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701	daddit	Based on the username and the random image, I would say Obama has activated his Russian cyber ops attack with a secret message in this thread.
702	daddit	Dude I'm an advocate of /r/childfree too but jfc calm down... You realize you are telling an actual little girl that she should die right? Like a real human... Don't be a douchebag. Ninja Edit: Wow looking at your post history... what the fuck is wrong with you?
703	daddit	Something is very wrong with you.
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705	daddit	That is such a significant and sensible post that i feel overbaffled. Thank you, i guess.
706	daddit	[removed]
707	daddit	Damn spot on!
708	daddit	I'm not actually mean enough to say it to OP but if she probably wouldn't even remember it, but for the annual cancer parties ... then yeah time to move on.
709	daddit	They're worth it to some people for whatever reason... and this girl is so young she probably doesn't know she's being exploited for worthless internet points
710	daddit	I'm not. Again I don't really know this sub I just saw it on /r/all. So hey more power to you guys! We need more positivity in 2017.
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712	daddit	[removed]
713	daddit	Damn how do you remember that
714	daddit	Jesus how do you remember that?
715	daddit	I’m very impressed you remember that
716	daddit	It's a YouTube clickbot account. They post random stuff around reddit, in the hope of driving views to their videos. Report them to the sub mods if you see them.
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719	daddit	my thoughts are with you as you work through this dark time in your life.
720	daddit	How would she not remember the ordeal of surviving cancer and all the treatments involved? It isn't as if she was a young toddler in the first cancer free image. She looks to be around 5-6. Plenty old enough to have memories of it that will stay with her for life.
721	daddit	She will need regular doctor checkups for the rest of her life, cancer have a very real chance of comming back even after you have beaten it. I am pretty sure those checkups does more to remind of it than any picture taken.
722	daddit	Ever step back and think that somethings just don't need to be said? This is one of those times. Take your autism elsewhere.
723	daddit	Those are not the only two options, lol.
724	daddit	You sick fuck Go to hell
725	daddit	A user created a month ago, with the username "activationeagle", posted a Russian snow eater video. I think we should post this comment in /r/conspiracy
726	daddit	report them to the mods haha Reddit (as a company) loves bots; any kind of bot. Fake voting bots, fake posting bots. They hate users but the bots listen.
727	daddit	You shouldn't be complaining about wastes of space and resources, after all, here you are, racist douche. Edit: for anyone interested in what he deleted, said something along the lines of: "I hope you go to a n*** neighborhood and get your iPhone stolen." The *** is not what he said for the record. I censored it ofc.
728	daddit	Lol go outside xd
729	daddit	I think it does need to be said when this thread is full of people fawning over how how wonderful these photos are when they actually represent a father exploiting his daughters illness every year for internet popularity. There is nothing inspirational here, it's cheap and it's callous. edit: Also, please don't be ableist
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731	daddit	You're giving the guy what he wants lol.
732	daddit	The site admins and the mods are two different beasts. Mods generally listen, admins generally don't give a fuck.
733	daddit	Your failure to put yourself in this father's shoes is quiet disgusting. No father that has gone through that, to see their young child go through these painful treatments not knowing if their child will even make it to that first picture would EVER exploit their child for some points on a website. This is sickening.
734	daddit	I'm a pathologist, so this is kind of my day to day work, and your comment has a few inaccuracies. It's reductive to say that solitary tumors are just excised and then cancer risk goes to the population level. Many people are genetically predisposed to the first tumor, and are predisposed to more tumors in the future. Similarly many tumors are associated with genetic syndromes like MEN 1 and 2. Early biopsies can seed tumor into different locations (this isn't metastasis, but iatrogenic spread). You also ignore the fact that some solitary tumors aren't excised, but instead tackled with chemo radiation. Recurrence can happen, though it isn't guaranteed, and if recurrence did occur it wouldn't be related to micro mets. For metastatic disease, the cancer often does 'recur', but there are tumors that will show complete response (often juvenile) and wont recur. Then their are leukemic malignancies that don't even vaguely fit into your 'benign solitary vs. fatal metastatic' framework. These malignancies are multi focal, but complete treatment response is not uncommonly achieved through a combination of chemotherapy and autologous or allogenic stem cell transplants. Personally, I'd say it's a good rule of thumb not to use a layman's understanding in medicine to shit on a child's cancer prognosis. You also use 'in situ' very oddly.
