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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduzjr7
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iduuxtb
| 1,656,283,088 | 1,656,280,944 | 230 | 40 |
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
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Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
| 1 | 2,144 | 5.75 |
vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv6zuy
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idupv5l
| 1,656,286,671 | 1,656,278,658 | 118 | 67 |
Also, tell your school counselor and call CPS 800-422-4453. Don't let your family talk you into going on any holidays, or to visit relatives out of the country, even Mexico.
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Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
| 1 | 8,013 | 1.761194 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idupv5l
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idvcgbx
| 1,656,278,658 | 1,656,289,357 | 67 | 134 |
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
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Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
| 0 | 10,699 | 2 |
vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvbvs9
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idupv5l
| 1,656,289,083 | 1,656,278,658 | 72 | 67 |
Hide your passport. Make it disappear if you have to. Edit: actually hide all the passports. If yours alone goes missing they may suspect you, but if they all vanish they will assume it's a theft or that they've misplaced them. It also takes several months to replace them, at which point you should be close enough to 18yo that you could leave and legally, they would have no way to get to you.
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Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
| 1 | 10,425 | 1.074627 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv6zuy
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iduxu5d
| 1,656,286,671 | 1,656,282,286 | 118 | 59 |
Also, tell your school counselor and call CPS 800-422-4453. Don't let your family talk you into going on any holidays, or to visit relatives out of the country, even Mexico.
|
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
| 1 | 4,385 | 2 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvcgbx
|
iduxu5d
| 1,656,289,357 | 1,656,282,286 | 134 | 59 |
Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
|
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
| 1 | 7,071 | 2.271186 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduxu5d
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iduuxtb
| 1,656,282,286 | 1,656,280,944 | 59 | 40 |
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
| 1 | 1,342 | 1.475 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduxu5d
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idvafxg
| 1,656,282,286 | 1,656,288,370 | 59 | 66 |
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
|
Use the resources available because once you get into Yemen there’s no helping you. Trust me I know people who have got sent here that were forcefully married and you need to act now you cannot wait later trust me I would know, I know countless Yemenis. Please use the resources that were provided to you, if I’m not mistaken the embassy in sanaa is closed so you need to act within the United States, say something now!
| 0 | 6,084 | 1.118644 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvbvs9
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iduxu5d
| 1,656,289,083 | 1,656,282,286 | 72 | 59 |
Hide your passport. Make it disappear if you have to. Edit: actually hide all the passports. If yours alone goes missing they may suspect you, but if they all vanish they will assume it's a theft or that they've misplaced them. It also takes several months to replace them, at which point you should be close enough to 18yo that you could leave and legally, they would have no way to get to you.
|
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
| 1 | 6,797 | 1.220339 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvcgbx
|
idv6zuy
| 1,656,289,357 | 1,656,286,671 | 134 | 118 |
Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
|
Also, tell your school counselor and call CPS 800-422-4453. Don't let your family talk you into going on any holidays, or to visit relatives out of the country, even Mexico.
| 1 | 2,686 | 1.135593 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv6zuy
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iduxcfi
| 1,656,286,671 | 1,656,282,061 | 118 | 59 |
Also, tell your school counselor and call CPS 800-422-4453. Don't let your family talk you into going on any holidays, or to visit relatives out of the country, even Mexico.
|
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduuxtb
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idv6zuy
| 1,656,280,944 | 1,656,286,671 | 40 | 118 |
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
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Also, tell your school counselor and call CPS 800-422-4453. Don't let your family talk you into going on any holidays, or to visit relatives out of the country, even Mexico.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv0dlz
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idv6zuy
| 1,656,283,477 | 1,656,286,671 | 41 | 118 |
Get in touch with a community organization that can expedite your emancipation, and then subsequently if you have dual citizenship renounce your Yemeni citizenship at the Yemeni embassy. NYPD will take accusations of human trafficking extremely seriously, if you need to use that card as well.
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Also, tell your school counselor and call CPS 800-422-4453. Don't let your family talk you into going on any holidays, or to visit relatives out of the country, even Mexico.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduxcfi
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idvcgbx
| 1,656,282,061 | 1,656,289,357 | 59 | 134 |
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
|
Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvcgbx
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iduuxtb
| 1,656,289,357 | 1,656,280,944 | 134 | 40 |
Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
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vldmkq
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| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvcgbx
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idv0dlz
| 1,656,289,357 | 1,656,283,477 | 134 | 41 |
Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
|
Get in touch with a community organization that can expedite your emancipation, and then subsequently if you have dual citizenship renounce your Yemeni citizenship at the Yemeni embassy. NYPD will take accusations of human trafficking extremely seriously, if you need to use that card as well.
| 1 | 5,880 | 3.268293 |
vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvcgbx
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idvafxg
| 1,656,289,357 | 1,656,288,370 | 134 | 66 |
Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
|
Use the resources available because once you get into Yemen there’s no helping you. Trust me I know people who have got sent here that were forcefully married and you need to act now you cannot wait later trust me I would know, I know countless Yemenis. Please use the resources that were provided to you, if I’m not mistaken the embassy in sanaa is closed so you need to act within the United States, say something now!
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvcgbx
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idvbvs9
| 1,656,289,357 | 1,656,289,083 | 134 | 72 |
Human trafficking hotline as soon as you read this thread. This isn’t a wait for the plane kind of thing. I know it’s terrifying, but what is worse is moving to Yemen and being raped for the remainder of your life with no rights as a woman. Whatever you think calling the number will bring, remember the alternative. You don’t want that. You know you don’t. Your life is your own, and if your parents genuinely cared about you and not their own self image, they would not be doing this to you. Call the number now. Get your passport and birth certificate if you can as stealthy as you can and hide them. I would never recommend this normally, but if you could get your hands on these items, put it in a safety deposit box at the bank so only you have access to them. Don’t hide them at your house, whatever you do If they take you to the airport, absolutely do not get on that plane. Do what you must, but do not get on that plane. Write a letter to the tsa and give it to them. Shout it. Drop to the ground and cry. Do whatever you can but absolutely do not board that plane.
|
Hide your passport. Make it disappear if you have to. Edit: actually hide all the passports. If yours alone goes missing they may suspect you, but if they all vanish they will assume it's a theft or that they've misplaced them. It also takes several months to replace them, at which point you should be close enough to 18yo that you could leave and legally, they would have no way to get to you.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduxcfi
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iduuxtb
| 1,656,282,061 | 1,656,280,944 | 59 | 40 |
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvafxg
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iduxcfi
| 1,656,288,370 | 1,656,282,061 | 66 | 59 |
Use the resources available because once you get into Yemen there’s no helping you. Trust me I know people who have got sent here that were forcefully married and you need to act now you cannot wait later trust me I would know, I know countless Yemenis. Please use the resources that were provided to you, if I’m not mistaken the embassy in sanaa is closed so you need to act within the United States, say something now!
|
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
| 1 | 6,309 | 1.118644 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduxcfi
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idvbvs9
| 1,656,282,061 | 1,656,289,083 | 59 | 72 |
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
|
Hide your passport. Make it disappear if you have to. Edit: actually hide all the passports. If yours alone goes missing they may suspect you, but if they all vanish they will assume it's a theft or that they've misplaced them. It also takes several months to replace them, at which point you should be close enough to 18yo that you could leave and legally, they would have no way to get to you.
| 0 | 7,022 | 1.220339 |
vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv0dlz
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iduuxtb
| 1,656,283,477 | 1,656,280,944 | 41 | 40 |
Get in touch with a community organization that can expedite your emancipation, and then subsequently if you have dual citizenship renounce your Yemeni citizenship at the Yemeni embassy. NYPD will take accusations of human trafficking extremely seriously, if you need to use that card as well.
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
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vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvafxg
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iduuxtb
| 1,656,288,370 | 1,656,280,944 | 66 | 40 |
Use the resources available because once you get into Yemen there’s no helping you. Trust me I know people who have got sent here that were forcefully married and you need to act now you cannot wait later trust me I would know, I know countless Yemenis. Please use the resources that were provided to you, if I’m not mistaken the embassy in sanaa is closed so you need to act within the United States, say something now!
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
| 1 | 7,426 | 1.65 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvbvs9
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iduuxtb
| 1,656,289,083 | 1,656,280,944 | 72 | 40 |
Hide your passport. Make it disappear if you have to. Edit: actually hide all the passports. If yours alone goes missing they may suspect you, but if they all vanish they will assume it's a theft or that they've misplaced them. It also takes several months to replace them, at which point you should be close enough to 18yo that you could leave and legally, they would have no way to get to you.
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
| 1 | 8,139 | 1.8 |
vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvafxg
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idv0dlz
| 1,656,288,370 | 1,656,283,477 | 66 | 41 |
Use the resources available because once you get into Yemen there’s no helping you. Trust me I know people who have got sent here that were forcefully married and you need to act now you cannot wait later trust me I would know, I know countless Yemenis. Please use the resources that were provided to you, if I’m not mistaken the embassy in sanaa is closed so you need to act within the United States, say something now!
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Get in touch with a community organization that can expedite your emancipation, and then subsequently if you have dual citizenship renounce your Yemeni citizenship at the Yemeni embassy. NYPD will take accusations of human trafficking extremely seriously, if you need to use that card as well.
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvbvs9
| 1,656,283,477 | 1,656,289,083 | 41 | 72 |
Get in touch with a community organization that can expedite your emancipation, and then subsequently if you have dual citizenship renounce your Yemeni citizenship at the Yemeni embassy. NYPD will take accusations of human trafficking extremely seriously, if you need to use that card as well.
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Hide your passport. Make it disappear if you have to. Edit: actually hide all the passports. If yours alone goes missing they may suspect you, but if they all vanish they will assume it's a theft or that they've misplaced them. It also takes several months to replace them, at which point you should be close enough to 18yo that you could leave and legally, they would have no way to get to you.
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idvafxg
| 1,656,289,083 | 1,656,288,370 | 72 | 66 |
Hide your passport. Make it disappear if you have to. Edit: actually hide all the passports. If yours alone goes missing they may suspect you, but if they all vanish they will assume it's a theft or that they've misplaced them. It also takes several months to replace them, at which point you should be close enough to 18yo that you could leave and legally, they would have no way to get to you.
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Use the resources available because once you get into Yemen there’s no helping you. Trust me I know people who have got sent here that were forcefully married and you need to act now you cannot wait later trust me I would know, I know countless Yemenis. Please use the resources that were provided to you, if I’m not mistaken the embassy in sanaa is closed so you need to act within the United States, say something now!
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I am renting an apartment that doesn't allow pets. My mom is coming to visit for a few days with her legally registered service dog (NOT esa, a service dog). I let the apartment owner know she'll be staying with us for a few days, and the owner said the dog isn't allowed. Legal, or no? In case it's relevant, I live in Utah.
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i5obsrc
| 1,650,590,367 | 1,650,579,775 | 45 | 23 |
Not a lawyer, but I have a service dog. Your landlord must allow service animals to be on the property. Tell your mother to bring a copy of her Letter of Medical Necessity to present to the landlord. It's not required, but recommended to include a copy of the relevant federal and state laws as well.
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I recommend looking at ada.gov on their FAQ section. They have a lot of great information on their. But basically a service animal is allowed to go anywhere a human or normal visitor can go barring any local guidelines, for instance some states (if not all) have restrictions on animals in kitchens as it's a health hazard. Many states (if not all) also restrict pools. ESA's are a little different, but in your case it is a service animal. Also in your case FHA (fair housing act) should cover that anyway. Side note, the only 2 questions he can ask your mom that she has to answer is: 1- is that a service animal 2- what service is the animal trained to perform Anything further is voluntary information and you're not required to answer. Also please look at the section in the FAQ about when a service animal can be removed from an establishment because he/she/etc sounds like the type of person that would try and make a bogus claim.
