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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: Disciplining our kitten
POST: I have a 7 mos. old kitten who is overall a good cat. My boyfriend and I always joke that he is a good cat except for when he is bad. There are only two things that he regularly does that are bad behaviors: scratching the sofa and drinking from the fish bowl. He knows that he isn't supposed to do either and I know he knows because when he sees he is caught he stops and walks away.
When he was younger, we used a squirt gun to try to deter him from such behaviors. It worked at first but he then got used to it and would just accept it. (He is now content joining in baths and showers) Then we tried hissing. I am not sure that really helped much either. My boyfriend now bites his ear for discipline. After each time he misbehaves, we chase him out of the room or area but five minutes later, he is back at the fish bowl. I have started to hiss at him while he is at the fish bowl, pick him up and bring him to his water and when he scratches at the sofa I bring him to his scratch post. Is there more that we can do to teach him to not do these behaviors or are we just going to have to continue to keep a keen eye on him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My kitten doesn't respond to water, hissing, or biting (from us or the dog) as a way of discipline. What else can I do? | My kitten doesn't respond to water, hissing, or biting (from us or the dog) as a way of discipline. What else can I do? | 5,573 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by going to a dishonest shop to have my oil changed for the past 12 months.
POST: Most expensive fuck up of my life. I've been going to a chain oil change place to have my oil changed for the past year. Today I was driving to work and when I tried to accelerate to get onto the freeway my car wouldn't move. It tried so hard to accelerate with no success. I was like, "what the fuck?" So I decide to get off on the next exit and turn around and go home so I'm not stranded on the freeway.
Now I notice my car is making a knocking sound. For, apparently, any car savvy person... this is not a good sound to hear. I manage to make it to a mechanic shop by my house. They inspect my car and revved the engine.... which produced the most horrid screeching sound I've ever heard. The mechanics in the shop, even the receptionist, look at each other and shake their heads. Great. They tell me that if the place that was changing my oil would have told me that I had a leak that could have been fixed by a $60 part, it could have saved me from having to BUY A NEW ENGINE. Fuck me. I work 2 jobs, luckily one of them is within walking distance. I just have to figure out how to live off of one income...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Place that I went to have my oil changed failed to tell me about a leak that needed a $60 part. Now I have to get a new engine. | Place that I went to have my oil changed failed to tell me about a leak that needed a $60 part. Now I have to get a new engine. | 2,715 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Made a mistake and need advice
POST: I have been seeing a friend and classmate for a while now (6 months) and I have taken her to numerous dinners. We always enjoy each others company and share the same interests. After our last dinner I told her that I havent been on a date in a real long time and was thinking about getting into the scene agian. She was obviously distressed because I am assuming she thought we were on dates this whole time. Anyways to make a long story short I ended up kissing her when leaving. It was real sudden and took her completely off gaurd. When I got home we talked on the phone and I admitted that I was unaware that the dinners we were on were dates. However I do like her and would like to continue seeing her and to make sure my actions were not crossing any lines. She said I didnt cross any lines. So, I asked her on another real date this tuesday and she agreed. This all happened on Thursday of last week. I texted her twice yesterday(Saturday) to which she didn't responed and recently tried to call her to make plans (amusement park) and she didn;t pick up nor return my call. I am wondering should I stop communication and let her figure out what she wants or send a text telling her I am sorry for how I did it, becuase I am not sorry I did kiss her. Any advice would be appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I kissed a girl and took her by surprise, now she is not responeding to texts or calls, need help Please and Thank you. | I kissed a girl and took her by surprise, now she is not responeding to texts or calls, need help Please and Thank you. | 49 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my summer school mark dropped a ton after one bad test. I need your tips on how to bring it back up.
POST: So, I'm currently getting my grade 12 chemistry mark in summer school, which takes all of July. I was at a constant 81% all semester, but I recently did very poorly on one test. And just like that, with only one week left, it dropped to a 74%. Now, chemistry isn't my best subject, so I was ok with an 81. But this mark counts for university and I really need to get it done this summer. I have one more test, a huge assignment worth 15% of my mark, and an exam worth 15% of my mark. I need study tips! I don't have much time, so I'm going to have to cram. Do you think I can bring my mark back to where it was?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My chemistry mark went down way below where I want it. I need study tips to bring it back up in a week. | My chemistry mark went down way below where I want it. I need study tips to bring it back up in a week. | 598 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [24 M] of four months may be apart for a year. I don't know how to start this conversation and what the best option is.
POST: I am in the running for a prestigious grant that will allow me to study abroad for a year in another country. In the past few months I've met a guy who I've fallen head over heels for. I love him very much and I want to continue our relationship. By the time the grant starts we will have been dating for about 10 months.
I applied for the grant before I met him and he has been supportive about it. I keep ignoring talk about it, however, as I really don't want to leave him. At the same time, the grant is an amazing opportunity and we've both agreed if I get it I do it. Yet we haven't discussed what we will do as a couple if I leave.
I really want to stay together but a year is a long time to be apart. There will be opportunities to see each other during that time, but I am afraid he'll get tired of the distance.
Should I just ask him what he wants to do? Is it unreasonable to expect him to continue seeing me if I take this opportunity?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Moving abroad, scared to talk about the relationship. I want to continue it but I'm afraid he'll say he doesn't. What should I do? | Moving abroad, scared to talk about the relationship. I want to continue it but I'm afraid he'll say he doesn't. What should I do? | 2,447 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17M] feel like I'm an adult by now but many people I know insist otherwise
POST: I like to think I'm a grown up at this point. I've aced 7 APs in 3 years of high school, hold down a job, and built my own social circle from the ground up. Furthermore, while I don't do 100% of the housekeeping, I contribute greatly. I don't drive, but I'm working on it and hope to stay behind the wheel tons by the end of the year. I look after my disabled brother often and have loaned out a good portion of my checking account to my folks when times were tight. I was suffering from depression and wanted to try tennis, I've paid for a therapist and coach all on my own.
The point is, between the college-level classes and self-reliance, almost everyone around me insists I'm a child. With my friends and classmates, it's a sort of running joke because of my baby face and my crass sense of humor. They insist I have the maturity of a twelve year old boy despite me having gone through more messed stuff and being more emotionally stable than many of them. While I act silly, I like to think maturity isn't strictly tied to acting solemn 24/7 and because my childhood was hell in a lot of ways (why I grew up in the first place) I can't take a lot of high school drama seriously and don't stress out over academics. Random people I'm loosely acquainted with or talk to at work often think I'm early 20's and talk to me like an actual adult, but people who get to know me better insist I've got the mind of a child.
Is there something I'm missing on? Did I miss out on some unspoken milestone as a child? If I'm indeed just a kid, what does being an adult mean?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Despite many "adult" traits (looking older, tough classes, a job, emotional stability, etc.) a lot of folks are relatively adamant on me still being a kid. | Despite many "adult" traits (looking older, tough classes, a job, emotional stability, etc.) a lot of folks are relatively adamant on me still being a kid. | 3,922 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 M] know this girl [18 F] who's clearly into me and I have no idea what to say.
POST: Ok here goes.
I've got this girl who got a crush on me but I don't like her. The reason why I don't like her is both because she's the ex of an old friend of mine, and because I don't feel the "spark".
She has been asking me every weekend for like two months if I want to do something, but I have declined with bad conscience every time.
Today a common friend of our asked us and another girl to go see a movie together. I accepted the request because I really wanted to see that movie, and this girl asked me to. I really feel bad for disappointing her as much as I've done.
We had a great time at the movie and everything and went home for ourselves afterwards.
When I got home she started to chat with me on Facebook about what's wrong about "us" and everything. She just doesn't get why I don't wanna be with her (At least she pretends), so I started to agree. After a while she asked me to hang out tomorrow again, all by ourselves, but I had to come up with some bullshit story.
I just figured that I can't continue to let her down, but she just don't want to take the hint... She is cute, funny, nice and everything but I just can't date or hang out with her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl got crush on me. I don't. She keeps asking me to hang out. Finds bullshit excuses. Doesn't take the hint. Ehr. | Girl got crush on me. I don't. She keeps asking me to hang out. Finds bullshit excuses. Doesn't take the hint. Ehr. | 1,052 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: I (18f) am having some jealousy issues as far as my boyfriend's (21m) daughter (3) goes.
POST: So, I've been dating my boyfriend, Drew, for a while now. I recently met his 3-year-old daughter, Mia. While I thought I would be completely okay with him having a daughter, once I met her, it turned out to be harder to adjust to than I thought it would be. I'm 18-years-old, and am used to being my boyfriends' entire life.
I love Mia so much, she is absolutely perfect, and I would never ever let my jealousy get between my relationship with her or her relationship with him. I'm not just like a selfish bitch who needs all kinds of attention. I lost my dad when I was 16, so I know the importance of Mia's relationship with her father, and I encourage it.
I know that Mia HAS to come first, and I love that Drew is such a good father. I understand that when I became his girlfriend, I gave up ever having him 100% to myself. I am willing to sacrifice so that I can be with him, I just need help learning how to cope with this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend has a 3yo daughter, I love them both dearly, but am having some issues with getting less attention from him when she's around. Need help coping with this, and finding my place. | Boyfriend has a 3yo daughter, I love them both dearly, but am having some issues with getting less attention from him when she's around. Need help coping with this, and finding my place. | 562 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Not Your Average Traveler vs Tourist Debate...but which are you?
POST: I'm curious to know what Reddit thinks, NOT OF THE TOURIST/TRAVELER debate itself, but more of which term you would use to describe yourself and why? The terms mean basically the same thing, but each term almost has a negative connotation. (If you're a tourist, then you're not adventurous. If you're a traveler, then you're elitist because you think you're better than a tourist)
Do you travel a lot, but tend to stick to popular destinations, but because of your on-the-go-lifestyle consider yourself a traveler?
Do you travel infrequently and so consider yourself a tourist, despite that your travel destinations may not include "touristy" things to do?
Why do you pick the term you do?
If you're not aware of the Traveler/Tourist debate, it boils down to thus: Most people consider being a Traveler different from being a Tourist in that Travelers look for the "authentic" side of a destination, where "the locals go." While Tourists stick to the well-known, beaten paths of a city (remember, they're "tourist-y" for a reason).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Traveler and Tourist mean pretty much the same thing, yet we get really butthurt over which term we choose to use. Which way do you refer to yourself and why? | Traveler and Tourist mean pretty much the same thing, yet we get really butthurt over which term we choose to use. Which way do you refer to yourself and why? | 2,018 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [CA] Can my school force me to do volunteer work for the Salvation Army?
POST: Not sure if this goes here but I don't know where else to ask.
My public high school has an event called "project day" every 6 weeks. It's a pass or fail grade, and it does count for a credit. I'm a senior, and this Friday we have to either volunteer for a retirement home, or volunteer for the Salvation Army.
Students had an option for which organisation to assist with. However, this information was distributed via English classes, which I'm not a part of. Instead, I received a letter saying I'm signed up to volunteer for the Salvation Army by default as the retirement home had enough volunteers.
I don't support the Salvation Army at all. They're one of the worst organisations out there in my opinion. I emailed my teacher asking to switch me for this exact reason, but she never responded.
Can my school force me to volunteer or else they'll give me a failing grade? Who do I talk to so I don't have to volunteer for the Salvation Army?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My high school is forcing me to volunteer for the Salvation Army, an organisation I do not want to help. Can they do this? How do I avoid this? | My high school is forcing me to volunteer for the Salvation Army, an organisation I do not want to help. Can they do this? How do I avoid this? | 5,183 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Should i even go there?
POST: The First post
The boy/man i like age 21 male , is someone who is a volunteer at my local establishment im age 23 female He is really funny, we get along like a house on fire pretty much from the get go. Ive always thought of him to be attractive but never anythig more - I thought he was gay. We've always had a bit of a flirty banter and we've spent a lot of time together (only at the establishment he volunteers and i visit as a "young person")
Anyway. I recently found out he is only "questioning" his sexuality and has a sexual intrest in me. (He called me beautiful- d'aww.)
The only way we'd be able to have a relationship is if i was to become a volunteer (something i WAS going to do anyway - but this is pushing me), but i have that nigle in my head of his questioning sexuality. What would i do/how would i feel if he wanted to be with a bloke?(man) but we were together?
Should i even go there?
What if we get along really well as friends, but a relationship wouldnt work?
Ive also told him A LOT about my past.. (Which i thought i was comfortable doing because i thought he wasnt actually interested in me) which i may have not told him/held back a while if i had known
(Though he called me beautiful after all this..)
HELP!!! What do i do - do i try it? "Life is too short for regrets" or just.. Remain good ones? (Friends)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | guy who likes me might be gay but wants to persue a relation with me as long as I volunteer at the place I visit. Ive also told him too much about my life. | guy who likes me might be gay but wants to persue a relation with me as long as I volunteer at the place I visit. Ive also told him too much about my life. | 3,444 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Agonising back pain, could use some advice. Have you had a herniated disc? know anything about it? I'm at the end of my tether.
POST: There's something wrong with my back. Very very very wrong. I had an MRI about four years agothat showed the first signs of a herniated disc. Every few months or so i get a flare up of pain that puts me on my arse for two or three days. About a month ago i had one of these flare ups and it hasn't gone away. for a whole month. Pain doesn't describe it properly. Finger curling, screaming agony comes close.
I can't stand up, i can barely walk. Sitting down hurts, standing up hurts, lying down hurts. I went to a doctor yesterday who flipped and said I need to get an MRI immediately. She wouldn't even let me walk out of the surgery and called a taxi. She faxed a referral to a neurosurgeon and said to wait for his call. I waited 24 hours. Today i found out he may not be able to think about when i can get an appointment for another four days.
So now i'm waiting in limbo and i don't know what to do. Should i be resting? stretching? walking? what makes it worse? what makes it better? I'm starting to get depressed. I cry at the drop of a hat, i feel lost and powerless. I normally work full time, study part time and take every chance i can to get outdoors in the garden or do something active. I feel like i'm becoming paralysed in body and mind and i don't know what to do.
The Doctor mentioned that there's a possibility this could be a condition where the nerves in the spinal column get strangled somehow. I can't remember the name for it because i was a bit in shock. Has anyone out there heard of this? Has anyone out there been through something similar to this? have any advice for me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | herniated disk or some sort of spinal column strangulation is causing me to lose my mind. Don't know what to do. Please help! | herniated disk or some sort of spinal column strangulation is causing me to lose my mind. Don't know what to do. Please help! | 3,747 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20M] with my [24F] of 6 months, she left me because her ex boyfriends dad died.
POST: My ex was close to her ex boyfriends dad who recently passed from cancer. She's lost alot of people close to her before and this makes me feel terrible for her. She told me that she couldn't be in a relationship anymore because she didn't want to "drag me into it". This was terrible news for me because we were going great before this happened and I really wanted to help her through it. I really want to be there for her still because I know she's going through a tough time but the thing is is that she never wants to talk about it, she deals with it by making herself so busy with her work that she just forgets about it all. I just need some advice on how to be there for her in my current situation, because I have never personally gone through losing anyone major in my life. I don't want to sound selfish either and tell her about how shitty I feel about losing her because I know she is going through a lot worse.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex had someone close to her die which she then didn't want to drag me into, I want to know how to still be there for her. | Ex had someone close to her die which she then didn't want to drag me into, I want to know how to still be there for her. | 4,688 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: How are flowers for gifts?
POST: A short description of the relationship and me, I guess. I'm a 19 year old jobless college student, and this is the first girl i've been interested in, and my first christmas having any kind of relationship, so i'm pretty lost. Unfortunately it's long distance, so it limits gifts a bit. She's also 21, and has a small amount of experience with dating. We were 'best internet friends' for a little over a year before this happened too, and we've been relationship-ish for probably a little over a month now.
