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cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etxcq6e | etxcjiy | 1,563,296,512 | 1,563,296,396 | 100 | 14 | Let me preface my response by saying I am a Georgia divorce attorney, but it appears that Arkansas law is fairly similar. ​ At present, it would appear that you and your spouse share joint legal and joint physical custody of your child. That does, in fact, mean that either of you could take the child pretty much anywhere in the United States and it's not "kidnapping." As for the police, they ***shouldn't*** get involved, but in my experience police are often woefully uninformed about the law. I would caution you that once you turn the child over to her (without a court order in place), you may not see the child for some time before a court proceeding takes place. ​ You obviously need a lawyer. As with all states that I'm aware of, Arkansas primary custody determinations "will be determined in accordance with the welfare and best interest of the child, “without regard to the sex of a parent,” and that the judge “may consider the preferences of the child if the child is of a sufficient age and mental capacity to reason, regardless of chronological age.” ​ While I am not a psychologist, it does seem to come with the job. To be honest, I suspect she has grown tired of a "stay at home Dad" in "poor health" with "$400 to his name." It happens. You **definitely** need to secure a stream of income. Both to live on, and to increase your chances to be awarded primary physical custody of your child. ​ As for a property settlement, you lease your residence, so it appears there is no real property. Other personal property can be divided up. One potential source of money is a retirement plan. Alimony is theoretically possible (I have secured it for a few male clients overe the years), but in the South I wouldn't count on it. As an aside, you'll have a lot of time to think about this-- Arkansas law requires an 18 month separation period before the granting of a divorce (although abandonment can result in an immediate divorce). ​ Talk to a lawyer ASAP. Most will give a free consultation and some have payment plans and attorney's fees can be the subject of a temporary hearing. ​ GET YOUR LIFE IN ORDER, NOW!. You need a stable residence, stable income and to do everything to show you are capable of raising a child. AVOID POSTING ANYTHING ON SOCIAL MEDIA-- FB, TWITTER, PINTEREST, INSTAGRAM, SNAPCHAT, KIK, WHATSAPP, (HERE). Also be very careful of all email and text exchanges. They will show up in court. | You need to see a lawyer. Believe me on that. The sooner, the better. If there's money in your joint account, ask the lawyer if you can take some of that to pay their retainer. If not, ask about payment plans, or asking the court to include attorney's fees in the settlement. If your wife is leaving, you need to file for divorce, and ask for custody, child support, and spousal support. Your lawyer will help explain these things to you, and how likely it is that you can get them. He can also suggest things you can do to help your chances. I know this is a scary time for you. I've been there. Just know that you'll get through it. | 1 | 116 | 7.142857 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etwplck | etxcq6e | 1,563,280,330 | 1,563,296,512 | 5 | 100 | I am not a lawyer Please, please, please, call a lawyer and do not hand over that child. See what your rights are, she can't take your child away from you. | Let me preface my response by saying I am a Georgia divorce attorney, but it appears that Arkansas law is fairly similar. ​ At present, it would appear that you and your spouse share joint legal and joint physical custody of your child. That does, in fact, mean that either of you could take the child pretty much anywhere in the United States and it's not "kidnapping." As for the police, they ***shouldn't*** get involved, but in my experience police are often woefully uninformed about the law. I would caution you that once you turn the child over to her (without a court order in place), you may not see the child for some time before a court proceeding takes place. ​ You obviously need a lawyer. As with all states that I'm aware of, Arkansas primary custody determinations "will be determined in accordance with the welfare and best interest of the child, “without regard to the sex of a parent,” and that the judge “may consider the preferences of the child if the child is of a sufficient age and mental capacity to reason, regardless of chronological age.” ​ While I am not a psychologist, it does seem to come with the job. To be honest, I suspect she has grown tired of a "stay at home Dad" in "poor health" with "$400 to his name." It happens. You **definitely** need to secure a stream of income. Both to live on, and to increase your chances to be awarded primary physical custody of your child. ​ As for a property settlement, you lease your residence, so it appears there is no real property. Other personal property can be divided up. One potential source of money is a retirement plan. Alimony is theoretically possible (I have secured it for a few male clients overe the years), but in the South I wouldn't count on it. As an aside, you'll have a lot of time to think about this-- Arkansas law requires an 18 month separation period before the granting of a divorce (although abandonment can result in an immediate divorce). ​ Talk to a lawyer ASAP. Most will give a free consultation and some have payment plans and attorney's fees can be the subject of a temporary hearing. ​ GET YOUR LIFE IN ORDER, NOW!. You need a stable residence, stable income and to do everything to show you are capable of raising a child. AVOID POSTING ANYTHING ON SOCIAL MEDIA-- FB, TWITTER, PINTEREST, INSTAGRAM, SNAPCHAT, KIK, WHATSAPP, (HERE). Also be very careful of all email and text exchanges. They will show up in court. | 0 | 16,182 | 20 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etwpp4t | etx2ppc | 1,563,280,425 | 1,563,290,142 | 24 | 75 | Without a court order you don’t have to let her take the child. But it is in the child’s interest to spend time with mom. You should review with your attorney how to proceed on visitation. You’re entitled to your share of the marital assets. And can review with your attorney whether there’s any possibility for spousal support. But obviously you’ll need a way to support yourself as well. | >If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? While you are legally married she can take the child and run off (and so can you). You need to get legal support to file for divorce and put some emergency custody orders in place. With legal protection THEN you can stop her from moving to another state with the child. Right now, she can just do it. | 0 | 9,717 | 3.125 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etx2ppc | etwuzv7 | 1,563,290,142 | 1,563,284,779 | 75 | 16 | >If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? While you are legally married she can take the child and run off (and so can you). You need to get legal support to file for divorce and put some emergency custody orders in place. With legal protection THEN you can stop her from moving to another state with the child. Right now, she can just do it. | You are entitled to marital assets. Call a lawyer and tell them your situation they are used to working out payment plans for this kind of thing. Doctor yes. See if you are eligible for disability although it is a long road to it. She's now allowed to cut you off but you will need to find ways to manage in the meantime. | 1 | 5,363 | 4.6875 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etx2ppc | etwplck | 1,563,290,142 | 1,563,280,330 | 75 | 5 | >If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? While you are legally married she can take the child and run off (and so can you). You need to get legal support to file for divorce and put some emergency custody orders in place. With legal protection THEN you can stop her from moving to another state with the child. Right now, she can just do it. | I am not a lawyer Please, please, please, call a lawyer and do not hand over that child. See what your rights are, she can't take your child away from you. | 1 | 9,812 | 15 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etwpp4t | etwplck | 1,563,280,425 | 1,563,280,330 | 24 | 5 | Without a court order you don’t have to let her take the child. But it is in the child’s interest to spend time with mom. You should review with your attorney how to proceed on visitation. You’re entitled to your share of the marital assets. And can review with your attorney whether there’s any possibility for spousal support. But obviously you’ll need a way to support yourself as well. | I am not a lawyer Please, please, please, call a lawyer and do not hand over that child. See what your rights are, she can't take your child away from you. | 1 | 95 | 4.8 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etwplck | etwuzv7 | 1,563,280,330 | 1,563,284,779 | 5 | 16 | I am not a lawyer Please, please, please, call a lawyer and do not hand over that child. See what your rights are, she can't take your child away from you. | You are entitled to marital assets. Call a lawyer and tell them your situation they are used to working out payment plans for this kind of thing. Doctor yes. See if you are eligible for disability although it is a long road to it. She's now allowed to cut you off but you will need to find ways to manage in the meantime. | 0 | 4,449 | 3.2 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etwplck | etxcjiy | 1,563,280,330 | 1,563,296,396 | 5 | 14 | I am not a lawyer Please, please, please, call a lawyer and do not hand over that child. See what your rights are, she can't take your child away from you. | You need to see a lawyer. Believe me on that. The sooner, the better. If there's money in your joint account, ask the lawyer if you can take some of that to pay their retainer. If not, ask about payment plans, or asking the court to include attorney's fees in the settlement. If your wife is leaving, you need to file for divorce, and ask for custody, child support, and spousal support. Your lawyer will help explain these things to you, and how likely it is that you can get them. He can also suggest things you can do to help your chances. I know this is a scary time for you. I've been there. Just know that you'll get through it. | 0 | 16,066 | 2.8 |
cdwdeb | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Please help me, I'm a stay at home dad and my spouse is about to leave me. I don't even know what's going on. I thought we had one of the most understanding marriages in the world. Fights, sure, but nothing serious and we always kiss and made up. Open account passwords and everything. Yesterday I could sense something was wrong and, to put a long story short, she not only stopped texting me, changed all her social media and email passwords, but suddenly didn't want to come home but take our young child. Wouldn't even talk to me unless I agreed to let the child go. More than that, she threatened to call the police to remove him against my wishes. None of this makes any sense, I don't know where any of this came from. She agreed to let me keep him for the night and talk to me the next day but I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I'm a stay at home dad with no income of my own, only like $400 on me, poor health, our lease is almost up, and am completely dependent upon my spouse's job to even have a roof over our head. We share one joint bank account. I guess some specific questions I can think of are: If she chooses to leave the place can I legally stop her from taking the kid? I don't even know where she is right now and she does have rich family out of state. What recourse do I have when it comes to money and housing? I don't have friends to couch surf on, no family left to stay with. I'm all alone in this world except her and my kid. I don't even know if I could work my health is so bad; I've been too afraid of doctors to really see them much lately. I'm assuming if I can't work then I'm not a fit parent? I don't know how that works. Arkansas is my location. There are no mens shelters, nothing. I'm so scared and confused. Please help me. | etwplck | etxw30m | 1,563,280,330 | 1,563,308,650 | 5 | 6 | I am not a lawyer Please, please, please, call a lawyer and do not hand over that child. See what your rights are, she can't take your child away from you. | Get a lawyer NOW. They will likely have a consultation with you now, without any payment, and hopefully you can find one who will be willing to defer payments for a bit. But any money within the marriage is half yours. So if you have a credit card you can use, or a joint bank account, you can make a small payment to a lawyer with that if necessary. But get a lawyer absolutely as soon as possible. The lawyer will be able to help you file the necessary things to prevent her moving away with your child, and set it up so that the kid can spend time with both parents, but the mother will have severe penalties if she absconds with him. So first, second, and third, get a lawyer. After that, get a lawyer. And know that half of the marital assets are yours, and if you need to access them now in order to get a lawyer, that's your right. And it's very likely that if you do end up divorcing, that she will owe you child support and possibly spousal support, just as a working husband would need to pay his stay-at-home wife. That's how it goes--when one partner stays home, it benefits the marriage to the detriment of that spouse's personal income and future employability, and spousal support is to offset the hardship during the time that spouse ramps their career back up. And child support, of course, is to offset the expense of having a child--if one partner has more time with the child, generally the person with less time pays the person with more time, since the person with more time is spending more money providing food, clothing, etc., but of course relative incomes come into play too, and almost always, if one spouse has no income, then the income-making spouse will need to pay the spouse with no income, at least until that changes and the time sharing factor comes into play a little more. So you will likely have SOME income until you can get a job up and running, but of course it won't be huge. Dividing the same income into two households always results in less money to go around than when it only supports one household, so likely both of your standards of living are going to have to adjust to this. | 0 | 28,320 | 1.2 |
