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Traditions which guarantee A.A.'s unity contain not a single |
"Don't." They repeatedly say, "We ought..." but never "You |
must!" |
"Though it is traditional that our Fellowship may not coerce |
anyone, let us not suppose even for an instant that we are |
not under constraint. Indeed, we are under enormous |
coercion -- the kind that comes in bottles. Our formertyrant, |
King Alcohol, always stands ready again to clutch us to him. |
"Therefore, freedom from alcohol is the great `must' that has |
to be achieved, else we go mad or die." |
Victory in Defeat |
Convinced I never could belong, and vowing I'd never settle |
for any second-rate status, I felt I simply had to dominate in |
everything I chose to do: work or play. As this attractive |
formula for the good life began to succeed, according to my |
then specifications of success, I became deliriously happy. |
But when an undertaking occasionally did fail, I was filled |
with resentment and depression that could be cured only by |
the next triumph. Very early, therfore, I came to value |
everything in terms of victory or defeat -- "all or nothing." |
The only satisfaction I knew was to win. |
Only through utter defeat are we able to take our first steps |
toward liberation and strength. Our admissions of personal |
powerlessness finally turn out to be firm bedrock upon which |
happy and purposeful lives may be built. |
Giving Up Defects |
Looking at those defects we are unwilling to give up, we |
ought to erase the hard and fast lines that we have drawn. |
Perhaps in some cases we shall say, "This I cannot give up |
yet...." But we should not say to ourselves, "This O will never |
give up!" |
The moment we say, "No, never!" our minds close against |
the grace of God. Such rebellion my be fatal. Instead, we |
should abandon limited objectives and begin to move |
towards God's will for us. |
TWELVE AND TWELVE, PP. 68-69 |
Beyond Agnosticism |
We of agnostic temperament found that as soon as we were |
able to lay aside prejudice and express even a willingness to |
believe in a Power greater than ourselves, we commenced to |
get results, even though it was impossible for any of us to |
fully define or comprehend that Power, which is God. |
"Many people soberly assure me that man has no better |
place in the universe than that of another competing |
organism, fighting its way through life only to perish the end. |
Hearing this, I feel that I still prefer to cling to the so-called |
illusion of religion, which in my own experience has |
meaningfully told me something very different." |
Two Roads for the Oldtimer |
The founders of many groups ultimately divide into two |
classes known in A.A. slang as "elder statesmen" and |
"bleeding deacons." |
The elder statesmen sees the wisdom of the group's decision |
to run itself and holds no resentment over his reduced |
status. His judgment, fortified by considerable experience, is |
sound; he is willing to sit quietly on the side lines patiently |
awaiting developments. |
The bleeding deacon is just as surely convinced that the |
group cannot get along without him. He constantly connives |
for re-election to office and continues to be consumed with |
self-pity. Nearly every oldtimer in our Society has gone |
through this process in some degree. Happily, most of them |
survive and live to become elder statesmen. They become |
the real and permanent leadership of A.A. |
TWELVE AND TWELVE, P. 135 |
Basis of All Humility |
For just so long as we were convinced that we could live |
exclusively by our own individual strength and intelligence, |
for just that long was a working faith in a Higher Power |
impossible. |
This was true even when we believed that God existed. We |
could actually have earnest religious beliefs which remained |
barren because we were still trying to play God ourselves. As |
long as we placed self-reliance first, a genuine reliance upon |
a Higher Power was out of the question. |
That basic ingredient of all humility, a desire to seek and do |
God's will, was missing. |
TWELVE AND TWELVE, P. 72 |
Defects and Repairs |
More than most people, the alcoholic leads a double life. He |
is very much the actor. To the outer world he presents his |
stage character. This is the one he likes his fellows to see. |
He wants to enjoy a certain reputation, but knows in his heart |
he doesn't deserve it. |
Guilt is really the reserve side of the coin of pride. Guilt aims |
at self-destruction, and pride aims at the destruction of |
others. |
"The moral inventory is a cool examination of the damages |
that occurred to us during life and a sincere effort to look at |
them in a true perspective. This has the effect of taking the |
ground glass out of us, the emotional substance that still |
cuts and inhibits." |
"Restore Us to Sanity" |
Few indeed are the practicing alcoholics who have any idea |
how irrational they are, or, seeing their irrationality, can bear |
to face it. For example, some will be willing to term |
themselves "problem drinkers," but cannot endure the |
suggestion that they are in fact mentally ill. |
They are abettet in this blindness by a world which does not |
understand the difference between sane drinking and |
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