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POST: cinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: This is more negotiating advice rather than legal per se, but I suspect that the adjuster's implication that this offer vanishes on Monday is gamesmanship. While the offer will officially be "rescinded" on Monday, nothing stops them from remaking the same offer again. "Rescinding" an offer only means that you can no longer unilaterally bind them to the offer by accepting. As others have indicated though, you desperately need to speak to a lawyer. They're trying to get you to ack quickly so that you rush into the settlement and dont get a lawyer
RESPONSE B: Lawyer. Now. Do not talk to the scaffolding company. Any offer they make can be clawed back by both your brothers insurance company and workers comp to pay for his treatment if the employer is not deemed to be the responsible party. They are offering you a settlement because 1) they know they're at fault, and of that OSHA report is as damning as it sounds they are well and truly fucked, and 2) have done an analysis on how much they can offer you to get you to go away and sign an NDA and it is damn sure to be a lot less than their actual legal exposure. If they're offering you 7 figures for an injury that has already cost 7 figures in treatment..... Do the math.
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POST: The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Lawyer. Now. Do not talk to the scaffolding company. Any offer they make can be clawed back by both your brothers insurance company and workers comp to pay for his treatment if the employer is not deemed to be the responsible party. They are offering you a settlement because 1) they know they're at fault, and of that OSHA report is as damning as it sounds they are well and truly fucked, and 2) have done an analysis on how much they can offer you to get you to go away and sign an NDA and it is damn sure to be a lot less than their actual legal exposure. If they're offering you 7 figures for an injury that has already cost 7 figures in treatment..... Do the math.
RESPONSE B: You need a lawyer.
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POST: I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this??
RESPONSE A: How far did they go in the imaging? It probably is going to be best to consult with a mal practice attorney
RESPONSE B: Not your lawyer but you sort of hit on the crux of your case: did the delay of 11 days cause additional damage (to the tendon/ligaments or otherwise). That may be difficult to sort out as your mechanism of injury sounds like it was pretty severe. There's no doubt that the first ER made a mistake but the question then becomes: what are your damages? If the 11 days of waiting caused additional damage as you suspect, you may have a case worth pursuing. If the 11 days didn't cause any additional damage and your damages are just 11 days of bad pain....you may have trouble finding an attorney that will take your case. Regardless, I'm glad you got a more precise diagnosis and hope you're on the mend.
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POST: sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this??
RESPONSE A: would be best to talk to a mal practice attorney, since this can get pretty big, especially since you told them the exact area you hit but they didn't scan that area
RESPONSE B: Not your lawyer but you sort of hit on the crux of your case: did the delay of 11 days cause additional damage (to the tendon/ligaments or otherwise). That may be difficult to sort out as your mechanism of injury sounds like it was pretty severe. There's no doubt that the first ER made a mistake but the question then becomes: what are your damages? If the 11 days of waiting caused additional damage as you suspect, you may have a case worth pursuing. If the 11 days didn't cause any additional damage and your damages are just 11 days of bad pain....you may have trouble finding an attorney that will take your case. Regardless, I'm glad you got a more precise diagnosis and hope you're on the mend.
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POST: [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?
RESPONSE A: Question: Assuming the neighbor has a homeowners policy, and that policy would cover injuries caused by pets, what are the odds that coverage would apply where, as here, the pet has escaped from the insured property? Alternatively, what about OP’s friend’s own home owners policy assuming the friend’s son was on the friend’s property when the dog bit his/her son? I don’t know what OP’s friend’s costs are, but if there’s an angle to bring in the neighbor’s insurance policy, or to allow the friend’s insurer(s) to subrogate, it may improve OP’s friend’s ability to recover and/or make the process less time consuming.
RESPONSE B: 351.28 Liability for damages. “ The owner of a dog shall be liable to an injured party for all damages done by the dog, when the dog is caught in the action of worrying, maiming, or killing a domestic animal, or the dog is attacking or attempting to bite a person, except when the party damaged is doing an unlawful act, directly contributing to the injury. This section does not apply to damage done by a dog affected with hydrophobia unless the owner of the dog had reasonable grounds to know that the dog was afflicted with hydrophobia and by reasonable effort might have prevented the injury.” Iowa is a strict liability state which means the owner is liable. A lawsuit may need to be filed.
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POST: [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?
RESPONSE A: Question: Assuming the neighbor has a homeowners policy, and that policy would cover injuries caused by pets, what are the odds that coverage would apply where, as here, the pet has escaped from the insured property? Alternatively, what about OP’s friend’s own home owners policy assuming the friend’s son was on the friend’s property when the dog bit his/her son? I don’t know what OP’s friend’s costs are, but if there’s an angle to bring in the neighbor’s insurance policy, or to allow the friend’s insurer(s) to subrogate, it may improve OP’s friend’s ability to recover and/or make the process less time consuming.
RESPONSE B: It sounds like the dog owner is trying to deny responsibility because she doesn't have (or doesn't want you to know she has) insurance. The legal term for that is "bullshit." She's trying to bullshit your friend. Your friend should contact a personal injury attorney. They will almost always offer free consultations, and are usually paid only if they win a claim. They can also explain that your friend should be asking for far more than just medical bills. She should be asking for medical, counseling, pain and suffering, and probably a bunch of other stuff. You don't necessarily get everything you ask for, but if you don't ask, you get nothing.
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POST: [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?
RESPONSE A: Has your friend reported this attack to their city/county, and the police? Dog bites need to be reported. Doesn’t matter what neighbour says they do and don’t have; they are liable. Get a lawyer.
RESPONSE B: It sounds like the dog owner is trying to deny responsibility because she doesn't have (or doesn't want you to know she has) insurance. The legal term for that is "bullshit." She's trying to bullshit your friend. Your friend should contact a personal injury attorney. They will almost always offer free consultations, and are usually paid only if they win a claim. They can also explain that your friend should be asking for far more than just medical bills. She should be asking for medical, counseling, pain and suffering, and probably a bunch of other stuff. You don't necessarily get everything you ask for, but if you don't ask, you get nothing.
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POST: [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?
RESPONSE A: Question: Assuming the neighbor has a homeowners policy, and that policy would cover injuries caused by pets, what are the odds that coverage would apply where, as here, the pet has escaped from the insured property? Alternatively, what about OP’s friend’s own home owners policy assuming the friend’s son was on the friend’s property when the dog bit his/her son? I don’t know what OP’s friend’s costs are, but if there’s an angle to bring in the neighbor’s insurance policy, or to allow the friend’s insurer(s) to subrogate, it may improve OP’s friend’s ability to recover and/or make the process less time consuming.
RESPONSE B: Don't take someone's word for whether they have liability. You should talk to a person injury attorney about this. It is very likely the neighbors are responsible for this as they were negligent in controlling the dog, and Iowa is a strict liability state for dog bites Going forward your options are to tell your health insurance co the neighbor is responsible and if they succeed in pursuing them you get your copays returned, or you hire a personal injury attorney. If the neighbor has renters or homeowners insurance this is likely to be settled without any out of pocket cost to the neighbor.
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POST: [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?
RESPONSE A: If she has no liability insurance attached to her home, you can still sue in civil court for a judgement. I’d consult with an attorney. if they have health insurance, health insurance will recover all expenses paid for the medical claim first before your friends get money (former PI law clerk and have dealt with my own PI case)
RESPONSE B: I am a lawyer. She is almost certainly liable. 1) Under a theory of ordinary negligence she owed a duty of due care to anyone within a foreseeable zone of danger of her actions. A neighbor getting bit is definitely foreseeable if you do not properly lock up your dog. I would argue that a dog does not typically get out without some lack of due care. Her failure to do this was the actual and proximate cause of the injury. 2) She might be liable even if she showed due care under a theory of strict liability. The owner of a domestic animal of a known dangerous disposition is liable for attacks of that animal when they escape the property. Here it would turn on if owner had actual or constructive knowledge of the dog's disposition. If it had ever bitten anyone before, that would typically be enough. The breed here is relevant since some jurisdictions state that Pit Bulls are naturally dangerous. Though this last fact is not common.
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POST: The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.
RESPONSE A: Reading the link provided about SSI overpayments, I think what happened is, your mum was receiving more child support from you dad than she declared, so you received SSI benefits that you technically weren’t entitled to. The link also explains that yes, the minor can be held responsible, which I think is whack!
RESPONSE B: Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.
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POST: The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.
RESPONSE A: So i don't know if this is helpful or relevant to anyone reading this, but i *did* find this document from the SSA website from a brief search... https://oig.ssa.gov/sites/default/files/audit/full/pdf/A-04-16-50110.pdf
RESPONSE B: Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.
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POST: The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.
RESPONSE A: Contact your congressperson as per here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ctxfzk/comment/exp69iv Read that comment chain.
RESPONSE B: Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.
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POST: The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.
RESPONSE A: Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer, but before you do anything, make sure the letter is legit. Get it checked out by a lawyer. Do not send anything to anyone until you know for a fact it is real.
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POST: The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.
RESPONSE A: Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.
RESPONSE B: ~~*SCAM*. SSA has nothing to do with child support. Children are not given child support, only the other parent or guardian is.~~ Edit: more info below makes this less a scam and more of a possible problem. Still fishy.
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POST: My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA
RESPONSE A: odds are, that money is gone. remind them that it's your money received because someone damaged your body so now you want access to it like they've been promising. ask them to see the statement for the account it's in. if they decline, straight up ask them if they spent it. but i would not rely on that money being there.
RESPONSE B: Sorry about your penis mate :(
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POST: My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA
RESPONSE A: Sorry about your penis mate :(
RESPONSE B: Their may be legitimate reasons why they don't want to give an 18 year old kid a bunch of money. You'll blow it. It seems perfectly reasonable though that you would want to use the money for your education and I can't think of any good reason why they would refuse that if the money were there.
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POST: My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA
RESPONSE A: Consult a lawyer. It is very possible that you have one to three years from the date of your 18th birthday (or sooner if emancipated) to sue anyone involved including (but not limited to) your own parents. Your parents may be attempting to run the clock down. I'm also guessing that they have already blown the money. Every state sets their own statute of limitations. How I know: I had a childhood injury. My parents informed me of the statute of limitations. I chose not to sue anyone as I already had a settlement that my parents did keep for me (I would have had to forfeit the settlement to proceed with litigation).
RESPONSE B: Sorry about your penis mate :(
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POST: My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA
RESPONSE A: Sorry about your penis mate :(
RESPONSE B: Alternatively, you could ask them to see the most recent statement of wherever that money is. If they can't provide that (which they should get monthly), it's because the money doesn't exist. If in fact, the money DOES exist, there's your evidence (and consequently, it's location.)
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POST: My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA
RESPONSE A: Sorry about your penis mate :(
RESPONSE B: I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.
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POST: I'm starting a wrongful death lawsuit (USA) and wondering how often should I expect updates from my lawyer? I've never sued or done anything with a lawyer so am just hoping to get other lawyer's perspective on what's normal frequency. Of course I'm chomping at the bit to find out what's new and happening now and what happens next, etc, but I don't want to be that person. the person/murderer we're suing was convicted by a jury and my lawyer, who's on %, has just filed for probate for us so were very early stages. Its been a bit over a week since we last communicated.
RESPONSE A: OP you can ignore the automated message that your post was locked. I have reapproved it for you.
RESPONSE B: If the lawyer needs to go in front a judge, then you can expect it to take at least a month to get on the docket. Very little will happen before you get a court date. Once the lawyer files suit, the other side gets a minimum of 30 days to respond. Your lawyer will need time to go through the criminal case. They will need time to collect and review victim statements. Expect at least 2 weeks before you hear anything. Court dates will be at least 6 weeks apart. If you go to trial, expect aat least 6 months to get a trial date, and several months before you get to the point of asking for a trial date. I would have several days of back and forth with my lawyer when something came up, and then nothing for a month. Consider asking yours for an estimated timeline. It's a marathon, not a sprint.
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POST: I'm starting a wrongful death lawsuit (USA) and wondering how often should I expect updates from my lawyer? I've never sued or done anything with a lawyer so am just hoping to get other lawyer's perspective on what's normal frequency. Of course I'm chomping at the bit to find out what's new and happening now and what happens next, etc, but I don't want to be that person. the person/murderer we're suing was convicted by a jury and my lawyer, who's on %, has just filed for probate for us so were very early stages. Its been a bit over a week since we last communicated.
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RESPONSE B: The courts generally move slowly in civil cases. You should look at the court rules to get an idea of deadlines— ie file X papers, 30 days for defendants to respond. This way you do not have unrealistic expectations Sorry for the loss.
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POST: s perspective on what's normal frequency. Of course I'm chomping at the bit to find out what's new and happening now and what happens next, etc, but I don't want to be that person. the person/murderer we're suing was convicted by a jury and my lawyer, who's on %, has just filed for probate for us so were very early stages. Its been a bit over a week since we last communicated.
RESPONSE A: The courts generally move slowly in civil cases. You should look at the court rules to get an idea of deadlines— ie file X papers, 30 days for defendants to respond. This way you do not have unrealistic expectations Sorry for the loss.
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Title: **I'm starting a wrongful death lawsuit (USA) and wondering how often should I expect updates from my lawyer?**
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POST: stages. Its been a bit over a week since we last communicated.
RESPONSE A: It really depends on the case and the attorney. I've had clients that I never interact with after our first consultation until we show up at a hearing and then I have had clients that email me every day. In a perfect world, you wouldn't have to reach out to your attorney ever, they would just follow up with you as needed. But in that perfect world, attorneys never miss deadlines or commit malpractice. It would be perfectly acceptable at this point to maybe email them and just say that you want to keep track of your responsibilities and ask for the next deadline/next point of action and if there is any documentation or other actions you can take to prepare and assist.