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The person who stole over $5000 of tools from my truck is now in jail. Am I allowed to visit/contact them? Location: WA State, USA ​ Long story short, my work truck was broken into and they stole a substantial amount of tools/equipment. Based on some incredible luck and the sheer stupidity of the thief I was able to find out their identity. Initially the police weren't able to track them down to arrest them, but eventually they were apprehended for something else and the detective working on my case was able to add my charges to the list. ​ The thief refused all interviews with my detective and the vehicle they were caught in was not the same one used when they broke into my truck, so none of my stuff was recovered. In addition to the tools they also stole a leather portfolio that contained all of my business receipts for the year. I was scheduled to meet with my accountant later that day and had everything prepared for that meeting. A lot of those receipts were from brick/mortar stores and can not be recovered. Without physical copies I can't deduct them on my tax returns which will be absolutely devastating. ​ The detective doesnt really care, they caught the criminal and as far as they are concerned did their duty to the full extent. To me recovering even some of those receipts would mean a difference of paying thousands less in taxes this year so at this point I am pretty much willing to try anything. What can I do? Am I allowed to contact this individual, should I try and speak with their public defender or prosecutor? I am just so lost and frustrated over this whole situation. Any advice on how I should proceed? ​ Thank you in advance
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egby8xb
| 1,550,003,545 | 1,550,003,887 | 16 | 21 |
To visit an inmate, you have to first be on their approved visitor list. It’s doubtful he would add you. You can try to contact his attorney but he’d have no obligation to speak to you and it’s not in his clients best interests to do so.
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I'm pretty sure your suppliers can cut you duplicate invoices off their computers without any trouble.
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apxux8
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legaladvice_train
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The person who stole over $5000 of tools from my truck is now in jail. Am I allowed to visit/contact them? Location: WA State, USA ​ Long story short, my work truck was broken into and they stole a substantial amount of tools/equipment. Based on some incredible luck and the sheer stupidity of the thief I was able to find out their identity. Initially the police weren't able to track them down to arrest them, but eventually they were apprehended for something else and the detective working on my case was able to add my charges to the list. ​ The thief refused all interviews with my detective and the vehicle they were caught in was not the same one used when they broke into my truck, so none of my stuff was recovered. In addition to the tools they also stole a leather portfolio that contained all of my business receipts for the year. I was scheduled to meet with my accountant later that day and had everything prepared for that meeting. A lot of those receipts were from brick/mortar stores and can not be recovered. Without physical copies I can't deduct them on my tax returns which will be absolutely devastating. ​ The detective doesnt really care, they caught the criminal and as far as they are concerned did their duty to the full extent. To me recovering even some of those receipts would mean a difference of paying thousands less in taxes this year so at this point I am pretty much willing to try anything. What can I do? Am I allowed to contact this individual, should I try and speak with their public defender or prosecutor? I am just so lost and frustrated over this whole situation. Any advice on how I should proceed? ​ Thank you in advance
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egby87u
| 1,550,003,887 | 1,550,003,874 | 21 | 4 |
I'm pretty sure your suppliers can cut you duplicate invoices off their computers without any trouble.
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He would talk to you if you were willing to drop charges in exchange for info to get back your stuff, which he doesn't need anymore
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apxux8
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The person who stole over $5000 of tools from my truck is now in jail. Am I allowed to visit/contact them? Location: WA State, USA ​ Long story short, my work truck was broken into and they stole a substantial amount of tools/equipment. Based on some incredible luck and the sheer stupidity of the thief I was able to find out their identity. Initially the police weren't able to track them down to arrest them, but eventually they were apprehended for something else and the detective working on my case was able to add my charges to the list. ​ The thief refused all interviews with my detective and the vehicle they were caught in was not the same one used when they broke into my truck, so none of my stuff was recovered. In addition to the tools they also stole a leather portfolio that contained all of my business receipts for the year. I was scheduled to meet with my accountant later that day and had everything prepared for that meeting. A lot of those receipts were from brick/mortar stores and can not be recovered. Without physical copies I can't deduct them on my tax returns which will be absolutely devastating. ​ The detective doesnt really care, they caught the criminal and as far as they are concerned did their duty to the full extent. To me recovering even some of those receipts would mean a difference of paying thousands less in taxes this year so at this point I am pretty much willing to try anything. What can I do? Am I allowed to contact this individual, should I try and speak with their public defender or prosecutor? I am just so lost and frustrated over this whole situation. Any advice on how I should proceed? ​ Thank you in advance
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egby87u
| 1,550,004,101 | 1,550,003,874 | 8 | 4 |
By talking to you about the receipts, he would essentially be admitting to the crime. And defense attorney would tell him NOT to talk to you.
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He would talk to you if you were willing to drop charges in exchange for info to get back your stuff, which he doesn't need anymore
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgs0hn
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As a side note - your husband should look into whether his conviction can be expunged.
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I am a former Indiana CPS investigator/ assessor. Something here is not making any sense at all, unless the law has changed greatly in the last few years when I left the department. As of this moment you are pregnant correct? You don't have any children? They are investigating the fetus?
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgci4i
| 1,486,512,439 | 1,486,494,514 | 6,248 | 211 |
I am a former Indiana CPS investigator/ assessor. Something here is not making any sense at all, unless the law has changed greatly in the last few years when I left the department. As of this moment you are pregnant correct? You don't have any children? They are investigating the fetus?
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I don't know any DCS or CPS agency that would detain at birth without a positive urine or meconium test. Detention is expensive as is the whole process for reunification or adoption. Continue to cooperate and you will be fine. No agency wants to waste time investigating a bunk referral so once you're cleared, you'll be fine.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgixy0
| 1,486,512,439 | 1,486,501,628 | 6,248 | 88 |
I am a former Indiana CPS investigator/ assessor. Something here is not making any sense at all, unless the law has changed greatly in the last few years when I left the department. As of this moment you are pregnant correct? You don't have any children? They are investigating the fetus?
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I used to bartend in a small town when I was in college. I moved there after college for a while and I absolutely loved most of the people there. I can tell you though, I did notice that amongst a certain set of folks, calling child protective services on one another as some form of revenge, was a fairly common occurrence. Based on what I saw from that, it took an awful lot for a child to be removed. In some cases, I thought the child should be removed because I knew what his/her parents were into, but it never happened. My suspicion here is that, like in any case where they receive a call, the case worker has to do a complete investigation. Due to the history with your husband, it wasn't as simple as a one time drug screen and a home inspection so they are going to finalize your case by testing the baby. Honestly, that just makes sense. I would assume once that comes back negative, you won't hear from them again. As someone else said, child services is overwhelmed as it is so chasing people around with no real evidence is not on their list. They do have a mandate to do due diligence, but I think after they test your newborn, they will have fulfilled that. Things can always go sideways and you can always get some crazy worker or nurse or whoever so if it were me, I would speak to a lawyer just in case though. As much as I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am always for protecting your rights and talking to a lawyer about what those rights are ahead of time is always a good idea.
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| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgh2n0
| 1,486,512,439 | 1,486,499,558 | 6,248 | 58 |
I am a former Indiana CPS investigator/ assessor. Something here is not making any sense at all, unless the law has changed greatly in the last few years when I left the department. As of this moment you are pregnant correct? You don't have any children? They are investigating the fetus?
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They have to be very open about the possibility because some people feel that one passed test is good enough, then it's time to party! Remember, this is an agency charged with protecting kids from people who put drugs before their kids.
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5smsoi
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| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgif3i
| 1,486,512,439 | 1,486,501,039 | 6,248 | 45 |
I am a former Indiana CPS investigator/ assessor. Something here is not making any sense at all, unless the law has changed greatly in the last few years when I left the department. As of this moment you are pregnant correct? You don't have any children? They are investigating the fetus?
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What the hell Carmel? Do you know who 'reported' you or why?
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5smsoi
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| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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This is a rough one. Is there a possibility this case worker is connected to the person who reported your SO's past? Why would the case worker be so cryptic and standoffish. They are there to help, not act like the NSA.
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I am a former Indiana CPS investigator/ assessor. Something here is not making any sense at all, unless the law has changed greatly in the last few years when I left the department. As of this moment you are pregnant correct? You don't have any children? They are investigating the fetus?
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgx22g
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As a side note - your husband should look into whether his conviction can be expunged.
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Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies. Please make sure the person you are talking to is actually DCS or DONT LET THEM IN YOUR HOME ANYMORE.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgx22g
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I don't know any DCS or CPS agency that would detain at birth without a positive urine or meconium test. Detention is expensive as is the whole process for reunification or adoption. Continue to cooperate and you will be fine. No agency wants to waste time investigating a bunk referral so once you're cleared, you'll be fine.
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Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies. Please make sure the person you are talking to is actually DCS or DONT LET THEM IN YOUR HOME ANYMORE.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgixy0
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Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies. Please make sure the person you are talking to is actually DCS or DONT LET THEM IN YOUR HOME ANYMORE.
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I used to bartend in a small town when I was in college. I moved there after college for a while and I absolutely loved most of the people there. I can tell you though, I did notice that amongst a certain set of folks, calling child protective services on one another as some form of revenge, was a fairly common occurrence. Based on what I saw from that, it took an awful lot for a child to be removed. In some cases, I thought the child should be removed because I knew what his/her parents were into, but it never happened. My suspicion here is that, like in any case where they receive a call, the case worker has to do a complete investigation. Due to the history with your husband, it wasn't as simple as a one time drug screen and a home inspection so they are going to finalize your case by testing the baby. Honestly, that just makes sense. I would assume once that comes back negative, you won't hear from them again. As someone else said, child services is overwhelmed as it is so chasing people around with no real evidence is not on their list. They do have a mandate to do due diligence, but I think after they test your newborn, they will have fulfilled that. Things can always go sideways and you can always get some crazy worker or nurse or whoever so if it were me, I would speak to a lawyer just in case though. As much as I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am always for protecting your rights and talking to a lawyer about what those rights are ahead of time is always a good idea.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies. Please make sure the person you are talking to is actually DCS or DONT LET THEM IN YOUR HOME ANYMORE.
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Your report will be screen out because Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies because there is no child. However, it is hospital practice to test you and the baby for drugs and if any drugs show up, the hospital will notify DCS. If you're not using drugs, no worries. If you are only using marijuana, don't even stress and don't let them talk you into an IA. If you are using harder drugs, be prepared an shave an attorney and do not talk to DCS without a court order and get clean ASAP for you and the baby. You do not have to talk to DCS. You don't have to let them in your home. Make them get a court order.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgh2n0
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Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies. Please make sure the person you are talking to is actually DCS or DONT LET THEM IN YOUR HOME ANYMORE.
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They have to be very open about the possibility because some people feel that one passed test is good enough, then it's time to party! Remember, this is an agency charged with protecting kids from people who put drugs before their kids.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies. Please make sure the person you are talking to is actually DCS or DONT LET THEM IN YOUR HOME ANYMORE.
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What the hell Carmel? Do you know who 'reported' you or why?
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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This is a rough one. Is there a possibility this case worker is connected to the person who reported your SO's past? Why would the case worker be so cryptic and standoffish. They are there to help, not act like the NSA.
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Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies. Please make sure the person you are talking to is actually DCS or DONT LET THEM IN YOUR HOME ANYMORE.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgqedm
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I don't know any DCS or CPS agency that would detain at birth without a positive urine or meconium test. Detention is expensive as is the whole process for reunification or adoption. Continue to cooperate and you will be fine. No agency wants to waste time investigating a bunk referral so once you're cleared, you'll be fine.
