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s3b484
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Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hsluelg
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hslelnh
| 1,642,150,096 | 1,642,139,396 | 44 | 6 |
Not a lawyer but this appears to be an escalation and I'd be concerned for your girlfriend. Whilst it won't protect against things now, keeping a record of the harassment will help later on if it keeps getting worse. Get advice from a women's safety org or stalking charity on the best way to keep records, and any actions she can take to protect herself.
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Go to the police immediately.
| 1 | 10,700 | 7.333333 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskhdc2
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hsluelg
| 1,642,123,706 | 1,642,150,096 | 5 | 44 |
Could you claim it through your car insurance? Maybe send the guy the repair bill, your insurer might be able to help out with that?
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Not a lawyer but this appears to be an escalation and I'd be concerned for your girlfriend. Whilst it won't protect against things now, keeping a record of the harassment will help later on if it keeps getting worse. Get advice from a women's safety org or stalking charity on the best way to keep records, and any actions she can take to protect herself.
| 0 | 26,390 | 8.8 |
s3b484
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hsknvwb
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hsluelg
| 1,642,126,511 | 1,642,150,096 | 3 | 44 |
The police likely won't be much help because they're just going to ask her job for footage and likely come up empty handed but I'd still do a report. You could file an insurance claim but his auto insurance likely won't pay. I'm a claims adjuster and contracts typically have an exclusion for intentional or illegal acts.
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Not a lawyer but this appears to be an escalation and I'd be concerned for your girlfriend. Whilst it won't protect against things now, keeping a record of the harassment will help later on if it keeps getting worse. Get advice from a women's safety org or stalking charity on the best way to keep records, and any actions she can take to protect herself.
| 0 | 23,585 | 14.666667 |
s3b484
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskwvu1
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hskh5f8
| 1,642,130,488 | 1,642,123,612 | 13 | 11 |
Call the police. File a claim with your insurance company. Provide the police report to your insurance company. Have your girlfriend file for a civil restraining order against this individual. Use the police report as part of the supporting evidence along with any other details of harassment. When getting an RO, you will first be given a temporary restraining order and that will be done ex parte. Serve the TRO on this guy and at that point your girlfriend's place of employment will have no choice but to make sure that they are not scheduled for the same shifts and they might potentially fire him or temporarily suspend him. They might also fire and/or temporarily suspend your girlfriend. File a small claims lawsuit against him to recover money not covered by your insurance company.
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Yes you should report it. For no other reason than to discourage him from doing this kind of stuff again. If got away with it once he’ll do something else again. Like others have said this will create the paper trail on him and likely sounds like he may already have a record. This won’t help him but may not help you in the immediate timeframe. Also like others have stated that a company should take harassment seriously. If they don’t then its also a sign of how they will treat their employees in the future and maybe consider looking for another job.
| 1 | 6,876 | 1.181818 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskwvu1
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hskv315
| 1,642,130,488 | 1,642,129,670 | 13 | 10 |
Call the police. File a claim with your insurance company. Provide the police report to your insurance company. Have your girlfriend file for a civil restraining order against this individual. Use the police report as part of the supporting evidence along with any other details of harassment. When getting an RO, you will first be given a temporary restraining order and that will be done ex parte. Serve the TRO on this guy and at that point your girlfriend's place of employment will have no choice but to make sure that they are not scheduled for the same shifts and they might potentially fire him or temporarily suspend him. They might also fire and/or temporarily suspend your girlfriend. File a small claims lawsuit against him to recover money not covered by your insurance company.
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Any other businesses in the area that might have cctv covering the lot?
| 1 | 818 | 1.3 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskb0er
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hskwvu1
| 1,642,120,981 | 1,642,130,488 | 6 | 13 |
File a police report and have them pay for the damages
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Call the police. File a claim with your insurance company. Provide the police report to your insurance company. Have your girlfriend file for a civil restraining order against this individual. Use the police report as part of the supporting evidence along with any other details of harassment. When getting an RO, you will first be given a temporary restraining order and that will be done ex parte. Serve the TRO on this guy and at that point your girlfriend's place of employment will have no choice but to make sure that they are not scheduled for the same shifts and they might potentially fire him or temporarily suspend him. They might also fire and/or temporarily suspend your girlfriend. File a small claims lawsuit against him to recover money not covered by your insurance company.
| 0 | 9,507 | 2.166667 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskwvu1
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hskhdc2
| 1,642,130,488 | 1,642,123,706 | 13 | 5 |
Call the police. File a claim with your insurance company. Provide the police report to your insurance company. Have your girlfriend file for a civil restraining order against this individual. Use the police report as part of the supporting evidence along with any other details of harassment. When getting an RO, you will first be given a temporary restraining order and that will be done ex parte. Serve the TRO on this guy and at that point your girlfriend's place of employment will have no choice but to make sure that they are not scheduled for the same shifts and they might potentially fire him or temporarily suspend him. They might also fire and/or temporarily suspend your girlfriend. File a small claims lawsuit against him to recover money not covered by your insurance company.
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Could you claim it through your car insurance? Maybe send the guy the repair bill, your insurer might be able to help out with that?
| 1 | 6,782 | 2.6 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hsknvwb
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hskwvu1
| 1,642,126,511 | 1,642,130,488 | 3 | 13 |
The police likely won't be much help because they're just going to ask her job for footage and likely come up empty handed but I'd still do a report. You could file an insurance claim but his auto insurance likely won't pay. I'm a claims adjuster and contracts typically have an exclusion for intentional or illegal acts.
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Call the police. File a claim with your insurance company. Provide the police report to your insurance company. Have your girlfriend file for a civil restraining order against this individual. Use the police report as part of the supporting evidence along with any other details of harassment. When getting an RO, you will first be given a temporary restraining order and that will be done ex parte. Serve the TRO on this guy and at that point your girlfriend's place of employment will have no choice but to make sure that they are not scheduled for the same shifts and they might potentially fire him or temporarily suspend him. They might also fire and/or temporarily suspend your girlfriend. File a small claims lawsuit against him to recover money not covered by your insurance company.
| 0 | 3,977 | 4.333333 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskh5f8
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hskb0er
| 1,642,123,612 | 1,642,120,981 | 11 | 6 |
Yes you should report it. For no other reason than to discourage him from doing this kind of stuff again. If got away with it once he’ll do something else again. Like others have said this will create the paper trail on him and likely sounds like he may already have a record. This won’t help him but may not help you in the immediate timeframe. Also like others have stated that a company should take harassment seriously. If they don’t then its also a sign of how they will treat their employees in the future and maybe consider looking for another job.
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File a police report and have them pay for the damages
| 1 | 2,631 | 1.833333 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskb0er
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hskv315
| 1,642,120,981 | 1,642,129,670 | 6 | 10 |
File a police report and have them pay for the damages
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Any other businesses in the area that might have cctv covering the lot?
| 0 | 8,689 | 1.666667 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskhdc2
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hskv315
| 1,642,123,706 | 1,642,129,670 | 5 | 10 |
Could you claim it through your car insurance? Maybe send the guy the repair bill, your insurer might be able to help out with that?
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Any other businesses in the area that might have cctv covering the lot?
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s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskv315
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hsknvwb
| 1,642,129,670 | 1,642,126,511 | 10 | 3 |
Any other businesses in the area that might have cctv covering the lot?
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The police likely won't be much help because they're just going to ask her job for footage and likely come up empty handed but I'd still do a report. You could file an insurance claim but his auto insurance likely won't pay. I'm a claims adjuster and contracts typically have an exclusion for intentional or illegal acts.
| 1 | 3,159 | 3.333333 |
s3b484
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hskhdc2
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hslelnh
| 1,642,123,706 | 1,642,139,396 | 5 | 6 |
Could you claim it through your car insurance? Maybe send the guy the repair bill, your insurer might be able to help out with that?
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Go to the police immediately.
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s3b484
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Let my lady borrow my car to go to work and her jealous coworker keyed my car, what do I do? My girlfriends's car broke down recently and I had classes to attend yesterday (Jan 12) so I just let her take my car to work. Her coworker, with whom I've already had a ton of problems (mostly over him being in love with my girlfriend), keyed the trunk of my car while he was drunk at work. My GF was on her lunch break when he approached her and made a remark along the lines of "I just keyed your boyfriend's car." He then played it off with "I didn't, but I might if you keep parking it near me or driving it." She knew he was at least kind of drunk so she really didn't think anything of it until she got off work and saw that he had scratched my trunk from taillight to taillight. I waited until the today (Jan 13th) for my GF to talk to her employers to see if they had the footage before I reported anything but unfortunately they don't have security cameras in the parking lot and, believe it or not, dude is denying that he did it to their bosses. In turn they tell her that it's a "he-said-she-said" situation and there's nothing they can do to punish him, that contacting the police will more than likely end in the same result and that in order to quell this she should simply avoid him. Does anyone know what are my options here? Do I just file a police report with no evidence aside from him semi-admitting to her that he did it? Is there anything we can do about her employers essentially turning a blind eye to the harassment/ property damage? Can they be found partially responsible? Are they right about the police also being of no use?
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hslelnh
| 1,642,126,511 | 1,642,139,396 | 3 | 6 |
The police likely won't be much help because they're just going to ask her job for footage and likely come up empty handed but I'd still do a report. You could file an insurance claim but his auto insurance likely won't pay. I'm a claims adjuster and contracts typically have an exclusion for intentional or illegal acts.
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Go to the police immediately.
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45bvlz
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[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czwotea
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czwosr9
| 1,455,235,949 | 1,455,235,922 | 243 | 7 |
Great news! Glad to hear you found a way to work around such ignorance. Make your grandma a card - they love that stuff.
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Glad to hear everything worked out in the end OP. Good luck on your trip.
| 1 | 27 | 34.714286 |
45bvlz
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legaladvice_train
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[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czwp3wr
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czwov7e
| 1,455,236,441 | 1,455,236,033 | 196 | 36 |
Read original thread; great news. That doctor deserves to have his medical license stripped. As long as you got the sign-off from your doctor stating that you have the necessary vaccinations to travel to Namibia, you're good to go.
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Cheers for the update OP, your grandma's a boss. Have fun in Namibia!
| 1 | 408 | 5.444444 |
45bvlz
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legaladvice_train
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[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czwosr9
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czwp3wr
| 1,455,235,922 | 1,455,236,441 | 7 | 196 |
Glad to hear everything worked out in the end OP. Good luck on your trip.
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Read original thread; great news. That doctor deserves to have his medical license stripped. As long as you got the sign-off from your doctor stating that you have the necessary vaccinations to travel to Namibia, you're good to go.
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45bvlz
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legaladvice_train
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[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czwosr9
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czwov7e
| 1,455,235,922 | 1,455,236,033 | 7 | 36 |
Glad to hear everything worked out in the end OP. Good luck on your trip.
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Cheers for the update OP, your grandma's a boss. Have fun in Namibia!
| 0 | 111 | 5.142857 |
45bvlz
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legaladvice_train
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[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czwy8is
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czwosr9
| 1,455,250,898 | 1,455,235,922 | 11 | 7 |
This is good to hear, but perhaps one of the lawyers here can set my mind at ease. If the father finds out, is there any way he could get the Grandmother in trouble, since she isn't the legal guardian, yet facilitated these vaccinations?
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Glad to hear everything worked out in the end OP. Good luck on your trip.
| 1 | 14,976 | 1.571429 |
45bvlz
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czww0ol
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czwy8is
| 1,455,247,422 | 1,455,250,898 | 5 | 11 |
Good job! Have fun in Namibia.
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This is good to hear, but perhaps one of the lawyers here can set my mind at ease. If the father finds out, is there any way he could get the Grandmother in trouble, since she isn't the legal guardian, yet facilitated these vaccinations?
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45bvlz
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legaladvice_train
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[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czx3sqz
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czwosr9
| 1,455,264,495 | 1,455,235,922 | 10 | 7 |
Also a reminder that you'll probably need a meningitis vaccine before you go to college.
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Glad to hear everything worked out in the end OP. Good luck on your trip.
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45bvlz
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legaladvice_train
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[Update] I'm 16 and my dad refuses to get me vaccinated, him and our doctor falsify vaccine papers so my school thinks I am up to date but I'm not. Original post: https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/3xaz7x/ny_im_16_and_my_dad_refuses_to_get_me_vaccinated/ Turns out my grandma had a record of which vaccines I really had recieved. I went to the travel doctor explained the situation and was given a tetanus booster, polio booster, and hepatitis A. I was told I have to come back to get more later as well. Grandma paid for everything and I haven't told my dad I got vaccinated. I reported my original doctor that was falsifying the papers but nothing that I know of has happened yet. New doctor said I am all set to Namibia.
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czww0ol
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czx3sqz
| 1,455,247,422 | 1,455,264,495 | 5 | 10 |
Good job! Have fun in Namibia.
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Also a reminder that you'll probably need a meningitis vaccine before you go to college.
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li56hq
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Nursing home sent my dad to ER and after treatment discharged him and called him a taxi. Taxi did not return him to the facility and now nursing home won’t allow him to return. By the end of the night he ended up in jail. Is this malpractice? Negligence? What do I do? My dad was living with undiagnosed hep C for god knows how long and only discovered that it had caused cirrhosis after he had passed out in a grocery store parking lot and was taken to a hospital by ambulance. He was unable to keep up with his medications and developed chronic liver disease. I live 5 hours away from him and assumed he was taking care of himself, i talked to him about his doctors appointments and picking up his medications. When I visited him this past summer I found drawers full of his medications that he just wasn’t taking. He was completely emaciated, confused, and displaying bizarre behavior. He refused to seek medical treatment. My siblings and I ended up having to get him court committed to a hospital. His ammonia levels were sky high causing the altered mental state and he had 3 Liters of abdominal fluid drained from his body. Once he was released from that initial hospital visit, his mental state was completely back to normal. He said he didn’t even remember any of us being there through this week long endeavor and didn’t know how he got to the hospital. He was placed into a nursing facility to maintain his care while he was taking the steps toward a transplant.. Last week the nursing facility had him admitted to the hospital where he again had fluid drained from his abdomen and was treated for his high ammonia levels. My brother received a call from someone from the hospital telling him my dad only had a couple weeks to live and he would be going on hospice, she would call him back with more information the following day. I called the hospital the next day and they had nothing in his files about hospice or this two week timeline. She told me his ammonia levels were almost back to normal and that he just needs to make sure to take his medications when he goes home. To which I replied that he lives in a nursing a home, they should be maintaining his prescriptions. She just said oh. So I asked is the cause of this because he wasn’t taking his meds? Or is there anyway that the effects of these meds would lessen over time? Is the nursing home not giving him his medications? And she said well I can’t answer that you’d Have to talk to The doctor, who was impossible to get ahold of...my sister in law finally talked to a doctor who was pretty upset about that hospice call. She said that information was not accurate and if it had been,hospice would have been something they talked about with my dad and only if he wanted to stop seeking medical treatment and go on hospice would they notify the family, and that just wasn’t the case. She acknowledged that his case was serious and he had a short window of opportunity to go forward with various procedures, but his health was steady enough now to go forward with his next procedure. It just needed to be done timely. She was going to get in contact with specialists/surgeons and call her back by tomorrow morning. Well, tonight the hospital social worker called my sister in law and said he was discharged. We all assumed that meant he was on his way back to the facility. A while later my brother gets a call from the police department because my dad was found in a Walmart in a neighboring town shoplifting. My brother went to pick him up and explained the situation and the cops let him take him back to the nursing home. Turns out that the hospital ED had just called him a taxi, that apparently dropped him off at a Walmart. My brother drove him the hour to the nursing home where they refused to let him in because they said he had been too aggressive. My brother said that he was behaving very strangely and he then tried to take him to the local hospital because he does not have the means to care for him or any of the medication he requires. While there he was combative with doctors and was threatening them, police were called, and now he is in jail. I am at a loss for words. I don’t understand how this happened and I don’t know where to go from here.
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gn2o05d
| 1,613,122,195 | 1,613,147,936 | 60 | 79 |
Get a lawyer. this is confusing and there seems to have been malpractice from multiple institutions. This is above Reddit’s pay grade.
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Not a lawyer, am an RN. Your dad left the hospital Against Medical Advice (AMA). This is a common story that plays out every day in every major hospital in the country. If a patient is physically and mentally capable of getting out of bed and walking out of the hospital, staff can't physically restrain them without an involuntary psych hold. Pretty much the only thing they can do is call a cab. If they have nowhere else to go and their medical problems aren't magically resolved, they receive increasing poor care as they rotate from ED to nursing home to homelessness/jail and back again in a vicious cycle. I suspect you sense this deep down, and I'm sorry to be the stranger on the internet telling you, but your dad probably isn't going to make it more than a few years. From what I've seen, the ones that break the cycle do so because of a major improvement in resources like a well-off family member paying for high-quality private care. Barring that, your Hail Mary is a really good case manager from a payer (medicare or private insurance) who might be able to smooth-talk a decent facility into accepting him. I'm truly sorry for you - your dad is a victim of our needlessly fucked-up system, and my best advice for you right now is to draw everyone who cares about him into the conversation asap and make one of you (either yourself, a competent aunt/uncle, or a willing family member with medical training) the medical POA.
