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zbonpf
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Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iystjnh
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iyskx6v
| 1,670,104,798 | 1,670,101,119 | 554 | 230 |
If police want to enter a private residence they generally need one of three things. Consent, a warrant, or exigent circumstances (emergency situations like a fire, hot pursuit, etc). Your building management cannot provide consent on your behalf. And there doesn't seem to be any exigent circumstance present. I suppose it's possible they presented a warrant to the management. But if they didn't, then this seems like a potential civil rights violation.
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This goes over it. If they didn't have a warrant, this sounds pretty not okay. https://www.acluohio.org/en/search-and-seizure#:\~:text=Emergency%20circumstances.,a%20residence%20or%20other%20property.
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zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iyuwjjj
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iyuyh6a
| 1,670,148,146 | 1,670,149,859 | 11 | 27 |
Absent a warrant or exigent circumstances (hot pursuit, knowledge of a hurt person inside, etc), the management letting in police without a warrant is almost certainly a lease violation; this goes double if the landlord also entered your unit. You might be able to seek legal damages. Whether those damages would surpass the amount spent hiring a lawyer and going to court is debatable. Consult with a lawyer versed in landlord/tenant law for advice; a short consultation is typically free.
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No it's not OK. Did you receive a 24-hour notice from your landlord that they were going to let someone in the unit as required by Ohio law? You have a right to quiet enjoyment of your residence. Landlords are allowed to enter a unit under certain circumstances, which are spelled out in your lease and state law. Anything else, including letting cops in to poke around, is a violation of your rights. It could easily continue too unless you act. At a minimum, I would write a letter of complaint to your landlord detailing the incident and asking them to clarify policies with the maintenance staff. Keep a copy of it for yourself. If you don't get a satisfactory response or if it happens again, it's time to find a lawyer.
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zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iytuxdg
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iyuyh6a
| 1,670,122,512 | 1,670,149,859 | 5 | 27 |
If I understand correctly, there is an issue at your building, and someone from the building management contacted the police to report it. When the police responded, someone from the building mgmt company let the police in to your unit. Unless the police did more than "ask" to have the door opened, it would seem there is no violation of law by police. Your concern is therefore with your building management rather than the police. Terms of your lease would state when building mgmt can enter your unit.
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No it's not OK. Did you receive a 24-hour notice from your landlord that they were going to let someone in the unit as required by Ohio law? You have a right to quiet enjoyment of your residence. Landlords are allowed to enter a unit under certain circumstances, which are spelled out in your lease and state law. Anything else, including letting cops in to poke around, is a violation of your rights. It could easily continue too unless you act. At a minimum, I would write a letter of complaint to your landlord detailing the incident and asking them to clarify policies with the maintenance staff. Keep a copy of it for yourself. If you don't get a satisfactory response or if it happens again, it's time to find a lawyer.
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zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iyuyh6a
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iytunny
| 1,670,149,859 | 1,670,122,373 | 27 | 3 |
No it's not OK. Did you receive a 24-hour notice from your landlord that they were going to let someone in the unit as required by Ohio law? You have a right to quiet enjoyment of your residence. Landlords are allowed to enter a unit under certain circumstances, which are spelled out in your lease and state law. Anything else, including letting cops in to poke around, is a violation of your rights. It could easily continue too unless you act. At a minimum, I would write a letter of complaint to your landlord detailing the incident and asking them to clarify policies with the maintenance staff. Keep a copy of it for yourself. If you don't get a satisfactory response or if it happens again, it's time to find a lawyer.
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I have to wonder if the unit is owned by your building and is in anyway payment for your position. I wonder if that would make a difference.
| 1 | 27,486 | 9 |
zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iyueshl
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iyuyh6a
| 1,670,133,757 | 1,670,149,859 | 4 | 27 |
The way you describe it, the cops can probably legally argue they didn't brake any rules. (So long as they didn't demand to be let in and they didn't open any cupboards or anything to search.) The issue would seem to be with the maintenance workers. They didn't have cause to grant access to the police... But they did anyway. Holding keys like that comes with responsibility and at minimum they need to be retrained. They allowed cops into your property to conduct a visual scan of your home without a warrant.
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No it's not OK. Did you receive a 24-hour notice from your landlord that they were going to let someone in the unit as required by Ohio law? You have a right to quiet enjoyment of your residence. Landlords are allowed to enter a unit under certain circumstances, which are spelled out in your lease and state law. Anything else, including letting cops in to poke around, is a violation of your rights. It could easily continue too unless you act. At a minimum, I would write a letter of complaint to your landlord detailing the incident and asking them to clarify policies with the maintenance staff. Keep a copy of it for yourself. If you don't get a satisfactory response or if it happens again, it's time to find a lawyer.
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zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iytuxdg
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iyuwjjj
| 1,670,122,512 | 1,670,148,146 | 5 | 11 |
If I understand correctly, there is an issue at your building, and someone from the building management contacted the police to report it. When the police responded, someone from the building mgmt company let the police in to your unit. Unless the police did more than "ask" to have the door opened, it would seem there is no violation of law by police. Your concern is therefore with your building management rather than the police. Terms of your lease would state when building mgmt can enter your unit.
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Absent a warrant or exigent circumstances (hot pursuit, knowledge of a hurt person inside, etc), the management letting in police without a warrant is almost certainly a lease violation; this goes double if the landlord also entered your unit. You might be able to seek legal damages. Whether those damages would surpass the amount spent hiring a lawyer and going to court is debatable. Consult with a lawyer versed in landlord/tenant law for advice; a short consultation is typically free.
| 0 | 25,634 | 2.2 |
zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iyuwjjj
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iytunny
| 1,670,148,146 | 1,670,122,373 | 11 | 3 |
Absent a warrant or exigent circumstances (hot pursuit, knowledge of a hurt person inside, etc), the management letting in police without a warrant is almost certainly a lease violation; this goes double if the landlord also entered your unit. You might be able to seek legal damages. Whether those damages would surpass the amount spent hiring a lawyer and going to court is debatable. Consult with a lawyer versed in landlord/tenant law for advice; a short consultation is typically free.
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I have to wonder if the unit is owned by your building and is in anyway payment for your position. I wonder if that would make a difference.
| 1 | 25,773 | 3.666667 |
zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iyueshl
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iyuwjjj
| 1,670,133,757 | 1,670,148,146 | 4 | 11 |
The way you describe it, the cops can probably legally argue they didn't brake any rules. (So long as they didn't demand to be let in and they didn't open any cupboards or anything to search.) The issue would seem to be with the maintenance workers. They didn't have cause to grant access to the police... But they did anyway. Holding keys like that comes with responsibility and at minimum they need to be retrained. They allowed cops into your property to conduct a visual scan of your home without a warrant.
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Absent a warrant or exigent circumstances (hot pursuit, knowledge of a hurt person inside, etc), the management letting in police without a warrant is almost certainly a lease violation; this goes double if the landlord also entered your unit. You might be able to seek legal damages. Whether those damages would surpass the amount spent hiring a lawyer and going to court is debatable. Consult with a lawyer versed in landlord/tenant law for advice; a short consultation is typically free.
| 0 | 14,389 | 2.75 |
zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iytunny
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iytuxdg
| 1,670,122,373 | 1,670,122,512 | 3 | 5 |
I have to wonder if the unit is owned by your building and is in anyway payment for your position. I wonder if that would make a difference.
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If I understand correctly, there is an issue at your building, and someone from the building management contacted the police to report it. When the police responded, someone from the building mgmt company let the police in to your unit. Unless the police did more than "ask" to have the door opened, it would seem there is no violation of law by police. Your concern is therefore with your building management rather than the police. Terms of your lease would state when building mgmt can enter your unit.
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zbonpf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Can police legally enter your property without you being home? Can police legally enter your property without you being home in Ohio? I was called by a detective to address some issues in my apartment seen on the building cameras (Im a night Janitor in my building). When I got home, the detective was already in my apartment, let in by the maintenance people of my apartment building. It took me approximately 10 minutes from the time I was called to get back home. So im just curious if this is legal, there were no charges for anything, I wasnt arrested. They were just in my apartment waiting on me to talk to me about the somethings seen on the camera (Peoples packages coming up missing, and so forth). So, just curious if this is legal for them to have gained access to my apartment without me being present?
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iyueshl
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iytunny
| 1,670,133,757 | 1,670,122,373 | 4 | 3 |
The way you describe it, the cops can probably legally argue they didn't brake any rules. (So long as they didn't demand to be let in and they didn't open any cupboards or anything to search.) The issue would seem to be with the maintenance workers. They didn't have cause to grant access to the police... But they did anyway. Holding keys like that comes with responsibility and at minimum they need to be retrained. They allowed cops into your property to conduct a visual scan of your home without a warrant.
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I have to wonder if the unit is owned by your building and is in anyway payment for your position. I wonder if that would make a difference.
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yoreum
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legaladvice_train
| 0.73 |
Can a landlord legally tell me I can't have my washer and dryer on his property? I'm in Pennsylvania, and my lease states I can not have a washer, dryer or space heaters on the property without written approval. Is this even legal? I'm paying the electric, but (even if I don't use them), can he even say I am not allowed to have them in my apartment?
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ivfg2kc
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ivff12f
| 1,667,837,570 | 1,667,837,154 | 47 | 11 |
They can put whatever terms they want in a lease as long as it does not violate any renters rights. It is up to the renter to review the lease and to choose whether they accept or deny these terms. If you signed the lease then you have to go by it, and even if it seems unfair it is not against any renters rights in Pennsylvania. TL;DR : Yes they can.
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Yes.
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yoreum
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legaladvice_train
| 0.73 |
Can a landlord legally tell me I can't have my washer and dryer on his property? I'm in Pennsylvania, and my lease states I can not have a washer, dryer or space heaters on the property without written approval. Is this even legal? I'm paying the electric, but (even if I don't use them), can he even say I am not allowed to have them in my apartment?
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ivff12f
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ivhf5eb
| 1,667,837,154 | 1,667,865,870 | 11 | 16 |
Yes.
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Sounds like he's mitigating risk, space heaters and dryers are huge fire risks if used improperly and washers are a water damage risk Have you asked him about it yet? Could be he simply wants to know who has them
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5gexji
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Girlfriend (now ex) is pregnant and wants to give up for adoption. I don't. What are my rights? (Texas) Girlfriend just broke up with me. She's three months pregnant and told me that she wants to give up the baby for adoption and "there's nothing I can do". She's 19 I'm 20. I want to be the father to this child and if she doesn't want the baby it's fine for her but I do want the baby. Can she do it without my consent? What are my rights here? We're at Houston, Texas.
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darpivv
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darqx3a
| 1,480,849,629 | 1,480,854,618 | 193 | 755 |
Are you ready to be a single dad? Hopefully, because that's your future. Establish paternity. You can get full custody and she can pay child support.
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Texas (and other states) has a putative father registry to protect parental rights of a father when a mother is attempting to adopt out a child - The Notice of Intent to Claim Paternity form is used to add the father's name to the state paternity registry maintained by theTexas Vital Statistics Unit. The purpose of the paternity registry is to "protect the parental rights of fathers who affirmatively assume responsibility for children they may have fathered, and expedite adoptions of children whose biological fathers are unwilling to assume responsibility for their children by registering with the registry or otherwise acknowledging their children." [FC Chapter 160, SUBCHAPTER E] The form is used in situations where the father and mother do not have a continuing relationship and the man is not listed as a presumed father on the birth certificate or Acknowledgment of paternity. The form can be found here: http://www.dshs.texas.gov/vs/patreg/
| 0 | 4,989 | 3.911917 |
5gexji
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Girlfriend (now ex) is pregnant and wants to give up for adoption. I don't. What are my rights? (Texas) Girlfriend just broke up with me. She's three months pregnant and told me that she wants to give up the baby for adoption and "there's nothing I can do". She's 19 I'm 20. I want to be the father to this child and if she doesn't want the baby it's fine for her but I do want the baby. Can she do it without my consent? What are my rights here? We're at Houston, Texas.
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darqx3a
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darpej5
| 1,480,854,618 | 1,480,849,200 | 755 | 88 |
Texas (and other states) has a putative father registry to protect parental rights of a father when a mother is attempting to adopt out a child - The Notice of Intent to Claim Paternity form is used to add the father's name to the state paternity registry maintained by theTexas Vital Statistics Unit. The purpose of the paternity registry is to "protect the parental rights of fathers who affirmatively assume responsibility for children they may have fathered, and expedite adoptions of children whose biological fathers are unwilling to assume responsibility for their children by registering with the registry or otherwise acknowledging their children." [FC Chapter 160, SUBCHAPTER E] The form is used in situations where the father and mother do not have a continuing relationship and the man is not listed as a presumed father on the birth certificate or Acknowledgment of paternity. The form can be found here: http://www.dshs.texas.gov/vs/patreg/
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She's wrong, she cannot give up the baby for adoption without your consent. Make sure to establish paternity once the child is born.
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5gexji
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Girlfriend (now ex) is pregnant and wants to give up for adoption. I don't. What are my rights? (Texas) Girlfriend just broke up with me. She's three months pregnant and told me that she wants to give up the baby for adoption and "there's nothing I can do". She's 19 I'm 20. I want to be the father to this child and if she doesn't want the baby it's fine for her but I do want the baby. Can she do it without my consent? What are my rights here? We're at Houston, Texas.
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darpivv
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darpej5
| 1,480,849,629 | 1,480,849,200 | 193 | 88 |
Are you ready to be a single dad? Hopefully, because that's your future. Establish paternity. You can get full custody and she can pay child support.
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She's wrong, she cannot give up the baby for adoption without your consent. Make sure to establish paternity once the child is born.
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5gexji
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Girlfriend (now ex) is pregnant and wants to give up for adoption. I don't. What are my rights? (Texas) Girlfriend just broke up with me. She's three months pregnant and told me that she wants to give up the baby for adoption and "there's nothing I can do". She's 19 I'm 20. I want to be the father to this child and if she doesn't want the baby it's fine for her but I do want the baby. Can she do it without my consent? What are my rights here? We're at Houston, Texas.
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darqzvm
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darpej5
| 1,480,854,877 | 1,480,849,200 | 100 | 88 |
Get yourself on the Texas putative father registry ASAP. This is a preemptive legal maneuver which signals your intent to claim paternity and preserves your legal rights to make sure that you receive notice about any court proceedings regarding the child (adoption, severing rights, etc.) so you can intervene.
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She's wrong, she cannot give up the baby for adoption without your consent. Make sure to establish paternity once the child is born.
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zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0s7pxh
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j0tvfke
| 1,671,410,451 | 1,671,448,558 | 86 | 477 |
> Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support? Nope! And her new location wouldn't even have jurisdiction. Your ex or her parents are free to cover the cost of shipping her stuff. I did not see a location in your post. Look up the local rules that landlords have to follow in disposing of abandoned property. In essence, you have to give the person notice and wait a period of time, then you can get rid of the items as you please.
