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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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hut1phu
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hutkn4e
| 1,643,513,300 | 1,643,522,981 | 19 | 95 |
Not a lawyer Just to get you started on some reading material, check out USCIS. https://www.uscis.gov/working-in-the-united-states
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I know this is really niche but if you ever plan to share source code or controlled hardware/information with non-US employees be aware you may be subject to export laws such as the Export Administration Regulations!
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sfxhr4
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legaladvice_train
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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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hutkn4e
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hutawuj
| 1,643,522,981 | 1,643,517,720 | 95 | 14 |
I know this is really niche but if you ever plan to share source code or controlled hardware/information with non-US employees be aware you may be subject to export laws such as the Export Administration Regulations!
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You'll need to follow the laws in Australia.
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sfxhr4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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huu2c8a
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hutller
| 1,643,535,791 | 1,643,523,576 | 51 | 25 |
In most states a 15 year old is old enough to work but depending on which state the 15 year old is in, there may be a restriction on their working hours. They almost certainly will not be allowed to work during school hours. You would need to pay him at least Australian minimum wage which for a 15 year old is around $5-$6 USD and will increase on his birthday every year until he turns 21, at which point minimum wage for him will be around $15 USD - 20% higher if he’s considered a casual employee (I.e. you are not giving him paid leave). On top of that you likely need to pay an additional 9.5% in super for him, and of course you will need to set up to pay into the Australian tax system on his behalf. For context, he could get a job at McDonald’s for higher than minimum wage, so if you’re hoping he’ll be cheaper because he’s younger, you’d do better to find an American teen. There’s probably other considerations I don’t know about so it will be worth doing some research on fairworkaustralia to determine what you need to do. All this to say, this is a lot of effort for any employee, let alone a 15 year old. He may be very talented, and you may have the best of intentions, but it’s likely he will be a bad employee - not through any fault of his own but because he’s probably never had a professional job before. If you want to do right by him you’ll need to coach him on workplace norms and expectations, and that will be infinitely harder when he’s remote, especially in an opposite time zone. I also find it somewhat strange that he reached out to you - I recognise the animation industry is not easy to get into here but again, he would have an easier time, more protection, and possibly a better rate of pay working for McDonalds while he’s in school, and move to America or Canada once he’s an adult if he’s truly serious about animation as a career. This seems like a bad deal for both of you.
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Not a lawyer. Recently researched hiring a really good candidate in Costa Rica for our US-based company. Turns out that even if we could get it to fly here, the government in Costa Rica takes exception to us jointly pretending someone there is an "independent contractor" for a foreign company if that's not an accurate description of the working relationship. So, I would take a look at how Australia (and/or the Provincial government in question) views the working relationship. Good chance they would expect your company to set up a legal AUS office and be compliant with any amd all local tax and labor laws.
| 1 | 12,215 | 2.04 |
sfxhr4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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hut1phu
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huu2c8a
| 1,643,513,300 | 1,643,535,791 | 19 | 51 |
Not a lawyer Just to get you started on some reading material, check out USCIS. https://www.uscis.gov/working-in-the-united-states
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In most states a 15 year old is old enough to work but depending on which state the 15 year old is in, there may be a restriction on their working hours. They almost certainly will not be allowed to work during school hours. You would need to pay him at least Australian minimum wage which for a 15 year old is around $5-$6 USD and will increase on his birthday every year until he turns 21, at which point minimum wage for him will be around $15 USD - 20% higher if he’s considered a casual employee (I.e. you are not giving him paid leave). On top of that you likely need to pay an additional 9.5% in super for him, and of course you will need to set up to pay into the Australian tax system on his behalf. For context, he could get a job at McDonald’s for higher than minimum wage, so if you’re hoping he’ll be cheaper because he’s younger, you’d do better to find an American teen. There’s probably other considerations I don’t know about so it will be worth doing some research on fairworkaustralia to determine what you need to do. All this to say, this is a lot of effort for any employee, let alone a 15 year old. He may be very talented, and you may have the best of intentions, but it’s likely he will be a bad employee - not through any fault of his own but because he’s probably never had a professional job before. If you want to do right by him you’ll need to coach him on workplace norms and expectations, and that will be infinitely harder when he’s remote, especially in an opposite time zone. I also find it somewhat strange that he reached out to you - I recognise the animation industry is not easy to get into here but again, he would have an easier time, more protection, and possibly a better rate of pay working for McDonalds while he’s in school, and move to America or Canada once he’s an adult if he’s truly serious about animation as a career. This seems like a bad deal for both of you.
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sfxhr4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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hutawuj
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huu2c8a
| 1,643,517,720 | 1,643,535,791 | 14 | 51 |
You'll need to follow the laws in Australia.
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In most states a 15 year old is old enough to work but depending on which state the 15 year old is in, there may be a restriction on their working hours. They almost certainly will not be allowed to work during school hours. You would need to pay him at least Australian minimum wage which for a 15 year old is around $5-$6 USD and will increase on his birthday every year until he turns 21, at which point minimum wage for him will be around $15 USD - 20% higher if he’s considered a casual employee (I.e. you are not giving him paid leave). On top of that you likely need to pay an additional 9.5% in super for him, and of course you will need to set up to pay into the Australian tax system on his behalf. For context, he could get a job at McDonald’s for higher than minimum wage, so if you’re hoping he’ll be cheaper because he’s younger, you’d do better to find an American teen. There’s probably other considerations I don’t know about so it will be worth doing some research on fairworkaustralia to determine what you need to do. All this to say, this is a lot of effort for any employee, let alone a 15 year old. He may be very talented, and you may have the best of intentions, but it’s likely he will be a bad employee - not through any fault of his own but because he’s probably never had a professional job before. If you want to do right by him you’ll need to coach him on workplace norms and expectations, and that will be infinitely harder when he’s remote, especially in an opposite time zone. I also find it somewhat strange that he reached out to you - I recognise the animation industry is not easy to get into here but again, he would have an easier time, more protection, and possibly a better rate of pay working for McDonalds while he’s in school, and move to America or Canada once he’s an adult if he’s truly serious about animation as a career. This seems like a bad deal for both of you.
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| 0.94 |
I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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huu2c8a
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huttykl
| 1,643,535,791 | 1,643,529,379 | 51 | 2 |
In most states a 15 year old is old enough to work but depending on which state the 15 year old is in, there may be a restriction on their working hours. They almost certainly will not be allowed to work during school hours. You would need to pay him at least Australian minimum wage which for a 15 year old is around $5-$6 USD and will increase on his birthday every year until he turns 21, at which point minimum wage for him will be around $15 USD - 20% higher if he’s considered a casual employee (I.e. you are not giving him paid leave). On top of that you likely need to pay an additional 9.5% in super for him, and of course you will need to set up to pay into the Australian tax system on his behalf. For context, he could get a job at McDonald’s for higher than minimum wage, so if you’re hoping he’ll be cheaper because he’s younger, you’d do better to find an American teen. There’s probably other considerations I don’t know about so it will be worth doing some research on fairworkaustralia to determine what you need to do. All this to say, this is a lot of effort for any employee, let alone a 15 year old. He may be very talented, and you may have the best of intentions, but it’s likely he will be a bad employee - not through any fault of his own but because he’s probably never had a professional job before. If you want to do right by him you’ll need to coach him on workplace norms and expectations, and that will be infinitely harder when he’s remote, especially in an opposite time zone. I also find it somewhat strange that he reached out to you - I recognise the animation industry is not easy to get into here but again, he would have an easier time, more protection, and possibly a better rate of pay working for McDonalds while he’s in school, and move to America or Canada once he’s an adult if he’s truly serious about animation as a career. This seems like a bad deal for both of you.
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From a tax perspective: you will want to understand Australian payroll tax rules. Be aware of any travel between US / Australia by the individual or other employees (travel / performing services outside of tax residency could give rise to additional filing obligations). I don't think this would give rise to a US withholding tax obligation given individual is not performing services in the US, but you should confirm. When you have developers abroad there can always be some risk that IP sits outside of the US
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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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hut1phu
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hutller
| 1,643,513,300 | 1,643,523,576 | 19 | 25 |
Not a lawyer Just to get you started on some reading material, check out USCIS. https://www.uscis.gov/working-in-the-united-states
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Not a lawyer. Recently researched hiring a really good candidate in Costa Rica for our US-based company. Turns out that even if we could get it to fly here, the government in Costa Rica takes exception to us jointly pretending someone there is an "independent contractor" for a foreign company if that's not an accurate description of the working relationship. So, I would take a look at how Australia (and/or the Provincial government in question) views the working relationship. Good chance they would expect your company to set up a legal AUS office and be compliant with any amd all local tax and labor laws.
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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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hutller
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hutawuj
| 1,643,523,576 | 1,643,517,720 | 25 | 14 |
Not a lawyer. Recently researched hiring a really good candidate in Costa Rica for our US-based company. Turns out that even if we could get it to fly here, the government in Costa Rica takes exception to us jointly pretending someone there is an "independent contractor" for a foreign company if that's not an accurate description of the working relationship. So, I would take a look at how Australia (and/or the Provincial government in question) views the working relationship. Good chance they would expect your company to set up a legal AUS office and be compliant with any amd all local tax and labor laws.
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You'll need to follow the laws in Australia.
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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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hutawuj
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huu2mp0
| 1,643,517,720 | 1,643,536,022 | 14 | 16 |
You'll need to follow the laws in Australia.
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You have two main options: Try to employ him directly. Unless you’re planning to set up a permanent office in Australia, this is likely going to be more trouble than it is worth. Have him set himself up as a freelancer and hire him for specific work. He will have to get an ABN tax number and then invoice you. You are then dealing with his “company” and the regulatory burden for you is basically non existent.
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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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huttykl
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huu2mp0
| 1,643,529,379 | 1,643,536,022 | 2 | 16 |
From a tax perspective: you will want to understand Australian payroll tax rules. Be aware of any travel between US / Australia by the individual or other employees (travel / performing services outside of tax residency could give rise to additional filing obligations). I don't think this would give rise to a US withholding tax obligation given individual is not performing services in the US, but you should confirm. When you have developers abroad there can always be some risk that IP sits outside of the US
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You have two main options: Try to employ him directly. Unless you’re planning to set up a permanent office in Australia, this is likely going to be more trouble than it is worth. Have him set himself up as a freelancer and hire him for specific work. He will have to get an ABN tax number and then invoice you. You are then dealing with his “company” and the regulatory burden for you is basically non existent.
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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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huum439
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huttykl
| 1,643,549,606 | 1,643,529,379 | 4 | 2 |
One thing that might be worth looking into is a GEO or PEO. They're companies that help assist in hiring in foreign countries where you don't have offices setup, and deal with all the local laws for you. I'm currently hired through a GEO (not in Australia, but outside of the US), and they deal with all the local tax/deductions stuff that would be a pain in ass for my US employer to comply with. They take a decent cut, but would be worth exploring.
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From a tax perspective: you will want to understand Australian payroll tax rules. Be aware of any travel between US / Australia by the individual or other employees (travel / performing services outside of tax residency could give rise to additional filing obligations). I don't think this would give rise to a US withholding tax obligation given individual is not performing services in the US, but you should confirm. When you have developers abroad there can always be some risk that IP sits outside of the US
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I run a small animation company in SC (USA). We received an inquiry from a talented 15 Y/O from Australia looking for remote work. We are interested in hiring him, but I would like to know some of the laws that would be involved.
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huttykl
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huxezdo
| 1,643,529,379 | 1,643,589,316 | 2 | 3 |
From a tax perspective: you will want to understand Australian payroll tax rules. Be aware of any travel between US / Australia by the individual or other employees (travel / performing services outside of tax residency could give rise to additional filing obligations). I don't think this would give rise to a US withholding tax obligation given individual is not performing services in the US, but you should confirm. When you have developers abroad there can always be some risk that IP sits outside of the US
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Not a lawyer but my father owns his own animation company. This is what he says: “in the US, with foreign based EMPLOYEES you need to follow US employment laws AND hn1 certification but, if hiring a foreign CONTRACTOR, the onus is on the CONTRACTOR to follow the laws of their resident country (with regards to wage/tax reporting, etc) and the US based company hiring the contractor only needs to file a foreign contractor firm (i think form 880 or something like that) reporting wages paid to a foreign contractor. wages paid under contract of this nature are not subject to US wage minimums or restrictions or age restrictions.”
