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POST: [NY] Psychiatrist keeps in contact with parent despite my insistence that she not talk to him without prior permission Hey all, I've been seeing a psychiatrist for about two years now and I feel like there have been some serious ethical breaches with her lately. There have definitely been times where she misled me about treatment options (like certain programs she wanted me to attend, or people she wanted me to meet), but lately I've been extremely bothered by her continued contact with my father. I'm 25 years old and living at home to save money while attending college, and she's been discussing things from my appointments with my father. I've spoken with her several times about this and made it clear that I do not give her permission to be in contact with him, and that she needs to get my consent first to speak with him, but every few weeks I find out they've been speaking. This has led to an incredibly tense homelife as she's been sharing personal information with him. Is this an ethical breach and should I report it? It's negatively impacting my mental health and leading to a lot of anxiety for me.
RESPONSE A: I really think it’s time you change providers. If she can’t keep your phi, to herself then it’s time To switch. I’m not sure if this was already stated but if you signed consent in the past you need to retract it in writing.
RESPONSE B: You're not under a guardianship/conservatorship due to mental health or another disability, correct?
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POST: [NY] Psychiatrist keeps in contact with parent despite my insistence that she not talk to him without prior permission Hey all, I've been seeing a psychiatrist for about two years now and I feel like there have been some serious ethical breaches with her lately. There have definitely been times where she misled me about treatment options (like certain programs she wanted me to attend, or people she wanted me to meet), but lately I've been extremely bothered by her continued contact with my father. I'm 25 years old and living at home to save money while attending college, and she's been discussing things from my appointments with my father. I've spoken with her several times about this and made it clear that I do not give her permission to be in contact with him, and that she needs to get my consent first to speak with him, but every few weeks I find out they've been speaking. This has led to an incredibly tense homelife as she's been sharing personal information with him. Is this an ethical breach and should I report it? It's negatively impacting my mental health and leading to a lot of anxiety for me.
RESPONSE A: Absolutely report her. She needs written consent from you signed by you stating that she can speak with your father. If she doesn’t have that, she is legally and ethically in the wrong. If she does have that, you need to demand that you sign something reneging that consent. If she doesn’t have that, I would report her. Consent and releases of info are huge and it’s grounds to sue if she is breaching confidentiality.
RESPONSE B: I really think it’s time you change providers. If she can’t keep your phi, to herself then it’s time To switch. I’m not sure if this was already stated but if you signed consent in the past you need to retract it in writing.
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POST: legalize I don't quite understand. I took photos of everything and was sure to get a few phone numbers from witnesses who saw that I wasnt at fault, which I gave to the police as well as kept copies of for myself. When the FD came they asked if anything was broken, I said no but we might have whiplash and I'd like to be checked out. They must not have heard me since they immediately got back in the engine and went to leave, and the BP agent wanted to ask me more questions. Later, when when the ambulance came the BP supervisor told them we had denied care, which I told them was untrue and they checked us and took our vitals. The BP wanted me to sign something for them to hook up a computer to my car for diagnostics and I got rather upset and mouthed off a bit about how they were the perpetrators looking to cover their buddy's ass. And if I was going to sign anything, it would be with my insurance and not them. I tried to get a photo of the truck's license plates but the agents there refused to let me leave the side of the street I was on to do so. On the phone with my insurance, the operator said she wasn't sure what to do, and that my adjuster would call me later today. I did go to the ER later that afternoon and got Xrays, and nothing is broken. But my right wrist steel hurts like hell and I make most of my income from digital art and playing bass, which I currently can't do on account of the pain. On top of that I have PTSD from being an EMT and this whole thing has me pretty rattled. Almost checked back into the hospital for psych stuff last night but wanted to stay home to comfort my GF. This whole situation has been painful. What are my options moving forward?
RESPONSE A: Keep working with your insurance adjustor. There must be some avenue when the other party is a governmental agency -- perhaps use that term rather than BP. I looked around for similar cases and the insurance company had to sue the federal government. But your insurance company should be working with you.
RESPONSE B: Go through your insurer only. You do not want to be dealing directly with the border patrol.
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POST: t at fault, which I gave to the police as well as kept copies of for myself. When the FD came they asked if anything was broken, I said no but we might have whiplash and I'd like to be checked out. They must not have heard me since they immediately got back in the engine and went to leave, and the BP agent wanted to ask me more questions. Later, when when the ambulance came the BP supervisor told them we had denied care, which I told them was untrue and they checked us and took our vitals. The BP wanted me to sign something for them to hook up a computer to my car for diagnostics and I got rather upset and mouthed off a bit about how they were the perpetrators looking to cover their buddy's ass. And if I was going to sign anything, it would be with my insurance and not them. I tried to get a photo of the truck's license plates but the agents there refused to let me leave the side of the street I was on to do so. On the phone with my insurance, the operator said she wasn't sure what to do, and that my adjuster would call me later today. I did go to the ER later that afternoon and got Xrays, and nothing is broken. But my right wrist steel hurts like hell and I make most of my income from digital art and playing bass, which I currently can't do on account of the pain. On top of that I have PTSD from being an EMT and this whole thing has me pretty rattled. Almost checked back into the hospital for psych stuff last night but wanted to stay home to comfort my GF. This whole situation has been painful. What are my options moving forward?
RESPONSE A: Go through your insurer only. You do not want to be dealing directly with the border patrol.
RESPONSE B: Find a personal injury with experience in handling claims involving the federal government. Also, see an ortho about your wrist. It won’t cost you money up front, and a good one will make sure to get some cash in your pocket after everything is settled. Do not talk about your injuries with anyone. I would be hesitant to let them settle the property claim without having someone else involved. Good luck. - paralegal for personal injury
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POST: understand. I took photos of everything and was sure to get a few phone numbers from witnesses who saw that I wasnt at fault, which I gave to the police as well as kept copies of for myself. When the FD came they asked if anything was broken, I said no but we might have whiplash and I'd like to be checked out. They must not have heard me since they immediately got back in the engine and went to leave, and the BP agent wanted to ask me more questions. Later, when when the ambulance came the BP supervisor told them we had denied care, which I told them was untrue and they checked us and took our vitals. The BP wanted me to sign something for them to hook up a computer to my car for diagnostics and I got rather upset and mouthed off a bit about how they were the perpetrators looking to cover their buddy's ass. And if I was going to sign anything, it would be with my insurance and not them. I tried to get a photo of the truck's license plates but the agents there refused to let me leave the side of the street I was on to do so. On the phone with my insurance, the operator said she wasn't sure what to do, and that my adjuster would call me later today. I did go to the ER later that afternoon and got Xrays, and nothing is broken. But my right wrist steel hurts like hell and I make most of my income from digital art and playing bass, which I currently can't do on account of the pain. On top of that I have PTSD from being an EMT and this whole thing has me pretty rattled. Almost checked back into the hospital for psych stuff last night but wanted to stay home to comfort my GF. This whole situation has been painful. What are my options moving forward?
RESPONSE A: Go through your insurer only. You do not want to be dealing directly with the border patrol.
RESPONSE B: Call a personal injury lawyer. Suing a government entity is complex and you're probably better off with a lawyer doing it for you. A lot of PI lawyers work on contingency--ie, they get paid when you get paid, so you don't have to pony up money up front.
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POST: them was untrue and they checked us and took our vitals. The BP wanted me to sign something for them to hook up a computer to my car for diagnostics and I got rather upset and mouthed off a bit about how they were the perpetrators looking to cover their buddy's ass. And if I was going to sign anything, it would be with my insurance and not them. I tried to get a photo of the truck's license plates but the agents there refused to let me leave the side of the street I was on to do so. On the phone with my insurance, the operator said she wasn't sure what to do, and that my adjuster would call me later today. I did go to the ER later that afternoon and got Xrays, and nothing is broken. But my right wrist steel hurts like hell and I make most of my income from digital art and playing bass, which I currently can't do on account of the pain. On top of that I have PTSD from being an EMT and this whole thing has me pretty rattled. Almost checked back into the hospital for psych stuff last night but wanted to stay home to comfort my GF. This whole situation has been painful. What are my options moving forward?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, former insurance adjuster in my home state, but not your state. My wife was rear ended by a Secret Service agent in Dallas a few years ago. We went through the same process you are now, and I can tell you the best thing for you to do is to let your insurance handle it. They’ll subrogate (cover you for now, get their money back from BP later and in court if need be). My only concern is that any FD, PD, BP incident reports (or whatever verbiage they may call it) may be wrong. When this happened to us, the Secret Service agent lied on his report to cover his ass. Just a heads up
RESPONSE B: Keep working with your insurance adjustor. There must be some avenue when the other party is a governmental agency -- perhaps use that term rather than BP. I looked around for similar cases and the insurance company had to sue the federal government. But your insurance company should be working with you.
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POST: to my car for diagnostics and I got rather upset and mouthed off a bit about how they were the perpetrators looking to cover their buddy's ass. And if I was going to sign anything, it would be with my insurance and not them. I tried to get a photo of the truck's license plates but the agents there refused to let me leave the side of the street I was on to do so. On the phone with my insurance, the operator said she wasn't sure what to do, and that my adjuster would call me later today. I did go to the ER later that afternoon and got Xrays, and nothing is broken. But my right wrist steel hurts like hell and I make most of my income from digital art and playing bass, which I currently can't do on account of the pain. On top of that I have PTSD from being an EMT and this whole thing has me pretty rattled. Almost checked back into the hospital for psych stuff last night but wanted to stay home to comfort my GF. This whole situation has been painful. What are my options moving forward?
RESPONSE A: Find a personal injury with experience in handling claims involving the federal government. Also, see an ortho about your wrist. It won’t cost you money up front, and a good one will make sure to get some cash in your pocket after everything is settled. Do not talk about your injuries with anyone. I would be hesitant to let them settle the property claim without having someone else involved. Good luck. - paralegal for personal injury
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer, former insurance adjuster in my home state, but not your state. My wife was rear ended by a Secret Service agent in Dallas a few years ago. We went through the same process you are now, and I can tell you the best thing for you to do is to let your insurance handle it. They’ll subrogate (cover you for now, get their money back from BP later and in court if need be). My only concern is that any FD, PD, BP incident reports (or whatever verbiage they may call it) may be wrong. When this happened to us, the Secret Service agent lied on his report to cover his ass. Just a heads up
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Author: /u/babycheetahface
Title: **Found a surprise illegal septic tank on our property**
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> This is my first ever post on Reddit so be kind. I'm very lost and overwhelmed in this situation hence my outreach to strangers on the internet. > My husband and I have been in our house for 9 years. One of the selling points when we bought it was that we were on city sewer but we were only charged county taxes. This was very important to me as I have dealt with septic tank issues in the past. > Recently we have had some plumbing issues but it all came to a head when we thought we had a busted sewer line. When the plumbers came out to dig and replace the sewer line, they revealed that not only were we not on city sewer but we had been operating on a septic tank that was long past its "expiration date" so to speak. I have so many questions. Is our house contract still legal since it falsely claims repeatedly that we're on sewer? How responsible are the people who sold us the house (they are both real estate agents)? Is this a municipality issue? Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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RESPONSE B: If you need to prove what previous owners knew, you could try contacting local septic businesses ( there usually aren't many in an area) and see if there is a service history for the property. We get our tank pumped out every 3-5 years. If they knew they had it, they probably had service done at some point.
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POST: Found a surprise illegal septic tank on our property This is my first ever post on Reddit so be kind. I'm very lost and overwhelmed in this situation hence my outreach to strangers on the internet. My husband and I have been in our house for 9 years. One of the selling points when we bought it was that we were on city sewer but we were only charged county taxes. This was very important to me as I have dealt with septic tank issues in the past. Recently we have had some plumbing issues but it all came to a head when we thought we had a busted sewer line. When the plumbers came out to dig and replace the sewer line, they revealed that not only were we not on city sewer but we had been operating on a septic tank that was long past its "expiration date" so to speak. I have so many questions. Is our house contract still legal since it falsely claims repeatedly that we're on sewer? How responsible are the people who sold us the house (they are both real estate agents)? Is this a municipality issue? Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance. Edit to include that we are located in the US
RESPONSE A: So usually the way this type of post goes is someone discovers an abandoned septic tank in the yard and wonder if they can go after the sellers. The typical answer is you'd have to prove that they knew it was there and omitted that information, which is accurate. I think this is a little bit different. This wasn't an omission, but someone specifically stating a fact to be true that turned out not to be. That being said, real estate law can vary dramatically from state to state and you're talking about a lot of money. You should consult with a real estate attorney. Be sure to take any information you have about how the house was advertised with regards to being on city sewer.
RESPONSE B: If you need to prove what previous owners knew, you could try contacting local septic businesses ( there usually aren't many in an area) and see if there is a service history for the property. We get our tank pumped out every 3-5 years. If they knew they had it, they probably had service done at some point.
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POST: )? Is this a municipality issue? Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance. Edit to include that we are located in the US
RESPONSE A: So, what you're saying is that the previous owners flat out lied to you when you bought the house. You paid a certain amount of money for that house assuming that it didn't have a septic tank. And only now have you discovered it was a lie?