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Fuck that noise. Text her that she has 30 days to remove her belongings or they will be disposed of. Stop paying for her car insurance. You are broken up, for gods sake, and you don’t need to feel sorry for the situation she got herself into. It’s a hard line, but you need boundaries right now.
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zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0spke8
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j0tvfke
| 1,671,419,010 | 1,671,448,558 | 67 | 477 |
You have no obligation to get them to her. The responsibility falls on her.
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Fuck that noise. Text her that she has 30 days to remove her belongings or they will be disposed of. Stop paying for her car insurance. You are broken up, for gods sake, and you don’t need to feel sorry for the situation she got herself into. It’s a hard line, but you need boundaries right now.
| 0 | 29,548 | 7.119403 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0tvfke
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j0tqd5n
| 1,671,448,558 | 1,671,444,189 | 477 | 40 |
Fuck that noise. Text her that she has 30 days to remove her belongings or they will be disposed of. Stop paying for her car insurance. You are broken up, for gods sake, and you don’t need to feel sorry for the situation she got herself into. It’s a hard line, but you need boundaries right now.
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Keep this in mind, people can sue for anything. Winning is a different matter. You don’t have to pay to ship her stuff to her. You can even give her a notice to remove her stuff from your properties within 30 days( depending on your location) or it will be considered abandoned and you will dispose of them accordingly. Also, stop paying for her car insurance if the car is not titled to you. If the car is titled to you, then get it back.
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zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
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Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0tvfke
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j0tsol5
| 1,671,448,558 | 1,671,446,232 | 477 | 16 |
Fuck that noise. Text her that she has 30 days to remove her belongings or they will be disposed of. Stop paying for her car insurance. You are broken up, for gods sake, and you don’t need to feel sorry for the situation she got herself into. It’s a hard line, but you need boundaries right now.
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You don't need to pay for anything if you are broken up, it's her responsibility to pay for it. You are already going above and beyond by paying for her cat and insurance. Tell her ask her parents to arrange for it to be collected, or get a loan from them. You would already be doing her a favour by packing it all up.
| 1 | 2,326 | 29.8125 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
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Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0tsol5
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j0ukvq6
| 1,671,446,232 | 1,671,463,001 | 16 | 24 |
You don't need to pay for anything if you are broken up, it's her responsibility to pay for it. You are already going above and beyond by paying for her cat and insurance. Tell her ask her parents to arrange for it to be collected, or get a loan from them. You would already be doing her a favour by packing it all up.
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Tell her you can't afford it and stop paying for things for her, either she can help herself or her family can. Save messages, texts, etc and send a letter to her parents residence stating the amount of time and date she has to get her things out if your premise. I condone you for caring, having compassion towards her recovery, but if you keep paying for her like she's your partner or a child who couldn't help her choices she won't continue to get better and you will still keep being affected by this.
| 0 | 16,769 | 1.5 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0ugelf
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j0ukvq6
| 1,671,461,010 | 1,671,463,001 | 19 | 24 |
Contact her parents and ask if they want to pay for packing and shipping and start paying her car insurance. Give her and them a 30 day deadline.
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Tell her you can't afford it and stop paying for things for her, either she can help herself or her family can. Save messages, texts, etc and send a letter to her parents residence stating the amount of time and date she has to get her things out if your premise. I condone you for caring, having compassion towards her recovery, but if you keep paying for her like she's your partner or a child who couldn't help her choices she won't continue to get better and you will still keep being affected by this.
| 0 | 1,991 | 1.263158 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0ukvq6
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j0tyiow
| 1,671,463,001 | 1,671,450,927 | 24 | 11 |
Tell her you can't afford it and stop paying for things for her, either she can help herself or her family can. Save messages, texts, etc and send a letter to her parents residence stating the amount of time and date she has to get her things out if your premise. I condone you for caring, having compassion towards her recovery, but if you keep paying for her like she's your partner or a child who couldn't help her choices she won't continue to get better and you will still keep being affected by this.
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Pack all of her stuff and move it to a storage facility. Pay for 60 days. FedEx a key to the lock and code together with a letter to her parents' house explaining how to pick it up no later than February, 28 2023 or it will be disposed of by the storage company. The same letter should detail the much earlier date you are not paying for car insurance anymore (January 1,2023). Take a picture of the letter/key and keep the fexex receipt for signature delivery. Instructions only in the letter, no relationship stuff. Block her and move on. The last thing you need is her and her parents in your house 6 months from now packing, crying, and doing a long goodbye. It sucks now but will get better, not dragging this out will help, best of luck.
| 1 | 12,074 | 2.181818 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0ukvq6
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j0ubp0y
| 1,671,463,001 | 1,671,458,775 | 24 | 11 |
Tell her you can't afford it and stop paying for things for her, either she can help herself or her family can. Save messages, texts, etc and send a letter to her parents residence stating the amount of time and date she has to get her things out if your premise. I condone you for caring, having compassion towards her recovery, but if you keep paying for her like she's your partner or a child who couldn't help her choices she won't continue to get better and you will still keep being affected by this.
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You aren't charging her a storage fee?
| 1 | 4,226 | 2.181818 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0tsol5
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j0ugelf
| 1,671,446,232 | 1,671,461,010 | 16 | 19 |
You don't need to pay for anything if you are broken up, it's her responsibility to pay for it. You are already going above and beyond by paying for her cat and insurance. Tell her ask her parents to arrange for it to be collected, or get a loan from them. You would already be doing her a favour by packing it all up.
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Contact her parents and ask if they want to pay for packing and shipping and start paying her car insurance. Give her and them a 30 day deadline.
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zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0tyiow
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j0ugelf
| 1,671,450,927 | 1,671,461,010 | 11 | 19 |
Pack all of her stuff and move it to a storage facility. Pay for 60 days. FedEx a key to the lock and code together with a letter to her parents' house explaining how to pick it up no later than February, 28 2023 or it will be disposed of by the storage company. The same letter should detail the much earlier date you are not paying for car insurance anymore (January 1,2023). Take a picture of the letter/key and keep the fexex receipt for signature delivery. Instructions only in the letter, no relationship stuff. Block her and move on. The last thing you need is her and her parents in your house 6 months from now packing, crying, and doing a long goodbye. It sucks now but will get better, not dragging this out will help, best of luck.
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Contact her parents and ask if they want to pay for packing and shipping and start paying her car insurance. Give her and them a 30 day deadline.
| 0 | 10,083 | 1.727273 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
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Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0ubp0y
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j0ugelf
| 1,671,458,775 | 1,671,461,010 | 11 | 19 |
You aren't charging her a storage fee?
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Contact her parents and ask if they want to pay for packing and shipping and start paying her car insurance. Give her and them a 30 day deadline.
| 0 | 2,235 | 1.727273 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0uq46y
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j0tyiow
| 1,671,465,208 | 1,671,450,927 | 14 | 11 |
>I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Not a lawyer You may need to check with an attorney. If "her car" is in both names, you may need to keep it insured if your name is on the title. If her name is on the deed to the house or the mortgage that you are paying, she may have some right, as part owner, to keep her stuff there indefinitely. The post was not clear on these points. Most of the replies presume that she was a tenant.
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Pack all of her stuff and move it to a storage facility. Pay for 60 days. FedEx a key to the lock and code together with a letter to her parents' house explaining how to pick it up no later than February, 28 2023 or it will be disposed of by the storage company. The same letter should detail the much earlier date you are not paying for car insurance anymore (January 1,2023). Take a picture of the letter/key and keep the fexex receipt for signature delivery. Instructions only in the letter, no relationship stuff. Block her and move on. The last thing you need is her and her parents in your house 6 months from now packing, crying, and doing a long goodbye. It sucks now but will get better, not dragging this out will help, best of luck.
| 1 | 14,281 | 1.272727 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0ubp0y
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j0uq46y
| 1,671,458,775 | 1,671,465,208 | 11 | 14 |
You aren't charging her a storage fee?
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>I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Not a lawyer You may need to check with an attorney. If "her car" is in both names, you may need to keep it insured if your name is on the title. If her name is on the deed to the house or the mortgage that you are paying, she may have some right, as part owner, to keep her stuff there indefinitely. The post was not clear on these points. Most of the replies presume that she was a tenant.
| 0 | 6,433 | 1.272727 |
zpanfb
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (30F) broke up after she moved for a work opportunity and now she wants me to pay for all the shipping fees for her things She moved to a different state so she could take her dream job earlier this year. She was then fired from said job after they found empty cans of alcohol in her locker and some interns she was training reported that they smelt alcohol on her breath while at work. This had been something we had been working on for the last 2 years, specifically since lockdown, where her drinking definitely increased. I thought she had made a lot of progress but I ended up breaking up with her after she was fired when I realized she was not accepting responsibility for her choices or actions. Fast forward 2 months and she has just gotten out of a 30 day rehab and is currently 35 days sober. I still do not want to take her back because I do not trust her to keep her promises at this point. She wants me to ship all of her things to her parents' house in a completely different state because that's where she lives now. She also says she can't help pay for the shipping because she doesn't have a job and that she spent most of her savings on the rehab treatment. I'm already paying for her car insurance, paid to fly her cat back out to her, and I'm getting stretched thin with the mortgage and car payments. Is there any legal action she can take against me if I don't ship her things without her monetary support?
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j0v16gc
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j0v8vvf
| 1,671,469,688 | 1,671,472,684 | 3 | 4 |
Do not pay to ship her stuff at all. Even if her or her parents promise to pay you back if you pay to ship her stuff, she can simply avoid paying you back and you would have to sue her to get reimbursed. I would send her a certified letter Telling her that she has a specified amount of time 30 to 60 days to pick up her stuff or it will be disposed of as abandoned property. You have no obligation to send her her stuff but you may have an obligation to allow her to collect her items but usually it’s not more than 30 days. So stop paying her car insurance you are under no obligation to pay that.
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Dude stop all contact and funding immediately. Block her on everything.
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z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8ew9n
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iy8gc5s
| 1,669,734,227 | 1,669,734,866 | 23 | 814 |
Trying to scare you? Trying to break up the relationship? Whichever, call DHS yourself and speak to someone.
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Only potential law breaking here would be if your girlfriend didn't have a visa and stayed in Canada more than 180 days. Adults who legally and consensually cross the border to see each other aren't doing anything even close to human trafficking, I'd guess it's an empty threat and if she does attempt to contact DHS nothing will come if it
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z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8j81n
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iy93gi9
| 1,669,736,105 | 1,669,744,270 | 27 | 71 |
Document everything diligently so that if they do ever make a call they can be charged with filing false reports.
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Lol That woman is delusional. No one will care what two consenting adults do across the border
| 0 | 8,165 | 2.62963 |
z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8ew9n
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iy93gi9
| 1,669,734,227 | 1,669,744,270 | 23 | 71 |
Trying to scare you? Trying to break up the relationship? Whichever, call DHS yourself and speak to someone.
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Lol That woman is delusional. No one will care what two consenting adults do across the border
| 0 | 10,043 | 3.086957 |
z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8j81n
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iy99qcw
| 1,669,736,105 | 1,669,746,726 | 27 | 53 |
Document everything diligently so that if they do ever make a call they can be charged with filing false reports.
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Not a lawyer. But pretty sure its illegal to knowingly file a false report and waste law enforcement's time.
| 0 | 10,621 | 1.962963 |
z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy94ts8
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iy99qcw
| 1,669,744,804 | 1,669,746,726 | 28 | 53 |
It is not human trafficking for adults to willingly and legally cross an international border. Tell her to kick rocks.
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Not a lawyer. But pretty sure its illegal to knowingly file a false report and waste law enforcement's time.
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z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8ew9n
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iy99qcw
| 1,669,734,227 | 1,669,746,726 | 23 | 53 |
Trying to scare you? Trying to break up the relationship? Whichever, call DHS yourself and speak to someone.
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Not a lawyer. But pretty sure its illegal to knowingly file a false report and waste law enforcement's time.
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z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy9aqcz
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iy8j81n
| 1,669,747,113 | 1,669,736,105 | 37 | 27 |
If you're a sex worker, you will likely be banned from Canada if they report you as a trafficking victim, regardless of what you have to say. If you're not a sex worker, they might detain you for several hours and interrogate you on your relationship, but they will most likely dismiss the accusation pretty quickly. The best thing to do is to be prepared. Have a neat folder with you available to pull out if things escalate. In it, include all the stuff you already have about your ties to the US, evidence of your relationship including how you met and anything that can dispel ideas that he's using you or manipulating you, evidence of your family's threats and objections, evidence of how you earn a living and how your partner earns a living and any other relevant document to establish that you are just some woman trying to visit her boyfriend. Have a clear and real answer to the question "do you plan on moving permanently to Canada". That answer should be, assuming this is true, something like "if we decide to get married at some point, we will have to decide which country to live in, but we are not there yet and I don't want to rush things. I plan on us visiting each other several more times before making any long term decisions. If we decide that I should live in Canada, we will explore proper channels for it and I expect that there will be a legal pathway available." If they report you as a trafficking victim, you might end up in a tight spot where they believe you that you're not being trafficked, but they also now believe your family is abusive and dangerous and therefore it's likely you'll decide to overstay your visa. That's why it's important not to overplay the "crazy family making false complaints" bits and be precise "one crazy relative is doing this, but my parents are great and supportive". Think carefully about how you present yourself, don't give additional info if they don't ask. Have short and clear answers to their initial questions. Keep in mind border agents are racist, sexist, ableist and all around discriminatory. They will judge you based on looks, how wealthy or poor you look, how well spoken you are, your age, etc. Assess yourself and see how you can mitigate anything that they might use against you. Role play the basic border crossing interaction so you feel ready. They often bark out super weird questions to throw you off. Have answers ready, have a good clear voice, and look like you have your shit together. If you're detained for questioning at the border, they almost always try to go through your phone. Make sure you don't have anything on there you don't want them to see and make sure you have a strong password.
