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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih012j1
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ih00m4u
| 1,658,371,218 | 1,658,371,001 | 515 | 20 |
Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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You need to report this to the police.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih012j1
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igzz1eh
| 1,658,371,218 | 1,658,370,263 | 515 | 16 |
Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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Well to get a new prescription for those you obviously have to, at a minimum, have a police report detailing the theft. Doesn't matter who believes what without documentation. If he puts the pills in him bottles and says they are his it doesn't really matter you have to have the documentation. Personally f him and his sleeping. He sounds violent and more that a little off. If I was kind I would say he seems to having issues himself that may require intervention. Call the cops to report the theft, threat, and anything else pertinent. If you don't feel safe because of his erratic behavior then say so. If you are concerned he might injure himself for sympathy or any other reason then say so. Likely your boy will take a ride but if not stay somewhere else until he is gone. Once he's gone move and ghost him.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih012j1
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igzvmzh
| 1,658,371,218 | 1,658,368,696 | 515 | 8 |
Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
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How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
| 1 | 2,522 | 64.375 |
w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzzt13
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ih012j1
| 1,658,370,622 | 1,658,371,218 | 8 | 515 |
Whatever county you live in, look for a DV center on Google IN that county. They should have a hotline. They may be able to help with temporary housing (hotel vouchers), they can help with safety planning, and possibly relocation. I would look into a protection order if this person continues to harass you as well. Try to avoid going to the cops like someone else said. They are not trained to work in a trauma-informed way at all.
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Pharmacy technician here, you just need a police report and a new script from your provider. The details of the report don’t matter (or at least haven’t in any pharmacy I’ve worked in.) The pharmacy just needs to be able to document why they are filling your medication early. Depending on your insurance you may or may not have to pay the cash price for the medication. Most plans will approve at least one emergency fill per year per medication.
| 0 | 596 | 64.375 |
w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzu22r
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igzvz21
| 1,658,367,983 | 1,658,368,845 | 188 | 212 |
You are supposed to report any theft of controlled medication, which the adhd almost certainly is. Phrase it to the police like you are worried for his health. You have no idea what he's going to do with it. After reporting the theft you will likely be able to get a new prescription, but don't bother with that until he's been kicked or forced out.
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Make yourself safe first and foremost. Can you exit the shared living space for awhile? Make a domestic violence safety plan (google how to do this) and leave the shared living area if you can. Is he on the lease? If not, you are in charge of his access. If he is on the lease, look into shelters/friends/family. He is making you unsafe by being in the space with you. Look into filing a restraining order. If you need help, call the domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233. They can connect you with local resources and advocates. This man is abusive, and he does not need to have been physically violent with you for you to get help. Take care of yourself and protect your safety before all else. And know that there are resources out there and help for folks like you (and me) who’ve been in these awful situations ♥️
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzvz21
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igzvmzh
| 1,658,368,845 | 1,658,368,696 | 212 | 8 |
Make yourself safe first and foremost. Can you exit the shared living space for awhile? Make a domestic violence safety plan (google how to do this) and leave the shared living area if you can. Is he on the lease? If not, you are in charge of his access. If he is on the lease, look into shelters/friends/family. He is making you unsafe by being in the space with you. Look into filing a restraining order. If you need help, call the domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233. They can connect you with local resources and advocates. This man is abusive, and he does not need to have been physically violent with you for you to get help. Take care of yourself and protect your safety before all else. And know that there are resources out there and help for folks like you (and me) who’ve been in these awful situations ♥️
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How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
| 1 | 149 | 26.5 |
w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzyla8
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ih000bl
| 1,658,370,053 | 1,658,370,716 | 34 | 78 |
Just to add… you should report it to the pharmacy. They have to report it to the DEA. You should also do what everyone else said go to the police and make sure you are safe. Will he fall asleep? Can you get your meds when he does?
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I don't think they will think you're a drug seeker they can do blood or urine tests to see the levels of the drug in your body. I work at a rehab and see this all the time we check to see if a client is prescribed say Xanax that it is at the proper level not in excess which would show abuse. The missing meds won't prove that you sold them or anything but if you've been in therapy I'm sure there is documentation regarding the status of your relationship and I'm guessing he didn't start acting this way overnight.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih000bl
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igzz1eh
| 1,658,370,716 | 1,658,370,263 | 78 | 16 |
I don't think they will think you're a drug seeker they can do blood or urine tests to see the levels of the drug in your body. I work at a rehab and see this all the time we check to see if a client is prescribed say Xanax that it is at the proper level not in excess which would show abuse. The missing meds won't prove that you sold them or anything but if you've been in therapy I'm sure there is documentation regarding the status of your relationship and I'm guessing he didn't start acting this way overnight.
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Well to get a new prescription for those you obviously have to, at a minimum, have a police report detailing the theft. Doesn't matter who believes what without documentation. If he puts the pills in him bottles and says they are his it doesn't really matter you have to have the documentation. Personally f him and his sleeping. He sounds violent and more that a little off. If I was kind I would say he seems to having issues himself that may require intervention. Call the cops to report the theft, threat, and anything else pertinent. If you don't feel safe because of his erratic behavior then say so. If you are concerned he might injure himself for sympathy or any other reason then say so. Likely your boy will take a ride but if not stay somewhere else until he is gone. Once he's gone move and ghost him.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzvmzh
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ih000bl
| 1,658,368,696 | 1,658,370,716 | 8 | 78 |
How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
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I don't think they will think you're a drug seeker they can do blood or urine tests to see the levels of the drug in your body. I work at a rehab and see this all the time we check to see if a client is prescribed say Xanax that it is at the proper level not in excess which would show abuse. The missing meds won't prove that you sold them or anything but if you've been in therapy I'm sure there is documentation regarding the status of your relationship and I'm guessing he didn't start acting this way overnight.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih000bl
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igzzt13
| 1,658,370,716 | 1,658,370,622 | 78 | 8 |
I don't think they will think you're a drug seeker they can do blood or urine tests to see the levels of the drug in your body. I work at a rehab and see this all the time we check to see if a client is prescribed say Xanax that it is at the proper level not in excess which would show abuse. The missing meds won't prove that you sold them or anything but if you've been in therapy I'm sure there is documentation regarding the status of your relationship and I'm guessing he didn't start acting this way overnight.
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Whatever county you live in, look for a DV center on Google IN that county. They should have a hotline. They may be able to help with temporary housing (hotel vouchers), they can help with safety planning, and possibly relocation. I would look into a protection order if this person continues to harass you as well. Try to avoid going to the cops like someone else said. They are not trained to work in a trauma-informed way at all.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih0089s
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ih00hgi
| 1,658,370,820 | 1,658,370,940 | 35 | 58 |
Please call a domestic abuse agency. They can get you into the house and help you navigate this with the police.
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Obviously, get yourself safe. That's vital... I would call prescribing doctor. And ask pharmacy if they can replace. It's possible that your doc would be willing to write a new script to get you through a couple days til you can get any sort of documentation others suggested you might need. And I would say something to HR or your manager. You can be as vauge as you like "I've had an issue with my medication and might not be at my best for a few days until i can sort it out," or something. Good luck
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih00hgi
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igzyla8
| 1,658,370,940 | 1,658,370,053 | 58 | 34 |
Obviously, get yourself safe. That's vital... I would call prescribing doctor. And ask pharmacy if they can replace. It's possible that your doc would be willing to write a new script to get you through a couple days til you can get any sort of documentation others suggested you might need. And I would say something to HR or your manager. You can be as vauge as you like "I've had an issue with my medication and might not be at my best for a few days until i can sort it out," or something. Good luck
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Just to add… you should report it to the pharmacy. They have to report it to the DEA. You should also do what everyone else said go to the police and make sure you are safe. Will he fall asleep? Can you get your meds when he does?
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzz1eh
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ih00hgi
| 1,658,370,263 | 1,658,370,940 | 16 | 58 |
Well to get a new prescription for those you obviously have to, at a minimum, have a police report detailing the theft. Doesn't matter who believes what without documentation. If he puts the pills in him bottles and says they are his it doesn't really matter you have to have the documentation. Personally f him and his sleeping. He sounds violent and more that a little off. If I was kind I would say he seems to having issues himself that may require intervention. Call the cops to report the theft, threat, and anything else pertinent. If you don't feel safe because of his erratic behavior then say so. If you are concerned he might injure himself for sympathy or any other reason then say so. Likely your boy will take a ride but if not stay somewhere else until he is gone. Once he's gone move and ghost him.
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Obviously, get yourself safe. That's vital... I would call prescribing doctor. And ask pharmacy if they can replace. It's possible that your doc would be willing to write a new script to get you through a couple days til you can get any sort of documentation others suggested you might need. And I would say something to HR or your manager. You can be as vauge as you like "I've had an issue with my medication and might not be at my best for a few days until i can sort it out," or something. Good luck
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzvmzh
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ih00hgi
| 1,658,368,696 | 1,658,370,940 | 8 | 58 |
How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
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Obviously, get yourself safe. That's vital... I would call prescribing doctor. And ask pharmacy if they can replace. It's possible that your doc would be willing to write a new script to get you through a couple days til you can get any sort of documentation others suggested you might need. And I would say something to HR or your manager. You can be as vauge as you like "I've had an issue with my medication and might not be at my best for a few days until i can sort it out," or something. Good luck
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzzt13
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ih00hgi
| 1,658,370,622 | 1,658,370,940 | 8 | 58 |
Whatever county you live in, look for a DV center on Google IN that county. They should have a hotline. They may be able to help with temporary housing (hotel vouchers), they can help with safety planning, and possibly relocation. I would look into a protection order if this person continues to harass you as well. Try to avoid going to the cops like someone else said. They are not trained to work in a trauma-informed way at all.
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Obviously, get yourself safe. That's vital... I would call prescribing doctor. And ask pharmacy if they can replace. It's possible that your doc would be willing to write a new script to get you through a couple days til you can get any sort of documentation others suggested you might need. And I would say something to HR or your manager. You can be as vauge as you like "I've had an issue with my medication and might not be at my best for a few days until i can sort it out," or something. Good luck
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih0089s
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igzyla8
| 1,658,370,820 | 1,658,370,053 | 35 | 34 |
Please call a domestic abuse agency. They can get you into the house and help you navigate this with the police.
|
Just to add… you should report it to the pharmacy. They have to report it to the DEA. You should also do what everyone else said go to the police and make sure you are safe. Will he fall asleep? Can you get your meds when he does?
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih0089s
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igzz1eh
| 1,658,370,820 | 1,658,370,263 | 35 | 16 |
Please call a domestic abuse agency. They can get you into the house and help you navigate this with the police.
|
Well to get a new prescription for those you obviously have to, at a minimum, have a police report detailing the theft. Doesn't matter who believes what without documentation. If he puts the pills in him bottles and says they are his it doesn't really matter you have to have the documentation. Personally f him and his sleeping. He sounds violent and more that a little off. If I was kind I would say he seems to having issues himself that may require intervention. Call the cops to report the theft, threat, and anything else pertinent. If you don't feel safe because of his erratic behavior then say so. If you are concerned he might injure himself for sympathy or any other reason then say so. Likely your boy will take a ride but if not stay somewhere else until he is gone. Once he's gone move and ghost him.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzvmzh
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ih0089s
| 1,658,368,696 | 1,658,370,820 | 8 | 35 |
How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
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Please call a domestic abuse agency. They can get you into the house and help you navigate this with the police.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzzt13
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ih0089s
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Whatever county you live in, look for a DV center on Google IN that county. They should have a hotline. They may be able to help with temporary housing (hotel vouchers), they can help with safety planning, and possibly relocation. I would look into a protection order if this person continues to harass you as well. Try to avoid going to the cops like someone else said. They are not trained to work in a trauma-informed way at all.
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Please call a domestic abuse agency. They can get you into the house and help you navigate this with the police.
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzvmzh
| 1,658,370,053 | 1,658,368,696 | 34 | 8 |
Just to add… you should report it to the pharmacy. They have to report it to the DEA. You should also do what everyone else said go to the police and make sure you are safe. Will he fall asleep? Can you get your meds when he does?
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How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih00m4u
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ih02w75
| 1,658,371,001 | 1,658,372,085 | 20 | 32 |
You need to report this to the police.
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If the meds are controlled substances typically a Police report must be filled in order to have them replaced. Your doctor or pharmacy tippicly can not replace controlled substance persciptions. Also medical insurance often does not pay for replacements of lost or stolen drugs. One might be able to make a homeowner or renters insurance clams. Unfortunately replacing lost or stolen prescriptions can be expensive and complicated in the USA of they are high value controlled substances like Adderall for ADD.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzz1eh
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ih02w75
| 1,658,370,263 | 1,658,372,085 | 16 | 32 |
Well to get a new prescription for those you obviously have to, at a minimum, have a police report detailing the theft. Doesn't matter who believes what without documentation. If he puts the pills in him bottles and says they are his it doesn't really matter you have to have the documentation. Personally f him and his sleeping. He sounds violent and more that a little off. If I was kind I would say he seems to having issues himself that may require intervention. Call the cops to report the theft, threat, and anything else pertinent. If you don't feel safe because of his erratic behavior then say so. If you are concerned he might injure himself for sympathy or any other reason then say so. Likely your boy will take a ride but if not stay somewhere else until he is gone. Once he's gone move and ghost him.