735	daddit	Oh. Well TIL and with that probably owe an apology to the Mods. Sorry Mods (this time), grouped you in with the wrong beast.
736	daddit	But that's exactly what he's doing and you're right, it is sickening.
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738	daddit	See you're continuing to miss the entire point of not only the post but my comment as well. This father is certainly not exploiting their daughter for internet points, because if you had the ability to realize what this father went through, you'd know that it is one of the most difficult things to do in life. Like I said, seeing your daughter go through these painful treatments is incredibly difficult, and no sum of internet points would be the reason to exploit it. What you're failing to see is a proud father that is over the moon that his little girl was able to go through this painful process with such strength and is able to say she is cancer-free for [over] three years now. The only sickening part is people like you who think the only reason a proud father is posting about their incredibly strong daughter must be to get some internet points.
739	daddit	No you are quite simply wrong, and if I come across as demeaning that's because I don't have any respect for the asshole you appear to be. If my words sound like jargon, then you clearly have a limited knowledge basis. I highly doubt you have a background in science. Eh, I'm not going to bother arguing with a flat-earther who gets off on demeaning cancer survivors. Hope you have a shitty day!
740	daddit	So... was it planned or an oops baby?^congratulations
741	daddit	Congrat-u-freaking-lations man! My wife and I thought we were devastated that it took us about a year to get pregnant. I can't imagine what you both went through. I feel children like yours are extra loved and never taken for granted due to all the horrible that it took to get something so amazing. Give your boy an extra hug from all of us here!
742	daddit	Our son was IVF too. Congrats. Save the receipt. (just kidding, I am happy for you)
743	daddit	Congrats just proves there can be hope. So what was the winning combination? What caused it to be so difficult to get pregnant if you don't mind me asking
744	daddit	We're watching over little boy, born 25+1 week. He's had a rough start and we can only try and enjoy hour for hour, hoping they'll turn into days, months and maybe years. It's horrible to deal with the uncertainty. Will he be with us in an hour? Tomorrow? Next week? Will he be healthy? _Can_ he be healthy?... We're talking about the how hard it might be for us to gather enough courage to get a second child. This is gut wrenching! How hard will it be to get trough whats hopefully nine months of pregnancy, fearing pre-eclampsia and uterus failure. Because the only thing we _know_ in the middle of all this is that we want children. Plural. Thanks for helping by being so strong. It helps us stay strong too! You guys are fighters! AND CONGRATULATIONS!!! :D
745	daddit	Just a friendly reminder to avoid being rude. I understand some people don't agree with IVF. Some people don't agree with adopting. Some people don't agree with the idea of children at all. But this subs is by and for dads. Have supportive, or at least civil, discussion or avoid commenting, please. Edit: this thread is locked. Too many reports and rude people. This is what happens when we get to /r/all. We're working on addressing this.
746	daddit	Congratulations! He's beautiful! Kids are the best thing in the world. Very happy for you both!
747	daddit	Beautiful! Congrats!!
748	daddit	Welcome Lincoln. :-)
749	daddit	Jesus, I bet you guys just had ALL the feels going on that day. Congrats!
750	daddit	BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
751	daddit	Awesome persistence. And congrats: a baby LITERALLY worth his birth-weight in gold.
752	daddit	I hope my husband is this strong. I got no tubes and it's gonna be round after round of IVF at 15K / pop. I know she must have gone through emotional hell and I think this is the most inspiring, beautiful, emotionally gut wrenching photo IVE seen because my hubs and I are still too scared to even start this journey. You are the man!
753	daddit	Congrats, I'm glad to share my birthday with a miracle.
754	daddit	Congrats! Ignore the nasty people in here.
755	daddit	Congratulations! What a cutie!
756	daddit	Wow! Congratulations!
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759	daddit	Congratulations! That's a heck of a journey y'all went through.
760	daddit	Congratulations. You have a wonderful time ahead of you.
761	daddit	What a precious baby boy. Congrats to you both- you did it!!!
762	daddit	Gah! So cute. Congratulations on the most precious gift of your life. I never knew how much I was capable of loving until my two boys were born. :swoon:
763	daddit	Congrats. You clearly will love your son very much. Very happy for you.
764	daddit	Oooh I could just squeeze him :)
765	daddit	Congratulations!
766	daddit	Congratulations!
767	daddit	Can't imagine going through all that. We got incredibly lucky and ivf worked the 1st time for us but it was the most stressful thing ever. So happy for you and your wife! Enjoy the ride!
768	daddit	The utmost congratulations to you and your family.