Her hobbies are pretty limited, video games and music basically. So I thought why not go with the cheesy choice of flowers. But fuck, flowers are expensive and die so easily. Basically my question is, is the reaction to flowers actually worth it? My decision is on you reddit, pls help. If you need any more info, just ask, I'm so lost LOL.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | hopeless romantic wondering if the sweet feeling she'll get recieving these flowers is worth it, or if i should just get something different. | hopeless romantic wondering if the sweet feeling she'll get recieving these flowers is worth it, or if i should just get something different. | 4,709 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my girlfriend [23 F] of 6 months, struggle with spending time together
POST: My girlfriend and I are struggling with spending time together. I work a demanding job, with hours that are typically from 8-5:30, sometimes I work more 8-6 or 9-6. I also occasionally have to work weekends. I wish I had more time to spend with my girlfriend, but sometimes work gets in the way.
My girlfriend also feels we don't get to spend much time together. When I do get home from work, the conversations always go to how much I've been working. I feel like she focuses on me having to go to work the next day instead of getting to spend the time we are actually together enjoying ourselves.
How can we focus on enjoying the time we do have together instead of worrying about not being able to spend much time together the next day?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can me and my girlfriend stop working about how much time we get to have together and just enjoy our time with each other? | How can me and my girlfriend stop working about how much time we get to have together and just enjoy our time with each other? | 586 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (21/f) My boyfriend [22/m] doesn't seem to understand that his method of giving advice/responding to someone else's error can be upsetting and demeaning.
POST: Whenever anyone does anything wrong (myself, his close friends, etc.), it usually goes something like this: 1. loud groan, or exasperated huffing; 2. clenching knuckles, or throwing whatever object he has to the ground; 3. total and blatant frustration in asking something like, "Why did you do that?" or "Why didn't you...?"; 4. Never to me, but often to others, sneering insults about their decision. (Sometimes he won't even say a word. He'll just act really "fed up." )
He doesn't seem to understand that, whenever he acts this way, the loudest statement is his reaction, not the advice he has to give. I know he just wants to help people, and I appreciate that...yet he's utterly convinced that his reaction is effective and acceptable. He's expressed that the rest of us (who prefer not to be treated like a dog that just pissed on the carpet) don't actually respond to his advice whenever he does it in a "nice" way.
I want to help him understand that it upsets me when he responds that way. That he can simply ask, "Why did you do this?" or "Why didn't you do this?" without all the dramatic body language and noises. His friends seem to respond in one of two ways: they either get over it, or they stop doing that particular activity with him. I want to reiterate, though, that this habit of his is completely uncharacteristic of his personality: he's sweet, attentive, and takes huge consideration of my feelings. He's the man I want to spend the rest of my life with, without question. We must have fought over this a half dozen times...please be honest, am I just being overly sensitive? Do I need to just get over it, or stand firm that what he's doing is simply not nice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Whenever someone does something wrong, and my boyfriend wants to inform someone of their error, he is aggressive, rude, and gets visibly/obviously exasperated and frustrated. | Whenever someone does something wrong, and my boyfriend wants to inform someone of their error, he is aggressive, rude, and gets visibly/obviously exasperated and frustrated. | 3,132 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [25F] overreacting to my boyfriend [32M] (of one year)'s joke?
POST: My boyfriend (32 M) and I (25 F) have been together for nearly a year. We get along well and don't really fight, even though we've had occasional miscommunications. He plays his emotions close to the chest, which can be hard for me because I love to hear nice things from time-to-time and he just doesn't really say them much.
The other night, as we were climbing into bed, he made a "joke." As he snuggled in next to me he said, *"So, when are you gonna be more attractive?"*
I asked him to repeat what he'd said, to give him a chance to retract and just to make sure I'd heard him correctly before I got upset over it. He said it again. When I got upset about this, **he** got mad at **me** for "not trusting him" and that it was "a joke." I asked him in what world would that joke be considered funny by anyone?
He has since apologized, but he chalks his responsibility for the incident up as his failure to recognize that I was feeling insecure.
Honestly, I'm a pretty insecure person. I grew up with an emotionally and physically abusive father. I've struggled with body image issues my whole life because of the things my father used to say to me (encouraging me to be bulimic, etc.). All of this my boyfriend knows.
When I told my mom what my boyfriend had said, she looked at me in horror and told me, "That sounds exactly like your father!" Which was something I had thought at the time he said it, but I did not say to him.
But just because I'm insecure, doesn't mean he's not at fault for making a joke with no other possible outcome than to hurt my feelings.
Am I crazy for feeling this way? Am I overreacting? Because ever since it happened a few days ago, I can't take a shower without hearing his words echoing in my head over and over on a loop. Any tips on getting over it and moving on?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend "jokingly" asks "When are you gonna be more attractive?" before bed. I can't get over it. Help! | My boyfriend "jokingly" asks "When are you gonna be more attractive?" before bed. I can't get over it. Help! | 3,455 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: 22 and whining about parents... (ranting ahead)
POST: I spent four years living half a country away from my parents, and those four years were great, but expensive. So when my parents moved closer to me, I moved in with them, looking to save money and finish school.
It's been going pretty well. I go to church with them once a week (they're fundamentalist Christians), I don't drink or go to parties and I work to pay for school. They cover my room and board, and occasionally drive me around.
Last week however, I had a friend come up from Toronto, (about an hour and a half away.) I went to a movie with said friend (Magic Mike) and told my parents I was going to see Abe Lincoln. Ignoring the fact that it's not as terrible as it sounds, that I'm 22 and lying to my parents, my mother somehow found out.
Now she's all cold and "I'm too angry, we'll talk about it later" and I want to be like "no! We're not going to talk about it later. We're not going to talk about it ever, because it's none of your business." I appreciate what they've done for me, and they've been a huge help, especially in the last few months, but sometimes I want to tell them that parts of my life have nothing to do with them.
I'm tired of not dating because they won't approve of the guys I date and sick of listening to her every single week, "will you be in heaven with us?"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my parents are being weirdly controlling about movies I see after I stopped drinking, dating and dancing when I moved in with them. | my parents are being weirdly controlling about movies I see after I stopped drinking, dating and dancing when I moved in with them. | 586 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: Little dog scared of big dogs (with a twist)
POST: I have a 2.5 year old Pembroke Welsh Corgi. She's small for her breed. She pretty much stopped growing at 5 mo (when I got her) and she's only about 17 pounds.
She is terrified of SOME mid to large sized dogs. 9 times of 10 she'll approach a bigger dog, they'll turn to sniff her and she'll FREAK out. Yelping, crying, squealing, running away....you'd think she had been bit. After she recovers she'll proceed to bark and bark at the offending dog for no reason. Today she freaked out when a slightly larger Sheltie sniffed her.
The twist is that we have several friends with BIG dogs that she doesn't display the same tendencies with. We have a friend with a 100+ pound German Shepard she loves to chase and another friend with a Great Dane mix who she also chases and gets along with.
I've had her play with Boxers, Golden Retrievers, etc....I thought it might be the other dog's temperament (I thought it was only super excited dogs), but the Sheltie today was super gentle and very scared and timid of my dog's erratic behavior.
I can't for the life of me understand it....or figure out how to train her out of it since it seems very random with some dogs. I mean she really can cry wolf and scream and whines like her life depends on it...anyone have any thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My little dog is scared shitless of SOME big dogs, but other big dogs she loves and plays with just fine. (not breed specific) | My little dog is scared shitless of SOME big dogs, but other big dogs she loves and plays with just fine. (not breed specific) | 2,944 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My f/23, boyfriend, m/23, of 2 years constantly ignores my feelings and suggestions on improving our relationship and I don't feel like a priority
POST: I'm kind of at a loss on what to do about this. I love my boyfriend, a lot and I want him in life. But lately I've been feeling so disappointed.
I'd say the main issue is I've asked him time and time again to do things with me. And not boring things that only I would like, but stuff like going to a baseball game. He agrees or I guess brushes me off and we never do anything. All I want is to get out and off the couch on occasion, but he seems content with always doing that. I couldn't tell you how many times I've talked to him about doing things together.
I guess what really has me pissed at the moment is that he spent all day yesterday helping his new female roommate move in. I'm not threatened by her and I know nothing would ever happen. What I am mad about though is he hasn't done anything like that for me in a long time. I moved a couple months ago and he didn't lift a finger or offer to help. This situation just leads me to thing about other things like how he'll go on trips with his friends but not me even though I always talk about wanting to go certain places and suggest we plan it out. He'll go out with his friends, but never with me.
It just sucks to not feel like a priority after 2 years. I want to talk to him one last time about it and see if there's any hope at me feeling better. Any advice on how to get through to him and not cause a major fight?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bf ignores requests to get out and be more social/active. He does stuff with other people and I seem to get the short end of the stick | bf ignores requests to get out and be more social/active. He does stuff with other people and I seem to get the short end of the stick | 3,287 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex [M/23] of three weeks has blocked me [F/23], a week later unblocked me and then a week later again blocked me. We went out for 5 months. Why is he doing this?
POST: We've been broken up *officially* for about three weeks, he dumped me because of long distance. Said he still loved me, maybe its true, I don't know. First time he blocked me I told him to do it because I couldn't stop myself from talking to him. A week later, he unblocks me. A week later, he blocks me again.
I don't know why, I haven't been tried to contact him since the first time he blocked me. And we're not friends, so its not like I show up on his feed or can see that much on his profile.
I mean if he just wanted to see my page and then block me right away, why did he wait a week? Why block me again? I wasn't bugging him
Don't tell me I shouldn't care because he's my ex, because I do care, because I still love him and want to know why he's doing this.
And yes, I'll own up to that I creep his page, what little I can see of it. But I miss him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex keeps blocking and unblocking me even though we are not friends on facebook and I haven't tried contacting him, even though I love him. | My ex keeps blocking and unblocking me even though we are not friends on facebook and I haven't tried contacting him, even though I love him. | 5,078 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [22/M] I drunkenly confessed my feelings for a good friend [22/F] of mine that is currently in a relationship with someone else.
POST: A little back story: She is roommates with one of my best friends, Katie, and I was able to meet through her. She, lets say her name is Sarah, has been with her boyfriend on and off for the past four years, so as long as I've known her she has basically been in a relationship. Although she has been with someone, there has been explicit sexual tension between the two of us for the past year and a half. I have been told by Katie that she has feelings for me and has talked about how she could see herself with me, and that she would be with me if she was single.
During this weekend I drunkenly told her how I've felt about her, I told her that if she was single I would try to date her. She was pretty chill about the whole situation and didn't tell me how she really felt, but just let me say what I was thinking. Since it occurred she hasn't been weird or standoffish, nothing has really changed between the two of us.
With all of that being said, I would never do anything with her while she has a boy friend, I'd never want to put her in that position and truthfully, I really like her boyfriend. But I guess my question is, how should I deal with it? Should I bring it up to her and talk about it or should I just let things play out and hope that she breaks up with her boyfriend and make a move that way?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Drunkenly confessed my love for a good friend, should I bring it up or should I let things just run it's course? | Drunkenly confessed my love for a good friend, should I bring it up or should I let things just run it's course? | 4,013 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Public domain - question for upcoming gamejam
POST: The [Public Domain Jam] is starting soon. In essence, developers have a week to create games based on public domain works and submit them as entries to the competition.
The competitors entries will be hosted on and distributed via US based servers.
The rules (currently) state that you can use work that is public domain in YOUR country.
There are a lot of works that are public domain elsewhere in the world, but not in the US. (I was going to use Animal Farm by George Orwell for example...public domain in Australia and New Zealand, but not in the US)
I've advised the organizer that there may be an issue here, so I'd better make sure I get this right.
I've suggested that the rules be changed so that the competition abide by US law, which will implicitly mean that only published works from before 1923 are allowed to be used.
So, are the following assumptions correct??
1) Content hosted on US servers is subject to US law.
2) If I were to submit an entry that is based on work that is public domain in my country, but is still under copyright in the US, someone(?) may be infringing copyright? (Who though?)
I'm not organizing the game jam btw, I'm actually looking to compete :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Convoluted post - Am I correct in assuming that hosting potentially copyright infringing work on a US based server is a bad idea? | Convoluted post - Am I correct in assuming that hosting potentially copyright infringing work on a US based server is a bad idea? | 3,096 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: M 16 looking for advice: Overprotective parents stopped being overprotective, not good at things I'm not familiar with. How do I meet and talk to girls?
POST: My parents have always been overprotective, the only time I really get to see my friends is school r during sporting games, literally no other time.
We live in a small town of about 3000 people.
But ever since I got my drivers license, I've been completely free to do anything for some reason.
In school I'm really not one of those kids who's quiet and doesn't talk to people, I'm actually surprisingly "popular" and outgoing, despite not seeing my friends very much at all.
That being said, I think the reason for this is because it's a really small town and school that I've become familiar with, seeing the same faces every single day.
I really want to go out in the world and into some cities very close to where I live to meet some new people and possibly find a relationship (I'm too good of friends with everybody in my town for them to be relationship possibilities)
That being said, I need your help. First, where are cool places to meet girls my age to just befriend and possibly something more? The other thing I need help with is just preparing myself mentally for this change in not being overly protected and going out and doing all of this relationship type stuff that I have no experience in whatsoever. I feel as though it's just a more intimate version of friendship. But I can't be sure.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | overprotected. Got license. Not overprotected anymore. Going to big city to meet people. How2relationship? | overprotected. Got license. Not overprotected anymore. Going to big city to meet people. How2relationship? | 1,793 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [31 M] with my girlfirend [28 F] of about 6 months, feels unloved at times from lack of public expressions of love.
POST: I have been with my gf for about six months now. We spend a lot of time together and have traveled together. Things are amazing. She is absolutely wonderful and makes me incredibly happy. One on one she can see the love I have for her.
She is a very loving; hearts, flowers, open, individual, so sharing her feelings with the world come natural and easy. I am an much more of the engineer type and don't feel comfortable posting mushy things to social media. I'm not a big social media sharer in the first place and she is (it's how she keeps contact with family abroad).
I know it would be very helpful if I just sucked it up and expressed my love publicly but something about that just feels forced and wrong to me.
Should I have no issues with this expression? She is a bit saddened that I don't gush about her to others. I guess it makes her question how strongly I feel about her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't feel comfortable writing sappy things on Facebook and my girlfriend takes it as me not loving her enough at times. | I don't feel comfortable writing sappy things on Facebook and my girlfriend takes it as me not loving her enough at times. | 4,957 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [43 M] with my new partner [37F] 3 weeks duration, first time trying to be intimate I had a failure to launch due to psychological block.
POST: So here is my issue. First some background, I am fairly recently divorced (1 year) coming out of a really bad marriage of 15 years. It was a bad breakup with lots of bitterness on both sides, add to that 2 kids who I now don't get to see as often as I would like. I went from that right into a horrible abusive relationship with a much younger woman (24 F) who essentially saw I was incredibly vulnerable and used me for financial gain while filling my head with how I was a really terrible person which is why I ended up divorced and that she didn't know why she stayed with me. The end result was any self esteem I had was ruined but I somehow got addicted to her.
I finally left that relationship 3 months ago after I just couldn't take it anymore. I really worked to try and improve myself and have lost a bunch of weight and my general outlook on life has improved. I met a really nice woman a couple of weeks ago and we clicked. I really like her, she likes me and hey things seem to be looking up.
So the problem, we decided to become intimate and things seemed to be going good but I couldn't get hard. I was into it, wanted it but it just wasn't happening. First time ever for me that this occurred. I have no problem getting an erection if I masturbate so it's not physical but psychological. I still have in my head the crap my ex gf used to tell me plus I guess lingering guilt over my divorce. So how do I overcome this, because I really want to develop this into a healthy relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | History of bad/ abusive relationships, met nice new woman experienced failure to launch due to psychological block first time we tried to get intimate. | History of bad/ abusive relationships, met nice new woman experienced failure to launch due to psychological block first time we tried to get intimate. | 559 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I've been friendzoned by the only girl I've ever considered to be marriage material. What do I do?
POST: So here's how it is: We met in high school. Became friends. Dated briefly in Year 12, but it didn't work out because we were young and I was kind of stupid.
Since then we've always been close, despite living 3 hours away from each other. Over about 4 years, I have had spouts of falling in love with her again, only to give up after always being friendzoned.
