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My parents took my money and kicked me out of our home, what are my options? Long story short, my parents wanted to teach me a lesson after I told them I was planning on majoring in something they didn't approve of when I started university next year. They took away my bank card, closed it, then they kicked me out on the street on Christmas Eve. I am in a homeless shelter since then. I tried speaking to the police but thye told me that since the money, which was what I earned from my job, was in a joint account with theirs that I was not entitled to it. Is this true? I also would like clarification, is it legal for my parents to kick me out like this? I am turning 18 in a few days. Nobody seems to want to help me so I am desperate.
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Author: /u/DesigningChi
Title: **My parents took my money and kicked me out of our home, what are my options?**
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> Long story short, my parents wanted to teach me a lesson after I told them I was planning on majoring in something they didn't approve of when I started university next year. They took away my bank card, closed it, then they kicked me out on the street on Christmas Eve. I am in a homeless shelter since then. I tried speaking to the police but thye told me that since the money, which was what I earned from my job, was in a joint account with theirs that I was not entitled to it. Is this true? I also would like clarification, is it legal for my parents to kick me out like this? I am turning 18 in a few days. Nobody seems to want to help me so I am desperate.
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Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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Author: /u/Benslovav
Title: **Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education**
Original Post:
> I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. > Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. > > Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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I'm not a lawyer, but I am a teacher. The McKinney-Vento Act applies to you. It's a law that guarantees homeless and runaway youth a right to an education. Your school has a person whose job is to help homeless and runaway students - the McKinney-Vento Act requires every school to have a person like this. Googling the name of your district + homeless liaison may help you identify who this person is and how you can contact them. If I were your teacher, I'd suggest that you contact this person, and see if they can help you finish your senior year. They might know about options your counselor didn't know about, and be more open to helping you access them than your counselor is. This is not a guarantee, but it is something to try that might be useful.
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Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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Also reach out to your local teen runaway shelter. They will have resources for alternative education programs as well as legal resources. They can also help with advocacy to your school and cps. 1800runaway.org is a resource and nationalsafeplace.org can give you info on local resources
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Author: /u/Benslovav
Title: **Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education**
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> I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. > Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. > > Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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Author: /u/Benslovav
Title: **Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education**
Original Post:
> I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. > Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. > > Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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I'm a social worker I don't have current experience with homeless youth and live in Canada so I can't give you any specific advice but I'm commenting to say your school or community should have social workers trained very specifically for this type of situation with legal knowledge and access to tons of resources to help you in all aspects not just education. I cannot emphasize enough please find a social worker and start creating a team within the community to help you it'll make a difference.
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Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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Author: /u/Benslovav
Title: **Parents kicked me out at 16, reported me as runaway at 17 and now I cannot finish my education**
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> I (17F) grew up in a really toxic household. My parents were really abusive to me and as soon as I hit 12 - 13 my parents started to treat me worse. My parents adopted me and biologically they are my aunt and uncle but for simplicity sake I'll call them my adoptive parents. The summer of covid I got kicked out of my house after my mother beat me. My boyfriend at the time was really supportive and helped me move out but I never had plans to stay with him because I planned to emancipate and I never wanted to plan my life around him and his family's support, though even now as an ex he's supportive still. I ended up living with my frien who is my age who is some what well off. Her father arranged for power of attorney and got everything set up so I was on his insurance, I could go to school and all other important things. Things weren't always dandy at my friend's house because I was going through a lot of mental health issues. My friend's dad (lets just call him Joe) was really supportive. He got me mental help and was really patient with me and my grades. He is a truly generous man and did everything he could to protect me. I love him and his family and especially my best friend. Things started to go south when Joe contacted my family to say he will be claiming me on his taxes since by that time I have been with him for over six months. They revoked guardianship the day after. When I asked them to return guardianship and give me my important documents and that I have been talk to an lawyer about emancipating, the next day they reported me as a runaway and tried to take me from school. I had an anciety attack in the hallway going to the office to see my mother. The assistant principle pulled me asside and I told her everything about my abuse and how bad they are as parents. They instead of taking me to my mom took me to the counselor to do a cps report. The police later came in and told me that I was the one abusing her and that I was the bad child. All I could do was laugh. For whatever reason or another they let me continue school and told me I was to be returning to my adoptive parents house. Some other people really close to me swooped me up during the school day and now I am staying with them. I spoke with a cps person and essentially was told that because I had virtually no contact with my mother for 9 months that they couldn't do anything. > Here's where the problem starts : I need to go to school and my school is no longer doing virtual learning. Its my last year, I'm a senior and while I cannot be in trouble for being a runaway (technically missing person) the people I am staying with can. I fear for my life going back to that house and I know I will die. I am 100% certain they will force me out of school and my older brother who is living with them will try to kill me again. The people I am staying sith have witness him try before and even stopped him. My adoptive patents did nothing. I can't go to in person school because the school has to report that I am at school and they can easily pull me out. My counselor says that the best I can do is not go to school, stay where I am, wait until I am 18 and she will try her hardest to fast track my classes or enroll me in another high school that excels my education but I wont grt to walk the stage with my classmates. My whole Senior year is ruined and I don't know what to do. I have less than a week and a half to figure it out. If anyone could help or give me any type advice it would be greatly appreciated. I'm thinking of calling her and begging her to drop the case so that way I can go to school. I don't think it will work. > > Thanks if you spent the time to read everything and even more if you have anything to say. I'm at a loss honestly.
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Not a lawyer - but perhaps look into a self study course that you can do from home and test out. A good friend of mine got though high school this way, albeit with less complicated family issues. Best of luck to you, so sorry you are going through this!
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Is it legal in the state of Georgia for a parent to kick out their 16 year old child ? I’m just wondering because my parent is currently trying to kick me out, I haven’t done anything worth kicking me out for at all though yet she’s making up stories about me being physically violent towards her to try and justify it to people. I’ve only ever being physically violent in self defense from her being violent towards me. Im financially dependent on my parent so if they kicked me out I would have to live on the streets. I have bruise marks on my body as proof of her violence towards me as well I’m just very scared, I don’t know what to do anymore. My mom has been trying to get rid of me ever since I was very young.She has told me she hates me because I remind her of her ex husband
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I would meet with your school guidance counselor tomorrow and inform them of the situation. This way they can give you resources and can prepare for if your mom does kick you out. All factuality and staff at schools are mandatory reporters. Your guidance counselor would have to make a call to CPS to inform them of the situation. Every time your mom gets violent with you or abuses you in any way call the police and CPS. If you are unable to call then document it in a journal and tell a trusted adult or your guidance counselor as soon as you can. Like another commenter suggested you could go to a neighbor’s house and ask to use their phone. There’s a lot of avenues if you don’t have your own in the 21st century in a first world country. You could even go to a gas station, grocery store, or restaurant and ask an employee to use their phone to call 911. I wish you luck!
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No, they cannot kick out a minor. If they are violent, get to safety and call the police and CPS. If they try to kick you out, call the police and CPS.