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As a side note - your husband should look into whether his conviction can be expunged.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgqedm
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I used to bartend in a small town when I was in college. I moved there after college for a while and I absolutely loved most of the people there. I can tell you though, I did notice that amongst a certain set of folks, calling child protective services on one another as some form of revenge, was a fairly common occurrence. Based on what I saw from that, it took an awful lot for a child to be removed. In some cases, I thought the child should be removed because I knew what his/her parents were into, but it never happened. My suspicion here is that, like in any case where they receive a call, the case worker has to do a complete investigation. Due to the history with your husband, it wasn't as simple as a one time drug screen and a home inspection so they are going to finalize your case by testing the baby. Honestly, that just makes sense. I would assume once that comes back negative, you won't hear from them again. As someone else said, child services is overwhelmed as it is so chasing people around with no real evidence is not on their list. They do have a mandate to do due diligence, but I think after they test your newborn, they will have fulfilled that. Things can always go sideways and you can always get some crazy worker or nurse or whoever so if it were me, I would speak to a lawyer just in case though. As much as I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am always for protecting your rights and talking to a lawyer about what those rights are ahead of time is always a good idea.
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As a side note - your husband should look into whether his conviction can be expunged.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgqedm
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They have to be very open about the possibility because some people feel that one passed test is good enough, then it's time to party! Remember, this is an agency charged with protecting kids from people who put drugs before their kids.
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As a side note - your husband should look into whether his conviction can be expunged.
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5smsoi
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| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgif3i
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ddgqedm
| 1,486,501,039 | 1,486,510,355 | 45 | 648 |
What the hell Carmel? Do you know who 'reported' you or why?
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As a side note - your husband should look into whether his conviction can be expunged.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgl78c
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ddgqedm
| 1,486,504,144 | 1,486,510,355 | 45 | 648 |
This is a rough one. Is there a possibility this case worker is connected to the person who reported your SO's past? Why would the case worker be so cryptic and standoffish. They are there to help, not act like the NSA.
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As a side note - your husband should look into whether his conviction can be expunged.
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5smsoi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddhunf9
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ddgci4i
| 1,486,577,388 | 1,486,494,514 | 545 | 211 |
Since people who should know are saying that DCS doesn't deal with pregnancies, I suggest you call your local office (317 773-2183, 8:00-4:30) and ask for a supervisor. See if there is actually a real agent assigned to investigate you. I suspect that your stepmother may know this agent, or have a friend posing as an agent. If that's the case, you need a supervisor to put a stop to it. I really hope I'm wrong, and this is just a misunderstanding by a new agent who was poorly trained.
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I don't know any DCS or CPS agency that would detain at birth without a positive urine or meconium test. Detention is expensive as is the whole process for reunification or adoption. Continue to cooperate and you will be fine. No agency wants to waste time investigating a bunk referral so once you're cleared, you'll be fine.
| 1 | 82,874 | 2.582938 |
5smsoi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddhunf9
| 1,486,501,628 | 1,486,577,388 | 88 | 545 |
I used to bartend in a small town when I was in college. I moved there after college for a while and I absolutely loved most of the people there. I can tell you though, I did notice that amongst a certain set of folks, calling child protective services on one another as some form of revenge, was a fairly common occurrence. Based on what I saw from that, it took an awful lot for a child to be removed. In some cases, I thought the child should be removed because I knew what his/her parents were into, but it never happened. My suspicion here is that, like in any case where they receive a call, the case worker has to do a complete investigation. Due to the history with your husband, it wasn't as simple as a one time drug screen and a home inspection so they are going to finalize your case by testing the baby. Honestly, that just makes sense. I would assume once that comes back negative, you won't hear from them again. As someone else said, child services is overwhelmed as it is so chasing people around with no real evidence is not on their list. They do have a mandate to do due diligence, but I think after they test your newborn, they will have fulfilled that. Things can always go sideways and you can always get some crazy worker or nurse or whoever so if it were me, I would speak to a lawyer just in case though. As much as I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am always for protecting your rights and talking to a lawyer about what those rights are ahead of time is always a good idea.
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Since people who should know are saying that DCS doesn't deal with pregnancies, I suggest you call your local office (317 773-2183, 8:00-4:30) and ask for a supervisor. See if there is actually a real agent assigned to investigate you. I suspect that your stepmother may know this agent, or have a friend posing as an agent. If that's the case, you need a supervisor to put a stop to it. I really hope I'm wrong, and this is just a misunderstanding by a new agent who was poorly trained.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddhunf9
| 1,486,518,748 | 1,486,577,388 | 61 | 545 |
Your report will be screen out because Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies because there is no child. However, it is hospital practice to test you and the baby for drugs and if any drugs show up, the hospital will notify DCS. If you're not using drugs, no worries. If you are only using marijuana, don't even stress and don't let them talk you into an IA. If you are using harder drugs, be prepared an shave an attorney and do not talk to DCS without a court order and get clean ASAP for you and the baby. You do not have to talk to DCS. You don't have to let them in your home. Make them get a court order.
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Since people who should know are saying that DCS doesn't deal with pregnancies, I suggest you call your local office (317 773-2183, 8:00-4:30) and ask for a supervisor. See if there is actually a real agent assigned to investigate you. I suspect that your stepmother may know this agent, or have a friend posing as an agent. If that's the case, you need a supervisor to put a stop to it. I really hope I'm wrong, and this is just a misunderstanding by a new agent who was poorly trained.
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5smsoi
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| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddhunf9
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ddgh2n0
| 1,486,577,388 | 1,486,499,558 | 545 | 58 |
Since people who should know are saying that DCS doesn't deal with pregnancies, I suggest you call your local office (317 773-2183, 8:00-4:30) and ask for a supervisor. See if there is actually a real agent assigned to investigate you. I suspect that your stepmother may know this agent, or have a friend posing as an agent. If that's the case, you need a supervisor to put a stop to it. I really hope I'm wrong, and this is just a misunderstanding by a new agent who was poorly trained.
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They have to be very open about the possibility because some people feel that one passed test is good enough, then it's time to party! Remember, this is an agency charged with protecting kids from people who put drugs before their kids.
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5smsoi
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legaladvice_train
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddhunf9
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ddgif3i
| 1,486,577,388 | 1,486,501,039 | 545 | 45 |
Since people who should know are saying that DCS doesn't deal with pregnancies, I suggest you call your local office (317 773-2183, 8:00-4:30) and ask for a supervisor. See if there is actually a real agent assigned to investigate you. I suspect that your stepmother may know this agent, or have a friend posing as an agent. If that's the case, you need a supervisor to put a stop to it. I really hope I'm wrong, and this is just a misunderstanding by a new agent who was poorly trained.
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What the hell Carmel? Do you know who 'reported' you or why?
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgl78c
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ddhunf9
| 1,486,504,144 | 1,486,577,388 | 45 | 545 |
This is a rough one. Is there a possibility this case worker is connected to the person who reported your SO's past? Why would the case worker be so cryptic and standoffish. They are there to help, not act like the NSA.
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Since people who should know are saying that DCS doesn't deal with pregnancies, I suggest you call your local office (317 773-2183, 8:00-4:30) and ask for a supervisor. See if there is actually a real agent assigned to investigate you. I suspect that your stepmother may know this agent, or have a friend posing as an agent. If that's the case, you need a supervisor to put a stop to it. I really hope I'm wrong, and this is just a misunderstanding by a new agent who was poorly trained.
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5smsoi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.99 |
[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddi1p26
| 1,486,494,514 | 1,486,585,076 | 211 | 369 |
I don't know any DCS or CPS agency that would detain at birth without a positive urine or meconium test. Detention is expensive as is the whole process for reunification or adoption. Continue to cooperate and you will be fine. No agency wants to waste time investigating a bunk referral so once you're cleared, you'll be fine.
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I'm concerned as well. A friend was involved in a DCS case here in Indiana and I was told by several caseworkers that his ex's possible drug use while pregnant could not cause them to take the child. That they needed proof and it wasn't considered abuse until after the child was born. I've also always been told that they automatically do a drug screen on the mother at the time of birth. My thoughts immediately go to a story I heard here in Indiana a few years ago about women pretending to be with DCS and the person finding out later that they weren't with DCS at all.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgixy0
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I'm concerned as well. A friend was involved in a DCS case here in Indiana and I was told by several caseworkers that his ex's possible drug use while pregnant could not cause them to take the child. That they needed proof and it wasn't considered abuse until after the child was born. I've also always been told that they automatically do a drug screen on the mother at the time of birth. My thoughts immediately go to a story I heard here in Indiana a few years ago about women pretending to be with DCS and the person finding out later that they weren't with DCS at all.
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I used to bartend in a small town when I was in college. I moved there after college for a while and I absolutely loved most of the people there. I can tell you though, I did notice that amongst a certain set of folks, calling child protective services on one another as some form of revenge, was a fairly common occurrence. Based on what I saw from that, it took an awful lot for a child to be removed. In some cases, I thought the child should be removed because I knew what his/her parents were into, but it never happened. My suspicion here is that, like in any case where they receive a call, the case worker has to do a complete investigation. Due to the history with your husband, it wasn't as simple as a one time drug screen and a home inspection so they are going to finalize your case by testing the baby. Honestly, that just makes sense. I would assume once that comes back negative, you won't hear from them again. As someone else said, child services is overwhelmed as it is so chasing people around with no real evidence is not on their list. They do have a mandate to do due diligence, but I think after they test your newborn, they will have fulfilled that. Things can always go sideways and you can always get some crazy worker or nurse or whoever so if it were me, I would speak to a lawyer just in case though. As much as I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am always for protecting your rights and talking to a lawyer about what those rights are ahead of time is always a good idea.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgwt6e
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I'm concerned as well. A friend was involved in a DCS case here in Indiana and I was told by several caseworkers that his ex's possible drug use while pregnant could not cause them to take the child. That they needed proof and it wasn't considered abuse until after the child was born. I've also always been told that they automatically do a drug screen on the mother at the time of birth. My thoughts immediately go to a story I heard here in Indiana a few years ago about women pretending to be with DCS and the person finding out later that they weren't with DCS at all.
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Your report will be screen out because Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies because there is no child. However, it is hospital practice to test you and the baby for drugs and if any drugs show up, the hospital will notify DCS. If you're not using drugs, no worries. If you are only using marijuana, don't even stress and don't let them talk you into an IA. If you are using harder drugs, be prepared an shave an attorney and do not talk to DCS without a court order and get clean ASAP for you and the baby. You do not have to talk to DCS. You don't have to let them in your home. Make them get a court order.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddi1p26
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They have to be very open about the possibility because some people feel that one passed test is good enough, then it's time to party! Remember, this is an agency charged with protecting kids from people who put drugs before their kids.
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I'm concerned as well. A friend was involved in a DCS case here in Indiana and I was told by several caseworkers that his ex's possible drug use while pregnant could not cause them to take the child. That they needed proof and it wasn't considered abuse until after the child was born. I've also always been told that they automatically do a drug screen on the mother at the time of birth. My thoughts immediately go to a story I heard here in Indiana a few years ago about women pretending to be with DCS and the person finding out later that they weren't with DCS at all.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddi1p26
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What the hell Carmel? Do you know who 'reported' you or why?
