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Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [24F] told me [25M] that she had 5 "fuck-buddies" on call prior to when we started dating, and it bothers me.
POST: My girlfriend and I live together. We have been together for 2 years. We get along pretty well. She is smart, caring, motivated and very pretty
Last night I was DDing home from a Halloween party. My girlfriend was very drunk and started talking about how much she loves me, and that when we met she immediately knew that she wanted to be with me, and how crazy it was because she immediately stopped contacting her 5 "fuck-buddies" (yes, she used that term). She realized she had said something that bothered me but I played it off, and I don't think she knows how uncomfortable I am.
I never knew much about her sexual history prior to dating me. We had talked about exes, and got tested for STDs pretty early on (just in case) but I never asked for any of the details so I had no idea that she was so promiscuous.
Here's the crazy thing: I think I'm upset, primarily because I'm jealous! My girlfriend has always been pretty, popular, and outgoing. She is very charismatic and people have always loved being around her. She partied and dated through highschool, college, and after college up until meeting me. To put it simply, she has spent a lot of time playing the field.
I, on the other hand, haven't really had that kind of experience. I had a painfully awkward highschool career, and a very rough first couple years of college. I've developed a lot since then (mentally, physically, and socially) but outside of a few relationships I haven't had very much casual sex.
I know I should just be really happy that she chose a monogamous relationship with me over her 5 fuck-buddies, but what I really feel is like I missed out. I wish I had had the same kind of experience when I was younger.
Am I completely irrational? Should I talk to my girlfriend about this or suck it up?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend told me she was seeing 5 "fuck-buddies" immediately before we started dating, and it bothers me. | My girlfriend told me she was seeing 5 "fuck-buddies" immediately before we started dating, and it bothers me. | 3,610 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18F] think I hold too much value in sex. I think he [19M] doesn't hold enough. Help.
POST: I really need to just get this out there and hopefully get some understanding or advice out of this.
Okay, I'm a virgin. Usually proud of it. Been saving myself for a boy I really care about etc. Recently I started dating this guy though and I'm just kind of lost with how I feel about it all. We both have different views on the matter. He says sex has different meaning to him depending on who its with. He says with me it would be a way to make the relationship more intimate but when I first said I wasn't going to give him sex he suggested he should have casual sex with others while staying with me.
This confuses me so much because I agree, it'd make the relationship more intimate but then if he'd have such casual sex with other girls just because I wasnt ready then how is it special at all? I feel like I'm not worth waiting for for him. Then at the same time I realise he still has his needs and I feel like a bitch for refusing him sex (from me or others).
Now I get to the point where I just want to stop putting sex on this pedestal but at the same time I don't want it to mean nothing either. The fact that he's just so casual about it kind of tears me up and is something I'm working really hard to get past.
Then there's the added factor (even though I know it shouldn't be a factor) that I still live wih my fairly religious parents and they believe I should wait until marriage. I feel like having sex with someone while living under their roof would be very disrespectful and betray their trust. Plus they always look so highly on me and I don't want them to be disappointed in me.
I don't want to end up overthinking it for too long and then regret not experiencing what I could while I could but at the same time I don't want to regret having sex if I'm not ready.
I apologise for the length and I doubt this makes much sense but I really needed somewhere to explain my feelings.
Also, should I crosspost this to /r/sex/ or no?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I want to have sex but I don't. I feel like sex is too special to me and not special enough to him. What do? | I want to have sex but I don't. I feel like sex is too special to me and not special enough to him. What do? | 3,341 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my boyfriend [22M] of almost four years abroad in London and don't know what I want
POST: I've been dating my boyfriend for almost four years since we were 17. I've never slept with anyone else or had a real relationship besides this one. Everything between us was great the first three years. I knew how much I loved him, and we planned our life together. We spent every day together in high school, and we talked everyday throughout college, and basically lived together this summer in LA working internships.
However, this summer before I was abroad, I was full of doubts and still am. The thought of spending my entire life with him without experiencing other things scares me to death. However, a life without him in it is equally scary to me.
I communicated these feelings to him last month, and obviously he was very sad, but he hugged me and tried to comfort me--because he knew these feelings were tearing me apart. Now that I'm in London, I've been thinking more of what I want and I'm torn. I'm young and want to do different things, but I love him at the same time.
I tried to talk to him last night about taking a break, but he was completely against the idea. It's all or nothing with him. I don't think I could commit to never seeing or talking to him again, but I want to do my own thing here.
I don't really know what I want, but some perspective/opinions/personal anecdotes would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Having serious doubts in my relationship because I'm really young. Boyfriend won't take a break--it's all or nothing with him--but I don't know if I can commit to either options. | Having serious doubts in my relationship because I'm really young. Boyfriend won't take a break--it's all or nothing with him--but I don't know if I can commit to either options. | 71 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I've [29M] never had a mutual attraction to someone.
POST: My " love " life ( for lack of a better word ) is one of the few things in my life that is consistent. That being I've never had a mutual attraction to someone. I'm comfortable with my sexuality, I know what I'm attracted to. I've just never had anything " mutual ". I attract crazy women, jail bait, and women I'm not attracted to ( be it physical, personality, or not having a " spark " with said person ). When I'm attracted to someone they either want to be friends or want nothing to do with me. Yet the reverse is also true if someone is attracted to me I want nothing to do with them. I'd rather remain single my entire life then lower my standards and I see S.M.V ( Sexual Market Value ) as demeaning to say the least. The reason I won't lower my standards is simple I don't want to have sex with someone that I'm not attracted too. That's not to say I view sex as being the only thing in a relationship. I want someone I can share my passions with, my dreams my goals and be intimate with. I can't really see myself being intimate with someone if they turn me off or are sexually repulsive. All this does is leave me with unanswered questions. Like. Am I going to remain single my entire life or is their any hope for a guy that has been single as long as I have ? Is lowering my standards really the **ONLY** hope I have ? Or if I do lower my standards can I really be happy in a sexless relationship ? Like I stated I won't lower my standards but these question do bother me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My lack of mutual attraction is starting to get to me. And I'm wondering if this is the way I'm going to live the rest of my life being single. | My lack of mutual attraction is starting to get to me. And I'm wondering if this is the way I'm going to live the rest of my life being single. | 3,689 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(30M) am having near daily panic attacks over whether to break up with my gf(30F) or not.
POST: I am completely torn between breaking up or staying with my serious gf of 3.5 years. We live together and our lives are completely intertwined and she's the best and most amazing person I've ever known, but there's some fundamental issues like sexual attraction and chemistry, and the fact that I am pretty sure I don't want kids, and she does. The problem is I don't know if those issues are because of my uncertainty about my own life or my inherent desires about the type of life I want. I panic about this stuff nearly daily because I feel like I am trapped in prison. If I stay and we break up 5 years from now, I have hurt her by not being able to move on. If I leave, I feel I could be leaving for the wrong reasons(not strong enough to face adulthood and responsibilities) and I could be leaving the best person I've ever known, who loves me more than anyone ever will. I mean the things she does for me and to try to help me is staggering and overwhelming. I've never met anyone who has as good of a heart as her and who is so empathetic and selfless in trying to make me happy. I feel like such an asshole sometimes for even wanting to leave her because of the work she puts into us and how much she cares for me.
How do I stop panicking and calm myself down? It's been over a year now since I've started to panic about this stuff. We've worked on stuff but these questions and uncertainty are just not going away. I am miserable. I cry nearly every day, and when I am with her and I look at her I just see all of this stress and potential pain I might cause her. We used to be just carefree and happy but I can see the toll this has all taken on her. I just want to get back to a point of enjoying life and having what we used to have. Fun. My guilt is nearly crushing me too, because I know how much she loves me and I don't want to devastate her and ruin her life.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am torn between leaving my wonderful gf or moving forward with our lives together and panic nearly daily because of it. How do I calm down and process what I am going through? | I am torn between leaving my wonderful gf or moving forward with our lives together and panic nearly daily because of it. How do I calm down and process what I am going through? | 2,082 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What would you do?
POST: Little back story. I'm Australian living in the uk, my visa is about to run up and I'm going through the painstakingly long and costly process of apply for an extensions. I'm staying to be with my girlfriend of a year who is an American and has 2 years left on her visa. She wants to stay in the uk for another year then move to Aus with me.
The other day I was at her place and she was out, but had left her gmail signed in. I know it was a massively bad idea but curiosity got to me so I peeked at her chat log. She has been chatting to some guy back home in the states rather seductively, even goes as far as to say if she were there right now she would suck him off under his desk.
This makes me sick to my stomach. What do I do? Do I confront her and tell her I have read her chat logs and see what she has to say about it? Do I pretend nothing has happened? I don't know how to react. I'm very much in love with her and I'm sure she loves me. Not sure if I'm misinterpreting this for somewhat innocent flirting gone out of hand. Or of I should be genuinely worried.
My inialtial instinct is to wait till it happens again then confront her, but just want to know some other opinions, don't feel like I can talk to anyone else about it in the real world.
Sorry for shit typing, on phone
TL;DR: . Assistant: | stupidly read gf chat logs to a guy in another country with rather full on flirting/innuendo. Feel like shit, want to know how to react | stupidly read gf chat logs to a guy in another country with rather full on flirting/innuendo. Feel like shit, want to know how to react | 4,778 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I [F25] being selfish for not wanting to leave my family to live near partner's [M26]?
POST: I've been in a long distance relationship for the last 5 years. We live over 250 miles away from each other, and have done since the beginning, apart from a few years when I was at uni, I lived a lot closer to my SO.
After uni I moved back to my home town, riddled with guilt that I barely saw my family in 3 years, because I spent almost every weekend at my partners (which I feel extremely guilty about). We have always been ok with the distance, there are obviously times when it's harder than others.
We're now seeing less and less of each other and I'm really starting to struggle, I'm lucky if I get a whole weekend with him every month. He works 6 days a week, so him staying with me is almost out of the question, and I can't afford any more than I already pay on travel.
We have discussed getting a place together, but the issue of where to live becomes an issue. I have looked at properties in his area, and for a start I wouldn't be able to afford rent, never mind the increased cost of living.
I told him tonight that I don't think I could live far from my family. My parents are older than his, and I worry about them not having any family near them as they get older. He, on the other hand has an extremely large extended family, all of which live within a 5 mile radius.
Am I being selfish for now wanting to move near them? When I told my SO how I felt, his response was "well, we have a problem". He did however say that he would move up to me, but he still has courses he needs to complete with work.
He told me that I'm acting like a child and didn't understand the issue of me moving away because I would still see my parents every fortnight. Surely if travelling weren't an issue I would see my SO more often than that?!
I'm feeling so conflicted, and feel selfish for not wanting to leave my parents. I love my SO, and I want to be with him, but we have hit this major fork in the road and I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Relationship of 5 years. I'm conflicted as to whether I should abandon my family again to live 250 miles away with my SO, and near his family. | Relationship of 5 years. I'm conflicted as to whether I should abandon my family again to live 250 miles away with my SO, and near his family. | 5,156 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [17 F] of 6 months, I want to break up but I fear the worst
POST: This girl and I began dating in December and we've been together since then. It's almost been six months now. There's no problems in the relationship but I've been thinking a lot about breaking up with her.
She's a great gal and we get along really nicely, but I just don't want to be in a relationship anymore.
I've been considering how I can go about telling her but I don't know how to properly do it. She's my first girlfriend and I'm her first boyfriend. In school we're part of the ap program and we have all our classes together and will definitely have the same classes next year in grade twelve as well. That's the problem.
I care a lot about this girl and the last thing I want to do is hurt her anymore than what breaking up. I'm worried that if we break up she will drop the ap program and I don't want to see her throw away all her progress.
She's part of my group of friends and in my group there are three couples including myself and her. I have heard from the other couples that they would drop the program entirely to avoid seeing their ex for the entire year. So not only am I afraid she'll drop the program, but I'm worried the group of friends will seriously be affected.
The school year is almost done and I plan on doing it over the summer break to giver both of us recovery time so we can hang out with our own friends and not be forced to see each other daily. As she is my first girlfriend I'm completely lost on how to go about this. Your opinions would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I wanna break up with her because I simply no longer want to be in a relationship. I don't know what I'm doing and there are significant side effects | I wanna break up with her because I simply no longer want to be in a relationship. I don't know what I'm doing and there are significant side effects | 3,184 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What should I do?
POST: (24) My best friend (Phil) of 12 years and I know this gorgeous girl (Bailey) who we have both been interested in for the past couple of years on and off. Recently it just so happened that we both are interested at the same time. He is the kind of person that will push you out of the way just so that he can stand/sit next to her. She has been throwing me signals and stuff but she also seems to do it to him also. He has always had girls chasing after him and I don't really get girls lusting towards me all the time like he does. So I am tempted to pursue a committed relationship with Bailey but I am afraid that Phil would be irrational and just stop the friendship right then and there. So reddit what do you recommend I should do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Me and a best friend are interested in the same girl and I don't want to ruin the relationship by asking her out. | Me and a best friend are interested in the same girl and I don't want to ruin the relationship by asking her out. | 5,803 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 28 [F]: No butterflies when meeting 34 [M]. Confused.
POST: I [28/F] met this guy [34/M] the other day for the first time after talking for almost a month. We met online, and clicked instantly. Since then we talked on the phone almost every night and slowly grew to really like each other. When we met for the first time, I felt no butterflies... just an instant comfort feeling. I didn't feel like that intense, nervous, immediate infatuation. We did end up having sex, and the entire time we were together, he just kept remarking on how "good different" everything was.
I'm very confused. I purposely searched for guys that are not my type: passionate "bad boys" who party a lot. I've had a string of tumultuous relationships where the guy idolized me, fell in love with the idea of me, and once I fell from that pedestal it all crashed and burned. But, he's different. Very different...
Is it possible to fall for someone without that instant tummy butterfly, fuzzy feeling? Or does this sound like more of just s friendship in the making?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a guy who seems perfect for me. No butterfly feelings on my end. Is this normal to fall for someone when that fuzzy feeling isn't present? | Met a guy who seems perfect for me. No butterfly feelings on my end. Is this normal to fall for someone when that fuzzy feeling isn't present? | 1,897 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Don't know if I [22M] should continue relationship with my Ex [21F]
POST: So I'll just give a little background to help understand the situation now.
This girl, my ex, [21F] was my first girlfriend from high school, lost my virginity to her, spent 3 years as really good friends from junior year to after high school. After high school she was having personal issues and decided to move out of her house and away from her family. About a month after she moved away she got pregnant from some older guy, late 20s I think. I was broken and stopped talking to her for about a year.
Fast forward to recently, shes actually a single mom now and the father has been long gone for awhile. She's had another relationship that's come and gone within a few months. Well, on my birthday she starts talking to me through Facebook and we catch up a little. The messages turn into texts and calls about the good days before she moved away and how she misses me and everything.
I've really matured since I last saw her 2-3 years ago and have no hard feelings but I also don't love her like I did in high school because I've met many other girls and experienced more. I told her this early before we started talking more that I don't want any relationships I'm just looking to have fun and enjoy life and if she still wanted to talk to me she can. She didn't take it too well, but the next day she seemed to get over it and decided I was still worth talking to I guess.
Even more recently, she just invited me up to stay a few nights with her and I said OK. After she invited me though she started asking what I thought about marrying her in the future!! I totally deflected the question and didnt give a straight answer because I know there is no way I would marry this girl now after what shes done to me in the past and we barely even started talking again a month ago. She's a really attractive girl and I'm still attracted to her, and she and I both know what's going to happen if I go up there, but I don't think she understands what I said in the beginning about no relationships. I'm confused now what to do with this whole thing..