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Is it legal in the state of Georgia for a parent to kick out their 16 year old child ? I’m just wondering because my parent is currently trying to kick me out, I haven’t done anything worth kicking me out for at all though yet she’s making up stories about me being physically violent towards her to try and justify it to people. I’ve only ever being physically violent in self defense from her being violent towards me. Im financially dependent on my parent so if they kicked me out I would have to live on the streets. I have bruise marks on my body as proof of her violence towards me as well I’m just very scared, I don’t know what to do anymore. My mom has been trying to get rid of me ever since I was very young.She has told me she hates me because I remind her of her ex husband
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I would meet with your school guidance counselor tomorrow and inform them of the situation. This way they can give you resources and can prepare for if your mom does kick you out. All factuality and staff at schools are mandatory reporters. Your guidance counselor would have to make a call to CPS to inform them of the situation. Every time your mom gets violent with you or abuses you in any way call the police and CPS. If you are unable to call then document it in a journal and tell a trusted adult or your guidance counselor as soon as you can. Like another commenter suggested you could go to a neighbor’s house and ask to use their phone. There’s a lot of avenues if you don’t have your own in the 21st century in a first world country. You could even go to a gas station, grocery store, or restaurant and ask an employee to use their phone to call 911. I wish you luck!
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You age out of foster care at eighteen in the state of Georgia. You have access to the internet to post here, so you can look up and contact the police, child protective services, your school guidance counsellor, etc. Start here; [email protected]. to make a report.
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Is it legal in the state of Georgia for a parent to kick out their 16 year old child ? I’m just wondering because my parent is currently trying to kick me out, I haven’t done anything worth kicking me out for at all though yet she’s making up stories about me being physically violent towards her to try and justify it to people. I’ve only ever being physically violent in self defense from her being violent towards me. Im financially dependent on my parent so if they kicked me out I would have to live on the streets. I have bruise marks on my body as proof of her violence towards me as well I’m just very scared, I don’t know what to do anymore. My mom has been trying to get rid of me ever since I was very young.She has told me she hates me because I remind her of her ex husband
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Not a lawyer First make sure you get pictures of those bruises and save them to the cloud. A free email account can be very useful for holding and keeping such pictures. Now talk to your school counselor tomorrow. If she kicks you out at any time, go to a convenience store, or a neighbor and call the COPS to get them involved. If you can get a recording of her making that threat it would be a good idea. The more you can get, then when you see the cops you can show them. Better yet, if you can get in touch with CPS it also would be a good idea, as that would be the very people that a school counselor or even the police would get in touch with.
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Hi, I live in Georgia. Use a phone and call CPS. Your mom can't remove from school without providing education like home school. If you are my region: https://dbhdd.georgia.gov/locations/lookout-mountain-community-services Call them if you need help anyway.
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Is it legal in the state of Georgia for a parent to kick out their 16 year old child ? I’m just wondering because my parent is currently trying to kick me out, I haven’t done anything worth kicking me out for at all though yet she’s making up stories about me being physically violent towards her to try and justify it to people. I’ve only ever being physically violent in self defense from her being violent towards me. Im financially dependent on my parent so if they kicked me out I would have to live on the streets. I have bruise marks on my body as proof of her violence towards me as well I’m just very scared, I don’t know what to do anymore. My mom has been trying to get rid of me ever since I was very young.She has told me she hates me because I remind her of her ex husband
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posting on reddit will get you some attention, but probably not help. Stop posting, send an email to your local police, or call them, tell them you want to come in and talk so you can avoid physical abuse, they will send a car for you.
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Can you drive? Is there a fire station or rescue station close by? Walk in and explain the situation. A fire or rescue station wouldn't be a bad option because of the bruises and we are mandated reporters too. Bonus: you will have the start of a medical evaluation so there will be documented evidence of the contusions as well.
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If my parents won't let me get a job, can they still legally kick me out at 18 without notice? (Texas) If my parents will not let me get a job ages 16-18, and they want to kick me out on my 18th birthday, does Texas offer me any protection or do I just have to comply? What is the best move in my situation (1.5 years until 18)?
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Technically you don’t have to leave till they give you a court order/ law enforcement comes to enforce the order. 30 day notice to vacate is step 1 of the eviction process. Evictions can take years and if they call the police they’ll be told it’s a civil issue and if they change the locks or destroy any of your possession you get to call the police who will then tell them they are engaged in an illegal eviction.
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Not a lawyer. They can kick you out. They are supposed to give you notice in writing but there's not going to be a whole lot you can do here. What are they doing/saying to prevent you from getting a job now? Apologies if this isn't strictly on topic, but I've known some folks kicked out of their home while teenagers and there's a lot of stuff that you should prepare for. If you have anyone else you could possibly live with (grandparents, a friend), it might be advisable for you to do so now and file for emancipation from your parents. Given that they seem to have no interest in your well-being or any financial support going forward, this will be helpful if you decide to go to college (you will be eligible for more financial aid as your parents' income will be ignored if you are emancipated). If you can get an adult designated as a foster parent this also may help for future financial aid purposes. Not sure how this works in Texas. This might not be the best option for you in the end, but it's something to consider and look into. You might try talking to your guidance counselor at school about your situation, they may be able to help you find resources to help. You shouldn't have to be dealing with this alone. While you are in school you have access to resources that will disappear as soon as you are out - take advantage of this. Some practical suggestions - you will need copies of your birth certificate and Social Security card as an adult. Try to get these now if you can, it will be harder once you are out the door. Texas appears to require an ID to order a birth certificate, do you have a Driver's license or other ID? (Side note, Texas also appears to require a birth certificate in order to get an ID, not sure how that's supposed to work). If there's any way for you to get a US passport, that will make your life much easier in many ways - it's a widely acceptable proof of ID in all kinds of situations (you can easily get a new SS card and other kinds of ID if you have a passport). Perhaps you can get your parents to be cooperative with this - they want you to be independent, right? You will need these things to get a job and support yourself. Again, bring this up with your school guidance counselor or trusted adult and see if they can help you. If you have any possessions of any value or importance to you, you should start relocating them well in advance of leaving or being forced out. Do you have a bank account? Minors' bank accounts are almost always joint accounts with a parent/guardian having access. Expect them to take any money in your account at the first sign of any conflict. As soon as you turn 18 close the old account, get a cashier's check and open a new account at *different bank*.
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If my parents won't let me get a job, can they still legally kick me out at 18 without notice? (Texas) If my parents will not let me get a job ages 16-18, and they want to kick me out on my 18th birthday, does Texas offer me any protection or do I just have to comply? What is the best move in my situation (1.5 years until 18)?
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Former child abuse and neglect attorney: Are your parents abusing you in any other way: emotionally, physically, sexually, financially, etc? Will you still be in high school when you turn eighteen? If they are/you will, talk with a trusted adult at school. They are mandated reporters, and will have resources to help. If you get taken into foster care at a point prior to your eighteenth birthday, and actually turn eighteen while in foster care, you will be eligible for housing assistance. You may also wish to speak with a military recruiter about your options, and begin studying for the ASVAB, so that you may receive education, housing, and a job. Make sure they give you the whole package, though: Signing bonus, Basic training before first year of college, 4 years of ROTC as a part of your service time, so that you begin your full time in the military as a 2nd LT, etc. If this is your route, ask the JROTC officers to help you with the benefits package. Also, do you have any friends or relatives who may be willing to assist you? That may be another option. There are also some high school academies that will track you directly into a paid apprenticeship program, military service, etc. I’m sorry that your parents are treating you this way. It’s time to find all of your options and resources, so that you may be prepared.
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Technically you don’t have to leave till they give you a court order/ law enforcement comes to enforce the order. 30 day notice to vacate is step 1 of the eviction process. Evictions can take years and if they call the police they’ll be told it’s a civil issue and if they change the locks or destroy any of your possession you get to call the police who will then tell them they are engaged in an illegal eviction.
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If my parents won't let me get a job, can they still legally kick me out at 18 without notice? (Texas) If my parents will not let me get a job ages 16-18, and they want to kick me out on my 18th birthday, does Texas offer me any protection or do I just have to comply? What is the best move in my situation (1.5 years until 18)?
