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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Redding, I got totally shit on by someone I thought was one of my best friends. What's the worst way someone's done you wrong? POST: Someone I thought of as a close friend for 25 years totally shit on me this week. I've dropped everything to be at his side in his times of need, given him money when he needed it, listened and encouraged him when things weren't going his way; basically bent over backwards to be the best friend I knew how. Last Thursday I was unexpectedly hospitalized due to a violent reaction to a new medication. I spent two nights in the hospital, had to have an MRI and EEG, and was scared out of my mind. I was unconscious part of the first night, but when I got myself together enough early the next morning I texted my "friend. ' after getting no reply, I called and left a message. As of today I still haven't heard from him. I am devastated that he would do this after all we've endured. I've never had any sort of health crisis before, and am totally shocked at having been basically abandoned in my hour of need. TL;DR: . Assistant:	longtime friend ditched me in the midst of a serious crisis. How have you been fucked over by a so-called friend?	longtime friend ditched me in the midst of a serious crisis. How have you been fucked over by a so-called friend?	2,865
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by wandering into a stranger's house at 1 AM POST: This happened last night and since i've been a lurker forever I figured this wouldn't be a bad first post. :D So, it's 12am, and I'm out camping with my friends. Everyone's asleep except for me. I realized that home was only a mile or so away, and me being my extremely bored and stupid self, I decide to play a trick on my friends. A few hours previously we had hot dogs roasted over the campfire, and no camper in the right mind would forget to bring ketchup to a camping trip with hot dogs. I made a messy trail of ketchup leading into the woods which was only a few meters away from where my tent was. Made sure to use as much as possible so it would still be there in the morning. I proceeded to leave the camp. I was almost exactly sure where I was going. I live in a suburb with nearly identical houses so you can see how this fuck up happened. Keep in mind that it's pitch black outside, this is about 1am. I typically enter my house through the sliding glass door at the back because it's always unlocked. I walked up to my door, surprised to see it locked. I'm just tired and want to sleep now so I thoughtlessly walked up the stairs to the deck and tried the door up there. I made it in half asleep, and started across into my room. I was halfway there when I realized that this wasn't my house and a 12-13 year old girl was staring at me from the living room in shock. Immediately I dash out the back and around to the street. I made it to my own house (and I did check, it was my house.) I pretty much just collapsed on my bed when I made it to my room. Now it's 8am, I checked my phone and saw a couple of missed calls and texts, from my friends reading things along the lines of lol nice try." I was sort of relieved they didn't fall for it at that point, even though I didn't really expect them to. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Went camping, at midnight pranked friends then wandered into a stranger's house thinking it was mine. Would've been so much worse if my friends fell for the prank	Went camping, at midnight pranked friends then wandered into a stranger's house thinking it was mine. Would've been so much worse if my friends fell for the prank	6,369
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [20 M] getting way to attached to [19 F] POST: Hey Everyone, I'm going to try to make this short cause ive got an exam tomorrow. I met a girl at a party about a month ago. We've been hanging out almost every weekend since. Last weekend we had sex (lost my virginity.) Probably too early, but whatever. We were talking, and I told her that I wanted a serious relationship not just a FWB kind of deal. She told me that she wasnt ready for a serious relationship, and she doesnt know what she wanted. The thing is we have hung out after this, and every time we hang out i like her more and more. Last night, i even dreamt of her... Im trying to hold back my feelings and be cool about it, but its not working. When I daydream its mostly about her. I guess, im asking for advice regarding not getting attached because i know if this continues im just going to get hurt in the end. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Met girl. Lost my virginity. Start develop feelings. She tells me she doesnt want anything serious. I cant stop thinking about her. How do I stop?	Met girl. Lost my virginity. Start develop feelings. She tells me she doesnt want anything serious. I cant stop thinking about her. How do I stop?	4,882
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23 M] with gf [21 F] of 14 months, best break-up ever (?) POST: I've been a lurker for some time, but now I want to share my story with you. --- This morning, I broke up with my girlfriend of 14 months. I was so afraid to tell her that I don't love her anymore, but I took all my courage and knocked on her door. I started to babble about how much I'm sorry for doing this and that I want to end the relationship. Tears were shed and after a few minutes she turns to me and says: 'It's okay.' She smiled at me and hold my hand to reassure me that everything's gonna be fine. I wasn't prepared for such a reaction and I just started to ball my eyes out for a good 10 minutes or so. She sat beside me, her hand on my shoulder and telling me that everything's gonna be okay. She stayed calm and comforted me…although I was the one breaking her heart. After half an hour, I decided to leave her alone and went home. I was standing in her door when she smiled at me and said: 'Hey, we can still be friends.' --- Back at home I started to get a bad feeling about this and started to rethink my decision. I'm still sitting here in front of my computer, bewildered at what happened this morning. I don't know what to think of it... TL;DR: . Assistant:	I [23 M] broke up with gf [21 F], she took it like a champ and in the end I was the one crying my eyes out.	I [23 M] broke up with gf [21 F], she took it like a champ and in the end I was the one crying my eyes out.	3,904
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Follow your dreams or play it safe? POST: So my dream is do stand up comedy, improv comedy, writing and/or sketch comedy full time. I have done improv for 11-12 years now and I have been featured in some pretty mainstream comedy videos online, I have done my own sketch show, and I have done my fair share of networking. I think I am ready to take my "leap of faith" and I feel like time is only working against me... My problem is I have been raised to do one thing my whole life. I have learned that there is a "right" way to do everything and I have, for the most part, played by the rules. I went to high school, then college, then got a career and here I am. Financially I am fine. I am a 26 year old single man that owns his own house and car. I mean like anyone I have/had my problems but for the most part I have a good, logical head on my shoulders. (WHICH IS WHY THIS IS SO HARD!) :) Another issue is my two brothers rent rooms from me and they are for lack of better words... dead beats. My mom cannot afford to house them and I do love the idiots. I have no idea how they would react if I essentially evicted them to just pursue something they would never understand and where I could potentially lose everything. So, I have a few questions for you reddit... Do I leave it all behind? Has anyone here ever done it or something similar? Can anyone lend help, advice, a job in the industry? haha. I could really use any and all CONSTRUCTIVE advice/criticism on the matter because frankly I am not really close to anyone anymore that I can have these kind of conversations with. If anyone wants more details about my mundane and lonely existence please don't hesitate to ask! :) TL;DR: . Assistant:	Should I quit my career that pays for my general well being (house, car, etc.) or follow my dreams in comedy and risk throwing it all away?	Should I quit my career that pays for my general well being (house, car, etc.) or follow my dreams in comedy and risk throwing it all away?	5,900