6uysjk | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | (TX) if exwife dies while receiving 1/2 of her exhusbands pension, does she get to leave her part to someone? Or does he get it all back to 100%? My dad divorced my mom when he retired, after 30 years of marriage. (about five years ago) In divorce court the judge ordered that they each get half of his federal retirement pension. At first he was just supposed to give her half monthly, but he wasn't doing it so she filed paperwork (I guess giving the pension company a copy of the divorce orders, and proof he wasn't complying) and now they each get half directly deposited in their respective bank accounts. My mom is starting to think about planning for when she passes, and she would like to know what happens if she dies first. Does my dad go back to getting a 100% payment? Or can she leave her monthly portion to someone? Or does her share go away and no one gets it, including my dad who would stay at the court ordered 50%? | dlwtd25 | dlwtgmu | 1,503,288,676 | 1,503,288,836 | 4 | 25 | I am not a lawyer Alimony pay of a permanent nature such typically ends when the recipient ex spouse dies. There are reasons that the payments would continue to go to the estate of the late ex spouse, such as payment past due. (I cannot speak to a situation such as a recipient having dependents, but I imagine this might be relevant.) To the best of my lightly researched knowledge, the same rules would apply for a pension as compared to a more typical income stream. | If it is just a wage garnishment for alimony, more than likely your father would receive the full 100% if your mom were to pass first. This is of course excluding any special provisions in the court order. If your father were to remarry and/or have another child and then pass before your mother, the new wife or child under 18 would likely be entitled to the pension, depending on survivor benefits. If this happens, your mother would cease to receive alimony after the estate is settled. Once the other wife dies or the child becomes an adult, the pension would end. If your father dies first without any of the above, I would guess that your mother would no longer receive the payments, but I guess it would be possible for a judge to reassign your mother as the survivor beneficiary, but I doubt that would happen. It really depends how the order was made, but if it's a standard alimony and garnishment, your mom is only receiving a portion of your father's income, which is the pension, but is not actually entitled to the pension itself. | 0 | 160 | 6.25 |
6uysjk | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | (TX) if exwife dies while receiving 1/2 of her exhusbands pension, does she get to leave her part to someone? Or does he get it all back to 100%? My dad divorced my mom when he retired, after 30 years of marriage. (about five years ago) In divorce court the judge ordered that they each get half of his federal retirement pension. At first he was just supposed to give her half monthly, but he wasn't doing it so she filed paperwork (I guess giving the pension company a copy of the divorce orders, and proof he wasn't complying) and now they each get half directly deposited in their respective bank accounts. My mom is starting to think about planning for when she passes, and she would like to know what happens if she dies first. Does my dad go back to getting a 100% payment? Or can she leave her monthly portion to someone? Or does her share go away and no one gets it, including my dad who would stay at the court ordered 50%? | dlxk41l | dlwtd25 | 1,503,336,982 | 1,503,288,676 | 6 | 4 | to all y'all calling the pension payments alimony: nope. it's not alimony, and it's not present income. the pension was earned during the marriage. it's just being paid now. the ex-wife is entitled to 1/2 of all income earned during the marriage. the pension was earned during the marriage, and 1/2 belongs to her, to do with however she wants. it's her property, and it's inheritable. Ps: the forms she filled out were probably a QDRO. | I am not a lawyer Alimony pay of a permanent nature such typically ends when the recipient ex spouse dies. There are reasons that the payments would continue to go to the estate of the late ex spouse, such as payment past due. (I cannot speak to a situation such as a recipient having dependents, but I imagine this might be relevant.) To the best of my lightly researched knowledge, the same rules would apply for a pension as compared to a more typical income stream. | 1 | 48,306 | 1.5 |
6uysjk | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | (TX) if exwife dies while receiving 1/2 of her exhusbands pension, does she get to leave her part to someone? Or does he get it all back to 100%? My dad divorced my mom when he retired, after 30 years of marriage. (about five years ago) In divorce court the judge ordered that they each get half of his federal retirement pension. At first he was just supposed to give her half monthly, but he wasn't doing it so she filed paperwork (I guess giving the pension company a copy of the divorce orders, and proof he wasn't complying) and now they each get half directly deposited in their respective bank accounts. My mom is starting to think about planning for when she passes, and she would like to know what happens if she dies first. Does my dad go back to getting a 100% payment? Or can she leave her monthly portion to someone? Or does her share go away and no one gets it, including my dad who would stay at the court ordered 50%? | dlxk41l | dlx6wdx | 1,503,336,982 | 1,503,320,037 | 6 | 2 | to all y'all calling the pension payments alimony: nope. it's not alimony, and it's not present income. the pension was earned during the marriage. it's just being paid now. the ex-wife is entitled to 1/2 of all income earned during the marriage. the pension was earned during the marriage, and 1/2 belongs to her, to do with however she wants. it's her property, and it's inheritable. Ps: the forms she filled out were probably a QDRO. | She should not be worried about the half she is getting but his health. Unless he selected a survivor benefit on his pension when he dies so does the pension. When a survivor benefit is selected you get less money so chances are he did not select that and even if he did I doubt he would put his ex-wife as the one to receive it. I doubt she can give her half to anyone unless the court ordered it. So no I highly doubt she can give his pension half to someone else on death. <-- Former Fed that did "HR" type stuff. | 1 | 16,945 | 3 |
54cykm | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | NH: My wife posted a sex video of me online right before she filed for divorce but the cops won't do anything about it State is NH. 6 months ago I did something stupid and made a mistake. I hooked up with a woman I had met on a FA/BBW website. I'm married and my wife is not big. I regretted doing it and I deleted her number after that and stopped visiting that site or any other. I never told my wife and tried to be better to her. We have been married for 6 years and together for 9 and we were trying for a baby. The video from the hook up was posted on my Facebook page. It also was linked to the website. I had completely forgotten about it. Both were taken down quickly but my wife left the next day and filed for divorce a week later. I went to the cops because I didn't post the video so I figured my wife must have because no one else has access to my Facebook or my phone. The cops interviewed me and my wife and they examined my phone. They say that my wife didn't post it because it was posted from my phone through our ISP and my phone was only pinging a tower by our house on the night it was posted. My wife was out with friends that night and there are pictures and witnesses to prove it while I told them I was home alone all night. I know there is no way I posted it. I had been drinking that night but I wasn't blackout drunk. Also my wife came home from the bar because she forgot something. I remember her playing with my phone before she left again. I also saw that on my tablet she had researched divorce lawyers and divorce after adultery before the video post. I think she already knew and posted the video as revenge. She told the cops she never left the bar and they say her phone was pinging a tower by the bar and that combined with the pictures means she didn't and they closed the case. But they also told me that if the woman in the video comes forward I could be in trouble for revenge porn. My wife is denying that she posted it or that she did those searches on my tablet. She also said she filed for fault divorce and she told me she took a copy of the video off Facebook and has screenshots of my visits to the FA/BBW website and the searches about fault divorce and adultery from my tablet. She told me she will be subpoenaing my phone records too. I need advice because I don't know what the fuck I should do or how I can get the cops to believe that she posted it. It's embarrassing because my family and friends saw it before Facebook took it down. Also how bad will the video be for the divorce if my wife was the main breadwinner and had paid for 100% of our home and all our bills and mortgage? | d80ydl1 | d819ulx | 1,474,776,046 | 1,474,810,974 | 24 | 28 | You are about to go through a very nasty divorce. You need a good lawyer immediately. Your main concerns are the divorce proceedings, division of your assets, alimony, and (if you have children) child support. This video is inconsequential, don't worry about it. | I'm going to pretend for a minute that your story is true, and not a pretty transparent attempt to keep your wife's gravy train rolling on in. But nobody is ever going to believe your story - she's hanging you with the rope you handed her. It sounds like she has a bunch of friends (including the sober DD) who will swear up and down she never left the bar that night, I'm sure her phone will not ping as having left the bar (since she will have left it with a friend), and your recollection as both being drunk and being the aggrieved party make you an un-credible witness to your version of events. Now, back to reality - if you wanted to frame your wife for the video, you should have figured out how to make that stick *before* you did it, not come to Reddit (of all places) to figure out Phase 2 of your brilliant stratagem. I'd tell you you're going to be taken to the cleaners in this divorce, but it doesn't actually sound like you own anything to lose. | 0 | 34,928 | 1.166667 |
