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POST: Can I get hit with statutory rape for this? I am 17 dating a 17 year old girl. I will turn 18 5 months before her. Her dad absolutely HATES me. He threatened to have me arrested if I don’t break up with her before my birthday. Is this a legitimate threat? I live in Cali if that’s relevant.
RESPONSE A: * Refrain from intercourse 5 months. * Delete all images of her not fully clothed. * Don't send images
RESPONSE B: Yes, in California it's a crime for someone 18 or older to have sex with someone under 18. You don't have to break up, just nothing remotely sexual. No sexual photos obviously, that's already child porn. CA's close in age ("Romeo and Juliet") exception is that, given your ages, it would be a misdemeanor crime, not a felony crime.
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POST: Can I get hit with statutory rape for this? I am 17 dating a 17 year old girl. I will turn 18 5 months before her. Her dad absolutely HATES me. He threatened to have me arrested if I don’t break up with her before my birthday. Is this a legitimate threat? I live in Cali if that’s relevant.
RESPONSE A: * Refrain from intercourse 5 months. * Delete all images of her not fully clothed. * Don't send images
RESPONSE B: Are you able to stop having sex for 5 months? You can still be together and not have sex.
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POST: Can I get hit with statutory rape for this? I am 17 dating a 17 year old girl. I will turn 18 5 months before her. Her dad absolutely HATES me. He threatened to have me arrested if I don’t break up with her before my birthday. Is this a legitimate threat? I live in Cali if that’s relevant.
RESPONSE A: You may not get statutory rape, but he can call the police and report you for other crimes.
RESPONSE B: * Refrain from intercourse 5 months. * Delete all images of her not fully clothed. * Don't send images
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POST: Can I get hit with statutory rape for this? I am 17 dating a 17 year old girl. I will turn 18 5 months before her. Her dad absolutely HATES me. He threatened to have me arrested if I don’t break up with her before my birthday. Is this a legitimate threat? I live in Cali if that’s relevant.
RESPONSE A: Yes, in California it's a crime for someone 18 or older to have sex with someone under 18. You don't have to break up, just nothing remotely sexual. No sexual photos obviously, that's already child porn. CA's close in age ("Romeo and Juliet") exception is that, given your ages, it would be a misdemeanor crime, not a felony crime.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer - While you can choose to abstain from physical intimacy until you are both over 18, if dad hates you, he can claim whatever he wants. Perhaps for those few months, you should keep your relationship low key. Hopefully dad is just trying to look out for his kid, and not trying to be controlling. Think about the months your gf will have to be under his rule, will she be made miserable? It might be worth it for you and your gf to have a serious conversation about what battles you want to fight. As a mom, if you were my child, I would tell you to “break up” for 5 months. You are young, and it’s easy to market “us against the world” decisions, but try to think ahead. If dad does decide to report you, at the very least you are looking at defense attorney fees. While that’s hanging over your head, you could be denied jobs, scholarships or entrance into secondary education institutions. Make sure your parent or guardian knows dad is threatening you. If you don’t have a trusted adult at home, is there someone else, family member you can talk to? Edit: fixed a word
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POST: My grandmother passed away and left her house to me and my father.. my dad sold the house and kept all the money. Is there anything I can do?
RESPONSE A: Contact the probate court in the county where your grandma lived. They will have record of a will if one existed.
RESPONSE B: You should probably find the lawyer that drew up the will and the executor to verify what exactly was left to you, and how, and determine how he got the title in his name in order to sell.
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POST: My grandmother passed away and left her house to me and my father.. my dad sold the house and kept all the money. Is there anything I can do?
RESPONSE A: You should probably find the lawyer that drew up the will and the executor to verify what exactly was left to you, and how, and determine how he got the title in his name in order to sell.
RESPONSE B: If there was a will and you were named as a beneficiary you would have been contacted by an attorney.
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POST: My grandmother passed away and left her house to me and my father.. my dad sold the house and kept all the money. Is there anything I can do?
RESPONSE A: You should probably find the lawyer that drew up the will and the executor to verify what exactly was left to you, and how, and determine how he got the title in his name in order to sell.
RESPONSE B: Are you a minor? It so, your father would be able to sell it and keep the money
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POST: [California] I fell out of a spaceship at work, resulting in a concussion, broken elbow, and multiple broken ribs. Workers comp no longer wants to pay me because I was an intern. Am I entitled to money **after** my scheduled end date at the company? I was seriously injured at work during my internship at an aerospace company. I missed the last 2 weeks of work, effectively ending my internship. During those two weeks, workers comp paid me 2/3 my wages. After my planned end date, my case worker was unsure what to do, but told me they were going to move me down to the state minimum payment (about $200/wk). My case manager has recently changed, and the new manager wants to pay me nothing, since I would not have been working anymore anyway. It has been 6 weeks, and I am still not cleared to return to work by my doctor. My question is, what am I legally entitled to **after** my scheduled end date with the company? 2/3 my wages, state minimum, or nothing?
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer but supervise intake for an accomplished WC atty. Have you received final admission of liability? (In my state it’s a pink slip) You need to get an attorney ASAP as there are time limits but I can foresee a definite case if this injury affects the kind of work you can perform in the future- IE range of motion in the limb the broken bone happened in.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer I am an adjuster for comp in california. If you had a scheduled end date of employment, temporary disability benefits can be terminated based on the end date of employment. You could still get a PD rating once you reach MMI (maximum medical improvement). Get an attorney.
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POST: Company offered generous severance package an is now trying to walk it back I work for a company that is going through downsizing - I was one of the casualties. When they gave me the news that I'd be let go, they verbally gave me the details of the severance package I'd be offered. They then followed that conversation up with an email that contained those same details. A week later they sent me the official separation agreement and the severance package is dramatically smaller. Do I have any legal recourse? Is their initial email at all legally binding?
RESPONSE A: Have you talked to them about this? A simple email saying "I believe the numbers here are incorrect, the package confirmed in our last email was XYZ" might clear up a simple mistake.
RESPONSE B: It depends on how specific the email is. What was the reason for them to change it?
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POST: Company offered generous severance package an is now trying to walk it back I work for a company that is going through downsizing - I was one of the casualties. When they gave me the news that I'd be let go, they verbally gave me the details of the severance package I'd be offered. They then followed that conversation up with an email that contained those same details. A week later they sent me the official separation agreement and the severance package is dramatically smaller. Do I have any legal recourse? Is their initial email at all legally binding?
RESPONSE A: When and what did you docusign? That’s the only document that has a good chance of being enforceable. Also does it state anything about unemployment? Even with a severance, you don’t have to sign that away as you were laid off. You can get both. Lastly, I’d look at the difference between the first offer and the last. Is it great enough to justify a cost of a lawyer, and/or your time and effort?
RESPONSE B: Have you talked to them about this? A simple email saying "I believe the numbers here are incorrect, the package confirmed in our last email was XYZ" might clear up a simple mistake.
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POST: Company offered generous severance package an is now trying to walk it back I work for a company that is going through downsizing - I was one of the casualties. When they gave me the news that I'd be let go, they verbally gave me the details of the severance package I'd be offered. They then followed that conversation up with an email that contained those same details. A week later they sent me the official separation agreement and the severance package is dramatically smaller. Do I have any legal recourse? Is their initial email at all legally binding?
RESPONSE A: When and what did you docusign? That’s the only document that has a good chance of being enforceable. Also does it state anything about unemployment? Even with a severance, you don’t have to sign that away as you were laid off. You can get both. Lastly, I’d look at the difference between the first offer and the last. Is it great enough to justify a cost of a lawyer, and/or your time and effort?
RESPONSE B: First thing to do is send a reply email with the prior email attached and ask why the amount has changed. It could be a mistake or they just might give you the prior amount to make you go away since they have other larger concerns with the downsizing.
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POST: Father disposed of items that my deceased mother gave me through her will. Hello, I live in MN. My mother passed during early May. My father (who I don’t have a relationship with) and I are going to probate court next month. My father has been throwing away items that my mom wanted me to inherit, which was mentioned in her notarized will. My attorney instructed my father to stop disposing of the items until we reach a court agreement, but he has continued anyway. Is there any legal action I can take against him? I emailed my attorney and I’m waiting to hear back, but I thought I’d get a second opinion from Reddit. I drove by my fathers house today and saw a bunch of my moms property sitting near the road/in dumpster :( My heart is broken. I miss my mom and I have so little left from her.
RESPONSE A: If it is at the curb I am pretty sure you can take it? Ask someone who knows for sure like your lawyer and go take everything you see and want.
RESPONSE B: The executor of a will has a fiduciary duty to the estate. That's a fancy term for "do what the will says (as long as it's not illegal or unfeasible." He is personally liable for doing it right. You can sue him for breach of fiduciary duty. If he loses, he has to personally cough up any misused, misappropriated or thrown away items, or their value.
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POST: "they can't do anything about it". She has blown all her money and has nothing to her name after dropping out of college twice. I have threatened to call the cops before but she did stop at all. I was thinking of buy a cheap recording device and catching her stealing from my room for evidence when I actually call the police. I don't know if i can legally do it because I don't turn 18 until May 19, I don't want to bump into any legal issues. I am going to take action against her but I desperately need advice, please help me ASAP. :(
RESPONSE A: Are you able to put a lock on your door? It sucks bit atleast that way your items are protected
RESPONSE B: That sucks. You didn't add a location as far as I could tell, but be sure if you record her it's legal, check your state and see what the consent laws for recording are. Though I'm pretty sure you're always allowed a security camera on your own property. But be aware that recording someone in other ways can be illegal. Your sister is smoking illegally, even if your in a legal state, the smoking age is 21. So if you call the cops on her and they find pot, she could be in more trouble than just getting charged for stealing. (Unless it's medical, you can get medical pot at 18 in some places) If you call the police, don't use 911, use the non emergency number. Calling the police might make your family pretty pissed. Honestly I'd recommend adding locks to everything or even just your room. Since I'm assuming your room is inside the house and you have wifi, a smart door lock of some kind might be the best best, as some don't need a key (biometrics/nfc/numpad) so it won't be a bother for you going in and out. A spring hinge for your door will make it close automatically, which can help keep your door closed and locked all the time so you don't leave it open. Might be expensive, but you can switch it back when you move out and always have a secure smart lock for your room wherever you go.
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POST: just come on her regular visa since she already had that. He said he would start the paperwork for her green card and work permit once she arrived. She got there and after a few months, he said he changed his mind and wouldn't file for her. She found out from a friend of his that he never intended to. That was three years ago. She has three kids now with no drivers license, no SSN. She can't work or even go out on her own. She's allowed to take an Uber to church but only so her husband can track her through it. She didn't want to say but I got the idea that her visa is expired and her days might be numbered unless she gets a SSN at least. Divorce is tricky because they got married out of the country and since her kids are US citizens, if she leaves the country she might not get to see them as their father definitely won't let them go. She says he doesn't care about them much but gets some sort of welfare check through them (Not sure about this but she herself didn't know how it really works). Is there anyway this lady can get help to stay legally or at least be able to see her kids if she has to leave the country?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer. I would try to reach a domestic abuse group for her and tell them the story you are telling us here.. looks like her husband is using her status to hold her against her will.. Maybe they can help her get a green card that is given to people who are victims of a crime or domestic abuse. I seen it before.. they have visas for victims like her and suppose to help them come forward. She might be reluctant but tell her that’s the only way to prevent her from getting deported as it’s only a matter of time.
RESPONSE B: There is a federal law called the Violence Against Women Act that has specific provisions dealing with violence against immigrants by American spouses. One of the provisions allows a VAWA victim to self petition for a green card without the consent of the spouse. Please have her get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They can help. https://www.thehotline.org 1 (800) 799-7233
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POST: her number. When I got home, I called her and she let loose her problems on me. Apparently she met her husband 5 years ago when he went back to her country, for a visit. They dated for a while and were doing LDR until he proposed. She'd just finished university and he told her he wanted her to move to the US with him, that she could file for a green card. He went back to her country marry her. (He's also from there) The first red flag was that he told her she didn't need a fiance (K1) visa and since they were married, she could just come on her regular visa since she already had that. He said he would start the paperwork for her green card and work permit once she arrived. She got there and after a few months, he said he changed his mind and wouldn't file for her. She found out from a friend of his that he never intended to. That was three years ago. She has three kids now with no drivers license, no SSN. She can't work or even go out on her own. She's allowed to take an Uber to church but only so her husband can track her through it. She didn't want to say but I got the idea that her visa is expired and her days might be numbered unless she gets a SSN at least. Divorce is tricky because they got married out of the country and since her kids are US citizens, if she leaves the country she might not get to see them as their father definitely won't let them go. She says he doesn't care about them much but gets some sort of welfare check through them (Not sure about this but she herself didn't know how it really works). Is there anyway this lady can get help to stay legally or at least be able to see her kids if she has to leave the country?
RESPONSE A: Take her case to your state representative. I had problems getting my green card in the past and our state representative helped to get going and in less than a month I got my card. I don't know if in her case it will work but it's one more voice to check about.
RESPONSE B: She needs a good immigration attorney.
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POST: Friend kidnapped and sent to Iraq being held captive their against her will To preface we live in Canada, so some time back in September my friend was forcibly sent to Iraq by her heavily muslim parents, to send her for "proper" muslim woman training. From what I can tell her family keeps her held captive in a single room 24/7. She is 17 years old and is also not being schooled. She has no money to get back home, we have both contacted the Canadian embassy multiple times but they won't do anything about it, I fear for her safety what can we do? Edit spelling typo in title
RESPONSE A: The first thing you need to do it's go to your nearest police station and ask to speak to an officer explain the situation in as much detail as you possibly can where you think she might be or where she is if you know where she is. If you have contact information for her make sure that they get that information. Follow up regularly with this officer and whoever the case gets handed off to but not so often but they get fed up with you and don't want to respond to you or talk to you anymore. Also call Child Protective Services in your Province and tell them that they sent a Canadian citizen who is a minor overseas to be abused. Also you're going to want to call the Canadian embassy in Iraq and explain the situation to whoever will listen speak calmly and keep emotion to a minimum, explain the situation in as much detail as possible and if you have contact information for her give that to them. Please know that this will not get sorted overnight this will take time and effort. And you need to keep doing all these things, repeatedly if necessary and if you have to go to a different Police Department until someone listens to you and takes action then do it. I hope this helps and I wish you and your friend the best of luck.
