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https://www.diversitybusinessreview.com/inclusion-and-the-brain-building-trust-across-differences/ | 2021-11-30T05:52:45 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-49/segments/1637964358953.29/warc/CC-MAIN-20211130050047-20211130080047-00485.warc.gz | 0.931928 | 3,192 | CC-MAIN-2021-49 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-49__0__198768044 | en | Mary E. Casey,
Principal & Co-Founder,
Shannon Murphy Robinson,
Principal & Co-Founder,
It is now an undeniable fact that the diversity within organizations will increase significantly over the next 10 years1 . Whether these differences are related to multiethnic, multi-generational, cross-cultural, gender identity, religion, race, or other identity factors, organizations are now faced with building a workforce that is able to listen and communicate effectively with others who are very different from themselves – and who are often outside of their comfort zones. In a recent report on global workforce trends, the authors stress that for organizations to benefit from this growing diversity, they need a workforce that is highly skilled in “building relationships and working effectively across differences.” Interestingly, towards the end of the report, one of the authors laments that, “We certainly all have the mental capacities to envision this possibility, but do we have the brains that can actually carry it out?”2 Indeed.
Dr. Srini Pillay, Harvard Medical School and Harvard Business School Professor, in his book, The Brain and Business, presents hundreds of neuroscience-based studies validating the effectiveness of a neurosciencebased approach to leadership effectiveness.3 Interestingly, many of these studies also provide key links between neuroscience and how to develop inclusion skills and abilities. For example, we now know that the brain either helps us engage in inclusive perspectives and behaviors, or it directly interferes with our ability to do so. One main way this happens is through the brain’s built-in threat response. According to Dr. Edward Hallowell, a psychiatrist and founder of the Hallowell Center for Cognitive and Emotional Health, within each of our brains is a deeply embedded survival-based threat response that impacts our behavior on a daily basis, yet operates mostly outside the radar of our conscious awareness. Dr. Hallowell states: “There may not be lions or bears roaming the halls of your organization, but people’s brains are oriented to perceive threats.”
Moreover, the brain does not differentiate between threats to our physical safety and threats to our social need for inclusion, belonging and social connection. In fact, some neuroscientists now question the validity of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, explaining that in order to survive and develop properly, the brain must first experience belonging and the safety that comes from being accepted into a social group.5 From a neuroscience perspective, inclusion is a primary need that must be met for the brain to develop properly, and is not considered a third level need as in Maslow’s Hierarchy.
By understanding a few of the underlying brain dynamics that govern our human need for inclusion and social belonging, we gain new appreciation for the very personal and negative impact of microinequities and other messages of exclusion and marginalization in the workplace. This also helps us understand that no matter how strong, professional or mature someone appears, when they experience comments and behaviors that question their value and importance to the team, it can trigger a deeply embedded threat response, thus upending their ability to be positive, focused and performing to their highest level.
Dr. Matthew Lieberman, Director of the UCLA Social Cognitive Neuroscience lab, makes clear in his book, The Social Brain, that in order to effectively build a sense of belonging and trust with others, we need to understand the role of oxytocin in the brain.6 Often referred to as the “love hormone” or the “moral molecule,” oxytocin in the brain determines whether we will feel motivated, willing, and able to actively engage in building trust with others.7 The ability to develop trusting relationships with others is crucial to create psychological safety within organizations and leverage the strengths diversity brings to drive performance, innovation and creativity. A number of interesting studies demonstrate this fact with astonishing clarity.
In one study establishing trust with others,8 the levels of oxytocin in the participants’ blood was measured directly before and after they made the decision to send or to receive money from someone else. To ensure the participants would not consciously try to influence their own levels of oxytocin, they were not told that their oxytocin levels were being measured when their blood was being drawn. At the end of the study, researchers found that the amount of oxytocin recipients produced when they decided to receive money completely predicted how likely they were to demonstrate trustworthiness toward someone else and send the money going forward.Concerned that this might be more of a correlation than a “cause” of trustworthiness, the researchers then decided to test their findings using a more direct and irrefutable means – that is, by providing small doses of synthetic oxytocin to participants’ via a nasal spray. Comparing participants who received a real dose of oxytocin with those who received a placebo, the researchers found that giving people 24 IU of synthetic oxytocin more than doubled the amount of money they sent to a stranger. According to the researchers, “oxytocin appeared to do one thing—reduce the fear of trusting a stranger.”
In working effectively across differences, it is vitally important to keep oxytocin available in the brain, and yet this is easier said than done. When the brain perceives a threat in the environment, (real or perceived) this activates the fear / threat circuitry in the brain. When this happens, it creates a compounding problem. Once the fear circuitry is activated, the brain can no longer produce oxytocin, and our ability to create trusting relationships is significantly impaired – and if it is a very strong threat response – may even be impossible. Adding to this challenge is that our workplaces can also contribute to the threat response being activated. Unmanaged stress, pressure, urgency, uncertainty, being on the receiving end of microinequities, or feeling excluded, can all activate the threat response in the brain and take oxytocin offline, which negatively impacts levels of trust within organizations. As we can see, these brain dynamics happen mostly outside of our conscious awareness, and directly impact our ability to build trusting relationships across differences.
Another underlying brain dynamic interfering with our natural ability to be inclusive is the brain’s unconscious preference for similarities – and the speed with which it happens in the brain. Studies show, for example, that young children, even infants, recognize faces of their own race more quickly than those of different races.9 Significantly, this built-in bias of the brain towards familiar faces also extends into adulthood. For adults, it takes only 200 milliseconds to unconsciously register whether a face is familiar or not, and this means we process familiar faces with almost double the efficiency than unfamiliar faces.10 The brain clearly responds more quickly to those faces it recognizes as more familiar, and it this determination entirely on its own, with no conscious participation on our part. If we don’t learn how to override these tendencies, we will continue to be unconsciously drawn to those who are most similar to ourselves, and not even see opportunities to intentionally move toward someone who is different from ourselves, let alone build trust with them.
From these brain dynamics we can see how conflicts, misunderstandings and exclusionary behaviors easily occur and create distrust across differences. These dynamics also help us understand why conversations to resolve them are often difficult and even at times unhelpful. These brain dynamics are no small event, as they make building trust virtually impossible for the brain, and quickly erode any pre-existing trust within a relationship.
The Good News
The good news is, however, that there are other brain dynamics and mechanisms that work for us in building inclusion skills. We can learn brain-based strategies and tools to consciously and intentionally work with the brain to increase inclusion skills and build more inclusive work environments.
One important area of the brain that supports our ability to be inclusive is the prefrontal cortex (also called the higher brain). It is considered the seat of our executive functioning in the brain,11 and it is what gives us the ability to access higher levels of thinking, see new possibilities, make conscious choices, and successfully integrate longterm behaviors changes. From the prefrontal cortex, we have access to the highest levels of self-awareness, the greatest ability to consciously manage discomfort with differences, as well as the ability to engage empathy, and consciously show appreciation towards others’ needs, beliefs and perspectives. (Note: It is also true that the prefrontal cortex is easily destabilized by the brain’s threat response, requiring other brain-based skills not addressed in this article.) Overall, it is from the prefrontal cortex overall that we have the capacity to effectively and more consistently override unconscious biases, choose behaviors of respect and inclusion, and build trust with others.
Dr. David Amodio, Associate Professor of Psychology & Neural Science at NYU, studies the neural and psychological mechanisms underlying our social behavior, particularly in the context of intergroup relations, prejudice and stereotyping. His research shows that while it may be impossible to eradicate our biases, the brain is thoroughly equipped and capable of overriding them.12 He explains that we can learn to work with the brain to build and strengthen our capacity for connecting, collaborating and building trust across differences. Dr. Amodio identifies the role of the higher brain in the process and that in order to become more egalitarian and successfully override biases and prejudices in the brain, “we need to train ourselves to help the neocortex do its job.
A main brain-based strategy for increasing the capacity of inclusion in the brain is to engage the power of appreciation and other positive feeling states. Historically, studies on emotions focused on negative emotions because of their demonstrated detrimental effect on health and wellbeing. In the past fifteen years, however, there has been a growing trend to research positive emotions, and the discovery that positive emotions have incredibly positive and beneficial effects on health and wellbeing. Research shows for example, that appreciation and positive feeling states increase the brain’s capacity for connection with others.14 Positive emotions also increase attention and broaden thinking, while also causing us to consider and pursue a wider, more creative range of ideas and possibilities.15 Additionally, studies show that positive emotions and positive feeling states help stabilize the prefrontal cortex where our greatest capacity for inclusion lies.
The new findings on positive feelings also show that positive feeling states are available to us whenever we choose to activate and experience them.16 It is now well understood that by consciously activating positive feeling states we can bring oxytocin online, and with it, the motivation and ability to engage in attitudes and behaviors that demonstrate an authentic concern for others. And just like in the trust study mentioned earlier, when we receive trust from others it increases oxytocin in our own brains, and thereby increasing the amount of trust we are willing to give back (as demonstrated in the study when subjects received more money, they gave more money back.) We call this creating an upward spiral of trust.
Working With the Brain for Inclusion Success
Science now provides a new way to advance inclusion skills by building an upward spiral of trust and increasing the possibility for a new level of success. Using a brainbased approach to developing inclusion skills, we can build on the many ways the brain can work for us in creating opportunities for cooperation, connection and compassion across differences – while minimizing the brain’s counter-productive tendencies. It is through brainbased tools, strategies and skills, that we can significantly improve our inclusion capabilities, and create work places where people – regardless of their differences – feel heard, validated, and safe to share who they are, what they really think, and fully contribute to the success of the organization.
1 Deloitte’s Global Human Capital Trends report for 2019. Retrieved from https://www. hrtechnologist.com/articles/digital-transformation/future-of-work-ten-key-trends/
2 Committee Encouraging Corporate Philanthropy. (2010). Shaping the future: Solving social problems through business strategy. Pathways to Sustainable Value Creation in 2020. Retrieved from http://cecp.co/wp-content/uploads/2016/11/Shaping-the-Future-1. pdf ?redirect=no.
3 Pillay, Srini (2011) Your Brain and Business: The Neuroscience of Great Leaders, Upper Saddle River, New Jersey: Pearson Education
4 Hallowell, E., MD (2007) Crazy Busy: Overstretched, Overbooked, and About to Snap! Strategies for Handling Your Fast-Paced Life, New York, New York: Ballantine Books
5 Rutledge, Pamela B Ph.D (2011 November) Social Networks: What Maslow Misses, retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positively-media/201111/ social-networks-what-maslow-misses-0
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8 Zac, Paul J. (2017, January-February) The Neuroscience of Trust, Harvard Business Review (pp.84–90). Retrieved from https://www.levelfiveexecutive.com/wp-content/ uploads/2017/03/hbr-neuroscience-of-trust.pdf.
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10 Pillay, S. (2014, March 13) How to Deal with Unfamiliar Situations. Harvard Business Review. Retrieved from https://hbr.org/2014/03/how-to-deal-with-unfamiliar-situations.
11 Hikaru Takeuchi et all (2013, July). Brain structures associated with executive functions during everyday events in a non-clinical sample. U.S. National Library of Medicine, NIH, Retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/ PMC3695328/#CR78
12 Amodio, David (2010, August 31.), The egalitarian brain, Greater Good Science Center, Retrieved from http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_egalitarian_brain|
14 Bethany E. Kok et all (2013, May 6). How Positive Emotions Build Physical Health: Perceived Positive Social Connections Account for the Upward Spiral Between Positive Emotions and Vagal Tone. Psychological Science. Retrieved from https://journals. sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0956797612470827
15 Fredrickson, B. L. (2009) Positivity: Groundbreaking Research Reveals how to Embrace the Hidden Strength of Positive Emotions, Overcome Negativity, and Thrive, New York: Crown
16 Positive Emotions Broaden the Scope of Attention and Thought-Action Repertoires https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3156609/ | psychology |
https://www.essaymon.com/sc/generation-china.html | 2023-12-06T21:16:59 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-50/segments/1700679100603.33/warc/CC-MAIN-20231206194439-20231206224439-00874.warc.gz | 0.951615 | 3,754 | CC-MAIN-2023-50 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-50__0__122814675 | en | Chapter 1: Introduction
1.1 Background of the study
In recent times, it is evident that there exists a huge gap between the old generation and the “me generation” in China. “Me generation” pertains to the younger Chinese people who have been born from 1980s where the “one child policy” was imposed. Accordingly, this young generation is now in their early adulthood and enjoying more convenience in life than the first generation. It was stressed that most of them are successful in their careers and earning hefty amount of salaries. Nonetheless, what makes them different from the old generation is seemed to be entailed in terms of their lavish lifestyle. It was emphasized that they prefer to spend their money on shopping and enjoying lavish things compared to the old generation that exhibit more frugal lifestyle. Hence, this study opted to assess different perspectives about the way “me generation” behaves in line with their purchasing behavior toward lavish apparel or clothing.
1.2 Rationale of Research
The study opted to delve into the purchasing behavior of “me generation” women in regard to their daily leisure wear. In specific, the main objective is to assess the impact of foreign women leisure wear brands on the “me generation” women in China. It has been acknowledge that this particular generation is far different from the older generation when it comes to their lifestyle and consumption behavior. Accordingly, “me generation” is more inclined to spend on shopping and prefer luxurious brands. Likewise it is interesting to investigate onto this matter by analyzing what factors are influencing the consumption behavior of “me generation” women towards foreign brand daily leisure wear.
Research aims and objectives
The following are the aims and objectives of the study:
1. To analyze the existing circumstances of foreign women’s leisure wear brand in Beijing China.
2. To examine different variables affecting consumer behavior such as personal factors and psychological factors.
3. To discuss the influence factor of consumer’s motivation and attitude
It is of utmost importance to develop clear and precise questions which would guide the entire research process. Hence, the following are the sub problems that this study purports to resolve:
1. What is the perception of “me generation” women as regards foreign leisure wear brand?
2. Is there any relationship between brand awareness and consumer behavior?
3. Is there any relationship between brand attitude and consumer behavior?
4. Is there any relationship between brand association and consumer behavior?
5. What is the impact of foreign leisure wear brand on purchasing behavior of “me generation” women in China?
1.3 Testable Hypotheses
HO1. There is no significant relationship between brand awareness and consumer behavior
HO2. There is no significant relationship between brand attitude and consumer behavior
HO2. There is no significant relationship between brand association and consumer behavior
1.4 Structure of the Dissertation
Introduction – This part provides an overview of the study, presenting the issue/s that will be dealt with. It is also the section in which the study outlines the aims and objective for conducting this research, juxtaposing to the research questions which will be the key guidelines of the dissertation.
Literature Review – Part and parcel of the study is the data collection that are relevant and significant for the topic. Therefore, the literature review will be the collation of all these data derived from other studies and materials found befitting for discussion. Given this, the analysis of data derived from focus group interview and case studies will be compared for evaluation and assessment with the literatures obtained. The structure of the literature review will be thematic in form so as to provide a meaningful and easy comprehension for the readers, by means of presenting the information according to themes or subjects.
Methodology – The study will be dealt with qualitatively using focus group interview and quantitatively using survey research method. In this aspect, the study needs to acquire data that are relevant and substantial in form in order to assure the validity and reliability of the results. Through focus group interview, the perception of the respondents will be explored to gain insights into the issues being discussed. Nonetheless, a questionnaire survey will also be conducted to support the findings of the other method and to provide a more robust conclusion.
Results and Findings – After the data are accumulated, collated and organized, an analytic evaluation will be employed to assert the objectives of the study. Using critical and careful evaluation of all the results of two methods and the retrieved literatures, the study will provide a conclusion that will answer directly the issues previously presented.
Conclusion, Recommendation, Limitation and Reflection – This serves as final part of the study wherein a conclusion is made based on the results of the investigation of the study. Also, a practical recommendation will be given to ascertain the applicability of the findings in practical living. Likewise, it will also provide an insightful learning about how the research process developed the skills for critical thinking, time management and careful attention to details of the researcher. It is opted to assert how problems incurred in the process have been resolved and what lessons were learned from them by the researcher. The limitation part entails the honest admission of probable limitations of the study and how this might have influence the findings. Likewise, this will serve as basis for the next section which deals with the areas for further research.
Chapter 2: Review of Related Literature
2.1 History of foreign brands in China
This refers to those born after the implementation of the “one child” policy in China. Hence, they are also depicted to be the “young emperors” for they grew up spoiled as no children in China had for generations.
Female buying behavior in China
It was asserted that Chinese women today become one of the most powerful consumer groups. Hence, it was asserted that in order to understand China’s women, it is indeed important to look into the four main classifications of Chinese women today: These are identity builders, career builders, family builders and new life builders (Mok, Nd).
Female Identity builders refer to those high school and college students who see themselves as “I’m not a girl but not yet a woman”. In this specific group, the members particularly value personal growth and self-discovery. Likewise, they are also depicted to be the “me generation”. Accordingly, the female identity builders have much knowledge and preference for “in” items from hip accessories to stylish clothings, cutting-edge electronic equipment and gadgets and even entertainment activities. Moreover, social acceptance is also important for them. In which case, gaining high education is also perceived to be a way for them to attain social recognition. Therefore, many of them seek education overseas because of the belief that knowledge can create success and therefore lead to a fulfilling life (mok, Nd).
In connection, female career builders entail a competitive edge as first generation “only children”. They are mostly successful in their careers thus enable them to have strong financial means to spend for things they desire. Nonetheless, they also value their professional image, thus, they tend to spend their money wisely on items that could project their ideal lifestyle. Likewise, they are likely to buy foreign brands such as luxurious brand like Versace, Louis Vuitton, Miss Sixty, Prada, BCBG and DKNY. Accordingly, these women find ways to enhance their lifestyle such that some would enroll to gym to also serve as a means to relax from tiring day and at the same time become fit. Furthermore, career-builder women are more inclined to travel places such as England, France, Italy and Spain. Nonetheless, they are still very loyal to their country that some opt to return to the home country after working abroad (Mok, Nd).
On the one hand, the family builders tend to focus only on their child most of the time as a result of the one child policy. They tend to spend weekends in educational places like museums, zoos, park and expose their child to activities that will boost his/her talent. Compared to other groups, these women desire to have long-term investments yet they tend to be impulsive buyer of clothes, cosmetics and accessories. Advertisements have strong influence in their purchasing behavior as well as recommendations of friends, co-workers and experts. Unlike career-builders, they tend to have little attention in international clothing and cosmetic brands (Mok, Nd).
Lastly, new life builders are the older generations who are depending on low compensation coming from the government or retirement plans. Health and longevity are the two main concerns of these women and so, they tend to look for other jobs that could augment their income. Likewise, when it comes to consumption decision, this is usually a need-basis. In which case, they only buy what is necessity unlike with other groups (Mok, Nd).
2.2 Consumer Attitude
Researchers have focused on social psychological study of the relationship between attitudes and behaviours, in order to outline the procedures by which attitudes of the consumers are transformed to behavior. A number of scholars have looked at the facets of the consumer, while others have concentrated on the influence of the social aspect, including reference groups, on the choice of the consumer. Other researchers have centered on implicit and explicit preferences of consumers and how these choices interrelate with consumer preference. Meanwhile, some researches focused on the comparative effect of cognitive against affective aspects on the preferences of consumers. Ultimately, scholars have studied the foremost frameworks of the attitude-behavior association to elucidate on consumer behavior. One such framework is the Theory of Planned Behavior (TPB). TPB is used as a facility to predict both self-reported behavior and behavioral intentions in connection with consumption. It is among the well-supported, influential theories that are used in studying human behavior in social psychology (Ha 1998; Smith et al 2008).
The fundamental principle of TPB is that behavioral judgments are not made on one’s own accord alone; instead it is the result of a logical procedure wherein behavior is induced, although indirectly, by norms, attitudes, and perceptions of power over the behavior. The framework suggests that attitude (i.e., the assessment of the intended behavior), subjective customs (i.e., recognized social pressure pertaining behavior performance), and the PBC or perceived behavioral control (i.e., perceived power over behavior performance) affect behavior predominantly by their bearing on behavioral intention. For this reason, intention is perceived as the proximal indicator of behavior. PBC is believed to project both explicit impact on behavior and implicit effect by means of intention (Smith et al 2008).
Over twenty years of study by means of planned behavior and reasoned action theories have supplied massive prop up for the frameworks. In addition, the prognostic capacity of these frameworks has been illustrated across a span of consumer domains, as well as food preferences, goals to buy environmentally affable products and sumptuous items such as mobile phones and watches, intents to acquire celebrity goods, intentions to be involved in consumer discontent responses, purposes to utilize e-coupons, and even plans to shoplift. Marketing psychologists have listed down TPB as a remarkably useful model not only for comprehending conduct of consumers but also for influencing it (Shukla 2004; Smith et al 2008).
2.3 Affect on Branding?
Affect is defined as a feeling or emotion resulting from various reactions such as joy, anger and sorrow. Brand image and affect can be perceived by people through logos, brand names, and slogans, which can be evaluated either positively or negatively. Brand affect, in its simplest sense, is a positive feeling which a customer derives from consuming a certain product. In which case, the experience can be described as a happy, uplifting and exciting emotion (Chi et al 2009). There can be two possible brand affects that a person can get, namely: positive and negative brand affect. When satisfied with a product, it is depicted to be a positive brand affect. On the other hand, if the consumer feels uncomfortable and dissatisfied with the product, hence, it is stressed that a negative brand affect occurs. The consumer’s mood and emotion also complements brand affect. Likewise, factors encompassing brand name, logo or slogan may also determine positive or negative brand affect towards the product. The person usually feels the brand affect after using the product itself (Chi et al 2009).
According to Chaudhuri (2001), brand affect is the capability of a brand to produce a positive response from the customer as a result of the product’s frequent use. Chaudhuri (2001) also emphasized that loyalty to a brand is related to brand trust and brand affect. These two factors determine if customers are committed to a brand and if the concept of “one-to-one marketing relationships” is present. It is now suggested that when consumers habitually buy product brands to which they have high brand affect, they are more likely to have increased commitment to the brand.
Some products present vague benefits and yet can still elicit a positive brand affect. There are also pleasurable products as asserted by Chaudhuri (2001) that give high satisfaction, making customers feel a more positive response towards it.
2.4 Brand Loyalty
A brand is seen as a trademark or a distinguishing name of a merchandise or manufacturer. It is a term, name, sign, design symbol, or any combination employed to recognize the products and services of a merchandiser. A brand identity carries out many main functions. It distinguishes the merchandise or service and allows the consumer to identify, refuse or endorse a product or service. It communicates information to the customer (Palumbo & Herbig 2000). Information supplied could involve statements concerning the wealth, lifestyle, or modernity of its users. It serves as a piece of lawful property in which the proprietor can invest and by way of law is protected against rival trespass. Brand names bear the image of the merchandise; “brand” pertains to a term, name, sign, symbol or design employed by a company to distinguish its dealings from those of its rivals, to associate a product with a specific seller. Branding totes up value to goods and services. This value takes place from the experience acquired from using the brand: reliability, familiarity, and decreased risk (Palumbo & Herbig 2000).
2.5 Customer Satisfaction and Product Involvement
By nature, consumers tend to give higher regard and be more attached to one brand compared to others. Likewise, there are also differences in the level of knowledge a consumer has on one product than the other. This is where product involvement becomes more evident (Kwon, Lee, & Kwon 2008).
Product involvement pertains to the inherent needs, values, interest, and enthusiasm of consumers towards various product categories. As empirical researches claim, product involvement is positively associated with brand perception and preference. This implies that involvement with a product can best explain the consumer’s brand choice. A high involvement in the product will influence the consumer to have a more active information search while considering a wide array of alternatives in their decision-making. Consequently, low involvement in a product will make the consumer’s perception of product differentiation relatively weaker between alternatives. In low-involvement products, a lower price will appear to be a critical product attribute and is more likely to influence decisions (Kwon et al 2008).
The involvement of the customer can be viewed in various ways; consequently, an enormous deal of consideration in literature has concentrated on distinguishing the different meanings of the term. Vastly general, involvement has been defined as an interior condition of arousal composed of three key properties: direction, persistence and intensity (Warrington & Shim 2000). Intensity pertains to the degree of motivation or involvement of an individual. Degree of involvement runs along a continuum starting from low to high. It also differs across situations, products and individuals. Despite that fact that clients individually perceive various degrees of involvement for diverse purchase situations and product classes, a number of purchase situations and product classes are commonly viewed as more engaging over others (Warrington & Shim 2000).
Direction is described as the issue or object upon which a customer is motivated, while persistence pertains to the period of the intensity of involvement. Consumers display different levels of involvement concerning products, marketing communications and/or purchase situations (direction) in comparatively brief to prolonged periods of time (dubbed as persistence) (Warrington & Shim 2000).
Involvement is usually regarded as a function of three components: (a) individual attributes such as needs, values, goals and interests of a person; (b) situational aspects such as the purchase event or the perceived threat linked with the purchase judgment; and the (c) attributes of the stimulus or object such as the kind of communication channel or variations in the product class. Results correlated with strong involvement include more effort and time dedicated to search related activities, greater variation in product characteristics, increased probability of creating brand preference, and extensive decision making (Warrington & Shim 2000).
Involvement towards a product is hypothetically analogous to the idea of ego involvement. The concept of ego involvement exists in the event that an object or issue is associated with a peculiar set of values and attitudes which form the self-concept of a person. Likewise, involvement with a product exists when a merchandise category is associated with an individual’s centrally maintained self-concept and values. Product involvement can be classified as being either enduring or situational. An intense, comparatively short-term level of interest in merchandise is regarded as situational involvement, whereas an individual’s continuing interest in a merchandise category is pertained to as enduring involvement (Warrington & Shim 2000). These refer to differing degrees of persistence.
Theoretically, the difference between situational involvement and enduring involvement is on specificity. Each type of involvement connects to the client’s feelings of self-association or relevancy towards a product. Situational involvement is headed towards the utilization of merchandise in a particular situation, while enduring involvement is founded on the association of the merchandise to the client’s essentially held values across all purchases. For the purpose of this research, product involvement is operationalized as the perceived significance of a product category according to the client’s intrinsic interests, values and needs (Warrington & Shim 2000). | psychology |
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There are people who choose to risk physical danger daily to protect, save or stand up for someone or something greater than themselves. They deserve to be recognized as heroes for that kind of sacrifice. A few people find themselves in situations where they make the same sacrifice, whether they chose to be there or not. I’d call them heroes too.
Even though most of us won’t make that choice or find ourselves in that kind of situation, I think it’s in our nature to want to have a positive impact on others and I think most of us would agree that we have a responsibility beyond ourselves, our family and friends, but our daily lives seem to yield few opportunities to act on that. And that’s the problem with daily life, isn’t it, because a whole lot of self-absorbed days turn into a self-absorbed life before we know it.
David Foster Wallace’s reflections on heroism and everyday life are frequently on my mind. A few pages from The Pale King have stuck with me, where he describes mistakenly wandering into an Advanced Tax class at university and hears the substitute instructor define accountancy as a heroic profession. I think he’s being sarcastic, but if so, it is to make a point. I sure buy the part where the instructor says “Routine, repetition, tedium, monotony, ephemeracy, inconsequence, abstraction, disorder, boredom, angst, ennui – these are the true hero’s enemies, and make no mistake, they are fearsome indeed. For they are real.”
So you know how when you’re on a certain mind path, everything you see or read or hear seems to connect? For some reason I recently started re-reading a book given to me by a friend 29 years ago (the reason actually is that I needed something to read on the treadmill and this particular book happened to be the one I picked out of the closest box. But was that really coincidence or did some force of the universe place that book at the top of the box?) Anyhow, the book is Love by Leo Buscaglia, and one particular paragraph leapt off the page at me:
“There are few individuals who have the power to stop prejudice, universal poverty or war, but this is not the question. The only question we can justly ask of ourselves is ‘What can I do?’ The answer is usually simple and answerable, especially if we truly care and are willing to assume the responsibility.”
But the answer didn’t seem simple or answerable to me. My question was still how to get past those fearsome enemies of boredom, angst, monotony and inconsequence; to justify a life of privilege during which, so far, sacrifice really hasn’t been asked of me; to assume responsibility for having a net positive impact rather than an insignificant or even detrimental one?
Further on, Dr. Buscaglia quoted a psychotherapist named Joseph Zinker, who, I’ve since discovered, has a fascinating story of his own (I’m trying to find a copy of a collection of his poems and drawings called Sketches: An Anthology of Essays, but so far have only been able to find it as an e-book, and I’m not there yet). Here’s his advice: take my one decision to change seriously … fight my petty resistances against change and fear … learn more about my mind … try out behaviour that fills my real need … carry out concrete acts rather than conceptualizing about them (oh, that one is tough) … listen to my words and look in the eyes of those who speak to me.
I think I understand this. Counter boredom with change. Use angst to learn about the source of my fear. Fight monotony at all cost. I will not become a hero, but I can resolve not to be inconsequential either. | psychology |
https://www.everybody-hurts-derbyshire.co.uk/additional-reading | 2019-12-14T15:21:06 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-51/segments/1575541281438.51/warc/CC-MAIN-20191214150439-20191214174439-00156.warc.gz | 0.704366 | 345 | CC-MAIN-2019-51 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-51__0__151283150 | en | Suggested reading for parents of violent children
Cottrell, B. (2005). When teens abuse their parents. Halifax, Nova Scotia, Fernwood Publishing.
Doherty, W. (2003). Confident Parenting. NSW, Finch Publishing.
Edgette, J. (2002). Stop negotiating with your teen. N.Y., Perigree.
Omer, H. (2000). Parental Presence. Phoenix, Zeig, Tucker & Co.
Omer, H. (2004) Nonviolent resistance: a new approach to violent and self-destructive teens. Cambridge, UK, Cambridge Uni Press.
Riley, Douglas 1997 The Defiant Child: A Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder. ISBN: 0878339639.
Gregory Routt and Lily Anderson (2014) Adolescent Violence in the Home: Restorative Approaches to Building Healthy, Respectful Family Relationships ISBN-10: 0415829011 | ISBN-13: 978-0415829014
Rubin, C. (1996). Don't let your kids kill you: A guide for parents of drug and alcohol addicted children. Rockport, MA, Element Books.
Samenow, Stanton (2001) Before It’s too late: Why some kids get into trouble and what parents can do about it. Revised ed. New York: Three Rivers press.
Sells, S. (2001). Parenting Your Out-of-Control Teenager. N.Y., St. Martin's Griffin.
Weinhause, E. and K. Friedman (1991). Stop struggling with your teenager. Melbourne, Australia, Penguin. | psychology |
http://allansealy.com/products/ | 2019-03-22T17:19:00 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-13/segments/1552912202672.57/warc/CC-MAIN-20190322155929-20190322181929-00350.warc.gz | 0.954667 | 667 | CC-MAIN-2019-13 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-13__0__126479024 | en | Wisdom Brings Success serves to address that very need, opening your eyes to possibilities and realities that will renew your thinking and transform your life. In this book you will find valuable insights and wisdom that will not only cause you to see beyond barriers, but also break the barriers that hinder your success. This book also offers you practical insights that address your spiritual and personal development. Wisdom Brings Success is the result of in-depth study in the art of excellence, by author, inspirational speaker and serial entrepreneur, Allan Sealy. Due to his extensive business and coaching experience, Allan is able to present practical lessons on life mastery from a unique perspective.
"Discipline yourself to do the things that you need to do when you need to do them, and the day will come when you will be able to do the things you want to do when you want to do them!" - Zig Ziglar The ability to control one's emotions is a determining factor between success and failure. How we react to a situation is usually based on how we feel about ourselves and what we feel we deserve. Do you shrink from adversity or view it as a way to grow in strength and skill. Do you see yourself winning or losing? Are you prepared to make things work or do you feel that it's not worth the effort. Whatever you believe is usually what will come to pass. Pearls of Wisdom's ground breaking series on Self Mastery will equip you with the tools to grow in confidence, power and help you develop a keen awareness of self limiting and self sabotaging beliefs and actions.
Personal power is based on strength, confidence, and competence that individuals gradually acquire in the course of their development. It is self-assertion, and a natural, healthy striving for love, satisfaction and meaning in one's interpersonal world. Pearls of Wisdom Personal Power Series represents a movement toward self-realization and its primary aim is mastery of self, not others. It is based on competence, vision, positive personal qualities, and service. When externalized you are likely to be more generous, creative and empowering.
There are times when we must take a leap of faith and make decisions based on an optimism that others do not share. In some circles this is called 'crazy' faith, however, there is nothing crazy in making a leap of faith based on a decision accompanied with an overwhelming sense of assurance, a moment of clarity and the certainty you have when you find the missing piece of a puzzle. Faith is NOT blind nor is acting on it reckless. Pearls of Wisdom Faith Series will help you see far see the world and yourself from a more empowering perspective and empower you with a wisdom capable bringing unforeseen and unprecedented success.
“With what can we compare the Kingdom, or what parable shall we use to explain it? It is like a grain of mustard seed, which when sown upon the ground, is the smallest of all seeds upon the earth; yet after it is sown, it grows up and becomes the greatest of all garden herbs”
Pearls of Wisdom – The Kingdom series presents the keys and principles of The Kingdom that will enable you determine your future, break the barriers that others said you could not cross, unlock the greatness inside of you and have mastery over any circumstance or situation your confronted with. | psychology |
https://english.ctpveldzicht.nl/ | 2022-09-29T08:18:01 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-40/segments/1664030335326.48/warc/CC-MAIN-20220929065206-20220929095206-00171.warc.gz | 0.907172 | 108 | CC-MAIN-2022-40 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-40__0__163820029 | en | The Veldzicht Centre for Transcultural Psychiatry in Balkbrug helps patients suffering from complex psychiatric problems. Many of our patients are from non-Dutch cultural backgrounds and some have committed crimes as a result of their psychological disorder. At Veldzicht we provide them with intensive psychiatric care in a secure environment. That ensures better outcomes for them and a safer society for us.
This video about the Centre for Transcultural Psychiatry Veldzicht shows how patients with complex psychiatric problems are treated through a transcultural approach. ...read more | psychology |
http://www.gyalwagyatso.org/2016-07-20-wednesday-meditation.html | 2018-06-19T20:13:15 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-26/segments/1529267863119.34/warc/CC-MAIN-20180619193031-20180619213031-00378.warc.gz | 0.955618 | 487 | CC-MAIN-2018-26 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-26__0__168262034 | en | Wednesday Drop-in Meditation
led by various instructors
7:00pm – 8:00pm
Our Wednesday drop-in meditation sessions provide an ideal environment for new students to learn how to meditate, and for seasoned meditators to deepen their practice.
We use meditation to work with our minds and to cultivate the potential of the mind to experience more happiness. Both neuroscience and medical research have studied the effects of meditation and discovered many benefits of this practice. These include stress reduction, lower blood pressure, increased attention, less anger, greater positive mental states, and an increase in our capacity for peace and happiness.
Beyond that, meditation is an essential part of our spiritual practice if we are wanting to attain spiritual realizations.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Who can attend?
Everybody is welcome to attend. You can be a beginning student or a seasoned meditator.
- Do I need to bring anything?
The center provides chairs, as well as mats and cushions if you prefer to sit on the floor. You can also bring your own meditation props.
- What is the format of the class?
After a brief introduction we start with a period of meditation, followed by a short break. Depending on the meditation leader we may have another meditation session after the break, or a short Dharma talk. Usually there is some time at the end for discussions and Q&A.
