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POST: package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights?
RESPONSE A: Your rights are to block his number and let him do all the calling to USPS, FedEx, UPS, whatever, to solve his own problem. This may involve him showing up unannounced on your property at which point you have the right to call the police.
RESPONSE B: As another user pointed out, contact UPS, Fedex, DHS, and your local post office. Explain to them the situation and ask how to prevent it. If you want to take a hard nosed approach, tell them under no circumstances are they to contact you again about this mail issue and for them to figure out how to deal with the problem and that if they contact you again or come onto your property, you'll notify the police.
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POST: the former owner, he came and picked them up, and we hoped that that was it and we could go on living our happy lives. Since then, the former owner has texted me every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights?
RESPONSE A: it’s been six months and he needs to do whatever it is to update His correct address but your are not responsibility for his packages & to no longer Contact you and block his number
RESPONSE B: Your rights are to block his number and let him do all the calling to USPS, FedEx, UPS, whatever, to solve his own problem. This may involve him showing up unannounced on your property at which point you have the right to call the police.
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POST: every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights?
RESPONSE A: As an aside...change your locks if you haven't already, in case he decides to let himself in to look for his stuff...it's his problem, keep it his problem.
RESPONSE B: As another user pointed out, contact UPS, Fedex, DHS, and your local post office. Explain to them the situation and ask how to prevent it. If you want to take a hard nosed approach, tell them under no circumstances are they to contact you again about this mail issue and for them to figure out how to deal with the problem and that if they contact you again or come onto your property, you'll notify the police.
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POST: long with the other packages that had accrued). I texted the former owner, he came and picked them up, and we hoped that that was it and we could go on living our happy lives. Since then, the former owner has texted me every so often to inquire about packages arriving. We have only received one package since December, and I did place it at the end of the driveway when he asked. We still receive A LOT of his business mail, including tax documents, but have marked all of them return to sender, and he has never asked about non-package mail before. This morning, he texted me saying that he has attempted to “get his companies to update the address on file,” but that important mail for his business will likely continue to arrive at our home, and that I need to text him and let him know immediately if we receive any so he can come pick it up. I have not responded, as I find his request fucking ridiculous considering that we have lived here for SIX MONTHS on top of how courteous both of us have been to him through this entire situation. I have zero desire to continue to have contact with this man, especially considering what a negative experience we had while buying our home from him. My question is, what legal rights do we have if he continues to have packages delivered to our house? I would really rather not have to schedule FedEx return pick ups for the rest of my life. We are located in a Southeastern Virginia county if that helps. Thank you for any and all advice! TL;DR: bought a house six months ago, old homeowner owns a business and keeps getting packages delivered here, contacted us through our realtor to ask if he could come pick them up. It has since escalated to him demanding that I text him whenever packages or mail arrive. What are my rights?
RESPONSE A: As an aside...change your locks if you haven't already, in case he decides to let himself in to look for his stuff...it's his problem, keep it his problem.
RESPONSE B: it’s been six months and he needs to do whatever it is to update His correct address but your are not responsibility for his packages & to no longer Contact you and block his number
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POST: for and he said that he has text messages from me saying I hacked into an apple ID accounts and sold the nudes on the dark web. THIS DID NOT OCCUR. He was blowing up my phone saying he is going to ruin my life, saying I am going to prison. He has had paranoid delusions before and was put in the hospital a few months ago. But his girlfriend contacted me as well and said she sent everything to his parents and they hired the investigator for him. I cannot stress enough, none of this occurred. Can I go to the police station and file harrassment charges? Do I have any recourse? I do not know what to do, it all feels so surreal. I can post the conversation on here if you think it would help, it is mostly me asking what he is talking about and him saying "you are fucked" "man your life is going to suck" "have fun in jail my old friend!" This is unfortunately completely real, please help me
RESPONSE A: Screenshot and save everything he sent you, as he has been so upfront in telling you that he is going to “ruin you life”, this can be liable to harassment and potential extortion. Improve your home and digital security if you can, change passwords and add babysitter spy cameras if you can, just in case this guy is crazy enough to plant evidence Regarding the PI, some places requires PI licenses to operate while some don’t, you don’t have much to worry about the former as they are unlikely to put their license on the line to falsify evidence, but if it’s someone that “claims” to be one you may have to take precautions Definitely file a report with the police immediately that someone is harassing/stalking you, it will come in very handy if things escalate in the future.
RESPONSE B: Anyone could hire a PI and threaten you. That doesn't mean you should answer their texts or calls. Doing so may even make you do or admit to things that you never did. Filing a police complaint would be prudent. You would have a record that you can use as evidence of harrassment and threats.
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POST: do any of these things. Do I have any recourse? Columbus, Ohio I received text messages from this friend saying he hired a private investigator and "you are fucked". I asked him multiple times what they were investigating me for and he said that he has text messages from me saying I hacked into an apple ID accounts and sold the nudes on the dark web. THIS DID NOT OCCUR. He was blowing up my phone saying he is going to ruin my life, saying I am going to prison. He has had paranoid delusions before and was put in the hospital a few months ago. But his girlfriend contacted me as well and said she sent everything to his parents and they hired the investigator for him. I cannot stress enough, none of this occurred. Can I go to the police station and file harrassment charges? Do I have any recourse? I do not know what to do, it all feels so surreal. I can post the conversation on here if you think it would help, it is mostly me asking what he is talking about and him saying "you are fucked" "man your life is going to suck" "have fun in jail my old friend!" This is unfortunately completely real, please help me
RESPONSE A: Block these people from your life. If law enforcement contacts you, tell them you did nothing and to contact your lawyer.
RESPONSE B: Screenshot and save everything he sent you, as he has been so upfront in telling you that he is going to “ruin you life”, this can be liable to harassment and potential extortion. Improve your home and digital security if you can, change passwords and add babysitter spy cameras if you can, just in case this guy is crazy enough to plant evidence Regarding the PI, some places requires PI licenses to operate while some don’t, you don’t have much to worry about the former as they are unlikely to put their license on the line to falsify evidence, but if it’s someone that “claims” to be one you may have to take precautions Definitely file a report with the police immediately that someone is harassing/stalking you, it will come in very handy if things escalate in the future.
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POST: My former friend has told me that he has hired a private investigator to investigate me for allegedly hacking into apple ID accounts and selling the nudes I find on the dark web. I clearly did absolutely did not do any of these things. Do I have any recourse? Columbus, Ohio I received text messages from this friend saying he hired a private investigator and "you are fucked". I asked him multiple times what they were investigating me for and he said that he has text messages from me saying I hacked into an apple ID accounts and sold the nudes on the dark web. THIS DID NOT OCCUR. He was blowing up my phone saying he is going to ruin my life, saying I am going to prison. He has had paranoid delusions before and was put in the hospital a few months ago. But his girlfriend contacted me as well and said she sent everything to his parents and they hired the investigator for him. I cannot stress enough, none of this occurred. Can I go to the police station and file harrassment charges? Do I have any recourse? I do not know what to do, it all feels so surreal. I can post the conversation on here if you think it would help, it is mostly me asking what he is talking about and him saying "you are fucked" "man your life is going to suck" "have fun in jail my old friend!" This is unfortunately completely real, please help me
RESPONSE A: Block these people from your life. If law enforcement contacts you, tell them you did nothing and to contact your lawyer.
RESPONSE B: Anyone could hire a PI and threaten you. That doesn't mean you should answer their texts or calls. Doing so may even make you do or admit to things that you never did. Filing a police complaint would be prudent. You would have a record that you can use as evidence of harrassment and threats.
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POST: Are these behaviors normal? I certainly do not want to go on a witch hunt, but I also don't want to turn a blind eye to what may very well be red flags. Are these even legitimate red flags? I am on amicable terms with his mother, and I truly believe she is a really good mother to my son and would never attempt to abuse him. I am concerned, however, with some of his extended family that he spends time with (his uncle and aunt). I confess I don't really trust them, but again I have zero interest in going on a witch hunt to what very well may amount to baseless suspicions. Is this behavior enough to warrant I contact a lawyer? Please advise. Even if the best course of action is not to pursue this, it would be helpful to know if there are any preventative measures I can put in place to prevent my son from being abused or to pay attention to red flags I may not even be aware of in the future. Thank you for your help.
RESPONSE A: You mentioned you have a good relationship with your son's mother. Is that relationship good enough that you could talk to her about this? Since it sounds like she has custody she might have more insight into this behavior seeing as the bulk of his time is spent with her. It might be beneficial to express your concerns to her first since, as you say, you want to avoid a witch hunt. If you can't speak to her about this, or she is unaware of the behavior you observed, you'll definitely want to seek guidance from a therapist before bringing out the big guns. Children lack a lot of inhibitions and so display behavior that is totally innocent to them but can be very disturbing when viewed through the lens of a concerned parent with all the knowledge and life experience that comes with adulthood.
RESPONSE B: I have been though a relatively similar situation. Before you reach out to CPS or an attorney, I would consider reaching out to his elementary school. Start with just an email to his teacher stating basically exactly what you posted here. The school should have experience with this type of situation. My son's school was great help. They had a licensed child psychologist on staff who was able to talk with my boy. Hope that helps
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POST: [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks
RESPONSE A: Good news for you. Unlike many states, California does recognize a mistake in age defense to statutory rape. If approached by the police, do not try to talk your way out of it. Tell them that you are going to exercise your right to remain silent until you have an attorney present.
RESPONSE B: >What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? "I will not make any statements or answer any questions without a lawyer present".
