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dg2v4a | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [KY] If a pre-existing septic tank and leech fields are on my property, am I legally obligated to let the owners of it bring workers onto my land to install a new one? I live on a 13 acre small farm. When my grandparents were alive they owned most of the land on this side of the road and doled parts of it out to their kids. One such kid sold that land with a trailer to move into town. This plot is about 1.5 acres. Now the people who bought this land have, over the years, placed exactly two more trailers on this 1.5 acre plot directly behind my house. When my aunt (the kid that sold) put the original trailer in, she dug the septic and leech fields into the plot of land next to hers, and this land is downhill. This land belongs to me now because it wasn't part of her parcel. All the trailers (three in total) are hooked to this one septic tank. The leech fields have wore out and sometimes actual human excrement can be seen and smelled rolling down this hill. This plot of land is a good distance from me, around four acres off, and doesn't cause actual issues with daily life. Until recently it was an annoyance. Now these people are finally having major septic issues and just assume they can repair it/replace it where it is. Wtf can I do to stop this? I live in a very rural area in SE KY. There aren't many laws about what people are allowed to do on their land OR if there are, they aren't enforced this far out. I don't know, I am not a lawyer but I would like to know where I personally stand with this issue. Hopefully not in their shit. Edit: I had no idea how to flair this post, I hope real estate was appropriate. If not, apologies. | f38jntj | f38r3ep | 1,570,737,134 | 1,570,739,094 | 2 | 3 | The best solution would be if you could trade the of piece of land that is suitable for their plans for a another piece of land along your border with them that is not involved in the septic situation. This avoids having to argue payment of monies in the family or damages to repair and expensive lawsuits with a questionable outcome. You will need a real estate lawyer to draw up the papers correctly. | This is a county health dept issue, too. I'm sure they'd love to hear about it. | 0 | 1,960 | 1.5 |
hbgit0 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | If the police or otherwise ask about my medical condition in regard to my handicapped placard, am I legally obligated to answer them? I am in Louisiana in the United States. I have a permanent mobile disability and have a handicapped placard as a result of it. My disability is not visible to the naked eye and I have recieved many nasty looks from strangers when I park in handicapped spots. In one location in particular that I frequent, I have been questioned by security and asked to show my mobile disability license on multiple occassions to prove that the placard belongs to me. I have absolutely no problem with showing my ID. My concern is that one day I will be questioned further, and that I will be asked to explain my medical condition/elaborate why I have the placard to begin with. I am mostly uncomfortable with explaining my condition to others, but I will do so if I am required by law. | fvalg45 | fvacm48 | 1,592,530,747 | 1,592,525,463 | 13 | 10 | No, you do not have to disclose what your condition is. I worked security where a bag search system was implemented. We were expressly told if anyone came in with needles if they stated they had a medical reason we had let them in. We could not legally ask what it was. We had to take their word at face value. Had a community outreach person call me and rant about how we could not legally ask about medical conditions | You only have to show you are the person to whom the placard is issued and that it is current and valid. If security at the same place continues - then you need to complain. They need to worry about people silhouettes don’t have placards. | 1 | 5,284 | 1.3 |
o2d0o8 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I accepted a bid from one tree removal company but a different one showed up and did the work. Am I legally obligated to pay? (MA) Earlier this month I got estimates from 2 tree removal companies to take down a tree in my front yard. Company A was cheaper than Company B and I have used them in the past so I decided I would go with them and accepted their bid and paid them 25% up front. A week ago, some workers showed up at the front door with the tree removal truck out front and said they were here "for the tree work" so I assumed they were from Company A that I had hired. Turns out, they were from the other company, Company B that I didn't hire. I showed them the tree and they removed it and are now billing me for the work they did which is more expensive than Company A's price. I didn't realize the mix-up until Company A called to schedule our tree removal at which point I told them their crew already came out and they said "No they didn't..." Fortunately, Company A is refunding my deposit and says this is not the first time that Company B has done this. Am I legally obligated to pay Company B for the work at the price they are invoicing me for even though I did not accept their bid? I did not sign anything with them. I am in Massachusetts. | h26w8nr | h25s4vf | 1,624,008,066 | 1,623,979,719 | 501 | 204 | As everyone is saying, it is going to be more expensive to fight for it. But, you can always try to communicate with company B explain to them that you never agreed to anything with them and that company A even had an advance payment. Send them the company A bid and tell them that you are willing to pay the same 348$ to them because there was never an agreement and you thought it was company A doing the Job. You might be surprised, the may be able to accept that. You have nothing to loose by doing so. | >Company A was cheaper than Company B and I have used them in the past so I decided I would go with them and accepted their bid and paid them 25% up front. Did you tell Company B you were rejecting their bid or how did you respond to it? Were the workers in Company B uniforms with a Company B logo truck? When you paid a deposit to Company A, did you have an understanding or agreement as to when they would do the work? >and says this is not the first time that Company B has done this. How many times have they done this? If you can get evidence, affidavits, etc. that may help you to defend this. How much money does Company B want? | 1 | 28,347 | 2.455882 |
o2d0o8 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I accepted a bid from one tree removal company but a different one showed up and did the work. Am I legally obligated to pay? (MA) Earlier this month I got estimates from 2 tree removal companies to take down a tree in my front yard. Company A was cheaper than Company B and I have used them in the past so I decided I would go with them and accepted their bid and paid them 25% up front. A week ago, some workers showed up at the front door with the tree removal truck out front and said they were here "for the tree work" so I assumed they were from Company A that I had hired. Turns out, they were from the other company, Company B that I didn't hire. I showed them the tree and they removed it and are now billing me for the work they did which is more expensive than Company A's price. I didn't realize the mix-up until Company A called to schedule our tree removal at which point I told them their crew already came out and they said "No they didn't..." Fortunately, Company A is refunding my deposit and says this is not the first time that Company B has done this. Am I legally obligated to pay Company B for the work at the price they are invoicing me for even though I did not accept their bid? I did not sign anything with them. I am in Massachusetts. | h25viyr | h26w8nr | 1,623,981,535 | 1,624,008,066 | 48 | 501 | Sounds like B is rather shady, it could have been a mistake. What do you want to happen? Did they do a good job otherwise? Any damage to your property? You could try calling company B and speak to an owner, explain what happened, see if they will do the right thing. Maybe they'll agree to only charging you what you would have paid company A. If not, I'm sure there is some trade commission board/better business bureau/ etc you can file a complaint to. However, I doubt that company B is affiliated with any of them. Could try to refute the claim, let them take you to small claims, and argue your case there. In my small town/county I'd go to the Sheriff's department and/or county attorney and see if anything can be done. In bigger cities...I don't know. You could also take to Facebook, Yelp, etc and leave a buyer beware review. | As everyone is saying, it is going to be more expensive to fight for it. But, you can always try to communicate with company B explain to them that you never agreed to anything with them and that company A even had an advance payment. Send them the company A bid and tell them that you are willing to pay the same 348$ to them because there was never an agreement and you thought it was company A doing the Job. You might be surprised, the may be able to accept that. You have nothing to loose by doing so. | 0 | 26,531 | 10.4375 |
6yxib3 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | [CA] Helped neighbor bury her cat in her front yard six months ago. She just moved and new neighbors seems to be doing a LOT of landscaping. Unsure if I should warn them about the carcass or just keep quiet as I have no idea if the burial was legal/to code. Six months ago my neighbor's (mostly outdoor) cat apparently suddenly died. No indication of sickness or wounds - just dead. If I **had** to guess I'd wager a snake bite but really, no idea what happened. She's on the older side and lived alone. She asked if I'd dig a grave on her cat's favorite spot in her front yard. I did some *quick* Googling to determine if it was legal, cause my city is ordinance heavy and the idea seemed iffy, and saw it's illegal in places like LA county and various other cities but found nothing about my city/county up in Sonoma county. She was distraught and I didn't want to advise her it might not be a great idea so went ahead dug a relatively deep hole for her. Maybe 2 feet. I left the hole and tools, sometime later that day she put the cat in and filled up the unmarked grave. I have no idea how she buried the cat (natural or wrapped in plastic, etc). A few months later she decided to move and now new neighbors are in and they've been doing quite of bit of landscaping in the front yard. I'm almost certain my old neighbor didn't disclose the burial to the new owners. So far they haven't done work near the grave but I wouldn't be surprised if they pull out the medium-sized shrub the cat is buried next to and put something different in. Turns out plants and such are a hobby for them. If they dig out that shrub they might get a revolting surprise, especially if the cat was buried wrapped or something. I still can't find anything about the legality of yard burials for my city. I may have missed it but see nothing specifying you can't bury a pet in your yard. The closest I can find is an ordinance that disallows the burial of garbage without a permit from a health inspector. I don't know if pet remains qualifies. This is very much suburbia, there's no risk of the remains tainting the water supply. I don't know how animals decompose when buried but it could be a non-issue at this point if it happens quick enough. I'd *like* to give the new neighbors a heads up on the chance they're going to do work in the spot to maybe leave it be for a year or two or don't dig deep but also wary the burial wasn't to code and my old neighbor ends up paying some crazy fine or a hazmat crew to remove the remains. And I certainly don't want to by liable for helping by digging the hole. Any suggestions or am I over-thinking this and it's no big deal? Thanks! | dmqxg6q | dmqz52g | 1,504,905,047 | 1,504,907,100 | 105 | 168 | I think your over thinking it but I grew up in the country. | You're definitely overthinking it, but I don't blame you. I'm not a lawyer, but I do have some expertise in this matter as a mortician. After six months, it's almost certain that the cat is skeletonised if it was buried unwrapped. Factors such as climate can impact the timeline, and I'm not certain about the usual temperatures and humidity of Sonoma County, but in general it's gonna be ok. Finding buried small animal bones while landscaping is seriously not a big deal; ask any professional landscaper how many times they've been planting a yard and have dug up pet graves that nobody warned them about. It's super common. If your neighbour had wrapped the cat's remains in fabric, there could potentially be some mummification, although that would depend on environmental factors. Were the body wrapped in plastic, the soft tissues will have certainly liquified by now, and likely drained into the surrounding soil some time ago. In any case, the absolute worst they can dig up is a cat skeleton wrapped in layers of plastic that still reek of the scent of decomposition. Gross, but not life-altering. | 0 | 2,053 | 1.6 |
z5byph | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Neighbor built driveway with culvert discharging water to my yard in Michigan Neighbors installed new driveway next to my property line with culvert discharging wetland water directly to the property line which is resulting in flooding of low point of property. This area previously sheet flowed to this low point, however their driveway created a dam which is now directing all water to the culvert discharging at rapid rate onto my property. This culvert is not in the right of way and does not discharge to the ditch, it’s roughly 35’ from the edge of road. What legal options do I have in Michigan? The flooding is damaging to roughly 0.5-1 acre of property. | ixve9r5 | ixwb3n1 | 1,669,485,403 | 1,669,499,433 | 3 | 7 | I'm confused. Your low area is below the neighbors wetland but is not, itself, a wetland? How has the culvert increased the flow from the wetland? | Water issues are complicated and vary greatly by local law. I would call your local building permit/stormwater office. If their is nothing they can do, you may be forced to remedy the situation on your own. I had to install a French drain after similar circumstances in Wisconsin. Each land owner was responsible for dealing with any water that came to his property. He could defend or divert any water as he saw fit. So nothing was illegal about my neighbor damning the water from flowing to his property. | 0 | 14,030 | 2.333333 |
ycccdc | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Apartment manager is telling me I can no longer move in, but I have a signed lease. Move in is less than a week away. This takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease. | itlp51m | itme4az | 1,666,626,940 | 1,666,636,638 | 48 | 110 | Does the three-month rule take effect immediately? Perhaps there's a delay that would allow you to still have the one-month lease. | The Chicago Housing Authority manages public & subsidized housing programs. They don't set policy for all rentals in Chicago. I believe that any Chicago-specific rental rules like that would have to be ordinances passed by the Chicago City Council. So look into whether this supposed policy even exists or applies to your situation & apartment. It's possible they're trying to get out of the lease because they have a longer-term tenant interested in the unit and aren't telling you the truth. In any case, I would be very surprised if a policy or ordinance of this nature was intended to void already-signed leases. | 0 | 9,698 | 2.291667 |
ycccdc | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Apartment manager is telling me I can no longer move in, but I have a signed lease. Move in is less than a week away. This takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease. | itltv6s | itme4az | 1,666,628,817 | 1,666,636,638 | 23 | 110 | Not a lawyer What does your lease say? That is what a court would look at, along with what the laws say and then reconcile the 2. However, if your landlord is offering a solution that is reasonable, before you take it, make sure it is in writing. That means if the landlord is stating a solution with numbers, the landlord needs to put such down in writing. What is also of importance, to what the landlord's solution, would be things like the penalty for breaking the lease early. | The Chicago Housing Authority manages public & subsidized housing programs. They don't set policy for all rentals in Chicago. I believe that any Chicago-specific rental rules like that would have to be ordinances passed by the Chicago City Council. So look into whether this supposed policy even exists or applies to your situation & apartment. It's possible they're trying to get out of the lease because they have a longer-term tenant interested in the unit and aren't telling you the truth. In any case, I would be very surprised if a policy or ordinance of this nature was intended to void already-signed leases. | 0 | 7,821 | 4.782609 |
ycccdc | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Apartment manager is telling me I can no longer move in, but I have a signed lease. Move in is less than a week away. This takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease. | itn2hso | itltv6s | 1,666,646,024 | 1,666,628,817 | 28 | 23 | This sounds like a scam to me, one quick way to tell would be to call whoever your City Councilmember will be after you move, explain the situation and ask them if they are aware of a change in the landlord tenant laws requiring a 3 months minimum. You could also check with your State Senator's office to make sure it isn't a change in state law. I am not a lawyer and want to emphasize that this was only a cursory search, but I haven't found any new laws within the past year indicating that anything like that has become law in IL. If anything my search shows multiple references on State websites for month to month leases in code... | Not a lawyer What does your lease say? That is what a court would look at, along with what the laws say and then reconcile the 2. However, if your landlord is offering a solution that is reasonable, before you take it, make sure it is in writing. That means if the landlord is stating a solution with numbers, the landlord needs to put such down in writing. What is also of importance, to what the landlord's solution, would be things like the penalty for breaking the lease early. | 1 | 17,207 | 1.217391 |