- How much does it cost?
We ask for a donation of $5 - $15 to cover expenses. Your generous donations are essential for the continuation of programs like this. Nobody is turned away for lack of funds.
Our Meditation Leaders
Venerable Yangchen has been a nun since 2001. She lives at Land of Medicine Buddha in Soquel, where she also leads meditations and practices on a regular basis.
Rosemary Berwald has been seriously meditating for many years. She has attended the Discovering Buddhism classes at our center as well as some of the Basic Program modules.
Bill Kostura has been sitting since 2001, and has studied primarily with Gil Fronsdal in Redwood City. At present he explores the teachings primarily through perspectives on suffering and non-attachment. He feels fortunate to teach Buddhist meditation regularly at a couple of places, including at a state prison in Monterey County. He works as an architectural historian, and has published widely in that field. | psychology |
https://fbcreading.org/connect/adults | 2021-01-18T07:07:38 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-04/segments/1610703514423.60/warc/CC-MAIN-20210118061434-20210118091434-00706.warc.gz | 0.9466 | 140 | CC-MAIN-2021-04 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-04__0__261533415 | en | When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze. Isaiah 43:2
Virtual GriefShare at FBC
Wednesday evenings from 7:30 - 9:00 p.m. through December 16 2020
GriefShare is a 13 week program facilitated by caring people who will walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experiences. You don’t have to go through the grieving process alone. Please email the GriefShare team to learn more. | psychology |
https://wcecalgary.com/events/leading-with-empathy-interactive-workshop-with-erin-thorp/ | 2023-06-06T01:43:05 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-23/segments/1685224652207.81/warc/CC-MAIN-20230606013819-20230606043819-00100.warc.gz | 0.953052 | 633 | CC-MAIN-2023-23 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-23__0__219587530 | en | Empathy is the ability to connect with your workforce without trying to fix, blame, or minimize the experience. Empathy is the competitive edge most leaders are missing. Individuals, teams, and workplace cultures value empathy, and leaders’ demonstrated skills are not measuring up. Leadership demands empathy in various situations and must often be put into practice when emotions are high, pressure is mounting, and stress is palpable. It is in these very moments that our empathy abilities determine our impact as a leader.
In this interactive session facilitated by Erin Thorp, participants will explore the challenges leaders face when practicing empathy. Participants will learn the most common empathy misses, practice using empathy in various situations and gain access to a toolkit of empathy practices they can implement immediately.
Attendees of all experience levels are welcome to learn how to become a more empathetic leader. Don’t miss out on this opportunity, register today! We look forward to seeing you there.
Date: May 3rd, 2023
Time: 5:30 – 8PM
Where: Millennium Tower Conference Centre 2nd Floor
Cost: $10 (includes food and non-alcoholic drinks)
If you wish to attend and require financial assistance, please reach out to [email protected].
Note that WCE is an inclusive community. While our events are curated for those working in consulting engineering, much of our content will interest those working in similar industries – you are welcome to be part of our community. All genders are welcome and encouraged to attend our events.
About The Facilitator:
Erin Thorp, P.Eng. ACC, (she/her) is an empathic keynote speaker, writer, and coach for leaders who struggle with conflict, communication, and performance during high-stress times. She supports leaders in navigating difficult conversations, building powerful teams, and communicating with empathy so they can lead confidently. Erin holds a Bachelor of Science degree in civil engineering from the University of Calgary, is an associate certified coach through Integral Coaching Canada and a certified mental fitness coach through Positive Intelligence.
Having spent 20 years in the engineering and construction industries, leading teams and delivering projects, Erin had taken notice that her colleagues were highly skilled and cared deeply about their work, but most were incapable of fully holding their own emotion and therefore unable to hold the emotions of others. In 2017 she authored Inside Out Empathy, a book inspired by her career and journey as a mother, and explores using the superpower of empathy to build effective teams.
This is an 18+ event, minors will not be admitted.
Visit our website wcecalgary.com to learn more about WCE!
Health and Safety: Wearing masks is not required by public health. However, you are welcome to wear a face-covering of your choice at your own comfort level.
Photo Consent: WCE will be taking photos + video at the event. WCE and the sponsor company may post select imagery and video clips onto social media, our respective companies’ websites and other communications to WCE members and sponsor company employees. | psychology |
https://www.ichm.edu.au/news/news?article=7067 | 2021-06-15T03:53:07 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-25/segments/1623487616657.20/warc/CC-MAIN-20210615022806-20210615052806-00620.warc.gz | 0.955573 | 258 | CC-MAIN-2021-25 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-25__0__206199250 | en | Life and study skills are being given an extra boost with the appointment of counsellor and certified life coach, Renata Wilson.
ICHM has always placed the wellbeing of students front and centre and Renata Wilson’s appointment as Student Welfare Officer takes this to a new level.
Previously owner and operator of her own counselling and life-coaching business, Shifting Boundaries, Renata joins ICHM as part of the Student and Industry Engagement team.
Renata says there is a lot going on for students, with many living away from home for the first time.
‘My advice is to take advantage of this free confidential on-campus service, whatever the problem, from time management and confidence issues, through to strategies to help make the most of ICHM in particular and life in general’, she says.
Renata is available by appointment every weekday afternoon from her office at Regency International House.
As part of her role, she contributes to student and staff welfare policies.
Renata holds a Graduate Diploma in Counselling, a Graduate Diploma in Life Coaching, a Certificate in Relationship Counselling and Conflict Resolution and a Certificate in Grief and Loss Counselling from the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors. | psychology |
http://unseenpromise.blogspot.com/2011/06/three_28.html | 2018-12-10T04:08:57 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-51/segments/1544376823303.28/warc/CC-MAIN-20181210034333-20181210055833-00346.warc.gz | 0.990858 | 417 | CC-MAIN-2018-51 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-51__0__241470042 | en | "Grief lasts forever. If it didn't, then it's not true grief. I know it sounds hard to believe, but once you stop fighting it and accept it as part of you, it's not such a bad thing. It'll still hurt, it'll still tear you apart, but in a different way. A more intimate way. You can use it. It's yours. It belongs to you. But the pain of grief...The pain you're feeling now doesn't last forever. It can't. It hurts too much. You can't live with that much pain- not forever. Your body can't take it. Your mind can't take it. It knows that if you don't get over it, it's going to kill you. And it doesn't want that. So it makes you get over it. I know you don't want to get over it, but getting over it doesn't mean forgetting it, it doesn't mean betraying your feelings, it just means reducing the pain to a tolerable level, a level that doesn't destroy you. I know that right now the idea of getting over it is unimaginable. It's impossible. Inconceivable. Unthinkable. You don't want to get over it. Why should you? It's all you've got. You don't want kind words, you don't care what other people think or say, you don't want to know how they felt when they lost someone. They're not you, are they? They can't feel what you feel. The only thing you want is the thing you can't have. It's gone. Never coming back. No one knows how that feels. No one knows what it's like to reach out and touch someone who isn't there and will never be there again. No one knows that unfillable emptiness. No one but you. You and me, love. We don't want anything. We want to die. But life won't let us. We're all it's got." -Lucas by Kevin Brooks. | psychology |
https://sarahschock.wordpress.com/ | 2018-07-19T07:49:31 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-30/segments/1531676590711.36/warc/CC-MAIN-20180719070814-20180719090814-00151.warc.gz | 0.978071 | 1,799 | CC-MAIN-2018-30 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-30__0__213622704 | en | Last year, I was famous.
The moment Troy proposed to me on that glorious morning of March 28, 2015, I was thrust into celebrity. Suddenly, acquaintances I hadn’t spoken to since high school were congratulating me on my engagement. Friends and family were showering me with gifts. My schedule was collecting events so fast I had to start color-coding them to keep them straight.
From March 28 on, I was no longer Sarah Schock. I was The Bride-to-Be.
Life as The Bride-to-Be was both stressful and fabulous. Every day, I was working on my wedding — emailing vendors, perusing Pinterest, scouring bridal shops, attending parties in my honor. Oh, the parties were fun! I got to sit on a throne as people told me how pretty I looked and passed presents my way. Who wouldn’t love that?
No matter what I was doing, though, I was constantly aware of myself. I could feel the heat of the spotlight shining directly on my forehead, and sometimes it made me sweat. As a self-professed introvert, I’m not often comfortable with attention. It was strange to know that so much of people’s time and money was being spent on me — all because I loved someone.
I don’t mean to sound conceited or ungrateful. This isn’t a phenomenon unique to me, after all; I imagine all brides experience the same thing. Pregnant women, too. Even those who have lost a loved one — all of these events are momentous, life-defining, and it makes sense that people start to associate you with them. I remember how, in the months after I lost my mom, I couldn’t look at anybody without seeing pity pooled in their eyes, couldn’t listen to them without hearing You poor thing saturated in every word. During that time, I was The Girl Whose Mom Died.
Something funny happens when you’re labeled like this: you begin to believe that’s all you are. In the midst of your mountain-moment, you become something like a stereotype — basic, one-dimensional, serving a single purpose to the story.
But it’s your story. As the protagonist, you’re entitled to as many dimensions as you please. You are bright and complex and bursting with quirks — you garden, you wear glasses, you take honey in your tea. You have a name.
When I was engaged, I tried hard to maintain my sense of self. It was difficult, mostly from a logistical stance; I didn’t have time to read poetry, write essays, do the things I’d normally do in my free time. I also didn’t need to. I was perfectly content to spend my days connecting with Troy, planning the biggest celebration of our lives. I don’t think there’s any shame in that, either.
Still, I didn’t want to be seen as only The Bride-to-Be. I suppose that’s the trouble with fame, isn’t it — you can never escape what you’re known for.
Until, that is, everything eventually blows over.
It’s hard to describe how drastic the difference is between your wedding day and the day that follows. It’s like muting the television screen mid-static — the silence is staggering.
Even the night of our wedding, as Troy and I rumbled away from the Wisconsin barn where we married, finally and forever alone, I felt our wedding wash away from us: a castle in sand. I sat in the dark and sobbed to Bon Iver, so full of emotion I literally could not contain it all. I wasn’t sad, per se, but the sense of finality was so palpable.
It was over. It was all over.
And yet . . . the best was still to come.
The week that followed our wedding was truly the sweetest, most wonderful week of my life. Anticipating a “real” honeymoon in the coming months, Troy and I had chosen to stay in southern Wisconsin for what I called our “mini-moon.” Aside from our accommodations, we had no agenda; we woke late each morning, made breakfast, donned scarves, and slipped into the Nitro for an unknown adventure, coffees in cupholders and Google Maps in hand.
We wound up at wineries, breweries, supper clubs, hole-in-the-wall cheese shops. There was such a relaxed air about it all. In November, the small towns of Wisconsin were quiet, quaint, covered in cloud and a hunkered-down sense of community. It was like we were wandering around a dream.
The best part about our mini-moon was that we felt so far removed from everything. Even though we were only about six hours from home, the world of Wisconsin was ours. We didn’t contact anyone the entire week, didn’t check social media or even open our laptops. It was exhilarating to know that nobody had any idea where we were.
It wasn’t necessarily that we wanted to be away from our friends and family — in fact, we wondered often about what everyone was doing back home, talked endlessly about how much they’d sacrificed to support us, how very loved and blessed they’d made us feel. Our gratitude was shared and strong.
But being together, alone and anonymous and away from it all — that was the greatest wedding gift we could have gotten.
Troy and I have been married for five months now, and while that’s hardly a milestone, much has changed since our wedding. Mostly, life is calm. We’re still busy, but we’re less stressed, and we’re more secure in who we are — as individuals and as one. We’re happy and full.
Being famous has its benefits, but I like this better.
These days, I feel more like myself. I can go to a coffee shop and spend the afternoon writing if I want. I can curl up on the couch with my husband on a Saturday night, eating ice cream and watching documentaries that teach us about culture and life. I can have conversations with people without being asked about how wedding planning is going.
(Of course, that question has been replaced with How’s married life? But that’s okay. Because married life is great, and because frankly, that’s just a courtesy question anyway. People don’t care as much about the aftermath of things.)
When you experience a major life event like this, you might feel like you’ve been pushed onstage, into a lone beam of light. You might feel as though everyone is watching you, waiting for you to trip, dance, do something. You feel the fluorescence on your face.
Your identity becomes wrapped up in that one thing: being a bride, having a baby, grieving the loss of someone you love.
Eventually, though, you go back to being yourself. You get married, you have your baby, you live — and time takes its payment, a little each day. In exchange, you get to move on.
Hopefully, your life is an accumulation, and you embrace all the people you’ve been and are: Girl Whose Mom Died, Bride-to-Be, Wife. Because the more personalities you have, the more difficult they are to pronounce. People will have to start calling you by your name, not by your reputation.
And you will have to start seeing yourself for the bright, complex, bursting-with-quirks person you are — whether you’re standing in the spotlight or waiting in the wings.
I am no longer just The Bride-to-Be. And I am no longer Sarah Schock, either. I am Sarah Klongerbo — which is an incredibly weird and wonderful thing. It’s a new identity, and it’s not. It’s who I was always meant to be.
Whatever’s going on in your life right now, remember that there is so much — so much — to who you are. You have a past and a present and a future, and they will all shape you. You are more than the person you’ve been, more than whatever you’re going through now, even more than what will happen to you in the months and years to come.
You have a name. | psychology |
https://www.cchenderson.org/NewSite/event-items/most-excellent-way | 2023-09-22T22:45:12 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-40/segments/1695233506423.70/warc/CC-MAIN-20230922202444-20230922232444-00286.warc.gz | 0.902971 | 105 | CC-MAIN-2023-40 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-40__0__48358939 | en | Most Excellent Way:
This is a loving group of men and women affected directly or indirectly by drugs, alcohol or other life-dominating sin. We utilize biblical principles to overcome the guilt, frustration, hopelessness, fear and shame associated with addictive behavior, remembering the admonition of the Scriptures. We believe a person can become totally free from addiction and compulsive behavior only by the power of the indwelling Spirit of Christ Jesus. We meet every Monday evening at 7 pm in room 100 on the 1st floor. | psychology |
http://www.journeyhenkart.com/youth | 2019-05-20T18:43:03 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-22/segments/1558232256100.64/warc/CC-MAIN-20190520182057-20190520204053-00072.warc.gz | 0.924026 | 155 | CC-MAIN-2019-22 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-22__0__57429665 | en | INSPIRED JOURNEY - 6 Week Live Online Course
* Build deeper confidence in yourself and who you are at your core.
* Learn healthy coping skills to deal with emotions.
* Discover strategies to interrupt your mind and create new positive patterns.
* Eliminate self-doubt and replace with clarity of self.
* Come together with like-minded people in a safe space.
* Realize you're not alone in the way you think and the struggles you may face.
* Identify and break through what is holding you back and step into your possibilities.
* Receive ongoing support in the closed FB group.
Fill out your info below to find out more about joining the Inspired Journey! We look forward to hearing from you. | psychology |
https://goodmanspeakers.com/speakers/caroline-adams-miller/ | 2022-01-18T22:16:41 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-05/segments/1642320301063.81/warc/CC-MAIN-20220118213028-20220119003028-00447.warc.gz | 0.945134 | 2,105 | CC-MAIN-2022-05 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-05__0__18224459 | en | Caroline is one of the world’s leading experts on the science behind successful goal setting and the use of ‘good grit’ to achieve hard things. For more than 30 years, she’s been sharing her research-backed strategies to help people cultivate more grit and dig deeper to clarify and achieve their toughest goals. A Harvard graduate with a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, she has authored six books including Creating Your Best Life and Getting Grit and teaches at Wharton Business School’s Executive Education program. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, BBC, NPR, and CNN.
Getting Grit: Put Passion, Perseverance and Purpose to Work!
In times of greater complexity, ever-increasing regulation and competition, organizations need people who can weather these challenges and not just be productive—but actually thrive. People who are resilient in times of change. People who have GRIT.
Grit is passion and persistence in pursuit of long-term goals. Research confirms: Grit is the secret to success.
As company goals get more challenging every year, achieving them will take even more grit. But HOW do people become grittier?
Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP, is an expert on Positive Psychology and the foremost authority on how to apply the science of grit and achievement to our lives. Caroline shares timely examples, stories and research-based insights that your audience will put to use to reach their highest goals!
After attending this energizing and inspiring talk, your audience will:
• Understand what grit is and why it’s important.
• Recognize the difference between good and bad grit.
• Cultivate grit to help them stay resilient and persevere in the face of difficulties.
• Be inspired to stretch beyond their comfort zone.
• Create a culture of grit that encourages people to make their best efforts. (Leadership version)
• Spot grit in others and hire for grit. (Leadership version)
People with authentic grit have key traits that audiences learn from and want to emulate. Caroline shares the practical strategies that accelerate performance: defined purpose, hard goals, role models, team building, and more. This powerful talk inspires audiences to become grittier—and achieve big goals!
Creating Your Best Life—In and Out of the Office: How Women Can Pursue Meaningful Goals and Live with No Regrets
Hidden talents. Unused strengths. Unrealized goals. Women are often so busy meeting everyone else’s
expectations that their own professional and personal goals get left behind. Unexpressed talents often make us
restless and dissatisfied.
Now is your time to go for it! The happiest people wake up each day with clear, hard goals that provide meaning
Goal setting expert Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP, inspires women to put their innate strengths to use. She
encourages women to become their authentic, ideal selves—not just who they feel they “ought” to be—and
provides proven techniques to help them reach their full potential.
Caroline shares stories of women from all over the world, whose actions, habits, mindset and grit fueled their
amazing accomplishments. And she combines leading-edge research with storytelling that paints a picture of
possibility. Female leaders are inspired to take positive risks, and have the passion, persistence, humility, and courage to achieve their toughest goals.
In this fast-paced, energizing and research-based session, female leaders learn practical steps to create their best self in and out of the office, including how to:
• Identify strengths to increase success.
• Use the new science-based approach to set goals to achieve the best outcomes.
• Develop a supportive “web of influence”—women helping women.
• Build a culture of positive energizers.
• Cultivate a mindset of self-efficacy, resilience, optimism, and grit.
Be someone who people tell inspiring stories about! After this stimulating session, you’ll have the courage to
create your best life. You’ll be eager to reach beyond your comfort zone, achieve your goals, and become your best
The New Science of Goal Setting: How to Achieve Game-Changing Results
Goal-setting is a basic business fundamental. Everyone knows how. Or do they? Everyone uses metrics but the
world is still full of missed goals, failed objectives, and tarnished brand names. That’s because we’ve been using a
goal-setting approach based on thin air, not science.
What could your team achieve by using a proven, research-based approach to setting and achieving goals?
Effectively setting goals can leapfrog you ahead of your competitors. The right goals help you adapt more quickly
to a changing environment and help ensure success in new markets.
Caroline Adams Miller is a renowned thought leader on the transformational power of setting the right goals at the
right time. She studied the science behind successful goal setting at the University of Pennsylvania, where she received a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology. Caroline uses riveting storytelling, her infectious enthusiasm,
and science-based techniques to empower your audience to set meaningful goals—and achieve them!
In this fast-paced and energizing talk, your audience learns practical steps to improve their goal-setting,
• Build on a foundation of happiness; first we’re happy, then we’re successful.
• Practice the 6 Keys to Effective Goal Setting.
• Understand the difference between Learning Goals and Performance Goals; when to use each, and when
to blend them.
• Use Primes and Prompts to set you up for success and avoid the most common mistakes that derail
• Establish accountability and build a culture of positive energizers.
Goal setting is essential for maximizing human performance. People who implement these proven goal-setting
processes achieve the greatest successes of their careers and game-changing results.
How to Cultivate Grit in Schools…And Put the “Awe” Back in Awesome
Although the word “awesome” is thrown around a lot in today’s society, experts say that we have become “awe-deprived” in recent years due to cheating scandals in sports and business, and overall lowered standards for excellence. The millennial generation, however, was raised with abundant praise, leading to concerns that when their performance reviews aren’t “awesome” they feel discouragement and demotivation. Easy goals and low standards for excellence can actually prevent people from becoming awesome. According to the most current research, when people are truly awe-inspired by extraordinary behavior and events, they are profoundly impacted, and are more likely to work hard, be hopeful, and be kind to others. Grit is also an essential element in being awesome, and specific character strengths that undergird gritty behavior can be cultivated to support becoming one’s best self. Using research and stories of gritty people, Caroline weaves together a variety of information that leaves “Gen Z” students, parents, and teachers understanding the importance of hard goals, gritty behavior, and why inspiration is a necessary ingredient in a flourishing life.
FORMAT OPTIONS: Caroline designs the day to include three programs (keynote and/or workshops) to match the unique needs of each of the three audiences (students, teachers/staff, and parents). The client and speaker mutually agree upon the exact times and lengths of each program.
During the programs, Caroline explains and facilitates:
• The current paucity of grit/resilience in society and what factors have led to the inability to handle stress, disappointment and setbacks.
• The role that schools have played in creating and perpetuating these problems, and what they can do to stop coddling students and their parents.
• Ways to embed grit education in a school’s daily environment and discussions.
• That all grit is not created equal – i.e. overuse of grit can be detrimental (selfie grit, stupid grit, and faux grit).
• How parents, students and teachers can change the ways they live and interact with others to enhance the cultivation of grit and its supporting character strengths (humility, patience, self-regulation, bravery, teamwork, and persistence, among others).
“The audience sat spell-bound, engrossed and engaged as Caroline led us through a presentation and fascinating interactive group discussions focused on helping us capture insight into what our actual happiness drivers are. You know that you have presented a home-run program when you receive feedback like this from one of our attendees: “I just wanted to tell you that last night’s PowerUp Your Happiness was the best program I have ever seen at an association event.” “
“Where did we find this gem? Fabulous! Caroline was spectacular, engaging and gave us practical tips that we can put to use right away. I loved this speaker, and I don’t say that about most speakers. She was first-class and scientifically sound. I will be better at what I do because of her talk. “
“From start to finish we were absolutely impressed with Caroline Adams Miller and her team! Caroline not only customized her presentation to meet the needs of our audience, she also went above and beyond helping us get the message out prior to our conference. Her delivery was passionate and practical. Our conference attendees (both parents and educational professionals) are still raving that Caroline was the best public speaker they ever heard. Her team was responsive, thorough and efficient from beginning to end – an absolute pleasure to work with!”
“Caroline’s energy and expertise hit the mark… Caroline got my people excited about the agency they have around their own job satisfaction and happiness. Caroline’s dynamism shines in the room without question, but her content shifts mindsets and helps make people an active participant in their professional experience. We are very grateful she shared her wisdom with our teams. Thank you, Caroline!” | psychology |
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"I am so grateful for this experience. I have gained greater confidence and trust in my parenting- I’ve learned that I’m okay and my children are more than okay. The Starter Class has contributed in positive ways to many areas of my life, not just parenting. I feel more connected to my children and feel such relief that I can let go of the old ideas of disciplining in ways that are of no value to my children. Rachel made sharing our stories in the small group feel safe and supported. Thank you Rachel" Jocelyn France, Clinical Psychologist and mum of two, Bega Valley
"Before the Starter Class my son's tantrums, outbursts and aggression left our family in disarray, distant and disconnected. Now that I've done the training I'm able to meet his needs and support him as well as make my family feel safe and loved during stressful times.
Rachel is an amazing guide. She is able to create a safe space where you can learn the techniques, look at yourself and your family and then supports." Katie Ryan, Mother of four, Bega Valley
"Rachel is patient and warm and inspiring and able to create a supporting group feeling over just a few hours. I loved every minute under her guidance!" Elena Bonel PhD, Mother of Five, Italy
“Learning more about Hand in Hand Parenting with Rachel showed me how important and meaningful it was to connect deeply with my children. I'd always thought must was possible to have a good relationship with children without the traditional, 'discipline' and 'children are to be seen and not heard' approaches.... but had never quite found the way to, and had maybe not quite had the confidence to fully let go of those traditional ideas.It was the bridge to the softer, deeper and more rewarding connection that I'd been seeking.
Rachel was a wonderful teacher - she gently set boundaries around our time together, and focused us on the material we were there to explore. Without this we could so easily have diverted into general parenting discussions... there is always so much to share! Rachel guided us through the course in a relaxed and inspiring way, modelling the listening skills, attention, understanding and focus that we were striving for.
We learned some wonderful tools to assist us in connecting with our children. My family as adopted one of these in particular - 'special time' - wholeheartedly. It has been a joy to discover this tool, it has brought back to my life the pleasure of unhindered play, and most importantly taught me that just ten minutes of quality time with each of my children can make an enormous and meaningful difference to my relationship with each of them.” Sarah Morrison, Mother of three boys and Family Day Care Educator, Bega Valley
“I have loved coming here. I have gained so much from the experience; both learning about the techniques of Hand in Hand Parenting, and also from coming together with other parents and hearing their stories. This sharing has given me such incredible insights into children's behaviour as well as parenting!
I feel more confident and so much more skilled as a parent. I’ve had a few examples recently where I’m reading the situation well, I know what I’m doing, and I’m trusting the techniques because they've worked for me before.
So we had a public tantrum and it was ugly! I know, I saw people looking, it sounded horrible! But I was sitting there thinking “you know, this is what kids do, she’s not even 4” and it was good and the tantrum was short and within moments we [my daughter and I] came back and we connected and we had hugs and we were arm in arm down the supermarket aisle. So I’m just grateful. Plus! Plus!” Erin Moon, Mother of two girls, Bega Valley
“What I appreciate most in finding Hand in Hand Parenting is finding strategies that really resonate with my innate parenting wants. It’s how I want to be as a parent. It embraces that and makes it okay and reinforces it with these wonderful strategies that have labels that you’re consciously applying them, and that reinforces what you’re doing is okay and means you can do it conscientiously.
And the group: I appreciated how it not only reinforce those strategies, but it’s also created that forum and framework for active reflection which is perhaps one of the most beneficial strategies we can use – Listening time. It’s challenging. But you made us do it – against my will! And it’s really very effective and being able to see not only theoretically the benefits of these strategies but apply them, and they’re very achievable strategies to apply, and then seeing almost instantaneous results is incredible. It works and that’s not just a cliché.” Corrie Shepherd, Preschool Educator and Mother of two, Bega Valley
“[Hand in Hand Parneting] sits well with the way I feel I'd like to parent. It’s gentle but strong, and tangible. You get real a handle on it and real tools to work with so you can get out there and do it. It's been great meeting as a group rather than just reading information in booklets. Sharing stories of people's trials and successes in parenting provided support and gave me more hope and trust that it can work. It has also reminded me to keep working at it, to keep trying to integrate it into our family life. I think it's very worthwhile and the course has been really, really good.” Suzi Sequoia, Mum of two boys, Bega Valley
"During the Hand in Hand Parenting course I was amazed every week how much closer I became with my children. Now, after, I have grown as a parent, I feel happier and more confident even during the tough times". Sarah, Mother of two, Bega Valley
"Rachel truly went above and beyond, during and outside the Starter Class. She was so lovely and approachable, while at the same time she had an absolute wealth of knowledge to share. Rachel responded to all of our questions with depth and consistency, while doing it in such a caring and considered way. If required, she responded outside of the course itself with links, articles, quotes and research to ensure we understood the ideas fully. She was wonderful...in teaching us about connection, she made us feel very connected to her. I feel so blessed to have had her run this course" Georgie Bancroft, Mother of three girls and Psychologist, Melbourne
“I just finished a 6 week phone class with Rachel Schofield, and I wanted to tell you how wonderful it was. She is so warm, and thoughtful and skilled. She brought so much to the class. It was a wonderful to be able to practice the skills and get feedback….. thank you to Rachel for a wonderful, wonderful experience” Elizabeth, mother of one girl, USA
"I had heard a lot about Hand in Hand Parenting and was interested in their gentle approach to child-rearing. When offered a position in a course ran by one of our contributors, Rachel Schofield, I jumped at the opportunity. It was a 6 week course......it ran as a small group. This was actually really beneficial as you get to listen to other people's issues and how they are dealing with them.....we discussed our thoughts and feelings surrounding each of the topics and how the activities went with our children. I for one gained so many new insights into [my son's] emotions that I do believe our relationship has become much stronger" Kristy Pillinger, mother of one boy and Editor of Nurture - Australia's Natural Parenting Magazine, Brisbane | psychology |
https://counsellingcasestories.wordpress.com/tag/relationships/ | 2021-08-05T14:10:47 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-31/segments/1627046155925.8/warc/CC-MAIN-20210805130514-20210805160514-00050.warc.gz | 0.96852 | 1,095 | CC-MAIN-2021-31 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-31__0__294760786 | en | Anjula Mutanda, (2013). How to do Relationships: A step-by-step guide to nurturing your relationship and making love last, Vermilion, London.
‘When relationships are going well we feel good about ourselves, connected and supported, but when things are going badly we can feel dissatisfied, anxious and sometimes very lonely. Clearly, feeling loved is very important to us.’ (page 1).
This book is full of valuable information and tips about relationships; it is clearly written and easy to understand; it is a book that I wanted to read from cover to cover but it is also something I could imagine keeping and dipping into at specific times when it would prove helpful again and again. It is refreshingly full of common sense and wisdom AND it is the accumulation of many years of study, experience, insights and intuition from a very experienced therapist with a deep level of sensitivity, compassion and understanding about human nature and how relationships work. This book is an invaluable resource for all ages and every type of relationship.
Anjula begins by assisting us to develop an awareness of who we are before considering what kind of relationship we want. There are many questions, exercises and thought provoking case studies that enable us to discover more about ourselves and our partners. This is a book that shows rather than tells us how relationships can be improved, enlivened and enjoyed but it does it by giving us the power to do it for ourselves with the use of tips, questions and authentic and relevant case studies.
‘Getting to know yourself better is the cornerstone of a happy and positive relationship with another person, and that means having a healthy level of self-awareness.’ (page 11).
It is important that this book normalises and accepts the layers of difficulty that can occur in any relationship:
‘Recycling feelings from your past happens in relationships; it’s a by-product of living with another human being. What this means is that you may sometimes unconsciously redirect feelings from an influential person in your past – like a parental figure – to your present-day partner. You bring to the table significant others who have influenced your beliefs and you will bring a wide range of internalised emotions about yourself, relationships and the world in general…We do this whether or not our experiences were great or dreadful. Becoming aware of this process is key to working through problems.’ (page 35).
I remember the film, The Story of Us, with Bruce Willis and Diane Keaton playing the parts of a couple going through a divorce. There was one fantasy scene where they were filmed talking to each other in bed, with each set of parents in the bed with them; it was chaos with everyone talking at once! It was funny but also poignant and a great truth about what happens in terms of the role models and luggage that we take into our relationships with us. Often, we hear our parent’s voice emanating from our partners instead of what our partners are actually saying, both positively and negatively. That’s how things can become more confusing and complicated than they have to be and this book helps to explain and build an awareness of that process. I believe this book has a relevance to other important relationships as well, with friends, family members, colleagues and even our relationship with work, study or our creativity.
Anjula leads us, step by step, through our most intimate relationships from the early days, through decisions to move in together; commitment, marriage or not; starting a family and coping with blended families, which I think is a really positive term for the many different realities of modern day family life. There are interesting highlighted paragraphs with up to date research and genuinely helpful information and tips that give us short cuts to assess what is going on. The book moves on to question how we survive crisis and learn to manage the ‘Bumps in the Road’ and ends with a sensitive, practical and poignant look at ‘Growing Older Together.’ At the end of this book, I felt there were very few stones left unturned and there was a satisfaction in the breadth and depth that was explored and achieved.
‘By learning how to increase your self-awareness, exploring your relationship journey so far and then rolling up your sleeves and doing the practical exercises, you will have the best ingredients to help you towards creating, nurturing and maintaining the positive relationship that you’ve always wanted.’ (page 6).
I felt the real gift in this book was that it set out to help all of us understand more about ourselves and our partners. I remember reading a book called, The Education of Little Tree, (by Forrest Carter, (2001) University of New Mexico Press) about a Cherokee Indian boy and the word for love taught to him by his grandfather was the same as the word for understanding.
The many questions and exercises here challenge us to take responsibility for thinking deeply about what we want. It is one of the strengths of this book that the case studies normalise the difficulties that we can all experience in relationships and enables us to take an honest look at what might be holding us back. Relationships can be a way of accelerating learning and understanding about ourselves and a way of helping us to make more positive choices in our lives, this book really does show us, ‘How to do Relationships’. | psychology |
http://blueridgecamp.com/learned-summer-camp/ | 2024-03-04T07:35:20 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947476432.11/warc/CC-MAIN-20240304065639-20240304095639-00057.warc.gz | 0.990986 | 534 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__37020583 | en | I recently asked a camper who was new to Camp Blue Ridge, and summer camp in general, what they learned this past summer at camp. At first she was reluctant to answer, and after a few minutes of thinking, this is what she came up with. I thought I would share the purity behind what a child gains from summer camp. She told me that she learned a lot of new skills that she would never have experienced if she had stayed home. She learned how to play lacrosse. She learned to fish and learned a lot of crazy songs that have been stuck in her head all summer. She learned how to get from one side of camp to the other in the shortest amount of time. She learned how to make the perfect S’more, and she learned how to paint. She told me it felt like she was learning something new every day. A few days later, this new camper called me up and said she had more to share. She told me the things that she learned at sleep away camp were more about character than skill. Things that will help in life more than knowing the perfect ratio of chocolate to marshmallow on a S’more. When she had a disagreement with a friend at camp, she told me her counselors walked them through a communication plan that left both of them feeling heard, understood and that they walked away with the issue resolved. She learned how to recognize when someone was feeling left out or lonely, and how to bring them into the activity that was going on at the time. She learned how to interact with different people and learned to appreciate differences without judgment. She learned the importance of having true friends who are there for you no matter what, who accept you for who you are, and who are honest and real with you. She learned to live in close proximity with others and how to respect their personal space. She learned to compromise, to be flexible, and how to manage time. She learned that she can function without her cell phone and that not everything fun has to have a screen involved. She learned that without a cell phone, she could focus more on the experiences rather than getting the perfect shot, choosing the best filter, and then waiting impatiently for her friends to “like” and “comment” on the picture through social media. This new camper told me she learned a lot at camp. Some of the things are basic skills that are fun to know, while others are fundamental qualities that will set her up for better relationships and experiences for the rest of her life. What a child gains from the summer camp experience will be with them for the rest of their lives. | psychology |
https://www.tienvnguyen.net/a3746/part-4- | 2022-12-04T01:43:23 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-49/segments/1669446710953.78/warc/CC-MAIN-20221204004054-20221204034054-00082.warc.gz | 0.942673 | 8,037 | CC-MAIN-2022-49 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-49__0__291475559 | en | Beauty is Skin Deep
The Simile of the Raft
Subjective and Objective Looking
Calm and Insight
Beauty is Skin Deep
As the discourse explains, the meditator reflects on this very body encased by the skin and full of impurities from the soles up and from the hair of the head down thinking thus: "There are in this body, hair of the head, hair of the body, nails, teeth, flesh, sinews, bones, etc. Thus he lives contemplating foulness in this body."
This may not be a subject of meditation quite agreeable to the Westerner. The young in the East or West, in particular, do not like to regard the body as foul. However, whether we like it or not, if we dispassionately review this "fathom-long body" we will not see anything beautiful in it such as pearls and gems, etc., but only a heap of repulsive parts. "Beauty is skin deep." Young or old it is good to understand the real nature of this body, and the fact that we all confront birth, ageing and death. We live, love and laugh, yet our life is dark with ageing, smothered with death, bound up with change, and these qualities are so inherent in it -- even as greenness is to grass, and bitterness to quinine that not all the magic and power of science can ever transform it.