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li56hq
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| 0.96 |
Nursing home sent my dad to ER and after treatment discharged him and called him a taxi. Taxi did not return him to the facility and now nursing home won’t allow him to return. By the end of the night he ended up in jail. Is this malpractice? Negligence? What do I do? My dad was living with undiagnosed hep C for god knows how long and only discovered that it had caused cirrhosis after he had passed out in a grocery store parking lot and was taken to a hospital by ambulance. He was unable to keep up with his medications and developed chronic liver disease. I live 5 hours away from him and assumed he was taking care of himself, i talked to him about his doctors appointments and picking up his medications. When I visited him this past summer I found drawers full of his medications that he just wasn’t taking. He was completely emaciated, confused, and displaying bizarre behavior. He refused to seek medical treatment. My siblings and I ended up having to get him court committed to a hospital. His ammonia levels were sky high causing the altered mental state and he had 3 Liters of abdominal fluid drained from his body. Once he was released from that initial hospital visit, his mental state was completely back to normal. He said he didn’t even remember any of us being there through this week long endeavor and didn’t know how he got to the hospital. He was placed into a nursing facility to maintain his care while he was taking the steps toward a transplant.. Last week the nursing facility had him admitted to the hospital where he again had fluid drained from his abdomen and was treated for his high ammonia levels. My brother received a call from someone from the hospital telling him my dad only had a couple weeks to live and he would be going on hospice, she would call him back with more information the following day. I called the hospital the next day and they had nothing in his files about hospice or this two week timeline. She told me his ammonia levels were almost back to normal and that he just needs to make sure to take his medications when he goes home. To which I replied that he lives in a nursing a home, they should be maintaining his prescriptions. She just said oh. So I asked is the cause of this because he wasn’t taking his meds? Or is there anyway that the effects of these meds would lessen over time? Is the nursing home not giving him his medications? And she said well I can’t answer that you’d Have to talk to The doctor, who was impossible to get ahold of...my sister in law finally talked to a doctor who was pretty upset about that hospice call. She said that information was not accurate and if it had been,hospice would have been something they talked about with my dad and only if he wanted to stop seeking medical treatment and go on hospice would they notify the family, and that just wasn’t the case. She acknowledged that his case was serious and he had a short window of opportunity to go forward with various procedures, but his health was steady enough now to go forward with his next procedure. It just needed to be done timely. She was going to get in contact with specialists/surgeons and call her back by tomorrow morning. Well, tonight the hospital social worker called my sister in law and said he was discharged. We all assumed that meant he was on his way back to the facility. A while later my brother gets a call from the police department because my dad was found in a Walmart in a neighboring town shoplifting. My brother went to pick him up and explained the situation and the cops let him take him back to the nursing home. Turns out that the hospital ED had just called him a taxi, that apparently dropped him off at a Walmart. My brother drove him the hour to the nursing home where they refused to let him in because they said he had been too aggressive. My brother said that he was behaving very strangely and he then tried to take him to the local hospital because he does not have the means to care for him or any of the medication he requires. While there he was combative with doctors and was threatening them, police were called, and now he is in jail. I am at a loss for words. I don’t understand how this happened and I don’t know where to go from here.
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gn28wx5
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gn2o05d
| 1,613,140,922 | 1,613,147,936 | 49 | 79 |
I am not a lawyer I'm a paralegal and as former patient in a nursing home facility for almost two years my advice is to contact the ombudsman of the state where your father lives, also a lawyer specializing in geriatric healthcare/HIPAA law
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Not a lawyer, am an RN. Your dad left the hospital Against Medical Advice (AMA). This is a common story that plays out every day in every major hospital in the country. If a patient is physically and mentally capable of getting out of bed and walking out of the hospital, staff can't physically restrain them without an involuntary psych hold. Pretty much the only thing they can do is call a cab. If they have nowhere else to go and their medical problems aren't magically resolved, they receive increasing poor care as they rotate from ED to nursing home to homelessness/jail and back again in a vicious cycle. I suspect you sense this deep down, and I'm sorry to be the stranger on the internet telling you, but your dad probably isn't going to make it more than a few years. From what I've seen, the ones that break the cycle do so because of a major improvement in resources like a well-off family member paying for high-quality private care. Barring that, your Hail Mary is a really good case manager from a payer (medicare or private insurance) who might be able to smooth-talk a decent facility into accepting him. I'm truly sorry for you - your dad is a victim of our needlessly fucked-up system, and my best advice for you right now is to draw everyone who cares about him into the conversation asap and make one of you (either yourself, a competent aunt/uncle, or a willing family member with medical training) the medical POA.
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li56hq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
Nursing home sent my dad to ER and after treatment discharged him and called him a taxi. Taxi did not return him to the facility and now nursing home won’t allow him to return. By the end of the night he ended up in jail. Is this malpractice? Negligence? What do I do? My dad was living with undiagnosed hep C for god knows how long and only discovered that it had caused cirrhosis after he had passed out in a grocery store parking lot and was taken to a hospital by ambulance. He was unable to keep up with his medications and developed chronic liver disease. I live 5 hours away from him and assumed he was taking care of himself, i talked to him about his doctors appointments and picking up his medications. When I visited him this past summer I found drawers full of his medications that he just wasn’t taking. He was completely emaciated, confused, and displaying bizarre behavior. He refused to seek medical treatment. My siblings and I ended up having to get him court committed to a hospital. His ammonia levels were sky high causing the altered mental state and he had 3 Liters of abdominal fluid drained from his body. Once he was released from that initial hospital visit, his mental state was completely back to normal. He said he didn’t even remember any of us being there through this week long endeavor and didn’t know how he got to the hospital. He was placed into a nursing facility to maintain his care while he was taking the steps toward a transplant.. Last week the nursing facility had him admitted to the hospital where he again had fluid drained from his abdomen and was treated for his high ammonia levels. My brother received a call from someone from the hospital telling him my dad only had a couple weeks to live and he would be going on hospice, she would call him back with more information the following day. I called the hospital the next day and they had nothing in his files about hospice or this two week timeline. She told me his ammonia levels were almost back to normal and that he just needs to make sure to take his medications when he goes home. To which I replied that he lives in a nursing a home, they should be maintaining his prescriptions. She just said oh. So I asked is the cause of this because he wasn’t taking his meds? Or is there anyway that the effects of these meds would lessen over time? Is the nursing home not giving him his medications? And she said well I can’t answer that you’d Have to talk to The doctor, who was impossible to get ahold of...my sister in law finally talked to a doctor who was pretty upset about that hospice call. She said that information was not accurate and if it had been,hospice would have been something they talked about with my dad and only if he wanted to stop seeking medical treatment and go on hospice would they notify the family, and that just wasn’t the case. She acknowledged that his case was serious and he had a short window of opportunity to go forward with various procedures, but his health was steady enough now to go forward with his next procedure. It just needed to be done timely. She was going to get in contact with specialists/surgeons and call her back by tomorrow morning. Well, tonight the hospital social worker called my sister in law and said he was discharged. We all assumed that meant he was on his way back to the facility. A while later my brother gets a call from the police department because my dad was found in a Walmart in a neighboring town shoplifting. My brother went to pick him up and explained the situation and the cops let him take him back to the nursing home. Turns out that the hospital ED had just called him a taxi, that apparently dropped him off at a Walmart. My brother drove him the hour to the nursing home where they refused to let him in because they said he had been too aggressive. My brother said that he was behaving very strangely and he then tried to take him to the local hospital because he does not have the means to care for him or any of the medication he requires. While there he was combative with doctors and was threatening them, police were called, and now he is in jail. I am at a loss for words. I don’t understand how this happened and I don’t know where to go from here.
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gn2il25
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gn2o05d
| 1,613,145,485 | 1,613,147,936 | 7 | 79 |
Not a lawyer but work in the hospital system. Nursing homes can be reported to their state licensing board, this has a patient dumping flavor. On the other hand, I'm curious about the taxi vs ambulance scenario after discharge. If the patient is of sound mind and directs the taxi to drop them off at x vs y location no one is liable but the patient. Usually hospitals would do an ambulance discharge to the placement location or the family or nursing home staff would do the pickup.
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Not a lawyer, am an RN. Your dad left the hospital Against Medical Advice (AMA). This is a common story that plays out every day in every major hospital in the country. If a patient is physically and mentally capable of getting out of bed and walking out of the hospital, staff can't physically restrain them without an involuntary psych hold. Pretty much the only thing they can do is call a cab. If they have nowhere else to go and their medical problems aren't magically resolved, they receive increasing poor care as they rotate from ED to nursing home to homelessness/jail and back again in a vicious cycle. I suspect you sense this deep down, and I'm sorry to be the stranger on the internet telling you, but your dad probably isn't going to make it more than a few years. From what I've seen, the ones that break the cycle do so because of a major improvement in resources like a well-off family member paying for high-quality private care. Barring that, your Hail Mary is a really good case manager from a payer (medicare or private insurance) who might be able to smooth-talk a decent facility into accepting him. I'm truly sorry for you - your dad is a victim of our needlessly fucked-up system, and my best advice for you right now is to draw everyone who cares about him into the conversation asap and make one of you (either yourself, a competent aunt/uncle, or a willing family member with medical training) the medical POA.
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3vuyzz
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My work used a cell phone jammer to stop employees from using their phones at work and someone had a heart attack and died because no one could call an ambulance I'm trying to settle a debate. My work has a strict no cell phone use policy while we are on premises and working. People have been let go for having their phones out in the open and to stop people from covertly using their phone they would use cell phone jammers on the property. Someone in the warehouse had a heart attack or something and she died on the way to the hospital or not long after. It took extra time for an ambulance to come since there was no landline phone in the warehouse and someone had to run to the office to callfor help. The jammers also messed up communications inside the ambulance apparently. I am in Louisiana and I know the law here is different than the rest of the states in a lot of cases. A bunch of us here were debating and wondering if the company can actually get in trouble like legally, or if they are just jerks but didn't do anything illegal?
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cxrn25w
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cxqwd6j
| 1,449,591,976 | 1,449,533,031 | 728 | 191 |
Hi--I'm a senior attorney at the FCC's Enforcement Bureau. Please send me a PM, I would like to talk to you about this matter.
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What makes you think they had a cell phone jammer?
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3vuyzz
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legaladvice_train
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My work used a cell phone jammer to stop employees from using their phones at work and someone had a heart attack and died because no one could call an ambulance I'm trying to settle a debate. My work has a strict no cell phone use policy while we are on premises and working. People have been let go for having their phones out in the open and to stop people from covertly using their phone they would use cell phone jammers on the property. Someone in the warehouse had a heart attack or something and she died on the way to the hospital or not long after. It took extra time for an ambulance to come since there was no landline phone in the warehouse and someone had to run to the office to callfor help. The jammers also messed up communications inside the ambulance apparently. I am in Louisiana and I know the law here is different than the rest of the states in a lot of cases. A bunch of us here were debating and wondering if the company can actually get in trouble like legally, or if they are just jerks but didn't do anything illegal?
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cxrn25w
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cxqxxt6
| 1,449,591,976 | 1,449,535,557 | 728 | 114 |
Hi--I'm a senior attorney at the FCC's Enforcement Bureau. Please send me a PM, I would like to talk to you about this matter.
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Operating any kind of radio jammer in the US is a felony. They aren't even legal to own outside of a few special law enforcement agencies and even they have to follow rules for their use (think protecting the president, etc).
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3vuyzz
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My work used a cell phone jammer to stop employees from using their phones at work and someone had a heart attack and died because no one could call an ambulance I'm trying to settle a debate. My work has a strict no cell phone use policy while we are on premises and working. People have been let go for having their phones out in the open and to stop people from covertly using their phone they would use cell phone jammers on the property. Someone in the warehouse had a heart attack or something and she died on the way to the hospital or not long after. It took extra time for an ambulance to come since there was no landline phone in the warehouse and someone had to run to the office to callfor help. The jammers also messed up communications inside the ambulance apparently. I am in Louisiana and I know the law here is different than the rest of the states in a lot of cases. A bunch of us here were debating and wondering if the company can actually get in trouble like legally, or if they are just jerks but didn't do anything illegal?
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Hi--I'm a senior attorney at the FCC's Enforcement Bureau. Please send me a PM, I would like to talk to you about this matter.
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Cell phone jammers are illegal under FCC policy. I highly doubt they have a jammer. Most likely, they have just built the warehouse in a way that blocks the signal. That is perfectly legal. Many buildings are (intentionally or not) made that way.
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My work used a cell phone jammer to stop employees from using their phones at work and someone had a heart attack and died because no one could call an ambulance I'm trying to settle a debate. My work has a strict no cell phone use policy while we are on premises and working. People have been let go for having their phones out in the open and to stop people from covertly using their phone they would use cell phone jammers on the property. Someone in the warehouse had a heart attack or something and she died on the way to the hospital or not long after. It took extra time for an ambulance to come since there was no landline phone in the warehouse and someone had to run to the office to callfor help. The jammers also messed up communications inside the ambulance apparently. I am in Louisiana and I know the law here is different than the rest of the states in a lot of cases. A bunch of us here were debating and wondering if the company can actually get in trouble like legally, or if they are just jerks but didn't do anything illegal?
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Cell phone jammers are illegal because of reasons like you've posted. If not for the cell phone jammers, she may be very well alive today.
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Hi--I'm a senior attorney at the FCC's Enforcement Bureau. Please send me a PM, I would like to talk to you about this matter.
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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That all sounds fine, except for failing to train employees on the proper dial-out code for emergency calls. The paramedics did arrive in pretty good time, so it seems like your boss really did have it handled.
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CPR/First Aid instructor here. First, obviously you should all be trained to be and to dial out to reach 911. That's super basic stuff. But the rest, what help do you think you could have been in this situation? Having an extra person standing around watching who's not trained wouldn't have done anyone any good. The correct response for both a heart attack^1 and a seizure is basically staying with the person, keeping them comfortable, and waiting for help to arrive unless something more specific needs to be done. A crowd would only get in the way. ^1 extra note for the heart attack is to give aspirin as long as it's not contraindicated. So don't give it if they are allergic, already on a blood thinner, have a stomach condition, are under 18, or have otherwise been told by a doctor not to take it. Barring that you want two baby or one regular aspirin chewed and swallowed. And very specifically the drug aspirin, not just any painkiller.
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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CPR/First Aid instructor here. First, obviously you should all be trained to be and to dial out to reach 911. That's super basic stuff. But the rest, what help do you think you could have been in this situation? Having an extra person standing around watching who's not trained wouldn't have done anyone any good. The correct response for both a heart attack^1 and a seizure is basically staying with the person, keeping them comfortable, and waiting for help to arrive unless something more specific needs to be done. A crowd would only get in the way. ^1 extra note for the heart attack is to give aspirin as long as it's not contraindicated. So don't give it if they are allergic, already on a blood thinner, have a stomach condition, are under 18, or have otherwise been told by a doctor not to take it. Barring that you want two baby or one regular aspirin chewed and swallowed. And very specifically the drug aspirin, not just any painkiller.
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First, the phone should be able to dial 911. If it does require special pressing as some people have mentioned, then that's on your employer to explain that to you. That's grossly negligent, and that warrants some attention on its own. Second, there is nothing wrong (besides morally) with her making you work. The reason for her to close up would be for the business to save face, but she made her decision. I am not a lawyer.
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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CPR/First Aid instructor here. First, obviously you should all be trained to be and to dial out to reach 911. That's super basic stuff. But the rest, what help do you think you could have been in this situation? Having an extra person standing around watching who's not trained wouldn't have done anyone any good. The correct response for both a heart attack^1 and a seizure is basically staying with the person, keeping them comfortable, and waiting for help to arrive unless something more specific needs to be done. A crowd would only get in the way. ^1 extra note for the heart attack is to give aspirin as long as it's not contraindicated. So don't give it if they are allergic, already on a blood thinner, have a stomach condition, are under 18, or have otherwise been told by a doctor not to take it. Barring that you want two baby or one regular aspirin chewed and swallowed. And very specifically the drug aspirin, not just any painkiller.
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Aren't all phones supposed to allow someone to call 911?
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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First, the phone should be able to dial 911. If it does require special pressing as some people have mentioned, then that's on your employer to explain that to you. That's grossly negligent, and that warrants some attention on its own. Second, there is nothing wrong (besides morally) with her making you work. The reason for her to close up would be for the business to save face, but she made her decision. I am not a lawyer.
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That all sounds fine, except for failing to train employees on the proper dial-out code for emergency calls. The paramedics did arrive in pretty good time, so it seems like your boss really did have it handled.
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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That all sounds fine, except for failing to train employees on the proper dial-out code for emergency calls. The paramedics did arrive in pretty good time, so it seems like your boss really did have it handled.
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Aren't all phones supposed to allow someone to call 911?
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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Aren't all phones supposed to allow someone to call 911?
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First, the phone should be able to dial 911. If it does require special pressing as some people have mentioned, then that's on your employer to explain that to you. That's grossly negligent, and that warrants some attention on its own. Second, there is nothing wrong (besides morally) with her making you work. The reason for her to close up would be for the business to save face, but she made her decision. I am not a lawyer.
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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Aren't all phones supposed to allow someone to call 911?
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Not aware of an laws in Ohio for dialing 911. In Texas there is Kari's law. It has to do with guaranteeing 911 access without having to dial anything extra. Law was from a sad case of a child losing her life due to not being able to dial 911. http://www.texas911.org/ IMHO Other states will eventually go down this path. I manage a call center in Ohio. We have to dial "9" to dial out. We actually have our phone system set up so in an emergency people can dial 9-911 and/or just 911. Either way will dial the 911 dispatch. I never want to have a case where dialing 9 gets in the way for emergency. Also keeping in mind I want visitors to my company not have to know dial 9 to get out for 911 as well. I also have real time notifications that notify key internal safety teams as soon 911 is dialed so they are aware that someone may need help.
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[Ohio] My co-worker had a heart attack at work, have some questions about how it was handled Cuyahoga County Hello, I work in a restaurant and today my coworker collapsed from what I believe was a heart attack. maybe a seizure. but I don't believe that's the important part. After he collapsed, I went over to the work phone and tried to dial 911. The phone then told me it couldn't make the call, I had to hang up and try again, with the correct dial-out number. I didn't know it. My manager does, but she was attending to my coworker. I feel as though this is not something that should happen, is that correct? Secondly, as soon as he stopped screaming and was lying on the ground, she told us to all go back to work. I had to step around him in order to make food for the next 10 minutes until the paramedics arrived. they kept ringing in orders. She told me to ignore it, she had it handled, and to just worry about our ticket times. This part I'm less confident is legally wrong, just morally repulsive, but I figured it was worth a shot to mention. Thanks ahead of time for any advice or input. I just don't feel at ease with how this incident was handled. And a phone not immediately dialing out for 911 seems extremely unsafe.
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Not aware of an laws in Ohio for dialing 911. In Texas there is Kari's law. It has to do with guaranteeing 911 access without having to dial anything extra. Law was from a sad case of a child losing her life due to not being able to dial 911. http://www.texas911.org/ IMHO Other states will eventually go down this path. I manage a call center in Ohio. We have to dial "9" to dial out. We actually have our phone system set up so in an emergency people can dial 9-911 and/or just 911. Either way will dial the 911 dispatch. I never want to have a case where dialing 9 gets in the way for emergency. Also keeping in mind I want visitors to my company not have to know dial 9 to get out for 911 as well. I also have real time notifications that notify key internal safety teams as soon 911 is dialed so they are aware that someone may need help.
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What a shitty place to work. That point aside, as long as your manager didn't actually stop you from calling emergency services, it doesn't sound like there was legally any wrong doing here.
