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[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Grants aren't given because you're employing/training students (most of the time). They're given to make progress on a scientific endeavor. Given the cost of tuition (which many times needs to be paid for by grant funds as a behind-the-scenes tuition waiver) it can be more expensive to pay a graduate student the current stipend than to hire a full time professional researcher (post-doc, research technician). Also, for what it's worth, I only make double my PhD stipend as a faculty member, and it's not that uncommon for folks to have to take a salary cut moving from a well-compensated post-doc to a faculty position, especially if they're not at a top university. ::edit:: Thought of two more points to add: That said, the major reason stipends haven't increased is because they're paid off of grants which... haven't increased. I know a ton of faculty who are having to take cuts to their own salary (not paying themselves summer salary from grants) to afford the budget for a graduate stipend as is. It used to be a major NIH or NSF grant could fund multiple students, now it can barely fund the stipend and research supplies for one student. Finally I think you're vastly overestimating the \"vast streams of revenue\" that grad students or even research as a whole pull in for most schools. Chances are, the school pulls in more revenue from tuition in a section of Intro Philosophy than they do for a whole research lab's grants. This is especially true because (depending on contract) the majority of grant money doesn't go to the school: it's spent by the school and goes to other people.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I often wonder this too, because phds can be 6-7 years too. That’s a long time to be paid minimum wage. I’m assuming you’re referring to US stipends? I think it’s because we’re technically students, I don’t know any students who get paid well. Edit: I just knew saying minimum wage would start a whole thing. A bunch of my grad school friends just had a whole discussion about it😂 not sure what we ended on", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Grants aren't given because you're employing/training students (most of the time). They're given to make progress on a scientific endeavor. Given the cost of tuition (which many times needs to be paid for by grant funds as a behind-the-scenes tuition waiver) it can be more expensive to pay a graduate student the current stipend than to hire a full time professional researcher (post-doc, research technician). Also, for what it's worth, I only make double my PhD stipend as a faculty member, and it's not that uncommon for folks to have to take a salary cut moving from a well-compensated post-doc to a faculty position, especially if they're not at a top university. ::edit:: Thought of two more points to add: That said, the major reason stipends haven't increased is because they're paid off of grants which... haven't increased. I know a ton of faculty who are having to take cuts to their own salary (not paying themselves summer salary from grants) to afford the budget for a graduate stipend as is. It used to be a major NIH or NSF grant could fund multiple students, now it can barely fund the stipend and research supplies for one student. Finally I think you're vastly overestimating the \"vast streams of revenue\" that grad students or even research as a whole pull in for most schools. Chances are, the school pulls in more revenue from tuition in a section of Intro Philosophy than they do for a whole research lab's grants. This is especially true because (depending on contract) the majority of grant money doesn't go to the school: it's spent by the school and goes to other people.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Because they agree to it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Grants aren't given because you're employing/training students (most of the time). They're given to make progress on a scientific endeavor. Given the cost of tuition (which many times needs to be paid for by grant funds as a behind-the-scenes tuition waiver) it can be more expensive to pay a graduate student the current stipend than to hire a full time professional researcher (post-doc, research technician). Also, for what it's worth, I only make double my PhD stipend as a faculty member, and it's not that uncommon for folks to have to take a salary cut moving from a well-compensated post-doc to a faculty position, especially if they're not at a top university. ::edit:: Thought of two more points to add: That said, the major reason stipends haven't increased is because they're paid off of grants which... haven't increased. I know a ton of faculty who are having to take cuts to their own salary (not paying themselves summer salary from grants) to afford the budget for a graduate stipend as is. It used to be a major NIH or NSF grant could fund multiple students, now it can barely fund the stipend and research supplies for one student. Finally I think you're vastly overestimating the \"vast streams of revenue\" that grad students or even research as a whole pull in for most schools. Chances are, the school pulls in more revenue from tuition in a section of Intro Philosophy than they do for a whole research lab's grants. This is especially true because (depending on contract) the majority of grant money doesn't go to the school: it's spent by the school and goes to other people.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "some schools have grad student unions to negotiate marginally better wages, and which definitely aim to get livable wages for grad students. it’s disappointing to say the least that students have to sacrifice financial security for several years in order to pursue higher ed. not to mention the usual added costs of insurance, student fees, etc.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Also NIH grant funding levels have stagnated for decades, so the spending power is continually less than it used to be. Leaves little room to pay grad students more when PIs are having to tighten their belts every year as it is. https://drugmonkey.scientopia.org/2020/12/16/updating-the-erosion-of-the-purchase-power-of-the-modular-nih-r01/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I often wonder this too, because phds can be 6-7 years too. That’s a long time to be paid minimum wage. I’m assuming you’re referring to US stipends? I think it’s because we’re technically students, I don’t know any students who get paid well. Edit: I just knew saying minimum wage would start a whole thing. A bunch of my grad school friends just had a whole discussion about it😂 not sure what we ended on", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Also NIH grant funding levels have stagnated for decades, so the spending power is continually less than it used to be. Leaves little room to pay grad students more when PIs are having to tighten their belts every year as it is. https://drugmonkey.scientopia.org/2020/12/16/updating-the-erosion-of-the-purchase-power-of-the-modular-nih-r01/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Because they agree to it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Also NIH grant funding levels have stagnated for decades, so the spending power is continually less than it used to be. Leaves little room to pay grad students more when PIs are having to tighten their belts every year as it is. https://drugmonkey.scientopia.org/2020/12/16/updating-the-erosion-of-the-purchase-power-of-the-modular-nih-r01/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "some schools have grad student unions to negotiate marginally better wages, and which definitely aim to get livable wages for grad students. it’s disappointing to say the least that students have to sacrifice financial security for several years in order to pursue higher ed. not to mention the usual added costs of insurance, student fees, etc.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In Denmark, PhD students and postdocs unionised. As a consequence, they're paid pretty decently based on a seniority pay scale. https://www.sdu.dk/en/om_sdu/international_staff/on+arrival/salary/salary+rates", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Because they agree to it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In Denmark, PhD students and postdocs unionised. As a consequence, they're paid pretty decently based on a seniority pay scale. https://www.sdu.dk/en/om_sdu/international_staff/on+arrival/salary/salary+rates", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "some schools have grad student unions to negotiate marginally better wages, and which definitely aim to get livable wages for grad students. it’s disappointing to say the least that students have to sacrifice financial security for several years in order to pursue higher ed. not to mention the usual added costs of insurance, student fees, etc.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Because they agree to it.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "some schools have grad student unions to negotiate marginally better wages, and which definitely aim to get livable wages for grad students. it’s disappointing to say the least that students have to sacrifice financial security for several years in order to pursue higher ed. not to mention the usual added costs of insurance, student fees, etc.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "The simplest answer is because they continue to attract high-quality talent at the current pay rate...so why raise it? Grant money is won to conduct research; it isn't awarded 100% to the university. They take some fringe off the top, and of course they benefit from the prestige, but it's not anywhere near the same as a profit-generating D1 football team (do note that most athletics teams do not generate profit, though, and that college athletes don't get full scholarships everywhere). Also, even if you want to use that parallel...the full scholarship offered to the college athletes is not worth that much more, relative to the budgets of these universities, than the support awarded to a PhD student. They're covering your tuition, fees, and health insurance; for the athletes they get room and board, and for the PhD students they get a stipend. What do you think college athletes are getting over and above that that PhD students should get?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "University = Big Businesses Big Business want to minimise expenses maximise profit Why should they put PhD's more?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Because the PhD process has not evolved since the 1700s", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "University = Big Businesses Big Business want to minimise expenses maximise profit Why should they put PhD's more?