up there and act like I’m apologizing to someone when I have nothing to apologize for,'” she said. “Their response was: ‘You either say it or you don’t present.’ So I was like, ‘OK, then I won’t present.’ And when I got off the phone, I cried. I was like, ‘Would you do this to Gabrielle Union or Taraji? You have this perception of me, and it’s crazy that you want to hold me to what that should be.’ I’m not going for it.”
The next time Good attended the BET Awards was in 2016, so that tells you all you need to know. The network has been called out in the past for making light of things that aren’t necessarily funn, like Blue Ivy’s hair. There’s no hard feelings with BET, but Good admitted that it took time to not have hard feelings towards her censors. However, she’s vowed to never let them repress her individuality.
“No one will ever control what I do or how I do it; it will always be spirit-led, and how I feel God feels about it,” she said. “It took me a long time to not feel so hurt and be so affected.”
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"Those behind the BET Awards asked Meagan Good to present at the show in 2014 and make light of controversy that occurred the year before over her blue dress. She refused because there was nothing funny about what she dealt with. She said in response, they rescinded her invitation to present, which left her in tears."
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So often, parents complain about self-entitled kids without recognizing how they help to contribute to this mindset. Naturally, the first step to correcting this attitude is recognizing that your child has it in the first place. So here are 10 tell-tale signs that you're raising an entitled child.
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Signs You’re Raising An Entitled Child And Why That’s A Problem
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In 2019 I wrote an essay that went semi-viral titled, Dear Adult Children, Your Parents Don’t Owe You Anything. In the essay, I discussed adults who have an inflated sense of entitlement in regard to their parents’ money, time, and resources. In essence, I argued that adults should be appreciative of the many ways that their parents continue to support them, but that they should not be demanding these things. The overwhelming response to the article revealed two things: One, many people are suffering from childhood trauma. Two, there are many, many adults who continue to be entitled AF.
To those who are suffering from traumatic childhoods, I would like to say that the essay was in no way targeted towards you. I pray that you are able to find true healing and that you are able to break every generational curse that has attached itself to your bloodline. To the entitled folks, I say that you really need to grow up and learn to appreciate your parents while they are still here to receive your gratitude because if 2020 has taught us anything, it’s that tomorrow is not promised.
One other common response that stood out to me were those who pointed out the significant role that parents play in instilling an inflated sense of entitlement into their kids, which is the reason for this post. So often, parents complain about self-entitled kids without recognizing how they help to contribute to this mindset. Naturally, the first step to correcting this attitude is recognizing that your child has it in the first place. So here are 10 tell-tale signs that you’re raising an entitled child. In isolation, these signs may not mean much, but when demonstrated in a symphony, they are indicative of a problem.
Disclaimer: This list does not apply to children with disabilities or personality disorders. If you suspect that your child may be living with an undiagnosed mental illness or disability, we encourage you to seek guidance from a competent mental health professional. Therapy for Black Girls is a great place to begin your search.
They believe that they’re above the rules
No one wants to follow rules all of the time — not even adults. However, a child who never wants to abide by the rules because they believe that rules are beneath them is highly entitled. Not only will this attitude create problems for them in childhood, but it will also hinder their ability to prosper in the real world as functional members of society.
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In a now-deleted tweet, University of Tennessee Chattanooga assistant football coach Chris Malone posted hateful comments about former Georgia House Democratic Leader, Stacey Abrams. His comments followed Abrams playing a major role in the Democratic party's wins in the Georiga Senate runoff elections.
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College Football Coach Who Called Stacey Abrams “Fat Albert” Has Been Fired
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In a now-deleted tweet, University of Tennessee Chatanooga assistant football coach Chris Malone posted hateful comments about former Georgia House Democratic Leader, Stacey Abrams. This follows Abrams playing a major role in the Democratic party’s wins on Tuesday night in the state’s Senate runoff elections, which secured them control of the U.S. Senate.
Before he got the chance to delete it, people captured screenshots of Malone’s vicious tweet towards Abrams on Tuesday night, one in which he called her disparaging names related to her figure, likened her to cartoon character Fat Albert, and perpetuated false claims that the election had been rigged.
“Congratulations to the state of GA and Fat Albert @staceyabrams because you have truly shown America the true works of cheating in an election again!!!” he tweeted on January 5. “Enjoy the buffet Big Girl! You earned it!!! Hope the money was good, still not governor!”
Abrams, who is a celebrated voting rights activist, has been extremely vocal and involved in getting out the vote in both statewide and national elections. She became a household name amidst her fight in the election for governor of Georgia back in 2018, which she lost by a slim margin to republican Brian Kemp due to alleged voter suppression in communities of color. Since then, Abrams has been hailed for her efforts through her organization, Fair Fight, in succeeding in her 10-year mission to flip Georgia blue, helping Joe Biden win the presidency, as well as Raphael Warnock and Jon Ossoff gain seats in the Senate on Tuesday.
With that being said, Abrams is a respected figure in politics. So within a matter of days, Malone was fired for his comments about her. In a statement about the incident on Thursday by Chatanooga’s head football coach Rusty Wright, he made it clear that he holds his staff and his players to a standard that doesn’t tolerate or condone the disrespect of others.
“Our football program has a clear set of standards. Those standards include respecting others,” the statement read. “It is a message our players hear daily. It is a standard I will not waiver on. What was posted on social media by a member of my staff is unacceptable and not any part of what I stand for or what Chattanooga Football stands for. Life is bigger than football and as leaders of young men, we have to set that example, first and foremost. With that said, effective immediately, that individual is no longer a part of my staff.”
Also posted on Thursday, the University of Tennessee-Chattanooga’s chancellor, Steven R. Angle, appeared in a 45-second long video clip where he also condemned Malone’s statements. The video, which was seemingly recorded on Wednesday, confirmed Malone had been removed from the school’s staff.
“Yesterday Chris Malone, a UTC football coach posted a tweet regarding Stacey Abrams. That tweet was hateful, hurtful, and untrue,” Angle said. “Coach Malone is no longer a part of this university. University faculty and staff are expected to lead in a way that achieves and maintains a respectful and tolerant, civil campus environment. The University of Tennessee at Chattanooga does not tolerate and unequivocally condemn discrimination and hatred in all forms. Thank you.”
The comments Abrams received from Malone will never be okay, and unfortunately, it’s a huge part of what many Black women face on a day-to-day basis online. This is especially true when they’re in the public eye, in high-ranking positions, and hold lots of power and influence, just as Abrams does. It was good of the university to waste no time in firing Malone from his position, distancing themselves from him, and condemning his actions for what they really are: “hateful, hurtful, and untrue.”
As Black women often do, Abrams hasn’t publically acknowledged the hate she received from Malone. Instead, she’s continuing to use her voice and platform for the people.
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If you happen to be a person who still loves sew-in weaves, but you're completely fed up with the damage and breakage that they are causing to your real hair, consider implementing the following practices before giving up hair weaves for good.
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How To Prevent Breakage Caused By Sew-Ins
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As women, many of us can appreciate a good sew-in. They give us a sometimes much-needed break from daily styling and they offer variety. Unfortunately, this go-to hairdo, which was once touted as the ultimate protective style, has betrayed us in some ways because the sew-in has become synonymous with thinning hair and breakage. Thus many have sworn off hair weaves; however, this may be like throwing the baby out with the bathwater.
While sew-ins can wreak havoc on one’s hair when not cared for properly, if the right steps are taken, an install can still be a great protective style that helps to promote hair growth. If you happen to be a person who loves sew-in weaves, but you’re completely fed up with the damage and breakage that they are causing to your real hair, consider implementing the following practices before giving up hair weaves for good.
Deep condition thoroughly
While it may seem like a no-brainer, the way that you care for your hair between installs has a significant impact on the manner in which your hair will respond to a sew-in installation. Hydrated hair will always handle manipulation, such as braiding and threading, way better than dry, brittle hair would. Use a high-quality deep conditioner prior to installs and always use heat when doing so as it will help to restore elasticity and moisture.
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"Julia Austin"
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Everybody wants to be tough and just shake it off but it is important to take anxiety seriously. We spoke with registered nurse and yoga instructor Recie Munson about how anxiety shows up in the body, and how to manage it.
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Ways Anxiety Presents In The Body
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Research shows that predominantly Black counties have COVID-19 infection rates three times as high as white counties. This reality is likely a reason why it’s been found that Black women and men have reported higher anxiety during the pandemic than white individuals. But there can be many reasons to be anxious right now that have nothing to do with fighting a respiratory illness, like civil unrest, high rates of unemployment, feelings of displacement as people scatter from the cities to move back home, and so much more. This pandemic has really made people examine their coping mechanisms when it comes to stress, and possibly realize that…they didn’t have any. It’s been proven that environmental changes that bring on anxiety can impact the immune system, so having coping mechanisms isn’t just for emotions – it’s also for the benefit of one’s physical wellbeing.
Perhaps you’ve always told yourself, “Stress is a part of life.” Or “Yeah, I get anxious. So what? Who doesn’t?” But anxiety is not something to let run rampant. It can do more harm to your body than you know. Everybody wants to be tough and just shake it off, but it is important to take anxiety seriously because it can certainly do some serious things to you. We spoke with registered nurse and yoga instructor Recie Munson about how anxiety shows up in the body, and how to manage it.
It’s all connected
“A lot of people don’t see mental health as having physical symptoms, which is something that I love to change the narrative about,” Munson says. “Mental health issues can definitely be physical – it’s proven. I have witnessed them when taking care of patients. And I have also experienced them on a personal level.”
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You almost have to understand that your mind is working against you in a breakup. It has one goal: avoid pain. Unfortunately, that’s in direct conflict with what you need to do to get over this breakup in a healthy and real way.
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Ways Your Brain Plays Tricks On You After A Breakup
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The mind has a pretty straightforward way of processing common events – those that happen regularly like sitting in traffic, getting a spam email, exchanging passive-aggressive comments with a coworker, or even getting into that same old argument with your mother. These are the simple things that your mind knows how to process. The series of emotions is pretty cut and dry. You’re annoyed, then you’re over it. But then there are rare experiences, like the grief over losing a loved one, or the pain of a breakup that really aren’t that easy to take in. How many times in a lifetime will your brain have to truly process that? Only a handful if you’re lucky. But that’s also why the human mind kind of short circuits when it is time to process something like that.
When you lose someone, you sometimes wake up thinking they’re still around, right? Even if you had a love/hate relationship with the person, sometimes you only feel the love, and sometimes only the hate, when thinking about them. It’s almost like your brain shatters after difficult experiences, like a breakup, and there is no straightforward path to recovery. You should understand that your mind is working against you in a breakup. It has one goal: avoid pain. Unfortunately, that’s in direct conflict with what you need to do to get over this breakup in a healthy and real way. You have to experience the pain. But nobody is conditioned to ignore their thoughts or do the opposite of what they feel like doing, which is what makes breakups so difficult. We spoke with licensed therapist and author of The Dumping Ground Latasha Matthews, and she shared ways the brain plays tricks on you after a breakup.
Everything looks better in the rearview mirror
If you’ve felt that the moment you ended a tumultuous relationship, you lost connection with the bad feelings that sent you out the door and suddenly only recalled the good stuff, that’s common, according to Matthews. “People tend to have on rose-colored glasses when it comes to looking at the tough stuff in the relationship after it has ended. Some might experience relationship amnesia, which could cause partial or total memory loss as it pertains to negative content in the relationship.” It’s also simply painful to relive the bad moments in your relationship, so while there is value in remembering that there were plenty, your mind protects itself by conveniently forgetting those.
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If you love reading, a self-proclaimed "Bookstagrammer" Cree Myles is hosting an a virtual read-a-thon of Black fiction.
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With us still being in the midst of the pandemic, reading is a favorable past time. According to the Literary Hub, 35% of the world is reading more during the pandemic. Discussing a good book can also be delightful as well since we are in isolation and self-proclaimed “Bookstagrammer” Cree Myles has us covered this month with conversation about classic Black fiction. If you’re an avid reader, you’re in luck because Myles, a literary content creator, has partnered with Penguin Random House and Belletrist to host a virtual read-a-thon of Black fiction via Instagram.
On January 18, 2021, they will kick off Black Like We Never Left, a week-long virtual read-a-thon celebrating Black fiction that will highlight the work of Nobel and Pulitzer Prize winning Penguin Random House author and editor, Toni Morrison. The read-a-thon will also serve a fundraiser for the Center for Fiction’s Emerging Writers Fellowship, a program that was special to Morrison.
“Black Like We Never Left will use the combined scale of Cree Myles, Belletrist, and Penguin Random House to create a singular moment around Black authors and the foremost novelist of the Black experience,” the press release read.
The first five days of the series will live on Cree Myles’ Instagram page, which is dedicated to highlighting Black and marginalized voices. Readers have the choice to read along with one of three Toni Morrison books – Beloved, Sula, or Song of Solomon – and each day Myles will provide “required reading” guides to help keep people on track. Participants are encouraged to fundraise by asking loved ones to pledge a dollar amount per page. The more pages read, the more money donated to the Center for Fiction.”
On Saturday, January 23, Cree will take over Penguin Random House’s Instagram for a three-hour virtual party featuring challenges, giveaways, and exclusive conversations with notable cultural figures who will speak with Myles about Black fiction and Toni Morrison.
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The relationship between supermodel Jessica White and media mogul Nick Cannon has been an interesting one to witness. From the outside looking in, the only time we even considered or recognized that these two were together was when Cannon seemed to be disrespecting or completely disregarding her in one way or another.
If you know their history, you know there were the crude and crass song lyrics about their sex life.
There was the fact White, who is notoriously private, seemed to be the only one publicly acknowledging their relationship.
And then the nail in the coffin came when she attempted to graciously accept the news that despite being in a relationship with her at the time, Cannon was expecting a second child with his “ex” Brittany Bell.
What we didn’t know at the time was that White learned of this bundle of joy the same time we did. Meaning, despite their six-year relationship, and what White describes as a true friendship, Cannon wasn’t being entirely honest.
And what we didn’t know that as she learned about Bell’s pregnancy, she was still healing from the miscarriage she had just suffered weeks prior. It was Cannon’s baby.
Ultimately, White decided that she couldn’t make things work with Nick. And during a recent interview with Hollywood Unlocked, she shared her emotions learning of the pregnancy, dealing with the miscarriage, and her disappointment in the fact that Cannon did not come to her defense.
See what she had to say in the highlights from the interview below.
Brittany Bell’s pregnancy.
[I wasn’t aware that she was pregnant.] But she was aware that I had just had a miscarriage, two weeks prior to her news coming out. I was living at his house and she knew that as well. But I found out on Instagram, along with the rest of the world.
I was going through a lot of things, which I won’t even relive. I was still going through my hormonal changes and we were about to start in vitro. So when I came out, people felt like I was a homewrecker. No, there was a real life going on. And I was bullied for months behind that whole situation. I was trying to be nice about it. We didn’t break up right away. We were actually trying to work things out. He was with me for my birthday. It wasn’t until I went home to New Orleans and I had to ask myself some questions, like, ‘Angel, is this something you feel like you can handle? Can you deal with this?’ And the answer ended up being no.
Did Nick protect her from the bullying?
We actually spoke about it three weeks ago when he said he was going to write his wrongs and say something. I think he is a man of his word and he eventually well. It is [incredibly painful] and I expressed that to him as well. He should have. He said he will so I believe that.
Was the biggest betrayal the baby or the fact that he didn’t protect her?
The child was conceived when we weren’t together. We had broken up for eight months. That’s why I didn’t flip out about it because stuff happens. I’m a very reasonable woman. For me, it was you know how private I am. You know how sensitive I am. You need to say something. He doesn’t even stand up for himself publicly. So I know how he operates.
How she went from forgiving Nick to ending the relationship.
You asked me how I forgave it. We weren’t together. I’m not saying he had break up babies. I just wasn’t in his life.
Why she couldn’t forgive the second baby.
I did. But then went home and was like, ‘I’m not going to be able to see more Christmas photos now with the second baby.’ These are just things you have to be real with yourself.
Their on-again, off-again relationship.
We loved each other so it wouldn’t take too much time. I might start an argument or something and we’d be back talking.
How she found the courage to walk away?
You just walk away. You really mean it. I didn’t mean it the other times. This time I meant it. So it was kind of easy. My mind was like, ‘Okay, we’re going to do this.’ And it made it really easy to be surrounded by good loved ones, people who everyday reminded me not to go back.
Was she angered by timing and announcement of Brittany Bell’s pregnancy
I’m going to tell you why [I’m not angry.] Because I’m so disattached from it. And it would be another thing if I still wanted the relationship but I don’t. So I’m not upset with it because my feelings are not attached anymore. Had my feelings been attached, I’m sure this would be a different interview. It’s just not the case anymore. When I said those soul ties have been severed on behalf of me and him. Emotionally, I’ll always care for him but it’s matured.
Initially, I was so concerned about what was going to happen with he and I and our relationship. Because you have to understand, me and him, for the first time ever, were happy and we were getting along. We had learned to have arguments and disagreements. We had really got through our growing pains. Then all of a sudden it was like, ‘This is my going.’ And my ancestors were like, ‘No, you’re not.’ So I was really trying to [determine] what’s going to happen between him and I…I really had to get it together so I wasn’t able to really process all of it right away.
Would they still be together if Nick had defended her?
I’m not taking up for him, by any means. But the woman’s pregnant. That is the mother of his children. I know [I had just lost my child] but he’s not going to do that. He has a child. He made his decision though. And that was his decision. And I totally can understand it. I understand the dynamic. I’m not saying that he shouldn’t have stood up for me. He should have. He should have found a way to do it. And he chose not to. It’s not going to affect me moving forward.
I don’t know [if Nick defending her would have saved the relationship.] I just believe that it was time for that relationship to come to an end. It just made it easy for me choose myself and give love a second chance. I really do feel like I’m happy all that happened. I would still have to deal with that. I would still have to deal with a baby mother. I don’t have to deal with that anymore.
Though Jessica clearly went through some hell in the six years she was dating Nick Cannon, she said she is open and excited about love again and is dating a new man she is hopeful about.
You can watch her full interview in the video below.
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Meaning, despite their six-year relationship, and what White describes as a true friendship, Cannon wasn’t being entirely honest.\nAnd what we didn’t know that as she learned about Bell’s pregnancy, she was still healing from the miscarriage she had just suffered weeks prior. It was Cannon’s baby.\nUltimately, White decided that she couldn’t make things work with Nick. And during a recent interview with Hollywood Unlocked, she shared her emotions learning of the pregnancy, dealing with the miscarriage, and her disappointment in the fact that Cannon did not come to her defense.\nSee what she had to say in the highlights from the interview below.\nBrittany Bell’s pregnancy.\n[I wasn’t aware that she was pregnant.] But she was aware that I had just had a miscarriage, two weeks prior to her news coming out. I was living at his house and she knew that as well. But I found out on Instagram, along with the rest of the world.\nI was going through a lot of things, which I won’t even relive. I was still going through my hormonal changes and we were about to start in vitro. So when I came out, people felt like I was a homewrecker. No, there was a real life going on. And I was bullied for months behind that whole situation. I was trying to be nice about it. We didn’t break up right away. We were actually trying to work things out. He was with me for my birthday. It wasn’t until I went home to New Orleans and I had to ask myself some questions, like, ‘Angel, is this something you feel like you can handle? Can you deal with this?’ And the answer ended up being no.\nDid Nick protect her from the bullying?\nWe actually spoke about it three weeks ago when he said he was going to write his wrongs and say something. I think he is a man of his word and he eventually well. It is [incredibly painful] and I expressed that to him as well. He should have. He said he will so I believe that.\nWas the biggest betrayal the baby or the fact that he didn’t protect her?\nThe child was conceived when we weren’t together. We had broken up for eight months. That’s why I didn’t flip out about it because stuff happens. I’m a very reasonable woman. For me, it was you know how private I am. You know how sensitive I am. You need to say something. He doesn’t even stand up for himself publicly. So I know how he operates.\nHow she went from forgiving Nick to ending the relationship.\nYou asked me how I forgave it. We weren’t together. I’m not saying he had break up babies. I just wasn’t in his life.\nWhy she couldn’t forgive the second baby.\nI did. But then went home and was like, ‘I’m not going to be able to see more Christmas photos now with the second baby.’ These are just things you have to be real with yourself.\nTheir on-again, off-again relationship.\nWe loved each other so it wouldn’t take too much time. 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Emotionally, I’ll always care for him but it’s matured.\nInitially, I was so concerned about what was going to happen with he and I and our relationship. Because you have to understand, me and him, for the first time ever, were happy and we were getting along. We had learned to have arguments and disagreements. We had really got through our growing pains. Then all of a sudden it was like, ‘This is my going.’ And my ancestors were like, ‘No, you’re not.’ So I was really trying to [determine] what’s going to happen between him and I…I really had to get it together so I wasn’t able to really process all of it right away.\nWould they still be together if Nick had defended her?\nI’m not taking up for him, by any means. But the woman’s pregnant. That is the mother of his children. I know [I had just lost my child] but he’s not going to do that. He has a child. He made his decision though. And that was his decision. And I totally can understand it. I understand the dynamic. I’m not saying that he shouldn’t have stood up for me. He should have. He should have found a way to do it. And he chose not to. It’s not going to affect me moving forward.\nI don’t know [if Nick defending her would have saved the relationship.] I just believe that it was time for that relationship to come to an end. It just made it easy for me choose myself and give love a second chance. I really do feel like I’m happy all that happened. I would still have to deal with that. I would still have to deal with a baby mother. I don’t have to deal with that anymore.\nThough Jessica clearly went through some hell in the six years she was dating Nick Cannon, she said she is open and excited about love again and is dating a new man she is hopeful about.\nYou can watch her full interview in the video below.",
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After decades of Black women accusing Dr. Dre of being physically abusive, his estranged wife Nicole Young adds her name to the list in the midst of the couple's divorce battle.
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We knew that the divorce settlement between Dr. Dre and his estranged wife Nicole Young would go on for a while. There’s too much money at stake. But apparently, it’s not the only factor at play.
According to The Daily Mail, new court documents state that Nicole Young has accused her estranged husband of holding a gun to her head, punching her in the face, and lifting her off of the ground by her neck.
Apparently, the documents were filed just days before Dre was admitted to the hospital for a brain aneurysm.
Dre, real name Andre Young, has vehemently denied the claims, stating, “At no time did I abuse Nicole or threaten her physical safety.”
Nicole Young claims something entirely different, calling Dre’s words “blatant lies.”
In her response, Nicole wrote, “I have explained in excruciating and painful detail the abuse that Andre has perpetrated against me over our more than 25-yea-relationship.
Some of those details include the time Nicole accused Dre of holding a gun to her head on two occasions, once on January 8, 2000 and again on November 20, 2001. She claims that Dre punched her in the head and face in 1999 and again in 2000.
She also recalled events where Dre’s actions threatened her physical safety.
“’Andre kicked down the door to a bedroom in which I was hiding from his rage in 2016. Andre has verbally and emotionally decimated my personhood to the extent that I currently suffer from post-traumatic stress syndrome.”
Dre has argued his innocence claiming that the police had never been called to the couple’s home for a domestic dispute during their marriage.
Nicole agreed.
But she shared that there is a caveat. The police were called in 1995, before they tied the knot. On this occasion, Nicole accuses Dre of slamming her against the wall and lifting her off the ground by her neck.
Nicole explained why she stopped calling the police once they were husband and wife.
‘During our marriage, I considered calling the police several times but, as I fell deeper into the abusive relationship, my fear of Andre outweighed any confidence I had that the police could help me.’
She said for Dre to insinuate that she is lying about the abuse because she did not maintain documentation of each incident is “revolting and insulting.”
“It is well known and accepted that most victims of domestic violence do not have documentary evidence of their abuse.”
Dr. Dre’s estranged wife is not the only woman to accuse him of domestic violence.
In 2013, singer Michel’le opened up about the domestic abuse she experienced at the hands of Dr. Dre, her ex and father of her child. In speaking about plastic surgery, Michel’e revealed that she had her nose one in order to straighten it after the damage inflicted by Dre.
In addition to breaking her nose, she said that she had to cover black eyes on video shoots because Dre had beaten her.
Michel’le detailed the abuse even further in Lifetime biopic Surviving Compton.
Years later, when the film Straight Outta Compton was released in theaters, journalist Dee Barnes revealed that Dr. Dre physically attacked her as well in 1991 at the Po Na Na Souk nightclub. Apparently, Dre was upset to learn that Barnes had interviewed Ice Cube, the former member of their rap group NWA and Dre interpreted her even speaking to him as a journalist as a sign of disrespect.
Later, in an interview with Wendy Williams, Dee Barnes insinuated that not only did Dre beat her that night in the club, the encounter also involved sexual assault as well.
Barnes was subsequently blacklisted from the industry while Dre went on to have a thriving career in music and business.
Tairrie B, whose real name is Theresa Murphy, a former labelmate of Dre, accused him of punching her in the face twice at a Grammy’s after party in 1990 after she insulted him on a track.
In response to these allegations, Dr. Dre issued a somewhat vague apology to “the women he hurt” in a statement to The New York Times.
The apology came just as Dre was solidifying his business relationship with Apple. Having just sold Beats by Dre to the company for $3 billion, he was also appointed as a top consultant for the tech company.
It will be hard to prove that Dr. Dre enacted the same violence against his wife without documentation. But patterns of abuse die hard. And if Dr. Dre spent years abusing other women in his life, I don’t understand why Nicole, who spent the last 25 years with him, would be an exception.
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COVID-19 has essentially obliterated how we connect and interact with others, which means that as we approach this Valentine's Day season, the loneliness can feel louder than ever.
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COVID-19 has essentially obliterated how we connect and interact with others, which means that as we approach this Valentine’s Day season, the loneliness can feel louder than ever. Unfortunately, especially in the age of digital media, the signs of loneliness are easily overlooked due to the fact that our smartphones and other technological devices can offer a false sense of closeness and connection.
Still, nothing truly takes the place of meaningful human contact and increased yearning for this basic need to be met can sometimes lead people to attempt to fill this void in unhealthy ways. One of the most common ways that people seek to fill the emptiness that they feel is by reaching out to lovers from the past. They mistake their loneliness as a sign that they were somehow meant to be with this person and begin reminiscing on the times that they shared.
There are healthier ways to manage chronic loneliness, but the first step to doing so is accurately identifying the signs of loneliness in the first place.
You find yourself idolizing social media couples
If you’re not a person who subscribes to #relationshipgoals culture, but you find yourself fixated or even idolizing social media couples as of late, it could be a sign that you’re simply yearning for a deeper personal connection with others. You may not actually miss being with your ex at all. You just want to connect with someone in a meaningful way and the way that the couples you follow present themselves on social media makes it appear as though they have the connection that you’re searching for.
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"COVID-19 has essentially obliterated how we connect and interact with others, which means that as we approach this Valentine’s Day season, the loneliness can feel louder than ever. Unfortunately, especially in the age of digital media, the signs of loneliness are easily overlooked due to the fact that our smartphones and other technological devices can offer a false sense of closeness and connection.\nStill, nothing truly takes the place of meaningful human contact and increased yearning for this basic need to be met can sometimes lead people to attempt to fill this void in unhealthy ways. One of the most common ways that people seek to fill the emptiness that they feel is by reaching out to lovers from the past. They mistake their loneliness as a sign that they were somehow meant to be with this person and begin reminiscing on the times that they shared.\nThere are healthier ways to manage chronic loneliness, but the first step to doing so is accurately identifying the signs of loneliness in the first place.\nYou find yourself idolizing social media couples\nIf you’re not a person who subscribes to #relationshipgoals culture, but you find yourself fixated or even idolizing social media couples as of late, it could be a sign that you’re simply yearning for a deeper personal connection with others. You may not actually miss being with your ex at all. You just want to connect with someone in a meaningful way and the way that the couples you follow present themselves on social media makes it appear as though they have the connection that you’re searching for.",
"10 Signs That You Don’t Really Miss Your Ex, You’re Just Lonely",
"COVID-19 has essentially obliterated how we connect and interact with others, which means that as we approach this Valentine's Day season, the loneliness can feel louder than ever."
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I got this damned virus. I had always taken it seriously, but now that I’ve had it, I know that this thing demands our respect and our attention. Here’s what COVID-19 was like for me.
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Well, it happened. We got that sh-t.
My husband and I drove just shy of 1,000 miles to escape the city and be with family in a more remote area for three months during the pandemic. We fled our apartment in a busy metropolitan area in the middle of the night with only five days’ worth of clothes when we heard people were getting into fistfights over toilet paper at grocery stores in March of 2020. We holed up in a cabin, developing true cabin fever, for a full fiscal quarter, trying to avoid the virus. On our way home to the big city, instead of having a real wedding as we thought we might one day, we eloped in Las Vegas – having our wedding over Zoom, with nobody present besides us and the minister. These were just some of the ways we let the pandemic turn our world upside down, so as to avoid getting COVID-19.