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Illinois: Is disability a possibility for me? Had major unexpected heart attack at 26. Medications prevent me from performing my previous desk job, and medical history excludes me from physical work. I am going to contact a disability lawyer, but wanted to get some advice before getting started since I understand it can be a long process with or without a lawyer. Sorry for the length, I wanted to be thorough because my age makes this a tricky situation I think. I'm in Illinois. For some back story: In 2013, at age 26, I had a major heart attack. Because of my age and a great cardiologist, my heart has mostly healed, but I still have occasional issues (cardiologist and GP believe they are related to an undetermined food allergy, though). With the heart attack we found that I have a genetic disorder which makes my cholesterol be 5 times normal levels, thus the heart issues. I am on a new medication that pretty well handles it, and I expect to be on multiple cholesterol drugs, a blood pressure/heart drug, and aspirin for the rest of my life. I will be on an anticoagulant for at least a couple more years. I had a decent desk job, and I was always able to meet overtime requirements and was absolutely at the top of the workplace. I far exceeded production and quality expectations and was one of the highest rated performers month after month. After the heart attack, I went downhill. The drugs make me unable to focus on long, routine, repetitive tasks (and my job required reviewing legal documents, so I couldn't be falling asleep!) Between the drugs and the amount of work I was missing for FMLA, up to 33% of my work days even two years later, I was not able to keep up. I began getting put on notice or verbal warnings month after month for my numbers being too low. The job was not going to work out anymore, and I was forced to quit and switch places with my wife who found employment elsewhere. If I didn't quit, I would have been disciplined and then fired for missing too many days over my FMLA allowance. The company was very VERY helpful and forgiving, above and beyond, but they of course had to have a limit. Now I am at home, doing what little I can to earn money here online or doing odd jobs and repairs for acquaintances and family members. I'm more than qualified for construction work or labor of near any sort, and physically my doctor will clear me, but I can't get gainful employment in labor due to the history of heart attack, high blood pressure, and medications. I feel completely stuck - unable to perform my previous job, seen clearly in the 50% drop in my performance consistently while on medications - and unable to do physical work (which would HELP me because exercise) because insurance won't cover me. I don't want to feel like I'm working the system or anything because of the social stigma accompanying disability among other things, but I also understand that's exactly what it's there for, and I need to supplement my wife's income to provide for my two toddlers. I don't want to be put in a situation where my doctor has to 'try everything' first to help me before applying or receiving any assistance. I can't be switching medications every couple months to find one that doesn't affect my concentration, and can't jump to and from desk jobs that quickly anyway with the market in my area.
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>I can't get gainful employment in labor due to the history of heart attack, high blood pressure, and medications. Just don't reveal your medical history during the interview. I used to hire laborers all the time and never asked about medical history (pretty sure it would be illegal to ask anyway).
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Hey man, sorry to hear about what you're going through. I've been there. Not 'heart attack' there, but disability there. It sucks a whole bunch, and your life is never really going to ever be the same, but with a bit of help, it can at least be manageable. Here's what you're going to be doing: Step 1: Talk to your regular doctor who diagnosed your condition and whether he/she would sign off on disability paperwork or not. Make sure you get this okay before you start. If your doctor won't tell you he/she will sign off on disability paperwork, find a new doctor *before* applying. If your doctor won't sign off, double check that you really are disabled to your own satisfaction before getting a new doctor. Most doctors will agree ahead of time to fill out any disability paperwork, assuming they believe you're actually disabled. Step 2: Peruse the following pages: * https://www.ssa.gov/planners/disability/dqualify.html * https://www.ssa.gov/disability/professionals/bluebook/AdultListings.htm * Application Links: https://www.ssa.gov/planners/disability/dapply.html#&sb=1 In the second link, find your disability or something that sounds like it covers what you have. Many of them are not specific diagnoses and can cover a range of different conditions. Take a good long look through them so you have an idea what you're going to be doing. Lot of information to take in, so be prepared. Step 3: Do an application. (third link should get you there or close enough). Optional: Contact a disability lawyer beforehand to go over the application with you. Many will do this pro-bono and there's usually free legal help for this. Whoever you talk to, **do not** list them as your 'legal representative' unless they explicitly tell you it's okay. It's important for any appeal paperwork that if you list counsel, that they've agreed ahead of time, and not merely offered you advice. They can give you specific advice for this process, but likely won't offer to represent you just yet. If (and likely when) you're denied, call up your caseworker as to why and see what sort of information you need to get to him/her to get him/her to an approval. Usually this will require paperwork from your doctor. If your caseworker is being cagey, contact the legal help again and explain what's going on. At that point, they may actually decide to represent you. Much of the time though, your caseworker will be rather straightforward and tell you exactly what you need to do. Only rarely will your caseworker be obstinate. Step 4: Ensure you return any paperwork your caseworker asks of you. Your doctor may need to fill out a form on your behalf. This is where your assurances from Step 1 come in. Disability will ask your diagnosing physician to determine your disability. They won't provide their own doctor unless there's a serious concern that you might be gaming them, so you want to make sure your doctor is familiar and agrees with you before even attempting this or you'll wind up wasting your time. An initial negative by your own first doctor on whether he/she believes you're disabled means you're very unlikely to get approved, which is why it's so important they are clear about your inability to work. Step 5: Wait. Check in once every 2 weeks or so unless your caseworker explicitly tells you not to. Be persistent, but not angry. This may take a while. A few years ago, this took about 6 weeks for me with an initial denial, and a fast tracked appeal. My denial was partially due to the slowness of my own doctor to complete the paperwork, so make quite certain you get step 1 nailed down, and it should help you immensely. You're in for a long haul, but you will get to the other end of this. Working while on disability is a bad idea, *in my opinion.* There's 'trial' period where you can -attempt- to work, but eventually you'll need to revert to either disabled or not disabled. Even if you're able to do some small menial work or desk job type stuff, don't. It will disqualify you if you're not in an explicit trial period. (*Edit: As the poster notes below, technically you can make up to 750 while on disability, but I wouldn't recommend it unless you absolutely need to in order to live. This kind of thing can put your disability and fitness to work into question and can start to look like gaming the system.*) Disability is a relatively small amount of monetary assistance, so if you can make more than 1000 or so a month comfortably, then you shouldn't apply for disability. If you can't work at all or cannot comfortably gain 1000 or so a month in whatever job you can scrape together, then you absolutely should be applying for disability. Important note 2: If you qualify for Illinois medicaid, apply for it. Should help with medical stuff. Medicaid is a plan for the poor, which is specifically defined. This is only if you can't afford your medical bills. Medicaid + Disability + 1 year time = Medicare if your disability is sustained and chronic. Yes, you can be on Medicare if you're not of retirement age. Medicare is a federal program that is partially privatized and covers both the elderly **as well as the disabled.**. (Part A and Part B are run by the federal government and cover hospital/doctor visits. Part C is medicare advantage run by a private insurance company. It replaces part A/B with a private plan. Part D is prescription coverage. It is also a private plan. Medicaid covers your prescription drugs until Medicare kicks in, in which case, 'Extra Help' kicks in as well and should help make most of your medications free. )
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Illinois: Is disability a possibility for me? Had major unexpected heart attack at 26. Medications prevent me from performing my previous desk job, and medical history excludes me from physical work. I am going to contact a disability lawyer, but wanted to get some advice before getting started since I understand it can be a long process with or without a lawyer. Sorry for the length, I wanted to be thorough because my age makes this a tricky situation I think. I'm in Illinois. For some back story: In 2013, at age 26, I had a major heart attack. Because of my age and a great cardiologist, my heart has mostly healed, but I still have occasional issues (cardiologist and GP believe they are related to an undetermined food allergy, though). With the heart attack we found that I have a genetic disorder which makes my cholesterol be 5 times normal levels, thus the heart issues. I am on a new medication that pretty well handles it, and I expect to be on multiple cholesterol drugs, a blood pressure/heart drug, and aspirin for the rest of my life. I will be on an anticoagulant for at least a couple more years. I had a decent desk job, and I was always able to meet overtime requirements and was absolutely at the top of the workplace. I far exceeded production and quality expectations and was one of the highest rated performers month after month. After the heart attack, I went downhill. The drugs make me unable to focus on long, routine, repetitive tasks (and my job required reviewing legal documents, so I couldn't be falling asleep!) Between the drugs and the amount of work I was missing for FMLA, up to 33% of my work days even two years later, I was not able to keep up. I began getting put on notice or verbal warnings month after month for my numbers being too low. The job was not going to work out anymore, and I was forced to quit and switch places with my wife who found employment elsewhere. If I didn't quit, I would have been disciplined and then fired for missing too many days over my FMLA allowance. The company was very VERY helpful and forgiving, above and beyond, but they of course had to have a limit. Now I am at home, doing what little I can to earn money here online or doing odd jobs and repairs for acquaintances and family members. I'm more than qualified for construction work or labor of near any sort, and physically my doctor will clear me, but I can't get gainful employment in labor due to the history of heart attack, high blood pressure, and medications. I feel completely stuck - unable to perform my previous job, seen clearly in the 50% drop in my performance consistently while on medications - and unable to do physical work (which would HELP me because exercise) because insurance won't cover me. I don't want to feel like I'm working the system or anything because of the social stigma accompanying disability among other things, but I also understand that's exactly what it's there for, and I need to supplement my wife's income to provide for my two toddlers. I don't want to be put in a situation where my doctor has to 'try everything' first to help me before applying or receiving any assistance. I can't be switching medications every couple months to find one that doesn't affect my concentration, and can't jump to and from desk jobs that quickly anyway with the market in my area.
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Which meds were making you tired? None of those meds should be unless the dosage is too high for a beta blocker.
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Hey man, sorry to hear about what you're going through. I've been there. Not 'heart attack' there, but disability there. It sucks a whole bunch, and your life is never really going to ever be the same, but with a bit of help, it can at least be manageable. Here's what you're going to be doing: Step 1: Talk to your regular doctor who diagnosed your condition and whether he/she would sign off on disability paperwork or not. Make sure you get this okay before you start. If your doctor won't tell you he/she will sign off on disability paperwork, find a new doctor *before* applying. If your doctor won't sign off, double check that you really are disabled to your own satisfaction before getting a new doctor. Most doctors will agree ahead of time to fill out any disability paperwork, assuming they believe you're actually disabled. Step 2: Peruse the following pages: * https://www.ssa.gov/planners/disability/dqualify.html * https://www.ssa.gov/disability/professionals/bluebook/AdultListings.htm * Application Links: https://www.ssa.gov/planners/disability/dapply.html#&sb=1 In the second link, find your disability or something that sounds like it covers what you have. Many of them are not specific diagnoses and can cover a range of different conditions. Take a good long look through them so you have an idea what you're going to be doing. Lot of information to take in, so be prepared. Step 3: Do an application. (third link should get you there or close enough). Optional: Contact a disability lawyer beforehand to go over the application with you. Many will do this pro-bono and there's usually free legal help for this. Whoever you talk to, **do not** list them as your 'legal representative' unless they explicitly tell you it's okay. It's important for any appeal paperwork that if you list counsel, that they've agreed ahead of time, and not merely offered you advice. They can give you specific advice for this process, but likely won't offer to represent you just yet. If (and likely when) you're denied, call up your caseworker as to why and see what sort of information you need to get to him/her to get him/her to an approval. Usually this will require paperwork from your doctor. If your caseworker is being cagey, contact the legal help again and explain what's going on. At that point, they may actually decide to represent you. Much of the time though, your caseworker will be rather straightforward and tell you exactly what you need to do. Only rarely will your caseworker be obstinate. Step 4: Ensure you return any paperwork your caseworker asks of you. Your doctor may need to fill out a form on your behalf. This is where your assurances from Step 1 come in. Disability will ask your diagnosing physician to determine your disability. They won't provide their own doctor unless there's a serious concern that you might be gaming them, so you want to make sure your doctor is familiar and agrees with you before even attempting this or you'll wind up wasting your time. An initial negative by your own first doctor on whether he/she believes you're disabled means you're very unlikely to get approved, which is why it's so important they are clear about your inability to work. Step 5: Wait. Check in once every 2 weeks or so unless your caseworker explicitly tells you not to. Be persistent, but not angry. This may take a while. A few years ago, this took about 6 weeks for me with an initial denial, and a fast tracked appeal. My denial was partially due to the slowness of my own doctor to complete the paperwork, so make quite certain you get step 1 nailed down, and it should help you immensely. You're in for a long haul, but you will get to the other end of this. Working while on disability is a bad idea, *in my opinion.* There's 'trial' period where you can -attempt- to work, but eventually you'll need to revert to either disabled or not disabled. Even if you're able to do some small menial work or desk job type stuff, don't. It will disqualify you if you're not in an explicit trial period. (*Edit: As the poster notes below, technically you can make up to 750 while on disability, but I wouldn't recommend it unless you absolutely need to in order to live. This kind of thing can put your disability and fitness to work into question and can start to look like gaming the system.*) Disability is a relatively small amount of monetary assistance, so if you can make more than 1000 or so a month comfortably, then you shouldn't apply for disability. If you can't work at all or cannot comfortably gain 1000 or so a month in whatever job you can scrape together, then you absolutely should be applying for disability. Important note 2: If you qualify for Illinois medicaid, apply for it. Should help with medical stuff. Medicaid is a plan for the poor, which is specifically defined. This is only if you can't afford your medical bills. Medicaid + Disability + 1 year time = Medicare if your disability is sustained and chronic. Yes, you can be on Medicare if you're not of retirement age. Medicare is a federal program that is partially privatized and covers both the elderly **as well as the disabled.**. (Part A and Part B are run by the federal government and cover hospital/doctor visits. Part C is medicare advantage run by a private insurance company. It replaces part A/B with a private plan. Part D is prescription coverage. It is also a private plan. Medicaid covers your prescription drugs until Medicare kicks in, in which case, 'Extra Help' kicks in as well and should help make most of your medications free. )
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Illinois: Is disability a possibility for me? Had major unexpected heart attack at 26. Medications prevent me from performing my previous desk job, and medical history excludes me from physical work. I am going to contact a disability lawyer, but wanted to get some advice before getting started since I understand it can be a long process with or without a lawyer. Sorry for the length, I wanted to be thorough because my age makes this a tricky situation I think. I'm in Illinois. For some back story: In 2013, at age 26, I had a major heart attack. Because of my age and a great cardiologist, my heart has mostly healed, but I still have occasional issues (cardiologist and GP believe they are related to an undetermined food allergy, though). With the heart attack we found that I have a genetic disorder which makes my cholesterol be 5 times normal levels, thus the heart issues. I am on a new medication that pretty well handles it, and I expect to be on multiple cholesterol drugs, a blood pressure/heart drug, and aspirin for the rest of my life. I will be on an anticoagulant for at least a couple more years. I had a decent desk job, and I was always able to meet overtime requirements and was absolutely at the top of the workplace. I far exceeded production and quality expectations and was one of the highest rated performers month after month. After the heart attack, I went downhill. The drugs make me unable to focus on long, routine, repetitive tasks (and my job required reviewing legal documents, so I couldn't be falling asleep!) Between the drugs and the amount of work I was missing for FMLA, up to 33% of my work days even two years later, I was not able to keep up. I began getting put on notice or verbal warnings month after month for my numbers being too low. The job was not going to work out anymore, and I was forced to quit and switch places with my wife who found employment elsewhere. If I didn't quit, I would have been disciplined and then fired for missing too many days over my FMLA allowance. The company was very VERY helpful and forgiving, above and beyond, but they of course had to have a limit. Now I am at home, doing what little I can to earn money here online or doing odd jobs and repairs for acquaintances and family members. I'm more than qualified for construction work or labor of near any sort, and physically my doctor will clear me, but I can't get gainful employment in labor due to the history of heart attack, high blood pressure, and medications. I feel completely stuck - unable to perform my previous job, seen clearly in the 50% drop in my performance consistently while on medications - and unable to do physical work (which would HELP me because exercise) because insurance won't cover me. I don't want to feel like I'm working the system or anything because of the social stigma accompanying disability among other things, but I also understand that's exactly what it's there for, and I need to supplement my wife's income to provide for my two toddlers. I don't want to be put in a situation where my doctor has to 'try everything' first to help me before applying or receiving any assistance. I can't be switching medications every couple months to find one that doesn't affect my concentration, and can't jump to and from desk jobs that quickly anyway with the market in my area.
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Not a lawyer, but I was about your age when I applied through a lawyer because of mental illness. The lawyer never said one word about my age, just gathered my medical info (diagnoses and doctors' names) and they went from there. All told it took about 18 months, I was approved the first time. In some cases, they may deny your claim, your lawyer will then appeal; it can be denied a second time and then it'll go to a hearing. Every place/state is different. Definitely talk to a disability lawyer and see what they say.