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Because the PhD process has not evolved since the 1700s", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Why aren’t phd students paid more? This certainly isn’t for all disciplines, but I recently commented on another post and drew a correlation between STEM PhD students and college athletes… at some schools which receive grant money, this seems to hold valid parallels. The value of the grants these labs pull in is very much so like college football players/teams pulling in vast streams of revenue for big ten schools during their sports season through games merchandise etc… are discussions ever had about what’s fair?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "because they are not yet unionized, something you can fix today", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I work at a Russell Group Uni in a humanities department. I have met plenty of self-funded students throughout the years. Most often than not they are international students supported by either family money or a private/governmental sponsor from their country of origin. I think it's very hard to keep the motivation going if you are self-funded, if only because the university clearly treats funded students as an elite group that has access to further funding (for conference trips for instance). So in my experience, this whole situation creates unhealthy competition - but, hey, this is how the system was designed. I prefer the approach used by other countries, wherein you can only start your PhD if you have at least partial funding.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Wow, I go to Cambridge and I'm surprised by this. I think people are not public with this, because I've been here for four years and never met anyone who has said they're self funded! There are some super posh people here, money isn't a problem for at least some of them.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I work at a Russell Group Uni in a humanities department. I have met plenty of self-funded students throughout the years. Most often than not they are international students supported by either family money or a private/governmental sponsor from their country of origin. I think it's very hard to keep the motivation going if you are self-funded, if only because the university clearly treats funded students as an elite group that has access to further funding (for conference trips for instance). So in my experience, this whole situation creates unhealthy competition - but, hey, this is how the system was designed. I prefer the approach used by other countries, wherein you can only start your PhD if you have at least partial funding.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Self funded doesn’t mean they are using personal money and savings. They could be getting money from an organisation/funding body/government that doesn’t pay fees directly to the university and this the student appears self funded but isn’t really.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": ">Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? International students, who sometimes account for 25-30% of all students at many Western Unis, spend tens of thousands per year for tuition at subpar universities, subpar programs and get ZERO for experience. Spending tens of thousands at one of the worlds best universities and getting world class PhD experience will produce a very good return on investment.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don't know the figures but I am pretty sure self-funded would be the norm and not the exception at my university in Australia. There are national and school stipends but the candidates way outnumber what is available. I was self-funded for a time and earned plenty to survive through tutoring (TA) and marking.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I did a half a year of self funded study at a Russell group school. Turned down Cambridge (also a self funded offer) to work with an amazing supervisor. After not getting the very competitive funding for international students about 6 months in, I realized it was a mistake and returned home. I don't regret taking the chance and pursuing a dream but I was right to call it and don't regret that either. I just felt extremely underappreciated by the institution and knew I wouldn't make back what I was going to go into debt for.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It is super hard to tell from this infographic where the \"self-funded\" students are in their degrees. Like, are these people who had scholarships but have run out and are now funding the final stages of their degree (common at my university in Canada, where we have 3 years of guaranteed funding, but students may not finish within the time). It makes quite a difference if this is a snapshot of \"what's your funding this year\" vs \"what was the funding for your entire degree\".", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I did a half a year of self funded study at a Russell group school. Turned down Cambridge (also a self funded offer) to work with an amazing supervisor. After not getting the very competitive funding for international students about 6 months in, I realized it was a mistake and returned home. I don't regret taking the chance and pursuing a dream but I was right to call it and don't regret that either. I just felt extremely underappreciated by the institution and knew I wouldn't make back what I was going to go into debt for.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This blew my mind. I’m at a different major institution and we have 0 self funded PhDs.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I did a half a year of self funded study at a Russell group school. Turned down Cambridge (also a self funded offer) to work with an amazing supervisor. After not getting the very competitive funding for international students about 6 months in, I realized it was a mistake and returned home. I don't regret taking the chance and pursuing a dream but I was right to call it and don't regret that either. I just felt extremely underappreciated by the institution and knew I wouldn't make back what I was going to go into debt for.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don't know the figures but I am pretty sure self-funded would be the norm and not the exception at my university in Australia. There are national and school stipends but the candidates way outnumber what is available. I was self-funded for a time and earned plenty to survive through tutoring (TA) and marking.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It is super hard to tell from this infographic where the \"self-funded\" students are in their degrees. Like, are these people who had scholarships but have run out and are now funding the final stages of their degree (common at my university in Canada, where we have 3 years of guaranteed funding, but students may not finish within the time). It makes quite a difference if this is a snapshot of \"what's your funding this year\" vs \"what was the funding for your entire degree\".", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don't know the figures but I am pretty sure self-funded would be the norm and not the exception at my university in Australia. There are national and school stipends but the candidates way outnumber what is available. I was self-funded for a time and earned plenty to survive through tutoring (TA) and marking.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes this is all correct - go and look at official stats and lots of self-funding in the humanities. A lot of these are young people who had a nice University experience and are scared of the outside world and don't want to leave. They did really well on their degree and Master's and think it makes logical sense. Their supervisor tells them they are special, and they will make it. A few years later - they are doing three zero-hour contracts in three Universities and running a conference for free. They live in their parent's back bedroom. Eventually they write a quit lit piece and go and work in a council office - they make sure everyone knows they have a PhD.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This blew my mind. I’m at a different major institution and we have 0 self funded PhDs.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This blew my mind. I’m at a different major institution and we have 0 self funded PhDs.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don't know the figures but I am pretty sure self-funded would be the norm and not the exception at my university in Australia. There are national and school stipends but the candidates way outnumber what is available. I was self-funded for a time and earned plenty to survive through tutoring (TA) and marking.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes this is all correct - go and look at official stats and lots of self-funding in the humanities. A lot of these are young people who had a nice University experience and are scared of the outside world and don't want to leave. They did really well on their degree and Master's and think it makes logical sense. Their supervisor tells them they are special, and they will make it. A few years later - they are doing three zero-hour contracts in three Universities and running a conference for free. They live in their parent's back bedroom. Eventually they write a quit lit piece and go and work in a council office - they make sure everyone knows they have a PhD.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Every heard that Academia is a MLM scheme or cult? People get drilled into their brain that they need to stay in Academia and need a PhD to succeed etc. This drives way more people than you'd normally expect to pay literally any price to stay in Academia. I'd also be interested how many people start self-funded Vs how many people finish self-funded. I know the behavioural biology dependent at my University basically had this huge scam going on where they'd fund your first three years but let you finish without funding. In Germany that basically translates to letting your student scam the unemployment office (because getting unemployment benefits while you technically can't start a new job because you are still working as PhD student obviously isn't really allowed, although I believe the office isn't completely oblivious to the whole thing). The students buy completely into that \"oh but that's normal, everybody does that\". I also know a professor (also in Germany) where the rumour is that she has a habit of hiring EU citizens on the promise that a big grant will be awarded soon only to tell the student that sadly she didn't receive it after a few months. In both cases the trick is obviously that a half-finished PhD isn't really worth anything, so the students usually feel trapped. The behavioural guys especially (if they invested three years they are unlikely to just leave without anything) but even the small teaser can be enough to trap people, especially considering that this professor hunts for people who relocate, which of course again lowers the chance that the people will leave after already having made that investment. I personally know a lot of people who are self-funded because they were basically scammed into it, I don't actually know anyone who is really self-funded by choice, even though being self-funded in Germany obviously would be a lot easier as attending University here is very cheap compared to other countries. Actually thinking about it, my first even offer to do a PhD with a professor was also him trying to scam me into being self-funded. He openly admitted that he won't have funding but said I could do a PhD with him in a single semester. This was right after I was in month three of my six week lab rotation with him that he kept extending because my results weren't good enough yet. Guess he thought since I feel for that trick once he can continue to scam me into working for him for free.