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POST: [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks
RESPONSE A: You need to hire a criminal defense attorney.
RESPONSE B: Good news for you. Unlike many states, California does recognize a mistake in age defense to statutory rape. If approached by the police, do not try to talk your way out of it. Tell them that you are going to exercise your right to remain silent until you have an attorney present.
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POST: [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks
RESPONSE A: >What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? "I will not make any statements or answer any questions without a lawyer present".
RESPONSE B: >I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. I'm half expecting a request for money next.
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POST: [CA] I am a male stripper who was hired for a girls 18th birthday, she performed sexual acts on me and video evidence was spread online. I just found out that the girl was actually 17 and her boyfriend is threatening to report me to the police. This was a few weeks back and i just found out about all of this. I got hired for this girl's 18th bday and things got out of hand and a couple of the girls there performed oral sex on me. One of them was recording it and it got posted on what was supposed to be a private snapchat group. A couple of the girls there had boyfriends and after it got out a lot of drama started. I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. When i got to the party i reviewed all ID to verify everyone's age, i didn't expect there to be fake ID's What steps should i take if the police shows up at my footsteps? Thanks
RESPONSE A: >I received a call last night from a girl crying telling me all of this information and saying that her life got ruined by her friends for exposing her infidelity. She also told me about the whole underage situation and how the girl's bf is planning on finding me and calling the police. I'm half expecting a request for money next.
RESPONSE B: You need to hire a criminal defense attorney.
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POST: too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this).
RESPONSE A: I'm not well versed in Canadian law, but read this from an actual PI in Canada: https://np.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/pcqg8/i_am_a_private_investigator_from_ontario_canada/c3off0x/
RESPONSE B: Neither your MIL nor the PI has done anything illegal, but your MIL is a goddamn nut. I do not know if hiring a PI to find out what makes you tick qualifies for a restraining order, but there's no reason you and your husband should not take steps to either cut out or severely curtail ANY contact with your MIL the goddamn nut.
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POST: to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this).
RESPONSE A: Neither your MIL nor the PI has done anything illegal, but your MIL is a goddamn nut. I do not know if hiring a PI to find out what makes you tick qualifies for a restraining order, but there's no reason you and your husband should not take steps to either cut out or severely curtail ANY contact with your MIL the goddamn nut.
RESPONSE B: Bring her a coffee and introduce yourself. I'm sure she's familiar with crazy in-laws.
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POST: it is unacceptable but she insists she's done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this).
RESPONSE A: This should be cross posted in /r/JustNoMIL.
RESPONSE B: Planning on having kids? Dear MIL, You have lost all access to your grandchild for first year of their life. You pull another crazy stunt like this, It will be for 3 years. Merry Christmas.
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POST: Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this).
RESPONSE A: Planning on having kids? Dear MIL, You have lost all access to your grandchild for first year of their life. You pull another crazy stunt like this, It will be for 3 years. Merry Christmas.
RESPONSE B: Not legal advice but if you notice they are following you while driving just start making right turns. Every right turn you see make it. Also if you see them while walking just run full speed towards them then just run by.
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POST: s done nothing wrong. Since this site asks for location, I'm in Vancouver, BC, Canada. Why would a PI be following me? Surely it can't be legal for a mother-in-law to hire a PI to constantly follow me throughout the day? Also, what's the legal situation about her following me across the border into the US and filming me in a restaurant (isn't that breaking some American law too)? I should add, I've never actually spoken to this female PI in any way. I don't fully understand why a PI would be following me in public or even why my mother-in-law hired a PI ("getting closer to me:" is what my husband had said my mother-in-law claimed was the reason). My husband is *very angry* about this, we're newlyweds and shouldn't have to deal with this sort of thing. Under Canadian law, what offences has this PI committed/laws broken and what action can or should me and my husband do about this "stalking"? I am not a lawyer but need advice from people who know more about private investigators than I do. I'm worried about how the situation will go next; could my MIL continue to hire this PI indefinitely? (I should add, my husband is wealthy so MIL can afford services of a PI and the fees). I'm confused, angry and feel violated. Please help me with this, thanks! I'm emotional, and really don't know what the hell I should do legally here. Sorry if I keep on rambling. 3:30 in the afternoon and I'm having to do this. I need some advice from people who know more than me so I know where to go next, or rather, so we know where to go next (my husband wants to try and work out how to resolve this).
RESPONSE A: This should be cross posted in /r/JustNoMIL.
RESPONSE B: It's a shame that you can basically stalk someone by proxy. If the MIL was following OP around and filming her all day, she'd be arrested. She pays someone to do it on her behalf and it's legal.
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POST: tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help.
RESPONSE A: Don't take legal advice from your rapist's lawyer. That lawyer works for D, not for you. It's likely strictly true that hiring a PI is legal, but that's a very incomplete answer. Get your own lawyer to help you with the restraining order process. If you obtain a restraining order, it will likely also bar people from contacting you on D's behalf. PIs don't generally get to overrule restraining orders, so that will hopefully put an end to this. If you need a referral, or if you need financial assistance hiring a lawyer, reach out to a womens' shelter in your area. They'll be well familiar with this problem, and will likely be able to hook you up with the help you need or direct you to the right agencies and government departments.
RESPONSE B: I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub?
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POST: . He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help.
RESPONSE A: Don't take legal advice from your rapist's lawyer. That lawyer works for D, not for you. It's likely strictly true that hiring a PI is legal, but that's a very incomplete answer. Get your own lawyer to help you with the restraining order process. If you obtain a restraining order, it will likely also bar people from contacting you on D's behalf. PIs don't generally get to overrule restraining orders, so that will hopefully put an end to this. If you need a referral, or if you need financial assistance hiring a lawyer, reach out to a womens' shelter in your area. They'll be well familiar with this problem, and will likely be able to hook you up with the help you need or direct you to the right agencies and government departments.
RESPONSE B: You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post.
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POST: , stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help.
RESPONSE A: I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub?
RESPONSE B: Obviously first and foremost the PI does not work for you and does not have your best interests at heart. Do not speak to the PI. Also, do not listen to HIS defense attorney.
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POST: He took me back to his studio and showed me videos of him having sex with his wife-in one video she was asking him to stop filming and saying, "Please, D, stop". Then he showed me vids of him having sex with passed out chicks. I became very upset and asked to go home. Only, I wasn't myself. I felt more drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help.
RESPONSE A: Obviously first and foremost the PI does not work for you and does not have your best interests at heart. Do not speak to the PI. Also, do not listen to HIS defense attorney.
RESPONSE B: You have no obligation to talk to the PI. When you reported him to the police, did they give you any information about any local rape crisis centers or victim's advocate groups. If so contact them, or search some out locally. Other than that, I don't see any other legal questions in your post.
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POST: drunk than I have ever felt in my life-and I was having trouble moving. D told me he wanted sex and I said no, he got mad and said, "Oh come on, I though today was the day we were gonna fuck!" I asked to go home. He drove me into a field in the middle of nowhere and raped me in his car instead. I tried calling my boyfriend buy D took my phone away after telling me to tell my boyfriend NOT to come to the studio. D has also made sexual remarks about children and how sexy they are to him. He told me a 12 year old girl at his son's Bday party bent over getting into a jacuzzi and accidentally flashed him, and he told me "she had the body of a woman" and talked about how sexy she is. He dropped me off at home and acted like nothing had happened. I was too afraid for the longest time to go to the police. I used to work with animals which was my dream and I thought my life was on the right track, but then everything got pulled out from under me and I was waiting tables to get by. I attempted suicide a few months back because of the rape. I got the courage to report him after my attempt. I'm lost, please help.
RESPONSE A: I'm sorry this happened to you. I suggest that if you haven't spoken to a counselor, or a support group, that you try to at your earliest opportunity. You seem to be going about this correctly, you've reported the assault to the police, and you've hired an attorney to file a restraining order. You don't have to speak to anyone you don't want to, including the PI. What advice do you need from this sub?
RESPONSE B: I found a document that lists support and advocacy organizations in Kansas here. There is also the RAINN foundation, a non-profit victim's advocacy group. They have a 24 hr hotline, and I believe one of the services they offer is having an advocate accompany you to meetings etc, they may also be able to help with the lawyer situation. I'm so sorry this happened to you!
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POST: popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation.
RESPONSE A: You should find out when/where the HOA meetings are and start attending those. At the very least you'll find out who the other owners are that actually live in their units. You should also be able to access the minutes of previous meetings, which might be enlightening as well.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple.
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POST: popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation.
RESPONSE A: I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple.
RESPONSE B: I would be extra petty and carry the HOA docs around with you. The next time she tries to tell you something like these examples, ask her to point out \*exactly\* where in the documents it says you can't use the amenities you pay for.
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POST: popped over to the office to flip through the book of approved paint schemes. She lectured us on the fact that these homes were not intended to be full time residences. We applied to put up a mailbox. Many of our neighbors, full time and part time, have them. She okayed the request in the end because the HOA explicitly allows mailboxes, but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation.
RESPONSE A: City planner here: Most cities do not allow hotels (and that’s what these are) in single family zoning. However given the location an exception may have been made, you can check your local zoning code. Also there is a chance these business are not charging or paying hotel taxes.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple.