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Hey man, sorry to hear about what you're going through. I've been there. Not 'heart attack' there, but disability there. It sucks a whole bunch, and your life is never really going to ever be the same, but with a bit of help, it can at least be manageable. Here's what you're going to be doing: Step 1: Talk to your regular doctor who diagnosed your condition and whether he/she would sign off on disability paperwork or not. Make sure you get this okay before you start. If your doctor won't tell you he/she will sign off on disability paperwork, find a new doctor *before* applying. If your doctor won't sign off, double check that you really are disabled to your own satisfaction before getting a new doctor. Most doctors will agree ahead of time to fill out any disability paperwork, assuming they believe you're actually disabled. Step 2: Peruse the following pages: * https://www.ssa.gov/planners/disability/dqualify.html * https://www.ssa.gov/disability/professionals/bluebook/AdultListings.htm * Application Links: https://www.ssa.gov/planners/disability/dapply.html#&sb=1 In the second link, find your disability or something that sounds like it covers what you have. Many of them are not specific diagnoses and can cover a range of different conditions. Take a good long look through them so you have an idea what you're going to be doing. Lot of information to take in, so be prepared. Step 3: Do an application. (third link should get you there or close enough). Optional: Contact a disability lawyer beforehand to go over the application with you. Many will do this pro-bono and there's usually free legal help for this. Whoever you talk to, **do not** list them as your 'legal representative' unless they explicitly tell you it's okay. It's important for any appeal paperwork that if you list counsel, that they've agreed ahead of time, and not merely offered you advice. They can give you specific advice for this process, but likely won't offer to represent you just yet. If (and likely when) you're denied, call up your caseworker as to why and see what sort of information you need to get to him/her to get him/her to an approval. Usually this will require paperwork from your doctor. If your caseworker is being cagey, contact the legal help again and explain what's going on. At that point, they may actually decide to represent you. Much of the time though, your caseworker will be rather straightforward and tell you exactly what you need to do. Only rarely will your caseworker be obstinate. Step 4: Ensure you return any paperwork your caseworker asks of you. Your doctor may need to fill out a form on your behalf. This is where your assurances from Step 1 come in. Disability will ask your diagnosing physician to determine your disability. They won't provide their own doctor unless there's a serious concern that you might be gaming them, so you want to make sure your doctor is familiar and agrees with you before even attempting this or you'll wind up wasting your time. An initial negative by your own first doctor on whether he/she believes you're disabled means you're very unlikely to get approved, which is why it's so important they are clear about your inability to work. Step 5: Wait. Check in once every 2 weeks or so unless your caseworker explicitly tells you not to. Be persistent, but not angry. This may take a while. A few years ago, this took about 6 weeks for me with an initial denial, and a fast tracked appeal. My denial was partially due to the slowness of my own doctor to complete the paperwork, so make quite certain you get step 1 nailed down, and it should help you immensely. You're in for a long haul, but you will get to the other end of this. Working while on disability is a bad idea, *in my opinion.* There's 'trial' period where you can -attempt- to work, but eventually you'll need to revert to either disabled or not disabled. Even if you're able to do some small menial work or desk job type stuff, don't. It will disqualify you if you're not in an explicit trial period. (*Edit: As the poster notes below, technically you can make up to 750 while on disability, but I wouldn't recommend it unless you absolutely need to in order to live. This kind of thing can put your disability and fitness to work into question and can start to look like gaming the system.*) Disability is a relatively small amount of monetary assistance, so if you can make more than 1000 or so a month comfortably, then you shouldn't apply for disability. If you can't work at all or cannot comfortably gain 1000 or so a month in whatever job you can scrape together, then you absolutely should be applying for disability. Important note 2: If you qualify for Illinois medicaid, apply for it. Should help with medical stuff. Medicaid is a plan for the poor, which is specifically defined. This is only if you can't afford your medical bills. Medicaid + Disability + 1 year time = Medicare if your disability is sustained and chronic. Yes, you can be on Medicare if you're not of retirement age. Medicare is a federal program that is partially privatized and covers both the elderly **as well as the disabled.**. (Part A and Part B are run by the federal government and cover hospital/doctor visits. Part C is medicare advantage run by a private insurance company. It replaces part A/B with a private plan. Part D is prescription coverage. It is also a private plan. Medicaid covers your prescription drugs until Medicare kicks in, in which case, 'Extra Help' kicks in as well and should help make most of your medications free. )
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Illinois: Is disability a possibility for me? Had major unexpected heart attack at 26. Medications prevent me from performing my previous desk job, and medical history excludes me from physical work. I am going to contact a disability lawyer, but wanted to get some advice before getting started since I understand it can be a long process with or without a lawyer. Sorry for the length, I wanted to be thorough because my age makes this a tricky situation I think. I'm in Illinois. For some back story: In 2013, at age 26, I had a major heart attack. Because of my age and a great cardiologist, my heart has mostly healed, but I still have occasional issues (cardiologist and GP believe they are related to an undetermined food allergy, though). With the heart attack we found that I have a genetic disorder which makes my cholesterol be 5 times normal levels, thus the heart issues. I am on a new medication that pretty well handles it, and I expect to be on multiple cholesterol drugs, a blood pressure/heart drug, and aspirin for the rest of my life. I will be on an anticoagulant for at least a couple more years. I had a decent desk job, and I was always able to meet overtime requirements and was absolutely at the top of the workplace. I far exceeded production and quality expectations and was one of the highest rated performers month after month. After the heart attack, I went downhill. The drugs make me unable to focus on long, routine, repetitive tasks (and my job required reviewing legal documents, so I couldn't be falling asleep!) Between the drugs and the amount of work I was missing for FMLA, up to 33% of my work days even two years later, I was not able to keep up. I began getting put on notice or verbal warnings month after month for my numbers being too low. The job was not going to work out anymore, and I was forced to quit and switch places with my wife who found employment elsewhere. If I didn't quit, I would have been disciplined and then fired for missing too many days over my FMLA allowance. The company was very VERY helpful and forgiving, above and beyond, but they of course had to have a limit. Now I am at home, doing what little I can to earn money here online or doing odd jobs and repairs for acquaintances and family members. I'm more than qualified for construction work or labor of near any sort, and physically my doctor will clear me, but I can't get gainful employment in labor due to the history of heart attack, high blood pressure, and medications. I feel completely stuck - unable to perform my previous job, seen clearly in the 50% drop in my performance consistently while on medications - and unable to do physical work (which would HELP me because exercise) because insurance won't cover me. I don't want to feel like I'm working the system or anything because of the social stigma accompanying disability among other things, but I also understand that's exactly what it's there for, and I need to supplement my wife's income to provide for my two toddlers. I don't want to be put in a situation where my doctor has to 'try everything' first to help me before applying or receiving any assistance. I can't be switching medications every couple months to find one that doesn't affect my concentration, and can't jump to and from desk jobs that quickly anyway with the market in my area.
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Have you considered going back to school to get training in a different field? If you contact your local SS office, they can put you in touch with the organizations they use for job rehabilitation. They can take a look at your medical history and current medications, and help you find a job type that you can do within your limitations, and help you get training to do that type of job. If you truly want to get back to work, and feel you are able to (just not anything you are currently qualified for), explore all your options. In the mean time. I would suggest speaking with your doctor(s) and see if they would be willing to support a disability application. Also, make sure you order your SS earnings report to make sure you've worked enough to earn the credits to qualify for SSDI. Being 26 when you had your heart attack, I would assume you probably meet that requirement (I got my disability when I was 27, more than met it), but it's good to make sure. As far as finding a medication that might be better for your concentration, don't talk to your doctor...talk to your pharmacist. Doctors aren't well versed in all of the possible medications and their applicable side effects. When in doubt, ask a pharmacist. They go through extensive training to learn all the ins and outs of the medications, and will have a far better understanding of their side effects and possible alternatives. Then, once you have that list of possible alternatives and the pharmacists reasoning for them, take that information to your doctor and discuss. I've learned that through countless medication changes over the last 8 years...don't agree to a medication change without consulting the pharmacist! :) You may find that there is an alternative medication that could be just as effective that allows you better concentration. I ended up having to start taking an ADHD medication in order to focus on tasks for a while when I was on a medication that made me fuzzy all the time, and it worked well. My point here is this: there is always some hope. Don't just sit back and hope that you can get disability. If your doctor(s) is on board, certainly put in your application. But trying to figure out how to get yourself back to work is a good thing, too. It'll be better for your mental health if you can, and will probably be far more substantial than what you can get from SS. If you exhaust all of these options, you'll have a far easier time convincing SS that you are indeed disabled.
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Not a lawyer, but I was about your age when I applied through a lawyer because of mental illness. The lawyer never said one word about my age, just gathered my medical info (diagnoses and doctors' names) and they went from there. All told it took about 18 months, I was approved the first time. In some cases, they may deny your claim, your lawyer will then appeal; it can be denied a second time and then it'll go to a hearing. Every place/state is different. Definitely talk to a disability lawyer and see what they say.
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Illinois: Is disability a possibility for me? Had major unexpected heart attack at 26. Medications prevent me from performing my previous desk job, and medical history excludes me from physical work. I am going to contact a disability lawyer, but wanted to get some advice before getting started since I understand it can be a long process with or without a lawyer. Sorry for the length, I wanted to be thorough because my age makes this a tricky situation I think. I'm in Illinois. For some back story: In 2013, at age 26, I had a major heart attack. Because of my age and a great cardiologist, my heart has mostly healed, but I still have occasional issues (cardiologist and GP believe they are related to an undetermined food allergy, though). With the heart attack we found that I have a genetic disorder which makes my cholesterol be 5 times normal levels, thus the heart issues. I am on a new medication that pretty well handles it, and I expect to be on multiple cholesterol drugs, a blood pressure/heart drug, and aspirin for the rest of my life. I will be on an anticoagulant for at least a couple more years. I had a decent desk job, and I was always able to meet overtime requirements and was absolutely at the top of the workplace. I far exceeded production and quality expectations and was one of the highest rated performers month after month. After the heart attack, I went downhill. The drugs make me unable to focus on long, routine, repetitive tasks (and my job required reviewing legal documents, so I couldn't be falling asleep!) Between the drugs and the amount of work I was missing for FMLA, up to 33% of my work days even two years later, I was not able to keep up. I began getting put on notice or verbal warnings month after month for my numbers being too low. The job was not going to work out anymore, and I was forced to quit and switch places with my wife who found employment elsewhere. If I didn't quit, I would have been disciplined and then fired for missing too many days over my FMLA allowance. The company was very VERY helpful and forgiving, above and beyond, but they of course had to have a limit. Now I am at home, doing what little I can to earn money here online or doing odd jobs and repairs for acquaintances and family members. I'm more than qualified for construction work or labor of near any sort, and physically my doctor will clear me, but I can't get gainful employment in labor due to the history of heart attack, high blood pressure, and medications. I feel completely stuck - unable to perform my previous job, seen clearly in the 50% drop in my performance consistently while on medications - and unable to do physical work (which would HELP me because exercise) because insurance won't cover me. I don't want to feel like I'm working the system or anything because of the social stigma accompanying disability among other things, but I also understand that's exactly what it's there for, and I need to supplement my wife's income to provide for my two toddlers. I don't want to be put in a situation where my doctor has to 'try everything' first to help me before applying or receiving any assistance. I can't be switching medications every couple months to find one that doesn't affect my concentration, and can't jump to and from desk jobs that quickly anyway with the market in my area.
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Which meds were making you tired? None of those meds should be unless the dosage is too high for a beta blocker.
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Not a lawyer, but I was about your age when I applied through a lawyer because of mental illness. The lawyer never said one word about my age, just gathered my medical info (diagnoses and doctors' names) and they went from there. All told it took about 18 months, I was approved the first time. In some cases, they may deny your claim, your lawyer will then appeal; it can be denied a second time and then it'll go to a hearing. Every place/state is different. Definitely talk to a disability lawyer and see what they say.
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Hired Contractor. Paid $20k+ of insurance money. He died of a massive heart attack before starting any work... Now what? We had been working with a local contractor due to water damage at my departed dad's property. He was highly recommended and was great to work with. He really went above and beyond in dealing with our insurance company. Unfortunately, we did not hear from him for several weeks following us paying him and signing the contract to proceed with the work which was very unusual. After finding his Facebook page, it is very sad that we found that he passed away April 12th from a heart attack. We had just finalized everything and paid him the insurance money (a sizeable amount -- over $20k) on April 10th. We just had the contractor's number and nothing else. We finally did get a few numbers of family members to contact but they have refused to help (in fact, they were extremely rude). They would not even give us the name of their estate lawyer to contact. Our insurance company said they are unable to help. This is all very sad and confusing. I'm very worried we will not get the insurance money back and therefore unable to repair dad's place. We have a lawyer that was handling dad's estate probate who has agreed to look into getting the insurance money back from the contractor's estate but I'm told that could take months or years… something we do not have as dad's place is already deteriorating due to the water damage. We aren't wealthy people so this has been devastating to us. Any advice would be appreciated.
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If this was a licensed and bonded contractor, *his* insurance should be getting involved. I'd go to your state contractor's licensing board and see what they say.
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Even in the best case scenario, this is a months if not years long situation, and there's really no way to speed it up. The deceased contractor's estate has to go to probate, and you (or your father) must file a claim against the estate for the money spent. Contacting an estate lawyer to help pursue this would be smart. They can monitor the probate court to find info on the estate, to allow you to file against it.
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Hired Contractor. Paid $20k+ of insurance money. He died of a massive heart attack before starting any work... Now what? We had been working with a local contractor due to water damage at my departed dad's property. He was highly recommended and was great to work with. He really went above and beyond in dealing with our insurance company. Unfortunately, we did not hear from him for several weeks following us paying him and signing the contract to proceed with the work which was very unusual. After finding his Facebook page, it is very sad that we found that he passed away April 12th from a heart attack. We had just finalized everything and paid him the insurance money (a sizeable amount -- over $20k) on April 10th. We just had the contractor's number and nothing else. We finally did get a few numbers of family members to contact but they have refused to help (in fact, they were extremely rude). They would not even give us the name of their estate lawyer to contact. Our insurance company said they are unable to help. This is all very sad and confusing. I'm very worried we will not get the insurance money back and therefore unable to repair dad's place. We have a lawyer that was handling dad's estate probate who has agreed to look into getting the insurance money back from the contractor's estate but I'm told that could take months or years… something we do not have as dad's place is already deteriorating due to the water damage. We aren't wealthy people so this has been devastating to us. Any advice would be appreciated.
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If he was a “licensed and bonded” contractor, you should be able to get details of his surety bond provider (likely get these details from the state licensing agency), and file a bond claim due to non-performance. In theory, that is one of the situations what bonds exist for. There may be various pitfalls and that avenue may not succeed, but at least you should try. If a bond provider company pays you, they would then have a claim against the contractor’s estate. That would be your best outcome.
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Have you talked to your insurance company? They should be able to help, I would think. It doesn't hurt to ask, anyway.
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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Get an attorney to fight the misdemeanor. You can also ask your boss to pay the bill and any fines but they probably have no responsibility to you on this.
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Definitely talk to an attorney about fighting the misdemeanor. I'd also talk to the attorney about reimbursement from your employer for any legal fees and the ticket. I'm also somewhat skeptical that you haven't been misclassified as an independent contractor when you're really an employee. This is more of a tax issue than a legal issue (I mean its still a question of legality, but the impact is usually more tax related). Read through here: https://www.irs.gov/businesses/small-businesses-self-employed/independent-contractor-self-employed-or-employee and here: https://www.irs.gov/businesses/small-businesses-self-employed/independent-contractor-defined
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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Definitely talk to an attorney about fighting the misdemeanor. I'd also talk to the attorney about reimbursement from your employer for any legal fees and the ticket. I'm also somewhat skeptical that you haven't been misclassified as an independent contractor when you're really an employee. This is more of a tax issue than a legal issue (I mean its still a question of legality, but the impact is usually more tax related). Read through here: https://www.irs.gov/businesses/small-businesses-self-employed/independent-contractor-self-employed-or-employee and here: https://www.irs.gov/businesses/small-businesses-self-employed/independent-contractor-defined
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Can you get her to put that in writing
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tsi5bx
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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Can you get her to put that in writing
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If you are an independent contractor, you don't have a boss, you have a customer. Chances are you are misclassified.
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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it's a strict liability crime, so you're probably guilty. But a reasonable prosecutor ought to be willing to charge you with some related infraction instead, especially if you provide a statement that your employer instructed you to serve the alcohol. Get a lawyer. A PD might be fine here if you qualify.
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This person has been breaking the law and taking advantage of you. They are going to guilt trip you and try to get out of paying what they owe you. You don’t owe them anything. You should fill out this form and submit it to the IRS: https://www.irs.gov/forms-pubs/about-form-8919 You should also report them to the state of CA: https://www.dir.ca.gov/fraud_prevention/Misclassification.htm Be very clear: them giving you a 1099 instead of w2 is illegal and it is costing you money. They are stealing from you. ETA I’m an employer and I have no patience for this type of bullshit. It’s thievery.
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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You need to hire a lawyer. Find a criminal lawyer that works regularly in the court you'll be going to. Sometimes they'll have offices near the courthouse. They might be able to get the conviction suspended so it doesn't go on your record.
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This person has been breaking the law and taking advantage of you. They are going to guilt trip you and try to get out of paying what they owe you. You don’t owe them anything. You should fill out this form and submit it to the IRS: https://www.irs.gov/forms-pubs/about-form-8919 You should also report them to the state of CA: https://www.dir.ca.gov/fraud_prevention/Misclassification.htm Be very clear: them giving you a 1099 instead of w2 is illegal and it is costing you money. They are stealing from you. ETA I’m an employer and I have no patience for this type of bullshit. It’s thievery.
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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Not a lawyer but I am an employer of independent contractors. What you describe is an employee. Definitely not an Independent Contractor. Your employer hasn't paid your matching SS tax and certainly owes it. I would call the Labor Dept for guidance. They will support you and advise on next steps. When I was an employer of W-2 workers, I seem to remember they were to have 10 minute breaks every 2 hours and lunch after 5 hours. Don't quote me on that, it's from memory. The Labor Dept will clarify.
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it's a strict liability crime, so you're probably guilty. But a reasonable prosecutor ought to be willing to charge you with some related infraction instead, especially if you provide a statement that your employer instructed you to serve the alcohol. Get a lawyer. A PD might be fine here if you qualify.
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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You need to hire a lawyer. Find a criminal lawyer that works regularly in the court you'll be going to. Sometimes they'll have offices near the courthouse. They might be able to get the conviction suspended so it doesn't go on your record.
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Not a lawyer but I am an employer of independent contractors. What you describe is an employee. Definitely not an Independent Contractor. Your employer hasn't paid your matching SS tax and certainly owes it. I would call the Labor Dept for guidance. They will support you and advise on next steps. When I was an employer of W-2 workers, I seem to remember they were to have 10 minute breaks every 2 hours and lunch after 5 hours. Don't quote me on that, it's from memory. The Labor Dept will clarify.
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I got a ticket for selling alcohol illegally because of my boss. CALIFORNIA I work at a wine and paint studio but am considered an independent contractor. Two undercover cops came in and I sold them alcohol like usual as I’ve been instructed to do. After the class the cops came back in, showed me their badges and asked for the liquor license. My boss had some documents on the wall but apparently it was just a business license and she did not have an alcohol license. They ticketed me specifically since I was the one selling the alcohol and the ticket was marked as a misdemeanor. The owner of the studio later came in and said she knew she didn’t have a liquor license but figured that if anyone would get in trouble it would be her. Apparently she didn’t have enough money to pay for a liquor license but figured she’d pay for it later on and would be fine getting by without one in the mean time. I don’t know what to do I don’t want this going on my record especially since I was unaware that my boss did not have a liquor license. What should I do?
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You need to hire a lawyer. Find a criminal lawyer that works regularly in the court you'll be going to. Sometimes they'll have offices near the courthouse. They might be able to get the conviction suspended so it doesn't go on your record.
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it's a strict liability crime, so you're probably guilty. But a reasonable prosecutor ought to be willing to charge you with some related infraction instead, especially if you provide a statement that your employer instructed you to serve the alcohol. Get a lawyer. A PD might be fine here if you qualify.