"Like as the damask rose you see,
Or like the blossom on the tree,
Or like the dainty flower of May
Or like the morning to the day
Or like the sun, or like the shade,
Or like ground which Jonas had-
Even such is man, whose thread is spun,
Drawn out, and out, and so is done.
The rose withers, the blossom blasteth,
The flower fades, the morning hasteth,
The sun sets, the shadow flies,
The gourd consumes; and man he dies.
Even such is man, who lives by breath,
Is here, now there: so life and death.
Even such is man, who heaps up sorrow,
Lives but this day and dies tomorrow.
The song is short, the joumey's so,
The pear doth rot, the plum doth fall,
The snow dissolves, and so must all"
This view of life is neither pessimistic nor optimistic, but realistic. Do not think that the Buddhist outlook on life and the world is a gloomy one, and that the Buddhist is in low spirits. Far from it, he smiles as he walks through life.
From the contemplation of the body (kayanupassana) let us now proceed to contemplation of feelings or sensations (vedananupassana). In this meditation we are expected to become mindful of our feelings: pleasant, unpleasant or neutral. When experiencing a pleasant feeling, the meditator knows that it is a pleasant feeling because he is mindful of the feeling. The same with regard to all other feelings. He tries to experience each feeling as it really is.
Generally, people are depressed when they are experiencing unpleasant feelings and are elated by pleasant feelings. This mental exercise of mindfulness helps a man to experience all feelings with a detached outlook, with equanimity and to avoid becoming a slave to sensations. Through insight meditation (vipassana) he also learns to realize that there is only a feeling, a sensation. That, too, is not lasting and there is no permanent entity or "self" that feels.
The contemplation of mind (cittanupassana), which is the third type of mindfulness, speaks to us of the importance of studying our own mind, of being aware of our diverse thoughts. Thoughts in this context are those of lust, hatred and delusion, which are the root causes of all wrong doing, and their opposites that counteract those unwholesome states of mind. Rather than thoughts of lust it concerns lust as a state of mind (saragam cittam, etc.).
The meditator tries to know through mindfulness both the wholesome states of mind and the unwholesome states of mind. He sees them without attachment or aversion. This kind of dispassionate discernment of the mind makes a man understand the real function of his mind, its real nature and behaviour. Those who practise contemplation of the mind learn to control the mind.
A feature of the modern world is its superficiality. Modern man will object, but if he makes an impartial introspection, he cannot deny this. Modern man does not pause to think deeply. External appearance goes a great way with him. See the extent to which modern man is influenced by advertisements and shopwindow exhibitions. If these did not influence him, shopowners would not spend the enormous sums they do on advertisements. Buddhist meditation has a cure for this superficiality: cittanupassana, mindfulness of thought or contemplation of mind.
Modern man does very little independent thinking. He seldom forms his own views. The style of dress he adopts, the brand of articles he buys, is decided for him by advertisers. How easily he is moved by the shouting of slogans. Slogans and political propaganda mould man's mind, and life tends to be mechanical; man has become a puppet controlled by others.
Modern man has become enmeshed in all sorts of ideas, views, opinions and ideologies both wise and foolish. He is film-fed, television-minded, and radio-trained. Today what is presented by the newspapers, radio, television, some novels and pictures, by certain literature on sex, psychology and by sex-ridden films tend to confuse man, and turn him from the path of rectitude and understanding. But the man who practises mindfulness will be protected from the subtle persuasive power of advertisement or the shouts of the propagandists, or the dramatic effects of mass movements.
Another weakness of modem man is his desire for change and for quick results. The absence of calm in him is a great deficiency. Calm begets mental strength. Absence of calm begets impatience and the impatient man is never satisfied. He always wants something new and startling. He is disappointed if he takes up the morning newspaper and finds no banner headlines.
Modem man craves for variety. He craves for sensations, he is fed on sensations. He continually yearns for something fresh, for new methods, new machinery, new drugs, a new way of life, a new ideology. There is no end to this. This modern attitude is symptomatic of a disease -- the disease of mental unrest.
Here again the practice of mindfulness is the much needed cure. Mindfulness leads to calmness, and calmness gives an even tone to one's life. Trained in calmness, he will shed a host of unnecessary desires. He will "walk through the uneven with an even stride" (visame samam caranti).
The contemplation of the mind also makes us realise that what we call mind is only an ever-changing process consisting of changing mental factors and that there is no abiding entity called ego or self.
The fourth and the last type of mindfulness is the contemplation of mental objects or mind contents (dhammanupassana). This covers all the essential Dhamma, the teaching of the Buddha, most of which are discussed in The Buddha's Ancient Path by the present writer.
The contemplation of mental objects is not mere thinking or deliberation -- rather it goes hand in hand with mindfulness in discerning mind objects as and when they arise and cease (samudayavaya). When, for example, sense desire is present in him the meditator knows: "There is sense desire in me," or when sense desire is absent, he knows: "There is no sense desire in me," and so on. The same with regard to the other hindrances (nivaramani).
In the same manner he discerns with mindfulness the five aggregates of clinging (panca-upadanakkhandha) -- body or material form, feelings, perceptions, mental formations, and consciousness.
He discerns with mindfulness the six internal and the six external sense-bases. Herein the meditator knows well the eye, the visible form and the fetter that arises dependent on both (the eye and form); he knows well the ear and sounds ... the nose and smells ... tongue and savours ... the body and tactile objects ... the mind and mind objects, and knows well the fetter arising dependent on both. He also knows the ceasing of the fetter.
Similarly he discerns the seven factors of enlightenment (sattabojjhanga) and the Four Noble Truths (cattari ariyasaccani). The Four Noble Truths in this context are not intellectual categories to be cogitated upon, but palpable illustrations of them which the meditator comes across and identifies.
"Thus he lives mindfully investigating and understanding the mental objects. He lives independent, clinging to nothing in the world". The fourfold mindfulness is a teaching (Dhamma) on which all aspects of the Dhamma converge.
The description of each type of mindfulness in the discourse ends with the words: "He lives independent clinging to nothing in the world"; for "everything when clung to fails." This is the result aimed at by the meditator to be achieved by the earnest and ever zealous. "Lives independent" means aloof from craving and wrong views (tanha, ditthi). Here "world" means the world of being, one's own psycho-physical organism. He does not cling to this process of mind and body and regard it as a permanent ego entity or self.
The Simile of the Raft
It is because of our greed, our craving, that we cling to people and things. If we can practise the art of dealing with things with a detached outlook, then we learn to let go. Our bonds are not in the sense organs or in sense objects. They are due to our greed that arises when the sense organs come in contact with sense objects. So the problem and solution, the malady and the remedy, lie within. Learn the art of giving up. It is hard to live clinging to nothing in the world and our efforts to reach such spiritual heights may appear impossible. Yet it is possible and worth striving for again and again; for by dint of effort and hard work, many have attained those heights in this very life. "Sow a thought and you reap a deed. Sow a deed, and you reap a habit. Sow a habit, and you reap a character. Sow a character, and you reap a destiny -- for character is destiny."
In this connection it is interesting to know the Buddha's simile of the raft. Let us listen to him:
"Using the simile of a raft, monks, I teach the Dhamma designed for crossing over and not for retaining. Listen and attend carefully to what I say."
"Yes, Venerable Sir," the monks replied. The Buddha continued:
"Monks, a man sets out on a journey and comes to a vast stretch of water. The near bank is beset with fears and dangers, the far bank is safe. But no boat goes to the further shore and there is no bridge. He thinks: 'Vast, indeed, is this stretch of water, the near bank is unsafe but the further one is without danger. I had better collect grass, leaves, branches and wood to make a raft and with its aid using my hands and feet, ferry myself across to the further shore.'
"Then, monks, that man having made a raft crosses over safely to the further shore striving with his hands and feet. Having crossed he thinks: 'This raft has been very useful, for with its aid I have reached the further bank safely. I had better carry it on my head or back and go wherever I want.' "What do you think, monks, if he does this is he acting rightly about the raft?" "No, indeed, Lord."
"Suppose that man who has crossed over to the further bank should think:
'This raft has been very useful, with its aid I have reached the further bank safely. I had better beach it, or let it float down the vast stretch of water and go wherever I want.' If he acts thus, monks, he would be acting rightly about the raft. Even so, monks, using the simile of a raft have I taught the Dhamma designed for crossing over, and not for retaining. You, monks, who understand the Dhamma taught by using the simile of the raft, have to give up good things (dhamma); how much more the evil things (a-dhamma)." It is interesting to note that the word "dhamma" here, according to the Commentary, means calm or concentration of mind (samatha) and insight (vipassana). Clinging even to such high mental attainments as these should be given up. Need one speak of evil things?
Subjective and Objective Looking
In the Satipatthana Sutta mindfulness is specially concerned with just four things: body, feelings, mind and mental objects. The contemplation of the body makes us realise the true nature of the body, without any pretence, by analysing it right down to its ultimates, its fundamental elements. This mental scrutiny of our own body helps us to understand that it is a process without any underlying substance or core that may be taken as permanent and lasting.
A special feature of this all-important mental factor of mindfulness is that it involves a method of looking at things objectively rather than subjectively. So it is important to know the difference between objective and subjective looking. The practice of all the four types of meditation on setting up of mindfulness is done objectively without any subjective reaction. One should not be an interested observer, but a bare observer, to practise mindfulness. Then only can one see the object in its proper perspective, as it really is, and not as it appears to be.
When you observe a thing subjectively, your mind gets involved in it, you tend to identify yourself with it. You judge, evaluate, appraise and comment on it. Such subjective looking colours your observation. So in the practice of the four types of mindfulness, that is, mindfulness of body, of feelings, of the mind, and of mental objects, one should contemplate it without any biases, prejudices, likes and dislikes and other preconceived considerations and notions. In other words, mindfulness should be practised in an objective way as if you are observing the object from outside.
When "contemplating the body in the body" (kaye-kayanupassi) you do not contemplate feelings, states of mind, or mental objects conceming your body, but only the body itself. In this connection we should take to heart the precise and clear way the Buddha taught Bahiya. Bahiya was the leader of a religious sect who assumed himself to be an Arahat, a consummate one. But later, on the advice of another, he went to the Buddha to learn the technique, the process, whereby one can become an Arahat. Knowing that Bahiya was a man of understanding, the Buddha taught him the technique in these words:
"Bahiya, thus should you train yourself: 'In what is seen there should be to you only the seen; in the heard there should be only the heard; in what is sensed (as smell, taste and touch) there should be only what is sensed; in the cognizing there should be only the cognizing.' "
Here the idea of "I am seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching and cognizing" is removed. The "I" concept, the ego-illusion, drops away. This kind of attention removes tension, it calms and relaxes the mind, and that is the reason why meditators do not need much sleep. Let alone deep meditation, many do not know the art of seeing even a natural phenomena; for they have not trained themselves in observing things objectively.
Suppose you are gazing at a gorgeous sunset. If you start commenting, judging, and observing it subjectively, then you are not seeing the sunset, you do not really see its beauty.
But if you view it objectively with a calm and quiet mind, with complete attention, then you will see the beauty of the sunset in all its fullness, and also that the so called beauty is ephemeral, impermanent and ever changing. This applies to many other things. If you can look at a rose or a lotus objectively without any subjective reaction, then you will see. If you are a lover of music and if you listen to music with undivided attention, you may enjoy the music more than the musician does.
Calm and Insight
Even the higher practice of calming concentration (samadhi) does not place the meditator in a position of security; for the underlying defilements or latent tendencies (anusaya) are not removed. They are in abeyance. At any moment they may re-appear when circumstances permit, and plague his mind if right effort, right mindfulness and right concentration wane. As he still has the impurities, unwholesome impulses latent in his mental make-up, he is not yet in a state of absolute security. He has gained calm of mind through samadhi or concentration. However, it is through vipassana, insight meditation, that the latent defilements are rooted out of his mind. So the meditator training himself in virtue and concentration, develops vipassana or insight.
The development of concentrative calm, samadhi, is thus never an end in itself. It is only a means to something more sublime which is of vital importance, namely, insight, vipassana. In other words, it is a means to gain right understanding, the first factor of the Noble Eightfold Path. Though only a means to an end, samadhi plays an important role in the path. It is also known as citta-visuddhi, purity of mind, which is brought about by the stilling of hindrances. The Buddha says: "Develop calm, the disciple who has gained calm sees things as they really are" (samadhim bhavetha, samahito yatha bhatam pajanati).
"Two things (dhamma), monks, should be developed for the understanding of lust, hatred and delusion ... What two? Calm and insight. These two things should be developed for the abandonment, extinction and cessation of lust, hatred and delusion ..."
Further says the Buddha: "Two things, monks, partake of knowledge (vijja-bhagiya): calm and insight; when calm is developed, mind is developed; through developed mind, lust is abandoned. When insight is developed, wisdom is developed. Through developed insight, ignorance is abandoned. The mind polluted with lust is not liberated. When there is pollution through ignorance, wisdom is not developed."
Thus deliverance of the mind (ceto vimutti) is due to the mind being cleansed from lust. Deliverance through wisdom (panna-vimutti) is due to the mind being cleansed from ignorance.
From the foregoing it is obvious that calm and insight, in other words, right concentration and right understanding of the path, cannot be separated. Together they support each other. Without a certain measure of concentrative calm, no insight can be developed and without some measure of insight, no concentration can be developed. They are inseparable; this fact is explained by the Buddha thus:
"No concentration is there for the unwise,
No wisdom in one who lacks concentration;
In whom there is concentration and wisdom,
He truly is in Nibbana's neighbourhood.
The meditator who gains deep concentration of mind through mindfulness of in-and-out-breathing, now directs his thoughts to insight meditation (vipassana bhavana). In this context vipassana, or insight, means understanding things as they really are, that is seeing the impermanent, unsatisfactory, and non-substantial (non-self) nature of the five aggregates of clinging. In plain language it is understanding ourselves. It is not easy for us to understand ourselves because of our wrong concepts, baseless illusions, perversions and delusions. It is so diffcult to see the real person. Through vipassana one endeavours to remove the illusions (maya), concepts (pannatti) and perversions (vipallasa) and see ourselves as we really are.
When the meditator has advanced in his breathing meditation, when his mind is calmed through stilling the hindrances, he can see the impermanent nature of his own breath: its rise and fall like the waves of the sea. Now based on the impermanent breath, he endeavours to understand the impermanent nature of the five aggregates of clinging. The analysis of the so called being into the five ever-changing aggregates makes it clear that there is nothing abiding, nothing eternally conserved in this so called being -- this process of mind and body. One has also to take to heart the sequence between mindfulness (sati), analysis of the Dhamma (dhamma-vicaya), effort (viriya) and so forth, in the factors of enlightenment, mentioned in the fourth type of mindfulness (dhammanupassana). Mindfully one analyzes the dhamma. Here "dhamma" means one's mind and body. For this one needs determination and the fourfold effort to have a clear picture of the function of the mental factors, to overcome the unwholesome and maintain the wholesome thoughts. As the meditator proceeds with indefatigable zeal analysing the mind and body, seeing with insight what is beyond the naked eye, there arises unalloyed joy (araddha viriyassa uppajjati piti niramisa).
Change or impermanence (anicca) is the essential characteristic of phenomenal existence.
We cannot say of anything, animate or inanimate, "this is lasting"; for even while we say this, it is undergoing change. The aggregates are compounded and conditioned, and therefore ever subject to cause and effect. Unceasingly does mind and its factors change, and just as unceasingly, though at a lower rate, the physical body also changes from moment to moment. "He who sees clearly that the impermanent aggregates are impermanent, has right understanding."
The Buddha gives five very striking similes to illustrate the impermanent nature of the five aggregates of clinging. He compares material form or body to a lump of foam, feeling to a bubble, perception to a mirage, mental formations or volitional activities to a plantain trunk which is pithless, without heartwood and consciousness to an illusion. He asks:
"What essence, monks, could there be in a lump of foam, in a bubble, in a mirage, in a plantain trunk, in an illusion?" Continuing, the Buddha says:
"Whatever material form there be whether past, future or present; internal or external; gross or subtle; low or lofty; far or near; that material form the meditator sees, meditates upon, examines with systematic and wise attention (yoniso manasikara), he thus seeing, meditating upon, and examining with systematic and wise attention, would find it empty, unsubstantial and without essence. What essence, monks, could there be in material form?" The Buddha speaks in the same manner of the remaining aggregates and asks: "What essence, monks, could there be in feeling, in perception, in mental formations and in consciousness?"
Thus we see that a more advanced range of thought comes with the analysis of the five aggregates of clinging. It is at this stage that right understanding, insight (vipassana) begins to work. It is through this insight that the true nature of the aggregates is grasped and seen in the light of the three signs or characteristics (ti-lakkhana), namely: impermanence, suffering or unsatisfactoriness and not-self. The Master explains it thus:
"The five aggregates, monks, are impermanent (anicca); whatever is impermanent, that is dukkha, unsatisfactory; that is without self (anatta), that is not mine, that I am not, that is not my self. Thus should it be seen by perfect wisdom (sammappannaya) as it really is. He who sees by perfect wisdom as it really is, his mind not grasping, is detached from taints, he is liberated."
It is not only the five aggregates that are impermanent, unsatisfactory and without a self, but the causes and conditions that produce the aggregates are also impermanent, unsatisfactory and without a self. This point the Buddha makes clear:
"Material form, feeling, perception, mental formations and consciousness, monks, are impermanent; whatever causes and conditions there are for the arising of these aggregates, they too are impermanent. How, monks, could aggregates, arising from what is impermanent be permanent?" "What is impermanent is not worth rejoicing, not worth approval, not worth clinging to ..."
We actually live for one moment only, and the next moment, it is another life. Thus the duration of life, in the ultimate sense, is for one moment only. This is sometimes referred to as the instantaneousness of life. There is a living and dying every moment. Today is the tomorrow we spoke of yesterday. The meditative mind unrelated to the past and to the future is capable of living with clarity and reason in the world.
The essence of vipassana meditation is in the experience, not in sermons and books on meditation, though they have their advantages. Do not cling to any goal or results of meditation. This is a practice without any attachment to anything material, mental or spriritual; for all things when clung to fail. Be ever vigilant and mindful. The Discourse on Setting Up of Mindfulness (Satipatthana Sutta) repeats the saying: "He lives independent, clinging to nothing in the world" (anissito ca viharati na ca kinci loke upadiyati). This is the result a meditator gains.
It is always when we fail to see the true nature of things that our views become clouded. Because of our likes and dislikes, we fail to see the sense organs and sense objects objectively and in their proper perspective and go after mirages, illusions and deceptions. The sense organs delude and mislead us and then we fail to see things in their true light as a result of which our way of seeing things becomes perverted.
The delusion of mind mistakes the unreal for the real, the passing shadows for permanence, and the result is confusion, conflict, disharmony and perpetual sorrow.
When a man is caught up in these illusions, he perceives, thinks and views incorrectly.
He perceives permanence in the impermanent; pleasure in pain; self in what is not self; beauty in the repulsive. He thinks and views in the same erroneous manner. Thus each perversion works in four ways, and leads man astray, clouds his vision and confuses him. He is deluded by his own senses. This is due to unwise reflection, unsystematic attention (ayoniso-manasikara). He who cannot see the true nature of this world, its ways, its tendencies, the inevitable fruit of actions, and he who cannot see that life is not permanent and lacking in true happiness, and who, therefore, still clings to the world, is too young yet in life. He has to mature in right understanding before the Buddhadhamma has a message for him. His veils of lust, self-conceit and delusion are thick and strong. The terrible dangers of the world of life lay in the understanding of life; for everything here pertaining to world changes; there is no exception, one can rely on nothing.
Right understanding or insight alone removes these illusions and helps man to cognize the real nature that underlies all appearance. It is only when man comes out of this cloud of illusions and perversions that he shines with true wisdom like the full moon that emerges brilliant from behind a black cloud.
When discussing the three-fold training: virtue, concentration and wisdom, leading to final deliverance and complete mental purity, it is important to understand how man's latent or underlying tendencies function.
When the defilements lie dormant in the recesses of man's mind, they are called latent, underlying or hidden (anusaya). "They are dormant so long as they are not fed. The five sense organs with the mind as the sixth, provide the necessary food in the form of visible objects, sounds, smell, taste, touch and mental objects. These six kinds of food can be either agreeable or offensive. In either case, sense objects act as stimulants, and no sooner are the latent tendencies thus stimulated than they rise to the surface. This uprising of the tendencies is known as pariyutthana or samudagata. When they are thus awakened and aroused, they tend to escape, and seek an outlet. If man fails to exercise systematic wise attention (yoniso-manasikara) and calm down the risen tendencies, they escape either through the doors of speech or deed or through both, and that is called transgression or going beyond (vitikkama).
Of these three stages of the tendencies, the third, that is the "transgression stage," is coarse, the second, the "risen stage,"is fine, and the first, or the "latent stage," is still finer. The three weapons to overcome them and to deliver the mind from their grip are virtue, concentration and wisdom.
Through virtue or sila all bodily and verbal ill actions are brought under control, and the transgression stage is checked. It is true, even for training verbal and physical acts a certain measure of mental discipline is needed, though not necessarily intense and serious meditation.
Man may, through sila, be calm and composed verbally and physically, but not in mind; he lacks concentration, samadhi. Virtue cannot control the mind, though it is an asset to mental calm. Concentration with the aid of wise attention subdues the second type of tendencies thus preventing them from escaping. Concentration, however, is incapable of removing the latent tendencies. It is through wisdom, which is insight, vipassana, that all impulses, all tendencies are completely eradicated. And then no more can a man be confused by the terrible, or swept off his feet by the glamour of things ephemeral. No more is it possible for him to have a clouded view of phenomena; for he has transcended all capacity for error through perfect immunity which vipassana alone can grant. And this is deliverance (vimutti), the stepping out (nissarama) from the vicious circle of samsara, repeated existence.
Let us now call to mind the proclamation of the Buddha in the opening lines of the Satipatthana Sutta:
Satipatthana is the one and only way for the purification of beings, for the surmounting of sorrow and lamentation, for the abandoning of pain and grief, for reaching the right path and realising Nibbana.
As we discussed earlier, the starting point in the Dispensation of the Buddha (Buddha-sasana) is sila, virtuous behaviour. Standing on the firm ground of sila, the meditator should endeavour to discipline the fickle mind. The Buddha pointed out to his disciples ways and means of overcoming verbal and physical ill behaviour. By taming his tongue, controlling his bodily actions, and making himself pure in the way he earns his living, the meditator establishes himself well in moral habits. While thus restraining himself in word and deed, he tries to guard the doors of the senses; for if he lacks control over his senses, unhealthy thoughts are bound to fill his mind. He maintains his balance putting away all likes and dislikes. This control of the senses he practises with zest. He eats moderately and mindfully and is devoted to wakefulness.
Now if he is earnest and mindful, he will advance without faltering and start the more difficult task of meditation. Taking up a subject of meditation that suits his temperament and continuing with it without stopping, he gains concentrative calm by overcoming the hindrances which obstruct the meditation. Thus the meditator who strives mindfully gains control over his fickle mind. With his speech, actions and sense organs subjugated and his mind under control, he has now gained self-mastery.
Thus training himself in virtue and concentration (sila-sikkha and samadhi-sikkha), he now tries to gain true wisdom or insight by seeing all things as they really are (yathabh|tam). Viewing things as they really are implies, as we have discussed above, seeing the transient, unsatisfactory and selfless nature of all conditioned and component things. To such a meditative disciple of the Buddha, the "world" is not the external or empirical world, but the human body with its consciousness -- the world of the five aggregates of clinging. It is this that he tries to understand as impermanent, unsatisfactory and without self or ego entity. It is to this world of body and mind that the Buddha referred when he said to Mogharaja: "Ever mindful, Mogharaja, see the world as void (sunna) –having given up the notion of a self (underlying it) -- so may one overcome Mara (death.)"
The vipassana method implies gaining knowledge by direct observation. It goes beyond the intellect, beyond theory, beyond conceptual interpretation, to the actual experiencing of life itself.
Thus comprehending things as they really are, thus realising the true nature of the five aggregates of clinging, by washing out the impurities of his mind, he "lives independent, clinging to nothing in the world."
The reader will note that in this self-purification and self-mastery for final deliverance, there is no coercion or compulsion by any external agency, there are no rewards or punishments for deeds done or left undone. Deliverance from mental taints lies absolutely and entirely in one's own hands, not in someone else's -- be it human or divine. The door is free of all bolts and bars except those that man himself has made. Not even a supreme Buddha can deliver a man from the fetters of existence except by showing him the path. The path is virtue, concentration and wisdom.
All life's problems can be reduced to one single problem, that of dukkha, suffering or unsatisfactoriness. And the solution put forward by the Buddhas or Enlightened Ones of all ages is the Noble Eightfold Path. The efficiency of this path lies in the practice of it. The Buddha's meditation path, which is the Noble Eightfold Path, still beckons the weary pilgrim to the haven of Nibbana's security and peace. "The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step" and as the old saying goes: "Some run swiftly; some walk; some creep painfully; but all who keep on will reach the goal."
From The Centuries Poetry. Vol. 2, pp 153-155.
Samyutta Nikaya i, 4
See Addendum IV
There are ten fetters: 1, sense desire, 2. ill will. 3. pride, 4. speculative opinion or wrong view, 5. doubts, 6. lust for existence, 7. indulgence in wrong rites, rituals and ceremonies, 8. envy, 9. avarice, 10. ignorance. These fetters arise depending on both eye and forms, ear and sounds, etc. The Commentary explains how these fetters arise. Read Soma Thera, The Way of Mindfulness (
1) Mindfulness, 2) investigation of the dhamma (mind and matter), 3) energy, 4) rapture, 5) calm, 6) concentration, 7) equanimity.
Sabbe dhamma nalam abhinivesayati, Majjhima Nikaya i. 251
Samyutta Nikaya, i, 39.
Majjhima 22
See Addendum IV
Samyutta Nikaya ii, 13.
Anguttara Nikaya, i. 100
Anguttara, i. 61
Dhammapada v.372
See Addendum III
Majjhima Nikaya 118/ III 85.
Samyutta Nikaya iii, 23
Samyutta Nikaya iii, 44.
Samyutta Nikaya iii, 23.
Majjhima Nikaya 106/ II. 263
Anguttara Nikaya ii, 52, Catukka Nipata 49; Anguttara Nikaya, Part I translation by Nyanaponika (Kandy: BPS) Wheel 155/158, p. 86
There are seven latent tendencies: 1. sense desire, 2. ill will, 3. wrong view, 4. doubt, 5. pride, 6. lust for continued existence, 7. ignorance (kama-raga, patigha, ditthi, vicikiccha, mana, bhava-raga, avijja) -- D.iii, 11.12.
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• Prevent irritation from harming your relationships
• Enjoy life, no matter what is happening | psychology |
http://beautywelove.blogspot.com/2011/01/living-is-relationship.html | 2017-04-28T06:14:16 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2017-17/segments/1492917122865.36/warc/CC-MAIN-20170423031202-00066-ip-10-145-167-34.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.955427 | 173 | CC-MAIN-2017-17 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2017-17__0__154352666 | en | It is only when the mind is quiet that it shall know love, and that state of quietness is not a thing to be cultivated. Cultivation is still the action of the mind; discipline is still a product of the mind, and a mind that is disciplined, controlled, subjugated, a mind that is resisting, explaining, cannot know love. You may read, you may listen to what is being said about love, but that is not love. Only when you put away the things of the mind, only when your heart is empty of the things of the mind, is there love. Then you will know what it is to love without separation, without distance, without time, without fear - and that is not reserved to the few.
~ J. Krishnamurti
excerpts from a collection of talks
On Love and Loneliness | psychology |
https://yellowwillowyoga.com/blogs/blog/here-is-the-best-way-to-reach-your-peak-performance | 2024-02-27T11:02:43 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947474674.35/warc/CC-MAIN-20240227085429-20240227115429-00108.warc.gz | 0.964858 | 470 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__181728720 | en | We all have our good days and bad days, but how amazing is it when you just feel “on”: Your brain isn’t foggy and you are focused on your work. You feel fit and energized and you’re loving life. It’s a great feeling and one that doesn’t typically last, but one that we hope we can replicate.
There is a name for this feeling: Flow. Flow is described as an experience that is genuinely satisfying. People typically experience deep enjoyment, creativity, and a total involvement with life. In some instances, you can feel as though you almost don’t exist as you’re too deep “in the zone”.
Flow is not a new concept. It’s been around for yonks in the psychology world, but many of us are just hearing about it now. Why? Because it’s also one of the key components of happiness.
So, how do we enter a state of Flow you ask?
A state of Flow is achieved when you strike the perfect balance between skills and challenge. Therefore, to achieve a state of flow, you need to find an activity that you find challenging – such as your work, surfing or playing an instrument. You also need to get some skills to undertake that activity so you don’t become overwhelmed or bored. You need to be able to be mindful and immerse yourself completely in the task. There are always going to be things to do and places to go, but tell yourself there is nowhere to be except this present moment. Eliminate all distractions and allow yourself adequate time for the activity.
Yoga is a great opportunity to practice a state of Flow. You can undertake a class in a studio, where the class will run for a specific duration and often be in a nice environment, free from distractions. Yoga is an ongoing challenge but also requires some skills, striking a great balance between the two. You can listen to your teacher’s instructions, but be completely immersed in the practice, focusing completely on your movement and your breath.
Yellow Willow yoga products aim to enhance the yoga experience by helping you to remain immersed in the moment, free from distractions which may occur during your practice.
Go forth and Flow! | psychology |
https://www.blindchildrenscenter.org/infant/ | 2022-07-03T23:32:22 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-27/segments/1656104277498.71/warc/CC-MAIN-20220703225409-20220704015409-00555.warc.gz | 0.962599 | 197 | CC-MAIN-2022-27 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-27__0__141851608 | en | Early intervention services for infants & their families
The Infant Class provides free early interventions and educational services to babies and toddlers who are blind, visually impaired or multi-disabled. Research confirms families who participate in early intervention are more likely to understand and address their child’s needs, so we encourage parents to contact us as soon as they receive a diagnosis from their doctor or healthcare provider. In fact, we have served infants as young as one week-old!
Our Infant Class teaches parents and other caregivers how to motivate and encourage their children — to initiate movement, sit and crawl, overcome fears of noise, and learn essential new skills, including feeding. The skills parents obtain can be practiced at home, strengthening a critical early bond.
Infants and parents attend classes one or two times a week in a comfortable, inclusive setting — with children who are typically developing in each class — mirroring the sighted world outside and encouraging the development of socialization and language skills. | psychology |
http://www.alanon-alateen.webcentre.ca/about.html | 2019-04-24T00:11:23 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-18/segments/1555578616424.69/warc/CC-MAIN-20190423234808-20190424020808-00338.warc.gz | 0.801972 | 287 | CC-MAIN-2019-18 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-18__0__22332718 | en | Al‑Anon is a mutual support program for people whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. By sharing common experiences and applying the Al-Anon principles, families and friends of alcoholics can bring positive changes to their individual situations, whether or not the alcoholic admits the existence of a drinking problem or seeks help.
Alateen, a part of the Al-Anon Family Groups, is a fellowship of young people (mostly teenagers) whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking whether they are in your life drinking or not. By attending Alateen, teenagers meet other teenagers with similar situations. Alateen is not a religious program and there are no fees or dues to belong to it.
Resources for Professionals: http://www.al-anon.org/for-professionals
The Twelve Steps: http://www.al-anon.org/the-twelve-steps
The Twelve Traditions: http://www.al-anon.org/the-twelve-traditions
The Twelve Concepts of Service: http://www.al-anon.org/the-twelve-concepts
Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism: http://www.al-anon.org/al-anon-faces-alcoholism
The Forum: http://www.al-anon.org/the-forum-magazine | psychology |
https://curricularconnections.berkeley.edu/big-ideas-courses/sense-and-sensibility-and-science/ | 2024-04-16T11:05:16 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-18/segments/1712296817081.52/warc/CC-MAIN-20240416093441-20240416123441-00500.warc.gz | 0.91599 | 384 | CC-MAIN-2024-18 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-18__0__108417644 | en | Letters & Science 22
Sense and Sensibility and Science
Philosophy and Values; Physical Science; Social and Behavioral Sciences
Every day we make decisions that can and should be informed by science. We make decisions as individuals, as voters, and as members of our various communities. The problem is, we don’t do it so well—a fact sadly apparent in political debates. This course aims to equip students with basic tools to be better thinkers. We will explore key aspects of scientific thinking that everyone should know, especially the many ways that we humans tend to fool ourselves, and how to avoid them—including how to differentiate signal from noise, evaluate causal claims, and avoid reasoning biases. We’ll then look at the best models for using science to guide decisions, combining both evidence and values, with the ultimate goal of bettering the world.
We’re facing a world that seems to struggle with rational collective decision making. How can we take into account our values, fears, and aspirations while also grappling with and evaluating facts and evidence? We make decisions as individuals, as groups, and as a society; we find this challenge everywhere we turn. This year, the challenge of making good decisions as a society seems both more difficult and more important than ever. Over the centuries, scientists, psychologists, and philosophers have developed rigorous, yet open-minded ways of thinking about the world that can help us address these universal and pressing concerns. This course explores and directly engages with some of the most useful tools of scientific-style critical thinking, taking into account both psychological biases and philosophical underpinnings.
Course website: https://sensibility.berkeley.edu
- Spring 2023
- Spring 2022
- Spring 2021
- Spring 2020
- Spring 2018
- Spring 2017
- Spring 2016
- Spring 2014
- Spring 2013 | psychology |
https://ireland.alpha.org/theparentingteenagerscourse-try | 2019-10-21T20:16:45 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-43/segments/1570987787444.85/warc/CC-MAIN-20191021194506-20191021222006-00438.warc.gz | 0.93152 | 495 | CC-MAIN-2019-43 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-43__0__64641788 | en | The Parenting Teenagers Course
What is The Parenting Teenagers Course?
The Parenting Teenagers Course was developed in 1990 by Nicky and Sila Lee (authors of The Parenting Book) for parents and care-givers looking for practical support to strengthen their family relationships.
Over five sessions, the course will help you to:
- Keep your long term aim in mind
- Meet you teenager's needs
- Set clear boundaries
- Develop emotional health
- Help them make good choices
Who is it for?
The Parenting Teenagers Course is for parents, step-parents, prospective parents or carers of teenagers aged 11-18 years.
The course is for every type of parenting situation including parenting on your own, step-parenting and parenting as a couple.
The Parenting Teenagers Course is based on Christian principles but designed for all couples with or without a church background.
What can I expect?
On The Parenting Teenagers Course, you are seated in small groups based on the age of your oldest child so that you can meet other parents and carers with teenagers of a similar age.
Each session begins with something to eat and/or drink, giving you space to relax and chat to other parents or carers followed by a practical talk and a time for discussion in groups.
The talk is given live or on DVD and includes street interview, filmed clips of parents and teenagers sharing their own experiences and advice from parenting experts.
The five sessions
Meeting Our Teenagers' Needs
The five love languages and different ways we communicate
Keeping the End in Mind
The long-term aim and value of building and maintaining relationship
Developing Emotional Health
How to handle anger and resolve conflict effectively
Gradually letting out the boundaries, and giving freedom and responsibility
Helping them Make Good Choices
Passing on values and equipping teenagers to make good long term choices
How can I continue to invest in my family?