54cykm | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | NH: My wife posted a sex video of me online right before she filed for divorce but the cops won't do anything about it State is NH. 6 months ago I did something stupid and made a mistake. I hooked up with a woman I had met on a FA/BBW website. I'm married and my wife is not big. I regretted doing it and I deleted her number after that and stopped visiting that site or any other. I never told my wife and tried to be better to her. We have been married for 6 years and together for 9 and we were trying for a baby. The video from the hook up was posted on my Facebook page. It also was linked to the website. I had completely forgotten about it. Both were taken down quickly but my wife left the next day and filed for divorce a week later. I went to the cops because I didn't post the video so I figured my wife must have because no one else has access to my Facebook or my phone. The cops interviewed me and my wife and they examined my phone. They say that my wife didn't post it because it was posted from my phone through our ISP and my phone was only pinging a tower by our house on the night it was posted. My wife was out with friends that night and there are pictures and witnesses to prove it while I told them I was home alone all night. I know there is no way I posted it. I had been drinking that night but I wasn't blackout drunk. Also my wife came home from the bar because she forgot something. I remember her playing with my phone before she left again. I also saw that on my tablet she had researched divorce lawyers and divorce after adultery before the video post. I think she already knew and posted the video as revenge. She told the cops she never left the bar and they say her phone was pinging a tower by the bar and that combined with the pictures means she didn't and they closed the case. But they also told me that if the woman in the video comes forward I could be in trouble for revenge porn. My wife is denying that she posted it or that she did those searches on my tablet. She also said she filed for fault divorce and she told me she took a copy of the video off Facebook and has screenshots of my visits to the FA/BBW website and the searches about fault divorce and adultery from my tablet. She told me she will be subpoenaing my phone records too. I need advice because I don't know what the fuck I should do or how I can get the cops to believe that she posted it. It's embarrassing because my family and friends saw it before Facebook took it down. Also how bad will the video be for the divorce if my wife was the main breadwinner and had paid for 100% of our home and all our bills and mortgage? | d819ulx | d811g8h | 1,474,810,974 | 1,474,782,948 | 28 | 20 | I'm going to pretend for a minute that your story is true, and not a pretty transparent attempt to keep your wife's gravy train rolling on in. But nobody is ever going to believe your story - she's hanging you with the rope you handed her. It sounds like she has a bunch of friends (including the sober DD) who will swear up and down she never left the bar that night, I'm sure her phone will not ping as having left the bar (since she will have left it with a friend), and your recollection as both being drunk and being the aggrieved party make you an un-credible witness to your version of events. Now, back to reality - if you wanted to frame your wife for the video, you should have figured out how to make that stick *before* you did it, not come to Reddit (of all places) to figure out Phase 2 of your brilliant stratagem. I'd tell you you're going to be taken to the cleaners in this divorce, but it doesn't actually sound like you own anything to lose. | It sounds like it's literally impossible for your wife to have done this unless she's secretly a hacker genius. | 1 | 28,026 | 1.4 |
54cykm | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | NH: My wife posted a sex video of me online right before she filed for divorce but the cops won't do anything about it State is NH. 6 months ago I did something stupid and made a mistake. I hooked up with a woman I had met on a FA/BBW website. I'm married and my wife is not big. I regretted doing it and I deleted her number after that and stopped visiting that site or any other. I never told my wife and tried to be better to her. We have been married for 6 years and together for 9 and we were trying for a baby. The video from the hook up was posted on my Facebook page. It also was linked to the website. I had completely forgotten about it. Both were taken down quickly but my wife left the next day and filed for divorce a week later. I went to the cops because I didn't post the video so I figured my wife must have because no one else has access to my Facebook or my phone. The cops interviewed me and my wife and they examined my phone. They say that my wife didn't post it because it was posted from my phone through our ISP and my phone was only pinging a tower by our house on the night it was posted. My wife was out with friends that night and there are pictures and witnesses to prove it while I told them I was home alone all night. I know there is no way I posted it. I had been drinking that night but I wasn't blackout drunk. Also my wife came home from the bar because she forgot something. I remember her playing with my phone before she left again. I also saw that on my tablet she had researched divorce lawyers and divorce after adultery before the video post. I think she already knew and posted the video as revenge. She told the cops she never left the bar and they say her phone was pinging a tower by the bar and that combined with the pictures means she didn't and they closed the case. But they also told me that if the woman in the video comes forward I could be in trouble for revenge porn. My wife is denying that she posted it or that she did those searches on my tablet. She also said she filed for fault divorce and she told me she took a copy of the video off Facebook and has screenshots of my visits to the FA/BBW website and the searches about fault divorce and adultery from my tablet. She told me she will be subpoenaing my phone records too. I need advice because I don't know what the fuck I should do or how I can get the cops to believe that she posted it. It's embarrassing because my family and friends saw it before Facebook took it down. Also how bad will the video be for the divorce if my wife was the main breadwinner and had paid for 100% of our home and all our bills and mortgage? | d81gcs8 | d81ks0s | 1,474,822,272 | 1,474,828,129 | 7 | 14 | >Also how bad will the video be for the divorce if my wife was the main breadwinner and had paid for 100% of our home and all our bills and mortgage? Damn, you're fucked | No sympathy. I hope your wife gets a great deal. | 0 | 5,857 | 2 |
54cykm | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | NH: My wife posted a sex video of me online right before she filed for divorce but the cops won't do anything about it State is NH. 6 months ago I did something stupid and made a mistake. I hooked up with a woman I had met on a FA/BBW website. I'm married and my wife is not big. I regretted doing it and I deleted her number after that and stopped visiting that site or any other. I never told my wife and tried to be better to her. We have been married for 6 years and together for 9 and we were trying for a baby. The video from the hook up was posted on my Facebook page. It also was linked to the website. I had completely forgotten about it. Both were taken down quickly but my wife left the next day and filed for divorce a week later. I went to the cops because I didn't post the video so I figured my wife must have because no one else has access to my Facebook or my phone. The cops interviewed me and my wife and they examined my phone. They say that my wife didn't post it because it was posted from my phone through our ISP and my phone was only pinging a tower by our house on the night it was posted. My wife was out with friends that night and there are pictures and witnesses to prove it while I told them I was home alone all night. I know there is no way I posted it. I had been drinking that night but I wasn't blackout drunk. Also my wife came home from the bar because she forgot something. I remember her playing with my phone before she left again. I also saw that on my tablet she had researched divorce lawyers and divorce after adultery before the video post. I think she already knew and posted the video as revenge. She told the cops she never left the bar and they say her phone was pinging a tower by the bar and that combined with the pictures means she didn't and they closed the case. But they also told me that if the woman in the video comes forward I could be in trouble for revenge porn. My wife is denying that she posted it or that she did those searches on my tablet. She also said she filed for fault divorce and she told me she took a copy of the video off Facebook and has screenshots of my visits to the FA/BBW website and the searches about fault divorce and adultery from my tablet. She told me she will be subpoenaing my phone records too. I need advice because I don't know what the fuck I should do or how I can get the cops to believe that she posted it. It's embarrassing because my family and friends saw it before Facebook took it down. Also how bad will the video be for the divorce if my wife was the main breadwinner and had paid for 100% of our home and all our bills and mortgage? | d81dtlo | d81ks0s | 1,474,818,331 | 1,474,828,129 | 4 | 14 | Forget about getting your wife arrested. Dont think even if it worked if that would impact the divorce case much. You need a divorce lawyer. Others are saying you are trying to frame her but I dont have an opinion on that. If she did do this she was smart about it. Established an alibi before going back to your house without her phone. I doubt even if the police believed you they could get the da to charge her. Lawyer up buddy you are going to need it. | No sympathy. I hope your wife gets a great deal. | 0 | 9,798 | 3.5 |
54cykm | legaladvice_train | 0.64 | NH: My wife posted a sex video of me online right before she filed for divorce but the cops won't do anything about it State is NH. 6 months ago I did something stupid and made a mistake. I hooked up with a woman I had met on a FA/BBW website. I'm married and my wife is not big. I regretted doing it and I deleted her number after that and stopped visiting that site or any other. I never told my wife and tried to be better to her. We have been married for 6 years and together for 9 and we were trying for a baby. The video from the hook up was posted on my Facebook page. It also was linked to the website. I had completely forgotten about it. Both were taken down quickly but my wife left the next day and filed for divorce a week later. I went to the cops because I didn't post the video so I figured my wife must have because no one else has access to my Facebook or my phone. The cops interviewed me and my wife and they examined my phone. They say that my wife didn't post it because it was posted from my phone through our ISP and my phone was only pinging a tower by our house on the night it was posted. My wife was out with friends that night and there are pictures and witnesses to prove it while I told them I was home alone all night. I know there is no way I posted it. I had been drinking that night but I wasn't blackout drunk. Also my wife came home from the bar because she forgot something. I remember her playing with my phone before she left again. I also saw that on my tablet she had researched divorce lawyers and divorce after adultery before the video post. I think she already knew and posted the video as revenge. She told the cops she never left the bar and they say her phone was pinging a tower by the bar and that combined with the pictures means she didn't and they closed the case. But they also told me that if the woman in the video comes forward I could be in trouble for revenge porn. My wife is denying that she posted it or that she did those searches on my tablet. She also said she filed for fault divorce and she told me she took a copy of the video off Facebook and has screenshots of my visits to the FA/BBW website and the searches about fault divorce and adultery from my tablet. She told me she will be subpoenaing my phone records too. I need advice because I don't know what the fuck I should do or how I can get the cops to believe that she posted it. It's embarrassing because my family and friends saw it before Facebook took it down. Also how bad will the video be for the divorce if my wife was the main breadwinner and had paid for 100% of our home and all our bills and mortgage? | d81dtlo | d81gcs8 | 1,474,818,331 | 1,474,822,272 | 4 | 7 | Forget about getting your wife arrested. Dont think even if it worked if that would impact the divorce case much. You need a divorce lawyer. Others are saying you are trying to frame her but I dont have an opinion on that. If she did do this she was smart about it. Established an alibi before going back to your house without her phone. I doubt even if the police believed you they could get the da to charge her. Lawyer up buddy you are going to need it. | >Also how bad will the video be for the divorce if my wife was the main breadwinner and had paid for 100% of our home and all our bills and mortgage? Damn, you're fucked | 0 | 3,941 | 1.75 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr1433 | dwr3suh | 1,522,785,839 | 1,522,787,819 | 441 | 533 | Step 1 - Look at the TN Justice for All page. It has links to legal aid, and self help resources. Step 2 - Here is the TN Court Self Help page. When filing, you can note that your husband is denying you access to marital assets to hire a lawyer. Courts take this very seriously. Step 3 - Sign up for a credit card in your name - that may get you access to the funds you need to get a referral paid. | >please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money You've been given great advice by u/bug-hunter. I just want to add: please don't look at this as "his money". It's not. It is YOUR (plural) money. Just because the paycheck wasn't in your name, does not mean you are not entitled to it. You sacrificed your career and your life to enrich and support the family unit. He never would have been able to accumulate those assets without your help and sacrifice. Please do not accept a lowball settlement just because you did your work inside the home as opposed to outside it like he did. You are due fair compensation for the sacrifices you made, and for the sake of your children and your future, make sure you get what is yours. And if anyone tries to tell you it is "his" money, you let them know how much a live in nanny/maid for 4 kids costs. Because that is what he would have had to hire if you didn't sacrifice for the family. | 0 | 1,980 | 1.208617 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr3suh | dwr0tw0 | 1,522,787,819 | 1,522,785,615 | 533 | 32 | >please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money You've been given great advice by u/bug-hunter. I just want to add: please don't look at this as "his money". It's not. It is YOUR (plural) money. Just because the paycheck wasn't in your name, does not mean you are not entitled to it. You sacrificed your career and your life to enrich and support the family unit. He never would have been able to accumulate those assets without your help and sacrifice. Please do not accept a lowball settlement just because you did your work inside the home as opposed to outside it like he did. You are due fair compensation for the sacrifices you made, and for the sake of your children and your future, make sure you get what is yours. And if anyone tries to tell you it is "his" money, you let them know how much a live in nanny/maid for 4 kids costs. Because that is what he would have had to hire if you didn't sacrifice for the family. | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | 1 | 2,204 | 16.65625 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr0tw0 | dwr1433 | 1,522,785,615 | 1,522,785,839 | 32 | 441 | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | Step 1 - Look at the TN Justice for All page. It has links to legal aid, and self help resources. Step 2 - Here is the TN Court Self Help page. When filing, you can note that your husband is denying you access to marital assets to hire a lawyer. Courts take this very seriously. Step 3 - Sign up for a credit card in your name - that may get you access to the funds you need to get a referral paid. | 0 | 224 | 13.78125 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrah0d | dwr453h | 1,522,793,331 | 1,522,788,073 | 231 | 124 | Your lawyer doesn't necessarily need to be paid upfront. You DO have money, you just can't access it because your soon-to-be-ex is preventing it. And a lawyer can help you fix that. Because you ARE entitled to that money, at least some of it. And a judge is NOT going to look kindly on a man who cuts his soon to be ex off from their money due to spite and pettiness -especially as a ploy to get full custody. Also:DO NOT TALK TO HIS LAWYER. Once you get your own lawyer, any and all communication from his lawyer should be through your own. Until then, save any letters and voicemails he sends to you, but don't talk to him. Don't give them any information except the name of your own lawyer. | Your husband can’t force you to cede all custody of your kids or leave you destitute because he doesn’t want to remain married. You should apply for a CC in your own name (if your husband regularly paid off the Amex you used to use, you should have a pretty good credit history) and use that card to retain an attorney who can represent you in the divorce. You can try to secure part custody of your kids and some of the value of your joint marital assets. | 1 | 5,258 | 1.862903 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr0tw0 | dwrah0d | 1,522,785,615 | 1,522,793,331 | 32 | 231 | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | Your lawyer doesn't necessarily need to be paid upfront. You DO have money, you just can't access it because your soon-to-be-ex is preventing it. And a lawyer can help you fix that. Because you ARE entitled to that money, at least some of it. And a judge is NOT going to look kindly on a man who cuts his soon to be ex off from their money due to spite and pettiness -especially as a ploy to get full custody. Also:DO NOT TALK TO HIS LAWYER. Once you get your own lawyer, any and all communication from his lawyer should be through your own. Until then, save any letters and voicemails he sends to you, but don't talk to him. Don't give them any information except the name of your own lawyer. | 0 | 7,716 | 7.21875 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr453h | dwrcai5 | 1,522,788,073 | 1,522,794,986 | 124 | 152 | Your husband can’t force you to cede all custody of your kids or leave you destitute because he doesn’t want to remain married. You should apply for a CC in your own name (if your husband regularly paid off the Amex you used to use, you should have a pretty good credit history) and use that card to retain an attorney who can represent you in the divorce. You can try to secure part custody of your kids and some of the value of your joint marital assets. | I am not a lawyer Do not leave the marital home or your children. If he does something like change the locks on you, call the police. | 0 | 6,913 | 1.225806 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr0tw0 | dwrcai5 | 1,522,785,615 | 1,522,794,986 | 32 | 152 | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | I am not a lawyer Do not leave the marital home or your children. If he does something like change the locks on you, call the police. | 0 | 9,371 | 4.75 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr453h | dwr0tw0 | 1,522,788,073 | 1,522,785,615 | 124 | 32 | Your husband can’t force you to cede all custody of your kids or leave you destitute because he doesn’t want to remain married. You should apply for a CC in your own name (if your husband regularly paid off the Amex you used to use, you should have a pretty good credit history) and use that card to retain an attorney who can represent you in the divorce. You can try to secure part custody of your kids and some of the value of your joint marital assets. | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | 1 | 2,458 | 3.875 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr0tw0 | dwrki5z | 1,522,785,615 | 1,522,802,520 | 32 | 56 | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | Go see the best divorce attorneys in town and tell them what your JOINT marital assets are and how much your husband makes. Let them tell *you* if you can afford them or not. Do this ASAP. I am not a lawyer but I think cutting you off like this will look really bad for your husband in court. | 0 | 16,905 | 1.75 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrigia | dwrki5z | 1,522,800,777 | 1,522,802,520 | 18 | 56 | Many, many family law attorneys offer free or very low cost consultations. Please don't think you're out luck because your soon-to-be ex has pulled these shenanigans. | Go see the best divorce attorneys in town and tell them what your JOINT marital assets are and how much your husband makes. Let them tell *you* if you can afford them or not. Do this ASAP. I am not a lawyer but I think cutting you off like this will look really bad for your husband in court. | 0 | 1,743 | 3.111111 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrwkr8 | dwr0tw0 | 1,522,813,675 | 1,522,785,615 | 56 | 32 | > His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." LOL no, not unless YOU want that. Never take legal advice from your opponent's lawyer. Do not move out of your house - it's your house and he cannot remove you. Do not give him your kids - he could potentially move them out of state or hide them from you. See a lawyer to get access to your money. | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | 1 | 28,060 | 1.75 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrmte9 | dwrwkr8 | 1,522,804,529 | 1,522,813,675 | 38 | 56 | Not a lawyer, but in Tennessee you are entitled to alimony, and your fair share of the assets. If he paid into retirement while you watched his kids then you are entitled to some of that as well. He will also pay your legal costs. Speak to a lawyer immediately. If you leave the residence and don't make it clear you are coming back, this could be interpreted as you abandoning the marital home. | > His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." LOL no, not unless YOU want that. Never take legal advice from your opponent's lawyer. Do not move out of your house - it's your house and he cannot remove you. Do not give him your kids - he could potentially move them out of state or hide them from you. See a lawyer to get access to your money. | 0 | 9,146 | 1.473684 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrnypy | dwrwkr8 | 1,522,805,535 | 1,522,813,675 | 26 | 56 | I am not a lawyer, but my mom just went through a highly similar situation in a different state. Turned out okay (so there is hope!). Wow, what a guy your husband is - “I’m not going to care for the kids, but I won’t allow you to either.” I’m sorry. That sucks. If you or your children are in potential physical danger from your husband, pack a go-bag in your car with copies or originals of important documents, a change of clothes for you and your kids, and some cash if you have any. Get a lawyer. Interview a potential attorney before you pay a retainer fee. Ask them: 1) How will you communicate with me as your client? Do you rely on your paralegals to pass on information or are you personally going to be available to answer my questions via email or cell phone? 2) (Find out the name of the judge assigned to your case) What would be a reasonable settlement you think I could expect from this judge? (Some attorneys have positive or negative experience with the judges in your area and will either be like “this is not really gonna work out in your favor” or “there is real potential here” before you even begin) 3) How would we go about getting the best chance of having my children remain with me? What experience do you have in gaining custody for the mother in cases such as this? You need to get temporary orders in place. Your lawyer will help you handle that. Go to the library, google around, and ask around to see if you know anyone who has been through a similar situation. Having one or two understanding/helpful friends REALLY helps in this situation. Be prepared for people you’re close to to not understand your situation. They’re not trying to hurt you, they just don’t get it. Above all, YOU CAN DO THIS! :-) I have so much sympathy for you, and I believe in you. It’s gonna be rough for a while, but it’ll hopefully be okay in the end. | > His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." LOL no, not unless YOU want that. Never take legal advice from your opponent's lawyer. Do not move out of your house - it's your house and he cannot remove you. Do not give him your kids - he could potentially move them out of state or hide them from you. See a lawyer to get access to your money. | 0 | 8,140 | 2.153846 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrwkr8 | dwrv8eu | 1,522,813,675 | 1,522,812,253 | 56 | 29 | > His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." LOL no, not unless YOU want that. Never take legal advice from your opponent's lawyer. Do not move out of your house - it's your house and he cannot remove you. Do not give him your kids - he could potentially move them out of state or hide them from you. See a lawyer to get access to your money. | OK, TN is not a community property state, it’s an equitable distribution state, meaning that property is generally distributed to the party who earned it during the marriage. BUT, you have children together and that changes everything. So, you stop talking to your husband’s lawyer, he is not on your side and won’t be fair. Don’t move out of the marital home, do not cede custody of your children to his parents or anyone else. Reach out to social services, see what benefits you and kids are eligible to receive. Go and talk to a few lawyers, see who would be willing to take on your case, seeking compensation from your spouse. Get and