Now I should be clear: in the past this girl has always been a bit insecure, and she dated plenty of boys to feel better about herself. After she woke up and realised how unhealthy that was, she made a decision to be single for at least a year. Now, she's happy with herself, because she took steps to change her life (yep. she's a keeper.)
So here's where I'm at now: we're both single, and we both enjoy that for now. But we're also really, REALLY close. I am crazy about her, but I have no idea whether I should give up and drift apart, or whether this could turn into a relationship in the future.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am friendzoned by the girl of my dreams, who wants to be single for a while . Should I cut loose from her, or wait for a chance at a future with her? | I am friendzoned by the girl of my dreams, who wants to be single for a while . Should I cut loose from her, or wait for a chance at a future with her? | 314 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M/18] asked out a friend [F/17] who I didn't know was a lesbian. Now things are kinda weird between us.
POST: Alright this is my first post on this subreddit so I apologize if I do anything wrong.
I [M/18] have a friend [F/17] who I was crushing on for a couple months. I had been under the assumption that she was bisexual because her Facebook page said "interested in men and women" so I never bothered to ask. I finally built up the courage to ask her out, and that's when she told me she appreciated the sentiment, but that she wasn't into guys at all.
I still hang out with her and some other friends at lunch. But we don't talk nearly as much now. Which sucks because we were becoming really good friends before I asked her out. I feel like it's something we could laugh about, but at the same time I feel like I did something wrong or made her feel uncomfortable. Any advice? Should I just talk to her and try to put it behind us? I'd also be interested to hear if any of you have had similar experiences, on either side.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I [M/18] didn't know my friend [F/17] was a lesbian and now we don't really talk to each other very much after I asked her out. Any advice welcome. | I [M/18] didn't know my friend [F/17] was a lesbian and now we don't really talk to each other very much after I asked her out. Any advice welcome. | 5,431 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] got dumped hard by [22F] friends for eight years, together for one or two, Long Distance
POST: Basically, I met her on this dive of a chat site, initially for roleplaying and we both kind of stuck around,became good friends. About two or three years ago she mentioned that I was "boyfriend" material, so we decided to give it a try. She was a big Otaku, nd for a while,it was nice. Had fun,traded pictures. Dreamed of meeting one day. (She has...anti-social issues.That's all I will say)
We had rough patches like all relationships do,and I tried my best to keep us together. But last week it just got worse,and after having enough of being called an idiot, I pushed back,metaphorically, a night or two ago. I spoke some harsh words to her..and I guess fate was sealed.
We ended it just last night, and she emailed a mutual friend(also female)Who got pissed at me as well, and joined her in cutting off all contact with me
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I fell for a British Otaku(I'm Canadian), we started to fight alot last week. She's cut off all contact,and I feel like a sack of shit. | I fell for a British Otaku(I'm Canadian), we started to fight alot last week. She's cut off all contact,and I feel like a sack of shit. | 1,334 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I [26M] recently got the number of a girl [23F] at the bar only to hang out with her once and fall for her friend.
POST: First time poster here, I hope I'm meeting all the requirements.
So about two weeks ago I meet this cute girl at the bar and we chat it up for a bit. I decide to get her number and see if she wants to go out sometime. We chat for about a week or so via text and yesterday she invites me out with her and some friends of hers for drinks. So I go meet with them, and I am not really feeling any spark between us. I can tell she is into me, and I think shes pretty fun to talk to but I really don't feel any romantic attraction. Turns out though that her friend that joined us is another story... This isn't a case of a dude just going for the hotter of the two friends, please don't think that. Both of them are cute girls, I just felt a definite attraction to her friend. Her personality sucked me right in.
Now, after I left for the night the first girl sent me a text saying she had a good time and we should get together again. I can tell she likes me, but I just want to be friends. I'm not sure how to get out of this one without looking like a total asshole, but how can I let her down easy and still have a chance with her friend? For the record, I have no idea if the friend is interested in me, I'm sure that if she was she wouldn't make it obvious in front of her friend who brought me out as a potential suitor.
Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Obtain girls number at bar only to hang out with her later and fall for her friend instead, don't want to be an asshole. | Obtain girls number at bar only to hang out with her later and fall for her friend instead, don't want to be an asshole. | 2,304 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Dating] I(23F) like my friend/coworker(26F) but am pretty hopeless with dating
POST: So bear with me here, please.
I (23F) have been talking to a coworker(26F) that I have liked since December/the beginning of this year. In march, I wrote her a letter telling her how I felt about her (because I am 12).
She responded that she had a feeling it was coming but said that she wasn't currently emotionally available. She also told me why.
She did say she wanted to keep talking and getting to know me because I had become important in her life. Even though I was pretty discouraged we still talked about hung out and texted everyday.
She does things like playing with my hair at work and touching or rubbing my back. But because I'm so nervous/worried about being turned down I just try and chalk it up to friendliness.
Now that it has been almost 5 months a lot of my friends are telling me I should ask her on a date, but I am really nervous and keep chickening out when trying to do it in person.
I know there isn't a way to tell if she likes me without asking but I was hoping you all would have some advice.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | really like a coworker/friend, told her once but she said she's not emotionally available, but it's been awhile. Should I try again? | really like a coworker/friend, told her once but she said she's not emotionally available, but it's been awhile. Should I try again? | 1,518 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (24/M) falling in love with my roommate (26/F), but she's taken, and isn't into guys anyway. Is there any way for me to get rid of these feelings?
POST: I moved into my current place a little over a year ago, and it's been pretty good. My roommate's been awesome - she's never late with rent, does her share of the chores without being asked/reminded and does them well (and sometimes does more than her share), etc. And in general, she's just a super cool girl, and we've become friends as well as roommates. We renewed the lease for another year about 2 months ago.
Recently, I realized that I'm falling for her, and falling hard. In so many ways, she's exactly what I want in a girlfriend. But there's no chance for me to ever have a relationship with her - she's lesbian, and she has a girlfriend.
I'm hoping there's a way for me to stop myself from falling in love with her. I can't really do no contact - I live with her after all, and flat out moving out would be a pretty big financial blow to me. Is there anything I can do, or do I just have to tough it out for the next 10 months?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Recently renewed lease, realized that I'm falling in love with my not-single lesbian roommate. Is there any way for me to stop myself from falling further in love other than no contact? | Recently renewed lease, realized that I'm falling in love with my not-single lesbian roommate. Is there any way for me to stop myself from falling further in love other than no contact? | 3,138 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24f] boyfriend [23m] is punishing me for not been ready for a full commitment at the beginning of our one year relationship.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now, and we have known each other for over two. He claims he's been in love with me since he met me, however I was in a relationship at the time. When we first started dating I was fresh out of a relationship, so I was hesitant to jump right in. It didn't mean I did not feel anything for him, I was just taking my time and making sure everything was right. He was head over heels for me, and I was so greatful for how he was acting.
However, after a week of dating he jumped in told me he loved me and wanted everything from me. I wasn't ready for that so it took me around two months to say it back.
The problem is now, after a year he is resentful for it. Now I am head over heels for him, and he claims that I rejected him at the beginning and it's changed his feelings. He doesn't believe he can ever feel that kind of love anymore. It's emotionally destroyed me and has ruined our relationship. Now he is distant and sometimes unkind. He claims he still loves me and wants a future.
I know it's silly but I can't help but blame myself. It's caused a lot of stress over the past few months.
I'm unsure how to proceed as I don't want to end things, but I'm an emotional wreck and no longer trust him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I was not ready for a serious relationship right away, and a year later my boyfriend still resents me for it. | I was not ready for a serious relationship right away, and a year later my boyfriend still resents me for it. | 3,200 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I need your help. I'm moving in with my boyfriend next month and I have weird bathroom phobias. How do you mask that you are "doing the doo"?
POST: This is a throwaway account for several reason. My boyfriend loves to frequent reddit and I'd die of embarrassment if he even knew I cared about this.
I have several weird bathroom rituals and one of the things I absolutely cannot stand is having to use a bathroom in public. Especially if it's number two. To be honest, the idea of another human hearing me use the bathroom or even smelling it would be a worse fate for me than being eaten alive by Vashta Nerada.
I'm supposed to be moving in with him at the beginning of October. We've been planning this quite awhile as I'm over at his house enough to be considered already living there. Sometimes, I even spend the night. But I have never *used* the bathroom at his house. Like, I've used it, but never *used* it. His bathroom is placed adjacent from the living room so I have never tested the theory that you could hear what was going on in there or not. He has room mates with girlfriends, so I can tell you that the walls are very, *very* thin.
As a child, I grew up in a house where each bedroom (three bedroom house) had its own bathroom and we also had a guest bathroom. I have never experienced having to number two outside my own bathroom. When I got older, I even requested the master bedroom over my room mate to have my own bathroom, so this has never changed for me. Now, I'm about to be sharing a bathroom with a guy I've been dating for almost a year.
My question is **how do I keep my boyfriend from knowing what I am doing in the bathroom when I'm using it for number two? How can I mask any smells or noises without bringing it to his attention? What if I have to use the bathroom when he has a lot of friends over (he has a ton of friends that frequent on the weekend to play videogames and watch football).
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend moving in with boyfriend. Too scared to let him know I'm shitting. How do I hide the fact I'm shitting in his bathroom? | Girlfriend moving in with boyfriend. Too scared to let him know I'm shitting. How do I hide the fact I'm shitting in his bathroom? | 3,257 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: How to handle late mother's (hopefully) continuing stream of income from book publishing
POST: For some background, my mother passed away in 2011. She was self employed, was a trained graphic designer and fanned out into designing books. She did book design for actual clients and then found a way to self publish books in the public domain through booksurge/createspace on Amazon. She got a decent volume of books out there in paperback for a decent price and maybe pulled in a couple hundred bucks per year for a short amount of effort.
Obviously when she died her business died with her except that her books are still available on Amazon and so I would imagine that income is being generated but no checks seem to come to her at her former address. Candidly when she died it wasn't on the top of my to-do list to track this down.
But now that some time has passed I stumbled on some papers in cleaning out some of my stuff and it reminded me.
Just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on best ways to proceed. For more detail.. We (my father and I) handled her estate through probate without a will. Long story there but she did have a will but the names executor had since become someone with whom the family never spoke. Not sure it's useful to the story but just thinking that if I call up createspace and say "hey I'm bir5150 and my mother left this publishing stuff behind" they may ask for some court documentation on her estate.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Late mother published/sold books through createspace, they are still being sold, want to get access to the income stream. | Late mother published/sold books through createspace, they are still being sold, want to get access to the income stream. | 5,957 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (27 F) found condoms in my fiancé's (27 M) desk. We don't use them. Getting married in 54 days!
POST: Yesterday I was looking for return address stickers in my fiancé's deck and I found condoms (specifically two 3packs each with one condom missing). I decided to ask him about it, and he said he bought them when we first got together. We only used condoms for the very beginning of our relationship (been together since 2010, and lived together since 2011). We have not used them in the last 4 years, as I got on the pill for us because he "hated" condoms.
I looked up on Trojan's FAQs and it said that condoms are good for 4-5 years if kept properly, so these should be expired / about to expire… not be good until 02/2020 as printed on the box. It also looks like these were manufactured in 2015 if I am reading the box correctly. When I told him that he swore that's when he bought them, and only kept them around in case we needed them.
No other behavior leads me to believe he is cheating on me, but this whole condom thing is not adding up. We're getting married in less than 2 months. Help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | – Found condoms in my fiancé's desk. He claims they were purchased when we started dating (back in 2010), but they don't expired until 2020 and appear to be manufactured in 2015. | – Found condoms in my fiancé's desk. He claims they were purchased when we started dating (back in 2010), but they don't expired until 2020 and appear to be manufactured in 2015. | 2,283 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: At home work outs with my psychotic downstairs neighbour? Non jumping stationary cardio alternatives?
POST: Hi r/loseit! I just started my weight loss (CW:220 GW:175) journey a few days ago and have been doing some at home work outs to get some courage up before I head to the gym. I live in a really old building on the top floor and my neighbour downstairs is psychotic. He'll bang on the ceiling at 2pm on a Sunday if I'm cleaning.
I started doing Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred which is a lot of fun, but requires jumping/skipping which has sent my downstairs neighbour into an absolute frenzy. I always work out around 6PM. Not even quiet hours!
I don't wear shoes, and work out on TWO STACKED YOGA MATS and he still complains!
Long story short, does anyone have any cardio suggestions which are akin to jumping jacks, butt kicks etc that don't require jumping?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Looking for cardio alternatives that don't require jumping as my downstairs neighbour will never stop complaining about the noise even if it were silent. | Looking for cardio alternatives that don't require jumping as my downstairs neighbour will never stop complaining about the noise even if it were silent. | 3,182 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Reddit, How do I convince my best friend to stay in college?
POST: We're both 19, and we've known each other for nearly 7 years at this point. We both did well in high school, I'm doing fine in college, but he isn't. He started as an engineer, then realized that that wasn't for him after nearly failing out of college #1 in two semesters.
Over the summer, he went to summer school and got accepted into a program at a local university (college #2) where he would become a full-time student after attending as a non-matriculated student for the fall semester. I thought that everything was going to be all right with him; he seemed to do well, and from what I heard he was doing well at the beginning of the fall.
However, I found out yesterday that he had decided to drop out and try his luck in a full-time job. His reasoning behind this is that because he's failing 2 of his 4 classes; he tried an outside tutor who was a complete waste of time, and apparently there's a law that says a non-matriculated student cannot use the university's tutoring resources.
I can't find this law anywhere online, but even if it does actually exist, one of the classes he's failing is one whose equivalent here I happened to get an A in and I would be perfectly willing to tutor him. I've tried talking to him and he just won't listen to reason. He just wants to move in with his girlfriend when she moves close to him to go to school and become an apprentice sword-smith. Sadly, yes, you read that last line correctly.
The county he lives in has one of the highest unemployment rates in the state overall, never mind for someone without a college degree; I get the sense he is throwing his life away and I desperately want to help him. First, is it even possible to get the college to take him back? From what I've heard, he only dropped out at the end of last week. Second, how can I convince him to go back- and that I'm willing and able to help him with the classes he's having trouble with?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Best friend of 7 years seems to be throwing his life away by giving up on college too early without having tried to get help from every possible source. How do I convince him to go back to college? | Best friend of 7 years seems to be throwing his life away by giving up on college too early without having tried to get help from every possible source. How do I convince him to go back to college? | 3,276 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Looking for tips warming up for race day
POST: Hello fellow runners! Just to give a little background I have been training for the Chicago Marathon on Hal Higdon's Advanced 1 plan. Currently I am doing about 40 miles a week with my long runs being about a 9:20 pace, my marathon pace runs being about 8:25 - 8:35 (my goal is to finish in 3:45).
My current marathon time is 4:10 which does not qualify for a starting corral at Chicago, so I just signed up for a nearby half marathon in 3 weeks which is perfect for two reasons. First, it falls on my running schedule as the exact week I should run a half marathon as a race. Secondly, this gives me a chance to qualify for a Chicago starting corral.
I just ran the Peachtree Road Race 10k on July 4th in 48 minutes (a friend gave me a number) so I feel fairly comfortable running 8 minute miles and recently did a 7.25 mile pace run at 8:25 pace.
I need to get a 1:50:59 (8:27 pace) during this half to qualify for Chicago Corral D. I have never really run for time in anything and always run for fun, but now I do actually care about being in in Corral D at Chicago and finishing that marathon in 3:45.
Since time is of the essence in this race, I need to start strong and finish just as strong if not stronger. On marathons or other races I will just start, go slow for the first mile or two to loosen up, then open the flood gates. I don't want to do that for this race and want to feel comfortable right from the start to lock into my 8:25 pace and just go that the whole way.