RESPONSE B: Contact Karma Nirvana, they are a UK charity but they might be able to point you in the direction of someone who can help.
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POST: physically unlock the condo. As a tenant it feels like a violation of my privacy and rights to have an unknown person handed the keys to my home without me even knowing about it. I just got a call back from the property manager at about 6:00PM. He says the cleaner is offering $600. I tell him there’s no chance I’m accepting anything but the full amount. Again I reiterate that my issue is more with the management company than it is with the cleaner. He tells me that the cleaner will go through insurance and their attorneys will be real tough with me and expect receipts etc. He says he was trying to do me a favour negotiating with the cleaner as a middleman. I told him he isn’t the middleman. His company is at fault and I won’t be individually battling the cleaner in small claims. I’ve already filed the T2 with the tenancy board against the property manager, and we will see what they award for damages from that hearing before any other avenues are pursued. Needless to say, this is now out of my wheelhouse as far as who I should go after for what. I think I’m on the right track going to the tenant board with the property manager and not chasing the third party contractor I personally had no arrangement with. I will be contacting a lawyer tomorrow to make sure I get this moving in the right direction. Any thoughts or comments on whether I’m doing this right or not is appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Problem is that the lawyer's invoice will be larger than your settlement.
RESPONSE B: Good Job So far. Be sure that when you list what was stolen to be specific and use the Brand Names of things stolen. If you just put 3 pairs of jeans, an insurance claim will only pay for 3 pairs of the cheapest jeans they can find. However, if you put 3 pairs of Banana Republic relaxed fit jeans, you get the cheapest price they can find for Banana Republic relaxed fit jeans. (no I don't know clothing or if those are a thing, It's just an example.) I say this because the payment will likely come from some sort of insurance. Either the property management company or the cleaners. Good Luck. Prefunctory I am not a lawyer
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POST: my issue is more with the management company than it is with the cleaner. He tells me that the cleaner will go through insurance and their attorneys will be real tough with me and expect receipts etc. He says he was trying to do me a favour negotiating with the cleaner as a middleman. I told him he isn’t the middleman. His company is at fault and I won’t be individually battling the cleaner in small claims. I’ve already filed the T2 with the tenancy board against the property manager, and we will see what they award for damages from that hearing before any other avenues are pursued. Needless to say, this is now out of my wheelhouse as far as who I should go after for what. I think I’m on the right track going to the tenant board with the property manager and not chasing the third party contractor I personally had no arrangement with. I will be contacting a lawyer tomorrow to make sure I get this moving in the right direction. Any thoughts or comments on whether I’m doing this right or not is appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Problem is that the lawyer's invoice will be larger than your settlement.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. Just to be clear: who contracted the cleaners? Did you contract them yourself, or did the mgmt company do it? My impression is that the mgmt company engaged the cleaners, in which case, the path of recourse is clear: the mgmt is liable to you, and the cleaners are (arguably) liable to the mgmt - not to you. Others have advised you that the cleaners' admitting fault means you must pursue recourse from them. *That is hilariously seriously stupidly dead wrong.* If the cleaners admitted fault in their conversation with mgmt, that means the mgmt can prevail against the cleaners without much of a fight. But that's still the mgmt's problem, not yours. Likewise, if the cleaners' insurance wants to be difficult, then that too is the mgmt's problem, not yours, and you should not let them bully you into suffering any hassle in their stead. If your only contact was with the mgmt, then your claim is against them.
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POST: s. 2. As far as I am concerned, the property manager allowed access without permission to a third party without discussing it with me. They are responsible for the unlawful entry and ensuing theft of property. My issue is not just with the cleaner. He said he would call the cleaner again to see if he would pay the full amount. From what I can see in the Ontario Landlord and Tenant act, there is no provision for a landlord to hand the keys over to a third party without discussing with me first. A question I will be asking a lawyer is if the landlord is supposed to be present to physically unlock the condo. As a tenant it feels like a violation of my privacy and rights to have an unknown person handed the keys to my home without me even knowing about it. I just got a call back from the property manager at about 6:00PM. He says the cleaner is offering $600. I tell him there’s no chance I’m accepting anything but the full amount. Again I reiterate that my issue is more with the management company than it is with the cleaner. He tells me that the cleaner will go through insurance and their attorneys will be real tough with me and expect receipts etc. He says he was trying to do me a favour negotiating with the cleaner as a middleman. I told him he isn’t the middleman. His company is at fault and I won’t be individually battling the cleaner in small claims. I’ve already filed the T2 with the tenancy board against the property manager, and we will see what they award for damages from that hearing before any other avenues are pursued. Needless to say, this is now out of my wheelhouse as far as who I should go after for what. I think I’m on the right track going to the tenant board with the property manager and not chasing the third party contractor I personally had no arrangement with. I will be contacting a lawyer tomorrow to make sure I get this moving in the right direction. Any thoughts or comments on whether I’m doing this right or not is appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Problem is that the lawyer's invoice will be larger than your settlement.
RESPONSE B: Please post further updates, I'm a landlord and rooting for you on this one.
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POST: Landlord evicting me out of the blue, letting himself into my house whenever he pleases. So I’m not late on rent or anything. But my landlord randomly decided to evict me because he wants to do work on the house and charge more money for it. When he came to evict me he opened the door to my house while I was home asleep in bed to give me the notice I was being evicted. I woke up to see him there with a paper and shouted out of surprise. Anyways I made him talk to me on the porch instead and that’s when he told me I was being evicted and gave me a hand written notice. But isn’t there also an eviction ban in place right now until the end of July? Also he evicted me on June 15th, meaning I have to leave by July 15th. Which is very inconvenient since most new places I’m looking at so far want first of the month move in. Long story short I don’t want to stay in this place but do I have any legal recourse against my landlord for coming into my house unannounced? And do I have any legal recourse for him not obeying the nationwide eviction moratorium? I live in Texas, in the USA.
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: The eviction moratorium is only for failure to pay rent because of pandemic related hardships. If you are on a month to month lease then the landlord can issue you a notice to vacate.
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POST: Landlord evicting me out of the blue, letting himself into my house whenever he pleases. So I’m not late on rent or anything. But my landlord randomly decided to evict me because he wants to do work on the house and charge more money for it. When he came to evict me he opened the door to my house while I was home asleep in bed to give me the notice I was being evicted. I woke up to see him there with a paper and shouted out of surprise. Anyways I made him talk to me on the porch instead and that’s when he told me I was being evicted and gave me a hand written notice. But isn’t there also an eviction ban in place right now until the end of July? Also he evicted me on June 15th, meaning I have to leave by July 15th. Which is very inconvenient since most new places I’m looking at so far want first of the month move in. Long story short I don’t want to stay in this place but do I have any legal recourse against my landlord for coming into my house unannounced? And do I have any legal recourse for him not obeying the nationwide eviction moratorium? I live in Texas, in the USA.
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: You've been given notice to move out not eviction If you don't have a lease, then this is fine.
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POST: pleases. So I’m not late on rent or anything. But my landlord randomly decided to evict me because he wants to do work on the house and charge more money for it. When he came to evict me he opened the door to my house while I was home asleep in bed to give me the notice I was being evicted. I woke up to see him there with a paper and shouted out of surprise. Anyways I made him talk to me on the porch instead and that’s when he told me I was being evicted and gave me a hand written notice. But isn’t there also an eviction ban in place right now until the end of July? Also he evicted me on June 15th, meaning I have to leave by July 15th. Which is very inconvenient since most new places I’m looking at so far want first of the month move in. Long story short I don’t want to stay in this place but do I have any legal recourse against my landlord for coming into my house unannounced? And do I have any legal recourse for him not obeying the nationwide eviction moratorium? I live in Texas, in the USA.
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: Texas requires 30 days notice to terminate the lease. Your lease may specify when that notice can be given (such as on the 1st of the month.) You could try talking with your landlord to see if they would allow to set your move out date on the last day of the month vs the middle of the month. Otherwise, you could consider staying with a friend during that lapse in time until your new lease starts.
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POST: FINAL UPDATE! landlord is selling the house and wants us out (IL) Links to the previous threads: http://redd.it/3c93qf, https://redd.it/3es26v Thank you to everyone that offered great advice. I ended up hiring an attorney to deal with the whole situation. as it turns out he did not sell the house like he kept telling us he did. Instead he had promised it to someone else and was trying to get us out so he could provide them with a place to live. Luckily I had documented every interaction/phone call we had so I was able to prove that he was in fact trying to illegally evict us. After all was said and done we got what we originally wanted (more time) plus he had to buy us out of our lease. In my last threads my fiancé and was pregnant and I am happy to say we have a beautiful baby girl now! On top of that we found a house we love and are closing on it November 16! Again thank you to everyone who gave me great advice. Because of you guys I had the confidence to stand up for my rights and am on my way to becoming a first time homeowner.
RESPONSE A: Congratulations and thanks for the update!
RESPONSE B: > Luckily I had documented every interaction/phone call Congrats on the foresight (or willingness to follow advice) to do this. So often arguments come down to he said/she said. Having documentation to support your position is worth its weight in gold.
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POST: FINAL UPDATE! landlord is selling the house and wants us out (IL) Links to the previous threads: http://redd.it/3c93qf, https://redd.it/3es26v Thank you to everyone that offered great advice. I ended up hiring an attorney to deal with the whole situation. as it turns out he did not sell the house like he kept telling us he did. Instead he had promised it to someone else and was trying to get us out so he could provide them with a place to live. Luckily I had documented every interaction/phone call we had so I was able to prove that he was in fact trying to illegally evict us. After all was said and done we got what we originally wanted (more time) plus he had to buy us out of our lease. In my last threads my fiancé and was pregnant and I am happy to say we have a beautiful baby girl now! On top of that we found a house we love and are closing on it November 16! Again thank you to everyone who gave me great advice. Because of you guys I had the confidence to stand up for my rights and am on my way to becoming a first time homeowner.
RESPONSE A: Was your landlord pissed he had to buy you out of your lease? How did he react to the lawyer becoming involved??
RESPONSE B: Congratulations on your little girl, and I'm so glad things wished out will for all three of you :)
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POST: FINAL UPDATE! landlord is selling the house and wants us out (IL) Links to the previous threads: http://redd.it/3c93qf, https://redd.it/3es26v Thank you to everyone that offered great advice. I ended up hiring an attorney to deal with the whole situation. as it turns out he did not sell the house like he kept telling us he did. Instead he had promised it to someone else and was trying to get us out so he could provide them with a place to live. Luckily I had documented every interaction/phone call we had so I was able to prove that he was in fact trying to illegally evict us. After all was said and done we got what we originally wanted (more time) plus he had to buy us out of our lease. In my last threads my fiancé and was pregnant and I am happy to say we have a beautiful baby girl now! On top of that we found a house we love and are closing on it November 16! Again thank you to everyone who gave me great advice. Because of you guys I had the confidence to stand up for my rights and am on my way to becoming a first time homeowner.
RESPONSE A: Was your landlord pissed he had to buy you out of your lease? How did he react to the lawyer becoming involved??
RESPONSE B: Amazing news! Congratulations! I'm glad all worked out for you, I like happy endings :)
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POST: FINAL UPDATE! landlord is selling the house and wants us out (IL) Links to the previous threads: http://redd.it/3c93qf, https://redd.it/3es26v Thank you to everyone that offered great advice. I ended up hiring an attorney to deal with the whole situation. as it turns out he did not sell the house like he kept telling us he did. Instead he had promised it to someone else and was trying to get us out so he could provide them with a place to live. Luckily I had documented every interaction/phone call we had so I was able to prove that he was in fact trying to illegally evict us. After all was said and done we got what we originally wanted (more time) plus he had to buy us out of our lease. In my last threads my fiancé and was pregnant and I am happy to say we have a beautiful baby girl now! On top of that we found a house we love and are closing on it November 16! Again thank you to everyone who gave me great advice. Because of you guys I had the confidence to stand up for my rights and am on my way to becoming a first time homeowner.
RESPONSE A: Congrats!!!!!
RESPONSE B: Was your landlord pissed he had to buy you out of your lease? How did he react to the lawyer becoming involved??
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POST: FINAL UPDATE! landlord is selling the house and wants us out (IL) Links to the previous threads: http://redd.it/3c93qf, https://redd.it/3es26v Thank you to everyone that offered great advice. I ended up hiring an attorney to deal with the whole situation. as it turns out he did not sell the house like he kept telling us he did. Instead he had promised it to someone else and was trying to get us out so he could provide them with a place to live. Luckily I had documented every interaction/phone call we had so I was able to prove that he was in fact trying to illegally evict us. After all was said and done we got what we originally wanted (more time) plus he had to buy us out of our lease. In my last threads my fiancé and was pregnant and I am happy to say we have a beautiful baby girl now! On top of that we found a house we love and are closing on it November 16! Again thank you to everyone who gave me great advice. Because of you guys I had the confidence to stand up for my rights and am on my way to becoming a first time homeowner.
RESPONSE A: Was your landlord pissed he had to buy you out of your lease? How did he react to the lawyer becoming involved??
RESPONSE B: Congratulations on the new baby!
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POST: if I should until I ask him. However I've already posted pictures of the state of disrepair in the apartment, a photo of the rat from the surveillance footage, our plumbing issues, and his car parked outside our apartment right before he pushed his way in to our place. I can't post his name or any photos of him so I know that it makes it harder to believe because of that. The biggest issue with it sounding sketchy is because IT IS SKETCHY. These men are constantly lying and changing their stories on us faster than we can keep up with. They behave in extremely suspicious manners and are illegally renting the place out. They're just trying to cover their own tracks on this, and that includes changing their story constantly and trying to limit our information. They still claim to have videos and photos of us dealing drugs out of our apartment, which is absolutely baseless. That's the one thing they keep bringing up though, it's really strange. The previous tenants were the gangbangers in the neighborhood, however there's no resemblance whatsoever. So we're moving out and into a much nicer, slightly larger place in Lakeview. Turns out you can live there for the same price as in a rat infested, foreclosed slum. We'll be out hopefully by the end of the week. So thank you for the advice for those of you who honestly tried to help. And if you still don't believe it happened, I don't know how to prove it to you and I'm sorry. But I know it's real, and I know that this experience is going to leave a long-lasting effect on me as a person. Besides, what am I getting out of this if it's fake? Attention? Seriously? It's a low-profile post on a niche sub under a throwaway account
RESPONSE A: But did you get the check cancelled in time?