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes this is all correct - go and look at official stats and lots of self-funding in the humanities. A lot of these are young people who had a nice University experience and are scared of the outside world and don't want to leave. They did really well on their degree and Master's and think it makes logical sense. Their supervisor tells them they are special, and they will make it. A few years later - they are doing three zero-hour contracts in three Universities and running a conference for free. They live in their parent's back bedroom. Eventually they write a quit lit piece and go and work in a council office - they make sure everyone knows they have a PhD.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don't know the figures but I am pretty sure self-funded would be the norm and not the exception at my university in Australia. There are national and school stipends but the candidates way outnumber what is available. I was self-funded for a time and earned plenty to survive through tutoring (TA) and marking.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Every heard that Academia is a MLM scheme or cult? People get drilled into their brain that they need to stay in Academia and need a PhD to succeed etc. This drives way more people than you'd normally expect to pay literally any price to stay in Academia. I'd also be interested how many people start self-funded Vs how many people finish self-funded. I know the behavioural biology dependent at my University basically had this huge scam going on where they'd fund your first three years but let you finish without funding. In Germany that basically translates to letting your student scam the unemployment office (because getting unemployment benefits while you technically can't start a new job because you are still working as PhD student obviously isn't really allowed, although I believe the office isn't completely oblivious to the whole thing). The students buy completely into that \"oh but that's normal, everybody does that\". I also know a professor (also in Germany) where the rumour is that she has a habit of hiring EU citizens on the promise that a big grant will be awarded soon only to tell the student that sadly she didn't receive it after a few months. In both cases the trick is obviously that a half-finished PhD isn't really worth anything, so the students usually feel trapped. The behavioural guys especially (if they invested three years they are unlikely to just leave without anything) but even the small teaser can be enough to trap people, especially considering that this professor hunts for people who relocate, which of course again lowers the chance that the people will leave after already having made that investment. I personally know a lot of people who are self-funded because they were basically scammed into it, I don't actually know anyone who is really self-funded by choice, even though being self-funded in Germany obviously would be a lot easier as attending University here is very cheap compared to other countries. Actually thinking about it, my first even offer to do a PhD with a professor was also him trying to scam me into being self-funded. He openly admitted that he won't have funding but said I could do a PhD with him in a single semester. This was right after I was in month three of my six week lab rotation with him that he kept extending because my results weren't good enough yet. Guess he thought since I feel for that trick once he can continue to scam me into working for him for free.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "26% of Cambridge's PhDs are fully self-funded This is from this infographic from the University of Cambridge's 2020/21 funding site. As an overall percentage, I suppose is not unheard of. But what I find astonishing is that on average 43% of the Humanities PhDs are fully self-funded. Unless someone is independently very wealthy, isn't this a big financial risk to take? Not to mention paying to work? Also, the job market for the Humanities can be tricky as it is so there's no guarantee this will pay off. Because, at least in STEM, the person could specialise and switch directly to industry.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I don't know the figures but I am pretty sure self-funded would be the norm and not the exception at my university in Australia. There are national and school stipends but the candidates way outnumber what is available. I was self-funded for a time and earned plenty to survive through tutoring (TA) and marking.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We don't digest them all. I have alerts set up on PubMed for certain topics. I also rely on my colleagues, Twitter, journal clubs, conferences to keep up with the latest in my field. What comes through those filters gets triaged by reading the abstract and then I only drill into the subset that is most relevant to my personal research goals, which by necessity are narrow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Going to conferences really helps. It's a good way to get a presentation that goes for 15 mins and summarises one or more papers from a group in a specific area. Then you can pick up an enormous amount of different information without reading all the full papers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We don't digest them all. I have alerts set up on PubMed for certain topics. I also rely on my colleagues, Twitter, journal clubs, conferences to keep up with the latest in my field. What comes through those filters gets triaged by reading the abstract and then I only drill into the subset that is most relevant to my personal research goals, which by necessity are narrow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Nobody reads every paper. What people do is browse preprint archives like arxiv.org for papers that have just come out. Usually you will only read the abstract and maybe also a bit of the introduction and conclusion and look at the figures. If it looks especially interesting people may look into a paper in more detail, but that's only a handful of papers per month, tops. Aside from that, seminars, workshops and conferences and talking to the people there are good ways of keeping track of what's happening.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We don't digest them all. I have alerts set up on PubMed for certain topics. I also rely on my colleagues, Twitter, journal clubs, conferences to keep up with the latest in my field. What comes through those filters gets triaged by reading the abstract and then I only drill into the subset that is most relevant to my personal research goals, which by necessity are narrow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well you have the wrong idea, you are saying “all the literature in the stem field” obviously no human can do that. You only read the papers that have to do with your specific field. Also, many people do in fact “spend a significant amount of time parsing through it”. Literature reviews are part of graduate school for a reason. Also no one is going through memorizing every aspect of a paper, you get wat u need from it and move on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "People by and large don't actually read the literature.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Nobody reads every paper. What people do is browse preprint archives like arxiv.org for papers that have just come out. Usually you will only read the abstract and maybe also a bit of the introduction and conclusion and look at the figures. If it looks especially interesting people may look into a paper in more detail, but that's only a handful of papers per month, tops. Aside from that, seminars, workshops and conferences and talking to the people there are good ways of keeping track of what's happening.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "People by and large don't actually read the literature.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Daily arxiv discussions over coffee help a lot, where we collectively skim the latest pre-prints and discuss the abstract and figures", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "People by and large don't actually read the literature.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I honestly, don't think I've read more than 5 papers to completion..ever? I have a good pulse on the work that emerges in my immediate subdiscipline, but in reality, there's no reason to keep up to date with the *wholeee* STEM field! That would be counterproductive and wasteful IMO. Reading papers: Intros/abstracts/conclusions (digging deeper when necessary) Attending conferences, colloquiums, talks, collaborations", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "People by and large don't actually read the literature.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well you have the wrong idea, you are saying “all the literature in the stem field” obviously no human can do that. You only read the papers that have to do with your specific field. Also, many people do in fact “spend a significant amount of time parsing through it”. Literature reviews are part of graduate school for a reason. Also no one is going through memorizing every aspect of a paper, you get wat u need from it and move on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "People by and large don't actually read the literature.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No one actually does. Most people only deeply read things that are directly relevant to whatever they're working on. Those are easy because you probably already know the techniques and a lot of the cited papers. Then you get a more surface level gist of what's going on in other parts of the field through talks and conferences.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Daily arxiv discussions over coffee help a lot, where we collectively skim the latest pre-prints and discuss the abstract and figures", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well you have the wrong idea, you are saying “all the literature in the stem field” obviously no human can do that. You only read the papers that have to do with your specific field. Also, many people do in fact “spend a significant amount of time parsing through it”. Literature reviews are part of graduate school for a reason. Also no one is going through memorizing every aspect of a paper, you get wat u need from it and move on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "As you go into fields, you end up with less papers to read. At PhD level, you are brand new to the field, so there is a lot. Then, postdocs you end up reading relevant papers for your project... and it stays like that after. I think I have read 5-6 papers in the last year as an RS1.