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[WI] can my son’s orthodontist office refuse to discuss his treatment with me simply because they only have room for one parent name in their system? I have completely shared legal custody and placement as well as responsibility for medical costs/decisions. I recently called the office to discuss insurance and payment for upcoming braces and I was told that I would have to get permission from my ex-husband for them to speak with me because we are no longer married. Dumbfounded, I continued to probe after getting each seemingly nonsensical answer why and it apparently boils down to them only having a single parent field in their software, so they require other non-married parents to have their ex sign an ROI. I find this to be highly suspect and I just want make sure I know what I am talking about when I call them back. To maybe put it more simply- all things being equal, do I have a legal right to my son’s healthcare information or to discuss tx options? FWIW - my ex and I are friendly and there are no safety concerns, but he’s getting annoyed being interrupted at work to approve the sharing of info before our next appointment.
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ihoj130
| 1,658,797,515 | 1,658,814,455 | 12 | 24 |
How old is your son?
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Not a lawyer, but I have the same custody arrangement and deal with this regularly. What helps me is to ask to speak to their legal department. Whether or not they have one, they quickly put me in touch with someone who has the appropriate authority. Then I can arrange to send them a copy of the custody order, after which they become quite apologetic and compliant. It's usually as simple as emailing or faxing it to them, although it's annoying to even have to do that.
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sv36dz
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My Mom's Car Lit on fire 15 minutes after getting home from a well known and Large Honda dealership. The car is burned down and totaled and the fire burned long enough that it damaged the side of our house. So to jump right in. My parents own a 2010 Honda minivan and this last week they went in to the dealership it was bought from to get some work done after the car started having issues starting. Anyways at about 5 pm today they went and picked up the car and goes in side after parking it outside the house. About 15 minutes later we have neighbors 6 houses down banging on our door yelling the cars on fire. my mom goes out and they start housing it down from our house hose and then the fire department shows up and finishes the job and then we have some police officers come and take some statements. The issues is, the car is totaled, I know nothing about cars, but I know that. The engine is completely black and the hood and front bumper is ash on the ground. that and the nearest portions of the house to the car are completely melted. ​ So the question is, how do we proceed with this? do we call the dealership and just ask them to replace the car? do we get a lawyer and sue? do we call the home owners or cars insurance for this. My parents don't have a lot of money and can not finance a lawsuit themselves, nor higher a lawyer if were being completely honest. We live in Texas if that information is pertinent to Legal advice. Any advice is appreciated:
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hxeh1w9
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hxe56lo
| 1,645,155,359 | 1,645,149,917 | 60 | 43 |
Not a lawyer but a rally mechanic! I’ve seen cars catch fire before directly after having starting issues repaired. Usually the power wire that goes to the starter isn’t tightened down fully, so when you’re driving down the road that wire will ground itself out on the starter housing causing a super easy path for electricity to get to a ground. The thing about electricity is that it ALWAYS takes the path with the least resistance to ground. Which means a lot of amps start pumping through that wire causing it to get hot and eventually catch fire. Again I am NOT a lawyer, just figured I’d give you a place to look to see if you can find where it might have started. Best of luck! Oh and plug your nose, electrical fires in cars stank something fierce!
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What kind of work was done to the car? What surface was it parked on by your house? What was the weather where you live? Auto body tech here. 15 years experience in collision and structural repair.
