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zn4acj
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legaladvice_train
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My Father is Threatening to Sue Me For Student Loans Hello, I (28F) am from NY. The backstory is that I am currently living with my bf because I left home to escape from his abusive behavior. He had previously taken out a Parent Plus loan in order to pay for my education. After several months of no contact, he texted me that I have to pay back the loans or he is threatening to sue (he is a lawyer). Does he have a leg to stand on? Should I seek professional legal counsel? Is it possible for him to sue? Thank you!
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j0hkz42
| 1,671,217,178 | 1,671,214,704 | 5 | 2 |
Not a lawyer- but I'm a parent who has Parent Plus loans out for my kiddo. When I signed for the loan the documents I signed CLEARLY state in several places that as a PARENT loan I am taking on the financial responsibility and that my student will not be responsible if I don't pay back the loans. As a lawyer, maybe your dad needs to re-read the fine print.
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Let him file the suit, lol... That is 100% a scare tactic. That loan is his responsibility not yours. I read someone said to call the bar and report his behavior and that is absolutely the right move.
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zn4acj
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legaladvice_train
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My Father is Threatening to Sue Me For Student Loans Hello, I (28F) am from NY. The backstory is that I am currently living with my bf because I left home to escape from his abusive behavior. He had previously taken out a Parent Plus loan in order to pay for my education. After several months of no contact, he texted me that I have to pay back the loans or he is threatening to sue (he is a lawyer). Does he have a leg to stand on? Should I seek professional legal counsel? Is it possible for him to sue? Thank you!
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j0gkyhk
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j0hqqc6
| 1,671,200,427 | 1,671,216,984 | 2 | 3 |
Go in touch with the Bar and report that immediately, The loan is his responsibility and threathening to sue his own child shows the man has no character to be in any legal profession.
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As the holder of two Parent Plus loans, they are HIS loans. The loans I have are for my kids, and while I want them to help repay them, I signed for the loans, not them.
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zn4acj
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My Father is Threatening to Sue Me For Student Loans Hello, I (28F) am from NY. The backstory is that I am currently living with my bf because I left home to escape from his abusive behavior. He had previously taken out a Parent Plus loan in order to pay for my education. After several months of no contact, he texted me that I have to pay back the loans or he is threatening to sue (he is a lawyer). Does he have a leg to stand on? Should I seek professional legal counsel? Is it possible for him to sue? Thank you!
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j0hqqc6
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j0hkz42
| 1,671,216,984 | 1,671,214,704 | 3 | 2 |
As the holder of two Parent Plus loans, they are HIS loans. The loans I have are for my kids, and while I want them to help repay them, I signed for the loans, not them.
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Let him file the suit, lol... That is 100% a scare tactic. That loan is his responsibility not yours. I read someone said to call the bar and report his behavior and that is absolutely the right move.
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zr735k
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legaladvice_train
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Sister's SO is threatening to evict her and her kids. They have been together 10 years and property is under his name. This is in Texas. My sister and her SO are having issues, and he keeps threatening to kick her and the kids out of their home. The kids are two young adults from a prior relationship, plus 1 baby each, and their 7 year old son. They have been living together for at least 10 years as husband and wife, but they are not married. The house is under his name only but she pays for all the bills including mortgage, she has been sending him the money to pay the bills and has proof of these money transfers and what they were to be used for. What complicates things further is that my sister is still legally married to one of the other kids father, they just never filed for divorce. Does she have any rights as far as the house is concerned? It was bought by them together even though her name is not on it. He's also getting violent, to which I mentioned she may want to get a restraining order against him. She knows she needs an attorney but doesn't have the money now, so I thought to ask here for advice. Does she have to move out? Does she have any rights to the house?
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j11zt90
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j124nx1
| 1,671,588,449 | 1,671,590,702 | 57 | 77 |
Texas does recognize common law marriage but her existing on paper marriage is likely going to prevent that case from being made. She should still talk to a divorce attorney since a house is at stake.
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Unfortunately, since she is already married to another person the common law marriage between the two of them is pretty much out the window. Additionally, since he has his name on everything and is collecting payments, she essentially made herself a tenant with all the landlord financial responsibility. I know it sucks and I'm sure she's kicking herself in the ass right now for it, but that's the facts as far as my legal interpretation can go. Best thing to do is prepare for the eviction notice JIK it does come from the husband since they are entitled to it based on tenant rights, but other than that I do not see much recourse for her
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zr735k
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legaladvice_train
| 0.84 |
Sister's SO is threatening to evict her and her kids. They have been together 10 years and property is under his name. This is in Texas. My sister and her SO are having issues, and he keeps threatening to kick her and the kids out of their home. The kids are two young adults from a prior relationship, plus 1 baby each, and their 7 year old son. They have been living together for at least 10 years as husband and wife, but they are not married. The house is under his name only but she pays for all the bills including mortgage, she has been sending him the money to pay the bills and has proof of these money transfers and what they were to be used for. What complicates things further is that my sister is still legally married to one of the other kids father, they just never filed for divorce. Does she have any rights as far as the house is concerned? It was bought by them together even though her name is not on it. He's also getting violent, to which I mentioned she may want to get a restraining order against him. She knows she needs an attorney but doesn't have the money now, so I thought to ask here for advice. Does she have to move out? Does she have any rights to the house?
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j11z4n5
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j124nx1
| 1,671,588,135 | 1,671,590,702 | 51 | 77 |
The rights she has are as a tenant. The payments she's been sending him are rent, unless there's anything somewhere in writing that they were buying this house together.
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Unfortunately, since she is already married to another person the common law marriage between the two of them is pretty much out the window. Additionally, since he has his name on everything and is collecting payments, she essentially made herself a tenant with all the landlord financial responsibility. I know it sucks and I'm sure she's kicking herself in the ass right now for it, but that's the facts as far as my legal interpretation can go. Best thing to do is prepare for the eviction notice JIK it does come from the husband since they are entitled to it based on tenant rights, but other than that I do not see much recourse for her
| 0 | 2,567 | 1.509804 |
zr735k
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legaladvice_train
| 0.84 |
Sister's SO is threatening to evict her and her kids. They have been together 10 years and property is under his name. This is in Texas. My sister and her SO are having issues, and he keeps threatening to kick her and the kids out of their home. The kids are two young adults from a prior relationship, plus 1 baby each, and their 7 year old son. They have been living together for at least 10 years as husband and wife, but they are not married. The house is under his name only but she pays for all the bills including mortgage, she has been sending him the money to pay the bills and has proof of these money transfers and what they were to be used for. What complicates things further is that my sister is still legally married to one of the other kids father, they just never filed for divorce. Does she have any rights as far as the house is concerned? It was bought by them together even though her name is not on it. He's also getting violent, to which I mentioned she may want to get a restraining order against him. She knows she needs an attorney but doesn't have the money now, so I thought to ask here for advice. Does she have to move out? Does she have any rights to the house?
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j11zgj1
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j124nx1
| 1,671,588,287 | 1,671,590,702 | 25 | 77 |
It sounds like he can terminate her tenancy with proper notice at any time, and go to court to file for eviction if she refuses to move out.
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Unfortunately, since she is already married to another person the common law marriage between the two of them is pretty much out the window. Additionally, since he has his name on everything and is collecting payments, she essentially made herself a tenant with all the landlord financial responsibility. I know it sucks and I'm sure she's kicking herself in the ass right now for it, but that's the facts as far as my legal interpretation can go. Best thing to do is prepare for the eviction notice JIK it does come from the husband since they are entitled to it based on tenant rights, but other than that I do not see much recourse for her
| 0 | 2,415 | 3.08 |
zr735k
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legaladvice_train
| 0.84 |
Sister's SO is threatening to evict her and her kids. They have been together 10 years and property is under his name. This is in Texas. My sister and her SO are having issues, and he keeps threatening to kick her and the kids out of their home. The kids are two young adults from a prior relationship, plus 1 baby each, and their 7 year old son. They have been living together for at least 10 years as husband and wife, but they are not married. The house is under his name only but she pays for all the bills including mortgage, she has been sending him the money to pay the bills and has proof of these money transfers and what they were to be used for. What complicates things further is that my sister is still legally married to one of the other kids father, they just never filed for divorce. Does she have any rights as far as the house is concerned? It was bought by them together even though her name is not on it. He's also getting violent, to which I mentioned she may want to get a restraining order against him. She knows she needs an attorney but doesn't have the money now, so I thought to ask here for advice. Does she have to move out? Does she have any rights to the house?
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j11z4n5
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j11zt90
| 1,671,588,135 | 1,671,588,449 | 51 | 57 |
The rights she has are as a tenant. The payments she's been sending him are rent, unless there's anything somewhere in writing that they were buying this house together.
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Texas does recognize common law marriage but her existing on paper marriage is likely going to prevent that case from being made. She should still talk to a divorce attorney since a house is at stake.
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zr735k
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legaladvice_train
| 0.84 |
Sister's SO is threatening to evict her and her kids. They have been together 10 years and property is under his name. This is in Texas. My sister and her SO are having issues, and he keeps threatening to kick her and the kids out of their home. The kids are two young adults from a prior relationship, plus 1 baby each, and their 7 year old son. They have been living together for at least 10 years as husband and wife, but they are not married. The house is under his name only but she pays for all the bills including mortgage, she has been sending him the money to pay the bills and has proof of these money transfers and what they were to be used for. What complicates things further is that my sister is still legally married to one of the other kids father, they just never filed for divorce. Does she have any rights as far as the house is concerned? It was bought by them together even though her name is not on it. He's also getting violent, to which I mentioned she may want to get a restraining order against him. She knows she needs an attorney but doesn't have the money now, so I thought to ask here for advice. Does she have to move out? Does she have any rights to the house?
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j11zt90
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j11zgj1
| 1,671,588,449 | 1,671,588,287 | 57 | 25 |
Texas does recognize common law marriage but her existing on paper marriage is likely going to prevent that case from being made. She should still talk to a divorce attorney since a house is at stake.
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It sounds like he can terminate her tenancy with proper notice at any time, and go to court to file for eviction if she refuses to move out.
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zr735k
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legaladvice_train
| 0.84 |
Sister's SO is threatening to evict her and her kids. They have been together 10 years and property is under his name. This is in Texas. My sister and her SO are having issues, and he keeps threatening to kick her and the kids out of their home. The kids are two young adults from a prior relationship, plus 1 baby each, and their 7 year old son. They have been living together for at least 10 years as husband and wife, but they are not married. The house is under his name only but she pays for all the bills including mortgage, she has been sending him the money to pay the bills and has proof of these money transfers and what they were to be used for. What complicates things further is that my sister is still legally married to one of the other kids father, they just never filed for divorce. Does she have any rights as far as the house is concerned? It was bought by them together even though her name is not on it. He's also getting violent, to which I mentioned she may want to get a restraining order against him. She knows she needs an attorney but doesn't have the money now, so I thought to ask here for advice. Does she have to move out? Does she have any rights to the house?
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j14jiej
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j13jg21
| 1,671,641,444 | 1,671,625,052 | 5 | 3 |
Unfortunately it looks like she may have to leave. The only thing she can do is file for child support, since the 7 year old is biologically his. Other than that I cannot think of any other legal loopholes which would work in your sister’s benefit.
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Non-legal advice. Also since all the utilities are I’m assuming in her name she needs to cut them off when she moves, if they are in his name then she needs to stop paying them, let it rack up and get shut off.
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t1geom
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
[MA] my 10 year old daughter is left home alone to babysit her sisters (3 and 1) by herself for hours. Her sisters are not mine but I’m still concerned for all of their well being As it says in the title, her sisters are not mine. Their father isn’t in the picture. When my daughter comes with my on the weekends she tells me she often is left with her sisters for hours more than 3 times a week. She is smart and good enough that I believe her, but I do not believe she is mature enough to babysit especially a young toddler and baby! When does this become child endangerment? I don’t want to wait until disaster strikes for the childrens’ well being, and I don’t want my kid to feel guilty. Thanks for any help, the state legal website is of little help in this matter.
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hyid2t3
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hyicxjb
| 1,645,880,467 | 1,645,880,379 | 6 | 3 |
I’m not a lawyer but I am a CASA in MA. As someone else said, think carefully about your options here, including talking to your co-parent, because once you go down the DCF route it can sour things. That isn’t meant to discourage you - if you feel children are at risk you should report. If you decide to talk to DCF you can call their hotline or contact your local DCF office. The mass.gov site has a whole page on how / where to report it. You will be asked to supply specific details - times, dates, locations and names of others involved. Your report (sometimes known as a 51A) gets reviewed by DCF and they make may follow up phone calls to you to confirm details. If it is “screened in” (I.e. they are taking it seriously) they might assign an investigator who will dig into the details. This could include interviewing your child. They will likely contact others including co-parent to confirm specific details. In my opinion, the system is not perfect - that’s one of the reasons that CASA exists, but the reporting process is fairly solid and in most cases further action will depend heavily on the full circumstances and context of what is going on rather than arbitrary rules and reactions.
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If the children's mother is working during these times, there's a chance there could be some type of daycare assistance available to her through the state that she is not aware of.
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otc7st
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legaladvice_train
| 0.85 |
Over a yr ago my cousin left her 13yo daughter with me and has no plans to take her back, how can i adopt her? So theres clearly more to it, its complex and annoying and a lot of it has to do with her parents being awful. Last year ACS went to their house because of reports of abuse. My cousin has full custody of her daughter, the father had visitation on select days (Ill go over him in a minute.) ACS found the house wad a hoarders den and filled with black mold and that my 13yo cousin could not stay. I offered to take her in for the time until they cleaned the housed. That was March 2020. Since then her mother has refused to let me claim her on taxes or add her to anything of mine even though she has given us $0. She used to come see her daughter once every two weeks or so and it would usually devolve into a screaming match leaving her daughter in tears and my cousin ignoring her daughter for days. No calls, no texts, nothing. Even i couldnt always get a hold of her. Now her mother will go weeks naturally without speaking to her daughter or me, and will tell her daughter she is gonna show up and then not, or show up last minute while her daughter is in the middle of school or chores. I have spoken to my little cousin about adopting her and she says that she would like that. Our home is me, my husband, and our toddler son who calls her his sister. She has her own room and privacy and has even gotten honor roll in school in the year and a half since moving in. Now her father did has visitation but my little cousin kept expressing fear of her father, full blown panic attacks that took me hours to calm her down from, and after a few weeks of it being an ongoing thing she stopped going. The judge in charge of custody ruled that since she was now 14 she had a choice of seeing her dad or speaking to him and since he was being verbally abusive with her (on the phone) that it was her choice if she wanted any relationship with him. I tried getting a lawyer to help with this but they all want thousands of dollars up front which since we are providing for a child we cant claim (this includes all the child tax credits and money the govt has sent out) we are currently hemorrhaging money. I was told I could file by myself but I dont even know where to begin. I found a form for NY that says since she is over 14 she hereelf can request to be adopted by me but I do not know what else needs to be done in tandem. I also do not have copies or even access to her birth certificate so I am not sure if that puts a hinder on things as well. Any and all advice is welcome, thank you.
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h6vpql3
| 1,627,507,688 | 1,627,507,917 | 9 | 33 |
Shouldn't the parents be paying you child support? I live in NY. AFAIK if you're granted temporary custody you're supposed to get child support from the biological parents. I'd start your quest with that. Have your daughter contact her ad litem attorney about that. It is in the child's best interest that you not be under unnecessary financial strain. This attorney should be able to get that ball rolling or at least be able to walk you through what needs to be done to get the child support ball rolling. At the same time have her tell the attorney that she'd like to be adopted by you guys and make clear you're also willing to adopt her. See what he recommends.
| ERROR: type should be string, got "https://www.irs.gov/help/ita/whom-may-i-claim-as-a-dependent It may upset her mother if you do claim her as a dependent which she seems to be. Here is a link from the IRS website to determine if legally you can claim her as a dependent. Her mom isn’t in the position to let or not let you claim her. You just claim her and let IRS decide. She is minor and you are providing her financial support. Therefore from this tool it seems legally you can claim her. If her mother claims her too she would have to prove that she supported niece >50% of the year, which she will not be able to do from your description of the last year. How this would affect her mother decision to allow her to stay with you is something that you will need to consider. She may care more about the money than her daughters well being." | 0 | 229 | 3.666667 |
otc7st
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legaladvice_train
| 0.85 |
Over a yr ago my cousin left her 13yo daughter with me and has no plans to take her back, how can i adopt her? So theres clearly more to it, its complex and annoying and a lot of it has to do with her parents being awful. Last year ACS went to their house because of reports of abuse. My cousin has full custody of her daughter, the father had visitation on select days (Ill go over him in a minute.) ACS found the house wad a hoarders den and filled with black mold and that my 13yo cousin could not stay. I offered to take her in for the time until they cleaned the housed. That was March 2020. Since then her mother has refused to let me claim her on taxes or add her to anything of mine even though she has given us $0. She used to come see her daughter once every two weeks or so and it would usually devolve into a screaming match leaving her daughter in tears and my cousin ignoring her daughter for days. No calls, no texts, nothing. Even i couldnt always get a hold of her. Now her mother will go weeks naturally without speaking to her daughter or me, and will tell her daughter she is gonna show up and then not, or show up last minute while her daughter is in the middle of school or chores. I have spoken to my little cousin about adopting her and she says that she would like that. Our home is me, my husband, and our toddler son who calls her his sister. She has her own room and privacy and has even gotten honor roll in school in the year and a half since moving in. Now her father did has visitation but my little cousin kept expressing fear of her father, full blown panic attacks that took me hours to calm her down from, and after a few weeks of it being an ongoing thing she stopped going. The judge in charge of custody ruled that since she was now 14 she had a choice of seeing her dad or speaking to him and since he was being verbally abusive with her (on the phone) that it was her choice if she wanted any relationship with him. I tried getting a lawyer to help with this but they all want thousands of dollars up front which since we are providing for a child we cant claim (this includes all the child tax credits and money the govt has sent out) we are currently hemorrhaging money. I was told I could file by myself but I dont even know where to begin. I found a form for NY that says since she is over 14 she hereelf can request to be adopted by me but I do not know what else needs to be done in tandem. I also do not have copies or even access to her birth certificate so I am not sure if that puts a hinder on things as well. Any and all advice is welcome, thank you.