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I honestly, don't think I've read more than 5 papers to completion..ever? I have a good pulse on the work that emerges in my immediate subdiscipline, but in reality, there's no reason to keep up to date with the *wholeee* STEM field! That would be counterproductive and wasteful IMO. Reading papers: Intros/abstracts/conclusions (digging deeper when necessary) Attending conferences, colloquiums, talks, collaborations", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "As you go into fields, you end up with less papers to read. At PhD level, you are brand new to the field, so there is a lot. Then, postdocs you end up reading relevant papers for your project... and it stays like that after. I think I have read 5-6 papers in the last year as an RS1.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well you have the wrong idea, you are saying “all the literature in the stem field” obviously no human can do that. You only read the papers that have to do with your specific field. Also, many people do in fact “spend a significant amount of time parsing through it”. Literature reviews are part of graduate school for a reason. Also no one is going through memorizing every aspect of a paper, you get wat u need from it and move on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "As you go into fields, you end up with less papers to read. At PhD level, you are brand new to the field, so there is a lot. Then, postdocs you end up reading relevant papers for your project... and it stays like that after. I think I have read 5-6 papers in the last year as an RS1.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No one actually does. Most people only deeply read things that are directly relevant to whatever they're working on. Those are easy because you probably already know the techniques and a lot of the cited papers. Then you get a more surface level gist of what's going on in other parts of the field through talks and conferences.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well, research papers in my field are 3000-5000 words, so the articles are not actually all that long. The articles are written using a very set format that allows you to go through the article fairly fast and quickly pick out key facts (standardization can be very useful this way). ​ Plus lit reviews and systematic reviews will cover topics for you, so you can catch up, and lit reviews/systematic reviews for topics tend to appear every 3-5 years. That means there's usually condensed forms of the info available, and if not, you only have to read articles written in the last 3-5 years to figure out how the research has expanded from the last summary that was written. ​ Also, in my field, you're very rarely going back to articles written on the topic that are more than 10 years old, it would be super rare to cite a 20 year old article, because, well, science moves on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I honestly, don't think I've read more than 5 papers to completion..ever? I have a good pulse on the work that emerges in my immediate subdiscipline, but in reality, there's no reason to keep up to date with the *wholeee* STEM field! That would be counterproductive and wasteful IMO. Reading papers: Intros/abstracts/conclusions (digging deeper when necessary) Attending conferences, colloquiums, talks, collaborations", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well, research papers in my field are 3000-5000 words, so the articles are not actually all that long. The articles are written using a very set format that allows you to go through the article fairly fast and quickly pick out key facts (standardization can be very useful this way). ​ Plus lit reviews and systematic reviews will cover topics for you, so you can catch up, and lit reviews/systematic reviews for topics tend to appear every 3-5 years. That means there's usually condensed forms of the info available, and if not, you only have to read articles written in the last 3-5 years to figure out how the research has expanded from the last summary that was written. ​ Also, in my field, you're very rarely going back to articles written on the topic that are more than 10 years old, it would be super rare to cite a 20 year old article, because, well, science moves on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well you have the wrong idea, you are saying “all the literature in the stem field” obviously no human can do that. You only read the papers that have to do with your specific field. Also, many people do in fact “spend a significant amount of time parsing through it”. Literature reviews are part of graduate school for a reason. Also no one is going through memorizing every aspect of a paper, you get wat u need from it and move on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well, research papers in my field are 3000-5000 words, so the articles are not actually all that long. The articles are written using a very set format that allows you to go through the article fairly fast and quickly pick out key facts (standardization can be very useful this way). ​ Plus lit reviews and systematic reviews will cover topics for you, so you can catch up, and lit reviews/systematic reviews for topics tend to appear every 3-5 years. That means there's usually condensed forms of the info available, and if not, you only have to read articles written in the last 3-5 years to figure out how the research has expanded from the last summary that was written. ​ Also, in my field, you're very rarely going back to articles written on the topic that are more than 10 years old, it would be super rare to cite a 20 year old article, because, well, science moves on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No one actually does. Most people only deeply read things that are directly relevant to whatever they're working on. Those are easy because you probably already know the techniques and a lot of the cited papers. Then you get a more surface level gist of what's going on in other parts of the field through talks and conferences.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I honestly, don't think I've read more than 5 papers to completion..ever? I have a good pulse on the work that emerges in my immediate subdiscipline, but in reality, there's no reason to keep up to date with the *wholeee* STEM field! That would be counterproductive and wasteful IMO. Reading papers: Intros/abstracts/conclusions (digging deeper when necessary) Attending conferences, colloquiums, talks, collaborations", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well you have the wrong idea, you are saying “all the literature in the stem field” obviously no human can do that. You only read the papers that have to do with your specific field. Also, many people do in fact “spend a significant amount of time parsing through it”. Literature reviews are part of graduate school for a reason. Also no one is going through memorizing every aspect of a paper, you get wat u need from it and move on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I honestly, don't think I've read more than 5 papers to completion..ever? I have a good pulse on the work that emerges in my immediate subdiscipline, but in reality, there's no reason to keep up to date with the *wholeee* STEM field! That would be counterproductive and wasteful IMO. Reading papers: Intros/abstracts/conclusions (digging deeper when necessary) Attending conferences, colloquiums, talks, collaborations", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No one actually does. Most people only deeply read things that are directly relevant to whatever they're working on. Those are easy because you probably already know the techniques and a lot of the cited papers. Then you get a more surface level gist of what's going on in other parts of the field through talks and conferences.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You can't- there's more published per day than it is possible to read in a day. I take the opposite attitude. The authors have to sell their paper to me. They have to give me a damn good reason to read their paper over all the other things I could be doing with that time. Reasons I'll read your paper: a) you've found something that sounds like it will help solve a problem I'm interested in b) you've already solved a problem I was working on c) you'll introduce me to a new problem that will be more fun to work on than one of my current list.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Well you have the wrong idea, you are saying “all the literature in the stem field” obviously no human can do that. You only read the papers that have to do with your specific field. Also, many people do in fact “spend a significant amount of time parsing through it”. Literature reviews are part of graduate school for a reason. Also no one is going through memorizing every aspect of a paper, you get wat u need from it and move on.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You can't- there's more published per day than it is possible to read in a day. I take the opposite attitude. The authors have to sell their paper to me. They have to give me a damn good reason to read their paper over all the other things I could be doing with that time. Reasons I'll read your paper: a) you've found something that sounds like it will help solve a problem I'm interested in b) you've already solved a problem I was working on c) you'll introduce me to a new problem that will be more fun to work on than one of my current list.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No one actually does. Most people only deeply read things that are directly relevant to whatever they're working on. Those are easy because you probably already know the techniques and a lot of the cited papers. Then you get a more surface level gist of what's going on in other parts of the field through talks and conferences.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "You can't- there's more published per day than it is possible to read in a day. I take the opposite attitude. The authors have to sell their paper to me. They have to give me a damn good reason to read their paper over all the other things I could be doing with that time. Reasons I'll read your paper: a) you've found something that sounds like it will help solve a problem I'm interested in b) you've already solved a problem I was working on c) you'll introduce me to a new problem that will be more fun to work on than one of my current list.