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If the meds are controlled substances typically a Police report must be filled in order to have them replaced. Your doctor or pharmacy tippicly can not replace controlled substance persciptions. Also medical insurance often does not pay for replacements of lost or stolen drugs. One might be able to make a homeowner or renters insurance clams. Unfortunately replacing lost or stolen prescriptions can be expensive and complicated in the USA of they are high value controlled substances like Adderall for ADD.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih02w75
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igzvmzh
| 1,658,372,085 | 1,658,368,696 | 32 | 8 |
If the meds are controlled substances typically a Police report must be filled in order to have them replaced. Your doctor or pharmacy tippicly can not replace controlled substance persciptions. Also medical insurance often does not pay for replacements of lost or stolen drugs. One might be able to make a homeowner or renters insurance clams. Unfortunately replacing lost or stolen prescriptions can be expensive and complicated in the USA of they are high value controlled substances like Adderall for ADD.
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How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih02w75
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igzzt13
| 1,658,372,085 | 1,658,370,622 | 32 | 8 |
If the meds are controlled substances typically a Police report must be filled in order to have them replaced. Your doctor or pharmacy tippicly can not replace controlled substance persciptions. Also medical insurance often does not pay for replacements of lost or stolen drugs. One might be able to make a homeowner or renters insurance clams. Unfortunately replacing lost or stolen prescriptions can be expensive and complicated in the USA of they are high value controlled substances like Adderall for ADD.
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Whatever county you live in, look for a DV center on Google IN that county. They should have a hotline. They may be able to help with temporary housing (hotel vouchers), they can help with safety planning, and possibly relocation. I would look into a protection order if this person continues to harass you as well. Try to avoid going to the cops like someone else said. They are not trained to work in a trauma-informed way at all.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih00m4u
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igzz1eh
| 1,658,371,001 | 1,658,370,263 | 20 | 16 |
You need to report this to the police.
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Well to get a new prescription for those you obviously have to, at a minimum, have a police report detailing the theft. Doesn't matter who believes what without documentation. If he puts the pills in him bottles and says they are his it doesn't really matter you have to have the documentation. Personally f him and his sleeping. He sounds violent and more that a little off. If I was kind I would say he seems to having issues himself that may require intervention. Call the cops to report the theft, threat, and anything else pertinent. If you don't feel safe because of his erratic behavior then say so. If you are concerned he might injure himself for sympathy or any other reason then say so. Likely your boy will take a ride but if not stay somewhere else until he is gone. Once he's gone move and ghost him.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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ih00m4u
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igzvmzh
| 1,658,371,001 | 1,658,368,696 | 20 | 8 |
You need to report this to the police.
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How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzzt13
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ih00m4u
| 1,658,370,622 | 1,658,371,001 | 8 | 20 |
Whatever county you live in, look for a DV center on Google IN that county. They should have a hotline. They may be able to help with temporary housing (hotel vouchers), they can help with safety planning, and possibly relocation. I would look into a protection order if this person continues to harass you as well. Try to avoid going to the cops like someone else said. They are not trained to work in a trauma-informed way at all.
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You need to report this to the police.
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w43ac8
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legaladvice_train
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please help. boyfriend took over half of my psych meds (adhd, anxiety) that i need for work, and is demanding i pay him $5k to get them back - recourse? realistically what recourse do i have? i am afraid the police will just think i am a drug seeker because of the meds they are (controlled). i just started a new job and have been taking these medications for years. my therapist knows but that’s it. i don’t know what to do; this will undoubtedly ruin this job and my life. i just emailed my therapist and the practice where my psychiatrist practices out of. i have no way of proving this as we live together (he’s moving out over the last few days and have no idea what he did with the medication).
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igzz1eh
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igzvmzh
| 1,658,370,263 | 1,658,368,696 | 16 | 8 |
Well to get a new prescription for those you obviously have to, at a minimum, have a police report detailing the theft. Doesn't matter who believes what without documentation. If he puts the pills in him bottles and says they are his it doesn't really matter you have to have the documentation. Personally f him and his sleeping. He sounds violent and more that a little off. If I was kind I would say he seems to having issues himself that may require intervention. Call the cops to report the theft, threat, and anything else pertinent. If you don't feel safe because of his erratic behavior then say so. If you are concerned he might injure himself for sympathy or any other reason then say so. Likely your boy will take a ride but if not stay somewhere else until he is gone. Once he's gone move and ghost him.
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How is he demanding that, as in, how has he conveyed that information to you?
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wpfwln
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Son with severe autism and adhd escaped my house while I slept Hi there. This is pretty long so bear with me. I'm in a bit of trouble right now, and I want to know just how much of a case this police officer that arrested me really has against me. Here's my story. I have an 8 year old son. He is autistic, nonverbal, and has almost uncontrollable, severe adhd. He has escaped every school building he's ever gone to several times. He got kicked out of headstart at under 5 years old because he kept running out of the building and they literally could not control him. One of his teachers (2nd grade) recently twisted her ankle having to chase him. I'm living in a prison-like home, with locks on any and everything, in order to stop him from escaping. Doors, windows, you name it, locked up. Just to give you a little insight on what I'm dealing with, I'm ever vigilant and always on edge. Anxiety through the roof. Everyone who knows me and my son, knows this. That being said, a few nights ago, my neighbors and I were having a bonfire in our back yard. We all had some beers. Our kids were out, we were making smores, it was just a good time. Only problem is, I must have either not secured my "extra" lock on the back door completely after we went to bed, or my son found my keys, but at the crack of dawn he got out the back door while I was still asleep. He ran to the gas station right next to our apartments and took some candy (he obviously doesn't understand what stealing is). Anyway, the cops were called, I wake up to them ringing my doorbell, telling me where they found him. I desperately tried to explain his several issues, that he's in treatment but that I need help and I feel like I can't control him. I ended up getting arrested, my wrists are bruised up from the cuffs being so tight (no I did not resist arrest, I was compliant), they wouldn't even allow me to put shoes on to go to the station, and I was charged with endangering the welfare of a child. Why? Because I had beers the night before, and a neighbor that I don't get along with told them I was up all night drinking. The thing is though, this could have, and HAS happened, with no alcohol involved at all. I call my son Houdini because he such an incredible escape artist. So on the way to the station, I told the cop he didn't even give me a breathalyzer or a blood alcohol test, and he told me he didn't need to to charge me. I told him I need help, not to be treated like a criminal. He told me I could have reached out, but believe me, I HAVE. I am now facing up to a $10,000 fine because I'm struggling to control a child that is hellbent on escaping our home and the bigger he gets, the harder it is. Yes, he's medicated, it still doesn't stop him. I'm at a loss. While I was at the station, CPS and another police officer were touring my apartment, questioning my daughters, typical stuff I guess. However, while they were doing this, THEY ALLOWED MY SON TO DANGLE OUT OF A SECOND STORY WINDOW. My neighbor had to alert them to it, they were not even watching him. He didn't fall thank God, but didn't that tell them just HOW bad it really is?? What if he did fall, would THEY be charged?? I would appreciate any advice here. This is soul crushing to me. Do they really have a strong case against me when they didn't even test me for alcohol? Because I was told that's the only reason I was arrested, but they didn't bother to prove it. Again, any help or advice is much appreciated, and I thank you if you took the time to read this.
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ikgx2su
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Not a lawyer, but the term for this is “elopement” and it’s very common amongst autistic children. Provide information about elopement and his diagnosis paperwork to your lawyer, as well as all steps you’ve taken to ensure his safety. Can the school provide reports to your lawyer to show that the behavior is not confined to the home? Does he have a treatment team? If so you may want to include treatment plans to show your participation in therapeutic services to address the issue. As a future suggestion, some families attach trackers to their children.
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First I can only feel for you. I have a nephew who is exactly the same, whom is now 15 and trust me I have seen what heroic efforts parents go to caring for neurological different children (especially once they reach the situation where they are also stronger than you are). 1. Criminal lawyer immediate for yourself, not another single word to the police without legal representation. 2. Give the lawyer all the history. It will be helpful to list out all people (including those at the Bonfire and the wider group who engage with your child (such as the school/past services) to be proactive to help the lawyer. Include your son's medical team as they would be helpful. Include any past "escapes" witnessed by third parties etc. 3. With a public defender you'll want to be proactive. Start making notes on when you were read your rights, take photographs of any injury to your wrists, build a written timeline hour by hour of the bonfire through to your arrest. It will again help ensure all points get covered. 4. Make sure you have the neighbour who witnessed your son out of the window hanging make a statement for your benefit to your lawyer and again should appear on your timeline/list. The lawyer then needs to advise you on the charge, and whilst Reddit can't really give you any direct information that as there are too many variables, by taking some proactive steps you can work to get the situation under control and to your best outcome. You don't mention State/general locale so a little difficult also for any more specifics and you should not put more information onto the internet over this. As a side note, the medication and the issues you may want to follow up on. You may find resources like https://www.additudemag.com/ helpful if you haven't already visited that site.
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wpfwln
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Son with severe autism and adhd escaped my house while I slept Hi there. This is pretty long so bear with me. I'm in a bit of trouble right now, and I want to know just how much of a case this police officer that arrested me really has against me. Here's my story. I have an 8 year old son. He is autistic, nonverbal, and has almost uncontrollable, severe adhd. He has escaped every school building he's ever gone to several times. He got kicked out of headstart at under 5 years old because he kept running out of the building and they literally could not control him. One of his teachers (2nd grade) recently twisted her ankle having to chase him. I'm living in a prison-like home, with locks on any and everything, in order to stop him from escaping. Doors, windows, you name it, locked up. Just to give you a little insight on what I'm dealing with, I'm ever vigilant and always on edge. Anxiety through the roof. Everyone who knows me and my son, knows this. That being said, a few nights ago, my neighbors and I were having a bonfire in our back yard. We all had some beers. Our kids were out, we were making smores, it was just a good time. Only problem is, I must have either not secured my "extra" lock on the back door completely after we went to bed, or my son found my keys, but at the crack of dawn he got out the back door while I was still asleep. He ran to the gas station right next to our apartments and took some candy (he obviously doesn't understand what stealing is). Anyway, the cops were called, I wake up to them ringing my doorbell, telling me where they found him. I desperately tried to explain his several issues, that he's in treatment but that I need help and I feel like I can't control him. I ended up getting arrested, my wrists are bruised up from the cuffs being so tight (no I did not resist arrest, I was compliant), they wouldn't even allow me to put shoes on to go to the station, and I was charged with endangering the welfare of a child. Why? Because I had beers the night before, and a neighbor that I don't get along with told them I was up all night drinking. The thing is though, this could have, and HAS happened, with no alcohol involved at all. I call my son Houdini because he such an incredible escape artist. So on the way to the station, I told the cop he didn't even give me a breathalyzer or a blood alcohol test, and he told me he didn't need to to charge me. I told him I need help, not to be treated like a criminal. He told me I could have reached out, but believe me, I HAVE. I am now facing up to a $10,000 fine because I'm struggling to control a child that is hellbent on escaping our home and the bigger he gets, the harder it is. Yes, he's medicated, it still doesn't stop him. I'm at a loss. While I was at the station, CPS and another police officer were touring my apartment, questioning my daughters, typical stuff I guess. However, while they were doing this, THEY ALLOWED MY SON TO DANGLE OUT OF A SECOND STORY WINDOW. My neighbor had to alert them to it, they were not even watching him. He didn't fall thank God, but didn't that tell them just HOW bad it really is?? What if he did fall, would THEY be charged?? I would appreciate any advice here. This is soul crushing to me. Do they really have a strong case against me when they didn't even test me for alcohol? Because I was told that's the only reason I was arrested, but they didn't bother to prove it. Again, any help or advice is much appreciated, and I thank you if you took the time to read this.
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ikhfl5j
| 1,660,618,765 | 1,660,627,504 | 439 | 1,822 |
I'm in a similar situation, in that I have a completely non-verbal child prone to elopement (as well as other dangerous behaviors.) Believe me, I know your levels of stress and anxiety, as well as what it's like to essentially live in a prison in your own home. 1. get alarms on those doors and windows. You don't need a full house alarm; you can buy stick-on alarms from Amazon. If you're like me, you probably have several locks and child-proof devices on on every door already, but non-verbal kids seem to learn locks and latches just fine. Plus, accidents happen, even if it's not you or your kids (who probably have the "lock all five locks every single time" down as a habit), guests and clearly police might not be so aware. You are going to want a loud noise every single time a door or window is opened. Your neighbors will hate the noise. They'll hate it more when you go running out your front door still pulling your pants up because you heard it go off while you were on the can. But it's a safety measure. 2. There's no state listed, but in my state, my daughter qualifies for one-on-one care in school. It's made a big difference in dangerous behaviors at school (climbing and escaping mostly.) See if your state has something similar. If not, hold your school's feet to the fire on this. Your child should not be escaping at school. The cost of a full-time para professional is still likely than liability costs if something happens. They may need to be reminded of this. 3. Try to add as much of your child's preferred sensory activities as you can manage inside your home. Some stuff can be expensive, but others are pretty cheap. Water beads are a great go-to: they don't cost much for a big bag, and once they are chewed up (non-toxic!) and scattered everywhere, they simply dry to sand-size bits that get vacuumed up. 4. See if your local police have a program for tracking eloped people with disabilities. Mine has a radio transponder setup. I can't get my kid to wear anything like that, but if you can, having the kid in their system will help a lot. If the kid is found, they will have the info on file. And if he goes missing, they can help find him. 5. CPS is a whole separate thing. Resolving things with them, and with this child endangerment charge, are going to be two separate battles.
