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POST: provided, and this was in regards to additional curtains. I moved in Sunday, and found the landlord had not installed curtains at all. At this point, I assumed the issue with curtains was the potential to damage to the wall. So, I bought tension rods that require no hardware and used them to hang curtains. Monday afternoon I got a text from my landlord saying I needed to remove the curtains. The building is on a street corner with a fair amount of foot traffic. Between the four windows, you can see all of my apartment with the exception of the portion of the bathroom with the toilet and tub. Not only does this mean I have no privacy, but the neighborhood is slightly sketchy after dark. The nearby buildings have bars on their windows. Anyone passing by not only can see my possessions, but whether or not I am home. I expressed this to the landlord in my reply over text. He replied to reread my lease. I left them up overnight. I had orientation this morning and came back to find the curtains removed and no where in the apartment. I discovered this before entering the building, as two guys were outside one of my windows and looking in my apartment. They left when I entered the building. I messaged the landlord saying he didn't have the right to enter the apartment and asked for the curtains back. He again said to check my lease and then commented that I needed to finish unpacking as it looked messy in my apartment. I had to head to a work event so I couldn't follow through more, but I moved my electronics to one corner and used a bookshelf to block one of the windows so they weren't visible. While at the event, I got a text from the landlord with a picture of the blocked window, captioned "whatts this" What can I do to prevent my landlord from entering the apartment unannounced and to compel him to allow some form of curtain? Alternatively, how do I break my lease three days into it? This is too crazy for week one.
RESPONSE A: Landlords cannot contract out of tenency laws, commonlaw occupancy rights, or building codes. Building codes often mandate blinds and other privacy features around bedrooms and bathrooms.
RESPONSE B: You have renters insurance, right? If not, buy a policy immediately.
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POST: My father passed away a decade ago, told me he was leaving a trust to be given to me at 30/35/40. Stepmother said, “That’s not happening anymore.” (It was suggested in r/personalfinance that I post this here.) Throwaway for privacy. I’ll do my best to keep this short. My father died when I was 17. Stepmother kicked me out before I turned 18. I slept in my car while I figured out what to do—for a while I was in denial that all of it was happening. Finally told some family members and they took me in. Fast forward, I’m 30 now. I asked my stepmother about the trust, she told me that it wasn’t happening anymore. That I’d “get everything when she dies.” (She’s older, in her 70s.) My best friend, wife, and cousins are telling me to get a lawyer. I’m hesitant, however, because if she truly does have control and I piss her off then I might end up with zero. On the flip side, she has a history of treating me badly. What do I do? Is there any way to find out what's actually supposed to come my way? Does she really have that much control over when the trust is given to me? Edit: Location - New Jersey (her) and New York (me)
RESPONSE A: >Does she really have that much control over when the trust is given to me? That depends entirely on the terms of the trust. She could have zero, some, or absolute discretion. She might not even be the trustee. There might not even be a trust. There might be a trust and she stole all of the property in it. That's why you need to consult a lawyer.
RESPONSE B: Was your father's estate probated?
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POST: to come my way? Does she really have that much control over when the trust is given to me? Edit: Location - New Jersey (her) and New York (me)
RESPONSE A: Find out now, view the actual will, before all the money's gone.
RESPONSE B: IamaL but not in NY or NJ although a lot of my work is there. You need a lawyer in the state in which your father likely made the trust. Basic law school stuff: A trust mean the settlor ( he who forms the trust, your dad) designates property or money ( called the corpus) to be held by a 3rd person (trustee) for the use and benefit of the beneficiary ( you). In every state where I have had to look at this, the trustee has a fiduciary duty to put the beneficiary's interests above his (the trustee's) own. Legal people- and judges- take fiduciary duties really really seriously. Occasionally you hear of parents who have control over a kid's money who blow through it even if it is in a trust. (Settlements for bad injuries to kids that are supposed to support them for life get used for Vegas trips and Winnebagos etc) The parents or trustees who pull that never. ever. win. Ever. You could also Google Jackie Coogan's law in CA although I don't think that started with a trust., but it is still pertinenet Without knowing what exactly your Dad's trust said , I can't say more and beside my ethics rules prohibit me from making fact specific recommendations in an on line place like this. Bottom line. Find a lawyer. Start here: www.Martindale.com. Filter for Find a lawyer, a larger town near where your dad lived and Wills and Estates. If there is an Estate or Probate litigation choice, go in that direction. When you call, ask if there is an initial consultation fee, how they would charge you and whether they have a conflict of interest taking a matter against StepMother. If you have gotten on line input, print it all and give it to the lawyer so they know what misconceptions to correct. That helps a lot. Good luck
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POST: My father passed away a decade ago, told me he was leaving a trust to be given to me at 30/35/40. Stepmother said, “That’s not happening anymore.” (It was suggested in r/personalfinance that I post this here.) Throwaway for privacy. I’ll do my best to keep this short. My father died when I was 17. Stepmother kicked me out before I turned 18. I slept in my car while I figured out what to do—for a while I was in denial that all of it was happening. Finally told some family members and they took me in. Fast forward, I’m 30 now. I asked my stepmother about the trust, she told me that it wasn’t happening anymore. That I’d “get everything when she dies.” (She’s older, in her 70s.) My best friend, wife, and cousins are telling me to get a lawyer. I’m hesitant, however, because if she truly does have control and I piss her off then I might end up with zero. On the flip side, she has a history of treating me badly. What do I do? Is there any way to find out what's actually supposed to come my way? Does she really have that much control over when the trust is given to me? Edit: Location - New Jersey (her) and New York (me)
RESPONSE A: Find out now, view the actual will, before all the money's gone.
RESPONSE B: You have gotten excellent advice. Sadly, in many, many families once a death occurs the horridness of people comes clearly to light. So yep, get a copy of the will, get an estate attorney, if Dad left everything in HER hands, <sigh> who knows? But if he did provide for you in his will, she legally has to follow that. Finally: When your wife, your best friend AND your cousins recommend a lawyer, listen to them :) Good luck.
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POST: Is it legal to put a nanny cam in the bedroom? So, I work for a home healthcare company and one of my clients has a nanny cam installed in the living room. I was informed of this before I went. However, there was recently an e-mail sent out to myself and the other caregivers who have this client stating that basically we're not allowed to sleep during our shifts and a reminded that there are cameras through out the house so they'll know who it is and so on. That's all well and good, but my question is, is it legal for them to have a camera in a bedroom in the house? The night time caregivers are allowed to wear loungewear within reason so I've been changing in that room for six months. I feel incredibly uncomfortable with the whole situation. Not that I'm doing anything wrong, it's just that constantly being recorded gives me the jeebies. I live in Ohio if that's relevant. I know nanny cams are legal and they don't have to inform you, I'm just wondering if that applies for bedrooms or places where people would expect at least a basically level of privacy.
RESPONSE A: An expectation of privacy anywhere in someone else's bedroom is probably not reasonable; if anything, a bedroom would probably be MORE likely to have a camera because that's where things people like to videotape are. Their secure possessions like jewelry boxes and the cash sock, of course. What were you thinking? Change in the bathroom.
RESPONSE B: I am confused, whose bedroom is it? Are you going to a clients home?
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POST: Is it legal to put a nanny cam in the bedroom? So, I work for a home healthcare company and one of my clients has a nanny cam installed in the living room. I was informed of this before I went. However, there was recently an e-mail sent out to myself and the other caregivers who have this client stating that basically we're not allowed to sleep during our shifts and a reminded that there are cameras through out the house so they'll know who it is and so on. That's all well and good, but my question is, is it legal for them to have a camera in a bedroom in the house? The night time caregivers are allowed to wear loungewear within reason so I've been changing in that room for six months. I feel incredibly uncomfortable with the whole situation. Not that I'm doing anything wrong, it's just that constantly being recorded gives me the jeebies. I live in Ohio if that's relevant. I know nanny cams are legal and they don't have to inform you, I'm just wondering if that applies for bedrooms or places where people would expect at least a basically level of privacy.
RESPONSE A: INAL but maybe you should change in the bathroom if you are concerned. As far as I'm aware, that is one room they cannot legally put a hidden camera. Not really sure on the bedroom part though if you've already been made aware that you are being recorded throughout the house. Maybe someone here will have better info for your state.
RESPONSE B: I am confused, whose bedroom is it? Are you going to a clients home?
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POST: Is it legal to put a nanny cam in the bedroom? So, I work for a home healthcare company and one of my clients has a nanny cam installed in the living room. I was informed of this before I went. However, there was recently an e-mail sent out to myself and the other caregivers who have this client stating that basically we're not allowed to sleep during our shifts and a reminded that there are cameras through out the house so they'll know who it is and so on. That's all well and good, but my question is, is it legal for them to have a camera in a bedroom in the house? The night time caregivers are allowed to wear loungewear within reason so I've been changing in that room for six months. I feel incredibly uncomfortable with the whole situation. Not that I'm doing anything wrong, it's just that constantly being recorded gives me the jeebies. I live in Ohio if that's relevant. I know nanny cams are legal and they don't have to inform you, I'm just wondering if that applies for bedrooms or places where people would expect at least a basically level of privacy.
RESPONSE A: I am confused, whose bedroom is it? Are you going to a clients home?
RESPONSE B: In what world are you expecting privacy in *someone else's bedroom*?
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POST: ? She is sleeping now and has sundowning syndrome, should she be woken up and taken? What charges are to be pressed? Against the facility? Just the man? I am shocked and disgusted and would love any guidance possible. Thank you.
RESPONSE A: Contact adult protective services for your county and file a report for suspected elder abuse. They will investigate. You do not need hard evidence, just reasonable suspicion. There is likely a case open already, but if not there should be. https://www.sccgov.org/sites/ssa/daas/aps/Pages/report.aspx If applicable, also call and report to CCLD. https://www.cdss.ca.gov/inforesources/CCLD-Complaint-Hotline I would take her because she needs to be tested for Hepatitis C, Syphillis, HIV and potentially given Truvada if she is at risk of getting a serious STI.
RESPONSE B: INAL, but get a lawyer now and if you haven't already or if the facility hasn't, call the police and file a report. I'm unsure if they can perform a rape kit unless this happened today or she hasn't bathed since he was caught with her. At the very least, she needs to have a full STD/STI panel done for her protection. Also, if the facility does her laundry, I would grab all of it before it gets laundered on the off chance the police request it. A lawyer can walk you through what to expect during an investigation, court case, settlement, etc. Do not speak to the facility about anything without first clearing it with your lawyer or having him/her present during all communications. The facility's lawyers will be in damage control and will be looking to protect the facility. It is a business and the lawyers are paid big bucks to keep them in business. You also should think about what you want to do regarding your mother's care in the future. If this has been going on for as long as your mother has stated it was, if possible, I would probably move her into a different facility.
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POST: Fiancé’s mother who has dementia was found in her bedroom with a housekeeper who had his pants down. (San Jose, CA) As the title says, her nursing home facility noticed she was missing from a group singing ever (which she never misses) so they went to look for her and found her on the bed and a housekeeper of the facility had his pants down. The arrested him and his mom says he has been hugging her and kissing her over the past year and she didn’t want it but obviously she has dementia and doesn’t think clearly so she didn’t tell anyone. I am shocked and we are at a loss of what to do. She says nothing happened but should we get a rape kit since her memory is faulty and she could be wrong? She is sleeping now and has sundowning syndrome, should she be woken up and taken? What charges are to be pressed? Against the facility? Just the man? I am shocked and disgusted and would love any guidance possible. Thank you.
RESPONSE A: This is unfortunately much more common than you'd realize. Contact Adult Protective Services. They deal with this every day. Don't put yourself in a position to do it all. If you think they're not doing enough, then you can step in to push.
RESPONSE B: I echo what the other posters said, you should take her to a doctor ASAP to get checked to make sure she is healthy and was not sexually assaulted. Then I would find a lawyer ASAP. If this is happening to your MIL it very well may be happening to multiple patients in the nursing home that cannot voice the abuse. You should sue both the employee and the employer because the employer has a duty to protect your MIL in the nursing home facility.
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POST: My ex is threatening me with legal action due to my kids not wanting to visit him whilst he’s with his partner Recently I had found out my ex has been cheating on me for the last 5 years and has hidden a child with this woman for the last 4 years. Due to this I obviously don’t want my kids to see this woman ever and my kids feel the same way. But now he’s threatening us with legal action and if the kids don’t want to see this woman then they’ll have to “suck it up” and basically pretend to like her. Considering they are both u16 can he physically force the children to visit whilst his partner is there. I want them to visit him but I also don’t want them anywhere near her but I know that I can’t legally enforce that nor can I influence the child’s decision but if they decide on their own can he still make them visit her?
RESPONSE A: Depending on their ages Yes. The Courts and rightly so understand that although you may never want anything further to do with the ex, the children will most likely forgive and want a relationship with their father and half-sibling. The other woman doesn’t factor into the equation unless there is some overwhelming reason why she should not be around children. Your feelings are irrelevant.
RESPONSE B: The unfortunate reality is, it doesn’t matter how you feel about her if there is a custody agreement in place that says he has a right to visitation (and no stipulation to where or with who). The truth is most parents are in your situation when their coparent moves on. It’s hard to imagine your kids having to see that their parent is with someone new but honestly, it’s typically way harder on us as parents than it is on the kids (even if we wish they hated them as much as we do). The bottom line is, get a lawyer and, if there is not yet a custody agreement in place, that is your priority.
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POST: a lump in her lower abdomen that was not there yesterday. She was told not to see a doctor because "they wouldn't be able to help" and they are not accommodating her in any way. This is happening in the state of Utah and feels like something that is highly illegal. This company is not unionized. Every TV screen around the workplace that cycles through company policy says "injuries should be reported in a timely manner" but management is refusing to document her injury (presumably because they don't want to pay for her medical bills or get OSHA involved?). Based on the fleshy lump on her lower abdomen, it's possible she has a hernia due to the heavy lifting the job requires. This is not the first time my workplace has refused to document an injury. It has actually happened to me before as well, when a heavy box full of metal fell on my head and nearly knocked me out. When I reported it to management I was told, "there's no point in documenting an injury unless you need to go to the hospital." I was a new hire at the time and just thought that my injury didn't meet some kind of'requirement' that I didn't know about, so I didn't contest it, and I didn't receive medical care for it. I have photo evidence of the head injury and the full name of the manager that didn't document it. I have also heard multiple stories from other coworkers of management refusing to document their work-related injuries. This is a trend at my workplace. I told my coworker that I would testify in court against our employer in the event that she wanted to sue. Would multiple testimonies regarding the company's failure to document work-related injuries hold up in court at all? Is this a legal battle that we would be able to win without being unionized?
