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POST: perform an adequate investigation. Of which I suffered for as well. If protocol was followed properly, I would not be in this situation and therefore I am a victim of their incompetence as well. When she asked me for a ridiculous sum of money I declined and was willing to take the claim to a hearing against my lawyer's judgement as that would prolong everything and ultimately be more expensive and draining. However, upon being presented with all of the evidence I possessed against her, she instead chose to take the money my employer granted her and settle the matter globally. I felt it is against my principles to give her any amount of money for something I did not do and was willing to spend thousands more than that would have costed me. My lawyer speculated that she used me as a scapegoat to get to my employer through the HRTO as this is a free medium that even supplies the complainant with a lawyer. Were she to go through the proper channels for employee/employer infractions, it would have costed her money and there is a potential of loss. She is attending a law program next year and needs the money for tuition and residency. My question is: do I have any recourse whatsoever for the year of depression, stress, cost, and other damages this blatantly false claim has caused me? My reputation at work has been damaged through the word of her friends that still work there. Further my potential career path, one that works with children that I spent years of schooling for, was threatened. I feel wronged and left behind by a law system that allowed this to happen. Thank you so much in advance for any assistance whatsoever.
RESPONSE A: If you wish to sue, you will need demonstrable, quantifiable damages. "This stressed me out for a year" is not quantifiable. "This caused me undue stress and I began seeing a therapist as of Nov. 1 2017. Here are all of the bills from my therapist as of this point" is quantifiable. Since you already have a lawyer (who is presumably already familiar with the situation), you can speak with her/him about the prospect of a launching a civil suit against your ex.
RESPONSE B: r/legaladvicecanada
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POST: a loss as to how to proceed...I was advised to write a statement for my side of the story, and I was planning to do that this morning...but I'm worried that I'm being held as guilty before innocent, and with things of this nature (and the fact that such a big store with such a small crew means often we're alone or 2 people nearby at best)....I'm worried I'm fucked. Especially in this current social climate, I'm legitimately worried I am about to be on the receiving end of undue job termination and/or legal punishment by a woman abusing two courageous movements to further her own ends. I've never called a lawyer or contacted one, and I dunno that I can fully afford one (I only make 15k a year atm) but I'm kind of at a loss.
RESPONSE A: 1.) You don't list your state- that's important enough that there are multiple reminders of it before you post. 2.) You don't say exactly what it is you're accused of doing. 3.) Your boss is allowed to make a decision about who be believes, even if the full investigation is not done yet.
RESPONSE B: Assuming this is not a troll post, and assuming you’re not in a union, you can be fired for an accusation, false or otherwise, or because the sky has a purple tint today. There is no innocent until proven guilty outside of a court of law. You seem to admit there is a “story” to tell, ~~so tell your side of the story~~. (If police ask, the answer is completely different, do not tell them anything without a lawyer.) if you are fired, file,for unemployment. If it is denied, appeal. Edit: One question though. Do you know what the “story” is? I’d probably decline to tell my side of the story unless I was presented with a story to refute (or not refute). What you write could be used against you in a denial of unemployment, so I’m going to modify my advice and recommend not giving them this ammunition if you think you’re going to be fired anyway.
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POST: [NY] In the event that my fiance and I get divorced, there is no way for her to get custody of my sister, who I am the guardian of, correct? I'm 26, my fiance is 25, and my sister is 8 for the record. Four years ago, when my sister was 4, both of our parents passed away in an accident and I decided to take her in. The will that our parents drafted gave me guardianship, which was recognized by the courts. We did pretty well on our own, and I got used to taking care of her, and I met my fiance two years ago. She gets along very well with my sister, and sort of fills the motherly role for her, which is something that I struggled to do. Anyways, I recently proposed to my fiance, and she said yes. However, I just realized something that gives me pause and makes me kind of nervous. If we get married, then divorced at any point, will I still retain guardianship over my sister? I am her sole guardian, but I'm not quite sure where marriage would come into this. I'm not concerned about alimony or anything, I don't care about that stuff, I just want to make sure I keep my sister. I have no plans for divorce, and I hope it never happens, but I just want to know what happens to my guardianship over my sister in this scenario.
RESPONSE A: Unless your fiancée adopts your sister at some point it's highly unlikely. If she does adopt her it's highly likely that she will at the very least get vists
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer, but unless you are declared unfit to parent, I don't think so since she isn't related. I haven't heard of any divorces resulting in one party becoming the guardian of their step-child. Maybe If your sister wants to live with her she would have a case, but I don't think so.
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POST: met my fiance two years ago. She gets along very well with my sister, and sort of fills the motherly role for her, which is something that I struggled to do. Anyways, I recently proposed to my fiance, and she said yes. However, I just realized something that gives me pause and makes me kind of nervous. If we get married, then divorced at any point, will I still retain guardianship over my sister? I am her sole guardian, but I'm not quite sure where marriage would come into this. I'm not concerned about alimony or anything, I don't care about that stuff, I just want to make sure I keep my sister. I have no plans for divorce, and I hope it never happens, but I just want to know what happens to my guardianship over my sister in this scenario.
RESPONSE A: The guardianship is a role created and supervised by the court. Marriage shouldn't make your wife co-guardian unless you apply for that change. And divorce won't undo the guardianship by itself. If you live together for years, get divorced, and your wife applies to be guardian because she says she's better at it than you are, the court would certainly have something to chew on.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer In addition to resolving this question, you may want to think about what happens to your sister if you die. Would you want your fiance to have guardianship of her or is there someone else you would rather fill that role? I'm asking because it's going to be difficult to have it both ways. That is, if you arrange it so your fiance is not considered your sisters guardian in the event of a divorce, it is likely she won't be considered her guardian in the event of death. Even less drastic situations may result in some problems. Let's say you are out of town and your sister needs medical attention. Will your finace (wife) be allowed to make any immediate decisions or will your sister's care be delayed until you can be reached? You may want to consult an attorney and put your will, power of attorney, etc. into place so your sister has the best of care no matter what.
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POST: I got used to taking care of her, and I met my fiance two years ago. She gets along very well with my sister, and sort of fills the motherly role for her, which is something that I struggled to do. Anyways, I recently proposed to my fiance, and she said yes. However, I just realized something that gives me pause and makes me kind of nervous. If we get married, then divorced at any point, will I still retain guardianship over my sister? I am her sole guardian, but I'm not quite sure where marriage would come into this. I'm not concerned about alimony or anything, I don't care about that stuff, I just want to make sure I keep my sister. I have no plans for divorce, and I hope it never happens, but I just want to know what happens to my guardianship over my sister in this scenario.
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer In addition to resolving this question, you may want to think about what happens to your sister if you die. Would you want your fiance to have guardianship of her or is there someone else you would rather fill that role? I'm asking because it's going to be difficult to have it both ways. That is, if you arrange it so your fiance is not considered your sisters guardian in the event of a divorce, it is likely she won't be considered her guardian in the event of death. Even less drastic situations may result in some problems. Let's say you are out of town and your sister needs medical attention. Will your finace (wife) be allowed to make any immediate decisions or will your sister's care be delayed until you can be reached? You may want to consult an attorney and put your will, power of attorney, etc. into place so your sister has the best of care no matter what.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer, but unless you are declared unfit to parent, I don't think so since she isn't related. I haven't heard of any divorces resulting in one party becoming the guardian of their step-child. Maybe If your sister wants to live with her she would have a case, but I don't think so.
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POST: with my sister, and sort of fills the motherly role for her, which is something that I struggled to do. Anyways, I recently proposed to my fiance, and she said yes. However, I just realized something that gives me pause and makes me kind of nervous. If we get married, then divorced at any point, will I still retain guardianship over my sister? I am her sole guardian, but I'm not quite sure where marriage would come into this. I'm not concerned about alimony or anything, I don't care about that stuff, I just want to make sure I keep my sister. I have no plans for divorce, and I hope it never happens, but I just want to know what happens to my guardianship over my sister in this scenario.
RESPONSE A: Ignoring the divorce part of the question for a second, from a practical perspective, wouldn't it be useful for OP's future wife to be able to, say, sign school paperwork for OP's sister while OP was travelling for work, or make time critical decisions about medical care, etc.? Would some sort of agreement throw a wrench in the original divorce question? I am not a lawyer, but these seem like important related questions that I honestly no nothing about.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer In addition to resolving this question, you may want to think about what happens to your sister if you die. Would you want your fiance to have guardianship of her or is there someone else you would rather fill that role? I'm asking because it's going to be difficult to have it both ways. That is, if you arrange it so your fiance is not considered your sisters guardian in the event of a divorce, it is likely she won't be considered her guardian in the event of death. Even less drastic situations may result in some problems. Let's say you are out of town and your sister needs medical attention. Will your finace (wife) be allowed to make any immediate decisions or will your sister's care be delayed until you can be reached? You may want to consult an attorney and put your will, power of attorney, etc. into place so your sister has the best of care no matter what.
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POST: ianship, which was recognized by the courts. We did pretty well on our own, and I got used to taking care of her, and I met my fiance two years ago. She gets along very well with my sister, and sort of fills the motherly role for her, which is something that I struggled to do. Anyways, I recently proposed to my fiance, and she said yes. However, I just realized something that gives me pause and makes me kind of nervous. If we get married, then divorced at any point, will I still retain guardianship over my sister? I am her sole guardian, but I'm not quite sure where marriage would come into this. I'm not concerned about alimony or anything, I don't care about that stuff, I just want to make sure I keep my sister. I have no plans for divorce, and I hope it never happens, but I just want to know what happens to my guardianship over my sister in this scenario.
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer In addition to resolving this question, you may want to think about what happens to your sister if you die. Would you want your fiance to have guardianship of her or is there someone else you would rather fill that role? I'm asking because it's going to be difficult to have it both ways. That is, if you arrange it so your fiance is not considered your sisters guardian in the event of a divorce, it is likely she won't be considered her guardian in the event of death. Even less drastic situations may result in some problems. Let's say you are out of town and your sister needs medical attention. Will your finace (wife) be allowed to make any immediate decisions or will your sister's care be delayed until you can be reached? You may want to consult an attorney and put your will, power of attorney, etc. into place so your sister has the best of care no matter what.
RESPONSE B: A prenup can't cover this ,its whats in the best interest of the child. If she acted as mother for years some courts would decide that visitation was appropriate at least for a time and very very rarely they would decide she should have custody it would have to be extreme.
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POST: jobs, I'm a good student, I own 2 cats (maybe not relevant but you do have to be home twice a day to feed them so - stability!) Dad says that 14F is not his child, never will be etc etc. so I think I may be able to convince him to....sign her over to me? Thai step mum will do whatever Dad says and she trusts me so that will be easy. I don't want a court battle, I want to stay in the family incase the 3M needs me in the future. I would want to move 14F to a different school with a better English as a second language program. auslaw does not give legal advice and my university doesn't have a clinic. Just looking for info on what I need to do, or the processes, or personal stories, or just some lingo! **tl;dr** want to get custody of my little sister due to Dad being a wanker
RESPONSE A: I'm American and not a lawyer. Here, a child's parents have a great deal of latitude in parenting. Since I don't recall you saying your dad had adopted her, all you would need for her to live with you is her mom saying it's ok. My mother in law is raising one of her grandchildren and the only paperwork she has is a power of attorney the mom signed so she could take him to the doctor and sign him up for school, etc. Edit.., your post is confusing. Says she only speaks English but you want a school with a good ESL program? If she only knows English I'd suspect some other learning issue that an ESL class isn't going to handle.