RESPONSE B: > We took all of the advice in the comments with a grain of salt. This is the internet, after all. Ha! This is way too true, basically on this sub don't trust to anyone who isn't stared. Even me, especially me...
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POST: , but I want to clear it with him first. I'll call him tomorrow when I get back from the court. I also have months of insane texts and voicemails saved that I want to share at this point, but again I don't know if I should until I ask him. However I've already posted pictures of the state of disrepair in the apartment, a photo of the rat from the surveillance footage, our plumbing issues, and his car parked outside our apartment right before he pushed his way in to our place. I can't post his name or any photos of him so I know that it makes it harder to believe because of that. The biggest issue with it sounding sketchy is because IT IS SKETCHY. These men are constantly lying and changing their stories on us faster than we can keep up with. They behave in extremely suspicious manners and are illegally renting the place out. They're just trying to cover their own tracks on this, and that includes changing their story constantly and trying to limit our information. They still claim to have videos and photos of us dealing drugs out of our apartment, which is absolutely baseless. That's the one thing they keep bringing up though, it's really strange. The previous tenants were the gangbangers in the neighborhood, however there's no resemblance whatsoever. So we're moving out and into a much nicer, slightly larger place in Lakeview. Turns out you can live there for the same price as in a rat infested, foreclosed slum. We'll be out hopefully by the end of the week. So thank you for the advice for those of you who honestly tried to help. And if you still don't believe it happened, I don't know how to prove it to you and I'm sorry. But I know it's real, and I know that this experience is going to leave a long-lasting effect on me as a person. Besides, what am I getting out of this if it's fake? Attention? Seriously? It's a low-profile post on a niche sub under a throwaway account
RESPONSE A: But did you get the check cancelled in time?
RESPONSE B: Nice update.
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POST: that I want to share at this point, but again I don't know if I should until I ask him. However I've already posted pictures of the state of disrepair in the apartment, a photo of the rat from the surveillance footage, our plumbing issues, and his car parked outside our apartment right before he pushed his way in to our place. I can't post his name or any photos of him so I know that it makes it harder to believe because of that. The biggest issue with it sounding sketchy is because IT IS SKETCHY. These men are constantly lying and changing their stories on us faster than we can keep up with. They behave in extremely suspicious manners and are illegally renting the place out. They're just trying to cover their own tracks on this, and that includes changing their story constantly and trying to limit our information. They still claim to have videos and photos of us dealing drugs out of our apartment, which is absolutely baseless. That's the one thing they keep bringing up though, it's really strange. The previous tenants were the gangbangers in the neighborhood, however there's no resemblance whatsoever. So we're moving out and into a much nicer, slightly larger place in Lakeview. Turns out you can live there for the same price as in a rat infested, foreclosed slum. We'll be out hopefully by the end of the week. So thank you for the advice for those of you who honestly tried to help. And if you still don't believe it happened, I don't know how to prove it to you and I'm sorry. But I know it's real, and I know that this experience is going to leave a long-lasting effect on me as a person. Besides, what am I getting out of this if it's fake? Attention? Seriously? It's a low-profile post on a niche sub under a throwaway account
RESPONSE A: Nice update.
RESPONSE B: Thanks OP. I appreciate your update, and the pics, especially of 'Tony the Rat', a great Chicago name. It does sound very sketch, very scary, and I hope you recover from it.
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POST: of that. The biggest issue with it sounding sketchy is because IT IS SKETCHY. These men are constantly lying and changing their stories on us faster than we can keep up with. They behave in extremely suspicious manners and are illegally renting the place out. They're just trying to cover their own tracks on this, and that includes changing their story constantly and trying to limit our information. They still claim to have videos and photos of us dealing drugs out of our apartment, which is absolutely baseless. That's the one thing they keep bringing up though, it's really strange. The previous tenants were the gangbangers in the neighborhood, however there's no resemblance whatsoever. So we're moving out and into a much nicer, slightly larger place in Lakeview. Turns out you can live there for the same price as in a rat infested, foreclosed slum. We'll be out hopefully by the end of the week. So thank you for the advice for those of you who honestly tried to help. And if you still don't believe it happened, I don't know how to prove it to you and I'm sorry. But I know it's real, and I know that this experience is going to leave a long-lasting effect on me as a person. Besides, what am I getting out of this if it's fake? Attention? Seriously? It's a low-profile post on a niche sub under a throwaway account
RESPONSE A: Nice update.
RESPONSE B: Lakeview may feel "far" from UIC, but honestly I've never owned a car in my life and always found Chicago public transit great. There are horror stories about poop in trains but there are horror stories about public transit in any city. Cubs game nights and that "TBOX" event in December are the only times the red line and Addison stop are unbearable, but otherwise the trains, buses and bike lanes should be great for you. Sorry this was your first apartment experience in Chicago. I read a lot of threads here about apartment horrors but Chicago actually has some nice laws favoring the tenants. Get renters insurance, keep good records, and enjoy your new neighborhood.
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RESPONSE A: Oh yes, please upload a video if your lawyer thinks this is ok
RESPONSE B: Nice update.
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POST: FINAL UPDATE: Landlord accuses me of smelling spicy and throwing his cat out of the window Hello all! I have a final update for those who have followed my landlord issues and subsequent move. When Girlfriend (now Fiancee!) was doing the inspection with her dad, she had brought with her some printouts of landlord-tenant law and left them at the house with my forwarding address for a check. We weren't sure anything would come of it, and were going to have a lawyer friend write Owner a demand letter. I don't know why or how Owner changed his mind, but perhaps the printout had something to do with it. I got two checks in the mail; one for the entire security deposit and one for the entire prorated rent amount. I guess Owner talked to his many judge friends and figured out he should avoid the penalties that come with a judgment! We have had no further contact with the sheriff regarding the cat. All's well that ends well. This was a crazy couple of weeks, but everything turned out fine in the end. Thanks for helping me cope, and I wish the same for you!
RESPONSE A: I will never not upvote a /r/legaladvice **UPDATE** post. Thanks for the closure.
RESPONSE B: Yay for happy endings! Congratulations on your engagement!
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POST: FINAL UPDATE: Landlord accuses me of smelling spicy and throwing his cat out of the window Hello all! I have a final update for those who have followed my landlord issues and subsequent move. When Girlfriend (now Fiancee!) was doing the inspection with her dad, she had brought with her some printouts of landlord-tenant law and left them at the house with my forwarding address for a check. We weren't sure anything would come of it, and were going to have a lawyer friend write Owner a demand letter. I don't know why or how Owner changed his mind, but perhaps the printout had something to do with it. I got two checks in the mail; one for the entire security deposit and one for the entire prorated rent amount. I guess Owner talked to his many judge friends and figured out he should avoid the penalties that come with a judgment! We have had no further contact with the sheriff regarding the cat. All's well that ends well. This was a crazy couple of weeks, but everything turned out fine in the end. Thanks for helping me cope, and I wish the same for you!
RESPONSE A: Glad to hear!
RESPONSE B: I will never not upvote a /r/legaladvice **UPDATE** post. Thanks for the closure.
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POST: FINAL UPDATE: Landlord accuses me of smelling spicy and throwing his cat out of the window Hello all! I have a final update for those who have followed my landlord issues and subsequent move. When Girlfriend (now Fiancee!) was doing the inspection with her dad, she had brought with her some printouts of landlord-tenant law and left them at the house with my forwarding address for a check. We weren't sure anything would come of it, and were going to have a lawyer friend write Owner a demand letter. I don't know why or how Owner changed his mind, but perhaps the printout had something to do with it. I got two checks in the mail; one for the entire security deposit and one for the entire prorated rent amount. I guess Owner talked to his many judge friends and figured out he should avoid the penalties that come with a judgment! We have had no further contact with the sheriff regarding the cat. All's well that ends well. This was a crazy couple of weeks, but everything turned out fine in the end. Thanks for helping me cope, and I wish the same for you!
RESPONSE A: I'm just here to say I'm glad you're engaged to each other. That woman is a rock star.
RESPONSE B: Yay for happy endings! Congratulations on your engagement!
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POST: FINAL UPDATE: Landlord accuses me of smelling spicy and throwing his cat out of the window Hello all! I have a final update for those who have followed my landlord issues and subsequent move. When Girlfriend (now Fiancee!) was doing the inspection with her dad, she had brought with her some printouts of landlord-tenant law and left them at the house with my forwarding address for a check. We weren't sure anything would come of it, and were going to have a lawyer friend write Owner a demand letter. I don't know why or how Owner changed his mind, but perhaps the printout had something to do with it. I got two checks in the mail; one for the entire security deposit and one for the entire prorated rent amount. I guess Owner talked to his many judge friends and figured out he should avoid the penalties that come with a judgment! We have had no further contact with the sheriff regarding the cat. All's well that ends well. This was a crazy couple of weeks, but everything turned out fine in the end. Thanks for helping me cope, and I wish the same for you!
RESPONSE A: Glad to hear!
RESPONSE B: I'm just here to say I'm glad you're engaged to each other. That woman is a rock star.
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POST: FINAL UPDATE: Landlord accuses me of smelling spicy and throwing his cat out of the window Hello all! I have a final update for those who have followed my landlord issues and subsequent move. When Girlfriend (now Fiancee!) was doing the inspection with her dad, she had brought with her some printouts of landlord-tenant law and left them at the house with my forwarding address for a check. We weren't sure anything would come of it, and were going to have a lawyer friend write Owner a demand letter. I don't know why or how Owner changed his mind, but perhaps the printout had something to do with it. I got two checks in the mail; one for the entire security deposit and one for the entire prorated rent amount. I guess Owner talked to his many judge friends and figured out he should avoid the penalties that come with a judgment! We have had no further contact with the sheriff regarding the cat. All's well that ends well. This was a crazy couple of weeks, but everything turned out fine in the end. Thanks for helping me cope, and I wish the same for you!
RESPONSE A: Yay for happy endings! Congratulations on your engagement!
RESPONSE B: Glad to hear we were able to help and things turned out best possible way. Congratulations on the engagement!
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POST: [OR] Accidentally recorded my partner threatening me - Can I use the recording if I file for a restraining order? My partner and I are stuck together for a while because we jointly own our property and neither of us has the money to buy the other out. The relationship has gotten rough and she's been getting violent towards me; throwing things, hitting, making threats, etc. Last week I was recording a voice memo on my phone when she burst in and an argument started. I genuinely thought I'd hit the stop button but I apparently missed it and managed to record the entire conversation, complete with her threatening to hurt me or tear up the house. I didn't realize it until afterwards but I have the recording now. Can I use that if I end up filing a restraining order?
RESPONSE A: Just because you accidentally recorded it doesn't make it legally admissible in court. In Oregon, all parties of a face-to-face conversation in a private setting must give their consent for a record to be legal. This recording is inadmissible, so no, you cannot use it as evidence when filing a restraining order.
RESPONSE B: Make sure the state you’re in doesn’t have a consent law. In California you can not record another person without their permission or you can in return be sued and the recording can’t be in used in court. Check your state law.
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RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer, but it sounds like you'd have a pretty strong case for a RO, provided you have evidence of all these things backed up and can afford a lawyer who could help argue your case with you. If you can't afford the lawyer, you could still possibly get a RO with the evidence you assumedly have backed up and filed. Edit: this is just of basic knowledge of past ROs in varying states, YMMV based on it being Oregon.
RESPONSE B: Please review the Landlord Tenant Questions section of the /r/LegalAdvice Wiki for common questions and answers regarding landlord tenant issues. If this does not apply to your question, please disregard. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*
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RESPONSE A: First thing Monday morning (may have to wait until weds morning die to holiday) go down to your county courthouse. Ask the info desk where to go for restraining orders, they will point you the way. Take all of your pertinent info and such. Be prepared to have info for the sheriff on where the person lives/works what they drive etc to help them serve the order if granted. Am not a lawyer, used to work for an SO in a county in Oregon, advised people how to go apply constantly.
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POST: a thought disorder a few years ago after experimenting with heavy drugs. Now he needs to get an antipsychotic administered via shot every month so that he doesn't have another episode. My brother hasn't had his shots since January if this year, but the pharmacy delivers his meds to this Psychiatrist's office every month, incase he goes to get it. Last week, my brother cane to me, and said he's realized that he really needs the meds and can't go on without them much longer (up until then, basically denied he needed anything, saying "I'm not crazy, you can't make me") but now begging for it essentially, claiming he's now experiencing suicidal thoughts. I called, made an appointment, told his doctor everything, today we get there, expecting 6 vials, only to be told he doesn't have any left. He admitted to selling them, as each shot is worth $2,600. I'm planning to get the insurance involved, and I want to sue this man. Do I have a case?
RESPONSE A: When you say “stealing,” do you mean that the expensive doses were paid for by your brother, but left unused until the doctor sold them to someone else? Because what this narrative brings to my mind is the doctor *ordering* the expensive doses originally for your brother, your brother declining to use them, and the doctor using the medication legitimately in his inventory for another patient. In other words, if I go into Home Depot and ask for a left-handed snowblower, the clerk tells me they don’t normally stock them but he’ll get one in for me…. and then it comes in, they call, I don’t show up, and they sell it to another customer…. that’s not stealing. But if I order and pay for the machine, then the situation changes a bit. So was the doctor merely *stocking* the medication so as to be prepared, or was the medication bought and paid for, and then embezzled?
RESPONSE B: What proof do you have of the psychiatrist admitting to stealing your brother’s medication? This is really unusual.
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POST: Psychiatrist admitted to stealing and selling my brothers antipsychotic medication the day we went for his appointment. So my younger brother got caught up with the wrong crowd developed a thought disorder a few years ago after experimenting with heavy drugs. Now he needs to get an antipsychotic administered via shot every month so that he doesn't have another episode. My brother hasn't had his shots since January if this year, but the pharmacy delivers his meds to this Psychiatrist's office every month, incase he goes to get it. Last week, my brother cane to me, and said he's realized that he really needs the meds and can't go on without them much longer (up until then, basically denied he needed anything, saying "I'm not crazy, you can't make me") but now begging for it essentially, claiming he's now experiencing suicidal thoughts. I called, made an appointment, told his doctor everything, today we get there, expecting 6 vials, only to be told he doesn't have any left. He admitted to selling them, as each shot is worth $2,600. I'm planning to get the insurance involved, and I want to sue this man. Do I have a case?