769	daddit	Health, happiness and wealth to your beautiful little one.
770	daddit	Jesus man, you earned it! I'd say you can now rest easy but there will be no rest...
771	daddit	Awesome, congratulations!
772	daddit	Congratulations!
773	daddit	Congratulations. We were through somewhat the same in 2005-2009. Thirteen attempts in all ... on top of a medical mistreatment that made the natural way impossible in the first place. It's worth it when it succeeds.
774	daddit	Congratulations! We struggled with very mild infertility, so I can only image what it was like to go through all of that. All the best!
775	daddit	Amazing man! I'm so happy for you. Cherish every moment. My daughter is 1 month old today and it will blow you away how fast they grow. I wish you and your family the best of luck.
776	daddit	What a joy! Congratulations. Clearly, this little guy was meant to be with you. May your lives together be full of wonder and merriment. <3
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778	daddit	"So when are you having a 2nd?" -- I hope you go off on people when they ask this. Congrats. Totally worth it. Also when they grow up and say "you don't love me" you can show them what you went through for them.
779	daddit	Congratulations!!!
780	daddit	Congratulations! :)
781	daddit	Congratulations, buddy! That's a hell of a journey and glad you're content. Now begins a more exciting one. Best of luck with the wee lad.
782	daddit	Congratulations to the both of you. It's too easy to take for granted that I became a dad without medical help and yet I know so many people who really wanted children but couldn't have any. Hope all goes well for you.
783	daddit	Zero winning combination. The irony of some of the rude comments here is that NONE of those medical procedures led to this child. He was conceived naturally and spontaneously. I'm convinced the years of procedures eventually corrected some kind of inbalance or physical condition but the doctors literally have no explanation for us.
784	daddit	I cannot for the life of me fathom why this got downvoted. Best of luck to you & your little one.
785	daddit	it is when the only indication of pregnancy is through chemical level changes in the the mother's blood. too early to detect a fetus through ultrasound and too early to listen for a heartbeat. and there is no visible baby bump yet, either.
786	daddit	You haven't looked into the realities of adoption, have you? It's very difficult, expensive, and often ends with no child. Private domestic infant adoption costs $30k-$40k and there are many more potential parents who want to adopt than babies to go around. Many people wait for years and are never chosen. Foster-to-adopt usually rules out adopting an infant. In my state, the waiting children (children available for adoption) under 3 years old are all nursing home bound due to severe physical and/or mental disabilities. The waiting children who are physically healthy are usually over 12 or in large sibling groups wanting to be adopted together. Every social worker I've talked to has said that if you want to foster a child, do so but don't expect to adopt that child, my state has a 90% reunification rate with bio parents/family members. International adoption is also expensive $40k-$50k, the children are usually 3 years old+ and there are very real concerns about child trafficking or other human rights concerns. I know it's easy to think I'm overstating the problem, but feel free to do your own research into it.
787	daddit	There are lots of things that are easier to quit and move on from that I'd let a stranger tell me I "should" do. My wife and my personal decision to have a biological child is not one of those things for me and its just that simple. Not offended...i've heard far more stupid and insensitive things from ignorant people throughout this process and I laughed those off, as well!
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790	daddit	Did you sub just to say this or are you a lurker? I'm genuinely interested. This is your only post on this sub from what I can see.
791	daddit	Thanks for keeping positive. Unfortunately, if comments like many that are starting to come in keep up, I'll be locking this thread.
792	daddit	Good for you! Never give up!
793	daddit	Honestly? It would for me. I love my husband so much that from the moment I laid eyes on him I wanted his baby. I want a human that is 50% of us. I want to see my old, weird Asian-y Hawaiian husband in the face of a weird, white like me baby with likely red hair. I don't know if this is a troll but to me - totally worth it to look at half your soul mate and raise that wonderful combo that is your creation. I meannn, the fuck? It's a biological need to procreate. Are we willing to adopt? Yes, duh. Is it worth it to try everything to create a human that's half the love of your life? Yes! Duh!
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798	daddit	You seem like the sort of person who is in love with romantic ideas and I'll never be able to change your mind on the idea, so I won't try to. I should tell you that unfortunately it's incredibly unlikely for your child to have red hair because of its recessive nature
799	daddit	[deleted]
800	daddit	Lol. That's funny. I mean who cares this much about looks. Just you sound a little obsessed, but hey I'm just here from /r/all