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My ex [21F] from high school that has a kid now wants me to come up for a weekend. I said yes and then she started asking what I thought about her as a future wife?! | My ex [21F] from high school that has a kid now wants me to come up for a weekend. I said yes and then she started asking what I thought about her as a future wife?! | 2,863 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (F15) relationship with my dad (40) is falling apart due to his girlfriend (19)
POST: Okay, my parents got divorced about two years ago. They were both cheating on each other. They got new partners relatively quickly (about 2 months after everything was final. ) What gets weird is my dads girlfriend (now fiancé. ) is only 19. She went to school with my sister (20) and she's been like a family friend since they were in 7th grade. She is now beyond rude to us (my sister and I, and our brother who is 8) She hasn't finished highschool, and has no job. She had a 3 year old who's father is not in the picture. Sometimes she comes home smelling strongly of marijuana and sometimes of alcohol. While I think if she wants to smoke, that's fine, but I think it's really inappropriate for her to come home to her child while buzzed. I've talked to my dad countless times about how it makes me uncomfortable, but he sees no problem with it. I've talked to him about how she says rude things about my sister (calling her names, complaining about how she lives with our dad still, etc. ) but he still does nothing. My dad is starting to act like her and it worries me. He could have a wonderful woman, but he's choosing her, and his relationship with his kids is at stake. I'm too embarrassed about it to talk to anybody else about it, so is there anything I can do to try and make him see where his kids are coming from? Or should I just leave him be and hope that he sees that she's not the best thing he could have? Please help.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My dads girlfriend is beyond rude to my siblings and I, and I can't handle it. My dads acting like her, and he won't listen to reason. | My dads girlfriend is beyond rude to my siblings and I, and I can't handle it. My dads acting like her, and he won't listen to reason. | 5,955 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How/Why did you "break up" with a shitty friend?
POST: I [F20] have a close friend [F18] who's basically trying to be me. She's an emotional leetch, calls me a billion times a day and openly expresses wanting my first love's body While she knows we're currently fwb when he's on leave for the military. She was in our social group while we dated and was obviously in love with him, but in my mourning process she never shut the fuck up about him so it took forever to get to a healthy stand-point. What the hell kind of friend does that?
I can't handle the fact that she has her own vendetta in using me for my ex-flame's attention... It's got me crying again at night with Feelings! This ruined hott, steamy, monkey sex because now I wish I was his only. Fuck. I'm going crazy! No idea how to break it to her though. She's just a sexually frustrated virgin (who happened to fall for my ex), extremely introverted with anxiety issues and doesn't have many friends. Oh did I mention that all of a sudden she's into my hobbies, following me, and now pursuing the same career?
Do I work this out with her? Or possibly tell me your story so I can better grip where that line is.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm just going crazy over here. Please tell me where your bitch line was drawn and how you executed "break up". Or if you read it, drop this beezy? Yay or nay? | I'm just going crazy over here. Please tell me where your bitch line was drawn and how you executed "break up". Or if you read it, drop this beezy? Yay or nay? | 5,982 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] random paranoia about future spouse's sexual compatibility?
POST: Basically I've only really had one boyfriend. He was great and we broke up a few months ago for other random reasons not important. Anyway, we never had sex or anything but when we made out and such I could just tell he is great sexually.
Even both of us we just matched up really well and were into the same stuff. I know that if in the future if we were to marry (I'm saving for marriage) we would have really great sex lives and he be a great partner.
But now I'm randomly paranoid that whoever I do marry (no likely to be said ex) isn't going to be great sexually. I guess that's fine but you know.... I'd prefer to have sex. I'm just afraid I'll meet a guy who completely perfect in every way but he'll be terrible or we won't be compatible like I was with my ex.
It's not a pressing matter but I just wanted to see other people's opinions and thoughts on the matter. Anyone else feel this way, have this happen, or any advice? Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex and I were sexually compatible. Now I fear my future spouse and I won't be and it'll be terrible. Random fear. Thoughts from you guys? | Ex and I were sexually compatible. Now I fear my future spouse and I won't be and it'll be terrible. Random fear. Thoughts from you guys? | 4,181 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My parents constantly check in on me (21F) when I'm on a date with my boyfriend (20M)
POST: I'm an only child with very over protective parents. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I recently started going to his house to hang out.
The first time I went there, I had a lot of fun watching movies until late with him and his parents. Late as in 2am. I forgot to check my phone till on the way back at 2:30 with 6 missed calls, 4 voicemails, and multiple texts if I was ok. I find that quite excessive. He's not my first boyfriend, nor my first serious boyfriend. I told them where I was going, so it wasn't like they should he surprised as he stays at my house till 1-2am.
Yesterday, I went deep sea fishing with my boyfriend and family. I told my parents where and what boat I was going on to try and help out, plus the times we'd be out to sea. I texted them after I got off of the boat and posted pictures on facebook. After that, my phone dies and it was roughly 7pm on the way back to his parents house. I shower, watch a movie, and it roughly 11pm and I remember my phone had died. I plug it in and receive multiple texts if I'm OK, where I'm at, and a phone call. Then the texts start to get rude from my dad saying "Your mother told me you were shopping for her mother's day present, you better pull it together for her tomorrow whatever the hell you have been doing!". Obviously he knew what I was doing and I have already bought her something. It was just rude and was sent after I told him I was OK and at my boyfriends parents house.
Is all of this excessive or is it just me? How do I handle this? I don't have to check in when I'm with friends...and I didn't have to with my prior boyfriend.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Parents getting my to check in where I'm at with my boyfriend constantly. How do I handle this? Is this excessive or is it just me? | Parents getting my to check in where I'm at with my boyfriend constantly. How do I handle this? Is this excessive or is it just me? | 936 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [m/18] got involved with a girl [f/19] in a relationship, but she doesn't know how to leave her bf.
POST: A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart.
Being college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future.
Just as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now.
Obviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | got involved with a girl with a bf of 3 years and just when she's about to leave him for me, his mom is diagnosed with cancer. | got involved with a girl with a bf of 3 years and just when she's about to leave him for me, his mom is diagnosed with cancer. | 480 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by making out with a Catholic girl
POST: This happened today at around 2 AM...
It was the first party I managed to actually party at this year, being that I am usually a designated driver.
I met this cute Catholic girl, let's call her Hillary.
Things start off okay, I finally built up the courage to start making out with her. Now the kissing wasn't "kissing", it was what two drunk people would call making out. Basically a lot of excessive tongue and lip biting, but whatever -- it was still the most I have gotten in a month.
Things start getting hot and heavy in my friends living room. We were both undoing each others pants and I thought we were both really into it. I started foreplay on my end, and she was doing something with my johnson that I don't seem to remember out of bleak drunkeness.
"Should we head back to your place?" I asked, hoping my friend's living room floor wasn't my final rest stop for the night.
She gave no reply, but as I was about to kiss her again she pounced into the air and ran out the front door in what I thought was Mach 3.
*I just stood there* for a moment in a lapse of utter confusion. My pants around my thighs and an erection making itself visible in my briefs, like a ghost in a sheet.
**Now** I don't know exactly what happened. I knocked on my friends door (Let's call her Marie) and asked Marie what had just happened.
Marie told me about Hillary's devotion to Catholicism, and how she was planning on waiting for marriage to *get down*.
I have yet to hear from her, and I plan on apologizing for what happened when I see her next. I don't think I am in the wrong, neither of us are, but I think it was just a lack of communication at fault.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Haven't touched a girl in a month, finally do and I send her running out the front door in my confusion. | Haven't touched a girl in a month, finally do and I send her running out the front door in my confusion. | 2,399 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25F] need advice on dating my coworker [25M]
POST: Reddit! A bit of background information, I just reached my 6th week at my new job and since 2 weeks ago I have been 'kind of' dating my colleague. The reason I say 'kind of' is because we've been on 2 dates and I don't really know what I want to do. We get along super well, and I don't feel like I need to try very hard to keep a conversation flowing. He is very charming, funny, full of compliments and for some bizarre reason he likes me (has told me numerous times). I on the other hand, have been told that I'm talkative and very easy to get along with... But I don't know how to respond to compliments. Also, I am from a very conservative Chinese family and he comes from an unconventional Indian family.
Here is my dilemma: Every date we've had has been very awesome, except when it comes to the end of the night... And we both don't know if we want to kiss or just hug it out. It's funny.. We are both super talkative and confident but when it comes to the kiss/ hug game we both shy out and end up hugging. Ok back to the dilemma, I'm still uncertain if I like him in that way or if we would be better as besties. I've always only dated Chinese/ Malaysian guys, and have never had Indian guys on my radar.. But I do find him attractive. I know for a fact my family would be completely against it - but it's not my main issue right now as I'm known to do opposite of what my parents say. Also, we work together (different teams), a lot of my friends are against me dating a colleague but I genuinely don't think there could be any implications... Then again I've never dated a colleague. I'm in this really confused stage where I don't know if I like him in that way or not. I know a relationship is suppose to be between 2 people and no one else matters, but I'm not sure if I can date someone who is from an Indian background - just because I know they would cop a lot of shit from my friends and family.
I don't know what I'm doing...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am kind of seeing a coworker, he's an absolute gentleman but due to his ethnicity, pressure from friends and family I don't know what I want to do. | I am kind of seeing a coworker, he's an absolute gentleman but due to his ethnicity, pressure from friends and family I don't know what I want to do. | 4,281 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [26F] and husband [27M] with our roommate [22M], how to be delicate about hygiene?
POST: Hubby and I just moved to Texas from IL and to make the move easier, we are living with a longtime friend of ours so we can split bills when we find new jobs.
It's been since March 16th and he has taken exactly one shower. And I snooped and he has zero deodorant in the bathroom and it smells as though he wears none. It's bad. Like, open the windows and Febreeze the carpet and vacuum when he leaves for work bad.
Husband told him yesterday he needs a shower when I wasn't in the room to try and let him know without embarrassing him. He told me that the roommate said "ok", but as of right now, he has not taken the shower.
Short of spraying him with Febreeze as soon as he walks in, how do we bring this up again without being rude, but with enough force that he understands he really needs to shower at least every day if he doesn't wear deodorant or he needs to get some and shower every other day? Since he's being really accommodating with us moving in, is it rude to request this of him?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Roomie won't shower, despite being told straight up he needs to shower. How do we be nice, but firm? | Roomie won't shower, despite being told straight up he needs to shower. How do we be nice, but firm? | 6,419 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Dogtraining
TITLE: Vet says our 3 month old puppy shouldn't be allowed out until he gets the rest of his vaccinations - which he can't get for 3 weeks
POST: We've owned our puppy for 3 weeks and had finally trained him to go to the door when he needed to go out, but when we took him to the vet today to get some of his vaccinations, they told us he shouldn't go outside, because the Bordetella virus is going around.
He's only 3.5 months old, and we have to wait 3 weeks before we can give him a vaccine for Bordetella.
Since we can't take him out for walks anymore, he's been peeing all over the house all day, and without being able to go outside, he's been misbehaving a very large amount since he can't expend any of his energy. We've tried to set up a small area on our patio for him to pee on, but he's not getting the point.
Is this something we should actively be worried about? We're thinking about continuing to take him on walks, even though the vet advised against it, considering we're in an area without many stray dogs, and the dogs that are around, have owners who live near us, and therefore must be vaccinated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | We just trained our dog scratch at the door to take him out, but now the vet says he has to stay inside for 3 weeks - not sure what to do. | We just trained our dog scratch at the door to take him out, but now the vet says he has to stay inside for 3 weeks - not sure what to do. | 3,685 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Im [f25] having problems with my girlfriend [f27]of 10 months pertaining to her playing with my nipples.
POST: I know the title sounds odd but I didnt know how else to word it.
My girlfriend grabs my boobs and pinches my nipples all the time no matter we are doing, I could be cooking, in the shower, in the car etc it usually doesn't annoy me but every now and then they get really sensitive or sore so I tell her and ask her to stop but she still does it anyway.
But, one thing that I sometimes have to say that has a 99% success rate is "youre making me horny" and she stops straight away. I think that's bullshit and it happened again last night and I actually got really really upset about it.
She knew something was up so I told her and I said "its just really really weird that if I say my nipples are sore or sensitive you will still pinch them really hard and laugh about it but the moment I say im horny you stop." And she said "oh great so now youre having an issue about sex" and I said "no im having an issue with the fact that telling you my nipples hurt doesnt stop you but saying im horny does, it makes me feel like shit how can you not see this from my point of view? If you say you are horny I jump your bones straight away, if I say im horny you stop its just shit".
So she stormed out of the bedroom and came back in once she thought I went to sleep and now weve woken up shes giving me the silent treatment.
Should I just let this relationship end? It really does make me feel like shit when it happens.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | girlfriend wont stop playing with my nipples when they are sore but will stop the instant I say im horny. Is this a major red flag? | girlfriend wont stop playing with my nipples when they are sore but will stop the instant I say im horny. Is this a major red flag? | 2,971 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, do you still believe in altruism?
POST: I was right infront of a bank parking lot today sitting in the car when I saw what appears to be a cellphone. So I picked it up and went back in the car and behold it IS a cellphone: nothing special, talk and text phone. So I went to its inbox to contact one of the owner's friend("Mom's cell" was first in the inbox) informing her of the lost cellphone and encouraging her to contact the owner. I happen to leave the lost phone in the car for about an hour. When I got back to check it I saw 12 missed calls a minute apart and 2 messages from one person. First was saying I was seen picking up the phone and driving away; second was saying to bring back the phone and I will be rewarded cash. When I went to text back it won't let me send so I assumed the phone service was cut off. I was thought of a thief when really I only mean good.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | found phone. Was gonna contact someone from phone book to inform owner. Owner thought I have no intention of giving it back despite my effort of reaching her(assuming pink hard case=female owner). | found phone. Was gonna contact someone from phone book to inform owner. Owner thought I have no intention of giving it back despite my effort of reaching her(assuming pink hard case=female owner). | 1,683 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (f26) left me (m25) after 4 years. I love her with all my heart. I'm in ruins.
POST: We know each other for over 10 years and we've been a couple for the past 4 years. We live in different cities so the distance has always been a problem, but we dealt with it pretty well.
I have some trust issues apperently, but they were provoked often. Specifically, her close friendship with a guy from another country and her visits to him. And even though I firmly believe that it really was nothing more than friendship I hope you can understand my position and doubts. We've had a few fights about it but always managed to get through it fine.
During her last visit my jealousy kicked in again and I looked at her skype history (on my PC, very old conversations while she was staying here). And I also looked at her e-mail. There was some upseting stuff and I had to confront her about it. I knew how horrible it was of me to intrude her privacy like that, but I thought we would be even after a good fight. Her lying to me (no cheating) and stuff (too long to talk about all of it, I don't think anyone would read through all that) would even me being a nosey bastard, I thought.
But after a while of acting cold, last night she decides it's all over.
I can't grasp it. I finished college almost a year ago, still jobless (I live in a screwed up country), no future prospects. I had her. She's gone now. The thing I thought was the safest thing I ever had, thing that gave me strenght and kept me sane - is gone. She says she'll be there for me, that we'll stay friends. But I don't know how to cope with that. How am I gonna react when she tells me about her new boyfriend?
Everything reminds me of her because we formed as people together. I love her with every inch of me. What do I do? How do I get out of this self pitty. I don't remember when was the last time I cried, and now I'm acting like a damn baby.
Advice from people who were on the wrong side of ending a long lasting relationships?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend (f26) left me (m25) after 4 years. She is all I want. What do I do? How to get through this? | Girlfriend (f26) left me (m25) after 4 years. She is all I want. What do I do? How to get through this? | 2,014 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20]m fallen for a girl, the pros and cons of starting a relationship confuse me.
POST: My girl and I are flirting with the idea of a relationship, but I have cognitive dissonance.
Point 1:
I'm [20]m and I have been dating a [20]f girl for the past 3 months. I have never had a serious relationship before. I have dated a few girls. I also go out clubbing a lot. I have talked to / hooked up with a lot of girls. This is the first girl I have had a really strong attraction to that goes beyond physical.
Point 2:
From what I've seen of friends, family, and society in general, is that throughout your life you have numerous relationships. They go through stages: flirting, dating, new relationship energy, stability, conflict, end or marriage. Even though it feels amazing now, I'm only 20, and drawing on observation any relationship will probably end. I never want to get married, I don't believe in soul mates, and I don't want to spend my entire life with one girl. So, I know this relationship will sometime in the far away future end.
Point 3:
I was socially inept in high school, I worked hard hammering out social interactions for months and months ingraining a deep sense of self-belief in myself. Now I love to go out and hook up with attractive girls, its challenging and exciting.