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My Daughter is Being Bullied at School This is in Washington State. My daughter (14F) has been continually verbally and physically harassed by another student (14M), even after we spoke with the school’s principal and were assured it would be put to an end. The harassment includes name calling, homophobic slurs, shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. It started three months ago when my daughter’s best friend ended a relationship with the boy. We talked to the school when it first started; administrators talked to everyone involved and we were assured that it had ended. Fast forward to today and it’s worse than ever. My daughter is afraid to pass him in the halls. After an incident this morning my wife emailed the principal and he said the assistant principal would be talking to both kids today. That didn’t happen. The advice I’m looking for is how to escalate this. I will hopefully be having a face-to-face meeting with the principal tomorrow and if they still won’t take action, who would I talk to next and how? We’re not looking for a lawsuit or anyone to end up in criminal trouble, something like that would be a last resort. We just want it to end.
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ibk9ivd
| 1,654,658,168 | 1,654,655,138 | 82 | 38 |
> shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. So that's assault, and you need to file a police report first thing in the morning. Dress nicely and go in person, and be polite but firm. Schools are very good at "keeping things quiet" and not especially good at nipping bullying in the bud. They've had their chance, and have failed. Your daughter is entitled to an education free of harassment. It may be worth buying an hour of an attorney's time to find out what your options are. Look for a civil rights attorney through your local or regional bar -- the Washington State bar does not offer a referral service, but does offer links to other referral services (such as several counties, plus legal aid). You can also do just a little bit of sleuthing and see who's sued your school district in the past. The other thing you can do is write letters to the superintendent and school board. Be very specific, even boring, in your description of what happened on which dates and how the administration responded or ignored the incident. Again, the school just plain isn't going to handle the bullying and harassment case properly. You're going to have to involve authorities with "teeth."
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Not a lot of people seem to know this but you can definitely file a police report instead of trying to do things within the school system
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My Daughter is Being Bullied at School This is in Washington State. My daughter (14F) has been continually verbally and physically harassed by another student (14M), even after we spoke with the school’s principal and were assured it would be put to an end. The harassment includes name calling, homophobic slurs, shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. It started three months ago when my daughter’s best friend ended a relationship with the boy. We talked to the school when it first started; administrators talked to everyone involved and we were assured that it had ended. Fast forward to today and it’s worse than ever. My daughter is afraid to pass him in the halls. After an incident this morning my wife emailed the principal and he said the assistant principal would be talking to both kids today. That didn’t happen. The advice I’m looking for is how to escalate this. I will hopefully be having a face-to-face meeting with the principal tomorrow and if they still won’t take action, who would I talk to next and how? We’re not looking for a lawsuit or anyone to end up in criminal trouble, something like that would be a last resort. We just want it to end.
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ibjmoiu
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ibkf84y
| 1,654,643,487 | 1,654,658,168 | 31 | 82 |
Consider contacting the school district and superintendent. Link to WA State Stop Bullying page
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> shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. So that's assault, and you need to file a police report first thing in the morning. Dress nicely and go in person, and be polite but firm. Schools are very good at "keeping things quiet" and not especially good at nipping bullying in the bud. They've had their chance, and have failed. Your daughter is entitled to an education free of harassment. It may be worth buying an hour of an attorney's time to find out what your options are. Look for a civil rights attorney through your local or regional bar -- the Washington State bar does not offer a referral service, but does offer links to other referral services (such as several counties, plus legal aid). You can also do just a little bit of sleuthing and see who's sued your school district in the past. The other thing you can do is write letters to the superintendent and school board. Be very specific, even boring, in your description of what happened on which dates and how the administration responded or ignored the incident. Again, the school just plain isn't going to handle the bullying and harassment case properly. You're going to have to involve authorities with "teeth."
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v7a2ad
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legaladvice_train
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My Daughter is Being Bullied at School This is in Washington State. My daughter (14F) has been continually verbally and physically harassed by another student (14M), even after we spoke with the school’s principal and were assured it would be put to an end. The harassment includes name calling, homophobic slurs, shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. It started three months ago when my daughter’s best friend ended a relationship with the boy. We talked to the school when it first started; administrators talked to everyone involved and we were assured that it had ended. Fast forward to today and it’s worse than ever. My daughter is afraid to pass him in the halls. After an incident this morning my wife emailed the principal and he said the assistant principal would be talking to both kids today. That didn’t happen. The advice I’m looking for is how to escalate this. I will hopefully be having a face-to-face meeting with the principal tomorrow and if they still won’t take action, who would I talk to next and how? We’re not looking for a lawsuit or anyone to end up in criminal trouble, something like that would be a last resort. We just want it to end.
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ibkf84y
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ibjqpve
| 1,654,658,168 | 1,654,645,539 | 82 | 30 |
> shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. So that's assault, and you need to file a police report first thing in the morning. Dress nicely and go in person, and be polite but firm. Schools are very good at "keeping things quiet" and not especially good at nipping bullying in the bud. They've had their chance, and have failed. Your daughter is entitled to an education free of harassment. It may be worth buying an hour of an attorney's time to find out what your options are. Look for a civil rights attorney through your local or regional bar -- the Washington State bar does not offer a referral service, but does offer links to other referral services (such as several counties, plus legal aid). You can also do just a little bit of sleuthing and see who's sued your school district in the past. The other thing you can do is write letters to the superintendent and school board. Be very specific, even boring, in your description of what happened on which dates and how the administration responded or ignored the incident. Again, the school just plain isn't going to handle the bullying and harassment case properly. You're going to have to involve authorities with "teeth."
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What you are describing is a crime, both assault and battery. Simply put the next time this happens call the police and file a report. And keep doing it till it stops, the school will protect itself not your daughter.
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v7a2ad
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| 0.92 |
My Daughter is Being Bullied at School This is in Washington State. My daughter (14F) has been continually verbally and physically harassed by another student (14M), even after we spoke with the school’s principal and were assured it would be put to an end. The harassment includes name calling, homophobic slurs, shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. It started three months ago when my daughter’s best friend ended a relationship with the boy. We talked to the school when it first started; administrators talked to everyone involved and we were assured that it had ended. Fast forward to today and it’s worse than ever. My daughter is afraid to pass him in the halls. After an incident this morning my wife emailed the principal and he said the assistant principal would be talking to both kids today. That didn’t happen. The advice I’m looking for is how to escalate this. I will hopefully be having a face-to-face meeting with the principal tomorrow and if they still won’t take action, who would I talk to next and how? We’re not looking for a lawsuit or anyone to end up in criminal trouble, something like that would be a last resort. We just want it to end.
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ibjmoiu
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ibk9ivd
| 1,654,643,487 | 1,654,655,138 | 31 | 38 |
Consider contacting the school district and superintendent. Link to WA State Stop Bullying page
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Not a lot of people seem to know this but you can definitely file a police report instead of trying to do things within the school system
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v7a2ad
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legaladvice_train
| 0.92 |
My Daughter is Being Bullied at School This is in Washington State. My daughter (14F) has been continually verbally and physically harassed by another student (14M), even after we spoke with the school’s principal and were assured it would be put to an end. The harassment includes name calling, homophobic slurs, shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. It started three months ago when my daughter’s best friend ended a relationship with the boy. We talked to the school when it first started; administrators talked to everyone involved and we were assured that it had ended. Fast forward to today and it’s worse than ever. My daughter is afraid to pass him in the halls. After an incident this morning my wife emailed the principal and he said the assistant principal would be talking to both kids today. That didn’t happen. The advice I’m looking for is how to escalate this. I will hopefully be having a face-to-face meeting with the principal tomorrow and if they still won’t take action, who would I talk to next and how? We’re not looking for a lawsuit or anyone to end up in criminal trouble, something like that would be a last resort. We just want it to end.
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ibjqpve
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ibk9ivd
| 1,654,645,539 | 1,654,655,138 | 30 | 38 |
What you are describing is a crime, both assault and battery. Simply put the next time this happens call the police and file a report. And keep doing it till it stops, the school will protect itself not your daughter.
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Not a lot of people seem to know this but you can definitely file a police report instead of trying to do things within the school system
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v7a2ad
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legaladvice_train
| 0.92 |
My Daughter is Being Bullied at School This is in Washington State. My daughter (14F) has been continually verbally and physically harassed by another student (14M), even after we spoke with the school’s principal and were assured it would be put to an end. The harassment includes name calling, homophobic slurs, shoulder checking, and pushing from behind. It started three months ago when my daughter’s best friend ended a relationship with the boy. We talked to the school when it first started; administrators talked to everyone involved and we were assured that it had ended. Fast forward to today and it’s worse than ever. My daughter is afraid to pass him in the halls. After an incident this morning my wife emailed the principal and he said the assistant principal would be talking to both kids today. That didn’t happen. The advice I’m looking for is how to escalate this. I will hopefully be having a face-to-face meeting with the principal tomorrow and if they still won’t take action, who would I talk to next and how? We’re not looking for a lawsuit or anyone to end up in criminal trouble, something like that would be a last resort. We just want it to end.
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ibl08hv
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ibl2075
| 1,654,672,963 | 1,654,674,520 | 2 | 13 |
I would document everything. Go for the superintendent and if they don’t respond- go up to the state department of education level and so on
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I am not a lawyer but when I was a teen, a boy was really horrid to me, nore horrid than I care to remember. While I thought I was handling it on my own my parents were behind the scenes escelating and documenting. After being told dismissive things all the way up tothe superintendent, it ended up with the police. Wouldn't you know it, that took care of the issue? Turns out being threatened with criminal charges if the behavior didn't cease immediately and having him know the cops knew was just what he needed. Also put the school on notice a but for their prior inaction.
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child being bullied on the bus. school says up to bus, bus system isn't doing anything. has had book fair and fundraiser money stolen. clothing destroyed or thrown out the windows. is in kindergarten and being bullied by middle and highschoolers
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Federal law mandates your child has a right to a free, fair, and appropriate education. Even if the bus provider is a contractor, the school is using them, and through them, failing to provide a safe means of transportation for your child to get to and from school. Escalate to the superintendent, and the school board if necessary. If that fails, find a lawyer specialized in disability/education law.
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Most busses these days have cameras. I would ask to see the film. Hard for them to ignore video evidence
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If the bus is acting on behalf of the school district as their contractor, the school district is still responsible for their actions. The district is trying to deflect you away from this.
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Federal law mandates your child has a right to a free, fair, and appropriate education. Even if the bus provider is a contractor, the school is using them, and through them, failing to provide a safe means of transportation for your child to get to and from school. Escalate to the superintendent, and the school board if necessary. If that fails, find a lawyer specialized in disability/education law.
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child being bullied on the bus. school says up to bus, bus system isn't doing anything. has had book fair and fundraiser money stolen. clothing destroyed or thrown out the windows. is in kindergarten and being bullied by middle and highschoolers
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Federal law mandates your child has a right to a free, fair, and appropriate education. Even if the bus provider is a contractor, the school is using them, and through them, failing to provide a safe means of transportation for your child to get to and from school. Escalate to the superintendent, and the school board if necessary. If that fails, find a lawyer specialized in disability/education law.
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I do not expect you will get a quick resolution on this. It sounds like you live in a (possibly smaller) area where the school district doesn’t own their own buses and employ bus drivers. In areas where they do, it would be uncommon for a Kindergartener and a high schooler to be on a bus together, clearly unsupervised. Keep pushing for resolution but in the interim, I would suggest doing everything possible to protect your child, including rearranging schedules so one of you can pick him up, or utilizing some other form of after school care.
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Is it a city bus? Because if it is then your only likely recourse is reporting these situations to law enforcement and pressing charges.
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Federal law mandates your child has a right to a free, fair, and appropriate education. Even if the bus provider is a contractor, the school is using them, and through them, failing to provide a safe means of transportation for your child to get to and from school. Escalate to the superintendent, and the school board if necessary. If that fails, find a lawyer specialized in disability/education law.
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Most busses these days have cameras. I would ask to see the film. Hard for them to ignore video evidence
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Is it a city bus? Because if it is then your only likely recourse is reporting these situations to law enforcement and pressing charges.
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Is it a city bus? Because if it is then your only likely recourse is reporting these situations to law enforcement and pressing charges.
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If the bus is acting on behalf of the school district as their contractor, the school district is still responsible for their actions. The district is trying to deflect you away from this.
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Is it a city bus? Because if it is then your only likely recourse is reporting these situations to law enforcement and pressing charges.
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I do not expect you will get a quick resolution on this. It sounds like you live in a (possibly smaller) area where the school district doesn’t own their own buses and employ bus drivers. In areas where they do, it would be uncommon for a Kindergartener and a high schooler to be on a bus together, clearly unsupervised. Keep pushing for resolution but in the interim, I would suggest doing everything possible to protect your child, including rearranging schedules so one of you can pick him up, or utilizing some other form of after school care.