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I'm concerned as well. A friend was involved in a DCS case here in Indiana and I was told by several caseworkers that his ex's possible drug use while pregnant could not cause them to take the child. That they needed proof and it wasn't considered abuse until after the child was born. I've also always been told that they automatically do a drug screen on the mother at the time of birth. My thoughts immediately go to a story I heard here in Indiana a few years ago about women pretending to be with DCS and the person finding out later that they weren't with DCS at all.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgl78c
| 1,486,585,076 | 1,486,504,144 | 369 | 45 |
I'm concerned as well. A friend was involved in a DCS case here in Indiana and I was told by several caseworkers that his ex's possible drug use while pregnant could not cause them to take the child. That they needed proof and it wasn't considered abuse until after the child was born. I've also always been told that they automatically do a drug screen on the mother at the time of birth. My thoughts immediately go to a story I heard here in Indiana a few years ago about women pretending to be with DCS and the person finding out later that they weren't with DCS at all.
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This is a rough one. Is there a possibility this case worker is connected to the person who reported your SO's past? Why would the case worker be so cryptic and standoffish. They are there to help, not act like the NSA.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgh2n0
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I used to bartend in a small town when I was in college. I moved there after college for a while and I absolutely loved most of the people there. I can tell you though, I did notice that amongst a certain set of folks, calling child protective services on one another as some form of revenge, was a fairly common occurrence. Based on what I saw from that, it took an awful lot for a child to be removed. In some cases, I thought the child should be removed because I knew what his/her parents were into, but it never happened. My suspicion here is that, like in any case where they receive a call, the case worker has to do a complete investigation. Due to the history with your husband, it wasn't as simple as a one time drug screen and a home inspection so they are going to finalize your case by testing the baby. Honestly, that just makes sense. I would assume once that comes back negative, you won't hear from them again. As someone else said, child services is overwhelmed as it is so chasing people around with no real evidence is not on their list. They do have a mandate to do due diligence, but I think after they test your newborn, they will have fulfilled that. Things can always go sideways and you can always get some crazy worker or nurse or whoever so if it were me, I would speak to a lawyer just in case though. As much as I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am always for protecting your rights and talking to a lawyer about what those rights are ahead of time is always a good idea.
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They have to be very open about the possibility because some people feel that one passed test is good enough, then it's time to party! Remember, this is an agency charged with protecting kids from people who put drugs before their kids.
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5smsoi
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgif3i
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ddgixy0
| 1,486,501,039 | 1,486,501,628 | 45 | 88 |
What the hell Carmel? Do you know who 'reported' you or why?
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I used to bartend in a small town when I was in college. I moved there after college for a while and I absolutely loved most of the people there. I can tell you though, I did notice that amongst a certain set of folks, calling child protective services on one another as some form of revenge, was a fairly common occurrence. Based on what I saw from that, it took an awful lot for a child to be removed. In some cases, I thought the child should be removed because I knew what his/her parents were into, but it never happened. My suspicion here is that, like in any case where they receive a call, the case worker has to do a complete investigation. Due to the history with your husband, it wasn't as simple as a one time drug screen and a home inspection so they are going to finalize your case by testing the baby. Honestly, that just makes sense. I would assume once that comes back negative, you won't hear from them again. As someone else said, child services is overwhelmed as it is so chasing people around with no real evidence is not on their list. They do have a mandate to do due diligence, but I think after they test your newborn, they will have fulfilled that. Things can always go sideways and you can always get some crazy worker or nurse or whoever so if it were me, I would speak to a lawyer just in case though. As much as I don't think you have anything to worry about, I am always for protecting your rights and talking to a lawyer about what those rights are ahead of time is always a good idea.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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ddgwt6e
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They have to be very open about the possibility because some people feel that one passed test is good enough, then it's time to party! Remember, this is an agency charged with protecting kids from people who put drugs before their kids.
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Your report will be screen out because Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies because there is no child. However, it is hospital practice to test you and the baby for drugs and if any drugs show up, the hospital will notify DCS. If you're not using drugs, no worries. If you are only using marijuana, don't even stress and don't let them talk you into an IA. If you are using harder drugs, be prepared an shave an attorney and do not talk to DCS without a court order and get clean ASAP for you and the baby. You do not have to talk to DCS. You don't have to let them in your home. Make them get a court order.
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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Your report will be screen out because Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies because there is no child. However, it is hospital practice to test you and the baby for drugs and if any drugs show up, the hospital will notify DCS. If you're not using drugs, no worries. If you are only using marijuana, don't even stress and don't let them talk you into an IA. If you are using harder drugs, be prepared an shave an attorney and do not talk to DCS without a court order and get clean ASAP for you and the baby. You do not have to talk to DCS. You don't have to let them in your home. Make them get a court order.
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What the hell Carmel? Do you know who 'reported' you or why?
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[Indiana] I'm pregnant and being investigated by DCS. [Hamilton County, Indiana] Hello, I'm twenty-nine years old, happily married, my husband and I are college-educated, have respectable, stable jobs, own a home in a nice neighborhood...we're basically as prepared as anyone can be to start a family. I'm almost nine months pregnant with our first child. The problem is that eleven years ago, when my husband was a freshman in college, he was arrested for possession of marijuana. It was a large enough amount that he was charged with a Class D felony (our jurisdiction is *very* harsh regarding marijuana), but not intent to deal. He plead guilty and did his time and probation without a problem, passing every drug test along the way. He has not touched marijuana (or any other illegal substance) since, and we rarely even drink (and haven't at all in over a year). I have no criminal record, and have never done drugs myself. It was a stupid mistake he made as a foolish eighteen-year-old, and he's worked hard to put it behind him. Someone has apparently contacted Child Services in our area and informed them that we are drug users. This accusation is being taken very seriously because of my husband's record. We have been as cooperative as could be with our caseworker. We've been interviewed, our home has been examined, and she found nothing remotely suspicious or incriminating. We have both taken drug tests and passed. Our caseworker says that everything looks just fine so far. Unfortunately, she also says that there's still the possibility that our child could be taken from us in the labor and delivery ward, and that we won't be allowed to take her home. I was devastated and horrified to hear that. When I asked why, she said it was "not up to [her]," and "we'll have to wait and see," which made absolutely no sense to me. What gives? I feel like there's something she isn't telling me, but I have no experience with DCS and I'm not aware of anything we could have possibly done wrong. I know they'll have to test my daughter for drugs once she's born, but she has not been exposed to drugs (nothing more than prenatal vitamins--not even tylenol!), and I already proved that by passing a drug test. I'm scared and confused. Do I need a lawyer? I had anticipated spending our savings on our new daughter/parental leave, but I will use that money for a lawyer if I have to. Thanks for reading, and thanks in advance for your help. TL;DR: I'm pregnant. DCS received a tip that my husband and I are actively using drugs. We are not, but my husband was arrested for marijuana possession long ago. What do we do? Is his preexisting drug conviction enough to warrant removing our newborn from us?
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This is a rough one. Is there a possibility this case worker is connected to the person who reported your SO's past? Why would the case worker be so cryptic and standoffish. They are there to help, not act like the NSA.
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Your report will be screen out because Indiana DCS does not get involved with pregnancies because there is no child. However, it is hospital practice to test you and the baby for drugs and if any drugs show up, the hospital will notify DCS. If you're not using drugs, no worries. If you are only using marijuana, don't even stress and don't let them talk you into an IA. If you are using harder drugs, be prepared an shave an attorney and do not talk to DCS without a court order and get clean ASAP for you and the baby. You do not have to talk to DCS. You don't have to let them in your home. Make them get a court order.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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Just to put this fear to rest in case she is worried about it: There is nothing unlawful about being pregnant outside of marriage in the US. She has not committed any crimes on that front. The other advice about HR and documentation is good advice for the rest of the questions. Edit to add: North Carolina does have a fornication statute, but it is very rarely enforced.
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For the sake of her relationships at work, she may want to go to her manager first (or her manager and HR at the same time if she wants). She should also be keeping documentation of every step she takes: copies of emails, writing things down, etc. A lawyer can't directly help her now, except to advise her as she navigates internal processes. If she has a competent HR, she probably won't need one at all. If, however, HR/management doesn't fix the issue by removing him from any supervisory role over her and ensuring he doesn't say things like that to her again, a lawyer would be helpful to force them to do so. Same if she experiences retaliation. It might be worthwhile to talk to a lawyer for an hour or two just to go over her own rights and when she should involve a lawyer more deeply. She can call local employment lawyers for a consultation.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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Just to put this fear to rest in case she is worried about it: There is nothing unlawful about being pregnant outside of marriage in the US. She has not committed any crimes on that front. The other advice about HR and documentation is good advice for the rest of the questions. Edit to add: North Carolina does have a fornication statute, but it is very rarely enforced.
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This is not legal advice, but advice for determining if you should go to HR. HR exists to minimize risk to the company not to protect employees, so before talking to them you should always consider what course of action will likely be best for the company. In this case, your wife’s coworker is protected by the pregnancy discrimination act, and her team lead is clearly more of a threat to the hospital. Before she talks to HR she should write out a statement of exactly what happened, including dates and approximate times if she can remember them. HR’s first step is going to be trying to figure out exactly what happened, and if she has something prepared it’ll be easier for her to tell a clear story. Throughout the whole process she should document everything. What days and times she talks to HR, what was said, any actions they take. I’d also keep a record of interactions with the team lead, but that might be excessive. If her HR department is at all competent this is a pretty clear case of her team lead harassing her.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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Just to put this fear to rest in case she is worried about it: There is nothing unlawful about being pregnant outside of marriage in the US. She has not committed any crimes on that front. The other advice about HR and documentation is good advice for the rest of the questions. Edit to add: North Carolina does have a fornication statute, but it is very rarely enforced.
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You don't need a lawyer to file an EEO complaint, HR will have all the relevant documents. I've seen successful EEO suits for entirely stupid issues, hers is a slamdunk
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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Just to put this fear to rest in case she is worried about it: There is nothing unlawful about being pregnant outside of marriage in the US. She has not committed any crimes on that front. The other advice about HR and documentation is good advice for the rest of the questions. Edit to add: North Carolina does have a fornication statute, but it is very rarely enforced.
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INAL. She needs to report the interaction to her manager and HR. This dude just opened the door to a discrimination suit. She should email her manager and HR, keeping a secondary copy of all email interactions to herself at a personal email address. She may need a labor attorney in the future, but let’s assume management will do the right thing to cover their butts and protect the company and deal with the creepy misogynist.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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Every time I look into this sub my mind explodes with how bad all the advice here is. Ok. She is protected from pregnancy discrimination under federal law. She MAY be protected from discrimination due to her marital status depending on the municipality where the employer is located is — in NC, some of the larger cities have this protection. She needs to memorialize this conversation with the team lead in an email. She should email him and say “Hi, just recapping the conversation we had earlier this week. You said you believed it was unlawful for me to be pregnant out if wedlock and therefore you no longer feel I can competently perform my job functions. Best, name” — it’s a weird email to send but you must memorialize verbal conversations. Then reach out to to his supervisor and HR and report it. If you do this verbally then it also needs to be memorialized in writing after in the same way. You need to do this not with a very straightforward attitude of “something unlawful occurred and I am performing my duty by coming to you and reporting it.” All this needs to be in writing so that if the company DOES retaliate, discriminate, or act unlawfully, a lawyer has a paper trail of evidence to use against them later for a lawsuit.
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You don't need a lawyer to file an EEO complaint, HR will have all the relevant documents. I've seen successful EEO suits for entirely stupid issues, hers is a slamdunk
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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All the "go to HR" comments are probably correct for the next step. Most probably know, but to emphasize, HR REPRESENTS THE EMPLOYER, NOT THE EMPLOYEE. Many HR employees want to do the right thing and help a person out; however, their #1 objective is to protect their employer from investigation, prosecution or litigation. Document all communication with them, and try to get it in writing or email for future reference.
