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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So a year ago on the 28th I met the girl of my dreams. Everything was just fantastic, there was great chemistry, attraction, you name it it was there.\n\nFast forward 2 months (yes I know) I get my ass dumped for \"not showing her I was serious\". at the same time she she we might be moving fast. I was okay with her wanting to slow down. A kiss each night would have been enough, I didn't need sex. She left me and I've been devastated since. She said she needed time. I was waiting.\n\nI wasn't perfect though, I lied. When we first started talking I implied I had relationship and sexual history, I was tired of being laughed at for being a virgin by choice, yes it happened several times. So I let her think I had experience.\n\nI told her about this after she dumped me. It pissed her off so much and basically got to where she said \"I hate myself for letting you in\". Midsummer this was and then 2 weeks later she has a new bf. I guess she just needed time without me in the picture. That's fine, I messed this up and will have to try and live with that.\n\nMy question, how can I really get over her? I fell hard and fast. I've been living in this personal agony since March. I try and forget her, I try to tell myself if she was my one she wouldn't have let her ex's sins become problems I paid for. What should I do? Anything, everything, I just need to hear any advice. Because I can't figure it out myself."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So a year ago on the 28th I met the girl of my dreams. Everything was just fantastic, there was great chemistry, attraction, you name it it was there.\n\nFast forward 2 months (yes I know) I get my ass dumped for \"not showing her I was serious\". at the same time she she we might be moving fast. I was okay with her wanting to slow down. A kiss each night would have been enough, I didn't need sex. She left me and I've been devastated since. She said she needed time. I was waiting.\n\nI wasn't perfect though, I lied. When we first started talking I implied I had relationship and sexual history, I was tired of being laughed at for being a virgin by choice, yes it happened several times. So I let her think I had experience.\n\nI told her about this after she dumped me. It pissed her off so much and basically got to where she said \"I hate myself for letting you in\". Midsummer this was and then 2 weeks later she has a new bf. I guess she just needed time without me in the picture. That's fine, I messed this up and will have to try and live with that.\n\nMy question, how can I really get over her? I fell hard and fast. I've been living in this personal agony since March. I try and forget her, I try to tell myself if she was my one she wouldn't have let her ex's sins become problems I paid for. What should I do? Anything, everything, I just need to hear any advice. Because I can't figure it out myself."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We have been together for two years, and before him I only had one other sexual partner, with whom I also never reached orgasm. I've been masturbating for many years without a problem and can always easily get myself off, but it doesn't work when someone else does it to me. My fiance and I have tried everything we can think of; oral, fingering, fingering plus PIV, just PIV. And it all feels really good, but I don't ever feel close to orgasming. The closest I've gotten is fingering+oral, which feels pretty close, but it always reaches a pleasure plateau and I know I won't get off. I recently got my first vibrator, which was awesome when I used it alone, but when I used it during sex and when he used it on me, I had that same plateau experience. Its been very frustrating for me and has led me to feel like something is wrong with me, and I have increasingly had anxiety about it, causing me to enjoy sex less in general. Additionally, my boyfriend is not as sexual as me, and though he is usually willing to have sex when I want, I feel bad about asking knowing that I'm not going to finish; this further adds to my stress about it. I just feel like if I could get off in front of my boyfriend and eventually have him get me off, I would be less stressed about sex. I feel like I'm missing out on an intimate, important part of our relationship. I also think that a huge part of it is a mindset issue for me, and that I'm probably looking at sex in an unhealthy way, but I'm not sure how to look at it differently to reduce the stress. Something we've talked about trying is just having me masturbate in front of him. Does that seem like a good first step? Honestly I'm worried that if we try it that way I suddenly won't be able to get myself off. Anyway, does anyone have any advice about this? Any similar experiences? Thanks a bunch!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We have been together for two years, and before him I only had one other sexual partner, with whom I also never reached orgasm. I've been masturbating for many years without a problem and can always easily get myself off, but it doesn't work when someone else does it to me. My fiance and I have tried everything we can think of; oral, fingering, fingering plus PIV, just PIV. And it all feels really good, but I don't ever feel close to orgasming. The closest I've gotten is fingering+oral, which feels pretty close, but it always reaches a pleasure plateau and I know I won't get off. I recently got my first vibrator, which was awesome when I used it alone, but when I used it during sex and when he used it on me, I had that same plateau experience. Its been very frustrating for me and has led me to feel like something is wrong with me, and I have increasingly had anxiety about it, causing me to enjoy sex less in general. Additionally, my boyfriend is not as sexual as me, and though he is usually willing to have sex when I want, I feel bad about asking knowing that I'm not going to finish; this further adds to my stress about it. I just feel like if I could get off in front of my boyfriend and eventually have him get me off, I would be less stressed about sex. I feel like I'm missing out on an intimate, important part of our relationship. I also think that a huge part of it is a mindset issue for me, and that I'm probably looking at sex in an unhealthy way, but I'm not sure how to look at it differently to reduce the stress. Something we've talked about trying is just having me masturbate in front of him. Does that seem like a good first step? Honestly I'm worried that if we try it that way I suddenly won't be able to get myself off. Anyway, does anyone have any advice about this? Any similar experiences? Thanks a bunch!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We have been together for two years, and before him I only had one other sexual partner, with whom I also never reached orgasm. I've been masturbating for many years without a problem and can always easily get myself off, but it doesn't work when someone else does it to me. My fiance and I have tried everything we can think of; oral, fingering, fingering plus PIV, just PIV. And it all feels really good, but I don't ever feel close to orgasming. The closest I've gotten is fingering+oral, which feels pretty close, but it always reaches a pleasure plateau and I know I won't get off. I recently got my first vibrator, which was awesome when I used it alone, but when I used it during sex and when he used it on me, I had that same plateau experience. Its been very frustrating for me and has led me to feel like something is wrong with me, and I have increasingly had anxiety about it, causing me to enjoy sex less in general. Additionally, my boyfriend is not as sexual as me, and though he is usually willing to have sex when I want, I feel bad about asking knowing that I'm not going to finish; this further adds to my stress about it. I just feel like if I could get off in front of my boyfriend and eventually have him get me off, I would be less stressed about sex. I feel like I'm missing out on an intimate, important part of our relationship. I also think that a huge part of it is a mindset issue for me, and that I'm probably looking at sex in an unhealthy way, but I'm not sure how to look at it differently to reduce the stress. Something we've talked about trying is just having me masturbate in front of him. Does that seem like a good first step? Honestly I'm worried that if we try it that way I suddenly won't be able to get myself off. Anyway, does anyone have any advice about this? Any similar experiences? Thanks a bunch!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We have been together for two years, and before him I only had one other sexual partner, with whom I also never reached orgasm. I've been masturbating for many years without a problem and can always easily get myself off, but it doesn't work when someone else does it to me. My fiance and I have tried everything we can think of; oral, fingering, fingering plus PIV, just PIV. And it all feels really good, but I don't ever feel close to orgasming. The closest I've gotten is fingering+oral, which feels pretty close, but it always reaches a pleasure plateau and I know I won't get off. I recently got my first vibrator, which was awesome when I used it alone, but when I used it during sex and when he used it on me, I had that same plateau experience. Its been very frustrating for me and has led me to feel like something is wrong with me, and I have increasingly had anxiety about it, causing me to enjoy sex less in general. Additionally, my boyfriend is not as sexual as me, and though he is usually willing to have sex when I want, I feel bad about asking knowing that I'm not going to finish; this further adds to my stress about it. I just feel like if I could get off in front of my boyfriend and eventually have him get me off, I would be less stressed about sex. I feel like I'm missing out on an intimate, important part of our relationship. I also think that a huge part of it is a mindset issue for me, and that I'm probably looking at sex in an unhealthy way, but I'm not sure how to look at it differently to reduce the stress. Something we've talked about trying is just having me masturbate in front of him. Does that seem like a good first step? Honestly I'm worried that if we try it that way I suddenly won't be able to get myself off. Anyway, does anyone have any advice about this? Any similar experiences? Thanks a bunch!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We have been together for two years, and before him I only had one other sexual partner, with whom I also never reached orgasm. I've been masturbating for many years without a problem and can always easily get myself off, but it doesn't work when someone else does it to me. My fiance and I have tried everything we can think of; oral, fingering, fingering plus PIV, just PIV. And it all feels really good, but I don't ever feel close to orgasming. The closest I've gotten is fingering+oral, which feels pretty close, but it always reaches a pleasure plateau and I know I won't get off. I recently got my first vibrator, which was awesome when I used it alone, but when I used it during sex and when he used it on me, I had that same plateau experience. Its been very frustrating for me and has led me to feel like something is wrong with me, and I have increasingly had anxiety about it, causing me to enjoy sex less in general. Additionally, my boyfriend is not as sexual as me, and though he is usually willing to have sex when I want, I feel bad about asking knowing that I'm not going to finish; this further adds to my stress about it. I just feel like if I could get off in front of my boyfriend and eventually have him get me off, I would be less stressed about sex. I feel like I'm missing out on an intimate, important part of our relationship. I also think that a huge part of it is a mindset issue for me, and that I'm probably looking at sex in an unhealthy way, but I'm not sure how to look at it differently to reduce the stress. Something we've talked about trying is just having me masturbate in front of him. Does that seem like a good first step? Honestly I'm worried that if we try it that way I suddenly won't be able to get myself off. Anyway, does anyone have any advice about this? Any similar experiences? Thanks a bunch!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We have been together for two years, and before him I only had one other sexual partner, with whom I also never reached orgasm. I've been masturbating for many years without a problem and can always easily get myself off, but it doesn't work when someone else does it to me. My fiance and I have tried everything we can think of; oral, fingering, fingering plus PIV, just PIV. And it all feels really good, but I don't ever feel close to orgasming. The closest I've gotten is fingering+oral, which feels pretty close, but it always reaches a pleasure plateau and I know I won't get off. I recently got my first vibrator, which was awesome when I used it alone, but when I used it during sex and when he used it on me, I had that same plateau experience. Its been very frustrating for me and has led me to feel like something is wrong with me, and I have increasingly had anxiety about it, causing me to enjoy sex less in general. Additionally, my boyfriend is not as sexual as me, and though he is usually willing to have sex when I want, I feel bad about asking knowing that I'm not going to finish; this further adds to my stress about it. I just feel like if I could get off in front of my boyfriend and eventually have him get me off, I would be less stressed about sex. I feel like I'm missing out on an intimate, important part of our relationship. I also think that a huge part of it is a mindset issue for me, and that I'm probably looking at sex in an unhealthy way, but I'm not sure how to look at it differently to reduce the stress. Something we've talked about trying is just having me masturbate in front of him. Does that seem like a good first step? Honestly I'm worried that if we try it that way I suddenly won't be able to get myself off. Anyway, does anyone have any advice about this? Any similar experiences? Thanks a bunch!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We've only been dating a month and a half or so, but whenever we hung out it was super fun, but this past week it felt weird and like I was annoying her.\n\nWe had a bunch of stuff to do that we had planned with friends so we both kind of ignored the awkwardness. Until last night that is, when I finally grew a pair and asked her about it. \n\nHer answers to most of my questions about our relationship was \"I don't know\" or \"I'm just confused.\"\n\nNow I'm really confused (and hurt I guess too). I thought everything was going great. We're seniors in high school and will be going to different colleges in the fall. Neither of us wants a long distance relationship, but still I thought we could have fun with the time we had left together. Now I just feel bummed and led on.\n\nI'm not really sure if I should completely avoid her until she's made up her mind, act like we're still kinda dating, or act like we're just friends. Has anyone else ever go through a similar thing?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We've only been dating a month and a half or so, but whenever we hung out it was super fun, but this past week it felt weird and like I was annoying her.\n\nWe had a bunch of stuff to do that we had planned with friends so we both kind of ignored the awkwardness. Until last night that is, when I finally grew a pair and asked her about it. \n\nHer answers to most of my questions about our relationship was \"I don't know\" or \"I'm just confused.\"\n\nNow I'm really confused (and hurt I guess too). I thought everything was going great. We're seniors in high school and will be going to different colleges in the fall. Neither of us wants a long distance relationship, but still I thought we could have fun with the time we had left together. Now I just feel bummed and led on.