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POST: ly expensive couch from a Large Retailer, let's call them Slob's Pisscount Burniture for the sake of anonymity. Couch came with a five-year warranty. Three years in, a contractor at my house snags it with a tool and it sustains a small tear. I file a claim and it's approved, yay. They offer me 50% of the couch's value in cash as they are not able to replace it. I approve but when the check comes, it's for the wrong name -- not even a name, but a word (think if my name was Jack Smith, the check says Hack Smith) so I contact the claims company (a third-party) and they tell me they need Slob's to verify my identity. I call Slob's and they tell me someone spelled my name wrong in the system and that I need to bring my ID to Slob's so they can correct it internally and send the right check. I bring it and they verify it -- the salesperson who verifies it literally sold me the couch and remembers me. They mark my name down. Then the insurer tells me that they *appear to have sold the couch to a different person named Hack Smith* and that they can't issue me the payment because...it's not my couch. I sent them a photo of myself on the couch. They refuse to budge. Aside from changing my name to Hack Smith, what can I do here? Neither company will help me at this point and I honestly think they think I'm trying to defraud them.
RESPONSE A: Do you still have the check? If so: 1. Use mobile or ATM deposit. You'll only have issues if the issuing company disputes the deposit. 2. Endorse as "Jack Smith for Hank Smith." Your signature is your adoption of the identity and you're not defrauding anyone. Side note: Why didn't you get the contractor to chip in?
RESPONSE B: Just do a mobile deposit. My spouse has checks deposited in my account. Her name is not on the account. If you go thia route, wait 30 days before you spend the money.
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POST: My mother is asking me to help pay with a down payment on a house, but I'm not 18 yet. Can this cause any issues later down the road? I'm not a technical wizard regarding the economy and money management, but I'm 16 years old & I also have a job that makes a decent wage considering its entry-level. To sum up, the texts I got, basically asked if I would like to help with a down payment for a house. They said it would be less than $5000, and they could put my name on the house as well as theirs. According to them, it would help my credit score. They also noted we would each put up half. Past that, they said I would have to set up a legal trust due to me being under the age of 18, but the half would be yours at 18. My questions here are: Can this cause more harm than good? Does this give me any more liabilities down the road? Can this increase my tax rates? Any other noteworthy advice on this topic would be great, thanks!
RESPONSE A: This sounds really really sketchy. From previous posts, sounds like they are trying to use you to get a discount for first time home buyer. You won't get to use that later on life when YOU want to buy a home. No adult needs to borrow 5k from a child to buy a house if things are on the up and up
RESPONSE B: Do you have $5,000? In many places they could just take it. Are they going to use your "good credit" to get a better interest rate? Are you going to be on the mortgage as well as the deed? Where are you located?
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POST: My mother is asking me to help pay with a down payment on a house, but I'm not 18 yet. Can this cause any issues later down the road? I'm not a technical wizard regarding the economy and money management, but I'm 16 years old & I also have a job that makes a decent wage considering its entry-level. To sum up, the texts I got, basically asked if I would like to help with a down payment for a house. They said it would be less than $5000, and they could put my name on the house as well as theirs. According to them, it would help my credit score. They also noted we would each put up half. Past that, they said I would have to set up a legal trust due to me being under the age of 18, but the half would be yours at 18. My questions here are: Can this cause more harm than good? Does this give me any more liabilities down the road? Can this increase my tax rates? Any other noteworthy advice on this topic would be great, thanks!
RESPONSE A: Do you have $5,000? In many places they could just take it. Are they going to use your "good credit" to get a better interest rate? Are you going to be on the mortgage as well as the deed? Where are you located?
RESPONSE B: I would not trust anyone who is willing to take 5k from their minor child and then put them on the line for a mortgage. I really hope you get some good advice here but IMO this is an AVOID situation. No decent parent does this.
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POST: My mother is asking me to help pay with a down payment on a house, but I'm not 18 yet. Can this cause any issues later down the road? I'm not a technical wizard regarding the economy and money management, but I'm 16 years old & I also have a job that makes a decent wage considering its entry-level. To sum up, the texts I got, basically asked if I would like to help with a down payment for a house. They said it would be less than $5000, and they could put my name on the house as well as theirs. According to them, it would help my credit score. They also noted we would each put up half. Past that, they said I would have to set up a legal trust due to me being under the age of 18, but the half would be yours at 18. My questions here are: Can this cause more harm than good? Does this give me any more liabilities down the road? Can this increase my tax rates? Any other noteworthy advice on this topic would be great, thanks!
RESPONSE A: No don’t do this. Putting your name on the house is likely a pretense to use YOUR first time homeowner benefits. There are special deals available to people the first time they buy a house. If your parents put your name on this mortgage they will use those benefits and in ten years you won’t be able to use them when you want to buy your own house.
RESPONSE B: Do you have $5,000? In many places they could just take it. Are they going to use your "good credit" to get a better interest rate? Are you going to be on the mortgage as well as the deed? Where are you located?
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POST: My mother is asking me to help pay with a down payment on a house, but I'm not 18 yet. Can this cause any issues later down the road? I'm not a technical wizard regarding the economy and money management, but I'm 16 years old & I also have a job that makes a decent wage considering its entry-level. To sum up, the texts I got, basically asked if I would like to help with a down payment for a house. They said it would be less than $5000, and they could put my name on the house as well as theirs. According to them, it would help my credit score. They also noted we would each put up half. Past that, they said I would have to set up a legal trust due to me being under the age of 18, but the half would be yours at 18. My questions here are: Can this cause more harm than good? Does this give me any more liabilities down the road? Can this increase my tax rates? Any other noteworthy advice on this topic would be great, thanks!
RESPONSE A: No don’t do this. Putting your name on the house is likely a pretense to use YOUR first time homeowner benefits. There are special deals available to people the first time they buy a house. If your parents put your name on this mortgage they will use those benefits and in ten years you won’t be able to use them when you want to buy your own house.
RESPONSE B: Is your mom borrowing the money or requesting a gift. Typically the contract to buy includes a question is any part of the down payment borrowed. Some lenders won't touch it if they answer yes. Sometimes they can get a loan at higher interest rate. So if it's a gift, I don't think you have any liability with the home. You gave your mom money she spent it, end of story. If it's a loan and she lies on the contract she's in trouble if they find out. You were under 18 any liability on your part seems minimal.
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POST: years old & I also have a job that makes a decent wage considering its entry-level. To sum up, the texts I got, basically asked if I would like to help with a down payment for a house. They said it would be less than $5000, and they could put my name on the house as well as theirs. According to them, it would help my credit score. They also noted we would each put up half. Past that, they said I would have to set up a legal trust due to me being under the age of 18, but the half would be yours at 18. My questions here are: Can this cause more harm than good? Does this give me any more liabilities down the road? Can this increase my tax rates? Any other noteworthy advice on this topic would be great, thanks!
RESPONSE A: Do you have $5,000? In many places they could just take it. Are they going to use your "good credit" to get a better interest rate? Are you going to be on the mortgage as well as the deed? Where are you located?
RESPONSE B: If you want to gift your mother $5000 to put as a down payment, that is a decision if you can givw up 5k and/or get something intangible out of it (ie a better place for you to live while you are living with her). There is no tax implications to a straight gift of $5k. You don't even have to report it. If your mother just wants you on the mortgage, say hell no. They are using your credit as leverage to get the loan or a better rate. No matter how you set up this "trust" you will be liable for the full cost of the house. Even if you're *only* on the deed, getting 50% equity isn't worth the headache. Most parents would give you all the benefits anyway without all the liabilities. As for tax rates, home ownership does nothing (usually) for your income tax. You will owe property taxes, but that is part of the monthly payments. There are programs that help people buy their first house. If you are an "owner" on your mother's house, you won't qualify for it later down the road when you want to buy your own house.
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POST: I bought a car and a week later the police seized it as evidence because of things the previous owner did. I'm getting the runaround from the police, the dealership and my insurance. What can I do? My location is California. I brought a car and a week after I bought it the police came here with a warrant and they seized the car. The warrant was related to the previous owner not me. The police won't tell me why they took it just that it could be a year or years before I get the car back. I bought the car from a licensed dealership, not directly from the previous owner and the dealership said they brought the car legally so it's not their problem. My insurance company says I need to deal with the police. I paid over $6000 for the car and I either need the money back or the car back. What can I do if the police, the dealership and my insurance refuse to help? I have never had something like this happen to me and I'm lost.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, but you need more information on why the cops took the car. Was it reported stolen? Did they give you a case number? What did the warrant say?
RESPONSE B: Definitely consult with a lawyer, but maybe there is a civil claim that could be made against the accused? Hope someone can help.. good luck
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POST: I bought a car and a week later the police seized it as evidence because of things the previous owner did. I'm getting the runaround from the police, the dealership and my insurance. What can I do? My location is California. I brought a car and a week after I bought it the police came here with a warrant and they seized the car. The warrant was related to the previous owner not me. The police won't tell me why they took it just that it could be a year or years before I get the car back. I bought the car from a licensed dealership, not directly from the previous owner and the dealership said they brought the car legally so it's not their problem. My insurance company says I need to deal with the police. I paid over $6000 for the car and I either need the money back or the car back. What can I do if the police, the dealership and my insurance refuse to help? I have never had something like this happen to me and I'm lost.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer but it doesn't look like the other commenters are either. You need to get a lawyer. If the warrant didn't name you as the owner of the car, I would think the police would have needed a new warrant. They could legally seize the criminal's car but not your car.
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POST: I bought a car and a week later the police seized it as evidence because of things the previous owner did. I'm getting the runaround from the police, the dealership and my insurance. What can I do? My location is California. I brought a car and a week after I bought it the police came here with a warrant and they seized the car. The warrant was related to the previous owner not me. The police won't tell me why they took it just that it could be a year or years before I get the car back. I bought the car from a licensed dealership, not directly from the previous owner and the dealership said they brought the car legally so it's not their problem. My insurance company says I need to deal with the police. I paid over $6000 for the car and I either need the money back or the car back. What can I do if the police, the dealership and my insurance refuse to help? I have never had something like this happen to me and I'm lost.
RESPONSE A: You need to consult an attorney. A criminal defense attorney would be a good start since it was taken as evidence. They probably have experience with similar situations and if they can't help you directly, can probably refer you to someone who can.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer but it doesn't look like the other commenters are either. You need to get a lawyer. If the warrant didn't name you as the owner of the car, I would think the police would have needed a new warrant. They could legally seize the criminal's car but not your car.
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RESPONSE A: CA Lawyer. Not your lawyer. This is not legal advice. You can try making a claim against the state for compensation. https://www.dgs.ca.gov/ORIM/Services/Page-Content/Office-of-Risk-and-Insurance-Management-Services-List-Folder/File-a-Government-Claim You May also qualify for state compensation as the victim of a crime. https://victims.ca.gov/ Good luck. Edit to add: Do you have comprehensive auto coverage? They should cover “loss of use” of your insured vehicle.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. Contact your county/district attorney. I had personal property seized as evidence a few years ago, and, after several attempts to get it back, i was able to get in contact with DA and he set up a meeting between himself, a local judge, and me. He explained the circumstances, and the judge issued an order to release my property on the spot.
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POST: I bought a car and a week later the police seized it as evidence because of things the previous owner did. I'm getting the runaround from the police, the dealership and my insurance. What can I do? My location is California. I brought a car and a week after I bought it the police came here with a warrant and they seized the car. The warrant was related to the previous owner not me. The police won't tell me why they took it just that it could be a year or years before I get the car back. I bought the car from a licensed dealership, not directly from the previous owner and the dealership said they brought the car legally so it's not their problem. My insurance company says I need to deal with the police. I paid over $6000 for the car and I either need the money back or the car back. What can I do if the police, the dealership and my insurance refuse to help? I have never had something like this happen to me and I'm lost.
RESPONSE A: CA Lawyer. Not your lawyer. This is not legal advice. You can try making a claim against the state for compensation. https://www.dgs.ca.gov/ORIM/Services/Page-Content/Office-of-Risk-and-Insurance-Management-Services-List-Folder/File-a-Government-Claim You May also qualify for state compensation as the victim of a crime. https://victims.ca.gov/ Good luck. Edit to add: Do you have comprehensive auto coverage? They should cover “loss of use” of your insured vehicle.
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POST: and my friend went to use the bathroom during lunch and this teacher stopped us and said we weren’t allowed, so we went back to the cafeteria. But I am on a high strength laxative so if I need to go I need to go, so I walked back into the bathroom and the teacher had three girls pulled aside. She told me to leave and I told her I’m going to the bathroom so I went in a stall. Once I was in the bathroom, she started telling these girls to lift their bras (to check for vapes) and she touched one of the girls butts to “check”. And then one of the girls refused and she said “fine then pull your whole tit out” -they are not searching any guys- -also there wasn’t a vape on these girls- Is this legal? And what do you suggest to do?
RESPONSE A: In addition to all the other reasons this is terrible (strip search, conducted in a public place, involved touching the student), as an educator two things that stood out to me is that there wasn’t a second adult present and the search was conducted by a teacher rather than an administrator. I have, as an administrator, occasionally had to conduct a search of a student’s backpack or locker. Doing so is a big deal - there is paperwork, parents are notified and, depending on the circumstances, a call to legal may be in order. These tasks would never be left to a classroom teacher. Additionally, any time a search of a student’s locker or backpack is conducted, there is always a second administrator present as a witness. The stakes are too high, and the liability too great not to have a second pair of eyes who can document what occurred. This classroom teacher performed a hands-on, strip search of students on her own? With no witnesses? I wouldn’t agree to assist in such a thing even if a ruling majority of the Supreme Court was physically in the room confirming that everything was legal. I strongly suspect that the officials at the school would be horrified to discover what this teacher did. In my school, the teacher would be fired immediately and we would call the police to file charges.