RESPONSE B: >Dad says that 14F is not his child, never will be etc etc. Well, she isn't. If the mother of the child allows her to live with you, that's entirely her decision. I'm not familiar with the details of Australian family law, but it would probably be very difficult to gain custody of a child whose parents are fit. You could call whatever agency handles abused children, but you would not necessarily be the person whom the child is placed with if they remove her from the abusive environment.
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POST: individual). He quit because of the immaturity among other reasons. The same co-worker has insinuated that i was also sleeping with an ex female employee that was fired from the company. They even called me Rainbow in our (private?) group text messages that’s work related. I’ve told higher “seniority” co-workers but they don’t have any clue what to do. We’ve been through 4 managers since I started in January, and their office is an hour away so they don’t see/hear what’s going on in the workplace. What do I do? It’s seriously bothering me and I’ve asked for it to stop multiple times. I’m worried that if I tell a district manager what’s going on, then I’ll get retaliated against outside of work if someone gets fired. I’m in Oregon.
RESPONSE A: Contact your local EEOC, you have rights agaist retaliation as well.
RESPONSE B: Do you have an HR department? If you complaint to them about this they should, at a minimum, tell the offender to stop and possibly discipline them. Even if you are not gay, you may have a valid legal claim for sexual harassment/hostile work environment, especially if they are singling you and calling you gay and rainbow because of your perceived sexual orientation or because they perceive you as not conforming to traditional gender stereotypes. >I’ve told higher “seniority” co-workers but they don’t have any clue what to do. I suspect they do have a clue what to do, which is tell these people to stop and discipline them and maybe even fire them especially if it continues. >I’m worried that if I tell a district manager what’s going on, then I’ll get retaliated against outside of work if someone gets fired. What out of work retaliation do you fear? You should probably minimize your interactions with these people outside work if you can. Your legal claim that they are tormenting you by calling you Rainbow at work may be undermined somewhat if you are voluntarily going out for beers with them every Friday night, for example.
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POST: Being called gay at work I started working for a major shipping company. My co-workers find it funny giving nicknames to other co-workers. They started calling me “Rainbow” and one co-worker started insinuating I’m gay by asking me if I like sharing a tent with a former male co-worker when we go camping together (I’ve never been camping with said individual). He quit because of the immaturity among other reasons. The same co-worker has insinuated that i was also sleeping with an ex female employee that was fired from the company. They even called me Rainbow in our (private?) group text messages that’s work related. I’ve told higher “seniority” co-workers but they don’t have any clue what to do. We’ve been through 4 managers since I started in January, and their office is an hour away so they don’t see/hear what’s going on in the workplace. What do I do? It’s seriously bothering me and I’ve asked for it to stop multiple times. I’m worried that if I tell a district manager what’s going on, then I’ll get retaliated against outside of work if someone gets fired. I’m in Oregon.
RESPONSE A: Email HR and cc the CEO
RESPONSE B: Document every single time an "event" happens. Ask them to stop, then tell them to stop if they persist. You can contact the EEOC as well. A hostile work environment can carry to your residence. That is also evidence of a hostile work environment. With that being said....Be rational. Admit to your emotion of how it makes you feel. Think through those emotions before you act on them. Ask them, "Why did you say that?" "Whete are you getting your information from?" Tell them, "I'm not enjoying your rudeness towards me", or ask them to repeat what they said and explain. An open discussion sometimes improves behavior that is normal to some. You don't want to accuse them of being sexist or racist, as it put people in the defensive mode. Best of luck.
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POST: Being called gay at work I started working for a major shipping company. My co-workers find it funny giving nicknames to other co-workers. They started calling me “Rainbow” and one co-worker started insinuating I’m gay by asking me if I like sharing a tent with a former male co-worker when we go camping together (I’ve never been camping with said individual). He quit because of the immaturity among other reasons. The same co-worker has insinuated that i was also sleeping with an ex female employee that was fired from the company. They even called me Rainbow in our (private?) group text messages that’s work related. I’ve told higher “seniority” co-workers but they don’t have any clue what to do. We’ve been through 4 managers since I started in January, and their office is an hour away so they don’t see/hear what’s going on in the workplace. What do I do? It’s seriously bothering me and I’ve asked for it to stop multiple times. I’m worried that if I tell a district manager what’s going on, then I’ll get retaliated against outside of work if someone gets fired. I’m in Oregon.
RESPONSE A: Record date, time, exact phrase used, and by whom EVERY SINGLE TIME. Send a copy of it in a while to them, along with a letter that’s hints toxic work environment. Send it as certified so they have to sign and you have a record of that.
RESPONSE B: Email HR and cc the CEO
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POST: to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of.
RESPONSE A: > They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do you have a bill of sale that states the car was sold "as-is"? Print out and save all copies of any communications you had with the buyer. But in the end, I assume you will be fine, assuming you did not mis-represent the car.
RESPONSE B: Vehicle sales aren't like home sales. They are a "buyer beware" situation. The seller is under no obligation to disclose even known issues. As long as you didn't ACTIVELY HIDE issues and purposefully misrepresent the car, you'll be fine. It is the buyer's responsibility to do their due diligence before buying. Presumably now they are refusing to pay you the last $100, right? IF they sue, counter sue for that amount...
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POST: . We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of.
RESPONSE A: I’m not a lawyer, but it was sold “as is”, and you have proof from your ad. I would block their numbers and disregard, as they wouldn’t have a case. Them giving payment & receiving the paperwork, seals the deal. Threatening to do something is just that.
RESPONSE B: Vehicle sales aren't like home sales. They are a "buyer beware" situation. The seller is under no obligation to disclose even known issues. As long as you didn't ACTIVELY HIDE issues and purposefully misrepresent the car, you'll be fine. It is the buyer's responsibility to do their due diligence before buying. Presumably now they are refusing to pay you the last $100, right? IF they sue, counter sue for that amount...
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POST: 't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of.
RESPONSE A: > They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do you have a bill of sale that states the car was sold "as-is"? Print out and save all copies of any communications you had with the buyer. But in the end, I assume you will be fine, assuming you did not mis-represent the car.
RESPONSE B: This happens. They buy the car then claim some latent fault and demand money back. They are just trying to get the car for cheaper. It's a scam.
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POST: frame. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of.
RESPONSE A: I’m not a lawyer, but it was sold “as is”, and you have proof from your ad. I would block their numbers and disregard, as they wouldn’t have a case. Them giving payment & receiving the paperwork, seals the deal. Threatening to do something is just that.
RESPONSE B: This happens. They buy the car then claim some latent fault and demand money back. They are just trying to get the car for cheaper. It's a scam.
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POST: year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of.
RESPONSE A: Tell them to take the vehicle to "their friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." You are fine. You sold as is and have nothing to worry about.
RESPONSE B: This happens. They buy the car then claim some latent fault and demand money back. They are just trying to get the car for cheaper. It's a scam.
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POST: Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock.
RESPONSE A: Check to see if any of your other neighbors have security cameras that may have captured the incident.
RESPONSE B: You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I
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POST: Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer. But try not to talk to your neighbor. If you see them outside, or if they knock on your door.
RESPONSE B: You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I
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POST: Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock.
RESPONSE A: You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I
RESPONSE B: Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim.
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POST: Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock.
RESPONSE A: You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I
RESPONSE B: What happened to your dog?
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POST: Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock.
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer. But try not to talk to your neighbor. If you see them outside, or if they knock on your door.
RESPONSE B: Nothing scarier than an aggressive dog coming your way when you have your child. I agree with everyone else regarding the police and animal control.
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POST: paid to have the dog neutered. I think there’s been 4 vet visits total and he has receipts for all. Recently the father of the family, upon learning the dog is up to date on its medical care and has since been successfully house and leash trained, thinks that since Elmer initially said he intended to find the dog another home he should give it back to them since they want him now. Elmer evaded the initial request and has since been avoiding them. But the family has been making this a topic of conversation in the neighborhood. I doubt they have any legal standing in the matter but Elmer has a distrustful history with police (no police record on his part afaik) and fears if he keeps ignoring them his dog will be taken from him on the word of a white family. He makes it a point to express these fears to me almost daily and has asked if he should take the dog to live with his sister but it is apparent he would be very unhappy to not have him around the house. He’s also stopped taking the dog on walks around the neighborhood and is driving every day to walk the dog elsewhere. Are there any measures I can help him take to further establish ownership of the dog?
RESPONSE A: He could start by taking to his vet about this. The vet has records and may have practical advice. Also, if something does happen, he has already had a conversation with an independent authority and he can say to police "Call the vet".
RESPONSE B: They have no proof of ownership. They stated their intention to abandon the dog. They gave him possession and ownership of the dog. Elmer now has a record of ownership in the vet bills stronger than they could claim (he has vet bills vs their word that they own the dog). If they were to call the police, they’d have to prove ownership - doesn’t sound like they can do that. Do not acknowledge any “ownership” on their part whatsoever, especially not in writing. Make sure Elmer knows this. This is Elmer’s dog, always has been. As for strengthening his claim: are there any requirements for pet licenses/registration in your area? Is the dog microchipped? Get both if possible.
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POST: of her neighbors offered to buy it for $20k (her asking is 75). He says he plans to tear down the house itself to give him a large yard. When she said no for a month he upped his offer to 25 and then 30k. She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you.
RESPONSE A: You might consider installing cameras and catching this bullshit on camera, where it can be used in court if need be, or in conjunction to a C&D letter.
RESPONSE B: Ask one of your friends to pose as interested buyers and have them record any interaction with the neighbor (assuming legal in your state). Useful evidence and you could even repeat this with other friends to really paint a picture for the court.
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POST: She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you.
RESPONSE A: You might consider installing cameras and catching this bullshit on camera, where it can be used in court if need be, or in conjunction to a C&D letter.
RESPONSE B: isnt the realtor suppose to deal with it extremely easily? Hell jus saying - "*and here comes the neighbor who offered $20k for the house and is bit disappointing about being turned so he is trying to be nuisance*" right in front of him as he arrives and not letting him speak and get inside the house... I mean these guys are payed by commission no? So shouldnt they be pretty motivated to reduce his interference preventing them from getting the pay day?
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POST: is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you.
RESPONSE A: isnt the realtor suppose to deal with it extremely easily? Hell jus saying - "*and here comes the neighbor who offered $20k for the house and is bit disappointing about being turned so he is trying to be nuisance*" right in front of him as he arrives and not letting him speak and get inside the house... I mean these guys are payed by commission no? So shouldnt they be pretty motivated to reduce his interference preventing them from getting the pay day?
RESPONSE B: Is she willing to rent it out for a while instead? Some short term pain but it would get your neighbor off her back and make a little bit of short term income too.
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POST: offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you.