ycccdc | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Apartment manager is telling me I can no longer move in, but I have a signed lease. Move in is less than a week away. This takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease. | itmk4a3 | itn2hso | 1,666,638,930 | 1,666,646,024 | 16 | 28 | I don't know about this particular supposed new rule, but I would be cautious about fraud in this case. Verify that what the landlord is saying is actually true (I guess that is why you are here), and that he is actually legitimately associated with the property you are trying to rent. False listings for rentals is a knowns scam. Be aware of the possibility that the landlord or the person claiming to the the landlord was never going to let you move in and is instead trying to pocket extra money before you find out there was never any apartment for rent at all. The line about giving him more money now that will be given back to you later raises all sorts of alarm bells in my mind. Out side of a valid security deposit -- which it seems that you probably already payed, there is no logical reason that you would need to give him more money that will just be returned to you. Also the fact that this is 1 week before you are potentially homeless would be right out of a con-artists play book. | This sounds like a scam to me, one quick way to tell would be to call whoever your City Councilmember will be after you move, explain the situation and ask them if they are aware of a change in the landlord tenant laws requiring a 3 months minimum. You could also check with your State Senator's office to make sure it isn't a change in state law. I am not a lawyer and want to emphasize that this was only a cursory search, but I haven't found any new laws within the past year indicating that anything like that has become law in IL. If anything my search shows multiple references on State websites for month to month leases in code... | 0 | 7,094 | 1.75 |
ycccdc | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Apartment manager is telling me I can no longer move in, but I have a signed lease. Move in is less than a week away. This takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease. | itmk4a3 | itn7yxp | 1,666,638,930 | 1,666,648,254 | 16 | 22 | I don't know about this particular supposed new rule, but I would be cautious about fraud in this case. Verify that what the landlord is saying is actually true (I guess that is why you are here), and that he is actually legitimately associated with the property you are trying to rent. False listings for rentals is a knowns scam. Be aware of the possibility that the landlord or the person claiming to the the landlord was never going to let you move in and is instead trying to pocket extra money before you find out there was never any apartment for rent at all. The line about giving him more money now that will be given back to you later raises all sorts of alarm bells in my mind. Out side of a valid security deposit -- which it seems that you probably already payed, there is no logical reason that you would need to give him more money that will just be returned to you. Also the fact that this is 1 week before you are potentially homeless would be right out of a con-artists play book. | Not a lawyer. Sounds scammy. Even if there was a need to make the lease a 3month lease, there is zero reason you'd have to pay all 3 months upfront. If anything the landlord could have slightly lowered the rent and implemented a "break lease fee" that would bring the rent back to the previously agreed upon amount. This could have made a convincing enough loophole to skirt by the issue for this lease term. Sounds like either it's a complete scam all together, or they found a longer term tenant and want to wiggle out of it. I'd call the city councel/housing association for guidance. | 0 | 9,324 | 1.375 |
ycccdc | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Apartment manager is telling me I can no longer move in, but I have a signed lease. Move in is less than a week away. This takes place in Illinois. I signed a lease a few weeks ago, in early October, to stay in an apartment for the month of November. I’m between places and only needed a temporary lease. I’ve paid all of the expenses outlined in the lease. Start date is the end of the month. A few days ago, I was told that the the Chicago Housing Authority had a meeting, where they decided to impose a three month minimum rental. Now the apartment manager is telling me that I won’t be able to move into the apartment with my one-month lease. He’s trying to offer me solutions like this is my problem to fix. He is suggesting that I pay an additional two months rent which will be returned to me during my rental period. I don’t know a lot about tenants rights in Illinois, but this seems crazy to me. I have fulfilled my end of the lease, and if they wanted to terminate, they needed to give 30 days notice. What are my options here? Am I wrong to think that the apartment manager is the one who’s actually in a prickly situation? Ideally, I’d like to move in and not be forced to scramble to find housing on a weeks notice. At the same time, I flat out refuse to pay any expenses that are not outlined in a lease. | itn7l9e | itn7yxp | 1,666,648,094 | 1,666,648,254 | 8 | 22 | I'd imagine it depends when you signed the lease. if before this decision was made you should be grandfathered in.. if not ask to make an exception with the board as you don't have time to look for another. | Not a lawyer. Sounds scammy. Even if there was a need to make the lease a 3month lease, there is zero reason you'd have to pay all 3 months upfront. If anything the landlord could have slightly lowered the rent and implemented a "break lease fee" that would bring the rent back to the previously agreed upon amount. This could have made a convincing enough loophole to skirt by the issue for this lease term. Sounds like either it's a complete scam all together, or they found a longer term tenant and want to wiggle out of it. I'd call the city councel/housing association for guidance. | 0 | 160 | 2.75 |
rip83h | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | [NYC] My boss gave everyone a gift except me because I'm Jewish I posted this in r/askhr and got some people suggesting I contact a lawyer, so want to know if that's really a thing I should think about maybe doing here. Basically, earlier today my boss handed out Amazon giftcards to everyone on my team except me, and when someone called out that she'd missed me she said it was intentional because they're Christmas presents and I'm Jewish. The askhr people said to let her know that I'm totally okay with Christmas gifts and wouldn't be offended by getting one, and her response was something about it not being my place to decide. Separately, she also said that I was being greedy and inappropriate because I'd already had my own holiday. Look, I know that I'm not like entitled to a gift but this is weird and feels not okay. Also a few people have offered me half of their gift cards which is obviously amazing of them, but it sucks that they aren't able to just enjoy the present because of me. In case it matters, I'm not practicing and my boss is originally from Westchester. | hoyjab8 | hoyk1df | 1,639,770,465 | 1,639,770,765 | 1,674 | 2,973 | How many employees in the organization. And the use of the word "greedy" in conjunction with a person of Jewish faith on its face is problematic. As in discrimination and worse. Perhaps it's just an unfortunate slip of the tongue but I'm going to guess not. How many employees because that can affect the response. | Unless your company has less than 4 employees, this violates the religious discrimination laws at the NYC level, and also federal level if there are 15+ employees. If you want to file a complaint, do so at the NYC Commission on Human Rights and the EEOC. | 0 | 300 | 1.775986 |
fqbvkh | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | WA - Job fired me for failed drug test. When I emailed them asking for a copy of the report, it was only positive for a prescription I have. Now they won't email back. Hey guys. So this all began a week or two before COVID 19 really blew up. I took a drug test for a new job, was hired and worked 3 days, came down with respiratory symptoms and was asked to stay home (we deliver to assisted living/hospice facilities), then 9 days after was told I came up positive on my drug test, for what I thought they said was Marijuana. I, completely confused about this, didn't know how to react. Maybe it's because I lived with someone who smoked? Maybe I was exposed in some way and came up positive? I emailed them the following week and asked for a copy of the report. I failed for amphetamines. I have an adderall prescription to treat ADHD. I'm not certain why I didn't immediately ask for the report, I think I was confused to begin with, but I can't exactly prove they said Marijuana as it was over the phone. Regardless, I confirmed my prescription with the lab and had them send back a report to my employer. It's now been 3 days and they haven't responded. I know they're still running, they are an essential business delivering oxygen and all. But I'm worried they think they can just ignore me and I'll go away because they don't need the employees right now after having to cut back on hours. I don't even know how to proceed, seeing as how I was employed for all of a week and a half. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | flpr5h5 | flptxn7 | 1,585,366,527 | 1,585,368,723 | 321 | 1,053 | Based on my limited knowledge of the ADA I don't believe they can fire you based on your drug test once you've submitted proof that you have a prescription for a medical condition. I'm not sure if this changes because the position involves operating a vehicle. If no one else here can provide more information I would recommend getting a consultation with an employment attorney. | Who told you you tested positive? Was it the testing company or your employer? Generally the procedure is that you get tested and if there is any anomalies, the testing company calls you and asks you to provide evidence you are legally prescribed that drug. They then pass you when you provide that evidence. Or not because it was an illegal drug if that's the case. I'm going to assume from what you have said said and what was accused, the testing company failed you without contact you to confirm if you were prescribed amphetamines, and then someone at the company passed it on to HR and HR assumed it was weed (because 90% of their drug fails probably are weed) who then told you you were failed for weed. Either way, you need an employment lawyer. As the company has been informed you are legally prescribed amphetamines you probably have an ADA case them, and depending on what the drug testing company told your former employer you might have a defamation case against them. | 0 | 2,196 | 3.280374 |
fqbvkh | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | WA - Job fired me for failed drug test. When I emailed them asking for a copy of the report, it was only positive for a prescription I have. Now they won't email back. Hey guys. So this all began a week or two before COVID 19 really blew up. I took a drug test for a new job, was hired and worked 3 days, came down with respiratory symptoms and was asked to stay home (we deliver to assisted living/hospice facilities), then 9 days after was told I came up positive on my drug test, for what I thought they said was Marijuana. I, completely confused about this, didn't know how to react. Maybe it's because I lived with someone who smoked? Maybe I was exposed in some way and came up positive? I emailed them the following week and asked for a copy of the report. I failed for amphetamines. I have an adderall prescription to treat ADHD. I'm not certain why I didn't immediately ask for the report, I think I was confused to begin with, but I can't exactly prove they said Marijuana as it was over the phone. Regardless, I confirmed my prescription with the lab and had them send back a report to my employer. It's now been 3 days and they haven't responded. I know they're still running, they are an essential business delivering oxygen and all. But I'm worried they think they can just ignore me and I'll go away because they don't need the employees right now after having to cut back on hours. I don't even know how to proceed, seeing as how I was employed for all of a week and a half. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | flptxn7 | flprr2b | 1,585,368,723 | 1,585,366,989 | 1,053 | 13 | Who told you you tested positive? Was it the testing company or your employer? Generally the procedure is that you get tested and if there is any anomalies, the testing company calls you and asks you to provide evidence you are legally prescribed that drug. They then pass you when you provide that evidence. Or not because it was an illegal drug if that's the case. I'm going to assume from what you have said said and what was accused, the testing company failed you without contact you to confirm if you were prescribed amphetamines, and then someone at the company passed it on to HR and HR assumed it was weed (because 90% of their drug fails probably are weed) who then told you you were failed for weed. Either way, you need an employment lawyer. As the company has been informed you are legally prescribed amphetamines you probably have an ADA case them, and depending on what the drug testing company told your former employer you might have a defamation case against them. | File for unemployment (I’m sure someone else has better advice, but it’s something you should do) | 1 | 1,734 | 81 |
fqbvkh | legaladvice_train | 0.99 | WA - Job fired me for failed drug test. When I emailed them asking for a copy of the report, it was only positive for a prescription I have. Now they won't email back. Hey guys. So this all began a week or two before COVID 19 really blew up. I took a drug test for a new job, was hired and worked 3 days, came down with respiratory symptoms and was asked to stay home (we deliver to assisted living/hospice facilities), then 9 days after was told I came up positive on my drug test, for what I thought they said was Marijuana. I, completely confused about this, didn't know how to react. Maybe it's because I lived with someone who smoked? Maybe I was exposed in some way and came up positive? I emailed them the following week and asked for a copy of the report. I failed for amphetamines. I have an adderall prescription to treat ADHD. I'm not certain why I didn't immediately ask for the report, I think I was confused to begin with, but I can't exactly prove they said Marijuana as it was over the phone. Regardless, I confirmed my prescription with the lab and had them send back a report to my employer. It's now been 3 days and they haven't responded. I know they're still running, they are an essential business delivering oxygen and all. But I'm worried they think they can just ignore me and I'll go away because they don't need the employees right now after having to cut back on hours. I don't even know how to proceed, seeing as how I was employed for all of a week and a half. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | flqlawi | flqrt4g | 1,585,399,002 | 1,585,404,562 | 3 | 7 | lawyer up for sure | Just wondering, but didn’t the testing facility ask you to list any prescribed medications you are taking prior to administering the test. As I recall that is mandatory practice, if they didn’t do this you may have a case against the clinic as well. Typically you will sign a document stating that you have disclosed all the medications prior to taking the test. If you didn’t list it and signed then this would be on you. | 0 | 5,560 | 2.333333 |
vgaq1a | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My wife was murdered on Friday and 911 operator blew me off My wife was murdered on Friday at our place of business (California). Before it happened I was made aware of the verbal confrontation with her alleged killer (whom she knew). She msgd me and asked me to call the police because alleged killer was verbally escalating and had a history of violence. I called 911 explained my wife was alone with this man, who has a history of violence, and it was escalating and I was very concerned it would get physical. The 911 operator said ,"Sir, this is not an emergency call." "Please call non emergency police line and ask for dispatch." Police were supposedly dispatched for a "welfare check" at around 12:35. They arrived at the scene at around 1pm and apparently my wife was either dead, or dying. What I want to know is how can a 911 operator not think that was an emergency? Would there have been a difference in response time, if it was labeled an emergency? I was so angry for getting blown off by the 911 operator. That lack of response may have cost my wife her life. I'm mean, I'm obviously devastated by what happened, but also angry that this wasn't taken seriously. I'm not going to do anything about this right now. Because clearly I have bigger fish to fry at the moment. Perpetrator was caught soon after. Should I get a lawyer and if so, what kind of lawyer would handle this? Thanks in advance for the help. | id0o67r | id0k668 | 1,655,694,491 | 1,655,692,238 | 3,044 | 181 | I’m so sorry for your loss. This is an absolute tragedy. I think your best bet is to start with wrongful death attorneys and see if they could help point you in the right direction. Or even like those personal injury lawyers. | I'm very sorry for your loss, OP. Unfortunately, there is likely no legal remedy for you here, due to governmental immunity and numerous other factors. But please talk to some attorneys if it will give you some peace of mind that there is nothing to be done. | 1 | 2,253 | 16.81768 |