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POST: My 12-year-old daughter had her phone confiscated at school. The principal then demanded the password and went through the contents. Is this legal? Apparently a kid on the bus told someone that she noticed questionable content on the phone (I actually spoke with the child and her mother. The questionable content turned out to be a pop up on some game they were playing). This morning, my daughter was told to hand over her phone and password. She did, because she didn't know what was going on and didn't want to get in trouble. Later she was called down to the assistant principal's office. He proceeded to tell her he found stuff (he didn't elaborate) in her search history and called her a liar when she told him she didn't know what he was talking about. Throughout all this, no one ever called me. They still haven't, and they still have her phone. She's an honor roll student and has never been in trouble before. She was crying and terrified when she got home. Does the school have a right to do this? It's a public school in Michigan.
RESPONSE A: Your daughter has the same 4th Amendment rights at school as she does anywhere else, but the probable cause/reasonable suspicion standards are pretty lenient for school officials. Read through this for more information, and if you're concerned about adverse action that would affect your daughter more than just being embarrassed, speak with a local attorney.
RESPONSE B: They have no way to compel her to give the password to them. Tell her if it ever happens again, don't give up the password. Call the school and complain. Make a stink. Escalate to school board if necessary. The principal violated their own policy by keeping the phone past the end of the day. Not to mention he shouldn't be bullying kids like that. Escalating may make this worse for your kid in the sense that her peers may tease her. That happened in my middle/high school when parents caused a fuss. Hopefully not since I'd think most kids would be pissed about this, too.
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RESPONSE A: They have no way to compel her to give the password to them. Tell her if it ever happens again, don't give up the password. Call the school and complain. Make a stink. Escalate to school board if necessary. The principal violated their own policy by keeping the phone past the end of the day. Not to mention he shouldn't be bullying kids like that. Escalating may make this worse for your kid in the sense that her peers may tease her. That happened in my middle/high school when parents caused a fuss. Hopefully not since I'd think most kids would be pissed about this, too.
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RESPONSE B: They have no way to compel her to give the password to them. Tell her if it ever happens again, don't give up the password. Call the school and complain. Make a stink. Escalate to school board if necessary. The principal violated their own policy by keeping the phone past the end of the day. Not to mention he shouldn't be bullying kids like that. Escalating may make this worse for your kid in the sense that her peers may tease her. That happened in my middle/high school when parents caused a fuss. Hopefully not since I'd think most kids would be pissed about this, too.
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POST: eye is purple, even her eyeball is bruised and red, and she has a concussion. Apparently there is a video but the school officer won't let us see it. The school also refuses to tell us the girls name and she is only suspended for the rest of the week (3 days). The girl who told Dawn to attack Amy did not get into any trouble and Amy keeps seeing her at school. My daughter has to see both of them in school next week and keeps having panic attacks. My questions are: Can I press criminal charges against a minor? Why won't the school even tell us the girls real name?? If I hire an attorney, how can I press charges without the girls name? Can the girl who told the other one to hit Amy get into any trouble?? Thank you. I really appreciate this! I was bullied in high school and it has left me with some pretty bad agoraphobia. I really don't want that for my daughter.
RESPONSE A: Go to the police and take evidence of the assault with you. I'm assuming you have pictures and a medical report. Tell them the school has video, too. If you seek an attorney, try an education attorney or civil rights attorney. Wait and see what the police say first.
RESPONSE B: >Can I press criminal charges against a minor? Individuals do not "press criminal charges." The police take reports, do an investigation, and it's up to the police to refer a case to a prosecutor and ultimately to the prosecutor to file or not file charges. >Why won't the school even tell us the girls real name?? We don't know. >If I hire an attorney, how can I press charges without the girls name? Again, a private attorney cannot press charges any more than you can. A private attorney can file a civil lawsuit and name the school, who will at some point produce the name of the student, but this will cost you money. >Can the girl who told the other one to hit Amy get into any trouble?? With the school? If they choose to discipline her, yes. With the law? Highly unlikely unless there was something like coercion involved. From a nonlegal perspective, it seems like the most immediate need is to get your kid to a therapist.
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POST: 15 year old daughter assaulted at school I live in Oregon. My daughter (we'll call her Amy) was attacked by a girl she doesn't know while waiting for the bus after school. The girl who attacked her (we'll call her Dawn) did it because her friend who doesn't like Amy told her to. Dawn walked up and asked Amy if she wanted to fight, Amy said no and turned around, and the girl punched her twice in the back of the head and once in the eye. Amy's eye is purple, even her eyeball is bruised and red, and she has a concussion. Apparently there is a video but the school officer won't let us see it. The school also refuses to tell us the girls name and she is only suspended for the rest of the week (3 days). The girl who told Dawn to attack Amy did not get into any trouble and Amy keeps seeing her at school. My daughter has to see both of them in school next week and keeps having panic attacks. My questions are: Can I press criminal charges against a minor? Why won't the school even tell us the girls real name?? If I hire an attorney, how can I press charges without the girls name? Can the girl who told the other one to hit Amy get into any trouble?? Thank you. I really appreciate this! I was bullied in high school and it has left me with some pretty bad agoraphobia. I really don't want that for my daughter.
RESPONSE A: Go to the police and take evidence of the assault with you. I'm assuming you have pictures and a medical report. Tell them the school has video, too. If you seek an attorney, try an education attorney or civil rights attorney. Wait and see what the police say first.
RESPONSE B: Call the police and file a report. I guarantee the school did not. Then in writing request that the school maintain the video evidence for the police. Then look for an education attorney - something many people don’t know is that if your child is being bullied and the district is not maintaining a safe environment for your child to learn, they may have to pony up private school tuition.
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POST: 15 year old daughter assaulted at school I live in Oregon. My daughter (we'll call her Amy) was attacked by a girl she doesn't know while waiting for the bus after school. The girl who attacked her (we'll call her Dawn) did it because her friend who doesn't like Amy told her to. Dawn walked up and asked Amy if she wanted to fight, Amy said no and turned around, and the girl punched her twice in the back of the head and once in the eye. Amy's eye is purple, even her eyeball is bruised and red, and she has a concussion. Apparently there is a video but the school officer won't let us see it. The school also refuses to tell us the girls name and she is only suspended for the rest of the week (3 days). The girl who told Dawn to attack Amy did not get into any trouble and Amy keeps seeing her at school. My daughter has to see both of them in school next week and keeps having panic attacks. My questions are: Can I press criminal charges against a minor? Why won't the school even tell us the girls real name?? If I hire an attorney, how can I press charges without the girls name? Can the girl who told the other one to hit Amy get into any trouble?? Thank you. I really appreciate this! I was bullied in high school and it has left me with some pretty bad agoraphobia. I really don't want that for my daughter.
RESPONSE A: Take your bruised daughter down to the police station and make a report. You do not need an attorney to do this. The police can get the video.
RESPONSE B: Call the police and file a report. I guarantee the school did not. Then in writing request that the school maintain the video evidence for the police. Then look for an education attorney - something many people don’t know is that if your child is being bullied and the district is not maintaining a safe environment for your child to learn, they may have to pony up private school tuition.
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POST: A child, 9 years old, has never been enrolled in school (Arizona) I’m considering calling CPS! My cousins boyfriend has 3 children, the oldest is 9 years old, does not know how to read, and none of them have been enrolled in school, ever. They also are not receiving medical care as their father doesn’t believe in medicine. My cousin and her boyfriend have no job, and mooch off of people to survive. My question is, what are the legal ramifications for what this man has done to his kids? Can he go to Prison for failure to enroll his children? I am very concerned for the health and mental well-being of these children.
RESPONSE A: If you’re considering calling CPS, CALL CPS! They’ll sort out whether something is amiss or not and typically provide resources to help get the family back on track.
RESPONSE B: you can absolutely call the police over this. depending on how that goes the kids may be placed in the care of a relative or a facility.
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POST: A child, 9 years old, has never been enrolled in school (Arizona) I’m considering calling CPS! My cousins boyfriend has 3 children, the oldest is 9 years old, does not know how to read, and none of them have been enrolled in school, ever. They also are not receiving medical care as their father doesn’t believe in medicine. My cousin and her boyfriend have no job, and mooch off of people to survive. My question is, what are the legal ramifications for what this man has done to his kids? Can he go to Prison for failure to enroll his children? I am very concerned for the health and mental well-being of these children.
RESPONSE A: Children don't have to be enrolled in school they just need to be learning once school age... That's why parents are allowed to homeschool. Calling the police or CPS will open an investigation and then those involved will have to determine if the children are receiving adequate education at home. It is on the parents or guardians to prove they are teaching their children if an investigation is opened and they can get into trouble if they aren't actually teaching their kids. Denying access to medical care based on not believing in medicine is ridiculous. I get some people not believing in NEW vaccines but to not believe in medicine at all is a little ridiculous considering the world we live in and the diseases we have to deal with, that medicine can help, cure or alleviate symptoms of. This should be reported as it is endangerment of a child if a child is sick/injured and the parents are not doing anything about it.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer, retired educator Educational neglect is a good reason to call CPS. A nine year old with no reading skills is a case of educational neglect. PLEASE call CPS
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POST: A child, 9 years old, has never been enrolled in school (Arizona) I’m considering calling CPS! My cousins boyfriend has 3 children, the oldest is 9 years old, does not know how to read, and none of them have been enrolled in school, ever. They also are not receiving medical care as their father doesn’t believe in medicine. My cousin and her boyfriend have no job, and mooch off of people to survive. My question is, what are the legal ramifications for what this man has done to his kids? Can he go to Prison for failure to enroll his children? I am very concerned for the health and mental well-being of these children.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, retired educator Educational neglect is a good reason to call CPS. A nine year old with no reading skills is a case of educational neglect. PLEASE call CPS
RESPONSE B: you can absolutely call the police over this. depending on how that goes the kids may be placed in the care of a relative or a facility.
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POST: A child, 9 years old, has never been enrolled in school (Arizona) I’m considering calling CPS! My cousins boyfriend has 3 children, the oldest is 9 years old, does not know how to read, and none of them have been enrolled in school, ever. They also are not receiving medical care as their father doesn’t believe in medicine. My cousin and her boyfriend have no job, and mooch off of people to survive. My question is, what are the legal ramifications for what this man has done to his kids? Can he go to Prison for failure to enroll his children? I am very concerned for the health and mental well-being of these children.
RESPONSE A: as a child welfare worker in Arizona, I would contact the hotline. You can call in information and they will determine if it meets report criteria. You can call 1-888-SOS-CHILD and they will help you from there.
RESPONSE B: Children don't have to be enrolled in school they just need to be learning once school age... That's why parents are allowed to homeschool. Calling the police or CPS will open an investigation and then those involved will have to determine if the children are receiving adequate education at home. It is on the parents or guardians to prove they are teaching their children if an investigation is opened and they can get into trouble if they aren't actually teaching their kids. Denying access to medical care based on not believing in medicine is ridiculous. I get some people not believing in NEW vaccines but to not believe in medicine at all is a little ridiculous considering the world we live in and the diseases we have to deal with, that medicine can help, cure or alleviate symptoms of. This should be reported as it is endangerment of a child if a child is sick/injured and the parents are not doing anything about it.
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POST: A child, 9 years old, has never been enrolled in school (Arizona) I’m considering calling CPS! My cousins boyfriend has 3 children, the oldest is 9 years old, does not know how to read, and none of them have been enrolled in school, ever. They also are not receiving medical care as their father doesn’t believe in medicine. My cousin and her boyfriend have no job, and mooch off of people to survive. My question is, what are the legal ramifications for what this man has done to his kids? Can he go to Prison for failure to enroll his children? I am very concerned for the health and mental well-being of these children.
RESPONSE A: as a child welfare worker in Arizona, I would contact the hotline. You can call in information and they will determine if it meets report criteria. You can call 1-888-SOS-CHILD and they will help you from there.
RESPONSE B: I wouldn’t be concerned about whether or not he’ll go to prison. CPS is more concerned about helping the children than punishing the parents. Focus on getting the kids the help they desperately need.
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POST: my calls or texts) I finally got intouch with the landlord and explained the situation (I have a 3 year old son who I'm not allowing to roll on a carpet covered in piss. Plus we have a dog who is going crazy with the smell). She agreed to pay for pergo flooring for two rooms but if we wanted more done we had to pay for it and we had to do ALL the work. We tore out the carpeting in the dining room last night and discovered the piss was soaked into the wood under the carpet. The landlord wont replace it or let us out of the lease and I cant afford to rip up floor boards in a house in just renting. On top of this we discovered the roof is leaking under the entire length on the left side of the house (the landlord is patching it until she can get someone to replace is in a month). The deadline to be out of our old house is passed so we have all of our belongings in this house and I'm at a total loss about what to do. Ive never dealt with anything like this before and I have no idea what to do. Please help. This is in Pennsylvania.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, but you're going to want to check your lease for an acceleration clause or a lease break clause. Some leases (I'm working in PA) are required to have a reasonable exit clause, ie, pay two months rent and lose your security deposit. It may save time and money to pay the penalty, get a new property, and then sue for the rent, security deposit, moving costs, and costs you've spent on the current property. Good luck.
