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POST: and 15 vacation days. My company just announced (On March 31st) a policy that we're not allowed to use vacation days to cover sick time and they want us to get away and have proper vacations with our vacation time. I was very sick in February and took a week off. I told my manager I wanted to use vacation time for that, but yesterday the director (different person) told me that he put it under sick leave and I'm out of sick leave. I'm also pregnant at the moment and have been having appointments. He told me I owe them 3.5 days between February and going to appointments. He told me I can't use my vacation time to cover this and that I have to make it up. My last day is the end of April before I start maternity leave. I had planned on doing about 10 hours a week of work from home once things calmed down enough. He told me I would have to work for free during that time to make up the time (which I don't mind too much, this is otherwise a sweet gig). Also, my director told me that I am not going to get my 15 days of vacation and they're going to pro-rate them because I am finished at the end of April until I come back in January (I'm taking a short maternity leave, my husband is taking the other part). I'll probably get 5 days. So my questions are: Can my employer not let me use vacation days to cover sick days? Can my employer pro-rate my vacation days? (Not that I am intending to take 3 weeks of vacation in the next month, I was just wondering for the future) Thanks for any help!
RESPONSE A: You still accumulate vacation days while you are on mat leave, FYI, so they shouldn't be taking them away from you. (also Nova Scotian, also pregnant)
RESPONSE B: > I am finished at the end of April until I come back in January (I'm taking a short maternity leave Not legal advice, but as a pregnant woman in the USA I am jealous... The longest we are guaranteed (unless there are complications) is 12 weeks of unpaid leave. I will probably be out for 2, maybe 3 months, but likely work from home at least a bit during that time.
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POST: questions. I am a salaried employee with 5 sick days and 15 vacation days. My company just announced (On March 31st) a policy that we're not allowed to use vacation days to cover sick time and they want us to get away and have proper vacations with our vacation time. I was very sick in February and took a week off. I told my manager I wanted to use vacation time for that, but yesterday the director (different person) told me that he put it under sick leave and I'm out of sick leave. I'm also pregnant at the moment and have been having appointments. He told me I owe them 3.5 days between February and going to appointments. He told me I can't use my vacation time to cover this and that I have to make it up. My last day is the end of April before I start maternity leave. I had planned on doing about 10 hours a week of work from home once things calmed down enough. He told me I would have to work for free during that time to make up the time (which I don't mind too much, this is otherwise a sweet gig). Also, my director told me that I am not going to get my 15 days of vacation and they're going to pro-rate them because I am finished at the end of April until I come back in January (I'm taking a short maternity leave, my husband is taking the other part). I'll probably get 5 days. So my questions are: Can my employer not let me use vacation days to cover sick days? Can my employer pro-rate my vacation days? (Not that I am intending to take 3 weeks of vacation in the next month, I was just wondering for the future) Thanks for any help!
RESPONSE A: > I am finished at the end of April until I come back in January (I'm taking a short maternity leave Not legal advice, but as a pregnant woman in the USA I am jealous... The longest we are guaranteed (unless there are complications) is 12 weeks of unpaid leave. I will probably be out for 2, maybe 3 months, but likely work from home at least a bit during that time.
RESPONSE B: Yes, they can make you use sick time to cover days you are sick if you have sick time.
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POST: Sales guy accidentally left voicemail during training on how to lie and scam their customers Apologies if this isn't the right sub. A company that gives small business loans called and accidentally left a voicemail. They must have been training a new person for their boiler room because they went off about how they needed to lie to the "flimsy little businesses that don't know shit." "As long as you're closing, it doesn't matter what you say. As long as your numbers are good, it doesn't matter if you lie to them." That kinda sucks but not necessarily out out of the scummy salesperson norm. However, at one point the guy says something to the effect of "Tell them it's just a soft credit check. It's a lie, but they don't know that." I've got the company name and even the name of the guy that left the voicemail. The call was to GA from NY. Is there anything I can do to make a stink for them?
RESPONSE A: In addition to the others, would report to the CFPB https://www.consumerfinance.gov/complaint/
RESPONSE B: So... What they're doing is fishing for info & keeping the loan money?
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POST: Sales guy accidentally left voicemail during training on how to lie and scam their customers Apologies if this isn't the right sub. A company that gives small business loans called and accidentally left a voicemail. They must have been training a new person for their boiler room because they went off about how they needed to lie to the "flimsy little businesses that don't know shit." "As long as you're closing, it doesn't matter what you say. As long as your numbers are good, it doesn't matter if you lie to them." That kinda sucks but not necessarily out out of the scummy salesperson norm. However, at one point the guy says something to the effect of "Tell them it's just a soft credit check. It's a lie, but they don't know that." I've got the company name and even the name of the guy that left the voicemail. The call was to GA from NY. Is there anything I can do to make a stink for them?
RESPONSE A: Have you confirmed that the company actually exists and is actually in the US? A lot of times these guys can be foreign with spoofed caller IDs, and a fake company name. If they're willing to lie about the little things, they may be willing to lie about other stuff too. An area code alone is not enough to determine the origin of a call.
RESPONSE B: This scam has been going on for years. I've read about it but it's rarely mentioned in the mainstream press. I don't know why it doesn't get more press. I don't know why they don't get shut down. They freely loan money to small businesses, hoping that they default so they can steal the business. I'm not sure of the full mechanics of the scam but that's the basic outline.
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POST: (TX) My package containing a very expensive item I bought was stolen from my apartment door. Who is responsible for this? The apartment complex? Me? The item cost $150. Should I call the police on this?
RESPONSE A: 1) See if shipper will refund you. 2) Call police.
RESPONSE B: This would be the thief, the apartment complex has no duty of care in this respect, and porch pirates are very much a thing in apartment complexes. Likely a neighbor if it was not delivered to the correct door. Luckily $150 is a low cost so the shipper/seller would likely be inclined to issue you a replacement as they should have insured the shipment. I would contact them and let them know so they can begin a carrier investigation and start the replacement process. Not an attorney.
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POST: My apartment complex was set on fire and I’m still paying rent. I live in Chicago. A month ago, after the latest robbery turned shooting turned arson, my apartment was rendered uninhabitable after the deck burnt down and some firefighters kicked in the door, breaking it. Thankfully neither I nor my cats were home at the time. After my apartment contacted me about this, I reached out to my building manager, who we will call Richard. After a week-long string of emails, it was apparent that they hadn’t even begun assessing the damages and I would not be able to live in my apartment. To cover the cost of temporary lodging, my insurance company requires written documentation that my apartment is unlivable with a date as to when it will be inhabitable again. I asked Richard this question many times over many emails. Each time his response was vague and did not provide the needed information. Now it has been over a month since the fire. I have reached out to every contact provided by the property management company, and it has always led back to Richard and waiting for the information needed for my insurance company. During this time, I’ve paid two moths of rent for an unlivable apartment and paid for temporary lodging out of pocket. Is there any legal action I can pursue to recover these lost payments? I am already looking for a new apartment and do not plan on ever returning to this one.
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
RESPONSE B: As far as your renter's insurance goes, see if you can get hold of the fire marshal's report, they should accept that as documentation (it's certainly more official than something from your landlord)
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POST: building manager, who we will call Richard. After a week-long string of emails, it was apparent that they hadn’t even begun assessing the damages and I would not be able to live in my apartment. To cover the cost of temporary lodging, my insurance company requires written documentation that my apartment is unlivable with a date as to when it will be inhabitable again. I asked Richard this question many times over many emails. Each time his response was vague and did not provide the needed information. Now it has been over a month since the fire. I have reached out to every contact provided by the property management company, and it has always led back to Richard and waiting for the information needed for my insurance company. During this time, I’ve paid two moths of rent for an unlivable apartment and paid for temporary lodging out of pocket. Is there any legal action I can pursue to recover these lost payments? I am already looking for a new apartment and do not plan on ever returning to this one.
RESPONSE A: I'm not a lawyer. Just someone who went through this in Texas when a fire burned down my apartment. If the residence is uninhabitable then find out what that means to your lease. In Texas, the lease was considered broken and I was free to walk away without paying a dime in rent past that day. The apartment gave me a written letter saying the apartment was uninhabitable and I was not allowed to return to even gather my belongings. This letter was all the proof my insurance needed to approve my claim. The insurance paid for my hotel while I found a new apartment and I had to repurchase all my belongings through the rental insurance payout.
RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
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POST: My apartment complex was set on fire and I’m still paying rent. I live in Chicago. A month ago, after the latest robbery turned shooting turned arson, my apartment was rendered uninhabitable after the deck burnt down and some firefighters kicked in the door, breaking it. Thankfully neither I nor my cats were home at the time. After my apartment contacted me about this, I reached out to my building manager, who we will call Richard. After a week-long string of emails, it was apparent that they hadn’t even begun assessing the damages and I would not be able to live in my apartment. To cover the cost of temporary lodging, my insurance company requires written documentation that my apartment is unlivable with a date as to when it will be inhabitable again. I asked Richard this question many times over many emails. Each time his response was vague and did not provide the needed information. Now it has been over a month since the fire. I have reached out to every contact provided by the property management company, and it has always led back to Richard and waiting for the information needed for my insurance company. During this time, I’ve paid two moths of rent for an unlivable apartment and paid for temporary lodging out of pocket. Is there any legal action I can pursue to recover these lost payments? I am already looking for a new apartment and do not plan on ever returning to this one.
RESPONSE A: Though it is not his fault, your landlord is in breach of contract. He cannot collect rent without providing you with a place to live. You should contact a tenant advocacy program or an attorney for guidance, but you are probably free to leave, and entitled to a refund of all rents paid from the date of the fire. How this would affect security deposit would be up to state law, but since you did not cause the damage, you should be entitled to a refund of the deposit as well.
RESPONSE B: Chicago also had renters organization or free legal help when I lived there about 5 years ago. I’d look into that for assistance too.
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POST: t down and some firefighters kicked in the door, breaking it. Thankfully neither I nor my cats were home at the time. After my apartment contacted me about this, I reached out to my building manager, who we will call Richard. After a week-long string of emails, it was apparent that they hadn’t even begun assessing the damages and I would not be able to live in my apartment. To cover the cost of temporary lodging, my insurance company requires written documentation that my apartment is unlivable with a date as to when it will be inhabitable again. I asked Richard this question many times over many emails. Each time his response was vague and did not provide the needed information. Now it has been over a month since the fire. I have reached out to every contact provided by the property management company, and it has always led back to Richard and waiting for the information needed for my insurance company. During this time, I’ve paid two moths of rent for an unlivable apartment and paid for temporary lodging out of pocket. Is there any legal action I can pursue to recover these lost payments? I am already looking for a new apartment and do not plan on ever returning to this one.
RESPONSE A: Though it is not his fault, your landlord is in breach of contract. He cannot collect rent without providing you with a place to live. You should contact a tenant advocacy program or an attorney for guidance, but you are probably free to leave, and entitled to a refund of all rents paid from the date of the fire. How this would affect security deposit would be up to state law, but since you did not cause the damage, you should be entitled to a refund of the deposit as well.
RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
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POST: Florida apartment complex requires an $80 a mo internet + cable package that I apparently cannot opt out of So I'm moving into a new place (in Florida) and they have an internet + cable package that costs $80 a month. I do not use cable and the provider has just the internet for $50. They told me I cannot opt out of the package deal no matter what. However, the move-in checklist states that I have to call this provider and tell them I want the "[apartment complex name] package". Why can't I just call said provider and get whatever package I actually want? I have no problem using their preferred ISP, but I don't think I should be forced to pay for a more expensive package when I do not want it. Is this legal?
RESPONSE A: Yes, if you do not agree, do not sign the lease, and do not move in.
RESPONSE B: The lease has to stipulate the surcharges and its up to you to agree to them or not.
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POST: Florida apartment complex requires an $80 a mo internet + cable package that I apparently cannot opt out of So I'm moving into a new place (in Florida) and they have an internet + cable package that costs $80 a month. I do not use cable and the provider has just the internet for $50. They told me I cannot opt out of the package deal no matter what. However, the move-in checklist states that I have to call this provider and tell them I want the "[apartment complex name] package". Why can't I just call said provider and get whatever package I actually want? I have no problem using their preferred ISP, but I don't think I should be forced to pay for a more expensive package when I do not want it. Is this legal?
RESPONSE A: Yes, if you do not agree, do not sign the lease, and do not move in.
RESPONSE B: You could try to negotiate the terms of the lease. They might not budge but the answer is always no if you don't ask.
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POST: Florida apartment complex requires an $80 a mo internet + cable package that I apparently cannot opt out of So I'm moving into a new place (in Florida) and they have an internet + cable package that costs $80 a month. I do not use cable and the provider has just the internet for $50. They told me I cannot opt out of the package deal no matter what. However, the move-in checklist states that I have to call this provider and tell them I want the "[apartment complex name] package". Why can't I just call said provider and get whatever package I actually want? I have no problem using their preferred ISP, but I don't think I should be forced to pay for a more expensive package when I do not want it. Is this legal?
RESPONSE A: If the apt is good enough, I’d say 360 extra a year would be worth it. But make sure it’s worth it first.
RESPONSE B: It's called bulk cable. Perfectly legal, you can choose to not live there.