\n\nI'm not really sure if I should completely avoid her until she's made up her mind, act like we're still kinda dating, or act like we're just friends. Has anyone else ever go through a similar thing?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: We've only been dating a month and a half or so, but whenever we hung out it was super fun, but this past week it felt weird and like I was annoying her.\n\nWe had a bunch of stuff to do that we had planned with friends so we both kind of ignored the awkwardness. Until last night that is, when I finally grew a pair and asked her about it. \n\nHer answers to most of my questions about our relationship was \"I don't know\" or \"I'm just confused.\"\n\nNow I'm really confused (and hurt I guess too). I thought everything was going great. We're seniors in high school and will be going to different colleges in the fall. Neither of us wants a long distance relationship, but still I thought we could have fun with the time we had left together. Now I just feel bummed and led on.\n\nI'm not really sure if I should completely avoid her until she's made up her mind, act like we're still kinda dating, or act like we're just friends. Has anyone else ever go through a similar thing?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I am moving out to Colorado from Virginia in May and I intend on getting a dog, my first dog. I don't know much about dogs and will do a lot of research into training and the personalities of each specific breed but I'm looking for ideas for which breed to get. \n\nA little about me: I'm a 27 year old male moving in (to hopefully a single family home, but maybe an apartment) with 2 other guys in their mid-twenties. I will be living in the Denver area of Colorado with frequent weekend hiking trips in the mountains that I would want my dog to take part in. I also like to go running so that would be awesome to have a dog that could join me in that too. \n\nI would prefer a short haired breed. Also, I would prefer a dog around 40-60 lbs, not too big, but certainly not too small. I looked into Siberian Husky and Shiba Inu, but they both seem like pretty stubborn breeds that are hard to train and the massive shedding is not desirable, although not a deal breaker. Just started looking into breeds today but I thought the Australian Cattle Dog looked like a good breed for me. Thoughts? Any help would be greatly appreciated!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I am moving out to Colorado from Virginia in May and I intend on getting a dog, my first dog. I don't know much about dogs and will do a lot of research into training and the personalities of each specific breed but I'm looking for ideas for which breed to get. \n\nA little about me: I'm a 27 year old male moving in (to hopefully a single family home, but maybe an apartment) with 2 other guys in their mid-twenties. I will be living in the Denver area of Colorado with frequent weekend hiking trips in the mountains that I would want my dog to take part in. I also like to go running so that would be awesome to have a dog that could join me in that too. \n\nI would prefer a short haired breed. Also, I would prefer a dog around 40-60 lbs, not too big, but certainly not too small. I looked into Siberian Husky and Shiba Inu, but they both seem like pretty stubborn breeds that are hard to train and the massive shedding is not desirable, although not a deal breaker. Just started looking into breeds today but I thought the Australian Cattle Dog looked like a good breed for me. Thoughts? Any help would be greatly appreciated!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I am moving out to Colorado from Virginia in May and I intend on getting a dog, my first dog. I don't know much about dogs and will do a lot of research into training and the personalities of each specific breed but I'm looking for ideas for which breed to get. \n\nA little about me: I'm a 27 year old male moving in (to hopefully a single family home, but maybe an apartment) with 2 other guys in their mid-twenties. I will be living in the Denver area of Colorado with frequent weekend hiking trips in the mountains that I would want my dog to take part in. I also like to go running so that would be awesome to have a dog that could join me in that too. \n\nI would prefer a short haired breed. Also, I would prefer a dog around 40-60 lbs, not too big, but certainly not too small. I looked into Siberian Husky and Shiba Inu, but they both seem like pretty stubborn breeds that are hard to train and the massive shedding is not desirable, although not a deal breaker. Just started looking into breeds today but I thought the Australian Cattle Dog looked like a good breed for me. Thoughts? Any help would be greatly appreciated!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: This all happened around three years ago when my older sister gave me her iPhone 3GS because she was upgrading to an iPhone 4. I was pretty stoked to own a smartphone (I had flip phones up until that point) so I immediately went in and explore the features that come with it. Later that night when I got board looking at the main apps I started diving down into Apple's bloatware. Apps like passport, news stand, game center and of course, Voice Memos. \n\nI was not prepared for what I was about to listen to. The first few memos were of my sister (poorly) singing or saying shitting \"thought provoking\" quotes about life. But the last one was different. Expecting more stupid shit, I listened and heard something shocking. My sister's boyfriend (now ex) was talking to her and saying REALLY sexual things to her and you could hear them kiss. Suddenly, she starts to groan as the distinct sound of fucking was heard. This lasted for a full minute (yeah impressive time bud) and I was left incredibly disturbed afterwards. I'll never look at her the same way again.\n\nMaybe next time sis you make sure you've deleted *everything* before you give a phone away."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: This all happened around three years ago when my older sister gave me her iPhone 3GS because she was upgrading to an iPhone 4. I was pretty stoked to own a smartphone (I had flip phones up until that point) so I immediately went in and explore the features that come with it. Later that night when I got board looking at the main apps I started diving down into Apple's bloatware. Apps like passport, news stand, game center and of course, Voice Memos. \n\nI was not prepared for what I was about to listen to. The first few memos were of my sister (poorly) singing or saying shitting \"thought provoking\" quotes about life. But the last one was different. Expecting more stupid shit, I listened and heard something shocking. My sister's boyfriend (now ex) was talking to her and saying REALLY sexual things to her and you could hear them kiss. Suddenly, she starts to groan as the distinct sound of fucking was heard. This lasted for a full minute (yeah impressive time bud) and I was left incredibly disturbed afterwards. I'll never look at her the same way again.\n\nMaybe next time sis you make sure you've deleted *everything* before you give a phone away."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So my exgf[21] and I[20] dated for about 9 months last year then she broke things off over the summer. I tried following /r/breakups advice and starting no Contact which killed me to do but still remained friendly to her whenever we saw each other. Then I heard she dated a few other guys which killed me but still never lost my cool whenever she was around.\n\nOver winter break she broke no contact wishing me a merry Christmas and she just started talking to me again. I never initiated any of our conversations but she me if I was ok with us talking again and I said sure since I thought I had myself under control and really wanted to be friends. Then we started talking between 2-4 hours a day and went over why she ended the relationship. It was like we were dating again and I was tempted to remind her that we weren't. She asked if I was dating anyone and she made it clear she wasn't. Also she mentioned that seeing me during the last semester caused her pain which made her avoid me whenever possible. Then a few days before I went back I got a bunch of I miss you texts which kind of caught me really off guard. She mentioned how she wanted me to save her a dance at an upcoming dance and that we'd be spending a lot of time together over the summer if I stayed for summer classes.\n\nWhen I got back she made me dinner and invited myself and a bunch of friends out rock climbing with her. We also hung out a few times but our talking kind of slowed and now we havn't talked in 3 days. I'm worried I was just being used as someone to talk to when she was bored which is driving me insane. I plan to talk to her this weekend about what she meant over winter break and tell her to never do this to me again if she doesn't have any intention. I don't want to go through the pain again."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So my exgf[21] and I[20] dated for about 9 months last year then she broke things off over the summer. I tried following /r/breakups advice and starting no Contact which killed me to do but still remained friendly to her whenever we saw each other. Then I heard she dated a few other guys which killed me but still never lost my cool whenever she was around.\n\nOver winter break she broke no contact wishing me a merry Christmas and she just started talking to me again. I never initiated any of our conversations but she me if I was ok with us talking again and I said sure since I thought I had myself under control and really wanted to be friends. Then we started talking between 2-4 hours a day and went over why she ended the relationship. It was like we were dating again and I was tempted to remind her that we weren't. She asked if I was dating anyone and she made it clear she wasn't. Also she mentioned that seeing me during the last semester caused her pain which made her avoid me whenever possible. Then a few days before I went back I got a bunch of I miss you texts which kind of caught me really off guard. She mentioned how she wanted me to save her a dance at an upcoming dance and that we'd be spending a lot of time together over the summer if I stayed for summer classes.\n\nWhen I got back she made me dinner and invited myself and a bunch of friends out rock climbing with her. We also hung out a few times but our talking kind of slowed and now we havn't talked in 3 days. I'm worried I was just being used as someone to talk to when she was bored which is driving me insane. I plan to talk to her this weekend about what she meant over winter break and tell her to never do this to me again if she doesn't have any intention. I don't want to go through the pain again."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So my exgf[21] and I[20] dated for about 9 months last year then she broke things off over the summer. I tried following /r/breakups advice and starting no Contact which killed me to do but still remained friendly to her whenever we saw each other. Then I heard she dated a few other guys which killed me but still never lost my cool whenever she was around.\n\nOver winter break she broke no contact wishing me a merry Christmas and she just started talking to me again. I never initiated any of our conversations but she me if I was ok with us talking again and I said sure since I thought I had myself under control and really wanted to be friends. Then we started talking between 2-4 hours a day and went over why she ended the relationship. It was like we were dating again and I was tempted to remind her that we weren't. She asked if I was dating anyone and she made it clear she wasn't. Also she mentioned that seeing me during the last semester caused her pain which made her avoid me whenever possible. Then a few days before I went back I got a bunch of I miss you texts which kind of caught me really off guard. She mentioned how she wanted me to save her a dance at an upcoming dance and that we'd be spending a lot of time together over the summer if I stayed for summer classes.\n\nWhen I got back she made me dinner and invited myself and a bunch of friends out rock climbing with her. We also hung out a few times but our talking kind of slowed and now we havn't talked in 3 days. I'm worried I was just being used as someone to talk to when she was bored which is driving me insane. I plan to talk to her this weekend about what she meant over winter break and tell her to never do this to me again if she doesn't have any intention. I don't want to go through the pain again."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So my exgf[21] and I[20] dated for about 9 months last year then she broke things off over the summer. I tried following /r/breakups advice and starting no Contact which killed me to do but still remained friendly to her whenever we saw each other. Then I heard she dated a few other guys which killed me but still never lost my cool whenever she was around.\n\nOver winter break she broke no contact wishing me a merry Christmas and she just started talking to me again. I never initiated any of our conversations but she me if I was ok with us talking again and I said sure since I thought I had myself under control and really wanted to be friends. Then we started talking between 2-4 hours a day and went over why she ended the relationship. It was like we were dating again and I was tempted to remind her that we weren't. She asked if I was dating anyone and she made it clear she wasn't. Also she mentioned that seeing me during the last semester caused her pain which made her avoid me whenever possible. Then a few days before I went back I got a bunch of I miss you texts which kind of caught me really off guard. She mentioned how she wanted me to save her a dance at an upcoming dance and that we'd be spending a lot of time together over the summer if I stayed for summer classes.\n\nWhen I got back she made me dinner and invited myself and a bunch of friends out rock climbing with her. We also hung out a few times but our talking kind of slowed and now we havn't talked in 3 days. I'm worried I was just being used as someone to talk to when she was bored which is driving me insane. I plan to talk to her this weekend about what she meant over winter break and tell her to never do this to me again if she doesn't have any intention. I don't want to go through the pain again."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So my exgf[21] and I[20] dated for about 9 months last year then she broke things off over the summer. I tried following /r/breakups advice and starting no Contact which killed me to do but still remained friendly to her whenever we saw each other. Then I heard she dated a few other guys which killed me but still never lost my cool whenever she was around.\n\nOver winter break she broke no contact wishing me a merry Christmas and she just started talking to me again. I never initiated any of our conversations but she me if I was ok with us talking again and I said sure since I thought I had myself under control and really wanted to be friends. Then we started talking between 2-4 hours a day and went over why she ended the relationship. It was like we were dating again and I was tempted to remind her that we weren't. She asked if I was dating anyone and she made it clear she wasn't. Also she mentioned that seeing me during the last semester caused her pain which made her avoid me whenever possible. Then a few days before I went back I got a bunch of I miss you texts which kind of caught me really off guard. She mentioned how she wanted me to save her a dance at an upcoming dance and that we'd be spending a lot of time together over the summer if I stayed for summer classes.\n\nWhen I got back she made me dinner and invited myself and a bunch of friends out rock climbing with her. We also hung out a few times but our talking kind of slowed and now we havn't talked in 3 days. I'm worried I was just being used as someone to talk to when she was bored which is driving me insane. I plan to talk to her this weekend about what she meant over winter break and tell her to never do this to me again if she doesn't have any intention. I don't want to go through the pain again."