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My landlord received my notice to vacate a week ago, is now telling me they won’t accept it and I need to write another one (NJ) I’m breaking the lease at my apartment. I read the lease over 3x and could not find any information on when to notify the landlord that I’ll be vacating, just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool. Now they are telling me they will not accept my notice and typically people give 40 days notice so I’ll need to write and send in another and pay 2 months rent by the end of the week and I’ll be responsible for the apartment until September, but that I can still give them my keys now. Does this sound right? I just need put and away from this complex and property management company. The living conditions are horrible and they scam people out of thousands often!
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How much time is actually left on your lease? Does your lease have a specific provision for breaking it early? Does your lease say 40 days notice for whatever reason? > just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool How far into the process did you get? Did you already pay the termination fee at some point
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This has everything you need to know: https://www.state.nj.us/dca/divisions/codes/publications/pdf_lti/t_i_r.pdf It’s lengthy but will explain all of your rights as a tenant. In one of your comments you mentioned many things that the landlord is legally required to remedy in NJ that, according to you, have gone unfixed. Perhaps you should learn what your legal rights are before responding to the landlord/management company. Often times, a strongly worded letter, threatening to exercise your rights as the tenant, will get you what you want when a landlord is not doing what he/she should. NJ is a tenant friendly state.
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My landlord received my notice to vacate a week ago, is now telling me they won’t accept it and I need to write another one (NJ) I’m breaking the lease at my apartment. I read the lease over 3x and could not find any information on when to notify the landlord that I’ll be vacating, just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool. Now they are telling me they will not accept my notice and typically people give 40 days notice so I’ll need to write and send in another and pay 2 months rent by the end of the week and I’ll be responsible for the apartment until September, but that I can still give them my keys now. Does this sound right? I just need put and away from this complex and property management company. The living conditions are horrible and they scam people out of thousands often!
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What you write on the notice and what you owe for breaking the lease don't need to match. Tell them you understand the lease break penalty and you will pay it. But you don't need to send a different letter
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This has everything you need to know: https://www.state.nj.us/dca/divisions/codes/publications/pdf_lti/t_i_r.pdf It’s lengthy but will explain all of your rights as a tenant. In one of your comments you mentioned many things that the landlord is legally required to remedy in NJ that, according to you, have gone unfixed. Perhaps you should learn what your legal rights are before responding to the landlord/management company. Often times, a strongly worded letter, threatening to exercise your rights as the tenant, will get you what you want when a landlord is not doing what he/she should. NJ is a tenant friendly state.
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My landlord received my notice to vacate a week ago, is now telling me they won’t accept it and I need to write another one (NJ) I’m breaking the lease at my apartment. I read the lease over 3x and could not find any information on when to notify the landlord that I’ll be vacating, just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool. Now they are telling me they will not accept my notice and typically people give 40 days notice so I’ll need to write and send in another and pay 2 months rent by the end of the week and I’ll be responsible for the apartment until September, but that I can still give them my keys now. Does this sound right? I just need put and away from this complex and property management company. The living conditions are horrible and they scam people out of thousands often!
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This has everything you need to know: https://www.state.nj.us/dca/divisions/codes/publications/pdf_lti/t_i_r.pdf It’s lengthy but will explain all of your rights as a tenant. In one of your comments you mentioned many things that the landlord is legally required to remedy in NJ that, according to you, have gone unfixed. Perhaps you should learn what your legal rights are before responding to the landlord/management company. Often times, a strongly worded letter, threatening to exercise your rights as the tenant, will get you what you want when a landlord is not doing what he/she should. NJ is a tenant friendly state.
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My landlord received my notice to vacate a week ago, is now telling me they won’t accept it and I need to write another one (NJ) I’m breaking the lease at my apartment. I read the lease over 3x and could not find any information on when to notify the landlord that I’ll be vacating, just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool. Now they are telling me they will not accept my notice and typically people give 40 days notice so I’ll need to write and send in another and pay 2 months rent by the end of the week and I’ll be responsible for the apartment until September, but that I can still give them my keys now. Does this sound right? I just need put and away from this complex and property management company. The living conditions are horrible and they scam people out of thousands often!
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What you write on the notice and what you owe for breaking the lease don't need to match. Tell them you understand the lease break penalty and you will pay it. But you don't need to send a different letter
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How much time is actually left on your lease? Does your lease have a specific provision for breaking it early? Does your lease say 40 days notice for whatever reason? > just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool How far into the process did you get? Did you already pay the termination fee at some point
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My landlord received my notice to vacate a week ago, is now telling me they won’t accept it and I need to write another one (NJ) I’m breaking the lease at my apartment. I read the lease over 3x and could not find any information on when to notify the landlord that I’ll be vacating, just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool. Now they are telling me they will not accept my notice and typically people give 40 days notice so I’ll need to write and send in another and pay 2 months rent by the end of the week and I’ll be responsible for the apartment until September, but that I can still give them my keys now. Does this sound right? I just need put and away from this complex and property management company. The living conditions are horrible and they scam people out of thousands often!
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How much time is actually left on your lease? Does your lease have a specific provision for breaking it early? Does your lease say 40 days notice for whatever reason? > just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool How far into the process did you get? Did you already pay the termination fee at some point
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My landlord received my notice to vacate a week ago, is now telling me they won’t accept it and I need to write another one (NJ) I’m breaking the lease at my apartment. I read the lease over 3x and could not find any information on when to notify the landlord that I’ll be vacating, just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool. Now they are telling me they will not accept my notice and typically people give 40 days notice so I’ll need to write and send in another and pay 2 months rent by the end of the week and I’ll be responsible for the apartment until September, but that I can still give them my keys now. Does this sound right? I just need put and away from this complex and property management company. The living conditions are horrible and they scam people out of thousands often!
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What you write on the notice and what you owe for breaking the lease don't need to match. Tell them you understand the lease break penalty and you will pay it. But you don't need to send a different letter
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My landlord received my notice to vacate a week ago, is now telling me they won’t accept it and I need to write another one (NJ) I’m breaking the lease at my apartment. I read the lease over 3x and could not find any information on when to notify the landlord that I’ll be vacating, just that I would need to do a lease buyout in order to get out. When I first sent the notice I was told I would need to pay a months rent, cool. Now they are telling me they will not accept my notice and typically people give 40 days notice so I’ll need to write and send in another and pay 2 months rent by the end of the week and I’ll be responsible for the apartment until September, but that I can still give them my keys now. Does this sound right? I just need put and away from this complex and property management company. The living conditions are horrible and they scam people out of thousands often!
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When did you give the notice, when are you planning on moving out, and that reason are they giving for needing a new notice. Do they claim your prior notice was defective, wasn't in writing, they didn't receive it, etc.?
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My landlord is telling me I can't flush down toilet paper down my toilet. Can he do this? I am renting an apartment in a house in Harrison, NJ since 1st September. I have submitted my rent and deposit to one of the roommates as he is connected to the landlord. However, I just found out today that the landlord has asked us not to flush down toilet paper and instead throw them in the garbage. On confronting other roommate he was defensive saying there are some toilets where you don't flush toilet paper, also just to make sure I put all info correct, we are using one ply paper. At this point, I don't know if it's illegal or wrong, can anyone help? What are my options?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/o1liza/landlord_is_telling_me_i_cannot_flush_toilet/ https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladviceofftopic/comments/iph5zx/ca_can_a_landlord_request_i_not_flush_toilet/
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/u/CharlotteInCharge has it right. The landlord cannot expect you not to use the plumbing system as one normally would. There is no reason to expect that a toilet+sewer system in a building in urban NJ would not be able to handle flushing on ply toilet paper. -\_- I have dealt with a lot of types of plumbing. EVEN FOAM FLUSH COMPOSTING TOILETS are able to handle some 'flushing' of 1 ply toilet paper. I would point out to the landlord that if the system is not capable of handling one ply toilet paper, it is clearly not compliant with the requirements for plumbing in your area for a rented dwelling. My standard advice goes for dealing with this sort of thing; that is, be courteous to start with, state the problem + violate of rules / policies, offer to cooperate as best you can so it can be repaired / resolved asap. For example, if the plumbing has a problem and a plumbing company schedule is backed up, him asking you, "okay but could you just be as careful as possible about how much paper you flush until they get here at <date and time> to resolve the issue?" sounds reasonable to me, although probably to be honest still not really compliant with the requirements of the law if they can't get the repair done within whatever time frame is mandated in said law. ​ TL;DR: **As the management / landlord of a residential rental unit, they are** ***responsible to fix a failure within a timely manner.*** ***Yes,*** **the toilet not being able to handle 1 ply toilet paper is a 'failure' of the plumbing.** ​ EDIT: I see a lot of comments here regarding that a lot of plumbing systems in other parts of the world are not supposed to / don't handle paper products. This is true in some areas. However, ***based on standards in Harrison, NJ, USA***, the failure of the plumbing system to handle paper products designed for flushing (example, 1 ply toilet paper), is definitely from my understanding, something that constitutes a malfunction. To verify this, OP could ask around (as weird a conversation that would be) in neighboring buildings, etc; see if there's anyone else in the area (same street or whatever) that has the same problem but different landlord / management. I *highly* doubt they will find other people in the town there can't flush toilet paper.
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My landlord is telling me I can't flush down toilet paper down my toilet. Can he do this? I am renting an apartment in a house in Harrison, NJ since 1st September. I have submitted my rent and deposit to one of the roommates as he is connected to the landlord. However, I just found out today that the landlord has asked us not to flush down toilet paper and instead throw them in the garbage. On confronting other roommate he was defensive saying there are some toilets where you don't flush toilet paper, also just to make sure I put all info correct, we are using one ply paper. At this point, I don't know if it's illegal or wrong, can anyone help? What are my options?
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/u/CharlotteInCharge has it right. The landlord cannot expect you not to use the plumbing system as one normally would. There is no reason to expect that a toilet+sewer system in a building in urban NJ would not be able to handle flushing on ply toilet paper. -\_- I have dealt with a lot of types of plumbing. EVEN FOAM FLUSH COMPOSTING TOILETS are able to handle some 'flushing' of 1 ply toilet paper. I would point out to the landlord that if the system is not capable of handling one ply toilet paper, it is clearly not compliant with the requirements for plumbing in your area for a rented dwelling. My standard advice goes for dealing with this sort of thing; that is, be courteous to start with, state the problem + violate of rules / policies, offer to cooperate as best you can so it can be repaired / resolved asap. For example, if the plumbing has a problem and a plumbing company schedule is backed up, him asking you, "okay but could you just be as careful as possible about how much paper you flush until they get here at <date and time> to resolve the issue?" sounds reasonable to me, although probably to be honest still not really compliant with the requirements of the law if they can't get the repair done within whatever time frame is mandated in said law. ​ TL;DR: **As the management / landlord of a residential rental unit, they are** ***responsible to fix a failure within a timely manner.*** ***Yes,*** **the toilet not being able to handle 1 ply toilet paper is a 'failure' of the plumbing.** ​ EDIT: I see a lot of comments here regarding that a lot of plumbing systems in other parts of the world are not supposed to / don't handle paper products. This is true in some areas. However, ***based on standards in Harrison, NJ, USA***, the failure of the plumbing system to handle paper products designed for flushing (example, 1 ply toilet paper), is definitely from my understanding, something that constitutes a malfunction. To verify this, OP could ask around (as weird a conversation that would be) in neighboring buildings, etc; see if there's anyone else in the area (same street or whatever) that has the same problem but different landlord / management. I *highly* doubt they will find other people in the town there can't flush toilet paper.
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Advice from the old topic... Some of them have pretty old piping, including the use of lead, unfortunately. It can also be a limitation based on geography / topography, but very unlikely, that would govern the waste issue.
You will have a county water board, or something that's involved in governing utilities and piping, including waste and refuse (assuming you are not on septic). Find out if it's a known issue in the county / township, in which case the landlord would not have needed to specify that limitation (they don't have to specify common knowledge items, if they are reasonable and customary for the area - they don't have to specify "you will have hard water" for example).
Someone else mentioned about warranty of habitability, certificate of occupancy, and making sure it is a legal rental (rather than an unauthorized / illegal tenant situation).
(Not a lawyer)
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My landlord is telling me I can't flush down toilet paper down my toilet. Can he do this? I am renting an apartment in a house in Harrison, NJ since 1st September. I have submitted my rent and deposit to one of the roommates as he is connected to the landlord. However, I just found out today that the landlord has asked us not to flush down toilet paper and instead throw them in the garbage. On confronting other roommate he was defensive saying there are some toilets where you don't flush toilet paper, also just to make sure I put all info correct, we are using one ply paper. At this point, I don't know if it's illegal or wrong, can anyone help? What are my options?
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Do you have it in writing (text message, email, etc) that your landlord is saying you cannot flush TP?
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Advice from the old topic... Some of them have pretty old piping, including the use of lead, unfortunately. It can also be a limitation based on geography / topography, but very unlikely, that would govern the waste issue.