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [18m] have a huge crush on a girl [17f] who'd rather be friends.... What do I do!? POST: Long story short-ish: I worked with this girl over the summer, and we were pretty good friends. About last week, I message her. She says she misses me. Like, a lot. Then I find out we have a mutual attraction, as in we want to date. The next day, we plan to hang out at my place, and she says its ok for me to kiss her. We watch a movie and hang out, and then I take her home. Later I ask why I couldn't kiss her, and she says she'd rather be friends. What should I do? I mean, I'm ok with the friendzone, but I'm really in love with her... (note: I'm a freshman in college, she's a senior in HS. She also lives in one town part of the year, and another town a half hour away for the other part) TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm in love with this girl I know, and we have a strong mutual attraction. After a somewhat date, she wants to be friends.	I'm in love with this girl I know, and we have a strong mutual attraction. After a somewhat date, she wants to be friends.	5,570
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [26M] with my new person of interest [23 or 24F], 2 weeks, possible soul mate, but it will surely be LDR and I don't know how I should approach. POST: I had a few kiddy relationships in high school and one terrible relationship in college which ended in 4 months when the partner decided to get back with her ex (you bitch...). I've been single for 3 years ever since. I'm a virgin by choice and want to keep it that way until marriage. Yeah... I'm old school, I know. I met this lady during a trip to a Buddhist temple about 500 miles away in another state. She's a foreign exchange student who studies psychology and lives nearby the temple. I saw her during the Sunday service and we exchanged only a few words, but as she and I made an eye contact later on that day I immediately felt my heart skip a bit and all my senses... reboot. No, I did not have a stroke, and I did never believe in love-at-first-sight thingies and thought all those movies and novels were full of shit... until that day. Even after returning from the temple, I couldn't stop pondering about her. Fast forward 5 days. I get a friend request on Facebook from a stranger. It's her: Maybe she found me through the temple's fb group. Well, I don't care. I accept the request in a heartbeat. She starts talking to me. I start talking to her. Shy and awkward conversations quickly gain momentum, and we find out we have so much in common -- favorite musicians, movies, even lifestyle and goals. Nowadays we just continuously talk to each other. However, here are the bad news. Not only there currently are 2 states between me and her, she's an exchange student and is likely go back to her country once she graduates. Even if it works out, it'll inevitably be a long-distance, I mean hemispheric-distance relationship. I'm actually willing to do the LDR, but I'm not sure if she feels the same. At least she was curious enough to add me on fb... TL;DR: . Assistant:	I found a possible soul mate, but she and I will surely be separated by gigantic distance. What should I do?	I found a possible soul mate, but she and I will surely be separated by gigantic distance. What should I do?	1,398
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit TITLE: Could use some advice... POST: Fair warning, this is my first post to Reddit, and I'm on mobile. Please bare with me. A week ago, I decided to start a (hopefully) lifelong journey to slowly yet steadily improve my life. I bought a scale, and weighed myself at 340lbs. I wasn't nearly as upset as I probably should've been, considering I was expecting closer to 400lbs. That very day, I took the first step. I made a myfitnesspal account, and tracked a typical day for me, with no changes. I was very, very quickly disgusted. I discovered two things that fascinated me. The first being, that I DONT over eat. I do however, drink incredible amounts of calories. I found I was drinking TWO THOUSAND calories on a good day. Well, clearly I've established what I need to change most, right? Right. The next day, and every day since, I've completely stopped drinking soda, and went into what I believe was a sugar/caffeine withdrawal. Years of drinking hundreds upon hundreds of calories worth of soda has left me more than a little messed up. I allow myself 1 glass of coke a week, and so far this has kept off any cravings, yay! Now for the advice I need. As I said, I've been tracking my progress with myfitnesspal, hoping to lose 100lbs within a year. Myfitnesspal puts me at approximately 2500cal/day at a loss of 2lbs/week. And I'm actually having trouble meeting this. Just wondering if I should be concerned if I'm not even coming close to the calories that are suggested I eat in a day. Note, I do NOT feel hungry. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Having difficulties meeting my calorie goals, and sometimes end up 100s below an already low goal (for someone my size), should I be concerned?	Having difficulties meeting my calorie goals, and sometimes end up 100s below an already low goal (for someone my size), should I be concerned?	439
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Scared to have a daughter for irrational reason.. POST: Figured relationships would be a better sub than sex even though it's kind of centered around sex.. I [20M] have a [15F] sister who I've always seen as innocent. Today I realized that even though I gladly know nothing of her sex life(existent or not) she isn't a 9 year old girl who doesn't know what sex is. I then started browsing Reddit and saw a post about how a dad had discovered his daughter pretty much riding her boyfriend. I thought about how not only our dad but a ton of dads are probably devastated that their "little girl" is having sex. At this point I was for some reason really angry and didn't know why. It then dawned on me that I was thinking about my future and if I were to catch my daughter in the act of sex I would probably punch a hole in the wall as to not make a scene...(Obviously kidding but would be really upset non the-less) Now I'm feeling guilty because if I had a son and I caught him having sex I'd be fine with it, maybe even a little proud. I'm feeling guilty because this is a huge double standard and at my current age, heck even when I was in high school I knew of plenty of girls who were sexually active and didn't see it as a big deal. I know I'm being completely irrational about this seeing as how I don't even have any kids, but I was wondering if anyone had any input on why I was getting so worked up over something that could be 25 years down the line? I think I'd be fine if I was kind of oblivious to it.. i.e. NOT walking in on my daughter doing cowgirl in my own home.. I'm not a violent person nor would I do anything to this theoretical kid having sexy times with my theoretical daughter, but if I were to see it happen I would just flip.. Any insight or experience dealing with the realization that your daughter is sexually active for when the future comes around? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Thought about catching my future theoretical daughter having sex, proceed to get upset out of thin air, now wondering if this is something that happens to all dads/ what are ways to deal with the realization?	Thought about catching my future theoretical daughter having sex, proceed to get upset out of thin air, now wondering if this is something that happens to all dads/ what are ways to deal with the realization?	3,635
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice TITLE: IN/USA- Parent hiding money during divorce in my bank account. POST: * TL;DR: . Assistant:	Legal adult here. Parent hiding divorce money in my bank account two different times, once with myself as a minor, once as an adult. Want to get out of this situation. Not sure where to start exactly.	Legal adult here. Parent hiding divorce money in my bank account two different times, once with myself as a minor, once as an adult. Want to get out of this situation. Not sure where to start exactly.	5,071