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h6uvrdc
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h6vpql3
| 1,627,495,256 | 1,627,507,917 | 6 | 33 |
Shouldn't both parents be paying child support?
| ERROR: type should be string, got "https://www.irs.gov/help/ita/whom-may-i-claim-as-a-dependent It may upset her mother if you do claim her as a dependent which she seems to be. Here is a link from the IRS website to determine if legally you can claim her as a dependent. Her mom isn’t in the position to let or not let you claim her. You just claim her and let IRS decide. She is minor and you are providing her financial support. Therefore from this tool it seems legally you can claim her. If her mother claims her too she would have to prove that she supported niece >50% of the year, which she will not be able to do from your description of the last year. How this would affect her mother decision to allow her to stay with you is something that you will need to consider. She may care more about the money than her daughters well being." | 0 | 12,661 | 5.5 |
otc7st
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legaladvice_train
| 0.85 |
Over a yr ago my cousin left her 13yo daughter with me and has no plans to take her back, how can i adopt her? So theres clearly more to it, its complex and annoying and a lot of it has to do with her parents being awful. Last year ACS went to their house because of reports of abuse. My cousin has full custody of her daughter, the father had visitation on select days (Ill go over him in a minute.) ACS found the house wad a hoarders den and filled with black mold and that my 13yo cousin could not stay. I offered to take her in for the time until they cleaned the housed. That was March 2020. Since then her mother has refused to let me claim her on taxes or add her to anything of mine even though she has given us $0. She used to come see her daughter once every two weeks or so and it would usually devolve into a screaming match leaving her daughter in tears and my cousin ignoring her daughter for days. No calls, no texts, nothing. Even i couldnt always get a hold of her. Now her mother will go weeks naturally without speaking to her daughter or me, and will tell her daughter she is gonna show up and then not, or show up last minute while her daughter is in the middle of school or chores. I have spoken to my little cousin about adopting her and she says that she would like that. Our home is me, my husband, and our toddler son who calls her his sister. She has her own room and privacy and has even gotten honor roll in school in the year and a half since moving in. Now her father did has visitation but my little cousin kept expressing fear of her father, full blown panic attacks that took me hours to calm her down from, and after a few weeks of it being an ongoing thing she stopped going. The judge in charge of custody ruled that since she was now 14 she had a choice of seeing her dad or speaking to him and since he was being verbally abusive with her (on the phone) that it was her choice if she wanted any relationship with him. I tried getting a lawyer to help with this but they all want thousands of dollars up front which since we are providing for a child we cant claim (this includes all the child tax credits and money the govt has sent out) we are currently hemorrhaging money. I was told I could file by myself but I dont even know where to begin. I found a form for NY that says since she is over 14 she hereelf can request to be adopted by me but I do not know what else needs to be done in tandem. I also do not have copies or even access to her birth certificate so I am not sure if that puts a hinder on things as well. Any and all advice is welcome, thank you.
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h6uvrdc
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h6vp7l6
| 1,627,495,256 | 1,627,507,688 | 6 | 9 |
Shouldn't both parents be paying child support?
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Shouldn't the parents be paying you child support? I live in NY. AFAIK if you're granted temporary custody you're supposed to get child support from the biological parents. I'd start your quest with that. Have your daughter contact her ad litem attorney about that. It is in the child's best interest that you not be under unnecessary financial strain. This attorney should be able to get that ball rolling or at least be able to walk you through what needs to be done to get the child support ball rolling. At the same time have her tell the attorney that she'd like to be adopted by you guys and make clear you're also willing to adopt her. See what he recommends.
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y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
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My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irwhraj
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irweb0p
| 1,665,503,260 | 1,665,501,865 | 344 | 42 |
I am not sure where they get 7 days from. This is from the DOL site: conditions that incapacitate you or your family member (for example, unable to work or attend school) for more than three consecutive days and require ongoing medical treatment (either multiple appointments with a health care provider, or a single appointment and follow-up care such as prescription medication); That mentions three days, but it's only ONE of several reasons that could qualify. Here's a great breakdown and explanation https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/opinion-letters/fmla/fmla-87
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Can you bump the total request up to 7 days by including post-op and other appointments?
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y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
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My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irwhraj
| 1,665,502,666 | 1,665,503,260 | 26 | 344 |
How old is your daughter?
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I am not sure where they get 7 days from. This is from the DOL site: conditions that incapacitate you or your family member (for example, unable to work or attend school) for more than three consecutive days and require ongoing medical treatment (either multiple appointments with a health care provider, or a single appointment and follow-up care such as prescription medication); That mentions three days, but it's only ONE of several reasons that could qualify. Here's a great breakdown and explanation https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/opinion-letters/fmla/fmla-87
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y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
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My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irweb0p
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irwiecz
| 1,665,501,865 | 1,665,503,515 | 42 | 145 |
Can you bump the total request up to 7 days by including post-op and other appointments?
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Do you have PTO? I found out that I HAD to use PTO as well, before FMLA actually kicked in.
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y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irwg9w2
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irwiecz
| 1,665,502,666 | 1,665,503,515 | 26 | 145 |
How old is your daughter?
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Do you have PTO? I found out that I HAD to use PTO as well, before FMLA actually kicked in.
| 0 | 849 | 5.576923 |
y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irx27fx
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irx6f8y
| 1,665,511,227 | 1,665,512,865 | 68 | 127 |
Is your d key broken? I am a lawyer, not your lawyer and not licensed in TX. That said, take a look at https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/28-fmla and what /u/Auracounts gave you. Read through them. Then compare your employee handbook (assuming you are not union) with the employer's policy in it to the DOL handouts. Hopefully you notified your employer in writing with your previous leave requests. Inform them that FMLA is protected, and that there is no "7 day requirement" in the law that you can see. Reiterate your request for intermittent leave in writing. Request all necessary forms and fill them out. If it is denied, seek help from a lawyer. You may find your local/state bar association has programs set up for free or low cost assistance.
|
I wonder if HR is getting FMLA and STD (short term disability) confused? For my company, you are not eligible for the company provided STD coverage until 7 days after the leave begins (ex. birth of a child), but as far as I understood, FMLA starts immediately.
| 0 | 1,638 | 1.867647 |
y1bnpm
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irweb0p
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irx6f8y
| 1,665,501,865 | 1,665,512,865 | 42 | 127 |
Can you bump the total request up to 7 days by including post-op and other appointments?
|
I wonder if HR is getting FMLA and STD (short term disability) confused? For my company, you are not eligible for the company provided STD coverage until 7 days after the leave begins (ex. birth of a child), but as far as I understood, FMLA starts immediately.
| 0 | 11,000 | 3.02381 |
y1bnpm
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irx6f8y
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irwoowx
| 1,665,512,865 | 1,665,506,023 | 127 | 31 |
I wonder if HR is getting FMLA and STD (short term disability) confused? For my company, you are not eligible for the company provided STD coverage until 7 days after the leave begins (ex. birth of a child), but as far as I understood, FMLA starts immediately.
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What state are you in?
| 1 | 6,842 | 4.096774 |
y1bnpm
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irx6f8y
|
irwg9w2
| 1,665,512,865 | 1,665,502,666 | 127 | 26 |
I wonder if HR is getting FMLA and STD (short term disability) confused? For my company, you are not eligible for the company provided STD coverage until 7 days after the leave begins (ex. birth of a child), but as far as I understood, FMLA starts immediately.
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How old is your daughter?
| 1 | 10,199 | 4.884615 |
y1bnpm
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irweb0p
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irx27fx
| 1,665,501,865 | 1,665,511,227 | 42 | 68 |
Can you bump the total request up to 7 days by including post-op and other appointments?
|
Is your d key broken? I am a lawyer, not your lawyer and not licensed in TX. That said, take a look at https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/28-fmla and what /u/Auracounts gave you. Read through them. Then compare your employee handbook (assuming you are not union) with the employer's policy in it to the DOL handouts. Hopefully you notified your employer in writing with your previous leave requests. Inform them that FMLA is protected, and that there is no "7 day requirement" in the law that you can see. Reiterate your request for intermittent leave in writing. Request all necessary forms and fill them out. If it is denied, seek help from a lawyer. You may find your local/state bar association has programs set up for free or low cost assistance.
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y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irx27fx
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irwoowx
| 1,665,511,227 | 1,665,506,023 | 68 | 31 |
Is your d key broken? I am a lawyer, not your lawyer and not licensed in TX. That said, take a look at https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/28-fmla and what /u/Auracounts gave you. Read through them. Then compare your employee handbook (assuming you are not union) with the employer's policy in it to the DOL handouts. Hopefully you notified your employer in writing with your previous leave requests. Inform them that FMLA is protected, and that there is no "7 day requirement" in the law that you can see. Reiterate your request for intermittent leave in writing. Request all necessary forms and fill them out. If it is denied, seek help from a lawyer. You may find your local/state bar association has programs set up for free or low cost assistance.
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What state are you in?
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y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irwg9w2
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irx27fx
| 1,665,502,666 | 1,665,511,227 | 26 | 68 |
How old is your daughter?
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Is your d key broken? I am a lawyer, not your lawyer and not licensed in TX. That said, take a look at https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/28-fmla and what /u/Auracounts gave you. Read through them. Then compare your employee handbook (assuming you are not union) with the employer's policy in it to the DOL handouts. Hopefully you notified your employer in writing with your previous leave requests. Inform them that FMLA is protected, and that there is no "7 day requirement" in the law that you can see. Reiterate your request for intermittent leave in writing. Request all necessary forms and fill them out. If it is denied, seek help from a lawyer. You may find your local/state bar association has programs set up for free or low cost assistance.
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y1bnpm
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legaladvice_train
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My daughter has surgery an will go under anesthesia . An I need to miss like 3 days max to take care of her an take her for her surgery. My jobs denying FMLA leave My job denied me FMLA leave to take care of my daughter because it needs to be longer than 7 days. They've known about her surgery for 3 months now. I had to use my PTO for pre op appointments and her other appointments. They won't let me have unpaid time off or anything an if I can't get leave their threatening to terminate me .. What do I even do? I can't afford to miss work or anything , it's either miss a major surgery or lose my job.
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irwoowx
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irwg9w2
| 1,665,506,023 | 1,665,502,666 | 31 | 26 |
What state are you in?
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How old is your daughter?
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t0eeaa
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Mom's BF left her on floor unresponsive for 4 days before getting medical help. She has been fighting for her life for the last month. He occupies her home in Mexico and I need to sell the property... What steps to take? *This story sounds like a Dateline episode. It's not. It has been my life for the last 30 days.* I am 30 year old, only child. Living in Las Vegas, NV. My mom (64y) and her boyfriend (67y) of 25+ years moved to Ajijic, Lake Chapala, Mexico (outside Guadalajara) in 01/2020. My mom purchased a house in Lake Chapala in August 2021. She paid cash. I found out Jan. 23 from a Facebook post he made on her account that she was in a coma in a Mexican hospital. He did not call me or any of our family to let us know. I rushed to Guadalajara, Mexico after finally hunting down which hospital she was at. She was on life support. Unresponsive. The doctors confirmed that she was on the ground and left unresponsive for 4 days. She was soiled and dirty. He waited until she wasn't breathing at all to get an ambulance. *No matter how you spin this - that is attempted murder.* **(This is an entirely different layer that we are trying to address - but NOT what I need help with in this post!)** I had her medevaced out of Mexico and into the US the moment the doctors said she was stable enough to transport. She went into cardiac arrest twice on the flight and we were forced to land in AZ where we are still because of medicaid issues. She has by some miracle survived and is no longer in ICU, no longer on the ventilator, no longer on a feeding tube, and gaining strength every day. The moment she had the mental capacity to understand the situation I was made Power of Attorney. I have control of finances and medical decisions as of yesterday. Now that we are focused on her **LONG** road of recovery, I need to start focusing on the financial aspects and figuring out how to set my mom up with essentially a new life close to me in Las Vegas. He was able to drain her Charles Schwab & Wells Fargo account before I was able to freeze during the most traumatic moments of my life. I have a written statement from our long-time family friend that quotes him saying *"No one will find me here, no one knows this address and Mexico doesnt care. I can live here in peace."* He still has my mom's iPhone which I have been tracking. He is still at the house in Lake Chapala, Mexico almost every single time I look up the location. The car and the house are entirely in my mom's name. I was able to retrieve the deed to the house when I had to get her passport to transport her back to US. He is in Mexico illegally as he did not obtain his visa. My mom did obtain a visa. Mexico did not seem to care about this information when they were informed. **My question is - Where do I start? I need to get him evicted out of the house in Mexico, so I can list it for sale as my mom is dire need of the funds.** My friends and (very small) family have given alot of suggestions but I am not comfortable or confident with any of them. Having 6 large men show up to physically take him out of the house - isn't my idea of a good idea. We have reached out to the Guadalajara Consulate reporting the situation. It felt like they could not careless. The process to take action in Mexico is obviously different than the US. Should I hire an attorney? A Mexican or American Attorney? What kind of law? **Any help, comments, question, guidance, is welcomed. I am mentally exhausted and have no idea how to handle this.**
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hy9kh7n
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hyacsbh
| 1,645,723,572 | 1,645,734,189 | 352 | 576 |
Hire an attorney in Mexico as I doubt any US attorney is going to be either versed enough in Mexican law to be of any use, nor licensed to practice in Mexico and those that are probably specialize in immigration law. You need a family/estate attorney. Keep in mind that based on his living there he may have legal right to stay, at least for a time, just as he would as a tenant in the US. You need an attorney to tell you what, legally, you can do to get him out and the house sold. Also, keep in mind that the POA and other things of that nature (DNR, HCPOA, living wills) may not be recognized in Mexico as they would in the US.
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Lake Chapala has a huge population of snowbird seniors from the US and Canada. You should be able to find a Mexican lawyer in that area that is well versed in real estate for foreigners, home occupancy and the right (or lack thereof) of anyone to stay for lengthy terms as a visitor in Mexico.
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t0eeaa
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Mom's BF left her on floor unresponsive for 4 days before getting medical help. She has been fighting for her life for the last month. He occupies her home in Mexico and I need to sell the property... What steps to take? *This story sounds like a Dateline episode. It's not. It has been my life for the last 30 days.* I am 30 year old, only child. Living in Las Vegas, NV. My mom (64y) and her boyfriend (67y) of 25+ years moved to Ajijic, Lake Chapala, Mexico (outside Guadalajara) in 01/2020. My mom purchased a house in Lake Chapala in August 2021. She paid cash. I found out Jan. 23 from a Facebook post he made on her account that she was in a coma in a Mexican hospital. He did not call me or any of our family to let us know. I rushed to Guadalajara, Mexico after finally hunting down which hospital she was at. She was on life support. Unresponsive. The doctors confirmed that she was on the ground and left unresponsive for 4 days. She was soiled and dirty. He waited until she wasn't breathing at all to get an ambulance. *No matter how you spin this - that is attempted murder.* **(This is an entirely different layer that we are trying to address - but NOT what I need help with in this post!)** I had her medevaced out of Mexico and into the US the moment the doctors said she was stable enough to transport. She went into cardiac arrest twice on the flight and we were forced to land in AZ where we are still because of medicaid issues. She has by some miracle survived and is no longer in ICU, no longer on the ventilator, no longer on a feeding tube, and gaining strength every day. The moment she had the mental capacity to understand the situation I was made Power of Attorney. I have control of finances and medical decisions as of yesterday. Now that we are focused on her **LONG** road of recovery, I need to start focusing on the financial aspects and figuring out how to set my mom up with essentially a new life close to me in Las Vegas. He was able to drain her Charles Schwab & Wells Fargo account before I was able to freeze during the most traumatic moments of my life. I have a written statement from our long-time family friend that quotes him saying *"No one will find me here, no one knows this address and Mexico doesnt care. I can live here in peace."* He still has my mom's iPhone which I have been tracking. He is still at the house in Lake Chapala, Mexico almost every single time I look up the location. The car and the house are entirely in my mom's name. I was able to retrieve the deed to the house when I had to get her passport to transport her back to US. He is in Mexico illegally as he did not obtain his visa. My mom did obtain a visa. Mexico did not seem to care about this information when they were informed. **My question is - Where do I start? I need to get him evicted out of the house in Mexico, so I can list it for sale as my mom is dire need of the funds.** My friends and (very small) family have given alot of suggestions but I am not comfortable or confident with any of them. Having 6 large men show up to physically take him out of the house - isn't my idea of a good idea. We have reached out to the Guadalajara Consulate reporting the situation. It felt like they could not careless. The process to take action in Mexico is obviously different than the US. Should I hire an attorney? A Mexican or American Attorney? What kind of law? **Any help, comments, question, guidance, is welcomed. I am mentally exhausted and have no idea how to handle this.**
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hy9l89c
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hyacsbh
| 1,645,723,850 | 1,645,734,189 | 54 | 576 |
Try here: https://www.reddit.com/r/DerechoMexicano/
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Lake Chapala has a huge population of snowbird seniors from the US and Canada. You should be able to find a Mexican lawyer in that area that is well versed in real estate for foreigners, home occupancy and the right (or lack thereof) of anyone to stay for lengthy terms as a visitor in Mexico.