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sv36dz
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My Mom's Car Lit on fire 15 minutes after getting home from a well known and Large Honda dealership. The car is burned down and totaled and the fire burned long enough that it damaged the side of our house. So to jump right in. My parents own a 2010 Honda minivan and this last week they went in to the dealership it was bought from to get some work done after the car started having issues starting. Anyways at about 5 pm today they went and picked up the car and goes in side after parking it outside the house. About 15 minutes later we have neighbors 6 houses down banging on our door yelling the cars on fire. my mom goes out and they start housing it down from our house hose and then the fire department shows up and finishes the job and then we have some police officers come and take some statements. The issues is, the car is totaled, I know nothing about cars, but I know that. The engine is completely black and the hood and front bumper is ash on the ground. that and the nearest portions of the house to the car are completely melted. ​ So the question is, how do we proceed with this? do we call the dealership and just ask them to replace the car? do we get a lawyer and sue? do we call the home owners or cars insurance for this. My parents don't have a lot of money and can not finance a lawsuit themselves, nor higher a lawyer if were being completely honest. We live in Texas if that information is pertinent to Legal advice. Any advice is appreciated:
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hxegpch
| 1,645,155,359 | 1,645,155,192 | 60 | 19 |
Not a lawyer but a rally mechanic! I’ve seen cars catch fire before directly after having starting issues repaired. Usually the power wire that goes to the starter isn’t tightened down fully, so when you’re driving down the road that wire will ground itself out on the starter housing causing a super easy path for electricity to get to a ground. The thing about electricity is that it ALWAYS takes the path with the least resistance to ground. Which means a lot of amps start pumping through that wire causing it to get hot and eventually catch fire. Again I am NOT a lawyer, just figured I’d give you a place to look to see if you can find where it might have started. Best of luck! Oh and plug your nose, electrical fires in cars stank something fierce!
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So your parents took their used car to the honda dealership for repairs after it had trouble starting (most likely starter, battery, wiring, ground related) and what was the outcome? Was it “repaired” services declined by your parents or?? That info is important But for sake of conversation let’s say the honda dealer fixed it and they let some fresh new tech work on it, more than likely he messed something up and forgot to check. Jobs done and your parents took back possession of the vehicle, they drove home parked it and then it caught fire… That sounds like the honda dealership made a big error that ultimately resulted in the total loss of the vehicle (electrical fire) Honda dealership pays $20k a year on insurance to cover stuff like this, call them up but be nice and firm, explain what happened. Email the owner/general manager preferrably like now so there’s proof you did notify someone. Call your insurance and explain that the honda dealership just did work on the vehicle and shortly after it caught fire. Hondas dealership should cover the retail cost of the 2010 minivan and refund the repairs that had just been paid out. Simple as that. So go on nada/kbb and figure out the retail value of the vehicle then stick to that number + repairs paid out prior to fire. 20 years car repair shop owner
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sv36dz
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legaladvice_train
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My Mom's Car Lit on fire 15 minutes after getting home from a well known and Large Honda dealership. The car is burned down and totaled and the fire burned long enough that it damaged the side of our house. So to jump right in. My parents own a 2010 Honda minivan and this last week they went in to the dealership it was bought from to get some work done after the car started having issues starting. Anyways at about 5 pm today they went and picked up the car and goes in side after parking it outside the house. About 15 minutes later we have neighbors 6 houses down banging on our door yelling the cars on fire. my mom goes out and they start housing it down from our house hose and then the fire department shows up and finishes the job and then we have some police officers come and take some statements. The issues is, the car is totaled, I know nothing about cars, but I know that. The engine is completely black and the hood and front bumper is ash on the ground. that and the nearest portions of the house to the car are completely melted. ​ So the question is, how do we proceed with this? do we call the dealership and just ask them to replace the car? do we get a lawyer and sue? do we call the home owners or cars insurance for this. My parents don't have a lot of money and can not finance a lawsuit themselves, nor higher a lawyer if were being completely honest. We live in Texas if that information is pertinent to Legal advice. Any advice is appreciated:
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hxeh1w9
| 1,645,153,964 | 1,645,155,359 | 7 | 60 |
Not a lawyer, but I work with lemon law. I don’t work with Honda however, so I don’t have any idea how they’ll handle it. Some manufacturers will buy back ANYTHING that catches on fire. Start by calling the dealership and throw a shit fit. Depending on the mileage the vehicle will likely qualify for repurchase. This is the website my organization uses to determine what qualifies: https://bbbprograms.org/programs/all-programs/bbb-autoline/lemon-laws-by-state/texas It’s entirely likely that the dealership will repurchase the vehicle themselves. If they don’t, threaten to call a lawyer. They’ll turn you over to Honda. See where you get with Honda before hiring a lawyer. The actual repurchase offer is determined by Texas Lemon Law. It’s not likely you’ll get more if you have a lawyer, though you’ll likely be awarded attorneys fees if you do. And the process will be quicker if Honda repurchases the vehicle to avoid a lawsuit.