keep your house CPS ready, it should be clean and stocked with all necessary food, meds, diaper, etc. if they show up, cooperate and explain that you’ve been cut off from marital funds but your priority in your children’s well-being. Do not communicate with your ex except in writing. Reach out to family, friends, churches, local aid agencies to keep your kids fed/clothed. You’ll need to start thinking about work, but that’s not the immediate priority. Prepare for it though, and look into child care options, not your in laws. Source: went through a divorce in TN. | 1 | 1,422 | 1.931034 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrwkr8 | dwrigia | 1,522,813,675 | 1,522,800,777 | 56 | 18 | > His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." LOL no, not unless YOU want that. Never take legal advice from your opponent's lawyer. Do not move out of your house - it's your house and he cannot remove you. Do not give him your kids - he could potentially move them out of state or hide them from you. See a lawyer to get access to your money. | Many, many family law attorneys offer free or very low cost consultations. Please don't think you're out luck because your soon-to-be ex has pulled these shenanigans. | 1 | 12,898 | 3.111111 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrwkr8 | dwrph3i | 1,522,813,675 | 1,522,806,873 | 56 | 13 | > His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." LOL no, not unless YOU want that. Never take legal advice from your opponent's lawyer. Do not move out of your house - it's your house and he cannot remove you. Do not give him your kids - he could potentially move them out of state or hide them from you. See a lawyer to get access to your money. | This is, sadly, not that uncommon a situation. I would call around and talk to some lawyers and mention up front that your ex has locked you out of all the finances. Any divorce lawyer will know how to deal with that. | 1 | 6,802 | 4.307692 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwr0tw0 | dwrmte9 | 1,522,785,615 | 1,522,804,529 | 32 | 38 | Please reach out to Family Services in your county and ask for legal aid resources. You may also be able to contact county legal aid directly without going through Family Services. | Not a lawyer, but in Tennessee you are entitled to alimony, and your fair share of the assets. If he paid into retirement while you watched his kids then you are entitled to some of that as well. He will also pay your legal costs. Speak to a lawyer immediately. If you leave the residence and don't make it clear you are coming back, this could be interpreted as you abandoning the marital home. | 0 | 18,914 | 1.1875 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrigia | dwrmte9 | 1,522,800,777 | 1,522,804,529 | 18 | 38 | Many, many family law attorneys offer free or very low cost consultations. Please don't think you're out luck because your soon-to-be ex has pulled these shenanigans. | Not a lawyer, but in Tennessee you are entitled to alimony, and your fair share of the assets. If he paid into retirement while you watched his kids then you are entitled to some of that as well. He will also pay your legal costs. Speak to a lawyer immediately. If you leave the residence and don't make it clear you are coming back, this could be interpreted as you abandoning the marital home. | 0 | 3,752 | 2.111111 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrv8eu | dwrnypy | 1,522,812,253 | 1,522,805,535 | 29 | 26 | OK, TN is not a community property state, it’s an equitable distribution state, meaning that property is generally distributed to the party who earned it during the marriage. BUT, you have children together and that changes everything. So, you stop talking to your husband’s lawyer, he is not on your side and won’t be fair. Don’t move out of the marital home, do not cede custody of your children to his parents or anyone else. Reach out to social services, see what benefits you and kids are eligible to receive. Go and talk to a few lawyers, see who would be willing to take on your case, seeking compensation from your spouse. Get and keep your house CPS ready, it should be clean and stocked with all necessary food, meds, diaper, etc. if they show up, cooperate and explain that you’ve been cut off from marital funds but your priority in your children’s well-being. Do not communicate with your ex except in writing. Reach out to family, friends, churches, local aid agencies to keep your kids fed/clothed. You’ll need to start thinking about work, but that’s not the immediate priority. Prepare for it though, and look into child care options, not your in laws. Source: went through a divorce in TN. | I am not a lawyer, but my mom just went through a highly similar situation in a different state. Turned out okay (so there is hope!). Wow, what a guy your husband is - “I’m not going to care for the kids, but I won’t allow you to either.” I’m sorry. That sucks. If you or your children are in potential physical danger from your husband, pack a go-bag in your car with copies or originals of important documents, a change of clothes for you and your kids, and some cash if you have any. Get a lawyer. Interview a potential attorney before you pay a retainer fee. Ask them: 1) How will you communicate with me as your client? Do you rely on your paralegals to pass on information or are you personally going to be available to answer my questions via email or cell phone? 2) (Find out the name of the judge assigned to your case) What would be a reasonable settlement you think I could expect from this judge? (Some attorneys have positive or negative experience with the judges in your area and will either be like “this is not really gonna work out in your favor” or “there is real potential here” before you even begin) 3) How would we go about getting the best chance of having my children remain with me? What experience do you have in gaining custody for the mother in cases such as this? You need to get temporary orders in place. Your lawyer will help you handle that. Go to the library, google around, and ask around to see if you know anyone who has been through a similar situation. Having one or two understanding/helpful friends REALLY helps in this situation. Be prepared for people you’re close to to not understand your situation. They’re not trying to hurt you, they just don’t get it. Above all, YOU CAN DO THIS! :-) I have so much sympathy for you, and I believe in you. It’s gonna be rough for a while, but it’ll hopefully be okay in the end. | 1 | 6,718 | 1.115385 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrnypy | dwrigia | 1,522,805,535 | 1,522,800,777 | 26 | 18 | I am not a lawyer, but my mom just went through a highly similar situation in a different state. Turned out okay (so there is hope!). Wow, what a guy your husband is - “I’m not going to care for the kids, but I won’t allow you to either.” I’m sorry. That sucks. If you or your children are in potential physical danger from your husband, pack a go-bag in your car with copies or originals of important documents, a change of clothes for you and your kids, and some cash if you have any. Get a lawyer. Interview a potential attorney before you pay a retainer fee. Ask them: 1) How will you communicate with me as your client? Do you rely on your paralegals to pass on information or are you personally going to be available to answer my questions via email or cell phone? 2) (Find out the name of the judge assigned to your case) What would be a reasonable settlement you think I could expect from this judge? (Some attorneys have positive or negative experience with the judges in your area and will either be like “this is not really gonna work out in your favor” or “there is real potential here” before you even begin) 3) How would we go about getting the best chance of having my children remain with me? What experience do you have in gaining custody for the mother in cases such as this? You need to get temporary orders in place. Your lawyer will help you handle that. Go to the library, google around, and ask around to see if you know anyone who has been through a similar situation. Having one or two understanding/helpful friends REALLY helps in this situation. Be prepared for people you’re close to to not understand your situation. They’re not trying to hurt you, they just don’t get it. Above all, YOU CAN DO THIS! :-) I have so much sympathy for you, and I believe in you. It’s gonna be rough for a while, but it’ll hopefully be okay in the end. | Many, many family law attorneys offer free or very low cost consultations. Please don't think you're out luck because your soon-to-be ex has pulled these shenanigans. | 1 | 4,758 | 1.444444 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrv8eu | dwrigia | 1,522,812,253 | 1,522,800,777 | 29 | 18 | OK, TN is not a community property state, it’s an equitable distribution state, meaning that property is generally distributed to the party who earned it during the marriage. BUT, you have children together and that changes everything. So, you stop talking to your husband’s lawyer, he is not on your side and won’t be fair. Don’t move out of the marital home, do not cede custody of your children to his parents or anyone else. Reach out to social services, see what benefits you and kids are eligible to receive. Go and talk to a few lawyers, see who would be willing to take on your case, seeking compensation from your spouse. Get and keep your house CPS ready, it should be clean and stocked with all necessary food, meds, diaper, etc. if they show up, cooperate and explain that you’ve been cut off from marital funds but your priority in your children’s well-being. Do not communicate with your ex except in writing. Reach out to family, friends, churches, local aid agencies to keep your kids fed/clothed. You’ll need to start thinking about work, but that’s not the immediate priority. Prepare for it though, and look into child care options, not your in laws. Source: went through a divorce in TN. | Many, many family law attorneys offer free or very low cost consultations. Please don't think you're out luck because your soon-to-be ex has pulled these shenanigans. | 1 | 11,476 | 1.611111 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwrph3i | dwrv8eu | 1,522,806,873 | 1,522,812,253 | 13 | 29 | This is, sadly, not that uncommon a situation. I would call around and talk to some lawyers and mention up front that your ex has locked you out of all the finances. Any divorce lawyer will know how to deal with that. | OK, TN is not a community property state, it’s an equitable distribution state, meaning that property is generally distributed to the party who earned it during the marriage. BUT, you have children together and that changes everything. So, you stop talking to your husband’s lawyer, he is not on your side and won’t be fair. Don’t move out of the marital home, do not cede custody of your children to his parents or anyone else. Reach out to social services, see what benefits you and kids are eligible to receive. Go and talk to a few lawyers, see who would be willing to take on your case, seeking compensation from your spouse. Get and keep your house CPS ready, it should be clean and stocked with all necessary food, meds, diaper, etc. if they show up, cooperate and explain that you’ve been cut off from marital funds but your priority in your children’s well-being. Do not communicate with your ex except in writing. Reach out to family, friends, churches, local aid agencies to keep your kids fed/clothed. You’ll need to start thinking about work, but that’s not the immediate priority. Prepare for it though, and look into child care options, not your in laws. Source: went through a divorce in TN. | 0 | 5,380 | 2.230769 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwt03gd | dwt8ycm | 1,522,864,135 | 1,522,871,743 | 3 | 6 | God what a sleeze. You got some support comiiinnnnn Inal but you gave up your career to aid him. Child and spousal are coming your way, pretty damn soon after you file a reply to his divorce. Which btw do not do on your own. Hit up legal aid before you put a lawyer on charge. Also try the sob story because some lawyers will start you off for free, then expect payment once you start getting support. | > When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). > Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. Contrary to what some believe, alimony is rarely awarded in divorce cases these days. Where alimony IS awarded is in cases where one spouse has sacrificed their earning potential to support the other spouse's career, such as by moving frequently as required by the high-earning spouse's profession, or to support their family, such as by staying home to take care of children. The court recognizes that you have made tremendous contributions and sacrifices. You are going to be absolutely fine as long as you do not surrender what