I feel like I have to pick between self-development and my love for a girl. On one hand I really like this girl, I've never had a relationship before, and she's one of the few girls I've been attracted to. On the other hand, If I'm in a relationship I can't go out and hook up with hot girls, I can't keep improving my game, and what's the point in even having a relationship when I think it will probably end eventually. Thanks for reading.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | ! I've fallen for a girl, but relationships in your 20s limit you and they will probably not last, so I'm confused if I should go for it or keep playing the game because its fun. | ! I've fallen for a girl, but relationships in your 20s limit you and they will probably not last, so I'm confused if I should go for it or keep playing the game because its fun. | 5,112 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: How do I explain my innocent situation that doesn't look innocent
POST: hello I have found myself in a bit of a pickle. A couple months ago I found myself talking to a girl who is a camwhore on a website. she tells me she's never done it and wants to give me a free show. I respectfully decline cause I have a girlfriend but i continue talking to this camwhore cause I'm honestly curious what her life is like in that buisness. I am nothing but proffesional with her. one day I end up letting her text me. But since then all she does is text me asking me to come watch her. I've bitched her out for this a few times. two nights ago she texted me and started a normal convo then said "so...you wanna have some fun? ;)" and I said no thanks. then yesterday I find out that My girlfriend went through my texts and saw that last exchange and wants to talk to me when she gets off of work in 3 hours. I have no idea what to tell her cause I highly doubt she will buy this. what should I say???
TL;DR: . Assistant: | camwhore texted me saying "so... wanna have some fun" and my girlfriend saw it. how do I explain??? | camwhore texted me saying "so... wanna have some fun" and my girlfriend saw it. how do I explain??? | 56 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29M] almost lost a 3y relationship with [32F] due to my being possessive and controlling. I've gotten a second chance and don't want to make the same mistakes.
POST: 29M Almost recently lost a 3 year relationship (w/ 32F) due to my being possessive and at times controlling. When I asked her to marry me this fall, when I was honestly unaware I was doing this, she was extremely happy, but within the next few weeks, she realised she could not be with a person who made her feel this way. She always felt like she was walking on eggshells, and was, deep down, not happy.
Things feel appart in a bad way (emotional affaire on her part). But, after a long, hard period of working things out and realising that we truely want to make it work, we're giving it a very positive second chance. She is very enthusiastic about it, and wants it to work as much as I do. I don't want to make the same mistakes again. I was her to be free to be herself, and not feel untrusting towards her.
I've become very introspective, and have spend much time reading about possessive relationships, dating "losers" and whatnot. Though I most definitaly do to match most categories of what these "Are you dating a loser" articles point out, there are a few that unfortunately are dead on to how she felt.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Could I have advice as to how to ensure I do not make the same errors of being possessive and controlling? I really want to be a better person and change. Thanks : ) | Could I have advice as to how to ensure I do not make the same errors of being possessive and controlling? I really want to be a better person and change. Thanks : ) | 3,712 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I stay or should I go (24f)
POST: Hello reddit. Sorry for the throwaway, my boyfriend (m27) is the one who introduced me to reddit, so I'm sure he'd find this post if I used my real account.
My SO and I have been dating for a year and a half. We met at work and saw each other pretty much everyday. Recently he took a new job about 200 miles away so we see each other about every 3 weeks.
My dilemma is that he WILL NOT talk about the future. Ever. Not at all. Nothing. And it's hard to be in this LDR without any plan of physically being in the same location again or even knowing that thats something we both want. When we were with each other all the time the future didn't seem to matter as much. But now that he's gone and we're trying to stay together I feel like I need some reassurance as to WHY we're engaging in a LDR with no foreseeable end. Some reason that it's worth doing it.
I have tried talking to him about it. He mentioned that he didn't want to be one of those people who start taking the next step in their relationship because they reach a certain age. He also said he can't tell me he knows he wants to be with me because he doesn't know, and that he doesn't know what will happen in the future.
I just don't know if this is a waste of my time and energy. I know that if it was one of my friends asking me for advice I would tell them to let him go and move on if he can't make up his mind about you. But for some reason it's harder to see when it's your own life. I know he loves me and I know he's indecisive about almost everything else. Maybe he's taking me sticking by him for granted? I just don't know.
So should I stay or should I go? Any insight or advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Long term, newly long distance boyfriend won't make any plans for the future. I think I might be wasting time and energy. | Long term, newly long distance boyfriend won't make any plans for the future. I think I might be wasting time and energy. | 659 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Sublet and deposit issues. Boston.
POST: Hello /r/legaladvice!
I posted before asking about my landlord.
Situation's done and I've moved out, however, now, the person I'm subletting from is refusing to give me back my deposit until he gets his deposit back. I don't know about his situation and his deposit, but I gave him a few notices saying that I've returned my keys, and it's been 30 days, and I expect a check. His response is that since he has not received his check, he will not give me my deposit until he receives his.
What are my options here? Do I wait? What's also troubling is that he is from out of the country, and he is going back home (the middle east, I think) for the summer, so this part slightly worries me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | rented a sublet illegally without knowing, moved out after the landlord told me to leave, returned my keys, and original renter is not returning my deposit as he supposedly didn't get his deposit. | rented a sublet illegally without knowing, moved out after the landlord told me to leave, returned my keys, and original renter is not returning my deposit as he supposedly didn't get his deposit. | 3,692 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: What to do with our LTR if one person moves out of the country? (22F/22M)
POST: We've been together for three years. My SO (22M) and I (22F) have been living together for the past two years. My lifelong dream has been to move to Japan and now I have the opportunity to do so -- I can go to grad school there. My SO on the other hand is completely disinterested in anything related to Japan, so there's absolutely no chance that he'd come with me. Neither of us have been in long distance relationships before and honestly I think it'd break our relationship, since our relationship has a strong physical component.
I'm torn between my dream and my relationship. What should I do? If you've been in the same situation before, what did you do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | It's my dream to go to Japan and now I can. However my SO of 3 years can't come with me. What to do? | It's my dream to go to Japan and now I can. However my SO of 3 years can't come with me. What to do? | 4,718 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Went to Marshall's, fit into size 6 Michael Kors skinny jeans ... Promptly did a happy dance. (progress pics)
POST: F/23/5'2" SW: 190lbs GW: 135lbs CW: 140lbs -- -50lbs since January
I've been lurking on here and commenting on other peoples' amazing success stories since January, and after today's little NSV, I decided it might be time to share some pictures.
In January, after seeing a picture of myself from Christmas (in album), I decided it was time for a change. For as long as I can remember, I had been overweight (obese, to be honest). I was unhappy and hopeless and pretty much had resigned myself to being that way forever. Fat and alone forever, if you will. Then, as I said, I saw that picture and I decided enough was enough. Something inside me just clicked and I got up off my ass, called the gym and bought a membership. It still took me a week after buying said membership to actually step foot in the gym, but I did it. I downloaded a C25K app, started logging EVERYTHING I consumed into MyFitnessPal, and bought a Fitbit. Those three things together had the pounds just falling off of me.
It's now 8 months later and I am 50 lbs lighter. I can run 4 miles without stopping, and I consistently eat between 1200-1400 calories a day. I'm still 5lbs from my original goal, and those last 5lbs aren't coming off easily -- but I'm happy with myself. Not just happy, I friggin love myself, you guys. I think I look damn good and I finally have the confidence to just be myself.
Anyway, thanks for reading this far. And thanks to all of you inspiring people out there. You all are THE BEST motivation a girl could ask for. Keep on keeping on, friends.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl sees photo of herself, snaps, starts running and counting calories, loses 50 lbs and is ecstatic with herself. Yippee! | Girl sees photo of herself, snaps, starts running and counting calories, loses 50 lbs and is ecstatic with herself. Yippee! | 4,205 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] dating someone [19F] who doesn't believe in love
POST: Well, first I should tell you a little bit about her. I know her since we're very young (10 yo), but she was just a friend I didn't have much relation with. After years of not being in touch with her, we met at college in 2014. We started talking more and more, and I discovered that she was extremely smart and we shared a lot of interests.
Long story short, after a lot of comings and goings we started dating like 3 months ago.
She is very weird in many aspects: she doesn't like hugs or holding hands, she doesn't like me to tell her cute things. And of course she never does this things unless I ask her to.
She has already told me more than once that she doesn't believe in love, that she only "loved" once (an ex bf she had). She says that she is never gonna love again.
Sometimes she tells me really mean things. For example, the other day we were chatting and she asked me if I could ever be unfaithful to her (I told her that of course no). Then I asked her the same question and she told me that she couldn't answer because she never knows what can happen. She then told me not to listen to what she'd said. This is just one example from many.
On the other hand, I have to admit that she is really honest, she is really confused with herself and if I have to describe her I'd say she doesn't even like herself. And I forgot to tell, last year we were in a kind of relationship that wasn't serious, I wanted to date her but she didn't cause she still hadn't really overcome her ex (and she told me that).
I think she has some psychiatric issues like bipolarity and alexithymia.
What should I do? Any advices? Am I exaggerating a little bit? Is she isn't that weird or unloving? Thank you very much
P.S: her mother died when she was very young (6 yo), that certainly had a major impact on her personality
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TL;DR: . Assistant: | i'm dating someone who doesn't believe in love. I've been having an informal relationship with her for almost 2 years but now we are officially because she has overcome her ex. | i'm dating someone who doesn't believe in love. I've been having an informal relationship with her for almost 2 years but now we are officially because she has overcome her ex. | 3,204 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my boyfriend [21 M] of 7 years, just broke up and I need to vent
POST: I just broke up with the only guy I have ever dated yesterday. We were together for seven years and he has been my best, and for a while, only friend. But I had to do it. I wasn't happy anymore. He has a good heart but is very weird when it comes to relationships. He would always find something to start a fight over, always finding ways of guilting and blaming me for things I didn't even do. We were fighting at least once a month over things that no one should ever get angry about. I finally had enough, the stress became too much for me to handle and I ended it. It was so hard to do but even though it hurts like hell I already feel some relief. His best friend and I have become good friends over the past year and he supports me fully. He has seen how my ex has treated me and told me it was in my best interest that I go ahead and end it. It feels good to know that even his best friend sees how my ex has treated me and doesn't like it. I may feel extremely lonely right now and that I will never find someone else, but I know that that isn't true. I just have to do my best to push through this and stay strong.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Broke up with boyfriend of seven years, his best friend supports my decision and I have to stay strong and not let the loneliness get the best of me. | Broke up with boyfriend of seven years, his best friend supports my decision and I have to stay strong and not let the loneliness get the best of me. | 4,915 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (M20) give my ex (F20) more time to get over me?
POST: Hey guys and gals,
So recently, within the past week, I broke up with my girlfriend (20)of almost 10 months. We had a pretty good thing for the most part but I (20) could't continue the relationship due to sexual reasons.
So I broke up with her and she took it pretty badly at first, but after around 2 days she seemed better about it and we smiled and talked and laughed with each other like we used to.
Now, one of my fears is that I haven't given her enough time or space to get over me properly. I know she's a big girl and can handle herself, but we were each other's first true love. So I think it may be harder to get over me than I realized and I'm wondering if I'm making a mistake by continuing to talk with her so soon after our breakup.
I've told her my fears and how it may not be a good idea to talk and what not but she didn't seem like it would be an issue. But now I want your opinion reddit. What would you do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm worried I'm not giving enough space for my gf to get over me in our post-breakup state. | I'm worried I'm not giving enough space for my gf to get over me in our post-breakup state. | 425 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dogs
TITLE: New dog owner here, feeling unliked by my dog.
POST: My wife and I just adopted a new dog about a week and a half ago. She's a little over a year old, and she's a Yorkie-dachshund mix. When we got her, she was glued to both of us all the time. Followed us everywhere, cried when we weren't around, etc.
Within the past few days or so I've noticed that she only does this with my wife now, and I have no idea why. Nothing has changed in terms of what we do with her. We both play with her, feed her, take her for walks, etc. Sometimes we do these things together, sometimes individually. I really couldn't say that one of us does any more than the other in these areas.
Here's an example. We crate the dog when nobody is home, so we did this before the two of us went out today to get groceries. When we came back home, our dog was very excited. I opened her crate, but she blew right by me and ran up to my wife. She didn't even acknowledge I was there.
I've been spending a lot more time with her in general because I'm a teacher and have been home with her more. Might that have something to do with it? Could she be getting bored with the person who is around more often, and gets more excited around my wife because she sees less of her?
This is my first dog. My wife grew up with them, but even she's stumped as to why this is happening. Our dog isn't mean towards me (growling, etc.), just seemingly apathetic unless I'm the one making an effort. In other words, she'll play with me if I initiate it. Otherwise, she kind of ignores me.
Any thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dog seems to like the Mrs. more than me despite me giving her plenty of attention and sharing in the responsibilities equally. | Dog seems to like the Mrs. more than me despite me giving her plenty of attention and sharing in the responsibilities equally. | 4,934 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Mixed gas & oil in the lawnmower... HELP!
POST: Okay Reddit, here's the story. Dad gets a new lawnmower, I see only one tube to put gas into. I pour it down that gas tube, but I notice that it's smaller than our last lawnmower. I poured a LOT into it...
Without thinking too much, I go out and hold down the lever and pull the cord. The engine starts for 2 seconds and starts and then dies down and kills itself. I realize that there's another tank separately for gas and oil (was not aware of this...). I read Google and people tell me to pour the entire mixture out of the oil tank.
I did so and all of it was poured out. I leave the valve open and let it dry for 36 hours. I come back and pour in a new oil. I slowly pulled the cord to "let some oil into the engine to hopefully clean out the bad mixture that might have gotten in." Then I pour out that old mixture and pour in new oil again for "clean" oil. I go and try to start the lawnmower and it isn't starting properly.
I know what I did was wrong and I don't need people reminding me that I made a mistake, my only question is... what do I do at this point? Is the motor for the lawnmower totally shot? What does Reddit think?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Mixed gas & oil. Tried to start it. Might've fed it up. Poured out the mixture and poured in just oil. Still doesn't work. Help? | Mixed gas & oil. Tried to start it. Might've fed it up. Poured out the mixture and poured in just oil. Still doesn't work. Help? | 1,051 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20M] just met an amazing woman [20F] at work, but am considering marrying my [23 F] girlfriend of 3 years. Should I just keep away?
POST: I just started a new job, and I've really hit it off with this gorgeous coworker. She's clearly interested in me too and has been dropping hints that I should ask her out sometime. I have no way of knowing if things could even work out between us (for one thing, I'm pretty religious and I don't even know if she is, which would be a dealbreaker for me) but something in me really wants to try it.
The problem is that I've put off mentioning to this girl that I'm in a pretty serious long-distance relationship with my girlfriend of three years. In fact, I'm considering marrying her. We've been dating since the summer before my freshman year of college, and I really do love her, but our relationship can be rocky sometimes. My friends have said that they think I'm good for her but they're not convinced that she's good for me.
The fact that we're long-distance makes things harder, because I only get to see her once or twice a year. I've only dated one girl before this so I don't know if I'm missing out on a really fulfilling, amazing relationship.
I don't want to lead this new girl on so I need to make a decision either way. If I decide to pursue something with this coworker, it's going to break my heart to end things with my current girlfriend. We've talked about marriage and she's expecting it at this point, so I'm scared of destroying her emotionally if I leave. Is it worth that pain for me to continue getting to know this new woman and possibly even end things with my current SO?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Met a new girl, not sure if I should marry my SO, am scared to give up a good thing for the potential for something better. | Met a new girl, not sure if I should marry my SO, am scared to give up a good thing for the potential for something better. | 5,965 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 F] can't have my Boyfriend [29 M] watch women perform solo in Porn but two-somes, three-somes or more-somes are fine with me
POST: We are in a distance relationship of two years by now and we do watch porn seperately or together or do just the skype fun BUT i simply cant have him watch women masturbate solo. I don't like the image of him jerking off to a woman that is masturbating on her own. Maybe it is because its the only thing that he can do with me, so why look at another girl who basically fakes it anyway? It feels to intimate to me because he is focusing on one girl, not two or more people having fun.
He of course doesn't understand my standpoint AT ALL and thinks that i am unreasonable. To him it makes no difference if he watches two girls or one. He even laughed at me sayin: shall i pause a porn as soon as she touches herself?
He also says that he isn't looking at anyone specific, he has no favorite porn star.
What do you guys think? Am I being unreasonable?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I can't have my Boyfriend watch one girl masturbate on porn because this feels too intimate compared to two people having sex (or more) | I can't have my Boyfriend watch one girl masturbate on porn because this feels too intimate compared to two people having sex (or more) | 4,614 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] and my dead friend's ex [26 F] kissed and may turn into something more.
POST: So the story begins with one of my best friends dying of a drug overdose back in April of 2010. He had recently had a baby with his girlfriend at the time. He was a very good friend of mine and his death really affected our friend group hard.
Recently, me and his (ex?)Girlfriend were out with some friends and, to make a long story short, we ended of kissing (just kissing) in my driveway until morning. It was possibly one of the best kisses I've ever had. Afterwards, I walked her back to her car and we both went home to sleep. Nothing too serious has come of it since then (we're supposed to get together today for a while).