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Title: **Found a surprise illegal septic tank on our property**
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> This is my first ever post on Reddit so be kind. I'm very lost and overwhelmed in this situation hence my outreach to strangers on the internet. > My husband and I have been in our house for 9 years. One of the selling points when we bought it was that we were on city sewer but we were only charged county taxes. This was very important to me as I have dealt with septic tank issues in the past. > Recently we have had some plumbing issues but it all came to a head when we thought we had a busted sewer line. When the plumbers came out to dig and replace the sewer line, they revealed that not only were we not on city sewer but we had been operating on a septic tank that was long past its "expiration date" so to speak. I have so many questions. Is our house contract still legal since it falsely claims repeatedly that we're on sewer? How responsible are the people who sold us the house (they are both real estate agents)? Is this a municipality issue? Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance.
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POST: Found a surprise illegal septic tank on our property This is my first ever post on Reddit so be kind. I'm very lost and overwhelmed in this situation hence my outreach to strangers on the internet. My husband and I have been in our house for 9 years. One of the selling points when we bought it was that we were on city sewer but we were only charged county taxes. This was very important to me as I have dealt with septic tank issues in the past. Recently we have had some plumbing issues but it all came to a head when we thought we had a busted sewer line. When the plumbers came out to dig and replace the sewer line, they revealed that not only were we not on city sewer but we had been operating on a septic tank that was long past its "expiration date" so to speak. I have so many questions. Is our house contract still legal since it falsely claims repeatedly that we're on sewer? How responsible are the people who sold us the house (they are both real estate agents)? Is this a municipality issue? Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance. Edit to include that we are located in the US
RESPONSE A: So, what you're saying is that the previous owners flat out lied to you when you bought the house. You paid a certain amount of money for that house assuming that it didn't have a septic tank. And only now have you discovered it was a lie?
RESPONSE B: So usually the way this type of post goes is someone discovers an abandoned septic tank in the yard and wonder if they can go after the sellers. The typical answer is you'd have to prove that they knew it was there and omitted that information, which is accurate. I think this is a little bit different. This wasn't an omission, but someone specifically stating a fact to be true that turned out not to be. That being said, real estate law can vary dramatically from state to state and you're talking about a lot of money. You should consult with a real estate attorney. Be sure to take any information you have about how the house was advertised with regards to being on city sewer.
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POST: The post office is holding our mail and won’t let us get it. So, three weeks ago my girlfriend and I got home from a vacation and noticed that new mailboxes were mounted to the wall in front of each apartment. It’s a 2 story, 29 unit apartment complex. Initially there were two mail rooms with mailboxes in the wall where we got our laundry but tenants were leaving their junk mail lying around and our landlord got sick of it and removed the mailboxes (or at least covered them with wood panels). The thing is, she did so without approval from the post office and the post office refuses to deliver our mail because of safety concerns. Today, we went to the post office to get our mail and were told that they would not release our mail or any of the other tenants. We both have valid identification and showed them to the clerk and she said that the supervisor would not release our mail until the landlord put the old mailboxes back. Is this legal? I called the supervisor and they said it is but they couldn’t find proof. What can we do?
RESPONSE A: I would also call and ask to speak to the Post Master or set up an appointment to meet. This should get you a proper resolution.
RESPONSE B: Sounds like you should talk to your landlord since he's the cause of the problem. However I don't believe USPS can withhold your mail. Try this: https://www.uspsoig.gov/form/file-online-complaint
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POST: My friend's mother is kicking her younger sister out, and is threatening to call the cops on my friend for "kidnapping" if she lets her younger sister move in with her. My friend, "Sarah"'s abusive mother, "Margaret," has just told her younger sister, "Jordan," that she has 6 months to get out of the house. When Sarah offered to let Jordan move in with her, Margaret said that if she did so, she would call the cops on Sarah for "kidnapping" Jordan. Jordan is a minor but does not have long until she is 18. Unfortunately Margaret has Sarah's address, so she could call the cops and direct them to where Sarah lives if she chose. But how much would Margaret's claim hold up to the cops? It's Margaret's word against Sarah's and Jordan's--I suppose big complication here is that Jordan is still a minor. I'm thinking that if Jordan gets documentation somehow of Margaret kicking her out (video/audio, saved text messages, etc) that could be evidence against her "kidnapping" if it comes to that? But what else can be done in this situation to make sure Margaret isn't able to get Sarah arrested (or just make her and Jordan's lives miserable) for taking in her little sister?
RESPONSE A: Will Jordan be 18 at the time her mother tells her to leave?
RESPONSE B: If she does call the cops, and if they show up, they would talk to Jordan, who would presumably say "Why no, I haven't been kidnapped, but thanks for your concern." That would very likely be the end of it. Sarah should not talk to the police. Edit: a word
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POST: a piece on us????
RESPONSE A: > If he goes to jail as our only caregiver, what happens to us? The child protective services will find a home for you. It might not be the best home, but it will almost certainly be better than living with a man who rapes you. > Will the hospital take it away because it's incest? The hospital has no legal right to do so. The government can't take a baby away just because it was conceived in incest or because the mother is 14. Social services might be interested in her fitness to be a parent but they are more likely to offer her help than to try to take the baby. > Can I legally force the local news to not do a piece on us? No, but all reputable news media refrain from naming sexual assault victims, especially when they are minors. Since she is a minor your sister's name might even be redacted from the public copies of police reports and court records.
RESPONSE B: I'm so sorry this is happening to the two of you. First of all take a deep breath. I know this must be terrifying for you, but it will get better. You need to call CPS and the police and report what your father has been doing to both of you. They will take this very seriously and arrest your father. You and your sister will be put into foster care to start, but if you have family or friends willing to take you in CPS should allow you to move in with them after they make sure the new house is safe for you. Don't worry about the press. With both of you being minors the press will most likely leave your names out of any news stories they publish. Even if they do publish your name there are lots of ways to recover from that, including changing your name legally. If your sister can care for the baby they won't take it away from her. They won't take it away from her due to it being incest. They'll understand that this is your father's fault, not your sister's and all the trouble will be rightfully on him. That said, if your sister decides not to keep the baby and have an abortion or put it up for adoption she's free to change her mind and make that decision.
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POST: that she's going to the news because "the community needs to know what he did to you guys." Neither of us have any desire for this to get in the news. I feel like if we get identified it will just further ruin our lives. I've told her this so many times but she keeps pushing me to do an interview with the local news. I've never liked her, I think she's crazy and manipulative too and just wants to be in the spotlight for a few minutes of fame for being our "rescuer". How do I make her stop legally? Can I legally force the local news to not do a piece on us????
RESPONSE A: > If he goes to jail as our only caregiver, what happens to us? The child protective services will find a home for you. It might not be the best home, but it will almost certainly be better than living with a man who rapes you. > Will the hospital take it away because it's incest? The hospital has no legal right to do so. The government can't take a baby away just because it was conceived in incest or because the mother is 14. Social services might be interested in her fitness to be a parent but they are more likely to offer her help than to try to take the baby. > Can I legally force the local news to not do a piece on us? No, but all reputable news media refrain from naming sexual assault victims, especially when they are minors. Since she is a minor your sister's name might even be redacted from the public copies of police reports and court records.
RESPONSE B: There is a lot of support and advice that can be given to you well and far beyond that which is being given to contact the news media. That's horrible advice. The first step is to get you and your sister out of that abusive situation right now. Call the police. That's the first step. You pick up the phone and ask for help. And, in this situation, you need to ask the police for help. Please do so immediately. The rest... Well... you don't need to solve all of your problems and all your sisters problems in one go... in one sitting. Right now. You just need to take the first step and call the police.
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POST: 't know where else we can go?? Also, can she keep the baby? She really wants to right now but I can't imagine that is healthy and I don't know how she would take care of it with our father in jail. Will the hospital take it away because it's incest? The other part of this legal question is about the news. I made the mistake of confiding the whole thing to a friend, who told her mom. Her mom won't stop contacting me that she's going to the news because "the community needs to know what he did to you guys." Neither of us have any desire for this to get in the news. I feel like if we get identified it will just further ruin our lives. I've told her this so many times but she keeps pushing me to do an interview with the local news. I've never liked her, I think she's crazy and manipulative too and just wants to be in the spotlight for a few minutes of fame for being our "rescuer". How do I make her stop legally? Can I legally force the local news to not do a piece on us????
RESPONSE A: > If he goes to jail as our only caregiver, what happens to us? The child protective services will find a home for you. It might not be the best home, but it will almost certainly be better than living with a man who rapes you. > Will the hospital take it away because it's incest? The hospital has no legal right to do so. The government can't take a baby away just because it was conceived in incest or because the mother is 14. Social services might be interested in her fitness to be a parent but they are more likely to offer her help than to try to take the baby. > Can I legally force the local news to not do a piece on us? No, but all reputable news media refrain from naming sexual assault victims, especially when they are minors. Since she is a minor your sister's name might even be redacted from the public copies of police reports and court records.
RESPONSE B: You cannot force the news to not report on things. Minors are generally kept out of the news. You need to call CPS and the police. Now.
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POST: get identified it will just further ruin our lives. I've told her this so many times but she keeps pushing me to do an interview with the local news. I've never liked her, I think she's crazy and manipulative too and just wants to be in the spotlight for a few minutes of fame for being our "rescuer". How do I make her stop legally? Can I legally force the local news to not do a piece on us????
RESPONSE A: Most TV stations have a policy about not identifying victims of sexual assault, and I can't imagine a station publicly naming a fourteen-year-old just because an adult not related to the child (your friend's mom) decided to go talk to them. Once you tell the police about what's going on, the social worker assigned can talk to the local news, but I really don't think you need to worry about that aspect. The hospital won't automatically take away the baby; social services will be involved. Depending on your sister's ability to care for the child, she may eventually lose custody, or she may be able to keep the baby permanently. Many states now have programs for teenage moms in foster care, offering special services and assistance. Do you have other family or friends who could take you, your sister, and the new arrival?
RESPONSE B: > If he goes to jail as our only caregiver, what happens to us? The child protective services will find a home for you. It might not be the best home, but it will almost certainly be better than living with a man who rapes you. > Will the hospital take it away because it's incest? The hospital has no legal right to do so. The government can't take a baby away just because it was conceived in incest or because the mother is 14. Social services might be interested in her fitness to be a parent but they are more likely to offer her help than to try to take the baby. > Can I legally force the local news to not do a piece on us? No, but all reputable news media refrain from naming sexual assault victims, especially when they are minors. Since she is a minor your sister's name might even be redacted from the public copies of police reports and court records.
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POST: Landlord wants to charge over $11,000 for move out ‘repairs’ Hi! I was living in California, now am out of state. This apartment complex is owned by a big company, not a single person landlord. I got an email stating I owe them almost $20k. I called the apartment complex and the leasing agent I was able to contact said it was $11k (not sure why there’s a mishap.) but $11k is still not something I can afford. I asked why there’s such a big charge and they said there’s cleaning fees for carpet shampooing and they had to repaint. Um.... I was actually a star tenant and did a deep cleaning before leaving, and we only stayed there for a year and kept the place pretty immaculate. So I’m suspecting they want to renovate the place but on my buck. Is this legal? What steps can I take to fight this? I have already asked them for picture evidence of the damage I supposedly incurred which is costing $11k and apparently their specialist will be reaching back out on Monday since her office hours are off on weekends. I plan to ask them for an itemized bill of costs as well but I’m just baffled and honestly panicking. What can I do? Is there even anything I can do or am I just fked? Thank you in advance.
RESPONSE A: Oh yeah, there is no way painting and cleaning total 11k. Demand an itemized bill WITH receipts and remember they must have that to you within 21 days along with the remainder of your security deposit. Your deposit was for any damages you did while living there. They don’t get to renovate on your dime.
RESPONSE B: Yeah, they can't charge for that stuff, nor for painting. When did you receive all this, how many days after you surrendered or lease ended?
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POST: apartment complex is owned by a big company, not a single person landlord. I got an email stating I owe them almost $20k. I called the apartment complex and the leasing agent I was able to contact said it was $11k (not sure why there’s a mishap.) but $11k is still not something I can afford. I asked why there’s such a big charge and they said there’s cleaning fees for carpet shampooing and they had to repaint. Um.... I was actually a star tenant and did a deep cleaning before leaving, and we only stayed there for a year and kept the place pretty immaculate. So I’m suspecting they want to renovate the place but on my buck. Is this legal? What steps can I take to fight this? I have already asked them for picture evidence of the damage I supposedly incurred which is costing $11k and apparently their specialist will be reaching back out on Monday since her office hours are off on weekends. I plan to ask them for an itemized bill of costs as well but I’m just baffled and honestly panicking. What can I do? Is there even anything I can do or am I just fked? Thank you in advance.
RESPONSE A: There is something in California called the “useful life” clause that you can find in the tenants’ rights handbook and it explicitly states even IF you cause damage you do not owe the landlord a brand new replacement. What you owe is based on the remaining useful life of the object which varies according to the product. Carpet is 7-10 years, blinds are 2-5 depending on materials, etc. In general you can request initial receipts and then pay a prorated rate of what is left. If they paid $1000 for carpet and your pet stains damaged it in year 8, you would owe $200 for the remaining useful life of a 10 year product.
RESPONSE B: Do you have photos or video evidence of the condition of the place on move-in and on move-out? It will be crucial in proving that you didn't damage the unit. They can't just charge for repainting or carpet shampooing unless you did actual damage that required it.