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POST: Florida apartment complex requires an $80 a mo internet + cable package that I apparently cannot opt out of So I'm moving into a new place (in Florida) and they have an internet + cable package that costs $80 a month. I do not use cable and the provider has just the internet for $50. They told me I cannot opt out of the package deal no matter what. However, the move-in checklist states that I have to call this provider and tell them I want the "[apartment complex name] package". Why can't I just call said provider and get whatever package I actually want? I have no problem using their preferred ISP, but I don't think I should be forced to pay for a more expensive package when I do not want it. Is this legal?
RESPONSE A: It's called bulk cable. Perfectly legal, you can choose to not live there.
RESPONSE B: You say you would be out whatever fees you've already paid, but, you also state you'll have to pay an additional $150 a month you were not expecting to pay. Do the math. How much was the application fee and other fees? Is it worth losing whatever you've put out vs an additional$1800 a year? If the additional fees are not in the lease then I would question why it isn't and it's being added on after the fact. Consider the location, the complex, amenities, etc.
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POST: Florida apartment complex requires an $80 a mo internet + cable package that I apparently cannot opt out of So I'm moving into a new place (in Florida) and they have an internet + cable package that costs $80 a month. I do not use cable and the provider has just the internet for $50. They told me I cannot opt out of the package deal no matter what. However, the move-in checklist states that I have to call this provider and tell them I want the "[apartment complex name] package". Why can't I just call said provider and get whatever package I actually want? I have no problem using their preferred ISP, but I don't think I should be forced to pay for a more expensive package when I do not want it. Is this legal?
RESPONSE A: You say you would be out whatever fees you've already paid, but, you also state you'll have to pay an additional $150 a month you were not expecting to pay. Do the math. How much was the application fee and other fees? Is it worth losing whatever you've put out vs an additional$1800 a year? If the additional fees are not in the lease then I would question why it isn't and it's being added on after the fact. Consider the location, the complex, amenities, etc.
RESPONSE B: Sounds like an apartment for rent in a condo building with an HOA. They likely are in a bulk cable deal where it’s a flat rate whether you take it or not
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POST: terms of aid, we were offered waived fees/deposits at complexes also managed by this company. They are far from us and way out of the budget of most people in this complex. (50% more expensive). We live near a large university and its the middle of the semester, so most of the residents here are having a nearly impossible time finding another place. Anywhere I go will cost me an extraordinary amount of money. I have been without power for 4 days now, but it suddenly got turned back on an hour ago. This is wildly confusing because our AC units have been submerged underwater for 2 straight days. The buildings have been deemed uninhabitable due to the water, but they're willing to flick the electricity back on? My roommate talked to an employee of the office who claimed that turning the power off caused a small brief fire in one of the still flooded apartments (big surprise right?) and that the power will be shut off again soon. I don't know if I'm going to be forcibly removed or under what grounds. They didn't say that a health inspector or fire department has deemed the buildings uninhabitable. They didn't have any inspection done as far as I know. They haven't offered any aid other than what I mentioned above, and I'm being told to flee my unflooded apartment which currently has power and water. I have nowhere to go, and evacuation plans could have been made if it weren't for the obvious negligence of the apartment complex. My university has legal services which I intend to seek. I'd like to get opinions on how to precede in the meantime while I'm finding another place to live. Thank you for reading if you got this far.
RESPONSE A: How was the apartment complex obviously negligent in a way that caused you to not make evacuation plans?
RESPONSE B: I didn’t see any mention of you having renter’s insurance. That’s where any relocation aid would come from. What “obvious negligence” are you referring to? Your apartment complex was flooded after a hurricane. Do you think management could have prevented a hurricane?? You are entitled to exactly what you’ve been offered- a termination of your lease and a return of your security deposit.
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POST: back with a new issue from this guy, and that also involves my town counsel as well. At the beginning of the year my neighbor decided to rent his detached garage to a woman and her boyfriend. A few weeks after they moved in there started to be problems. The Renters started screaming and fighting, collecting junk outside their dwelling including lots of trash, letting their dog dig into my yard, and trespassing on my property. To name a few things. I called my counties animal control every time I had an issue with their dog. And called the police every time I had an issue with my neighbor. I have cameras up and have footage of all of all the crap that they have pulled. I have asked the renters to stop, I have attempted to talk to my neighbor( with no avail) In an attempt to get these jerks gone,I spoke to my counties code enforcement because garages are not allowed to be dwellings in my county. Unfortunately I live in city limits and so it falls to my city for jurisdiction. They also have the same law. But they have decided to not enforce this law, because “the renters are poor and are on disability and could sue the city for kicking them out” actual words from a person I spoke to in my town hall. I have spoken with another person who works in my town ( as a cop) and not enforcing the law on poor people is becoming the norm in my town. Anything from speeding, to theft is not enforced if you claim that it was done because you are “poor”. Unfortunately the crime rate in my town has skyrocketed in the last year, while the towns resident number hasn’t increased. But more and more “poor people” seem to be committing crimes. I get that the city has some ability to use discretion in matters like this but can they just decide to not enforce the law on a certain group of people?
RESPONSE A: Having or not having money is not a protected class. The city can absolutely decide to be compassionate to people who cannot afford fines/would otherwise be homeless. If you’re not a fan of this practice get active in your city’s government.
RESPONSE B: > can they just decide to not enforce the law on a certain group of people? Yes.
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RESPONSE A: Question for people saying the county can choose not to enforce the laws on certain people because they are poor. Would this fall under a Equal Protection Clause issue? > No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws. If they are unfairly/unequally applying the law it's not that grounds for a violation? People who do get fined for living in a garage against the law could argue they are being selectively targeted. This isn't just a one time/random thing where like a cop pulls someone over and decides to be nice and only issue a warning, while giving another person a ticket. This would be like a cop who only tickets red cars for speeding and everyone else gets a warning. It's a established frame where they are not going to equally apply the law. Them specifically saying they will not enforce the law against poor people, isn't that a established policy of them saying some people have to follow the law and others don't?
RESPONSE B: > can they just decide to not enforce the law on a certain group of people? Yes.
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POST: , because “the renters are poor and are on disability and could sue the city for kicking them out” actual words from a person I spoke to in my town hall. I have spoken with another person who works in my town ( as a cop) and not enforcing the law on poor people is becoming the norm in my town. Anything from speeding, to theft is not enforced if you claim that it was done because you are “poor”. Unfortunately the crime rate in my town has skyrocketed in the last year, while the towns resident number hasn’t increased. But more and more “poor people” seem to be committing crimes. I get that the city has some ability to use discretion in matters like this but can they just decide to not enforce the law on a certain group of people?
RESPONSE A: Yes, it's at the city's discretion whether or not to enforce the law. Speak to your city council members about this, they may have some influence over it.
RESPONSE B: Question for people saying the county can choose not to enforce the laws on certain people because they are poor. Would this fall under a Equal Protection Clause issue? > No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws. If they are unfairly/unequally applying the law it's not that grounds for a violation? People who do get fined for living in a garage against the law could argue they are being selectively targeted. This isn't just a one time/random thing where like a cop pulls someone over and decides to be nice and only issue a warning, while giving another person a ticket. This would be like a cop who only tickets red cars for speeding and everyone else gets a warning. It's a established frame where they are not going to equally apply the law. Them specifically saying they will not enforce the law against poor people, isn't that a established policy of them saying some people have to follow the law and others don't?
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POST: my millennial hating neighbor, and I back with a new issue from this guy, and that also involves my town counsel as well. At the beginning of the year my neighbor decided to rent his detached garage to a woman and her boyfriend. A few weeks after they moved in there started to be problems. The Renters started screaming and fighting, collecting junk outside their dwelling including lots of trash, letting their dog dig into my yard, and trespassing on my property. To name a few things. I called my counties animal control every time I had an issue with their dog. And called the police every time I had an issue with my neighbor. I have cameras up and have footage of all of all the crap that they have pulled. I have asked the renters to stop, I have attempted to talk to my neighbor( with no avail) In an attempt to get these jerks gone,I spoke to my counties code enforcement because garages are not allowed to be dwellings in my county. Unfortunately I live in city limits and so it falls to my city for jurisdiction. They also have the same law. But they have decided to not enforce this law, because “the renters are poor and are on disability and could sue the city for kicking them out” actual words from a person I spoke to in my town hall. I have spoken with another person who works in my town ( as a cop) and not enforcing the law on poor people is becoming the norm in my town. Anything from speeding, to theft is not enforced if you claim that it was done because you are “poor”. Unfortunately the crime rate in my town has skyrocketed in the last year, while the towns resident number hasn’t increased. But more and more “poor people” seem to be committing crimes. I get that the city has some ability to use discretion in matters like this but can they just decide to not enforce the law on a certain group of people?
RESPONSE A: Have a chat with your city council person and mayor (elected officials). Point out that: 1. You vote. 2. Allowing violations of the law without enforcement leads to more violations of the law. Broken window theory.
RESPONSE B: > can they just decide to not enforce the law on a certain group of people? Yes.
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POST: this guy, and that also involves my town counsel as well. At the beginning of the year my neighbor decided to rent his detached garage to a woman and her boyfriend. A few weeks after they moved in there started to be problems. The Renters started screaming and fighting, collecting junk outside their dwelling including lots of trash, letting their dog dig into my yard, and trespassing on my property. To name a few things. I called my counties animal control every time I had an issue with their dog. And called the police every time I had an issue with my neighbor. I have cameras up and have footage of all of all the crap that they have pulled. I have asked the renters to stop, I have attempted to talk to my neighbor( with no avail) In an attempt to get these jerks gone,I spoke to my counties code enforcement because garages are not allowed to be dwellings in my county. Unfortunately I live in city limits and so it falls to my city for jurisdiction. They also have the same law. But they have decided to not enforce this law, because “the renters are poor and are on disability and could sue the city for kicking them out” actual words from a person I spoke to in my town hall. I have spoken with another person who works in my town ( as a cop) and not enforcing the law on poor people is becoming the norm in my town. Anything from speeding, to theft is not enforced if you claim that it was done because you are “poor”. Unfortunately the crime rate in my town has skyrocketed in the last year, while the towns resident number hasn’t increased. But more and more “poor people” seem to be committing crimes. I get that the city has some ability to use discretion in matters like this but can they just decide to not enforce the law on a certain group of people?
RESPONSE A: Have a chat with your city council person and mayor (elected officials). Point out that: 1. You vote. 2. Allowing violations of the law without enforcement leads to more violations of the law. Broken window theory.
RESPONSE B: Yes, it's at the city's discretion whether or not to enforce the law. Speak to your city council members about this, they may have some influence over it.
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POST: being photographed. He responded assuring me he would talk to his team. It continued to happen so I emailed his again and he once again responded that the issue would be addressed. Last week a girl walked in facetiming someone and I was in the background of her screen (including my naked butt). I couldn't find an employee so I confronted her directly. Someone else got an employee who told the girl that her membership wont be terminated for using her camera in the locker room, but if she continues to do it she will eventually get a mark on her membership. She didn't even take the girls name. After that employee and the facetiming girl left, a manager showed up and told me it in fact is a big deal and she can lose her membership, but it was too late to do anything because the girl was now gone. I emailed the general manager again explaining the situation and he assured me that additional signs would be posted in the locker room by the end of the day yesterday. There still aren't more signs today so I emailed him again asking where they are (in case I missed them) and he responded "I was assured additional signage would be posted today." There is no contact information for anyone higher than the general manager available online. It is illegal to record or transmit video of naked people in places where they have a reasonable expectation of privacy in my state, including locker rooms, but I can't find information about whether the gym is responsible for protecting it's members. Is there anything I can do, legally, to encourage my gym to take this more seriously? A member of the janitorial staff encouraged me to post about it online following the facetime incident, but reddit is the closest thing to social media that I have and I want to handle this properly anyway. Thank you!
RESPONSE A: You can inform the police you were at a gym and someone walked by facetiming someone and you were naked. They may or may not do anything
RESPONSE B: The gym is not responsible for the criminal acts of third parties. If you are dissatisfied, you can cancel your membership with lack of policy enforcement as the reason why. If you were to contact police, you would report the individual making / transmitting the recording.
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POST: Lost everything due to identity theft; law enforcement doing nothing. Recourse??? I spent most of this past year in jail as the result of my girlfriend (who has a drug problem) accusing me of abuse. While incarcerated, she used my phone, bank cards, computers, house and car keys (all of which were left at her house when I was arrested) to effectively steal everything I owned. Most notably, she emptied my retirement account, which contained about $200K. When I got out of jail, all my bank accounts had negative balances, my car was missing (stolen), and everything of value had been taken from my apartment, from which I'd been evicted. It's very clear to everyone (except local police) what happened and who did it. I reported all of this to the banking institutions as soon as I was released from jail and recognized the theft. The banks refuse to return any of the money, supposedly due to the fact that 2-factor authentication checks were met (due to her having access to my phone and phone number). Local law enforcement is doing nothing. Since leaving jail I've been homeless due to the theft and am living off of money gifted by friends, as I'm now penniless. Never in a million years thought I'd be here. Have I any recourse??