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: People of Reddit, what is the creepiest compliment you have ever received? POST: A few months ago our history class went on a school trip to an theme park. When we got inside, the park was FULL of adults and other school children and towards the end of the trip my friends and i (there were 4 of us including me) decided to go on one more ride which was supposedly scary. When we got to it it wasn't really a ride, more of a haunted house, we entered the house-church like structure and realised it was full of adults and only a Handfull of children, we got settled when suddenly the lights when out and everybody went quiet. I tried nudging my friends but no one was there and I panicked, i contemplated calling our for my friends but I didn't dare disturb the silence. I backed up and I hit what I first though was a wall but realised it was a person, whoever it was felt like an adult because my head only reached my chest, I stalled for a whole then the person pinched my ass really hard and said in a raspy, heavy voice "Nice ass" and then BOOM! Thunder bolts audio came through the speakers and candles were lit and I turned around but whoever it was had gone away. The candle lit provided me enough light to make out my friends and I went and stood with them. Through some thinking i just took it as a compliment. I'm male and 14 if anyone's wondering. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Someone who i suspect is a built, gay adult pinched my ass and told me it was nice in a haunted house.	Someone who i suspect is a built, gay adult pinched my ass and told me it was nice in a haunted house.	1,350
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Boyfriend (23M) of one and a half years cheated on me (20F). So confused, need advice. POST: My boyfriend (23M) and I (20F) have been together for one year and seven months. We both have been cheated on in our past and vowed to never do that to one another. In the beginning I could tell he was insecure and had trust issues from past relationships. I kept building him up and reassuring him. About seven months into our relationship he texted me under a new number pretending to be somebody else and I had responded to the flirtatious text. I had to regain trust in him and he was able to move forward. I have never cheated on him. Fast forward to yesterday, I have had a feeling things weren't right. We haven't been seeing eachother as much even though we talk everyday and profess our deep love for eachother daily. I saw his phone had texts from two different women that were very flirtatious and that he's seen them multiple times. I confronted him and he begged and pleaded for me back and to forgive him like he forgave me. He claims that I have been distant (even though I make time for him) and that hes scared of me moving an hour away for school. He also says he did not have sex with them although one text from one woman asked if she could still come over to his apartment later. I made him leave a voicemail to one who he claims was his ex that cheated on him. He told her to never text him or call him back as he messed up a valuable relationship. He says I'm the woman he wants to marry, the love of his life, and that they don't mean anything. How do I trust him? What do I do? I dont know what to believe. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My boyfriend of a year and seven months cheated on me with two different women because he says im distant and hes scared of losing me. What do I do?	My boyfriend of a year and seven months cheated on me with two different women because he says im distant and hes scared of losing me. What do I do?	1,866
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Reddit, when have you had to hurt someone you loved in order to do the right thing? POST: I just wrote a nice long letter to my ex. Informing her I can't continue to be in her life. We had hooked up not long ago and rekindled some bottled up emotions. But she decided she didn't want to pursue that with me. And I'll live. But we are so close that it started to turn me into her close friend that she talked about other relationships with... somehow we jumped into me becoming her gay friend that she talked about other guys being jerks to her. It causes me severe emotional pain to listen to her talk about other guys. So I wrote her a letter detailing my feelings. I had more than one thing I wanted to tell her and I needed it all to be well worded and put out there. I knew going forward I would just be causing myself misery if I let myself become that sort of friend to her. I was torn between being that friend and not having her in my life at all. I decided it was best for us both if I was no longer in her life. I would just end up confessing yo her down the line that I still loved her, and keep causing confused feelings between us. I wrote out this long letter. She took a day to respond but when she did she told me I had hurt her like never before, that she was an idiot for thinking I wouldn't have done so to her. Mind you when we broke up it was because she texted me saying "I got the abortion" when I was never told she was pregnant... She was hurt by me? Please. I know it was the right move to get away from her. She has issues and I'm unwilling to deal with them. But those issues are easy to forget when you are with her. And I love her an awful lot despite everything. TL;DR: . Assistant:	I told my ex we can't be friends and she hates me for it. But it was for the best.	I told my ex we can't be friends and she hates me for it. But it was for the best.	782
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest TITLE: I've only ever liked 1 girl, and i can't get over her? POST: Hi. I'm 23, male. I knew her since i was like 14, she was a year younger than me. We used to hang out almost daily for years - she lived just down the road from me. We were really good friends, and our friendship lasted until i was about 19. I was a really naive teen, and never realized she had feelings for me, even though she gave some massive signals. I had strong emotional feelings for her too, but i didn't really understand them at the time. I was a late bloomer. I went through a lot of hardships and i slipped into a bit of a destructive state. I ended up pushing her away, i did it to protect her, but it ruined our friendship. I imagine she hates me now. I've only seen her once since (been 5 years), and we both completely blanked each other. I haven't attempted to contact her or anything, i could quite easily, but i don't want to talk to her and find out she hates me now. I still think about her a fair bit, and even have dreams about her. (non sexual). I know it's weird, but i'm not stalking her or involving her in any way so it's not hurting, right? Well, that's the past. The present is the problem. I don't feel attracted to anybody, sexually or emotionally. I have options, i'm not bad looking and i get interest on nights out, and a couple of friends who like me. But none of them interest me. I know this is really pathetic, but i don't know what to do. I want to get over her, but i still have the problem of not finding anyone else attractive. I've only slept with one girl ever, and weirdly, she looked a lot like the girl i liked. Still the sex was no more enjoyable than masturbating, and was all very average. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Used to have a big crush, pushed her away, regret it horribly - haven't spoke to her for 5 years and still obsessed with her. Don't find anyone else attractive.	Used to have a big crush, pushed her away, regret it horribly - haven't spoke to her for 5 years and still obsessed with her. Don't find anyone else attractive.	780
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [23f] need to have a serious conversation with my bf [23m] of two years about marriage and our future. What topics/comments/things to avoid at all costs? POST: Hello, I do know I am on the young side of the spectrum to be considering marriage, but my boyfriend and I have been in an LDR (different countries, four hour flight away) for the past half year, and will continue to be for at least two more years, minimum. I feel that a serious conversation about marriage and our future is necessary soon. Now, for context, we started this relationship knowing that we would be an eventual LDR and with the assumption that we would probably get married in our mid-late twenties. However, we're about to hit a point in our lives where there might be a big change, depending on whether I get the job I applied for or not. i want to talk to him and figure out our options together. So this was how I thought I'd proceed. 1. Tell him that I want to have a serious conversation about our future in general, and marriage (children, our own families), our values (religion, abortion, homosexuality), our finances (current and potential future), and our future(what happens if only one of us gets the job, what happens if neither of us get the job, can we survive the two year separation that's left, etc). 2. Give him a few days warning so he has time to think about it. 3. Sit down and have the conversation at home, cuddled on the couch, and with a beer each (only one each so we don't get drunk) and quiet music. However, are there any topics, questions, comments, or attitude to avoid (that is not blatantly obvious)? Or, are there any additional topics,questions we must go over? TL;DR: . Assistant:	LDR boyfriend and I need to have a serious conversation about marriage. What are the things I must avoid/ask?	LDR boyfriend and I need to have a serious conversation about marriage. What are the things I must avoid/ask?	693