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Three years ago I caught my (now ex) husband stealing my daughter's medication for bone cancer. Now he is sober and wants custody. My state is New Jersey. Sorry if this is all over the place but I am really pissed off and a little sacred. My ex-husband has applied for shared (50/50) custody of our 15 year old daughter. Three years ago, while my daughter was battling bone cancer, I caught him stealing her medication and painkillers. He was using and selling them and claimed he was an addict. I divorced him and got full custody and he went to jail for a bit. After he got out of jail I didn't hear anything from him for a while. Now he is petitioning to reinstate shared custody on the grounds that he is sober off drugs and alcohol and has turned his life around. He has not seen, spoken to or had contact with her since I kicked him out three years ago. I don't want him around my daughter, but if she was open to it I would consider it. However she is not and wants nothing to do with him and she is terrified that the court will force her to go see him. I know it's important that I have a lawyer but her and I are living hand to mouth because of her medical bills from when she had cancer. My ex-husband hasn't paid a cent of child support in all this time either because when we got divorced it was determined by the court that child support would be a "hardship" for him given his circumstances and was not ordered to pay anything. If my daughter tells the court she doesn't want to see him after what he did to her would the court honor that? Or would she be forced to anyway? We are both scared and I just want to reassure her if I can.
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On top of what everyone else says, you should also look into filing a recalculation for child support.
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first thing that occurred to me is to see if you can get a guardian ad litem for the 15 yo, that way she has someone to speak for her if dad insists on dragging this to court to try and force visitation. Kid is old enough to have a say, but having someone to speak on her behalf to the judge who is not mom may be wise, in addition to having her see an independent counselor/psychologist etc so they can talk to her about how she felt about what her dad did etc, and also be able to offer an opinion to the court regarding if seeing him is in her best interests - psychologically, it may not be, considering he stole meds she needed to like, not die. An adult would have strong feelings about that, nevermind a preteen kid, who even at 12-13 would be smart enough to know what was going on.
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My Ex and I had a child 20 years ago. Ancestry.com just told us he wasn't the father. He's suing. Actually my wife's ex but the title would have been way more confusing. So my wife and her ex got pregnant when they were 18. She didn't find out she was pregnant for a couple of months and apparently honestly didn't know that he might not be the father due the the supposed timeline of the pregnancy. I believe her. They broke up while she was pregnant but he stayed around and got joint custody along with having to pay child support. ​ Fast forward 20 years and their child signed up for ancestry.com and found out that he wasn't her biological dad. My wife just found out and is in shock and pretty devastated. The man we believed to be her father this whole time is pissed and believes that he was lied to and is planning on suing her for 18 years worth of child support. ​ They're going to get a paternity test to confirm but let's assume this is accurate. My wife genuinely didn't know, she was not lying to him. That might be pretty hard to believe but because of the time she was told she had to have gotten pregnant she really thought she was his. He signed the birth certificate and never questioned it. She feels horrible. ​ This whole thing is pretty traumatic and now I'm freaking out about being sued for 18 years worth of child support payments. I guess basically the question is, how bad is this going to be? ​ \*edit This is in Texas
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Nothing is going to happen. Show up if he actually sues because this is the standard advice for being sued about anything, no matter how stupid and frivolous, but he will not win.
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Once he talks to a lawyer, it's unlikely he will sue. Unless she has proof she lied to him when squarely asked if anyone else could be the father, he has no case. He could have requested a paternity test at the time, and didn't. That said, if he actually files, she absolutely needs to hire a lawyer.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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I work in a special education classroom with teenagers that have intellectual disabilities. This is not acceptable and although there certainly isn’t a “punishment” that would serve useful, I think there is an important discussion that needs to happen with administration and teachers. He can’t go around trying to kiss people for the rest of his life. And your step daughter should feel free to tell him no, push him away, and whatever she has to do. The teachers and TAs should stop him before it gets to that point. To clarify, there is certainly something they can do. Behavior modifications and having him avoid being around the gen ed classes.
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I'm interested in others' takes on this, but if it were my daughter I would raise hell. I wouldn't call tolerating that kind of contact, regardless of intent, a reasonable accommodation of the boy's disability. I'm not sure where the law stands on that, though. In case it matters, roughly how old are these kids?
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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I work in a special education classroom with teenagers that have intellectual disabilities. This is not acceptable and although there certainly isn’t a “punishment” that would serve useful, I think there is an important discussion that needs to happen with administration and teachers. He can’t go around trying to kiss people for the rest of his life. And your step daughter should feel free to tell him no, push him away, and whatever she has to do. The teachers and TAs should stop him before it gets to that point. To clarify, there is certainly something they can do. Behavior modifications and having him avoid being around the gen ed classes.
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Contact the teacher and also school administration since the teacher seems to not have taken a complaint seriously.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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I'm interested in others' takes on this, but if it were my daughter I would raise hell. I wouldn't call tolerating that kind of contact, regardless of intent, a reasonable accommodation of the boy's disability. I'm not sure where the law stands on that, though. In case it matters, roughly how old are these kids?
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"*He does that sometimes, not much to do about it*." Apparently the child makes a habit of this, and I suspect has no personal aide to redirect his behavior. I suspect that the school district saves money by not providing the services that this child, and perhaps others, need. This should be addressed, OP, possibly by you, and probably by the teacher's union besides. The child needs more supervision than the classroom teacher can logically provide. The teacher's response is unacceptable, though.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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ID is no excuse for sexual harassment/assault, and teacher response here isn’t acceptable. That said, federal law (FERPA) prevents them from telling you what steps they are taking to address the issue. They legally cannot say anything, even if they wanted to. There is a very good chance other staff (if not the teacher) are working very hard to address this. I’m not entirely sure you’re going to get your request of him being removed from the class, and it might even be easier to have your daughter be the one to move (as messed up as it might sound). There could very well be a messy, ugly IEP fight with the boy’s parents and the school admin behind the scenes that is making it difficult/impossible for certain actions to be taken, including a classroom move. He’s still entitled to a free and appropriate education and the least restrictive environment, so depending on parental pushback or other compelling reasons, they might not be able to grant your request. Still, go talk to your schools principal to see what options are available to you (and to express dissatisfaction with how this teacher reacted), just be aware that this boy being removed may not be on the table.
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"*He does that sometimes, not much to do about it*." Apparently the child makes a habit of this, and I suspect has no personal aide to redirect his behavior. I suspect that the school district saves money by not providing the services that this child, and perhaps others, need. This should be addressed, OP, possibly by you, and probably by the teacher's union besides. The child needs more supervision than the classroom teacher can logically provide. The teacher's response is unacceptable, though.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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"*He does that sometimes, not much to do about it*." Apparently the child makes a habit of this, and I suspect has no personal aide to redirect his behavior. I suspect that the school district saves money by not providing the services that this child, and perhaps others, need. This should be addressed, OP, possibly by you, and probably by the teacher's union besides. The child needs more supervision than the classroom teacher can logically provide. The teacher's response is unacceptable, though.
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Contact the teacher and also school administration since the teacher seems to not have taken a complaint seriously.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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Contact the teacher and also school administration since the teacher seems to not have taken a complaint seriously.
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ID is no excuse for sexual harassment/assault, and teacher response here isn’t acceptable. That said, federal law (FERPA) prevents them from telling you what steps they are taking to address the issue. They legally cannot say anything, even if they wanted to. There is a very good chance other staff (if not the teacher) are working very hard to address this. I’m not entirely sure you’re going to get your request of him being removed from the class, and it might even be easier to have your daughter be the one to move (as messed up as it might sound). There could very well be a messy, ugly IEP fight with the boy’s parents and the school admin behind the scenes that is making it difficult/impossible for certain actions to be taken, including a classroom move. He’s still entitled to a free and appropriate education and the least restrictive environment, so depending on parental pushback or other compelling reasons, they might not be able to grant your request. Still, go talk to your schools principal to see what options are available to you (and to express dissatisfaction with how this teacher reacted), just be aware that this boy being removed may not be on the table.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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Contact the teacher and also school administration since the teacher seems to not have taken a complaint seriously.
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Call the school district and ask who is in charge of Title IX issues. Tell them what happened. This was an assault, and teachers are supposed to be mandatory reporters. Do not let this slide.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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Call the school district and ask who is in charge of Title IX issues. Tell them what happened. This was an assault, and teachers are supposed to be mandatory reporters. Do not let this slide.
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As a parent of a IDD in co also having issues with our district allowing unacceptable behavior from other children, make sure the parent of the IDD is aware of what’s happening.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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Call the school district and ask who is in charge of Title IX issues. Tell them what happened. This was an assault, and teachers are supposed to be mandatory reporters. Do not let this slide.
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I work with an intellectually disabled population as well. The phrase " sometimes this happens" is both true and a complete cop-out. Part of me is tempted to say just let this one slide and move on, but but that attitude towards developmental disability is a great discredit to the many kids in mainstream settings who know not to try to kiss their classmates. The teacher may not be able to do anything about it given her resources. However, The schools obligation to your daughter is to keep her safe and in a productive learning environment. If it means that the special needs child has a one-to-one paraprofessional, is moved to another class, is placed in a seat that would restrict access to potential kissing targets, these might all be Solutions. Disability should have nothing to do with your child's legal rights to an education and the school's potential liability for failure to remedy the situation. In terms of what to do, you might want to ask your step daughter the following: Was it just icky or did she feel threatened? Was it a peck on the cheek or did he try to pin her down and make out with her? Is she a particular Target for this child?
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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This is definitely something you can and perhaps should push up the chain to higher authority in the school. Something you can do in tandem with other action is to try to connect with his parents for a sit down discussion with them and both children. Depending on exactly what his disability is, giving your daughter a chance to explain to him exactly how it made her feel, and why he shouldn't do so again to her or anyone might be good for both of them. Parents and educators can say why things are bad, but the message can get through a lot clearer if it's coming directly from your daughter. I imagine giving her the opportunity to directly address the situation and calmly speak her mind might help her to feel a little more autonomy in what happens to her, as well.
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Call the school district and ask who is in charge of Title IX issues. Tell them what happened. This was an assault, and teachers are supposed to be mandatory reporters. Do not let this slide.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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Read through most of the comments, could possibly have missed it.... But where in Hell has anyone suggested replacing the damn teacher???? 1) teacher is not suited for their job, they have clearly failed to perform to standards. 2) the “aggressor” mentioned was stated as having a learning disability, nowhere was it ever mentioned that the class itself was a special needs class. 3) although it’s regrettable to have happened to the girl, the teacher could have easily used that situation as a teaching moment for the boy. (He has a learning disability, remember???) 3) I am following the update as well, just annoyed that ANY people actually believe the OP is overreacting.
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Contact the teacher and also school administration since the teacher seems to not have taken a complaint seriously.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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As a parent of a IDD in co also having issues with our district allowing unacceptable behavior from other children, make sure the parent of the IDD is aware of what’s happening.
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Read through most of the comments, could possibly have missed it.... But where in Hell has anyone suggested replacing the damn teacher???? 1) teacher is not suited for their job, they have clearly failed to perform to standards. 2) the “aggressor” mentioned was stated as having a learning disability, nowhere was it ever mentioned that the class itself was a special needs class. 3) although it’s regrettable to have happened to the girl, the teacher could have easily used that situation as a teaching moment for the boy. (He has a learning disability, remember???) 3) I am following the update as well, just annoyed that ANY people actually believe the OP is overreacting.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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Read through most of the comments, could possibly have missed it.... But where in Hell has anyone suggested replacing the damn teacher???? 1) teacher is not suited for their job, they have clearly failed to perform to standards. 2) the “aggressor” mentioned was stated as having a learning disability, nowhere was it ever mentioned that the class itself was a special needs class. 3) although it’s regrettable to have happened to the girl, the teacher could have easily used that situation as a teaching moment for the boy. (He has a learning disability, remember???) 3) I am following the update as well, just annoyed that ANY people actually believe the OP is overreacting.
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I work with an intellectually disabled population as well. The phrase " sometimes this happens" is both true and a complete cop-out. Part of me is tempted to say just let this one slide and move on, but but that attitude towards developmental disability is a great discredit to the many kids in mainstream settings who know not to try to kiss their classmates. The teacher may not be able to do anything about it given her resources. However, The schools obligation to your daughter is to keep her safe and in a productive learning environment. If it means that the special needs child has a one-to-one paraprofessional, is moved to another class, is placed in a seat that would restrict access to potential kissing targets, these might all be Solutions. Disability should have nothing to do with your child's legal rights to an education and the school's potential liability for failure to remedy the situation. In terms of what to do, you might want to ask your step daughter the following: Was it just icky or did she feel threatened? Was it a peck on the cheek or did he try to pin her down and make out with her? Is she a particular Target for this child?
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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This is definitely something you can and perhaps should push up the chain to higher authority in the school. Something you can do in tandem with other action is to try to connect with his parents for a sit down discussion with them and both children. Depending on exactly what his disability is, giving your daughter a chance to explain to him exactly how it made her feel, and why he shouldn't do so again to her or anyone might be good for both of them. Parents and educators can say why things are bad, but the message can get through a lot clearer if it's coming directly from your daughter. I imagine giving her the opportunity to directly address the situation and calmly speak her mind might help her to feel a little more autonomy in what happens to her, as well.
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Read through most of the comments, could possibly have missed it.... But where in Hell has anyone suggested replacing the damn teacher???? 1) teacher is not suited for their job, they have clearly failed to perform to standards. 2) the “aggressor” mentioned was stated as having a learning disability, nowhere was it ever mentioned that the class itself was a special needs class. 3) although it’s regrettable to have happened to the girl, the teacher could have easily used that situation as a teaching moment for the boy. (He has a learning disability, remember???) 3) I am following the update as well, just annoyed that ANY people actually believe the OP is overreacting.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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Contact the teacher and also school administration since the teacher seems to not have taken a complaint seriously.
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As a parent of a IDD in co also having issues with our district allowing unacceptable behavior from other children, make sure the parent of the IDD is aware of what’s happening.
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[CO] A boy with an intellectual disability attempted to kiss my stepdaughter in class when he became "excited". I'm not saying she was assaulted but it sounds pretty close and she is very upset with the situation. My stepdaughter mentioned it to the teacher and her response was something to the effect of "He does that sometimes, not much to do about it." Which to me is an absolute nonsense response. My wife is planning on contacting the teacher today but I'm not sure if that is exactly what we should be doing. If this is not a legal manner and I should be posting in r/relationshipadvice I apologize.
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As a parent of a IDD in co also having issues with our district allowing unacceptable behavior from other children, make sure the parent of the IDD is aware of what’s happening.
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I work with an intellectually disabled population as well. The phrase " sometimes this happens" is both true and a complete cop-out. Part of me is tempted to say just let this one slide and move on, but but that attitude towards developmental disability is a great discredit to the many kids in mainstream settings who know not to try to kiss their classmates. The teacher may not be able to do anything about it given her resources. However, The schools obligation to your daughter is to keep her safe and in a productive learning environment. If it means that the special needs child has a one-to-one paraprofessional, is moved to another class, is placed in a seat that would restrict access to potential kissing targets, these might all be Solutions. Disability should have nothing to do with your child's legal rights to an education and the school's potential liability for failure to remedy the situation. In terms of what to do, you might want to ask your step daughter the following: Was it just icky or did she feel threatened? Was it a peck on the cheek or did he try to pin her down and make out with her? Is she a particular Target for this child?
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Was going to receive a veneer by the dentist, but he told the insurance company it was a crown. I ended having to pay $200 more than I planned for because he committed insurance fraud and now the veneer has messed up my teeth. This happened about a year ago in NYC. I wish I did something right away regarding this, but I'm a pretty passive (and maybe not the smartest?) person and wanted to pretend that things a fine, but now my teeth are getting worse so it's hard to ignore. First off, I have a deep bite that's never really bothered me. This is the first time I'm seeing this guy, and this dentist keeps pressuring me about getting invisalign, which he can conveniently do in his office and would be about $5000. I pretty much live paycheck to paycheck, so I declined him politely every time he brings it up. Now onto the veneer: I chipped my front tooth as a child, and have a filling there. For some reason, a part of my real tooth chipped off a little bit on the same tooth, but didn't bother me at all. He wants remove the filling and put on a veneer, but I declined because I just wanted a cleaning and check up, plus it didn't bother me, plus I'm broke as all hell. He said he would submit it to the insurance company so I could see how much it would be out of pocket for me. The dental office calls me up saying I would have to cover $400 if I got the veneer. I mention this to my parents (I was 24 at the time, living in a different city), and my mom said to just get the veneer and they would cover it. And I was like okay, what do I have to lose then? So my parents give me $400, I get the procedure done, and afterwards the dentist says it's going to be $600. I'm like what? And the dentist says they submitted it as a crown, since the insurance considers veneers cosmetic and wouldn't cover it. I'm a giant push over and just wanted to get out of there so I paid the $600. So not only did they bullshit me out of $200 and commit insurance fraud, it's been a year later and my teeth have gotten slowly fucked up from this veneer. It's been hitting my bottom tooth at a bad angle, because of the deep bite, and since's its a harder material than my old filling, it's been wearing down the bottom tooth. I also feel like at times that my bottom tooth is going to fall out every time I bite down and that its making my deep bite much worse all around. It also looks terrible, though my teeth were never pretty, this made it worse. He definitely should not have given me a veneer until the deep bite was fixed, but probably wanted the quick money. I was wondering if there were actions I could take, especially since it's been a year. Should I report him to the insurance company? Would I have enough grounds to sue for the pain and suffering? I have not been back to see him since, since my insurance switched in January and I no longer have the PPO. I'm also going to see another dentist to get their opinion on the damage done. I really just want my teeth fixed, but have no confidence in going back to him to do it.
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Not a lawyer. Dental student here. It is common knowledge amongst dentist that the ceramic layer of crowns/veneers is stronger than the enamel of your natural teeth. If not adjusted correctly this will cause wear on the opposing dentition. Usually the bite is adjusted to minimize occlusion on the teeth with veneers. In fact, if there is abnormal occlusion a veneer would be contraindicated. I am honestly surprised that the dentist did not mention this to you when he placed the veneer. Especially considering your deep bite. If what you really want is to get your smile fixed you may need to get crowns on the lower teeth to restore their height. Depending on the condition of those teeth... Sorry you're going through this. You should post your question on /r/dentistry. I'm sure they'd be interested and maybe offer more insight from dentistry perspective. Good luck!