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So my exgf[21] and I[20] dated for about 9 months last year then she broke things off over the summer. I tried following /r/breakups advice and starting no Contact which killed me to do but still remained friendly to her whenever we saw each other. Then I heard she dated a few other guys which killed me but still never lost my cool whenever she was around.\n\nOver winter break she broke no contact wishing me a merry Christmas and she just started talking to me again. I never initiated any of our conversations but she me if I was ok with us talking again and I said sure since I thought I had myself under control and really wanted to be friends. Then we started talking between 2-4 hours a day and went over why she ended the relationship. It was like we were dating again and I was tempted to remind her that we weren't. She asked if I was dating anyone and she made it clear she wasn't. Also she mentioned that seeing me during the last semester caused her pain which made her avoid me whenever possible. Then a few days before I went back I got a bunch of I miss you texts which kind of caught me really off guard. She mentioned how she wanted me to save her a dance at an upcoming dance and that we'd be spending a lot of time together over the summer if I stayed for summer classes.\n\nWhen I got back she made me dinner and invited myself and a bunch of friends out rock climbing with her. We also hung out a few times but our talking kind of slowed and now we havn't talked in 3 days. I'm worried I was just being used as someone to talk to when she was bored which is driving me insane. I plan to talk to her this weekend about what she meant over winter break and tell her to never do this to me again if she doesn't have any intention. I don't want to go through the pain again."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I was always taught that if you don't like something you speak up and if things change then great, if they don't then either you learn to accept it or move on.\n\nWell my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite way. He'll only speak up if it is incredibly annoying to him. He says he learned to just accept that sometimes the way things are is the way things are and trying to change something if it is only a minor annoyance isn't always helpful.\n\nWe've only ever had one serious discussion (we've been together for less than 6 months) and it was about something he said sounded almost coercive and I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past so I've learned to watch for signs. We had our discussion, like two hours long, where we talked it out. At first there were cases of interrupting in the discussion but I was firm and said that if he is talking I'll be quiet and vice versa (that we will wait for the other to finish speaking). At one point I felt like I wasn't being understood and I basically said everything as bluntly as possible and he finally understood what my problem was and he apologized for what he said and how it came off and specifically said, without my prompting, that if he ever coerced me in anyway that I should leave him flat out because I deserve better (basically a big plus in my book). (a preview of our \"argument style\".)\n\nMy big thing though is that he doesn't speak up on these small annoyances and I can tell that he's annoyed sometimes but if I ask him then he gets more annoyed because he basically says that it's something he can deal with. I'm not used to this \"confrontation\" style and am wondering about how to handle it when I come from such a brutally honest family. \n\nI don't want our communication styles to be an issue later on.\n\nAnd if it's something small then I'll wait til we are alone and speak up saying I don't like it when you do this, I feel this way (doing that psych stuff where you speak about I things) . sadly can't remember any of the old talks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I was always taught that if you don't like something you speak up and if things change then great, if they don't then either you learn to accept it or move on.\n\nWell my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite way. He'll only speak up if it is incredibly annoying to him. He says he learned to just accept that sometimes the way things are is the way things are and trying to change something if it is only a minor annoyance isn't always helpful.\n\nWe've only ever had one serious discussion (we've been together for less than 6 months) and it was about something he said sounded almost coercive and I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past so I've learned to watch for signs. We had our discussion, like two hours long, where we talked it out. At first there were cases of interrupting in the discussion but I was firm and said that if he is talking I'll be quiet and vice versa (that we will wait for the other to finish speaking). At one point I felt like I wasn't being understood and I basically said everything as bluntly as possible and he finally understood what my problem was and he apologized for what he said and how it came off and specifically said, without my prompting, that if he ever coerced me in anyway that I should leave him flat out because I deserve better (basically a big plus in my book). (a preview of our \"argument style\".)\n\nMy big thing though is that he doesn't speak up on these small annoyances and I can tell that he's annoyed sometimes but if I ask him then he gets more annoyed because he basically says that it's something he can deal with. I'm not used to this \"confrontation\" style and am wondering about how to handle it when I come from such a brutally honest family. \n\nI don't want our communication styles to be an issue later on.\n\nAnd if it's something small then I'll wait til we are alone and speak up saying I don't like it when you do this, I feel this way (doing that psych stuff where you speak about I things) . sadly can't remember any of the old talks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I was always taught that if you don't like something you speak up and if things change then great, if they don't then either you learn to accept it or move on.\n\nWell my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite way. He'll only speak up if it is incredibly annoying to him. He says he learned to just accept that sometimes the way things are is the way things are and trying to change something if it is only a minor annoyance isn't always helpful.\n\nWe've only ever had one serious discussion (we've been together for less than 6 months) and it was about something he said sounded almost coercive and I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past so I've learned to watch for signs. We had our discussion, like two hours long, where we talked it out. At first there were cases of interrupting in the discussion but I was firm and said that if he is talking I'll be quiet and vice versa (that we will wait for the other to finish speaking). At one point I felt like I wasn't being understood and I basically said everything as bluntly as possible and he finally understood what my problem was and he apologized for what he said and how it came off and specifically said, without my prompting, that if he ever coerced me in anyway that I should leave him flat out because I deserve better (basically a big plus in my book). (a preview of our \"argument style\".)\n\nMy big thing though is that he doesn't speak up on these small annoyances and I can tell that he's annoyed sometimes but if I ask him then he gets more annoyed because he basically says that it's something he can deal with. I'm not used to this \"confrontation\" style and am wondering about how to handle it when I come from such a brutally honest family. \n\nI don't want our communication styles to be an issue later on.\n\nAnd if it's something small then I'll wait til we are alone and speak up saying I don't like it when you do this, I feel this way (doing that psych stuff where you speak about I things) . sadly can't remember any of the old talks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I was always taught that if you don't like something you speak up and if things change then great, if they don't then either you learn to accept it or move on.\n\nWell my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite way. He'll only speak up if it is incredibly annoying to him. He says he learned to just accept that sometimes the way things are is the way things are and trying to change something if it is only a minor annoyance isn't always helpful.\n\nWe've only ever had one serious discussion (we've been together for less than 6 months) and it was about something he said sounded almost coercive and I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past so I've learned to watch for signs. We had our discussion, like two hours long, where we talked it out. At first there were cases of interrupting in the discussion but I was firm and said that if he is talking I'll be quiet and vice versa (that we will wait for the other to finish speaking). At one point I felt like I wasn't being understood and I basically said everything as bluntly as possible and he finally understood what my problem was and he apologized for what he said and how it came off and specifically said, without my prompting, that if he ever coerced me in anyway that I should leave him flat out because I deserve better (basically a big plus in my book). (a preview of our \"argument style\".)\n\nMy big thing though is that he doesn't speak up on these small annoyances and I can tell that he's annoyed sometimes but if I ask him then he gets more annoyed because he basically says that it's something he can deal with. I'm not used to this \"confrontation\" style and am wondering about how to handle it when I come from such a brutally honest family. \n\nI don't want our communication styles to be an issue later on.\n\nAnd if it's something small then I'll wait til we are alone and speak up saying I don't like it when you do this, I feel this way (doing that psych stuff where you speak about I things) . sadly can't remember any of the old talks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I was always taught that if you don't like something you speak up and if things change then great, if they don't then either you learn to accept it or move on.\n\nWell my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite way. He'll only speak up if it is incredibly annoying to him. He says he learned to just accept that sometimes the way things are is the way things are and trying to change something if it is only a minor annoyance isn't always helpful.\n\nWe've only ever had one serious discussion (we've been together for less than 6 months) and it was about something he said sounded almost coercive and I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past so I've learned to watch for signs. We had our discussion, like two hours long, where we talked it out. At first there were cases of interrupting in the discussion but I was firm and said that if he is talking I'll be quiet and vice versa (that we will wait for the other to finish speaking). At one point I felt like I wasn't being understood and I basically said everything as bluntly as possible and he finally understood what my problem was and he apologized for what he said and how it came off and specifically said, without my prompting, that if he ever coerced me in anyway that I should leave him flat out because I deserve better (basically a big plus in my book). (a preview of our \"argument style\".)\n\nMy big thing though is that he doesn't speak up on these small annoyances and I can tell that he's annoyed sometimes but if I ask him then he gets more annoyed because he basically says that it's something he can deal with. I'm not used to this \"confrontation\" style and am wondering about how to handle it when I come from such a brutally honest family. \n\nI don't want our communication styles to be an issue later on.\n\nAnd if it's something small then I'll wait til we are alone and speak up saying I don't like it when you do this, I feel this way (doing that psych stuff where you speak about I things) . sadly can't remember any of the old talks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I was always taught that if you don't like something you speak up and if things change then great, if they don't then either you learn to accept it or move on.\n\nWell my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite way. He'll only speak up if it is incredibly annoying to him. He says he learned to just accept that sometimes the way things are is the way things are and trying to change something if it is only a minor annoyance isn't always helpful.\n\nWe've only ever had one serious discussion (we've been together for less than 6 months) and it was about something he said sounded almost coercive and I had been in an emotionally abusive relationship in the past so I've learned to watch for signs. We had our discussion, like two hours long, where we talked it out. At first there were cases of interrupting in the discussion but I was firm and said that if he is talking I'll be quiet and vice versa (that we will wait for the other to finish speaking). At one point I felt like I wasn't being understood and I basically said everything as bluntly as possible and he finally understood what my problem was and he apologized for what he said and how it came off and specifically said, without my prompting, that if he ever coerced me in anyway that I should leave him flat out because I deserve better (basically a big plus in my book). (a preview of our \"argument style\".)\n\nMy big thing though is that he doesn't speak up on these small annoyances and I can tell that he's annoyed sometimes but if I ask him then he gets more annoyed because he basically says that it's something he can deal with. I'm not used to this \"confrontation\" style and am wondering about how to handle it when I come from such a brutally honest family. \n\nI don't want our communication styles to be an issue later on.\n\nAnd if it's something small then I'll wait til we are alone and speak up saying I don't like it when you do this, I feel this way (doing that psych stuff where you speak about I things) . sadly can't remember any of the old talks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I understand why she did. I've been in the Army for 14 years. I've been deployed five times (51 months total) she just couldn't take it and quit on me. I've always been faithful to her. Im pretty sure cheated on me a couple of times before she divorced me. I could tell she was looking for outs. I'm at a point in my career now that if I quit its basically like turning my back on more than a million dollars. I think the damage is already done. She has moved on, she is dating good guys, that are good for her. I'm having a really rough time moving on. I think about her a lot. I know i call too much. I've tried dating, but for some reason i feel like the biggest creep in the entire world. The women that do date me seem pretty excited by my online profile but fairly disgusted by me in real life. I think i'm giving out the most desperate vibe on the planet."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I understand why she did. I've been in the Army for 14 years. I've been deployed five times (51 months total) she just couldn't take it and quit on me. I've always been faithful to her. Im pretty sure cheated on me a couple of times before she divorced me. I could tell she was looking for outs. I'm at a point in my career now that if I quit its basically like turning my back on more than a million dollars. I think the damage is already done. She has moved on, she is dating good guys, that are good for her. I'm having a really rough time moving on. I think about her a lot. I know i call too much. I've tried dating, but for some reason i feel like the biggest creep in the entire world. The women that do date me seem pretty excited by my online profile but fairly disgusted by me in real life. I think i'm giving out the most desperate vibe on the planet."