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POST: big charge and they said there’s cleaning fees for carpet shampooing and they had to repaint. Um.... I was actually a star tenant and did a deep cleaning before leaving, and we only stayed there for a year and kept the place pretty immaculate. So I’m suspecting they want to renovate the place but on my buck. Is this legal? What steps can I take to fight this? I have already asked them for picture evidence of the damage I supposedly incurred which is costing $11k and apparently their specialist will be reaching back out on Monday since her office hours are off on weekends. I plan to ask them for an itemized bill of costs as well but I’m just baffled and honestly panicking. What can I do? Is there even anything I can do or am I just fked? Thank you in advance.
RESPONSE A: There is something in California called the “useful life” clause that you can find in the tenants’ rights handbook and it explicitly states even IF you cause damage you do not owe the landlord a brand new replacement. What you owe is based on the remaining useful life of the object which varies according to the product. Carpet is 7-10 years, blinds are 2-5 depending on materials, etc. In general you can request initial receipts and then pay a prorated rate of what is left. If they paid $1000 for carpet and your pet stains damaged it in year 8, you would owe $200 for the remaining useful life of a 10 year product.
RESPONSE B: Did you paint the walls a different color that they had to change back? Landlords like to try to add this in, but unless you changed the paint and didn't repaint it back yourself, courts usually consider painting normal wear and tear and they aren't allowed to charge you for it. That is most likely the majority of what they are trying to charge you for. A full paint of every wall by a professional painter can run up to around $10k. But they are required by law to give an itemized list of every charge not just a bill. And if they don't most jurisdictions penalize by doubling or trebling the amount wrongfully withheld.
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POST: able to contact said it was $11k (not sure why there’s a mishap.) but $11k is still not something I can afford. I asked why there’s such a big charge and they said there’s cleaning fees for carpet shampooing and they had to repaint. Um.... I was actually a star tenant and did a deep cleaning before leaving, and we only stayed there for a year and kept the place pretty immaculate. So I’m suspecting they want to renovate the place but on my buck. Is this legal? What steps can I take to fight this? I have already asked them for picture evidence of the damage I supposedly incurred which is costing $11k and apparently their specialist will be reaching back out on Monday since her office hours are off on weekends. I plan to ask them for an itemized bill of costs as well but I’m just baffled and honestly panicking. What can I do? Is there even anything I can do or am I just fked? Thank you in advance.
RESPONSE A: There may be a local tenants union you can contact as well since California is sometimes city by city as to what’s allowed and what’s not. I rented in CA for six years, and this all sounds very illegal of them. They would have to take you to court anyway. Is there an EAP through your job you can talk to a local tenant lawyer just to confirm for the exact area you were in? I think, for example, the laws are different for Bakersfield versus San Francisco.
RESPONSE B: There is something in California called the “useful life” clause that you can find in the tenants’ rights handbook and it explicitly states even IF you cause damage you do not owe the landlord a brand new replacement. What you owe is based on the remaining useful life of the object which varies according to the product. Carpet is 7-10 years, blinds are 2-5 depending on materials, etc. In general you can request initial receipts and then pay a prorated rate of what is left. If they paid $1000 for carpet and your pet stains damaged it in year 8, you would owe $200 for the remaining useful life of a 10 year product.
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POST: pairs’ Hi! I was living in California, now am out of state. This apartment complex is owned by a big company, not a single person landlord. I got an email stating I owe them almost $20k. I called the apartment complex and the leasing agent I was able to contact said it was $11k (not sure why there’s a mishap.) but $11k is still not something I can afford. I asked why there’s such a big charge and they said there’s cleaning fees for carpet shampooing and they had to repaint. Um.... I was actually a star tenant and did a deep cleaning before leaving, and we only stayed there for a year and kept the place pretty immaculate. So I’m suspecting they want to renovate the place but on my buck. Is this legal? What steps can I take to fight this? I have already asked them for picture evidence of the damage I supposedly incurred which is costing $11k and apparently their specialist will be reaching back out on Monday since her office hours are off on weekends. I plan to ask them for an itemized bill of costs as well but I’m just baffled and honestly panicking. What can I do? Is there even anything I can do or am I just fked? Thank you in advance.
RESPONSE A: How long did you live in the unit? 2 years or more, can't charge for repaint and normal wear and tear. CA law. This is excessive. Take it to your legal/JAG office
RESPONSE B: There is something in California called the “useful life” clause that you can find in the tenants’ rights handbook and it explicitly states even IF you cause damage you do not owe the landlord a brand new replacement. What you owe is based on the remaining useful life of the object which varies according to the product. Carpet is 7-10 years, blinds are 2-5 depending on materials, etc. In general you can request initial receipts and then pay a prorated rate of what is left. If they paid $1000 for carpet and your pet stains damaged it in year 8, you would owe $200 for the remaining useful life of a 10 year product.
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POST: What if I want to get an abortion without my parents ever knowing? Salt Lake City, Utah. I am 16 years old. There are no adults that I can trust. None of the planned parenthoods near me do abortion but I called one for advice and referral and they said maybe a judge will allow me to do it without permission but almost never without notification. Do I have any options at all?
RESPONSE A: Any women's shelters nearby? They might also have advice or resources that could help you.
RESPONSE B: In both Nevada and CA, you don't need consent or notification. In CA, you make an appointment, walk in, and walk out either no longer pregnant or with a few pills to take in 24 hours to flush out your uterus. I can't speak for Nevada, but in CA, there is financial help available if you cannot afford the procedure, which costs about $600-$900 depending on exactly what the clinic does. If you need an abortion in CA, you can get one. There are resources available.
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POST: there. Still suffers from the illness, is now medically unstable and has trouble walking up and downstairs and all of her body hurts. No longer in school. I think her organs are starting to shut down. Parents can't convince her to go to the hospital. They're scared to push her to go because a close friend of hers committed suicide recently and they don't want to lose her the same way. My understanding is she can't be forced to go to the hospital (i.e. through police or ambulance) without proof of her condition and that she can deny her condition if we call 9-1-1. I go back to university in 3 days. I need to see her in the hospital before that. Any information on how I can get her there before any more damage is done would be great.
RESPONSE A: Do you have a community mental health run crisis line in your city? They can help walk you through the process of getting her formed. Call 311 and ask if they have a crisis mental health line. Best of luck. Many of them are 24 hours. There is no wrong time to call.
RESPONSE B: I'm not a huge fan of Children's Aid, but I think in this case it's your best option. Everyone keeps telling you to go before a judge, but it sounds like she needs a legal mandate because she isn't competent; under the care of the province, you wouldn't be involved attorney-wise and she would likely be forced to get the care she needs. If you call the police, they might end up calling Children's Aid *anyway*, but I think I would make an urgent report. They have social workers available for emergencies. I mean...they're not something you usually want to get entangled in, but I think it's inevitable. Better to do it by your own terms and not through the gateway of OPP or God forbid TPS. At least you can control the narrative and self-report rather than have them come back at you. It's not negligence if you're proactive. Anyway, if she's in danger, a social worker is going to make that determination. You are way out of your pay grade here if she's unwilling. This is why social services exists.
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POST: for putting her there. Still suffers from the illness, is now medically unstable and has trouble walking up and downstairs and all of her body hurts. No longer in school. I think her organs are starting to shut down. Parents can't convince her to go to the hospital. They're scared to push her to go because a close friend of hers committed suicide recently and they don't want to lose her the same way. My understanding is she can't be forced to go to the hospital (i.e. through police or ambulance) without proof of her condition and that she can deny her condition if we call 9-1-1. I go back to university in 3 days. I need to see her in the hospital before that. Any information on how I can get her there before any more damage is done would be great.
RESPONSE A: I'm not a huge fan of Children's Aid, but I think in this case it's your best option. Everyone keeps telling you to go before a judge, but it sounds like she needs a legal mandate because she isn't competent; under the care of the province, you wouldn't be involved attorney-wise and she would likely be forced to get the care she needs. If you call the police, they might end up calling Children's Aid *anyway*, but I think I would make an urgent report. They have social workers available for emergencies. I mean...they're not something you usually want to get entangled in, but I think it's inevitable. Better to do it by your own terms and not through the gateway of OPP or God forbid TPS. At least you can control the narrative and self-report rather than have them come back at you. It's not negligence if you're proactive. Anyway, if she's in danger, a social worker is going to make that determination. You are way out of your pay grade here if she's unwilling. This is why social services exists.
RESPONSE B: Edit: just realized you’re in Canada. The rules are different here. Ignore my advice and listen to the other posters here. She is 17. She can be forced to go to the hospital by her parents, and based on what you say here, she WILL be admitted.
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POST: [NV] My sister's neighbor has served her with papers and is trying to get guardianship of her. She's an adult and she has a job as a paramedic and supports herself. How it is possible that he can bring to court? (She barely knows him)
RESPONSE A: Your adult sister's neighbor is attempting to use the legal system to kidnap her? I haven't heard of one like this before. This is creepy on a whole new level. I'd recommend a restraining order. The case itself should be child's play for a competent lawyer to beat. Just... I'd seriously recommend a restraining order.
RESPONSE B: Anyone can file an action - the bar to starting a case is fairly low. The bar to succeeding is much, much higher. She should hire a lawyer ASAP and look into her options. There's a decent chance this can be thrown out quickly.
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POST: [NV] My sister's neighbor has served her with papers and is trying to get guardianship of her. She's an adult and she has a job as a paramedic and supports herself. How it is possible that he can bring to court? (She barely knows him)
RESPONSE A: Anyone can file an action - the bar to starting a case is fairly low. The bar to succeeding is much, much higher. She should hire a lawyer ASAP and look into her options. There's a decent chance this can be thrown out quickly.
RESPONSE B: Does he actually have a lawyer? Because someone needs the bar called on him if so.
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POST: [NV] My sister's neighbor has served her with papers and is trying to get guardianship of her. She's an adult and she has a job as a paramedic and supports herself. How it is possible that he can bring to court? (She barely knows him)
RESPONSE A: Anyone can file an action - the bar to starting a case is fairly low. The bar to succeeding is much, much higher. She should hire a lawyer ASAP and look into her options. There's a decent chance this can be thrown out quickly.
RESPONSE B: First thing to get it out of the way... MAKE SURE SHE SHOWS UP TO COURT. Could be this is a scam and is trying to get the ability so sign/take control of her assets. A easy way is a default judgement. I would also look into getting a restraining order but that may be hard if all he has done is file this case. Maybe try that after the court case, the judge may help if the case is as bad as you say. See if he has filled any other cases or done this before. And have her check her credit history. See if anything comes up. Either this person could become dangerous, restraining order, and/or is trying to scam her so she should watch out for new credit cards or packages she did not order. Now that I think about it doe she have a camera in the front of her house? Get a cheap IP camera just to CYA.
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POST: has written numerous tumblr posts accusing me of raping her, to the point where it shows up when you google my name. Can I sue for libel or defamation? There was never any point in which we engaged in anything non-consensual. We never had PIV sex, and when we did drink together, nothing sexual ever happened until the morning after. Regardless, I can't prove any of this. Neither can she, of course. We haven't seen each other in two years, and it seems she's made numerous posts accusing me in that time. I'm concerned about what will happen if employers, friends, or anyone else googles me. I don't really know what to do, since looking around seems to tell me that libel suits can be very expensive and usually don't amount to anything unless you can prove that what the person is saying is false. I know I didn't do anything, but how can I prove that, especially given how long ago it was? I'm also worried that taking any action at all will just result in more attention being drawn to this. I really feel completely lost and sick to my stomach about all of this. Any advice is appreciated.
RESPONSE A: You can sue but there are some issues. You would have to prove a fair bit. You have to prove by a preponderance each of the following things: * It is fact and not opinion * It is false * Tends to cause damage (Eg. you can't sue because someone lied about your hair color) This is easy because CA has defamation per se * The defendant's was at least negligent The actual hard part is the second element. The other three are quite easy in your case but you need more than he said she said to prove this. Also the SOL is 1 year for defamation.
RESPONSE B: While you may not have the best grounds for a lawsuit, nothing's stopping you from having a lawyer write a scary cease-and-desist and send it to her. Couple hundred bucks at the most, and a lot of times just the threat of a lawsuit is enough to make people back down. Couldn't hurt.
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POST: I can't obtain transcripts from High School. I can't get into college as a result My high school will not respond to any requests to obtain transcripts so I can apply for college. I've been attempting to reach them for several years now. Some things I've tried: - contact the district. The district and the school are the same building and have the same points of contact - contacted individual teachers. They will not answer emails or calls. - contacted the state dept of education. They told me they can't help Unless the school is defunct. I haven't tried actually going to the school physically. But the school is across the United States from me and I can't afford the travel and time off work to take a week to get there and back. This is preventing me from getting into any major university, it's preventing me from getting jobs. Even if a college did accept me I can't apply for any financial aid. I don't want to get a GED just to avoid them because I was the valedictorian and I earned it, I shouldn't have to graduate school twice because of my high school's administrative laziness. What can I do?
RESPONSE A: Did you call the school?
RESPONSE B: Call your former congressperson (state and/or federal for the school district). They are pretty good at fighting bureaucratical BS.
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POST: I can't obtain transcripts from High School. I can't get into college as a result My high school will not respond to any requests to obtain transcripts so I can apply for college. I've been attempting to reach them for several years now. Some things I've tried: - contact the district. The district and the school are the same building and have the same points of contact - contacted individual teachers. They will not answer emails or calls. - contacted the state dept of education. They told me they can't help Unless the school is defunct. I haven't tried actually going to the school physically. But the school is across the United States from me and I can't afford the travel and time off work to take a week to get there and back. This is preventing me from getting into any major university, it's preventing me from getting jobs. Even if a college did accept me I can't apply for any financial aid. I don't want to get a GED just to avoid them because I was the valedictorian and I earned it, I shouldn't have to graduate school twice because of my high school's administrative laziness. What can I do?