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Not a lawyer but a rally mechanic! I’ve seen cars catch fire before directly after having starting issues repaired. Usually the power wire that goes to the starter isn’t tightened down fully, so when you’re driving down the road that wire will ground itself out on the starter housing causing a super easy path for electricity to get to a ground. The thing about electricity is that it ALWAYS takes the path with the least resistance to ground. Which means a lot of amps start pumping through that wire causing it to get hot and eventually catch fire. Again I am NOT a lawyer, just figured I’d give you a place to look to see if you can find where it might have started. Best of luck! Oh and plug your nose, electrical fires in cars stank something fierce!
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sv36dz
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legaladvice_train
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My Mom's Car Lit on fire 15 minutes after getting home from a well known and Large Honda dealership. The car is burned down and totaled and the fire burned long enough that it damaged the side of our house. So to jump right in. My parents own a 2010 Honda minivan and this last week they went in to the dealership it was bought from to get some work done after the car started having issues starting. Anyways at about 5 pm today they went and picked up the car and goes in side after parking it outside the house. About 15 minutes later we have neighbors 6 houses down banging on our door yelling the cars on fire. my mom goes out and they start housing it down from our house hose and then the fire department shows up and finishes the job and then we have some police officers come and take some statements. The issues is, the car is totaled, I know nothing about cars, but I know that. The engine is completely black and the hood and front bumper is ash on the ground. that and the nearest portions of the house to the car are completely melted. ​ So the question is, how do we proceed with this? do we call the dealership and just ask them to replace the car? do we get a lawyer and sue? do we call the home owners or cars insurance for this. My parents don't have a lot of money and can not finance a lawsuit themselves, nor higher a lawyer if were being completely honest. We live in Texas if that information is pertinent to Legal advice. Any advice is appreciated:
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hxegpch
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hxee4ed
| 1,645,155,192 | 1,645,153,964 | 19 | 7 |
So your parents took their used car to the honda dealership for repairs after it had trouble starting (most likely starter, battery, wiring, ground related) and what was the outcome? Was it “repaired” services declined by your parents or?? That info is important But for sake of conversation let’s say the honda dealer fixed it and they let some fresh new tech work on it, more than likely he messed something up and forgot to check. Jobs done and your parents took back possession of the vehicle, they drove home parked it and then it caught fire… That sounds like the honda dealership made a big error that ultimately resulted in the total loss of the vehicle (electrical fire) Honda dealership pays $20k a year on insurance to cover stuff like this, call them up but be nice and firm, explain what happened. Email the owner/general manager preferrably like now so there’s proof you did notify someone. Call your insurance and explain that the honda dealership just did work on the vehicle and shortly after it caught fire. Hondas dealership should cover the retail cost of the 2010 minivan and refund the repairs that had just been paid out. Simple as that. So go on nada/kbb and figure out the retail value of the vehicle then stick to that number + repairs paid out prior to fire. 20 years car repair shop owner
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Not a lawyer, but I work with lemon law. I don’t work with Honda however, so I don’t have any idea how they’ll handle it. Some manufacturers will buy back ANYTHING that catches on fire. Start by calling the dealership and throw a shit fit. Depending on the mileage the vehicle will likely qualify for repurchase. This is the website my organization uses to determine what qualifies: https://bbbprograms.org/programs/all-programs/bbb-autoline/lemon-laws-by-state/texas It’s entirely likely that the dealership will repurchase the vehicle themselves. If they don’t, threaten to call a lawyer. They’ll turn you over to Honda. See where you get with Honda before hiring a lawyer. The actual repurchase offer is determined by Texas Lemon Law. It’s not likely you’ll get more if you have a lawyer, though you’ll likely be awarded attorneys fees if you do. And the process will be quicker if Honda repurchases the vehicle to avoid a lawsuit.
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ymuoot
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legaladvice_train
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Grandma passed away a year ago and estate is finally in probate. She illegally gave her son up for adoption, no actual adoption papers filed but other family signed names on his birth certificate. He is now trying to take her entire estate. So when my Grandma passed away he cut her hair to prove they were biologically related. She always told us grandchildren in the will we would split everything evenly. The “adopted” child claims to have a will but it was never officially filed so is not valid. He claims there is no assets other than house and claims there are no pictures, jewelry, cars and there might possibly be two mortgages on the home and he has been making payments. The neutral lawyer has reached out to come to an agreement but my mother passed away giving her kids the estate to split. Do I have a case with this? Is it worth pursuing? Our mother left us nothing and we have no other family. Her “son” always treated my mom and us terribly and acted better than us. He is well off and has his own adoptive parents who also left him money. Sorry for the long post I appreciate the feedback.