you are entitled to. Many competent lawyers will be happy to work with you. Don't start off telling them, "I have no money to pay you." Start off with, "My high-earning soon-to-be-ex-husband has locked me out of our bank accounts in an explicit attempt to leave me and our four children with nothing." | 0 | 7,608 | 2 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwt8ycm | dwsfphn | 1,522,871,743 | 1,522,845,825 | 6 | 2 | > When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). > Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. Contrary to what some believe, alimony is rarely awarded in divorce cases these days. Where alimony IS awarded is in cases where one spouse has sacrificed their earning potential to support the other spouse's career, such as by moving frequently as required by the high-earning spouse's profession, or to support their family, such as by staying home to take care of children. The court recognizes that you have made tremendous contributions and sacrifices. You are going to be absolutely fine as long as you do not surrender what you are entitled to. Many competent lawyers will be happy to work with you. Don't start off telling them, "I have no money to pay you." Start off with, "My high-earning soon-to-be-ex-husband has locked me out of our bank accounts in an explicit attempt to leave me and our four children with nothing." | You might also get some support over at /r/Divorce. | 1 | 25,918 | 3 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwsfphn | dwspkbc | 1,522,845,825 | 1,522,855,461 | 2 | 7 | You might also get some support over at /r/Divorce. | Don't talk to his attorney directly ever again. He is telling you a plan that will screw you over. Keep your kids. You have plenty of money. Half of all his assets our yours. Plus you have a huge deal of child support coming your way. Use the resources that /u/bug-hunter posted and find a lawyer that will take payment after the divorce is over. | 0 | 9,636 | 3.5 |
89hulk | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | I am a mother of 4, married and living in Tennessee. Husband is filing for divorce, he locked me out of accounts and I have no control of finances, can't afford a lawyer. What should I do? Here's the tl;dr: We are married and living in tenn. I've never had the best foresight planning for events like this, thought we'd stay together forever and money wasn't an issue. When we got married, he wanted to pay for everything and provide so I didn't work much (I used to have a great job, but his line of work made us move all over the country.. about 8 different countries so it wasn't easy for me to just find work wherever he got a job). We never merged bank accounts and he never gave me access to his, just an AmEx. Which was fine, then... Cut to, we unexpectedly got pregnant and had 4 kids. Neither of us was prepared and since then, I've been a full time mom, all day and all night. We grew apart (ill leave it at that) and now he wants a divorce. His lawyer told me essentially, how about the kids move in with his parents (mine are out of the picture), they'll hire someone to take care of them, and I can basically "never be seen again." I'm not good at this and I can't afford an attorney because I have no access to the accounts and he froze my AmEx. I have some money but not enough to afford an attorney that won't leave me broke, unable to see my kids and nowhere to go... I do not know what laws are like in Tenn but I know when I lived in CA that married couples are entitled to joint bank accounts? Unless I'm wrong? Are there laws in Tenn that demand a wife have access to a bank account? I know laws in Tenn are nothing like they are in CA but I really need some advice and anything constructive will help! Thank you so much everyone, and please don't look at me like I'm trying to get his money, all I want is to be able to afford an attorney to help me get through this without having it ruin my life. Thank you reddit ♥ | dwsfphn | dwt03gd | 1,522,845,825 | 1,522,864,135 | 2 | 3 | You might also get some support over at /r/Divorce. | God what a sleeze. You got some support comiiinnnnn Inal but you gave up your career to aid him. Child and spousal are coming your way, pretty damn soon after you file a reply to his divorce. Which btw do not do on your own. Hit up legal aid before you put a lawyer on charge. Also try the sob story because some lawyers will start you off for free, then expect payment once you start getting support. | 0 | 18,310 | 1.5 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db1os5v | db1o41n | 1,481,430,206 | 1,481,429,136 | 91 | 38 | So how many children of a similar age does this man think he has (since the only way this would work would be if you were using a child he had with another woman). Yes, I know he saw you give birth but he hasn't thought through the lies. | When you say demanding do you mean in a legal filing or just in a series of seething, incoherent texts? Because if it's the latter (and I'm assuming it is), don't even worry about it. Maternity tests, in my experience, are usually for welfare fraud. | 1 | 1,070 | 2.394737 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db1o41n | db1tp1m | 1,481,429,136 | 1,481,439,482 | 38 | 59 | When you say demanding do you mean in a legal filing or just in a series of seething, incoherent texts? Because if it's the latter (and I'm assuming it is), don't even worry about it. Maternity tests, in my experience, are usually for welfare fraud. | I don't think your (ex) *husband* is normal. Do you have any idea what he's trying to achieve here, and why is his lawyer not telling him to STFU and sit down??? | 0 | 10,346 | 1.552632 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db1tp1m | db1t1uz | 1,481,439,482 | 1,481,438,009 | 59 | 29 | I don't think your (ex) *husband* is normal. Do you have any idea what he's trying to achieve here, and why is his lawyer not telling him to STFU and sit down??? | Like, even if he were to prove you aren't the mother, that would just prove that he committed adultery, since he has been proven the father... it makes absolutely no sense lol. | 1 | 1,473 | 2.034483 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db1o41n | db1u2n6 | 1,481,429,136 | 1,481,440,398 | 38 | 51 | When you say demanding do you mean in a legal filing or just in a series of seething, incoherent texts? Because if it's the latter (and I'm assuming it is), don't even worry about it. Maternity tests, in my experience, are usually for welfare fraud. | I'm being serious, does he know how children and sex works? Either he's trying to delay or otherwise mess with you, or he is completely clueless about human reproduction (which, while unusual, does happen). | 0 | 11,262 | 1.342105 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db1t1uz | db1u2n6 | 1,481,438,009 | 1,481,440,398 | 29 | 51 | Like, even if he were to prove you aren't the mother, that would just prove that he committed adultery, since he has been proven the father... it makes absolutely no sense lol. | I'm being serious, does he know how children and sex works? Either he's trying to delay or otherwise mess with you, or he is completely clueless about human reproduction (which, while unusual, does happen). | 0 | 2,389 | 1.758621 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db26v4u | db28p3q | 1,481,473,915 | 1,481,476,559 | 6 | 14 | I'm a bot, *bleep*, *bloop*. Someone has linked to this thread from another place on reddit: - /r/bestoflegaladvice] [Previously on Day of Our Lives, the paternity test proved that the baby Maria gave birth to was indeed Calvin's daughter, but will the maternity test show that Maria is the mother? Tune in to find out... [](#footer)*^(If you follow any of the above links, please respect the rules of reddit and don't vote in the other threads.) ^\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose?to=/r/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot) | Even google doesn't get your husband's request... | 0 | 2,644 | 2.333333 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db29y7n | db26v4u | 1,481,478,291 | 1,481,473,915 | 12 | 6 | Sounds like he is trying really hard to get out of anything regarding your daughter. Its not normal and its hardly even funny. Edit: I know child support can be a touchy subject. But your ex was there through conception and birth. He (I imagine) played an active role in the choice to take your pregnancy to term. If he really wasnt interested in the kid, he had 9 months to gtfo. Instead, he stuck around and then decided he was out as soon as both your lives were irrevocably changed. Thats not being realistic about his ability to care for a child, its cowardice. | I'm a bot, *bleep*, *bloop*. Someone has linked to this thread from another place on reddit: - /r/bestoflegaladvice] [Previously on Day of Our Lives, the paternity test proved that the baby Maria gave birth to was indeed Calvin's daughter, but will the maternity test show that Maria is the mother? Tune in to find out... [](#footer)*^(If you follow any of the above links, please respect the rules of reddit and don't vote in the other threads.) ^\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose?to=/r/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot) | 1 | 4,376 | 2 |
5hnwcs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Husband left the day after our daughter was born. No contact since without lawyers. She's almost one and our divorce is almost final. He's demanding a maternity test (paternity test showed he's the father). Is this normal? I'll ask my lawyer Monday but just wondering - Wyoming | db26v4u | db2h33v | 1,481,473,915 | 1,481,486,791 | 6 | 12 | I'm a bot, *bleep*, *bloop*. Someone has linked to this thread from another place on reddit: - /r/bestoflegaladvice] [Previously on Day of Our Lives, the paternity test proved that the baby Maria gave birth to was indeed Calvin's daughter, but will the maternity test show that Maria is the mother? Tune in to find out... [](#footer)*^(If you follow any of the above links, please respect the rules of reddit and don't vote in the other threads.) ^\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose?to=/r/TotesMessenger))* [](#bot) | Would a judge even order a maternity test for a hospital birth(witnesses ect.)? Wasn't there a case that CPS and accusations of kidnapping and the mother failed the maternity test because she had absorbed a non identical twin in the womb? | 0 | 12,876 | 2 |
bw6k9u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | caught neighbor stealing mail Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!! Columbus Ohio | epviwtg | epvjl47 | 1,559,535,876 | 1,559,536,587 | 2 | 126 | ---
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> Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!!
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bw6k9u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | caught neighbor stealing mail Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!! Columbus Ohio | epvq138 | epvjz9m | 1,559,544,576 | 1,559,537,009 | 37 | 27 | You've been given great advice, just as a (hopefully) helpful addition; I would highly recommend setting up Informed Delivery -- This is s free service that allows you to digitally preview your mail. If you register with your father's address (and yours when ready), you'll then be able to more easily track these items until there's a resolution. | You can contact the postal inspectors and report her for stealing mail. However, your father should not have placed anything in your mailbox, so there might not be anything they can do about that part. | 1 | 7,567 | 1.37037 |
bw6k9u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | caught neighbor stealing mail Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!! Columbus Ohio | epvq138 | epviwtg | 1,559,544,576 | 1,559,535,876 | 37 | 2 | You've been given great advice, just as a (hopefully) helpful addition; I would highly recommend setting up Informed Delivery -- This is s free service that allows you to digitally preview your mail. If you register with your father's address (and yours when ready), you'll then be able to more easily track these items until there's a resolution. | ---
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> Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!!
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bw6k9u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | caught neighbor stealing mail Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!! Columbus Ohio | epvjz9m | epviwtg | 1,559,537,009 | 1,559,535,876 | 27 | 2 | You can contact the postal inspectors and report her for stealing mail. However, your father should not have placed anything in your mailbox, so there might not be anything they can do about that part. | ---
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> Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!!