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t0eeaa
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Mom's BF left her on floor unresponsive for 4 days before getting medical help. She has been fighting for her life for the last month. He occupies her home in Mexico and I need to sell the property... What steps to take? *This story sounds like a Dateline episode. It's not. It has been my life for the last 30 days.* I am 30 year old, only child. Living in Las Vegas, NV. My mom (64y) and her boyfriend (67y) of 25+ years moved to Ajijic, Lake Chapala, Mexico (outside Guadalajara) in 01/2020. My mom purchased a house in Lake Chapala in August 2021. She paid cash. I found out Jan. 23 from a Facebook post he made on her account that she was in a coma in a Mexican hospital. He did not call me or any of our family to let us know. I rushed to Guadalajara, Mexico after finally hunting down which hospital she was at. She was on life support. Unresponsive. The doctors confirmed that she was on the ground and left unresponsive for 4 days. She was soiled and dirty. He waited until she wasn't breathing at all to get an ambulance. *No matter how you spin this - that is attempted murder.* **(This is an entirely different layer that we are trying to address - but NOT what I need help with in this post!)** I had her medevaced out of Mexico and into the US the moment the doctors said she was stable enough to transport. She went into cardiac arrest twice on the flight and we were forced to land in AZ where we are still because of medicaid issues. She has by some miracle survived and is no longer in ICU, no longer on the ventilator, no longer on a feeding tube, and gaining strength every day. The moment she had the mental capacity to understand the situation I was made Power of Attorney. I have control of finances and medical decisions as of yesterday. Now that we are focused on her **LONG** road of recovery, I need to start focusing on the financial aspects and figuring out how to set my mom up with essentially a new life close to me in Las Vegas. He was able to drain her Charles Schwab & Wells Fargo account before I was able to freeze during the most traumatic moments of my life. I have a written statement from our long-time family friend that quotes him saying *"No one will find me here, no one knows this address and Mexico doesnt care. I can live here in peace."* He still has my mom's iPhone which I have been tracking. He is still at the house in Lake Chapala, Mexico almost every single time I look up the location. The car and the house are entirely in my mom's name. I was able to retrieve the deed to the house when I had to get her passport to transport her back to US. He is in Mexico illegally as he did not obtain his visa. My mom did obtain a visa. Mexico did not seem to care about this information when they were informed. **My question is - Where do I start? I need to get him evicted out of the house in Mexico, so I can list it for sale as my mom is dire need of the funds.** My friends and (very small) family have given alot of suggestions but I am not comfortable or confident with any of them. Having 6 large men show up to physically take him out of the house - isn't my idea of a good idea. We have reached out to the Guadalajara Consulate reporting the situation. It felt like they could not careless. The process to take action in Mexico is obviously different than the US. Should I hire an attorney? A Mexican or American Attorney? What kind of law? **Any help, comments, question, guidance, is welcomed. I am mentally exhausted and have no idea how to handle this.**
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hybcubj
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hy9l89c
| 1,645,748,227 | 1,645,723,850 | 185 | 54 |
I would reach out to the local FBI office regarding the theft of funds from Schwab/WF.
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Try here: https://www.reddit.com/r/DerechoMexicano/
| 1 | 24,377 | 3.425926 |
t0eeaa
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Mom's BF left her on floor unresponsive for 4 days before getting medical help. She has been fighting for her life for the last month. He occupies her home in Mexico and I need to sell the property... What steps to take? *This story sounds like a Dateline episode. It's not. It has been my life for the last 30 days.* I am 30 year old, only child. Living in Las Vegas, NV. My mom (64y) and her boyfriend (67y) of 25+ years moved to Ajijic, Lake Chapala, Mexico (outside Guadalajara) in 01/2020. My mom purchased a house in Lake Chapala in August 2021. She paid cash. I found out Jan. 23 from a Facebook post he made on her account that she was in a coma in a Mexican hospital. He did not call me or any of our family to let us know. I rushed to Guadalajara, Mexico after finally hunting down which hospital she was at. She was on life support. Unresponsive. The doctors confirmed that she was on the ground and left unresponsive for 4 days. She was soiled and dirty. He waited until she wasn't breathing at all to get an ambulance. *No matter how you spin this - that is attempted murder.* **(This is an entirely different layer that we are trying to address - but NOT what I need help with in this post!)** I had her medevaced out of Mexico and into the US the moment the doctors said she was stable enough to transport. She went into cardiac arrest twice on the flight and we were forced to land in AZ where we are still because of medicaid issues. She has by some miracle survived and is no longer in ICU, no longer on the ventilator, no longer on a feeding tube, and gaining strength every day. The moment she had the mental capacity to understand the situation I was made Power of Attorney. I have control of finances and medical decisions as of yesterday. Now that we are focused on her **LONG** road of recovery, I need to start focusing on the financial aspects and figuring out how to set my mom up with essentially a new life close to me in Las Vegas. He was able to drain her Charles Schwab & Wells Fargo account before I was able to freeze during the most traumatic moments of my life. I have a written statement from our long-time family friend that quotes him saying *"No one will find me here, no one knows this address and Mexico doesnt care. I can live here in peace."* He still has my mom's iPhone which I have been tracking. He is still at the house in Lake Chapala, Mexico almost every single time I look up the location. The car and the house are entirely in my mom's name. I was able to retrieve the deed to the house when I had to get her passport to transport her back to US. He is in Mexico illegally as he did not obtain his visa. My mom did obtain a visa. Mexico did not seem to care about this information when they were informed. **My question is - Where do I start? I need to get him evicted out of the house in Mexico, so I can list it for sale as my mom is dire need of the funds.** My friends and (very small) family have given alot of suggestions but I am not comfortable or confident with any of them. Having 6 large men show up to physically take him out of the house - isn't my idea of a good idea. We have reached out to the Guadalajara Consulate reporting the situation. It felt like they could not careless. The process to take action in Mexico is obviously different than the US. Should I hire an attorney? A Mexican or American Attorney? What kind of law? **Any help, comments, question, guidance, is welcomed. I am mentally exhausted and have no idea how to handle this.**
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hybdzoo
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hy9l89c
| 1,645,748,716 | 1,645,723,850 | 149 | 54 |
Lake Chapala has a very active facebook community group where English is the primary language. I've found the group to be very helpful with all types of advice....including attorneys in Mexico. https://www.facebook.com/groups/112561076007959 Source: I've been researching Lake Chapala and Aijiic as possible retirement options for 3 years now.
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Try here: https://www.reddit.com/r/DerechoMexicano/
| 1 | 24,866 | 2.759259 |
t0eeaa
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Mom's BF left her on floor unresponsive for 4 days before getting medical help. She has been fighting for her life for the last month. He occupies her home in Mexico and I need to sell the property... What steps to take? *This story sounds like a Dateline episode. It's not. It has been my life for the last 30 days.* I am 30 year old, only child. Living in Las Vegas, NV. My mom (64y) and her boyfriend (67y) of 25+ years moved to Ajijic, Lake Chapala, Mexico (outside Guadalajara) in 01/2020. My mom purchased a house in Lake Chapala in August 2021. She paid cash. I found out Jan. 23 from a Facebook post he made on her account that she was in a coma in a Mexican hospital. He did not call me or any of our family to let us know. I rushed to Guadalajara, Mexico after finally hunting down which hospital she was at. She was on life support. Unresponsive. The doctors confirmed that she was on the ground and left unresponsive for 4 days. She was soiled and dirty. He waited until she wasn't breathing at all to get an ambulance. *No matter how you spin this - that is attempted murder.* **(This is an entirely different layer that we are trying to address - but NOT what I need help with in this post!)** I had her medevaced out of Mexico and into the US the moment the doctors said she was stable enough to transport. She went into cardiac arrest twice on the flight and we were forced to land in AZ where we are still because of medicaid issues. She has by some miracle survived and is no longer in ICU, no longer on the ventilator, no longer on a feeding tube, and gaining strength every day. The moment she had the mental capacity to understand the situation I was made Power of Attorney. I have control of finances and medical decisions as of yesterday. Now that we are focused on her **LONG** road of recovery, I need to start focusing on the financial aspects and figuring out how to set my mom up with essentially a new life close to me in Las Vegas. He was able to drain her Charles Schwab & Wells Fargo account before I was able to freeze during the most traumatic moments of my life. I have a written statement from our long-time family friend that quotes him saying *"No one will find me here, no one knows this address and Mexico doesnt care. I can live here in peace."* He still has my mom's iPhone which I have been tracking. He is still at the house in Lake Chapala, Mexico almost every single time I look up the location. The car and the house are entirely in my mom's name. I was able to retrieve the deed to the house when I had to get her passport to transport her back to US. He is in Mexico illegally as he did not obtain his visa. My mom did obtain a visa. Mexico did not seem to care about this information when they were informed. **My question is - Where do I start? I need to get him evicted out of the house in Mexico, so I can list it for sale as my mom is dire need of the funds.** My friends and (very small) family have given alot of suggestions but I am not comfortable or confident with any of them. Having 6 large men show up to physically take him out of the house - isn't my idea of a good idea. We have reached out to the Guadalajara Consulate reporting the situation. It felt like they could not careless. The process to take action in Mexico is obviously different than the US. Should I hire an attorney? A Mexican or American Attorney? What kind of law? **Any help, comments, question, guidance, is welcomed. I am mentally exhausted and have no idea how to handle this.**
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hybsdf9
| 1,645,723,850 | 1,645,755,082 | 54 | 74 |
Try here: https://www.reddit.com/r/DerechoMexicano/
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Legal eviction in Mexico is much harder to do than people realize, the process usually takes 2+ years and a Lawyer may see you as an American and drain your funds while getting little results. Cash for keys with a lawyer will be your fastest solution. Properly processed cash for keys with the courthouse will ensure he is promptly removed if he returns afterward.
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t0eeaa
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Mom's BF left her on floor unresponsive for 4 days before getting medical help. She has been fighting for her life for the last month. He occupies her home in Mexico and I need to sell the property... What steps to take? *This story sounds like a Dateline episode. It's not. It has been my life for the last 30 days.* I am 30 year old, only child. Living in Las Vegas, NV. My mom (64y) and her boyfriend (67y) of 25+ years moved to Ajijic, Lake Chapala, Mexico (outside Guadalajara) in 01/2020. My mom purchased a house in Lake Chapala in August 2021. She paid cash. I found out Jan. 23 from a Facebook post he made on her account that she was in a coma in a Mexican hospital. He did not call me or any of our family to let us know. I rushed to Guadalajara, Mexico after finally hunting down which hospital she was at. She was on life support. Unresponsive. The doctors confirmed that she was on the ground and left unresponsive for 4 days. She was soiled and dirty. He waited until she wasn't breathing at all to get an ambulance. *No matter how you spin this - that is attempted murder.* **(This is an entirely different layer that we are trying to address - but NOT what I need help with in this post!)** I had her medevaced out of Mexico and into the US the moment the doctors said she was stable enough to transport. She went into cardiac arrest twice on the flight and we were forced to land in AZ where we are still because of medicaid issues. She has by some miracle survived and is no longer in ICU, no longer on the ventilator, no longer on a feeding tube, and gaining strength every day. The moment she had the mental capacity to understand the situation I was made Power of Attorney. I have control of finances and medical decisions as of yesterday. Now that we are focused on her **LONG** road of recovery, I need to start focusing on the financial aspects and figuring out how to set my mom up with essentially a new life close to me in Las Vegas. He was able to drain her Charles Schwab & Wells Fargo account before I was able to freeze during the most traumatic moments of my life. I have a written statement from our long-time family friend that quotes him saying *"No one will find me here, no one knows this address and Mexico doesnt care. I can live here in peace."* He still has my mom's iPhone which I have been tracking. He is still at the house in Lake Chapala, Mexico almost every single time I look up the location. The car and the house are entirely in my mom's name. I was able to retrieve the deed to the house when I had to get her passport to transport her back to US. He is in Mexico illegally as he did not obtain his visa. My mom did obtain a visa. Mexico did not seem to care about this information when they were informed. **My question is - Where do I start? I need to get him evicted out of the house in Mexico, so I can list it for sale as my mom is dire need of the funds.** My friends and (very small) family have given alot of suggestions but I am not comfortable or confident with any of them. Having 6 large men show up to physically take him out of the house - isn't my idea of a good idea. We have reached out to the Guadalajara Consulate reporting the situation. It felt like they could not careless. The process to take action in Mexico is obviously different than the US. Should I hire an attorney? A Mexican or American Attorney? What kind of law? **Any help, comments, question, guidance, is welcomed. I am mentally exhausted and have no idea how to handle this.**
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hycwxfa
| 1,645,761,646 | 1,645,778,192 | 19 | 51 |
ok. First you have to pursuit this in civil court. If you have the title you can evict him by what we call "juicio de accion reinvindicatoria" this basically mens that you are the true owner and that you want the judicial help in getting whoever posses the property out. For this type of suit you will need to demonstrate 3 things. a) that you are the true owner of the property usually by showing the property's title (titulo de propiedad). b) that who you are suing is in possesion of such property. and c) the individualization of the property. For criminal action, you must first make a report (denuncia) give em all the facts you have. then they will start to bring in witnesses to give their verbal accounts, they could ratify the written statments you have , and once the prosecutors feel the case is solid they will take it up to the judge and ask for an arrest warrant if applicable or a trial date for the arraignment. I think you are better of starting with the civil suit.
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I think you will need to go down in person to file a denuncio with the local police where your mother's house is. Bring a translator or lawyer to help you if you're not fluent (ACTUALLY FLUENT) in Spanish. You can't leave someone to die in the house for several days without seeking medical attention for them, then drain their accounts just because you are in Mexico. This will be arduous, but in my perspective you need to file a police report to establish the facts about what happened. They may want affidavits from the hospital as well. I'm sure you are furious about what happened, and you absolutely should be. Do not speak with this person directly until you have been advised by your lawyer or the police as to the best course of action. If you are lucky, the clown will stay in your mother's house, and will not spend all the money immediately.
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t0eeaa
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legaladvice_train
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Mom's BF left her on floor unresponsive for 4 days before getting medical help. She has been fighting for her life for the last month. He occupies her home in Mexico and I need to sell the property... What steps to take? *This story sounds like a Dateline episode. It's not. It has been my life for the last 30 days.* I am 30 year old, only child. Living in Las Vegas, NV. My mom (64y) and her boyfriend (67y) of 25+ years moved to Ajijic, Lake Chapala, Mexico (outside Guadalajara) in 01/2020. My mom purchased a house in Lake Chapala in August 2021. She paid cash. I found out Jan. 23 from a Facebook post he made on her account that she was in a coma in a Mexican hospital. He did not call me or any of our family to let us know. I rushed to Guadalajara, Mexico after finally hunting down which hospital she was at. She was on life support. Unresponsive. The doctors confirmed that she was on the ground and left unresponsive for 4 days. She was soiled and dirty. He waited until she wasn't breathing at all to get an ambulance. *No matter how you spin this - that is attempted murder.* **(This is an entirely different layer that we are trying to address - but NOT what I need help with in this post!)** I had her medevaced out of Mexico and into the US the moment the doctors said she was stable enough to transport. She went into cardiac arrest twice on the flight and we were forced to land in AZ where we are still because of medicaid issues. She has by some miracle survived and is no longer in ICU, no longer on the ventilator, no longer on a feeding tube, and gaining strength every day. The moment she had the mental capacity to understand the situation I was made Power of Attorney. I have control of finances and medical decisions as of yesterday. Now that we are focused on her **LONG** road of recovery, I need to start focusing on the financial aspects and figuring out how to set my mom up with essentially a new life close to me in Las Vegas. He was able to drain her Charles Schwab & Wells Fargo account before I was able to freeze during the most traumatic moments of my life. I have a written statement from our long-time family friend that quotes him saying *"No one will find me here, no one knows this address and Mexico doesnt care. I can live here in peace."* He still has my mom's iPhone which I have been tracking. He is still at the house in Lake Chapala, Mexico almost every single time I look up the location. The car and the house are entirely in my mom's name. I was able to retrieve the deed to the house when I had to get her passport to transport her back to US. He is in Mexico illegally as he did not obtain his visa. My mom did obtain a visa. Mexico did not seem to care about this information when they were informed. **My question is - Where do I start? I need to get him evicted out of the house in Mexico, so I can list it for sale as my mom is dire need of the funds.** My friends and (very small) family have given alot of suggestions but I am not comfortable or confident with any of them. Having 6 large men show up to physically take him out of the house - isn't my idea of a good idea. We have reached out to the Guadalajara Consulate reporting the situation. It felt like they could not careless. The process to take action in Mexico is obviously different than the US. Should I hire an attorney? A Mexican or American Attorney? What kind of law? **Any help, comments, question, guidance, is welcomed. I am mentally exhausted and have no idea how to handle this.**
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hycq029
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hycwxfa
| 1,645,773,018 | 1,645,778,192 | 16 | 51 |
Are they considered as having a common law marriage in Mexico? You write that they have been there since 1/2020, and that you found the FB post on 1/23/2022... If they were there for that entire two years, the guy may have some rights. You'll need to have a deep talk with your mom to find out exactly how their living arrangement was, and how it was portrayed to others, such as friends and acquaintances in the community. I would get that friend to write out the statement with witnesses, such that it could get notarized and apostilled so it would be legal. Likewise with your power of attorney statement. Get your Mexican lawyer quick, so you know what you have to bring with you to Mexico, and in what legal formats
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I think you will need to go down in person to file a denuncio with the local police where your mother's house is. Bring a translator or lawyer to help you if you're not fluent (ACTUALLY FLUENT) in Spanish. You can't leave someone to die in the house for several days without seeking medical attention for them, then drain their accounts just because you are in Mexico. This will be arduous, but in my perspective you need to file a police report to establish the facts about what happened. They may want affidavits from the hospital as well. I'm sure you are furious about what happened, and you absolutely should be. Do not speak with this person directly until you have been advised by your lawyer or the police as to the best course of action. If you are lucky, the clown will stay in your mother's house, and will not spend all the money immediately.