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iv644mq
| 1,667,665,439 | 1,667,665,746 | 43 | 48 |
Was the other child ever actually adopted by anyone?
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What state are you in? Laws for "intestate" estates (estates without a will) vary by state but generally, if her children and siblings are gone, her assets will be distributed evenly between the remaining grandchildren. Look on your county bar association website's attorney referral page and call 2-3 estate attorneys. They can give you a rough idea of what it will cost to have them assist with the first steps and what might happen if the other grandchild tries to challenge.
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wh14gg
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legaladvice_train
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij2vpxv
| 1,659,720,523 | 1,659,720,744 | 310 | 643 |
> my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. How long are we talking here? Presumably, he still maintained parental rights. She arranged the adoption unilaterally? His charges are mere threats and may not have any standing - particularly against you - but it may be good to call around and get a consultation for if/when you are contacted. I'd be more concerned that the adoption would be deemed illegal and need to be unwound.
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You are probably fine, however in many locations his ex would have had to lie to get this done and that could undo the entier adoption.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij44emb
| 1,659,723,182 | 1,659,738,430 | 92 | 199 |
What state did this happen in? What steps has your brother taken to claim paternity? Some states have a Putative Father's registry, where he can say, in essence, I might be the father of this baby. The states that have those run checks against those registries before an adoption takes place. Has anyone verified that she actually gave the baby up through a legal adoption? She almost certainly lied, and that could, as another poster pointed out, give cause to undo the adoption.
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Your brother doesn't understand the difference between criminal and civil court so I wouldn't be worried. Kidnapping is a criminal matter. For criminal court. You've done nothing wrong, and no charges have been filed. (Though OP failed to mention a country or state?) If he wants to sue you personally in civil court (though I'm not sure what exactly he would sue for?? Anyone feel free to step in there.) that's an entirely different process and she would be the one being sued. Not you. It'd be an incredible stretch to see you having any involvement in this outside of being asked for testimony if charges were filed. Stop taking their calls. Stop communicating with them. Block their numbers. Keep every e-mail and text he or anyone 'on his side' send you, and do not respond to any of it. Until the police show up at your door or you are served for a civil court filing. Then you will need an attorney and anything they wish to tell you must be communicated through your attorney. All of this is intimidation tactics and nothing else. Be prepared with evidence but do not engage these people any more in any way. Also I'd stop trying to help "Keighla" here, too. Respectfully. She's your friend. You can be emotionally supportive, but if this were to enter the stage where lawsuits or charges are flying around, you could end up doing more harm than good here, especially if she did lie or isn't telling you the full truth of how this went down. (Not saying she did, but ...it's a ' too many cooks' situation.) She'll need her own attorney for that, and it will be her own battle. You don't need to speak for her, and you definitely do not need to speak to the aggressive possible-father of her child, family or not.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij44emb
| 1,659,731,199 | 1,659,738,430 | 61 | 199 |
THere's no crime of withholding information. If the child was in the custody of the mother, then it's not kidnapping, at least not without some custody order. Hard to think that you have any liability. If he's in touch with a lawyer, then it's almost certainly going to be because he wants to exercise his parental rights. That would include the ability to stop the adoption (adoptions are generally not finalized until well after the birth.)
