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bd2mxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My brother has severe Autism, ID and tonic-clonic seizures and is in a Alabama County Jail where they refuse to give him medication. My parents were his care giver but they passed away in a car accident a year ago and I had to take over. I am 24 and he is 21. I am working on getting him into a home for people more suited to care for him but it is slow going. Last time he was institutionalized he went downhill fast and nearly died from refusing to eat. He hates being out of his element and he doesn’t understand needing to adjust. I have papers from his doctors. He has severe autism with ID and can’t be left alone. He will repeat things and mimic what people say. He also has epilepsy and has long lasting tonic-clinic seizures. They are some what controlled by medication but he often needs an emergency medication because they sometimes run longer than 5 to 10 min. It is diastat that is given rectally. Yesterday, he wandered off and took some things from a store. When officers came he put up a fight. He is tall and massive because he loves to work out but he hates to be touched. He has a medical alert that says call me because he has autism and seizures that he wears but no one looked at it. They took him in. He has a tracker but I didn’t notice and get there quick enough. I tried to bring papers to the jail but they said they have to have their medical professionals assess him. They have yet to do that. He has had three seizures so far. He needs his medicine. He is refusing to eat because he has an issue with consistency. He doesn’t seem to know what is going on and he has admitted to things he couldn’t possibly ever have done. He keeps fighting people who try to touch him. I talked to the store and offered to pay them for the items but they said this wasn’t there doing. It was the police because he resisted and swung at the officers. He is obviously ID. I am not sure how they could talk to him and not know. He can’t write his name. He can’t spell it. He rocks back and forth all the time and speaks to himself. One of the country jail staff seems sympathetic because they help me with getting information and call me when he has a seizure but there is only so much they can do. They just call a tech every time he has a seizure who checks his blood pressure and breathing after and apparently doesn’t see any issue with any of this. He gets asked if he is okay and he says “okay” but he just repeats what people say. It is pretty much what he does other than when he demands things like I a particular food. I am scared another inmate will notice and take advantage of him. I feel awful that I wasn’t looking and he wandered off. This is my fault. What do I do? Obviously he shouldn’t steal things but he doesn’t actually know you shouldn’t. They can’t take a confession from him right? Since he just says what people want him to say? Would a lawyer be able to get him medication? If someone asks him if he is guilty he will say whatever they want him to say. He does that. He repeats and loves to people please. He isn’t even his own guardian. I am. I have no idea what I am doing. | ekwf86x | ekvx22v | 1,555,280,376 | 1,555,266,252 | 54 | 20 | I'm a former social worker for ALDHR. You need to find out if there is a court order that states your brother is mentally incompetent of making his own decisions, such as a guardianship or some other court order indicating incompetence. These type of documents are filed through county probate courts. There are some probates that publish this information online. Do you know if your parents had guardianship papers filed on him? If so, he has the right to a public appointed guardian ad litem (GAL) to represent his best interests for these circumstances. A GAL would be able file motions on his behalf for him to receive medical care for his conditions and file motions to get him into a more appropriate facility for treatment and care. I also strongly recommend contacting your county's local DHR office and filing an APS report. | Based on what you are saying he should have been in special education classes and have had an IEP (individualized education plan) document that describes him and shows eligibility for special ed based on testing. It should list his autism and intellectual disability. Find that if you can, it will help you prove he needs special consideration. He likely just aged out of school-based services recently, in most states they go until age 21 or 22. It will also list that he has seizures. If you are having trouble getting medical records on short notice, the IEP may help. | 1 | 14,124 | 2.7 |
bd2mxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My brother has severe Autism, ID and tonic-clonic seizures and is in a Alabama County Jail where they refuse to give him medication. My parents were his care giver but they passed away in a car accident a year ago and I had to take over. I am 24 and he is 21. I am working on getting him into a home for people more suited to care for him but it is slow going. Last time he was institutionalized he went downhill fast and nearly died from refusing to eat. He hates being out of his element and he doesn’t understand needing to adjust. I have papers from his doctors. He has severe autism with ID and can’t be left alone. He will repeat things and mimic what people say. He also has epilepsy and has long lasting tonic-clinic seizures. They are some what controlled by medication but he often needs an emergency medication because they sometimes run longer than 5 to 10 min. It is diastat that is given rectally. Yesterday, he wandered off and took some things from a store. When officers came he put up a fight. He is tall and massive because he loves to work out but he hates to be touched. He has a medical alert that says call me because he has autism and seizures that he wears but no one looked at it. They took him in. He has a tracker but I didn’t notice and get there quick enough. I tried to bring papers to the jail but they said they have to have their medical professionals assess him. They have yet to do that. He has had three seizures so far. He needs his medicine. He is refusing to eat because he has an issue with consistency. He doesn’t seem to know what is going on and he has admitted to things he couldn’t possibly ever have done. He keeps fighting people who try to touch him. I talked to the store and offered to pay them for the items but they said this wasn’t there doing. It was the police because he resisted and swung at the officers. He is obviously ID. I am not sure how they could talk to him and not know. He can’t write his name. He can’t spell it. He rocks back and forth all the time and speaks to himself. One of the country jail staff seems sympathetic because they help me with getting information and call me when he has a seizure but there is only so much they can do. They just call a tech every time he has a seizure who checks his blood pressure and breathing after and apparently doesn’t see any issue with any of this. He gets asked if he is okay and he says “okay” but he just repeats what people say. It is pretty much what he does other than when he demands things like I a particular food. I am scared another inmate will notice and take advantage of him. I feel awful that I wasn’t looking and he wandered off. This is my fault. What do I do? Obviously he shouldn’t steal things but he doesn’t actually know you shouldn’t. They can’t take a confession from him right? Since he just says what people want him to say? Would a lawyer be able to get him medication? If someone asks him if he is guilty he will say whatever they want him to say. He does that. He repeats and loves to people please. He isn’t even his own guardian. I am. I have no idea what I am doing. | ekvx22v | ekw837d | 1,555,266,252 | 1,555,274,743 | 20 | 33 | Based on what you are saying he should have been in special education classes and have had an IEP (individualized education plan) document that describes him and shows eligibility for special ed based on testing. It should list his autism and intellectual disability. Find that if you can, it will help you prove he needs special consideration. He likely just aged out of school-based services recently, in most states they go until age 21 or 22. It will also list that he has seizures. If you are having trouble getting medical records on short notice, the IEP may help. | Not a lawyer. Have you contacted the DA’s office? I would gather up all the documentation you have about his disability and give it to them. It doesn’t sound like your brother has a lawyer yet, but if he does they may be able to negotiate with the ADA and get him out of jail. It’s going to depend on who the ADA is in charge of the case, but they probably have no idea of your brother’s disability and might agree to a non-jail sentence once they know. If your brother qualifies for a public defender go to his arraignment and talk to them on his behalf. | 0 | 8,491 | 1.65 |
bd2mxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My brother has severe Autism, ID and tonic-clonic seizures and is in a Alabama County Jail where they refuse to give him medication. My parents were his care giver but they passed away in a car accident a year ago and I had to take over. I am 24 and he is 21. I am working on getting him into a home for people more suited to care for him but it is slow going. Last time he was institutionalized he went downhill fast and nearly died from refusing to eat. He hates being out of his element and he doesn’t understand needing to adjust. I have papers from his doctors. He has severe autism with ID and can’t be left alone. He will repeat things and mimic what people say. He also has epilepsy and has long lasting tonic-clinic seizures. They are some what controlled by medication but he often needs an emergency medication because they sometimes run longer than 5 to 10 min. It is diastat that is given rectally. Yesterday, he wandered off and took some things from a store. When officers came he put up a fight. He is tall and massive because he loves to work out but he hates to be touched. He has a medical alert that says call me because he has autism and seizures that he wears but no one looked at it. They took him in. He has a tracker but I didn’t notice and get there quick enough. I tried to bring papers to the jail but they said they have to have their medical professionals assess him. They have yet to do that. He has had three seizures so far. He needs his medicine. He is refusing to eat because he has an issue with consistency. He doesn’t seem to know what is going on and he has admitted to things he couldn’t possibly ever have done. He keeps fighting people who try to touch him. I talked to the store and offered to pay them for the items but they said this wasn’t there doing. It was the police because he resisted and swung at the officers. He is obviously ID. I am not sure how they could talk to him and not know. He can’t write his name. He can’t spell it. He rocks back and forth all the time and speaks to himself. One of the country jail staff seems sympathetic because they help me with getting information and call me when he has a seizure but there is only so much they can do. They just call a tech every time he has a seizure who checks his blood pressure and breathing after and apparently doesn’t see any issue with any of this. He gets asked if he is okay and he says “okay” but he just repeats what people say. It is pretty much what he does other than when he demands things like I a particular food. I am scared another inmate will notice and take advantage of him. I feel awful that I wasn’t looking and he wandered off. This is my fault. What do I do? Obviously he shouldn’t steal things but he doesn’t actually know you shouldn’t. They can’t take a confession from him right? Since he just says what people want him to say? Would a lawyer be able to get him medication? If someone asks him if he is guilty he will say whatever they want him to say. He does that. He repeats and loves to people please. He isn’t even his own guardian. I am. I have no idea what I am doing. | ekxt3y4 | ekxd0ce | 1,555,335,133 | 1,555,312,768 | 14 | 11 | Not a lawyer, but I have epilepsy and I'm active with the Epilepsy Foundation. Please call the Epilepsy Foundation of Alabama for additional support. They are open until 4 pm today. | What does ID mean? | 1 | 22,365 | 1.272727 |
bd2mxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My brother has severe Autism, ID and tonic-clonic seizures and is in a Alabama County Jail where they refuse to give him medication. My parents were his care giver but they passed away in a car accident a year ago and I had to take over. I am 24 and he is 21. I am working on getting him into a home for people more suited to care for him but it is slow going. Last time he was institutionalized he went downhill fast and nearly died from refusing to eat. He hates being out of his element and he doesn’t understand needing to adjust. I have papers from his doctors. He has severe autism with ID and can’t be left alone. He will repeat things and mimic what people say. He also has epilepsy and has long lasting tonic-clinic seizures. They are some what controlled by medication but he often needs an emergency medication because they sometimes run longer than 5 to 10 min. It is diastat that is given rectally. Yesterday, he wandered off and took some things from a store. When officers came he put up a fight. He is tall and massive because he loves to work out but he hates to be touched. He has a medical alert that says call me because he has autism and seizures that he wears but no one looked at it. They took him in. He has a tracker but I didn’t notice and get there quick enough. I tried to bring papers to the jail but they said they have to have their medical professionals assess him. They have yet to do that. He has had three seizures so far. He needs his medicine. He is refusing to eat because he has an issue with consistency. He doesn’t seem to know what is going on and he has admitted to things he couldn’t possibly ever have done. He keeps fighting people who try to touch him. I talked to the store and offered to pay them for the items but they said this wasn’t there doing. It was the police because he resisted and swung at the officers. He is obviously ID. I am not sure how they could talk to him and not know. He can’t write his name. He can’t spell it. He rocks back and forth all the time and speaks to himself. One of the country jail staff seems sympathetic because they help me with getting information and call me when he has a seizure but there is only so much they can do. They just call a tech every time he has a seizure who checks his blood pressure and breathing after and apparently doesn’t see any issue with any of this. He gets asked if he is okay and he says “okay” but he just repeats what people say. It is pretty much what he does other than when he demands things like I a particular food. I am scared another inmate will notice and take advantage of him. I feel awful that I wasn’t looking and he wandered off. This is my fault. What do I do? Obviously he shouldn’t steal things but he doesn’t actually know you shouldn’t. They can’t take a confession from him right? Since he just says what people want him to say? Would a lawyer be able to get him medication? If someone asks him if he is guilty he will say whatever they want him to say. He does that. He repeats and loves to people please. He isn’t even his own guardian. I am. I have no idea what I am doing. | ekxd0ce | ekxtlxy | 1,555,312,768 | 1,555,335,541 | 11 | 14 | What does ID mean? | Came here to say you should contact the Alabama Disabilities Advocacy Program. This is Alabama’s Protection and Advocacy System. This could be an “imminent harm” situation and you should make that very clear. They are a separate entity that can be contacted in addition to state agencies. | 0 | 22,773 | 1.272727 |
z68xje | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Used the trade in option to get a new phone, gave phone to sprint in working conditions, and now they’re saying the phone was broken and that I’m responsible for the full amount of the new phone. This is my step moms situation, I’m asking here to guide her. She did everything in store, the store took the old phone and verified everything was good, then they helped her do the data transfer to the new phone. Now she got an email saying the phone was broken and that she needs to pay the full amount of the phone. Before she was only going to pay 300 over 30 months with no interest, now it’s almost 1000. She went to the store to complain and they said their hands were tied, but they checked it in and said she was good to go. She wouldn’t have gotten the new phone otherwise. I feel bad for her because she doesn’t have the money and doesn’t speak much English, so I’m going with her today and I’m not sure what her rights are in this situation. | iy0089r | iy18n8d | 1,669,574,745 | 1,669,592,855 | 23 | 32 | It really depends on what she agreed to in the situation. You'll need to read the agreement. There's no inherent rights, it's a contracts case. She has the rights that are outlined in the agreement. | I'd ask them how they did the data transfer if the phone was broken; also the value of the old phone was most likely not near $700 and they offer trade ins as they make money off of having you as a customer for another few years. If they want to press the issue, she should offer to return the phone and switch providers, the manager will probably do what they can to resolve the issue to keep a customer. | 0 | 18,110 | 1.391304 |
z68xje | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Used the trade in option to get a new phone, gave phone to sprint in working conditions, and now they’re saying the phone was broken and that I’m responsible for the full amount of the new phone. This is my step moms situation, I’m asking here to guide her. She did everything in store, the store took the old phone and verified everything was good, then they helped her do the data transfer to the new phone. Now she got an email saying the phone was broken and that she needs to pay the full amount of the phone. Before she was only going to pay 300 over 30 months with no interest, now it’s almost 1000. She went to the store to complain and they said their hands were tied, but they checked it in and said she was good to go. She wouldn’t have gotten the new phone otherwise. I feel bad for her because she doesn’t have the money and doesn’t speak much English, so I’m going with her today and I’m not sure what her rights are in this situation. | iy27oeh | iy1znvx | 1,669,609,757 | 1,669,605,620 | 14 | 9 | They tried this shit on me. They said first they never got it. Then that it was cracked. I told them bullshit because I paid 200 bucks to get a small Crack fixed before I sent it. They eventually applied the credit. Took 4 months though. Each month they issued a Manuel credit and I eventually got the full value of the trade in. | If you owe the full amount then tell them they owe you the trade in phone back then. They kept your (well, step mom) phone and didn’t apply any credit for it? | 1 | 4,137 | 1.555556 |
7a0r51 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [USA, CA] My employer paid for 2 years of college without any contract or terms, I left the company and received a bill in the mail for tuition. Hey all, As the title states I received a bill from my ex employer for 2 years of college tuition. The back story: I started working for this family owned company 3 years ago. After 6 months I decided I wanted to go back to school and get a degree in the field I was working. I put in my 2 weeks notice and let them know why I was leaving. Upon discussing it with the owner he offered to pay my tuition and keep me on hourly. I was nervous about taking it because I didn't want to contractually bind myself with a company and taking classes for this major while working would be very challenging. They alleviated my concerns by not having a contract and offering to hire someone to help me if I got overwhelmed. I took the offer and began taking classes and working. The next 2 years was arduous at best. I was in class or studying some 50 hours a week and working about 20-30 hours a week. After the first 2 semesters I knew I would need help at work for the final stretch. I asked multiple times for an intern or second person to alleviate me stress. At this point I was being pushed to complete my 40 hours a week worth of work in my limited work schedule. When I couldn't I would get berated and pushed harder. I was told I would get help but it never happened. This is my last semester, fall 2017, of school. My degree/discipline also requires an apprenticeship of sorts in order to further my career. I brought this up after my first year to give them time to accommodate. Upon bringing it up again this semester I was given a blanket statement of 'don't worry about it.' About a month ago I had a firm reach out to me about interviewing for a potential position. I took the interview for 2 reasons; one was to have a third party valuate me and the other was for interview practice as it may be needed in the future. The interview went well and they gave me an outstanding offer. I really had no intention of taking it but I liked the idea of having it as leverage to ask for a raise after working by myself for 2 years and maintaining the workload. The next Monday morning I went to my boss to follow up again on the apprenticeship and ask for a raise. I mentioned the job offer and he flipped. In so many words he told me to go screw myself. Later that day I was in class and I friend of mine sent me a link from Indeed showing a 2 hour old job posting from my company for my exact job at the salary I had just asked. The next day at work I get an email from my boss asking for an update on a particular job and asking me to wrap up all of my jobs by Friday. I immediately go talk with him and ask if he's firing me. He smirks and says 'no, but do you want me to?' At this point I hadn't turned the offer down yet. I just replied with a vague I'll let you know. Over the next week he avoided me and never asked if I had decided to leave. I weighed the benefits of the job offer and the circumstances of the situation and decided to take the job. Upon notifying my boss he told it was my fault, that I would have to pay back everything, and then cut me loose on the spot. Today a received a certified letter which contained a bill for $17k. I have no idea how to respond or what to say. Can I please get some advice on how best to approach this? Thanks reddit! Tldr: boss paid for school, no contract or terms, I left for another job, he sent a bill. | dp68v32 | dp69d59 | 1,509,503,181 | 1,509,503,807 | 158 | 320 | Typically employers that offer tuition reimbursement to employees have a written policy or require the employee to sign an agreement requiring them to work at the company for X amount of time upon completion of the program. If they leave before then, they must pay the employer back for the tuition paid. If your former boss had no written agreement, there's no written company policy, and there was never any discussion regarding your obligations to the company in exchange for the tuition reimbursement, it will be nearly impossible for him to argue you owe him the $17,000. | If you never agreed to payback the tuition then you don't have to pay it back. Your boss can't unilaterally conjure an obligation from nothing. | 0 | 626 | 2.025316 |