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vwu00i
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Apartment management will not fix our internet and has been giving us the run around for over a year (Texas) For the past year we’ve been experiencing internet outages that range from a few minutes to multiple days. We’ve had out internet provider come out 3-4 times and we’re told each time that the home run line to our until needs to be replaced, and it is the managements responsibility to do so. Management is giving us the run around and keeps telling us to just call our provider and nothing is getting fixed. My husband and I work from home full time and have had to upgrade our cell phone plan to include hot spots so we can work. Also, $105 is allocated for cable and internet in our rent each month. Since this isn’t a health or safety issue, I’m not sure if there is anything we can actually DO legally. If it comes to it, we’ll have to break our lease and move. I’m just curious if there is any legal action we can potentially take! TIA and I’m happy to explain further if needed
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ifs6mb3
| 1,657,617,282 | 1,657,578,710 | 5 | 2 |
Standard procedure is to check lease. If you are paying for internet and not getting service, send a demand letter. Escalate to regional manager. Then file a suit in small claims court for the cost you have paid and not received service for.
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What happened when you called the provider for tech support? Is the apartment t manager not paying the bill?
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vwu00i
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Apartment management will not fix our internet and has been giving us the run around for over a year (Texas) For the past year we’ve been experiencing internet outages that range from a few minutes to multiple days. We’ve had out internet provider come out 3-4 times and we’re told each time that the home run line to our until needs to be replaced, and it is the managements responsibility to do so. Management is giving us the run around and keeps telling us to just call our provider and nothing is getting fixed. My husband and I work from home full time and have had to upgrade our cell phone plan to include hot spots so we can work. Also, $105 is allocated for cable and internet in our rent each month. Since this isn’t a health or safety issue, I’m not sure if there is anything we can actually DO legally. If it comes to it, we’ll have to break our lease and move. I’m just curious if there is any legal action we can potentially take! TIA and I’m happy to explain further if needed
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ifu3pex
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iftnr38
| 1,657,617,282 | 1,657,604,534 | 5 | 2 |
Standard procedure is to check lease. If you are paying for internet and not getting service, send a demand letter. Escalate to regional manager. Then file a suit in small claims court for the cost you have paid and not received service for.
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You'll need to go back to your contract and see what specifically was guaranteed to you as either a covenant or contract provision.
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vwu00i
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legaladvice_train
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Apartment management will not fix our internet and has been giving us the run around for over a year (Texas) For the past year we’ve been experiencing internet outages that range from a few minutes to multiple days. We’ve had out internet provider come out 3-4 times and we’re told each time that the home run line to our until needs to be replaced, and it is the managements responsibility to do so. Management is giving us the run around and keeps telling us to just call our provider and nothing is getting fixed. My husband and I work from home full time and have had to upgrade our cell phone plan to include hot spots so we can work. Also, $105 is allocated for cable and internet in our rent each month. Since this isn’t a health or safety issue, I’m not sure if there is anything we can actually DO legally. If it comes to it, we’ll have to break our lease and move. I’m just curious if there is any legal action we can potentially take! TIA and I’m happy to explain further if needed
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ifs6mb3
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ifvqk5p
| 1,657,578,710 | 1,657,646,606 | 2 | 3 |
What happened when you called the provider for tech support? Is the apartment t manager not paying the bill?
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Not a lawyer- Have the provider company send you and email or some form of writing that you can provide to your landlord that they NEED permission from the management to do the work, and that MANAGEMENT needs to contact them to give permission. You need the wifi for work, and your landlord isn't providing the service you're paying for from them.
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vwu00i
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legaladvice_train
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Apartment management will not fix our internet and has been giving us the run around for over a year (Texas) For the past year we’ve been experiencing internet outages that range from a few minutes to multiple days. We’ve had out internet provider come out 3-4 times and we’re told each time that the home run line to our until needs to be replaced, and it is the managements responsibility to do so. Management is giving us the run around and keeps telling us to just call our provider and nothing is getting fixed. My husband and I work from home full time and have had to upgrade our cell phone plan to include hot spots so we can work. Also, $105 is allocated for cable and internet in our rent each month. Since this isn’t a health or safety issue, I’m not sure if there is anything we can actually DO legally. If it comes to it, we’ll have to break our lease and move. I’m just curious if there is any legal action we can potentially take! TIA and I’m happy to explain further if needed
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iftnr38
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ifvqk5p
| 1,657,604,534 | 1,657,646,606 | 2 | 3 |
You'll need to go back to your contract and see what specifically was guaranteed to you as either a covenant or contract provision.
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Not a lawyer- Have the provider company send you and email or some form of writing that you can provide to your landlord that they NEED permission from the management to do the work, and that MANAGEMENT needs to contact them to give permission. You need the wifi for work, and your landlord isn't providing the service you're paying for from them.
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[ILLINOIS] Our wedding photographer is giving us the runaround. My husband and I were married in early June and I waited until late July / early August to send an email to our wedding photographer for an update on the editing process. She never responded after I sent 3 emails and I decided to text her. Here's a small timeline of the events: Aug 9th - The photographer responded by text that the reason why the photos are taking so long was the our photo album is backordered and she wanted to wait until it was ready. She never informed us of this before so I asked her to please send a flash drive right away because we weren't interested in waiting so long just for the album. Aug. 30th - After not receiving anything in the mail, I messaged her again just to make sure she had to correct address. She informed me she had my address from the check I sent her for my deposit. The address was my parents and not my own so I informed her of that and sent my real address. She also said that she was waiting for custom flash drives to come in but never let me know that on Aug. 9th. I told her I would like tracking info for the shipment since we have been waiting a while. Sept. 6th - A check in sent to her with no response. Sept. 7th - Her response to another message sent was that she "sent it last night" without tracking info due to UPS being closed. She said it would be there within a week. Sept. 15th - No package received. I have asked her to send me digital copies by today and send a new package with tracking information. What can we legally do to get our photos? Our contract does not have a timeline and it would be no issue to me if she was honest but she said the photos were done being edited and I have no idea why we do not have possession of them. Also, she recently moved out of state and I do not have a current address for her. TDLR: We were married in early June. The wedding photographer has given every excuse in the book to not send us our photos. She said she sent them last week without tracking info so we have no idea where they are.
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d7pbpho
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d7p5ryp
| 1,474,039,549 | 1,474,031,151 | 29 | 10 |
Send her certified mail. Did you pay a deposit? Was it on a credit card? Open up a dispute with your credit card. Google her and check hr reviews-are their other people unhappy with her? Prepare yourself for the possibility that she lost all your pictures :(
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I am not a lawyer Is this a studio or an independent? Is this a business for them or just a hobby? If she's not responding and not providing you with the images, then you can take her to small claims court. In IL the limit is up to $10K.
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xewpli
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Wedding photographer hasn’t given us our pictures. I’m hoping someone here can give me some advice on how to approach this. I’ll try to give all of the important details. I got married on 5/14/22 and per the contract with our photographer, we should have had our pictures on 6/10/22. Long story short, we still do not have them as of 9/15/22. I’ve communicated with her frequently since then and it’s been excuse after excuse. She has offered a refund but has not provided it. We finally received an SD card from her over a month after the expected date and it was completely blocked, none of the files would open. She mailed another card and after about a month it never came, she stated it was returned to her. Now, she refuses to meet in person to give me the card. When I pressed her about meeting, she said that card is locked too. There are no other copies of our photos anywhere. Do I get a lawyer? Will that even help? Someone tell me what to do!!!
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ioj6dlr
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ioj0m70
| 1,663,250,878 | 1,663,248,411 | 28 | 22 |
Unfortunately this is a contracts case and you’re only owed the money back. I know weddings are irreplaceable, and photos are priceless but the facts are you paid for a service that you didn’t get. It’s similar to if you ordered something online and never received it. You get your money back. If she refuses the refund, you can sue in small claims no lawyer needed.
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I can give you a technical advice, use any free recovery software to see if there is any recoverable data on the flash drive. The photographer may have messed up and lost your images but there are things you can still do in terms of getting the images.
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vns5ia
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legaladvice_train
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[WV] Sold a car to a guy who lives in WV, I'm from CA. Car was shipped to him. Now he wants to haggle on the price. Can I enforce a sale because of my contract? Hi! I sold a 1985 Chevy Van, it's a collectible, to a gentleman in WV. The deal was, and this is in the contract we signed, as-is. $2,500 down, with $7,500 on delivery. Van was shipped, he paid for it, and it got to him this morning. He signed for it with the flatbed driver and paid him. Now he wants to give me $6K because "the lights don't work"- which is totally untrue but that's irrelevant. Now he says that he'll give me $6K or I can take the van back but I have to pay for it to be shipped and he wants it off his property by tonight. Any advice on how it would be possible to enforce the sale? Or what to do in general?
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ie9gtsm
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ie8z1vh
| 1,656,552,026 | 1,656,543,851 | 74 | 51 |
Unless you are happy to take 6k take the van back and don’t give him his 2.5k. Tell him that there was no agreement that you would pay to ship it back, he is responsible. If you take the 6k, I don’t think you are likely to get the difference back in a lawsuit and not worth your time
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Let's clarify: * You and the buyer signed a sale and transportation contract. * The buyer paid you $2500 * The buyer paid for the cross-country transportation. * The buyer now wants to negotiate the on-delivery payment, which has not been put in escrow or handled by the shipper. * You are reasonably certain that the shipper and the buyer are not colluding and that you are communicating with the buyer. What is the status of the certificate of title: have you signed the release section and mailed or delivered it to the buyer yet ? You could sue him in West Virginia for the remainder of the purchase price. But if you want to get the vehicle back, you will surely have to arrange to have it hauled again. If the WV court doesn't allow remote/Zoom attendance, then that makes this litigation impractical. And that's before considering the difficulty of wage garnishment or other collection in WV. It's unsatisfying, but if you can get the money into an escrow account or a reliable hard-to-cancel money transfer method, you should probably accept the counter offer.
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vns5ia
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legaladvice_train
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[WV] Sold a car to a guy who lives in WV, I'm from CA. Car was shipped to him. Now he wants to haggle on the price. Can I enforce a sale because of my contract? Hi! I sold a 1985 Chevy Van, it's a collectible, to a gentleman in WV. The deal was, and this is in the contract we signed, as-is. $2,500 down, with $7,500 on delivery. Van was shipped, he paid for it, and it got to him this morning. He signed for it with the flatbed driver and paid him. Now he wants to give me $6K because "the lights don't work"- which is totally untrue but that's irrelevant. Now he says that he'll give me $6K or I can take the van back but I have to pay for it to be shipped and he wants it off his property by tonight. Any advice on how it would be possible to enforce the sale? Or what to do in general?
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iea7dmi
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ie9vc8q
| 1,656,566,158 | 1,656,559,130 | 50 | 3 |
Next time make sure the money is in an escrow account before sending.
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I would talk with a lawyer first before proceeding
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vns5ia
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legaladvice_train
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[WV] Sold a car to a guy who lives in WV, I'm from CA. Car was shipped to him. Now he wants to haggle on the price. Can I enforce a sale because of my contract? Hi! I sold a 1985 Chevy Van, it's a collectible, to a gentleman in WV. The deal was, and this is in the contract we signed, as-is. $2,500 down, with $7,500 on delivery. Van was shipped, he paid for it, and it got to him this morning. He signed for it with the flatbed driver and paid him. Now he wants to give me $6K because "the lights don't work"- which is totally untrue but that's irrelevant. Now he says that he'll give me $6K or I can take the van back but I have to pay for it to be shipped and he wants it off his property by tonight. Any advice on how it would be possible to enforce the sale? Or what to do in general?
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ieab71r
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ieaamdi
| 1,656,568,750 | 1,656,568,347 | 13 | 3 |
Call his bluff. Have a local tow operator ready to go pick up the van and deliver to the shipping company for you.
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Small claims limit in WV is $10,000 but litigating remotely sounds like a PITA. You could send a demand letter threatening small claims if he doesn't pay the full price? Sounds like you're legally in the right since you guys have a contract, he signed (you said that in a comment, right?), and you fully performed, but it depends on how far you're willing to go to get this handled.
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vns5ia
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legaladvice_train
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[WV] Sold a car to a guy who lives in WV, I'm from CA. Car was shipped to him. Now he wants to haggle on the price. Can I enforce a sale because of my contract? Hi! I sold a 1985 Chevy Van, it's a collectible, to a gentleman in WV. The deal was, and this is in the contract we signed, as-is. $2,500 down, with $7,500 on delivery. Van was shipped, he paid for it, and it got to him this morning. He signed for it with the flatbed driver and paid him. Now he wants to give me $6K because "the lights don't work"- which is totally untrue but that's irrelevant. Now he says that he'll give me $6K or I can take the van back but I have to pay for it to be shipped and he wants it off his property by tonight. Any advice on how it would be possible to enforce the sale? Or what to do in general?
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ie9vc8q
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ieab71r
| 1,656,559,130 | 1,656,568,750 | 3 | 13 |
I would talk with a lawyer first before proceeding
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Call his bluff. Have a local tow operator ready to go pick up the van and deliver to the shipping company for you.
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3gwq62
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I reported my mother for abusing me two months ago and her court date is next week. The police said it was only a misdemeanor but her lawyer said she might go to jail for what she did to me. Is there a high chance she will go to jail though? I live in CA. My mother is the only one in my family who makes money. I'm 17 and i'm struggling to find a job and my father refuses to get a job and he's 53. Almost two months ago I reported her to the police for abusing me and they took pictures of my injuries which were all bruises but they didn't arrest her on spot. The court date is next week and she said her lawyer claimed that she might go to jail for what she did. I'm not sure what to do with our money situation and it stresses me out. If she goes to jail nobody in our family will be able to provide for us, other than welfare.
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cu267vo
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cu27rwx
| 1,439,508,024 | 1,439,510,787 | 39 | 57 |
>she said her lawyer claimed that she might go to jail for what she did. Consider the source.
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I'm going to say this as someone who used to get manipulated in to doing bullshit for my abusive mother... You're not responsible for your parents in any way/shape/form. If they can't/won't work, then let the system work *for* you until you hit 18. If your parents can't provide food/shelter, call the authorities again. Don't let them make you responsible for the rent and bills. That's your mom and dad's problem, not yours. If your family has to live on welfare for a while, so be it. If you can, get a checking account *that does not allow your parents access* and start saving up for when you can leave.
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I reported my mother for abusing me two months ago and her court date is next week. The police said it was only a misdemeanor but her lawyer said she might go to jail for what she did to me. Is there a high chance she will go to jail though? I live in CA. My mother is the only one in my family who makes money. I'm 17 and i'm struggling to find a job and my father refuses to get a job and he's 53. Almost two months ago I reported her to the police for abusing me and they took pictures of my injuries which were all bruises but they didn't arrest her on spot. The court date is next week and she said her lawyer claimed that she might go to jail for what she did. I'm not sure what to do with our money situation and it stresses me out. If she goes to jail nobody in our family will be able to provide for us, other than welfare.
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"It's only a misdemeanor" means she won't be jailed for longer than a year.
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I'm going to say this as someone who used to get manipulated in to doing bullshit for my abusive mother... You're not responsible for your parents in any way/shape/form. If they can't/won't work, then let the system work *for* you until you hit 18. If your parents can't provide food/shelter, call the authorities again. Don't let them make you responsible for the rent and bills. That's your mom and dad's problem, not yours. If your family has to live on welfare for a while, so be it. If you can, get a checking account *that does not allow your parents access* and start saving up for when you can leave.