Then we came back to the city, nevertheless, leading a super isolated lifestyle. We both work from home. Only the grocery store gets either of us under a roof with people who aren’t from our household, and even then, we wear our masks and sanitize our hands the second we get home and after putting groceries away. Back in August, we treated ourselves to one weekend in an Airbnb with another couple – before which we all quarantined for 14 days and got tested. We were sort of the picture of pandemic perfection. And then, after all of that, just as social media reports started cropping up about friends in my age group getting the vaccine, something didn’t quite feel right. And I got this damned virus. I had always taken it seriously, but now that I’ve had it, I know that that thing demands our respect and our attention. Here’s what COVID-19 was like for me.
My experience with testing
If you’ve been told the only way to make sure you’re negative is to get a negative test and then quarantine for a while, that’s not paranoia. The tests are not 100 percent accurate and foolproof. Anything but. Case and point: my husband and I got tested together. He tested positive. I tested negative. And then, three days later, I got all of the COVID-19 symptoms. But I could have told anyone that was going to happen. I didn’t buy it for a second when the test said that. I lived with a COVID-19-positive individual, with whom I share a bed and meals and kisses, and I somehow didn’t have it? Yeah right. Neither of us were shocked when it turned out that my negative test was pretty worthless.
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While on the surface it seems as though Harriet Tubman being the first Black person to grace one of America's banknotes is a really great thing, some Twitter users felt otherwise.
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During today’s (Jan. 25) White House press conference, press secretary Jen Psaki confirmed for reporters that the Biden administration was recommitting governmental efforts to replacing former president, Andrew Jackson, with abolitionist and overall activist Harriet Tubman on the twenty-dollar bill.
The idea was initially publicized by the Obama administration, but due to several pushbacks in the Trump era, Tubman hasn’t yet been seen on America’s twenties. After being questioned about what the timeline was regarding when Tubman’s portrait would officially begin appearing on the banknote, Psaki shared that things were underway towards getting the historical icon reflected on America’s money.
“The Treasury Department is taking steps to resume efforts to put Harriet Tubman on the front of the new twenty-dollar notes,” she said. “It’s important that our notes, our money – if people don’t know what a note is – reflect the history and diversity of our country, and Harriet Tubman’s image gracing the new $20 note would certainly reflect that.”
While on the surface it seems as though Harriet Tubman being the first Black person to grace one of America’s banknotes is a really great thing, some Twitter users felt otherwise.
In a post with over 8,200 Likes and 1,600 Retweets from Monday, musician Noname gave her two cents on the news of Tubman’s bill with a tweet that read “hmm i think harriet tubman would be more interested in abolishing systems that perpetuate black suffering and death. it might make more sense to distribute money to blk communities instead of printing the image of a revolutionary on it. money that the u.s has BECAUSE of slavery.“
“The u.s dollar is a symbol of white supremacy and it maintains/expands global imperialism,” the musician added. “It has been used to suppress, colonize, and murder hundreds of millions of people. our fight is not about putting black faces on blood money, we fight to destroy capitalism.”
Similarly, user @The_Acumen also shared a critical viewpoint of the supposedly new twenty-dollar bill featuring Tubman. Describing the act as “perverse,” @The_Acumen couldn’t seem to get on board with the idea of putting a woman who was formerly sold as a slave on money to be passed through America’s capitalistic system. According to her, there are better ways the government could go about honoring the legendary abolitionist.
“Unpopular opinion,” the user began. “I don’t even want Harriet Tubman on the 20 dollar bill. Honestly I think there’s some sort of perversion in doing so. A woman who was traded as capital becoming the face of capital doesn’t sit right with my spirit.”
Later, she added, “If you wanna honor Tubman there are much better ways to do so that would change the material benefits of peoples lives. Build schools, parks, a historical center, etc in her name. Putting her face on the 20 dollar bill isn’t even a feel good. It’s giving me the yucks 🤢 ”
Even though having Harriet Tubman on the twenty-dollar bill is an amazing feat, and a symbol of tolerance, perseverance, and courage for the American people to be reminded of every time they use the currency, people aren’t wrong for being critical of how and why Tubman’s portrait is being used. In fact, the points they made shine a light on how historically, Black women have often been made to stand in the forefront while others push forward political agendas. Unfortunately, like everything else in the country these days, it seems like Tubman going on the banknote is another thing we stand divided on.
Scroll through to see some other Twitter reactions to the updated news of Harriet Tubman being memorialized on the twenty-dollar bill:
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The former "Married To Medicine" star is taking Bravo and a few production companies to court.
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Mariah Huq, known for starring on Married to Medicine, is taking legal action against the show’s home network. According to All About Tea, Huq has filed a lawsuit against Bravo alleging that they not only discriminated against her but also stole her ideas and didn’t pay her royalties. Huq not only stars on the show but is credited as the creator and an executive producer of the reality series on Bravo’s website.
“This lawsuit was filed today as a result of the defendants stealing Mariah Huq’s creation Married to Medicine and not paying her royalties, giving her proper credit for spinoffs etc. and treating her with discriminatory practices,” All About Tea’s Monica said in a video about the lawsuit, which was filed January 5. “The complaint is 20 pages long and lays out a significant number of discriminatory practices by NBC/Bravo/Fremantle and Purveyors of Pop, against Mariah Huq. An intellectual property and discrimination complaint has been filed by Mariah Huq and her attorney Bryan Freedman against NBC/Bravo/Fremantle and Purveyors of Pop.”
According to the lawsuit, Purveyors of Pop, Bravo, NBC and Fremantle “acted illegally and unethically which includes but is not limited to”:
unauthorized exploitation of “Married To Medicine” & Married To Medicine the Series.
Breach of Contract.
Breach of joint Venture Agreement.
breach of the covenant of good faith and fair dealing.
failure to prevent retaliation and harassment.
Huq has been vocal about feeling that she was treated differently than other White Bravo reality stars like Lisa Vanderpump and Whitney Sudler-Smith. In an interview she did in July 2020, Huq, who is Muslim, said producers told her she couldn’t wear a hijab during filming. She also wasn’t offered the opportunity to return to Married to Medicine for the show’s eighth season. Huq told All About Tea that she feels a network wouldn’t usually shut out the creator and one of the stars of a hit show and feels that her being Black played a role in the decision.
Former Bravo star NeNe Leakes has also accused Bravo, along with Andy Cohen, of discriminatory practices.
Y’all ready to start this boycott yet?,” she tweeted regarding rallying against Bravo on December 21, 2020. “What has happened behind the scenes is WRONG! While others were being promoted, BLACK WOMEN who created shows, created genres, built franchise and built networks were being DEMOTED…TURN OFF YOUR TV’S.”
In another tweet from that same day, she posted a link to a Change.org petition titled “Boycott Bravo TV/NBC Universal” that tries to persuades folks to sign on the grounds that Leakes wasn’t properly compensated or treated well considering what she contributed to the Real Housewives of Atlanta during her time on the show.
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"Mariah Huq, known for starring on Married to Medicine, is taking legal action against the show’s home network. According to All About Tea, Huq has filed a lawsuit against Bravo alleging that they not only discriminated against her but also stole her ideas and didn’t pay her royalties. Huq not only stars on the show but is credited as the creator and an executive producer of the reality series on Bravo’s website.\n“This lawsuit was filed today as a result of the defendants stealing Mariah Huq’s creation Married to Medicine and not paying her royalties, giving her proper credit for spinoffs etc. and treating her with discriminatory practices,” All About Tea’s Monica said in a video about the lawsuit, which was filed January 5. “The complaint is 20 pages long and lays out a significant number of discriminatory practices by NBC/Bravo/Fremantle and Purveyors of Pop, against Mariah Huq. An intellectual property and discrimination complaint has been filed by Mariah Huq and her attorney Bryan Freedman against NBC/Bravo/Fremantle and Purveyors of Pop.”\nAccording to the lawsuit, Purveyors of Pop, Bravo, NBC and Fremantle “acted illegally and unethically which includes but is not limited to”:\nunauthorized exploitation of “Married To Medicine” & Married To Medicine the Series.\nBreach of Contract.\nBreach of joint Venture Agreement.\nbreach of the covenant of good faith and fair dealing.\nfailure to prevent retaliation and harassment.\nHuq has been vocal about feeling that she was treated differently than other White Bravo reality stars like Lisa Vanderpump and Whitney Sudler-Smith. In an interview she did in July 2020, Huq, who is Muslim, said producers told her she couldn’t wear a hijab during filming. She also wasn’t offered the opportunity to return to Married to Medicine for the show’s eighth season. Huq told All About Tea that she feels a network wouldn’t usually shut out the creator and one of the stars of a hit show and feels that her being Black played a role in the decision.\nFormer Bravo star NeNe Leakes has also accused Bravo, along with Andy Cohen, of discriminatory practices.\nY’all ready to start this boycott yet?,” she tweeted regarding rallying against Bravo on December 21, 2020. “What has happened behind the scenes is WRONG! While others were being promoted, BLACK WOMEN who created shows, created genres, built franchise and built networks were being DEMOTED…TURN OFF YOUR TV’S.”\nIn another tweet from that same day, she posted a link to a Change.org petition titled “Boycott Bravo TV/NBC Universal” that tries to persuades folks to sign on the grounds that Leakes wasn’t properly compensated or treated well considering what she contributed to the Real Housewives of Atlanta during her time on the show.",
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During a recent panel where she was promoting her new Lifetime movie, TV host and radio icon Wendy Williams discussed what it was like to relive the ups and downs of her former relationship with her ex-husband, Kevin Hunter, for the project.
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Wendy Williams: “I Don’t Regret” Being With Ex Kevin Hunter For 25 Years
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During a recent panel where she was promoting her new Lifetime movie, TV host and radio icon Wendy Williams discussed what it was like to relive the highs and lows of her former relationship with her ex, Kevin Hunter.
In Wendy Williams: The Movie, which is set to air on January 30, all of Wendy’s life, from her rise to fame in radio and television, her celebrity feuds, her battles with addiction, and her tumultuous relationship with her ex-husband and former manager Kevin Hunter, is said to be touched on in the biopic.
When speaking on Kevin in a statement to PEOPLE, Williams said that looking back, she has no regrets about being with him or staying married to him for as long as she did.
“The life that I’m living right now is my best life, and I have no guilt about saying that. I don’t regret meeting Kevin, I don’t regret falling in love, I don’t regret staying with him for all 25 years, 21 of them married,” she said.
Giving a reason for staying in the marriage so long, Williams told reporters the more she saw Kevin’s presence in their family home as a steady presence and influence for their son, Kevin Jr., the more she wanted to try everything possible to make her family work. This was especially the case as her talk show grew in popularity.
“The bigger the talk show got and the more I would look into my son’s eyes and see the things that he needed regarding having his father present in the home, and his mother and the family foundation, the more I decided to give of myself,” she said.
Williams shared that her divorce was about 10 years in the making, but stuck around for her son.
The couple’s split was rocky, and it played out in the public eye over the past couple of years. She filed for divorce back in April 2019 as rumors of Hunter fathering a child with his alleged mistress Sharina Hudson were confirmed and allegations of physical abuse within their home swirled. In January of last year, the split between the two was officially finalized.
Based on what we read of the ups and downs of Williams’s marriage, it sounds like it will be one of the more fascinating things depicted in her biopic. Since she’s the executive producer of the film, hopefully, we’ll get a more clear idea of what really went down between the two of them behind the scenes, from Williams’s first-hand viewpoint. In the meantime, what are some of the things you want to see covered in Wendy Williams: The Movie?
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Last night, watching the hot mess of Chris and Paige's wedding reception, it was clear that Paige deserved more than having to field off inappropriate questions on camera and taking sex advice from her father in law.
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MAFS: Paige Deserved Better Than Chris’ Wild Questions & His Creepy Daddy
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Last night, we watched as the last two couples, Haley and Jacob and Chris and Paige tied the knot. Honestly, the whole episode could have been devoted to all of the cringey, red-flag moments that took place at Chris and Paige’s wedding but we’ll get to that a bit later. In the meantime, let’s discuss what stood out to us about each of the couples this go-round.
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"MAFS: Paige Deserved Better Than Chris’ Wild Questions & His Creepy Daddy",
"Last night, watching the hot mess of Chris and Paige's wedding reception, it was clear that Paige deserved more than having to field off inappropriate questions on camera and taking sex advice from her father in law."
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"Victoria Uwumarogie"
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Dr. Yolanda Lenzy shares why flakes form on our scalp, the hair routines that contribute to it, including oiling the scalp, and she offers a simple dandruff treatment to help clear up flakes.
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Hair Hacks: A Dermatologist Explains Why You Shouldn’t “Grease” Your Scalp
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Let’s talk about dandruff. It’s a Debbie Downer when it comes to scalp health, peppering your hair and covering your clothing in embarrassing flakes. For some, it’s a sign that it’s simply time to give your scalp a deep cleansing, but for others, it’s a consistent issue. For all of us though, it grows in one way or another because of something present on each and every one of our scalps: yeast.
“We all have yeast that live on our scalps,” says Dermatologist and Hair Wellness expert Dr. Yolanda Lenzy. She’s partnered with Dove to help women of color combat hair issues. “Different times of the year, different things we’re going through, that yeast can overgrow. You can go through periods where you’re getting more itching, flaking, things like that.”
To deal with an overgrowth of yeast, Lenzy recommends active shampoos that include the ingredient zinc pyrithione for dandruff treatment. It’s present, for example, in Dove’s Dermacare line.
“That active is really good at helping to decrease that yeast that builds up on the scalp,” she said.
For those with ongoing dandruff issues, Dr. Lenzy recommends putting an active shampoo featuring the zinc complex on your hair while it’s dry ahead of washing it. After letting it sit for five or 10 minutes, you can then lather up the shampoo and rinse it out. If your hair needs extra moisture, she says you can follow it up with a moisturizing shampoo, like the sulfate-free option from Dove’s Amplified Textures line.
“I like to combine an active with a moisturizing shampoo,” she said. “That strategy usually works well. I usually like the active shampoo to sit on the scalp for a little bit longer than just an immediate, normal wash. That’s why I tell patients put it on before you get in the shower and while your hair’s still dry. Then you can lather it up.”
It’s recommended that you give this routine a try for four to six weeks if you’re washing your hair once a week. By that length of time, you should be able to gauge whether this really helps with your scalp issues or not. If it doesn’t help, seek out a dermatologist who can then prescribe a medicated shampoo (women breastfeeding aren’t able to use those, though).
As for caring for your scalp after the washing process, Dr. Lenzy says that oiling your scalp when it’s clean can actually exacerbate dandruff issues. Therefore, she says scrap “greasing” the scalp in favor of moisturizing all of your hair.
“I’m actually not a big fan of oiling the scalp,” she says. “When you oil the scalp, that provides for the yeast that lives on our scalp. So while it initially takes down the dry flakes, if you go in the next day and try to scrape it up, it comes up even more.”
“If you need to do moisture, do it on the shaft of the hair but not on the scalp itself,” she added. “We actually produce a lot of sebum on our scalp, but with afro-textured hair, the sebum does not travel down the hair shaft. It stays at the scalp level and that’s what makes the dandruff and things worse.”
Scalp massages are a great way to help distribute that sebum from the scalp to other parts of the hair.
So if you’ve struggled with a flaky scalp and wondered how to deal with it, you have a new regimen to try. Apply an active shampoo with zinc pyrithione to your scalp and let it sit before washing, then follow up with a moisturizing shampoo. Once dry, moisturize all of your hair, as opposed to letting oils sit on the scalp and worsening dandruff issues. Repeat about once a week, especially as the approaching cold weather months dry out hair. And if after four to six weeks you have seen an improvement in your scalp health, you’ve found the routine for you. Thank us later.
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"Let’s talk about dandruff. It’s a Debbie Downer when it comes to scalp health, peppering your hair and covering your clothing in embarrassing flakes. For some, it’s a sign that it’s simply time to give your scalp a deep cleansing, but for others, it’s a consistent issue. For all of us though, it grows in one way or another because of something present on each and every one of our scalps: yeast.\n“We all have yeast that live on our scalps,” says Dermatologist and Hair Wellness expert Dr. Yolanda Lenzy. She’s partnered with Dove to help women of color combat hair issues. “Different times of the year, different things we’re going through, that yeast can overgrow. You can go through periods where you’re getting more itching, flaking, things like that.”\nTo deal with an overgrowth of yeast, Lenzy recommends active shampoos that include the ingredient zinc pyrithione for dandruff treatment. It’s present, for example, in Dove’s Dermacare line.\n“That active is really good at helping to decrease that yeast that builds up on the scalp,” she said.\nFor those with ongoing dandruff issues, Dr. Lenzy recommends putting an active shampoo featuring the zinc complex on your hair while it’s dry ahead of washing it. After letting it sit for five or 10 minutes, you can then lather up the shampoo and rinse it out. If your hair needs extra moisture, she says you can follow it up with a moisturizing shampoo, like the sulfate-free option from Dove’s Amplified Textures line.\n“I like to combine an active with a moisturizing shampoo,” she said. “That strategy usually works well. I usually like the active shampoo to sit on the scalp for a little bit longer than just an immediate, normal wash. That’s why I tell patients put it on before you get in the shower and while your hair’s still dry. Then you can lather it up.”\nIt’s recommended that you give this routine a try for four to six weeks if you’re washing your hair once a week. By that length of time, you should be able to gauge whether this really helps with your scalp issues or not. If it doesn’t help, seek out a dermatologist who can then prescribe a medicated shampoo (women breastfeeding aren’t able to use those, though).\nAs for caring for your scalp after the washing process, Dr. Lenzy says that oiling your scalp when it’s clean can actually exacerbate dandruff issues. Therefore, she says scrap “greasing” the scalp in favor of moisturizing all of your hair.\n“I’m actually not a big fan of oiling the scalp,” she says. “When you oil the scalp, that provides for the yeast that lives on our scalp. So while it initially takes down the dry flakes, if you go in the next day and try to scrape it up, it comes up even more.”\n“If you need to do moisture, do it on the shaft of the hair but not on the scalp itself,” she added. “We actually produce a lot of sebum on our scalp, but with afro-textured hair, the sebum does not travel down the hair shaft. It stays at the scalp level and that’s what makes the dandruff and things worse.”\nScalp massages are a great way to help distribute that sebum from the scalp to other parts of the hair.\nSo if you’ve struggled with a flaky scalp and wondered how to deal with it, you have a new regimen to try. Apply an active shampoo with zinc pyrithione to your scalp and let it sit before washing, then follow up with a moisturizing shampoo. Once dry, moisturize all of your hair, as opposed to letting oils sit on the scalp and worsening dandruff issues. Repeat about once a week, especially as the approaching cold weather months dry out hair. And if after four to six weeks you have seen an improvement in your scalp health, you’ve found the routine for you. Thank us later.",
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"Dr. Yolanda Lenzy shares why flakes form on our scalp, the hair routines that contribute to it, including oiling the scalp, and she offers a simple dandruff treatment to help clear up flakes."
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With the shift to remote living happening due to the pandemic, there are fewer barriers to picking up and living abroad with your family. Why not give it some thought?
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From One Mom To Another: The Pros And Cons Of Raising Black Children Abroad
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For most of my adult life, I have lived overseas in various parts of the world. When I started my career, I was a single woman in a relationship not even thinking about children. However, as the years passed and life progressed, I got married and had two children who have spent most of their young lives living overseas and becoming global citizens. Of course, as a parent, when you make such a decision, you are always weighing the pros and cons of life overseas versus life back home. For my family, I can say the pros vastly outweighed the cons. However, I can also understand that the idea of uprooting your family and heading to destinations halfway across the world can seem like an impossible task. It doesn’t have to be, though.
The largest con and only major downside for our family is that we are away from friend and family networks. Because of that, we can’t always be there in person for the big moments, like weddings, baby showers, graduations, and funerals. The important extended family connections are not as close as they might otherwise be if were living back home, due to the distance. However, since we live in the digital age of social media, social networking platforms have made it much easier to maintain and develop those relationships in the absence of in-person opportunities. They’ve helped us be connected and to feel up to date on each other’s lives and goings-ons.
There are plenty of pros, though. One is adaptability and flexibility. By living overseas and being exposed to different cultures, immersed in various languages, diverse beliefs and value systems, complex time zones, and distinctive societal rules and norms has forced my children to cope with change. The beauty is that they don’t even realize it because living abroad is all they know, so it is their norm. Growing up overseas has taught my children how to thrive in ambiguity and figure out how to navigate in foreign places and situations.
There’s also the perk of language development. There are a lot of great bilingual education and immersion programs in the United States and many people live in multilingual households. However, living overseas, children are not only formally educated in another language, but they are also exposed to it constantly. They hear the languages spoken in the streets and on the radio when driving in the car, they have to read signs in the foreign language, and they interact with people in daily life in the foreign language. It has been proven that language immersion is one of the best ways to learn another language and to plant the seed in the brain that helps them to have better linguistics later in life. Children who learn a second language have a higher cognitive function, great academic achievement, and increased cultural enrichment.
Now for the schooling. While the thought of uprooting your children from their school environment seems like something you might not want to do, I am here to tell you to consider it. Many of the international schools overseas are better resourced, have smaller class sizes, qualified teachers from all over the world, and a very diverse school population. The things your children will learn inside and outside of the classroom are truly incomparable and will set them up for success for whatever academic pursuits they have after high school. Studies have shown that students who lived overseas during childhood have a higher likelihood of attaining a college degree than those who haven’t.
As for the family dynamics, because you are away from extended friends and family, this creates closeness in the nuclear family. You end up spending more time together and doing more collectively, which makes the intra-familial bonds stronger. Life overseas isn’t always easy, so you end up leaning on each other more, relying on each other, growing together, and showing up for each other in ways not always needed when you’re back home. I have found this to be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling parts of life overseas.
Lastly, the quality of life can be better elsewhere. Depending upon where you live in the world, the cost of living may be lower and the dollar may go further, which means you will have a higher quality of life and can do more things as a family. We have been able to travel with our children to the Galapagos Islands, the Amazon jungle, Machu Picchu, visited the tallest building in the world in the Burj Khalifa in Dubai and been to exclusive beaches, and more. These amazing experiences are luxuries that we wouldn’t have been able to afford had we lived back home. We were able to take advantage of such opportunities by living overseas.
Living overseas is not a decision to be made lightly, though. There are lots of moving parts and things to consider. However, I have never regretted the decision to raise my children abroad. Though we miss our family and friends dearly, we always enjoy coming home for visits and giving them an excuse to travel to visit us. There is a big world out there with so much to offer. With the shift to remote living happening due to the pandemic, there are fewer barriers to picking up and living with your family overseas. Why not give it some thought? You won’t regret it.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nFor most of my adult life, I have lived overseas in various parts of the world. When I started my career, I was a single woman in a relationship not even thinking about children. However, as the years passed and life progressed, I got married and had two children who have spent most of their young lives living overseas and becoming global citizens. Of course, as a parent, when you make such a decision, you are always weighing the pros and cons of life overseas versus life back home. For my family, I can say the pros vastly outweighed the cons. However, I can also understand that the idea of uprooting your family and heading to destinations halfway across the world can seem like an impossible task. It doesn’t have to be, though.\nThe largest con and only major downside for our family is that we are away from friend and family networks. Because of that, we can’t always be there in person for the big moments, like weddings, baby showers, graduations, and funerals. The important extended family connections are not as close as they might otherwise be if were living back home, due to the distance. However, since we live in the digital age of social media, social networking platforms have made it much easier to maintain and develop those relationships in the absence of in-person opportunities. They’ve helped us be connected and to feel up to date on each other’s lives and goings-ons.\nThere are plenty of pros, though. One is adaptability and flexibility. By living overseas and being exposed to different cultures, immersed in various languages, diverse beliefs and value systems, complex time zones, and distinctive societal rules and norms has forced my children to cope with change. The beauty is that they don’t even realize it because living abroad is all they know, so it is their norm. Growing up overseas has taught my children how to thrive in ambiguity and figure out how to navigate in foreign places and situations.\nThere’s also the perk of language development. There are a lot of great bilingual education and immersion programs in the United States and many people live in multilingual households. However, living overseas, children are not only formally educated in another language, but they are also exposed to it constantly. They hear the languages spoken in the streets and on the radio when driving in the car, they have to read signs in the foreign language, and they interact with people in daily life in the foreign language. It has been proven that language immersion is one of the best ways to learn another language and to plant the seed in the brain that helps them to have better linguistics later in life. Children who learn a second language have a higher cognitive function, great academic achievement, and increased cultural enrichment.\nNow for the schooling. While the thought of uprooting your children from their school environment seems like something you might not want to do, I am here to tell you to consider it. Many of the international schools overseas are better resourced, have smaller class sizes, qualified teachers from all over the world, and a very diverse school population. The things your children will learn inside and outside of the classroom are truly incomparable and will set them up for success for whatever academic pursuits they have after high school. Studies have shown that students who lived overseas during childhood have a higher likelihood of attaining a college degree than those who haven’t.\nAs for the family dynamics, because you are away from extended friends and family, this creates closeness in the nuclear family. You end up spending more time together and doing more collectively, which makes the intra-familial bonds stronger. Life overseas isn’t always easy, so you end up leaning on each other more, relying on each other, growing together, and showing up for each other in ways not always needed when you’re back home. I have found this to be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling parts of life overseas.\nLastly, the quality of life can be better elsewhere. Depending upon where you live in the world, the cost of living may be lower and the dollar may go further, which means you will have a higher quality of life and can do more things as a family. We have been able to travel with our children to the Galapagos Islands, the Amazon jungle, Machu Picchu, visited the tallest building in the world in the Burj Khalifa in Dubai and been to exclusive beaches, and more. These amazing experiences are luxuries that we wouldn’t have been able to afford had we lived back home. We were able to take advantage of such opportunities by living overseas.\nLiving overseas is not a decision to be made lightly, though. There are lots of moving parts and things to consider. However, I have never regretted the decision to raise my children abroad. Though we miss our family and friends dearly, we always enjoy coming home for visits and giving them an excuse to travel to visit us. There is a big world out there with so much to offer. With the shift to remote living happening due to the pandemic, there are fewer barriers to picking up and living with your family overseas. Why not give it some thought? You won’t regret it.",
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Netflix's newest original movie, "Malcolm and Marie," stars Zendaya and John David Washington in a black-and-white, sexy drama about the pitfalls and perseverance of love. It looks good, but some are already debating whether the film is a believable, "age-appropriate" fit for the 24-year-old actress.
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Netflix’s newest original film, Malcolm & Marie, stars Zendaya and John David Washington in a black-and-white, sexy drama about the pitfalls and perseverance of love. The trailer for the film dropped just a short time ago on Friday (January 8) and people are already weighing in on how good it looks. They’re also discussing the 12-year age gap between the two co-stars and how that plays into the chemistry and believability of the stars as an on-screen couple. But let’s discuss the movie’s premise first.
“As a filmmaker and his girlfriend return home from his movie premiere,” Netflix writes, “smoldering tensions and painful revelations push them toward a romantic reckoning.” The streaming site also lists the film as an independent drama that is both intimate and emotional.
Even though we only have the trailer to go off of until the film is released on the site on February 5, the Internet is already buzzing about the movie’s sole actors.
Zendaya, who is 24 in real life, plays Marie, the girlfriend of Malcolm, played by John David Washington, who is 36 years old in real life. Even though she looks more adult than she ever has on-screen, and has reportedly given a performance some are already calling “Oscar-worthy,” many just can’t wrap their heads around the age difference between the two in the film, or see Zendaya, former Disney star, as a character with the intense relationship issues and adulthood woes depicted in the film. Based on only a trailer, some can’t see them just yet as an intensely passionate couple.
The film, “which was quietly shooting all along during the pandemic” according to a Deadline report from July, is directed by Sam Levinson, who is also the creator of Euphoria. That’s the dark HBO drama where Zendaya plays Rue, a teenager struggling with drug addiction who deals with the complicated ups and down concerning sexuality, depression, young love, and the tumult of high school years. In the Deadline exclusive, details on the film shared that Zendaya was actually the one who called Levinson back in March to see if the filmmaker could write a film for her to star in. Within six days, the project had been written, and “Levinson, his production partner and wife Ashley Levinson, longtime producer Kevin Turen, Washington and Zendaya took it upon themselves to bankroll Malcolm & Marie during pre-production and production.”
Even though we’re used to seeing her play younger roles, maybe being in this film is Zendaya’s way us letting us know that now she’s unapologetically grown, and sexy too. No more family-friendly fluff for her. For what it’s worth, the trailer for Malcolm & Marie looks really good, and perhaps Zendaya will surprise everyone, quieting skeptics. I’ll certainly be watching. How about you?