RESPONSE A: isnt the realtor suppose to deal with it extremely easily? Hell jus saying - "*and here comes the neighbor who offered $20k for the house and is bit disappointing about being turned so he is trying to be nuisance*" right in front of him as he arrives and not letting him speak and get inside the house... I mean these guys are payed by commission no? So shouldnt they be pretty motivated to reduce his interference preventing them from getting the pay day?
RESPONSE B: I'd send him a letter explaining that you do not want him interfering with prospective buyers. Send the letter via certified mail so you have a record. If he persists, hire a lawyer and sue for "tortious interference," also known as intentional interference with contractual relations. This occurs when one person intentionally damages someone else's contractual or business relationships with a third party causing economic harm.
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POST: any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you.
RESPONSE A: I'd send him a letter explaining that you do not want him interfering with prospective buyers. Send the letter via certified mail so you have a record. If he persists, hire a lawyer and sue for "tortious interference," also known as intentional interference with contractual relations. This occurs when one person intentionally damages someone else's contractual or business relationships with a third party causing economic harm.
RESPONSE B: If he owns a security company it may be worthwhile to verify he does in fact hold a valid license. Also check and make sure he isn't doing anything against the rules/laws regarding the company. Many places private investigators and security companies have different laws regarding what they are and aren't allowed to do. Here's a place to start: http://www.dps.state.ia.us/asd/pi/pi80a03code.pdf If he's simply claiming to have a security company (but really doesn't) you might be extra interested in page 6. Also if he's "advertising" his services in a non-ethical way you might have recourse with your state attorney general. Check here and see if what he's doing falls under what your state might consider unethical and worthy of investigation. https://www.iowaattorneygeneral.gov/for-consumers/file-a-consumer-complaint/ Also found this while searching: https://www.legis.iowa.gov/docs/ACO/chapter/661.121.pdf Specifically see if these have any weight with what he's doing: “Moral turpitude” is an act of baseness, vileness, or depravity or conduct which is contrary to justice, honesty, or good morals. Examples of moral turpitude may include, but are not limited to, the following: 1. Any act or pattern of conduct involving dishonesty, fraud, or deception
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POST: he would return to fix the job. To this, I explained what the plumber said. He didn’t care. He noted a few things though: * (1) He wants me and/or the plumber to be responsible for any water damage. * (2) He said that I hired the plumber, and that now I am responsible for his job. To which I said that he was involved through the entire process, that I edited the schedule to meet his needs. I cannot surrender that, even though I signed the contract and made the calls, he gave implicit agreement throughout this entire process UNTIL the job was over. * (3) He asked me to contact the plumber so he could talk to them. I refused, saying that if he has a problem and I don’t, it is HIS responsibility to do this in the shared system. * (4) He wants me to NOT pay the plumber so the plumber can sue ME. I gave them the plumber’s number and they plan on calling them today. I would seriously doubt the plumber will fix the job that has objectively been done well. **What do I do? My neighbor hasn’t paid a dime. I don’t even care about payment anymore, I just want this miserable fuck to go away.**
RESPONSE A: Pay the plumber and demand the proper contribution from the neighbor. If they don't pay, sue them in small claims. **I know you don't want to poke the bear but the bear is already poked:** they are already claiming to be "damaged" by your good deeds, thus they are already going to be a shithead neighbor. There's no sense in dealing with a jerk next door *and* going out of pocket on the bill.
RESPONSE B: You could pay the plumber yourself, then take your neighbor to court for the half that they had agreed to pay, as it sounds like they had texted agreeing. Get a different reputable plumber that you don't have previous dealings with to look at the job. Use the report from new plumber as evidence and that your neighbor had agreed to paying half of it. You seem to actually have a leg up on your neighbor, but take my opinion with grains of salt as I am not a lawyer nor studied law
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POST: this with insurance? Hello, Actually not me, but my S/O just had this happen to her. She had a carload full of kids on the freeway, the other driver wanted into the fast lane, girlfriend continued with the flow of traffic. Other driver gets pissed, swerves in and out of the lane, flips my S/O off and drives away. Fast forward about 5 minutes, my girlfriend didn't think anything of it, and suddenly that same driver cuts across three lanes right in front of my girlfriend. With absolutely no one in front of her, the driver slams her breaks. My girlfriend guestimated about a car and a half length between them, she slightly bumps her. No visible damage on the drivers car, while my girlfriends car is slightly damaged but still driveable. Luckily none of the kids were hurt, and my girlfriend gets out calmly to see if the other driver is okay, not realizing that this was the person who flipped her off. The lady in the car proceeds to roll her window down and yell, "That's what you get bitch, I am calling the cops." Girlfriend then goes back to the car, now enraged because she realizes the situation and waits for the cop. He makes a report, my girlfriend explains the situation, he is obviously staying neutral and doing his job, he makes sure everyone has each others contact info/insurance etc. My question is, once insurance gets involved how screwed are we? There is no way to prove this is how it went down, and in my experience the fault is always the driver who rear ended the other. Is there anyway we can handle this differently, short of going back in time and installing a dash cam?
RESPONSE A: With her statement on file, your insurance company will probably assign enough liability for the accident on the other party to make them legally barred from getting a settlement. In most states, if the other party is found to have contributed to causing the accident with their negligence, it reduces their settlement. And if they are found to have 50% liability, they are legally barred from a settlement.
RESPONSE B: This is the epitome of the importance of a dash cam.
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POST: company illegally raising rent and forcing us out, my roommate can lose their job! So about a year ago this apartment complex got sold to a new company and has been down hill from there. My partner has lived here for 10 year without issue until may of this year. New management sent out an email and called my partner stating that our lease would be up for renewal in July and that the cost would now be $1420. We currently pay $1000 plus utilities. When we said we couldn’t do that her response was we can stay month to month for $1750. So we don’t have rent control in our state but, they must provide 60 days WRITTEN notice that starts on the first of the following month of notice given. They did not do that and instead sent a letter not even a month later saying we owe back rent for about $750 and we had 14 days to negotiate or pay. We sent a letter stating they did not provide accurate notice and an attachment of the state law. To which they said “we sent an email and taped it to your door”. They did not put anything on our door and I have a camera on that door. So this Tuesday we got a 14 day pay or vacate notice on our door and in the mail later that week. Yet they couldn’t do that for the rent increase?! My roommate can lose their job! We have no where else to go and have three cats and most places around us won’t allow them all. I’m beyond mad at this company and when looking them up you see nothing but negative reviews and comments. Someone help us.
RESPONSE A: What state do you live in? Many state laws act in favor of tenants over landlords.
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POST: Two loose dogs forced their way into my house and attacked my dog. My wife was home but unharmed. I'm in Saratoga County, New York. My wife was getting the mail and two loose pit-bill mix dogs came up to her as she approached our front door. They wouldn't move away so she tried to squeeze past them through our screen door into the house. As soon as she cracked the door, the two dogs forced their way past her into our house and attacked our 10-lb. chihuahua. My wife wrestled our dog free from one of the dogs' jaws and was then chased into a backroom where she locked the door. After a while she heard the dogs leave and rushed our chihuahua to the vet. His jaw was broken on both sides and we had to drive him 3 hours to Cornell Animal Hospital for surgery. The bill, so far, is about $5000. My wife was not injured in the incident, but obviously suffered great emotional trauma and is having panic attacks two weeks later. Our dog is making a slow recovery, and it is has been just awful having to see him suffer like this. Yesterday, the dog warden finally located the owners of the loose dogs. I called a personal injury lawyer but they said they would only take the case if the loose dogs had hurt a person. What are my legal options to make sure we are fairly compensated?
RESPONSE A: Aren't dogs considered property? Couldn't you sue for "damages of property" and also report the owners to the police?
RESPONSE B: You can file in small claims for the vet bills.
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POST: Two loose dogs forced their way into my house and attacked my dog. My wife was home but unharmed. I'm in Saratoga County, New York. My wife was getting the mail and two loose pit-bill mix dogs came up to her as she approached our front door. They wouldn't move away so she tried to squeeze past them through our screen door into the house. As soon as she cracked the door, the two dogs forced their way past her into our house and attacked our 10-lb. chihuahua. My wife wrestled our dog free from one of the dogs' jaws and was then chased into a backroom where she locked the door. After a while she heard the dogs leave and rushed our chihuahua to the vet. His jaw was broken on both sides and we had to drive him 3 hours to Cornell Animal Hospital for surgery. The bill, so far, is about $5000. My wife was not injured in the incident, but obviously suffered great emotional trauma and is having panic attacks two weeks later. Our dog is making a slow recovery, and it is has been just awful having to see him suffer like this. Yesterday, the dog warden finally located the owners of the loose dogs. I called a personal injury lawyer but they said they would only take the case if the loose dogs had hurt a person. What are my legal options to make sure we are fairly compensated?
RESPONSE A: "fairly compensated" in this instance is limited to your vet bills. Sue the owner or make a claim with his home owner's insurance
RESPONSE B: Aren't dogs considered property? Couldn't you sue for "damages of property" and also report the owners to the police?
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POST: Two loose dogs forced their way into my house and attacked my dog. My wife was home but unharmed. I'm in Saratoga County, New York. My wife was getting the mail and two loose pit-bill mix dogs came up to her as she approached our front door. They wouldn't move away so she tried to squeeze past them through our screen door into the house. As soon as she cracked the door, the two dogs forced their way past her into our house and attacked our 10-lb. chihuahua. My wife wrestled our dog free from one of the dogs' jaws and was then chased into a backroom where she locked the door. After a while she heard the dogs leave and rushed our chihuahua to the vet. His jaw was broken on both sides and we had to drive him 3 hours to Cornell Animal Hospital for surgery. The bill, so far, is about $5000. My wife was not injured in the incident, but obviously suffered great emotional trauma and is having panic attacks two weeks later. Our dog is making a slow recovery, and it is has been just awful having to see him suffer like this. Yesterday, the dog warden finally located the owners of the loose dogs. I called a personal injury lawyer but they said they would only take the case if the loose dogs had hurt a person. What are my legal options to make sure we are fairly compensated?
RESPONSE A: Aren't dogs considered property? Couldn't you sue for "damages of property" and also report the owners to the police?
RESPONSE B: You can sue them. You can also work with the ACO and whatever court manages animal control in your jurisdiction to see if the owner will plead to something that includes restitution.
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POST: My sister got pulled over while driving my car with an expired registration. Hello. About a month ago my license got suspended for 6 months and I told my sister she could borrow it for that time period so she could find a job and I could get to the store and doctors appointments, etc. My birthday was on the 8th and my registration expired but I wasn't able to renew it without getting an SR22 on my insurance. To avoid a long, confusing explanation, there was no way to keep us both insured on my car at the same time. She didn't listen and continued to drive my car after rejecting my offers to just sell it to her and last night (her last night with the car) she got pulled over for who knows what and got a ticket for expired registration and weed paraphernalia in the car (Ohio) and has to go to court. I'm just curious if this is going to come back on me as the owner of the car and what to expect maybe. TLDR: My sister got pulled over while driving my car with an expired registration and I want to know if it will affect me.
RESPONSE A: If she doesn't take care of the tickets, it could.