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "How do researchers stay up to date on all the literature in the STEM field? There is so much to read and all the papers are soooo long. I don't get how you can digest all those papers without spending a significant amount of time parsing through it.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Get emails with the journals table of contents, then just skim the title and brief blurb to see whats up, if its interesting save. Otherwise, usually get caught up when writing the \"introduction\" section of a paper (and no dont take the lazy way and just copypasta from your previous paper) or doing a review chapter. Actually reviews are the best way to get caught up (or rather, to be caught up to where the field was a year ago since some books take a year to get the chapters out). Also journal clubs and conferences -> poster sessions especially...i usually write down some of their references. ​ Als", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. My 15 month relationship ended a month ago. I just couldn’t do both. I was exhausted. I started neglecting his needs in order to satisfy my own - things like needing a night to myself after a long week, etc. It just created issues because it started to seem like I was always making excuses not to see him, but I honestly was just so fucking tired from school that I had nothing left in me to make someone else as happy as they deserve.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. My 15 month relationship ended a month ago. I just couldn’t do both. I was exhausted. I started neglecting his needs in order to satisfy my own - things like needing a night to myself after a long week, etc. It just created issues because it started to seem like I was always making excuses not to see him, but I honestly was just so fucking tired from school that I had nothing left in me to make someone else as happy as they deserve.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Gods, the lack of roots you have while pursuing postgrad opportunities is oftentimes brutal. My MA and PhD are certainly partially to blame for the ending of my marriage, which, ultimately I was very glad for because she turned out to be an awful human. My academic pursuits meant my attention was no longer on her fully, which she disliked, and I think she resented my drive and success (if you could call it that) some as well. That, combined with serious mental illness and a shitty character led to her to cheat for almost two years before I found out and ended it. It was she who pushed me to move over 600 miles away to start my PhD. I thought it was because she cared, but really it was because it would make it a lot easier to continue to cheat and have a spouse who financially supported her. It wasn't easy at all, but I'm so glad I was able to figure out what a horrible person she was sooner rather than later. So I guess...academia can cost you relationships, but I'd like to think it's for the best most times.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Gods, the lack of roots you have while pursuing postgrad opportunities is oftentimes brutal. My MA and PhD are certainly partially to blame for the ending of my marriage, which, ultimately I was very glad for because she turned out to be an awful human. My academic pursuits meant my attention was no longer on her fully, which she disliked, and I think she resented my drive and success (if you could call it that) some as well. That, combined with serious mental illness and a shitty character led to her to cheat for almost two years before I found out and ended it. It was she who pushed me to move over 600 miles away to start my PhD. I thought it was because she cared, but really it was because it would make it a lot easier to continue to cheat and have a spouse who financially supported her. It wasn't easy at all, but I'm so glad I was able to figure out what a horrible person she was sooner rather than later. So I guess...academia can cost you relationships, but I'd like to think it's for the best most times.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Gods, the lack of roots you have while pursuing postgrad opportunities is oftentimes brutal. My MA and PhD are certainly partially to blame for the ending of my marriage, which, ultimately I was very glad for because she turned out to be an awful human. My academic pursuits meant my attention was no longer on her fully, which she disliked, and I think she resented my drive and success (if you could call it that) some as well. That, combined with serious mental illness and a shitty character led to her to cheat for almost two years before I found out and ended it. It was she who pushed me to move over 600 miles away to start my PhD. I thought it was because she cared, but really it was because it would make it a lot easier to continue to cheat and have a spouse who financially supported her. It wasn't easy at all, but I'm so glad I was able to figure out what a horrible person she was sooner rather than later. So I guess...academia can cost you relationships, but I'd like to think it's for the best most times.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Gods, the lack of roots you have while pursuing postgrad opportunities is oftentimes brutal. My MA and PhD are certainly partially to blame for the ending of my marriage, which, ultimately I was very glad for because she turned out to be an awful human. My academic pursuits meant my attention was no longer on her fully, which she disliked, and I think she resented my drive and success (if you could call it that) some as well. That, combined with serious mental illness and a shitty character led to her to cheat for almost two years before I found out and ended it. It was she who pushed me to move over 600 miles away to start my PhD. I thought it was because she cared, but really it was because it would make it a lot easier to continue to cheat and have a spouse who financially supported her. It wasn't easy at all, but I'm so glad I was able to figure out what a horrible person she was sooner rather than later. So I guess...academia can cost you relationships, but I'd like to think it's for the best most times.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ugh. Does anyone have a good story? I’m moving this fall (only an hour away) to do an MS and I’m really concerned about how it will affect my relationship. We’ve been together 2.5 years (lived together for 1 year) and have a cat :/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ugh. Does anyone have a good story? I’m moving this fall (only an hour away) to do an MS and I’m really concerned about how it will affect my relationship. We’ve been together 2.5 years (lived together for 1 year) and have a cat :/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ugh. Does anyone have a good story? I’m moving this fall (only an hour away) to do an MS and I’m really concerned about how it will affect my relationship. We’ve been together 2.5 years (lived together for 1 year) and have a cat :/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ugh. Does anyone have a good story? I’m moving this fall (only an hour away) to do an MS and I’m really concerned about how it will affect my relationship. We’ve been together 2.5 years (lived together for 1 year) and have a cat :/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Ugh. Does anyone have a good story? I’m moving this fall (only an hour away) to do an MS and I’m really concerned about how it will affect my relationship. We’ve been together 2.5 years (lived together for 1 year) and have a cat :/", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My research just cost me the love of my life. Really broken up and considering quitting all together. This shit just isn't worth it anymore.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Twice. I date smart women, and the result has been diverging professional trajectories. It makes me sad sometimes.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My research just cost me the love of my life. Really broken up and considering quitting all together. This shit just isn't worth it anymore.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My research just cost me the love of my life. Really broken up and considering quitting all together. This shit just isn't worth it anymore.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My research just cost me the love of my life. Really broken up and considering quitting all together. This shit just isn't worth it anymore.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My research just cost me the love of my life. Really broken up and considering quitting all together. This shit just isn't worth it anymore.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My research just cost me the love of my life. Really broken up and considering quitting all together. This shit just isn't worth it anymore.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My research just cost me the love of my life. Really broken up and considering quitting all together. This shit just isn't worth it anymore.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It didn't cost me my relationship but it put an lot of strain on my (new) marriage in the beginning of my PhD. I think we've been able to adapt though and getting past classwork and comps definitely helps because I have way fewer weekends where I do nothing but work. Things are pretty good now because we've both worked to be more understanding of each other's needs in this situation, but it took a good while. It would have been even harder if we were long distance and/or didn't have several years of solid relationship foundation prior to starting. I fully understand why PhDs are relationship killers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Twice. I date smart women, and the result has been diverging professional trajectories. It makes me sad sometimes.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Twice. I date smart women, and the result has been diverging professional trajectories. It makes me sad sometimes.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Twice. I date smart women, and the result has been diverging professional trajectories. It makes me sad sometimes.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Twice. I date smart women, and the result has been diverging professional trajectories. It makes me sad sometimes.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Twice. I date smart women, and the result has been diverging professional trajectories. It makes me sad sometimes.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Twice. I date smart women, and the result has been diverging professional trajectories. It makes me sad sometimes.