RESPONSE A: What proof do you have of the psychiatrist admitting to stealing your brother’s medication? This is really unusual.
RESPONSE B: In the meantime, I’m thinking your brother needs his meds. If he has a PCP, social worker, etc this would be the time to deploy them to acquire a current shot. I know we’re all pissed at Dr. McAsshole here, but if your brother is experiencing suicidal ideation or worse, he should be priority #1. The doctor isn’t going anywhere and can’t get you the medication. He absolutely needs dealt with, but after your brother is stable. Apologies if you have already and I missed it in comments. I searched around but didn’t see it in any replies. I hope your brother is ok.
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RESPONSE A: In the meantime, I’m thinking your brother needs his meds. If he has a PCP, social worker, etc this would be the time to deploy them to acquire a current shot. I know we’re all pissed at Dr. McAsshole here, but if your brother is experiencing suicidal ideation or worse, he should be priority #1. The doctor isn’t going anywhere and can’t get you the medication. He absolutely needs dealt with, but after your brother is stable. Apologies if you have already and I missed it in comments. I searched around but didn’t see it in any replies. I hope your brother is ok.
RESPONSE B: Call the medical board of California's consumer hotline, which regulates doctors, and ask them how to proceed. 1 (800) 633-2322 I would also call the California department of insurance consumer helpline. 1-800-927-4357 Neither of these will directly solve your problem, but they are the first point of consumer contact for people having problems, they are staffed by very competent people who want to help you, who will help you get to the right state agencies and offices to report this, get this doctor in a lot of trouble, and get your brother the help he needs, get your money back, etc. I don't know exactly what they will tell you, but they will often tell you when you need to file a police report, when you need to call your own attorney, and they can be very helpful about getting you those numbers and getting you in touch with a local officer who's handled this kind of issue before, etc.
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POST: Psychiatrist admitted to stealing and selling my brothers antipsychotic medication the day we went for his appointment. So my younger brother got caught up with the wrong crowd developed a thought disorder a few years ago after experimenting with heavy drugs. Now he needs to get an antipsychotic administered via shot every month so that he doesn't have another episode. My brother hasn't had his shots since January if this year, but the pharmacy delivers his meds to this Psychiatrist's office every month, incase he goes to get it. Last week, my brother cane to me, and said he's realized that he really needs the meds and can't go on without them much longer (up until then, basically denied he needed anything, saying "I'm not crazy, you can't make me") but now begging for it essentially, claiming he's now experiencing suicidal thoughts. I called, made an appointment, told his doctor everything, today we get there, expecting 6 vials, only to be told he doesn't have any left. He admitted to selling them, as each shot is worth $2,600. I'm planning to get the insurance involved, and I want to sue this man. Do I have a case?
RESPONSE A: In the meantime, I’m thinking your brother needs his meds. If he has a PCP, social worker, etc this would be the time to deploy them to acquire a current shot. I know we’re all pissed at Dr. McAsshole here, but if your brother is experiencing suicidal ideation or worse, he should be priority #1. The doctor isn’t going anywhere and can’t get you the medication. He absolutely needs dealt with, but after your brother is stable. Apologies if you have already and I missed it in comments. I searched around but didn’t see it in any replies. I hope your brother is ok.
RESPONSE B: Did your brother, or his insurance, already pay for the meds?
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POST: my brothers antipsychotic medication the day we went for his appointment. So my younger brother got caught up with the wrong crowd developed a thought disorder a few years ago after experimenting with heavy drugs. Now he needs to get an antipsychotic administered via shot every month so that he doesn't have another episode. My brother hasn't had his shots since January if this year, but the pharmacy delivers his meds to this Psychiatrist's office every month, incase he goes to get it. Last week, my brother cane to me, and said he's realized that he really needs the meds and can't go on without them much longer (up until then, basically denied he needed anything, saying "I'm not crazy, you can't make me") but now begging for it essentially, claiming he's now experiencing suicidal thoughts. I called, made an appointment, told his doctor everything, today we get there, expecting 6 vials, only to be told he doesn't have any left. He admitted to selling them, as each shot is worth $2,600. I'm planning to get the insurance involved, and I want to sue this man. Do I have a case?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer. Does this medication expire? For example, if he didn't get his vial from January, would it still be viable today? The reason I ask is because this could affect the value of damages you might be able to collect.
RESPONSE B: In the meantime, I’m thinking your brother needs his meds. If he has a PCP, social worker, etc this would be the time to deploy them to acquire a current shot. I know we’re all pissed at Dr. McAsshole here, but if your brother is experiencing suicidal ideation or worse, he should be priority #1. The doctor isn’t going anywhere and can’t get you the medication. He absolutely needs dealt with, but after your brother is stable. Apologies if you have already and I missed it in comments. I searched around but didn’t see it in any replies. I hope your brother is ok.
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POST: . They have court Tuesday and I hope charges are pressed against the family that did this to her. My grandmother pays her bills. She tends to her huge garden unassisted, and she gets her groceries and does everything herself. If they were concerned they would visit her daily, they would have attempted to get her an in home nurse. But they didn’t. None of them really care about her, just her money. They’re trying to break her heart and have her die so they can get her will. It’s disgusting. What can I do for my grandma. What can they do to fight back, can they press charges on my uncles that did this to her? I’m so livid. My grandmother would give her last dime to help her family. They are greedy and cannot be allowed to do this. Please help. This is in US, IA.
RESPONSE A: First off, file a police report. Then she needs to follow the guide here from identitytheft.gov. Check her credit reports, lock down all accounts, replace credit cards, and make sure they aren't listed as accountholders on anything. Take notes of anything suspicious (new accounts created, recently sent "replacement" cards, etc. u/ThinkerWhoTinkers is right about this being mail and/or wire fraud, and that a restraining order is a good step. I would also suggest she revisit the will with an estate attorney, in case someone was part of the will and the shenanigans (and thus should be removed from the will). However, she can also go after them for trespassing. It is also advisable to check the house and make sure any small valuables didn't vanish. Keepsakes, jewelry, coins, guns, identification documents - visually verify that they are still there. It may be too late to track them down if they were pawned, but it's possible that family members stupidly stole something and kept it. It may be worth it to get a locking residential mailbox, which will limit future attempts to get into her mail.
RESPONSE B: Contact Postmaster General on guy stealing your mail. That's a Federal crime and will start the ball rolling.
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POST: trying to scare her into paying those debts. I found out today due to a collector telling her to contact me and see if I’ll loan her money to pay them or they’ll take her to court and get the money anyway. I told her it’s a scare tactic and that I won’t give her money. She can’t afford much now that my mother ruined her so she offered to pay them smaller monthly payments and they refused. I told her she should of never said she would pay or accept the debt because she has the report to prove it was identity theft but she did so anyways. Her reason was that she already got my mother into enough trouble and she hopes that maybe my mother will forgive her(yes, I told her it should be the other way around). Since I reported it all back in June she’s found out the identity theft was a lot worse than she thought but still refuses to press charges as she feels she doesn’t have the heart to do so. My mother harasses her weekly and despite me blocking her on my grandmother’s phone when asked my grandmother turns around and unblocks her in hopes to build a relationship with her again. Debt collectors call every day, she found out there’s more accounts falsely opened, her savings is very low and she’s always stressed about how she’ll continue living off her fixed income. I’m at my wits end, I keep getting calls from her almost daily crying about this and I always suggest she press charges but she won’t. Im very vocal about how I feel my mother deserves to be charged as I had to file a report in September 2018, at the time of filing I had no clue it was my own mother that stole my identity. When I found out I chickened out of pressing charges as mine was less than $2,000 and the businesses all dropped the debt once they seen the report. I had no clue I wasn’t the first victim she did this too. I’m guessing there isn’t anything that can be done to end this because she won’t press charges herself? If something can be done who do I need to contact? Location: PA, USA
RESPONSE A: Have you considered an adult guardianship or conservatorship?
RESPONSE B: Call your states Adult Protection Services.
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POST: I'm a teacher in CA. A student used my facebook profile picture to create a fake instagram account and sent creepy messages to high school girls. He's fessed up to it and deleted the fake account. What can/should I do? The principal has suspended him and stipulated that he contact everyone and make it known that I had no part. I'm still uncomfortable. He's a 7th grader 12-13 years old.
RESPONSE A: The only other thing I think you need to do is ask that a letter or other written document detailing what has happened be placed in your personnel file with a copy given to you. That way if the incident comes up years later you are covered.
RESPONSE B: I wonder if you can ask the principal to reach out to the local police's community affairs people or a school counselor to have a sit down with our young friend to help him understand the potential consequences of his actions for OP?
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POST: (FL) Husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. My husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. She puts on everything from magazine subscriptions to government documents. All her crap ends up here. She has **never** lived here. We mark all the mail return to sender. She changed her address to ours at the post office and according to a friend of ours(owns a car dealership, she test drive something) she even changed her drivers license. We live in a gated community so it's not like she can take the mail. What can we do to make this stop?
RESPONSE A: This is something that pops up in my practice. Here are some things I have done: * Send Affidavit to local Postmaster. * Send Affidavit to your states DMV * Contact local authorities and file a report for identity theft. Do they work? I don't know, usually I am doing it cause a client is being accused of having an unautorized occupant so these are things to alert people to the issue. Sometimes it stops, sometimes it doesn't, couldn't tell you why or why not.
RESPONSE B: This has happened to me, whereby someone used my address to commit fraud. It's called mail fraud or address fraud. Identity theft also happens this way. You can file a complaint with the USPS.
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POST: (FL) Husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. My husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. She puts on everything from magazine subscriptions to government documents. All her crap ends up here. She has **never** lived here. We mark all the mail return to sender. She changed her address to ours at the post office and according to a friend of ours(owns a car dealership, she test drive something) she even changed her drivers license. We live in a gated community so it's not like she can take the mail. What can we do to make this stop?
RESPONSE A: I don't know what to tell you OP. Hopefully someone else has experience or has heard of this happening before. All I want to say is not to follow Malachi's second post advice (mailing her stuff to her place of employment). While it may not be illegal per se, it's asking for things to escalate higher and faster than they need to. There's a better answer to your problem out there. It's just a matter of figuring it out.
RESPONSE B: This has happened to me, whereby someone used my address to commit fraud. It's called mail fraud or address fraud. Identity theft also happens this way. You can file a complaint with the USPS.
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POST: (FL) Husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. My husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. She puts on everything from magazine subscriptions to government documents. All her crap ends up here. She has **never** lived here. We mark all the mail return to sender. She changed her address to ours at the post office and according to a friend of ours(owns a car dealership, she test drive something) she even changed her drivers license. We live in a gated community so it's not like she can take the mail. What can we do to make this stop?
RESPONSE A: Your husband should report her to the police for harassment clarifying she has never lived at your address and make sure to mention that you have been told she falsified her ID. Also, keep an eye on your credit reports. If you know her actual address, you could inform the senders of this.
RESPONSE B: This has happened to me, whereby someone used my address to commit fraud. It's called mail fraud or address fraud. Identity theft also happens this way. You can file a complaint with the USPS.
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POST: (FL) Husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. My husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. She puts on everything from magazine subscriptions to government documents. All her crap ends up here. She has **never** lived here. We mark all the mail return to sender. She changed her address to ours at the post office and according to a friend of ours(owns a car dealership, she test drive something) she even changed her drivers license. We live in a gated community so it's not like she can take the mail. What can we do to make this stop?
RESPONSE A: This has happened to me, whereby someone used my address to commit fraud. It's called mail fraud or address fraud. Identity theft also happens this way. You can file a complaint with the USPS.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer, but in addition to what everyone else has said, I don't see any reason not to file a police report. She's lying to the government, I'm sure she's broken the law.
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POST: (FL) Husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. My husbands ex-wife keeps claiming to live at our address. She puts on everything from magazine subscriptions to government documents. All her crap ends up here. She has **never** lived here. We mark all the mail return to sender. She changed her address to ours at the post office and according to a friend of ours(owns a car dealership, she test drive something) she even changed her drivers license. We live in a gated community so it's not like she can take the mail. What can we do to make this stop?
RESPONSE A: I don't know what to tell you OP. Hopefully someone else has experience or has heard of this happening before. All I want to say is not to follow Malachi's second post advice (mailing her stuff to her place of employment). While it may not be illegal per se, it's asking for things to escalate higher and faster than they need to. There's a better answer to your problem out there. It's just a matter of figuring it out.
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POST: days, we have joint legal custody of our children, she has threatened to leave with the country with the children in the past. It's Fathers day and still nothing. What are my options? My ex has physical custody but we're still working on getting permanent custody orders; we both want physical custody of the children as we live in different states. The temporary orders give her physical custody but we share legal custody. I get 3 calls a week (which I rarely get), and the children are to made available to me when I am in the state (California). She had a fight with her parents (with whom she lives) and said she was going to move out. This was on Thursday, we talked briefly on Friday morning because I was supposed to visit with our children, but she canceled last minute. Since then she has not answered any of my texts or calls, she is also not answering her parents calls. It's now Fathers day, I've texted her to see if I can see them today with no response. In the past she threatened to take the kids to Mexico, she has family there and I don't speak Spanish; also both of our children have their passports. I'm afraid she's going to take them and I might never see them again. What are my options?
RESPONSE A: The only advice anyone can give you is to get a family law attorney to read your agreement and react according to what's reasonable for the facts and the agreement. It's cliche for the sub, but it's true.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer but I have gone through this situation in California. Contact the State Department and get the passport flagged. Here is their website for Child Abduction prevention. Meet with an attorney (California has Certified Family Law Specialists) and get a ex parte order and have the child's passport kept by your attorney. Have your custody order modified to indicate that the passport can only be released by stipulation with a court order. The D.A's office may issue an alert to nearby airports and airlines. Have a copy of your child's and ex wife's photo ready so they can transmit it to law enforcement and the airlines at the airports. Act NOW. Don't wait.