701

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Based on the username and the random image, I would say Obama has activated his Russian cyber ops attack with a secret message in this thread.

702

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Dude I'm an advocate of /r/childfree too but jfc calm down... You realize you are telling an actual little girl that she should die right? Like a real human... Don't be a douchebag. Ninja Edit: Wow looking at your post history... what the fuck is wrong with you?

703

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Something is very wrong with you.

704

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705

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That is such a significant and sensible post that i feel overbaffled. Thank you, i guess.

706

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707

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Damn spot on!

708

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I'm not actually mean enough to say it to OP but if she probably wouldn't even remember it, but for the annual cancer parties ... then yeah time to move on.

709

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They're worth it to some people for whatever reason... and this girl is so young she probably doesn't know she's being exploited for worthless internet points

710

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I'm not. Again I don't really know this sub I just saw it on /r/all. So hey more power to you guys! We need more positivity in 2017.

711

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713

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Damn how do you remember that

714

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Jesus how do you remember that?

715

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I’m very impressed you remember that

716

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It's a YouTube clickbot account. They post random stuff around reddit, in the hope of driving views to their videos. Report them to the sub mods if you see them.

717

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719

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my thoughts are with you as you work through this dark time in your life.

720

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How would she not remember the ordeal of surviving cancer and all the treatments involved? It isn't as if she was a young toddler in the first cancer free image. She looks to be around 5-6. Plenty old enough to have memories of it that will stay with her for life.

721

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She will need regular doctor checkups for the rest of her life, cancer have a very real chance of comming back even after you have beaten it. I am pretty sure those checkups does more to remind of it than any picture taken.

722

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Ever step back and think that somethings just don't need to be said? This is one of those times. Take your autism elsewhere.

723

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Those are not the only two options, lol.

724

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You sick fuck Go to hell

725

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A user created a month ago, with the username "activationeagle", posted a Russian snow eater video. I think we should post this comment in /r/conspiracy

726

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report them to the mods haha Reddit (as a company) loves bots; any kind of bot. Fake voting bots, fake posting bots. They hate users but the bots listen.

727

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You shouldn't be complaining about wastes of space and resources, after all, here you are, racist douche. Edit: for anyone interested in what he deleted, said something along the lines of: "I hope you go to a n***** neighborhood and get your iPhone stolen." The ***** is not what he said for the record. I censored it ofc.

728

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Lol go outside xd

729

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I think it does need to be said when this thread is full of people fawning over how how wonderful these photos are when they actually represent a father exploiting his daughters illness every year for internet popularity. There is nothing inspirational here, it's cheap and it's callous. edit: Also, please don't be ableist

730

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731

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You're giving the guy what he wants lol.

732

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The site admins and the mods are two different beasts. Mods generally listen, admins generally don't give a fuck.

733

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Your failure to put yourself in this father's shoes is quiet disgusting. No father that has gone through that, to see their young child go through these painful treatments not knowing if their child will even make it to that first picture would **EVER** exploit their child for some points on a website. This is sickening.

734

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I'm a pathologist, so this is kind of my day to day work, and your comment has a few inaccuracies. It's reductive to say that solitary tumors are just excised and then cancer risk goes to the population level. Many people are genetically predisposed to the first tumor, and are predisposed to more tumors in the future. Similarly many tumors are associated with genetic syndromes like MEN 1 and 2. Early biopsies can seed tumor into different locations (this isn't metastasis, but iatrogenic spread). You also ignore the fact that some solitary tumors aren't excised, but instead tackled with chemo radiation. Recurrence can happen, though it isn't guaranteed, and if recurrence did occur it wouldn't be related to micro mets. For metastatic disease, the cancer often does 'recur', but there are tumors that will show complete response (often juvenile) and wont recur. Then their are leukemic malignancies that don't even vaguely fit into your 'benign solitary vs. fatal metastatic' framework. These malignancies are multi focal, but complete treatment response is not uncommonly achieved through a combination of chemotherapy and autologous or allogenic stem cell transplants. Personally, I'd say it's a good rule of thumb not to use a layman's understanding in medicine to shit on a child's cancer prognosis. You also use 'in situ' very oddly.