RESPONSE A: I know something similar to this was already suggested: If you are in the US, send your request certified mail, receipt requested, through USPS.
RESPONSE B: Have you tried National Student Clearinghouse?
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POST: I can't obtain transcripts from High School. I can't get into college as a result My high school will not respond to any requests to obtain transcripts so I can apply for college. I've been attempting to reach them for several years now. Some things I've tried: - contact the district. The district and the school are the same building and have the same points of contact - contacted individual teachers. They will not answer emails or calls. - contacted the state dept of education. They told me they can't help Unless the school is defunct. I haven't tried actually going to the school physically. But the school is across the United States from me and I can't afford the travel and time off work to take a week to get there and back. This is preventing me from getting into any major university, it's preventing me from getting jobs. Even if a college did accept me I can't apply for any financial aid. I don't want to get a GED just to avoid them because I was the valedictorian and I earned it, I shouldn't have to graduate school twice because of my high school's administrative laziness. What can I do?
RESPONSE A: Write a letter requesting a transcript and send it by first class mail. After 14 days without response send the same letter with return receipt requested. If you cannot wait a month, skip ahead to the second letter. Be aware they will probably ask for a fee of some sort. Does the school have a website? Maybe they only use a third-party transcript provider for a few. The most common transcript provider is Parchment.
RESPONSE B: I know something similar to this was already suggested: If you are in the US, send your request certified mail, receipt requested, through USPS.
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POST: I can't obtain transcripts from High School. I can't get into college as a result My high school will not respond to any requests to obtain transcripts so I can apply for college. I've been attempting to reach them for several years now. Some things I've tried: - contact the district. The district and the school are the same building and have the same points of contact - contacted individual teachers. They will not answer emails or calls. - contacted the state dept of education. They told me they can't help Unless the school is defunct. I haven't tried actually going to the school physically. But the school is across the United States from me and I can't afford the travel and time off work to take a week to get there and back. This is preventing me from getting into any major university, it's preventing me from getting jobs. Even if a college did accept me I can't apply for any financial aid. I don't want to get a GED just to avoid them because I was the valedictorian and I earned it, I shouldn't have to graduate school twice because of my high school's administrative laziness. What can I do?
RESPONSE A: Did you call the school?
RESPONSE B: I know something similar to this was already suggested: If you are in the US, send your request certified mail, receipt requested, through USPS.
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POST: I can't obtain transcripts from High School. I can't get into college as a result My high school will not respond to any requests to obtain transcripts so I can apply for college. I've been attempting to reach them for several years now. Some things I've tried: - contact the district. The district and the school are the same building and have the same points of contact - contacted individual teachers. They will not answer emails or calls. - contacted the state dept of education. They told me they can't help Unless the school is defunct. I haven't tried actually going to the school physically. But the school is across the United States from me and I can't afford the travel and time off work to take a week to get there and back. This is preventing me from getting into any major university, it's preventing me from getting jobs. Even if a college did accept me I can't apply for any financial aid. I don't want to get a GED just to avoid them because I was the valedictorian and I earned it, I shouldn't have to graduate school twice because of my high school's administrative laziness. What can I do?
RESPONSE A: Have you tried National Student Clearinghouse?
RESPONSE B: Did you call the school?
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POST: the problem. Before I signed the contract to build, my soon to be neighbor, whom I had not met yet, told me that after he got hit in his front door, he went to our exact salesperson and told him about it. So our builder had ample chance to let us know of this danger. The Gun Range even bought him a new front door. We met with the local Police, the City, and their Attorneys and was told that there is nothing they can do about the problem due to how protected the gun range is by TX state law. When the problem is reported to the police, the charge of "criminal mischief" is written, but no one is held accountable. Of course, you can say "you shouldn't have purchased behind a gun range." I did my research before I bought my home; I looked at Cell tower locations, proximity to High Voltage power lines, flood zones, proximity to fire stations, schools, etc. I would have never guessed that the City would zone this area as "residential" if there was an inherent danger to life, and I certainly wouldn't expect to have bullets hitting our homes. When we purchased, we accepted the noise, not the bullets. So, I am asking this community what they think a proper course of action would be? Of course, I can sell this property and take a loss; but I would feel horrible putting someone else in this situation. I would like to solve this issue for the safety of everyone affected.
RESPONSE A: Sue the gun range. Get all the documentation you can, go a lawyer, and sue them.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer. I do live in TX (and I own guns, and have shot at several ranges in cities.) I call BS on the "we can't do anything" response from the city. Find out exactly what laws they're referring to. There may also be county-level ordinances that apply. Any range that allows bullets to escape the range and hit residences is operating in an unsafe manner. If you can't get any traction with the city (and they could be trying to cover their butts over a zoning screwup), you may be able to get somewhere with the range's insurance carrier.
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POST: I signed the contract to build, my soon to be neighbor, whom I had not met yet, told me that after he got hit in his front door, he went to our exact salesperson and told him about it. So our builder had ample chance to let us know of this danger. The Gun Range even bought him a new front door. We met with the local Police, the City, and their Attorneys and was told that there is nothing they can do about the problem due to how protected the gun range is by TX state law. When the problem is reported to the police, the charge of "criminal mischief" is written, but no one is held accountable. Of course, you can say "you shouldn't have purchased behind a gun range." I did my research before I bought my home; I looked at Cell tower locations, proximity to High Voltage power lines, flood zones, proximity to fire stations, schools, etc. I would have never guessed that the City would zone this area as "residential" if there was an inherent danger to life, and I certainly wouldn't expect to have bullets hitting our homes. When we purchased, we accepted the noise, not the bullets. So, I am asking this community what they think a proper course of action would be? Of course, I can sell this property and take a loss; but I would feel horrible putting someone else in this situation. I would like to solve this issue for the safety of everyone affected.
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer. I do live in TX (and I own guns, and have shot at several ranges in cities.) I call BS on the "we can't do anything" response from the city. Find out exactly what laws they're referring to. There may also be county-level ordinances that apply. Any range that allows bullets to escape the range and hit residences is operating in an unsafe manner. If you can't get any traction with the city (and they could be trying to cover their butts over a zoning screwup), you may be able to get somewhere with the range's insurance carrier.
RESPONSE B: Texas has nutty zoning laws but even for Texas this is pretty absurd I would suggest talking to local government more.
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POST: er knew about the problem. Before I signed the contract to build, my soon to be neighbor, whom I had not met yet, told me that after he got hit in his front door, he went to our exact salesperson and told him about it. So our builder had ample chance to let us know of this danger. The Gun Range even bought him a new front door. We met with the local Police, the City, and their Attorneys and was told that there is nothing they can do about the problem due to how protected the gun range is by TX state law. When the problem is reported to the police, the charge of "criminal mischief" is written, but no one is held accountable. Of course, you can say "you shouldn't have purchased behind a gun range." I did my research before I bought my home; I looked at Cell tower locations, proximity to High Voltage power lines, flood zones, proximity to fire stations, schools, etc. I would have never guessed that the City would zone this area as "residential" if there was an inherent danger to life, and I certainly wouldn't expect to have bullets hitting our homes. When we purchased, we accepted the noise, not the bullets. So, I am asking this community what they think a proper course of action would be? Of course, I can sell this property and take a loss; but I would feel horrible putting someone else in this situation. I would like to solve this issue for the safety of everyone affected.
RESPONSE A: I would gather reports from all the neighbors and (as a group) have a lawyer send a nicely worded "there's a problem here" letter to the range, city/county/ state, and anyone else who might have a say in the operation of a range. Ranges can be built (and retrofitted) with overhead baffles that keep bullets from exiting the range over the top of the backstop, so there are options which should satisfy all parties. It's more complicated if there's action shooting (shooters moving around rather than firing from a fixed position), but it is possible.
RESPONSE B: Sue the gun range. Get all the documentation you can, go a lawyer, and sue them.
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POST: home; I looked at Cell tower locations, proximity to High Voltage power lines, flood zones, proximity to fire stations, schools, etc. I would have never guessed that the City would zone this area as "residential" if there was an inherent danger to life, and I certainly wouldn't expect to have bullets hitting our homes. When we purchased, we accepted the noise, not the bullets. So, I am asking this community what they think a proper course of action would be? Of course, I can sell this property and take a loss; but I would feel horrible putting someone else in this situation. I would like to solve this issue for the safety of everyone affected.
RESPONSE A: The zoning dispute has got to be interesting — developers siting new houses within range of target shooters, with stray rounds hitting the houses, and all this within city limits. How does this even happen?
RESPONSE B: In Texas, a home seller is required to disclose certain things to the buyer. Form OP-H is typically used for this. Section 6 requires the seller to disclose whether there is "any condition on the Property which materially affects the physical health or safety of an individual." Look through your closing paperwork for that form. See what Section 6 says. If it doesn't say anything about incoming bullets, then the builder has an issue. Then, you and your neighbors should go see a lawyer, You want a bulldog on this, because you want the thread of a lawsuit and bad publicity to force the builder and gun range to fix the problem. There will be a bunch of legal wrangling, and here's the solution that shoould result: the firing range increases the height of its berm. The cost of increasing that height will be borne in part by the builder and in part by the gun range owner. There's even a chance that the builder (or its insurance company) will buy out the gun range entirely. That will not help you with the sound of gun fire coming from the range -- you bought next to a gun range, and that's a risk you bear. Hopefully you paid less because of it. But, it should fix the "I'm worried I'll be shot" problem.
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POST: sell this property and take a loss; but I would feel horrible putting someone else in this situation. I would like to solve this issue for the safety of everyone affected.
RESPONSE A: This is a long shot, and it would certainly not be my fist course of action, but I would suggest trying to find out who insures the gun range. I would bet the owner is not filing claims for small things like new doors, but eventually something much worse and much more expensive is going to go wrong. Their insurance company has a vested interest in making sure their client has ample protections in place that will limit expensive claims. Right now I think it's clear that the range does not have ample protections in place. Their insurance may insist they upgrade their backstops or risk losing coverage. Insurance is usually a requirement for a business license, so if they lose coverage they won't be licensed long.
RESPONSE B: In Texas, a home seller is required to disclose certain things to the buyer. Form OP-H is typically used for this. Section 6 requires the seller to disclose whether there is "any condition on the Property which materially affects the physical health or safety of an individual." Look through your closing paperwork for that form. See what Section 6 says. If it doesn't say anything about incoming bullets, then the builder has an issue. Then, you and your neighbors should go see a lawyer, You want a bulldog on this, because you want the thread of a lawsuit and bad publicity to force the builder and gun range to fix the problem. There will be a bunch of legal wrangling, and here's the solution that shoould result: the firing range increases the height of its berm. The cost of increasing that height will be borne in part by the builder and in part by the gun range owner. There's even a chance that the builder (or its insurance company) will buy out the gun range entirely. That will not help you with the sound of gun fire coming from the range -- you bought next to a gun range, and that's a risk you bear. Hopefully you paid less because of it. But, it should fix the "I'm worried I'll be shot" problem.
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POST: Job accusing me of stealing an item after I brought in a reciept Someone bought me a gift and my job believes I stole it. I brought in a reciept which then shortly after my manager lost it. They are now threatening my job and calling loss prevention and the police. They also kept the item and hasn't given it back. I've contacted HR and all they did was give me the number to loss prevention. What are some options for me? I need help with this.
RESPONSE A: YOU call the police and tell them the store has stolen your property. I bet that will fix this right quick.
RESPONSE B: I would tell them to go ahead and call the police, IOW call them bluff. What was the gift if I may ask? Sounds fucked up they would do that to you. You said your manager lost it when you showed him he reciept, how did he lose it, what did he do?
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RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer but if they took something that legally belongs to you, and won't return it, you could always call the police yourself.
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POST: Job accusing me of stealing an item after I brought in a reciept Someone bought me a gift and my job believes I stole it. I brought in a reciept which then shortly after my manager lost it. They are now threatening my job and calling loss prevention and the police. They also kept the item and hasn't given it back. I've contacted HR and all they did was give me the number to loss prevention. What are some options for me? I need help with this.
RESPONSE A: How was the item purchased, cash or credit?
RESPONSE B: I would tell them to go ahead and call the police, IOW call them bluff. What was the gift if I may ask? Sounds fucked up they would do that to you. You said your manager lost it when you showed him he reciept, how did he lose it, what did he do?
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POST: eviction notice after I missed her text message about the bathroom 3 days ago Hey guys I’m in Australia - NSW. I’m not sure this is the right sub - if not please delete. I rent in a 4 room sharehouse/townhouse. The house has a person that collects rent/ deals with any issues but no official title. Three days ago she sent a message saying that I cleaned the bathroom “too fast”. I have photos of how the bathroom looked after I cleaned it and I have clearly fulfilled all the requirements of the agreement we have (also have photo of said agreement i.e. clean sink/mirror, etc). 3 days ago she sent me a long text that I ignored as I have been working 10 hour shifts. She also called me once same day - also while I was at work. This morning I woke up to a message saying I have 2 weeks to move out. When I asked her what the f* she said that I’ve been ignoring her and it’s not her problem. I’m just wondering if I actually have to move out? Should I contact the landlord? Should I get a lawyer? Thanks for reading - any input would be amazing. TLDR; I cleaned the bathroom “too fast” and didn’t answer her text within 72 hours and am now being told to move out in 2 weeks.