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Your brother doesn't understand the difference between criminal and civil court so I wouldn't be worried. Kidnapping is a criminal matter. For criminal court. You've done nothing wrong, and no charges have been filed. (Though OP failed to mention a country or state?) If he wants to sue you personally in civil court (though I'm not sure what exactly he would sue for?? Anyone feel free to step in there.) that's an entirely different process and she would be the one being sued. Not you. It'd be an incredible stretch to see you having any involvement in this outside of being asked for testimony if charges were filed. Stop taking their calls. Stop communicating with them. Block their numbers. Keep every e-mail and text he or anyone 'on his side' send you, and do not respond to any of it. Until the police show up at your door or you are served for a civil court filing. Then you will need an attorney and anything they wish to tell you must be communicated through your attorney. All of this is intimidation tactics and nothing else. Be prepared with evidence but do not engage these people any more in any way. Also I'd stop trying to help "Keighla" here, too. Respectfully. She's your friend. You can be emotionally supportive, but if this were to enter the stage where lawsuits or charges are flying around, you could end up doing more harm than good here, especially if she did lie or isn't telling you the full truth of how this went down. (Not saying she did, but ...it's a ' too many cooks' situation.) She'll need her own attorney for that, and it will be her own battle. You don't need to speak for her, and you definitely do not need to speak to the aggressive possible-father of her child, family or not.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij3bd0w
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Your brother doesn't understand the difference between criminal and civil court so I wouldn't be worried. Kidnapping is a criminal matter. For criminal court. You've done nothing wrong, and no charges have been filed. (Though OP failed to mention a country or state?) If he wants to sue you personally in civil court (though I'm not sure what exactly he would sue for?? Anyone feel free to step in there.) that's an entirely different process and she would be the one being sued. Not you. It'd be an incredible stretch to see you having any involvement in this outside of being asked for testimony if charges were filed. Stop taking their calls. Stop communicating with them. Block their numbers. Keep every e-mail and text he or anyone 'on his side' send you, and do not respond to any of it. Until the police show up at your door or you are served for a civil court filing. Then you will need an attorney and anything they wish to tell you must be communicated through your attorney. All of this is intimidation tactics and nothing else. Be prepared with evidence but do not engage these people any more in any way. Also I'd stop trying to help "Keighla" here, too. Respectfully. She's your friend. You can be emotionally supportive, but if this were to enter the stage where lawsuits or charges are flying around, you could end up doing more harm than good here, especially if she did lie or isn't telling you the full truth of how this went down. (Not saying she did, but ...it's a ' too many cooks' situation.) She'll need her own attorney for that, and it will be her own battle. You don't need to speak for her, and you definitely do not need to speak to the aggressive possible-father of her child, family or not.
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Did she lie and say she didn't know who the father was? Your brother needs to get a lawyer and take his ex girlfriend to court asap. Either of them could subpoena you for information or testimony so you should prepare yourself for that. But while you should respond if served it is unlikely your borther will sue you civily. If the cops ask to speak to you do not talk to them without a lawyer.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij44emb
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Is your brother's name on the birth certificate?
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Your brother doesn't understand the difference between criminal and civil court so I wouldn't be worried. Kidnapping is a criminal matter. For criminal court. You've done nothing wrong, and no charges have been filed. (Though OP failed to mention a country or state?) If he wants to sue you personally in civil court (though I'm not sure what exactly he would sue for?? Anyone feel free to step in there.) that's an entirely different process and she would be the one being sued. Not you. It'd be an incredible stretch to see you having any involvement in this outside of being asked for testimony if charges were filed. Stop taking their calls. Stop communicating with them. Block their numbers. Keep every e-mail and text he or anyone 'on his side' send you, and do not respond to any of it. Until the police show up at your door or you are served for a civil court filing. Then you will need an attorney and anything they wish to tell you must be communicated through your attorney. All of this is intimidation tactics and nothing else. Be prepared with evidence but do not engage these people any more in any way. Also I'd stop trying to help "Keighla" here, too. Respectfully. She's your friend. You can be emotionally supportive, but if this were to enter the stage where lawsuits or charges are flying around, you could end up doing more harm than good here, especially if she did lie or isn't telling you the full truth of how this went down. (Not saying she did, but ...it's a ' too many cooks' situation.) She'll need her own attorney for that, and it will be her own battle. You don't need to speak for her, and you definitely do not need to speak to the aggressive possible-father of her child, family or not.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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Your brother can not charge you with anything. Only the state district attorney can.