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [F/21] feel very insecure after finding photos of my boyfriend's ex partners [M/26] on his laptop? POST: We've been together nearly a year. I realise this sounds silly, but I'm a fairly insecure person to begin with. I know I'm not unattractive - far from it - nevertheless, its still the reason that I've waited to have sex and only did so a few months ago with my current boyfriend. I still have difficulty opening up. I've suffered with eating disorders while growing up and although I've recovered, I still find myself constantly doubting myself (although I'm working on it). Anyways, my laptop broke so I've been using his second laptop and found a few explicit photos of different partners he's had. He said he completely forgot about it, which I doubt considering he was going through all of his photos a couple of months ago and showing me some of the hilarious ones. By doing that, he would inevitably come across them, but I've chosen to ignore that. Since seeing them though, I've begun to feel very uncomfortable with myself and/or around him as I no longer feel 'secure' with myself. I realise these are my own issues to deal with and not his, however, I just find it a bit insensitive and feel completely inadequate. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Boyfriend has nude photos of his ex girlfriends/partners on his laptop. I feel hurt and inadequate and find myself constantly comparing myself. Am I wrong or overreacting in feeling this way?	Boyfriend has nude photos of his ex girlfriends/partners on his laptop. I feel hurt and inadequate and find myself constantly comparing myself. Am I wrong or overreacting in feeling this way?	3,991
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice TITLE: I might have gotten a girl pregnant at 16 3 days ago. POST: First of all, this is a throwaway. Don't need any of my friends learning about this. So this weekend, I went to a party and towards the end, a girl I knew for a long time have a slight hint she might want to have sex with me. I didn't really get that so I walked off. A few minutes later, people start coming up to me and asking if I am gay because I turned her down. I said no and figured the only way to show that I wasn't gay was to have sex with her. So skip ahead to the room and I don't have a condom, so a friend brings up a condom and we get to work. Skip ahead towards the end where I wasn't really sure if I nutted or not because of how drunk I was. We continue for another 10 minutes until something comes up. Not due to me, she rushes out and leaves in a hurry. Now i am not 100% sure whether or not the condom broke or some love juice slipped out after I may or may not have nutted. I don't know if she took the morning after pill. I am desperate for some advice on what I should do at this point. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Had sex, not sure if I nutted, and may have gotten her(16 also) pregnant. Need advice on what I should do.	Had sex, not sure if I nutted, and may have gotten her(16 also) pregnant. Need advice on what I should do.	2,217
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice TITLE: NY - Issues with retirement tier, not sure if this is a legal question or not. POST: Basically I joined the NYS retirement system in 2005 into tier 4, got a retirement number, packet, all that jazz. A few years ago they sent me a new packet for tier 5 with a new number, then another with tier 6. They won't recognize my tier 4 registration number and INSIST I am tier 6. I have called at least 7 times and written no less than 16 letters with documented proof, and nothing has changed. My paycheck is still listing tier 6 and taking money out of me. Under tier 4, after 10 years, you stop paying in. Do you know if a lawyer can write some strongly worded letters or take this to court? Is this even a court issue? What kind of lawyer would this be? I have just tried everything and feel so frustrated. It is the difference of me paying thousands of dollars more and retiring 8 years later, with significantly less pension. TL;DR: . Assistant:	should be in a different retirement system, after two years of fighting state refuses to change it, want to pursue it further with a lawyer if possible.	should be in a different retirement system, after two years of fighting state refuses to change it, want to pursue it further with a lawyer if possible.	2,256
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU by watching YouTube at work POST: Some context: I valet for a hospital, specifically the employee's parking lot so if the parking lot is not full I do not do anything at all and and believe me this parking lot is never full I basically get paid to stand all day So TIFU happened about 1 week ago. I was watching videos on my phone and bent my head down to block the sun's death ray of light from glaring the glass on my phone that was keeping me from learning how to origami in 1080p resolution and apparently some snitch ass lady reported me to human resource for sleeping on the job because she couldn't see that my eyes were open and it got around to the head of HR and even to the mothafucking director of the hospital so today my supervisor called me saying they were letting me go since the hospital doesn't want people like me working for them (just because I'm Asian) at first I thought it was a prank because I was pretty cool with most employees working there so I guessed it must have been that crazy white lady who I've seen telling everybody what to do and thinks she owns the place(she's just a receptionist)....so now as I guess I can sleep in on Monday Happy New Years! TL;DR: . Assistant:	was watching utube at work and got reported by a crazy lady who works at the hospital for sleeping on the job and now I'm job less	was watching utube at work and got reported by a crazy lady who works at the hospital for sleeping on the job and now I'm job less	3,661
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [18/F] with my boyfriend [19/M] of 10 months, not sure whether to break up or not POST: First of all, this is kind of a vent, as I'm not really sure on where to start. Secondly English is not my first language, so sorry for any confusion. I met my boyfriend about a year ago and things went really fast from there. Eventually we were seeing each other every day and everything was great. I've always known we were quite different humorwise, and with different interests etc, but it wasn't really a problem as we got along perfectly fine. He truly is an amazing guy, and I really couldn't ask for more, with him always being by my side, buying me gifts and taking me out for dinner. I tried telling him that I needed some space, as we're seeing each other every day. I've got a lot going on right now, and it's just really stressful, having to take care of my homework, friends, gym, etc. After I told him, we agreed that we weren't going to see each other every day, but he still wants to hang out constantly, and seems to get mad, whenever I don't have time. I don't know why I've been having these doubts recently. I feel like an awful human being, as I often find myself attracted to other guys. Or is that normal in a relationship? Maybe it's cause I'm only 18 and the thought of being with somebody for the rest of my life terrifies me. Or maybe it's him not going to college that worries me. I've always loved traveling, and was an exchange student in America in 2013/14. I know I wanna go somewhere abroad to get an higher education, and I just don't know if or how it's going to work. The reason i've been thinking about breaking up with him is, that he deserves someone better than me. He is wholeheartedly committed in this relationship and loves me with all his heart, and again, I feel like an awful human being, not even sure if I want to be in a relationship right now. I mean I really love this guy, and he's an awesome person, but I just don't know....... TL;DR: . Assistant:	Don't know whether to break up or not. At 18, the thought of being with someone for the rest of my life terrifies me.	Don't know whether to break up or not. At 18, the thought of being with someone for the rest of my life terrifies me.	5,964