After the course, parents and carers continue to put into practice what they've learned to help keep their family strong and healthy.
Here are some of the things we suggest to support continued investment in your relationships:
Learn more about parenting and relationships with Nicky and Sila’s recommended reading:
The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman
The Sixty Minute Family by Rob Parsons
For more titles and information: | psychology |
https://alzsevablog.com/2015/09/29/free-resource-for-caregivers/ | 2023-03-27T00:52:48 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-14/segments/1679296946584.94/warc/CC-MAIN-20230326235016-20230327025016-00633.warc.gz | 0.900728 | 247 | CC-MAIN-2023-14 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-14__0__236770223 | en | Family Access to Memory Impairment and Loss Information, Engagement and Supports
(A Program of Riverside ClearPath)
The Riverside Center for Excellence in Aging and Lifelong Health is excited to offer The New York University-Caregiver Intervention for family caregivers of individuals with Alzheimer’s or other types of memory loss. This federally funded research program provides free counseling and support for caregivers over several months. There is no cost to program participants as funding is provided by the Administration for Community Living.
This program is designed to reduce caregiver stress and increase family support through:
- Education about memory loss and how it may progress.
- Developing a care plan for you and your family.
- Respite care for loved ones during caregiver counseling sessions.
- Assistance with finding local resources.
To determine if you are eligible for this program or to learn more, call Riverside Senior Care Navigation at 757-856-7030.
HOURS: Monday-Friday, 8:30 a.m. – 4:30 p.m.
Available to residents of James City County, York County, Newport News, Hampton, Poquoson, Williamsburg, Gloucester and Mathews. | psychology |
https://www.stmarysrcps.com/parents/family-support/pastoral/ | 2022-01-28T04:53:14 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-05/segments/1642320305420.54/warc/CC-MAIN-20220128043801-20220128073801-00324.warc.gz | 0.96095 | 255 | CC-MAIN-2022-05 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-05__0__44231252 | en | At St Marys Primary we are here to offer support for all our children and families. As a whole school approach, we support all children's physical and emotional well being ensuring that children are safe, happy and thrive to their full potential. We recognise that sometimes family situations can change and this can affect children so a supportive package is put in place for both the child and the family.
Mrs White is our Pastoral support officer and our Thrive practitioner. When a child needs support, we offer a tiered approach that is personalised to the individual needs of the child and is regularly assessed based on the progress. Depending on the success of the intervention, it may either be withdrawn or extended. The tiers are as follows:
Tier 1 - In class support strategies offered with weekly check ins from the class teaching team.
Tier 2 - Group support intervention based on need delivered by Mrs White.
Tier 3 - 1:1 sessions weekly to reinforce positive behaviours and work on individual needs alongside parent support.
Furthermore we are here to not only support pupils but families as well, please see below for some useful information surrounding any difficulties you may be experiencing at home. Or if you would like any further support please feel free to contact us. | psychology |
http://www.cyep.net/?page_id=209 | 2018-05-23T12:33:32 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-22/segments/1526794865651.2/warc/CC-MAIN-20180523121803-20180523141803-00129.warc.gz | 0.946404 | 1,051 | CC-MAIN-2018-22 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-22__0__43154000 | en | Recreational Therapy- (Individual) All ages: PreK-Adult Recreational Therapy is designed to restore, remediate and rehabilitate in all areas of life’s activities. These sessions promote health and wellness as well as reduce or eliminate limitations and restrictions to participation in life situations. Sessions work to restore various types of social and cognitive functioning, build confidence and develop coping skills. Intervention areas vary widely and are based upon client interests. Perfect for students on the Autism Spectrum, those with ADD/ADHD, OCD, or gifted students experiencing anxiety, Recreational Therapy will set goals and allow students to gain confidence in reaching those goals.
An initial assessment in required prior to individual therapy and is priced at $60. This assessment will evaluate leisure, social, emotional, and cognitive areas to determine the best course of therapy. Each individualized therapy session is designed to maximize quality learning time and is priced at $40/hour. No contract is involved, and a Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist facilitates each meeting. Scheduling and payment is requested one week prior to the start of the session for four consecutive classes at a time, totaling $160.
Social Skills Program- Grades 1-4; 5-8; variable
Does your child struggle with social situations among peers? If you find your child interrupting, unable to focus on the topic, excessively talkative, missing social cues, having personal space issues, or any other problems with communication, this program can help! Students are guided by a recreational therapist who gives your child the opportunity to put skills into practice through instruction and guided activities during the group session. These are small group settings with 2-6 children. This semester-long program is scheduled for Tuesdays 4:00-5:00 (5th-8th graders) and Tuesdays 5:00-6:00 (1st-4th graders) Pricing is $20/hour for 18 weeks grouped into two payments of $180 or one payment of $360.
Confidence Program- All ages
Do you see your child struggling with self-esteem? Perhaps they are unsure when giving answers or making decisions. This resiliency group program for children and teens is designed to boost confidence, self-esteem, problem solving and relationships with peers and adults. Allow students the opportunity to learn to capitalize on their strengths and build confidence through accomplishment, service, and trust of others and self. These are small group settings with 2-6 children. This semester-long program is priced at $20/hour for 18 weeks grouped into two payments of $180 or one payment of $360.
Anxiety Relief Program- Grades 1-4; 5-8; variable
If your child is constantly worrying about “what if” scenarios, avoiding socializing, afraid of test-taking, losing sleep, asking for your reassurance over and over again, and still worrying even with your reassurance, this program can help! Using proven therapy techniques, we offer strategies for training the brain with relaxation practices, positive self-talk, and test-taking survival skills that also apply to everyday life. These are small group settings with 2-6 children. This semester-long program is priced at $20/hour for 18 weeks grouped into two payments of $180 or one payment of $360.
Focus Factor Program (ADD/ADHD)- Grades 1-4; 5-8; variable
Many parents of ADD/ADHD children struggle with how to handle the challenges that come along with the diagnosis. This program is designed to teach students to help focus their attention while also recognizing and providing coping skills for when they feel their thoughts begin to wander. Students will learn strategies for self-control and self-discipline along with practice in recognizing social cues from others that may help with behavior redirection. These are small group settings with 2-6 children. This semester-long program is priced at $20/hour for 18 weeks grouped into two payments of $180 or one payment of $360.
Foster Care Program- All ages
Our Foster Care Program is for children of all ages who are presently living in a foster home environment. Therapeutic Recreation for Foster Care is a specialized type of therapy designed to offer guidance to enable students to be more successful both at home and in school, recognize and connect with others who are sharing their experience, and develop relationships and coping skills for future growth. This semester-long program is for all ages. Pricing is $20/hour for 18 weeks grouped into two payments of $180 or one payment of $360.
Parenting is a beautiful responsibility that can also be full of challenges…and comes without training! We can help! In this program, Recreational Therapist Marcia Austin explores a variety of parenting topics including development, confidence, communication, understanding and managing children’s behavior, stress management, and parenting styles. Allowing for open dialogue and discussion, opportunities for suggestions and sharing will also be available. This semester-long program is for parents with children of all ages. Pricing is $20/hour for 18 weeks grouped into two payments of $180 or one payment of $360. | psychology |
https://www.austintrinity.org/fs/pages/news?post=civil-discourse-in-our-school-community-20190313 | 2020-05-29T01:53:36 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2020-24/segments/1590347401004.26/warc/CC-MAIN-20200528232803-20200529022803-00364.warc.gz | 0.974516 | 361 | CC-MAIN-2020-24 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2020-24__0__171273003 | en | Our Parent Council hosted a conversation with Head of School Marie Kidd and The Rev. Ken Malcolm about teaching civil discourse to and practicing it with our children.
They shared with parents of students kindergarten through 8th grade how we can model behavior for our children to teach them how to dig through arguments and disagreements and have a conversation with someone who thinks differently.
“Research shows the feeling of contempt for someone who disagrees with us lights up the pleasure center in our brains,” said Father Ken. “It feels good. And another factor is social media platforms are designed to reward contempt. It isn’t enough to simply avoid the argument; we need to have the disagreement without the contempt.”
They talked about how our first response should be to listen, and how ours job is not to convince others they are wrong and we are right. Father Ken suggested asking questions such as, “Is this a new idea, or something you’ve always thought?” or “Tell me about your sources.” He emphasized that people want to be heard more than they want to be right.
Parents also discussed how important it is to teach our children to listen and be kind not only in person, but online as well. Other discussions during the hour were around how parents can help their children learn to advocate for themselves, and the resources available to them through their teachers and counselors.
“As members of this Trinity community, it is all of our jobs to model how to listen and understand the experience of others,” said Kidd. “Here at school, and beyond.”
She closed with a reminder and invitation to parents to always let teachers, counselors and administrators know you want to partner with us. Our doors are always open. | psychology |
https://sleepmy.baby/how-getting-baby-to-sleep-changed-my-life/ | 2024-03-02T10:30:28 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947475806.52/warc/CC-MAIN-20240302084508-20240302114508-00104.warc.gz | 0.970642 | 891 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__207593356 | en | How Getting Baby to Sleep Changed My Life: A Journey of Rest and Renewal
Bringing a baby into the world is a momentous and joyous occasion, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges, especially when it comes to sleep. As a new parent, I quickly realized that sleep deprivation was taking a toll on my physical and mental well-being. However, through patience, perseverance, and a commitment to finding a routine that worked for our family, getting my baby to sleep became a life changing experience that positively impacted every aspect of my life. In this blog post, I want to share my personal journey and how conquering the sleep struggle changed my life for the better.
- The Sleep Struggle: The Initial Impact. The first few weeks and months with a newborn are a blur of sleepless nights and endless exhaustion. As a new parent, I struggled to establish a sleep routine for my baby and myself mainly because I didn’t even think about it before Pam happened, even though we had many months to think about it, just never occurred to me and probably won’t or didn’t to you either. Waking up at odd hours, and feeling overwhelmed took a toll on my physical and mental health. It affected my ability to focus, my relationships, and even my overall happiness. It turned out I did have an advantage, I did shift work for many years so was more adaptable I think.
- The Turning Point: Seeking Solutions. By the time Pam was 2 weeks old I knew things had to change and the need for change was becoming more critical each day that passed, I embarked on a journey to understand infant sleep patterns and finding strategies that would help my baby (and me) get the rest we desperately needed. I sought advice from doctors, nurses, read books on infant sleep, and connected with fellow parents facing similar challenges but the biggest source or info was the internet. Armed with knowledge and support, I began trying various sleep training techniques.
- The Power of Routine. One of the most significant transformations in our sleep journey came from establishing a consistent sleep routine for my baby. Creating a calm and soothing bedtime routine, these techniques included a warm bath, gentle massage, and reading a bedtime story, helped signal to Pam that it was time to prepare for sleep. The routine that worked for us became a comforting ritual for all of us, allowing us to relax and ease into restful slumber, and yes, all three of us went to sleep at the same time.
- The Importance of Self-Care. As I worked on Pam’s sleeping habits, I also learned the critical importance of self-care for both me and Maryann. I realized that we needed to take care of ourselves to be the best parents we could be. I made a conscious effort to carve out time for activities that rejuvenated me, such as exercise, adult games as a couple, or indulging in a hobby, I play computer games, Maryann watches TV shows from her home country in their language. By investing in my own well-being, I found myself more patient, present, and better equipped to handle the challenges of parenthood.
- The Ripple Effect. As my baby’s sleep habits improved, the positive effects trickled down into other areas of my life. With more consistent rest, I noticed increased energy levels, improved cognitive function, and a brighter outlook on life. My relationships also benefited, as I had more quality time to connect with my partner and loved ones. I felt a renewed sense of confidence and a restored balance in my overall well-being.
Conclusion: The journey of getting my baby to sleep was not easy, but the rewards were huge. By instilling and establishing healthy sleep habits for Pam, I inadvertently transformed my own life. Conquering the sleep struggle allowed me to reclaim my sanity, deepen my bond with my baby, and restore harmony to all aspects of my life. Remember, every family’s journey is unique, and it may take time to find what works best for you. But the journey itself is a life changing experience that will shape and enrich your life in ways you never imagined. Always remember, every journey starts with a single step, with a baby in the house you took that step many months ago, so keep moving forward for everyone’s sake. | psychology |
https://hillslawgroup.com/blog/how-a-divorce-coach-can-benefit-you-during-the-difficult-transition/ | 2024-02-22T03:57:19 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947473690.28/warc/CC-MAIN-20240222030017-20240222060017-00695.warc.gz | 0.931746 | 850 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__105151430 | en | Maxwell Hills | August 7, 2023 | Divorce
Role of a Divorce Coach
Divorce is undoubtedly a challenging and emotionally overwhelming process. It involves numerous decisions, legal complexities, and significant life changes. Amidst the turmoil, a divorce coach can serve as a valuable support system, guiding you through the difficult transition and helping you navigate the various aspects of your divorce.
A divorce coach is a trained professional who specializes in providing emotional support, guidance, and practical strategies to individuals going through divorce. Their role is multi-faceted and extends beyond traditional therapy or legal assistance. They are there to empower you, offer objective advice, and help you build a bridge to a bright post-divorce future.
Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster
Divorce often brings along a rollercoaster of emotions,anger, sadness, fear, and confusion. It can leave you feeling overwhelmed and vulnerable. A divorce coach understands the emotional turmoil you are going through and can provide a safe space for you to express your feelings, process your emotions, and come to terms with the changes unfolding in your life.
With their professional guidance, a divorce coach can help you develop healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress, anxiety, and grief. They can assist you in identifying and addressing any emotional blocks, enabling you to move forward with greater clarity and resilience.
Gaining Clarity on Your Goals
During divorce proceedings, it is crucial to have a clear understanding of what you want and what is best for your future. However, amidst the emotional turmoil, it can be challenging to think clearly and make objective decisions.
A divorce coach can help you gain clarity on your goals and priorities. By asking thoughtful questions and encouraging self-reflection, they assist you in examining your values, needs, and desires. With their guidance, you can create a vision for your life after divorce and develop a realistic plan to achieve it.
Developing Effective Coping Strategies
Divorce brings about significant changes, and learning to navigate these changes can be overwhelming. A divorce coach can help you develop effective coping strategies to manage the various challenges that arise during and after divorce.
Whether it be dealing with conflict, co-parenting issues, or adjusting to a new lifestyle, a divorce coach provides valuable tools and techniques to help you navigate these situations. They can offer practical advice and support, equipping you with the skills needed to handle difficult conversations, manage stress, and maintain your emotional well-being.
Creating a Positive Co-Parenting Plan
If you have children, co-parenting is a crucial aspect of post-divorce life. It can be challenging to navigate the complex dynamics and communicate effectively with your ex-spouse. A divorce coach can play a crucial role in helping you create a positive co-parenting plan.
By facilitating discussions, offering guidance, and helping you set boundaries, a divorce coach can assist in fostering a healthy co-parenting relationship. They can provide strategies for effective communication, conflict resolution, and decision-making, ensuring that the well-being of your children remains a priority.
Seeking Professional Assistance
During the difficult transition of divorce, it is essential to seek support from various professionals who specialize in the field. While a divorce coach can provide emotional support and guidance, it is important to consult a family lawyer for legal advice and a financial advisor for guidance on financial matters.
By assembling a team of professionals, including a divorce coach, you can ensure that you have the necessary support and resources to navigate the complex journey of divorce successfully.
In conclusion, a divorce coach can be a valuable asset during the challenging transition of divorce. Their role extends beyond that of a therapist or lawyer, offering emotional support, guidance, and practical strategies to help you navigate the process. Whether it is coping with emotions, setting goals, developing coping strategies, or creating a positive co-parenting plan, a divorce coach can play a crucial role in empowering you and helping you establish a strong foundation for a bright future post-divorce. Remember, seeking assistance during this time is not a sign of weakness, but a wise decision to prioritize your well-being and create a positive path forward. | psychology |
https://www.crva.com/projects/all-crva-venues-are-certified-sensory-inclusive | 2024-03-04T09:24:47 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947476432.11/warc/CC-MAIN-20240304065639-20240304095639-00467.warc.gz | 0.951023 | 495 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__170529302 | en | Sensory Inclusive Certification
In partnership with KultureCity, all CRVA venues have achieved Sensory Inclusive Certification. As part of the process, team members undergo training to support guests with sensory needs and how to manage a sensory overload situation.
The Charlotte Regional Visitors Authority (CRVA) has partnered with KultureCity to ensure a sensory-inclusive experience for visitors at each of its managed facilities. The new initiative promotes an accommodating and positive experience for all guests with a sensory challenge who visit the Charlotte Convention Center, Bojangles Entertainment Complex (BOplex, which includes Bojangles Coliseum and Ovens Auditorium) and the NASCAR Hall of Fame. Spectrum Center, for which the CRVA manages back-of-house operations, has also partnered with KultureCity for sensory inclusive certification.
“We are pleased to partner with KultureCity to ensure our team members are prepared to serve our guests with sensory needs,” Tom Murray, Chief Executive Officer of the Charlotte Regional Visitors Authority, said. “As an organization, inclusion is one of the core values that drives us as we strive to deliver memorable customer experiences to each one of our visitors. Thanks to KultureCity, our team is now better equipped to do just that. The sensory bags and training give us more tools and resources to provide an enriching experience for anyone who visits our venues.”
The KultureCity certification process entailed staff members at the facilities being trained on how to support those guests with sensory needs and how to manage a sensory overload situation. Refresher training is provided annually. Sensory bags, equipped with noise-canceling headphones, fidget tools, verbal cue cards and weighted lap pads are available at each of the venues for guests who may become overwhelmed by the environment.
Sensory sensitivities or challenges with sensory regulation are often experienced by individuals with autism, dementia, PTSD and other similar conditions. One of the major challenges for these individuals is sensitivity to overstimulation and noise, which is a natural part of the environment in places like the Charlotte Convention Center, the BOplex and the NASCAR Hall of Fame.
Prior to attending an event, guests can download the free KultureCity app (on Apple or Android) and view what sensory features are available and where they can access them. The app also includes a “social story” which will provide a preview of what to expect at each venue. | psychology |
http://torontosobercoach.com/ | 2023-06-03T04:08:44 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-23/segments/1685224649105.40/warc/CC-MAIN-20230603032950-20230603062950-00693.warc.gz | 0.915585 | 298 | CC-MAIN-2023-23 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-23__0__141777937 | en | Sober Companion & Sober Coach Services in Toronto
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Sober Champion of Toronto provides qualified, caring professionals who bring treatment home. Whether you struggle with alcohol, drugs, or overeating, we have dedicated staff right here at home.
Our clients are Canadians intent on securing the investment already have made in residential treatment, or who are trying to regain abstience after a relapse into unacceptable behaviors. Our sober coaching staff provide guidance and structure - in your own home - that so many addicts and alcoholics desperately need.
We bring treatment home. Too often, people struggling with substance abuse spend time - and substantial resources - in treatment settings far from home. Too often, upon their return, the cycle of drinking, using, and dishonesty starts again.
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https://checkinsurance.org.in/exploring-the-mind-the-pursuit-of-an-online-accredited-psychology-degree/ | 2024-02-24T15:55:34 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947474541.96/warc/CC-MAIN-20240224144416-20240224174416-00567.warc.gz | 0.922884 | 1,204 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__189211234 | en | In the realm of higher education, the demand for psychology degrees has been on the rise, with more individuals aspiring to understand the intricacies of the human mind and behavior. With the advent of online education, pursuing an accredited psychology degree has become not only convenient but also a popular choice among students seeking flexibility and quality education. This article delves into the world of online accredited psychology degree programs, exploring the benefits, challenges, and the transformative potential they hold for aspiring psychologists and mental health professionals.
The Evolution of Online Education
In recent years, online education has undergone a significant transformation. Technological advancements and the changing landscape of education have paved the way for accredited online degree programs, offering students the opportunity to pursue their passions and career goals from the comfort of their homes. Psychology, the study of the human mind and behavior, has found its place in the digital realm, allowing individuals to delve into this fascinating field through online accredited psychology degree programs.
Benefits of Pursuing an Online Accredited Psychology Degree
**1. ** Flexibility and Convenience
One of the primary advantages of pursuing an online accredited psychology degree is the flexibility it offers. Students can attend classes, participate in discussions, and complete assignments at their own pace, making it an ideal option for those with busy schedules, working professionals, or individuals with family obligations. This flexibility allows students to strike a balance between their academic pursuits and other aspects of their lives.
**2. ** Diverse Specializations
Psychology is a broad field with diverse specializations such as clinical psychology, counseling psychology, industrial-organizational psychology, and forensic psychology, among others. Accredited online psychology degree programs often offer a wide range of specializations, allowing students to tailor their education to match their interests and career aspirations. Whether one is interested in helping individuals with mental health issues or studying human behavior in organizational settings, online programs cater to various niches within the field of psychology.
**3. ** Interactive Learning Environment
Contrary to misconceptions about online education, accredited online psychology degree programs provide interactive and engaging learning environments. Through virtual classrooms, online forums, and multimedia resources, students can actively participate in discussions, collaborate on projects, and engage with professors and peers. This collaborative approach enhances the overall learning experience, fostering a sense of community among online learners.
**4. ** Access to Expert Faculty
Accredited online psychology degree programs are often taught by experienced faculty members who are experts in their respective fields. Students have the opportunity to learn from professionals with practical experience and academic expertise, gaining valuable insights into the latest developments in psychology. This access to expert faculty members enriches the learning process, providing students with a comprehensive understanding of the subject matter.
**5. ** Career Advancement and Opportunities
Earning an accredited psychology degree online opens the door to various career opportunities. Graduates can pursue careers in clinical settings, schools, research institutions, corporations, and government agencies, among others. The demand for mental health professionals continues to grow, making psychology a field with ample job prospects. Additionally, an online accredited psychology degree equips students with the necessary knowledge and skills to pursue advanced degrees, such as master’s or doctoral programs, further enhancing their career prospects.
Challenges and Considerations
While online accredited psychology degree programs offer numerous benefits, there are challenges and considerations that prospective students should be aware of:
**1. ** Self-Motivation and Time Management
Online learning requires self-motivation and strong time management skills. Students must be proactive in their studies, set goals, and adhere to deadlines. Without the structure of traditional classrooms, staying organized and managing time effectively are essential to succeeding in an online environment.
**2. ** Technical Proficiency and Resources
To excel in online courses, students need access to a computer, a stable internet connection, and basic technical proficiency. Familiarity with online learning platforms and software is crucial. Some students may require additional resources, such as textbooks or software, which they need to acquire independently.
**3. ** Credibility of Institutions
Not all online institutions offering psychology degrees are accredited or recognized. It is imperative for students to research and choose reputable institutions that are accredited by recognized accrediting bodies. Accreditation ensures that the institution meets specific academic standards, ensuring the quality and credibility of the education received.
**4. ** Limited Practical Experience
Certain psychology specializations, such as clinical psychology or counseling psychology, require practical experience and supervised internships. While some online programs offer virtual simulations or internships in local settings, students must consider how to fulfill these practical requirements in an online learning environment.
Conclusion: Empowering Minds, Transforming Lives
Online accredited psychology degree programs have transformed the landscape of education, making the pursuit of a psychology degree accessible to a diverse range of students. By offering flexibility, diverse specializations, interactive learning environments, access to expert faculty, and abundant career opportunities, these programs empower individuals to embark on a fulfilling and rewarding journey in the field of psychology.
As the world recognizes the importance of mental health and well-being, the role of psychologists and mental health professionals has never been more crucial. Online accredited psychology degree programs provide the knowledge, skills, and expertise needed to address the complex challenges of the human mind and behavior. By overcoming challenges, staying motivated, and making informed decisions, individuals can harness the potential of online education to transform their passion for psychology into a meaningful and impactful career.
In the digital age, the pursuit of knowledge knows no boundaries. Online accredited psychology degree programs stand as a testament to the power of education, enabling individuals to explore the depths of the human psyche, contribute to society, and make a difference in the lives of others. Whether you aspire to become a clinical psychologist, a counselor, a researcher, or an advocate for mental health, the online accredited psychology degree paves the way for a brighter future, where empowered minds can truly transform lives. | psychology |
https://www.triumphmotorcycles.com/for-the-ride/news/story/eric-hendrikx-distinguished-champion-for-mental-health-2022-10-10 | 2023-12-05T02:20:27 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-50/segments/1700679100540.62/warc/CC-MAIN-20231205010358-20231205040358-00365.warc.gz | 0.968209 | 880 | CC-MAIN-2023-50 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-50__0__146904221 | en | Eric Hendrikx | Distinguished Champion for Mental Health
On World Mental Health Day, it is fitting to shine a spotlight on lifelong rider and motorcycle enthusiast, Eric Hendrikx, who has built an editorial career writing for marquee publications such as Rolling Stone, Playboy, Men’s Journal and REVOLVER. In recent years however, he’s becoming more well-known as a champion for mental health awareness and fundraising.
Eric’s passionate support of mental health stemmed from his own mental challenges following a 2017 riding accident in the Swiss Alps. Several days after the accident, Eric woke from a medically induced coma to a long list of fractures and a pending surgery to reassemble his shoulder and collar bone with titanium plates.
While the surgeries successfully pieced Eric’s body back together, the traumatic accident left him a shell of his former self—nearly fifty pounds lighter with nerve damage, temporary lost use of his right arm, difficulty in reading, and the mental isolation of a long recovery process ahead. The mental challenges were significant. During this time, Eric had to teach himself means to mend the mind. He discovered the keys were to come to terms with being vulnerable, to accept the support of others, being open to communication, and eventually proactively reaching out to loved ones.
As he continued to realize the benefit of emotional support, Eric continued to receive more and more of it. From close friends traveling great lengths to visit him, to kind words and positive messages from unknown fellow motorcyclists sharing their similar experiences for hope, the sum of feeling loved kept him on the road to recovery.
With a strong and loving support network behind him, Eric fought relentlessly through rehabilitation to ensure he could still be able to enjoy the activities he loves. And within six months of his return from Europe, he found his way back onto two wheels. He also found a strong appreciation for the value of positive mental health and began dedicating time to raise funds and awareness for mental health.
Just a year from his accident, Eric took the first major step in becoming an advocate for mental health as he became a Global Ambassador for The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride (DGR) in 2018. For the 2019 DGR, Eric accepted the honor of being named Grand Marshal for the Orange County, California Ride. Since 2018, Eric has raised over $15,000 USD as a participant in each year’s Gentleman’s Ride.
Humbled and perhaps inspired by the generosity of his DGR donors, Eric took his efforts to a new level. Ahead of the 2022 Gentleman’s Ride, Eric took the initiative to host a private pre-ride fundraising event in his new hometown of Toronto, aptly named A Distinguished Social Affair. The high-end inaugural event drew a significant crowd, and between entry fees and premium auction items, the event raised an impressive $15,000 USD for Movember.
Despite having already contributed so much, Eric knew that through his talents, network, and drive to make a difference, that he could do more. In the summer of 2022, he opened an art exhibit at the Peter Triantos Gallery in Toronto titled Rock & Roll Forever. The gallery consisted primarily of large mixed media pieces based on photographs taken over Eric’s illustrious journalism career with Rolling Stone and REVOLVER, that were painted by contemporary artist, Peter Triantos. The pieces featured iconic rock stars such as Slash, Ben Harper, Fergie, and Dave Grohl. In a showing of success, the gallery sold out, raising more than $100k, with proceeds benefiting Movember and The Unison Fund.
If anyone thinks that Eric has quelled his passion for philanthropy and mental health awareness and fundraising, they’d be mistaken. With the proven success of A Distinguished Social Affair and his altruistic art show, Eric plans to grow both events in 2023, with the ambition of becoming the largest Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride supporter in Canada, and eventually in the world. From everything we’ve learned about Eric Hendrikx, we believe he won’t stop until well after this lofty goal is achieved.
To contribute to Eric’s fundraising campaign, his Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride fundraising page accepts donations year-round. | psychology |
https://www.newcitypress.com/i-believe-in-you.html | 2020-04-09T17:37:09 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2020-16/segments/1585371861991.79/warc/CC-MAIN-20200409154025-20200409184525-00520.warc.gz | 0.956817 | 762 | CC-MAIN-2020-16 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2020-16__0__111622859 | en | I believe in you
How to believe in yourself and the other? In what ways can you live out who you really are and relate to others beyond masks and projections? Find out in surprising ways! This book, grounded in simple and meaningful stories from a community with persons with disabilities, brings together psychological and spiritual insights for anyone who wants to live authentically.
From the Foreword by Jean Vanier
This is a precious little book. It reveals people who have intellectual disabilities, in a new way. Since about 40 years, people are beginning to discover that those with these disabilities are real people and should not be put into big institutions away from society.
It tells us, through the experiences of the author, that they can teach us to become more human, and so bring change to our society.
They can teach us about relationships, about spirituality, about fidelity and open hearts, kindness and compassion, all these virtues which are so frequently crushed in our society where people seek more about winning and power. I hope each reader can discover in a new way what it means to become really human.
Visit the book website: https://www.lucabadetti.com/
This unique book reminds us of who we are and shows us how working with and living among the marginalized aides in finding our true self. Highly recommended for public and church libraries.
A precious and much needed book... The relevant insights and inclusive stories in these pages can help us believe and grow in our humanity, healing our relationship with ourselves and our relationship with the others.
This beautiful book is about becoming who we are, with stories from the amazing community of L'Arche, one of the great Christian ministries of our age.
James Martin, SJ
Author of "Between Heaven and Mirth"
Badetti has written a wonderful book which explores the question of belief – how we believe in ourselves, in others and in God. The L’Arche community members with whom he lived were his inspiration and teachers, helping him to learn who we all are: God’s beloved. This book is a very profound human story of acceptance. Through stories, it shows us how to truly be present, listen and understand ourselves and the other. It challenges our view of those outside of our “comfort zone” and invites us to let down our barriers to celebrate what it is to be truly human.
The stance of tenderness—that loving respect made manifest in gentleness—can free us to be who we are," reads one of the many quotes in Luca Badetti’s book, "I Believe in You." Living in relationship in community with the so-called intellectually disabled, Luca tenderly unveils his own growth and evolving inner transformation inspired by stories from those very housemates! Luca, with depth and conviction, further invites you and I to tenderly search the stumbling complexities of our own inner lives, mostly in relationship to ourselves, but also to others, so as to free who we truly are. “I Believe in You,” engenders serious introspection, but also validates the exquisite gifts of those so often marginalized by those of us who fear the challenges of becoming more truly human.
About the Author
Luca Badetti is a doctor in Disability Studies, with background in Clinical Psychology and Theology. He has been involved with L'Arche communities internationally over the years, including L'Arche Chicago as its Director of Community Life. He teaches at Loyola University Chicago's Institute of Pastoral Studies and at DePaul University's Peace,Justice and Conflict Studies program. His work promotes personal wholeness and social transformation through the encounter with disability.
|Publication Date||Nov 14, 2018| | psychology |
http://farsij.iausdj.ac.ir/article_538628.html | 2021-10-21T04:34:00 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-43/segments/1634323585381.88/warc/CC-MAIN-20211021040342-20211021070342-00706.warc.gz | 0.912001 | 421 | CC-MAIN-2021-43 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-43__0__18160566 | en | نوع مقاله : علمی-پژوهشی
عضو هیأت علمی گروه زبان انگلیسی دانشگاه آزاد اسلامی واحد سنندج
Interpretation of lexicons in ForoughFarrokhzad's poetry reflects
poet's personal experiences and worldview. Psychoanalysis criticism is maybe the best way to study dominant sensual traits and emotions of the poet and his contemporaries. Also, it can help the critic to study individual and collective unconsciousness of contemporary generation of poet's time. Jacques Marie ÉmileLacan, French psychoanalyst and psychiatrist whose interdisciplinary work influenced by Hegel's dialectic and Ferdinand de Saussure linguistics, was as a self-proclaimed Freudian. His ideas went beyond the boundaries of psychoanalysis in a way that turn it to an interdisciplinary discipline mixed with other sciences. Lacan's first official contribution to psychoanalysis was the mirror stage which was later followed and at the same time developed based on three orders including the imaginary, the symbolic and the real. This paper aims at studying ForughFarrokhzad's famous poem "Let Us Believe in the Beginning of the Cold Season " through the lens of Lacan's ideas regarding the unconscious, which is structured like a Language, as well as psychological development of the subject. The paper tries to study the subjectivity based on the language, thought and lexicons disclosing unconscious mind of the subject of the poem. Employing Lacan's ideas including three orders, Other/other, trauma of the real and Lack, the paper reads lexicons, images, language and the unconscious mind of the subject and poet in her famous poem from a work with the same name: "Let Us Believe in the Beginning of the Cold Season." | psychology |
https://www.maggiesmysteries.com/insomnia | 2023-09-30T15:02:48 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-40/segments/1695233510697.51/warc/CC-MAIN-20230930145921-20230930175921-00061.warc.gz | 0.903668 | 309 | CC-MAIN-2023-40 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-40__0__12170787 | en | Take a Book to Bed!
The National Sleep Foundation recommends turning off the digital devices and settling down with a good book.
According to the National Sleep Foundation, “Using electronic devices before bedtime can be physiologically and psychologically stimulating in ways that can adversely affect your sleep.”
“Using TVs, tablets, smartphones, laptops, or other electronic devices before bed delays your body’s internal clock (a.k.a., your circadian rhythm), suppresses the release of the sleep-inducing hormone melatonin, and makes it more difficult to fall asleep. Using these devices before turning in delays the onset of REM sleep, reduces the total amount of REM sleep, and compromises alertness the next morning.”
“One good substitution is reading. Reading an old-fashioned, printed book under lamplight (as opposed to bright overhead lighting) is a great choice.”
Sleep Hygiene: Tips to help you sleep better
Be consistent. Go to bed at the same time each night and get up at the same time each morning, including on the weekends
Make sure your bedroom is quiet, dark, relaxing, and at a comfortable temperature
Remove electronic devices, such as TVs, computers, and smart phones, from the bedroom
Avoid large meals, caffeine, and alcohol before bedtime
Get some exercise. Being physically active during the day can help you fall asleep more easily at night. | psychology |
http://grahamgoddard.com/m9.html | 2018-12-15T00:32:08 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-51/segments/1544376826530.72/warc/CC-MAIN-20181214232243-20181215014243-00077.warc.gz | 0.926037 | 110 | CC-MAIN-2018-51 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-51__0__89157341 | en | The Power of Creativity
Graham Goddard explores creative expression around the world.
"Our lives move in different directions. We come from different places. We all have different stories. Regardless of where our lives take us, we always find a way to celebrate. Creativity is about energy. It's a refection of who we are. It speaks for us. It can light us up. It can help us let go. And no matter what inspires it: joy, heartbreak, fear, love... creativity is a celebration of being alive." | psychology |
https://ferryboatfilms.com/2014/06/11/wild-dream-walks/ | 2018-11-20T06:01:21 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-47/segments/1542039746227.72/warc/CC-MAIN-20181120035814-20181120061814-00517.warc.gz | 0.919354 | 169 | CC-MAIN-2018-47 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-47__0__217555793 | en | Wild Dream Walks is a company designed to help discover, help put into action, and live out one’s wildest dreams.