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Every time I look into this sub my mind explodes with how bad all the advice here is. Ok. She is protected from pregnancy discrimination under federal law. She MAY be protected from discrimination due to her marital status depending on the municipality where the employer is located is — in NC, some of the larger cities have this protection. She needs to memorialize this conversation with the team lead in an email. She should email him and say “Hi, just recapping the conversation we had earlier this week. You said you believed it was unlawful for me to be pregnant out if wedlock and therefore you no longer feel I can competently perform my job functions. Best, name” — it’s a weird email to send but you must memorialize verbal conversations. Then reach out to to his supervisor and HR and report it. If you do this verbally then it also needs to be memorialized in writing after in the same way. You need to do this not with a very straightforward attitude of “something unlawful occurred and I am performing my duty by coming to you and reporting it.” All this needs to be in writing so that if the company DOES retaliate, discriminate, or act unlawfully, a lawyer has a paper trail of evidence to use against them later for a lawsuit.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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If there is a chance she will quit on her own then she might as well go to HR first and see what happens.
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Every time I look into this sub my mind explodes with how bad all the advice here is. Ok. She is protected from pregnancy discrimination under federal law. She MAY be protected from discrimination due to her marital status depending on the municipality where the employer is located is — in NC, some of the larger cities have this protection. She needs to memorialize this conversation with the team lead in an email. She should email him and say “Hi, just recapping the conversation we had earlier this week. You said you believed it was unlawful for me to be pregnant out if wedlock and therefore you no longer feel I can competently perform my job functions. Best, name” — it’s a weird email to send but you must memorialize verbal conversations. Then reach out to to his supervisor and HR and report it. If you do this verbally then it also needs to be memorialized in writing after in the same way. You need to do this not with a very straightforward attitude of “something unlawful occurred and I am performing my duty by coming to you and reporting it.” All this needs to be in writing so that if the company DOES retaliate, discriminate, or act unlawfully, a lawyer has a paper trail of evidence to use against them later for a lawsuit.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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INAL. She needs to report the interaction to her manager and HR. This dude just opened the door to a discrimination suit. She should email her manager and HR, keeping a secondary copy of all email interactions to herself at a personal email address. She may need a labor attorney in the future, but let’s assume management will do the right thing to cover their butts and protect the company and deal with the creepy misogynist.
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Every time I look into this sub my mind explodes with how bad all the advice here is. Ok. She is protected from pregnancy discrimination under federal law. She MAY be protected from discrimination due to her marital status depending on the municipality where the employer is located is — in NC, some of the larger cities have this protection. She needs to memorialize this conversation with the team lead in an email. She should email him and say “Hi, just recapping the conversation we had earlier this week. You said you believed it was unlawful for me to be pregnant out if wedlock and therefore you no longer feel I can competently perform my job functions. Best, name” — it’s a weird email to send but you must memorialize verbal conversations. Then reach out to to his supervisor and HR and report it. If you do this verbally then it also needs to be memorialized in writing after in the same way. You need to do this not with a very straightforward attitude of “something unlawful occurred and I am performing my duty by coming to you and reporting it.” All this needs to be in writing so that if the company DOES retaliate, discriminate, or act unlawfully, a lawyer has a paper trail of evidence to use against them later for a lawsuit.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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All the "go to HR" comments are probably correct for the next step. Most probably know, but to emphasize, HR REPRESENTS THE EMPLOYER, NOT THE EMPLOYEE. Many HR employees want to do the right thing and help a person out; however, their #1 objective is to protect their employer from investigation, prosecution or litigation. Document all communication with them, and try to get it in writing or email for future reference.
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INAL. She needs to report the interaction to her manager and HR. This dude just opened the door to a discrimination suit. She should email her manager and HR, keeping a secondary copy of all email interactions to herself at a personal email address. She may need a labor attorney in the future, but let’s assume management will do the right thing to cover their butts and protect the company and deal with the creepy misogynist.
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Acquaintance was told by team-lead she is breaking the law and he’s lost confidence in her ability to do her job for being single and pregnant. Obligatory NC, USA. Hopefully the title is clear. A coworker of my wife’s is in her mid-late 20s and recently announced she’s pregnant. Yesterday her team leader (?m) approached her in private to tell her that she’s breaking the law for being pregnant out of wedlock. He followed that up by saying that he no longer feels that she can competently do her job. Area of work is healthcare/hospital. It’s obvious that this guy is projecting some dated opinions on the matter but the girl in question is only a few years out of school and pretty scared of the situation. My wife told her to skip her (and his) direct manager and go straight to HR. I agree, but part of me feels like this is also into lawyer territory. This guy doesn’t have the ability to fire her directly but he does have a lot of influence on her day to day life at work. My wife is worried that after 2 years of working in Covid ICU with this girl, she’s going to quit over this one guy. I’m wondering if I’m overreacting and they should let the hospital HR handle this.
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If there is a chance she will quit on her own then she might as well go to HR first and see what happens.
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INAL. She needs to report the interaction to her manager and HR. This dude just opened the door to a discrimination suit. She should email her manager and HR, keeping a secondary copy of all email interactions to herself at a personal email address. She may need a labor attorney in the future, but let’s assume management will do the right thing to cover their butts and protect the company and deal with the creepy misogynist.
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Rear-ended in a rental by a 16 year old driving with no license, and I'm being made to pay for it. Last year on Christmas Eve, I got rear ended in a Turo rental car by a 16 year old who was driving his parents car with no license. I called the police but they only filled out an information exchange form and I am not aware of any police report or any action taken against the 16 year old driver. Ever since then it's been an absolute nightmare dealing with FOUR separate insurance companies- mine, the guy who owned the rental, Turo's insurance, and the 16yo's parents insurance. They have all gone back and forth claiming they are not responsible for any payment, making this drag out over the year. My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. Do I have any legal recourse here? I absolutely do not want to have to pay for an accident that was not my fault, but if I were to hire a lawyer it would probably cost me more than I would end up having to pay my insurance anyways. Any advice is welcome.
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| 1,670,216,029 | 1,670,217,522 | 141 | 476 |
Your legal recourse is to go through your insurance. What is the problem there?
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You can also sue the parents for the entire cost of the damage. If the damage is just the bumper than it’s likely to be well under the small claims maximum allowed.
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zcxan8
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legaladvice_train
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Rear-ended in a rental by a 16 year old driving with no license, and I'm being made to pay for it. Last year on Christmas Eve, I got rear ended in a Turo rental car by a 16 year old who was driving his parents car with no license. I called the police but they only filled out an information exchange form and I am not aware of any police report or any action taken against the 16 year old driver. Ever since then it's been an absolute nightmare dealing with FOUR separate insurance companies- mine, the guy who owned the rental, Turo's insurance, and the 16yo's parents insurance. They have all gone back and forth claiming they are not responsible for any payment, making this drag out over the year. My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. Do I have any legal recourse here? I absolutely do not want to have to pay for an accident that was not my fault, but if I were to hire a lawyer it would probably cost me more than I would end up having to pay my insurance anyways. Any advice is welcome.
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iyyujz2
| 1,670,264,307 | 1,670,216,029 | 143 | 141 |
>My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. This is the correct course of action to take in your situation. You were driving the rental car when it got damaged so you are responsible for fixing it. But the cause of the damage was another driver's actions, they are ultimately responsible to make you whole. If this was a regular insured driver, their insurance would just pay the rental agency/car owner directly. But your situation is a little messed up. It is made more complicated since Turo isn't a regular rental car, and likely your insurance doesn't have to pay out plus it puts an extra layer of complication into the mix. And then it is made way more complicated since it was an unlicensed uninsured underage person who hit you. The process you described that your insurance offered is called subrogation. Basically they pay out under your collision coverage and treat it like you were at fault. Then they sue the at fault person and try to collect. If they are successful, they stop treating it as an at fault accident, which removes any impact on your rates and gets your deductible refunded. Your only alternative really is to pay out of pocket for the full damage and then sue the kid's parents yourself which is going to be way harder for you to do than for your insurance to do.
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Your legal recourse is to go through your insurance. What is the problem there?
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zcxan8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
Rear-ended in a rental by a 16 year old driving with no license, and I'm being made to pay for it. Last year on Christmas Eve, I got rear ended in a Turo rental car by a 16 year old who was driving his parents car with no license. I called the police but they only filled out an information exchange form and I am not aware of any police report or any action taken against the 16 year old driver. Ever since then it's been an absolute nightmare dealing with FOUR separate insurance companies- mine, the guy who owned the rental, Turo's insurance, and the 16yo's parents insurance. They have all gone back and forth claiming they are not responsible for any payment, making this drag out over the year. My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. Do I have any legal recourse here? I absolutely do not want to have to pay for an accident that was not my fault, but if I were to hire a lawyer it would probably cost me more than I would end up having to pay my insurance anyways. Any advice is welcome.
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iyzg5s7
| 1,670,264,307 | 1,670,232,700 | 143 | 7 |
>My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. This is the correct course of action to take in your situation. You were driving the rental car when it got damaged so you are responsible for fixing it. But the cause of the damage was another driver's actions, they are ultimately responsible to make you whole. If this was a regular insured driver, their insurance would just pay the rental agency/car owner directly. But your situation is a little messed up. It is made more complicated since Turo isn't a regular rental car, and likely your insurance doesn't have to pay out plus it puts an extra layer of complication into the mix. And then it is made way more complicated since it was an unlicensed uninsured underage person who hit you. The process you described that your insurance offered is called subrogation. Basically they pay out under your collision coverage and treat it like you were at fault. Then they sue the at fault person and try to collect. If they are successful, they stop treating it as an at fault accident, which removes any impact on your rates and gets your deductible refunded. Your only alternative really is to pay out of pocket for the full damage and then sue the kid's parents yourself which is going to be way harder for you to do than for your insurance to do.
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You need a police report! Contact the police department of the officer arriving at the accident. Ask for a police report. It’s hard to believe that a police officer arriving on an accident haven’t made a police report, if he haven’t- ask to speak to a sergeant and inform them you need a police report. Submit it to your insurance company.
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zcxan8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
Rear-ended in a rental by a 16 year old driving with no license, and I'm being made to pay for it. Last year on Christmas Eve, I got rear ended in a Turo rental car by a 16 year old who was driving his parents car with no license. I called the police but they only filled out an information exchange form and I am not aware of any police report or any action taken against the 16 year old driver. Ever since then it's been an absolute nightmare dealing with FOUR separate insurance companies- mine, the guy who owned the rental, Turo's insurance, and the 16yo's parents insurance. They have all gone back and forth claiming they are not responsible for any payment, making this drag out over the year. My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. Do I have any legal recourse here? I absolutely do not want to have to pay for an accident that was not my fault, but if I were to hire a lawyer it would probably cost me more than I would end up having to pay my insurance anyways. Any advice is welcome.
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iz0nzur
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iz13jtj
| 1,670,258,307 | 1,670,264,307 | 6 | 143 |
This sounds like a such a hassle. Sorry you have to go through it. Unfortunately, this is kind of the deal with insurance. It’s a total cluster. Check with your credit card company (the one you paid for the rental with) what their coverage for car rental is. They may cover this.
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>My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. This is the correct course of action to take in your situation. You were driving the rental car when it got damaged so you are responsible for fixing it. But the cause of the damage was another driver's actions, they are ultimately responsible to make you whole. If this was a regular insured driver, their insurance would just pay the rental agency/car owner directly. But your situation is a little messed up. It is made more complicated since Turo isn't a regular rental car, and likely your insurance doesn't have to pay out plus it puts an extra layer of complication into the mix. And then it is made way more complicated since it was an unlicensed uninsured underage person who hit you. The process you described that your insurance offered is called subrogation. Basically they pay out under your collision coverage and treat it like you were at fault. Then they sue the at fault person and try to collect. If they are successful, they stop treating it as an at fault accident, which removes any impact on your rates and gets your deductible refunded. Your only alternative really is to pay out of pocket for the full damage and then sue the kid's parents yourself which is going to be way harder for you to do than for your insurance to do.