What do you recommend for warming up for this? Jog a mile before the race starts? Just do lunges and some active stretching? Any tips would be helpful. Obviously I have read a lot and am aware of what some people do (strides, lunges, warmups, etc) I was just hoping for a little bit of personal advice from my fellow redditors with you having some information about my current running regime.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Needs tips for warming up prior to running my half marathon in 3 weeks so I can qualify for a starting Corral at Chicago. I need 1:50:59 | Needs tips for warming up prior to running my half marathon in 3 weeks so I can qualify for a starting Corral at Chicago. I need 1:50:59 | 4,623 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How can I M[20] can keep her F[19] interested over winter break?
POST: I met a really cool girl at a party right after Thanksgiving, and we've been out on 2 definite dates, plus had dinner and lunch pretty frequently. Since it was the end of the semester, I haven't done anything physical with her at all, except for giving her a friendly hug every time we split paths. I know she is interested, mostly because she never really wears make-up, but every time we make plans to see each other she always does her hair, puts on make-up and does her nails.
It's break now, and even though I know she's interested, I want to stay in contact and try and keep her interested until next semester, when we can actually spend more time together. We texted a lot at school, so I'm not worried about that. I just want to know what kind of level of communication of appropriate for how long we've known each other. Should I aim to text her daily, or is that too much? Is it appropriate to call her and wish her a Merry Christmas? Any fun ideas for things to say/text her to keep her interested while are away from school for a month?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been on a few dates with a girl. How much communication is necessary to keep her interested in picking things up after the month long break? Also, fun ideas for things to talk about? | Been on a few dates with a girl. How much communication is necessary to keep her interested in picking things up after the month long break? Also, fun ideas for things to talk about? | 461 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [25 M] girlfriend [24 F] of 3 months has been on birth control since before we were dating (pill), but still makes me use condoms. Is it selfish of me to want to stop using them?
POST: I've been dating this girl for 3 months, things have been going really well, we really like each other, I truly feel like we love each other, even though it hasn't been that long.
She has been on birth control for quite some time, but she still makes me use condoms. Not that there's anything wrong with that, I get that birth control pills have a certain failure rate. It's just that that recent ask reddit thread about what women want guys to stop doing, one of them was bugging them to take birth control so that they can come inside. My girl IS on birth control, but we still don't do that. Is that normal?
I think it would be nice if we could stop worrying about condoms and all the fuss they entail. We are already committed and faithful to each other. She doesn't make me do it for STI concerns, as we are both tested and clean, and anyway, we start without condoms, and usually about half way through we put the condom on. She has admitted to me that it doesn't feel as good after we start using one, and our pillow talk often comes to her wishing "there was a condom without a condom" meaning she wishes there were a birth control method as trustworthy as a condom without using a condom. When I point out that the pill is actually more effective than the condom, she says the pill is only for a fail safe in case the condom fails, and she doesn't want that to be our only method.
My question is, is she being overly paranoid? Or am I being selfish wishing we could do away with the condoms? I just need someone to offer a little perspective, please.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend, who is on birth control, wants to keep using condoms, and I wish we could stop. Is that selfish of me? | My girlfriend, who is on birth control, wants to keep using condoms, and I wish we could stop. Is that selfish of me? | 2,662 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: We [18M&18F] seem to connect. What do you think
POST: So, we met yesterday at the University Entrance Course. She had a lot pins on her schoolbag (anime, dota 2, disney chracters, etc) so i asked her did she got those. We found out that we had a teacher in common when we were in High School (we went to different high schools). Going on with the talk i found out that she cosplays and goes to anime conventions. Wow. She is the one i've been looking for.
Now, im seeing her tomorrow and i was thinking of asking her to the start wars premiere. I'm sure she has seem the other ones.
What do you guys think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met my type (geeky and nerdy). I'll ask her to come to the Star Wars premiere with me. What do you guys think? | Met my type (geeky and nerdy). I'll ask her to come to the Star Wars premiere with me. What do you guys think? | 4,431 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I get over this feeling after ending a 3-year relationship, where my ex-gf [F/21] cheated on me?
POST: It's been 2 months and although I am making progress, every time I see her interact with my friends online, or I just see something of her's online, I am thrown into a state of anger and depression. It just feels so much more real when I see her acting like a human being.
And she is continuing her life as if she did nothing wrong and it bothers me to no end. I just dont know how to get over this, and just not care that she doesnt care about what she did, and is now happy with someone else she had lined up while we were together. Help?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex-gf still makes me feel like shit when I see her post things online, and she doesnt feel bad for cheating on me and is now happy with the person she cheated on me with. Bothered to no end. | Ex-gf still makes me feel like shit when I see her post things online, and she doesnt feel bad for cheating on me and is now happy with the person she cheated on me with. Bothered to no end. | 5,317 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] asked to donate kidney to uncle [47M].
POST: Hey Reddit, throwaway obviously. Now, this is probably boring as there's not much drama but today my uncle came over to buy my spare bikes for his kids (they're in great shape) and he brought it to mine and my mother's attention that his kidneys are at 20% (him and my mother are both diabetics).
Now, my mother was not a diabetic when I was born and I'm incredibly healthy with a fantastic diet and exercise regimen. I don't drink (I've had maybe 2 small drinks since turning 21 in December; I'm not a fan of the taste of alcohol), smoke, have done no drugs.
So naturally they both turn to me and my mother asks me if I would be willing to go in for tests to see if I'm a kidney match. We also have the same blood type.
I'm honestly just at a loss for words.
I'm not the closest to my uncle but we are still on great terms.
Also some background. My mother is the oldest of three, the middle child (her brother), passed away in 2010 from kidney failure, and the youngest is the one asking for the kidney. Both of the brothers were born with diabetes, my mother didn't get diabetes until she was 34, while pregnant with my sister (but my sister is not a diabetic, she is 17). I'm like the star health child.
So, I naturally would like to say yes but I'm terrified of anesthesia and surgery and have no idea how to come about this.
If any of you know any one who has donated a kidney or you've donated one yourself, I would love some insight.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Uncle has 20% of his kidneys working. I am incredibly healthy and have the same blood type. I was asked to donate. | Uncle has 20% of his kidneys working. I am incredibly healthy and have the same blood type. I was asked to donate. | 5,442 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: First time dater [22M] dating [20F] needs advice
POST: I've never dated anyone before so naturally I have a lot of insecurities so call me out if I'm saying nonsense.
I've been dating a girl for the past 2 months which in my mind has surprisingly gone well, but I have yet to breach the question of what we actually are and what she thinks of me. I feel like I need to ask soon before I let myself actually fall to hard for this girl.
Some of my concerns are that she broke up with her EX in January and I'm kind of nervous to see if she's still attached and don't know how to comfortably breach the question.
Additionally I've had to make all of the plans and always initiate texting, which sometimes takes her hours to respond to, and coming from an awkward guy this always gets me second guessing. Although this is true she does consistently agree to go out, but as insecure as I am I feel like she feels bad for me or something.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I don't know what I'm doing and feel insecure all the time, how do I non awkwardly as possible ask this girl what she thinks of us? | I don't know what I'm doing and feel insecure all the time, how do I non awkwardly as possible ask this girl what she thinks of us? | 6,007 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24M] and my girlfriend [23F] of 4+ years have slowly been having less open communication. Who is being unreasonable? Other opinions?
POST: We began dating right after 1st year Uni, dated 1 year then broke up for 6 months over differences in expectations for how long our dating would continue before marriage.
I lean toward a shorter dating preference (1.5-3yrs) by which point I feel I would have decided on way or the other. She feels more that every other aspect of her life (career, school, family, financials...) must be perfectly in place to accommodate marriage regardless of how long that takes.
After getting back together and being more clear that I would be willing to date happily until she felt her life was in order if she was considerate of me not wanting to date just to hold off marriage. and things have been going relatively well since then (3+ years since). We have travelled together, spent family holidays together and always been in open communication about our motivations, opinions, aspirations and disagreements. We have not lived together.
Since 1-2 months ago we have been slowly having more and more difficulty with our depth/frequency of conversation and it is making her very uncertain about our relationships future and how much I care for her.
I am someone who is very easygoing, patient, I feel loved by just spending quality time (out of the house especially) together a few times per week and doing random acts of kindness. I would only expect to have a thought provoking and deep conversation with my closest friends and family perhaps 1 time per month, and somewhat more with my SO.
She is someone who is very critical thinking, loves hugs and being complimented, and is always excited to just sit and talk about anything that comes to mind for a long time as long as the conversation is stimulating.
It does not, to me, feel like we've been having fewer conversations but she tells me I have been less ready to participate actively and less giving of my time for such conversations. I feel that such an intense level of conversation just isn't sustainable, she feels it's necessary. We plan to attend couples counselling this month for the first time.
Is this normal? Is it a real problem or is one of us being unreasonable? Can anyone relate? I really do love her and want this to work.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend and I have developed different ideas about what a healthy amount of conversation is and what a deep conversation involves. | My girlfriend and I have developed different ideas about what a healthy amount of conversation is and what a deep conversation involves. | 3,945 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Need help,[24M] trying to convince a crush [23F] to go out with me.
POST: So quick back story I met this girl through a work friend while we were out at a club we frequent. One night me and her (both a little plastered) begin to make out and fool around. That was it, we just teased each other, exchanged numbers and she went home with her friends. We started talking the next day about what had happened but she had figured out that I was a friend of one of her exes. They apparantly dated and broke up weeks before I moved to town and I had no idea. She says this is a reason why she doesn't want to date me cause she doesn't want to be considered a "homie hopper." I told her I understand but lately the past few weeks we've been talking more and more, the past few days we were hanging out at my place a lot. We cuddled on the couch and when we went to bed. We'll hold hands as we walk and while I'm driving. She seems to be giving the signs of she's into me and we're totally compatable but still: no more kissing, no dating.
What should I do reddit? Do I wait it out? Quit while I'm ahead?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm trying to convince my crush who dated a somewhat friend of mine to go out with me but, she doesn't want to cause she doesn't want to be considered a "homie hopper." | I'm trying to convince my crush who dated a somewhat friend of mine to go out with me but, she doesn't want to cause she doesn't want to be considered a "homie hopper." | 4,809 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Fight over board game
POST: Hello Reddit,
Background info, I have been dating a woman for about a year and a half, we are both in our early 30s.
My girlfriend and I went to my younger brothers place to hang out and play some board/card games. My girlfriend brought over a new game she got, and hadn't even opened yet. We played the game, and toward the end of the game everyone, but her, had at least two points (game ends when someone hits 4). I made a move that would prevent her from winning a round and get one point, but would get me my third point. Once i did that she was pissed, and was visibly upset for the rest of the evening. She would not look at me, and didn't want me to touch her.
When we got home, we got into a fight, because she felt like she was being picked on. She felt stupid and embarrassed that she brought a game and didn't get a single point. She felt like she was being ganged up on, and ended up not having fun because she was beaten so badly.
My argument was, that I was just playing the game. I didn't target her, I was targeting someone who could have beaten me that round. She said I should have thrown the round just so she could have gotten one point and thus would have had fun.
I feel like she is being a sore looser, and poor sport. She feels like i was being inconsiderate and mean.
I have played many games where i loose, and i think nothing of it. I play a card game with friends where they beat me 90% of the time, and i keep playing with them.
What is your opinion? Was i being to competitive? or is she being a sore looser?
Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Fight over board game, She got dead last. She says I should have thrown a round to give her at least one point. I think we played a game, and she is being a sore looser. | Fight over board game, She got dead last. She says I should have thrown a round to give her at least one point. I think we played a game, and she is being a sore looser. | 1,523 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by charging my phone (nsfw)
POST: I I remember correctly I was 19 and my girlfriend 18 at the time, and we took a few slightly scandalous pictures of each other. (This will come into play) and my mom worked a combination desk/ running around helping do stuff job. I would often sit in her office with her and read a book, or run around and help her help do stuff.
This day was a day like any other except my iphone was a little low on batteries. My mom has a nifty little iphone charging chord dangling from her, work assigned, MacBook so I just go ahead as plug my phone into her computer. The computer does it's thing and asks if I want to download all I my pictures, and music, and get all of the updates that I haven't gotten in the last ten years and my mom just sort of flips it around with a sigh so I can push all the buttons I want to push because at this time in our lives, as well as now, I was better a tech than her.
Remembering that I've got my unprofessional personal photos on my phone I request to NOT upload any pictures or music, and just to be safe DONT update my phone. And that was the end of it, or so I thought.
Dun dun DDUUUNNN!
I get a call a few days later from my mom "PROFESSOR! YOU LEFT NUDES ON MY COMP!" So I rush to her office to see what the hell happened and find that she had a second program, this was a few years ago so I don't remember what it was, that didn't ask if you waned your photos uploaded, it just assumed you wanted it.
She had closed her computer at the first glance of glorious girl meat (I know she's a woman too, she was jut being polite) and let me delete the photos. Thankfully, the only picture that was on the screen was from the waist up, one of our less scandalous screenshots.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | unintentionally showed off my girlfriends boobs to my mom by charging my phone, which I wrote this story on 3 years later, sorry about formatting. | unintentionally showed off my girlfriends boobs to my mom by charging my phone, which I wrote this story on 3 years later, sorry about formatting. | 2,927 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: someone stole my Jeep Wrangler, and someone wrecked into my parked car
POST: Some scumbag stole my Jeep Wrangler on Friday. It was recovered, stripped and destroyed, in the ghetto of the local major city before I even knew it went missing. After filing some reports and making a few calls I determined that I couldn't go get it any time soon, so I went camping for the weekend - as previously planned.
When I came back home Sunday, I parked my car in it's usual spot at my apartment and went inside to clean up, drop off gear and get ready to leave - I needed to find the parts to fix what I could, on my Jeep; hopefully I could make it drivable. Instead, about twenty minutes into my routine, my neighbor knocked on my door to notify me that some ass hat wrecked into my parked car while I was inside.
I had to take a day off of work yesterday to sort through this mess. I found the Jeep at the impound lot and discovered that the wheels and tires were stolen, the brand-new catalytic converter was cut off, they ripped out the door lock (instead of unzipping or cutting through the soft top), they sheared through the security console, broke the steering column and ripped out the ignition - after cramming a screwdriver into all of the external locks, permanently fucking them all up. Everything inside was stolen, except for my tent rainfly, which wasn't a whole lot but it still adds to the indignation. I had to buy a complete set of wheels and tires just to drive it out of impound, and wasted several hundred more dollars paying for the tow and impound fees. Also, I'd recently removed full coverage since the Jeep was just sitting around as a leisure vehicle and I hadn't driven it much in the last year or so. So, I get to eat the several thousand dollar cost for the theft. Also, most of the cops I had to deal with were really condescending.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Scumbag stole my Jeep Wrangler on Friday, and some goomba wrecked into my parked car on Sunday; most of the cops were very condescending. | Scumbag stole my Jeep Wrangler on Friday, and some goomba wrecked into my parked car on Sunday; most of the cops were very condescending. | 6,367 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Time to quit law school? (x-post from r/law for a wider audience)
POST: I started going to law school part-time in Fall 2008. I only went part-time so I could keep my full-time job as an intellectual property paralegal. Although this did not give me the greatest amount of time to study, I did pretty well. Generally, it takes 3 semesters to complete one "year" of school.
I tried to quit after the second semester because I realized I don't really want to work as hard as many associates are required to in order to make the big $$$. It's just not that important to me. My husband disagreed; I know he's mostly interested in me becoming an atty b/c he thinks it will make us rich.
Although I thought my husband (who really wanted kids) and I (who was on the fence) agreed to wait until after I finished school to have children, I somehow became pregnant at the end of my second semester (Spring 2009). My son was born in February of this year. I took one week off from school (and 6 weeks from work).
I tried yet again to quit for the same reasons as above AND because I needed to be with my child.
But sigh, I just went to part-time work and even less hours at school. I made moot court and journal. This past semester was HELL. And my husband has apparently lost all interest in anything I do, but still says he depends on me to "make us rich."
I will be a 3L at the end of the upcoming semester. With summer school, I should be able to graduate in May 2012. Even though I kept working, I still have significant school loans.
At this point, I am still leaning towards quitting despite the loans I already have. By staying in, I am promising myself more unhappiness as I continue in school, more despair when I am actually a lawyer, and even greater debt. But, it also seems incredibly silly to stop now when I am relatively close to graduating.