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3gwq62
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I reported my mother for abusing me two months ago and her court date is next week. The police said it was only a misdemeanor but her lawyer said she might go to jail for what she did to me. Is there a high chance she will go to jail though? I live in CA. My mother is the only one in my family who makes money. I'm 17 and i'm struggling to find a job and my father refuses to get a job and he's 53. Almost two months ago I reported her to the police for abusing me and they took pictures of my injuries which were all bruises but they didn't arrest her on spot. The court date is next week and she said her lawyer claimed that she might go to jail for what she did. I'm not sure what to do with our money situation and it stresses me out. If she goes to jail nobody in our family will be able to provide for us, other than welfare.
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cu26bz8
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She's manipulating you man... She abused you, this is her fault and she'll have to stand in front of a judge because of it..
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"It's only a misdemeanor" means she won't be jailed for longer than a year.
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3gwq62
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I reported my mother for abusing me two months ago and her court date is next week. The police said it was only a misdemeanor but her lawyer said she might go to jail for what she did to me. Is there a high chance she will go to jail though? I live in CA. My mother is the only one in my family who makes money. I'm 17 and i'm struggling to find a job and my father refuses to get a job and he's 53. Almost two months ago I reported her to the police for abusing me and they took pictures of my injuries which were all bruises but they didn't arrest her on spot. The court date is next week and she said her lawyer claimed that she might go to jail for what she did. I'm not sure what to do with our money situation and it stresses me out. If she goes to jail nobody in our family will be able to provide for us, other than welfare.
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I'm sorry you're going through this. Good on you for reporting your mom though. You might be able to find some helpful services here. Just note that the people working at those agencies might be overworked and underpaid, so don't be afraid to do your own research and stand up for yourself to get whatever you're entitled to. I agree with what others have said -- don't let your family guilt you into anything, and work on becoming independent from them. If you haven't already, check out /r/raisedbynarcissists -- there have been many posts there about how to leave an abusive household.
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They are pressuring you to avoid cooperating with the prosecution so that she can evade all consequences for her actions. There it is, plain and simple. Don't let a bunch of garbage people intimidate you from standing up for yourself.
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3gwq62
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I reported my mother for abusing me two months ago and her court date is next week. The police said it was only a misdemeanor but her lawyer said she might go to jail for what she did to me. Is there a high chance she will go to jail though? I live in CA. My mother is the only one in my family who makes money. I'm 17 and i'm struggling to find a job and my father refuses to get a job and he's 53. Almost two months ago I reported her to the police for abusing me and they took pictures of my injuries which were all bruises but they didn't arrest her on spot. The court date is next week and she said her lawyer claimed that she might go to jail for what she did. I'm not sure what to do with our money situation and it stresses me out. If she goes to jail nobody in our family will be able to provide for us, other than welfare.
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They are pressuring you to avoid cooperating with the prosecution so that she can evade all consequences for her actions. There it is, plain and simple. Don't let a bunch of garbage people intimidate you from standing up for yourself.
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Domestic violence cases are always emotional. Misdemeanor child abuse or domestic violence in California does expose your mom to one year in county jail; however, it's very unlikely she'll get a year. Of course, this depends on the types of injuries and her prior history of any type of domestic violence. And depending on the county of where she serves her jail sentence she may even be out earlier due to jail overcrowding in California. You as a victim of crime have certain rights under California's Marsy's Law (Article 1 section 28 of the CA constitution). This means you have a right to be heard at any of her court dates including sentencing. At sentencing you can argue that she shouldn't have to serve any jail time because she's the primary income earner and will put you and your family at risk. Also, you can submit a letter to the prosecuting agency (DA or City Attorney) to have some leniency with your mom in terms of sentencing.
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Cop keeps showing up at my door unannounced I reported a robbery to the police a couple weeks back. Recently, the detective assigned to my case has been coming to my apartment, unannounced, and requested my attention at a moment's notice. She would bang on my door repeatedly, waking me up or interrupting my work, as if I was doing nothing but waiting for her to show up. Is this legal? Does the fact that the detective has my address because it was on the police report give her permission to keep showing up at my door? I find this an insanely invasive practice. What should I do going forward? I have the detective's number. I'm considering reaching out and letting her know that I do not want to be visited by her going forward, but given that the case is about be closed, I'm not sure how helpful that would be besides giving me peace of mind. Thoughts?
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There doesn't seem to be anything illegal about this. The police officer is conducting an investigation, and may need additional information from you. Even if it's a bit suspect, there's generally not anything illegal about knocking on someone's door. This does seem somewhat unprofessional though. I think it might be worth contacting this police officer, let them know that you do want to do everything you can to support their investigation, but this manner of them contacting you is disruptive. If the behavior continues, perhaps escalate it with the chain of command in the police department.
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Tell her that you need at least x time frame notice and that you would rather talk on the phone or zoom rather than meet at your house unless it’s absolutely necessary.
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1ua907
| 1,530,809,173 | 1,530,809,928 | 11 | 250 |
Why didn't you just close the door and tell her to wait outside if you wanted to get your step- father's permission first?
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> Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Call me paranoid too, but did you walk along the front curb and check for any other markers as well or toys or things in the yard that shouldn't be? I know those 'forwards from grandma' are completely lame and usually just hoaxes, but this sounds like one of them. A person stops by, feigns interest in the house, comes in, looks around, uses the bathroom, acts odd, then marks the house. It sounds stupid, but you never want to be too unsure. So, just to be safe, do a quick walk around the yard and street to check for things that definitely shouldn't be there. I would rather you be safe than sorry.
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1ub1on
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e1uhax1
| 1,530,810,601 | 1,530,815,949 | 31 | 77 |
Did you make it known to her that you wanted her to leave your house? You said you followed her around, and that she asked to use the bathroom. Did you give her permission when she asked? If a reasonable person would believe that your actions amounts to giving that person permission to walk around your house and use the bathroom, there might not even be a trespass issue her.
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Double check all of your window and door locks before going to sleep tonight. Make sure everyone in your house knows what happened so that if she comes back they can tell her to fuck right off. I'd even make sure to talk to your neighbors, just in case they had a similar experience, and so they know what to watch out for if she comes back. Write down everything that you personally remember about her. What was she wearing, what did she look like, did she have tattoos, how old was she, etc. Do not discuss what you remember until you write everything down, as your memories of her can get muddled if you try to talk to someone about her first. (ex. My parents and I witnessed a brutal accident in London where a car hit a pedestrian standing in the roadway, because he was trying to take a picture of Big Ben, which was just a block or so away at the time. My parents ended up giving statements to the police the next morning, but during the time in-between the accident and them meeting with police, they made sure not to discuss what they saw so that any details they had that were different from each other didn't morph into one set of details. My mom remembered his red shoes the most, I remember wondering why a car had hit a duffel bag, because it didn't look like a person when the body -yes, he died- went up and over the top of the car.)
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1u9cne
| 1,530,815,949 | 1,530,809,173 | 77 | 11 |
Double check all of your window and door locks before going to sleep tonight. Make sure everyone in your house knows what happened so that if she comes back they can tell her to fuck right off. I'd even make sure to talk to your neighbors, just in case they had a similar experience, and so they know what to watch out for if she comes back. Write down everything that you personally remember about her. What was she wearing, what did she look like, did she have tattoos, how old was she, etc. Do not discuss what you remember until you write everything down, as your memories of her can get muddled if you try to talk to someone about her first. (ex. My parents and I witnessed a brutal accident in London where a car hit a pedestrian standing in the roadway, because he was trying to take a picture of Big Ben, which was just a block or so away at the time. My parents ended up giving statements to the police the next morning, but during the time in-between the accident and them meeting with police, they made sure not to discuss what they saw so that any details they had that were different from each other didn't morph into one set of details. My mom remembered his red shoes the most, I remember wondering why a car had hit a duffel bag, because it didn't look like a person when the body -yes, he died- went up and over the top of the car.)
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Why didn't you just close the door and tell her to wait outside if you wanted to get your step- father's permission first?
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1ub1on
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e1urhbh
| 1,530,810,601 | 1,530,824,645 | 31 | 70 |
Did you make it known to her that you wanted her to leave your house? You said you followed her around, and that she asked to use the bathroom. Did you give her permission when she asked? If a reasonable person would believe that your actions amounts to giving that person permission to walk around your house and use the bathroom, there might not even be a trespass issue her.
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You did fine for someone who was blindsided by either a crazy person or a grifter, OP. Practical advice - a chain for the door, a nice, noisy dog, or both. I had someone come to the door with very much the same story, but the fact that I was holding back two large barking dogs [total 150 lbs] greatly discouraged the person. She kept trying to keep to her *script*, but finally left when I told her I couldn't hold on to the dogs anymore. [I was lying.] Because we are in a small rural town I was naive enough to open the door to a scruffy stranger and talk to her, but I won't again.
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1u9cne
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e1urhbh
| 1,530,809,173 | 1,530,824,645 | 11 | 70 |
Why didn't you just close the door and tell her to wait outside if you wanted to get your step- father's permission first?
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You did fine for someone who was blindsided by either a crazy person or a grifter, OP. Practical advice - a chain for the door, a nice, noisy dog, or both. I had someone come to the door with very much the same story, but the fact that I was holding back two large barking dogs [total 150 lbs] greatly discouraged the person. She kept trying to keep to her *script*, but finally left when I told her I couldn't hold on to the dogs anymore. [I was lying.] Because we are in a small rural town I was naive enough to open the door to a scruffy stranger and talk to her, but I won't again.
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1uofc0
| 1,530,824,645 | 1,530,822,017 | 70 | 4 |
You did fine for someone who was blindsided by either a crazy person or a grifter, OP. Practical advice - a chain for the door, a nice, noisy dog, or both. I had someone come to the door with very much the same story, but the fact that I was holding back two large barking dogs [total 150 lbs] greatly discouraged the person. She kept trying to keep to her *script*, but finally left when I told her I couldn't hold on to the dogs anymore. [I was lying.] Because we are in a small rural town I was naive enough to open the door to a scruffy stranger and talk to her, but I won't again.
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Not a lawyer, but I believe in NY you have a duty to retreat first, so if you feel threatened by an intruder in your house, you have to escape to safety and call the police.You're only allowed to use violence if you're in immediate danger and have no where to retreat to.
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1ub1on
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e1u9cne
| 1,530,810,601 | 1,530,809,173 | 31 | 11 |
Did you make it known to her that you wanted her to leave your house? You said you followed her around, and that she asked to use the bathroom. Did you give her permission when she asked? If a reasonable person would believe that your actions amounts to giving that person permission to walk around your house and use the bathroom, there might not even be a trespass issue her.
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Why didn't you just close the door and tell her to wait outside if you wanted to get your step- father's permission first?
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1u9cne
| 1,530,856,949 | 1,530,809,173 | 14 | 11 |
OP check the bathroom for cameras planted there, you never know...
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Why didn't you just close the door and tell her to wait outside if you wanted to get your step- father's permission first?
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8wbugc
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legaladvice_train
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1vl86s
| 1,530,822,017 | 1,530,856,949 | 4 | 14 |
Not a lawyer, but I believe in NY you have a duty to retreat first, so if you feel threatened by an intruder in your house, you have to escape to safety and call the police.You're only allowed to use violence if you're in immediate danger and have no where to retreat to.
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OP check the bathroom for cameras planted there, you never know...
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1u9cne
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Next time take a video of any incidents. > I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent? You have a right to prevent someone from entering your property, and in doing that, you have a right to protect yourself. The force you use must be reasonable and not deadly force.
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Why didn't you just close the door and tell her to wait outside if you wanted to get your step- father's permission first?
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1vvhep
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e1uofc0
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Next time take a video of any incidents. > I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent? You have a right to prevent someone from entering your property, and in doing that, you have a right to protect yourself. The force you use must be reasonable and not deadly force.
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Not a lawyer, but I believe in NY you have a duty to retreat first, so if you feel threatened by an intruder in your house, you have to escape to safety and call the police.You're only allowed to use violence if you're in immediate danger and have no where to retreat to.
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8wbugc
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1vmk14
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e1vvhep
| 1,530,859,087 | 1,530,876,340 | 3 | 12 |
You got a lot of good advice, but I wonder if you live near a college? It's unlikely, since it's summer, but I live surrounded by undergrads, and occasionally (like, once every couple of years) get a young woman showing up to ask something ridiculous (like, can she get a roll of TP). Usually though I can see two or three others lurking in a car on the street to make sure nothing happens to her. (I'm not saying this is what happened, but if she's in that age range and looked kind of cleancut it may have just been a dare. Still take preventative steps, of course, but it's possible this was nothing)
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Next time take a video of any incidents. > I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent? You have a right to prevent someone from entering your property, and in doing that, you have a right to protect yourself. The force you use must be reasonable and not deadly force.
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8wbugc
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legaladvice_train
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1xf94p
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e1uofc0
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It was stated before, but to emphasize- LOCK ALL WINDOWS AND DOORS. She may have been in the bathroom unlocking the bathroom window. Same with any other room. The green ribbon was a marker to know whose house to return to, where they think the window is unlocked.
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Not a lawyer, but I believe in NY you have a duty to retreat first, so if you feel threatened by an intruder in your house, you have to escape to safety and call the police.You're only allowed to use violence if you're in immediate danger and have no where to retreat to.
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8wbugc
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legaladvice_train
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Woman just walked into my home after I told her to wait inside. Claimed she was interested in buying my for sale home, used bathroom and left. Cops showed up but obviously not much then can do since no one knows who she was . Hi all, So about fifteen minutes ago a woman knocked on my door and said she was interested in buying the home I live in. I am 18, this is my stepfathers home. When I told her to wait, she just walked in and started looking around. I am in New York, and I don’t believe we have the castle doctrine here so I did not resort to violence and instead followed her around. She looked, took nothing, asked to use the bathroom (no medication in there, so I don’t think she took that), and left. I had two guests over, she asked to try ones pants on (said no) and she just put one of there’s flip flops on, took them off and left. Then, as I noticed that a green ribbon was tied to my door (which I cut down promptly), the cops showed up. Security guard from a nearby work site called after they saw a woman who was not familiar just walk in. Gave them a description, but now we have the critical issue of that I don’t feel safe in my own home. I am in New York, do I have any right to injure someone who comes into my home and is non violent?
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e1vmk14
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e1xf94p
| 1,530,859,087 | 1,530,927,946 | 3 | 5 |
You got a lot of good advice, but I wonder if you live near a college? It's unlikely, since it's summer, but I live surrounded by undergrads, and occasionally (like, once every couple of years) get a young woman showing up to ask something ridiculous (like, can she get a roll of TP). Usually though I can see two or three others lurking in a car on the street to make sure nothing happens to her. (I'm not saying this is what happened, but if she's in that age range and looked kind of cleancut it may have just been a dare. Still take preventative steps, of course, but it's possible this was nothing)
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It was stated before, but to emphasize- LOCK ALL WINDOWS AND DOORS. She may have been in the bathroom unlocking the bathroom window. Same with any other room. The green ribbon was a marker to know whose house to return to, where they think the window is unlocked.
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rmyfwy
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hppb5ro
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hppfc9a
| 1,640,279,400 | 1,640,281,136 | 732 | 910 |
Did the cops know your name, or just your address? The first is more likely someone you know, and the other could be someone just pranking the cops for whatever reason.
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You can do a public records request on all the details for the call, from the CAD notes to the call itself. If you can figure out who did it from that, you can try to get a protection order (injunction, restraining order, etc) against them and use this as evidence. If they do it again after they've been served, they've violated the injunction and can be in serious shit for that. As bad as one call like that can be I don't see anything immediately happening to them for this call unless it is blatantly obvious who they are and where they are for you to press charges on. Regardless, if it happens again I'd suggest asking the police to put a "premise/caution note/hazard/etc" on your address to say that your address is prone to get false suicide reports called on it and to give your phone a call before they respond.
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rmyfwy
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hppcgg7
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hppfc9a
| 1,640,279,933 | 1,640,281,136 | 204 | 910 |
Could this be a form of "swatting"? Do you play games online? A random internet person screwing with you?
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You can do a public records request on all the details for the call, from the CAD notes to the call itself. If you can figure out who did it from that, you can try to get a protection order (injunction, restraining order, etc) against them and use this as evidence. If they do it again after they've been served, they've violated the injunction and can be in serious shit for that. As bad as one call like that can be I don't see anything immediately happening to them for this call unless it is blatantly obvious who they are and where they are for you to press charges on. Regardless, if it happens again I'd suggest asking the police to put a "premise/caution note/hazard/etc" on your address to say that your address is prone to get false suicide reports called on it and to give your phone a call before they respond.
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rmyfwy
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legaladvice_train
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hpp0n73
| 1,640,281,136 | 1,640,274,970 | 910 | 131 |
You can do a public records request on all the details for the call, from the CAD notes to the call itself. If you can figure out who did it from that, you can try to get a protection order (injunction, restraining order, etc) against them and use this as evidence. If they do it again after they've been served, they've violated the injunction and can be in serious shit for that. As bad as one call like that can be I don't see anything immediately happening to them for this call unless it is blatantly obvious who they are and where they are for you to press charges on. Regardless, if it happens again I'd suggest asking the police to put a "premise/caution note/hazard/etc" on your address to say that your address is prone to get false suicide reports called on it and to give your phone a call before they respond.