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Are you in high school still?
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Former child abuse and neglect attorney: Are your parents abusing you in any other way: emotionally, physically, sexually, financially, etc? Will you still be in high school when you turn eighteen? If they are/you will, talk with a trusted adult at school. They are mandated reporters, and will have resources to help. If you get taken into foster care at a point prior to your eighteenth birthday, and actually turn eighteen while in foster care, you will be eligible for housing assistance. You may also wish to speak with a military recruiter about your options, and begin studying for the ASVAB, so that you may receive education, housing, and a job. Make sure they give you the whole package, though: Signing bonus, Basic training before first year of college, 4 years of ROTC as a part of your service time, so that you begin your full time in the military as a 2nd LT, etc. If this is your route, ask the JROTC officers to help you with the benefits package. Also, do you have any friends or relatives who may be willing to assist you? That may be another option. There are also some high school academies that will track you directly into a paid apprenticeship program, military service, etc. I’m sorry that your parents are treating you this way. It’s time to find all of your options and resources, so that you may be prepared.
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(MI)16 years old. My friends and I smoked pot at a party at a college we were visiting, and one of the college kids got into my friends phone and is threatening to call all of our schools/work/parents and show them our text messages. I know the pot was stupid, and I really regret doing it, but the guy is following my friend around. He says he already went to the police, but the police didn't care. He's also called a couple people already and started ranting about how horrible my friend is. I'm definitely in the text messages, he knows my name and my number. I'm just really not sure what to do here. How can I stop the guy from harassing us? Is there any way we can go to the police and not tell them about the pot?
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An adult is harrassing a minor. Nobody is going to give a damn about the pot. Regardless, "smoked pot in the past" is not a charge that can be filed. Turn that bastard in and stop guilting yourself immediately!
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well, that's blackmail and it's pretty illegal. feel free to call the cops.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Have you contacted your car insurance company that was active at the time? Was there an attorney involved?
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Take this with a grain of salt, because I'm not familiar with Wisconsin procedure or jurisdictional setup. I would first find out if you can access your court file online. This could be statewide, or by county. I would say that suit was likely filed in the county where the accident occurred, though for a variety of not-particularly-likely reasons, it could have been filed elsewhere. If you can get online access, even just to the docket, you'll want to look up both your name and your parents' names. Where I practice, the suit would likely be brought as "OP's Parent, as Natural Parent of OP." So your name alone might not work as a sole search term. If you can't get online access, then google the County Clerk and find out what their records access policy is. You might have to physically go to the courthouse and have them pull a big paper file for you. The bright side - if you actually get the paper file, the rest is much easier. Regardless, if you access the docket online, you need to figure out what you can access. You might see a bunch of seemingly "legalese" abbreviations (NOH, MTD, ORD, etc.). You also might not be able to actually pull up any documents. If that's the case, you'll have to call the clerk and see if they can help you or go down in person. Once you can actually access documents/filings, what you want to do is find is any document from later in the case (to ensure that lawyers didn't change afterwards...) and find a signature block or certificate of service. Again, I have no idea how it works in WI, but here in FL, at the end of any legal filing there would be a section that basically says, "here is who i am and here is who I'm sending this to." If you can figure out which one of those was your lawyer...great. If not, call them all. Those are the firms you want to contact, because they would likely have the most possible information about your case. Best of luck with everything.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Take this with a grain of salt, because I'm not familiar with Wisconsin procedure or jurisdictional setup. I would first find out if you can access your court file online. This could be statewide, or by county. I would say that suit was likely filed in the county where the accident occurred, though for a variety of not-particularly-likely reasons, it could have been filed elsewhere. If you can get online access, even just to the docket, you'll want to look up both your name and your parents' names. Where I practice, the suit would likely be brought as "OP's Parent, as Natural Parent of OP." So your name alone might not work as a sole search term. If you can't get online access, then google the County Clerk and find out what their records access policy is. You might have to physically go to the courthouse and have them pull a big paper file for you. The bright side - if you actually get the paper file, the rest is much easier. Regardless, if you access the docket online, you need to figure out what you can access. You might see a bunch of seemingly "legalese" abbreviations (NOH, MTD, ORD, etc.). You also might not be able to actually pull up any documents. If that's the case, you'll have to call the clerk and see if they can help you or go down in person. Once you can actually access documents/filings, what you want to do is find is any document from later in the case (to ensure that lawyers didn't change afterwards...) and find a signature block or certificate of service. Again, I have no idea how it works in WI, but here in FL, at the end of any legal filing there would be a section that basically says, "here is who i am and here is who I'm sending this to." If you can figure out which one of those was your lawyer...great. If not, call them all. Those are the firms you want to contact, because they would likely have the most possible information about your case. Best of luck with everything.
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If you know in which jurisdiction the matter was handled, you could contact that area's clerk of circuit courts. For example, if your guess of West Bend WI is correct, you'd want to talk to this office
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Was there a court case involved in the settlement? If so (and that's a high probability for a minor settlement as they typically have to be a approved by a GAL), you can pull up the records from the court where the settlement was entered. The settlement documents should identify the bank where the settlement was deposited.
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Take this with a grain of salt, because I'm not familiar with Wisconsin procedure or jurisdictional setup. I would first find out if you can access your court file online. This could be statewide, or by county. I would say that suit was likely filed in the county where the accident occurred, though for a variety of not-particularly-likely reasons, it could have been filed elsewhere. If you can get online access, even just to the docket, you'll want to look up both your name and your parents' names. Where I practice, the suit would likely be brought as "OP's Parent, as Natural Parent of OP." So your name alone might not work as a sole search term. If you can't get online access, then google the County Clerk and find out what their records access policy is. You might have to physically go to the courthouse and have them pull a big paper file for you. The bright side - if you actually get the paper file, the rest is much easier. Regardless, if you access the docket online, you need to figure out what you can access. You might see a bunch of seemingly "legalese" abbreviations (NOH, MTD, ORD, etc.). You also might not be able to actually pull up any documents. If that's the case, you'll have to call the clerk and see if they can help you or go down in person. Once you can actually access documents/filings, what you want to do is find is any document from later in the case (to ensure that lawyers didn't change afterwards...) and find a signature block or certificate of service. Again, I have no idea how it works in WI, but here in FL, at the end of any legal filing there would be a section that basically says, "here is who i am and here is who I'm sending this to." If you can figure out which one of those was your lawyer...great. If not, call them all. Those are the firms you want to contact, because they would likely have the most possible information about your case. Best of luck with everything.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Was a lawsuit filed and then settled or was the settlement pre-lawsuit?. If the suit was filed you can look up the court records from back then and figure it out that way.