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"Netflix’s newest original film, Malcolm & Marie, stars Zendaya and John David Washington in a black-and-white, sexy drama about the pitfalls and perseverance of love. The trailer for the film dropped just a short time ago on Friday (January 8) and people are already weighing in on how good it looks. They’re also discussing the 12-year age gap between the two co-stars and how that plays into the chemistry and believability of the stars as an on-screen couple. But let’s discuss the movie’s premise first.\n“As a filmmaker and his girlfriend return home from his movie premiere,” Netflix writes, “smoldering tensions and painful revelations push them toward a romantic reckoning.” The streaming site also lists the film as an independent drama that is both intimate and emotional.\nEven though we only have the trailer to go off of until the film is released on the site on February 5, the Internet is already buzzing about the movie’s sole actors.\nZendaya, who is 24 in real life, plays Marie, the girlfriend of Malcolm, played by John David Washington, who is 36 years old in real life. Even though she looks more adult than she ever has on-screen, and has reportedly given a performance some are already calling “Oscar-worthy,” many just can’t wrap their heads around the age difference between the two in the film, or see Zendaya, former Disney star, as a character with the intense relationship issues and adulthood woes depicted in the film. Based on only a trailer, some can’t see them just yet as an intensely passionate couple.\nThe film, “which was quietly shooting all along during the pandemic” according to a Deadline report from July, is directed by Sam Levinson, who is also the creator of Euphoria. That’s the dark HBO drama where Zendaya plays Rue, a teenager struggling with drug addiction who deals with the complicated ups and down concerning sexuality, depression, young love, and the tumult of high school years. In the Deadline exclusive, details on the film shared that Zendaya was actually the one who called Levinson back in March to see if the filmmaker could write a film for her to star in. Within six days, the project had been written, and “Levinson, his production partner and wife Ashley Levinson, longtime producer Kevin Turen, Washington and Zendaya took it upon themselves to bankroll Malcolm & Marie during pre-production and production.”\nEven though we’re used to seeing her play younger roles, maybe being in this film is Zendaya’s way us letting us know that now she’s unapologetically grown, and sexy too. No more family-friendly fluff for her. For what it’s worth, the trailer for Malcolm & Marie looks really good, and perhaps Zendaya will surprise everyone, quieting skeptics. I’ll certainly be watching. How about you?",
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As we're taking our first steps into the new year, it's important that we know what things we're going to prioritize moving forward, and what things we're leaving behind. Regardless of the hurdles we faced in 2020, we're getting our new priorities in gear so that we can face 2021 smarter, wiser, and happier.
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2020 was a chaotic year. As we’re coming off of that and taking our first steps into the new year, it’s important that we have a strong knowledge of what things we’re going to prioritize moving forward, and what things we’re leaving behind. Last year caught us off guard in a lot of ways, like maybe not having enough insurance for medical bills, not enough savings, and for many Americans, not enough money available to even keep food on the table. Some of us also struggled to prioritize ourselves and to connect to the people around us. Regardless of the hurdles we faced, we’re getting our new priorities in gear so that we can face 2021 smarter, wiser, and happier.
Having Proper Healthcare Coverage and Policies in Place
This might be one of the biggest changes in our priorities this year and for good reason. We’ve all made “being healthy and exercising” a new year’s resolution at least once in our lives if not every year, but this year, prioritizing our health is deeper and more important than ever. Everyone has been affected by COVID-19 in some way, shape, or form, so going into the new year with a clear knowledge of what your healthcare coverage includes and doesn’t is a good way of getting your house in order. Talk to your employer about what health benefits you’re eligible for and which ones you haven’t been taking advantage of. Discuss with your family life insurance if you don’t already have it in place. Lastly, if you haven’t already, consider keeping some money stashed away in case you or a loved one needs to take an urgent trip to the emergency room. If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that we never want to feel caught off guard when it comes to being able to take care of our health.
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"2020 was a chaotic year. As we’re coming off of that and taking our first steps into the new year, it’s important that we have a strong knowledge of what things we’re going to prioritize moving forward, and what things we’re leaving behind. Last year caught us off guard in a lot of ways, like maybe not having enough insurance for medical bills, not enough savings, and for many Americans, not enough money available to even keep food on the table. Some of us also struggled to prioritize ourselves and to connect to the people around us. Regardless of the hurdles we faced, we’re getting our new priorities in gear so that we can face 2021 smarter, wiser, and happier.\nHaving Proper Healthcare Coverage and Policies in Place\nThis might be one of the biggest changes in our priorities this year and for good reason. We’ve all made “being healthy and exercising” a new year’s resolution at least once in our lives if not every year, but this year, prioritizing our health is deeper and more important than ever. Everyone has been affected by COVID-19 in some way, shape, or form, so going into the new year with a clear knowledge of what your healthcare coverage includes and doesn’t is a good way of getting your house in order. Talk to your employer about what health benefits you’re eligible for and which ones you haven’t been taking advantage of. Discuss with your family life insurance if you don’t already have it in place. Lastly, if you haven’t already, consider keeping some money stashed away in case you or a loved one needs to take an urgent trip to the emergency room. If 2020 taught us anything, it’s that we never want to feel caught off guard when it comes to being able to take care of our health.",
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"As we're taking our first steps into the new year, it's important that we know what things we're going to prioritize moving forward, and what things we're leaving behind. Regardless of the hurdles we faced in 2020, we're getting our new priorities in gear so that we can face 2021 smarter, wiser, and happier."
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Today, news outlets and Issa Rae herself shared that the next season of "Insecure," season 5, will be the show's last. See what fans had to say about all of this inside.
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Today, Deadline, show writer Prentice Penny, and Issa Rae herself confirmed that the next season of “Insecure,” season 5 will be the last.
Take a breath.
While this news may come as a surprise to those of us who have been devouring the show since it was first released in 2016, apparently this was always a part of the plan.
Issa told Deadline, “We always planned to tell this story through five seasons, but we couldn’t have made it this far without the tremendous support of our audience. I feel blessed beyond measure to bring our characters’ stories to an end, on-screen at least.”
Production for the fifth and final season is set to begin later this month. Series regulars and favorites, Natasha Rothwell, Jay Ellis, Amanda Seales, and Yvonne Orji will all return for season 5. (As they should.)
Personally, I would love for Y’lan Noel to slide through as well, but it’s not my decision to make.
Insecure was renewed for season 5 back in May 2020, a month after season 4 premiered on HBO this Spring, providing a very welcome distraction from the fact we were all sequestered to our respective homes.
Thankfully, the ending of “Insecure” will be far from the last time we see Issa Rae. In addition to her record label and coffee shop, she recently became the co-owner and brand ambassador of a natural hair care line. She mentioned that she has an app in the works and according to her IMDB page, she has a documentary and a tv mini series in the works. Sis is busy.
Still, that might not satisfy the folks who have come to love “Insecure.” In case you didn’t know, the fans don’t play about this particular piece of programming. And when the news dropped, it wasn’t exactly met with excitement, but more confusion and some mild outrage.
At this point, with fans begging for longer and more episodes per season, Issa knows how the people can be. And when she shared the news via her Instagram stories, the day after her birthday, she made sure to do so with a warning.
“Aht Aht. Y’all were nice as f*ck to my a$$ yesterday. Don’t forget that same energy today.”
But some folks on Twitter might have missed that memo.
See how folks reacted to the news on the following pages.
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We talked to the Chloe x Halle about their journey, including their recent Grammy nominations, embracing and showing off their bodies as young adults, and how as sisters working side-by-side since they were kids they manage to keep the peace and good vibes.
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For Grownish stars Chloe and Halle Bailey, the theme song they sing for the show in which they star is very much pertinent to their lives: “Watch out world I’m grown now.”
The 22 and 20-year-old sisters came into the spotlight when they were children, doing covers of popular songs as young girls with big voices on YouTube. Since then, they’ve released two studio albums, toured with their mentor Beyoncé, become fan-favorite stars of the popular Freeform sitcom, and, as everyone has noticed, grown up. They are no longer little girls. They sing about getting d-pics from ratchet dudes, moving on from the trifling ones, and they dress in some of the most stunning, sexy attire when performing with help from star stylist Zerina Akers. A lot of people love it, but there are those who are still shocked to see them in their element now. They have to get used to it, though.
“Of course, since we started out young, people are definitely like, ‘Oh wow, you guys really grew up before my eyes,'” Halle says during a Zoom call to promote the return of Season 3 of Grownish. “But I’ll be 21 in March and Chloe is 22 right now and it’s just a beautiful journey we get to go on as women.”
We talked to the duo about their journey, including their recent Grammy nominations for their sophomore album Ungodly Hour, embracing and showing off their bodies as young adults, and how as sisters working side-by-side since they were kids they manage to keep the peace and good vibes. Check out what they had to say.
MadameNoire: Congratulations on your gold plaques! I saw you guys celebrating on social media. You are also recent Grammy nominees. How does it feel to have these types of wins? You’ve come a long way from doing YouTube videos as kids.
Halle Bailey: Yes! Well, we just feel so grateful, so honored to be able to do what we love and make a living from it and receive accolades for it. We are just so blessed and pinch ourselves every single day. Music is truly our love and the fact that I get to do this with my sister, my best friend, is just truly an honor. I’m just so grateful, especially in the times we’re in right now. There’s so much to be grateful for. I just pinch myself.
Chloe Bailey: I definitely agree, 1,000 percent. Every time I wake up I’m filled with such gratitude and every accomplishment that happens, we’re kind of surprised by it because where our heads and mind space tend to go is really the music and each other and performing and being at our best. We were at a photo shoot and our label came and surprised us with the gold plaques. We were utterly surprised. We were so happy and just grateful and I can’t wait to create even more moments like that with Halle. I’m just really happy right now.
We missed you on Grownish! We’re glad the third season is returning. Tell us what we can expect from Jazz and Sky. It seems Jazz is stuck on Doug and Sky is stuck on being shady. So let’s talk about it [laughs].
Chloe: [laughs] Jazz, Jazz, Jazz. That’s all I’m going to say because where it left off, Jazz was asking Doug to wait for her for six months so she could focus on her track, which I applaud her for. I really, really do and I’m really proud of her. Now, I don’t know what Doug’s gonna do. We’re just gonna have to see because I don’t know that guys can really go six months without being with their girl. But I would do it! If I found the one? I would. But we just gotta see what happens in the season. So stay tuned.
And what about Sky?
Halle: Sky is definitely, there’s more of her being shady, like it or not. So there’s that. Then there’s her being motivated, being herself in a good place with track. She came back from her injury. She’s back to her full strength. And she is more motivated than ever. She just wants to make sure that her and Jazz do what is needed. So if that is leaning toward Jazz and saying. ‘Girl we gotta come correct,’ trying to wake people up, that’s what she’s trying to do. As well as give love in the way she knows she can. She’s a softy inside like I am but on the outside, she can kind of put up a front.
Chloe, I don’t know if you mind me asking, but there were rumors and stories about who you dating your co-star [Diggy Simmons]. If that is true, you don’t have to tell me your business. But if that’s true, how do you guys keep it cute and professional working together after the fact?
Oh wow. Well, the whole cast is so amazing. We’re all really, really close. It’s easy because we have fun and we’re working at the same time. You forget we’re working. I’m just happy we can all do this together and comfortably and in a loving space.
Were you ever nervous in terms of changing your sound? We know you from the YouTube videos. You guys were young then and now you’re grown. You guys are wearing what you want, singing about what you want. And not that you guys weren’t before, but you’re doing it while embracing being grown a– women. So were you ever nervous about how other people might take that?
Halle: No! Genuinely, I don’t. Because I find that our journey that we are on, we’re going to do what our hearts desire and just continue to try to spread God’s love in whatever way we can. So if we’re growing into who we are as women and we want to post ourselves and look beautiful doing it, that is just fine. I’m so proud of my sister for being this amazing inspiration to me to make me want to come into my full skin and show the world that I’m proud of who I am. I think that that is so special and important to all of us.
The streets want to know what’s the tea on getting these body-ody-odies y’all got!? Now that you’re showing ’em, we need the advice. What’s the workout? What are you eating? Talk [laughs].
Chloe: Well, I’m gonna keep it 1,000. There’s no secret because one, I really love to eat. And I have a love-hate relationship with food. So if I’m not constantly doing cardio, I will blow up. My weight fluctuates up and down. It makes me happy when people compliment my body a lot, but honestly, it’s a struggle sometimes keeping up with it. So I’m grateful to God for my genes. And I’m grateful to God for giving me a healthy body so I can work out safely and burn the weight off because I love food. And I stress eat! We’re vegan but the thing is, with being vegan, just because it’s vegan doesn’t mean it’s healthy. You just gotta do you and what works for you. And Halle was born with a nice little body so she doesn’t really have to do much. She always has nice abs. Every time! I’m like, “Girl!”
[laughs] Don’t you hate that!?
No, I don’t hate it because when I look at her abs it makes me wanna get abs, so it’s motivation.
And lastly, how is it that you guys are able to be so close that you can perform together, you can work together on TV and make music together? For a lot of people, working with family, you can bump heads. But you guys seem to be genuinely loving, happy sisters when sometimes people can feel like, “I wanna go over here and do my own thing.” Can you speak on that? How do you guys maintain such a positive relationship?
Halle: You know what, I think what works for us is that we respect one another and each other’s boundaries and each other’s feelings. I am the little sister, so I feel like I’ve always clung to Chloe as my safety net, as my angel through this life. But as we’re getting older, I have to understand and respect that we’re both growing into our own and that’s a beautiful thing. She will always be here for me. And I’m just so grateful to have somebody like her throughout this lifetime. And I think when we were younger the reason we were so close is because we got homeschooled from a very young age. So we were each other’s best friends growing up. Getting to really connect with somebody and work with somebody and bond with somebody that you trust is a whole other level of just safety. For that, I’m just forever grateful.
Chloe: Yeah, I would have to piggyback off of what Halle says. When we got homeschooled, our bond got really tight and then our harmonies started kicking in. I think it’s something so beautiful when siblings sing together because there’s some sort of synergy or magical energy in the air. It’s two people who come from the same backgrounds, grew up the same way, start singing together, you’re almost sharing the same experiences vocally and melodically with each other. I always feel magic when I get to sing with my sister. I love it because we’re both strong vocalists on our own, but when it comes together it really takes it to another level. If I tried to sing the same notes with someone else, it would not sound the same. There’s just something there when you sing with someone you’re already really close to.
The midseason debut of Season 3 premieres on THURSDAY, JAN. 21, at 8:00 p.m. EST/PST on Freeform.
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They have to get used to it, though.\n“Of course, since we started out young, people are definitely like, ‘Oh wow, you guys really grew up before my eyes,'” Halle says during a Zoom call to promote the return of Season 3 of Grownish. “But I’ll be 21 in March and Chloe is 22 right now and it’s just a beautiful journey we get to go on as women.”\nWe talked to the duo about their journey, including their recent Grammy nominations for their sophomore album Ungodly Hour, embracing and showing off their bodies as young adults, and how as sisters working side-by-side since they were kids they manage to keep the peace and good vibes. Check out what they had to say.\nMadameNoire: Congratulations on your gold plaques! I saw you guys celebrating on social media. You are also recent Grammy nominees. How does it feel to have these types of wins? You’ve come a long way from doing YouTube videos as kids.\nHalle Bailey: Yes! Well, we just feel so grateful, so honored to be able to do what we love and make a living from it and receive accolades for it. We are just so blessed and pinch ourselves every single day. Music is truly our love and the fact that I get to do this with my sister, my best friend, is just truly an honor. I’m just so grateful, especially in the times we’re in right now. There’s so much to be grateful for. I just pinch myself.\nChloe Bailey: I definitely agree, 1,000 percent. Every time I wake up I’m filled with such gratitude and every accomplishment that happens, we’re kind of surprised by it because where our heads and mind space tend to go is really the music and each other and performing and being at our best. We were at a photo shoot and our label came and surprised us with the gold plaques. We were utterly surprised. We were so happy and just grateful and I can’t wait to create even more moments like that with Halle. I’m just really happy right now.\nWe missed you on Grownish! We’re glad the third season is returning. Tell us what we can expect from Jazz and Sky. It seems Jazz is stuck on Doug and Sky is stuck on being shady. So let’s talk about it [laughs].\nChloe: [laughs] Jazz, Jazz, Jazz. That’s all I’m going to say because where it left off, Jazz was asking Doug to wait for her for six months so she could focus on her track, which I applaud her for. I really, really do and I’m really proud of her. Now, I don’t know what Doug’s gonna do. We’re just gonna have to see because I don’t know that guys can really go six months without being with their girl. But I would do it! If I found the one? I would. But we just gotta see what happens in the season. So stay tuned.\nAnd what about Sky?\nHalle: Sky is definitely, there’s more of her being shady, like it or not. So there’s that. Then there’s her being motivated, being herself in a good place with track. She came back from her injury. She’s back to her full strength. And she is more motivated than ever. She just wants to make sure that her and Jazz do what is needed. So if that is leaning toward Jazz and saying. ‘Girl we gotta come correct,’ trying to wake people up, that’s what she’s trying to do. As well as give love in the way she knows she can. She’s a softy inside like I am but on the outside, she can kind of put up a front.\nChloe, I don’t know if you mind me asking, but there were rumors and stories about who you dating your co-star [Diggy Simmons]. If that is true, you don’t have to tell me your business. But if that’s true, how do you guys keep it cute and professional working together after the fact?\nOh wow. Well, the whole cast is so amazing. We’re all really, really close. It’s easy because we have fun and we’re working at the same time. You forget we’re working. I’m just happy we can all do this together and comfortably and in a loving space.\nWere you ever nervous in terms of changing your sound? We know you from the YouTube videos. You guys were young then and now you’re grown. You guys are wearing what you want, singing about what you want. And not that you guys weren’t before, but you’re doing it while embracing being grown a– women. So were you ever nervous about how other people might take that?\nHalle: No! Genuinely, I don’t. Because I find that our journey that we are on, we’re going to do what our hearts desire and just continue to try to spread God’s love in whatever way we can. So if we’re growing into who we are as women and we want to post ourselves and look beautiful doing it, that is just fine. I’m so proud of my sister for being this amazing inspiration to me to make me want to come into my full skin and show the world that I’m proud of who I am. I think that that is so special and important to all of us.\nThe streets want to know what’s the tea on getting these body-ody-odies y’all got!? Now that you’re showing ’em, we need the advice. What’s the workout? What are you eating? Talk [laughs].\nChloe: Well, I’m gonna keep it 1,000. There’s no secret because one, I really love to eat. And I have a love-hate relationship with food. So if I’m not constantly doing cardio, I will blow up. My weight fluctuates up and down. It makes me happy when people compliment my body a lot, but honestly, it’s a struggle sometimes keeping up with it. So I’m grateful to God for my genes. And I’m grateful to God for giving me a healthy body so I can work out safely and burn the weight off because I love food. And I stress eat! We’re vegan but the thing is, with being vegan, just because it’s vegan doesn’t mean it’s healthy. You just gotta do you and what works for you. And Halle was born with a nice little body so she doesn’t really have to do much. She always has nice abs. Every time! I’m like, “Girl!”\n[laughs] Don’t you hate that!?\nNo, I don’t hate it because when I look at her abs it makes me wanna get abs, so it’s motivation.\nAnd lastly, how is it that you guys are able to be so close that you can perform together, you can work together on TV and make music together? For a lot of people, working with family, you can bump heads. But you guys seem to be genuinely loving, happy sisters when sometimes people can feel like, “I wanna go over here and do my own thing.” Can you speak on that? How do you guys maintain such a positive relationship?\nHalle: You know what, I think what works for us is that we respect one another and each other’s boundaries and each other’s feelings. I am the little sister, so I feel like I’ve always clung to Chloe as my safety net, as my angel through this life. But as we’re getting older, I have to understand and respect that we’re both growing into our own and that’s a beautiful thing. She will always be here for me. And I’m just so grateful to have somebody like her throughout this lifetime. And I think when we were younger the reason we were so close is because we got homeschooled from a very young age. So we were each other’s best friends growing up. Getting to really connect with somebody and work with somebody and bond with somebody that you trust is a whole other level of just safety. For that, I’m just forever grateful.\nChloe: Yeah, I would have to piggyback off of what Halle says. When we got homeschooled, our bond got really tight and then our harmonies started kicking in. I think it’s something so beautiful when siblings sing together because there’s some sort of synergy or magical energy in the air. It’s two people who come from the same backgrounds, grew up the same way, start singing together, you’re almost sharing the same experiences vocally and melodically with each other. I always feel magic when I get to sing with my sister. I love it because we’re both strong vocalists on our own, but when it comes together it really takes it to another level. If I tried to sing the same notes with someone else, it would not sound the same. There’s just something there when you sing with someone you’re already really close to.\nThe midseason debut of Season 3 premieres on THURSDAY, JAN. 21, at 8:00 p.m. EST/PST on Freeform.",
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When it comes to natural hair, the products that yield the best results as far as style is concerned, are not always good for the health of our hair. As a result, we either end up sacrificing style or hair health. CURLZDAZE creator and natural hair influencer Robyn Atwater wants to change that.
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“CURLDAZE is really a labor of love,” Atwater tells MadameNoire. “It was born out of necessity for healthy hair and empowering women with curly hair natural hair.”
The stylers in the premiere Kukui Oil Collection were designed not just to define curls, but to also fortify and moisturize curls.
“The products are so moisturizing,” Atwater explained. “They contain kukui oil, which has vitamins A, C, and E and omega-threes. They penetrate the hair strand and what our current products do is help to retain length. That is really what a lot of people struggle with.”
Keep reading to learn more about five stand-out styling and haircare products from the CURLDAZE brand.
Creamy Curl Styler with Kukui Oil
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If you’ve wondered why OG would return to Basketball Wives for Season 9 after the way she was treated in Season 8, she briefly offered some insight on her Instagram page recently.
The controversial cast member has bumped heads with a number of her cast mates, from Evelyn Lozada to Malaysia Pargo, Kristen Scott, Feby Torres and more. A lot of her clashes occurred during Season 8 after most of the cast turned against her for revealing that Kristen’s husband isn’t Byron Scott’s biological son. She eventually faced a lot of shade and outright disrespect from her co-stars, calling out what she thought to be colorist behavior. She was deemed “aggressive” and left out of group activities on more than one occasion because people claimed they were worried she would get physical. Interestingly, it was cast members who had thrown tables and drinks who had the most to say about feeling unsafe.
But she’s back. OG’s without her good friends CeCe Gutierrez and Tami Roman, both who had enough of the series after Season 8. Nevertheless, she filmed in the bubble with the rest of the ladies and will be one to watch this season. Still, people want to know why she would want to subject herself to the unfair treatment of her co-stars. One woman specifically asked, “Why did you decide to go back?” and OG responded.
“i’M JUST HERE SO iDON’T GET FiNED,” she replied after sharing video of the cast being discussed on Wendy Williams. The statement is actually a popular line from NFL free agent Marshawn Lynch, who would show up to post-game press conferences and answer “I’m just here so I don’t get fined” to every question. But the message in this case implies that because she has a contract, OG has to show up. That was the same dilemma that kept Tami from exiting the series when she was fed up at the end of Season 7.
“I think I checked out about two years ago, but my contract said, b—h clock in,” Tami said in late 2019. “It is what is. I think that I just have run my course.”
And despite the fact that OG may just be sticking around to fulfill her agreements, she did share some gratitude to fans who had her back publicly. Those fans called out a good chunk of the cast for treating her unpleasantly when there was a belief that she wouldn’t be asked back by Shaunie O’Neal and production.
This happened in December when a Twitter user said, “@iHeartOG from BBW was coded Aggressive to whitewash colorism. When OG tried to call out Colorism it was a problem, no grace extended. Noone backed her until people realized she had an Army of supporters behind her.”
OG responded to the comment by saying, “I find this to be accurate,” and “I thoroughly appreciate the support.”
However she feels about returning, we’re looking forward to seeing her on the show, which premieres Tuesday, February 9. We just hope to see her in less conflict this time around.
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What steps can you take to increase the likelihood that your love will stand the test of time? I asked some key questions to a couple who have been married for nearly 60 years and they had a lot of amazing advice and insights to share on how to make a relationship work and go the distance.
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A Couple Married Nearly 60 Years Shares The Keys To Relationship Longevity
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What do you do when you think you’ve found “the one,” “the love of your life,” “your soul mate” and you want the relationship to last for the long-term? What steps can you take to increase the likelihood that your love will stand the test of time? I asked some key questions to a couple who have been married for nearly 60 years and they had a lot of amazing advice and insights to share. We’ve summarized them for you, here.
Never go to bed angry.
Resolving any issue you may have between you is important. Don’t let it fester. If you need to talk about it more than once, do it so you can settle a problem and move on from it. Good communication is very important, so it’s necessary to listen to each other and always be willing to hear each other out.
Remember that your spouse is your best friend.
The reason many successful long-term relationships stand the test of time is because they are based on a foundation of friendship. Be an independent person , but also very dependent upon each other. This means you are two whole people when you come together, with your own interests, passions, and paths in life. But when it comes to everything else, it is you as a couple against the world. You need to depend upon each other to make it through and always be a team of two. Long-term relationships take work like anything else worth having. Solid, stable, and loving relationships don’t just happen. It takes two to make it work and it will take both of you working together consistently to make it last.
Think before you speak.
This means don’t say everything that comes to mind as soon as you think it, especially when you are upset or when emotions are running high. It takes time to develop this skill, but if you are able to take a beat before responding, your conversation will be a lot more productive and focused actually on the issue at hand and not just the feelings you feel. Along the same lines, you must be open and honest in your communication, but don’t be intentionally hurtful. This is suggesting that you should always try to “keep it real” with one another while at the same time attempting to avoid hurling verbal slings, arrows, and recriminations at each other, which aren’t productive and, in most cases, derail the conversation into unnecessary arguments.
Expect the spark to change over time.
In the beginning, it is a “hot” spark that attracts you. This changes as the comfort zone in your relationship deepens. The spark widens into much more in your relationship and it is important to remember where you were and where you are.
Communication really is key.
The wife in this nearly 60-year marriage said that couples must always be open about how they’re feeling and ways they’re changing in a long-term relationship.
“I was totally surprised when two couples, very good longtime friends who seemed to be fine on the outside, divorced after about 25 to 30 years of marriage. Our children were so shocked that one of them asked me if we were okay,” she said. “One couple had not communicated and listened to each other well. I think in both cases it was a matter of just growing apart because their interests grew apart, they were busy raising children, and they made no effort to work out the why and how they might recover the relationship. So, again, it goes back to good communication, listening to one another, and finding ways to enjoy each other. When children are involved it is easy to just constantly be involved in raising them. Remember your relationship. Remember while raising children to set aside time for yourselves. The children will be gone someday and you need that relationship to be strong as you become empty nesters.”
Respect and like each other, not just love.
The husband said that something that has helped them make it so long is that they genuinely appreciate one another.
“In addition to my love for her, I deeply admire and respect her. We seem to each have a role in the relationship, and I think we each respect the other when a decision is made by one of us,” he said. “I really don’t recall that we ever had a serious disagreement in our nearly 60 years of being married. Neither one of us likes to argue and we tend to avoid it at all costs. We have our discussions and debates, but not arguments. I think we just enjoy being with each other and generally like doing the same types of things. We have not spent much time apart in all these years, and I think we miss each other when separated for even a short time. We both really enjoy travel, the arts, good wine, and meeting with friends.”
For me, I have been in a long-term relationship for nearly 20 years and married for 16 of those years as of February. It hasn’t always been “easy.” But let’s be honest, no relationship is “easy” all the time. Nevertheless, it has always been worth it to do the work to keep our relationship on track and the spark of love alive and thriving. My husband and I had a conversation and came up with some great ways we think we make our relationship strong and are able to weather the storms that inevitably come in life. One way is to stay interested in one another. This doesn’t mean you need to like all the things they like or do all of the things they do. It means simply to remain interested in each other by actively listening, asking questions, being curious about each other’s interests, and paying attention. Another way is to stay intimate with one another. This doesn’t just mean sexual or physical attraction. It means, hug, kiss, hold hands, caress, cuddle, snuggle, shower together, lay hands on one another, give massages, among other things that show you care. A third way and one my relationship gurus have already mentioned several times earlier in the article is that communication is the backbone of all relationships, especially long-term relationships. Be open, allow yourself to be vulnerable, and always be transparent. This level of communication is truly where the key to longevity lies. Finally, take care of yourself. In order to take care of others, you have to take care of yourself. Exercise, eat properly, get enough rest, do things that feed your spirit. By taking care of yourself, you are then able to bring your best self to the relationship and to your partner, and they in turn can bring their best selves to you.