RESPONSE A: You can sue your ex. Whether or not she can repay you or if she will actually do so even after a court order are things you will need to consider. Why is law enforcement not interested in pursuing this? You make it sound like you know for sure your ex did this, is this a situation where there's not actually any proof of that or...
RESPONSE B: Your recourse is against your exgirlfriend.
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POST: everyone (except local police) what happened and who did it. I reported all of this to the banking institutions as soon as I was released from jail and recognized the theft. The banks refuse to return any of the money, supposedly due to the fact that 2-factor authentication checks were met (due to her having access to my phone and phone number). Local law enforcement is doing nothing. Since leaving jail I've been homeless due to the theft and am living off of money gifted by friends, as I'm now penniless. Never in a million years thought I'd be here. Have I any recourse??
RESPONSE A: Your recourse is against your exgirlfriend.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer-Former Cop: a few things don’t make sense here, so I’ll ask questions and not assume. 1) Were you found guilty and how long were you incarcerated? This does make a difference when the police are looking at the case. 2) Who continued to pay your phone bill? 3) Did you ever, even once, give her your PIN number or login information to your bank so that she could add money to your commissary account? 4) Was she listed on any legal documents (lease, bank accounts, car title) for your stuff? If you answered “yes” to 2,3, or 4 then you will have a zero chance of the police going after her. If she ever, even once, took money and gave it to you in jail it will be very easy for her to say “he told me I could do all those things, which is why I was able to get money out of his retirement accounts.” 200k is a sizable amount of money to attempt to recover. There may also be follow on tax consequences for the removal of the funds from the retirement account. You will need to sue your ex-gf to get the money, but you also need to make sure this is documented in the event the IRS comes knocking. Without knowing anything about her situation it’s impossible to tell you what to do at the moment. If she is dirt broke, with no assets, then doing something in civil court right now might not be the best course of action. The best thing you can do is make a police report so you have some documentation of your side of the story.
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POST: is doing nothing. Since leaving jail I've been homeless due to the theft and am living off of money gifted by friends, as I'm now penniless. Never in a million years thought I'd be here. Have I any recourse??
RESPONSE A: Have you filed a police report for the identity theft? Often banks require that you file a report before they will reimburse stolen money. You need to escalate with the banks. If that doesn’t work, you can try contacting your state banking regulator and/or the CFPB. You have no right to have her prosecuted, that is a decision made by the police and prosecutor.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer-Former Cop: a few things don’t make sense here, so I’ll ask questions and not assume. 1) Were you found guilty and how long were you incarcerated? This does make a difference when the police are looking at the case. 2) Who continued to pay your phone bill? 3) Did you ever, even once, give her your PIN number or login information to your bank so that she could add money to your commissary account? 4) Was she listed on any legal documents (lease, bank accounts, car title) for your stuff? If you answered “yes” to 2,3, or 4 then you will have a zero chance of the police going after her. If she ever, even once, took money and gave it to you in jail it will be very easy for her to say “he told me I could do all those things, which is why I was able to get money out of his retirement accounts.” 200k is a sizable amount of money to attempt to recover. There may also be follow on tax consequences for the removal of the funds from the retirement account. You will need to sue your ex-gf to get the money, but you also need to make sure this is documented in the event the IRS comes knocking. Without knowing anything about her situation it’s impossible to tell you what to do at the moment. If she is dirt broke, with no assets, then doing something in civil court right now might not be the best course of action. The best thing you can do is make a police report so you have some documentation of your side of the story.
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POST: Soon to be ex husband being investigated by CPS I only know this because Cps came to call, the case worker interviewed us and we can keep the children in the home, at this time my soon to be ex is not legally required to leave the house; Weeks ago Husband was investigated by DHS for sex chatting with a person who may have been a minor. When the person disclosed their minor age he says he discontinued contact. He says DHS declined to pursue further, but forwarded all info to county. I have been a stay at home mom for the past decade, I have no income, we have no savings. We have been readying our home for sale so we could move to a different state with a really good job my husband had lined up, but i can't imagine that working now. I'm permanently disabled but not collecting any disability income, I don't know where to look to see if I qualify for any kind of assistance. He says he will divorce in the most amicable way possible, he has been a great dad and our children were already interviewed by Cps and apparently really talked us up. Washington state
RESPONSE A: Disability take a long time... like a year or two... to get if you qualify. You can talk to your doctor about it.
RESPONSE B: If you're disabled, you should seek out your county's Department of Social Services and inquire about applying for SSI and state benefits if available. They will walk you through the process. It may take a while so get started right away. If you are awarded benefits you can potentially get them retroactively from the date of the final decision but only back to when you filed the first application.
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POST: terms. Over the past 2 years or so we've gotten along well enough, and I've done my best to make sure I was being fair to her and my son. She still only calls once to twice a month, and only visits once or twice a quarter although she lives less than 30 minutes away. About 2 months ago she called me to ask if I thought she would ever hurt our child, and told me that they were under DSS investigation for abuse and neglect because during a checkup, their 3 month old had a bruise that they couldn't explain, and hadn't gained any weight. I found out this week that the investigation was completed and they were indicated. Their child has been taken for 6 months while they complete parenting classes and anger management. I contacted the DSS and was told that they cannot give me details on the case, that I should only allow supervised visitation for the time. My questions: Do I have any right to the results of the case, since my son is a child of the indicated? Would it be possible to obtain them, possibly through a court order? Should I retain an attorney to try for full custody since the reality is that I have my son full time anyway, and she rarely visits? Are there any other actions a can/should take to ensure the safety of my son? Thanks!
RESPONSE A: >Do I have any right to the results of the case, since my son is a child of the indicated? I'd certainly talk with my lawyer about this question. Ultimately the answer is likely to be probably not. But there may be ways to make this investigation evidence in your custody matter should you decide to bring one. >Should I retain an attorney to try for full custody since the reality is that I have my son full time anyway We can't know from this whether there is any threat to the safety of your son with his mother, or whether the investigation is well founded (or if it was, if that would change custody). But if mom isn't fulfilling her parenting time you should perhaps revisit the support order. You should almost certainly consult a lawyer here.
RESPONSE B: You should retain an attorney and file for a modification of the existing custody order based on the investigation and charges. The investigation should be discoverable through the court process.
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POST: Can I withhold my children from NCP if concerned for their safety?? I am the custodial parent of my 13 yr old daughter and 10 yr old son.(I have been the main custodial parent since 2014) I just found out my kids mother has been having my kids sleepover at her boss/sugar daddy’s house on her weekends and he is a registered sex offender, charged with sexual assault of a minor amongst other charges. She tried to pickup for Christmas break and I withheld them from going. I asked her about this, she had already known and still kept having our children around this man (he’s in violation) and said she would need to continue to have them around him, and sleepovers; “cause he’s her boss”. Her lawyer then emailed me, stating I am in contempt of court orders, along with a slew of threats of how they would sue me. Am I in contempt if I have my children’s safety in mind? Thank you!
RESPONSE A: > Am I in contempt if I have my children’s safety in mind? Yes, of course. You need to file for an emergency order in court, not just enforce new rules on a whim.
RESPONSE B: If the man your kids mother is seeing is violating the terms of his probation/parole you should call his PO
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POST: Can I withhold my children from NCP if concerned for their safety?? I am the custodial parent of my 13 yr old daughter and 10 yr old son.(I have been the main custodial parent since 2014) I just found out my kids mother has been having my kids sleepover at her boss/sugar daddy’s house on her weekends and he is a registered sex offender, charged with sexual assault of a minor amongst other charges. She tried to pickup for Christmas break and I withheld them from going. I asked her about this, she had already known and still kept having our children around this man (he’s in violation) and said she would need to continue to have them around him, and sleepovers; “cause he’s her boss”. Her lawyer then emailed me, stating I am in contempt of court orders, along with a slew of threats of how they would sue me. Am I in contempt if I have my children’s safety in mind? Thank you!
RESPONSE A: Have you called CPS to report it?
RESPONSE B: If the man your kids mother is seeing is violating the terms of his probation/parole you should call his PO
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POST: been the main custodial parent since 2014) I just found out my kids mother has been having my kids sleepover at her boss/sugar daddy’s house on her weekends and he is a registered sex offender, charged with sexual assault of a minor amongst other charges. She tried to pickup for Christmas break and I withheld them from going. I asked her about this, she had already known and still kept having our children around this man (he’s in violation) and said she would need to continue to have them around him, and sleepovers; “cause he’s her boss”. Her lawyer then emailed me, stating I am in contempt of court orders, along with a slew of threats of how they would sue me. Am I in contempt if I have my children’s safety in mind? Thank you!
RESPONSE A: This comes up a lot in my practice. The general rule (in Arkansas, at least) is that sudden events that constitute an actual threat to the children's health or well-being, and where seeking redress from the court isn't possible, allow you to do what is needed, including withhold visitation, to protect the the kids. However, it is in your best interests to seek an emergency order from the court as soon after taking such an action as possible. If it was done Friday evening, petition for an emergency order the following Monday. Here, sometimes the court will forgive waiting longer when a party has a limited budget and the emergency is severe enough, but I wouldn't count on that. The quicker you take it to court, the better off you will be. On that note, do not under any circumstances continue to withhold visitation based on the same allegations in your petition if the court refuses to grant you an emergency order. This is a quick way to be held in contempt or lose custody.
RESPONSE B: If he is a registered sex offender then likely there are specific behavioral conditions. If he is not allowed contact with minors, for example, the police may become involved. I am not an attorney but I suspect there are criminal considerations here that likely resolve faster vs the family law/courts/hearings process.
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POST: Can I withhold my children from NCP if concerned for their safety?? I am the custodial parent of my 13 yr old daughter and 10 yr old son.(I have been the main custodial parent since 2014) I just found out my kids mother has been having my kids sleepover at her boss/sugar daddy’s house on her weekends and he is a registered sex offender, charged with sexual assault of a minor amongst other charges. She tried to pickup for Christmas break and I withheld them from going. I asked her about this, she had already known and still kept having our children around this man (he’s in violation) and said she would need to continue to have them around him, and sleepovers; “cause he’s her boss”. Her lawyer then emailed me, stating I am in contempt of court orders, along with a slew of threats of how they would sue me. Am I in contempt if I have my children’s safety in mind? Thank you!
RESPONSE A: This comes up a lot in my practice. The general rule (in Arkansas, at least) is that sudden events that constitute an actual threat to the children's health or well-being, and where seeking redress from the court isn't possible, allow you to do what is needed, including withhold visitation, to protect the the kids. However, it is in your best interests to seek an emergency order from the court as soon after taking such an action as possible. If it was done Friday evening, petition for an emergency order the following Monday. Here, sometimes the court will forgive waiting longer when a party has a limited budget and the emergency is severe enough, but I wouldn't count on that. The quicker you take it to court, the better off you will be. On that note, do not under any circumstances continue to withhold visitation based on the same allegations in your petition if the court refuses to grant you an emergency order. This is a quick way to be held in contempt or lose custody.
RESPONSE B: Have you called CPS to report it?
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POST: Can I withhold my children from NCP if concerned for their safety?? I am the custodial parent of my 13 yr old daughter and 10 yr old son.(I have been the main custodial parent since 2014) I just found out my kids mother has been having my kids sleepover at her boss/sugar daddy’s house on her weekends and he is a registered sex offender, charged with sexual assault of a minor amongst other charges. She tried to pickup for Christmas break and I withheld them from going. I asked her about this, she had already known and still kept having our children around this man (he’s in violation) and said she would need to continue to have them around him, and sleepovers; “cause he’s her boss”. Her lawyer then emailed me, stating I am in contempt of court orders, along with a slew of threats of how they would sue me. Am I in contempt if I have my children’s safety in mind? Thank you!
RESPONSE A: If he is a registered sex offender then likely there are specific behavioral conditions. If he is not allowed contact with minors, for example, the police may become involved. I am not an attorney but I suspect there are criminal considerations here that likely resolve faster vs the family law/courts/hearings process.
RESPONSE B: Have you called CPS to report it?
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POST: hi. im a minor, working at a chickfila in Virginia, and worrked almost 6 hours without a break. this has happened multiple times, and i am wondering what, if anything, i should do.
RESPONSE A: Hello! Not a lawyer, but employer in VA. For minors 14-15, you are not permitted to work more than five hours continuously without a 30-min meal break. § 40.1-80.1. Employment of children. If you're 16 or older, Virginia does not mandate any break/meal times. It will be up to the employer (usually it's 30 min per shift, unpaid). If you are under the age of 16, please speak with your supervisor/manager and if they cannot alleviate the issue, go up the chain of command.
RESPONSE B: Before seeking legal action, I recommend following your chain of command. Speak with your manager first. If that's not effective email/call the corporate office, that's usually sufficient in resolving issues like these. Document everything, save everything, hardcopy and backups if possible. (Not a lawyer, just been there done that)
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POST: property. They currently have a court case pending regarding the matter. The main issue is that the people who are NOT our landlords are showing up trying to evict us. What can we do? (Side note: the individual trying to evict us may have a violent criminal past.)