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I understand why she did. I've been in the Army for 14 years. I've been deployed five times (51 months total) she just couldn't take it and quit on me. I've always been faithful to her. Im pretty sure cheated on me a couple of times before she divorced me. I could tell she was looking for outs. I'm at a point in my career now that if I quit its basically like turning my back on more than a million dollars. I think the damage is already done. She has moved on, she is dating good guys, that are good for her. I'm having a really rough time moving on. I think about her a lot. I know i call too much. I've tried dating, but for some reason i feel like the biggest creep in the entire world. The women that do date me seem pretty excited by my online profile but fairly disgusted by me in real life. I think i'm giving out the most desperate vibe on the planet."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa £120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories. \n\nI recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. £20,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared £1975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).\n\nI do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I \"settle down\" and try to find a serious ladyfriend. \n\nIt's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without \"fun\" money I could put my outgoings at around £500 P/M. \n\nCould any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.\n\nThanks!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa £120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories. \n\nI recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. £20,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared £1975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).\n\nI do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I \"settle down\" and try to find a serious ladyfriend. \n\nIt's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without \"fun\" money I could put my outgoings at around £500 P/M. \n\nCould any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.\n\nThanks!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa £120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories. \n\nI recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. £20,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared £1975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).\n\nI do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I \"settle down\" and try to find a serious ladyfriend. \n\nIt's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without \"fun\" money I could put my outgoings at around £500 P/M. \n\nCould any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.\n\nThanks!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa £120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories. \n\nI recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. £20,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared £1975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).\n\nI do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I \"settle down\" and try to find a serious ladyfriend. \n\nIt's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without \"fun\" money I could put my outgoings at around £500 P/M. \n\nCould any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.\n\nThanks!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa £120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories. \n\nI recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. £20,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared £1975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).\n\nI do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I \"settle down\" and try to find a serious ladyfriend. \n\nIt's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without \"fun\" money I could put my outgoings at around £500 P/M. \n\nCould any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.\n\nThanks!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa £120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories. \n\nI recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. £20,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared £1975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).\n\nI do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I \"settle down\" and try to find a serious ladyfriend. \n\nIt's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without \"fun\" money I could put my outgoings at around £500 P/M. \n\nCould any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.\n\nThanks!"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Throwaway Account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three months and known each other for eight years. \n\nHe has had a job for three years and his family often deposits some extra cash for him in his bank account. He has close to 15k saved up so far. \n\nI have never had a job up until this summer. I live with a single dad and three other siblings so money is very tight. I am the eldest out of my siblings so it's only my dad and I who work. \n\nOn the very first date I went with my boyfriend, I had offered to pay for my movie ticket. He insisted that I don't have to. He said the same thing for the next couple of movie dates. He even said \"dinner is on me\" on several occasions even though I insisted I could pay for my half of the food/ticket. \n\nMoving along, throughout the entire relationship (thus far) he has paid for me since I didn't have any source of income. We even share a Netflix account for $8.99. I have been keeping track of how much I owe him so I could pay him back as soon as I got a job. It's about $150 (including Netflix). So far I have paid him back $50 in small amounts of money. \n\nNow, the problem is that today he demanded that he needs the money and I pay him back asap. I told him that I'll give him the money back in small instalments and not all at once as I have other responsibilities. He then went on and said he wants all the money from the start (including all the tickets/foods that he insisted I don't pay for.lol wtf. Why would you tell me in the first place to not pay at all if you wanted the money back). He then went on and started questioning me if I will ever pay him back. I told him I will and I have even been keeping track of how much I owe him (he's seen the list)."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Throwaway Account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three months and known each other for eight years. \n\nHe has had a job for three years and his family often deposits some extra cash for him in his bank account. He has close to 15k saved up so far. \n\nI have never had a job up until this summer. I live with a single dad and three other siblings so money is very tight. I am the eldest out of my siblings so it's only my dad and I who work. \n\nOn the very first date I went with my boyfriend, I had offered to pay for my movie ticket. He insisted that I don't have to. He said the same thing for the next couple of movie dates. He even said \"dinner is on me\" on several occasions even though I insisted I could pay for my half of the food/ticket. \n\nMoving along, throughout the entire relationship (thus far) he has paid for me since I didn't have any source of income. We even share a Netflix account for $8.99. I have been keeping track of how much I owe him so I could pay him back as soon as I got a job. It's about $150 (including Netflix). So far I have paid him back $50 in small amounts of money. \n\nNow, the problem is that today he demanded that he needs the money and I pay him back asap. I told him that I'll give him the money back in small instalments and not all at once as I have other responsibilities. He then went on and said he wants all the money from the start (including all the tickets/foods that he insisted I don't pay for.lol wtf. Why would you tell me in the first place to not pay at all if you wanted the money back). He then went on and started questioning me if I will ever pay him back. I told him I will and I have even been keeping track of how much I owe him (he's seen the list)."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Throwaway Account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three months and known each other for eight years. \n\nHe has had a job for three years and his family often deposits some extra cash for him in his bank account. He has close to 15k saved up so far. \n\nI have never had a job up until this summer. I live with a single dad and three other siblings so money is very tight. I am the eldest out of my siblings so it's only my dad and I who work. \n\nOn the very first date I went with my boyfriend, I had offered to pay for my movie ticket. He insisted that I don't have to. He said the same thing for the next couple of movie dates. He even said \"dinner is on me\" on several occasions even though I insisted I could pay for my half of the food/ticket. \n\nMoving along, throughout the entire relationship (thus far) he has paid for me since I didn't have any source of income. We even share a Netflix account for $8.99. I have been keeping track of how much I owe him so I could pay him back as soon as I got a job. It's about $150 (including Netflix). So far I have paid him back $50 in small amounts of money. \n\nNow, the problem is that today he demanded that he needs the money and I pay him back asap. I told him that I'll give him the money back in small instalments and not all at once as I have other responsibilities. He then went on and said he wants all the money from the start (including all the tickets/foods that he insisted I don't pay for.lol wtf. Why would you tell me in the first place to not pay at all if you wanted the money back). He then went on and started questioning me if I will ever pay him back. I told him I will and I have even been keeping track of how much I owe him (he's seen the list)."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Throwaway Account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three months and known each other for eight years. \n\nHe has had a job for three years and his family often deposits some extra cash for him in his bank account. He has close to 15k saved up so far. \n\nI have never had a job up until this summer. I live with a single dad and three other siblings so money is very tight. I am the eldest out of my siblings so it's only my dad and I who work. \n\nOn the very first date I went with my boyfriend, I had offered to pay for my movie ticket. He insisted that I don't have to. He said the same thing for the next couple of movie dates. He even said \"dinner is on me\" on several occasions even though I insisted I could pay for my half of the food/ticket. \n\nMoving along, throughout the entire relationship (thus far) he has paid for me since I didn't have any source of income. We even share a Netflix account for $8.99. I have been keeping track of how much I owe him so I could pay him back as soon as I got a job. It's about $150 (including Netflix). So far I have paid him back $50 in small amounts of money. \n\nNow, the problem is that today he demanded that he needs the money and I pay him back asap. I told him that I'll give him the money back in small instalments and not all at once as I have other responsibilities. He then went on and said he wants all the money from the start (including all the tickets/foods that he insisted I don't pay for.lol wtf. Why would you tell me in the first place to not pay at all if you wanted the money back). He then went on and started questioning me if I will ever pay him back. I told him I will and I have even been keeping track of how much I owe him (he's seen the list)."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Throwaway Account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three months and known each other for eight years. \n\nHe has had a job for three years and his family often deposits some extra cash for him in his bank account. He has close to 15k saved up so far. \n\nI have never had a job up until this summer. I live with a single dad and three other siblings so money is very tight. I am the eldest out of my siblings so it's only my dad and I who work. \n\nOn the very first date I went with my boyfriend, I had offered to pay for my movie ticket. He insisted that I don't have to. He said the same thing for the next couple of movie dates. He even said \"dinner is on me\" on several occasions even though I insisted I could pay for my half of the food/ticket. \n\nMoving along, throughout the entire relationship (thus far) he has paid for me since I didn't have any source of income. We even share a Netflix account for $8.99. I have been keeping track of how much I owe him so I could pay him back as soon as I got a job. It's about $150 (including Netflix). So far I have paid him back $50 in small amounts of money. \n\nNow, the problem is that today he demanded that he needs the money and I pay him back asap. I told him that I'll give him the money back in small instalments and not all at once as I have other responsibilities. He then went on and said he wants all the money from the start (including all the tickets/foods that he insisted I don't pay for.lol wtf. Why would you tell me in the first place to not pay at all if you wanted the money back). He then went on and started questioning me if I will ever pay him back. I told him I will and I have even been keeping track of how much I owe him (he's seen the list)."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Throwaway Account. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been together for three months and known each other for eight years. \n\nHe has had a job for three years and his family often deposits some extra cash for him in his bank account. He has close to 15k saved up so far. \n\nI have never had a job up until this summer. I live with a single dad and three other siblings so money is very tight. I am the eldest out of my siblings so it's only my dad and I who work. \n\nOn the very first date I went with my boyfriend, I had offered to pay for my movie ticket. He insisted that I don't have to. He said the same thing for the next couple of movie dates. He even said \"dinner is on me\" on several occasions even though I insisted I could pay for my half of the food/ticket. \n\nMoving along, throughout the entire relationship (thus far) he has paid for me since I didn't have any source of income. We even share a Netflix account for $8.99. I have been keeping track of how much I owe him so I could pay him back as soon as I got a job. It's about $150 (including Netflix). So far I have paid him back $50 in small amounts of money. \n\nNow, the problem is that today he demanded that he needs the money and I pay him back asap. I told him that I'll give him the money back in small instalments and not all at once as I have other responsibilities. He then went on and said he wants all the money from the start (including all the tickets/foods that he insisted I don't pay for.lol wtf. Why would you tell me in the first place to not pay at all if you wanted the money back). He then went on and started questioning me if I will ever pay him back. I told him I will and I have even been keeping track of how much I owe him (he's seen the list)."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm a Folklore and Arts Admin student, and I frequently takes classes where I have to use my Wordpress blog for assignments. Last year I put together a fairly comprehensive ['field guide' about lolcats] About two months ago, I started noticing a bunch of hits on the lolcat guide. I got bored one afternoon and decided to see how quickly I could find my guide using Google, and I came across [this guide] Some of the language and topic pages seemed similar to mine, but I figured that there's only so much to be said about lolcats, so some overlap was natural. That was about a week ago.