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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22/F] and hooking up with a guy [24/M] that has a girlfriend of 10 years. What do I do, I am insane?
POST: I know I am crazy, and stupid messing with him. & I know that there's no good reason for me to be messing with him, but right now I feel so lonely, and he makes me feel wanted, and happy.
He takes me out on dates, and we have amazing sex. I honestly think he is bored of his whiny and jealous girlfriend. I kinda want them to break up, but at the same time, I know I do not want him to be my boyfriend because I know that will just never work out. I will just be paranoid all the time. If he could cheat on her, he would definitely cheat on me...
But I don't want to stop seeing him. I don't want to stop flirting and going on dates with him. I do not want to stop having sex with him..
TL;DR: | With a guy that has a girlfriend of 10 years... my mind is conflicting whether or not I should leave.. help my crazy mind? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My (24/M) semi-girlfriend (20/f) is having pregnancy symptoms,and I have a question about the time period.
POST: So I started seeing this girl exactly 2 weeks ago,we've known each other for a few years were just never single at the same time. A little over a month ago, she broke up with her ex boyfriend, lets say the last time they had sex was 31 days ago. The past I dont know, week or so she has been having a lot of pregnancy symptoms. We had sex for the first time 10 days ago, and maybe 6 times since then in those 10 days. She has the morning sickness,nausea, food aversion, painful breasts, she is always feeling bad and has thorwn up multiple times. And of course the big one, she missed her period. What is the time frame for these things? She (we) are worried that if she is pregnant, theres a chance it would have been from her ex a month ago and the symptoms are coming now. Does that sound right, or does it sound like its more possible this might have happened during one of the early times we had sex, first being like I said, 10,maybe 11 days ago. A little fun fact to add in is that I was about 9 days into my first ever /r/nofap journey the first time we had sex and though I have never intentionally finished in her, i'm sure that build up caused some to get out before I had a chance to. Thanks in advance for your time/comments.
TL;DR: | Dating new girl, might be pregnant, had sex with ex 1 month ago,me 10 days ago, wondering who would more likely be the father. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: Thinking of adopting a cat but already have Pit Terrier.
POST: Some background first. Last year a couple of my friends found a stray Pit Terrier that had wandered into their neighbor's yard. So as any 5 college guys would do they decided to keep the dog (his name is Snoop). It's an awesome dog, friendly energetic but not too aggressive. Here is what I'm worried about. One of my friends (now my roommate) had a pet parakeet. Snoop was fucking obsessed with the bird from the time it came into the house and wanted to get it any way he could. One day I'm not entirely sure how but Snoop manage to catch the bird and he fucking ate it. I understood it as animal instinct and wasn't too worried about it, but I was thinking of adopting a cat and my only worry is that Snoop and the cat won't get along or Snoop will fucking kill the cat. So what do you guys think? Would it be safe for me to bring a cat into the house?
TL;DR: | Already have a Pit Terrier that has killed a pet Parakeet before.Want to adopt a cat but afraid that my Pit Terrier will not get along with the cat. Thoughts? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Whats the funniest thing thats ever happened to you?
POST: Ill start,
So I couldnt eat. I have many, but small disorders that are re-occuring, usually fear or confusion. Anyways, I hadnt eaten in about a week and I was really hungry but I was almost scared to eat.
So my neighbour, she is unbelievably pretty, you would think shes all duck facey and whoretastic, but no. She only hangs around me. So she has a literal POUND of weed and I NEVER do it unless im with her, so we do as we do and go through about half of it.
I end up being a hungry little hippo and I eat all I can in my house. We go to hers and I eat more.
After a couple games of SSBB I stand up and I swear my ass was suddenly washed with draino. I said ill be back and I sprinted to my house and locked myself in the bathroom. I proceeded to shit. Not liquid or anything, it was the smooth shit that usually youre proud of.
However, It didnt stop. It broke from the strand once and a while, but it pretty much filled up the bowl. So my friend is back and she opens the door, not sure how. So she sees it and instantly goes red, cries and starts laughing. By now we were affected by the stuff badly and we were stupid as shit (get it) so she says "We gotta get that outta there, itll jam" so we proceed to get little toy shovels and shovel it into a bucket.
I flushed the rest. We then got the bucket and went to the no dogs park and poured it all at the base of the no dogs sign.
We went home and laughed for a good hour.
Note: Sorry for talking about drugs, I know some are uncomfortable about it, as am I. I just am really close with this friend.
Note 2: I PROMISE. This shit was legit.
TL;DR: | Didnt eat for a while, got high, ate a ton of food. Shat the smoothest, biggest line of shit and put it in a no dogs park. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why do i find it hard to start a relationship? [22 M] When I really want spend time with someone.
POST: New to reddit, so forgive any mistakes in the format.
So, my last relationship was 3 years ago (bad breakup, she was a bitch basically).
i've been on dates since then, but it never seemed like any of the women i dated were 'right' for me. I don't sleep around...
I'm not a drinker so find it hard to socialise at this age and meet people. Tinder is the best option I guess... anyway, over the years i've lost a lot of confidence in meeting people.
Am i being stupid to think that by not drinking that wouldn't be appealing to women? When dates are going well, I will nearly always back out of seeing the person again.
I'm speaking to someone on tinder right now who i really like, but i am afraid it will be the same thing again... me backing down when getting to know her more.
Any advice on how to gain more confidence and as to why i seem to avoid relationships even though I do really want to see someone?
Thanks Reddit.
TL;DR: | 22 (M) non-drinker struggling to gain confidence to start relationships with (F's). When everything is going well getting to know them, I back down and pull away from it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my boss makes me and my coworkers hate our job, yet we still find a way to enjoy our day. What awesome things do you do at work to take your mind off of your scumbag boss?
POST: At work, in our department, we have 2 bathrooms, one men's and one women's. There are a total of 5 guys and 1 woman. 4 out of 5 of us decided it would be entertaining to do a colon cleanse at the same time. Well as you can imagine, there have been some rough times fighting for the bathrooms.
This morning one of the guys, let's call him Alex steps into the bathroom and steps right back out, and is wondering wtf happened in there. Someone took a crap and it was as if someone sprayed it all over the inside of the toilet. After some investigation we found out it was Jonathan, who is now called Jonathan super soaker 2000 'smith'( not real last name) anytime we call for him.
TL;DR: | 4/5 guys from work decided to do a colon cleanse even though we have 1 bathroom. Guy takes a crazy dump and earns the name super soaker 2000. |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Door banging neighbour gets his just reward
POST: I moved into a new house a few months ago, and the first thing we (wife, kid, and I) noticed is that one of our neighbours has a habit of closing doors by slamming them loudly. Loud enough that you have to wonder whether those doors are still in one piece.
It's not just once, no, but every time a door is closed.. *WHAM* - regardless of what time it is. Unfortunately if it happens at night, it tends to wake up the kidlet who then doesn't want to go back to sleep.
Upon my question of whether they could, you know, close the door without making it sound like they're trying to dropkick it through the house I was met with a simple statement: "meh". And it continued.
So, I took my 30 watt bass amp/speaker combo (and trust me, it can be loud) and placed it right up against the wall separating our houses. I then proceeded to play 2 hours straight at stupid volume. Every time I hear a door bang I repeat the exercise the morning after.
TL;DR: | cake is good, bacon is good, cake with bacon around it is better. Also revenge by practicing my hobby tastes just as sweet, but pettier. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 M], not sure if this goes here, but I'm about to be guilted into marriage
POST: My dad wants me to get married. He believes that everyone has to find a partner, settle down, start a family. That's how life is supposed to work and that's how to find happiness.
He also wants grandchildren. He's approaching retirement age at 65. He lives kids and wants to hold his grandchildren before he dies one day.
He had a heart attack a few years ago. My family was extremely worried/sad and we're glad he recovered from it.
My dad is a very dramatic person. During his time in the hospital, he kept not wanting to see me or my sisters and would rather die in the hospital bed instead because "we're all horrible children who never listen to him."
He has been talking to my aunt and they found a girl in Asia who they want me to talk to. If things work out, he would like me and her to get married and start a family.
Me: I don't want to get married yet. I don't feel like I'm ready to get married and I'd rather be working on my master's degree/career.
I've been torn between trying to explain to him that I want to get married on my own terms, not from some arrangement. But if they want me to get married so bad, I told them to bring her over here and I'll sign the marriage papers to make him happy. I'm really ready to just throw in the towel and let my dad dictate my life like a robot so I don't have to deal with his dramatic ways and guilt-inducing lifestyle.
Deep in my heart, I don't want to get married yet. I do one day, but not right now. At the same time, I'm sure I'll live in eternal guilt if I were unable to present grandchildren to him before he passes.
TL;DR: | Dad guilting me into settling down, have a family, have children. I don't want to yet, but contemplating it to be free of this guilt. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] really like him [27M] but he just wants to be friends
POST: I met this guy on OKcupid when I was trying to get over another guy and I ended up falling for him. I slept with him on our first date and after that he invited me to his place weekly and we would bang and hang out.
He told me he didn't want any commitments on our first date and I wasn't too sure what that meant and when I told my guy friends later about this relationship they explained to me that I was just a fuck buddy. The guy I'm seeing has told me that he finds my face cute and personality very attractive, but my body not so much. When I brought up that I had met another guy and he might not be okay with me banging him, he told me that he'd still like to see me as friends without the sex.
I really like this guy to the point where I just want to be with him and make him happy and it makes me incredibly sad that he doesn't feel the same. I know I should stop seeing him since he's making me incredibly sad but I can't do it. I can't bear the thought of not seeing him again.
I'm not sure whether I'm just being jealous because a couple of days ago I was like, I totally don't want a relationship with this guy and then he told me he was going on a second date with another girl and that made me incredibly sad and cry.
I don't know why this guy wants to be friends with me. I'm not sure what's so great about my company, and if he doesn't care about the sex, I'm just at a complete loss to what value I give this guy. I know he got out of a really bad seven year relationship but I also know that that doesn't matter at all because he's obviously seeing other girls and has literally told me in the "no commitments" "let's be friends" that he's not into me. But there's always a tiny part of me that hopes for more.
TL;DR: | I'm in love with someone who just wants to be friends. I want to be friends with him even though it feels like a bitch. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF [19 F] of four months: She keeps doing things with her friends that make me uncomfortable. Please help me calibrate my sensitivity.
POST: To be clear: This is not an issue of infidelity. It is a matter of me being more "conservative" or "proper" than my girlfriend, in having stricter boundaries for what is okay to do with friends and strangers when in our relationship.
New things keep popping up that make me uncomfortable. For example, she told me she likes to spoon with male friends. I conveyed my discomfort, we talked about it and clarified what is OK and not. That was straightforward enough. But some cases are not as clear-cut to me. I have a hard time separatng what is simply a matter of my personal boundaries, and what is due to my insecurity (I do think I can be overly sensitive or insecure in relationships).
So let's take two examples that occured today: My GF is in a camp where she is sharing a small room with 2 girls and 2 guys. Today, she tells me they already have "internal jokes, like trying to do the helicopter with our breasts" (fully clothed, I think). She also tells me that they shaved the back of one guy, so he could get some tattoo. So she and her female friend were sitting next to him, applying stuff and shaving his back.
Now, both of these situations make me uncomfortable. But should I adapt to it? Or is this something you guys would react to as well? My own feeling is that breasts are sexual, and I feel very uncomfortable if my GF is playing around with her breasts with some guys. Just talking about her breasts make me uncomfortable. I feel that she doesn't understand how sexual breasts are to guys (especially large ones like hers) and that she is naively putting them on display. And concerning the back-shaving: I feel that it is a bit intimate. Heck, if I was some single guy getting my back shaved and tended to by two girls, I'd feel pretty awesome. But maybe I'm just a douche. I do feel I'm being overly sensitive on this point.
What do you guys feel?
TL;DR: | GF has fun with her breasts around guys, and does other things that make me uncomfortable. Would it make you uncomfortable too? Should I bring it up or learn to live with it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I (20M) overreacting to my girlfriend (21F) not messaging me for a couple of days when she said she would?
POST: So my girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months and we have decent communication when we dont see eachother. Very recently I have started to notice a decline in her messaging me, and only when its convenient for her. This could possibly be due to lack of interest.
She has started to get stressed with her work, and other aspects in her life to where she gets busy and I never hold that against her. But I feel that it doesn't take much effort to say a few words to me (doesn't matter what time of the day). Your probably wondering... Why dont you say something first! Well I do that all the time, and whenever she says she will text me I assume that she will. The last time we spoke was Friday over the phone. This is when she told me she was going to text me later so I thought it was safe to assume she would. I was being be patient. To make a long story short I haven't heard back from her since that day. Unforunately I was on facebook a couple of hours ago to find out that she was active. Still no message from her at all. I know she has work and that keeps her busy but I know she was off and that made me a bit angry. I wish I didn't see her online but it happened. She has informed me in the past when I asked her why she didn't communicate with me at all for a day or two and she just told me she was busy. I think at some point we have all heard this excuse before.
Any advice or opinions on my situtation? Do I have the right to be angry? I have been trying to give her space but I didn't think she would go this long without saying something to me.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend is getting on facebook but isn't messaging me like she said she would. Its been a couple of days. I need suggestions or advice on what to do please. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Confidence Issues
POST: Hello, I (17/m) have been talking with a girl (14/f) for some time now, and asked her out to prom. She replied yes x1000 and seemed super happy I asked but when I try to ask her on a date, she says her parents won't let her date until she is a little older (I don't know how older, or if at all she just said her parents don't want her dating.) I'm having issues telling her how I really feel, and have been acting non-chalant and more like friends with her, how do I go about building my confidence and eventually asking her parents permission to date. (I know this seems like a specific question but I know what I wanna do, i'm just really shy about it)
TL;DR: | A girl I like is not allowed to date, how do I build my self confidence to tell her how I really feel, eventually asking her parents for permission to date. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] tries to give advice to my cousin [18F / 20M], I need help here. She comes to me for advice and I've tried everything even gone to my friends to help her but she never does anything. He ignored her for over a week, never returning calls, sets up plans and then never shows up, etc!
POST: My cousin is 18 and dating a 20 year old, she is getting ridiculous about how much shit she lets him get away with! (At least me and my friends think so) Her boyfriend recently ignored her for a week then makes up excuses for it. He tries to make it up to her by making plans which he showed up to one of nine different dates. She told me he just wanted to have sex, which they did and then he never hung out again.
They had plans today and he didn't message her until 8:15 tonight (well past their scheduled time). He said he's in a car going with some buds to another city 1.5 hours away to go to some bars tonight.