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Your brother doesn't understand the difference between criminal and civil court so I wouldn't be worried. Kidnapping is a criminal matter. For criminal court. You've done nothing wrong, and no charges have been filed. (Though OP failed to mention a country or state?) If he wants to sue you personally in civil court (though I'm not sure what exactly he would sue for?? Anyone feel free to step in there.) that's an entirely different process and she would be the one being sued. Not you. It'd be an incredible stretch to see you having any involvement in this outside of being asked for testimony if charges were filed. Stop taking their calls. Stop communicating with them. Block their numbers. Keep every e-mail and text he or anyone 'on his side' send you, and do not respond to any of it. Until the police show up at your door or you are served for a civil court filing. Then you will need an attorney and anything they wish to tell you must be communicated through your attorney. All of this is intimidation tactics and nothing else. Be prepared with evidence but do not engage these people any more in any way. Also I'd stop trying to help "Keighla" here, too. Respectfully. She's your friend. You can be emotionally supportive, but if this were to enter the stage where lawsuits or charges are flying around, you could end up doing more harm than good here, especially if she did lie or isn't telling you the full truth of how this went down. (Not saying she did, but ...it's a ' too many cooks' situation.) She'll need her own attorney for that, and it will be her own battle. You don't need to speak for her, and you definitely do not need to speak to the aggressive possible-father of her child, family or not.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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Is your brother's name on the birth certificate?
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What state did this happen in? What steps has your brother taken to claim paternity? Some states have a Putative Father's registry, where he can say, in essence, I might be the father of this baby. The states that have those run checks against those registries before an adoption takes place. Has anyone verified that she actually gave the baby up through a legal adoption? She almost certainly lied, and that could, as another poster pointed out, give cause to undo the adoption.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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THere's no crime of withholding information. If the child was in the custody of the mother, then it's not kidnapping, at least not without some custody order. Hard to think that you have any liability. If he's in touch with a lawyer, then it's almost certainly going to be because he wants to exercise his parental rights. That would include the ability to stop the adoption (adoptions are generally not finalized until well after the birth.)
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Did she lie and say she didn't know who the father was? Your brother needs to get a lawyer and take his ex girlfriend to court asap. Either of them could subpoena you for information or testimony so you should prepare yourself for that. But while you should respond if served it is unlikely your borther will sue you civily. If the cops ask to speak to you do not talk to them without a lawyer.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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Is your brother's name on the birth certificate?
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THere's no crime of withholding information. If the child was in the custody of the mother, then it's not kidnapping, at least not without some custody order. Hard to think that you have any liability. If he's in touch with a lawyer, then it's almost certainly going to be because he wants to exercise his parental rights. That would include the ability to stop the adoption (adoptions are generally not finalized until well after the birth.)
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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Your brother can not charge you with anything. Only the state district attorney can.
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THere's no crime of withholding information. If the child was in the custody of the mother, then it's not kidnapping, at least not without some custody order. Hard to think that you have any liability. If he's in touch with a lawyer, then it's almost certainly going to be because he wants to exercise his parental rights. That would include the ability to stop the adoption (adoptions are generally not finalized until well after the birth.)
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij3bd0w
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Is your brother's name on the birth certificate?
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Did she lie and say she didn't know who the father was? Your brother needs to get a lawyer and take his ex girlfriend to court asap. Either of them could subpoena you for information or testimony so you should prepare yourself for that. But while you should respond if served it is unlikely your borther will sue you civily. If the cops ask to speak to you do not talk to them without a lawyer.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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Your brother can not charge you with anything. Only the state district attorney can.