RESPONSE A: Ignore them, and if the person trying to evict you continues to approch the house then feel free to call the police and tell them that a trespasser refuses to leave. Explain that they do not own the property, are not your landlord, and that they refuse to leave you alone. Keep a copy of your lease and some bills or mail to show the police to show you are legal tenant and that the individual is not your landlord. You can also mention that they have a history of violence. The police should make him leave. Ignore any eviction notices he tries to give you unless it is the official service from an eviction case filed in the local court. If he does file with the court (very unlikely since he doesnt own the property) then make sure to respond and attend your court date. The guy will crash and burn at court, because he won't be able to prove that he is the owner of the property. This kind of issue is usually either scammers trying to intimidate people out of cash, or crazy sovereign citizen types that think they can wave some notarized papers around and say some latin phrases and the law will magically give them free real estate. Let your landlord deal with the issue and don't engage the crazy guy other than calling the cops if they show up.
RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
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POST: I'm a tenant currently stuck between a property dispute between our landlord and different people claiming to own the property and am being threatened with eviction. From Montana. Been living in a rental for a number of years now, but within the past year some folks have claimed our landlord doesn't actually own the property. They currently have a court case pending regarding the matter. The main issue is that the people who are NOT our landlords are showing up trying to evict us. What can we do? (Side note: the individual trying to evict us may have a violent criminal past.)
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
RESPONSE B: what does "trying to evict us" entail?? any paperwork??
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POST: Someone is claiming my property as their own because he was holding onto it. If I try to get it back he said he will shoot me, wondering my rights? My friend volunteered to hold on to some personal property at his house and is now claiming it as his own and intends to sell it. it's a very large slab of wood worth over 1500 in it's raw form. It is really heavy so I have to get help to move it. There have been several times when he could have stated his sudden belief of ownership, but even the day it came into question he tried to hide what he was doing with it. I found out that the had essentially destroyed the 13 ft slab cutting it in half and is working on one half to turn into a table. it's my slab! Now he says it's his because it's been at his house for a year and if I try to get it back he will shoot me
RESPONSE A: Take it to court. That's about all you can do. Don't call the police or file a police report. They'll tell you to do the same thing. I know from experience.
RESPONSE B: File a police report if you have a copy of the threat. Those are not things to take lightly.
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POST: they would tow it to the dump themselves for her, for free. She said okay, gave them the title to the car, and left. She left with the perception—under the garage's encouragement, no doubt—that the car was absolutely worthless and she was better off leaving it with them, or else face the hassle of "disposing of it" herself. ​ More info, if it helps: ​ * This happened approximately two months ago, I learned of it yesterday. * Last time I saw it, the car was drive-able and in good shape, but had 100,000+ miles on it and the interior was rather worn. Exterior was in great condition. * I don't know how much damage this "fender bender" caused to either vehicle. * She does not know the name of the business where she left the car. * No paperwork was signed in the transaction. My mother has no record of it. * Regardless of its condition, my mother did not receive *any* money for the car. * She has a rather serious, and well-documented history of mental decline over the past ten or so years. In 2018, I was in contact with Arizona Adult Protective Services to begin the process of taking guardianship of her and her estate from where I live [NY], but ultimately decided against it. ​ Ever since she told me what happened, I've had this horrible feeling that she was fleeced out of thousands, if not tens of thousands, of dollars. She's had this car since before I was born, and I'm sick to my stomach about it. I'm ready to take legal action on her behalf, but I want some guidance first. Was what happened to her a crime? What do I need to bring to a lawyer for them to take the case? Should I file a police report? I'm flying to AZ in two weeks, where I can be more hands-on and proactive about this.
RESPONSE A: If you don't know the name of the shop see if you can flag the VIN
RESPONSE B: I am not entirely sure if it matters but in the state of Arizona the title must be signed and stamped by a notary
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POST: A lady I don't know dropped her kid off with my Mom and police won't come get the child (CA) Hello everyone, My Mom watches kids out of her apartment. She's not a licensed daycare provider, she just does this on occasion for some extra money. Some parents wanted some time to prep for thanksgiving, so she agreed to babysit today. Some lady neither one of us knows dropped her kid off this morning and still has not come back for her child. At the time, only my mom was home and she does not speak English, so she doesn't know what the woman said to her. We called the police and told them someone had abandoned their child here, but the police said it's not abandonment until 24 hours had passed. What are we supposed to do? We have no idea if this child has health conditions, is allergic to any foods in the apartment, needs medications, etc. All we know is her name because she was able to tell us. She looks to be about 2 and 1/2 years old and does not know her parent's names or phone numbers. What kind of liability can we face if we accidentally gave her something she is allergic to? Any other legal things we should be doing to cover our bases at this point?
RESPONSE A: could you take the child to a hospital, fire or police station that has a safe haven?
RESPONSE B: Did you try asking the parents of the kids she agreed to babysit or other regulars? Unless your mom puts up flyers or Craigslist posts with your address the woman had to have heard about her from someone.
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POST: A lady I don't know dropped her kid off with my Mom and police won't come get the child (CA) Hello everyone, My Mom watches kids out of her apartment. She's not a licensed daycare provider, she just does this on occasion for some extra money. Some parents wanted some time to prep for thanksgiving, so she agreed to babysit today. Some lady neither one of us knows dropped her kid off this morning and still has not come back for her child. At the time, only my mom was home and she does not speak English, so she doesn't know what the woman said to her. We called the police and told them someone had abandoned their child here, but the police said it's not abandonment until 24 hours had passed. What are we supposed to do? We have no idea if this child has health conditions, is allergic to any foods in the apartment, needs medications, etc. All we know is her name because she was able to tell us. She looks to be about 2 and 1/2 years old and does not know her parent's names or phone numbers. What kind of liability can we face if we accidentally gave her something she is allergic to? Any other legal things we should be doing to cover our bases at this point?
RESPONSE A: For an after school program we wait an hour for the parents if no show we drop the kids off at the police station. We try not to since it scares the kids and puts them in the system but in your case you might have to.
RESPONSE B: could you take the child to a hospital, fire or police station that has a safe haven?
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POST: A lady I don't know dropped her kid off with my Mom and police won't come get the child (CA) Hello everyone, My Mom watches kids out of her apartment. She's not a licensed daycare provider, she just does this on occasion for some extra money. Some parents wanted some time to prep for thanksgiving, so she agreed to babysit today. Some lady neither one of us knows dropped her kid off this morning and still has not come back for her child. At the time, only my mom was home and she does not speak English, so she doesn't know what the woman said to her. We called the police and told them someone had abandoned their child here, but the police said it's not abandonment until 24 hours had passed. What are we supposed to do? We have no idea if this child has health conditions, is allergic to any foods in the apartment, needs medications, etc. All we know is her name because she was able to tell us. She looks to be about 2 and 1/2 years old and does not know her parent's names or phone numbers. What kind of liability can we face if we accidentally gave her something she is allergic to? Any other legal things we should be doing to cover our bases at this point?
RESPONSE A: could you take the child to a hospital, fire or police station that has a safe haven?
RESPONSE B: Call CPS immediately and call the cops back, demand to speak to a supervisor, no way this isn't abandonment.
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RESPONSE A: 1.) You have a right to quiet enjoyment of the property. File police complains every time they come over and cause a ruckus. Indicate that unless they have maintenance to perform, they can communicate to you in writing. 2.) Keep copies of all of your rent payments. Also, make sure to keep a copy of your lease in your car (or digital copy) in case they try a self-help eviction. 3.) Feel free to record any interaction with him that occurs with the agent at your house. Be sure to inform him that he's being recorded. 4.) You're not forced to interact with him. If he tries to accost you when you're leaving the property. Avoid him. Feel free to film him if he harrasses you and file a complaint with the police.
RESPONSE B: Get all your receipts or transfer payments copied so you can present them to any authority (ie. sheriff) that comes to your door. Do not give up your original copies.
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POST: Need Advice: My girlfriend got fired today because she walked in on her boss having an affair with his assistant Not sure if this is where this belongs, but I need some guidance. This happened in NJ if it helps. Today, my girlfriend got fired after walking in on her boss and his assistant having an affair. She was a recent hire and had to fill out some additional paperwork in his office. She had left her ID behind and went back to retrieve it after realizing a few minutes later. When she walked back into his office, she saw his assistant sitting in his lap with her legs spread, and her skirt hiked up. Upon seeing my girlfriend enter the room, she says her boss pushed his assistant off his lap and both of them were clearly startled. My girlfriend just apologized and exited the room as quickly as she could. At the end of the day, she was called into his office and he asked her if she had any issues with what she saw. She was still in shock about it and said "I don't know." Then he gave her 2 paychecks and said that he didn't think she was right for the job. Yet up until that point, he had done nothing but praise her for the work she had been doing. Clearly this is a fucked up situation and my girlfriend is shock about the whole thing. I don't really know what to do next, but I know that what he did was wrong on a multitude of levels. Any guidance on what to do in this situation would be appreciated.
RESPONSE A: I’d tell the wife for sure lol
RESPONSE B: That's going to be a great unemployment claim.
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POST: Need Advice: My girlfriend got fired today because she walked in on her boss having an affair with his assistant Not sure if this is where this belongs, but I need some guidance. This happened in NJ if it helps. Today, my girlfriend got fired after walking in on her boss and his assistant having an affair. She was a recent hire and had to fill out some additional paperwork in his office. She had left her ID behind and went back to retrieve it after realizing a few minutes later. When she walked back into his office, she saw his assistant sitting in his lap with her legs spread, and her skirt hiked up. Upon seeing my girlfriend enter the room, she says her boss pushed his assistant off his lap and both of them were clearly startled. My girlfriend just apologized and exited the room as quickly as she could. At the end of the day, she was called into his office and he asked her if she had any issues with what she saw. She was still in shock about it and said "I don't know." Then he gave her 2 paychecks and said that he didn't think she was right for the job. Yet up until that point, he had done nothing but praise her for the work she had been doing. Clearly this is a fucked up situation and my girlfriend is shock about the whole thing. I don't really know what to do next, but I know that what he did was wrong on a multitude of levels. Any guidance on what to do in this situation would be appreciated.
RESPONSE A: I’d tell the wife for sure lol
RESPONSE B: Bad things randomly happen to people. She should contact a state office for whatever assistance she can get while she transitions to another job. It’s BS that she got fired but ultimately it means she’s better off than if she was still working in that environment. Think of the nonsense she’d have to deal with.
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POST: Found someone else inside my apartment Riverside, CA I left my apartment in March 2020 due to the pandemic. From March 2020 until now, I have been paying my rent, as I have personal belongings that I was unable to bring with me during that time. Today, I went back to Riverside to clear out some items and begin packing them to bring back home, but I found the lights on and saw someone else inside the apartment. When trying to unlock my door, my key did not fit. I had never received prior information from anyone associated with the apartment, and my lease expires this upcoming June. What is my best course of action? Any help would be greatly appreciated!
RESPONSE A: Check your lease for requirements for occupancy and any abandonment clauses. Some leases do not allow the property to be vacant for more than a certain period of time due to risk of vandalism, squatters, damage from pipes bursting, etc.
RESPONSE B: Others gave good advice on current action, but I didn't see anyone address the rent issue. If your landlord is letting someone else stay in your leased space then you would be entitled to a return of any rent paid to the landlord (possibly minus cost for storing your stuff, but that shouldn't be very much). The fact that the landlord changed the locks makes this sound like an illegal eviction, which could entitle you to additional damages, but check with an attorney in your jurisdiction before you make any demands. Your recourse would likely be through small claims court if your landlord refuses to return the rent paid.
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POST: Found someone else inside my apartment Riverside, CA I left my apartment in March 2020 due to the pandemic. From March 2020 until now, I have been paying my rent, as I have personal belongings that I was unable to bring with me during that time. Today, I went back to Riverside to clear out some items and begin packing them to bring back home, but I found the lights on and saw someone else inside the apartment. When trying to unlock my door, my key did not fit. I had never received prior information from anyone associated with the apartment, and my lease expires this upcoming June. What is my best course of action? Any help would be greatly appreciated!
RESPONSE A: Others gave good advice on current action, but I didn't see anyone address the rent issue. If your landlord is letting someone else stay in your leased space then you would be entitled to a return of any rent paid to the landlord (possibly minus cost for storing your stuff, but that shouldn't be very much). The fact that the landlord changed the locks makes this sound like an illegal eviction, which could entitle you to additional damages, but check with an attorney in your jurisdiction before you make any demands. Your recourse would likely be through small claims court if your landlord refuses to return the rent paid.
RESPONSE B: It is possible your landlord has rented the place and is collecting double rent. Look into this and if it is true report it to the housing authority
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POST: that we still had left over there (she is a lot more clear headed than me at this point, and she's more knowledgeable with what we still had over there) and to tell the complex. From there, I call our police department after being informed that they wanted to forward the information to their head office. While waiting for the police officer, and finding out that this is a civil matter on his terms, I'm then told that they thought I'd abandoned the apartment. Though, I'd been there, and paid up to date, never late on any payment to them. They take the monetary value and list of items, and say that they'll be back in touch with me. Roughly an hour later, they have my wife and I sign a form showing what was disposed of, and saying that they'll mail us a check. Which, to me is fine. But the fact that when we're there to sign the paper, they magically find one of the items that most upset my wife (a jacket bought for her from our recently deceased family member), so I don't think they are that genuine at this time, and am told that it could take a few (2-3 weeks) to get the check. I'm currently at over the 3 week mark, and trying to give it another week, but I'm getting to the point where I feel that I'm being used and they're not going to follow up on their word, and wondering what my next best recourse would be. I don't want to drop it, because I feel that my rights were completely violated as a tenant, and it was the apartment complex that did it, not a burglar or anything.