She messages me super sad because she thinks he will cheat on her or flirt with other girls and stuff. I told her that I don't think it matters because she won't do anything if he does (She won't break up with him!). I don't know if what I told her was the wrong thing, but this has been like four weeks of me talking to her about this stuff and all my friends told me to tell her to dump him and move on. That's what I thought too.
She's given him so many chances and he does the same thing every time. I don't know why she wants him to change when given all the chances he's had nothing has changed.
TL;DR: | Cousins BF walks all over her, does whatever he wants and she never does anything. What should I tell her, how do I make her believe me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: The Animal Rescue Site Shelter Challenge [X-post from r/rescuedogs]
POST: The Animal Rescue Site is holding a "shelter challenge," providing shelters across the world the chance to win money for their kennel/shelter/rescue/etc.
I know that there are homeless dogs all over the world who deserve to find loving homes, but I came here to ask if you could vote for my local county dog pound. It is a very small facility and can only hold about 15 dogs on a nice day (A few of the kennels are outside. Right now it is very cold in Ohio so these kennels cannot be utilized.)
Since it is a county facility, they are required to take in all dogs that are brought in/reported and picked up. If they run out of room, they begin to euthanize. It absolutely breaks my heart to see them make "RIP" posts on their [Facebook page]
The rate at which dogs are killed at the pound has reduced quite a bit over the years due to the love and dedication of our very passionate volunteers. However, every dog deserves the chance at a better life.
You can vote for the Trumbull County Dog Kennel via the following link: and in order to find the shelter, put in Trumbull County Dog Kennel for the name and OH for the state. If you cannot find it that way, put in OH for the state and Warren for the city. It is currently the fourth one on the list.
If you would like to make a donation directly to the Trumbull County Dog Pound, here is their information: 7501 ANDERSON AVE, WARREN, OH 44484 (HOWLAND TOWNSHIP) Phone: 330-675-2787 Hours: Mon-Fri 9:30 am to 4:30 pm, Sat 9 am to 1 pm
Thank you all so much for taking the time to read this post, and especially for doing what you do to help homeless dogs in need.
TL;DR: | Please vote for my local shelter in [The Animal Rescue Site Shelter Challenge] The shelter's information is Trumbull County Dog Kennel, Warren, OH United States. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 28M met 26F on tinder , dating one month, she dissapeared :(
POST: I met a great girl on tinder. We had a good first date and an even better second one. I surprised her with a picnic and then we went to a movie. I never made any moves on her.
We agreed to a third date but she cancelled and hoped to reschedule the following week. I sent a text a couple days later asking her out for the following weekend but she hasn't responded. It's been 6 days and I just sent a follow up text last night. Still no response. Should I assume she isn't interested?
So strange because she told me I was very sweet and agreed to that third date. I wonder if I matched with one of her friends on tinder and that turned her off. I don't know
TL;DR: | Girl seems 100% interested, stops answering texts after second date/agreeing to third, what did I do wrong? Is it over? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Quite a bit of Clear, runny, semi-viscous liquid just leaked out of my nose.... should this be something to be concerned about?
POST: So, just as I was bending over to wrap a towel around my hair after a shower tonight, a weird feeling came in my right nostril, like it was filled with water, and as I got up a lot of clear fluid just dripped out. This hasn't ever happened to me before and google mentioning Cerebral Spinal Fluid leaks are not helping to calm me down. I haven't recently had any head injuries but I have had a couple in my childhood, if that matters.
I'm sorry if this seems silly of if this is the wrong subreddit to ask, but I'm hoping some of you may have some advice?? Its creepy having your nose leak like a faucet for no reason!
Mostly I want to know if this is something I should see my doctor about, or wait to see if it happens again before I freak out?
TL;DR: | What seemed to be about two tablespoons of clear liquid randomly leaked out of my nose, is this something I should see a doctor about? Or am I flipping out about nothing? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Sending new squeeze flowers for her birthday, what closing do I use?
POST: Thanks for any input, it's much appreciated.
I've been dating this awesome girl for a little while. We met about a year ago, saw each other again about 5 months ago, started hanging out 2 months ago, and finally started dating about a month ago. This girl is awesome. So far, there is nothing I don't like about her.
Her birthday is Tuesday. I want to send her flowers at work, and obviously I'll get to send a personalized note with them. My question, reddit, is what closing do I use? It's WAY too early, IMO, for either of us to be saying "I love you" or expressing love. Not that it can't happen soonish, just not right now. But, when I write the note, should I close with "love, TooHappyFappy" or something else?
I feel like "love, ____" is pretty standard in stuff like that, but I also don't want to weird her out by using the L word. Should I use it? If not, what do you suggest? Thanks!
TL;DR: | Like this girl, her birthday is coming up, not ready to say I love you yet, what should I close the note on her flowers with? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Always having to go through everything alone.
POST: To the people who still aren't happy with life even though they have a significant other to share the problems with - screw you if you're still not happy with life.
I'd give anything to have a good boyfriend to turn to at the end of the day. If I can't count on my friends, at least a boyfriend should be there because when you don't have any reliable friends, family is all that a person has.
Why are people always asking me to help them but when I need help I can't count on a handful of people? The only people who help me are elder adults, like I can't count on people my age that are near me to bail me out of my ruts, but people my age expect me to bail them out of theirs.
If I was stuck on the side of the road with a flat tire - I couldn't call some friend nearby to pick me up, that'd be all me to figure things out.
Try dealing with everything on your own and there is no one to talk to and no significant other to turn to at the end of the day.
TL;DR: | sick of the people complaining about still not being happy with life even though they have a loving significant other to support them in their hard times. Meanwhile there are people like me who has barely any support. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [15 M] with my classmate [15 F] 10months, she confessed to me 10months ago and I broke her heart. I now regret it.
POST: 10 months ago, she confessed to me that she liked me. I told her that I liked her too, but due to peer pressure from friends(some adults too) about her different race, and my own personal insecurities, I eventually told her that I did not like her anymore and that I only had a crush on her, about two weeks later.
I fell for another girl, only to be used by her, and it took me 8 months to realise it. I started regretting what I did to the first girl about 5 months ago, and as of last week, I can't stop thinking about her, and I feel extremely guilty and depressed about my fuckup.
We still talk in class about school related things, but rarely talk. I can't concentrate in class anymore, or when doing anything for that matter. I feel a pain whenever i think about her, and nothing I do has helped. I suspect that she hates me and holds a grudge against me, but I don't blame her. I feel lost, I don't know what to do. Can I please have some advice?
TL;DR: | Girl liked me 10 months ago, I broke her heart for stupid reasons. I now regret it and think I still like her. Advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: If there ever was a good reason not to run, I feel like this is it...Shooter on the loose?
POST: Basically, [this] is happening in my area. There seems to be one shooter going along the freeway through several counties (including the one where I live a half mile from the freeway and the one where I work a half mile from the freeway), just randomly shooting at people in cars. 16 cases have been reported. The trails where I run are also in this area.
Now, it seems like everything lately has been disrupting my runs, from free Tigers tickets a few weeks ago to migraines to house-hunting appointments. I've been trying to make myself run around a crazy schedule and not even let migraines be an excuse to take a night off, but I feel like an unknown random shooter may just be a good reason to stay inside. Honestly, I'm nervous about the walk or drive to the gym by my house. I'm planning bodyweight workouts and cardio I can do indoors and things like that for now, but I wanted your opinion: am I being crazy and paranoid, or safe?
TL;DR: | There's a random shooter terrorizing my area. Is it crazy or safe to take a few days off from running? |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: My girlfriend whom I love and who loves me, broke up with me on my 25th birthday for valid reasons
POST: It's been an amazing relationship since day one, new years eve. We were incredible in every facet, we discovered things about ourselves in leaps and bounds. But one thing she had mentioned at the beginning of the relationship was that she wasn't ready to be in a relationship, that she was in the process of growing. For whatever reason, I didn't see this as something that we should seriously concern ourselves with.
Four days ago, we have a talk and things seem pretty bad. And then we had another talk on the balcony of a party where we actually broke up on the just-come evening of my birthday. I didn't even realize that we broke up there, I thought we were going to work shit out later. So I went home, slept okay, spent my day thanking people on facebook for birthday wishes (I only did get up at 2) until I went over to my her house and find out that we're broken up.
Following this, we head to a potluck together with close friends, but I still was on the topic of the relationship on my mind...considering I just found out we broke up hours before...So when we left, I upset her by bringing it right around again and saying something negative.
This break will force us both to grow. I need to be less dependent on her and she needs to figure shit out for herself by herself. We're still probably going to hang out a lot because we run in the same circles (now). I became friends with all of her friends and we made a lot of friends together over the past three months. She's fine hanging out together, I don't know how long it will be before I am. But I don't want to drop out of the groups, they're very important to my well-being. Should I just choose the activities I partake in selectively?
All recommendations on self-improvement and growth are appreciated. Any questions are also welcomed and will actually be appreciated, questions validate my existence, so please, ask away.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend (who loves me with all her heart) broke up with me after 3 months because she was in the process of growing when we met and needs to continue doing so solo. |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Has anyone had experience working at a hostel? Thinking about taking a job there, should I go for it?
POST: sup /r/travel,
I'm taking a semester off from college to live in my home city (grew up as an international kid) and didn't really have any special plans for my time here.
I was cruising around craigslist for the fuck of it when I came across an ad that was looking for someone to live in the hostel for 3 months are so. Compensation is full room and board, wifi, laundry, three meals, free coffee, but no word of any further monetary payment. Work seems super light, just 3.5 hours a day 6 days a week (either receptionist work or cleaning rooms).
I'm a very outgoing person and good with interacting with strangers, so I could definitely see myself doing this job. But it is still a bit out of my comfort zone, especially when I can live at my parents apartment with my own room and everything.
**Should I still go for it? If I apply and get an interview, are there any important questions I should ask or red flags/good signs I should watch out for while I'm there?
TL;DR: | potential job at hostel but still not sure if it's a good idea, looking for someone with experience to give me some guidelines* |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I think my relationship of more then a year might have an expiration date on it when we graduate college and here is the answer she gave me when I talked to her about it.
POST: She F(20) pretty much said she loves and misses her family and if faced with a tough call she will make the hard choices. She ensures me M(22) that she loves me and in out relationship she isn't using me for anything. And if she was she would have ended it by now.
The problem is now I feel very uneasy. Not just about her and our relationship but about my future as I don't know what i want to do with my life anymore and I'm nearing the end of college. But in regards to her I just started feeling like I'm more invested in this relationship then her and that because I've been burned before that maybe its time I start pulling away and maybe end it with her eventually. She and I have at least a year left before anything happens but after talking about this with her I fell very uneasy about our relationship now. I guess I really don't want to get hurt. Anyway I would like an outside persons perspective on this, and perhaps on how to deal with it.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend didn't give me an answer when I asked if whether or not our relationship had an expiration date or not and I don't know how to deal with these uneasy feelings I'm having. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18M] saw a Facebook message of my 3 months girlfriend [18F] and I'm very anxious
POST: It may seem very little, but she left her facebook account open on my PC. When I opened facebook she had live chat open and it was on a message she sent (with her phone) which basically was for her ex-GF (she was unsure if she was bi or hetero about 1.5 years ago), she told her she missed her and that the love messages she wrote on facebook weren't totally for me (They were for me, she said so) but also for her. She said she wanted to see or call her, the girl said she couldn't because she was busy but later yes. But she also said she loved me and was lost.
I'm playing it like I didn't see a thing (she also made me close (while talking on skype) her FB account quickly), so I believe she is scared I saw the messages, she was very serious about me logging off her facebook and not reading anything.
It's been few hours since and we've been on skype all this time, I have no idea how is the conversation with her ex-gf going on, but she acted all the same on skype, she asked me a lot how I was doing (because, fuck I'm actually sick and anxious as I have never been, and I'm sure she feels it). Our relationship is doing really great except little ups-and-downs but nothing bad, I love her more than anything and she said the same toward me.
I don't want to confront her about it, at least not on skype but I'm not supposed to see her for the next 3 weeks (I'm supposed to spend 3 weeks at her place after that). I'm feeling extremely bad at the moment... I really don't know what to do, maybe just writing this, it makes me feel a bit better.
I'm not English, so sorry for the language mistakes.
TL;DR: | I'm lost and feeling bad because my GF is hesitating if she's attracted to men or women (or both) and she misses her ex-GF. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Brother going in and out of mental hospitals, any idea how to help him?
POST: Originally I posted this in /r/MMFB, but to get practical responses to this, I decided to post it here.
It's been about a year now that this has been going on, getting progressively worse. He has a longing to steal, lie, stay out late, and has no motivation to do well in anything, accept Runescape, even though he's 13. He expects our parents to give/get him anything he wants for nothing in return. He says he hates them, and would love to move out, but he constantly comes back to them for anything.
My parents have done everything in their power to help him. They've driven 8 hours to get to a hotel and treatment facility, where they stayed for 5 1/2 weeks (With the hotel not payed for by insurance, and costing incredible amounts.), are currently sending him back and forth between mental hospitals. He's not getting any better, and every time they go to visit him, he says he can't wait to get back to breaking the law, which is the only thing keeping him going at the moment.
Because he has aspergers, I used to hate him, for he was almost always mean to me, but now that's all changed. It doesn't feel like home without him, and It's getting progressively lonely, with me actually having a breakdown at school once.
It's incredibly hard to change him, because of the aspergers, which causes someone to focus in one one thing, typically what first satisfies him/her, so he has fixated on stealing/breaking the law. He's even gone into jail, made us go to court, and cost huge amounts in fines. Please, if you can, suggest ways we can help him. He loves to code and do anything on computers, as do I, is fixated on Runescape, and loves to steal/break the law if that helps at all. Thanks for reading.
TL;DR: | Brother breaks laws, even going to jail, and is going in and out of mental hospitals. Need ways to cheer me up/help him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] have started dating [20 F] for about three weeks. At what point do I tell her i'm a virgin?
POST: So i've been seeing a girl for about 3 weeks now, we've gone out a total of four times and we have great chemistry and always have a fun time. We've managed to keep it at a slow pace and fairly casual which I have quite enjoyed. Last night was our 4th date and the first time we kissed.
So far I think we have had good open communication and have both shared things that neither of us were entirely proud of or secrets that we may not share with anyone. We talked briefly last night about the expectations that each of us have, I wanted to ensure we were on a similar page to avoid any confusion. She will be leaving to do a term abroad this January and may not be back until the end of the summer so we established we would continue to keep it casual until after she returned.