RESPONSE B: No idea. But if you have any texts or anything telling her to stop using the car, make sure you save them. And if you *haven't* sent her a text telling her to not-use the car, do so now, just in case something worse happens the next time she takes the car when you're not looking. [Don't make it like "Don't use the car", more like "As I've told you before, don't use the car", which is clearer that you've had this discussion sometime before the text was sent.]
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POST: was cited and given a court date. I ran over a curb when I was leaving but definitely not a car. What can I do? I am on felony probation and my PO won't be happy to learn of this tomorrow. My probation won't be revoked, but they just don't like any hints of rumblings of any sort of trouble. My car also doesn't have any corroborating damage. Do I call my insurance? I'm at a little bit of a loss on what to do. Edited to add: my work doesn't have any surveillance in the parking lot and isn't surrounded by any businesses.
RESPONSE A: Take pictures of your car as soon as you can, make sure the metadata has the date of the photos attached. Record what happened, and any other useful details you can think of. Write the date of when you recorded it. Contact your PO anyway, tell them what happened so they don't find out the other way most POs will prefer to hear it from you. Don't answer questions from the police, it will not help you in any way.
RESPONSE B: Gather any evidence you can. Take detailed photos and video of your entire car in a well lit place showing that there's no sign of damage on your vehicle, and store them in a safe place (make several copies just in case.) If you can, get the date+time embedded in the photos as well in some form so it's clear it's soon after the report (ie, you wouldn't have had time to hide any damage). Like, get a newspaper or something so you can show that the photos were taken on or after the date of the alleged incident. Maybe consider getting a mechanic to look at the vehicle and get a report from them showing no signs of recent damage or repairs (like the ole magnet test looking for filler, etc) Then whomever supposedly witnessed this event will need to describe how you allegedly hit the vehicle, and you'll be able to show that your vehicle doesn't have any corresponding marks or dents immediately after the incident. And hire a lawyer, don't do this solo if you can possibly help it, given you're on probation.
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POST: I ran over a curb but definitely didn't hit a car. A customer allegedly took a photo of my car leaving. What do I do, Idaho. I had a cop show up at my door last night asking me about an alleged hit and run. The cop explained what happened (explains in title) I was cited and given a court date. I ran over a curb when I was leaving but definitely not a car. What can I do? I am on felony probation and my PO won't be happy to learn of this tomorrow. My probation won't be revoked, but they just don't like any hints of rumblings of any sort of trouble. My car also doesn't have any corroborating damage. Do I call my insurance? I'm at a little bit of a loss on what to do. Edited to add: my work doesn't have any surveillance in the parking lot and isn't surrounded by any businesses.
RESPONSE A: In Idaho, you can get a “hit and run” for damaging property (like a tree) with your vehicle and leaving the scene, even if no one else was involved. Police like to follow-up on hit and runs to see If you smell like alcohol when you answer the door. It can also be leaving the scene of an accident.If you damaged the curb, that also may be why they are pursuing you, but they would’ve usually cited you then. I doubt you would hear anything more from the police, but confirm with your attorney. Be proactive with your PO, cause they’ll find out ASAP anyway, and this shouldn’t be a big deal. Source: have been on felony probation, been in an unrelated similar situation, and work as a legal assistant.
RESPONSE B: If it’s criminal court, they have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that you hit a car. Did the owner of the other car file a report that you hit their car? Was there damage? Were there any other cameras in the area that could tell the story from another angle? I’d get an attorney involved. First rule with cops: Did you shut up and say, “I’ll get back to you with my attorney’s information?”
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POST: I was cited with misdemeanor hit and run for hitting a car in the parking lot at work. When I left work I ran over a curb but definitely didn't hit a car. A customer allegedly took a photo of my car leaving. What do I do, Idaho. I had a cop show up at my door last night asking me about an alleged hit and run. The cop explained what happened (explains in title) I was cited and given a court date. I ran over a curb when I was leaving but definitely not a car. What can I do? I am on felony probation and my PO won't be happy to learn of this tomorrow. My probation won't be revoked, but they just don't like any hints of rumblings of any sort of trouble. My car also doesn't have any corroborating damage. Do I call my insurance? I'm at a little bit of a loss on what to do. Edited to add: my work doesn't have any surveillance in the parking lot and isn't surrounded by any businesses.
RESPONSE A: Just a side note, typically if you are on federal probation you are not suppose to help any law enforcement agency in any way with any kind of information without going through your probation officer, with that being said although you don’t need one, if contacted by law enforcement again tell them that for your excuse of why you can’t speak with them without your probation officer and attorney present, don’t offer any information like hitting a curb or anything, all they’re trying to do is get you to incriminate yourself anyways.
RESPONSE B: If it’s criminal court, they have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that you hit a car. Did the owner of the other car file a report that you hit their car? Was there damage? Were there any other cameras in the area that could tell the story from another angle? I’d get an attorney involved. First rule with cops: Did you shut up and say, “I’ll get back to you with my attorney’s information?”
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POST: My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do?
RESPONSE A: >I don't have any monetary damages, You do have monetary damages if you hire a lawyer to oppose this and the emotional distress you are experiencing from being served with a false petition calling you a stalker is also compensable. Talk to an attorney about suing him for malicious prosecution/abuse of process or whatever the correct tort is under your state's law.
RESPONSE B: Seek a lawyer to see what your options and when the hearing takes place have all your ducks in a row to get it quashed.Whatever allegations have been made against you disoute them eith whatever proof you have(call history, google locarion info,etc)Good luck to you.
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POST: My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do?
RESPONSE A: You need to remove this off your record - period. It will always be present if someone runs your DL - and possibly if they do a check for employment (depending on what you would do) - definitely if a teacher, interacting with kids, interacting with money .... I'd fight back with a defamation suit ... and get an attorney.
RESPONSE B: >I don't have any monetary damages, You do have monetary damages if you hire a lawyer to oppose this and the emotional distress you are experiencing from being served with a false petition calling you a stalker is also compensable. Talk to an attorney about suing him for malicious prosecution/abuse of process or whatever the correct tort is under your state's law.
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POST: Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through.
RESPONSE A: You can contact your local police department and ask them what the process is for getting a civil standby. Different departments may have different policies in place. They may require a court order first.
RESPONSE B: It’s ridiculous that this needs to be said but Texas law does not give anyone the right to shoot other people coming to collect their personal property.
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POST: Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through.
RESPONSE A: It’s ridiculous that this needs to be said but Texas law does not give anyone the right to shoot other people coming to collect their personal property.
RESPONSE B: Call the police
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POST: Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through.
RESPONSE A: Call the police
RESPONSE B: You've already got good advice. The Civil standby IS the correct way to do this. I just want to add that you need to do this ASAP as in most states if you wait too long your property is considered abandoned. I know in my state you only have 90 days. Unsure about Texas.
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POST: Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through.
RESPONSE A: Call the police
RESPONSE B: Contact your local sheriff’s department. They will escort you to get your belongings. If he tries to pull a gun on them, I’m sure it’ll be a much different scenario than he had imagined. Also, that’s a bullshit argument that obviously an uneducated douche bag would make to say “in Texas I can shoot anyone for trespassing as long as their forewarned” LOL. uhhh, like wtf? As an attorney, that’s not an actual thing. In any state. And I’m from texas. There’s all kinds of elements that go into it, which i will not get into but you can’t just shoot people bc they’re on your property. But I dare him to fucking find out. The DA’s office and law enforcement would be all over that shit.
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POST: to park it until the insurance kicked in. 4 days after I bought it the police came with a court order and seized the car. It took me 2 more days of calling the police station before I was finally informed that the previous owner of the car is suspected of killing someone. A couple of weeks later I was informed that significant evidence had been found in the car and since it is now evidence in a murder case the police will be keeping it indefinitely and because they took it legally with a court order they don’t have to reimburse me. The dealership is saying that they bought and sold the car fairly and legally, which I am fairly certain is true, I believe they didn’t know the guy was a murderer so they refuse to give me my money back. The insurance company says the car wasn’t technically insured yet so they don’t have to pay me. What do I do here? I bought the car because I got a new (better) job which I need a car to get to because public transit doesn’t service the area where it is located. The $5000.00 was all I had, it took me over 2 years to save it. The manager and environment at my current job is unbearable and I only stay because I have life insurance here which I can’t get anywhere else due to a pre-existing condition. I am supposed to start the new job Monday. Thankfully I haven’t given notice at my current job, I was planning on leaving Friday without notice (I know it’s awful but they have done some awful stuff to me first). If I can’t get my money back I will have to start over and save for another 2 years while staying at my current job. What can I do? I’m in Ontario.
RESPONSE A: Legal Aid Ontario runs community legal clinics, They might be able to help you. I'm sorry, this sucks.
RESPONSE B: Not legal advice, but have you told the people at your new job yet? Maybe they have someone who can carpool with you or help you with transportation in some other way, while you try to sort this out. They hired you, which means they want you to work there, and they may be willing to work with you on this. Don't just give up without reaching out to them.
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POST: (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious.
RESPONSE A: And please get a permanent restraining order if these exist in your state. I'm not a lawyer
RESPONSE B: No attorney needed unless you plan on suing him, which if he is broke is pointless because attorneys cost $$$. Report the incidences to the police who will decide what action to take.
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POST: (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious.
RESPONSE A: Yes, Minn. Stat. 634.20 allows his prior behavior to be brought up during trial to a certain extent as "relationship evidence." The prosecutor will have to provide notice before trial, and the judge will probably put some limits on how much you can talk about. The prosecutor will discuss this with you if it goes to trial.
RESPONSE B: You may want to talk to a domestic violence organization, where counselors and legal people can give you more specifics--and non-legal help as well.
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POST: (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious.
RESPONSE A: Yes, Minn. Stat. 634.20 allows his prior behavior to be brought up during trial to a certain extent as "relationship evidence." The prosecutor will have to provide notice before trial, and the judge will probably put some limits on how much you can talk about. The prosecutor will discuss this with you if it goes to trial.
RESPONSE B: Yes, you absolutely can bring up past abuse. It's good you have dated evidence of past abused and shows it's repeated behavior (even if it only happened *once*, it's obviously never ok). Even though you're pressing charges mostly because he hurt your dog, remember that you deserve justice for everything he did to *you*, too. If they end up not prosecuting him, don't take it to mean what your ex did was right or you were wrong for reporting it. Reporting it takes a lot of courage so be proud of yourself. Give your pup a hug for me, and good luck.
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POST: (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious.
RESPONSE A: I haven't seen this here yet, but from other posts I've seen I think it's important to mention that you should back up all of your records/evidence and burn the to a CD/DVD (or multiple copies) and give that to the police/prosecutors. If you only have the videos on your phone they can't exactly keep that as evidence unless they take your phone away from you.
RESPONSE B: So what he arrested when you called the police? MN automatically puts a No Contact Order or Order for Protection for all domestic abuse cases.
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POST: (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious.
RESPONSE A: I haven't seen this here yet, but from other posts I've seen I think it's important to mention that you should back up all of your records/evidence and burn the to a CD/DVD (or multiple copies) and give that to the police/prosecutors. If you only have the videos on your phone they can't exactly keep that as evidence unless they take your phone away from you.