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Not a lawyer, but the term for this is “elopement” and it’s very common amongst autistic children. Provide information about elopement and his diagnosis paperwork to your lawyer, as well as all steps you’ve taken to ensure his safety. Can the school provide reports to your lawyer to show that the behavior is not confined to the home? Does he have a treatment team? If so you may want to include treatment plans to show your participation in therapeutic services to address the issue. As a future suggestion, some families attach trackers to their children.
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wpfwln
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Son with severe autism and adhd escaped my house while I slept Hi there. This is pretty long so bear with me. I'm in a bit of trouble right now, and I want to know just how much of a case this police officer that arrested me really has against me. Here's my story. I have an 8 year old son. He is autistic, nonverbal, and has almost uncontrollable, severe adhd. He has escaped every school building he's ever gone to several times. He got kicked out of headstart at under 5 years old because he kept running out of the building and they literally could not control him. One of his teachers (2nd grade) recently twisted her ankle having to chase him. I'm living in a prison-like home, with locks on any and everything, in order to stop him from escaping. Doors, windows, you name it, locked up. Just to give you a little insight on what I'm dealing with, I'm ever vigilant and always on edge. Anxiety through the roof. Everyone who knows me and my son, knows this. That being said, a few nights ago, my neighbors and I were having a bonfire in our back yard. We all had some beers. Our kids were out, we were making smores, it was just a good time. Only problem is, I must have either not secured my "extra" lock on the back door completely after we went to bed, or my son found my keys, but at the crack of dawn he got out the back door while I was still asleep. He ran to the gas station right next to our apartments and took some candy (he obviously doesn't understand what stealing is). Anyway, the cops were called, I wake up to them ringing my doorbell, telling me where they found him. I desperately tried to explain his several issues, that he's in treatment but that I need help and I feel like I can't control him. I ended up getting arrested, my wrists are bruised up from the cuffs being so tight (no I did not resist arrest, I was compliant), they wouldn't even allow me to put shoes on to go to the station, and I was charged with endangering the welfare of a child. Why? Because I had beers the night before, and a neighbor that I don't get along with told them I was up all night drinking. The thing is though, this could have, and HAS happened, with no alcohol involved at all. I call my son Houdini because he such an incredible escape artist. So on the way to the station, I told the cop he didn't even give me a breathalyzer or a blood alcohol test, and he told me he didn't need to to charge me. I told him I need help, not to be treated like a criminal. He told me I could have reached out, but believe me, I HAVE. I am now facing up to a $10,000 fine because I'm struggling to control a child that is hellbent on escaping our home and the bigger he gets, the harder it is. Yes, he's medicated, it still doesn't stop him. I'm at a loss. While I was at the station, CPS and another police officer were touring my apartment, questioning my daughters, typical stuff I guess. However, while they were doing this, THEY ALLOWED MY SON TO DANGLE OUT OF A SECOND STORY WINDOW. My neighbor had to alert them to it, they were not even watching him. He didn't fall thank God, but didn't that tell them just HOW bad it really is?? What if he did fall, would THEY be charged?? I would appreciate any advice here. This is soul crushing to me. Do they really have a strong case against me when they didn't even test me for alcohol? Because I was told that's the only reason I was arrested, but they didn't bother to prove it. Again, any help or advice is much appreciated, and I thank you if you took the time to read this.
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ikh0x2k
| 1,660,627,504 | 1,660,619,242 | 1,822 | 132 |
Not a lawyer, but the term for this is “elopement” and it’s very common amongst autistic children. Provide information about elopement and his diagnosis paperwork to your lawyer, as well as all steps you’ve taken to ensure his safety. Can the school provide reports to your lawyer to show that the behavior is not confined to the home? Does he have a treatment team? If so you may want to include treatment plans to show your participation in therapeutic services to address the issue. As a future suggestion, some families attach trackers to their children.
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I’m confused … what are the factual allegations underlying the charges? I don’t see how drinking beer at a bonfire and perhaps failing to lock a gate (negligence at most) is a criminal act.
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Son with severe autism and adhd escaped my house while I slept Hi there. This is pretty long so bear with me. I'm in a bit of trouble right now, and I want to know just how much of a case this police officer that arrested me really has against me. Here's my story. I have an 8 year old son. He is autistic, nonverbal, and has almost uncontrollable, severe adhd. He has escaped every school building he's ever gone to several times. He got kicked out of headstart at under 5 years old because he kept running out of the building and they literally could not control him. One of his teachers (2nd grade) recently twisted her ankle having to chase him. I'm living in a prison-like home, with locks on any and everything, in order to stop him from escaping. Doors, windows, you name it, locked up. Just to give you a little insight on what I'm dealing with, I'm ever vigilant and always on edge. Anxiety through the roof. Everyone who knows me and my son, knows this. That being said, a few nights ago, my neighbors and I were having a bonfire in our back yard. We all had some beers. Our kids were out, we were making smores, it was just a good time. Only problem is, I must have either not secured my "extra" lock on the back door completely after we went to bed, or my son found my keys, but at the crack of dawn he got out the back door while I was still asleep. He ran to the gas station right next to our apartments and took some candy (he obviously doesn't understand what stealing is). Anyway, the cops were called, I wake up to them ringing my doorbell, telling me where they found him. I desperately tried to explain his several issues, that he's in treatment but that I need help and I feel like I can't control him. I ended up getting arrested, my wrists are bruised up from the cuffs being so tight (no I did not resist arrest, I was compliant), they wouldn't even allow me to put shoes on to go to the station, and I was charged with endangering the welfare of a child. Why? Because I had beers the night before, and a neighbor that I don't get along with told them I was up all night drinking. The thing is though, this could have, and HAS happened, with no alcohol involved at all. I call my son Houdini because he such an incredible escape artist. So on the way to the station, I told the cop he didn't even give me a breathalyzer or a blood alcohol test, and he told me he didn't need to to charge me. I told him I need help, not to be treated like a criminal. He told me I could have reached out, but believe me, I HAVE. I am now facing up to a $10,000 fine because I'm struggling to control a child that is hellbent on escaping our home and the bigger he gets, the harder it is. Yes, he's medicated, it still doesn't stop him. I'm at a loss. While I was at the station, CPS and another police officer were touring my apartment, questioning my daughters, typical stuff I guess. However, while they were doing this, THEY ALLOWED MY SON TO DANGLE OUT OF A SECOND STORY WINDOW. My neighbor had to alert them to it, they were not even watching him. He didn't fall thank God, but didn't that tell them just HOW bad it really is?? What if he did fall, would THEY be charged?? I would appreciate any advice here. This is soul crushing to me. Do they really have a strong case against me when they didn't even test me for alcohol? Because I was told that's the only reason I was arrested, but they didn't bother to prove it. Again, any help or advice is much appreciated, and I thank you if you took the time to read this.
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ikhfl5j
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OP, what state are you in? I just went though something similar with a client and may be able to give you some general tips (CPS stuff can be so state specific though, I don’t want to mislead you).
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Not a lawyer, but the term for this is “elopement” and it’s very common amongst autistic children. Provide information about elopement and his diagnosis paperwork to your lawyer, as well as all steps you’ve taken to ensure his safety. Can the school provide reports to your lawyer to show that the behavior is not confined to the home? Does he have a treatment team? If so you may want to include treatment plans to show your participation in therapeutic services to address the issue. As a future suggestion, some families attach trackers to their children.
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Son with severe autism and adhd escaped my house while I slept Hi there. This is pretty long so bear with me. I'm in a bit of trouble right now, and I want to know just how much of a case this police officer that arrested me really has against me. Here's my story. I have an 8 year old son. He is autistic, nonverbal, and has almost uncontrollable, severe adhd. He has escaped every school building he's ever gone to several times. He got kicked out of headstart at under 5 years old because he kept running out of the building and they literally could not control him. One of his teachers (2nd grade) recently twisted her ankle having to chase him. I'm living in a prison-like home, with locks on any and everything, in order to stop him from escaping. Doors, windows, you name it, locked up. Just to give you a little insight on what I'm dealing with, I'm ever vigilant and always on edge. Anxiety through the roof. Everyone who knows me and my son, knows this. That being said, a few nights ago, my neighbors and I were having a bonfire in our back yard. We all had some beers. Our kids were out, we were making smores, it was just a good time. Only problem is, I must have either not secured my "extra" lock on the back door completely after we went to bed, or my son found my keys, but at the crack of dawn he got out the back door while I was still asleep. He ran to the gas station right next to our apartments and took some candy (he obviously doesn't understand what stealing is). Anyway, the cops were called, I wake up to them ringing my doorbell, telling me where they found him. I desperately tried to explain his several issues, that he's in treatment but that I need help and I feel like I can't control him. I ended up getting arrested, my wrists are bruised up from the cuffs being so tight (no I did not resist arrest, I was compliant), they wouldn't even allow me to put shoes on to go to the station, and I was charged with endangering the welfare of a child. Why? Because I had beers the night before, and a neighbor that I don't get along with told them I was up all night drinking. The thing is though, this could have, and HAS happened, with no alcohol involved at all. I call my son Houdini because he such an incredible escape artist. So on the way to the station, I told the cop he didn't even give me a breathalyzer or a blood alcohol test, and he told me he didn't need to to charge me. I told him I need help, not to be treated like a criminal. He told me I could have reached out, but believe me, I HAVE. I am now facing up to a $10,000 fine because I'm struggling to control a child that is hellbent on escaping our home and the bigger he gets, the harder it is. Yes, he's medicated, it still doesn't stop him. I'm at a loss. While I was at the station, CPS and another police officer were touring my apartment, questioning my daughters, typical stuff I guess. However, while they were doing this, THEY ALLOWED MY SON TO DANGLE OUT OF A SECOND STORY WINDOW. My neighbor had to alert them to it, they were not even watching him. He didn't fall thank God, but didn't that tell them just HOW bad it really is?? What if he did fall, would THEY be charged?? I would appreciate any advice here. This is soul crushing to me. Do they really have a strong case against me when they didn't even test me for alcohol? Because I was told that's the only reason I was arrested, but they didn't bother to prove it. Again, any help or advice is much appreciated, and I thank you if you took the time to read this.
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ikh7xu7
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ikh0x2k
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OP, what state are you in? I just went though something similar with a client and may be able to give you some general tips (CPS stuff can be so state specific though, I don’t want to mislead you).
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I’m confused … what are the factual allegations underlying the charges? I don’t see how drinking beer at a bonfire and perhaps failing to lock a gate (negligence at most) is a criminal act.
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My son's privacy was broken for "community caretaking" and duty to inform." Is this legal? Throwaway account here for privacy purposes. My son (12) has a long standing diagnosis of anxiety, depression, and Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD.) Basically, he struggles with excessive anger to seemingly small events, and in the past has been subject to violent tantrums. He has, through therapy and medication, come a long way on handling these emotions so they no longer manifest in outbursts, but the anxiety and amger are still there - he just has tools for dealing with them until they pass. He is on an IEP at school and gets services to help manage it. He is being bullied in school by a group of boys. Yesterday one of them made fun of him in class yet again, and a group of students laughed at him. Rather than act out, my son "drew his feelings" which is skill he has been encouraged to do by multiple therapists and coaches. Unfortunately, he drew himself shooting all his bullies. I understand that this is not acceptable, and that the school needs to take it seriously. But he did not do this to make a threat - he put the picture in his folder and assumed no-one would see it. A teacher went into his folder and pulled it out. When they found it, they sent him to his guidance counselor. When she asked him about his feelings, while he was still angry, he said that yes, he did wish his bullies were dead and that he did sometimes think about killing them. (Part of the DMDD is saying very strong and upsetting things in the moment - he has, in the past, told me he wished I were dead and he would piss on my grave. After the moment passes, he cries about what he said.) At the school's request, we had him evaluated by a therapist from the mobile crisis team. She determined that he was not a danger to himself or others, that he had done what he had been asked to do (use a strategy instead of having an outburst) even if his subject matter was awful and inappropriate. The school resource office came by our house last night AFTER talking to the therapist and telling the therapist SHE thought it was more serious than that. She said she wanted to "get his side of the story," including all the names of the kids who were bullying him. Today she called to inform me that she had called all those familes to warn them of the threat, and had identified my son by name to all of them. When I asked why she did that, she said she was required to under "community caretaker" and "duty to inform" statutes. She has just made my anxious son's life a thousand times more difficult. She notified all his bullies, who I imagine will have a field day spreading this throughout the school. My question is, was she required to do this? Or did she violate his provacy on her own decision? We are in Massachussetts, if that makes a difference.
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Not a lawyer, but someone with extensive experience with IEPs and IDEA. Since your child has an IEP and the picture not only was a manifestation of his disability but drawing it was part of his already established behavioral plan, the intervention of the school resource officer was out of line and of questionable legality. You need to address this from the angle of your child's IDEA rights and escalate a complaint about his name being revealed to the bullies, framing it as a threat to his right to a safe educational environment. Since the IDEA law about this is somewhat vague, you should get either a lawyer who specializes in IDEA and the ADA or a special needs advocate to help you word your complaint and follow proper escalation procedures. Also, start gathering any and all evidence you have of the bullying at school and what, if any, interventions were made by the school to stop it, as this will be important to the complaint you file.