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Take this with a grain of salt, because I'm not familiar with Wisconsin procedure or jurisdictional setup. I would first find out if you can access your court file online. This could be statewide, or by county. I would say that suit was likely filed in the county where the accident occurred, though for a variety of not-particularly-likely reasons, it could have been filed elsewhere. If you can get online access, even just to the docket, you'll want to look up both your name and your parents' names. Where I practice, the suit would likely be brought as "OP's Parent, as Natural Parent of OP." So your name alone might not work as a sole search term. If you can't get online access, then google the County Clerk and find out what their records access policy is. You might have to physically go to the courthouse and have them pull a big paper file for you. The bright side - if you actually get the paper file, the rest is much easier. Regardless, if you access the docket online, you need to figure out what you can access. You might see a bunch of seemingly "legalese" abbreviations (NOH, MTD, ORD, etc.). You also might not be able to actually pull up any documents. If that's the case, you'll have to call the clerk and see if they can help you or go down in person. Once you can actually access documents/filings, what you want to do is find is any document from later in the case (to ensure that lawyers didn't change afterwards...) and find a signature block or certificate of service. Again, I have no idea how it works in WI, but here in FL, at the end of any legal filing there would be a section that basically says, "here is who i am and here is who I'm sending this to." If you can figure out which one of those was your lawyer...great. If not, call them all. Those are the firms you want to contact, because they would likely have the most possible information about your case. Best of luck with everything.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Take this with a grain of salt, because I'm not familiar with Wisconsin procedure or jurisdictional setup. I would first find out if you can access your court file online. This could be statewide, or by county. I would say that suit was likely filed in the county where the accident occurred, though for a variety of not-particularly-likely reasons, it could have been filed elsewhere. If you can get online access, even just to the docket, you'll want to look up both your name and your parents' names. Where I practice, the suit would likely be brought as "OP's Parent, as Natural Parent of OP." So your name alone might not work as a sole search term. If you can't get online access, then google the County Clerk and find out what their records access policy is. You might have to physically go to the courthouse and have them pull a big paper file for you. The bright side - if you actually get the paper file, the rest is much easier. Regardless, if you access the docket online, you need to figure out what you can access. You might see a bunch of seemingly "legalese" abbreviations (NOH, MTD, ORD, etc.). You also might not be able to actually pull up any documents. If that's the case, you'll have to call the clerk and see if they can help you or go down in person. Once you can actually access documents/filings, what you want to do is find is any document from later in the case (to ensure that lawyers didn't change afterwards...) and find a signature block or certificate of service. Again, I have no idea how it works in WI, but here in FL, at the end of any legal filing there would be a section that basically says, "here is who i am and here is who I'm sending this to." If you can figure out which one of those was your lawyer...great. If not, call them all. Those are the firms you want to contact, because they would likely have the most possible information about your case. Best of luck with everything.
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**Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money?** >I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Author: /u/FutureOnyx
**Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money?** >I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Have you contacted your car insurance company that was active at the time? Was there an attorney involved?
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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If you know in which jurisdiction the matter was handled, you could contact that area's clerk of circuit courts. For example, if your guess of West Bend WI is correct, you'd want to talk to this office
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Was a lawsuit filed and then settled or was the settlement pre-lawsuit?. If the suit was filed you can look up the court records from back then and figure it out that way.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Author: /u/FutureOnyx
**Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money?** >I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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If you know in which jurisdiction the matter was handled, you could contact that area's clerk of circuit courts. For example, if your guess of West Bend WI is correct, you'd want to talk to this office
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Was a lawsuit filed and then settled or was the settlement pre-lawsuit?. If the suit was filed you can look up the court records from back then and figure it out that way.
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Was there a court case involved in the settlement? If so (and that's a high probability for a minor settlement as they typically have to be a approved by a GAL), you can pull up the records from the court where the settlement was entered. The settlement documents should identify the bank where the settlement was deposited.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Was there a court case involved in the settlement? If so (and that's a high probability for a minor settlement as they typically have to be a approved by a GAL), you can pull up the records from the court where the settlement was entered. The settlement documents should identify the bank where the settlement was deposited.
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Author: /u/FutureOnyx
**Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money?** >I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Was a lawsuit filed and then settled or was the settlement pre-lawsuit?. If the suit was filed you can look up the court records from back then and figure it out that way.
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Author: /u/FutureOnyx
**Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money?** >I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money? [WI] I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Author: /u/FutureOnyx
**Years ago I was involved in a car accident which left me a settlement when I turned 18. At age 16 my father lost all the paperwork and everything else I/we owned after our house was evicted and he refused to let us grab our stuff. How do I locate this money?** >I know for a fact of the settlement but neither my mom nor Dad have any idea about where it is, it would really come in handy since my parents kicked me out when I turned 18 a few weeks back.
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Sorry to say but I can't imagine losing this type of paperwork or not being able to remember the name if anyone involved. I think your parents have spent the money. There are supposed to be safeguards in place for money paid to minors to prevent that from happening, especially if it was a significant amount of money. In my state the default is that the money is held by the clerk of court.
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Just learned that my father died of cancer a month ago. His alleged wife/significant other has been maintaining things as if he was alive. There's a very large trust that could possibly include my brothers and myself. Where do I even start? Long story short, my parents divorced years ago and over time my father became very distant to myself and brothers. I took it especially hard as I had previously been the closest to him. At the time of the divorce he had a new secretary for successful business who turned out to be his "girlfriend." This woman actively drove a stake between my father and his family over the years following the divorce which has ultimately lead to minimal contact. This woman, his girlfriend/wife/whatever she was to him, had taken the role of office manager and recklessly destroyed his business through attacking customers verbally, shady business practice, verbal abuse of workers, etc. and the reviews on every website regarding his company all describe this woman's actions. Two years ago my father's mother passed away with a large sum of money - upwards of $800,000. Most likely that money was split between him and his brother. As of late October, one of my father's friends reached out to my mother asking if she had heard anything regarding his condition. The obvious answer was no but the rumor was that he was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer. Another month later another one of his friend's reached out to my mom asking if anybody had heard anything from him and that the friend was worried about him as he hadn't heard from him and they were good friends. I had not heard from my father in months despite many text messages. Typically, my brothers and I would receive a phone call or the very least a text message on holidays - Thanksgiving and Christmas there wasn't either. Today, my mom got a call from one of my dad's long time friends and he told my mom that he was also worried about my dad and had come across the fact that my father had passed away on December 8th 2021 and had been cremated. The friend stated that my father's significant other was an "evil" woman and that he had texted my father on the recent holiday's and received a response. This woman ostracized my father from everyone and seemingly has been keeping up a front that he is still alive. The reason being is unknown but I have a strong inclination that she is attempting to seize assets without anybody knowing what had been done. I know that there is trust in place through public record searches but I don't know any details of it. My question is what can I do, should I do, about this and what legal action can be taken to attempt to stop this woman from essentially stealing from our family if that's what's truly going on here? It's not about the money for me, it's about the fact that my father is now gone and I never got the chance to say goodbye and I can't even visit a gravesite to have any sort of closure.
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Can you do a probate estate search by his name? For example in my state, you can go to the register of wills website for the county and run an estate search. It will then tell you if a regular estate was open and any other notifications. You can request copies of the documents to include the will.
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Call your local precinct to do a wellness check on your father. Then take their affidavit that he is deceased to an estate attorney
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My work has started a staff lounge and are requiring us as employees to each take a month to stock the food and drinks, out of our own pockets. Can an employer force their employees to purchase food and drinks for the rest of staff? I live in California. Is this breaking any laws, or is it just bad practice? I would think the better approach would be to have an optional sign up sheet. Thanks for any help :)
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Do they plan to reimburse you?
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What has the employer actually said? (For example, did they say, "Employees will need to bring in their own snacks"? Did they say, "We will assign an employee each month who will be responsible for providing bagels, coffee and soda each day, and if they fail to do so, they will be fired"?)
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My work has started a staff lounge and are requiring us as employees to each take a month to stock the food and drinks, out of our own pockets. Can an employer force their employees to purchase food and drinks for the rest of staff? I live in California. Is this breaking any laws, or is it just bad practice? I would think the better approach would be to have an optional sign up sheet. Thanks for any help :)
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Do they plan to reimburse you?
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What do you mean by required? What was the actual wording?