7a0r51 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [USA, CA] My employer paid for 2 years of college without any contract or terms, I left the company and received a bill in the mail for tuition. Hey all, As the title states I received a bill from my ex employer for 2 years of college tuition. The back story: I started working for this family owned company 3 years ago. After 6 months I decided I wanted to go back to school and get a degree in the field I was working. I put in my 2 weeks notice and let them know why I was leaving. Upon discussing it with the owner he offered to pay my tuition and keep me on hourly. I was nervous about taking it because I didn't want to contractually bind myself with a company and taking classes for this major while working would be very challenging. They alleviated my concerns by not having a contract and offering to hire someone to help me if I got overwhelmed. I took the offer and began taking classes and working. The next 2 years was arduous at best. I was in class or studying some 50 hours a week and working about 20-30 hours a week. After the first 2 semesters I knew I would need help at work for the final stretch. I asked multiple times for an intern or second person to alleviate me stress. At this point I was being pushed to complete my 40 hours a week worth of work in my limited work schedule. When I couldn't I would get berated and pushed harder. I was told I would get help but it never happened. This is my last semester, fall 2017, of school. My degree/discipline also requires an apprenticeship of sorts in order to further my career. I brought this up after my first year to give them time to accommodate. Upon bringing it up again this semester I was given a blanket statement of 'don't worry about it.' About a month ago I had a firm reach out to me about interviewing for a potential position. I took the interview for 2 reasons; one was to have a third party valuate me and the other was for interview practice as it may be needed in the future. The interview went well and they gave me an outstanding offer. I really had no intention of taking it but I liked the idea of having it as leverage to ask for a raise after working by myself for 2 years and maintaining the workload. The next Monday morning I went to my boss to follow up again on the apprenticeship and ask for a raise. I mentioned the job offer and he flipped. In so many words he told me to go screw myself. Later that day I was in class and I friend of mine sent me a link from Indeed showing a 2 hour old job posting from my company for my exact job at the salary I had just asked. The next day at work I get an email from my boss asking for an update on a particular job and asking me to wrap up all of my jobs by Friday. I immediately go talk with him and ask if he's firing me. He smirks and says 'no, but do you want me to?' At this point I hadn't turned the offer down yet. I just replied with a vague I'll let you know. Over the next week he avoided me and never asked if I had decided to leave. I weighed the benefits of the job offer and the circumstances of the situation and decided to take the job. Upon notifying my boss he told it was my fault, that I would have to pay back everything, and then cut me loose on the spot. Today a received a certified letter which contained a bill for $17k. I have no idea how to respond or what to say. Can I please get some advice on how best to approach this? Thanks reddit! Tldr: boss paid for school, no contract or terms, I left for another job, he sent a bill. | dp6gnrl | dp6poru | 1,509,516,088 | 1,509,539,952 | 12 | 21 | NOT A LAWYER. It sounds like it’s your employer’s job to get a lawyer to come after you for the money. You should be able to ignore the request and it will be his responsibility to get someone to sue you. You aren’t going to be arrested for this and they won’t just take your money. If he goes through legal channels to get even a portion of this back, you’ll get a notice of what’s happening, and then you can decide your next steps. You’ll be contacted by a lawyer or something from his side, and then you should find your own lawyer. At best, you’ll ignore it and he’ll just say fuck it (very unlikely). At worst, you’ll get the IRS knocking on your door (also unlikely because you’ll be notified before then). You’ll then contact an employment lawyer who will look over your contract and handbook to see if you did agree to pay for this, and to explain to you how tax law works in your state. When you get contacted again about this, make sure you request that any communication between you and whoever is asking for the money is done either by snail mail or electronically. You don’t want to accidentally agree to something over the phone. | "Dear former employer: I decline to pay your invoice and return the same to you. I am not indebted to you in any amount. I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors." | 0 | 23,864 | 1.75 |
7a0r51 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [USA, CA] My employer paid for 2 years of college without any contract or terms, I left the company and received a bill in the mail for tuition. Hey all, As the title states I received a bill from my ex employer for 2 years of college tuition. The back story: I started working for this family owned company 3 years ago. After 6 months I decided I wanted to go back to school and get a degree in the field I was working. I put in my 2 weeks notice and let them know why I was leaving. Upon discussing it with the owner he offered to pay my tuition and keep me on hourly. I was nervous about taking it because I didn't want to contractually bind myself with a company and taking classes for this major while working would be very challenging. They alleviated my concerns by not having a contract and offering to hire someone to help me if I got overwhelmed. I took the offer and began taking classes and working. The next 2 years was arduous at best. I was in class or studying some 50 hours a week and working about 20-30 hours a week. After the first 2 semesters I knew I would need help at work for the final stretch. I asked multiple times for an intern or second person to alleviate me stress. At this point I was being pushed to complete my 40 hours a week worth of work in my limited work schedule. When I couldn't I would get berated and pushed harder. I was told I would get help but it never happened. This is my last semester, fall 2017, of school. My degree/discipline also requires an apprenticeship of sorts in order to further my career. I brought this up after my first year to give them time to accommodate. Upon bringing it up again this semester I was given a blanket statement of 'don't worry about it.' About a month ago I had a firm reach out to me about interviewing for a potential position. I took the interview for 2 reasons; one was to have a third party valuate me and the other was for interview practice as it may be needed in the future. The interview went well and they gave me an outstanding offer. I really had no intention of taking it but I liked the idea of having it as leverage to ask for a raise after working by myself for 2 years and maintaining the workload. The next Monday morning I went to my boss to follow up again on the apprenticeship and ask for a raise. I mentioned the job offer and he flipped. In so many words he told me to go screw myself. Later that day I was in class and I friend of mine sent me a link from Indeed showing a 2 hour old job posting from my company for my exact job at the salary I had just asked. The next day at work I get an email from my boss asking for an update on a particular job and asking me to wrap up all of my jobs by Friday. I immediately go talk with him and ask if he's firing me. He smirks and says 'no, but do you want me to?' At this point I hadn't turned the offer down yet. I just replied with a vague I'll let you know. Over the next week he avoided me and never asked if I had decided to leave. I weighed the benefits of the job offer and the circumstances of the situation and decided to take the job. Upon notifying my boss he told it was my fault, that I would have to pay back everything, and then cut me loose on the spot. Today a received a certified letter which contained a bill for $17k. I have no idea how to respond or what to say. Can I please get some advice on how best to approach this? Thanks reddit! Tldr: boss paid for school, no contract or terms, I left for another job, he sent a bill. | dp6hp6m | dp6poru | 1,509,518,859 | 1,509,539,952 | 11 | 21 | Be sure to save any work related policies and communications if you have them. At the very least document the approximate dates and conversations. | "Dear former employer: I decline to pay your invoice and return the same to you. I am not indebted to you in any amount. I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors." | 0 | 21,093 | 1.909091 |
7a0r51 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | [USA, CA] My employer paid for 2 years of college without any contract or terms, I left the company and received a bill in the mail for tuition. Hey all, As the title states I received a bill from my ex employer for 2 years of college tuition. The back story: I started working for this family owned company 3 years ago. After 6 months I decided I wanted to go back to school and get a degree in the field I was working. I put in my 2 weeks notice and let them know why I was leaving. Upon discussing it with the owner he offered to pay my tuition and keep me on hourly. I was nervous about taking it because I didn't want to contractually bind myself with a company and taking classes for this major while working would be very challenging. They alleviated my concerns by not having a contract and offering to hire someone to help me if I got overwhelmed. I took the offer and began taking classes and working. The next 2 years was arduous at best. I was in class or studying some 50 hours a week and working about 20-30 hours a week. After the first 2 semesters I knew I would need help at work for the final stretch. I asked multiple times for an intern or second person to alleviate me stress. At this point I was being pushed to complete my 40 hours a week worth of work in my limited work schedule. When I couldn't I would get berated and pushed harder. I was told I would get help but it never happened. This is my last semester, fall 2017, of school. My degree/discipline also requires an apprenticeship of sorts in order to further my career. I brought this up after my first year to give them time to accommodate. Upon bringing it up again this semester I was given a blanket statement of 'don't worry about it.' About a month ago I had a firm reach out to me about interviewing for a potential position. I took the interview for 2 reasons; one was to have a third party valuate me and the other was for interview practice as it may be needed in the future. The interview went well and they gave me an outstanding offer. I really had no intention of taking it but I liked the idea of having it as leverage to ask for a raise after working by myself for 2 years and maintaining the workload. The next Monday morning I went to my boss to follow up again on the apprenticeship and ask for a raise. I mentioned the job offer and he flipped. In so many words he told me to go screw myself. Later that day I was in class and I friend of mine sent me a link from Indeed showing a 2 hour old job posting from my company for my exact job at the salary I had just asked. The next day at work I get an email from my boss asking for an update on a particular job and asking me to wrap up all of my jobs by Friday. I immediately go talk with him and ask if he's firing me. He smirks and says 'no, but do you want me to?' At this point I hadn't turned the offer down yet. I just replied with a vague I'll let you know. Over the next week he avoided me and never asked if I had decided to leave. I weighed the benefits of the job offer and the circumstances of the situation and decided to take the job. Upon notifying my boss he told it was my fault, that I would have to pay back everything, and then cut me loose on the spot. Today a received a certified letter which contained a bill for $17k. I have no idea how to respond or what to say. Can I please get some advice on how best to approach this? Thanks reddit! Tldr: boss paid for school, no contract or terms, I left for another job, he sent a bill. | dp6la96 | dp6poru | 1,509,530,031 | 1,509,539,952 | 10 | 21 | File the bill in the nearest trash can. | "Dear former employer: I decline to pay your invoice and return the same to you. I am not indebted to you in any amount. I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors." | 0 | 9,921 | 2.1 |
phrbm0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Hot water heater broke down. Landlord claiming I have to go without. First off, I'm in MA just outside of Boston. I don't ahve a lease. I'm rent at will. I am roommates with my landlord. I rent a room in his house. Hot water heater(oil) stopped working yesterday. Talked to landlord today. He says he reached out to the oil company he bought the heater from because there's a warranty on it. They say they can't come out right away for that because they're booked out with "cleanings" ??? and because it's not an emergency. I ask "can't you just call another company to come service it? He says the oil company claims another company touching it will void the warranty. This all comes after a week where landlord raised my rent by 12.5% and accused me of making the electric bill double somehow last month. I had to prove him wrong by buying oulet power meters and presenting him with my results. This whole thing feels like BS to me, but I'm trying to keep my cool. Landlord is old crotchety man who doesn't even shower, he just gets in his jacuzzi every morning. He offered me warm buckets of water from his jacuzzi until it gets fixed. What do i do? | hbkxf3b | hbkefv8 | 1,630,771,105 | 1,630,762,155 | 228 | 48 | Show your landlord this page. https://www.doubledaylaw.com/massachusetts-tenant-law-and-hot-water/ In particular show him the paragraph where it says you can sue for your damages (costs to make the repairs yourself and/or staying at a hotel until fixed) up to three times your monthly rent, plus your attorney fees. You can hire an attorney who will get paid by the landlord. He thinks he won't pay? Well we know what property he owns, it can be liened. He won't win and he won't escape that debt. Also file a complaint with the local health department. Hot water is a sanitary requirement for hand washing, and no, they won't accept a jacuzzi tub of water as a substitute. Call the boiler company yourself and find out if they are really as booked out as they say, because your landlord may be just full of shit. If you don't get anywhere with any of that, keep all your documentation such as texts or emails. Move out and sue him for your expenses to move, because not providing hot water is considered constructive (illegal) eviction in MA. | Call the company that the heater was purchased from yourself. He may actually be correct on the warranty thing, if it's true you'll likely have to take a few cold showers. If not confront him. | 1 | 8,950 | 4.75 |
phrbm0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Hot water heater broke down. Landlord claiming I have to go without. First off, I'm in MA just outside of Boston. I don't ahve a lease. I'm rent at will. I am roommates with my landlord. I rent a room in his house. Hot water heater(oil) stopped working yesterday. Talked to landlord today. He says he reached out to the oil company he bought the heater from because there's a warranty on it. They say they can't come out right away for that because they're booked out with "cleanings" ??? and because it's not an emergency. I ask "can't you just call another company to come service it? He says the oil company claims another company touching it will void the warranty. This all comes after a week where landlord raised my rent by 12.5% and accused me of making the electric bill double somehow last month. I had to prove him wrong by buying oulet power meters and presenting him with my results. This whole thing feels like BS to me, but I'm trying to keep my cool. Landlord is old crotchety man who doesn't even shower, he just gets in his jacuzzi every morning. He offered me warm buckets of water from his jacuzzi until it gets fixed. What do i do? | hbm2scz | hbls72g | 1,630,789,652 | 1,630,784,856 | 18 | 3 | MA atty, not yours, not advice. Hot water is a condition of habitability. All rentals, lease or not, have an implied covenant of habitability. I would disagree that your landlord is acting reasonably by waiting for his oil company. He needs to restore hot water as immediately as possible, and he isn't doing so. See c. 185 sec. 14 Notify him in writing of the issue and demand an immediate remedy. Keep a copy. Notify your town board of health, or inspectional services. | I would go over your lease contract and see if it states anything about mandatory or priority maintenance and repair. If the issue is seriously effecting your health than I would consult your lawyer for legal advice. | 1 | 4,796 | 6 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfa25z | dtfajr5 | 1,517,252,062 | 1,517,252,505 | 222 | 950 | My advice would be to follow the food chain (no pun intended). First, find some labels from other SUNY campuses. Then make an appointment to see VP, Food Service or Dean of student Life, etc. Show them the examples from other campuses and explain your situation. | > The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. Horse. Shit. Go to your dean of students and explain this problem to them. There's no goddamn reason a school in 2018 can't do this and you're absolutely correct on the liability issues. Especially if you're having reactions after being told by staff something doesn't contain an allergen. | 0 | 443 | 4.279279 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfaj4p | dtfajr5 | 1,517,252,489 | 1,517,252,505 | 10 | 950 | Are you required to live on campus? | > The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. Horse. Shit. Go to your dean of students and explain this problem to them. There's no goddamn reason a school in 2018 can't do this and you're absolutely correct on the liability issues. Especially if you're having reactions after being told by staff something doesn't contain an allergen. | 0 | 16 | 95 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfa25z | dtfakix | 1,517,252,062 | 1,517,252,524 | 222 | 386 | My advice would be to follow the food chain (no pun intended). First, find some labels from other SUNY campuses. Then make an appointment to see VP, Food Service or Dean of student Life, etc. Show them the examples from other campuses and explain your situation. | You should also check with your students with disabilities office. They might be able to put pressure on the dining halls to provide ingredient lists. Consider approaching university religious groups as well. A Muslim or Jewish student org may have a larger voice to complain about dietary restrictions than just one lone voice. While you are waiting, I would suggest asking one of the dining hall employees for assistance when you go in. I am not saying to settle for doing this, but it is a way for getting food while you are fighting. Lastly, know that the squeeky wheel gets the grease. The more (professionally and politely) annoying you are, the more likely you are to get this fixed. Good luck! | 0 | 462 | 1.738739 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfakix | dtfaj4p | 1,517,252,524 | 1,517,252,489 | 386 | 10 | You should also check with your students with disabilities office. They might be able to put pressure on the dining halls to provide ingredient lists. Consider approaching university religious groups as well. A Muslim or Jewish student org may have a larger voice to complain about dietary restrictions than just one lone voice. While you are waiting, I would suggest asking one of the dining hall employees for assistance when you go in. I am not saying to settle for doing this, but it is a way for getting food while you are fighting. Lastly, know that the squeeky wheel gets the grease. The more (professionally and politely) annoying you are, the more likely you are to get this fixed. Good luck! | Are you required to live on campus? | 1 | 35 | 38.6 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfaj4p | dtfev2v | 1,517,252,489 | 1,517,256,557 | 10 | 104 | Are you required to live on campus? | Also, depending on state and local laws, they may be violating the food code. It may be worth a call to your local health department to submit a complaint. | 0 | 4,068 | 10.4 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfr9me | dtg28c1 | 1,517,268,592 | 1,517,280,393 | 64 | 71 | Higher ed administrator here. First step, does your school have an ombudsman? I would start there. Second step, contact your Dean of Students. If that doesn't work, I recommend your student government association and/or campus newspaper. A good "look at what utter dipshits the administration are" is prime student newspaper material. They can make enough noise. If that still doesn't work, I would get a doctor's note and go to your Student Disabilities Office. | First food allergies are covered under Titles II and III of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA); Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and their implementing regulations. This is Federal law. Here is an overview that you can use. * https://www.foodallergy.org/sites/default/files/migrated-files/file/ada-webinar-slides.pdf First make an appointment with the president of your state university - tomorrow. You will only need a 5 minute appointment. Be very nice and polite. State that you have a fatal food allergy and the school's food venues are not labeling their foods. Hand the president a printed copy of the above link. Thank the president for their time. Your problem will be solved within an hour. My son, also has a fatal allergy to nuts - peanuts in particular. My wife has tenure at two different university systems. This approach will produce instantaneous results. No university president wants to be out of compliance with Federal law, and tangle with the US DoJ over this issue. If this somehow does not create any results - contact the DISABILITY RIGHTS SECTION, CIVIL RIGHTS DIVISION, U.S. DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE. What you are requesting is not out of the ordinary and is common sense. Whom ever is managing the food venues at the school is out of compliance with their state contracts. Also - if they are not labeling their food, cross contamination will also be an issue. | 0 | 11,801 | 1.109375 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfuv70 | dtg28c1 | 1,517,272,289 | 1,517,280,393 | 23 | 71 | Wow that is insane. Don't have the resources??? At my university they posted the menus online weekly for each cafeteria and on the menu you could click to see the ingredients and potential allergy risks. Since they rotate the same menus anyways, it takes no effort at all to implement this. It took only someone's time to update each week. They have zero excuse. | First food allergies are covered under Titles II and III of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA); Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and their implementing regulations. This is Federal law. Here is an overview that you can use. * https://www.foodallergy.org/sites/default/files/migrated-files/file/ada-webinar-slides.pdf First make an appointment with the president of your state university - tomorrow. You will only need a 5 minute appointment. Be very nice and polite. State that you have a fatal food allergy and the school's food venues are not labeling their foods. Hand the president a printed copy of the above link. Thank the president for their time. Your problem will be solved within an hour. My son, also has a fatal allergy to nuts - peanuts in particular. My wife has tenure at two different university systems. This approach will produce instantaneous results. No university president wants to be out of compliance with Federal law, and tangle with the US DoJ over this issue. If this somehow does not create any results - contact the DISABILITY RIGHTS SECTION, CIVIL RIGHTS DIVISION, U.S. DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE. What you are requesting is not out of the ordinary and is common sense. Whom ever is managing the food venues at the school is out of compliance with their state contracts. Also - if they are not labeling their food, cross contamination will also be an issue. | 0 | 8,104 | 3.086957 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtg28c1 | dtfaj4p | 1,517,280,393 | 1,517,252,489 | 71 | 10 | First food allergies are covered under Titles II and III of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA); Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and their implementing regulations. This is Federal law. Here is an overview that you can use. * https://www.foodallergy.org/sites/default/files/migrated-files/file/ada-webinar-slides.pdf First make an appointment with the president of your state university - tomorrow. You will only need a 5 minute appointment. Be very nice and polite. State that you have a fatal food allergy and the school's food venues are not labeling their foods. Hand the president a printed copy of the above link. Thank the president for their time. Your problem will be solved within an hour. My son, also has a fatal allergy to nuts - peanuts in particular. My wife has tenure at two different university systems. This approach will produce instantaneous results. No university president wants to be out of compliance with Federal law, and tangle with the US DoJ over this issue. If this somehow does not create any results - contact the DISABILITY RIGHTS SECTION, CIVIL RIGHTS DIVISION, U.S. DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE. What you are requesting is not out of the ordinary and is common sense. Whom ever is managing the food venues at the school is out of compliance with their state contracts. Also - if they are not labeling their food, cross contamination will also be an issue. | Are you required to live on campus? | 1 | 27,904 | 7.1 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtg28c1 | dtfzxq4 | 1,517,280,393 | 1,517,277,843 | 71 | 7 | First food allergies are covered under Titles II and III of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA); Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and their implementing regulations. This is Federal law. Here is an overview that you can use. * https://www.foodallergy.org/sites/default/files/migrated-files/file/ada-webinar-slides.pdf First make an appointment with the president of your state university - tomorrow. You will only need a 5 minute appointment. Be very nice and polite. State that you have a fatal food allergy and the school's food venues are not labeling their foods. Hand the president a printed copy of the above link. Thank the president for their time. Your problem will be solved within an hour. My son, also has a fatal allergy to nuts - peanuts in particular. My wife has tenure at two different university systems. This approach will produce instantaneous results. No university president wants to be out of compliance with Federal law, and tangle with the US DoJ over this issue. If this somehow does not create any results - contact the DISABILITY RIGHTS SECTION, CIVIL RIGHTS DIVISION, U.S. DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE. What you are requesting is not out of the ordinary and is common sense. Whom ever is managing the food venues at the school is out of compliance with their state contracts. Also - if they are not labeling their food, cross contamination will also be an issue. | Such a ridiculous refusal to make even the most basic accomodations appears to be, at least in the Department of Justice's opinions, clearly against ADA (see *Lesley University* settlement). However, you need to go through your schools ADA procedures a provide documentation of your disability to the appropriate office. Civil suits are also on the table since you were told by an employee that the food did not contain a certain ingredient--if it is a private contractor, you should be able to sidestep soverign immunity which will make things a lot simpler. In the meantime, stop eating there completely. These reactions are often life-threatening. | 1 | 2,550 | 10.142857 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfr9me | dtfaj4p | 1,517,268,592 | 1,517,252,489 | 64 | 10 | Higher ed administrator here. First step, does your school have an ombudsman? I would start there. Second step, contact your Dean of Students. If that doesn't work, I recommend your student government association and/or campus newspaper. A good "look at what utter dipshits the administration are" is prime student newspaper material. They can make enough noise. If that still doesn't work, I would get a doctor's note and go to your Student Disabilities Office. | Are you required to live on campus? | 1 | 16,103 | 6.4 |