rm08ol | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My wife got sexually assaulted by a service member on base and the army doesn't seem to be doing anything about it. Without going into too much detail. I just got out of the service, we were moving off base but i was in another state for school. Our old neighbor called her drunk one night asking for a ride due to them not allowing him on base for being drunk. Her and my 5 yo child went and he sexually assaulted her. After some convincing, she did a rape kit, reported it and dealt with the SARC. The SM is army living on an AF base. As such, it started as an AF case with OSI and and AF SARC, but has since been transferred to an Army CID and SARC. They told us she has a protective order against him but all attempts to get a copy are blatantly ignored by the CID agent. The new SARC hasn't made contact once and the SM violated the protective order. Following her around Walmart until she called the police. The police asked her for a copy of the protective order, which she doesn't have, and they refused to look it up in the NCIC system (which we were told it would be input in) so they refused to enforce it. She feels she can't leave the house when I'm not there, which i have to leave to go back to school soon. She feels this guy is the type that will seek revenge and is terrified to go anywhere. My child thinks she was beat up, she was awake during the event. We feel nothing is being done about it and i know the military has a history of just sweeping sexual assault under the rug. After my 13 years in, I've seen way to many cases that go virtually unpunished. I want this bastard to be held accountable for his actions. My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice? | hpjdj8b | hpjrtgt | 1,640,164,673 | 1,640,175,854 | 132 | 150 | Your wife needs a civilian protection order. If that is what she has now, she can get a copy of it from the relevant court clerk. In fact she should have been served already with her copy. That this has not happened suggests there is in fact no protection order. Since she is getting the run-around on base, she can go to the local municipal police, county sheriff, or state police for help. She can call a local or state rape crisis help line and ask for a referral to a Victim Advocate (VA) local to her. A VA works for the victim, knows the ropes, is confidential, is free for the victim, and can connect your wife with additional resources such as no-cost private therapy and/or recovery support group. Your child may also need therapy. Experiencing a violent assault can lead to PTSD for victim and witness alike. A VA should be able to check if the order is in the NCIC/POF. (Most orders are not uploaded into the POF, even though they all should be uploaded there. Unfortunately in many states there is confusion about who is responsible for doing the upload and accountability is negligible.) What state, please? State laws concerning rape and stalking vary greatly; there are both criminal and civil laws. | I was an Air Force VA about 8 years ago at Misawa. I can't offer legal advice but these are the offices I'd recommend contacting to start making some noise on the military side of things: + Reach out to the original AF SARC that handled your case and let them know the Army SARC isn't doing their job and see what they say. If the OIC is any good they'll start raising hell with the Army because I know mine would have if she heard this was happening to a case that happened on her base. + Contact the original OSI officer assigned to your case and ask them for an update. If they can't provide you information ask for the name and number of the officer you were transferred to then chase them down for an update. + Call the JAG at your former base and ask for their opinion. With an unrestricted report they'll have started a case file for it even if you weren't notified. Its possible all 3 lead to dead ends but whichever commander is trying to bury this will have a much harder time doing it if all 3 agencies are getting pinged since they all have completely separate chain of commands. Start with AF for everything and then switch to the corresponding Army offices. The goal is to make as much noise with as many different offices as possible so that one of them brings your name up when all the commanders get together for their monthly meeting. | 0 | 11,181 | 1.136364 |
rm08ol | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My wife got sexually assaulted by a service member on base and the army doesn't seem to be doing anything about it. Without going into too much detail. I just got out of the service, we were moving off base but i was in another state for school. Our old neighbor called her drunk one night asking for a ride due to them not allowing him on base for being drunk. Her and my 5 yo child went and he sexually assaulted her. After some convincing, she did a rape kit, reported it and dealt with the SARC. The SM is army living on an AF base. As such, it started as an AF case with OSI and and AF SARC, but has since been transferred to an Army CID and SARC. They told us she has a protective order against him but all attempts to get a copy are blatantly ignored by the CID agent. The new SARC hasn't made contact once and the SM violated the protective order. Following her around Walmart until she called the police. The police asked her for a copy of the protective order, which she doesn't have, and they refused to look it up in the NCIC system (which we were told it would be input in) so they refused to enforce it. She feels she can't leave the house when I'm not there, which i have to leave to go back to school soon. She feels this guy is the type that will seek revenge and is terrified to go anywhere. My child thinks she was beat up, she was awake during the event. We feel nothing is being done about it and i know the military has a history of just sweeping sexual assault under the rug. After my 13 years in, I've seen way to many cases that go virtually unpunished. I want this bastard to be held accountable for his actions. My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice? | hpj8v05 | hpjrtgt | 1,640,160,837 | 1,640,175,854 | 35 | 150 | >My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice? Contact actual lawyers so they can tell you whether they would take your case or not. Some offer free initial consultations. | I was an Air Force VA about 8 years ago at Misawa. I can't offer legal advice but these are the offices I'd recommend contacting to start making some noise on the military side of things: + Reach out to the original AF SARC that handled your case and let them know the Army SARC isn't doing their job and see what they say. If the OIC is any good they'll start raising hell with the Army because I know mine would have if she heard this was happening to a case that happened on her base. + Contact the original OSI officer assigned to your case and ask them for an update. If they can't provide you information ask for the name and number of the officer you were transferred to then chase them down for an update. + Call the JAG at your former base and ask for their opinion. With an unrestricted report they'll have started a case file for it even if you weren't notified. Its possible all 3 lead to dead ends but whichever commander is trying to bury this will have a much harder time doing it if all 3 agencies are getting pinged since they all have completely separate chain of commands. Start with AF for everything and then switch to the corresponding Army offices. The goal is to make as much noise with as many different offices as possible so that one of them brings your name up when all the commanders get together for their monthly meeting. | 0 | 15,017 | 4.285714 |
rm08ol | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My wife got sexually assaulted by a service member on base and the army doesn't seem to be doing anything about it. Without going into too much detail. I just got out of the service, we were moving off base but i was in another state for school. Our old neighbor called her drunk one night asking for a ride due to them not allowing him on base for being drunk. Her and my 5 yo child went and he sexually assaulted her. After some convincing, she did a rape kit, reported it and dealt with the SARC. The SM is army living on an AF base. As such, it started as an AF case with OSI and and AF SARC, but has since been transferred to an Army CID and SARC. They told us she has a protective order against him but all attempts to get a copy are blatantly ignored by the CID agent. The new SARC hasn't made contact once and the SM violated the protective order. Following her around Walmart until she called the police. The police asked her for a copy of the protective order, which she doesn't have, and they refused to look it up in the NCIC system (which we were told it would be input in) so they refused to enforce it. She feels she can't leave the house when I'm not there, which i have to leave to go back to school soon. She feels this guy is the type that will seek revenge and is terrified to go anywhere. My child thinks she was beat up, she was awake during the event. We feel nothing is being done about it and i know the military has a history of just sweeping sexual assault under the rug. After my 13 years in, I've seen way to many cases that go virtually unpunished. I want this bastard to be held accountable for his actions. My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice? | hpj8v05 | hpjdj8b | 1,640,160,837 | 1,640,164,673 | 35 | 132 | >My question is, are there lawyers that will take a case like this? what advice would you give to help us get justice? Contact actual lawyers so they can tell you whether they would take your case or not. Some offer free initial consultations. | Your wife needs a civilian protection order. If that is what she has now, she can get a copy of it from the relevant court clerk. In fact she should have been served already with her copy. That this has not happened suggests there is in fact no protection order. Since she is getting the run-around on base, she can go to the local municipal police, county sheriff, or state police for help. She can call a local or state rape crisis help line and ask for a referral to a Victim Advocate (VA) local to her. A VA works for the victim, knows the ropes, is confidential, is free for the victim, and can connect your wife with additional resources such as no-cost private therapy and/or recovery support group. Your child may also need therapy. Experiencing a violent assault can lead to PTSD for victim and witness alike. A VA should be able to check if the order is in the NCIC/POF. (Most orders are not uploaded into the POF, even though they all should be uploaded there. Unfortunately in many states there is confusion about who is responsible for doing the upload and accountability is negligible.) What state, please? State laws concerning rape and stalking vary greatly; there are both criminal and civil laws. | 0 | 3,836 | 3.771429 |
xezrpl | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brand new apartment building had an explosion, no explanation, all 500+ residents displaced. We had 10 min to get our stuff. Now we all have to find a new place to live. Anything I can do? Saturday morning an emergency alarm went off and everybody had to get out of the apartment. Shortly after, apartment building had an explosion where the wall literally blew out and debris hit people. We were all sent to a school to sleep in. On Sunday they gave us all 10 min to retrieve our stuff. We’ve been in hotels since (apartment is covering stays under $200) and now they said they’re ending rent and nobody can live there. They are unsure of when we can go retrieve the rest of our belongings. Is there anything i can do? This seems totally unfair. It’s a NEW building, seems like some type of negligence or something for something like this to happen. I have barely any clothes or belongings. Our cars are stuck there. My dogs stuff is there. | iolm7z0 | iol8hab | 1,663,286,345 | 1,663,280,113 | 75 | 40 | Renters insurance is your best course of action at this point. What state and county did this happen in, additionally your lease should shed light on what happens in this scenario to some degree. Given that they are ending the lease/rent the $200 accommodation per diem will likely end with it sooner rather than later. Depending on the condition of the building you may or may not be able to get your things out, it’s likely that your local building department and fire marshal have red tagged the building as unsafe to enter. Wether you have a legal case worth pursuing is unknown. Building owner was negligent in maintenance and a gas line failed then you likely have great recourse. Or your dopey neighbor feel asleep was the gas on in his stove/oven and managed to blew his neighbors out of their homes, not much recourse at that point. You can sue for anything but if your landlord is following the terms of the lease it’s just an overall shitty situation. | "This seems totally unfair." Unfortunately, life sometimes is. It's very likely that the property owners would face legal issues if they allowed you back into the building right now. There is probably an arson investigation, and maybe a criminal one depending on what is believed to have caused the explosion, and that will - unfortunately - trump your very rational desire to retrieve your things. | 1 | 6,232 | 1.875 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqo1pct | iqo2gyl | 1,664,656,740 | 1,664,657,067 | 655 | 2,473 | Your location is critical. Are you renting the whole house, or just the basement? Infrequent overnight guests aren't generally something a landlord can regulate, unless your lease says something specific about that. | This is a civil matter. The police won't do anything. She can attempt to evict you, you can fight it in court. I doubt she would win because like you said you are the sole occupant and he is the occasional guests. If she wanted a no guests rule she should have written that into the lease. I would not engage her any more in these arguments you are only wasting your time. | 0 | 327 | 3.775573 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqo24c7 | iqo2gyl | 1,664,656,919 | 1,664,657,067 | 210 | 2,473 | You have a right to the "quiet enjoyment" of the leased property, which means reasonable use unimpeded by the landlord, which should include having occasional guests over. If your boyfriend is staying over often enough that he could claim to be a tenant, you would be in violation of the lease and your landlord might have grounds to evict you. | This is a civil matter. The police won't do anything. She can attempt to evict you, you can fight it in court. I doubt she would win because like you said you are the sole occupant and he is the occasional guests. If she wanted a no guests rule she should have written that into the lease. I would not engage her any more in these arguments you are only wasting your time. | 0 | 148 | 11.77619 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqo2gyl | iqo1b0r | 1,664,657,067 | 1,664,656,564 | 2,473 | 6 | This is a civil matter. The police won't do anything. She can attempt to evict you, you can fight it in court. I doubt she would win because like you said you are the sole occupant and he is the occasional guests. If she wanted a no guests rule she should have written that into the lease. I would not engage her any more in these arguments you are only wasting your time. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 503 | 412.166667 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqo1pct | iqo1b0r | 1,664,656,740 | 1,664,656,564 | 655 | 6 | Your location is critical. Are you renting the whole house, or just the basement? Infrequent overnight guests aren't generally something a landlord can regulate, unless your lease says something specific about that. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 176 | 109.166667 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqobu17 | iqo24c7 | 1,664,661,209 | 1,664,656,919 | 318 | 210 | Also, I dont believe, even as your landlord, she or her friends are allowed entry into your unit without notice. You should never have to worry about waking up to people in the space you lease. Sounds to me like if she wants to call the cops, you be sure to let them know she (and strangers not affiliated with the property) are entering your leased space without notice or permission. | You have a right to the "quiet enjoyment" of the leased property, which means reasonable use unimpeded by the landlord, which should include having occasional guests over. If your boyfriend is staying over often enough that he could claim to be a tenant, you would be in violation of the lease and your landlord might have grounds to evict you. | 1 | 4,290 | 1.514286 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqobu17 | iqobhd7 | 1,664,661,209 | 1,664,661,048 | 318 | 139 | Also, I dont believe, even as your landlord, she or her friends are allowed entry into your unit without notice. You should never have to worry about waking up to people in the space you lease. Sounds to me like if she wants to call the cops, you be sure to let them know she (and strangers not affiliated with the property) are entering your leased space without notice or permission. | Post this to legal advice canada and include your province you will get some good advice. The Land lord has no leg to stand on. | 1 | 161 | 2.28777 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqo1b0r | iqobu17 | 1,664,656,564 | 1,664,661,209 | 6 | 318 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Also, I dont believe, even as your landlord, she or her friends are allowed entry into your unit without notice. You should never have to worry about waking up to people in the space you lease. Sounds to me like if she wants to call the cops, you be sure to let them know she (and strangers not affiliated with the property) are entering your leased space without notice or permission. | 0 | 4,645 | 53 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqo24c7 | iqo1b0r | 1,664,656,919 | 1,664,656,564 | 210 | 6 | You have a right to the "quiet enjoyment" of the leased property, which means reasonable use unimpeded by the landlord, which should include having occasional guests over. If your boyfriend is staying over often enough that he could claim to be a tenant, you would be in violation of the lease and your landlord might have grounds to evict you. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 355 | 35 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqobhd7 | iqo1b0r | 1,664,661,048 | 1,664,656,564 | 139 | 6 | Post this to legal advice canada and include your province you will get some good advice. The Land lord has no leg to stand on. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 4,484 | 23.166667 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqo1b0r | iqon0so | 1,664,656,564 | 1,664,666,391 | 6 | 59 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | If you are attending a university that includes a law school, find out if they have a legal clinic. Many schools have legal clinics mostly staffed by law students under the supervision of a professor and they usually provide legal services for free or very cheaply. I don’t know if they do this in Canada, though. If they think her attempt at tyranny is a breach of the lease, they can tell you what your best plan of action is. Frankly, you are better off getting out of there. I would bet she won’t return any deposits either, so do what you have to do in that regard as well. | 0 | 9,827 | 9.833333 |