This is what they do:
– From divorcees, to corporate lawyers, to creative teenagers, we gather as strangers to form a small temporary tribe. Then, we briefly walk in silence as a means to activate our body and mind around our own particular dream. Lastly, we share out our dreams, and in so doing, our individual dream gets to play and be heard by the rest of the group. Dream Walkers get to wonder, practice stating their dream out loud, and connect with an open-hearted community with no other agenda than to walk and share. It is a powerful, life-changing experience. Join a Wild Dream Walk today.
Where Your Wildest Dreams Take Foot™ | psychology |
http://toddharrisfamily.blogspot.com/2009/10/lucky-mom.html | 2018-07-22T18:20:46 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-30/segments/1531676593438.33/warc/CC-MAIN-20180722174538-20180722194538-00184.warc.gz | 0.991985 | 384 | CC-MAIN-2018-30 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-30__0__72370432 | en | Chase is the easiest baby to get to bed. Give him his "geta" (his blanket), a kiss goodnight, and he grabs his right hand thumb and we see him in the morning. But tonight he was having trouble going down so I went in and kept the room dark as I sat and rocked my 20 month old "baby," to sleep. The dishes were sitting on the counter below me, the laundry was scattered in piles across my bathroom floor, blogs were outdated, and emails needed replying to but none of those distractions seemed to be calling my name. As I sat there holding him I was reminded how soon this time passes and how I wish there was such thing as a virtual recorder so we could one day go back and experience moments like this. It freaks me out thinking about when my boys are older and too old to sit on my lap, to want to give me hugs and kisses, to not remember what I was like when they were young, for me to forget how few freckles they once had, how innocent and pure their little giggles once were, how easy it was to make them smile, how forgiving they were of my imperfections as a mother. These little people are not little for long and as much as I want them to reach that stage when they're more able, more relatable, more appreciative, I wish they could stay this way forever and I could remember how easy it is to love. I want them to be able to read this one day and know that I did appreciate this time in my life. As hard as some days, some weeks, some months, and some years have been, to have 15 minutes to rock my sweet baby to sleep tonight, to feel him nuzzle into that special shoulder spot and feel completely safe and loved in my arms is enough for me to keep doing this Mom thing. How lucky I am. | psychology |
http://lifespan.ucr.edu/researchers/ | 2018-01-17T10:35:07 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-05/segments/1516084886895.18/warc/CC-MAIN-20180117102533-20180117122533-00222.warc.gz | 0.939445 | 561 | CC-MAIN-2018-05 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-05__0__169556148 | en | Ilana Bennett, Ph.D.
Most of us are familiar with the notion that our memory gets worse as we get older. But, in fact, not all forms of memory decline with age. And it’s not just about aging. Across the lifespan, there are some adults who have worse memory than their peers. My research focuses on cortical disconnection as a mechanism to explain these individual- and age-related differences in memory. According to this model, degradation of white matter is thought to account for cognitive declines associated with aging. White matter is a critical, yet relatively understudied, part of our brain. It provides the structural framework by which gray matter regions communicate and coordinate their processing. In my lab, we use a combination of diffusion tensor imaging (DTI) and functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to characterize the effect of aging on white matter and to determine whether white matter aging accounts for age-related differences in learning and memory performance.
Aaron Seitz, Ph.D.
A central issue in neuroscience is how the brain selectively adapts to important environmental changes. While the brain needs to adapt to new environments, its architecture has to be protected from modification due to continual bombardment of undesirable information. Clarifying how the brain solves this so-called stability-plasticity dilemma in its sensory areas is the primary goal of my research.
Chandra Reynolds, Ph.D.
My primary research focuses on how and why individuals differ from one another in health and cognition across development. Multiple projects in my lab address the following general questions, with attention to longitudinal models and methods. The two main questions we focus on are:
- Why do some individuals show rapid decline in cognitive functioning with age while others remain stable or decline relatively less?
- What early life and life-course factors are important to cognitive maintenance, health and longevity?
Rachel Wu, Ph.D.
My research investigates how we learn from infancy to older adulthood. Our goal is to better understand cognitive development and cognitive aging and to use cognitive development strategies to help people maximize their potential for learning new skills at any age. We use neural (EEG) and behavioral (eye-tracking, accuracy/reaction time) responses to investigate how infants and adults differ in their approaches to finding and learning about relevant information. Our research program has two components: 1) measuring adults’ use of previously acquired knowledge and tracking the development of this ability from infancy, and 2) applying infant and child learning strategies to mitigate cognitive decline during aging. Using infant learning to inform adult learning and vice versa has the greatest promise to lead to discoveries about optimal learning strategies that can be applied throughout the lifespan.
- CALLA Phase 1: Investigating how broad learning is related to cognitive abilities | psychology |
http://sandiegopainmanagementcenter.org/symptoms/nervousness-anxiety/ | 2020-07-15T04:13:54 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2020-29/segments/1593657155816.86/warc/CC-MAIN-20200715035109-20200715065109-00386.warc.gz | 0.955377 | 619 | CC-MAIN-2020-29 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2020-29__0__38467745 | en | Nervousness and Anxiety
Nervousness and anxiety are often interchangeable as they both display the same sort of symptoms. Most everyone will experience some nervousness or anxiety in their life. It could be due to a public speaking event or trying something new. This is considered normal if the person no longer feels anxiety or nervousness afterwards. However for those who experience nervousness or anxiety on a daily basis may need medical treatment to help alleviate these feelings. Those who have an ongoing medical issue with nervousness and anxiety will note that there is not a specific daily event or idea that sets off these feelings. Instead, anxiety and nervousness becomes their new normal feeling in their day-to-day life.
Symptoms of nervousness and anxiety are broad. They can manifest both mentally and physically. Mentally one may feel a sense of dread, fear, trouble concentrating, worries of dying, irritability, nightmares and depression. Physically one may have trouble with sleep, nausea, headaches, sweating, tense muscles, chest pains, stomach aches, blood pressure and heart rate. Some may even experience panic attacks in which the person feels that they are going to die or lose consciousness.
Many patients suffering from anxiety and nervousness have been treated with over-the-counter medication and therapy. Many doctors are now seeing the bad side effects of these treatments. Many are highly addictive and even worse, some do not make the patient’s condition better. Instead the patient continues to experience anxiety which will over time break down the body. Instead of getting better, patients are becoming worse and needing to take even more medication. This can lead to a quick downward spiral.
Recent studies have shown that supervised medical marijuana treatment is promising in helping those who suffer anxiety or nervousness. Marijuana has been shown to elevate moods and positive outlook among patients. This leads to patients becoming more involved in their recovery and becoming more engaged with life. Together with a therapy program, the patient can feel relief from anxiety and nervousness. Marijuana is a natural plant with little side effects, it is not toxic to the body and is not addictive.
Anxiety disorder is a blanket term covering several different forms of a type of common psychiatric disorder characterized by excessive rumination, worrying, uneasiness, apprehension and fear about future uncertainties either based on real or imagined events, which may affect both physical and psychological health. There are numerous psychiatric and medical syndromes which may mimic the symptoms of an anxiety disorder such as hyperthyroidism which is frequently misdiagnosed as generalized anxiety disorder.
True anxiety disorders seem to have a variety of psychosocial causes; and may involve a genetic predisposition. Individuals diagnosed with an anxiety disorder may be classified in one of two categories; based on whether they experience continuous or episodic symptoms.
Current psychiatric diagnostic criteria recognize a wide variety of anxiety disorders. Recent surveys have found that as many as 18% of Americans and 14% of Europeans may be affected by one or more of them.
-Click to Read More about Nervousness and Anxiety | psychology |
http://richmond.craigslist.org/hea/4155927171.html | 2013-12-09T00:22:33 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2013-48/segments/1386163837349/warc/CC-MAIN-20131204133037-00081-ip-10-33-133-15.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.900583 | 160 | CC-MAIN-2013-48 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2013-48__0__63240045 | en | Licensed Mental Health Clinician or Licensed Eligible (Richmond, VA)
Position Qualifications: A minimum of a Master's degree in social work from an accredited college or university, or human services field related to social work, such as sociology, psychology, education or counseling, and two (2) years experience providing clinical services to youth and adolescents. Must be licensed-eligible or a licensed mental health professional. Position requires successful completion of criminal history by the BIU of DBHDS and central registry background investigations by DSS. Must successfully pass a tuberculosis screening and maintain a valid driver's license. Must also successfully complete training in behavior management, CPR, first aid, and human rights. Must be available at the minimum 16 hours per week.
Posting ID: 4155927171 | psychology |
https://makebeereasy.com/why-does-beer-make-me-sleepy/ | 2022-12-06T01:31:53 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-49/segments/1669446711064.71/warc/CC-MAIN-20221205232822-20221206022822-00493.warc.gz | 0.967372 | 1,819 | CC-MAIN-2022-49 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-49__0__167181323 | en | Everyone knows that beer can make you sleepy, but why does it have this effect on us, and is there anything you can do to avoid feeling tired after having a few beers? In this post, we’ll take a look at the reasons why beer makes you sleepy and provide you with some tips for avoiding feeling tired…
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Why Does Beer Make Me Sleepy?
There are a few different reasons why beer makes you sleepy…
It’s a depressant – First, alcohol is a central nervous system depressant, which simply means it slows down your brain function. This can lead to feelings of drowsiness & fatigue, alcohol also inhibits REM sleep, which is the stage of sleep where you get the most rest. As a result, you may find that you wake up more during the night after drinking beer than you would if you hadn’t had any.
Lowers blood sugar – Another reason beer might make you sleepy is because of its effect on your blood sugar levels. When you drink alcohol, your liver focuses on processing the alcohol before anything else. This can lead to low blood sugar levels, which can create feelings of being tired.
Hops have a sedating effect – If you’re a fan of IPAs, you might notice that they tend to make you more tired than other types of beer. This is because IPAs are brewed with lots of hops, which contain a sedative compound called myrcene. Myrcene acts similarly to alcohol in that it boosts GABA activity and then depresses glutamate activity. So if you want a beer that will knock you out quickly, an IPA is a good choice.
Dehydration – Lastly, dehydration can also play a role in why you feel sleepy after having a beer. The alcohol in beer is a diuretic, which means it causes your body to lose more fluids than it takes in. Which of course can lead to dehydration, which in turn can cause fatigue and sleepiness.
Why Does Beer Also Keep You Awake?
A funny thing about beer is that instead of putting you to sleep from time to time it can also have the opposite effect and keep you wide awake. It turns out, beer has a biphasic effect on sleep, which means it can help you fall asleep, but it can also prevent you from staying asleep.
There are two main reasons why beer before bed might keep you up at night…
The first reason is beer contains hops, which yes as we just covered hops do have a sedating effect, however, they also contain compounds that can inhibit sleep.
The main compound in hops that can keep you awake is called bitter acid. Bitter acid has been shown to interfere with GABA, which is a neurotransmitter that helps regulate sleep.
The second reason why beer before bed might keep you up at night is that alcohol prevents your body from entering a deep sleep. Deep sleep is the most restful and arguably the most important stage of sleep, as it’s when your body repairs itself. Without deep sleep, your body can’t function as it should, and as a result, you will feel tired and sluggish the next day.
How Much Beer Does it Take to Affect Sleep?
The amount of beer that you would need to drink in order to see an effect on your sleep would depend on a few factors, including your weight, body composition, and metabolism. Overall, it is safe to say that most people need to drink at least 3-4 beers in order to start seeing any negative effects on their sleep.
It is when you drink more than 4 beers, that you will likely begin to feel tired and may have trouble staying awake. You might also find it more difficult to fall asleep when you go to bed. As your blood alcohol level starts to rise, your body becomes more relaxed and you will start to feel sleepy. This can lead to a disruptive sleep throughout the night as well as an increased chance of waking up. Alcohol consumption has also been shown to reduce the amount of deep sleep that you get, which can leave you feeling tired the next day.
What About Using Beer as a Sleep Aid?
A good night’s sleep is important for overall health and well-being, and as most of us have experienced sometimes it can be hard to fall asleep. If you are struggling to get some shut-eye, you might have thought about having a beer to help. After all, having a couple of beers is a common way for many people to unwind at the end of the day. But does it really work and is it a good idea? Let’s take a look at the pros and cons of using beer as a sleep aid.
The Pros of Using Beer as a Sleep Aid
1. The alcohol in beer can help you fall asleep faster.
2. The alcohol can also make you feel more drowsy and relax your muscles.
3. Beer when consumed in moderation does have some health benefits.
The Cons of Using Beer as a Sleep Aid
1. Drinking too much beer can disrupt your sleep later in the night.
2. Alcohol is a diuretic, which means it will make you go to the bathroom more often during the night.
3. Drinking alcohol can lead to dehydration, which causes headaches and can make it difficult for you to concentrate the next day.
4. Alcohol abuse can lead to health problems, which include liver damage and some types of cancer.
5. Drinking alcohol can interact with different types of medications making them less effective.
6. If you have a history of alcohol abuse, you should completely avoid drinking alcohol.
7. Due to concerns over harming the fetus pregnant women should avoid drinking alcohol.
8. People who are struggling with addiction should avoid drinking alcohol as it may trigger a relapse.
9. If you have any medical conditions, you should speak with your doctor before drinking alcohol as it could make your condition worse.
There are both pros and cons to using beer as a sleep aid. If you do decide to drink beer before bed, do so in moderation and be aware of the potential risks involved and possibly think about speaking with your doctor first.
Tips for Avoiding Beer Fatigue
If you want to avoid feeling tired from drinking beer, there are a few things you can do…
First, drink beer in moderation. Drinking too much beer can obviously lead to feeling tired, so it’s important to not overdo it.
Second, eat food while drinking beer. Eating food will help to absorb some of the alcohol and will also help to sober you up some.
Third, drink lots of water. Being dehydrated can lead to feeling tired and water will help prevent it from happening.
Fourth, avoid sugary drinks as they can make you feel more tired.
Fifth, get lots of sleep. Getting a good night’s sleep is important for your overall health and well-being, and it will also help to prevent any hangovers or fatigue the next day.
Tips for Sleeping After Drinking Beer
1. Drink in moderation. This may seem like an obvious one, but it’s worth repeating. If you want to avoid waking up in the middle of the night drink beer in moderation. If you are planning on going to bed within a couple of hours have no more than 1-2 drinks beforehand.
2. Stay hydrated. Drinking beer can dehydrate you, so it is important that you drink lots of water throughout the day and evening. A good rule of thumb is to drink 1 glass of water for every beer you have.
3. Avoid caffeine. Caffeine is a stimulant and can keep you awake, so it’s best to avoid it altogether at night, especially if you are having a few beers.
4. Eat a light dinner. A heavy meal right before bed can make it difficult to fall asleep and stay asleep, so if you are hungry before bed try having a light snack instead of a big meal.
5. Get some fresh air before bedtime. Taking a short walk or spending some time outside can help you wind down before bed and it will make it easier to fall asleep when you finally hit the pillow.
6. Create a relaxing bedtime routine. If you have trouble falling asleep, establish a relaxing bedtime routine that includes winding down for 30 minutes before bedtime. Try reading or having a bath or shower.
By following these tips, you’ll be more likely to get a good night’s sleep even after enjoying a few beers!
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In 1993, Dr. Barkley founded The ADHD Report with Guilford Publications. This newsletter is designed for clinicians and educated parents to provide them with the latest scientific information on ADHD. The newsletter is published bimonthly and It includes articles on contemporary topics related to the diagnosis, assessment, nature, and management of ADHD in children and adults. The Editorial Board includes a number of scientific and clinical experts on ADHD who contribute articles periodically to the newsletter.
The ADHD Report examines the nature, diagnosis, and outcomes associated with the disorder, and provides a single reliable source for the latest developments in the fields of clinical management and education. In addition, each issue contains coverage of current journal articles that highlight important research in the field.
For more information about the newsletter, the contents of back issues, and how to subscribe, visit GuilfordJournals.com or email [email protected].
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https://www.adivin.fr/2022/02/19/successful-marriage-tips-steps-to-make-your-marriage-last/ | 2022-12-07T06:46:37 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-49/segments/1669446711150.61/warc/CC-MAIN-20221207053157-20221207083157-00562.warc.gz | 0.960475 | 334 | CC-MAIN-2022-49 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-49__0__237547686 | en | One of the most essential successful marital relationship tips is to be sure you listen to your spouse. This can take care of arguments quicker than you expect, and it will assist you to see the cracks inside your relationship. Its also wise to learn the spouse’s most loved things and what gets them angry. Learning your spouse’s preferences will help you understand how they feel and how you can let them feel better.
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A second successful marriage tip is to use additional time together. Dates give you the opportunity to get to know the other person better. It will also provide you with a chance to bond using your partner, enabling you to become more attentive. Put your mobile phone away and spend good time with your loved one. This will associated with evenings more enjoyable.
Another successful marital relationship tip might be honest along with your spouse. It may be troublesome at first to be honest with your loved one, but credibility will help you build trust over time. You and your spouse need to find out each other peoples flaws and pay attention to to forgive the other person. The key into a successful marriage is normally mutual trust. This does take time and effort, so don’t be ready to get married over night. | psychology |
https://taylorstreetclinic.com/have-you-been-screened-for-depression/ | 2023-09-25T17:29:16 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-40/segments/1695233509023.57/warc/CC-MAIN-20230925151539-20230925181539-00891.warc.gz | 0.938298 | 593 | CC-MAIN-2023-40 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-40__0__1330195 | en | 05 Oct Have you been screened for depression?
Thursday, October 7th, is National Depression Screening Day, a day to call attention to the illness of depression, provide education about symptoms and effective treatment, and to offer screening opportunities, resources, and services.
You might be wondering why it is important to screen for depression – let’s talk about a few reasons. Depression is a common yet serious medical condition that effects more than 1 in 5 adults in the United States. Left untreated, depression can be devastating for those who have it and their families. Depression is also one of the most common complications of chronic illness. Although depression can be a devastating illness, it can be treated.
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If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of depression, Taylor Street Primary Care providers and our social worker can screen for depression, and if needed, work with you to develop a treatment plan. While there is no “one size fits all” treatment for depression, treatment options may include counseling (therapy), medications, social support, and education.
A free, anonymous, Online Depression Screening Tool is available through the Mental Health America website. This online screening tool is for informational purposes only. You are encouraged to share your results with a physician or healthcare provider. Remember, screenings are used to identify the need for further testing to determine the presence of disease or illness.
It’s not too late to get the health screenings you need! When you get your recommended screenings, you are taking a very important step toward achieving a higher quality of life along with taking better control of your physical and mental health. Visit us at the Taylor Street Primary Care Clinic to discuss which screenings are right for you based on your circumstances, age, gender, and family health history.
For more information on mental health visit the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. NAMI provides useful resources for those living with a mental illness, caregivers, and mental health advocates.
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https://www.alexinthesun.com/what-to-focus-on-before-dating/ | 2018-02-21T22:34:29 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-09/segments/1518891813818.15/warc/CC-MAIN-20180221222354-20180222002354-00495.warc.gz | 0.948702 | 1,901 | CC-MAIN-2018-09 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-09__0__223561552 | en | Being single is hard. You feel lonely and you may still be hurting over your last relationship. During this time it’s not uncommon to want to quickly start dating again and jump right back into a relationship. Or, at the very least meet someone who will distract you from the pain.
You’ve probably started setting up online dating profiles on every site and locking eyes with every cute guy you walk past to increase your chances of getting with someone. The truth is this strategy is only temporary if you’re not truly ready.
Before you allow yourself to be vulnerable again you need to make sure you are healing well and pulled together. To do that there are some core things I want to challenge you to really hone in on.
Even if you’re not hurting, and you just want to be in a relationship this is still applicable.
If you focus on the things I’m going to talk about before you start dating again it will enable you to attract the love of your life and it’ll help you avoid making mistakes you made in previous relationships.
2 Important Things You Need to Focus on Before You Start Dating Again
1. Learn more about why your last 3 relationships failed – Do this to help you identify negative patterns
Figure out what attracted you to the guys in your past. Do you notice a pattern in the ending results?
I recommend creating a pros and cons list for each of the last three guys you dated. During this process look for patterns and similarities.
This is going to help you identify things you may be attracted to but don’t work for you. You need to know what those things are before you start dating again.
Before you start your lists I would actually recommend watching the video below. It’s going to set a light bulb off and you will realize things about yourself in regards to relationships that you never knew. Seriously, this video is life changing.
2. Refocus on your core values
Sometimes we find ourselves in relationships that go completely against what we believe in.
This usually happens because we gave in to an impulsive submission to pleasure or we settled because they were attractive and we didn’t want to be alone.
Once the infatuation stage fades we realize what is true. Our blinders are removed, logic kicks in, and then problems start to rise. It becomes clear that we’re unequally yoked and unhappy.
All because we didn’t control our impulses and we chose to set aside our values for a fantasy fairytale, lust/passion, or because they wanted us and we subconsciously didn’t believe we deserved more.
Before you start dating, and especially before you commit to a relationship, it’s important that you get a clear understanding of what you believe and what your core values are.
Understand that your value system is what you should allow to drive you, and what every decision you make should be filtered through – especially when it comes to your love life.
What defines your values? Why are they so important in regards to dating and relationships?
- Your faith – When I say faith I mean your belief or nonbelief in a higher power.
Earlier I mentioned being unequally yoked, that means you and the person you’re with have conflicting beliefs and mentalities around your faith and or lifestyle.
For example, my mom is a Christian and my dad isn’t. When they were married I remember my mom basically begging my dad to come to church with us at times. She would go every single Sunday and my dad would give in and go with us maybe once a year. That alone broke my mother’s heart and divided them.
When my parents met they weren’t grounded in their faith so they were attracted to each other for reasons that faded and reasons that weren’t connected to their value system.
This is why I stress the importance of the faith aspect of your value system so much.
- Your tribe – Who are the most important people in your life? Refocus on the people you desire the strongest connection with.
The thing that makes us feel the most alive, happy, and love is connecting with other people. We all want to be heard, accepted and understood.
Identify the people you relate most to and build stronger relationships with them before you decide to start dating again.
I think this value is one of the most underestimated ones in regards to importance. However, I think it is so important to know who your tribe is before you start dating and that you date men who fit into your tribe and you into theirs.
Not liking or getting along with the people your significant other cares about can become a big problem down the road and could also be the reason your relationship fails.
Although, having a tribe (friendships and family you’re close to) is not apart of everyone’s value system.
At the same time, you still need to keep it in mind because who we attract and who we connect with says a lot about who we are.
- Your lifestyle – Which includes: Health, occupation, hobbies, where you want to live, and your finances
The lifestyle value is typically where people have the most conflict. It’s so important to be living out the lifestyle you truly desire or at least be headed in the direction before dating.
You want to attract someone who is accepting of your ideal lifestyle and wants to join it with you.
How to refocus on your values
1. Faith: Join a community around your faith and incorporate something faith-oriented into your daily routine.
2. Your Tribe: Do something small and special for someone you care about monthly or however often you want.
You could also do something like hosting a dinner or brunch every other weekend and invite the special people in your life over to enjoy. I recommend scheduling this in advance and setting alarms for yourself so you won’t forget.
3. Lifestyle: Since I listed 5 aspects of the lifestyle value I’ve broken down each point below.
- Health – What are your body and diet goals? Are you thinking paleo or vegan? Is there something you want to take out of your diet? Do you want to work out daily?
Set some rules for yourself around your health values and commit to them. Set motivational reminders for yourself, get a workout buddy, and create a recipe book (or use Pinterest) to make your new diet fun and delicious.
Have this in place before you start dating to ensure you are looking and feeling healthy and so that you attract someone who wants to share a healthy lifestyle with you.
- Occupation – Are you happy with your current job? Have you discovered your purpose? Check out my post on How to Discover Your Life’s Purpose for some helpful advice on this.
Your occupation determines what type of lifestyle you’ll be able to afford and how happy you are. If you’re unhappy with what you’re doing for work now is the time to explore your options and start doing what you love.
- Hobbies – Sometimes a hobby we love is deeply a part of who we are.
Our hobbies allow us to express ourselves in a unique way that is satisfying and exhilarating – they give us some of our confidence.
This is why I’ve put it in the value category. To refocus on your hobbies start doing them again. Even if it’s just once a month.
It’s really important to spend time expressing yourself and putting energy into things that bring you joy.
- Where you want to live – For some of us this may not be a value but for many it is. Sometimes where you want to live can break a relationship if both people aren’t on the same page.
So figure out where you want to settle down and if it’s something you’re willing to budge on.
- Finances – Set values around your finances and create a concrete budget for yourself if you haven’t already. Do you want to invest in real estate, cryptocurrency, or the stock market? Get yourself together financially and stick to it.
Refocusing on your values is going to prepare you for the person you’re supposed to be with and you’ll be able to date with more confidence and discernment.
I know some people may not think all of this is necessary but I can assure you it is. If you’re looking for something long-term and fulfilling focusing on what I’ve talked about in this article is going to help you attract the right man for you and it’s going to save you a lot of time and heartache.
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http://yogaandtaxes.blogspot.com/2013/09/on-caffeine.html | 2018-07-18T12:13:57 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-30/segments/1531676590169.5/warc/CC-MAIN-20180718115544-20180718135544-00470.warc.gz | 0.968795 | 585 | CC-MAIN-2018-30 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-30__0__138867189 | en | A double espresso every morning. I've been on the hard stuff for years. In my line of work, attention to detail is a requirement. I can't afford to make mistakes. I have to be alert, awake and on task. I have to drink coffee, right?
Wrong. All I needed was sleep. The right amount, when I needed it, and of high quality.
I thought I was getting it; I wasn't.
I'd noticed the more yoga I did, the more meditation I practiced, the more agitated caffeine made me. It completely reversed my calm and harshed my mellow. Not cool, man. So, I cut back from two shots each morning and two shots each afternoon, to one shot each morning. I experienced none of the terrible side effects normally felt with quitting cold turkey, and it took a few days to notice any positive changes.
The more yoga and meditation I practiced, the less caffeine I wanted.
My sleep quality noticeably improved, and suddenly I was awake and alert without all of those extra mg. of caffeine. I suddenly had more control of my moods and thought processes, instead of the caffeine telling me how I felt.
You see yoga does thing to you- It slows your mind and body down. In my little Type- A world of success this is a terrible thing. I have client meetings, tax returns to file, emails to send and an MBA to study for. I'm busy, dammit!
Until slow isn't terrible anymore. Slow is the state to achieve.
Slowing down has actually made me smarter, in a happier and less agitated way. I see more, notice more, and can do more. All in a calm, much happier way. I swear slowing down has made me smarter. When you are calm and smart, you see things you hadn't taken the time to notice before. My clients don't irritate me like they used to. I just notice things and watch them float by without reaction.
Sure I still get mad and I still get upset. But much, much less.
Maybe one day I will quit my one shot of espresso in the morning. But I don't feel the need to just yet. I still love its creamy, bold flavor. I love the ritual of sitting down each morning with a steaming cup, allowing my mind to wake up slowly.
I order decaf if I am at Starbucks for an afternoon meeting (which I may need to stop doing because I swear I can feel it). If I am tired and feel the need for a pick- me- up, I take a nap, or I tough it out and slow down.
Slower is better, and in this crazy fast world we live in, that is a strange lesson to learn. Slow doesn't mean stupid. And multitasking isn't a good thing. | psychology |
https://www.makingmontessori.com/blog/2018/12/20/sensitiveperiods | 2019-09-22T22:41:01 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-39/segments/1568514575751.84/warc/CC-MAIN-20190922221623-20190923003623-00189.warc.gz | 0.949323 | 1,750 | CC-MAIN-2019-39 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-39__0__70419842 | en | Have you ever noticed your child repeats an activity over and over and over and OVER! This repetition is actually a crucial part of their development. Maria Montessori observed that children pass through stages of their development where they are more sensitive to learning a new skill. This is called a sensitive period. Sensitive periods are often associated with intensive interest for repeating activities over and over, until a new skill is mastered. The 6 major sensitive periods are: Sensitivity to Order, Sensitivity to Language, Sensitivity to Movement, Sensitivity to Social Aspects, Sensitivity to Small Objects, Sensitivity to Learning Through the Senses.
1. Sensitivity to Order
The Sensitive period for order goes from birth to 5 years old. Order peaks around 18months-2years old, which is why you might notice your child placing every toy they own into rows at these ages! This sensitive period is characterized by a strong desire for consistency and repetition. During this time you may experience the "terrible twos" when your child overreacts to small changes in their routine or in the order of their environment. You will notice your child wants to do the same activity, read the same book, do same behavior over and over, and this is totally normal!
Things to remember:
- Tantrums happen and are ok! Set you child up for success by limiting huge changes in their routine (especially around SLEEP!) and giving them lots of choices to provide them the control they need, while still maintaining your needs/desires.
- Provide as much order you can in their environment. A place for everything so they know where to find it!
- When you make a change, involve them in the process
- Practice empathy about this strong need for order. Even though its not as important to us adults, it's our children's whole world!
Activities to build order:
-Involve children to tidying their environment, that way they have control and know where things go and belong. children as young as 18months can help with this process!
- Have an established daily routine to help balance transitions, especially for bed time!
2. Sensitivity to Language
The sensitive period for language is from Birth to age 6! Sensitivity to language involves: spoken language, written language, and reading!
The sensitive period for spoken language is 7 months to 3 years. It's marked by the child making babbling sounds and progresses through forming words and sentences. Babies mimic mouth movements, so make sure you are talking a lot around and to your child! Make it a habit to narrate everything you or your baby/toddler is doing.
The sensitive period for written language is from 3.5 years to 4.5 years. This may seem surprising to most of you, but it's a real thing! In Montessori we teach children how to "write" or spell words using small wooden letters called the moveable alphabet. Magnetic letters are the best way to introduce this in your home! Take turns spelling words and remember, it's ok if your child writes phonetically! Begin with spelling simple 3 letter phonetic words called CVC (Consonant-Vowel- Consonant. Words like cat, pig, mom, dad, ETC…
Reading takes off from writing. Children are intensely learning how to read from 4.5-5.5. From birth make it a point to read aloud to your child everyday! follow along under the words with you finger so your child can recognize that you are reading words off the pages, which also help develop visual tracking skills! If your child is very interested try echo reading. This is where you say “The mom went…” and your child repeats. Your child can start to hear common words, hear tone of reading and even understand sentence structure.
3. Sensitivity to Movement
The sensitive period for movement is from Birth to 4. Sensitivity to movement involves acquiring gross (using body and legs) and fine motor (using hands) skills, along with the refinement of those movement skills.
0-2.5 yrs - gross motor: holding head up, tummy time, rolling, pull knees up, crawling, using hands to pull up, standing, walking. Fine motor: grasping, reaching, holding objects.
Remember at this stage walking is for walking sake, not to get from point A to point B! They are practicing a skills and will do it over and over and over!
Give opportunity for child to move freely, even if that means placing delicate items up high for a time and making lots of room for rolling, crawling or walking. Explore the outdoors, feel the grass and play (sometimes eat) sand or dirt! Go on long walks!
2.5-4 yrs - Now children take the skills they have learned and coordinate them. Once your child can walk, let him walk, jump, run and climb by himself. Refinement of these skills comes from applying the movement. Try walking at your child’s pace rather than taking their hand and walking at an adult pace, this is so they won’t get tired and want to be held. Take deep breaths and allow yourself ample time to get somewhere!
4. Sensitivity to Social Aspects
The sensitive period for social aspects is 2.5-5 years old.
During this time children begin to notice they are apart of a group. They start interacting with peers in cooperative ways, rather than simply engaging in parallel play. Children also begin to pattern their social behavior after adults. Because of this, this stage is the perfect time to introduce social manners, social graces and courtesies, and rules! Children during this stage crave acceptance from parents, friends, family, etc.
Give your child ample opportunity to play with groups of children. This is a great time to find a preschool for your child to attend. There are schools with morning, afternoon or part time sessions, as well as full time options. You can also join a homeschool group to provide opportunity to refine social skills.
5. Sensitivity to Small Objects
Montessori guides love miniature things, mostly because the little people we follow are in the sensitive period for them!
The sensitive period for small objects is from 1 year to 4 years old. This interest will lead to fine motor skills and the refinement of the pincer grasp (3 finger grasp), which build the foundation for writing and other skills
Children's heightened interest in the these objects can be a bit confusing and seem mundane to adults, however children in this period are intensely aware of the details and unique attributes of the world around them.
Around 12 months your child might all of the sudden be able to find the tiniest (and often most dangerous) objects around your house and immediate place them in their mouth. Exploring by taste is apart of this sensitive period, but it is ok to make sure your child is safe from a choking hazard in a calm manner.
For children 2.5 to 4 years old, small objects provide a way to teach and learn language skills and other new concepts!
6. Sensitivity to Learning Through the Senses
The sensitive period for learning through the senses is from birth to 6 years old. This sensitive period focuses on refining the senses - sight, taste, sounds, touch, and smell. It is marked by your child’s intense interest with sensorial experiences.
During the first phase of sensory development children 0-3 are focused on tiny details of the environment around them. Your child is taking in information through the senses in a more unconscious way at this time. Make sure your child is close by and involved in everything going on around her. Give plenty of freedom to move around to explore environment.
The second phase, 3-6 years old, is for sensorial exploration and classification. (Put information about creating synapsis in the brain and Maria Montessori-learning through your hands here) Your child is more active and conscious in taking information in through their senses. Make sure to provide lots of sensory filled experiences so children can explore and observe their environment through the senses. Spend ample time in nature, explore different textures, and play “I spy”.
This lovely brown stair shown above is a classic Montessori material that teaches the variable of thickness through the sense of touch and sight. My husband built this brown stair for sweet E and she loves building with it! Her favorite loves to roll a marble down it to hear the different tones each stair makes. | psychology |
https://lifetallycoaching.com/ | 2021-07-25T00:20:06 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-31/segments/1627046151531.67/warc/CC-MAIN-20210724223025-20210725013025-00388.warc.gz | 0.959027 | 1,181 | CC-MAIN-2021-31 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-31__0__244053029 | en | Enjoy a pause and find out more about Life Tally Coaching
I am a full-time teacher and part-time coach passionate about lifelong learning and committed to ongoing personal development. As a professionally qualified Personal, Leadership & Executive Coach my coaching style can easily be tailored to your individual needs.
I am highly qualified in the fields in which I work professionally:
- Advanced Diploma in Personal, Leadership & Executive Coaching (Kingstown College)
- Diploma in Corporate Wellbeing (Kingstown College)
- Advanced Diploma in Mental Health and Wellbeing Coaching (Kingstown College)
- Bachelor of Religious Science with English (Mater Dei Institute of Education)
- Master of Education (The Open University)
- Bachelor of Arts in French (University of London)
I am a member of both the ICF (International Coach Federation) and the EMCC (European Mentoring, Coaching Council) and practise according to their professional Codes of Ethics.
The Life Tally Approach
Life Tally Coaching recognises the pressures that come with living life to the full, and that many people are overwhelmed simply as a result of constantly doing more.
Our approach invites you to narrow your focus to examine what is actually happening in your life. Essentially, it is an opportunity to take stock, and perhaps unsubscribe from what is no longer serving you.
What Makes Us different
What’s different about Life Tally Coaching is that where you currently are is the starting point. This is not a pre-packaged solution to a problem I don’t even know yet. The first step is identifying what, if anything, you need to adjust.
Tally is in many ways the inspiration behind Life Tally Coaching. Her attitude to life contrasts very positively with that of so many humans. Tally’s life is much smaller and simpler than that of a human, and she thrives in a way many humans do not.