RESPONSE B: You need a landlord-tenant attorney. DO not put any money into this project. You did the removal in good faith and found a major problem. The landlord needs to correct at their cost. You need an attorney to look a the lease and let you know exactly what your rights are. This is is probably beyond the scope of this forum. The landlord might have known there was a major smell issue, did a temp fix to remedy then denied you access so you would not find out the extent of the problem. Its borderline fraud if she knew and was hiding it
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POST: the lease we got the keys and discovered the entire house smelled overwhelming. I immediately rented a rug doctor and scrubbed the floors with every product for pet urin I could find including white vinegar and baking soda. When that did nothing (after 6 days of scrubbing and the landlord not answering my calls or texts) I finally got intouch with the landlord and explained the situation (I have a 3 year old son who I'm not allowing to roll on a carpet covered in piss. Plus we have a dog who is going crazy with the smell). She agreed to pay for pergo flooring for two rooms but if we wanted more done we had to pay for it and we had to do ALL the work. We tore out the carpeting in the dining room last night and discovered the piss was soaked into the wood under the carpet. The landlord wont replace it or let us out of the lease and I cant afford to rip up floor boards in a house in just renting. On top of this we discovered the roof is leaking under the entire length on the left side of the house (the landlord is patching it until she can get someone to replace is in a month). The deadline to be out of our old house is passed so we have all of our belongings in this house and I'm at a total loss about what to do. Ive never dealt with anything like this before and I have no idea what to do. Please help. This is in Pennsylvania.
RESPONSE A: You need a landlord-tenant attorney. DO not put any money into this project. You did the removal in good faith and found a major problem. The landlord needs to correct at their cost. You need an attorney to look a the lease and let you know exactly what your rights are. This is is probably beyond the scope of this forum. The landlord might have known there was a major smell issue, did a temp fix to remedy then denied you access so you would not find out the extent of the problem. Its borderline fraud if she knew and was hiding it
RESPONSE B: You might reach out to the local housing authority and see if they can be of any assistance. I don't know how much authority they have in Pennsylvania or what their position on cat urine would be.
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POST: [TX] Landlord won't let us use the toilet. My husband and I rent a house, the landlord lives across the street. He claims that when we use the bathroom it causes pipes to crack in his house. He has now banned us from using all the toilets in the house for an indefinite amount of time. When I told him that's ridiculous, and asked how we were supposed to go to the bathroom he told me "I dunno outside or something" EXCUSE ME, He just told a pregnant woman that she needs to pee in the bushes instead of the bathroom!? Now he wants 2 months rent up front. What the hell do we do?
RESPONSE A: Use the toilets. That guy is nuts. Sounds like he needs to fix his plumbing.
RESPONSE B: Forbidding you from using the toilets would constitute a breach of the implied warranty of habitability. You should notify him of this breach, in writing, and request that he rectify the situation immediately. If the landlord fails to make needed repair after having been given reasonable notice, you can do any of the following: · terminate the lease · have the condition remedied and deduct from the rent · sue for damages and injunction to do repairs not exceeding $10,000
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POST: [TX] Landlord won't let us use the toilet. My husband and I rent a house, the landlord lives across the street. He claims that when we use the bathroom it causes pipes to crack in his house. He has now banned us from using all the toilets in the house for an indefinite amount of time. When I told him that's ridiculous, and asked how we were supposed to go to the bathroom he told me "I dunno outside or something" EXCUSE ME, He just told a pregnant woman that she needs to pee in the bushes instead of the bathroom!? Now he wants 2 months rent up front. What the hell do we do?
RESPONSE A: In addition to the steps that /u/grasshoppa1 suggested, I think you should be wary of your landlord in general. This honestly sounds like mental illness manifesting itself.
RESPONSE B: Piss and shit on his doormat.
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POST: [TX] Landlord won't let us use the toilet. My husband and I rent a house, the landlord lives across the street. He claims that when we use the bathroom it causes pipes to crack in his house. He has now banned us from using all the toilets in the house for an indefinite amount of time. When I told him that's ridiculous, and asked how we were supposed to go to the bathroom he told me "I dunno outside or something" EXCUSE ME, He just told a pregnant woman that she needs to pee in the bushes instead of the bathroom!? Now he wants 2 months rent up front. What the hell do we do?
RESPONSE A: Wait...is he claiming that the house you are renting/living in pipes crack when you use the bathroom, or his house across the street's pipes crack when you use the bathroom?
RESPONSE B: In addition to the steps that /u/grasshoppa1 suggested, I think you should be wary of your landlord in general. This honestly sounds like mental illness manifesting itself.
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POST: [TX] Landlord won't let us use the toilet. My husband and I rent a house, the landlord lives across the street. He claims that when we use the bathroom it causes pipes to crack in his house. He has now banned us from using all the toilets in the house for an indefinite amount of time. When I told him that's ridiculous, and asked how we were supposed to go to the bathroom he told me "I dunno outside or something" EXCUSE ME, He just told a pregnant woman that she needs to pee in the bushes instead of the bathroom!? Now he wants 2 months rent up front. What the hell do we do?
RESPONSE A: Wait...is he claiming that the house you are renting/living in pipes crack when you use the bathroom, or his house across the street's pipes crack when you use the bathroom?
RESPONSE B: Tell him that if you can't use your own toilets you're gonna use his. Therefore you need keys to his house so that you have toilet access 24/7. You know...like at 3 am.
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POST: , what can I do if found? Location is **NJ**. My car's **title is in my name** only. He's made some payments when I was on medical leave from work for a couple of months and put down the down payment, if that matters. **TL;DR:** I have reasons to believe my soon-to-be ex-husband is tracking me. Is this legal? If I was to find the device, what should I do? If you can think of other ways he may know this specific info, please share! **Why I think he's tracking me:** * He's called me up multiple times saying "someone" saw me get off the interstate/parkway at specific exits, saw me at specific stores, etc. in the town he thinks my "new man" (there's NO one) lives in. * He's told me specific times I got to these towns and returned to my new rental house. * I got a new phone and am no longer on his phone plan, and my location is not shared with anyone, so he can't be using my phone to find me. * My ez-pass for toll booths is also a separate account and he does not have access to it. * He has the spare keys to my car, which he denies but his sister told me she saw it in his truck. He's very mechanically inclined and has driven around to find where I'm living, so it's possible that he could've placed something in my car. Edit: New Jersey, because apparently reddit can't identify "NJ" lol
RESPONSE A: You may not have recourse on the GPS problem specifically, but this *does* fall under laws on stalking. File a police report for *that*, and look into getting a restraining order.
RESPONSE B: Just to consider all possibilities, other than phone devices like Tile could be used if he left one of his in your car, or shares an account and it’s on your keys or in your wallet, and you have the Tile app. I’m sure you would have thought of this, but I thought I’d throw that out there just in case.
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POST: pass for toll booths is also a separate account and he does not have access to it. * He has the spare keys to my car, which he denies but his sister told me she saw it in his truck. He's very mechanically inclined and has driven around to find where I'm living, so it's possible that he could've placed something in my car. Edit: New Jersey, because apparently reddit can't identify "NJ" lol
RESPONSE A: You may not have recourse on the GPS problem specifically, but this *does* fall under laws on stalking. File a police report for *that*, and look into getting a restraining order.
RESPONSE B: Assuming he is using GPS to track you and not some other method, like a private investigator or otherwise something different- people with joint ownership of a vehicle are allowed to install GPS tracking devices without the knowledge of their spouse or other person on the title. Evidently, you own the car and it's in your name only, he is violating your privacy, but I'm not sure about the recourse available to you, so you should consult a lawyer. That being said: There is no state law that governs the US of GPS trackers. A judge in NJ in 2011 [Kenneth R. VILLANOVA v. INNOVATIVE INVESTIGATIONS, INC] ruled in favor of a wife and her private investigator using a GPS tracker to track the movements of her cheating husband, citing the fact that the installation was done on a car that was joint ownership between both of them- and the fact that the GPS tracker only tracked his movement in public places, where he had no expectation of privacy. Evidently you don't have an expectation of privacy because you've stated you've only been in public areas- but the fact he installed it on a car owned by specifically you, and only you is where he made a mistake, I think. GPS trackers are part of a rapidly changing part of the law, and there's not much case law in the US about their use. Talk to a lawyer about this and definitely get a divorce while you're at it.
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POST: I think my husband put a tracking device on my car, what can I do if found? Location is **NJ**. My car's **title is in my name** only. He's made some payments when I was on medical leave from work for a couple of months and put down the down payment, if that matters. **TL;DR:** I have reasons to believe my soon-to-be ex-husband is tracking me. Is this legal? If I was to find the device, what should I do? If you can think of other ways he may know this specific info, please share! **Why I think he's tracking me:** * He's called me up multiple times saying "someone" saw me get off the interstate/parkway at specific exits, saw me at specific stores, etc. in the town he thinks my "new man" (there's NO one) lives in. * He's told me specific times I got to these towns and returned to my new rental house. * I got a new phone and am no longer on his phone plan, and my location is not shared with anyone, so he can't be using my phone to find me. * My ez-pass for toll booths is also a separate account and he does not have access to it. * He has the spare keys to my car, which he denies but his sister told me she saw it in his truck. He's very mechanically inclined and has driven around to find where I'm living, so it's possible that he could've placed something in my car. Edit: New Jersey, because apparently reddit can't identify "NJ" lol
RESPONSE A: Also have your car checked oit to see if they find something like a tracker
RESPONSE B: You may not have recourse on the GPS problem specifically, but this *does* fall under laws on stalking. File a police report for *that*, and look into getting a restraining order.
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POST: a new phone and am no longer on his phone plan, and my location is not shared with anyone, so he can't be using my phone to find me. * My ez-pass for toll booths is also a separate account and he does not have access to it. * He has the spare keys to my car, which he denies but his sister told me she saw it in his truck. He's very mechanically inclined and has driven around to find where I'm living, so it's possible that he could've placed something in my car. Edit: New Jersey, because apparently reddit can't identify "NJ" lol
RESPONSE A: In an unrelated to the legal advice part, you should probably do a sweep of your car, just in case. This will require a bit of sleuthing. Theres two types of GPS trackers basically. The first is where the GPS tracker has a small battery on its own, and can be attached via magnet. If he's texting you a few hours or days later, it might be this. Check the wheel wells and undercarriage of your car. Look closely, in case it's dirty. If he's broke or short on cash, it might be that one. If he has a key, it could be anywhere on the inside as well. The second one is active tracking. It usually requires a subscription service, and can be expensive. It also means it should be wired directly to the battery somehow. The easiest place would Be to plug it in under the driver's side in the data port. Check all your lights and stuff to see if they've been tampered with, as it could have been directly wired to them. If your car is a trash heap like mine is, this would be a good time to clean it out and give a quick look over.
RESPONSE B: Just to consider all possibilities, other than phone devices like Tile could be used if he left one of his in your car, or shares an account and it’s on your keys or in your wallet, and you have the Tile app. I’m sure you would have thought of this, but I thought I’d throw that out there just in case.
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POST: I found a GPS tracking device on my vehicle and I don't know where it came from. (Texas) Title pretty much says it. Texas.My wife was leaving work and the car was parked on an incline, making the under-carriage of the car easy to see. She noticed something protruding from the bottom of one of the metal panels- at first, she thought it was some part of the car that had broken or bent or what have you - but when I took a look at it when I got home I found out that it was a GPS Tracker with SIM card installed. https://spytec.com/products/gl300ma-gps-tracker-m2-case-bundle I own this car, it is not on lease. This car has no liens against it or anything of that nature. My wife drives the car about 20% of the time - I drive this vehicle most of the time. Battery life on the unit mentions about 20 days at 60 second pings- Meaning this has been on the vehicle for less than 20 days as the unit is operating right now.I think I Better Call Saul or something... I currently have the device still on the vehicle. I didn't want to look like I was disturbing the device or allow whoever is tracking me to know that I found it.
RESPONSE A: I wouldn't leave it there for fear that it might be police. If it was me I'd remove it, turn it off, and see who comes looking for it. If it \*is\* the police then you should give it back to them, undamaged. And then get a lawyer REALLY QUICK because if the police are tracking you then you're gonna need one. Keep an eye on your car - once it goes silent they will be looking for it.
RESPONSE B: I would contact an attorney and have the attorney deal with the police. You need somone on your side in the event they have a warrant to place the device in your vehicle.
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POST: found a GPS tracking device on my vehicle and I don't know where it came from. (Texas) Title pretty much says it. Texas.My wife was leaving work and the car was parked on an incline, making the under-carriage of the car easy to see. She noticed something protruding from the bottom of one of the metal panels- at first, she thought it was some part of the car that had broken or bent or what have you - but when I took a look at it when I got home I found out that it was a GPS Tracker with SIM card installed. https://spytec.com/products/gl300ma-gps-tracker-m2-case-bundle I own this car, it is not on lease. This car has no liens against it or anything of that nature. My wife drives the car about 20% of the time - I drive this vehicle most of the time. Battery life on the unit mentions about 20 days at 60 second pings- Meaning this has been on the vehicle for less than 20 days as the unit is operating right now.I think I Better Call Saul or something... I currently have the device still on the vehicle. I didn't want to look like I was disturbing the device or allow whoever is tracking me to know that I found it.
RESPONSE A: Silly question, but just to double check... is the thing still actively operating? I know you mentioned the 20 days of life, but you mentioned leaving it on the car. It’s a stretch, but is it just a dead tracker, and when you purchased the vehicle it was still on there from the last owner? It is unlikely, but wanted to check to rule it out. I also think you should remove the device. Or another option is to just leave the vehicle at home and put up a hidden camera to see who comes to retrieve it. If you go that route, maybe back the vehicle in so they have to walk all the way around the vehicle to get it, giving you more chances to see a face.
RESPONSE B: I would contact an attorney and have the attorney deal with the police. You need somone on your side in the event they have a warrant to place the device in your vehicle.