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Has anyone ever been in a trial relationship? LDR [22F] and [22M] POST: I'm the 22F and we've been 'together' for 5 months now. We're in an LDR and we're around 3k miles apart. We've never met, but we will in one month and will be spending a month together for the first time. We're in a trial phase right now, the plan is to wait until we meet before deciding to commit or not. My 'SO' is making a very big exception for me, when we originally met I learned that he wasn't interested in LDR's, thought they could never work and were a waste of time. He is considering doing it for me and during or after summer its either going to work out or not. My question is.. Has anyone ever been in this type of situation before and how did it work out? Oh, I think its worth noting that neither of us are looking for anyone else. We are committed to meeting each other, its that part that comes after which is a bit shaky. TL;DR: . Assistant:	LDR in a 'trial' relationship. Decision to commit won't be made until after we've met. Has anyone had previous experience?	LDR in a 'trial' relationship. Decision to commit won't be made until after we've met. Has anyone had previous experience?	4,225
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me (21m) dated a 19f for a month, i ruined things and pushed her out of my life, no i want to be friends again what should i do? POST: Hey, 21 m here, dated a 19f for a month, So a few months ago I met an amazing person, she was everything i could have asked for, we started dating, and i really rushed things ( sexually and labeling whatever we had). After around month she ended things with me. And 5 months later i'm justt starting to get over her. I want to apologize to her for so many things but i feel its wayy too late that i could be giving out the image that i want her back, i don't. I want her in my life again as she's an amazing person and a great friend But i feel its wayyy too late to apologize to her after 5 months of barely speaking to her. Should i try to make amends? Or should i accept the fact thats its over and just get her completely out of my life even though its all my fault? TL;DR: . Assistant:	dated a girl messed things up for rushing it. Pushed her out of my life because i'm emotionally vulnerable, now i want to apologize and ask for her FRIENDSHIP back.	dated a girl messed things up for rushing it. Pushed her out of my life because i'm emotionally vulnerable, now i want to apologize and ask for her FRIENDSHIP back.	906
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [21 F] am too insecure, attached to my boyfriend [24 M] and not happy POST: We've been dating for about six months. The relationship has been somewhat rocky throughout. We go to the same university but are both home in separate cities and our relationship has been long distance for the past couple of months The main reasons for our problems are that I am dealing with a lot of insecurities and he often feels disrespected and unheard. For example, he's taken pictures/videos of me during sex. I asked a couple weeks ago whether he took similar pictures of his exes and he said yes. I asked if he still watched them and he said he did. I tried to get more information on why he kept them and wanted to watch them and he said I was being insecure and invasive and told me the conversation was over. I kept pushing and he said "fuck you", told me to leave him alone, stopped talking to me for about a day. We often have arguments like this. I'll keep pushing a subject until he gets angry and stops talking to me. Generally, these arguments stem from me feeling unattractive or otherwise insecure. He used to reassure me that he was attracted to me and loved me but now he just gets upset because he feels like his words have no impact on me. He did cheat on me early in our relationship. He doesn't consider it cheating because technically we weren't dating, but we had already agreed not to sleep with other people. I think a lot of my insecurities stem from that but I can't bring it up directly because he will get angry and shut off. When he stops talking to me I feel lonely and panicked. I usually text him several times, even though I know he will ignore me. I have a fulfilling life outside of him but I seem to lose sight of that and can only think about how much I miss him and am afraid of him leaving me. He feels like his space isn't being respected and he can't ask for a break. This is actually our situation right now. I'm not even sure what I did wrong but he told me I was exhausting him and never gave him space so I'm trying to do something productive other than smothering him. TL;DR: . Assistant:	My boyfriend often gets upset with me and wants space. How do I give him space and stop being so unhealthily attached.	My boyfriend often gets upset with me and wants space. How do I give him space and stop being so unhealthily attached.	4,324
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu TITLE: TIFU By Getting Herpes and Destroying My Phone POST: Basically after helping my father to build an amazing, quality hand-built dock on our vacation home's canal-seawall; I nefariously sneaked away to smoke a pipe with an old hippie who did work there regularly. This was against my better judgement, and I would later find I would eat my words "that was just what I needed!" as I passed the pipe that was chalked black with what could only be years of dank marijuana. And dank it was... Fast forward to Today and I'm racking my mind as to what finally gave me Herpes Simplex, and then it comes to me; it's the same reason my phone was in my pocket when I fell into said canal, and has to buy a new phone for $287: TO SMOKE WEED! as a growing adult; you now when it's a sign you should stop doing something for a while and grow a little! TL;DR: . Assistant:	Adult male, father doesn't like weed, smoked weed with hippie worker at vacation home, fell in canal with phone when getting number from hippie, realized his dirty pipe gave me herpes.	Adult male, father doesn't like weed, smoked weed with hippie worker at vacation home, fell in canal with phone when getting number from hippie, realized his dirty pipe gave me herpes.	3,115
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice TITLE: [19/f] Guys - how can us girls be nice to you without leading you on? I just don't want to get your hopes up and hurt you. POST: Firstly I'd just like to apologize if this has been asked before. I'm new to this subreddit and the search function really didn't do much for me. If there is a similar thread I would really appreciate it if you could redirect me there (: But if you have the time to read/respond that would be great!! College sophomore here. To keep the story short, one of my guy friends and I have been texting back and forth for a while, and we've been friends for about 9 months. He always starts the convo, and after a while it seemed a tad obvious that he was into me...but I didn't want to bring that up for fear of being wrong, ya know? Well today we were hanging out, and he kissed me, and it was weird. I pulled away and, to put it briefly, told him I didn't want to ruin our friendship. It was just awk, I told him we should talk about it later and I left. Within our text conversations, I always replied to him in the same way that I would reply to any friend. I generally just try to be a nice person and I think he took that as a sign that I was into him. So, my questions are, a) is there ANYTHING I can do to salvage this friendship and b) guys, is there any way we can be nice to you but not lead you on? TL;DR: . Assistant:	how do I fix friendship with a guy I rejected, and how can I be nice to you without making you think I want the d???	how do I fix friendship with a guy I rejected, and how can I be nice to you without making you think I want the d???	1,207