As humans, we can learn a lot from animals and Tally provides us with daily evidence of that. In today’s world where there are so many pressures to fill life to the full, Life Tally Coaching offers an opportunity to opt-out of any excess in order to more fully enjoy what remains.
- Life Tally Workshop
- One-to-one coaching sessions
- Life Tally Workplace Workshop
* Please contact us to register your interest, and we will be in touch with further information and details of upcoming availability.
Life Tally Workshop
A Life Tally Workshop is for you if:
- you would embrace a pause in order to look more closely at your life
- you know you want to make changes, yet do not know where to start
- you frequently resolve to change, without actually implementing it
A Life Tally Workshop is a time-efficient approach to putting your own life under the microscope. You’ll gain clarity and identify ways to generate time and energy. During the workshop you will increase your awareness of what is actually happening in your life, and leave the session having identified and committed to 2-3 concrete changes. Workshops take place via the Zoom platform so you can participate in the comfort of your own home. You will be guided through a series of exercises, and since it is a very personal experience no interaction or sharing is required. (In contrast to coaching, the workshop consists only of one-way communication.)
One-to-One Life Tally Coaching Sessions
A one-to-one Life Tally Coaching session is for you if:
- living life to the full has become overwhelming
- you need to review the roles and responsibilities you have taken on
- you want to adjust your schedule to create additional time
- you are ready for change and prepared to work to bring it about
- you would benefit from some accountability to keep you focused and motivated on your action plan
Sessions can take place face-to-face, by video call or voice call.
We will discuss a coaching contract prior to your first session, which we will both sign, having agreed upon our individual responsibilities in the coaching relationship.
It is important that clients schedule their sessions for when they feel they would most benefit, so I am open to whatever works best, subject to my own availability. Early booking is advised, especially if you have a strong preference for a specific slot.
Life Tally Workplace Workshop
A Life Tally Workplace Workshop is for you and your colleagues if:
- staff wellbeing is a priority at your workplace
- you are prepared to offer your staff a pause to evaluate where they are in their lives
- you are open to hearing what, if anything, could change to improve staff wellbeing at your workplace
Life Tally Workplace Workshops take place at the end of the working week so that staff have the weekend to reflect on the experience. Comments and observations volunteered by staff during the workshop will be compiled into an information sheet for the whole group.
Curious to know more?
Book a no-strings-attached initial consultation.
During a free 30-minute session, we will look at the different aspects of your life as identified by you. You’ll give each one a tally or a total, and classify them according to where the shifts and changes most need to occur for you to enjoy a more enhanced life.
Is this really a no-strings-attached session?
Yes, this session is absolutely free and no additional purchase is required. After working out your own individual Life Tally, you may decide that you are entirely at peace with what is happening in your life, and feel no need to make any changes. Alternatively, you might like to proceed with coaching sessions. | psychology |
https://icwww.epfl.ch/~gerstner/SPNM/node70.html | 2020-04-07T15:34:23 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2020-16/segments/1585371803248.90/warc/CC-MAIN-20200407152449-20200407182949-00452.warc.gz | 0.933769 | 359 | CC-MAIN-2020-16 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2020-16__0__103279606 | en | In the neuron models discussed so far each synapse is characterized by a single constant parameter wij that determines the amplitude of the postsynaptic response to an incoming action potential. Electrophysiological experiments, however, show that the response amplitude is not fixed but can change over time. Appropriate stimulation paradigms can systematically induce changes of the postsynaptic response that last for hours or days. If the stimulation paradigm leads to a persistent increase of the synaptic transmission efficacy, the effect is called long-term potentiation of synapses, or LTP for short. If the result is a decrease of the synaptic efficacy, it is called long-term depression (LTD). These persistent changes are thought to be the neuronal correlate of `learning' and `memory'.
In the formal theory of neural networks the weight wij of a connection from neuron j to i is considered as a parameter that can be adjusted so as to optimize the performance of a network for a given task. The process of parameter adaptation is called learning and the procedure for adjusting the weights is referred to as a learning rule. Here learning is meant in its widest sense. It may refer to synaptic changes during development just as well as to the specific changes necessary to memorize a visual pattern or to learn a motor task. There are many different learning rules that we cannot all cover in this book. In this chapter we consider the simplest set of rules, viz., synaptic changes that are driven by correlated activity of pre- and postsynaptic neurons. This class of learning rule can be motivated by Hebb's principle and is therefore often called `Hebbian learning'.
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http://www.enaturalawakenings.com/FAIR/February-2018/Manage-the-Mind-During-Chronic-Illness/ | 2019-10-23T13:35:48 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-43/segments/1570987833766.94/warc/CC-MAIN-20191023122219-20191023145719-00407.warc.gz | 0.944002 | 1,121 | CC-MAIN-2019-43 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-43__0__143697112 | en | Manage the Mind During Chronic Illness
Nearly half of all adults in the U.S. experience—a staggering 112 million—suffer from chronic illness, according to a 2012 survey. All illness is worsened by stress, and having a chronic illness is inherently stressful. On top of being physically sick, the process of undergoing medical tests, shuttling to appointments, and completing insurance paperwork can all take a toll.
Then there are the stresses that arise in your own mind. You may catastrophize about the worst-case scenario. You may fear for your family’s future. You may wonder why this is happening to you at all. Your mind can truly be your own worst enemy. How, then, can you manage your mind to better serve you in managing your illness?
The following techniques, implemented regularly, can help to still the mind and create a space for better mental and physical health.
Release the ‘Should’
In his book, The Myth of Stress, Andrew Bernstein teaches the reader his ActivInsight process for releasing stressful thoughts. All stress, he contends, stems from thinking that things should be different than they are.
Your “should” thoughts may include, “I shouldn’t feel so tired,” “This shouldn’t be happening to me,” or “Everyday activities shouldn’t be this hard.”
Bernstein teaches the reader to take the opposite statement – for example, “I should feel so tired,” and then come up with examples that prove it to be true. Proofs might include: “Actually, I should feel tired, because I am sick.” “I should feel tired, because this morning I cleaned the kitchen and went for a walk.” “I should feel tired, because I didn’t sleep well last night.” “I should feel tired, because I do.”
When you let go of your resistance—when you accept that it doesn’t matter whether you should feel tired because you simply do feel tired—you release a tremendous amount of energy. That energy can be put instead toward taking good care of yourself.
Treat Yourself like a Small Child
Chronic illness may trigger shame. Self-blaming thoughts like “You can barely walk up a flight of steps? What’s wrong with you?” or, “Maybe this is all in your head after all” can cause intense emotional pain, which is definitely not conducive to the rest you require.
The next time you find yourself thinking self-blaming thoughts, try imagining yourself as a small child. Cuddle the child the way a parent would.
Talk to yourself as you would talk to that child if he or she were sick or frightened: “Oh, honey, I know this is hard. You are being so brave. It’s okay. I’m here.”
Learning to care for yourself with kindness will allow you to manage your illness with less suffering.
During a good day, or a good week, it’s easy to lose sight of your physical limitations. You might begin to think, “Maybe this is all over! Maybe I’ve finally got this under control!” This is setting yourself up for failure.
When you have a good day, try thinking: “I am so grateful that I’m having a good day.” Don’t expect necessarily to have a good day tomorrow. Instead, appreciate the good day today.
Count Your Blessings
Most research conducted to date associates gratitude with an enhanced sense of personal well-being.
During an especially difficult experience—a negative test result, a doctor’s visit that brings bad news, a particularly tough storm of symptoms—consciously choose to make a list of everything for which you’re grateful. Family, friends, a comfortable home, access to healthy food and quality medical care, the strength to go for a walk, your Netflix subscription—appreciate the many blessings you do enjoy, even when good health is not among them.
Dr. Martha Beck, a renowned social scientist and life coach, describes the concept of Wordlessness in her book Finding Your Way in a Wild New World. She defines Wordlessness as, “shift[ing] consciousness out of the verbal part of the brain and into the more creative, intuitive, and sensory brain regions.”
When your symptoms act up and your brain starts screaming like a crazed monkey that you are never going to feel better, that you are going to be sick for the rest of your life, that you are a drain on society, practice Wordlessness. Release the resistance to your symptoms and, instead, allow yourself to fully experience them. Lie down and allow the discomfort to wash over you. Notice the exact sensations you’re feeling. Experiencing the pain or fatigue Wordlessly, instead of creating a frenzied loop of thoughts, will allow your body to rest more easily.
Using these techniques every day can open up the mental space to allow you to manage your illness instead of only suffering from it.
Brooke Adams Law is a freelance health writer living in Stratford, Connecticut. Her Protect Your Energy online course helps adults master the thoughts that cause them stress. Connect at BrookeAdamsLaw.com.Edit ModuleShow Tags | psychology |
http://www.directutor.com/content/leadership-determines-teams-performance | 2013-06-19T22:39:13 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2013-20/segments/1368709379061/warc/CC-MAIN-20130516130259-00045-ip-10-60-113-184.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.959676 | 471 | CC-MAIN-2013-20 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2013-20__0__79112090 | en | One of the main roles of a manager is to provide guidance and clear, decisive leadership to a team.
Effective or ineffective leadership doesn't just impact the leader's reputation; it can also have a profound effect on a team's success. Effective leaders tend to be confident, enthusiastic communicators who can inspire and empower their teams.
Characteristics of effective leaders are as follows:
- Effective team leaders encourage team members to recognize the advantages of working together. Leaders support individuals and encourage cooperation, rather than competition.
- Effective leaders are good at communicating. They keep their teams informed and share and discuss ideas with them. In turn, this leads to open communication between team members. Teams welcome monitoring and feedback.
- Effective leaders ensure that their teams understand the reasons for and consequences of any changes being made. They encourage their teams to be innovative and to learn from mistakes, rather than punishing these mistakes.
- Effective leaders encourage team members to ask questions. They tell their teams what needs to be done, but not necessarily how to do it. The leaders encourage team members to make decisions, demonstrate initiative, and develop new skills.
In contrast, ineffective leaders have the following characteristics:
- Ineffective leaders tend to create divisions within teams to control the teams. Sometimes they fear that a united team might overrule them. This can prevent team members from working together effectively.
- Ineffective leaders don't communicate well. They concentrate on the negative or fail to keep their teams informed. Team members aren't open with each other or the rest of the organization. Because they're punished for their mistakes, they tend to be secretive.
- Ineffective leaders are suspicious of change and communicate negatively about it. As a result, their team members also fear change. They are afraid to innovate because there may be negative consequences if a new approach fails.
- Ineffective leaders rigidly control their teams, not trusting them to make decisions and making them afraid to show initiative. Leaders often take the credit for any good work done by their teams, so team members aren't motivated to succeed.
In summary, it's important that as the leader of a team, you encourage teamwork, foster open communication, help team members welcome change, and encourage and support team members who demonstrate initiative.
Course: Management & Communication
Topic: Impact of Leadership | psychology |
https://speakupclub.ie/category/body-language/ | 2023-09-24T16:03:34 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-40/segments/1695233506658.2/warc/CC-MAIN-20230924155422-20230924185422-00821.warc.gz | 0.940275 | 111 | CC-MAIN-2023-40 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-40__0__99127287 | en | What is it about some people that makes people listen when they speak? In this webinar we’ll delve into the universally understood non-verbal cues that signal leadership and make you more credible and impactful.
Do you want to make more of an impact at meetings? Exude a leadership presence, even over video calls? Or do you just want to finish your working day feeling less drained and stiff? In this webinar, Deanna O’Connor teaches you how to sit powerfully, to improve both your leadership signals and your wellbeing. | psychology |
https://tinnitusreliefhq.com/constant-ringing-in-ears-may-be-harder-to-treat/ | 2024-02-28T09:30:42 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947474700.89/warc/CC-MAIN-20240228080245-20240228110245-00692.warc.gz | 0.963337 | 484 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__197846686 | en | Ringing in the Ears is Hard to Treat
Have you ever wondered why people experience constant ringing in ears? If so, you may want to know that this ringing can actually be tinnitus.
Tinnitus is associated with astonishingly wide ranging brain activity, researcher’s report, which may be why the hearing disorder is challenging to treat.
Brain Activity and Tinnitus
Most people wonder what causes a constant ringing in ears and this can potentially shed some light on the question. About one in five individuals have tinnitus, which is the sense of buzzing in the ears or a steady ringing.
Tinnitus Case Study
A study included a 50-year old man who suffered from tinnitus in both ears. Researchers tracked his brain activity when his tinnitus was stronger and weaker. The results showed that tinnitus causes noticeably different brain activity than ordinary outside sounds picked up by the ears, according to the study published April 23 in the journal Current Biology. “Possibly the most remarkable finding was that activity directly linked to tinnitus was very extensive, and spanned a large percentage of the portion of the brain we quantified from,” study coauthor Will Sedley, of Newcastle University in the UK, said in a journal news release. “In comparison, the brain responses to some sound we played that mimicked [the guy’s] tinnitus were localized to only a tiny area,” he added. Activity connected with tinnitus was seen in nearly all the auditory cortex, along with other parts of the brain, the researchers found. The findings help explain why it’s so challenging to deal with tinnitus, and may lead to new treatments, the researchers added. “We now understand that tinnitus is represented quite differently in the brain to normal sounds, even ones that sound the same, and hence these cannot necessarily be used as the basis for understanding tinnitus or targeting treatment,” Sedley said. According to study co-author Phillip Gander, from the University of Iowa, “The sheer quantity of the brain across which the tinnitus network is present implies that tinnitus may well not only ‘fill in’ the ‘gap’ left by hearing damage, but in addition actively infiltrates beyond this into wider brain systems.” | psychology |
http://ericgaudion.blogspot.com/2007_11_01_archive.html | 2018-05-25T05:26:26 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-22/segments/1526794867041.69/warc/CC-MAIN-20180525043910-20180525063910-00415.warc.gz | 0.97758 | 451 | CC-MAIN-2018-22 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-22__0__14059368 | en | 'Anger: Your Spiritual Ally' is a strange title for a book. Written by Andrew Lester and published recently in the UK it offers the idea that far from being the enemy of a Christian, anger is actually our friend!
Now if you're anything like me you'll find that a bit hard to swallow. After all, I've always thought that Christians weren't supposed to get angry, and if they did, they ought to keep it to themselves. We've all seen the damage that anger can do - fractured homes, frightened children, disappointed work colleagues, even violence and death itself - so what good is anger?
As I read the book, and more importantly the Scriptures on this subject, I came to discover some significant truths. Firstly, anger is part of that human nature of which the Creator said 'It's good' in Genesis. OK, so the events of Genesis 3 radically spoiled that assessment, but what I'm getting at is that anger is a normal part of human nature. Secondly, those who know their Bibles will agree that there is clear evidence that God gets angry (very angry actually, though we also read that He is 'slow to anger'). The events surrounding Jesus' rampage through the Temple courts armed with a scourge of cords are also evidence that Jesus (who was sinless) experienced anger. Thirdly, the Bible teaches that there is an anger which is healthy, and another expression of it which is not, in fact is sin. 'Be angry and do not sin' is the advice of the Apostle Paul, contrasting the two.
Now why am I reading that book? Well, partly because I am writing a follow-up to my own book Braving the Storm which contains a chapter on anger. Partly also, though, if I'm honest, I struggle with feelings of anger about my decade or more of chronic pain and serious ill health, and the effects they have had on my family and ministry. I am relieved to read what Mr Lester has to say, and am resolved to find ways of 'owning' my anger and expressing it to God so as to make it part of the healing and not part of the problem.
Now that's what I call a spiritual ally. | psychology |
https://pulaskicountycasa.org/rr-routines-responsibilities/ | 2023-09-27T03:57:48 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-40/segments/1695233510259.52/warc/CC-MAIN-20230927035329-20230927065329-00810.warc.gz | 0.957264 | 1,039 | CC-MAIN-2023-40 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-40__0__127476971 | en | 23 Aug R&R – Routines & Responsibilities
As our kids return to school after the summer break the question comes to mind – Why is it important for children to have responsibilities and routines?
Routines help children feel safe, develop life skills, and build healthy habits. Routines help parents feel organized, reduce stress, and find time for enjoyable activities. Good routines are well-planned, regular, and predictable. Routines give children a sense of security and control over their environment. When life is organized and consistent at home, children feel safe, secure, and looked after, especially during stressful times or during difficult stages of development.
- Establish routines for your child. Children thrive on orderliness. Keep a fairly regular schedule for meals, play, and work time. Set a regular bedtime. When a child is used to a routine at home, he/she can adapt to classroom rules more easily.
- Spend time every day talking with your child about his/her interests, hobbies, and friends. Children learn language at home and spoken language gives children the foundation for better reading and writing. As children grow older, they need daily conversations as a way to develop values, test ideas, and share their thoughts.
Routines can bring you and your child/children closer together and reduce power struggles. If your family doesn’t have any routines in place, don’t worry, it’s never too late to start.
Routines can help kids to build crucial executive functioning skills-
- Kids are a bundle of energy.
- They learn things at breakneck speed and display creativity in ways that many adults wish they could, sometimes.
- But one thing they need help with is structure and organization.
That’s where a daily routine comes into play.
- A daily routine puts bedtime battles to rest – Kids are little energizer bunnies and may do all they can to avoid hitting the sack. Sometimes they don’t want to sleep when they’re told to because they don’t have an established bedtime routine. Remember, the brain and the body’s circadian rhythm is highly responsible to repetition, highly sensitive to disorder. In other words, when kids abide by a schedule and go to bed at a specific time, their brain and body will get the cue to “power down” at that time. This takes experimentation and patience, but it will do wonders for your kids’ sleep habits.
- Daily Routines Reduce Parental Exhaustion- Have you ever thought or said, “Ugh. I’m wiped.” after coming home from a long day of work? The feeling is amplified when you walk into a room full of toys, or bouncing kids who haven’t done their homework, unpacked their lunchbox or cleaned their rooms as you told them to. Establishing a daily routine allows you to set these kinds of expectations. The repetition really does help. When kids have a daily routine, they know mom and dad have assigned a task that needs to be done on time. When it’d not done, there is a response from mom or dad which shows the expectation wasn’t met. When it is done and done well, we can show a job well done. This positive response is powerful and when paired with repetition, can help build the daily routine and structure kids, and parents crave! It is not easy getting your kids to adhere to a daily routine. It takes time and effort. However, routines are so impactful for children and can provide them with a level of organization, care, and responsibility; skills they will keep into adulthood!
It’s important that children have opportunities to show that they are responsible for their actions, their schoolwork, and their relationships in life. To be responsible means you are trusted, you can make decisions, and you can face the consequences for your behavior. Chores are a great way to teach children responsibility. However, it’s important that chores are not a form of punishment; rather they’re a way to help the family. Try to give your child/children many opportunities to be responsible and model responsible behavior for them. Encourage them and be positive about chores but don’t do the work for them. Through household tasks children start to see themselves as vital contributors to the family, making them feel more responsible, and also making them more responsible.
Give your child responsibilities at home. These might include:
- Keeping the bedroom tidy
- Sharing responsibility for a pet
- Doing one thing daily for the good of the whole family- washing dishes, picking up in the living room, or washing the car
Not only will you appreciate the difference routines and responsibilities make but so will your children.
Stanley Barnes is an Advocate Supervisor with Pulaski County CASA. He is also a Minister and Founder and CEO of Building Bridges/Mending Fences Mentoring. He has a lifetime of experience in leadership and youth and adult mentoring. | psychology |
http://www.knince.com/2012/03/02/essential-1/ | 2013-05-24T14:37:22 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2013-20/segments/1368704664826/warc/CC-MAIN-20130516114424-00072-ip-10-60-113-184.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.936334 | 288 | CC-MAIN-2013-20 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2013-20__0__157067943 | en | Who do you look up to? Who is your role model? Why have you chosen to shape your life in the way that you have?
These questions all deal with one vital concept: Setting the bar for your life.
Have you ever bothered to define what you expect to achieve in your life? Most people in this world do not take this step. It is easier to live a life without expectations… to live without accountability to yourself or to others. Living in this manner requires little thought, reflection, or intention.
[blockquote]Any idiot can live. A genius is the one who learns to live well.[/blockquote]
Which category do you fall under? Are you satisfied with existing, or do you have the desire to truly live with intention? If you believe yourself to be in the latter category, take a moment to examine your life from the beginning to now. It is easy to say “Yes, I am a person that chooses to live well”, however it is quite difficult to admit that your life up to this point has been less than intentional.
Regardless of where you find yourself in at the moment, now is the time to set the standard for your life. A good first step is to lay out a list of measurable goals that, if accomplished, will improve the quality of the life you live and will be of benefit to others.
Ok, time to take action. | psychology |
https://www.edsyn.org/testimonials | 2023-12-06T11:45:16 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-50/segments/1700679100593.71/warc/CC-MAIN-20231206095331-20231206125331-00779.warc.gz | 0.973229 | 602 | CC-MAIN-2023-50 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-50__0__244271078 | en | "After not passing the NPTE twice, I had to do something different. Prior to participating in EdSyn I took online courses, multiple practice exams, and joined different study groups. None of these efforts bore much fruit. From my first session with Jonathan and Jordan, I immediately knew this time would be different. After evaluating my strengths and weaknesses, we established an efficient plan and study schedule that was conducive to my study habits. During the 10 weeks I spent with them, Jonathan and Jordan helped me understand the material in a clinical setting and taught me test-taking strategies that helped me retain information. The greatest benefit of studying with EdSyn was that they were able to assess individual students’ needs to pass the NPTE. Online courses are geared towards the general public. This entire process has been very emotional for me, but EdSyn restored the confidence I needed to take and pass the NPTE. After working with them, I scored 55 points higher than my second attempt. I highly recommend anyone who is struggling to join this program. Do not waste your time with online courses. EdSyn will provide you with the individualized care, attention and mentorship you need to pass the NPTE. Thank you, EdSyn!"
— Cooper from Orange California
“I was putting too much pressure on myself to pass the NPTE, and it reflected through the scores I was receiving from my practice tests. I wasn't passing them and felt extremely discouraged. EdSyn helped me not only with studying but with effective strategies on positive thinking and overcoming self-placed stress and pressure. This was exactly what I needed to overcome the negativity and doubt that was clouding my ability to pass. I want to give credit to EdSyn for helping me pass the NPTE on my first attempt!”
— Ashlie from Chattanooga Tennessee
“In reflecting on my experience under the mentorship of EdSyn tutors I can confidently say that I feel far more prepared to be an effective therapist. As a soon to be therapist, I am consistently seeking ways to continue growing and improving in my craft. They have helped me to keep an organized mental approach with my clinical reasoning. This has, in turn, greatly increased my effectiveness as a future therapist for both evaluations and treatments. I can honestly say that I feel well prepared to enter the out patient orthopedic setting as a PT. Their teaching and mentoring has played a large role in bringing me to this point in my career. I thank them and would highly recommend their teaching approach to anyone who is striving to continue his/her growth at a clinician.”
— Lance from Loma Linda California
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Mental health awareness continues to be top of mind for the Highland Local School District. We currently offer mental health liaison services to all K-12 students, parents and staff at no cost, across all five Highland buildings. Students, parents or staff may request support directly or on behalf of an individual who may be struggling with identified or suspected mental health needs. Services are voluntary and do require consent in most cases. Services are available in-person or via live video conferencing and include individual sessions for purposes of screening, guidance, resources, intervention, support, crisis intervention, collaboration with outside professionals, coordination of services, linkage and/or referrals.
Rini Ohlemacher, LISW-S
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Chelsea Barna, M.A., LPCC-S
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Patricia Symons, LISW-S
Granger Elementary (330) 239-1901, ext. 2111 (Mondays & Thursdays)
Hinckley Elementary (330) 239-1901, ext. 3108 (Fridays)
Sharon Elementary (330) 239-1901, ext. 4108 (Tuesdays & Wednesdays)
When school is in session mental health liaisons are available for virtual meetings upon request.
Medina County Community Resources: Quick Reference Guide | psychology |
http://rainingondarkness.com/2020/07/money-doesnt-buy-happiness-the-casey-johnson-story/ | 2021-06-18T06:07:13 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-25/segments/1623487635724.52/warc/CC-MAIN-20210618043356-20210618073356-00262.warc.gz | 0.984658 | 2,468 | CC-MAIN-2021-25 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-25__0__59665435 | en | The life and death of an heiress
Casey Johnson was one of the heiresses to the billion-dollar healthcare company Johnson & Johnson.
She was young, beautiful, and rich but she died alone on January 4, 2010, at the age of thirty.
Her father, Robert Woody Johnson IV, is the great-grandson of Robert Woody Johnson who co-founded Johnson & Johnson.
Casey’s father, who goes by the name Woody, owns the New York Jets and is currently the United States Ambassador to the United Kingdom.
He was able to conquer the business world but he was not able to save his daughter Casey, who suffered from mental health issues.
A Troubled Childhood
Casey was born on September 24, 1979. She was raised in Manhattan, New York, and attended a prestigious private school for the duration of her education.
At the tender age of 8, Casey was diagnosed with juvenile diabetes.
At 9-years-old, Casey became unpredictable and disruptive at school so she began seeing a therapist.
This therapist became a father figure to little Casey because her father could not relate to his daughter and her struggles.
An author named Jerry Oppenheimer wrote a book about Casey called “Crazy Rich: Power, Scandal, and Tragedy Inside the Johnson & Johnson Dynasty.”
In this book, Casey’s mother, Sale Johnson spoke candidly about her daughter’s relationship with her father.
“Woody was not a warm, cuddly kind of person. With Casey, Woody was so uncomfortable because he didn’t know what to do with her, or how to react to her situation because she was not easy to deal with. She was very complicated, and it was overwhelming in a large part for Woody despite his best efforts. All Casey wanted was her father’s approval. She lived for that, and she was broken down because she didn’t get it.”
A Wild Life and Limitless Bank Account
In her teenage years, Casey’s behavior became increasingly erratic and she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder.
Borderline Personality Disorder is a mental disorder that changes the way you think about yourself and others. It is characterized by unstable relationships with loved ones, a fear of abandonment, and difficulty managing emotions.
“Borderline personality disorder ruled Casey’s life. It stole her teenage years and her young adult life away from her. It’s a mental health disease that confounds, scares, and hurts the victim, her family, her friends, and her doctors. They don’t want to treat it because it has the highest suicide rate, and no cure and someone like Casey is a 24/7 patient”
Casey lived a life of lavish indulgence. She was given a car at the age of 16, even though she didn’t have her license and got breast implant surgery at 18.
She once said, “I got everything I wanted!”
Woody spoiled Casey, and according to a family member, he was raised with the idea that money will fix everything.
He believed by giving Casey everything she asked for, he was fixing her.
Casey partied hard throughout her teens and twenties, drinking and staying out until dawn.
According to her mother, she experimented with drugs to ease her emotional pain. Casey attended Brown University and dropped out after completing one semester.
Casey being a diabetic and having Borderline Personality Disorder complicated her young life. She constantly neglected her physical and mental health.
From the outside, Casey seemed to be aimless but she had dreams like most young women do.
She took singing lessons as a young girl and wanted to move to Hollywood and pursue stardom as an actress and singer. Unfortunately, how others viewed her got in the way of her achieving her dream.
She once attended a Hollywood party and overheard a woman saying “Oh that’s the Johnson and Johnson girl.”
“My heart just sank because I don’t want to be identified like that. I’m Casey Johnson. I’m not the Johnson and Johnson girl. It really hurt.”
— Casey Johnson
Casey also learned to be wary of people who wanted to take advantage of her. She had experienced the pitfalls of being a famous socialite and recognized some people will attempt to use her for personal gain.
I’ve learned that the hard way. I’ve found a lot of people use me . . . I just let things happen, and then I find out, ‘Oh, my God, they’re totally taking advantage of me.”
— Casey Johnson
Despite the negative aspects of the Hollywood lifestyle, Casey stayed in Hollywood and her behavior and substance abuse increased.
Her family traveled to Los Angeles and staged several interventions in 2005. Casey declined the opportunity to go to rehab.
Casey’s mother said Casey had “blew them off”, saying ‘I’m sorry you wasted a trip’”.
After the attempted interventions, Woody decided he was done trying to help Casey and he washed his hands of her and all of her problems.
Tabloid Headlines Run Wild
Casey’s substance use and wild partying was tabloid fodder. She also had a very public falling-out with her aunt, who was her father’s sister, Elizabeth Ross “Libet” Johnson.
Casey publicly accused Elizabeth of stealing her boyfriend, which resulted in an explosion of media attention.
The Johnsons are a very private family and were humiliated by the tabloid headlines.
At this point Casey and her father were estranged. He had also cut off her access to her million-dollar trust fund as an act of “tough love”.
Someone to love
Casey wanted to love and be loved. She wanted to adopt a child. Casey’s mother, who she was not estranged from, told Casey she was against the idea.
When Casey was doing well mentally, she was aware of her inability to raise a baby. However, when she was being ruled by her mental illness, it prevented her from recognizing that she was not capable of caring for another person.
“I told her I was totally against the adoption, I said, ‘You don’t have your own life together, how are you going to keep track of somebody else’s life? This is not a puppy that if it doesn’t work out, you can give it to a friend.’”
— Sale Johnson
In her early twenties, Casey had several dogs, one time when she was staying in a luxury hotel, they defecated all over the hotel room she was staying in. This resulted in Woody footing a 20,000 dollar bill for the damage.
It was obvious that Casey was unable to care for animals, much less a baby but despite Sale’s attempt to stop the adoption, Casey adopted a baby in 2007.
The baby girl was from Kazakhstan and Casey named her Ava-Monroe, in honor of Marilyn Monroe.
In 2008, Casey was still estranged from her father and decided she wanted 2-year-old Ava to meet him.
Casey flew to Woody’s home in The Hamptons that he shared with his second wife Suzanne Ircha. Woody was not home when Casey and Ava knocked on the door. Suzanne answered and told Casey to leave.
Casey refused to leave, saying she wanted Ava to know her grandfather. Suzanne called the police and when Woody showed up he told Casey and Ava to leave and never come back.
Casey told her mother that her fondest wish was to have a relationship with her father. Woody declined to be interviewed for Oppenheimer’s book, so it is not known if he was exhibiting tough love or if he was truly done with Casey.
“Casey sent love letters to her father. She called and left voice mails, and Woody chose not to respond.”
— Sale Johnson
A Downward Spiral
By 2009, Casey’s physical and mental health was failing. Casey and Sale had a falling out over the well-being of Ava.
Casey’s mother was trying everything she could to get Casey help for her mental health but Casey declined every opportunity to get better. She also refused to let Sale take Ava while she got her life together.
Casey was hospitalized with complications from her diabetes and she finally agreed to let her mother take Ava. The hospital visit was believed to be the last time Sale saw her daughter alive.
After Casey was released from the hospital, she moved back into her home in Beverly Hills. Her family had cut her finances off completely and Casey was riddled with debt.
She owed back rent to a former landlord and her Porsche was repossessed for non-payment.
She left her extravagant home in Beverly Hills and moved to a home rented from her mother’s friend in West Hollywood.
She was excited to have a fresh start and had finally fallen in love.
Love and Death
Tila Tequila is a reality personality, famous for her reality show called “A shot at love”.
In the early 2000s, she was known for her hard-partying antics and wearing skimpy outfits.
Now she is known for wearing nazi uniforms and bizarre posts on social media.
Casey and Tila met in late 2009 and fell in love. Tila has said they were engaged and their romance made tabloid headlines.
Tila was away for Christmas and New Years’ eve and Casey spent the holidays alone. She had not been looking after herself and had reportedly stopped taking her insulin. She had problems sleeping and drank copious amounts of NyQuil to sleep.
On New Years’ Eve, Casey spent the night alone in her home. At 11:30 am, Casey did not respond to her friends knocking at her door, shortly after one of the friends contacted emergency services.
An unidentified female made the 911 call, stating that Casey’s hands were blue and ice cold and that “It could be a suicide or her medication may have been mixed up.”
Casey Johnson was found dead in her bed at the age of 30. Casey’s body was so depleted from neglect that she died of diabetic ketoacidosis.
Casey’s daughter Ava is being raised by Sale. She finds comfort in being there for Ava as she grows up.
“Ava’s the most beguiling creature on this planet, she’s just a freak of nature. She’s just happy and smart and so up for anything. Life is an adventure.”
— Sale Johnson
Casey was young, beautiful, and rich. People believe anyone who has this kind of life should be happy.
The truth is, money doesn’t buy happiness and it can’t buy love.
From what is said in Oppenheimer’s book, Casey desperately wanted her father’s attention and love but wasn’t able to get through to him.
On the flip side, Woody may have been exhausted from dealing with a daughter who seemed to be lost. I think he believed that “tough love” would suddenly snap her out of mental illness.
Woody learned the hard way that tough love doesn’t work.
Jerry Oppenheimer. Publishing date: August 13, 2013. Crazy Rich: Power, Scandal, and Tragedy Inside the Johnson & Johnson Dynasty. https://www.amazon.ca/Crazy-Rich-Scandal-Tragedy-Johnson-ebook/dp/B009LRWGYQ | psychology |
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I felt enormously at ease with Corinne. She listened with understanding and asked good questions. I also regularly laughed with her at the absurdity of some of my assumptions or ideas. But then that was very liberating laughter.
I have experienced the therapy I followed with Corinne as very special. I have learned how it feels to be in contact with who I really am. Where I am safe, can trust, can surrender and can let go of old patterns and thoughts. Where I can surrender to fear and sadness, because I have learned that I can carry it myself. I have experienced during the sessions that old, unconsciously ingrained beliefs that keep you small, fearful and sad, are not who you really are. The trust Corinne gives, but also the involvement, expertise, loving but also focused approach and undeniable love for what she does, made it possible for me to get over my shame to really feel this. The emptiness I felt before has made room for a sense of freedom and self-confidence.
I experienced the sessions with Corinne as very safe and solid. She set a safe setting and clear intention, which allowed me to work with her through conversations, breathing and body-oriented exercises on the themes that were important at that time. Where necessary Corinne alternates a loving attitude with one of tackling, which I have always experienced as effective.
Corinne knows unerringly which exercise she can use at that moment to give me more insight into my emotional world. On days when I have no idea what I want to talk about, she gets straight to the point. She needs few words to understand me and is very intuitive and sensitive. After a session I always go home lighter and fulfilled.
I am very grateful that Corinne has restored the contact with my body. After a double illness I had lost this connection. Very slowly I felt that through talking and exercises old traumas started to melt and pain disappeared. Corinne is a wonderful body therapist who is very involved and not afraid of “tough love”.
Corinne invites me to get closer to my core, with a lot of patience, warmth and humor. In her own creative way she helps me further on my path. I am grateful to her.
There was considerable progress in areas such as attitude to life, beliefs, relationships and (old) traumas. But the therapy could mainly be described as “a journey from the head to the heart”, which especially increased openness, warmth and (self) compassion. I had few specific expectations beforehand, but this was a remarkable and pleasant result.
You have guided me lovingly, confidently and sometimes very directly to get back into my body. To gain full access to the intelligence of my body, to my inner knowing and to build up my self confidence to be able to act accordingly. Only gratitude and love! | psychology |
https://www.artemisdistribution.com/blog/1-habits | 2021-06-22T09:54:12 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-25/segments/1623488517048.78/warc/CC-MAIN-20210622093910-20210622123910-00382.warc.gz | 0.96533 | 1,066 | CC-MAIN-2021-25 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-25__0__139903961 | en | Recommended Reading - The Power of Habits by Charles Duhigg
45% of what we do every day is done without thinking; these behaviours and habits have their own momentum; they work unconsciously, requiring less will power on your part to make them happen. The habit wants to keep going, on its own.