What do you think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Almost 2/3 through law school, want to quit anyway, despite loans already accrued b/c I can't stand the idea of being a lawyer. Is this a good idea? | Almost 2/3 through law school, want to quit anyway, despite loans already accrued b/c I can't stand the idea of being a lawyer. Is this a good idea? | 1,097 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26F] with my fiancé [25 M] of 1.5 yrs (together 4). He was electronically cheating the first 2.5 years. Has anyone successfully forgiven?
POST: We've been engaged 1.5 years, together a total of 4. Our wedding is in two months.
He recently told me that 2 months before we got engaged he spent a week flirting, sexting, and seeing an acquaintance. They didn't have sex but did physically cheat.
We've been working through that but today I learned that over the first 2.5 years we dated he was also on plenty of fish and tinder. He mostly emailed and sent photos, had a Skype session, and did hang out with one girl once but nothing happened.
I believe that he's a different person now. That the feelings and relationship we currently have which is so great is genuine. I'm worried that I won't be able to let go of the past before our wedding, am wondering if 'once a cheater, always a cheater', and if anyone in a similar situation has been able to move forward from it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | fiancé was on dating sites at beginning of relationship and cheated a year ago. Will I be ignorant to still marry him? | fiancé was on dating sites at beginning of relationship and cheated a year ago. Will I be ignorant to still marry him? | 4,822 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: My cat went crazy!
POST: I have two cats, [Tiny Dinosaur & Elmira] They're both very well-behaved indoor cats, and Tiny (as we call him) is especially friendly and affectionate. He will walk up to complete strangers and beg for a petting.
Until now, he has never had a problem with seeing another cat outside. He takes an interest but usually just watches at the window until the visitor goes away. This past weekend, a new neighborhood cat started stalking around our yard. Tiny Flipped out! He went completely berserk, got confused (I assume) and savagely attacked Elmira. In the photo (linked above) you can see the size difference, she's half his weight, he backed her into a corner & was all claws & teeth on her. I pulled him off before any serious damage was cause (mouthful of fur was all he got), and quartered him in the bathroom until they both calmed down (she was very shaken up; terrified!)
The following night, I woke up at 4:00am to the sound of him going berserk again. I went to make sure he wasn't hurting Elmira (she got away in time), and he turned on me & shredded my leg up real nastily (blood everywhere!)
Even as I was cleaning my cuts & dressing the wounds, Tiny had not only come back to normal, but actually seemed "remorseful;" slowly approaching me with his head down, timidly nudging me to pet him, slowly backing away when I cursed at him (I was in pain!) and generally being as non-threatening as possible.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How do you keep a suddenly madly territorial cat who turns on his housemates, from hurting anyone when his zone is threatened (by strangers which he can't reach)? Why would he suddenly develop this berserker-rage tendency? | How do you keep a suddenly madly territorial cat who turns on his housemates, from hurting anyone when his zone is threatened (by strangers which he can't reach)? Why would he suddenly develop this berserker-rage tendency? | 5,443 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22 M] found out my girlfriend [18 F] sexually cheated on me and ended it. I feel terrible.
POST: Every time i brought her ex up she told me a little more. Finally, tonight, she admitted to fooling around with him multiple times while we were dating.
I feel terrible. I ended it and I know she's devastated. It hurt me saying goodbye. I feel dirty. I feel like I lived a lie for such a long time.
On top of all of this (i can't explain it and i know it makes no sense) but if anyone finds out that her and I were talking tonight, i can be fired. I work at a church and made a commitment to be single for a year to grow as a single man. I know it sounds crazy, please don't dwell on this portion.
I have the option of telling my uplink that I broke my commitment to the church and come clean with a chance of being fired on the spot. I don't know what's worse. Living with the guilt and fear of getting found out... or telling them and coming clean with a chance of getting fired too.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend cheated. I ended it. I feel terrible. I could be fired. How do I move on and not feel bad for her? | Girlfriend cheated. I ended it. I feel terrible. I could be fired. How do I move on and not feel bad for her? | 2,027 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [21F] boyfriend [20M] doesn't take well to friendly suggestions sometimes
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating for about three years and everything has been going great, but he sometimes doesn't take suggestions very well. I'll suggest a different way of doing laundry, for example, and he'll say that it was his idea and he was "already doing that anyway." Sometimes, if he's feeling particularly stubborn that day, he'll just outright refuse and say nothing else.
Because of this, I often don't get a lot of insight on what he's thinking or why he wants to do things the way he's doing them, so I'm left to make educated guesses. If I guess wrong, he'll definitely be sure to tell me that I'm way off base but still won't actually tell me what he's thinking or feeling about the topic.
Getting a new apartment, job searching, and finding a car have been a bit rocky because it seems almost like it's his way or the highway. This only happens if I suggest things first. If he brings an idea up and asks for my input, he's totally willing to listen and we can function well as a team. It's almost like he's embarassed that I beat him to the chase (argh, there I go making pesky inferences again).
Everything else in our relationship is going wonderfully, it's just this that really ever sparks any animosity between us. What are some ways to suggest new ideas to someone who has a bit of a stubborn streak like this? Thanks for any suggestions!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My boyfriend is stubborn and won't listen to suggestions I have unless he asks for them. How do I make friendly suggestions to a stubborn person? | My boyfriend is stubborn and won't listen to suggestions I have unless he asks for them. How do I make friendly suggestions to a stubborn person? | 5,831 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19 F] boyfriend [19 M] of a little over a week said "I love you"
POST: So this is my first serious relationship and his first relationship ever. We've known each other for a little over 2 years and became best friends in that time.
Somewhere in that time he developed feelings for me, which I kept trying to ignore because I didn't return them. That went on for more than a year. But, 2 months ago I realized I liked him back. Things escalated and he's been my boyfriend for a little over a week.
Yesterday though, we were hanging out in my house, making out. I stopped to look at him for a while and smiled, he looked at me for a moment and said "I love you" quietly and kissed me again after few seconds. I smiled, kissed back and left it there. It felt genuine.
Now, I didn't want to make a big fuzz about it because he is still one of my best friends and I guess I get where he's coming from (the fact that he has had feeling for me for more than a year). But I don't know what to do. We've talked and texted since then as if nothing ever happened. Do I keep ignoring it? Hope he doesn't repeat it until its appropiate? God forbid, address it?
I want to leave it clear, though. I've not been happier in a long time and my feelings are really strong for him. But I don't know if I can say it yet.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My best friend of 2 years became my boyfriend a week ago, said "I love you" to me yesterday, and now I don't know what to do. | My best friend of 2 years became my boyfriend a week ago, said "I love you" to me yesterday, and now I don't know what to do. | 4,059 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My date [M/28] tried to kick me [21/F] off the bed?
POST: I write this one mainly to chanel my frustration, but also because I'm confused as hell whether this is so inappropriate I should treat it like a major red flag.
I've been on some dates with this guy, and the last couple of times I stayed over at his place. He doesn't have a double-sized bed, only two person-sized beds, so after doing the deed, and falling asleep right next to each other I usually just move over to the other bed (mainly because he starts spazzing and snoring).
This last time we were out drinking, so we came back to his place drunk (me more than him), undressed and got into bed fast. As I said I usually can't stay the night next to him, but thanks to the booze this wasn't a problem now, I slept like a baby. I still woke up once or twice when I felt I was almost falling down the bed, and once when he climbed over me to get to the other bed.
When I wake up in the morning, I look at him on the other bed, and he's there playing with his phone with a really stern look on his face, and giving me the stink eye. I understood I probably did something in my sleep, like snoring or kicking, so I said "Sorry, did I chase you away? I've been sleeping so deep I wasn't feeling anything if you were poking me or something", and he answers "Yeah, I didn't have enough space so I tried kicking you off, but didn't succeed, so I had to move from my *own* bed." I would think he was kidding, but his tone was really serious, and he was still giving me this cold look. I tried to talk about it, but then he just brushed it off, and sat down to work, ignoring me for maybe another hour (while I was still lying in his bed, I'm horrible!).
Now everything's alright and peaceful, but what the actual fuck was that? Who does that?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy tries to kick me to the wooden floor for taking up much place in my sleep, and then keeps sulking the following day | Guy tries to kick me to the wooden floor for taking up much place in my sleep, and then keeps sulking the following day | 1,144 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Another disgusting roommate question
POST: Dear Reddit,
I'm a college student, and my roommates are absolutely disgusting. I live in a 4 bed/4 bath apartment, and my roommates don't keep our common areas (living room/laundry area/kitchen) clean. I understand a dish or two in the sink, but often times the kitchen sink is unusable due to their dirty dishes literally filling it up above the faucet. Counters occasionally have food stuck on them. Last weekend my mother and I discovered mold growing in the bottom of their trashcan (I use a different one than them), and I've found mold in the dirty dishes the majority of the times I clean the kitchen. Additionally, they've been stealing my food (which I've fixed by using a mini-fridge.
I tried confronting them about the food stealing problem a couple weeks ago by messaging them on facebook. While I realize this isn't the best mode of conversation, our schedules are such that we rarely encounter each other, and its difficult to get everyone together at once. The response I got from them was a fairly confrontational "don't talk to me on facebook and don't be passive aggressive (which I wasn't doing intentionally)". I brought things up to management a week or so ago and they said they would talk to them about it, but either management never talked to them or my roommates are ignoring them (which is highly possible, my roommates have no respect for our management whatsoever).
What should I do? It's been 2 weeks since I tried talking to my roommates, and about a week-week and a half since I talked to management.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My roommates are disgusting and don't clean the common areas, and I've tried talking to them and management with nothing improving. | My roommates are disgusting and don't clean the common areas, and I've tried talking to them and management with nothing improving. | 3,972 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] with my husband [25 M] of one year, bedtime routine tearing us apart.
POST: My wonderful husband and I have completely different needs when it comes to falling asleep. He needs the tv on, and I need a dark quiet room. We've tried staggering our times of going to bed, but he always ends up turning on the tv in the middle of the night, waking me up. He refuses to wear headphones or try white noise.
For almost four years now I've been letting him have the tv on, and the quality of sleep I was getting was incredibly shitty. Recently (a couple weeks ago) I told him that I couldn't handle the tv being on at night anymore. So he stopped turning it on at night. I've never had such a high quality of sleep as I've had in the last couple weeks, and he's never had such a poor quality of sleep as he's had in the last couple of weeks.
I don't want to resort to sleeping in separate rooms, but I'm running out of compromises we can try. Advice?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband needs tv on, I need a dark and quiet room. He won't wear headphones or try white noise. No idea what to do. | Husband needs tv on, I need a dark and quiet room. He won't wear headphones or try white noise. No idea what to do. | 3,850 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Has anyone ever NOT regretted cheating? M-late30s F-late40s
POST: I'm in a LTR of over 10 years that is pleasant but can be a bit dull. My GF is around 10 years older than me which was great when we were late 20s & late 30s and in our sexual primes together, but now in our late 30s & late 40s she's losing her libido and I'm losing interest. There's some emotional distance too, I don't really find her stimulating as a person anymore (Not necessarily her fault, I mean who has new ideas after 10+ years?) and she's just a little too constantly there. I work in a major city and want space when I'm home, she very rarely leaves the house and I'm her only companionship most days. We've tried to work through all this and more but it's not easy to get excited to be with her most of the time.
Meanwhile I have a younger woman showing some real interest - blatantly trying to take me home in fact, and I'm somewhat tempted to let her. I've never really had a lot of hookups, only multi-year relationships, and she seems really cool, a real fire and spark to her that I'm missing at home. I'm sure it's a terrible idea and something that I'd probably regret, but part of me wants to experience this before I get too old.
I'm not sure I believe that monogamy is natural for humans. But that's no excuse. I just believe we'd all be better off without the outdated rules that bind us, they shouldn't apply now that we have good birth control and live for 70-80 years.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been faithful for over 10 years but am facing a challenge. Probably wont go through with cheating but the temptation is huge. | I've been faithful for over 10 years but am facing a challenge. Probably wont go through with cheating but the temptation is huge. | 5,776 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: To ultimatum, or not to ultimatum. That is the choice.
POST: Reddit, my ex-boyfriend (25) and I (also 25) of a year broke up a few weeks ago. We haven't been completely solid on the radio silence, but have been trying very hard at it. We've been slipping up every 4-5 days or so.
Recently the ex wanted to meet so we can talk. He said that he misses me, or at least he thinks he does. But at the same time, he wonders whether or not he just misses being in a relationship. He isn't sure. He doesn't want me to move on just yet because he fears that once he does figure it out that he misses me it will be too late and Id have moved on. At the time, I was sympathetic and told him Id give him a few weeks to figure it out. I still love him and miss him dearly.
Reddit, not knowing is driving me nuts. I can't move forward or backward. I can't heal or hold on. I need to know which direction I'm going.
I've never in my life given an ultimatum to a lover, partly because they don't usually work and partly because that's not really who I am. But in this case, reddit, is it appropriate to give him an ultimatum? Tell him to fish or cut bait? Tell him to make a move or lose squatters rights? I don't know if I can deal with the uncertainty much longer.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex doesn't know if he wants me back, is it appropriate to give him an ultimatum to make up his damned mind? | Ex doesn't know if he wants me back, is it appropriate to give him an ultimatum to make up his damned mind? | 4,468 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend of 3 years [22 F] is planning a surprise trip for us to rekindle our relationship, but I [23 M] may have ruined it already..
POST: My gf and I have been going through a lot of tough changes, and have grown distant because of them. I love her a whole lot, and we're committed to trying to reignite our passion for each other. Her idea was to plan a surprise trip for the both of us, and I decided that I wanted to keep it a surprise until riiiight before we go.
Trouble is, I saw the trip destination in a rental car insurance description that she sent me :( I'm BEYOND excited for this trip, but I know she's put a lot of hard work into it and I kind of wanted to give her the satisfaction of the reveal right before we leave.
Sorry if this is a stupid question to ask, but I just wondered if I should bring it up to her or not because of the nature of our trip, and what it might mean to her to have kept it such a great surprise. I guess it's equally a surprise for me to keep now, too..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I found out the surprise destination for our romantic getaway, do I tell her now, or keep the surprise?? I'm super excited either way. | I found out the surprise destination for our romantic getaway, do I tell her now, or keep the surprise?? I'm super excited either way. | 2,993 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21/M] have some massive jealousy issues and it might be killing my otherwise perfect relationship with [20/F]
POST: Hey people,
I need some serious advice here. So I got into a relationship with a girl I've known for years. We both always had a crush on each other but only get together 6 months ago. The relationship is amazing, much better then my previous ones. I am really happy with her and can imagine a long future!
The only thing that really kills is my irrational jealousy. And it's really getting out of hand... She is not doing anything wrong at all but every time she talks about some other guy she likes, or some collegues from work it really kills me inside. I can't stop thinking stuff like 'what if she meets someone that fits her better then me' or 'what if she drinks to much and kisses another guy on a party'.
I totally know for myself that these thoughts are not justified at all. Especially since she is a very honest person and I know that she would instantly tell me if something happens. But this doesn't help me from not thinking about this stuff. The worst thing about it is, that it often times really kills my mood and I can't enjoy the time with her because of it.
I have not talked to her about it and I prefer not to do so in the future. I know that this is a personal issue and I want to fix it by myself. I don't think there is anything she could do to better it.
Maybe some have gone through similar and can give me some advice? I've talked about it with some friends and they all told me, that it gets better with the time. But I don't see any improvements in the last months...
Thanks a lot! Cheers
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have some irrational jealousy issues and it might be killing my relationship. Everytime she tells me about some other guys It really hurts inside, even though I know how ridiculous it is. | I have some irrational jealousy issues and it might be killing my relationship. Everytime she tells me about some other guys It really hurts inside, even though I know how ridiculous it is. | 5,808 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My ex [27f] and I [27m] have been hanging out/sleeping together for about 6 weeks. She doesn't seem interested in getting back together and I have developed feelings again
POST: She often talks about her other exes and references her sex life in front of me despite the fact I know I'm the only person she's sleeping with. We don't kiss or get close, we have seemed to fall into a friends with benefits-type situation. I know she is using me for support an comfort as she doesn't seem to have any of her own friends besides the friends of the guy she's dating at the time.