735

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Oh. Well TIL and with that probably owe an apology to the Mods. Sorry Mods (this time), grouped you in with the wrong beast.

736

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But that's exactly what he's doing and you're right, it is sickening.

737

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738

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See you're continuing to miss the entire point of not only the post but my comment as well. This father is certainly not exploiting their daughter for internet points, because if you had the ability to realize what this father went through, you'd know that it is one of the most difficult things to do in life. Like I said, seeing your daughter go through these painful treatments is incredibly difficult, and no sum of internet points would be the reason to exploit it. What you're failing to see is a proud father that is over the moon that his little girl was able to go through this painful process with such strength and is able to say she is cancer-free for [over] three years now. The only sickening part is people like you who think the only reason a proud father is posting about their incredibly strong daughter must be to get some internet points.

739

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No you are quite simply wrong, and if I come across as demeaning that's because I don't have any respect for the asshole you appear to be. If my words sound like jargon, then you clearly have a limited knowledge basis. I highly doubt you have a background in science. Eh, I'm not going to bother arguing with a flat-earther who gets off on demeaning cancer survivors. Hope you have a shitty day!

740

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So... was it planned or an oops baby?^congratulations

741

daddit

Congrat-u-freaking-lations man! My wife and I thought we were devastated that it took us about a year to get pregnant. I can't imagine what you both went through. I feel children like yours are extra loved and never taken for granted due to all the horrible that it took to get something so amazing. Give your boy an extra hug from all of us here!

742

daddit

Our son was IVF too. Congrats. Save the receipt. (just kidding, I am happy for you)

743

daddit

Congrats just proves there can be hope. So what was the winning combination? What caused it to be so difficult to get pregnant if you don't mind me asking

744

daddit

We're watching over little boy, born 25+1 week. He's had a rough start and we can only try and enjoy hour for hour, hoping they'll turn into days, months and maybe years. It's horrible to deal with the uncertainty. Will he be with us in an hour? Tomorrow? Next week? Will he be healthy? _Can_ he be healthy?... We're talking about the how hard it might be for us to gather enough courage to get a second child. This is gut wrenching! How hard will it be to get trough whats hopefully nine months of pregnancy, fearing pre-eclampsia and uterus failure. Because the only thing we _know_ in the middle of all this is that we want children. Plural. Thanks for helping by being so strong. It helps us stay strong too! You guys are fighters! AND CONGRATULATIONS!!! :D

745

daddit

Just a friendly reminder to avoid being rude. I understand some people don't agree with IVF. Some people don't agree with adopting. Some people don't agree with the idea of children at all. But this subs is by and for dads. Have supportive, or at least civil, discussion or avoid commenting, please. Edit: this thread is locked. Too many reports and rude people. This is what happens when we get to /r/all. We're working on addressing this.

746

daddit

Congratulations! He's beautiful! Kids are the best thing in the world. Very happy for you both!

747

daddit

Beautiful! Congrats!!

748

daddit

Welcome Lincoln. :-)

749

daddit

Jesus, I bet you guys just had ALL the feels going on that day. Congrats!

750

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BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

751

daddit

Awesome persistence. And congrats: a baby LITERALLY worth his birth-weight in gold.

752

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I hope my husband is this strong. I got no tubes and it's gonna be round after round of IVF at 15K / pop. I know she must have gone through emotional hell and I think this is the most inspiring, beautiful, emotionally gut wrenching photo IVE seen because my hubs and I are still too scared to even start this journey. You are the man!

753

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Congrats, I'm glad to share my birthday with a miracle.

754

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Congrats! Ignore the nasty people in here.

755

daddit

Congratulations! What a cutie!

756

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Wow! Congratulations!

757

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759

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Congratulations! That's a heck of a journey y'all went through.

760

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Congratulations. You have a wonderful time ahead of you.

761

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What a precious baby boy. Congrats to you both- you did it!!!

762

daddit

Gah! So cute. Congratulations on the most precious gift of your life. I never knew how much I was capable of loving until my two boys were born. :swoon:

763

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Congrats. You clearly will love your son very much. Very happy for you.

764

daddit

Oooh I could just squeeze him :)

765

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Congratulations!

766

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Congratulations!