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Contact the body that regulates the dentist's license. I think it's the Department of Health but if not, it's the Office of the Professions at the NYS Education Department.
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(Chicago, IL) My landlord hasn’t made necessary living repairs so I filed it with the city and started withholding rent. After that she said she’d have the work done in 3 weeks, it’s been 3 months and she hasn’t replied to any emails. Lease is up in June. Will I need to pay the withheld rent? So my apartment building has had a rat infestation in the basement, inspectors came by and noted an outdated heater with a potential carbon monoxide concern, and there is mold all over my kitchen rotting through the counter tops. On top of that our lease states I would have a dish washer but it hasn’t worked since last summer. I notified my landlord of all these issues over the course of the year and she kept saying “I’ll send someone to check it out” and never did. Finally in January I said enough is enough and I filed a complaint with the city but never received a follow up. As is the renter’s right in Chicago specifically, I began withholding rent which is sitting in an interest bearing account that I set up. As soon as I notified my landlord that I’d be withholding rent she immediately sent contractors to measure the place and source materials for repairs. They said it would be 3 weeks to get materials then they would be back and I’d have to find a place to stay during the work. That was 3 months ago. I offered to go out of town to stay with family while the work got done but my landlord never replied. I have since followed up 3 times to see when the work would be scheduled or how the process was going, absolutely zero response. But she keeps sending me rent bills, the money for which I place in the aforementioned interest account every month on the first. My lease is up at the end of the month and there’s been no response from my landlord on scheduling the work, so even if she does make the repairs at this point I won’t have lived with any of the repairs or amenities that were supposed to be in the unit as per our lease. I’m completely within my rights at this point to break the lease. My question is if she hasn’t made repairs and I’ve been withholding rent, will I have to back pay her for the rent I withheld even though it was in my rights to do so and she still hasn’t honored her side of the lease agreement?
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I would talk to a local Tennant lawyer to ask what documentation you should prepare. As soon as you are out, you lose access to taking pictures and the ability to have further reports taken by people you let in. They should be able to answer this question as well.
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(Chicago, IL) My landlord hasn’t made necessary living repairs so I filed it with the city and started withholding rent. After that she said she’d have the work done in 3 weeks, it’s been 3 months and she hasn’t replied to any emails. Lease is up in June. Will I need to pay the withheld rent? So my apartment building has had a rat infestation in the basement, inspectors came by and noted an outdated heater with a potential carbon monoxide concern, and there is mold all over my kitchen rotting through the counter tops. On top of that our lease states I would have a dish washer but it hasn’t worked since last summer. I notified my landlord of all these issues over the course of the year and she kept saying “I’ll send someone to check it out” and never did. Finally in January I said enough is enough and I filed a complaint with the city but never received a follow up. As is the renter’s right in Chicago specifically, I began withholding rent which is sitting in an interest bearing account that I set up. As soon as I notified my landlord that I’d be withholding rent she immediately sent contractors to measure the place and source materials for repairs. They said it would be 3 weeks to get materials then they would be back and I’d have to find a place to stay during the work. That was 3 months ago. I offered to go out of town to stay with family while the work got done but my landlord never replied. I have since followed up 3 times to see when the work would be scheduled or how the process was going, absolutely zero response. But she keeps sending me rent bills, the money for which I place in the aforementioned interest account every month on the first. My lease is up at the end of the month and there’s been no response from my landlord on scheduling the work, so even if she does make the repairs at this point I won’t have lived with any of the repairs or amenities that were supposed to be in the unit as per our lease. I’m completely within my rights at this point to break the lease. My question is if she hasn’t made repairs and I’ve been withholding rent, will I have to back pay her for the rent I withheld even though it was in my rights to do so and she still hasn’t honored her side of the lease agreement?
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Looks like Chicago has a renter's rights hotline that should be able to help! https://www.chicago.gov/city/en/depts/doh/provdrs/renters/svcs/rents-rights.html
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Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, and we were given a California 3-day notice to "Perform or Quit". I have just been given an invoice for $29,000+ to pay in 10 days. In the end of August, three friends and I moved into a house down the street from our university. The four of us signed the lease and my mother co-signed the lease. One of my roommates brought a dog (husky puppy), and it was agreed that we would put extra into the security deposit for the dog. Over the next three months, my roommate's dog trashed the place. The dog dug holes in the backyard, damaged the fence and gate, and chewed holes in the pool pump, which ruined the pool. On Thanksgiving weekend, the landlord gave a three day notice to my roommate with the dog to perform or quit, but my landlord didn't move out. This resulted in all of us receiving a perform or quit notice two weeks later. The roommate with the dog left and left me to clean up and move all of the furniture and appliances out of the house. Today, we received an itemized invoice from the landlord to pay damages of $29,000. On the invoice are a lot of large amounts, including pool for $15,000, kitchen cabinet refinishing for $9,000, landscaping charges for $1,000, and various other charges for cleaning and labor. We are also being charged rent until the end of the lease in August. Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. An obvious step would be to hire an attorney, but is there a specific type of attorney that we should hire? Is there any way to defer most of these charges to the person responsible, even though the invoice is addressed to all of us who signed the lease? TL;DR: Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, now all of us are being charged $29,000 for damages.
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Some of those items sound VERY high. ($9000 for refinishing cabinets? It would likely cost less to install new cabinets.) Do you have pictures of the house from before the damage occurred? If the landlord wants to collect on that amount, he will need to prove that the actual costs are $29,000 for replacing with the same quality items as before. He can't use this as an opportunity to fully upgrade the house on your dime. If you have pictures (ideally of before AND after the damage) if will make it easier to prove that he is inflating the cost. You can also research for each thing listed for the average price for your area (parts + labor). Again, $15,000 sounds like a whole new pool, not just a new pool pump + cleanup costs. But any pictures you have at all will help, even just random shots from while you were living there. Contact a tenant's rights lawyer in your area, and make sure that all future communication with your landlord is in writing. DO NOT make any promises or offer anything without speaking to a lawyer. CA is fairly friendly towards tenants so any bogus charges should get thrown out if you proceed to court. You probably will end up in court, but it will be a lot cheaper than paying the invoice as-is.
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Presuming that you all had a single lease and didn't sign individual leases? You can cross-sue the roommate with the dog for the damages. If he ever gets any money, you can go after him then.
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Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, and we were given a California 3-day notice to "Perform or Quit". I have just been given an invoice for $29,000+ to pay in 10 days. In the end of August, three friends and I moved into a house down the street from our university. The four of us signed the lease and my mother co-signed the lease. One of my roommates brought a dog (husky puppy), and it was agreed that we would put extra into the security deposit for the dog. Over the next three months, my roommate's dog trashed the place. The dog dug holes in the backyard, damaged the fence and gate, and chewed holes in the pool pump, which ruined the pool. On Thanksgiving weekend, the landlord gave a three day notice to my roommate with the dog to perform or quit, but my landlord didn't move out. This resulted in all of us receiving a perform or quit notice two weeks later. The roommate with the dog left and left me to clean up and move all of the furniture and appliances out of the house. Today, we received an itemized invoice from the landlord to pay damages of $29,000. On the invoice are a lot of large amounts, including pool for $15,000, kitchen cabinet refinishing for $9,000, landscaping charges for $1,000, and various other charges for cleaning and labor. We are also being charged rent until the end of the lease in August. Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. An obvious step would be to hire an attorney, but is there a specific type of attorney that we should hire? Is there any way to defer most of these charges to the person responsible, even though the invoice is addressed to all of us who signed the lease? TL;DR: Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, now all of us are being charged $29,000 for damages.
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It sucks to have one person ruin it for the rest of you, but did you ask him to get rid of the dog? A friend was in the landlord's situation where she understood that the humans did not chew up all of her furniture, urinate on the hard wood floor in one corner of the dog owner's bedroom for several weeks, and wreck the gate to the back yard. She did point out the fact that the dog was there for an entire year and none of the other tenants reported the damage, or asked the owner to get rid of the dog when the other tenants argued that they knew who'd done the damage.
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> Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. He cannot charge you to renovate and "upgrade", he can only bring the items damaged back in line with what they were before they were damaged. Challenge him on this, the good news is you are in California so super tenant friendly.
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Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, and we were given a California 3-day notice to "Perform or Quit". I have just been given an invoice for $29,000+ to pay in 10 days. In the end of August, three friends and I moved into a house down the street from our university. The four of us signed the lease and my mother co-signed the lease. One of my roommates brought a dog (husky puppy), and it was agreed that we would put extra into the security deposit for the dog. Over the next three months, my roommate's dog trashed the place. The dog dug holes in the backyard, damaged the fence and gate, and chewed holes in the pool pump, which ruined the pool. On Thanksgiving weekend, the landlord gave a three day notice to my roommate with the dog to perform or quit, but my landlord didn't move out. This resulted in all of us receiving a perform or quit notice two weeks later. The roommate with the dog left and left me to clean up and move all of the furniture and appliances out of the house. Today, we received an itemized invoice from the landlord to pay damages of $29,000. On the invoice are a lot of large amounts, including pool for $15,000, kitchen cabinet refinishing for $9,000, landscaping charges for $1,000, and various other charges for cleaning and labor. We are also being charged rent until the end of the lease in August. Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. An obvious step would be to hire an attorney, but is there a specific type of attorney that we should hire? Is there any way to defer most of these charges to the person responsible, even though the invoice is addressed to all of us who signed the lease? TL;DR: Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, now all of us are being charged $29,000 for damages.
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> Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. He cannot charge you to renovate and "upgrade", he can only bring the items damaged back in line with what they were before they were damaged. Challenge him on this, the good news is you are in California so super tenant friendly.
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Presuming that you all had a single lease and didn't sign individual leases? You can cross-sue the roommate with the dog for the damages. If he ever gets any money, you can go after him then.
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Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, and we were given a California 3-day notice to "Perform or Quit". I have just been given an invoice for $29,000+ to pay in 10 days. In the end of August, three friends and I moved into a house down the street from our university. The four of us signed the lease and my mother co-signed the lease. One of my roommates brought a dog (husky puppy), and it was agreed that we would put extra into the security deposit for the dog. Over the next three months, my roommate's dog trashed the place. The dog dug holes in the backyard, damaged the fence and gate, and chewed holes in the pool pump, which ruined the pool. On Thanksgiving weekend, the landlord gave a three day notice to my roommate with the dog to perform or quit, but my landlord didn't move out. This resulted in all of us receiving a perform or quit notice two weeks later. The roommate with the dog left and left me to clean up and move all of the furniture and appliances out of the house. Today, we received an itemized invoice from the landlord to pay damages of $29,000. On the invoice are a lot of large amounts, including pool for $15,000, kitchen cabinet refinishing for $9,000, landscaping charges for $1,000, and various other charges for cleaning and labor. We are also being charged rent until the end of the lease in August. Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. An obvious step would be to hire an attorney, but is there a specific type of attorney that we should hire? Is there any way to defer most of these charges to the person responsible, even though the invoice is addressed to all of us who signed the lease? TL;DR: Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, now all of us are being charged $29,000 for damages.
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You definitely need an attorney. Generally speaking though, in my state at least, a landlord can't evict you AND get rent going forward.
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> Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. He cannot charge you to renovate and "upgrade", he can only bring the items damaged back in line with what they were before they were damaged. Challenge him on this, the good news is you are in California so super tenant friendly.
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Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, and we were given a California 3-day notice to "Perform or Quit". I have just been given an invoice for $29,000+ to pay in 10 days. In the end of August, three friends and I moved into a house down the street from our university. The four of us signed the lease and my mother co-signed the lease. One of my roommates brought a dog (husky puppy), and it was agreed that we would put extra into the security deposit for the dog. Over the next three months, my roommate's dog trashed the place. The dog dug holes in the backyard, damaged the fence and gate, and chewed holes in the pool pump, which ruined the pool. On Thanksgiving weekend, the landlord gave a three day notice to my roommate with the dog to perform or quit, but my landlord didn't move out. This resulted in all of us receiving a perform or quit notice two weeks later. The roommate with the dog left and left me to clean up and move all of the furniture and appliances out of the house. Today, we received an itemized invoice from the landlord to pay damages of $29,000. On the invoice are a lot of large amounts, including pool for $15,000, kitchen cabinet refinishing for $9,000, landscaping charges for $1,000, and various other charges for cleaning and labor. We are also being charged rent until the end of the lease in August. Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. An obvious step would be to hire an attorney, but is there a specific type of attorney that we should hire? Is there any way to defer most of these charges to the person responsible, even though the invoice is addressed to all of us who signed the lease? TL;DR: Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, now all of us are being charged $29,000 for damages.
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dbudero
| 1,483,215,205 | 1,483,214,523 | 54 | 43 |
It sucks to have one person ruin it for the rest of you, but did you ask him to get rid of the dog? A friend was in the landlord's situation where she understood that the humans did not chew up all of her furniture, urinate on the hard wood floor in one corner of the dog owner's bedroom for several weeks, and wreck the gate to the back yard. She did point out the fact that the dog was there for an entire year and none of the other tenants reported the damage, or asked the owner to get rid of the dog when the other tenants argued that they knew who'd done the damage.
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Presuming that you all had a single lease and didn't sign individual leases? You can cross-sue the roommate with the dog for the damages. If he ever gets any money, you can go after him then.
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5lb3c3
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legaladvice_train
| 0.93 |
Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, and we were given a California 3-day notice to "Perform or Quit". I have just been given an invoice for $29,000+ to pay in 10 days. In the end of August, three friends and I moved into a house down the street from our university. The four of us signed the lease and my mother co-signed the lease. One of my roommates brought a dog (husky puppy), and it was agreed that we would put extra into the security deposit for the dog. Over the next three months, my roommate's dog trashed the place. The dog dug holes in the backyard, damaged the fence and gate, and chewed holes in the pool pump, which ruined the pool. On Thanksgiving weekend, the landlord gave a three day notice to my roommate with the dog to perform or quit, but my landlord didn't move out. This resulted in all of us receiving a perform or quit notice two weeks later. The roommate with the dog left and left me to clean up and move all of the furniture and appliances out of the house. Today, we received an itemized invoice from the landlord to pay damages of $29,000. On the invoice are a lot of large amounts, including pool for $15,000, kitchen cabinet refinishing for $9,000, landscaping charges for $1,000, and various other charges for cleaning and labor. We are also being charged rent until the end of the lease in August. Currently, the itemized deposit is addressed to the four of us and to my mother who co-signed the lease. No other parents co-signed the lease, and my mom is the only one who has any ability to pay, but it would deplete her savings and retirement completely. A lot of these charges seem in excess, as most of these invoices look like renovations where there weren't major damages or they were existing damages when we moved in. An obvious step would be to hire an attorney, but is there a specific type of attorney that we should hire? Is there any way to defer most of these charges to the person responsible, even though the invoice is addressed to all of us who signed the lease? TL;DR: Roommate destroyed the house we were renting, now all of us are being charged $29,000 for damages.
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dbulaky
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dbuqniy
| 1,483,226,636 | 1,483,235,269 | 18 | 19 |
Story Time! I was renting a house a few years ago. The carpet in the house was in poor condition when we moved in, but we didnt care at the time cause of the situation and we had to move in the house without seeing it first (BAD IDEA, don't do this ever, if possible). Being somewhat handy, I offered to replace the carpet with laminate wood flooring. I had about 85% of the house completed when I ended up injuring myself badly and had to have surgery, and was unable to finish a couple small areas and trim work (like quarter-rounds). When I moved out the LL tried to stiff me with a $10k bill. When I looked at the itemized bill, he tried to put in tile where there was carpet, and do improvements vs replacement, and sack me with the bill. I called him out on it and explained how my wife and I had to make a ton of repairs, painting and other things we were told would be done prior to move in but weren't, and were told by the LL's realtor "oh well" basically. We ended up agreeing that I would pay for the cost of the materials for the laminate wood flooring (I had an agreement with the LL to deduct from rent the cost of the materials, as I did the project in sections). I would see if you could get in touch with a lawyer and maybe pay a contractor to get a separate estimate. It sounds like they are trying to pull a fast one on you guys. I don't see how messing up the pump destroys the entire pool, unless it was in-ground, the water drained, and cracked the entire pool foundation.
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You have renter's insurance, right? It usually has some sort of liability coverage for this kind of event.
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hruzat
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legaladvice_train
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I was tested for Covid by a independent lab through my employer, my employer called me with the results. I don’t have a problem with them knowing the results but I thought that medical records could only be released to someone if it was authorized to do so. Is this legal? Edit: Location is Houston.
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fy6r87m
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fy7m5km
| 1,594,848,426 | 1,594,865,308 | 10 | 20 |
Did they have you sign something? I would check to see if that something says they are going to release the information to your employer.
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There is a very tiny allowance in the COVID /privacy rules about this. if the employer is providing the care or directing the care under employee health the employer is allowed to get the results. Source: I drafted the notice, education and training for my clinic. I’ll look for a link to my original.
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ws0uxf
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legaladvice_train
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Mother forge my signature on a criminal summons which resulted in me pleading guilty to a misdemeanor I did not do Long story short my mother wrote a worthless check using one of my blank checks. The check bonce and the store filed a police report. I was mailed a summons that my mother forge my signature on and mailed back. This was 2016 and I'm am now just finding out I have a misdemeanor through a background check. How do I prove my innocence and clear my record if it's even possible?
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ikvtf97
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ikw5wr1
| 1,660,876,732 | 1,660,883,187 | 14 | 275 |
What state is this in? You need to ask someone if there is a statute of limitations on this.
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Not a lawyer, but I am still dealing with someone that stole my identity, and used it when they went to court for criminal charges. Absolutely DO NOT pay anything to anyone. By paying, or even agreeing to pay, you are effectively making that debt yours. Call the court house for the county that this took place, explain to them what occurred, and and that you would like to have it removed from your criminal record. You will likely have to take a trip to your states Bureau of Investigation with your ID, Birth Certificate, and Social Security card(no copies, only originals) and you will likely be fingerprinted, and then mailed a letter that states you are who you say you are. I have one of these letters that I have to keep with me for the rest of my life, in case I ever have police contact and there's a surprise warrant or something. Find out if the court fines were paid, if not, do not pay them but be prepared to eventually have your state tax return intercepted, and then it is a long process to get your money back. I have been dealing with this for over a decade, so please don't think any advice you get is 'over-the-top' as you will likely have to go some pretty far lengths to get this sorted out. Best bet is to contact a criminal attorney that takes on a lot of identity theft cases.