She knows my relationship experience (and experience with girls in general) is extremely limited and she finds my lack of knowledge 'cute'. I know the relationship will continue to get more physical over as we progress but the one thing constantly on my mind is that i'm a virgin.
Being a male virgin in north american culture is certainly... odd. I always valued my virginity and didn't want to lose it in high school or just a one night stand. In university I never got a strong enough of a connection to a girl to pursue anything so the option never came up. I want to let her know but i'm also afraid of how she'll perceive it or what may come of it. I'll be seeing her on wednesday, should I make it a point of conversation and put everything on the table so she knows? Or should I continue to hide it?
TL;DR: | Being dating a girl for 3 weeks now and we get along great and this could have potential. Slight hiccup, i'm a virgin and don't know how to go about telling her as the relationship gets more physical? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by calling a four year old a bastard
POST: This happened on Halloween two or three years ago.
I was at the door handing out candy while my wife took the kids trick-or-treating. Sometimes the kids really don't bother with costumes, but other times whole families really get into it. That was definitely the case with one Star Wars family. Mom looked awesome as Princess Leia, dad was properly suited up as a decently menacing Darth Vader, and their four-ish year old son was a credible Luke, complete with the mop of dirty blonde hair. Adorable.
I always like to say something to the kids, especially if they've made an effort, rather than just tossing the fun size Snickers into their bags, so I crouch down to the kid and start talking. "Is that your lightsaber?" "Can you use the Force?" And then to kid around a bit, I point at dad and try to crack a joke about the whole "Luke, I AM YOUR FATHER" line.
But what ends up tumbling out of my mouth to the kid is "You know, I don't really think he's your father." Jaws drop, silence ensues, as the kid sits there speechless as it sinks in that I had really botched the movie reference and the whole family actually just heard me tell the kid that Daddy isn't really Daddy.
After an uncomfortably long moment they quickly turned and stepped off the porch into the night while I slunk back inside.
TL;DR: | Meant to make a Star Wars joke reference, ended up telling a four year old he was a fatherless bastard. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by drilling into my thigh and missing out on a steak dinner.
POST: I was at working in a paper mill, mounting a box to the side of a conveyor. The holes in the box were too small for the bolts I was using, so I decided to get a cordless power drill to widen the openings. Took a seat on some steps, set the box in my lap, and set up the drill with a 1/4 inch bit. I proceeded to start reaming out the first hole. The bit went through the box, straight into my leg.
Shock set in, and I tried pulling the drill. My whole leg lifted up with it. Oh fuck. One of my coworkers was nearby and saw my predicament. "Put in in reverse and back it out", he said. So I did. A sharp pain shot through my leg like lightning. I ran to the bathroom, applying pressure to my thigh, and locked myself into a stall.
I calmed myself, realizing that a few weeks later the mill was hosting a steak dinner for 100 days of no workplace accidents. We all love steak. I didn't want to ruin it for the guys, so I sprayed the wound with disinfectant, covered it with paper towels, and wrapped it with electrical tape. I figured I could see about it after work.
A little while later, I was talking with my supervisor, and he glanced down at my leg. "You hurt yourself?", he said. I looked down, and there was a huge spot of blood on my pants. Damn. There goes the steak dinner. He called it in, and they applied first aid. The nurse saw the makeshift bandage, and looked at me, appalled. I just shrugged, feeling like the dumbest human being on the planet. When I returned to the job site, my coworkers glared at me with hateful eyes burning with the power of a thousand suns. No steak dinner for us.
TL;DR: | I tried to hide a workplace accident, got caught, and made all my coworkers lose the privilege of eating a juicy steak as a reward for a injury-free workplace. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [17/m] Im debating my total and transparent honesty with my crush [18/f] who is asking deep questions
POST: Hey guys,
First post here so help me out if im missing something vital.
Now onto the point.
Long story short, me and my crush Rebecca (fake name of course) have been talking incessantly and often times our conversations get rather deep. Religion, self-image, relationships, friendships... we talk about it all. However, she recently asked some rather deeply uncomfortable questions including "How far are you comfortable going sexually in a non-marital relationship" or "How often do you masturbate or watch porn" and its starting to get seriously uncomfortable.
I'll preface by saying I answered every single question completely honestly and openly... but im starting to regret it now. She knows *everything* about my innermost self and I've only known her for about 8 months tops (about 2 months in a legit friendship status). To be honest I've only ever shared this sort of stuff with one other person *in my entire life* and now that circle has stretched to include her and I'm not sure if that was a good or bad move.
Was this a bad move? Should I have brushed off these questions and told her they were off-limits? Or was my total and complete honesty a good thing? I truly dont know I need help understanding.
Thank you all in advance.
TL;DR: | My crush is asking questions i dont feel comfortable answering. I answered them anyway. Not sure if my brutal honesty was a good idea. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me[27F] dating younger man[22M] for 3 months, I'm not ready for serious relationship but he's getting more serious
POST: I (27F) started casually sleeping with a significantly younger guy (22M) a few months ago. Although we mutually agreed in the beginning to keep things low key, he recently told me that he is upset by the idea of me dating other men and is getting very involved. The sex is fantastic (mind-blowing, 1-5 times a day...I think he's thrilled to have found someone with a high sex drive). I find myself spending a ton of time with him (i.e. sleeping together most nights, cooking, doing date things). We have fun and enjoy being around each other, so I don't want to rock the boat unnecessarily.
However, since I just got out of a VERY long relationship (read: almost ten years) I don't feel comfortable making any long term commitments in the near future. Also, because I considered this casual I haven't really evaluated this guy on serious partner qualities (financial stability, life goals, ambition, etc) and have just been enjoying that he is sweet and considerate. Part of me thinks I'm just in denial about what this is anyways, but the short story is that he's a good guy and I don't want to hurt him.
Any of you have experience being the older woman? What were the obstacles, or what issues did you have to consider/overcome to be in a relationship with your younger SO? Was it successful, or was it difficult when (if) things fizzled out?
TL;DR: | I'm five years older than the guy I'm sleeping with, he's getting attached but I'm not ready for serious relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what was your father like?
POST: I know of some really messed up father stories. I wanted to share mine, although I know they won't compare to yours.
My dad is the nicest guy I know. Literally, the nicest man I've ever met in my entire life. He's extremely courteous and great with meeting new people and making friends.. I witnessed all this until I turned about 14. When he and his of-the-time girlfriend broke up, he stopped acting like that towards my brother and I. He worked a lot and made very little money. He would leave before we went to school and get home around 11 pm everyday and not say a word to us unless he absolutely HAD to. Sometimes he would leave us without food and not answer his phone. 90% of the time, we would have only ramen noodles, frozen dinners, or frozen pizza to eat. Or sometimes he couldn't afford to pay the electricity bill and leave us alone while he either stayed out until 3AM or just didn't come home at all. When I started highschool, I moved in with my mother. She makes a much larger amount of money than him, but she's just genuinely not as kind as my dad. Now, I don't talk to him much. He doesn't call or text me. I kind of just wish I had a father to do father-son things with, you know? I've never had that. The last time I spoke to my dad was around christmas time, when I requested some money for clothes, as we don't go clothes shopping too often in my family. Still waiting on that money...
Please cheer me up with some awesome father stories. Or if you are a father, share your experience with your children.
TL;DR: | my dad is the nicest guy I know, but just seems like ever since I became a teenager he realized he didn't want us. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [23F] boyfriend [31M] of 13 Months Dad died in August. How do I be supportive outside of the generic 'just listen' stuff?
POST: Boyfriend's Dad died after a regular surgery's complications lead to two and a half weeks of suffering and eventually the choice to be put on a machine or [Not]. Dad generally did not take care of himself, was a closet alcoholic and was very unhealthy to begin with, but by no means did he look like he was going to die any time soon. The one time I hung out with him, we sang karaoke at a late night bar, and Dad was a huge hit. Boyfriend's dad died the evening before his 31st birthday. :(
Since, boyfriend has done a good job of supporting his sister and taking care of the estate, but now that is done, and he hasn't really grieved yet. The holidays are making things especially tough.
I love this man and hope to make a life with him someday, but I don't know how to be supportive without being overbearing. He's never really been much for sharing his feelings, and I've finally convinced him to see a grief therapist, but beyond the cliche 'just listen' or 'just be there' I don't really know how to handle this. What's the line of 'none of my business' and 'please help'?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend's dad died the day before boyfriend's birthday after two weeks in the hospital. How can I be more/better supportive? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [18M] send another message to this girl[17F]?
POST: I'll try to be brief. So I work at this wedding hall and one night we needed extra workers so my boss called this group of girls to work with us. All the girls were friendly and we were chatting and stuff but this one girl was clearly into me (and I was into her). She would talk to me randomly (more than the other girls) and would offer me stuff to eat or something to drink. So I get her facebook and we start chatting but suddenly she isn't replying to my message anymore. My message was "So what did you think about working with me?" in a joking tone. It's been two days and she hasn't replied yet and I see her online on facebook so it's not like she stopped using it. Anyway I want to know if I should send her another message saying like "Hey u still there?" type of thing or should I just let it go? I'm not overly attached to this girl so I can just drop it but I do think it'd be interesting to keep talking to her.
TL;DR: | met this girl at work and then we started chatting on facebook but suddenly stopped replying to my messages. Should I send her another message? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19F] ex-boyfriend [20M] is threatening me with legal action because I emotionally abused him
POST: I had been in a long distance relationship with a man in Australia (I am in the US) for about a month. The relationship didn't last long because it became toxic extremely quick. Constant fighting, mental abuse from both ends, and it was all around just a terrible experience. It was turning both of us into bad people and I wanted out of it, which I made abundantly clear to him.
During our relationship we both said nasty, inhumane things to each other. In the heat of the argument I had told him to just go off himself, this has happened a couple times. I know it's extremely wrong to say stuff like that, but that's how toxic the relationship was. This brings the story to him threatening me with legal action.
Him and his family have been stalking my family, trying to find out my parents contact information and social media profiles to contact them about how bad of a person their daughter is. He has been contacting my friends, harassing them about our relationship. Both him and his dad keep harassing me, telling me how it is illegal to tell people to kill themselves and that they're going to contact the FBI or whatever. This is all extremely childish in my eyes and I'm not quite sure what to make of it.
I have tried blocking him on any form of social media, but he's constantly making new accounts or harassing my friends into speaking to me, which is just so he can threaten me with this legal action bullshit. I have made it so clear to him that I want him out of my life without these complications. I don't know where to go from here because I'm genuinely worried he might make this into a bigger mess than it needs to be.
TL;DR: | My long distance ex boyfriend is threatening me with legal action over me telling him to go kill himself in the heat of an argument, should I be taking him seriously or just block all communication no matter what he says? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my date [29 M] of 1 mth, do you always "finish" your texts?
POST: Started seeing this guy recently and he is very nice.
We both seem to like each other and we are always making plans for the next date.
We haven't had the "what are we" or the proper exclusive talk yet, but he's told me that he's not seeing any other person and I trust him
So anyways..
I am finding something a bit different from the other guys I've dated and it's that he doesn't often "finish" his texts.
We will have series of texts through out the day, but he never really says "good night" or "I'm doing ..... so I will ttyl".
I don't think he hates texting. We've talked for hours over text and most of the times he texts back within 1 min if he's not occupied.
Usually, with my friends we just text each other bunch of random stuff and never really reply unless a specific question was asked and I am okay with that.
So is it just that he thinks it's not really necessary to "close/finish" conversation? as this is something he would do with his friends too?
Btw, I don't just sit around and wait for his texts and get depressed if I don't get one.
I'm fairly outgoing and open about my feelings so I act on it and I send him msgs whenever I want to talk to him.
I was just wondering why he would just time to time stop talking to me without actually saying that he's going to sleep, doing something, etc.
Should I even bring this up? or is this something normal that most guys do?
TL;DR: | Is it normal that a guy doesn't finish/close text conversation and stops talking sometimes unless you ask him a question? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: As I wait for my girlfriend to get out of surgery...
POST: I am nervous as hell. Quick story
Basically I woke up from a night of mild beer drinking after my hockey game to my girlfriend in serious physical pain in her stomach. I was hung over and only had 3 hours of sleep at the time she woke up.
She is a bit of a hypochondriac but being her significant other I could tell something was up. Long story short she is having her appendix removed after almost 16 hours in either emergency or getting x-rays or what have you. It took a long time for them to come to the conclusion they have to remove it.
ANYWAYS as I digest...I realize that I have a serious issue with nervous habits. I am really really sleep deprived and very stressed as I care for her more than the world itself and I want her to make it through the surgery and I'm sure she will as it is pretty routine. However I am stressed and this stress is manifesting itself in a peculiar yet familiar way. I have now come to the conclusion that when I stress I obsessively pick at my arms. I naturally have light acne on my arms from the gym and running and playing hockey etc. No matter how much I wash its always SORT OF there. When I stress I pick at these pimples and basically what starts out as a red spot I pick at it and squeeze it until its the size of a pimple. Very weird I know.
So as I await her return from emergency I would like to ask Reddit what strange nervous ticks or habits you have?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is in emerg, I'm nervous, I obsessively pick at my arms in search of pimples. What about you? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Starting Over, and "Couples" Weight Loss
POST: Hey all,
I'm writing this because I had a big breakdown last night. Since October 2013, I lost over 70 pounds through just calorie counting and self-control. In April 2014, I stopped counting/planning temporarily because I had plateaued really hard, was graduating school, moving, starting to plan my wedding, just a bunch of other stress. I was happy with the 60 or so pounds I had lost (which put me at about 255 lbs at 5' 7", female).
I planned to start again once I got settled in my new place, and I sort of did, but it was never the same. I live with my fiance (now husband), and it was suddenly harder. I used to eat a lot of Subway, Qdoba, "junk food", as long as it fit within my calorie goals. Now I feel like we should be making "real food", cooking recipes, etc. But that seems to make calorie counting much more difficult, and I have issues with perfectionism, so I just...give up.
My husband is very supportive, and he wants to do this with me - he would like to lose some weight too. But I've got about 100 pounds to go until a "healthy" weight, and it just feels so daunting. 70 pounds wasn't enough... I need to do it all again, except it feels like somehow the knob got cranked from "easy" mode to "super difficult", and I don't know how to do it anymore.
I guess I'm just really demoralized, and I want to start over. Maybe I just need to write this to get it all out there, and to wipe the slate clean. Maybe it'll help.
Any tips about healthy cooking (WITH calorie counting), doing weight loss as a couple, or ways to "treat" a SO without that treat being food are very, very appreciated. "Tough love" is not as appreciated, because I'm already being really, really hard on myself, and I've been having a really difficult time.