\n\nJust now, I checked my blog stats again, and I've had another spike in activity on the lolcat page. I went back to the guide on the other site, and they've added new pages to their guide, which have even more similarities to mine. I wouldn't mind if it was just the images (obviously I found the lolcats I used through Google and whatnot), but I feel like this person is using my words as well.\n\nSome of the pages on their guide appear to have been up long before mine, but they've been making a lot of changes and additions recently. All I really want is that, if they are using my guide to supplement theirs, they at least include a link to my guide or a reference somewhere. I worked on it for months, and it was the foundation for a paper about lolcats that I presented at a folklore conference this Fall.\n\nAt the same time, I can't help thinking maybe I'm just over-analyzing this and I should just be glad people are enjoying my field guide? Some of the places where they've 'borrowed' are pretty minor, but there's a lot of them."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm a Folklore and Arts Admin student, and I frequently takes classes where I have to use my Wordpress blog for assignments. Last year I put together a fairly comprehensive ['field guide' about lolcats] About two months ago, I started noticing a bunch of hits on the lolcat guide. I got bored one afternoon and decided to see how quickly I could find my guide using Google, and I came across [this guide] Some of the language and topic pages seemed similar to mine, but I figured that there's only so much to be said about lolcats, so some overlap was natural. That was about a week ago.\n\nJust now, I checked my blog stats again, and I've had another spike in activity on the lolcat page. I went back to the guide on the other site, and they've added new pages to their guide, which have even more similarities to mine. I wouldn't mind if it was just the images (obviously I found the lolcats I used through Google and whatnot), but I feel like this person is using my words as well.\n\nSome of the pages on their guide appear to have been up long before mine, but they've been making a lot of changes and additions recently. All I really want is that, if they are using my guide to supplement theirs, they at least include a link to my guide or a reference somewhere. I worked on it for months, and it was the foundation for a paper about lolcats that I presented at a folklore conference this Fall.\n\nAt the same time, I can't help thinking maybe I'm just over-analyzing this and I should just be glad people are enjoying my field guide? Some of the places where they've 'borrowed' are pretty minor, but there's a lot of them."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm a Folklore and Arts Admin student, and I frequently takes classes where I have to use my Wordpress blog for assignments. Last year I put together a fairly comprehensive ['field guide' about lolcats] About two months ago, I started noticing a bunch of hits on the lolcat guide. I got bored one afternoon and decided to see how quickly I could find my guide using Google, and I came across [this guide] Some of the language and topic pages seemed similar to mine, but I figured that there's only so much to be said about lolcats, so some overlap was natural. That was about a week ago.\n\nJust now, I checked my blog stats again, and I've had another spike in activity on the lolcat page. I went back to the guide on the other site, and they've added new pages to their guide, which have even more similarities to mine. I wouldn't mind if it was just the images (obviously I found the lolcats I used through Google and whatnot), but I feel like this person is using my words as well.\n\nSome of the pages on their guide appear to have been up long before mine, but they've been making a lot of changes and additions recently. All I really want is that, if they are using my guide to supplement theirs, they at least include a link to my guide or a reference somewhere. I worked on it for months, and it was the foundation for a paper about lolcats that I presented at a folklore conference this Fall.\n\nAt the same time, I can't help thinking maybe I'm just over-analyzing this and I should just be glad people are enjoying my field guide? Some of the places where they've 'borrowed' are pretty minor, but there's a lot of them."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I have two cockatiels, one of which is very old, pushing 18 years of age. She is very fragile and very care intensive. She is unable to sleep on a perch anymore, so she usually sleeps in a soft pillow-lined box draped in towels with a number of soft socks and scarves to cuddle up in. I have a cage for her to stay in, but I feel like I'm punishing her if I lock her up in it. \n\nI'm leaving for a graduation trip to another city for the New Years (about an 8 day stay) and I do not really want to take the birds on a 12 hour drive across country. Unfortunately, the only people I trust to proved proper care for the birds (especially my elderly bird) are my parents who are also going on the trip with me. \n\nI'm forced to leave my feathered friends with a companion of ours from school, I trust him as he has been a pet-sitter for a number of other friends and promises to take good care of them, but I am still uncomfortable about leaving my Elderly bird with him. I'm not sure if he will know how to handle her being scared or what to do if she needs some attention.\n\nUnfortunately, my only options are: Leave both birds with him and hope everything goes well, or take the Care intensive bird with me on the 12 hour trip to stay in a hotel room while I go with my family. \nI am afraid the bird will feel I've abandoned her, get depressed and die before I have a chance to come back. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I have two cockatiels, one of which is very old, pushing 18 years of age. She is very fragile and very care intensive. She is unable to sleep on a perch anymore, so she usually sleeps in a soft pillow-lined box draped in towels with a number of soft socks and scarves to cuddle up in. I have a cage for her to stay in, but I feel like I'm punishing her if I lock her up in it. \n\nI'm leaving for a graduation trip to another city for the New Years (about an 8 day stay) and I do not really want to take the birds on a 12 hour drive across country. Unfortunately, the only people I trust to proved proper care for the birds (especially my elderly bird) are my parents who are also going on the trip with me. \n\nI'm forced to leave my feathered friends with a companion of ours from school, I trust him as he has been a pet-sitter for a number of other friends and promises to take good care of them, but I am still uncomfortable about leaving my Elderly bird with him. I'm not sure if he will know how to handle her being scared or what to do if she needs some attention.\n\nUnfortunately, my only options are: Leave both birds with him and hope everything goes well, or take the Care intensive bird with me on the 12 hour trip to stay in a hotel room while I go with my family. \nI am afraid the bird will feel I've abandoned her, get depressed and die before I have a chance to come back. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I have two cockatiels, one of which is very old, pushing 18 years of age. She is very fragile and very care intensive. She is unable to sleep on a perch anymore, so she usually sleeps in a soft pillow-lined box draped in towels with a number of soft socks and scarves to cuddle up in. I have a cage for her to stay in, but I feel like I'm punishing her if I lock her up in it. \n\nI'm leaving for a graduation trip to another city for the New Years (about an 8 day stay) and I do not really want to take the birds on a 12 hour drive across country. Unfortunately, the only people I trust to proved proper care for the birds (especially my elderly bird) are my parents who are also going on the trip with me. \n\nI'm forced to leave my feathered friends with a companion of ours from school, I trust him as he has been a pet-sitter for a number of other friends and promises to take good care of them, but I am still uncomfortable about leaving my Elderly bird with him. I'm not sure if he will know how to handle her being scared or what to do if she needs some attention.\n\nUnfortunately, my only options are: Leave both birds with him and hope everything goes well, or take the Care intensive bird with me on the 12 hour trip to stay in a hotel room while I go with my family. \nI am afraid the bird will feel I've abandoned her, get depressed and die before I have a chance to come back. What should I do?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So I have a roommate that plays hockey. He leaves his hocky bag, which on a good day doesn't really smell, and on a bad day smells like shit, in the living room/tv room. It's tucked out of the way and in no way a physical obstruction but it assaults the olfactory senses like none other. Is it too much for the remaining 4 roommates to ask him to keep it in his room or somewhere else that isn't as commonly used by the other 4 roommates. \n\nI've already confronted him about it and he claims:\na.) His room is too small\nb.) I need to stop being a douche and a cocky, little Korean\nc.) We're all ganging up on him, being inconsiderate to his needs, and we're imposing our will on him\n\nI claim (and I think it's safe to say I speak for everyone else in the house): \na.) His bag is unpleasant smelling\nb.) It is unreasonable that he thinks he is special or above everyone else in that he can keep his smelly hockey bag in the common room\nc.) He is everything that is wrong with America\n\n*He's a redneck-wanna-be, an adament libertarian, and a supporter of Rick Santorum. I think this is where he gets this notion that the individual (himself) comes before the collective (our House) and the idea that the \"Group\" or the governing body imposes its will on him (the lone indivdual) and suppresses his freedoms."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So I have a roommate that plays hockey. He leaves his hocky bag, which on a good day doesn't really smell, and on a bad day smells like shit, in the living room/tv room. It's tucked out of the way and in no way a physical obstruction but it assaults the olfactory senses like none other. Is it too much for the remaining 4 roommates to ask him to keep it in his room or somewhere else that isn't as commonly used by the other 4 roommates. \n\nI've already confronted him about it and he claims:\na.) His room is too small\nb.) I need to stop being a douche and a cocky, little Korean\nc.) We're all ganging up on him, being inconsiderate to his needs, and we're imposing our will on him\n\nI claim (and I think it's safe to say I speak for everyone else in the house): \na.) His bag is unpleasant smelling\nb.) It is unreasonable that he thinks he is special or above everyone else in that he can keep his smelly hockey bag in the common room\nc.) He is everything that is wrong with America\n\n*He's a redneck-wanna-be, an adament libertarian, and a supporter of Rick Santorum. I think this is where he gets this notion that the individual (himself) comes before the collective (our House) and the idea that the \"Group\" or the governing body imposes its will on him (the lone indivdual) and suppresses his freedoms."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So I have a roommate that plays hockey. He leaves his hocky bag, which on a good day doesn't really smell, and on a bad day smells like shit, in the living room/tv room. It's tucked out of the way and in no way a physical obstruction but it assaults the olfactory senses like none other. Is it too much for the remaining 4 roommates to ask him to keep it in his room or somewhere else that isn't as commonly used by the other 4 roommates. \n\nI've already confronted him about it and he claims:\na.) His room is too small\nb.) I need to stop being a douche and a cocky, little Korean\nc.) We're all ganging up on him, being inconsiderate to his needs, and we're imposing our will on him\n\nI claim (and I think it's safe to say I speak for everyone else in the house): \na.) His bag is unpleasant smelling\nb.) It is unreasonable that he thinks he is special or above everyone else in that he can keep his smelly hockey bag in the common room\nc.) He is everything that is wrong with America\n\n*He's a redneck-wanna-be, an adament libertarian, and a supporter of Rick Santorum. I think this is where he gets this notion that the individual (himself) comes before the collective (our House) and the idea that the \"Group\" or the governing body imposes its will on him (the lone indivdual) and suppresses his freedoms."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So I have a roommate that plays hockey. He leaves his hocky bag, which on a good day doesn't really smell, and on a bad day smells like shit, in the living room/tv room. It's tucked out of the way and in no way a physical obstruction but it assaults the olfactory senses like none other. Is it too much for the remaining 4 roommates to ask him to keep it in his room or somewhere else that isn't as commonly used by the other 4 roommates. \n\nI've already confronted him about it and he claims:\na.) His room is too small\nb.) I need to stop being a douche and a cocky, little Korean\nc.) We're all ganging up on him, being inconsiderate to his needs, and we're imposing our will on him\n\nI claim (and I think it's safe to say I speak for everyone else in the house): \na.) His bag is unpleasant smelling\nb.) It is unreasonable that he thinks he is special or above everyone else in that he can keep his smelly hockey bag in the common room\nc.) He is everything that is wrong with America\n\n*He's a redneck-wanna-be, an adament libertarian, and a supporter of Rick Santorum. I think this is where he gets this notion that the individual (himself) comes before the collective (our House) and the idea that the \"Group\" or the governing body imposes its will on him (the lone indivdual) and suppresses his freedoms."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So I have a roommate that plays hockey. He leaves his hocky bag, which on a good day doesn't really smell, and on a bad day smells like shit, in the living room/tv room. It's tucked out of the way and in no way a physical obstruction but it assaults the olfactory senses like none other. Is it too much for the remaining 4 roommates to ask him to keep it in his room or somewhere else that isn't as commonly used by the other 4 roommates. \n\nI've already confronted him about it and he claims:\na.) His room is too small\nb.) I need to stop being a douche and a cocky, little Korean\nc.) We're all ganging up on him, being inconsiderate to his needs, and we're imposing our will on him\n\nI claim (and I think it's safe to say I speak for everyone else in the house): \na.) His bag is unpleasant smelling\nb.) It is unreasonable that he thinks he is special or above everyone else in that he can keep his smelly hockey bag in the common room\nc.) He is everything that is wrong with America\n\n*He's a redneck-wanna-be, an adament libertarian, and a supporter of Rick Santorum. I think this is where he gets this notion that the individual (himself) comes before the collective (our House) and the idea that the \"Group\" or the governing body imposes its will on him (the lone indivdual) and suppresses his freedoms."