RESPONSE A: Sue them in small claims.
RESPONSE B: The State of Florida mandates that landlords hold property that belongs to tenants "left behind" in a move be stored for a period of time to prevent precisely this. Even if things happened exactly the way they claimed (that you had surrendered your keys) they were *still* in violation of the law. The fact that you hadn't moved out yet only makes that worse. Sue in small claims, I believe that you are very likely to win. A judgment against them makes it way easier to compel them to pay you back.
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POST: m then told that they thought I'd abandoned the apartment. Though, I'd been there, and paid up to date, never late on any payment to them. They take the monetary value and list of items, and say that they'll be back in touch with me. Roughly an hour later, they have my wife and I sign a form showing what was disposed of, and saying that they'll mail us a check. Which, to me is fine. But the fact that when we're there to sign the paper, they magically find one of the items that most upset my wife (a jacket bought for her from our recently deceased family member), so I don't think they are that genuine at this time, and am told that it could take a few (2-3 weeks) to get the check. I'm currently at over the 3 week mark, and trying to give it another week, but I'm getting to the point where I feel that I'm being used and they're not going to follow up on their word, and wondering what my next best recourse would be. I don't want to drop it, because I feel that my rights were completely violated as a tenant, and it was the apartment complex that did it, not a burglar or anything.
RESPONSE A: Sue.
RESPONSE B: The legal question was well answered above but as a suggestion of things to do. I would personally A: Call and inquire specifically asking if they have mailed the check. Record the call if possible (check your state law to make sure you follow it for recordings (1 party vs 2 party consent being required) B: Assuming they say "not yet, etc", Write them a nasty-gram (Demand letter) stating the amount owed and that they had (3 weeks) to send a check that the time period is coming up on X date and that if you do not receive the check by X+5 days that you will be suing them for the sum and additionally for any attorney expenses that you might incur for the litigation. Send this Certified mail so that you can prove they got it later. If that doesn't get any results, file a claim in small claims court. Be sure to include any expenses you incur for the litigation in the claim.
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POST: [CA] Found out my sister changed the name of my disabled fathers largest savings account to her own sons name My dad claims he did not have any accounts for her son at that bank. It’s over 100k, and she changed the name of the “account owner” to her own son’s name. I have been helping my dad with some of his finances, and discovered this totally by accident. I changed it back after I confirmed with him that the account was his own s d no one else’s. A few months ago my sister changed all his bank access info to her info (recovery email and phone) because he had forgotten passwords etc, and I think she did this then. What should I do?
RESPONSE A: A bit strange that the bank would just permit a name change like that to an entirely different person not on the account. They would typically direct someone to open a new account based on the person's information and SSN, so I find that quite suspect. Talk to the bank manager about the name change and what supporting documents were submitted. Find out what transactions (particularly withdrawals) took place during that time. He could potentially sue her to recover the funds Make sure the account names, logins and passwords are all updated
RESPONSE B: Presuming she has not been granted power of attorney, she's looking at some degree of fraud and identity theft. (Except in the unlikely chance she got this authority without fraud due to a long string of mistakes by someone at the bank). In addition, this seems pretty close to textbook elder financial abuse, so you should probably report her to adult protective services in addition to reporting the fraud to police. That said, something important to consider is if the Dad is willing to push through and assist the investigation. In many instances of intra-family fraud or crimes, many victims are very hesitant to cooperate with authorities because the perpetrators are also family, which can cripple or completely stop any attempts at persecuting the crime. So talk to your father to see if he's on-board with pursuing this, otherwise it may be a waste of time to report the fraud to the police.
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POST: ’t be at the home to deal with all this until tomorrow evening, but my Great Uncle and his wife have entered the home, taken vital documents, money, items and things without permission. The cops were called and his wife started screaming about how “it’s her Uncle’s property now because he was next in line on the trust” and these people are playing stupid. I got in contact with a probate attorney, have recorded all phone calls, filed police reports and notified the funeral home to let me know if they try to say I gave them permission to take over funeral arrangements for my dad. They completely took everything away from the spot my dad passed - moved his shoes, blankets, etc. It may seem odd, but I really just wanted that to be left intact until I got there so I could see the last spot my dad was before I have to say goodbye. I don’t think I can forgive them for that. Is there anything I should be worried about/anything additional I should do? This is my first time dealing with something so I’m trying my best. I’ve considered pressing charges for trespassing and theft if they don’t return every item they took. They’ve gutted the house, trashed rooms worth of things, took legal documents, social security cards, etc because they wanted to ‘keep them safe’ (bullshit), and they even took my dads money, keys, etc. Thankfully I have a full video tour of the home from a month ago so I can compare what was there before and after my dad passed.
RESPONSE A: Clients still act shocked when I tell them to literally get a contractor RIGHT NOW to put 2-way deadbolts and window locks on the home of their recently deceased relative. *You just never know who's gonna be a greedy shit and start looting everything.* Or who has a gambling problem or a drug problem or is getting audited by the IRS or is a pauper due to child support based on a job that went bankrupt. ^(edit: things I've seen)
RESPONSE B: Apologies if it's been stated, where is this located? Next of kin laws vary from location to location.
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POST: was distributed to my dad, he filed all the death certificates, got her bank accounts, control of all four properties and the only thing he hasn’t done is swap titles to the cars and some minor things like that. My dad did NOT have a will, and under California law had to outlive his mother by 5 days in order to avoid my Uncle inheriting anything. Unfortunately I’m on the other side of the country and won’t be at the home to deal with all this until tomorrow evening, but my Great Uncle and his wife have entered the home, taken vital documents, money, items and things without permission. The cops were called and his wife started screaming about how “it’s her Uncle’s property now because he was next in line on the trust” and these people are playing stupid. I got in contact with a probate attorney, have recorded all phone calls, filed police reports and notified the funeral home to let me know if they try to say I gave them permission to take over funeral arrangements for my dad. They completely took everything away from the spot my dad passed - moved his shoes, blankets, etc. It may seem odd, but I really just wanted that to be left intact until I got there so I could see the last spot my dad was before I have to say goodbye. I don’t think I can forgive them for that. Is there anything I should be worried about/anything additional I should do? This is my first time dealing with something so I’m trying my best. I’ve considered pressing charges for trespassing and theft if they don’t return every item they took. They’ve gutted the house, trashed rooms worth of things, took legal documents, social security cards, etc because they wanted to ‘keep them safe’ (bullshit), and they even took my dads money, keys, etc. Thankfully I have a full video tour of the home from a month ago so I can compare what was there before and after my dad passed.
RESPONSE A: Apologies if it's been stated, where is this located? Next of kin laws vary from location to location.
RESPONSE B: Call the police, they are thieves. If they care so little about your dad, why should you bother to care about them?
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POST: Neighbor’s severely autistic son keeps entering my home. Filed CPS report and called police multiple times with nothing done. What are my options? Located in Indiana. My neighbors have a severely autistic son (about 10-11yo) who continuously trespasses my property and enters my home. I’ve called the police about this multiple times and have filed a CPS report (because it’s blatant neglect, walks in the winter time in shorts/underwear with no shoes). So far nothing has been done. Cops will come, escort him back to his house, talk to the parents, and then leave. I’m tired of this happening because every time it happens it causes stress in my house. What can I do about this? How do I get law enforcement to start taking me seriously?
RESPONSE A: The parents are negligent in allowing their child to leave their house by himself. I would go to the local police station and ask to speak to someone who supervises the officers on patrol. I know someone who put one of those door code locks on the inside to prevent their autistic child from escaping.
RESPONSE B: Call the police every time he enters your home or throws balls at your windows (especially if the windows break). If CPS has an open case against the parents they can use police reports. The police will also get pretty concerned after a few calls and may get more serious with the parents. Also make sure all your doors have locks and stay locked. If you have anything that could be deemed an "attractive nuisance" like a trampoline/pool, lock that shit up tight. If this kid keeps entering your property you may be liable for any injuries he gets.
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POST: decided to sell the building and we could either use our deposit for June and be out by the end of the month, or pay June and use our deposit for July and be out by the end of July. I asked if we could stay and just rent from the new buyers, but he told me that he doesn't know who the buyers will be yet and he has work to do on the apartment before he lists it. All of this communication has been through text. The rental market in the city we live in is insane right now, everyone is struggling. My partner and I are both on Unemployment at the moment, and I have a 13 year old son. Trying to apply for an apartment on Unemployment is going to be nearly impossible, and the time we've been given isn't going to be enough time to save up for a deposit and first and/or last month rent for a new place. Needless to say, I'm terrified. We have been perfect tenants, have never paid rent a day late even once, keep everything clean and are quiet. I understand the market is great for sellers right now so I can't blame him, but I have a feeling this is going to drag on and be messy because we just logically aren't going to be able to find a place and be out in a month and a half. If I'd known sooner and had more time to look, it would have been different. I still don't know why he offered a new lease and then changed his mind days later, but I'm just hoping someone might be able to give some advice on what to do next. Thanks so much in advance
RESPONSE A: If you don’t leave by the end of July you will be evicted, with an eviction on your record you will be in a much worse situation trying to find alternative accommodation. You could try to work with your landlord to find a compromise, offer to go month to month so he is still receiving rental income until he has a buyer. Request a good reference to help you find somewhere and offer to accommodate the sale by keeping the place tidy and making it available for viewings etc.
RESPONSE B: So to clarify, you did not actually sign the new lease he offered?
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POST: the city we live in is insane right now, everyone is struggling. My partner and I are both on Unemployment at the moment, and I have a 13 year old son. Trying to apply for an apartment on Unemployment is going to be nearly impossible, and the time we've been given isn't going to be enough time to save up for a deposit and first and/or last month rent for a new place. Needless to say, I'm terrified. We have been perfect tenants, have never paid rent a day late even once, keep everything clean and are quiet. I understand the market is great for sellers right now so I can't blame him, but I have a feeling this is going to drag on and be messy because we just logically aren't going to be able to find a place and be out in a month and a half. If I'd known sooner and had more time to look, it would have been different. I still don't know why he offered a new lease and then changed his mind days later, but I'm just hoping someone might be able to give some advice on what to do next. Thanks so much in advance
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: If you don’t leave by the end of July you will be evicted, with an eviction on your record you will be in a much worse situation trying to find alternative accommodation. You could try to work with your landlord to find a compromise, offer to go month to month so he is still receiving rental income until he has a buyer. Request a good reference to help you find somewhere and offer to accommodate the sale by keeping the place tidy and making it available for viewings etc.
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POST: say, I'm terrified. We have been perfect tenants, have never paid rent a day late even once, keep everything clean and are quiet. I understand the market is great for sellers right now so I can't blame him, but I have a feeling this is going to drag on and be messy because we just logically aren't going to be able to find a place and be out in a month and a half. If I'd known sooner and had more time to look, it would have been different. I still don't know why he offered a new lease and then changed his mind days later, but I'm just hoping someone might be able to give some advice on what to do next. Thanks so much in advance
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: Doesn't really sound like anything illegal occurred. In fact, sounds like 'they' are at least trying to cordial--refund of June rent, and giving you until the end of July to get out. Not confident on what the tenant laws are in MA, and we would have to know what type of lease it is (yearly? month to month?). If month to month, then they legally have to give you 30 days. If a yearly lease, should also be a month if within the first year. Honestly, there isn't much you can do. No crime has been committed, and no party is legally wronged (morally, maybe). If I was in your position, I would be looking for a job right about now. These moments define us as humans--how we are able to adapt and survive. Roll with the punches and come out stronger than before, I know you can do it.
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RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment.
RESPONSE B: So to clarify, you did not actually sign the new lease he offered?
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POST: Am I legally obligated to pay for spouses debt after death Hi everyone, very sad to make this post but in time of crisis RN. - Temp account obv. Also wasn't sure what this would fall under so sorry in advance for wrong Flair Making this post for my mother since she's not very good with the internet. -Location : Michigan- ​ So last month my father passed away due to medical complications and a botched surgery. I know by legal standards in Michigan if her name is not on some of the cards she does not have to pay them due to Michigan being a non community property estate. ​ She sent the Death certificates out to most of the Credit card companies and one of them even though she is not on it has sent a letter back essentially threating to go after estate or anything that is worth enough to pay the card off. She said she may have been added as an "Authorized user" but she never used the card that was sent in the mail or even activated it, she doesn't really even know if my dad did or not because she's never seen the card but she's assuming that's why the sent the letter back. Is this a scare tactic for them to attempt to get their money back? Is this something that even if she was added as an AU user and never activated the card is something she can fight against? ​ Any help would be appreciated, any questions I will attempt to answer. -Thank you in advance.
RESPONSE A: Your father’s debts are paid by his estate, not his spouse.
RESPONSE B: The estate has a responsibility to pay off as many debts as there's money for, but that's all. Generally a spouse isn't going to be personally responsible for debt.