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My work has started a staff lounge and are requiring us as employees to each take a month to stock the food and drinks, out of our own pockets. Can an employer force their employees to purchase food and drinks for the rest of staff? I live in California. Is this breaking any laws, or is it just bad practice? I would think the better approach would be to have an optional sign up sheet. Thanks for any help :)
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They can't make you spend money on their snack pantry. I'd recommend you not take any snacks if you don't plan to buy any snacks.
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Do they plan to reimburse you?
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My work has started a staff lounge and are requiring us as employees to each take a month to stock the food and drinks, out of our own pockets. Can an employer force their employees to purchase food and drinks for the rest of staff? I live in California. Is this breaking any laws, or is it just bad practice? I would think the better approach would be to have an optional sign up sheet. Thanks for any help :)
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They can't make you spend money on their snack pantry. I'd recommend you not take any snacks if you don't plan to buy any snacks.
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All I can find is information about whether an employer can purchase you to buy their products (the answer is no) but nothing readily available about stocking at your own expense. I would suggest checking with your state department of labor. I would also suggest a response of, "I don't have any money to do that" for now.
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My work has started a staff lounge and are requiring us as employees to each take a month to stock the food and drinks, out of our own pockets. Can an employer force their employees to purchase food and drinks for the rest of staff? I live in California. Is this breaking any laws, or is it just bad practice? I would think the better approach would be to have an optional sign up sheet. Thanks for any help :)
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They can't make you spend money on their snack pantry. I'd recommend you not take any snacks if you don't plan to buy any snacks.
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I dont do employment law, nor am I barred in CA, but im fairly certain that your employer can't legally mandate you to use your own funds to stock their pantry. Check your employment contract and CA employment statutes. If you're really worried, call an attorney, we generally provide free consultations.
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[PENNSYLVANIA] 33 years old, lived in family home all my life on SSDI -- never paid rent or had a lease agreement. Am I a tenant at will? Hello, I've recently contracted $60, 000 of improvements on the family home. My father encouraged me to do so, and co-signed for some of the work. I was told the house was in an irrevocable trust in my name, but now after I spent all my life savings, he says he lost the trust document. He is refusing to commit to paying me back. I tried offering a Loan Agreement to settle it, and he said no. Am I then technically a tenant at will, and do I have no legal interest or ownership in the improvements I made? Very confused, scared, and concerned I've been exploited.
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You can look up the deed and/or property tax bill to the house to see the ownership. It should be free or only a couple of bucks
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It sounds like your father is lying to you and is exploiting you. Such a trust would need to be on file with the county, call county records and find out how to look that up. Don’t believe anything your father says and don’t take legal advice from him. Contact PA Adult Protective Services and tell them you are disabled and being financially exploited https://www.dhs.pa.gov/about/Fraud-And-Abuse/Pages/Adult-Protective-Services.aspx Call legal aid and see if they can help you. Contact PA disability rights https://www.disabilityrightspa.org/get-help/intake/ . Keep your own copies of any contracts you signed. You may have a case against your father for theft by deception, but it might be difficult to prove. Do not sign anything your father gives you without having your own lawyer review it. If you can scrape together the cash, consult with your own lawyer. Explain you’re on disability, you were tricked into paying for improvements on a house by being told the house was yours in trust, and you wonder if you have any recourse. Also, check your credit. A father who does this to his son is not beyond taking out credit in your name or committing identity theft. If you find he has done this, report him to the police, DA, adult protective services, and the credit companies he defrauded.
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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If you did have palys or zoas in the tank that went undisturbed for 2 years and unleashed the palytoxin on the new owners, they probably did something wrong such as handling the tank without gloves. Which isn't your fault. I guess see what they get diagnosed with at the hospital. And see if you have any pictures of the tank showing the corals and can identify if you actually had palys or zoas. Don't accept any blame or responsibility or use the words "I poisoned them" or anything. If it was, in fact, the corals, they probably poisoned themselves via unsafe handling.
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Wouldn't this be their fault if, like you said, they were to have touched their mouths/faces without washing their hands after touching the rocks/coral. Like blaming a grocery store you buy raw chicken from if you get sick from handling raw chicken without following proper/common sense safety procedure (hand washing)
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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I am not a lawyer. Currently, you need to document EVERYTHING. All your texts with them, any emails, a bill of sale, everything. If you have original receipts for the Coral, find them. If not, try and find a bank or credit card statement from the pet shop. You might even go back to pet shop and get any and all information you possibly can on this type of coral. Do not admit any fault in your correspondence with them. Do not use the word "poisoned." While I'm not sure you need a lawyer right now, if you get even the slightest hint that they might pursue you for damages or recompense, you need to immediately stop all contact with them and lawyer up. It's not that they have a case (based on what you've provided, I believe the don't) but the stakes are so high that you could in theory wind up in jail or with 5-figure medical bills.
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If you did have palys or zoas in the tank that went undisturbed for 2 years and unleashed the palytoxin on the new owners, they probably did something wrong such as handling the tank without gloves. Which isn't your fault. I guess see what they get diagnosed with at the hospital. And see if you have any pictures of the tank showing the corals and can identify if you actually had palys or zoas. Don't accept any blame or responsibility or use the words "I poisoned them" or anything. If it was, in fact, the corals, they probably poisoned themselves via unsafe handling.
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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You didn't do it knowingly, they'd have to prove you knowingly poisoned them.
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If you did have palys or zoas in the tank that went undisturbed for 2 years and unleashed the palytoxin on the new owners, they probably did something wrong such as handling the tank without gloves. Which isn't your fault. I guess see what they get diagnosed with at the hospital. And see if you have any pictures of the tank showing the corals and can identify if you actually had palys or zoas. Don't accept any blame or responsibility or use the words "I poisoned them" or anything. If it was, in fact, the corals, they probably poisoned themselves via unsafe handling.
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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You didn't do it knowingly, they'd have to prove you knowingly poisoned them.
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I am not a lawyer. Currently, you need to document EVERYTHING. All your texts with them, any emails, a bill of sale, everything. If you have original receipts for the Coral, find them. If not, try and find a bank or credit card statement from the pet shop. You might even go back to pet shop and get any and all information you possibly can on this type of coral. Do not admit any fault in your correspondence with them. Do not use the word "poisoned." While I'm not sure you need a lawyer right now, if you get even the slightest hint that they might pursue you for damages or recompense, you need to immediately stop all contact with them and lawyer up. It's not that they have a case (based on what you've provided, I believe the don't) but the stakes are so high that you could in theory wind up in jail or with 5-figure medical bills.
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97hila
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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This is from the CDC website regarding this type of poison. I dont think they'd have a case based on what I am reading here, even if they'd try coming back to sue. The first two sentances of the first paragraph, and the last sentence of the last paragraph seem to rule in your favor. "No U.S. regulations govern the testing or labeling of coral that might contain toxins, including palytoxin. Regulations for the importation of corals currently enforced by the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service pertain to endangered species and reflect ecological concerns (*9*). General recommendations on coral handling and decontamination practices would be helpful for hobbyists, commercial coral growers, and the public health and clinical provider communities. Currently, no official evidence-based recommendations exist for proper personal protective equipment use for coral hobbyists and aquarium shop staff, and development of such recommendations might be helpful. Activities that could potentially produce aerosols (e.g., scrubbing or using hot water to remove zoanthids) should be undertaken with caution. Patients A, B, and C did not handle any of the corals directly; rather, they were present in the home shortly after the introduction of palytoxin-containing zoanthids to the aquarium. Until data from controlled inhalation experiments in an animal model are available, this apparent link between palytoxin and inhalation toxicity will remain associative and evidence-based recommendations on appropriate respiratory protection or handling best practices will not be possible."