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: I'm thinking of proposing to my boyfriend. POST: I have a problem that I have been conflicted with over the last few days. My boyfriend and I have been dating for several years now and I have never been more in love with him. Everyone expects us to have gotten married, but I have resisted the pressure at every turn. I have never really understood appeal of marriage. Marriage has always seemed like red tape and paperwork that doesn't add anything to the emotions involved in a long term relationship. I do, however, think that it is important to my boyfriend. I also think that I have probably caused him to think that marriage is not something I am interested in at all. Lately I have found the idea of marriage a bit more pleasing, though I am not sure where it has come from. He has been an amazing partner, through everything, and I have decided I would be delighted to give him the gift of that promise. I also believe that men should have a change to have a moment of pure romance, like all woman dream of having. He is more of a romantic than me, but I do my best. I guess, after that bit of background, I want to ask if people have an opinion on whether or not a female to male proposal would embarrass rather than romanticize. I also have no idea what you would give a man as a token of your pleas of marriage. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Is an unconventional proposal going to land me in the dog house? If not, do I come baring a ring?	Is an unconventional proposal going to land me in the dog house? If not, do I come baring a ring?	4,683
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: My [23F] boyfriend [26M] of 2 and 1/2 years dropped the bomb that he wants to break up POST: My boyfriend of two and a half years dropped the bomb on me that he wants to break up. I've supported him through everything. From losing his license, to getting laid off at work, to finding out his brother is an addict, to dealing with a crazy ex, and more. His reasons are he is frustrated by my poor stress management and also he has just decided that he doesn't want a long term relationship anymore. I have anxiety, it's something I've had my whole life. I went to therapy for it years ago and also last year again and I admitted that lately I have dropped the ball with it. I have been talking to my doctor recently about exploring some new options, maybe considering medication. His situations don't help with my anxiety or overall stress but other than that the relationship has been awesome. We have a lot of fun together and we share a lot of the same views about life and where we want to go in the future. We have so much in common and our personalities go together great. He has been a great boyfriend up until the last couple of months. When I brought it up to him that things are getting a little one sided that's when he told me he wants out. Last week he did have a pretty big falling out with his best friend over some stressful stuff (friendship ending type stuff) and on top of that he said he has been under a lot of stress at work. I'm wondering if this sudden decision is just him poorly handling stress and trying to shut down and not deal with our situation instead of resolve it. I managed to get him to think about reconsidering this week and we would talk again on Friday. Obviously I am hoping he chooses to try to work things out but honestly I think I am going to get broken up with a second time. Almost everyone I talked to about it thinks there's another girl he's not telling me about. I want to break the silence we are supposed to be keeping and ask but I don't want to drive him away even more. I also don't think I can hang in there until Friday. help. TL;DR: . Assistant:	boyfriend breaks up with me out of the blue because he claims I have poor stress management and doesn't want a long term relationship anymore.	boyfriend breaks up with me out of the blue because he claims I have poor stress management and doesn't want a long term relationship anymore.	1,096
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: How would one go about making silicone sex toys? POST: I first saw [this] how-to on making silicone dildos, but the suggestion that one use silicone caulking seemed a bit sketchy, and a bit more searching around seemed to confirm that silicone caulking is probably not great for putting in your body. The clay model and latex mold method seems unproblematic, but I could be wrong. More research seemed to suggest that platinum (rather than tin) cured silicone provides minimal interactions with bodily functions. One can purchase platinum-curing silicone mixes from art stores. I found a [shop] which deals with making molds/casts and has a pretty good selection of platinum-curing silicones. But the consensus also seems to be that silicone used for sex toys should be "medical grade". I can't seem to figure out what that means and if it is significantly chemically different from the kind of silicone you'd get from an art store, nor where one would get small amounts of it that would be simple to mix in a "homemade" setting. I do know that there are a number of people who make silicone sex toys in their homes (or very small shops), but no one I've contacted is willing to divulge their methods (unsurprisingly). One person seemed to use both "medical grade" and "art store" silicone, perhaps coating the inside of a mold with the former and then filling with the latter (just a guess). TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm curious if anyone has any information on anything from the safety of different kinds of silicone, how handmade silicone sex toys are usually made, and good sources for appropriate kinds of silicone.	I'm curious if anyone has any information on anything from the safety of different kinds of silicone, how handmade silicone sex toys are usually made, and good sources for appropriate kinds of silicone.	6,058
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [16/F] feel alone. POST: A bit of a back story is that people don't like me. Not sure why. I think I just have that kind of attitude that people don't like. I'm very sarcastic and witty and I like rock music and I even had a buzzcut at some point. It could be a mix of all three or even more. I used to go to public school but now I don't anymore. I haven't graduated my last grade yet due to the fact I'm just depressed. I have a best friend but we only talk once a week at most. It's my fault because I'm just too sad to talk to her. She sometimes leaves me messages and asks where I've been and I do get around to them but I guess I'm addicted to sleeping. I also feel like I'm ready for my first relationship (somewhat) even though I also feel as if I'm not. It's like the fact that no guy in real life has ever reached out to me. Feeling like it's appearance wise too. I don't think I'm that ugly but... I'm not a natural beauty and makeup doesn't fit me. There's no way I can hang out with people or meet people. Where would people my age meet others? It's frustrating to me. I've been sitting in this house for almost a year now and losing hope. It sucks having no friends and feeling not worthy of anyone's love. Can someone even help me feel better? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Self confidence issues, makeup doesn't fit me. No friends, never had a boyfriend. Online school, no job. Help.	Self confidence issues, makeup doesn't fit me. No friends, never had a boyfriend. Online school, no job. Help.	5,210
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Is my guy-friend (15m) interested in me (15f)? If so, how can I gently say no? POST: So the story is this. I've known this guy (Tom) since we were 11 (4 years as friends). He's a nice guy, goofy and fun to be around. We just started staying after school on Mondays in the leisure rooms where we drink tea and study, draw, exchange funny videos or gossip together. We've decided to do it every Monday, though we only done it twice before. Two days ago it was my birthday. On that day Tom and I were walking alone down an empty hallway when he says 'You know, winstonspoke, I've been thinking." I turned to him and saw that he was pale, sweaty and incredibly nervous looking. My brain immediately goes to, 'oh my god? Is he asking me out?'. But then he says 'since it's your birthday and we have tea together, I should buy you tea on the weekend as a present and we can drink it together. What kind of tea do you want?' I answered quickly, got to class and then ran to my girl friend. I told her about the encounter and how it confused me. She responded with 'Don't worry, he's just a nice guy, he does this to everyone. Tons of other girls think he has a crush on them.' Now I agree with her. Tom is a nice guy, more friendly than the other guys in our grade, girls often think that he is interested in them while he is not. But it felt different than his usual kindness. School ends, I talk to my other girlfriend and she says that he probably likes me. Then she asks how would I react if he did ask me out. I've decided I don't want to date him. I don't want to date at 15, nor do I find him to be pleasing in that way. He's a friend, that's all. But I'm not even sure if he likes me that way. What do you guys think? And how should I deal with it? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Guy friend maybe interested in me, he asked to buy me a gift for my birthday and we have tea after school every Monday. How can I say no politely without ruining our relationship as just friends for 4 years?	Guy friend maybe interested in me, he asked to buy me a gift for my birthday and we have tea after school every Monday. How can I say no politely without ruining our relationship as just friends for 4 years?	3,882