You will have a county water board, or something that's involved in governing utilities and piping, including waste and refuse (assuming you are not on septic). Find out if it's a known issue in the county / township, in which case the landlord would not have needed to specify that limitation (they don't have to specify common knowledge items, if they are reasonable and customary for the area - they don't have to specify "you will have hard water" for example).
Someone else mentioned about warranty of habitability, certificate of occupancy, and making sure it is a legal rental (rather than an unauthorized / illegal tenant situation).
(Not a lawyer)
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[PA] My landlord is telling me I need to sign a new lease while the previous one is in affect, where I would take on another bill. My wife and I signed out lease on January 8th, 2019. I got a letter with a new copy of a lease saying we would need to sign a new copy of the lease changing the fact that the water bill goes from being the responsibility of the landlord, to the tenant. I brought it to the office, also to bring to the property managers attention, that our water heater was broken. I come to find out the previous property manager has been fired and the district manager from NJ is here for the interim while they find a new manager. ...I raised an open ended question about it but she is a very... intense woman and I backed off in the moment, just satisfied that my water heater would be getting looked at. Now, I don't believe they can alter the lease without both agreeing and they couldn't do anything so long as we pay every month on time (which we have without fail so far), I on't want to make an enemy of the property manager, or make life more difficult. But if I give here and let them change the lease now, what else could change in another few months? I went to print out the copy of the original lease with the old property manager, and realized she dated it for last year. Now I am trying to collect utility activation notices along with when my renters insurance started, but would the fact that their was a clerical error hurt my chances of being able to hold them to the original lease I signed? And then in your personal opinion is it worth the fight?
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If the lease has the correct period of performance and the wrong date is on the signature block, it is most likely considered a scrivener's error. In general, if you have a signed lease, they cannot change the terms unless both parties agree.
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> My wife and I signed out lease on January 8th, 2019 Did the landlords also sign the lease? Do you have a completely executed copy of the lease?
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[FL] My ex-girlfriend told me she's pregnant. Need advice, please. I had been previously dating my ex for a year and a half. We lived together, had dogs, etc. Things were a little rocky at points but mostly worked out. Then she became extremely depressed and attempted suicide. I stuck by her and tried to support her, but the weight of her own problems seemed to be too much and she decided it would be best for both of us if she left. So she did. We gave each other some space, and then about a month later hung out a few times. We hooked up. It didn't work out. However, apparently one of those hookups at the end of October resulted in her becoming pregnant, despite her taking birth control pills regularly every morning. She didn't find out she was pregnant (she didn't even miss a period, which is weird) until last week when she went to the doctor for what she thought was a UTI. The clinic she went to tests urine for pregnancy, blood, and infection and she was told she didn't have a UTI but was in fact pregnant. Apparently she was so upset she had them re-test 3 times. It came back positive each time. A few days later she told me via text message, which was pretty upsetting. I didn't want to try and force her to make any particular decision about what to do about the situation, but she told me in no uncertain terms that there would be no discussion whatsoever, she was keeping it and that was final. I have never wanted kids and made that clear throughout our entire relationship. But even beyond that, what really upsets me, terrifies me, and makes me feel sick to my stomach is that I know I can't give my kid a better life than the one that I had. I have not been able to eat or sleep properly since she told me because all I can think about is that I've already fucked up my kid's life before they're even here. I have tried to explain to my ex that we are neither financially nor emotionally ready to have children but she doesn't care or think that it's a big problem. It's killing me to imagine my kid growing up split between parents who don't love each other. I make decent money but she doesn't, and she won't come live with me or let the kid live with me. She can't even afford her own place and I don't see her being able to do so any time soon. Once the kid is born I have no idea how we're going to afford childcare so my ex can keep working. I do not make enough to pay her bills, my bills, and support a child, so only one of us earning money is not going to be workable. Her family is also a trainwreck that I don't want my child exposed to. Thinking about all of this has left me in complete despair. I've tried to raise my concerns with my ex and she responded by threatening to cut me out of the child's life entirely. I probably didn't handle everything all that well with my ex but I really don't know what else to do. I haven't told my parents yet because the pregnancy was just confirmed via ultrasound yesterday (8 weeks along) but they haven't detected a heartbeat yet (I think?). It's possible that they'll disown me, which is understandable but will be devastating. Basically when I think about all of this I want to put a bullet in my brain. Not because my life is ruined but because I've already ruined the life of my kid. I need some advice or some kind of resource for unmarried fathers that are struggling with how to deal with these kinds of issues. I've looked around online but haven't found anything particularly helpful. I wish I could believe that everything was going to be okay but I don't see how it could be. --- **tl;dr**: My ex became pregnant during a hookup when we were trying to rekindle things. She told me, explained that she was going to keep it, I tried to tell her how bad of an idea that was and she wants to cut me out of her life due to my 'negativity'. I have no idea what to do.
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dbrugka
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dbrtygm
| 1,483,051,611 | 1,483,050,930 | 75 | 61 |
On the bright side: > I've tried to raise my concerns with my ex and she responded by threatening to cut me out of the child's life entirely. That's not how custody works. She can't unilaterally decide you have no part in your future child's life. You could try to convince the girl to abort or give up for adoption, but if that doesn't happen, you need to start saving money because you're going to have a lil one to take care of. And as far as your username is concerned, don't actually kill yourself. You might be scared or embarrassed right now, or it might seem like the end of the world, but you'd be surprised at how good of a parent you can be if you're motivated by the idea you want to give your kid a better life than you have. Get an education, get a job, and provide for your child. Share custody of the kid with your ex, or fight for full custody if you know she's an unfit parent and can prove that. The sooner you let your parents know, the sooner they can get over being upset and start working with you to make plans for the future.
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Congratulations, daddy. Start saving your money.
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5kzqfh
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legaladvice_train
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[FL] My ex-girlfriend told me she's pregnant. Need advice, please. I had been previously dating my ex for a year and a half. We lived together, had dogs, etc. Things were a little rocky at points but mostly worked out. Then she became extremely depressed and attempted suicide. I stuck by her and tried to support her, but the weight of her own problems seemed to be too much and she decided it would be best for both of us if she left. So she did. We gave each other some space, and then about a month later hung out a few times. We hooked up. It didn't work out. However, apparently one of those hookups at the end of October resulted in her becoming pregnant, despite her taking birth control pills regularly every morning. She didn't find out she was pregnant (she didn't even miss a period, which is weird) until last week when she went to the doctor for what she thought was a UTI. The clinic she went to tests urine for pregnancy, blood, and infection and she was told she didn't have a UTI but was in fact pregnant. Apparently she was so upset she had them re-test 3 times. It came back positive each time. A few days later she told me via text message, which was pretty upsetting. I didn't want to try and force her to make any particular decision about what to do about the situation, but she told me in no uncertain terms that there would be no discussion whatsoever, she was keeping it and that was final. I have never wanted kids and made that clear throughout our entire relationship. But even beyond that, what really upsets me, terrifies me, and makes me feel sick to my stomach is that I know I can't give my kid a better life than the one that I had. I have not been able to eat or sleep properly since she told me because all I can think about is that I've already fucked up my kid's life before they're even here. I have tried to explain to my ex that we are neither financially nor emotionally ready to have children but she doesn't care or think that it's a big problem. It's killing me to imagine my kid growing up split between parents who don't love each other. I make decent money but she doesn't, and she won't come live with me or let the kid live with me. She can't even afford her own place and I don't see her being able to do so any time soon. Once the kid is born I have no idea how we're going to afford childcare so my ex can keep working. I do not make enough to pay her bills, my bills, and support a child, so only one of us earning money is not going to be workable. Her family is also a trainwreck that I don't want my child exposed to. Thinking about all of this has left me in complete despair. I've tried to raise my concerns with my ex and she responded by threatening to cut me out of the child's life entirely. I probably didn't handle everything all that well with my ex but I really don't know what else to do. I haven't told my parents yet because the pregnancy was just confirmed via ultrasound yesterday (8 weeks along) but they haven't detected a heartbeat yet (I think?). It's possible that they'll disown me, which is understandable but will be devastating. Basically when I think about all of this I want to put a bullet in my brain. Not because my life is ruined but because I've already ruined the life of my kid. I need some advice or some kind of resource for unmarried fathers that are struggling with how to deal with these kinds of issues. I've looked around online but haven't found anything particularly helpful. I wish I could believe that everything was going to be okay but I don't see how it could be. --- **tl;dr**: My ex became pregnant during a hookup when we were trying to rekindle things. She told me, explained that she was going to keep it, I tried to tell her how bad of an idea that was and she wants to cut me out of her life due to my 'negativity'. I have no idea what to do.
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dbrxmkz
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dbrw17i
| 1,483,056,032 | 1,483,053,787 | 54 | 17 |
So the absolute best thing for you would be to play nice, get a paternity test, and get yourself to court to get an enforceable order. If you live close enough, you can really make a good case for 50/50. Be there from the start. Take parenting classes. Having kids is hard and thankless and utterly, utterly rewarding. You will screw up a thousand times over but make sure you always love your kid more than you hate your ex and don't be afraid to ask parenting questions or get whatever help you need. Always be the bigger person and give your child room to love his/her mother without guilt. I had my first child a few months shy of 19 and I managed to raise 3 awesome, well adjusted kids through a divorce despite my challenges. The best thing I ever did was take child psychology classes at my local community college and take advantage of my PhD child psychology professor to ask for a mapped out guide on how not to screw up my kids.
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ok, first, settle down a bit, take some deep breaths and think things through. This will be tough, but worth it in the end, your going to be a daddy!! all in one, one of the most demanding of jobs, wrapped up in one of the most joyfull and fun things to be connected to!!! now, onto other things. she does not get to simply tell you that you can't be in the childs life, does not work that way, not her call, unless you give her ammunition to do so (like drugs and abuse etc...) so you are golden there. You will be on the hook for child support, it will be based off of your income, that amount will be substantial no doubt, but it will not be enough to be her (your ex's) sole support, no court in the land will take that from you, unless of course you are filthy rich! you will likely have to go to family court over that little piece of business, but it will sort itself, the judges in there know their business and have nothing but the child's interest at heart, you may even get flat out custody if your ex is as big of a mess as you make her out to be, if she has nowhere to live, than it would be very likely for you to get custody, but many states favor the mom over the dad, a left over vestige from older days, cross that bridge when you come to it, but cross it you must, so talk to social services, go to planned parenthood and ask to talk to a councilor (and no, not to ask about abortion, they have real councilors to talk to about parenting etc...and know the ropes) she can cut you out of her life, but not the childs..... you have 7 months to save, prepare, take classes, read books, start doing that as soon as possible.
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5kzqfh
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legaladvice_train
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[FL] My ex-girlfriend told me she's pregnant. Need advice, please. I had been previously dating my ex for a year and a half. We lived together, had dogs, etc. Things were a little rocky at points but mostly worked out. Then she became extremely depressed and attempted suicide. I stuck by her and tried to support her, but the weight of her own problems seemed to be too much and she decided it would be best for both of us if she left. So she did. We gave each other some space, and then about a month later hung out a few times. We hooked up. It didn't work out. However, apparently one of those hookups at the end of October resulted in her becoming pregnant, despite her taking birth control pills regularly every morning. She didn't find out she was pregnant (she didn't even miss a period, which is weird) until last week when she went to the doctor for what she thought was a UTI. The clinic she went to tests urine for pregnancy, blood, and infection and she was told she didn't have a UTI but was in fact pregnant. Apparently she was so upset she had them re-test 3 times. It came back positive each time. A few days later she told me via text message, which was pretty upsetting. I didn't want to try and force her to make any particular decision about what to do about the situation, but she told me in no uncertain terms that there would be no discussion whatsoever, she was keeping it and that was final. I have never wanted kids and made that clear throughout our entire relationship. But even beyond that, what really upsets me, terrifies me, and makes me feel sick to my stomach is that I know I can't give my kid a better life than the one that I had. I have not been able to eat or sleep properly since she told me because all I can think about is that I've already fucked up my kid's life before they're even here. I have tried to explain to my ex that we are neither financially nor emotionally ready to have children but she doesn't care or think that it's a big problem. It's killing me to imagine my kid growing up split between parents who don't love each other. I make decent money but she doesn't, and she won't come live with me or let the kid live with me. She can't even afford her own place and I don't see her being able to do so any time soon. Once the kid is born I have no idea how we're going to afford childcare so my ex can keep working. I do not make enough to pay her bills, my bills, and support a child, so only one of us earning money is not going to be workable. Her family is also a trainwreck that I don't want my child exposed to. Thinking about all of this has left me in complete despair. I've tried to raise my concerns with my ex and she responded by threatening to cut me out of the child's life entirely. I probably didn't handle everything all that well with my ex but I really don't know what else to do. I haven't told my parents yet because the pregnancy was just confirmed via ultrasound yesterday (8 weeks along) but they haven't detected a heartbeat yet (I think?). It's possible that they'll disown me, which is understandable but will be devastating. Basically when I think about all of this I want to put a bullet in my brain. Not because my life is ruined but because I've already ruined the life of my kid. I need some advice or some kind of resource for unmarried fathers that are struggling with how to deal with these kinds of issues. I've looked around online but haven't found anything particularly helpful. I wish I could believe that everything was going to be okay but I don't see how it could be. --- **tl;dr**: My ex became pregnant during a hookup when we were trying to rekindle things. She told me, explained that she was going to keep it, I tried to tell her how bad of an idea that was and she wants to cut me out of her life due to my 'negativity'. I have no idea what to do.