I'm starting to get fed up with this arrangement (as the sex isn't even frequent enough to keep me around anyways) and am looking for some words of encouragement about how to proceed.
**How do I bring this up with her without seeming too sensitive?** Talking about getting back together usually annoys her which is a huge red flag to me. Do I tell her "look, I can't do this anymore because I want more from you" or simply go NC? We spend 4-5 nights together a week and I often sleep over in her bed. Sex usually only happens when we're fucked up.
I need to move on and not let myself get any more attached than I already am, but hold out hope that we may be able to get back together. Will pulling back show her that she can't have the best of both worlds or should I just cut my losses?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ex and i are friends with benefits but I want to either get back together or end things with her. How do I proceed/what do I do? | ex and i are friends with benefits but I want to either get back together or end things with her. How do I proceed/what do I do? | 548 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: So my [18m] girlfriend [18f] of almost a year thinks she may be pregnant and I am away in college. I need to figure out a way to comfort her and help her.
POST: So basically I left for school 3 weeks ago and school is 8 hours away from home (she's still a senior in high school). Her and I are extremely close which is the reason we are still together. We figured we would break up if it ever got unbearable but it's been fine so far. Anyway apparently she's late on her period. Neither of us want to jump to conclusions but if she is pregnant I have no idea what to do since I am not there with her. Her parents would kill her if she told them and so we are trying our best to hide it from them. But we still have no idea what we would do. So basically we were wondering what our options are and how I can comfort her from down here.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend might be pregnant and I'm too far away to be with her. How do we make the abortion process as easy as possible on her and keep it discreet? | girlfriend might be pregnant and I'm too far away to be with her. How do we make the abortion process as easy as possible on her and keep it discreet? | 5,246 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (24/f) hate my crystal addicted brother (35/m), how can I make him stop freeloading off our mom?
POST: My brother is a despicable scumbag. He just is, there's no way to sugar coat this. It's a fact. He's a habitual liar, he still lives with our mom, he steals money from her and sells her belongings, he doesn't work, and he's an addict. I can't stand this man, being around him for even 5 minutes makes me sick. People can't believe we are related; we are so different. He's an embarrassment to our family, and no one can trust him. Things go missing constantly.
Our mom takes way too much pity on him, tries to keep him happy by giving him everything he wants, and he's simply an ungrateful asshole. My other brother (27/m) detests him as well and wants nothing more to do with him. We hate to see him abusing our mother like this. It's wrong. It's just wrong.
Here's the thing, he doesn't want anyone's help. Our mom is an enabler, and won't make an effort of her own to help him. She just placates him and not much else.
Is there anything I can do? Unlike our brother, me and my (27/m) brother have our own homes and jobs. He (35/m) claims he doesn't need our help and that our mom doesn't see the problem and that WE are the problem instead.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Older brother is a meth addict, overstays his welcome, and steals from our mom. What can I do to help? | Older brother is a meth addict, overstays his welcome, and steals from our mom. What can I do to help? | 1,075 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: [DRESS] Feeling inappropriate with my dress choice
POST: I'm sorry, this is going to be part rant and part asking for advice. I'm at a loss at what to do.
So last friday I went dress shopping with my aunt and sister and I found the dress. I felt good in it, pretty, like a bride. An wohoo, it was under budget! My aunt was almost in tears, I paid a deposit since I'm still waiting for the Vera Wang dresses but just to be sure. We were all excited and went home.
So come Saturday I have lunch with my FH's family and I tell his cousin and aunt that I've already picked a dress and the aunt tells me "Oh, great! Who's designing it?!". Now, I forgot that my FH's family plays on another level ($$$$) and I want to pay for the dress on my own but now I'm feeling like it's not going to be...enough. Here's some pictures [of me trying on the dress] and the dress [on a mannequin] where you can see the lace cap sleeves.
Ugh weddit, sorry for the wall of text.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm a moron who can't decide if she loves a dress or needs to go above and beyond and spend thousands of dollars. | I'm a moron who can't decide if she loves a dress or needs to go above and beyond and spend thousands of dollars. | 3,433 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] am confused after my ex-boyfriends death.
POST: Bare with me a little and I'll explain everything. Firstly, I've been with my ex-boyfriend for a year and lived together most of it. We got tangled up in a lot of things and broke up. We weren't getting along, but we didn't despise each other. 8 months later, we got back together and we had 4 happy months. The happiest, actually. Until his car crash which turned me into nothing. I wasnt able to go to the store and buy bread, let alone sleep, eat, work. In the following weeks, I've been on xanax which helped me sleep and be numb, work, but I felt constant despair moments take reign over me. I've lost all time notion. It's like it's been a year, not a month. Days go by slower or faster. I'm not usually fragile and my emotions work different than others'. When I go through a rough patch, I overcome it easily because I focus on it 100% till it turns to dust. Until recently, without any intention, I met B. I feel like I've been preparing my whole life to meet him. Everything I learned applies and has a use. We are so alike and being with someone who knows your mind without knowing you at all... It's the foundation of magic. And he treats me perfectly; literally, everything I wanted. I still feel a bit numb, but I'm gaining strength. I like being around him. Talking with him. I don't feel guilty, but I don't want to ruin anything. I can't tell if I'm doing right. I don't want to lose this. It feels like everytime I look at him or even think of him, I'm carrying a burden at the same time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my ex boyfriend died a month ago. I felt horrible. I recently met everything i wished for in a guy. Right? Wrong? | my ex boyfriend died a month ago. I felt horrible. I recently met everything i wished for in a guy. Right? Wrong? | 5,053 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When is an appropriate time to drop the "I Love You" bomb in a new relationship?
POST: Okay so I [F/19] recently have started dating let's call him J [M/19]. J and I have a very long history. We were best friends for 4 years and didn't admit our long overdue feelings for each other until about a month ago. We have been officially dating for about two weeks now. Ive always loved J as a friend because hes hands down been the only person there for me through everything. But I'm now at the point where I'm totally and completely falling in love with him. We recently spent the past month just being completely and utterly into each other. The difference with this relationship as opposed to others is the fact that this boy already knows everything about me, and vice versa. The only thing we have to worry about is being together. I honestly believe I love this boy, but I don't know how to go about it without making things awkward, or saying it too soon. So redditors please help me; when is an appropriate time to say I love you?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Been best friends for years, just recently started dating. I believe I am totally in love with him. When and how can I say it? | Been best friends for years, just recently started dating. I believe I am totally in love with him. When and how can I say it? | 3,548 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] have compared my past exs to my best friend [19 F]
POST: Yesterday I broke up with this girl [18] who I had asked out 3 months ago. At first i was head-over-heels about her, she was just about everything i look for in a GF, then it just died... She said she felt it too, I was becoming less romantic, less like how i usually am, as if she was boring me. She said she was going to break up with me if I didn't change because it felt as if though we were holding each other back.
This situation happened with my past three relationships, they start out big as i get to know them, then it just suddenly dies. Seeing as I have no idea what's going wrong I talk to me best friend (let's name her Rose). The whole time I kept catching myself saying "just like you" and then it hit me, these girl aren't you. I've been comparing girls to her and they fail to meet her standard.
Now this is where it gets complicated, she's already rejected me, five years ago and that's around the time we became friends too, and believes that we're platonic...so did I. We tell each other everything, things that I would never be tell anyone else unless i married them, I don't trust people all that much.
I don't know if I want to tell her again, this friendship between us means so much to me, and for her. But I also can't go on like this, ever other girl is inadequate compared to her. Plus I don't want to her reject me, she is the one person's opinion that I care for...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have compared every girl to my best friend, think I'm still in love with her, have no idea what to do... | Have compared every girl to my best friend, think I'm still in love with her, have no idea what to do... | 6,322 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by rubbing a leaf against a wall.
POST: It wasn't today but I mentioned it in a comment and some people wanted a story so here I go.
In high school one day I was waiting for my mom to pick me up because my car was in the shop, and while waiting I was really bored and picked up a leaf and was just fucking with it. At one point I rubbed it against a wall and some of the chlorophyll rubbed of and onto a the wall. I thought to my self "oh that's cool, I'm gonna make a square". A few seconds later, while I'm making my square the school cop runs up and grabs my arm and twists it behind my back and handcuffs me and throws me in his car, screaming at me while he does.
Luckily my mother was there to get me already and when the cop told her I was about to go to jail for rubbing a leaf against a wall, she demanded we see the principal first to tell her why that's stupid.
We told her the circumstances, and how I had no malicious intent, that it was just a guy being fascinated by something he learned at school 3 years ago, my principal said and I quote "well you may know that was chlorophyll but some of our less academic minded students will see that and think they can write on walls, that's why we have to suspend you for writing graffiti"
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I thought science was cool and looked at chlorophyll, and got suspended because some kids don't pay attention in freshman biology. | I thought science was cool and looked at chlorophyll, and got suspended because some kids don't pay attention in freshman biology. | 5,289 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me(20/M) and her(19/F) How does she feel and what should I do?
POST: So this girl and I hadn't talked for a month because she was mad at me.
She kinda established already that she doesn't seem interested in dating me.
Last night our friends called us over to hangout with them not knowing each other(Her and I) would be there. We hung out and our mutual guy friend tells me to take her home and that we should talk.
When we go outside I ask her what it is that we need to talk about. She says that our friend says I was mad at her. I told her that I wasn't mad at her, and that she knows me, if I was mad at her she would know it.
She then says that honestly she misses me a lot and that she feels like I been neglecting her.
I told her that due to the semester starting I have a lot of friends that I want to hangout and she acknowledge this as true. Because she sees me with someone all the time in campus. The other thing I told her is that I have been meeting girls because she had established she doesn't want to date me. She stayed quiet.
We get to our friends house and as we are walking I tell her that I am sorry she feels so neglected by me. I also told her that I hadn't changed(I don't think so) and that I have never texted her first. We hadn't talked in a month because she hadn't talked to me.
She acknowledge she was mad at me for taking a class with her but sitting with two different girls, I told her the reason for that was that I can't stand her best friend, she is a fucking sour grape, and honestly I don't feel like taking that sourness. She stayed quiet.
We got to our friends house and watched a movie. The ride back stayed quiet, she sang quietly to some of the songs on the radio. We got to her house and she said good bye.
I have oneitis for this girl, I been trying to get over it. I haven't gone out of my way to ignore her either, like how she says she feels I have. I really value this relationship and I'm not sure how to mend this.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | This girl hasn't talked to me for a month. I have done very small conversations but she says I been mad at her. Then last night happened and I am confused. | This girl hasn't talked to me for a month. I have done very small conversations but she says I been mad at her. Then last night happened and I am confused. | 3,765 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My boss won't pay me. What should I do?
POST: This last summer I worked at a hot dog restaurant owned by a sorry excuse for a business man. I was paid 7 dollars an hour, under the table, and didn't get any kind of tax deductions. The way the payment system was set up is that you write your hours down on a time card and come payment time you sign off on these time cards (which we called checks) and are given cash. These checks are withheld for a month before you start receiving payment and you get paid weekly. I gave a two weeks notice three weeks before leaving to go to college in hopes that I would receive all my payment; however by the time I left there were still two checks left unpaid. I took a picture of these two checks/time-cards before I left and I was promised that I would be payed whenever I came back from college. This weekend I came back and asked for my money but my boss's coke-head nephew, who is also in charge of paying employees, had allegedly "misplaced" my checks. Of course I couldn't speak with his nephew because he was in the hospital getting reconstructive facial surgery after, what I assume was, some kind of vehicular accident caused by the impairment of whatever particular drug he had been on at that point (I assume this because it had already happened twice before). So I'm convinced that my boss is trying to fuck me over and not pay me the $134.00 that he owes me especially considering that when I went to see all my paid checks (that are kept stored away in the back for all former employees) mine happened to be the only one's missing. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My former boss is playing dumb and telling me that he had lost the time cards for my last two weeks of pay. What should I do? | My former boss is playing dumb and telling me that he had lost the time cards for my last two weeks of pay. What should I do? | 6,279 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [32 M] grandparents [early 80s] have been neglectful for their entire lives, now they want to make amends.
POST: Said grandparents have three children. Their oldest, L, my aunt, their middle, M, my uncle and the youngest, S, my father.
M has always been their favourite. He got in troubles when he was young, the one who always needed more money, the one who was always demanding, and getting all the attention.
S, M, and L got older, got their own families, and M's child became the favourite grandkid, basically them acting as full time free baby sitters.
Late 1980s entire family emigrated to a new country, with nothing but few items that can fit in a small car. Grandparents lived with us, but they continued to take care of my cousin while they lived us. When my parents finally talked to my uncle and said they cannot keep hosting my cousin anymore, as it's time for me to start school now and I'll need space to study etc. As the reaction, the grandparents left us too, to become in-house sitters at M's place.
In the meantime the pattern continued, with S, L, and their kids being ready to help when the grands needed any help, in turns the grands lending their full time help and even their savings to help M and his family.
Now the grands are approaching the end of their lives, grandpa has lukemia, and some stupid money related matters, M's relationship with the entire family broke down. Only now the grands began to see their mistakes, and try to communicate more with me and my sister, both of us in our early 30s.
The problem is, I try to be a decent person and and visit them a few times a year (I live abroad), and have some communication, but at this point in time, I simply don't care about these people anymore. A few weeks ago they hugged my sister (yes, their granddaughter) and she froze with confusion because getting hugged by them was a completely alien feeling.
I try to respect people appraching to the ends of their lives and trying to correct their decades of mistakes, but I'm not sure how I should approach them anymore.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Neglectful grandparents want to make amends in their 80s, I don't personally care for them anymore but want to give them some chance at happiness. | Neglectful grandparents want to make amends in their 80s, I don't personally care for them anymore but want to give them some chance at happiness. | 1,168 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by leaving my number for a server and not tipping
POST: About a week ago I went to my favorite sports bar here in Arizona. It's self-seating so my buddies and I sit down at a table near the back of the bar. Our server, a girl, call her J comes over, cute, short girl, takes our orders and walks away. I lean over to my buddy and tell him she was cute and that I think I'm gonna leave my number. Fast forward through awkward flirting and such while we eat and drink for about an hour, checks come, I leave her a note saying I thought she was cute and that I would love to buy her a drink sometime with my number.
Yesterday I went back to that sports bar after I hadn't heard from her. Different group of people but turns out she is our server again. She says she remembers me so I call her by her name and have a good meal. This time when the checks came, I grabbed my card and I shut my book. This morning when I woke up, I realized I forgot to fill out the tip portion of my bill. I am a server and now she probably thinks I didn't tip because she didn't text me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Left my number for a server, came back a week later without hearing from her and had the same server, forgot to tip. | Left my number for a server, came back a week later without hearing from her and had the same server, forgot to tip. | 4,486 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [40 M] with a girl i've never met yet [37]. i'm an ex-addict and work in a web-radio talking about addiction and harm reduction. Should i talk about it?
POST: She knows i work in a web-radio, and i've told her i wouldn't tell her the url because the character i am in this radio is in no way attractive to girls(i manage the funniest part of the radio, but i am very harsh and have no censorship, but that is not who i am).
So i know she will ask me more about this radio, and it's a radio by addicts(or ex-addicts) for addicts and people interested in the subject. On a first date, i don't want to talk about my past addiction(heroin), but how can i not disclose this if i tell her what this radio is about. Should i tell her to wait more before i tell her more about it, or should i say that i ended up in this radio because of my past mistakes? Or else?
Thanks for any piece of advice, i've never met her, but we have so much in common that i doubt i will meet someone as interesting as her in the near future, and i REALLY don't want to mess things up. Thanks fellow Redditors :)
TL;DR: . Assistant: | should i talk about my past addiction on a first date, knowing that i will have questions about it due to the radio i work at if i tell her the name of the radio? | should i talk about my past addiction on a first date, knowing that i will have questions about it due to the radio i work at if i tell her the name of the radio? | 6,126 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Got a $300 bill from the dentist, as it turns out insurance won't cover incomplete work. Details in post.