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: So I have a roommate that plays hockey. He leaves his hocky bag, which on a good day doesn't really smell, and on a bad day smells like shit, in the living room/tv room. It's tucked out of the way and in no way a physical obstruction but it assaults the olfactory senses like none other. Is it too much for the remaining 4 roommates to ask him to keep it in his room or somewhere else that isn't as commonly used by the other 4 roommates. \n\nI've already confronted him about it and he claims:\na.) His room is too small\nb.) I need to stop being a douche and a cocky, little Korean\nc.) We're all ganging up on him, being inconsiderate to his needs, and we're imposing our will on him\n\nI claim (and I think it's safe to say I speak for everyone else in the house): \na.) His bag is unpleasant smelling\nb.) It is unreasonable that he thinks he is special or above everyone else in that he can keep his smelly hockey bag in the common room\nc.) He is everything that is wrong with America\n\n*He's a redneck-wanna-be, an adament libertarian, and a supporter of Rick Santorum. I think this is where he gets this notion that the individual (himself) comes before the collective (our House) and the idea that the \"Group\" or the governing body imposes its will on him (the lone indivdual) and suppresses his freedoms."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages. \n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. Shr had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. Now I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages. \n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. Shr had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. Now I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages. \n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. Shr had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. Now I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages. \n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. Shr had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. Now I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages. \n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. Shr had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. Now I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I stupidly decided to go through my girlfriend's messages because she has been going through tough times and has become more and more distant. But she has been on her phone almost constantly. So my damn curiosity got the best of me and boom I'm in her messages. \n\nI find an alternative recount of a night with friends a few weekends ago when I went out of town. She had told me that she hung out with an group of her older friends from earlier times that included an ex-boyfriend. Shr had said a fun night of board games and drinking went too far and before she knew it, she was on a bed with guys trying to get with her (verbally, I guess) but that a good mutual friend of hers who was not as drunk, protected her. \n\nThat apparently didn't happen, I read in a conversation with a friend that she had actually had sex with her ex and was drunk but was kissing back etc. \n\nNow I just feel so hurt. I have set up my entire life around her and have put her first over my friends, family and career. Now I just feel so betrayed. I want to get back at her by sleeping with someone else because a major issue in our relationship is that my girlfriend was concerned that I choose her instead of having a normal bachelor period. I always responded that I only wanted her amd have been faithful through a decent amount of opportunities to stray."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My girlfriend and I just split a few weeks ago. I'm past the initial grieving pain but I just feel like our break up was a mistake in big picture sort of way. I've dated a lot and I have never felt closer or more at home with anyone else. I really think of her as my soul mate on many levels. If I had to say why we broke up I would say it was a breach of trust. There wasn't one big incident like cheating or anything, it was more of a long haul of small mistakes that left it hard for us communicate without being defensive. We had a pretty huge breakdown of communication at the end. We got into some bad habits and weren't able to break them, even though we were aware of them and actively tried to. I know that I can't hold onto her just because I have hope for the future, but I want to believe that once we give our wounds some time to heal, we might be able to come back to it with a fresh slate. Is this something that is totally illogical? Thanks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My girlfriend and I just split a few weeks ago. I'm past the initial grieving pain but I just feel like our break up was a mistake in big picture sort of way. I've dated a lot and I have never felt closer or more at home with anyone else. I really think of her as my soul mate on many levels. If I had to say why we broke up I would say it was a breach of trust. There wasn't one big incident like cheating or anything, it was more of a long haul of small mistakes that left it hard for us communicate without being defensive. We had a pretty huge breakdown of communication at the end. We got into some bad habits and weren't able to break them, even though we were aware of them and actively tried to. I know that I can't hold onto her just because I have hope for the future, but I want to believe that once we give our wounds some time to heal, we might be able to come back to it with a fresh slate. Is this something that is totally illogical? Thanks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My girlfriend and I just split a few weeks ago. I'm past the initial grieving pain but I just feel like our break up was a mistake in big picture sort of way. I've dated a lot and I have never felt closer or more at home with anyone else. I really think of her as my soul mate on many levels. If I had to say why we broke up I would say it was a breach of trust. There wasn't one big incident like cheating or anything, it was more of a long haul of small mistakes that left it hard for us communicate without being defensive. We had a pretty huge breakdown of communication at the end. We got into some bad habits and weren't able to break them, even though we were aware of them and actively tried to. I know that I can't hold onto her just because I have hope for the future, but I want to believe that once we give our wounds some time to heal, we might be able to come back to it with a fresh slate. Is this something that is totally illogical? Thanks."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm 23, she just turned 25, been with each other for a year and moved north together as well.\n\nWe discussed having kids before but I had mentioned getting my \"tubes tied\" and it set her off thinking about her future. Basically, she wants to settle down and start a family, but doesn't want to wait passed 30 to have kids. She wanted an answer and I told her that I cannot commit myself to that yet. She responded saying that she didn't want to wait around for me to decide.\n\nIdk what to do. I love her to death but I don't want kids, but I don't want to be the person to hold her back. I told her that the only real solution would be to separate.which I don't want :/\n\nDoesn't make things easier that we live together, but our lease is up in October and if she's seriously considering it, we have to figure something out.\n\nAnyone gone through this? I feel lost"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm 23, she just turned 25, been with each other for a year and moved north together as well.\n\nWe discussed having kids before but I had mentioned getting my \"tubes tied\" and it set her off thinking about her future. Basically, she wants to settle down and start a family, but doesn't want to wait passed 30 to have kids. She wanted an answer and I told her that I cannot commit myself to that yet. She responded saying that she didn't want to wait around for me to decide.\n\nIdk what to do. I love her to death but I don't want kids, but I don't want to be the person to hold her back. I told her that the only real solution would be to separate.which I don't want :/\n\nDoesn't make things easier that we live together, but our lease is up in October and if she's seriously considering it, we have to figure something out.\n\nAnyone gone through this? I feel lost"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm 23, she just turned 25, been with each other for a year and moved north together as well.\n\nWe discussed having kids before but I had mentioned getting my \"tubes tied\" and it set her off thinking about her future. Basically, she wants to settle down and start a family, but doesn't want to wait passed 30 to have kids. She wanted an answer and I told her that I cannot commit myself to that yet. She responded saying that she didn't want to wait around for me to decide.\n\nIdk what to do. I love her to death but I don't want kids, but I don't want to be the person to hold her back. I told her that the only real solution would be to separate.which I don't want :/\n\nDoesn't make things easier that we live together, but our lease is up in October and if she's seriously considering it, we have to figure something out.\n\nAnyone gone through this? I feel lost"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm 23, she just turned 25, been with each other for a year and moved north together as well.\n\nWe discussed having kids before but I had mentioned getting my \"tubes tied\" and it set her off thinking about her future. Basically, she wants to settle down and start a family, but doesn't want to wait passed 30 to have kids. She wanted an answer and I told her that I cannot commit myself to that yet. She responded saying that she didn't want to wait around for me to decide.\n\nIdk what to do. I love her to death but I don't want kids, but I don't want to be the person to hold her back. I told her that the only real solution would be to separate.which I don't want :/\n\nDoesn't make things easier that we live together, but our lease is up in October and if she's seriously considering it, we have to figure something out.\n\nAnyone gone through this? I feel lost"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm 23, she just turned 25, been with each other for a year and moved north together as well.\n\nWe discussed having kids before but I had mentioned getting my \"tubes tied\" and it set her off thinking about her future. Basically, she wants to settle down and start a family, but doesn't want to wait passed 30 to have kids. She wanted an answer and I told her that I cannot commit myself to that yet. She responded saying that she didn't want to wait around for me to decide.\n\nIdk what to do. I love her to death but I don't want kids, but I don't want to be the person to hold her back. I told her that the only real solution would be to separate.which I don't want :/\n\nDoesn't make things easier that we live together, but our lease is up in October and if she's seriously considering it, we have to figure something out.\n\nAnyone gone through this? I feel lost"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I'm 23, she just turned 25, been with each other for a year and moved north together as well.\n\nWe discussed having kids before but I had mentioned getting my \"tubes tied\" and it set her off thinking about her future. Basically, she wants to settle down and start a family, but doesn't want to wait passed 30 to have kids. She wanted an answer and I told her that I cannot commit myself to that yet. She responded saying that she didn't want to wait around for me to decide.\n\nIdk what to do. I love her to death but I don't want kids, but I don't want to be the person to hold her back. I told her that the only real solution would be to separate.which I don't want :/\n\nDoesn't make things easier that we live together, but our lease is up in October and if she's seriously considering it, we have to figure something out.\n\nAnyone gone through this? I feel lost"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I know that keeping track of your expenses is a no brainer. everyone knows they should be doing that. But, I wanted to offer a warning to people who are relying on the balance reported by their bank, particularly financial responsibility noobs who have tight budgets.\n\nI have been banking online almost exclusively for several years. When I first started out, I thought it would be the most convenient, hassle-free, error-free way to keep track of spending. after all, it's all right there for me to see, anytime I'm online. But, I noticed quickly that my mental balance was different than the balance shown on my account. Why? Because purchases don't necessarily happen in real time with real amounts. Various merchants will sometimes authorize a smaller amount before actually charging the full amount. Consider the case where I spend $60 to fill my car with gas. Three days later, the $60 has still not left my account. There is, however, a $1 authorization charge, which will change later. If I just go by the balance reported by my bank, I will think that I have more money than I actually have. This happens also anytime you leave a tip. *Note that it almost never goes the opposite direction. You will almost never have more money in your account than is being reported by your bank. This is a systematic error.*\n\nFor me, at any given time, I would say that my reported balance is about $100 *more* than the money I actually have. If you're running a tight ship like I am, that's a large margin of error."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I know that keeping track of your expenses is a no brainer. everyone knows they should be doing that. But, I wanted to offer a warning to people who are relying on the balance reported by their bank, particularly financial responsibility noobs who have tight budgets.\n\nI have been banking online almost exclusively for several years. When I first started out, I thought it would be the most convenient, hassle-free, error-free way to keep track of spending. after all, it's all right there for me to see, anytime I'm online. But, I noticed quickly that my mental balance was different than the balance shown on my account. Why? Because purchases don't necessarily happen in real time with real amounts. Various merchants will sometimes authorize a smaller amount before actually charging the full amount. Consider the case where I spend $60 to fill my car with gas. Three days later, the $60 has still not left my account. There is, however, a $1 authorization charge, which will change later. If I just go by the balance reported by my bank, I will think that I have more money than I actually have. This happens also anytime you leave a tip. *Note that it almost never goes the opposite direction. You will almost never have more money in your account than is being reported by your bank. This is a systematic error.*\n\nFor me, at any given time, I would say that my reported balance is about $100 *more* than the money I actually have. If you're running a tight ship like I am, that's a large margin of error."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I know that keeping track of your expenses is a no brainer. everyone knows they should be doing that. But, I wanted to offer a warning to people who are relying on the balance reported by their bank, particularly financial responsibility noobs who have tight budgets.\n\nI have been banking online almost exclusively for several years. When I first started out, I thought it would be the most convenient, hassle-free, error-free way to keep track of spending. after all, it's all right there for me to see, anytime I'm online. But, I noticed quickly that my mental balance was different than the balance shown on my account. Why? Because purchases don't necessarily happen in real time with real amounts. Various merchants will sometimes authorize a smaller amount before actually charging the full amount. Consider the case where I spend $60 to fill my car with gas. Three days later, the $60 has still not left my account. There is, however, a $1 authorization charge, which will change later. If I just go by the balance reported by my bank, I will think that I have more money than I actually have. This happens also anytime you leave a tip. *Note that it almost never goes the opposite direction. You will almost never have more money in your account than is being reported by your bank. This is a systematic error.*\n\nFor me, at any given time, I would say that my reported balance is about $100 *more* than the money I actually have. If you're running a tight ship like I am, that's a large margin of error."