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POST: but it took half a dozen back and forth discussions, because again she wanted us to realize these homes are not intended to be lived in, and we should not expect ‘proper residential’ benefits. Her office is located by the community pool/store, and if I so much as dare my head in that area, she will come by to remind me, YET AGAIN, that what we are doing is NOT OKAY. Needless to say, I have taken to avoiding the place. Having just gotten another lecture from her today when I went to drop off a form she requested all homeowners to fill out, I started wondering. Do I have any sort of legal right to live in my own home, given that it is zoned for you know, living in, and I do not expect special treatment? I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation.
RESPONSE A: People can’t “lecture” you unless you let them. She works for you. The next time she says something that is batshit crazy, tell her that she’s being batshit crazy. Or ask her where in the world she gets the idea that the units aren’t to be used as full time residences and where in the HOA documents it says that. Does she work for a third party company that your HOA hires or dies she work directly for the HOA? You could contact whoever runs the company she works for or contact your HOA president and explain that she’s insane and/or anti-wheelchair.
RESPONSE B: I am not a lawyer, but check your States laws about audio recording. If you are one party consent, record each and every conversation you have with her in the future. After you have enough to build a harrassment case, seek legal council and see where you can go from there. This is harassment, plain and simple.
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POST: I have triple checked the documents we signed, and nothing in them says we can’t live here. Is there a law I can quote that will potentially make this woman just shut up and leave me alone? We are not the only permanent residents in the neighborhood, but finding out who the others are seems to require asking LectureLady, so I have not yet gotten up the nerve to find out who they are to see if she gives them the same endless aggravation.
RESPONSE A: Your county Auditor has a property owner search on its website. You can enter the address and it will tell you who owns it since it is public record. I'm assuming you're in Orange County so here's the link: http://www.ocpafl.org/. Can you try finding out who this woman's boss is and complaining to them about her, since I doubt she lives in the community. Although if she does then she's a hypocrite for going after you. You have the opposite problem my family has. We own rental property in Hilton Head and the owner/residents don't like the vacationers. They are trying *everything* to make staying in our complex a pain in the ass. The complex is in an area zoned as mixed residential/commercial so its legal to rent units out, so the legal route is out for these guys. Instead they tried to force the entrance code to the pool and tennis courts be change monthly. When that failed it they demanded quarterly, that was also rejected. Now its an annual code change but they are still pissed about it.
RESPONSE B: People can’t “lecture” you unless you let them. She works for you. The next time she says something that is batshit crazy, tell her that she’s being batshit crazy. Or ask her where in the world she gets the idea that the units aren’t to be used as full time residences and where in the HOA documents it says that. Does she work for a third party company that your HOA hires or dies she work directly for the HOA? You could contact whoever runs the company she works for or contact your HOA president and explain that she’s insane and/or anti-wheelchair.
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POST: friend who helped get me to the airport for kidnapping and extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado?
RESPONSE A: 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy.
RESPONSE B: Yes, go back to the police station or county attorney and explain that your dad assaulted you and held you against your will, and ask for a protective order. Then let the courts handle it.
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POST: so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado?
RESPONSE A: Also, i didn’t say this in my last comment, but you have more then enough evidence to prove that they are harrassing and stalking you at this point. You have multiple emails on record, you have 2 incidents where they tried to report a missing person report, where it was discovered the reports were false. You can tell the officers that they have written 2 false reports in order to harrass and find you when you were trying to get away from them. If it was reported to the officers that these reports are false, and they are constantly trying to say that you are missing, it shows the officers how crazy they are and it would help your case by a lot. This is considered as a domestic case and they should take this very seriously
RESPONSE B: 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy.
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POST: k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado?
RESPONSE A: Pretty good information already there. I would add that you look into making sure they can't get any other information about you later, i.e. Medical / financial information. As they are your parents, they could gain access with some smooth talking and an incompetent worker on the other end.
RESPONSE B: 1. Set up a new email address you will use from here on out. Obviously don't let anyone with some form of contact with your parents to know this email. 2. Close any accounts that you and either one of your parents are on and then open an account solely in your name. Bank accounts and cell phone would be the main ones I would think but you could have others. As long as their listed on the account they will have control over it. 3. Should be obvious, but if they are tied in any way financially with you find a different bank and open an account. 4. You might get a wellness check on them from the police because either you are leaving out important parts of the situation or they are legitimately bat shit crazy.
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POST: extortion for the 4k *my family* took from my account. My friend's lawyer asked me to send another email in which I said that they never extorted of kidnapped me, and that I moved out of my own accord, and I did. Most importantly, last night around 12:00AM when I was walking home from work my father walked behind me for a block, revealed himself, and when I ran he tackled me to the ground and restrained me so I couldn't run. My mom came out of a car and revealed that they had been in town for a week, and had been stalking me for that time to find my address and work. They said they believed I was kidnapped and didn't write the emails I sent, and that's why they came. I was able to get them to leave after promising to get breakfast with them, which I didn't attend. Afterwards I went back to my place of work and called the police to get a ride home, and the police officer told me that there was little to nothing they could do. I want them gone and to leave me alone. Is there any way to get any criminal charge or restraining order on them in Colorado?
RESPONSE A: Yes, go back to the police station or county attorney and explain that your dad assaulted you and held you against your will, and ask for a protective order. Then let the courts handle it.
RESPONSE B: Did you do any of the things that I suggested the last time you posted about this? "I would notify the city you used to live in and (if you want) request to file harassment charges for the false reports. This will hopefully give them the heads up that any report they receive will likely be fraudulent. I would also suggest you contact the city you are in now, and notify them of what's going on and that you are ok and left of your own free will. Provide them with your contact information in case there is an emergency and they do need to easily contact you. If you no longer want to speak with your parents, make that clear to the police. They may be able to stop it at the front end by basically saying "he's an adult, he's ok, stop calling"."
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POST: Can my mom have a say in my medical decisions even if I’m married? So my mom is a very selfish person I would say narcissistic tendencies, my dad has passed away but before he did I gave birth to my daughter while I was still on their insurance they basically left me and my husband alone to deal with our daughters medical conditions and my c-section because my dad was able to contain her. Now that my dad is gone, I am pregnant again, and I’m not on her insurance, my mom has become unreasonable and not very flexible on when I spend time with her. She has also made demands about my medical care, I am to have a c-section again. I am worried that while I am out and recovering she will try to make demands with nurses and say that I want something that I don’t or try saying that she has a right to make my medical decisions. How do I prevent this? Do I need a lawyer to make a legal document? Is my marriage certificate with my husband enough? Would hospital staff need a document proving she doesn’t make medical decisions for me?
RESPONSE A: Don’t even tell her when the c section is scheduled. Register as private. Why is she even in your life? She sounds awful.
RESPONSE B: Cut off contact with your mother. Make the hospital you will be delivering in aware she is not allowed to visit. And perhaps consider making your husband your POA just in case things go south.
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POST: What does "Parental Consent" mean in the context of emancipation in South Carolina, USA? I, (15 M), had some questions about the meaning of the term "parental consent" in the context of emancipation. Of the many requirements to be emancipated in South Carolina I have been told one of the most important is having "parental consent". What does that specifically mean? If one parent consents to an independent minor being emancipated but the other does not, would a judge accept it as "parental consent", or does it absolutely, always, mean that both parent's consent are required? How hard is it to become emancipated if you meet the other requirements but do not have the consent of the parents?
RESPONSE A: Based on your responses here it seems you are being groomed by this “group of adults” to leave your family and rely on yourself. I don’t think emancipation will help with any of your mental health issues you claim to have (very unusual for someone at 15) as you have little to none life experience so there really is nothing to cause you stress in life from the sounds of it. Your best option is to get a job now and save until your 18. Move out and either go to college or find a higher paying job. Practice your religion at home in your room for now. I’m sure you can find far better solutions than emancipation. Also consider that emancipation will cause you a lot more stress and mental anguish than you currently may have.
RESPONSE B: Emancipation is not easy. First, you must be 16. You also need to be able to completely financially provide for yourself and have a valid reason for needing emancipation. Parental consent is not always necessary. They will be notified and have to option to make their case against it. It’s up to the judge in the end.
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POST: What does "Parental Consent" mean in the context of emancipation in South Carolina, USA? I, (15 M), had some questions about the meaning of the term "parental consent" in the context of emancipation. Of the many requirements to be emancipated in South Carolina I have been told one of the most important is having "parental consent". What does that specifically mean? If one parent consents to an independent minor being emancipated but the other does not, would a judge accept it as "parental consent", or does it absolutely, always, mean that both parent's consent are required? How hard is it to become emancipated if you meet the other requirements but do not have the consent of the parents?
RESPONSE A: First, consider that you're likely emancipating into absolutely debilitating, life ruining poverty. Landlords and housing offices are unlikely to rent to you due to your age (irrespective of emancipation status) and you're going to have an issue earning a living wage. Way, way too many people want emancipation as a way to fix a neglectful or abusive household. That isn't what it's for. The judge needs to consider why the emancipation is in the child's best interest. It's fine that the parent agree with the emancipation, but there are going to be real questions about who is going to support the kid financially once they're emancipated. Are both parents involved in your life? Do they both have some legal custody rights of you? If so, they're going to both need to consent. Is there a CPS history here? How much do you earn per month (keeping in mind that the answer probably needs to be above $3,000)?
RESPONSE B: Emancipation is not easy. First, you must be 16. You also need to be able to completely financially provide for yourself and have a valid reason for needing emancipation. Parental consent is not always necessary. They will be notified and have to option to make their case against it. It’s up to the judge in the end.
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POST: don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do?
RESPONSE A: After receiving the letter did you call the manager and say something like "hi, we got a letter saying that we owe $1300 and we are not sure what that is referencing as we are all up to date on our rent?"