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Not a lawyer This is an interesting, but unfortunate, situation. Jurisdictions differ in regards to “duty to inform” provisions. In my jurisdiction, I have only really heard about in insurance law contexts. As for the “community caretaker” point, in my jurisdiction, this doctrine would not apply to the particular situation. The “community caretaker” doctrine is an alternative for probable cause, in regards to an officer detaining a person under the Fourth Amendment. Briefly stated, you’ll need someone from your jurisdiction to determine if the counselor’s justifications are correct. A question you need to answer is: what is your desired outcome? The information is already out and it cannot be rescinded. Are you looking to sue the school? I’m not sure if there is a claim that can be made against the school, but you could contact a local attorney who specializes in lower education law to determine if a claim exists.
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My son's privacy was broken for "community caretaking" and duty to inform." Is this legal? Throwaway account here for privacy purposes. My son (12) has a long standing diagnosis of anxiety, depression, and Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD.) Basically, he struggles with excessive anger to seemingly small events, and in the past has been subject to violent tantrums. He has, through therapy and medication, come a long way on handling these emotions so they no longer manifest in outbursts, but the anxiety and amger are still there - he just has tools for dealing with them until they pass. He is on an IEP at school and gets services to help manage it. He is being bullied in school by a group of boys. Yesterday one of them made fun of him in class yet again, and a group of students laughed at him. Rather than act out, my son "drew his feelings" which is skill he has been encouraged to do by multiple therapists and coaches. Unfortunately, he drew himself shooting all his bullies. I understand that this is not acceptable, and that the school needs to take it seriously. But he did not do this to make a threat - he put the picture in his folder and assumed no-one would see it. A teacher went into his folder and pulled it out. When they found it, they sent him to his guidance counselor. When she asked him about his feelings, while he was still angry, he said that yes, he did wish his bullies were dead and that he did sometimes think about killing them. (Part of the DMDD is saying very strong and upsetting things in the moment - he has, in the past, told me he wished I were dead and he would piss on my grave. After the moment passes, he cries about what he said.) At the school's request, we had him evaluated by a therapist from the mobile crisis team. She determined that he was not a danger to himself or others, that he had done what he had been asked to do (use a strategy instead of having an outburst) even if his subject matter was awful and inappropriate. The school resource office came by our house last night AFTER talking to the therapist and telling the therapist SHE thought it was more serious than that. She said she wanted to "get his side of the story," including all the names of the kids who were bullying him. Today she called to inform me that she had called all those familes to warn them of the threat, and had identified my son by name to all of them. When I asked why she did that, she said she was required to under "community caretaker" and "duty to inform" statutes. She has just made my anxious son's life a thousand times more difficult. She notified all his bullies, who I imagine will have a field day spreading this throughout the school. My question is, was she required to do this? Or did she violate his provacy on her own decision? We are in Massachussetts, if that makes a difference.
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Not a lawyer Because your son is on a Federal IEP, the school has a legal obligation to protect your son from bullies as outlined in FAPE and IDEA. Please talk to an advocate at your State’s Department of Education, as well as the school district’s Special Education Director. As a special needs student, your child’s rights were being violated BEFORE he drew that picture. Talking to the principal and SPED teacher will get you nowhere at this point. You need to go over their head to the State and include the SPED Director.
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The school, and EVERYONE employed there has a duty to follow your son's IEP, and care plan to the letter. I would absolutely question and demand a chain of management as to how a person untrained in mental health, school IEP rules and regulations went ahead and made decisions about your son's health disregarding the experts. I would seriously question why the teacher, counselor went ahead and disclosed what I would think should be considered a protected mental health exercise to anyone outside of your son's care team. Especially since your son was directed to do specific exercises to address his mental health issues. I would treat his drawings as no different than necessary medication, his practice of this exercise is another form of therapy and is subject to accommodation. Subject to the IEP, and HIPPA rules and regulations. Why did the teacher go into his folder? Just because folks find the content shocking, or titillating does not distract from their requirement to follow his IEP, and EXPERTS guidance to the letter. I would treat this as a serious violation of his privacy. Once it was determined that he was not a threat and he was acting exactly as directed by the experts. It should have been hands off. Instead the dumb dumbs thought they knew better and made the situation 100 times worse. What if he had AIDS and had his blood drawn by an paramedic on school grounds - would that require informing everyone on the school that he has AIDS? Of course not! I would question the determination by the resource officer that DRAWINGS constitute an objective threat. I would also question the expertise of middle school guidance counselor as to being adequately trained to question a 12 year old biu as to their feelings about their chronic tormentors. I would contact a lawyer who is an expert in IEP and protected classes. I would 100% do due diligence as to why your son is being chronically bullied and the school, teacher, counselor, and ESPECIALLY WHY??? the school resource officer is not addressing these kids behavior. Eliminate the bullying and would your son get better? Again look at cause and effect.. treat it no differently than peanut butter - to a person with an allergy. So I would question what would the school do if these kids were bringing peanut butter and shoving it in your allergic son's face. Why are they protecting the bullies and not your son? It's not like no one has written any articles, papers, about bullying and it's effects - especially on vulnerable class of people like your son. It's 2022 FFS. Sorry if there are typos on my phone.
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My father had a massive stroke and my stepmother will not give his children access to him without her. My father had a massive stroke a year ago and survived. He was in ICU for a few months but is now home and leaves only for rehabilitation and physical therapy. I am his daughter and only able to get in touch with him through his wife, my stepmother, as he is unable to use a phone or drive a vehicle. He is fully cognizant and able to formulate some words as well as walk short distances with a cane, however, he is incredibly reliant on my stepmother for everything. While visiting my father for thanksgiving I became aware that she has been abusing prescription medications. She will fall and sleep on the floor, slur her speech, and I have it on camera. She doesn’t allow my father out of her sight but I have used her intoxicated moments to take my father out of the house and ask him questions regarding his safety and happiness. After a series of yes/no answers, I have found that she physically abuses him and is on drugs constantly. When the social worker checks in on him, she has everything together so they aren’t alerted. When he is in therapy and rehabilitation, she is in the room with him. He doesn’t have an advocate or outlet because she is always in the room. He wants me to get ahold of his attorney, but my concern is they share the same one. I don’t want their attorney to alert my stepmother that I am beginning to ask questions until I have a plan set in place. My father says he feels safe, and does not want to be taken from his home and uprooted to different living and I do not want to do anything that he doesn’t want. I just need to have something in place in case anything happens to him. This is in Pennsylvania.
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iy0euym
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You may be able to get an emergency conservatorship on that basis. However, you definitely want to make sure that you have your shit together before you do that. Calling APS would not be a bad idea because I can start the process of the inquiry. Accusing someone of this is not something to take lightly. Given your story, it does sound plausible. It would be a good idea to get a statement from a neurologist and a psychiatrist within 45 days of the hearing. They must charge a standard office visit for this. They cannot charge you personally for this. This is because the disease is requiring this. However, it does not help that the wife is accused of misappropriating funds and abusing her husband. I would get a different attorney. However, it would be in your dad’s best interest to serve the attorney with any copies of notice. The reason I say that is because the attorney will probably have records of what your dad had set up in case his wife was not able to assist him.
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Your father still has authority over himself unless he signed it away. It really falls on him to make a decision and your level of committment. I would take physical possesion of him. Meet him at a dr appt and take him to an attorney and let him do what he must. He needs to leave immediately, but ultimately he can only make that decision. He needs to make it clear he wants to leave with you and you need to be prepared to take care of him or get resources to do so. Then he can freeze all assets and accounts.
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it7z3tr
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A lot of this is going to depend on how the will was setup. Like if the assets are in a trust or directly inherited by him. The short answer is going to be whoever is your brother’s legal guardian (the grandmother in this case) should get a probate lawyer and ask them to review the situation. You also could hire one to represent your interests directly. I think it is unlikely the aunt can actually do this, but I also don’t see any way absent a lawyer to know for sure and fight it.
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This is most likely the exact opposite of the intention of the will and it may have been written this way with your aunt specifically in mind. Unless your dad was particularly eccentric, the intention was probably to make sure the house wouldn't be sold until his youngest child was of age, but it's impossible to speculate too much without reading it. I think it's very possible your aunt has an ulterior motive here, because keeping a house vacant for 5 years is outright stupid. Between squatters and other possible maintenance issues, that could be a disaster.
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y9w3k3
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legaladvice_train
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it7okpb
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This is most likely the exact opposite of the intention of the will and it may have been written this way with your aunt specifically in mind. Unless your dad was particularly eccentric, the intention was probably to make sure the house wouldn't be sold until his youngest child was of age, but it's impossible to speculate too much without reading it. I think it's very possible your aunt has an ulterior motive here, because keeping a house vacant for 5 years is outright stupid. Between squatters and other possible maintenance issues, that could be a disaster.
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So she's saying that your brother can't live in the house? If so, your aunt is likely an idiot.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it7xtex
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it7okpb
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A lot of this is going to depend on how the will was setup. Like if the assets are in a trust or directly inherited by him. The short answer is going to be whoever is your brother’s legal guardian (the grandmother in this case) should get a probate lawyer and ask them to review the situation. You also could hire one to represent your interests directly. I think it is unlikely the aunt can actually do this, but I also don’t see any way absent a lawyer to know for sure and fight it.
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So she's saying that your brother can't live in the house? If so, your aunt is likely an idiot.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it8d3uh
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So she's saying that your brother can't live in the house? If so, your aunt is likely an idiot.
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Do you have the exact language of the provision at issue, by chance? This seems like a provision that was either written incorrectly or is being interpreted incorrectly. I think it was most likely meant to ensure everything would stay you and your brother’s until he turns 21.
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y9w3k3
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legaladvice_train
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it8kxb8
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it8hy3a
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Access to inheritance could mean ownership, not just entry to premises. Aunt is acting maliciously.
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Does the will say that no one can have access to the inheritance, ie. that the ownership of the house will not be put in your brothers name until he turns 21? Or does it actually say that your brother is banned from the premises, ie. your brother may not be a resident of the premises, and is banned from renting the house during the period of time that the estate retains ownership? The former would make sense, the latter would be unusual. Consult a lawyer and see what they think of the exact wording used in the will.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it8kpjy
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Access to inheritance could mean ownership, not just entry to premises. Aunt is acting maliciously.
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Sorry for your loss. I am not a lawyer but have benefited from good estate planning counsel. You're going to need a lawyer. Do you have a copy of the will? Do you know who the estate attorney or firm was who helped your dad draft it? As executor your aunt is supposed to execute the terms of the will. You need to get a copy of it. If she is trying to pull a fast one, a lawyer of your own can help prevent it, and the attorney or firm who drew up the will generally will retain a copy in their records. It would be pretty normal for a trust set up in a will to have terms that indicate that the assets are not fully under the control of your younger brother until he is older, but it would be VERY surprising if that meant that the house must stay vacant. Explicitly stating that in a will is...plausible, I guess...but in that case there should be some provision for what ought to be done with the house in the meantime, for example that it be placed under the management of a property management company and rented out, with \[whatever\] done with the proceeds. Dictating that a house remain vacant for years is basically saying "I'd like this asset destroyed."
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y9w3k3
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legaladvice_train
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it8s4na
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Sorry for your loss. I am not a lawyer but have benefited from good estate planning counsel. You're going to need a lawyer. Do you have a copy of the will? Do you know who the estate attorney or firm was who helped your dad draft it? As executor your aunt is supposed to execute the terms of the will. You need to get a copy of it. If she is trying to pull a fast one, a lawyer of your own can help prevent it, and the attorney or firm who drew up the will generally will retain a copy in their records. It would be pretty normal for a trust set up in a will to have terms that indicate that the assets are not fully under the control of your younger brother until he is older, but it would be VERY surprising if that meant that the house must stay vacant. Explicitly stating that in a will is...plausible, I guess...but in that case there should be some provision for what ought to be done with the house in the meantime, for example that it be placed under the management of a property management company and rented out, with \[whatever\] done with the proceeds. Dictating that a house remain vacant for years is basically saying "I'd like this asset destroyed."
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The will matters. Held in trust until 21? That's LIKELY what the wordage states. And it wouldn't prohibit access, it would just mean that your brother doesn't own the title I.E. he can't sell the house to do something stupid at 18.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it8kpjy
| 1,666,382,277 | 1,666,377,809 | 45 | 37 |
Don't think about this in terms of inheritance law, but in terms of tenancy. At the least, you and your grandmother are tenants in the house. Therefore, at the least, your father's estate must move through the eviction process to legally remove you from the house. Good luck to your aunt on that.
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Sorry for your loss. I am not a lawyer but have benefited from good estate planning counsel. You're going to need a lawyer. Do you have a copy of the will? Do you know who the estate attorney or firm was who helped your dad draft it? As executor your aunt is supposed to execute the terms of the will. You need to get a copy of it. If she is trying to pull a fast one, a lawyer of your own can help prevent it, and the attorney or firm who drew up the will generally will retain a copy in their records. It would be pretty normal for a trust set up in a will to have terms that indicate that the assets are not fully under the control of your younger brother until he is older, but it would be VERY surprising if that meant that the house must stay vacant. Explicitly stating that in a will is...plausible, I guess...but in that case there should be some provision for what ought to be done with the house in the meantime, for example that it be placed under the management of a property management company and rented out, with \[whatever\] done with the proceeds. Dictating that a house remain vacant for years is basically saying "I'd like this asset destroyed."