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POST: I found a GPS tracking device on my vehicle and I don't know where it came from. (Texas) Title pretty much says it. Texas.My wife was leaving work and the car was parked on an incline, making the under-carriage of the car easy to see. She noticed something protruding from the bottom of one of the metal panels- at first, she thought it was some part of the car that had broken or bent or what have you - but when I took a look at it when I got home I found out that it was a GPS Tracker with SIM card installed. https://spytec.com/products/gl300ma-gps-tracker-m2-case-bundle I own this car, it is not on lease. This car has no liens against it or anything of that nature. My wife drives the car about 20% of the time - I drive this vehicle most of the time. Battery life on the unit mentions about 20 days at 60 second pings- Meaning this has been on the vehicle for less than 20 days as the unit is operating right now.I think I Better Call Saul or something... I currently have the device still on the vehicle. I didn't want to look like I was disturbing the device or allow whoever is tracking me to know that I found it.
RESPONSE A: There was a redditor who found a GPS device on his car a few years ago. It turned out that it had been put there by the police as part of an investigation, I highly suggest you go to the closest police station and report it and ask if it belongs to them or another gov agency. Good luck
RESPONSE B: I would contact an attorney and have the attorney deal with the police. You need somone on your side in the event they have a warrant to place the device in your vehicle.
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POST: I found a GPS tracking device on my vehicle and I don't know where it came from. (Texas) Title pretty much says it. Texas.My wife was leaving work and the car was parked on an incline, making the under-carriage of the car easy to see. She noticed something protruding from the bottom of one of the metal panels- at first, she thought it was some part of the car that had broken or bent or what have you - but when I took a look at it when I got home I found out that it was a GPS Tracker with SIM card installed. https://spytec.com/products/gl300ma-gps-tracker-m2-case-bundle I own this car, it is not on lease. This car has no liens against it or anything of that nature. My wife drives the car about 20% of the time - I drive this vehicle most of the time. Battery life on the unit mentions about 20 days at 60 second pings- Meaning this has been on the vehicle for less than 20 days as the unit is operating right now.I think I Better Call Saul or something... I currently have the device still on the vehicle. I didn't want to look like I was disturbing the device or allow whoever is tracking me to know that I found it.
RESPONSE A: INAL but with police assistance (a warrant perhaps?- don't know how that works) the manufacturer of the device may be able to give the exact information you need. Or at least some clue. These things all have serial numbers. If I was in your position I would start there - police report in hand.
RESPONSE B: I would contact an attorney and have the attorney deal with the police. You need somone on your side in the event they have a warrant to place the device in your vehicle.
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POST: I found a GPS tracking device on my vehicle and I don't know where it came from. (Texas) Title pretty much says it. Texas.My wife was leaving work and the car was parked on an incline, making the under-carriage of the car easy to see. She noticed something protruding from the bottom of one of the metal panels- at first, she thought it was some part of the car that had broken or bent or what have you - but when I took a look at it when I got home I found out that it was a GPS Tracker with SIM card installed. https://spytec.com/products/gl300ma-gps-tracker-m2-case-bundle I own this car, it is not on lease. This car has no liens against it or anything of that nature. My wife drives the car about 20% of the time - I drive this vehicle most of the time. Battery life on the unit mentions about 20 days at 60 second pings- Meaning this has been on the vehicle for less than 20 days as the unit is operating right now.I think I Better Call Saul or something... I currently have the device still on the vehicle. I didn't want to look like I was disturbing the device or allow whoever is tracking me to know that I found it.
RESPONSE A: Do you and your wife jointly own the car? In Texas, you need the owner's consent to put one on the car. So, if you own it (and she isn't on the title), only the police can do it. If you jointly own it, she can do it. Any reason why your wife might want to track you?
RESPONSE B: I would contact an attorney and have the attorney deal with the police. You need somone on your side in the event they have a warrant to place the device in your vehicle.
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POST: later, she calls and tells me she paid a mechanic to go over the car with a fine-tooth comb and look for the supposed tracking device. Obviously, he doesn't find anything. But she expects me and my son to reimburse her for the bill. First question: Do my son or me have any legal obligation to pay for her mechanic's bill? On top of all that, she _still_ believes that there's a tracking device on the car and wants me to prove that there's not. Otherwise, she says she'll sue me for committing fraud. I told her it's impossible for me to prove a negative, and I said if she really thinks there's a tracking device on her car, then the burden of proof is on her. But she said that because the tracking device is "undetectable," (according to my son), there's no way for her to find it. Second question: Does she have a legal leg to stand on? Do I really need to take steps to prove that there is no tracking device?
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer. She can sue you and if she does you need to respond. Depending on the cost it may or may not be in small claims court. It may make the most sense to pay the cost as long as you get a copy of the report from the mechanic and an invoice to provide the charges. That also provides proof in your defense that there was no bug. It would help defend if something is planted later, since you have a time and date that no bug was found. I'm not sure the buyer was unreasonable here since your summary seems to be that your son made an effort to convince her it was bugged, scared her, and you hung up on her rather than trying to resolve it (partially because you didn't know the story). As for fraud, she would have to prove there is a bug. This is unlikely but, again, respond if sued.
RESPONSE B: >wants me to prove that there's not. Sure, let her bring that before a judge. Your defense: "Your honor if she could please explain how I can prove the non-existence of something, I'd be happy to oblige."
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POST: was able to monitor his every move. Told her he tried hard to find the device, but it was so well hidden that it was undetectable. It was all a joke, but he apparently was very convincing about it, and she didn't take it as a joke. Car buyer calls me up, angry, and demands that I remove the hidden tracking device on the car. I have no idea what she's talking about, so I hang up. I later mention the call to son, and he tells me about their conversation. So I call her and explain that son was joking. She isn't buying it. Then son calls her and says that he was joking. She still isn't buying it. About a week later, she calls and tells me she paid a mechanic to go over the car with a fine-tooth comb and look for the supposed tracking device. Obviously, he doesn't find anything. But she expects me and my son to reimburse her for the bill. First question: Do my son or me have any legal obligation to pay for her mechanic's bill? On top of all that, she _still_ believes that there's a tracking device on the car and wants me to prove that there's not. Otherwise, she says she'll sue me for committing fraud. I told her it's impossible for me to prove a negative, and I said if she really thinks there's a tracking device on her car, then the burden of proof is on her. But she said that because the tracking device is "undetectable," (according to my son), there's no way for her to find it. Second question: Does she have a legal leg to stand on? Do I really need to take steps to prove that there is no tracking device?
RESPONSE A: If she sues you interplead your son for slander.
RESPONSE B: Maybe I’m missing something. OP didn’t do anything here. He properly represented the car when it was sold, no? His son then made a comment that the purchaser took seriously and the purchaser took action. I am not a lawyer, but there would be no claim against the OP.
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POST: . She isn't buying it. Then son calls her and says that he was joking. She still isn't buying it. About a week later, she calls and tells me she paid a mechanic to go over the car with a fine-tooth comb and look for the supposed tracking device. Obviously, he doesn't find anything. But she expects me and my son to reimburse her for the bill. First question: Do my son or me have any legal obligation to pay for her mechanic's bill? On top of all that, she _still_ believes that there's a tracking device on the car and wants me to prove that there's not. Otherwise, she says she'll sue me for committing fraud. I told her it's impossible for me to prove a negative, and I said if she really thinks there's a tracking device on her car, then the burden of proof is on her. But she said that because the tracking device is "undetectable," (according to my son), there's no way for her to find it. Second question: Does she have a legal leg to stand on? Do I really need to take steps to prove that there is no tracking device?
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer. She can sue you and if she does you need to respond. Depending on the cost it may or may not be in small claims court. It may make the most sense to pay the cost as long as you get a copy of the report from the mechanic and an invoice to provide the charges. That also provides proof in your defense that there was no bug. It would help defend if something is planted later, since you have a time and date that no bug was found. I'm not sure the buyer was unreasonable here since your summary seems to be that your son made an effort to convince her it was bugged, scared her, and you hung up on her rather than trying to resolve it (partially because you didn't know the story). As for fraud, she would have to prove there is a bug. This is unlikely but, again, respond if sued.
RESPONSE B: If she sues you interplead your son for slander.
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POST: , angry, and demands that I remove the hidden tracking device on the car. I have no idea what she's talking about, so I hang up. I later mention the call to son, and he tells me about their conversation. So I call her and explain that son was joking. She isn't buying it. Then son calls her and says that he was joking. She still isn't buying it. About a week later, she calls and tells me she paid a mechanic to go over the car with a fine-tooth comb and look for the supposed tracking device. Obviously, he doesn't find anything. But she expects me and my son to reimburse her for the bill. First question: Do my son or me have any legal obligation to pay for her mechanic's bill? On top of all that, she _still_ believes that there's a tracking device on the car and wants me to prove that there's not. Otherwise, she says she'll sue me for committing fraud. I told her it's impossible for me to prove a negative, and I said if she really thinks there's a tracking device on her car, then the burden of proof is on her. But she said that because the tracking device is "undetectable," (according to my son), there's no way for her to find it. Second question: Does she have a legal leg to stand on? Do I really need to take steps to prove that there is no tracking device?
RESPONSE A: Maybe I’m missing something. OP didn’t do anything here. He properly represented the car when it was sold, no? His son then made a comment that the purchaser took seriously and the purchaser took action. I am not a lawyer, but there would be no claim against the OP.
RESPONSE B: I'd tell her to pound sand. No offense intended, but she is earnestly taking your sons word as fact. I'd be skeptical even if it was my own child telling me that. The sale is done, it's her vehicle. If she takes it to a mechanic (and unless it's a lemon), it's her bill to foot.
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POST: supposed tracking device. Obviously, he doesn't find anything. But she expects me and my son to reimburse her for the bill. First question: Do my son or me have any legal obligation to pay for her mechanic's bill? On top of all that, she _still_ believes that there's a tracking device on the car and wants me to prove that there's not. Otherwise, she says she'll sue me for committing fraud. I told her it's impossible for me to prove a negative, and I said if she really thinks there's a tracking device on her car, then the burden of proof is on her. But she said that because the tracking device is "undetectable," (according to my son), there's no way for her to find it. Second question: Does she have a legal leg to stand on? Do I really need to take steps to prove that there is no tracking device?
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer. She can sue you and if she does you need to respond. Depending on the cost it may or may not be in small claims court. It may make the most sense to pay the cost as long as you get a copy of the report from the mechanic and an invoice to provide the charges. That also provides proof in your defense that there was no bug. It would help defend if something is planted later, since you have a time and date that no bug was found. I'm not sure the buyer was unreasonable here since your summary seems to be that your son made an effort to convince her it was bugged, scared her, and you hung up on her rather than trying to resolve it (partially because you didn't know the story). As for fraud, she would have to prove there is a bug. This is unlikely but, again, respond if sued.
RESPONSE B: I'd tell her to pound sand. No offense intended, but she is earnestly taking your sons word as fact. I'd be skeptical even if it was my own child telling me that. The sale is done, it's her vehicle. If she takes it to a mechanic (and unless it's a lemon), it's her bill to foot.
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POST: NICU - $125k bill So we live in Texas, and my wife and I both have separate insurance policies. Her work insurance is through Allianz Care which is an international policy. They contract through Olympus billing and Aetna PPO in America. Her works HR policy is that children and spouses cannot be added to the policy. Knowing this I started an insurance group (eff. 11/1) through my small corporation and added my son. His due date was originally 11/17, so I thought 11/1 would be sufficiently early. This was a huge mistake as he was born prematurely on 10/28. Due to being premature he spent the next four and a half days in the NICU. I also had a previous insurance policy that I cancelled effective 10/31 as I was transitioning to the new policy with BCBS effective 11/1. The hospital says the claim is still pending, and that the total is, to be exact, $127,500. The insurance people from Allianz Care have told us they have declined that claim and will not cover it. Some people had told me that under the ACA and possibly the newborns and mothers protection act of 1996, newborns are automatically covered under the mothers policy for the first 30 days. Is this true? We are in wait-and-see mode right now but are terrified that we may never be able to buy a home or retire. Any other opinions or ideas regarding recourse for us at this time are greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: There’s no need to add baby to your insurance before they are born. The birth itself is a qualifying life event, which lets you add baby on the day they are born, retroactively in nature. You should still be able to secure coverage based on the date of the babies birth.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. Check out the 2012 update to the Newborns and Mother’s Health Protecion Act of 1996. It affects how newborns are covered by their mother’s insurance. I’m not a person with a ton of experience in this area (I had kids and used insurance), so I won’t tell you anything definitive, but that Act looks to me like it’ll provide you with a potential path forward. Good luck
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POST: Insurance declining my baby’s stay in NICU - $125k bill So we live in Texas, and my wife and I both have separate insurance policies. Her work insurance is through Allianz Care which is an international policy. They contract through Olympus billing and Aetna PPO in America. Her works HR policy is that children and spouses cannot be added to the policy. Knowing this I started an insurance group (eff. 11/1) through my small corporation and added my son. His due date was originally 11/17, so I thought 11/1 would be sufficiently early. This was a huge mistake as he was born prematurely on 10/28. Due to being premature he spent the next four and a half days in the NICU. I also had a previous insurance policy that I cancelled effective 10/31 as I was transitioning to the new policy with BCBS effective 11/1. The hospital says the claim is still pending, and that the total is, to be exact, $127,500. The insurance people from Allianz Care have told us they have declined that claim and will not cover it. Some people had told me that under the ACA and possibly the newborns and mothers protection act of 1996, newborns are automatically covered under the mothers policy for the first 30 days. Is this true? We are in wait-and-see mode right now but are terrified that we may never be able to buy a home or retire. Any other opinions or ideas regarding recourse for us at this time are greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Was your son on the policy that you canceled on October 31st?