xt5iwj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Landlady threatening to call police if I have an overnight guest. This happened today in the morning. I woke up to a message from her saying that I don’t have her permission to have my boyfriend over once a week. And that if that happened she would call the police. Nobody was over last night or even visiting. I am willing to get a background check if that puts her mind at ease but she is adamant on me not having overnight guests. I only have my boyfriend over, no one else ever comes to visit. There is nothing in the lease that states anything about overnight guests. “ The landlord and the tenant agree that the premises may be occupied by the tenant and their children, unless the landlord consents in writing to the occupation of the premises by some other or an additional person.” This is verbatim from my lease. I googled the definition of occupant in regards to this issue and I am the sole occupant. He is my guest who stays over one night a week. I asked her to show me in the lease where it says that, she did not provide me anything and just went on to say that they are her rules and they will have to be followed(she doesn’t live here, she lives in a different city). I asked my roommate if she had any issues with my boyfriend coming over and she said that she did not have any problems whatsoever. She went on to say that this is a female only basement and that I can’t have him stay the night. She said if he stays the night she will call the police. She has met my boyfriend several times over the last year and is always so nice to us so I don’t know what happened. I asked her to show me the written rules and again she said I either follow her rules or find another place. She never gives a 24 hour notice before coming because she has a room in which she keeps some old stuff. She just calls and asks to me open the door. This one time I woke up to commotion and when I went out, she and 2 other people(who I don’t know) were grabbing the sofa from the living room.(it is a furnished house and all the furniture in the house is hers). When I went out of the room to see what was happening, she said oh I thought you weren’t home. Also another time one of her friends just opened the lock and came in and took some stuff. When I brought this up to her during the argument she said that she did not want to discuss this matter further. I was extremely polite but firm in my responses, so that she couldn’t twist my words into serving me a notice to eviction the grounds of harassment. But she just says that she wants to keep this rule strictly enforced or I can find another place. I don’t know what is going to happen . My boyfriend is going to get a background check first thing on Monday. I only have 7 more months of my lease left and then I’ll leave. I told her that this is causing me distress and she is harassing me for no reason. I have not broken the law or any terms in the lease. I am currently not responding to her messages but she is texting me that she will call the police and evict me. I don’t know what’s happening. I just need some advice. | iqoqk5q | iqo1b0r | 1,664,668,074 | 1,664,656,564 | 48 | 6 | 1. How does she know when he stays over? 2. You should have quiet enjoyment of the place, meaning she doesn’t get to show up whenever and remove things without giving notice. Are you documenting what she’s removing so she doesn’t come back at the end of the lease and claim missing furniture? | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 11,510 | 8 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | ihnbess | ihn69t4 | 1,658,792,762 | 1,658,790,520 | 777 | 100 | You can talk to the police. Just tell them "Yes, I'm doing quite well, thank you very much. My mother is a total nutjob and is going to call you every single day because I don't want to talk to her. Please tell her I'm doing great on my own and not to try communicating with me in the future.". Not talking to the police could make you appear like a reclusive, depressed person in need of help. If you're lot 18 years old it become more complicated. | Speak to the police first and tell them all of this so that it's on their record. If your mother actually follows through on her threat, the police are very quickly going to get sick of her wasting their time. | 1 | 2,242 | 7.77 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | ihns7or | ihnuu4o | 1,658,800,258 | 1,658,801,409 | 47 | 89 | File for a restraining order, and make sure the local police are made aware that in the past, she has called in with false information regarding you. | In this situation, you can talk to the police and explain the situation. Wasting police resources is a crime, so if she's continually doing this and you make them aware, they can charge her for wasting emergency resources. You can go further with a restraining order if you deem it necessary, I don't know your situation so I'm not sure to what extent she'll go to for harassment. You don't have to invite the police in if they come before you explain the situation either, they have no grounds to enter unless you invite them or they have a warrant. Best bet is to call the non emergency line and explain yourself before this becomes too often of an occurrence. | 0 | 1,151 | 1.893617 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | iho0alf | iho3wli | 1,658,803,910 | 1,658,805,663 | 12 | 42 | The police are going to get really sick of her shit, and soon she’s going to risk a misdemeanor charge for making frivolous 911 calls. | I'm not a lawyer, but I am someone who has over the top parents that caused legal (and many other) issues for me over and over for a couple of decades. I have no legal advice to give you, just some general advice that will make things easier if it becomes a legal issue. Document EVERYTHING. Every call, every contact, in detail. Include contact through 3rd parties. Dates, times, police visits. Include the names of the officers/social workers who show up, and any other contact you have with their departments. Also include any screenshots of private messages or social media posts you come across where you're mentioned. This will all be valuable if you ever need to lawyer up; you'll be able to give them the answers to any questions they might have, with any necessary evidence ready to go . Keep a few copies in different places, and/or set up an email that you send the files to. I went so far as to organize it all in a spreadsheet, but I'm weird and there was a lot. If you have current/former mental health issues that can be used against you keep track of appointments, medications and anything else related to it to show that you're being treated/improving. Cooperate with their basic questioning ("yes, I'm okay. I'm trying to cut contact with abusive people. Please do not share any information about me with them"). People with parents like this tend to overexplain, so resist the urge to add unnecessary details. The more you say, the more likely you are to make a mistake. Remain as calm as possible; don't be angry and belligerent because it will give weight to any accusations she makes. And if it ever gets to the point where you get any hint at all that the people who show up have started to believe her, shut your mouth immediately and get in touch with a lawyer. | 0 | 1,753 | 3.5 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | iho3am3 | iho3wli | 1,658,805,362 | 1,658,805,663 | 11 | 42 | I went through this with police and my mother years ago. Talk to the police and let them see that you are safe. My mother told them I was chained up in a basement and they could clearly see that there was no basement and I was not in chains. It took a few times, but they finally put a note to stop harassing me. | I'm not a lawyer, but I am someone who has over the top parents that caused legal (and many other) issues for me over and over for a couple of decades. I have no legal advice to give you, just some general advice that will make things easier if it becomes a legal issue. Document EVERYTHING. Every call, every contact, in detail. Include contact through 3rd parties. Dates, times, police visits. Include the names of the officers/social workers who show up, and any other contact you have with their departments. Also include any screenshots of private messages or social media posts you come across where you're mentioned. This will all be valuable if you ever need to lawyer up; you'll be able to give them the answers to any questions they might have, with any necessary evidence ready to go . Keep a few copies in different places, and/or set up an email that you send the files to. I went so far as to organize it all in a spreadsheet, but I'm weird and there was a lot. If you have current/former mental health issues that can be used against you keep track of appointments, medications and anything else related to it to show that you're being treated/improving. Cooperate with their basic questioning ("yes, I'm okay. I'm trying to cut contact with abusive people. Please do not share any information about me with them"). People with parents like this tend to overexplain, so resist the urge to add unnecessary details. The more you say, the more likely you are to make a mistake. Remain as calm as possible; don't be angry and belligerent because it will give weight to any accusations she makes. And if it ever gets to the point where you get any hint at all that the people who show up have started to believe her, shut your mouth immediately and get in touch with a lawyer. | 0 | 301 | 3.818182 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | ihptnf1 | ihpjmmq | 1,658,844,790 | 1,658,840,227 | 9 | 7 | First of when cops show up for a welfare check they are doing so for your safety. They can’t always assume that the person calling them has malicious intent. That being said my fiancé ex tried to do this with me shortly after she found out I was pregnant. Cops legit showed up at 1am and I talked to them about the whole ordeal we were dealing with. They apologized and said they would make a report that if she called them again for other checks they would dismiss them. You really need to talk to them so they can help your build a case for the harassment in case it escalates. | Consider going directly to the local police precinct personally and by yourself, so the police can see that you are addressing this issue yourself and are not under the influence of anyone else. At your door, it can appear that there is someone unseen directing you, especially if you do not let anyone in. Let the police know that your mother is using them to harass you and ask them what their recommendations are. Even if you don't follow every one of their instructions, they will feel a part of the solution and more willing to work with you rather than your mother. | 1 | 4,563 | 1.285714 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | ihptnf1 | ihpipam | 1,658,844,790 | 1,658,839,769 | 9 | 3 | First of when cops show up for a welfare check they are doing so for your safety. They can’t always assume that the person calling them has malicious intent. That being said my fiancé ex tried to do this with me shortly after she found out I was pregnant. Cops legit showed up at 1am and I talked to them about the whole ordeal we were dealing with. They apologized and said they would make a report that if she called them again for other checks they would dismiss them. You really need to talk to them so they can help your build a case for the harassment in case it escalates. | I would go to the precinct to make a police report of what she said. Take the report with me and whenever an officer shows up wasting his precious time on a welfare check I’ll show them the pre-made police report.I’ll get a report of that incident and use it to get a restraining order if she doesn’t stop. | 1 | 5,021 | 3 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | ihpipam | ihpjmmq | 1,658,839,769 | 1,658,840,227 | 3 | 7 | I would go to the precinct to make a police report of what she said. Take the report with me and whenever an officer shows up wasting his precious time on a welfare check I’ll show them the pre-made police report.I’ll get a report of that incident and use it to get a restraining order if she doesn’t stop. | Consider going directly to the local police precinct personally and by yourself, so the police can see that you are addressing this issue yourself and are not under the influence of anyone else. At your door, it can appear that there is someone unseen directing you, especially if you do not let anyone in. Let the police know that your mother is using them to harass you and ask them what their recommendations are. Even if you don't follow every one of their instructions, they will feel a part of the solution and more willing to work with you rather than your mother. | 0 | 458 | 2.333333 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | ihpvtmk | ihpipam | 1,658,845,700 | 1,658,839,769 | 6 | 3 | Get a protection order. They will not be allowed to use a 3rd party to communicate with the protected person. Block her number from calling/texting, block all social media accounts, inform your family that you do speak with that she is blocked from your life and if they try to bridge the gap they will be blocked as well. If she calls on another line, immediately hang up. I have 31 years of successfully blocking my egg donor from my life. No police needed. Family knows to make me aware of her presence anytime she is invited to anything I am also invited to. There are no overlaps, I wouldn't recognize her on the street. I have set alerts for Legacy to inform me of her obituary so I can take a bereavement vacation. | I would go to the precinct to make a police report of what she said. Take the report with me and whenever an officer shows up wasting his precious time on a welfare check I’ll show them the pre-made police report.I’ll get a report of that incident and use it to get a restraining order if she doesn’t stop. | 1 | 5,931 | 2 |
w8240b | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | mother has threatened to call police to welfare check me unless I talk to her Moved away and am trying to cut my other out of my life. Somehow she got my new address. Called the police to do a welfare check. I didn't tell the cops anything or let them in. My mother has threatened to call the police on me every day unless I talk to her. Any advice? In Wisconsin btw | ihpipam | ihq33x6 | 1,658,839,769 | 1,658,848,648 | 3 | 6 | I would go to the precinct to make a police report of what she said. Take the report with me and whenever an officer shows up wasting his precious time on a welfare check I’ll show them the pre-made police report.I’ll get a report of that incident and use it to get a restraining order if she doesn’t stop. | Keep refusing to talk to her and file a restraining order | 0 | 8,879 | 2 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz1r7bg | gz0wicv | 1,621,685,773 | 1,621,658,200 | 250 | 133 | Surprised I'm not seeing this on here: external security camera. They're pretty cheap these days. You just may need to get creative in setting it up so that they can't see it steal it. Could be a peep-hole or doorbell cam, or a simple web cam in a window pointed at the back door (depends on your apartment set-up). Police should be able to do a lot more with video OF the perpetrators in action. I'd add this to the other very good recommendations here of documentation, constant reporting, and internal locking mechanisms. | Keep filling police reports every time it happens. While the police may not do anything it establishes a offical paper trail. | 1 | 27,573 | 1.879699 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz1r7bg | gz0wfts | 1,621,685,773 | 1,621,658,152 | 250 | 74 | Surprised I'm not seeing this on here: external security camera. They're pretty cheap these days. You just may need to get creative in setting it up so that they can't see it steal it. Could be a peep-hole or doorbell cam, or a simple web cam in a window pointed at the back door (depends on your apartment set-up). Police should be able to do a lot more with video OF the perpetrators in action. I'd add this to the other very good recommendations here of documentation, constant reporting, and internal locking mechanisms. | What's the status of the police report you filed? Can you setup a wireless camera to face the back door? Do you know anything about your neighbor? Is this person a felon, on probation, parole? | 1 | 27,621 | 3.378378 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz0wicv | gz0wfts | 1,621,658,200 | 1,621,658,152 | 133 | 74 | Keep filling police reports every time it happens. While the police may not do anything it establishes a offical paper trail. | What's the status of the police report you filed? Can you setup a wireless camera to face the back door? Do you know anything about your neighbor? Is this person a felon, on probation, parole? | 1 | 48 | 1.797297 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz1xjlp | gz0wfts | 1,621,690,112 | 1,621,658,152 | 78 | 74 | Not a lawyer, skimming over this I haven't seen this comment yet sorry if it's a repeat. You should start a log of all possessions, a video going through your place looking at everything should do. Then on everything valuable if possible add markings, notes, or anything you can think of that can help identify it as yours. Again only if possible and document it if you do. If the possession has a serial number write that down as well. Point being is if they break in while you're away you'll be able to recover your possessions easier and make it harder for them to try and pawn the items which is sounds like they're dumb enough to try. Also consider renters insurance if you haven't already. The above process of documenting your possessions could help you with an insurance claim. Just remember if the items are recovered and the insurance company has paid out then those items belong to the insurance company. | What's the status of the police report you filed? Can you setup a wireless camera to face the back door? Do you know anything about your neighbor? Is this person a felon, on probation, parole? | 1 | 31,960 | 1.054054 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz1xjlp | gz1uv0l | 1,621,690,112 | 1,621,688,394 | 78 | 24 | Not a lawyer, skimming over this I haven't seen this comment yet sorry if it's a repeat. You should start a log of all possessions, a video going through your place looking at everything should do. Then on everything valuable if possible add markings, notes, or anything you can think of that can help identify it as yours. Again only if possible and document it if you do. If the possession has a serial number write that down as well. Point being is if they break in while you're away you'll be able to recover your possessions easier and make it harder for them to try and pawn the items which is sounds like they're dumb enough to try. Also consider renters insurance if you haven't already. The above process of documenting your possessions could help you with an insurance claim. Just remember if the items are recovered and the insurance company has paid out then those items belong to the insurance company. | My fiance's apartment has a second deadbolt with no key hole that is surprisingly reassuring when it comes to unwanted visitors. Highly recommend. | 1 | 1,718 | 3.25 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz277ru | gz1uv0l | 1,621,695,407 | 1,621,688,394 | 34 | 24 | I wouldn’t assume the neighbor’s planned adventures are limited to breaking into your home through that door. Be sure to stay aware of your surroundings outside your home, including any spots where someone could conceal themselves, when entering or exiting your home and vehicle. Lock doors straightaway once you’re inside. | My fiance's apartment has a second deadbolt with no key hole that is surprisingly reassuring when it comes to unwanted visitors. Highly recommend. | 1 | 7,013 | 1.416667 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz21r4a | gz277ru | 1,621,692,504 | 1,621,695,407 | 17 | 34 | Make sure to get a copy of the police reports and make sure they have the case number / tracking number. You need to make sure their paperwork is being done. This is no guarantee they will do anything, but you can guarantee that without a case number it will not be worked. | I wouldn’t assume the neighbor’s planned adventures are limited to breaking into your home through that door. Be sure to stay aware of your surroundings outside your home, including any spots where someone could conceal themselves, when entering or exiting your home and vehicle. Lock doors straightaway once you’re inside. | 0 | 2,903 | 2 |