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RESPONSE A: You might want to consult a probate/wills & trust attorney to answer your mother's questions. They would know the state rules. Plus, if there are joint assets, how much of that asset goes to pay the debt and how much is hers. If they own a home together, the way it is titled also matters. Note: Generally life insurance goes to the beneficiaries and doesn't pay off debt; but I don't know the specific laws in your state so you need someone who does to confirm that.
RESPONSE B: Don't have her send any money to them; doing so can be seen as her accepting responsibility for the whole debt. The proper way that debts are supposed to be handled is through the estate. The executor of the estate is responsible for paying things off through the estate's funds. Depending on what the property is, it might or might not count as part of the estate. For example, joint bank accounts generally don't become part of the estate, they go directly to the other holder. Same for any property that they owned jointly (which has specific legal definitions; things that they owned before marriage or bought out of their own funds might not qualify).
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RESPONSE A: First of all, the right response to the the credit card that's being the pain-in-the-ass is "We will address his debts in due course of handling his estate." That process can take a year, so threatening a suit is pretty much saying "Hi, we're the assholes." There's nothing they can legally do other than huff and puff, so they should be ignored for the time being. They're just trying to scare your mom into sending them some money, which is the last thing that should happen. NEXT, you need to figure out what sort of assets your dad had and see how they were titled. It may be that "opening probate" for him would be pointless, in which case you just tell the credit card company "We haven't opened probate and don't intend to." They can go through the process of doing it themselves, but it's unlikely that they will -- if there's no money in the estate after paying funeral expenses, taxes and so on, then it's pointless. If it's actually a joint card (where she's not just an authorized users), then your mom would have direct liability for the debt, but it sounds like that's not the case. Might be helpful if you could post a REDACTED version of the letter (omit personal information, account numbers, barcodes, etc....). Depending on the bank, somebody might have direct experience with them.
RESPONSE B: You might want to consult a probate/wills & trust attorney to answer your mother's questions. They would know the state rules. Plus, if there are joint assets, how much of that asset goes to pay the debt and how much is hers. If they own a home together, the way it is titled also matters. Note: Generally life insurance goes to the beneficiaries and doesn't pay off debt; but I don't know the specific laws in your state so you need someone who does to confirm that.
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POST: so I decided I would go with them and accepted their bid and paid them 25% up front. A week ago, some workers showed up at the front door with the tree removal truck out front and said they were here "for the tree work" so I assumed they were from Company A that I had hired. Turns out, they were from the other company, Company B that I didn't hire. I showed them the tree and they removed it and are now billing me for the work they did which is more expensive than Company A's price. I didn't realize the mix-up until Company A called to schedule our tree removal at which point I told them their crew already came out and they said "No they didn't..." Fortunately, Company A is refunding my deposit and says this is not the first time that Company B has done this. Am I legally obligated to pay Company B for the work at the price they are invoicing me for even though I did not accept their bid? I did not sign anything with them. I am in Massachusetts.
RESPONSE A: As everyone is saying, it is going to be more expensive to fight for it. But, you can always try to communicate with company B explain to them that you never agreed to anything with them and that company A even had an advance payment. Send them the company A bid and tell them that you are willing to pay the same 348$ to them because there was never an agreement and you thought it was company A doing the Job. You might be surprised, the may be able to accept that. You have nothing to loose by doing so.
RESPONSE B: >Company A was cheaper than Company B and I have used them in the past so I decided I would go with them and accepted their bid and paid them 25% up front. Did you tell Company B you were rejecting their bid or how did you respond to it? Were the workers in Company B uniforms with a Company B logo truck? When you paid a deposit to Company A, did you have an understanding or agreement as to when they would do the work? >and says this is not the first time that Company B has done this. How many times have they done this? If you can get evidence, affidavits, etc. that may help you to defend this. How much money does Company B want?
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POST: from Company A that I had hired. Turns out, they were from the other company, Company B that I didn't hire. I showed them the tree and they removed it and are now billing me for the work they did which is more expensive than Company A's price. I didn't realize the mix-up until Company A called to schedule our tree removal at which point I told them their crew already came out and they said "No they didn't..." Fortunately, Company A is refunding my deposit and says this is not the first time that Company B has done this. Am I legally obligated to pay Company B for the work at the price they are invoicing me for even though I did not accept their bid? I did not sign anything with them. I am in Massachusetts.
RESPONSE A: Sounds like B is rather shady, it could have been a mistake. What do you want to happen? Did they do a good job otherwise? Any damage to your property? You could try calling company B and speak to an owner, explain what happened, see if they will do the right thing. Maybe they'll agree to only charging you what you would have paid company A. If not, I'm sure there is some trade commission board/better business bureau/ etc you can file a complaint to. However, I doubt that company B is affiliated with any of them. Could try to refute the claim, let them take you to small claims, and argue your case there. In my small town/county I'd go to the Sheriff's department and/or county attorney and see if anything can be done. In bigger cities...I don't know. You could also take to Facebook, Yelp, etc and leave a buyer beware review.
RESPONSE B: As everyone is saying, it is going to be more expensive to fight for it. But, you can always try to communicate with company B explain to them that you never agreed to anything with them and that company A even had an advance payment. Send them the company A bid and tell them that you are willing to pay the same 348$ to them because there was never an agreement and you thought it was company A doing the Job. You might be surprised, the may be able to accept that. You have nothing to loose by doing so.
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POST: Neighbor built driveway with culvert discharging water to my yard in Michigan Neighbors installed new driveway next to my property line with culvert discharging wetland water directly to the property line which is resulting in flooding of low point of property. This area previously sheet flowed to this low point, however their driveway created a dam which is now directing all water to the culvert discharging at rapid rate onto my property. This culvert is not in the right of way and does not discharge to the ditch, it’s roughly 35’ from the edge of road. What legal options do I have in Michigan? The flooding is damaging to roughly 0.5-1 acre of property.
RESPONSE A: I'm confused. Your low area is below the neighbors wetland but is not, itself, a wetland? How has the culvert increased the flow from the wetland?
RESPONSE B: Water issues are complicated and vary greatly by local law. I would call your local building permit/stormwater office. If their is nothing they can do, you may be forced to remedy the situation on your own. I had to install a French drain after similar circumstances in Wisconsin. Each land owner was responsible for dealing with any water that came to his property. He could defend or divert any water as he saw fit. So nothing was illegal about my neighbor damning the water from flowing to his property.
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POST: is telling me I can no longer move in, but I have a signed lease. Move in is less than a week away. This takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease.
RESPONSE A: Does the three-month rule take effect immediately? Perhaps there's a delay that would allow you to still have the one-month lease.
RESPONSE B: The Chicago Housing Authority manages public & subsidized housing programs. They don't set policy for all rentals in Chicago. I believe that any Chicago-specific rental rules like that would have to be ordinances passed by the Chicago City Council. So look into whether this supposed policy even exists or applies to your situation & apartment. It's possible they're trying to get out of the lease because they have a longer-term tenant interested in the unit and aren't telling you the truth. In any case, I would be very surprised if a policy or ordinance of this nature was intended to void already-signed leases.
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POST: expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer What does your lease say? That is what a court would look at, along with what the laws say and then reconcile the 2. However, if your landlord is offering a solution that is reasonable, before you take it, make sure it is in writing. That means if the landlord is stating a solution with numbers, the landlord needs to put such down in writing. What is also of importance, to what the landlord's solution, would be things like the penalty for breaking the lease early.
RESPONSE B: The Chicago Housing Authority manages public & subsidized housing programs. They don't set policy for all rentals in Chicago. I believe that any Chicago-specific rental rules like that would have to be ordinances passed by the Chicago City Council. So look into whether this supposed policy even exists or applies to your situation & apartment. It's possible they're trying to get out of the lease because they have a longer-term tenant interested in the unit and aren't telling you the truth. In any case, I would be very surprised if a policy or ordinance of this nature was intended to void already-signed leases.
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POST: takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease.
RESPONSE A: I'd imagine it depends when you signed the lease. if before this decision was made you should be grandfathered in.. if not ask to make an exception with the board as you don't have time to look for another.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. Sounds scammy. Even if there was a need to make the lease a 3month lease, there is zero reason you'd have to pay all 3 months upfront. If anything the landlord could have slightly lowered the rent and implemented a "break lease fee" that would bring the rent back to the previously agreed upon amount. This could have made a convincing enough loophole to skirt by the issue for this lease term. Sounds like either it's a complete scam all together, or they found a longer term tenant and want to wiggle out of it. I'd call the city councel/housing association for guidance.
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POST: amphetamines. I have an adderall prescription to treat ADHD. I'm not certain why I didn't immediately ask for the report, I think I was confused to begin with, but I can't exactly prove they said Marijuana as it was over the phone. Regardless, I confirmed my prescription with the lab and had them send back a report to my employer. It's now been 3 days and they haven't responded. I know they're still running, they are an essential business delivering oxygen and all. But I'm worried they think they can just ignore me and I'll go away because they don't need the employees right now after having to cut back on hours. I don't even know how to proceed, seeing as how I was employed for all of a week and a half. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Based on my limited knowledge of the ADA I don't believe they can fire you based on your drug test once you've submitted proof that you have a prescription for a medical condition. I'm not sure if this changes because the position involves operating a vehicle. If no one else here can provide more information I would recommend getting a consultation with an employment attorney.
RESPONSE B: Who told you you tested positive? Was it the testing company or your employer? Generally the procedure is that you get tested and if there is any anomalies, the testing company calls you and asks you to provide evidence you are legally prescribed that drug. They then pass you when you provide that evidence. Or not because it was an illegal drug if that's the case. I'm going to assume from what you have said said and what was accused, the testing company failed you without contact you to confirm if you were prescribed amphetamines, and then someone at the company passed it on to HR and HR assumed it was weed (because 90% of their drug fails probably are weed) who then told you you were failed for weed. Either way, you need an employment lawyer. As the company has been informed you are legally prescribed amphetamines you probably have an ADA case them, and depending on what the drug testing company told your former employer you might have a defamation case against them.
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POST: confused about this, didn't know how to react. Maybe it's because I lived with someone who smoked? Maybe I was exposed in some way and came up positive? I emailed them the following week and asked for a copy of the report. I failed for amphetamines. I have an adderall prescription to treat ADHD. I'm not certain why I didn't immediately ask for the report, I think I was confused to begin with, but I can't exactly prove they said Marijuana as it was over the phone. Regardless, I confirmed my prescription with the lab and had them send back a report to my employer. It's now been 3 days and they haven't responded. I know they're still running, they are an essential business delivering oxygen and all. But I'm worried they think they can just ignore me and I'll go away because they don't need the employees right now after having to cut back on hours. I don't even know how to proceed, seeing as how I was employed for all of a week and a half. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Who told you you tested positive? Was it the testing company or your employer? Generally the procedure is that you get tested and if there is any anomalies, the testing company calls you and asks you to provide evidence you are legally prescribed that drug. They then pass you when you provide that evidence. Or not because it was an illegal drug if that's the case. I'm going to assume from what you have said said and what was accused, the testing company failed you without contact you to confirm if you were prescribed amphetamines, and then someone at the company passed it on to HR and HR assumed it was weed (because 90% of their drug fails probably are weed) who then told you you were failed for weed. Either way, you need an employment lawyer. As the company has been informed you are legally prescribed amphetamines you probably have an ADA case them, and depending on what the drug testing company told your former employer you might have a defamation case against them.
RESPONSE B: File for unemployment (I’m sure someone else has better advice, but it’s something you should do)
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POST: WA - Job fired me for failed drug test. When I emailed them asking for a copy of the report, it was only positive for a prescription I have. Now they won't email back. Hey guys. So this all began a week or two before COVID 19 really blew up. I took a drug test for a new job, was hired and worked 3 days, came down with respiratory symptoms and was asked to stay home (we deliver to assisted living/hospice facilities), then 9 days after was told I came up positive on my drug test, for what I thought they said was Marijuana. I, completely confused about this, didn't know how to react. Maybe it's because I lived with someone who smoked? Maybe I was exposed in some way and came up positive? I emailed them the following week and asked for a copy of the report. I failed for amphetamines. I have an adderall prescription to treat ADHD. I'm not certain why I didn't immediately ask for the report, I think I was confused to begin with, but I can't exactly prove they said Marijuana as it was over the phone. Regardless, I confirmed my prescription with the lab and had them send back a report to my employer. It's now been 3 days and they haven't responded. I know they're still running, they are an essential business delivering oxygen and all. But I'm worried they think they can just ignore me and I'll go away because they don't need the employees right now after having to cut back on hours. I don't even know how to proceed, seeing as how I was employed for all of a week and a half. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: lawyer up for sure
RESPONSE B: Just wondering, but didn’t the testing facility ask you to list any prescribed medications you are taking prior to administering the test. As I recall that is mandatory practice, if they didn’t do this you may have a case against the clinic as well. Typically you will sign a document stating that you have disclosed all the medications prior to taking the test. If you didn’t list it and signed then this would be on you.