However, since that night I have been feeling terrible about it. I've been thinking about nothing but how friends/family are going to react that I'm seeing my dead best friend's child's mother. I guess my question is, if something serious does come of this, how do I tell my friends/family?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Me and my dead friend's child's mother had a great kiss and now I am worried about the reaction of friends and family if we start dating. | Me and my dead friend's child's mother had a great kiss and now I am worried about the reaction of friends and family if we start dating. | 5,473 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [38M] with girlfriend [27F] of 4 months - I love her but I'm probably not ready for this. I think I'm holding at least one other person (coworker, 25F) in 'reserve'
POST: I've posted on this before. I've been dating this girl for several months now. Sexually, intellectually, emotionally, we're very compatible. We talk all the time. We both have kids (shes a widow and I'm separated / divorcing - relationship ended over 6 months ago).
Bottom line - I still like flirting with other girls. I flirted with two ladies at work yesterday, in fact - one a contractor who I've seen periodically, another is a colleague who I've been flirty with (but also work on legitimate projects with), for the last two years. In terms of the latter, I've kept it nominally professional but I continue to find excuses / ways to hang out with her. It looks like I'll probably have coffee or a drink with her after work sometime next week, ostensibly to talk about a project she and I are working on. I've told myself I wouldn't make any moves on her until she finds work somewhere else though... Which she may even do sometime in the near future (she's applied for a transfer to one of our neighboring local offices). Anyways, my girlfriend knows about nearly all of this, she also knows I've had a crush on her. She's put up with this for some reason.
In terms of my GF, I don't need to be told again, "break up with her." I'm conflicted, obviously. How will this end? I don't think I'm going to marry my GF. I don't see this lasting forever. Which makes me sad. But I feel stuck. I feel like I can't give her up but I can't be on this 100% either, because I want to essentially (I guess) sleep with other women.
Anyways, comments appreciated. I don't really have a lifetime of dating or relationship experience so all of this is very new to me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | In love with my GF but I continue to feel like I'm not 100% into this and it scares me a little. Holding an officemate "in reserve." How will this end? | In love with my GF but I continue to feel like I'm not 100% into this and it scares me a little. Holding an officemate "in reserve." How will this end? | 5,112 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Told off my friend/boss, what to do?
POST: So I was at a party with my friend (who happens to also be my boss) and the girl I've been seeing/hooking up with. It's a pretty big party and everyone is drinking etc. My girl is acting kinda weird, flirty with other guys and generally not too attentive to me. I tell her I'm feeling tired and want to leave. I walk outside briefly and when I return she's making out with my friend/boss. Basically ended with me telling him off, to go fuck himself, that he fucked up etc and with her begging me to get in the car with her. I ended up getting dropped off by someone else altogether. They both seemed fairly sorry but I still haven't really talked to either one since. Not sure what to do, lots of mixed feelings, work is approaching on Tuesday and ill have to see him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend who is also my boss kissed a girl I'm seeing and I told them both to fuck themselves, don't know how it's gonna be returning to work on Tuesday or what to do | My friend who is also my boss kissed a girl I'm seeing and I told them both to fuck themselves, don't know how it's gonna be returning to work on Tuesday or what to do | 610 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [22M] father [52M] keeps subtly bringing up the idea of divorcing my mother [52F]. Not sure how to deal with this.
POST: My mother and I have a rocky relationship. For example she ruined my graduation, is nasty and ungrateful to my dad and sister (who both still live at home), and plays the martyr a lot. I really don't like her.
I moved across the country for college four years ago and didn't plan on moving back because of my family. My dad first made a joke about divorcing my mom about six months ago, when they were arguing about whether they should sell the house my sister and I grew up in. She wanted to move away from the city, he wanted to move into the city, and I guess they got into a big fight.
He then brought it up again when my mom got a dog against my dad's wishes. She said that now that she's an empty nester, she deserves the dog, and didn't care what my dad thought. I was especially pissed at her because she got the same breed as my dog who died a year ago after I specifically asked her not to.
This weekend was my graduation. My mom and I had a huge fight about something that I tried to keep between us but she made it apparent to the rest of my family who flew out to visit me. My dad was talking me out of a panic attack for the majority of dinner, and he brought up divorcing my mom again. I kind of pressed a little bit saying "I don't want you to stay in a marriage if you're unhappy" and he said "sometimes it's better to just not rock the boat." I left it at that.
I might be biased right now because I'm really really upset with my mom to the point where I'm weighing cutting her out of my life, but these comments by my dad are kind of eating away at me. What should I do about this? I don't want my dad to be unhappy but he seems to be flirting with the idea of divorce.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I dislike my mom. My dad keeps floating the idea of divorce in very small and subtle ways. I don't want to encourage him because of my biases. I also don't want him to stay married if he's unhappy. | I dislike my mom. My dad keeps floating the idea of divorce in very small and subtle ways. I don't want to encourage him because of my biases. I also don't want him to stay married if he's unhappy. | 3,104 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(20M) Bumped into an old friend(20f) not sure if I might be crossing a line.
POST: So I just started school in my home state and it turns out I have class with a really good friend from awhile back that ended, I would say painfully/unpleasantly.
I met (20F) around middle schools and we became "bf and gf" (as much as that is in middle school) I like her a lot and even when we broke up we usually talked and hung out quite a bit. however one day I kinda just stopped talking to her, and even when she made quite explicit attempts to reconnect I ignored them ( this was around soph. year of high school). The reason being is that I had to change from my mother's house to my father's and he was extremely abusive. I felt like I didn't want to be around anyone one after that, I was convinced that I would hurt them and I was embarrassed about my home life. I used to be a really out-going charismatic and fun guy, but after living with my father for a short 2-3 years father's I was essentially dead inside. I could never even imagine having the time that I had had back then. thus I never tried to get back in touch. I pretty confident that I hurt her, however maybe she doesn't see it that way at all?
When I saw her today, I said hi and gave her a hug, told her it was good to see her and got her number so we could keep in touch. However when class ended she left quickly and made no attempt to say anything. I'm not sure if it means nothing or not. I'd really like to just sit down with her and at least say sorry. I feel quite bad about it. I'd like to know how to best handle the situation, my plan was to call her and meet her for coffee around lunch sometime next week apologize and then hopefully catch up and maybe set a precedent for another meet.
Let me know what you think, I appreciate it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | bumped into an old friend and wondering if it would be rude to hope to become friends again because of what I did last time. | bumped into an old friend and wondering if it would be rude to hope to become friends again because of what I did last time. | 4,167 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Have you ever been embarrassed by something your friends did in public?
POST: I wandered into a McDonalds with my grandparents on a whim. Gran ordered two coffees and three ice-creams (one in a cup, two in a cone). A few seconds after ordering, my grandpa decides he doesn't want coffee after all! Instead of simply not drinking the $1 cup of joe, my gran asked the friendly register lady for a refund. There is a mix-up in communication and after a few minutes of fiddling with the register, the manager gives my gran a $1.07 refund for one of the ice creams, not the coffee. At this point there is a family in line behind us, but do my grandparents move? nope! They stand right in front of the register until our order comes, which they find is missing an ice cream and has an extra coffee. They call the manager back to redo the refund. After a bit more fiddling, he gives us the ice cream and takes away a coffee. I'm ready to get the hell out of there at this point because the family behind us is tapping their feet impatiently. I grab the coffee and 2/3 ice creams and sit down. My gran grabs the last ice cream, which was a cone because I had her cup-of-ice-cream at the table. She thinks they made another mistake and forcefully asks them to put the vanilla treat into a cup! They do, exasperated with my gran at this point. When she comes back to the table she realizes we now have two ice creams in cups and only one cone (which I'm happily munching on!). She once again cuts to the front of the line and asks for spoons and another cone, not a cup of ice cream. This really pissed me off. My grandparents were completely oblivious to the fact they were wasting everyone's time, they were only focused on themselves. So, when have you wished you could crawl under a rock in shame because of the inconsiderate things your family or friends have done?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My gran wasted 20 minutes at a McDonalds trying to order coffee and ice cream while the family behind us waited impatiently. | My gran wasted 20 minutes at a McDonalds trying to order coffee and ice cream while the family behind us waited impatiently. | 3,296 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me, [20/f] need advice on whether or not to give up on this boy I've been interested in [21/m] for a few months.
POST: About five months ago, I was invited to a friends house for beer pong and when I showed up I instantly noticed this adorable boy who was just smiling at me. I literally knew right then that I was interested, and throughout the night we would pick on each other/flirt and the same thing occurred every time we ran into eachother. He's a virgin, and has had only one girlfriend before, in high school.
A few months after meeting, I tweeted "I need a Pisces" and he responded saying "I'm a Pisces, js". I was so excited about it and we've texted a few times and hangout with his best friend and girlfriend, who happens to be one of my best friends. One night we were messing around and playing and we ended up holding hands kind of and he fell asleep.
However, he's pretty awkward and seems like he doesn't know how to make a move. I've made it pretty obvious I'm interested and nothing really has happened. But I know if we ever got past this awkward stage we would have something great, help!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I have a crush on a virgin who doesn't know how to make moves on a girl and I don't know how to move forward. | I have a crush on a virgin who doesn't know how to make moves on a girl and I don't know how to move forward. | 4,159 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my Girlfriend [16F] of 10 Months, To Argue or Not to Argue
POST: Disclaimer: I am new to this subreddit. Help would be appreciated :)
This is my first relationship, and I do not want to break up with my girlfriend. I know this is a very simple thing to say as a high schooler, but my question is whether I get mad at her about is justifiable.
Recently, she has been more distant with me and has not been replying to me as fast or with the same upbeat attitude she's had in the past. As a result, I do not feel the love in the relationship as much as I once did. It seems like her attitude is affecting me to not be as talkative which has led me to call her out on this. I've asked her multiple times to tell me why she seems more distant and if it's a problem with me, but she keeps saying, "idk, sorry". At this point, I got tired of it and told her that I won't talk to her until she wants to start a conversation for once and not seem like I'm boring her.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My girlfriend seems distant, so I called her out on it; thus, I told her not to talk to me until she could start a convo with me and not sound like she's bored. | My girlfriend seems distant, so I called her out on it; thus, I told her not to talk to me until she could start a convo with me and not sound like she's bored. | 1,101 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24 F] am on a vacation with two different groups of friends who aren't getting along.
POST: I am on vacation at the beach with some friends. We are staying at a house who was rented by 9 of us, including me. All the people staying at this house - guys and girls - are from my hometown.
And so in another house there are four guys I met at the university and two of them are my close friends. They will show up everyday at the house I am staying at and invite us to have meals and some beers together, but it seems to not be reciprocal.
The people at the house I am at clearly show no interest in relating to the guys, for no apparent reason, and so I don't know what to do because I want to hang out with all of them - and it makes me very sad to care about friends who seems just to "not like some kind of people" very much.
What should I do, reddit?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | people don't like each other for no apparent reason. I am the only person both groups know and I am trapped in a beach house for a week. | people don't like each other for no apparent reason. I am the only person both groups know and I am trapped in a beach house for a week. | 1,708 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My Mom is suddenly desperate for us to spare my judgey, homophobic grandparents from any emotional discomfort. Why does this make me so mad?
POST: For my entire life my maternal grandparents have been openly disappointed in everything their offspring, son-in-law and grandchildren have done. To boil our situation down to a few basic examples: My Mom married a blue-collar worker (my grandfather treats my Dad like he is a moron because he fixes cars for a living), my uncle is gay, I have lots of tattoos am an opinionated liberal and make my money working in retail while my brother quit college to make money hand over fist tending bar for a living. (We are all very happy with our choices BTW.)
Over the years they have said countless cruel things such as telling my uncle that it would have been better if he had just kept his being gay to himself. However, as of late I've been having these huge arguments with my mother because she suddenly wants us all to stop sharing with them any details of our lives that they might find upsetting. (Her thought process being that they are getting older and our sharing said information would just cause them un-necessary discomfort.) SUDDENLY I HAVE TO WALK ON EGG SHELLS TO PROTECT THEIR DELICATE FEELINGS?!?
Reddit, am I wrong to be so pissed with her or should I just play along.?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My hater grandparents are getting old; my Mom is now demanding that we be respectful of their age and not upset them. | My hater grandparents are getting old; my Mom is now demanding that we be respectful of their age and not upset them. | 3,977 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [19M] girlfriend [21F] of 14 months broke up with me a few months ago and now I love her more than ever
POST: So a bit of backstory. Me and my ex-girlfriend met in work almost 2 years ago, I was 18, she was 20. We instantly hit it off and I asked her out after a month, she said yes.
Things went pretty well for most of it. She was the first person I had sex with and I was her first boyfriend who treated her right. But the last 2 or 3 months of our relationship became a little bit rocky. I worked a lot and she had University so we struggled to see each other. I'm also not much of a texter but I really tried for her because I know she wanted to talk to me even though it wasn't enough.
A few times in those months I myself questioned whether we where meant to be together but whenever I thought about not having her in my life I felt sick. I knew I still loved her. But back in mid March she texted me telling me we had to meet up because she wanted to tell me something in person. I told her that all I could think was that she either cheated on me or was breaking up with me, so really I forced her into breaking up with me over text.
The first few days where kind of shit but I got over her relatively quickly, and after a week I wasn't really thinking about her at all. But about 2 weeks ago someone mentioned something to do with her and all these feelings I had for her instantly came rushing back like a tidal wave and I felt sick knowing she didn't love me anymore.
So I've basically spent the last 2 weeks with the intense feeling of butterflies in my stomach because I love this person so much that I can't stop thinking about them but knowing they don't love me back.
I have the opportunity to go to a wedding we where both invited to when we where dating (we both know the people getting married) but since she's a bridesmaid she's obviously going to be there so it's kinda been taken for granted that I'm not going even though I still work with the bride and everyone I work with (about 70 people) is going. I don't know if I should go or not.
Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I still love my ex-girlfriend and cant get over her. I'm invited to a wedding that she's a bridesmaid at, should I go? And what do I do in general? | I still love my ex-girlfriend and cant get over her. I'm invited to a wedding that she's a bridesmaid at, should I go? And what do I do in general? | 4,923 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Advice On Approach
POST: I'm 22/M and she is 20. We both go to the same university.
First let me preface this by saying that I haven't dated in about 4 years. My last relationship was during my junior/senior year in high school and it lasted almost 2 years before it ended badly. Just thought you guys should know so you have some background info.
Now for where I need advice. I haven't quite met this girl yet, but I saw her at my roommate's ex-girlfriend's apartment. My roommate and I live just a few doors down from them. Based on what I can gather from friends that went to high school with her and a quick glance at her facebook page, she seems like she would be a pretty good match for me.
So I guess the question that I am posing is how should I go about getting to know this girl? Should I just outright ask my neighbors about her and if they would be willing to set me up on a date or invite her to a group get together type thing.?
If the latter option happens (group get together), any advice on how to know if I should ask on her on a date will be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girl I want to pursue is a friend of my roommate's ex. Not sure how to approach getting to know her. | Girl I want to pursue is a friend of my roommate's ex. Not sure how to approach getting to know her. | 453 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with a[23 F] I've been talking to went dark. No clue why
POST: Never met this chick in person. She messaged me on an online dating website almost two weeks ago.
We've been texting religiously everyday for the entirety of the two weeks. Our schedules just haven't worked out since she had some events going on and I was out of town.
We last chatted Saturday and the conversation casually ended with a "let me know how your thing goes tonight".
Now, I've never been clingy - just not that type of person. We use a messaging app so I know she has seen my message on Saturday. She didn't say okay or even respond to it. Fair enough. No message on Sunday.
Monday rolls around, I send a "Hey, How's it going". She checks the message instantly, but doesn't respond at all.
This is super-weird because we chat back and forth all day. I thought that maybe she was tired of texting through the app because she mentioned she downloaded it just for me and mentioned that I get a sim card so we could SMS. So, I thought I'd call her. I called her from my house phone (yes, I have one) and left a message. She never called back, never texted. I should also mention that she also consistently initiated the conversation, too
This is all really odd to me since we had planned on going on a date this week. I thought that maybe she is talking to someone else, too (which is fine). However, she is online on the dating site right now.
Can someone make sense of this for me? I am baffled. What is my next step or should I just leave it alone and move on? I already left her a voicemail and the last thing I want is to come off clingy
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I've been chatting with a girl from online via text for two weeks everyday, abruptly stops communicating with me. Don't know why | I've been chatting with a girl from online via text for two weeks everyday, abruptly stops communicating with me. Don't know why | 3,946 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Opinion on (20F) never dating anyone?