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POST: s Fathers day and still nothing. What are my options? My ex has physical custody but we're still working on getting permanent custody orders; we both want physical custody of the children as we live in different states. The temporary orders give her physical custody but we share legal custody. I get 3 calls a week (which I rarely get), and the children are to made available to me when I am in the state (California). She had a fight with her parents (with whom she lives) and said she was going to move out. This was on Thursday, we talked briefly on Friday morning because I was supposed to visit with our children, but she canceled last minute. Since then she has not answered any of my texts or calls, she is also not answering her parents calls. It's now Fathers day, I've texted her to see if I can see them today with no response. In the past she threatened to take the kids to Mexico, she has family there and I don't speak Spanish; also both of our children have their passports. I'm afraid she's going to take them and I might never see them again. What are my options?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer but I have gone through this situation in California. Contact the State Department and get the passport flagged. Here is their website for Child Abduction prevention. Meet with an attorney (California has Certified Family Law Specialists) and get a ex parte order and have the child's passport kept by your attorney. Have your custody order modified to indicate that the passport can only be released by stipulation with a court order. The D.A's office may issue an alert to nearby airports and airlines. Have a copy of your child's and ex wife's photo ready so they can transmit it to law enforcement and the airlines at the airports. Act NOW. Don't wait.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. In the case of her attempting to leave the country, I would recommend reaching out to the Office of Children’s Issues at the State Department; they deal with passports for minors, among other things—for instance, if your ex wife were ordered to surrender the children’s passports to the court pending a final custody order.
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POST: past. It's Fathers day and still nothing. What are my options? My ex has physical custody but we're still working on getting permanent custody orders; we both want physical custody of the children as we live in different states. The temporary orders give her physical custody but we share legal custody. I get 3 calls a week (which I rarely get), and the children are to made available to me when I am in the state (California). She had a fight with her parents (with whom she lives) and said she was going to move out. This was on Thursday, we talked briefly on Friday morning because I was supposed to visit with our children, but she canceled last minute. Since then she has not answered any of my texts or calls, she is also not answering her parents calls. It's now Fathers day, I've texted her to see if I can see them today with no response. In the past she threatened to take the kids to Mexico, she has family there and I don't speak Spanish; also both of our children have their passports. I'm afraid she's going to take them and I might never see them again. What are my options?
RESPONSE A: I am a lawyer, but not in CA. Something would need to be filed with the Court if you don’t hear from them or you find they’ve left. It sounds like proceedings are underway, and this may be considered an emergency to allow for expedited processes to at least get something ordered about passports of the children. Best of luck.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer but I have gone through this situation in California. Contact the State Department and get the passport flagged. Here is their website for Child Abduction prevention. Meet with an attorney (California has Certified Family Law Specialists) and get a ex parte order and have the child's passport kept by your attorney. Have your custody order modified to indicate that the passport can only be released by stipulation with a court order. The D.A's office may issue an alert to nearby airports and airlines. Have a copy of your child's and ex wife's photo ready so they can transmit it to law enforcement and the airlines at the airports. Act NOW. Don't wait.
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POST: has physical custody but we're still working on getting permanent custody orders; we both want physical custody of the children as we live in different states. The temporary orders give her physical custody but we share legal custody. I get 3 calls a week (which I rarely get), and the children are to made available to me when I am in the state (California). She had a fight with her parents (with whom she lives) and said she was going to move out. This was on Thursday, we talked briefly on Friday morning because I was supposed to visit with our children, but she canceled last minute. Since then she has not answered any of my texts or calls, she is also not answering her parents calls. It's now Fathers day, I've texted her to see if I can see them today with no response. In the past she threatened to take the kids to Mexico, she has family there and I don't speak Spanish; also both of our children have their passports. I'm afraid she's going to take them and I might never see them again. What are my options?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer but I have gone through this situation in California. Contact the State Department and get the passport flagged. Here is their website for Child Abduction prevention. Meet with an attorney (California has Certified Family Law Specialists) and get a ex parte order and have the child's passport kept by your attorney. Have your custody order modified to indicate that the passport can only be released by stipulation with a court order. The D.A's office may issue an alert to nearby airports and airlines. Have a copy of your child's and ex wife's photo ready so they can transmit it to law enforcement and the airlines at the airports. Act NOW. Don't wait.
RESPONSE B: It is time to call the police where she lives for a welfare check on the children. Did she go off in a vehicle? Police may issue a BOLO (be on the lookout). If she has behavioral health or substance abuse problems, or the children are medically vulnerable, the police may issue an Amber Alert. They may also be able to find out if she and the kids have crossed the US-Mexico border.
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POST: Ex-wife has stopped communicating with me and her parents for several days, we have joint legal custody of our children, she has threatened to leave with the country with the children in the past. It's Fathers day and still nothing. What are my options? My ex has physical custody but we're still working on getting permanent custody orders; we both want physical custody of the children as we live in different states. The temporary orders give her physical custody but we share legal custody. I get 3 calls a week (which I rarely get), and the children are to made available to me when I am in the state (California). She had a fight with her parents (with whom she lives) and said she was going to move out. This was on Thursday, we talked briefly on Friday morning because I was supposed to visit with our children, but she canceled last minute. Since then she has not answered any of my texts or calls, she is also not answering her parents calls. It's now Fathers day, I've texted her to see if I can see them today with no response. In the past she threatened to take the kids to Mexico, she has family there and I don't speak Spanish; also both of our children have their passports. I'm afraid she's going to take them and I might never see them again. What are my options?
RESPONSE A: Check if the court can hold their passports.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer but I have gone through this situation in California. Contact the State Department and get the passport flagged. Here is their website for Child Abduction prevention. Meet with an attorney (California has Certified Family Law Specialists) and get a ex parte order and have the child's passport kept by your attorney. Have your custody order modified to indicate that the passport can only be released by stipulation with a court order. The D.A's office may issue an alert to nearby airports and airlines. Have a copy of your child's and ex wife's photo ready so they can transmit it to law enforcement and the airlines at the airports. Act NOW. Don't wait.
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POST: to spend more time with me, and she has shown absolutely no discomfort throughout the overnights so far. I contacted my child's medical care provider about it, and pretty much all they said was that they don't like to get in the middle of these conflicts, which I totally understand. But am I within my right to ask them to strike that note from my daughter's records? If not, what other options do I have here? I'm aware that my ex could potentially be lining me up for a visit from CPS and I'm beyond prepared for it, but is there anything more proactive that I can do to get this all to stop somehow? My only thought is to attend every single appointment, but that's tough to manage with my work schedule. Any advice is greatly appreciated. -- **TL;DR - Ex wife made false claims to child's healthcare provider that I have a diagnosed mental illness, that I'm unstable, and that my child is suffering from symptoms of trauma and distress now that she spends nights at my residence. None of it's true. What can I do?**
RESPONSE A: The subjective portion of medical documentation is just that, subjective. The child or parent can say anything and the provider can and/or will document that it was stated during the visit in their note. That is not an official diagnosis of you. It is just record of a statement. No one can diagnosis you with a disorder without an actual evaluation of yourself. Their is no way to have this removed, and it isn’t against the law for a medical provider to document things told to them during a visit even if you believe them not to be true. I don’t know how or if this could be used against you but that would be a question for your attorney handling your custody case.
RESPONSE B: When you called the doctors office, did you specifically ask what the procedure is for correcting your child’s medical record? As long as you are a legal guardian, you should be able to fill out a form requesting that the erroneous family history be corrected. I think this has less to do with custody and more to do with the possibility that the incorrect notation that you have a hereditable mental illness might affect her diagnosis and treatment.
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POST: Neighbor trespassed into our backyard and cut down our tree... Can we do anything? Hi all, So my backyard is completely fenced in. We have a few small trees along the perimeter of our property. Apparently our neighbor (we share a backyard property border, so he is directly behind us) knocked on our door this morning, but since we didn’t answer, felt he was entitled to hop our fence with a chainsaw and cut down our tree. The tree was fully on our property, with some of the branches above the fence line and going onto his property. He then left the entire tree in our backyard and left. We came home and when confronting him, said he was doing us a favor but that he would help us “clean our yard up tomorrow”. Do we have any rights to legal action??? His sense of entitlement is just blowing my mind right now. Please advise! Thank you!!
RESPONSE A: And the neighbor was so happy, he even admitted to cutting it, and is willing to haul it off your property at no cost? Well, then that Tree has value. OP, if your neighbor didn't like your tree, then cutting it down, and making it your problem, would make this simple. But since neighbor volunteered to haul it off, then the lumber has potential value. Don't let neighbor back onto your property until you've gotten a arborist to appraise your tree. Oak Tree? What type of tree is it? Would it's root system help ensure erosion of your land won't occur. Besides the fence line, what else does that tree have value to you? Privacy? OP, seek your next steps ASAP.
RESPONSE B: Oh boy. You have stumbled into a situation covered by …. Tree law. Look up tree law for your state. Collect photos, contact an arborist, and have the police file a report and trespass your neighbor. Tree law is designed to prevent logging where it shouldn’t happen so the damages you are entitled to are often magnified depending on the state you’re in.
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POST: to legal action??? His sense of entitlement is just blowing my mind right now. Please advise! Thank you!!
RESPONSE A: Oh boy. You have stumbled into a situation covered by …. Tree law. Look up tree law for your state. Collect photos, contact an arborist, and have the police file a report and trespass your neighbor. Tree law is designed to prevent logging where it shouldn’t happen so the damages you are entitled to are often magnified depending on the state you’re in.
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Title: **Neighbor trespassed into our backyard and cut down our tree… Can we do anything?**
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> Hi all, > > So my backyard is completely fenced in. We have a few small trees along the perimeter of our property. Apparently our neighbor (we share a backyard property border, so he is directly behind us) knocked on our door this morning, but since we didn’t answer, felt he was entitled to hop our fence with a chainsaw and cut down our tree. The tree was fully on our property, with some of the branches above the fence line and going onto his property. > > He then left the entire tree in our backyard and left. We came home and when confronting him, said he was doing us a favor but that he would help us “clean our yard up tomorrow”. > > Do we have any rights to legal action??? His sense of entitlement is just blowing my mind right now. Please advise! Thank you!!
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POST: spassed into our backyard and cut down our tree... Can we do anything? Hi all, So my backyard is completely fenced in. We have a few small trees along the perimeter of our property. Apparently our neighbor (we share a backyard property border, so he is directly behind us) knocked on our door this morning, but since we didn’t answer, felt he was entitled to hop our fence with a chainsaw and cut down our tree. The tree was fully on our property, with some of the branches above the fence line and going onto his property. He then left the entire tree in our backyard and left. We came home and when confronting him, said he was doing us a favor but that he would help us “clean our yard up tomorrow”. Do we have any rights to legal action??? His sense of entitlement is just blowing my mind right now. Please advise! Thank you!!
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer. Tree law is a real thing. File a report and call an arborist. Depending on the type of tree, it could be worth a lot of money but more the entitlement is unreal and he deserves some kind of consequence.
RESPONSE B: If you can, get it in writing (text counts) or on recording (adhering to one- and two-party laws in your state) that he took it on himself to cut it down. Bonus if he admits to the trespass. Reason being is one, to protect yourself from him claiming you asked him to do it; and two, in some states (you didn't mention yours) you may be entitled to treble (up to triple) damages for such an intentional destruction of a tree. Damages may not be just the value of the wood, or the cost of stump removal and a sapling, either. Since you wanted the tree and he did this without your permission, you may be entitled to the cost of replacing the tree with one of like size, health, and age, including labor and transportation. Before he can haul the tree away, get a quote (or quotes) from an arborist(s) as to the , and find a lawyer who is skilled in tree law. Yes, that's a thing.
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POST: (NJ) Dad wants to use my birth certificate to help him get a green card but I said no and so far he has my SSN. Can he use my info without me giving consent? Basically my dad kicked me out a month ago and cut me off. After not speaking to me for a month he calls me asking for my birth certificate but I said no. Can he still use my info without my consent?
RESPONSE A: Immigration attorney here. You are likely 21 (or just turned) and he is trying to prepare an I-130 Immediate relative petition on his behalf. The problem is, the I-130 petition is supposed to be filed by YOU As the petitioner. The only way he would be able to submit this form is if he forged your signature on the I-130 petition. If you are afraid that he’s going to do this, you can always call USCIS give them his name and date of birth and explain that he may have attempted to file a fraudulent I-130 petition claiming you as the petitioner. If he did, this will amount to materially misrepresenting a material fact and will create a ground of inadmissibility for him to get his green card.
RESPONSE B: He can use your information but it would be fraud. Freeze your credit now and keep track of your credit reports.
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RESPONSE A: Immigration attorney here. You are likely 21 (or just turned) and he is trying to prepare an I-130 Immediate relative petition on his behalf. The problem is, the I-130 petition is supposed to be filed by YOU As the petitioner. The only way he would be able to submit this form is if he forged your signature on the I-130 petition. If you are afraid that he’s going to do this, you can always call USCIS give them his name and date of birth and explain that he may have attempted to file a fraudulent I-130 petition claiming you as the petitioner. If he did, this will amount to materially misrepresenting a material fact and will create a ground of inadmissibility for him to get his green card.
RESPONSE B: Any one person who is listed on the birth certificate can order one either online or at a clerks office in person, in the county in which you were born.
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RESPONSE A: He can use your information but it would be fraud. Freeze your credit now and keep track of your credit reports.
RESPONSE B: Any one person who is listed on the birth certificate can order one either online or at a clerks office in person, in the county in which you were born.
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RESPONSE A: As your parent he can order a new birth certificate for you from the state. Don’t remind him of this. If he used your ssn to open a bank account, that is identity theft. You should a) pull your free credit report, b) make a police report about any and all fraudulent accounts you find, c) contact the banks etc to let them know about the identity theft, d) dispute the accounts on your credit report in order to restore your credit. There are detailed guides for doing this on r/personalfinance. It’s very common for parents to steal their children’s identities in this way and it can have terrible consequences for you down the line. Future You will be very grateful to Present You if you handle this now, before you find out about $80k of fraudulent debt when you first try to get a mortgage.
RESPONSE B: Any one person who is listed on the birth certificate can order one either online or at a clerks office in person, in the county in which you were born.
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POST: Signed a lease with a property management company but the owner is saying they messed up and had everything all wrong and we might have to move again I’m in Pennsylvania So I signed a lease for a 1 bedroom apartment with a property management company for a year for $800 a month, paid a pet deposit fee and a security deposit along with my first months we are in the process of moving in we already got the key signed the lease and everything. The owner of the actual house walked in, and spoke with me a bit about how he doesn’t allow pets, and I say it was allowed on my lease and I paid a pet fee deposit already plus they add money on each month per pet. Then he goes and asks how much rent we pay them and I tell him and he says oh no no that’s wrong that’s not supposed to be that they messed up big time you might have to move again. But I already signed a year lease, paid a couple of friends and people that I know to move my furniture a lot of money we are basically almost all moved in. He told me he has to call the property management company tomorrow and then call me back. What are my options here? I can’t afford another move and I’m already a few thousand dollars into this move w/ the deposits and hiring people and buying packing supplies and etc. Can they even do that?