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zcxan8
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legaladvice_train
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Rear-ended in a rental by a 16 year old driving with no license, and I'm being made to pay for it. Last year on Christmas Eve, I got rear ended in a Turo rental car by a 16 year old who was driving his parents car with no license. I called the police but they only filled out an information exchange form and I am not aware of any police report or any action taken against the 16 year old driver. Ever since then it's been an absolute nightmare dealing with FOUR separate insurance companies- mine, the guy who owned the rental, Turo's insurance, and the 16yo's parents insurance. They have all gone back and forth claiming they are not responsible for any payment, making this drag out over the year. My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. Do I have any legal recourse here? I absolutely do not want to have to pay for an accident that was not my fault, but if I were to hire a lawyer it would probably cost me more than I would end up having to pay my insurance anyways. Any advice is welcome.
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iz13jtj
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iz0l0zf
| 1,670,264,307 | 1,670,257,111 | 143 | 2 |
>My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. This is the correct course of action to take in your situation. You were driving the rental car when it got damaged so you are responsible for fixing it. But the cause of the damage was another driver's actions, they are ultimately responsible to make you whole. If this was a regular insured driver, their insurance would just pay the rental agency/car owner directly. But your situation is a little messed up. It is made more complicated since Turo isn't a regular rental car, and likely your insurance doesn't have to pay out plus it puts an extra layer of complication into the mix. And then it is made way more complicated since it was an unlicensed uninsured underage person who hit you. The process you described that your insurance offered is called subrogation. Basically they pay out under your collision coverage and treat it like you were at fault. Then they sue the at fault person and try to collect. If they are successful, they stop treating it as an at fault accident, which removes any impact on your rates and gets your deductible refunded. Your only alternative really is to pay out of pocket for the full damage and then sue the kid's parents yourself which is going to be way harder for you to do than for your insurance to do.
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Not a lawyer but his parents as the owner of the car should be liable. The police should have arrested the kid for driving without a license.
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zcxan8
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legaladvice_train
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Rear-ended in a rental by a 16 year old driving with no license, and I'm being made to pay for it. Last year on Christmas Eve, I got rear ended in a Turo rental car by a 16 year old who was driving his parents car with no license. I called the police but they only filled out an information exchange form and I am not aware of any police report or any action taken against the 16 year old driver. Ever since then it's been an absolute nightmare dealing with FOUR separate insurance companies- mine, the guy who owned the rental, Turo's insurance, and the 16yo's parents insurance. They have all gone back and forth claiming they are not responsible for any payment, making this drag out over the year. My insurance finally told me that they would pay out to the owner of the car to cover a crack in his bumper, but I would first have to pay my $250 deductible. I was also told this could possibly make my insurance go up. After this is done they said they would file paperwork to force the 16yo's insurance to pay them back. Do I have any legal recourse here? I absolutely do not want to have to pay for an accident that was not my fault, but if I were to hire a lawyer it would probably cost me more than I would end up having to pay my insurance anyways. Any advice is welcome.
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iz0l0zf
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iz0nzur
| 1,670,257,111 | 1,670,258,307 | 2 | 6 |
Not a lawyer but his parents as the owner of the car should be liable. The police should have arrested the kid for driving without a license.
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This sounds like a such a hassle. Sorry you have to go through it. Unfortunately, this is kind of the deal with insurance. It’s a total cluster. Check with your credit card company (the one you paid for the rental with) what their coverage for car rental is. They may cover this.
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5vhtnr
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I'm pregnant and think I am being targeted by management for termination (Phoenix, AZ) Hello all, I have hardly reached the middle point in my pregnancy and was diagnosed with a medical condition called "hyperemesis graviduram" early on. Essentially, I am nauseous/dizzy and throwing up 3-8 times per day. This has begun to cause issues in my workplace due to the nature of my job. My position requires me to basically be isolated, though this was not noted in my job description. I drive out to locations all over the state of Arizona in order to perform duties, and working night shift as well as weekend nights, there is oftentimes no one around. I work with biohazardous material and human tissue, but I will leave it at that as I don't want to reveal too much information for fear of being recognized. An incident happened a few nights ago where I was completely isolated and suffering from one of my spells. I repeatedly told management via phone (I woke them up) how sick I was feeling and that I had thrown up, etc and was really struggling by myself at this location. Another supervisor attempted to make it an issue of being alone and I had to correct her and state that it wasn't that I was alone, it was that I was isolated and feeling as sick as I was. I ended up remaining at that location another 4 hours until another department member was able to drive out to my location in order to assist (I waited ~1.5hrs for them to get there). I immediately requested a meeting with my direct supervisor the day I returned from the location. I explained how I was feeling very unsupported, unsafe, and concerned about my health and stated that I was considering giving 2 weeks' notice even though I loved the company and didn't want to leave. I offered to move to days as a suggestion (more people around, etc.), but she declined to comment and stated that because it concerns my and my baby's health, I would need to get a doctor's note with my limitations...with no sort of direction in what exactly I should be having the doctor write. Then we would discuss what to do after I had obtained this note. She mentioned in the meeting that they didn't want to lose me and that I am a great worker, and that they would accommodate whatever the doctor thought was best - as they had done so with another pregnant employee. Well I obtained the note from the physician. She basically stated that she "did not want me to be alone" on the job and offered a solution: a do a portion of the job that can be accessed at the office. When I submitted the note, the manager of my department sent a text message including myself, my supervisor, and the lead stating they needed clarification on the note. They insisted on meeting with me tomorrow to go over this. My issue is that I am afraid they are going to back me into a corner and trick me into saying that I am unable to perform my job duties. I have worked here for 9 mos and have never had any issues (things my lead and supervisor have both pointed out), and it wasn't until I was diagnosed with this medical condition that things began to go awry. I have also heard that today, my lead has been asking my coworkers about my attitude and asking if I am lazy - hence, my concern for them coming at me with the job performance angle is legit in my mind, even though management is stating that they want to work with me. How exactly can I protect myself? They have documentation from the times I have gone to the ER, physician's notes, etc. and I am not sure if I should be involving HR at this point. I know that Arizona is a right-to-work state, so I feel that they may be trying to come up with reasons to terminate me outside of my pregnancy and medical diagnosis. I have also considered recording the meeting on my phone, as Arizona is a one-party consent state. Advice?
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de2auhp
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de2ense
| 1,487,768,677 | 1,487,774,766 | 4 | 23 |
Is the company large enough that you can go on FMLA?
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I'm wondering if your supervisor is concerned that your note is stating that you cannot work alone. This may be an unreasonable accommodation for your position.
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5vhtnr
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I'm pregnant and think I am being targeted by management for termination (Phoenix, AZ) Hello all, I have hardly reached the middle point in my pregnancy and was diagnosed with a medical condition called "hyperemesis graviduram" early on. Essentially, I am nauseous/dizzy and throwing up 3-8 times per day. This has begun to cause issues in my workplace due to the nature of my job. My position requires me to basically be isolated, though this was not noted in my job description. I drive out to locations all over the state of Arizona in order to perform duties, and working night shift as well as weekend nights, there is oftentimes no one around. I work with biohazardous material and human tissue, but I will leave it at that as I don't want to reveal too much information for fear of being recognized. An incident happened a few nights ago where I was completely isolated and suffering from one of my spells. I repeatedly told management via phone (I woke them up) how sick I was feeling and that I had thrown up, etc and was really struggling by myself at this location. Another supervisor attempted to make it an issue of being alone and I had to correct her and state that it wasn't that I was alone, it was that I was isolated and feeling as sick as I was. I ended up remaining at that location another 4 hours until another department member was able to drive out to my location in order to assist (I waited ~1.5hrs for them to get there). I immediately requested a meeting with my direct supervisor the day I returned from the location. I explained how I was feeling very unsupported, unsafe, and concerned about my health and stated that I was considering giving 2 weeks' notice even though I loved the company and didn't want to leave. I offered to move to days as a suggestion (more people around, etc.), but she declined to comment and stated that because it concerns my and my baby's health, I would need to get a doctor's note with my limitations...with no sort of direction in what exactly I should be having the doctor write. Then we would discuss what to do after I had obtained this note. She mentioned in the meeting that they didn't want to lose me and that I am a great worker, and that they would accommodate whatever the doctor thought was best - as they had done so with another pregnant employee. Well I obtained the note from the physician. She basically stated that she "did not want me to be alone" on the job and offered a solution: a do a portion of the job that can be accessed at the office. When I submitted the note, the manager of my department sent a text message including myself, my supervisor, and the lead stating they needed clarification on the note. They insisted on meeting with me tomorrow to go over this. My issue is that I am afraid they are going to back me into a corner and trick me into saying that I am unable to perform my job duties. I have worked here for 9 mos and have never had any issues (things my lead and supervisor have both pointed out), and it wasn't until I was diagnosed with this medical condition that things began to go awry. I have also heard that today, my lead has been asking my coworkers about my attitude and asking if I am lazy - hence, my concern for them coming at me with the job performance angle is legit in my mind, even though management is stating that they want to work with me. How exactly can I protect myself? They have documentation from the times I have gone to the ER, physician's notes, etc. and I am not sure if I should be involving HR at this point. I know that Arizona is a right-to-work state, so I feel that they may be trying to come up with reasons to terminate me outside of my pregnancy and medical diagnosis. I have also considered recording the meeting on my phone, as Arizona is a one-party consent state. Advice?