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ws0uxf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Mother forge my signature on a criminal summons which resulted in me pleading guilty to a misdemeanor I did not do Long story short my mother wrote a worthless check using one of my blank checks. The check bonce and the store filed a police report. I was mailed a summons that my mother forge my signature on and mailed back. This was 2016 and I'm am now just finding out I have a misdemeanor through a background check. How do I prove my innocence and clear my record if it's even possible?
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ikvtf97
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ikwb09a
| 1,660,876,732 | 1,660,886,315 | 14 | 108 |
What state is this in? You need to ask someone if there is a statute of limitations on this.
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Freeze your credit right now! and find a lawyer because you are going to have debts to contest. Record everything and don't communicate with your mother any way but in writing.
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ws0uxf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Mother forge my signature on a criminal summons which resulted in me pleading guilty to a misdemeanor I did not do Long story short my mother wrote a worthless check using one of my blank checks. The check bonce and the store filed a police report. I was mailed a summons that my mother forge my signature on and mailed back. This was 2016 and I'm am now just finding out I have a misdemeanor through a background check. How do I prove my innocence and clear my record if it's even possible?
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ikvtf97
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ikwb0ma
| 1,660,876,732 | 1,660,886,321 | 14 | 31 |
What state is this in? You need to ask someone if there is a statute of limitations on this.
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Firstly as some have said get a criminal defence attorney, I assume you have spoke to your mother and asked her to come clean but she refused? But because of this if it goes.any further your.mither may end up spending some time behind bars so be prepared for this and any potential personal backlash from this.
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w2vgkz
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Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igtk8ht
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igt4zad
| 1,658,260,006 | 1,658,254,268 | 79 | 68 |
This is going to require talking to a medical malpractice attorney. This is way outside the scope of not just Reddit, but any random medical professional who may think it sounds egregious. It’s far too fact specific, to say nothing of whether or not a stroke would be initially suspected based on the presentation. As an example, something similar happened to my ex husband. He went to the ER with a handful of odd symptoms, they diagnosed him as dehydrated and sent him home. A few hours later the tiny stroke he was having turned into a massive brain stem stroke that kept him in a coma for 2 weeks and with extreme disabilities once he did come out of it. He did not meet any risk factors for a stroke, was under 40, and so it wasn’t even considered when he was in the ER. As they say, look for horses, not zebras. A med mal attorney will be able to help your family navigate the details and figure out if there was malpractice. I’m so sorry you all are going through this and I hope your SO’s aunt can have some meaningful recovery.
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I'm sorry to hear this happened to your family member. As an FM/ER doc who works in rural ERs, I can tell you that this may not be as malicious as it seems. Many people have headaches with tingling. In a pre-covid world, sure, she would have been seen sooner, but right now there are not enough nurses to staff anything. Patients that I can't admit take up my ER beds, which mean I can't see as many people in the ER or as quickly. Health outcomes are going to be worse for the foreseeable future, which is part of why a better way to measure the impacts of COVID would be the "Excess deaths" per year, rather than purely how many deaths have COVID-19 on their death certificates. If it's any solace, too, the chance that her outcome would have actually been better with prompt care is not as high as you might think. We do have "clot busters" that show a limited improvement at 6months-2 years out, but that's in a very limited set of patients who's stroke is a clot. This may or may not have applied to her. There's no reliable way to say that there was a clot there before hand, as it is likely to have just been a bleed from the beginning with the sound of her symptoms, in which case no specific treatment would have been given aside from blood pressure control.
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w2vgkz
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igtk8ht
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igt6vb1
| 1,658,260,006 | 1,658,254,970 | 79 | 55 |
This is going to require talking to a medical malpractice attorney. This is way outside the scope of not just Reddit, but any random medical professional who may think it sounds egregious. It’s far too fact specific, to say nothing of whether or not a stroke would be initially suspected based on the presentation. As an example, something similar happened to my ex husband. He went to the ER with a handful of odd symptoms, they diagnosed him as dehydrated and sent him home. A few hours later the tiny stroke he was having turned into a massive brain stem stroke that kept him in a coma for 2 weeks and with extreme disabilities once he did come out of it. He did not meet any risk factors for a stroke, was under 40, and so it wasn’t even considered when he was in the ER. As they say, look for horses, not zebras. A med mal attorney will be able to help your family navigate the details and figure out if there was malpractice. I’m so sorry you all are going through this and I hope your SO’s aunt can have some meaningful recovery.
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Not a lawyer- Request medical records now. And find a lawyer that specializes in medical malpractice. Typically, a nurse is in charge of triage (basically keeping an eye on everyone in the waiting room and deciding which emergencies get treatment first.) Someone with a relatively small complaint isn't going to seem very suspicious and will therefore have to wait. You really need to know what the complaint is and what assessment findings the triage nurse saw to establish if anything deviated from the standard of care. If the chief complaint is headache and vital signs look normal with everything else stable at the time of triage, classifying the patient as low priority wouldn't deviate from the standard of care. I'm really sorry for everything your family is going through. Worrying about finances is the last thing your aunt should have to do while recovering.
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w2vgkz
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igtixju
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igtk8ht
| 1,658,259,514 | 1,658,260,006 | 25 | 79 |
It is worth talking to an experienced malpractice attorney particularly since she told them she suspected a stroke.
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This is going to require talking to a medical malpractice attorney. This is way outside the scope of not just Reddit, but any random medical professional who may think it sounds egregious. It’s far too fact specific, to say nothing of whether or not a stroke would be initially suspected based on the presentation. As an example, something similar happened to my ex husband. He went to the ER with a handful of odd symptoms, they diagnosed him as dehydrated and sent him home. A few hours later the tiny stroke he was having turned into a massive brain stem stroke that kept him in a coma for 2 weeks and with extreme disabilities once he did come out of it. He did not meet any risk factors for a stroke, was under 40, and so it wasn’t even considered when he was in the ER. As they say, look for horses, not zebras. A med mal attorney will be able to help your family navigate the details and figure out if there was malpractice. I’m so sorry you all are going through this and I hope your SO’s aunt can have some meaningful recovery.
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w2vgkz
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igswc7l
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igtk8ht
| 1,658,251,080 | 1,658,260,006 | 13 | 79 |
I agree with those who suggest consulting with a local law firm that has experience with medical malpractice trials. You may also want to look at remedies under EMTLA, which is a federal law that requires hospitals to neutrally screen patients (e.g., the hospital cannot apply a different or delayed screening for non-insured patients versus insured patients, etc.).
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This is going to require talking to a medical malpractice attorney. This is way outside the scope of not just Reddit, but any random medical professional who may think it sounds egregious. It’s far too fact specific, to say nothing of whether or not a stroke would be initially suspected based on the presentation. As an example, something similar happened to my ex husband. He went to the ER with a handful of odd symptoms, they diagnosed him as dehydrated and sent him home. A few hours later the tiny stroke he was having turned into a massive brain stem stroke that kept him in a coma for 2 weeks and with extreme disabilities once he did come out of it. He did not meet any risk factors for a stroke, was under 40, and so it wasn’t even considered when he was in the ER. As they say, look for horses, not zebras. A med mal attorney will be able to help your family navigate the details and figure out if there was malpractice. I’m so sorry you all are going through this and I hope your SO’s aunt can have some meaningful recovery.
| 0 | 8,926 | 6.076923 |
w2vgkz
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igswc7l
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igt4zad
| 1,658,251,080 | 1,658,254,268 | 13 | 68 |
I agree with those who suggest consulting with a local law firm that has experience with medical malpractice trials. You may also want to look at remedies under EMTLA, which is a federal law that requires hospitals to neutrally screen patients (e.g., the hospital cannot apply a different or delayed screening for non-insured patients versus insured patients, etc.).
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I'm sorry to hear this happened to your family member. As an FM/ER doc who works in rural ERs, I can tell you that this may not be as malicious as it seems. Many people have headaches with tingling. In a pre-covid world, sure, she would have been seen sooner, but right now there are not enough nurses to staff anything. Patients that I can't admit take up my ER beds, which mean I can't see as many people in the ER or as quickly. Health outcomes are going to be worse for the foreseeable future, which is part of why a better way to measure the impacts of COVID would be the "Excess deaths" per year, rather than purely how many deaths have COVID-19 on their death certificates. If it's any solace, too, the chance that her outcome would have actually been better with prompt care is not as high as you might think. We do have "clot busters" that show a limited improvement at 6months-2 years out, but that's in a very limited set of patients who's stroke is a clot. This may or may not have applied to her. There's no reliable way to say that there was a clot there before hand, as it is likely to have just been a bleed from the beginning with the sound of her symptoms, in which case no specific treatment would have been given aside from blood pressure control.
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w2vgkz
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igt6vb1
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igswc7l
| 1,658,254,970 | 1,658,251,080 | 55 | 13 |
Not a lawyer- Request medical records now. And find a lawyer that specializes in medical malpractice. Typically, a nurse is in charge of triage (basically keeping an eye on everyone in the waiting room and deciding which emergencies get treatment first.) Someone with a relatively small complaint isn't going to seem very suspicious and will therefore have to wait. You really need to know what the complaint is and what assessment findings the triage nurse saw to establish if anything deviated from the standard of care. If the chief complaint is headache and vital signs look normal with everything else stable at the time of triage, classifying the patient as low priority wouldn't deviate from the standard of care. I'm really sorry for everything your family is going through. Worrying about finances is the last thing your aunt should have to do while recovering.
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I agree with those who suggest consulting with a local law firm that has experience with medical malpractice trials. You may also want to look at remedies under EMTLA, which is a federal law that requires hospitals to neutrally screen patients (e.g., the hospital cannot apply a different or delayed screening for non-insured patients versus insured patients, etc.).
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w2vgkz
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Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igswc7l
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It is worth talking to an experienced malpractice attorney particularly since she told them she suspected a stroke.
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I agree with those who suggest consulting with a local law firm that has experience with medical malpractice trials. You may also want to look at remedies under EMTLA, which is a federal law that requires hospitals to neutrally screen patients (e.g., the hospital cannot apply a different or delayed screening for non-insured patients versus insured patients, etc.).
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w2vgkz
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legaladvice_train
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Family member went to the emergency room for stroke symptoms, did not recieve treatment until 6 hours later after she had a seizure and collapsed in the lobby. She now faces overwhelming medical costs and potentially life-long disability. This happened in Missouri last week. My SO's aunt had a very intense headache and knew something was wrong because she had never had a migraine before. She started feeling numb in the right half of her body and called her sister, who told her to immediately go to the ER for a stroke screening. Upon arriving and telling the staff she was worried she was having a stroke, she was left alone in the waiting area for 6 hours until she collapsed and began seizing. The doctors said she had a blood clot in her brain that caused her initial symptoms before bursting and leading to bleeding within her brain. She was airlifted to a large hospital in mid-Missouri and is still there, receiving treatment. She is stable and aware, but cannot speak correctly or control the affected side of her body. It has been heartbreaking to see her children's reactions to seeing their mom like this and her pain at not being in control of her body. The cost of everything will be overwhelming and not something the family should be concerned with at the moment, yet the helicopter ride to the larger hospital alone will likely be $20,000 or so, not to mention the week long hospital stay, CT scans, therapy, etc... I work in healthcare and everyone I've spoken to about this incident is livid. We teach stroke symptoms to children for Pete's sake! The difference between treatment of a stroke immediately after symptoms appear and even 6 hours later can be life altering, and any emergency department should be aware of this. The fact she was presenting stroke symptoms as well as verbally requesting stroke screening and then left on her own until she having seizure is absolutely infuriating. I want to know if there is legal grounds for her family to sue the hospital, to at the VERY LEAST cover her medical expenses. Thanks in advance.
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igswc7l
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igtpyqh
| 1,658,251,080 | 1,658,262,123 | 13 | 16 |
I agree with those who suggest consulting with a local law firm that has experience with medical malpractice trials. You may also want to look at remedies under EMTLA, which is a federal law that requires hospitals to neutrally screen patients (e.g., the hospital cannot apply a different or delayed screening for non-insured patients versus insured patients, etc.).
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Medical malpractice is beyond what Reddit can provide for you. You need an attorney,
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53yxdh
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(CT) contagious child in my son's class My young son is in a class with another boy who was diagnosed with coxsackie virus. It's a foot and mouth disease. We were notified that there was a diagnosis but the child is still allowed to attend class. This child has open sores around his mouth and on his hands. Everything we have read says he is still contagious but the school says he is not. What can we do? It's not fair to expose the other students or the teachers to this. They can easily bring it home to young children and old people with bad immune systems. Is there anything we can do legally?
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d7xemt1
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Yeah, I remember this running rampant at my daughters daycare when she was small. They basically sent us a letter saying to expect our child to get it. This would be like trying to prevent runny noses, it's just part and parcel.
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The disease normally vanishes in about a week or so and there really is no way to prevent infection other than persistent handwashing and ensuring that sores are taken care of. The child will be fine in a short time, and there is nothing illegal about him being in school. You've got 18 years of school ahead you, kids will get sick and go to class and unfortunately probably get your child sick sometimes. There isn't much you can do but encourage your son to practice proper hygiene when he's at school. Nothing you can do but keep him home if you'd like.
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53yxdh
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legaladvice_train
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(CT) contagious child in my son's class My young son is in a class with another boy who was diagnosed with coxsackie virus. It's a foot and mouth disease. We were notified that there was a diagnosis but the child is still allowed to attend class. This child has open sores around his mouth and on his hands. Everything we have read says he is still contagious but the school says he is not. What can we do? It's not fair to expose the other students or the teachers to this. They can easily bring it home to young children and old people with bad immune systems. Is there anything we can do legally?
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d7xiuwq
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Guarantee OP is a first-time parent.
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It's a very common childhood illness and most kids will eventually get it. There's no way around it, but daycares are full of bacteria and a breeding ground for illnesses. If you don't want your kid exposed, take them out of the daycare. But you really should just learn to deal with it. A sick kid is not the end of the world.
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53yxdh
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legaladvice_train
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(CT) contagious child in my son's class My young son is in a class with another boy who was diagnosed with coxsackie virus. It's a foot and mouth disease. We were notified that there was a diagnosis but the child is still allowed to attend class. This child has open sores around his mouth and on his hands. Everything we have read says he is still contagious but the school says he is not. What can we do? It's not fair to expose the other students or the teachers to this. They can easily bring it home to young children and old people with bad immune systems. Is there anything we can do legally?
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d7xrmsd
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d7xu52r
| 1,474,568,004 | 1,474,571,148 | 4 | 48 |
Hand Foot and Mouth is contagious for 2 weeks prior to symptoms being visible. Once symptoms arise the child is no longer contagious unless you come in direct contact with pus from a blister (which is harder than you think). It's commonly spread via Nasal drainage and feces. That's why it's so common in children under 5 (who suck at hand washing and wear diapers/need their asses wiped) and much less common in children over 5 and adults (who know how to wash their hands and not touch other people's shit). My 8 month old has it right now.
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Guarantee OP is a first-time parent.
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Son's daycare is logging my child in and refusing to refund money I am in NJ. In April my 5 year old sons daycare closed due to covid. After months of that it reopened in september and of course, he wanted back in to be with his friends. So i sent him back. Then October 30th we received a call from his daycare that his teacher had tested positive for covid. We are a high risk household. My fianceè was pregnant with a nicu baby and my elderly stepfather we take care of has MS and is very high risk. Clearly, we pulled my son from school. The problem lies in the fact that on October 25th, i had paid his november tuition in advance. When i contacted the school to discuss a refund do to an unsafe environment amidst the pandemic and high risk household, they stopped communicating with me. Then beginning at the end of november i saw that they started logging him in and put of activities at school through an app that monitors his day with updates of what he is doing. I have pictures and videos of me and him at my house playing when they are logging him for culircle time or lunch and things like that. I am not certain if this is to try to keep my money and claim that he is attending school or because they are trying to claim he is attending to defraud the govt for funds. I have not yet spoken with the school about the log ins as they seem fairly unwilling to communicate with me after my refund request. Either way, my question is what agency do i contact to discuss this situation? Is this a covid relief situation where i contact those authorities? Is this a state level funding issue? Should i attempt to contact the school and specifically address the log ins or do i just go straight to the group that oversees certain aspects?
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gfkz7ef
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Most daycare contracts have stipulations about payment. Ours says we pay to keep her seat, whether she’s there or not, with no refunds. Your contract controls this situation. The logging thing is weird. I’d contact them about that.
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There aren't a lot.of rules on daycare contracts. We paid half rate when they were closed for several months. We had an option to pay a month of full rate and drop out but we chose to keep the slot for our child.
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Can my in-laws sue for custody of my child (more details inside)? State is NJ. I will try to keep this brief. For much needed context, my husband and I have known each other since we were infants. Our families were also close-knit. Growing up, we both suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of our families. His abuse may have been worse than mine. Circa 2003, when we were teens, we reported the physical abuse but nothing ever came of it and the DA refused to take them to trial. Basically our families got out of it because they made me and my husband seem like we were the trouble, and that our abuse was self imposed. At separate points in time after this, we were both institutionalized at mental health facilities against our will. We used to self harm in the past, and both of us have scars. Neither of us moved out of our parents' homes until we reached 28, and we just decided to marry each other since all my other relationships were abusive, and he could only love me...and I realized I felt that way too. Still our relationship isn't exactly super healthy or ideal. We live in a pretty shitty apartment in a bad part of town. I fell pregnant despite being on birth control pills, and we both decided to just deal with it because both of us really want to have a happy family and raise our children with the love we never had. Our parents, his and mine, continue to stalk and harass us. Most of it is subtle like just trying to force their way into our social media (we have them blocked but they make new accounts) or banging on our apartment door late at night or calling our jobs to get us fired (which has worked...). Thus the cops can never really help us out, and they basically just tell us to "resolve it ourselves". However, my in-laws found out about the pregnancy because I've been "showing". They are now stating they are going to report us to CPS. They claim that CPS will investigate and take our baby away, and get handed over to them so they can apply for custody. They say they have ammunition due to our having been placed in mental health facilities, being on depression/anxiety medication, the scars from self harming, etc etc. On top of that, they claim that we don't have the proper means to care for the baby, and that will be a huge factor as well. My husband works two minimum wage jobs, and I work one...so there is that. I have tried to do research on this topic, I just haven't found any straight answers on what will prompt CPS to investigate or remove children from their parents. I know a lot of the people here will recommend for us to speak to an attorney. I've called five in the last few days, none of them will give a free consultation because our case is apparently "complicated". We can't afford an attorney right now. The fees seem to run up to the $700s, and we just barely managed to scrape some money for the baby's necessities. I just really want to know if they have a legitimate case. Can they remove our child for these reasons? If our baby is removed, what can we do about it? Can we request that the baby not be placed with my in-laws or my family due to their abusive nature? Will my word even matter? Also, I posted elsewhere, and many people just suggested I have an abortion. We are not interested in aborting especially not because of my in-laws, we both have our hearts set on welcoming this baby and taking care of him/her to the best of our abilities. It's been our dream to have children, and to form a happy family.