nia6n5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Apartment neighbor keeps trying to break into my place I live in an apartment complex in Maryland and around a month ago, I caught my neighbor picking my back door's lock. They actually opened the door, then hit our recycle bin that was blocking it and quickly shut it. I confronted them right after they shut it and they claimed it was a maid that just left. I called the police, filed a report and notified my property manager to which they did nothing. A few days ago I was home alone when I heard my back door knob jiggling again. This time I recorded them whispering outside the door saying things like "get down they'll hear you" and "do you hear him?". They sat outside my door for 4 hours until I finally called the police once more people showed up. I wasn't able to get a clear video of their faces so the police said they'll check in on us occasionally because it sounded like they were trying to break in. I notified the property manager again, this time video proof in hand of our neighbor speaking those words and I stated I am concerned for our safety. They then said they could reduce our lease termination fee from 60 day notice and $1300 to 60 days and $650. Is there anything legally I can do about this? Hire an attorney to suggest better locks and a security camera? Rent escrow? I like the apartment unit and I'm starting another semester of school soon so moving in 2 months would be difficult. The lease does say that the apartment complex isn't responsible for theft on the property, but I feel like it's different when your neighbor from the same apartment complex is the one trying to break into your home... | gz277ru | gz22vxe | 1,621,695,407 | 1,621,693,117 | 34 | 14 | I wouldn’t assume the neighbor’s planned adventures are limited to breaking into your home through that door. Be sure to stay aware of your surroundings outside your home, including any spots where someone could conceal themselves, when entering or exiting your home and vehicle. Lock doors straightaway once you’re inside. | Camera and internal lock are great ideas. Ask about upgrading the door locks. Check out lock picking lawyer on you tube. He’s got some good tests and products that are good you could upgrade your door so that an amateur wont be able to pick them. | 1 | 2,290 | 2.428571 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw4f53 | eyw1nag | 1,567,520,620 | 1,567,518,519 | 879 | 218 | Will this do anything *next* year too? Damages I see are: - Loss of the yield for the rest of the year (presumably you've harvested some already) - Count what veg would have been harvested and find out how much they cost - Repair/replacement of part of the fence. Talk to them first, then consider lawsuit. | Have you addressed this with your neighbor yet? What was their response when you complained about the damage to your property? | 1 | 2,101 | 4.03211 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw142v | eyw4f53 | 1,567,518,095 | 1,567,520,620 | 214 | 879 | Did your friend think you had no *grounds* to sue or did he think you had losses too small to be worth the effort? What would it cost to buy the yield of your garden at a market? | Will this do anything *next* year too? Damages I see are: - Loss of the yield for the rest of the year (presumably you've harvested some already) - Count what veg would have been harvested and find out how much they cost - Repair/replacement of part of the fence. Talk to them first, then consider lawsuit. | 0 | 2,525 | 4.107477 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw4f53 | eyw22xv | 1,567,520,620 | 1,567,518,863 | 879 | 17 | Will this do anything *next* year too? Damages I see are: - Loss of the yield for the rest of the year (presumably you've harvested some already) - Count what veg would have been harvested and find out how much they cost - Repair/replacement of part of the fence. Talk to them first, then consider lawsuit. | Have you talked to the neighbor about replacing it? | 1 | 1,757 | 51.705882 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw1nag | eyw6p8d | 1,567,518,519 | 1,567,522,254 | 218 | 716 | Have you addressed this with your neighbor yet? What was their response when you complained about the damage to your property? | > My lawyer friend Said before, and will say again. Don't use your friend, take some pictures and go talk to a lawyer as a professional relationship only. I would get professional quote for fixing your fence and yard and maybe talk to your homeowners insurance. Also, the town or city might have ordinances against doing this type of crap, so maybe give them a call. | 0 | 3,735 | 3.284404 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw6p8d | eyw142v | 1,567,522,254 | 1,567,518,095 | 716 | 214 | > My lawyer friend Said before, and will say again. Don't use your friend, take some pictures and go talk to a lawyer as a professional relationship only. I would get professional quote for fixing your fence and yard and maybe talk to your homeowners insurance. Also, the town or city might have ordinances against doing this type of crap, so maybe give them a call. | Did your friend think you had no *grounds* to sue or did he think you had losses too small to be worth the effort? What would it cost to buy the yield of your garden at a market? | 1 | 4,159 | 3.345794 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw6p8d | eyw22xv | 1,567,522,254 | 1,567,518,863 | 716 | 17 | > My lawyer friend Said before, and will say again. Don't use your friend, take some pictures and go talk to a lawyer as a professional relationship only. I would get professional quote for fixing your fence and yard and maybe talk to your homeowners insurance. Also, the town or city might have ordinances against doing this type of crap, so maybe give them a call. | Have you talked to the neighbor about replacing it? | 1 | 3,391 | 42.117647 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw1nag | eyw142v | 1,567,518,519 | 1,567,518,095 | 218 | 214 | Have you addressed this with your neighbor yet? What was their response when you complained about the damage to your property? | Did your friend think you had no *grounds* to sue or did he think you had losses too small to be worth the effort? What would it cost to buy the yield of your garden at a market? | 1 | 424 | 1.018692 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw720a | eyw22xv | 1,567,522,493 | 1,567,518,863 | 72 | 17 | First and foremost, in order to help your case in the event that you decide to sue them, take pictures, document everything. As everyone else is saying, you always can sue, if it is worth your time/money is another thing. You have to determine a reasonable value to get your lawn/garden back into a similar shape. If it is under 10K (based off someone elses comment, I assume that is the amount for IL), small claims. If the chlorine does extended damage (I'm not a gardener) to your grounds, the costs may be more than 10K. If it was chlorinated water, it seems like it *may* be appropriate to file a police report or file a report with the appropriate agency. Many counties, states, etc, have dumping of chlorinated water banned (needs to follow steps to dechlorinate), or require it to be dumped following regulations (banned in some places to dump in sewers from a quick google). I cannot find information for IL, except permits may not be needed. It never hurts to either call the non emergency number, or swing by the police department that serves you and file a police report of the incident. While I'm a person that believes that people should be made right, it can sometimes be easiest to talk to your neighbors first, as a lawsuit will generally increase tensions between you and the neighbor. Depending on how you feel about them, a security camera is cheap and may provide general security, as well as catch the neighbor decides to retaliate at all if you do proceed with a lawsuit. | Have you talked to the neighbor about replacing it? | 1 | 3,630 | 4.235294 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eywcdlh | eywbjth | 1,567,526,168 | 1,567,525,607 | 53 | 44 | INAL. Generally speaking owners are held liable for negligence in discharging water carelessly. I would recommend engaging an attorney who is versed in such things. He or she can assist in preparing a suit to obtain damages and to get the court to order them to cease such behavior in the future. https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/neighbor-disputes-over-water-damage-29724.html | You totally have grounds to sue. they flooded your yard with a toxic chemical and you have easily quantifiable losses for organic produce and hours worked. TBH you probably will need a lawyer, because for you to truly be made whole, the soil in your yard needs to be removed, and replaced, the vegetable yield for one year is in the thousands as you said and you probably have dozens if not hundred of man hours required to restore it for next year even after the soil is replaced. I easily see damages here well in excess of $10,000. ​ Truly the only thing thats not clear is how to tell your neighbors. Even despite their carelessness it seems unneighborly to go to a lawyer without talking to them, but I'm guessing if they have an above ground pool they're probably not wealthy enough to write you a five figure check and barely feel it. i would write up an invoice of the costs and talk to them and say something to the effect of "i realize you might be shocked by this, but respectfully, this is an honest accounting of the damage you caused." If what happened with their pool was an accident and they didn't intend for it to split open and cause this damage, their homeowners policy might cover them. | 1 | 561 | 1.204545 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eywcdlh | eyw22xv | 1,567,526,168 | 1,567,518,863 | 53 | 17 | INAL. Generally speaking owners are held liable for negligence in discharging water carelessly. I would recommend engaging an attorney who is versed in such things. He or she can assist in preparing a suit to obtain damages and to get the court to order them to cease such behavior in the future. https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/neighbor-disputes-over-water-damage-29724.html | Have you talked to the neighbor about replacing it? | 1 | 7,305 | 3.117647 |
cz4zqn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (IL) Can I sue my neighbors for damages for draining their above ground pool directly into my backyard, destroying my vegetable garden? Hello all. My neighbors that live behind me have a slightly elevated yard and a plastic above ground pool. This weekend they decided it was time to take it down and instead of draining to the street, they sliced it open and all the water flooded the back of my back yard. It looks like the wooden fence separating our yards is damaged (uprooted from the ground and warped looking). My vegetable garden was completely flooded with chlorinated water. I love my garden, my kids and wife loved it, we are devastated. We haven’t bought our own vegetables in years and nearly every plant is ruined now. The amount and force of the water destroyed most of the smaller pants and the chlorinated water soaking into the ground will certainly ruin any plants that remained in the ground. My lawyer friend seemed to think I had no grounds to sue them for the loss of the garden. I can replant in another spot, but it will take years to get our garden back to what it was and more than that, I’m pissed that they didn’t stop to think about how disrespectful it is to drain a full size pool onto someone else’s property. | eyw22xv | eywbjth | 1,567,518,863 | 1,567,525,607 | 17 | 44 | Have you talked to the neighbor about replacing it? | You totally have grounds to sue. they flooded your yard with a toxic chemical and you have easily quantifiable losses for organic produce and hours worked. TBH you probably will need a lawyer, because for you to truly be made whole, the soil in your yard needs to be removed, and replaced, the vegetable yield for one year is in the thousands as you said and you probably have dozens if not hundred of man hours required to restore it for next year even after the soil is replaced. I easily see damages here well in excess of $10,000. ​ Truly the only thing thats not clear is how to tell your neighbors. Even despite their carelessness it seems unneighborly to go to a lawyer without talking to them, but I'm guessing if they have an above ground pool they're probably not wealthy enough to write you a five figure check and barely feel it. i would write up an invoice of the costs and talk to them and say something to the effect of "i realize you might be shocked by this, but respectfully, this is an honest accounting of the damage you caused." If what happened with their pool was an accident and they didn't intend for it to split open and cause this damage, their homeowners policy might cover them. | 0 | 6,744 | 2.588235 |
t3wodo | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Neighbors accusing me of sex work because I have a pole in my home Posting on behalf of a friend. "I live in RI. I have been living in a 3rd floor apartment for the last couple of months. My lower floor neighbors have accused me, to my landlord, of some sort of sex work in my apartment. I have a pole in my living room which I use for fitness purposes. To be clear, I absolutely am not running some sort of prostitution ring out of my apartment. That's absurd. "Two nights ago, I had to call the police because I saw my neighbors taking pictures through my apartment windows. When I contacted the rental agent, their response was to tell me, 'I believe that he was trying to express to our office and provide proof that you had installed some sort of pole in your unit and that attraction may be contributing to the additional traffic at the building?' (SIC). They went on to ask, 'Are you running some sort of business out of your unit?' "I work out of my home like so many covid-related folks, but in an unrelated field, which I informed them of in my reply. In his follow up email he asked me, bluntly, '*Why* was there a pole installed in your unit?' Not 'if', but 'why?' "I'm now concerned that my rental agent is discriminating against me for the fact that I practice pole in my home. I'm not sure how to appropriately reply. Any advice would be greatly appreciated." | hyvp7u3 | hyv5ppc | 1,646,114,234 | 1,646,103,920 | 462 | 90 | > I work out of my home like so many covid-related folks, but in an unrelated field, That's different from running a business out of your home. >that attraction may be contributing to the additional traffic at the building? Is your friend having business meetings in her home, seeing customers/clients of any kind in her home, such that there has been an uptick in traffic at the building? Does her lease say anything about working from home or doing business from her home? > I saw my neighbors taking pictures through my apartment windows. Were they on a ladder or standing on the ground pointing a camera up at her 3rd floor windows? | Did your friend get their landlord's permission to install a dance pole in the living room of the apartment ? Are your friend's "fitness purposes" related to dance instruction or performance, especially that brings frequent visitors ? Or is it truly purely a fitness-related dance fixture ? >I saw my neighbors taking pictures through my apartment windows. Maybe an unlawful invasion of your privacy, but the practical limitations on photographing the inside of a third-floor unit might not make it a "peeping tom" offense. >In his follow up email he asked me, bluntly, 'Why was there a pole installed in your unit?' While the question certainly has some prurient connotations, I can't see it being unlawful to ask. >I'm now concerned that my rental agent is discriminating against me for the fact that I practice pole in my home. Have they taken any negative action against you, like refusing to renew your lease ? Rhode Island has a relatively new addition to their Fair Housing Act that adds "lawful source of income" to the classes protected against discrimination. The resources I've found about that statute include an explanatory definition of the term: >“Lawful Source of Income” means and includes any income, benefit or subsidy derived from: child support; alimony; Social Security; Supplemental Security Income; any other federal, state or local public assistance program, including, but not limited to: medical or veterans assistance; any federal, state or local rental assistance or housing subsidy program, including Section 8 housing Choice Vouchers as authorized by 42 U.S.C. § 1437; and any requirement associated with such public assistance, rental assistance or housing subsidy program. I don't know if there's a specific statutory definition in the actual R.I. code, or if anyone has every pursued a lawful source of income discrimination complaint based on type of employment. | 1 | 10,314 | 5.133333 |