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Be an independent person , but also very dependent upon each other. This means you are two whole people when you come together, with your own interests, passions, and paths in life. But when it comes to everything else, it is you as a couple against the world. You need to depend upon each other to make it through and always be a team of two. Long-term relationships take work like anything else worth having. Solid, stable, and loving relationships don’t just happen. It takes two to make it work and it will take both of you working together consistently to make it last.\nThink before you speak.\nThis means don’t say everything that comes to mind as soon as you think it, especially when you are upset or when emotions are running high. It takes time to develop this skill, but if you are able to take a beat before responding, your conversation will be a lot more productive and focused actually on the issue at hand and not just the feelings you feel. Along the same lines, you must be open and honest in your communication, but don’t be intentionally hurtful. This is suggesting that you should always try to “keep it real” with one another while at the same time attempting to avoid hurling verbal slings, arrows, and recriminations at each other, which aren’t productive and, in most cases, derail the conversation into unnecessary arguments.\nExpect the spark to change over time.\nIn the beginning, it is a “hot” spark that attracts you. This changes as the comfort zone in your relationship deepens. The spark widens into much more in your relationship and it is important to remember where you were and where you are.\nCommunication really is key.\nThe wife in this nearly 60-year marriage said that couples must always be open about how they’re feeling and ways they’re changing in a long-term relationship.\n“I was totally surprised when two couples, very good longtime friends who seemed to be fine on the outside, divorced after about 25 to 30 years of marriage. Our children were so shocked that one of them asked me if we were okay,” she said. “One couple had not communicated and listened to each other well. I think in both cases it was a matter of just growing apart because their interests grew apart, they were busy raising children, and they made no effort to work out the why and how they might recover the relationship. So, again, it goes back to good communication, listening to one another, and finding ways to enjoy each other. When children are involved it is easy to just constantly be involved in raising them. Remember your relationship. Remember while raising children to set aside time for yourselves. The children will be gone someday and you need that relationship to be strong as you become empty nesters.”\nRespect and like each other, not just love.\nThe husband said that something that has helped them make it so long is that they genuinely appreciate one another.\n“In addition to my love for her, I deeply admire and respect her. We seem to each have a role in the relationship, and I think we each respect the other when a decision is made by one of us,” he said. “I really don’t recall that we ever had a serious disagreement in our nearly 60 years of being married. Neither one of us likes to argue and we tend to avoid it at all costs. We have our discussions and debates, but not arguments. I think we just enjoy being with each other and generally like doing the same types of things. We have not spent much time apart in all these years, and I think we miss each other when separated for even a short time. We both really enjoy travel, the arts, good wine, and meeting with friends.”\nFor me, I have been in a long-term relationship for nearly 20 years and married for 16 of those years as of February. It hasn’t always been “easy.” But let’s be honest, no relationship is “easy” all the time. Nevertheless, it has always been worth it to do the work to keep our relationship on track and the spark of love alive and thriving. My husband and I had a conversation and came up with some great ways we think we make our relationship strong and are able to weather the storms that inevitably come in life. One way is to stay interested in one another. This doesn’t mean you need to like all the things they like or do all of the things they do. It means simply to remain interested in each other by actively listening, asking questions, being curious about each other’s interests, and paying attention. Another way is to stay intimate with one another. This doesn’t just mean sexual or physical attraction. It means, hug, kiss, hold hands, caress, cuddle, snuggle, shower together, lay hands on one another, give massages, among other things that show you care. A third way and one my relationship gurus have already mentioned several times earlier in the article is that communication is the backbone of all relationships, especially long-term relationships. Be open, allow yourself to be vulnerable, and always be transparent. This level of communication is truly where the key to longevity lies. Finally, take care of yourself. In order to take care of others, you have to take care of yourself. Exercise, eat properly, get enough rest, do things that feed your spirit. By taking care of yourself, you are then able to bring your best self to the relationship and to your partner, and they in turn can bring their best selves to you.",
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After almost getting divorced, Ne-Yo and his wife Crystal Smith are headed down the aisle again.
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‘We Have Decided That This Is Our Forever’: Ne-Yo Proposes To Wife Again
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Throughout 2020, Ne-Yo and his wife Crystal Smith’s marriage has been through a tumultuous time. The “She Got Her Own” singer filed for divorce in February 2020 and by June they couple was working on reconciling. Before 2020 ended, Ne-Yo decided to get down on one new again so that he and his wife could renew their vows. He posted a video on Instagram of the special moment where he proposed again to Smith during a New Year’s Eve gathering.
“I love you,” he said. “We have decided that this is our forever. With that being said I need you to know that there is no where on the face of the planet that I would rather be. There is no one on the face of the planet that I would rather be with.”
He then proceeded to get down on one knee and ask,” Crystal Renay Smith. Will you marry me again? with their guests screaming in joy in the background.
Crystal Smith gushed about marrying Ne-Yo again via social media after agreeing to marry him again.
I’ll marry a million times over🤍 ITS THE HAPPINESS FOR MEEEEEE! This proposal of the renewal of our vows means so much more to us. Life has tried to break us so many times over . The continued prayer for our downfall 😑but we come back stronger every time‼️they say I’m crazy for loving you but baby they just don’t know.. my twin flame 🔥 I’ll love for a thousand years and then I’ll love you for a thousand more 🤍 All that matters is two 🤍 And Damn babe! You did that !! It’s a damn glacier on my finger. https://www.instagram.com/p/CJhPCqLn8O6/
Ne-Yo had filed for divorce saying that he and Smith’s union was “irretrievably broken.”
“It’s slowly but surely becoming public knowledge that myself and my wife have decided to go ahead and get a divorce,” Ne-Yo said during an interview on Private Talk With Alexis Texas podcast. “It’s not a sad thing, it’s more of us realizing — long story short, I’m never gonna talk bad about her. I’m not that person. There’s nothing bad to say about her. She’s a fantastic woman. She’s the mother of my children and she’s always gonna be that and I will always respect her.”
They had tied the knot in 2016 and welcomed two children sons, Shaffer Jr. and Roman.
By June, they were on better terms and he asked a judge to dismiss the case without prejudice so he can file again if things start to go down hill again, Bossip reported. During a chat on The Talk, he revealed that being in quarantine was a “blessing” and it helped them fix their marriage.
“It allowed me to lock back in with my wife,” he said. “Before the quarantine happened we were definitely talking divorce. The quarantine kind of forced us to sit still block out all of the noise from the world. You know, the world can get very loud and we tend to let the world’s opinion mean more in certain situations than it should…It made us sit down and have those difficult conversations, those uncomfortable conversations where everybody is being blatantly, painfully, brutally honest.”
Congratulations to the beautiful couple for successfully fixing their union!
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"Throughout 2020, Ne-Yo and his wife Crystal Smith’s marriage has been through a tumultuous time. The “She Got Her Own” singer filed for divorce in February 2020 and by June they couple was working on reconciling. Before 2020 ended, Ne-Yo decided to get down on one new again so that he and his wife could renew their vows. He posted a video on Instagram of the special moment where he proposed again to Smith during a New Year’s Eve gathering.\n“I love you,” he said. “We have decided that this is our forever. With that being said I need you to know that there is no where on the face of the planet that I would rather be. There is no one on the face of the planet that I would rather be with.”\nHe then proceeded to get down on one knee and ask,” Crystal Renay Smith. Will you marry me again? with their guests screaming in joy in the background.\nCrystal Smith gushed about marrying Ne-Yo again via social media after agreeing to marry him again.\nI’ll marry a million times over🤍 ITS THE HAPPINESS FOR MEEEEEE! This proposal of the renewal of our vows means so much more to us. Life has tried to break us so many times over . The continued prayer for our downfall 😑but we come back stronger every time‼️they say I’m crazy for loving you but baby they just don’t know.. my twin flame 🔥 I’ll love for a thousand years and then I’ll love you for a thousand more 🤍 All that matters is two 🤍 And Damn babe! You did that !! It’s a damn glacier on my finger. https://www.instagram.com/p/CJhPCqLn8O6/\nNe-Yo had filed for divorce saying that he and Smith’s union was “irretrievably broken.”\n“It’s slowly but surely becoming public knowledge that myself and my wife have decided to go ahead and get a divorce,” Ne-Yo said during an interview on Private Talk With Alexis Texas podcast. “It’s not a sad thing, it’s more of us realizing — long story short, I’m never gonna talk bad about her. I’m not that person. There’s nothing bad to say about her. She’s a fantastic woman. She’s the mother of my children and she’s always gonna be that and I will always respect her.”\nThey had tied the knot in 2016 and welcomed two children sons, Shaffer Jr. and Roman.\nBy June, they were on better terms and he asked a judge to dismiss the case without prejudice so he can file again if things start to go down hill again, Bossip reported. During a chat on The Talk, he revealed that being in quarantine was a “blessing” and it helped them fix their marriage.\n“It allowed me to lock back in with my wife,” he said. “Before the quarantine happened we were definitely talking divorce. The quarantine kind of forced us to sit still block out all of the noise from the world. You know, the world can get very loud and we tend to let the world’s opinion mean more in certain situations than it should…It made us sit down and have those difficult conversations, those uncomfortable conversations where everybody is being blatantly, painfully, brutally honest.”\nCongratulations to the beautiful couple for successfully fixing their union!",
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The fact that Lori Harvey and Michael B. Jordan just made it Instagram official is a pretty big deal for both parties because while they're often seen with people assumed to be romantic prospects, they rarely publicly claim them like this. See the flames who came and went.
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If you were holding out hope that Michael B. Jordan would be yours someday, Lori Harvey has stepped in to throw a wrench in those plans. The Instagram influencer and socialite went public with her relationship with the actor on Sunday (January 10), and he did the same. You can see the photos of the two looking quite cute and cozy here and here.
Plenty of their famous friends took to the comment sections of the images of the two posing close to share their excitement and support. On the flipside, everyday women joked that she was living their dream and shared pain over being cheated on by a man they were never with. Interesting responses all around.
Jordan and Harvey first appeared together around the Thanksgiving holiday, when they were spotted coming off a plane together in Atlanta. They were seen traveling together yet again ahead of the new year, captured coming off of a plane in Utah. Everyone speculated about what all this could mean, but now we know they’re definitely more than friends who travel together.
This is a pretty big deal for both parties because while they’re often seen with people assumed to be romantic prospects, they rarely claim them. That means they must find each other to be special.
With that in mind, in no particular order, we thought we’d take a look back at the ladies and gents who led up to this point and remind you of the dating history of these two much desired well-known figures.
Memphis Depay
Way before she had men in the music industry name-dropping her in songs and shooting their shot, Lori Harvey was engaged to be married. Her fiancé was a Dutch and Ghanian footballer named Memphis Depay. They reportedly started dating in 2016, and by 2017, it was announced that the two were engaged. By 2018, it came out that they called it quits. Her stepfather, Steve Harvey, was a fan of Depay for the record, so much so that they hung out together in 2019, long after the engagement ended.
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"If you were holding out hope that Michael B. Jordan would be yours someday, Lori Harvey has stepped in to throw a wrench in those plans. The Instagram influencer and socialite went public with her relationship with the actor on Sunday (January 10), and he did the same. You can see the photos of the two looking quite cute and cozy here and here.\nPlenty of their famous friends took to the comment sections of the images of the two posing close to share their excitement and support. On the flipside, everyday women joked that she was living their dream and shared pain over being cheated on by a man they were never with. Interesting responses all around.\nJordan and Harvey first appeared together around the Thanksgiving holiday, when they were spotted coming off a plane together in Atlanta. They were seen traveling together yet again ahead of the new year, captured coming off of a plane in Utah. Everyone speculated about what all this could mean, but now we know they’re definitely more than friends who travel together.\nThis is a pretty big deal for both parties because while they’re often seen with people assumed to be romantic prospects, they rarely claim them. That means they must find each other to be special.\nWith that in mind, in no particular order, we thought we’d take a look back at the ladies and gents who led up to this point and remind you of the dating history of these two much desired well-known figures.\nMemphis Depay\nWay before she had men in the music industry name-dropping her in songs and shooting their shot, Lori Harvey was engaged to be married. Her fiancé was a Dutch and Ghanian footballer named Memphis Depay. They reportedly started dating in 2016, and by 2017, it was announced that the two were engaged. By 2018, it came out that they called it quits. Her stepfather, Steve Harvey, was a fan of Depay for the record, so much so that they hung out together in 2019, long after the engagement ended.",
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While this pandemic has caused us to stop and recognize the things that truly matter, being on lockdown with family can be emotionally overwhelming, and heightened stress levels can cause us to lash out at the people we care about more than usual.
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4 Stress Management Techniques To Keep From Lashing Out
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2021 is finally here, but if we’re being completely honest, not much has changed. COVID-19 still has most of us shut inside of our homes. Distant learning, working remotely, social distancing when your at work and out in the world, and this potentially deadly virus are all still very much a part of our reality. And while we are thankful to have made it to see another year, it doesn’t mean that the stressors that plagued us in 2020 have vanished.
According to a study published in Science Advances, the coronavirus pandemic has resulted in an increase of symptoms associated with acute stress and depression in Americans.
“The pandemic is not hitting all communities equally,” said the study’s lead author, E. Alison Holman, PhD, University of California Irvine’s professor of nursing. “People have lost wages, jobs, and loved ones with record speed. Individuals living with chronic mental and physical illness are struggling; young people are struggling; poor communities are struggling.”
The realities and consequences of this pandemic have been extremely harsh and there’s no doubt that they are taking a serious toll on our mental health as well as our relationships. While this pandemic has caused us to stop and recognize the things that truly matter, being on lockdown with family can be emotionally overwhelming, and heightened stress levels can cause us to lash out at the people we care about more than usual.
Here are four stress management techniques that may help you to avoid lashing out at the people you love during these complicated times.
Take walks regularly
When things were normal, we were able to do things like hit up the coffee shop (or the bar) with friends when we were feeling stressed or overwhelmed. However, COVID-19’s impact on social gatherings has dramatically altered this simple coping mechanism.
Aromatherapy
Aromatherapy has benefits that far exceed pleasing scents. As explained by WebMD, “Experts think aromatherapy activates areas in your nose called smell receptors, which send messages through your nervous system to your brain,” as well as your limbic system. It is believed that aromatherapy can help to ease symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression.
Turn off the news
“The media is a critical source of information for people when they’re faced with ambiguous, ongoing disasters,” explained one of the UC Irvine study’s lead investigators, Roxane Cohen Silver, professor of psychological science. “But too much exposure can be overwhelming and lead to more stress, worry and perceived risks.”
Spend time alone
Self-care may have been one of the most overused phrases of 2020, but in order to survive what we’ve been through and continue to go through, commitment to personal care is essential. Further, with all of the time that we spend shut inside with loved ones, taking advantage of me-time is completely necessary.
“Self-care is essential. With everyone’s schedule changed, it’s important to establish and maintain some kind of a routine,” Dr, Chris Kraft, a psychologist and relationships and sexuality expert told Johns Hopkins Medicine’s digital publication.
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"2021 is finally here, but if we’re being completely honest, not much has changed. COVID-19 still has most of us shut inside of our homes. Distant learning, working remotely, social distancing when your at work and out in the world, and this potentially deadly virus are all still very much a part of our reality. And while we are thankful to have made it to see another year, it doesn’t mean that the stressors that plagued us in 2020 have vanished.\nAccording to a study published in Science Advances, the coronavirus pandemic has resulted in an increase of symptoms associated with acute stress and depression in Americans.\n“The pandemic is not hitting all communities equally,” said the study’s lead author, E. Alison Holman, PhD, University of California Irvine’s professor of nursing. “People have lost wages, jobs, and loved ones with record speed. Individuals living with chronic mental and physical illness are struggling; young people are struggling; poor communities are struggling.”\nThe realities and consequences of this pandemic have been extremely harsh and there’s no doubt that they are taking a serious toll on our mental health as well as our relationships. While this pandemic has caused us to stop and recognize the things that truly matter, being on lockdown with family can be emotionally overwhelming, and heightened stress levels can cause us to lash out at the people we care about more than usual.\nHere are four stress management techniques that may help you to avoid lashing out at the people you love during these complicated times.\nTake walks regularly\nWhen things were normal, we were able to do things like hit up the coffee shop (or the bar) with friends when we were feeling stressed or overwhelmed. However, COVID-19’s impact on social gatherings has dramatically altered this simple coping mechanism.\nAromatherapy\nAromatherapy has benefits that far exceed pleasing scents. As explained by WebMD, “Experts think aromatherapy activates areas in your nose called smell receptors, which send messages through your nervous system to your brain,” as well as your limbic system. It is believed that aromatherapy can help to ease symptoms of stress, anxiety, and depression.\nTurn off the news\n“The media is a critical source of information for people when they’re faced with ambiguous, ongoing disasters,” explained one of the UC Irvine study’s lead investigators, Roxane Cohen Silver, professor of psychological science. “But too much exposure can be overwhelming and lead to more stress, worry and perceived risks.”\nSpend time alone\nSelf-care may have been one of the most overused phrases of 2020, but in order to survive what we’ve been through and continue to go through, commitment to personal care is essential. Further, with all of the time that we spend shut inside with loved ones, taking advantage of me-time is completely necessary.\n“Self-care is essential. With everyone’s schedule changed, it’s important to establish and maintain some kind of a routine,” Dr, Chris Kraft, a psychologist and relationships and sexuality expert told Johns Hopkins Medicine’s digital publication.",
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As with many things, social media requires a balanced approach if we’re going to keep a healthy relationship with it. If you’ve been wondering whether or not social media has been impacting your mental health, we have some answers.
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The average amount of time spent daily on social media by users worldwide rose from 90 minutes to 144 minutes between 2012 and 2019. We went from scrolling, liking, commenting, and following for about the length of a fun, action-packed blockbuster film to the length of an Oscar-winning drama. That’s pretty amazing, considering it seems our attention span for actual full-length films has decreased. Apparently, people really want to know what their friends are up to. And strangers. And celebrities. And cute dogs with their own accounts.
It’s important to remember that every piece of information we consume impacts us. Some pieces don’t affect us much, like learning about traffic or the weather. But what about those long angry rants posted by that politically-furious friend on Facebook? Or the videos of high-end travel by that one family member? Research has shown that social media has a close connection to our levels of depression and anxiety and even self-esteem. We may not notice the difference in how we feel every time we shut our phones, but the changes are happening slowly over time. Of course, many individuals today must use social media for their careers. Doing without it entirely can be suicide for one’s business. But as with many things, social media requires a balanced approach if we’re going to keep a healthy relationship with it. If you’ve been wondering whether or not social media has been impacting your mental health, we have some answers. We consulted self-image empowerment specialist Dr. Melanie Hussain (IG: @meltuition), pictured below, about this very issue.
Talking negatively about yourself
While the occasional self-deprecating joke can be pretty common, and even funny, if you notice your words about yourself trending more and more in that direction, that could be a bad sign, says Hussain, adding she notices for those who spend a lot of time online, “There is more negative self-talk. A person will start to feel badly about who they are and themselves. The way they talk to themselves and about themselves comes from a place of shame and not liking who they are as individuals.” Ideally, the content you consume should make you feel encouraged and give you a positive outlook. But when social media takes a bad turn, Hussain says, “Rather than feeling inspired, it actually does the opposite and makes one feel trapped within themselves.”
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A sneak peek for Basketball Wives Season 9 has been released. See who is returning from the cast, who the newbies are, and what drama is to come.
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“I’m Not Taking No Sh-t”: Get A First Look At Basketball Wives Season 9
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Basketball Wives is back, and there’s a sneak peek trailer to prove it.
As we previously told you, the cast started filming Season 9 late last year after a hiatus in production caused by the pandemic. To keep everyone safe, they were all quarantined together in a bubble situation, the popular girls in one home, the fan favorites in another. The outcome of getting the ladies back together and making them film in close quarters we will get to see on February 9 when the new season premieres.
Aside from the addition of Liza Morales, other new faces joining the show include sisters and entrepreneurs Nia and Noria Dorsey to spice things up. As for the returning cast, they’ve got a lot going on.
Shaunie has moved from to Los Angeles to Houston to be closer to her children, but returns to LA to try and help the ladies come to peace after Season 8.
Malaysia, who has opened about losing her own brother in a police shooting in 2013, will discuss her efforts to try and teach her children about police brutality and how to deal with the police after the deaths that spurred worldwide protests last summer.
Jackie is looking to mend fences with the ladies, and hopes to bring everyone together like Shaunie. That, of course, won’t be easy.
And then there’s Evelyn, who opens up about how 2020 was an emotional year for her and attempts to start over by moving into a new home.
Jennifer returns following a messy breakup that ended in her car allegedly being stolen. However, she’s in a good place and isn’t interested in dealing with drama from the past.
Kristen, now without CeCe to bicker with, is fighting in a different way in Season 9 — against social injustice.
Feby was brought back, why we’re not really sure of, but she’s returning with a new man, and also with issues. Some drama with an ex could create problems between her and the circle of ladies on the show.
And yes, OG is back. She’s optimistic about the future and about being among the women again despite her treatment last season.
Of course, the previous season of the show was very controversial. There were accusations of colorism, physical altercations and relationships that were once strong, broken over petty rumors. OG ended up becoming a fan favorite because of her penchant for calling the ladies out on their behavior, but she clashed so much with her co-stars that she was made to film the reunion alone. By the time the season ended, Shaunie and co. were trying to do damage control, and Evelyn ended up filing a lawsuit against OG. So with all that left over from Season 8, Season 9 could be a time of reconciliation and peace amid bigger issues in the world, or it could be another hot a– mess. We’ll be watching either way.
The show is taking over Tuesday nights, beginning with its season premiere on Tuesday, February 9th at 8PM ET/PT on VH1.
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This does not mean you run out tomorrow and quit your job, but it may be time for you to design a game plan of how you want to start or grow your business so you can focus on that full time.
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Your Entrepreneurial Spirit Is Calling: Signs It’s Time to Take the Leap
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MadameNoire Featured Video
Before the pandemic, I found myself on a hamster wheel of regret. Every morning after dropping my son off at daycare, I maneuvered through 40 minutes of morning traffic to get downtown for work, where I was met with other “Dear God, this can’t be my life” commuters. We were all fighting to find a decent parking spot that wouldn’t leave our car with dents on the driver’s side when we eventually returned to it in the evening. It went something like this:
Park car. Check.
Make sure nothing is out on the seat. Check.
Workbag. Check.
Lunch bag. Check.
Lock doors. Check.
From there, me and 50 other people would try to decide if we wanted to wait for the parking garage elevator or take the steps that always had a unique smell of burned oil, various perfumes, and a faint hint of urine. I would take the steps. Once outside, I was met on the street by hundreds of other people rushing to get to their office jobs in five minutes. Once I got to my desk, the clock would turn to 8:30 a.m., and I would get down to business.
In my tiny work cubical, through the many emails, meetings, and projects I was responsible for, there was this unrelenting feeling that I missed the turn to my dreams and somehow spilled out into the world of “It’s good enough.” Yeah, the work was good, and I helped people, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was wasting my purpose. “Be grateful,” I often told myself. “There are people who would love to be in your shoes.” I mean, what did I have to complain about, right?
Fast forward to March of last year. If I could sum up 2020 in one word, I would say “humbling.” Our daily routines were flipped upside down with the swiftness of a single snap. And yet, between trying to order paper towels and groceries online (’cause some of y’all were showing out in stores), setting up a learning station for my son, managing to share a home office with my husband, and fellowshipping with my church family online, I remained optimistic and energized about the future. I decided it was time to get my entrepreneurial dreams in check, and while I’m not where I want to be just yet, I have made substantial strides towards living the life I want. These days, I work from home full time, writing, creating, and getting paid well.
If you’re on the fence about whether or not the entrepreneurial life is for you, take a look at these 10 signs to see if it’s time to take the leap. Now, keep in mind, this does not mean you run out tomorrow and quit your job, but it may be time for you to design a game plan of how you want to start or grow your business so you can focus on that full time. So, let’s get started!
1. Your 9-5 Setting Feels Like Death
Each day, when I entered my cubicle, it felt like an invisible door shut after me. I felt stuck, annoyed, and tired like there was no use in fighting anymore. When you’re miserable in your job, everyone knows it and can feel the energy shift. Stress, fear, or lack of enthusiasm can drain your spirit, affect your performance, and create a lose-lose situation for everyone involved.
2. The Company’s Mission and Your Beliefs Don’t Add Up
Maybe the company isn’t into engaging the community, and you believe the only way a business can be successful and trusted is by forming authentic community relationships. Or maybe the company doesn’t value the employees’ well-being. When your core values don’t align with your job’s values, disaster is sure to follow.
3. Your Dream Is Bigger Than Anything You’re Doing Right Now
People who desire to work for themselves will jot down notes on just about anything. I literally would be in meetings and write company notes on the top sheet and my business ideas on the second sheet. I had to learn that dreaming is excellent, but it needs execution for it to be spectacular. If you can’t imagine yourself doing anything other than the business you want to create and operate, it may be time to move in that direction.
4. Your Skills Aren’t Being Utilized
If you feel stuck in a position that doesn’t allow you to utilize what you have to offer or add to you, it’s time to consider other options. I knew it was time to go because I knew I had more to offer. Please don’t give in to second guesses; it’s time to move ahead.
5. You Have an Idea That Delivers Solutions
Your business idea has the potential to change lives. You don’t want to start your business for the sole purpose of making money. You have a passion for the product or service, and you finally feel like this endeavor gives you meaning.
6. You Can’t Get Enough of Self-Growth
You are eager to soak up any knowledge that you can relate to your business idea. Whenever you get the chance, you are deep into a podcast, business book, webinar, or networking event surrounding your area of interest.
7. Entrepreneurs Tell You to Be an Entrepreneur
Entrepreneurs recognize other entrepreneurs. Your network of successful business people give you genuine advice and encouragement to leap and are not simply gassing you up. They see something in you. Not everyone gets that.
8. You’re Not Afraid to Fail
This might sting a bit. You read that right. Your business idea could flop, and you’ll have to start again. Ask yourself if you are willing to try again if you fail. Are you ready to risk it all? If you’re honest with yourself, maybe this is not the time to leap fully; maybe the first step is to create a phase-out plan.
9. You’ve Started Making Your Exit Strategy
If your mind and spirit are giving you signs that you should work for yourself, don’t ignore them. It’s time to create a timeline. Keep in mind, this timeline could be six months or six years. The length of time it takes doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you have permitted yourself to plan your future the way you want.
10. You Have Enough Money Saved to Support Yourself
Your business would be successful out of the gate in a dream scenario. However, anything can happen, so you need to make sure you and your family have enough to live off of until your business takes off. If you’re married, this is a great time to chat with your spouse to make sure they’re on board with your endeavor.
I hope this list serves as a catalyst to inspire you to go after your dreams. Yes, some work is needed on your part, and no, you may not be able to quit your job next week. But if you take away nothing else, know that your dreams have life, and you deserve to see them come to light. May your feet remain firmly planted, your eyes stay laser-beam focused, and may fear stay in the corner where it belongs.
Michelle Farley: A word nerd and storyteller from the midwest, Michelle has a passion for working with brands that exhibit courage and creativity in finding new ways to advocate and support causes/issues that affect Black women. Think of her as a favorite quirky Auntie whose infectious laugh, calm presence, and warm hugs make even the most skeptical stranger feel like they’ve known her for a lifetime. Michelle has worked on more than a dozen film and television sets, ranging from live studio to narrative production and documentaries, created a children’s books series and founded a boutique copywriting agency to help hundreds of entrepreneurs and brands share their unique stories for optimal impact and influence.