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Document everything diligently so that if they do ever make a call they can be charged with filing false reports.
| 1 | 11,008 | 1.37037 |
z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy9aqcz
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iy94ts8
| 1,669,747,113 | 1,669,744,804 | 37 | 28 |
If you're a sex worker, you will likely be banned from Canada if they report you as a trafficking victim, regardless of what you have to say. If you're not a sex worker, they might detain you for several hours and interrogate you on your relationship, but they will most likely dismiss the accusation pretty quickly. The best thing to do is to be prepared. Have a neat folder with you available to pull out if things escalate. In it, include all the stuff you already have about your ties to the US, evidence of your relationship including how you met and anything that can dispel ideas that he's using you or manipulating you, evidence of your family's threats and objections, evidence of how you earn a living and how your partner earns a living and any other relevant document to establish that you are just some woman trying to visit her boyfriend. Have a clear and real answer to the question "do you plan on moving permanently to Canada". That answer should be, assuming this is true, something like "if we decide to get married at some point, we will have to decide which country to live in, but we are not there yet and I don't want to rush things. I plan on us visiting each other several more times before making any long term decisions. If we decide that I should live in Canada, we will explore proper channels for it and I expect that there will be a legal pathway available." If they report you as a trafficking victim, you might end up in a tight spot where they believe you that you're not being trafficked, but they also now believe your family is abusive and dangerous and therefore it's likely you'll decide to overstay your visa. That's why it's important not to overplay the "crazy family making false complaints" bits and be precise "one crazy relative is doing this, but my parents are great and supportive". Think carefully about how you present yourself, don't give additional info if they don't ask. Have short and clear answers to their initial questions. Keep in mind border agents are racist, sexist, ableist and all around discriminatory. They will judge you based on looks, how wealthy or poor you look, how well spoken you are, your age, etc. Assess yourself and see how you can mitigate anything that they might use against you. Role play the basic border crossing interaction so you feel ready. They often bark out super weird questions to throw you off. Have answers ready, have a good clear voice, and look like you have your shit together. If you're detained for questioning at the border, they almost always try to go through your phone. Make sure you don't have anything on there you don't want them to see and make sure you have a strong password.
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It is not human trafficking for adults to willingly and legally cross an international border. Tell her to kick rocks.
| 1 | 2,309 | 1.321429 |
z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8ew9n
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iy9aqcz
| 1,669,734,227 | 1,669,747,113 | 23 | 37 |
Trying to scare you? Trying to break up the relationship? Whichever, call DHS yourself and speak to someone.
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If you're a sex worker, you will likely be banned from Canada if they report you as a trafficking victim, regardless of what you have to say. If you're not a sex worker, they might detain you for several hours and interrogate you on your relationship, but they will most likely dismiss the accusation pretty quickly. The best thing to do is to be prepared. Have a neat folder with you available to pull out if things escalate. In it, include all the stuff you already have about your ties to the US, evidence of your relationship including how you met and anything that can dispel ideas that he's using you or manipulating you, evidence of your family's threats and objections, evidence of how you earn a living and how your partner earns a living and any other relevant document to establish that you are just some woman trying to visit her boyfriend. Have a clear and real answer to the question "do you plan on moving permanently to Canada". That answer should be, assuming this is true, something like "if we decide to get married at some point, we will have to decide which country to live in, but we are not there yet and I don't want to rush things. I plan on us visiting each other several more times before making any long term decisions. If we decide that I should live in Canada, we will explore proper channels for it and I expect that there will be a legal pathway available." If they report you as a trafficking victim, you might end up in a tight spot where they believe you that you're not being trafficked, but they also now believe your family is abusive and dangerous and therefore it's likely you'll decide to overstay your visa. That's why it's important not to overplay the "crazy family making false complaints" bits and be precise "one crazy relative is doing this, but my parents are great and supportive". Think carefully about how you present yourself, don't give additional info if they don't ask. Have short and clear answers to their initial questions. Keep in mind border agents are racist, sexist, ableist and all around discriminatory. They will judge you based on looks, how wealthy or poor you look, how well spoken you are, your age, etc. Assess yourself and see how you can mitigate anything that they might use against you. Role play the basic border crossing interaction so you feel ready. They often bark out super weird questions to throw you off. Have answers ready, have a good clear voice, and look like you have your shit together. If you're detained for questioning at the border, they almost always try to go through your phone. Make sure you don't have anything on there you don't want them to see and make sure you have a strong password.
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z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8j81n
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iy94ts8
| 1,669,736,105 | 1,669,744,804 | 27 | 28 |
Document everything diligently so that if they do ever make a call they can be charged with filing false reports.
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It is not human trafficking for adults to willingly and legally cross an international border. Tell her to kick rocks.
| 0 | 8,699 | 1.037037 |
z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8ew9n
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iy8j81n
| 1,669,734,227 | 1,669,736,105 | 23 | 27 |
Trying to scare you? Trying to break up the relationship? Whichever, call DHS yourself and speak to someone.
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Document everything diligently so that if they do ever make a call they can be charged with filing false reports.
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z7vfwe
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
My girlfriend (23) and I (24) want to spend time together during the holidays and now her aunt wants to call DHS and USA-CAN border patrols on us for human trafficking Just for context we’ve been LDR for the better part of 2 years, I went down to the USA to visit her 3 times, I met her mom and dad. Both not fans of me due to being incredibly xenophobic against anybody who’s not American. My girlfriend lived with me for 6 months and went back home safe at the beginning of this year. She met my entire family and all my friends too during that time. Realistically, should I even be worried about this batshit insane lady? She’s saying she wants to report us for human trafficking and fraudulent activities. Never have we done anything close to illegal in the eyes of the law. Thanks for your time
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iy8ew9n
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iy94ts8
| 1,669,734,227 | 1,669,744,804 | 23 | 28 |
Trying to scare you? Trying to break up the relationship? Whichever, call DHS yourself and speak to someone.
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It is not human trafficking for adults to willingly and legally cross an international border. Tell her to kick rocks.
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zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j29bt53
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j29bv1n
| 1,672,416,977 | 1,672,416,997 | 14 | 218 |
The question is, does your sister want to have to go through the stress, time, effort, and money having to deal with it if the threat is genuine? Even a successful defense of a lawsuit can be taxing.
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Everyone threatens to sue; few actually do. > So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Or just not communicate with them at all. > Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? Your sister can opt to take the photo down if she so chooses to avoid threats of lawsuits. Or she can leave it up and see what happens next. Maybe they actually do file a lawsuit against her, regardless of whether there's any merit to the lawsuit. That would certainly be inconvenient for her. Generally, an appropriate reaction to being assaulted like that in a public place is to call the police.
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zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j29clya
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j2axpfi
| 1,672,417,298 | 1,672,439,365 | 44 | 56 |
So, police were not called after this crime occurred and instead she posted about the crime on social media? Have the police contacted her for a statement? Does she have insurance that will cover her legal costs in the event of a lawsuit?
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I would get security footage.
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zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j29bt53
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j2axpfi
| 1,672,416,977 | 1,672,439,365 | 14 | 56 |
The question is, does your sister want to have to go through the stress, time, effort, and money having to deal with it if the threat is genuine? Even a successful defense of a lawsuit can be taxing.
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I would get security footage.
| 0 | 22,388 | 4 |
zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j29bt53
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j29clya
| 1,672,416,977 | 1,672,417,298 | 14 | 44 |
The question is, does your sister want to have to go through the stress, time, effort, and money having to deal with it if the threat is genuine? Even a successful defense of a lawsuit can be taxing.
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So, police were not called after this crime occurred and instead she posted about the crime on social media? Have the police contacted her for a statement? Does she have insurance that will cover her legal costs in the event of a lawsuit?
| 0 | 321 | 3.142857 |
zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j2b00ry
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j29bt53
| 1,672,440,310 | 1,672,416,977 | 39 | 14 |
There has to be cameras in the pizza place. Tell your sister to go back to the pizza place let them know she was sexually assaulted in their store & if it was caught on their security footage, file a police report lawyer up & the footage will make solid evidence.
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The question is, does your sister want to have to go through the stress, time, effort, and money having to deal with it if the threat is genuine? Even a successful defense of a lawsuit can be taxing.
| 1 | 23,333 | 2.785714 |
zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j2bcvho
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j2bppf9
| 1,672,445,674 | 1,672,451,374 | 18 | 35 |
Take the post down. Do not communicate with parents of the assaulter. Report this to the police. Let the police check for videos.
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This pizza place have video?
| 0 | 5,700 | 1.944444 |
zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j29bt53
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j2bppf9
| 1,672,416,977 | 1,672,451,374 | 14 | 35 |
The question is, does your sister want to have to go through the stress, time, effort, and money having to deal with it if the threat is genuine? Even a successful defense of a lawsuit can be taxing.
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This pizza place have video?
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zz4alp
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legaladvice_train
| 0.88 |
A guy touched my sister inappropriately and after she posted his picture online his parents are threatening to sue. Long story short my sister was out with her kids and their dad at a pizza place. She felt someone grab her ass and turned around and he was the only person there. My sister is a very shy person and has been a victim of SA in the past so she didn't immediately say anything. The kids dad is pretty spineless and didn't say anything because he didn't want to leave her alone with the kids. But he kept smiling at her and walking uncomfortably close to her where she would have to move out of the way so she snapped his picture and posted it to Facebook asking if anybody knew who it was and that she was pretty sure he touched her inappropriately. We ended up finding out he's some 16 year old from the town over (my sister is 25 btw). Then last night my sister got a call from his parents saying that if she doesn't apologize to him they will hire an attorney. From what I understand it's possible she meets the criteria for defamation of character in my state but I don't get it because they have to prove she either intentionally lied or that she believed it to be true but didn't have the legal grounds to prove it. But by that logic it's as impossible to prove that as it is for my sister to prove that he was the one who touched her. So it's just he said she said. So my thoughts are we should tell them to go f*ck themselves. Does anybody have any advice for cases like this? My whole family is so upset especially my sister and then we have to deal with this little sh*t and his family on top of everything else that's been going on. So anyway I would really appreciate any advice.
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j2bcvho
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j29bt53
| 1,672,445,674 | 1,672,416,977 | 18 | 14 |
Take the post down. Do not communicate with parents of the assaulter. Report this to the police. Let the police check for videos.
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The question is, does your sister want to have to go through the stress, time, effort, and money having to deal with it if the threat is genuine? Even a successful defense of a lawsuit can be taxing.
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sxa7sy
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(NC) as a stay at home mom, can my husband leave me with nothing in a divorce? My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years but married for about 6 years. We have two child, 4 yo and 11m, since my first child was born I quit my job and stayed at home to raise her since his job is very long hours, a shift is usually 12hours. Our relationship has been rocky for the last two-ish years, since I was pregnant with out second. He has always had an inability to control his alcohol intake, but during my second pregnancy he was drunk almost everyday. And as we all know, alcohol can really get the person saying some pretty rough things. He finally started to get things under control and stopped drinking completely in July 2021, until now. He’s not drinking wildly like he was before, but I have a feeling the cycle is starting again. He is secretly drinking and will lie until I find a receipt. So I am a SAHM and i just transferred to a university, that I commute an hour to get too. My parents do a majority of the babysitting. He clearly pays for all the bills, except university which I have a loan for now. But we’ve been fighting and every time he just goes straight to finances and telling me how I can go live with my parents bc he pays for everything and I have nothing. He threatens to turn off my phone and tells me I’m a glorified babysitter and I’m clearly an idiot bc i took so long to get my associates degree. I do feel stuck, I don’t want to be with someone that thinks so little of me. How does a divorce work in North Carolina? He makes around $100,000 a year and has investments. Can he just stop supporting us? I don’t expect to live off him or anything.
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NC is not a "community property" state; courts are supposed to divide property in a way that is equitable- fair to each spouse. If, for example, you were to end up with primary custody of the children, your need to occupy the marital residence and utilize the household items could be recognized and the home allocated to you. You should seek out a family law attorney to guide you through this process. Explain your monetary situation to them- it's something they've seen before.
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Assuming there is no prenup that is enforceable (so was drafted and reviewed by attorneys for both sides) then everything acquired during the marriage can be considered marital property - the exact nature of the split would be up to a judge. If he decided to try to cut you out of accounts or move money around that would be highly frowned upon and your future attorney (please tell me you plan to leave) would love to hear about it.
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(NC) as a stay at home mom, can my husband leave me with nothing in a divorce? My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years but married for about 6 years. We have two child, 4 yo and 11m, since my first child was born I quit my job and stayed at home to raise her since his job is very long hours, a shift is usually 12hours. Our relationship has been rocky for the last two-ish years, since I was pregnant with out second. He has always had an inability to control his alcohol intake, but during my second pregnancy he was drunk almost everyday. And as we all know, alcohol can really get the person saying some pretty rough things. He finally started to get things under control and stopped drinking completely in July 2021, until now. He’s not drinking wildly like he was before, but I have a feeling the cycle is starting again. He is secretly drinking and will lie until I find a receipt. So I am a SAHM and i just transferred to a university, that I commute an hour to get too. My parents do a majority of the babysitting. He clearly pays for all the bills, except university which I have a loan for now. But we’ve been fighting and every time he just goes straight to finances and telling me how I can go live with my parents bc he pays for everything and I have nothing. He threatens to turn off my phone and tells me I’m a glorified babysitter and I’m clearly an idiot bc i took so long to get my associates degree. I do feel stuck, I don’t want to be with someone that thinks so little of me. How does a divorce work in North Carolina? He makes around $100,000 a year and has investments. Can he just stop supporting us? I don’t expect to live off him or anything.
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Not a lawyer, but a divorced housewife. Consult with an attorney; generally there is no charge for this. They will let you know what your rights are and what to expect/what to prepare for. That will give you confidence to decide what the best path is for you.
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Assuming there is no prenup that is enforceable (so was drafted and reviewed by attorneys for both sides) then everything acquired during the marriage can be considered marital property - the exact nature of the split would be up to a judge. If he decided to try to cut you out of accounts or move money around that would be highly frowned upon and your future attorney (please tell me you plan to leave) would love to hear about it.
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(NC) as a stay at home mom, can my husband leave me with nothing in a divorce? My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years but married for about 6 years. We have two child, 4 yo and 11m, since my first child was born I quit my job and stayed at home to raise her since his job is very long hours, a shift is usually 12hours. Our relationship has been rocky for the last two-ish years, since I was pregnant with out second. He has always had an inability to control his alcohol intake, but during my second pregnancy he was drunk almost everyday. And as we all know, alcohol can really get the person saying some pretty rough things. He finally started to get things under control and stopped drinking completely in July 2021, until now. He’s not drinking wildly like he was before, but I have a feeling the cycle is starting again. He is secretly drinking and will lie until I find a receipt. So I am a SAHM and i just transferred to a university, that I commute an hour to get too. My parents do a majority of the babysitting. He clearly pays for all the bills, except university which I have a loan for now. But we’ve been fighting and every time he just goes straight to finances and telling me how I can go live with my parents bc he pays for everything and I have nothing. He threatens to turn off my phone and tells me I’m a glorified babysitter and I’m clearly an idiot bc i took so long to get my associates degree. I do feel stuck, I don’t want to be with someone that thinks so little of me. How does a divorce work in North Carolina? He makes around $100,000 a year and has investments. Can he just stop supporting us? I don’t expect to live off him or anything.
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Assuming there is no prenup that is enforceable (so was drafted and reviewed by attorneys for both sides) then everything acquired during the marriage can be considered marital property - the exact nature of the split would be up to a judge. If he decided to try to cut you out of accounts or move money around that would be highly frowned upon and your future attorney (please tell me you plan to leave) would love to hear about it.