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de2on29
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de2iw8j
| 1,487,786,285 | 1,487,779,948 | 9 | 8 |
You are panicking prior to there being any kind of issue, so far they have: 1. Responded to your distress in the work area. 2. Agreed to work with you in regards to finding a way to keep you working. Reasonable accommodations don't mean that they have to switch you to days, or make your job one tiny bit easier on you. no I am not trying to be mean, it is just the truth. In the business world, this is simply another business transaction between worker and employer. You are certainly within your rights to be concerned, but I would also venture to say that you would be more in line to be happy that they are looking for clarifications from the doctor to ensure compliance to the letter of his, well, letter lol. Everything you have said this company is doing is 100% legit so far. Keep reading FMLA and make sure you stick to the employee side of things. TL/DR reasonable accommodation is reasonable :)
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I haven't read anything in your post that would indicate to me that they want to fire you. If anything, they are following a good process to understand your medical needs & then try & accommodate you from there. If they really wanted to fire you / have you quit, they would have suggested it when you told them you wanted to quit. I would meet with your doctor and have them detail the note & explain to you as well what exactly you can & cannot do. I think your job wants to know more details from the note and you also need to keep in mind your job. Example, if you are a truck driver & your doctor says you can't drive trucks, its going to be a lot harder for your job to accommodate you vs if the doctor says you can't drive trucks at night. Basically, I would meet with your doctor, explain your job, & see what he can write on the note that would work for you & your job
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5vhtnr
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legaladvice_train
| 0.81 |
I'm pregnant and think I am being targeted by management for termination (Phoenix, AZ) Hello all, I have hardly reached the middle point in my pregnancy and was diagnosed with a medical condition called "hyperemesis graviduram" early on. Essentially, I am nauseous/dizzy and throwing up 3-8 times per day. This has begun to cause issues in my workplace due to the nature of my job. My position requires me to basically be isolated, though this was not noted in my job description. I drive out to locations all over the state of Arizona in order to perform duties, and working night shift as well as weekend nights, there is oftentimes no one around. I work with biohazardous material and human tissue, but I will leave it at that as I don't want to reveal too much information for fear of being recognized. An incident happened a few nights ago where I was completely isolated and suffering from one of my spells. I repeatedly told management via phone (I woke them up) how sick I was feeling and that I had thrown up, etc and was really struggling by myself at this location. Another supervisor attempted to make it an issue of being alone and I had to correct her and state that it wasn't that I was alone, it was that I was isolated and feeling as sick as I was. I ended up remaining at that location another 4 hours until another department member was able to drive out to my location in order to assist (I waited ~1.5hrs for them to get there). I immediately requested a meeting with my direct supervisor the day I returned from the location. I explained how I was feeling very unsupported, unsafe, and concerned about my health and stated that I was considering giving 2 weeks' notice even though I loved the company and didn't want to leave. I offered to move to days as a suggestion (more people around, etc.), but she declined to comment and stated that because it concerns my and my baby's health, I would need to get a doctor's note with my limitations...with no sort of direction in what exactly I should be having the doctor write. Then we would discuss what to do after I had obtained this note. She mentioned in the meeting that they didn't want to lose me and that I am a great worker, and that they would accommodate whatever the doctor thought was best - as they had done so with another pregnant employee. Well I obtained the note from the physician. She basically stated that she "did not want me to be alone" on the job and offered a solution: a do a portion of the job that can be accessed at the office. When I submitted the note, the manager of my department sent a text message including myself, my supervisor, and the lead stating they needed clarification on the note. They insisted on meeting with me tomorrow to go over this. My issue is that I am afraid they are going to back me into a corner and trick me into saying that I am unable to perform my job duties. I have worked here for 9 mos and have never had any issues (things my lead and supervisor have both pointed out), and it wasn't until I was diagnosed with this medical condition that things began to go awry. I have also heard that today, my lead has been asking my coworkers about my attitude and asking if I am lazy - hence, my concern for them coming at me with the job performance angle is legit in my mind, even though management is stating that they want to work with me. How exactly can I protect myself? They have documentation from the times I have gone to the ER, physician's notes, etc. and I am not sure if I should be involving HR at this point. I know that Arizona is a right-to-work state, so I feel that they may be trying to come up with reasons to terminate me outside of my pregnancy and medical diagnosis. I have also considered recording the meeting on my phone, as Arizona is a one-party consent state. Advice?
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de2iw8j
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de2auhp
| 1,487,779,948 | 1,487,768,677 | 8 | 4 |
I haven't read anything in your post that would indicate to me that they want to fire you. If anything, they are following a good process to understand your medical needs & then try & accommodate you from there. If they really wanted to fire you / have you quit, they would have suggested it when you told them you wanted to quit. I would meet with your doctor and have them detail the note & explain to you as well what exactly you can & cannot do. I think your job wants to know more details from the note and you also need to keep in mind your job. Example, if you are a truck driver & your doctor says you can't drive trucks, its going to be a lot harder for your job to accommodate you vs if the doctor says you can't drive trucks at night. Basically, I would meet with your doctor, explain your job, & see what he can write on the note that would work for you & your job
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Is the company large enough that you can go on FMLA?
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5vhtnr
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legaladvice_train
| 0.81 |
I'm pregnant and think I am being targeted by management for termination (Phoenix, AZ) Hello all, I have hardly reached the middle point in my pregnancy and was diagnosed with a medical condition called "hyperemesis graviduram" early on. Essentially, I am nauseous/dizzy and throwing up 3-8 times per day. This has begun to cause issues in my workplace due to the nature of my job. My position requires me to basically be isolated, though this was not noted in my job description. I drive out to locations all over the state of Arizona in order to perform duties, and working night shift as well as weekend nights, there is oftentimes no one around. I work with biohazardous material and human tissue, but I will leave it at that as I don't want to reveal too much information for fear of being recognized. An incident happened a few nights ago where I was completely isolated and suffering from one of my spells. I repeatedly told management via phone (I woke them up) how sick I was feeling and that I had thrown up, etc and was really struggling by myself at this location. Another supervisor attempted to make it an issue of being alone and I had to correct her and state that it wasn't that I was alone, it was that I was isolated and feeling as sick as I was. I ended up remaining at that location another 4 hours until another department member was able to drive out to my location in order to assist (I waited ~1.5hrs for them to get there). I immediately requested a meeting with my direct supervisor the day I returned from the location. I explained how I was feeling very unsupported, unsafe, and concerned about my health and stated that I was considering giving 2 weeks' notice even though I loved the company and didn't want to leave. I offered to move to days as a suggestion (more people around, etc.), but she declined to comment and stated that because it concerns my and my baby's health, I would need to get a doctor's note with my limitations...with no sort of direction in what exactly I should be having the doctor write. Then we would discuss what to do after I had obtained this note. She mentioned in the meeting that they didn't want to lose me and that I am a great worker, and that they would accommodate whatever the doctor thought was best - as they had done so with another pregnant employee. Well I obtained the note from the physician. She basically stated that she "did not want me to be alone" on the job and offered a solution: a do a portion of the job that can be accessed at the office. When I submitted the note, the manager of my department sent a text message including myself, my supervisor, and the lead stating they needed clarification on the note. They insisted on meeting with me tomorrow to go over this. My issue is that I am afraid they are going to back me into a corner and trick me into saying that I am unable to perform my job duties. I have worked here for 9 mos and have never had any issues (things my lead and supervisor have both pointed out), and it wasn't until I was diagnosed with this medical condition that things began to go awry. I have also heard that today, my lead has been asking my coworkers about my attitude and asking if I am lazy - hence, my concern for them coming at me with the job performance angle is legit in my mind, even though management is stating that they want to work with me. How exactly can I protect myself? They have documentation from the times I have gone to the ER, physician's notes, etc. and I am not sure if I should be involving HR at this point. I know that Arizona is a right-to-work state, so I feel that they may be trying to come up with reasons to terminate me outside of my pregnancy and medical diagnosis. I have also considered recording the meeting on my phone, as Arizona is a one-party consent state. Advice?
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de2auhp
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de2on29
| 1,487,768,677 | 1,487,786,285 | 4 | 9 |
Is the company large enough that you can go on FMLA?
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You are panicking prior to there being any kind of issue, so far they have: 1. Responded to your distress in the work area. 2. Agreed to work with you in regards to finding a way to keep you working. Reasonable accommodations don't mean that they have to switch you to days, or make your job one tiny bit easier on you. no I am not trying to be mean, it is just the truth. In the business world, this is simply another business transaction between worker and employer. You are certainly within your rights to be concerned, but I would also venture to say that you would be more in line to be happy that they are looking for clarifications from the doctor to ensure compliance to the letter of his, well, letter lol. Everything you have said this company is doing is 100% legit so far. Keep reading FMLA and make sure you stick to the employee side of things. TL/DR reasonable accommodation is reasonable :)
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wkad7z
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legaladvice_train
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My mother fell at work, they’re refusing to pay for a second surgery and refusing to let her return back to work due to her impairment. So the title basically sums it up in short. My mom fell and tore her ligament in her knee and now is on crutches/walker and barely able to stand on her own. She had a surgery about a month after the fall (worker comp took forever in the process) and basically 2 days after surgery they had her back in the doctors for physical therapy. After a few days of physical therapy the pain became too bad to continue and she had a visit with her surgeon again. During the visit there was 4 people in the room; The doctor, the workers comp nurse, my mother, and my self. We three heard the doctor tell my mother that she needed surgery again after reviewing the exams done on the knee. Skip forward now another month after waiting on when they were going to schedule the second surgery, she receives a letter in the mail saying the surgery isn’t approved and she is not allowed to return to work because she isn’t fit to return due to her conditions. My mother now has no job she can return to and has a busted knee preventing her from finding further work. Her employment is now refusing to answer or return her calls. Where can I direct her on where to start on helping this get figured out? I don’t want this employer to take what’s left of her life from her after she gave them 12 years of dedication. Thanks in advance.
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ijmm7bi
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ijmt4al
| 1,660,076,899 | 1,660,079,570 | 13 | 89 |
How long has she been out of work? FMLA protection is for 12 weeks. There is no additional job protection above 12 weeks even if the injury is approved workers comp. If she's been out longer than 12 weeks, she can be legally terminated. Is she still being paid benefits? Even if the surgery is denied, she can still receive wage loss benefits. As to why the surgery isn't approved, that's another matter and you definitely need an attorney to appeal that decision. The request probably went for a physician advisor review and they are relying on that to deny surgery. An appeal of that decision is not something to DIY.
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I am a work comp attorney in a neighboring state. Your mother needs a work comp attorney months ago. You can call with her, though anything she says with you in the room may not be confidential. There are plenty of comp attorneys who would love a case where surgery had been recommended. This is not something your mom can handle alone.
| 0 | 2,671 | 6.846154 |
wkad7z
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
My mother fell at work, they’re refusing to pay for a second surgery and refusing to let her return back to work due to her impairment. So the title basically sums it up in short. My mom fell and tore her ligament in her knee and now is on crutches/walker and barely able to stand on her own. She had a surgery about a month after the fall (worker comp took forever in the process) and basically 2 days after surgery they had her back in the doctors for physical therapy. After a few days of physical therapy the pain became too bad to continue and she had a visit with her surgeon again. During the visit there was 4 people in the room; The doctor, the workers comp nurse, my mother, and my self. We three heard the doctor tell my mother that she needed surgery again after reviewing the exams done on the knee. Skip forward now another month after waiting on when they were going to schedule the second surgery, she receives a letter in the mail saying the surgery isn’t approved and she is not allowed to return to work because she isn’t fit to return due to her conditions. My mother now has no job she can return to and has a busted knee preventing her from finding further work. Her employment is now refusing to answer or return her calls. Where can I direct her on where to start on helping this get figured out? I don’t want this employer to take what’s left of her life from her after she gave them 12 years of dedication. Thanks in advance.
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ijm9ryz
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ijmt4al
| 1,660,072,167 | 1,660,079,570 | 8 | 89 |
What state are you in?
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I am a work comp attorney in a neighboring state. Your mother needs a work comp attorney months ago. You can call with her, though anything she says with you in the room may not be confidential. There are plenty of comp attorneys who would love a case where surgery had been recommended. This is not something your mom can handle alone.
| 0 | 7,403 | 11.125 |
wkad7z
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
My mother fell at work, they’re refusing to pay for a second surgery and refusing to let her return back to work due to her impairment. So the title basically sums it up in short. My mom fell and tore her ligament in her knee and now is on crutches/walker and barely able to stand on her own. She had a surgery about a month after the fall (worker comp took forever in the process) and basically 2 days after surgery they had her back in the doctors for physical therapy. After a few days of physical therapy the pain became too bad to continue and she had a visit with her surgeon again. During the visit there was 4 people in the room; The doctor, the workers comp nurse, my mother, and my self. We three heard the doctor tell my mother that she needed surgery again after reviewing the exams done on the knee. Skip forward now another month after waiting on when they were going to schedule the second surgery, she receives a letter in the mail saying the surgery isn’t approved and she is not allowed to return to work because she isn’t fit to return due to her conditions. My mother now has no job she can return to and has a busted knee preventing her from finding further work. Her employment is now refusing to answer or return her calls. Where can I direct her on where to start on helping this get figured out? I don’t want this employer to take what’s left of her life from her after she gave them 12 years of dedication. Thanks in advance.