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Did she lie and say she didn't know who the father was? Your brother needs to get a lawyer and take his ex girlfriend to court asap. Either of them could subpoena you for information or testimony so you should prepare yourself for that. But while you should respond if served it is unlikely your borther will sue you civily. If the cops ask to speak to you do not talk to them without a lawyer.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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Obviously this is gonna be very dependent on local/state laws where you live, but a quick Google search for my state indicates that in order for the father to have a say in even the adoption process, he has to *establish and acknowledge* paternity. As well as proving that he has a *commitment* to being a parent. Because he denied that the baby was his, and was not involved in the pregnancy whatsoever and the fact that they were never married he probably doesn't have a legitimate leg to stand on, no matter what legal route he chooses (suing you or his ex) and very much shot himself in the foot on ever being a part of this kids life. It really sucks that your parents seem to be really bad enablers because he's going to regret this decision, but will likely turn all of those feelings outward to blame everyone but himself. But as far you go you're legally in the clear, just avoid contact with him and document literally everything. Even a written log of the events that have led you to this point can be very helpful in court. Source (for my state): https://www.findlaw.com/family/paternity/parental-rights-unmarried-fathers-and-adoption.html
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Your brother can not charge you with anything. Only the state district attorney can.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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Obviously this is gonna be very dependent on local/state laws where you live, but a quick Google search for my state indicates that in order for the father to have a say in even the adoption process, he has to *establish and acknowledge* paternity. As well as proving that he has a *commitment* to being a parent. Because he denied that the baby was his, and was not involved in the pregnancy whatsoever and the fact that they were never married he probably doesn't have a legitimate leg to stand on, no matter what legal route he chooses (suing you or his ex) and very much shot himself in the foot on ever being a part of this kids life. It really sucks that your parents seem to be really bad enablers because he's going to regret this decision, but will likely turn all of those feelings outward to blame everyone but himself. But as far you go you're legally in the clear, just avoid contact with him and document literally everything. Even a written log of the events that have led you to this point can be very helpful in court. Source (for my state): https://www.findlaw.com/family/paternity/parental-rights-unmarried-fathers-and-adoption.html
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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I mean, he can sue you for whatever he wants. Anyone can sue for anything. But those aren't actually claims he can sue for specifically, and trying to get criminal charges against you would be a different story and doesn't sound likely given what you've explained. The thing is, depending on the state, unless he relinquished his rights to the child, and she knowingly did not give him the information about adoption, he would be able to go to court against her, and potentially be awarded some sort of custody, visitation, etc. Depends how much time has passed and so on. Typically adoptions of this sort with only 1 parent present have a sort of holding period before they can be finalized, to allow the other parent to contest it and assert their parental rights, etc. So his beef would be with the courts. What he should do is a) get a DNA test on file with the state to show parentage, and then file to assert the claims he is making. Not sure you want to help him with that info, but if he knew anything and DID talk to a lawyer, that's what they would likely have him do. For the record and for what it's worth, if anything happened like you or anyone else pretending to be the father of the child to sign away your rights, or she knowingly withheld who the father was, didn't notify him of her intent to out the baby up for adoption, or in any other way lied on her presentation of said adoption, she could be liable and anyone helping her to facilitate those lies could be as well. Apart and aside from that, I don't see a scenario in which any jurisdiction would allow a suit to proceed for what he is claiming against YOU. Her, different story. But again, he would need to take some steps first to proceed with holding her accountable and so on. It is not okay to decide on your own a parent isn't worthy of being in their child's life, that is for the court to decide. It can be difficult, it can be unfair, but that is the way the law works. Getting in the way of the law could and potentially would allow you to become liable for damages he wishes to seek. What the court determines those damages may be though, not sure. I would be sure to a) stop communicating with them about any of this and b) only respond through a lawyer if, and only if, you are served something officially. Otherwise, your best bet here is to bow out at this point and let them be angry, but figure out how to navigate this without playing into their hand at all. Because anything you do say could potentially be given as evidence should they oursue charges at all. But kidnapping charges would be impossible if hasn't ever asserted parentage. And if he doesn't go through the police. Which would refer him back to proving he was the father in the first place. There are a whole lot more ins and outs involved, and I would seek the help of an attorney to ensure you aren't culpable at all, should he manage to get something moving through the courts, whether civil or criminal.