t3wodo | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Neighbors accusing me of sex work because I have a pole in my home Posting on behalf of a friend. "I live in RI. I have been living in a 3rd floor apartment for the last couple of months. My lower floor neighbors have accused me, to my landlord, of some sort of sex work in my apartment. I have a pole in my living room which I use for fitness purposes. To be clear, I absolutely am not running some sort of prostitution ring out of my apartment. That's absurd. "Two nights ago, I had to call the police because I saw my neighbors taking pictures through my apartment windows. When I contacted the rental agent, their response was to tell me, 'I believe that he was trying to express to our office and provide proof that you had installed some sort of pole in your unit and that attraction may be contributing to the additional traffic at the building?' (SIC). They went on to ask, 'Are you running some sort of business out of your unit?' "I work out of my home like so many covid-related folks, but in an unrelated field, which I informed them of in my reply. In his follow up email he asked me, bluntly, '*Why* was there a pole installed in your unit?' Not 'if', but 'why?' "I'm now concerned that my rental agent is discriminating against me for the fact that I practice pole in my home. I'm not sure how to appropriately reply. Any advice would be greatly appreciated." | hyv5ppc | hywu56d | 1,646,103,920 | 1,646,143,190 | 90 | 116 | Did your friend get their landlord's permission to install a dance pole in the living room of the apartment ? Are your friend's "fitness purposes" related to dance instruction or performance, especially that brings frequent visitors ? Or is it truly purely a fitness-related dance fixture ? >I saw my neighbors taking pictures through my apartment windows. Maybe an unlawful invasion of your privacy, but the practical limitations on photographing the inside of a third-floor unit might not make it a "peeping tom" offense. >In his follow up email he asked me, bluntly, 'Why was there a pole installed in your unit?' While the question certainly has some prurient connotations, I can't see it being unlawful to ask. >I'm now concerned that my rental agent is discriminating against me for the fact that I practice pole in my home. Have they taken any negative action against you, like refusing to renew your lease ? Rhode Island has a relatively new addition to their Fair Housing Act that adds "lawful source of income" to the classes protected against discrimination. The resources I've found about that statute include an explanatory definition of the term: >“Lawful Source of Income” means and includes any income, benefit or subsidy derived from: child support; alimony; Social Security; Supplemental Security Income; any other federal, state or local public assistance program, including, but not limited to: medical or veterans assistance; any federal, state or local rental assistance or housing subsidy program, including Section 8 housing Choice Vouchers as authorized by 42 U.S.C. § 1437; and any requirement associated with such public assistance, rental assistance or housing subsidy program. I don't know if there's a specific statutory definition in the actual R.I. code, or if anyone has every pursued a lawful source of income discrimination complaint based on type of employment. | you should post this on r/poledancing because many people have poles installed in their home there. I have a pole installed in my home. The bigger question is if your lease can be construed as not allowing you to install a pole. I think it's kind of ambiguous. Poles can be put up/taken down in 5 minutes but landlords can be concerned about ceiling damage. It sounds like the landlord doesn't care about that and is just being an ass about sex work even though thats not even relevant here. | 0 | 39,270 | 1.288889 |
t3wodo | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Neighbors accusing me of sex work because I have a pole in my home Posting on behalf of a friend. "I live in RI. I have been living in a 3rd floor apartment for the last couple of months. My lower floor neighbors have accused me, to my landlord, of some sort of sex work in my apartment. I have a pole in my living room which I use for fitness purposes. To be clear, I absolutely am not running some sort of prostitution ring out of my apartment. That's absurd. "Two nights ago, I had to call the police because I saw my neighbors taking pictures through my apartment windows. When I contacted the rental agent, their response was to tell me, 'I believe that he was trying to express to our office and provide proof that you had installed some sort of pole in your unit and that attraction may be contributing to the additional traffic at the building?' (SIC). They went on to ask, 'Are you running some sort of business out of your unit?' "I work out of my home like so many covid-related folks, but in an unrelated field, which I informed them of in my reply. In his follow up email he asked me, bluntly, '*Why* was there a pole installed in your unit?' Not 'if', but 'why?' "I'm now concerned that my rental agent is discriminating against me for the fact that I practice pole in my home. I'm not sure how to appropriately reply. Any advice would be greatly appreciated." | hywkja3 | hywu56d | 1,646,138,017 | 1,646,143,190 | 43 | 116 | She should have called the police as that is a peeping Tom and invasion of privacy | you should post this on r/poledancing because many people have poles installed in their home there. I have a pole installed in my home. The bigger question is if your lease can be construed as not allowing you to install a pole. I think it's kind of ambiguous. Poles can be put up/taken down in 5 minutes but landlords can be concerned about ceiling damage. It sounds like the landlord doesn't care about that and is just being an ass about sex work even though thats not even relevant here. | 0 | 5,173 | 2.697674 |
wguovy | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | methed up neighbors crossed the line (literally) My dad has some family property. 20 plus years ago, he traded some property with the neighbor that included providing more road front property to the neighbor and my dad getting more space deep in the woods. My dad has the deed to the property. Last week my dad was over at the property and the neighbors son in law (neighbor has passed away) was occupying the property with a tractor and other equipment clearing the area. The area is 40’x100’ and the majority of vegetation has been cleared. My dad contacted a surveyor to verify they had indeed been destroying trees and digging a ditch across his property. It was verified yesterday. We’re talking 30-50 trees, which will be hard to verify when large equipment has been brought in to clear the property. The neighbors are a nuisance. They are constantly having parties, shooting guns in the middle of the night and quite often appear high. So, my main idea is this might be a chance to stick it to them and get them the heck out of there and take all they have…? I considered getting a landscaper to quote me replacing the trees and trying to grade everything back to the original situation. I’ll be visiting a lawyer next week for him to tell me my options but in preparation is there any advice to what I can do to slam this neighbor? Alabama is the state. | ij1qqcb | ij278y0 | 1,659,704,239 | 1,659,711,309 | 14 | 30 | INAL, only going off of comments I’ve seen in similar posts here. Take LOTS of photos of the current state of the property, and get as many as you can from before the property was touched, such as from google maps. I believe you should also consider getting a few different arborists out to try to give you an estimate on replacement costs of the trees, if they can be replaced, or for straight up damages if they can’t be replaced. | 2 things going against you that you need to consider. 1 the trees are in the back of the lot in a clump of woods not centerpieces of your front yard, their value is decreased because of this. 2 even if you win, your meth-head neighbor is likely not financially responsible enough to pay you back. Having a judgement against him might be motivation for him to stay off your property and leave you alone in the future. | 0 | 7,070 | 2.142857 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasfg0d | gasey5o | 1,604,236,220 | 1,604,235,865 | 275 | 13 | I am not a lawyer, but I am a psychiatrist. This is not medical advice. Involuntary commitment laws vary significantly from state to state, but some core tenants seem to be true across all 50: if someone is a danger to themselves or a danger to others, they can be involuntary committed to a hospital. Who can do this, for how long, and whether they can be medicated against their will depends entirely on your state (and sometimes, county within that state - looking at you, California). Providing your location would be helpful. If you are concerned about your father’s safety or the safety of others, consider calling the police with some clear documentation/evidence for your concerns. | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | 1 | 355 | 21.153846 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gasfg0d | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,236,220 | 10 | 275 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | I am not a lawyer, but I am a psychiatrist. This is not medical advice. Involuntary commitment laws vary significantly from state to state, but some core tenants seem to be true across all 50: if someone is a danger to themselves or a danger to others, they can be involuntary committed to a hospital. Who can do this, for how long, and whether they can be medicated against their will depends entirely on your state (and sometimes, county within that state - looking at you, California). Providing your location would be helpful. If you are concerned about your father’s safety or the safety of others, consider calling the police with some clear documentation/evidence for your concerns. | 0 | 3,828 | 27.5 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasjuum | gashde0 | 1,604,239,216 | 1,604,237,551 | 62 | 41 | Not a lawyer but from a family of psychiatrists. If your dad has any kind of a doctor - they need to be contacted. Your dad probably isn't under any care, but if he is, then his dr would be the one who can get him admitted the fastest. When talking to his dr - be as honest as possible - don't under report what is going on and start keeping a journal ( somewhere where your dad can't find it) about his ups and downs, delusions etc. Use the phrase, "I'm scared my dad is a danger to himself and others". This means he is a 5150, police/hospital code meaning he needs to be held for 48 hrs. During those 48 hours he will most likely be upgraded to a longer hold. If your dad does not have a dr - see if your mom has one. She can talk to her dr about it - your mom's life is in danger so her DR has a responsibility to help. If there is no family dr - then the next call is to a mental health phone number. If your dad is in crisis - they may tell you to call 911. Use this as the last possible resort. Also, you mention your grandfather was in Viet Nam - is your dad a vet or served in the military? If so, call the VA. Here is a quick list of mental health numbers. https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help Get as much info as you can. Every area is different and every hospital has different intake procedures, and not all hospitals have psych beds, so it's good to find the hospital that does and contact them about admitting on a 5150 (danger to self or others). Once your dad is in a hospital - then get help for you and your mom. This is hard dangerous stuff and you need support too. ​ Good luck. | Not a lawyer, but I work in mental health and have had to petition for involuntary commitment before. In my state, you will fill out a form at your magistrates office. It has to state the facts of his illness and what makes you think he need to be committed to a hospital. So no opinions, just what he is saying and doing that makes you believe is a hazard to himself and/or others. Hope this helps. Psychosis is typically, good grounds for this, in my experience. | 1 | 1,665 | 1.512195 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasi4as | gasjuum | 1,604,238,068 | 1,604,239,216 | 24 | 62 | Not a lawyer but an EMT. Idk what state you're in but if you call for EMS saying your father has stated he wants to kill people assuming he is still acting somewhat erratic when they show up he could be taken to a psych facility for a psychological evaluation, that would probably lead to a diagnosis and hopefully he can be put on meds that can help. | Not a lawyer but from a family of psychiatrists. If your dad has any kind of a doctor - they need to be contacted. Your dad probably isn't under any care, but if he is, then his dr would be the one who can get him admitted the fastest. When talking to his dr - be as honest as possible - don't under report what is going on and start keeping a journal ( somewhere where your dad can't find it) about his ups and downs, delusions etc. Use the phrase, "I'm scared my dad is a danger to himself and others". This means he is a 5150, police/hospital code meaning he needs to be held for 48 hrs. During those 48 hours he will most likely be upgraded to a longer hold. If your dad does not have a dr - see if your mom has one. She can talk to her dr about it - your mom's life is in danger so her DR has a responsibility to help. If there is no family dr - then the next call is to a mental health phone number. If your dad is in crisis - they may tell you to call 911. Use this as the last possible resort. Also, you mention your grandfather was in Viet Nam - is your dad a vet or served in the military? If so, call the VA. Here is a quick list of mental health numbers. https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help Get as much info as you can. Every area is different and every hospital has different intake procedures, and not all hospitals have psych beds, so it's good to find the hospital that does and contact them about admitting on a 5150 (danger to self or others). Once your dad is in a hospital - then get help for you and your mom. This is hard dangerous stuff and you need support too. ​ Good luck. | 0 | 1,148 | 2.583333 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasjhtr | gasjuum | 1,604,238,981 | 1,604,239,216 | 18 | 62 | As others have pointed out, go medical not legal route. Bring him to the ER. If he doesn't go voluntarily you can call 911 for ambulance transport not police (though they will come too). Emphasize that he is currently having psychotic symptoms and is threatening harm to himself or others. Once he's in the hospital that's when you give the emergency psych team the full story including the family history | Not a lawyer but from a family of psychiatrists. If your dad has any kind of a doctor - they need to be contacted. Your dad probably isn't under any care, but if he is, then his dr would be the one who can get him admitted the fastest. When talking to his dr - be as honest as possible - don't under report what is going on and start keeping a journal ( somewhere where your dad can't find it) about his ups and downs, delusions etc. Use the phrase, "I'm scared my dad is a danger to himself and others". This means he is a 5150, police/hospital code meaning he needs to be held for 48 hrs. During those 48 hours he will most likely be upgraded to a longer hold. If your dad does not have a dr - see if your mom has one. She can talk to her dr about it - your mom's life is in danger so her DR has a responsibility to help. If there is no family dr - then the next call is to a mental health phone number. If your dad is in crisis - they may tell you to call 911. Use this as the last possible resort. Also, you mention your grandfather was in Viet Nam - is your dad a vet or served in the military? If so, call the VA. Here is a quick list of mental health numbers. https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help Get as much info as you can. Every area is different and every hospital has different intake procedures, and not all hospitals have psych beds, so it's good to find the hospital that does and contact them about admitting on a 5150 (danger to self or others). Once your dad is in a hospital - then get help for you and your mom. This is hard dangerous stuff and you need support too. ​ Good luck. | 0 | 235 | 3.444444 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasjuum | gasey5o | 1,604,239,216 | 1,604,235,865 | 62 | 13 | Not a lawyer but from a family of psychiatrists. If your dad has any kind of a doctor - they need to be contacted. Your dad probably isn't under any care, but if he is, then his dr would be the one who can get him admitted the fastest. When talking to his dr - be as honest as possible - don't under report what is going on and start keeping a journal ( somewhere where your dad can't find it) about his ups and downs, delusions etc. Use the phrase, "I'm scared my dad is a danger to himself and others". This means he is a 5150, police/hospital code meaning he needs to be held for 48 hrs. During those 48 hours he will most likely be upgraded to a longer hold. If your dad does not have a dr - see if your mom has one. She can talk to her dr about it - your mom's life is in danger so her DR has a responsibility to help. If there is no family dr - then the next call is to a mental health phone number. If your dad is in crisis - they may tell you to call 911. Use this as the last possible resort. Also, you mention your grandfather was in Viet Nam - is your dad a vet or served in the military? If so, call the VA. Here is a quick list of mental health numbers. https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help