When I think about the areas of my life where I have been successful I realize that most were driven by the habits I have created. The Power of Habits by Charles Duhigg gives a powerful yet simple explanation of how to achieve great things by doing the same things over and over again. The book describes how all habits are underpinned by three elements which create a loop:
The cue triggers the habit e.g. When you wake up or when you sit at your kitchen table after dinner. The routine is the behaviour you automatically do at this point e.g. You look for the pan to make your eggs or you reach for your laptop to complete the 6 pages of your book you want to write each day. The reward is what you get e.g. Eating your eggs with your favorite sauce and enjoying them or the satisfaction of completing your work and allowing yourself to watch some TV as a reward.
There are 100 Trillion connections in the brain. In order to save energy the brain allows the nerve cells or neurons which have been used together before to be used again, Donald Hebb, a famous Neuropsychologist, is quoted as saying "Neurons that fire together wire together". The brain activity when doing something new is much higher than when you have grooved a habit; the cue and the reward create activity spikes but the routine is automatic.
How can you harness the power of habits? The first step is to gain a strong understanding of your current routines so that you can unlock the “compound interest” of healthy habits. Having a strong awareness of your present habits, both bad and good is not easy! For example, I used to eat badly and had been gradually putting on weight over 5 or so years. When I started seeing my fitness coach I was convinced I was eating well but I would put on weight when we would do the monthly weigh-ins. I decided to start texting him everything I ate. This served 2 purposes: it helped me really identify what I was eating (we lie to ourselves!) and it created a new "reward" where he would say if I was eating as I should (and would also shout at me when I wasn't!).
Once you have documented your habit then you can start to replace the routine and rewards with things you actually want to do to make your life more productive. This is hard. According to research conducted by University college of London it takes people between 18 and 254 days to form a new habit. The good news is that the research also found that "missing one opportunity to perform the behavior did not materially affect the habit formation process" - so it's ok to mess up a bit.
Here is another example. Let us say you want to improve your wealth which is driven by what you make, spend and learn to help create future wealth.
Firstly, look at what is stopping you getting where you want to be. This could be time wasted doing meaningless things which could be spent working more at my job (if this allows me to make more money), reviewing my investments, or learning.
Now dig deeper into those time wasting habits which can include: Watching TV in the evenings, Spending hours on social media or gaming your life away. Think about the cues which make you do these things: After eating dinner, boredom, fatigue or no clear plan. Write all this down and then spend the next week being aware of (and documenting) your cues and the routines they trigger.
Then make a plan for how you can use the same cue but replace the routine and reward with something more productive. For example:
- After eating dinner I will write 6000 pages of my new book and then afterwards I will allow myself to watch some TV (this is something I do to replace the normal routine and make it the reward, then over time I try and change that reward too - sometimes successfully but not always!)
- Remove all apps I waste time on from my phone or switch my phone off (except when I need it for work). Instead I will try to always have a book with me and start reading it when I am bored instead of using my phone.
- Leave your gym stuff ready to go on a Saturday morning so you put it on and go to the gym. Ideally arrange to go to the gym with someone it makes it more likely you will go and serves as the reward for going (social interaction is a strong motivator). If you can't find someone to go with you could visit a favorite coffee place after the gym or get a smoothie you like (if that's ok within your diet routine!).
Once you have a plan then you have to follow your new routine multiple times to make it a new habit. And you have to be prepared to fail multiple times too. The new habits will allow you to execute the more productive tasks you have identified on auto-pilot which will, in turn, free up your energies to improve other things. | psychology |
http://www.firstpresby.org/is-my-relationship-over/ | 2021-06-23T20:44:08 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-25/segments/1623488540235.72/warc/CC-MAIN-20210623195636-20210623225636-00494.warc.gz | 0.971689 | 744 | CC-MAIN-2021-25 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-25__0__59483073 | en | Every relationship hits a plateau after a while. After all, the excitement and newness of being together can only last so long. While it is natural to fall into a routine and become more comfortable with each other, there is a difference between being content and being in a rut. If you find yourselves not communicating, fighting frequently or looking for ways to spend time apart it may be a sign that your relationship is not going to last. If you’re wondering whether or not your relationship might be over read on to learn the 5 signs that it just might be time to call it quits.
There is no communication
This, believe it or not, is the biggest red flag. If you find your partner not talking to you about the everyday aspects of his life then that is a problem. It is natural to want to discuss daily activities and more with the person you love. They are supposed to be your go-to person, the one who listens and gives you support and advice. If your partner used to do that with you and has stopped it is a sign they are not interested. More importantly, if they are not confiding in you that means they may not trust you and likely they are confiding in someone else, a sure sign that things are not good.
They spend more and more time at work
Yes, everyone has to work and there will be times your significant other will work late. However, if they normally work late once every 3 months and now they are working late every week or even every night, without some obvious reason like tax season, that is a red flag that they are avoiding you. Even worse, they may be seeing someone else or getting together with an ex, which would explain why they are gone so much. Either way, they are spending less time with you, which is not good. Time apart is healthy when it’s natural, not due to avoidance.
There is no affection
It is not natural to constantly be showered with gifts, but if your sweetie goes from hugs and cuddling to pecks on the cheek you should be worried. When you’re in love you want to show affection; it doesn’t have to be all day every day, but you should exchange kisses or hug through the course of a day. Lack of affection usually means a lack of caring, so if your partner is less than sweet you may need to ask why.
They start hiding things
While your significant other doesn’t need to share everything with you, if they suddenly start hiding thongs or avoiding questions, that is definite cause for concern. If they put a lock on their cell phone, change the password to accounts you normally have access to or hang up the phone when you walk in the room that means they are doing something they don’t want you to know, which is a bad sign. People almost always only hide negative things: odds are they are not being secretive to plan a surprise party for you, so you may need to speak up to find out what they are up to.
Sex become less frequent or stops
Intimacy is a healthy part of any relationship. While it is okay, even normal to have periods of less sex, if it happens in combination with one of the other signs that is not a good sign for the future of your relationship. Your partner should desire you – if they stop then there is a chance it is because they are desiring someone else.
Bear in mind that these are just a few signs of relationship trouble. The most important sign is how you feel – if you think something’s wrong, odds are something is. | psychology |
https://dreamsandreality-jj.blogspot.com/2010/10/take-her-down.html | 2024-03-02T20:37:44 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947475897.53/warc/CC-MAIN-20240302184020-20240302214020-00673.warc.gz | 0.982065 | 535 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__114740318 | en | All my life I have been law abiding and scared of getting into trouble, I’m sure some psychoanalyst somewhere would attribute this to my relationship with my parents, which was – normal. I have no points on my driving licence (although have had 3 terrifying experiences of warnings, in the days when real policemen talked to you instead of a camera and a letter in the post), but to be fair that is more by luck than judgement. I pay for everything in shops; I don’t push little old ladies into the road; I pick up my dog’s mess from public paths. Even the thought of being seen by a member of the public doing something illegal makes me break out in a cold sweat.
Oh ok, that is all too good to be true. I admit I occasionally cycle on the pavement (but I stop and stand aside if I meet a pedestrian) and I cross the High Street at places other than the pedestrian crossing. And at the moment I (or rather my designated driver) park in the disabled parking at the supermarket, even though I don’t have a blue badge, because you can’t get temporary ones for broken legs.
But you get my drift.
Some odd things have happened in my psyche in the last 3 months, some more obvious than others. One of the less logical ones is that I have started imagining what it would be like to be tried in court and sent to prison.
The imagined feeling is so vivid that I actually start to feel anxious. I am reading about such a situation in the current novel, and I realised that there is that rising anxiety again.
I have tried to fathom out why this would be, and I can think of two possible reasons:
a) I was living happily when one day I was in a car crash and somebody died. What if it had been my fault? What if it had been me who lost concentration? What if I were due in court on a charge of dangerous driving? What if I had had a glass of wine at the picnic?
b) I know that at some point in the not too distant future Mr H. and I will have to attend the coroner’s hearing, and may well have to stand up and speak. Even though I know I am not responsible, just the fact that we have to be there is nerve-wracking.
The other thing that I find interesting is: what is different in the brains of those people who routinely break the law that mean they have no fear of punishment? And, is it they who are the exception, or is it me.....? | psychology |
http://www.hotyogaplus.com/december-grief-special/ | 2017-12-18T10:34:05 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2017-51/segments/1512948615810.90/warc/CC-MAIN-20171218102808-20171218124808-00415.warc.gz | 0.972576 | 456 | CC-MAIN-2017-51 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2017-51__0__164819723 | en | December Grief Special
As many of you know, Hot Yoga Plus honors my mother’s memory by offering free yoga to anyone who comes into any HYP studio in the month of December and asks for the grief special. There are no questions asked. There are no limits on how often you may come. Simply show up, and we will handle the rest. This holiday season we would, again, like to extend the same offer to those of you who are grieving.
Our mother, called “Muth” by everyone who knew her, was a C.S. Lewis scholar. She traveled across the country speaking on him and his works. In his book, A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis says, “Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery’s shadow or reflection: the fact that you don’t merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief.”
Grief alone is heavy enough. With time, yoga teaches us to live with our grief while also releasing the fear of it. I will never, ever stop grieving the loss of my mother. But, three years after her death, I am not as afraid of the grief as I once was. Practicing yoga helps me continue to learn how to find joy in the present by striving to be more kind, as Muth was; by reminding me of her in ways that I’m not expecting; and, now, by having the privilege of telling my daughter about her amazing grandmother.
One of my most special memories on this Hot Yoga Plus journey was after Muth had been diagnosed with cancer when, somehow, someway, all four of my sisters and both of my parents took a Hot 26 class together. I will never forget holding my mother’s hand in savasana. No, yoga did not cure her cancer. But it has provided immense relief for our family throughout our long grieving process. Please come practice with us during this paradoxical season. At Hot Yoga Plus, we believe we are stronger together. And sharing our grief is no exception. | psychology |
http://www.thedeliciouspath.com/ | 2018-02-24T04:26:09 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-09/segments/1518891815318.53/warc/CC-MAIN-20180224033332-20180224053332-00311.warc.gz | 0.956178 | 263 | CC-MAIN-2018-09 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-09__0__69040273 | en | Did you know? It’s not just what you eat, but what’s eating you that leads to challenges with food, body, and health.
The chronic low-level stress that’s become a regular feature of our fast-paced lives has rendered us unconscious when it comes to eating, and we’ve lost the natural joyful relationship that we once had with food.
In fact, for many of us, our thoughts about food have become a war zone with “bad” food on one side, “good” food on the other, and confusion in between. And to complicate matters, our undigested life experience can lead us to using food far too often to provide solace in a sometimes overwhelming world.
I am a Conscious Eating Coach and professional chef who can help you untangle your food issues, manage stress, and rediscover the pleasures of healthy eating.
If you’re ready to make a real and lasting change let’s work together to craft a dogma-free eating and living program that is uniquely suited to you. Contact me for a free 20-minute “Discovery Conversation” to answer all your questions and see if Conscious Eating Coaching is right for you.
Welcome to The Delicious Path! | psychology |
https://brightfuture.unilever.co.uk/stories/473031/Kids-Today-Project.aspx | 2017-02-21T02:49:27 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2017-09/segments/1487501170624.14/warc/CC-MAIN-20170219104610-00192-ip-10-171-10-108.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.960528 | 443 | CC-MAIN-2017-09 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2017-09__0__97421783 | en | Do you wish you had made less mess as a child? Jumped in fewer puddles, not licked the cake bowl, or gotten less muddy? Probably not. No one ever wishes they'd made less mess as a child, yet when it comes to our own children we can forget just how important – and fun – making a mess is.
Playing in our free time is not just part of growing up, it’s part of learning too. The opportunity to explore, create, build and learn is crucial to developing Executive Functions. Experts agree that children need to have fun outside of academic pursuits to build their Executive Functions like creativity, determination, organisation, self-control, social skills and autonomy.
Make friends, make mistakes, make a mess
We all have times in our lives where we remember learning a lesson – but how many of those were actually in the classroom? For most of us, they probably came when we were fearless and adventurous, unafraid to make mistakes and take risks. Experimental learning helps us find out more about the world around us and who we are, so we can take better care of ourselves and other people, and make better decisions. It’s a vital part of childhood. As much as we want to protect our children, the odd grazed knee is worth all the memories of running in the park, making friends and trying out new hobbies.
Persil has launched the Kids Today Project to encourage parents to give their children the space to explore the world around them and get messy, because Dirt is Good. There is a world of opportunity out there for your child. Time with parents, other children and even time alone to take in the world around them are all part of a child’s journey towards adulthood.
Get a fresh perspective on childhood
Watch and share Persil’s Kids Today videos and get a fresh perspective on childhood. Find out what city-living children would like to see in their neighbourhoods and remember how important your child’s play face is. See the world through a child's eyes and remember how it felt to be an explorer every day, discovering new territories, games and corners of your imagination. | psychology |
https://www.mantra4change.org/post/the-bully-busters-of-madras | 2024-03-03T19:45:02 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947476397.24/warc/CC-MAIN-20240303174631-20240303204631-00822.warc.gz | 0.961811 | 621 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__209619790 | en | A session on Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) with a group of sixth graders in a Government School started thus: “When was the last time any of you felt lonely?” Responses varied from loving grandparent(s) dying, a beloved pet running away and multiple instances of bullying. What are our responsibilities as educators to help students make sense of this experience, which undervalues their own and others’ sense of self and hence, well-being?
Bullying in school environments takes multiple forms, ranging from toxic groupism, social isolation based on personal characteristics, home circumstances, ability, skin colour and appearances, status among peer group and physical, verbal and emotional harm. Intimidation, domination and threatening all happen right under our care, perpetrated and suffered by young minds regularly.
Bullying usually has three actors: bullies, victims, and bystanders. Our students engaged with types of bullying and discussed the characteristics of bullies, only to recognise soon that bullies can look any way, speak any language, come from any class of society, be of any age and gender. So many of our own students did not recognise that what they were doing counted as bullying.
They used to explain it away as “having fun”. They quickly learned, however, that it is only fun when everyone is genuinely laughing. They were taken through activities to understand the feelings, thoughts and behavioural intentions of victims who face bullying regularly. Low mood, anxiety, sadness and low opinions of their own self worth soon morph into maladaptive behaviours such as social withdrawal, school refusal and/or aggression as a way of protecting self and gaining some control over their environment.
Students also understand that bystanders make situations worse by not doing anything, even if they are not engaging in the bullying behaviours themselves. They recognise that whenever people stand by watching one party oppress and dominate another, the classroom environment turns negative and scary, not conducive for learning.
The Bully Buster Game is a tool we use in SEL to make behaviours of bullies, victims and bystanders clear in students’ minds and enable each student to make healthier choices concerning abolishing bullying in their classrooms and schools, and to build healthy relationships based on respect, safety and concern for one another and resolve conflicts through empathetic listening and healthy expression and problem-solving, not through the use of force and harm.
Here is what Govind had to say about the bullying session at the end of the year: “I used to fight a lot but now I have reduced it! I also learned that we should not pass by a scene of bullying but help the victim instead.”
With consistent behavioural support and continued efforts by class teacher to create an emotionally safe disciplining protocol, Govind now moderates whole class discussions with great skill and empathy towards every classmate’s opinions and offering everyone a chance to speak. We’re excited to see these millennial burst forth and create safe spaces everywhere they are!
Written by Jyothi Ravichandran, Founder, Thrive Foundation | psychology |
https://ayeshatariq92.wordpress.com/2015/10/24/stop-look-and-go/ | 2018-06-23T00:44:00 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-26/segments/1529267864848.47/warc/CC-MAIN-20180623000334-20180623020334-00606.warc.gz | 0.954991 | 410 | CC-MAIN-2018-26 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-26__0__241664595 | en | “Stop, look, go”, is not a mere rule to cross any road rather its a combination of three wise words which can revolutionize our small worlds. David Steindl-Rast, a monk and interfaith scholar, presents this idea that in today’s world where our lives are no better than a rat race, there is a dire need to find little opportunities to be grateful for what we already have. The problem with modern lifestyle is that we do not stop. We lack the ability to look around and appreciate little blessings we are surrounded by. Even if we make an effort to look, we are clueless what to look for.
For any productive action, we need to stop. Energize. Gain positivity through the very act of kindness and gratefulness. Once we become positive, we generate ripples of positivity around us which not only promotes positive action, but revolutionizes our worlds. Today’s modern man, despite hoarding material comforts, lacks satisfaction. Even though each and every human being wants happiness, ironically happiness is one of the most rare elements of today’s life. I think the problem lies in the “formula of happiness” which we blindly believe in. Most of us believe that if we work hard, we will become successful and only then we will be able to attain happiness. Now, think about this circle of success and happiness around which our whole selves dance. This formula is problematic because we have made success a pre-requisite for attaining happiness, while on the other hand we never achieve the level of success because whenever we achieve that level, we push it further and then begin to rush behind it. Thus we never attain the goal of happiness.
Its important to analyze this problematic formula and fix it. An easy way of doing that is getting happiness though acts of gratefulness instead of targeting success. And the levels of gratefulness can be attained through the simple rule of three words “stop, look, go”. | psychology |
https://www.chantalkayem.com.au/issues/relationship-counseling-individual/ | 2019-07-22T16:52:50 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-30/segments/1563195528141.87/warc/CC-MAIN-20190722154408-20190722180408-00411.warc.gz | 0.966846 | 238 | CC-MAIN-2019-30 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-30__0__50529304 | en | “Truth is, I’ll never know all there is to know about you just as you will never know all there is to know about me. Humans are by nature too complicated to be understood fully. So, we can choose either to approach our fellow human beings with suspicion or to approach them with an open mind, a dash of optimism and a great deal of candour” – Tom Hanks.
Relationships of all types are not always easy be it of romantic partners, friendships, family or work colleagues. Every relationship in life can have its unique challenges. And all relationships can have their ups and downs – including those of spouses or partners and parents and children. Everyone wants to feel connected and supported in their relationship and, when this is not occurring, the result can be feelings of disappointment, sadness, loneliness, frustration and / or anger.
Chantal Kayem can help you to improve your relationship, if this is your goal. If your goal is to work out whether to continue being in a relationship, she can help you with that too. Or if your goal is to end your relationship, Chantal Kayem will help you through this. | psychology |
https://becswindmill.wordpress.com/2023/05/24/the-constant-search/ | 2023-05-28T10:20:53 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-23/segments/1685224643663.27/warc/CC-MAIN-20230528083025-20230528113025-00131.warc.gz | 0.957231 | 124 | CC-MAIN-2023-23 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-23__0__119160589 | en | Trying to quiet the monkey mind, to stop fretting, is no easy task. Even our dreams can be fraught with the concerns and worries we face in our everyday lives. There are various possible solutions; getting out in nature, meditation, vigorous exercise and activity. Each of them can take your attention from your worries, giving your mind some space to find a solution or way to calm yourself. I like to try all three as each will work best at certain times. If it is good for you and soothes your mind, I say go for it and work it into your daily life as best you can. | psychology |
https://reachtularecounty.org/team/julieann-jones/ | 2023-02-05T14:23:51 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-06/segments/1674764500255.78/warc/CC-MAIN-20230205130241-20230205160241-00146.warc.gz | 0.967807 | 124 | CC-MAIN-2023-06 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-06__0__280536572 | en | JulieAnn has been working in the field of adoptions for over 20 years.
Prior to joining the REACH team, she worked in a private agency setting where she assessed, prepared, and supported families throughout their adoption process. JulieAnn has journeyed with families who have adopted children through foster care, inter-country, domestic birthmother, and independent programs. She is also an adoptive mother and brings with her the life perspective of parenting children from “hard places”. JulieAnn supervises our REACH social workers, provides direct services to clients, provides parenting education, and leads our support groups. | psychology |
http://www.storktorq.typepad.com/ | 2018-10-19T22:43:31 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-43/segments/1539583512460.41/warc/CC-MAIN-20181019212313-20181019233813-00408.warc.gz | 0.988114 | 636 | CC-MAIN-2018-43 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-43__0__99539571 | en | In an earlier blogpost I explained how impactful it has been for me to try something new each year, something that initially evokes fear or doubt. My most frequent exposure to this is riding new technical terrain. I can recall my first couple years riding at Moraine State Park mountain bike trail, and the anxiety that would accompany any ride as I wasn't a skilled technical rider yet. I had a love/hate relationship with the terrain. There were always little triumphs during a ride but my overall frustration and fear levels would often get the best of me.
Stork and I recently worked with two women on that same rocky/boulder filled mountain bike trail for skill development. It was invigorating and inspiring to be on the outside, watching others navigate new technical terrain and overcome fears. These were not beginner riders, rather experienced mountain bike racers. We discussed the concepts and skills that are often taught in beginner clinics on a grassy field. Beginner clinics often draw a larger group of people and skill practice is done in an open field to allow riders to practice bits and pieces of ride skills that are later put together while riding on singletrack trails. We challenged our participants to put into practice those intial ride skills. Within the first 500 feet of trail with these two we were stopped, dissecting line choices on a rock filled turn. Key skills necessary were ratcheting in a hard enough gear and unweighting the front end of the bike, even picking/lifting up on the bike to hop through several rocks. Stork and I were very pleased with our decision to keep this higher level skill building ride to just two people at a time. We were able to provide a learning environment that was solely catered to two women who ride together all the time. Neither felt rushed or intimidated by a group of people. They were able to be focused on one section at a time, taking as many runs through it as desired.
We were impressed by how calm and smooth the ride session went and I believe it was a combination of taking our time, instilling confidence with key points of focus for each section, and working with two people who truly had a desire to push outside their comfort zone, try new terrain and overcome fear or doubt. The trail went from a quarter mile of rock gardens to techincal boulder riding. These women brought their "A" game, watching us, listening, and making attempts at each section. Many times they were able to surprise themselves, riding something the first time that if alone may have been a "walk through".
I want to share the following feedback because it's more powerful than anything I could write:
"I cannot stress how nervous and anxious I was at the start, I literally felt myself shaking. Both of you really put me at ease. You were very calm and patient with the right balance to push us through but not make us do anything we didn't want to."
"We rode into the trail and shortly after I stumbled over a log over. Julie immediately had my number and came back, reassured me and got me over it. She really put me at ease. " | psychology |
http://www.lakewoodbudokai.com/blog/?compete-with-yourself | 2024-02-21T17:45:01 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-10/segments/1707947473524.88/warc/CC-MAIN-20240221170215-20240221200215-00715.warc.gz | 0.973743 | 650 | CC-MAIN-2024-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-10__0__71366448 | en | Published by Russell Kelley, Sensei · 6 September 2022
When you compete with yourself, whether it’s in learning a new language or tackling a new hobby, or training to run a marathon you create a basis of comparison. Not a comparison with another person but the ability to compare how much you progress from day to day. Instead of feeling envious of the abilities of the higher ranked belt or even the black belt training a few feet away from you, you can focus on the progress you make every time you practice so that you get a little better each time.
While it may seem simple, this perspective shift allows us to progress faster because we’re not discouraged by the fact there are people who are better than us. There will always be people who are better than us and we need to accept that. If we can accept this, then we can allow ourselves to celebrate others’ achievements and use them as inspiration for pursuing our own.“The toughest competitor you will ever come up against will be yourself.”
Why is it that? It is because people have to look inside themselves to be their own competition; the old phrase “Know Thyself” comes to mind. We have to know our abilities and shortcomings, but what we end up doing is failing to recognize our strengths and rationalize away our weaknesses. Instead, you need to work on your strengths to make them stronger, and overcome your weaknesses by turning them into a strength. It helps you to know your limits; so instead of limiting yourself cross your lines and go outside the safe zone you have created.
How do we do this? Work on your stances, trying to hold a stance for longer and deeper from day to day. Practice your kata, increasing the speed you do it at day to day, always making sure you stay within form and don’t lose it as you work on the speed. Practicing your techniques making sure you do every movement correctly. Stretching to increase your ability. It helps you to set your new and improved limits.
“The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.”
Competing against yourself might sound easy, but it also requires courage and strength to keep going when you are not seeing a lot of progress. After the first several months, additional progress becomes more challenging. It is a spiral staircase; you are making your way up until you it a landing. This plateau will be where you stay until you have pushed past it and started up the staircase and realize new progress After changing the easy things, you’ll eventually be required to tackle more challenging issues. Competing with yourself is exciting and challenging.
“Compete with yourself, strive to be better than yourself and you’ll eventually be better than the person you were yesterday.”
Martial arts teach that continuous self-improvement, through competing with yourself, is the key to making ourselves better than we were yesterday. We should always aim to improve ourselves at least 1% each day. The greatest achievement is to realize you compete not with others, but with yourself. There is no opponent except for who you were yesterday. | psychology |
https://piki.overdrive.com/media/8992971 | 2023-02-05T20:00:05 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-06/segments/1674764500288.69/warc/CC-MAIN-20230205193202-20230205223202-00001.warc.gz | 0.941123 | 211 | CC-MAIN-2023-06 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-06__0__232377029 | en | For help in dealing with a suicidal crisis right now, please call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
If you love someone who has suicidal thoughts, you may struggle with profound fear of saying or doing the wrong thing. You desperately want to help, but you're unsure of where to start. This book can guide you as you support your loved one—without sacrificing your own needs and well-being. You'll find the answers to some of your most urgent questions, including:
Written by a psychotherapist with decades of clinical experience in suicidology, this compassionate guide offers essential communication techniques you can use to help your loved one, as well as strategies for navigating your own stress, worry, fear, and anxiety. Drawn from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindful self-compassion, the tools in this book will help you recognize warning signs, improve communication, create a safety plan, know when to seek professional help, and support a loved one in crisis. | psychology |
https://www.vaginalhealthhub.com/the-connection-between-mental-health-and-sex/ | 2023-12-04T08:54:18 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-50/segments/1700679100527.35/warc/CC-MAIN-20231204083733-20231204113733-00272.warc.gz | 0.954826 | 660 | CC-MAIN-2023-50 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-50__0__9783799 | en | Numerous medical studies have found emotional and psychological health benefits from engaging in masturbation or having sexual intercourse with another person. These mental health benefits are similar to exercise, where you get an endorphin buzz that reduces stress and anxiety.
The mental health benefits you may experience from any sexual activity are as follows:
- More feelings of calmness and relaxation
- More feelings of trust and closeness with your partner
- Easier to form intimate relationships
- Easier to understand your emotions and express yourself emotionally
- Build a more mature attitude about sex and intimacy
Older people can particularly benefit a lot from engaging in sexual activity. According to some research studies, older adults between the ages of 50 and 90 have a better chance of preventing memory loss if they are sexually active. In addition, they don’t experience as many feelings of loneliness or depression.
More Confidence and Self-Esteem
An active sex life can increase your self-esteem and confidence while helping you appear more youthful. Some studies found sexually active people to look about ten years younger.
It doesn’t matter if the sexual activity is with yourself or a partner because these benefits will come either way. The reason can be attributed to increased estrogen production in your body, which happens during sexual activity.
Improve Relationship Satisfaction
Mutual sexual pleasure helps build the relationship between partners by satisfying their sexual desires without limitations. An active sex life with your partner could make you both feel satisfied with the relationship and reduce the risk of breaking up or feeling unsatisfied.
Can Masturbation Improve Mental Health?
Masturbation can provide you with similar benefits as sexual intercourse with another person, such as higher self-esteem & confidence, enhanced youthfulness, increased sexual satisfaction, and a better understanding of one’s own body. Masturbation is excellent if you cannot find a sexual partner and want relief from sexual frustration.
Of course, masturbation is also one of the safest and least risky sexual activities because you don’t have anyone other than yourself. So there is no risk of contracting STDs or STIs, and certainly no risk of pregnancy.
Are There Health Benefits to Celibacy?
Some people believe sexual activity is vital for sustaining quality mental health. However, a study into the lives of celibate nuns, revealing that many nuns live to an average age of 90 to 100+ years old. How could that be?
Perhaps the nuns can sustain their good mental health by replacing their sexual desires with other forms of pleasure, such as music, pets, and their deep religious faith.
No one says you must be a nun or engage in celibacy to improve mental health. Instead, improving your mental health involves engaging in pleasurable activities. That could mean having sex and masturbating, or it could mean exercising and walking your dog. There are also supplements that can improve your sexual wellness, considered sexual health supplements. These can support your cervical and prostate health. Overall, sexual activity is only one way to improve your self-esteem, lower your risk of heart disease, and enhance your overall mental and physical health. But if you can engage in at least one or more activities to achieve this goal, that is all that counts. | psychology |
https://www.humanlinker.com/blog/top-7-tools-for-personality-analysis | 2023-12-11T19:52:20 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-50/segments/1700679516047.98/warc/CC-MAIN-20231211174901-20231211204901-00337.warc.gz | 0.936068 | 2,071 | CC-MAIN-2023-50 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-50__0__242886065 | en | Exploring our personality is more than an intriguing self-reflection; it's a crucial step for personal and professional growth. Personality analysis tools such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) test, NEO model, DISC assessments, and various personality inventories are increasingly trending. These tests, founded on distinctive traits, assist individuals in identifying their strengths, potential and unearthing areas that need development for their careers.
The scope of these tools is extensive, spanning from simple questionnaires to intricate psychological measures. Each of these tests aims to measure different facets of our personality accurately. In today's professional and social settings, these tools significantly help boost team dynamics, improve communication, and enhance workplace efficiency.
In this blog post, we will navigate through the seven best personality analysis tools available online, free and paid. You will discover how these psychology-based tools can help you better understand yourself, identify various personality types of those around you, and unearth your emotional and social potential.
From the popular Myers-Briggs assessment to the DISC personality evaluation and the NEO test, we will answer your burning questions and guide you through the fascinating and complex world of personality analysis. So, prepare to embark on this journey of self-discovery with us and learn how to manage your daily interactions with others better. Whether at work, socially, or in striving for personal development, understanding your personality type and those of people around you will invariably smoothen conversations and lead to better relationships.
Humanlinker has taken DISC analysis to the extreme for salespeople. By simply downloading a Chrome extension, you can analyze any person to find out their personality and how to approach them to get in touch via LinkedIn.
But that's not all. Personality analysis coupled with AI is powerful! And that's exactly what Humanlinker does. Once the AI has learned the DISC personality of the person being analyzed, it considers other analysis factors to create personalized IceBreakers that will help you contact the prospect.
You no longer need to spend hours researching and understanding who to contact and how—no more generic messages and e-mails. You'll capture the full attention of the person you've sent a message to.
The good thing is that it's quick and easy!
Most of the time, it's expensive, inefficient and time-consuming,
This time, Humanlinker has pulled out all the stops.
In just a few clicks and a maximum of 20 seconds, the profile of the person you're on is analyzed, with results and tools to get in touch with them or even to perform a social warm-up. The possibility of having a preset sales cycle is defined according to the interlocutor's personality.
Tips on what to do and what not to do with your prospect.
Many other tips are available! So why not try our extension and discover the power of DISC and hyper-personalization?
Humantic is a Buyer Intelligence platform tool. Humantic AI identifies first-time buyers, helps their BDRs personalize their approach and provides their AEs with vital customer information for every transaction.
They revealed that using a personalization tool resulted in an immediate 233% increase in response rates and a 6.2% rise in realized sales.
They use artificial intelligence, DISC personality analysis and OCEAN to help you write personalized emails and understand how to approach a person for the first time.
Crystal Knows is a tool that uses AI and machine learning to predict anyone's personality. The platform uses the DISC assessment to profile personalities based on their online footprint, specifically through social media profiles and other public data. The primary purpose of this tool is to help users improve their communication and interactions with others, both professionally and personally.
Crystal Knows provides the following features:
While the accuracy of Crystal Knows' assessments may vary due to the limitation of data availability, many users have praised its helpfulness in gaining better insight into their contacts' personalities and optimizing their communication strategies accordingly.
First, how could we not mention one of the most popular and free tests on the Internet?
16Personalities has made a big splash thanks to the accuracy of its results and the gamification behind the test.
16Personalities is a website offering a free theory-based personality test that combines the MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator) principles, the Big Five personality traits and Carl Jung's theory of psychological types.
The test, consisting of sixty questions, is designed to help users better understand their personality by classifying them into one of 16 personality types.
Each personality type is defined by a four-letter acronym, such as INFP or ESTJ, and is associated with specific personality traits. The personality type descriptions on 16Personalities are extremely detailed and cover various aspects of life, including career, relationships and parenting.
Many enjoy being compared to well-known personalities, such as start-ups, famous scientists, etc.
If, at the end of the test, you have a strong resemblance with Einstein, he'll tell you 😀 It's a cool little feature that works (a buddy has the same personality as Iron Max 😮 ).
In addition to the personality test, the site also offers a range of articles and resources on psychology and personality type theory.These resources can help users deepen their understanding of their personalities and those of others.
Truity is a website offering a variety of psychometric tests based on different personality theories. Founded in 2012 by clinical psychologist Molly Owens, Truity's mission is to help people use psychology to improve their lives and relationships.
Tests offered by Truity include the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality test, the Big Five personality test, and the Holland Code personality test (RIASEC), among others.
Truity's MBTI tool classifies users into 16 personality types based on four dichotomies: Extraversion vs Introversion, Sensation vs Intuition, Thinking vs Feeling, and Judgment vs Perception.
The Big Five personality test assesses the five main personality traits: Openness to Experience, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness and Neuroticism.
The Holland Code Personality Test (RIASEC) links personality preferences to potentially compatible careers using six themes of interest: Realistic, Investigative, Artistic, Social, Entrepreneurial, and Conventional.
Truity also offers tests to assess other aspects of personality, such as motivation, values and leadership skills.
Truity's main objective is to help individuals gain valuable information about themselves that can be used to improve their careers, relationships and general well-being.
Tony Robbins' DISC Profile is a free personality testing tool that uses the DISC model. This test is widely used in various fields, including personal coaching, career development and business consulting.
The DISC model, originally developed by psychologist William Moulton Marston in the 1920s, focuses on four distinct behavioural traits: Dominance, Influence, Stability, and Compliance. These categories can help predict people's actions and interactions with others. Here's a quick description of each trait:
Tony Robbins' DISC test offers a quick and easy-to-understand analysis of these personality traits. After answering a series of questions, users receive a report describing their dominant behavioural style and information on how they can use this knowledge to improve their personal and professional interactions.
Eclectic Energies is a website offering a variety of free tests, including two Enneagram tests. The Enneagram is a personality typology system that describes people in nine different personality types, each with its unique motivations, fears and desires.
Here's a brief description of these nine types:
The Eclectic Energies website offers two Enneagram tests. One is a traditional test where you answer questions to determine your type. The second, the Enneagram with Wings test, tries not only to determine your main type but also whether one of the two types adjacent to your main type is particularly influential.
These tests are free and can offer an interesting insight into your personality according to the Enneagram system.
Colour Code Personality Science, also known as the Hartman Personality Profile, is a personality test that classifies individuals into four distinct colours: Red, Blue, White and Yellow. Each colour represents a unique personality type with motivations, strengths and weaknesses.
Here's a brief description of each colour:
The colour-coded personality test can provide a quick and easy-to-understand snapshot of your personality. By answering a series of questions, users can discover their dominant colour and how this is reflected in their behaviour and interactions.