RESPONSE B: If you have any kind of evidence or documentation of his abuse then you can and should absolutely provide that to your attorney or counsel. It doesn't matter if you think it may be trivial or not. If you have something that can support or bolster your claims then it would be prudent to turn everything you can over to your legal representation.
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POST: any advice that is given. I need advice about what I can do to help my son cope with this emotionally at home(he is still in counseling). What he could try to do when the bullying is happening. Advice about how I should handle it with the school. Advice about if I can get police involved in this or not. As I said, just incase this info is needed, my son is high functioning autistic. He has had all the treatment and therapy I could get for him for his autism and no longer is in any. He does not have an IEP or anything like it. He excels academically and now his main struggles are sensory, social and fine motor skills. He doesn't qualify for assistance or therapies as he is not "disabled enough". TL;DR: High functioning autistic son being bullied at school. How can I help him and pursue safety for him at school and consequences for these little shits? Also sorry for any errors I am a bit of a mess right now.
RESPONSE A: https://www.stopbullying.gov/laws/new-york/index.html
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer - Did he ever have an IEP, or did they completely mainstream him and get him off it? Is there any chance you could at least get him a 504 due to the anxiety? Who said he isn't "disabled enough"? Was it the IEP team? If so, if it has been more than 12 months since he last got evaluated for an IEP, time for you to request another evaluation in all areas of suspected disability. Do you think he would benefit from an IEP i.e. would having resource room available for a quiet testing environment be helpful or him, or having OT/PT available monthly to help with sensory and motor issues be helpful? Since he is in middle school, talk to the guidance office - they might be able to set up a social skills group for the next school year - they could call it a lunch club or something, have kids who aren't good socially sit together at lunch and talk. Are you involved with Easter Seals? They usually have some programs for kids - might be helpful.
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POST: the police more times than I can count but we are reaching almost 30ish times. I'm scared for her safety and really need some advice on what we can and can't do. All of this has caused her to end up in the hospital (she almost had a heart attack), she stares at the clock when it gets time for him to come home, she flinches when you move to fast, and Shes broken down crying on call with me way too many times. I need help and so does she. What do we do?... what can we do?...
RESPONSE A: You need to call APS. Adult Protective Services and you need to mention the health and safety of both your mother and brother are at risk. APS has the power to light fires under DHS to get paperwork moving for you. They can, sometimes, do emergency placements. Next, you're going to reach out to Division of Development Disabilities. APS will probably want to get them involved, regardless. What you're interested in is the Developmental Disabilities Waiver. Once this ball gets rolling, you can get on the train of looking into homes. **HOWEVER, if your mother is actual physical danger, you can call 911.** YES, your brother will get in trouble with the law. BUT this will sometimes make the COURT order him to go into a GROUP HOME. Meaning, APS and the Court will be lighting the fire under the Division of DD for you as well.
RESPONSE B: See if he qualifies for aid with the local regional center or something similar to that. In California, we have regional centers which assists Individuals with Developmental Disabilities. Usually you have to qualify as a child to get services as an adult. However, if there are sufficient medical records from his childhood that a screening can be done now to see if he would have qualified then, it is a good idea to try. If he does qualify for assistance or something similar, they may be able to find a home. As he is an adult, your mother is not responsible for him any more. She can tell the center that she doesn't want him in her home and they could potentially establish a conservatorship over him.
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POST: My roof rack ripped off on the highway while two kayaks were tied to it. Hello, I was wondering how this would work out. I own a car which I had a roof rack installed for close to 500$. It's my car and it's all original parts, installed by the same dealer itself. This was installed december 2019 and was covered by them for 24 months or 40k kilometers, whichever comes first. Now with covid being in our lives since a little while, we hardly even used the roof rack since everything was pretty much on pause since the outbreak. We ONLY and by only I mean exclusively used the roof racks for transporting the kayaks. The roof racks are supposed to hold up to 132lbs and each kayak weighs a little less than 40lbs. Earlier today my wife and I were on the highway, rolling 90km/h in a 100 km/h limite, the whole roof rack ripped off completely and LUCKILY, no one was nearby because the two kayaks flew off and stayed strapped on together. Now, we've busted the warranty by 5000 kilometers and 6 months and I don't know if I could claim through consumers protection laws that something worth 500$ should last longter than two and a half years, considering there was only 6 months of usage too. The two kayaks (worth 600$ each) have considerable damage. The roof rack is completely demolished and even the car antenna was clipped. Can I do anything? I'm asking in advance because the dealer that I have to talk with about this has a very bad reputation and I'd like to be prepared. I'm in Montreal, Quebec, Canada. Thanks in advance.
RESPONSE A: r/Legaladvicecanada
RESPONSE B: Unless your insurance covers this, I don't see how anyone else is responsible. You have a duty to inspect your vehicle to ensure its safe before driving. That includes checking the roof rack and the kayaks.
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POST: Employer hasn't put money in my 401k since Sept 6th and I'm considering taking action I'm curious what my options are for this in Illinois? This is someone I've worked for for about 7 months and my first 401k deduction is the only one they've put in. The owner blames it on the HR person for typos on checks but I've asked 3 times about this, and it's company wide. No ones gotten their money since sept 6th. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
RESPONSE A: One option is to request assistance from the U.S. Department of Labor Employee Benefits Security Administration.
RESPONSE B: The fact that your first 401k deduction made it to your 401k account but the later ones didn't, and also every employee is in the same situation, convinces me that this is not HR error or incompetence but a sign that the company is in trouble. Management made a decision not to send the later deductions to employees' 401k accounts because they realize that most employees don't check very often. This is a dishonest act of desperation on their part. Others have given you good advice. Start looking for another job because this company is most likely going down.
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POST: [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared.
RESPONSE A: You may want to consider going on offense. Get a restraining order.
RESPONSE B: If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit.
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POST: [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared.
RESPONSE A: If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer. There isn't anything stopping CPS from showing up. If they have a report, they investigate. It's everything on your end from that point on that determines whether or not the report was justified. Have your pediatrician print off their growth charts. That will show what percentile they are in and whether your children are malnourished or not. Even having printoffs of all the wellness checks for your children would be helpful. House should be as decluttered as possible. Doesn't have to be absolutely spotless, you have 3 month old twins for crying out loud. Nothing that screams dirty or any funky smells. Cribs should be bumper free following the standard safety guidelines. Business as usual. She doesn't have jack squat. If you have any emails or texts with her threats, print them off for your lawyer. Communications should be writtten from now on.
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POST: [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared.
RESPONSE A: I would be more worried about her attempting to abduct your twins. Are you guys no contact?
RESPONSE B: If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit.
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POST: [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared.
RESPONSE A: Head on over to r/justnomil you'll see that threats like this are actually not uncommon. I have yet to actually hear of a case where the mil was successful. Cps won't just swoop in and take the kids away because there's a crumb on the floor either. Relax. Have an attorney on speed dial just in case. But you should be fine.
RESPONSE B: The other advice concerning finding a family attorney is on-point, I would make sure that you find one with CPS experience, as that seems to be the most likely avenue of attack. This is written from the opposite perspective (a NJ attorney that helps grandparents petition for visitation of their grandchildren), but if this article is correct, you will probably stand a good chance against her in court, if things get that far. The major key being that she doesn't have any pre-existing relationship with the twins. Good luck.
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POST: [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared.
RESPONSE A: Head on over to r/justnomil you'll see that threats like this are actually not uncommon. I have yet to actually hear of a case where the mil was successful. Cps won't just swoop in and take the kids away because there's a crumb on the floor either. Relax. Have an attorney on speed dial just in case. But you should be fine.
RESPONSE B: If you start getting visits from CPS and/or other agencies then keep detailed documentation of every visit. Include who visited, dates & times, etc. If MIL starts filing lots of bogus complaints then showing a log of visits to each investigator that shows up will go a long way towards convincing them that the calls are just meant to harass you. It can also prove very useful if/when any lawsuits, restraining orders, etc. occur.
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POST: my girlfriend took the plunge and moved in with me on the East Coast. My in-laws were extremely against this move and essentially cursed my 1-year old son and disowned my gf and my son for not following their advice to shun me. They also forbid their two children from having any contact with my girlfriend who is there Beloved aunt. It was a lot of work, but we married and three years later have three kids and a terrific life After our initial struggles. However the in-laws still have my phone, and have since shown the contents to my father-in-law and have tried to show my mother-in-law as well. They told her that they plan on showing their daughter (my niece in-law) when she has grown as well To justify Cutting off all contact with her aunt. We have had extremely limited contact with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law and I have Demanded my phone back twice to no response. I initially did not push the issue Because I didn’t want more drama in my wife and i’s fragile marriage... But now this is a huge source of drama when we visit family in the Midwest and angering to me. They made false accusations about me to famy members two months ago. There is absolutely nothing illegal on my phone, just kinky sexting and pictures that my in laws find offensive And I feel it is being held hostage because my in-laws look stupid now that my wife and I have a thriving family and they want to have something to justify their malevolent actions. What is on my phone is of zero business to them. Any advice on how I go about getting my phone back, as well as any legal repercussions I could take would be very appreciated. I consider my phone stolen by them, but I realize it’s not straight fwd because my wife took it from me and gave it to them. However, I do not know if this falls within the laws against “revenge porn”
RESPONSE A: Whether it falls under revenge porn is going to depend in large part on what states are actually involved. "Midwest" is not a legal jurisdiction.
RESPONSE B: I don't understand why you didn't remote wipe it
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POST: AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too.
RESPONSE A: I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory.
RESPONSE B: Was she representing herself as a medical professional such as a physician or pharmacist? If so, you could report her to the state licensing board. Consult an attorney about suing her, but it’s not illegal to have stupid beliefs, and your family member probably bears most of the blame for listening to her.
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POST: AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too.
RESPONSE A: I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory.
RESPONSE B: This is going to depend on how this lady represents herself. Is she calling herself a physician/medical practitioner/etc? Even the borderline quackery "health" sites out there selling this will tell a patient in the advanced stages of cancer to user established protocols. If she's promoting herself as any kind of authority that should be stopped. You could talk to your local authorities/your doctors about fraud. I'm going to guess his oncologist wouldn't guarantee that the tumor wouldn't ulcerate, which would make any damages difficult if not impossible to prove.
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POST: AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too.
RESPONSE A: Report her to the FDA. She claimed something cured cancer: she held it out to be a drug (drug in the medication sense of the word). Then she sold it without the drug being licensed
RESPONSE B: I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory.
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POST: AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too.
RESPONSE A: Best you can probably do is report her to the elders of her congregation and get her run out.
RESPONSE B: I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory.
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POST: AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too.
RESPONSE A: I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory.
RESPONSE B: did she claim the tea treated his disease? that's a very big deal if she did, like decades in federal prison big.
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POST: Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship?
RESPONSE A: As a side note: if he sends you ANYTHING from the law office, especially on the lawyer's letterhead, be sure to contact the lawyer and let them know he is using their letterhead. If it's legit, they will be aware of it. If he is throwing his weight around, he probably will be unemployed shortly after.
RESPONSE B: Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship.
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POST: Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship?