RESPONSE A: She needs to file a workers comp claim. ASAP.
RESPONSE B: She needs to go to a hospital and report this as a work injury. They will be forced to acknowledge it, because then it becomes a workman's comp claim on the company. The rest of your questions would be better fit for a workman's comp/personal injury attorney.
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POST: workplace that cycles through company policy says "injuries should be reported in a timely manner" but management is refusing to document her injury (presumably because they don't want to pay for her medical bills or get OSHA involved?). Based on the fleshy lump on her lower abdomen, it's possible she has a hernia due to the heavy lifting the job requires. This is not the first time my workplace has refused to document an injury. It has actually happened to me before as well, when a heavy box full of metal fell on my head and nearly knocked me out. When I reported it to management I was told, "there's no point in documenting an injury unless you need to go to the hospital." I was a new hire at the time and just thought that my injury didn't meet some kind of'requirement' that I didn't know about, so I didn't contest it, and I didn't receive medical care for it. I have photo evidence of the head injury and the full name of the manager that didn't document it. I have also heard multiple stories from other coworkers of management refusing to document their work-related injuries. This is a trend at my workplace. I told my coworker that I would testify in court against our employer in the event that she wanted to sue. Would multiple testimonies regarding the company's failure to document work-related injuries hold up in court at all? Is this a legal battle that we would be able to win without being unionized?
RESPONSE A: I’m an EHS professional and that is super illegal in regards to OSHA. Anything that requires attention beyond first aid aka a bandaid, paper cuts needs to be reported and should be followed up with a workers comp claim. You are not responsible for injuries that occur due to your line of work unless you are being negligent in some way.
RESPONSE B: Contact the Utah Labor Commission and ask about filing a Workers' Compensation Hearing Request. That is how you start the process if your employer refuses to do so. You can also contact the Utah Bar Association (utahbar.org) for referral to a workers' comp attorney. Source: I am a former employment law attorney in Utah.
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POST: pay for her medical bills or get OSHA involved?). Based on the fleshy lump on her lower abdomen, it's possible she has a hernia due to the heavy lifting the job requires. This is not the first time my workplace has refused to document an injury. It has actually happened to me before as well, when a heavy box full of metal fell on my head and nearly knocked me out. When I reported it to management I was told, "there's no point in documenting an injury unless you need to go to the hospital." I was a new hire at the time and just thought that my injury didn't meet some kind of'requirement' that I didn't know about, so I didn't contest it, and I didn't receive medical care for it. I have photo evidence of the head injury and the full name of the manager that didn't document it. I have also heard multiple stories from other coworkers of management refusing to document their work-related injuries. This is a trend at my workplace. I told my coworker that I would testify in court against our employer in the event that she wanted to sue. Would multiple testimonies regarding the company's failure to document work-related injuries hold up in court at all? Is this a legal battle that we would be able to win without being unionized?
RESPONSE A: I work on the management end, but for a different company. She should send an email to her boss documenting what happened and when. As specific as possible. She should then forward that email to a personal email address. She also needs to see a doctor and tell them it’s work related. Expect them to do anything they can to cover their asses since they’ve boned this up so royally already; she should avoid doing anything outside of the workplace that could at all indicate that she is faking it.
RESPONSE B: I’m an EHS professional and that is super illegal in regards to OSHA. Anything that requires attention beyond first aid aka a bandaid, paper cuts needs to be reported and should be followed up with a workers comp claim. You are not responsible for injuries that occur due to your line of work unless you are being negligent in some way.
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POST: I eat or the noise I make when using the bathroom at night (which I can't help). I think I could do fine on my own, I know some basic cooking and cleaning because I was made to clean stuff all the time. Also it is my objective to enroll in online classes and graduate school early. I want to start college the earliest I can manage. I don't know how to exactly how to, my school counselor won't help and I believe it's difficult to do without my foster parent's consent, and it is very difficult to ask them for anything. Do I have a shot at that? And if so, how do I do this?
RESPONSE A: A trust fund alone is not going to be sufficient for emancipation. You need a job and letters from employers and other documentation. Also, as you said there's nothing really wrong with your foster care placement, it's just not ideal. The court isn't going to take that as a valid excuse. Generally you have to show that you can and do support yourself, you understand the full implications of being independent, you have an acceptable plan for independence, that you have and/or can pay for health insurance, and it won't effect schooling. The court may also want more information as well. However, they base emancipation on the best interest of the child standard. You're going to have a hard time overcoming this just based on a trust and the fact that your current situation is simply not ideal.
RESPONSE B: At what age do you get legal access to the trust fund? As far as emancipation, the CO judicial branch website says this... >Colorado does not have an emancipation statute under which minors may petition a court for legal autonomy which would release them from the control and authority of their parents. No independent cause of action exists in Colorado for the emancipation of minors. The issue of emancipation is fact-specific to the situation and applicable law. Issues relating to emancipation may be addressed as part of a separate legal action before the courts such as a dissolution of marriage or child custody case; or directly by the state or local agency providing a service or benefit. source
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POST: of my grandfather's death. That has enough money to pay for my living expenses and a college education until I can graduate... many times over. Although my foster parents are not abusive by any means, the aren't great either. There are many foster kids in the home and we are not close by any means. I was placed in this home when I was age 14 and have stayed since. We have many problems here and argue for the silliest reasons, like how much I eat or the noise I make when using the bathroom at night (which I can't help). I think I could do fine on my own, I know some basic cooking and cleaning because I was made to clean stuff all the time. Also it is my objective to enroll in online classes and graduate school early. I want to start college the earliest I can manage. I don't know how to exactly how to, my school counselor won't help and I believe it's difficult to do without my foster parent's consent, and it is very difficult to ask them for anything. Do I have a shot at that? And if so, how do I do this?
RESPONSE A: >A trust fund was set up in my name when I was 11 as a result of a wrongful death settlement. Your first step would be to find out all that you can about this trust fund. Where is it? Who is managing it? What do the trust documents actually say?
RESPONSE B: A trust fund alone is not going to be sufficient for emancipation. You need a job and letters from employers and other documentation. Also, as you said there's nothing really wrong with your foster care placement, it's just not ideal. The court isn't going to take that as a valid excuse. Generally you have to show that you can and do support yourself, you understand the full implications of being independent, you have an acceptable plan for independence, that you have and/or can pay for health insurance, and it won't effect schooling. The court may also want more information as well. However, they base emancipation on the best interest of the child standard. You're going to have a hard time overcoming this just based on a trust and the fact that your current situation is simply not ideal.
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POST: to go to the hospital, is to refuse to let you continue to attend classes or return to campus. I live in the US. I'm a college student. ONE ambulance ride is to expensive for me, never mind multiple a week. I have literally no idea what to do. **Are they allowed to worsen my medical condition and then punish me financially for it like that? I'm going to have to drop out in my final semester if they enforce this.**
RESPONSE A: I've known several folks at my small MA school who had similar issues. Eventually, an ADA lawyer was necessary for many of them to access the accommodations they sought, and ultimately were entitled to, including, as in your case, a single room. The ADA lawyer may require payment, but depending on the complexity of your case and other specifics, you may be able to negotiate this with them or an organization they are affiliated with. If you are having difficulty accessing or finding an ADA lawyer, state level disability advocacy groups are often a great resource to connect you with local or state level advocates, or even lawyers. You may not originally be from MA, but they are likely interested in assisting you. (https://www.dlc-ma.org/ is an example of an explicitly legally oriented disability advocacy group in your state; this page lists other organizations as well https://www.olmsteadrights.org/self-helptools/advocacy-resources/item.6692-Massachusetts\_Disability\_Resources\_and\_Advocacy\_Organizations). If legal help is out of reach, try first to get other students and student organizations on your side. Work with deans (student life or other similar offices) and high ranking college officials on your side proactively as well. Make it clear to them that you know your rights, and that you want to be successful as a student and how much you love \*school\*.
RESPONSE B: Your post reminded me of this article describing a nearly identical situation. While I don’t have any specific legal advice, the article might mention something of merit or at least be of interest to you. Wishing you the best of luck!
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POST: - but he didn't have any advice on anything we could do to get her to back off since she isn't breaking any laws. I would appreciate any advice or suggestions anyone has.
RESPONSE A: I'm afraid your brother's lawyer is right. There are a few torts that he could sue for, but there's a reason why his lawyer hasn't brought them up: The chance of success is theoretical and/or not worth it. Ignore her.
RESPONSE B: I read through the original post before this one and my first gut reaction was to say that you and your sister are shitbag people...but after reading this post, I'm very glad you saw the error of your ways and learned everything you needed to know as to why your brother was being a damn decent person. Good on you to step up and try to help out!! As to your direct question, if I was your brother's attorney, I'd send Lawyer #4 a sternly worded letter re: frivolous claims and a nuisance suit (I am not a lawyer, but law student/law firm employee) and that if they continued to pursue this matter, I'd make sure action would be taken. As far as your sister is concerned, the reason she's continuing to do this is because she's, and I'm sorry for saying this about a family member of yours, a leeching cunt who is starting to mire herself down in the ethically shady attorneys desperate enough to take a case. Tell him to keep up the good fight; it sounds like he has a good attorney, and he should listen to him. I know it's very draining, but your brother is a damn decent fellow and he'll get through this and so will you. In the meantime, just offer to help your brother out with anything he needs as far as your grandparents are concerned...it'll help him take a load off and ease his mind a bit. Makes me wonder what I'm going to be looking forward to since I'm helping my grandfather out now, and he just made me the executor of his estate. My uncle is not going to like this at all...
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POST: My brother's lawyer said he's seen people act like this for years - but he didn't have any advice on anything we could do to get her to back off since she isn't breaking any laws. I would appreciate any advice or suggestions anyone has.
RESPONSE A: Your grandparent's estate has been paying for your brother's lawyers. Is there any way she can be forced to pay that back and/or stop filing suits? Is this frivolous on her part?
RESPONSE B: I read through the original post before this one and my first gut reaction was to say that you and your sister are shitbag people...but after reading this post, I'm very glad you saw the error of your ways and learned everything you needed to know as to why your brother was being a damn decent person. Good on you to step up and try to help out!! As to your direct question, if I was your brother's attorney, I'd send Lawyer #4 a sternly worded letter re: frivolous claims and a nuisance suit (I am not a lawyer, but law student/law firm employee) and that if they continued to pursue this matter, I'd make sure action would be taken. As far as your sister is concerned, the reason she's continuing to do this is because she's, and I'm sorry for saying this about a family member of yours, a leeching cunt who is starting to mire herself down in the ethically shady attorneys desperate enough to take a case. Tell him to keep up the good fight; it sounds like he has a good attorney, and he should listen to him. I know it's very draining, but your brother is a damn decent fellow and he'll get through this and so will you. In the meantime, just offer to help your brother out with anything he needs as far as your grandparents are concerned...it'll help him take a load off and ease his mind a bit. Makes me wonder what I'm going to be looking forward to since I'm helping my grandfather out now, and he just made me the executor of his estate. My uncle is not going to like this at all...
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POST: . It's just... this is getting very hard on my brother. He's just so tired of it all. What I want to know is I guess not so much about what legal steps he should be taking, because his lawyer has that covered, but maybe some advice from you guys since you've been dealing with all types of people in court. Why is she doing this? I mean, she apparently wants to be the trustee but my brother's lawyer said that probate court would never give it to her since my brother has shown that he's managing everything exactly right. So why does she continue? Is there anything we can do to get her to stop? My brother's lawyer said he's seen people act like this for years - but he didn't have any advice on anything we could do to get her to back off since she isn't breaking any laws. I would appreciate any advice or suggestions anyone has.
RESPONSE A: Just wanted to chime in; I remember your post from months ago, the original one. It's good to see you around in any case, welcome back :) It's good to see how things have worked out between you and your brother/grandparents. On a personal level you've wisened up and learned murky, disgusting methods some immoral people use to attempt to harm those close to them, the helpless and weak. And you've changed; as per the advice of people in the post, and your own input and decision making. So bravo there! I can't stress that enough! As for what to do; I'd suggest bringing up the concept of harassment to your brother's lawyer? He can't act out against what she's doing directly, but as /u/8246962 mentioned, it may be possible to counter her continued... well, harassment. See if it's possible to scrounge up enough evidence that she's doing so; especially if you can find anything related to her outstanding debt as her motivations. Stay strong.
RESPONSE B: Your grandparent's estate has been paying for your brother's lawyers. Is there any way she can be forced to pay that back and/or stop filing suits? Is this frivolous on her part?
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POST: drumroll please, my sister's NEW lawyer - Lawyer #4! This lawyer is from a firm that does local ads like "Got a DUI? Charged with a crime? We can help!" I don't know why they're taking on a probate situation but it looks like they are. And, really, it's the same stupid claims she made with Lawyer #3 and my brother's lawyer has already gone over with him exactly what he's supposed to be doing as the trustee so he knows he doesn't have to do any of the stuff she's saying. It's just... this is getting very hard on my brother. He's just so tired of it all. What I want to know is I guess not so much about what legal steps he should be taking, because his lawyer has that covered, but maybe some advice from you guys since you've been dealing with all types of people in court. Why is she doing this? I mean, she apparently wants to be the trustee but my brother's lawyer said that probate court would never give it to her since my brother has shown that he's managing everything exactly right. So why does she continue? Is there anything we can do to get her to stop? My brother's lawyer said he's seen people act like this for years - but he didn't have any advice on anything we could do to get her to back off since she isn't breaking any laws. I would appreciate any advice or suggestions anyone has.
RESPONSE A: Perhaps you could point out to your sister that she is whittling away at the inheritance by causing legal spending-- to her own detriment. Also, did you ever alert her that record of her indebtedness still exists? It might take the wind out of her sails in terms of being interested in getting this mess before a judge.
RESPONSE B: Civil action to declare person vexatious litigator.: http://codes.ohio.gov/orc/2323.52 This is just from googling, I don't know anything about the underlying law. From reading the statute, it's not obvious that it applies necessarily, but it's not obvious that it doesn't.