RESPONSE A: Try /r/auslegal. :)
RESPONSE B: So you rent a room in a shared house? The person collecting the rent has no official title but apparently thinks they can evict you? Do they live there too? It’s a bit unusual to see 2 week evictions in Australia but it would depend on your lease. If your position I would: - read through the long text and write out your responses where you don’t think you failed the requirements, with photos. - read through the lease to see if there is anything about responding within a timeframe to rectify an issue. - contact the landlord to work out what the official role of this person is and if they have a right to evict. Explain your side and send your response in writing if needed. - seek support through a tenants advocacy service
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RESPONSE A: So you rent a room in a shared house? The person collecting the rent has no official title but apparently thinks they can evict you? Do they live there too? It’s a bit unusual to see 2 week evictions in Australia but it would depend on your lease. If your position I would: - read through the long text and write out your responses where you don’t think you failed the requirements, with photos. - read through the lease to see if there is anything about responding within a timeframe to rectify an issue. - contact the landlord to work out what the official role of this person is and if they have a right to evict. Explain your side and send your response in writing if needed. - seek support through a tenants advocacy service
RESPONSE B: I'd contact the landlord. But here the things that come to mind that you'll need to research: > what's the lease termination rules and regs where you're at? Is it legal for a 2 week landlord notice (since you mentioned it was the property manager)? What does your agreement say? > is cleaning the bathroom a part of your lease agreement or just housemates agreement? I would think that a lease agreement would trump a housing agreement. > are there rules and regs about the time frame when a renter must respond to landlord regarding questions/comments? Was that apart of any agreement? > where I'm from there's different rules and regs if the landlord is in the home vs landlord renting an empty apartment. I'm not sure if the property manager is family and how that would tie into any termination rights they have. I'm not sure how vindictive your property manager is. If you don't vacate in 2 weeks, would they toss all your stuff out of the house? Or will they do it legally (whatever that means in Australia)? So if things go downhill, you might want to store valuables and documents elsewhere.
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POST: My property manager sent me a 2 week eviction notice after I missed her text message about the bathroom 3 days ago Hey guys I’m in Australia - NSW. I’m not sure this is the right sub - if not please delete. I rent in a 4 room sharehouse/townhouse. The house has a person that collects rent/ deals with any issues but no official title. Three days ago she sent a message saying that I cleaned the bathroom “too fast”. I have photos of how the bathroom looked after I cleaned it and I have clearly fulfilled all the requirements of the agreement we have (also have photo of said agreement i.e. clean sink/mirror, etc). 3 days ago she sent me a long text that I ignored as I have been working 10 hour shifts. She also called me once same day - also while I was at work. This morning I woke up to a message saying I have 2 weeks to move out. When I asked her what the f* she said that I’ve been ignoring her and it’s not her problem. I’m just wondering if I actually have to move out? Should I contact the landlord? Should I get a lawyer? Thanks for reading - any input would be amazing. TLDR; I cleaned the bathroom “too fast” and didn’t answer her text within 72 hours and am now being told to move out in 2 weeks.
RESPONSE A: If I'm following correctly, it sounds like this person is just a housemate that takes the responsibility of collecting the rent and pays it to the landlord. Yeah? Are you on the lease? The landlord would be the one to issue an eviction notice. A text message from a housemate is not an eviction notice. I'd take this up with the landlord.
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POST: been working 10 hour shifts. She also called me once same day - also while I was at work. This morning I woke up to a message saying I have 2 weeks to move out. When I asked her what the f* she said that I’ve been ignoring her and it’s not her problem. I’m just wondering if I actually have to move out? Should I contact the landlord? Should I get a lawyer? Thanks for reading - any input would be amazing. TLDR; I cleaned the bathroom “too fast” and didn’t answer her text within 72 hours and am now being told to move out in 2 weeks.
RESPONSE A: If I'm following correctly, it sounds like this person is just a housemate that takes the responsibility of collecting the rent and pays it to the landlord. Yeah? Are you on the lease? The landlord would be the one to issue an eviction notice. A text message from a housemate is not an eviction notice. I'd take this up with the landlord.
RESPONSE B: I'd contact the landlord. But here the things that come to mind that you'll need to research: > what's the lease termination rules and regs where you're at? Is it legal for a 2 week landlord notice (since you mentioned it was the property manager)? What does your agreement say? > is cleaning the bathroom a part of your lease agreement or just housemates agreement? I would think that a lease agreement would trump a housing agreement. > are there rules and regs about the time frame when a renter must respond to landlord regarding questions/comments? Was that apart of any agreement? > where I'm from there's different rules and regs if the landlord is in the home vs landlord renting an empty apartment. I'm not sure if the property manager is family and how that would tie into any termination rights they have. I'm not sure how vindictive your property manager is. If you don't vacate in 2 weeks, would they toss all your stuff out of the house? Or will they do it legally (whatever that means in Australia)? So if things go downhill, you might want to store valuables and documents elsewhere.
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RESPONSE A: Hi, have a look on the Tennants Union NSW website and find your local Tennant advocate. Give them a call on Monday. They might be able to help you. If not, call the department of fair trading and ask them. The tenantS union also have A lot of fact sheets on their website that might help out as well.
RESPONSE B: If I'm following correctly, it sounds like this person is just a housemate that takes the responsibility of collecting the rent and pays it to the landlord. Yeah? Are you on the lease? The landlord would be the one to issue an eviction notice. A text message from a housemate is not an eviction notice. I'd take this up with the landlord.
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POST: Family member is accusing my husband and I of stealing a valuable family heirloom, his only evidence is that we stayed at their place two nights during the 3 weeks that it went missing. How do I respond/ possibly protect myself from this situation? Is it crazy to feel so offended and hurt?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer but you do have a right to feel offended, especially if there's no reason to suspect him or the accusation seems like it's coming from left field. Was there anyone else that could have taken it? Or is the keeper of the item not good at keeping track of things and lost it? I would just lay low and look into getting a lawyer only if they try to press charges
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RESPONSE A: They have no evidence, don’t know when it went missing and it is possible that this object is simply misplaced. Legally even if they did accuse the police would not be interested/have a case. I would stop communicating with them though. Never talk to people who accuse you of a crime.
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POST: t claim she's innocent here. We haven't had any money, marriage or family problems or illnesses, my wife had recently had an MRI on her head and blood work and an annual physical showed nothing. This came out of left field. I know I could be perceived as being in denial about her being mentally ill but what she has done has shocked everyone we know and no one I have spoken to can believe it. She will be having a mental health assessment by a jail psychiatrist soon. Right now I am trying to work through my confusion and doing my best to make this as easy for my children as possible. I am dealing with getting her a lawyer and trying to find a solution to the counter suit to the civil suit my wife had filed. Understandably our neighbor is extremely upset, her dog was injured and the vet bills will be quite expensive I imagine and as well there is the emotional and property damage. My children and I are staying with other family for now. Thank-you to everyone who has offered support and kind messages. None of this has been easy and there is a long road ahead. With these new charges does anyone have any idea of what kind of penalties my wife is now facing?
RESPONSE A: Prepare for some jail time. These charges aren't small. It's weird to think if the neighbor hadn't put up survellience in their back yard this entire story would be going the other way. Really makes you think how closely you should be watching your own homes.
RESPONSE B: I am so sorry you have to deal with all of this crap. I think it's good that you are not denying that your wife is wrong and you're not in denial that this is all f'ed up. In addition to getting your wife (and yourself) legal representation, please get a counselor for your kids. Even if they seem to be OK now, there are a lot of changes/upheaval to their lives and having a safe place to talk about/deal with their feeling can only help them. The morally correct thing is to offer to pay for any vet bills the neighbors have, but please do so thru your lawyer so you don't open the door to a crap-ton of legal liability that can f' up things for you and your children.
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POST: ing, animal cruelty and filing a false report with the police) and a felony (perjury). An additional charge of making a threat (a felony) followed soon after and now she has been charged with destruction of property and intending to poison our neighbors dog (sorry I am not sure of the exact wording yet). The police have informed me that she could also face drug charges depending on the class of drugs she procured. I think both of these new charges are also felonies and the drug charge would be too. As I said in my first post I don't condone at all what she did and I don't defend her actions in any way. I love her and want to support her but I won't claim she's innocent here. We haven't had any money, marriage or family problems or illnesses, my wife had recently had an MRI on her head and blood work and an annual physical showed nothing. This came out of left field. I know I could be perceived as being in denial about her being mentally ill but what she has done has shocked everyone we know and no one I have spoken to can believe it. She will be having a mental health assessment by a jail psychiatrist soon. Right now I am trying to work through my confusion and doing my best to make this as easy for my children as possible. I am dealing with getting her a lawyer and trying to find a solution to the counter suit to the civil suit my wife had filed. Understandably our neighbor is extremely upset, her dog was injured and the vet bills will be quite expensive I imagine and as well there is the emotional and property damage. My children and I are staying with other family for now. Thank-you to everyone who has offered support and kind messages. None of this has been easy and there is a long road ahead. With these new charges does anyone have any idea of what kind of penalties my wife is now facing?
RESPONSE A: There is no easy advice we can give except listen to your lawyers
RESPONSE B: Prepare for some jail time. These charges aren't small. It's weird to think if the neighbor hadn't put up survellience in their back yard this entire story would be going the other way. Really makes you think how closely you should be watching your own homes.
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RESPONSE A: Wow OP, I'm glad you seem to be staying strong. I've had situations like that too - when someone you trust completely suddenly does something you'd never expect, its really a helpless feeling. Keep on keeping on, I know you can do it. Tell your kids you love them. Good luck.
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RESPONSE A: I am so sorry you have to deal with all of this crap. I think it's good that you are not denying that your wife is wrong and you're not in denial that this is all f'ed up. In addition to getting your wife (and yourself) legal representation, please get a counselor for your kids. Even if they seem to be OK now, there are a lot of changes/upheaval to their lives and having a safe place to talk about/deal with their feeling can only help them. The morally correct thing is to offer to pay for any vet bills the neighbors have, but please do so thru your lawyer so you don't open the door to a crap-ton of legal liability that can f' up things for you and your children.
RESPONSE B: I call troll. Consider this ama a) op was not entirely engaging in the comments of the original post - yet they are engaged enough to bring us an update? b) no location given in either post c) from original post: > After my wife testified about what happened our neighbor showed video of her backyard, which showed my wife climbing the fence and hitting the dog with a stick until it bit her... WHY would this video be withheld by the neighbour until after the wife testifies? This makes no sense to me, who is the wife testifying to? I'm no lawyer but maybe someone (OP???) can explain these details and assuage my skepticism.
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POST: t condone at all what she did and I don't defend her actions in any way. I love her and want to support her but I won't claim she's innocent here. We haven't had any money, marriage or family problems or illnesses, my wife had recently had an MRI on her head and blood work and an annual physical showed nothing. This came out of left field. I know I could be perceived as being in denial about her being mentally ill but what she has done has shocked everyone we know and no one I have spoken to can believe it. She will be having a mental health assessment by a jail psychiatrist soon. Right now I am trying to work through my confusion and doing my best to make this as easy for my children as possible. I am dealing with getting her a lawyer and trying to find a solution to the counter suit to the civil suit my wife had filed. Understandably our neighbor is extremely upset, her dog was injured and the vet bills will be quite expensive I imagine and as well there is the emotional and property damage. My children and I are staying with other family for now. Thank-you to everyone who has offered support and kind messages. None of this has been easy and there is a long road ahead. With these new charges does anyone have any idea of what kind of penalties my wife is now facing?
RESPONSE A: > what she has done has shocked everyone we know When your wife first declared that your children should have a right to trespass onto your neighbor's property, did that not raise any red flags for you?
RESPONSE B: I call troll. Consider this ama a) op was not entirely engaging in the comments of the original post - yet they are engaged enough to bring us an update? b) no location given in either post c) from original post: > After my wife testified about what happened our neighbor showed video of her backyard, which showed my wife climbing the fence and hitting the dog with a stick until it bit her... WHY would this video be withheld by the neighbour until after the wife testifies? This makes no sense to me, who is the wife testifying to? I'm no lawyer but maybe someone (OP???) can explain these details and assuage my skepticism.
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RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer if local PD won't take a report have you tried to make a report with WSP (Washington state patrol)? I know you stated you checked hospitals did that include correners office/ city morgue ( most people don't think to check there)? This is very concerning with the heat we have had the last couple weeks.
RESPONSE B: I am so sorry your family is going through this. I hope this is helpful via Seattle Police Department website: https://www.seattle.gov/police/need-help/report-a-missing-person
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**I had a tinder girl I just met stay the night. She lost her wallet at my house with $350 in it. We've looked everywhere she wants to call cops what do I do?** >We've looked absolutely everywhere. We are the only 2 people in the house but we think my puppy snatched it and hid it somwehere. It's a big house and Idk what to do. Would I be accused of theft in this case? I can't afford court or to pay back $350. What do we do?? How does this look in the eyes of the law? All her bank cards and ID's are in to so she can't get into her accounts when she has bills to pay.
RESPONSE B: Sounds like a scam to me. Did she actually have a wallet or did she just say she had one?