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You didn't do it knowingly, they'd have to prove you knowingly poisoned them.
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97hila
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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e49ilpd
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Would a reasonable person selling used tank furniture under the circumstances you did know that they might be contaminated with a toxic mold/fungus/whatever? If not, then this is probably a "you get one chance" circumstance. The next time you sell something, you would have actual knowledge of the potential harm, so if this incident today were known at this hypothetical future point, the future victim would have a stronger (but not slam-dunk) claim.
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Unpopular opinion: could this be a scam?
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97hila
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legaladvice_train
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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e49ilpd
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You didn't do it knowingly, they'd have to prove you knowingly poisoned them.
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Unpopular opinion: could this be a scam?
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97hila
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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e48ca03
| 1,534,376,392 | 1,534,340,026 | 18 | 2 |
Would a reasonable person selling used tank furniture under the circumstances you did know that they might be contaminated with a toxic mold/fungus/whatever? If not, then this is probably a "you get one chance" circumstance. The next time you sell something, you would have actual knowledge of the potential harm, so if this incident today were known at this hypothetical future point, the future victim would have a stronger (but not slam-dunk) claim.
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You didn't do it knowingly, they'd have to prove you knowingly poisoned them.
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97hila
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I may have inadvertently poisoned a family.... They are currently in the ER TN] I sold one of my 2 fishtanks to a family yesterday. Told them to call me with any questions on the setup, which they did. I stepped them through setting it up, everything went smoothly. Until this morning, around 5:00 a.m. I get a text saying they've been up all night with burning throats & are going to the ER. After I made sure they hadn't done something like add cleaning chemicals, or inhaled a big cloud of salt adding it into the water, he asked me if it could be palytoxin, which is found in some corals. I told him I wasn't sure, as I didn't actually buy the corals individually, they came attached to the rocks when I bought them initially, so I really didn't know what type they were. After doing some research, it does sound like they could have been that type of coral. \[Here's a story of a family in TX almost dying after exposure\]([https://www.ajc.com/news/national/toxic-airborne-poison-from-aquarium-coral-nearly-kills-texas-family/9UYssdEXyE9htOuFQTyTcM/). I've kept fish tanks for about 6 years & these types of corals for about 2 years. I've never had an issue with them causing any of the symptoms they described, or I would have gotten rid of them months ago. I must just be immune. When I bought them from the aquarium store they never mentioned anything about them potentially being dangerous. This makes me think that I can't be in too much legal jeopardy, or else every aquarium store that sells these corals without big warning labels would be as well. I'll update the thread as I get more info from them, they're currently at the ER. From what I've read, if there were going to be any life-threatening major symptoms, the stuff acts pretty quick. Plus, the only severe cases I found were where people had boiled rocks with coral on it & inhaled huge quantities. It sounds like this family just touched the corals while setting them up & wiped their mouths or ate without washing their hands afterward. So not pleasant, but not lethal either. I just wanted to know if there's any legal worries on my end. I had literally zero clue they might be dangerous, I've had them for years with no issues whatsoever. I told them I didn't really know what type they were & never guaranteed anything about them being safe (not that I would have known that needed a guarantee in the first place).
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You didn't do it knowingly, they'd have to prove you knowingly poisoned them.
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I am not a lawyer. I would recommend that you stop communicating with them immediately and under no circumstance admit fault (or the potential that you're at fault). If they try to bill you for the hospital visit, please obtain a lawyer. If you are unclear what type of lawyer to speak with, you can call your state BAR association and ask for a recommendation on what lawyers are practicing in your area that could assist.
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduosi4
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iduq1oj
| 1,656,278,177 | 1,656,278,738 | 3,264 | 3,842 |
Call the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 Not the day your flight leaves. Do it today. Explain your situation. They will be able to help.
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There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduosi4
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iduirmw
| 1,656,278,177 | 1,656,275,512 | 3,264 | 1,279 |
Call the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 Not the day your flight leaves. Do it today. Explain your situation. They will be able to help.
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Short answer, don't get on the plane. No airline is going to drag you kicking and screaming onto a flight to Yemen.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idunxhf
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iduosi4
| 1,656,277,791 | 1,656,278,177 | 1,279 | 3,264 |
Also if you can, get a hold of your passport and any other documents. Hide them away outside of your home
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Call the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 Not the day your flight leaves. Do it today. Explain your situation. They will be able to help.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduosi4
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idulctj
| 1,656,278,177 | 1,656,276,655 | 3,264 | 1,047 |
Call the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 Not the day your flight leaves. Do it today. Explain your situation. They will be able to help.
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When going through TSA, you can request a private screening and then tell the officer in the private screening about your fears. You can also flag an officer anywhere at the airport and ask for help. Do not, under any circumstances, get on the plane. Here is USCIS’s site that has some info, and this link has some resources you can reach out to.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idunstn
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iduosi4
| 1,656,277,732 | 1,656,278,177 | 478 | 3,264 |
Leave and go to a domestic abuse shelter. This is abuse. Call them and get guidance.
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Call the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 Not the day your flight leaves. Do it today. Explain your situation. They will be able to help.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduirmw
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iduq1oj
| 1,656,275,512 | 1,656,278,738 | 1,279 | 3,842 |
Short answer, don't get on the plane. No airline is going to drag you kicking and screaming onto a flight to Yemen.
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There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduq1oj
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idunxhf
| 1,656,278,738 | 1,656,277,791 | 3,842 | 1,279 |
There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
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Also if you can, get a hold of your passport and any other documents. Hide them away outside of your home
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idulctj
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iduq1oj
| 1,656,276,655 | 1,656,278,738 | 1,047 | 3,842 |
When going through TSA, you can request a private screening and then tell the officer in the private screening about your fears. You can also flag an officer anywhere at the airport and ask for help. Do not, under any circumstances, get on the plane. Here is USCIS’s site that has some info, and this link has some resources you can reach out to.
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There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduq1oj
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idunstn
| 1,656,278,738 | 1,656,277,732 | 3,842 | 478 |
There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
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Leave and go to a domestic abuse shelter. This is abuse. Call them and get guidance.
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vldmkq
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legaladvice_train
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family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduoyb8
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iduq1oj
| 1,656,278,250 | 1,656,278,738 | 206 | 3,842 |
This was just based on some quick Googling, but I suspect that reaching out for this NGO tomorrow and talking with them is probably the best way for you to gather good information: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/
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There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
| 0 | 488 | 18.650485 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idupc64
|
iduq1oj
| 1,656,278,423 | 1,656,278,738 | 149 | 3,842 |
Depending on where you live, you may be considered an adult at 17. Do not get on the plane. Make a scene. However its better if you can, to grab whatever you can/need and leave before the flight.
|
There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
| 0 | 315 | 25.785235 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduq1oj
|
idupv5l
| 1,656,278,738 | 1,656,278,658 | 3,842 | 67 |
There is a lot of good advice in this thread. Like calling hot-lines like the National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 or calling phone numbers like the one here: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/ Please, please go through all if necessary, do it as soon as you can, and as others have suggested, under no circumstance get on the plane. Even if it goes as far as you being at the airport, you can ask to talk to TSA staff, and explain that you are being forced to board. If someone physically wouldn't let you interact with staff or freely move around at the airport, at the earliest checkpoint booth you can ask or even yell for help. Please take care of yourself, and seek help as soon as you can! I wish you the best!
|
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
| 1 | 80 | 57.343284 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduirmw
|
idutzo5
| 1,656,275,512 | 1,656,280,509 | 1,279 | 2,131 |
Short answer, don't get on the plane. No airline is going to drag you kicking and screaming onto a flight to Yemen.