TL;DR: | Venting about "break" from weight loss, 100 more pounds to go. Advice wanted about recipes and calorie counting, and losing weight alongside your SO. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I stop liking him?
POST: Me: 22F him: 23 or 24 (no real relationship, known each other for 2 months)
So there's this guy in my program at school, it seems like we have a lot in common. We both love musicals, video games, stupid t.v. (he owns dvds of robot chicken!) and good t.v., we seem to like the same movies (both wanting to go to the midnight release of the hobbit). He reads, he's motivated, he's handsome, he seems to care about things, is nerdy, and socially competent. All I can think about is wanting to kiss him, fuck him, date him, take him home to meet my family (I'm usually ashamed of the guys I think of dating). We both like beer and drinking games, whiskey more than scotch (I hope he doesn't reddit at 3:00am). He's showed me how to play some new video games, and told me I was actually decent (for a beginner my ex never had). I don't want to go on a tangent or anything but so far there's maybe one or two things I haven't felt the same way as he has on.
I haven't felt this way about a guy in over 2 years, when me and my last long term boyfriend began to date. However, we're going to be in the same classes for the next two years so if it goes south we're screwed. I doubt he'd like me or even how I'd get to that point. Lately I've had butterflies my whole way driving to school (all 30 minutes), my heart races when I think of him, I just can't handle it, I don't like this out of control feeling and wish I could like someone else (safer and less breakup drawbacks or mutual friends watching). I haven't really met many guys this past couple of months and am thinking I may only like him because of that. It doesn't feel safe, or that it would end well, how do I move past this, or deal with it? I feel like a middle schooler all over again, not cool.
TL;DR: | scared to like a guy because it could get complicated, tips to deal or move past or help me think straight about it would be great. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23M] with my girlfriend [23F] afraid of losing her.
POST: Hey guys!
Me and my girlfriend have been together since December last year, I've been in love before but she hasn't, our relationship was great, healthy and full of love, we spent around 80% of our time together and had an electric relationship, but things have changed.
I recently came back from being abroad for three months, we have spoke everyday but now we don't feel the same love for each other and think we're both clinging on to what we once had a little bit, we both still love each other for sure, but when we first saw each other, it wasn't like in the movies... It felt so surreal for both of us, we'll be staying together the whole of next week but I have this ball of anxiety in my stomach.
TL;DR: | Long distance pulled us apart, both hope we can rekindle it but feel different. Although we still have feelings for each other. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting arrested for walking into my friend's house
POST: So i'll start off by saying that I had been drinking all day and was shit-hammered. My friend, who is a big Marine dude, gets arrested for drunkenly threatening a girl with a knife. After he was subdued by the cops, I decide to go drink more down the street. I was drinking a beer while I was walking (which is illegal in Maryland) and drunkenly stumbled upon a cop giving a girl a citation. He sees me and gives my drunk ass a citation as well. I end up going back to that girl's house and drink more and be merry. After about an hour, I completely forget that I had just gotten a citation and decided to walk back to my house...while drinking another beer. Now, between my house and the girl's house is my Marine friend's house that I used to live at and frequently go to. As I am walking past that house, I notice a cop had just driven by and was turning around. So, to avoid getting another citation, I speed walk into my friend's house. I think that I am home free, when these two cops come bursting through the door after me. They make me come outside and asked if I lived there (which they knew I didn't because I had already given one of the cops my address an hour ago). They then ask if I have permission to be there, and rather than just saying "yes" like any normal fucktard would do, I drunkenly respond with "well, it's not like i have written fuckin permission and shit". They promptly arrested my ass then and there. There was no one at the house because my marine friend was arrested and the other three were out somewhere (I couldn't call them because I didn't have a phone at the time). I sat in jail for 3 days before my $25,000 bail was posted. I got charged with Burglary 4th, disorderly conduct, and another open container citation. The only decent part of that night was that I got to share a cell with my marine friend, the other people in there had a field day with our stupid arrest story.
I fucked up.
TL;DR: | I got arrested because i walked into my friend's house to avoid getting a second open container, only to get it anyway along a with burglary charge. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (m/22) with possible serious girlfriend (24/f). She has issues with PDA and I don't want it to be a problem between us.
POST: Maybe a little odd, but me and my friend are heading for a relationship. We both are serious about it and have talked at length about what we want in terms of a relationship. She is away until summer, but after that, if all goes to plan, we will be getting serious when she comes home.
We've talked a lot about past relationships and an issue for her has always been her privacy. She doesn't like PDA at all. That includes holding hands or anything remotely couple-y. Yet she is the most caring and sweet person when we are alone.
In the past, her ex partners have had serious problems with her privacy, saying that they feel like she is ashamed to be with them, and that she doesn't want anyone to know about them.
I understand her need for privacy, and I completely respect that. But I love holding hands and being proud of my partner. I don't want to be kissing in public and generally be all over each other, I just want to show the world I am proud to be with this amazing girl. So I am worried.
I don't want to be like her ex boyfriends. I don't want to feel the same way about her being ashamed to be with me.
I'm looking for advice from anyone who has a similar situation. Do you have a SO with this same mentality, and how do you get past them not wanting anyone to see your relationship?
TL;DR: | I really like my soon to be girlfriend, but I'm scared I'll mess things up by feeling like I'm unwanted, just like her ex's. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Roommates F(21)F(22)M(21)M(23) having complications with sexual experimentation
POST: Hello reddit, we are in our 20's , 2 males 2 females all renting a house together and have been friends for about 3 or 4 years. we are all very close and one night we all took molly or pure MDMA....
Eventually the conversation took a turn and the idea of a closed-group-swingers to which everybody is very accepting and 100% backing but noted that we are still rolling fairly well.
The morning comes and between a 1 on 1 with both male friends and its established that he believes it might have gone too far and even retracting the offer that the closed group swinging might not be a good idea any longer but then even goes as far as to retract the offer that both girls can explore their bisexuality without any problems which is strange because it had been discussed some time ago that it wouldn't be a problem.
The two girls and other male who may not specifically be included are 100 percent OK with everything that might happen and understand the maturity requirements to separate love and lust to not endanger our friendships, we even have set boundaries like if jealousy or issues arise even in small doses it is to be ended immediately.
What do we do? Is there a way to convince him without feeling pressured or bruising his ego? Should we let it go?
TL;DR: | we dropped molly and one roomie suggested threesome and is now NOT ok and revoking the idea even though we all are highly interested now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [27F] tell him [30M] that I was a virgin when we started hooking up?
POST: Not sure if this belongs in /r/sex instead, but here it goes:
I met a guy last year through friends, and I was very attracted to him. We drunkenly hooked up one night at a party. I was a virgin. I don't remember exactly how the first time went, because I was (we were both) very intoxicated. When I sobered up a little bit, we proceeded to have sex again that same night, and we've been hooking up casually roughly a year since.
I have dated someone else before, but we only had oral sex but no actual intercourse.
I have developed feelings for this guy I'm hooking up with, and he knows because I've told him few months back. He told me he doesn't want a relationship right now, and I said I understand. Since then, we are still hanging out. We'd watch a movie and get a meal together etc, before sex.
My question is, should I tell him I was a virgin when we started having sex? I haven't because I don't want him to think of it as a manipulation tactic to pressure him to date me, and it really isn't. If he doesn't want a relationship, this isn't going to change how he feels. On the other hand, I feel like I should be honest about it. I almost feel like I'm hiding something not disclosing this information? The topic never came up between us of course. I know he wasn't a virgin, and maybe he just assumed I wasn't either. I don't really know how guys feel about virgins, would you want to know? Do you care?
TL;DR: | I was a virgin when I started hooking up with this guy. I don't think he knows. Should I tell him or should I keep it to myself? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Cute girl from Luxembourg in my class/Getting her number.
POST: So I'm currently partway through a year abroad in the UK (I'm American) and one of my classes is a study of recent US foreign policy. It's one of the most brutally honest looks at recent US History, and I always feel like I'm getting a few weird looks being the only Yank in the class (particularly when something unflattering is mentioned).
This past week, a fire alarm goes off in class, and as we stand outside, this beautiful girl who was sat on the other side of the room comes over and strikes up a conversation with me. I notice she also has an American accent, though says she hails from Luxembourg (spent time in the States when she was little). For the short time we talked, we *absolutely* hit it off, but I choked and forgot to ask for her number!
We don't have class this next week, so two weeks will have passed by the time I see her/communicate with her next. I really want to get her number and find a way to start seeing her outside of class, but I don't want to come off as being overly desperate.
Any suggestions?
TL;DR: | American abroad, meets cute Luxembourgian, fails to ask for number, doesn't see her for two weeks, what does he do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Something my (25F) fiancé (26M) said about infidelity bothers me.
POST: My fiancé seems to have no problems with the idea of me cheating on him, no matter the circumstance, and it bothers me because if he cheated on me I'd be devastated, and I sort of expected him to feel the same. He's said multiple times that he would forgive me on the spot if I ever cheated and that he would trust me no matter what, as soon as I apologized.
Earlier today we got on the topic of infidelity when we were watching a TV show about people who were unable to have frequent sex due to medical issues, and he said that if we ever ended up in that situation, he'd be okay if I cheated as long as I still came home to him every night. I told him that I found the idea of stepping out on him while still coming home to him at night disgusting, and that I'd be disgusted with myself for doing it. I think it would be an incredibly selfish thing to do, especially in the event he was having medical issues. He responded with saying he'd fully expect it and wouldn't be surprised if I did.
His nonchalant attitude on the subject kind of makes me worried about his own morals in regards to fidelity. If I ever have a medical problem that prevents us from having sex regularly, his first thought seems to be to step outside the marriage to fulfill those needs. He's never been cheated on before (to his knowledge), while I have, so maybe this is why he feels he would be so unaffected by it.
The whole thing just bothers me, but he doesn't seem to find anything wrong with it, and to be honest a part of me is a little hurt by the fact he wouldn't care if I cheated on him. To the married men of reddit, what do you think of this? Wouldn't you find your wife repulsive if she did the above? Maybe I'm reading too far into this, but I'm a little worried that this could be a red flag for someone who could eventually ask for an open marriage, which is something I know I never want to do. I would never be able to give him this without destroying the love I have for him.
TL;DR: | Fiance doesn't care if I cheat on him, and it really bothers me. Potential red flag for someone who could eventually want an open marriage? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Petty High School Shit] Scared of going for someone?
POST: I [18M] just had prom this past weekend and it was amazing. I got asked to prom by a girl [17F] I've known for about a year but I never really talked to that much until that night. And (I think) we really hit it off. Like she's very pretty, shares the same interests as me (She plays LoL), really smart, and I feel good when I'm with her and all that cheesy bullshit. But I'm hesitant in trying to take things further as really experienced in relationships and girls and stuff. My last and only other relationship was freshman year where I was really good friends with a girl, and I was pressured by my friends to ask her out. I really forced it and it ended badly after half a year. I really like this girl but I don't want a repeat of my first relationship and to lose a
good friend if it goes sour. Both relationships are really similar as they involve girls actually talking to me and girls where our older siblings were involved in the past. I don't know if that matters but it's kinda bugging me. I'm don't know if this is the right sub for this, but yeah. Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: | I'm don't wanna lose an awesome girl as a friend, but she's really awesome and I don't wanna miss this opportunity. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [F20] has boyfriend [M21] has a bad situation...
POST: I'll try to keep this short.
My boyfriend got irrationally jealous one night when a gay mutual friend asked me to have lunch and rather than talking to me, told me that he wanted to see his roommate's girlfriend naked. He knew that would hurt.
Now, about 5 months later, we've pretty much recovered for it, but it still hurts. But there's a new situation that I just found out about.
The girlfriend frequently sleeps over in my boyfriend and his roommate's room and wears very skimpy lingerie to bed. I didn't find out about this until I was in the room when she was getting ready for bed.
I feel very uncomfortable about the situation but I have no idea what I can do...seriously need some advice.
TL;DR: | boyfriend makes nasty comment about roommate's girlfriend, then I find out that she's sleeping over and wearing lingerie to bed. Feel uncomfortable, don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30/F] with my Sister In Law [28/F] of 5 years, no communication but I'm her matron of honor??
POST: My sister in law recently asked me to be her matron of honor. While I'm delighted to participate and honored, this came kind of out of the blue because, even though I've known her for almost 10 years (and been married to her brother for 5 of those years) I feel like I don't really know her. She is shy and quiet and never really opened up to me about anything. I'm an extrovert and very outgoing but she is quite reserved and will sometimes go an entire visit without saying anything to me.
The wedding is approaching (in early November) and I've offered to do bachelorette party stuff, not heard back. I have questions about not just if/what she wants for bachelorette but also who else is in the bridal party, what we are wearing, what I can do to help, etc.
I started drafting an email to her to ask these questions and then I realized I don't even have her email address. I have her cell but she rarely communicates with me. A few weeks ago, her mom (my mother in law) had texted to see if I was available to meet so we could shop for fabric for the wedding but I was busy with work and put it off… and now I'm realizing all communication has either come directly from her mom or been because I poked her. Like when she asked me to be her MOH? My mother in law was sitting right there next to her.
How should I approach this? I feel weird already and don't want her to feel like I'm being nosey or bugging her, but I feel really out of the loop for a wedding that is happening in 2 months. I've felt more involved in weddings I was just in the House Party for!
TL;DR: | My sister in law wants me to be her matron of honor but doesn't actually talk directly to me. How do I address this in a gentle way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (22m) need help with the girl I like (20f)
POST: So I really really like this girl, but she has an overprotective piece of shit boyfriend, they're always fighting. I'm sure she has some feelings for me. We used to be really cool back in the day, but we stopped talking cause she got a boyfriend.
Not long ago on my birthday she txted me to congratulate me. We started texting, but at the end I think I fucked up by texting her "I mis talking to you" I think I went to hard by saying that out of no where. cause after I said that she didn't replied! It has been almost a week since that. I got pretty upset and mad at myself for not thinking of other things to say. (I really wanted to keep the conversation going on, but I froze and didn't know what to say)
I really want to txt her back, but I don't want to sound annoying or thirsty.
TL;DR: | What should I do? Should I let it go and hope she texts me back again? Or should I txt her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Have you ever broken up someone else's relationship to be with that person? Did it end well or badly?
POST: F 28. Have been in a relationship with M 33 for 2 years.
I have been pursued quite persistently by another man for the last year, despite knowing that I have a bf. When he first found out I had a bf, he agreed to be just friends - we have a lot in common. He was mostly respectful of the boundaries of our friendship (but occasionally let slip his desire to be something more). He also dated other women casually during this time.