RESPONSE B: Did a quick google check and found this: “I want to increase the rent on a unit. What do I need to do? If your tenant has a lease and you do not have an escalator clause in it, you must wait until the end of the lease and then may raise the rent by giving 30 days notice or signing a new lease. If your tenant is a tenant-at-will, you must give them at least 30 days notice before raising the rent.” https://www.somervillema.gov/departments/ospcd/housing/faqs What are my rights as a tenant at will in Massachusetts? In a tenancy-at-will the tenant pays the agreed-upon rent each month for an indefinite period of time. Either the landlord or the tenant can decide to end the tenancy by giving the other party notice either 30 days or one month before the due date of the next rent payment, whichever is longer. How much can a landlord legally raise the rent in Massachusetts? Rent Increases: There is no legal limit to the amount of rent a landlord can charge. However, in order for the rent increase to be valid, the landlord must provide the tenant proper notice of the raise in rent and the tenant must agree to it (signs the lease with the new monthly rent).
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POST: HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do?
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RESPONSE B: After receiving the letter did you call the manager and say something like "hi, we got a letter saying that we owe $1300 and we are not sure what that is referencing as we are all up to date on our rent?"
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POST: i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do?
RESPONSE A: Massachusetts has really strong tenant protections. Eviction for non-payment requires 14 days notice. The landlord gave you improper notice, of only two days, and any suit brought following this notice will get immediately tossed out. It seems like this landlord is fairly incompetent. I would gather your rent records from the beginning of the tenancy. Then, inform the landlord that your records indicate the rent is fully paid, and that they are in error. Ask to see their ledger. If the landlord won't correct the error, call the Somerville Office of Housing Stability (OHS) at: 617-625-6600 ext. 2581. They have the ability to exert pressure on the landlord and should help you get this fixed.
RESPONSE B: Did a quick google check and found this: “I want to increase the rent on a unit. What do I need to do? If your tenant has a lease and you do not have an escalator clause in it, you must wait until the end of the lease and then may raise the rent by giving 30 days notice or signing a new lease. If your tenant is a tenant-at-will, you must give them at least 30 days notice before raising the rent.” https://www.somervillema.gov/departments/ospcd/housing/faqs What are my rights as a tenant at will in Massachusetts? In a tenancy-at-will the tenant pays the agreed-upon rent each month for an indefinite period of time. Either the landlord or the tenant can decide to end the tenancy by giving the other party notice either 30 days or one month before the due date of the next rent payment, whichever is longer. How much can a landlord legally raise the rent in Massachusetts? Rent Increases: There is no legal limit to the amount of rent a landlord can charge. However, in order for the rent increase to be valid, the landlord must provide the tenant proper notice of the raise in rent and the tenant must agree to it (signs the lease with the new monthly rent).
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POST: HELP! My landlord added a 1300 charge to our apt, no reason why, and is saying if we don’t pay she will evict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do?
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RESPONSE B: Massachusetts has really strong tenant protections. Eviction for non-payment requires 14 days notice. The landlord gave you improper notice, of only two days, and any suit brought following this notice will get immediately tossed out. It seems like this landlord is fairly incompetent. I would gather your rent records from the beginning of the tenancy. Then, inform the landlord that your records indicate the rent is fully paid, and that they are in error. Ask to see their ledger. If the landlord won't correct the error, call the Somerville Office of Housing Stability (OHS) at: 617-625-6600 ext. 2581. They have the ability to exert pressure on the landlord and should help you get this fixed.
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POST: vict Pls pls i really need any help!! my roomates and i received a letter from our property manager saying we have a 1300 charge for rent. But we have been paying and seeing that they cashed our checks; the number doesn’t add up to our individual or combined rents either. The letter says if it isn’t paid in two days, they will start the eviction. This is Somerville, MA. i’m not from MA, I have no friends and no where to go if i get evicted. Is there anything we can do?
RESPONSE A: Did a quick google check and found this: “I want to increase the rent on a unit. What do I need to do? If your tenant has a lease and you do not have an escalator clause in it, you must wait until the end of the lease and then may raise the rent by giving 30 days notice or signing a new lease. If your tenant is a tenant-at-will, you must give them at least 30 days notice before raising the rent.” https://www.somervillema.gov/departments/ospcd/housing/faqs What are my rights as a tenant at will in Massachusetts? In a tenancy-at-will the tenant pays the agreed-upon rent each month for an indefinite period of time. Either the landlord or the tenant can decide to end the tenancy by giving the other party notice either 30 days or one month before the due date of the next rent payment, whichever is longer. How much can a landlord legally raise the rent in Massachusetts? Rent Increases: There is no legal limit to the amount of rent a landlord can charge. However, in order for the rent increase to be valid, the landlord must provide the tenant proper notice of the raise in rent and the tenant must agree to it (signs the lease with the new monthly rent).
RESPONSE B: Step #1 is to talk to your landlord directly, in person if possible, and ask what the charge is for. Until you do that, no one can really provide much insight. There's no way to know if it's an error, to cover damage, etc.
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POST: . We have been paying rent to them on time every month (we have receipts) and they gave us the keys. We signed the lease, and we’re told that they would sign everything else that needed to be signed. We had even asked a legal advisor if them not signing the lease was an issue and she was positive that because they had almost definitely signed their copy we probably couldn’t break the lease because of that signature not being there. We are tired of dealing with this management company anyway and are taking this as an opportunity to get out of here. If we were to pursue this in court though, would it be possible to get our rent money for the past 4 months back if they’re claiming the lease wasn’t valid anyway?
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RESPONSE B: You are not squatting, and are legal tenants, whether or not the lease is valid. Even if they are correct that the lease is not valid because they never signed it (not necessarily true), they gave you the keys and have been accepting your rent. You are, at the very least, entitled to the protections afforded to month-to-month tenants in your state. If you want to move out, and they want you to move out, it should be possible to resolve this amicably. Make sure it is documented in writing that your tenancy is terminated, and you owe no further payment (and of course, make sure they sign it this time). You don't want them coming after you for unpaid rent in a few months if they can't find someone else to rent the unit and decide your old lease is valid after all. You are not entitled to get your rent back for the months you lived there. You got what you paid for.
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POST: My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida.
RESPONSE A: Did she trademark the finace's last name? Or the ex-wife maiden name?
RESPONSE B: Your step daughter does not have a trademark in the ex wife's name. She may have registered as if she does, but that means nothing. Trademarks arise through use of the mark in actual real commerce. Your step daughter has committed fraud. Look at what she signed to obtain the registration, it requires an oath under penalty of perjury. Her lawyer should be disbarred. This won't end well for her.
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POST: My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida.
RESPONSE A: Your stepdaughter is crazy. Was this her way at "getting back" at her fiance's ex wife? For what, being married to him first? I am not a lawyer, but in addition to the fact that she can't trademark someone else's name, she's harassing this poor woman for no reason other than she used to be married to someone. If I was the ex-wife, I'd sue the pants off of your stepdaughter for whatever I could and/or get some form of a restraining order. She will most certainly lose her lawsuit and have to pay ex-wife's legal fees. If ex-wife counter sues, your stepdaughter will almost certainly lose that case too. I think your stepdaughter needs mental help...
RESPONSE B: >Our location is the state of Florida. Of course.
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RESPONSE A: >Our location is the state of Florida. Of course.
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POST: last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida.
RESPONSE A: Your stepdaughter is crazy. Was this her way at "getting back" at her fiance's ex wife? For what, being married to him first? I am not a lawyer, but in addition to the fact that she can't trademark someone else's name, she's harassing this poor woman for no reason other than she used to be married to someone. If I was the ex-wife, I'd sue the pants off of your stepdaughter for whatever I could and/or get some form of a restraining order. She will most certainly lose her lawsuit and have to pay ex-wife's legal fees. If ex-wife counter sues, your stepdaughter will almost certainly lose that case too. I think your stepdaughter needs mental help...
RESPONSE B: Has your stepdaughter ever shown other signs of being a fucking crazy person? Other forms of harassment or anything like that towards others, or past legal trouble that was her fault? What the hell was she thinking by trademarking this other woman's name as her business? There is nothing in it for her, except the short lived satisfaction of irritating this woman, followed by (what I'm assuming will be) lots and lots of legal fees and explaining herself to a court. Also, who on earth would say to themselves "you trademarked my ex wife's name as your own business, and then sued her for using her own name. I'm going to marry you!"
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POST: My stepdaughter trademarked her fiancé's ex-wife's name and filed a lawsuit against her for using it. My stepdaughter doesn't always make the best choices. She trademarked the name of her fiancé's ex-wife. It's not a common name at all, the only people in North America who have her last name are members of her family. No one in America has her first name. After she trademarked the name, my stepdaughter filed a lawsuit against her fiancé's ex for using her name on things like business cards and other documents. r/legaladvice, I'm wondering if my stepdaughter could face any type of legal trouble or consequences for this. I don't think it was the best idea and her mother is worried sick that she will be arrested. My stepdaughter keeps telling us that she will be fine. Her fiancé is going along with it even though it wasn't his idea at all. In theory, how much trouble could she get in? Our location is the state of Florida.
RESPONSE A: Has your stepdaughter ever shown other signs of being a fucking crazy person? Other forms of harassment or anything like that towards others, or past legal trouble that was her fault? What the hell was she thinking by trademarking this other woman's name as her business? There is nothing in it for her, except the short lived satisfaction of irritating this woman, followed by (what I'm assuming will be) lots and lots of legal fees and explaining herself to a court. Also, who on earth would say to themselves "you trademarked my ex wife's name as your own business, and then sued her for using her own name. I'm going to marry you!"