POST: Hello r/personalfinance, long time listener, first time caller. I'm not entirely sure this is the right place to post this, but as I peruse here quite a bit I thought it would be worth a shot.
The backstory: in June I got a very sore tooth treated with a root canal. The dentist supposedly removed the roots and filled my tooth with a temporary filling. They told me to come back in a week to complete the next step but could not get me in for a month. I went back and they said I had a lot of bacteria and to come back in another month after a course of antibiotics. I came back again a month later and they said it was bleeding excessively and had to drain, so I should come back in another month. At this point I was moving out of state in a week and told them so, and they essentially showed me the door. After moving, I went to another dentist who did an x-ray and said the tooth was severely decayed and needed extraction. I did experience some pain in the days leading up to the extraction and the oral surgeon told me there was still some root tissue in the supposedly completed root canal causing me pain, which isn't entirely unheard but worth noting.
Alright, the part I need advice on: just yesterday, I received a bill in the mail from my former dentist for $300. I called to ask what this was for and they said the insurance company wouldn't cover the incomplete procedure. I find it very interesting that I got a bill for this in November, months after my business with them had ended. I also heard nothing from the dentist at the time saying I would have to pay for an incomplete procedure. I called the insurance company and they said to have the dentist send them x-rays and other stuff, but I'm really doubtful that will do much for me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | getting charged for incomplete procedure on a root canal which the dentist was twice unable to complete before I moved out of state. | getting charged for incomplete procedure on a root canal which the dentist was twice unable to complete before I moved out of state. | 4,463 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [24f] wife asked me [23m] if I want an open relationship
POST: We've been together 3 years, she's my first everything, she's had many guys before. We've had lots of arguments (unrelated to sex) but I've resented her for not wanting to experiment as much with me sexually.
A few months ago she asked if I wanted an open relationship so I can find other girls (she would not want others). At the time I thought and told her no way, but now I find myself staring at other women. Last weekend we went camping and a friend-of-a-friend came, and we flirted hardcore and it felt really great.
The problems are 3fold:
* I'm worried she might want another guy (selfish, I know)
* I'm worried this is some kind of test
* I'm worried I will hurt her if I do this, even though she asked.
She has been cheated on a lot and had lots of bad relationships, so I'm her first "nice" man. I now have strong sexual desires for other girls but don't want to hurt her. I'm not sure how I can tell her what I did with the girl (just flirting, no touching) without feeling awful.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Wife has been cheated on a lot in the past, asked me if I want to fuck other girls, I now do but I feel guilty because I'm her first nice/caring partner. | Wife has been cheated on a lot in the past, asked me if I want to fuck other girls, I now do but I feel guilty because I'm her first nice/caring partner. | 4,113 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I was recently diagnosed with having a couple small kidney stones, and I've been patiently waiting to pass them. Reddit, what's the most painful thing you've ever experienced?
POST: About a week ago, I was noticing some minor pain in my lower back and difficulty urinating. After it didn't really go away, I went to a walk-in clinic and had them check me out. They said it wasn't a UTI, probably just a minor kidney infection. They gave me some antibiotics and I was on my way.
I e-mailed my physician two days ago and told him this story. He said a kidney infection usually has coincidental symptoms that I wasn't experiencing, so I went to the ER just in case it was something worse. After urinalysis and a CT scan, they said there was some blood in my pee but the CT scan failed to detect anything large. The doc said it was probably a small (or several small) kidney stone(s).
Since then, I've been chugging water with lemon juice, cranberry juice, and been taking pain medication. I have continued soreness around my flanks and lower back, and every so often I have a sharp, stabbing pain in the area. The sharp stabbing pain SEEMS to have moved, first to my lower back, and now to my sides. I'm hoping this means the stone or stones are moving slowly.
I have heard that passing a kidney stone is equivalent to childbirth in terms of pain, and I'm not really looking forward to passing it. So while I bide my time, what's the most painful thing you've ever experienced, reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | probably have a couple small kidney stones that I need to pass. Supposed to hurt like shit. What's the most painful thing you've ever experienced? | probably have a couple small kidney stones that I need to pass. Supposed to hurt like shit. What's the most painful thing you've ever experienced? | 5,778 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by giving my gf a howling orgasm in public
POST: I've been inspired by reading the sexual escapades of other f-ups to make my first post. So it was back when I was in my early 20's. My gf and I had a healthy appetite for sex in public. The danger of getting caught amped up the excitement. So on this occasion we were watching the fireworks display at the waterfront. Beautiful night, beautiful fireworks, stars shining brightly, and a beautiful woman by my side. Wasn't long before we found a nice grassy spot under a tree.
So we're in the throes of passion and this encounter is feeling excitingly different. Her moaning is building up quicker than usual and getting increasingly louder. Her gyrating hips would make a whirling dervish blush. So of course I'm feeling pretty good about myself and my skills. I'm thinking, yeah man, I'm tapping this to ecstasy.
Her moaning is getting so loud I'm now at the point where I'm thinking we're going to get busted. But a man doesn't leave a job unfinished and I carry on dutifully. Just as this mind numbing orgasmic pleasure hits, she screams out, shoves me off of her, jumps up, and starts swatting at all of these ants that were biting her. Her ass and legs were covered in ants.
I felt horrible for her but realised what a thoughtful gf I had for putting up with the biting for so long.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | having sex with my gf in a park, thought my mad skills was sending her to ecstasy, realised it was ants biting her ass that caused the loud moaning. | having sex with my gf in a park, thought my mad skills was sending her to ecstasy, realised it was ants biting her ass that caused the loud moaning. | 2,252 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Me [M26] recently got a reasonably well paid job and would like some advice on how to save effectively
POST: OK so I've never been good with money, it makes my toes curl to think I'm 26 years old and have earned circa £120,000 in my life and have literally nothing to show for it except a string of nasty hangovers and some cool stories.
I recently got back from doing some charity work abroad and have landed a pretty well paid job. £20,000 basic salary with uncapped commission. To put things into perspective I have cleared £1975 commission this month and have already matched that for next month (commission is paid a month lying on).
I do quite a lot of travelling and would love to see SE Asia, Australia and end up with my brother and his unborn son in NZ (if only for a few months) before I "settle down" and try to find a serious ladyfriend.
It's worth noting that I am in the UK and ideally want to be setting off in no longer than 18 months, am currently living with parents and have recently joined a gym, which I intend to take seriously (so I'm not as enticed to go out partying). All in all, without "fun" money I could put my outgoings at around £500 P/M.
Could any of you please advise me what the best thing to do with the rest of my salary will be for such a short period of time? I am literally terrible when it comes to this, but at 26 I think it's high time I start to learn the ropes of personal finance.
Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Awful with money, now earning money and would like advice on how to maximise savings for the next 18 months. | Awful with money, now earning money and would like advice on how to maximise savings for the next 18 months. | 4,149 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Update: 35lbs. down, first plateau reached
POST: Hello again /r/loseit, it has been awhile but I have made some good progress since and so I am here to report back and also get some advice on the recent plateau I have reached.
Since my last post I am down 20 more lbs. for a total of 35 lbs. since Feb. 2014 (actively dieting and exercising since May 3rd). I have been eating clean and in mid-July, switched out rice, bread, potatoes and corn for fresh greens. Tracking with MFP has definitely helped, though I have not been daily tracking in the last few weeks as my diet remains very consistent. I also changed my exercise routine to incorporate the start bodyweight routine from www.startbodyweight.com
I had been making brilliant progress with 2-3 lbs down weekly, until mid-August, which is when I started the new routine. Since then, my weight has stubbornly held on to 255, +/- 2.5 lbs.
I have read enough posts/comments to know that gaining while cutting is contentious, but I feel like I am doing that. Underneath it all, I can tell I am changing physique as I am making good progress through the progressions (Oh, hello bicep, it's been a minute! Where did you fall off to?), and my cardio always comes first and I average 40-50 min every session. I transitioned to exercise every other day in late-July, but am currently trying to hit batches of three days in a row (cardio+strength [pulls], cardio+stretching, cardio+strength [push])
If I am indeed cutting and gaining, it does fit with my goals as I have always been big, I don't know if I could actually handle being 170? I would like to see myself down to 210ish/10% BF and then focus on lean muscle gains while continuing cardio training and yoga.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I used to be hella fat, now I am less so but still kinda. I stopped losing weight a month ago, but maybe I am gaining muscle mass is why? | I used to be hella fat, now I am less so but still kinda. I stopped losing weight a month ago, but maybe I am gaining muscle mass is why? | 303 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [23M] and my wife [25F] (together 6 years). I thought I didn't want kids, but I realized what the issue is (See inside)
POST: Hello,
I've been with my wife for years before we got married, she's my girl, plain and simple. I love her to death.
When we we first dating we were starry eyed children. We always talked about kids and how I wanted them, but as we got closer to the wedding and moved in together, we put it on the backburner. I eventually started thinking I didn't want to have kids.
My wife is a larger woman, which physically has never bothered me, but when I would think about her being pregnant, I would get worried. I've read the list of complications that can happen from being obese and pregnant, and how it can gravely effect the baby and the mother by increasing every negative outcome that could happen.
I have begun to come to term with the fact that I think it's not that I don't want kids, is that I think if we have kids at her current health, that the chances of things going wrong are much higher and that could ruin us.
Now, I've tried to be encouraging about weight loss, I've lost 100 myself and she even asked while I was doing it if I was trying to get her to lose weight (I wasn't, I just wanted to be healthier). But when the conversation has come up, she is VERY sensitive about it. It usually ends with her upset for several days.
How do I discuss this with her to let her know that I think I know why I'm afraid to risk her life and our relationship without guilting her? I don't want it to be ultimatum either, just laying down facts. I've tried to be subtle, I've tried to do the cooking, I've tried to be aggressive (that was a terrible idea).
Anyone face this before?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Husband realized he didn't want to risk Wife's health or baby due to wife's weight, not sure how to handle her weight. | Husband realized he didn't want to risk Wife's health or baby due to wife's weight, not sure how to handle her weight. | 1,738 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Advice for dealing with a non-binding HOA and restrictive covenants.
POST: I posted this over in advice, but I only got one response, so I'm trying here...
A neighbor of mine received a letter in the mail today stating that the HOA was taking action against him for keeping chickens on his property.
The letter arrived normal post, and it described that keeping a chicken coop was against the neighborhood covenant and that he had been previously warned about the infraction. It also stated that he would be responsible for the attorney fees and any and all legal fees associated with pursuing the case in court.
Being a non-binding HOA, I assume that they are only able to enforce the covenants outlined in the deed for the property which was created by the now-no-longer builder of the neighborhood 35ish years ago. We've gone to the zoning department to view the original deed to the property and they said that the covenant was too old to enforce.
Here is the particular covenant that the HOA is referencing:
*No noxious or offensive activity shall be carried on upon any lot, nor shall anything be done thereon which may be or may become an annoyance or nuisance to the neighborhood. No hogs, goats, poultry, cows or horses which shall constitute a nuisance or cause unsanitary conditions, or any undesirable situation to any neighboring property, shall be maintained on any lot.*
Does anyone have any advice with how to proceed?
Can a covenant on a deed really be too old to enforce?
How would you read "which shall constitute a nuisance" in the statement above?
We're looking in to getting an attorney but just ignoring them seems a might bit cheaper.
Some fun facts:
He has eight chickens, the coop is approximately 5' by 4' and 5' tall. The run is about 20 feet square.
We live in the county so there is no ordinance against keeping small flocks of chickens.
Many other neighbors keep small flocks of chickens. (I keep chickens and bees.)
We do not pay dues to the HOA.
The attorney referenced in the latest letter lives in our neighborhood.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | The non-binding HOA is threatening to bring one of my neighbors to court because he is keeping 8 chickens in his backyard. The covenant that they are applying is old and vague. What should we do? | The non-binding HOA is threatening to bring one of my neighbors to court because he is keeping 8 chickens in his backyard. The covenant that they are applying is old and vague. What should we do? | 15 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] want to date my neighbor [21 F], how should I go about making a move?
POST: I have lived in the same house for about 7 years with my parents and my neighbors have lived next to us for about the same amount of time. I always said hi to them outside but never really talked to them much. It wasn't until a few weeks ago that they threw a party and invited me that I got to know their daughter.
We started talking and hit it off almost immediately, and I invited her out to a party on that same night on the spot and she accepted. We left right away and enjoyed the party, but it was a friendly vibe, no advances from either of us. We had a lot of fun so I made plans to see her again the week after and she accepted.
We went bar hopping and met up with some of my friends at the bar and we danced a little and had fun. Her body language was kinda not all there so I didn't make much of an attempt to keep pulling her to dance or anything. On the way back home the conversation never stopped and we talked for the whole ride home.
I invited her out again this week and she accepted, this time will most likely be just the two of us. This is gonna be our third time hanging out and I feel like I should pull a move before I friendzone myself by being too much of a pussy. I am a little scared because we're neighbors and if she rejected me I'll have to keep seeing her occasionally. I kinda don't want to lose her because I've liked hanging out with her and she's super fun, but I don't wanna lose my chance because I find her very attractive. How should I go about pulling my move? Should I pull a move at all?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like my neighbor and want to pull a move, but I am scared to make things awkward. How should I go about making my move? | I like my neighbor and want to pull a move, but I am scared to make things awkward. How should I go about making my move? | 4,250 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Have a very dark past with my [23/m] family, New relationship [22/f]. Want to know how and when to bring it up.
POST: My family deals with a father who is pretty much your stereotypical alcoholic gets drunk, gets verbally abusive. Almost a year ago now, while on a family vacation he got real drunk again and there was fight after fight and it ended up with me threatening to kill myself and a trip to the hospital. I'd like to make it clear it was out of shear frustration of dealing with this for years and not being able to have a way out. Here was a man telling me he loved me, how I was important to him, how proud I made him. Then he would have some drinks and turn into someone I hated so much. I didn't actually want to kill myself and was discharged after 5 hours. I have since cut that part of my family out of my life including him. I am much happier and am in a really good place mentally. Now I am starting to see this girl and we are taking it slow, it's fun, new and exciting. But I am really stressing out about how and when to bring this up. Obviously she is going to start asking who my family is and why I don't talk to them. I like this girl and don't want her to think I'm mentally unstable, it just seems like such an aweful thing to tell someone and in most people's book a red flag. Just looking on advice on how and when are the best times to drag some of the skeletons out of your closet.
Also Throwaway account, Alot of my friends and coworkers know my real account.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Got in super big fight with alcoholic abusive father, threatened to kill myself. No longer talk to that side of my family. Wondering how and when to talk to new relationship about it. | Got in super big fight with alcoholic abusive father, threatened to kill myself. No longer talk to that side of my family. Wondering how and when to talk to new relationship about it. | 1,726 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I think my relationship is verging upon being overly physical... and I don't want it that way (I'm 19/F)
POST: Alright reddit, I need your advice
I had an internship in Germany this summer and I met this guy (21/M) and we instantly became the closest of friends. There were a few "lost in translation" moments here and there, but his English is generally good. 3 weeks after our friendship we started become interested in each other as more than friends and he went about the most romantic way of stealing my heart. So much that a week later when it was time for me to fly back to the States, I decided to keep in touch with him until I returned to Germany in three months for my semester abroad.
In those 3 months we grew even closer together. Texted almost everyday and skyped every weekend. He even sent me surprise packages in the post, and he had all my best friends swooning. It was like having a boyfriend/best friend without the burden. We could talk to each other about absolutely anything.
Fast forward to December and we were so ecstatic to see each other. The first day of us being reunited went as perfectly as I dreamed it would, but it started to get weirder from there. All the suppressed sexual frustration came out too soon and two weeks after my arrival we had sex. And now I'm scared our relationship is almost 70% physical. Yeah we go out on dates, cook together, etc. But it always leads to physical outcomes, every single time we see each other. And before the sex, it was always 2nd or 3rd base.