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: Was I being a dick for moving his bag on the bus? POST: So today I got on the bus in the morning, and all the seats were taken except one and there were a few people sitting. Anyway my friend was sitting in the back and I wanted to go sit back with him, and there was a seat open except some kid in my grade that I didn't know had his bag on the seat. As I walked to the back, the kid with the bag makes good eye contact with me and sees me coming, and people only come to the back of the bus to sit since its terrible to stand. He doesn't move his bag, and then my friend motioned him to move it as I was walking back. He didn't... So when I got back there I just picked it up and threw it on the ground. Kid was your average highschool kid, spiked hair in the front, lacoste shoes, american eagle jeans, hoodie (in winter, its cold I live in canada) and AM shirt. yeah the kid didn't say anything because I gave him a death stare. TL;DR: . Assistant:	through a kids backpack on the floor after he didn't move it for me on the bus. Gave him death stare and he said nothing.	through a kids backpack on the floor after he didn't move it for me on the bus. Gave him death stare and he said nothing.	4,008
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: Me [23/F] having trouble accepting my BF's [23/M] religious beliefs POST: Today after a conversation about religion, my SO of two years told me he sometimes worries that I think his beliefs are 'silly'. I didn't want to sound like an asshole and said that while I didn't share the same beliefs as him, that didn't mean that he's 'silly' to believe. ...But honestly, as an atheist I try to put the idea that he believes in a god at the back of my mind because it's only once in a blue moon we talk about religion (he would never bring it up, he accepts completely the fact that I'm not religious) and it's something that I have a hard time accepting and it's the only aspect of our relationship that I just avoid talking about. He then said he sometimes thinks that if I could change one thing about him, it would be his beliefs. I didn't really know what to say to this and sorta fobbed him off, not making eye-contact and said I love him the way he is (which is true). My question is: Does it make me a bad person to admit that of COURSE I would change this about him if I could? We were discussing the idea of what happens after death - I had said I couldn't think of anything more terrifying than continuing to exist for eternity while he said he couldn't think of anything worse than ceasing to exist - which completely baffles me and for the first time I realised that our views are polar opposites and will most likely stay that way. He believes there's something more than just chemistry that makes him 'him' and that he wouldn't want this to just end after death. I feel like a horrible person for admitting to myself that there's something about him that I'd like to change, while he's perfectly happy accepting the fact that I'll never hold any religious beliefs.. TL;DR: . Assistant:	SO is religious and I'm not - does it make me a bad gf to want to change this if I could?*	SO is religious and I'm not - does it make me a bad gf to want to change this if I could?*	1,912
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [21F] have a crush on someone [22M] even though I'm in a long term relationship with an amazing person [22M] POST: Hey guys. Throwaway, yadda yadda. I'm a university student who has been dating the same guy, who I'll call Mark, for almost all of college. We celebrated our 3-yr anniversary in December, and our relationship has been 99% wonderful and fulfilling and positively challenging for the entire time. I love Mark so freaking much, and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I am so in love with him. Unfortunately, I'm developing a crush on someone outside of my relationship :( I've known this guy, I'll call him Jeff, for awhile but I only recently started to know him a little better. We have mutual friends and see each other every once in awhile, and he is amazing. Jeff is just an overall incredible person, just like Mark. I feel so guilty. Of course Mark and I have tiny problems to work on just like any couple, but nothing that would make me want to abandon our relationship. I hate that I feel myself blush and get nervous whenever I see Jeff walk into a room. Disclaimer: I would NEVER, and I repeat, EVER cheat on Mark. Furthermore, Jeff knows that I am in a relationship, and even though I suspect he might feel the same about me, he will never pursue me out of respect for my relationship. Pretty much, the only problem I'm having is that I don't know why I am feeling this way. Mark is wonderful and amazing, so why do I care about Jeff? I am graduating soon and me & Mark's relationship will be under a lot of stress as we try to find our footing in the real adult world, so I don't want to be feeling this way. Is this normal? Why is this happening? Should I tell Mark or just let it be? Should I avoid contact with Jeff? Thank you all so much! TL;DR: . Assistant:	I'm in a great long-term relationship but I'm developing a crush. Why & how is this happening, and how can I make it stop?	I'm in a great long-term relationship but I'm developing a crush. Why & how is this happening, and how can I make it stop?	2,075
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [26 M] starting to get serious with a [24 F] who has never been in a serious relationship or in love before. Unsure if I should pursue this relationship . POST: I've been seeing this woman pretty steadily for just over two months and I can tell that I'm starting to fall for her. Simply put: she is amazing + I know she is infatuated with me as well. My concern however is that she's never been in love before and her longest relationship has been 7 months. Almost a year ago I got out of the most serious relationship I've been in. I was with a woman that I wanted to spend my life with (had the ring) but the relationship abruptly ended. I've asked the girl I'm seeing now about her relationships and she told me she just hasn't found the right guy yet. I've always been a relationship guy and have been in a few long term ones. My fear is going through the pain of a breakup again. The fact that she hasn't gone through heartbreak, experienced love, or a long term relationship worries me. I don't want to be that guy she leaves after a few years. I'm looking for a best friend to spend my life with. Should I avoid getting more serious with her or am I being foolish for thinking that way? What are your opinions on this situation and your personal accounts of being in a relationship with someone who has never been serious or in love before? TL;DR: . Assistant:	Feeling apprehensive and wondering if I should pursue a relationship with someone who hasn't been in love or in a serious relationship before.	Feeling apprehensive and wondering if I should pursue a relationship with someone who hasn't been in love or in a serious relationship before.	5,884
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning TITLE: Trying to mix-and-match bridesmaid dresses and I'm looking for help/opinions POST: I need some fresh eyes on my mix-and-match bridesmaid attempt for a Kate Spade styled wedding. I'll make this quick: * My wedding is March in Key West (yay!). The weather should be mild (70s-80s). Weather permitting, the event will take place outside in the gardens of a historic home. I'm want the affair to feel like Kate Spade Garden Dinner Party - classic, but fun. Main color is navy with accents of green, pink, and metallics. * My first instinct was to put the girls in long dresses but the choices are less fun. Since this is a garden wedding in a tropical place, I don't want them to look overdone (or want the girls to be uncomfortable!). I found some shorter dresses that I LOVE but I'm unsure if my mixing and matching works or not. * Here are the four combinations I'm considering: [ TL;DR: . Assistant:	Kate Spade inspired garden wedding in Key West. Want to do mix-and-match bridesmaid dresses but I'm fashionably challenged and looking for feedback on these combos.	Kate Spade inspired garden wedding in Key West. Want to do mix-and-match bridesmaid dresses but I'm fashionably challenged and looking for feedback on these combos.	6,073