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**I had a tinder girl I just met stay the night. She lost her wallet at my house with $350 in it. We've looked everywhere she wants to call cops what do I do?** >We've looked absolutely everywhere. We are the only 2 people in the house but we think my puppy snatched it and hid it somwehere. It's a big house and Idk what to do. Would I be accused of theft in this case? I can't afford court or to pay back $350. What do we do?? How does this look in the eyes of the law? All her bank cards and ID's are in to so she can't get into her accounts when she has bills to pay.
RESPONSE B: Who meets up with a stranger for sex with a wallet with 350 in it? I get uncomfortable with more than 40 in my wallet. I'm thinking scam.
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RESPONSE A: Sounds like she's trying to get you to give her $350. Wallets don't disappear like that.
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**I had a tinder girl I just met stay the night. She lost her wallet at my house with $350 in it. We've looked everywhere she wants to call cops what do I do?** >We've looked absolutely everywhere. We are the only 2 people in the house but we think my puppy snatched it and hid it somwehere. It's a big house and Idk what to do. Would I be accused of theft in this case? I can't afford court or to pay back $350. What do we do?? How does this look in the eyes of the law? All her bank cards and ID's are in to so she can't get into her accounts when she has bills to pay.
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**I had a tinder girl I just met stay the night. She lost her wallet at my house with $350 in it. We've looked everywhere she wants to call cops what do I do?** >We've looked absolutely everywhere. We are the only 2 people in the house but we think my puppy snatched it and hid it somwehere. It's a big house and Idk what to do. Would I be accused of theft in this case? I can't afford court or to pay back $350. What do we do?? How does this look in the eyes of the law? All her bank cards and ID's are in to so she can't get into her accounts when she has bills to pay.
RESPONSE B: You tell her to leave, get her number, and say you'll call her if you find it. Chances are, there is no wallet though.
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RESPONSE A: Let her call the police. Better yet, you call them.
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**I had a tinder girl I just met stay the night. She lost her wallet at my house with $350 in it. We've looked everywhere she wants to call cops what do I do?** >We've looked absolutely everywhere. We are the only 2 people in the house but we think my puppy snatched it and hid it somwehere. It's a big house and Idk what to do. Would I be accused of theft in this case? I can't afford court or to pay back $350. What do we do?? How does this look in the eyes of the law? All her bank cards and ID's are in to so she can't get into her accounts when she has bills to pay.
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RESPONSE A: > Any recommendations? Nothing else to be done. It doesn't appear the bar has any liability, and you can't sue a person you can't identify. For now, just get her fixed up and see what happens with the investigation.
RESPONSE B: From a medical perspective, I'd strongly advise her to see a doctor. SF police may or may not want to pursue the case. If you can get the bar to send them footage, that might push them towards doing some investigating of their own. However, it is ultimately up to the police, not you, to investigate the crime.
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POST: kept saying yes, including the final signature. Her aunt was witness to this, as she was with her in the ER. Then once she was in the facility, she wasn’t allowed to leave. She signed under false pretenses. The hospital claimed to have therapy, and that she’d have therapy everyday. It’s been 2 days, and there’s still no sign of a therapist anywhere. She’s given cups of pills throughout the day. Staff doesn’t tell her what they are. My girlfriend was once given a cup of “lights-out” pills. She thought they were sleep meds. She didn’t learn until later that they were anxiety meds. She was not suicidal or homicidal when she checked in, and she made that clear. She still makes it clear when talking to staff. Complaints can only be made after she leaves. But until then, her rights and her freedom are at the mercy of a doctor who’s only there once a day. Oh yeah, and also covid’s possibly spreading. This is in Ohio.
RESPONSE A: Psych ER/ inpatient nurse here- the multiple trips to the ER with the multiple complaints of elevated heart rate and anxiety, (despite no claims of SI)are still red flags that need to be looked into further. That’s why she got admitted.
RESPONSE B: She can leave. Leaving AMA is a lengthy process. The medical director has to determine that she is well enough to be released because they cannot run the risk of releasing a person who may hurt themselves. It doesn't really matter whether she has been suicidal or not. She has to be evaluated before she can go. I think what you're misunderstanding is that she can begin the process to leave AMA whenever she wants to. The barriers she is running into are 1. It is a holiday week, the doctor and probably the therapists are not there til Monday. 2. She just say she wants to leave and be expected to let out. She will make the request from the medical director and meet with that person before she signs a million forms. They will let her out but there is a beurocratic process to that. Just be patient. No pun intended
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POST: My girlfriend voluntarily admitted herself to inpatient. Now they won’t let her leave. When she was considering admission, she repeatedly asked if it was voluntary, and if she could leave anytime. They kept saying yes, including the final signature. Her aunt was witness to this, as she was with her in the ER. Then once she was in the facility, she wasn’t allowed to leave. She signed under false pretenses. The hospital claimed to have therapy, and that she’d have therapy everyday. It’s been 2 days, and there’s still no sign of a therapist anywhere. She’s given cups of pills throughout the day. Staff doesn’t tell her what they are. My girlfriend was once given a cup of “lights-out” pills. She thought they were sleep meds. She didn’t learn until later that they were anxiety meds. She was not suicidal or homicidal when she checked in, and she made that clear. She still makes it clear when talking to staff. Complaints can only be made after she leaves. But until then, her rights and her freedom are at the mercy of a doctor who’s only there once a day. Oh yeah, and also covid’s possibly spreading. This is in Ohio.
RESPONSE A: Psych ER/ inpatient nurse here- the multiple trips to the ER with the multiple complaints of elevated heart rate and anxiety, (despite no claims of SI)are still red flags that need to be looked into further. That’s why she got admitted.
RESPONSE B: Can’t leave for 72hours minimum once admitted.
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RESPONSE A: All states have a slight variation but typically work out as an involuntary hold. The clock typically starts once the patient has been deemed medically clear (psych patients typically have a slew of underlying conditions. The holiday will more than likely delay the “start”. If this is a first encounter they will likely keep them their the full allotted time. In regards to legality, health care professionals, law enforcement ( less so) do take these hold seriously. The courts have essentially deferred to the psychiatrists judgement more often times then not. Again depending on the state the psychiatrists might need to present to court in order to extend these holds, when they feel it is necessary.
RESPONSE B: Psych ER/ inpatient nurse here- the multiple trips to the ER with the multiple complaints of elevated heart rate and anxiety, (despite no claims of SI)are still red flags that need to be looked into further. That’s why she got admitted.
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RESPONSE A: https://www.disabilityrightsohio.org/voluntary-patient-wants-to-leave-psych-hospital#:~:text=Voluntary%20patient%20means%20that%20you,be%20released%20from%20the%20hospital. Psych hospitals often stretch the legality of what they are supposed to do by blanket filing involuntary hold paperwork for voluntary admissions when they run up against deadlines for release. They are often understaffed, underpaid, and often DGAF about the patients. The problem with the 72-hour hold is that a doctor is required to see them within that time frame, but they often don't, so the 72-hour hold gets extended again and again and again.
RESPONSE B: Psych ER/ inpatient nurse here- the multiple trips to the ER with the multiple complaints of elevated heart rate and anxiety, (despite no claims of SI)are still red flags that need to be looked into further. That’s why she got admitted.
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RESPONSE A: If she’s not suicidal or homicidal, how did she end up in the ER and how did the ER determine she needed an inpatient admission? Inpatient psychiatric facilities typically fill up fast and are intended for safety/crisis stabilization only, so ER personnel don’t typically refer for inpatient treatment unless there is a crisis/safety concern. Once admitted, as other responses have stated, there’s typically a 72 hour hold to determine whether or not the patient presents a danger to self or others or whether they’re stable/lucid enough to care for themselves. The hospital does have a responsibility/liability to ensure safety before allowing someone to leave, and this is more than just the person stating they’re not a danger to themselves or others. Most likely those doing the evaluating (therapists and psychiatrists) are off for the holiday or if it’s accurate that Covid is spreading there, it’s possible they’re sick, so things take even longer. Yes, psychiatric hospitalization can be traumatizing in and of itself and yes, the system in general is very broken, so this can be a really frustrating and slow process. But at some point a medical doctor determined your gf needed crisis stabilization, so right now the best option is to wait it out until she’s determined to be safe to be discharged
RESPONSE B: All states have a slight variation but typically work out as an involuntary hold. The clock typically starts once the patient has been deemed medically clear (psych patients typically have a slew of underlying conditions. The holiday will more than likely delay the “start”. If this is a first encounter they will likely keep them their the full allotted time. In regards to legality, health care professionals, law enforcement ( less so) do take these hold seriously. The courts have essentially deferred to the psychiatrists judgement more often times then not. Again depending on the state the psychiatrists might need to present to court in order to extend these holds, when they feel it is necessary.
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RESPONSE A: It’s definitely not the same thing.
RESPONSE B: OP, you should have your brother read the following: https://www.shouselaw.com/ca/blog/criminal-defense/does-california-have-a-romeo-and-juliet-law/ If your brother has sex with her, he faces one to three years in jail and a $10,000 fine. Remind him that everything looks rosy when they are in love and the relationship is secret. However, if they break up or if her parents find out, he could easily face serious charges. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned (or her parents).
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RESPONSE A: There’s no law against dating but they can’t have sex or send explicit photos to each other. If your brother wants to make like the 1950s and take her out for a burger and a milkshake then home, that’s legal.
RESPONSE B: It’s definitely not the same thing.
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RESPONSE A: There’s no law against dating but they can’t have sex or send explicit photos to each other. If your brother wants to make like the 1950s and take her out for a burger and a milkshake then home, that’s legal.
RESPONSE B: Yes, it’s rape regardless of age because she is a minor. The same does not apply to you and your girlfriend because you were 18 and therefore an adult. California does not have Romeo and Juliet laws, anyone under the age of 18 is a minor, 18 and older is an adult.
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RESPONSE A: It’s definitely not the same thing.
RESPONSE B: It’s important he knows that if this goes to court that it won’t be misdemeanor statutory rape, this is felony statutory rape since she is under 16. Is it worth felony charges and probable sex offender registration of 20 years? And it doesn’t have to be penetrative sex for him to face charges, he could definitely be charged with lewd acts with a minor if they have done anything remotely sexually. Also, it’s fucked up to have to mention, but 15 year olds experiencing heartbreak are intense and all it takes is her saying “he made me perform sex acts” for him to become an alleged sex offender and rapist, even if he avoids convictions. Angry parents can lead to the exact same outcome even if she swears up and down they never touched. Even alleged crimes have a way of fuckin up lives.
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RESPONSE A: Yes, it’s rape regardless of age because she is a minor. The same does not apply to you and your girlfriend because you were 18 and therefore an adult. California does not have Romeo and Juliet laws, anyone under the age of 18 is a minor, 18 and older is an adult.
RESPONSE B: It’s important he knows that if this goes to court that it won’t be misdemeanor statutory rape, this is felony statutory rape since she is under 16. Is it worth felony charges and probable sex offender registration of 20 years? And it doesn’t have to be penetrative sex for him to face charges, he could definitely be charged with lewd acts with a minor if they have done anything remotely sexually. Also, it’s fucked up to have to mention, but 15 year olds experiencing heartbreak are intense and all it takes is her saying “he made me perform sex acts” for him to become an alleged sex offender and rapist, even if he avoids convictions. Angry parents can lead to the exact same outcome even if she swears up and down they never touched. Even alleged crimes have a way of fuckin up lives.
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RESPONSE A: I want to point something else out, as soon as he tells his mother she has to tell the police, she's a mandatory reporter. There is no gray room with this. If she were to fail to report and the situation came out anyway AND it was discovered the mother knew, not only would she lose her license to be a principal, she'd lose her teaching certificate and would be facing charges.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer but a word of moral advice: you may think Ashley is "innocent" now and not want her to face consequences, but in a few years it's gonna click that she took sexual advantage of two teenagers who she was in a relationship of power over. If you had high school age kids, would you want them to have a counselor that slept with students? Go ahead and report her
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POST: Rachael is pretty much family as well. Long story short I caught my brother, Rachael, and Ashley all in my brother's bed naked. We all talked later and they confessed that Ashley has been sleeping with them for about 6 months now. They begged me not to tell because Ashley would lose her job and she could face serious legal consequences. Not only that it would later her friendship with my sister. I am still internally debating whether I should tell anyone about this. Add to this situation that my mom is a principal at another school in our county and I'm stuck. I've decided that if Ashley could actually face severe consequences like jail time I'm not going to tell anybody. If she would just get fired and have her wrist slapped I may tell someone. What kind of punishment can Ashley be looking at if this comes to light?
RESPONSE A: OP you posted about this before in r/relationships and you're gonna get the same answers here you did in the other subreddit- TURN ASHLEY IN. This is wildly messed up and Ashley knows its illegal and that she could lose her job and go to jail, that's why she asked you not to tell anyone. She's not right in the head and she's preying on your underage brother. You need to tell someone - your mom, the police, one of your teachers. Don't be concerned with the punishment Ashley receives or trying to protect her...legally this is statutory rape. She deserves to go to jail and lose her job. She knew that could happen when she decided to have sex with underage adults and she made the decision anyway. She's not a good person and she's not your friend. TURN HER IN.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer but a word of moral advice: you may think Ashley is "innocent" now and not want her to face consequences, but in a few years it's gonna click that she took sexual advantage of two teenagers who she was in a relationship of power over. If you had high school age kids, would you want them to have a counselor that slept with students? Go ahead and report her
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POST: not to tell because Ashley would lose her job and she could face serious legal consequences. Not only that it would later her friendship with my sister. I am still internally debating whether I should tell anyone about this. Add to this situation that my mom is a principal at another school in our county and I'm stuck. I've decided that if Ashley could actually face severe consequences like jail time I'm not going to tell anybody. If she would just get fired and have her wrist slapped I may tell someone. What kind of punishment can Ashley be looking at if this comes to light?