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POST: My wife was murdered on Friday and 911 operator blew me off My wife was murdered on Friday at our place of business (California). Before it happened I was made aware of the verbal confrontation with her alleged killer (whom she knew). She msgd me and asked me to call the police because alleged killer was verbally escalating and had a history of violence. I called 911 explained my wife was alone with this man, who has a history of violence, and it was escalating and I was very concerned it would get physical. The 911 operator said,"Sir, this is not an emergency call." "Please call non emergency police line and ask for dispatch." Police were supposedly dispatched for a "welfare check" at around 12:35. They arrived at the scene at around 1pm and apparently my wife was either dead, or dying. What I want to know is how can a 911 operator not think that was an emergency? Would there have been a difference in response time, if it was labeled an emergency? I was so angry for getting blown off by the 911 operator. That lack of response may have cost my wife her life. I'm mean, I'm obviously devastated by what happened, but also angry that this wasn't taken seriously. I'm not going to do anything about this right now. Because clearly I have bigger fish to fry at the moment. Perpetrator was caught soon after. Should I get a lawyer and if so, what kind of lawyer would handle this? Thanks in advance for the help.
RESPONSE A: I’m so sorry for your loss. This is an absolute tragedy. I think your best bet is to start with wrongful death attorneys and see if they could help point you in the right direction. Or even like those personal injury lawyers.
RESPONSE B: I'm very sorry for your loss, OP. Unfortunately, there is likely no legal remedy for you here, due to governmental immunity and numerous other factors. But please talk to some attorneys if it will give you some peace of mind that there is nothing to be done.
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POST: soon. She feels this guy is the type that will seek revenge and is terrified to go anywhere. My child thinks she was beat up, she was awake during the event. We feel nothing is being done about it and i know the military has a history of just sweeping sexual assault under the rug. After my 13 years in, I've seen way to many cases that go virtually unpunished. I want this bastard to be held accountable for his actions. My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice?
RESPONSE A: >My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice? Contact actual lawyers so they can tell you whether they would take your case or not. Some offer free initial consultations.
RESPONSE B: I was an Air Force VA about 8 years ago at Misawa. I can't offer legal advice but these are the offices I'd recommend contacting to start making some noise on the military side of things: + Reach out to the original AF SARC that handled your case and let them know the Army SARC isn't doing their job and see what they say. If the OIC is any good they'll start raising hell with the Army because I know mine would have if she heard this was happening to a case that happened on her base. + Contact the original OSI officer assigned to your case and ask them for an update. If they can't provide you information ask for the name and number of the officer you were transferred to then chase them down for an update. + Call the JAG at your former base and ask for their opinion. With an unrestricted report they'll have started a case file for it even if you weren't notified. Its possible all 3 lead to dead ends but whichever commander is trying to bury this will have a much harder time doing it if all 3 agencies are getting pinged since they all have completely separate chain of commands. Start with AF for everything and then switch to the corresponding Army offices. The goal is to make as much noise with as many different offices as possible so that one of them brings your name up when all the commanders get together for their monthly meeting.
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POST: it. She feels she can't leave the house when I'm not there, which i have to leave to go back to school soon. She feels this guy is the type that will seek revenge and is terrified to go anywhere. My child thinks she was beat up, she was awake during the event. We feel nothing is being done about it and i know the military has a history of just sweeping sexual assault under the rug. After my 13 years in, I've seen way to many cases that go virtually unpunished. I want this bastard to be held accountable for his actions. My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice?
RESPONSE A: >My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice? Contact actual lawyers so they can tell you whether they would take your case or not. Some offer free initial consultations.
RESPONSE B: Your wife needs a civilian protection order. If that is what she has now, she can get a copy of it from the relevant court clerk. In fact she should have been served already with her copy. That this has not happened suggests there is in fact no protection order. Since she is getting the run-around on base, she can go to the local municipal police, county sheriff, or state police for help. She can call a local or state rape crisis help line and ask for a referral to a Victim Advocate (VA) local to her. A VA works for the victim, knows the ropes, is confidential, is free for the victim, and can connect your wife with additional resources such as no-cost private therapy and/or recovery support group. Your child may also need therapy. Experiencing a violent assault can lead to PTSD for victim and witness alike. A VA should be able to check if the order is in the NCIC/POF. (Most orders are not uploaded into the POF, even though they all should be uploaded there. Unfortunately in many states there is confusion about who is responsible for doing the upload and accountability is negligible.) What state, please? State laws concerning rape and stalking vary greatly; there are both criminal and civil laws.
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POST: rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen. My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice.
RESPONSE A: Your location is critical. Are you renting the whole house, or just the basement? Infrequent overnight guests aren't generally something a landlord can regulate, unless your lease says something specific about that.
RESPONSE B: This is a civil matter. The police won't do anything. She can attempt to evict you, you can fight it in court. I doubt she would win because like you said you are the sole occupant and he is the occasional guests. If she wanted a no guests rule she should have written that into the lease. I would not engage her any more in these arguments you are only wasting your time.
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RESPONSE A: You have a right to the "quiet enjoyment" of the leased property, which means reasonable use unimpeded by the landlord, which should include having occasional guests over. If your boyfriend is staying over often enough that he could claim to be a tenant, you would be in violation of the lease and your landlord might have grounds to evict you.
RESPONSE B: This is a civil matter. The police won't do anything. She can attempt to evict you, you can fight it in court. I doubt she would win because like you said you are the sole occupant and he is the occasional guests. If she wanted a no guests rule she should have written that into the lease. I would not engage her any more in these arguments you are only wasting your time.
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RESPONSE A: This is a civil matter. The police won't do anything. She can attempt to evict you, you can fight it in court. I doubt she would win because like you said you are the sole occupant and he is the occasional guests. If she wanted a no guests rule she should have written that into the lease. I would not engage her any more in these arguments you are only wasting your time.
RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
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POST: keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen. My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice.
RESPONSE A: Your location is critical. Are you renting the whole house, or just the basement? Infrequent overnight guests aren't generally something a landlord can regulate, unless your lease says something specific about that.
RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
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POST: to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen. My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice.
RESPONSE A: Also, I dont believe, even as your landlord, she or her friends are allowed entry into your unit without notice. You should never have to worry about waking up to people in the space you lease. Sounds to me like if she wants to call the cops, you be sure to let them know she (and strangers not affiliated with the property) are entering your leased space without notice or permission.
RESPONSE B: Post this to legal advice canada and include your province you will get some good advice. The Land lord has no leg to stand on.
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POST: mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw
RESPONSE A: You can talk to the police. Just tell them "Yes, I'm doing quite well, thank you very much. My mother is a total nutjob and is going to call you every single day because I don't want to talk to her. Please tell her I'm doing great on my own and not to try communicating with me in the future.". Not talking to the police could make you appear like a reclusive, depressed person in need of help. If you're lot 18 years old it become more complicated.
RESPONSE B: Speak to the police first and tell them all of this so that it's on their record. If your mother actually follows through on her threat, the police are very quickly going to get sick of her wasting their time.
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POST: cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw
RESPONSE A: The police are going to get really sick of her shit, and soon she’s going to risk a misdemeanor charge for making frivolous 911 calls.
RESPONSE B: I'm not a lawyer, but I am someone who has over the top parents that caused legal (and many other) issues for me over and over for a couple of decades. I have no legal advice to give you, just some general advice that will make things easier if it becomes a legal issue. Document EVERYTHING. Every call, every contact, in detail. Include contact through 3rd parties. Dates, times, police visits. Include the names of the officers/social workers who show up, and any other contact you have with their departments. Also include any screenshots of private messages or social media posts you come across where you're mentioned. This will all be valuable if you ever need to lawyer up; you'll be able to give them the answers to any questions they might have, with any necessary evidence ready to go . Keep a few copies in different places, and/or set up an email that you send the files to. I went so far as to organize it all in a spreadsheet, but I'm weird and there was a lot. If you have current/former mental health issues that can be used against you keep track of appointments, medications and anything else related to it to show that you're being treated/improving. Cooperate with their basic questioning ("yes, I'm okay. I'm trying to cut contact with abusive people. Please do not share any information about me with them"). People with parents like this tend to overexplain, so resist the urge to add unnecessary details. The more you say, the more likely you are to make a mistake. Remain as calm as possible; don't be angry and belligerent because it will give weight to any accusations she makes. And if it ever gets to the point where you get any hint at all that the people who show up have started to believe her, shut your mouth immediately and get in touch with a lawyer.
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POST: mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw
RESPONSE A: First of when cops show up for a welfare check they are doing so for your safety. They can’t always assume that the person calling them has malicious intent. That being said my fiancé ex tried to do this with me shortly after she found out I was pregnant. Cops legit showed up at 1am and I talked to them about the whole ordeal we were dealing with. They apologized and said they would make a report that if she called them again for other checks they would dismiss them. You really need to talk to them so they can help your build a case for the harassment in case it escalates.
RESPONSE B: I would go to the precinct to make a police report of what she said. Take the report with me and whenever an officer shows up wasting his precious time on a welfare check I’ll show them the pre-made police report.I’ll get a report of that incident and use it to get a restraining order if she doesn’t stop.
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POST: mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw
RESPONSE A: I would go to the precinct to make a police report of what she said. Take the report with me and whenever an officer shows up wasting his precious time on a welfare check I’ll show them the pre-made police report.I’ll get a report of that incident and use it to get a restraining order if she doesn’t stop.
RESPONSE B: Consider going directly to the local police precinct personally and by yourself, so the police can see that you are addressing this issue yourself and are not under the influence of anyone else. At your door, it can appear that there is someone unseen directing you, especially if you do not let anyone in. Let the police know that your mother is using them to harass you and ask them what their recommendations are. Even if you don't follow every one of their instructions, they will feel a part of the solution and more willing to work with you rather than your mother.
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POST: . I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home...
RESPONSE A: Surprised I'm not seeing this on here: external security camera. They're pretty cheap these days. You just may need to get creative in setting it up so that they can't see it steal it. Could be a peep-hole or doorbell cam, or a simple web cam in a window pointed at the back door (depends on your apartment set-up). Police should be able to do a lot more with video OF the perpetrators in action. I'd add this to the other very good recommendations here of documentation, constant reporting, and internal locking mechanisms.
RESPONSE B: What's the status of the police report you filed? Can you setup a wireless camera to face the back door? Do you know anything about your neighbor? Is this person a felon, on probation, parole?
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POST: saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home...
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, skimming over this I haven't seen this comment yet sorry if it's a repeat. You should start a log of all possessions, a video going through your place looking at everything should do. Then on everything valuable if possible add markings, notes, or anything you can think of that can help identify it as yours. Again only if possible and document it if you do. If the possession has a serial number write that down as well. Point being is if they break in while you're away you'll be able to recover your possessions easier and make it harder for them to try and pawn the items which is sounds like they're dumb enough to try. Also consider renters insurance if you haven't already. The above process of documenting your possessions could help you with an insurance claim. Just remember if the items are recovered and the insurance company has paid out then those items belong to the insurance company.
RESPONSE B: My fiance's apartment has a second deadbolt with no key hole that is surprisingly reassuring when it comes to unwanted visitors. Highly recommend.
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POST: trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home...
RESPONSE A: Make sure to get a copy of the police reports and make sure they have the case number / tracking number. You need to make sure their paperwork is being done. This is no guarantee they will do anything, but you can guarantee that without a case number it will not be worked.
RESPONSE B: I wouldn’t assume the neighbor’s planned adventures are limited to breaking into your home through that door. Be sure to stay aware of your surroundings outside your home, including any spots where someone could conceal themselves, when entering or exiting your home and vehicle. Lock doors straightaway once you’re inside.
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POST: Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home...
RESPONSE A: I wouldn’t assume the neighbor’s planned adventures are limited to breaking into your home through that door. Be sure to stay aware of your surroundings outside your home, including any spots where someone could conceal themselves, when entering or exiting your home and vehicle. Lock doors straightaway once you’re inside.
RESPONSE B: Camera and internal lock are great ideas. Ask about upgrading the door locks. Check out lock picking lawyer on you tube. He’s got some good tests and products that are good you could upgrade your door so that an amateur wont be able to pick them.
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POST: (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property.
RESPONSE A: Will this do anything *next* year too? Damages I see are: - Loss of the yield for the rest of the year (presumably you've harvested some already) - Count what veg would have been harvested and find out how much they cost - Repair/replacement of part of the fence. Talk to them first, then consider lawsuit.
RESPONSE B: Have you addressed this with your neighbor yet? What was their response when you complained about the damage to your property?
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POST: (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property.
RESPONSE A: Did your friend think you had no *grounds* to sue or did he think you had losses too small to be worth the effort? What would it cost to buy the yield of your garden at a market?
RESPONSE B: Will this do anything *next* year too? Damages I see are: - Loss of the yield for the rest of the year (presumably you've harvested some already) - Count what veg would have been harvested and find out how much they cost - Repair/replacement of part of the fence. Talk to them first, then consider lawsuit.
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POST: (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property.
RESPONSE A: Will this do anything *next* year too? Damages I see are: - Loss of the yield for the rest of the year (presumably you've harvested some already) - Count what veg would have been harvested and find out how much they cost - Repair/replacement of part of the fence. Talk to them first, then consider lawsuit.
RESPONSE B: Have you talked to the neighbor about replacing it?
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POST: (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property.
RESPONSE A: Have you addressed this with your neighbor yet? What was their response when you complained about the damage to your property?