RESPONSE A: As a side note: if he sends you ANYTHING from the law office, especially on the lawyer's letterhead, be sure to contact the lawyer and let them know he is using their letterhead. If it's legit, they will be aware of it. If he is throwing his weight around, he probably will be unemployed shortly after.
RESPONSE B: Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story
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POST: Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship?
RESPONSE A: He sounds like an idiot. "Estoppel" is one of those words that people who have just started learning about the law like to throw around, usually with a hilarious misunderstanding of what the word actually means. It's like when a high school student takes their first-ever logic class, and suddenly everything on Reddit is a straw man. Unless there's a lot more to the story, you're fine. If you're actually sued, which is unlikely, make sure you respond. EDIT: Estoppel and mens rea. I don't know what it is about those two but hopefully your ex will try to combine them both with "straw man" in an actual legal proceeding at some point.
RESPONSE B: Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship.
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POST: Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship?
RESPONSE A: He sounds like an idiot. "Estoppel" is one of those words that people who have just started learning about the law like to throw around, usually with a hilarious misunderstanding of what the word actually means. It's like when a high school student takes their first-ever logic class, and suddenly everything on Reddit is a straw man. Unless there's a lot more to the story, you're fine. If you're actually sued, which is unlikely, make sure you respond. EDIT: Estoppel and mens rea. I don't know what it is about those two but hopefully your ex will try to combine them both with "straw man" in an actual legal proceeding at some point.
RESPONSE B: Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story
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POST: my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house. I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him?
RESPONSE A: The applicable South Carolina statutory rape laws would only apply if the accused is over 18 and the victim is under 16. That has never been and never will be the case in your relationship, so you do not need to prove that you’ve never had sexual contact. (Incidentally, there does not need to be penetration for there to be illegal sexual contact, if the 16-18 gap exists.) Your mom has no leverage over your boyfriend. On the other hand, it sounds like she does have leverage over you and your studies, so bear that in mind when dealing with her. You might share this threat with a guidance counselor at school so they could help you push back on any decision that would negatively affect your extracurriculars.
RESPONSE B: I don’t see how he could be charged with statutory when nothing happened until you were the age of consent in your state (16). She might try to claim it happened earlier, but what proof would she have?
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POST: ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house. I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him?
RESPONSE A: As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info
RESPONSE B: SC cop. This is not a crime.
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POST: my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house. I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him?
RESPONSE A: As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info
RESPONSE B: I don’t see how he could be charged with statutory when nothing happened until you were the age of consent in your state (16). She might try to claim it happened earlier, but what proof would she have?
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POST: We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him?
RESPONSE A: Consider the evidence here - it's one person making claims of wrongdoing. Think about her reliability and credibility from the perspective of police, DA, jury, etc. The main danger here is she reports something and gets the authorities involved long enough that they question you/bf and you somehow accidentally incriminate yourselves. If it gets to the point of the police questioning anyone just make sure you/he exercise your right to remain silent and right to an attorney - do not answer questions and do not speak except to insist upon your right to an attorney. Have that plan in mind "just in case" - the way this turns into something it shouldn't is if you/he get talkative with the authorities and say something that can be construed as incriminating. This applies even if it's "just a friendly chat to clear something up/help with an investigation" - not saying the police are bad people, but the common phrase is "anything you say can/will be used AGAINST you in a court of law" - things you say to the police can be used against you even if you don't know how at the time.
RESPONSE B: As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info
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POST: ’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house. I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him?
RESPONSE A: You're over the age of consent.
RESPONSE B: As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info
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POST: and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice?
RESPONSE A: Did you actually cancel your service previously? As in you sent them the contractually required written notice to cancel at the end of your original term? Did you notice that the original contract you signed with Monitronics has an automatic renewal for 3 more years unless you cancel by x time? Do you live in one of the 40+ states that allow the enforcement of automatic renewals in contracts?
RESPONSE B: You don't state your location, but if you are in a one party consent state, record your phone call with them
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POST: Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice?
RESPONSE A: You don't state your location, but if you are in a one party consent state, record your phone call with them
RESPONSE B: I had a similar issue with Honeywell. Must be their “customer for life” policy. For life, they never let you cancel. I sent a letter to the president of the company telling them the date of cancellation.
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POST: a car. Rental agencies aren't doing anymore 1-way rentals because they're low on cars. He ends up buying a taxi ride, a $300 upfront cost, to get to Raleigh. He gets there at 4am and buys his plane ticket there for $X hundreds (rep again promises it's enough of a layover), I think that was around $250 or so. Once he gets to D.C., he's held at the gate and watches his next flight take off for home. Jumps back in line to speak to another rep. All flights from there back to home were booked, including the ones to surrounding airports. They offered him to be the 5th in line of standby which he knew he wouldn't make it to. So from D.C., he rents a 1-way to drive all the way home, a 6 hour car ride, for $275. Then he tells me he had to pay for it all out of pocket and the airline told him they could only refund the unfinished leg of the trip, not the extra costs that he made to get home. So he's out just over $800 plus the time and whatnot he wasted (and a day of work he was forced to miss). Is there any sort of recourse that he has here? Small claims court? He said he was just going to eat the cost and I thought that was a little bit absurd. I thought I saw someone post here within the last couple weeks about a similar situation but I can't seem to find it so I apologize if this is very similar. Just trying to help my friend. Thank you for reading, I appreciate your time.
RESPONSE A: He is screwed. He rushed home solely because he missed his wife and wanted to enjoy his day off, as you said. He did not have to go to such lengths, sometimes you gotta wait it out in the airport. Or hotel. And the airline will pay. They said they would take care of him getting home. Not "do whatever it takes, it is on us"
RESPONSE B: >end up not taking off because American can't pay for the pilots' time anymore. How did you come to this conclusion?
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POST: because they're low on cars. He ends up buying a taxi ride, a $300 upfront cost, to get to Raleigh. He gets there at 4am and buys his plane ticket there for $X hundreds (rep again promises it's enough of a layover), I think that was around $250 or so. Once he gets to D.C., he's held at the gate and watches his next flight take off for home. Jumps back in line to speak to another rep. All flights from there back to home were booked, including the ones to surrounding airports. They offered him to be the 5th in line of standby which he knew he wouldn't make it to. So from D.C., he rents a 1-way to drive all the way home, a 6 hour car ride, for $275. Then he tells me he had to pay for it all out of pocket and the airline told him they could only refund the unfinished leg of the trip, not the extra costs that he made to get home. So he's out just over $800 plus the time and whatnot he wasted (and a day of work he was forced to miss). Is there any sort of recourse that he has here? Small claims court? He said he was just going to eat the cost and I thought that was a little bit absurd. I thought I saw someone post here within the last couple weeks about a similar situation but I can't seem to find it so I apologize if this is very similar. Just trying to help my friend. Thank you for reading, I appreciate your time.
RESPONSE A: If the airline cancels the flight they are responsible for getting him to his final destination and for putting him up for the night if necessary. Not sure your friend should have done what he did.
RESPONSE B: He is screwed. He rushed home solely because he missed his wife and wanted to enjoy his day off, as you said. He did not have to go to such lengths, sometimes you gotta wait it out in the airport. Or hotel. And the airline will pay. They said they would take care of him getting home. Not "do whatever it takes, it is on us"
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POST: want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say?
RESPONSE A: Used to be an alarm technician. Check in your cold air returns; we used to put them in there sometimes. Can't say I've ever dealt with a self-powered siren. It could be in your soffits. Edit: Ha! Cold air return it was!
RESPONSE B: You can't make them help you since you have no contract with them. You could call back, hope for a different person and turn on the charm to see if they'll tell you what they know. Otherwise, a couple hundred dollars is a drop in the bucket when you're moving into a house. Just hold your nose and pay them.
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POST: a nationally known company's wireless home security system. I did not, nor do I ever want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say?
RESPONSE A: Look in any exposed support beams in your basement as well. One of ours is attached there and strangely hard to see unless you know what you are looking for. Also, definitely the attic. 15 years ago wireless systems were not yet super popular. There's probably a wire to follow somewhere. Another option would be to call a locally owned company and see what their service call fee would be to find it.
RESPONSE B: I would think you could use an EMF meter or something like it. Sometimes they hide those things in your drywall-good luck.
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POST: Home Builder sold his business in the middle of building my home. New builder says it will cost more than the contracted amount to finish. I am building a home on my private land that I own outright located in Gwinnett county Georgia. I hired a builder to build the home. The construction loan is in my name since I own the land which was used as an asset towards the loan and turns into a regular 30 yr mortgage at completion. The builder wrote a contract which the bank requires for the loan, stating the house will cost $237,000 to complete. I am to pay $30,000 cash (down payment) towards construction and the bank loan is for $207,000 which comes out in 5 separate draws during construction. The builder has suddenly sold his business at the beginning stages of construction and is starting a new building business. I am at the point where I have paid $20,000 cash so far. The contractor building the home wants to finish the house, but says there is no way to finish the home within the $237,000 price on the contract. He says they messed up and priced the build to low. They are estimating the home to go $10k to $20k over. My question is who is responsible for this contract now? Should I be looking to sue the builder? Any advice or anything I might be missing? I will try to provide any additional details if needed. Thanks in advance.
RESPONSE A: You need to get a lawyer to help you examine your contract and see what you can do. The company that bought out your builder is still responsible for the contract. The question is whether they have *any* leeway to up the price, and if so, whether those conditions actually apply in your case. Someone not properly estimating the costs of the job shouldn't come down on you.
RESPONSE B: >...*at the beginning stages of construction...* How far along is construction? You might be better off to demand refund of the funds paid so far in return for canceling the contract, and then go and find a new builder under a new agreement. The builder might prefer this arrangement to the headache and costs of a court case which would enforce completion of the agreed contract, and you wouldn't have to worry about 'revenge' construction.
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POST: Evil tenants got evicted, 45 day move-out period has passed, they still won't leave. Does the landlord still need a lawyer?? Does our landlord still need a lawyer or at this point (they are officially living here AFTER their eviction date and 45 day move-out period), can they get them physically removed themselves by calling someone? Sheriff? Police? Why is this SO DIFFICULT? (I live in Los Angeles, CA...so...yeah).
RESPONSE A: It is time for the landlord to take a copy of the order to the Sheriff and have them removed.
RESPONSE B: https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/eviction may be useful reading for you to understand the various things that need to happen
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POST: I was at my place of work when I told a coworker that he was bleeding he intentionally wiped his blood on my arm. California What options if any should I do or advice.
RESPONSE A: Just out of curiosity... why is this not considered assault? If you spit on someone, it is- and they are both bodily fluids. Why would filing a police report not be appropriate here?
RESPONSE B: That's pretty gross. Depending on the structure of your company, you should speak with your supervisor or HR.
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POST: An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA.
RESPONSE A: How does your host attribute those to the fire alarm activation, and not to, for example, your host's decision to breach his lease agreement? The correct response is block and move on.
RESPONSE B: If the Host didn't want to be evicted, they should have done anything in their power to make sure no airbnb guest would put the Host at risk of breaching their lease. They are responsible for the guest as their short-term sublessor, and unless that fire alarm was purposely tripped, an accident doesn't warrant a demand for damages. Edit: Also see u/calamaririot's comment.