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POST: with, drumroll please, my sister's NEW lawyer - Lawyer #4! This lawyer is from a firm that does local ads like "Got a DUI? Charged with a crime? We can help!" I don't know why they're taking on a probate situation but it looks like they are. And, really, it's the same stupid claims she made with Lawyer #3 and my brother's lawyer has already gone over with him exactly what he's supposed to be doing as the trustee so he knows he doesn't have to do any of the stuff she's saying. It's just... this is getting very hard on my brother. He's just so tired of it all. What I want to know is I guess not so much about what legal steps he should be taking, because his lawyer has that covered, but maybe some advice from you guys since you've been dealing with all types of people in court. Why is she doing this? I mean, she apparently wants to be the trustee but my brother's lawyer said that probate court would never give it to her since my brother has shown that he's managing everything exactly right. So why does she continue? Is there anything we can do to get her to stop? My brother's lawyer said he's seen people act like this for years - but he didn't have any advice on anything we could do to get her to back off since she isn't breaking any laws. I would appreciate any advice or suggestions anyone has.
RESPONSE A: Civil action to declare person vexatious litigator.: http://codes.ohio.gov/orc/2323.52 This is just from googling, I don't know anything about the underlying law. From reading the statute, it's not obvious that it applies necessarily, but it's not obvious that it doesn't.
RESPONSE B: Your brother sounds like he is doing an outstanding job of taking care of your grandparents - my best to him. And that half million debt of your sisters probably goes a long way toward explaining her actions. She wants to get in there, get rid of the debt, and get whatever else she can from the estate. You and your brother stand strong on this.
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POST: I didn't hire someone because of their weight. Now they are suing me for discrimination. (CA) I run a small coffee shop and needed someone to make drinks behind the bar (coffee bar, not alcohol if that's relevant). A woman submitted her resume and I called her in for an interview. While the interview went well, showing her the shop did not. She is a rather large woman (over 300 pounds easy) and took up most of the space behind the bar. The other two baristas could not go around her, the only way they could move about was for the larger woman to completely exit the bar, allow them to get what they needed, and then return to her spot behind the bar. This was also an issue vice versa, being the larger woman could not move around my baristas because of her weight and would need them to leave the bar so she can move to another area. This job requires a lot of running about the bar and this would not be feasible. I personally didn't feel this arrangement would work and I gently explained to her my concerns. I realize now this was a mistake and will be sure to just say "we'll call you back when we make our decision" moving forward. In the meantime, does her claim have any standing? Also, for relevance, this is an independently owned coffee shop by me, not a Starbucks. I just felt "barista" would be an easier term to use to explain what is done behind the bar. It's the same thing, they just make my shop's drinks instead of frappucinos.
RESPONSE A: First, have you actually been sued? If so, get an attorney immediately. Second, you made an error in telling her why you weren't hiring her. With any luck, you have fewer than 5 employees and aren't covered by California's disability laws. Although I don't know whether obesity may be covered under those laws.
RESPONSE B: I don't think weight would fall under any protected class so discrimination shouldn't be an issue. She may be trying to claim she has a disability, but your counter to that is that there is no reasonable accommodation that could be made for her disability.
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POST: I didn't hire someone because of their weight. Now they are suing me for discrimination. (CA) I run a small coffee shop and needed someone to make drinks behind the bar (coffee bar, not alcohol if that's relevant). A woman submitted her resume and I called her in for an interview. While the interview went well, showing her the shop did not. She is a rather large woman (over 300 pounds easy) and took up most of the space behind the bar. The other two baristas could not go around her, the only way they could move about was for the larger woman to completely exit the bar, allow them to get what they needed, and then return to her spot behind the bar. This was also an issue vice versa, being the larger woman could not move around my baristas because of her weight and would need them to leave the bar so she can move to another area. This job requires a lot of running about the bar and this would not be feasible. I personally didn't feel this arrangement would work and I gently explained to her my concerns. I realize now this was a mistake and will be sure to just say "we'll call you back when we make our decision" moving forward. In the meantime, does her claim have any standing? Also, for relevance, this is an independently owned coffee shop by me, not a Starbucks. I just felt "barista" would be an easier term to use to explain what is done behind the bar. It's the same thing, they just make my shop's drinks instead of frappucinos.
RESPONSE A: I don't think weight would fall under any protected class so discrimination shouldn't be an issue. She may be trying to claim she has a disability, but your counter to that is that there is no reasonable accommodation that could be made for her disability.
RESPONSE B: 1: If you have fewer than 5 employees she can't push a discrimination case period, as DFEH doesn't apply. 2: You are required to make a reasonable accommodation. One that puts your business at an undue hardship is not reasonable. Massive remodeling to move the bar or making the bar inaccessible for your other staff is not reasonable.
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POST: Question about something that's happening at my work: My coworker wrote a book and it's being published. The boss is suing her saying it's his because he owns whatever she creates (NY) Location New York. My coworker and me are both cashiers and we work in a store. She didn't write any of the book at work because you can't have your phone or tablet or anything else with you when you are at the register. But our boss says he owns anything that she or anyone else who works here makes. Is this true or does it not count because she didn't write it while she was at work? I just would like to know thanks. (Sorry if this is hard to understand, english is not my mother language)
RESPONSE A: Unless it was a commissioned work as part of her job, she owns the rights.
RESPONSE B: Generally speaking, there are only three ways in which the boss can claim the copyright (or any associated rights) to the book: 1. If your coworker explicitly agreed in writing to assign the copyright (and/or associated rights) to the boss/employer 2. Your boss/employer specially ordered or commissioned the work and your coworker explicitly agreed to treat the work as a "work made for hire" (or "work for hire") 3. The book was written by your coworker within the scope of her employment (i.e. it was something she was working on as part of her job)
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POST: Question about something that's happening at my work: My coworker wrote a book and it's being published. The boss is suing her saying it's his because he owns whatever she creates (NY) Location New York. My coworker and me are both cashiers and we work in a store. She didn't write any of the book at work because you can't have your phone or tablet or anything else with you when you are at the register. But our boss says he owns anything that she or anyone else who works here makes. Is this true or does it not count because she didn't write it while she was at work? I just would like to know thanks. (Sorry if this is hard to understand, english is not my mother language)
RESPONSE A: Generally speaking, there are only three ways in which the boss can claim the copyright (or any associated rights) to the book: 1. If your coworker explicitly agreed in writing to assign the copyright (and/or associated rights) to the boss/employer 2. Your boss/employer specially ordered or commissioned the work and your coworker explicitly agreed to treat the work as a "work made for hire" (or "work for hire") 3. The book was written by your coworker within the scope of her employment (i.e. it was something she was working on as part of her job)
RESPONSE B: Even if she wrote it at work he still wouldn't own it. I honestly can't believe people like this exist.
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POST: Question about something that's happening at my work: My coworker wrote a book and it's being published. The boss is suing her saying it's his because he owns whatever she creates (NY) Location New York. My coworker and me are both cashiers and we work in a store. She didn't write any of the book at work because you can't have your phone or tablet or anything else with you when you are at the register. But our boss says he owns anything that she or anyone else who works here makes. Is this true or does it not count because she didn't write it while she was at work? I just would like to know thanks. (Sorry if this is hard to understand, english is not my mother language)
RESPONSE A: A programmer who programs a thing would likely be vulnerable to such a claim from their employer, but your coworker isn't making money on the side by freelance cashiering. Writing has literally nothing to do with the job, so the argument that she was somehow hired to do so is a bit weak. Remember, employment doesn't mean that the boss owns her. Employment is the boss renting her time and effort. The boss doesn't control what she does in her spare time and has exactly zero claim on any of it. The programmer thing is usually the case because the employer includes it in the employment agreement.
RESPONSE B: Unless it was a commissioned work as part of her job, she owns the rights.
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POST: Question about something that's happening at my work: My coworker wrote a book and it's being published. The boss is suing her saying it's his because he owns whatever she creates (NY) Location New York. My coworker and me are both cashiers and we work in a store. She didn't write any of the book at work because you can't have your phone or tablet or anything else with you when you are at the register. But our boss says he owns anything that she or anyone else who works here makes. Is this true or does it not count because she didn't write it while she was at work? I just would like to know thanks. (Sorry if this is hard to understand, english is not my mother language)
RESPONSE A: Even if she wrote it at work he still wouldn't own it. I honestly can't believe people like this exist.
RESPONSE B: A programmer who programs a thing would likely be vulnerable to such a claim from their employer, but your coworker isn't making money on the side by freelance cashiering. Writing has literally nothing to do with the job, so the argument that she was somehow hired to do so is a bit weak. Remember, employment doesn't mean that the boss owns her. Employment is the boss renting her time and effort. The boss doesn't control what she does in her spare time and has exactly zero claim on any of it. The programmer thing is usually the case because the employer includes it in the employment agreement.
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POST: Question about something that's happening at my work: My coworker wrote a book and it's being published. The boss is suing her saying it's his because he owns whatever she creates (NY) Location New York. My coworker and me are both cashiers and we work in a store. She didn't write any of the book at work because you can't have your phone or tablet or anything else with you when you are at the register. But our boss says he owns anything that she or anyone else who works here makes. Is this true or does it not count because she didn't write it while she was at work? I just would like to know thanks. (Sorry if this is hard to understand, english is not my mother language)
RESPONSE A: Wait is the boss actually suing her, like did she receive court papers? If this did happen, she needs to show up to court to avoid a default judgement, and also to derive entertainment from the judge laughing.
RESPONSE B: Unless it was a commissioned work as part of her job, she owns the rights.
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POST: I refuse to that "he will have to take me to the hospital". To which I said no, I don't even know what he's talking about and I have work in the morning. I refused to go. I asked them to get out of my apartment, and he was like "You better hope I don't have to come back here or else there will be trouble." So, what? I am one, not suicidal. I've never been suicidal. I am not deeply confused and worried I'll be thrown in the looney bin. However they then begin to knock on the apartment door next to me and nobody answers. I don't really know what to think of this. I'm afraid that they're going to come back and throw me in a mental institution after that, or that by refusing to let him look through my text messages I somehow did something illegal and they're going to try and charge me. I live in Maine.
RESPONSE A: I'm a cop and this very bizarre behavior. I'd almost suspect it's some type of scam or possibly a fake cop? Maybe testing your reaction before they return with more sinister intentions? They just started doing *random door knocks* in the general area of a possibly suicidal person? Maybe they do things different in Maine, and I don't know how that app works... But that seems fishy to me. I'd contact the watch commander of the police department they're from. Express to him that you fear you *may* have been harassed by fake cops and just want to confirm the that a call was documented and these were actual cops (there will be a lot of questions about specifics so he can look the call up). If they were real cops, explain your concerns to the watch commander with the way they conducted themselves. It doesn't *sound* like they did anything overtly illegal (you're allowed to tell them no), but it doesn't exactly sound professional, either.
RESPONSE B: You have **zero** obligation to answer the door or let them search your property unless the police have a warrant. Just don't talk to them. There is no sense doing the police's job for them.
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POST: innocent texts with my boyfriend with explicit pictures. Yes, we're both adults. But I didn't think it was necessary. The cop began to get angry, and tell me that if I refuse to that "he will have to take me to the hospital". To which I said no, I don't even know what he's talking about and I have work in the morning. I refused to go. I asked them to get out of my apartment, and he was like "You better hope I don't have to come back here or else there will be trouble." So, what? I am one, not suicidal. I've never been suicidal. I am not deeply confused and worried I'll be thrown in the looney bin. However they then begin to knock on the apartment door next to me and nobody answers. I don't really know what to think of this. I'm afraid that they're going to come back and throw me in a mental institution after that, or that by refusing to let him look through my text messages I somehow did something illegal and they're going to try and charge me. I live in Maine.
RESPONSE A: You had every right to refuse.
RESPONSE B: I'm a cop and this very bizarre behavior. I'd almost suspect it's some type of scam or possibly a fake cop? Maybe testing your reaction before they return with more sinister intentions? They just started doing *random door knocks* in the general area of a possibly suicidal person? Maybe they do things different in Maine, and I don't know how that app works... But that seems fishy to me. I'd contact the watch commander of the police department they're from. Express to him that you fear you *may* have been harassed by fake cops and just want to confirm the that a call was documented and these were actual cops (there will be a lot of questions about specifics so he can look the call up). If they were real cops, explain your concerns to the watch commander with the way they conducted themselves. It doesn't *sound* like they did anything overtly illegal (you're allowed to tell them no), but it doesn't exactly sound professional, either.
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POST: to everyone in the building. So they told me that they were doing a wellness check, I said cool, I'm fine. They kinda helped themselves into my apartment without saying anything. They had badges, etc so I'm assuming they weren't robbers or something. They told me they got a call that someone was posting on an app I've never actually heard of that they're suicidal. I told them I didn't know what it was. They then proceeded to ask to see my phone. I showed them, they looked through my apps and didn't find anything I guess. They then proceeded to ask if they could read my DMs and text messages, which I had to say no. There's some embarrassing stuff said, and didn't want them to know about the not so innocent texts with my boyfriend with explicit pictures. Yes, we're both adults. But I didn't think it was necessary. The cop began to get angry, and tell me that if I refuse to that "he will have to take me to the hospital". To which I said no, I don't even know what he's talking about and I have work in the morning. I refused to go. I asked them to get out of my apartment, and he was like "You better hope I don't have to come back here or else there will be trouble." So, what? I am one, not suicidal. I've never been suicidal. I am not deeply confused and worried I'll be thrown in the looney bin. However they then begin to knock on the apartment door next to me and nobody answers. I don't really know what to think of this. I'm afraid that they're going to come back and throw me in a mental institution after that, or that by refusing to let him look through my text messages I somehow did something illegal and they're going to try and charge me. I live in Maine.
RESPONSE A: I would contact the police station to check if they are legit cops. If they are knocking on all the doors, it almost sounds like they're casing your apartment complex for break ins?
RESPONSE B: You had every right to refuse.