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I know if you've married in NC there is a solid year of separation where he has to financially support you. Please read up on the nccourts.gov website regarding Divorce very carefully.
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(NC) as a stay at home mom, can my husband leave me with nothing in a divorce? My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years but married for about 6 years. We have two child, 4 yo and 11m, since my first child was born I quit my job and stayed at home to raise her since his job is very long hours, a shift is usually 12hours. Our relationship has been rocky for the last two-ish years, since I was pregnant with out second. He has always had an inability to control his alcohol intake, but during my second pregnancy he was drunk almost everyday. And as we all know, alcohol can really get the person saying some pretty rough things. He finally started to get things under control and stopped drinking completely in July 2021, until now. He’s not drinking wildly like he was before, but I have a feeling the cycle is starting again. He is secretly drinking and will lie until I find a receipt. So I am a SAHM and i just transferred to a university, that I commute an hour to get too. My parents do a majority of the babysitting. He clearly pays for all the bills, except university which I have a loan for now. But we’ve been fighting and every time he just goes straight to finances and telling me how I can go live with my parents bc he pays for everything and I have nothing. He threatens to turn off my phone and tells me I’m a glorified babysitter and I’m clearly an idiot bc i took so long to get my associates degree. I do feel stuck, I don’t want to be with someone that thinks so little of me. How does a divorce work in North Carolina? He makes around $100,000 a year and has investments. Can he just stop supporting us? I don’t expect to live off him or anything.
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I know if you've married in NC there is a solid year of separation where he has to financially support you. Please read up on the nccourts.gov website regarding Divorce very carefully.
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Wow, maybe you should go live with your parents. But! Only after and on the advice of your divorce attorney. That's your home and he can't just kick you out. You need to go consult with a divorce attorney, examine your options, and start planning how to gtfo of there. At minimum he is going to owe child support. He may owe you alimony/spousal support but maybe not. In a divorce things aren't necessarily done everything divided 50/50. You will be awarded some things and he will be awarded other things and some assets may well be split evenly. The goal is for both parties to walk away roughly equal as far as marital assets. It's up to you and him (or your attorneys) but if a deal can't be reached between you that is then approved by the court a judge will decide.
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(NC) as a stay at home mom, can my husband leave me with nothing in a divorce? My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years but married for about 6 years. We have two child, 4 yo and 11m, since my first child was born I quit my job and stayed at home to raise her since his job is very long hours, a shift is usually 12hours. Our relationship has been rocky for the last two-ish years, since I was pregnant with out second. He has always had an inability to control his alcohol intake, but during my second pregnancy he was drunk almost everyday. And as we all know, alcohol can really get the person saying some pretty rough things. He finally started to get things under control and stopped drinking completely in July 2021, until now. He’s not drinking wildly like he was before, but I have a feeling the cycle is starting again. He is secretly drinking and will lie until I find a receipt. So I am a SAHM and i just transferred to a university, that I commute an hour to get too. My parents do a majority of the babysitting. He clearly pays for all the bills, except university which I have a loan for now. But we’ve been fighting and every time he just goes straight to finances and telling me how I can go live with my parents bc he pays for everything and I have nothing. He threatens to turn off my phone and tells me I’m a glorified babysitter and I’m clearly an idiot bc i took so long to get my associates degree. I do feel stuck, I don’t want to be with someone that thinks so little of me. How does a divorce work in North Carolina? He makes around $100,000 a year and has investments. Can he just stop supporting us? I don’t expect to live off him or anything.
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Barring a prenup, you would get an equitable share of the marital assets, alimony and child support. You would likely get more than him due to having primary custody of the kids based on their age and that you're already the full time care giver. Sounds like you should go forward with this anyway, living with a nasty alcoholic is not good for you or your kids
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Wow, maybe you should go live with your parents. But! Only after and on the advice of your divorce attorney. That's your home and he can't just kick you out. You need to go consult with a divorce attorney, examine your options, and start planning how to gtfo of there. At minimum he is going to owe child support. He may owe you alimony/spousal support but maybe not. In a divorce things aren't necessarily done everything divided 50/50. You will be awarded some things and he will be awarded other things and some assets may well be split evenly. The goal is for both parties to walk away roughly equal as far as marital assets. It's up to you and him (or your attorneys) but if a deal can't be reached between you that is then approved by the court a judge will decide.
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(NC) as a stay at home mom, can my husband leave me with nothing in a divorce? My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years but married for about 6 years. We have two child, 4 yo and 11m, since my first child was born I quit my job and stayed at home to raise her since his job is very long hours, a shift is usually 12hours. Our relationship has been rocky for the last two-ish years, since I was pregnant with out second. He has always had an inability to control his alcohol intake, but during my second pregnancy he was drunk almost everyday. And as we all know, alcohol can really get the person saying some pretty rough things. He finally started to get things under control and stopped drinking completely in July 2021, until now. He’s not drinking wildly like he was before, but I have a feeling the cycle is starting again. He is secretly drinking and will lie until I find a receipt. So I am a SAHM and i just transferred to a university, that I commute an hour to get too. My parents do a majority of the babysitting. He clearly pays for all the bills, except university which I have a loan for now. But we’ve been fighting and every time he just goes straight to finances and telling me how I can go live with my parents bc he pays for everything and I have nothing. He threatens to turn off my phone and tells me I’m a glorified babysitter and I’m clearly an idiot bc i took so long to get my associates degree. I do feel stuck, I don’t want to be with someone that thinks so little of me. How does a divorce work in North Carolina? He makes around $100,000 a year and has investments. Can he just stop supporting us? I don’t expect to live off him or anything.
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You need a lawyer. The NC Bar Association has some great resources to find a lawyer. here From their website: “To reach the Lawyer Referral Service by phone, please call 919.677.8574. If you use the LRS, it will cost you $50 for an initial 30-minute consultation with the attorney. To seek a referral online, please choose one of the options below.”
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Wow, maybe you should go live with your parents. But! Only after and on the advice of your divorce attorney. That's your home and he can't just kick you out. You need to go consult with a divorce attorney, examine your options, and start planning how to gtfo of there. At minimum he is going to owe child support. He may owe you alimony/spousal support but maybe not. In a divorce things aren't necessarily done everything divided 50/50. You will be awarded some things and he will be awarded other things and some assets may well be split evenly. The goal is for both parties to walk away roughly equal as far as marital assets. It's up to you and him (or your attorneys) but if a deal can't be reached between you that is then approved by the court a judge will decide.
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Husband has said he’s going to proceed with filing divorce. His reason, he can’t live knowing I could have half of his money and assets. It’s hurtful that he thinks this way. I don’t know where I stand in protecting myself. I don’t want to take anything from him. Florida residents, in a soon to be divorce situation. My husband is paranoid that I have too much control and could take things away from him in a divorce. So he figures he should divorce me now. We’ve been married 2 years. I don’t want to take anything from him, he’s built it all himself. However, where do I stand legally on this? Would a Court automatically divide assets if I contest wanting the divorce?
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A lot of the advice here should be in r/relationship advice, not here. So it sounds to me like he basically said he was concerned about his assets Regarding marriage and the length and circumstances of that marriage.. Legally speaking, he is absolutely right.. There are some options depending on what you wanna do. 1. If you do wanna continue stay married and are trying to find a way to allay the fears of your husband, then A post nuptial agreement is probably the way to go. Sounds like you said you already had an agreement before marriage. so see if that that is something that would so work for you and have that put into a post nuptial agreement. Also consider having the agreement reaffirmed every 5 years as these documents can kind of decay with validity over time in the eyes of a court. Also make sure that both of you seek legal representation making this post nuptial agreement, As a court can invalidate it later if they don't think you signed in good faith because you didn't know what you were signing. 2. If you do not intend to stay married to your husband, seek representation and start gathering all documents and emails Pertinent to your wedding and any "deals made" An attorney will be able to sift to your finances and tell you what you are and are not entitled to regarding your marriage. My guess would be that it's probably going to be more than you were promised. Hope for this helps and gets you in the right direction! P.s. A lot of people here think that the context of a marriage can be Parsed down to a reddit post. This isn't r/relationshipadvice. Please let's try to keep Advice to the Legal ramifications of the relationship decisions she chooses to make.
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Husband has said he’s going to proceed with filing divorce. His reason, he can’t live knowing I could have half of his money and assets. It’s hurtful that he thinks this way. I don’t know where I stand in protecting myself. I don’t want to take anything from him. Florida residents, in a soon to be divorce situation. My husband is paranoid that I have too much control and could take things away from him in a divorce. So he figures he should divorce me now. We’ve been married 2 years. I don’t want to take anything from him, he’s built it all himself. However, where do I stand legally on this? Would a Court automatically divide assets if I contest wanting the divorce?
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A lot of the advice here should be in r/relationship advice, not here. So it sounds to me like he basically said he was concerned about his assets Regarding marriage and the length and circumstances of that marriage.. Legally speaking, he is absolutely right.. There are some options depending on what you wanna do. 1. If you do wanna continue stay married and are trying to find a way to allay the fears of your husband, then A post nuptial agreement is probably the way to go. Sounds like you said you already had an agreement before marriage. so see if that that is something that would so work for you and have that put into a post nuptial agreement. Also consider having the agreement reaffirmed every 5 years as these documents can kind of decay with validity over time in the eyes of a court. Also make sure that both of you seek legal representation making this post nuptial agreement, As a court can invalidate it later if they don't think you signed in good faith because you didn't know what you were signing. 2. If you do not intend to stay married to your husband, seek representation and start gathering all documents and emails Pertinent to your wedding and any "deals made" An attorney will be able to sift to your finances and tell you what you are and are not entitled to regarding your marriage. My guess would be that it's probably going to be more than you were promised. Hope for this helps and gets you in the right direction! P.s. A lot of people here think that the context of a marriage can be Parsed down to a reddit post. This isn't r/relationshipadvice. Please let's try to keep Advice to the Legal ramifications of the relationship decisions she chooses to make.
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You said that "he can't live knowing". Do you mean that figuratively, or is he literally going to pass away? If you want, you could sign a postnuptial agreement. A postnuptial agreement is a mutually-agree plan on what happens in the event of a divorce. Florida law allows for postnuptial agreements to be legally binding and Florida courts can enforce them as long as they comply with the relevant law. Contact a lawyer and see if this would work for you and your husband. I believe a divorce lawyer can help with this, and you'll need one anyway if he decides to go through with a divorce. If your husband is worried about what happens in the event of his death, he can ask an estate attorney to help him write a will that specifies exactly how he wants his assets divided. He can leave you a nominal sum (as little as one dollar) but not putting you in the will opens the door to a challenge that he might've just forgotten. Leaving you one dollar shows that he hasn't. I assume you still want to save your marriage if possible and that divorce isn't what you want. You worked hard for this marriage; you ought to give it your all to defend it. Don't just resign, see if something can be worked out!
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Husband has said he’s going to proceed with filing divorce. His reason, he can’t live knowing I could have half of his money and assets. It’s hurtful that he thinks this way. I don’t know where I stand in protecting myself. I don’t want to take anything from him. Florida residents, in a soon to be divorce situation. My husband is paranoid that I have too much control and could take things away from him in a divorce. So he figures he should divorce me now. We’ve been married 2 years. I don’t want to take anything from him, he’s built it all himself. However, where do I stand legally on this? Would a Court automatically divide assets if I contest wanting the divorce?
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Definitely get a lawyer to understand your rights and help you understand whatever he proposes in a divorce settlement and whether it is equitable and fair for you so that you can make a choice. While you may not have financially contributed to the house, during the marriage there is a general consideration that it's a partnership - whether you purchased groceries, paid utilities, bought household items, or you were a stay at home wife/mother that did the housework, maintenance, coordination of resources and upkeep - that's all contributing to the household and you have some rights that can be protected. Also, non legal advice, please consider finding a therapist to speak with to help you process all of this, I can only imagine how hurtful this situation is.
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Would he be open to a post-nup?
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Husband has said he’s going to proceed with filing divorce. His reason, he can’t live knowing I could have half of his money and assets. It’s hurtful that he thinks this way. I don’t know where I stand in protecting myself. I don’t want to take anything from him. Florida residents, in a soon to be divorce situation. My husband is paranoid that I have too much control and could take things away from him in a divorce. So he figures he should divorce me now. We’ve been married 2 years. I don’t want to take anything from him, he’s built it all himself. However, where do I stand legally on this? Would a Court automatically divide assets if I contest wanting the divorce?
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injwf8m
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Definitely get a lawyer to understand your rights and help you understand whatever he proposes in a divorce settlement and whether it is equitable and fair for you so that you can make a choice. While you may not have financially contributed to the house, during the marriage there is a general consideration that it's a partnership - whether you purchased groceries, paid utilities, bought household items, or you were a stay at home wife/mother that did the housework, maintenance, coordination of resources and upkeep - that's all contributing to the household and you have some rights that can be protected. Also, non legal advice, please consider finding a therapist to speak with to help you process all of this, I can only imagine how hurtful this situation is.
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You said that "he can't live knowing". Do you mean that figuratively, or is he literally going to pass away? If you want, you could sign a postnuptial agreement. A postnuptial agreement is a mutually-agree plan on what happens in the event of a divorce. Florida law allows for postnuptial agreements to be legally binding and Florida courts can enforce them as long as they comply with the relevant law. Contact a lawyer and see if this would work for you and your husband. I believe a divorce lawyer can help with this, and you'll need one anyway if he decides to go through with a divorce. If your husband is worried about what happens in the event of his death, he can ask an estate attorney to help him write a will that specifies exactly how he wants his assets divided. He can leave you a nominal sum (as little as one dollar) but not putting you in the will opens the door to a challenge that he might've just forgotten. Leaving you one dollar shows that he hasn't. I assume you still want to save your marriage if possible and that divorce isn't what you want. You worked hard for this marriage; you ought to give it your all to defend it. Don't just resign, see if something can be worked out!
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Husband has said he’s going to proceed with filing divorce. His reason, he can’t live knowing I could have half of his money and assets. It’s hurtful that he thinks this way. I don’t know where I stand in protecting myself. I don’t want to take anything from him. Florida residents, in a soon to be divorce situation. My husband is paranoid that I have too much control and could take things away from him in a divorce. So he figures he should divorce me now. We’ve been married 2 years. I don’t want to take anything from him, he’s built it all himself. However, where do I stand legally on this? Would a Court automatically divide assets if I contest wanting the divorce?