RESPONSE B: This is going to cost your stepdaughter a fortune in legal fees when they courts make her pay for the ex's attorneys fees. I hope she has time to spare and money to burn.
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POST: I know how incredibly dangerous that is with two young kids, even if gun/ammo are separated. If I would have known...) She is incredibly fortunate (if that’s even the word to use in this kind of situation) that no one has been seriously injured or hurt because of the gun [yet]. I know she needs to get the gun out of her house ASAP, but I also know that she needs to make sure it is 100% above the table and also won’t have any repercussions on any future custody/divorce proceedings that could somehow weaken her case or chances at getting full custody of her child. A few questions: 1. What’s the best way to get rid of this gun? 2. Would there be any potential repercussions in divorce/legal proceedings if she sold a gun that was his? 3. Can she even sell it? Not having paperwork for a gun sale or not having to register it at all just seems really weird to me, but I know nothing about gun laws. 4. In the meantime, if she isn’t able to get rid of it altogether, can she give it to a trusted friend for safekeeping until she can speak with a lawyer and figure out how to proceed? He is a legal US resident but does not have citizenship (I don’t know whether this affects anything, gun-wise or otherwise).
RESPONSE A: Under federal law, there's no paperwork requirement to sell or give a firearm to another private party. There may be state law requirements, but Utah is relatively civilized so they probably don't have any. If the gun is currently in the house I'm not sure what the concern is, since the husband won't be returning there while the case is pending. But if the husband is convicted of a crime of domestic violence, and it he's currently subject to a domestic violence restraining order, he cannot possess a gun under federal law, and I'm sure the police would be happy to take custody of it.
RESPONSE B: Call the local police department and have an officer stop by her residence. The officer may be able to confiscate the weapon and place it in the police property room. Alternatively, she may be able to give it to her divorce attorney.
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POST: My sister told me she would hide it in various places around the house to keep him from getting to it, and would keep the ammo in a completely separate location from the gun. (I know how incredibly dangerous that is with two young kids, even if gun/ammo are separated. If I would have known...) She is incredibly fortunate (if that’s even the word to use in this kind of situation) that no one has been seriously injured or hurt because of the gun [yet]. I know she needs to get the gun out of her house ASAP, but I also know that she needs to make sure it is 100% above the table and also won’t have any repercussions on any future custody/divorce proceedings that could somehow weaken her case or chances at getting full custody of her child. A few questions: 1. What’s the best way to get rid of this gun? 2. Would there be any potential repercussions in divorce/legal proceedings if she sold a gun that was his? 3. Can she even sell it? Not having paperwork for a gun sale or not having to register it at all just seems really weird to me, but I know nothing about gun laws. 4. In the meantime, if she isn’t able to get rid of it altogether, can she give it to a trusted friend for safekeeping until she can speak with a lawyer and figure out how to proceed? He is a legal US resident but does not have citizenship (I don’t know whether this affects anything, gun-wise or otherwise).
RESPONSE A: Call the local police department and have an officer stop by her residence. The officer may be able to confiscate the weapon and place it in the police property room. Alternatively, she may be able to give it to her divorce attorney.
RESPONSE B: It's not her gun and legally, she just can't take it from him, I don't think. If the full order is granted, he'll be barred by federal law from possessing a firearm. She should tell the judge at the hearing that he has it, and see what the court says about it. She should not sell it or do anything with it other than remove it from the house during the duration of the restraining order.
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POST: Neighbor backed into my car and wants to pay cash but won't pay the entire price only the original quota on the damage. California. Basically I got my car inspected so I could give my neighbor an idea on the damage which was around $2,200. He hasn't paid me but keeps insisting I come around and pick up the cash but knowing how these repairs go, often times that's not the final price. So I dropped my car off yesterday and get a call that their was more damage than previously estimated and now the repair price is $2,600. He won't pay the full price and is being a dick about it. I'm 21 and he's around 55 if this matters to anyone.
RESPONSE A: You can go through insurance or you can sue him yourself in small claims.
RESPONSE B: Give him the receipt for the repairs, give him the number for the guy who repaired it, and tell him he can call to verify the amount. Tell him that if he's not comfortable paying you in this way, you can go through insurance.
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RESPONSE A: That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved?
RESPONSE B: Give him the receipt for the repairs, give him the number for the guy who repaired it, and tell him he can call to verify the amount. Tell him that if he's not comfortable paying you in this way, you can go through insurance.
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RESPONSE A: That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved?
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RESPONSE A: That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved?
RESPONSE B: My personal experience has been that it's a waste of time to get cash damages in car accidents. People always underestimate the cost to repair cars. They freak out over the cost and then just ask to go through insurance. You won't even need to notify your own insurance company. It's always been a straightforward matter when the other driver admits fault.
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RESPONSE A: That's no small chunk of change, are you sure you want to do this without insurance involved?
RESPONSE B: This is why you go through your insurance company. It's why you pay your insurance company. If you don't want insurance involved for some reason, your recourse is to sue him in small claims court. But why not just go through your insurance company?
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RESPONSE A: You seem to be voicing 2 concerns here: 1. Being charged for food: Not illegal, even if they were going to toss it. You eat, you pay. Depending on quality and quantity, $4 seems reasonable for lunch. If you think you can do better, decline to eat their food. Side Note from my time in the hospitality industry - Policies on eating differ. Some places feel if they let employees eat food waste they will intentionally find ways to have more waste so they can eat it. Some places give employee discount and some view it as a fringe benefit to a good staff to provide a shift meal. 2. Rest Breaks: In my state, shifts over xx time must have a paid break, shifts over xxx time must have a non-paid 30 minute meal period. Different states have different break requirements. New York's are here at the Department of Labor website. I have copy/paste from the website below, sorry for format not translating. Employees who: Work a shift of more than six hours starting before 11 AM AND Continue until 2 PM MUST Have an uninterrupted lunch period of AT LEAST Half an hour between 11 AM and 2 PM Meal periods do not count as work time, thus employers need not pay for that time. Employers do not have to provide other "breaks", such as for "rest periods" or "coffee breaks." But, if an employer permits a break (of up to 20 minutes), then they should pay it as work time. Not a lawyer
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RESPONSE A: You clock out for breaks and they deduct pay for breaks? Sounds like wage theft.
RESPONSE B: Not a lawyer. They can charge you for food, but can’t keep your tips. Management is not allowed to keep tips except in very specific instances - like if a manager is acting as a bartender, but then should only keep their tips. They can’t be part of a tipping pool. You can report them for wage theft here https://dol.ny.gov/unpaidwithheld-wages-and-wage-supplements
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POST: My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee.
RESPONSE A: No, they cannot make you pay that. They must provide heating.
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RESPONSE B: You need to call the gas company and find out what they need to have it turned on. It could be a deposit if it's natural gas, or if it's propane that may be how much it costs to fill the tank. This all should have been explained to you when you signed the rental agreement/lease.
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POST: My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee.
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RESPONSE B: No, they cannot make you pay that. They must provide heating.
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POST: My landlord says I have to pay the $750 fee to the furnace company to have my heat turned on for the first time. Is this legal? My two kids and I have been at this rental house for about six months and the house has central air, but the landlord said the heat is from a gas furnace, and that to get it turned on, I would have to pay a $750 fee of some kind to the electric(?) company or whatever the company is called, in order for them to turn it on for the first time. It’s starting to get cold here like 39 degrees last night, and I’m having to use like 9 little space heaters and it’s still not keeping us comfortably warm. Plus I’m sure my electric bill will be insane from the space heaters I’m having to use. Anyways, is it legal for my landlord to not “provide” heat without me having to pay a huge fee to get it turned on? This is in Tennessee.
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RESPONSE B: Read your lease. If utilities are to be in your name, electric, water, and gas, then yes they are correct. The agreement to supply the house gas is between you and the gas company. The landlord is responsible for keeping the furnace operational. Again, read your lease.
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POST: should check into this as he seems to think it's possible that because I'm employed that if I sign the birth certificate the state will come after me to pay the costs of the child's birth. I contacted another friend of mine who went through this exact situation with his gf and he showed me a horrifying bill. But said that neither he, nor she were asked to pay a dime of it, and that the state covered it completely. Now he also mentioned that he wasn't making much money at all during that time. I have no idea how this works, or who to even ask about this. I very much want to be the legal guardian of this child and plan to be a part of my child's life indefinitely, I'm a bit nervous right now however that by signing the paper that legally makes me the father I'm opting into a massive bill that I cannot afford for the birth of the child. I don't need to hear about how signing opts me into child support in the event we split up...I'm not worried about that and understand that. I'm only curious about the birthing bill. Thanks! TL;DR: Girlfriend (legally single) is pregnant, unemployed, and on state healthcare. I (legally single) am employed and on my company's insurance. If I sign the birth certificate can her insurance company come after me to pay the bill for our child's birth?
RESPONSE A: What state?
RESPONSE B: I get that the birth of a child is expensive, however the cost is not an easy one to bear for anyone. At least under my insurance a child is a qualifying life event and maternity and birth care are 100% covered. You will want to check with your insurance about this and determine what steps you need to take now in order to get this handled. Obviously you are responsible for some portion of this expense, but there are often options to help new parents with this sort of thing. Your girlfriends state health insurance is likely going to cover some of it, your own insurance may cover some of it, and for the rest, work it out with the hospital. They often have payment plans and financial assistance available for these kinds of events. Congratulations on being a new dad BTW.