RESPONSE A: Ashley is committing a serious crime here. Please contact the police about it. She obviously does not take her professional duty seriously and is a sexual predator. A 25 year old who sleeps with minors is a sexual predator no matter how mature you think those minors are. Especially considering she is in a position of power - being their councillor. Everyone involved obviously understands that this is a criminal act, Ashley certainly does and would have known that long before she decided to become sexually involved with those students. Ashley is a danger to the students she teaches and needs to be removed from her job immediately and I do believe that legal action is appropriate. I understand that's it's difficult because you know and like her - but just because your brother and his partner seem okay with it doesn't mean it is not damaging to them and their understanding of consent and healthy sexuality. This is a disgusting breach of their safety, trust and welfare and just because they don't know it now, doesn't mean this isn't incredibly damaging. Also you don't know how many other students she is potentially sleeping with and how it is effecting them- this is very very serious and I implore you to report it.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer but a word of moral advice: you may think Ashley is "innocent" now and not want her to face consequences, but in a few years it's gonna click that she took sexual advantage of two teenagers who she was in a relationship of power over. If you had high school age kids, would you want them to have a counselor that slept with students? Go ahead and report her
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POST: How much legal trouble can my family friend who is also a school counselor to the school I go to get into for sleeping with my 17 year old brother and his 18 year old girlfriend. Both of them have her as the counselor.[VA] My friend Ashley is the school counselor at our school and she's 25 years old. We met her through my older sister as my sister and Ashley met in college. My younger brother is 17 and his girlfriend Rachael is 18. They have been friends for 12 years now so Rachael is pretty much family as well. Long story short I caught my brother, Rachael, and Ashley all in my brother's bed naked. We all talked later and they confessed that Ashley has been sleeping with them for about 6 months now. They begged me not to tell because Ashley would lose her job and she could face serious legal consequences. Not only that it would later her friendship with my sister. I am still internally debating whether I should tell anyone about this. Add to this situation that my mom is a principal at another school in our county and I'm stuck. I've decided that if Ashley could actually face severe consequences like jail time I'm not going to tell anybody. If she would just get fired and have her wrist slapped I may tell someone. What kind of punishment can Ashley be looking at if this comes to light?
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer but a word of moral advice: you may think Ashley is "innocent" now and not want her to face consequences, but in a few years it's gonna click that she took sexual advantage of two teenagers who she was in a relationship of power over. If you had high school age kids, would you want them to have a counselor that slept with students? Go ahead and report her
RESPONSE B: You should report this to the superintendent and the principal, as well as the police.
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POST: kind of punishment can Ashley be looking at if this comes to light?
RESPONSE A: OP you posted about this before in r/relationships and you're gonna get the same answers here you did in the other subreddit- TURN ASHLEY IN. This is wildly messed up and Ashley knows its illegal and that she could lose her job and go to jail, that's why she asked you not to tell anyone. She's not right in the head and she's preying on your underage brother. You need to tell someone - your mom, the police, one of your teachers. Don't be concerned with the punishment Ashley receives or trying to protect her...legally this is statutory rape. She deserves to go to jail and lose her job. She knew that could happen when she decided to have sex with underage adults and she made the decision anyway. She's not a good person and she's not your friend. TURN HER IN.
RESPONSE B: Ashley is committing a serious crime here. Please contact the police about it. She obviously does not take her professional duty seriously and is a sexual predator. A 25 year old who sleeps with minors is a sexual predator no matter how mature you think those minors are. Especially considering she is in a position of power - being their councillor. Everyone involved obviously understands that this is a criminal act, Ashley certainly does and would have known that long before she decided to become sexually involved with those students. Ashley is a danger to the students she teaches and needs to be removed from her job immediately and I do believe that legal action is appropriate. I understand that's it's difficult because you know and like her - but just because your brother and his partner seem okay with it doesn't mean it is not damaging to them and their understanding of consent and healthy sexuality. This is a disgusting breach of their safety, trust and welfare and just because they don't know it now, doesn't mean this isn't incredibly damaging. Also you don't know how many other students she is potentially sleeping with and how it is effecting them- this is very very serious and I implore you to report it.
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POST: with my dog and me. I just remember being hit and then apparently my head slammed against the ground. Someone else just behind us saw the incident, and apparently the cyclist after colliding with us took off. The lady ended up calling 911 and i was rushed to the emergency room, while this lady apparently rushed my dog to an emergency vet, where he passed away on the way. I ended up getting a bunch of stitches on my head, and suffered from a few cracked ribs. I explained what happened to the police and they made a report but since they had no way to id the person they couldn't do much. Last week a coworker who knew about my incident DM'ed me a bunch of pictures of a post in a facebook group, along with the video of the incident. The asshole was complaining about his bike being damaged and how people shouldn't be allowed to walk along this certain path. Not long after it was posted it was removed. I ended up bringing this information to the police and said they would investigate. Today after not hearing anything i contacted the same officer, who told me the file is closed and it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. Can someone enlighten me?
RESPONSE A: Given this was a trail, the Highway Traffic Act doesn’t apply. Barring being able to charge them with criminal negligence or assault, there’s no criminal matter here. Your sole recourse is to sue the cyclist for damages.
RESPONSE B: > it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. It was an "accident" in as much as the cyclist clearly didn't intend to injure you or kill your dog (or damage his bike). That doesn't mean you have no recourse, it just means (in the eyes of the police, at least) he didn't commit a crime. That isn't necessarily true, but that's their position. You need to sue the cyclist for damage to your property (which, under the law, your dog is), and any medical costs/loss of earnings etc.
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POST: jogging someone on a bicycle came ripping around a corner at an extremely high speed, and collided with my dog and me. I just remember being hit and then apparently my head slammed against the ground. Someone else just behind us saw the incident, and apparently the cyclist after colliding with us took off. The lady ended up calling 911 and i was rushed to the emergency room, while this lady apparently rushed my dog to an emergency vet, where he passed away on the way. I ended up getting a bunch of stitches on my head, and suffered from a few cracked ribs. I explained what happened to the police and they made a report but since they had no way to id the person they couldn't do much. Last week a coworker who knew about my incident DM'ed me a bunch of pictures of a post in a facebook group, along with the video of the incident. The asshole was complaining about his bike being damaged and how people shouldn't be allowed to walk along this certain path. Not long after it was posted it was removed. I ended up bringing this information to the police and said they would investigate. Today after not hearing anything i contacted the same officer, who told me the file is closed and it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. Can someone enlighten me?
RESPONSE A: > it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. It was an "accident" in as much as the cyclist clearly didn't intend to injure you or kill your dog (or damage his bike). That doesn't mean you have no recourse, it just means (in the eyes of the police, at least) he didn't commit a crime. That isn't necessarily true, but that's their position. You need to sue the cyclist for damage to your property (which, under the law, your dog is), and any medical costs/loss of earnings etc.
RESPONSE B: The cyclist was going in the opposite direction of you? Were you and your dog on the correct side of the pathway?
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POST: ripping around a corner at an extremely high speed, and collided with my dog and me. I just remember being hit and then apparently my head slammed against the ground. Someone else just behind us saw the incident, and apparently the cyclist after colliding with us took off. The lady ended up calling 911 and i was rushed to the emergency room, while this lady apparently rushed my dog to an emergency vet, where he passed away on the way. I ended up getting a bunch of stitches on my head, and suffered from a few cracked ribs. I explained what happened to the police and they made a report but since they had no way to id the person they couldn't do much. Last week a coworker who knew about my incident DM'ed me a bunch of pictures of a post in a facebook group, along with the video of the incident. The asshole was complaining about his bike being damaged and how people shouldn't be allowed to walk along this certain path. Not long after it was posted it was removed. I ended up bringing this information to the police and said they would investigate. Today after not hearing anything i contacted the same officer, who told me the file is closed and it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. Can someone enlighten me?
RESPONSE A: This is considered a traffic accident. It is not a criminal matter. It is a civil issue between you and him where you could sue him for damages.
RESPONSE B: > it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. It was an "accident" in as much as the cyclist clearly didn't intend to injure you or kill your dog (or damage his bike). That doesn't mean you have no recourse, it just means (in the eyes of the police, at least) he didn't commit a crime. That isn't necessarily true, but that's their position. You need to sue the cyclist for damage to your property (which, under the law, your dog is), and any medical costs/loss of earnings etc.
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POST: . Police don't seem to care at all and are telling me it is a civil issue now. Hi, i am in Ontario Canada and i am looking for some help. On August 24th around 4 PM i was jogging with my dog on a paved trail. This path is considered mixed use and you see everyone from cyclists to joggers to just people sitting around and watching nature. As i was jogging someone on a bicycle came ripping around a corner at an extremely high speed, and collided with my dog and me. I just remember being hit and then apparently my head slammed against the ground. Someone else just behind us saw the incident, and apparently the cyclist after colliding with us took off. The lady ended up calling 911 and i was rushed to the emergency room, while this lady apparently rushed my dog to an emergency vet, where he passed away on the way. I ended up getting a bunch of stitches on my head, and suffered from a few cracked ribs. I explained what happened to the police and they made a report but since they had no way to id the person they couldn't do much. Last week a coworker who knew about my incident DM'ed me a bunch of pictures of a post in a facebook group, along with the video of the incident. The asshole was complaining about his bike being damaged and how people shouldn't be allowed to walk along this certain path. Not long after it was posted it was removed. I ended up bringing this information to the police and said they would investigate. Today after not hearing anything i contacted the same officer, who told me the file is closed and it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. Can someone enlighten me?
RESPONSE A: The cyclist was going in the opposite direction of you? Were you and your dog on the correct side of the pathway?
RESPONSE B: Given this was a trail, the Highway Traffic Act doesn’t apply. Barring being able to charge them with criminal negligence or assault, there’s no criminal matter here. Your sole recourse is to sue the cyclist for damages.
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POST: and are telling me it is a civil issue now. Hi, i am in Ontario Canada and i am looking for some help. On August 24th around 4 PM i was jogging with my dog on a paved trail. This path is considered mixed use and you see everyone from cyclists to joggers to just people sitting around and watching nature. As i was jogging someone on a bicycle came ripping around a corner at an extremely high speed, and collided with my dog and me. I just remember being hit and then apparently my head slammed against the ground. Someone else just behind us saw the incident, and apparently the cyclist after colliding with us took off. The lady ended up calling 911 and i was rushed to the emergency room, while this lady apparently rushed my dog to an emergency vet, where he passed away on the way. I ended up getting a bunch of stitches on my head, and suffered from a few cracked ribs. I explained what happened to the police and they made a report but since they had no way to id the person they couldn't do much. Last week a coworker who knew about my incident DM'ed me a bunch of pictures of a post in a facebook group, along with the video of the incident. The asshole was complaining about his bike being damaged and how people shouldn't be allowed to walk along this certain path. Not long after it was posted it was removed. I ended up bringing this information to the police and said they would investigate. Today after not hearing anything i contacted the same officer, who told me the file is closed and it is now a civil issue as it was obviously an accident. I don't understand how this can be true or fair. Can someone enlighten me?
RESPONSE A: Given this was a trail, the Highway Traffic Act doesn’t apply. Barring being able to charge them with criminal negligence or assault, there’s no criminal matter here. Your sole recourse is to sue the cyclist for damages.
RESPONSE B: This is considered a traffic accident. It is not a criminal matter. It is a civil issue between you and him where you could sue him for damages.
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POST: down like our messages getting looked through and me and her complaining and ranting about my mom, nothing serious, my mom got super pissed and wants to press charges against my gf because she's dating a minor. I would just like to know what is the worst trouble we could get into with something like this. We live a bit from each other so the last time we did any, ahem "activities" she was still 17. We've sent messages and such about stuff like that but never actually did anything. So I was wondering what the worst trouble she could get in, and what would be the most likely outcome for this. I appreciate any answers or help that can be given. Also this is my first post here so if anything is sloppy and details are missing I apologize.
RESPONSE A: Just to clarify, those texts you sent are just sexual in language correct? No pictures? Because if you're sending her pictures of you naked, that would run her afoul of CP laws. But if it's just sexy language than it should be good (I am not a lawyer).
RESPONSE B: Sexual intercourse with a child 16 or older occurs when there is sexual intercourse between a minor who is 16 or 17 and a defendant who is 19 or older (unless the defendant is the minor's spouse, described below). This offense is a class A misdemeanor, which incurs a fine of up to $10,000, up to nine months in jail, or both. (Wis. Stat. §§ 939.51, 948.09 (2018).) Underage sexual activity involves the following acts between individuals who are not spouses: sexual contact between a 15-year-old minor and a defendant younger than 19 years of age, orsexual intercourse between a minor who is 15, 16, or 17 years old and a defendant younger than 19 years of age. Underage sexual activity is a class A misdemeanor, and a conviction can result in a fine of up to $10,000, nine months in jail, or both. (Wis. Stat. §§ 939.51, 948.093 (2018).) Looks like your mom is a idiot homie. Most states have laws like this for your exact scenario.