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I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
| 0 | 4,997 | 1.666145 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idunxhf
|
idutzo5
| 1,656,277,791 | 1,656,280,509 | 1,279 | 2,131 |
Also if you can, get a hold of your passport and any other documents. Hide them away outside of your home
|
I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
| 0 | 2,718 | 1.666145 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idulctj
|
idutzo5
| 1,656,276,655 | 1,656,280,509 | 1,047 | 2,131 |
When going through TSA, you can request a private screening and then tell the officer in the private screening about your fears. You can also flag an officer anywhere at the airport and ask for help. Do not, under any circumstances, get on the plane. Here is USCIS’s site that has some info, and this link has some resources you can reach out to.
|
I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
| 0 | 3,854 | 2.035339 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idunstn
|
idutzo5
| 1,656,277,732 | 1,656,280,509 | 478 | 2,131 |
Leave and go to a domestic abuse shelter. This is abuse. Call them and get guidance.
|
I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
| 0 | 2,777 | 4.458159 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idutzo5
|
iduri4h
| 1,656,280,509 | 1,656,279,384 | 2,131 | 474 |
I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
|
New York also has a Covenant House by the Port Authority Bus Terminal (42nd st). It is a homeless teenager shelter with various support services. If you really have no options catch a train to Times Square with a togo bag and just start over. If you are nervous about leaving home, just ask yourself would your rather start over in Yemen or NYC?
| 1 | 1,125 | 4.495781 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduoyb8
|
idutzo5
| 1,656,278,250 | 1,656,280,509 | 206 | 2,131 |
This was just based on some quick Googling, but I suspect that reaching out for this NGO tomorrow and talking with them is probably the best way for you to gather good information: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/
|
I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
| 0 | 2,259 | 10.34466 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idupc64
|
idutzo5
| 1,656,278,423 | 1,656,280,509 | 149 | 2,131 |
Depending on where you live, you may be considered an adult at 17. Do not get on the plane. Make a scene. However its better if you can, to grab whatever you can/need and leave before the flight.
|
I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
| 0 | 2,086 | 14.302013 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idupv5l
|
idutzo5
| 1,656,278,658 | 1,656,280,509 | 67 | 2,131 |
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
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I’m a flight attendant and as people have said, please use all resources available before you ever get to the airport such as the hotlines, teen organizations, and safe houses - literally anything to be safe and stay in NYC. However, as someone said, if you do get as far as being forced to the airport, you can tell a TSA agent you are being forced to travel against your will and don’t want to go or you can say the same thing to a flight attendant. We are trained to report these things and handle them. We can get law enforcement involved and get you to a safe and secure place and you won’t be forced to travel.
| 0 | 1,851 | 31.80597 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idulctj
|
idunxhf
| 1,656,276,655 | 1,656,277,791 | 1,047 | 1,279 |
When going through TSA, you can request a private screening and then tell the officer in the private screening about your fears. You can also flag an officer anywhere at the airport and ask for help. Do not, under any circumstances, get on the plane. Here is USCIS’s site that has some info, and this link has some resources you can reach out to.
|
Also if you can, get a hold of your passport and any other documents. Hide them away outside of your home
| 0 | 1,136 | 1.221585 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idunstn
|
idunxhf
| 1,656,277,732 | 1,656,277,791 | 478 | 1,279 |
Leave and go to a domestic abuse shelter. This is abuse. Call them and get guidance.
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Also if you can, get a hold of your passport and any other documents. Hide them away outside of your home
| 0 | 59 | 2.675732 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idunstn
|
idv136y
| 1,656,277,732 | 1,656,283,813 | 478 | 540 |
Leave and go to a domestic abuse shelter. This is abuse. Call them and get guidance.
|
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
| 0 | 6,081 | 1.129707 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
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idunstn
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,277,732 | 834 | 478 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
Leave and go to a domestic abuse shelter. This is abuse. Call them and get guidance.
| 1 | 5,986 | 1.74477 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduri4h
|
idv136y
| 1,656,279,384 | 1,656,283,813 | 474 | 540 |
New York also has a Covenant House by the Port Authority Bus Terminal (42nd st). It is a homeless teenager shelter with various support services. If you really have no options catch a train to Times Square with a togo bag and just start over. If you are nervous about leaving home, just ask yourself would your rather start over in Yemen or NYC?
|
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
| 0 | 4,429 | 1.139241 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
|
iduri4h
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,279,384 | 834 | 474 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
New York also has a Covenant House by the Port Authority Bus Terminal (42nd st). It is a homeless teenager shelter with various support services. If you really have no options catch a train to Times Square with a togo bag and just start over. If you are nervous about leaving home, just ask yourself would your rather start over in Yemen or NYC?
| 1 | 4,334 | 1.759494 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduri4h
|
iduoyb8
| 1,656,279,384 | 1,656,278,250 | 474 | 206 |
New York also has a Covenant House by the Port Authority Bus Terminal (42nd st). It is a homeless teenager shelter with various support services. If you really have no options catch a train to Times Square with a togo bag and just start over. If you are nervous about leaving home, just ask yourself would your rather start over in Yemen or NYC?
|
This was just based on some quick Googling, but I suspect that reaching out for this NGO tomorrow and talking with them is probably the best way for you to gather good information: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/
| 1 | 1,134 | 2.300971 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduri4h
|
idupc64
| 1,656,279,384 | 1,656,278,423 | 474 | 149 |
New York also has a Covenant House by the Port Authority Bus Terminal (42nd st). It is a homeless teenager shelter with various support services. If you really have no options catch a train to Times Square with a togo bag and just start over. If you are nervous about leaving home, just ask yourself would your rather start over in Yemen or NYC?
|
Depending on where you live, you may be considered an adult at 17. Do not get on the plane. Make a scene. However its better if you can, to grab whatever you can/need and leave before the flight.
| 1 | 961 | 3.181208 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduri4h
|
idupv5l
| 1,656,279,384 | 1,656,278,658 | 474 | 67 |
New York also has a Covenant House by the Port Authority Bus Terminal (42nd st). It is a homeless teenager shelter with various support services. If you really have no options catch a train to Times Square with a togo bag and just start over. If you are nervous about leaving home, just ask yourself would your rather start over in Yemen or NYC?
|
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
| 1 | 726 | 7.074627 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv136y
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iduoyb8
| 1,656,283,813 | 1,656,278,250 | 540 | 206 |
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
|
This was just based on some quick Googling, but I suspect that reaching out for this NGO tomorrow and talking with them is probably the best way for you to gather good information: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/
| 1 | 5,563 | 2.621359 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduy0d0
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idv136y
| 1,656,282,365 | 1,656,283,813 | 216 | 540 |
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
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Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
| 0 | 1,448 | 2.5 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idupc64
|
idv136y
| 1,656,278,423 | 1,656,283,813 | 149 | 540 |
Depending on where you live, you may be considered an adult at 17. Do not get on the plane. Make a scene. However its better if you can, to grab whatever you can/need and leave before the flight.