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POST: me to pay the costs of the child's birth. I contacted another friend of mine who went through this exact situation with his gf and he showed me a horrifying bill. But said that neither he, nor she were asked to pay a dime of it, and that the state covered it completely. Now he also mentioned that he wasn't making much money at all during that time. I have no idea how this works, or who to even ask about this. I very much want to be the legal guardian of this child and plan to be a part of my child's life indefinitely, I'm a bit nervous right now however that by signing the paper that legally makes me the father I'm opting into a massive bill that I cannot afford for the birth of the child. I don't need to hear about how signing opts me into child support in the event we split up...I'm not worried about that and understand that. I'm only curious about the birthing bill. Thanks! TL;DR: Girlfriend (legally single) is pregnant, unemployed, and on state healthcare. I (legally single) am employed and on my company's insurance. If I sign the birth certificate can her insurance company come after me to pay the bill for our child's birth?
RESPONSE A: So here's how it works. I am not a lawyer Any expenses related to the mothers care while in the hospital will be billed to HER insurance. That has nothing to do with you and wont come back to you. You have 30 days after the baby is born to put him on a health insurance plan in order to have his costs covered, up to the plan limits. He can go on either insurance policy. Since you guys arent married I do not think the state would come after you to pay his costs. You guys would just be responsible for whatever the insurance wont cover which is usually just deductibles.
RESPONSE B: When it comes to adding the new baby on to your health insurance, don't wait. You usually have only 30 days to complete the paperwork and get all the necessary information to your HR. Knowing that it's coming, start talking with your HR now to get the ball rolling so you know what you need to do.
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POST: she would qualify as a domestic partner as we haven't been living together for 6 months. Yesterday a friend of mine mentioned that I should check into this as he seems to think it's possible that because I'm employed that if I sign the birth certificate the state will come after me to pay the costs of the child's birth. I contacted another friend of mine who went through this exact situation with his gf and he showed me a horrifying bill. But said that neither he, nor she were asked to pay a dime of it, and that the state covered it completely. Now he also mentioned that he wasn't making much money at all during that time. I have no idea how this works, or who to even ask about this. I very much want to be the legal guardian of this child and plan to be a part of my child's life indefinitely, I'm a bit nervous right now however that by signing the paper that legally makes me the father I'm opting into a massive bill that I cannot afford for the birth of the child. I don't need to hear about how signing opts me into child support in the event we split up...I'm not worried about that and understand that. I'm only curious about the birthing bill. Thanks! TL;DR: Girlfriend (legally single) is pregnant, unemployed, and on state healthcare. I (legally single) am employed and on my company's insurance. If I sign the birth certificate can her insurance company come after me to pay the bill for our child's birth?
RESPONSE A: What state?
RESPONSE B: So here's how it works. I am not a lawyer Any expenses related to the mothers care while in the hospital will be billed to HER insurance. That has nothing to do with you and wont come back to you. You have 30 days after the baby is born to put him on a health insurance plan in order to have his costs covered, up to the plan limits. He can go on either insurance policy. Since you guys arent married I do not think the state would come after you to pay his costs. You guys would just be responsible for whatever the insurance wont cover which is usually just deductibles.
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RESPONSE A: What state?
RESPONSE B: When it comes to adding the new baby on to your health insurance, don't wait. You usually have only 30 days to complete the paperwork and get all the necessary information to your HR. Knowing that it's coming, start talking with your HR now to get the ball rolling so you know what you need to do.
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RESPONSE A: Not legal advice. This definitely sounds like a scam.
RESPONSE B: You are not legally obligated to do or pay anything unless and until you are ordered to do so by a court. Unless and until you get served with a paternity suit, then you ignore it. If you get served with a paternity suit, appear in court and present a vigorous defense- that should be easy if you are not the father.
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RESPONSE A: Not legal advice. This definitely sounds like a scam.
RESPONSE B: 3 weeks pregnant means conceived last week and hasn't missed a period yet. The 3 weeks refers to the date of her last period.
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POST: in New York I know what I was doing and who I was with. Furthermore, I don't go out drinking alone so either my GF or my roommates would have to have some recollection of this happening. I also have no credit statements from that time from any bars in that area. *Number three, she gave me a fake name. She called herself Charlene, but I reverse searched her phone number against both Spokeo and Intelius and both engines said that the number belonged to a woman named LaShawnda. I also searched my own number to check accuracy and the engines were able to identify me. *Number four, it strikes me as suspicious that I got this call at 1:30 am on a Saturday - that's not how someone normally breaks that kind of news. Furthermore, she's a day late on Saturday night but has an appointment with a doctor on Monday? Doesn't make sense, some cycles are just a day late. I have no idea who this woman is or what she wants; she hasn't asked for money. She hasn't asked for anything. But something is definitely wrong here. If I'm being scammed I want some kind of justice. If it's a mistake I just want this woman out of my life. What do you all think? Sorry for the wall of text! TL;DR: Got a call from a stranger claiming to be pregnant with my child. This is completely impossible. What should I do?
RESPONSE A: 3 weeks pregnant means conceived last week and hasn't missed a period yet. The 3 weeks refers to the date of her last period.
RESPONSE B: >"Jane. You met me at a party about 6 to 8 weeks ago and you said I was a real good sport." >"Oh, Christ yeah. How are you, Jane?" >"Pregnant! And I'm gonna jump out the window!" >"Say, you are a good sport, aren't ya, Jane?" lol, j/k. Block her number until you get a notice from her lawyer. And if she does try to get child support, get a paternity test.
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POST: Can I get legally married in Missouri to someone if I am already legally married (to that same person) in a different country? [MO, USA] My husband and I just eloped in Jamaica a week ago, legally binding, it was at a resort so they have people who sorted out all the paperwork for us. However our marriage certificate will apparently take “16 weeks” to get to us. I just found out I am 6 weeks pregnant (we weren’t trying but still happy) and I need my husbands health insurance as my current insurance through my work is garbage. We need proof of the marriage as a qualifying life event to add me. THe temporary marriage certificate we got after the ceremony as a placeholder until the official one doesn’t count as an official document. Could we just go get legally married in Missouri this week? Or might that create legal problems down the line since we are already technically legally married in Jamaica? Sorry if this question is dumb. Thanks guys.
RESPONSE A: As far as I know, you transcribe your marriage certificate in another country, in this case the u.s., so that they can register it and see it as legally binding. At least that's what I had to do being married abroad, we were always advised to not marry twice but I can't tell if you mean another wedding as in the religious ceremony or the official legal binding.
RESPONSE B: Yea this is pretty standard procedure for ppl with destination weddings. Easier to just get married again than dealing with foreign paper work proving you’re married.
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POST: [PA] How Do I Adopt A Child I Currently Care For? Long story short, I met my girlfriend when she was pregnant. The baby’s biological father passed away before he was born. The child has my last name & Ive raised him as my own. We have another on the way, and I consider this one my son and first born just as much as his sibling to be, period. I’ve been told by an attorney that I have no legal rights. I want to cover my ass if something were to happen to his mom, or between me & his mom. What are the steps I need to take to legally adopt him and have official rights as his parent?
RESPONSE A: This is definitely worth the few hundred dollars that a family attorney may cost for just a consultation because then you will actually know. Do it!
RESPONSE B: I would consult a family attorney here, because while you *are* on the birth certificate, you need to determine whether: a.) she can remove you by showing lack of actual paternity. This requires a court order in PA - so she cannot just decide tomorrow that you don't have parental rights. Note: The older your child is, the less likely a court would do anything, since there isn't another parent in the picture. b.) Bio dad's parents could file for grandparents rights if they figured out they have a grandchild and had no prior knowledge. A step parent adoption closes both of those doors. Take the birth certificate with you to talk to them.
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POST: they would like to remain with me, and they don't like or trust their bio-dad. The children are 14, 12, and 10 respectively. Is there any way I can retain custody of them? Will they automatically be placed with their biological father? Or can they remain with me while I fight for them? I live in New Jersey, their deadbeat father lives in Florida and intends to come up to take them with him, or so he claims. Yes, I am also in the process of getting a lawyer but I want to have an idea of how much of a fight I will have to put up...I have some money saved and...my wife has a life insurance policy that might end up paying the court fees... I have barely had time to grieve because their "real" dad sprung this up before the ink on my wife's death certificate dried... On top of this, I am caring for my infant daughter that my wife and I had months prior, adding to the stress and depression over the situation more.
RESPONSE A: I'm sorry. I really really am. I'm sorry for your loss, but most of all, I'm sorry because if he wants the kids, he'll get them. They're his kids, and he's maintained the legally required amount of contact to keep them. If it's primarily a financial thing for him, you can try the route of "you don't have to pay child support, please just let me adopt them". You can hire an attorney (And make sure it's a damn good one who is willing to get the kids to testify as to their desires) and try to fight to keep them, and I've seen it happen, but he's going to have to be damn near legitimately unfit in order for his rights to be severed.
RESPONSE B: Unless you know exactly what you're talking about, stay out of this thread. It's not only irresponsible, it's cruel. ETA: Locking because OP has received ample good advice, and there is more noise than signal being added at this point. /u/77777777777777777770, if you have additional questions, please start a new thread. You are absolutely welcome here anytime.