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Once I got to my desk, the clock would turn to 8:30 a.m., and I would get down to business.\nIn my tiny work cubical, through the many emails, meetings, and projects I was responsible for, there was this unrelenting feeling that I missed the turn to my dreams and somehow spilled out into the world of “It’s good enough.” Yeah, the work was good, and I helped people, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that I was wasting my purpose. “Be grateful,” I often told myself. “There are people who would love to be in your shoes.” I mean, what did I have to complain about, right?\nFast forward to March of last year. If I could sum up 2020 in one word, I would say “humbling.” Our daily routines were flipped upside down with the swiftness of a single snap. And yet, between trying to order paper towels and groceries online (’cause some of y’all were showing out in stores), setting up a learning station for my son, managing to share a home office with my husband, and fellowshipping with my church family online, I remained optimistic and energized about the future. I decided it was time to get my entrepreneurial dreams in check, and while I’m not where I want to be just yet, I have made substantial strides towards living the life I want. These days, I work from home full time, writing, creating, and getting paid well.\nIf you’re on the fence about whether or not the entrepreneurial life is for you, take a look at these 10 signs to see if it’s time to take the leap. Now, keep in mind, this does not mean you run out tomorrow and quit your job, but it may be time for you to design a game plan of how you want to start or grow your business so you can focus on that full time. So, let’s get started!\n1. Your 9-5 Setting Feels Like Death\nEach day, when I entered my cubicle, it felt like an invisible door shut after me. I felt stuck, annoyed, and tired like there was no use in fighting anymore. When you’re miserable in your job, everyone knows it and can feel the energy shift. Stress, fear, or lack of enthusiasm can drain your spirit, affect your performance, and create a lose-lose situation for everyone involved.\n2. The Company’s Mission and Your Beliefs Don’t Add Up\nMaybe the company isn’t into engaging the community, and you believe the only way a business can be successful and trusted is by forming authentic community relationships. Or maybe the company doesn’t value the employees’ well-being. When your core values don’t align with your job’s values, disaster is sure to follow.\n3. Your Dream Is Bigger Than Anything You’re Doing Right Now\nPeople who desire to work for themselves will jot down notes on just about anything. I literally would be in meetings and write company notes on the top sheet and my business ideas on the second sheet. I had to learn that dreaming is excellent, but it needs execution for it to be spectacular. If you can’t imagine yourself doing anything other than the business you want to create and operate, it may be time to move in that direction.\n4. Your Skills Aren’t Being Utilized\nIf you feel stuck in a position that doesn’t allow you to utilize what you have to offer or add to you, it’s time to consider other options. I knew it was time to go because I knew I had more to offer. Please don’t give in to second guesses; it’s time to move ahead.\n5. You Have an Idea That Delivers Solutions\nYour business idea has the potential to change lives. You don’t want to start your business for the sole purpose of making money. You have a passion for the product or service, and you finally feel like this endeavor gives you meaning.\n6. You Can’t Get Enough of Self-Growth\nYou are eager to soak up any knowledge that you can relate to your business idea. Whenever you get the chance, you are deep into a podcast, business book, webinar, or networking event surrounding your area of interest.\n7. Entrepreneurs Tell You to Be an Entrepreneur\nEntrepreneurs recognize other entrepreneurs. Your network of successful business people give you genuine advice and encouragement to leap and are not simply gassing you up. They see something in you. Not everyone gets that.\n8. You’re Not Afraid to Fail\nThis might sting a bit. You read that right. Your business idea could flop, and you’ll have to start again. Ask yourself if you are willing to try again if you fail. Are you ready to risk it all? If you’re honest with yourself, maybe this is not the time to leap fully; maybe the first step is to create a phase-out plan.\n9. You’ve Started Making Your Exit Strategy\nIf your mind and spirit are giving you signs that you should work for yourself, don’t ignore them. It’s time to create a timeline. Keep in mind, this timeline could be six months or six years. The length of time it takes doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you have permitted yourself to plan your future the way you want.\n10. You Have Enough Money Saved to Support Yourself\nYour business would be successful out of the gate in a dream scenario. However, anything can happen, so you need to make sure you and your family have enough to live off of until your business takes off. If you’re married, this is a great time to chat with your spouse to make sure they’re on board with your endeavor.\nI hope this list serves as a catalyst to inspire you to go after your dreams. Yes, some work is needed on your part, and no, you may not be able to quit your job next week. But if you take away nothing else, know that your dreams have life, and you deserve to see them come to light. May your feet remain firmly planted, your eyes stay laser-beam focused, and may fear stay in the corner where it belongs.\nMichelle Farley: A word nerd and storyteller from the midwest, Michelle has a passion for working with brands that exhibit courage and creativity in finding new ways to advocate and support causes/issues that affect Black women. Think of her as a favorite quirky Auntie whose infectious laugh, calm presence, and warm hugs make even the most skeptical stranger feel like they’ve known her for a lifetime. Michelle has worked on more than a dozen film and television sets, ranging from live studio to narrative production and documentaries, created a children’s books series and founded a boutique copywriting agency to help hundreds of entrepreneurs and brands share their unique stories for optimal impact and influence.",
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Out of all the people Victor Cruz says helped him get through his breakdown during the pandemic, it is worth noting that he didn't mention Karrueche.
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Amid Split Rumors, Victor Cruz Says He Had “A Bit Of A Breakdown” Recently
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With rumors swirling that he and girlfriend Karrueche Tran may have gone their separate ways, Victor Cruz opened up in a new interview about just how hard the pandemic has been for him. With all of the social unrest over police violence this past summer, and of course, all the quarantining, the 34-year-old found himself emotionally spent. Who can’t relate?
“I definitely had a bit of a breakdown,” he shared with Page Six. “Just mentally, you kind of go through these phases of, like, indecisiveness and … ‘What’s the future going to look like?’”
“As a Black man, [there are] even more deep-rooted issues than that,” he added.
It was the support of those in his circle that helped him get through, as he told the publication. They kept him encouraged when he felt anything but.
“Thank God for my close friends, my circle, my people around me, because they kept me focused in times that seemed uncertain or when I needed somebody to talk to,” he said.
One could note that out of all the clutch individuals he mentioned, he didn’t bring up Tran. The two were not together during most of the pandemic, quarantining separately on different coasts. In April, he told Page Six that while he wasn’t pleased with the distance, they were making it work.
“I’m in this solo and it’s not fun at all, but we probably talk 20 hours a day on FaceTime.”
But as we previously mentioned, Cruz and Tran, who are both avid users of social media, have been very quiet lately in terms of sharing much about each other. There haven’t been the old Instagram Lives together. Also, the last time they posted about one another was months ago on their birthdays: Cruz posting Tran in May last and Tran posting Cruz in November. They first started dating in 2017.
Neither party has confirmed or denied the rumors, but Cruz’s mention of his close friends as being his rock and “somebody to talk to” as he pondered about his future during the pandemic definitely says…something.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nWith rumors swirling that he and girlfriend Karrueche Tran may have gone their separate ways, Victor Cruz opened up in a new interview about just how hard the pandemic has been for him. With all of the social unrest over police violence this past summer, and of course, all the quarantining, the 34-year-old found himself emotionally spent. Who can’t relate?\n“I definitely had a bit of a breakdown,” he shared with Page Six. “Just mentally, you kind of go through these phases of, like, indecisiveness and … ‘What’s the future going to look like?’”\n“As a Black man, [there are] even more deep-rooted issues than that,” he added.\nIt was the support of those in his circle that helped him get through, as he told the publication. They kept him encouraged when he felt anything but.\n“Thank God for my close friends, my circle, my people around me, because they kept me focused in times that seemed uncertain or when I needed somebody to talk to,” he said.\nOne could note that out of all the clutch individuals he mentioned, he didn’t bring up Tran. The two were not together during most of the pandemic, quarantining separately on different coasts. In April, he told Page Six that while he wasn’t pleased with the distance, they were making it work.\n“I’m in this solo and it’s not fun at all, but we probably talk 20 hours a day on FaceTime.”\nBut as we previously mentioned, Cruz and Tran, who are both avid users of social media, have been very quiet lately in terms of sharing much about each other. There haven’t been the old Instagram Lives together. Also, the last time they posted about one another was months ago on their birthdays: Cruz posting Tran in May last and Tran posting Cruz in November. They first started dating in 2017.\nNeither party has confirmed or denied the rumors, but Cruz’s mention of his close friends as being his rock and “somebody to talk to” as he pondered about his future during the pandemic definitely says…something.",
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NudeBarre, a Black-owned under garment company, is now available via the subscription service Underclub.
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Nude Barre Collaborates With Underwear Subscription Service Underclub
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Underclub, a designer underwear subscription service, has collaborated with Nude Barre, a Black-owned company that supplies nude-toned underwear for women of color. The companies have come together to bring us an essentials pack, which includes one seamless thong and one seamless bikini, in eight different shades. The skin-toned colors available include mocha, tapioca cream, lycheetini, cocoa, caramel, Irish creme, peach melody and Bohemian princess. The two-pack is priced at $32.00 and is available from extra small to an extra large.
Each month, Underclub offers new designs and styles of underwear to fall in love with according to the subscriber’s size and taste. They believe in using their platform and voice to highlight the beauty and value of diversity across colors, shapes and sizes. Underclub currently delivers XS-4XL underthings to people who identify as female and male.
Nude Barre was founded in 2011 by former New York Knicks dancer Erin Carpenter. Due to the obvious void, she decided to launch Nude Barre to provide women of color with underwear that was their actual nude shade.
“All throughout my career, I could never find nude hosiery and undergarments that matched my skin tone and many of the costumes I had to wear demanded that you have nude undergarments,” she told us during an interview back in 2017. “So on a weekly basis, I was dying tights, shoe, etc. and I knew there were others like me who wanted nude undergarments. Not being able to just go out and find your skin tone included in products on the market can really affect you over time. It is beyond frustrating.”
In the earlier days of Nude Barre, Carpenter found herself getting people to understand that there was more than one shade of nude.
“When I first launched it there was a lack of understanding that nude should not be one shade
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In an article released earlier today, news outlet Mediaite referred to CNN news anchor Don Lemon as being "openly-black." In addition to people finding the description weird, funny and offensive, some users are also wondering why no one on Mediaite's editorial team flagged it before the story was published.
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In an article that was released on Friday (January 15), news outlet Mediaite, sometimes deemed a conservative politics and media site, referred to CNN news anchor Don Lemon as “openly-black,” a term that started trending on Twitter. In addition to people finding the description weird, hilariously funny and offensive, some users are also wondering why no one on Mediaite‘s editorial team flagged it before the story was published.
In a tweet posted two hours ago, a political reporter for The Washington Post named Eugene Scott initiated the conversation with a single tweet just asking what the term “openly black” was supposed to mean. He included a screenshot of Mediaite‘s article, which was focused on Don Lemon’s controversial comments from earlier this week where he said those who voted for Trump were also in support of the Klu Klux Klan and Nazis.
Being a writer himself, Scott shared his opinion on Mediaite‘s usage of the term by saying that as a general rule, people shouldn’t be describing others using terms they don’t truly understand and that overall, media outlets need to start hiring more Black editors.
Even though Scott posed a question surrounding what Mediaite meant by referring to Lemon as “openly black,” I think the more important point he made was that the media industry’s lack of Black editors for prominent publications negatively impacts the quality of journalism as well as levels of sensitivity that mass audiences are exposed to. Just like with “openly black,” the scarcity of Black professionals in editorial spaces aids in the phenomenon of questionable terms that seemingly popped out of nowhere becoming a part of the mainstream conversation.
Am I the only one who remembers ears being flooded with the term “BIPOC,” aka, “Black, Indigenous, People of Color” last summer as our country and the world worked its way through social unrest? Even though the term was supposed to highlight the issue of Black and Indigenous people specifically as being targets of violence in America, why was the summer of 2020 when people were protesting in support of Black Lives Matter when the term became “trendy?” Also, why were news outlets constantly saying the country was going through a “racial reckoning” to come to terms with the “realities of racism in America” when Black people have been living the realities of racism in this country since we got here? We’ve been protesting and calling out racism, white privilege and police violence for longer than we’d like to admit. It only makes sense that when things like this happen, we’re still left asking how can terms like “openly black,” “BIPOC,” and “racial reckonings” serve us since they don’t accurately describe us or our experiences.
The real problem is that in the wake of said “reckonings,” while many companies have brought on diversity and inclusion experts, or recently implemented more inclusive HR initiatives, until more Black people are hired in the media industry, mistakes like this will continue to happen. With a lack of Black media professionals in entry and associate levels of the industry and a lack of mentorship for the ones who are, we can’t be surprised when things like this happen.
But the act of just simply “hiring more Black editors” won’t erase the problem either. Even though Black editors might help, it can’t be the job of Black people in the journalism world to constantly serve as “racism radars” for the companies they work for. Why should the responsibility of monitoring the levels of racial sensitivity in their outlet’s publications be specially placed on their shoulders? When will it finally be the responsibility of all the writers, all the editors, and all the publishers to simply not be problematic in the work they release?
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During a recent interview with Joe Budden of all people, singer Jazmine Sullivan talked about giving herself grace as she went through the process of healing from an abusive relationship.
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Jazmine Sullivan’s new EP Heaux Tales is a masterful compilation of work. Detailing women’s experiences in love, relationships and sex through story and song, it paints a tragically rare image of the lives Black women lead behind closed doors but may be too afraid to share outside of their close sister circles.
Sullivan has been on a tour cycle promoting the project and recently stopped by Joe Budden’s podcast. Since the album is about truth, Budden asked Jazmine about the truth—or what fans may not know that has helped to contribute to the woman Sullivan is today.
“I had a horrible relationship that resulted in domestic abuse at the time. I came back with Reality Show. After that I started touring reality show. I had planned on taking a short break but time kind of got away from me. But I experienced my own point in time where I was just wylin a little bit. And I didn’t know at the time, why I was doing those things. But when I had some time to process, I was like, ‘Oh, I was still healing from that relationship that kind of through me for a loop. It was some things happening that I never thought I would experience. I let some things happen that I never thought I would and I kind of became a different person. And sometimes, you think you’ve healed and you haven’t and you’re going about your life and situations come up and you start acting out things from the past that you didn’t even know were still there. So that’s kind of what was happening and that played a part in the project itself. And in the aftermath of all that stuff happening, I was just feeling some type of way about myself and the decisions that I made, feeling like I needed to give myself some grace and realize that I had been through some things, I had some trauma that I wasn’t fully healed from. And I’m okay. I may have done certain things I wasn’t proud of or acted certain ways I wasn’t proud of but I’m still good. I’m still Jazmine and that doesn’t make up the whole of me. And that’s what I want females to know. There are certain parts of your life that may not be cookie cutter or may not be the best, it doesn’t make up the sum of who you are. Just give yourself some grace and give the women around you grace as well.”
Amen!
I would remiss not to mention the irony of her having this conversation with Joe Budden, a man with his own history of abusing women. But hopefully, he took her words to heart.
You can listen to the interview in the video below.
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Rapper and TV personality Tokyo Vanity says there's nothing flattering about men calling women of a certain size a "BBW." Not only is it not complimentary, but she says it's actually a form of fetishization and disrespect.
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Rapper and TV personality Tokyo Vanity says there’s nothing flattering about men calling women of a certain size a “BBW.” Not only is it not complimentary, but she says it’s actually a form of fetishization and disrespect.
BBW stands for “Big Beautiful Woman,” and during a chat with the podcast Big Homies House, Tokyo explained that while it sounds nice, she doesn’t see it as anything charming.
“I don’t like when people call me a BBW. Stop fetishizing me. That sh-t come in a porn category. That’s not a compliment,” she said. “It’s a fetish. I don’t like it because you’re not going to tell her that oh you’re such a LSW, a ‘lil small woman.’ You’re not gonna call her that. You’ll just go, ‘Hey queen, you so beautiful.'”
“‘Oh my God, you the most beautiful BBW — no, I’m the prettiest b—h you seen period,” she added. “Don’t no h- look better than me, period. I’m the baddest b—h y’all ever met.”
Tokyo, in essence, stated that it’s like trying to place conditions one’s beauty, which is a backhanded compliment. Other examples include someone being told they’re pretty for a Black girl or a gorgeous dark or brown-skinned woman. That doesn’t impress anyone, but in fact, sounds offensive.
She shared the clip of her explaining herself on Instagram with the caption, “Just stop it …Im the baddest b—h Periodt [sic]”
It actually became an educational moment for some followers and a venting moment for others.
“No seriously. Or they be like “damn you cute for a big girl” like eh, next. Cause no,” said one woman.
“NO FORREALLLLLL DO NOT SIMPLIFY ME DOWN TO MY WEIGHT!!!!!” said another, quite emphatically. “BEING A BAD B—H HAS NO SIZE OR GENDER!!! This is why I love tok!”
Another though, said she’s embraced BBW by flipping the term on its head.
“like all words meant to belittle decease and under sale Black women i took the power and use it to give them the real value of My Power!” she said. “BBW Beautiful Bold Women!”
Whatever you think of men calling women BBWs, for Tokyo Vanity, she does not want to hear it. You’ve been warned, fellas.
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Some decisions in life you never live down. Those decisions can either scare you from ever taking another chance, or they can teach you to be more cautious the next time you pull the trigger on something. For me, attending a liberal arts women's college my freshman year was a mistake I'll probably never live down.
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Some decisions in life you never live down. Those decisions can either scare you from ever taking another chance again, or they can teach you to be more cautious the next time you pull the trigger on something. In every mistake made, there is a valuable lesson to be taught. For me, attending a liberal arts women’s college in my freshman year was a mistake I’ll probably never live down.
I was 15 years old when my mother took a wrong turn on the way to a doctor’s appointment and we ended up lost on some nameless street in Decatur, GA, and on an impromptu, scenic drive around a university campus. The buildings were Victorian-themed and statuesque. The rolling hills they stood on were perfectly manicured and the richest shade of green. Female students laid happily strewn about the grounds, bustled about with their backpacks, casually sauntered up and down the hills. We finally made our way back to the main road, but before we did we managed to catch the name of the university: Agnes Scott College.
It was two years later that I recalled that name as I filled out applications for college. I did my research and learned Agnes Scott was a pretty prestigious private college renowned for its innovative academics and notable alumni who have gone on to make impressive strides in science, business, and politics. It was my first choice. My second choice (which was really my mother’s choice) was the modest community college just 10 minutes from my home; the same one my older brother and mother had both attended previously. I received an acceptance letter from the junior college along with an invitation to enroll in honors courses my first year. About a week later I received an acceptance email from Agnes Scott College in my Gmail inbox. They offered me a small scholarship, but I didn’t care about tuition costs and lab fees, or how much I might have to borrow in student loan debt. I was in. I would get a private education. I was officially destined for greatness.
At my orientation, I was proud and absolutely honored to be entering this institution with so much history behind it. The highest members of the faculty, including the dean of students and the president herself, welcomed us with such enthusiasm and fanfare as the newest members of this exclusive club, or family rather. I never realized before then it was possible to feel so much a part of something and yet so isolated at the same time. Looking back now, the best part of orientation was truly my mother and sister being there to celebrate with me.
I never really fit though. From day one, I felt like a bass flopping about on the floor of a fisherman’s boat. For one thing, I was a commuter student, while the abundant majority of students in my class stayed on campus during the semester. I was also a Black girl in a predominantly white school. And on top of that, I was the product of a strict traditionalist Christian upbringing (who had been homeschooled all my life) entering a hotbed of radical feminism. Within my first week there I received backlash during a discussion about women’s achievements in history when I remarked that African-American women were the least recognized for their accomplishments and inventions. I clashed a couple of times with another student over her insistence on belittling the intelligence of those who believe in God.
When I raised the issue with my academic advisor, she told me, “It’s her right to question things. Maybe you’re the one with the closed mind.” I was shot down in any debate if I even so much as cited someone who was a male. I realized that my professors were also very unforgiving about me having certain unpopular perspectives about major social issues. I was told to “reevaluate my priorities” because I wasn’t raised to be pro-choice. I was called out in an American history class for not immediately agreeing with the sentiment that Hillary Clinton would make a great U.S. President. I was shushed by an English professor after I wondered aloud if feminism had anything to do with the late American poet Sylvia Plath killing herself after a life-long history of clinical depression and mental instability.
There was one political science instructor who consistently marked me down a whole letter grade every time I quoted someone in my assignments who was, allegedly, a misogynist. I soon found myself struggling in my statistics and chemistry lecture classes that year but I hesitated to seek help from the tutoring center. Tutors were juniors and seniors who sometimes doubled as teaching assistants in freshman classes so on more than one occasion I walked into the tutoring center and was met with intense glares and whispered snarky commentary. I was most certainly recognized as “that Black chick who asks too many questions.” The condescension would be so thick you could cut it with a fork and a steak knife. Ironically, at a women’s college that touted self-realization and the freedom to question things and make waves, I was forever being boxed in, criticized for not going with the flow, and punished for my different opinions. My third meeting with my adviser was very much involuntary. It mostly consisted of her telling me that I was showing signs of “neglect” in certain classes and that she was worried that something in my personal life might have been contributing to my “failing” academic performance. I wondered if I was really failing her expectations at all; perhaps I was just confirming that I didn’t belong there anyway.
It wasn’t just the politics of it all. It was also the rampant sexual activity. Before class, girls chatted about hookups with guys off campus. After class, they chatted about weekend hangs where they could meet guys to hook up with, while other girls experimented with each other in the dorms. I recall one time my mother and sister came down to have lunch with me in the garden outside of my school’s library. By the time I met up with them, they were both still stunned and wide-eyed, having encountered two female students making out passionately on one of the walking paths. My mother was surprised to learn that this had become the norm for me. Most of the seniors had girlfriends on-campus, and boyfriends to go back home to. According to them, they weren’t lesbians or bisexual, they were just too sexually liberated to be restricted to monogamous relationships. I didn’t judge them for their risqué ways although it surprised me. But they certainly judged me for not partaking in the conversations about their sexual escapades. I wasn’t the frustrated virgin dying to lose it. I wasn’t the church girl desperate to shed her promise ring. That made me an anomaly in their book– and an outsider.
I finished my freshman semester off with a pretty bleak looking transcript. I took a year off and wound up enrolling in online classes at a less expensive public HBCU. I excelled in my courses and grew confident enough in myself to actually want to continue my learning. It would take me more than eight years, along with several college major changes, but I would finally earn my Bachelor’s degree.
My terrible experience at a private women’s college certainly isn’t the standard. For others, it has been a fulfilling journey of self-discovery. Unfortunately, I have nothing to show for my experience except a badly bruised ego, a final transcript full of Bs and Ds, and an impressive grudge I’ve developed against privileged white feminists. I wasn’t empowered, or inspired to achieve my own greatness, or encouraged to pave my own path. I was ridiculed for forging my own way and having my own thoughts.
As a young Black woman, no one (not my classmates or my professors) stepped out of their comfort zone long enough to acknowledge my culture or my ethnic identity as part of their discussions. I will teach my future Black daughter that they don’t need a private higher education to affirm that they are smart, brilliant, and destined for greatness. I will also teach them that there are more important factors to consider in picking a college than its name or reputation. The right college won’t try to remake them or rebrand them; the right college will accept them for who they are as an individual.
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"Some decisions in life you never live down. Those decisions can either scare you from ever taking another chance again, or they can teach you to be more cautious the next time you pull the trigger on something. In every mistake made, there is a valuable lesson to be taught. For me, attending a liberal arts women’s college in my freshman year was a mistake I’ll probably never live down.\nI was 15 years old when my mother took a wrong turn on the way to a doctor’s appointment and we ended up lost on some nameless street in Decatur, GA, and on an impromptu, scenic drive around a university campus. The buildings were Victorian-themed and statuesque. The rolling hills they stood on were perfectly manicured and the richest shade of green. Female students laid happily strewn about the grounds, bustled about with their backpacks, casually sauntered up and down the hills. We finally made our way back to the main road, but before we did we managed to catch the name of the university: Agnes Scott College.\nIt was two years later that I recalled that name as I filled out applications for college. I did my research and learned Agnes Scott was a pretty prestigious private college renowned for its innovative academics and notable alumni who have gone on to make impressive strides in science, business, and politics. It was my first choice. My second choice (which was really my mother’s choice) was the modest community college just 10 minutes from my home; the same one my older brother and mother had both attended previously. I received an acceptance letter from the junior college along with an invitation to enroll in honors courses my first year. About a week later I received an acceptance email from Agnes Scott College in my Gmail inbox. They offered me a small scholarship, but I didn’t care about tuition costs and lab fees, or how much I might have to borrow in student loan debt. I was in. I would get a private education. I was officially destined for greatness.\nAt my orientation, I was proud and absolutely honored to be entering this institution with so much history behind it. The highest members of the faculty, including the dean of students and the president herself, welcomed us with such enthusiasm and fanfare as the newest members of this exclusive club, or family rather. I never realized before then it was possible to feel so much a part of something and yet so isolated at the same time. Looking back now, the best part of orientation was truly my mother and sister being there to celebrate with me.\nI never really fit though. From day one, I felt like a bass flopping about on the floor of a fisherman’s boat. For one thing, I was a commuter student, while the abundant majority of students in my class stayed on campus during the semester. I was also a Black girl in a predominantly white school. And on top of that, I was the product of a strict traditionalist Christian upbringing (who had been homeschooled all my life) entering a hotbed of radical feminism. Within my first week there I received backlash during a discussion about women’s achievements in history when I remarked that African-American women were the least recognized for their accomplishments and inventions. I clashed a couple of times with another student over her insistence on belittling the intelligence of those who believe in God.\nWhen I raised the issue with my academic advisor, she told me, “It’s her right to question things. Maybe you’re the one with the closed mind.” I was shot down in any debate if I even so much as cited someone who was a male. I realized that my professors were also very unforgiving about me having certain unpopular perspectives about major social issues. I was told to “reevaluate my priorities” because I wasn’t raised to be pro-choice. I was called out in an American history class for not immediately agreeing with the sentiment that Hillary Clinton would make a great U.S. President. I was shushed by an English professor after I wondered aloud if feminism had anything to do with the late American poet Sylvia Plath killing herself after a life-long history of clinical depression and mental instability.\nThere was one political science instructor who consistently marked me down a whole letter grade every time I quoted someone in my assignments who was, allegedly, a misogynist. I soon found myself struggling in my statistics and chemistry lecture classes that year but I hesitated to seek help from the tutoring center. Tutors were juniors and seniors who sometimes doubled as teaching assistants in freshman classes so on more than one occasion I walked into the tutoring center and was met with intense glares and whispered snarky commentary. I was most certainly recognized as “that Black chick who asks too many questions.” The condescension would be so thick you could cut it with a fork and a steak knife. Ironically, at a women’s college that touted self-realization and the freedom to question things and make waves, I was forever being boxed in, criticized for not going with the flow, and punished for my different opinions. My third meeting with my adviser was very much involuntary. It mostly consisted of her telling me that I was showing signs of “neglect” in certain classes and that she was worried that something in my personal life might have been contributing to my “failing” academic performance. I wondered if I was really failing her expectations at all; perhaps I was just confirming that I didn’t belong there anyway.\nIt wasn’t just the politics of it all. It was also the rampant sexual activity. Before class, girls chatted about hookups with guys off campus. After class, they chatted about weekend hangs where they could meet guys to hook up with, while other girls experimented with each other in the dorms. I recall one time my mother and sister came down to have lunch with me in the garden outside of my school’s library. By the time I met up with them, they were both still stunned and wide-eyed, having encountered two female students making out passionately on one of the walking paths. My mother was surprised to learn that this had become the norm for me. Most of the seniors had girlfriends on-campus, and boyfriends to go back home to. According to them, they weren’t lesbians or bisexual, they were just too sexually liberated to be restricted to monogamous relationships. I didn’t judge them for their risqué ways although it surprised me. But they certainly judged me for not partaking in the conversations about their sexual escapades. I wasn’t the frustrated virgin dying to lose it. I wasn’t the church girl desperate to shed her promise ring. That made me an anomaly in their book– and an outsider.\nI finished my freshman semester off with a pretty bleak looking transcript. I took a year off and wound up enrolling in online classes at a less expensive public HBCU. I excelled in my courses and grew confident enough in myself to actually want to continue my learning. It would take me more than eight years, along with several college major changes, but I would finally earn my Bachelor’s degree.\nMy terrible experience at a private women’s college certainly isn’t the standard. For others, it has been a fulfilling journey of self-discovery. Unfortunately, I have nothing to show for my experience except a badly bruised ego, a final transcript full of Bs and Ds, and an impressive grudge I’ve developed against privileged white feminists. I wasn’t empowered, or inspired to achieve my own greatness, or encouraged to pave my own path. I was ridiculed for forging my own way and having my own thoughts.\nAs a young Black woman, no one (not my classmates or my professors) stepped out of their comfort zone long enough to acknowledge my culture or my ethnic identity as part of their discussions. I will teach my future Black daughter that they don’t need a private higher education to affirm that they are smart, brilliant, and destined for greatness. I will also teach them that there are more important factors to consider in picking a college than its name or reputation. The right college won’t try to remake them or rebrand them; the right college will accept them for who they are as an individual.",
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Kenosha County's district attorney Mike Gravely announced Tuesday that charges will not be filed against the police officers who shot Jacob Blake in front of his three children, leaving him paralyzed last summer.
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Kenosha County’s district attorney Mike Gravely announced Tuesday that charges will not be filed against the police officers who shot Jacob Blake in front of his three children, leaving him paralyzed last summer, ABC News reports.
Gravely claims that officer Rusten Sheskey, who shot Blake seven times, was justified in his use of force against the 29-year-old father because Blake was armed with a knife. Further, he stated that Blake defied orders to drop the knife and moved in a manner that made Sheskey believe that he was going to use it. As a result, he claims that the officer fired his gun in self-defense to a perceived threat. Gravely went on to say that Blake admitted that he had a knife in his possession during the entire police encounter.
When probed about whether or not he believes that Sheskey used excessive force, Gravely said that Sheskey told investigators, “I continued to fire until Jacob Blake dropped the knife. I am trained to fire until the threat is stopped.” He also said that Sheskey immediately began to render aid once he saw that Blake was no longer a threat.
Ironically, police seem to successfully deescalate situations when the armed civilian has white skin as evidenced by the uneventful arrest of Kyle Rittenhouse, the teen who shot three protesters, killing two of them, in the wake of Blake’s shooting.
“America’s policing problem has always been a threat to public safety, but the issue is spiraling in Kenosha. In the aftermath of the assault on Mr. Blake, a white supremacist gunman opened fire on protesters, killing two people then walking past police completely unscathed,” said Scott Roberts, Senior Director of Criminal Justice Campaigns at Color Of Change, in a statement obtained by MadameNoire. “The crisis in Kenosha reveals the ugly, racist double-standard of American policing where an armed white gunman can be detained peacefully while an unarmed Black man gets seven bullets in his spine. This system is untenable and it’s costing Black people their lives.”
Blake’s family has expressed disappointment in connection to the decision and has vowed to move forward with an independent investigation.
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Taylor Simone Ledward, the wife of the late Chadwick Boseman, virtually attended the Gotham Awards to accept the Actor Tribute award on behalf of her husband.
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Since the news of actor Chadwick Boseman’s unexpected and deeply tragic passing at 43, fellow actors and others in the entertainment industry have spoken not only of his virtue on this earth but they’ve also lauded praise onto his wife for the way she took care of him in what were ultimately his last film projects.