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Yes, it's illegal to knowingly file a false police report.
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rmyfwy
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hppewo8
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hppfc9a
| 1,640,280,953 | 1,640,281,136 | 110 | 910 |
There is this very illegal activity that has been going around in the last few years, referred to as "SWATting". One of the primary indicators of this, is the use of a spoofed telephone number. Usually, SWAT shows up at your house, so having just someone do a suicide check on you is a somewhat benign version of this. It could have been anyone or no one you know, you might have just been selected at random. There have been a number of deaths associated with swatting - from heart attacks to being shot, when the SWAT team busts in unannounced. * https://www.nytimes.com/2021/07/24/us/mark-herring-swatting-tennessee.html * https://www.cnn.com/2019/09/14/us/swatting-sentence-casey-viner/index.html The use of a spoofed phone number indicates some level of technical ability on the perpetrator's part.
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You can do a public records request on all the details for the call, from the CAD notes to the call itself. If you can figure out who did it from that, you can try to get a protection order (injunction, restraining order, etc) against them and use this as evidence. If they do it again after they've been served, they've violated the injunction and can be in serious shit for that. As bad as one call like that can be I don't see anything immediately happening to them for this call unless it is blatantly obvious who they are and where they are for you to press charges on. Regardless, if it happens again I'd suggest asking the police to put a "premise/caution note/hazard/etc" on your address to say that your address is prone to get false suicide reports called on it and to give your phone a call before they respond.
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rmyfwy
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legaladvice_train
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hpp0n73
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hppb5ro
| 1,640,274,970 | 1,640,279,400 | 131 | 732 |
Yes, it's illegal to knowingly file a false police report.
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Did the cops know your name, or just your address? The first is more likely someone you know, and the other could be someone just pranking the cops for whatever reason.
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rmyfwy
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legaladvice_train
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hppsp4t
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hppcgg7
| 1,640,286,734 | 1,640,279,933 | 276 | 204 |
They never find them if they know what they're doing. You were swatted, just a little more gently. Anyone calling to say you're unstable and have a gun though is putting your life in danger. Similar situations people have ended up dead. Go to your city hall and do a Freedom of Information Act request for the 911 call tape. You may be able to recognize the voice.
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Could this be a form of "swatting"? Do you play games online? A random internet person screwing with you?
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rmyfwy
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legaladvice_train
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hpp0n73
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hppsp4t
| 1,640,274,970 | 1,640,286,734 | 131 | 276 |
Yes, it's illegal to knowingly file a false police report.
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They never find them if they know what they're doing. You were swatted, just a little more gently. Anyone calling to say you're unstable and have a gun though is putting your life in danger. Similar situations people have ended up dead. Go to your city hall and do a Freedom of Information Act request for the 911 call tape. You may be able to recognize the voice.
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rmyfwy
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legaladvice_train
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hppsp4t
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hppewo8
| 1,640,286,734 | 1,640,280,953 | 276 | 110 |
They never find them if they know what they're doing. You were swatted, just a little more gently. Anyone calling to say you're unstable and have a gun though is putting your life in danger. Similar situations people have ended up dead. Go to your city hall and do a Freedom of Information Act request for the 911 call tape. You may be able to recognize the voice.
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There is this very illegal activity that has been going around in the last few years, referred to as "SWATting". One of the primary indicators of this, is the use of a spoofed telephone number. Usually, SWAT shows up at your house, so having just someone do a suicide check on you is a somewhat benign version of this. It could have been anyone or no one you know, you might have just been selected at random. There have been a number of deaths associated with swatting - from heart attacks to being shot, when the SWAT team busts in unannounced. * https://www.nytimes.com/2021/07/24/us/mark-herring-swatting-tennessee.html * https://www.cnn.com/2019/09/14/us/swatting-sentence-casey-viner/index.html The use of a spoofed phone number indicates some level of technical ability on the perpetrator's part.
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rmyfwy
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legaladvice_train
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Cops showed up to my house last night because someone reported I’m suicidal (I’m not) Last night at 3 am I was woken up by 3 cops at my door asking if I was suicidal. Apparently someone reported I had a gun and was suicidal. The thing is, no one has any reason to believe I would ever own a gun (I don’t) or that I’m suicidal (I’m not). This was obviously someone who doesn’t like me trying to cause problems for me, or someone who thinks it’s funny for some odd reason. I can only think of one person who would do this- a friend who I had a falling out with 3 months ago. This would be very strange timing, after 3 months for her to do something like this NOW, but I can’t think of anyone else who would have even a remote reason to do this. I typically live a very drama free life and honestly hardly talk to anyone anymore because I work so much so this is all very strange. The police said they think whoever did this must have used a spoof number and it sounds like they’re looking into it because they called again this morning to ask more questions. But my question is: if they find out who did this, would I be able to press charges? I know for a fact it wasn’t a report based on genuine concern because there’s literally nothing I’ve said or done to make anyone think anything they said is true. Any insight would be helpful…I’m just really really confused by this whole thing.
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hpp0n73
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hppcgg7
| 1,640,274,970 | 1,640,279,933 | 131 | 204 |
Yes, it's illegal to knowingly file a false police report.
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Could this be a form of "swatting"? Do you play games online? A random internet person screwing with you?
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xszp9e
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My mother was sexually assault by another resident in her assisted living facility. Two weeks ago, on 9/19/22, my mother was sexually assaulted by another resident in her assisted living facility (not a nursing home). She attempted to tell the director, who brushed her off stating, “I know what happened and I’m taking care of it”. Not once did she take a report/hear what happened from my mother That next weekend while staying with my brother, she disclosed to him. I immediately drove to the facility to take my mother to the police station. Before leaving with her, I spoke to the director who also told me she knew all about it and had taken steps to fix the problem but would not disclose this to me. Because of her repeated flippant attitude, I sent a summary of events and complaint to the regional director, legal counsel for the corporation and all corporate board members. I received a phone call from the RD stating that my mother HAD a chance to report but did not. That the site director had indeed spoken with my mother. Unequivocally untrue. So I sent another email to everyone summarizing the phone call. This prompted an in-person investigation. I arranged for a victim advocate from the local agency to be present along with myself. The site has finished their investigation and have asked for a meeting with me and my siblings. We want this meeting recorded (it’s via Zoom) or a copy of their report prior to the meeting. Are we within our legal rights to insist on this? Yes, we have called our state ombudsman, local Adult Protective Services and local police. My mother doesNOT want to leave the facility. And, this man had had been caught by a staff member prior to my mother’s assault, perpetrating against another resident and also groped a third resident after we reported my mother’s.
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iqn3p97
| 1,664,659,560 | 1,664,642,167 | 26 | 16 |
My husband is a director at a assisted living facility. He said to contact the Ombudsman for your state. It is their job to advocate for your mom and they are very helpful.
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First of all, good for you for being your mother's best advocate. It sounds like no one at the place she lives cares more about her than they care about their reputation. You've done everything I'd suggest, except the doctor. Doctors are mandatory reporters and a complaint against that doctor with the state medical board will rock their world, for sure. I mean, she pooh-poohed your mother with, "I'm taking care of it?" Really? And this resident has a history of doing this and is still there? I mean... WTF? Good luck with this, for sure. The only other thing I might do is meet with an attorney to see if you can afford for them to represent your mother and your family and act as a go between for you, your mother, and this facility. Let them worry about what you can and can't have.
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My father (mother divorced him over 24 years ago) sends over 1000 emails a month to me via multiple email addresses and buys new phones/uses other people’s phones just to sidestep how I’ve blocked him. Any advice? (I’m in CA. He’s in New Mexico) I want to be done with this nutcase entirely. I’m also really apprehensive about changing everything considering I have a lot of accounts that’ve been linked to that email address and number. The guy has seriously done repeated “well-ness checks” to my place just because I didn’t pick up the phone to talk to him. I’m tired of this dickhead.
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Really dumb question, could you just switch email addresses and not tell him and anyone you know who associates with him? I know it's hard to start fresh, but...
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Have you considered having the police do a wellness check on him while you gather evidence for a restraining order? If he gets treatment then he will probably stop this behavior. Also, if this is caused by mental illness, a restraining order may not be effective. Finally, an acquaintance of mine made a documentary titled ‘Unlisted’ about her relationship with her mentally I’ll father that you might find helpful.
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My father (mother divorced him over 24 years ago) sends over 1000 emails a month to me via multiple email addresses and buys new phones/uses other people’s phones just to sidestep how I’ve blocked him. Any advice? (I’m in CA. He’s in New Mexico) I want to be done with this nutcase entirely. I’m also really apprehensive about changing everything considering I have a lot of accounts that’ve been linked to that email address and number. The guy has seriously done repeated “well-ness checks” to my place just because I didn’t pick up the phone to talk to him. I’m tired of this dickhead.
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Really dumb question, could you just switch email addresses and not tell him and anyone you know who associates with him? I know it's hard to start fresh, but...
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If I were in that situation and could afford it, I might see about having an attorney send a cease and desist letter to him. If you are dealing with a determined lunatic, it can be a long arduous process getting real help deterring them and starting the process immediately with unambiguous documentation is essential.
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[CA] My HOA issued me a citation of violation of their guidelines because a have a washer in my condo that was installed by the previous owner and are giving me 30 days to remove it; the HOA rules and CC&R's have no language regarding washers in them. Is this demand legal? This seems like a pretty open and shut case to me...but I wanted to get some more opinions on the subject, just to make sure. I'm most certainly not a lawyer, haha. My HOA sent me a "violation of the Association’s governing documents" stating the following: *Installed a washing machine as these are not approved to be installed in any unit, under no circumstances. Please remove the washikng \[sic\] machine within 30 days.* Firstly, the washing machine was not installed by me. I purchased my condo four years ago and the fact that it had a washer in-unit was a huge selling point. The previous owner (who lived in my condo 10 years before I purchased it) had it installed during his time living here. Additionally, in the mortgage documents submitted to and completed by the previous owner, he confirmed that it was installed by a licensed plumber, with all appropriate permits and permissions, and was installed according to code. Secondly, there is no language anywhere in the HOA's rules and regulations nor in the CC&R's for my complex prohibiting or banning washing machines in the units. Literally the only language concerning washers is a section in their rules and regulations about how to properly use the community washing machines. Is it legal for the HOA demand that I remove my washer from my home, despite there being no rules in any of their governing documents supporting the removal? And do I have any legal ground on which to stand to refuse their demand? Thanks so much for any help anyone can provide!
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Ask the head of the HOA - in writing - to provide a citation from the rules and regulations where in unit washing machines are prohibited as you can’t seem to find one. Don’t be confrontation, etc. just as for clarity.
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If what you say is true, and there's nothing in the CC&Rs regarding washing machines or their authority to dictate what appliances you have, then I'd tell them to piss off...
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[CA] My HOA issued me a citation of violation of their guidelines because a have a washer in my condo that was installed by the previous owner and are giving me 30 days to remove it; the HOA rules and CC&R's have no language regarding washers in them. Is this demand legal? This seems like a pretty open and shut case to me...but I wanted to get some more opinions on the subject, just to make sure. I'm most certainly not a lawyer, haha. My HOA sent me a "violation of the Association’s governing documents" stating the following: *Installed a washing machine as these are not approved to be installed in any unit, under no circumstances. Please remove the washikng \[sic\] machine within 30 days.* Firstly, the washing machine was not installed by me. I purchased my condo four years ago and the fact that it had a washer in-unit was a huge selling point. The previous owner (who lived in my condo 10 years before I purchased it) had it installed during his time living here. Additionally, in the mortgage documents submitted to and completed by the previous owner, he confirmed that it was installed by a licensed plumber, with all appropriate permits and permissions, and was installed according to code. Secondly, there is no language anywhere in the HOA's rules and regulations nor in the CC&R's for my complex prohibiting or banning washing machines in the units. Literally the only language concerning washers is a section in their rules and regulations about how to properly use the community washing machines. Is it legal for the HOA demand that I remove my washer from my home, despite there being no rules in any of their governing documents supporting the removal? And do I have any legal ground on which to stand to refuse their demand? Thanks so much for any help anyone can provide!
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Do you have the most recent copy of the rules?
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Ask the head of the HOA - in writing - to provide a citation from the rules and regulations where in unit washing machines are prohibited as you can’t seem to find one. Don’t be confrontation, etc. just as for clarity.
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[CA] My HOA issued me a citation of violation of their guidelines because a have a washer in my condo that was installed by the previous owner and are giving me 30 days to remove it; the HOA rules and CC&R's have no language regarding washers in them. Is this demand legal? This seems like a pretty open and shut case to me...but I wanted to get some more opinions on the subject, just to make sure. I'm most certainly not a lawyer, haha. My HOA sent me a "violation of the Association’s governing documents" stating the following: *Installed a washing machine as these are not approved to be installed in any unit, under no circumstances. Please remove the washikng \[sic\] machine within 30 days.* Firstly, the washing machine was not installed by me. I purchased my condo four years ago and the fact that it had a washer in-unit was a huge selling point. The previous owner (who lived in my condo 10 years before I purchased it) had it installed during his time living here. Additionally, in the mortgage documents submitted to and completed by the previous owner, he confirmed that it was installed by a licensed plumber, with all appropriate permits and permissions, and was installed according to code. Secondly, there is no language anywhere in the HOA's rules and regulations nor in the CC&R's for my complex prohibiting or banning washing machines in the units. Literally the only language concerning washers is a section in their rules and regulations about how to properly use the community washing machines. Is it legal for the HOA demand that I remove my washer from my home, despite there being no rules in any of their governing documents supporting the removal? And do I have any legal ground on which to stand to refuse their demand? Thanks so much for any help anyone can provide!
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Do you have the most recent copy of the rules?
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There is likely a part written in the rules about not altering or doing anything to the plumbing or other shared building infrastructure without consent. These rules are typically in place to prevent someone doing something that could affect the building as a whole. A washer would likely violate these rules.
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[CA] My HOA issued me a citation of violation of their guidelines because a have a washer in my condo that was installed by the previous owner and are giving me 30 days to remove it; the HOA rules and CC&R's have no language regarding washers in them. Is this demand legal? This seems like a pretty open and shut case to me...but I wanted to get some more opinions on the subject, just to make sure. I'm most certainly not a lawyer, haha. My HOA sent me a "violation of the Association’s governing documents" stating the following: *Installed a washing machine as these are not approved to be installed in any unit, under no circumstances. Please remove the washikng \[sic\] machine within 30 days.* Firstly, the washing machine was not installed by me. I purchased my condo four years ago and the fact that it had a washer in-unit was a huge selling point. The previous owner (who lived in my condo 10 years before I purchased it) had it installed during his time living here. Additionally, in the mortgage documents submitted to and completed by the previous owner, he confirmed that it was installed by a licensed plumber, with all appropriate permits and permissions, and was installed according to code. Secondly, there is no language anywhere in the HOA's rules and regulations nor in the CC&R's for my complex prohibiting or banning washing machines in the units. Literally the only language concerning washers is a section in their rules and regulations about how to properly use the community washing machines. Is it legal for the HOA demand that I remove my washer from my home, despite there being no rules in any of their governing documents supporting the removal? And do I have any legal ground on which to stand to refuse their demand? Thanks so much for any help anyone can provide!
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A lot of people have stated that you should expect your Board to come up with language that specifically prohibits the washer. This isn't going to get you very far. It also doesn't matter that a previous owner installed it. You own it now and you are responsible to the community for the unit and its modifications. >he confirmed that it was installed... with all appropriate permits and permissions This is the most important statement in your post. Your governing documents will prohibit architectural changes/upgrades to the unit's plumbing, ducts, and electrical systems without written approval from the Board. If the "appropriate permissions" were given, then you need to produce a copy of that written approval from the Board. If you don't have a copy, then petition the Board for a copy of the minutes proceeding the installation. If the Board did approve it, a record will be in the minutes. If the minutes are missing, then you can argue that the Board failed its duty to maintain the minutes. You might be taken to small claims, but you will probably win. If the minutes are there but they show no record of that approval, and the previous owner didn't have a written copy, then you need to remove the machines, undo the plumbing, duct and electrical work, and go after the seller for your costs and depreciation of home value.