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Yesterday I went out to eat with one of my female friends( ill call her Andrea)from school(we go out to eat often) we talked about relationships and she said how she thinks highschool relationships are stupid and pointless she said she would much rather prefer a Fuckbuddy and we discussed highschool relationships from a third person perspective amd FWB relationships.\n\n When I took her home she asked,me if I was a virgin and unfortunately I told the truth which was that I was.She disclosed that she wasn't a virgin by this time I was already at her car and we departed. Should I follow up? I like her a little bit but not enough to ruin a FWB relationship? Sorry if this is,the wrong thread."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Yesterday I went out to eat with one of my female friends( ill call her Andrea)from school(we go out to eat often) we talked about relationships and she said how she thinks highschool relationships are stupid and pointless she said she would much rather prefer a Fuckbuddy and we discussed highschool relationships from a third person perspective amd FWB relationships.\n\n When I took her home she asked,me if I was a virgin and unfortunately I told the truth which was that I was.She disclosed that she wasn't a virgin by this time I was already at her car and we departed. Should I follow up? I like her a little bit but not enough to ruin a FWB relationship? Sorry if this is,the wrong thread."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Yesterday I went out to eat with one of my female friends( ill call her Andrea)from school(we go out to eat often) we talked about relationships and she said how she thinks highschool relationships are stupid and pointless she said she would much rather prefer a Fuckbuddy and we discussed highschool relationships from a third person perspective amd FWB relationships.\n\n When I took her home she asked,me if I was a virgin and unfortunately I told the truth which was that I was.She disclosed that she wasn't a virgin by this time I was already at her car and we departed. Should I follow up? I like her a little bit but not enough to ruin a FWB relationship? Sorry if this is,the wrong thread."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I have this fear of being murdered, in my own home, but it goes well beyond that. It all started when my car was broken into, in my own drive way. My laptop, radar detector, GPS, system, amp & sub were all taken from my car in the middle of the night. I really felt stupid for leaving my things in my car, in plain view. Following the incident, I would go outside on the back porch to smoke and almost immediately have a panic attack. I'm usually up until 4 - 5AM, so it was quite dark when I'd go out. One of my dogs would usually go out with me and she would bark at shadows. That's what triggered it. Even with every landscape light & the lights from my porch on, I'd panic at the thought of what I couldn't see beyond the lit areas. I'd race inside, usually throwing my cigarette to the ground while flailing my arms about & slam the door. From that point on, I'd have to constantly make sure the doors were locked. Every light in my house had to be on. I'd make sure my dogs are awake & alert. I'd usually wake the next morning in the recliner in my bedroom, sometimes with a knife (which I now sleep with close by). \n\n*NOW*, I have quit smoking. I thought that would help and it did for a few days. Unfortunately, I still freak out, every single night. I cannot be home at night without every light in my house on, in a complete panic. It's even gotten to the point that I grab all four of my dogs & stay at a friends house quite frequently. Should I seek therapy for something like this? Any home remedies for curing this kind of fear?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I have this fear of being murdered, in my own home, but it goes well beyond that. It all started when my car was broken into, in my own drive way. My laptop, radar detector, GPS, system, amp & sub were all taken from my car in the middle of the night. I really felt stupid for leaving my things in my car, in plain view. Following the incident, I would go outside on the back porch to smoke and almost immediately have a panic attack. I'm usually up until 4 - 5AM, so it was quite dark when I'd go out. One of my dogs would usually go out with me and she would bark at shadows. That's what triggered it. Even with every landscape light & the lights from my porch on, I'd panic at the thought of what I couldn't see beyond the lit areas. I'd race inside, usually throwing my cigarette to the ground while flailing my arms about & slam the door. From that point on, I'd have to constantly make sure the doors were locked. Every light in my house had to be on. I'd make sure my dogs are awake & alert. I'd usually wake the next morning in the recliner in my bedroom, sometimes with a knife (which I now sleep with close by). \n\n*NOW*, I have quit smoking. I thought that would help and it did for a few days. Unfortunately, I still freak out, every single night. I cannot be home at night without every light in my house on, in a complete panic. It's even gotten to the point that I grab all four of my dogs & stay at a friends house quite frequently. Should I seek therapy for something like this? Any home remedies for curing this kind of fear?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I have this fear of being murdered, in my own home, but it goes well beyond that. It all started when my car was broken into, in my own drive way. My laptop, radar detector, GPS, system, amp & sub were all taken from my car in the middle of the night. I really felt stupid for leaving my things in my car, in plain view. Following the incident, I would go outside on the back porch to smoke and almost immediately have a panic attack. I'm usually up until 4 - 5AM, so it was quite dark when I'd go out. One of my dogs would usually go out with me and she would bark at shadows. That's what triggered it. Even with every landscape light & the lights from my porch on, I'd panic at the thought of what I couldn't see beyond the lit areas. I'd race inside, usually throwing my cigarette to the ground while flailing my arms about & slam the door. From that point on, I'd have to constantly make sure the doors were locked. Every light in my house had to be on. I'd make sure my dogs are awake & alert. I'd usually wake the next morning in the recliner in my bedroom, sometimes with a knife (which I now sleep with close by). \n\n*NOW*, I have quit smoking. I thought that would help and it did for a few days. Unfortunately, I still freak out, every single night. I cannot be home at night without every light in my house on, in a complete panic. It's even gotten to the point that I grab all four of my dogs & stay at a friends house quite frequently. Should I seek therapy for something like this? Any home remedies for curing this kind of fear?"
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: When I tell my son \"no\" to something that is either dangerous (like sitting on the arm of the couch or trying to climb onto the television) or something that is an unwanted behavior (biting, hitting etc.) he looks at me and giggles before continuing to do whatever the hell he wants to do. When my husband tells him \"no\" he stops what he's doing and sometimes gets upset to the point of crying (I think because his feelings are hurt). I guess the question is, how do I get him to listen to me and not just to his father? I have tried to make my voice sound louder and more masculine, but that just makes him laugh even harder."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: When I tell my son \"no\" to something that is either dangerous (like sitting on the arm of the couch or trying to climb onto the television) or something that is an unwanted behavior (biting, hitting etc.) he looks at me and giggles before continuing to do whatever the hell he wants to do. When my husband tells him \"no\" he stops what he's doing and sometimes gets upset to the point of crying (I think because his feelings are hurt). I guess the question is, how do I get him to listen to me and not just to his father? I have tried to make my voice sound louder and more masculine, but that just makes him laugh even harder."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: When I tell my son \"no\" to something that is either dangerous (like sitting on the arm of the couch or trying to climb onto the television) or something that is an unwanted behavior (biting, hitting etc.) he looks at me and giggles before continuing to do whatever the hell he wants to do. When my husband tells him \"no\" he stops what he's doing and sometimes gets upset to the point of crying (I think because his feelings are hurt). I guess the question is, how do I get him to listen to me and not just to his father? I have tried to make my voice sound louder and more masculine, but that just makes him laugh even harder."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: When I tell my son \"no\" to something that is either dangerous (like sitting on the arm of the couch or trying to climb onto the television) or something that is an unwanted behavior (biting, hitting etc.) he looks at me and giggles before continuing to do whatever the hell he wants to do. When my husband tells him \"no\" he stops what he's doing and sometimes gets upset to the point of crying (I think because his feelings are hurt). I guess the question is, how do I get him to listen to me and not just to his father? I have tried to make my voice sound louder and more masculine, but that just makes him laugh even harder."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: When I tell my son \"no\" to something that is either dangerous (like sitting on the arm of the couch or trying to climb onto the television) or something that is an unwanted behavior (biting, hitting etc.) he looks at me and giggles before continuing to do whatever the hell he wants to do. When my husband tells him \"no\" he stops what he's doing and sometimes gets upset to the point of crying (I think because his feelings are hurt). I guess the question is, how do I get him to listen to me and not just to his father? I have tried to make my voice sound louder and more masculine, but that just makes him laugh even harder."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Some background:\nMy mother is 10 years divorced and has no relationship with her family (who lives across the country). She is very much alone in this world. She has been diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder.\n\n-\n\nEvery time I have tried to leave home or start a relationship, my mother works to do everything in her power to irritate my partner or threaten me to return. If I leave the house to take a call or meet someone, she is suddenly \"concerned for my safety\" and will proceed to blow up my phone and threaten a wellness check.\n\n-\n\nI don't know how to get out of this situation, it has driven me into a deep depression and I have begun to get extremely angry. It is destroying my very few relationships and has made me feel very alone."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Some background:\nMy mother is 10 years divorced and has no relationship with her family (who lives across the country). She is very much alone in this world. She has been diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder.\n\n-\n\nEvery time I have tried to leave home or start a relationship, my mother works to do everything in her power to irritate my partner or threaten me to return. If I leave the house to take a call or meet someone, she is suddenly \"concerned for my safety\" and will proceed to blow up my phone and threaten a wellness check.\n\n-\n\nI don't know how to get out of this situation, it has driven me into a deep depression and I have begun to get extremely angry. It is destroying my very few relationships and has made me feel very alone."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Some background:\nMy mother is 10 years divorced and has no relationship with her family (who lives across the country). She is very much alone in this world. She has been diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder.\n\n-\n\nEvery time I have tried to leave home or start a relationship, my mother works to do everything in her power to irritate my partner or threaten me to return. If I leave the house to take a call or meet someone, she is suddenly \"concerned for my safety\" and will proceed to blow up my phone and threaten a wellness check.\n\n-\n\nI don't know how to get out of this situation, it has driven me into a deep depression and I have begun to get extremely angry. It is destroying my very few relationships and has made me feel very alone."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Some background:\nMy mother is 10 years divorced and has no relationship with her family (who lives across the country). She is very much alone in this world. She has been diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder.\n\n-\n\nEvery time I have tried to leave home or start a relationship, my mother works to do everything in her power to irritate my partner or threaten me to return. If I leave the house to take a call or meet someone, she is suddenly \"concerned for my safety\" and will proceed to blow up my phone and threaten a wellness check.\n\n-\n\nI don't know how to get out of this situation, it has driven me into a deep depression and I have begun to get extremely angry. It is destroying my very few relationships and has made me feel very alone."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Some background:\nMy mother is 10 years divorced and has no relationship with her family (who lives across the country). She is very much alone in this world. She has been diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder.\n\n-\n\nEvery time I have tried to leave home or start a relationship, my mother works to do everything in her power to irritate my partner or threaten me to return. If I leave the house to take a call or meet someone, she is suddenly \"concerned for my safety\" and will proceed to blow up my phone and threaten a wellness check.\n\n-\n\nI don't know how to get out of this situation, it has driven me into a deep depression and I have begun to get extremely angry. It is destroying my very few relationships and has made me feel very alone."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Some background:\nMy mother is 10 years divorced and has no relationship with her family (who lives across the country). She is very much alone in this world. She has been diagnosed with histrionic personality disorder.\n\n-\n\nEvery time I have tried to leave home or start a relationship, my mother works to do everything in her power to irritate my partner or threaten me to return. If I leave the house to take a call or meet someone, she is suddenly \"concerned for my safety\" and will proceed to blow up my phone and threaten a wellness check.\n\n-\n\nI don't know how to get out of this situation, it has driven me into a deep depression and I have begun to get extremely angry. It is destroying my very few relationships and has made me feel very alone."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My employer recently sent out a volunteer \"Self-Identification\" survey and I have not previously identified as someone with disabilities. I read the survey and realized I don't need any special accommodations to do my job (at least currently) and further don't receive any current accommodation. \n\nIs there any benefit to identifying in my position now, even though I don't require any accommodations currently? In addition, are there any disadvantages to identifying, ie can it be held against me, or what privacy rights do I have if I identify, but then say I don't require any accommodations to do my job? My current job has some client facing work, but to ever \"advance\" in my career, I can't really say no to these assignments, even if I move away from this kind of work later. \n\nA little bit of background; In my past years I was a very bad stutter, but with proper therapy I've worked past it. I was in therapy for all my childhood (until 18 basically). it doesn't heavily impact my life as I've learned proper coping mechanisms to help cope with working, and life. I still must sometimes stop, and reword what I am attempting to say. It ends up making some of the sentences I say a little awkward because of the word choice."