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POST: I guess. They then proceeded to ask if they could read my DMs and text messages, which I had to say no. There's some embarrassing stuff said, and didn't want them to know about the not so innocent texts with my boyfriend with explicit pictures. Yes, we're both adults. But I didn't think it was necessary. The cop began to get angry, and tell me that if I refuse to that "he will have to take me to the hospital". To which I said no, I don't even know what he's talking about and I have work in the morning. I refused to go. I asked them to get out of my apartment, and he was like "You better hope I don't have to come back here or else there will be trouble." So, what? I am one, not suicidal. I've never been suicidal. I am not deeply confused and worried I'll be thrown in the looney bin. However they then begin to knock on the apartment door next to me and nobody answers. I don't really know what to think of this. I'm afraid that they're going to come back and throw me in a mental institution after that, or that by refusing to let him look through my text messages I somehow did something illegal and they're going to try and charge me. I live in Maine.
RESPONSE A: I would contact the police station to check if they are legit cops. If they are knocking on all the doors, it almost sounds like they're casing your apartment complex for break ins?
RESPONSE B: Deffenetly report them. The way the acted was so bad. Even if you where the person who posted it. How does it help telling them they are going to have reproductions if they have metal health issues? That's gonna make them more scared if they do have metal problems and they will be to scared to get help. He could very easily be the reason that person kills them selves. Other then tho who not having the proper paperwork to enter your home and to look threw your phone. If he's sent to more wellness checks and they are suicidal he might just kill a lot of people
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POST: showed them, they looked through my apps and didn't find anything I guess. They then proceeded to ask if they could read my DMs and text messages, which I had to say no. There's some embarrassing stuff said, and didn't want them to know about the not so innocent texts with my boyfriend with explicit pictures. Yes, we're both adults. But I didn't think it was necessary. The cop began to get angry, and tell me that if I refuse to that "he will have to take me to the hospital". To which I said no, I don't even know what he's talking about and I have work in the morning. I refused to go. I asked them to get out of my apartment, and he was like "You better hope I don't have to come back here or else there will be trouble." So, what? I am one, not suicidal. I've never been suicidal. I am not deeply confused and worried I'll be thrown in the looney bin. However they then begin to knock on the apartment door next to me and nobody answers. I don't really know what to think of this. I'm afraid that they're going to come back and throw me in a mental institution after that, or that by refusing to let him look through my text messages I somehow did something illegal and they're going to try and charge me. I live in Maine.
RESPONSE A: Call the police and report what happened-ask them to see if any officers came out to your building. If they did report the bizarre behavior to the appropriate person in the department-get that persons title. Ask for a copy of your report (I dont know if you are entitled to it but you can ask) Dont open your door to anyone in the next few weeks. If the police come back ask for their badge numbers without opening the door call the department and ask them if they have sent officers to the building
RESPONSE B: This is suspect, call the police department, and next time get names and badge numbers, they would said a social worker aided by a police officer , additionally if they thought there was someone suicidal , they would have had an ambulance on site if needed
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POST: [MA] Left a toxic work situation due to egregious sexual harassment and retaliation for reporting. Arbitrated out of court with a judge and received a settlement in exchange for an NDA. Since signing this NDA, former employer has gone to various lengths to make my life harder. Latest- incorrect tax forms- incorrect reporting of my earnings- too high by more than 15k. Have seen online postings for same job- it’s a small field so I even was asked about it from someone looking to apply. At what point can I break the NDA?
RESPONSE A: Ask your lawyer if you can say that there is an NDA at all. If someone is asking about it and you say: "I cannot say anything negative due to an NDA I signed in return for a settlement. That's all I'll be saying about this, please do not ask me again." That would already be really telling. Make sure even that can't get you into trouble though.
RESPONSE B: No guarantee that this person who has reached out to you "looking to apply" isn't simply trying to get you to break NDA, which could impact the original settlement. Don't speak move on, even if the person is legit, what do you stand to gain from speaking to them? Literally nothing is the correct answer.
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POST: [MA] Left a toxic work situation due to egregious sexual harassment and retaliation for reporting. Arbitrated out of court with a judge and received a settlement in exchange for an NDA. Since signing this NDA, former employer has gone to various lengths to make my life harder. Latest- incorrect tax forms- incorrect reporting of my earnings- too high by more than 15k. Have seen online postings for same job- it’s a small field so I even was asked about it from someone looking to apply. At what point can I break the NDA?
RESPONSE A: Latest- incorrect tax forms- incorrect reporting of my earnings- too high by more than 15k Report to state tax authority and IRS. There's a form for the employer misreporting income and payouts. They could be associating any costs with your income, so they can deduct it or some such nonsense. Speak with your accountant, conform the accuracy, ad then report appropriately. And advise your attorney and the judge of these actions.
RESPONSE B: No guarantee that this person who has reached out to you "looking to apply" isn't simply trying to get you to break NDA, which could impact the original settlement. Don't speak move on, even if the person is legit, what do you stand to gain from speaking to them? Literally nothing is the correct answer.
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POST: [MA] Left a toxic work situation due to egregious sexual harassment and retaliation for reporting. Arbitrated out of court with a judge and received a settlement in exchange for an NDA. Since signing this NDA, former employer has gone to various lengths to make my life harder. Latest- incorrect tax forms- incorrect reporting of my earnings- too high by more than 15k. Have seen online postings for same job- it’s a small field so I even was asked about it from someone looking to apply. At what point can I break the NDA?
RESPONSE A: Latest- incorrect tax forms- incorrect reporting of my earnings- too high by more than 15k Report to state tax authority and IRS. There's a form for the employer misreporting income and payouts. They could be associating any costs with your income, so they can deduct it or some such nonsense. Speak with your accountant, conform the accuracy, ad then report appropriately. And advise your attorney and the judge of these actions.
RESPONSE B: Are you remembering to count the full settlement as part of your earnings? If the settlement was, say, $45,000, and your lawyers got $15,000, that could be part of your income; the lawyers' fees would be your expense. If they report your income on a Form 1099, you can deduct that expense as a legitimate cost of doing business. If they report your income on a Form W-2, that means they paid the federal government and the Commonwealth of Massachusetts withholding taxes on the nonexistent $15,000 out of their own pocket, which would be against their interests and do you little damage. Thus, it's unlikely to be a retaliatory measure. In any case, though I'm not a lawyer, I doubt you would prevail in court if you said, "I broke my NDA because they misreported my income." The recourse for misreported income is to correct the report, not to break your NDA.
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POST: [MA] Left a toxic work situation due to egregious sexual harassment and retaliation for reporting. Arbitrated out of court with a judge and received a settlement in exchange for an NDA. Since signing this NDA, former employer has gone to various lengths to make my life harder. Latest- incorrect tax forms- incorrect reporting of my earnings- too high by more than 15k. Have seen online postings for same job- it’s a small field so I even was asked about it from someone looking to apply. At what point can I break the NDA?
RESPONSE A: Why not show the IRS the discrepancy from your bank account to the tax form. I'm sure they would be interested in that.
RESPONSE B: An NDA cannot be used to conceal illegal activities, but you need to be absolutely certain that you can prove your case before you make your report. Get an attorney and present them with all of the evidence you have, and they'll help you protect yourself and make sure that your complaint is heard by the right people. There's also a good chance that the language of the settlement is being breached by your employer, but you need a lawyer to be certain.
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POST: [MA] Left a toxic work situation due to egregious sexual harassment and retaliation for reporting. Arbitrated out of court with a judge and received a settlement in exchange for an NDA. Since signing this NDA, former employer has gone to various lengths to make my life harder. Latest- incorrect tax forms- incorrect reporting of my earnings- too high by more than 15k. Have seen online postings for same job- it’s a small field so I even was asked about it from someone looking to apply. At what point can I break the NDA?
RESPONSE A: Talk to your attorney. An incorrectly reported W2 is probably going to be pretty difficult to substantiate as willful or illegal. The company will shelter any response under it being an unintentional error and plausibly so. Your attorney will have to decide whether or not it's actionable or not in the larger pattern of things.
RESPONSE B: Why not show the IRS the discrepancy from your bank account to the tax form. I'm sure they would be interested in that.
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POST: My fiancee [26F] and I [26F] have been planning to have a long engagement due to finances - would there be any benefit to being legally married ASAP in the event of a future ruling against gay marriage in the US? Title says most of it. We are currently located in Boston, MA but will likely move to Northern California within the next 25 years... I'm scared that if we wait to be married there will be negative repercussions. I guess I see us going to city hall and having a quick, cheap, and legal marriage (as recognized by the state and federal government). Then a few years from now we have the whole ceremony and big whooplah that we both want with the fancy dresses and expensive cake. I should say that neither of us have an issue with getting married today beyond the emotional impact of not signing the marriage documents on our wedding day. And our parents might pull their financial assistance for our wedding if they knew we were already married, but that's a bridge we will cross later. **Would there be some legal benefit to having a marriage that was recognized by the federal government (for however long) if the ruling in Obergfell is eventually overturned? Primary power of attorney, health insurance, taxes, etc.**
RESPONSE A: There won't be any rulings against gay marriage federally. Relax
RESPONSE B: The Supreme Court will virtually never overturn its own ruling. By "its own ruling," I mean a ruling handed down by largely the same justices. It is one thing for a Supreme Court decision to be reversed after decades of social change and several iterations of the court, but after changing only a justice or two, it would be nearly impossible for a case that raises the possibility of reversing *Obergfell* to get anywhere near the Supreme Court in the next several decades.
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POST: (Texas) My brother was robbed at work and he was sent a bill for the stuff that was stolen My brother works in a store. He was robbed one day when it was his turn to open. The robbery was at gunpoint and a cop was driving past and saw the robber leaving the store with her own eyes. The robber has been arrested. My brother has taken some days off to deal with what has happened to him. About $1500 worth of money and stuff was taken. The company that owns the the store sent him a bill for the $1500. He called head office to ask about it but no one would answer his question and two days later someone came to our apartment and gave him a letter threatening a lawsuit and job loss against him. Can they actually make him pay for the stolen stuff? They say it went missing on his watch and he has to pay for the loss. I don't think they can do this but I don't know about the law and just want to help my brother.
RESPONSE A: If they do fire him though your brother might be able to sue his company for wrongful termination. Many states have an exception to at will employees that forbids employers from firing employees for reasons that violate public policy. For instance you can't fire someone for not violating the law when boss asked them to even if they are an at will employee. There might be a suit here that the employer can't fire him because he didn't risk his life to stop the theft. It would be a little bit of a long shot but if you can find an employment lawyer that is willing to take the case on a contingent basis your brother could potentially recover in case he gets fired and has trouble finding work after. Also, depends on Texas law which I'm not familiar with.
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POST: (Texas) My brother was robbed at work and he was sent a bill for the stuff that was stolen My brother works in a store. He was robbed one day when it was his turn to open. The robbery was at gunpoint and a cop was driving past and saw the robber leaving the store with her own eyes. The robber has been arrested. My brother has taken some days off to deal with what has happened to him. About $1500 worth of money and stuff was taken. The company that owns the the store sent him a bill for the $1500. He called head office to ask about it but no one would answer his question and two days later someone came to our apartment and gave him a letter threatening a lawsuit and job loss against him. Can they actually make him pay for the stolen stuff? They say it went missing on his watch and he has to pay for the loss. I don't think they can do this but I don't know about the law and just want to help my brother.
RESPONSE A: Local media usually has a "watchdog" type program where they would probably love a story like this. And the public pressure would likely make this go away until he can find another job...which he definitely should.
RESPONSE B: If they do fire him though your brother might be able to sue his company for wrongful termination. Many states have an exception to at will employees that forbids employers from firing employees for reasons that violate public policy. For instance you can't fire someone for not violating the law when boss asked them to even if they are an at will employee. There might be a suit here that the employer can't fire him because he didn't risk his life to stop the theft. It would be a little bit of a long shot but if you can find an employment lawyer that is willing to take the case on a contingent basis your brother could potentially recover in case he gets fired and has trouble finding work after. Also, depends on Texas law which I'm not familiar with.
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POST: bed at work and he was sent a bill for the stuff that was stolen My brother works in a store. He was robbed one day when it was his turn to open. The robbery was at gunpoint and a cop was driving past and saw the robber leaving the store with her own eyes. The robber has been arrested. My brother has taken some days off to deal with what has happened to him. About $1500 worth of money and stuff was taken. The company that owns the the store sent him a bill for the $1500. He called head office to ask about it but no one would answer his question and two days later someone came to our apartment and gave him a letter threatening a lawsuit and job loss against him. Can they actually make him pay for the stolen stuff? They say it went missing on his watch and he has to pay for the loss. I don't think they can do this but I don't know about the law and just want to help my brother.
RESPONSE A: If they do fire him though your brother might be able to sue his company for wrongful termination. Many states have an exception to at will employees that forbids employers from firing employees for reasons that violate public policy. For instance you can't fire someone for not violating the law when boss asked them to even if they are an at will employee. There might be a suit here that the employer can't fire him because he didn't risk his life to stop the theft. It would be a little bit of a long shot but if you can find an employment lawyer that is willing to take the case on a contingent basis your brother could potentially recover in case he gets fired and has trouble finding work after. Also, depends on Texas law which I'm not familiar with.
RESPONSE B: Go to your local news station. They will love this. First, they can't make your brother pay. They can't make someone pay for someone else's crime. A lawsuit like that would get laughed out of court. Second, if they fire him, make sure this place is named and shamed on the news. No one will want to work there. Why would anyone work somewhere that would sue and fire you for getting robbed at gun point?
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POST: (Portland, OR) I was doing yard-work and accidentally saw my neighbor's having sex, now they are threatening to sue me and spreading lies that I am a pervert I was using the weedwhacker around my yard and my neighbor's were having a sexual activity with their windows wide open. I avoided looking in their direction and continued my work. I went into my home and made myself a sandwich and helped my son with his homework. Twenty mins later there is a knocking on the door, real erratic. I tell my son to go upstairs and I have my phone in my hand ready to call 911 cause I thought maybe a druggie was at the front door (I live in a rough area). It was the wife from next door screaming at me and calling me a perv. She threatened to sue me. I said I didn't see anything and I did not try to look in her direction. She pushed me on the chest and screamed that she would sue me for being a pervert. When my wife got home, she was also accosted by this woman who claimed that I found her attractive (I don't) and that I was peeping (I was not; they left their windows and blinds open and made some noise). Mu wife was shocked and confused and came inside the house quickly. I explained the situation and she agreed with me that the wife next door is a crazy b-tch. The next morning, there was a hand written note with many misspellings and typos claiming that she was going to sue me and contact my employer and tell the neighbors I am a pervert. What recourse do I have and what legal measures can I take to protect myself?