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it9kidh
| 1,666,392,100 | 1,666,392,935 | 20 | 27 |
No one here could advise you without reading your father’s will. Are you getting this information from your aunt or has an attorney advised you and your brother what is going to happen? Since your brother is under age he will need a guardian ad litem appointed on his behalf to represent his interest in the probate matter. Further who is his named guardian in the will? Meaning who is going to care for him? Only an attorney can advise your brother and your family. In Georgia: a minor may not receive more than $15,000 in property or money unless a conservator has been appointed for the minor. It is important to remember that if there is a will that directs that the minor’s inheritance be placed in trust, then a conservator will not be required because the property is not going to the minor, it is going to the trust. When property does go to the minor, however, a conservatorship will need to be established. A conservatorship is an ongoing, court supervised proceeding that will last until the minor becomes an adult. An adult, typically a parent or other relative, will file a petition with the court asking to establish the conservatorship. The conservator will need to post a bond with the court, and all of the property that would go to the minor will go into the conservatorship. The rules for a conservatorship are very strict. For example, the conservator will need to report to the court each year and show what has happened with the money or property. In addition, the conservator may not use any of the money without court permission. Once the minor turns 18, all of the property and money in the conservatorship will be turned over to the minor. Further as tenants, your aunt can’t put you out without a court order.
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I’m a probate lawyer. What’s the clause say, exactly, because there is absolutely no way.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it9kidh
| 1,666,391,735 | 1,666,392,935 | 5 | 27 |
I am not a lawyer but if you have the information of who drafted the will that might help. I’d contact them and see what they have to say about all of this.
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I’m a probate lawyer. What’s the clause say, exactly, because there is absolutely no way.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it9iql2
| 1,666,394,197 | 1,666,392,100 | 22 | 20 |
I have a sneaking suspicion that any decent judge would come to the assumption that your fathers intention was not for you to be homeless. You should definitely ask a lawyer to help you put this in front of one.
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No one here could advise you without reading your father’s will. Are you getting this information from your aunt or has an attorney advised you and your brother what is going to happen? Since your brother is under age he will need a guardian ad litem appointed on his behalf to represent his interest in the probate matter. Further who is his named guardian in the will? Meaning who is going to care for him? Only an attorney can advise your brother and your family. In Georgia: a minor may not receive more than $15,000 in property or money unless a conservator has been appointed for the minor. It is important to remember that if there is a will that directs that the minor’s inheritance be placed in trust, then a conservator will not be required because the property is not going to the minor, it is going to the trust. When property does go to the minor, however, a conservatorship will need to be established. A conservatorship is an ongoing, court supervised proceeding that will last until the minor becomes an adult. An adult, typically a parent or other relative, will file a petition with the court asking to establish the conservatorship. The conservator will need to post a bond with the court, and all of the property that would go to the minor will go into the conservatorship. The rules for a conservatorship are very strict. For example, the conservator will need to report to the court each year and show what has happened with the money or property. In addition, the conservator may not use any of the money without court permission. Once the minor turns 18, all of the property and money in the conservatorship will be turned over to the minor. Further as tenants, your aunt can’t put you out without a court order.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it9hyqx
| 1,666,394,197 | 1,666,391,735 | 22 | 5 |
I have a sneaking suspicion that any decent judge would come to the assumption that your fathers intention was not for you to be homeless. You should definitely ask a lawyer to help you put this in front of one.
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I am not a lawyer but if you have the information of who drafted the will that might help. I’d contact them and see what they have to say about all of this.
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y9w3k3
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it9iql2
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it9hyqx
| 1,666,392,100 | 1,666,391,735 | 20 | 5 |
No one here could advise you without reading your father’s will. Are you getting this information from your aunt or has an attorney advised you and your brother what is going to happen? Since your brother is under age he will need a guardian ad litem appointed on his behalf to represent his interest in the probate matter. Further who is his named guardian in the will? Meaning who is going to care for him? Only an attorney can advise your brother and your family. In Georgia: a minor may not receive more than $15,000 in property or money unless a conservator has been appointed for the minor. It is important to remember that if there is a will that directs that the minor’s inheritance be placed in trust, then a conservator will not be required because the property is not going to the minor, it is going to the trust. When property does go to the minor, however, a conservatorship will need to be established. A conservatorship is an ongoing, court supervised proceeding that will last until the minor becomes an adult. An adult, typically a parent or other relative, will file a petition with the court asking to establish the conservatorship. The conservator will need to post a bond with the court, and all of the property that would go to the minor will go into the conservatorship. The rules for a conservatorship are very strict. For example, the conservator will need to report to the court each year and show what has happened with the money or property. In addition, the conservator may not use any of the money without court permission. Once the minor turns 18, all of the property and money in the conservatorship will be turned over to the minor. Further as tenants, your aunt can’t put you out without a court order.
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I am not a lawyer but if you have the information of who drafted the will that might help. I’d contact them and see what they have to say about all of this.
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Dad left house to younger brother in his will, but said no one could have access to it until he turned 21 This is in Georgia. I'm 19M, my brother is 16. My parents died recently, and in my dad's will he made it clear that no one should get access to our inheritance before we turned 21. This includes the house where myself, my brother and my grandmother (who now has custody) live in. My aunt, who is the will's executor, is insisting we must leave the property until the house is my brother's. I don't know anything about inheritance law, but surely there's some way around that? Any advice?
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it9qg6q
| 1,666,391,735 | 1,666,395,749 | 5 | 20 |
I am not a lawyer but if you have the information of who drafted the will that might help. I’d contact them and see what they have to say about all of this.
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OPs aunt is trying to rent out/ otherwise monetize the property until the specific wording of the will forces her out of that arrangement. Sounds contrary to the intent of the deceased but your ability to action that will depend greatly on the actual wording of the will.
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Landlord took my hot water heater, leaving me without access to water. Just as the title says, my landlord took it saying he is replacing it, but he is clearly not going to install the new one. He is selling the house and trying to force me out. I called the police. Filed a report. I don't know how to move forward if at all. I don't know what to look for lawyer wise other than a civil one. Or even if it's illegal. I'm in Arkansas if that helps. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Im not looking for a recommendation, but more so what to look for in a lawyer to move forward if that makes sense.
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Building codes require that: "Every lavatory basin and bathtub or shower shall be supplied with hot water at all times." https://library.municode.com/ar/little_rock/codes/code_of_ordinances?nodeId=COOR_CH8BUBURE_ARTVHOCO_DIV3MIST_PTAGEPR Don't know if that's just for Little Rock, but I'd start there. Also as a tenant in Arkansas you can be evicted at any time for any reason, with one pay period notice. Really crappy, in my opinion, but also probably means this isn't a ploy to get rid of you. Good luck!
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Leaving you without access to any water at all, or without access to *hot* water? Either way may violate local housing codes, and you can try calling your local city hall to ask for help. If you've had no water at all for two days then you may want to call now, but if it is only hot water then you may want to give the landlord a little more time to make the repair.
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Landlord took my hot water heater, leaving me without access to water. Just as the title says, my landlord took it saying he is replacing it, but he is clearly not going to install the new one. He is selling the house and trying to force me out. I called the police. Filed a report. I don't know how to move forward if at all. I don't know what to look for lawyer wise other than a civil one. Or even if it's illegal. I'm in Arkansas if that helps. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Im not looking for a recommendation, but more so what to look for in a lawyer to move forward if that makes sense.
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g9dl6s0
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how long ago did he take the heater?
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Building codes require that: "Every lavatory basin and bathtub or shower shall be supplied with hot water at all times." https://library.municode.com/ar/little_rock/codes/code_of_ordinances?nodeId=COOR_CH8BUBURE_ARTVHOCO_DIV3MIST_PTAGEPR Don't know if that's just for Little Rock, but I'd start there. Also as a tenant in Arkansas you can be evicted at any time for any reason, with one pay period notice. Really crappy, in my opinion, but also probably means this isn't a ploy to get rid of you. Good luck!
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jea904
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Landlord took my hot water heater, leaving me without access to water. Just as the title says, my landlord took it saying he is replacing it, but he is clearly not going to install the new one. He is selling the house and trying to force me out. I called the police. Filed a report. I don't know how to move forward if at all. I don't know what to look for lawyer wise other than a civil one. Or even if it's illegal. I'm in Arkansas if that helps. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Im not looking for a recommendation, but more so what to look for in a lawyer to move forward if that makes sense.
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g9d6rxl
| 1,603,141,509 | 1,603,140,280 | 32 | 13 |
Leaving you without access to any water at all, or without access to *hot* water? Either way may violate local housing codes, and you can try calling your local city hall to ask for help. If you've had no water at all for two days then you may want to call now, but if it is only hot water then you may want to give the landlord a little more time to make the repair.
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how long ago did he take the heater?
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyu1ik5
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Do you have a lawyer who helped you in the custody battle? If you truly want to know, you could speak to that lawyer and tell them what the issue is.
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Contact your insurance company, tell them you do not authorize them sharing information about your policy to anyone. Be sure to get the reference number for your call should you need it in the future. On top of that, I would contact your HR department and let them know the same thing. You do not authorize them sharing any information and I’d try to leave it vague but just let them know you’ve had problems with your ex. Also look into a restraining order, the less contact you have with the ex the better it’ll be for you. Keep it via email if at all possible, much easier to keep track of than texts or calls.
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zbxy6r
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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| 1,670,125,932 | 1,670,124,656 | 208 | 16 |
Contact your insurance company, tell them you do not authorize them sharing information about your policy to anyone. Be sure to get the reference number for your call should you need it in the future. On top of that, I would contact your HR department and let them know the same thing. You do not authorize them sharing any information and I’d try to leave it vague but just let them know you’ve had problems with your ex. Also look into a restraining order, the less contact you have with the ex the better it’ll be for you. Keep it via email if at all possible, much easier to keep track of than texts or calls.
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Talk to your insurance company and send them your CO. I believe it’s in your best interest to share his insurance number and the name of his insurance but make it clear she should not be contacting your work or insurance company. Ask you insurance company that they do not let her make changes to your policy. If it continues get a restraining order immediately
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyu3y71
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iyu83ru
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Sounds to me like she has something specific in mind and is make plans. Is her visitation supervised? If not you might want to see about getting that adjusted. Also, if your son goes to daycare or preschool you need to give them a heads up so they know not to hand him over on her say so.
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I’ve seen people do this to try to obtain child’s ssn. To obtain a card they need either doctor, clinic, or a hospital record. Looking into benefits and who the insurance pays is the first step assuming they live in the US. Contact dr’s office and notify them about mom trying to obtain records. Next contact insurance company and see if you can put a password on your info.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iytzoda
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iyu83ru
| 1,670,124,966 | 1,670,129,579 | 41 | 192 |
Do you have a lawyer who helped you in the custody battle? If you truly want to know, you could speak to that lawyer and tell them what the issue is.
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I’ve seen people do this to try to obtain child’s ssn. To obtain a card they need either doctor, clinic, or a hospital record. Looking into benefits and who the insurance pays is the first step assuming they live in the US. Contact dr’s office and notify them about mom trying to obtain records. Next contact insurance company and see if you can put a password on your info.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iytz2w0
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iyu83ru
| 1,670,124,656 | 1,670,129,579 | 16 | 192 |
Talk to your insurance company and send them your CO. I believe it’s in your best interest to share his insurance number and the name of his insurance but make it clear she should not be contacting your work or insurance company. Ask you insurance company that they do not let her make changes to your policy. If it continues get a restraining order immediately
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I’ve seen people do this to try to obtain child’s ssn. To obtain a card they need either doctor, clinic, or a hospital record. Looking into benefits and who the insurance pays is the first step assuming they live in the US. Contact dr’s office and notify them about mom trying to obtain records. Next contact insurance company and see if you can put a password on your info.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyveagu
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iyu3y71
| 1,670,161,748 | 1,670,127,264 | 105 | 99 |
You’ve already received a lot of great advice here but I would like to add - many places allow you to put in a “password” question and answer to access information. I highly recommend that you choose a question and give an UNRELATED answer. For example: Question “What is your favorite color?” Answer “1992 Toyota corolla”. Make the question something that your ex would think is easy to guess so she tries multiple times and never gets it right. Then make the answer something completely random so the insurance company can tell that anyone guessing a related answer couldn’t possibly be you. Good luck, OP.
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Sounds to me like she has something specific in mind and is make plans. Is her visitation supervised? If not you might want to see about getting that adjusted. Also, if your son goes to daycare or preschool you need to give them a heads up so they know not to hand him over on her say so.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyu8g98
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iyveagu
| 1,670,129,780 | 1,670,161,748 | 45 | 105 |
If the insurance company is speaking to her and she isn’t on the plan, it may be a good idea to review your parenting plan. Because my plan with my exe specifically states both parents are allowed to access medical records without the other parents authorization. And typically even a non custodial parent can have that access. But again, you need to read your parenting plan
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You’ve already received a lot of great advice here but I would like to add - many places allow you to put in a “password” question and answer to access information. I highly recommend that you choose a question and give an UNRELATED answer. For example: Question “What is your favorite color?” Answer “1992 Toyota corolla”. Make the question something that your ex would think is easy to guess so she tries multiple times and never gets it right. Then make the answer something completely random so the insurance company can tell that anyone guessing a related answer couldn’t possibly be you. Good luck, OP.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iytzoda
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iyveagu
| 1,670,124,966 | 1,670,161,748 | 41 | 105 |
Do you have a lawyer who helped you in the custody battle? If you truly want to know, you could speak to that lawyer and tell them what the issue is.