Get as much info as you can. Every area is different and every hospital has different intake procedures, and not all hospitals have psych beds, so it's good to find the hospital that does and contact them about admitting on a 5150 (danger to self or others). Once your dad is in a hospital - then get help for you and your mom. This is hard dangerous stuff and you need support too. ​ Good luck. | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | 1 | 3,351 | 4.769231 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasjuum | gasino6 | 1,604,239,216 | 1,604,238,428 | 62 | 12 | Not a lawyer but from a family of psychiatrists. If your dad has any kind of a doctor - they need to be contacted. Your dad probably isn't under any care, but if he is, then his dr would be the one who can get him admitted the fastest. When talking to his dr - be as honest as possible - don't under report what is going on and start keeping a journal ( somewhere where your dad can't find it) about his ups and downs, delusions etc. Use the phrase, "I'm scared my dad is a danger to himself and others". This means he is a 5150, police/hospital code meaning he needs to be held for 48 hrs. During those 48 hours he will most likely be upgraded to a longer hold. If your dad does not have a dr - see if your mom has one. She can talk to her dr about it - your mom's life is in danger so her DR has a responsibility to help. If there is no family dr - then the next call is to a mental health phone number. If your dad is in crisis - they may tell you to call 911. Use this as the last possible resort. Also, you mention your grandfather was in Viet Nam - is your dad a vet or served in the military? If so, call the VA. Here is a quick list of mental health numbers. https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help Get as much info as you can. Every area is different and every hospital has different intake procedures, and not all hospitals have psych beds, so it's good to find the hospital that does and contact them about admitting on a 5150 (danger to self or others). Once your dad is in a hospital - then get help for you and your mom. This is hard dangerous stuff and you need support too. ​ Good luck. | The most important thing is to protect yourself, your family, and your dad, by getting him committed. Other people have commented on how to do this. For my family in Florida, this was always a rollercoaster, and I have literally been told that my brother is "not psychotic enough" to be admitted. You may have better luck doing this through the court system than through the cops. Background: my brother has paranoid schizophrenia and my mom had bipolar, and their episodes would feed into each other, and my dad and I were left to our own devices to figure it out. Also, I cannot recommend NAMI enough. They have support groups, and a 12 week Family-to-Family caregiving course that was a lifesaver. Lastly, I also encourage you to look into alternative approaches to healing mental illness, specifically shamanic healing. When I was exacerbated because my brother was having recurring psychotic episodes, and the medications, therapy, and involuntary hospitalizations weren't working, I sought out a shamanic healer for him. The healer ended up being profoundly more helpful for my brother than any therapist ever was. Other cultures around the world have different, yet very similar ways, of addressing mental illness, and it is surprisingly effective. It may require some suspension of disbelief, but my brother has been stable for years, and I'm so glad I did it. | 1 | 788 | 5.166667 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gasjuum | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,239,216 | 10 | 62 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | Not a lawyer but from a family of psychiatrists. If your dad has any kind of a doctor - they need to be contacted. Your dad probably isn't under any care, but if he is, then his dr would be the one who can get him admitted the fastest. When talking to his dr - be as honest as possible - don't under report what is going on and start keeping a journal ( somewhere where your dad can't find it) about his ups and downs, delusions etc. Use the phrase, "I'm scared my dad is a danger to himself and others". This means he is a 5150, police/hospital code meaning he needs to be held for 48 hrs. During those 48 hours he will most likely be upgraded to a longer hold. If your dad does not have a dr - see if your mom has one. She can talk to her dr about it - your mom's life is in danger so her DR has a responsibility to help. If there is no family dr - then the next call is to a mental health phone number. If your dad is in crisis - they may tell you to call 911. Use this as the last possible resort. Also, you mention your grandfather was in Viet Nam - is your dad a vet or served in the military? If so, call the VA. Here is a quick list of mental health numbers. https://www.mentalhealth.gov/get-help/immediate-help Get as much info as you can. Every area is different and every hospital has different intake procedures, and not all hospitals have psych beds, so it's good to find the hospital that does and contact them about admitting on a 5150 (danger to self or others). Once your dad is in a hospital - then get help for you and your mom. This is hard dangerous stuff and you need support too. ​ Good luck. | 0 | 6,824 | 6.2 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat058j | gashde0 | 1,604,248,833 | 1,604,237,551 | 51 | 41 | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | Not a lawyer, but I work in mental health and have had to petition for involuntary commitment before. In my state, you will fill out a form at your magistrates office. It has to state the facts of his illness and what makes you think he need to be committed to a hospital. So no opinions, just what he is saying and doing that makes you believe is a hazard to himself and/or others. Hope this helps. Psychosis is typically, good grounds for this, in my experience. | 1 | 11,282 | 1.243902 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasi4as | gat058j | 1,604,238,068 | 1,604,248,833 | 24 | 51 | Not a lawyer but an EMT. Idk what state you're in but if you call for EMS saying your father has stated he wants to kill people assuming he is still acting somewhat erratic when they show up he could be taken to a psych facility for a psychological evaluation, that would probably lead to a diagnosis and hopefully he can be put on meds that can help. | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | 0 | 10,765 | 2.125 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat058j | gasjhtr | 1,604,248,833 | 1,604,238,981 | 51 | 18 | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | As others have pointed out, go medical not legal route. Bring him to the ER. If he doesn't go voluntarily you can call 911 for ambulance transport not police (though they will come too). Emphasize that he is currently having psychotic symptoms and is threatening harm to himself or others. Once he's in the hospital that's when you give the emergency psych team the full story including the family history | 1 | 9,852 | 2.833333 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasldwo | gat058j | 1,604,240,210 | 1,604,248,833 | 17 | 51 | Not a lawyer but grew up with a schizophrenic and manic depressive bipolar mother. Calling mental health hospitals, intake facilities and even crisis centers are a good first start. Unfortunately my mother could turn off the crazy as well so the police weren't helpful until it got bad enough that our neighbors saw and called themselves. If you do record him, be extremely careful that he doesn't see the recording or find out about it. This can make him even more unpredictable and with someone suffering this badly with their mental health, that can be extremely dangerous for you and your mom. Put a lock on your phone and keep the recording in a secure/hidden file that he cannot easily access. I wish you the best of luck. I know how hard going through this is and it breaks my heart that other people are going through the same stuff I did. My mother did stuff to me and my sister when we were little that would be considered illegal war crimes if it was done to criminals because that's how bad she was. Keep you and your mom safe at all costs. Because his delusions are getting worse, you're going to want to get him into a facility to be stabilized asap so he doesn't get the chance to hurt you guys. If you need any kind of support, or just to talk, please feel free to reach out. | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | 0 | 8,623 | 3 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasmtuc | gat058j | 1,604,241,126 | 1,604,248,833 | 14 | 51 | Okay, I am a lawyer...you have some benefits here that apply. Your father is entitled to VA care, which is some of the most experienced in PTSD research and care (which it may be instead of schizophrenia, also a possibility). Agent Orange does not cause PTSD, but if he touched ground in Vietnam he'll have a "presumption" many health things he may have were caused by AO under the law (therefore, covered). VA has outpatient mental health clinics called "Vet Centers" who have nurse lines you can call. They can help you through he process of getting him help in the VA, which includes inpatient and outpatient options. You can call the Vet Crisis line at 800-273-8255x1. https://www.mentalhealth.va.gov | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | 0 | 7,707 | 3.642857 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat058j | gasey5o | 1,604,248,833 | 1,604,235,865 | 51 | 13 | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | 1 | 12,968 | 3.923077 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasino6 | gat058j | 1,604,238,428 | 1,604,248,833 | 12 | 51 | The most important thing is to protect yourself, your family, and your dad, by getting him committed. Other people have commented on how to do this. For my family in Florida, this was always a rollercoaster, and I have literally been told that my brother is "not psychotic enough" to be admitted. You may have better luck doing this through the court system than through the cops. Background: my brother has paranoid schizophrenia and my mom had bipolar, and their episodes would feed into each other, and my dad and I were left to our own devices to figure it out. Also, I cannot recommend NAMI enough. They have support groups, and a 12 week Family-to-Family caregiving course that was a lifesaver. Lastly, I also encourage you to look into alternative approaches to healing mental illness, specifically shamanic healing. When I was exacerbated because my brother was having recurring psychotic episodes, and the medications, therapy, and involuntary hospitalizations weren't working, I sought out a shamanic healer for him. The healer ended up being profoundly more helpful for my brother than any therapist ever was. Other cultures around the world have different, yet very similar ways, of addressing mental illness, and it is surprisingly effective. It may require some suspension of disbelief, but my brother has been stable for years, and I'm so glad I did it. | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | 0 | 10,405 | 4.25 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat058j | gasnt45 | 1,604,248,833 | 1,604,241,744 | 51 | 12 | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | The good news is that his very specific threats and musings about harming others may qualify him for involuntary hospitalization. So that's a start. | 1 | 7,089 | 4.25 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gat058j | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,248,833 | 10 | 51 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | IAAL, but I'm not going to give legal advice because others have done so, and I don't know what state you're in. I'm going to address the one thing that really troubles me. **You, your mom, your siblings if any, and your pets need to get out of the house now.** Immediately. You're in danger. And you will be as long as he's there and he's unmedicated. | 0 | 16,441 | 5.1 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasey5o | gashde0 | 1,604,235,865 | 1,604,237,551 | 13 | 41 | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | Not a lawyer, but I work in mental health and have had to petition for involuntary commitment before. In my state, you will fill out a form at your magistrates office. It has to state the facts of his illness and what makes you think he need to be committed to a hospital. So no opinions, just what he is saying and doing that makes you believe is a hazard to himself and/or others. Hope this helps. Psychosis is typically, good grounds for this, in my experience. | 0 | 1,686 | 3.153846 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gashde0 | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,237,551 | 10 | 41 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | Not a lawyer, but I work in mental health and have had to petition for involuntary commitment before. In my state, you will fill out a form at your magistrates office. It has to state the facts of his illness and what makes you think he need to be committed to a hospital. So no opinions, just what he is saying and doing that makes you believe is a hazard to himself and/or others. Hope this helps. Psychosis is typically, good grounds for this, in my experience. | 0 | 5,159 | 4.1 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasi4as | gasey5o | 1,604,238,068 | 1,604,235,865 | 24 | 13 | Not a lawyer but an EMT. Idk what state you're in but if you call for EMS saying your father has stated he wants to kill people assuming he is still acting somewhat erratic when they show up he could be taken to a psych facility for a psychological evaluation, that would probably lead to a diagnosis and hopefully he can be put on meds that can help. | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | 1 | 2,203 | 1.846154 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gasi4as | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,238,068 | 10 | 24 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | Not a lawyer but an EMT. Idk what state you're in but if you call for EMS saying your father has stated he wants to kill people assuming he is still acting somewhat erratic when they show up he could be taken to a psych facility for a psychological evaluation, that would probably lead to a diagnosis and hopefully he can be put on meds that can help. | 0 | 5,676 | 2.4 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasey5o | gasjhtr | 1,604,235,865 | 1,604,238,981 | 13 | 18 | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | As others have pointed out, go medical not legal route. Bring him to the ER. If he doesn't go voluntarily you can call 911 for ambulance transport not police (though they will come too). Emphasize that he is currently having psychotic symptoms and is threatening harm to himself or others. Once he's in the hospital that's when you give the emergency psych team the full story including the family history | 0 | 3,116 | 1.384615 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasjhtr | gasino6 | 1,604,238,981 | 1,604,238,428 | 18 | 12 | As others have pointed out, go medical not legal route. Bring him to the ER. If he doesn't go voluntarily you can call 911 for ambulance transport not police (though they will come too). Emphasize that he is currently having psychotic symptoms and is threatening harm to himself or others. Once he's in the hospital that's when you give the emergency psych team the full story including the family history | The most important thing is to protect yourself, your family, and your dad, by getting him committed. Other people have commented on how to do this. For my family in Florida, this was always a rollercoaster, and I have literally been told that my brother is "not psychotic enough" to be admitted. You may have better luck doing this through the court system than through the cops. Background: my brother has paranoid schizophrenia and my mom had bipolar, and their episodes would feed into each other, and my dad and I were left to our own devices to figure it out. Also, I cannot recommend NAMI enough. They have support groups, and a 12 week Family-to-Family caregiving course that was a lifesaver. Lastly, I also encourage you to look into alternative approaches to healing mental illness, specifically shamanic healing. When I was exacerbated because my brother was having recurring psychotic episodes, and the medications, therapy, and involuntary hospitalizations weren't working, I sought out a shamanic healer for him. The healer ended up being profoundly more helpful for my brother than any therapist ever was. Other cultures around the world have different, yet very similar ways, of addressing mental illness, and it is surprisingly effective. It may require some suspension of disbelief, but my brother has been stable for years, and I'm so glad I did it. | 1 | 553 | 1.5 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gasjhtr | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,238,981 | 10 | 18 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | As others have pointed out, go medical not legal route. Bring him to the ER. If he doesn't go voluntarily you can call 911 for ambulance transport not police (though they will come too). Emphasize that he is currently having psychotic symptoms and is threatening harm to himself or others. Once he's in the hospital that's when you give the emergency psych team the full story including the family history | 0 | 6,589 | 1.8 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasldwo | gasey5o | 1,604,240,210 | 1,604,235,865 | 17 | 13 | Not a lawyer but grew up with a schizophrenic and manic depressive bipolar mother. Calling mental health hospitals, intake facilities and even crisis centers are a good first start. Unfortunately my mother could turn off the crazy as well so the police weren't helpful until it got bad enough that our neighbors saw and called themselves. If you do record him, be extremely careful that he doesn't see the recording or find out about it. This can make him even more unpredictable and with someone suffering this badly with their mental health, that can be extremely dangerous for you and your mom. Put a lock on your phone and keep the recording in a secure/hidden file that he cannot easily access. I wish you the best of luck. I know how hard going through this is and it breaks my heart that other people are going through the same stuff I did. My mother did