I thought that as time went by and we grew as friends, he will lose interest. However, this doesn't seem to have happened. Lately, he has been more expressive of his feelings for me. He is convinced that we have great potential as a couple.
I'm confused as I think I'm starting to develop feelings for him too. I am however very doubtful that a relationship that caused the direct breakup of another will last.
TL;DR: | have you broken up someone else's relationship to be with that person? If so, did it end well or badly? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My friend cheated on her boyfriend and is now asking me for advice... What should I say?
POST: I think this is the appropriate subreddit for this... If not, my apologies and please direct me where to go!
My friend (22) has been dating her current boyfriend (22) about 4 years and things have been going well and they were happy together. She spent the past summer away from home without much contact with family/friends. She met a guy who instantly took a liking to her, but she explained that has a boyfriend whom she loves and couldn't do anything with him. They became friends and for a while, she resisted his advances, but eventually, the temptation became too great to bear and she slept with him. After realizing she was not as upset as she thought she would be about this, she did it again and it continued for most of the summer. It started off as mostly a physical thing, but she has developed some feelings for the other guy. Meanwhile, she is still with her boyfriend who has no idea. She told me that she still loves him and I think she wants to make it work. But she is reluctant to cut off ties with the other guy. I guess just as a 'just in case' and I think she has become a bit attached to him. To me, it seems as if she is in two relationships.
When I asked why she thought she cheated, she said that perhaps it is because she has been too dependent on her boyfriend and that it's become maybe too comfortable. It seems like she wants something new and exciting in her life. She recently got off birth control and her sex drive came back while she was away, too.
She is confused and doesn't know what to do. Has anyone been in this situation before? What should I tell her?
(I'm in a relationship myself, but it's not long term and prior to this, I haven't had any relationship experience so I am not sure how to go about this. She's one of my best friends so I am trying hard to give her the best and most feasible/practical advice.)
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: | Friend cheated on her long-term boyfriend of 4 years. Seems to like/want both guys. Asked me for advice. Clueless as to what to say since I am a relationship noob! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with boyfriend [28m] of a year: How do I be supportive of his hobbies without lying?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year now and just moved in with each other. Our relationship is great but moving in together has definitely been a big change. We both have our own hobbies and one of his happens to be playing guitar/singing.
Since moving in together, he's been showing me more and more of the songs he's been working on. I don't like most them, but I haven't told him this. I've been trying to only focus on positive things that I can say about his songs and have not said anything negative thus far. Examples: I like the guitar in that part, that's a really creative story, etc etc.
Honestly though, I don't like his songs. I don't enjoy theatrical songs, and I think his songs are a bit creepy/depressing. He keeps sharing these songs with me, and I feel like I'm walking a very thin line between trying to be neutral (by only pointing out specific things I do like) and having to tell a white lie so that I don't hurt his feelings. I can objectively say that he is a talented singer, but all his songs are in the same key and it's starting to get irritating that he wants my input. I'm of the belief that if you don't have something nice to say, you shouldn't say it. But I feel like I'm being backed into a corner whenever he asks me my opinion. It probably doesn't help that we have completely different tastes in music, and I would never listen to the kind of music he listens to/makes on my own.
Soooo, help! How can I be still be a supportive of him without saying something I'm uncomfortable with or lying?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend likes to share music he writes with me. I rarely enjoy the music he makes. How do I be supportive of this hobby without lying about whether or not I think his music is good? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: For the last 5 years it has been my dream to thru hike the Appalachian Trail, and this April its finally going to happen. Reddit, what are your dreams? Or how have they come true?
POST: Since my Sophomore year in High School I've wanted to pack up my gear and take to the woods for an extended journey from Springer Mountain, Georgia to Mt. Katahdin, Maine. Its about a 2,200 mile journey that can take place in anywhere from 3-7 months with everything you need right on your back. Call me crazy, but this is my ideal bliss, and I've been working for the last year to raise money for my trip. I'm funding myself entirely from working various jobs from internships, to snow shoveling and lawn mowing, whatever it takes; Thus far, I've raised approximately $5,000 with only a few hundred left to collect before this coming April. With the resources in place, I will be using the winter to plan the nitty-gritty details of my trip (even though all plans are guaranteed to fall apart in one way or another) and will be leaving the first week of April to start my adventure north bound to Maine.
TL;DR: | I've wanted to hike the Appalachian Trail for years, and after a lot of hard work I finally will this April! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Why are games more important?
POST: Let me start of by saying I know that my partner 25(m) cares about me 27 (f) however I feel like he doesn't enjoy spending time with me and our 2 children. He seems to get more enjoyment out of a computer game than anything else. We have argued over how many hours he waste playing games countless times in our 6 year relationship. First comes denial, followed promptly my anger, classic signs of addiction. Nothing changes and I still feel second best to gaming (myself and our children) I have tried a variety of tactics, being friendly, nagging, explaining, understanding, joining in to spend time with him and even ultimatums. If he is not playing then he is spending his time on gaming forums.He always starts with the best intentions, things change, I think the longest he kept his computer off for was 2 weeks. Then he starts playing again saying he will control his playing and it's right back to square one. It's the first thing he does when he gets up (turns the computer on and makes up some excuse why if I questioned him ) our 5 year old son when he isn't even in the room with his dad says " daddy's down stairs playing the game " I thought this would have an effect on him but it doesn't seem too. I don't know what to do any more not only is this eating away at my self confidence but i am worried that they are all going miss out on each other and life really is so short.
TL;DR: | my partner plays a lot of computer games, and/or spends his time on games forums. His 5 year old son even says he plays too much, running out of ideas to help and it's crushing self esteem. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: How horrible an idea is this? Cashing out my retirement fund to pay off credit cards while switching jobs
POST: I have about $19,000 in a retirement account managed by my current employer. The money is 100% employer-contributed because I've never been able to afford to contribute.
I'm currently looking for a job (hence the throwaway), and I'm considering cashing out that account when I leave my current job.
My wife and I currently have about $9,000 in credit card debt, and we make about $200 a month in minimum payments. If I cash out the account, I hope to have just enough left after the tax hit to be able to pay off the cards.
Other relevant info: I'm 28 years old, she's 27. We've got a $95k mortgage that we're refinancing, plus about $45k in student loans and about $22k in car loans. We're living paycheck to paycheck now, but I expect that a new job will give us at least $1,000 extra in our budget each month. It could be as much as $1,300. (Yes, I am vastly underpaid right now, despite the pretty awesome retirement benefits.)
I'm hoping to use the extra money from my new job, refinancing the house, and paying off the credit cards to attack the existing debt and save for a down payment on a new house.
We want to buy a new house in five years and expect to need about $20-30k for a down payment. That part shouldn't be a problem at all.
TL;DR: | I'm young and searching for a new job, could pay off credit cards by cashing out retirement. Good idea or bad? |
SUBREDDIT: r/jobs
TITLE: New job, advice needed!!
POST: New job question!! I need ya help!
(X post from r/nursing)
So, I just got offered the perfect job for my life right now. An extremely well paying job as both a procedural nurse (endoscopy circulator and sedation) and an office nurse. Day shift, no late nights, no weekends, full medical premium paid by employer, lots of perks, etc. When I got the job offer call, she gave me all the info, when to start, what to wear, what the training process would be like...
BUT
Being the part time herbalist I am, I had to ask "Do you need me to have a physical or anything?" Her response was an emphatic "NO! Nothing like that." I know for a fact that they don't have the equipment/supplies to drug test there (one of my future duties will be to train others to draw blood).
I am kinda stuck because I want to celebrate with minimal partaking, but I do NOT want to jeopardize my future job. Also, just for reference, in my geographic area, I have worked at hospitals and hospital owned facilities and they ALWAYS require it. Doctors' offices don't seem to be as consistent. I know this is long and rambly, thanks for reading.
TL;DR: | I got a great job at an independent doctor's office. New boss says I definitely don't need a physical. I'm 420 friendly. Do you think I'm ok to smoke a little to celebrate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Trying to remember an old black & white cartoon...
POST: See if you can figure this one out Reddit!
I had this black & white cartoon on VHS that I used to watch all the time in the early 90's. It was about this old man with a beard that walks by this orphanage and looks through the window. He sees a bunch of sad kids with no presents, little to no food (hard/stale bread), sitting around an old nasty Charlie Brown christmas tree.
Well, this old guy gets an idea... he see random objects around that he could turn into toys, etc. He takes stove pipes and fits them together with other objects. He takes wood and something wheels and makes skates for one kid.
TL;DR: | Basically this old guy sees a bunch of sad kids in an poor orphanage, dresses up as Santa Claus and makes random toys from parts sitting around the place. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 M] with my fiance [29 F] going on 5 years, new infant, suddenly wants to explore her bisexual side
POST: So, we had a baby about 5 months ago, and I've always known she's been a little curious about being with women and hadn't done anything since a teen. Now, suddenly, she's really into the idea of being with another woman, including the coveted threesome. We watched a threesome video the other day and she was really hot over it. I'm in this position of wanting to foster her sexual exploration but also not get into a situation that I'm going to regret. Anyone else have experience with this relatively sudden development in their relationship, and have advice?
Throw away for obvious reasons.
TL;DR: | Fiance and I have baby, few months later sex drive ramp'd up and she's interested in exploring her sexuality and engaging in FFM relations. Need advice. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by wearing my beige chinos to work
POST: So this fuck up is actually happening right now as I type this. So part of my job entails me going out into the field and inspecting homes or businesses.
I started a few weeks ago so my supervisor has been going with me to show me the ropes.
20 minutes ago we got to the site and as I got out of the vehicle, my motherfuckshitasshole pants ripped from my crotch up to my ass.
My supervisor went to engage with the homeowner waiting in his driveway so this was all unbeknownst to her.
So now im just chilling in the car right now while she gives me dirty looks like "WTF you doing still sitting there??".
I'm sitting here trying to figure out wtf to do lol. At least its friday and I just got paid.
TL;DR: | had a blowout from my crotch to bunghole during work. Out in the field. With my boss. Fuck me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23/M] need some advice about a girl [19/F]
POST: Using a throwaway in case people I know find my real account.
So anyways, I met this girl almost 3 years ago. At the time, we were *JUST FRIENDS* and I thought nothing of it (I wasn't interested, she was in high school, had a boyfriend, etc.).
We were only ever friendly to each other, never flirty or anything of the sort. We have a lot in common and get along really well.
Recently, however, I feel that we've become much closer. We'd talk every day, sent frequent (appropriate) snapchats to each other and talked about getting the chance to see each other again (I had moved approximately 1000 miles away for a job).
I got to see her a little bit over the summer, but we were too busy with our respective tasks to truly hang out and catch up. After that, though, I feel as if the amount of communication we have has decreased a lot. It's hard to talk to her during the day because of college/work and I rarely get snapchats from her anymore. We still talk, of course, just not as much.
In addition, she's told me a few times that she thinks I'm perfect and I just don't know what to make of it.
I'm pretty much crazy about this girl, but I don't think she comes even close to feeling the same way, and I'm afraid to ask because she's one of my closest friends and I don't want to fuck anything up.
I've had friends tell me to give it up and let go, and others tell me to tell her how I feel. I'm not sure what to do because while I want to know if there's anything between us, I don't want to lose the great friend I have.
TL;DR: | Developed romantic feelings for a friend who lives a long way away and may not share these feelings, conflicted on what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by forcing someone out the closet at work.
POST: This happened quite recently, but not today. I was casually chatting with colleagues when I noticed one of the guys had a wedding band on that I'd never noticed before in our almost half a year of working together. I egged him on and asked him question about his wife, whom he'd never mentioned, and then insisted he show pictures. He hesitated and said later, and tried to stall. I didn't back off I kept teasing him and roped another colleague into join in on the fun, which he partially obliged. After he change the subject a few times, I pestered him some more then added him on social media. While browsing his profile and loudly declaring, hmmm you must not love her much because you have no pictures with her!... Soon after he showed a picture of him and his partner.
I felt applaud at myself 1. for being a bully, 2. for not recognizing any signs. usually I'm better at detecting!
All is well and banter and interpersonal relationships at the office are absolutely normal now so no serious harm done.. just a big of a F'up at the time.
I apologized profusely for my assumptions which he then laughed off and remarked that he thought we knew.
TL;DR: | Kept insisting a colleauge show pictures of his wife and was a fool for assuming his partner was a woman. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should I cancel my Netflix account and switch to Amazon Streaming instead which also gives me Amazon Prime?
POST: Since Netflix changed their pricing I will be billed soon for about $17 a month. I only watch about 3-5 dvds/blu-rays a month so I don't think the account is worth keeping at this time. I am thinking of cancelling Netflix and signing up on Amazon's Prime service ($79 a year) which includes their streaming service as well. The problem is Amazon doesn't work on the
TL;DR: | Should I cancel Netflix and use Amazon Prime/Streaming instead? I will need to get Roku or a similar box if I do unless I buy Playon software for my |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Someone robbed my parents and we think we know who, what can we do?
POST: My parents have two houses and a garage. One house they live in, the garage is next door (my dad is a mechanic, so the garage is very large, the size of our house, and not attached to the house), and the house next to it is my great grandmother's, which they've bought and are rebuilding.
One of the guys who was paid to work on the house ended up being a scumbag. Ever since they hired him, they've heard terrible things; he does a lot of drugs, he steals, and sells the stuff to fund his habit. He's told my dad multiple times about missing work because he was "sick" (on drugs or crashing). He owes my dad work, or money he was paid to do the work. He recently asked my dad to borrow a piece of equipment to work on someone else's house. My dad said no,not until he did the worked he owed him. This was a few days ago, and now today they realized probably $5k worth of tools were stolen, and the doors broken so they could easily re-enter to get more.
The police said this guy usually goes and offloads his goods in Baltimore (an hour and a half away) for drugs, but in typical [/r/Bad_Cop_No_Donut](/r/Bad_Cop_No_Donut) fashion, they're unconcerned and claim there's little they can do. They have no grounds to search his home.
They've installed cameras, and are afraid to leave the house. What can they do?
TL;DR: | Parents were robbed, we believe we know who, police say there's little they can do. How can we make the system work the way it should? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by reading my GF's texts
POST: She is back home, where we grew up (moved to where the jobs were) which is several hours away. I got home to check reddit, as I do many days, and she had her texts up on the screen (on her computer, we both use).
Anyway, I went to click away when I saw a number I didn't know, and curiosity got the best of me. I selected the convo, and saw a friendly hello to what appeared to be an old friend she had been reminded of when visiting with friends. The conversation didn't take long until it jumped to him reminding her of the sex they had, "it was fun.." he said. And she said, "that it was." He coaxed her a little more, but she didn't really budge much more into it.