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POST: I'm 17 and 5 months from 18, my gf is 18 and my mom wants to call the police on her (Wisconsin) So I've been with this girl since we were both 16, and after some really dumb stuff went down like our messages getting looked through and me and her complaining and ranting about my mom, nothing serious, my mom got super pissed and wants to press charges against my gf because she's dating a minor. I would just like to know what is the worst trouble we could get into with something like this. We live a bit from each other so the last time we did any, ahem "activities" she was still 17. We've sent messages and such about stuff like that but never actually did anything. So I was wondering what the worst trouble she could get in, and what would be the most likely outcome for this. I appreciate any answers or help that can be given. Also this is my first post here so if anything is sloppy and details are missing I apologize.
RESPONSE A: unless you did she hurt you in some way this won't go anywhere. only slightly concerning thing would be is if you or her sent nudes between these ages, but again it shouldn't be a problem in the first place so it probably won't be
RESPONSE B: To go one step further than another person said, if either of you have any sexually suggestive pictures of you, or of her before she turned 18, delete them. Those can get both if you in serious trouble (even if you have pictures of yourself). They are not worth the risk.
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POST: I'm 17 and 5 months from 18, my gf is 18 and my mom wants to call the police on her (Wisconsin) So I've been with this girl since we were both 16, and after some really dumb stuff went down like our messages getting looked through and me and her complaining and ranting about my mom, nothing serious, my mom got super pissed and wants to press charges against my gf because she's dating a minor. I would just like to know what is the worst trouble we could get into with something like this. We live a bit from each other so the last time we did any, ahem "activities" she was still 17. We've sent messages and such about stuff like that but never actually did anything. So I was wondering what the worst trouble she could get in, and what would be the most likely outcome for this. I appreciate any answers or help that can be given. Also this is my first post here so if anything is sloppy and details are missing I apologize.
RESPONSE A: Everything is fine unless you sent nudes.
RESPONSE B: unless you did she hurt you in some way this won't go anywhere. only slightly concerning thing would be is if you or her sent nudes between these ages, but again it shouldn't be a problem in the first place so it probably won't be
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POST: as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you.
RESPONSE A: I'm not sure what you mean by they plan to evict you out of the house. They aren't on the lease and they do not own the home, correct? They are not your landlord? If so, they have no basis to evict you. They have no authority over where you, an adult, live, and what contracts you enter into with third parties. Of course, they can withhold support from you, like stop pitching in for the rent payments.
RESPONSE B: Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1*
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POST: Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you.
RESPONSE A: I think you're just really confused with the lingo, terminology, etc. Maybe you THOUGHT your parents said they will evict you. But what they really said was that "you will get evicted " b/c you can't pay rent without their help. So you WILL eventually get evicted by the landlord. And is the landlord a random person you don't know? Are they your parents friends? More details = better?
RESPONSE B: They have as much right to kick you out of your house as I do which is to say none at all. They can, of course, stop providing financial aid to you and your brother at any time.
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POST: Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you.
RESPONSE A: Sounds like you and your brother can evict your parents if you would like to.
RESPONSE B: I think you're just really confused with the lingo, terminology, etc. Maybe you THOUGHT your parents said they will evict you. But what they really said was that "you will get evicted " b/c you can't pay rent without their help. So you WILL eventually get evicted by the landlord. And is the landlord a random person you don't know? Are they your parents friends? More details = better?
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POST: suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you.
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RESPONSE B: I think you're just really confused with the lingo, terminology, etc. Maybe you THOUGHT your parents said they will evict you. But what they really said was that "you will get evicted " b/c you can't pay rent without their help. So you WILL eventually get evicted by the landlord. And is the landlord a random person you don't know? Are they your parents friends? More details = better?
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POST: Parents planning to evict me out of house, their names aren't on the lease (Central Florida) Hi there, I'm a bit frazzled right now and need suggestions as to what to do. I room with my brother and our father helps us pay the rent and utilities. His name is not on the lease, neither is our mother. Recently, I had to go on a month long medical leave because of a chronic illness I have. This illness gets so bad I can't even get out of bed some days. Fortunately, I'm approved for benefits and am waiting for them to arrive (not sure when they'll be here). Unfortunately, it means I haven't been able to pay my share of the rent. The Landlord is aware of the situation and has given me as much time as I need to pay the missing share of the rent. My parents are furious with me for taking this leave because they've never believed I've been sick. This afternoon, I found out from my father that he and my mother are planning on evicting me from the house because of the unpaid rent. So what options can I have to protect myself? I'm pretty sure there's nothing they can legally do to throw me out because they aren't on the lease but I'm not sure. Any advice would be appreciated. Please and thank you.
RESPONSE A: I think you're just really confused with the lingo, terminology, etc. Maybe you THOUGHT your parents said they will evict you. But what they really said was that "you will get evicted " b/c you can't pay rent without their help. So you WILL eventually get evicted by the landlord. And is the landlord a random person you don't know? Are they your parents friends? More details = better?
RESPONSE B: They have no legal basis to evict you, but if they work with your brother to dump your stuff outside, have a back up plan. Would police where you are help you in a case like that? If they manhandle you out, that would be assualt.
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POST: [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this?
RESPONSE A: Contact your divorce lawyer, like, yesterday. Visitation may be out if she continues the relationship, pursuant to the terms of his release. This is not a self-help situation, though.
RESPONSE B: Try mycase.pa.gov search by his name. Should show all charges, sentencing, probation/parole conditions
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POST: [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this?
RESPONSE A: Contact your divorce lawyer, like, yesterday. Visitation may be out if she continues the relationship, pursuant to the terms of his release. This is not a self-help situation, though.
RESPONSE B: \*\*\*DISCLAIMER\*\*\* Warning Any person who uses the information contained herein to threaten, intimidate, or harass the registrant or their family, or who otherwise misuses this information, may be subject to criminal prosecution or civil liability \*\*\*DISCLAIMER\*\*\* https://www.pameganslaw.state.pa.us/Home/TermsAndConditions After you agree to the Terms & Conditions, there is a search function. This site won't tell you the conditions for parole or restrictions. It should tell you what they were convicted of.
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POST: [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this?
RESPONSE A: Your ex picked a real winner to be with. https://www.fbi.gov/scams-and-safety/sex-offender-registry https://www.nsopw.gov/ https://www.familywatchdog.us/ To report an incident or suspicious situation that may involve the extraterritorial sexual exploitation of children, file a report on the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC)'s website at www.cybertipline.com, or call 1-800-843-5678. Your report will be forwarded to a law enforcement agency for investigation and action.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer, but a PO who monitors sex offenders. You should be able to look on the state DOC website to see if he is on parole/community supervision or probation. You can get his inmate number, then call the main line to ask for his PO/CSO. If the info is restricted online (it sometimes is for these kinds of offenses), you can still call DOC and ask for his officer. They can follow up, if he’s in violation of his supervision conditions. I’d also call child services to report the info, and I’d definitely recommend talking to an attorney about adjusting custody. I would ask for full custody with supervised visitation. Her dating a SO can definitely jeopardize her ability to have custody of her children. Good luck.
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POST: [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this?
RESPONSE A: Not a lawyer, but a PO who monitors sex offenders. You should be able to look on the state DOC website to see if he is on parole/community supervision or probation. You can get his inmate number, then call the main line to ask for his PO/CSO. If the info is restricted online (it sometimes is for these kinds of offenses), you can still call DOC and ask for his officer. They can follow up, if he’s in violation of his supervision conditions. I’d also call child services to report the info, and I’d definitely recommend talking to an attorney about adjusting custody. I would ask for full custody with supervised visitation. Her dating a SO can definitely jeopardize her ability to have custody of her children. Good luck.
RESPONSE B: Meganslaw.org
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POST: [PA]My Ex is dating a registered sex offender. Can I find out what his legal restrictions are? My ex started dating a lifetime registered sex offender. We have two daughters under the age of 10. My ex is trying to get 50/50 custody. My oldest told me after her last visit with her mother that my ex is planning on moving in with the sex offender. This guy just got out after more than 30 years in jail for rape. All I can find out is what's on the registry. 30 years seems like a very long sentence for rape. So I assume it was really bad. Can I find out what his parole and other restrictions are? Is it legal for me to dig into this?
RESPONSE A: You should be able to pull his full criminal file. It should be a public record unless it was sealed for some reason (eg, to protect the identity of the victim). If he spent 30 years in prison for it, it was bad. Really bad. If he’s on parole, which seems likely, you should definitely reach out to his parole officer and let him know your concerns. He may be violating conditions of his parole.
RESPONSE B: Your ex picked a real winner to be with. https://www.fbi.gov/scams-and-safety/sex-offender-registry https://www.nsopw.gov/ https://www.familywatchdog.us/ To report an incident or suspicious situation that may involve the extraterritorial sexual exploitation of children, file a report on the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC)'s website at www.cybertipline.com, or call 1-800-843-5678. Your report will be forwarded to a law enforcement agency for investigation and action.
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POST: our housekeeper, and we get to talking and he mentions he had spent time in the joint (with no specifics). I relay this info to my wife who first asks the housekeeper what the deal was. The housekeeper says he was in the join in 2005 for a bar fight. My wife googles him and finds out he's a tier-3 registered sex offender with a conviction for sexual assault on someone under the age of 14 in 2015 -- and he's registered at the housekeeper's address. We have a three year old. Needless to say, we fired the housekeeper -- but my legal advice question is -- do we just drop it at this point? Or is his being around our child some sort of violation? The guy didn't do anything untoward when he was in the house, mind you. He didn't approach my child, he just did his job and was pilot to all of us. But, I'm sure the housekeeper has other clients and, given she wasn't upfront about this guy and now realizes that she'll likely be fired if a client finds out, she's likely to continue having him go to houses and help clean without informing he clients of his past. So, drop it or report him?
RESPONSE A: If he's on parole or probation, this might violate a term and condition. If not, then it likely isn't illegal.
RESPONSE B: Unless the person is on probation or parole and part of their restrictions is not to be around minors, he's not breaking a law. In Michigan and Nevada as well (both states use the same reporting software if I recall) tier 3 is the most frequent reporting and reserved for the worst of the worst. Generally tier 3 verify every 90 days and must stay current on address changes, and things of that sort. You can call your states sex offender registry number usually ran by the state police. They may not be aware that he is working in the capacity he is. He could be found non compliant for failure to add an employer. You can also pick their brain about the legality of him working with his girlfriend. -source, I process sex offender registry daily.
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POST: Just found out my tenant sub-let a room to a registered sex offender. Could this potentially effect me in any way? (NC) I'm leasing a single family home to one tenant. When we discussed her leasing, she asked if she could put multiple people (3) on the lease. I told her no, I'd sign a lease agreement with just her and would allow her to sub-let. Provided there were no more tenants than there were bedrooms. My sister called to let me know my house shows up on the sex offender registry now. I'm concerned this could impact me in some way. Any advice?
RESPONSE A: Do you have any stipulations in the lease agreement prohibiting sub-leasing (unless you give express written approval)? If you don't have the right of refusal of any sub-lessee per the terms of the lease agreement, there is little you can do to stop this person from continuing living in your house. Depending on the terms of the sub-lease, your tenant may be able to evict this person, and you can (help) pay for a lawyer if necessary. Another clause that may help you is a clause prohibiting people described a certain way from residing and/or visiting the property. This will primarily impact your personal reputation, the value of the property, and your ability to rent your property in the future. There is also an increased risk of crime occurring in or near your property.
RESPONSE B: Could make it a headache to rent in the future. Once an address is on the list, it could get pulled off onto a private site that's advocating for this or that w/r/t sex offenders, and even if the person moves out, your address may not get off that private site if there's sufficient (and normal) neglect of updates, which means that your address may well be enshrined in a vastly out-of-date list of sex offender addresses that will live forever. Figure out which tenant is the listed person, and when they move out, comb the internet for your address being connected to sex offenders and ask them to remove your property from the list.
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POST: still comes by to cut the grass and maintain them. First off, I have looked back through all the documents I signed during the home-buying process. The disclosure forms specifically state that this home is not part of an HOA or other neighborhood organization. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any document that i signed. I looked back at the deed that I signed. There is no mention of any rules. There is only a generic statement on the deed "Under and subject to reservations, restrictions, easements and rights of way as the same may appear in prior instruments of record". Okay.. So, I looked in county records for every deed for this property dating back to 1970s before this plan was even developed. There is no mention of neighborhood rules in any of the deeds. Only the generic statement that I quoted above appears. I also looked through the deeds of my neighbors and none of their deeds mention neighborhood rules either... The deed references one other document in the "Plan Book". I looked that up and it is an engineering drawing that shows the lot sizes, rights of way, easements, etc. There is no mention of neighborhood rules on this drawing. I am trying to figure out if I am subject to these rules. They came as a total surprise to me. I cannot find them mentioned or recorded anywhere in the county records. Does anyone know where else I can look? I have standard title insurance. Should I contact them? I believe the title insurance company did the closing and these rules were never mentioned. I think this is something that should have been mentioned.
RESPONSE A: Restrictive covenants can be enforced, but typically it's only if the local municipality has a part in it. Anyone can attempt to enforce it, but they have to spend the time and money going through the proper channels to do so.
RESPONSE B: Local government official here. You may want to also check the local Zoning ordinances. Maybe your neighbor is providing an easily summed-up version of the zoning requirements of your neighborhood.
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