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injx4a4
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You said that "he can't live knowing". Do you mean that figuratively, or is he literally going to pass away? If you want, you could sign a postnuptial agreement. A postnuptial agreement is a mutually-agree plan on what happens in the event of a divorce. Florida law allows for postnuptial agreements to be legally binding and Florida courts can enforce them as long as they comply with the relevant law. Contact a lawyer and see if this would work for you and your husband. I believe a divorce lawyer can help with this, and you'll need one anyway if he decides to go through with a divorce. If your husband is worried about what happens in the event of his death, he can ask an estate attorney to help him write a will that specifies exactly how he wants his assets divided. He can leave you a nominal sum (as little as one dollar) but not putting you in the will opens the door to a challenge that he might've just forgotten. Leaving you one dollar shows that he hasn't. I assume you still want to save your marriage if possible and that divorce isn't what you want. You worked hard for this marriage; you ought to give it your all to defend it. Don't just resign, see if something can be worked out!
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[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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Their son doesn't have damages; it's not like you've named the son online somewhere and he just lost out on a lucrative job as a bank president. Nobody outside the son and 4 adults knows about this accusation, and you should not expand that list on your own, aside from the police. It's hard to imagine they can find a lawyer to press this case in court, but of course if a lawsuit does arrive, you must respond. Otherwise: go to the cops. Whether or not there's going to be some kind of sex charge is likely to be up the the prosecutor. You may have to settle for proving he's a thief, rather than a horny little shit of a pervert. Get your ducks in a row by saving your receipts, and taking inventory to identify which items are missing, and what you paid for them (or, failing that, what it would cost you to replace them today).
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I'm glad to see you haven't bothered to ask about 'slander' (because obviously your behaviour doesn't qualify).
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[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1ss73
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ei1cm93
| 1,552,020,335 | 1,552,006,603 | 51 | 42 |
Their son doesn't have damages; it's not like you've named the son online somewhere and he just lost out on a lucrative job as a bank president. Nobody outside the son and 4 adults knows about this accusation, and you should not expand that list on your own, aside from the police. It's hard to imagine they can find a lawyer to press this case in court, but of course if a lawsuit does arrive, you must respond. Otherwise: go to the cops. Whether or not there's going to be some kind of sex charge is likely to be up the the prosecutor. You may have to settle for proving he's a thief, rather than a horny little shit of a pervert. Get your ducks in a row by saving your receipts, and taking inventory to identify which items are missing, and what you paid for them (or, failing that, what it would cost you to replace them today).
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Go ahead and report it to the police. The parents have no basis to sue to you.
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
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[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1ss73
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ei1kjng
| 1,552,020,335 | 1,552,013,081 | 51 | 35 |
Their son doesn't have damages; it's not like you've named the son online somewhere and he just lost out on a lucrative job as a bank president. Nobody outside the son and 4 adults knows about this accusation, and you should not expand that list on your own, aside from the police. It's hard to imagine they can find a lawyer to press this case in court, but of course if a lawsuit does arrive, you must respond. Otherwise: go to the cops. Whether or not there's going to be some kind of sex charge is likely to be up the the prosecutor. You may have to settle for proving he's a thief, rather than a horny little shit of a pervert. Get your ducks in a row by saving your receipts, and taking inventory to identify which items are missing, and what you paid for them (or, failing that, what it would cost you to replace them today).
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I would suggest asking for the cash value of your missing items. Not sure I would want the items themselves after this boy handled them. Small claims court. ​
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1ss73
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ei1p8y7
| 1,552,020,335 | 1,552,017,047 | 51 | 9 |
Their son doesn't have damages; it's not like you've named the son online somewhere and he just lost out on a lucrative job as a bank president. Nobody outside the son and 4 adults knows about this accusation, and you should not expand that list on your own, aside from the police. It's hard to imagine they can find a lawyer to press this case in court, but of course if a lawsuit does arrive, you must respond. Otherwise: go to the cops. Whether or not there's going to be some kind of sex charge is likely to be up the the prosecutor. You may have to settle for proving he's a thief, rather than a horny little shit of a pervert. Get your ducks in a row by saving your receipts, and taking inventory to identify which items are missing, and what you paid for them (or, failing that, what it would cost you to replace them today).
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It’s not slander. Go to the police it’s theft.
| 1 | 3,288 | 5.666667 |
ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1ss73
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ei1rfzt
| 1,552,020,335 | 1,552,019,052 | 51 | 3 |
Their son doesn't have damages; it's not like you've named the son online somewhere and he just lost out on a lucrative job as a bank president. Nobody outside the son and 4 adults knows about this accusation, and you should not expand that list on your own, aside from the police. It's hard to imagine they can find a lawyer to press this case in court, but of course if a lawsuit does arrive, you must respond. Otherwise: go to the cops. Whether or not there's going to be some kind of sex charge is likely to be up the the prosecutor. You may have to settle for proving he's a thief, rather than a horny little shit of a pervert. Get your ducks in a row by saving your receipts, and taking inventory to identify which items are missing, and what you paid for them (or, failing that, what it would cost you to replace them today).
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Report it to the police. This is theft.
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei2h1r2
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ei1y9fc
| 1,552,052,529 | 1,552,026,288 | 15 | 9 |
That is not Slander they are morons if the try to sue for that they will lose so don't worry about that. Your landlord should consider security cameras in that room if this is an issue other people are having to. But you can sue the boy/parents for theft or harassment given the fact it is your underwear and he's done it multiple times and you've tried to solve the issue. Sorry you had to deal with that kid and his dumbass parents.
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Report it to the police, also tell them that you’d rather be compensated for your stolen belongings as you don’t what them back after this and that you also want to press charges against him as well maybe an order for him and his parents to keep away from you, your laundry and unit. Good Luck
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1p8y7
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ei2h1r2
| 1,552,017,047 | 1,552,052,529 | 9 | 15 |
It’s not slander. Go to the police it’s theft.
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That is not Slander they are morons if the try to sue for that they will lose so don't worry about that. Your landlord should consider security cameras in that room if this is an issue other people are having to. But you can sue the boy/parents for theft or harassment given the fact it is your underwear and he's done it multiple times and you've tried to solve the issue. Sorry you had to deal with that kid and his dumbass parents.
| 0 | 35,482 | 1.666667 |
ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei2h1r2
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ei29ylb
| 1,552,052,529 | 1,552,044,507 | 15 | 8 |
That is not Slander they are morons if the try to sue for that they will lose so don't worry about that. Your landlord should consider security cameras in that room if this is an issue other people are having to. But you can sue the boy/parents for theft or harassment given the fact it is your underwear and he's done it multiple times and you've tried to solve the issue. Sorry you had to deal with that kid and his dumbass parents.
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Another Russell Williams in the making? Report to police.
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1rfzt
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ei2h1r2
| 1,552,019,052 | 1,552,052,529 | 3 | 15 |
Report it to the police. This is theft.
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That is not Slander they are morons if the try to sue for that they will lose so don't worry about that. Your landlord should consider security cameras in that room if this is an issue other people are having to. But you can sue the boy/parents for theft or harassment given the fact it is your underwear and he's done it multiple times and you've tried to solve the issue. Sorry you had to deal with that kid and his dumbass parents.
| 0 | 33,477 | 5 |
ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1y9fc
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ei3uamy
| 1,552,026,288 | 1,552,088,867 | 9 | 10 |
Report it to the police, also tell them that you’d rather be compensated for your stolen belongings as you don’t what them back after this and that you also want to press charges against him as well maybe an order for him and his parents to keep away from you, your laundry and unit. Good Luck
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Also for every 100 people threatening to sue, 99 of them are too lazy/broke/stupid to look for a lawyer. Don’t worry about that.
| 0 | 62,579 | 1.111111 |
ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei3uamy
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ei1p8y7
| 1,552,088,867 | 1,552,017,047 | 10 | 9 |
Also for every 100 people threatening to sue, 99 of them are too lazy/broke/stupid to look for a lawyer. Don’t worry about that.
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It’s not slander. Go to the police it’s theft.
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei29ylb
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ei3uamy
| 1,552,044,507 | 1,552,088,867 | 8 | 10 |
Another Russell Williams in the making? Report to police.
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Also for every 100 people threatening to sue, 99 of them are too lazy/broke/stupid to look for a lawyer. Don’t worry about that.
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1rfzt
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ei3uamy
| 1,552,019,052 | 1,552,088,867 | 3 | 10 |
Report it to the police. This is theft.
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Also for every 100 people threatening to sue, 99 of them are too lazy/broke/stupid to look for a lawyer. Don’t worry about that.
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ayhlsu
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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ei1rfzt
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ei1y9fc
| 1,552,019,052 | 1,552,026,288 | 3 | 9 |
Report it to the police. This is theft.
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Report it to the police, also tell them that you’d rather be compensated for your stolen belongings as you don’t what them back after this and that you also want to press charges against him as well maybe an order for him and his parents to keep away from you, your laundry and unit. Good Luck
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ayhlsu
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[ON] I caught my neighbors son stealing my underwear/other things. Family refuses to believe me or my landlord, and is threatening to sue me for slander. What can i do? I am in Ontario, Canada. Moved in to the apartment at the start of January, since then i have been convinced that someone is stealing my underwear/bra/etc. Every floor has a pair of washer/dryer units, and since moving in i have had almost a dozen different things just disappear from the wash or dryer. The room is so tiny that there is no where to sit, aside from sitting on top of one of the machines, so it makes it very hard to wait for it. Two weeks ago i went and bought a bunch of new things, and when i went to go remove stuff from the washer i noticed that several things i had just bought went missing. Armed with this and the fact it was early Saturday morning, i went to our landlord and she was able to tell me during the 35 minutes of washing the only person who entered was my next door neighbors son. Now at this point i was furious and confronted the parents. The parents called me a liar, and basically told me off. They absolutely refused to believe me, however since confronting them i have had nothing go missing since then. Today i put laundry on and started cleaning my unit, when i went to go drop trash off, i checked the laundry and discovered our neighbors son going the dryer i was using. I again confronted the parents, and they immediately started screaming at me for harassing their son, and threatened to call the police on me for harassing their son, and threatened to sue me for "slandering" their son by implying he is a pervert. My question is, does this count as theft and can i go to the police and file a complaint? I don't want my clothing back, at this point. ​ ​
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Another Russell Williams in the making? Report to police.
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Report it to the police. This is theft.
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[Ohio, USA] Parents dealing with neighbor's extremely loud out-of-home business. Zoning/Noise complaint help. Hi! Thanks so much for reading this post. I'm a little at a loss for what to do or how to help and I'm not really sure where to look so even if you let me know what I can google, that would be so helpful. I'm going to do my best to keep emotion out of this and just give you the facts, but please forgive me if I slip a little. My parents live in NE Ohio and have for the past 9 or so years (I moved away 2 years ago and live in MA). They have owned the same property for all of that time and as of around 3 or so years ago own a property two houses down that they rent out. So, when coming up the street, it goes Rental House -- Neighbor's House -- Parent's house. It's rural-ish. Every house on the street sits on a good acre + of land, but one could easily carry a conversation across yards. My parents used to be friendly with the neighbor next door who recently started some businesses out of their barn. I know one is a painting company (like dying coffee mugs and stuff), the other I'm not 100% sure of. From early morning until late evening, he runs loud machinery that I can hear through the phone when talking to my mom in her kitchen. They call it a sandblaster, not sure if that's what it is. There's also some sort of fumes coming off the barn. Not sure what those are either. My parents tried to talk to him about starting later in the day, but he swore at them and told them to "get the f- off his property" so they did and haven't contacted him since. Instead, they went to the zoning commission for their town and the guy there said the business was likely illegal and they would send a C&D. Unfortunately, that hasn't happened because it appears that, before houses were built, the street used to be commercial so they're actually on commercial property. They're going to investigate if this goes beyond commercial into industrial, but it's not looking super great. So, here are some of my questions: First, I used to work for another city government in Ohio and they had zoning commission meetings. Every town is different, but could my parents petition to have the zoning changed? How would that work (if it would at all)? Is there anything that can be done about the fumes coming out of the garage? We have no idea if they're toxic, but they smell really bad. Again, trying to keep emotions to a minimum, but my mother has lost a lot of weight and my dad is experiencing symptoms of stress, and my usually very calm dogs have also been stressed and losing their fur. One bit my mom the other day and she needed to go to the ER. The vet confirmed it was from the stress of the noise. They also lost a potential renter because of the noise and may lose another. Is there anything there that could help their case as far as noise complaints go? Would a noise complaint be the way to go with this or are they shit out of luck? Third, since my parents expressed displeasure at the noise, the neighbor has become erratic and violent (not towards them, but slamming things around etc). My mom called it a "blind rage". I've told them that if they're worried he'll damage their property to get home security cameras and, if he comes over, record him since Ohio is a 1 party consent state. I just want to be sure my advice is correct. I'm so sorry for being wordy, I'm just trying to paint as big a picture as I can. Obviously, I'm not there, so I might not know something or forgot something. I'm just trying to help them as much as they can be helped. If they're totally out of luck, that's fine (well, not super fine, but they're looking at moving, so it's not the worst). I just want to know if there's another path we can explore before they throw the towel in.
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Of note: petitioning for a change in the zoning code likely won't help your parents, as Ohio state law allows continuation of nonconforming uses so long as the use was lawful at the time the zoning code changed \(Ohio Title 7, Chapter 713.15\). It looks like municipalities can include a termination provision, but almost all courts have found that termination of nonconforming uses requires an amortization period. Your bet bet is probably a 3767.13\(A\) nuisance complaint. I agree that talking to a lawyer is your best bet.
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> Unfortunately, that hasn't happened because it appears that, before houses were built, the street used to be commercial so they're actually on commercial property. There's a difference between commercial and industrial/manufacturing. Commercial zoning is for things like storefronts and restaurants. I'd make an appointment with your elected representative, city council/mayor if within city limits, county commissioner if not. Explain the situation and ask for escalation.