Now I'm bothered, she won't be back for a few days, and while it isn't like she sent nudes, it hurts and frustrates me that she would even revisit that conversation. After all, she stopped me from talking to an ex of mine that I had told her from the beginning of the relationship was strictly a friend. We never talked sex, but we did talk about my relationship - this ex was not my cup of a tea as a partner, but certainly a good friend when I needed one over the years.
TL;DR: | I read my girlfriend's texts, and she had texted an old fling. I don't really know how to proceed with this info in an adult relationship and I hate feeling like this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Let's all keep denying the fact that mental health is an issue in this country.
POST: I'm getting tired of this. Budget cuts to mental health and substance abuse is making people crazy and yet they blame it on guns and we are ignoring the REAL problem.
How many lives must be lost for our politicians to WAKE up and really see what is going on in this country? How many new laws for guns and privacy must be made before they realize this is NOT the problem? This country is in a downward spiral and its taking everyone with it. This issue is personal to me.
My sister has lost her 3 kids and ruined her life to pill addiction. She also has several mental health issues and recently almost died from overdose 3 days before this past Christmas. My mother and I have called every hospital and doctors office she has been to warning them. They even invited her to the hospital when she overdosed and asked her opinion and they still let her go home. It is absolutely insane that to this day can still go doctor shopping and there is nothing in place to prevent that. Why is there no system in place for doctors to see what other doctors have prescribed? Why doesn't the state Medicaid program flag her insurance and say no way are we paying for this anymore? It's astonishing how many narcotics she was on at any given time, more so than any cancer patient I have ever known.
What is it going to take for this country to wake up? It's really sad because I know I'm not the only person feeling like this. I have severe anxiety and it has been crippling my life since I was a kid. When I moved it took me a YEAR to get on my prior meds from my old state. I even had the record to prove it and I had to wait a YEAR just to see someone, I actually had one appointment within 6 months but due to budget cuts the office closed!! I almost gave up. Something needs to be done. /Rant
TL;DR: | Mental health and substance abuse is an epidemic in this country and no one is doing anything about it. It has a personal connection to me and my family and something needs to be done! |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Our perfect Seattle venue has very EXPENSIVE catering options!
POST: Mild rant ahead, but any suggestions are very welcome;
First, my AMAZING fiancée and I are trying to make our wedding happen on $20k or less.
We found a great venue but they only allows limited options for catering. Our guest list goal is going to be 150. We just got a quote back from a bloody FOOD TRUCK was going to be $9440 BEFORE ALCOHOL!!! That is almost 1 year of classes at University of Washington...
Anyhew, we have a deposit on this place and I am trying to think of reasonable options. Maybe keeping it to appetizers? Coffee, soda wine, beer bar (and only about half the people attending drink) and cake? Ill also keep looking at the other caterers as well.
Were beginning to debate on just running away but I would like some of our grandparents to have the opportunity to see us have a ceremony.
TL;DR: | Catering is stupid expensive, and do not lecture me on food / labor prices, my family owns a coffee shop and a teriyaki joint... |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: See you later Reddit. It's been great time! Would you mind helping a brother out?
POST: I love Reddit. I love it so much, I sometimes wonder if I'm an "internet addict" because I spend at least 2 hrs a day here (my problem...). Anyway, I've been thinking about signing off for awhile because I need to focus on school, but I got a phone call from my sister that sealed the deal. She told me that my dad has cancer. Man, I can't even remember the last time I talked to my dad. It made me realize I need to focus a bit more on "real life" and family for awhile, find some balance, and stop being a selfish bastard.
Anyway, I know my ass will want to be back here soon and I still need some work on my self control. Would you guys mind helping me out? Would you downvote anything I say or post (only new stuff!) here to oblivion if I come back before say... May 6th? It will be the end of the semester and my birthday. Until then, I'll be missing you guys, but I need to focus on my "real world" family instead of my digital one for awhile. Thanks for you help!
TL;DR: | If I post anything before May 6th (after this), downvote me the way you'd treat a troll or mod who gets paid $$$ for posts. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: First break for a previous forever aloner
POST: [edited but probably still rant mode] 24 years old been pretty much single my whole life, been on dates but never got past 2nd or third dates (it was either them or me) never kissed etc. Met this guy (friend of a friends friend) we got along great but been slowly dating for around a year and talking alot. Last month of two started to see each other more often finally felt like things are going good and would get more serious. Things went back and forth we could be really close, brillaint and sweet one minute then kinda distant. Didn't say much thought I was just worrying too much, he was very respectful there were no real fights or arguments. However he took me out on relaxed date then had a talk and a hug. He told me before we met he got out of a long term relationship and wasn't completely over his ex. I told him i really liked him and was going to miss him badly feel sad it didn't work out and so forth. He said sorry too and then that I was great fun to hang out with and great looking and we should stay in touch and hang out soon. I haven't said any back since what can I say, it hurts no matter how nice he tried to be and I don't even know how much truth is in the ex story but it makes sense for few things, I don't want to dwell and just hope it is true.
I really do miss him and keeps going back in my head that I should contact him and see if there's anyway to get back togther but then I can't because what if he says no etc. Plus being friend will hurt what if he gets back with his ex or starts dating others, i'd hate to sit back and see it happen.
Sometimes i'm fine and i'm just happy I got out there and expereinced something and overall it was great, then I'm hit with a wave of depression that makes me feel like I can't do anything
TL;DR: | Previously forever alone first big toe in in trying relationships and really liked them and they're still being friendly so hurt, but could do with tips to help move on more than anything. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: My friends' Dad is about to die too young. What, if anything, can I say?
POST: Hi Reddit,
A family who have been good friends with mine for years is about to lose their father to cancer. He's had it for a while but they've now been told he will pass away soon. He's only in his fifties and his three children (2F, 1M) are all my age (early 20s). I feel compelled to say something to them to help, but I know that saying "It'll be ok" or "If you need anything, I'm here" will not be helpful right now.
If anyone has any experience of anything like this and/or can offer me any advice on how to help them in any way during this time I would be so grateful.
I work and study 7 days a week pretty much and I live a couple of hours away so it's not particularly easy to go and see them.
TL;DR: | My friends' father will die quite young soon. Is there anything I can say to them that will help during this time? Thanks x |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Crazy woman about to marry my Uncle.... should I support him and go to their wedding?
POST: Here is a little background:
My Uncle is engaged to a mentally sick, evil, conniving woman( at least I think so). They have got into multiple fights, and each time she has done stuff that creeps me out. The first fight, he ended up leaving and staying in a hotel. He gets 2 pictures from her. The first picture is of her hand.. without the engagement ring on it. The second is a picture of the ring in the trash and her giving him the middle finger. He calls members of my family for support and advice. The second fight she literally trashes his house.. cuts up his sofa, knocks over his file cabinets, throws all his documents all over the floor. It just so happens my Uncle has a sweatshirt with a brand that has his same first name. She slashed the sweatshirt right through the name. I think that is probably the most chilling message that she sent. She has made small comments like: " your clothes make you look to old, your beard makes you look fat, I will keep this ring until I find some one better".
On top of all of this.. they schedule their wedding the day after my cousins(that's a whole other 10 page story.)
Here is where you come in Reddit: Should I go to his wedding and support him.. despite the fact that I think his fiance is a psychopath in need of desperate mental assistance? Half of my family thinks we should go, and the other thinks that if we go, we are supporting her as well and are enabling this type of behavior?
TL;DR: | Uncle is about to marry a psycho path.. should I support him and go, or miss out on his wedding completely? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [M/21] My gf of a year and a few months [F/18] is debating ending us, but doesn't want to hurt me. But I love her...
POST: So, recently my gf has been acting weird lately. Recently she cheated on me with another guy, and I found out. I basically walked out on her, never to see her again, but she came back to me, and said "When you walked out on me, I felt a huge piece of my life just walking out the door...". So she apologized for everything, we talked, she was truely sorry for what she did, and I gave her another chance. We agreed to work things out and figure things out between us. Now, she says she feels like she's missing something in her life; doesn't know what it is, but doesn't know if she wants to break up with me or not. I want to stay with her, but she's up in the air. She says she doesn't really feel it between us anymore, but I'm trying to convince her to stay... Please Help Reddit
TL;DR: | gf cheated on me, I walk out, she comes back, i give her another chance, now she feels like she's missing something |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Feel like my (f 20) friends (20s m/f) are holding me back.
POST: I'm 20, and a junior in college. I'm a person who is somewhat outgoing, and I enjoy meeting new people and having new experiences. Because of this, I've had several friend circles since high school. But I feel like many of my friends are limiting my experience.
90% of them are content with doing the same thing, every weekend, with the same people. I would suggest new things (activities that don't even cost money, or if there was driving, I'd drive) and most people are just interested in doing the same old nothing. I do have friends who are outgoing, and we travel together and try to make the most out of our time off, but I know so many negative people.
Maybe I'm just looking at people from a negative perspective, but so many people in my age group are stuck. They don't want to better themselves (or they do and don't know how) and are constantly complaining.
I've tried out the party scene at my school- not really my thing, but I'll attend occasionally. I just recently ended my relationship of a year, because my ex was never interested in meeting new people (he said he had 2 friends and that was all he needed.....) and he didn't make an effort to make plans besides hanging around his house and watching movies.
I just want to clarify- I am not looking for some crazy, unrealistic lifestyle. I don't expect to travel every weekend or always be doing something. But it becomes so aggravating when I ask people to do things and they'd rather sit at home! I don't know where to find motivated people. I don't mind doing things alone. Any perspective?
TL;DR: | Many of my friends aren't motivated. They don't want to ever do anything new or give new people a chance. Feeling unhappy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 21F Is regularly sleeping with my ex 23 M a terrible idea?
POST: We were together for about 10 months before i left to go on an exchange in Japan for a year. We broke up, and didn't plan to get back together when we were back, because I said no, though he seemed interested in the idea.
In my year away, I dated another guy for 6 months, and he dated another girl, Dana, for 9 months or so. I came back about 3 months ago, Dana was very jealous of our friendship, and for a variety of reasons they broke up recently.
We slept together once- when both of us were trashed, and when he was still dating Dana, about a week before they broke up. Yes, I know that was a very wrong thing to do. Now that they're broken up, we slept together again- I enjoy sex with him and would like to keep up a hook up buddy type of situation. He was extremely clear that he isn't interested in a relationship at this point, and I feel the same.
The complications: is it likely that feelings would grow back? There is also a bit of mixed messages- I told him I wanted to know if he was sleeping with someone else at the same time, he said he didn't really mind, but if he had to tell me, he wants me to tell him.
At times he has seemed jealous, even when he was dating Dana. When he found out I was seeing another guy from Dana, he instantly messaged me to find out if it was true, and if it was serious, saying that the only way we can remain friends is if I tell him right away if I get a boyfriend. He also said I should tell him well in advance, because he doesn't want to find out right before some party we both go to that my new boyfriend would be there.
He repeatedly asked about Paul (the guy I was seeing) and immediately points out when other guys hit on me,putting them down in the process.
TL;DR: | Is it a bad idea to sleep with my exboyfriend regularly? Both of us are not looking for a relationship at this point, he occasionally seems a bit jealous, but is that something to worry about? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23m] think my friend [22m] doesn't actually like me, and is just being cordial, but I'm not sure how to verify it.
POST: You know that guy at work that you don't like but you're just polite to him to avoid drama? This is what it is.
Peter and I met earlier this year and have partied a couple of times. Whenever I see him in the gym we always have a short chat about our weekends and plans for the upcoming one. Just a regular dude friendship.
Note: Last time I saw him (two weeks ago) he told me that "we should party sometime soon, it's been a while."
Three weeks ago I went on a date with Pete's friend, Valerie. It went well but there wasn't a second date. No big deal, it happens.
Last night I was texting Valerie about making plans this weekend regarding a large group of friends (hers and mine) and she mentioned that she thought about inviting Pete but "it would be awkward."
Now two things popped in my head: Pete and Val are dating, or Pete isn't actually that fond of me.
If it's the former, then it would be stupid as hell. I don't see Val like that anymore, so why would it be awkward if they're dating? It's not like Val and I slept with each other; hell, there wasn't even a kiss.
The latter is another story. I thought about texting Pete something like, "hey dude are we cool?", but I figured if he's been cordial and polite this whole time, he isn't looking for a confrontation and would just respond with, "yeah bro we're cool".
I tried prying it out of Val through text last night but she just started ignoring me. I asked her if she knew something I didn't and she said, "hahaha yeah probably". And that was it.
So what do I do now?
TL;DR: | I have a suspicion that my friend isn't actually my friend, but my source is being childish and my 'friend' would probably just lie to me to avoid confrontation. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF [18/F] just told revealed something to me [M/17] what do I do?
POST: I've been dating my current girlfriend for about 2 months. To begin the story, we have to travel back to before we were dating.
2 weeks into knowing her, she started talking to her ex boyfriend and they eventually hung out and did some sexual things (not sex, but along those lines). She told me the next morning and seemed very upset and genuinely apologetic. Except there's a problem. She told me that they only kissed. She didn't mention anything else they did.
Last night while we were on the phone, she told me everything that they actually did and I'm completely heartbroken. I feel lied to and cheated, but they did this before me and my girlfriend were even dating, and we barely knew each other. Today, I was extremely mad and upset and I told her how I felt about everything and it got her upset, so now we're basically mad at each other.
The problem is that I feel like I'm in the wrong. She didn't do it to hurt me and she didn't tell me everything they did because she wanted to protect my feelings and she didn't want to lose me because she knew that she really liked me. I really just want to call her and apologize and try to make everything okay, but I feel like what she did wasn't okay and I need to show her that she was wrong. I'm really conflicted and I just need some advice from you guys. Thanks for taking the time to read.
TL;DR: | My current girlfriend hooked up with her ex-boyfriend before we started dating. She lied and said they didn't do anything more than kiss. Am I in the wrong for being mad/upset? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [20M] over thinking things with the girl [19M] I just started seeing?
POST: I started seeing a girl and we have been on two dates. We both just had a messy break up so we're both okay with things going slow, we haven't even kissed yet. So this passed weekend while I was out of town she went and slept with someone casually. I heard this from two other people, she hasn't told me about it.
The two people both said what she did was weird but not the end of the world, because we aren't technically committed to each other. But our intent was to eventually be serious if things worked out, so I'm kind of upset hearing all of this. Should I just drop everything with her?