RESPONSE A: OP your nutty neighbor touching you can be considered assault . And sex in public view a window where children can see her should get her a visit from the police . From your description these people sound like they won't want a visit from the police .
RESPONSE B: Keep a record of what she writes you. Unless you actually get note of a suit then don't worry. If you feel concerned for your safety call the police.
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POST: OR) I was doing yard-work and accidentally saw my neighbor's having sex, now they are threatening to sue me and spreading lies that I am a pervert I was using the weedwhacker around my yard and my neighbor's were having a sexual activity with their windows wide open. I avoided looking in their direction and continued my work. I went into my home and made myself a sandwich and helped my son with his homework. Twenty mins later there is a knocking on the door, real erratic. I tell my son to go upstairs and I have my phone in my hand ready to call 911 cause I thought maybe a druggie was at the front door (I live in a rough area). It was the wife from next door screaming at me and calling me a perv. She threatened to sue me. I said I didn't see anything and I did not try to look in her direction. She pushed me on the chest and screamed that she would sue me for being a pervert. When my wife got home, she was also accosted by this woman who claimed that I found her attractive (I don't) and that I was peeping (I was not; they left their windows and blinds open and made some noise). Mu wife was shocked and confused and came inside the house quickly. I explained the situation and she agreed with me that the wife next door is a crazy b-tch. The next morning, there was a hand written note with many misspellings and typos claiming that she was going to sue me and contact my employer and tell the neighbors I am a pervert. What recourse do I have and what legal measures can I take to protect myself?
RESPONSE A: OP your nutty neighbor touching you can be considered assault . And sex in public view a window where children can see her should get her a visit from the police . From your description these people sound like they won't want a visit from the police .
RESPONSE B: It sounds like she's embarrassed (who wouldn't be) and freaking out. Hopefully, it'll blow over. You're almost definitely in the right, here. I am not a lawyer
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POST: (Portland, OR) I was doing yard-work and accidentally saw my neighbor's having sex, now they are threatening to sue me and spreading lies that I am a pervert I was using the weedwhacker around my yard and my neighbor's were having a sexual activity with their windows wide open. I avoided looking in their direction and continued my work. I went into my home and made myself a sandwich and helped my son with his homework. Twenty mins later there is a knocking on the door, real erratic. I tell my son to go upstairs and I have my phone in my hand ready to call 911 cause I thought maybe a druggie was at the front door (I live in a rough area). It was the wife from next door screaming at me and calling me a perv. She threatened to sue me. I said I didn't see anything and I did not try to look in her direction. She pushed me on the chest and screamed that she would sue me for being a pervert. When my wife got home, she was also accosted by this woman who claimed that I found her attractive (I don't) and that I was peeping (I was not; they left their windows and blinds open and made some noise). Mu wife was shocked and confused and came inside the house quickly. I explained the situation and she agreed with me that the wife next door is a crazy b-tch. The next morning, there was a hand written note with many misspellings and typos claiming that she was going to sue me and contact my employer and tell the neighbors I am a pervert. What recourse do I have and what legal measures can I take to protect myself?
RESPONSE A: It sounds like she's embarrassed (who wouldn't be) and freaking out. Hopefully, it'll blow over. You're almost definitely in the right, here. I am not a lawyer
RESPONSE B: She assaulted you and made threats. You can contact the police about that.
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POST: (Portland, OR) I was doing yard-work and accidentally saw my neighbor's having sex, now they are threatening to sue me and spreading lies that I am a pervert I was using the weedwhacker around my yard and my neighbor's were having a sexual activity with their windows wide open. I avoided looking in their direction and continued my work. I went into my home and made myself a sandwich and helped my son with his homework. Twenty mins later there is a knocking on the door, real erratic. I tell my son to go upstairs and I have my phone in my hand ready to call 911 cause I thought maybe a druggie was at the front door (I live in a rough area). It was the wife from next door screaming at me and calling me a perv. She threatened to sue me. I said I didn't see anything and I did not try to look in her direction. She pushed me on the chest and screamed that she would sue me for being a pervert. When my wife got home, she was also accosted by this woman who claimed that I found her attractive (I don't) and that I was peeping (I was not; they left their windows and blinds open and made some noise). Mu wife was shocked and confused and came inside the house quickly. I explained the situation and she agreed with me that the wife next door is a crazy b-tch. The next morning, there was a hand written note with many misspellings and typos claiming that she was going to sue me and contact my employer and tell the neighbors I am a pervert. What recourse do I have and what legal measures can I take to protect myself?
RESPONSE A: She assaulted you and made threats. You can contact the police about that.
RESPONSE B: OP you did nothing wrong. Your neighbors are guilty of indecent exposure and possibly assault. Break off all contact with them if possible. Record any contact they make if possible. Don't be afraid to get the police involved.
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POST: (Portland, OR) I was doing yard-work and accidentally saw my neighbor's having sex, now they are threatening to sue me and spreading lies that I am a pervert I was using the weedwhacker around my yard and my neighbor's were having a sexual activity with their windows wide open. I avoided looking in their direction and continued my work. I went into my home and made myself a sandwich and helped my son with his homework. Twenty mins later there is a knocking on the door, real erratic. I tell my son to go upstairs and I have my phone in my hand ready to call 911 cause I thought maybe a druggie was at the front door (I live in a rough area). It was the wife from next door screaming at me and calling me a perv. She threatened to sue me. I said I didn't see anything and I did not try to look in her direction. She pushed me on the chest and screamed that she would sue me for being a pervert. When my wife got home, she was also accosted by this woman who claimed that I found her attractive (I don't) and that I was peeping (I was not; they left their windows and blinds open and made some noise). Mu wife was shocked and confused and came inside the house quickly. I explained the situation and she agreed with me that the wife next door is a crazy b-tch. The next morning, there was a hand written note with many misspellings and typos claiming that she was going to sue me and contact my employer and tell the neighbors I am a pervert. What recourse do I have and what legal measures can I take to protect myself?
RESPONSE A: It sounds like she's embarrassed (who wouldn't be) and freaking out. Hopefully, it'll blow over. You're almost definitely in the right, here. I am not a lawyer
RESPONSE B: I would call the police and report their indecency and her pushing your chest..
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POST: mobile phones or other portable communication devices 7. microchips, microprocessors, central processing units, system boards, memory boards, memory, sound or video cards or hi-tech components of a similar nature designed to be used in or in connection with computers or other electronic devices but not when they are fitted in such a device. ​ ​ ****Cover We will indemnify you in respect of all sums which you may become legally liable to pay as road carrier or bailee in respect of accidental damage to goods carried: 1. under the contract terms stated in the schedule. Limit of indemnity as stated in the schedule **2. where liability is determined under common law due to a court of law setting aside the contract conditions that goods were carried under. Limit of indemnity £500,000 any one occurrence within the territorial limits. In addition to any limit of indemnity we will pay costs and expenses.**** ​ ​ Additional cover extensions applicable to Section 4 –Goods in transit (freight liability) Cross liabilities Where there is more than one insured person named in your schedule, each one will be covered as if they are the only insured person covered under this policy provided that nothing in this extension will increase our liability beyond the amount for which we would have been liable had this extension not applied. We will not provide indemnity where liability is owed by one party named on your schedule to another party named on your schedule. ​ ​ ​ It has a section about theft attractive goods but doesn't say anything anywhere in relation to it. It just points out what they are. Why? Under damage, it says physical loss. Shouldn't theft be a physical loss? ​ If you have any knowledge of the Goods By Road Act 1965 please fill me in if I'm covered
RESPONSE A: /r/legaladviceuk
RESPONSE B: I guarantee there is a clause stating negligence does not cover the costs. Ex: leaving the keys in a running car unlocked with valuables inside.
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POST: Police refusing to enter my house My dad was in the house having a medical emergency with no one in the house and my mom was contacted by the people who he was on the phone with which they proceeded to call the police. The police refused to enter until my mother was back home, unfortunately my mom was stuck in traffic and she even gave permission to break the door if they had to but it was too late. I live in GA, I feel like there's probably nothing I can do but i just want to ask for opinions.
RESPONSE A: This is awful. Not a lawyer and NLA but this seems strange. If police were called to the scene of an emergency that requires entry beyond a secure threshold or home, they have the exigency to do so. Who was your father on the phone with? If it wasn't a 911 operator, it could complicate that entry because it's now a welfare check and they can't simply break down a door at the behest of a third party. I'm sorry this happened and that you lost your father. If there was a third party involved that was not a 911 operator, it may be difficult to prove negligence. https://leb.fbi.gov/articles/legal-digest/legal-digest-the-emergency-aid-exception-to-the-fourth-amendments-warrant-requirement
RESPONSE B: There's a lot information missing here that will prevent anyone from giving you useful advice. Police officers are well within their scope of practice to break into a house in which someone is having a life-threatening medical emergency. It's called exigent circumstances. EMS and Fire personnel can do it too if necessary. What was the exact reason the police gave for refusing to enter the home? Source: retired EMT who has kicked in a few doors in her lifetime.
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POST: Police refusing to enter my house My dad was in the house having a medical emergency with no one in the house and my mom was contacted by the people who he was on the phone with which they proceeded to call the police. The police refused to enter until my mother was back home, unfortunately my mom was stuck in traffic and she even gave permission to break the door if they had to but it was too late. I live in GA, I feel like there's probably nothing I can do but i just want to ask for opinions.
RESPONSE A: It's really, really hard to sue the police for neglecting a threat to someone's life except in very rare cases where the victim has a "special relationship' with the police, like they are in witness protection or working as a confidential informant or something. By all means though feel free to contact a local lawyer about your father's death.
RESPONSE B: There's a lot information missing here that will prevent anyone from giving you useful advice. Police officers are well within their scope of practice to break into a house in which someone is having a life-threatening medical emergency. It's called exigent circumstances. EMS and Fire personnel can do it too if necessary. What was the exact reason the police gave for refusing to enter the home? Source: retired EMT who has kicked in a few doors in her lifetime.
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POST: My phone has been stolen and I believe it has been sold to a pawn shop as I have been tracking the location. I also have selfies that the perpetrator took on my phone through a cloud backup. Am I entitled to get the phone back from the shop? Should I get the police involved? Might as well mention this is in Illinois, but I am currently out of town so I cannot physically track down the phone. I filed a police report at the airport from which I was leaving, yet they marked it as "lost" rather than stolen since I didn't yet have the tracking nor the selfie of the perp. I don't really want to buy a new phone for $1000 and might be willing to buy back my phone for a lower price (it's 2 years old) to keep the passwords, apps, notes, etc. from disappearing.
RESPONSE A: Most places you will have to still pay the pawn amount to get it back and then get your money back from restitution from the crime if prosecited snd convicted. If the pawn shop did theirnpaperwork back they are a buyer in good faith and will not be forced to give it back without payment. Source of knowledge, i am a lawyer in Florida and my father owned a pawn shop when I was younger.
RESPONSE B: I managed a pawn shop in Illinois for a few years. From what I remember, if you dont file a police report, then its not considered stolen. So you'd have to buy it like anyone else would. If you do file a police report, its held as evidence until court stuff is over. So decide if you are willing to buy your phone back or if you want to try for justice. Good luck either way.
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POST: tried fighting back against the group of boys but they responded by posting a short clip of my sister's video to this website and everybody on that website is showing crazy enthusiasm for it. I tried to use that to my advantage but nobody on that website has an account only a bunch of numbers where their name should be. I've bookmarked the link to that website but I don't even want to look at it anymore because I cry every time I read the replies. I don't even know if I can ask a lawyer to help me. My family obviously won't pay for it and I only have a few thousand dollars.I read online that there are lawyers who might do this for free but how do I find them?
RESPONSE A: You are being manipulated. Crimes have been committed against you and your sister. Who cares if some wackos in Nebraska\Florida\Uruguay\Antarctica jerk off to some illicit videos they'll forget the next day. Blackmail is illegal; rape is illegal. It is them who have no integrity.
RESPONSE B: OK, I want to synthesize some of the info here: * Your sister was under 18 at the time of the attack. This elevates the crime, and the existence of video makes it violent child porn. Not only that, you are a witness that the video exists. * If you were under 18 when they attacked and videoed you, that is also child porn. Forcing you to say it was consensual doesn't magically make it so. If it was not, then it's revenge porn, which is **also** illegal in CA. Since you are worried about cultural issues, you can contact the Asian Pacific American Legal Center for help, in addition to RAINN. As others have noted - the state (as well as your parent's health insurance) has funds to help you get therapy and help for this. Also, once you go to university, they have help. If they have done this to your sister and you, and gone this far, they will do it to others. Please - you have the power to not only get help for your sister and yourself, but to save others from this. Edit: More resources can be found here.
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POST: bunch of numbers where their name should be. I've bookmarked the link to that website but I don't even want to look at it anymore because I cry every time I read the replies. I don't even know if I can ask a lawyer to help me. My family obviously won't pay for it and I only have a few thousand dollars.I read online that there are lawyers who might do this for free but how do I find them?
RESPONSE A: You and your sister need to reclaim your lives. I am SO sorry that this happened to you both! In order to carry on and build lives for yourselves, you must close and then process this chapter of life. This will require the police, a legal process, and continued counseling. When this ugly chapter is closed you can continue to build what will be a long and happy life. You are 18, legally an adult. You are able to solve this now, with the police. Frankly it doesn't matter if your parents or grandparents support it (or are painfully clueless and avoidant, which is what it sounds like). Godspeed
RESPONSE B: OK, I want to synthesize some of the info here: * Your sister was under 18 at the time of the attack. This elevates the crime, and the existence of video makes it violent child porn. Not only that, you are a witness that the video exists. * If you were under 18 when they attacked and videoed you, that is also child porn. Forcing you to say it was consensual doesn't magically make it so. If it was not, then it's revenge porn, which is **also** illegal in CA. Since you are worried about cultural issues, you can contact the Asian Pacific American Legal Center for help, in addition to RAINN. As others have noted - the state (as well as your parent's health insurance) has funds to help you get therapy and help for this. Also, once you go to university, they have help. If they have done this to your sister and you, and gone this far, they will do it to others. Please - you have the power to not only get help for your sister and yourself, but to save others from this. Edit: More resources can be found here.