7tuij1 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | [New York] My state university’s dining hall refuses to label food and I have allergies. Can I take legal action? I have been living on campus at my state university for 2 years and I am therefore required to purchase the $4000 dining plan. I have a condition called esophageal hypersensitivity. If I consume a number of “trigger foods” my esophagus swells and becomes very painful and I cannot swallow. The number one trigger food for me is peppers: bell peppers, jalapeños, hot sauce etc. I have had meetings with our on campus dietician as well as the managers of the dining halls in the past where I expressed my concern that nothing is labeled in the dining halls, menus aren’t made available for students, and most importantly the ingredient lists are not available online either. This is very concerning because I believe this is the only state university in NY that doesn’t provide ingredient lists online for students to easily see. The managers that I have spoken with claimed that they “do not have the resources” to be labeling food in the dining hall. I have had numerous (at least 2 a week) reactions after eating food that wasn’t labeled or after being told by an employee that it didn’t contain said allergen. I feel like this is a huge liability and I am concerned about other students dining here with anaphylactic allergies. My main question here is, would it be worth it to seek out a lawyer and take some sort of legal action that would force the institution to label foods and provide ingredient lists for students? Are they breaking any laws by doing this? Any help would be great, thanks in advance! | dtfaj4p | dtfuv70 | 1,517,252,489 | 1,517,272,289 | 10 | 23 | Are you required to live on campus? | Wow that is insane. Don't have the resources??? At my university they posted the menus online weekly for each cafeteria and on the menu you could click to see the ingredients and potential allergy risks. Since they rotate the same menus anyways, it takes no effort at all to implement this. It took only someone's time to update each week. They have zero excuse. | 0 | 19,800 | 2.3 |
fpptsv | legaladvice_train | 0.6 | My mother in law fed my 1 year old son candy and redbull, husband taking her side and now wants to fight for custody My MIL recently babysat my son (1) for a few hours. I have always told her to just feed him what I pack him in his lunch box. I found out while he was there she and others had given him coke, chocolate and ice cream. I have told the family I do not want him eating or drinking junk . He also got given a frozen coke and he drank it. I don't agree with this because he is only 1 and someone also let him taste some red bull. My husband is fighting with me about this because he said it isn't a big deal and I said it is and I specifically told them i don't want him eating crap. I told my husband he won't be going there anymore. My MIL is upset and Is mad at me and told me to grow up. ALSO JUST GOT INFORMED HE PICKED UP AN OLD BURNT OUT CIGARETTE AND STARTED TO CHEW BUT SHE GOT IT OFF HIM "JUST IN TIME" My husband has been abusing me telling me to grow up but I now am considering leaving him. I've told him this and said there's no way I would get custody because I was in the mental ward for 12 DAYS when I was 18 for an EATING DISORDER. He has been sending abusive texts if anyone would like to know about (just ask me to put them in the comments) Can they get in trouble for neglect and would I have a better chance for sole custody? Thanks | flmcfct | flmefd9 | 1,585,279,894 | 1,585,281,385 | 19 | 52 | Keep all the texts and document, document, document. Talk to a family law lawyer (many are available for a variety of prices, or if your income is limited, some work pro bono) about your options. | Based on some of the abusive messages I've read in from the other threads you've posted in, I would keep all the messages, find a lawyer and if possible gather things you and your baby would need to leave for awhile, and see if you can't find someone or somewhere safe to be for awhile. Have a friend and police officer accompany you while you do this for safety. I wouldn't suggest mentioning it to your husband if he is nowhere near you. | 0 | 1,491 | 2.736842 |
fpptsv | legaladvice_train | 0.6 | My mother in law fed my 1 year old son candy and redbull, husband taking her side and now wants to fight for custody My MIL recently babysat my son (1) for a few hours. I have always told her to just feed him what I pack him in his lunch box. I found out while he was there she and others had given him coke, chocolate and ice cream. I have told the family I do not want him eating or drinking junk . He also got given a frozen coke and he drank it. I don't agree with this because he is only 1 and someone also let him taste some red bull. My husband is fighting with me about this because he said it isn't a big deal and I said it is and I specifically told them i don't want him eating crap. I told my husband he won't be going there anymore. My MIL is upset and Is mad at me and told me to grow up. ALSO JUST GOT INFORMED HE PICKED UP AN OLD BURNT OUT CIGARETTE AND STARTED TO CHEW BUT SHE GOT IT OFF HIM "JUST IN TIME" My husband has been abusing me telling me to grow up but I now am considering leaving him. I've told him this and said there's no way I would get custody because I was in the mental ward for 12 DAYS when I was 18 for an EATING DISORDER. He has been sending abusive texts if anyone would like to know about (just ask me to put them in the comments) Can they get in trouble for neglect and would I have a better chance for sole custody? Thanks | flmjbec | flmcfct | 1,585,285,338 | 1,585,279,894 | 33 | 19 | Ok keep all texts, open a new email account with gmail and send any text to that email, also pictures, video, legal documents for you and your baby and all financial documents, 401k (super), bank accounts, phone accounts, cars and mortgage if you have one. If he is abusive I’d also open an account with no statements send via mail and only contact with the bank via email with your parents address of phone number to open it. Put any spare money you have into that for a place to live or a lawyer Do not listen to him about not getting custody that’s just mental abuse he is trying to control you . Edit to fix typos and to add Don’t not go into any loans or credit cards with him and if you are already cancel the cards if you leave do more debt can not racked up | Keep all the texts and document, document, document. Talk to a family law lawyer (many are available for a variety of prices, or if your income is limited, some work pro bono) about your options. | 1 | 5,444 | 1.736842 |
w6ie7e | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Everything I own is in a storage facility in my son's name. He's ignoring my attempts to get a key from him so I can retrieve my belongings Hello everyone, never thought I would be in this situation, but here I am. 8 years ago I was in a rock climbing accident, and had to move from California back here to Missouri to live with family while I recovered. Long story short, I never recovered enough to travel back to California. My son lived in my apartment in California for 8 months until the lease expired. I paid everything, because at the time he was doing me a favor, and I was expecting to return before the lease expired. Came time for the please to expire, and it was clear that I wouldn't be able to travel back, so I asked him to put my things in storage for me until I was physically able to come back. Since I wasn't there, he had to sign for the storage unit. Everything is in his name, however, I have been making the payments from my checking account since day one. Just this past year I had to finally face facts. I might not ever be physically able to live away from family again. So, I made arrangements for my brother-in-law to fly to California, to be there at the storage unit while my things were loaded for transport by the moving company. Everything's already paid for. I had been talking to my son quite regularly, so I had no idea it would come to this. 3 weeks ago I started texting him and calling him, letting him know that we were making plans for my brother-in-law to travel to california, to be there while my things were loaded by the moving company. I asked him if he could send me the key to the storage unit so that my brother-in-law could gain access. My son has completely ghosted me for the last 3 weeks. Ever since I started asking for the key. I have no idea what's going on. But, I just found out that he sold a van of mine that I left at his house in california. I found this out through a friend of his. My son never told me he sold the van. Now I'm wondering what else he sold. Honestly though, I don't care about the van. I just want my things out of storage. It's everything I own. An entire lifetime's worth of belongings He's currently active duty in the Army. My question is, is there anything I can do? The storage facility already told me that if I don't have the key, my son is the only one that can give permission for them to remove the lock. In order for that to happen, he will have to go into the nearest public storage office, and fill out a form. He will also have to provide identification. Since I can't get him to respond, to send me the key, I doubt I'll be able to get him to do anything else. I'm sorry this is so long, I just don't even know what to think. Not even sure what my options here are. | ihfn6hp | ihfvsuw | 1,658,659,915 | 1,658,665,815 | 11 | 67 | Have you confirmed that he's ok and not not answering your texts because something happened to him or he lost his phone? Perhaps he did sell some of your belongings or perhaps he lost the key and is nervous about telling you either. I'd probably leave him a message to the effect that you understand he may have sold some of your stuff or lost the key and you just want to talk about it. Since the storage locker is in his name, I'm not sure how much could be done legally. Perhaps you could take him to court over it but not sure you'd want to go that route yet. | Given that he is on active duty, you might want to first verify that he has even received your messages. He could be in a situation where communication is limited. Don't freak out until you know what's going on. As for the unit itself, it's probably difficult to get access without the help of your son. The company can't just take your word for it, or they could be in legal trouble. Without going to the courts, I'm not sure what can be done. | 0 | 5,900 | 6.090909 |
w6ie7e | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Everything I own is in a storage facility in my son's name. He's ignoring my attempts to get a key from him so I can retrieve my belongings Hello everyone, never thought I would be in this situation, but here I am. 8 years ago I was in a rock climbing accident, and had to move from California back here to Missouri to live with family while I recovered. Long story short, I never recovered enough to travel back to California. My son lived in my apartment in California for 8 months until the lease expired. I paid everything, because at the time he was doing me a favor, and I was expecting to return before the lease expired. Came time for the please to expire, and it was clear that I wouldn't be able to travel back, so I asked him to put my things in storage for me until I was physically able to come back. Since I wasn't there, he had to sign for the storage unit. Everything is in his name, however, I have been making the payments from my checking account since day one. Just this past year I had to finally face facts. I might not ever be physically able to live away from family again. So, I made arrangements for my brother-in-law to fly to California, to be there at the storage unit while my things were loaded for transport by the moving company. Everything's already paid for. I had been talking to my son quite regularly, so I had no idea it would come to this. 3 weeks ago I started texting him and calling him, letting him know that we were making plans for my brother-in-law to travel to california, to be there while my things were loaded by the moving company. I asked him if he could send me the key to the storage unit so that my brother-in-law could gain access. My son has completely ghosted me for the last 3 weeks. Ever since I started asking for the key. I have no idea what's going on. But, I just found out that he sold a van of mine that I left at his house in california. I found this out through a friend of his. My son never told me he sold the van. Now I'm wondering what else he sold. Honestly though, I don't care about the van. I just want my things out of storage. It's everything I own. An entire lifetime's worth of belongings He's currently active duty in the Army. My question is, is there anything I can do? The storage facility already told me that if I don't have the key, my son is the only one that can give permission for them to remove the lock. In order for that to happen, he will have to go into the nearest public storage office, and fill out a form. He will also have to provide identification. Since I can't get him to respond, to send me the key, I doubt I'll be able to get him to do anything else. I'm sorry this is so long, I just don't even know what to think. Not even sure what my options here are. | ihfn6hp | ihg1isw | 1,658,659,915 | 1,658,669,024 | 11 | 19 | Have you confirmed that he's ok and not not answering your texts because something happened to him or he lost his phone? Perhaps he did sell some of your belongings or perhaps he lost the key and is nervous about telling you either. I'd probably leave him a message to the effect that you understand he may have sold some of your stuff or lost the key and you just want to talk about it. Since the storage locker is in his name, I'm not sure how much could be done legally. Perhaps you could take him to court over it but not sure you'd want to go that route yet. | How sure are you that there is anything in the storage unit? | 0 | 9,109 | 1.727273 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozij14 | cozil2p | 1,425,085,164 | 1,425,085,286 | 95 | 105 | > can legally enforce this? Like ticket him or prosecute him? No. | > only allows seniors to drive to school and **park on campus**. Then... > My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can **drive to her house**. Is her house on the campus? If not, they can go pound sand. If it's legal for him to drive, and he has permission to park where the car is parked, they are full of shit. Remember kids, we're paying people a lot of money to do busybody nonsense. Imagine if that money was rather spent on education and not busybodies. The possibilities. This reeks of an administrator trying to force you to use the bus so you have to pay for it. | 0 | 122 | 1.105263 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozhst0 | cozil2p | 1,425,083,638 | 1,425,085,286 | 56 | 105 | I'm guessing the school's issue with the parking off campus and walking is that they assume that students are parking on private property and disrupting the surrounding neighborhoods. Did he explain that this is his aunt's home and he has permission to park there? | > only allows seniors to drive to school and **park on campus**. Then... > My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can **drive to her house**. Is her house on the campus? If not, they can go pound sand. If it's legal for him to drive, and he has permission to park where the car is parked, they are full of shit. Remember kids, we're paying people a lot of money to do busybody nonsense. Imagine if that money was rather spent on education and not busybodies. The possibilities. This reeks of an administrator trying to force you to use the bus so you have to pay for it. | 0 | 1,648 | 1.875 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozil2p | cozi8is | 1,425,085,286 | 1,425,084,553 | 105 | 26 | > only allows seniors to drive to school and **park on campus**. Then... > My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can **drive to her house**. Is her house on the campus? If not, they can go pound sand. If it's legal for him to drive, and he has permission to park where the car is parked, they are full of shit. Remember kids, we're paying people a lot of money to do busybody nonsense. Imagine if that money was rather spent on education and not busybodies. The possibilities. This reeks of an administrator trying to force you to use the bus so you have to pay for it. | > the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car Why are you having to pay for the bus? | 1 | 733 | 4.038462 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozij14 | cozhst0 | 1,425,085,164 | 1,425,083,638 | 95 | 56 | > can legally enforce this? Like ticket him or prosecute him? No. | I'm guessing the school's issue with the parking off campus and walking is that they assume that students are parking on private property and disrupting the surrounding neighborhoods. Did he explain that this is his aunt's home and he has permission to park there? | 1 | 1,526 | 1.696429 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozi8is | cozij14 | 1,425,084,553 | 1,425,085,164 | 26 | 95 | > the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car Why are you having to pay for the bus? | > can legally enforce this? Like ticket him or prosecute him? No. | 0 | 611 | 3.653846 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | coznn92 | cozn3ol | 1,425,096,326 | 1,425,095,072 | 22 | 8 | >I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? No, unless they have some rule in their handbook, they most likely cannot do anything. They can't prosecute or ticket him if thats what you are thinking but they may do some school disciplinary action **if it is stated in the student handbook that he cannot park some off campus and walk to school**. I feel like they are doing this more so for money then safety; if the school allows him to park off campus and walk to school they are afraid other students will follow suit and parking revenue will drop. | Yes, schools can impose school-based discipline on students for violating school rules, even if the rules occur off-campus and not during the school day if the regulated behavior has some effect on the school. And, the rule doesn't need to be so narrowly tailored that it only reaches those behaviors that actually have an effect on the school. So, the school can regulate student behavior on Facebook, because there can be a lot of bullying on Facebook, and the bullying can easily affect the school day. And, those regulations can reach behaviors that don't actually affect the school day. Parking is similar. Schools can say "You cannot drive to the neighborhood surrounding the school between an hour before school starts and when school lets out." It's an easy rule for them to enforce, and they are not required to make it harder to administer by drawing all sorts of exceptions ("unless your aunt lives there and gives you written notarized permission.") (Note: from your description, it's not at all clear that this is an actual rule; sounds a bit like an administrator on a power trip.) | 1 | 1,254 | 2.75 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozn3ol | cozqopc | 1,425,095,072 | 1,425,104,281 | 8 | 10 | Yes, schools can impose school-based discipline on students for violating school rules, even if the rules occur off-campus and not during the school day if the regulated behavior has some effect on the school. And, the rule doesn't need to be so narrowly tailored that it only reaches those behaviors that actually have an effect on the school. So, the school can regulate student behavior on Facebook, because there can be a lot of bullying on Facebook, and the bullying can easily affect the school day. And, those regulations can reach behaviors that don't actually affect the school day. Parking is similar. Schools can say "You cannot drive to the neighborhood surrounding the school between an hour before school starts and when school lets out." It's an easy rule for them to enforce, and they are not required to make it harder to administer by drawing all sorts of exceptions ("unless your aunt lives there and gives you written notarized permission.") (Note: from your description, it's not at all clear that this is an actual rule; sounds a bit like an administrator on a power trip.) | Several posts have indicated that OP's son's school is a public school but I have not seen OP actually confirm this detail. If it's a public school this is super fucked and very frustrating. OP, is the school public or private? | 0 | 9,209 | 1.25 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozoed3 | cozqopc | 1,425,098,130 | 1,425,104,281 | 8 | 10 | Up front note: this isn't the same issue as OP, as it's a private school ad the neighbors were unhappy about students parking in their neighborhood. But just for reference, here's a somewhat similar situation of only seniors being allowed to park on campus, and underclassmen legally (supposedly) parking in the surrounding neighborhood of a private school and getting ticketed by the school for it after residents complained. | Several posts have indicated that OP's son's school is a public school but I have not seen OP actually confirm this detail. If it's a public school this is super fucked and very frustrating. OP, is the school public or private? | 0 | 6,151 | 1.25 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozn3ol | cozw530 | 1,425,095,072 | 1,425,130,060 | 8 | 9 | Yes, schools can impose school-based discipline on students for violating school rules, even if the rules occur off-campus and not during the school day if the regulated behavior has some effect on the school. And, the rule doesn't need to be so narrowly tailored that it only reaches those behaviors that actually have an effect on the school. So, the school can regulate student behavior on Facebook, because there can be a lot of bullying on Facebook, and the bullying can easily affect the school day. And, those regulations can reach behaviors that don't actually affect the school day. Parking is similar. Schools can say "You cannot drive to the neighborhood surrounding the school between an hour before school starts and when school lets out." It's an easy rule for them to enforce, and they are not required to make it harder to administer by drawing all sorts of exceptions ("unless your aunt lives there and gives you written notarized permission.") (Note: from your description, it's not at all clear that this is an actual rule; sounds a bit like an administrator on a power trip.) | Does your sister have a pet that your son needs to feed every morning? Or children that she needs him to babysit before or after school? If there is a legitimate reason for him to be there in the morning, I don't see how the school could possibly prevent him from doing that...after he is done with his job there, he just walks to school. Maybe your sister needs to use your son's car during the day? After your son brings her the car to use...he just walks to school. Finally, as a last suggestion, you can register the car to your sister and/or her address. This way, after he returns the car to her, (all together now)... He just walks to school. | 0 | 34,988 | 1.125 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozoed3 | cozw530 | 1,425,098,130 | 1,425,130,060 | 8 | 9 | Up front note: this isn't the same issue as OP, as it's a private school ad the neighbors were unhappy about students parking in their neighborhood. But just for reference, here's a somewhat similar situation of only seniors being allowed to park on campus, and underclassmen legally (supposedly) parking in the surrounding neighborhood of a private school and getting ticketed by the school for it after residents complained. | Does your sister have a pet that your son needs to feed every morning? Or children that she needs him to babysit before or after school? If there is a legitimate reason for him to be there in the morning, I don't see how the school could possibly prevent him from doing that...after he is done with his job there, he just walks to school. Maybe your sister needs to use your son's car during the day? After your son brings her the car to use...he just walks to school. Finally, as a last suggestion, you can register the car to your sister and/or her address. This way, after he returns the car to her, (all together now)... He just walks to school. | 0 | 31,930 | 1.125 |