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bw6k9u | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | caught neighbor stealing mail Hi so I just moved into my first big girl apartment a couple months ago. I never switched my address on anything so all my mail still goes to my dads. I get the previous tenants mail everyday so I usually just sift through to make sure I don’t have anything for me in there and leave the mail that isn’t mine. The mail disappears after a couple days so I assume the post man takes it and sends it back or whatever they do. So I get a lot of mail for a “Stacy” who I know lived there at least 5 years ago. The neighbor across from me started calling me Stacy (my name is Mariah). I knew she had to of looked in my mail to come up with the name Stacy. I just assumed she forgot my name and didn’t want to look like an ass hole so she looked at my mail to see my name. About a week ago I saw her in the reflection of a screen door looking in either mine or the guy above me mailbox. Not cool. So this brings me to Sunday night. My dad dropped off mail in my box at 7:30 pm. I returned home at 10pm and the mail was gone. It’s pretty obvious to me who took my mail considering I know she has been in my mailbox at least twice. It’s pretty unsettling that she’s taking my mail idk if she’s trying to commit some sort of fraud or if she’s just really damn nosey. I plan to contact my land lord tomorrow but I would really appreciate any advice!!! Columbus Ohio | epvy41j | epviwtg | 1,559,557,838 | 1,559,535,876 | 4 | 2 | Stealing mail is a federal crime. https://about.usps.com/publications/pub166/pub166_tech_012.htm | ---
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xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnzdl9 | ipnj5if | 1,663,982,340 | 1,663,974,190 | 486 | 338 | If USPS, just return it to the USPS marked not at this address. If private delivery, like UPS, FedEx, etc, call their number to come pick it back up. If Google Maps is not correct, you can open a ticket to correct it online. | I would tell them I am no longer accepting any packages from then. After that, “not at this address” on all packages. | 1 | 8,150 | 1.43787 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnqd1y | ipnzdl9 | 1,663,977,785 | 1,663,982,340 | 199 | 486 | Return to sender as not at this address. Your neighbors have to work it out with the post office to get their address into the national AMS delivery database. | If USPS, just return it to the USPS marked not at this address. If private delivery, like UPS, FedEx, etc, call their number to come pick it back up. If Google Maps is not correct, you can open a ticket to correct it online. | 0 | 4,555 | 2.442211 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnzdl9 | ipnm6yh | 1,663,982,340 | 1,663,975,674 | 486 | 43 | If USPS, just return it to the USPS marked not at this address. If private delivery, like UPS, FedEx, etc, call their number to come pick it back up. If Google Maps is not correct, you can open a ticket to correct it online. | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | 1 | 6,666 | 11.302326 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnzdl9 | ipntcvx | 1,663,982,340 | 1,663,979,304 | 486 | 18 | If USPS, just return it to the USPS marked not at this address. If private delivery, like UPS, FedEx, etc, call their number to come pick it back up. If Google Maps is not correct, you can open a ticket to correct it online. | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | 1 | 3,036 | 27 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnzdl9 | ipnorcz | 1,663,982,340 | 1,663,976,959 | 486 | 3 | If USPS, just return it to the USPS marked not at this address. If private delivery, like UPS, FedEx, etc, call their number to come pick it back up. If Google Maps is not correct, you can open a ticket to correct it online. | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | 1 | 5,381 | 162 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnj5if | ipo3wl1 | 1,663,974,190 | 1,663,984,694 | 338 | 396 | I would tell them I am no longer accepting any packages from then. After that, “not at this address” on all packages. | [For USPS-delivered mail items or packages] In addition to writing "Not At This Address, Return To Sender" on the mail, take a Sharpie® marker and black out the printed barcode. Otherwise, the mail item might be automagically re-delivered to you. Also, keep in mind that pre-sort items (things sent bulk rate) generally won't be returned to the sender. The post office will just throw them away if they're not planning on returning to the sender. | 0 | 10,504 | 1.171598 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo3wl1 | ipnqd1y | 1,663,984,694 | 1,663,977,785 | 396 | 199 | [For USPS-delivered mail items or packages] In addition to writing "Not At This Address, Return To Sender" on the mail, take a Sharpie® marker and black out the printed barcode. Otherwise, the mail item might be automagically re-delivered to you. Also, keep in mind that pre-sort items (things sent bulk rate) generally won't be returned to the sender. The post office will just throw them away if they're not planning on returning to the sender. | Return to sender as not at this address. Your neighbors have to work it out with the post office to get their address into the national AMS delivery database. | 1 | 6,909 | 1.98995 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo3wl1 | ipnm6yh | 1,663,984,694 | 1,663,975,674 | 396 | 43 | [For USPS-delivered mail items or packages] In addition to writing "Not At This Address, Return To Sender" on the mail, take a Sharpie® marker and black out the printed barcode. Otherwise, the mail item might be automagically re-delivered to you. Also, keep in mind that pre-sort items (things sent bulk rate) generally won't be returned to the sender. The post office will just throw them away if they're not planning on returning to the sender. | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | 1 | 9,020 | 9.209302 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipntcvx | ipo3wl1 | 1,663,979,304 | 1,663,984,694 | 18 | 396 | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | [For USPS-delivered mail items or packages] In addition to writing "Not At This Address, Return To Sender" on the mail, take a Sharpie® marker and black out the printed barcode. Otherwise, the mail item might be automagically re-delivered to you. Also, keep in mind that pre-sort items (things sent bulk rate) generally won't be returned to the sender. The post office will just throw them away if they're not planning on returning to the sender. | 0 | 5,390 | 22 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo3wl1 | ipnorcz | 1,663,984,694 | 1,663,976,959 | 396 | 3 | [For USPS-delivered mail items or packages] In addition to writing "Not At This Address, Return To Sender" on the mail, take a Sharpie® marker and black out the printed barcode. Otherwise, the mail item might be automagically re-delivered to you. Also, keep in mind that pre-sort items (things sent bulk rate) generally won't be returned to the sender. The post office will just throw them away if they're not planning on returning to the sender. | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | 1 | 7,735 | 132 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnqd1y | ipnm6yh | 1,663,977,785 | 1,663,975,674 | 199 | 43 | Return to sender as not at this address. Your neighbors have to work it out with the post office to get their address into the national AMS delivery database. | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | 1 | 2,111 | 4.627907 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnorcz | ipnqd1y | 1,663,976,959 | 1,663,977,785 | 3 | 199 | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | Return to sender as not at this address. Your neighbors have to work it out with the post office to get their address into the national AMS delivery database. | 0 | 826 | 66.333333 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnm6yh | ipo7g7g | 1,663,975,674 | 1,663,986,566 | 43 | 135 | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | If they use UPS, you can use UPS My Choice to view shipments coming to your address and redirect them one way or another. Depending on how kind you want to me you can redirect it to your neighbors house, or you can set it to hold for pickup and let them figure out where their package is. Either way, it never even gets to your house to have to deal with. | 0 | 10,892 | 3.139535 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo7g7g | ipntcvx | 1,663,986,566 | 1,663,979,304 | 135 | 18 | If they use UPS, you can use UPS My Choice to view shipments coming to your address and redirect them one way or another. Depending on how kind you want to me you can redirect it to your neighbors house, or you can set it to hold for pickup and let them figure out where their package is. Either way, it never even gets to your house to have to deal with. | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | 1 | 7,262 | 7.5 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo7g7g | ipnorcz | 1,663,986,566 | 1,663,976,959 | 135 | 3 | If they use UPS, you can use UPS My Choice to view shipments coming to your address and redirect them one way or another. Depending on how kind you want to me you can redirect it to your neighbors house, or you can set it to hold for pickup and let them figure out where their package is. Either way, it never even gets to your house to have to deal with. | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | 1 | 9,607 | 45 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo82qi | ipok2tb | 1,663,986,899 | 1,663,994,002 | 63 | 73 | Fedex as well is based on the information behind google maps. UPS doesn't seem to have this problem. You can add their address to google maps. | They might be using stolen credit cards. I would report them before the police knock on your door. | 0 | 7,103 | 1.15873 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipohlao | ipok2tb | 1,663,992,390 | 1,663,994,002 | 54 | 73 | Write "not at this address. Return to sender." Leave it for the postman. Call it a day. Tell her you didn't receive any packages that weren't your own. Everything not addressed to you was marked return to sender. Close the door. Call it a day. Wouldn't hurt to call the postmaster at your local branch and report it. The do not take mail fraud lightly. If it is mail fraud, I don't know. But they will. | They might be using stolen credit cards. I would report them before the police knock on your door. | 0 | 1,612 | 1.351852 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipohw39 | ipok2tb | 1,663,992,577 | 1,663,994,002 | 51 | 73 | Write “return to sender - no one here by this name” on the package. I’ve also contacted the post office through their online system - it was pretty easy but just temporarily effective. You can also try posting your name on the mailbox. If it’s bad enough, you can write a short note and post it on your mailbox that says “Refusing any packages or letters addressed to NAME. No one resides here by that name.” Good luck! | They might be using stolen credit cards. I would report them before the police knock on your door. | 0 | 1,425 | 1.431373 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipok2tb | ipnm6yh | 1,663,994,002 | 1,663,975,674 | 73 | 43 | They might be using stolen credit cards. I would report them before the police knock on your door. | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | 1 | 18,328 | 1.697674 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipok2tb | ipo7rq8 | 1,663,994,002 | 1,663,986,736 | 73 | 27 | They might be using stolen credit cards. I would report them before the police knock on your door. | May be worth fixing there Google pin for them if they will not do it. Had to do it for my new home. Process was very simple and was able to do it on my phone m. | 1 | 7,266 | 2.703704 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipntcvx | ipok2tb | 1,663,979,304 | 1,663,994,002 | 18 | 73 | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | They might be using stolen credit cards. I would report them before the police knock on your door. | 0 | 14,698 | 4.055556 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnorcz | ipok2tb | 1,663,976,959 | 1,663,994,002 | 3 | 73 | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | They might be using stolen credit cards. I would report them before the police knock on your door. | 0 | 17,043 | 24.333333 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnm6yh | ipo82qi | 1,663,975,674 | 1,663,986,899 | 43 | 63 | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | Fedex as well is based on the information behind google maps. UPS doesn't seem to have this problem. You can add their address to google maps. | 0 | 11,225 | 1.465116 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo82qi | ipo7rq8 | 1,663,986,899 | 1,663,986,736 | 63 | 27 | Fedex as well is based on the information behind google maps. UPS doesn't seem to have this problem. You can add their address to