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dbrxmkz
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dbrxiws
| 1,483,056,032 | 1,483,055,885 | 54 | 13 |
So the absolute best thing for you would be to play nice, get a paternity test, and get yourself to court to get an enforceable order. If you live close enough, you can really make a good case for 50/50. Be there from the start. Take parenting classes. Having kids is hard and thankless and utterly, utterly rewarding. You will screw up a thousand times over but make sure you always love your kid more than you hate your ex and don't be afraid to ask parenting questions or get whatever help you need. Always be the bigger person and give your child room to love his/her mother without guilt. I had my first child a few months shy of 19 and I managed to raise 3 awesome, well adjusted kids through a divorce despite my challenges. The best thing I ever did was take child psychology classes at my local community college and take advantage of my PhD child psychology professor to ask for a mapped out guide on how not to screw up my kids.
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One thing is she can't be 8 weeks along. At that stage, there is a detectable heartbeat and can be clearly seen. If there wasn't, a doctor would be worried at that point.
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
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My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwu3zl
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ixwxprg
| 1,669,508,415 | 1,669,510,166 | 74 | 1,296 |
Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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Contact a women’s shelter/DV organization. They may be better equipped to help you know what you do or help her get out.
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwqhux
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ixwxprg
| 1,669,506,678 | 1,669,510,166 | 36 | 1,296 |
You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
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Contact a women’s shelter/DV organization. They may be better equipped to help you know what you do or help her get out.
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
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My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixy2xp6
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ixwu3zl
| 1,669,533,617 | 1,669,508,415 | 567 | 74 |
You say he lives 'in the middle of nowhere;' is there any possibility it's on a reservation or tribal land? Is the girlfriend Indigenous/Alaska Native? I only ask because that can complicate how it needs to be reported. She obviously needs help and I second seeking out a domestic violence center, but be sure to bring up the above if it applies. Some more info on the issue: https://www.bia.gov/service/mmu/missing-and-murdered-indigenous-people-crisis
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Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwqhux
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ixy2xp6
| 1,669,506,678 | 1,669,533,617 | 36 | 567 |
You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
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You say he lives 'in the middle of nowhere;' is there any possibility it's on a reservation or tribal land? Is the girlfriend Indigenous/Alaska Native? I only ask because that can complicate how it needs to be reported. She obviously needs help and I second seeking out a domestic violence center, but be sure to bring up the above if it applies. Some more info on the issue: https://www.bia.gov/service/mmu/missing-and-murdered-indigenous-people-crisis
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixyb0uy
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ixwu3zl
| 1,669,540,612 | 1,669,508,415 | 364 | 74 |
At the bottom of this page is a document listing a bunch of the DV victim resources in the state. Some of the numbers might gave changed, but it should get you to the right place for your region. See here under where to get help. She is an adult, right? If she is a minor you must call OCS. If you are in an area with a police department, that can be a resource. If it is too small to have cops, might try the State Troopers.
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Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwqhux
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ixyb0uy
| 1,669,506,678 | 1,669,540,612 | 36 | 364 |
You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
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At the bottom of this page is a document listing a bunch of the DV victim resources in the state. Some of the numbers might gave changed, but it should get you to the right place for your region. See here under where to get help. She is an adult, right? If she is a minor you must call OCS. If you are in an area with a police department, that can be a resource. If it is too small to have cops, might try the State Troopers.
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwu3zl
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ixybj7i
| 1,669,508,415 | 1,669,541,050 | 74 | 270 |
Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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Please just try to be kind to her if there's anyway you can do that without making him suspicious. I know you want to help, but the sad truth of the matter is that it's very likely that any attempt you make to "rescue" her will make things worse for her. When abusers fear they are losing control of their victims they can go to extreme lengths to regain that sense of control. The most dangerous period of an abusive relationship is when you try to leave, and immediately after you've escaped. Not to mention in his warped perception, any attempt by her to seek help, or even just accept help offered could very well be interpreted by him as an attack on his character, and make him even more likely to lash out and/or escalate the danger of the situation. And she may be utterly brainwashed and dissociated, and not able to accept help in her current state of mind. u/ebbie45 please, please help this user with some better resources and information.
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwqhux
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ixybj7i
| 1,669,506,678 | 1,669,541,050 | 36 | 270 |
You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
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Please just try to be kind to her if there's anyway you can do that without making him suspicious. I know you want to help, but the sad truth of the matter is that it's very likely that any attempt you make to "rescue" her will make things worse for her. When abusers fear they are losing control of their victims they can go to extreme lengths to regain that sense of control. The most dangerous period of an abusive relationship is when you try to leave, and immediately after you've escaped. Not to mention in his warped perception, any attempt by her to seek help, or even just accept help offered could very well be interpreted by him as an attack on his character, and make him even more likely to lash out and/or escalate the danger of the situation. And she may be utterly brainwashed and dissociated, and not able to accept help in her current state of mind. u/ebbie45 please, please help this user with some better resources and information.
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixz6rnu
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ixyuflx
| 1,669,562,403 | 1,669,556,016 | 139 | 76 |
Call S.T.A.R. (Standing Together Against Rape) now known as StarAlaska at 907-276-7273 or 800-478-8999. They may be able to assist you or direct you to getting help for her.
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I don’t think she’ll trust any good intentions of yours at least initially… you’re his friend and coworker. It will take time. Do you perhaps have a female friend you could invite on a couples date? It sounds like she’s isolated by design. Are there children? If so, CPS would intervene if the children are exposed to violence.
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixz6rnu
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ixwu3zl
| 1,669,562,403 | 1,669,508,415 | 139 | 74 |
Call S.T.A.R. (Standing Together Against Rape) now known as StarAlaska at 907-276-7273 or 800-478-8999. They may be able to assist you or direct you to getting help for her.
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Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixz6rnu
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ixwqhux
| 1,669,562,403 | 1,669,506,678 | 139 | 36 |
Call S.T.A.R. (Standing Together Against Rape) now known as StarAlaska at 907-276-7273 or 800-478-8999. They may be able to assist you or direct you to getting help for her.
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You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
| 1 | 55,725 | 3.861111 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixz6rnu
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ixyukii
| 1,669,562,403 | 1,669,556,100 | 139 | 16 |
Call S.T.A.R. (Standing Together Against Rape) now known as StarAlaska at 907-276-7273 or 800-478-8999. They may be able to assist you or direct you to getting help for her.
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I guess it’s better for her if you don’t run away but keep an eye on your coworker
| 1 | 6,303 | 8.6875 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixz3mn3
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ixz6rnu
| 1,669,560,898 | 1,669,562,403 | 17 | 139 |
Keeping written records is good. See if you can keep him out of his house after work or on weekends. Look into local tribal organizations along with those dv resources in your area. They might be at least able to tell others she's still alive.
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Call S.T.A.R. (Standing Together Against Rape) now known as StarAlaska at 907-276-7273 or 800-478-8999. They may be able to assist you or direct you to getting help for her.
| 0 | 1,505 | 8.176471 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixz6rnu
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ixynuq0
| 1,669,562,403 | 1,669,551,556 | 139 | 8 |
Call S.T.A.R. (Standing Together Against Rape) now known as StarAlaska at 907-276-7273 or 800-478-8999. They may be able to assist you or direct you to getting help for her.
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If you witness a crime report it to the police.
| 1 | 10,847 | 17.375 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwu3zl
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ixyuflx
| 1,669,508,415 | 1,669,556,016 | 74 | 76 |
Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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I don’t think she’ll trust any good intentions of yours at least initially… you’re his friend and coworker. It will take time. Do you perhaps have a female friend you could invite on a couples date? It sounds like she’s isolated by design. Are there children? If so, CPS would intervene if the children are exposed to violence.
| 0 | 47,601 | 1.027027 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixyuflx
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ixwqhux
| 1,669,556,016 | 1,669,506,678 | 76 | 36 |
I don’t think she’ll trust any good intentions of yours at least initially… you’re his friend and coworker. It will take time. Do you perhaps have a female friend you could invite on a couples date? It sounds like she’s isolated by design. Are there children? If so, CPS would intervene if the children are exposed to violence.
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You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
| 1 | 49,338 | 2.111111 |
z5lphe
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixynuq0
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ixyuflx
| 1,669,551,556 | 1,669,556,016 | 8 | 76 |
If you witness a crime report it to the police.
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I don’t think she’ll trust any good intentions of yours at least initially… you’re his friend and coworker. It will take time. Do you perhaps have a female friend you could invite on a couples date? It sounds like she’s isolated by design. Are there children? If so, CPS would intervene if the children are exposed to violence.
| 0 | 4,460 | 9.5 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwu3zl
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ixzam0x
| 1,669,508,415 | 1,669,564,150 | 74 | 76 |
Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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Op\~ Here are some resources to help. They are specific to Alaska and for Women in the Indigenous community. https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/native-american-domestic-violence/ https://www.anthc.org/what-we-do/behavioral-health/domestic-violence-prevention/ https://www.aknwrc.org/ https://strongheartshelpline.org/
| 0 | 55,735 | 1.027027 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixwqhux
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ixwu3zl
| 1,669,506,678 | 1,669,508,415 | 36 | 74 |
You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
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Could you tell us what country or state this is going on in?
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixzam0x
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ixwqhux
| 1,669,564,150 | 1,669,506,678 | 76 | 36 |
Op\~ Here are some resources to help. They are specific to Alaska and for Women in the Indigenous community. https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/native-american-domestic-violence/ https://www.anthc.org/what-we-do/behavioral-health/domestic-violence-prevention/ https://www.aknwrc.org/ https://strongheartshelpline.org/
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You call the police and let them know your concerns. That's the only step you can take
| 1 | 57,472 | 2.111111 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixyukii
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ixzam0x
| 1,669,556,100 | 1,669,564,150 | 16 | 76 |
I guess it’s better for her if you don’t run away but keep an eye on your coworker
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Op\~ Here are some resources to help. They are specific to Alaska and for Women in the Indigenous community. https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/native-american-domestic-violence/ https://www.anthc.org/what-we-do/behavioral-health/domestic-violence-prevention/ https://www.aknwrc.org/ https://strongheartshelpline.org/
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixz3mn3
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ixzam0x
| 1,669,560,898 | 1,669,564,150 | 17 | 76 |
Keeping written records is good. See if you can keep him out of his house after work or on weekends. Look into local tribal organizations along with those dv resources in your area. They might be at least able to tell others she's still alive.
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Op\~ Here are some resources to help. They are specific to Alaska and for Women in the Indigenous community. https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/native-american-domestic-violence/ https://www.anthc.org/what-we-do/behavioral-health/domestic-violence-prevention/ https://www.aknwrc.org/ https://strongheartshelpline.org/
| 0 | 3,252 | 4.470588 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixzam0x
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ixynuq0
| 1,669,564,150 | 1,669,551,556 | 76 | 8 |
Op\~ Here are some resources to help. They are specific to Alaska and for Women in the Indigenous community. https://www.thehotline.org/get-help/native-american-domestic-violence/ https://www.anthc.org/what-we-do/behavioral-health/domestic-violence-prevention/ https://www.aknwrc.org/ https://strongheartshelpline.org/
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If you witness a crime report it to the police.
| 1 | 12,594 | 9.5 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixzcekp
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ixyukii
| 1,669,564,949 | 1,669,556,100 | 24 | 16 |
Jesus H. It looks like you have a lot of useful information on what to do next, OP so I just want to send support your way and prayers that the authorities can get this poor woman out asap. 🙏🏼
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I guess it’s better for her if you don’t run away but keep an eye on your coworker
| 1 | 8,849 | 1.5 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixzcekp
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ixz3mn3
| 1,669,564,949 | 1,669,560,898 | 24 | 17 |
Jesus H. It looks like you have a lot of useful information on what to do next, OP so I just want to send support your way and prayers that the authorities can get this poor woman out asap. 🙏🏼
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Keeping written records is good. See if you can keep him out of his house after work or on weekends. Look into local tribal organizations along with those dv resources in your area. They might be at least able to tell others she's still alive.
| 1 | 4,051 | 1.411765 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixzcekp
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ixynuq0
| 1,669,564,949 | 1,669,551,556 | 24 | 8 |
Jesus H. It looks like you have a lot of useful information on what to do next, OP so I just want to send support your way and prayers that the authorities can get this poor woman out asap. 🙏🏼
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If you witness a crime report it to the police.
| 1 | 13,393 | 3 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixyukii
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ixz3mn3
| 1,669,556,100 | 1,669,560,898 | 16 | 17 |
I guess it’s better for her if you don’t run away but keep an eye on your coworker
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Keeping written records is good. See if you can keep him out of his house after work or on weekends. Look into local tribal organizations along with those dv resources in your area. They might be at least able to tell others she's still alive.
| 0 | 4,798 | 1.0625 |
z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixynuq0
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ixyukii
| 1,669,551,556 | 1,669,556,100 | 8 | 16 |
If you witness a crime report it to the police.