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You’ve already received a lot of great advice here but I would like to add - many places allow you to put in a “password” question and answer to access information. I highly recommend that you choose a question and give an UNRELATED answer. For example: Question “What is your favorite color?” Answer “1992 Toyota corolla”. Make the question something that your ex would think is easy to guess so she tries multiple times and never gets it right. Then make the answer something completely random so the insurance company can tell that anyone guessing a related answer couldn’t possibly be you. Good luck, OP.
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zbxy6r
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyveagu
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iytz2w0
| 1,670,161,748 | 1,670,124,656 | 105 | 16 |
You’ve already received a lot of great advice here but I would like to add - many places allow you to put in a “password” question and answer to access information. I highly recommend that you choose a question and give an UNRELATED answer. For example: Question “What is your favorite color?” Answer “1992 Toyota corolla”. Make the question something that your ex would think is easy to guess so she tries multiple times and never gets it right. Then make the answer something completely random so the insurance company can tell that anyone guessing a related answer couldn’t possibly be you. Good luck, OP.
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Talk to your insurance company and send them your CO. I believe it’s in your best interest to share his insurance number and the name of his insurance but make it clear she should not be contacting your work or insurance company. Ask you insurance company that they do not let her make changes to your policy. If it continues get a restraining order immediately
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyut4q9
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iyveagu
| 1,670,145,094 | 1,670,161,748 | 16 | 105 |
May have missed it but is there shared legal custody? If so, she can seek medical & mental health care for him & use any insurance coverage he has. She may have sought infant mental health care for her relationship with him & if she has shared legal custody she can do that without your permission. What does the custody paperwork say about providing insurance & paying for health care? You should talk to your attorney about this. If she has shared legal custody then there’s no violation of your HIPAA protected info here.
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You’ve already received a lot of great advice here but I would like to add - many places allow you to put in a “password” question and answer to access information. I highly recommend that you choose a question and give an UNRELATED answer. For example: Question “What is your favorite color?” Answer “1992 Toyota corolla”. Make the question something that your ex would think is easy to guess so she tries multiple times and never gets it right. Then make the answer something completely random so the insurance company can tell that anyone guessing a related answer couldn’t possibly be you. Good luck, OP.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyvdqu5
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iyveagu
| 1,670,161,427 | 1,670,161,748 | 6 | 105 |
In addition to some of the other suggestions, it's possible she is trying to do this to sell your child's insurance coverage information. Identity theft related to health insurance is on the rise.
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You’ve already received a lot of great advice here but I would like to add - many places allow you to put in a “password” question and answer to access information. I highly recommend that you choose a question and give an UNRELATED answer. For example: Question “What is your favorite color?” Answer “1992 Toyota corolla”. Make the question something that your ex would think is easy to guess so she tries multiple times and never gets it right. Then make the answer something completely random so the insurance company can tell that anyone guessing a related answer couldn’t possibly be you. Good luck, OP.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyu3y71
| 1,670,124,966 | 1,670,127,264 | 41 | 99 |
Do you have a lawyer who helped you in the custody battle? If you truly want to know, you could speak to that lawyer and tell them what the issue is.
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Sounds to me like she has something specific in mind and is make plans. Is her visitation supervised? If not you might want to see about getting that adjusted. Also, if your son goes to daycare or preschool you need to give them a heads up so they know not to hand him over on her say so.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyu3y71
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iytz2w0
| 1,670,127,264 | 1,670,124,656 | 99 | 16 |
Sounds to me like she has something specific in mind and is make plans. Is her visitation supervised? If not you might want to see about getting that adjusted. Also, if your son goes to daycare or preschool you need to give them a heads up so they know not to hand him over on her say so.
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Talk to your insurance company and send them your CO. I believe it’s in your best interest to share his insurance number and the name of his insurance but make it clear she should not be contacting your work or insurance company. Ask you insurance company that they do not let her make changes to your policy. If it continues get a restraining order immediately
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyu8g98
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iytzoda
| 1,670,129,780 | 1,670,124,966 | 45 | 41 |
If the insurance company is speaking to her and she isn’t on the plan, it may be a good idea to review your parenting plan. Because my plan with my exe specifically states both parents are allowed to access medical records without the other parents authorization. And typically even a non custodial parent can have that access. But again, you need to read your parenting plan
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Do you have a lawyer who helped you in the custody battle? If you truly want to know, you could speak to that lawyer and tell them what the issue is.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyu8g98
| 1,670,124,656 | 1,670,129,780 | 16 | 45 |
Talk to your insurance company and send them your CO. I believe it’s in your best interest to share his insurance number and the name of his insurance but make it clear she should not be contacting your work or insurance company. Ask you insurance company that they do not let her make changes to your policy. If it continues get a restraining order immediately
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If the insurance company is speaking to her and she isn’t on the plan, it may be a good idea to review your parenting plan. Because my plan with my exe specifically states both parents are allowed to access medical records without the other parents authorization. And typically even a non custodial parent can have that access. But again, you need to read your parenting plan
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iytzoda
| 1,670,124,656 | 1,670,124,966 | 16 | 41 |
Talk to your insurance company and send them your CO. I believe it’s in your best interest to share his insurance number and the name of his insurance but make it clear she should not be contacting your work or insurance company. Ask you insurance company that they do not let her make changes to your policy. If it continues get a restraining order immediately
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Do you have a lawyer who helped you in the custody battle? If you truly want to know, you could speak to that lawyer and tell them what the issue is.
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zbxy6r
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legaladvice_train
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyw0nfk
| 1,670,124,656 | 1,670,172,353 | 16 | 18 |
Talk to your insurance company and send them your CO. I believe it’s in your best interest to share his insurance number and the name of his insurance but make it clear she should not be contacting your work or insurance company. Ask you insurance company that they do not let her make changes to your policy. If it continues get a restraining order immediately
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People are throwing the word "custody" around and giving advice on simply that one word. Do you have sole LEAGAL custody or sole PHYSICAL custody? That makes a huge difference regarding what she may or may not have rights to. It is disturbing that your insurance company gave her information about your policy if her name is not on it. Has her name ever been on it? You are the primary insured. How would they even be able to verify she is who she says she is? You need to contact them ASAP. As others have said you need to take steps to protect your account.
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zbxy6r
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyw0nfk
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iyut4q9
| 1,670,172,353 | 1,670,145,094 | 18 | 16 |
People are throwing the word "custody" around and giving advice on simply that one word. Do you have sole LEAGAL custody or sole PHYSICAL custody? That makes a huge difference regarding what she may or may not have rights to. It is disturbing that your insurance company gave her information about your policy if her name is not on it. Has her name ever been on it? You are the primary insured. How would they even be able to verify she is who she says she is? You need to contact them ASAP. As others have said you need to take steps to protect your account.
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May have missed it but is there shared legal custody? If so, she can seek medical & mental health care for him & use any insurance coverage he has. She may have sought infant mental health care for her relationship with him & if she has shared legal custody she can do that without your permission. What does the custody paperwork say about providing insurance & paying for health care? You should talk to your attorney about this. If she has shared legal custody then there’s no violation of your HIPAA protected info here.
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zbxy6r
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyw0nfk
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iyvdqu5
| 1,670,172,353 | 1,670,161,427 | 18 | 6 |
People are throwing the word "custody" around and giving advice on simply that one word. Do you have sole LEAGAL custody or sole PHYSICAL custody? That makes a huge difference regarding what she may or may not have rights to. It is disturbing that your insurance company gave her information about your policy if her name is not on it. Has her name ever been on it? You are the primary insured. How would they even be able to verify she is who she says she is? You need to contact them ASAP. As others have said you need to take steps to protect your account.
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In addition to some of the other suggestions, it's possible she is trying to do this to sell your child's insurance coverage information. Identity theft related to health insurance is on the rise.
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zbxy6r
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyw0nfk
| 1,670,167,669 | 1,670,172,353 | 2 | 18 |
You have most definitely received excellent advise here. Make sure you ask your insurance company and doctors know exactly who they can speak to. In most cases the have passwords that can be created in order to divulge information. As long as that is set up you should be good to go but if it’s already set so only you can receive the information and they did provide the information to her I would reach out to your attorney general’s office because they are committing a crime.
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People are throwing the word "custody" around and giving advice on simply that one word. Do you have sole LEAGAL custody or sole PHYSICAL custody? That makes a huge difference regarding what she may or may not have rights to. It is disturbing that your insurance company gave her information about your policy if her name is not on it. Has her name ever been on it? You are the primary insured. How would they even be able to verify she is who she says she is? You need to contact them ASAP. As others have said you need to take steps to protect your account.
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zbxy6r
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyw0nfk
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When I did health insurance I was in blue cross in the west coast. Yes parents can call in as long as they can verify the child, usually by name, dob, plan number, Or address phone number. However if there is a safety concern you ask to provide limiting information or no information by asking for a non disclosure or ndr. It’s up to the insurance to determine if it’s appropriate.
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People are throwing the word "custody" around and giving advice on simply that one word. Do you have sole LEAGAL custody or sole PHYSICAL custody? That makes a huge difference regarding what she may or may not have rights to. It is disturbing that your insurance company gave her information about your policy if her name is not on it. Has her name ever been on it? You are the primary insured. How would they even be able to verify she is who she says she is? You need to contact them ASAP. As others have said you need to take steps to protect your account.
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyvpske
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Don't JUST ask for a password. Even passwords can be bypassed if the caller is slick enough and the agent is naive. You have to call the insurance company and be very clear as to the gravity of the situation. Add the password, but also make sure they put a note on your account that you (and whoever else you want to authorize) are the only person/people allowed to access any information regarding the policy and whatnot. They should also note that she may try other methods of trying to access the information, such as having a male friend pretend to be you. If they have a way to do a 2-stage verification, that would be best. Finally ask for an email from them summarizing your requests, why you made them, what they agreed to do for you, and a second email with the time, date and nature of the call your ex made to them. On legal side, do whatever you can to document the incident, report it and print out a copy of the second email as proof. In these types of situations, documentation is key and lack thereof will come back to bite you later on.
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You have most definitely received excellent advise here. Make sure you ask your insurance company and doctors know exactly who they can speak to. In most cases the have passwords that can be created in order to divulge information. As long as that is set up you should be good to go but if it’s already set so only you can receive the information and they did provide the information to her I would reach out to your attorney general’s office because they are committing a crime.
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I have sole custody of my 1 year old son, and my ex-gf has been contacting my health insurance company trying to get info from them regarding my son’s coverage. They have given her at least some information that I know of. Are they allowed to give her this information without my consent? (OHIO). I have a son with a crazy ex-gf, who has put both me and my little boy through absolute hell over the last few months/years. Thankfully, my little man is one tough dude and has not only survived, but has zero health of developmental issues. It’s honestly a miracle; there’s no other way to explain it. My ex hasn’t had custody at all since roughly the time my son was 2 months old, and he’s now 13 months. She has visitation with him twice a week for 4 hours at a time, and outside of those hours, he is with me always. I’ve handled all Dr visits and literally everything medically related. She’s shown up to most of the appointments, but that’s pretty much where her involvement ends with stuff like that. Well, until recently. For some unknown reason, over the last few weeks she started asking questions about my health insurance. The only information I gave her was the name of the insurance company, nothing else. A week or 2 after that, she randomly started ranting and raving at me one day, trying to tell me that she “found out” that I don’t have health insurance for myself or my son. Since she’s literally crazy, I just ignored it, even though she’d bring it up every time I saw her. The one thing I did say to her was that as long as the kid is going to see doctors when he needs to, it really doesn’t concern her whether or not I even have insurance, being that she isn’t the one that’s paying for everything. I still have no idea why she all the sudden cares about any of this. Anyhow, a couple days ago (Friday), I received a voicemail from my insurance company. The message started with “Hello, crazy-ex’s-name, this is ____ insurance, following up with you on your inquiry from yesterday”. So they called my phone and left a message addressed to her. I obviously don’t know if the ex was pretending that her and I are together and share my phone number, or if the insurance company somehow mistakenly called me when they meant to call her. Either way, the voicemail was clearly directed at my ex, calling her by her first name, and also later in the message referencing my son’s name. The message goes on to state the effective date of my son’s coverage, and then asks my ex to call back so they can contact my employer’s HR team in order to have insurance cards mailed directly to her. The rep also stated that they would be able to take my ex’s address and list it as an alternative address on the policy so that my ex will receive any and all future correspondence regarding the baby. The rep then left a reference number for her to call back, and that was the end of the message. By the time I listened to the voicemail it was too late to call them back myself, so I haven’t been able to talk to anyone yet. My questions are: 1) is my ex allowed to call my insurance company like this being that she doesn’t have custody of the child? 2) is the insurance company actually allowed to give her any of the information that they already have and/or do any of the things they’ve said in the voicemail that they would do? I do not at all like the idea of my ex having access to any of my information whatsoever, and I would seriously prefer that she isn’t given any information about my son either. She’ll do nothing but cause problems, whatever they may be. Not to mention that I really don’t want her dealing with my employer’s HR department. I can already imagine it now, having to answer to my HR department because this psycho decided to tell them some crazy story to try to get me fired. She’s done worse in the past, so I wouldn’t be surprised one bit if she did something like that. I think that covers everything. Sorry about the formatting and grammar mistakes. And I’m sure I was jumping all over the place trying to give the details of the situation. I will gladly clarify anything if needed. Hopefully there’s something I can do here to keep her completely out of this. Thanks for reading.