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There are a couple of ways to go about looking at this. First, is there a construction reason why the washing machine is not allowed, improper plumbing, drainage etc... It is possible the previous owner has not just installed a washing machine but damaged the infrastructure of the building and the building is no longer to code? If this is the case anything I sight below is moot as modifications that violate code have to be fixed. This part is going to assume the washer install does not violate any code. There could be a documented policy or rule created by the HOA. Those rules have to be enforced evenly against all members. HOA's in California also are required to notice on the rule violation when the property is sold. By not pointing this out during the sale process and only after you have moved post escrow the washer basically became "approved" when the property changed hands. This is a Davis Sterling thing, and one of the reasons we are so diligent about noticing violations when a unit is for sale. If the previous owner was noticed, ignored and did not notify you during the sale your case for the diminished value of the condo will be against them for failure to disclose but you still have to remove the washer. What I listed above is not clearly defined in California HOA law, is based on rules of thumb my HOA managers have informed me on, and how we as an HOA operate. Those rules are based not just on the law but on avoiding spending money on lawsuits so we might be skirting what is technically legal or illegal and more avoiding expensive hassles from an HOA board perspective. Someone who does HOA litigation in California might be able to call BS on this or give even better direction. So let's discuss getting into a pissing match with the HOA. Often CC&R's (and you need to look for this) will have a resident pays all HOA legal costs in the event of a legal fight. If you decide to ignore this they could violate you according to their policy and fine you according to their fining policy. They could also go as far as hiring an attorney at $500 an hour to file suit against you in order to obtain a court order ordering you to remove the washer, then bill you for the 8 grand they spend getting that court order, lean your home and make your life suck. If you want to keep your washer, start by having the hoa manager send you the rule information, including when the board voted the rules in. Then take that to an attorney that does HOA law and see if you have a leg to stand on. If you want to skip the attorney part, then remove the washer because the HOA right or wrong will win any fight where you are not armed with counsel.
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I drove my friends car home from the bar while they were drunk, and crashed, what now? My friends all volunteered me to drive this girls car home from the bar after she started throwing up. And she said she needed her car home so I agreed. I got in the car, scooted the seat up, and turned it on. Normal. I put it in reverse, turned the wheel slightly. Normal. Then when I shifted into drive, the steering wheel locked, the brake wasn’t working, and I couldn’t put the car into park. I ended up hitting another car as I had no other option. There was an “anti-theft” thing on this girls steering wheel connected to her brake that I clearly didn’t see getting into the car as it was dark and didn’t feel it either. I was shaken up and my friends told me they forgot to tell me that thing was there… Because I crashed her car, am I liable or is her insurance liable?
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Most carriers have an 'authorized driver' provision. If you had permission from the insured (drunk girl) and her carrier has the provision, her insurance should cover it after she (drunk girl) pays her deductible. That said, expect her or her family to ask you to pay the deductible since you were the at-fault driver.
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I drove my friends car home from the bar while they were drunk, and crashed, what now? My friends all volunteered me to drive this girls car home from the bar after she started throwing up. And she said she needed her car home so I agreed. I got in the car, scooted the seat up, and turned it on. Normal. I put it in reverse, turned the wheel slightly. Normal. Then when I shifted into drive, the steering wheel locked, the brake wasn’t working, and I couldn’t put the car into park. I ended up hitting another car as I had no other option. There was an “anti-theft” thing on this girls steering wheel connected to her brake that I clearly didn’t see getting into the car as it was dark and didn’t feel it either. I was shaken up and my friends told me they forgot to tell me that thing was there… Because I crashed her car, am I liable or is her insurance liable?
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> Because I crashed her car, am I liable or is her insurance liable? Because you crashed the car, her insurance should cover it. Should. And "it" is two separate things. There was damage to two cars here, and state is going to matter, perhaps a lot, since liability can change a ton by state, OP where are you? Did you speak with the owner of the other car, and exchanging insurance info?
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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Since you had no insurance, you really have no options outside of looking for a new home to rent.
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You can sue the driver of the car, but that's not going to fix your current problems immediately. Pick up the pieces and try to move on from there. See if you can stay with a friend until you can find new housing. See if you qualify for section 8 housing.
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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I'm not sure how the Red Cross in Seattle run their shop, but if it is anything like Oregon Pacific Chapter, they should be giving you minimum of a couple weeks at a hotel, and quite a bit of cash loaded onto the prepaid ARC Visa card. Ask to speak to the Director of the Disaster Services unit there at your chapter if you need anything after that. If they give you any pushback, don't be shy about calling National to put a fire under their ass. I was a Captain of a Disaster Action Team in Eugene, Oregon for many years and we really prided ourselves down there for going the extra mile. They should be helping you with long-term placement also. They should have a bunch of connections with rentals and such and can handle security deposits and can grease the skids on getting you into stable housing. And remember, it is NOT charity... It is a gift from the American people. If after you get settled and things calm down, don't think about paying any of it back or anything, but we really wouldn't mind if you could consider volunteering for one of our teams, or whatever else the local chapter has a need for.
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Get in touch with the Crime Victims Fund and see if you qualify for any help.
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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I'm not sure how the Red Cross in Seattle run their shop, but if it is anything like Oregon Pacific Chapter, they should be giving you minimum of a couple weeks at a hotel, and quite a bit of cash loaded onto the prepaid ARC Visa card. Ask to speak to the Director of the Disaster Services unit there at your chapter if you need anything after that. If they give you any pushback, don't be shy about calling National to put a fire under their ass. I was a Captain of a Disaster Action Team in Eugene, Oregon for many years and we really prided ourselves down there for going the extra mile. They should be helping you with long-term placement also. They should have a bunch of connections with rentals and such and can handle security deposits and can grease the skids on getting you into stable housing. And remember, it is NOT charity... It is a gift from the American people. If after you get settled and things calm down, don't think about paying any of it back or anything, but we really wouldn't mind if you could consider volunteering for one of our teams, or whatever else the local chapter has a need for.
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Since you had no insurance, you really have no options outside of looking for a new home to rent.
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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I'm not sure how the Red Cross in Seattle run their shop, but if it is anything like Oregon Pacific Chapter, they should be giving you minimum of a couple weeks at a hotel, and quite a bit of cash loaded onto the prepaid ARC Visa card. Ask to speak to the Director of the Disaster Services unit there at your chapter if you need anything after that. If they give you any pushback, don't be shy about calling National to put a fire under their ass. I was a Captain of a Disaster Action Team in Eugene, Oregon for many years and we really prided ourselves down there for going the extra mile. They should be helping you with long-term placement also. They should have a bunch of connections with rentals and such and can handle security deposits and can grease the skids on getting you into stable housing. And remember, it is NOT charity... It is a gift from the American people. If after you get settled and things calm down, don't think about paying any of it back or anything, but we really wouldn't mind if you could consider volunteering for one of our teams, or whatever else the local chapter has a need for.
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OP, your best bet is for the police to locate the driver and get a conviction and then file for restitution. In all honesty you should have had renters insurance to cover your personal property and temporary housing. You can try to see if the police can locate the registered owner of the vehicle and file a claim directly with their auto insurance for the damage.
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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d8abvb3
| 1,475,367,954 | 1,475,376,042 | 19 | 90 |
Don't forget to get any deposit or prorated rent back from landlord. P.S. You should delete the license plate photo as it could identify people.
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I'm not sure how the Red Cross in Seattle run their shop, but if it is anything like Oregon Pacific Chapter, they should be giving you minimum of a couple weeks at a hotel, and quite a bit of cash loaded onto the prepaid ARC Visa card. Ask to speak to the Director of the Disaster Services unit there at your chapter if you need anything after that. If they give you any pushback, don't be shy about calling National to put a fire under their ass. I was a Captain of a Disaster Action Team in Eugene, Oregon for many years and we really prided ourselves down there for going the extra mile. They should be helping you with long-term placement also. They should have a bunch of connections with rentals and such and can handle security deposits and can grease the skids on getting you into stable housing. And remember, it is NOT charity... It is a gift from the American people. If after you get settled and things calm down, don't think about paying any of it back or anything, but we really wouldn't mind if you could consider volunteering for one of our teams, or whatever else the local chapter has a need for.
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legaladvice_train
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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d8a1ah5
| 1,475,376,042 | 1,475,358,407 | 90 | 4 |
I'm not sure how the Red Cross in Seattle run their shop, but if it is anything like Oregon Pacific Chapter, they should be giving you minimum of a couple weeks at a hotel, and quite a bit of cash loaded onto the prepaid ARC Visa card. Ask to speak to the Director of the Disaster Services unit there at your chapter if you need anything after that. If they give you any pushback, don't be shy about calling National to put a fire under their ass. I was a Captain of a Disaster Action Team in Eugene, Oregon for many years and we really prided ourselves down there for going the extra mile. They should be helping you with long-term placement also. They should have a bunch of connections with rentals and such and can handle security deposits and can grease the skids on getting you into stable housing. And remember, it is NOT charity... It is a gift from the American people. If after you get settled and things calm down, don't think about paying any of it back or anything, but we really wouldn't mind if you could consider volunteering for one of our teams, or whatever else the local chapter has a need for.
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Did the driver own the car, or was it a kid on a joy ride in a stolen car? (The police might be able to answer this question.) You can't get blood from a stone or a turnip. Or in attorney parlance, don't bother trying to sue a poor person.
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legaladvice_train
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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d8a4tu6
| 1,475,355,483 | 1,475,364,005 | 31 | 66 |
Since you had no insurance, you really have no options outside of looking for a new home to rent.
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Get in touch with the Crime Victims Fund and see if you qualify for any help.
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55f4bc
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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d8a4tu6
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d8a1ah5
| 1,475,364,005 | 1,475,358,407 | 66 | 4 |
Get in touch with the Crime Victims Fund and see if you qualify for any help.
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Did the driver own the car, or was it a kid on a joy ride in a stolen car? (The police might be able to answer this question.) You can't get blood from a stone or a turnip. Or in attorney parlance, don't bother trying to sue a poor person.
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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d8a1ah5
| 1,475,366,313 | 1,475,358,407 | 28 | 4 |
OP, your best bet is for the police to locate the driver and get a conviction and then file for restitution. In all honesty you should have had renters insurance to cover your personal property and temporary housing. You can try to see if the police can locate the registered owner of the vehicle and file a claim directly with their auto insurance for the damage.
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Did the driver own the car, or was it a kid on a joy ride in a stolen car? (The police might be able to answer this question.) You can't get blood from a stone or a turnip. Or in attorney parlance, don't bother trying to sue a poor person.
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legaladvice_train
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A driver drove a truck through my home and fled the scene. I am now effectively homeless. Don't know how to proceed. http://imgur.com/gallery/L0Dl2 Living in Seattle. 31 year old male. Was already living pay check to pay check, and am now staying on a friends couch. Don't know how to go about seeking aid or financial compensation. I did not have renters insurance. (Lesson learned.) *** On September 28th, at 7:30 pm, a truck drove through my apartment. The driver and his passenger fled the scene. Police called me, as I was working late that night, and informed me of the situation. When i got home, the local news was outside filming. Police told me of what happened. And, two volunteers from the Red Cross came in to help me grab my clothes and offered to help me find a hotel to stay in for the night. The next morning, my friend, Megumi came by and brought me coffee and donuts. She helped me sort through the bricks and dust. We managed to save a few things, and packed what we could into boxes. The truck caused over $35,000 worth of damage to the building, and caused me to lose over $5,000 worth of personal belongings. It will be several months before repairs are done, and the apartment is livable again. I do not think I will be moving back in. Special thanks to, my friend, Alex for giving me a place to stay. Romina for bringing me boxes for my liquor bottles. Marci and Kit from the American Red Cross for helping me through the initial crisis.
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d8a1ah5
| 1,475,367,954 | 1,475,358,407 | 19 | 4 |
Don't forget to get any deposit or prorated rent back from landlord. P.S. You should delete the license plate photo as it could identify people.
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Did the driver own the car, or was it a kid on a joy ride in a stolen car? (The police might be able to answer this question.) You can't get blood from a stone or a turnip. Or in attorney parlance, don't bother trying to sue a poor person.
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rshxo9
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legaladvice_train
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My friend and I were in his truck the other day and we were hit by a driver who was: 1) A minor - 17 years old 2) Incredibly intoxicated (visibly high on Xanax or similar + very drunk), 3) Driving a stolen vehicle. The driver was arrested after attempting to flee on foot. Here are some additional relevant circumstances/pieces of information: - The accident occurred in Texas - There is Dash cam footage of the entire wreck before, during and after from a local firefighter who happened to be waiting on a red light perpendicular to the direction of the two cars involved in the accident - There was a man in a car that had been following the drunk minor for 10 minutes with the 911 dispatcher on the phone trying to get them to “send an officer to pull this guy over before he hurts someone.” - Police never ended up trying to pull the minor over, but were somehow magically at the scene of the accident within 30 seconds. - My friend did not have insurance on the vehicle he was driving since his coverage had lapsed in November (though on Texas this usually shouldn’t made a difference as long as you’re not at fault for the accident - no citation was issued to him). - The drunk minor had Fred Loya insurance, and I don’t know this for a fact, but I assume that it was not for the vehicle he was driving at the time of the accident - The stolen vehicle the minor was driving belonged to the drunk minor’s Dad’s GF (the two later showed up at the scene and the girlfriend told police that she wanted to press charges) - The truck My friend is driving was towed to a lot because it is not drivable, But we are not certain that it’s totaled either. - Nobody is disputing whose fault the wreck was - everyone is in clear agreement that this kid - who should have been arrested minutes earlier had police listened to the caller - was lit off of something in conjunction with alcohol, and that he ran his car into my friends truck and knocked the whole axle loose and the drive train was dragging on the ground What do we do? Does he wait for this kid’s insurance to pay for his truck to get fixed, or is he supposed to get the vehicle out now? It doesn’t drive. There’s also a concern about whether or not this kids insurance will cover the damages since the vehicle was stolen, and if the kid or his parents will actually be able to pay for the damages. FYI - The truck is most likely totaled, if I had to guess. Does my friend file a civil suit against the kid even if he can’t pay? Should he go for a Hail Mary attempt to sue the city and/or police department for not responding to the man’s call when there were - as it became very clear - more than enough cops in the area to respond? They showed up at the scene of the accident in 30 seconds and they were seven of them there within 120 seconds. What’s the move here?
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hqmtzty
| 1,640,928,950 | 1,640,919,369 | 34 | 10 |
Not a lawyer. Unless I missed it, neither you or any comments so far have touched on parental liability. Specifically, Texas Family Code § 41.001(2) (states)[https://statutes.capitol.texas.gov/Docs/FA/htm/FA.41.HTM]: >A parent [...] is liable for any property damage proximately caused by the wilful and malicious conduct of a child who is at least 10 years of age but under 18 years of age. Your friend would be able to recover up to $25k from the parents. I'm not sure if the wording requires them to have been themselves negligent, or if his behavior is enough. Also, you may be able to sue generally beyond what this statute allows.
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The kids insurance, if he has any, isn’t going to pay for your friends damages, sorry to say.
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legaladvice_train
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My friend and I were in his truck the other day and we were hit by a driver who was: 1) A minor - 17 years old 2) Incredibly intoxicated (visibly high on Xanax or similar + very drunk), 3) Driving a stolen vehicle. The driver was arrested after attempting to flee on foot. Here are some additional relevant circumstances/pieces of information: - The accident occurred in Texas - There is Dash cam footage of the entire wreck before, during and after from a local firefighter who happened to be waiting on a red light perpendicular to the direction of the two cars involved in the accident - There was a man in a car that had been following the drunk minor for 10 minutes with the 911 dispatcher on the phone trying to get them to “send an officer to pull this guy over before he hurts someone.” - Police never ended up trying to pull the minor over, but were somehow magically at the scene of the accident within 30 seconds. - My friend did not have insurance on the vehicle he was driving since his coverage had lapsed in November (though on Texas this usually shouldn’t made a difference as long as you’re not at fault for the accident - no citation was issued to him). - The drunk minor had Fred Loya insurance, and I don’t know this for a fact, but I assume that it was not for the vehicle he was driving at the time of the accident - The stolen vehicle the minor was driving belonged to the drunk minor’s Dad’s GF (the two later showed up at the scene and the girlfriend told police that she wanted to press charges) - The truck My friend is driving was towed to a lot because it is not drivable, But we are not certain that it’s totaled either. - Nobody is disputing whose fault the wreck was - everyone is in clear agreement that this kid - who should have been arrested minutes earlier had police listened to the caller - was lit off of something in conjunction with alcohol, and that he ran his car into my friends truck and knocked the whole axle loose and the drive train was dragging on the ground What do we do? Does he wait for this kid’s insurance to pay for his truck to get fixed, or is he supposed to get the vehicle out now? It doesn’t drive. There’s also a concern about whether or not this kids insurance will cover the damages since the vehicle was stolen, and if the kid or his parents will actually be able to pay for the damages. FYI - The truck is most likely totaled, if I had to guess. Does my friend file a civil suit against the kid even if he can’t pay? Should he go for a Hail Mary attempt to sue the city and/or police department for not responding to the man’s call when there were - as it became very clear - more than enough cops in the area to respond? They showed up at the scene of the accident in 30 seconds and they were seven of them there within 120 seconds. What’s the move here?
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hqpmtmt
| 1,640,919,369 | 1,640,975,996 | 10 | 14 |
The kids insurance, if he has any, isn’t going to pay for your friends damages, sorry to say.
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This is gonna be some harsh truths, but your friend completely and royally fucked himself in every possible way: 1. Insurance held by the owners of the stolen vehicle wont pay out because it was stolen at the time and not driven by approved drivers. They have no skin in this game. 2. Kid probably doesn't have insurance but they wont pay out because he was driving a car he was not allowed to because it was stolen. You could sue him/parents in court but I am nor sure how successful you will be on collecting. Additionally that amount is well beyond small claims so a lawyer is also required. 3. Your friend is fucked because he owes 30-35k on a car he let insurance lapse on. Insurance which was contractually required to be held as long as there was a lien on the car. So not only does he not have insurance to pay out the remaining value of the loan. The loan company will be getting involved to figure out how he will be immediately paying off the loan in full because there is no "secured asset" to reclaim. Its possible they may also file their own suit against your friend.