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I guess it’s better for her if you don’t run away but keep an eye on your coworker
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z5lphe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My coworker is severely abusing his girlfriend. What do I do? I have been working with this guy for awhile, I thought he seemed pretty chill so i invited him over for some beers. I ended up going to his place instead. It was way out in the middle of no where. I get there and he is straight up ordering her around, telling her to get us things and even really simple things. Pretty sure I saw some bruises on her arm. She just seems to be doing everything she can to not be noticed. I'm already feeling uncomfortable, when he says i can "have a go with her" if i want. I was like... WTF do you mean? He clarified that I could basically r\*pe her anytime I want. It was at this point that I desperately made up some excuse to leave as fast as possible. What do i do? I doubt I can just call the cops on them...
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ixynuq0
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ixz3mn3
| 1,669,551,556 | 1,669,560,898 | 8 | 17 |
If you witness a crime report it to the police.
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Keeping written records is good. See if you can keep him out of his house after work or on weekends. Look into local tribal organizations along with those dv resources in your area. They might be at least able to tell others she's still alive.
| 0 | 9,342 | 2.125 |
zmbz0q
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My pregnant wife is being told she has to come off light duty against doctors order or take unpaid leave My wife is 15 weeks pregnant, and having severe complications that limit her to light duty. She’s a ER nurse for context. Her boss has told her they can no longer allow her to do light duty, and are requesting that she either take unpaid leave or return to regular work against doctors orders. I know rules vary by state, we’re in Kentucky. I’ve done some reading, and a senate bill 18 was signed by the governor in 2019 called The Kentucky pregnant workers accommodations act. Basically stating that pregnancy complications don’t quite qualify as a disability, but that employers need to make reasonable accommodations for women suffering pregnancy complications. I’m just curious and hoping someone can give some insight as to if she has a dog in this fight or not. TIA
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j0bebi3
| 1,671,116,647 | 1,671,108,241 | 43 | 35 |
This is excellent advice but one point to clarify: FMLA protects her so that she has a job when she returns from pregnancy. It doesn’t protect her as far as making sure she is paid during her leave.
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Since it's not an on-the-job injury (resulting in light duty) the employer doesn't need to accommodate if they choose. *Reasonable accomodations* means that the employer must look at the job duties and requirements and see how the employer can accommodate certain health conditions. Some.more physical jobs may not have much by way of accomodation. The real question is whether the light duty restrictions is too overwhelming for the employer to burden them. This also means, from a ln employer's perspective, looking at whether there's a risk of injury or harm to the employee and weighing the risk. The standard for *reasonable* varies, and most courts find in favor of the employer. Your spouse needs to: 1. Get a copy of their job description. 2. Review the doctor's light duty restrictions. 3. Evaluate restrictions and the description and brainstorm reasonable ways to accommodate each job duty. Be specific and *reasonable.* 4. Request (in writing) a meeting with the employer to discuss the possible accomodations. Unfortunately, pregnancy accomodations are an uphill battle in a lot of cases/states. It's difficult for me to believe that the company can't accommodate, but it's also hard to assess without knowing the limitations. Don't forget FMLA. The law doesn't solve the unpaid time off, but it does protect your spouse.
| 1 | 8,406 | 1.228571 |
sqh23n
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| 0.85 |
my mother’s boyfriend physically picked me up by my sweatshirt, pinned me to a wall and threatened to kill me, is there any way i can get him to leave the house for good, legally? I just dont know what to do anymore, this is all because of something really minuscule
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hwlqnoo
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hwmg7ew
| 1,644,639,954 | 1,644,655,752 | 16 | 30 |
How old are you?
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Grabbing you, pushing you, pinning you to the wall are not miniscule things. That is legally battery, and is a crime that can be prosecuted by police/DA. Threatening to kill you is also likely assault in Illinois and is also a crime. You do not need unequivocal proof to bring this to the police, though police are often busy or plain lazy, and the more evidence you bring to them the more likely they will be to take action. Your testimony is evidence, and if your mother is willing to make statements, two corroborating statements are even better. His actions are also likely enough to get a restraining order against him, which once court ordered, would force him to be out of the house very quickly as he would not be allowed to be near you. Search for "orders of protection" and potentially a lawyer to help you in the process (you even get a free consult to point you in the right direction) though often this can be done yourself. If the boyfriend has lived at the house long enough, generally he is legally a tenant (even if there is no official lease and he doesn't even pay) and if he refuses to move out he must be evicted (likely by your mother, officially). This would involve giving him notice, waiting the requisite amount of time, filing at the court to evict, and then getting the sheriff to remove him. The court order would be damaging to his rental history so he should want to leave before the court order. Google Illinois eviction for the specific steps and timeline. Again he has committed a crime and this is domestic abuse. You don't have to put up with it and it's not a tiny deal. This is bad behavior and healthy people do not do this, and you're fully within your rights to demand punishment for his actions. I wish you the best you deserve better than this treatment.
| 0 | 15,798 | 1.875 |
sqh23n
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legaladvice_train
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my mother’s boyfriend physically picked me up by my sweatshirt, pinned me to a wall and threatened to kill me, is there any way i can get him to leave the house for good, legally? I just dont know what to do anymore, this is all because of something really minuscule
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hwlg100
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Grabbing you, pushing you, pinning you to the wall are not miniscule things. That is legally battery, and is a crime that can be prosecuted by police/DA. Threatening to kill you is also likely assault in Illinois and is also a crime. You do not need unequivocal proof to bring this to the police, though police are often busy or plain lazy, and the more evidence you bring to them the more likely they will be to take action. Your testimony is evidence, and if your mother is willing to make statements, two corroborating statements are even better. His actions are also likely enough to get a restraining order against him, which once court ordered, would force him to be out of the house very quickly as he would not be allowed to be near you. Search for "orders of protection" and potentially a lawyer to help you in the process (you even get a free consult to point you in the right direction) though often this can be done yourself. If the boyfriend has lived at the house long enough, generally he is legally a tenant (even if there is no official lease and he doesn't even pay) and if he refuses to move out he must be evicted (likely by your mother, officially). This would involve giving him notice, waiting the requisite amount of time, filing at the court to evict, and then getting the sheriff to remove him. The court order would be damaging to his rental history so he should want to leave before the court order. Google Illinois eviction for the specific steps and timeline. Again he has committed a crime and this is domestic abuse. You don't have to put up with it and it's not a tiny deal. This is bad behavior and healthy people do not do this, and you're fully within your rights to demand punishment for his actions. I wish you the best you deserve better than this treatment.
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Who is the house owner? state?
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sqh23n
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my mother’s boyfriend physically picked me up by my sweatshirt, pinned me to a wall and threatened to kill me, is there any way i can get him to leave the house for good, legally? I just dont know what to do anymore, this is all because of something really minuscule
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hwlqnoo
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hwlg100
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How old are you?
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Who is the house owner? state?
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clws8o
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legaladvice_train
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Man got out of his car at red light and threatened to kill me I was late for work today, I overslept. I decided to pass the driver in front of me, so I sped by him on a curve. he was driving extremely slow. Big mistake because the driver was apparently very irritable. He tailed my car continuously honking his horn and the intersection he got out and started banging on the windows shouting for me to get out, that he wanted to kill me and he wants me dead-over and over and over. He went around back and started taking photos of my license plate until I drove off when the light changed. He held up traffic for a second but continued to tail me until I passed the entrance to my job. Later on I got a message from my dad that he posted photos of my car and license plate on our neighborhood forum (Nextdoor). He said I cut him off several times, was recklessly driving. soon after the post had over 100 comments basically saying to take the post office bc it had my license plate. then soon after they did. Is there any type of trouble I could be in legally?
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evybxyi
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evyn34b
| 1,564,928,696 | 1,564,936,535 | 117 | 259 |
No. All the accusations are unsubstantiated. But you can sue him for libel and harrasement if you want, and verbal assault (yelling, etc.) - depending on your state laws. In effect, because he publicly listed your information in a forum that knows who you are, and he provided a false account of your actions that the neighbors and potentially your employer may have access to... Etc. Also, road raging is considered a serious crime, so you can get him foe this - with the simple question of 'how did he get the license plate photos?' Honestly, Id file a harrassement report to the cops. The law is funny sometimes, If you file harassement charges, you will usually be innocent in most situations and the burden of proving the opposite will be difficult. Also, if he reacted like this to you, then he has probably done the same with other people, so do your civic duty and keep him accountable. Edit: some people are asking if 'verbal assault' is real, and it is here in Colorado (I dont know about other states). The assault clause is the precedence that local cops use to arrest/ remove loud pan handlers here in the city. I dont know what the actual punishment is at the end of the day, but it is enough to get them thrown into the back of a cruiser.
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Q: Is there any type of trouble you could be in legally? A: It's not very likely. Cops/police/State would most likely overlook any potential traffic infraction you might have committed. You need to contact the police. This guy is unhinged. Banging on your windows saying he is going to kill you -- that's a crime. And he doubled down and followed it up by posting all about it on NextDoor. This should be a fun one for the cops -- they can tell him they're investigating a complaint of a dangerous scary driver, and he'll give them all the evidence on himself.
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clws8o
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legaladvice_train
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Man got out of his car at red light and threatened to kill me I was late for work today, I overslept. I decided to pass the driver in front of me, so I sped by him on a curve. he was driving extremely slow. Big mistake because the driver was apparently very irritable. He tailed my car continuously honking his horn and the intersection he got out and started banging on the windows shouting for me to get out, that he wanted to kill me and he wants me dead-over and over and over. He went around back and started taking photos of my license plate until I drove off when the light changed. He held up traffic for a second but continued to tail me until I passed the entrance to my job. Later on I got a message from my dad that he posted photos of my car and license plate on our neighborhood forum (Nextdoor). He said I cut him off several times, was recklessly driving. soon after the post had over 100 comments basically saying to take the post office bc it had my license plate. then soon after they did. Is there any type of trouble I could be in legally?
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evyln2t
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evyn34b
| 1,564,935,568 | 1,564,936,535 | 6 | 259 |
This is pretty strange. If all this is true you can always file a police report. Technically, it could be terroristic threats (threatening verbal statements), assault, vandalism (if he did any damage to your car) and, arguably, stalking (if he posted your license plate online,etc). Also, libel and slander for the online statements (civil). You may want to print out any online harassment and, not sure if you were alone when the altercation occurred, any witness statements if applicable. A lot of times this turns into he said she said. As far as the online stuff, consider contacting next door and letting them know that you are being harassed. I would think that they have some kind of in house procedure for either identifying or deleting the offending material. This is general information and not legal advice. Please note that different states have different laws. Good luck!
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Q: Is there any type of trouble you could be in legally? A: It's not very likely. Cops/police/State would most likely overlook any potential traffic infraction you might have committed. You need to contact the police. This guy is unhinged. Banging on your windows saying he is going to kill you -- that's a crime. And he doubled down and followed it up by posting all about it on NextDoor. This should be a fun one for the cops -- they can tell him they're investigating a complaint of a dangerous scary driver, and he'll give them all the evidence on himself.
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clws8o
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
Man got out of his car at red light and threatened to kill me I was late for work today, I overslept. I decided to pass the driver in front of me, so I sped by him on a curve. he was driving extremely slow. Big mistake because the driver was apparently very irritable. He tailed my car continuously honking his horn and the intersection he got out and started banging on the windows shouting for me to get out, that he wanted to kill me and he wants me dead-over and over and over. He went around back and started taking photos of my license plate until I drove off when the light changed. He held up traffic for a second but continued to tail me until I passed the entrance to my job. Later on I got a message from my dad that he posted photos of my car and license plate on our neighborhood forum (Nextdoor). He said I cut him off several times, was recklessly driving. soon after the post had over 100 comments basically saying to take the post office bc it had my license plate. then soon after they did. Is there any type of trouble I could be in legally?