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iyw8x0i
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iyvx4vx
| 1,670,175,726 | 1,670,170,878 | 3 | 2 |
Don't JUST ask for a password. Even passwords can be bypassed if the caller is slick enough and the agent is naive. You have to call the insurance company and be very clear as to the gravity of the situation. Add the password, but also make sure they put a note on your account that you (and whoever else you want to authorize) are the only person/people allowed to access any information regarding the policy and whatnot. They should also note that she may try other methods of trying to access the information, such as having a male friend pretend to be you. If they have a way to do a 2-stage verification, that would be best. Finally ask for an email from them summarizing your requests, why you made them, what they agreed to do for you, and a second email with the time, date and nature of the call your ex made to them. On legal side, do whatever you can to document the incident, report it and print out a copy of the second email as proof. In these types of situations, documentation is key and lack thereof will come back to bite you later on.
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When I did health insurance I was in blue cross in the west coast. Yes parents can call in as long as they can verify the child, usually by name, dob, plan number, Or address phone number. However if there is a safety concern you ask to provide limiting information or no information by asking for a non disclosure or ndr. It’s up to the insurance to determine if it’s appropriate.
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My mom gave a cookie to a student with a peanut allergy. My mom works as an aid in a 4th grade classroom. Officially, she is a one-to-one aid to a student with autism, but she often helps the teacher with other classroom tasks. She is 60 years old, has worked with kids her entire career, and has never made a mistake like this. After her school job, she tutors then babysits for one family, then babysits for another family overnight. She is constantly around children and horribly overworked. There is another boy in her class who comes from a very poor family so he never has his own snack at snack-time. The school provides snacks for underprivileged students in this situation, but it’s often just old fruit that he finds unappealing. My mom has been bringing her own food to feed this boy all year. She has done this almost every day with absolutely no issue. He is never told her that he has an allergy, and the main teacher of the classroom, who knows that my mom feeds him, never disclosed his allergy to her either. It is against school policy to share food with children but my mom has a heart of gold and stupidly assumed that breaking the rules would help this child in need. The other day, he asked her for a cookie and she gave him one. Moments later, he began crying and gasping for air. He tearfully explained that he is allergic to peanuts. He was administered an EPI pen and rushed to the hospital. Thank goodness, he is completely okay and already back in school. My mom, however, is completely traumatized by the entire event. She is scarred by the fact that she almost killed a child, and now her stress is compounded by the fact that she thinks she will be fired or sued for this. She is already prone to anxiety and I would love to put her mind at ease/give her any helpful advice! Can she be sued, arrested, or fired for this? If she does get fired, is there anything she can do to try to combat that? Thank you so much.
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eoheghg
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I have a kid with a peanut allergy who has a 504 plan. That plan mandates that all adults including aides and subs be made aware of the allergy plan to keep her safe. If the peanut allergic kid had a 504 plan, the school had an obligation to make sure your mom was aware of that.
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She can be fired because she knowingly broke the rules by giving him homemade food. If she followed the rules it never would've happened.
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brxtyl
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My mom gave a cookie to a student with a peanut allergy. My mom works as an aid in a 4th grade classroom. Officially, she is a one-to-one aid to a student with autism, but she often helps the teacher with other classroom tasks. She is 60 years old, has worked with kids her entire career, and has never made a mistake like this. After her school job, she tutors then babysits for one family, then babysits for another family overnight. She is constantly around children and horribly overworked. There is another boy in her class who comes from a very poor family so he never has his own snack at snack-time. The school provides snacks for underprivileged students in this situation, but it’s often just old fruit that he finds unappealing. My mom has been bringing her own food to feed this boy all year. She has done this almost every day with absolutely no issue. He is never told her that he has an allergy, and the main teacher of the classroom, who knows that my mom feeds him, never disclosed his allergy to her either. It is against school policy to share food with children but my mom has a heart of gold and stupidly assumed that breaking the rules would help this child in need. The other day, he asked her for a cookie and she gave him one. Moments later, he began crying and gasping for air. He tearfully explained that he is allergic to peanuts. He was administered an EPI pen and rushed to the hospital. Thank goodness, he is completely okay and already back in school. My mom, however, is completely traumatized by the entire event. She is scarred by the fact that she almost killed a child, and now her stress is compounded by the fact that she thinks she will be fired or sued for this. She is already prone to anxiety and I would love to put her mind at ease/give her any helpful advice! Can she be sued, arrested, or fired for this? If she does get fired, is there anything she can do to try to combat that? Thank you so much.
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eohf7o2
| 1,558,579,420 | 1,558,580,014 | 16 | 109 |
She needs to speak with her union rep /lawyer.
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I have a kid with a peanut allergy who has a 504 plan. That plan mandates that all adults including aides and subs be made aware of the allergy plan to keep her safe. If the peanut allergic kid had a 504 plan, the school had an obligation to make sure your mom was aware of that.
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brxtyl
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My mom gave a cookie to a student with a peanut allergy. My mom works as an aid in a 4th grade classroom. Officially, she is a one-to-one aid to a student with autism, but she often helps the teacher with other classroom tasks. She is 60 years old, has worked with kids her entire career, and has never made a mistake like this. After her school job, she tutors then babysits for one family, then babysits for another family overnight. She is constantly around children and horribly overworked. There is another boy in her class who comes from a very poor family so he never has his own snack at snack-time. The school provides snacks for underprivileged students in this situation, but it’s often just old fruit that he finds unappealing. My mom has been bringing her own food to feed this boy all year. She has done this almost every day with absolutely no issue. He is never told her that he has an allergy, and the main teacher of the classroom, who knows that my mom feeds him, never disclosed his allergy to her either. It is against school policy to share food with children but my mom has a heart of gold and stupidly assumed that breaking the rules would help this child in need. The other day, he asked her for a cookie and she gave him one. Moments later, he began crying and gasping for air. He tearfully explained that he is allergic to peanuts. He was administered an EPI pen and rushed to the hospital. Thank goodness, he is completely okay and already back in school. My mom, however, is completely traumatized by the entire event. She is scarred by the fact that she almost killed a child, and now her stress is compounded by the fact that she thinks she will be fired or sued for this. She is already prone to anxiety and I would love to put her mind at ease/give her any helpful advice! Can she be sued, arrested, or fired for this? If she does get fired, is there anything she can do to try to combat that? Thank you so much.
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eohee48
| 1,558,579,469 | 1,558,579,420 | 94 | 16 |
She can be fired because she knowingly broke the rules by giving him homemade food. If she followed the rules it never would've happened.
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She needs to speak with her union rep /lawyer.
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brxtyl
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legaladvice_train
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My mom gave a cookie to a student with a peanut allergy. My mom works as an aid in a 4th grade classroom. Officially, she is a one-to-one aid to a student with autism, but she often helps the teacher with other classroom tasks. She is 60 years old, has worked with kids her entire career, and has never made a mistake like this. After her school job, she tutors then babysits for one family, then babysits for another family overnight. She is constantly around children and horribly overworked. There is another boy in her class who comes from a very poor family so he never has his own snack at snack-time. The school provides snacks for underprivileged students in this situation, but it’s often just old fruit that he finds unappealing. My mom has been bringing her own food to feed this boy all year. She has done this almost every day with absolutely no issue. He is never told her that he has an allergy, and the main teacher of the classroom, who knows that my mom feeds him, never disclosed his allergy to her either. It is against school policy to share food with children but my mom has a heart of gold and stupidly assumed that breaking the rules would help this child in need. The other day, he asked her for a cookie and she gave him one. Moments later, he began crying and gasping for air. He tearfully explained that he is allergic to peanuts. He was administered an EPI pen and rushed to the hospital. Thank goodness, he is completely okay and already back in school. My mom, however, is completely traumatized by the entire event. She is scarred by the fact that she almost killed a child, and now her stress is compounded by the fact that she thinks she will be fired or sued for this. She is already prone to anxiety and I would love to put her mind at ease/give her any helpful advice! Can she be sued, arrested, or fired for this? If she does get fired, is there anything she can do to try to combat that? Thank you so much.
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eohee48
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eohfcsd
| 1,558,579,420 | 1,558,580,120 | 16 | 38 |
She needs to speak with her union rep /lawyer.
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She can be all of them. Fired would be the most obvious - she knew the rules and knowingly broke them. Good intentions or not, they’re there for everyone’s protection. She could be sued by the kid’s family for medical bills. She could be charged with assault, although this is less likely. If she’s an aide she should know the kid’s allergies but it may not be on the other teacher to tell her. It all boils down to this - she broke the rules and put a kid’s life in jeopardy. She is lucky the kid is ok. Tough lesson learned but the consequences for her actions are all within reason for the offense.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijiijkf
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If it were my son, I’d just have him report the accident to his insurance to avoid further legal problems down the road. The other driver doesn’t need much but his license plate to start a claim or worst report it as a hit and run. Also, doubt your son’s deductible (if at fault) would be greater than the $2400 repair bill.
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You need to call your insurance company ASAP and start the claim. Explain that you stopped, no other cars were at the intersection, you proceeded to go, and another car ran the stop sign causing you to impact him. Your insurance can try and contact their company and will either deny fault or accept fault and pay the 2400 on your behalf. Its possible the kid driving that car had no right to be driving or doesn't have insurance, which you will find out if you involve your insurance company. Your son needs to be informed to always call police at the scene of an accident and take pictures of the scene. The other party does not have your best interest at heart. If your son had left its possible they could have called the police and claimed a hit and run.
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wjoams
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijigp7a
| 1,660,004,109 | 1,660,003,319 | 2,008 | 39 |
You need to call your insurance company ASAP and start the claim. Explain that you stopped, no other cars were at the intersection, you proceeded to go, and another car ran the stop sign causing you to impact him. Your insurance can try and contact their company and will either deny fault or accept fault and pay the 2400 on your behalf. Its possible the kid driving that car had no right to be driving or doesn't have insurance, which you will find out if you involve your insurance company. Your son needs to be informed to always call police at the scene of an accident and take pictures of the scene. The other party does not have your best interest at heart. If your son had left its possible they could have called the police and claimed a hit and run.
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Police don't determine fault, insurance does and as the one turning left, in the vast majority of cases your son would be deemed at fault or the most at fault.
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wjoams
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijii1ub
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ijigp7a
| 1,660,003,898 | 1,660,003,319 | 964 | 39 |
If it were my son, I’d just have him report the accident to his insurance to avoid further legal problems down the road. The other driver doesn’t need much but his license plate to start a claim or worst report it as a hit and run. Also, doubt your son’s deductible (if at fault) would be greater than the $2400 repair bill.
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Police don't determine fault, insurance does and as the one turning left, in the vast majority of cases your son would be deemed at fault or the most at fault.
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wjoams
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijj1thj
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Your son’s car was totaled in an accident that wasn’t his fault, and he decided to not worry about fault or insurance? That sounds incredibly strange, right?
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Po-Po here. This sounds very suspicious and since you only have your son's side of the story, you only have a third of what actually happened so take it with a grain of salt. Depending on the state you're in, most state laws requires the exchange of insurance, at minimum, but since this did not happen on scene, you need to report it to your insurance immediately. Do not give this other involved party any money, this is what insurance companies are for!! For anyone else reading this, ALWAYS call for police in a collision, nomatter the severity. Let us investigate so all involved parties can have their respective insurances request our report to make a determination. Oftentimes, and depending on the circumstances, during our investigation we may be able to gather enough information/statements that we can issue a citation to one of the parties and although a citation does not specifically blame someone, it does help insurance companies in determining fault if they can see that a violation was committed and a collision occurred. Example: Unit 1 driver failed to controll his/her speed and collided with the rear end of Unit 2.
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wjoams
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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Are you sure you’re getting the full story from your son? Because a lot of this isn’t adding up. How does he know the other kid was on his cell phone and didn’t notice the stop sign? If the other kid wasn’t paying attention and blew the stop sign, how did his car only suffer minor damage? How was your sons car declared a total loss when insurance hasn’t been involved yet? If the other driver blew the stop sign and was at fault, why did your son concede to not involving the police or insurance? Police don’t determine fault, insurance companies do. Your son should call his provider and report the accident immediately. The insurance company will talk to the other driver and their insurance company and fault will be determined. Ignoring the issue altogether is not the right move and won’t make this go away. If they have his name and number, that’s more than enough information for them to provide to their insurance company and potentially the police if he tries to evade this situation. This doesn’t sound like a scam, it sounds like a nervous dad not wanting his insurance rates to skyrocket because their 16 year old kid was in an accident on their policy. And many states and cities don’t issue police reports for “minor” accidents, and very few require it for an insurance claim.
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Your son’s car was totaled in an accident that wasn’t his fault, and he decided to not worry about fault or insurance? That sounds incredibly strange, right?
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijj8bvy
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Police don't determine fault, insurance does and as the one turning left, in the vast majority of cases your son would be deemed at fault or the most at fault.
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Your son’s car was totaled in an accident that wasn’t his fault, and he decided to not worry about fault or insurance? That sounds incredibly strange, right?