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RESPONSE A: Unless you know exactly what you're talking about, stay out of this thread. It's not only irresponsible, it's cruel. ETA: Locking because OP has received ample good advice, and there is more noise than signal being added at this point. /u/77777777777777777770, if you have additional questions, please start a new thread. You are absolutely welcome here anytime.
RESPONSE B: If you're not legally the father, you have a very tough uphill battle. Hire a family law attorney.
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RESPONSE A: > I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. If it was about the money he would have allowed you to adopt the kids, which would have released him of all child support obligations.
RESPONSE B: Unless you know exactly what you're talking about, stay out of this thread. It's not only irresponsible, it's cruel. ETA: Locking because OP has received ample good advice, and there is more noise than signal being added at this point. /u/77777777777777777770, if you have additional questions, please start a new thread. You are absolutely welcome here anytime.
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RESPONSE B: I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the situation you're in now. Beg, borrow, or whatever else you have to do, and get the best lawyer you can find immediately. It's going to be tough and your chances are not amazing, but you already know that. Take care of yourself too, okay? It's great that you're trying so hard to take care of these kids, but make sure you don't forget to take care of yourself. Good luck.
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RESPONSE A: > I have no idea why he wants custody but it may have to do with money. If it was about the money he would have allowed you to adopt the kids, which would have released him of all child support obligations.
RESPONSE B: I am a lawyer, who does family law in Illinois. I am also a Guardian ad litum. First thing first, this isn't legal advice and we aren't forming an attorney-client relationship. Second, get a lawyer. Now. Like right now. Get one that has practiced family law for at least 15 years in your county. Ask him/her for a list of the 3 most diligant, fair and hardworking GALS. Don't go to one of those "father's rights" firms. Third, an emergency motion is 100% needed. Fourth, you would be asking to be the children's guardian. This is a very uphill battle. It will be hard. You have a good chance of not winning. Fifth, you NEED to make sure a Guardian ad Litum is appointed. I have never seen or had a judge go against what the GAL says. Ever. The GAL will interview you, your kids, dad, teachers, anyone else you or dad suggest. They will make a suggestion and it will make or break you. Best of luck.
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POST: [NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
RESPONSE A: When was the arrest?
RESPONSE B: Consult with another attorney, $8k is crazy. I hired a highly recommended criminal defense attorney, with a proven track record of DWI reductions/dismissals for $3000 total in Texas. You should start receiving offers in the mail shortly if you havent already. If your BAC was 0, and the urinalysis was negative, try and calm down a bit. It seems highly unlikely that you would be convicted simply because of a failed HGN test. You are going to want a lawyer to represent you in court, but it doesnt have to cost nearly as much as you quoted here, especially for a case that seems this straight forward based on your information provided.
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POST: [NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
RESPONSE A: Consult with another attorney, $8k is crazy. I hired a highly recommended criminal defense attorney, with a proven track record of DWI reductions/dismissals for $3000 total in Texas. You should start receiving offers in the mail shortly if you havent already. If your BAC was 0, and the urinalysis was negative, try and calm down a bit. It seems highly unlikely that you would be convicted simply because of a failed HGN test. You are going to want a lawyer to represent you in court, but it doesnt have to cost nearly as much as you quoted here, especially for a case that seems this straight forward based on your information provided.
RESPONSE B: Why did you post about this yesterday but leave out details in this second story. According to your first post you were drinking.
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POST: [NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
RESPONSE A: Did you fail any type of sobriety test, like walking a straight line?
RESPONSE B: Consult with another attorney, $8k is crazy. I hired a highly recommended criminal defense attorney, with a proven track record of DWI reductions/dismissals for $3000 total in Texas. You should start receiving offers in the mail shortly if you havent already. If your BAC was 0, and the urinalysis was negative, try and calm down a bit. It seems highly unlikely that you would be convicted simply because of a failed HGN test. You are going to want a lawyer to represent you in court, but it doesnt have to cost nearly as much as you quoted here, especially for a case that seems this straight forward based on your information provided.
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POST: [NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
RESPONSE A: Why did you post about this yesterday but leave out details in this second story. According to your first post you were drinking.
RESPONSE B: Did you fail any type of sobriety test, like walking a straight line?
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POST: [NJ] I was arrested for a dui and blood alcohol levels were 0.00 and drug test was negative. Parents don't want to pay attorney fees what can I do? I'm at a loss here. I was wrongly arrested and I had an attorney consultation. The fees will amount to 8,000. The breathalyzer came out as 0.00 and all the drug tests came up as negative. I was arrested for having my headlights off. Although I am completely innocent, I still have to go to court and a lot of money will be involved. I made a huge mistake driving without my headlights and I don't want to stress out my parents. But I also do not want to be guilty for something I didn't do. I am very disappointed in the legal system for causing me so much distress for something that I didn't do.
RESPONSE A: I've read through the other comments, and I have some questions: 1. Are you keeping this from your parents, or are your parents refusing to help you? The title implies one, the post itself implies another. 2. Was your drug test done in a lab, or did you buy it at a store? 3. I've been out of policing for 4 years, but the last I heard HGN is usually the first evaluation performed, not the last. Were you tested for HGN first and then re-tested? I'm not sure how it's done in NJ. But you can petition the court for a lawyer if you can't afford one. I would try talking to the prosecutor's office. Also, if you want to delay your court date, just call and tell the court you're still in the process of hiring an attorney and would like a continuance. I'm sure they'll accommodate you.
RESPONSE B: Did you fail any type of sobriety test, like walking a straight line?
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POST: Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information...
RESPONSE A: Ask on r/legaladvicecanada. But have a quick read of this on the way: https://www.canadianlawyermag.com/news/general/my-parents-keeper/268141.
RESPONSE B: According to this article Saskatchewan has a filial responsibility law (whether statute or common law I can't tell from the article). According to the law professor interviewed in the article, "there have only been a handful of reported cases over the past 10 years or so \[...\] with one of the usual characteristics being a lot of family tension, not because of the litigation but going back decades." Whether in your particular case your parents can successfully bring an action for filial support when they retire will only be answerable by an attorney practicing in Saskatchewan.
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POST: Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information...
RESPONSE A: According to this article Saskatchewan has a filial responsibility law (whether statute or common law I can't tell from the article). According to the law professor interviewed in the article, "there have only been a handful of reported cases over the past 10 years or so \[...\] with one of the usual characteristics being a lot of family tension, not because of the litigation but going back decades." Whether in your particular case your parents can successfully bring an action for filial support when they retire will only be answerable by an attorney practicing in Saskatchewan.
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POST: Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information...
RESPONSE A: According to this article Saskatchewan has a filial responsibility law (whether statute or common law I can't tell from the article). According to the law professor interviewed in the article, "there have only been a handful of reported cases over the past 10 years or so \[...\] with one of the usual characteristics being a lot of family tension, not because of the litigation but going back decades." Whether in your particular case your parents can successfully bring an action for filial support when they retire will only be answerable by an attorney practicing in Saskatchewan.
RESPONSE B: Location matters a lot here. There are states with filial responsibility laws that could allow you to be billed for their care in a nursing home. EDIT - just realized this is CA, so I have no idea, sorry!
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POST: Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information...
RESPONSE A: Ask on r/legaladvicecanada. But have a quick read of this on the way: https://www.canadianlawyermag.com/news/general/my-parents-keeper/268141.
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POST: Are my parents legally allowed to get me to care for them when they retire? Hey guys, (20f) here, there’s been something on my mind the last bit and some of the things my parents have said in the past are bothering me. Recently I hooked a really good paying job, I’ll have my own apartment soon and Im Financially well off for the next couple years if not the rest of my life. Problem is my parents have repetitively threatened to legally bind me to keeping care of them after retirement. Even worse is they are divorced and I haven’t had contact with them in the last couple years from some emotional stuff. Do I legally have to keep care of my parents after they retire? Are they entitled to any sort of money from me and can they take legal actions against me? I live in Saskatchewan and as their “retirement” creeps closer it’s scaring me cause I don’t want any contact with them anymore. My money is for me and with how I’ve been treated I’d rather watch them crumble and fall realizing they have no retirement and their kids aren’t going to help them. I’m sorry if this sounds silly but it’s been eating away at me and I can’t find anything reasonable when I search besides people making jokes on how their kids are gonna keep care of them and articles about how to keep care of elderly people. I just want some reassurance if anyone has information...
RESPONSE A: Ask on r/legaladvicecanada. But have a quick read of this on the way: https://www.canadianlawyermag.com/news/general/my-parents-keeper/268141.
RESPONSE B: Location matters a lot here. There are states with filial responsibility laws that could allow you to be billed for their care in a nursing home. EDIT - just realized this is CA, so I have no idea, sorry!
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POST: (Ca) SO's father died several months ago, she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
RESPONSE A: They would be required to notify the listed next-of-kin before disposing of the property. It's possible that they tried to contact someone else, or he never told them who to contact.
RESPONSE B: Are the 'they' and 'them' you referred to in your narrative referring to the retirement home your SO's father was living at?
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POST: (Ca) SO's father died several months ago, she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
RESPONSE A: Somewhat related; how does Power of Attorney work if an elder relative is in a residential care facility? If I were forced to have my mom moved from my home to a retirement home due to an inability to care for her, would I retain POA?
RESPONSE B: They would be required to notify the listed next-of-kin before disposing of the property. It's possible that they tried to contact someone else, or he never told them who to contact.
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POST: (Ca) SO's father died several months ago, she was not notified till today. He stayed at a retirement community that sold and trashed everything of his death, including a car. Is this legal? They had a poor relationship with him and didn't really want anything of his but her moms ashes that he had and they have been disposed of. She only found out he died from receiving a letter from his insurance that she has money coming to her. Was it legal of them to sell and remove his stuff?