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evyln2t
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evyr20e
| 1,564,935,568 | 1,564,939,291 | 6 | 33 |
This is pretty strange. If all this is true you can always file a police report. Technically, it could be terroristic threats (threatening verbal statements), assault, vandalism (if he did any damage to your car) and, arguably, stalking (if he posted your license plate online,etc). Also, libel and slander for the online statements (civil). You may want to print out any online harassment and, not sure if you were alone when the altercation occurred, any witness statements if applicable. A lot of times this turns into he said she said. As far as the online stuff, consider contacting next door and letting them know that you are being harassed. I would think that they have some kind of in house procedure for either identifying or deleting the offending material. This is general information and not legal advice. Please note that different states have different laws. Good luck!
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Everyone else has already told you to call the police and give him your evidence, he'll get arrested. Separately, stop talking about how you were driving erratically and cutting him off. All you need to talk about is how he threatened your life and doxxed you online.
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clws8o
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legaladvice_train
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Man got out of his car at red light and threatened to kill me I was late for work today, I overslept. I decided to pass the driver in front of me, so I sped by him on a curve. he was driving extremely slow. Big mistake because the driver was apparently very irritable. He tailed my car continuously honking his horn and the intersection he got out and started banging on the windows shouting for me to get out, that he wanted to kill me and he wants me dead-over and over and over. He went around back and started taking photos of my license plate until I drove off when the light changed. He held up traffic for a second but continued to tail me until I passed the entrance to my job. Later on I got a message from my dad that he posted photos of my car and license plate on our neighborhood forum (Nextdoor). He said I cut him off several times, was recklessly driving. soon after the post had over 100 comments basically saying to take the post office bc it had my license plate. then soon after they did. Is there any type of trouble I could be in legally?
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evyuyuv
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evyln2t
| 1,564,942,056 | 1,564,935,568 | 17 | 6 |
If a fellow motorist is following you and you fear things could go south, drive to the closest police station if you can. Better and safer than continuing on to your destination, particularly if it is your work or home.
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This is pretty strange. If all this is true you can always file a police report. Technically, it could be terroristic threats (threatening verbal statements), assault, vandalism (if he did any damage to your car) and, arguably, stalking (if he posted your license plate online,etc). Also, libel and slander for the online statements (civil). You may want to print out any online harassment and, not sure if you were alone when the altercation occurred, any witness statements if applicable. A lot of times this turns into he said she said. As far as the online stuff, consider contacting next door and letting them know that you are being harassed. I would think that they have some kind of in house procedure for either identifying or deleting the offending material. This is general information and not legal advice. Please note that different states have different laws. Good luck!
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clws8o
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
Man got out of his car at red light and threatened to kill me I was late for work today, I overslept. I decided to pass the driver in front of me, so I sped by him on a curve. he was driving extremely slow. Big mistake because the driver was apparently very irritable. He tailed my car continuously honking his horn and the intersection he got out and started banging on the windows shouting for me to get out, that he wanted to kill me and he wants me dead-over and over and over. He went around back and started taking photos of my license plate until I drove off when the light changed. He held up traffic for a second but continued to tail me until I passed the entrance to my job. Later on I got a message from my dad that he posted photos of my car and license plate on our neighborhood forum (Nextdoor). He said I cut him off several times, was recklessly driving. soon after the post had over 100 comments basically saying to take the post office bc it had my license plate. then soon after they did. Is there any type of trouble I could be in legally?
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evyln2t
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evzacpq
| 1,564,935,568 | 1,564,952,782 | 6 | 16 |
This is pretty strange. If all this is true you can always file a police report. Technically, it could be terroristic threats (threatening verbal statements), assault, vandalism (if he did any damage to your car) and, arguably, stalking (if he posted your license plate online,etc). Also, libel and slander for the online statements (civil). You may want to print out any online harassment and, not sure if you were alone when the altercation occurred, any witness statements if applicable. A lot of times this turns into he said she said. As far as the online stuff, consider contacting next door and letting them know that you are being harassed. I would think that they have some kind of in house procedure for either identifying or deleting the offending material. This is general information and not legal advice. Please note that different states have different laws. Good luck!
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What state are you in? Screen shot everything. Print it all out. Take it to the local PD and explain that he repeatedly threatened to kill you. Emphasize that. Did he mention HOW he would kill you? Emphasize that. But most importantly, emphasize that you do genuinely fear for your life and fear he may try to kill you. If you're in California, the PD should write a report for criminal threats (422pc) behind this incident and a detective will work the case.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
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I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivkhzna
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ivkid23
| 1,667,927,453 | 1,667,927,597 | 201 | 560 |
They can sue you for all the money they are out due to you breaking the signed contract
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You could be held responsible for the 8 months of rent they’d be out, possibly some additional fees and fines depending on what route they take to recoup the money.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivl00xj
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ivl18ax
| 1,667,934,330 | 1,667,934,794 | 34 | 36 |
If you back out of the lease, you are responsible for the remainder of the lease unless they find somebody else, which, as explained, is unlikely in this case since they’ll give them an empty room. Some people are saying that they could just send it to collections, but that is not the case. They would have to take you to court before they could send it to collections, so it is very likely that they would sue you in order to obtain a judgment. Then they can send it to collections or garnish wages or levy (empty) your bank account or even place a property lien or whatever other options they have in your state. Even if you have no collectible assets right now, then the judgment would sit there for usually decades until you do get a job or have a house, etc. They would be able to potentially place a judgment lien on any property you own as well after they get a judgment in court. You might be able to settle with them and agree to pay them 50%, if they do agree to something like that, get it in writing!! I am an attorney who handles a lot of this kind of thing, I am not your attorney, but you could basically tell them that you are a student without any assets (if this is truthful) and offered to pay a certain amount a month until you have paid off 50% of the remaining balance or something like that. They have no obligation to accept your offer, but you also have nothing to lose by making the offer and any counteroffers. But since it’s a larger management company, they probably have a procedure in place and so don’t be surprised if they don’t agree to something like that, but again, it’s worth the shot. Otherwise, stick it out and save yourself the double rent (since I’m assuming you’ll have to pay rent elsewhere.)
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You could incentivise another tenant to take over your lease by paying a month or two of rent for them or taking care of thier deposit. That would be a lot cheaper that getting taken to court over the full 8 months rent.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivl18ax
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ivkzewb
| 1,667,934,794 | 1,667,934,096 | 36 | 27 |
You could incentivise another tenant to take over your lease by paying a month or two of rent for them or taking care of thier deposit. That would be a lot cheaper that getting taken to court over the full 8 months rent.
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Advertise that you’re subleasing for slightly cheaper than what the landlord charges and you’ll find someone to take it. It might cost you $25 or $50 bucks a month for however long you have left, but it’ll be far cheaper than paying the full rent or the eventual cost of having an eviction on your record.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivkxoyr
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ivl18ax
| 1,667,933,449 | 1,667,934,794 | 16 | 36 |
They will definitely come after you for what you owe. Perhaps you could make the apt attractive for someone to take over. If you paid a month or 2 of their rent for the remaining 8 months that would be cheaper than walking away. Depends how bad you need out whether that's worth it to you.
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You could incentivise another tenant to take over your lease by paying a month or two of rent for them or taking care of thier deposit. That would be a lot cheaper that getting taken to court over the full 8 months rent.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivl18ax
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ivkwon0
| 1,667,934,794 | 1,667,933,068 | 36 | 6 |
You could incentivise another tenant to take over your lease by paying a month or two of rent for them or taking care of thier deposit. That would be a lot cheaper that getting taken to court over the full 8 months rent.
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Why did you sign the least for eight months longer than you intended to stay? If you move, they can and likely will sue for damages. You said you were going to be in that unit for eight more months.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivl00xj
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ivkzewb
| 1,667,934,330 | 1,667,934,096 | 34 | 27 |
If you back out of the lease, you are responsible for the remainder of the lease unless they find somebody else, which, as explained, is unlikely in this case since they’ll give them an empty room. Some people are saying that they could just send it to collections, but that is not the case. They would have to take you to court before they could send it to collections, so it is very likely that they would sue you in order to obtain a judgment. Then they can send it to collections or garnish wages or levy (empty) your bank account or even place a property lien or whatever other options they have in your state. Even if you have no collectible assets right now, then the judgment would sit there for usually decades until you do get a job or have a house, etc. They would be able to potentially place a judgment lien on any property you own as well after they get a judgment in court. You might be able to settle with them and agree to pay them 50%, if they do agree to something like that, get it in writing!! I am an attorney who handles a lot of this kind of thing, I am not your attorney, but you could basically tell them that you are a student without any assets (if this is truthful) and offered to pay a certain amount a month until you have paid off 50% of the remaining balance or something like that. They have no obligation to accept your offer, but you also have nothing to lose by making the offer and any counteroffers. But since it’s a larger management company, they probably have a procedure in place and so don’t be surprised if they don’t agree to something like that, but again, it’s worth the shot. Otherwise, stick it out and save yourself the double rent (since I’m assuming you’ll have to pay rent elsewhere.)
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Advertise that you’re subleasing for slightly cheaper than what the landlord charges and you’ll find someone to take it. It might cost you $25 or $50 bucks a month for however long you have left, but it’ll be far cheaper than paying the full rent or the eventual cost of having an eviction on your record.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivl00xj
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ivkxoyr
| 1,667,934,330 | 1,667,933,449 | 34 | 16 |
If you back out of the lease, you are responsible for the remainder of the lease unless they find somebody else, which, as explained, is unlikely in this case since they’ll give them an empty room. Some people are saying that they could just send it to collections, but that is not the case. They would have to take you to court before they could send it to collections, so it is very likely that they would sue you in order to obtain a judgment. Then they can send it to collections or garnish wages or levy (empty) your bank account or even place a property lien or whatever other options they have in your state. Even if you have no collectible assets right now, then the judgment would sit there for usually decades until you do get a job or have a house, etc. They would be able to potentially place a judgment lien on any property you own as well after they get a judgment in court. You might be able to settle with them and agree to pay them 50%, if they do agree to something like that, get it in writing!! I am an attorney who handles a lot of this kind of thing, I am not your attorney, but you could basically tell them that you are a student without any assets (if this is truthful) and offered to pay a certain amount a month until you have paid off 50% of the remaining balance or something like that. They have no obligation to accept your offer, but you also have nothing to lose by making the offer and any counteroffers. But since it’s a larger management company, they probably have a procedure in place and so don’t be surprised if they don’t agree to something like that, but again, it’s worth the shot. Otherwise, stick it out and save yourself the double rent (since I’m assuming you’ll have to pay rent elsewhere.)
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They will definitely come after you for what you owe. Perhaps you could make the apt attractive for someone to take over. If you paid a month or 2 of their rent for the remaining 8 months that would be cheaper than walking away. Depends how bad you need out whether that's worth it to you.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivl00xj
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ivkwon0
| 1,667,934,330 | 1,667,933,068 | 34 | 6 |
If you back out of the lease, you are responsible for the remainder of the lease unless they find somebody else, which, as explained, is unlikely in this case since they’ll give them an empty room. Some people are saying that they could just send it to collections, but that is not the case. They would have to take you to court before they could send it to collections, so it is very likely that they would sue you in order to obtain a judgment. Then they can send it to collections or garnish wages or levy (empty) your bank account or even place a property lien or whatever other options they have in your state. Even if you have no collectible assets right now, then the judgment would sit there for usually decades until you do get a job or have a house, etc. They would be able to potentially place a judgment lien on any property you own as well after they get a judgment in court. You might be able to settle with them and agree to pay them 50%, if they do agree to something like that, get it in writing!! I am an attorney who handles a lot of this kind of thing, I am not your attorney, but you could basically tell them that you are a student without any assets (if this is truthful) and offered to pay a certain amount a month until you have paid off 50% of the remaining balance or something like that. They have no obligation to accept your offer, but you also have nothing to lose by making the offer and any counteroffers. But since it’s a larger management company, they probably have a procedure in place and so don’t be surprised if they don’t agree to something like that, but again, it’s worth the shot. Otherwise, stick it out and save yourself the double rent (since I’m assuming you’ll have to pay rent elsewhere.)
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Why did you sign the least for eight months longer than you intended to stay? If you move, they can and likely will sue for damages. You said you were going to be in that unit for eight more months.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivkxoyr
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ivkzewb
| 1,667,933,449 | 1,667,934,096 | 16 | 27 |
They will definitely come after you for what you owe. Perhaps you could make the apt attractive for someone to take over. If you paid a month or 2 of their rent for the remaining 8 months that would be cheaper than walking away. Depends how bad you need out whether that's worth it to you.