RESPONSE B: There’s no need to add baby to your insurance before they are born. The birth itself is a qualifying life event, which lets you add baby on the day they are born, retroactively in nature. You should still be able to secure coverage based on the date of the babies birth.
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POST: Insurance declining my baby’s stay in NICU - $125k bill So we live in Texas, and my wife and I both have separate insurance policies. Her work insurance is through Allianz Care which is an international policy. They contract through Olympus billing and Aetna PPO in America. Her works HR policy is that children and spouses cannot be added to the policy. Knowing this I started an insurance group (eff. 11/1) through my small corporation and added my son. His due date was originally 11/17, so I thought 11/1 would be sufficiently early. This was a huge mistake as he was born prematurely on 10/28. Due to being premature he spent the next four and a half days in the NICU. I also had a previous insurance policy that I cancelled effective 10/31 as I was transitioning to the new policy with BCBS effective 11/1. The hospital says the claim is still pending, and that the total is, to be exact, $127,500. The insurance people from Allianz Care have told us they have declined that claim and will not cover it. Some people had told me that under the ACA and possibly the newborns and mothers protection act of 1996, newborns are automatically covered under the mothers policy for the first 30 days. Is this true? We are in wait-and-see mode right now but are terrified that we may never be able to buy a home or retire. Any other opinions or ideas regarding recourse for us at this time are greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: It should hypothetically work under your old policy since it was still in effect at the time. They usually give you time to report the last of your claims.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. Check out the 2012 update to the Newborns and Mother’s Health Protecion Act of 1996. It affects how newborns are covered by their mother’s insurance. I’m not a person with a ton of experience in this area (I had kids and used insurance), so I won’t tell you anything definitive, but that Act looks to me like it’ll provide you with a potential path forward. Good luck
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POST: Insurance declining my baby’s stay in NICU - $125k bill So we live in Texas, and my wife and I both have separate insurance policies. Her work insurance is through Allianz Care which is an international policy. They contract through Olympus billing and Aetna PPO in America. Her works HR policy is that children and spouses cannot be added to the policy. Knowing this I started an insurance group (eff. 11/1) through my small corporation and added my son. His due date was originally 11/17, so I thought 11/1 would be sufficiently early. This was a huge mistake as he was born prematurely on 10/28. Due to being premature he spent the next four and a half days in the NICU. I also had a previous insurance policy that I cancelled effective 10/31 as I was transitioning to the new policy with BCBS effective 11/1. The hospital says the claim is still pending, and that the total is, to be exact, $127,500. The insurance people from Allianz Care have told us they have declined that claim and will not cover it. Some people had told me that under the ACA and possibly the newborns and mothers protection act of 1996, newborns are automatically covered under the mothers policy for the first 30 days. Is this true? We are in wait-and-see mode right now but are terrified that we may never be able to buy a home or retire. Any other opinions or ideas regarding recourse for us at this time are greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: It should hypothetically work under your old policy since it was still in effect at the time. They usually give you time to report the last of your claims.
RESPONSE B: Was your son on the policy that you canceled on October 31st?
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POST: Olympus billing and Aetna PPO in America. Her works HR policy is that children and spouses cannot be added to the policy. Knowing this I started an insurance group (eff. 11/1) through my small corporation and added my son. His due date was originally 11/17, so I thought 11/1 would be sufficiently early. This was a huge mistake as he was born prematurely on 10/28. Due to being premature he spent the next four and a half days in the NICU. I also had a previous insurance policy that I cancelled effective 10/31 as I was transitioning to the new policy with BCBS effective 11/1. The hospital says the claim is still pending, and that the total is, to be exact, $127,500. The insurance people from Allianz Care have told us they have declined that claim and will not cover it. Some people had told me that under the ACA and possibly the newborns and mothers protection act of 1996, newborns are automatically covered under the mothers policy for the first 30 days. Is this true? We are in wait-and-see mode right now but are terrified that we may never be able to buy a home or retire. Any other opinions or ideas regarding recourse for us at this time are greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Former insurance biller here - if the claim is denied after all of your coverage issues are solved do not be afraid to appeal. Include medical records, documentation, and a firmly-worded letter explaining why the event should be both covered and approved. Most initial-level denials are computer generated due to incorrect procedure coding or incorrect diagnosis coding. A real person typically doesn't see the claim until it is "sent back" to be reprocessed. Best of luck!
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. Check out the 2012 update to the Newborns and Mother’s Health Protecion Act of 1996. It affects how newborns are covered by their mother’s insurance. I’m not a person with a ton of experience in this area (I had kids and used insurance), so I won’t tell you anything definitive, but that Act looks to me like it’ll provide you with a potential path forward. Good luck
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POST: (VA) Premie baby NICU stay deemed not medically necessary by insurance and now hospital is billing us Our baby was in the nicu for 4 weeks. We were finally given the okay to take her home and we did with no issue. Insurance covered all but final few days of stay and is claiming it was "not medically necessary" for those days. Now hospital is billing us for over 10K and is threatening collections. We were never told we could take home the baby earlier and did so when the doctors told us. Have already had the hospital appeal it to insurance twice. What course do we have to fight this with the hospital and/or insurance? Thanks
RESPONSE A: This is concerning to me, and definitely demonstrates a failure by the hospital at some level. All hospitals have a department that is responsible for managing/assessing in-house patients. Depending on the facility and how they assign the duties, this could be UM (Utilization Management), UR (Utilization Review), CM (Case Management) or some other name. That department is responsible for understanding what patients are in-house, what resources are being used in their care, and supposed to be keeping up with the insurance to make sure there is coverage. If your child reached a point to where he/she should have been discharged, the UM/UR/CM departments should have been on top of this. For this reason, I would reach out to the hospital administration, either the CFO or CEO. The collector following up on you is likely somebody low level and not at all taking a step back and seeing the big picture in that they got paid/contractualized $490K of a $500K bill (making those numbers up) and also might not have any pull in having this adjusted, which is what I would recommend were it a hospital I worked with. The CEO/CFO will understand the big picture. Quite honestly, with a medical necessity denial, the hospital should eat this.
RESPONSE B: You can ask if they have any charity programs could help you. Since it's already been disputed and denied you could possibly contact a lawyer to go after your insurance company.
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POST: one from 2013-2014) the plaintiff is also suing and this is the 1st time they are aware of it too. They appear to be more confused than I am at this point. Asking to get the truth from my ex wife is impossible. She suffers from some undiagnosed mental disorder along with a life encompassing drug addiction problem. She doesn’t have a fixed address, constantly changes phone numbers and is utterly untrustworthy. The story of her putting my plates on a different car is from her. I have no idea if it’s true or not. Assuming what she said is true, How do I absolve myself from any responsibility in this lawsuit? Or what should be my next steps? Is it report stolen plates? Lawyers? If so, What specialty should I be looking for? The least I need to involve my ex, the better it is. It sets off a firestorm of 50-100 calls without resolving anything, another barrage of threats and texts and just reliving a ton of garbage I’ve been trying to rid myself of for over 3 years. Any help would be appreciated. And thank you all for taking the time reading through this. Cheers!
RESPONSE A: I remember your first post. I'm sorry that your now ex wife is managing to make things more complicated. She stole your plates and committed a criminal act by driving them on an unregistered vehicle and driving with no insurance. A lawyer will set this record strait fairly quickly. It would likely be in your best interest to have a lawyer send a letter to whoever wants to sue you.
RESPONSE B: Keep working with the old insurance company, since they're named and you two appear to have no conflicts they'll be at least amicable. If the clerk of court (or whatever Canadian counterpart there is) is nearby, maybe go see them with what you have. They can get you some documents so you can at least start to figure this out. Safest move though really is to just get an attorney in that area and see what they think. A lot of places do free consults, this could be very easy and cheap for them to do for you or we're missing something massive and they'd be able to find it.
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POST: her putting my plates on a different car is from her. I have no idea if it’s true or not. Assuming what she said is true, How do I absolve myself from any responsibility in this lawsuit? Or what should be my next steps? Is it report stolen plates? Lawyers? If so, What specialty should I be looking for? The least I need to involve my ex, the better it is. It sets off a firestorm of 50-100 calls without resolving anything, another barrage of threats and texts and just reliving a ton of garbage I’ve been trying to rid myself of for over 3 years. Any help would be appreciated. And thank you all for taking the time reading through this. Cheers!
RESPONSE A: Seems like you got some good opinions already and you're on the right track. Just to add, don't panic, but don't take it lightly. You definitely need a lawyer, seek a free consultation (usually not too hard to find), but make finding a lawyer your priority. There are too many moving parts for you to handle this yourself. Secondly, don't contact the plaintiff or his counsel again. You don't want to accidently say something which might put you in a bad position. I'm fairly certain that the lawyer will put forward that you had no knowledge that the license plates were being improperly used, it was without your consent, and they have essentially been lost or stolen. The course of action taken might depend on how much you want to protect your ex-wife, because you can certainly throw her under the bus here, so to speak.
RESPONSE B: Keep working with the old insurance company, since they're named and you two appear to have no conflicts they'll be at least amicable. If the clerk of court (or whatever Canadian counterpart there is) is nearby, maybe go see them with what you have. They can get you some documents so you can at least start to figure this out. Safest move though really is to just get an attorney in that area and see what they think. A lot of places do free consults, this could be very easy and cheap for them to do for you or we're missing something massive and they'd be able to find it.
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POST: no longer valid. Tonight is supposed to be when the towing starts. Today, at close of business, they closed the gates and turned off everyone's access cards unless they had signed the documents agreeing to all the changes. This effectively is locking everyone out of their homes. One of the residents parked their truck on the exit gate sensor so it would stay open, but otherwise, they would have all been locked out. They've also formed a watch group for tonight so they can warn everyone if a tow truck (or multiple) show up. This stuff can't be legal. Does anyone know of any resources that can help a group of renters on an emergency basis? They need to talk to someone this weekend if at all possible. They're talking about suing the asset management as a community, but I'm not looking for legal advice to pass on, just resources. As an added note, some of the renters believe the asset company may have hired the vandals because it looks like specific people are being targeted, namely the ones that have been giving the most vocal pushback. They don't know that for certain, and can't prove it, but they have filed police reports.
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RESPONSE B: It's obvious the company is taking a calculated risk that they won't have a tenant with a spine, careful document collection, and a level head. Writ of reentry is what gets around a self-help eviction, not sure if a judge will order it over a weekend. Lawyer up, if there's a group of tenants willing to go in on it, a lawyer would be more likely to take the case.
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POST: posting eviction notices for people that didn't pay. * Notified everyone there was a 40% rent increase, effective immediately (illegal) * Required everyone to register their cars under threat of tow, with 48 hours notice (the lease requires 10 days notice). They also said effective immediately, resident parking stickers and the old car registration list are no longer valid. Tonight is supposed to be when the towing starts. Today, at close of business, they closed the gates and turned off everyone's access cards unless they had signed the documents agreeing to all the changes. This effectively is locking everyone out of their homes. One of the residents parked their truck on the exit gate sensor so it would stay open, but otherwise, they would have all been locked out. They've also formed a watch group for tonight so they can warn everyone if a tow truck (or multiple) show up. This stuff can't be legal. Does anyone know of any resources that can help a group of renters on an emergency basis? They need to talk to someone this weekend if at all possible. They're talking about suing the asset management as a community, but I'm not looking for legal advice to pass on, just resources. As an added note, some of the renters believe the asset company may have hired the vandals because it looks like specific people are being targeted, namely the ones that have been giving the most vocal pushback. They don't know that for certain, and can't prove it, but they have filed police reports.
RESPONSE A: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
RESPONSE B: If it's one of the bigger cities, there are tenant's unions and councils that may have some volunteer help over the weekend.
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POST: tow truck (or multiple) show up. This stuff can't be legal. Does anyone know of any resources that can help a group of renters on an emergency basis? They need to talk to someone this weekend if at all possible. They're talking about suing the asset management as a community, but I'm not looking for legal advice to pass on, just resources. As an added note, some of the renters believe the asset company may have hired the vandals because it looks like specific people are being targeted, namely the ones that have been giving the most vocal pushback. They don't know that for certain, and can't prove it, but they have filed police reports.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer just a 1L law student so not legal advice I live and go to school in Mass so I am not sure about Texas law but from what I’ve learned so far and a quick search on Texas law self-help evictions are illegal in Texas they cannot lock out tenants without going through an eviction process.. non of what you describe is legal and it’s shocking there even trying.. even if people sign I would imagine they could claim it was under duress or they had unequal bargaining power (my terms maybe off a bit but it’s something like that)… first I would call the cops they may not do anything (I don’t think they really get involved with tenant/landlord disputes) but it’s worth a try and explain that the landlord illegally locked them out of their homes at the very least it will be documented for a later suit.. then get a lawyer immediately to destroy these awful humans
RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
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POST: wants me to change my testimony and wanted to give me this stuffed envelope filled with money in return. I refused and she kept pushing it until she eventually left. Now she keeps sending money to my bank account which I have no idea how she got my account number to begin with, and I can't believe she’s dumb enough to send it through the bank which leaves trail back to her. I told her over and over that I won't accept her money but she keeps sending them anyway. It’s happened three times so far. My concern here are as follows: 1) I don’t know what to do to stop her from sending me the money. She doesn’t stop sending it back and I don’t want a single cent of her money laying in my account 2) I’m not sure if not telling the judge about that would be illegal (although I would prefer not to say anything if all this would go away and I make her stop but I don’t want to get involved in any more shit tbh) and 3) I’m worried about my bank account as well. Having couple thousands of dollars sent to me then sent back three times seems suspicious as hell!!