stuff to me and my sister when we were little that would be considered illegal war crimes if it was done to criminals because that's how bad she was. Keep you and your mom safe at all costs. Because his delusions are getting worse, you're going to want to get him into a facility to be stabilized asap so he doesn't get the chance to hurt you guys. If you need any kind of support, or just to talk, please feel free to reach out. | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | 1 | 4,345 | 1.307692 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasino6 | gasldwo | 1,604,238,428 | 1,604,240,210 | 12 | 17 | The most important thing is to protect yourself, your family, and your dad, by getting him committed. Other people have commented on how to do this. For my family in Florida, this was always a rollercoaster, and I have literally been told that my brother is "not psychotic enough" to be admitted. You may have better luck doing this through the court system than through the cops. Background: my brother has paranoid schizophrenia and my mom had bipolar, and their episodes would feed into each other, and my dad and I were left to our own devices to figure it out. Also, I cannot recommend NAMI enough. They have support groups, and a 12 week Family-to-Family caregiving course that was a lifesaver. Lastly, I also encourage you to look into alternative approaches to healing mental illness, specifically shamanic healing. When I was exacerbated because my brother was having recurring psychotic episodes, and the medications, therapy, and involuntary hospitalizations weren't working, I sought out a shamanic healer for him. The healer ended up being profoundly more helpful for my brother than any therapist ever was. Other cultures around the world have different, yet very similar ways, of addressing mental illness, and it is surprisingly effective. It may require some suspension of disbelief, but my brother has been stable for years, and I'm so glad I did it. | Not a lawyer but grew up with a schizophrenic and manic depressive bipolar mother. Calling mental health hospitals, intake facilities and even crisis centers are a good first start. Unfortunately my mother could turn off the crazy as well so the police weren't helpful until it got bad enough that our neighbors saw and called themselves. If you do record him, be extremely careful that he doesn't see the recording or find out about it. This can make him even more unpredictable and with someone suffering this badly with their mental health, that can be extremely dangerous for you and your mom. Put a lock on your phone and keep the recording in a secure/hidden file that he cannot easily access. I wish you the best of luck. I know how hard going through this is and it breaks my heart that other people are going through the same stuff I did. My mother did stuff to me and my sister when we were little that would be considered illegal war crimes if it was done to criminals because that's how bad she was. Keep you and your mom safe at all costs. Because his delusions are getting worse, you're going to want to get him into a facility to be stabilized asap so he doesn't get the chance to hurt you guys. If you need any kind of support, or just to talk, please feel free to reach out. | 0 | 1,782 | 1.416667 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gasldwo | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,240,210 | 10 | 17 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | Not a lawyer but grew up with a schizophrenic and manic depressive bipolar mother. Calling mental health hospitals, intake facilities and even crisis centers are a good first start. Unfortunately my mother could turn off the crazy as well so the police weren't helpful until it got bad enough that our neighbors saw and called themselves. If you do record him, be extremely careful that he doesn't see the recording or find out about it. This can make him even more unpredictable and with someone suffering this badly with their mental health, that can be extremely dangerous for you and your mom. Put a lock on your phone and keep the recording in a secure/hidden file that he cannot easily access. I wish you the best of luck. I know how hard going through this is and it breaks my heart that other people are going through the same stuff I did. My mother did stuff to me and my sister when we were little that would be considered illegal war crimes if it was done to criminals because that's how bad she was. Keep you and your mom safe at all costs. Because his delusions are getting worse, you're going to want to get him into a facility to be stabilized asap so he doesn't get the chance to hurt you guys. If you need any kind of support, or just to talk, please feel free to reach out. | 0 | 7,818 | 1.7 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat26x9 | gasmtuc | 1,604,249,942 | 1,604,241,126 | 16 | 14 | Not a lawyer. I am a psychotherapist. It can be very difficult to get mental health services for someone. There are a few exclusions for having someone committed but being a threat to someone else (or yourself) is helpful. Especially as he has been making specific threats about one particular person in addition to his comments about hurting people at large. I would look for any community mental health services in your area. There is usually a crisis number. You can start there and explain what is happening and that you are fearful of him. You can also try NAMI. Its unusual for schizophrenia to develop in later adulthood but not impossible. Getting him connected with services is important but please understand that if he is able to hide symptoms during evaluation or denies that it can be hard for clinicians to justify treatment. You might also want to contact your local domestic violence agency and ask about available support. Even though he hasn’t been violent towards you yet they might have more information on available resources. | Okay, I am a lawyer...you have some benefits here that apply. Your father is entitled to VA care, which is some of the most experienced in PTSD research and care (which it may be instead of schizophrenia, also a possibility). Agent Orange does not cause PTSD, but if he touched ground in Vietnam he'll have a "presumption" many health things he may have were caused by AO under the law (therefore, covered). VA has outpatient mental health clinics called "Vet Centers" who have nurse lines you can call. They can help you through he process of getting him help in the VA, which includes inpatient and outpatient options. You can call the Vet Crisis line at 800-273-8255x1. https://www.mentalhealth.va.gov | 1 | 8,816 | 1.142857 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasey5o | gasmtuc | 1,604,235,865 | 1,604,241,126 | 13 | 14 | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | Okay, I am a lawyer...you have some benefits here that apply. Your father is entitled to VA care, which is some of the most experienced in PTSD research and care (which it may be instead of schizophrenia, also a possibility). Agent Orange does not cause PTSD, but if he touched ground in Vietnam he'll have a "presumption" many health things he may have were caused by AO under the law (therefore, covered). VA has outpatient mental health clinics called "Vet Centers" who have nurse lines you can call. They can help you through he process of getting him help in the VA, which includes inpatient and outpatient options. You can call the Vet Crisis line at 800-273-8255x1. https://www.mentalhealth.va.gov | 0 | 5,261 | 1.076923 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasino6 | gasmtuc | 1,604,238,428 | 1,604,241,126 | 12 | 14 | The most important thing is to protect yourself, your family, and your dad, by getting him committed. Other people have commented on how to do this. For my family in Florida, this was always a rollercoaster, and I have literally been told that my brother is "not psychotic enough" to be admitted. You may have better luck doing this through the court system than through the cops. Background: my brother has paranoid schizophrenia and my mom had bipolar, and their episodes would feed into each other, and my dad and I were left to our own devices to figure it out. Also, I cannot recommend NAMI enough. They have support groups, and a 12 week Family-to-Family caregiving course that was a lifesaver. Lastly, I also encourage you to look into alternative approaches to healing mental illness, specifically shamanic healing. When I was exacerbated because my brother was having recurring psychotic episodes, and the medications, therapy, and involuntary hospitalizations weren't working, I sought out a shamanic healer for him. The healer ended up being profoundly more helpful for my brother than any therapist ever was. Other cultures around the world have different, yet very similar ways, of addressing mental illness, and it is surprisingly effective. It may require some suspension of disbelief, but my brother has been stable for years, and I'm so glad I did it. | Okay, I am a lawyer...you have some benefits here that apply. Your father is entitled to VA care, which is some of the most experienced in PTSD research and care (which it may be instead of schizophrenia, also a possibility). Agent Orange does not cause PTSD, but if he touched ground in Vietnam he'll have a "presumption" many health things he may have were caused by AO under the law (therefore, covered). VA has outpatient mental health clinics called "Vet Centers" who have nurse lines you can call. They can help you through he process of getting him help in the VA, which includes inpatient and outpatient options. You can call the Vet Crisis line at 800-273-8255x1. https://www.mentalhealth.va.gov | 0 | 2,698 | 1.166667 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gasmtuc | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,241,126 | 10 | 14 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | Okay, I am a lawyer...you have some benefits here that apply. Your father is entitled to VA care, which is some of the most experienced in PTSD research and care (which it may be instead of schizophrenia, also a possibility). Agent Orange does not cause PTSD, but if he touched ground in Vietnam he'll have a "presumption" many health things he may have were caused by AO under the law (therefore, covered). VA has outpatient mental health clinics called "Vet Centers" who have nurse lines you can call. They can help you through he process of getting him help in the VA, which includes inpatient and outpatient options. You can call the Vet Crisis line at 800-273-8255x1. https://www.mentalhealth.va.gov | 0 | 8,734 | 1.4 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat26x9 | gasey5o | 1,604,249,942 | 1,604,235,865 | 16 | 13 | Not a lawyer. I am a psychotherapist. It can be very difficult to get mental health services for someone. There are a few exclusions for having someone committed but being a threat to someone else (or yourself) is helpful. Especially as he has been making specific threats about one particular person in addition to his comments about hurting people at large. I would look for any community mental health services in your area. There is usually a crisis number. You can start there and explain what is happening and that you are fearful of him. You can also try NAMI. Its unusual for schizophrenia to develop in later adulthood but not impossible. Getting him connected with services is important but please understand that if he is able to hide symptoms during evaluation or denies that it can be hard for clinicians to justify treatment. You might also want to contact your local domestic violence agency and ask about available support. Even though he hasn’t been violent towards you yet they might have more information on available resources. | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | 1 | 14,077 | 1.230769 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasino6 | gat26x9 | 1,604,238,428 | 1,604,249,942 | 12 | 16 | The most important thing is to protect yourself, your family, and your dad, by getting him committed. Other people have commented on how to do this. For my family in Florida, this was always a rollercoaster, and I have literally been told that my brother is "not psychotic enough" to be admitted. You may have better luck doing this through the court system than through the cops. Background: my brother has paranoid schizophrenia and my mom had bipolar, and their episodes would feed into each other, and my dad and I were left to our own devices to figure it out. Also, I cannot recommend NAMI enough. They have support groups, and a 12 week Family-to-Family caregiving course that was a lifesaver. Lastly, I also encourage you to look into alternative approaches to healing mental illness, specifically shamanic healing. When I was exacerbated because my brother was having recurring psychotic episodes, and the medications, therapy, and involuntary hospitalizations weren't working, I sought out a shamanic healer for him. The healer ended up being profoundly more helpful for my brother than any therapist ever was. Other cultures around the world have different, yet very similar ways, of addressing mental illness, and it is surprisingly effective. It may require some suspension of disbelief, but my brother has been stable for years, and I'm so glad I did it. | Not a lawyer. I am a psychotherapist. It can be very difficult to get mental health services for someone. There are a few exclusions for having someone committed but being a threat to someone else (or yourself) is helpful. Especially as he has been making specific threats about one particular person in addition to his comments about hurting people at large. I would look for any community mental health services in your area. There is usually a crisis number. You can start there and explain what is happening and that you are fearful of him. You can also try NAMI. Its unusual for schizophrenia to develop in later adulthood but not impossible. Getting him connected with services is important but please understand that if he is able to hide symptoms during evaluation or denies that it can be hard for clinicians to justify treatment. You might also want to contact your local domestic violence agency and ask about available support. Even though he hasn’t been violent towards you yet they might have more information on available resources. | 0 | 11,514 | 1.333333 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat26x9 | gasnt45 | 1,604,249,942 | 1,604,241,744 | 16 | 12 | Not a lawyer. I am a psychotherapist. It can be very difficult to get mental health services for someone. There are a few exclusions for having someone committed but being a threat to someone else (or yourself) is helpful. Especially as he has been making specific threats about one particular person in addition to his comments about hurting people at large. I would look for any community mental health services in your area. There is usually a crisis number. You can start there and explain what is happening and that you are fearful of him. You can also try NAMI. Its unusual for schizophrenia to develop in later adulthood but not impossible. Getting him connected with services is important but please understand that if he is able to hide symptoms during evaluation or denies that it can be hard for clinicians to justify treatment. You might also want to contact your local domestic violence agency and ask about available support. Even though he hasn’t been violent towards you yet they might have more information on available resources. | The good news is that his very specific threats and musings about harming others may qualify him for involuntary hospitalization. So that's a start. | 1 | 8,198 | 1.333333 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gat26x9 | gasasic | 1,604,249,942 | 1,604,232,392 | 16 | 10 | Not a lawyer. I am a psychotherapist. It can be very difficult to get mental health services for someone. There are a few exclusions for having someone committed but being a threat to someone else (or yourself) is helpful. Especially as he has been making specific threats about one particular person in addition to his comments about hurting people at large. I would look for any community mental health services in your area. There is usually a crisis number. You can start there and explain what is happening and that you are fearful of him. You can also try NAMI. Its unusual for schizophrenia to develop in later adulthood but not impossible. Getting him connected with services is important but please understand that if he is able to hide symptoms during evaluation or denies that it can be hard for clinicians to justify treatment. You might also want to contact your local domestic violence agency and ask about available support. Even though he hasn’t been violent towards you yet they might have more information on available resources. | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | 1 | 17,550 | 1.6 |
jlz1rw | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | gasasic | gasey5o | 1,604,232,392 | 1,604,235,865 | 10 | 13 | You can take him to the emergency department for an evaluation. In the ED, what the patient’s family has to say is very important, so even if he lies to the doctors there the doctors will also listen to you and get your side of the story. Based on how he presents and what you say they might choose to admit him to the psych hospital, especially if they feel he is a danger to himself, to others, or that he is so ill he can’t take care of himself. | If you are overwhelmed, a domestic violence number can be called. In any situation where you fear for your life becuase of somone you live with, it’s possable they could give you beds. ‘I would also call the places, if listed, directly. Often, the main line will tell you there are no beds but the actual shelters will be empty. I don’t know why this is, but if you can’t convince your mom to move you or her or any other kids/ pets the line might know what to do and you might be able to get a bed just by yourself another note- do not befriend any women staying there, I once did and she went to the staff and lied to them, resulting in my not being able to get another extension (lots of female abusers end up at these places but not to worry there are lots of staff, too) your fathers MH is seriou, some of the most tragic stories are about people with psychosis who didn’t mean to murder somone and get locked up and never recover becuase they killed somone they actually loved please prevent that for his sake as well as yours | 0 | 3,473 | 1.3 |
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