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Advertise that you’re subleasing for slightly cheaper than what the landlord charges and you’ll find someone to take it. It might cost you $25 or $50 bucks a month for however long you have left, but it’ll be far cheaper than paying the full rent or the eventual cost of having an eviction on your record.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivkzewb
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ivkwon0
| 1,667,934,096 | 1,667,933,068 | 27 | 6 |
Advertise that you’re subleasing for slightly cheaper than what the landlord charges and you’ll find someone to take it. It might cost you $25 or $50 bucks a month for however long you have left, but it’ll be far cheaper than paying the full rent or the eventual cost of having an eviction on your record.
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Why did you sign the least for eight months longer than you intended to stay? If you move, they can and likely will sue for damages. You said you were going to be in that unit for eight more months.
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yps7ri
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I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivkxoyr
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ivkwon0
| 1,667,933,449 | 1,667,933,068 | 16 | 6 |
They will definitely come after you for what you owe. Perhaps you could make the apt attractive for someone to take over. If you paid a month or 2 of their rent for the remaining 8 months that would be cheaper than walking away. Depends how bad you need out whether that's worth it to you.
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Why did you sign the least for eight months longer than you intended to stay? If you move, they can and likely will sue for damages. You said you were going to be in that unit for eight more months.
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yps7ri
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legaladvice_train
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I am in a lease with 8 months to go, in Maryland. The landlord is a large student housing company. There is a no termination clause in the lease. What will happen if I simply inform them I am moving out and won’t be paying rent anymore? When I spoke to the office they said the only way is to find a new tenant, but it’s almost impossible because the building is largely empty as it is, so new tenants will probably just go to new rooms instead of dealing with the transfer process to take mine.
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ivl7b52
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ivkwon0
| 1,667,937,108 | 1,667,933,068 | 12 | 6 |
You may be able to find someone that would prefer a shorter term, so may not be as hard to find a replacement as you might think, esp if you sweeten the pot with some cash up front.
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Why did you sign the least for eight months longer than you intended to stay? If you move, they can and likely will sue for damages. You said you were going to be in that unit for eight more months.
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v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibe44sw
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ibensn4
| 1,654,538,089 | 1,654,546,595 | 12 | 18 |
The best way is to get a good estate attorney, who can help you figure out whether it's best to convey via will, trust, quitclaim, title change, TOD or maybe something else. Get your paperwork in order, have your insurance, account information, etc. easily available. Also your tax stuff. Sorry to hear about this.
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If your state allows it, you can create a transfer on death deed and name the friend the benefificary. This way you retain ownership of the house while alive, but they will inherit the house while bypassing probate. If you use a will, the home will need to be probated which can take a long time (at least over a year and any debts you accrued will need to be paid out from the estate first, plus the estate itself will be assessed a probate fee by the lawyer and executor handling the estate). You can use this for other real properly like vehicles. For financial accounts like bank accounts, brokerage accounts, life insurance, etc, you can simply name them the beneficiary. This too will also bypass probate. You should then have a general will gifting whatever personal items to whomever you want. If you have a complicated estate, you may also want to do a living trust where you place your assets into the trust and name your friend and whomever as beneficiares. This will take longer and will cost more however the cost to setup a trust isn't terrible expensive. It cost my mom around $2200, whereas my dad who died intestate (meaning no will or trust) cost around $30K in probate fees due to the value of his home. The executor (myself) was also entitled to an equal probate fee, but I declined it since I would simply inherit it anyway and thus I avoided paying personal income tax on this money. Using this method is better than quit claim deeding it to your friend or simply adding them as joint tenant with right of surivorship, since the friend will lose out of the step up in the cost basis of the home. If they inherit after you die, then they get the step up in cost basis which will save them on capital gains. Another thing to factor is what is paying for your long term care (if any). If you end up on medicaid for long term care, medicaid is required by law to seek recovery from your estate. A way to bypass this is to have nothing in your name upon death, such as using a trust. Though depending on your state, you may need to use an irrevocable trust vs living trust. So consult a lawyer.
| 0 | 8,506 | 1.5 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibensn4
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ibdhfzj
| 1,654,546,595 | 1,654,528,326 | 18 | 9 |
If your state allows it, you can create a transfer on death deed and name the friend the benefificary. This way you retain ownership of the house while alive, but they will inherit the house while bypassing probate. If you use a will, the home will need to be probated which can take a long time (at least over a year and any debts you accrued will need to be paid out from the estate first, plus the estate itself will be assessed a probate fee by the lawyer and executor handling the estate). You can use this for other real properly like vehicles. For financial accounts like bank accounts, brokerage accounts, life insurance, etc, you can simply name them the beneficiary. This too will also bypass probate. You should then have a general will gifting whatever personal items to whomever you want. If you have a complicated estate, you may also want to do a living trust where you place your assets into the trust and name your friend and whomever as beneficiares. This will take longer and will cost more however the cost to setup a trust isn't terrible expensive. It cost my mom around $2200, whereas my dad who died intestate (meaning no will or trust) cost around $30K in probate fees due to the value of his home. The executor (myself) was also entitled to an equal probate fee, but I declined it since I would simply inherit it anyway and thus I avoided paying personal income tax on this money. Using this method is better than quit claim deeding it to your friend or simply adding them as joint tenant with right of surivorship, since the friend will lose out of the step up in the cost basis of the home. If they inherit after you die, then they get the step up in cost basis which will save them on capital gains. Another thing to factor is what is paying for your long term care (if any). If you end up on medicaid for long term care, medicaid is required by law to seek recovery from your estate. A way to bypass this is to have nothing in your name upon death, such as using a trust. Though depending on your state, you may need to use an irrevocable trust vs living trust. So consult a lawyer.
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You could leave anybody anything you want in your will. Just work with a lawyer and you should be fine. I have metastatic cancer as well and I worked with a lawyer to do not only a will but a living will / advance directive as well. It sucks a lot. I’m sorry for what you’re going through.
| 1 | 18,269 | 2 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibensn4
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ibefrl2
| 1,654,546,595 | 1,654,543,102 | 18 | 6 |
If your state allows it, you can create a transfer on death deed and name the friend the benefificary. This way you retain ownership of the house while alive, but they will inherit the house while bypassing probate. If you use a will, the home will need to be probated which can take a long time (at least over a year and any debts you accrued will need to be paid out from the estate first, plus the estate itself will be assessed a probate fee by the lawyer and executor handling the estate). You can use this for other real properly like vehicles. For financial accounts like bank accounts, brokerage accounts, life insurance, etc, you can simply name them the beneficiary. This too will also bypass probate. You should then have a general will gifting whatever personal items to whomever you want. If you have a complicated estate, you may also want to do a living trust where you place your assets into the trust and name your friend and whomever as beneficiares. This will take longer and will cost more however the cost to setup a trust isn't terrible expensive. It cost my mom around $2200, whereas my dad who died intestate (meaning no will or trust) cost around $30K in probate fees due to the value of his home. The executor (myself) was also entitled to an equal probate fee, but I declined it since I would simply inherit it anyway and thus I avoided paying personal income tax on this money. Using this method is better than quit claim deeding it to your friend or simply adding them as joint tenant with right of surivorship, since the friend will lose out of the step up in the cost basis of the home. If they inherit after you die, then they get the step up in cost basis which will save them on capital gains. Another thing to factor is what is paying for your long term care (if any). If you end up on medicaid for long term care, medicaid is required by law to seek recovery from your estate. A way to bypass this is to have nothing in your name upon death, such as using a trust. Though depending on your state, you may need to use an irrevocable trust vs living trust. So consult a lawyer.
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I don't think this is crazy, but one thing to consider is debts to your estate. Those get paid first from the estate before any assets are distributed. I don't know if this is true in your case, but my sister died of cancer (yep, it sucks - I'm sorry) at a similar age and had some pretty significant medical bills. Definitely have a chat with an estate lawyer to figure out the best way to do this.
| 1 | 3,493 | 3 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibdhfzj
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ibe44sw
| 1,654,528,326 | 1,654,538,089 | 9 | 12 |
You could leave anybody anything you want in your will. Just work with a lawyer and you should be fine. I have metastatic cancer as well and I worked with a lawyer to do not only a will but a living will / advance directive as well. It sucks a lot. I’m sorry for what you’re going through.
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The best way is to get a good estate attorney, who can help you figure out whether it's best to convey via will, trust, quitclaim, title change, TOD or maybe something else. Get your paperwork in order, have your insurance, account information, etc. easily available. Also your tax stuff. Sorry to hear about this.
| 0 | 9,763 | 1.333333 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibfmgtf
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ibfy8en
| 1,654,563,068 | 1,654,569,053 | 3 | 5 |
You're going to have to speak to an estate and trust attorney. So your family or random family member cannot challenge the will.
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Easiest course is to add her as a joint tenant with rights of survivorship. Or the equivalent in your state.
| 0 | 5,985 | 1.666667 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibepba3
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ibfy8en
| 1,654,547,253 | 1,654,569,053 | 2 | 5 |
Depending on the state you live in, you may consider a transfer on death designation deed. This will transfer the property without needing probate.
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Easiest course is to add her as a joint tenant with rights of survivorship. Or the equivalent in your state.
| 0 | 21,800 | 2.5 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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iberjqu
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ibfy8en
| 1,654,548,226 | 1,654,569,053 | 2 | 5 |
That does suck! Talk to an estate planning attorney and iron out a will and/or trust. Gift things while you’re alive to reduce the workload on your friend. Your parents may want some of your things as keepsakes, so have a conversation with them and your friend to make sure that everybody knows what to do if they have a disagreement over who gets something. Whatever you discuss should be reflected in the will/trust.
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Easiest course is to add her as a joint tenant with rights of survivorship. Or the equivalent in your state.
| 0 | 20,827 | 2.5 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibfy8en
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ibfshgw
| 1,654,569,053 | 1,654,566,114 | 5 | 2 |
Easiest course is to add her as a joint tenant with rights of survivorship. Or the equivalent in your state.
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Not a lawyer, but have several years of experience in underwriting mortgages and ensuring proper title for mortgaged homes. You can achieve your desired outcome with a simple title change to the property. Go to a real estate lawyer and have the title changed to joint tenants with right of survivorship under both your names. That way the title will automatically remain with your friend upon your death. You will also need to consult with a tax attorney if you take this route. It will accomplish your goals, but it might create a taxable gift for your friend in the process if not structured properly. You may be able to accomplish the same outcome with a trust and deed changes, but that’s beyond the scope of my knowledge.
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v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibepba3
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ibf0dsb
| 1,654,547,253 | 1,654,552,172 | 2 | 6 |
Depending on the state you live in, you may consider a transfer on death designation deed. This will transfer the property without needing probate.
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Depending on the state you can just quit claim deed it over to him/her as a co owner. So deed from you to you and him/her. This avoids the trust. Can be done at the clerks office. And avoids probate. Sorry about this shit situation.
| 0 | 4,919 | 3 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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iberjqu
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ibf0dsb
| 1,654,548,226 | 1,654,552,172 | 2 | 6 |
That does suck! Talk to an estate planning attorney and iron out a will and/or trust. Gift things while you’re alive to reduce the workload on your friend. Your parents may want some of your things as keepsakes, so have a conversation with them and your friend to make sure that everybody knows what to do if they have a disagreement over who gets something. Whatever you discuss should be reflected in the will/trust.
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Depending on the state you can just quit claim deed it over to him/her as a co owner. So deed from you to you and him/her. This avoids the trust. Can be done at the clerks office. And avoids probate. Sorry about this shit situation.
| 0 | 3,946 | 3 |
v64dg7
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
Best friend inheriting my house (and mess) after death- logistically reasonable? What do we need to make sure of? Hey! I'm 34 and will soon die from my stage 4 triple negative breast cancer. It sucks! One think that doesn't suck is my best friend. I bought the house I live in a little over 10 years ago with TONS of help help from my parents (the white privilege is palpable, I know) and they'd like me to leave it to a friend who will be a good steward of my tons and tons and tons of art and cool stuff. Give us advice. I'll be dead so it won't be my problem, but is this a crazy idea?
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ibepba3
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ibffb7u
| 1,654,547,253 | 1,654,559,461 | 2 | 5 |
Depending on the state you live in, you may consider a transfer on death designation deed. This will transfer the property without needing probate.
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Not a lawyer but I would look into getting a TOD (transfer on death) Deed for the house if possible in your state. And possibly a POD (payable on death) account for any monetary assets. This type of deed and account keeps the money from going through a probate court like it would in a will. Worth looking into.
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