767

daddit

Can't imagine going through all that. We got incredibly lucky and ivf worked the 1st time for us but it was the most stressful thing ever. So happy for you and your wife! Enjoy the ride!

768

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The utmost congratulations to you and your family.

769

daddit

Health, happiness and wealth to your beautiful little one.

770

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Jesus man, you earned it! I'd say you can now rest easy but there will be no rest...

771

daddit

Awesome, congratulations!

772

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Congratulations!

773

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Congratulations. We were through somewhat the same in 2005-2009. Thirteen attempts in all ... on top of a medical mistreatment that made the natural way impossible in the first place. It's worth it when it succeeds.

774

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Congratulations! We struggled with very mild infertility, so I can only image what it was like to go through all of that. All the best!

775

daddit

Amazing man! I'm so happy for you. Cherish every moment. My daughter is 1 month old today and it will blow you away how fast they grow. I wish you and your family the best of luck.

776

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What a joy! Congratulations. Clearly, this little guy was meant to be with you. May your lives together be full of wonder and merriment. <3

777

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778

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"So when are you having a 2nd?" -- I hope you go off on people when they ask this. Congrats. Totally worth it. Also when they grow up and say "you don't love me" you can show them what you went through for them.

779

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Congratulations!!!

780

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Congratulations! :)

781

daddit

Congratulations, buddy! That's a hell of a journey and glad you're content. Now begins a more exciting one. Best of luck with the wee lad.

782

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Congratulations to the both of you. It's too easy to take for granted that I became a dad without medical help and yet I know so many people who really wanted children but couldn't have any. Hope all goes well for you.

783

daddit

Zero winning combination. The irony of some of the rude comments here is that NONE of those medical procedures led to this child. He was conceived naturally and spontaneously. I'm convinced the years of procedures eventually corrected some kind of inbalance or physical condition but the doctors literally have no explanation for us.

784

daddit

I cannot for the life of me fathom why this got downvoted. Best of luck to you & your little one.

785

daddit

it is when the only indication of pregnancy is through chemical level changes in the the mother's blood. too early to detect a fetus through ultrasound and too early to listen for a heartbeat. and there is no visible baby bump yet, either.

786

daddit

You haven't looked into the realities of adoption, have you? It's very difficult, expensive, and often ends with no child. Private domestic infant adoption costs $30k-$40k and there are many more potential parents who want to adopt than babies to go around. Many people wait for years and are never chosen. Foster-to-adopt usually rules out adopting an infant. In my state, the waiting children (children available for adoption) under 3 years old are all nursing home bound due to severe physical and/or mental disabilities. The waiting children who are physically healthy are usually over 12 or in large sibling groups wanting to be adopted together. Every social worker I've talked to has said that if you want to foster a child, do so but don't expect to adopt that child, my state has a 90% reunification rate with bio parents/family members. International adoption is also expensive $40k-$50k, the children are usually 3 years old+ and there are very real concerns about child trafficking or other human rights concerns. I know it's easy to think I'm overstating the problem, but feel free to do your own research into it.

787

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There are lots of things that are easier to quit and move on from that I'd let a stranger tell me I "should" do. My wife and my personal decision to have a biological child is not one of those things for me and its just that simple. Not offended...i've heard far more stupid and insensitive things from ignorant people throughout this process and I laughed those off, as well!

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Did you sub just to say this or are you a lurker? I'm genuinely interested. This is your only post on this sub from what I can see.

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Thanks for keeping positive. Unfortunately, if comments like many that are starting to come in keep up, I'll be locking this thread.

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Good for you! Never give up!

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Honestly? It would for me. I love my husband so much that from the moment I laid eyes on him I wanted his baby. I want a human that is 50% of us. I want to see my old, weird Asian-y Hawaiian husband in the face of a weird, white like me baby with likely red hair. I don't know if this is a troll but to me - totally worth it to look at half your soul mate and raise that wonderful combo that is your creation. I meannn, the fuck? It's a biological need to procreate. Are we willing to adopt? Yes, duh. Is it worth it to try everything to create a human that's half the love of your life? Yes! Duh!

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You seem like the sort of person who is in love with romantic ideas and I'll never be able to change your mind on the idea, so I won't try to. I should tell you that unfortunately it's incredibly unlikely for your child to have red hair because of its recessive nature

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Lol. That's funny. I mean who cares this much about looks. Just you sound a little obsessed, but hey I'm just here from /r/all