TL;DR: | Started seeing a girl, things were going slow but well, then she slept with someone else although we aren't technically committed or dating officially. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: At scientific crossroads...
POST: I'm a community college student one semester away from transferring to a university. I have all of my credits needed to transfer into chemistry, physics, or any of the engineering schools. I was originally a chemistry major intended on getting a PhD. I decided to switch to chemical engineering, because PhD level chemists, from what I've gathered, do not make a lot of money and must complete a lot of coursework (aka: Debt). My physics professor told me I have a desire to learn and a curiosity associated with physicists more than chemists. I've just never considered physics, because I've gotten B's in all of my calculus and physics courses, and I was a C student in math coming out of high school. To be quite honest, I have an interest in many intellectual endeavors including literature, music, and film. I'm also a very curious skeptic and I like to the progress emerging in the scientific community.
TL;DR: | I have many possible science majors but I'm not quite sure which one I'll like. Would anyone shed light on this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my GF [18F] Just over one month, We live a distance apart and go to different colleges and school starts soon.
POST: Hello Reddit,
I have been with my girlfriend for a short time and things have been great until recently. We went to a concert together and had lots of fun but the day after when we were hanging out at her house she seemed really distant. When it was time for me to leave we hugged for a really long time. I couldn't help tearing up cause I love her and she loves me but when I said "I love you" she didn't say it. She has said it before a lot. Then my best friend told me that she texted him saying she was thinking of breaking up with me. I just need some advice on what to do.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend who lives a two hour drive away told my best friend shes thinking of breaking op with me because the distance is putting a strain on things. I am asking for some advice on what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[16F] am in love with one of my best friends [17M] who somewhat recently broke up with his girlfriend
POST: I've liked him for a while but it has started to turn into love. I think he knows I like him (I'm not very good at hiding it) but I don't think he knows just how much.
He recently broke up with his girlfriend who he was with for a few months. Their relationship was no the rocks for a while (for many reasons) so he ended it.
We've been hanging out a lot recently with other friends around, but the last time we hung out our other friend that was with us fell asleep. While they were asleep we started having a pretty deep and personal conversation. I started crying and he got a little choked up(which was very rare for him) and he held me until i started to calm down. Then he drove me home.
We haven't hung out in about a week (we were every other day). So now I think he feels bad about making me cry. But I mainly made myself cry, and I'm worried he thinks it was his fault.
We have texted in the past week but I'm the one who starts the conversation. Its usually just dumb jokes, puns and emojis. I've mentioned that I want to hang out again but he just kinda brushed it off and changed the subject.
TL;DR: | I am in love with one of my best friends who somewhat recently broke up with his girlfriend. I dont know wat to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [18 M] girlfriend [17 F] of over 3,5 years just told me she isn't in love with me anymore.
POST: First off, I'm not a native speaker so I apologise for all errors in this text.
So yesterday my girlfriend came over for the night, but just after dinner she said we needed to talk. This week has already been a pretty rough week and I kind of felt this all coming. We went to my room and sat down on my couch. There she told me that she still loves me, but isn't in love with me anymore.
I already thought something was going on, because lately she has been very distant and acting increasingly annoyed by the things I do.
She told me that I am the greatest guy and that she feels like shit for it, but she can't be in a relationship with me without actually being in love.
Well, this conversation lasted for a bit, and in the end she wanted us to take a break. She doesn't want to see other people or anything, she just needs to think. I really don't want our relationship to end, she is my first serious girlfriend and we've been through so much...
I decided to agree with a 2 week to 1 month break, but I feel really empty and I just don't know what to do. I love my girlfriend really much, and I know that the feeling of being in love fades. In my case it fades but it comes back at times and it's almost never gone completely.
I keep checking my phone to see if she sent me a message. I just want to be with her.
TL;DR: | My girlfriend and I are having a break because she isn't in love with me anymore, but she still loves me. I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: A few years ago I got fucking furious at a funeral but didn't want to start a scene. What's the maddest you've been but couldn't do anything?
POST: Several years ago my uncle was diagnosed with tongue cancer. He went through radiation and chemo but he just continued to get worse. My uncle was living with his girlfriend at the time and they lived about an hour away from where my mom and I lived. One day bitch girlfriend, we'll call her Molly, says once you're done with your next round of radiation you're out. My dad who lived further away couldn't help his brother, my grandma was out of town when this happened, the closest person to help was my mom. My mom didn't get along with my uncle always but she is an awesome person so she picked him up and dropped him off and waited for him to get his treatments. Keeping him company and in good spirits while he still temporarily had a home. Meanwhile Molly had already gotten a new boyfriend and several times they had to wait for new boyfriend to leave Molly's before he could enter the house. Eventually my uncle learned there was nothing more he could do and was admitted into hospice care. My mom took it upon herself to move the bed into our house because now he didn't want to be anywhere near Molly. My uncle passed and at the funeral everyone that knew my uncle was thanking my mom for helping him out, even Molly's old boss. In the lounge area, Molly is sobbing to her mom, not about my uncle but rather how no one is paying her any attention or thanking her for this. She was pissed at my mom "for getting all the attention" that day. This was said in front of me and my other uncle. I wasn't about to say something and cause a scene at a funeral but I was piping mad.
What's your similar story?
TL;DR: | My uncle got cancer and got kicked out of his girlfriend's house, my mom takes him to treatments and gives him a place to say. Girlfriend at funeral mad at my mom because no one praised her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: 22 and still doing all the chores around the house...
POST: Coming back from college is always a hassle for me. I always find seasonal internships and jobs because I want to build my resume and find a good job after graduation. But, it has been extremely hard to handle my family and work at the same time. It frustrates me to no end that my family just seems lazy as fuck when I get home from college. I end up cooking dinner everyday, wash the dishes everyday, vaccum and mop the floor once a week, hang the whole family's laundry every week (trust me, there's a fucking lot. It takes me about an hour to finish everyone's laundry), and handle my parent's various tasks that they need help with. This can go from checking my mom's bank statements for her everyday, helping my mom with glitches on her phone(she doesn't know how to message or shut off wifi), and help my dad pay all his bills online. I literally feel like my family has just stacked all their work on me whenever I come back from college and it fucking irks me so much. I come from an asian family so trust me when I say that no one cares when I complain that I have too much work. On top of all this shit, I'm about to work 2 internships that will take up 60-70 hours a week of my time and my family will still be lazy as shit because they know I'm around the house. I have a older sister who does not help with ANY of these fucking chores and my dad may help cook 2 or 3 times a week. This is fucking frustrating as fuck... I can't wait to graduate college and move the fuck out.
TL;DR: | Family has me doing all the chores around the house even when I'm about to start 2 summer jobs. It's like they don't even care that I have so much work on my plate. Frustrated as shit. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Moms: I'm Making Jewelry for My Mom, Aunts, and Grandma - Could I Have a Little Help?
POST: So, I found out this past weekend that I can make jewelry (bracelets, rings, necklaces) using handwriting. The women in my family are super close, and we get together every August. I am looking to make some kind of group necklace/bracelet/ring/anklet/whatever for all of us, but I'm only 20 and don't have a great idea of what my mom and grandma and aunts would ACTUALLY like to wear. All of the daughters in the family are in on it, and we are all young'uns looking for advice.
So Moms, tell me, if you don't mind: would you be excited to wear a necklace or bracelet of your name (or your last name? or your daughter's name? or initials?) handwritten by your daughter? Would you prefer to wear your own handwriting? Any style preferences (size, material, etc?)
TL;DR: | To you, what is the most meaningful way to combine wearable handwriting+the mother/daughter/family bond? Thanks so much! |
SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: You Don't Bully My Kids And Get Away With It
POST: A few weeks ago my son (11) and daughter (9) were outside playing in our yard. They run in and tell me that a group of boys (around the same age as mine) keep coming into the yard and bugging them. I give the kids the usual mom response and basically tell them to ignore them. After the kids go back outside I peek out the window to see what is going on.
I see 5 boys walking by. They give my kids the finger and call them names. One of them walks into the yard and kicks my daughters barbie. Another kid says that his Dad is a member of the township board so he's allowed to go into any yard he wants. (The kids dad just shows up at township meetings and complains all of the time. He is not a member of the board.) Then they walk away to make another trip around the block. My daughter is so pissed off at this point that her hands are in fists and I'm worried (or maybe hopeful) that she is going to hit one of the kids.
Here's where it gets petty. I call my kids inside and hand them each a bag of cotton candy that I had left over from the fair. The bags are huge and I know I'm going to have to deal with the after math of them consuming to much sugar but I don't care at this point. I send them back outside to enjoy their treat. Then sit and wait for the revenge to happen.
Of course the kids walk by again but before they can say anything my son yells "Look What I Got" and holds up his bag of cotton candy. The boys are all the sudden friendly and ask if they could have some. My son smiles and shakes his head, but my daughter being the sweet and forgiving girl that she is, is thinking about it. That's when I stick my head out the door and say "You can't share any of that. I don't know if there parents will let them have it." Then I look at the boys and say "Unless you want to give me there phone numbers so I can ask." Of course they all say no, lower their heads and shuffle their feet as they walk away.
TL;DR: | A bunch of young boys pick on my kids, I give my kids cotton candy to eat in front of them and tell them they are not allowed to share. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27M) have an probleme where I constantly wait for my SO (22F) to "make it right" after an argument, and she does the same, so it just gets bigger.
POST: So for example she'll say something that I don't like, but being the introvert that I am I find it difficult to just outright tell her "I didn't like that", I just keep it to myself and I start feeling/being/looking down because of it. All the while I'm waiting for her to notice this and talk to me or something. But what actually happens is that my attitude will in turn affect her and she won't say it because she thinks i'm ignoring her, which makes it even worse for both of us until a big argument breaks.
This happens both ways by the way. Sometimes she'll be the one having an issue with something I said or did but she would just wait for me to notice it, and... you know how it goes.
This doesn't happen that much, but it's an issue and we're both aware of it and we'd like to do something about it.
TL;DR: | I keep waiting for my SO to notice that I'm feeling bad, which makes her feel bad and wait for me to notice her feeling bad, until KABOOM! |
SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: Stuck in a two week rut...
POST: Help me out, wolves.
I've been neglecting uni work again (3rd year now) so been under fairly constant strain to keep up appearances with essays, extra curricular stuff, job applications and some semblance of a social life. I missed out last year on a load of internships and shit due to just being so apathetic or scared to apply, and it's happening this time around as well. Then around 3 weeks ago, I was on antibiotics and heavy painkillers for a while, from then on i've just been a total recluse. Not really left the house, wake up everyday at 2PM, then piss away the time until I sleep.
Motivating myself to do things has become increasingly hard. I sit down to work, and literally can't force my finger to click on the link for work I have to do, whilst facebook, reddit, others get endless amount of time. An hour ago, I went on to finish a job application which was 90% done, and the deadline had past a few hours before. The thing was, *I knew it was going to happen*, and somehow I'd just formed a mental block against doing anything about it.
So now I'm just fucking frustrated as myself for being such an arsehole and frittering away my time uselessly. There's a party later on tonight, and I feel like going just to get pissed and not think of the things I have to do. But then again, I really want to get back on track...Just can't seem to find the way to do it.
TL;DR: | emo, angsty 20 year old has multiple first world problems and would like some help/advice/words of encouragement/anything |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Two kittens from shelter, worried one plays too rough (other smaller kitten usually ends up being bitten and meowing mercy)
POST: Is this normal part of socializing the kittens? One kitten is 3 months and the other kitten is 4 months. The 4 month old is noticeably bigger and usually winds up on top of the smaller one nipping at her tail or legs. It gets fairly aggressive to the point where the smaller one has to cry out.
Just worried. We just picked them up from the shelter today so we are leaving them in the bathroom as they get acquianted with their new surroundings. These are our first cats, so possibly this is a foolish question -- but any advice is welcome!!
Should we separate the two kittens. They shared a cage at the shelter and were fine - so I imagine this is just them playing rough.
TL;DR: | two female kittens, larger one plays very rough with smaller one, shared cage in shelter, should we be concerned about leaving them alone together in the bathroom while we are at work/sleeping. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to use sign language
POST: Let's start off with some background information. Being a senior in high school I work at a fast food restaurant and every few weeks a deaf gentleman will come in to order food.
Yesterday he graced us with his presence again and one of the managers on duty actually knew some sign language to take his order.
While she was taking his order I was trying to learn a little bit here and there and at the very end she showed me how to say "Thank you".
Now if you aren't aware the way to say "Thank you" is extremely similar to how you say "Fuck". The only difference is where you start your hand at.
Obviously you can tell what happens next.
With a big smile on my face I basically tell this guy "Fuck you". He gives me this face that is a mix of hurt and surprise and my manager starts signing something ferociously that I couldn't make out.
I'm standing there confused when my other manager tells me what I just said.
That's when I made an even bigger ass out of myself.
I start saying sorry repeatedly in a rather loud voice while waving my hands like an idiot. That's when he starts looking extremely scared and I realize I'm screaming sorry at a guy who can't hear me.
My manager showed me how to say sorry and he kept saying that it was ok and to not worry about it, but I will never sign again.
TL;DR: | Told a deaf guy fuck you instead of thank you then proceeded to scream sorry at him and freaked him out more. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update to being a 19/f with a crush on a guy friend, who (wrongly) assumed I was guy friend-zoned! Happy news mostly.
POST: Update to this thread:
Mostly posting this update cause a couple people asked me to in the last thread. Anyways, so it ended up that I couldn't say much to the guy I liked till fairly late in the year, due to circumstances beyond my control. Anyways, I did end up telling him a couple days before I left for summer which was bad timing, but he asked me on a coffee date. It was nice but a little awkward, since we were friends it kind of just felt like hanging out. However, he must have realized it was awkward because he asked me to come over to study later that evening, which turned into talking and cuddling and a bit more :)
He told me he had been hesitant to act on his feelings for me because one of my other guy friends apparently also has feelings for me and he didn't want to ruin the group dynamic or make that friend uncomfortable. However, he said he has pretty much liked me since he met me and was really happy I said something, though the timing was pretty poor.
I won't see him for quite a long time so we didn't agree to date or be anything more than friends for now, but I am happy I did what I did and I thank everyone from the last thread who told me to man up- I regret nothing except not telling him sooner so I could have had more than a couple days with him. :)
TL;DR: | I manned up, told him and he liked me back. We are just friends for now but I am happy with the things that have transpired. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 F] with my platatonic friend [24 M] 2 weeks, who seems to have a crush on me
POST: My boyfriend [20,] got me into an MMO a month ago and I've been having a great time. I joined his TeamSpeak club/guild/company thing and have been hanging out with those guys a lot recently.