2xewa7 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Can my son's school prevent him from driving closer to school and parking off campus? (IA) My son's school only allows seniors to drive to school and park on campus. My son is a sophomore. He got his license earlier this year, and purchased a car with summer job earnings. My sister lives two blocks from the school and she said he can drive to her house, park in her driveway and then walk to school. He has been doing this for 4 months with no issues, but today a school administrator apparently saw him parking and getting out, and had him called into the office. They told him he is no longer allowed to do this. They said he can walk from home, ride the bus from home or have a parent drop him off, but he can't try to get around the rule by parking two blocks away from campus. This is tough for us as it's too far for him to walk, the bus is more expensive than the cost of him using his car, and we cannot drive him ourselves. I am wondering if they can legally enforce this? Thanks. | cozsg2d | cozw530 | 1,425,110,639 | 1,425,130,060 | 7 | 9 | You are getting a lot of "tell them to pound sand." etc. I think everyone is correct about the rights. But, I think you'll have more success if you try a different approach first (unless you already have.) Can you arrange a meeting in person and explain. 1) He is parking only at his aunt's house with permission 2) If he isn't allowed to do this, his attendance might suffer because we can't drive him and the bus is so much more expensive. 3) You understand that the issue might be that other students will see him as getting a break or will think the rules won't apply. You and son will agree that he'll keep it quite and won't brag or make a big deal about it. If anyone asks, he'll say that he parks at his aunts and not on the street and walks, and therefore the school classifies him as a walker. | Does your sister have a pet that your son needs to feed every morning? Or children that she needs him to babysit before or after school? If there is a legitimate reason for him to be there in the morning, I don't see how the school could possibly prevent him from doing that...after he is done with his job there, he just walks to school. Maybe your sister needs to use your son's car during the day? After your son brings her the car to use...he just walks to school. Finally, as a last suggestion, you can register the car to your sister and/or her address. This way, after he returns the car to her, (all together now)... He just walks to school. | 0 | 19,421 | 1.285714 |
3g1bl1 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm a parent of a 11 year old son. My son returns from school at 4 PM. I reach home around 5 PM. He's alone at home during this gap. Usually watching TV strictly inside home. Is it reasonable to allow him 1 hour unsupervised or shall I must hire a babysitter ? Would it remotely be child negligent? P.S. I am from Arizona, US. | cttw11y | cttw3vz | 1,438,887,202 | 1,438,887,308 | 15 | 65 | I don't think it's an issue. This is assuming there are no inherent dangers (chemicals, loaded firearms, incendiaries, wild animals, etc.) immediately available. But that won't stop a concerned citizen from calling CPS if they feel it's negligent, or a CPS agent from investigating. | Az doesn't appear to have an age. So it depends on your child's developmental age. Is he able to do the following: * dial 911 when Appropriate * go to a neighbor for help * call you for help Does he know the following: * don't play with oven, fire, microwave, knives * doesn't answer the door for strangers/anyone * no unsafe guns or easily accessible alcohol * he has no medical it mental health diagnosis So if you think he can be safe home alone, go for it. Have a safety talk with him frequently. | 0 | 106 | 4.333333 |
3g1bl1 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm a parent of a 11 year old son. My son returns from school at 4 PM. I reach home around 5 PM. He's alone at home during this gap. Usually watching TV strictly inside home. Is it reasonable to allow him 1 hour unsupervised or shall I must hire a babysitter ? Would it remotely be child negligent? P.S. I am from Arizona, US. | cttvwua | cttw3vz | 1,438,887,044 | 1,438,887,308 | 8 | 65 | In AZ, there's no specific age that a child must be to be left unsupervised. It appears to be something handled on a case by case basis; if your child is responsible it shouldn't be an issue. I'd recommend they have a cell phone, and know what to do in the case of some basic emergency situations. | Az doesn't appear to have an age. So it depends on your child's developmental age. Is he able to do the following: * dial 911 when Appropriate * go to a neighbor for help * call you for help Does he know the following: * don't play with oven, fire, microwave, knives * doesn't answer the door for strangers/anyone * no unsafe guns or easily accessible alcohol * he has no medical it mental health diagnosis So if you think he can be safe home alone, go for it. Have a safety talk with him frequently. | 0 | 264 | 8.125 |
3g1bl1 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | I'm a parent of a 11 year old son. My son returns from school at 4 PM. I reach home around 5 PM. He's alone at home during this gap. Usually watching TV strictly inside home. Is it reasonable to allow him 1 hour unsupervised or shall I must hire a babysitter ? Would it remotely be child negligent? P.S. I am from Arizona, US. | cttw11y | cttvwua | 1,438,887,202 | 1,438,887,044 | 15 | 8 | I don't think it's an issue. This is assuming there are no inherent dangers (chemicals, loaded firearms, incendiaries, wild animals, etc.) immediately available. But that won't stop a concerned citizen from calling CPS if they feel it's negligent, or a CPS agent from investigating. | In AZ, there's no specific age that a child must be to be left unsupervised. It appears to be something handled on a case by case basis; if your child is responsible it shouldn't be an issue. I'd recommend they have a cell phone, and know what to do in the case of some basic emergency situations. | 1 | 158 | 1.875 |
d1dvao | legaladvice_train | 0.83 | 2nd grade son broke arm at school, school did not follow protocol My second-grade son broke both bones in his left forearm falling from the top of a school slide during recess. No one saw it happen, no one helped him, he had to self report the accident to a teacher four separate times saying he couldn't feel his hand. The teacher sent him to the nurse without an escort. Once he reached the nurse's office she noticed he showed signs of being in shock; hyperventilating, sweating, pale, and woozy. She did not notice the break in his arm but wrote down in the accident report that my son had hurt his wrist. She did not call an ambulance even though he showed signs of shock. I was called to "evaluate" his injury and I could clearly see the arm was broken. I took him in for treatment. I had to request the accident report from the school a week after the accident happened and what they reported was false. I have asked them to amend the document to properly reflect the events that took place. The school has a bad track record with my son, he has dyslexia and they feel that he is a problem to deal with. My question is would this be worth seeking out counsel? Have they crossed the line into negligence? | eznuhw2 | ezmvkk3 | 1,568,011,739 | 1,567,997,509 | 7 | 2 | Not a lawyer. I work with (and, in emergencies, give care to) kids your son's age. I'm deeply surprised that your son wasn't given better/faster care. A broken bone is a considered a life-threatening emergency because it can result in shock. Other commenters have said you are using the word "shock" wrong, which is...weird? Shock *does* have a specific medical meaning, but your son was exhibiting symptoms of that specific condition: he was pale, sweating/clammy, hyperventilating, dizzy https://www.mayoclinic.org/first-aid/first-aid-shock/basics/art-20056620 I would expect anyone with even basic first aid training to recognize a broken bone, call emergency medical services, and immobilise/elevate/ice the injury. I'm baffled that it didn't happen. I would contact a lawyer, if only to have someone really good at navigating bureaucracy help you ensure a dangerous lapse like this doesn't happen again—to your child or somebody else's. | First, shock is different. I know TV makes it seem like shock is an emotional term but it is not in the medical field. He was in pain. Pain can do all that. Also, what harm came to your son? Do you have actual damages? Was the slide in poor repair or was he climbing on it in a dangerous manner? | 1 | 14,230 | 3.5 |
ro2bt7 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | [Ohio] Son was the victim of a road rage incident. He was cited for failure to control and got two points on his license but our insurance said the other driver was 100% at fault. Is this worth pursuing to get the points removed? About six weeks ago my 21 YO son (driver) and two friends were the victims of a road rage incident. They were on the interstate in the far left lane when another vehicle began making attempts to move into my sons lane while beside him forcing him onto the shoulder at 70 mph. This happened three times total when my son finally lost control and hit the concrete divider spinning out. Unsurprisingly pieces of his car went flying and hit the other car causing a minor scrape. My son and friends were all fine thankfully. Officers at the scene cited my son for failure to control which was a 165 dollar fine and 2 points. Of course the other driver made a claim on our insurance. Now six weeks later based on the police report, my sons and his friends statements, and their own investigation out insurance agency has denied the claim finding my son not at fault. I know he has no chance of getting the money he paid for the ticket back but I don’t know how long points staton your license in Ohio. Is it worth it to pursue getting them dismissed given the circumstances? | hpx62g3 | hpwyxvm | 1,640,444,376 | 1,640,439,747 | 419 | 321 | Regardless of circumstances or fault, why did your son pay the ticket? By doing so, you agree that you're guilty of the infraction. It literally says this on the citation. That was a bad decision and it's likely that the points cannot or will not be removed. When you sign the back of a ticket in order to pay it, you're asking the court to enter a guilty plea on your behalf and accept payment for the fine associated with the infraction so that you don't have to attend in person. Things he could have done instead of paying the ticket: * hired a lawyer to represent him so that lawyer could negotiate for no points or argue for dismissing the citation entirely given the mitigating circumstances * called the court before his court date to ask about a diversion program * attended court himself, explained the situation, asked for lenience Since it hasn't been that long since it happened, he might try calling the court and asking if there's any way to get the points removed. They usually don't allow you to do the diversion program after your case has been decided but it's worth trying. Advise your son never to pay a ticket again unless he actually understands that he's pleading guilty to the infraction(s) and is willing to accept that fact. (edit: By never pay a ticket again, I do *not* mean ignore the ticket. Just don't plead guilty to it without understanding that you're actually pleading guilty.) Practical advice: enroll your son in a defensive driving class or strongly encourage him to enroll in one. I don't agree with the cops on the scene (edit: assuming his story is factual and not omitting anything), but there *are* a lot of things your son could have done to de-escalate the situation that he didn't do. That's likely why he received the ticket for failure to control. He needs to understand that having the right of way or being right means nothing if you're injured/killed in an avoidable car accident. | Something is fishy with your son's story. If someone is aggressively driving at 70 mph and trying to get into his lane 2 times unsuccessfully a normal person would slow down and let the person in. Sounds like your son and his friends may have been escalating the situation which now he understandably is scared to tell you about. | 1 | 4,629 | 1.305296 |
ro2bt7 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | [Ohio] Son was the victim of a road rage incident. He was cited for failure to control and got two points on his license but our insurance said the other driver was 100% at fault. Is this worth pursuing to get the points removed? About six weeks ago my 21 YO son (driver) and two friends were the victims of a road rage incident. They were on the interstate in the far left lane when another vehicle began making attempts to move into my sons lane while beside him forcing him onto the shoulder at 70 mph. This happened three times total when my son finally lost control and hit the concrete divider spinning out. Unsurprisingly pieces of his car went flying and hit the other car causing a minor scrape. My son and friends were all fine thankfully. Officers at the scene cited my son for failure to control which was a 165 dollar fine and 2 points. Of course the other driver made a claim on our insurance. Now six weeks later based on the police report, my sons and his friends statements, and their own investigation out insurance agency has denied the claim finding my son not at fault. I know he has no chance of getting the money he paid for the ticket back but I don’t know how long points staton your license in Ohio. Is it worth it to pursue getting them dismissed given the circumstances? | hpx6cjn | hpx71kb | 1,640,444,547 | 1,640,444,956 | 17 | 28 | I am from Ohio and have some personal experience with tickets. Once you pay a ticket it is considered an admission of guilt and you can't contest it. He had the option to appear in court to plead his case. Regardless of the outcome he most likely would gave had the option to take a class to prevent points going on his license. At this point I'm not sure what you can do since he has already paid the ticket and in doing so admitted guilt. Points stay on your license for two years and then are automatically removed. I'm not sure how the points will effect your insurance since they said you are not at fault. | It is likely that your son can remove the points by taking a defensive driver course. You should look into the requirements for your state. To be honest, it might really help him as he should have immediately applied his brakes and changed lanes to avoid the aggressive driver. There might be more to the story like him intentionally not letting the driver pass because he was being a jerk. | 0 | 409 | 1.647059 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do2ryhk | do30qrh | 1,507,473,319 | 1,507,484,656 | 729 | 965 | That waiver doesn't mean much. The gym's insurance may still pay, which would likely be a better case to pursue instead of you. You don't have to pay anything until a judge order's you to pay something. Ignore it until something happens. When something happens, get an attorney. | Might be a good idea to contact the gym and ask them about any security camera footage that may exist. If it shows them not watching their kid you'll have a much better case if they actually sue you. | 0 | 11,337 | 1.323731 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do2vauz | do30qrh | 1,507,478,039 | 1,507,484,656 | 541 | 965 | The parents are most likely the most negligent party here. The gym *may* have some liability. I have a hard time seeing how you were negligent. Falling happens. You couldn't have prevented the accident. Ignore until/unless sued. | Might be a good idea to contact the gym and ask them about any security camera footage that may exist. If it shows them not watching their kid you'll have a much better case if they actually sue you. | 0 | 6,617 | 1.783734 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do30qrh | do2zqd4 | 1,507,484,656 | 1,507,483,551 | 965 | 184 | Might be a good idea to contact the gym and ask them about any security camera footage that may exist. If it shows them not watching their kid you'll have a much better case if they actually sue you. | So let me get this straight. Seriously, stop me when I got something wrong. Cause I must have something wrong. There is no way in hell this is correct... You are at this gym with a climbing wall. The wall top is 30 foot or so. You don't wear a harness (can't recall ever seeing a climbing wall without a harness... whatever, I don't climb, WTF do I know?), they have a pit of squishy something-or-other that can apparently keep someone from falling 30 feet from hurting themselves. So far so good? A toddler was in the pit beside the fucking wall. What sort of irresponsible, degenerate, inattentive, asshole parent allows there kid out of there reach in a place like this MUCH LESS PLAY UNDER SOMEONE CLIMBING 30 FEET FUCKING UP???? Call CPS on the asshole. They have it coming. | 1 | 1,105 | 5.244565 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do2ssec | do30qrh | 1,507,474,550 | 1,507,484,656 | 107 | 965 | >They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. If they contact you again, then tell them to stop contacting you. They are morons (at best they are mistakenly misdirecting their own guilt for not monitoring the whereabouts and safety of their child onto you). | Might be a good idea to contact the gym and ask them about any security camera footage that may exist. If it shows them not watching their kid you'll have a much better case if they actually sue you. | 0 | 10,106 | 9.018692 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do2ssec | do2vauz | 1,507,474,550 | 1,507,478,039 | 107 | 541 | >They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. If they contact you again, then tell them to stop contacting you. They are morons (at best they are mistakenly misdirecting their own guilt for not monitoring the whereabouts and safety of their child onto you). | The parents are most likely the most negligent party here. The gym *may* have some liability. I have a hard time seeing how you were negligent. Falling happens. You couldn't have prevented the accident. Ignore until/unless sued. | 0 | 3,489 | 5.056075 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do2ssec | do2zqd4 | 1,507,474,550 | 1,507,483,551 | 107 | 184 | >They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. If they contact you again, then tell them to stop contacting you. They are morons (at best they are mistakenly misdirecting their own guilt for not monitoring the whereabouts and safety of their child onto you). | So let me get this straight. Seriously, stop me when I got something wrong. Cause I must have something wrong. There is no way in hell this is correct... You are at this gym with a climbing wall. The wall top is 30 foot or so. You don't wear a harness (can't recall ever seeing a climbing wall without a harness... whatever, I don't climb, WTF do I know?), they have a pit of squishy something-or-other that can apparently keep someone from falling 30 feet from hurting themselves. So far so good? A toddler was in the pit beside the fucking wall. What sort of irresponsible, degenerate, inattentive, asshole parent allows there kid out of there reach in a place like this MUCH LESS PLAY UNDER SOMEONE CLIMBING 30 FEET FUCKING UP???? Call CPS on the asshole. They have it coming. | 0 | 9,001 | 1.719626 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do3734d | do2ssec | 1,507,491,441 | 1,507,474,550 | 155 | 107 | Not a lawyer, but I think the parents will find it extremely difficult and probably impossible to hold you liable here. Liability is the big issue. You were engaged in an activity that is inherently dangerous in a place designated for that activity. The pit and mats are there because falling is a part of the activity. No children were supposed to be in the area. Your falling was an appropriate part of the activity. The child being beneath you was not. The parents may be trying to scare you into paying for their mistake. If gym employees were not responsible for babysitting their child, then THEY were. Maybe the kid got away from them, but that's not your fault either. 1. Contact your homeowners insurance. 2. Consult with attorney if homeowner's insurance will not help you. 3. Don't ignore any papers you get from the parents. 4. If they try to sue you, go after them for legal fees. BTW, waivers and contracts often have provisions that are unenforceable. The only way you'll know for sure is if you have an attorney review the waiver. Good luck! | >They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. If they contact you again, then tell them to stop contacting you. They are morons (at best they are mistakenly misdirecting their own guilt for not monitoring the whereabouts and safety of their child onto you). | 1 | 16,891 | 1.448598 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do36cua | do3734d | 1,507,490,666 | 1,507,491,441 | 49 | 155 | I am just a law student, but I don’t think you will be found liable even if sued. You were not negligent. You were doing what a reasonable person in your situation would have done - you lost your grip and landed on the designated area without seeing the kid (it would be worse if you saw him and still fell on him w/o trying to avoid that happening). The duty of care to keep the kid away from the restricted area was on his parents. If anyone would be found liable, it would be the gym, not you. The parents were clearly negligent, so I wouldn’t worry. Also, gym waivers don’t mean crap in most situations, but that doesn’t really apply to you in this situation. Keep us updated and good luck :) | Not a lawyer, but I think the parents will find it extremely difficult and probably impossible to hold you liable here. Liability is the big issue. You were engaged in an activity that is inherently dangerous in a place designated for that activity. The pit and mats are there because falling is a part of the activity. No children were supposed to be in the area. Your falling was an appropriate part of the activity. The child being beneath you was not. The parents may be trying to scare you into paying for their mistake. If gym employees were not responsible for babysitting their child, then THEY were. Maybe the kid got away from them, but that's not your fault either. 1. Contact your homeowners insurance. 2. Consult with attorney if homeowner's insurance will not help you. 3. Don't ignore any papers you get from the parents. 4. If they try to sue you, go after them for legal fees. BTW, waivers and contracts often have provisions that are unenforceable. The only way you'll know for sure is if you have an attorney review the waiver. Good luck! | 0 | 775 | 3.163265 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do36ngt | do3734d | 1,507,490,982 | 1,507,491,441 | 24 | 155 | I agree with the person who said to get the security tapes, OP. I'd just about bet the farm that the parents put the child in the kiddie room by himself and went off to do their own thing. | Not a lawyer, but I think the parents will find it extremely difficult and probably impossible to hold you liable here. Liability is the big issue. You were engaged in an activity that is inherently dangerous in a place designated for that activity. The pit and mats are there because falling is a part of the activity. No children were supposed to be in the area. Your falling was an appropriate part of the activity. The child being beneath you was not. The parents may be trying to scare you into paying for their mistake. If gym employees were not responsible for babysitting their child, then THEY were. Maybe the kid got away from them, but that's not your fault either. 1. Contact your homeowners insurance. 2. Consult with attorney if homeowner's insurance will not help you. 3. Don't ignore any papers you get from the parents. 4. If they try to sue you, go after them for legal fees. BTW, waivers and contracts often have provisions that are unenforceable. The only way you'll know for sure is if you have an attorney review the waiver. Good luck! | 0 | 459 | 6.458333 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do3734d | do33lfz | 1,507,491,441 | 1,507,487,715 | 155 | 21 | Not a lawyer, but I think the parents will find it extremely difficult and probably impossible to hold you liable here. Liability is the big issue. You were engaged in an activity that is inherently dangerous in a place designated for that activity. The pit and mats are there because falling is a part of the activity. No children were supposed to be in the area. Your falling was an appropriate part of the activity. The child being beneath you was not. The parents may be trying to scare you into paying for their mistake. If gym employees were not responsible for babysitting their child, then THEY were. Maybe the kid got away from them, but that's not your fault either. 1. Contact your homeowners insurance. 2. Consult with attorney if homeowner's insurance will not help you. 3. Don't ignore any papers you get from the parents. 4. If they try to sue you, go after them for legal fees. BTW, waivers and contracts often have provisions that are unenforceable. The only way you'll know for sure is if you have an attorney review the waiver. Good luck! | If you fell and had a minor injury, it would all be on you, right? If you had a greater injury because you landed on the kid (toddler defeated your safety), I'd expect ~~you to have~~ an aggressive personal injury lawer to make a case against the toddler's caretakers. Not a lawyer, but I think they got nothing. Suppose there were signs, "stay the hell away from dangerous climbers above", would a passerby have a case against you? Signs shouldn't be necessary, but that would have to decided in court. The caretaker would have been responsible reading the signs/minding the risks. | 1 | 3,726 | 7.380952 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do36cua | do33lfz | 1,507,490,666 | 1,507,487,715 | 49 | 21 | I am just a law student, but I don’t think you will be found liable even if sued. You were not negligent. You were doing what a reasonable person in your situation would have done - you lost your grip and landed on the designated area without seeing the kid (it would be worse if you saw him and still fell on him w/o trying to avoid that happening). The duty of care to keep the kid away from the restricted area was on his parents. If anyone would be found liable, it would be the gym, not you. The parents were clearly negligent, so I wouldn’t worry. Also, gym waivers don’t mean crap in most situations, but that doesn’t really apply to you in this situation. Keep us updated and good luck :) | If you fell and had a minor injury, it would all be on you, right? If you had a greater injury because you landed on the kid (toddler defeated your safety), I'd expect ~~you to have~~ an aggressive personal injury lawer to make a case against the toddler's caretakers. Not a lawyer, but I think they got nothing. Suppose there were signs, "stay the hell away from dangerous climbers above", would a passerby have a case against you? Signs shouldn't be necessary, but that would have to decided in court. The caretaker would have been responsible reading the signs/minding the risks. | 1 | 2,951 | 2.333333 |