google maps. | May be worth fixing there Google pin for them if they will not do it. Had to do it for my new home. Process was very simple and was able to do it on my phone m. | 1 | 163 | 2.333333 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo82qi | ipntcvx | 1,663,986,899 | 1,663,979,304 | 63 | 18 | Fedex as well is based on the information behind google maps. UPS doesn't seem to have this problem. You can add their address to google maps. | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | 1 | 7,595 | 3.5 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo82qi | ipnorcz | 1,663,986,899 | 1,663,976,959 | 63 | 3 | Fedex as well is based on the information behind google maps. UPS doesn't seem to have this problem. You can add their address to google maps. | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | 1 | 9,940 | 21 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipp72os | ipohlao | 1,664,012,405 | 1,663,992,390 | 56 | 54 | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | Write "not at this address. Return to sender." Leave it for the postman. Call it a day. Tell her you didn't receive any packages that weren't your own. Everything not addressed to you was marked return to sender. Close the door. Call it a day. Wouldn't hurt to call the postmaster at your local branch and report it. The do not take mail fraud lightly. If it is mail fraud, I don't know. But they will. | 1 | 20,015 | 1.037037 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipohlao | ipnm6yh | 1,663,992,390 | 1,663,975,674 | 54 | 43 | Write "not at this address. Return to sender." Leave it for the postman. Call it a day. Tell her you didn't receive any packages that weren't your own. Everything not addressed to you was marked return to sender. Close the door. Call it a day. Wouldn't hurt to call the postmaster at your local branch and report it. The do not take mail fraud lightly. If it is mail fraud, I don't know. But they will. | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | 1 | 16,716 | 1.255814 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo7rq8 | ipohlao | 1,663,986,736 | 1,663,992,390 | 27 | 54 | May be worth fixing there Google pin for them if they will not do it. Had to do it for my new home. Process was very simple and was able to do it on my phone m. | Write "not at this address. Return to sender." Leave it for the postman. Call it a day. Tell her you didn't receive any packages that weren't your own. Everything not addressed to you was marked return to sender. Close the door. Call it a day. Wouldn't hurt to call the postmaster at your local branch and report it. The do not take mail fraud lightly. If it is mail fraud, I don't know. But they will. | 0 | 5,654 | 2 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipntcvx | ipohlao | 1,663,979,304 | 1,663,992,390 | 18 | 54 | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | Write "not at this address. Return to sender." Leave it for the postman. Call it a day. Tell her you didn't receive any packages that weren't your own. Everything not addressed to you was marked return to sender. Close the door. Call it a day. Wouldn't hurt to call the postmaster at your local branch and report it. The do not take mail fraud lightly. If it is mail fraud, I don't know. But they will. | 0 | 13,086 | 3 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipohlao | ipnorcz | 1,663,992,390 | 1,663,976,959 | 54 | 3 | Write "not at this address. Return to sender." Leave it for the postman. Call it a day. Tell her you didn't receive any packages that weren't your own. Everything not addressed to you was marked return to sender. Close the door. Call it a day. Wouldn't hurt to call the postmaster at your local branch and report it. The do not take mail fraud lightly. If it is mail fraud, I don't know. But they will. | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | 1 | 15,431 | 18 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipp72os | ipohw39 | 1,664,012,405 | 1,663,992,577 | 56 | 51 | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | Write “return to sender - no one here by this name” on the package. I’ve also contacted the post office through their online system - it was pretty easy but just temporarily effective. You can also try posting your name on the mailbox. If it’s bad enough, you can write a short note and post it on your mailbox that says “Refusing any packages or letters addressed to NAME. No one resides here by that name.” Good luck! | 1 | 19,828 | 1.098039 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipp72os | ipnm6yh | 1,664,012,405 | 1,663,975,674 | 56 | 43 | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | 1 | 36,731 | 1.302326 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipoxdqn | ipp72os | 1,664,003,983 | 1,664,012,405 | 33 | 56 | If you decide to send it back, but haven’t yet, I would not bring their package into my house. If someone drops it off on your porch leave it on your porch. Or toss it out into your yard. You are not required to keep it safe. Raining? Oops. It’s out in the yard. Snowing? Well would you look at that? It’s in that giant snow pile on the side of my house. Most of the time the delivery drivers ring the bell or knock, drop the package and leave. They don’t care if you’re home. If they send someone for it, tell them to look around the yard. You’re not the ward of their packages. If it’s something you ever need to sign for, refuse. | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | 0 | 8,422 | 1.69697 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo7rq8 | ipp72os | 1,663,986,736 | 1,664,012,405 | 27 | 56 | May be worth fixing there Google pin for them if they will not do it. Had to do it for my new home. Process was very simple and was able to do it on my phone m. | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | 0 | 25,669 | 2.074074 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipp72os | ipntcvx | 1,664,012,405 | 1,663,979,304 | 56 | 18 | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | 1 | 33,101 | 3.111111 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipp72os | ipnorcz | 1,664,012,405 | 1,663,976,959 | 56 | 3 | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | 1 | 35,446 | 18.666667 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipp3z1l | ipp72os | 1,664,009,638 | 1,664,012,405 | 2 | 56 | Tell the delivery person that the receiver no longer lives here and has moved to an unknown address. | Not a lawyer First I would tell your neighbor that any future package will be refused/returned. Then, If you are there when any package is delivered you can simply refuse to accept it and the delivery service will return it to sender for you. If you aren't home (or the driver was too sneaky) just take it to ups/fedex/post office and say this is addressed wrong and not to anyone who lives here. | 0 | 2,767 | 28 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnm6yh | ipohw39 | 1,663,975,674 | 1,663,992,577 | 43 | 51 | Not a lawyer I do believe you can contact the shipping agency and tell them “x does not live here. I do not want to receive packages with x name” | Write “return to sender - no one here by this name” on the package. I’ve also contacted the post office through their online system - it was pretty easy but just temporarily effective. You can also try posting your name on the mailbox. If it’s bad enough, you can write a short note and post it on your mailbox that says “Refusing any packages or letters addressed to NAME. No one resides here by that name.” Good luck! | 0 | 16,903 | 1.186047 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipohw39 | ipo7rq8 | 1,663,992,577 | 1,663,986,736 | 51 | 27 | Write “return to sender - no one here by this name” on the package. I’ve also contacted the post office through their online system - it was pretty easy but just temporarily effective. You can also try posting your name on the mailbox. If it’s bad enough, you can write a short note and post it on your mailbox that says “Refusing any packages or letters addressed to NAME. No one resides here by that name.” Good luck! | May be worth fixing there Google pin for them if they will not do it. Had to do it for my new home. Process was very simple and was able to do it on my phone m. | 1 | 5,841 | 1.888889 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipohw39 | ipntcvx | 1,663,992,577 | 1,663,979,304 | 51 | 18 | Write “return to sender - no one here by this name” on the package. I’ve also contacted the post office through their online system - it was pretty easy but just temporarily effective. You can also try posting your name on the mailbox. If it’s bad enough, you can write a short note and post it on your mailbox that says “Refusing any packages or letters addressed to NAME. No one resides here by that name.” Good luck! | Just mark it return to sender and drop it back at the post office or with the postman. Don’t answer the door when they pop over to inquire about their packages. Problem solved. | 1 | 13,273 | 2.833333 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipnorcz | ipohw39 | 1,663,976,959 | 1,663,992,577 | 3 | 51 | Is there a reason you have to sign for the package (could you not refuse to sign if it’s one of those)? Or if you don’t have to sign, a reason you pick it up and bring it inside? I would just leave it on my porch/side walk, wherever it was placed and just ignore it, so I was wondering why you retrieve it. I understand if you don’t want them coming onto your property all the time to retrieve the package though. | Write “return to sender - no one here by this name” on the package. I’ve also contacted the post office through their online system - it was pretty easy but just temporarily effective. You can also try posting your name on the mailbox. If it’s bad enough, you can write a short note and post it on your mailbox that says “Refusing any packages or letters addressed to NAME. No one resides here by that name.” Good luck! | 0 | 15,618 | 17 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipoxdqn | ipp7ag0 | 1,664,003,983 | 1,664,012,597 | 33 | 37 | If you decide to send it back, but haven’t yet, I would not bring their package into my house. If someone drops it off on your porch leave it on your porch. Or toss it out into your yard. You are not required to keep it safe. Raining? Oops. It’s out in the yard. Snowing? Well would you look at that? It’s in that giant snow pile on the side of my house. Most of the time the delivery drivers ring the bell or knock, drop the package and leave. They don’t care if you’re home. If they send someone for it, tell them to look around the yard. You’re not the ward of their packages. If it’s something you ever need to sign for, refuse. | You, or anyone with access to Google maps can simply pull up the location on the map and then click "edit", then type in the corrections. I recently moved and my street name is supposed to be one word. However Google had it listed as two words. I submitted the correction. It can take a few days before it starts showing up correctly in Google. But yes I've done this before and it does work. Good luck! | 0 | 8,614 | 1.121212 |
xmbgxn | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My neighbors use my mailing address for packages and we are not on good terms. What are my legal obligations when I receive one? My neighbors have on multiple occasions sent packages to my address. I know this is likely on purpose because their address doesn't come up properly when you google it, but ours does. Given that delivery services like Amazon or Walmart probably use google maps, it seems intentional that they are using our address to get their packages sent to our house, and then have us begrudgingly drop it off at their door. Once they sent one of their kids over to ask for their package when we didn't bring it fast enough. I feel that this is attempt to annoy us because they could send the packages to the neighbor on the other side of their house - it's just as close and AFAIK they aren't on bad terms with them. My question is do I have a legal right to withhold their package if it is addressed to my house? My intention is to return the package to the sender. Obviously, I will not open or tamper with their package in any way. What if they have someone knock on my door and request the package? Am I legally required to give it to them when it has my address on it? | ipo7rq8 | ipp7ag0 | 1,663,986,736 | 1,664,012,597 | 27 | 37 | May be worth fixing there Google pin for them if they will not do it. Had to do it for my new home. Process was very simple and was able to do it on my phone m. | You, or anyone with access to Google maps can simply pull up the location on the map and then click "edit", then type in the corrections. I recently moved and my street name is supposed to be one word. However Google had it listed as two words. I submitted the correction. It can take a few days before it starts showing up correctly in Google. But yes I've done this before and it does work. Good luck! | 0 | 25,861 | 1.37037 |
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