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[Ohio, USA] Parents dealing with neighbor's extremely loud out-of-home business. Zoning/Noise complaint help. Hi! Thanks so much for reading this post. I'm a little at a loss for what to do or how to help and I'm not really sure where to look so even if you let me know what I can google, that would be so helpful. I'm going to do my best to keep emotion out of this and just give you the facts, but please forgive me if I slip a little. My parents live in NE Ohio and have for the past 9 or so years (I moved away 2 years ago and live in MA). They have owned the same property for all of that time and as of around 3 or so years ago own a property two houses down that they rent out. So, when coming up the street, it goes Rental House -- Neighbor's House -- Parent's house. It's rural-ish. Every house on the street sits on a good acre + of land, but one could easily carry a conversation across yards. My parents used to be friendly with the neighbor next door who recently started some businesses out of their barn. I know one is a painting company (like dying coffee mugs and stuff), the other I'm not 100% sure of. From early morning until late evening, he runs loud machinery that I can hear through the phone when talking to my mom in her kitchen. They call it a sandblaster, not sure if that's what it is. There's also some sort of fumes coming off the barn. Not sure what those are either. My parents tried to talk to him about starting later in the day, but he swore at them and told them to "get the f- off his property" so they did and haven't contacted him since. Instead, they went to the zoning commission for their town and the guy there said the business was likely illegal and they would send a C&D. Unfortunately, that hasn't happened because it appears that, before houses were built, the street used to be commercial so they're actually on commercial property. They're going to investigate if this goes beyond commercial into industrial, but it's not looking super great. So, here are some of my questions: First, I used to work for another city government in Ohio and they had zoning commission meetings. Every town is different, but could my parents petition to have the zoning changed? How would that work (if it would at all)? Is there anything that can be done about the fumes coming out of the garage? We have no idea if they're toxic, but they smell really bad. Again, trying to keep emotions to a minimum, but my mother has lost a lot of weight and my dad is experiencing symptoms of stress, and my usually very calm dogs have also been stressed and losing their fur. One bit my mom the other day and she needed to go to the ER. The vet confirmed it was from the stress of the noise. They also lost a potential renter because of the noise and may lose another. Is there anything there that could help their case as far as noise complaints go? Would a noise complaint be the way to go with this or are they shit out of luck? Third, since my parents expressed displeasure at the noise, the neighbor has become erratic and violent (not towards them, but slamming things around etc). My mom called it a "blind rage". I've told them that if they're worried he'll damage their property to get home security cameras and, if he comes over, record him since Ohio is a 1 party consent state. I just want to be sure my advice is correct. I'm so sorry for being wordy, I'm just trying to paint as big a picture as I can. Obviously, I'm not there, so I might not know something or forgot something. I'm just trying to help them as much as they can be helped. If they're totally out of luck, that's fine (well, not super fine, but they're looking at moving, so it's not the worst). I just want to know if there's another path we can explore before they throw the towel in.
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> the street used to be commercial so they're actually on commercial property. Commercial properties and business also have noise limits.
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> Unfortunately, that hasn't happened because it appears that, before houses were built, the street used to be commercial so they're actually on commercial property. There's a difference between commercial and industrial/manufacturing. Commercial zoning is for things like storefronts and restaurants. I'd make an appointment with your elected representative, city council/mayor if within city limits, county commissioner if not. Explain the situation and ask for escalation.
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[Ohio, USA] Parents dealing with neighbor's extremely loud out-of-home business. Zoning/Noise complaint help. Hi! Thanks so much for reading this post. I'm a little at a loss for what to do or how to help and I'm not really sure where to look so even if you let me know what I can google, that would be so helpful. I'm going to do my best to keep emotion out of this and just give you the facts, but please forgive me if I slip a little. My parents live in NE Ohio and have for the past 9 or so years (I moved away 2 years ago and live in MA). They have owned the same property for all of that time and as of around 3 or so years ago own a property two houses down that they rent out. So, when coming up the street, it goes Rental House -- Neighbor's House -- Parent's house. It's rural-ish. Every house on the street sits on a good acre + of land, but one could easily carry a conversation across yards. My parents used to be friendly with the neighbor next door who recently started some businesses out of their barn. I know one is a painting company (like dying coffee mugs and stuff), the other I'm not 100% sure of. From early morning until late evening, he runs loud machinery that I can hear through the phone when talking to my mom in her kitchen. They call it a sandblaster, not sure if that's what it is. There's also some sort of fumes coming off the barn. Not sure what those are either. My parents tried to talk to him about starting later in the day, but he swore at them and told them to "get the f- off his property" so they did and haven't contacted him since. Instead, they went to the zoning commission for their town and the guy there said the business was likely illegal and they would send a C&D. Unfortunately, that hasn't happened because it appears that, before houses were built, the street used to be commercial so they're actually on commercial property. They're going to investigate if this goes beyond commercial into industrial, but it's not looking super great. So, here are some of my questions: First, I used to work for another city government in Ohio and they had zoning commission meetings. Every town is different, but could my parents petition to have the zoning changed? How would that work (if it would at all)? Is there anything that can be done about the fumes coming out of the garage? We have no idea if they're toxic, but they smell really bad. Again, trying to keep emotions to a minimum, but my mother has lost a lot of weight and my dad is experiencing symptoms of stress, and my usually very calm dogs have also been stressed and losing their fur. One bit my mom the other day and she needed to go to the ER. The vet confirmed it was from the stress of the noise. They also lost a potential renter because of the noise and may lose another. Is there anything there that could help their case as far as noise complaints go? Would a noise complaint be the way to go with this or are they shit out of luck? Third, since my parents expressed displeasure at the noise, the neighbor has become erratic and violent (not towards them, but slamming things around etc). My mom called it a "blind rage". I've told them that if they're worried he'll damage their property to get home security cameras and, if he comes over, record him since Ohio is a 1 party consent state. I just want to be sure my advice is correct. I'm so sorry for being wordy, I'm just trying to paint as big a picture as I can. Obviously, I'm not there, so I might not know something or forgot something. I'm just trying to help them as much as they can be helped. If they're totally out of luck, that's fine (well, not super fine, but they're looking at moving, so it's not the worst). I just want to know if there's another path we can explore before they throw the towel in.
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> Unfortunately, that hasn't happened because it appears that, before houses were built, the street used to be commercial so they're actually on commercial property. There's a difference between commercial and industrial/manufacturing. Commercial zoning is for things like storefronts and restaurants. I'd make an appointment with your elected representative, city council/mayor if within city limits, county commissioner if not. Explain the situation and ask for escalation.
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Not a legal point, but I wonder if the fumes are affecting the neighbor’s personality. You indicate they were friendly before and hostile now.
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[Nashville, TN] I have a neighbor with two very loud dogs that regularly wake me up by constantly barking in his front lawn. I went over to his house yesterday to talk to him about it, but it turns out he's very old and incoherent. I couldn't understand a word he was saying. What are my options? As I'm sure most people do, I value my sleep highly and lately I have had very early wake-ups due to two very loud barking dogs of one of my neighbors (not even a direct neighbor). I'm a pretty good neighbor myself if I dare say so - never had a noise complaint, good relationships with all our direct neighbors and we even get compliments for how they never ever hear us. I am very conscious about noise output in our house and we make sure to never turn on music very loudly or have conversations outside on the front porch. But I have an issue with a house right next to my first neighbor. His two dogs are very loud when they bark and while they don't bark constantly for hours straight, when they do bark early in the morning it is incredibly loud and it sustains for a couple of minutes every time the dog sees something or someone move (which is pretty often in our street). The dogs are behind a wired fence and are usually outside during the early mornings, thus, they bark pretty early on. The man living there must be in his late 70s. I know from the other neighbor that he sometimes has a caretaker too, and he ahs trouble walking. He also has a LOT of trouble speaking. He lost half of his teeth and I tried my absolute best to understand what he was saying when I went to his home yesterday. I went there trying to amicably speak to him about how I was losing sleep. I explained that I work late due to the nature of my work, and having his dogs in his front lawn barking at everything that even remotely walks by, wakes me up. For context: if some pedestrian walks on the opposite side of the road, in a completely normal tempo, the dogs will lose their minds and bark for as long as they see him. It seems the dogs are just poorly trained, and given that I could barely understand a word coming out of the man's mouth, this isn't a surprise. However, this strongly gives me the impression that talking about it and coming up with solutions together is going to be next to impossible. I'm sure he will have forgotten me by tomorrow. He tried to explain some solution but again, I just couldn't make out what he was saying. He was completely incoherent to an untrained ear - perhaps his caretaker will understand him better, but he/she is not always around. It felt like I was dealing with a kid as far as communication went, which is reminiscent of most of my grandparents as they got older and less coherent. Anyhow, I did some very basic research and read the Nashville animal code. I found this section: 8.12.010 - Keeping of animals that disturb the peace. A. It is unlawful for any person to keep any animal, dog, bird or fowl which, by causing frequent or loud continued noise, disturbs the comfort or repose of any person in the vicinity. B. Violation of this section shall be declared to be public nuisance which violation may be enjoined by any court of competent jurisdiction. (§ 2 of Amdt. 1 to Ord. 90-1275, 7/17/90; Ord. 90-1275 §§ 1, 2, 1990) To me, it is very clear that he disturbs my sleep comfort. I don't care if they bark after 12 noon or even late in the evening, I also don't care about going after his money, I literally just want to be able to sleep normally. Given that I can't have a normal face to face conversation with him, I wonder what my legal rights are and what the best course of action is. I am fine with him keeping his dogs of course, I just want them to not bark so incredibly loudly when it's early in the morning. It seems like a very reasonable ask, and he did seem to sort of understand my issue, but I honestly can't know for sure. All I know is that it will be very unlikely for an old man like that who has a caretaker to be proactive enough to keep them inside, or add a barking bracelet or something else. I also read that small courts only award small amounts of money, rather then a possible injuction. I don't care for his money, I just want to sleep. I'm considering putting a camera on his front lawn but it will be very visible to the other neighbors and I'm not sure whether that's legal or not. I can also record audio every time I wake up but I'm not sure how strong that is as evidence. I do feel that if animal control sees the man and talks to him they can see that it's impossible to have a normal conversation with this guy. What would you guys recommend I do? Appreciate the help!
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What time is it when the dogs are barking?
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Id first try to bring it up with the caretaker personally. If nothing can be done then I'd take it to animal control.
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[Nashville, TN] I have a neighbor with two very loud dogs that regularly wake me up by constantly barking in his front lawn. I went over to his house yesterday to talk to him about it, but it turns out he's very old and incoherent. I couldn't understand a word he was saying. What are my options? As I'm sure most people do, I value my sleep highly and lately I have had very early wake-ups due to two very loud barking dogs of one of my neighbors (not even a direct neighbor). I'm a pretty good neighbor myself if I dare say so - never had a noise complaint, good relationships with all our direct neighbors and we even get compliments for how they never ever hear us. I am very conscious about noise output in our house and we make sure to never turn on music very loudly or have conversations outside on the front porch. But I have an issue with a house right next to my first neighbor. His two dogs are very loud when they bark and while they don't bark constantly for hours straight, when they do bark early in the morning it is incredibly loud and it sustains for a couple of minutes every time the dog sees something or someone move (which is pretty often in our street). The dogs are behind a wired fence and are usually outside during the early mornings, thus, they bark pretty early on. The man living there must be in his late 70s. I know from the other neighbor that he sometimes has a caretaker too, and he ahs trouble walking. He also has a LOT of trouble speaking. He lost half of his teeth and I tried my absolute best to understand what he was saying when I went to his home yesterday. I went there trying to amicably speak to him about how I was losing sleep. I explained that I work late due to the nature of my work, and having his dogs in his front lawn barking at everything that even remotely walks by, wakes me up. For context: if some pedestrian walks on the opposite side of the road, in a completely normal tempo, the dogs will lose their minds and bark for as long as they see him. It seems the dogs are just poorly trained, and given that I could barely understand a word coming out of the man's mouth, this isn't a surprise. However, this strongly gives me the impression that talking about it and coming up with solutions together is going to be next to impossible. I'm sure he will have forgotten me by tomorrow. He tried to explain some solution but again, I just couldn't make out what he was saying. He was completely incoherent to an untrained ear - perhaps his caretaker will understand him better, but he/she is not always around. It felt like I was dealing with a kid as far as communication went, which is reminiscent of most of my grandparents as they got older and less coherent. Anyhow, I did some very basic research and read the Nashville animal code. I found this section: 8.12.010 - Keeping of animals that disturb the peace. A. It is unlawful for any person to keep any animal, dog, bird or fowl which, by causing frequent or loud continued noise, disturbs the comfort or repose of any person in the vicinity. B. Violation of this section shall be declared to be public nuisance which violation may be enjoined by any court of competent jurisdiction. (§ 2 of Amdt. 1 to Ord. 90-1275, 7/17/90; Ord. 90-1275 §§ 1, 2, 1990) To me, it is very clear that he disturbs my sleep comfort. I don't care if they bark after 12 noon or even late in the evening, I also don't care about going after his money, I literally just want to be able to sleep normally. Given that I can't have a normal face to face conversation with him, I wonder what my legal rights are and what the best course of action is. I am fine with him keeping his dogs of course, I just want them to not bark so incredibly loudly when it's early in the morning. It seems like a very reasonable ask, and he did seem to sort of understand my issue, but I honestly can't know for sure. All I know is that it will be very unlikely for an old man like that who has a caretaker to be proactive enough to keep them inside, or add a barking bracelet or something else. I also read that small courts only award small amounts of money, rather then a possible injuction. I don't care for his money, I just want to sleep. I'm considering putting a camera on his front lawn but it will be very visible to the other neighbors and I'm not sure whether that's legal or not. I can also record audio every time I wake up but I'm not sure how strong that is as evidence. I do feel that if animal control sees the man and talks to him they can see that it's impossible to have a normal conversation with this guy. What would you guys recommend I do? Appreciate the help!
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Id first try to bring it up with the caretaker personally. If nothing can be done then I'd take it to animal control.
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Contact Nashville's Animal Control office: http://www.nashville.gov/Health-Department/Animal-Care-and-Control/Animal-Control.aspx The cameras, audio recording, considering going to court yourself is not needed at this point when your tax dollars are already paying for this department to deal with situations like this.