751z6c | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Fell on a kid at the rock gym and broke his arm. Parents want me to pay his medical expenses. Am I liable? [TX] For context: I like to go to a bouldering gym. There are no harnesses, but there are squishy mats to land on if you fall. The highest wall is thirty feet. I fell from this one. It's highly advised to stay back from walls that people are climbing on because anyone could fall at any time. Most people do this. Toddlers are very bad at doing this. Toddlers aren't supposed to be in the main climbing area, but this one was. I lost my grip and fell. I had no idea there was a kid under me, and even if I did, I couldn't really do anything about it other than yell on my way down. When I landed on him, I broke his arm. He was rushed to the hospital and all that. I'm fine, other than some bruises. I felt really bad about it, so I gave the parents my contact details with the intention of "I'll get the kid some balloons." They are now telling me they're going to sue me for his medical expenses. The gym has everyone sign a waiver absolving the gym of responsibility before they're allowed to climb, and I assume the parents must have signed a similar waiver. Does that help me at all? Am I actually liable? There was seriously nothing I could have done differently. Thank you for your help! | do36ngt | do33lfz | 1,507,490,982 | 1,507,487,715 | 24 | 21 | I agree with the person who said to get the security tapes, OP. I'd just about bet the farm that the parents put the child in the kiddie room by himself and went off to do their own thing. | If you fell and had a minor injury, it would all be on you, right? If you had a greater injury because you landed on the kid (toddler defeated your safety), I'd expect ~~you to have~~ an aggressive personal injury lawer to make a case against the toddler's caretakers. Not a lawyer, but I think they got nothing. Suppose there were signs, "stay the hell away from dangerous climbers above", would a passerby have a case against you? Signs shouldn't be necessary, but that would have to decided in court. The caretaker would have been responsible reading the signs/minding the risks. | 1 | 3,267 | 1.142857 |
7npi2n | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My sons father has never been in the picture but continues to claim him on his taxes without my consent. I got pregnant when I was 16 and he was 21. We were married not long after that for a brief time. When I turned 18, I filed for divorce. On our court date, he did not have a lawyer so he filed for an extension. A few months later I received a letter in the mail stating he was granted everything he asked for in the new hearing including 50/50 custody. I never showed up to the second hearing because I had no knowledge of it. I never received a date nor did my lawyer inform me of anything. Fast forward to now, my son is almost eight years old. His father has seen him maybe fifteen days out of those eight years. He does not pay child support but I have not pursued it. He has not financially supported my son one time, ever. He has claimed my son on his taxes every year. We have fought over this issue many times but every time he threatens legal action against me and says he deserves the tax return. I am not confrontational and I know nothing about the legal side of anything. Over the years I have just let him walk all over me. I work two dead-end jobs to make ends me every month. I have no idea where to go from here. Everyone tells me that I need to talk to a lawyer but I don’t know how or where to even start, let alone being able to afford one. Where do I go from here? What do I do about him claiming him? Is there any recourse against him? Is there financial help I can get to pay for a lawyer? Thank you! Also.. I got pregnant, married, and divorced in Missouri. I currently live in Georgia and he currently lives in San Francisco California | ds3j4rc | ds3iiam | 1,514,928,925 | 1,514,928,286 | 34 | 19 | Child support is for you to raise your child. You are entitled to it. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. If you are financially hurting, then his contributions should be made fair and square. Work on that. Your ex has no reason to claim your son on his taxes. Your son lives with you, full stop. Contest it if and when that comes up. | Simple answer: If the child spends the majority of time with you, you can claim the child. File before he does, and his claim will be rejected. He is then free to pursue futile legal action against you if he wishes. | 1 | 639 | 1.789474 |
7npi2n | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My sons father has never been in the picture but continues to claim him on his taxes without my consent. I got pregnant when I was 16 and he was 21. We were married not long after that for a brief time. When I turned 18, I filed for divorce. On our court date, he did not have a lawyer so he filed for an extension. A few months later I received a letter in the mail stating he was granted everything he asked for in the new hearing including 50/50 custody. I never showed up to the second hearing because I had no knowledge of it. I never received a date nor did my lawyer inform me of anything. Fast forward to now, my son is almost eight years old. His father has seen him maybe fifteen days out of those eight years. He does not pay child support but I have not pursued it. He has not financially supported my son one time, ever. He has claimed my son on his taxes every year. We have fought over this issue many times but every time he threatens legal action against me and says he deserves the tax return. I am not confrontational and I know nothing about the legal side of anything. Over the years I have just let him walk all over me. I work two dead-end jobs to make ends me every month. I have no idea where to go from here. Everyone tells me that I need to talk to a lawyer but I don’t know how or where to even start, let alone being able to afford one. Where do I go from here? What do I do about him claiming him? Is there any recourse against him? Is there financial help I can get to pay for a lawyer? Thank you! Also.. I got pregnant, married, and divorced in Missouri. I currently live in Georgia and he currently lives in San Francisco California | ds44d41 | ds3vvqw | 1,514,953,228 | 1,514,943,153 | 5 | 2 | Here's the thing, you not being confrontational is exactly why you need a lawyer. Talk to a lawyer, get one who you like and you feel like is 100% in your corner. Ask your lawyer what he/she thinks you should be entitled too. Tell them you're not a confrontational person, and don't want be ran over by your ex any more. Then go give your kid a hug, have a martini and let the lawyer be confrontational. Your kid deserves at the minimum his/her father's financial support. When you ex calls, let him know until things are resolved he should speak either to his lawyer, or if he doesn't have one, your lawyer. And remind him to have a nice day. | If the divorce decree says he has custody, and he gets to claim your son for taxes, why do you have custody instead of him? Or does it say something different like you both split custody? The legal fix is to modify the support order. A lot of lawyers will take payment plans. The IRS does not care what your divorce decree says and you can claim your son on your taxes as a dependent, because he spends the most time with you. If he also claims your son, one of you will have to refile, and because you are the one actually providing support you will get the credit. You should also pursue the child support when you get the custody agreement updated. | 1 | 10,075 | 2.5 |
7npi2n | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My sons father has never been in the picture but continues to claim him on his taxes without my consent. I got pregnant when I was 16 and he was 21. We were married not long after that for a brief time. When I turned 18, I filed for divorce. On our court date, he did not have a lawyer so he filed for an extension. A few months later I received a letter in the mail stating he was granted everything he asked for in the new hearing including 50/50 custody. I never showed up to the second hearing because I had no knowledge of it. I never received a date nor did my lawyer inform me of anything. Fast forward to now, my son is almost eight years old. His father has seen him maybe fifteen days out of those eight years. He does not pay child support but I have not pursued it. He has not financially supported my son one time, ever. He has claimed my son on his taxes every year. We have fought over this issue many times but every time he threatens legal action against me and says he deserves the tax return. I am not confrontational and I know nothing about the legal side of anything. Over the years I have just let him walk all over me. I work two dead-end jobs to make ends me every month. I have no idea where to go from here. Everyone tells me that I need to talk to a lawyer but I don’t know how or where to even start, let alone being able to afford one. Where do I go from here? What do I do about him claiming him? Is there any recourse against him? Is there financial help I can get to pay for a lawyer? Thank you! Also.. I got pregnant, married, and divorced in Missouri. I currently live in Georgia and he currently lives in San Francisco California | ds3vvqw | ds46h8c | 1,514,943,153 | 1,514,956,143 | 2 | 4 | If the divorce decree says he has custody, and he gets to claim your son for taxes, why do you have custody instead of him? Or does it say something different like you both split custody? The legal fix is to modify the support order. A lot of lawyers will take payment plans. The IRS does not care what your divorce decree says and you can claim your son on your taxes as a dependent, because he spends the most time with you. If he also claims your son, one of you will have to refile, and because you are the one actually providing support you will get the credit. You should also pursue the child support when you get the custody agreement updated. | Please do what you need to do to claim child support. Imagine how much easier your life would be, the additional time you could spend with your kid, what less stress would feel like for both of you and your son. You might be able to cut back some hours on one of your jobs. | 0 | 12,990 | 2 |
7npi2n | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My sons father has never been in the picture but continues to claim him on his taxes without my consent. I got pregnant when I was 16 and he was 21. We were married not long after that for a brief time. When I turned 18, I filed for divorce. On our court date, he did not have a lawyer so he filed for an extension. A few months later I received a letter in the mail stating he was granted everything he asked for in the new hearing including 50/50 custody. I never showed up to the second hearing because I had no knowledge of it. I never received a date nor did my lawyer inform me of anything. Fast forward to now, my son is almost eight years old. His father has seen him maybe fifteen days out of those eight years. He does not pay child support but I have not pursued it. He has not financially supported my son one time, ever. He has claimed my son on his taxes every year. We have fought over this issue many times but every time he threatens legal action against me and says he deserves the tax return. I am not confrontational and I know nothing about the legal side of anything. Over the years I have just let him walk all over me. I work two dead-end jobs to make ends me every month. I have no idea where to go from here. Everyone tells me that I need to talk to a lawyer but I don’t know how or where to even start, let alone being able to afford one. Where do I go from here? What do I do about him claiming him? Is there any recourse against him? Is there financial help I can get to pay for a lawyer? Thank you! Also.. I got pregnant, married, and divorced in Missouri. I currently live in Georgia and he currently lives in San Francisco California | ds3vvqw | ds473o1 | 1,514,943,153 | 1,514,957,068 | 2 | 3 | If the divorce decree says he has custody, and he gets to claim your son for taxes, why do you have custody instead of him? Or does it say something different like you both split custody? The legal fix is to modify the support order. A lot of lawyers will take payment plans. The IRS does not care what your divorce decree says and you can claim your son on your taxes as a dependent, because he spends the most time with you. If he also claims your son, one of you will have to refile, and because you are the one actually providing support you will get the credit. You should also pursue the child support when you get the custody agreement updated. | Unless he has a Form 8332 signed by you, he cannot claim your child, since the child does not reside with him for more than half the year. If you claim your son, the IRS will resolve the matter in your favor. As others have said, file to get your back child support payments. If he fails to pay, you can have his salary garnished to recover the full amount owed, as well as his on going obligation. Bullies understand a punch in the mouth. No more Mrs. Nice Mom. | 0 | 13,915 | 1.5 |
hosxqj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My new employer has a tip jar, but claims since he pays the minimum wage, all tips go back to the business. Is this legal? *Illinois* I just started a job at a restaurant. I'm not a full server per se. I take orders at the counter, but also run food and drink to customers in the dining room and also bus tables, answer phones, and pack up to-go orders. They have a tip jar on the counter that usually gets pretty full every night. My employer says, however, that all tips go back into the business since he pays me my state minimum wage (IL). This seems misleading for the customers at the very least. I know when I leave something in a tip jar, its with the assumption that the money will go to the workers. One man tried to hand me 2 dollars as a tip, but my manager took the money and just put it under the register. I've tried to do a little looking and my confusion is mostly this. Am I considered a tipped worker? From what I understood from the law, businesses are required to pay a minimum of 60% of the minimum wage, but doesn't that imply that they are able to pay more if they want to while still allowing workers to receive tips? From what my employer is saying, it sounds like I'm not a tipped worker because he pays the minimum wage. Is this legal or should I consider making a report to the state? | fxkxen9 | fxlbdkw | 1,594,422,254 | 1,594,430,541 | 24 | 35 | Tips are the property of whom they are given. Minimum wage is irrelevant. Being a "tipped worker" just means they can pay you less than minimum wage \*assuming you make at least enough tips to put you above minimum wage\*. If you don't (even if it is just a show week), your employer has to make up the difference. ​ Basically, being a 'tipped' employee means your employer can say, assume you are getting at least 5$/hour in tips and you have to show you didn't get enough tips to get minimum wage, as opposed to the other way around. Your company is free to deter customers from giving you tips (posting a sign saying "We pay our workers a living wage, no tips needed" or something), but if you get a tip given directly to you it is yours. I believe if a tip is left at a counter it is assumed to be for the server. I know 'tip sharing' happens a lot, although they cannot require people who receive tips to share them. I don't know if anyone has argued a tip jar at a register is intended for all employees (or at least server+cashier) instead of just the cashier. Mandating that people share tips they received directly is not allowed though: Tips are the property of whom they are given. I know when I was in high school working at a theme park the policy was to not encourage tips, to tell people tips were unnecessary, etc. If we were asked "Do I tip" and didn't say it was unnecessary they could (and would) fire you. However, if someone shoved money in your hand as a tip and then left, it would be yours, the company can't claw it back. | This is actually fraud on his part. I’m not being dramatic. Fraud is deception and any reasonable customer would assume that the tips would be going to the employees. I guarantee if the tip jar was labeled “all tips go to owner”, then that jar would be collecting dust. | 0 | 8,287 | 1.458333 |
hosxqj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My new employer has a tip jar, but claims since he pays the minimum wage, all tips go back to the business. Is this legal? *Illinois* I just started a job at a restaurant. I'm not a full server per se. I take orders at the counter, but also run food and drink to customers in the dining room and also bus tables, answer phones, and pack up to-go orders. They have a tip jar on the counter that usually gets pretty full every night. My employer says, however, that all tips go back into the business since he pays me my state minimum wage (IL). This seems misleading for the customers at the very least. I know when I leave something in a tip jar, its with the assumption that the money will go to the workers. One man tried to hand me 2 dollars as a tip, but my manager took the money and just put it under the register. I've tried to do a little looking and my confusion is mostly this. Am I considered a tipped worker? From what I understood from the law, businesses are required to pay a minimum of 60% of the minimum wage, but doesn't that imply that they are able to pay more if they want to while still allowing workers to receive tips? From what my employer is saying, it sounds like I'm not a tipped worker because he pays the minimum wage. Is this legal or should I consider making a report to the state? | fxkii8t | fxlbdkw | 1,594,414,308 | 1,594,430,541 | 2 | 35 | Not legal. But he can lower your wages below minimum wage as long as those tips bring you back to minimum. | This is actually fraud on his part. I’m not being dramatic. Fraud is deception and any reasonable customer would assume that the tips would be going to the employees. I guarantee if the tip jar was labeled “all tips go to owner”, then that jar would be collecting dust. | 0 | 16,233 | 17.5 |
hosxqj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My new employer has a tip jar, but claims since he pays the minimum wage, all tips go back to the business. Is this legal? *Illinois* I just started a job at a restaurant. I'm not a full server per se. I take orders at the counter, but also run food and drink to customers in the dining room and also bus tables, answer phones, and pack up to-go orders. They have a tip jar on the counter that usually gets pretty full every night. My employer says, however, that all tips go back into the business since he pays me my state minimum wage (IL). This seems misleading for the customers at the very least. I know when I leave something in a tip jar, its with the assumption that the money will go to the workers. One man tried to hand me 2 dollars as a tip, but my manager took the money and just put it under the register. I've tried to do a little looking and my confusion is mostly this. Am I considered a tipped worker? From what I understood from the law, businesses are required to pay a minimum of 60% of the minimum wage, but doesn't that imply that they are able to pay more if they want to while still allowing workers to receive tips? From what my employer is saying, it sounds like I'm not a tipped worker because he pays the minimum wage. Is this legal or should I consider making a report to the state? | fxkxen9 | fxkii8t | 1,594,422,254 | 1,594,414,308 | 24 | 2 | Tips are the property of whom they are given. Minimum wage is irrelevant. Being a "tipped worker" just means they can pay you less than minimum wage \*assuming you make at least enough tips to put you above minimum wage\*. If you don't (even if it is just a show week), your employer has to make up the difference. ​ Basically, being a 'tipped' employee means your employer can say, assume you are getting at least 5$/hour in tips and you have to show you didn't get enough tips to get minimum wage, as opposed to the other way around. Your company is free to deter customers from giving you tips (posting a sign saying "We pay our workers a living wage, no tips needed" or something), but if you get a tip given directly to you it is yours. I believe if a tip is left at a counter it is assumed to be for the server. I know 'tip sharing' happens a lot, although they cannot require people who receive tips to share them. I don't know if anyone has argued a tip jar at a register is intended for all employees (or at least server+cashier) instead of just the cashier. Mandating that people share tips they received directly is not allowed though: Tips are the property of whom they are given. I know when I was in high school working at a theme park the policy was to not encourage tips, to tell people tips were unnecessary, etc. If we were asked "Do I tip" and didn't say it was unnecessary they could (and would) fire you. However, if someone shoved money in your hand as a tip and then left, it would be yours, the company can't claw it back. | Not legal. But he can lower your wages below minimum wage as long as those tips bring you back to minimum. | 1 | 7,946 | 12 |