The very last of those performances was Boseman’s role in Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom. According to Buzz Feed, last night, at the 2021 Gotham Awards, which took place virtually, Boseman was recognized posthumously with the Actor Tribute award.
Accepting the honor in his place was his wife Taylor Simone Ledward, who delivered a beautiful tribute of her own not only about Boseman’s work as an actor but his character as a human being.
Ledward said of her late husband, “As an artist, an actor, and a person, Chad made a practice of telling the truth. He is the most honest person I’ve ever met. Because he didn’t just stop at speaking the truth, he actively searched for it—in himself, in those around him and in the moment. The truth can be a very easy thing for the self to avoid, but if one does not live in truth, then it’s impossible to live in line with a divine purpose for your life. And so, it became how he lived his life, day in, day out. Imperfect, but determined.”
Ledward said it was this determination that allowed Boseman to participate fully in every moment, both on and off screen.
Known for his roles as historic leaders in the Black community, including Jackie Robinson, James Brown, and Thurgood Marshall, Ledward said Boseman was a “vessel to be poured into.”
She said what he was doing through his roles was “Not merely telling a story or reading lines off a page, but modeling for us a path of true fulfillment… May we not let his conviction be in vain. May our spirits be fertile soil for God’s wisdom to fall upon.”
She thanked God for his Boseman’s gifts and then spoke directly to her beloved.
“Chad, thank you. I love you. I am so proud of you. Keep shining your light on us.”
You can watch a clip from Ledward’s speech in the video below.
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"Since the news of actor Chadwick Boseman’s unexpected and deeply tragic passing at 43, fellow actors and others in the entertainment industry have spoken not only of his virtue on this earth but they’ve also lauded praise onto his wife for the way she took care of him in what were ultimately his last film projects.\nThe very last of those performances was Boseman’s role in Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom. According to Buzz Feed, last night, at the 2021 Gotham Awards, which took place virtually, Boseman was recognized posthumously with the Actor Tribute award.\nAccepting the honor in his place was his wife Taylor Simone Ledward, who delivered a beautiful tribute of her own not only about Boseman’s work as an actor but his character as a human being.\nLedward said of her late husband, “As an artist, an actor, and a person, Chad made a practice of telling the truth. He is the most honest person I’ve ever met. Because he didn’t just stop at speaking the truth, he actively searched for it—in himself, in those around him and in the moment. The truth can be a very easy thing for the self to avoid, but if one does not live in truth, then it’s impossible to live in line with a divine purpose for your life. And so, it became how he lived his life, day in, day out. Imperfect, but determined.”\nLedward said it was this determination that allowed Boseman to participate fully in every moment, both on and off screen.\nKnown for his roles as historic leaders in the Black community, including Jackie Robinson, James Brown, and Thurgood Marshall, Ledward said Boseman was a “vessel to be poured into.”\nShe said what he was doing through his roles was “Not merely telling a story or reading lines off a page, but modeling for us a path of true fulfillment… May we not let his conviction be in vain. May our spirits be fertile soil for God’s wisdom to fall upon.”\nShe thanked God for his Boseman’s gifts and then spoke directly to her beloved.\n“Chad, thank you. I love you. I am so proud of you. Keep shining your light on us.”\nYou can watch a clip from Ledward’s speech in the video below.",
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Power couple Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade are taking their "shady baby" empire to the next level. Inspired by their daughter Kaavia James, the husband and wife just announced they're releasing a Shady Baby book, which is set to be released on May 18 via HarperCollins Publishers.
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Power couple Gabrielle Union and Dwyane Wade are taking their “shady baby” empire to the next level. Inspired by their daughter Kaavia James, the husband and wife just announced they’re coming out with a Shady Baby book, which is set to be released on May 18 via HarperCollins Publishers.
In a press release, the book’s main character, Shady Baby, was described as “a powerful, funny, and super-cute, Black girl character who always keeps it real.”
“This is our first children’s book we did together and we’re so excited for the world to read Shady Baby,” the actress and the NBA star told PEOPLE in a joint statement. “Inspired by our daughter, Kaavia James, we wanted to create a children’s book that not only had a little Black girl as the main character but that also reflects the global community we live in.”
“We hope to give the word ‘shady’ a more positive association and use it to represent one’s moral compass to do the right thing and stand up for themselves and others,” the couple continued. “It’s important that little Black girls and boys get to see themselves in these fairy tales and for children of other races to see us in leadership roles.”
In the Amazon listing for the book, the story’s plot was detailed further. After making her way to the park in the afternoon, Shady Baby encounters some mean kids who aren’t being nice to others. After flashing the bullies a look of “her famous side-eye”, Shady Baby apparently schools them on how to play nice and fair. The last note of the description outlines the project as an “upbeat picture book that teaches kids to speak their minds and stand up for what they believe in.”
Although it’s the couple’s first joint book, Shady Baby follows Union’s previously released children’s book, Welcome to the Party, which was also inspired by Kaavia James. Not wanting to limit the baby’s imprint to just the literary world, Union also did a “Kaavia James collection” with New York & Co. back in 2019.
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On the latest episode of BBC Radio 4's podcast Grounded, singer FKA Twigs spoke with Louis Theroux about her ongoing legal battle against her former boyfriend, actor Shia LaBeouf. Along with sharing more about the alleged abuse she endured, Twigs noted her experience with PTSD and panic attacks after the relationship.
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On the latest episode of BBC Radio 4’s podcast Grounded, singer Tahliah Debrett Barnett, who is better known by her stage name FKA Twigs, spoke with Louis Theroux about her ongoing legal battle against her former boyfriend, actor Shia LaBeouf. Along with giving more details about the alleged abuse she endured while with the actor, Barnett noted that after exiting from the relationship, she suffered from PTSD and panic attacks.
In an interview Barnett did with The New York Times last December, the singer announced she was suing LaBeouf for allegedly subjecting her to physical, mental, and emotional abuse during their relationship between 2018 and 2019. Amidst her account, the British-born artist said LaBeouf knowingly gave her an STD, that he didn’t allow her to look at other men in the eyes, that she was expected to give him a specific number of kisses a day, and that she often feared for her life while in the relationship due to being assaulted by him.
One of Barnett’s claims revolved around LaBeouf keeping a loaded gun beside their bed, and her fear that he might one day accidentally shoot her in the middle of the night after mistaking her for an intruder.
In a recent update, Barnett told BBC 4’s Grounded host that she wanted to highlight the warning signs she missed during the early months of her relationship to help others. They included the love-bombing phase, her partner isolating her from who she was and the people she knew, as well as him becoming “jealous” and “controlling.” Giving context as to why she experienced PTSD after the relationship, Barnett recalled often being woken up in the middle of the night with harsh allegations by LaBeouf while they were together.
“He would wake me up in the night to accuse me of all sorts of things,” the singer said. “Accuse me of staring at the ceiling and thinking about ways to leave him… accusing me of wanting to be with somebody else but it would be, always – I’d say between like four and seven in the morning.”
Following their breakup, Barnett said even the slightest sound in the middle of the night would wake her up with the potential to set off a panic attack. Detailing her post-LaBeouf life further, she discussed her struggle with PTSD after the relationship, something she thinks people don’t talk about enough when it comes to the healing that takes place after being caught up in abusive and/or toxic relationships.
“For a long time anything that woke me up in the night, even if it was just my dog, or a noise outside, or just needing to go to the bathroom, it could trigger a really intense panic attack,” she shared. “I was left with PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder] from that, which again, is just something that I don’t think we really talk about as a society just in terms of the healing when leaving, and how much work that has to be done to recover to get back to the person that you were before.”
You can listen to Barnett and Theroux here, with the most recent interview starting at the 45-minute mark.
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KLUR founder Lesley Thornton gave Madame Noire an inside scoop on some of the brand's top-selling products, including their Gentle Matter cleanser, a multiuse additive called Skin Soil, their Supreme Seed face mask, a facial serum called Symmetry Fluid, and their fragrant body oil Elements of Comfort.
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Beauty of 5: KLUR Makes Room For Representation In The Clean Beauty Space
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KLUR is a Black-owned, clean skincare brand that’s helping keep sustainable products and practices an ongoing conversation in the beauty world. The brand’s founder, Lesley Thornton, has used her background as an esthetician and skincare expert to develop the product line, which focuses mostly on soothing and calming ingredients.
Thornton shared that she wanted to start the brand because she noticed there were several voids in the clean beauty space that weren’t being filled, especially when it came to presenting people of color as users of such products. Along her journey, as she realized that she gravitated towards natural, clean, organic, and biodynamic skincare ingredients, she also noticed that with the natural skincare brands she did see popping up back in 2014 and 2015, diverse representation was hard to come by.
“When I first got on Instagram and I started seeing these natural brands,” Thornton said. “I didn’t see representation. I saw great formulas, I saw great products, but I didn’t see representation for Black and Brown people. What I did notice was it would be easier for an avocado or coconut to be re-posted, and posted, and posted, before you would actually see a picture of a [Black or Brown] person. That was one conversation that I had with my partner back in 2014 or 2015. ‘Why is it that you’ll post a picture of a coconut before you post a picture of a Brown or dark-skinned person?’ I didn’t understand.”
In addition to the clean beauty world failing to represent people of color, Thornton expressed that she didn’t see any Black-owned sustainable brands at the time of KLUR’s inception. Creating her own brand was a way for her to tick all the boxes of things that were missing in skincare.
Being the expert that she is, Thornton gave MadameNoire details on how best to take care of our skin in a sustainable way that prioritizes, “gentle practices, gentle consistency with your skincare, and low maintenance minimal routines.” We also got an inside scoop on some of the brand’s top-selling products, including their Gentle Matter cleanser, a multiuse additive called Skin Soil, their Supreme Seed face mask, a facial serum called Symmetry Fluid, and their fragrant body oil, Elements of Comfort.
Gentle Matter Daily Moisture Cleanser
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Tahiry Jose addressed the backlash she has experienced since revealing alleged abuse at the hands of ex-boyfriend Joe Budden, who in turn, alleged that she physically assaulted him during their relationship.
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In a recent discussion via Instagram Live, Tahiry Jose addressed the backlash she has experienced since revealing alleged abuse at the hands of ex-boyfriend Joe Budden, who in turn, alleged that she physically assaulted him during their relationship.
The Love and Hip Hop New York cast member shared why it was so hard for her to open up about the abuse, why she believes it’s never okay for anyone to lay a hand on their partner, and how victim-blaming and enduring abuse has impacted her life.
In the Live, Tahiry explained that as someone who usually likes to keep the details of her relationships private, being bashed and judged for coming forward with the abuse she’s endured in the past was difficult for her. However, she said she, and those who know her, know her truth.
“I tend to try to keep my sh-t personal,” she said to Alicia Lyons. “Again, those that know me, know me, and that’s all that matters. And you will be judged anyway. Even the situation that I just had when I stepped up and talked about being abused in a relationship…sometimes I look back and it’s just like this is why it took so long for me to speak up. Because all people wanna do is bash you and don’t have the slightest clue to what really happened. And it’s just a difficult space to be in so that’s why sometimes I just chill out and do my healing by myself.”
Later in the video, the two discussed how as a society, women not only endure abuse but also often are tasked with taking the responsibility for why the abuse happened through victim-blaming. According to Tahiry, people don’t know the real her, so it can be easy for them to accept the narrative portrayed through shows she’s participated in that give the impression that she’s more of a fighter than a lover. Regardless of how passionate or feisty she is, she maintains that she didn’t put her hands on Joe.
“I think that’s the biggest misconception that you know, at least for me, that I’m a fighter when I’m actually a lover,” she said. “And you know, have gotten bullied to the point where I just kind of looked the other way until I woke up and I was like, ‘I’ve had it. I’ve had the little jokes, I’ve had the little lies, I’ve had it.’ Like, stop. But, you know, the world believes whatever they want to believe. I’m fine. I know what happened. My God knows what happened. He knows what happened. So that’s why I don’t care.”
“So Tahiry’s aggressive. Yeah, I’m loud,” she continued. “I’m Dominican, I’m short, I’m rough, I’m aggressive, but I never put my hands on you. But people don’t know that. They see what they see and that’s okay, too, you know what I’m saying? I know I can sleep at night.”
“It’s like people to say that but that’s like saying I wore a short dress so I deserved to get raped,” she added.
Furthermore, Tahiry shared that she thinks the aggression she carries now is due to the abuse she’s survived. According to her, she didn’t grow up seeing domestic violence in her household as a child, even with her mother being “loud” like her. Because of that, she believes neither a man nor a woman should lay a hand on their partner.
“I believe my aggression and my spiciness comes from being abused, now. So, you know, I’ve had to check myself. I’ve had to go to therapy,” she said. “But no, I don’t think any woman deserves that. My father never put his hands on my mom. My father would walk away. He slammed the TV one time, I’ll tell you that much, and walked away. I didn’t grow up seeing somebody — and my mom was loud. So no, I don’t believe that a man should ever put his hands on a woman. And vice versa, a woman should never put her hands on a man.”
If you recall, in the summer of 2020, Tahiry was publically dealing with a clip of her that went viral, including then-boyfriend, rapper Vado, attacking her on the show Marriage Boot Camp. Soon after that, in an interview with Hollywood Unlocked, Tahiry revealed the allegations that she was also abused both physically and verbally by Joe when they dated. Her claims against Joe, which included fractured ribs and a broken nose, moved her to also mention in the interview that she, to this day, fears for her safety.
“I became that person that you hear about. And women need to know that a man will break your spirit before he actually puts his hands on you,” she said. “It started with verbal abuse. Emotional abuse. And then eventually it turned to that. I still fear for my safety. He hurt me bad and I just stayed quiet.”
In early September, Joe denied Tahiry’s claims, calling her “a cancerous, toxic, clout and check chasing liar,” and saying he was actually the one that dealt with abuse in their relationship.
“I’m very comfortable saying, you were abusive! You used to beat my a–! You threw sh-t, you hit me, you kicked me, you did a whole bunch of sh-t,” he told listeners through his The Joe Budden Podcast.
Their complicated and contentious relationship became even more complicated in Season 10 of LHHNY, as viewers watched the confusing dynamic between them and Joe’s former fiancé, Cyn Santana. She hasn’t spoken further on anything but Cyn alleged that she suffered her own abuse by him in the past.
Despite attempts to put the blame for the abuse she faced on her, women like Tahiry sharing their stories gives hope to others who may have or may still be going through the same thing. Check out her interview with Lyons below.
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Even the situation that I just had when I stepped up and talked about being abused in a relationship…sometimes I look back and it’s just like this is why it took so long for me to speak up. Because all people wanna do is bash you and don’t have the slightest clue to what really happened. And it’s just a difficult space to be in so that’s why sometimes I just chill out and do my healing by myself.”\nLater in the video, the two discussed how as a society, women not only endure abuse but also often are tasked with taking the responsibility for why the abuse happened through victim-blaming. According to Tahiry, people don’t know the real her, so it can be easy for them to accept the narrative portrayed through shows she’s participated in that give the impression that she’s more of a fighter than a lover. Regardless of how passionate or feisty she is, she maintains that she didn’t put her hands on Joe.\n“I think that’s the biggest misconception that you know, at least for me, that I’m a fighter when I’m actually a lover,” she said. “And you know, have gotten bullied to the point where I just kind of looked the other way until I woke up and I was like, ‘I’ve had it. I’ve had the little jokes, I’ve had the little lies, I’ve had it.’ Like, stop. But, you know, the world believes whatever they want to believe. I’m fine. I know what happened. My God knows what happened. He knows what happened. So that’s why I don’t care.”\n“So Tahiry’s aggressive. Yeah, I’m loud,” she continued. “I’m Dominican, I’m short, I’m rough, I’m aggressive, but I never put my hands on you. But people don’t know that. They see what they see and that’s okay, too, you know what I’m saying? I know I can sleep at night.”\n“It’s like people to say that but that’s like saying I wore a short dress so I deserved to get raped,” she added.\nFurthermore, Tahiry shared that she thinks the aggression she carries now is due to the abuse she’s survived. According to her, she didn’t grow up seeing domestic violence in her household as a child, even with her mother being “loud” like her. Because of that, she believes neither a man nor a woman should lay a hand on their partner.\n“I believe my aggression and my spiciness comes from being abused, now. So, you know, I’ve had to check myself. I’ve had to go to therapy,” she said. “But no, I don’t think any woman deserves that. My father never put his hands on my mom. My father would walk away. He slammed the TV one time, I’ll tell you that much, and walked away. I didn’t grow up seeing somebody — and my mom was loud. So no, I don’t believe that a man should ever put his hands on a woman. And vice versa, a woman should never put her hands on a man.”\nIf you recall, in the summer of 2020, Tahiry was publically dealing with a clip of her that went viral, including then-boyfriend, rapper Vado, attacking her on the show Marriage Boot Camp. Soon after that, in an interview with Hollywood Unlocked, Tahiry revealed the allegations that she was also abused both physically and verbally by Joe when they dated. Her claims against Joe, which included fractured ribs and a broken nose, moved her to also mention in the interview that she, to this day, fears for her safety.\n“I became that person that you hear about. And women need to know that a man will break your spirit before he actually puts his hands on you,” she said. “It started with verbal abuse. Emotional abuse. And then eventually it turned to that. I still fear for my safety. He hurt me bad and I just stayed quiet.”\nIn early September, Joe denied Tahiry’s claims, calling her “a cancerous, toxic, clout and check chasing liar,” and saying he was actually the one that dealt with abuse in their relationship.\n“I’m very comfortable saying, you were abusive! You used to beat my a–! You threw sh-t, you hit me, you kicked me, you did a whole bunch of sh-t,” he told listeners through his The Joe Budden Podcast.\nTheir complicated and contentious relationship became even more complicated in Season 10 of LHHNY, as viewers watched the confusing dynamic between them and Joe’s former fiancé, Cyn Santana. She hasn’t spoken further on anything but Cyn alleged that she suffered her own abuse by him in the past.\nDespite attempts to put the blame for the abuse she faced on her, women like Tahiry sharing their stories gives hope to others who may have or may still be going through the same thing. Check out her interview with Lyons below.",
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A video showed Cardi stop playing "WAP" when her daughter Kulture walked in the room. Sadly, people were critical of this choice, saying the song was fine for other people's daughters but not her own. Cardi responded.
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Cardi B. released “WAP” this past summer. Still, months later and into the new year, it’s still causing controversy and discussion. A video, that is a bit old resurfaced recently. And in it, Cardi is standing in her kitchen playing “WAP,” when suddenly her 2-year-old daughter Kulture comes toddling into the room.
Turning to see her daughter in the entry way, Cardi stops the song, presumably so her daughter can’t hear the inappropriate, sexually explicit lyrics.
And for one reason or another, people had a problem with this.
Someone wrote, “So ya daughter can’t listen to it but everybody else’s daughter can? @iamcardib AW OKAY! Exactly what I been saying you have an agenda to push with that trash a$$ label your [sic] with. DISGUSTING.”
For better or worse, Cardi is not one to back down from a fight so she responded to the tweet.
“Ya needs to stop with this already! I’m not jojosiwa ! I don’t make music for kids I make music for adults.Parents are responsible on what their children listen too or see.I I’m a very sexual person but not around my child just like every other parent should be.”
“There’s moms who are strippers. Pop p*ssy, twerk all night for entertainment. Does that mean they do it around their kids? No! Stop makin this a debate. It’s pretty much common sense.”
Agreed.
I know people are often looking, hoping, and wishing for parenthood to be easy. But it just doesn’t work like that. You have to take an active and present role in the material your children are exposed to in order to prevent them from being exposed to inappropriate material before their time.
And sorry to say, it’s not Cardi’s responsibility to make that job easier for you. It’s your job to be vigilant. “WAP” is not playing unedited on the radio. You’re not going to hear it on Nickelodeon or Disney. It doesn’t air on children’s programming. It was a popular song so you may have to do some work to ensure they don’t hear it. But that’s parenting.
Cardi’s doing it—having creating the song. Other mothers and fathers can do the same.
Furthermore, where is all this heat and smoke for the male rappers and artists whose lyrical content is both sexual, violent and misogynistic? Where is the criticism for them? I haven’t seen a concerted effort since 90’s gangsta rap was the most popular art form.
Folks need to stop being lazy. And while celebrities will inevitably be role models for your children, the influence and power you have as a parent can and should supersede anything they may witness in the world.
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Lisa D'Amato has some intense questions for Tyra Banks, and former ANTM contestant doesn't seem to be holding back from being one of the host's harshest critics. The cycle 17 winner is calling out Banks for allegedly profiting off of the "childhood traumas" of the show's contestants, including her own.
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Lisa D’Amato has some intense questions for Tyra Banks, and former America’s Next Top Model contestant doesn’t seem to be holding back from being one of the host’s harshest critics. In fact, the cycle 17 winner is calling out Banks for allegedly profiting off of the “childhood traumas” of the show’s contestants, including her own.
If you didn’t remember, D’Amato was in two seasons of ANTM. In season 5, the contestant finished in sixth place. In season 17, an “all-stars” cycle where D’Amato was brought back to compete for the ANTM title, she ended up going all the way to the finalé and won. In a recent video posted to her Instagram account, D’Amato recalled the E! True Hollywood Story episode she did a few years back where she was brutally honest about her time on ANTM and warned other women about participating in the show. As she explained in the video, she chose to expose the truth behind the modeling competition even though she was under the threat of being sued.
“I went on there and I talked about production,” D’Amato said about her contribution to the E! Hollywood exposé. Explaining further, she said it was a “breach of contract” that could have cost her 5 million dollars, but that she did it “because I felt like it was my duty to warn other girls that were going to audition for America’s Next Top Model to know that what you guys do and the way that you guys would poke me and use my childhood trauma against me, day in and day out — It was just so f*cked up, and it broke my heart.”
“Like, how could you do that?” the model asked as her voice broke and she held back tears.
As she mentioned “childhood trauma,” the words “Sexual abuse, Physical abuse, and Mental abuse” appeared at the bottom of her screen, seeming adding more context for viewers about the trauma she had experienced in her youth.
“To me, the odds were worth it if I still got sued.” Speaking to Tyra directly D’Amato added, “I don’t know how you sleep at night.”
“You Tyra, you knew very well the horrible trauma that my mom inflicted on me,” D’Amato continued. “You also talk so much about how you wouldn’t be where you are without your mother and how powerful she is. So knowing that, you still did that to me and continued to do it to other girls, even after I spoke publicly about it. How do you sleep at night knowing you are torturing and poking at people’s, girl’s, childhood traumas, for your own profit?”
D’Amato isn’t the first former ANTM model to come out against Banks and her CW hit show. In addition to receiving backlash from her contestants, social media users have also criticized Banks again and again for the part she played in the chaos that ensued during the show’s challenges and its harsh feedback towards the contestants. With more and more people coming out against Banks because of how toxic the show’s environment was, it seems like no one who was on ANTM has been able to leave the show in their past.
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During a recent interview, Ashanti shared that she wasn't the only person in her circle affected with COVID. Her mother was also diagnosed and it was much more serious for her.
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At this point, we are all well aware that Ashanti had COVID-19. It was one of the reasons her Verzuz battle with Keyshia Cole was postponed. What we didn’t know was that Ashanti was not the only one who was affected by her diagnosis.
Apparently, after Ashanti tested positive, her mother did as well. And while Ashanti’s case was mild and she experienced minimal symptoms, it was not the same for her mother, Tina Douglas, who had to be taken to the hospital.
During a recent conversation with Ebro in the Morning, Ashanti explained what happened.
“I got tested the night before we were supposed to leave,” she said. “I got tested as a precaution. I know I don’t have it, so I’m just doing this as a solid for them, so I can get on the plane. So the plane was ready, bags were packed, my stylist was at my house, we were doing fitting … So when I got the results, I was like, ‘Me? Are you sure this is mine?’ I was stunned.”
As for symptoms, Ashanti shared that she had the sniffles and had lost her sense of smell but attributed it to allergies. She had also just come back from Safari in Africa.
Because her symptoms were so mild, she was willing to do the Verzuz battle from her home. But organizers felt it was best that she not. (Doing the Verzuz at home, would have still required a team of people to be with Ashanti. She’d need hair, makeup, a camera operator, a sound operator etc.) It still wasn’t safe.
While we don’t know if Ashanti was the reason her mother was eventually diagnosed with COVID, she also caught the virus. Naturally, Ashanti was concerned for her mother’s safety. “… My mom actually got it really bad. She was in the hospital for five days … Oh my gosh, y’all, I was going crazy. I snuck in the hospital; they had to kick me out. It was bad.”
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Monica said many of her counterparts have given up a lot to be successful, and not just in regards to time and energy. That was something sh was never okay with doing, so she has no regrets.
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In a recent Instagram Live chat with fans, singer Monica opened up about trying to deal with very real personal issues while simultaneously trying to have a successful music career. The 40-year-old star has been through many turbulent situations, which she’s been open about. Most recently, she went through a publicized divorce with Shannon Brown after eight years of marriage. During the Live, she talked about how when such unforeseen life-changing events would occur, she would need to take a step back from working on her music to work on herself and care for her family. That hasn’t always been accepted by fans in a career spanning more than 25 years. She hasn’t released a new album since 2015’s Code Red.
“I’ve always bared my soul and was transparent, which I catch a lot of flack for, all the time. But I’m still cool with it because if I don’t do nothin’ else, I’m going to be me,” she said. “To the death of me, I’m going to be me.”
“Don’t think one red coin, one award, none of this stuff around me or amongst me keeps me at peace, “she added. “None of it holds me at night. None of it dries my tears. None of it. So sometimes when I tap out I apologize y’all, but I tap out because I’m human.”
While she asked for grace from her supporters, she also made clear that she is going to continue to go about her career, and most importantly, her life, her own way. It’s not conventional according to Monica, who says many of her counterparts have given up a lot to be successful, and not just in regards to time and energy. But she has no regrets.
“Yeah, see people spend a lot of time putting on in this forum. Listen, I would have been a much bigger star, a much wealthier woman, had I put on for you. That was a choice, a decision that I made. A lot of the stuff that you haven’t seen me do, is not because it wasn’t offered. It was because I made the choice not to,” she said. “I got all the calls, but I knew what people were sacrificing to do what they were doing. I didn’t want to sacrifice that.”
“You’ll be surprised what people gave up to get to the top. But I been watching it all my life and it is a choice for me to be able to do what I do with sound mind,” she added. “With a solid family. I move how I move and I face a lot of criticism for it. I face so much criticism for it, it has actually become comical. Because I’m a real human being. To gain the world and lose your soul is not something I’m okay with. That’s a level of sacrifice I refuse to partake in. I mean, I refuse.”
While she may not be a megastar, Monica has done well for herself since starting in 1993. She is a Grammy Award winner and most recently was awarded the Soul Train Lady of Soul Award for her career accomplishments. She has all that, including dedicated fans, while being a doting mother and woman of faith. She certainly is a success.
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In a clip from the latest episode of "Growing Up Hip Hop," Deb shocks Waka Flocka and Da Brat after confirming that she supports Donald Trump. Considering all that's happened with the Capitol breach, she might have a change of heart now.
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Growing Up Hip Hop Atlanta star Deb Antney is making headlines for doubling down on her Pro-Trump beliefs in the latest season of the show. In a clip from tonight’s episode, Deb shocked her son Waka Flocka and rapper Da Brat after confirming to the two rappers that she supports Donald Trump.
At the beginning of the clip, Deb calls her fellow castmate Da Brat, to figure out whether or not the rapper will be attending a political luncheon she’s holding. When Brat questions why she would go, Deb tells her that her interest in politics is more now than they’ve ever been. When Brat asks her to confirm whether the rumors that she supports Trump are true, Deb has no problems telling her how she feels.
“I mean to ask you about that too, are you down for Trump?” Brat asked.
“Right. Yes!” Deb answers firmly.
Brat, whose disbelief can be heard through the phone, asks Deb, “Why? What is up with that?”
“Because, what you see is what you get,” the entertainment manager replies. “He could be ghetto, he could be everything it is that people say. I don’t know why we beefin’ with it. ‘Cause that’s how the hell we do it, and everybody beefing with it. That man is who he is and there’s no hidden agendas.”
In Brat’s confessionals, she had a lot to say about Deb’s support of Trump. To her, even though other stars have come out in support of the president, supporting Trump in the hip-hop world and overall is taboo. She doubted people would even believe that Deb was being serious.
In one of the confessionals, Brat said, “I have no idea how in the hell Deb supports Trump. Like I really just felt like she was in a dream and she was just speaking Swahili or some language I don’t understand ’cause I don’t get how you support him. He can’t run a country,” she said with a shrug at the end.
After getting off of the phone with Brat, Deb continued the conversation with Waka. When the rapper suggested that his mother is making his life hard because he didn’t know how his wife would take the news about her being a Trump supporter, Deb got defensive. She was quick to tell him, “we all have our own opinions.”
“Trump with me is really not even policies and procedures and all the political stuff,” she said in her confessional. “What you see is what you get, that’s what I like about him. Even if he gon’ screw you, you gon’ know he getting ready to do it. That’s my kind of person.”