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: [21M] with [21F] feeling guilty over something silly? POST: I had my 21st birthday on the weekend and I got incredibly drunk. I've been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years and I love her very much. However, during the celebrations I grabbed a close friends boob and gave it a little squeeze. I regret my action and I think a few people saw. I had none at the time nor have any sexual feelings towards my friend and I apologised to her the next day. She laughed saying I was extremely drunk and she didn't feel awkward regarding it. Apparently I had also felt a few peoples bottoms ( which I don't remember). I feel guilty since this could hurt my relationship. Should I tell my girlfriend or only address this silly mistake if someone else mentions it? Thank you for your time. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Got extremely drunk at 21st, felt friends who are girls bums and one girls boobies and now feel guilty. Should I tell girlfriend?	Got extremely drunk at 21st, felt friends who are girls bums and one girls boobies and now feel guilty. Should I tell girlfriend?	1,847
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: How do I (27M) tell my girlfriend (27F) that I'm uncomfortable with her new exercising habits? POST: Hey all. I don't know who to go to for advice, so I'm really hoping this sub can help me. I've been with my girlfriend for eight years. For as long as I've known her, she's had self-esteem issues, and she's really started to tackle them this year by going to the gym / taking yoga classes a lot. I'm proud of the effort she's putting in, but I feel she's started drifting away and prioritizing her workouts over spending time with me. I've told her all throughout our relationship that I will always exercise with her if she needs, and we have started doing aerobics and whatnot at my house maybe once or twice a week after I get off work, but she will still attend classes almost nightly. Which also something that upsets me, that her classes are going later into the evening (7-9PM). I've never attended classes with her, I am insecure and uncomfortable about her schedule, and the feeling is just getting worse as weeks go by. I don't have any reason to think she's cheating on me or seeing someone else, but I just don't know anymore. What makes matters worse is that I've recently started working full-time and she's part-time, so I don't see her as often anymore, but she doesn't seem to acknowledge that I have less time to see her. I just don't know how to approach this subject with her. Everytime I do, she gets defensive, shuts down, and we end up not speaking for days. How do I explain all this to her in a civilized way? Thanks for your time and help. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend prioritizes working out to spending time with me and I don't know how to explain my feelings to her.	Girlfriend prioritizes working out to spending time with me and I don't know how to explain my feelings to her.	3,289
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships TITLE: I [29M] am not ready to settle down with my girlfriend [24F] of 2 years. Want to travel the world solo but it's awkward timing. POST: Hey reddit. Thank you so much in advance for giving me advice. So this is a throwaway account. I'll go straight to the point. I met my girlfriend in Philly two years ago. We spent a lot of time together in the city and it was great. Best companion I've ever had. I always had this dream to travel USA and do all 50 states. So I quit my job earlier this year and she managed to get a leave from work so she can go back to work in December. We're currently in the middle of our trip across the country. She's set on us moving in together when we get back to Philly. She's looking for apartments and is excited for the next stage. Unfortunately, I don't feel the same way. In fact, my mind is elsewhere since I want to keep traveling and see the rest of the world - specifically South East Asia. She's a great companion and I love you. I just don't think I'm ready to settle down, there's so much more I want to do and since I'm unemployed, this is the perfect opportunity to see the world. She won't want to do that next extended trip with me and I would love to spend some proper time alone and see parts of the world that I've always wanted to see. But, this would mean breaking up when our USA trip is over. She won't want do deal with that LDR and it would be unfair to ask that of her. She has absolutely no idea I'm feeling this way and I hate the idea of hurting her and leaving her hanging. She has enough money saved up to move in without me. Reddit, I would love your advice. How do I approach it. I haven't mentioned anything to her. But I really think I need this for me. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Girlfriend of 2 years wants to move in after our long USA trip. I want to break up and travel the world solo. How do I approach this?	Girlfriend of 2 years wants to move in after our long USA trip. I want to break up and travel the world solo. How do I approach this?	5,291
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: So I might have spinal meningitis. POST: Today I got a call from my boss telling me that one of my co-workers is in the hospital with spinal meningitis. We don't know yet if it's bacterial or viral, seeing as how the spinal tap will take at least 24 hours before we get any clear results. I've been vaccinated for it but when I talked to the doctors office they told me that there is now another vaccine that you are supposed to have. They told me to watch for the symptoms which include a severe headache and flu like symptoms along with back/neck ache. When I asked how long the virus lays dormant in your system, they told me either a month to a week. Well I have definitely been working with her over the past month, and my recent contact with her was just last weekend. Now this evening I have a severe migraine and some slight neck ache but haven't gotten sick to my stomach at all. In my town there have already been three cases in just today, one of the patients is dying. I'm a bit scared reddit, I've been around my newborn niece and my younger siblings and I don't want anything to happen to them. Any advice or reassurance that I'm just stressing myself out and to relax until the results come back would be appreciated. TL;DR: . Assistant:	Co-worker has spinal meningitis, may possibly be bacterial. Been working with her for the past month and I've been around very young children and am scared for their safety and mine.	Co-worker has spinal meningitis, may possibly be bacterial. Been working with her for the past month and I've been around very young children and am scared for their safety and mine.	6,157
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit TITLE: When was a time someone deceived you or your community Reddit? I'll start... POST: In my school we just recently had something happen where the school was told that a young boy had leukemia and he was close to dying. One of our football team's players even got to meet him. They talked briefly. Turns out he was a huge fan of our football team, that has been doing really well this year, so we decided to dedicate a football game to him. We even decided to let him do the coin toss. It was his final wish to attend this game. We even planned to release balloons for him during halftime. Unfortunately we got word that he had died the day before the game. People were very upset but the game still went on. About a week later, news comes that someone investigated the kid and found out that he wasn't even real! The whole thing was just a hoax! Our football player had talked with an actor. A paid ten yer old actor. It even ended up on our news (Here's the link: TL;DR: . Assistant:	Our school was told about a boy that was close to dying because of leukemia. School took it to heart and became very emotional. Turns out it was a hoax.	Our school was told about a boy that was close to dying because of leukemia. School took it to heart and became very emotional. Turns out it was a hoax.	289