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POST: An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA.
RESPONSE A: I live in LA and I've had two friends stay in Airbnb rentals in the city who have been harassed for the same thing (owner is renting and says that something that caused no damage is going to get them kicked out). I'm pretty sure this is a scam, as both times, the owner of the rental wanted THOUSANDS of dollars, despite no posted rules being broken, and no damage being done. The person who rented the property needs to call Airbnb and file a complaint. That's what I told my friends, and Airbnb took care of everything.
RESPONSE B: How does your host attribute those to the fire alarm activation, and not to, for example, your host's decision to breach his lease agreement? The correct response is block and move on.
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POST: An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA.
RESPONSE A: I live in LA and I've had two friends stay in Airbnb rentals in the city who have been harassed for the same thing (owner is renting and says that something that caused no damage is going to get them kicked out). I'm pretty sure this is a scam, as both times, the owner of the rental wanted THOUSANDS of dollars, despite no posted rules being broken, and no damage being done. The person who rented the property needs to call Airbnb and file a complaint. That's what I told my friends, and Airbnb took care of everything.
RESPONSE B: They haven't had any damages yet. How can they estimate what the costs are? Especially since you are in England I wouldn't pay anything.
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POST: An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA.
RESPONSE A: Who would evict someone for the fire alarm going off once?
RESPONSE B: Tell them to take it up with AirBnB insurance? This is a common scam now for AirBnB users to claim a lot of damages or possible damages against their renter.
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POST: Landlord keeps entering backyard/garage without permission. Can locks be changed on a rental property? California Currently renting a duplex where the landlord is the neighbor. The landlord lied and said an older couple lived next door, when it was actually him. Didn't find out until the lease was signed and the neighbor conversation was verbal. Since then the landlord would occasionally enter the backyard without permission. The backyards are fenced off, however there is a door which he uses to enter. He told me that it was so the gardeners can tend to both backyards. Gardeners come once a week. Yesterday, the landlord and another person were talking by the front door. It honestly looked like he was about to enter. I think he figured out I was home, he didn't knock or need to talk to me. Today I notice that the landlord would enter the backyard. Then he went directly into the garage which can be accessed through the backyard. By the looks of it, he seemed confident and strolled right in. Then leaving he then looked into the bedroom window where I was. When the property was rented he left no belongings in the garage so he has no reason to enter. Long story short, I do not feel safe, can I legally change the garage locks and front door locks? Thanks!
RESPONSE A: Does your lease give you exclusive use of the yard and garage?
RESPONSE B: What did your landlord say when you told them not to enter the property you are renting absent permission or a documentable emergency?
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POST: Landlord keeps entering backyard/garage without permission. Can locks be changed on a rental property? California Currently renting a duplex where the landlord is the neighbor. The landlord lied and said an older couple lived next door, when it was actually him. Didn't find out until the lease was signed and the neighbor conversation was verbal. Since then the landlord would occasionally enter the backyard without permission. The backyards are fenced off, however there is a door which he uses to enter. He told me that it was so the gardeners can tend to both backyards. Gardeners come once a week. Yesterday, the landlord and another person were talking by the front door. It honestly looked like he was about to enter. I think he figured out I was home, he didn't knock or need to talk to me. Today I notice that the landlord would enter the backyard. Then he went directly into the garage which can be accessed through the backyard. By the looks of it, he seemed confident and strolled right in. Then leaving he then looked into the bedroom window where I was. When the property was rented he left no belongings in the garage so he has no reason to enter. Long story short, I do not feel safe, can I legally change the garage locks and front door locks? Thanks!
RESPONSE A: Are there two garages or just one?
RESPONSE B: Does your lease give you exclusive use of the yard and garage?
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POST: . I trenched out the stubs and tied them off with cloth towels soaked in high concentrate vinegar and tied on with copper wire. I nailed the highest thickness landscape paper I could find to our fence. Now that we are deep into the summer - the bamboo has found its way around the barrier I put on. Its encroached under our patio again. Its coming through the fence. No matter what I plant, its getting destroyed. We hired an attorney last summer but they really didn't do much. Our neighbors attorney (a relative and I'm sure someone who works for free) basically came back and said that bamboo on our side must be ours and they are responsible. We want to take them to court. I don't see why we should have to put up with their destroying our property. Am I on the right track?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer - but I do have some experience in situations similar to this. *Generally* the legal response to this type of thing is if it’s on your property then it’s yours. Did this particular neighbor plant it? They may have inherited it. Have you spoken to them about if they want it or not? If they don’t want it or are indifferent see if there are companies that can come get rid of it ALL, maybe they’d be willing to share in that cost. It’s a crappy situation for sure, but legally I can’t imagine the costs would ever end up being worth it, even in the small chance you would win. Try to engage the neighbor in a way that you work together instead of as adversaries.
RESPONSE B: My understanding is that basically the only thing that can contain a "running" bamboo is trimming it back and then digging a trench two or three metres deep and at least 20cm wide, and filling it with concrete (to and slightly above surface level), so the bamboo cannot spread underground. If you are able to sue them for the damages caused by the bamboo, you should also try and get them to pay for any works necessary to isolate the bamboo from your yard. If you're due for a fence replacement soon, having the underground concrete barrier installed next time the fence is replaced might be the most cost effective way to deal with it.
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POST: bamboo along the fence line. We asked them to try to do something about it and they refused. The bamboo has been churning up our brick patio which is original to our 1927 house. Its gotten into our sewer and into the downspouts of our rain gutters. Its even gotten into our plumbing. This spring, I dug a 4.5' trench along the property line. I trimmed off all all the rhizomes. I trenched out the stubs and tied them off with cloth towels soaked in high concentrate vinegar and tied on with copper wire. I nailed the highest thickness landscape paper I could find to our fence. Now that we are deep into the summer - the bamboo has found its way around the barrier I put on. Its encroached under our patio again. Its coming through the fence. No matter what I plant, its getting destroyed. We hired an attorney last summer but they really didn't do much. Our neighbors attorney (a relative and I'm sure someone who works for free) basically came back and said that bamboo on our side must be ours and they are responsible. We want to take them to court. I don't see why we should have to put up with their destroying our property. Am I on the right track?
RESPONSE A: You might try contacting your local noxious weeds board. I did check their online list, but it doesn't look like bamboo is on it.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer - but I do have some experience in situations similar to this. *Generally* the legal response to this type of thing is if it’s on your property then it’s yours. Did this particular neighbor plant it? They may have inherited it. Have you spoken to them about if they want it or not? If they don’t want it or are indifferent see if there are companies that can come get rid of it ALL, maybe they’d be willing to share in that cost. It’s a crappy situation for sure, but legally I can’t imagine the costs would ever end up being worth it, even in the small chance you would win. Try to engage the neighbor in a way that you work together instead of as adversaries.
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POST: he asked for a written notice. I gave him an eviction notice, but did not file it with a court. He later suddenly retaliated saying he is taking me to court, saying I invaded his privacy by listening to him scream, "emotionally baiting" him (whut) and painting his as a villain, causing him to be opressed and victimized. He started blowing up my phone saying he's being displaced, and that I'M the one that needs to go. The thing is the Oakland moratorium protects tenants from being evicted UNLESS they pose a threat to the healthy or safety of others. He feels like a ticking time bomb and the girls in the house especially do not feel safe near him. However, because of the moratorium, and because of his general ignorance I know this will never be taken to court. However, he is winning through way of simply NOT MOVING. He's started locking himself in his room, refusing to speak to anyone unless it's something like "just wait until you see the justice I serve" so my question is what can we legally do here to get this guy out in a time when no court will take this case? Everything in the house belongs to me and the other tenants are willing to leave. Can I move everything from the shared spaces in the house? This includes: router, washer, dryer, microwave, kitchen ware, all furniture, etc. There's nothing in the signed agreement that says he has a right to use any of this stuff. He's been an unbelievable nightmare and I have never felt so much stress over a housemate before. How do I get this abusive and scary guy out?
RESPONSE A: I would talk to a lawyer, they might have some ideas. But next time he gets violent call the police. And get any reports from the police on this issue it will help you with getting him out of the house.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer When he starts his screaming call 911. That is what I would have done. He needs help. Would go to the Police too ask your roommates to give their statements too. Everytime he screams and throws his temper tantrums I would call 911.
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POST: be fine. Later he asked for a written notice. I gave him an eviction notice, but did not file it with a court. He later suddenly retaliated saying he is taking me to court, saying I invaded his privacy by listening to him scream, "emotionally baiting" him (whut) and painting his as a villain, causing him to be opressed and victimized. He started blowing up my phone saying he's being displaced, and that I'M the one that needs to go. The thing is the Oakland moratorium protects tenants from being evicted UNLESS they pose a threat to the healthy or safety of others. He feels like a ticking time bomb and the girls in the house especially do not feel safe near him. However, because of the moratorium, and because of his general ignorance I know this will never be taken to court. However, he is winning through way of simply NOT MOVING. He's started locking himself in his room, refusing to speak to anyone unless it's something like "just wait until you see the justice I serve" so my question is what can we legally do here to get this guy out in a time when no court will take this case? Everything in the house belongs to me and the other tenants are willing to leave. Can I move everything from the shared spaces in the house? This includes: router, washer, dryer, microwave, kitchen ware, all furniture, etc. There's nothing in the signed agreement that says he has a right to use any of this stuff. He's been an unbelievable nightmare and I have never felt so much stress over a housemate before. How do I get this abusive and scary guy out?
RESPONSE A: Since it looks like someone posted this same issue two days ago, I suggest you read my responses there. For anyone interested, here is a direct link is the Oakland moratorium on evictions.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer When he starts his screaming call 911. That is what I would have done. He needs help. Would go to the Police too ask your roommates to give their statements too. Everytime he screams and throws his temper tantrums I would call 911.
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POST: be taken to court. However, he is winning through way of simply NOT MOVING. He's started locking himself in his room, refusing to speak to anyone unless it's something like "just wait until you see the justice I serve" so my question is what can we legally do here to get this guy out in a time when no court will take this case? Everything in the house belongs to me and the other tenants are willing to leave. Can I move everything from the shared spaces in the house? This includes: router, washer, dryer, microwave, kitchen ware, all furniture, etc. There's nothing in the signed agreement that says he has a right to use any of this stuff. He's been an unbelievable nightmare and I have never felt so much stress over a housemate before. How do I get this abusive and scary guy out?
RESPONSE A: File a police report and get housing authorities involved. There are programs in cities to help with this sort of thing. You are all being threatened and harassed. Get professional help in to have him removed. Call social services, 911, etc. he needs to be removed, and evaluated and until that happens youre all at risk. Do not try to annoy him or frustrate him into leaving. He will escalate. The safest thing is to have him removed by professionals.
RESPONSE B: Protect yourself first. You wrote " He is clearly emotionally and mentally unstable and has been having violent screaming fits in his room where he smashes and bangs things, as well as screaming threats such as "I want to kill someone." and " abusive and scary guy out" You live together and he communicated the threat ""I want to kill someone." and causes a ruckus. Get your other roommates and ALL of you go file a restraining order. You need to detail that you feel threatened by his behavior and give examples of his behavior that you feel threatened by. To convince the judge, have proof of damages, such as holes in walls, broken furniture, and a witness. The judge will grant a restraining order to you. That prevents him from being with in so many feet of you, or cohabitation with you. In protecting yourself, you will get this person out of your domicile.