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It didn't cost me my relationship but it put an lot of strain on my (new) marriage in the beginning of my PhD. I think we've been able to adapt though and getting past classwork and comps definitely helps because I have way fewer weekends where I do nothing but work. Things are pretty good now because we've both worked to be more understanding of each other's needs in this situation, but it took a good while. It would have been even harder if we were long distance and/or didn't have several years of solid relationship foundation prior to starting. I fully understand why PhDs are relationship killers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My SO works in construction. So he can literally find work anywhere. I teach in the liberal arts. He doesn’t understand why I can’t just quit my job and find another one teaching at another college. He gets really frustrated at my workload, lack of pay, and lack of support and doesn’t understand why I do it. I’ve considered going into the corporate world but the benefits in academia are sooo much more feasible to my lifestyle and mental health m (not worrying about affording healthcare, being able to schedule a dental cleaning at 11:30am on a Tuesday without consequences, working from home 75% of the time, student loan forgiveness programs..). I’ve tried explaining to him that if I take another teaching job that offers these types of benefits means I will be leaving the state, which we can’t reasonably do right now because he has shared custody of his 6 year old daughter. It’s tough and we’ve almost hit our breaking point several times. He hates my industry more than most people I know, which is impressive, maddening and depressing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My SO works in construction. So he can literally find work anywhere. I teach in the liberal arts. He doesn’t understand why I can’t just quit my job and find another one teaching at another college. He gets really frustrated at my workload, lack of pay, and lack of support and doesn’t understand why I do it. I’ve considered going into the corporate world but the benefits in academia are sooo much more feasible to my lifestyle and mental health m (not worrying about affording healthcare, being able to schedule a dental cleaning at 11:30am on a Tuesday without consequences, working from home 75% of the time, student loan forgiveness programs..). I’ve tried explaining to him that if I take another teaching job that offers these types of benefits means I will be leaving the state, which we can’t reasonably do right now because he has shared custody of his 6 year old daughter. It’s tough and we’ve almost hit our breaking point several times. He hates my industry more than most people I know, which is impressive, maddening and depressing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My SO works in construction. So he can literally find work anywhere. I teach in the liberal arts. He doesn’t understand why I can’t just quit my job and find another one teaching at another college. He gets really frustrated at my workload, lack of pay, and lack of support and doesn’t understand why I do it. I’ve considered going into the corporate world but the benefits in academia are sooo much more feasible to my lifestyle and mental health m (not worrying about affording healthcare, being able to schedule a dental cleaning at 11:30am on a Tuesday without consequences, working from home 75% of the time, student loan forgiveness programs..). I’ve tried explaining to him that if I take another teaching job that offers these types of benefits means I will be leaving the state, which we can’t reasonably do right now because he has shared custody of his 6 year old daughter. It’s tough and we’ve almost hit our breaking point several times. He hates my industry more than most people I know, which is impressive, maddening and depressing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My SO works in construction. So he can literally find work anywhere. I teach in the liberal arts. He doesn’t understand why I can’t just quit my job and find another one teaching at another college. He gets really frustrated at my workload, lack of pay, and lack of support and doesn’t understand why I do it. I’ve considered going into the corporate world but the benefits in academia are sooo much more feasible to my lifestyle and mental health m (not worrying about affording healthcare, being able to schedule a dental cleaning at 11:30am on a Tuesday without consequences, working from home 75% of the time, student loan forgiveness programs..). I’ve tried explaining to him that if I take another teaching job that offers these types of benefits means I will be leaving the state, which we can’t reasonably do right now because he has shared custody of his 6 year old daughter. It’s tough and we’ve almost hit our breaking point several times. He hates my industry more than most people I know, which is impressive, maddening and depressing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My SO works in construction. So he can literally find work anywhere. I teach in the liberal arts. He doesn’t understand why I can’t just quit my job and find another one teaching at another college. He gets really frustrated at my workload, lack of pay, and lack of support and doesn’t understand why I do it. I’ve considered going into the corporate world but the benefits in academia are sooo much more feasible to my lifestyle and mental health m (not worrying about affording healthcare, being able to schedule a dental cleaning at 11:30am on a Tuesday without consequences, working from home 75% of the time, student loan forgiveness programs..). I’ve tried explaining to him that if I take another teaching job that offers these types of benefits means I will be leaving the state, which we can’t reasonably do right now because he has shared custody of his 6 year old daughter. It’s tough and we’ve almost hit our breaking point several times. He hates my industry more than most people I know, which is impressive, maddening and depressing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "My SO works in construction. So he can literally find work anywhere. I teach in the liberal arts. He doesn’t understand why I can’t just quit my job and find another one teaching at another college. He gets really frustrated at my workload, lack of pay, and lack of support and doesn’t understand why I do it. I’ve considered going into the corporate world but the benefits in academia are sooo much more feasible to my lifestyle and mental health m (not worrying about affording healthcare, being able to schedule a dental cleaning at 11:30am on a Tuesday without consequences, working from home 75% of the time, student loan forgiveness programs..). I’ve tried explaining to him that if I take another teaching job that offers these types of benefits means I will be leaving the state, which we can’t reasonably do right now because he has shared custody of his 6 year old daughter. It’s tough and we’ve almost hit our breaking point several times. He hates my industry more than most people I know, which is impressive, maddening and depressing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It didn't cost me my relationship but it put an lot of strain on my (new) marriage in the beginning of my PhD. I think we've been able to adapt though and getting past classwork and comps definitely helps because I have way fewer weekends where I do nothing but work. Things are pretty good now because we've both worked to be more understanding of each other's needs in this situation, but it took a good while. It would have been even harder if we were long distance and/or didn't have several years of solid relationship foundation prior to starting. I fully understand why PhDs are relationship killers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "At the end of my Master’s I found out my wife was having a bunch of affairs and she blamed it on me not being attentive enough (even though we had talked about this before me entering the program). After my Master’s was over and before I found out she cheated, she realized that, well, it was just that being a TA and grad student takes a lot, especially when you already have ADHD and an anxiety disorder. If you can’t tell by now, it wasn’t all because of the Master’s. That just exacerbated the issues that were already there, but yeah, this life is not for people who can’t stand to be alone during busy times. I’m in a relationship now with someone who enjoys their personal space and alone time, and things are going pretty well.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Doing LDR to start my PhD 10 years into my relationship made things rocky, but we pulled through.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "In my experience romantic relationships tend not to survive PhDs. Everyone thinks they'll be the 5% to get a tenured job, and everybody thinks that their relationship will last.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. Good riddance to him. I was given the ultimatum of my academic pursuit (give up going to school) or lose him. It was a horribly unequal partnership- he could work 60 hours a week (elected overtime) and I was expected to not be upset or miss him. OK fine- you keep kicking butt! I miss you but you’re doing great. When the shoe was on the other foot it wasn’t ok. Zero support. And ultimately he used my lack of availability to be the excuse as to why he cheated.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "We pursued MS on opposite sides of the country. Tried to make it work but couldn't. It sucked at first, but I doubled down on my research, got into some new activities in what little free time I had, and had friends to lean on when it was tough. I think time is the biggest factor. Keep your head up! It gets better!", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. Good riddance to him. I was given the ultimatum of my academic pursuit (give up going to school) or lose him. It was a horribly unequal partnership- he could work 60 hours a week (elected overtime) and I was expected to not be upset or miss him. OK fine- you keep kicking butt! I miss you but you’re doing great. When the shoe was on the other foot it wasn’t ok. Zero support. And ultimately he used my lack of availability to be the excuse as to why he cheated.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yes. Good riddance to him. I was given the ultimatum of my academic pursuit (give up going to school) or lose him. It was a horribly unequal partnership- he could work 60 hours a week (elected overtime) and I was expected to not be upset or miss him. OK fine- you keep kicking butt! I miss you but you’re doing great. When the shoe was on the other foot it wasn’t ok. Zero support. And ultimately he used my lack of availability to be the excuse as to why he cheated.