“And besides that, we’re in America. America is not politics, America is business,” she added. “I’m not the least, do you hear me? Bit worried, about my reputation. Because by me liking Trump make you not like me, [you] ain’t never liked me from the beginning.”
Deb’s support of Trump first made headlines back in December 2020. Previews of the then-upcoming season of Growing Up Hip Hop Atlanta showed Deb’s loyalty to Trump being a big part of the season. Co-stars were seen having all sorts of reactions to Deb’s dramatic declarations supporting Trump, from shock to disappointment and confusion.
Her attempts to justify her loyalty to Trump only seem like they’re going to get more intense as the season goes on, especially for viewers when we finally get to see how her pro-Trump luncheon really went down. Even though many think the hip-hop manager is wrong, Deb’s clearly a woman who stands by her convictions, no matter how ironic they end up being.
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Nicki Minaj’s infant son has made his Instagram debut. The “Good Form” rapper posted a photo of her three-month old baby on social media on January 2, 2021 along with a loving message along with wishing her 125 million followers a happy new year.
#PapaBear thank you so very much for choosing me to be your mama 🎀🦄🙏 Wishing you guys a happy & prosperous New Year. Thank you for your love & support throughout this journey. It’s meant so much to me. Becoming a mom is by far the most fulfilling job I’ve ever taken on. Sending love to all the superhero mothers out there. Big hugs to all the women who have been pregnant during this challenging time.
Before the new year hit, Minaj engaged in a Q&A with her fans where she answered questions about her pregnancy. She wvwn shared what happened when she went into labor.
“I was butt naked,” she wrote on Twitter. “Just got out the shower & I asked him to rub my back. As soon as I started scooting over to him in the bed I just felt the water start coming out. I was weirdly calm & I quietly said “omg, I’m about to be in labor” He was very scared & I was laughing @ him.”
The 37-year-old emcee also said that she delivered her son vaginally.
“Yes, natural vaginal birth w/epidural,” she tweeted. “I pushed for 2 1/2 hours. Only b/c first the epidural didn’t wear off enough for me to feel myself pushing. Once I was able to feel the pain I pushed him on out.”
The Queens, New York native also discussed her experience breastfeeding and said it isn’t as easy as it looks.
“He had no problem breastfeeding. He latched on in the hospital which was very surprising to me. I was afraid maybe he wouldn’t. But breast feeding is very painful. Pumping is too. Women make this stuff look way too easy. Moms r really superheroes.”
The one thing she wouldn’t share was her husband’s reaction to her revealing that they were expecting their first child.
Minaj and her husband, Kenneth Petty, welcomed their son on September 30, 2020 in Los Angeles, California, PEOPLE confirmed.
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In our exclusive interview, Vincent from "Married at First Sight," shared that he joined the show because it felt like a spiritual calling.
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Last week, Vincent and Briana cemented themselves as our favorite couple. They seem the most stable, the most personable. And we couldn’t help but notice not only how attractive they both are and how much initial chemistry they seemed to share.
Recently, we had the chance to speak to Vincent about his decision to be married at first sight, his first impression of his bride and how he wants to put an end to some family patterns. See what he had to say below.
MadameNoire: How did you first hear about “Married at First Sight”?
Vincent: I heard about “Married at First Sight” on Instagram, actually. Someone reached out to me. I really wasn’t too familiar with the show. I did have friends—their spouses had watched but I never watched the show before that.
MadameNoire: What made you decide to go through with this? I mean, it’s a big step.
Vincent: It is a big step and as crazy as it sounds, to me, it just sounded like a calling to me. I’m a very spiritual person. When I got the Instagram DM, I didn’t believe it was true but as I got through the process, I told myself that if I was selected it was because it was supposed to be. So it was never I’m desperate to be married.
I did want to be married, for sure, and I wanted a family. I just thought it was a calling and that’s why I went through the process.
MadameNoire: We saw on the show that your friends feel like you’re ready to be married, which is a good sign. But how did your family take the news that you were going to be getting married to a stranger?
Vincent: So I am from the Dominican Republic and we marry younger, so they’re like ‘Vincent what’s going on? The clock is ticking.’ So they were really happy for me.
MadameNoire: What were your first impressions when you saw Briana walk down the aisle?
Vincent: When saw Briana, I was extremely happy because she was exactly what I had described that I wanted: curly hair, Black. I said either Black or Latina. She’s Black, she was beautiful and I was just really happy. She was exactly what I had described so I was really happy.
MadameNoire: How has it been watching yourself on tv these past couple of weeks?
Vincent: It’s been a little crazy to hear my voice and to see myself. But I’m like, ‘I don’t look too bad.’ Laughs.
MadameNoire: You said this experience felt like a calling but what let you know that you were ready to be a husband?
Vincent: It was just the fact that I grew up without my mom or dad when I was very small. I really wanted that because I will say that marriage is not a big thing in my community. There are people that are married but I’ve never experienced that myself. A lot of my family members, they had kids out of wedlock and I just did not want that. I feel that I was really ready between 24 and 25. That was a little early on. But I was ready to commit to one person and just build. I felt like dating was lust to me and I was wasting my time dating around.
MadameNoire: What maybe kept you from getting to the marriage point in your past relationships? You spoke about one relationship on the show and how she had a problem with you being an entrepreneur. But what kept you from that point in other relationships?
Vincent: I was in relationships where I was ready to take it to the next level but I was scared. I was ready to be married but the thought always scared me. It had a lot to do with that. I don’t have anybody that I can reach out to. Me and my father’s relationship is not that great so those big questions, I just never had anybody to talk to about stuff like that if I was ever dating someone that I felt that I wanted to marry. But mostly it was about me being scared.
MadameNoire: What changed?
Vincent: I got way more serious about being married when the pandemic happened. It just told me that life was so uncertain. When I was alone in my apartment, during the lockdown, I just wished I had someone by my side. Because it was really, really lonely. I really wanted to be married and I also felt like I was meeting a lot of people who were not trying to achieve the same goal. People want to have fun. And recently, when I was 26, 27, I stopped dating to have fun. I was like, ‘If I meet someone, I want to stay with them.’ And I feel like in Atlanta a lot of people are just having fun. And there’s nothing wrong with it but I was more willing to settle down at that time. I still felt I was a little young but I wanted to find my soulmate. I didn’t want to waste my time anymore.
MadameNoire: Did you have any fear about trusting who the experts would pick for you?
Vincent: I felt that the experts meant well. As I was going through the process, with the show, I was watching the show. I was going on YouTube and I just felt like they wanted everybody to succeed. I felt that I could rely on these people and say that they wanted everyone to stay married after the show was done.
MadameNoire: Having children was really important to you and your wife. Why is that so important to you in this process?
Vincent: I want children because I have a little brother and he already has two. I just feel like whenever I see families around, walking—whether it’s a mom, dad, and baby in a stroller—it just warms my heart and I want that for myself. Children are amazing. I know that there’s a lot that goes into it. I’ve hung out with my nephew a lot and I just want the same. Children bring so much joy to families. I’m always mindful that I want kids but they’re not going to be easy to take care of. I’m ready to pass along all the things that I’ve learned. I really want to sculpt a person to go out in the world and spread more joy and be kind because there are some people out here who aren’t the nicest. So another nice person on this earth is not going to be a bad thing.
MadameNoire: Anything else you want to add?
Vincent: I would just say that there are a lot of men out there who were in my shoes, being scared to commit. But when they find the person that is for them, dive deep in. Find out do I really want to keep wasting my time or do I want to commit to somebody and build something that will bring happiness and will be something that is fulfilling. And that’s what I always felt I was missing when I was just dating.
A new episode of “Married at First Sight” airs tonight at 8 pm EST on Lifetime.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nLast week, Vincent and Briana cemented themselves as our favorite couple. They seem the most stable, the most personable. And we couldn’t help but notice not only how attractive they both are and how much initial chemistry they seemed to share.\nRecently, we had the chance to speak to Vincent about his decision to be married at first sight, his first impression of his bride and how he wants to put an end to some family patterns. See what he had to say below.\nMadameNoire: How did you first hear about “Married at First Sight”?\nVincent: I heard about “Married at First Sight” on Instagram, actually. Someone reached out to me. I really wasn’t too familiar with the show. I did have friends—their spouses had watched but I never watched the show before that.\nMadameNoire: What made you decide to go through with this? I mean, it’s a big step.\nVincent: It is a big step and as crazy as it sounds, to me, it just sounded like a calling to me. I’m a very spiritual person. When I got the Instagram DM, I didn’t believe it was true but as I got through the process, I told myself that if I was selected it was because it was supposed to be. So it was never I’m desperate to be married.\nI did want to be married, for sure, and I wanted a family. I just thought it was a calling and that’s why I went through the process.\nMadameNoire: We saw on the show that your friends feel like you’re ready to be married, which is a good sign. But how did your family take the news that you were going to be getting married to a stranger?\nVincent: So I am from the Dominican Republic and we marry younger, so they’re like ‘Vincent what’s going on? The clock is ticking.’ So they were really happy for me.\nMadameNoire: What were your first impressions when you saw Briana walk down the aisle?\nVincent: When saw Briana, I was extremely happy because she was exactly what I had described that I wanted: curly hair, Black. I said either Black or Latina. She’s Black, she was beautiful and I was just really happy. She was exactly what I had described so I was really happy.\nMadameNoire: How has it been watching yourself on tv these past couple of weeks?\nVincent: It’s been a little crazy to hear my voice and to see myself. But I’m like, ‘I don’t look too bad.’ Laughs.\nMadameNoire: You said this experience felt like a calling but what let you know that you were ready to be a husband?\nVincent: It was just the fact that I grew up without my mom or dad when I was very small. I really wanted that because I will say that marriage is not a big thing in my community. There are people that are married but I’ve never experienced that myself. A lot of my family members, they had kids out of wedlock and I just did not want that. I feel that I was really ready between 24 and 25. That was a little early on. But I was ready to commit to one person and just build. I felt like dating was lust to me and I was wasting my time dating around.\nMadameNoire: What maybe kept you from getting to the marriage point in your past relationships? You spoke about one relationship on the show and how she had a problem with you being an entrepreneur. But what kept you from that point in other relationships?\nVincent: I was in relationships where I was ready to take it to the next level but I was scared. I was ready to be married but the thought always scared me. It had a lot to do with that. I don’t have anybody that I can reach out to. Me and my father’s relationship is not that great so those big questions, I just never had anybody to talk to about stuff like that if I was ever dating someone that I felt that I wanted to marry. But mostly it was about me being scared.\nMadameNoire: What changed?\nVincent: I got way more serious about being married when the pandemic happened. It just told me that life was so uncertain. When I was alone in my apartment, during the lockdown, I just wished I had someone by my side. Because it was really, really lonely. I really wanted to be married and I also felt like I was meeting a lot of people who were not trying to achieve the same goal. People want to have fun. And recently, when I was 26, 27, I stopped dating to have fun. I was like, ‘If I meet someone, I want to stay with them.’ And I feel like in Atlanta a lot of people are just having fun. And there’s nothing wrong with it but I was more willing to settle down at that time. I still felt I was a little young but I wanted to find my soulmate. I didn’t want to waste my time anymore.\nMadameNoire: Did you have any fear about trusting who the experts would pick for you?\nVincent: I felt that the experts meant well. As I was going through the process, with the show, I was watching the show. I was going on YouTube and I just felt like they wanted everybody to succeed. I felt that I could rely on these people and say that they wanted everyone to stay married after the show was done.\nMadameNoire: Having children was really important to you and your wife. Why is that so important to you in this process?\nVincent: I want children because I have a little brother and he already has two. I just feel like whenever I see families around, walking—whether it’s a mom, dad, and baby in a stroller—it just warms my heart and I want that for myself. Children are amazing. I know that there’s a lot that goes into it. I’ve hung out with my nephew a lot and I just want the same. Children bring so much joy to families. I’m always mindful that I want kids but they’re not going to be easy to take care of. I’m ready to pass along all the things that I’ve learned. I really want to sculpt a person to go out in the world and spread more joy and be kind because there are some people out here who aren’t the nicest. So another nice person on this earth is not going to be a bad thing.\nMadameNoire: Anything else you want to add?\nVincent: I would just say that there are a lot of men out there who were in my shoes, being scared to commit. But when they find the person that is for them, dive deep in. Find out do I really want to keep wasting my time or do I want to commit to somebody and build something that will bring happiness and will be something that is fulfilling. And that’s what I always felt I was missing when I was just dating.\nA new episode of “Married at First Sight” airs tonight at 8 pm EST on Lifetime.",
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When you finally find the person with whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life, the last thing you probably want to think about is their credit history and debt-to-income ratio. However, the truth of the matter is that your future partner's financial profile can impact your life in dramatic ways.
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When you finally find the person with whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life, the last thing you probably want to think about is their credit history and debt-to-income ratio. However, the truth of the matter is that your future partner’s financial profile can impact your life in some pretty dramatic ways — especially when they’re drowning in debt and have a poor credit history.
“Marrying a spouse with poor credit and a large debt comes with responsibility,” relationship coach Casandra Henriquez told MadameNoire. “I recommend Financial Peace University to all my clients before they get married. Your money mindset will affect the day to day flow of your relationship. Uncovering how you feel about money, your relationship with money, and what makes you feel secure and verbalizing it to your spouse– it will assist in avoiding many fights once you get married.”
Here are some potential challenges of marrying a spouse with poor credit and sizable debt.
Buying a home
One of the more obvious challenges to marrying a spouse with poor credit is that it will present challenges when purchasing a home.
“Applying for credit jointly may be problematic unless the debt-free partner has substantial income,” Morris Armstrong, Founder & Owner at Morris Armstrong EA LLC, told MadameNoire. “I have seen that in the past, where a mortgage application gets rejected because one spouse has a lot of debt and poor credit, and the other spouse does not have the resources to stand on their own.”
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"When you finally find the person with whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life, the last thing you probably want to think about is their credit history and debt-to-income ratio. However, the truth of the matter is that your future partner's financial profile can impact your life in dramatic ways."
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Rapper YFN Lucci, known to us as Reginae's boyfriend, is currently wanted on felony murder charges in Atlanta.
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Rapper YFN Lucci, perhaps best known here as Reginae’s on-again, off-again boyfriend is in some serious legal trouble.
According to TMZ, he is wanted by local Atlanta law enforcement as police suspect he is responsible for shooting and killing a man.
Atlanta’s homicide unit told TMZ that they are still searching for Lucci, 29, whose real name is Rayshawn Bennett on several charges including “felony murder, aggravated assault, participation in criminal street gang activity, and possession of a firearm during the commission of a felony.”
Law enforcement believe Lucci was involved in a shooting last month in southwest Atlanta. The incident resulted in the death of one man who suffered a gunshot wound to the head and another man was injured. The second victim was shot minutes after the first.
Police believe the shootings are related to two arrests they’ve already made, including Ra’von Boyd, 23, and 17-year-old Leroy Pitts, who were arrested on felony murder charges.
The police haven’t had such luck with Lucci and are now asking the public to help find him. They are offering a $5,000 reward for any information that leads to his arrest and indictment.
This is a lot for young Reginae, 22, to think about and consider.
Lucci and Reginae began dating in 2018 and broke up in 2019.
While Reginae swore that she would not let Lucci continue to embarrass her after #CucumberGate, Lucci told Angela Yee in an interview just last month that the two were working on their relationship.
This might put a bit of a damper on their plans.
We’ll be sure to keep you posted.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nRapper YFN Lucci, perhaps best known here as Reginae’s on-again, off-again boyfriend is in some serious legal trouble.\nAccording to TMZ, he is wanted by local Atlanta law enforcement as police suspect he is responsible for shooting and killing a man.\nAtlanta’s homicide unit told TMZ that they are still searching for Lucci, 29, whose real name is Rayshawn Bennett on several charges including “felony murder, aggravated assault, participation in criminal street gang activity, and possession of a firearm during the commission of a felony.”\nLaw enforcement believe Lucci was involved in a shooting last month in southwest Atlanta. The incident resulted in the death of one man who suffered a gunshot wound to the head and another man was injured. The second victim was shot minutes after the first.\nPolice believe the shootings are related to two arrests they’ve already made, including Ra’von Boyd, 23, and 17-year-old Leroy Pitts, who were arrested on felony murder charges.\nThe police haven’t had such luck with Lucci and are now asking the public to help find him. They are offering a $5,000 reward for any information that leads to his arrest and indictment.\nThis is a lot for young Reginae, 22, to think about and consider.\nLucci and Reginae began dating in 2018 and broke up in 2019.\nWhile Reginae swore that she would not let Lucci continue to embarrass her after #CucumberGate, Lucci told Angela Yee in an interview just last month that the two were working on their relationship.\nThis might put a bit of a damper on their plans.\nWe’ll be sure to keep you posted.",
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If you’ve recently stopped eating meat or have been a vegan or vegetarian for many years, you’ve likely discovered that many meat-free foods contain soy. It seems to be the fix-all ingredient the herbivore community landed on as a way of getting enough protein. So what are you to do if soy upsets your stomach?
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There are many reasons people may choose to avoid eating soy or limit their soy intake. One such reason includes studies that have found a certain compound in soy, when eaten in large amounts, may increase the risk of breast cancer in those who have a predisposition to it, due to family history. Another reason may be that while a soy allergy isn’t as common as some others, it is still one of the most prevalent food allergies. So for many, eating soy simply isn’t an option.
If you’ve recently stopped eating meat or have been a vegan or vegetarian for many years, you’ve likely discovered that many meat-free foods contain soy. It seems to be the fix-all ingredient the herbivore community landed on as a way of getting enough protein. So what are you to do if soy upsets your stomach? Or you’re afraid of the potential risks associated with it? Or you just don’t like the stuff? There actually are some great soy-free meat substitutes. You just have to know where to look, as they aren’t as easily found as the soy burgers in the frozen food aisle.
When it’s time to get your faux meat crumbles, sausages, or patties, there are some key ingredients to look for that will be filling. Here are delicious soy-free meat alternatives.
Best in noodles: Garbanzo beans
Found in many vegetarian burgers and spread, garbanzo beans add great texture to patties and crumbles. One cup offers an astounding 39 grams of protein, so they can certainly fill you up and make sure you don’t miss any meat. There are many simple ways they can serve as the protein to your dishes – add them to a pesto pasta dish instead of shrimp, or add them to a vegetable noodle soup in place of chicken.
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Tristan "Mack" Wilds closed out 2020 as a married man. On December 17, the actor married his childhood sweetheart, Christina Hammond, during an intimate c
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Tristan “Mack” Wilds closed out 2020 as a married man. On December 17, the actor married his childhood sweetheart, Christina Hammond, during an intimate ceremony, E! News reports.
“Our wedding was perfect,” Hammond, who works as a media and talent relations strategist, told the publication. “We wanted an intimate ceremony and so it was just us, Tristyn, and our parents on Zoom. I couldn’t have asked for a better wedding day.”
“We got married, in a way, akin to how we started—just us,” Wilds added. “Never needed much else. With the addition of our parents and our baby, it really made for a magical moment.”
Wilds and Hammond have been together since they were just fifteen years old. Last year, they welcome their first child, Tristyn Naomi Wilds.
“At different times in our lives, we’re shown fairy tales don’t come true. This one came true for me,” Wilds gushed.
“Our love story,” Christina added, “is my favorite love story. I am living out my dream of being married to the love of my life.”
Just a few days prior to the ceremony, the newlyweds celebrated their baby girl’s first birthday.
Wilds previously confessed that when he learned that he was about to become a father, he was dealing with some challenges.
“Aight, serious moment,” he expressed in a December 2019 Instagram post. “Earlier this year, I was in a really dark place. S–t, honestly? I’d been there for a while. I dunno, i was just letting life take me wherever she may. But I told God I needed a light. I needed a sign that I was supposed to be here, and that my presence here on earth was needed…Heard ju, God. Thank you for this. Merry Christmas.”
And Trystin continues to be that light that the actor transparently confessed that he needed.
“There’s a certain tenderness when you’re raising a girl,” Wilds told Essence last spring. “You still have to be tough, but ultimately, when you’re raising a girl, you’re raising the closest thing that we have to God.”
“Everybody says their woman is their rib,” He went on to say of Hammonds, “But she’s my backbone. In this business, it’s like, if you don’t have a backbone, you’re a gutted fish.”
Congratulations to the newlyweds. We wish them a lifetime of peace, happiness, and prosperity.
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After many an interview about the possibility of an engagement and a happily ever after for the couple, there is talk that Karrueche Tran and Victor Cruz have called it quits after first getting together in 2017. Neither party has confirmed anything, but they certainly don't post about each other very often anymore.
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Could the pandemic have claimed another once-thriving relationship? That’s what many people are asking after noticing that Karrueche Tran and Victor Cruz have been pretty quiet lately. Following many an interview about the possibility of an engagement and a happily ever after for the couple, there is talk that they’ve called it quits after first getting together in 2017.
The last time Tran posted about her beau was back on November 11 for his birthday when she captioned an image of them together, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY LOVE! I LOVE YOU”
As for Cruz, the last time he shared something about her was, you guessed it, on her birthday. That post was way back in the spring on May 17. It was certainly heartfelt though.
“Just taking a moment to wish my baby a Happy Birthday. Your humility, intelligence, patience and selflessness are just a few qualities that made me fall in love with you,” he wrote at the time. “Enjoy your special day and I can’t wait to spend 100 more birthdays together. Preferably next to each other and out of quarantine lol. Love you”
But that’s been it. He didn’t promote her Pretty Little Things collection she recently launched. And moments like their couple’s interview on the popular YouTube series Truth or Dab with Hot Ones, are hard to find.
So people have been asking what’s been going on, including in the comments of their social media posts and in general, on Twitter:
People have also called out the fact that they didn’t spend the holidays together, and they never moved to the same place (she is on the west coast and he stayed on the east near his daughter), and as mentioned, they quarantined separately.
If it’s true that they’ve called it quits, that would be disappointing because they’ve always been such a beautiful couple with a very light, positive energy. Following her tumultuous relationship with Chris Brown, he seemed to be the perfect guy for her. While in quarantine, they broached the topic on Instagram Live of marriage and babies with fans. She did note that she wasn’t ready for the latter, saying, “I’m interested in that too but I’m not in any rush. God forbid I was pregnant during this quarantine.”
However, marriage never sounded too far off for the pair, as he said he was “absolutely” interested in marrying her when asked about it last year, and she said their love was like nothing she experienced before.
“I can put myself first and also love someone else at the same time. There’s room for both,” she said during a visit to Big Boy’s Neighborhood. “I think before I was just putting too much energy into one and not giving [enough to] myself.”
Neither party has publicly spoken up about where things stand between them since November, and she has liked a few recent photos of his, primarily of his daughter and his work with Daily Pop on E! They could be just be low-key these days due to the distance, or, they could be just keeping it cute and positive after going their separate ways. We’ll have to wait and see which of the two categories they fall under.
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nCould the pandemic have claimed another once-thriving relationship? That’s what many people are asking after noticing that Karrueche Tran and Victor Cruz have been pretty quiet lately. Following many an interview about the possibility of an engagement and a happily ever after for the couple, there is talk that they’ve called it quits after first getting together in 2017.\nThe last time Tran posted about her beau was back on November 11 for his birthday when she captioned an image of them together, “HAPPY BIRTHDAY MY LOVE! I LOVE YOU”\nAs for Cruz, the last time he shared something about her was, you guessed it, on her birthday. That post was way back in the spring on May 17. It was certainly heartfelt though.\n“Just taking a moment to wish my baby a Happy Birthday. Your humility, intelligence, patience and selflessness are just a few qualities that made me fall in love with you,” he wrote at the time. “Enjoy your special day and I can’t wait to spend 100 more birthdays together. Preferably next to each other and out of quarantine lol. Love you”\nBut that’s been it. He didn’t promote her Pretty Little Things collection she recently launched. And moments like their couple’s interview on the popular YouTube series Truth or Dab with Hot Ones, are hard to find.\nSo people have been asking what’s been going on, including in the comments of their social media posts and in general, on Twitter:\nPeople have also called out the fact that they didn’t spend the holidays together, and they never moved to the same place (she is on the west coast and he stayed on the east near his daughter), and as mentioned, they quarantined separately.\nIf it’s true that they’ve called it quits, that would be disappointing because they’ve always been such a beautiful couple with a very light, positive energy. Following her tumultuous relationship with Chris Brown, he seemed to be the perfect guy for her. While in quarantine, they broached the topic on Instagram Live of marriage and babies with fans. She did note that she wasn’t ready for the latter, saying, “I’m interested in that too but I’m not in any rush. God forbid I was pregnant during this quarantine.”\nHowever, marriage never sounded too far off for the pair, as he said he was “absolutely” interested in marrying her when asked about it last year, and she said their love was like nothing she experienced before.\n“I can put myself first and also love someone else at the same time. There’s room for both,” she said during a visit to Big Boy’s Neighborhood. “I think before I was just putting too much energy into one and not giving [enough to] myself.”\nNeither party has publicly spoken up about where things stand between them since November, and she has liked a few recent photos of his, primarily of his daughter and his work with Daily Pop on E! They could be just be low-key these days due to the distance, or, they could be just keeping it cute and positive after going their separate ways. We’ll have to wait and see which of the two categories they fall under.",
"Are Karrueche And Victor Cruz Still Together?",
"After many an interview about the possibility of an engagement and a happily ever after for the couple, there is talk that Karrueche Tran and Victor Cruz have called it quits after first getting together in 2017. Neither party has confirmed anything, but they certainly don't post about each other very often anymore."
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As a person of color in a position where I directly work with law enforcement, balancing my career, and my desire for social reform in all aspects of policing is a steep task these days.
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When Identities Collide: Being A Black Woman Working Alongside The Police
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As a person of color in a position where I directly work with law enforcement, balancing my career, and my desire for social reform in all aspects of policing is a steep task these days. Never before have I ever experienced such a collision of my two identities: my ethnicity and my career as a civil servant. Of course, my identity as an African American will always take precedence in social matters. I’ve been a Black woman far longer than I’ve been a 911 dispatcher. And flash forward 20 years from now when I finally hang up my headset, turn in my uniform, and retire from emergency telecommunications, I still will have been a Black woman longer. My career is just one part of my life; one single chapter in my story. But my skin color is the very book cover that encloses the pages of that story.
I am not alone when I express that as an African American woman in police dispatch, I have had to refute others who’ve posed the idea that you cannot serve with or alongside police officers and stand in support of the Black Lives Matter Movement. This is a ludicrous notion that others in my shoes have encountered. It is possible to do both. It shouldn’t have to be a conflict of the heart to back the blue and still seek justice and want racial equality in our nation. Consequently, in a post-George Floyd America, it does feel like I’m rooting for the wrong team at times, or that I’m somehow betraying my own race. I own a Thin Blue Line sticker in the shape of the state of Georgia. I even have one of 25 #BackTheBlue T-shirts that were gifted to my 911 agency by a church a couple of years back. I honestly couldn’t do this job as effectively as I do if I didn’t have a healthy amount of respect and appreciation for my police officers on the frontlines of public safety. But that doesn’t stop me from calling out racism when I see it. It just isn’t easy to swallow that it’s our young Black and brown men and women who are continually on the unlucky side of the baton, the gun, or the kneecap, for that matter.
#BlackLivesMatter is more than a slogan for me. Atatiana Jefferson, Sandra Bland, and Breonna Taylor are names I recognize as belonging to a legacy that was cut short by discriminatory violence at the hands of men behind badges. They were my sisters from other mothers. Beautiful, buoyant, and brilliant women with goals, ambitions, and dreams just like me, who were blazing their own trails in this life. I wish my white coworkers in public safety understood how much it hurts my heart to read another headline about another officer-perpetrated homicide. To know that my life, and the lives of people who have my same skin tone, dark eyes, nose, and robust lips, don’t matter as much to some of the officers who are supposed to be serving and protecting our neighborhoods. Some days going into work and having to look in the faces of people who look nothing like me is hard enough. Knowing they cannot possibly understand how my heart is breaking makes it harder.
Earlier this year, I dealt with some vocal backlash for writing about combatting bias in law enforcement. I wrote on how I wished the police officers I work closely with would take the time to understand what Black Lives Matter means to my people. I was met with criticisms from peers and colleagues who couldn’t grasp why I was fighting on the “opposing side.” In their minds, I was taking the side of an antagonistic group of saboteurs united by an inherent hatred of the police and defiance toward the law. While in my mind, I was praising a movement that dared to resist all forms of bigotry and white supremacy. Some in my social circle challenged me, believing that this sudden “disloyalty” to those in blue was born out of me being “brainwashed” by the media. I found myself tearfully questioning the motives of my new politically sensitive stance. Ultimately, I realized that the only internal dilemma I was really facing was if I would sacrifice my individual ideals and values or stay true to myself as a Black woman in this industry. I chose the latter. Being in a role that has me serving alongside white police officers doesn’t require me to feign blind to the complexioned-based profiling that still very much occurs.