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[Nashville, TN] I have a neighbor with two very loud dogs that regularly wake me up by constantly barking in his front lawn. I went over to his house yesterday to talk to him about it, but it turns out he's very old and incoherent. I couldn't understand a word he was saying. What are my options? As I'm sure most people do, I value my sleep highly and lately I have had very early wake-ups due to two very loud barking dogs of one of my neighbors (not even a direct neighbor). I'm a pretty good neighbor myself if I dare say so - never had a noise complaint, good relationships with all our direct neighbors and we even get compliments for how they never ever hear us. I am very conscious about noise output in our house and we make sure to never turn on music very loudly or have conversations outside on the front porch. But I have an issue with a house right next to my first neighbor. His two dogs are very loud when they bark and while they don't bark constantly for hours straight, when they do bark early in the morning it is incredibly loud and it sustains for a couple of minutes every time the dog sees something or someone move (which is pretty often in our street). The dogs are behind a wired fence and are usually outside during the early mornings, thus, they bark pretty early on. The man living there must be in his late 70s. I know from the other neighbor that he sometimes has a caretaker too, and he ahs trouble walking. He also has a LOT of trouble speaking. He lost half of his teeth and I tried my absolute best to understand what he was saying when I went to his home yesterday. I went there trying to amicably speak to him about how I was losing sleep. I explained that I work late due to the nature of my work, and having his dogs in his front lawn barking at everything that even remotely walks by, wakes me up. For context: if some pedestrian walks on the opposite side of the road, in a completely normal tempo, the dogs will lose their minds and bark for as long as they see him. It seems the dogs are just poorly trained, and given that I could barely understand a word coming out of the man's mouth, this isn't a surprise. However, this strongly gives me the impression that talking about it and coming up with solutions together is going to be next to impossible. I'm sure he will have forgotten me by tomorrow. He tried to explain some solution but again, I just couldn't make out what he was saying. He was completely incoherent to an untrained ear - perhaps his caretaker will understand him better, but he/she is not always around. It felt like I was dealing with a kid as far as communication went, which is reminiscent of most of my grandparents as they got older and less coherent. Anyhow, I did some very basic research and read the Nashville animal code. I found this section: 8.12.010 - Keeping of animals that disturb the peace. A. It is unlawful for any person to keep any animal, dog, bird or fowl which, by causing frequent or loud continued noise, disturbs the comfort or repose of any person in the vicinity. B. Violation of this section shall be declared to be public nuisance which violation may be enjoined by any court of competent jurisdiction. (§ 2 of Amdt. 1 to Ord. 90-1275, 7/17/90; Ord. 90-1275 §§ 1, 2, 1990) To me, it is very clear that he disturbs my sleep comfort. I don't care if they bark after 12 noon or even late in the evening, I also don't care about going after his money, I literally just want to be able to sleep normally. Given that I can't have a normal face to face conversation with him, I wonder what my legal rights are and what the best course of action is. I am fine with him keeping his dogs of course, I just want them to not bark so incredibly loudly when it's early in the morning. It seems like a very reasonable ask, and he did seem to sort of understand my issue, but I honestly can't know for sure. All I know is that it will be very unlikely for an old man like that who has a caretaker to be proactive enough to keep them inside, or add a barking bracelet or something else. I also read that small courts only award small amounts of money, rather then a possible injuction. I don't care for his money, I just want to sleep. I'm considering putting a camera on his front lawn but it will be very visible to the other neighbors and I'm not sure whether that's legal or not. I can also record audio every time I wake up but I'm not sure how strong that is as evidence. I do feel that if animal control sees the man and talks to him they can see that it's impossible to have a normal conversation with this guy. What would you guys recommend I do? Appreciate the help!
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You could try talking to his caretaker or maybe even senior services. This sounds symptomatic of a larger problem for this poor dude.
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What time is it when the dogs are barking?
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[Nashville, TN] I have a neighbor with two very loud dogs that regularly wake me up by constantly barking in his front lawn. I went over to his house yesterday to talk to him about it, but it turns out he's very old and incoherent. I couldn't understand a word he was saying. What are my options? As I'm sure most people do, I value my sleep highly and lately I have had very early wake-ups due to two very loud barking dogs of one of my neighbors (not even a direct neighbor). I'm a pretty good neighbor myself if I dare say so - never had a noise complaint, good relationships with all our direct neighbors and we even get compliments for how they never ever hear us. I am very conscious about noise output in our house and we make sure to never turn on music very loudly or have conversations outside on the front porch. But I have an issue with a house right next to my first neighbor. His two dogs are very loud when they bark and while they don't bark constantly for hours straight, when they do bark early in the morning it is incredibly loud and it sustains for a couple of minutes every time the dog sees something or someone move (which is pretty often in our street). The dogs are behind a wired fence and are usually outside during the early mornings, thus, they bark pretty early on. The man living there must be in his late 70s. I know from the other neighbor that he sometimes has a caretaker too, and he ahs trouble walking. He also has a LOT of trouble speaking. He lost half of his teeth and I tried my absolute best to understand what he was saying when I went to his home yesterday. I went there trying to amicably speak to him about how I was losing sleep. I explained that I work late due to the nature of my work, and having his dogs in his front lawn barking at everything that even remotely walks by, wakes me up. For context: if some pedestrian walks on the opposite side of the road, in a completely normal tempo, the dogs will lose their minds and bark for as long as they see him. It seems the dogs are just poorly trained, and given that I could barely understand a word coming out of the man's mouth, this isn't a surprise. However, this strongly gives me the impression that talking about it and coming up with solutions together is going to be next to impossible. I'm sure he will have forgotten me by tomorrow. He tried to explain some solution but again, I just couldn't make out what he was saying. He was completely incoherent to an untrained ear - perhaps his caretaker will understand him better, but he/she is not always around. It felt like I was dealing with a kid as far as communication went, which is reminiscent of most of my grandparents as they got older and less coherent. Anyhow, I did some very basic research and read the Nashville animal code. I found this section: 8.12.010 - Keeping of animals that disturb the peace. A. It is unlawful for any person to keep any animal, dog, bird or fowl which, by causing frequent or loud continued noise, disturbs the comfort or repose of any person in the vicinity. B. Violation of this section shall be declared to be public nuisance which violation may be enjoined by any court of competent jurisdiction. (§ 2 of Amdt. 1 to Ord. 90-1275, 7/17/90; Ord. 90-1275 §§ 1, 2, 1990) To me, it is very clear that he disturbs my sleep comfort. I don't care if they bark after 12 noon or even late in the evening, I also don't care about going after his money, I literally just want to be able to sleep normally. Given that I can't have a normal face to face conversation with him, I wonder what my legal rights are and what the best course of action is. I am fine with him keeping his dogs of course, I just want them to not bark so incredibly loudly when it's early in the morning. It seems like a very reasonable ask, and he did seem to sort of understand my issue, but I honestly can't know for sure. All I know is that it will be very unlikely for an old man like that who has a caretaker to be proactive enough to keep them inside, or add a barking bracelet or something else. I also read that small courts only award small amounts of money, rather then a possible injuction. I don't care for his money, I just want to sleep. I'm considering putting a camera on his front lawn but it will be very visible to the other neighbors and I'm not sure whether that's legal or not. I can also record audio every time I wake up but I'm not sure how strong that is as evidence. I do feel that if animal control sees the man and talks to him they can see that it's impossible to have a normal conversation with this guy. What would you guys recommend I do? Appreciate the help!
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dw4wjsh
| 1,521,774,939 | 1,521,766,015 | 39 | 11 |
You could try talking to his caretaker or maybe even senior services. This sounds symptomatic of a larger problem for this poor dude.
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Contact Nashville's Animal Control office: http://www.nashville.gov/Health-Department/Animal-Care-and-Control/Animal-Control.aspx The cameras, audio recording, considering going to court yourself is not needed at this point when your tax dollars are already paying for this department to deal with situations like this.
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86gmza
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[Nashville, TN] I have a neighbor with two very loud dogs that regularly wake me up by constantly barking in his front lawn. I went over to his house yesterday to talk to him about it, but it turns out he's very old and incoherent. I couldn't understand a word he was saying. What are my options? As I'm sure most people do, I value my sleep highly and lately I have had very early wake-ups due to two very loud barking dogs of one of my neighbors (not even a direct neighbor). I'm a pretty good neighbor myself if I dare say so - never had a noise complaint, good relationships with all our direct neighbors and we even get compliments for how they never ever hear us. I am very conscious about noise output in our house and we make sure to never turn on music very loudly or have conversations outside on the front porch. But I have an issue with a house right next to my first neighbor. His two dogs are very loud when they bark and while they don't bark constantly for hours straight, when they do bark early in the morning it is incredibly loud and it sustains for a couple of minutes every time the dog sees something or someone move (which is pretty often in our street). The dogs are behind a wired fence and are usually outside during the early mornings, thus, they bark pretty early on. The man living there must be in his late 70s. I know from the other neighbor that he sometimes has a caretaker too, and he ahs trouble walking. He also has a LOT of trouble speaking. He lost half of his teeth and I tried my absolute best to understand what he was saying when I went to his home yesterday. I went there trying to amicably speak to him about how I was losing sleep. I explained that I work late due to the nature of my work, and having his dogs in his front lawn barking at everything that even remotely walks by, wakes me up. For context: if some pedestrian walks on the opposite side of the road, in a completely normal tempo, the dogs will lose their minds and bark for as long as they see him. It seems the dogs are just poorly trained, and given that I could barely understand a word coming out of the man's mouth, this isn't a surprise. However, this strongly gives me the impression that talking about it and coming up with solutions together is going to be next to impossible. I'm sure he will have forgotten me by tomorrow. He tried to explain some solution but again, I just couldn't make out what he was saying. He was completely incoherent to an untrained ear - perhaps his caretaker will understand him better, but he/she is not always around. It felt like I was dealing with a kid as far as communication went, which is reminiscent of most of my grandparents as they got older and less coherent. Anyhow, I did some very basic research and read the Nashville animal code. I found this section: 8.12.010 - Keeping of animals that disturb the peace. A. It is unlawful for any person to keep any animal, dog, bird or fowl which, by causing frequent or loud continued noise, disturbs the comfort or repose of any person in the vicinity. B. Violation of this section shall be declared to be public nuisance which violation may be enjoined by any court of competent jurisdiction. (§ 2 of Amdt. 1 to Ord. 90-1275, 7/17/90; Ord. 90-1275 §§ 1, 2, 1990) To me, it is very clear that he disturbs my sleep comfort. I don't care if they bark after 12 noon or even late in the evening, I also don't care about going after his money, I literally just want to be able to sleep normally. Given that I can't have a normal face to face conversation with him, I wonder what my legal rights are and what the best course of action is. I am fine with him keeping his dogs of course, I just want them to not bark so incredibly loudly when it's early in the morning. It seems like a very reasonable ask, and he did seem to sort of understand my issue, but I honestly can't know for sure. All I know is that it will be very unlikely for an old man like that who has a caretaker to be proactive enough to keep them inside, or add a barking bracelet or something else. I also read that small courts only award small amounts of money, rather then a possible injuction. I don't care for his money, I just want to sleep. I'm considering putting a camera on his front lawn but it will be very visible to the other neighbors and I'm not sure whether that's legal or not. I can also record audio every time I wake up but I'm not sure how strong that is as evidence. I do feel that if animal control sees the man and talks to him they can see that it's impossible to have a normal conversation with this guy. What would you guys recommend I do? Appreciate the help!
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dw4ytul
| 1,521,766,015 | 1,521,768,297 | 11 | 17 |
Contact Nashville's Animal Control office: http://www.nashville.gov/Health-Department/Animal-Care-and-Control/Animal-Control.aspx The cameras, audio recording, considering going to court yourself is not needed at this point when your tax dollars are already paying for this department to deal with situations like this.
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What time is it when the dogs are barking?
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86gmza
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[Nashville, TN] I have a neighbor with two very loud dogs that regularly wake me up by constantly barking in his front lawn. I went over to his house yesterday to talk to him about it, but it turns out he's very old and incoherent. I couldn't understand a word he was saying. What are my options? As I'm sure most people do, I value my sleep highly and lately I have had very early wake-ups due to two very loud barking dogs of one of my neighbors (not even a direct neighbor). I'm a pretty good neighbor myself if I dare say so - never had a noise complaint, good relationships with all our direct neighbors and we even get compliments for how they never ever hear us. I am very conscious about noise output in our house and we make sure to never turn on music very loudly or have conversations outside on the front porch. But I have an issue with a house right next to my first neighbor. His two dogs are very loud when they bark and while they don't bark constantly for hours straight, when they do bark early in the morning it is incredibly loud and it sustains for a couple of minutes every time the dog sees something or someone move (which is pretty often in our street). The dogs are behind a wired fence and are usually outside during the early mornings, thus, they bark pretty early on. The man living there must be in his late 70s. I know from the other neighbor that he sometimes has a caretaker too, and he ahs trouble walking. He also has a LOT of trouble speaking. He lost half of his teeth and I tried my absolute best to understand what he was saying when I went to his home yesterday. I went there trying to amicably speak to him about how I was losing sleep. I explained that I work late due to the nature of my work, and having his dogs in his front lawn barking at everything that even remotely walks by, wakes me up. For context: if some pedestrian walks on the opposite side of the road, in a completely normal tempo, the dogs will lose their minds and bark for as long as they see him. It seems the dogs are just poorly trained, and given that I could barely understand a word coming out of the man's mouth, this isn't a surprise. However, this strongly gives me the impression that talking about it and coming up with solutions together is going to be next to impossible. I'm sure he will have forgotten me by tomorrow. He tried to explain some solution but again, I just couldn't make out what he was saying. He was completely incoherent to an untrained ear - perhaps his caretaker will understand him better, but he/she is not always around. It felt like I was dealing with a kid as far as communication went, which is reminiscent of most of my grandparents as they got older and less coherent. Anyhow, I did some very basic research and read the Nashville animal code. I found this section: 8.12.010 - Keeping of animals that disturb the peace. A. It is unlawful for any person to keep any animal, dog, bird or fowl which, by causing frequent or loud continued noise, disturbs the comfort or repose of any person in the vicinity. B. Violation of this section shall be declared to be public nuisance which violation may be enjoined by any court of competent jurisdiction. (§ 2 of Amdt. 1 to Ord. 90-1275, 7/17/90; Ord. 90-1275 §§ 1, 2, 1990) To me, it is very clear that he disturbs my sleep comfort. I don't care if they bark after 12 noon or even late in the evening, I also don't care about going after his money, I literally just want to be able to sleep normally. Given that I can't have a normal face to face conversation with him, I wonder what my legal rights are and what the best course of action is. I am fine with him keeping his dogs of course, I just want them to not bark so incredibly loudly when it's early in the morning. It seems like a very reasonable ask, and he did seem to sort of understand my issue, but I honestly can't know for sure. All I know is that it will be very unlikely for an old man like that who has a caretaker to be proactive enough to keep them inside, or add a barking bracelet or something else. I also read that small courts only award small amounts of money, rather then a possible injuction. I don't care for his money, I just want to sleep. I'm considering putting a camera on his front lawn but it will be very visible to the other neighbors and I'm not sure whether that's legal or not. I can also record audio every time I wake up but I'm not sure how strong that is as evidence. I do feel that if animal control sees the man and talks to him they can see that it's impossible to have a normal conversation with this guy. What would you guys recommend I do? Appreciate the help!
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dw56mlh
| 1,521,779,312 | 1,521,776,691 | 9 | 5 |
Have you tried communicating in writing?
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I don’t know specific name in your area. I’d start here https://www.tn.gov/aging.html It looks like you can drill to local area agencies.