RESPONSE A: He's wrong.
RESPONSE B: You have a lease that binds him as much as you. If he wants to break it, he'll need to pay you to get your agreement. That means complete costs to move, all deposits and a couple months rent for your trouble.
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POST: Signed a lease with a property management company but the owner is saying they messed up and had everything all wrong and we might have to move again I’m in Pennsylvania So I signed a lease for a 1 bedroom apartment with a property management company for a year for $800 a month, paid a pet deposit fee and a security deposit along with my first months we are in the process of moving in we already got the key signed the lease and everything. The owner of the actual house walked in, and spoke with me a bit about how he doesn’t allow pets, and I say it was allowed on my lease and I paid a pet fee deposit already plus they add money on each month per pet. Then he goes and asks how much rent we pay them and I tell him and he says oh no no that’s wrong that’s not supposed to be that they messed up big time you might have to move again. But I already signed a year lease, paid a couple of friends and people that I know to move my furniture a lot of money we are basically almost all moved in. He told me he has to call the property management company tomorrow and then call me back. What are my options here? I can’t afford another move and I’m already a few thousand dollars into this move w/ the deposits and hiring people and buying packing supplies and etc. Can they even do that?
RESPONSE A: Is the lease fully signed; ie, did someone either the property management company or the owner sign the lease too? Do you have a copy of the lease signed by both sides? I could see him trying to claim that he didn’t sign and the property company wasn’t authorized to bind him. Just have your ducks in a row.
RESPONSE B: The property management company are his agents. He allowed them to do business on his behalf. You have a legally binding contract and he will need to take this up with the company he hired. You really aren't even obligated to speak to him.
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POST: process of moving in we already got the key signed the lease and everything. The owner of the actual house walked in, and spoke with me a bit about how he doesn’t allow pets, and I say it was allowed on my lease and I paid a pet fee deposit already plus they add money on each month per pet. Then he goes and asks how much rent we pay them and I tell him and he says oh no no that’s wrong that’s not supposed to be that they messed up big time you might have to move again. But I already signed a year lease, paid a couple of friends and people that I know to move my furniture a lot of money we are basically almost all moved in. He told me he has to call the property management company tomorrow and then call me back. What are my options here? I can’t afford another move and I’m already a few thousand dollars into this move w/ the deposits and hiring people and buying packing supplies and etc. Can they even do that?
RESPONSE A: Is the lease fully signed; ie, did someone either the property management company or the owner sign the lease too? Do you have a copy of the lease signed by both sides? I could see him trying to claim that he didn’t sign and the property company wasn’t authorized to bind him. Just have your ducks in a row.
RESPONSE B: The obvious question here is are you positive that this is the owner and not someone who thinks they are being funny? This just smells fishy to me. If he is local why is he using a property management company, and if he is using a property management company why is he showing up at the house unannounced at all? The only other thing I can think of is that the PM company screwed up and signed you a lease for the wrong property. If that is the case and there is an actual property that is vacant and the lease can be transferred to they should offer you that choice, otherwise the screwup is on the PM and they have to make it right with the home owner and you are under no obligation to move until the end of your lease. Make sure you are prepared to move at the end of the lease though.
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RESPONSE A: On top of what everyone else is telling you, I advise you to look into PA's rules on "quiet enjoyment" as they apply to the state's landlord-tenant laws. A quick Google search tells me they're fairly standard, but as I don't live there and am largely unfamiliar, don't go solely by what i say here. But quiet enjoyment basically means that you have the right to not be constantly bothered by your landlord, the owner, their agents, etc. If the owner continues to harass you, tell him you need to hear any additional issues directly from the mgmt company and don't engage him further, and also contact the mgmt company yourself about this. Any professional mgmt company worth their salt is going to be bothered by a rogue owner getting all up in a tenant's business, and they *should* try to rein him in. Also reach out to your local tenant rights group on what steps you need to be taking next if the owner continues to harass or if the mgmt company tries to change/rescind your lease.
RESPONSE B: Is the lease fully signed; ie, did someone either the property management company or the owner sign the lease too? Do you have a copy of the lease signed by both sides? I could see him trying to claim that he didn’t sign and the property company wasn’t authorized to bind him. Just have your ducks in a row.
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POST: payments throughout the summer for the full $2300, plus any associate fees". and "Regardless of your son's ability to attend, you are responsible for the full amount. We won't be refunding or returning any fees or costs." These are the important sentences in their email to me. So they want me to provide the full cost of the care during my child's summer program with them, do absolutely nothing with or for him, and charge me the full amount. The director went as far to say that he couldn't be in the center without me there because her workers weren't special needs workers. Fine. She is right, they aren't but I checked I cleared this with the original management. I talked to the previous director many times before signing anything or paying anything. I tried to make sure that this program was able to meet his needs. I have the emails from both the former management (outlining the accommodations they would make for him and that they were ok with him needing those and attending) and the new management (saying they couldn't honors those but would be keeping my money anyway). Am I going to have to eat my $2300 plus $300 and associated fees here? First charge goes on the card starting in May. The program is in high demand so they won't have an issue filling his spot.
RESPONSE A: This is where you need to push back against the camp and show that you will not be bullied. You should respond with a short email to the effect of, “If you do not immediately refund my application fees and confirm a release of me from the financial obligations of this contract, I am prepared to direct my attorneys to pursue all applicable legal remedies against the camp for fraudulent inducement of the contract and discrimination under the Americans with Disabilities Act or similar statutory protections.” Or you can hire a local attorney to send a fancier and more intimidating version of the same. Best to create this paper trail ahead of time before he starts billing you.
RESPONSE B: I don't know too much on this issue but I have two things to say. I'm pretty sure this goes against ADA. And that makes me sick that they're doing that to your son. I can't imagine someone getting my son and I hopes up like that and then trying to back out.
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POST: he couldn't be in the center without me there because her workers weren't special needs workers. Fine. She is right, they aren't but I checked I cleared this with the original management. I talked to the previous director many times before signing anything or paying anything. I tried to make sure that this program was able to meet his needs. I have the emails from both the former management (outlining the accommodations they would make for him and that they were ok with him needing those and attending) and the new management (saying they couldn't honors those but would be keeping my money anyway). Am I going to have to eat my $2300 plus $300 and associated fees here? First charge goes on the card starting in May. The program is in high demand so they won't have an issue filling his spot.
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer. First of all, I’m sorry for how difficult it is for things like this. No one understands with special needs kids parents go through. You did everything you could to work it out before giving them any money. They offered accommodations. You have it in writing (email.) My guess is that rules for summer camps are different from public schools to a degree, but that there are some ADA compliance requirements everywhere. Even if there aren’t, once they offered, they offered compliance, and it is not at all your problem that ownership or management changed hands, it’s theirs. I’d find an ADA expert attorney, and, again, I’m just guessing here, but 2300 is going to be the least of their problems. Good luck.
RESPONSE B: This is where you need to push back against the camp and show that you will not be bullied. You should respond with a short email to the effect of, “If you do not immediately refund my application fees and confirm a release of me from the financial obligations of this contract, I am prepared to direct my attorneys to pursue all applicable legal remedies against the camp for fraudulent inducement of the contract and discrimination under the Americans with Disabilities Act or similar statutory protections.” Or you can hire a local attorney to send a fancier and more intimidating version of the same. Best to create this paper trail ahead of time before he starts billing you.
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POST: sure. "With the changes from a center based summer program to a more field trip heavy summer program, we don't have the staff, training or ability to meet your child's need during the program." and " The contract your signed specifies that you are responsible for the monthly payments throughout the summer for the full $2300, plus any associate fees". and "Regardless of your son's ability to attend, you are responsible for the full amount. We won't be refunding or returning any fees or costs." These are the important sentences in their email to me. So they want me to provide the full cost of the care during my child's summer program with them, do absolutely nothing with or for him, and charge me the full amount. The director went as far to say that he couldn't be in the center without me there because her workers weren't special needs workers. Fine. She is right, they aren't but I checked I cleared this with the original management. I talked to the previous director many times before signing anything or paying anything. I tried to make sure that this program was able to meet his needs. I have the emails from both the former management (outlining the accommodations they would make for him and that they were ok with him needing those and attending) and the new management (saying they couldn't honors those but would be keeping my money anyway). Am I going to have to eat my $2300 plus $300 and associated fees here? First charge goes on the card starting in May. The program is in high demand so they won't have an issue filling his spot.
RESPONSE A: This is where you need to push back against the camp and show that you will not be bullied. You should respond with a short email to the effect of, “If you do not immediately refund my application fees and confirm a release of me from the financial obligations of this contract, I am prepared to direct my attorneys to pursue all applicable legal remedies against the camp for fraudulent inducement of the contract and discrimination under the Americans with Disabilities Act or similar statutory protections.” Or you can hire a local attorney to send a fancier and more intimidating version of the same. Best to create this paper trail ahead of time before he starts billing you.
RESPONSE B: Contact your credit card company
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POST: we forgot to mention the commercial unit” As the title says, we signed a lease for a house after viewing the entire house with the landlord. The lease has a single address, no unit number, and makes no mention of another unit. When we arrived in the first of the month with our keys, a door with a deadbolt has been installed dividing the main floor in two, and a commercial lease sign has been out in the window. The landlord has apologized for their mistake, and offered a 50% discount on one months rent. They have cut off 1000sq ft of the house they showed us, and have been dismissive of our problem, saying they are sorry for the mistake, but it is what it is. I know the next step is a lawyer, but time and money are short, what can I realistically expect as an outcome? Is it worth the hassle and expense of pursuing?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer Did you move in? Is there any chance you have copies of the original ad for the place or any photos? Save those now. Even any correspondence with friends or anyone that you had about the place describing it etc. If the landlord put anything in writing about their "mistake" keep that as well. They will likely suggest that you already knew that it wasn't part of the rented apartment. and you will need to demonstrate otherwise. 1000sq ft is worth pursuing, not only for the space but also because sharing a house opens up all manner of additional questions about noise, foot traffic, garbage disposal, privacy, the use of common elements etc. You can contact your local community legal clinic. They are well-versed in landlord-tenant issues.
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POST: Ontario - Landlord showed us a rental house, we signed lease for the house. On move-in day we arrive to find the main floor divided in half, the other half is now for lease as a commercial property. Landlords response is “sorry, we forgot to mention the commercial unit” As the title says, we signed a lease for a house after viewing the entire house with the landlord. The lease has a single address, no unit number, and makes no mention of another unit. When we arrived in the first of the month with our keys, a door with a deadbolt has been installed dividing the main floor in two, and a commercial lease sign has been out in the window. The landlord has apologized for their mistake, and offered a 50% discount on one months rent. They have cut off 1000sq ft of the house they showed us, and have been dismissive of our problem, saying they are sorry for the mistake, but it is what it is. I know the next step is a lawyer, but time and money are short, what can I realistically expect as an outcome? Is it worth the hassle and expense of pursuing?
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RESPONSE B: Sounds like a bait and switch scenario to me. You signed a lease for exclusive use of the property, not to split it 50/50 with another rental.
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POST: Ontario - Landlord showed us a rental house, we signed lease for the house. On move-in day we arrive to find the main floor divided in half, the other half is now for lease as a commercial property. Landlords response is “sorry, we forgot to mention the commercial unit” As the title says, we signed a lease for a house after viewing the entire house with the landlord. The lease has a single address, no unit number, and makes no mention of another unit. When we arrived in the first of the month with our keys, a door with a deadbolt has been installed dividing the main floor in two, and a commercial lease sign has been out in the window. The landlord has apologized for their mistake, and offered a 50% discount on one months rent. They have cut off 1000sq ft of the house they showed us, and have been dismissive of our problem, saying they are sorry for the mistake, but it is what it is. I know the next step is a lawyer, but time and money are short, what can I realistically expect as an outcome? Is it worth the hassle and expense of pursuing?
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: Where to get help Contact the Landlord and Tenant Board, Monday to Friday from 8:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m., by mail, fax, in-person or by telephone (toll free at 1-888-332-3234), to learn more about your rights and responsibilities. They would be able to answer your questions. They take their jobs pretty seriously.
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POST: now for lease as a commercial property. Landlords response is “sorry, we forgot to mention the commercial unit” As the title says, we signed a lease for a house after viewing the entire house with the landlord. The lease has a single address, no unit number, and makes no mention of another unit. When we arrived in the first of the month with our keys, a door with a deadbolt has been installed dividing the main floor in two, and a commercial lease sign has been out in the window. The landlord has apologized for their mistake, and offered a 50% discount on one months rent. They have cut off 1000sq ft of the house they showed us, and have been dismissive of our problem, saying they are sorry for the mistake, but it is what it is. I know the next step is a lawyer, but time and money are short, what can I realistically expect as an outcome? Is it worth the hassle and expense of pursuing?
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: Hi OP! Not a lawyer, but someone who's been around law offices for a while in Ontario. It definitely sounds like you might be pushing into lawyer territory here, and while you might be able to go through the LTB on your own (which is a great thing to have), you may also benefit from having some help with it. The Law Society of Ontario (LSO) has a referral service available on their website for both lawyers AND paralegals. https://lso.ca/public-resources/finding-a-lawyer-or-paralegal/law-society-referral-service Hope this helps, and best of luck!
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POST: Ontario - Landlord showed us a rental house, we signed lease for the house. On move-in day we arrive to find the main floor divided in half, the other half is now for lease as a commercial property. Landlords response is “sorry, we forgot to mention the commercial unit” As the title says, we signed a lease for a house after viewing the entire house with the landlord. The lease has a single address, no unit number, and makes no mention of another unit. When we arrived in the first of the month with our keys, a door with a deadbolt has been installed dividing the main floor in two, and a commercial lease sign has been out in the window. The landlord has apologized for their mistake, and offered a 50% discount on one months rent. They have cut off 1000sq ft of the house they showed us, and have been dismissive of our problem, saying they are sorry for the mistake, but it is what it is. I know the next step is a lawyer, but time and money are short, what can I realistically expect as an outcome? Is it worth the hassle and expense of pursuing?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, but I feel like the lease is key here. What sq footage is listed? If what’s listed includes the “commercial unit” then I’d imagine you’re entitled to a discount on more than the 1st months rent. Lawyer time though. No question.