|
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
| 0 | 5,390 | 3.624161 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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iduzjr7
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idv136y
| 1,656,283,088 | 1,656,283,813 | 230 | 540 |
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
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Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
| 0 | 725 | 2.347826 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv136y
|
idupv5l
| 1,656,283,813 | 1,656,278,658 | 540 | 67 |
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
|
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
| 1 | 5,155 | 8.059701 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
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idv136y
|
iduxu5d
| 1,656,283,813 | 1,656,282,286 | 540 | 59 |
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
|
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
| 1 | 1,527 | 9.152542 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduxcfi
|
idv136y
| 1,656,282,061 | 1,656,283,813 | 59 | 540 |
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
|
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
| 0 | 1,752 | 9.152542 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv136y
|
iduuxtb
| 1,656,283,813 | 1,656,280,944 | 540 | 40 |
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
| 1 | 2,869 | 13.5 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0dlz
|
idv136y
| 1,656,283,477 | 1,656,283,813 | 41 | 540 |
Get in touch with a community organization that can expedite your emancipation, and then subsequently if you have dual citizenship renounce your Yemeni citizenship at the Yemeni embassy. NYPD will take accusations of human trafficking extremely seriously, if you need to use that card as well.
|
Hey OP, a lot of people are glazing over the fact that you may love your family and don’t want to make them angry or throw you out, but you don’t want to get forced into a marriage. If you’re Muslim, you can go over to r/exmuslim and ask for advice about how to deal with the family side of things (AFTER taking steps listed here, to first make sure you’re safe). There are people over there that have gone through similar situations and might have advice on how to deal with the family side of things. Whatever you do, don’t let yourself be coerced or convinced or guilted into doing it, there are a lot of horror stories and once you’re over there, it’s much more difficult, if not impossible, to escape and come back. Hold your ground, you have a lot of resources in NYC.
| 0 | 336 | 13.170732 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduoyb8
|
idv0w24
| 1,656,278,250 | 1,656,283,718 | 206 | 834 |
This was just based on some quick Googling, but I suspect that reaching out for this NGO tomorrow and talking with them is probably the best way for you to gather good information: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/
|
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
| 0 | 5,468 | 4.048544 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduy0d0
|
idv0w24
| 1,656,282,365 | 1,656,283,718 | 216 | 834 |
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
|
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
| 0 | 1,353 | 3.861111 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
|
idupc64
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,278,423 | 834 | 149 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
Depending on where you live, you may be considered an adult at 17. Do not get on the plane. Make a scene. However its better if you can, to grab whatever you can/need and leave before the flight.
| 1 | 5,295 | 5.597315 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
|
iduzjr7
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,283,088 | 834 | 230 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
| 1 | 630 | 3.626087 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
|
idupv5l
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,278,658 | 834 | 67 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
| 1 | 5,060 | 12.447761 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
|
iduxu5d
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,282,286 | 834 | 59 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
| 1 | 1,432 | 14.135593 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
|
iduxcfi
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,282,061 | 834 | 59 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
| 1 | 1,657 | 14.135593 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0w24
|
iduuxtb
| 1,656,283,718 | 1,656,280,944 | 834 | 40 |
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
|
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
| 1 | 2,774 | 20.85 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idv0dlz
|
idv0w24
| 1,656,283,477 | 1,656,283,718 | 41 | 834 |
Get in touch with a community organization that can expedite your emancipation, and then subsequently if you have dual citizenship renounce your Yemeni citizenship at the Yemeni embassy. NYPD will take accusations of human trafficking extremely seriously, if you need to use that card as well.
|
Have you tried to report your passport as lost on their website or stolen? It completely invalidates the passport so it can’t be used whatsoever until they reapply for a new one which takes months. I say this because nobody will know you did anything until the day of the trip. And I mean you technically wouldn’t be lying either. If they refuse to give it to you, that means they stole it so its not lying.
| 0 | 241 | 20.341463 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduy0d0
|
iduoyb8
| 1,656,282,365 | 1,656,278,250 | 216 | 206 |
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
|
This was just based on some quick Googling, but I suspect that reaching out for this NGO tomorrow and talking with them is probably the best way for you to gather good information: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/
| 1 | 4,115 | 1.048544 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduoyb8
|
iduzjr7
| 1,656,278,250 | 1,656,283,088 | 206 | 230 |
This was just based on some quick Googling, but I suspect that reaching out for this NGO tomorrow and talking with them is probably the best way for you to gather good information: https://preventforcedmarriage.org/get-help/
|
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
| 0 | 4,838 | 1.116505 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idupc64
|
iduy0d0
| 1,656,278,423 | 1,656,282,365 | 149 | 216 |
Depending on where you live, you may be considered an adult at 17. Do not get on the plane. Make a scene. However its better if you can, to grab whatever you can/need and leave before the flight.
|
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
| 0 | 3,942 | 1.449664 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduy0d0
|
iduzjr7
| 1,656,282,365 | 1,656,283,088 | 216 | 230 |
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
|
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
| 0 | 723 | 1.064815 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
idupv5l
|
iduy0d0
| 1,656,278,658 | 1,656,282,365 | 67 | 216 |
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
|
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
| 0 | 3,707 | 3.223881 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduy0d0
|
iduxu5d
| 1,656,282,365 | 1,656,282,286 | 216 | 59 |
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
|
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
| 1 | 79 | 3.661017 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduxcfi
|
iduy0d0
| 1,656,282,061 | 1,656,282,365 | 59 | 216 |
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
|
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
| 0 | 304 | 3.661017 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduuxtb
|
iduy0d0
| 1,656,280,944 | 1,656,282,365 | 40 | 216 |
Assuming you are a US citizen, Call the department of state consular affairs emergency phone line.
|
Leave. Honor killing is still a thing.
| 0 | 1,421 | 5.4 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduzjr7
|
idupc64
| 1,656,283,088 | 1,656,278,423 | 230 | 149 |
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
|
Depending on where you live, you may be considered an adult at 17. Do not get on the plane. Make a scene. However its better if you can, to grab whatever you can/need and leave before the flight.
| 1 | 4,665 | 1.543624 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduzjr7
|
idupv5l
| 1,656,283,088 | 1,656,278,658 | 230 | 67 |
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
|
Try https://www.unchainedatlast.org/
| 1 | 4,430 | 3.432836 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduxu5d
|
iduzjr7
| 1,656,282,286 | 1,656,283,088 | 59 | 230 |
Call the human trafficking hotline. If somehow you get on the plane ask for a private screener. Tell them what's going on. They will contact the proper authorities
|
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
| 0 | 802 | 3.898305 |
vldmkq
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
family want to send me to yemen and force marriage at 17yr i am 17 i live in nyc and my family want to send me back to yemen next month and force a marriage, i dont want to so what can i do about it ?
|
iduxcfi
|
iduzjr7
| 1,656,282,061 | 1,656,283,088 | 59 | 230 |
few tips. 1 Call National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888 ASAP. There so many cases where parents tell kids there going to there home country in two weeks then immediately the next day they take them. Also here the link to https://www.unchainedatlast.org/get-help/ they help with force marriages. Hide your passport somewhere far away from your home and other personal documents. if this is not a choice. Make sure to inform tsa that you are being forced to board. AND DO NOT GET ON THE PLANE. Once in Yemen it will be impossible for anyone to do anything to help you
|
Excellent advice upthread. If you are too afraid to contact any of the above listed organizations or if you fear that your calls or internet use are being monitored take the subway and bring yourself to the nearest E.R. If your family asks, tell them that you are having abdominal pain or menstrual cramps (easy to fake). When you are admitted to the E.R., tell the nurses and doctors the true reason why you are there. You are a child and they are mandated reporters, so they are required to contact CPS and law enforcement. Act as fast as you can. I know it seems scary, but there are many organizations in NYC who will help you get to a safe place. You can do this.
| 0 | 1,027 | 3.898305 |
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