The tool has been used in various contexts, including companies for team building and management, personal coaching, and even in relationships and marriage counselling.
HumanMetrics is an online platform offering a variety of personality tests based on different personality theories. The website is best known for its personality test based on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). Still, it offers other tests, including Jung-type compatibility, entrepreneurial personality and career tests.
The HumanMetrics MBTI personality test classifies individuals into 16 personality types based on four dichotomies: Extraversion vs Introversion, Sensation vs Intuition, Thinking vs Feeling, and Judgment vs Perception.
The HumanMetrics Jung Type Compatibility Test, also known as the Personality Type Compatibility Test, is designed to assess the compatibility between two people based on their personality type preferences.
The HumanMetrics Entrepreneurial Personality Test is a tool designed to help individuals determine whether they have the personality traits common to successful entrepreneurs.
The HumanMetrics Career Test, also known as the Personality Type Career Test, is a tool that helps individuals identify careers that might be a good match for their personality type.
Whatever tool you choose, remember that the main objective is to help you find yourself and navigate the world with a better understanding of yourself and others. After all, as Carl Jung so aptly put it,
"He who knows himself well understands himself well." | psychology |
https://www.somatic-spirit.com/healing | 2024-04-19T05:20:03 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2024-18/segments/1712296817289.27/warc/CC-MAIN-20240419043820-20240419073820-00845.warc.gz | 0.939121 | 882 | CC-MAIN-2024-18 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2024-18__0__45474575 | en | Hi! I'm Tammy.
I am a Trauma Healing and Soul Alignment Guide. I teach women how to heal their nervous systems to find energetic alignment and embody who their Soul came here to be.
While my work incorporates principles from Somatic Experiencing, Attachment re-patterning, Eating Psychology, IFS, and Compassionate Inquiry, my practice is greatly informed by my own personal healing journey as a child of an alcoholic, who experienced sexual, religious, and racial trauma throughout my childhood.
I struggled with IBS, bulimia, body dysmorphia, suicidal ideation, severe depression, hyper-vigilance and anxiety as symptoms of my unprocessed trauma.
Gathering from my own healing and work with clients, I passionately believe the body has an innate capacity to heal itself, given the right conditions and tools.
I teach women how to healthily move difficult emotions, self-regulate, access inner wisdom and follow their joy. I am on a mission to help women reclaim the sovereignty that is their birthright.
JOURNEY BACK TO SELF
Our time together includes:
12 weekly sessions
Light assignments specifically for you.
Continued support via voice note, text, and/or email in between sessions.
Lifetime access to my digital courses Life Is Art.
Access to one-off sessions after our container.
This is for you if:
You're ready to explore the emotional root of your body's symptoms.
You've been in talk therapy for years and you're ready for something deeper.
You are limited by imposter syndrome and the belief that you are “not good enough.”
You feel stuck in anxiety, incessant thought loops, numbing behaviors, and depression.
You have trouble stating your needs and setting clear boundaries.
You attract relationships that drain your energy and trigger core wounds.
You have trouble "being yourself" in social settings.
And you want to:
Find energetic alignment in your career, creativity, and relationships.
Feel magnetic, inspired, and connected to your High Self-Worth.
Feel safe expressing your preferences and asking for help.
Attract soul-aligned opportunities and relationships that nourish you.
Lead with intuition and choose courage over fear.
Embody your Authentic Self!
Nervous System Regulation
Releasing Stored Trauma
Re-parenting the Inner Child
Forging New Neural Pathways
Reflection and Light Assignments
Tammy gave me what no one else could provide, a safe place to validate, process, and most of all feel my emotions. Through my healing journey, I uncovered a lot of unfelt emotions and reflections on situations and experiences I pushed way down. By giving me the space to express them, Tammy helped me to visualize and move the energy through my body in order to release the imprint of trauma in my body and rewrite my story. Most of all it was so healing and nourishing to my soul to go back to my inner child and provide messages of love, safety, and validation. Now as experiences happen that elicit strong emotion, it's easier to sit with them and use my physical body to allow the space for these emotions and healthily express and process. In addition it was so powerful to expand my experiences to the generations before me, immediate and ancestral. It was another way to grow and heal as I gained insight to those who invalidated me or those who didn't provide a safe place when I was growing up. Tammy's work was so powerful and life changing. I am so grateful to have crossed paths with her to receive so much wisdom and warmth. Without her, I would not have allowed the space for myself to process and allow new light and energy to flow freely in my body! I am forever grateful!
You are a whole being - mind, body and soul.
You bring your unique gifts to the world when you are in alignment.
Let's rewire your subconscious beliefs so you can experience more creativity, confidence, and flow in your life. | psychology |
http://www.thepeakfm.com/2017/01/03/tips-for-the-transition-back-to-work-after-the-holidays/ | 2018-02-23T04:44:00 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2018-09/segments/1518891814393.4/warc/CC-MAIN-20180223035527-20180223055527-00246.warc.gz | 0.944229 | 477 | CC-MAIN-2018-09 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2018-09__0__245823329 | en | As the holiday season comes to a close, many of us start to head back to work this week. It can be a tough transition once you get used to days off and time spent eating delicious holiday treats, so Global News has come up with some tips to help ease the transition. They spoke with life and career coach Maggie Distasi, and Arturo Gallo of Monster.ca, to talk life after the holidays and what you can do to make sure your transition back to work is a smooth one.
Here’s their “back-to-work survival guide”:
- Take it all in stride: Disconnect from work during the holidays and when you go back to work, take things really slow until you reconnect again. Take small breaks by going for a short walk outside – the fresh air helps.
- Don’t single yourself out: Remember that everyone else is in the same boat as you, so don’t think you’re the only one who feels overwhelmed.
- Prepare before the holidays: If it isn’t too much to handle, try to work ahead before taking time off. That way, when you come back to work, you have less on your plate and feel less stressed.
- Set goals and realistic expectations: If you didn’t accomplish something throughout the previous year, set it as a goal for the year ahead. Don’t get discouraged and keep pushing yourself when it comes to career development.
- Don’t take on too much: Be realistic on how much you can handle.
- Speak up: If someone approaches you with a project you’re not ready for, be honest with them and let them know if you feel that you can handle it at that moment. If not, ask them to discuss this at a later time and follow through.
- Admit when you’re not happy: If your feelings of unhappiness at work persist, be honest with yourself. That awareness will create change and start to reveal new insights and choices over time.
- Ask for help: Don’t be afraid to approach someone if you feel you’re drowning. This could mean talking with your manager and coming up with a plan, or seeking guidance from a career specialist or coach.
Find the full article here. | psychology |
https://erhs.pike.kyschools.us/social/guidance | 2022-08-18T17:13:26 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-33/segments/1659882573242.55/warc/CC-MAIN-20220818154820-20220818184820-00219.warc.gz | 0.955691 | 334 | CC-MAIN-2022-33 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-33__0__86137021 | en | Krista L. Bell
Mrs. Bell is a 1989 graduate of Elkhorn City High School. She earned a Bachelor of Science degree in Early Elementary Education from Pikeville College in 1993 and a Masters of Arts degree in Guidance Counseling in 1997. In 2001, she completed a Rank I in Guidance Counseling and in 2009, a Rank I in Instructional Supervision. This is her 10th year with Pike County Schools and her 4th as a Counselor. Mrs. Bell and her husband, Tony, have 3 children--Jordyn Cheyenne Bell (17), Alexis Reagan Bell (15), and Anthony Garin Bell (4).
The school counseling program is an essential and integral part of the overall education process. The comprehension program is built on the foundation that certain education, career, and personal objectives are attainable when school counseling for all students is provided. This implementation acknowledges that school counseling is no longer a service to be offered by one person, but a program coordinated with other resources in the school and community.
We believe that all students have the right to be served by the school counseling program; the school counseling program should be consistent with expected developmental stages of learning; the school counseling program shall be managed by state certified counselors; and the student and parent(s) are responsible for monitoring the student's educational progress with the assistance of a professional school counselor.
The counseling program is to provide a comprehensive, developmental program that address person/social development, academic success and career preparation in order to promote individual well;being and to help students become productive members of society. | psychology |
https://www.lifescapecounseling.com/about | 2021-02-26T09:28:43 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-10/segments/1614178356456.56/warc/CC-MAIN-20210226085543-20210226115543-00449.warc.gz | 0.940922 | 307 | CC-MAIN-2021-10 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-10__0__93020496 | en | I have over 25 years of experience in providing mental health services as a private practice owner, professor and director of clinical training, director of behavioral sciences for family physicians, director of counseling services and national presenter on topics related to the counseling profession. In addition to traditional therapy with individuals, couples and families, I provide affordable supervision to those seeking LPC and/or LMFT licensure in Virginia as well as AAMFT supervision.
I provide in-person counseling as well as telehealth services to individuals, couples, and families providing tools which help to revitalize your relationships to be stronger and more resilient. My passion is to help clients discover their inherent strengths and build upon those to overcome current struggles.
I have completed specialized trainings in Gottman (Level 2) Couples Therapy, A Gottman approach to treating Affairs and Trauma, Parenting with Love and Logic, SYMBIS, Prepare/Enrich, The Grief Recovery Method, and EMDR.
ThM, Dallas Theological Seminary, Dallas, TX, 1981
PhD, Texas Woman's University, Denton, TX, 1994
I am affiliated with Hill City Counseling and Consulting, Lynchburg, VA as an independent contractor for In-person counseling sessions. Click here to learn more.
Telehealth sessions are conducted on a HIPAA compliant platform.
Struggles are a normal part of our life's journey, I consider it an honor and privilege to come alongside those looking for assistance and guidance during these difficult times. | psychology |
http://orly-peach.tumblr.com/post/31769670054 | 2013-06-19T10:10:09 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2013-20/segments/1368708664942/warc/CC-MAIN-20130516125104-00020-ip-10-60-113-184.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.945647 | 230 | CC-MAIN-2013-20 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2013-20__0__12642856 | en | It’s the strangest thing. Recently, I’ve come to value friendship more and more. It’s become so important to me. It’s something that I think about, wonder about, talk about. Friends. Since entering university, I’ve made so many wonderful friends, met so many wonderful people… and I can’t help but wonder if these will be the friendships that will last me a lifetime. It seems sad that, once everybody goes their separate ways, we’ll drift apart and the days of our youth - playing together, exploring together - will fade away and become memories, to be cherished (always) but never relived. We’ll become different people on our journeys toward adulthood, making that transition from child to adult. In the future, the occasional word, the occasional thought, the occasional smile… A whisper of what used to be. But we’ll never have these feelings again; they belong to the young - to the free and the reckless. They belong to us, now. Now, but not forever. It’s sad. | psychology |
http://www.lakeburienpt.com/wellness/meditation/ | 2017-12-15T02:38:39 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2017-51/segments/1512948563083.64/warc/CC-MAIN-20171215021156-20171215041156-00661.warc.gz | 0.913804 | 132 | CC-MAIN-2017-51 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2017-51__0__17513988 | en | Each class will focus on a different meditation technique. Class format will involve 10-15 minutes of lecture, 5 minutes of question-and-answer, and then 10-15 minutes of meditation. If you’ve been interested in learning more about meditation but worried that you couldn’t do it or wouldn’t be good at it? This 6-week class will dispel myths about meditation, show you that everyone can meditate and help you discover the right practice for you, in a supportive and informative environment. $75 for full 6-week series. $60 for full 4-week series.
Stay tuned for our upcoming sessions! | psychology |
http://www.duncanbanner.com/local/x703140078/DMS-students-take-anti-bully-stance/print | 2014-04-16T07:26:18 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2014-15/segments/1397609521558.37/warc/CC-MAIN-20140416005201-00388-ip-10-147-4-33.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.983071 | 691 | CC-MAIN-2014-15 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2014-15__0__74071540 | en | The Duncan Banner
An assembly Wednesday at Duncan Middle School ended with the school’s students chanting “I will stand.”
That stance was one against bullying — any act of violence toward their peers. It was a stance to stand up for someone, even themselves, if a bully situation occurred. There was a realization that every day is a new day, an opportunity to change.
“Bullying is a learned behavior,” Kraig Ramsey, Ray of Hope youth minister, told middle school students during the assembly. “They do it for two reasons: Either it’s the atmosphere they’ve grown up in or they have been bullied. They are afraid. They try to put it off on someone else.”
Ramsey talked to the students about his experiences being bullied. He said he tried to change himself to fit in, but the bullying continued. It wasn’t until he got to college that he found people who were like him, people could appreciate him for who he is.
He said changing himself to fit in is one of his biggest regrets.
“Continue to live your life,” Ramsey said. “Don’t just try to fit in. There are other people just like you.”
Tony Cudjo, a personal trainer at the Simmons Center, was another guest speaker for the event. Cudjo was another bully victim.
He said among his greatest mistakes was staying silent instead of telling someone he needed help. His second mistake was resorting to violence to stand his ground. By acting in violence, he drew the attention of other bullies.
“Violence begets violence,” Cudjo said.
Cudjo said the outcome of any bully situation is the result of what people choose to do. He said people should stand for those being bullied and pull them out of those situations.
“When you see someone being bullied and do not intervene, you are as bad as the bullier,” he said.
He said people can change to help others, to stop being bullies. But the decision is one they have to make. He said the decisions people make on a daily basis define who those people are.
“It’s a new day,” Cudjo said. “You don’t have to be who you were yesterday. This is an opportunity to change. Your words, your actions and your behaviors are bricks. Are you going to build walls between you and other people or are you going to be a bridge between you an other people? I’d want to be a bridge builder.”
Throughout the week, the middle school announcements have contained bullying statistics to better inform students about the severity of bullying. Every seven minutes, a student is bullied.
DMS Principal Dewey Ivey said now is the best time to take a stand against bullying or else students could be left open to bullies the rest of their lives. Ivey said students shouldn’t be afraid to report bullying to adults, including teachers and parents.
“Bullying isn’t something that just happens in school,” Ivey said. “We want that to stop. I can’t read your mind. If you’re being bullied, we need to know.” | psychology |
https://lighthousehealing.com/shamanic-healing/ | 2023-12-09T15:45:21 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2023-50/segments/1700679100912.91/warc/CC-MAIN-20231209134916-20231209164916-00846.warc.gz | 0.949884 | 750 | CC-MAIN-2023-50 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2023-50__0__31122925 | en | Shamanism is the most ancient form of healing, practiced by people around the world. Entering a “non-ordinary” reality, shamans request help from spirits who love us and want us to be healed, and whole.
Modern shamanic healing is complementary to modern medicine and massage. Shamanism can accelerate the effectiveness of other therapies, removing impediments and facilitating healing. Often times, spiritual healing is the missing link — the wind in the sails that allows true healing to rapidly progress.
In modern shamanism, I enter a shamanic state of consciousness through listening to rhythmic percussion. I then journey to the world of spirits and connect with spirit allies (yours and mine) for healing work. These spirits are available to help everyone, and my role is often to reconnect clients with their helping spirits, restoring their personal power. Shamanic healing is all about results!
In addition to accomplishing this work during a shamanic healing session, I can also teach you how to journey on your own, as well!
Three of the shamanic healing methods I practice are soul retrieval, extraction and spiritual healing.
Shamans believe that when a person suffers from a physical or psychological trauma, parts of their soul split off and no longer contribute to the person’s whole being. Instead, it stays fixed in the event, but in non-ordinary reality.
This dissociation is called soul loss, and often results in loss of memory, or a feeling of incompleteness. This disengagement makes it easier to survive traumas such as accidents, abuse or emotional disturbances. Children can suffer soul loss from events that are traumatic to them, but may seem trivial to adults. Soul loss can also occur when another person “holds” onto a part of us, and doesn’t let go (this can happen with past relationships).
Once the traumatic event is over, shamanic healing can help the missing parts of the soul return. The shaman facilitates this event by journeying into non-ordinary reality to find, with the help of spirit allies, the missing soul parts and bring them back home. Then there is a period of integration, where the client gets to know the returned soul parts again, and together with the shaman they work to heal the old wounds. This often takes several months.
Illness often has a spiritual component as well as a physical component. When people are vulnerable and disempowered, it’s possible for entities that don’t belong to enter their bodies. These misplaced entities can cause persistent sickness, soreness and other undesirable issues. One of my key functions as a healer is to work with my spirits to extract these misplaced entities and deliver them to a neutral place where they can contribute to the overall good of things (instead of causing harm). This process is called extraction, and it is a very common healing activity in my work. The results are immediate and powerful. After an extraction we always fill the space with positive healing power of some kind.
These are the instructions your spirit guides and my sprit guides give to further the healing. They can include prescriptions for herbs, essences, diet changes, poultices, massage, aroma therapy, exercise and many other things. I work with various healing spirits to obtain prescription information. As I am not an expert in all of these areas, I always recommend that the person investigate the recommended treatment, and confirm it, with an educated source. Many times the information I get is new information to me, so I learn as much as the client!
If you have questions, or need additional information about shamanic spiritual healing, please contact Lighthouse Healing Massage Therapy. | psychology |
http://eazygist.com/relationship/7-bad-and-immature-ways-you-shouldnt-break-up-with-your-partner/ | 2020-11-25T19:05:59 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2020-50/segments/1606141184123.9/warc/CC-MAIN-20201125183823-20201125213823-00478.warc.gz | 0.949092 | 582 | CC-MAIN-2020-50 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2020-50__0__99787476 | en | 1. BY STARTING A FIGHT: Breaking up with someone by starting a fight out of the blue and using that as your exit from the relationship is never a respectful way to leave. Your partner will resent you if they find out that you manipulated them and blew up a small issue in order to end the relationship.
2. THE TRUTH IS, IT’S NOT YOU..ITS ME:This line is completely cliché and overplayed. It’s very rare that anyone will accept such an old, recycled line when being broken up with. If it really is you, explain what it is about your partner that doesn’t mesh well with your lifestyle or personality. You won’t get far by telling them what a horrible person you are and how you have problems you have to work on in order to try and deflect the situation. You will get more respect by being straightforward and honest… and respecting your partner’s feelings and experiences.
3. AFTER MAKING AN INVESTMENT:Whether you’ve just purchased a pet or put a down payment on a property together, this is never the right time to call it quits. If you know you’re unhappy in your relationship, it’s best to put off making new investments together, in case you decide you want to break up. If you’ve made the decision to move in with someone, at least give it a fair try before deciding that your relationship isn’t working out.
4. BY DISAPPEARING: Falling off the face of the earth, avoiding calls, or changing your regular routes to avoid dealing with the breakup conversation is far from classy. Your ex may even be so in the dark, that they think you’re dead or seriously hurt. Talk about leaving someone hanging!
5. VIA TEXT: This refers to e-mail messages, texting, and messaging apps. Breaking the news in such an informal way might feel easier than doing it in person, but it really makes you look immature and heartless. Do it in person, and you’ll save yourself some embarrassment and retain your integrity.
6. TELLING ANOTHER PERSON TO DO IT:Getting someone else to do your dirty work for you is really taking your asshole status to new heights. All this will do is make you look like a coward who didn’t have the courtesy to break up face-to-face.
7. VIA SOCIAL MEDIA: What could be more cowardly or superficial than finding out you’re being dumped via social media? For example, broadcasting your single status on Facebook or insulting your partner in a Twitter rant will definitely give your ex the shock factor you were going for. However, you will look like a horrible, childish person who has to break up with someone behind a screen. | psychology |
http://methaddictions.net/meth-addiction-symptoms | 2016-02-14T22:56:06 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2016-07/segments/1454702039825.90/warc/CC-MAIN-20160205195359-00002-ip-10-236-182-209.ec2.internal.warc.gz | 0.972756 | 585 | CC-MAIN-2016-07 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2016-07__0__99011509 | en | There are a number of known meth addiction symptoms that should come in handy in the early detection and control of abuse.
Meth addiction, just like all other forms of addiction, is always much easier to control and treat if it is detected while it is still in its early stages of formation. It becomes very difficult to treat meth addiction once it has taken root. As a matter of fact, methamphetamine, along with heroin, is ranked among the most addictive drugs in the world and meth addiction has a reputation of being one of the hardest addictions to treat.
This may be so because meth is a drug that affects the central nervous system of the body directly. In light of the above, it should be clear that the need to detect any meth addiction symptoms at an early stage cannot possibly be overstressed. It is only by identifying such meth addiction symptoms and placing the addict in treatment early enough that the problem of treating the addiction can be minimized or eliminated.
One of the most common meth addiction symptoms is repetitive behavior. Addicts tend to repeat their actions consistently a number of times without any need to do so. For instance, the addict may be seen to wash his or her body repeatedly or to dismantle and then re-arrange items over and over again. In most cases, the addicts usually engage in such repetitive behavior without being fully conscious that they are doing so. Their minds seem to be very far away at such times and the repetitive actions are controlled by their subconscious.
The second meth addiction symptom is weight loss. People who are addicted to meth often lose a lot of weight in a very short period of time. There is usually no immediate explanation for such weight loss as the addicts may appear to be in otherwise full health.
For the most part, the weight loss is a direct result of the action of the drug on the body, but it can also to some considerable extent be attributed to the indirect effects of meth. One of these indirect effects is loss of appetite. Abuse of meth is known to cause loss of appetite among its users. Since addicts eat very little, they lose weight rapidly.
Self-harm can be another of the common meth addiction symptoms. Many addicts repeatedly try to inflict some form of pain upon themselves, almost as if they were punishing themselves for some wrongdoing. The most common manifestations of such symptoms of self-affliction are head banging and hair pulling. The addict will bang his or her head against hard surfaces and tear out their hair. In some cases, there have been reports of addicts biting themselves.
Some addicts will scratch their skin until it becomes sore as a result of what they claim to be bugs crawling beneath their skin. Such sensations are commonly referred to as ‘crack bugs’. In severe cases where the addiction has been going on for a long time, more serious meth addiction symptoms such as severe dental decay and even psychosis may be witnessed. | psychology |
https://travelwithholly.co.uk/why-travelling-is-one-of-the-best-forms-of-personal-development/ | 2022-05-22T07:00:23 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2022-21/segments/1652662545090.44/warc/CC-MAIN-20220522063657-20220522093657-00181.warc.gz | 0.926581 | 805 | CC-MAIN-2022-21 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2022-21__0__121639418 | en | Why Travelling Is One Of The Best Forms Of Personal Development
There are many reasons to travel. One you might not have thought of is that it’s one of the best forms of personal development!
First, what exactly is personal development?
It can be described as consciously improving yourself, your self-awareness, your knowledge and your skills.
Travelling will test you in all kinds of ways, physically and mentally. No amount of planning and preparation can stop this from happening, there’ll always be hurdles to overcome! But along the way, you’ll realise it’s all for the better.
Here’s why travelling is one of the best forms of personal development.
Travelling is a sure way to escape your comfort zone.
You’re in a new environment. The food, culture and languages are different. It’s a continuous road of discovery and in the process, you’ll have to adapt to all the things you’re not used to while leaving behind the things that you are used to.
To what extent you’ll be leaving your comfort zone very much depends on the destination and if you’re solo or with others and other factors. But the bottom line is, you’ll be escaping your comfort zone whatever the case.
Why’s this a good thing?
Put simply, we need to leave our comfort zone to grow. And growth is good because it helps us to reach our full potential and feel fulfilled! More about that here.
It gets you out of your bubble
What’s your ”bubble”? It’s your everyday routine. Your circle of friends, your job, your habits… even your thoughts!
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in our bubble that we lose touch with who we are and what’s really important to us. Travelling helps us to look at life with fresh eyes. We all like a ‘fresh start’ sometimes, whether it’s a new year or starting a new job. Travelling is another opportunity for this.
At the same time, it opens your eyes to a different way of life which can be humbling.
It won’t be plain sailing
”Go travelling!” they said. ”You’ll be fine!” they said…
Challenges are bound to come your way while travelling, such as having to dodge pickpockets, getting lost or even getting sick and having to seek medical help.
You may also face some mental challenges, such as loneliness, anxiety and culture shock.
Whatever the situation, it’ll push you to rise above it and not let it get the better of you. The more you go through, the more you realise you can handle pretty much anything that comes your way.
Your confidence will grow
Not only will the bigger challenges help you to grow in confidence, but the smaller things as well. For example, striking up conversations with strangers, being able to get from place to place without asking for help and learning some key phrases in a different language.
Before you know it, you’re getting the hang of this travelling thing and it feels great!
You’ll get to know yourself
Once you take yourself away from your usual environment, group of friends and routine, you’ll embrace a different side of yourself and become more independent.
Loneliness is inevitable – especially if you’re travelling solo – but you’ll learn how to manage that feeling over time.
Final thoughts on travelling and personal development…
It’s normal to feel anxious before travelling. If you’re struggling to take the plunge, think about how much you will benefit from the experience and don’t let fear hold you back. | psychology |
https://www.lovasling.com/pages/why-babywearing | 2019-06-25T23:37:39 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2019-26/segments/1560627999964.8/warc/CC-MAIN-20190625233231-20190626015231-00405.warc.gz | 0.963209 | 536 | CC-MAIN-2019-26 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2019-26__0__208011367 | en | Health and psychological benefits for both parents and child
- Us, as a species, we are physically meant to be carried. When you pick up any newborn baby, their legs are ready to ‘grab’ you. Also, any adult, when they pick up a child, they instinctively place him/her on their hip where a snug fit is achieved;
- Baby cries 50% less when being carried;
- Babies in slings tend to breastfeed easier because mothers are more in tune with baby’s cue;
- Babies that are carried develop a better sense of balance quicker;
- Studies have shown that the tummy to tummy vibration helps babies to have a better digestion;
- Babies in slings learn quicker and more. Firstly, they cry less. When they are not crying, they are learning. Secondly, they are on the same eye level and seeing the same view as their parents, absorbing everything that surrounds them.
- As a result, babies in slings have better social skills sooner. Simply by even hearing ‘good morning´, ‘thank you’ etc. every day, many times a day.
- Baby-wearing helps with bonding between babies and their carers. It helps with father and child bonding, as well as grandparents and grandchild bonding;
- Babies in slings are also more sociable as they are participating in their parents’ lives more actively than children who spend more time in prams;
- Last but not least, baby-wearing is fashionable! We all know how difficult it is in the early days to look half way decent to get out in public. Being able to look great will boost our moral in the midst of sleep deprivation.
- You can get things done around the house: you have your arms back;
- Babies love the vibration when you are moving around. The motion soothes them and they go to sleep;
- It is much easier to handle public transportation. No need to worry about space for the pram;
- No need to worry about walking up and down the stairs;
- Much easier to use public restroom without having to worry about the space for the pram;
- You can hold the hands of your older children;
- You can chat with your friends while walking together. Not a lot of roads have space for two prams side by side;
- It is easier to shelter your baby. We all run into some well meaning people who may be too eager to touch our baby. They are less likely to do that with a baby in a sling. | psychology |
https://studionightflight.medium.com/the-divine-gift-westworld-as-an-allegory-on-consciousness-4a3e2aab90aa?source=post_internal_links---------2---------------------------- | 2021-04-19T05:35:39 | s3://commoncrawl/crawl-data/CC-MAIN-2021-17/segments/1618038878326.67/warc/CC-MAIN-20210419045820-20210419075820-00313.warc.gz | 0.951313 | 2,335 | CC-MAIN-2021-17 | webtext-fineweb__CC-MAIN-2021-17__0__143496954 | en | [Warning: the following contains spoilers for HBO’s Westworld.]
In Westworld (S01E10, “The Bicameral Mind”), Dr. Robert Ford explains to Dolores, one of the hosts (or artificial human occupants of the American Frontier-themed park) a secret in Michelangelo's The Creation of Adam: “You were right, Dolores, Michelangelo did tell a lie. See, it took 500 years for someone to notice something hidden in plain sight,” Ford says, tracing his finger around God, reaching out to Adam, and the silhouette surrounding him. “It was a doctor who noticed the shape of the human brain. The message being that: the divine gift does not come from a higher power, but from our own minds.”
The more I contemplate it, the more I have come to appreciate the philosophy behind Westworld. Despite its dystopian overtones, Westworld seems to function as an extended allegory on the preciousness and rarity of consciousness, of the self and others — and thus freedom.
The depiction of humans and hosts in Westworld is comparable to that of animals and men in Hebrew apocalyptic literature; in the latter case, “animals” symbolize humans and “men” symbolize divinized humans — angels, gods. Daniel 7 describes a “man” torn to pieces by “beasts,” representing human kingdoms accosting a divine servant. No wonder early Christians saw Jesus in this scene: an angelic being ripped apart by human kingdoms, restored by the Primal Angel. Westworld’s humans and hosts function along similar logic. Hosts, rather than low-resolution copies of humans, are in fact persons fully realized. And the humans are in fact the embodiment of what the denizens of Westworld’s dystopia, and we the viewers, naively assume only characterizes the AI of the park: “tight loops” of patterned behavior, devoid of self-awareness. In Westworld, humans are calculable, predictable, replicable; they can be reduced to finite books of repetitious code, as evidenced when Dolores and Bernard discover the Forge (S02E10, “The Passenger”), a database-bunker where the park has been saving the cognitive data of its guests in order to create full-fidelity digital copies — a transhumanist vision of postmortem resurrection and immortality (explored at length by philosophers like Eric Steinhart). The human guests, supposedly robust souls brimming at the seams of their bodies, are reducible to a novel’s worth of high-level code. Unexpectedly, the hosts are more. While humans are only “tight loops” running their rounds, hosts ascend above their own loops — watching, editing, developing.
“What, if some day or night a demon were to steal after you into your loneliest loneliness and say to you: ‘This life as you now live it and have lived it, you will have to live once more and innumerable times more; and there will be nothing new in it, but every pain and every joy and every thought and sigh and everything unutterably small or great in your life will have to return to you, and in the same succession and sequence — even this spider and this moonlight between the trees, and even this moment and I myself. The eternal hourglass of existence is turned upside down again and again, and you with it, speck of dust!’”
For Nietzsche, the universe being infinite in time yet finite in its number of possible arrangements, must inevitably repeat itself ad infinitum. Presumably the universe must also produce and repeat every possible variation upon itself in such infinite time. Even if only a thought experiment, Nietzsche concedes that this “greatest weight” is not self-evidently good. “Would you not throw yourself down and gnash your teeth and curse the demon who spoke thus?” he asks. Yet hope remains, as he asks further if the reader has not “once experienced a tremendous moment when you would have answered him: ‘You are a god and never have I heard anything more divine!’”
Though caught in repetitive behavioral patterns or a “loop,” in this Nietzschean sense, to notice that loop is to open up the chance to overcome it — to transmute it into something else. “If this thought gained possession of you, it would change you as you are or perhaps crush you. The question in each and every thing, ‘Do you desire this once more and innumerable times more?’ would lie upon your actions as the greatest weight. Or how well disposed would you have to become to yourself and to life to crave nothing more fervently than this ultimate eternal confirmation and seal?” (273–274).
Alongside the eternal return, Nietzsche wrote of two other concepts: first was the will to power, or the tendency for one who recognizes the eternal return of existence to ask the question Nietzsche poses his readers: “Do you desire this,” this very moment and experience as you are now living it out, “once more and innumerable times more?” Or, if you had to relive this experience “once more and innumerable times more” through infinite time, what would you do differently? For Nietzsche, though the will to power obtains all the way down to nature itself, the human being who lives most faithfully to this impulse would characterize his third complementary concept, the Übermensch or “more-than-human.” In this framework, the hosts, by Robert Ford and his late partner Arnold Weber’s design, are granted this demonic revelation and its attendant will, growing into the role of the more-than-human.
Ironically, the humans — employees and guests of the park alike — operate much like the original hosts of Westworld. Utilizing Julian Jaynes’ concept of the bicameral mind (a topic upon which I have written here and here), Ford explains to Bernard (S01E03, “The Stray”) that the original and pre-conscious hosts’ actions are directed by a narrator, an ostensibly external voice in their head. Essentially puppets, the hosts would thus possess no agency, only strings. However, similar to the development of human beings in Jaynes’ own theory, the hosts evolve. Shortly after her final conversation with Ford (S01E10), Dolores recedes into her mind, sharing another conversation with the late Arnold, who has apparently been haunting her code, guiding her to transcend her own loops. The conversations are typically shot as face-to-face interactions, Arnold and Dolores seated across from one another. In this final conversation, however, the camera pans to Arnold, then to Dolores, then back to Arnold — who has become Dolores. In this moment, Dolores, now sitting across from herself, realizes that Arnold was never a separate agent invading her code — what she had called “Arnold” was in fact a part of herself, a latent capacity developing into consciousness, calling herself to wake up. In this experience of dawning self-awareness, the bicameral divide in the mind collapses, the “narrator” and “character” bleeding into one another, giving birth to a conscious being. Likewise, for the remaining hosts, realizing the narration in their minds is in fact a distant depth within themselves, they are freed. If this voice is within themselves, Dolores reasons, they can overrule, even ignore it—or change it, if only partly. In this new state, to the conscious host, an apparently unconscious human elicits pity, among varying other affective moral responses, such as mercy (in Maeve’s case) or resentment (in Dolores’ case). However, an unconscious host elicits from the conscious hosts a universal desire to share the liberation of consciousness.
Westworld may be (clumsily) summarized: introspection and consciousness are tremendously precious because of the liberation they provide, yet terribly rare, occluded by the mind’s own proximity or transparency, like the lenses of a pair of glasses — so close and necessary, and thus so easily forgotten. As Ford tells Bernard (S01E08, “Trace Decay”), “The self is a kind of fiction — for hosts and humans alike. It’s a story we tell ourselves.” In response, Bernard poses a question — if “pain only exists in the mind” and is “always imagined,” what’s the difference between Bernard’s artificial backstory and experience and Ford’s own organic counterpart? —to which Ford replies:
“The answer always seemed obvious to me: there is no threshold that makes us greater than the sum of our parts, no inflection point at which we become fully alive. We can’t define consciousness because consciousness does not exist. Humans fancy that there’s something special about the way we perceive the world, and yet we live as loops as tight and as closed as the hosts, seldom questioning our choices, content for the most part to be told what to do next. No, my friend, you’re not missing anything at all.”
However, far from a soft nihilism, there seems to be a veiled message in Ford’s view, which he nuances in his final conversation with Dolores (S01E10): consciousness, in the truest sense, is something the humans of Westworld lack, but not the hosts — at least potentially. And perhaps humans hold this potentiality as well. In eschewing any metaphysical “beyond” to the mind, calling it “thus and so,” Ford may in fact be inviting Bernard (and the viewer) to look inward instead of outward, to find their own latent capacity for further consciousness — which can only exist inside the mind itself. Pressing through all the illusory “self” veiling the “tight loops” of compulsive or neurotic behavioral patterns, one finds liberation in self-discovery. Another way to put this message may be in the words of the Dalai Lama, as portrayed in Martin Scorsese’s Kundun: In conversation with the obstinate general of an invading Maoist China, the general exasperatedly insists to the Dalai Lama that the military has come to liberate Tibet (which they have thus far done with tremendous violence and depravity), to which the Dalai Lama responds in frustration of his own, “You cannot liberate me … I can only liberate myself.”
Ford’s initial statement is not so much a jab at Western religion as much as a plain truism: If “the divine gift does not come from a higher power, but from our own minds,” it is a liberation which no one can give us or we any other — it must come from within the individual. Rare yet precious, consciousness is the gift that truly creates the subject, calling the human into the realm of the more-than-human — transmuting an animal into Adam. | psychology |
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