Although that doesn't take away from the fact that he treats me fantastically and goes out of his way to do so. Also if I'm not in the mood to fool around, he'll gladly listen.
I know we had a mental connection, but now I feel like it's sort of simmering away. I just want to bring it back... how should I go about doing this? If nothing works then I don't know if I want a relationship. I had an awful one that ended in January (which was also overly physical) and I'm scared of getting hurt again.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | survived 3 months of long distance and now things are getting more physical than I wanted. How do I maintain a stable mental connection? | survived 3 months of long distance and now things are getting more physical than I wanted. How do I maintain a stable mental connection? | 922 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: 18 no direction in life after dropping out of law school
POST: I'm 18, finished high school with great grades and entered law school (Australian so people can enter right out of high school) but it's a course I feel little conncetion to and with limited career opportunities at the moment. I skipped a year of high school so had a spare year and decided to try it out. Little was lost and I developed my thinking skills in law but I've decided to drop out and have no idea what to study.
I enjoy learning and connecting different fields of human study and find it near impossible to limit myself to one topic and area, for that reason history is by far my best subject as that reflects the interwoven nature of the world and want to help the world with whatever I do. What direction can an intelligent young adult take in university if this is the way he sees the world? I feel like with near limitless choice I'll end up making the wrong choices and be miserable.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dropped out of law school, passionate about everything so at a loss for what to study and what direction to take my life | Dropped out of law school, passionate about everything so at a loss for what to study and what direction to take my life | 4,979 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Going from Masters Degree to Hitchhiking?
POST: So my brother is graduating with a bachelors degree soon and wants to stay another year and a half to get his masters degree. He's recently developed this great idea that after graduating, he wants to hitchhike across the country and perform circus type tricks to make ends meet (unicycle, hacky sack, juggling, etc). He doesn't want a 9-5 job where he's tied down and just wants to go live life freely. He cited The Spartan Student as a reference as to how he can make it work ([link] To make things worse, he doesn't have plans as to what he wants to do with his masters degree in computer science. He just wants to get it because it's only another year after his bachelors.
Does anyone have any sort of experience with this type of mentality? What are the dangers of living like that? Do others think this is as dumb as I think it is?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Brother has 2.5 years to get bachelors and masters in Comp Sci. Plans to "live like a hobo" afterwards, hitchhike around, and perform street tricks to get by. How dumb is he? | Brother has 2.5 years to get bachelors and masters in Comp Sci. Plans to "live like a hobo" afterwards, hitchhike around, and perform street tricks to get by. How dumb is he? | 4,288 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I took a girl on a "date" think I fucked up bad.
POST: So we had been texting a lot! and we finally went on a date.... We were walking or whatever as I was walking her back to her car I said I'm going to fight you.
I said if I won she had to kiss me.. Long story short we play fought and I "won".
Anyway she said go for it.... the kiss was pretty bad my worst ever but she didn't seem to mind. Anyway we texted over the next couple of days and I sent her this today.
Going to the park with you was awesome! And how it ended it was the best anyone could hope for. I don't really know what we are or where we are going to be. But I do know I like spending time with and want to continue.
Six hours still no reply...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How bad did I fuck up? How can I fix it? I sent a girl a text that some people thought was to soon and she hasn't answered | How bad did I fuck up? How can I fix it? I sent a girl a text that some people thought was to soon and she hasn't answered | 166 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How does one deal with 3 of your friends having a threesome in your livingroom on New Year's Eve while you sit in the kitchen alone?
POST: New Year's Eve this year I had to stay home and take care of my son so I had a couple friends over. Two of said friends drank a bit much and started going at it, which is kind of whatever. They were just making out, and it was weird, but we just moved the part to the kitchen. Some people leave and eventually, another friend joins in on the making out. I hadn't drank that much that evening due to child care, so I went in the kitchen, poured a glass of Scotch and thought they would leave to someone's apartment once things started getting crazy. But, alas, when I walk back into the livingroom after sipping my drink, there are no clothes on any of them and they are on my floor - they don't even notice me walk in.
This is totally fucked up, and the evening ended by me going into the livingroom, yelling to get the fuck out of my house. One friend was staying with me since he was visiting, and I put all his shit in the hallway of my apartment for him to pick up. This was a gross disrespect for my house. I realize the humour in this, but still feel offended. The other two friends I told to go to hell and expressed my anger that evening. Is it weird that I am this angry about what happened? I really don't want to talk to any of them again. Should I make some repercussions over this? A prank or fuck you of some kind?
Cue jokes about joining in.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | New Year's Eve, close friends have threesome in my house, should I be this pissed off about it? | New Year's Eve, close friends have threesome in my house, should I be this pissed off about it? | 4,600 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by insulting my friend
POST: Throwaway for obvious reasons
This happened just a few minutes ago. Basically, on Facebook, there was some small argument going on between a bunch of friends, nothing really too serious, and everything was A-OK. One of my friends chimes in, and, because this is a thing we do, I immediately start joking. It's just some really joke-y arguments, and everything is still A-OK. This is where the fuck-up happens. He literally typed "LOL" in, so I said, "why do you need to comment that? Did you not get loved enough by your parents?" He responds completely normally and jokes that that's the case.
Then, he does it again as a joke. In my infinite wisdom I say, "Jeez, get a father figure if you want attention, because you clearly never had one." He then proceeds to message me telling me that his father died of cancer when my friend was 9. Now I feel like the biggest dick in the entire universe, and most certainly am.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Told a friend that he didn't have a father figure as a joke, his father turned out to be dead. | Told a friend that he didn't have a father figure as a joke, his father turned out to be dead. | 5,933 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Not Hungry
POST: I started dieting around New Years, cliche I know, and exercising in February. So far I'm down about 13 lbs, most came off last month.
I've been cycling lower calorie days and higher calorie days, generally 1000-2200 with one "fast"/week under 500. Also avoiding bad carbohydrates.
Last Thursday was my fast day and the day before I ate about 2200 calories. I woke up wasn't hungry, felt full all day, had a protein shake at 5pm and some cooked spinach. Went jog-walking for an hour and a 1/2, got home thinking i would be famished, but felt fine. Forced myself to eat more protein and some veggies.
I woke up on the next day, again expecting to feel starved, but feeling fine. I didn't eat again. I went to work, lunch time came and I felt full so I ate nothing. I made myself have some chicken and veggies about an hour before the end of the day, because I was going to the gym. I worked really Hard for 1.5 hours again and again felt full after. Forced myself to eat again.
I did the exact same thing Saturday-Tuesday, taking a day off of working out, and feel fine this morning, full even. I am wondering how long I should continue this? Has anyone else ever gone through this?
My sedentary BMR is around 2000 calories and I'm using about 900 working out so I'm operating at a 2400 deficit. Is this dangerous? I think it's ok to fast a few days, but should I quit working out / do I need to force myself to eat more. I'm M:25:248lbs. Advice please!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | version: I cycle calories and after a fasting day I didn't get hungry so I kept fasting while working out; safe or unsafe? Any advice or experiences? Why am I not hungry? | version: I cycle calories and after a fasting day I didn't get hungry so I kept fasting while working out; safe or unsafe? Any advice or experiences? Why am I not hungry? | 3,786 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19 F] just ghosted my boyfriend [22 M] and feel horrible. Can I save our relationship?
POST: My boyfriend and I have been dating since April of this year, so around 4 months. We decided to go long-distance once summer started because I had to take summer classes while he had to work in another town 3 hours away.
We kept in contact daily but towards mid-July the texts and phone calls became less frequent, probably a text or two every other day. Around this time I was also getting busier and more stressed with class, labs, and doctor shadowing. Finals eventually hit at the end of July so I pretty much extinguished what was left of my social life to study.
It's been two weeks since finals ended, and while I'm back to my normal routine, I haven't contacted him in 3 weeks. No texts, calls, nothing. He texted me a week ago asking me if I wanted to talk. Didn't reply. He called me on Monday, couldn't pick up because I was busy, but I never called him back.
I feel like absolute shit. I understand that I am solely responsible for our falling out, but I can't bring myself to confront him let alone respond to his messages because I'm afraid of the outcome. Heck, I'm 99% certain that he'll break up with me. I'm just too sheepish to face reality.
All I want to do is apologize and somehow convey to him that my flakiness was caused by my stress, not because of him. I really do care about him, and ideally I still want us to stay together, but I won't be surprised if he breaks up with me because I messed up big time.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Haven't contacted my boyfriend in 3 weeks because of stress. Is our relationship salvageable? How should I get over my fear of accepting responsibility and facing him? | Haven't contacted my boyfriend in 3 weeks because of stress. Is our relationship salvageable? How should I get over my fear of accepting responsibility and facing him? | 1,906 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 M] with my "Friend" [22 F] 1yr, Long Distance-y, make the move? Confusing love for passion? Hoping for some advice.
POST: * Hi everyone, myself A (23) met N (22) while we were both traveling overseas in South America. A from NZ and N from Eygpt. We hit it off incredibly well and spent the next few weeks travelling together. It was a very intense and passionate albeit short experience. That is a year ago, since then we constantly have talked and skyped with each other. I haven't been able to get her off my mind, and nor her me - so she says.
* We both agreed that as hard as it is we both do want each other to be happy and we would try to be happy for each of us to date someone. As we previously established long distance was never going to be a real possibility. We both looked into making the move and it seemed unlikely - we both had plans. My plans fell through due to various reasons and now the plans I did have are not there anymore.
* Recently, N just got into a relationship with someone and I didn't realise how much it would affect me. I haven't been sleeping right, it's all I can think about. We have talked about it a few times but it is difficult. I don't know if I am confusing my emotions but all I want to do is head over and be with her now. I proposed this idea to her and she seems kind of willing but hesitant for that it may not work out, that she just started going out with someone, what happens when I have to leave it might make things harder etc.
* I just dont know what to do, has anyone been in a situation like this before? What happened? Any advice or something that can help soothe my psyche?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Confused about long distance semi-partner, unsure on what to do, at my wits end. HELP! | Confused about long distance semi-partner, unsure on what to do, at my wits end. HELP! | 1,895 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by dislocating the wifey's shoulder via doggy-style
POST: This happened last night. Doing this on my phone because too afraid to ask the wife for the computer. Please excuse spelling, punctuation, format, etc. you bastards.
After a night out drinking that was full of aggressive come ons, we get back to the house and start the quick strip. I, like the alpha male I am(pretended, but this is the interweb, I'm huge and muscular), threw her onto the bed and let out some primal grunts, alluding to the fact that shit was about to go down, hard. We start everything off, but when I try to dominate even harder, that's when I heard her shriek. I put her arms behind her back a la handcuff style, and at first smirk because yay I hurt her with my dong! Only then do I get donkey-kicked and she turns around to display a fucked up shoulder. I'm not a doctor, but even a dwarf could see that the gap between her shoulder and arm was just not meant to be. I realize this, and I guess as the adrenaline starts to kick in, and I get the spins. Toilet, too, far... and while she gets in front of me to head to the bathroom, a glorious projectile of beer and stomach innards lands all over her back and hair. Oh the names I was called...
After I do my time on toilet, I google how to reset her shoulder, pop it back in, and then try to jump in the shower with her. Nope. Off to the couch I went!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | try to place her hands together hand-cuff style, dislocate her shoulder, freak out and puke on her. Fun times. | try to place her hands together hand-cuff style, dislocate her shoulder, freak out and puke on her. Fun times. | 6,194 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22/F] need help with my ex-boyfriend of over 4 years [M/22].
POST: I'm really in need of advice right now. I'm still inlove with my ex-boyfriend. We were each others first love. He was the most sweet kind caring man I knew. We talked about spending our lives together.
As the years went by we had our share of disagreements, no relationship is perfect 24/7. 3 years into us being together I had given him an ultimatum. I wasn't comfortable with him using recreational drugs. He agreed to stop for me. He continued to spend time with certain friends I did not like because of their partying and drug use. He would choose them over me.
This made me become bitter and resentful. I started to hate those people in his life because I felt like they meant more to him than I did.
Flash forward to recent days, he's told me he lied and broke his promise to me. It went horribly. I said things I shouldn't have to him. I acted so childish. I did not handle being lied to for a years time well.
But here's the thing. I still love him, and I could forgive him and try to work things out. He said to me he would keep an open mind and give me a chance. Our fight and break up happened 3 months ago. He and I would talk and at times things felt good between us.
Now there is another women. She is tossing herself at him. He has always had confident issues, so she makes him feel good about himself. I have always told him how sexy, hot, amazing he was. His lack of confidents didn't stem from me. But I feel like they are going to get together. I still love my ex deeply, I feel like he was the one for me and I cant let him go. Tomorrow night he is having a party, and that women is going. I'm scared something will happen between him and her. I wouldn't be able to forgive that.
He has stop answering my texts and isn't wanting to see me. I feel led on and used by him. Yet I still love him and want to be with him. I need advice please.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | How can I fix things with the man I love, and get a second chance after I have called down his friends? | How can I fix things with the man I love, and get a second chance after I have called down his friends? | 4,908 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: Sick cat should I be worried?
POST: Hi so my cat Ellie May started out yesterday as pretty lethargic and seemed to be doing a fair bit of sleeping actually found her sleeping on the stairs yesterday which is out of character for her. She normally sleeps on our bed or at the top of the stairs behind the banister where the dog isn't allowed. This morning after I let her outside so she could go visit the neighbour I found a spot where she threw up at some point after we went to bed. The neighbour came over a while later and said that Ellie was acting weird and throwing up and in pain. So I took her to the vet after that cause I was worried and they did an x-ray and took some blood x-ray came back clean and the blood won't be analysed till sometime tomorrow. They gave her some shots and gave me some pills for her tomorrow. And now tonight I found her sleeping/hiding behind out bedroom door and moved her to the bed and she has gone back into hiding under the bed. Am I over reacting or should I be worried and take her back to the pet hospital?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Sick cat took her to the vet got sent home after a few shots and she seems much more lethargic and acting more out of character. | Sick cat took her to the vet got sent home after a few shots and she seems much more lethargic and acting more out of character. | 4,467 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Am I paying too much for college? What can I do?
POST: This is a post asking for advice.
So I'm paying $30,000 per year for my Pharmacy School. I have a total of six years to go through. I believe my student loans have an interest rate of 8%.
So as soon as I'm done with pharmacy school, I will be about $200,000 in debt.
I've read and asked around. It seems this isn't fucking normal. I read that the average student loan debt is $24,000.
Why the fuck am I paying so much? I received a scholarship and grant that totals about $16,000. However, I received no financial aid despite my dad being drowned in credit card debt.
This isn't fucking reasonable to ask of a family with one employed parent. My brother also attends pharmacy school and he has to pay as much as I do. Deducting both of our tuition fees from our only working parent's income leaves our net gain in the negative.
Am I doing something wrong? Because almost everyone else I ask is paying much less (even if they're going to the same school or other private schools). What can I do about this? Am I able to appeal to financial aid/FAFSA or whatever?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm getting $200,000 worth of student loan debt. What the fuck can I do about this if anything? | I'm getting $200,000 worth of student loan debt. What the fuck can I do about this if anything? | 3,271 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How should I proceed with this girl?
POST: Ok so here's the story so far.. In my school there is a girl that caught my eye about 8 months ago. Over the course of about 3 or 4 months I kept awkwardly stalking her on FB and stuff like that until I finally managed to approac her and talk to her. I think I've had a huge crush on her at that point. We had a real good conversation and she seemed like such a sweet and interesting person. Between then and now there were two huge gaps where due to schedule stuff we wouldn't see each other in school at all. So now the situation has become really awkward as I only managed to say hi to her once or twice since then and sometimes we don't say hi at all. I think she's getting the feeling that I'm kind of a creep. I decided to forget about it and I noticed that I thought about her less and less. But actually I think it's kind of a shame thinking back about how awesome she was. How should I approach her now and get conversation going again?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a crush on a girl, had one great conversation with her, didn't see her for a long time, now it's become awkward to even say hi. **** | I have a crush on a girl, had one great conversation with her, didn't see her for a long time, now it's become awkward to even say hi. **** | 4,144 |
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