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: My employer recently sent out a volunteer \"Self-Identification\" survey and I have not previously identified as someone with disabilities. I read the survey and realized I don't need any special accommodations to do my job (at least currently) and further don't receive any current accommodation. \n\nIs there any benefit to identifying in my position now, even though I don't require any accommodations currently? In addition, are there any disadvantages to identifying, ie can it be held against me, or what privacy rights do I have if I identify, but then say I don't require any accommodations to do my job? My current job has some client facing work, but to ever \"advance\" in my career, I can't really say no to these assignments, even if I move away from this kind of work later. \n\nA little bit of background; In my past years I was a very bad stutter, but with proper therapy I've worked past it. I was in therapy for all my childhood (until 18 basically). it doesn't heavily impact my life as I've learned proper coping mechanisms to help cope with working, and life. I still must sometimes stop, and reword what I am attempting to say. It ends up making some of the sentences I say a little awkward because of the word choice."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi Reddit, long time lurker, first time poster. Throwaway account. I am a 22 year-old female and he is a 29 year-old male. We have been casually seeing each other for about six weeks now.\n\nWe initially met through a friend at a bar, and things were awkward at first, but we ended up going for a late meal and hitting it off. After we met we began texting quite frequently (maybe once a day) and went on a few dates. We first slept with each other on the third date and it was great. Since then, we have gone on a few dates, that almost always end with us sleeping together. I consider all of this to be casual and we have never discussed a relationship or anything more. \nBut here is my issue: he keeps asking me to go on all of these really nice, fancy dinner dates. I do enjoy his company but I do not want to pursue anything more than what we currently have going. He is attractive, generous, and sweet; but we do not seem to have an engaging connection and I got out of a very long and intense relationship at the beginning of the year (so I want some time to be single), among other reasons.\nMy question is: when would it be an appropriate time for me to bring up my concerns? He invited me to go on a date this week. Should I go and tell him there? Or should I decline and tell him right away that I think these dates are a bit much for our given situation? My personal philosophy has always been don't discuss being serious unless the other person brings it up. He has not brought it up. I guess my biggest concern is that he pays for our dates (I try to pay for my half or my drinks and he never lets me) and it seems unfair if I don't want to be official in the end. He is a great guy and I would like to continue seeing him without any strings attached."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi Reddit, long time lurker, first time poster. Throwaway account. I am a 22 year-old female and he is a 29 year-old male. We have been casually seeing each other for about six weeks now.\n\nWe initially met through a friend at a bar, and things were awkward at first, but we ended up going for a late meal and hitting it off. After we met we began texting quite frequently (maybe once a day) and went on a few dates. We first slept with each other on the third date and it was great. Since then, we have gone on a few dates, that almost always end with us sleeping together. I consider all of this to be casual and we have never discussed a relationship or anything more. \nBut here is my issue: he keeps asking me to go on all of these really nice, fancy dinner dates. I do enjoy his company but I do not want to pursue anything more than what we currently have going. He is attractive, generous, and sweet; but we do not seem to have an engaging connection and I got out of a very long and intense relationship at the beginning of the year (so I want some time to be single), among other reasons.\nMy question is: when would it be an appropriate time for me to bring up my concerns? He invited me to go on a date this week. Should I go and tell him there? Or should I decline and tell him right away that I think these dates are a bit much for our given situation? My personal philosophy has always been don't discuss being serious unless the other person brings it up. He has not brought it up. I guess my biggest concern is that he pays for our dates (I try to pay for my half or my drinks and he never lets me) and it seems unfair if I don't want to be official in the end. He is a great guy and I would like to continue seeing him without any strings attached."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Hi Reddit, long time lurker, first time poster. Throwaway account. I am a 22 year-old female and he is a 29 year-old male. We have been casually seeing each other for about six weeks now.\n\nWe initially met through a friend at a bar, and things were awkward at first, but we ended up going for a late meal and hitting it off. After we met we began texting quite frequently (maybe once a day) and went on a few dates. We first slept with each other on the third date and it was great. Since then, we have gone on a few dates, that almost always end with us sleeping together. I consider all of this to be casual and we have never discussed a relationship or anything more. \nBut here is my issue: he keeps asking me to go on all of these really nice, fancy dinner dates. I do enjoy his company but I do not want to pursue anything more than what we currently have going. He is attractive, generous, and sweet; but we do not seem to have an engaging connection and I got out of a very long and intense relationship at the beginning of the year (so I want some time to be single), among other reasons.\nMy question is: when would it be an appropriate time for me to bring up my concerns? He invited me to go on a date this week. Should I go and tell him there? Or should I decline and tell him right away that I think these dates are a bit much for our given situation? My personal philosophy has always been don't discuss being serious unless the other person brings it up. He has not brought it up. I guess my biggest concern is that he pays for our dates (I try to pay for my half or my drinks and he never lets me) and it seems unfair if I don't want to be official in the end. He is a great guy and I would like to continue seeing him without any strings attached."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I am in a rut. My family decided to go Chengdu recently but threw all the planning matters to me, and I am in a lost of what is Chengdu like other than hotter than sin hotpots and an other worldly location in Jiuzhaigou.\n\nHere's the plan:\n3 days Chengdu. No idea what locations to visit. I browse thru sites at Tripadvisor. Personally I think I will choose Jinli, Hakka Village. Somewhere unique but not too \"fake\". My parents unfortunately has a rather bad experience in Kyoto and they would like it if its not full of \"UNESCO\" heritage stuff but scenery is way too manufactured (I know, quite a controversial opinion but it makes my dad refuses to go to Tokyo this year even if he never been there). And some nice food. My dad's quite picky and quite unpredictable with food taste but he does like non-oily food. He is quite contradictory when it comes to oily food.\n\nThere is a talk of going Hailuogou. We have never been in a glacier and in short term are not likely to go to anything similar but our aunt recommend us to go there. Personally it sounds great to me.\n\n3 days JiuZhaiGou - We are not going to Huanglong or WenChuan (we really dont want to), but straight away to JiuzhaiGou by flight. Will it be feasible to go in 3 days? What are the things I should take care of? By the way Jiuzhaigu is a compulsory for the trip.\n\n2 days Chengdu.If we are going Hailuogou then we will go to the places mentioned above.\n\nAll of my family speak Chinese so languages shouldn't be a concern. Should we get a guide in Chengdu/hailuogou or Jiuzhaigou? My dad is disabled so he's our primary concern. He is perfectly willing to shell out money for transport/stay in hotel if the place is too dangerous, but we will like it if he can participate with us if not all of the time."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I am in a rut. My family decided to go Chengdu recently but threw all the planning matters to me, and I am in a lost of what is Chengdu like other than hotter than sin hotpots and an other worldly location in Jiuzhaigou.\n\nHere's the plan:\n3 days Chengdu. No idea what locations to visit. I browse thru sites at Tripadvisor. Personally I think I will choose Jinli, Hakka Village. Somewhere unique but not too \"fake\". My parents unfortunately has a rather bad experience in Kyoto and they would like it if its not full of \"UNESCO\" heritage stuff but scenery is way too manufactured (I know, quite a controversial opinion but it makes my dad refuses to go to Tokyo this year even if he never been there). And some nice food. My dad's quite picky and quite unpredictable with food taste but he does like non-oily food. He is quite contradictory when it comes to oily food.\n\nThere is a talk of going Hailuogou. We have never been in a glacier and in short term are not likely to go to anything similar but our aunt recommend us to go there. Personally it sounds great to me.\n\n3 days JiuZhaiGou - We are not going to Huanglong or WenChuan (we really dont want to), but straight away to JiuzhaiGou by flight. Will it be feasible to go in 3 days? What are the things I should take care of? By the way Jiuzhaigu is a compulsory for the trip.\n\n2 days Chengdu.If we are going Hailuogou then we will go to the places mentioned above.\n\nAll of my family speak Chinese so languages shouldn't be a concern. Should we get a guide in Chengdu/hailuogou or Jiuzhaigou? My dad is disabled so he's our primary concern. He is perfectly willing to shell out money for transport/stay in hotel if the place is too dangerous, but we will like it if he can participate with us if not all of the time."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: I am in a rut. My family decided to go Chengdu recently but threw all the planning matters to me, and I am in a lost of what is Chengdu like other than hotter than sin hotpots and an other worldly location in Jiuzhaigou.\n\nHere's the plan:\n3 days Chengdu. No idea what locations to visit. I browse thru sites at Tripadvisor. Personally I think I will choose Jinli, Hakka Village. Somewhere unique but not too \"fake\". My parents unfortunately has a rather bad experience in Kyoto and they would like it if its not full of \"UNESCO\" heritage stuff but scenery is way too manufactured (I know, quite a controversial opinion but it makes my dad refuses to go to Tokyo this year even if he never been there). And some nice food. My dad's quite picky and quite unpredictable with food taste but he does like non-oily food. He is quite contradictory when it comes to oily food.\n\nThere is a talk of going Hailuogou. We have never been in a glacier and in short term are not likely to go to anything similar but our aunt recommend us to go there. Personally it sounds great to me.\n\n3 days JiuZhaiGou - We are not going to Huanglong or WenChuan (we really dont want to), but straight away to JiuzhaiGou by flight. Will it be feasible to go in 3 days? What are the things I should take care of? By the way Jiuzhaigu is a compulsory for the trip.\n\n2 days Chengdu.If we are going Hailuogou then we will go to the places mentioned above.\n\nAll of my family speak Chinese so languages shouldn't be a concern. Should we get a guide in Chengdu/hailuogou or Jiuzhaigou? My dad is disabled so he's our primary concern. He is perfectly willing to shell out money for transport/stay in hotel if the place is too dangerous, but we will like it if he can participate with us if not all of the time."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Background info: He and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. Basically fell head over heels, and moved in quickly together. We had plans to move to a new city in August where I will be starting my first year in law school. We have an apartment reserved and everything is taken care of. I have never had any suspicions and he treats me better than anyone I've ever been with. He makes me feel beautiful and worthy of companionship. \n\nA couple of weeks ago he was sent out of state on a short 5 day business trip. He works for a retail company and was helping to set up a new store. \n\nSince his return, he's just been a little off. I felt horrible (and still do) but I did something shitty and went through his phone. \n\nFound out he had responded to a man looking for man casual encounters ad on craigslist. His email sounded very comfortable, as he knew the acronyms and typical format. He sent it the day he got out of town. The man responded 3 days later, to which my boyfriend offered to host. There is no other communication that I could find.\n\nWhen I confronted him, he said that he has no idea why he even responded to the ad. He said he didn't want to actually meet up, but had the urge to talk to someone online only. He claims that what I have read is the only communication he had and that he has never physically cheated on me. He also said that this is the only instance where he was interested in talking to a man sexually. \n\nI have no idea what to do. I love and care about him deeply and I have never connected so easily with anyone. I do not know what to believe and whether what he is saying is bullshit."
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"text": "System: I want you to summarize this text\nDocument: Background info: He and I have been dating for a little over 6 months. Basically fell head over heels, and moved in quickly together. We had plans to move to a new city in August where I will be starting my first year in law school. We have an apartment reserved and everything is taken care of. I have never had any suspicions and he treats me better than anyone I've ever been with. He makes me feel beautiful and worthy of companionship. \n\nA couple of weeks ago he was sent out of state on a short 5 day business trip. He works for a retail company and was helping to set up a new store. \n\nSince his return, he's just been a little off. I felt horrible (and still do) but I did something shitty and went through his phone. \n\nFound out he had responded to a man looking for man casual encounters ad on craigslist. His email sounded very comfortable, as he knew the acronyms and typical format. He sent it the day he got out of town. The man responded 3 days later, to which my boyfriend offered to host. There is no other communication that I could find.\n\nWhen I confronted him, he said that he has no idea why he even responded to the ad. He said he didn't want to actually meet up, but had the urge to talk to someone online only. He claims that what I have read is the only communication he had and that he has never physically cheated on me. He also said that this is the only instance where he was interested in talking to a man sexually. \n\nI have no idea what to do. I love and care about him deeply and I have never connected so easily with anyone. I do not know what to believe and whether what he is saying is bullshit."
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