hosxqj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My new employer has a tip jar, but claims since he pays the minimum wage, all tips go back to the business. Is this legal? *Illinois* I just started a job at a restaurant. I'm not a full server per se. I take orders at the counter, but also run food and drink to customers in the dining room and also bus tables, answer phones, and pack up to-go orders. They have a tip jar on the counter that usually gets pretty full every night. My employer says, however, that all tips go back into the business since he pays me my state minimum wage (IL). This seems misleading for the customers at the very least. I know when I leave something in a tip jar, its with the assumption that the money will go to the workers. One man tried to hand me 2 dollars as a tip, but my manager took the money and just put it under the register. I've tried to do a little looking and my confusion is mostly this. Am I considered a tipped worker? From what I understood from the law, businesses are required to pay a minimum of 60% of the minimum wage, but doesn't that imply that they are able to pay more if they want to while still allowing workers to receive tips? From what my employer is saying, it sounds like I'm not a tipped worker because he pays the minimum wage. Is this legal or should I consider making a report to the state? | fxkii8t | fxmssuf | 1,594,414,308 | 1,594,454,857 | 2 | 5 | Not legal. But he can lower your wages below minimum wage as long as those tips bring you back to minimum. | Just make sure to tell all your customers that you don't get any cut of the tips, the business keeps them all. | 0 | 40,549 | 2.5 |
hosxqj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My new employer has a tip jar, but claims since he pays the minimum wage, all tips go back to the business. Is this legal? *Illinois* I just started a job at a restaurant. I'm not a full server per se. I take orders at the counter, but also run food and drink to customers in the dining room and also bus tables, answer phones, and pack up to-go orders. They have a tip jar on the counter that usually gets pretty full every night. My employer says, however, that all tips go back into the business since he pays me my state minimum wage (IL). This seems misleading for the customers at the very least. I know when I leave something in a tip jar, its with the assumption that the money will go to the workers. One man tried to hand me 2 dollars as a tip, but my manager took the money and just put it under the register. I've tried to do a little looking and my confusion is mostly this. Am I considered a tipped worker? From what I understood from the law, businesses are required to pay a minimum of 60% of the minimum wage, but doesn't that imply that they are able to pay more if they want to while still allowing workers to receive tips? From what my employer is saying, it sounds like I'm not a tipped worker because he pays the minimum wage. Is this legal or should I consider making a report to the state? | fxmssuf | fxlgedt | 1,594,454,857 | 1,594,433,657 | 5 | 3 | Just make sure to tell all your customers that you don't get any cut of the tips, the business keeps them all. | I’m pretty sure tips is the entire excuse why the federal minimum wage is so low. | 1 | 21,200 | 1.666667 |
hosxqj | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My new employer has a tip jar, but claims since he pays the minimum wage, all tips go back to the business. Is this legal? *Illinois* I just started a job at a restaurant. I'm not a full server per se. I take orders at the counter, but also run food and drink to customers in the dining room and also bus tables, answer phones, and pack up to-go orders. They have a tip jar on the counter that usually gets pretty full every night. My employer says, however, that all tips go back into the business since he pays me my state minimum wage (IL). This seems misleading for the customers at the very least. I know when I leave something in a tip jar, its with the assumption that the money will go to the workers. One man tried to hand me 2 dollars as a tip, but my manager took the money and just put it under the register. I've tried to do a little looking and my confusion is mostly this. Am I considered a tipped worker? From what I understood from the law, businesses are required to pay a minimum of 60% of the minimum wage, but doesn't that imply that they are able to pay more if they want to while still allowing workers to receive tips? From what my employer is saying, it sounds like I'm not a tipped worker because he pays the minimum wage. Is this legal or should I consider making a report to the state? | fxkii8t | fxlgedt | 1,594,414,308 | 1,594,433,657 | 2 | 3 | Not legal. But he can lower your wages below minimum wage as long as those tips bring you back to minimum. | I’m pretty sure tips is the entire excuse why the federal minimum wage is so low. | 0 | 19,349 | 1.5 |
o5a5w6 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I Walked into a chiro two days ago with minor lower back pain for a standard adjustment from I Dr. I wasn't familiar with, left in I wheelchair I'll try to keep this brief and will elaborate if anyone is interested or can help. First of all I'm in Texas. As in the title above, I WALKED into a chiro I've been seeing for years for a small flare up in my lower back. I went to a new location and was treated by a Dr. That I had never met before and who clearly doesn't care about his patients. Myself and one other gentleman were the only two patients in the practice this particular afternoon. We were both told to wait laying face down until the Dr. Was done doing something in the back. We waited fifteen minutes before he came out and got around to us. Usually these guys will check your chart and treatment history (even if they've personally seen you before) this guy did no such thing. He simply walked up to my table and asked if I was "ready for a good adjustment?" He then proceeded to adjust my neck once then pop my middle/upper back and twisted and cracked my lower back down by my pelvis one time to the right and sent me on my way. The entire adjustment took under 90 seconds. I was hurting immediately after getting off the table on my way to the car. As I reversed out of my parking spot I noticed that the other gentleman who was behind me was somehow miraculously done with his adjustment as well (before I had even pulled my car out of my parking spot maybe 60 seconds after I walked out the front door 90 seconds after I got off my table). I drive a stick shift and almost couldn't make it the 3/4 om a mile back to my house the radiating pain surging from my butt cheek all the way down to the toes of my left foot. I tried to tough it out for a few hours until the pain became unbearable and I had to ask my sister to drive me to the nearest ER. She helped my brother carry me to the car as I could no longer stand up at all. At the ER they diagnosed me with a sever bulging/potentially herniated disk that is putting a lot of pressure on my sciatic nerve and prescribed steroids, muscle relaxants and tramadol with Tylenol and said short of surgery that there's almost nothing else they could do. I've never had sciatic nerve pain in my entire life (31m) and im worried this could become permanent and I sure as he'll cant afford the ER bills or God forbid a surgery as I currently have no health insurance. Any advice would be GREATLY GREATLY appreciated 🙏 | h2n7cxd | h2n7mjr | 1,624,364,713 | 1,624,364,878 | 55 | 104 | Definitely talk to a medical malpractice lawyer. Most of them do free consults! I think the tricky thing here—and I’m guessing this applies with many chiro med mal cases—is causation. You showed up with a bad back, right? So say you sue the chiro. The chiro is going to say that his adjustment didn’t cause your injury. At most it exacerbated it. You had a bad back, and your bad back was getting worse (that’s why you made the appointment), and it would have kept getting bad regardless of whether you had gotten the adjustment or not. This seems like it would come up in so many chiro cases, there must be an argument to counter it (take your victim as they come? eggshell plaintiff?). I don’t practice in that area, but I’m sure that attorneys who do will have dealt with this kind of argument many times over. Maybe look for a med mal attorney who has done a lot of chiro work for that reason. | The issue with proving malpractice here is that it's likely you already had somewhat of a herniated/bulging/ruptured disk that was the initial cause of the lower back pain flare up. There's little doubt in my mind that he made it exponentially worse - twisting and pressure are two things that can really make a disk flourish to its full, painful potential. When it was just bulging slightly, it was probably putting a slight pressure on that nerve. That lower back/pelvic twist he did most likely caused it to bulge more, or even rupture, which REALLY pisses off that nerve. However - unless you have significant prior, and recent, imaging of your back, as well as a new set from after the ill-fated chiropractic visit - it will be really hard to meet that threshold level of proof required. Even if you do have the contrasting before and after imaging results, it's probably going to be a really tough thing to get an attorney to take on. Side note 1: When I first read this, my immediate thought was, "This dude was not even a chiropractor - they sent out a student in training or something." The face down thing is just....odd. Side note 2: I have a bulging disc that flares up occasionally, and happens to be doing so the last few days. Keeping up with your anti-inflammatory meds, and prednisone if they prescribed it, will help significantly. Prednisone is always an overnight magical fix for me. Supposedly studies say it may not even help with back pain, but I (with zero medical training) completely disagree. Ha. Side note 3: During the day, try to cycle through standing/sitting/lying down every 30 minutes or so. That may be a bit too often if you're still in the acute, breath-taking, shrieking stage of pain, but once that calms a bit, you'll do better if you move frequently (and carefully!) so that those muscles/tendons/nerves don't stiffen up. Side note 4: I'm not sure how much they explained to you in the ER, but these are really helpful diagrams of what exactly is happening to cause that horrific radiating pain: https://i.imgur.com/uMCsqkt.jpg https://i.imgur.com/sHVaAaF.jpg https://i.imgur.com/W0LGev1.jpg Best of luck - I hope you feel better soon! | 0 | 165 | 1.890909 |
wagaxh | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Being sued for a minor vehicle accident almost 4 years ago. So this accident happened 4 years ago in Texas. My friend hit a lady's car from behind. The Police showed up and asked if everything and everyone was okay. Both parties said everything is fine and the police officer didn't file a report, and had let both parties go their seperate ways. Almost 4 years laters my friend got a letter from the district court saying that the lady filed charges against her for physical injuries and mental problems she's suffering from the accident also future physical injuries she may have for that accident. She now being sued for $1,308,230.83. There was no physical damage or scratches to either vehicles, and there is no a police report or insurance report about the lady sueing, until now. What options does she have? She's gone to a few lawyers, to which none will take on the case. | ii0p3aq | ii0nvx2 | 1,659,030,884 | 1,659,030,423 | 107 | 24 | >What options does she have? She should hand this over to the insurance company with a policy in force at the time of the accident. They'll handle this. | Did your friend have car insurance at the time of the accident? | 1 | 461 | 4.458333 |
wagaxh | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Being sued for a minor vehicle accident almost 4 years ago. So this accident happened 4 years ago in Texas. My friend hit a lady's car from behind. The Police showed up and asked if everything and everyone was okay. Both parties said everything is fine and the police officer didn't file a report, and had let both parties go their seperate ways. Almost 4 years laters my friend got a letter from the district court saying that the lady filed charges against her for physical injuries and mental problems she's suffering from the accident also future physical injuries she may have for that accident. She now being sued for $1,308,230.83. There was no physical damage or scratches to either vehicles, and there is no a police report or insurance report about the lady sueing, until now. What options does she have? She's gone to a few lawyers, to which none will take on the case. | ii4bs6m | ii34tcq | 1,659,098,172 | 1,659,068,895 | 7 | 4 | This similar thing happened to a friend here in Indiana. There was minimal damage to both vehicles, but a couple years after the accident they got notified that they were being sued for SUBSTANTIAL injuries from the other party. Luckily they had a good insurance policy (with good liability limits) and so their policy covered all the awarded damages (which was about $50K as I recall) and the insurance's lawyer took care of everything, my friend didn't have to go to court or anything. I think they did have to do a deposition though. It's an excellent reason to carry a policy with high liability limits. | Does Texas not have a statute of limitations? In NJ it's two years. | 1 | 29,277 | 1.75 |
wagaxh | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Being sued for a minor vehicle accident almost 4 years ago. So this accident happened 4 years ago in Texas. My friend hit a lady's car from behind. The Police showed up and asked if everything and everyone was okay. Both parties said everything is fine and the police officer didn't file a report, and had let both parties go their seperate ways. Almost 4 years laters my friend got a letter from the district court saying that the lady filed charges against her for physical injuries and mental problems she's suffering from the accident also future physical injuries she may have for that accident. She now being sued for $1,308,230.83. There was no physical damage or scratches to either vehicles, and there is no a police report or insurance report about the lady sueing, until now. What options does she have? She's gone to a few lawyers, to which none will take on the case. | ii3zhj6 | ii4bs6m | 1,659,090,793 | 1,659,098,172 | 3 | 7 | Any insurance claim that you file whether it’s paid or not, whether it’s withdrawn or not will appear on your CLUE database as an incident. All incidents contribute to your insurance profile and rating. Even if it’s outdated incidents will appear and factor into your rating. | This similar thing happened to a friend here in Indiana. There was minimal damage to both vehicles, but a couple years after the accident they got notified that they were being sued for SUBSTANTIAL injuries from the other party. Luckily they had a good insurance policy (with good liability limits) and so their policy covered all the awarded damages (which was about $50K as I recall) and the insurance's lawyer took care of everything, my friend didn't have to go to court or anything. I think they did have to do a deposition though. It's an excellent reason to carry a policy with high liability limits. | 0 | 7,379 | 2.333333 |
9a6ta9 | legaladvice_train | 0.83 | Haven't seen Dad in 10 Years, owes well over 40K+ in child support. Tried to get restraining order on us over a year ago but failed miserably, Judge turns on him and hands him a court order to pay back, but only paid 1K a month even beforehand from 2015 or 16 to when I turned 18 this year. Continuing from the title, he was paying 1K a month approximately for about 2 years or so, maybe more but I'm not sure. My parents, however, agreed that this wouldn't be apart of what was owed in arrears, which is the 40k+. Now that I'm 18. my dad doesn't think that he has to keep contributing, all because I'm a legal adult now, even though he is basically 6 feet under in debt (and parenting doesn't just stop at 18). Now, I'm trying to figure out how to enforce the court order that the judge gave to him last year after finding out about such debts. We have a friend that has been in a similar situation, but she didn't remember anything, so she was useless in this regard. I keep trying to look and see what I can do online, but nothing has been helping me out. A lot of it is in regards to custody, as well as how to get a court order, but not to enforce it. Any help is very appreciated. Thank you! (He lives in Ohio and we are in Maryland) | e4t4cwu | e4t4b37 | 1,535,204,186 | 1,535,204,122 | 76 | 2 | Honestly there is nothing that you can do. Only your mother can really go into the courts and try to continue going to court to get the support. | ---
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9a6ta9 | legaladvice_train | 0.83 | Haven't seen Dad in 10 Years, owes well over 40K+ in child support. Tried to get restraining order on us over a year ago but failed miserably, Judge turns on him and hands him a court order to pay back, but only paid 1K a month even beforehand from 2015 or 16 to when I turned 18 this year. Continuing from the title, he was paying 1K a month approximately for about 2 years or so, maybe more but I'm not sure. My parents, however, agreed that this wouldn't be apart of what was owed in arrears, which is the 40k+. Now that I'm 18. my dad doesn't think that he has to keep contributing, all because I'm a legal adult now, even though he is basically 6 feet under in debt (and parenting doesn't just stop at 18). Now, I'm trying to figure out how to enforce the court order that the judge gave to him last year after finding out about such debts. We have a friend that has been in a similar situation, but she didn't remember anything, so she was useless in this regard. I keep trying to look and see what I can do online, but nothing has been helping me out. A lot of it is in regards to custody, as well as how to get a court order, but not to enforce it. Any help is very appreciated. Thank you! (He lives in Ohio and we are in Maryland) | e4t4b37 | e4taaiv | 1,535,204,122 | 1,535,210,759 | 2 | 13 | ---
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> Continuing from the title, he was paying 1K a month approximately for about 2 years or so, maybe more but I'm not sure. My parents, however, agreed that this wouldn't be apart of what was owed in arrears, which is the 40k+. Now that I'm 18. my dad doesn't think that he has to keep contributing, all because I'm a legal adult now, even though he is basically 6 feet under in debt (and parenting doesn't just stop at 18). Now, I'm trying to figure out how to enforce the court order that the judge gave to him last year after finding out about such debts. We have a friend that has been in a similar situation, but she didn't remember anything, so she was useless in this regard. I keep trying to look and see what I can do online, but nothing has been helping me out. A lot of it is in regards to custody, as well as how to get a court order, but not to enforce it. Any help is very appreciated. Thank you! (He lives in another state by the way)
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v867zt | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | NYC] landlord did not give us sufficient notice (60 days) and is now threatening us over email We are in a market rate apartment in NYC on a lease between 1-2 years. Our understanding is that the new 2019 law states that a landlord must give 60-day notice if they increase the rent more than 5%, and this includes market rate apartments: [link. Our lease ends 6/30 and our landlord has been playing games since April. We were proactive in reaching out but he kept changing the rent and stalling on sending the renewal lease. On 5/27, he sent the renewal with an $800/mo increase. Not only was this increase nearly 30%, this was the first time it exceeded 5% and that gave us less than 35 days to find a new place. We said no thanks, but he barely gave us a month to look. Most landlords and agents were not around to show for Memorial Day weekend. We started looking for places this past weekend, but no dice. We almost signed on 2 but were too late, and they started in late July. We are looking at a few more starting on August 1st. The problem is that the landlord already found a tenant for July 1st and he is threatening us in 2 ways: 1. He refused to write a reference letter unless we left by end of June. The management company is not responding. 2. He threatened to throw our stuff out if we don't vacate on July 1st. I know he can't do that legally but also because we live in a large condo and the staff hate him and his wife. They are aware what's going on. We tried to play nice with him and tell him we'll leave by 7/27, but he refuses and demands that we pay his new market rate. He isn't budging. My lawyer friend said to ignore him, since we could just stay and keep paying our current rent on time, but if we really wanted to stick it to him, it would take 6 months to evict us. I don't want to go down that road of course, but should we threaten him back? The big question: if we kept paying our current rate, are we legally allowed to stay until 7/27 since that's 60 days from when we received notice of the 5+% increase? Our timeline, for reference: * 6/23/2021 - moved-in * 4/17/2022 - emailed landlord about renewal * 4/21/2022 - confirmed a $100/mo increase, or +3.3% * 5/27/2022 - somehow became an $800/mo increase, or +26.7% * 6/30/2022 - our lease is up | iboogmy | ibq42nr | 1,654,741,060 | 1,654,778,302 | 2 | 5 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Not sure why you don’t trust your lawyerfriend, but s/he is correct. You get a full 60 days “extra” at your old rent before the LL is legally allowed to charge the increase. > SECTION 226-C >*Notice of rent increase or non-renewal of residential tenancy* > Notice of rent increase or non-renewal of residential tenancy. 1. (a) Whenever a landlord intends to offer to renew the tenancy of an occupant in a residential dwelling unit with a rent increase equal to or greater than five percent above the current rent, or the landlord does not intend to renew the tenancy, the landlord shall provide written notice as required in subdivision two of this section. **If the landlord fails to provide timely notice, the occupant's lawful tenancy shall continue under the existing terms of the tenancy from the date on which the landlord gave actual written notice until the notice period has expired, notwithstanding any provision of a lease or other tenancy agreement to the contrary.** https://www.nysenate.gov/legislation/laws/RPP/226-C | 0 | 37,242 | 2.5 |
v867zt | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | NYC] landlord did not give us sufficient notice (60 days) and is now threatening us over email We are in a market rate apartment in NYC on a lease between 1-2 years. Our understanding is that the new 2019 law states that a landlord must give 60-day notice if they increase the rent more than 5%, and this includes market rate apartments: [link. Our lease ends 6/30 and our landlord has been playing games since April. We were proactive in reaching out but he kept changing the rent and stalling on sending the renewal lease. On 5/27, he sent the renewal with an $800/mo increase. Not only was this increase nearly 30%, this was the first time it exceeded 5% and that gave us less than 35 days to find a new place. We said no thanks, but he barely gave us a month to look. Most landlords and agents were not around to show for Memorial Day weekend. We started looking for places this past weekend, but no dice. We almost signed on 2 but were too late, and they started in late July. We are looking at a few more starting on August 1st. The problem is that the landlord already found a tenant for July 1st and he is threatening us in 2 ways: 1. He refused to write a reference letter unless we left by end of June. The management company is not responding. 2. He threatened to throw our stuff out if we don't vacate on July 1st. I know he can't do that legally but also because we live in a large condo and the staff hate him and his wife. They are aware what's going on. We tried to play nice with him and tell him we'll leave by 7/27, but he refuses and demands that we pay his new market rate. He isn't budging. My lawyer friend said to ignore him, since we could just stay and keep paying our current rent on time, but if we really wanted to stick it to him, it would take 6 months to evict us. I don't want to go down that road of course, but should we threaten him back? The big question: if we kept paying our current rate, are we legally allowed to stay until 7/27 since that's 60 days from when we received notice of the 5+% increase? Our timeline, for reference: * 6/23/2021 - moved-in * 4/17/2022 - emailed landlord about renewal * 4/21/2022 - confirmed a $100/mo increase, or +3.3% * 5/27/2022 - somehow became an $800/mo increase, or +26.7% * 6/30/2022 - our lease is up | ibq42nr | ibpnqln | 1,654,778,302 | 1,654,766,071 | 5 | 2 | Not sure why you don’t trust your lawyerfriend, but s/he is correct. You get a full 60 days “extra” at your old rent before the LL is legally allowed to charge the increase. > SECTION 226-C >*Notice of rent increase or non-renewal of residential tenancy* > Notice of rent increase or non-renewal of residential tenancy. 1. (a) Whenever a landlord intends to offer to renew the tenancy of an occupant in a residential dwelling unit with a rent increase equal to or greater than five percent above the current rent, or the landlord does not intend to renew the tenancy, the landlord shall provide written notice as required in subdivision two of this section. **If the landlord fails to provide timely notice, the occupant's lawful tenancy shall continue under the existing terms of the tenancy from the date on which the landlord gave actual written notice until the notice period has expired, notwithstanding any provision of a lease or other tenancy agreement to the contrary.** https://www.nysenate.gov/legislation/laws/RPP/226-C | You are basically asking us if you need to pay a 26% rent increase for the month of July before moving, correct? My understanding from your post is that your lawyer friend told you to just pay your same rate for another month and then move out. I would always recommend deferring to an actual lawyer over those of us in this sub who are not lawyers/not your lawyer/less familiar with your situation. I would encourage you to indeed move out ASAP to avoid more conflict. | 1 | 12,231 | 2.5 |