POST: I'm 20 years old and I've never dated anyone. It kind of hurts me when people say, "Wow, really? You haven't even kissed anyone?"
And the answer is no. Never kissed. Never loved and never have been loved.
I don't think I could handle a relationship. I'd love to be with someone but I don't think anyone views me in that way. I've never had a guy even look at me in that way.
This might sound weird but I don't want to be a burden to someone? No one wants to date someone with daddy issues, and I have a few. I just don't think I can provide what other people deserve. I know what you're thinking, "oh she sounds depressed", nope just being honest!
It kinda makes me sad to see happy couples. I love that they're together don't get me wrong, but I envy it. No one thinks of me in that sense. I've always just been the good friend.
What do you guys/gals think? Would you honestly date someone that had "daddy issues"? Any hope for me?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | not trying to be a sob story. Don't think I'm relationship material because of emotional issues and or people not looking at me that way | not trying to be a sob story. Don't think I'm relationship material because of emotional issues and or people not looking at me that way | 3,327 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Help! Someone keyed my car last week, managed to get ahold of video footage but it's not completely clear. I know 100% who did it, what to do now? :(
POST: Last week, a valet guy came up to me and yelled at me/my mom saying we didn't have "his permission" to park. I had entered and the valet booth was vacated, so we just parked wherever. He came storming into the restaurant, screaming, demanding that we give up our keys or otherwise he would call the police. Obviously I wasn't about to be threatened by this guy, so I told him that if he didn't want us to "park without his permission" he should be doing his job properly. He stormed off in a rage, when I came home my car was keyed. I managed to get some poor quality footage from the restaurant which very unclearly shows him at the back of my car, although I can't see him keying my car with certainty. I know 100% it is him after seeing this footage. The footage isn't good enough for a police report. I don't know what to do; the damage to my car was pretty bad :( someone's suggesting at least $1000+ to fix the scratch.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | guy keyed my car, have poor footage that isn't going to help with a police report/arrest. what to do? | guy keyed my car, have poor footage that isn't going to help with a police report/arrest. what to do? | 682 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I believe in an abstract God and Girlfriend can't be with me because I disagree with her God. Need some advice for these feels please
POST: I am a philosophy graduate, read a lot, have done my research, and have come to my own personal conclusions. Me and my girlfriend had a talk tonight where I basically told her what I believed in God... and it is not like her God.... Point where we specifically disagreed is where she believes that if you believe and trust in God he will help you... something like that. Long story short I support her beliefs as we have been together for more than a year and have said the "i love you" to each other. She... on the other hand got mad at me various times and twice said "If you really believe that I can't be with you". I told her that I have come to my conclusions through research and hard thought.... and am sorry if she disagrees...... I am mega bummed. I can't stand the thought of being with someone who will not be with me for my being critical of my beliefs. What should I do? I think I should break up with her.... I didn't expect hearing this from someone I love... let alone someone who loves me.... I especially felt that considering the fact that I DO believe in a God... just not hers...... Help me everyone! What should I do? She left the house when I told her to and now I'm mega sad.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF told me she can't be with me because I don't believe in her God and now IDK what to do! | GF told me she can't be with me because I don't believe in her God and now IDK what to do! | 2,441 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Help! I feel like that crazy girlfriend and know something needs to change.
POST: I am 21F and my boyfriend is 22M. We've been dating for about 9 months now but have been friends for 4+ years. I'm his first girlfriend.
In my eyes, our relationship is like a wonderful dream. I've been in a long term relationship before (2 years) and it ended fairly amicable, but I know how shitty dating can be. We have so much in common, share wonderful memories and crack up together. We are in love. I'm cynical when it comes to relationships because I've experienced failure after failure, not to mention my parents are divorced.
We argue, a lot. Over almost anything. Usually, its my fault, but he's admitted we both can be childish at points. Our fights are passionate, usually quick, and we move on within the day. This taints the better part of our relationship, but not enough for either of us to want to end it. Although, we did break up about 5 months ago for maybe a week. (It was a drunken break up)
If I were to describe our relationship from his point of view, you all would probably think I was a psycho. I'm clingy and have a temper. I can be too sensitive and crave attention. Honestly, I hate it, and he knows I hate it. Change isn't easy to come by, and there are some emotional/depression/self esteem issues I should work out on my own.
I guess my question is, how can I change my attitude to be a better girlfriend? Or should we break up for a while so I don't feel so attached to him? I see so much potential in our future together and love him dearly. I just want to make the right choices.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I feel like that crazy girlfriend and want to be better so I can have a healthier relationship. Should we break up to save our potentially awesome relationship? | I feel like that crazy girlfriend and want to be better so I can have a healthier relationship. Should we break up to save our potentially awesome relationship? | 870 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of one year are completely naive on how to deal with the stresses of a long distance relationship
POST: We've been dating for about a year and a half now, having started in high school, and now we're in college. We ended up going to different colleges, and with that came the stress of a long distance relationship. She is and was my first and only girlfriend, and aside from a short middle school fling, I'm her only boyfriend. On to the problem-
We both feel that we're 'growing apart'. Over the time from when we started college we've been able to visit each other for a weekend here and there, but never long term. This wouldn't really be that bad, considering when we first started dating we only saw each other for a short time during the week; we mostly communicated through an instant messenger. However, I think that the distance and different circumstances have highlighted a glaring fact- we really don't have all that much in common. When we were in highschool, we could hide this by talking about classes and the like, but now that we don't have any classes, teachers, or experiences in common, our chatting has dried to just about nil.
I am quite the extrovert and can't stand staying inside for a whole day, whereas she is quite introverted and wouldn't mind spending a day in bed doing nothing. I have an array of hobbies (not the least of which is dicking around on this website :P), whereas she tends to try something a bit on my suggestion, and quickly decide it's not for her, and go back to her pastime of rewatching TV shows she's already seen.
I enjoy being around her, and going on dates is enjoyable. We don't have any 'dramatic' issues, and haven't had any fights in the time we've been together. But I think that deep down we are sort of seeing that that might just be a byproduct of the fact that we don't have much at all in common to have any sort of passionate argument about.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend of 1.5 years and I feel like we are growing apart- is it just a normal feeling caused by a long-distance relationship, or is it a sign that we aren't meant to be long-term? | Girlfriend of 1.5 years and I feel like we are growing apart- is it just a normal feeling caused by a long-distance relationship, or is it a sign that we aren't meant to be long-term? | 1,769 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I thought I was obvious, Reddit what do you think?
POST: Hey, here is a brief summary of our current situation. So I have been friends with this girl for almost a year. This semester (I am in 3rd year university) I haven't been able to get her off my mind. She has had an on and off relationship, but still I am the guy she turns to on a regular basis. I buy her drinks, food (when we go out in a group), walk her home, ect. My friends all see that I like her, and they like hanging out with here (which is a major thing her on and off guy's friends don't). Recently, I have been more forward especially since she is ~= off with the other guy. I sent this message and got this reply. It went better than I expected. Reddit, am I still friendzoned, or do you think she knows I was asking her out?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Like this girl, have possibly been friendzoned but my friends see that we have a connection despite her on and off bf. Was I forward in asking her out and does she know? | Like this girl, have possibly been friendzoned but my friends see that we have a connection despite her on and off bf. Was I forward in asking her out and does she know? | 5,733 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [21 F] I have never really dated and I am worried that I am starting behind the curve
POST: I am a 21 year old female, I have been in one 2 month relationship but it didn't really go any where mainly because I was really uncomfortable. I am worried that now that I am starting to look at the dating scene that my inexperience will mean that I am setting my self up to fail as any one I have talked to has seemed to expect sex and I am not ready for that for a while as I will have to feel really comfortable to do that with someone.
I also am wondering if there is something wrong with me as very few people have expressed interest in dating me, and if there is anything I can do to make it more obvious I am open to a relationship.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I am a little insecure with my self and worry that not having any experience dating at 21 will make dating more difficult. Am I just making things harder for myself? | I am a little insecure with my self and worry that not having any experience dating at 21 will make dating more difficult. Am I just making things harder for myself? | 5,761 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Am I being too picky? Internet dating question...
POST: I (25/f) recently joined an internet dating site, because the college town I live in is very cliquey and it's pretty hard to meet new people outside of my social circle. I'll come right out and say that I'm attractive and in good shape, so I got quite a few responses within the first few days of being on the site. I briefly chatted/emailed with a few guys with the intention to meet up soon, as I didn't join to become someone's online pen pal. In their photos, all of the guys seemed relatively attractive, but when I met up with them in person, not so much. Out of the 3 I've met up with so far, maybe one of them I could see myself being physically attracted to if I get to know him better. The other 2 were so nice, but there's no physical attraction on my end. There's nothing wrong with them, per se, they just look different (and not as good) in real life than they did in their pictures. A little softer and rounder, too. They're all definitely attracted to me. I've always thought of physical attraction as a main motivator for a romantic relationship, but these experiences have left me feeling very superficial and weird.
I had been in a long term relationship for 3 years until last fall, and I never really "dated" before that, so I don't know how to tell these guys I'm not interested in a nice way. I don't really even want to be friends with them. They're calling and texting and I'm trying to be non-chalant about it but I don't want to string them along. Am I being way too superficial? Should I give these guys a chance even though I'm really not attracted to them? I don't want to lead them on if they're destined to the friend-zone. Give up on internet dating already?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Trying online dating but the guys I meet are way more attracted to me than I am to them. Advice on how to let them down easy? Or, how to be less superficial? | Trying online dating but the guys I meet are way more attracted to me than I am to them. Advice on how to let them down easy? Or, how to be less superficial? | 1,196 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [19F] can't trust my SO [20M] of 6 months, but I really want to.
POST: Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for six months, and I really do love him, and I really want to trust him and spend the rest of my life with him.
The problem is that I am very insecure, and he hasn't helped much with that. He showers me with compliments all the time, but then he'll start talking to other girls, and get pictures of them and stuff. He swears that he doesn't ask for anything like that and it just happens, but I find that hard to believe.
Also, his best friend is really rude to me, and always encouraging my boyfriend to look at other girls. I have finally declared that I want nothing to do with his friend, but my boyfriend doesn't really care. Even though his friend is an asshole in general, not just to me, my boyfriend still hangs out with him instead of spending time with me. I have a busy schedule and can really only see him on the weekends, and even though he sees his friend every single weekday, he still sometimes doesn't reserve the weekends for me.
All I want to do is trust him. It's just that I'm not always around to be making sure that he's not talking inappropriately to some girl again. He tells me that he wouldn't ever do anything like that again and that I can check his phone when I bring it up, but I figure even if he was talking to someone he would just delete the evidence.
It just seems like as soon as I start to trust him again I find our about another girl or he says something really hurtful or offensive and then we are back to square one.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my boyfriend is nice to me, but has proven to be untrustworthy before. He swears that he has changed though. | my boyfriend is nice to me, but has proven to be untrustworthy before. He swears that he has changed though. | 2,250 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm [23F] seeing a guy [39M] and I don't know what is going on
POST: I've been seeing a guy for about five weeks now, and I have no idea what's going on.
We met through a mutual friend, and he asked me out about an hour after I broke up with the last guy I was seeing (we were out with a group, he asked me how things were going with the bf, I said I was going to break up with him in the next few minutes, guy fb messages me a little while later to ask if I wanna grab drinks a few days later).
We have a great first date: a few drinks and lots of talking followed by a movie at his place and making out.
A few days later, I ask him if he wants to do something the following Saturday, and he says, "Oh, uh, I'll let you know," and he did actually let me know that he was busy that weekend.
A week after that, we out with friends, and he invites me back to his place for sexy-times (which was amazing, btw).
Two days later, he invites me over again, and I tell him that I'm not okay being just a hookup. He says we should just be friends.
The following Monday, I decide that I'll be a great friend in a short, tight dress. Sexy-times ensue.
Two days later, he invites me out on something I think was a date. He paid, so I'm gonna assume it was.
Next Monday's friend-outing leads to sex again.
Last Thursday, we go to a group event, and he invites me over afterwards. I tell him I'm instigating a 1:2 ratio of dates:sex, so I won't go home with him.
Finally, tonight, I was supposed to see him at a thing with friends, but my car was acting up. I told him that, hoping that he would volunteer to give me a ride; he did not, just said sorry about my car.
I really like this guy, but it seems like mixed signals all over the place.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Is this guy just stringing me along for sex, or am I just too impatient to let things play out the way they're supposed to? | Is this guy just stringing me along for sex, or am I just too impatient to let things play out the way they're supposed to? | 3,391 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my (ex?)girlfriend [17 F] 2.5-5 months, cheating or sexual harassment?
POST: I'll be short about this.
A few days ago my girlfriend called me and said she did something and that I'll want to break up with her but she couldn't tell me over the phone and had to text it to me (she sounded like she was about to cry) We are in a long distance relationship since about 2-3 weeks ago.
She then texts me that she "slipped" and had done something sexual with another man. I'll be honest our relationship was already not very healthy so it didn't really come to me as a surprise.
Naturally, I break up with her. She doesn't want to accept that we are broken up. She calls me and keeps asking for a second chance saying that she regrets it and it was a mistake. I am adamant about staying broken up though she is crying and refusing it.
A few hours later she texts me that it was out of her control. I ask how that's possible if she gave consent and she says she didn't. So the situation is now very complicated.
After hearing this I sort of "un-broke up" with her and instead switched to a "break". This is kinda arbitrary but whatever. Anyway I just don't know what to do now. I don't know what to believe. Even if she is now telling the complete truth I don't think I would want to go back to a relationship though I would feel a sort of responsibility to.
I don't know if I gave enough here for you to form an opinion but you may as well try. You can go and look at my last post if you want more information. You'll probably call me an idiot for not breaking up earlier honestly but that's ok.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Girlfriend told me she cheated on me, later claims that the she didn't consent. (Hands in pants, kissing on neck) What do I do? | Girlfriend told me she cheated on me, later claims that the she didn't consent. (Hands in pants, kissing on neck) What do I do? | 3,957 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My future roommate [22/F] does not want to live with me [20/F] anymore
POST: Both of us just graduated from college and we are foreigners. Our previous supervisor from our campus job offered her house for us to rent without lease since we might not stay permanently.
She's one of my closest friends in college and we used to be roommate our first semester here. However, after our lease ended, the management put us on different rooms. Before graduation, we decided to live together and share a car after graduation before one of us going to buy another car if we find a job. We are going to buy from a friend who is going to move to another state.
After graduation, I travelled for a while with my parents. She moved into the house in December while my lease for my current apartment ends on January 22nd. During my travel, I checked in on her about the house and car situation. She said she does not have money yet to buy the car. Today, I texted her that I will pay up the car first because I need it and she can pay me up later. She decided to text me a long message. Essentially she said that she bought the car on her own and is unwilling to share and that she actually want to stay alone. She told me to get another place and she could not say no to me when I asked if she was willing to share the house because I was her friend.
I haven't replied to her message yet and I have only told my current roommate. I am frantically trying to find a place to stay in a short period and I have to find a car on my own. My question is, how should I respond to her message? I am pretty sure that after this, I do not want to live with her anymore. We have the same circle of friends although I'm quite a loner. Our other closest friend is out of state and she still doesn't know about this. I'm completely baffled.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My future roommate and close friend decided that she doesn't want to live with me anymore. My lease ends in 2 weeks. | My future roommate and close friend decided that she doesn't want to live with me anymore. My lease ends in 2 weeks. | 2,134 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [NC] My step-father is cosigning a loan for my sister's house for a wedding gift without my mother's consent.
POST: Just a few minutes ago, my mother had a conversation with me about some financial issues with my step-sister's (I'll just refer to her as my sister from here on out) upcoming wedding. Here's some background knowledge: my sister, let's call her Susan, works on a farm; her fiance, Nick, is in a small time band. To put it bluntly, they are a pretty poor couple, and they have difficulty keeping up with basic necessities. To make matters worse, financially, they have a baby on the way.
My step-father agreed to cosign a loan for $250,000 to purchase a house. This is not a downpayment, this is for the entire mortgage. From what I understand, my parents will be stuck with the entire mortgage if my sister cannot pay for it (and she won't be able to pay for it).
This was all without my mother's knowledge, and she is losing her mind. She doesn't want to go to the wedding now and she's getting a marriage counselor. She is trying to come up with some other way to work this out, any way she doesn't have to cosign a loan.