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POST: hasn't said a single word and has no response to anything that anyone asks. All she does is sit there. The only person who knows other than the related parties is my sister's best friend. Not even my best friend knows. Please help me. I don't care if my video goes public. I only want to prevent my sister's video from becoming public. The problem is that we are identical twins so either video becoming public would be bad for my sister. I tried fighting back against the group of boys but they responded by posting a short clip of my sister's video to this website and everybody on that website is showing crazy enthusiasm for it. I tried to use that to my advantage but nobody on that website has an account only a bunch of numbers where their name should be. I've bookmarked the link to that website but I don't even want to look at it anymore because I cry every time I read the replies. I don't even know if I can ask a lawyer to help me. My family obviously won't pay for it and I only have a few thousand dollars.I read online that there are lawyers who might do this for free but how do I find them?
RESPONSE A: You and your sister need to reclaim your lives. I am SO sorry that this happened to you both! In order to carry on and build lives for yourselves, you must close and then process this chapter of life. This will require the police, a legal process, and continued counseling. When this ugly chapter is closed you can continue to build what will be a long and happy life. You are 18, legally an adult. You are able to solve this now, with the police. Frankly it doesn't matter if your parents or grandparents support it (or are painfully clueless and avoidant, which is what it sounds like). Godspeed
RESPONSE B: I understand your cultural upbringing and how sheltered you are, but there's an entire infrastructure of civil servants out there designed to handle this stuff. Call the police. Just call the police. You don't need a lawyer right now, unless it's the DA's office. Once you've gotten the ball rolling with the police, you can hire a private attorney to sue for civil damages.
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POST: the front while my family isn't doing anything to help from the back. My sister is completely silent and I'm worried about her committing suicide even though she hasn't shown any intent to. Am I even in the right place? Can a lawyer even help me? I want to sue my family and get protective custody of my sister but can I even do this? My sister hasn't said a single word and has no response to anything that anyone asks. All she does is sit there. The only person who knows other than the related parties is my sister's best friend. Not even my best friend knows. Please help me. I don't care if my video goes public. I only want to prevent my sister's video from becoming public. The problem is that we are identical twins so either video becoming public would be bad for my sister. I tried fighting back against the group of boys but they responded by posting a short clip of my sister's video to this website and everybody on that website is showing crazy enthusiasm for it. I tried to use that to my advantage but nobody on that website has an account only a bunch of numbers where their name should be. I've bookmarked the link to that website but I don't even want to look at it anymore because I cry every time I read the replies. I don't even know if I can ask a lawyer to help me. My family obviously won't pay for it and I only have a few thousand dollars.I read online that there are lawyers who might do this for free but how do I find them?
RESPONSE A: You and your sister need to reclaim your lives. I am SO sorry that this happened to you both! In order to carry on and build lives for yourselves, you must close and then process this chapter of life. This will require the police, a legal process, and continued counseling. When this ugly chapter is closed you can continue to build what will be a long and happy life. You are 18, legally an adult. You are able to solve this now, with the police. Frankly it doesn't matter if your parents or grandparents support it (or are painfully clueless and avoidant, which is what it sounds like). Godspeed
RESPONSE B: Wtf. Call the police.
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POST: Pregnant by my abuser whom I recently got a restraining order against. Do I legally have to inform him I’m getting an abortion? AZ - USA My boyfriend and I recently split up and he turned violent. I was granted a restraining order against him after court trials. Unfortunately I have found out I am pregnant by him. I am planning on getting an abortion and am completely fine with it, but I am wondering if I am legally obligated to inform him, and if I am how I go about doing so without violating the restraining order.
RESPONSE A: No, and for your safety I would never mention it to him. Godspeed, OP.
RESPONSE B: You don't have to.
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POST: Pregnant by my abuser whom I recently got a restraining order against. Do I legally have to inform him I’m getting an abortion? AZ - USA My boyfriend and I recently split up and he turned violent. I was granted a restraining order against him after court trials. Unfortunately I have found out I am pregnant by him. I am planning on getting an abortion and am completely fine with it, but I am wondering if I am legally obligated to inform him, and if I am how I go about doing so without violating the restraining order.
RESPONSE A: You don't have to.
RESPONSE B: You absolutely have zero legal obligation to tell him that the baby ever existed. You certainly aren't obligated to inform him of an abortion. In fact, I highly recommend you don't ever, EVER let him know anything. It is the best way to ensure your safety and well-being. Good luck!
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POST: Pregnant by my abuser whom I recently got a restraining order against. Do I legally have to inform him I’m getting an abortion? AZ - USA My boyfriend and I recently split up and he turned violent. I was granted a restraining order against him after court trials. Unfortunately I have found out I am pregnant by him. I am planning on getting an abortion and am completely fine with it, but I am wondering if I am legally obligated to inform him, and if I am how I go about doing so without violating the restraining order.
RESPONSE A: You are not legally required to inform him. https://family.findlaw.com/paternity/fathers-rights-and-abortion.html
RESPONSE B: You absolutely have zero legal obligation to tell him that the baby ever existed. You certainly aren't obligated to inform him of an abortion. In fact, I highly recommend you don't ever, EVER let him know anything. It is the best way to ensure your safety and well-being. Good luck!
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POST: Pregnant by my abuser whom I recently got a restraining order against. Do I legally have to inform him I’m getting an abortion? AZ - USA My boyfriend and I recently split up and he turned violent. I was granted a restraining order against him after court trials. Unfortunately I have found out I am pregnant by him. I am planning on getting an abortion and am completely fine with it, but I am wondering if I am legally obligated to inform him, and if I am how I go about doing so without violating the restraining order.
RESPONSE A: You absolutely have zero legal obligation to tell him that the baby ever existed. You certainly aren't obligated to inform him of an abortion. In fact, I highly recommend you don't ever, EVER let him know anything. It is the best way to ensure your safety and well-being. Good luck!
RESPONSE B: Not at all. You do not need to provide any explanation to him at all.
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POST: Pregnant by my abuser whom I recently got a restraining order against. Do I legally have to inform him I’m getting an abortion? AZ - USA My boyfriend and I recently split up and he turned violent. I was granted a restraining order against him after court trials. Unfortunately I have found out I am pregnant by him. I am planning on getting an abortion and am completely fine with it, but I am wondering if I am legally obligated to inform him, and if I am how I go about doing so without violating the restraining order.
RESPONSE A: You are not legally required to inform him. https://family.findlaw.com/paternity/fathers-rights-and-abortion.html
RESPONSE B: There is no obligation for an adult to inform another adult of any private medical procedure. Legally even if you were married and wanted an abortion you would not have to tell him. The only situation in which you need to inform someone you want an abortion is when a minor requires one - in that case parental consent is needed. Do not contact this man. You don't owe him a thing.
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POST: Pregnant wife told waitress, “mushroom allergy” but we found mushroom in her omelette. She ended up needing epi administered by an ambulance and spent 4 hours recovering at the ER. She wants to, should we sue?
RESPONSE A: Cross-contamination is common in restaurants. To successfully sue you will need to prove that they were negligent in a duty to *prevent* your wife from coming in contact with mushrooms after she communicated the allergy. The laws I have been able to locate for the United States are state-dependent and mostly cover allergen warning communication (posters etc), not liability. https://www.foodallergy.org/resources/food-allergies-and-restaurants
RESPONSE B: What damages are you suing for? If it’s for costs associated with an ambulance and anything not covered by insurance I would bring the bills to the restaurant. They might just cover the cost and save you a headache of suing. If they say no, and the costs are less than your small claims limit, I think your best bet is small claims court.
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POST: Pregnant wife told waitress, “mushroom allergy” but we found mushroom in her omelette. She ended up needing epi administered by an ambulance and spent 4 hours recovering at the ER. She wants to, should we sue?
RESPONSE A: What's the location? What are your OOP costs?
RESPONSE B: What damages are you suing for? If it’s for costs associated with an ambulance and anything not covered by insurance I would bring the bills to the restaurant. They might just cover the cost and save you a headache of suing. If they say no, and the costs are less than your small claims limit, I think your best bet is small claims court.
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POST: Pregnant wife told waitress, “mushroom allergy” but we found mushroom in her omelette. She ended up needing epi administered by an ambulance and spent 4 hours recovering at the ER. She wants to, should we sue?
RESPONSE A: What damages are you suing for? If it’s for costs associated with an ambulance and anything not covered by insurance I would bring the bills to the restaurant. They might just cover the cost and save you a headache of suing. If they say no, and the costs are less than your small claims limit, I think your best bet is small claims court.
RESPONSE B: I would contact the local health department first. The problem is that most of your damages would be covered by insurance, so you may not have enough for a lawyer to sue for. However, small claims is also a viable option.
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POST: Pregnant wife told waitress, “mushroom allergy” but we found mushroom in her omelette. She ended up needing epi administered by an ambulance and spent 4 hours recovering at the ER. She wants to, should we sue?
RESPONSE A: What's the location? What are your OOP costs?
RESPONSE B: Cross-contamination is common in restaurants. To successfully sue you will need to prove that they were negligent in a duty to *prevent* your wife from coming in contact with mushrooms after she communicated the allergy. The laws I have been able to locate for the United States are state-dependent and mostly cover allergen warning communication (posters etc), not liability. https://www.foodallergy.org/resources/food-allergies-and-restaurants
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POST: Pregnant wife told waitress, “mushroom allergy” but we found mushroom in her omelette. She ended up needing epi administered by an ambulance and spent 4 hours recovering at the ER. She wants to, should we sue?
RESPONSE A: I would contact the local health department first. The problem is that most of your damages would be covered by insurance, so you may not have enough for a lawyer to sue for. However, small claims is also a viable option.
RESPONSE B: Cross-contamination is common in restaurants. To successfully sue you will need to prove that they were negligent in a duty to *prevent* your wife from coming in contact with mushrooms after she communicated the allergy. The laws I have been able to locate for the United States are state-dependent and mostly cover allergen warning communication (posters etc), not liability. https://www.foodallergy.org/resources/food-allergies-and-restaurants
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POST: work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me.
RESPONSE A: This is 100% classic sexual harassment. You can and should report it. I'd be surprised if you don't have workplace policy directly addressing what to do. If you aren't comfortable going to local HR, see if you can find someone at corporate HR you can report this to. By law, this should be investigated and they should not retaliate against you. That's not to say it won't happen. But, this is so blatant it's ridiculous.
RESPONSE B: Many commenters here are suggesting that you go to HR and then if things don't get better find a lawyer. It might be worth your time to have a consultation with a lawyer BEFORE going to HR. I hate to bring up the old cliche, "HR is to protect the employer, not the employee," but it really is true. If you are in a situation to afford an hour of an attorney's time or can find a competent attorney who will give you a free consult, you might be able to strategize with an attorney to maximize the effectiveness of the conversation and make sure you don't say/do anything that might shoot yourself in the foot. Like you mentioned, you're a guy and you're up against societal expectations here, so having your ducks in a row is even more important. This sucks, man. I'm really sorry.
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POST: and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me.
RESPONSE A: Many commenters here are suggesting that you go to HR and then if things don't get better find a lawyer. It might be worth your time to have a consultation with a lawyer BEFORE going to HR. I hate to bring up the old cliche, "HR is to protect the employer, not the employee," but it really is true. If you are in a situation to afford an hour of an attorney's time or can find a competent attorney who will give you a free consult, you might be able to strategize with an attorney to maximize the effectiveness of the conversation and make sure you don't say/do anything that might shoot yourself in the foot. Like you mentioned, you're a guy and you're up against societal expectations here, so having your ducks in a row is even more important. This sucks, man. I'm really sorry.
RESPONSE B: Well that certainly sounds like sexual harassment. I would make a best effort attempt to report the behavior of these individuals to someone in management or HR and ask that they be talked to and that these unwelcome advances at work from managers stop. You might go in with your phone recording audio and explain that you need to talk to them about some behavior from certain managers that you feel is sexual harassment, state the date, and ask if it's okay to record the conversation. If they say no, turn the recording off - Missouri is a two-party consent state. If this "ends badly", as in you get fired or you get accused of being the one making the advances or something, go to an employment lawyer. If reporting doesn't stop the behavior, make a further report. The point is to show that you are trying to get the employer to stop the behavior of a few badly behaving employees. If that doesn't work, go to an employment lawyer.
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POST: telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me.
RESPONSE A: This is 100% classic sexual harassment. You can and should report it. I'd be surprised if you don't have workplace policy directly addressing what to do. If you aren't comfortable going to local HR, see if you can find someone at corporate HR you can report this to. By law, this should be investigated and they should not retaliate against you. That's not to say it won't happen. But, this is so blatant it's ridiculous.
RESPONSE B: Well that certainly sounds like sexual harassment. I would make a best effort attempt to report the behavior of these individuals to someone in management or HR and ask that they be talked to and that these unwelcome advances at work from managers stop. You might go in with your phone recording audio and explain that you need to talk to them about some behavior from certain managers that you feel is sexual harassment, state the date, and ask if it's okay to record the conversation. If they say no, turn the recording off - Missouri is a two-party consent state. If this "ends badly", as in you get fired or you get accused of being the one making the advances or something, go to an employment lawyer. If reporting doesn't stop the behavior, make a further report. The point is to show that you are trying to get the employer to stop the behavior of a few badly behaving employees. If that doesn't work, go to an employment lawyer.
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POST: my arm and holds onto me all the way from receiving to my desk (this is about a 40 yard walk) September 13, 2018 at 01:45- Sam sends pictures of “her dirty sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me.
RESPONSE A: Here's an angle you may want to consider: Suppose your abusers begin to feel slighted by you in the future. Who's to say they won't flip the script and accuse *you* of being the aggressor in these instances? I would consult an attorney before going to HR, and I would do this sooner rather than later. I think you will want *your* side of things to be the first your company hears of this.
RESPONSE B: I'd like to echo the sentiment to speak with a lawyer before HR if time and money allows. I can't speak on the legal side of things but if I were in your shoes I'd report it. There are still so many people who don't realize that men can be (and are being) sexually harassed, so it may be an uphill battle, but it would be worth it imo. No one deserves this kind of harassment and unwanted distraction at work--or anywhere really. If you can afford to do so, please get a lawyer and stand up to these women.