RESPONSE A: Go talk to your bank. UFCU (if you're not using them, they're frickin' amazing) will bend over backwards for you in situations like this, especially the one in the shopping center at Las Cimas. In the meantime, head down to the prosecutor's office with a printout of your bank statement or incoming wire transfers for their records (you can redact non-relevant transactions from it for privacy). Make it VERY clear that this kid is trying to bribe you. If the girl ever shows up again, very conspicuously take out your phone, activate your voice recorder app, and make it eminently clear you're recording - or just call the prosecutor right then and there while she's watching and let them know that she's there trying to influence your testimony. The Travis County DA doesn't take too kindly to that.
RESPONSE B: Somebody with VERY POOR JUDGEMENT has your bank data. Time to get a new account. In addition to other steps as advised about reporting this.
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POST: There is this 19 year old kid who keeps wiring me money to my bank account so I change my testimony and I keep wiring it back, but it never stops she keeps sending it back again, What can be done here to make her stop without getting her or myself in trouble? [West Lake Hills, TX] Long story short and without getting into too much detail. I’m a witness in a case and the hearing is a month away. One of the kids involved in this case wants me to change my testimony. I’m not involved in any way with the case other than I witnessed something and I got served to go to court. This girl I know came to my house told me she wants me to change my testimony and wanted to give me this stuffed envelope filled with money in return. I refused and she kept pushing it until she eventually left. Now she keeps sending money to my bank account which I have no idea how she got my account number to begin with, and I can't believe she’s dumb enough to send it through the bank which leaves trail back to her. I told her over and over that I won't accept her money but she keeps sending them anyway. It’s happened three times so far. My concern here are as follows: 1) I don’t know what to do to stop her from sending me the money. She doesn’t stop sending it back and I don’t want a single cent of her money laying in my account 2) I’m not sure if not telling the judge about that would be illegal (although I would prefer not to say anything if all this would go away and I make her stop but I don’t want to get involved in any more shit tbh) and 3) I’m worried about my bank account as well. Having couple thousands of dollars sent to me then sent back three times seems suspicious as hell!!
RESPONSE A: Somebody with VERY POOR JUDGEMENT has your bank data. Time to get a new account. In addition to other steps as advised about reporting this.
RESPONSE B: Call and report her today. The best way to protect yourself is to make sure you don't look suspicious. Then call your bank and block transfers from her account. Tell them exactly why.
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POST: There is this 19 year old kid who keeps wiring me money to my bank account so I change my testimony and I keep wiring it back, but it never stops she keeps sending it back again, What can be done here to make her stop without getting her or myself in trouble? [West Lake Hills, TX] Long story short and without getting into too much detail. I’m a witness in a case and the hearing is a month away. One of the kids involved in this case wants me to change my testimony. I’m not involved in any way with the case other than I witnessed something and I got served to go to court. This girl I know came to my house told me she wants me to change my testimony and wanted to give me this stuffed envelope filled with money in return. I refused and she kept pushing it until she eventually left. Now she keeps sending money to my bank account which I have no idea how she got my account number to begin with, and I can't believe she’s dumb enough to send it through the bank which leaves trail back to her. I told her over and over that I won't accept her money but she keeps sending them anyway. It’s happened three times so far. My concern here are as follows: 1) I don’t know what to do to stop her from sending me the money. She doesn’t stop sending it back and I don’t want a single cent of her money laying in my account 2) I’m not sure if not telling the judge about that would be illegal (although I would prefer not to say anything if all this would go away and I make her stop but I don’t want to get involved in any more shit tbh) and 3) I’m worried about my bank account as well. Having couple thousands of dollars sent to me then sent back three times seems suspicious as hell!!
RESPONSE A: Somebody with VERY POOR JUDGEMENT has your bank data. Time to get a new account. In addition to other steps as advised about reporting this.
RESPONSE B: You should see about changing your bank account number immediately.
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POST: There is this 19 year old kid who keeps wiring me money to my bank account so I change my testimony and I keep wiring it back, but it never stops she keeps sending it back again, What can be done here to make her stop without getting her or myself in trouble? [West Lake Hills, TX] Long story short and without getting into too much detail. I’m a witness in a case and the hearing is a month away. One of the kids involved in this case wants me to change my testimony. I’m not involved in any way with the case other than I witnessed something and I got served to go to court. This girl I know came to my house told me she wants me to change my testimony and wanted to give me this stuffed envelope filled with money in return. I refused and she kept pushing it until she eventually left. Now she keeps sending money to my bank account which I have no idea how she got my account number to begin with, and I can't believe she’s dumb enough to send it through the bank which leaves trail back to her. I told her over and over that I won't accept her money but she keeps sending them anyway. It’s happened three times so far. My concern here are as follows: 1) I don’t know what to do to stop her from sending me the money. She doesn’t stop sending it back and I don’t want a single cent of her money laying in my account 2) I’m not sure if not telling the judge about that would be illegal (although I would prefer not to say anything if all this would go away and I make her stop but I don’t want to get involved in any more shit tbh) and 3) I’m worried about my bank account as well. Having couple thousands of dollars sent to me then sent back three times seems suspicious as hell!!
RESPONSE A: Somebody with VERY POOR JUDGEMENT has your bank data. Time to get a new account. In addition to other steps as advised about reporting this.
RESPONSE B: Call the police and report the crime. What she is doing is a crime.
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POST: There is this 19 year old kid who keeps wiring me money to my bank account so I change my testimony and I keep wiring it back, but it never stops she keeps sending it back again, What can be done here to make her stop without getting her or myself in trouble? [West Lake Hills, TX] Long story short and without getting into too much detail. I’m a witness in a case and the hearing is a month away. One of the kids involved in this case wants me to change my testimony. I’m not involved in any way with the case other than I witnessed something and I got served to go to court. This girl I know came to my house told me she wants me to change my testimony and wanted to give me this stuffed envelope filled with money in return. I refused and she kept pushing it until she eventually left. Now she keeps sending money to my bank account which I have no idea how she got my account number to begin with, and I can't believe she’s dumb enough to send it through the bank which leaves trail back to her. I told her over and over that I won't accept her money but she keeps sending them anyway. It’s happened three times so far. My concern here are as follows: 1) I don’t know what to do to stop her from sending me the money. She doesn’t stop sending it back and I don’t want a single cent of her money laying in my account 2) I’m not sure if not telling the judge about that would be illegal (although I would prefer not to say anything if all this would go away and I make her stop but I don’t want to get involved in any more shit tbh) and 3) I’m worried about my bank account as well. Having couple thousands of dollars sent to me then sent back three times seems suspicious as hell!!
RESPONSE A: Call the police and report the crime. What she is doing is a crime.
RESPONSE B: Not legal advice, but maybe you should also aggressively check your credit reports and freeze your credit? She seems to have a lot of info about you and her family seems inclined to lash out.
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POST: [NY] Groom is dying, time is of the essence. Getting married via Skype "in" another state? A friend of mine knows a couple in NYC that wants to get married. COVID-19 has obviously put any plans on hold, especially since they still need to get the license. The problem is the groom is in hospice, and has maybe a few weeks left to live. He desperately wants to marry his fiancee before he passes. They've heard about some states performing weddings via Skype, and some (like TN, and I think VT) let you apply for a license online. Would they be able to apply for a TN (or other state) marriage license, and then be married by a TN (or whatever) official via Skype? Is there any other recourse they might have to get married in NYC during all of this? Would it be possible to do an otherwise legal ceremony sans license, and have it validated after the fact? (I know that's been done in the past, under special circumstances.) Thanks, guys.
RESPONSE A: The term you are looking for is a proxy marriage. Four states allow them, CA CO TX, and Montana allows double proxy marriages. But only for military members. You would need to appear in person to be married
RESPONSE B: It seems the hardest part would be appearing in person together to apply for the marriage license. If he can do that, it would just be a matter of finding an officiant willing to go to hospice and provide the ceremony.
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POST: [NY] Groom is dying, time is of the essence. Getting married via Skype "in" another state? A friend of mine knows a couple in NYC that wants to get married. COVID-19 has obviously put any plans on hold, especially since they still need to get the license. The problem is the groom is in hospice, and has maybe a few weeks left to live. He desperately wants to marry his fiancee before he passes. They've heard about some states performing weddings via Skype, and some (like TN, and I think VT) let you apply for a license online. Would they be able to apply for a TN (or other state) marriage license, and then be married by a TN (or whatever) official via Skype? Is there any other recourse they might have to get married in NYC during all of this? Would it be possible to do an otherwise legal ceremony sans license, and have it validated after the fact? (I know that's been done in the past, under special circumstances.) Thanks, guys.
RESPONSE A: The term you are looking for is a proxy marriage. Four states allow them, CA CO TX, and Montana allows double proxy marriages. But only for military members. You would need to appear in person to be married
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer but unfortunately I believe you cannot get married via Skype. Marriage laws require the officiant to be physically present and to sign the marriage papers immediately after the ceremony. More info here
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POST: [NY] Groom is dying, time is of the essence. Getting married via Skype "in" another state? A friend of mine knows a couple in NYC that wants to get married. COVID-19 has obviously put any plans on hold, especially since they still need to get the license. The problem is the groom is in hospice, and has maybe a few weeks left to live. He desperately wants to marry his fiancee before he passes. They've heard about some states performing weddings via Skype, and some (like TN, and I think VT) let you apply for a license online. Would they be able to apply for a TN (or other state) marriage license, and then be married by a TN (or whatever) official via Skype? Is there any other recourse they might have to get married in NYC during all of this? Would it be possible to do an otherwise legal ceremony sans license, and have it validated after the fact? (I know that's been done in the past, under special circumstances.) Thanks, guys.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer but unfortunately I believe you cannot get married via Skype. Marriage laws require the officiant to be physically present and to sign the marriage papers immediately after the ceremony. More info here
RESPONSE B: \> He desperately wants to marry his fiancee before he passes. It would be useful to know why. Just for the sake of being married? In which case maybe a religious or other private ceremony? Or is there some legal angle, like allowing his fiancee to receiving certain benefits? If so, that's going to be harder to accomplish.
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POST: [NY] Groom is dying, time is of the essence. Getting married via Skype "in" another state? A friend of mine knows a couple in NYC that wants to get married. COVID-19 has obviously put any plans on hold, especially since they still need to get the license. The problem is the groom is in hospice, and has maybe a few weeks left to live. He desperately wants to marry his fiancee before he passes. They've heard about some states performing weddings via Skype, and some (like TN, and I think VT) let you apply for a license online. Would they be able to apply for a TN (or other state) marriage license, and then be married by a TN (or whatever) official via Skype? Is there any other recourse they might have to get married in NYC during all of this? Would it be possible to do an otherwise legal ceremony sans license, and have it validated after the fact? (I know that's been done in the past, under special circumstances.) Thanks, guys.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer but unfortunately I believe you cannot get married via Skype. Marriage laws require the officiant to be physically present and to sign the marriage papers immediately after the ceremony. More info here
RESPONSE B: It seems the hardest part would be appearing in person together to apply for the marriage license. If he can do that, it would just be a matter of finding an officiant willing to go to hospice and provide the ceremony.
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POST: [NY] Groom is dying, time is of the essence. Getting married via Skype "in" another state? A friend of mine knows a couple in NYC that wants to get married. COVID-19 has obviously put any plans on hold, especially since they still need to get the license. The problem is the groom is in hospice, and has maybe a few weeks left to live. He desperately wants to marry his fiancee before he passes. They've heard about some states performing weddings via Skype, and some (like TN, and I think VT) let you apply for a license online. Would they be able to apply for a TN (or other state) marriage license, and then be married by a TN (or whatever) official via Skype? Is there any other recourse they might have to get married in NYC during all of this? Would it be possible to do an otherwise legal ceremony sans license, and have it validated after the fact? (I know that's been done in the past, under special circumstances.) Thanks, guys.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer FYI if they get married the spouse will be liable for all medical expenses at the passing of him. My cousin and his partner chose to have a spiritual wedding instead because his partner was in hospice and didn’t want my cousin liable for the mountain of additional expenses. His partner still put him as the beneficiary in the will but he wasn’t charged the monstrous insurance fees etc.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer but unfortunately I believe you cannot get married via Skype. Marriage laws require the officiant to be physically present and to sign the marriage papers immediately after the ceremony. More info here
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POST: need to take right away? Without proper equipment my work will definitely suffer. We rent a house together, if that makes any difference. It’s all a little overwhelming and I’m trying to get my head around what needs to be done.
RESPONSE A: IAL not your lawyer this is not legal advice etc One, get a lawyer ASAP. Two, check your devices for snooping apps/keystroke loggers. This is an increasingly common tactic in divorce that I've seen. The party who initiated the divorce puts a spyware app on the other's phone and starts scavenging passwords, emails, texts, and anything else they want. Three, change passwords on everything. Four, get a separate bank account and get checks moved there. Then, make arrangements with your landlord and/or the police to get anything else you need out of the home. Do not be shocked if she sold or disposed of things that weren't hers.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer just someone who has had to deal with a similar situation before. As long as you have established residency (rental agreement, mailing address forwarded here, any utilities in your name) you cannot be thrown out of the house the way she has tried to do. Unfortunately, you'll want/need to get law enforcement involved so you can go and retrieve your personal items since this seems like the situation may escalate into a domestic disturbance (not saying physical but it could turn into a shouting match that would be considered disturbing the peace). The "peace officers" would be there to ensure safety of both parties. Before you decide to make arrangements to retrieve your items, I would make a list of things you need and things you want. You may not get another chance to go peacefully to your residence and retrieve said items so having a list will help you figure out what may or may not be missing as well as remembering what is most important. If possible, bring a neutral friend along or family member to help, preferably the same sex. They don't need to come inside with you but having support there will make it a little less stressful. And having a personal witness for you during this retrieval process could be helpful if the divorce starts to get messy. Good luck!