However one of the guys seems to have developed a crush on me.
Various quotes from when I first met him. (Everyone else had left and he was helping me grind).
>Australians always have the best accents
> I was talking to [my boyfriend] and he agrees, you have like the perfect voice. Your voice is perfect
> You have such a nice voice it would make a guy want to go to the bathroom.
*two minutes later he has to go take a leak* ...
He also gave me 100,000 in game currency. Then got really awkward about how he "felt bad I can't give you more stuff," as he didn't have clothing etc that matched my class.
That was over a week ago now, but it never quite got that bad again. We've had a few deep chats - he's opened up to me a lot and is really struggling with a lot of things in life, including mental illness. So hanging out with him, even one-on-one over the internet doesn't bother me. I just don't want to be leading him on or hanging around him if it would harm him in the long run.
His crush has been confirmed by other people in the group, I don't know if he talked to them about it privately or what.
TL;DR: | What are some tips or advice on how to hang out together with a guy crushing on me without giving him the wrong idea but being a cool friend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend[22M] and I[20F] are hiding our relationship from my father[55M].
POST: **Background**
My boyfriend and I have been dating for close to a year and a half. Before our first date I tried having my father meet BF but he did not want to and left before BF even showed up. I went on the date, but my father stopped talking to me for 3 months.
My father is very strict and does not want me leaving the house or even having a boyfriend, he is a very traditional immigrant father. He has previously followed me around to see what I was doing. My mother[54F] has met BF and has supported our relationship from the start and so has my brother[23M].
My mother helps us but my parents only want me out of the house if it is work or school related. We have had to sneak around to go on dates with the help of my mother, but even still our dates are limited to maybe twice a month. While on the other hand my brother is free to visit his gf or have his gf come over.
**The Dilemma**
I want to come out to my father and tell him about our relationship since it is a new year and I want to start clean. But BF does not want to for fear of it becoming harder for us to see each other.
**My Points**
* It could help us see each other more.
* It will be a load off of my shoulders.
* It will be a load off of my brother and mothers shoulders.
**BF's Points**
* My father could follow me around again.
* My father stops me from going out.
* My father will blame any of my failures on our relationship.
* My family will get back lash from my father for helping me sneak around.
**Question**
Should I tell my father about our relationship or should I just keep it hidden until I eventually move out? *(I do not have the money to move out at the moment).
TL;DR: | Father is strict. I want to tell my father about our relationship but BF does not want to tell him until I can move out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I am [30F] and my [33M] boyfriend of five years, is driving me insane
POST: I am not sure how long this is going to last.
I would like to get married someday and have kids. I love my boyfriend very much. Our relationship has been mostly normal and boring with a few minor blow ups over the years. In the beginning, the boyfriend was my partner and crime. We made food together. We traveled around a lot more. He generally did not pay most of his attention to gadgets and smartphones.
Now he is always plugging away on some smart phone. He eats most of his meals at work, and occasionally invites me over to dine with him, but I frequently eat dinner alone. I am a grad student who joined a really terrible lab and have been trying to extricate myself from that situation and get into a new PhD program, which is hard, but it is what I want to do. Yet, I am being judged for this.
He always deeply regrets these decisions that I made (getting cats, choosing restaurants, grad school). Our weekends have become pretty boring and routine with the exception of road trips to visit our respective families..but any spontaneity has been destroyed by his work or my grad school. And he is really starting to disregard my feelings about very important things like the cleanliness of the house. In fact, I often have to initiate cleaning certain things before he even takes anything into consideration. The worst part is the fact that he does not even want to think about getting married or having kids and puts down some excuse that I am not stable and that I should not settle down. Then again, if he is apathetic about most things like he has been recently, I am guessing that I should probably just find someone else before I get stuck in an equally miserable marriage.
TL;DR: | I can't deal with the apathy and lack of support after five years, and I am not sure if I can make it better. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Just wanted to post my story
POST: We're both swedish, it was our first date and we're both kind of akward so this is probaly not how a date goes down.
I(19M) texted a friend and classmate of 3 years that I liked her(18F) and that i've done so for quite some time. This was just after a party where we hade met each other. She responded the day after that she was surprised and wanted us to meet each other. (I didn't interpret this as a date the first time but looking back at it I guess it is.) We met at the train station and walked to a café were we smalltalked and then talked about us two. She was surprised but we decided to at least try it out.
After our tea we walked to the park and sat there for maybe 2-3 hours just talking about whatever was on our mind, sitting really close and touching arms. Do note that we sat down with a bit of space between each and she skooched over shich prompted me to get closer. Afterwards we walked to an icecreambar were we ate glass (surprise!) and continued to talk. Approaching 4 hours I invited hear back to my house. Which is about 45 minutes of a bus ride. My parents were out for the day and evening and we made some spaghetti and meat sauce and saw the Incredibles on a laptop (btw great if you want to get close to someone but don't know how.)
Sitting really close and stroking her inner thigh (which afterwards seems like an overstep) we finished our food and the movie. During the credits I asked what she wanted to do and she said that she didnät know. I said that we might kiss (smooth) and we did a couple times. Since she lives really far away she had to go right after that and i accompanied her to the train station. At this point we had spent the prevously 7-8 hours together. Later on she said that she didn't have any feelings for me but that the date was still great.
What did you think can be improved? Was I to straightforward? What are your other opinions and thoughts about how all this went down?
TL;DR: | 8 hour date, kissing, touching, eating food, watching movies and just talking was involved. Opinions, thoughts or improvments? Post them here. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] 3m, ex-hook up texting often, should I be worried?
POST: So on Valentine's Day, she was with me, after about two hours of being together, when we were on our way to the store to get some things to make dinner, this frat boy she's hooked up with a few times contacted her. Being a guy just like him, I already know what his intentions were, he kept segueing into inviting her over for little reasons.
She kept texting during the whole trip and I was catching bad vibes so I eventually asked her what he wanted -- she said he was trying to invite her over. My gut reaction was just to blow it off, so we joked about it as a booty call, she texts him she was at the grocery store with her boyfriend - he says "Haha woops" and stops texting her altogether. She's been calling me recently joking with me "Guess who booty called me again?" He apologized and said he felt "lonely" and keeps trying to booty call her and tells her he "wanted a relationship with her".
A big part of me wants to believe she'd never cheat on me, because she wanted to be my boyfriend for a reason, she told me "I love you" first for a reason, and she probably won't cheat on me because she's told me lots of times I make her very happy.
But a small, bad part of me is getting insecure over things, because he continues to text her, last night we grabbed a drink, he was texting her again and "wanted help choreographing". I know jealousy is just human instinct, it's a protective measure with your partner.
I really don't want this jealousy manifesting inside of this relationship to the point she does cheat on me eventually.
My intuition tells me this is just that negative part of me that used to be depressed coming back and displaying low self esteem. But it's really starting to frustrate me she continues to text this guy and all he does is ask her to come over. One time she might just say "yes" because he's been so persistent. Is it a better idea to sit her down and talk to her
Thanks, everyone.
TL;DR: | Frat boy whom has hooked up with my girlfriend continues to text her and persists on inviting her over for little excuses, acting like a friend. Talk to her or just my personal issues? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help with understanding the new economic situation?
POST: Hi, I'm a young and not-economics-educated teenager who doesn't understand this new crisis in the USA.
So this company decides that they should downgrade america's debt rating to AA+, knowing that this would cause everyone to sell stock, which in turn would cause it to drop (both NASDAQ and DOW dropped like 7% today) which would turn into a self-propogating problem. WHY couldn't they just leave our credit rating good, so that our stock market doesn't crash?
ALSO, why do economic expert people publicly predict a further downward spiral of the stock market, knowing this would only cause more people to sell, and create more fear of buying? Why can't they tell us, the market's looking good, buy buy buy!!!!! ? instead of exacerbating the problem?
sorry if this question sounds stupid, economics makes almost zero sense to a teenager like me. or maybe just me.
TL;DR: | Why did Standard and Poor's downgrade the US's credit rating if they knew that this would cause a steep drop in the stock market? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: (San Diego, CA) Car crashed into my apartment, insurance won't cover anything. What can i do?
POST: A few days ago on the 9th, a car crashed into my apartment living room. My living room shares a wall with an outside parking spot owned by someone else in the complex. The person responsible was in his mother's car which was double parked behind his own car in the parking space. He slammed into his car which sent it through our apartment wall destroying our TV and other valuables that were in the area of impact.
We've just spoken to the mothers insurance company and they will not cover any of the damages because the son (who is not insured) was the person driving the car. Both cars are covered under the mothers insurance (Farmer's Insurance) . I do not have renter's insurance.
At this time, me and my girlfriend (who lives at the apartment with me) have been evacuated from our apartment due to the structural damage and we have been told that it could be 2 or more weeks before we are able to return to our apartment. We do not have anywhere to stay for this long and have been jumping from couch to couch at friend's houses for the time being. The apartment complex has no other vacancies and the property management has not provided us with any solutions.
Since insurance won't cover anything, we think our only option at this point would be to sue. We have never had to sue, or even hire a lawyer before. What is the best way of going about this whole process?
TL;DR: | car crashed through my apartment, neither insurance or property management will cover anything and i have no funds or anywhere to live for the time being. How do i lawyer up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Can a relationship between an atheist (23M) and theist (21F) work?
POST: Hi guys! I was hoping to get some advice from some of you awesome peeps. I've been dating my GF for about 2.5 years (I'm 23, she's 21), and we've had some ups and downs, but its been really amazing lately, until recently... She had started thinking about our future together, and well... I'm an agnostic atheist, and she strongly believes in God (she's a Bah'ai). We used to debate about God back when we were initially dating, and I actually managed to get her to admit that there might be no God, and she thought that for a while. But then she decided she still really wanted to stick with religion and that it's a big part of her life. But it's not a big part of my life at all.. I grew up Catholic but stopped believing during University. But even though I was Catholic, my family was super relaxed about religion, almost never talking about it, and and barely went to church. It was never a big part of my life. But her family is veeery religious.
There are a couple of problems with this. Firstly, I'm not sure that her family would ever get over the fact that I don't believe in God. My girlfriend brought up that she was not only scared of that, but also scared that her family would drive me crazy and cause me to resent her and her family down the road. I have spent some time with them, and I get along with them okay... but I couldn't say whether or not it would be a huge problem for me down the road.
Secondly, she is scared for what would happen if we had kids. She would want to raise them Bah'ai - is it possible for her to raise them in her religion while offering my views on the subject? Or would I basically have to stay out of that part of their life completely?
I love this girl with all of my heart - I don't think there is anyone else that I feel so like myself with. She is my best friend. Letting go of this relationship because of religion would suck so much... I just need some logical, to the point advice. Thanks in advance :)
TL;DR: | we differ greatly on religion, her family isn't a fan of me being atheist, and she is scared that it wouldn't work if we were to have kids because of our conflicting views |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the most awkward situation asking a stranger to take your photo put you in?
POST: I'll start. This story didn't actually happen to me, but to my sister. She and her friend were walking around downtown Toronto on labor day, because like all first year university student, they were both bored out of their minds. While walking around they come across a scene that is background worthy so they ask a random guy on the street to take their picture. The man then proceeds to step back twenty feet to 'get' the background, while in the process trying to figure out how to operate the camera. While this is happening, pedestrians are actually stopping to allow this guy to take the picture without getting in it themselves(Only in Canada). By the time the guy actually figures out how to operate the camera, theres a crowd of at least 35 to 40 people held up and watching the photo take place.
TL;DR: | sister asks stranger to take photo. stranger holds up downtown crowd to take picture of sister with friend, resulting in many stares. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I thought I [18 M] went on a date with my crush [ 18 F] last night, but I didn't? I'm confused.
POST: So after weeks of talking to this girl in one of my classes, I asked her if she wanted to "hang out" last night. We agreed to meet up to get pizza and I'd meet her by her dorm.
I got ready, put on nice clothing, cologne, showered, the works. I meet her by her dorm at the agreed time, and she shows up in workout clothes and is fresh from the gym. I know I don't have much experience, but I have enough sense to know the no girl dresses like that on a first date. I figured that I'd do my best with what I got.
She seemed taken aback that i paid for her, but Dinner went well, we held good conversation, I minded my manners, etc. I also found out more about her and that she's a cool person who fits my type.
After dinner, we walk back to her dorm, and I notice she had some closed body language (crossed arms, but it was a little chilly too I guess) despite the fact that dinner went well.I made sure to keep my hands out of my pockets, but to not make a move, except for the end. I read on an article that on a first date to always end it with a handshake, hug, or a kiss. So remembering this, I at the very last second went in for a handshake. I'm still cringing from how awkward it was.
I know that the expectation is to text her within 24 hours of seeing her (that's what the Internet says at least) but I don't know if I should, and if I do what to say. I still want to see her, and my end goal is a relationship. Please help.
TL;DR: | I thought a hangout with a girl was a date, it wa a nt. It went well, but awkward me decided to end it with a handshake. What should I text her/say? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my ex-girlfriend [20 F] I feel sorry for her. Why?
POST: Hello;
I'm sorry beforehand if this is the wrong subreddit.
So my story is basically the following: 3 years ago I met a girl. I'll skip the "how compatible we were" paragraph; but you must know that both of us are gamers and we play an online game.
After a few months together, we broke up. Well, she broke up with me well knowing I loved her, but she still heartlessly broke up with me. Needless to say how down and depressed I was for the months that followed. And I reckon I made some mistakes by being jealous at that time of her guy friends.
But Karma is a b**ch...
Anyway, a few months ago I learn she got in a relationship with one of my friends. I knew that friend was a douchebag but who am I to interfere between 2 people?
He slept with her -which was all he wanted- and the following day, in the presence of 4 of his friends, broke up with her in the most atrocious way: Cold-heartedly while adding insults.
He still has an expensive game controller she lent him.
Now, I know many would think she got what was coming to her. And so did I, for some time. But since a few days, a specific thought about her kept eating me inside-out: I hate her for what she did to me, for how she left me with that ice-queen attitude. I still remember it. But maybe she didn't deserve that.
I swear to God, I'm a person that can hold grudges for life, but I genuinely feel sorry and pity her.
Maybe after 2 years and half I still haven't gotten over her? Why is this happening to me? Why all of a sudden I keep thinking about her?
Thanks for reading. Maybe I just wanted to share my feelings. I admit I feel a weight getting lifted off my shoulders after writing this. Really, thank you for reading so far...
TL;DR: | Girlfriend broke up with me in a very cold way 2 years and half ago. She got what she deserved a few months ago. I feel sorry for her; why? |
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