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POST: company misinformed me. I have a transcript of the conversation sent by them proving it, but they still won’t help make it right. Needing help/advice with negotiating medical bills TL;DR at the bottom So, I was bit by a stray cat, and my MD recommended I get the rabies pep course. I'm a single dude, living on my own, and I chatted with my insurance to see if they would cover it. The rep said they would "cover it 100%." Turns out, that was a bald face lie. I have a transcript of the conversation emailed to me FROM Humana, but now I have to front over $3,000 out of pocket. I tried to explain that to Humana, but they said they weren't able to do anything and to talk to the provider (UofL Health - STS Mary and Elizabeth Hospital). So, I talked to the UofL Health's billing department, and they did a check on all the codes just to make sure things were cool. I guess they were, because I just got the bill in the mail for 3.2k. I checked their medical debt forgiveness policy, and I make just barely above the 300% poverty line where they forgive your bills completely. I don't have 3.2k to my name though. I have never had a bill this large before, and I have no clue what to do. I'm kinda freaking out. I’m 27, and just trying to survive. This whole thing has be back on my anxiety medication and everything. TL;DR My insurance didn't cover something they said they would, and now I need advice on how to get my $3.2k bill reduced to avoid going completely bankrupt.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, Make sure it was coded as a "POST EXPOSURE" not pre-exposure. Rabies shots should be covered 100% as preventative care if your doctor recommended it after the bite.
RESPONSE B: You likely have no recourse. What a customer service rep says over the phone will never trump your actual insurance policy. It sounds like this WAS covered by your insurance however you hadn’t met your deductible so again, no recourse.
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POST: emailed to me FROM Humana, but now I have to front over $3,000 out of pocket. I tried to explain that to Humana, but they said they weren't able to do anything and to talk to the provider (UofL Health - STS Mary and Elizabeth Hospital). So, I talked to the UofL Health's billing department, and they did a check on all the codes just to make sure things were cool. I guess they were, because I just got the bill in the mail for 3.2k. I checked their medical debt forgiveness policy, and I make just barely above the 300% poverty line where they forgive your bills completely. I don't have 3.2k to my name though. I have never had a bill this large before, and I have no clue what to do. I'm kinda freaking out. I’m 27, and just trying to survive. This whole thing has be back on my anxiety medication and everything. TL;DR My insurance didn't cover something they said they would, and now I need advice on how to get my $3.2k bill reduced to avoid going completely bankrupt.
RESPONSE A: They do cover it, but I'm guessing that you have a deductible, Coinsurance, or copay that needs to be met before they make any payment. What is the $3,200 labeled as?
RESPONSE B: 1. Have you reached your deductible? A lot of health insurance plans can have annual deductibles far higher than $3000. 2. Hospitals can be flexible with payment. Call the billing department back and tell them your insurance won't be covering the procedure, and so you'll need an itemized bill and you want to arrange a payment plan. Go into the meeting with the payment coordinator with an idea of how much you can afford to pay per month. 3. It is possible the $3000 bill was printed and mailed to you despite being under review. Hospitals don't always stop mailings even while something is being double checked, so on the call with the billing department you should ask about the status of the review you requested. 4. Some drug manufacturers have assistance programs if you were treated with their product. Get started here: https://www.cdc.gov/rabies/medical_care/programs.html
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RESPONSE A: You likely have no recourse. What a customer service rep says over the phone will never trump your actual insurance policy. It sounds like this WAS covered by your insurance however you hadn’t met your deductible so again, no recourse.
RESPONSE B: 1. Have you reached your deductible? A lot of health insurance plans can have annual deductibles far higher than $3000. 2. Hospitals can be flexible with payment. Call the billing department back and tell them your insurance won't be covering the procedure, and so you'll need an itemized bill and you want to arrange a payment plan. Go into the meeting with the payment coordinator with an idea of how much you can afford to pay per month. 3. It is possible the $3000 bill was printed and mailed to you despite being under review. Hospitals don't always stop mailings even while something is being double checked, so on the call with the billing department you should ask about the status of the review you requested. 4. Some drug manufacturers have assistance programs if you were treated with their product. Get started here: https://www.cdc.gov/rabies/medical_care/programs.html
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POST: did not comply. When I returned from vacation last week, I came home to two tree stumps, mashed up grass, and a letter telling me to expect a venmo payment for $2000. I know that trees are well loved around here, but I don't think that this information is common knowledge to all lawyers. What should I bring up when I meet with a legal representative to explore my punitive retribution?
RESPONSE A: > What should I bring up when I meet with a legal representative to explore my punitive retribution? Nothing more than what you've told us is necessary. However, it might help if you get some estimates for the cost of replacing those trees with the same species *and same sizes* as the ones your neighbor stole. (Your damages aren't necessarily just the value of the timber.) Also, I would call the police. This could plausibly have been a crime beyond trespass, e.g., vandalism or grand larceny.
RESPONSE B: Tree Owner Rights and Responsibilities Landowners’ tree rights limit nuisance claims and trespass regarding cutting, trimming or removing trees that extend beyond property boundaries, especially abutting easements for streets and utility lines. According to the trespass law, Tenn. Code Ann. § 39-14-405 (2014), others are not allowed to harm a landowner’s trees. Persons cutting, removing or otherwise harming a tree can be liable for double or triple the value of the tree if the trespass is upheld. As in the case of Jack Jones v. Melvin Johnson, Johnson trespassed onto Jones’s property and made several deep chainsaw cuts into a large black walnut tree, killing it. Jones had to pay to have the tree removed, and the court awarded Jones more than five times the amount he had to pay to have it removed. Jones v. Johnson, M2002-01286-COA-R3-CV, LEXIS 423 (Tenn. Ct. App. June 4, 2003). https://extension.tennessee.edu/publications/Documents/SP687.pdf
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POST: Neighbor cut down a tree in our yard: Tree Law and shitty MS Paint maps AL] Now that I have your attention, yeah, that's the gist of it. The neighbor went and cut down a tree in our yard. Now, at first look, it seems like it'd be in his yard. Except we've had the property surveyed, and it is (was) on our property. Hell, even part of his driveway is on our property. [My magnum opus. So, obviously we're going to need a lawyer, and they're going to have a field day with it. Is there anything in particular we'd need to document to make a strong case? I've already got pictures of the stump of the tree before he could grind it out, but what else might be necessary? I'm in Mobile, AL.
RESPONSE A: Take a screen shot from Google Earth right away before new images are posted without the tree. That can help establish information about the tree like its size.
RESPONSE B: u/xHeero Nailed it... Best of luck in court! But did the neighbor say why he cut down your tree? Was it just a spite thing because it's shedding leaves onto his property?
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POST: Neighbor cut down a tree in our yard: Tree Law and shitty MS Paint maps AL] Now that I have your attention, yeah, that's the gist of it. The neighbor went and cut down a tree in our yard. Now, at first look, it seems like it'd be in his yard. Except we've had the property surveyed, and it is (was) on our property. Hell, even part of his driveway is on our property. [My magnum opus. So, obviously we're going to need a lawyer, and they're going to have a field day with it. Is there anything in particular we'd need to document to make a strong case? I've already got pictures of the stump of the tree before he could grind it out, but what else might be necessary? I'm in Mobile, AL.
RESPONSE A: Do you by chance live in a historic district as they may have broken some by-laws as well.
RESPONSE B: Take a screen shot from Google Earth right away before new images are posted without the tree. That can help establish information about the tree like its size.
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POST: Neighbor cut down a tree in our yard: Tree Law and shitty MS Paint maps AL] Now that I have your attention, yeah, that's the gist of it. The neighbor went and cut down a tree in our yard. Now, at first look, it seems like it'd be in his yard. Except we've had the property surveyed, and it is (was) on our property. Hell, even part of his driveway is on our property. [My magnum opus. So, obviously we're going to need a lawyer, and they're going to have a field day with it. Is there anything in particular we'd need to document to make a strong case? I've already got pictures of the stump of the tree before he could grind it out, but what else might be necessary? I'm in Mobile, AL.
RESPONSE A: You say, at first look it would be in his yard. Is there a fence or some other visible divider that marks the division of your properties, that is in the wrong place? If so you will want to know when that fence was installed and why. It would also be good to know when his driveway was paved. http://codes.findlaw.com/al/title-6-civil-practice/al-code-sect-6-5-200.html
RESPONSE B: Take a screen shot from Google Earth right away before new images are posted without the tree. That can help establish information about the tree like its size.
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POST: Neighbor cut down a tree in our yard: Tree Law and shitty MS Paint maps AL] Now that I have your attention, yeah, that's the gist of it. The neighbor went and cut down a tree in our yard. Now, at first look, it seems like it'd be in his yard. Except we've had the property surveyed, and it is (was) on our property. Hell, even part of his driveway is on our property. [My magnum opus. So, obviously we're going to need a lawyer, and they're going to have a field day with it. Is there anything in particular we'd need to document to make a strong case? I've already got pictures of the stump of the tree before he could grind it out, but what else might be necessary? I'm in Mobile, AL.
RESPONSE A: Take a screen shot from Google Earth right away before new images are posted without the tree. That can help establish information about the tree like its size.
RESPONSE B: Couple of questions here: 1) It looks like (especially with the driveway) you and neighbor have generally assumed the property line would put the tree on his land. How long has that been a thing? From what I have learned here, you could end up with an easement on the drive part of the property, based on past use. Is that right? 2) If 1 is true, could that extend to the further area where the tree was? Does ownership length matter? Other things here make this sound more complicated than just "Guy reached over the fence and chopped my tree up"
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POST: Neighbor cut down a tree in our yard: Tree Law and shitty MS Paint maps AL] Now that I have your attention, yeah, that's the gist of it. The neighbor went and cut down a tree in our yard. Now, at first look, it seems like it'd be in his yard. Except we've had the property surveyed, and it is (was) on our property. Hell, even part of his driveway is on our property. [My magnum opus. So, obviously we're going to need a lawyer, and they're going to have a field day with it. Is there anything in particular we'd need to document to make a strong case? I've already got pictures of the stump of the tree before he could grind it out, but what else might be necessary? I'm in Mobile, AL.
RESPONSE A: You say, at first look it would be in his yard. Is there a fence or some other visible divider that marks the division of your properties, that is in the wrong place? If so you will want to know when that fence was installed and why. It would also be good to know when his driveway was paved. http://codes.findlaw.com/al/title-6-civil-practice/al-code-sect-6-5-200.html
RESPONSE B: u/xHeero Nailed it... Best of luck in court! But did the neighbor say why he cut down your tree? Was it just a spite thing because it's shedding leaves onto his property?
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POST: of our son. What's my recourse here? When CPS show up, do I bar them from entering and explain the waste of time they're in for? Do I let them in? Do I hire a lawyer and look for a cease and desist? I'm worried about letting CPS in because people have told me that they will take a dim view of me (the father) being the one looking after him while my wife is working. Is there any truth to that? I'm fairly certain she will call CPS because she has called the police on me in the past for driving my wife's car. State is Wyoming.
RESPONSE A: If CPS comes over, then you and your wife POLITELY explain to them that your mother/MIL is a little over-reactive sometimes, and that she saw you changing a poopy diaper and she thought that you were molesting your son. Then your wife tells her mother that she is no longer welcome inside of your house. If you are living with your MIL, then you need to move out.
RESPONSE B: Used to be CPS. We dealt with this kind of nonsense ALL. THE. TIME. And believe me, nobody hates false complaints more than CPS . That said in my state a complaint about an infant almost always meant a visit. They will be looking for: 1. Injuries or unexplained bruising, 2. Inappropriate reactions from the child (for example if he is chill with everyone else and starts shrieking and pulling away from you or goes catatonic ) 3. Signs of physical neglect including underweight, under clothed for the temperature, dirty or a house that is unsafe or dirty (feces on the floor or rotting food dirty not we have a baby messy) They don't care about your music and will only be impressed that you are an active parent when your wife is working. Be nice. Let them know there are issues with the MIL but don't rant. The saner you sound the worse she will seem. And try not to worry. The CPS worker has probably sorted 3 crazy relative/neighbor/divorce calls before she had her coffee.
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POST: came in and almost had to carry MIL out of the room. I'm in a state of shock, I have to calm our son down and finish cleaning him. Can hear MIL and FIL raging in the background. Hear the front door slam. MIL now says she's calling CPS and has reported the "sexual abuse" of our son. What's my recourse here? When CPS show up, do I bar them from entering and explain the waste of time they're in for? Do I let them in? Do I hire a lawyer and look for a cease and desist? I'm worried about letting CPS in because people have told me that they will take a dim view of me (the father) being the one looking after him while my wife is working. Is there any truth to that? I'm fairly certain she will call CPS because she has called the police on me in the past for driving my wife's car. State is Wyoming.
RESPONSE A: Used to be CPS. We dealt with this kind of nonsense ALL. THE. TIME. And believe me, nobody hates false complaints more than CPS . That said in my state a complaint about an infant almost always meant a visit. They will be looking for: 1. Injuries or unexplained bruising, 2. Inappropriate reactions from the child (for example if he is chill with everyone else and starts shrieking and pulling away from you or goes catatonic ) 3. Signs of physical neglect including underweight, under clothed for the temperature, dirty or a house that is unsafe or dirty (feces on the floor or rotting food dirty not we have a baby messy) They don't care about your music and will only be impressed that you are an active parent when your wife is working. Be nice. Let them know there are issues with the MIL but don't rant. The saner you sound the worse she will seem. And try not to worry. The CPS worker has probably sorted 3 crazy relative/neighbor/divorce calls before she had her coffee.
RESPONSE B: Just talk to cps. Explain what happened. Crazy family reports are normal
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POST: and FIL raging in the background. Hear the front door slam. MIL now says she's calling CPS and has reported the "sexual abuse" of our son. What's my recourse here? When CPS show up, do I bar them from entering and explain the waste of time they're in for? Do I let them in? Do I hire a lawyer and look for a cease and desist? I'm worried about letting CPS in because people have told me that they will take a dim view of me (the father) being the one looking after him while my wife is working. Is there any truth to that? I'm fairly certain she will call CPS because she has called the police on me in the past for driving my wife's car. State is Wyoming.