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POST: Wife threw me out and is ghosting me. Delivered divorce papers to me. What are the immediate steps I need to take? Long story short, she made me pack a small bag and I am at my parents house. I was able to grab a few changes of clothes and my work laptop / cell phone. I need to grab many other things, most importantly work equipment, as I work 100% remote. Wife is not responding to text, calls, nothing. I started getting alerts that someone was trying to access my personal email account, DoorDash account, etc. What are the first steps I need to take right away? Without proper equipment my work will definitely suffer. We rent a house together, if that makes any difference. It’s all a little overwhelming and I’m trying to get my head around what needs to be done.
RESPONSE A: It is a crime to access your email account without your consent. Punishable by five years' imprisonment in a Federal brig. Read about it, use Google to look up Leon Walker of Michigan, was facing the same for snooping through his wife's account.
RESPONSE B: IAL not your lawyer this is not legal advice etc One, get a lawyer ASAP. Two, check your devices for snooping apps/keystroke loggers. This is an increasingly common tactic in divorce that I've seen. The party who initiated the divorce puts a spyware app on the other's phone and starts scavenging passwords, emails, texts, and anything else they want. Three, change passwords on everything. Four, get a separate bank account and get checks moved there. Then, make arrangements with your landlord and/or the police to get anything else you need out of the home. Do not be shocked if she sold or disposed of things that weren't hers.
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POST: Wife threw me out and is ghosting me. Delivered divorce papers to me. What are the immediate steps I need to take? Long story short, she made me pack a small bag and I am at my parents house. I was able to grab a few changes of clothes and my work laptop / cell phone. I need to grab many other things, most importantly work equipment, as I work 100% remote. Wife is not responding to text, calls, nothing. I started getting alerts that someone was trying to access my personal email account, DoorDash account, etc. What are the first steps I need to take right away? Without proper equipment my work will definitely suffer. We rent a house together, if that makes any difference. It’s all a little overwhelming and I’m trying to get my head around what needs to be done.
RESPONSE A: > We rent a house together, if that makes any difference. Frankly, if all your work stuff is there, you may be better served by going home / moving back in. You have every right to live there. She's welcome to leave if she doesn't want to be around you. If you have work documents at home, you don't really want to leave those where they can be taken, thrown away, or destroyed. As to the rest of your personal property, the best way to protect it is to be where it is. The second best way would be to remove it somewhere safe. Unfortunately we've wandered into lawyer territory: you will need the advice of a good divorce attorney to help you with the next steps. As much as she may not want you around, she does not have any right to throw you out, and she's already proven herself extremely untrustworthy by trying to access your online accounts. Sorry for the loss of your marriage. Lawyer up and good luck.
RESPONSE B: It is a crime to access your email account without your consent. Punishable by five years' imprisonment in a Federal brig. Read about it, use Google to look up Leon Walker of Michigan, was facing the same for snooping through his wife's account.
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POST: am at my parents house. I was able to grab a few changes of clothes and my work laptop / cell phone. I need to grab many other things, most importantly work equipment, as I work 100% remote. Wife is not responding to text, calls, nothing. I started getting alerts that someone was trying to access my personal email account, DoorDash account, etc. What are the first steps I need to take right away? Without proper equipment my work will definitely suffer. We rent a house together, if that makes any difference. It’s all a little overwhelming and I’m trying to get my head around what needs to be done.
RESPONSE A: You have every right to just go pick up your stuff. That said, it would be best to have a witness. A police officer would be best, if you can get one to go with you on what they call a "civil standby." The officer won't take sides, or decide who owns what, but he'll be there to prevent violence, and she'll probably behave better with him watching you pack and take your things. Your next step will be to hire a lawyer. It's hard to wrap your head around what's happening, but you're going to be divorced, and you'll want a lawyer to help you with the legalities of it. Meet with him ASAP, and bring all your bank account information, leases, and a list of major property, such as cars. Change the passwords on your personal email, Door Dash, and everything else you can think of. If any of them have security questions for recovering your password, change those to things she doesn't know, and can't guess. I recommend answers that don't even match the questions (First car? Battle of Hastings. Favorite color? Philadelphia.) If you have any joint bank accounts, get a current statement, and ask your lawyer before moving any money into or out of them.
RESPONSE B: It is a crime to access your email account without your consent. Punishable by five years' imprisonment in a Federal brig. Read about it, use Google to look up Leon Walker of Michigan, was facing the same for snooping through his wife's account.
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POST: A buyer on ebay is claiming I sent the wrong item and returned a empty box to me what can I do? I sold a item on ebay and sent it to the buyer, the buyer then claimed they received a completely different item and opened a return. I received a the outer box I used and inside was a empty box filled with polystyrene peanuts. I told ebay and they made me sign a declaration which I did. I find out today that they are still siding with the buyer despite me giving photographs showing the item I received. Is there anything I can do? I'm in the uk if it makes a difference. I've lost £400 and am now overdrawn at my bank so rent is a very real panic.
RESPONSE A: r/LegalAdviceUK I don't think there's much you can do besides attempting to contact ebay/PayPal support outside of taking it to small claims. MCOL may be appropriate I'm not sure.
RESPONSE B: Weight of the box you shipped vs box you got returned??? Couriers usually put that info on the tracking record
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POST: A buyer on ebay is claiming I sent the wrong item and returned a empty box to me what can I do? I sold a item on ebay and sent it to the buyer, the buyer then claimed they received a completely different item and opened a return. I received a the outer box I used and inside was a empty box filled with polystyrene peanuts. I told ebay and they made me sign a declaration which I did. I find out today that they are still siding with the buyer despite me giving photographs showing the item I received. Is there anything I can do? I'm in the uk if it makes a difference. I've lost £400 and am now overdrawn at my bank so rent is a very real panic.
RESPONSE A: Try asking at r/ebaysellers.
RESPONSE B: Weight of the box you shipped vs box you got returned??? Couriers usually put that info on the tracking record
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POST: A buyer on ebay is claiming I sent the wrong item and returned a empty box to me what can I do? I sold a item on ebay and sent it to the buyer, the buyer then claimed they received a completely different item and opened a return. I received a the outer box I used and inside was a empty box filled with polystyrene peanuts. I told ebay and they made me sign a declaration which I did. I find out today that they are still siding with the buyer despite me giving photographs showing the item I received. Is there anything I can do? I'm in the uk if it makes a difference. I've lost £400 and am now overdrawn at my bank so rent is a very real panic.
RESPONSE A: Common ebay buyer scam
RESPONSE B: You can get info from the courier like the weight and followup with ebay and ask for reimbursement, because the buyer returned something different. But Ebay and any other platform that doesn't verify the product is not going to know if you sent the buyer an emtpy box, a box of rocks, etc, or if you are lying about getting an empty box back. You can report mail fraud to the police. You can sue the buyer in small claims. This can all be handled online in many parts of the UK, you don't need to travel to where they live. You present your case and a judge decides instead of ebay.
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POST: you can see all of my apartment with the exception of the portion of the bathroom with the toilet and tub. Not only does this mean I have no privacy, but the neighborhood is slightly sketchy after dark. The nearby buildings have bars on their windows. Anyone passing by not only can see my possessions, but whether or not I am home. I expressed this to the landlord in my reply over text. He replied to reread my lease. I left them up overnight. I had orientation this morning and came back to find the curtains removed and no where in the apartment. I discovered this before entering the building, as two guys were outside one of my windows and looking in my apartment. They left when I entered the building. I messaged the landlord saying he didn't have the right to enter the apartment and asked for the curtains back. He again said to check my lease and then commented that I needed to finish unpacking as it looked messy in my apartment. I had to head to a work event so I couldn't follow through more, but I moved my electronics to one corner and used a bookshelf to block one of the windows so they weren't visible. While at the event, I got a text from the landlord with a picture of the blocked window, captioned "whatts this" What can I do to prevent my landlord from entering the apartment unannounced and to compel him to allow some form of curtain? Alternatively, how do I break my lease three days into it? This is too crazy for week one.
RESPONSE A: Contact the police about your stolen curtains. If your lease specifies no curtain rods or hooks, then you cannot use a tension rod as it is prohibited by the lease. You can respond to the landlord that you moved a bookshelf in front of your window to provide privacy, and if he has a problem to read the lease or to provide a better solution (like allowing curtain rods...). If your landlord keeps entering your apartment unannounced, contact the police. That's not okay.
RESPONSE B: Put paper or cardboard in the windows. If he complains tell him to read the lease. Id also advise you to go ahead and provide whatever notice is required to move out and find another place because this guy sounds crazy.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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B
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POST: . I moved in Sunday, and found the landlord had not installed curtains at all. At this point, I assumed the issue with curtains was the potential to damage to the wall. So, I bought tension rods that require no hardware and used them to hang curtains. Monday afternoon I got a text from my landlord saying I needed to remove the curtains. The building is on a street corner with a fair amount of foot traffic. Between the four windows, you can see all of my apartment with the exception of the portion of the bathroom with the toilet and tub. Not only does this mean I have no privacy, but the neighborhood is slightly sketchy after dark. The nearby buildings have bars on their windows. Anyone passing by not only can see my possessions, but whether or not I am home. I expressed this to the landlord in my reply over text. He replied to reread my lease. I left them up overnight. I had orientation this morning and came back to find the curtains removed and no where in the apartment. I discovered this before entering the building, as two guys were outside one of my windows and looking in my apartment. They left when I entered the building. I messaged the landlord saying he didn't have the right to enter the apartment and asked for the curtains back. He again said to check my lease and then commented that I needed to finish unpacking as it looked messy in my apartment. I had to head to a work event so I couldn't follow through more, but I moved my electronics to one corner and used a bookshelf to block one of the windows so they weren't visible. While at the event, I got a text from the landlord with a picture of the blocked window, captioned "whatts this" What can I do to prevent my landlord from entering the apartment unannounced and to compel him to allow some form of curtain? Alternatively, how do I break my lease three days into it? This is too crazy for week one.
RESPONSE A: You have renters insurance, right? If not, buy a policy immediately.
RESPONSE B: Put paper or cardboard in the windows. If he complains tell him to read the lease. Id also advise you to go ahead and provide whatever notice is required to move out and find another place because this guy sounds crazy.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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B
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POST: the curtains. The building is on a street corner with a fair amount of foot traffic. Between the four windows, you can see all of my apartment with the exception of the portion of the bathroom with the toilet and tub. Not only does this mean I have no privacy, but the neighborhood is slightly sketchy after dark. The nearby buildings have bars on their windows. Anyone passing by not only can see my possessions, but whether or not I am home. I expressed this to the landlord in my reply over text. He replied to reread my lease. I left them up overnight. I had orientation this morning and came back to find the curtains removed and no where in the apartment. I discovered this before entering the building, as two guys were outside one of my windows and looking in my apartment. They left when I entered the building. I messaged the landlord saying he didn't have the right to enter the apartment and asked for the curtains back. He again said to check my lease and then commented that I needed to finish unpacking as it looked messy in my apartment. I had to head to a work event so I couldn't follow through more, but I moved my electronics to one corner and used a bookshelf to block one of the windows so they weren't visible. While at the event, I got a text from the landlord with a picture of the blocked window, captioned "whatts this" What can I do to prevent my landlord from entering the apartment unannounced and to compel him to allow some form of curtain? Alternatively, how do I break my lease three days into it? This is too crazy for week one.
RESPONSE A: Your landlord sounds either nosy, perverted, uneducated as to the intricacies of renting, or some sort of combination of the above. It is literally in his best interest as the home owner that you do not get robbed because your entire living space is open for viewing to the public. If he refuses to be educated about your rights to privacy, I would move out ASAP.
RESPONSE B: Put paper or cardboard in the windows. If he complains tell him to read the lease. Id also advise you to go ahead and provide whatever notice is required to move out and find another place because this guy sounds crazy.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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B
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POST: curtains was the potential to damage to the wall. So, I bought tension rods that require no hardware and used them to hang curtains. Monday afternoon I got a text from my landlord saying I needed to remove the curtains. The building is on a street corner with a fair amount of foot traffic. Between the four windows, you can see all of my apartment with the exception of the portion of the bathroom with the toilet and tub. Not only does this mean I have no privacy, but the neighborhood is slightly sketchy after dark. The nearby buildings have bars on their windows. Anyone passing by not only can see my possessions, but whether or not I am home. I expressed this to the landlord in my reply over text. He replied to reread my lease. I left them up overnight. I had orientation this morning and came back to find the curtains removed and no where in the apartment. I discovered this before entering the building, as two guys were outside one of my windows and looking in my apartment. They left when I entered the building. I messaged the landlord saying he didn't have the right to enter the apartment and asked for the curtains back. He again said to check my lease and then commented that I needed to finish unpacking as it looked messy in my apartment. I had to head to a work event so I couldn't follow through more, but I moved my electronics to one corner and used a bookshelf to block one of the windows so they weren't visible. While at the event, I got a text from the landlord with a picture of the blocked window, captioned "whatts this" What can I do to prevent my landlord from entering the apartment unannounced and to compel him to allow some form of curtain? Alternatively, how do I break my lease three days into it? This is too crazy for week one.
RESPONSE A: Set up a security camera. One that's hidden. Take pictures of what it looks like from the outside, at night, how people can see in. A judge won't find that amusing.
RESPONSE B: Put paper or cardboard in the windows. If he complains tell him to read the lease. Id also advise you to go ahead and provide whatever notice is required to move out and find another place because this guy sounds crazy.
Which response is better? RESPONSE
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