RESPONSE A: Somewhat related; how does Power of Attorney work if an elder relative is in a residential care facility? If I were forced to have my mom moved from my home to a retirement home due to an inability to care for her, would I retain POA?
RESPONSE B: Are the 'they' and 'them' you referred to in your narrative referring to the retirement home your SO's father was living at?
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POST: I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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Title: **Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share?**
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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RESPONSE A: Another important piece of information - how is the house titled? It's possible that you are the sole legal owner based on how it was titled and they do not have a claim, or it is possible that they now own half and you own half. Generally in most US states, the default if you purchase a home after marriage it's the first option.
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> So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
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POST: Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
RESPONSE A: Why do you say he "left this house for me" when there isn't a will? Was there some other document like a trust or are you joint tenants with rights of survivorship?
RESPONSE B: Please don’t try to figure out which replies are good, bad or accurate. Get a lawyer. I read a few and there is way too much bad info. You need a complete analysis of the relevant facts and how the law in your state applies to those facts and then develop a strategy for dealing with the estate, if any, and any claims.
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POST: Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
RESPONSE A: I’m an estate lawyer, although not in your state. You need to hire an estate attorney — if you don’t know where to start, call your county bar association for a referral.
RESPONSE B: Please don’t try to figure out which replies are good, bad or accurate. Get a lawyer. I read a few and there is way too much bad info. You need a complete analysis of the relevant facts and how the law in your state applies to those facts and then develop a strategy for dealing with the estate, if any, and any claims.
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POST: Husband died several months ago, left this house for me, his kids suiting to get their share? So my husband passed away a few months ago, we were married for 10 years. His kids in their 20s and I don't have any kids. His kids have never talked to me, and they wouldn't talk to their father much either, just like once every other year, since they were against our marriage. Long story short, we bought a small house and now his kids hired a lawyer to get half of it. I don't have family in this country, and this house is the only thing I have. What do I do now? Should I hire a lawyer? Will they force me to sell the house so they could get half of it?
RESPONSE A: Get a lawyer
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POST: . Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
RESPONSE A: If you were a month to month tenant, they can terminate your tenancy with 15 days notice. They do not have to give you 30 days. Also, that sheriff has no clue what he's talking about.
RESPONSE B: Since you have a yearly lease, 83.57 can't be used until 60 days before the end of the annual period. So no, you don't have to be out in two weeks. (1) When the tenancy is from year to year, by giving not less than 60 days’ notice prior to the end of any annual period;
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POST: on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
RESPONSE A: What does the eviction notice list as the cause of eviction?
RESPONSE B: Since you have a yearly lease, 83.57 can't be used until 60 days before the end of the annual period. So no, you don't have to be out in two weeks. (1) When the tenancy is from year to year, by giving not less than 60 days’ notice prior to the end of any annual period;
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RESPONSE A: How long does your lease run? Is it month to month or with a fixed end date?
RESPONSE B: If you were a month to month tenant, they can terminate your tenancy with 15 days notice. They do not have to give you 30 days. Also, that sheriff has no clue what he's talking about.
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POST: am a boat mechanic living on my boat in Florida. My reputation is being destroyed and I am being evicted because of a lie the marina owner's have chosen to believe. I have lived in this marina for 3 years, paid my rent on time, no problems. The owner called, and told me to get out of her marina immediately, no reason. She refused to talk to me any more. Later that day, when I walked up to her and husband to find out why I was kicked out, her husband stepped between us and screamed at me to get out of his marina. They seemed to be afraid of me. When I got back to my boat there was an eviction notice, giving me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
RESPONSE A: How long does your lease run? Is it month to month or with a fixed end date?
RESPONSE B: What does the eviction notice list as the cause of eviction?
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POST: me two weeks to get out. Then it hit me, someone must have told them something really bad about me. I am a 69 year mechanic on social security. I have never done anything really bad. Someone told them a lie. So I called a customer of mine and asked him to try to find out why i was evicted. He said, after calling the marina owner, that she said that someone had called and said that I had poured lighter fluid on a boat and set it on fire. I have never set a boat on fire. I've never intentionally harmed any boat or person. I'm a mechanic, I live on my reputation. I don't in believe in violence. If a boat mechanic wanted to cause harm to someone or their property I don't think he would do it this way. I went to the sheriff, told him the story. He said that they have to give me 30 days and that there is a Florida law that says they cannot ever tell anyone why I was kicked out, they already have. She told my customer. My ability to make a living is dependent upon my reputation. I'm an independent mechanic. I don't his rank but an officer said he would talk to them. Haven't head anything yet. Talked to the police day before yesterday. What should I do?
RESPONSE A: I might also talk to a lawyer about a slander lawsuit. There can be ways to file suit against a "John Doe" defendant, and then use the legal discovery process to obtain records about who they got the information from. (This will also depend on exactly what happened - I'm guessing there's more to this than just some random number calling and telling them this.) But this is all rather beyond what you can do on your own. I'd look for an attorney who works on libel and slander cases, as far as protecting your reputation as a mechanic. Other people have given you good advice regarding the eviction.
RESPONSE B: If you were a month to month tenant, they can terminate your tenancy with 15 days notice. They do not have to give you 30 days. Also, that sheriff has no clue what he's talking about.
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POST: Lawyers of Reddit what are the laws for breast pumping at work? My spouse and I (18yrs both of us) work at a Sonic (Texas) together. It's small and the only "private" places for her to pump is a restroom. Is that allowed?
RESPONSE A: Breastfeeding counselor here. This is not legal. Whether or not they have to pay you for time pumping depends on some other factors. But they may not ask you to pump in a bathroom. Go to: https://www.womenshealth.gov/supporting-nursing-moms-work/what-law-says-about-breastfeeding-and-work For info on your legal rights as a breastfeeding mother/employee. Congrats to you both!!
RESPONSE B: How many people work there? If it's less than 50 "...employers with fewer than 50 employees are not subject to the FLSA break time requirement if the employer can demonstrate that compliance with the provision would impose an undue hardship."
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POST: [NY] Wife was robbed at gunpoint, employer refused to fix security camera prior to robbery, is there any action we can take here? Hey guys, so my wife works at a pharmacy in a pretty ghetto area of upstate NY (Newburgh) and the store was robbed at gunpoint Sunday. They took 1000s of Percocet and Oxy as well as cash, the police were helpful and my wife is physically ok. The thing is, my wife’s employer refused to fix their security system (cameras) due to the cost. Now that the police are asking for the security tapes he can’t provide them. My question is, doesn’t her employer have a legal obligation to have working security equipment? Especially in a low income high crime area and especially since they deal with a lions share of the cities controlled substances. Is there anything we can do, I personally don’t feel good about her continuing to work there until proper security measures are taken. Also the area they are in has had 4 bank robberies and other armed robberies in the past year. So this isn’t a shocking thing to happen there.
RESPONSE A: There is no legal recourse here. Your wife can take some time off and get counseling or short-term stress leave.
RESPONSE B: As a note, if she needs counseling for this, she may be eligible for workman's comp. Check with an employment lawyer - it's very state dependent.
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POST: I found a complete, dead mouse in my spinage salad at my school cafeteria. My school has been trying to sweep it under the rug. As I said I found a complete, dead mouse inside my salad I bought from the school cafeteria at my university. The school has been trying to sweep it under the rug. The only thing they offered was $50 in school money. I brought it to the president of the university who also did not do anything while everyone in authority is acting extremely pissy with me for finally bringing the issue to the local media. I still have received 0 compensation besides being told I could get $50 to the school and that's it. Is there anything I can do here?
RESPONSE A: Your damages are limited to the cost of the salad and any medical bills that might have occurred because you ate some of the salad (if you did)
RESPONSE B: This shouldn't have gone further than the cafeteria manager. The University President ? The local media ? You are correctly being viewed with a poor attitude. Legally, you're owed a refund on the inedible salad. And if you incurred medical bills, you could probably recover them in small claims court if they didn't reimburse you voluntarily. But there's no monetary damages to being grossed out, and no damages for what "might" have happened if you attempted to eat a whole dead mouse. Edit: I read your post history. You have my condolences. Please consider that part of your processing of grief may change how you're reacting to a minor problem.
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POST: I found a complete, dead mouse in my spinage salad at my school cafeteria. My school has been trying to sweep it under the rug. As I said I found a complete, dead mouse inside my salad I bought from the school cafeteria at my university. The school has been trying to sweep it under the rug. The only thing they offered was $50 in school money. I brought it to the president of the university who also did not do anything while everyone in authority is acting extremely pissy with me for finally bringing the issue to the local media. I still have received 0 compensation besides being told I could get $50 to the school and that's it. Is there anything I can do here?
RESPONSE A: This shouldn't have gone further than the cafeteria manager. The University President ? The local media ? You are correctly being viewed with a poor attitude. Legally, you're owed a refund on the inedible salad. And if you incurred medical bills, you could probably recover them in small claims court if they didn't reimburse you voluntarily. But there's no monetary damages to being grossed out, and no damages for what "might" have happened if you attempted to eat a whole dead mouse. Edit: I read your post history. You have my condolences. Please consider that part of your processing of grief may change how you're reacting to a minor problem.
RESPONSE B: You can try and hire a lawyer and sue or do it in small claims court but you might get nothing or even cost you more then you spent. The $50 is fairly generous. This is advice for the US and might not apply to all states, since you gave no location.
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