RESPONSE B: > My lawyer friend Said before, and will say again. Don't use your friend, take some pictures and go talk to a lawyer as a professional relationship only. I would get professional quote for fixing your fence and yard and maybe talk to your homeowners insurance. Also, the town or city might have ordinances against doing this type of crap, so maybe give them a call.
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POST: (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property.
RESPONSE A: > My lawyer friend Said before, and will say again. Don't use your friend, take some pictures and go talk to a lawyer as a professional relationship only. I would get professional quote for fixing your fence and yard and maybe talk to your homeowners insurance. Also, the town or city might have ordinances against doing this type of crap, so maybe give them a call.
RESPONSE B: Did your friend think you had no *grounds* to sue or did he think you had losses too small to be worth the effort? What would it cost to buy the yield of your garden at a market?
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POST: accusing me of sex work because I have a pole in my home Posting on behalf of a friend. "I live in RI. I have been living in a 3rd floor apartment for the last couple of months. My lower floor neighbors have accused me, to my landlord, of some sort of sex work in my apartment. I have a pole in my living room which I use for fitness purposes. To be clear, I absolutely am not running some sort of prostitution ring out of my apartment. That's absurd. "Two nights ago, I had to call the police because I saw my neighbors taking pictures through my apartment windows. When I contacted the rental agent, their response was to tell me, 'I believe that he was trying to express to our office and provide proof that you had installed some sort of pole in your unit and that attraction may be contributing to the additional traffic at the building?' (SIC). They went on to ask, 'Are you running some sort of business out of your unit?' "I work out of my home like so many covid-related folks, but in an unrelated field, which I informed them of in my reply. In his follow up email he asked me, bluntly, '*Why* was there a pole installed in your unit?' Not 'if', but 'why?' "I'm now concerned that my rental agent is discriminating against me for the fact that I practice pole in my home. I'm not sure how to appropriately reply. Any advice would be greatly appreciated."
RESPONSE A: She should have called the police as that is a peeping Tom and invasion of privacy
RESPONSE B: you should post this on r/poledancing because many people have poles installed in their home there. I have a pole installed in my home. The bigger question is if your lease can be construed as not allowing you to install a pole. I think it's kind of ambiguous. Poles can be put up/taken down in 5 minutes but landlords can be concerned about ceiling damage. It sounds like the landlord doesn't care about that and is just being an ass about sex work even though thats not even relevant here.
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POST: has some family property. 20 plus years ago, he traded some property with the neighbor that included providing more road front property to the neighbor and my dad getting more space deep in the woods. My dad has the deed to the property. Last week my dad was over at the property and the neighbors son in law (neighbor has passed away) was occupying the property with a tractor and other equipment clearing the area. The area is 40’x100’ and the majority of vegetation has been cleared. My dad contacted a surveyor to verify they had indeed been destroying trees and digging a ditch across his property. It was verified yesterday. We’re talking 30-50 trees, which will be hard to verify when large equipment has been brought in to clear the property. The neighbors are a nuisance. They are constantly having parties, shooting guns in the middle of the night and quite often appear high. So, my main idea is this might be a chance to stick it to them and get them the heck out of there and take all they have...? I considered getting a landscaper to quote me replacing the trees and trying to grade everything back to the original situation. I’ll be visiting a lawyer next week for him to tell me my options but in preparation is there any advice to what I can do to slam this neighbor? Alabama is the state.
RESPONSE A: INAL, only going off of comments I’ve seen in similar posts here. Take LOTS of photos of the current state of the property, and get as many as you can from before the property was touched, such as from google maps. I believe you should also consider getting a few different arborists out to try to give you an estimate on replacement costs of the trees, if they can be replaced, or for straight up damages if they can’t be replaced.
RESPONSE B: 2 things going against you that you need to consider. 1 the trees are in the back of the lot in a clump of woods not centerpieces of your front yard, their value is decreased because of this. 2 even if you win, your meth-head neighbor is likely not financially responsible enough to pay you back. Having a judgement against him might be motivation for him to stay off your property and leave you alone in the future.
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POST: try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer, but I am a psychiatrist. This is not medical advice. Involuntary commitment laws vary significantly from state to state, but some core tenants seem to be true across all 50: if someone is a danger to themselves or a danger to others, they can be involuntary committed to a hospital. Who can do this, for how long, and whether they can be medicated against their will depends entirely on your state (and sometimes, county within that state - looking at you, California). Providing your location would be helpful. If you are concerned about your father’s safety or the safety of others, consider calling the police with some clear documentation/evidence for your concerns.
RESPONSE B: If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours
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POST: comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated
RESPONSE A: You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer, but I am a psychiatrist. This is not medical advice. Involuntary commitment laws vary significantly from state to state, but some core tenants seem to be true across all 50: if someone is a danger to themselves or a danger to others, they can be involuntary committed to a hospital. Who can do this, for how long, and whether they can be medicated against their will depends entirely on your state (and sometimes, county within that state - looking at you, California). Providing your location would be helpful. If you are concerned about your father’s safety or the safety of others, consider calling the police with some clear documentation/evidence for your concerns.
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POST: both have cars and have borrowed my dad's truck to make the moving easier. We can't park everything in our driveway as he has been blocking it and we are afraid to park cars on the street because the road becomes so narrow that a sedan can just barely pass through. This guy has at least three cars and a bunch of motorcycles parked in his driveway so moving it to there is out of the picture. As we have met some of our other new neighbors, they all have had issues with Mike regarding parking and this dilapidated bus. So far, we know of at least 6 people who have fought with him. One said that this bus hasn't even moved for over 10 years. We have all tried to talk to him to resolve this on our own and he cannot be civil or respectful. We want to do something about this bus and parking issue but aren't sure what, if any, our legal rights are. Is there anything we can do to make him move the bus and stop blocking our driveway?
RESPONSE A: One thing I would add is that this is a condition that materially affects the value and usability of your property. Based on your account it seems inconceivable that the prior homeowners were unaware. This is something that should have been disclosed to you during the real estate transaction. If it wasn't then you could (if you really wanted to press it) go after the prior homeowners. Obviously that wouldn't fix the bus issue as it stands now, but if you feel this was hidden from you you might pursue it.
RESPONSE B: I'm concerned he's bluffing about all this. If he's "friends" with cops, why would he be mad you called the cops on his truck? I would bring this up with the city yourself. Worst case scenario, you find out he really did fight the city on it and won. Best case, you caught him in a lie. If the city won't do anything about it, escalate it to the state level. Your state senate and/or representatives may be able to overturn the city's ruling if you and your neighbors convince them that it's a nuisance and a danger. Go as high up as you can.
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POST: ...even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested....we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS....What can i do about this and who can i talk to...they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets....they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare...again she has never used my identity...we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before...
RESPONSE A: This will never be fixed, practically speaking. It might happen less if you change your name. I'm a pediatrician. I see kids with this situation not too uncommonly. One family named the twins "John Jacob Jingleheimer Jr." and "John Jacob Jingleheimer II". Those kids records are fucked forever. Their medical records, credit reports, legal documents, etc, will be permanently entwined. Even in our hospital, stuff was being documented in the wrong chart all the time. People think it's cute to give the twins the same/similar names. But causes a hell of a headache at traffic stops and when applying for mortgages.
RESPONSE B: Not the exact same issue but may help with the motor vehicle reports: I had an issue when I was shopping for auto insurance where the company was asking for information for an accident involved on my record that I was not involved in and had no knowledge of. I found out that they were using my record from Lexis Nexis, which is one of the data companies. As a consumer, I could request my own report from Lexis Nexis and found out that the accident was involving someone who I lived with, but was my report anyways. I ended up being able to resolve it with the insurance company, but there was a way for me as the consumer to dispute info in my Lexis Nexis report. So maybe try requesting your own consumer file from Lexis Nexis (or whatever other company that's done a background check on you in the past) and see if you can at least get some if the incorrect info removed.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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POST: The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person...she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY... we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t....every time a get a new job they give me a hard time...thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me...i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well...so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background...even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested....we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS....What can i do about this and who can i talk to...they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets....they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare...again she has never used my identity...we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before...
RESPONSE A: This will never be fixed, practically speaking. It might happen less if you change your name. I'm a pediatrician. I see kids with this situation not too uncommonly. One family named the twins "John Jacob Jingleheimer Jr." and "John Jacob Jingleheimer II". Those kids records are fucked forever. Their medical records, credit reports, legal documents, etc, will be permanently entwined. Even in our hospital, stuff was being documented in the wrong chart all the time. People think it's cute to give the twins the same/similar names. But causes a hell of a headache at traffic stops and when applying for mortgages.
RESPONSE B: Have you pulled your credit report? If there are mistakes on it you can send dispute letters.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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POST: a hard time...thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me...i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well...so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background...even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested....we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS....What can i do about this and who can i talk to...they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets....they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare...again she has never used my identity...we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before...
RESPONSE A: My sister and I suffered the same: similar names, same address, our socials being literally ONE DIGIT OFF from one another despite different birthdates (our birthdate also look like a typo between the two). Once we got separate addresses, and later different last names, life became easier. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel, but it starts with untangling where you can.
RESPONSE B: Not the exact same issue but may help with the motor vehicle reports: I had an issue when I was shopping for auto insurance where the company was asking for information for an accident involved on my record that I was not involved in and had no knowledge of. I found out that they were using my record from Lexis Nexis, which is one of the data companies. As a consumer, I could request my own report from Lexis Nexis and found out that the accident was involving someone who I lived with, but was my report anyways. I ended up being able to resolve it with the insurance company, but there was a way for me as the consumer to dispute info in my Lexis Nexis report. So maybe try requesting your own consumer file from Lexis Nexis (or whatever other company that's done a background check on you in the past) and see if you can at least get some if the incorrect info removed.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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POST: The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person...she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY... we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t....every time a get a new job they give me a hard time...thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me...i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well...so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background...even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested....we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS....What can i do about this and who can i talk to...they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets....they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare...again she has never used my identity...we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before...
RESPONSE A: I know this would be a rash decision, but what if you changed your first name? You already have a different social, meaning that the confusion comes in with having similar names and wondering if its multiple people. Say your name is: Johnny Cash Lemons. You could be Robert Johnny Lemons. Everyone you know continues to call you Johnny, but legally as time goes on all reports indicated you are Robert Lemons.
RESPONSE B: Have you pulled your credit report? If there are mistakes on it you can send dispute letters.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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POST: The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person...she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY... we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t....every time a get a new job they give me a hard time...thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me...i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well...so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background...even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested....we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS....What can i do about this and who can i talk to...they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets....they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare...again she has never used my identity...we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before...
RESPONSE A: For the criminal background, go to the county records office where she was arrested at and talk to someone there. They will help or direct you to where you need to go.
RESPONSE B: I know this would be a rash decision, but what if you changed your first name? You already have a different social, meaning that the confusion comes in with having similar names and wondering if its multiple people. Say your name is: Johnny Cash Lemons. You could be Robert Johnny Lemons. Everyone you know continues to call you Johnny, but legally as time goes on all reports indicated you are Robert Lemons.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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POST: was our uncle and our mother. Sister comes out to find her door open, and her underwear is missing. She screams for my mom who rushes to her room. Sister tells my mom what happened the day before, then tells her she’s afraid it happened again. Our mother was furious, and goes to look under the sink where my sister found her underwear last time. Sure enough, there’s her underwear covered in semen again. This continues to happen once a week over the course of a month, so my sister decides to change her door and lock. This stops her clothes from going missing for about three months. So now it’s January and my sister, brother, and parents all go out for dinner with me for my birthday, but our uncle stays home because he “isn’t feeling well”. When they return home, my sister finds two of her shirts on her bed covered in semen. She’s had enough and yells at my uncle telling him to leave her alone or she’ll call the police, but Uncle says it wasn’t him and goes into his room. My sister decides to buy 3 EXTRA LOCKS for her door the day after for extra security, and gives her spare key to me since I live in my own house. Ever since then it hasn’t happened, but my sister is very afraid that our uncle might try and rape her. She refuses to shower at our parents house so she goes to her friends house to shower. I let her sleep over my house whenever I can, but I fear for her safety. My mother doesn’t want to kick out our uncle because he can’t work and needs special food packs for his feeding tube. What kind of legal action, if any, can we take? I’m willing to buy a camera to catch him in the act if need be, but I am very worried for my sister’s safety.
RESPONSE A: The semen in the DNA can also be tested... Call the police and let them know of your suspicion. They may be able to get a court ordered DNA test.
RESPONSE B: Hypersexuality and sudden changes in someone's actions or self control are common symptoms of stroke or dementia. Should inform his doctors not the police.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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A
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POST: fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: ATTORNEY ATTORNEY ATTORNEY ATTORNEY ATTORNEY Do not contact the scaffolding company. Let the attorney do it. This is serious business.
RESPONSE B: Workers comp could place a lien on any settlement with the at fault party. This is a complicated scenario with many potential variables. You need an attorney, stat.
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POST: He wanted to let me know that his report found the scaffolding company (separate from my brothers job) to be completely at fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: You need a lawyer.
RESPONSE B: ATTORNEY ATTORNEY ATTORNEY ATTORNEY ATTORNEY Do not contact the scaffolding company. Let the attorney do it. This is serious business.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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