If only my white coworkers in public safety could grasp the sadness I feel every time I take a call from a Black woman requesting my officers assist her in a domestic dispute, and she asks me to relay to them to “please don’t shoot” her Black husband, boyfriend, or son when they arrive. If only they could hear how my voice breaks just a little as I assure her they only want to help when in my heart I know just how quickly a simple call for service can spiral out of control or be mishandled. I took this job over five years ago because I believe that emergency services and law enforcement are critical needs in every community. So I get a sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach to see a thug or a coward, behind a badge, treat anyone like they are a lower class citizen. I take it personally; as a minority, and as someone who believes wholeheartedly in the merit of the embroidered badge on my own chest. One day, hopefully, I will be a Black mother. My aim is to make this country a safer, fairer place for my kids as well as their future kids. That is the pledge to which I hold myself accountable through every 12-hour shift I work; taking 911 calls from my fellow citizens.
When I make a trip to my local supermarket wearing a Black Lives Matter button, I would hope that anyone who knows me personally would appreciate the fact that I have a voice too. It doesn’t take away from the pride I feel in this job or means I feel any less regard for the lives of those in uniform. I am making a statement though on something that needs to be addressed in the here and now; an unfortunate reality that prevails from year to year. From one presidential administration to the next. I do this job because I uphold that all lives should matter, and they especially shouldn’t matter any less because the person looks different, talks different, lives with less economic advantages, or happens to have a lower education level. So in fact, where my identities may feel like they collide, they don’t actually. They work together to set the tone of what I believe in.
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But my skin color is the very book cover that encloses the pages of that story.\nI am not alone when I express that as an African American woman in police dispatch, I have had to refute others who’ve posed the idea that you cannot serve with or alongside police officers and stand in support of the Black Lives Matter Movement. This is a ludicrous notion that others in my shoes have encountered. It is possible to do both. It shouldn’t have to be a conflict of the heart to back the blue and still seek justice and want racial equality in our nation. Consequently, in a post-George Floyd America, it does feel like I’m rooting for the wrong team at times, or that I’m somehow betraying my own race. I own a Thin Blue Line sticker in the shape of the state of Georgia. I even have one of 25 #BackTheBlue T-shirts that were gifted to my 911 agency by a church a couple of years back. I honestly couldn’t do this job as effectively as I do if I didn’t have a healthy amount of respect and appreciation for my police officers on the frontlines of public safety. But that doesn’t stop me from calling out racism when I see it. It just isn’t easy to swallow that it’s our young Black and brown men and women who are continually on the unlucky side of the baton, the gun, or the kneecap, for that matter.\n#BlackLivesMatter is more than a slogan for me. Atatiana Jefferson, Sandra Bland, and Breonna Taylor are names I recognize as belonging to a legacy that was cut short by discriminatory violence at the hands of men behind badges. They were my sisters from other mothers. Beautiful, buoyant, and brilliant women with goals, ambitions, and dreams just like me, who were blazing their own trails in this life. I wish my white coworkers in public safety understood how much it hurts my heart to read another headline about another officer-perpetrated homicide. To know that my life, and the lives of people who have my same skin tone, dark eyes, nose, and robust lips, don’t matter as much to some of the officers who are supposed to be serving and protecting our neighborhoods. Some days going into work and having to look in the faces of people who look nothing like me is hard enough. Knowing they cannot possibly understand how my heart is breaking makes it harder.\nEarlier this year, I dealt with some vocal backlash for writing about combatting bias in law enforcement. I wrote on how I wished the police officers I work closely with would take the time to understand what Black Lives Matter means to my people. I was met with criticisms from peers and colleagues who couldn’t grasp why I was fighting on the “opposing side.” In their minds, I was taking the side of an antagonistic group of saboteurs united by an inherent hatred of the police and defiance toward the law. While in my mind, I was praising a movement that dared to resist all forms of bigotry and white supremacy. Some in my social circle challenged me, believing that this sudden “disloyalty” to those in blue was born out of me being “brainwashed” by the media. I found myself tearfully questioning the motives of my new politically sensitive stance. Ultimately, I realized that the only internal dilemma I was really facing was if I would sacrifice my individual ideals and values or stay true to myself as a Black woman in this industry. I chose the latter. Being in a role that has me serving alongside white police officers doesn’t require me to feign blind to the complexioned-based profiling that still very much occurs.\nIf only my white coworkers in public safety could grasp the sadness I feel every time I take a call from a Black woman requesting my officers assist her in a domestic dispute, and she asks me to relay to them to “please don’t shoot” her Black husband, boyfriend, or son when they arrive. If only they could hear how my voice breaks just a little as I assure her they only want to help when in my heart I know just how quickly a simple call for service can spiral out of control or be mishandled. I took this job over five years ago because I believe that emergency services and law enforcement are critical needs in every community. So I get a sickening feeling in the pit of my stomach to see a thug or a coward, behind a badge, treat anyone like they are a lower class citizen. I take it personally; as a minority, and as someone who believes wholeheartedly in the merit of the embroidered badge on my own chest. One day, hopefully, I will be a Black mother. My aim is to make this country a safer, fairer place for my kids as well as their future kids. That is the pledge to which I hold myself accountable through every 12-hour shift I work; taking 911 calls from my fellow citizens.\nWhen I make a trip to my local supermarket wearing a Black Lives Matter button, I would hope that anyone who knows me personally would appreciate the fact that I have a voice too. It doesn’t take away from the pride I feel in this job or means I feel any less regard for the lives of those in uniform. I am making a statement though on something that needs to be addressed in the here and now; an unfortunate reality that prevails from year to year. From one presidential administration to the next. I do this job because I uphold that all lives should matter, and they especially shouldn’t matter any less because the person looks different, talks different, lives with less economic advantages, or happens to have a lower education level. So in fact, where my identities may feel like they collide, they don’t actually. They work together to set the tone of what I believe in.",
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Today, in honor of Kamala Harris' historic ascent to the second highest office in the land, members of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc., reflect on what this day means to them.
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AKAs Share What Kamala Harris’ Inauguration Means To Them
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As much as recent events tried to overshadow the historic nature of today’s inauguration, with Kamala Harris becoming the first woman to be elected to the second highest office of the land. With her being a Black woman, this moment is significant for us. We deserve. And for a certain sect of Black women, Harris’ appointment is of particular importance: the women of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Incorporated, of which Harris is a member.
Harris attended Howard University and crossed into the AKA sisterhood in the Spring of 1986, shortly before she graduated.
In honor of today’s historic moment, we spoke to some members of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. to collect their thoughts on Kamala’s appointment as the first woman to become the Vice President of the United States.
See what they had to say on the following pages.
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Bow Wow, who has two kids, says he has asked Diddy, a father of six, questions throughout the years. The mogul's insight has helped him created a healthy dynamic that he says is a "blessing" between himself and his co-parents.
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In a clip posted by The ShadeRoom from a recent interview, Bow Wow shared that he learned how to be a good co-parent for his children’s mothers from Diddy. The rapper and TV personality, who has two kids, says he has asked Diddy, a father of six, questions throughout the years. The mogul’s insight has helped him create a healthy dynamic that he says is a “blessing” between himself and his co-parents.
Bow Wow currently has 9-year-old daughter Shai with dancer and entrepreneur Joie Chavis, and a 4-month-old boy named Stone with model Olivia Sky. In the clip, the Growing Up Hip Hop Atlanta star talks about how being there for the mothers of his kids is really important to him and that he’s willing to help them whenever they might need him. He expanded on that by saying be picked up that mentality from Diddy, who he refers to as “Puff.” According to Bow, getting lots of answers from Diddy along his fatherhood journey has helped him manifest the “it’s a family affair” dynamic he has now for his kids.
“My kids’ moms they can — you see I don’t even like to say ‘baby mamas,’ ‘baby mother.’ My children’s moms, they can call me for anything and I’m going to get it done,” he said. “They can be out of town, if they’re out in Miami they need something…no matter what it is, if it’s a function going on and they need to get in with their girls, I’m going to set it up. Section’s done. Bang. There it is. And we family.”
“I think that’s important and I got that from Puff,” he added. “I learned a lot. I learned a lot from Puff. You know, he taught me a lot. Being around him, watching how he moves and I’m always asking him questions like ‘How do you do it? How? How?’ and it’s a blessing. It works well when it’s like that. It’s a family affair. Like I said, I love them both and I’m just happy that I got two good ones on my side. I’m done after this. No more for Bow,” he ended with a chuckle.
It’s kind of funny that Bow Wow used the examples of needing a section at the club or wanting to take a trip to Miami as ways the mothers of his children can count on him. Regardless of the request though, it seems he genuinely wants to keep the positivity within his family unit flowing. It was only just a few years ago that he was publicly disparaging Chavis on social media, alluding to the idea that she was looking for a handout, and was, in turn, being called a deadbeat father by her family.
Even though he doesn’t have the best record with the ladies, hopefully he can continue keeping two of the most important ones in his life and in the lives of his children, happy.
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Tiffany Haddish is still showing off the hard work she did to lose more than 40 pounds recently. The comedian stripped down to her underwear to show fans the difference between her before and after pictures, flexing her muscles and revealing a taut midsection in the "after" image.
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Tiffany Haddish is still showing off the hard work she did to lose more than 40 pounds recently. In an Instagram post shared this week, the comedian stripped down to her underwear to show fans the difference between her before and after pictures, flexing her muscles and revealing a taut midsection in the “after” image.
“Before my 30day transformation and after,” she wrote. “Now #SHEREADY to build Muscle and Maybe shave my armpits.”
The star first went public with her weight-loss transformation at the end of 2020. While many were dealing with pounds put on while quarantining during the pandemic, she managed to slim down substantially.
She told EXTRA in November that she let go of a lot to physically feel her best.
“I lost 40 pounds. I’ve been working out and eating right and getting my little life together,” she said at the time. “I’m not gonna lie to you, my knees was hurting a lot in 2019. I was carrying a lot of things around, a lot of weight, unnecessary weight, a lot of unnecessary hurt. Just a lot of things. I had to let all that go — a lot of mental hurt. A lot of things. I let a lot of that go. I was carrying a lot of hair. I let that go. But I just really wanted to see my scalp on that one. I ain’t gonna lie.”
Influenced by the physique of the late Florence Griffith Joyner, Haddish also opened up about the specific efforts she made that helped her shed the weight, including doing workouts that ranged from quick 15-minute sessions to as long as two hours.
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In 2019, actress Regina King said that all of her projects going forward would employ 50 percent women. Now, King shared that it's disrespectful to think of gender as a binary construct.
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In 2019, Regina King made a speech at the Golden Globes, as she was accepting her award for Best Supporting Actress in If Beale Street Could Talk.
The speech became legendary because of the promises King made during it. She told the audience of industry professionals and everyone watching at home that going forward,
“I’m going to use my platform right now to say, in the next two years, I am making a vow—and it’s going to be tough—to make sure that everything that I produce [is going to be] 50 percent women, and I just challenge anyone out there who is in a position of power, not just in our industry [but] in all industries, I challenge you to challenge yourselves and stand with us in solidarity and do the same,” she said.
Now, almost two years later, King has expanded that promise to reflect more inclusivity. During a recent interview with Insider, King shared that they weren’t able to accomplish her goal of 50% women for her upcoming Amazon Prime film One Night in Miami—though she said it wasn’t for lack of trying.
But she’s not discouraged. In fact, King is determined to push the vow a bit further.
“What we were able to accomplish was that well over 50% of our crew were people that did not identify as cis white male[s],” she emphasized.
King shared that she’s evolved since that initial speech and she understands gender is a non-binary construct now.
“From the moment of me making that proclamation, if you will, to us actually shooting [‘One Night in Miami’] it’s not respectful to regard everything as male or female,” she said. “So moving forward, as I do still feel having more women in positions behind the camera is important, I have to go beyond that.”
And now that she’s knows better, she plans on doing better.
“[It’s] a challenge I will continue to try to achieve, even as I make adjustments to what that challenge actually is.”
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"MadameNoire Featured Video\nIn 2019, Regina King made a speech at the Golden Globes, as she was accepting her award for Best Supporting Actress in If Beale Street Could Talk.\nThe speech became legendary because of the promises King made during it. She told the audience of industry professionals and everyone watching at home that going forward,\n“I’m going to use my platform right now to say, in the next two years, I am making a vow—and it’s going to be tough—to make sure that everything that I produce [is going to be] 50 percent women, and I just challenge anyone out there who is in a position of power, not just in our industry [but] in all industries, I challenge you to challenge yourselves and stand with us in solidarity and do the same,” she said.\nNow, almost two years later, King has expanded that promise to reflect more inclusivity. During a recent interview with Insider, King shared that they weren’t able to accomplish her goal of 50% women for her upcoming Amazon Prime film One Night in Miami—though she said it wasn’t for lack of trying.\nBut she’s not discouraged. In fact, King is determined to push the vow a bit further.\n“What we were able to accomplish was that well over 50% of our crew were people that did not identify as cis white male[s],” she emphasized.\nKing shared that she’s evolved since that initial speech and she understands gender is a non-binary construct now.\n“From the moment of me making that proclamation, if you will, to us actually shooting [‘One Night in Miami’] it’s not respectful to regard everything as male or female,” she said. “So moving forward, as I do still feel having more women in positions behind the camera is important, I have to go beyond that.”\nAnd now that she’s knows better, she plans on doing better.\n“[It’s] a challenge I will continue to try to achieve, even as I make adjustments to what that challenge actually is.”",
"Regina King Expands Vow Of 50% Women On Projects To Include The Non-Binary",
"In 2019, actress Regina King said that all of her projects going forward would employ 50 percent women. Now, King shared that it's disrespectful to think of gender as a binary construct."
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Even on days when symptoms are mild or absent, you know the condition lurks within your body because it takes a huge toll on the mind. Those with chronic illness can feel it’s very difficult to live in the moment, and not constantly worry about their health. Here are ways to improve your quality of life.
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How To Improve Your Quality Of Life When You Have A Chronic Illness
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For most individuals, illness is something that comes and goes throughout their lifetimes, but there are long stretches of unquestionable good health in between. You get a virus, but then your body clears the virus. An infection occurs, but you get some antibiotics, and it goes away. Most people get to enjoy long periods of time when they have what we call a “clean bill of health.” Everybody wants that clean bill of health because it means you can stop worrying about being sick. And some would argue that’s the hardest part about illness: the mental component. “Don’t worry. You’re all better” is what everybody wants to hear. But not everybody gets to hear that. In fact, some individuals never get to hear that.
If you live with a chronic condition that can’t be cured and must simply be managed, it’s hard to shake that feeling of “Something is wrong with me.” There can be an icky sensation that stays with you – like a cloud you can’t get out from under – that always makes you feel like something isn’t quite right. Even on days when symptoms are mild or absent, you know the condition lurks within your body. Those with chronic illness can feel it’s very difficult to live in the moment, and not constantly worry about their health. So we consulted a special expert who has a lot of experience helping people with chronic illness. Recie Munson (IG: @WalkWithRee) is both a registered nurse and a yoga instructor so she approaches care from a practical and holistic standpoint. Here is some of her advice on how to be present and still enjoy life, even with a chronic illness.
You are not your body
If you are diagnosed with a condition, your mind may replay thoughts of, “Where did I go wrong?” and “What can I have done differently?” But Munson makes a good point on why those thoughts aren’t very useful. “A diagnosis of chronic disease is not always within the body’s control. Many factors contribute to illnesses such as genetics, environment, lack of access, and systemic issues. The body isn’t connected to your self-worth, value, or wholeness.”
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"For most individuals, illness is something that comes and goes throughout their lifetimes, but there are long stretches of unquestionable good health in between. You get a virus, but then your body clears the virus. An infection occurs, but you get some antibiotics, and it goes away. Most people get to enjoy long periods of time when they have what we call a “clean bill of health.” Everybody wants that clean bill of health because it means you can stop worrying about being sick. And some would argue that’s the hardest part about illness: the mental component. “Don’t worry. You’re all better” is what everybody wants to hear. But not everybody gets to hear that. In fact, some individuals never get to hear that.\nIf you live with a chronic condition that can’t be cured and must simply be managed, it’s hard to shake that feeling of “Something is wrong with me.” There can be an icky sensation that stays with you – like a cloud you can’t get out from under – that always makes you feel like something isn’t quite right. Even on days when symptoms are mild or absent, you know the condition lurks within your body. Those with chronic illness can feel it’s very difficult to live in the moment, and not constantly worry about their health. So we consulted a special expert who has a lot of experience helping people with chronic illness. Recie Munson (IG: @WalkWithRee) is both a registered nurse and a yoga instructor so she approaches care from a practical and holistic standpoint. Here is some of her advice on how to be present and still enjoy life, even with a chronic illness.\nYou are not your body\nIf you are diagnosed with a condition, your mind may replay thoughts of, “Where did I go wrong?” and “What can I have done differently?” But Munson makes a good point on why those thoughts aren’t very useful. “A diagnosis of chronic disease is not always within the body’s control. Many factors contribute to illnesses such as genetics, environment, lack of access, and systemic issues. The body isn’t connected to your self-worth, value, or wholeness.”",
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"Even on days when symptoms are mild or absent, you know the condition lurks within your body because it takes a huge toll on the mind. Those with chronic illness can feel it’s very difficult to live in the moment, and not constantly worry about their health. Here are ways to improve your quality of life."
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A psychologist shares some tips on how to not let social media ruin your Valentine's Day if you're going through a break-up.
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Valentine’s Day is approaching, which means that social media will be filled of lovey dovey posts that are sure to trigger someone experiencing the emotional turmoil of a breakup. After a relationship ends, a grieving process begins that causes an emotional rollercoaster. While you’re going through the anger, sadness, guilt, loneliness and other feelings caused after hitting splitsville, seeing others basking in their romance won’t make you feel any better. There’s no perfect way to deal with a breakup, especially around Valentine’s Day, when we are bombarded with photos all over social media of #couplesgoals. Here are four key recommendations to help minimize the pitfalls of social-media consumption as you are mourning a breakup and help you gain closure courtesy of licensed psychologist Dr. Paula Durlofsky.
Take a Valentine’s Day hiatus from social media.
“Not seeing an ex-partner’s activity on social media, especially on Valentine’s Day and especially if they are in a new relationship, allows for healing to take place. After your break, ask yourself the following questions: What was the hardest part about taking a break from social media? How did you feel afterward? Consider extending your break or setting limits with yourself until you feel logging on to social media and seeing your ex-partner doesn’t negatively impact your recovery.”
Create a safe space on social media.
“Consider other options for virtual connection, such as starting a new group text, Twitter List, or a Facebook group that includes only your closest friends. These options allow you to limit the activity and users you follow online and can help minimize FOMO. Targeted and specific communications from close friends, our strong ties, have the most positive impact on us, especially during a break up.”
Identify triggers that lead to self-destructive social-media habits.
“Should you be reminded of photos, memories, or other milestones with an ex-partner it is important to have a plan in place for coping with these feelings. If you feel the need to revisit your relationship on your social media pages, try a self soothing method instead, like taking a hot bath, drinking hot tea, watching a silly movie or reading. The goal of self-soothing methods is to relax or bodies, which in turn relaxes or minds and calms our emotions.”
Remain hopeful.
“There’s no doubt that mourning a breakup is hard work, especially on Valentine’s day, but you won’t feel this way forever. It can be both physically and emotionally exhausting, so knowing we ought to be more tender and compassionate with ourselves is helpful. Make a concerted effort to utilize self-soothing methods, and turn to a mental-health professional for support if you need it.
Do you have to go on a ‘digital detox diet’ in order to give yourself the space to heal after a breakup? Not necessarily. You do, however, need to take some time to examine how and why you use social media, because even small changes in your social-media habits can make a big difference in how you feel. And no better time than Valentine’s Day to take a step back, take a day off from checking TikTok and Instagram, invest in yourself and and give yourself the self-care you deserve.”
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In a recently announced collaboration with Spotify, Jemele Hill is creating a new space for Black women in the podcasting world. The joint effort among Hill and the streaming service aims to make podcasts by Black women, for Black women, more accessible.
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Jemele Hill Working With Spotify To Create Podcast Network For Black Women
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In a recently announced collaboration with Spotify, Jemele Hill is creating a new space for Black women in the podcasting world. The joint-effort among Hill and the streaming service aims to make podcasts by Black women, for Black women, more accessible.
In an interview with Bloomberg, Hill talked about the “one-woman media empire” she’s slowly created for her herself in the aftermath of her very public split from ESPN back in 2018. Now, Hill has seemingly solidified her place in the arts and entertainment industry by conducting a weekly radio show with Cari Champion, hosting her podcast Jemele Hill is Unbothered, and being a writer for The New Yorker.
Even though Jemele Hill is Unbothered is featured on Spotify already, she shared that she still felt as though Black women weren’t being identified as a potential target market in the overall podcasting space. With that in mind, her collaboration with Spotify will ideally serve as a space where Black women can be honest and upfront about the topics that matter to them most.
“Spotify and I are collaborating on a larger network that would appeal to audiences that are underserved,” she said. “One is Black women in particular. It’s been important to me as a Black woman in the commentary and opinion space.”
Furthermore, Bloomberg wanted to know whether having Black women hosts or discussing topics related to Black women was more important when crafting her vision of what she wanted the network to be.
Hill shared that for her, both points were necessary in her effort to uplift Black women’s voices.
“It’s very important to amplify and strengthen voices of Black women. There are also unique problems and situations and issues that Black women face that are different than what White women face or Asian women face,” she said. Offering an example of what she meant, she added, “If you look at the maternal death rates of Black women, it’s extraordinary. It looks as bad now as it did in the 1950s.”
When asked about why there was a lack of top podcasts that targeted Black listeners, Hill mentioned that in her eyes, the “Black Panther effect” was taking place. She described the phenomenon as one in which topics of interest for Black people come as a surprise to many, despite the pattern of Black people showing up in numbers when they feel like there’s a topic that represents them, or tells their story, just as they did when the film Black Panther was released.
“It’s the “Black Panther” effect,” she stated. “Even though Black people had been going to movies for years, people were startled by the success of Black Panther. It’s amazing what happens when Black people see themselves in content. They tend to like it. When Black people hear stories they can relate to and hear from artists and entertainers and athletes they have cherished, they are going to respond. Some of my best and most popular podcasts have been with people that would surprise. But if you know anything about the Black community, it’s no surprise.”
All in all, Jemele Hill has come a long way since her days at ESPN. Even though branching out of the sport’s world seemed like a strange pivot for her to some, this new venture with Spotify proves that Hill’s cultural commentary and perspective is valued and continues to be serving her well, and in turn, serves other Black women well, too.
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"Jemele Hill Working With Spotify To Create Podcast Network For Black Women",
"In a recently announced collaboration with Spotify, Jemele Hill is creating a new space for Black women in the podcasting world. The joint effort among Hill and the streaming service aims to make podcasts by Black women, for Black women, more accessible."
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"I define collective grief as when it's like a group of people or a large community is all grieving the same exact loss. You may not react the same way but you all are grieving something," licensed clinical social worker, Marline Francois-Madden, told MadameNoire.
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Why You Shouldn’t Let People Shame You For Crying Over Celebrity Deaths
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January 26th marks the one-year anniversary of the tragic passing of basketball icon Kobe Bryant, his daughter, Gianna Bryant, and the seven other victims whose lives were lost in the helicopter crash in Calabasas, Calif. As we approach the anniversary of this tragedy, it’s an ideal time to discuss collective grief. We faced a great deal of it in the last year.
“I define collective grief as when it’s like a group of people or a large community is all grieving the same exact loss. You may not react the same way but you all are grieving something,” licensed clinical social worker, Marline Francois-Madden, told MadameNoire. “Something happened that impacted a large group of people. If you think about it, yes, Kobe’s loss was one of them, and then, in the midst of that happening, then we got hit with multiple collective grief events: pandemic, Chadwick Boseman, George Floyd. We’ve been grieving collectively for at least the last year.”
Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon to witness grief shaming on social media — especially when celebrity deaths trigger strong emotional reactions from fans.
“That’s the sad part when people start shaming others for grieving the loss of a celebrity that they haven’t met. What people don’t realize is that when there’s a loss — a celebrity, someone who’s a public figure — it’s everywhere,” she explained. “It’s not in your control as far as how much you consume of it. You go on social media, you put on the news, other people around you, people are sharing articles, outlets are sharing more details. So it’s a lot that’s happening all at once and you’re seeing other people also grieve and you’re also grieving, too. I want people to know that it’s okay to grieve and feel the loss of someone they haven’t met.”
When it comes to the passing of public figures, Francois-Madden explains that it’s also important to remember that people don’t only grieve the physical loss of that person, but also the connections made to that figure.
“There are other people around who are going to judge you and say, ‘Oh, well you don’t know this person so why are you even crying?’ I want people to give more grace to the people who are grieving the loss of a celebrity because it’s not just the loss of the celebrity that people are grieving. You’re also grieving the experience and the memories you have with that figure,” she explained.
It’s also important to remember how children may be affected by these tragedies.
“For example, with Chadwick, a lot of children were also grieving. They did go see Black Panther. They were like, ‘Wow, a superhero looks like me,'” she said. “Give your kids a chance to grieve as well. Let them know it’s okay to go ahead and cry because, for them, that’s their real-life superhero that they just lost.”
Here are some other ways to handle collective grief:
Talk about it
“Talk to someone and let them know how you feel. Maybe a therapist. But also, check to see if that grief that you’re experiencing at that moment is bringing back previous losses that you’ve experienced,” said the New Jersey-based therapist.
Be in tune with your body
“I always tell people, ‘Check your body.’ You wanna assess your body to see if your body’s showing any signs of tension or stress anywhere because that’s a clear indication that you’re under high stress at that moment,” she advised. “So you’re gonna have to find some strategies to decompress.”
Mindful scrolling
“Monitor what you’re viewing on social media,” the State of Black Girls: A Go-To Guide for Creating Safe Space for Black Girls author recommended. “Maybe, just for the day, you’ll want to mute the name ‘Kobe Bryant’ so you don’t see all the images pop up or you know, just being mindful of the accounts that you follow. Maybe some accounts are showing images that may not be healthy to view. So perhaps, you know, unfollow those accounts.”
Seek positivity
Head over “to another media outlet” or channel where you can watch “old shows or stories that are funny about the person that’s gonna make you laugh, so you’re not viewing the tragic loss at that moment,” she instructed.
Take a social media break
“Practice self-care by taking a break from the doom scrolling, as they call it, and doing something for you. So engaging with a hobby you enjoy or reach out to your family for emotional support,” she shared. “Journaling is also great because you can journal your thoughts and your feeling because they’re completely valid.”
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"\"I define collective grief as when it's like a group of people or a large community is all grieving the same exact loss. You may not react the same way but you all are grieving something,\" licensed clinical social worker, Marline Francois-Madden, told MadameNoire."
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Though 2020 was a rough year for many, one bright spot in what many have dubbed "the year from hell" for Laverne Cox was that she fell in love. The "Orange Is The New Black" actress made the sweet revelation during a Thursday appearance on "The Ellen DeGeneres Show."
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Though 2020 was a rough year for many, one bright spot in what many have dubbed “the year from hell” for Laverne Cox was that she fell in love. The “Orange Is The New Black” actress made the sweet revelation during a Thursday appearance on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show.”
“[Found love in 2020] almost sounds like a punchline, but, yeah, Laverne is in love again and it feels amazing,” she gushed. “Love is an incredible thing. It’s literally this chemical thing that’s awesome and he is a really great guy and I didn’t expect it.”
The 48-year-old admits that she didn’t expect much to become of the romance when she and her new beau first connected, but she was pleasantly surprised when the relationship began to naturally blossom.
“I thought he was going to be this hot dude I was hanging out with and then it just kind of happened,” she confessed. “We’ve been hanging out for six months and we went really slowly. So, the world ‘love’ sort of happened around November/December. So, yeah, it’s been six months, I guess.”
Though she did not disclose the identity of her new partner, she did reveal that she is the first trans woman he has ever dated.
“This guy, I don’t want to say too much because he is probably watching, but he has never dated a trans woman before,” she told Ellen. “My last two boyfriends had also never dated a trans woman before. And the interesting thing is that when you are famous, you want [your partner] to be really discreet,” she went on. “In the past, guys have been like, ‘Don’t tell anybody’ and now I’m like, ‘Don’t tell anybody.'”
Cox also explained that in the past, lovers have wanted to keep their relationship a secret because they didn’t want people to label them as gay.
“But the issue over the years for me as a trans woman and other trans women is that the womanhood of trans women is often disavowed. A lot of people don’t see trans women as women,” she said. “So, the men that are attracted to women, people think they are gay. And if you are a straight man, you don’t want people to think you’re gay. So, a lot of the times they don’t want to disclose or want to let anyone know.”
“People don’t get it. People just don’t understand it,” Cox went on to say after sharing an anecdote of a man she met on Clubhouse whose friend couldn’t understand his attraction to cis and trans women. “It’s really sad. I wish we were in a different place, but we are just not here yet. We need a guy who is probably famous and articulate to be able to talk about this.”
Cox’s new podcast, “The Laverne Cox” show is set to premiere on February 4. She admits that while she would love to have a celebrity man on the show to discuss the topic, she finds that most guys aren’t “articulate” when it comes to discussing trans women.
Watch her full interview below.
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