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ijmm7bi
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ijm9ryz
| 1,660,076,899 | 1,660,072,167 | 13 | 8 |
How long has she been out of work? FMLA protection is for 12 weeks. There is no additional job protection above 12 weeks even if the injury is approved workers comp. If she's been out longer than 12 weeks, she can be legally terminated. Is she still being paid benefits? Even if the surgery is denied, she can still receive wage loss benefits. As to why the surgery isn't approved, that's another matter and you definitely need an attorney to appeal that decision. The request probably went for a physician advisor review and they are relying on that to deny surgery. An appeal of that decision is not something to DIY.
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What state are you in?
| 1 | 4,732 | 1.625 |
wkad7z
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
My mother fell at work, they’re refusing to pay for a second surgery and refusing to let her return back to work due to her impairment. So the title basically sums it up in short. My mom fell and tore her ligament in her knee and now is on crutches/walker and barely able to stand on her own. She had a surgery about a month after the fall (worker comp took forever in the process) and basically 2 days after surgery they had her back in the doctors for physical therapy. After a few days of physical therapy the pain became too bad to continue and she had a visit with her surgeon again. During the visit there was 4 people in the room; The doctor, the workers comp nurse, my mother, and my self. We three heard the doctor tell my mother that she needed surgery again after reviewing the exams done on the knee. Skip forward now another month after waiting on when they were going to schedule the second surgery, she receives a letter in the mail saying the surgery isn’t approved and she is not allowed to return to work because she isn’t fit to return due to her conditions. My mother now has no job she can return to and has a busted knee preventing her from finding further work. Her employment is now refusing to answer or return her calls. Where can I direct her on where to start on helping this get figured out? I don’t want this employer to take what’s left of her life from her after she gave them 12 years of dedication. Thanks in advance.
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ijndrop
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ijoncw8
| 1,660,088,107 | 1,660,110,576 | 3 | 8 |
Workermans comp attorney asap. And look at reviews on the attorney's as well.
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Hi, not a lawyer but I do work in Workers Comp. Scheduling PT directly after a surgery is pretty common for a lot of injuries, it's used to determine the effectiveness of the procedure and to rebuild the damaged joint. And yeah, it hurts a lot. As for the second surgery, it was likely denied by a utilization review board. There's a ton of reasons it could have been denied. The denial letter you received should have the rational in it. Your MD would likely need to be the one to appeal that decision. If you haven't contacted them about it please do so. And I also echo everyone else suggesting an attorney. A lot of the WC system is basically automated based on ODG guidelines. If you fall outside those you can get denials. An attorney will light a fire under your adjuster to get things moving in the right direction. Best of luck.
| 0 | 22,469 | 2.666667 |
5r3jtk
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
(idaho) police took my computer during a false allegation investigation of child porn. It's been almost a year, and they won't return my phone calls, and because it's a small town they know my number and won't speak to me. Please help me get my property back! It's a $2000 gaming computer.. My first ex wife told the police I had child porn of my our oldest son and my second ex wife. I didn't. Is there any chance I'm going to see this again, or am I screwed?
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dd45ci6
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dd44q8j
| 1,485,811,265 | 1,485,810,566 | 70 | 44 |
Our backlog of computer evidence is nearly a year long. So it's not out of the question that they have not even started the search yet. If there is not, in fact, child porn on it, then the chances of you getting it back are very very high (once they are done with it). If there is child porn on it, the chances are zero. And, of course, if your wife filed a false police report, then she is likely to face charges for that.
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Go down to the station and ask them if you can have it back. They might say "no", as the investigation may still be ongoing. If they don't return it, you should hire an attorney to look into your options.
| 1 | 699 | 1.590909 |
5r3jtk
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
(idaho) police took my computer during a false allegation investigation of child porn. It's been almost a year, and they won't return my phone calls, and because it's a small town they know my number and won't speak to me. Please help me get my property back! It's a $2000 gaming computer.. My first ex wife told the police I had child porn of my our oldest son and my second ex wife. I didn't. Is there any chance I'm going to see this again, or am I screwed?
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dd45ci6
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dd44n9u
| 1,485,811,265 | 1,485,810,472 | 70 | 9 |
Our backlog of computer evidence is nearly a year long. So it's not out of the question that they have not even started the search yet. If there is not, in fact, child porn on it, then the chances of you getting it back are very very high (once they are done with it). If there is child porn on it, the chances are zero. And, of course, if your wife filed a false police report, then she is likely to face charges for that.
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If nobody is talking to you then talk to an attorney.
| 1 | 793 | 7.777778 |
5r3jtk
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
(idaho) police took my computer during a false allegation investigation of child porn. It's been almost a year, and they won't return my phone calls, and because it's a small town they know my number and won't speak to me. Please help me get my property back! It's a $2000 gaming computer.. My first ex wife told the police I had child porn of my our oldest son and my second ex wife. I didn't. Is there any chance I'm going to see this again, or am I screwed?
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dd44tvh
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dd45ci6
| 1,485,810,682 | 1,485,811,265 | 9 | 70 |
When was the last time someone actually spoke to you about the case, and what did they tell you? Also, how often do you call?
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Our backlog of computer evidence is nearly a year long. So it's not out of the question that they have not even started the search yet. If there is not, in fact, child porn on it, then the chances of you getting it back are very very high (once they are done with it). If there is child porn on it, the chances are zero. And, of course, if your wife filed a false police report, then she is likely to face charges for that.
| 0 | 583 | 7.777778 |
5r3jtk
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
(idaho) police took my computer during a false allegation investigation of child porn. It's been almost a year, and they won't return my phone calls, and because it's a small town they know my number and won't speak to me. Please help me get my property back! It's a $2000 gaming computer.. My first ex wife told the police I had child porn of my our oldest son and my second ex wife. I didn't. Is there any chance I'm going to see this again, or am I screwed?
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dd44q8j
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dd44n9u
| 1,485,810,566 | 1,485,810,472 | 44 | 9 |
Go down to the station and ask them if you can have it back. They might say "no", as the investigation may still be ongoing. If they don't return it, you should hire an attorney to look into your options.
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If nobody is talking to you then talk to an attorney.
| 1 | 94 | 4.888889 |
5r3jtk
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
(idaho) police took my computer during a false allegation investigation of child porn. It's been almost a year, and they won't return my phone calls, and because it's a small town they know my number and won't speak to me. Please help me get my property back! It's a $2000 gaming computer.. My first ex wife told the police I had child porn of my our oldest son and my second ex wife. I didn't. Is there any chance I'm going to see this again, or am I screwed?
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dd45nlg
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dd44n9u
| 1,485,811,612 | 1,485,810,472 | 21 | 9 |
You might need to hire an attorney to find out the status of the investigation and where they are in searching through your hard drive. It can frequently take months and months. But... it seems like the real problem is that you have too many ex-wives. ^^kidding Good luck.
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If nobody is talking to you then talk to an attorney.
| 1 | 1,140 | 2.333333 |
5r3jtk
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
(idaho) police took my computer during a false allegation investigation of child porn. It's been almost a year, and they won't return my phone calls, and because it's a small town they know my number and won't speak to me. Please help me get my property back! It's a $2000 gaming computer.. My first ex wife told the police I had child porn of my our oldest son and my second ex wife. I didn't. Is there any chance I'm going to see this again, or am I screwed?
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dd45nlg
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dd44tvh
| 1,485,811,612 | 1,485,810,682 | 21 | 9 |
You might need to hire an attorney to find out the status of the investigation and where they are in searching through your hard drive. It can frequently take months and months. But... it seems like the real problem is that you have too many ex-wives. ^^kidding Good luck.
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When was the last time someone actually spoke to you about the case, and what did they tell you? Also, how often do you call?
| 1 | 930 | 2.333333 |
tbgk06
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
Returned a phone to Verizon and they say they didn’t receive it. Despite proof of delivery, now they want $4K. I returned an IPhone to Verizon last year. They told me they didn’t get it and now they’ve turned me into collections for $4,000. Not sure why it’s so much because I can’t get a straight answer out of them on anything. It’s for the phone, some fees, and who knows what else. I sent them the tracking number, a photo of the shipping label, the screenshot showing it was delivered AND a picture of the box I sent it in and they said they need more info to prove it was sent. What can I do?
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i08pgj5
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i07ku31
| 1,647,007,810 | 1,646,979,362 | 30 | 9 |
I would file a consumer complaint with the FCC and your state AG, and attach the evidence you have. Posting on Twitter and pinging them also can work - the customer service folks available on Twitter/Facebook tend to also be more empowered to help (and more experienced).
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File a complaint with the BBB. I kid you not, i had a similar problem with At&t. A-holes we're charging me 900. For a service i had already cancelled. That went on for months. I filed my complaint and i had the president of some department call me back and took care of it. https://www.bbb.org/file-a-complaint/search
| 1 | 28,448 | 3.333333 |
tbgk06
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
Returned a phone to Verizon and they say they didn’t receive it. Despite proof of delivery, now they want $4K. I returned an IPhone to Verizon last year. They told me they didn’t get it and now they’ve turned me into collections for $4,000. Not sure why it’s so much because I can’t get a straight answer out of them on anything. It’s for the phone, some fees, and who knows what else. I sent them the tracking number, a photo of the shipping label, the screenshot showing it was delivered AND a picture of the box I sent it in and they said they need more info to prove it was sent. What can I do?
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i08cr5o
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i08pgj5
| 1,647,000,960 | 1,647,007,810 | 4 | 30 |
Send a notice to whoever claims that it's in collections (whether it's Verizon or a third party) asking them to prove the debt.
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I would file a consumer complaint with the FCC and your state AG, and attach the evidence you have. Posting on Twitter and pinging them also can work - the customer service folks available on Twitter/Facebook tend to also be more empowered to help (and more experienced).
| 0 | 6,850 | 7.5 |
tbgk06
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
Returned a phone to Verizon and they say they didn’t receive it. Despite proof of delivery, now they want $4K. I returned an IPhone to Verizon last year. They told me they didn’t get it and now they’ve turned me into collections for $4,000. Not sure why it’s so much because I can’t get a straight answer out of them on anything. It’s for the phone, some fees, and who knows what else. I sent them the tracking number, a photo of the shipping label, the screenshot showing it was delivered AND a picture of the box I sent it in and they said they need more info to prove it was sent. What can I do?
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i08ue6o
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i08cr5o
| 1,647,010,027 | 1,647,000,960 | 7 | 4 |
File a consumer complaint with the FCC.
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Send a notice to whoever claims that it's in collections (whether it's Verizon or a third party) asking them to prove the debt.
| 1 | 9,067 | 1.75 |
xyhup8
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legaladvice_train
| 0.86 |
South Carolina. I returned a rental car at the airport and they are now claiming I did not return the car and have charged my credit card 3,000$. It has been a week and they are being unresponsive I returned a rental car at the airport and was told I didn’t need to get a receipt from the lady at the desk (she said it is all done by cameras now&receipt will be emailed) Cars came in behind me and sandwiched me in (nobody got a receipt) so I left the keys in the car and left. They are now claiming I did not return the car and have charged my credit card 3,000$. It has been a week and they are being unresponsive. There must be photo and video of me leaving the car there as well as a gps positioning for each vehicle. What are my options or possible outcomes . Thanks
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irha3cw
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irhbddu
| 1,665,199,094 | 1,665,199,902 | 20 | 69 |
This is a weird one. It seems like maybe someone rented the car you returned to someone else after you without going through the proper systems. If your car is really missing and they haven’t found it by now it might have just been rented to another person in which case the issue will be solved when they rerun it. If it was stolen after you left it that is a much more complicated legal matter. Technically you should have a receipt to prove it was stolen from them but you didn’t get the receipt so it could be aurgued that it was stolen from you making you liable.
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Was it Hertz by any chance? They have a history of pulling this. https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/hertz-lawsuit-arrests-number-unsealed.html
| 0 | 808 | 3.45 |
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