jzw9c9 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | [TX] My 30F gf was fired from her job recently after she turned in a doctor’s letter stating that she cannot return to the office due to her compromised immune system. We found out he was fired along with another woman who also had a doctors note to stay home. Advice? For background, the CEO is a huge 5G, anti-vax, COVID-denier man who believes this is all all sham. He has been trying to get everyone back in the office since April. After several delays (and several employees getting COVID after some return), they finally made it mandatory to return to the office. My gf, who has a compromise immune system did not feel comfortable returning to work and she has been successfully working from home ever since march. her productivity has been much higher than when she was at the office and she knows that because she has access to her “statistics” that track her performance. When she told HR that she doesn’t feel comfortable returning to work, they told her that they require a doctor’s note and she must fill out an application. She got the doctor’s note that stated that she could return to work in December (with the expectation that a new doctor’s note could be “renewed” and re-submitted if there was no vaccine by then). She submitted the doctor’s note, and the application. Fast forward a month or so later, they fired her. They told her she “wasn’t a good fit for the company”. That was it. Then, she found out the other girl that was fired was ALSO working from home, and also provided a doctor’s note to stay home. So the only two employees that were fired were the ones that didn’t return to the office. I understand TX is an “at will” state. But were they targeted because of the doctor’s note? Are there not any protections for this sort of thing? The executive team and CEO, again, are HUGE right wing conspiracy theorists who think all these deaths from COVID are fake. I say that to give context because we are pretty confident she was let go because of her doctor’s note based on her experience and interactions with the executive team. Any options? | gdeja47 | gdend8p | 1,606,188,141 | 1,606,190,449 | 7 | 26 | How many employees are there? If the employer is large enough, discriminating because of a disability is unlawful. Talk to an employment attorney. | To get a 30-minute consultation with an employment attorney in Texas for $20 or less, see State Bar of Texas' Lawyer Referral & Information Service. | 0 | 2,308 | 3.714286 |
5mdorv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | My aunt, a vet, was fired from her job due to her diabetes costing the company 5k/month. Is this legal? My aunt is a vet in a small town in Texas and has pretty bad diabetes. The vet clinic is small and the owner told her that he had to fire her b/c he was paying 5k a month for her health coverage. Is this legal? Why is the coverage so expensive in Texas? Any suggestions on moving forward? | dc2sba8 | dc2xa02 | 1,483,714,736 | 1,483,720,894 | 91 | 96 | even if you win this you have to consider the risk of sinking the clinic. (not saying not to pursue) but small town vets are likely to be the closest thing you will find to a judgement proof business, the margins are pretty tiny in veterinary primary care. | this sounds like the vet clinic is doing some sort of "self insurance" or some really crappy group coverage . I had pre existing conditions (including diabetes, and others even more dangerous) and my employer pays my health coverage to the tune of about $600 ish a month, yes the employer employs a couple of thousand individuals (or more) but, 5k seems like the vet clinic is just paying the bills, not using some type of coverage. and even than, 5k a month? that seems a bit steep for insulin, needles, and test strips...... it really depends a LOT on how many people work there, if it is under like 15 I think, they don't even have to offer health care that is not employee paid..... | 0 | 6,158 | 1.054945 |
5mdorv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | My aunt, a vet, was fired from her job due to her diabetes costing the company 5k/month. Is this legal? My aunt is a vet in a small town in Texas and has pretty bad diabetes. The vet clinic is small and the owner told her that he had to fire her b/c he was paying 5k a month for her health coverage. Is this legal? Why is the coverage so expensive in Texas? Any suggestions on moving forward? | dc2xa02 | dc2vrkb | 1,483,720,894 | 1,483,719,146 | 96 | 50 | this sounds like the vet clinic is doing some sort of "self insurance" or some really crappy group coverage . I had pre existing conditions (including diabetes, and others even more dangerous) and my employer pays my health coverage to the tune of about $600 ish a month, yes the employer employs a couple of thousand individuals (or more) but, 5k seems like the vet clinic is just paying the bills, not using some type of coverage. and even than, 5k a month? that seems a bit steep for insulin, needles, and test strips...... it really depends a LOT on how many people work there, if it is under like 15 I think, they don't even have to offer health care that is not employee paid..... | Like everyone else has said, you can't get blood from a stone. Also, how small is the clinic exactly? More or less than 15 full time employees? > Why is the coverage so expensive in Texas? That's about average for a small firm in the United States. Health & Human Services publishes data on this very topic, broken down by employer size and state. The Kaiser Family Foundation combines some of those tables here for just average value per state. Texas is actually 33/50 for average employer contribution, 28/50 for average total (#1 being highest amount). | 1 | 1,748 | 1.92 |
5mdorv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | My aunt, a vet, was fired from her job due to her diabetes costing the company 5k/month. Is this legal? My aunt is a vet in a small town in Texas and has pretty bad diabetes. The vet clinic is small and the owner told her that he had to fire her b/c he was paying 5k a month for her health coverage. Is this legal? Why is the coverage so expensive in Texas? Any suggestions on moving forward? | dc2xa02 | dc2uamg | 1,483,720,894 | 1,483,717,368 | 96 | 18 | this sounds like the vet clinic is doing some sort of "self insurance" or some really crappy group coverage . I had pre existing conditions (including diabetes, and others even more dangerous) and my employer pays my health coverage to the tune of about $600 ish a month, yes the employer employs a couple of thousand individuals (or more) but, 5k seems like the vet clinic is just paying the bills, not using some type of coverage. and even than, 5k a month? that seems a bit steep for insulin, needles, and test strips...... it really depends a LOT on how many people work there, if it is under like 15 I think, they don't even have to offer health care that is not employee paid..... | A hires B. A finds out that it can not keep B because it can't afford B and still maintain the business. What is A to do? As much as I feel for your aunt businesses runs on money. Nothing is free. Edit: word edit | 1 | 3,526 | 5.333333 |
5mdorv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | My aunt, a vet, was fired from her job due to her diabetes costing the company 5k/month. Is this legal? My aunt is a vet in a small town in Texas and has pretty bad diabetes. The vet clinic is small and the owner told her that he had to fire her b/c he was paying 5k a month for her health coverage. Is this legal? Why is the coverage so expensive in Texas? Any suggestions on moving forward? | dc2vrkb | dc2uamg | 1,483,719,146 | 1,483,717,368 | 50 | 18 | Like everyone else has said, you can't get blood from a stone. Also, how small is the clinic exactly? More or less than 15 full time employees? > Why is the coverage so expensive in Texas? That's about average for a small firm in the United States. Health & Human Services publishes data on this very topic, broken down by employer size and state. The Kaiser Family Foundation combines some of those tables here for just average value per state. Texas is actually 33/50 for average employer contribution, 28/50 for average total (#1 being highest amount). | A hires B. A finds out that it can not keep B because it can't afford B and still maintain the business. What is A to do? As much as I feel for your aunt businesses runs on money. Nothing is free. Edit: word edit | 1 | 1,778 | 2.777778 |
5mdorv | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | My aunt, a vet, was fired from her job due to her diabetes costing the company 5k/month. Is this legal? My aunt is a vet in a small town in Texas and has pretty bad diabetes. The vet clinic is small and the owner told her that he had to fire her b/c he was paying 5k a month for her health coverage. Is this legal? Why is the coverage so expensive in Texas? Any suggestions on moving forward? | dc38mtp | dc395mh | 1,483,733,410 | 1,483,733,990 | 7 | 13 | Most all of the comments here are seem to saying that 1. You can't get money from a stone and 2. No you can't be fired for a medical condition. Both of these things are true. I'm not a legal professional, but I'm seeing this situation differently. From one angle, someone could argue she wasn't fired because of her medical condition. She was fired because the clinic has...for lack of better phrasing...an insurance condition. That she's not being fired for having diabetes, but that she's being fired because they don't have an extra 60k to pay for it every year. Depending on the terms of her employment and how they handled this though, it could be very easy to bring that argument to the ground. They *could* have told her they couldn't afford it and ask her to take a pay cut They *could* have looked into either actually getting insurance (I mean, 5k a month sounds ridiculous, especially since prexisting medical conditions aren't supposed to be a factor anymore) or getting different insurance. They *could* have told her they can only afford to offer the most basic insurance, or that they couldn't offer insurance at all and she would need to get her own (which I don't doubt she could get for far less than 5k a month, and it sounds like the practice is probably small enough it wouldn't receive any penalties for not offering insurance). | As a diabetic I am very curious how her health coverage was costing 5k per month? I quite literally could not use enough supplies to make that kind of cost. I would have to buy a new insulin pump every month to reach that kind of cost. | 0 | 580 | 1.857143 |
sao6kq | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | My mother committed me to a mental hospital by lying due to being petty I moved out of her house and stole my social security card/ssi money for years(NJ, USA); So, my mother(40f) is a very emotionally and mentally abusive person towards me and got worse when I(22f) escaped to live with my now husband(23m) The situation is kind of complicated since my mother is a law school graduate and knows her way around the law. But she stole my important papers, refused to return them and then gave them to my sister(f19) when she left for college. My sister(19) stated that she would rather burn my things than to return them. Now for the hospital. This happened 4 months after leaving my mother and I had no contact with her during that time. I was sent to the local hospital for a wellness check as my previous apn misheard me and stated that I wanted to commit “un-alive”. I was about to be checked out when the hospital somehow got my moms contact without my knowledge or consent. My mother proceeded to tell them that I was psychotic and high risk for suicide and needed to be hospitalized. I state again that I had no contact with my mother during or before that time. I was sent to a psych ward and left more messed up than how I unwillingly entered. I want to take my mother to court over this as she has also put a restraining order on my father for no other reason than she didn’t like him for wanting to be my dad. I’m not sure which type of case this would be or what evidence I need. I have records of my mothers abusive behavior towards me and witnesses to this abuse. I also have all the receipts from replacing all of my records. Finally I have records from the hospitals I was at coming in the mail. | htvetqm | htvaoy0 | 1,642,940,246 | 1,642,937,114 | 43 | 34 | If you have proof that your sister has your items then she is in possession of stolen property. | You need a lawyer ASAP. There probably isn't anything you can do about the hospitalization situation, but recovering your important documents is your immediate priority. It sounds like your sister would destroy those documents out of spite, and simply going to the police probably won't accomplish much. The SSI money is something you should report to the Inspector General's office, and let the federal bean counters and investigators do their job (they're really good at it!). Link: https://oig.ssa.gov/ | 1 | 3,132 | 1.264706 |
sao6kq | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | My mother committed me to a mental hospital by lying due to being petty I moved out of her house and stole my social security card/ssi money for years(NJ, USA); So, my mother(40f) is a very emotionally and mentally abusive person towards me and got worse when I(22f) escaped to live with my now husband(23m) The situation is kind of complicated since my mother is a law school graduate and knows her way around the law. But she stole my important papers, refused to return them and then gave them to my sister(f19) when she left for college. My sister(19) stated that she would rather burn my things than to return them. Now for the hospital. This happened 4 months after leaving my mother and I had no contact with her during that time. I was sent to the local hospital for a wellness check as my previous apn misheard me and stated that I wanted to commit “un-alive”. I was about to be checked out when the hospital somehow got my moms contact without my knowledge or consent. My mother proceeded to tell them that I was psychotic and high risk for suicide and needed to be hospitalized. I state again that I had no contact with my mother during or before that time. I was sent to a psych ward and left more messed up than how I unwillingly entered. I want to take my mother to court over this as she has also put a restraining order on my father for no other reason than she didn’t like him for wanting to be my dad. I’m not sure which type of case this would be or what evidence I need. I have records of my mothers abusive behavior towards me and witnesses to this abuse. I also have all the receipts from replacing all of my records. Finally I have records from the hospitals I was at coming in the mail. | htw6561 | htvunrb | 1,642,954,161 | 1,642,949,313 | 11 | 9 | * Since your mom and your sister have your social security card, you will want to check your credit to make sure they haven’t stolen your identity (e.g. by taking out loans in your name). * A credit freeze may be in order. * Definitely file a police report as other commenters have told you. * Check to see if your mom is listed as an emergency contact on your medical records. If she is, you will want to get that changed. Ask the hospital how they got her number. | You can also report your papers lost/stolen. You may need to file a police report against your mother. Assuming you need social security card, drivers license, maybe a passport? | 1 | 4,848 | 1.222222 |
hfdqyu | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss said I was paid on salary and could not be paid for overtime. He lied. Pennsylvania I have been working as a non-exempt lab technician at a medical university since September of last year. Without getting into a ton of detail, my boss is terrible. He’s the principle investigator (PI) of the lab and cares about no one and nothing but his research. He often ignores university protocol, including those concerning Covid-19, in order to get as much research done as possible at the expense of all those around him. During hiring orientation, I was told by the department faculty that overtime was not available and hours should be limited to 40 hrs/week. I am required to log the hours worked within the month and submit them online. I didn’t necessary pay much mind to the logging of the hours, entering 8 hours for each work and submitting it. THIS is because, since I was hired, my boss drove the idea into my brain that “you are paid on salary, so your total hours don’t matter” and that what matters is finishing the weekly tasks assigned to me. The problem is that these weekly tasks have required me to work 50-60 hrs/wk. This has been the case since the beginning of me starting the job until now. Today when I was consulting HR about my issues with my boss and the hours that he makes me work, I was told that the hours that I worked extra should have been entered as overtime! Apparently, overtime can be entered into the system although overtime hours are not encouraged by the department. HR continued to say that they directly told my boss that he was not to work any lab techs over the limit of 40 hrs/wk as he had issues before with previous lab techs (made the previous one quit within three months). It seems that he lied to HR about his understanding of my working conditions and fooled me into believing all the extra hours I worked that went unpaid were just part of the job. This is my first job out of undergrad and I’m afraid I’ve been taken advantage of. Is there any legal action I can take to rectify all of my unpaid hours, since I was the one to log them in the first place? | fvxfzdb | fvxei05 | 1,593,064,546 | 1,593,061,909 | 42 | 8 | Always log your correct hours. Even if you are salary and not able to get overtime you can point to the extra time you have been working when you ask for a raise. HR or your boss can look at the amount of time you spend working and determine if they should hire additional help. | FYI, just because you log your hours doesn't necessarily mean you're an hourly employee. The logging is likely necessary for the university to charge your wages, benefits, and associated overhead to the appropriate grant so they can get reimbursed by the funding agency. Still, HR will determine whether you're hourly or salaried. They, along with the university grants office, are probably concerned about this, because misstating your time could be illegal and get the university in trouble with auditors, especially if you're working under a Federal research grant. | 1 | 2,637 | 5.25 |
to9ton | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My family is currently in Ukraine. How do we even begin to apply to get them refugee status? I am a Ukrainian student here on a VISA,and have no idea what I should do next to bring them over. My family,including two minor children,left their home in southern Ukraine two days before the war began. They moved to a flat near the Polish border,and since then,have decided that coming to the US would be the best decision. My little siblings speak English,and we have many ties to the US. I was hosted here during the 2017-18 school year,on an exchange program sponsored by the US government. We are very close to my American host family,who has offered to sponsor my parents and siblings in any way possible. I’m not sure if having connections to the US would in any way help our case. I’m not sure where to go from here,however. The town I live in(and my host family) is a city that has been marked for refugee resettlement,and has resettled many Afghan citizens already. Therefore,I wondered if my best option would be to contact our local IRC. I don’t have many resources because I am not native to the US,and know nothing about how to navigate the legal system/immigration process here. Any help would be highly appreciated. We have no home anymore. | i24zxxt | i251xta | 1,648,256,125 | 1,648,257,087 | 75 | 76 | You may want to post on r/immigration | Refugees don't really decide where they end up, though the process tries to keep family ties and such in mind. They'd apply in the first country they end up in, with certain NGOs, a US embassy, or the UN acting as a sponsor Private "sponsorship" in the US is only very recently a thing at all (began this year), and currently only exists for Afghani refugees. That said, it just speeds up the existing process, they still need NGO/UN/embassy support to get things started UNHCR provides information on the process depending on what country they end up in ---- Asylum is a related but different process, where you file once you're already within the borders of the country you'd like to stay It is likely too late for your family to pursue asylum, since having passed through any other "safe" nation typically invalidates your claim AKA they'd need to go directly from Ukraine to the US **You** may want to look into asylum though | 0 | 962 | 1.013333 |
to9ton | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My family is currently in Ukraine. How do we even begin to apply to get them refugee status? I am a Ukrainian student here on a VISA,and have no idea what I should do next to bring them over. My family,including two minor children,left their home in southern Ukraine two days before the war began. They moved to a flat near the Polish border,and since then,have decided that coming to the US would be the best decision. My little siblings speak English,and we have many ties to the US. I was hosted here during the 2017-18 school year,on an exchange program sponsored by the US government. We are very close to my American host family,who has offered to sponsor my parents and siblings in any way possible. I’m not sure if having connections to the US would in any way help our case. I’m not sure where to go from here,however. The town I live in(and my host family) is a city that has been marked for refugee resettlement,and has resettled many Afghan citizens already. Therefore,I wondered if my best option would be to contact our local IRC. I don’t have many resources because I am not native to the US,and know nothing about how to navigate the legal system/immigration process here. Any help would be highly appreciated. We have no home anymore. | i253nzp | i25agcy | 1,648,257,908 | 1,648,261,271 | 20 | 44 | If you’re only here on a student visa you can’t petition for them, unfortunately. Also USCIS would be a good resource for immigration information. | You might be able to extend your Visa but you can’t sponsor or bring family over. | 0 | 3,363 | 2.2 |
to9ton | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My family is currently in Ukraine. How do we even begin to apply to get them refugee status? I am a Ukrainian student here on a VISA,and have no idea what I should do next to bring them over. My family,including two minor children,left their home in southern Ukraine two days before the war began. They moved to a flat near the Polish border,and since then,have decided that coming to the US would be the best decision. My little siblings speak English,and we have many ties to the US. I was hosted here during the 2017-18 school year,on an exchange program sponsored by the US government. We are very close to my American host family,who has offered to sponsor my parents and siblings in any way possible. I’m not sure if having connections to the US would in any way help our case. I’m not sure where to go from here,however. The town I live in(and my host family) is a city that has been marked for refugee resettlement,and has resettled many Afghan citizens already. Therefore,I wondered if my best option would be to contact our local IRC. I don’t have many resources because I am not native to the US,and know nothing about how to navigate the legal system/immigration process here. Any help would be highly appreciated. We have no home anymore. | i26d86b | i25m5lw | 1,648,289,205 | 1,648,267,648 | 14 | 12 | Hi! Work in refugee resettlement. Highly recommend you go to a local refugee resettlement agency. We are getting updates daily and they’ll be best positioned to guide you. Your family should register with UNHCR if they’ve left Ukraine or are able to. | I would also recommend potentially reaching out to your Member of Congress. They have liaisons that help with exactly this type of thing | 1 | 21,557 | 1.166667 |