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POST: sink” with her clearly standing in the mirror in nothing but her underwear (messages still on my phone) September 14, 2018 at 15:00- Christie gets my phone number from work and texts me out of the blue telling me she’s lonely and that I’m invited over and sends me her address (messages still on my phone) September 17, 2018 at 22:00- Ashley and Christie come to my desk and rub my arms and say they’re “hot”. This lasts for about 3 minutes September 19, 2018 at 08:30- Sam straight up tells me she “really needs a fuck buddy” then hugs me and buries her face in my chest and asks me to be there for her in her time of need. _________________________________________________ And that kind of stuff has been going on all year. After what Sam said earlier, it made me think I should finally tell someone about this but I’m wondering if it’s just be a situation where this ends badly for me.
RESPONSE A: Here's an angle you may want to consider: Suppose your abusers begin to feel slighted by you in the future. Who's to say they won't flip the script and accuse *you* of being the aggressor in these instances? I would consult an attorney before going to HR, and I would do this sooner rather than later. I think you will want *your* side of things to be the first your company hears of this.
RESPONSE B: If you're worried about your store's management being in cahoots with the in-store HR, I would suggest going over their heads and clearly informing the area HR that these women have created such an uncomfortable and hostile work environment, and that you don't feel safe approaching the managers in your store about the issue without retaliation. There is a chance that your managers will retaliate; however, you have security footage on your side as well. Lastly, if they should text you again, I would suggest sending them a straightforward "Please do not contact me outside of work" sort of text, if only to defend yourself from them trying to flip the story if/when it gets addressed by a higher authority. ​
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POST: A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp.
RESPONSE A: Contact your insurance company immediately so they can investigate. That’s why you pay them.
RESPONSE B: Your lawyer can request the footage if the cameras were operational.
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POST: A major car rental company is trying to hold me liable for a car that was stolen after it was returned. Pretty much what the title says: rented a car last week, returned it before the posted closing hours (they closed early that day so there was nobody to check me out. The fact that they closed early was not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp.
RESPONSE A: The rental company doesn’t have to share security footage. You can refuse to pay and it’d likely come to a lawsuit against you. That’s where things get to proof required to be shown. Getting a lawyer involved now can at least get the footage if it exists preserved.
RESPONSE B: While you're going through the process of talking to the insurance company, getting a lawyer, getting a subpoena, some combination of the above... Can you get the rental company to review the footage themselves? That is, without showing it to you? Maybe once they've seen it for themselves, they'll just drop the whole thing.
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POST: not posted anywhere). Car locked, keys placed in the drop box. Easy peasy. Several days later I got a call from the company saying that I never returned the car and that I will be held liable, and that next steps will be given to me within 24 hours. I went back to the rental lot just to confirm with my own eyes that the car was gone (I knew this was a long shot but sheesh). I asked if I could see security footage because I followed all instructions given to me to return the car but was told that would require a subpoena and that they would be making a claim again my insurance for the full cost of the car. My partner was there and watched me return the car, as was my friend who came with me to return the car. There are two cameras on the side of the building that the car was parked on, which would easily catch me doing everything I was instructed to do in returning the car. How worried should I be? Should I get a lawyer? Will insurance clear this up? This company advertises that all of their cars are equipped with LoJack and it was stolen from their parking lot after the car was returned. Halp.
RESPONSE A: Reposting since links aren't allowed. Apparently this happens more than we think. There was a cbs news report on a well known rental company doing doing this to their customers just three weeks ago. The report is on the CBS Mornings YouTube channel. Search "Claims are mounting against (company name removed for doxing rules) From Customers who say they were wrongfully arrested for rental." That seems like a good resource to start because they talk about the legal battles in the report.
RESPONSE B: Some rental companies allow you to return a vehicle after hours, but state that the customer is responsible for the vehicle until it's checked in the next morning. Enterprise has a disclaimer like that: "Please Note: A vehicle that is returned after hours will not be checked in until the next business day. If returning after hours when a branch is closed, the customer is responsible for the vehicle until the satisfactory check in of the rental vehicle the next business day." I'd check the rental company's website to see if there's anything like that.
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POST: Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit?
RESPONSE A: You need to provide more than just proof, you need to ask for a reasonable accommodation. This requires going to the doctor having them write a letter explaining what your disability is and accommodations your employer may consider. Keep in mind your job doesn't need to do exactly what the doctor suggests because "leaving work whenever there's a flare up" is not always reasonable. If you haven't set up a reasonable accommodation it's reasonable to ask for a doctor's note when you're out.
RESPONSE B: Do you qualify for FMLA?
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POST: Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit?
RESPONSE A: Do you qualify for FMLA?
RESPONSE B: Assuming your company has 15 or more people you are likely eligible for ADA protection. Arizona guidelines are here: https://az.db101.org/az/situations/workandbenefits/rights/program2.htm#:\~:text=The%20ADA%20uses%20the%20term,or%20more%20major%20life%20activities. Ask for ADA paperwork to take to your doctor. If you qualify, you're entitled to reasonable accommodations under ADA. I can't get more specific without knowing your job and your condition and how much time off work you generally need. But, absolutely do ask or ADA paperwork and get that ball rolling.
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POST: Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit?
RESPONSE A: Apply for intermittent FMLA.
RESPONSE B: Oof. One of the few times OP provides the state, and everyone ignores it. Arizona has a sick leave law that prohibits covered employers from asking for a doctor's note for any sick-time paid absence of less than 3 consecutive days. File a complaint here: https://www.azica.gov/forms/labor3305 You should fully expect to be fired for "unrelated reasons," at which point you should consult with an employment attorney. Edit: this only applies if your gas station has 15 or more employees.
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POST: Employer requiring doctors note for every absence even though I have a disability that I have to call out for when it flares up, AZ I have a disability that can cause me to have to stay home. Employer is aware and pretty much has ignored my letting them know that I was starting to feel like it was going to flare (I can’t stop it, or prevent flare ups. I’ve tried for years). Now, after I had to call out, they are stating that I have to bring in a doctors note every time. Is this legal? Even if I provide proof of my disability and showed them it’s legit?
RESPONSE A: Oof. One of the few times OP provides the state, and everyone ignores it. Arizona has a sick leave law that prohibits covered employers from asking for a doctor's note for any sick-time paid absence of less than 3 consecutive days. File a complaint here: https://www.azica.gov/forms/labor3305 You should fully expect to be fired for "unrelated reasons," at which point you should consult with an employment attorney. Edit: this only applies if your gas station has 15 or more employees.
RESPONSE B: Do you have FMLA paperwork? If not make sure your doctor fills it out and your employer has a copy. You have 12 weeks of job protected leave each year for medical condition that requires time off.
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POST: then changed their mind about taking it and left it outside. I had a scheduled UPS pick up today for a mattress. The mattress was wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Keep the receipt. You will need it to show the package was actually picked up.
RESPONSE B: He messed up and needed the receipt so he could deny even picking up the shipment. Basically he is screwed because once he took possession and have you a pick up receipt, UPS becomes responsible for the item.
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POST: wrapped and prepared. When UPS arrived he took a look at it and said "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Did you happen to catch his name? Call the nearest UPS store, or whatever phone number is on the receipt. The receipt may have a code that links to the truck he was driving. What a crazy thing.
RESPONSE B: He messed up and needed the receipt so he could deny even picking up the shipment. Basically he is screwed because once he took possession and have you a pick up receipt, UPS becomes responsible for the item.
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POST: and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Use your receipt to contact the company and demand a Manager, then explain the situation, with focus on the fact that the man trespassed onto your property and was aggressive and threatening. Someone who can't get a job right now due to COVID will be happy to fill his shoes.
RESPONSE B: I know that you don't want to get the worker in trouble, but him barging into your house against your will is **NOT OKAY** and certainly against the law and UPS policy. I highly recommend letting someone higher-up in UPS know; not only will it help your mattress get successfully returned, but it could prevent him from doing the same (or worse) to someone else.
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POST: "yeah i'm not sure this is gonna work" but took it anyways. He gave me a receipt to confirm the pick up and went about doing his job. The driver dragged the mattress out to the concrete which ripped the packaging and mattress up pretty bad - packaging that cost me well over $15. He continued to drag it then decided he might need something with wheels to carry this 150 lb object. He got the little carrier with wheels and took it and threw the package in the back of his truck. After seeing him complete his job, I close the door and call it a day. 15 minutes later he comes knocking on my door and says "it just aint gonna work" and leaves the package outside. I was shocked especially because he had given me a receipt confirming that this was over and done with. After that I drag the package back in and sat confused af over this. I even took a picture of him dragging and ripped the package in case I needed proof that he's at fault for a ripped mattress and not me. 30 minutes later the driver comes back knocking on my door demanding I give him the "paperwork" that he left earlier. I was very confused and told him he didn't leave any paperwork, but he insisted that he did and he barged into my living room looking for it after which I screamed that he gets tf out. He did. But, now I realize he's talking about the receipt. I have no idea what this means, what to do, or how to proceed or where to even post this. Any advice would be appreciated.
RESPONSE A: Use your receipt to contact the company and demand a Manager, then explain the situation, with focus on the fact that the man trespassed onto your property and was aggressive and threatening. Someone who can't get a job right now due to COVID will be happy to fill his shoes.
RESPONSE B: I read your update, just go to the police. You have proof that he took possession of it and damaged it. If they aren’t cooperating then you need to escalate. They clearly aren’t accepting responsibility.
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POST: Waiter at a restaurant that is no stranger to decent sized groups and dinner parties. A particular customer left a $100 tip on his receipt that was charged to his credit card along with the price of the dinner. The $100 is clearly legible on the receipt. Tips are cashed out at the end of each shift between waitstaff, bartenders, and bussers. Two weeks later the customer calls back and complains, saying he never left a $100 tip and threatens a chargeback for the entire bill. Restaurant manager informs him that it is clearly visible on the receipt but as a good will gesture offers to refund his $100. Manager then asks the staff that recieved a portion of the $100 tip to return the money. You fill out a form that says you're giving it back and it's deduced from the next time you're tips are cashed out. The forms are typically used when a tip amount is entered incorrectly by the staff, never seen it happen before when management offers a refund to the customer. Am I obligated to give the money back? Can I be fired if I refuse?
RESPONSE A: When a customer leaves a tip, the proprietor must give that tip to the server or pay it into the server pool. They are not allowed to deduct credit card processing fees or any other fees. That money is yours. The owner, of his own free will, decided to refund the tip money to the customer. That's his prerogative. But he can't give your money away, only his own. It would be the same if the the customer had left a $100 bill on the table as a tip and the owner gave him a hundred bucks in cash because he complained. Can he fire or discipline you for this? He can certainly do what he likes, but California has some pretty strong worker protections. If he retaliates against you for refusing, you can file a complaint with California’s Division of Labor Standards Enforcement.
RESPONSE B: No and yes, in that order. The tip is your property, so you don't have to return it. But they can fire you, because your employment is at-will, and that's not a protected class.
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POST: now asking for the $100 to be given back from the waitstaff. California, Alameda County. Waiter at a restaurant that is no stranger to decent sized groups and dinner parties. A particular customer left a $100 tip on his receipt that was charged to his credit card along with the price of the dinner. The $100 is clearly legible on the receipt. Tips are cashed out at the end of each shift between waitstaff, bartenders, and bussers. Two weeks later the customer calls back and complains, saying he never left a $100 tip and threatens a chargeback for the entire bill. Restaurant manager informs him that it is clearly visible on the receipt but as a good will gesture offers to refund his $100. Manager then asks the staff that recieved a portion of the $100 tip to return the money. You fill out a form that says you're giving it back and it's deduced from the next time you're tips are cashed out. The forms are typically used when a tip amount is entered incorrectly by the staff, never seen it happen before when management offers a refund to the customer. Am I obligated to give the money back? Can I be fired if I refuse?
RESPONSE A: Are you obligated to give it back? No. Can you be fired if you don't? Probably.
RESPONSE B: When a customer leaves a tip, the proprietor must give that tip to the server or pay it into the server pool. They are not allowed to deduct credit card processing fees or any other fees. That money is yours. The owner, of his own free will, decided to refund the tip money to the customer. That's his prerogative. But he can't give your money away, only his own. It would be the same if the the customer had left a $100 bill on the table as a tip and the owner gave him a hundred bucks in cash because he complained. Can he fire or discipline you for this? He can certainly do what he likes, but California has some pretty strong worker protections. If he retaliates against you for refusing, you can file a complaint with California’s Division of Labor Standards Enforcement.
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POST: here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves?
RESPONSE A: Send her a message once -- she is to cease contacting you and your sister, and can take her requests to your lawyer. Let your lawyer sort through all the details after notifying him of the pertinent information. Then proceed to block her. If she persists after you've blocked her (like showing up at your house), document **every** interaction with her -- time, location, you get the idea. This information can be helpful if you need to go to the police for harassing behaviour -- e.g., if she's showing up on your doorstep.
RESPONSE B: Let your lawyer handle it. Ask him to send her a letter telling her she is not to contact you at all but only him when she is ready to take a DNA test. If she does contact you he will deem it harrassment and pursue your legal remedies. The block her form contacting you.
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POST: until then but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves?
RESPONSE A: Sounds like your lawyer has it handled... so just stop talking to her. If she contacts you, tell her to talk to the lawyer. Block her number if you have to.
RESPONSE B: Send her a message once -- she is to cease contacting you and your sister, and can take her requests to your lawyer. Let your lawyer sort through all the details after notifying him of the pertinent information. Then proceed to block her. If she persists after you've blocked her (like showing up at your house), document **every** interaction with her -- time, location, you get the idea. This information can be helpful if you need to go to the police for harassing behaviour -- e.g., if she's showing up on your doorstep.
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POST: but apparently she is the daughter of someone my dad went to high-school with so it isn't out of the question at first. But here's the thing, my dad was diagnosed with testicular cancer 15 years ago and had both his testicles removed. So unless this kid is at least 14 then its impossible it's his. So entertaining the thought I met with SB and was surprised to find out this "secret child" is 9 years old and looks nothing like my father. During this meeting she demanded "her child's share" of my dads estate and wants 9 years of child support in cash. She claimed she would sue if he wasn't added into the will. My dad's estate lawyer said that if SB's kid passed a DNA test he would bust she refused. She claims she has a "secret letter" from my father acknowledging this kid as his own but refused to provide it. The meeting ended with my fathers estate lawyer telling her to pretty much get out until she's ready to do a DNA test and her claiming she would "see us in court." It's pretty obvious this is not my dad's kid but SB is still trying to take from us. My question is, what can I do to make her go away? What kind of legal action can I take to make her disappear from my life. If she does try to take action against me and my sister, what can I do to make sure this bitch gets what she deserves?