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It didn't cost me my relationship but it put an lot of strain on my (new) marriage in the beginning of my PhD. I think we've been able to adapt though and getting past classwork and comps definitely helps because I have way fewer weekends where I do nothing but work. Things are pretty good now because we've both worked to be more understanding of each other's needs in this situation, but it took a good while. It would have been even harder if we were long distance and/or didn't have several years of solid relationship foundation prior to starting. I fully understand why PhDs are relationship killers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yep. Ended my marriage while working on my PhD ... but I don't regret it. Doing my own academic work and having no support whatsoever helped me to realize how much our life was about him. I had supported his career with multiple moves, being the lone parent for months at a time while he traveled, and picking up the slack after he choose to work late nights and he was \"so tired\" and couldn't pitch in with household tasks or parenting. We didn't have conversations about anything because he was completely uninterested in me or my career but I always explained it away as him being busy or stressed. It was like being married to a brick wall who I had to clean up after. When I started my PhD, I thought things would change because the plan was always that we invest in his career and then it was my turn. That didn't happen. After he tried to talk me into putting it off for a few more years because we needed to focus on his career more (I said no), it being \"my turn\" meant that he let me hire a maid so I didn't have to clean... end of list. Nothing changed on his end. Once, I asked him what my degree was in and he didn't know. Another time, he expected me to skip a conference presentation at one of the top national conferences in my field because he was \"super busy\" with work. And when I mentioned how important this was to my career, he told me his career was the priority since he made more money. It was the red flag I needed (although one of many). I realized how one sided our marriage was and how miserable I was. Got a divorce and now have the most amazing supportive partner. He helps around the house, emotionally supports me, and is amazing with my kid (he coaches my kid's sports teams and it makes me turn into a puddle of mush). I'm so incredibly grateful that getting my PhD \"hurt\" my marriage but also empowered me to realize how bad it was. I couldn't be happier now.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Broke up when I left the country for a masters. Was very tough - I was emotionally in a state of commitment where I was ready to go for the long haul. She didn't even want to think about marriage. I still miss her from time to time. It was a great relationship, but we had different things we wanted out of life. Years later, we are both much better off for it. Frankly, I'm starting a PhD in the fall (moving again), and I think it was a better experience not being in a relationship during my masters. I spent more time with friends, more time learning, and more time developing myself personally and professionally. I'm finally in a position where I'm ready for another long-term relationship, and having that time being single was extremely valuable in getting there.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yep. Ended my marriage while working on my PhD ... but I don't regret it. Doing my own academic work and having no support whatsoever helped me to realize how much our life was about him. I had supported his career with multiple moves, being the lone parent for months at a time while he traveled, and picking up the slack after he choose to work late nights and he was \"so tired\" and couldn't pitch in with household tasks or parenting. We didn't have conversations about anything because he was completely uninterested in me or my career but I always explained it away as him being busy or stressed. It was like being married to a brick wall who I had to clean up after. When I started my PhD, I thought things would change because the plan was always that we invest in his career and then it was my turn. That didn't happen. After he tried to talk me into putting it off for a few more years because we needed to focus on his career more (I said no), it being \"my turn\" meant that he let me hire a maid so I didn't have to clean... end of list. Nothing changed on his end. Once, I asked him what my degree was in and he didn't know. Another time, he expected me to skip a conference presentation at one of the top national conferences in my field because he was \"super busy\" with work. And when I mentioned how important this was to my career, he told me his career was the priority since he made more money. It was the red flag I needed (although one of many). I realized how one sided our marriage was and how miserable I was. Got a divorce and now have the most amazing supportive partner. He helps around the house, emotionally supports me, and is amazing with my kid (he coaches my kid's sports teams and it makes me turn into a puddle of mush). I'm so incredibly grateful that getting my PhD \"hurt\" my marriage but also empowered me to realize how bad it was. I couldn't be happier now.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "It didn't cost me my relationship but it put an lot of strain on my (new) marriage in the beginning of my PhD. I think we've been able to adapt though and getting past classwork and comps definitely helps because I have way fewer weekends where I do nothing but work. Things are pretty good now because we've both worked to be more understanding of each other's needs in this situation, but it took a good while. It would have been even harder if we were long distance and/or didn't have several years of solid relationship foundation prior to starting. I fully understand why PhDs are relationship killers.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yep. Ended my marriage while working on my PhD ... but I don't regret it. Doing my own academic work and having no support whatsoever helped me to realize how much our life was about him. I had supported his career with multiple moves, being the lone parent for months at a time while he traveled, and picking up the slack after he choose to work late nights and he was \"so tired\" and couldn't pitch in with household tasks or parenting. We didn't have conversations about anything because he was completely uninterested in me or my career but I always explained it away as him being busy or stressed. It was like being married to a brick wall who I had to clean up after. When I started my PhD, I thought things would change because the plan was always that we invest in his career and then it was my turn. That didn't happen. After he tried to talk me into putting it off for a few more years because we needed to focus on his career more (I said no), it being \"my turn\" meant that he let me hire a maid so I didn't have to clean... end of list. Nothing changed on his end. Once, I asked him what my degree was in and he didn't know. Another time, he expected me to skip a conference presentation at one of the top national conferences in my field because he was \"super busy\" with work. And when I mentioned how important this was to my career, he told me his career was the priority since he made more money. It was the red flag I needed (although one of many). I realized how one sided our marriage was and how miserable I was. Got a divorce and now have the most amazing supportive partner. He helps around the house, emotionally supports me, and is amazing with my kid (he coaches my kid's sports teams and it makes me turn into a puddle of mush). I'm so incredibly grateful that getting my PhD \"hurt\" my marriage but also empowered me to realize how bad it was. I couldn't be happier now.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Almost. We were long distance throughout the last years of my B.Sc and all of my MSc (he was in the US, I was in Europe). We were constantly messaging/skyping whenever timezones allowed, and we'd meet up for weeks during semester breaks. The good thing was that it allowed us to live very independent lives (e.g. no guilt for me when I stayed late in the lab or worked weekends), but the lack of physical proximity was very difficult, and we almost didn't make it (there was a \"break\" towards the end of my MSc). The key moment was that we decided that, in order to make this work, we needed to make a concrete plan to move together and prioritise each other, even if that meant not going for the \"dream PhD in Sweden\" - e.g. I applied for an RA job in countries/cities he'd be able do get a visa/job in (luckily he's not in academia but IT at the time), but financially support him while he was looking for a job. Then after he was employed, I'd apply for PhD programs in the same city (easier after having made connections through working as RA). It all comes down to that you both need to value the relationship over more \"comfortable choices\" (me: a \"smooth academic career\", him: stable job and closeness to friends). It's a big leap of faith and everyone's situation/values/journey is different. 6 years on, we're happy about our choices - we're married with a baby on the way! That being said, I'm not pursuing postdocs abroad and will most likely exit academia in the long run (for unrelated reasons).", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Yep. Ended my marriage while working on my PhD ... but I don't regret it. Doing my own academic work and having no support whatsoever helped me to realize how much our life was about him. I had supported his career with multiple moves, being the lone parent for months at a time while he traveled, and picking up the slack after he choose to work late nights and he was \"so tired\" and couldn't pitch in with household tasks or parenting. We didn't have conversations about anything because he was completely uninterested in me or my career but I always explained it away as him being busy or stressed. It was like being married to a brick wall who I had to clean up after. When I started my PhD, I thought things would change because the plan was always that we invest in his career and then it was my turn. That didn't happen. After he tried to talk me into putting it off for a few more years because we needed to focus on his career more (I said no), it being \"my turn\" meant that he let me hire a maid so I didn't have to clean... end of list. Nothing changed on his end. Once, I asked him what my degree was in and he didn't know. Another time, he expected me to skip a conference presentation at one of the top national conferences in my field because he was \"super busy\" with work. And when I mentioned how important this was to my career, he told me his career was the priority since he made more money. It was the red flag I needed (although one of many). I realized how one sided our marriage was and how miserable I was. Got a divorce and now have the most amazing supportive partner. He helps around the house, emotionally supports me, and is amazing with my kid (he coaches my kid's sports teams and it makes me turn into a puddle of mush). I'm so incredibly grateful that getting my PhD \"hurt\" my marriage but also empowered me to realize how bad it was. I couldn't be happier now.