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legaladvice_train
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My friend and I were in his truck the other day and we were hit by a driver who was: 1) A minor - 17 years old 2) Incredibly intoxicated (visibly high on Xanax or similar + very drunk), 3) Driving a stolen vehicle. The driver was arrested after attempting to flee on foot. Here are some additional relevant circumstances/pieces of information: - The accident occurred in Texas - There is Dash cam footage of the entire wreck before, during and after from a local firefighter who happened to be waiting on a red light perpendicular to the direction of the two cars involved in the accident - There was a man in a car that had been following the drunk minor for 10 minutes with the 911 dispatcher on the phone trying to get them to “send an officer to pull this guy over before he hurts someone.” - Police never ended up trying to pull the minor over, but were somehow magically at the scene of the accident within 30 seconds. - My friend did not have insurance on the vehicle he was driving since his coverage had lapsed in November (though on Texas this usually shouldn’t made a difference as long as you’re not at fault for the accident - no citation was issued to him). - The drunk minor had Fred Loya insurance, and I don’t know this for a fact, but I assume that it was not for the vehicle he was driving at the time of the accident - The stolen vehicle the minor was driving belonged to the drunk minor’s Dad’s GF (the two later showed up at the scene and the girlfriend told police that she wanted to press charges) - The truck My friend is driving was towed to a lot because it is not drivable, But we are not certain that it’s totaled either. - Nobody is disputing whose fault the wreck was - everyone is in clear agreement that this kid - who should have been arrested minutes earlier had police listened to the caller - was lit off of something in conjunction with alcohol, and that he ran his car into my friends truck and knocked the whole axle loose and the drive train was dragging on the ground What do we do? Does he wait for this kid’s insurance to pay for his truck to get fixed, or is he supposed to get the vehicle out now? It doesn’t drive. There’s also a concern about whether or not this kids insurance will cover the damages since the vehicle was stolen, and if the kid or his parents will actually be able to pay for the damages. FYI - The truck is most likely totaled, if I had to guess. Does my friend file a civil suit against the kid even if he can’t pay? Should he go for a Hail Mary attempt to sue the city and/or police department for not responding to the man’s call when there were - as it became very clear - more than enough cops in the area to respond? They showed up at the scene of the accident in 30 seconds and they were seven of them there within 120 seconds. What’s the move here?
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hqpmtmt
| 1,640,967,266 | 1,640,975,996 | 4 | 14 |
Get the truck out before storage fees stack up if it’s at a tow yard. Keep good records of receipts in case you can collect later. Get some good photos of truck with time stamp. The old school way to do this is use today’s newspaper in the photo. Still a solid way to back up time of photos. Also get a checkup from your doctor. Some injuries aren’t immediately apparent. This is for your own health and safety, as well as documenting any injuries that you may want to include in a future lawsuit or insurance claim. If you have car insurance contact them as medical or uninsured motorist coverage may follow you. Don’t put these off as you don’t want to find some long term injury later and the bills that come with it.
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This is gonna be some harsh truths, but your friend completely and royally fucked himself in every possible way: 1. Insurance held by the owners of the stolen vehicle wont pay out because it was stolen at the time and not driven by approved drivers. They have no skin in this game. 2. Kid probably doesn't have insurance but they wont pay out because he was driving a car he was not allowed to because it was stolen. You could sue him/parents in court but I am nor sure how successful you will be on collecting. Additionally that amount is well beyond small claims so a lawyer is also required. 3. Your friend is fucked because he owes 30-35k on a car he let insurance lapse on. Insurance which was contractually required to be held as long as there was a lien on the car. So not only does he not have insurance to pay out the remaining value of the loan. The loan company will be getting involved to figure out how he will be immediately paying off the loan in full because there is no "secured asset" to reclaim. Its possible they may also file their own suit against your friend.
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rshxo9
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legaladvice_train
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My friend and I were in his truck the other day and we were hit by a driver who was: 1) A minor - 17 years old 2) Incredibly intoxicated (visibly high on Xanax or similar + very drunk), 3) Driving a stolen vehicle. The driver was arrested after attempting to flee on foot. Here are some additional relevant circumstances/pieces of information: - The accident occurred in Texas - There is Dash cam footage of the entire wreck before, during and after from a local firefighter who happened to be waiting on a red light perpendicular to the direction of the two cars involved in the accident - There was a man in a car that had been following the drunk minor for 10 minutes with the 911 dispatcher on the phone trying to get them to “send an officer to pull this guy over before he hurts someone.” - Police never ended up trying to pull the minor over, but were somehow magically at the scene of the accident within 30 seconds. - My friend did not have insurance on the vehicle he was driving since his coverage had lapsed in November (though on Texas this usually shouldn’t made a difference as long as you’re not at fault for the accident - no citation was issued to him). - The drunk minor had Fred Loya insurance, and I don’t know this for a fact, but I assume that it was not for the vehicle he was driving at the time of the accident - The stolen vehicle the minor was driving belonged to the drunk minor’s Dad’s GF (the two later showed up at the scene and the girlfriend told police that she wanted to press charges) - The truck My friend is driving was towed to a lot because it is not drivable, But we are not certain that it’s totaled either. - Nobody is disputing whose fault the wreck was - everyone is in clear agreement that this kid - who should have been arrested minutes earlier had police listened to the caller - was lit off of something in conjunction with alcohol, and that he ran his car into my friends truck and knocked the whole axle loose and the drive train was dragging on the ground What do we do? Does he wait for this kid’s insurance to pay for his truck to get fixed, or is he supposed to get the vehicle out now? It doesn’t drive. There’s also a concern about whether or not this kids insurance will cover the damages since the vehicle was stolen, and if the kid or his parents will actually be able to pay for the damages. FYI - The truck is most likely totaled, if I had to guess. Does my friend file a civil suit against the kid even if he can’t pay? Should he go for a Hail Mary attempt to sue the city and/or police department for not responding to the man’s call when there were - as it became very clear - more than enough cops in the area to respond? They showed up at the scene of the accident in 30 seconds and they were seven of them there within 120 seconds. What’s the move here?
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hqnqeeb
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hqpmtmt
| 1,640,937,678 | 1,640,975,996 | 3 | 14 |
Generally car insurance follows the car. Gf may be on the hook and or Dad, as dad is responsible for kids actions.
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This is gonna be some harsh truths, but your friend completely and royally fucked himself in every possible way: 1. Insurance held by the owners of the stolen vehicle wont pay out because it was stolen at the time and not driven by approved drivers. They have no skin in this game. 2. Kid probably doesn't have insurance but they wont pay out because he was driving a car he was not allowed to because it was stolen. You could sue him/parents in court but I am nor sure how successful you will be on collecting. Additionally that amount is well beyond small claims so a lawyer is also required. 3. Your friend is fucked because he owes 30-35k on a car he let insurance lapse on. Insurance which was contractually required to be held as long as there was a lien on the car. So not only does he not have insurance to pay out the remaining value of the loan. The loan company will be getting involved to figure out how he will be immediately paying off the loan in full because there is no "secured asset" to reclaim. Its possible they may also file their own suit against your friend.
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rshxo9
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legaladvice_train
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My friend and I were in his truck the other day and we were hit by a driver who was: 1) A minor - 17 years old 2) Incredibly intoxicated (visibly high on Xanax or similar + very drunk), 3) Driving a stolen vehicle. The driver was arrested after attempting to flee on foot. Here are some additional relevant circumstances/pieces of information: - The accident occurred in Texas - There is Dash cam footage of the entire wreck before, during and after from a local firefighter who happened to be waiting on a red light perpendicular to the direction of the two cars involved in the accident - There was a man in a car that had been following the drunk minor for 10 minutes with the 911 dispatcher on the phone trying to get them to “send an officer to pull this guy over before he hurts someone.” - Police never ended up trying to pull the minor over, but were somehow magically at the scene of the accident within 30 seconds. - My friend did not have insurance on the vehicle he was driving since his coverage had lapsed in November (though on Texas this usually shouldn’t made a difference as long as you’re not at fault for the accident - no citation was issued to him). - The drunk minor had Fred Loya insurance, and I don’t know this for a fact, but I assume that it was not for the vehicle he was driving at the time of the accident - The stolen vehicle the minor was driving belonged to the drunk minor’s Dad’s GF (the two later showed up at the scene and the girlfriend told police that she wanted to press charges) - The truck My friend is driving was towed to a lot because it is not drivable, But we are not certain that it’s totaled either. - Nobody is disputing whose fault the wreck was - everyone is in clear agreement that this kid - who should have been arrested minutes earlier had police listened to the caller - was lit off of something in conjunction with alcohol, and that he ran his car into my friends truck and knocked the whole axle loose and the drive train was dragging on the ground What do we do? Does he wait for this kid’s insurance to pay for his truck to get fixed, or is he supposed to get the vehicle out now? It doesn’t drive. There’s also a concern about whether or not this kids insurance will cover the damages since the vehicle was stolen, and if the kid or his parents will actually be able to pay for the damages. FYI - The truck is most likely totaled, if I had to guess. Does my friend file a civil suit against the kid even if he can’t pay? Should he go for a Hail Mary attempt to sue the city and/or police department for not responding to the man’s call when there were - as it became very clear - more than enough cops in the area to respond? They showed up at the scene of the accident in 30 seconds and they were seven of them there within 120 seconds. What’s the move here?
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hqnqeeb
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hqp1d2d
| 1,640,937,678 | 1,640,967,266 | 3 | 4 |
Generally car insurance follows the car. Gf may be on the hook and or Dad, as dad is responsible for kids actions.
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Get the truck out before storage fees stack up if it’s at a tow yard. Keep good records of receipts in case you can collect later. Get some good photos of truck with time stamp. The old school way to do this is use today’s newspaper in the photo. Still a solid way to back up time of photos. Also get a checkup from your doctor. Some injuries aren’t immediately apparent. This is for your own health and safety, as well as documenting any injuries that you may want to include in a future lawsuit or insurance claim. If you have car insurance contact them as medical or uninsured motorist coverage may follow you. Don’t put these off as you don’t want to find some long term injury later and the bills that come with it.
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Progressive added a driver and drove my premium up 300 dollars without telling me. I woke up to my bank app angrily chirping out me. My account had been overdrawn. Progressive pulled 437 dollars out of my account. I only ever payed 137. When I called they said they added drivers that were at my address and sent me a letter. To make matters worse, they assumed the driver was 16 and had never driven before. Hence the 300 dollar premium. I had auto payment on and I was given no notice on the app, e-mail, or phone. When I called progressive; they told me that if I could provide driver information, they would refund me a 100 dollars. That’s a fucking joke. My bank won’t cancel the charges. What can I do?
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ib31i7k
| 1,654,308,698 | 1,654,292,443 | 174 | 87 |
This exact thing just happened to me, except it was $700 extra. I called and talked to many people there. In the end I had to cancel the policy and go somewhere else. I will never do business with them again. They told me if I had 20 people here and none had insurance I would be responsible for everyone. What happens if you live in a rooming house? I was under their policy for over 10 years, they didn't care at all.
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Insurance agent here. Many insurance companies do what is called a drivers license address match. They search for drivers at residences that have not been declared on insurance policies. They do this because many people have drivers that drive their cars regularly that either are young drivers or drivers with questionable records that they don’t want to add to their policy so that they don’t pay the additional premium. If this person is a resident of your household and or related to you the only thing you can do is sign an exclusion form stating that if they drive your vehicle and have an accident they won’t be covered. If the person is not and has never been a resident of your household you can have them removed from the date that they were added so that you don’t incur any charges.
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| 0.98 |
Progressive added a driver and drove my premium up 300 dollars without telling me. I woke up to my bank app angrily chirping out me. My account had been overdrawn. Progressive pulled 437 dollars out of my account. I only ever payed 137. When I called they said they added drivers that were at my address and sent me a letter. To make matters worse, they assumed the driver was 16 and had never driven before. Hence the 300 dollar premium. I had auto payment on and I was given no notice on the app, e-mail, or phone. When I called progressive; they told me that if I could provide driver information, they would refund me a 100 dollars. That’s a fucking joke. My bank won’t cancel the charges. What can I do?
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ib3u8g0
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ib1ic7l
| 1,654,308,698 | 1,654,267,188 | 174 | 85 |
This exact thing just happened to me, except it was $700 extra. I called and talked to many people there. In the end I had to cancel the policy and go somewhere else. I will never do business with them again. They told me if I had 20 people here and none had insurance I would be responsible for everyone. What happens if you live in a rooming house? I was under their policy for over 10 years, they didn't care at all.
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try /r/insurance for advice from insurance professionals on this. Include your state.
| 1 | 41,510 | 2.047059 |
v40ovv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
Progressive added a driver and drove my premium up 300 dollars without telling me. I woke up to my bank app angrily chirping out me. My account had been overdrawn. Progressive pulled 437 dollars out of my account. I only ever payed 137. When I called they said they added drivers that were at my address and sent me a letter. To make matters worse, they assumed the driver was 16 and had never driven before. Hence the 300 dollar premium. I had auto payment on and I was given no notice on the app, e-mail, or phone. When I called progressive; they told me that if I could provide driver information, they would refund me a 100 dollars. That’s a fucking joke. My bank won’t cancel the charges. What can I do?
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ib3u8g0
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ib25jtw
| 1,654,308,698 | 1,654,277,141 | 174 | 24 |
This exact thing just happened to me, except it was $700 extra. I called and talked to many people there. In the end I had to cancel the policy and go somewhere else. I will never do business with them again. They told me if I had 20 people here and none had insurance I would be responsible for everyone. What happens if you live in a rooming house? I was under their policy for over 10 years, they didn't care at all.
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Not a lawyer but I am a Progressive agent. Almost every insurance company's guidelines state that every licensed driver in the household should be listed on the policy. And I can 100% guarantee they *did* notify you and you probably thought it was spam if it was an email or junk mail if it was physical mail. The good news is that if you send them a copy of your girlfriend's dec page or ID card this problem should go away.
| 1 | 31,557 | 7.25 |
v40ovv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
Progressive added a driver and drove my premium up 300 dollars without telling me. I woke up to my bank app angrily chirping out me. My account had been overdrawn. Progressive pulled 437 dollars out of my account. I only ever payed 137. When I called they said they added drivers that were at my address and sent me a letter. To make matters worse, they assumed the driver was 16 and had never driven before. Hence the 300 dollar premium. I had auto payment on and I was given no notice on the app, e-mail, or phone. When I called progressive; they told me that if I could provide driver information, they would refund me a 100 dollars. That’s a fucking joke. My bank won’t cancel the charges. What can I do?
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ib31i7k
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ib1ic7l
| 1,654,292,443 | 1,654,267,188 | 87 | 85 |
Insurance agent here. Many insurance companies do what is called a drivers license address match. They search for drivers at residences that have not been declared on insurance policies. They do this because many people have drivers that drive their cars regularly that either are young drivers or drivers with questionable records that they don’t want to add to their policy so that they don’t pay the additional premium. If this person is a resident of your household and or related to you the only thing you can do is sign an exclusion form stating that if they drive your vehicle and have an accident they won’t be covered. If the person is not and has never been a resident of your household you can have them removed from the date that they were added so that you don’t incur any charges.
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try /r/insurance for advice from insurance professionals on this. Include your state.
| 1 | 25,255 | 1.023529 |
v40ovv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
Progressive added a driver and drove my premium up 300 dollars without telling me. I woke up to my bank app angrily chirping out me. My account had been overdrawn. Progressive pulled 437 dollars out of my account. I only ever payed 137. When I called they said they added drivers that were at my address and sent me a letter. To make matters worse, they assumed the driver was 16 and had never driven before. Hence the 300 dollar premium. I had auto payment on and I was given no notice on the app, e-mail, or phone. When I called progressive; they told me that if I could provide driver information, they would refund me a 100 dollars. That’s a fucking joke. My bank won’t cancel the charges. What can I do?
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ib25jtw
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ib31i7k
| 1,654,277,141 | 1,654,292,443 | 24 | 87 |
Not a lawyer but I am a Progressive agent. Almost every insurance company's guidelines state that every licensed driver in the household should be listed on the policy. And I can 100% guarantee they *did* notify you and you probably thought it was spam if it was an email or junk mail if it was physical mail. The good news is that if you send them a copy of your girlfriend's dec page or ID card this problem should go away.
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Insurance agent here. Many insurance companies do what is called a drivers license address match. They search for drivers at residences that have not been declared on insurance policies. They do this because many people have drivers that drive their cars regularly that either are young drivers or drivers with questionable records that they don’t want to add to their policy so that they don’t pay the additional premium. If this person is a resident of your household and or related to you the only thing you can do is sign an exclusion form stating that if they drive your vehicle and have an accident they won’t be covered. If the person is not and has never been a resident of your household you can have them removed from the date that they were added so that you don’t incur any charges.
| 0 | 15,302 | 3.625 |
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