RESPONSE A: Delete this post too. Get rid of anything explaining the situation. Don't tell her a damn thing. Silence is what you need. Can't pass a DNA test then she sure doesn't want the truth to come out. Don't worry about it. Just let the idiot keep being an idiot. Dont say anything more to her. Leave her feeble attempts at contact to die along with her lies.
RESPONSE B: Have you done any research on SB? Is this con-woman literally just a random stranger who read up about your father's passing and is does she actually have some sort of history with your father? You could pay for a background check. See if she has a criminal history to make sure you are not in any potential danger.
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POST: father passed a few weeks ago and left everything to me. He has no siblings, no living parents, and I was his only child. He and my mother had a rather nasty divorce when I was still a baby and he left her nothing. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is his and wants pretty much his entire estate for her child as both her child's share of the inheritance and a large lump-sum of money for her to count as the 18 years of child support she claims she should get. Right off the bat, I doubt the kid is his. My father never dated or was in a relationship after his divorce with my mom, and even then, he was cremated shortly after death so there is nothing to compare the kid's DNA to. I believe this woman waited intentionally as she was known to my father, and attended his funeral (it was open to the public), but never brought the claim when DNA could have been collected. I do still have my dad's ashes, can DNA be collected from that? Regardless, my LEGAL question is: If the child actually is my father's, can she sue for a lump-sum to cover 18 years of child support, or can she only recover what would be my half-siblings share of the estate?
RESPONSE A: Tell her no. Put the ball in her court. Tell her you will vigorously contest paternity. And then stop talking to her. Then consult a lawyer. AFAIK, you can only get an inheritance from a dead person, not child support from their estate. And even if she could get child support, it wouldn't be back support to the child's birth. But you need to consult an estate attorney about this. Your DNA can probably be used to help determine if you are related to the child. But if you haven't packed his belongings yet, and have anything like a hairbrush or toothbrush, set it aside and don't throw it out.
RESPONSE B: Only a sibling's share of the estate. But DNA can be established through you, or though his nieces and nephews, hairs left in his hair brush at the house... lots of ways to see if you have a half sibling.
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POST: weeks ago and left everything to me. He has no siblings, no living parents, and I was his only child. He and my mother had a rather nasty divorce when I was still a baby and he left her nothing. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is his and wants pretty much his entire estate for her child as both her child's share of the inheritance and a large lump-sum of money for her to count as the 18 years of child support she claims she should get. Right off the bat, I doubt the kid is his. My father never dated or was in a relationship after his divorce with my mom, and even then, he was cremated shortly after death so there is nothing to compare the kid's DNA to. I believe this woman waited intentionally as she was known to my father, and attended his funeral (it was open to the public), but never brought the claim when DNA could have been collected. I do still have my dad's ashes, can DNA be collected from that? Regardless, my LEGAL question is: If the child actually is my father's, can she sue for a lump-sum to cover 18 years of child support, or can she only recover what would be my half-siblings share of the estate?
RESPONSE A: Hi there! Not an attorney - but I do want to bring up that if he is your half sibling, they can do a DNA test from you. Do you have a probate attorney? Did your dad leave a will? Or is it intestate?
RESPONSE B: Tell her no. Put the ball in her court. Tell her you will vigorously contest paternity. And then stop talking to her. Then consult a lawyer. AFAIK, you can only get an inheritance from a dead person, not child support from their estate. And even if she could get child support, it wouldn't be back support to the child's birth. But you need to consult an estate attorney about this. Your DNA can probably be used to help determine if you are related to the child. But if you haven't packed his belongings yet, and have anything like a hairbrush or toothbrush, set it aside and don't throw it out.
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POST: My father has passed and he willed everything to me. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is my fathers and she wants to sue the estate for 18 years of child support. (CA) My father passed a few weeks ago and left everything to me. He has no siblings, no living parents, and I was his only child. He and my mother had a rather nasty divorce when I was still a baby and he left her nothing. A woman has come forward claiming her three year old is his and wants pretty much his entire estate for her child as both her child's share of the inheritance and a large lump-sum of money for her to count as the 18 years of child support she claims she should get. Right off the bat, I doubt the kid is his. My father never dated or was in a relationship after his divorce with my mom, and even then, he was cremated shortly after death so there is nothing to compare the kid's DNA to. I believe this woman waited intentionally as she was known to my father, and attended his funeral (it was open to the public), but never brought the claim when DNA could have been collected. I do still have my dad's ashes, can DNA be collected from that? Regardless, my LEGAL question is: If the child actually is my father's, can she sue for a lump-sum to cover 18 years of child support, or can she only recover what would be my half-siblings share of the estate?
RESPONSE A: Only a sibling's share of the estate. But DNA can be established through you, or though his nieces and nephews, hairs left in his hair brush at the house... lots of ways to see if you have a half sibling.
RESPONSE B: Hi there! Not an attorney - but I do want to bring up that if he is your half sibling, they can do a DNA test from you. Do you have a probate attorney? Did your dad leave a will? Or is it intestate?
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POST: there any truth to this? My S/O and I have had a disagreement on how the house I own and we just moved in to is kept clean. I told my mom my frustrations and she came back a few hours later telling me that since I am allowing him to live with me (we have lived together since May in an apartment, since July in the house) and we are in a relationship, if we ever broke up, he could get a lawyer and demand that I provide a place him for so many months, or could demand I give him so much money after leaving since it is deemed “our house” even though I am the only person on all of the utilities and mortgage (basically giving him “his share” of the house back to him). Is this true? Do I need a lawyer to draft paperwork that says he can’t take part of my house, or is my mom crazy? I should note that he does not yet help me pay any of the bills related to the house, not sure if that matters or not. I think they requested his info for the electric company, but the bills are all in my name and addressed to me.
RESPONSE A: You should be fine. I found this: In order for a common law marriage to be legally recognized in the state of Georgia, four requirements must generally be met: * The parties must be able to contract; * There must be an actual contract; and * There must be consummation according to law; and * The marriage must be established prior to January 1, 1997. That being said, he is a tenant and if you split up you might need to evict him. So, if things don't work out, you might be living with him until you can legally kick him out.
RESPONSE B: No. Common law ended decades ago in GA. Even if you get married and divorced, the house would be premarital property, and at most he would be able to claim half of the value that was gained during the marriage. Since he lives there, he is already a tenant; if you wanted to make him leave you would have to evict him. That may actually be easier to do without a lease as a lease often spells out a term.
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POST: A woman claims I’m the father of her child A woman who I had engaged in a consensual sexual relationship claims that a 6 month old child is mine. She is currently married and has 2 children with her husband and the third is in question. She disappeared completely from my life 15 months ago without a word and has recently resurfaced following her husband taking an in home paternity test. He is on the child’s birth certificate but has since left her (no further details provided to me) What obligation, if any, am I facing? She is threatening legal action and it’s thrown me for a loop. I’m at odds with this situation and want to be prepared for whatever may come. I thank you in advance for any and all advice
RESPONSE A: Don't do anything but get a paternity test.
RESPONSE B: If she serves you with paperwork, get a lawyer and demand a DNA test.
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POST: don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now?
RESPONSE A: Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works.
RESPONSE B: Be aware that if you do not give in to her bluff (which is exactly what it is), that her next move may be for her to deny you access to your sister. To achieve those ends, she is on much firmer ground than getting you to pay child support.
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POST: we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now?
RESPONSE A: Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works.
RESPONSE B: As others have covered, child support is ridiculous and won't happen (just respond in the unlikely case you get a court summons). What some have mentioned is that the mom may try and stop her from seeing you. If you are as much an influence in her life as it seems, and she enjoys it, consider calling CPS. I'm sure they'll frown upon barring a child from having access to her sibling for a petty reason. If that doesn't work, you might want to ask a lawyer to look into Visitation Rights of Grandparents ; even though you're not a grandparent, the sort of situation this law tries to cover might provide you with an angle to work from.
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POST: disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now?
RESPONSE A: Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works.
RESPONSE B: (Not a lawyer) What she's asking is essentially akin to asking any sort of babysitter, tutor etc to pay child support. I doubt any judge will hear the case, but a family lawyer would be helpful if she really proceeds with this case. Also, not on topic but you sound like a good brother and a good roll model for your sister.
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POST: for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now?
RESPONSE A: Don't fret until/unless you are actually served. I see her having no leg to stand on in court though. However, she can turn around and deny letting your sister spend any more time with you. Which would be a crappy but legal move.
RESPONSE B: Ca child support attorney here. There are some cases where a non-biological parent can be ordered to pay support. This is not one of them. You have no legal duty to financially support your sibling unless you have a guardianship. Even then you wouldn't be obligated to pay support. In order to get support from you she'd have to file a Petition and in that petition allege your legal obligation. You have none. The petition would then be demurred and the case would end. Make sure you respond to any legal pleadings sent to you but as a legal matter this is simply not how the CA family code works.
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POST: CA | Sister’s mom wants to sue me for child support, claiming I play the role of her father. My sister is 10 and I’m 30. My dad has been absent from her life for years, we don’t know where he is. He wasn’t around for me either, used to disappear for a few years at a time and come back for a few months only to disappear again. I’m close with my sister, she usually spends one or two nights a week with me and my wife. I don’t give her mom money, but I help out by buying her things that she need. On Monday her mom called me telling me that we need to come to some sort of financial arrangement for child support since I have so far established myself as playing the role of the father in her life and therefore I need to pay child support. I laughed that off as it sounded absurd but apparently she is being serious. The role that I play I think is the role of older sibling (which I am!) with an absent father, that’s all. I was told by my sister that she has overheard their mother talking to her aunt that her lawyer is going to sue me. It could be the mom playing games, saying that for my sister to hear and then tell me to scare me into paying her money. She’s capable of being manipulative. Assuming she is being serious in her attempts to take legal action to get child support from me, what should I expect? And how do I prepare myself now?
RESPONSE A: Don't fret until/unless you are actually served. I see her having no leg to stand on in court though. However, she can turn around and deny letting your sister spend any more time with you. Which would be a crappy but legal move.
RESPONSE B: Be aware that if you do not give in to her bluff (which is exactly what it is), that her next move may be for her to deny you access to your sister. To achieve those ends, she is on much firmer ground than getting you to pay child support.
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POST: have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything?
RESPONSE A: > However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Ah, the optimism of youth. To your direct question, yes. No amount of stated consent makes it possible for your son to legally consent to sex with a 35-year-old. If they had sex, he is the victim of statutory rape. You could go to the police - and in fact the hospital likely will, if and when they realize a minor is the legal father of the baby they're delivering. However, it won't get your son off the hook if the baby is his. The baby's needs remain the same, regardless of the circumstances of its conception, and he will have both the obligation to provide for his child and the right to be part of his child's life. Given the complexity of the situation, sitting down with your son and a lawyer _as soon as possible_ would be a very good idea. Your state's bar association can refer you. Your son's lawyer can help put together a strategy for ensuring that he is (or is not) the father before he pays out anything, and can handle the interactions with the police that are more or less inevitable at this point.
RESPONSE B: Dumb: fucking a 15-year-old when you're in your 30s. Dumber: getting pregnant by said 15-year-old. Dumbest: seeking legal proof of paternity. Your call after the call to your lawyer should be to the police.
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POST: (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything?
RESPONSE A: Dumb: fucking a 15-year-old when you're in your 30s. Dumber: getting pregnant by said 15-year-old. Dumbest: seeking legal proof of paternity. Your call after the call to your lawyer should be to the police.
RESPONSE B: Yes, it's an admission of statutory rape and can land the suspect in prison for a good long time. I honestly don't know how child support and paternity obligations work in these cases- someone more knowledgeable in that area will surely be along in a bit.
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POST: do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything?
RESPONSE A: Yes, it's an admission of statutory rape and can land the suspect in prison for a good long time. I honestly don't know how child support and paternity obligations work in these cases- someone more knowledgeable in that area will surely be along in a bit.
RESPONSE B: > However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Ah, the optimism of youth. To your direct question, yes. No amount of stated consent makes it possible for your son to legally consent to sex with a 35-year-old. If they had sex, he is the victim of statutory rape. You could go to the police - and in fact the hospital likely will, if and when they realize a minor is the legal father of the baby they're delivering. However, it won't get your son off the hook if the baby is his. The baby's needs remain the same, regardless of the circumstances of its conception, and he will have both the obligation to provide for his child and the right to be part of his child's life. Given the complexity of the situation, sitting down with your son and a lawyer _as soon as possible_ would be a very good idea. Your state's bar association can refer you. Your son's lawyer can help put together a strategy for ensuring that he is (or is not) the father before he pays out anything, and can handle the interactions with the police that are more or less inevitable at this point.
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POST: (Texas) 35yo pregnant woman claims my 15yo son is the father. 1) is this an admission of statutory rape? 2) if true, what are my son's responsibilities towards the child? This pregnant woman came to me a couple of days ago to speak about my son. She says she's 5 months pregnant and my son is the father. I did not allow her to speak to my son though. She says the reason for her visit is that she wants my son to be on the birth certificate and carry the responsibilities of the father. My son admits to sleeping with this woman twice. However he says it's impossible for the child to be his because of timing. Now I'm the first person to admit that I do not have full confidence in my son - she could be telling the truth or she could be lying (I'm guessing we'll have to do paternity tests when the time comes). I will deal with my son. However assuming that what she says is true, is this an admission of statuary rape? This woman used to work for the my son's school (she has been fired for unrelated reasons). How can I go about pursuing this? And what becomes of my son's responsibilities as the father? I'm guessing if the paternity test comes back positive, he will be regarded as the father by law? Do we need to prepare for anything?
RESPONSE A: > My son admits to ~~sleeping with this woman~~ being molested and raped by this woman twice. FTFY. Lawyer for paternity issues. Police because SHE IS A CHILD MOLESTER. How is that not in every comment here?
RESPONSE B: Yes, it's an admission of statutory rape and can land the suspect in prison for a good long time. I honestly don't know how child support and paternity obligations work in these cases- someone more knowledgeable in that area will surely be along in a bit.
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