My step-father will not back down since Susan claims to have found their "dream house" and it is "perfect for their new family". The thing is that they can't get a loan to purchase a house because their credit is absolutely horrendous due to their lackluster history as debtors.
I really don't know how to resolve this. My mom and I had a really long conversation about what to do, since if my sister misses the payments we'll be screwed. I'm in school right now, and those payments are enough for my family to pay for.
Ultimately, I just want to be able to support my mom right now since I think my step-father is clearly in the wrong here. What's the best way to go about supporting her in this situation without alienating the whole family?
My mother is just asking about what legal precautions to take right now to protect her assets. She isn't sure if she needs a lawyer, or anything really. She doesn't necessarily want a divorce yet, either.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Step-father about to cosign a massive loan for my sister's wedding without my mom's permission, and now my mom is losing her mind and threatening not to go to the wedding. | Step-father about to cosign a massive loan for my sister's wedding without my mom's permission, and now my mom is losing her mind and threatening not to go to the wedding. | 5,080 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (F23) am being blamed by me friends (M25) and their girlfriends (F19) for something I haven't done. What do I do?!
POST: I am a 22 year old female who had been good friends with 2 brothers for over 6 years now, the eldest one 25 has had a girlfriend for 2 years and we have always got along fine never had any issues before, we have been on holidays together and everything. The younger brother 23 has newly got a girlfriend who is bestfriends with the older brothers girlfriend. This is when things became a problem the girls began to publicly ignore me, at a friends birthday they made a scene going around tell everyone that all I want to do is sleep with the boys. (Which I found hurtful considering I've slept with 1 person my whole life). After all this went down I started recieving messages from a fake account which told me that stay away from the boys and are rude and abusive. They just go on about how the boys don't want my friendship and that they will do whatever it takes for me to not be friends with the boys. I have told the boys about them and at first they were supportive this has now gone on for months and now the boys and have turned around and think I'm sending the messages to myself!! The boys even made up rumours about my little sister saying it came from the girls cause they thought I would send it to myself in a message! These girls are so manipulative I don't know how the make the boys believe I'm not sending the message to myself, it is the most hurtful thing I have ever been through. People blaming me for something I would never do and I don't know what to do about it or how to make them believe me! It's literally pulling my life apart how is it fair that I loose 2 friends and get the blame for this horrible immature act. Please what should I do?! I'm over feeling horrible for something I haven't done!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friends are blaming me for something I didn't do. I'm not sure how to go about it or what to do. | My friends are blaming me for something I didn't do. I'm not sure how to go about it or what to do. | 1,975 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20F] My [22M] SO never wants to spend time with me.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together off & on for three years. We've had our fair share of issues, but I love him and I think he loves me.
We work opposite shifts, and it really cuts into our time together. Majorly. On the few days we both have off, every other weekend, he chooses to hang out with his friends. He works with his friends on the same schedule, an they are over every single day.
I always feel like I have to force him to do anything with me and I'm getting tired of it. I always complain to him that it would be nice if we could spend time together. But, he just says in over reacting. And that I can hang out with him and his friends. The thing is, we haven't spent a day together just him and I in over a year. I like his friends but I just want a day where we can be together just us. I'm sick of being ignored for his friends, or video games and I don't know what to do.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my boyfriend and I work opposite shifts and never see Eachother, on the few days off we both have together, he chooses to spend it with his friends over me. | my boyfriend and I work opposite shifts and never see Eachother, on the few days off we both have together, he chooses to spend it with his friends over me. | 1,863 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (23m) don't feel as attracted to my new gf (20f) anymore because she farts around me
POST: I know this is idiotic. I know that everyone farts and that it's unhealthy to hold them in. But neither of my other girlfriend's used to fart around me. I mean I heard the odd one, now and then, but with my new girlfriend it's every other day.
She doesn't do it to be obnoxious or funny - she says excuse me and acts like its no big deal. And I know, logically, that its not. But it really bothers me. They don't even smell bad, it's not about that. It's just that I don't want to hear them. It honestly makes me feel less attracted to her.
I don't fart that often, but when I need to I go to the bathroom when she's around. Would it be ok to ask her to do the same? I'm assuming my other girlfriends did this too.
I've only been dating my current girlfriend for seven months, so maybe that's why I'm not comfortable with it yet. Maybe if we stay together for longer and have more intimacy with each other eventually I'll be ok with it. But at the moment I'm not, is that ok to tell her? Has anyone else dealt with this or know a sensitive way to bring it up?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | my girlfriend farts around me all the time and I'm not comfortable with it. I want to know a good way to talk to her about it. | my girlfriend farts around me all the time and I'm not comfortable with it. I want to know a good way to talk to her about it. | 3,203 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [F26] adopt a cat and one of my roomates [M25] turns out to be allergic, he wants me to get rid of the cat, i don't. What's our half way?
POST: Me: [F26]
Donald: [M28]
Richard: [M25]
As the title says, I [F26] adopt a cat one month ago. I've move out from my sister house (you could read it in my username) cause i'm bisexual, all of my family stop talking to me (till now) and i end up alone looking for an apartment.
I ask one of my friends (let's call him Donald) to move out with me [M28] he's such a great guy, we found a great place but we needed another person to rent it, he ask one of his friends (let's call him Richard) to move in with us. The lease it's on my name.
So we all move in together and everything was "fine" untill i adopt a cat. Her name it's Pippi and it's the best cat ever :) she's sweet and i feel so great when i'm with her, after everything i've been through it's soo great to get home with my baby girl :)
Dick told me that he's allergic to cats so i left Pippi stay only in my room and never leave it, but yesterday he told me that he want's the cat out cause he can't take it anymore. I understand that he's allergic but my cat never leave the room, not even to poop (she has everything in my room) so i don't believe that she could create such a big problem if she never leaves the room.
I don't wanna get rid of Pippi just because he ask me to, that's my house too, but i also don't wanna "put myself in that position" where it's him or my cat. Does anyone else knows any way we could solve this without get rid of my cat or him to leave?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I adopt a cat and one of my roomates it's allergic, he want's me to get rid of the cat but i don't want, what to do? | I adopt a cat and one of my roomates it's allergic, he want's me to get rid of the cat but i don't want, what to do? | 2,737 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [26/m] Past experiences talk gone bad
POST: Gf[26/f] and I are together for 8 years. Some time before meeting her, I had a long distance relationship with a girl but only met once. This is important because the wanting to really meet at least once and get down to business was great. A couple of years went by and I finally had an opportunity to meet that girl and I didn't let it slip. This happened only once and it worked as a closure to me and the other girl.
Yesterday when telling her how the sex went, I changed the timeline so it won't *conflict* with our relationship, to which my gf said *So you lied to me, I was not your first :(*, this really hit me hard.
We are in our first relationship, we were both virgins when we met and we did a lot of first things together. So this is part of our history together and I think this is important.
**Question:** I don't want her to think she was not my first girl, but if I tell her I cheated on her, will it be worse? Sounds dumb, but I' am at a loss right now.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Cheated on gf, now she thinks she was not my first girl. Should I come clean and be a cheater or leave her to think she was not my first. | Cheated on gf, now she thinks she was not my first girl. Should I come clean and be a cheater or leave her to think she was not my first. | 6,221 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [24 M] just end things with my gf [22 F]? How do you avoid jealousy?
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. She is heading off to to study abroad, and I won't see her for more than a week until roughly May.
We lived together this summer and I love her. But we also have done the long distance thing before (for about 4 months) and I found myself resenting her a bit last Spring because I saw her so infrequently, while at the same time several girls were acting flirtatious towards me.
Now, I think I have gotten over that, but obviously I don't know how I will feel in a few months time. So I'm looking at my choices and...
1) Stay with her. I want to do this right now, but I'm scared that January/February will roll around and I will regret not breaking things off while we both were kind of on the same page about that sort of thing (we have talked a lot and she knows that it's a possibility that I can't do LTR again)
2) Break up with her now. Obviously I don't want to do this, but if I need to, better to do it now than drag things out.
3) OR..
Has anyone EVER downgraded an exclusive relationship to a break, and then get back together? Like, with communication, could both parties sleep with other people and still remain a couple? Or is that bound for disaster?
I should mention that I tend to get a bit jealous. Is there a way I could work on this to somehow be ok with her sleeping with other people? Like any mental tricks to help overcome the jealousy? I miss talking to her so much, but I don't know if it would be healthy to keep talking to her like my gf while we are both sleeping with others (sleeping, not dating).
Thoughts?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | GF is studying abroad for the better part of a year, and then finishing up school. Stay with her, break up, or hope that a "break" works out? | GF is studying abroad for the better part of a year, and then finishing up school. Stay with her, break up, or hope that a "break" works out? | 4,182 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: My boyfriend's mom is having the worst day.
POST: This morning, she and her boyfriend broke up. We've been here with her doing normal breakup things -- eating a lot, watching trashy TV, etc. -- when she suddenly asks my bf where her other TV is.
He goes...Huh, I don't think I've seen it.
Go back a few months, she was letting some of her other son's friends stay at the house because they had nowhere else to go. They all have criminal records, mostly for theft. The TV was here...until they all left (when my bf's brother got locked up, so it didn't make sense for them to stay anymore).
She's going absolutely crazy now, ransacking the place as if the TV's going to be in a drawer or something. :/ She's also drunk, which isn't helping things much. I feel so bad...
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Some kids who were staying at my bf's mom's house *probably* stole her TV and she found out on the worst possible day. | Some kids who were staying at my bf's mom's house *probably* stole her TV and she found out on the worst possible day. | 5,746 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by hating how I look
POST: Backstory: I personally hate how I look in my school photo and especially how I look in my ID badge clamped onto my blazer. Girlfriend takes the piss out of me because of how shit I look. Stupid facial expression, it was taken before a well needed haircut and the quality of the ID is shit.
A'ight, I was in Chemistry and I was tired of having to see that ugly ass ID badge, so I thought I'd be clever and draw myself a less shittier looking picture for my ID and then slip it in my badge. Didn't look too shabby.
Roll around to Monday and the strictest teacher comes up to me because he always has two cents to put in about my uniform and sees my badge, he immediately stops me to a halt and demands that I take the picture out of my badge, so I do because I can't be fucked to argue with him cause it's not worth it and I arrive at my exam late.
Which brings me to yesterday where my head of year comes up to me in my physics exam and asks that I see her at break, so I answer Physics questions for 2 hours and see her at break.
I'm in her office and she holds up my amazing artistry, *fucks sake again with this shit*, she then gives me a detention because I'm "defacing my uniform" and "setting a bad example for the year 7's" not that I care about either. It is now a waiting game where I will see how this detention pans out later today.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I hate how I look so I drew a replacement photo for my schools ID and now I got a detention because of it. | I hate how I look so I drew a replacement photo for my schools ID and now I got a detention because of it. | 4,512 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (NSFW?) How do I [19F] talk to my super vanilla bf [20M] about switching things up in the bedroom?
POST: Apologies if this belongs in /r/sex - I wasn't sure.
We've been together ~5 months and have great communication about everything but our sex life, which hasn't been going amazingly. I took his virginity, but he's not the first guy I've been with.
I'm into some basic kinky stuff, nothing too "out there", I would just enjoy some light bondage, spanking, dirty talk, etc. A week or so ago I brought up the topic of kinks and encouraged him to talk about specific fantasies he has...all he came up with was telling me his favorite position thus far (missionary, incidentally) and that he really is not into the whole dominance/submission power play thing, which was a little disappointing. Now I feel awkward talking about stuff I want to try because I really doubt he'd be into it...how can I bring this up?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend is apparently kink free, I'm not. How can I discuss my desires with him without freaking him out? | Boyfriend is apparently kink free, I'm not. How can I discuss my desires with him without freaking him out? | 2,236 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [22F] have been with my boyfriend [24M] for two years, starting to feel restless. How do you break up with someone that you truly love with all your heart! So confused!
POST: Ok so, been with my partner for about two years. He probably wasnt the greatest boyfriend in the beginning - very closed off, anti-commitment etc etc, but has always been a great guy. He broke it off with me late last year, then 'realised what he lost' and came back. The past couple of months we have been back together he has been nothing short of amazing - he has really been trying hard to show me how much he loves me and how much he regrets the break up. I have a few trust issues regarding facebook messaging to other girls which he assures me is all in the past.
Basically, I feel like I am missing something in the relationship. I could see us being happy together in the future but right now I can't help but feel a little bit trapped and unsatisfied. I feel like I need to be single but at the same time I love him so much that I can hardly bear to think about breaking his heart. I feel like whatever I do I could be making the biggest mistake of my life. How are you supposed to know that the person you are with now is the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life with?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I love my boyfriend but I've been thinking about breaking up with him and the thought scares me. WHAT DO I DO. | I love my boyfriend but I've been thinking about breaking up with him and the thought scares me. WHAT DO I DO. | 5,171 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20]M and her 20[F] had a talk and "removed labels" from our relationship. She is curious what being single is like; I am heartbroken
POST: We have been going out for 4 months, moved pretty fast. I am deeply in love with her and she is in love with me. I have treated her like a princess and she has returned the favors. The sex is amazing and passionate, our personalities just "click". Last night we both just sat and cried though because something felt wrong- she felt like she couldn't reciprocate the good deeds I did for her and said things like "I am too good for her" and "I need time".
She previously has said to me that I am her whole world, that I am all she thinks about, and that we are the best part of eachothers day. This has come as a complete shock to me and I have no idea what to do. We are officially not boyfriend/girlfriend but the status is strange- I know she needs space but I texted her a little bit too much today and kind of seemed crazy (which I am not crazy, I am just hurt).
What should I do? I know I can salvage this; I just don't know what to say. Do I just say nothing and give her complete space? Give her a few days? Did I already ruin it by sending her so many texts today? I asked to come talk to her again today and she said she "just can't see me". What is this? I can't think of a situation where I wouldn't be able to see her unless she like did something to really piss me off like cheat on me or something.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | M and F [20] perfect for eachother, great relationship, but out of nowhere it just ended and we are both lost and confused. What do I do? | M and F [20] perfect for eachother, great relationship, but out of nowhere it just ended and we are both lost and confused. What do I do? | 3,530 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I need reddit's advice with a girl that I've been friends with for a long time
POST: Well, where to start... I'm 20, I like this girl but we've been friends for 5+ years now, I never really had feelings for her before but I've started spending more time with her and found I had a lot more in common then I originally thought.
I have been told by other friends (girls and guys) over and over again that I should ask her out, but I get the feeling that I will just get rejected as she may see me as in the dreaded friend zone.
I want to know whether I should take the risk or go for a girl that I'm not really that interested in but I know that she likes me because she's always grabbing my hand.
I will answer any questions that do not reveal my identity or anyone else's involved.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I like a girl, I might be in friend zone, I know another girl likes me but I don't really have feelings for her, what should I do? | I like a girl, I might be in friend zone, I know another girl likes me but I don't really have feelings for her, what should I do? | 4,705 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my dad [57 M] Dad is verbally abusive
POST: Hey guys,
so me and my dad do not have the best relationship.
I kind of just do my own thing, school and friends, and he does his work. I like it this way, but occasionally my dad becomes really verbally abusive and yells and insults my mom and I.
I have no idea why, but randomly he gets into a bad mood and yells.
When I was smaller he used to hit me when he got mad or throw things, but now I'm his size. He also used to hit my mom, but that was around 5 years ago.
These past two years my dad has been a little bit better, going off on my mom or me once a month, but that isn't the problem.
I can handle his rants because I've heard them over and over, but sometimes I get scared.
I get scared that my dad will kill me while I'm sleeping or something.
He has hit me before, and I have seen him act completely irrational when angry. If he fought me then I would probably win because I weigh more, and is his height, but I am worried that he might kill me when I'm sleeping.
I feel like it's stupid of me to have this feeling. He is my dad and has raised me and my older brother.
But you hear this crazy stuff on the news almost everyday. Family shootings, stuff like that. What makes my family so different than them?
What should I do though?
I can't tell anyone because they will think my dad is insane and call the cops. I can't do anything because he is my dad after all, and he loves me but is crazy. I also need him because he provides for the family, takes me to school, does all the stereotypical dad jobs.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My dad is cray cray and I dont know what I should do if there is anything that I can do. | My dad is cray cray and I dont know what I should do if there is anything that I can do. | 3,442 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/M] My GF [27/f] Wants time alone,I'm austistic, What am i suposed to do?
POST: So this relationship has been going on for 2 years, We've had some problems so i went for a trip, seeing my family and such for a couple of weeks and things were much better when i got home between us.