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "Have your academic pursuits ever cost you relationships? Context: Recently left a 2 year relationship because distance couldn't keep working (I'm studying for a masters and she worked a lot, so were seeing eachother less frequently). The final straw was my accepting a PhD at the end of this course, which she'd supported my intention to do throughout, but the prospect of several more years of long-distance was too much. Have any of you had similar experiences? How did you move past them?", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I’ve been told that many profs in my department have either gone through rough times with their partner or divorced due to the workloads, long hours, and overall poor work life balance. Most often this happens with partners who are not in academia, and some has settled with new partners in either a similar field or similar academic role. Not uncommon for me to leave at 7 and still see them focused at work 5 days a week, and certainly thats gotta have some impact on their home. It’s honestly made me reconsider some aspects of academia and my options post PhD. Having said that, I’ve had a good long discussion with my partner about my journey (we met after I started my degree), what it meant for my future commitments, travel, tying the knot, etc. and thankfully she’s super understanding. I had to be upfront and brutally honest with her but I’m glad i put my cards on the table so to speak. It also helps she’s busy with other things so we’re both on a similar level when it comes to quality time", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. Stop using those transition words. Leave them out and your writing will improve immensely. It will go from a meandering walk through an overgrown path to a straight shot down a clear highway. Trust me. They are really only useful in a few situations. Most of the time they are rhetorical fluff or signs of a poorly structured argument, making the sentences longer while adding nothing. A much better solution is to structure your writing more. If you have three points, say so, and then use words like “First, ...” “Second...” etc. That gives your readers waypoints so they know where they are in your argument and makes your writing much clearer and easier to follow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Introducing Work - Academic Phrasebank (manchester.ac.uk)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. Stop using those transition words. Leave them out and your writing will improve immensely. It will go from a meandering walk through an overgrown path to a straight shot down a clear highway. Trust me. They are really only useful in a few situations. Most of the time they are rhetorical fluff or signs of a poorly structured argument, making the sentences longer while adding nothing. A much better solution is to structure your writing more. If you have three points, say so, and then use words like “First, ...” “Second...” etc. That gives your readers waypoints so they know where they are in your argument and makes your writing much clearer and easier to follow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is a weird tip, but it’s helped me. Just say out loud what you want to communicate and record yourself. Then write that. Most of us think a lot less about talking than writing (and put less pressure on ourselves), so that can help you get started. We also don’t use as many conjunctions when we speak, we just say what we want to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. Stop using those transition words. Leave them out and your writing will improve immensely. It will go from a meandering walk through an overgrown path to a straight shot down a clear highway. Trust me. They are really only useful in a few situations. Most of the time they are rhetorical fluff or signs of a poorly structured argument, making the sentences longer while adding nothing. A much better solution is to structure your writing more. If you have three points, say so, and then use words like “First, ...” “Second...” etc. That gives your readers waypoints so they know where they are in your argument and makes your writing much clearer and easier to follow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Be careful not to overuse transition words or phrases in general.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. Stop using those transition words. Leave them out and your writing will improve immensely. It will go from a meandering walk through an overgrown path to a straight shot down a clear highway. Trust me. They are really only useful in a few situations. Most of the time they are rhetorical fluff or signs of a poorly structured argument, making the sentences longer while adding nothing. A much better solution is to structure your writing more. If you have three points, say so, and then use words like “First, ...” “Second...” etc. That gives your readers waypoints so they know where they are in your argument and makes your writing much clearer and easier to follow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Sentences for STEM should be precise. The focus is on nouns and facts, so they should be at the start of the sentence. Minimize the use of I or We, science is not about us, it is about the science. Your sentence starters should be avoided and only used when absolutely necessary. Strunk and White Elements of Style is an old classic about writing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. Stop using those transition words. Leave them out and your writing will improve immensely. It will go from a meandering walk through an overgrown path to a straight shot down a clear highway. Trust me. They are really only useful in a few situations. Most of the time they are rhetorical fluff or signs of a poorly structured argument, making the sentences longer while adding nothing. A much better solution is to structure your writing more. If you have three points, say so, and then use words like “First, ...” “Second...” etc. That gives your readers waypoints so they know where they are in your argument and makes your writing much clearer and easier to follow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am new here in Reddit, so I don't know if it is possible to send a file here or not. I guess I have a interesting book that help you with that. How could I send it for you?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. Stop using those transition words. Leave them out and your writing will improve immensely. It will go from a meandering walk through an overgrown path to a straight shot down a clear highway. Trust me. They are really only useful in a few situations. Most of the time they are rhetorical fluff or signs of a poorly structured argument, making the sentences longer while adding nothing. A much better solution is to structure your writing more. If you have three points, say so, and then use words like “First, ...” “Second...” etc. That gives your readers waypoints so they know where they are in your argument and makes your writing much clearer and easier to follow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Google transitional phrases", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "No. Stop using those transition words. Leave them out and your writing will improve immensely. It will go from a meandering walk through an overgrown path to a straight shot down a clear highway. Trust me. They are really only useful in a few situations. Most of the time they are rhetorical fluff or signs of a poorly structured argument, making the sentences longer while adding nothing. A much better solution is to structure your writing more. If you have three points, say so, and then use words like “First, ...” “Second...” etc. That gives your readers waypoints so they know where they are in your argument and makes your writing much clearer and easier to follow.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Maybe, not saying any of those?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Introducing Work - Academic Phrasebank (manchester.ac.uk)", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am new here in Reddit, so I don't know if it is possible to send a file here or not. I guess I have a interesting book that help you with that. How could I send it for you?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is a weird tip, but it’s helped me. Just say out loud what you want to communicate and record yourself. Then write that. Most of us think a lot less about talking than writing (and put less pressure on ourselves), so that can help you get started. We also don’t use as many conjunctions when we speak, we just say what we want to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Be careful not to overuse transition words or phrases in general.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is a weird tip, but it’s helped me. Just say out loud what you want to communicate and record yourself. Then write that. Most of us think a lot less about talking than writing (and put less pressure on ourselves), so that can help you get started. We also don’t use as many conjunctions when we speak, we just say what we want to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Sentences for STEM should be precise. The focus is on nouns and facts, so they should be at the start of the sentence. Minimize the use of I or We, science is not about us, it is about the science. Your sentence starters should be avoided and only used when absolutely necessary. Strunk and White Elements of Style is an old classic about writing.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is a weird tip, but it’s helped me. Just say out loud what you want to communicate and record yourself. Then write that. Most of us think a lot less about talking than writing (and put less pressure on ourselves), so that can help you get started. We also don’t use as many conjunctions when we speak, we just say what we want to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "I am new here in Reddit, so I don't know if it is possible to send a file here or not. I guess I have a interesting book that help you with that. How could I send it for you?", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "This is a weird tip, but it’s helped me. Just say out loud what you want to communicate and record yourself. Then write that. Most of us think a lot less about talking than writing (and put less pressure on ourselves), so that can help you get started. We also don’t use as many conjunctions when we speak, we just say what we want to say.", "role": "assistant" } ]

[ { "content": "I am struggling with my thesis writing, please suggests sentence starters. I am currently writing my engineering Ph.D. thesis. One of the challenges I am facing is, I ran out of sentence starters. I have used 'In addition', 'Additionally', 'Moreover', 'Furthermore', 'Therefore', 'as is evident above' and 'However' a lot. I mean, really a lot to the point where everything looks cliche and uninteresting or even annoying. So, can you please suggest to me some interesting/unique sentence starters alternative to these words? ​ Thanks.", "role": "user" }, { "content": "Google transitional phrases", "role": "assistant" } ]