to9ton | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My family is currently in Ukraine. How do we even begin to apply to get them refugee status? I am a Ukrainian student here on a VISA,and have no idea what I should do next to bring them over. My family,including two minor children,left their home in southern Ukraine two days before the war began. They moved to a flat near the Polish border,and since then,have decided that coming to the US would be the best decision. My little siblings speak English,and we have many ties to the US. I was hosted here during the 2017-18 school year,on an exchange program sponsored by the US government. We are very close to my American host family,who has offered to sponsor my parents and siblings in any way possible. I’m not sure if having connections to the US would in any way help our case. I’m not sure where to go from here,however. The town I live in(and my host family) is a city that has been marked for refugee resettlement,and has resettled many Afghan citizens already. Therefore,I wondered if my best option would be to contact our local IRC. I don’t have many resources because I am not native to the US,and know nothing about how to navigate the legal system/immigration process here. Any help would be highly appreciated. We have no home anymore. | i25pjuc | i26d86b | 1,648,269,708 | 1,648,289,205 | 2 | 14 | I will first check with your local refugee center, they could answer your questions most likely for free and even help you. You being on visa might be a bit of an issue to sponsor them. But give your refugee center a visit or a call | Hi! Work in refugee resettlement. Highly recommend you go to a local refugee resettlement agency. We are getting updates daily and they’ll be best positioned to guide you. Your family should register with UNHCR if they’ve left Ukraine or are able to. | 0 | 19,497 | 7 |
to9ton | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My family is currently in Ukraine. How do we even begin to apply to get them refugee status? I am a Ukrainian student here on a VISA,and have no idea what I should do next to bring them over. My family,including two minor children,left their home in southern Ukraine two days before the war began. They moved to a flat near the Polish border,and since then,have decided that coming to the US would be the best decision. My little siblings speak English,and we have many ties to the US. I was hosted here during the 2017-18 school year,on an exchange program sponsored by the US government. We are very close to my American host family,who has offered to sponsor my parents and siblings in any way possible. I’m not sure if having connections to the US would in any way help our case. I’m not sure where to go from here,however. The town I live in(and my host family) is a city that has been marked for refugee resettlement,and has resettled many Afghan citizens already. Therefore,I wondered if my best option would be to contact our local IRC. I don’t have many resources because I am not native to the US,and know nothing about how to navigate the legal system/immigration process here. Any help would be highly appreciated. We have no home anymore. | i25vhep | i26d86b | 1,648,273,865 | 1,648,289,205 | 3 | 14 | First of all, I’m so sorry this is happening to you, your family, and your country. As for legal advice- there are limited ways to get visas, so the best thing to do is try to contact an immigration attorney near you. There are plenty of non profits that assist in immigration, so just search for that near you or reach out to your local bar association (near me Catholic charities is the most active, religion doesn’t have anything to do with who they help). Practical advice- see if any groups near you are actively trying to assist in helping refugees obtain visas (for example, I live in a big tourist city so there’s a big service industry, when Russia invaded there was a group of restaurants/ bars/ hotels stating that they’d sponsor any Ukrainian service industry workers trying to immigrate to the US). Also try to get your parents/ siblings resumes in English to make applying to jobs easier (there are also groups that have offered to do this for free for refugees). Perhaps most important- reach out to ALL state/ federal/ local reps that you can. Currently this is all over the news and both sides of the political spectrum are sympathetic. As terrible as this is, the reality of the world is that some people are seen as “ideal” immigrants- for example, those that speak English. It sounds like your family fits into that category. While it isn’t an ideal state of the world, try to exploit that- they’d look great on TV for any politician that could help them. Write to representatives and senators on their websites; see if they have any local offices; see if any are touring or having town halls any time soon; tweet them; etc. The midterms are coming up and many are looking for as much free positive publicity as they can get, try to make their quest for free publicity beneficial to your family. Good luck! | Hi! Work in refugee resettlement. Highly recommend you go to a local refugee resettlement agency. We are getting updates daily and they’ll be best positioned to guide you. Your family should register with UNHCR if they’ve left Ukraine or are able to. | 0 | 15,340 | 4.666667 |
to9ton | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My family is currently in Ukraine. How do we even begin to apply to get them refugee status? I am a Ukrainian student here on a VISA,and have no idea what I should do next to bring them over. My family,including two minor children,left their home in southern Ukraine two days before the war began. They moved to a flat near the Polish border,and since then,have decided that coming to the US would be the best decision. My little siblings speak English,and we have many ties to the US. I was hosted here during the 2017-18 school year,on an exchange program sponsored by the US government. We are very close to my American host family,who has offered to sponsor my parents and siblings in any way possible. I’m not sure if having connections to the US would in any way help our case. I’m not sure where to go from here,however. The town I live in(and my host family) is a city that has been marked for refugee resettlement,and has resettled many Afghan citizens already. Therefore,I wondered if my best option would be to contact our local IRC. I don’t have many resources because I am not native to the US,and know nothing about how to navigate the legal system/immigration process here. Any help would be highly appreciated. We have no home anymore. | i25vhep | i25pjuc | 1,648,273,865 | 1,648,269,708 | 3 | 2 | First of all, I’m so sorry this is happening to you, your family, and your country. As for legal advice- there are limited ways to get visas, so the best thing to do is try to contact an immigration attorney near you. There are plenty of non profits that assist in immigration, so just search for that near you or reach out to your local bar association (near me Catholic charities is the most active, religion doesn’t have anything to do with who they help). Practical advice- see if any groups near you are actively trying to assist in helping refugees obtain visas (for example, I live in a big tourist city so there’s a big service industry, when Russia invaded there was a group of restaurants/ bars/ hotels stating that they’d sponsor any Ukrainian service industry workers trying to immigrate to the US). Also try to get your parents/ siblings resumes in English to make applying to jobs easier (there are also groups that have offered to do this for free for refugees). Perhaps most important- reach out to ALL state/ federal/ local reps that you can. Currently this is all over the news and both sides of the political spectrum are sympathetic. As terrible as this is, the reality of the world is that some people are seen as “ideal” immigrants- for example, those that speak English. It sounds like your family fits into that category. While it isn’t an ideal state of the world, try to exploit that- they’d look great on TV for any politician that could help them. Write to representatives and senators on their websites; see if they have any local offices; see if any are touring or having town halls any time soon; tweet them; etc. The midterms are coming up and many are looking for as much free positive publicity as they can get, try to make their quest for free publicity beneficial to your family. Good luck! | I will first check with your local refugee center, they could answer your questions most likely for free and even help you. You being on visa might be a bit of an issue to sponsor them. But give your refugee center a visit or a call | 1 | 4,157 | 1.5 |
38ov3f | legaladvice_train | 0.78 | My friend who lives out-of-state died in a murder-suicide two days ago. He had no family or close friends except his dog, his only steady companion, who was also injured by gunshot. Who could I contact to inquire about the dog and her care/status/adoption? **tl;dr**- My friend died in a murder-suicide two days ago. He has no family or close friends except his dog. The dog was shot and injured during the altercation but is expected to live. I don't know where the dog is or her current status but I want to check on her and provide a home for her if she recovers. Who can I contact to get any information on her whereabouts? I wanted to ask here to see if it was advisable to call the police unit conducting the investigation or if there was another place I should try to contact. Contacting shelters/animal care centers isn't a great option because he lives in such a huge metropolis area that I wouldn't even know where to begin calling and asking. **Longer version** I'm so sorry if this is the wrong place to ask this, I just found out about this today and I'm still very upset and shaken up and not thinking clearly. This was the only place I could think of that might know. His location is Illinois, mine is Tennessee if it matters. His dog was his absolute best friend in the world and the only steady rock he had. I spoke to him the day before the incident about me working with her and training her when I travel to his city again in a few weeks since I'd already met her and he knew she really liked me. The only information I have about the whole thing is a few internet news articles about the deaths, and a few posts to his facebook page about the tragedy. One of the posts from his friends mentioned the dog being shot but being alive and expected to live by her vet care facility, but that friend also lives out of state so I don't think she's actually involved in the care. I messaged her and asked what she knew about where/how the dog was or where she would go if she healed, but I haven't gotten a message back and that was some hours ago. I want to make sure the dog isn't going to be put into a shelter if she heals or put down because she has no where to go- I want to find out if I'm able to adopt her and bring her home to Tennessee with me. I'm learning how to train therapy dogs and I absolutely have room in my home for her if she doesn't have a new family that will keep her forever. I'm hesitant to contact the police in his town because it's a huge metro area and they have more important things to deal with than his dog. But I have no contact information for anyone else he could've known. I want to know if you guys have any suggestions, or can reassure me that it's okay to contact them and see if they can tell me anything. Would they even be *allowed* to tell me anything since the investigation is still ongoing? Again I'm sorry for the rambling, I'm just trying to get information as quickly as I can because I'm scared they're going to put her down if they think she has no home. Thank you so much. | crwtijk | crwmo0e | 1,433,534,419 | 1,433,524,066 | 4 | 2 | Google animal rescue in the city where the incident occurred. Call them and give them the details. They will be the only ones who will care and follow through. | Did he have a next of kin or someone else who would be appointed as executor of his estate? They might have your answer. | 1 | 10,353 | 2 |
ozcvcn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My little sister signed a lease with only a virtual tour, she showed up to an apartment with mold, cigarette burns/smell, and stains. The landlord told her that virtual was the only option due to “covid restrictions”. It’s her first college apartment and they definitely took advantage of the fact she didn’t know better. However I had her take screenshots of the “virtual tour” pictures and they don’t match the actual apartment in the slightest. The landlord has since said any cleaners/mold exterminators will have to be paid out of pocket by my sister as it’s not required. Is this something that we have ground to to sue for her first and last months rent back/break the lease? | h7z43cq | h7ytmly | 1,628,280,119 | 1,628,275,576 | 477 | 7 | The new tenant shoulkd be moving into a place that is clean and move-in ready. If the home isn't clean, she needs to refuse the keys or to pay rent until the home is ready to be moved into. Since the owner sounds like a slum lord, she needs to have LOTS of photos of the home an the condition it is in. She needs to refuse to move into it based on the condition. No, she should not be paying for any of that - it is supposed to be done. In most places (I don't see a specific locations for you) she can refuse to move in because it is not move in ready, not clean, etc, and they have a few days to make it ready. If it still isn't, or the owner refuses, she should not move in at all, and instead demand any money she has paid be returned. If they won't, then small claims court will be needed, and she needs to find a new place to live that she can view before signing for. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | 1 | 4,543 | 68.142857 |
ozcvcn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My little sister signed a lease with only a virtual tour, she showed up to an apartment with mold, cigarette burns/smell, and stains. The landlord told her that virtual was the only option due to “covid restrictions”. It’s her first college apartment and they definitely took advantage of the fact she didn’t know better. However I had her take screenshots of the “virtual tour” pictures and they don’t match the actual apartment in the slightest. The landlord has since said any cleaners/mold exterminators will have to be paid out of pocket by my sister as it’s not required. Is this something that we have ground to to sue for her first and last months rent back/break the lease? | h7zainj | h7zjz93 | 1,628,282,972 | 1,628,287,246 | 55 | 137 | While generally there is common law information about these types of issues however you should really include your location so that people with knowledge of local housing law can chime in and those who are outside of the area can keep out. | She might want to go to the school legal aid office. It's very likely she's paying a small fee for it anyway within her tuition. At my school, they were super helpful with dealing with bad landlords | 0 | 4,274 | 2.490909 |
ozcvcn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My little sister signed a lease with only a virtual tour, she showed up to an apartment with mold, cigarette burns/smell, and stains. The landlord told her that virtual was the only option due to “covid restrictions”. It’s her first college apartment and they definitely took advantage of the fact she didn’t know better. However I had her take screenshots of the “virtual tour” pictures and they don’t match the actual apartment in the slightest. The landlord has since said any cleaners/mold exterminators will have to be paid out of pocket by my sister as it’s not required. Is this something that we have ground to to sue for her first and last months rent back/break the lease? | h7zjz93 | h7ytmly | 1,628,287,246 | 1,628,275,576 | 137 | 7 | She might want to go to the school legal aid office. It's very likely she's paying a small fee for it anyway within her tuition. At my school, they were super helpful with dealing with bad landlords | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | 1 | 11,670 | 19.571429 |
ozcvcn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My little sister signed a lease with only a virtual tour, she showed up to an apartment with mold, cigarette burns/smell, and stains. The landlord told her that virtual was the only option due to “covid restrictions”. It’s her first college apartment and they definitely took advantage of the fact she didn’t know better. However I had her take screenshots of the “virtual tour” pictures and they don’t match the actual apartment in the slightest. The landlord has since said any cleaners/mold exterminators will have to be paid out of pocket by my sister as it’s not required. Is this something that we have ground to to sue for her first and last months rent back/break the lease? | h7ytmly | h7zainj | 1,628,275,576 | 1,628,282,972 | 7 | 55 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | While generally there is common law information about these types of issues however you should really include your location so that people with knowledge of local housing law can chime in and those who are outside of the area can keep out. | 0 | 7,396 | 7.857143 |
ozcvcn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My little sister signed a lease with only a virtual tour, she showed up to an apartment with mold, cigarette burns/smell, and stains. The landlord told her that virtual was the only option due to “covid restrictions”. It’s her first college apartment and they definitely took advantage of the fact she didn’t know better. However I had her take screenshots of the “virtual tour” pictures and they don’t match the actual apartment in the slightest. The landlord has since said any cleaners/mold exterminators will have to be paid out of pocket by my sister as it’s not required. Is this something that we have ground to to sue for her first and last months rent back/break the lease? | h80to3o | h81bmz2 | 1,628,311,820 | 1,628,325,880 | 11 | 12 | I believe all states recognize an implied warranty of habitability. It's also a matter of fraud, based on the representations you indicated the landlord made. Detail everything, certified letter to landlord detailing the issues. Many states have tenant laws that allow for treble damages, fees and costs. | This is less legal advice and more just advice. Even if the landlord fixes things after you take legal actions, I would still look to move out as he's obviously a scummy person. The scumminess is unlikely to go away just because you put him through trial. | 0 | 14,060 | 1.090909 |
ozcvcn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My little sister signed a lease with only a virtual tour, she showed up to an apartment with mold, cigarette burns/smell, and stains. The landlord told her that virtual was the only option due to “covid restrictions”. It’s her first college apartment and they definitely took advantage of the fact she didn’t know better. However I had her take screenshots of the “virtual tour” pictures and they don’t match the actual apartment in the slightest. The landlord has since said any cleaners/mold exterminators will have to be paid out of pocket by my sister as it’s not required. Is this something that we have ground to to sue for her first and last months rent back/break the lease? | h81bmz2 | h7ytmly | 1,628,325,880 | 1,628,275,576 | 12 | 7 | This is less legal advice and more just advice. Even if the landlord fixes things after you take legal actions, I would still look to move out as he's obviously a scummy person. The scumminess is unlikely to go away just because you put him through trial. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | 1 | 50,304 | 1.714286 |
ozcvcn | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My little sister signed a lease with only a virtual tour, she showed up to an apartment with mold, cigarette burns/smell, and stains. The landlord told her that virtual was the only option due to “covid restrictions”. It’s her first college apartment and they definitely took advantage of the fact she didn’t know better. However I had her take screenshots of the “virtual tour” pictures and they don’t match the actual apartment in the slightest. The landlord has since said any cleaners/mold exterminators will have to be paid out of pocket by my sister as it’s not required. Is this something that we have ground to to sue for her first and last months rent back/break the lease? | h7ytmly | h80to3o | 1,628,275,576 | 1,628,311,820 | 7 | 11 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. | I believe all states recognize an implied warranty of habitability. It's also a matter of fraud, based on the representations you indicated the landlord made. Detail everything, certified letter to landlord detailing the issues. Many states have tenant laws that allow for treble damages, fees and costs. | 0 | 36,244 | 1.571429 |
v7p9bu | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | (IN) Can my landlord force residents to use a specific internet provider? So my lease is up soon and I've been informed that if I renew residents will be charged $60/month for community Internet. We don't have a choice and there's no opt-out option. This really sucks because I already have fiber internet through a different provider and I absolutely don't want to change. Some people have told me that they can't legally force me to use their community Internet but these people don't have any solid info beyond a generic FCC post from February of this year. So I'm here to ask: is what my landlord doing illegal? Can they really force their residents to pay for and use a specific internet provider (claiming it's an "amenity") when other companies are available in the area? If not, what steps would I take to force their hand to stop this nonsense? | iblt5kw | iblt7pm | 1,654,694,290 | 1,654,694,320 | 26 | 85 | They can make it a requirement under the new lease, yes. This seems to becoming more common, they are probably getting a discount or a referral bonus from the internet provider. | In a new lease they can add mandatory services. The fcc thing was more about providing access to alternatives and stifling competition vs preventing a mandatory service. | 0 | 30 | 3.269231 |
v7p9bu | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | (IN) Can my landlord force residents to use a specific internet provider? So my lease is up soon and I've been informed that if I renew residents will be charged $60/month for community Internet. We don't have a choice and there's no opt-out option. This really sucks because I already have fiber internet through a different provider and I absolutely don't want to change. Some people have told me that they can't legally force me to use their community Internet but these people don't have any solid info beyond a generic FCC post from February of this year. So I'm here to ask: is what my landlord doing illegal? Can they really force their residents to pay for and use a specific internet provider (claiming it's an "amenity") when other companies are available in the area? If not, what steps would I take to force their hand to stop this nonsense? | ibltjyg | ibm1qy9 | 1,654,694,487 | 1,654,698,335 | 31 | 41 | You may be able to get permission from your landlord to use an alternative service, but you're still going to have to pay the fee. | Yes, they can legally ask you to pay for this service under their new lease. Since this is a case of renewal of the contract, they can add it in as part of the new contract. You can request to not pay and not use HOWEVER, they have no obligation to do that for you and theyll likely not make that exception. You dont need to use their internet though you can continue to use your own however you will still be charged. | 0 | 3,848 | 1.322581 |
v7p9bu | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | (IN) Can my landlord force residents to use a specific internet provider? So my lease is up soon and I've been informed that if I renew residents will be charged $60/month for community Internet. We don't have a choice and there's no opt-out option. This really sucks because I already have fiber internet through a different provider and I absolutely don't want to change. Some people have told me that they can't legally force me to use their community Internet but these people don't have any solid info beyond a generic FCC post from February of this year. So I'm here to ask: is what my landlord doing illegal? Can they really force their residents to pay for and use a specific internet provider (claiming it's an "amenity") when other companies are available in the area? If not, what steps would I take to force their hand to stop this nonsense? | iblt5kw | ibm1qy9 | 1,654,694,290 | 1,654,698,335 | 26 | 41 | They can make it a requirement under the new lease, yes. This seems to becoming more common, they are probably getting a discount or a referral bonus from the internet provider. | Yes, they can legally ask you to pay for this service under their new lease. Since this is a case of renewal of the contract, they can add it in as part of the new contract. You can request to not pay and not use HOWEVER, they have no obligation to do that for you and theyll likely not make that exception. You dont need to use their internet though you can continue to use your own however you will still be charged. | 0 | 4,045 | 1.576923 |
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