Now, things are still much better than before, but see told me today she didn't want things to go back as before and that she is overworked, needs some time alone to regain energy. I understand that. I'm unemployed and she's asking me to hurry up getting a job. I'm searching everyday, but the thing is, even if i got a job from 9-5, She still works (her own business) to 7-8 everyday. So i would still be home when she got home. So what am i supose to do to give her some alone time? I can't go out everynight to a bar. And going on another trip i can't afford.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My GF Wants time alone to regain energy in the evenings, I dont know what to do alone in the evenings. | My GF Wants time alone to regain energy in the evenings, I dont know what to do alone in the evenings. | 1,163 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: How do I get out of this vicious cycle?
POST: I am 30 years old and I reside in Pennsylvania. I was never all that responsible with my credit, I admit to it. I was a dumb kid and it's hurting me as an adult. At one point I was almost debt free, and then I got sick. I've been dealing with a chronic medical condition for about 3 years and it's not only sucking the life out of me, but it's really putting me in a bad financial situation. It all goes back to those damn credit cards. I got to a point where all of my money was going to medical bills just to keep me out of collections that I was putting all of my everyday expenses on credit cards (mostly food and gas.) I'm now to the point where my cards are maxed out, my medical bills continue to pile up (I'm still sick and still receiving treatment ), and if those things weren't bad enough, I also have student loans. Added up I'm about 48,000 in debt. I have to say it's horrifying to type that out. I'm so embarrassed and ashamed that it's gotten to this point. As of right now my credit hasn't been completely ruined, but I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. To make things even worse, my doctor is getting me into a treatment program in another state for the illness I have, I don't know how long the treatment will be, but there's a possibility that I'll be on short term disability for a month or two, which means I'll only be getting about 2/3rds of my pay. Does anyone have any advice or am I to the point where bankruptcy is my only option? Thank you in advance.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I'm 30, 48,000 in debt, I have a chronic illness, I'm ashamed, and I don't know what to do. | I'm 30, 48,000 in debt, I have a chronic illness, I'm ashamed, and I don't know what to do. | 5,994 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24F] am in a relationship with [24M] that we know is ending, what do you even do?
POST: I have been with my SO for five years. It's been an amazing relationship in parts but unfortunately our long-term goals do not align (they haven't for years and we just pushed it under the carpet and said love can overcome everything) and neither of us are willing to compromise. That, and we just argue over insignificant things which just highlights our incompatibility.
Anyway, we graduate this year and after the summer it will be over. It's been half a decade of our lives that we're just going to throw away. My gut instinct tells me that it is the right thing to do and that we'll be happier with other people. So I want to go ahead with this. But how do I push past all the doubt and the guilt and move forward without looking back?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I know my relationship is ending but I don't even know how to come to terms with it or how to begin to move on? | I know my relationship is ending but I don't even know how to come to terms with it or how to begin to move on? | 1,387 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge
TITLE: Petty revenge in the food line
POST: Okay so way back when, about 15 years ago, I was living on the streets, and frequented food banks and the like, having no real source of income.
One time I was waiting patiently in line at a weekly charity food truck for a meagre bag of groceries and some soup. I had waited about 20 minutes already, when this very large fellow who looked like he was fresh out of jail came from out of nowhere insinuated himself into the lineup, immediately in front of me. So I said to him, "I don't mean any disrespect," (I am Canadian, by the way) "but do you think you could stand in line like the rest of us here?"
He replied, "Don't mess with me or I will fucking kill you." Crazy look in his eye.
I don't know what prompted me, because this dude was like twice my size and clearly the kind of motherfucker who wouldn't hesitate to make good on his offer... maybe it was because I was fed up with my current life situation (broke, homeless, standing in a food line), or what, but I said, "Fuck, just do it."
Almost instantly I was pulled off my center of gravity, spinning around in a circle, and falling to the ground in slow motion. Suddenly, *bang! bang!* my face explodes in pain as one foot, then a second, smash into my face.
So where's the revenge, you ask?
Well, as I was clearing my head, I saw that he was storming off. The food truck workers refused him any food and told him not to return, ever. They gave me an extra bag of groceries and an extra bun with my soup.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy cuts into food line, gets violent with me for asking him to get in his proper place in line, gets turned away, and I get extra food. | Guy cuts into food line, gets violent with me for asking him to get in his proper place in line, gets turned away, and I get extra food. | 2,058 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: RA-ddit, should I drive across 5 states to return an ex's stuff, which she doesn't really want anyway?
POST: Ok, so anyone interested can read about my recent breakup on this throw-away account's last submittal. Long story short: I broke up with a girl after a relationship of 4-5 years after I found out she was cheating on me. She moved out before the breakup for a job in a different state. So currently I still have some of her crap, and she still has some of mine.
She doesn't have anything of mine that I would consider very important, a few books and a bookcase, some CDs. I have most of her furniture: a couch, love seat, couple of dressers, etc (she moved out with the understanding that we wouldn't be breaking up, btw).
She's already told me that she doesn't want her things back. That's fine, but I still have a few things of hers which I would feel guilty about keeping or throwing away (things like her old school books, photos, some of her legal documents, etc.).
I'm thinking about renting a trailer to take her crap to her. My theory is that since I broke up with her, I don't want to give her any reason to blame me for being the "crazy ex" or whatever in the future, so I want to get everything settled-up and resolved, and move on guilt-free. I don't want to keep her things because they're from my past now, a past I want to forget about. At the same time I don't want to throw them out for the reasons already given.
The trailer is going to be like $300, gas money another $300 or so for the round trip. I'm not expecting her to contribute to the moving costs, but she may surprise me. What should I do?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | After breaking up with a girl, I still have some of her things, which I don't feel right keeping or throwing out, should I drive across 5 states to return them? | After breaking up with a girl, I still have some of her things, which I don't feel right keeping or throwing out, should I drive across 5 states to return them? | 596 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: [F19 and M21] He takes forever to respond to my texts, and is still in contact with his ex...
POST: We're not really in a relationship yet, but we've gone out a handful of times over the course of 3 weeks, and seem to be hitting it off nicely. I really like him, and I don't want to seem distrusting, but I think something might be amiss. He is in contact with his ex, his ex still comes over, and once his ex even came over while I was at his house! What gives? We're not really a couple, so am I even in the right for worrying about this? He posts to his twitter while I'm still waiting for his texts so I know he's not as busy as he'd have me think. Any kind of insight into this would help. I know parting with an ex can be difficult, but should I say something? Maybe I could ignore the texting bit, he might be playing hard to get...
Please talk to me, I don't know what to do, or if I should even do anything!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Boyfriend-to-be hangs out with his ex, and gives me shady excuses for not texting me back (probably just more hangin out with the ex), but seems genuinely interested in me. What should I make of this? | Boyfriend-to-be hangs out with his ex, and gives me shady excuses for not texting me back (probably just more hangin out with the ex), but seems genuinely interested in me. What should I make of this? | 5,360 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: As an Iranian, the way Europeans eat surprises me! How can it be?
POST: So my friend had some guests coming from Germany. I took them out for a long walk in the hot temperature of our city. After two or three hours, when we are back home my friend calls me and tells me to buy them a sandwich for dinner.
Im like. "Dude, a sandwich wont be enough" so he tells me to buy two.
When its dinner time they both tell me, and insist, that they dont want dinner! Im like WHAT THE HELL?!
One of them tells me that he is going to have the salad which has been left over from lunch, and the other tells me he will have some fruits. Im like WHAT THE HELL HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?!!
Two days later I take them to another MUCH LONGER walk in the hot temperature (we were seeing the city so there was lots of walking). This temperature is hot for me, so it must have been very hot for someone living in Germany.
When its lunch time, we order pizza except one of them. he says in germany he only has breakfast and one session of food.
At dinner, Im sure they must be dead hungry. Both of them tell me they are not hungry and dont want food.
Their way of food life is very different to mine and anyone I know. I wake up in the morning and have breakfast. When im back from work i have lunch, normally rice with meet or chicken. Then at dinner Im hungry again and must have another session of food. In between, i eat small things as well, like fruits etc. So this was very shocking to me how they could even survive eating so little. (and im not very fat. just a couple of kilos extra)
Does it have to do with where we live? Does living in Germany mean you need much less food than living in Iran? How can I learn to have a diet like them and be energetic, healthy but not hungry?
Thanks and sorry for the long post.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Dude from Germany eats no more than one session of food a day (plus breakfast). How is it possible to eat so little? I live in Iran in case it is important for the answer. | Dude from Germany eats no more than one session of food a day (plus breakfast). How is it possible to eat so little? I live in Iran in case it is important for the answer. | 5,377 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Apathy Vs. Activism
POST: A friend and I were talking about the Occupy Wall Street movement and the presence of business in government. After much back-and-forthing of ideals and motivations and background of the movement, he ending the conversation by saying:
"This is stupid anyways. What's the point of getting all up in arms over it? Protesting is not going to do anything at all. It's best to just let the government take its natural course and fall apart just like all the other governments. We're just regular people. We can't do anything".
This, of course, spawned an entirely NEW argument, but it got me thinking.
-Is this apathetic attitude popular among people? (I'm around college kids all day, so I'm in a bubble).
-Is it better to let the government just "run its course"?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My friend thinks OWS is stupid because we're normal people and have no power, and that we should just let government "run its course" | My friend thinks OWS is stupid because we're normal people and have no power, and that we should just let government "run its course" | 2,186 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by flooding my classroom and forcing my entire class outside for 2 weeks.
POST: Okay so to start things off this didn't happen today, more like 12 years ago.
So I went to a small country primary school in Ireland. We had maybe 200 students total, if even that and my class (6th class, highest grade in the school, we were all roughly 12) shared a room with 5th class. The school is just outside of a small town and on rare occasions the water would turn off completely. This has only happened maybe twice while I was at the school.
One day the water went, towards the end of the school day. We had PE outside at the end of the day and afterwards some of us stayed playing until we were getting picked up. I went in to get my stuff before going home and went to wash my hands. Turned the tap on but nothing came out. At this stage the school was basically empty and the teachers were gone home. I didn't notice that the plug was in the sink and didnt think to turn the tap off again as there was no water coming out.
Shoot forward to the following morning and the room is completely flooded. The room is about 90% carpet so that is completely soaked and starting to stink. Its early june at this point and while I know Irish weather gets a bad rep it was a nice summer. We had to spend the last 2 weeks of school outside (literally no there room in the school for us) and while we did do some actual work we mostly got to play. We had taken our exams for secondary school already so there was nothing to study for.
I never told anyone it was me but I knew immediately that I had done it. I spose it worked out for me but I know it probably cost the school a good bit of money seeing as it was a small school. Principal also took the blame for it cause she used to check to make sure the taps were off to avoid this. Felt bad for her but it was pretty good for me.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Flooded my school when I was 12, had to spend 2 weeks outside, teacher/principal took the blame for it and cost the school some money but I was never found out. | Flooded my school when I was 12, had to spend 2 weeks outside, teacher/principal took the blame for it and cost the school some money but I was never found out. | 398 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Scaphoid Fracture Misdiagnosis - Looking for Advice (Canada)
POST: Hi there,
In September 2015, I suffered a fall at work onto my right wrist. The following day, I went to the ER where i had X-Rays done. The X-rays showed no sign of a fracture and I was told it was just a sprain and to expect the pain to dissipate within a few weeks. However, it is common for scaphoid fractures to not show up on the X-Ray immediately and patients are usually told to return within 2 weeks to get a follow-up X-Ray done. This was not done for me. It should also be noted that I was actually treated by an intern. The attending physician, did not directly examine my wrist, and simply went with the words of the intern.
However, the pain did not leave and about a month and a half later, I went to a Walk-In Clinic. The doctor here was informed about the circumstances surrounding my fall and diagnosed me with Chronic Tendonitis. He gave me anti-inflammatories and did not even request another X-ray. This particular doctor implied that the pain would never completely disappear and that I would just have to live with it. But given the degree of difficulty I was having I saw another doctor this week who immediately suspected a scaphoid fracture and had X-rays done. And lo and behold, there was indeed a non-united scaphoid fracture. This was diagnosed 9 months after the initial injury.
Treatment for a non union typically involves surgery and places me at risk for developing arthritis of the wrist at an earlier age. Is it worth taking legal action over the management of my case? This is clearly a case of medical mismanagement which severely affected my quality of life for the past 9 months. For context, I am an active 19 year old who was unable to perform any strenuous physical activity or sporting events involving the use of my right hand.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Non-union Scaphoid fracture diagnosed 9 months after injury. 2 different doctors mismanaged the injury. Is it worth it to take legal action? | Non-union Scaphoid fracture diagnosed 9 months after injury. 2 different doctors mismanaged the injury. Is it worth it to take legal action? | 2,330 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: SO[20F] is becoming a dancer at a strip club to help pay for our apartment [Together for 1.5 years]
POST: As the title says, my SO is trying to become a dancer at a strip club (supposedly the position she was offered was just a dancer, not a stripper, so apparently she doesn't take her clothes off).
She decided on it because the restaurant she works at has slowed down a lot and she isn't making enough anymore. Moreover, she hasn't been able to find another waiting job.
Still I was kind of upset about it, and we had a fight. Once we cooled down and talked for real, we realized we just weren't on the same page and didn't really understand each others motivations for feeling how we felt.
I didn't understand that she was doing it because she has pay to pay for her school on top of the apartment, and so I don't have to work as much and focus on my schoolwork.
She doesn't want to be so dependent on my parents paying for things. Not sure how much she'll make but I work part time so hopefully we can cover a good portion of our expenses with that. Furthermore, she thought that I just thought it was degrading and I wasn't going to stay with her because I felt above her.
I've mostly come to terms with it, I'm mostly worried about her own safety now really. I told her I support her as long as she feels safe there and that she feels comfortable with it. Also, She knows I'm still a little skeptical and told me she would answer any question about it no matter what.
I'm just wondering what to expect because I've heard so many different stories about dating strippers on both ends of the spectrum. I've heard from "it makes you hate men and you don't even want your boyfriends to touch you" to "They keep their lives separate and some are very smart people paying their way through school etc."
I guess it really depends on the person, but I was just wondering if anyone had any experience with this?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | SO is going to become a dancer at a strip club to pay for her school and help pay our apartment. Not sure what to expect and I don't want this to ruin our relationship | SO is going to become a dancer at a strip club to pay for her school and help pay our apartment. Not sure what to expect and I don't want this to ruin our relationship | 4,896 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] with my ex [24 F] of 4 years. Should I seek closure after years of no contact.
POST: Hi reddit,
Me and my ex shared one of those big, only-a-few-times-in-your-life relationships. Unfortunately it didn't work out as most relationships don't when you go from being a teenager to a panicking semi-adult.
The break-up was somewhat messy, but nothing insanely bad. I'm sure she regrets some things as do I. We were both on the cusp of change and although our ambitions and life goals had never NOT been aligned, I think the relationship itself just got too big for us. This combined with the honeymoon period puttering out eventually suffocated the whole thing.
We've barely been in contact in two years. Pretty much not at all. I think I sent her a letter a year ago saying that even though we both got burnt, I was still happy that we had gone through the experience. She never replied and I would've been shocked if she did.
Here's my problem. I don't think I'm completely over her and I don't know if she is either. But then again, two years is a long time and I have made some headway. I know what went wrong. What I messed up and where she messed up, but the knowledge barely gives me any comfort. I think the thought of her scares me. Seeing and talking to her scares me like a shock of electricity, ya dig? So I think, if we'd just meet and talk maybe I'd be easier to work through it.
It's a mess. I'd love to get advice from others who've been in my position. Does the elusive 'closure' actually exist? Do ex's get together again?