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dwn34lb
| 1,522,613,435 | 1,522,612,002 | 61 | 23 |
You can’t prevent CPS from starting an investigation. However you can make sure that they will have no issue leaving you in charge of your child. We’re currently fighting a similar situation. We’ve cut off toxic family members who’ve threatened to call CPS (saved those texts and voicemails!) So we prepped an “Oh Shit”-folder. It has physical copies of the threats to call cps. Copies of the emergency room report when I had to be seen because of something they did. Copies of kiddos medical records and vaccinations. Copies of our own mental health treatment stuff. Statements from witnesses to abuse. And therapists. The same is saved on a cloud, an email address put aside for that and a hard drive. We have cameras inside because we’re not allowed to have cameras for outside (we live on a Military installation), MPs have been warned to not let them have access to base and that welfare calls may be coming in. Baby proofed the heck out the place. We’re trying to keep the house as clean as possible with a toddler running around, the pantry is stocked for weeks and that’s about everything we can do now. We’re lucky to have access to a lawyer through the Military who will be stepping in if we need him to. You may be able to find free or reduced representation through legal aid or legal clinics in your area. Figure this out now so you know where and whom to call should you need to. Look up grandparent rights laws for your state. Then you know what circumstances have to be met for them to ever have a chance at visitation. Ideally since the baby isn’t born, don’t let them ever met the baby. That should make it really hard in any state for them to have a case. You can’t prevent the investigation. However you can make sure that they see every concern is unfounded.
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Not a lawyer, but can you get a restraining order against your in-laws?
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88sh4j
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Can my in-laws sue for custody of my child (more details inside)? State is NJ. I will try to keep this brief. For much needed context, my husband and I have known each other since we were infants. Our families were also close-knit. Growing up, we both suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of our families. His abuse may have been worse than mine. Circa 2003, when we were teens, we reported the physical abuse but nothing ever came of it and the DA refused to take them to trial. Basically our families got out of it because they made me and my husband seem like we were the trouble, and that our abuse was self imposed. At separate points in time after this, we were both institutionalized at mental health facilities against our will. We used to self harm in the past, and both of us have scars. Neither of us moved out of our parents' homes until we reached 28, and we just decided to marry each other since all my other relationships were abusive, and he could only love me...and I realized I felt that way too. Still our relationship isn't exactly super healthy or ideal. We live in a pretty shitty apartment in a bad part of town. I fell pregnant despite being on birth control pills, and we both decided to just deal with it because both of us really want to have a happy family and raise our children with the love we never had. Our parents, his and mine, continue to stalk and harass us. Most of it is subtle like just trying to force their way into our social media (we have them blocked but they make new accounts) or banging on our apartment door late at night or calling our jobs to get us fired (which has worked...). Thus the cops can never really help us out, and they basically just tell us to "resolve it ourselves". However, my in-laws found out about the pregnancy because I've been "showing". They are now stating they are going to report us to CPS. They claim that CPS will investigate and take our baby away, and get handed over to them so they can apply for custody. They say they have ammunition due to our having been placed in mental health facilities, being on depression/anxiety medication, the scars from self harming, etc etc. On top of that, they claim that we don't have the proper means to care for the baby, and that will be a huge factor as well. My husband works two minimum wage jobs, and I work one...so there is that. I have tried to do research on this topic, I just haven't found any straight answers on what will prompt CPS to investigate or remove children from their parents. I know a lot of the people here will recommend for us to speak to an attorney. I've called five in the last few days, none of them will give a free consultation because our case is apparently "complicated". We can't afford an attorney right now. The fees seem to run up to the $700s, and we just barely managed to scrape some money for the baby's necessities. I just really want to know if they have a legitimate case. Can they remove our child for these reasons? If our baby is removed, what can we do about it? Can we request that the baby not be placed with my in-laws or my family due to their abusive nature? Will my word even matter? Also, I posted elsewhere, and many people just suggested I have an abortion. We are not interested in aborting especially not because of my in-laws, we both have our hearts set on welcoming this baby and taking care of him/her to the best of our abilities. It's been our dream to have children, and to form a happy family.
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dwn4dxr
| 1,522,612,562 | 1,522,613,435 | 21 | 61 |
CPS is focused on the child’s health, welfare and safety. We (I conduct CPS investigations in another state) do not walk into a family’s life to remove children. I can’t speak for your state but where I work, poverty, homelessness and mental health are not stand alone reasons for removing a child from the home. When I go into a home where there is a newborn I’m looking for kept well-child check-ups, WIC appointments, a clean child and a clean and safe home as well as parents who are practicing safe sleep. If mental health for the parents are a concern I’m looking for proof that they are in counseling, and/or on the appropriate medication and able to manage their own lives as well as care for their baby. Just because your family may think they can “do better” with your baby , that is not factored in during a CPS investigation. This is your child and we work with the family directly, not the extended family. Again, can’t speak for your state but where I work our policy is that we are not allowed to talk about a clients case to extended family without the client signing a release. Grandparents call all the time asking about the status of a case and I have to tell them I can’t say anything without the clients permission. I know this is a long response but I hope it helps settle your mind a little bit. IF there is CPS involvement ask what they have to offer for help and accept whatever services are given. As for your family, I think going (and staying) no contact is the best response.
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You can’t prevent CPS from starting an investigation. However you can make sure that they will have no issue leaving you in charge of your child. We’re currently fighting a similar situation. We’ve cut off toxic family members who’ve threatened to call CPS (saved those texts and voicemails!) So we prepped an “Oh Shit”-folder. It has physical copies of the threats to call cps. Copies of the emergency room report when I had to be seen because of something they did. Copies of kiddos medical records and vaccinations. Copies of our own mental health treatment stuff. Statements from witnesses to abuse. And therapists. The same is saved on a cloud, an email address put aside for that and a hard drive. We have cameras inside because we’re not allowed to have cameras for outside (we live on a Military installation), MPs have been warned to not let them have access to base and that welfare calls may be coming in. Baby proofed the heck out the place. We’re trying to keep the house as clean as possible with a toddler running around, the pantry is stocked for weeks and that’s about everything we can do now. We’re lucky to have access to a lawyer through the Military who will be stepping in if we need him to. You may be able to find free or reduced representation through legal aid or legal clinics in your area. Figure this out now so you know where and whom to call should you need to. Look up grandparent rights laws for your state. Then you know what circumstances have to be met for them to ever have a chance at visitation. Ideally since the baby isn’t born, don’t let them ever met the baby. That should make it really hard in any state for them to have a case. You can’t prevent the investigation. However you can make sure that they see every concern is unfounded.
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88sh4j
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legaladvice_train
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Can my in-laws sue for custody of my child (more details inside)? State is NJ. I will try to keep this brief. For much needed context, my husband and I have known each other since we were infants. Our families were also close-knit. Growing up, we both suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of our families. His abuse may have been worse than mine. Circa 2003, when we were teens, we reported the physical abuse but nothing ever came of it and the DA refused to take them to trial. Basically our families got out of it because they made me and my husband seem like we were the trouble, and that our abuse was self imposed. At separate points in time after this, we were both institutionalized at mental health facilities against our will. We used to self harm in the past, and both of us have scars. Neither of us moved out of our parents' homes until we reached 28, and we just decided to marry each other since all my other relationships were abusive, and he could only love me...and I realized I felt that way too. Still our relationship isn't exactly super healthy or ideal. We live in a pretty shitty apartment in a bad part of town. I fell pregnant despite being on birth control pills, and we both decided to just deal with it because both of us really want to have a happy family and raise our children with the love we never had. Our parents, his and mine, continue to stalk and harass us. Most of it is subtle like just trying to force their way into our social media (we have them blocked but they make new accounts) or banging on our apartment door late at night or calling our jobs to get us fired (which has worked...). Thus the cops can never really help us out, and they basically just tell us to "resolve it ourselves". However, my in-laws found out about the pregnancy because I've been "showing". They are now stating they are going to report us to CPS. They claim that CPS will investigate and take our baby away, and get handed over to them so they can apply for custody. They say they have ammunition due to our having been placed in mental health facilities, being on depression/anxiety medication, the scars from self harming, etc etc. On top of that, they claim that we don't have the proper means to care for the baby, and that will be a huge factor as well. My husband works two minimum wage jobs, and I work one...so there is that. I have tried to do research on this topic, I just haven't found any straight answers on what will prompt CPS to investigate or remove children from their parents. I know a lot of the people here will recommend for us to speak to an attorney. I've called five in the last few days, none of them will give a free consultation because our case is apparently "complicated". We can't afford an attorney right now. The fees seem to run up to the $700s, and we just barely managed to scrape some money for the baby's necessities. I just really want to know if they have a legitimate case. Can they remove our child for these reasons? If our baby is removed, what can we do about it? Can we request that the baby not be placed with my in-laws or my family due to their abusive nature? Will my word even matter? Also, I posted elsewhere, and many people just suggested I have an abortion. We are not interested in aborting especially not because of my in-laws, we both have our hearts set on welcoming this baby and taking care of him/her to the best of our abilities. It's been our dream to have children, and to form a happy family.
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dwn4dxr
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dwn3m4r
| 1,522,613,435 | 1,522,612,568 | 61 | 7 |
You can’t prevent CPS from starting an investigation. However you can make sure that they will have no issue leaving you in charge of your child. We’re currently fighting a similar situation. We’ve cut off toxic family members who’ve threatened to call CPS (saved those texts and voicemails!) So we prepped an “Oh Shit”-folder. It has physical copies of the threats to call cps. Copies of the emergency room report when I had to be seen because of something they did. Copies of kiddos medical records and vaccinations. Copies of our own mental health treatment stuff. Statements from witnesses to abuse. And therapists. The same is saved on a cloud, an email address put aside for that and a hard drive. We have cameras inside because we’re not allowed to have cameras for outside (we live on a Military installation), MPs have been warned to not let them have access to base and that welfare calls may be coming in. Baby proofed the heck out the place. We’re trying to keep the house as clean as possible with a toddler running around, the pantry is stocked for weeks and that’s about everything we can do now. We’re lucky to have access to a lawyer through the Military who will be stepping in if we need him to. You may be able to find free or reduced representation through legal aid or legal clinics in your area. Figure this out now so you know where and whom to call should you need to. Look up grandparent rights laws for your state. Then you know what circumstances have to be met for them to ever have a chance at visitation. Ideally since the baby isn’t born, don’t let them ever met the baby. That should make it really hard in any state for them to have a case. You can’t prevent the investigation. However you can make sure that they see every concern is unfounded.
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You have a lot of good advice here already. I would keep a notebook/folder of all of the doctor visit paperwork handy for CPS to review. I would also include in it everything else you buy (receipts) for the baby like car seat, formula, diapers, etc. And since your family is going to make you a bit of a CPS targer, make sure diaper rash is handled immediately and be in top of everything else. Good luck! I hope you have a wonderful baby. It is an awesome experience.
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88sh4j
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legaladvice_train
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Can my in-laws sue for custody of my child (more details inside)? State is NJ. I will try to keep this brief. For much needed context, my husband and I have known each other since we were infants. Our families were also close-knit. Growing up, we both suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of our families. His abuse may have been worse than mine. Circa 2003, when we were teens, we reported the physical abuse but nothing ever came of it and the DA refused to take them to trial. Basically our families got out of it because they made me and my husband seem like we were the trouble, and that our abuse was self imposed. At separate points in time after this, we were both institutionalized at mental health facilities against our will. We used to self harm in the past, and both of us have scars. Neither of us moved out of our parents' homes until we reached 28, and we just decided to marry each other since all my other relationships were abusive, and he could only love me...and I realized I felt that way too. Still our relationship isn't exactly super healthy or ideal. We live in a pretty shitty apartment in a bad part of town. I fell pregnant despite being on birth control pills, and we both decided to just deal with it because both of us really want to have a happy family and raise our children with the love we never had. Our parents, his and mine, continue to stalk and harass us. Most of it is subtle like just trying to force their way into our social media (we have them blocked but they make new accounts) or banging on our apartment door late at night or calling our jobs to get us fired (which has worked...). Thus the cops can never really help us out, and they basically just tell us to "resolve it ourselves". However, my in-laws found out about the pregnancy because I've been "showing". They are now stating they are going to report us to CPS. They claim that CPS will investigate and take our baby away, and get handed over to them so they can apply for custody. They say they have ammunition due to our having been placed in mental health facilities, being on depression/anxiety medication, the scars from self harming, etc etc. On top of that, they claim that we don't have the proper means to care for the baby, and that will be a huge factor as well. My husband works two minimum wage jobs, and I work one...so there is that. I have tried to do research on this topic, I just haven't found any straight answers on what will prompt CPS to investigate or remove children from their parents. I know a lot of the people here will recommend for us to speak to an attorney. I've called five in the last few days, none of them will give a free consultation because our case is apparently "complicated". We can't afford an attorney right now. The fees seem to run up to the $700s, and we just barely managed to scrape some money for the baby's necessities. I just really want to know if they have a legitimate case. Can they remove our child for these reasons? If our baby is removed, what can we do about it? Can we request that the baby not be placed with my in-laws or my family due to their abusive nature? Will my word even matter? Also, I posted elsewhere, and many people just suggested I have an abortion. We are not interested in aborting especially not because of my in-laws, we both have our hearts set on welcoming this baby and taking care of him/her to the best of our abilities. It's been our dream to have children, and to form a happy family.
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dwn34lb
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Possibly off-topic but if you do not want contact with them and want them completely out of your life (and your child's) draft a no contact letter and send it to them. A lawyer can help with this. If they continue to attempt contact/harass despite the no contact letter, the violations can be used as evidence to help support a restraining order. As soon as someone threatens to take your child, you need to react. Cease contact, don't even give them a chance to establish a case for custody/rights. When you give birth, make sure the hospital is aware of the situation, too. They can provide extra security.
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Not a lawyer, but can you get a restraining order against your in-laws?
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Can my in-laws sue for custody of my child (more details inside)? State is NJ. I will try to keep this brief. For much needed context, my husband and I have known each other since we were infants. Our families were also close-knit. Growing up, we both suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of our families. His abuse may have been worse than mine. Circa 2003, when we were teens, we reported the physical abuse but nothing ever came of it and the DA refused to take them to trial. Basically our families got out of it because they made me and my husband seem like we were the trouble, and that our abuse was self imposed. At separate points in time after this, we were both institutionalized at mental health facilities against our will. We used to self harm in the past, and both of us have scars. Neither of us moved out of our parents' homes until we reached 28, and we just decided to marry each other since all my other relationships were abusive, and he could only love me...and I realized I felt that way too. Still our relationship isn't exactly super healthy or ideal. We live in a pretty shitty apartment in a bad part of town. I fell pregnant despite being on birth control pills, and we both decided to just deal with it because both of us really want to have a happy family and raise our children with the love we never had. Our parents, his and mine, continue to stalk and harass us. Most of it is subtle like just trying to force their way into our social media (we have them blocked but they make new accounts) or banging on our apartment door late at night or calling our jobs to get us fired (which has worked...). Thus the cops can never really help us out, and they basically just tell us to "resolve it ourselves". However, my in-laws found out about the pregnancy because I've been "showing". They are now stating they are going to report us to CPS. They claim that CPS will investigate and take our baby away, and get handed over to them so they can apply for custody. They say they have ammunition due to our having been placed in mental health facilities, being on depression/anxiety medication, the scars from self harming, etc etc. On top of that, they claim that we don't have the proper means to care for the baby, and that will be a huge factor as well. My husband works two minimum wage jobs, and I work one...so there is that. I have tried to do research on this topic, I just haven't found any straight answers on what will prompt CPS to investigate or remove children from their parents. I know a lot of the people here will recommend for us to speak to an attorney. I've called five in the last few days, none of them will give a free consultation because our case is apparently "complicated". We can't afford an attorney right now. The fees seem to run up to the $700s, and we just barely managed to scrape some money for the baby's necessities. I just really want to know if they have a legitimate case. Can they remove our child for these reasons? If our baby is removed, what can we do about it? Can we request that the baby not be placed with my in-laws or my family due to their abusive nature? Will my word even matter? Also, I posted elsewhere, and many people just suggested I have an abortion. We are not interested in aborting especially not because of my in-laws, we both have our hearts set on welcoming this baby and taking care of him/her to the best of our abilities. It's been our dream to have children, and to form a happy family.
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CPS is focused on the child’s health, welfare and safety. We (I conduct CPS investigations in another state) do not walk into a family’s life to remove children. I can’t speak for your state but where I work, poverty, homelessness and mental health are not stand alone reasons for removing a child from the home. When I go into a home where there is a newborn I’m looking for kept well-child check-ups, WIC appointments, a clean child and a clean and safe home as well as parents who are practicing safe sleep. If mental health for the parents are a concern I’m looking for proof that they are in counseling, and/or on the appropriate medication and able to manage their own lives as well as care for their baby. Just because your family may think they can “do better” with your baby , that is not factored in during a CPS investigation. This is your child and we work with the family directly, not the extended family. Again, can’t speak for your state but where I work our policy is that we are not allowed to talk about a clients case to extended family without the client signing a release. Grandparents call all the time asking about the status of a case and I have to tell them I can’t say anything without the clients permission. I know this is a long response but I hope it helps settle your mind a little bit. IF there is CPS involvement ask what they have to offer for help and accept whatever services are given. As for your family, I think going (and staying) no contact is the best response.
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Possibly off-topic but if you do not want contact with them and want them completely out of your life (and your child's) draft a no contact letter and send it to them. A lawyer can help with this. If they continue to attempt contact/harass despite the no contact letter, the violations can be used as evidence to help support a restraining order. As soon as someone threatens to take your child, you need to react. Cease contact, don't even give them a chance to establish a case for custody/rights. When you give birth, make sure the hospital is aware of the situation, too. They can provide extra security.
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