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Advice for dealing with neighbors who knowingly cut down hardwood trees on my property (CT) and a very shady tree company that did it. My property line is somewhat annoyingly situated with the neighboring driveway right up against (and in some places crossing over) onto our lot. There is an easement for the entire entrance to the neighbor's driveway, but the previous owner had moved the rest of the driveway right up to and possibly slightly over the property line. In spite of this we never had an issue with the previous neighbor and have not had the property re-flagged in a long time. We now have new neighbors who moved in about a year ago and since day one they have played fast and loose with the property line. They frequently walk into the wooded area that is behind our house, dumped their yard waste into our woods, and have done annoying but (as far as I know) legal things like parking their cars unnecessarily on the verge/strip between our lot and the road (which we maintain), killing the grass. Recently I awoke to a tree company in their driveway cutting down trees on our property. They removed 20+ young (3-4 year old trees) and at least four ~60 ft tall trees that might have been about 10 years old. I confronted both the homeowner and the tree care company when I saw what they were doing, and actually had to threaten to call the police to get them to stop cutting down trees because of how confrontational the tree care company owner was acting. Unfortunately the damage is already done and now we have a great view of their driveway from our house when it had been previously obstructed by small trees. I do not want to sue my neighbor. I don't want to have to call the police on them. I am concerned that they will continue to cross the property line and continue to cause issues, so I want to respond in a way that protects me legally in case they continue this kind of behavior but is also restrained/as reasonable as possible. I documented the tree cutting with photographs. I am paying to have the property line re-flagged. I am planning on putting up a no-trespassing sign along the property line once that is done. I am considering a fence. What else should I be doing? The tree company that they hired seems like a fly-by-night operation, so I don't think I can do much to them. It is an LLC housed in a residential address that is currently for sale. It is 5 years delinquent in its state company filings. They were using department of public works vehicles from a neighboring town to cut down the trees (these were new looking vehicles with clear town badging). I called the town to ask if they rent their vehicles and they do not. I informed the person I spoke to at their public works department that their vehicle was cutting down trees in a neighboring town and they seemed uninterested. I am assuming that I will get no money from this tree company if I wanted to pursue them, they don't seem to own much and I assume they are a cash operation. Thanks.
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fv3plnb
| 1,592,374,875 | 1,592,380,719 | 17 | 22 |
“Very shady tree company” made me laugh
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Why would you not want to sue your neighbor in this case? They have failed at every step of the way here to ascertain they own any of the property they're using, and caused you a great deal of damage.
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Help! My neighbor hosts for profit parties every weekend with loud music and 100 cars. So I saved and scraped and bought my dream home off the beaten path. It is a relatively rural community, with 0.5 to multiple acre lots surrounded by state parks and wildlife. It is my and my fiances first home and we work really hard so we can live in a place like this. So I moved into the home 2 months ago and there is a large property next door that is run down and uninhabited. I have a 1 acre lot and the rundown home sits on 3 acres with a nicely kept in ground pool. However,the owner of this house lives on the other side of that property in a nicer bigger house. So about 2 weeks after moving in, the back of 3 acre lot fills up with 100 cars and is the site of a pool party complete with a DJ mixing on the mike and aspiring singers wailing into the microphone. The music is so loud you can't even be outside and the music is vulgar. Bass pervades my home's interior and the party goes from about 12 to 7. So he has had of these huge block parties since the beginning of June. Almost 1 every weekend. The owner is not having private parties for family. The pool is never used by the property owners, but rather during these large events complete with sound system and DJ. I am convinced he is making money off the deal because he walks around the parking area in a fluorescent yellow shirt directing parking. Which is like event staff at an actual hired venue. So I need to know what legal rights and capabilities I have against this guy. He is clearly conducting commerical venue rental on a strictly residential property in an area of Rural Residential zoning. I've just started getting the info together regarding the zoning law and have read through the rules of my area and he is definitely in violation. But....how do I do something the right way and use the laws to make this stop. I have a rough past and turned my life around a couple of years ago. I can't afford to get into a physical altercation or cause myself a bunch of stress over this. To put the icing on the cake, Tuesday we were hit with a massive thunderstorm that made power outages throughout the state. High winds knocked a 50 ft tree on my home and because of the severity of the storm, the tree was not taken off til Friday. Now, Saturday I can't even relax on my first day without a tree on my house because my neighbor is making money illegally by ruining the peace of this beautiful neighborhood with the worst type of music and untalented singers. I called the cops yesterday because I snapped and by the time they showed up the music was at a lower volume and cars were starting leave the party. But at least I got the formal complaint recorded. But how can I fight this? What is my burden of proof? Do I have to prove he is making money somehow? If he isnt putting it directly in his pocket, then he is renting it out for "donations" for his church. I want to stop this inconsiderate asshole from ruining our neighborhood weekends. It's wrong and against the law. Help me please. Thanks guys.
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igi5r1n
| 1,658,052,389 | 1,658,054,707 | 201 | 358 |
Report the parties to the police when they happen, every time they happen. If it's unincorporated county land, there may not be super strong noise abatement laws, so you might want to find out what is and isn't legal. You can also contact an attorney about filing a lawsuit for nuisance against the owners of the property. The parties are a nuisance, but it's possible that the condition of the property is itself also a nuisance. Whether or not he's making money or defrauding a church isn't all that relevant. It might be illegal or might not. Mention it when you talk to the police and/or lawyer, but generally what's affecting you is the nuisance.
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Start by calling your municipal code enforcement officer. They will be more helpful than the police in determining if this is a violation of the zoning code and what the appropriate actions are against the property owner, if any.
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w1406y
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Help! My neighbor hosts for profit parties every weekend with loud music and 100 cars. So I saved and scraped and bought my dream home off the beaten path. It is a relatively rural community, with 0.5 to multiple acre lots surrounded by state parks and wildlife. It is my and my fiances first home and we work really hard so we can live in a place like this. So I moved into the home 2 months ago and there is a large property next door that is run down and uninhabited. I have a 1 acre lot and the rundown home sits on 3 acres with a nicely kept in ground pool. However,the owner of this house lives on the other side of that property in a nicer bigger house. So about 2 weeks after moving in, the back of 3 acre lot fills up with 100 cars and is the site of a pool party complete with a DJ mixing on the mike and aspiring singers wailing into the microphone. The music is so loud you can't even be outside and the music is vulgar. Bass pervades my home's interior and the party goes from about 12 to 7. So he has had of these huge block parties since the beginning of June. Almost 1 every weekend. The owner is not having private parties for family. The pool is never used by the property owners, but rather during these large events complete with sound system and DJ. I am convinced he is making money off the deal because he walks around the parking area in a fluorescent yellow shirt directing parking. Which is like event staff at an actual hired venue. So I need to know what legal rights and capabilities I have against this guy. He is clearly conducting commerical venue rental on a strictly residential property in an area of Rural Residential zoning. I've just started getting the info together regarding the zoning law and have read through the rules of my area and he is definitely in violation. But....how do I do something the right way and use the laws to make this stop. I have a rough past and turned my life around a couple of years ago. I can't afford to get into a physical altercation or cause myself a bunch of stress over this. To put the icing on the cake, Tuesday we were hit with a massive thunderstorm that made power outages throughout the state. High winds knocked a 50 ft tree on my home and because of the severity of the storm, the tree was not taken off til Friday. Now, Saturday I can't even relax on my first day without a tree on my house because my neighbor is making money illegally by ruining the peace of this beautiful neighborhood with the worst type of music and untalented singers. I called the cops yesterday because I snapped and by the time they showed up the music was at a lower volume and cars were starting leave the party. But at least I got the formal complaint recorded. But how can I fight this? What is my burden of proof? Do I have to prove he is making money somehow? If he isnt putting it directly in his pocket, then he is renting it out for "donations" for his church. I want to stop this inconsiderate asshole from ruining our neighborhood weekends. It's wrong and against the law. Help me please. Thanks guys.
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igj1feh
| 1,658,076,717 | 1,658,072,576 | 28 | 24 |
You can rent pools like airbnbs, perhaps you could see if it’s listed? Sometimes you can directly report if illegal in your area.
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Out of curiosity: have you verified who owns the land? (you can look up ownership on line through your local property tax assessor website). Sometimes a simple letter complaining could do the trick. Have you hacked if there are any HOA-type covenants burdening the property? Those are small lots.
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My boyfriend slept with my 16 year old cousin what can I do legally ? Last night my 17 year old cousin confessed to me that 4 months ago when she was 16 my then 23 year old boyfriend slept with her, he told her a bunch of things like how he wanted to give her a child how he wanted to move her into our home and how much he hated me she said it happened more than once and that she knew it was wrong but he has many guns so she was scared he has answered FaceTimes from her naked and I even have text messages where he talks about “wearing pants this time” and him sending her shirtless pictures I just want to know if legally I can do anything this is beyond disgusting and. I just want to help her (we do live in the US If that makes a difference)
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icz9vf6
| 1,655,668,446 | 1,655,668,474 | 79 | 524 |
What state? In some states this would be legal, in others, not legal. Any sexual/nude photos of her would be child pornography.
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What state are all parties in? > he has many guns so she was scared So was she coerced or did she consent (if she’s even able to)? The recourse here is having your cousin file a police report **if she wants to**. *Your* recourse is breaking up with your boyfriend and not talking to him again.
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vg31b8
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My boyfriend slept with my 16 year old cousin what can I do legally ? Last night my 17 year old cousin confessed to me that 4 months ago when she was 16 my then 23 year old boyfriend slept with her, he told her a bunch of things like how he wanted to give her a child how he wanted to move her into our home and how much he hated me she said it happened more than once and that she knew it was wrong but he has many guns so she was scared he has answered FaceTimes from her naked and I even have text messages where he talks about “wearing pants this time” and him sending her shirtless pictures I just want to know if legally I can do anything this is beyond disgusting and. I just want to help her (we do live in the US If that makes a difference)
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id0izep
| 1,655,668,524 | 1,655,691,568 | 18 | 21 |
Where did this happen? US isn't a specific enough location; in many states, the age of consent is 16. What does your cousin want to do?
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If he has any nudes sent to him while she was underage. He can get into trouble for child porn it's a federal case because it was sent via text. Other than that leave his nasty tail...
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vg31b8
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My boyfriend slept with my 16 year old cousin what can I do legally ? Last night my 17 year old cousin confessed to me that 4 months ago when she was 16 my then 23 year old boyfriend slept with her, he told her a bunch of things like how he wanted to give her a child how he wanted to move her into our home and how much he hated me she said it happened more than once and that she knew it was wrong but he has many guns so she was scared he has answered FaceTimes from her naked and I even have text messages where he talks about “wearing pants this time” and him sending her shirtless pictures I just want to know if legally I can do anything this is beyond disgusting and. I just want to help her (we do live in the US If that makes a difference)
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id0izep
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iczpx5d
| 1,655,691,568 | 1,655,676,062 | 21 | 12 |
If he has any nudes sent to him while she was underage. He can get into trouble for child porn it's a federal case because it was sent via text. Other than that leave his nasty tail...
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Not a lawyer I gather that you're in North Carolina where the age of consent is not an issue in this matter. You also mention your cousin was scared to say no because he carries a gun on his hip. If he has never misused his gun and never made any threats with his gun, the way she feels about the gun has no bearing on whether or not it was legal. If he did make a threat, or he was gesturing towards it or if he had a hand on the gun, then we've done a complete 180° and what he did was illegal. If he was exposing himself to her repeatedly through FaceTime or on the phone or in text messages and she asked him to stop, she might (speculation, maybe slight chance) have something. However, because it was through digital communications where she's able to block him, he may not be held accountable. This is all speculation. We don't have all the details. A good lawyer will take a phone call from you for free and if you're honest, they'll tell you if you have somehing or not.
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vg31b8
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My boyfriend slept with my 16 year old cousin what can I do legally ? Last night my 17 year old cousin confessed to me that 4 months ago when she was 16 my then 23 year old boyfriend slept with her, he told her a bunch of things like how he wanted to give her a child how he wanted to move her into our home and how much he hated me she said it happened more than once and that she knew it was wrong but he has many guns so she was scared he has answered FaceTimes from her naked and I even have text messages where he talks about “wearing pants this time” and him sending her shirtless pictures I just want to know if legally I can do anything this is beyond disgusting and. I just want to help her (we do live in the US If that makes a difference)
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id0izep
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id0f86a
| 1,655,691,568 | 1,655,689,491 | 21 | 2 |
If he has any nudes sent to him while she was underage. He can get into trouble for child porn it's a federal case because it was sent via text. Other than that leave his nasty tail...
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I work in the dv/sexual assault/trafficking world. I’m so sorry your family is dealing with this. I think you are amazing for putting aside the pain this has caused you to immediately care for your younger cousin. Your cousin is a child and she was coerced into sex by a predator. Trying to navigate this on your own is too much for you all. Please reach out to a resource and ask for immediate emotional support/therapy and they can also direct you to lay legal advice for victims. There is federal funding that will provide services for your cousin called VAWA and VOCA grants. Any sexual assault center or hotline will be able to connect you to a program that specializes in treating children and you can ask for support as well. This is a hugely traumatic experience for you, as well. There is a coalition to end sexual violence in NC. They can refer you somewhere. You can also contact the people at this link and ask for help. https://nccasa.org/get-help/
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzquvt
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Are they meds prescribed to you by a doctor and filled at a pharmacy
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You can report your boyfriend to the police for stealing your meds and ask your psychiatrist to give you a new prescription.
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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Are they meds prescribed to you by a doctor and filled at a pharmacy
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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Make yourself safe first and foremost. Can you exit the shared living space for awhile? Make a domestic violence safety plan (google how to do this) and leave the shared living area if you can. Is he on the lease? If not, you are in charge of his access. If he is on the lease, look into shelters/friends/family. He is making you unsafe by being in the space with you. Look into filing a restraining order. If you need help, call the domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233. They can connect you with local resources and advocates. This man is abusive, and he does not need to have been physically violent with you for you to get help. Take care of yourself and protect your safety before all else. And know that there are resources out there and help for folks like you (and me) who’ve been in these awful situations ♥️
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Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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| 1,658,371,218 | 1,658,367,983 | 515 | 188 |
Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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You are supposed to report any theft of controlled medication, which the adhd almost certainly is. Phrase it to the police like you are worried for his health. You have no idea what he's going to do with it. After reporting the theft you will likely be able to get a new prescription, but don't bother with that until he's been kicked or forced out.
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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| 1,658,371,218 | 1,658,370,716 | 515 | 78 |
Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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I don't think they will think you're a drug seeker they can do blood or urine tests to see the levels of the drug in your body. I work at a rehab and see this all the time we check to see if a client is prescribed say Xanax that it is at the proper level not in excess which would show abuse. The missing meds won't prove that you sold them or anything but if you've been in therapy I'm sure there is documentation regarding the status of your relationship and I'm guessing he didn't start acting this way overnight.
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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| 1,658,370,940 | 1,658,371,218 | 58 | 515 |
Obviously, get yourself safe. That's vital... I would call prescribing doctor. And ask pharmacy if they can replace. It's possible that your doc would be willing to write a new script to get you through a couple days til you can get any sort of documentation others suggested you might need. And I would say something to HR or your manager. You can be as vauge as you like "I've had an issue with my medication and might not be at my best for a few days until i can sort it out," or something. Good luck
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Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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| 1,658,371,218 | 1,658,370,820 | 515 | 35 |
Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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Please call a domestic abuse agency. They can get you into the house and help you navigate this with the police.
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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Just to add… you should report it to the pharmacy. They have to report it to the DEA. You should also do what everyone else said go to the police and make sure you are safe. Will he fall asleep? Can you get your meds when he does?
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Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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