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijj1thj
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If you file with your own insurance an investigation will be part of the claim. Without a police report, it will be word vs word. The insurance company that you pay will side with you. Both parties will pay deductibles. Lesson learned- get the PR next time. People are shit. Insurance will take care of the denial letter, feel free to tell the other party to pound. Source:(I am an adjuster/property damage appraiser)
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Po-Po here. This sounds very suspicious and since you only have your son's side of the story, you only have a third of what actually happened so take it with a grain of salt. Depending on the state you're in, most state laws requires the exchange of insurance, at minimum, but since this did not happen on scene, you need to report it to your insurance immediately. Do not give this other involved party any money, this is what insurance companies are for!! For anyone else reading this, ALWAYS call for police in a collision, nomatter the severity. Let us investigate so all involved parties can have their respective insurances request our report to make a determination. Oftentimes, and depending on the circumstances, during our investigation we may be able to gather enough information/statements that we can issue a citation to one of the parties and although a citation does not specifically blame someone, it does help insurance companies in determining fault if they can see that a violation was committed and a collision occurred. Example: Unit 1 driver failed to controll his/her speed and collided with the rear end of Unit 2.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijisywc
| 1,660,028,252 | 1,660,008,552 | 165 | 122 |
If you file with your own insurance an investigation will be part of the claim. Without a police report, it will be word vs word. The insurance company that you pay will side with you. Both parties will pay deductibles. Lesson learned- get the PR next time. People are shit. Insurance will take care of the denial letter, feel free to tell the other party to pound. Source:(I am an adjuster/property damage appraiser)
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Are you sure you’re getting the full story from your son? Because a lot of this isn’t adding up. How does he know the other kid was on his cell phone and didn’t notice the stop sign? If the other kid wasn’t paying attention and blew the stop sign, how did his car only suffer minor damage? How was your sons car declared a total loss when insurance hasn’t been involved yet? If the other driver blew the stop sign and was at fault, why did your son concede to not involving the police or insurance? Police don’t determine fault, insurance companies do. Your son should call his provider and report the accident immediately. The insurance company will talk to the other driver and their insurance company and fault will be determined. Ignoring the issue altogether is not the right move and won’t make this go away. If they have his name and number, that’s more than enough information for them to provide to their insurance company and potentially the police if he tries to evade this situation. This doesn’t sound like a scam, it sounds like a nervous dad not wanting his insurance rates to skyrocket because their 16 year old kid was in an accident on their policy. And many states and cities don’t issue police reports for “minor” accidents, and very few require it for an insurance claim.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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The minute someone says "Let's deal with this without insurance", it's time to call your insurance. He needs to call them and tell them what's going on. I'd also just keep hands on these texts or whatever the father has sent so far. Tell your son to stop taking his calls. (Phone calls cannot be recorded) and stop replying to him in general in case for some reason this ends up in a civil case later on. If for some reason he corners you "Being directly asked for money made me un comfortable and I believed it was time to get the insurance company involved as that is my right as the other party" is a complete sentence. Nothing impolite about it. But in general, your son should no longer communicate with them. Do it through the insurance company. Also please sit down and show your son this thread. He needs to know to call the police every time he has an accident, no matter what, and (Unless it's a tiny scratch that you don't care about) always involve the insurance. This is a big lesson for him.
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If you file with your own insurance an investigation will be part of the claim. Without a police report, it will be word vs word. The insurance company that you pay will side with you. Both parties will pay deductibles. Lesson learned- get the PR next time. People are shit. Insurance will take care of the denial letter, feel free to tell the other party to pound. Source:(I am an adjuster/property damage appraiser)
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjtd4s
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Police don't determine fault, insurance does and as the one turning left, in the vast majority of cases your son would be deemed at fault or the most at fault.
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If you file with your own insurance an investigation will be part of the claim. Without a police report, it will be word vs word. The insurance company that you pay will side with you. Both parties will pay deductibles. Lesson learned- get the PR next time. People are shit. Insurance will take care of the denial letter, feel free to tell the other party to pound. Source:(I am an adjuster/property damage appraiser)
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjtd4s
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Sorry but your son is an idiot, but, then again, who isn't at 21? Call up your insurance company and get the process started. At this point, what do you have to lose? I'd guess that, unless the other party has any proof of your son's liability, they can ask for $2,400 but they have no real case. Both parties were idiotic for not calling police/insurance and right now it sounds like a case of hearsay. The father can take your son to court and it'll be he-said/she-said and noone will be found at fault (Not a lawyer to be clear here). ​ If you wanted to pursue this further, you might visit the intersection and see if there were any businesses that might have had a camera pointed at the intersection at the time. They probably wouldn't give the video to you, but you could possibly inform the cops/insurance agents about it. Otherwise, just call up your insurance, tell them what happened and then call your local non-emergency police line and get input from them. Worst case scenario, you have a track record of your side started officially before they have a chance to twist things their way and you can get out ahead of it all.
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If you file with your own insurance an investigation will be part of the claim. Without a police report, it will be word vs word. The insurance company that you pay will side with you. Both parties will pay deductibles. Lesson learned- get the PR next time. People are shit. Insurance will take care of the denial letter, feel free to tell the other party to pound. Source:(I am an adjuster/property damage appraiser)
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjqpq1
| 1,660,028,252 | 1,660,026,258 | 165 | 8 |
If you file with your own insurance an investigation will be part of the claim. Without a police report, it will be word vs word. The insurance company that you pay will side with you. Both parties will pay deductibles. Lesson learned- get the PR next time. People are shit. Insurance will take care of the denial letter, feel free to tell the other party to pound. Source:(I am an adjuster/property damage appraiser)
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No police report and you didn’t get insurance involved? Call their insurance immediately. You pay them for this to be their problem.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijj1thj
| 1,660,008,552 | 1,660,012,358 | 122 | 148 |
Are you sure you’re getting the full story from your son? Because a lot of this isn’t adding up. How does he know the other kid was on his cell phone and didn’t notice the stop sign? If the other kid wasn’t paying attention and blew the stop sign, how did his car only suffer minor damage? How was your sons car declared a total loss when insurance hasn’t been involved yet? If the other driver blew the stop sign and was at fault, why did your son concede to not involving the police or insurance? Police don’t determine fault, insurance companies do. Your son should call his provider and report the accident immediately. The insurance company will talk to the other driver and their insurance company and fault will be determined. Ignoring the issue altogether is not the right move and won’t make this go away. If they have his name and number, that’s more than enough information for them to provide to their insurance company and potentially the police if he tries to evade this situation. This doesn’t sound like a scam, it sounds like a nervous dad not wanting his insurance rates to skyrocket because their 16 year old kid was in an accident on their policy. And many states and cities don’t issue police reports for “minor” accidents, and very few require it for an insurance claim.
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Po-Po here. This sounds very suspicious and since you only have your son's side of the story, you only have a third of what actually happened so take it with a grain of salt. Depending on the state you're in, most state laws requires the exchange of insurance, at minimum, but since this did not happen on scene, you need to report it to your insurance immediately. Do not give this other involved party any money, this is what insurance companies are for!! For anyone else reading this, ALWAYS call for police in a collision, nomatter the severity. Let us investigate so all involved parties can have their respective insurances request our report to make a determination. Oftentimes, and depending on the circumstances, during our investigation we may be able to gather enough information/statements that we can issue a citation to one of the parties and although a citation does not specifically blame someone, it does help insurance companies in determining fault if they can see that a violation was committed and a collision occurred. Example: Unit 1 driver failed to controll his/her speed and collided with the rear end of Unit 2.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijj1thj
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Police don't determine fault, insurance does and as the one turning left, in the vast majority of cases your son would be deemed at fault or the most at fault.
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Po-Po here. This sounds very suspicious and since you only have your son's side of the story, you only have a third of what actually happened so take it with a grain of salt. Depending on the state you're in, most state laws requires the exchange of insurance, at minimum, but since this did not happen on scene, you need to report it to your insurance immediately. Do not give this other involved party any money, this is what insurance companies are for!! For anyone else reading this, ALWAYS call for police in a collision, nomatter the severity. Let us investigate so all involved parties can have their respective insurances request our report to make a determination. Oftentimes, and depending on the circumstances, during our investigation we may be able to gather enough information/statements that we can issue a citation to one of the parties and although a citation does not specifically blame someone, it does help insurance companies in determining fault if they can see that a violation was committed and a collision occurred. Example: Unit 1 driver failed to controll his/her speed and collided with the rear end of Unit 2.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijisywc
| 1,660,003,319 | 1,660,008,552 | 39 | 122 |
Police don't determine fault, insurance does and as the one turning left, in the vast majority of cases your son would be deemed at fault or the most at fault.
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Are you sure you’re getting the full story from your son? Because a lot of this isn’t adding up. How does he know the other kid was on his cell phone and didn’t notice the stop sign? If the other kid wasn’t paying attention and blew the stop sign, how did his car only suffer minor damage? How was your sons car declared a total loss when insurance hasn’t been involved yet? If the other driver blew the stop sign and was at fault, why did your son concede to not involving the police or insurance? Police don’t determine fault, insurance companies do. Your son should call his provider and report the accident immediately. The insurance company will talk to the other driver and their insurance company and fault will be determined. Ignoring the issue altogether is not the right move and won’t make this go away. If they have his name and number, that’s more than enough information for them to provide to their insurance company and potentially the police if he tries to evade this situation. This doesn’t sound like a scam, it sounds like a nervous dad not wanting his insurance rates to skyrocket because their 16 year old kid was in an accident on their policy. And many states and cities don’t issue police reports for “minor” accidents, and very few require it for an insurance claim.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjnd7c
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Police don't determine fault, insurance does and as the one turning left, in the vast majority of cases your son would be deemed at fault or the most at fault.
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The minute someone says "Let's deal with this without insurance", it's time to call your insurance. He needs to call them and tell them what's going on. I'd also just keep hands on these texts or whatever the father has sent so far. Tell your son to stop taking his calls. (Phone calls cannot be recorded) and stop replying to him in general in case for some reason this ends up in a civil case later on. If for some reason he corners you "Being directly asked for money made me un comfortable and I believed it was time to get the insurance company involved as that is my right as the other party" is a complete sentence. Nothing impolite about it. But in general, your son should no longer communicate with them. Do it through the insurance company. Also please sit down and show your son this thread. He needs to know to call the police every time he has an accident, no matter what, and (Unless it's a tiny scratch that you don't care about) always involve the insurance. This is a big lesson for him.
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjronn
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ijjqpq1
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Sorry but your son is an idiot, but, then again, who isn't at 21? Call up your insurance company and get the process started. At this point, what do you have to lose? I'd guess that, unless the other party has any proof of your son's liability, they can ask for $2,400 but they have no real case. Both parties were idiotic for not calling police/insurance and right now it sounds like a case of hearsay. The father can take your son to court and it'll be he-said/she-said and noone will be found at fault (Not a lawyer to be clear here). ​ If you wanted to pursue this further, you might visit the intersection and see if there were any businesses that might have had a camera pointed at the intersection at the time. They probably wouldn't give the video to you, but you could possibly inform the cops/insurance agents about it. Otherwise, just call up your insurance, tell them what happened and then call your local non-emergency police line and get input from them. Worst case scenario, you have a track record of your side started officially before they have a chance to twist things their way and you can get out ahead of it all.
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No police report and you didn’t get insurance involved? Call their insurance immediately. You pay them for this to be their problem.
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wjoams
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjwirk
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ijk2gi9
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I’m sure dad said no reason to call the cops.. it was his sons fault and getting into an at fault accident at 16 is no bueno. I’d tell him nice try, better luck tomorrow.
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Not a lawyer. I got into a small accident- someone hit my door. No cops were called. Information was exchanged and the other party asked me to get a body shop quote as they wanted to pay to have my car fixed without the insurance involved. What seemed to be a minor hit turned out to be a $2,000 fix. So $2,400 is not unthinkable for minor damage. It’s not too late to go through your insurance. Your insurance will take a report from you and the other party about the accident and they will determine who was at fault.
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wjoams
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjqpq1
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ijk2gi9
| 1,660,026,258 | 1,660,035,593 | 8 | 21 |
No police report and you didn’t get insurance involved? Call their insurance immediately. You pay them for this to be their problem.
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Not a lawyer. I got into a small accident- someone hit my door. No cops were called. Information was exchanged and the other party asked me to get a body shop quote as they wanted to pay to have my car fixed without the insurance involved. What seemed to be a minor hit turned out to be a $2,000 fix. So $2,400 is not unthinkable for minor damage. It’s not too late to go through your insurance. Your insurance will take a report from you and the other party about the accident and they will determine who was at fault.
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wjoams
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My son got into a minor accident a few days ago. Now the other party is giving my son a 2,400 dollar repair bill even though no police report was filed at the request of the other party. Possible insurance scam, does my son have any liability or can he tell this guy to pound sand? A few days ago my son (21) got into an accident with another kid (16) at an intersection. My son stopped at the sign and proceeded to turn left when the kid who was coming in the opposite direction ran the stop sign and my son turned into him. 16 YO was on his phone so didn’t see the stop sign. My son did technically hit him but he ran a stop sign so I’m not sure who’s at fault. The kid called his dad and when he got there he said there was no need to involve the police or insurance. My son (God love him but he’s an idiot sometimes) went along with it. According to my son the kids car had minor damage while my sons car is totaled. Now a few days later the dad is calling my son and demanding he pay the 2,400 repair bill out of pocket. This seems very fishy to me. What adult says there’s no need to call the cops or involve insurance unless they’re up to something. Anyway, without a police report there’s no determination of fault right? He doesn’t have my son’s insurance info. Only his name and number. So I personally think he should just tell the guy better luck with his shakedown next time and block him. Am I reading this situation right or is there something I’m not thinking of?
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ijjqpq1
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ijjwirk
| 1,660,026,258 | 1,660,030,716 | 8 | 10 |
No police report and you didn’t get insurance involved? Call their insurance immediately. You pay them for this to be their problem.
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I’m sure dad said no reason to call the cops.. it was his sons fault and getting into an at fault accident at 16 is no bueno. I’d tell him nice try, better luck tomorrow.
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