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POST: kids/grandkids evenly split, but then it comes to light that my grandmother isn't my grandmother but actually my great grandmother. So my grandma passed away a couple months ago and left a sizable inheritance. Basically $500,000 to each of her children (6 total including my mom) and $250,000 to each grandchild (15 total). Her total assets were over $8million but after lawyer fees and everything, that is what was decided. It was all supposed to be well and good except this whole family secret came out. Basically my Aunt told the lawyer that my mother is actually my aunt's daughter therefore my grandmas grandchild. So my mom's portion of the inheritance should be $250,000 while me and my siblings get nothing. That would leave an extra 1.25 million to be split between the remaining 5 of my grandmas children. The lawyer told my mom he would handle it but I don't want to see her get screwed because of this. I am unsure if a legal adoption ever went through, this was the 60s and my aunt would have been 16 so it was still pretty taboo to be a single parent at that age. We think that while in the hospital giving birth my grandfather paid the doctor to put his and my grandmothers name on the birth certificate. My grandmas will basically says $250,000 to each grandchild and the rest is to be split between her children. She never named her children directly but based on the relationship my mom had with my grandma, I am certain that she considered my mom to be hers. We already got pictures/keepsakes that are important to us so as much as I would like to say it's not about the money, it really is. My question is, should we hire our own lawyer? Or just trust the estate lawyer? Is there anything we should prepare for ahead of time and what exactly is likely to happen? Location is AB, Canada
RESPONSE A: They put their name on her birth certificate. This is going to help a lot to show they considered her their daughter.
RESPONSE B: Who does the lawyer work for, the estate? You might want to get your own attorney. Legally, as far as the government is concerned, is your mother's mother your aunt or the grandmother? Was she adopted by the grandmother?
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POST: [NC] Grandmother passed away 6 years ago and I just found out I was in her will My aunt, we'll call her A, informed me less than a month ago that I am entitled to 1/6th of my grandmother's single wide trailer in a retirement community. She said I can either sign the paperwork or have my share bought out. In the conversation she says it's only fair that I sign it away because my other aunt, B, has been living there for the past 6 years and has been paying the taxes. She also stressed multiple times that the home is maybe only worth about $6,000 because it's only the trailer, no land. I told her I needed to think about it because this was very sudden and not a decision I was going to take lightly. I have some emotional debt with this family as my father passed away 10 years ago and they did some shady things to make sure all of his belongings went to them as I was under 18 and my parents were divorced. Due to this, I'm not willing to just sign away my share. My grandmother wouldn't have wanted them to pressure me into it either. I advised A that I would like to see the appraisal (during the phone call, she insinuated they were already getting one, my guess is because A also owns a share in the home.) She then tells me that I owe 6 years of taxes as well as I need to pay my share of the roof that was installed since B moved in. I am also responsible for the cost of the appraisal. What rights do I have? Is there a law that says I am or am not responsible for the taxes and roof even though I wasn't aware I had inherited anything until last month? Any advice is appreciated. If it helps, the home is located in Henderson county, North Carolina. Thanks!
RESPONSE A: Get a lawyer. If you owe 6 years of taxes B also owes you 6 years of rent...
RESPONSE B: I wonder about 1/6 the rent owed to you the past six years? Has something happened recently that they are now actually feeling the obligation to let you know about your inheritance? Are they thinking of selling?
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POST: [NC] Grandmother passed away 6 years ago and I just found out I was in her will My aunt, we'll call her A, informed me less than a month ago that I am entitled to 1/6th of my grandmother's single wide trailer in a retirement community. She said I can either sign the paperwork or have my share bought out. In the conversation she says it's only fair that I sign it away because my other aunt, B, has been living there for the past 6 years and has been paying the taxes. She also stressed multiple times that the home is maybe only worth about $6,000 because it's only the trailer, no land. I told her I needed to think about it because this was very sudden and not a decision I was going to take lightly. I have some emotional debt with this family as my father passed away 10 years ago and they did some shady things to make sure all of his belongings went to them as I was under 18 and my parents were divorced. Due to this, I'm not willing to just sign away my share. My grandmother wouldn't have wanted them to pressure me into it either. I advised A that I would like to see the appraisal (during the phone call, she insinuated they were already getting one, my guess is because A also owns a share in the home.) She then tells me that I owe 6 years of taxes as well as I need to pay my share of the roof that was installed since B moved in. I am also responsible for the cost of the appraisal. What rights do I have? Is there a law that says I am or am not responsible for the taxes and roof even though I wasn't aware I had inherited anything until last month? Any advice is appreciated. If it helps, the home is located in Henderson county, North Carolina. Thanks!
RESPONSE A: I saw quite a few mobile homes in real estate web sites. Maybe you could check it out and see if you can find recent sales records? In California, it can still worth $100-300k depending on location.
RESPONSE B: Get a lawyer. If you owe 6 years of taxes B also owes you 6 years of rent...
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POST: [NC] Grandmother passed away 6 years ago and I just found out I was in her will My aunt, we'll call her A, informed me less than a month ago that I am entitled to 1/6th of my grandmother's single wide trailer in a retirement community. She said I can either sign the paperwork or have my share bought out. In the conversation she says it's only fair that I sign it away because my other aunt, B, has been living there for the past 6 years and has been paying the taxes. She also stressed multiple times that the home is maybe only worth about $6,000 because it's only the trailer, no land. I told her I needed to think about it because this was very sudden and not a decision I was going to take lightly. I have some emotional debt with this family as my father passed away 10 years ago and they did some shady things to make sure all of his belongings went to them as I was under 18 and my parents were divorced. Due to this, I'm not willing to just sign away my share. My grandmother wouldn't have wanted them to pressure me into it either. I advised A that I would like to see the appraisal (during the phone call, she insinuated they were already getting one, my guess is because A also owns a share in the home.) She then tells me that I owe 6 years of taxes as well as I need to pay my share of the roof that was installed since B moved in. I am also responsible for the cost of the appraisal. What rights do I have? Is there a law that says I am or am not responsible for the taxes and roof even though I wasn't aware I had inherited anything until last month? Any advice is appreciated. If it helps, the home is located in Henderson county, North Carolina. Thanks!
RESPONSE A: Ask for your portion of six years rent.
RESPONSE B: I saw quite a few mobile homes in real estate web sites. Maybe you could check it out and see if you can find recent sales records? In California, it can still worth $100-300k depending on location.
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POST: My aunt, we'll call her A, informed me less than a month ago that I am entitled to 1/6th of my grandmother's single wide trailer in a retirement community. She said I can either sign the paperwork or have my share bought out. In the conversation she says it's only fair that I sign it away because my other aunt, B, has been living there for the past 6 years and has been paying the taxes. She also stressed multiple times that the home is maybe only worth about $6,000 because it's only the trailer, no land. I told her I needed to think about it because this was very sudden and not a decision I was going to take lightly. I have some emotional debt with this family as my father passed away 10 years ago and they did some shady things to make sure all of his belongings went to them as I was under 18 and my parents were divorced. Due to this, I'm not willing to just sign away my share. My grandmother wouldn't have wanted them to pressure me into it either. I advised A that I would like to see the appraisal (during the phone call, she insinuated they were already getting one, my guess is because A also owns a share in the home.) She then tells me that I owe 6 years of taxes as well as I need to pay my share of the roof that was installed since B moved in. I am also responsible for the cost of the appraisal. What rights do I have? Is there a law that says I am or am not responsible for the taxes and roof even though I wasn't aware I had inherited anything until last month? Any advice is appreciated. If it helps, the home is located in Henderson county, North Carolina. Thanks!
RESPONSE A: I saw quite a few mobile homes in real estate web sites. Maybe you could check it out and see if you can find recent sales records? In California, it can still worth $100-300k depending on location.
RESPONSE B: Get a lawyer. Something tells me that they are hiding something. Maybe you were left the whole trailer, but they are trying to downplay it so it seems like you got something worthless. I would also say to get your own appraisal on the trailer, as they might lie about it to.
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POST: think about it because this was very sudden and not a decision I was going to take lightly. I have some emotional debt with this family as my father passed away 10 years ago and they did some shady things to make sure all of his belongings went to them as I was under 18 and my parents were divorced. Due to this, I'm not willing to just sign away my share. My grandmother wouldn't have wanted them to pressure me into it either. I advised A that I would like to see the appraisal (during the phone call, she insinuated they were already getting one, my guess is because A also owns a share in the home.) She then tells me that I owe 6 years of taxes as well as I need to pay my share of the roof that was installed since B moved in. I am also responsible for the cost of the appraisal. What rights do I have? Is there a law that says I am or am not responsible for the taxes and roof even though I wasn't aware I had inherited anything until last month? Any advice is appreciated. If it helps, the home is located in Henderson county, North Carolina. Thanks!
RESPONSE A: I saw quite a few mobile homes in real estate web sites. Maybe you could check it out and see if you can find recent sales records? In California, it can still worth $100-300k depending on location.
RESPONSE B: First thing to do is get a copy of the testamentary documents. The easiest way to do that is to hire an attorney who will then get to work forcing compliance from your relatives. It is not possible to intelligently analyze this situation until you have the testamentary documents in front of you. Whoever was named/acting as executor has bungled this immensely; you were entitled to notice six years ago. I don't trust a single thing that they've told you, and neither should you. In any event, it's quite likely a court would award you back-rent and deny them reimbursement for the accumulated damages they've caused by not promptly notifying you of your rights. My guess is that they tried to sell it and found out they couldn't because of some sort of cloud on title that they are trying to erase by having you sign away your rights.
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POST: I'm (20F) planning on "running away" from my family and cutting them off forever. What should I know/do before leaving so I don't get in trouble with the law? I am a college student living in America, but my parents are from Pakistan. They are extremely strict and very controlling. They are the stereotypical immigrant parent. They are mostly using me to get a well paying job so they can live off of my money till they die. I was not allowed to hang out with other people. I get in trouble for even texting other people. I was made to believe life is only about going to school, getting A's, being married off, and getting a well paying job. I do not own ANYTHING. Literally my parents own everything I have. My car is in their name, I have a bank account that's in their name, my phone contract is in their name, I do not have ANY personal documents. I'm also not allowed to get a job. This is so embarrassing and ridiculous that I seem to be the only 20 year old going through this. I feel so pathetic and stupid. I absolutely cannot tell my parents I want to leave and never contact them again because they might do something extreme.... how can I leave?
RESPONSE A: Start getting your documents together, then leave. If you are an immigrant you need your passport and residency documents, at a minimum. If you are a citizen you need a certified copy of your birth certificate, and presumably you have your driver's license. Leaving won't be easy. You will need financial aid, a job, and to find somewhere new to live, but it can be done.
RESPONSE B: They can't legally stop you from going your own way. They could try to initiate legal action if they claim you took their property, like money in their bank account. But they can't make you stay somewhere. That would be unlawful detention and possibly kidnapping depending on the circumstances.
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