Thanks.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Does closure exist? Do ex's get together? Should I talk to her after two years of no contact. She's still in my head and life is confusing. | Does closure exist? Do ex's get together? Should I talk to her after two years of no contact. She's still in my head and life is confusing. | 3,709 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: [F/31/197] Need to do something! Gained 20 lbs since starting PhD
POST: This week I was de-cluttering my closet and making piles of clothes to donate and give to my sister. My sister is an avid biker, swimmer, runner (while we have the same body type, she's much more muscular than I am.) I'm 5'10" and I wear between a 10-14 depending on the cut/brand of clothing. I'm in my 3rd semester as a PhD student and I've gained 20 lbs since beginning my program. My "fat" clothes are tight on me and seeing the pile of clothes "that don't fit me anymore" was very discouraging. During October I made some changes to my diet - avoiding fast food & cooking my own meals at home, drinking water instead of soda. I also take my pups for a walk every night (between 10-15 minutes). I've always been a stress eater and my "comfort foods" are gluten free bread and pasta, cheese, and oatmeal with granola. I drive 2 hours round trip to school 3 x week. My job requires me to sit and work on the computer. In addition to school (which is stressful enough!) I've had a lot of things happen in my life - high turn over at work, close friends getting sick, family member pass away, not having enough money to pay bills. I take an anti-depressant (since 2006). I love reading the success stories on r/loseit and I feel encouraged to start making more changes like taking longer walks and keeping carb consumption in moderation. Looking forward to being a success story, too.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Have gained 20 lbs in the past 18 months since starting PhD. Need to change habits to stay healthy and handle stress. | Have gained 20 lbs in the past 18 months since starting PhD. Need to change habits to stay healthy and handle stress. | 5,477 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Did I [19M] treat my ex [17M] wrong?
POST: I was recently dumped, about three days ago, after weeks of begging my ex not to do it. She had had a thing for me since third grade and we started dating two years ago in highschool. Things were pretty okay, but we did take one three week long break. In that break she started flirting with someone else, and it was awful. We did, however, get back together. That was about a month ago.
Now for the past few weeks she has been dancing around the idea of breaking up with me and I have always plead with her not to. I told her I would never talk to her again, never see her again, that I would never give her another chance, and that I would start talking to someone else, because that's exactly what she did to me. After two weeks of telling her all this about once or twice a day she did it anyway. Today she told me about how she wanted me back, but I told her I was talking to a few other girls at this point. Her exact words were "Fuck you, have a good life."
I feel horrible about this whole thing, we haven't had the HEALTHIEST relationship, but it's still one I never wanted to end. We both had our faults; she would get mad at me for just having friends that were girls, but I'm a very social guy and like to make new friends. I would get mad at her for always delving WAY too deep into everything we ever talked about. (An example of this would be: My ex got upset with me for talking to this one girl, Girl B, purely as a friend, who lived about an hour south of me. I told her that was fine, I would just stop talking to Girl B, again purely as a friend. My ex then got mad at me for "still wanting to be friends with Girl B", and threatened to break up with me so I could "Finally go be friends with more people.") I want to fix things but at the same time, I'm worrying that things will never get better.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Ex girlfriend and I fight a lot, but I don't want to give her up and I want to work things out with her. | Ex girlfriend and I fight a lot, but I don't want to give her up and I want to work things out with her. | 2,928 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: In light of the other one, what is the most degrading thing you've paid for?
POST: When I was a teenager I was the first of my friends to have a job, and thus money. I was also quite prone to jealousy with my then girlfriend and actually paid one of my friends to not flirt with her and start treating her with indifference. I also paid another one of my friends to be nice to her because he tended to be very rude to her. I tried to justify it by pretending that it was a pride free way to give them money around christmas because they didn't have any.
When I was even younger, maybe 8 or 9, I offered a girl (around the same age) at school $20 to play "you show me yours I show you mine". She agreed and went first. Not only did I not pay her, I also didn't show mine. I actually ran into her years later when I did have money and for a split second considered giving her the money because I felt bad. Thankfully I realize instantly how insulting it would have been.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Paid friends to treat my girlfriend like friends should, may have turned another girl onto a very dark path filled with empty promises. | Paid friends to treat my girlfriend like friends should, may have turned another girl onto a very dark path filled with empty promises. | 1,088 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] for 3 months, I don't know if I'm happy with an innocent girl.
POST: So I've recently started a relationship with a fellow freshman at my college and I'm just not sure if I'm happy. She's a great partner, very caring, very honest and funny, and pretty much all I could ever ask for in a girl, but there's just one setback: she's innocent.
I've always kind of liked the rebellious/nofucksgiven type of girls. My last girlfriend was like that and I loved her a lot, but the problem was she seemed to not care a little *too* much. This girl I've recently started dating is religious and doesn't cuss, wants to wait for sex til marriage, and just wants to take things too slow. I am not religious whatsoever and I don't mind if someone is religious, it's just I've never pictured myself with someone who is. I've always wanted a relationship where my partner and I can be sexual toward each other but it just isn't like that with her. I know the physical aspect isn't everything, but it isn't unimportant.
There are times when I just want to be with her and think about being with her until I die, but then there are times when I just feel like being a straight up asshole towards her (not that I do). I'm very torn on whether or not to continue this relationship. I'm not sure if I should give it some more time because 3 months isn't long at all, or if I should stop wasting both of our time because this feeling won't change. All feedback is welcome. Thank you.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | My gf is very innocent and I'm attracted to bad girls. Debating on seeing where it goes or ending it. | My gf is very innocent and I'm attracted to bad girls. Debating on seeing where it goes or ending it. | 3,556 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: People that live in a foreign country (for school, work, relationship reasons), what is the one situation you now frequently face that prevents you from successfully assimilating to your new culture?
POST: I chose to move to Germany both to gain my Master's degree, and to marry a German man. As I live here, I'm working to learn the language, and to get used to everyday life here. But even after having lived here for almost two years, I still have so much trouble functioning in a grocery store.
In the US, tellers/cashiers stand all day, and if they need more small change, they simply request more to be brought from the cash office. Also, often they will bag your purchases, or at least wait until you clear out of the way before checking the next person out. In Germany, the cashiers usually sit, and will just shove the next person's purchases right the middle of your purchases if you don't clear out of the way fast enough, resulting in a jumbled mess, and often forcing you to guess which things were yours or not. And heaven forbid if you use a larger bill (meaning, a 20 euro bill), because they can't ask for more small change to be brought out, so they will verbally abuse you if you try to pay for a small purchase (less than 5 euro) with a large bill.
Perhaps this reads as mostly a "whine," but I just feel a mental barrier to dealing with this everyday issue I know will face for the rest of my life. But surely other immigrants have some sort of similiar issue they face that bothers them every time they encounter it.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | As an immigrant, what is the one situation you have great difficulty handling each time you encounter it? How did you overcome your frustration with this situation in order to assimiliate to your new culture you found yourself living in? | As an immigrant, what is the one situation you have great difficulty handling each time you encounter it? How did you overcome your frustration with this situation in order to assimiliate to your new culture you found yourself living in? | 5,949 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 F] with my BF [30M] of 2 months, he has a 5 y/o son. I don't have kids and have never dated a guy with kids. How to proceed?
POST: So A and I have been seeing each other since May and things have slowly gotten more serious. We get along really well and are both pretty laidback and seem to communicate with each other pretty well on things so far. He has a 5 year old son (B) who is absolutely adorable and fun to be around. He has B one night a week and every other weekend right now, but is hoping to get full custody over the course of the next several months. He seems like a great dad and B seems like a happy little kid.
I've had A and B over to watch kiddie movies and play in the pool, and it's been a blast. I guess I just don't have much experience with kids - don't have any of my own (hope to eventually) and have never dated a guy with a kid. I'm sure it will change the dynamic of things, especially if and when A gets full custody, and as A and I get more serious. Aside from talking over any issues that may arise with A, any tips or unexpected adjustments I might have to make? Anything I can do to make this arrangement/transition easier on all of us?
Any stories, advice, words of warning/wisdom/encouragement welcome. Thanks! Feel free to ask any questions of me as well.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Any tips for someone with not much kid experience who has never dated a guy with kids before? Any adjustments to expect/be prepared for? | Any tips for someone with not much kid experience who has never dated a guy with kids before? Any adjustments to expect/be prepared for? | 1,418 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Purchased some e-readers, iPods from CL, one of which comes up "blacklisted: stolen". Advice on how to glean info about the owner?
POST: Found some electronics at a very good price (i.e. not "too good to be true", but cheaper than average) on my local Craigslist. The transaction was fairly innocuous: met in daylight at a shopping plaza, and all items were turned on to show that they weren't broken.
However, when we tried to connect the Kindle, it refused to register. A quick call to Amazon determined that the serial # in question was blacklisted as lost/stolen. The seller had stated that the device was de-registered and wiped, so it was *possible* that it had been accidentally blacklisted as part of that transaction.
I called the seller back, but all I was able to say was "hello, I purchased some electronics from you yesterday evening--" before the call was ended by the other party. Subsequent calls rang, but were never picked up.
So at this point, I can't *prove* the Kindle was stolen, but there's a fair bit of suspicious action from the seller's part. I sent a quick "please explain the blacklisting" text, but I expect the next major step will be giving the local police a heads up. I still have the Craigslist posting ID and a print out of the ad, so if they cared to, they could subpoena the blahblahblahblah, but that's not my decision.
In the meantime, I've googled the mobile number and it's not coming up with much info--it's a common local area code, and I'm pretty sure I know which carrier it is, but unless I want to impersonate the account holder, I don't know how to get more info.
I'm also running some freeware file recovery software on the devices as best I can. I'm not sure what forensic analysis I can do on wiped devices, but perhaps Reddit has some ideas?
TL;DR: . Assistant: | purchased a Kindle + some other electronics that *may* have been stolen. Looking to recover info about the owner from the Kindle, ipods, or the mobile number. | purchased a Kindle + some other electronics that *may* have been stolen. Looking to recover info about the owner from the Kindle, ipods, or the mobile number. | 6,162 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22F] with guy I'm dating [24 M/F], for 2 months and recently became exclusive with doesn't seem into me anymore
POST: Hi! Using a throwaway because he uses reddit.
Have been dating this guy for about 3 months. We live about 3 hours from each other, but that isn't really an issue. We've been very flexible with visiting each other. We've "only" been on 4 dates total, where 3 of them have been spent as entire weekends at each others apartments.
In that time period I assumed we weren't exclusive, so was dating other people and having fun. Last weekend I spent the weekend at his place, and he seemed very surprised that we weren't exclusive. We talked about it, and agreed to become exclusive, as we both like each other and want to know where it's going.
The thing is, after this weekend, he has been really unresponsive in texting and communication. He doesn't really seem to want to talk to me at all. That is fine in itself, but before we became exclusive he texted me all the time, and seemed kind of annoyed when I didn't reply. I mean, different people text differently, I get that. But just seems weird to me that he doesn't want to communicate at all in the beginning of brand new and exciting relationship. I just can't get rid of this gut feeling I have, that now that we're exclusive he lost interest in pursuing me...
I have no idea how to talk to him or if I even should. I don't want to be needy or pushy, but on the other hand, I really want to know if he lost interest, so I don't waste my time and feel annoyingly insecure, because I don't know where I have him.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Guy I recently became exclusive with doesn't seem to want to communicate. Should I confront him, wait it out or listen to my gut feeling, and move on? | Guy I recently became exclusive with doesn't seem to want to communicate. Should I confront him, wait it out or listen to my gut feeling, and move on? | 4,293 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23 F] with ex [22 M] - reconnecting for about 1 month, feeling an imbalance in our dynamic
POST: Apologies for any formatting issues as I'm on mobile. I've recently reconnected with an old ex of mine from back in high school. We've both changed significantly over the last 7 years, to the point where we have a very different kind of relationship now than before. I would say that I've become a lot more open minded and less critical of things he's interested in, and he's become less self centered and more considerate of others, which makes us more compatible than before.
However - we are both well aware that I am further along on my "life path" (aka I am already almost 2 years into my career while he's still finishing his degree) and this adds a strange dynamic to our relations. In addition, he is constantly complimenting me and telling me how awesome and beautiful I am, etc. I would say this ends up being about 50% of our conversations.
Don't get me wrong, I like being appreciated - but for some reason I haven't been able to fully describe, I feel uncomfortable, like there's an imbalance. I expressed this to him and he basically just said that he's so impressed and infatuated and "wants to treat me like the angel I am."
This is such a weird thing for me to be feeling off about and I'm wondering if someone can help me put into words what's making me feel uncomfortable so I can express it to him and hopefully figure this out. Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Reconnecting in the last month with an ex from high school, he is putting me on a pedestal and is always complimenting me, I'm feeling uncomfortable for reasons I can't quite formulate into words. | Reconnecting in the last month with an ex from high school, he is putting me on a pedestal and is always complimenting me, I'm feeling uncomfortable for reasons I can't quite formulate into words. | 4,175 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by watching softcore porn on the main TV
POST: This didn't happen today and I wasn't aware of the internet when this happened. It was 14 years ago and I was just an innocent 10 year boy. Not really innocent. So, my family and I lived in India and we had a small house with two floors, each floor having a medium sized room and a small room. The main TV was in the first floor (in India, the second floor is called the first floor and the first floor is called the ground floor.) We had cable TV and a channel called Fashion TV piqued my interest. That channel usually had a file of pretty ladies walking down the ramp and it sometimes featured women who didn't wear any clothes on top at all. So, whenever I had a chance to watch TV alone, I would switch to that channel and hope to see something interesting. Also, something I didn't mention to you was that we had a lot of electric blackouts; everyday. Sometimes you couldn't predict the times of these blackouts but they happened everyday because of "maintenance" but the real reason was that there were too many people in India and we struggled to harness power for everyone. I was watching FTV one day and the power went out. We didn't have a back-up generator and I was shitting my pants. I couldn't wait there until the power came back because I was going out somewhere. When I came back my dad was watching something else on TV. He knew that I was watching Fashion TV. He came to know that I wasn't the innocent little kid he thought I was. But none of us uttered a word and an awkward silence ensued. A couple of years later, that channel was banned because Indian Government blah blah. No filter blah blah.
TL;DR: . Assistant: | Watched naked ladies on TV; Power went out. Parents came to know I was watching naked ladies when they turned on TV when power came back on. Faked Childish Innocence lost. | Watched naked ladies on TV; Power went out. Parents came to know I was watching naked ladies when they turned on TV when power came back on. Faked Childish Innocence lost. | 6,065 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (20f) am scared the friendship I have with my best friend (20m) will eventually end because of our stubbornness.
POST: I've been friends with him for years, I trust him with absolutely everything. We are so alike that sometimes it gets dangerous.. like with our arguments.
He refuses to accept he is wrong. He will fight until he is blue in the face until the other person (me) accepts that he is correct and I am wrong.
Occasionally he would do/say something to hurt someone, without meaning to, and refuses to apologize. I have been in a situation where he said something he should not have, making someone feel very uncomfortable. His reason was that the person egged it out of him. When I told him the right thing to do was apologize because he hurt their feelings, he told me "Why should I apologize when SHE is wrong?"
When he realizes he did something to make me feel bad, he'll apologize sarcastically upon my insistance and much arguing.
I've learnt to stop arguing all together. When my opinion differs from his, I've learnt to just shut up. But recently, it's been getting harder and harder, and I feel like I'm starting to resent him because of it. I am very good with accepting defeat. The problem is, however, that when I *am* wrong, he makes me feel- without meaning to- like I should be ashamed for being wrong.
I've spoken to him about this countless times but we are both so hard-headed that there is never any conclusion reached.
Help? :(
TL;DR: . Assistant: | I feel our friendship will die because of hurt feelings, if he cannot learn how to a) accept that he is wrong or b) accept that having different opinions is OK. | I feel our friendship will die because of hurt feelings, if he cannot learn how to a) accept that he is wrong or b) accept that having different opinions is OK. | 5,606 |
Human: Summarize the following text : SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs
TITLE: What is this skin condition?!
POST: Hi AskDocs! I need your help. Yesterday evening I began to notice a hot, itchy rash around my neck/collarbone area. Took a Benadryl and went to bed.
Woke up with rash still there but decided it was ok to go to work. About an hour in, it started spreading down to side chest so I went to urgent care. Doc said I'm having an allergic reaction and prescribed more Benadryl and steroids. I've never had allergies and there are no changes in diet, soap, clothing, etc.
Took prescribed meds around noon and noticed some improvement. Around 7, started to noticed a second flare up but much worse this time. It's spread down my back and on my right wrist. Neck is still blotchy red in some areas.
I have another doc appt tmo morning but I wanted to see if yall had any ideas. What could this be? I have no other symptoms (no nausea, flu like symptoms, nothing). Is it legit allergic reaction? Something more serious? The fact that it's spreading so fast is freaking me out.
Thanks!
TL;DR: . Assistant: | skin rash spreading fast since yesterday evening. Taking Benadryl and steroids prescribed by urgent care doc for allergic reaction and not working. What could it be? | skin rash spreading fast since yesterday evening. Taking Benadryl and steroids prescribed by urgent care doc for allergic reaction and not working. What could it be? | 4,961 |
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