RESPONSE A: Used to be CPS. We dealt with this kind of nonsense ALL. THE. TIME. And believe me, nobody hates false complaints more than CPS . That said in my state a complaint about an infant almost always meant a visit. They will be looking for: 1. Injuries or unexplained bruising, 2. Inappropriate reactions from the child (for example if he is chill with everyone else and starts shrieking and pulling away from you or goes catatonic ) 3. Signs of physical neglect including underweight, under clothed for the temperature, dirty or a house that is unsafe or dirty (feces on the floor or rotting food dirty not we have a baby messy) They don't care about your music and will only be impressed that you are an active parent when your wife is working. Be nice. Let them know there are issues with the MIL but don't rant. The saner you sound the worse she will seem. And try not to worry. The CPS worker has probably sorted 3 crazy relative/neighbor/divorce calls before she had her coffee.
RESPONSE B: > When CPS show up, do I bar them from entering and explain the waste of time they're in for? Cooperate with CPS. Do what they ask. If you don't, they can bring the police and remove your child from your home by force.
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POST: IL shreaked at the top of her lungs: "You just sexually abused your son! You fucking vile pig." Our son, obviously almost jumped off the changing table with shock and was in hysterics. MIL started slapping me around the back of the head, shoulders and back. Wife came in and almost had to carry MIL out of the room. I'm in a state of shock, I have to calm our son down and finish cleaning him. Can hear MIL and FIL raging in the background. Hear the front door slam. MIL now says she's calling CPS and has reported the "sexual abuse" of our son. What's my recourse here? When CPS show up, do I bar them from entering and explain the waste of time they're in for? Do I let them in? Do I hire a lawyer and look for a cease and desist? I'm worried about letting CPS in because people have told me that they will take a dim view of me (the father) being the one looking after him while my wife is working. Is there any truth to that? I'm fairly certain she will call CPS because she has called the police on me in the past for driving my wife's car. State is Wyoming.
RESPONSE A: Putting in a word of support for you. Talk to your wife about having no contact with your MIL, during and after the CPS investigation. False claims are no joke. A united front will help relieve the stress on you a little. Cooperate with CPS and treat them with respect. They're only doing their jobs to investigate the possible harm to a child. They do not know the circumstances. Hostile, fraudulent reports are a thing but don't play too hard on that. Just show them how you take care of your son, answer their questions and try to be prepared with medical records, documents, and proof of providing a healthy environment for him. I'd report your MIL to the police for assaulting you. You were taking care of your son, and either of you could have been hurt.
RESPONSE B: You should probably report her physical violence against you to the police.
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POST: with shock and was in hysterics. MIL started slapping me around the back of the head, shoulders and back. Wife came in and almost had to carry MIL out of the room. I'm in a state of shock, I have to calm our son down and finish cleaning him. Can hear MIL and FIL raging in the background. Hear the front door slam. MIL now says she's calling CPS and has reported the "sexual abuse" of our son. What's my recourse here? When CPS show up, do I bar them from entering and explain the waste of time they're in for? Do I let them in? Do I hire a lawyer and look for a cease and desist? I'm worried about letting CPS in because people have told me that they will take a dim view of me (the father) being the one looking after him while my wife is working. Is there any truth to that? I'm fairly certain she will call CPS because she has called the police on me in the past for driving my wife's car. State is Wyoming.
RESPONSE A: Putting in a word of support for you. Talk to your wife about having no contact with your MIL, during and after the CPS investigation. False claims are no joke. A united front will help relieve the stress on you a little. Cooperate with CPS and treat them with respect. They're only doing their jobs to investigate the possible harm to a child. They do not know the circumstances. Hostile, fraudulent reports are a thing but don't play too hard on that. Just show them how you take care of your son, answer their questions and try to be prepared with medical records, documents, and proof of providing a healthy environment for him. I'd report your MIL to the police for assaulting you. You were taking care of your son, and either of you could have been hurt.
RESPONSE B: > When CPS show up, do I bar them from entering and explain the waste of time they're in for? Cooperate with CPS. Do what they ask. If you don't, they can bring the police and remove your child from your home by force.
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POST: What should we expect next? What crimes could they be charged for and what are the penalties? I am under the assumption that this is the first time this person has ever been accused of this nature. This person is well known, very active in their church and community, plus has a child that they adopted through the local foster/CPS program. How long do cases like this carry on? When will that person be arrested? Is there any defense to allegations like this that are commonly used? How will they attempt to explain their actions? What can we do to help or ensure that charges will be pressed? All of us have begun therapy through the Children's Advocacy Center - us for guilt, our son for a myriad of reasons but mostly guilt and shame. We do not in any way blame or fault him and he is not, nor ever been, in trouble with the police. Thank you very, very much for any suggestions, advice, or information. As you can imagine, we are still stunned at this situation. TLDR; 14 yr old sexually groomed by 40 yr old, nothing physical, watched and shared pornography, gifts given - all corroborated in their text messages to each other. What laws have been (allegedly) broken and what are the penalties? What are the stages of a police investigation, DA already involved, and how should we expect this to proceed? What could their defense be to allegations of this nature? I will check this post later this evening to answer any questions and read all the replies. Thank you
RESPONSE A: Several things to prepare for, I think. 1. Massive amounts of social media backlash. Genuine possibility you will lose untrue friends over this. Get ready to build some walls. 2. Get your data protected. Hard copies, unconnected computer, firewalls, antivirals, etc. 3. Monitor, if not completely eliminate, your sons screen time (I suspect this has already been done to some degree). No smartphone. No texting. Computer only in public view. It actually may be the best thing to aid in his therapy that you can control. 4. Tell him you love him, at all times. Make sure his father does this as well.
RESPONSE B: Not a legal question but was the accused a man or a woman ?
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POST: at some point the detective intends to have the friends laptop - he said something about using it to verify the story. The friend has no clue that we have reported this to the police - they think our son is grounded and has lost privileges. My (our) questions: What happens now? What should we expect next? What crimes could they be charged for and what are the penalties? I am under the assumption that this is the first time this person has ever been accused of this nature. This person is well known, very active in their church and community, plus has a child that they adopted through the local foster/CPS program. How long do cases like this carry on? When will that person be arrested? Is there any defense to allegations like this that are commonly used? How will they attempt to explain their actions? What can we do to help or ensure that charges will be pressed? All of us have begun therapy through the Children's Advocacy Center - us for guilt, our son for a myriad of reasons but mostly guilt and shame. We do not in any way blame or fault him and he is not, nor ever been, in trouble with the police. Thank you very, very much for any suggestions, advice, or information. As you can imagine, we are still stunned at this situation. TLDR; 14 yr old sexually groomed by 40 yr old, nothing physical, watched and shared pornography, gifts given - all corroborated in their text messages to each other. What laws have been (allegedly) broken and what are the penalties? What are the stages of a police investigation, DA already involved, and how should we expect this to proceed? What could their defense be to allegations of this nature? I will check this post later this evening to answer any questions and read all the replies. Thank you
RESPONSE A: Not legal advice. I was 13. I also was not physical with the man who groomed me. He WILL be ok, he WILL be confused. But you obviously are loving parents. Therapy is good. Hugs. Reading this made me a bit emotional so I don't even know if I'm making sense but, hugs.
RESPONSE B: Not a legal question but was the accused a man or a woman ?
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POST: been dealing with anorexia for a long time and that food is a sensitive topic. Surely there's some way I can get son out of ex's house? He will be there for another two weeks. I do not feel comfortable at all with son completing the visit. Not if this is how ex treats him. Do I have any options?
RESPONSE A: I am a lawyer. I am not your lawyer. You should talk to a family law attorney. I would ask your ex why this is happening. You seem to have very valid reasons why you are concerned. But the court is going to ask this same question as well. Parents in divorce situations are allowed to parent differently. When your ex is the custodial parent, he has the right to act as a parent does. You may not always like it, but he gets to be a parent on his own terms. For example, your ex may be making your son weigh himself because he has been noticing weight loss that seems extreme. Anorexics tend to lie about their food consumption to hide their disorder. Your ex may be saying this is the only way I can know your son is eating enough to not lose weight. Or your ex may be worried about several other things. Despite your objection to a scale, a court would likely reasonably find that your ex is being considerate in addressing your child's health needs. Bigger point. You will need to know. Simply doing something you would not do as a parent isn't going to over turn custody. If you do not know why your ex is doing this, then you are wasting your money talking to a lawyer. If your ex won't tell you, then I would start talking to a lawyer.
RESPONSE B: I’d first call the kid’s counselor and ask how detrimental they think this is to the child’s recovery. If they’re anything but clear and firm that this harms the child and are willing to put that in writing, then think through what evidence you’re going to give the courts that (1) this happened and (2) is detrimental to the child’s well-being. It’s obvious to us and to you that this is bad but if you don’t have evidence to submit, the courts can’t do much.
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POST: him he wouldn't be allowed to eat until he weighed himself. Once again, ex has been kept well aware that son has been dealing with anorexia for a long time and that food is a sensitive topic. Surely there's some way I can get son out of ex's house? He will be there for another two weeks. I do not feel comfortable at all with son completing the visit. Not if this is how ex treats him. Do I have any options?
RESPONSE A: I am a lawyer. I am not your lawyer. You should talk to a family law attorney. I would ask your ex why this is happening. You seem to have very valid reasons why you are concerned. But the court is going to ask this same question as well. Parents in divorce situations are allowed to parent differently. When your ex is the custodial parent, he has the right to act as a parent does. You may not always like it, but he gets to be a parent on his own terms. For example, your ex may be making your son weigh himself because he has been noticing weight loss that seems extreme. Anorexics tend to lie about their food consumption to hide their disorder. Your ex may be saying this is the only way I can know your son is eating enough to not lose weight. Or your ex may be worried about several other things. Despite your objection to a scale, a court would likely reasonably find that your ex is being considerate in addressing your child's health needs. Bigger point. You will need to know. Simply doing something you would not do as a parent isn't going to over turn custody. If you do not know why your ex is doing this, then you are wasting your money talking to a lawyer. If your ex won't tell you, then I would start talking to a lawyer.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer but it would seem that withholding food is child abuse. Penal Code 270 PC is the California state statute that defines the offense of child neglect. A parent commits this crime by willfully failing to **provide a necessity for a minor child without a legal excuse**. A necessity includes things such as clothing, **food**, medicine, and shelter.
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POST: orexia and ex knows this. Son has been in treatment for a few months now and has made significant progress. Son texts me today telling me that ex made him weigh himself. Son refused because of his past and ex told him he wouldn't be allowed to eat until he weighed himself. Once again, ex has been kept well aware that son has been dealing with anorexia for a long time and that food is a sensitive topic. Surely there's some way I can get son out of ex's house? He will be there for another two weeks. I do not feel comfortable at all with son completing the visit. Not if this is how ex treats him. Do I have any options?
RESPONSE A: I am a lawyer. I am not your lawyer. You should talk to a family law attorney. I would ask your ex why this is happening. You seem to have very valid reasons why you are concerned. But the court is going to ask this same question as well. Parents in divorce situations are allowed to parent differently. When your ex is the custodial parent, he has the right to act as a parent does. You may not always like it, but he gets to be a parent on his own terms. For example, your ex may be making your son weigh himself because he has been noticing weight loss that seems extreme. Anorexics tend to lie about their food consumption to hide their disorder. Your ex may be saying this is the only way I can know your son is eating enough to not lose weight. Or your ex may be worried about several other things. Despite your objection to a scale, a court would likely reasonably find that your ex is being considerate in addressing your child's health needs. Bigger point. You will need to know. Simply doing something you would not do as a parent isn't going to over turn custody. If you do not know why your ex is doing this, then you are wasting your money talking to a lawyer. If your ex won't tell you, then I would start talking to a lawyer.
RESPONSE B: When did your son develop this disorder? How has it been treated? Was this an issue brought before the court? What is the breakdown of your custody/visitation?
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POST: My ex husband refused to allow my teenage son to eat until he weighed himself. Is there any way I can get my son off of visitation? Divorce happened in California where ex lives. Son and I live in Colorado. Son is currently on visitation with ex in California. My son has a history of anorexia and ex knows this. Son has been in treatment for a few months now and has made significant progress. Son texts me today telling me that ex made him weigh himself. Son refused because of his past and ex told him he wouldn't be allowed to eat until he weighed himself. Once again, ex has been kept well aware that son has been dealing with anorexia for a long time and that food is a sensitive topic. Surely there's some way I can get son out of ex's house? He will be there for another two weeks. I do not feel comfortable at all with son completing the visit. Not if this is how ex treats him. Do I have any options?
RESPONSE A: I’d first call the kid’s counselor and ask how detrimental they think this is to the child’s recovery. If they’re anything but clear and firm that this harms the child and are willing to put that in writing, then think through what evidence you’re going to give the courts that (1) this happened and (2) is detrimental to the child’s well-being. It’s obvious to us and to you that this is bad but if you don’t have evidence to submit, the courts can’t do much.
RESPONSE B: When did your son develop this disorder? How has it been treated? Was this an issue brought before the court? What is the breakdown of your custody/visitation?
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POST: My wife just went to the ER for suicidal intentions. She told the nurses to withhold any information from me. What are my rights as her husband
RESPONSE A: None. HIPAA actually applies here. Since she is not a minor, she has to give written consent on who is allowed to receive information. I work in healthcare and have had to tell spouses that we can’t give them information because they’re not on the list of who has HIPAA privileges.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer but I am a hospital Compliance Officer. You, unfortunately, have no rights here. There are certain instances in mental health where HIPAA may be waived, but this is not one of them.
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POST: My wife just went to the ER for suicidal intentions. She told the nurses to withhold any information from me. What are my rights as her husband
RESPONSE A: ER RN here. You have no rights at all unless she changes her mind. Psych privacy is sacred.
RESPONSE B: Source: psych nurse Unless she signs an information release, you have no rights to know anything. She is her own person with autonomy and a right to privacy that will not be taken away even during an involuntary hospitalization. Psych hospitals are extra strict on HIPAA compliance because of the stigma and negative connotations associated with a psychiatric history. Even if she calls you from the hospital, even if staff will put you on the phone to speak to her directly, unless she provides a HIPAA release, they legally cannot even tell you whether or not she is, or has ever been, in the building. If she intends to come back to your shared home, you’ll probably get a call from a case worker prior to her being discharged to make sure there’s no reason she can’t come home and to make sure any weapons, large quantities of medications, etc are secured or removed. If you have any concerns or information to relay to the care team in the meantime, as long as you stay level-headed about it they can still listen and pass a note on to her or whoever else it needs to go to.
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