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Your brother can not charge you with anything. Only the state district attorney can.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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I mean, he can sue you for whatever he wants. Anyone can sue for anything. But those aren't actually claims he can sue for specifically, and trying to get criminal charges against you would be a different story and doesn't sound likely given what you've explained. The thing is, depending on the state, unless he relinquished his rights to the child, and she knowingly did not give him the information about adoption, he would be able to go to court against her, and potentially be awarded some sort of custody, visitation, etc. Depends how much time has passed and so on. Typically adoptions of this sort with only 1 parent present have a sort of holding period before they can be finalized, to allow the other parent to contest it and assert their parental rights, etc. So his beef would be with the courts. What he should do is a) get a DNA test on file with the state to show parentage, and then file to assert the claims he is making. Not sure you want to help him with that info, but if he knew anything and DID talk to a lawyer, that's what they would likely have him do. For the record and for what it's worth, if anything happened like you or anyone else pretending to be the father of the child to sign away your rights, or she knowingly withheld who the father was, didn't notify him of her intent to out the baby up for adoption, or in any other way lied on her presentation of said adoption, she could be liable and anyone helping her to facilitate those lies could be as well. Apart and aside from that, I don't see a scenario in which any jurisdiction would allow a suit to proceed for what he is claiming against YOU. Her, different story. But again, he would need to take some steps first to proceed with holding her accountable and so on. It is not okay to decide on your own a parent isn't worthy of being in their child's life, that is for the court to decide. It can be difficult, it can be unfair, but that is the way the law works. Getting in the way of the law could and potentially would allow you to become liable for damages he wishes to seek. What the court determines those damages may be though, not sure. I would be sure to a) stop communicating with them about any of this and b) only respond through a lawyer if, and only if, you are served something officially. Otherwise, your best bet here is to bow out at this point and let them be angry, but figure out how to navigate this without playing into their hand at all. Because anything you do say could potentially be given as evidence should they oursue charges at all. But kidnapping charges would be impossible if hasn't ever asserted parentage. And if he doesn't go through the police. Which would refer him back to proving he was the father in the first place. There are a whole lot more ins and outs involved, and I would seek the help of an attorney to ensure you aren't culpable at all, should he manage to get something moving through the courts, whether civil or criminal.
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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These are not actionable claims here (against you). The kidnapping is a criminal issue, he can't sue you for it (nothing you have done would sustain any sort of kidnapping charge). The "accomplice to withholding information" claim? Yeah no. That being said, if he finds a DEEPLY insane and stupid lawyer to initiate a lawsuit based on these facts you must get your own lawyer and respond. He cannot get anywhere with this, but you can't ignore stupid lawsuits. A court should dismiss this, but you need to respond (through a lawyers) and request it. I REALLY doubt it will come to that, but it's important to know. I would do nothing until you actually get served with a complaint (which means he has initiated a proceeding). Do not lose sleep over this until you actually know he has initiated a lawsuit. Even then, it's so baseless it won't go anywhere but will require you that you briefly engage an attorney.
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It is possible that she notified him via publication. It must be published in several papers for a certain length of time. That would be of he were refusing to respond to her or the agency. She had to provide his name and where the conception took place. That is the extent of her responsibility. She is not required to tell him her intent, just provide the information. Source: I have a child up for adoption with an uncooperative father. He was notified via publication after refusing other service. 7 months later he discovered it was a boy. No one would listen and he was unable to overturn the adoption.
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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It is possible that she notified him via publication. It must be published in several papers for a certain length of time. That would be of he were refusing to respond to her or the agency. She had to provide his name and where the conception took place. That is the extent of her responsibility. She is not required to tell him her intent, just provide the information. Source: I have a child up for adoption with an uncooperative father. He was notified via publication after refusing other service. 7 months later he discovered it was a boy. No one would listen and he was unable to overturn the adoption.
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OK, so different places have VERY different laws on this. In KS, both parents have to sign off to have and adoption go through (at least the ones I have been a part of/seen) and either parent can change their minds for up to a year... Utah, only one parent needs to sign and you have 3 days to change your mind, so the state matters. If you really don't know, likely nothing can be done, but the girlfriend might be in contempt of court if she does not disclose who adopted the baby, mattering on the state... so if I was you I would research your states laws, and consult a lawyer...
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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It is possible that she notified him via publication. It must be published in several papers for a certain length of time. That would be of he were refusing to respond to her or the agency. She had to provide his name and where the conception took place. That is the extent of her responsibility. She is not required to tell him her intent, just provide the information. Source: I have a child up for adoption with an uncooperative father. He was notified via publication after refusing other service. 7 months later he discovered it was a boy. No one would listen and he was unable to overturn the adoption.
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I think whatever money you pay a lawyer for a consultation will be well worth the peace of mind, whichever way this may turn out.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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Kidnapping is a crime. He can’t charge you with a crime, only the district attorney can. Withholding information… isn’t a thing. He can *try* to sue you for anything, just like anyone else can. If he does, respond accordingly and consult a lawyer.
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It is possible that she notified him via publication. It must be published in several papers for a certain length of time. That would be of he were refusing to respond to her or the agency. She had to provide his name and where the conception took place. That is the extent of her responsibility. She is not required to tell him her intent, just provide the information. Source: I have a child up for adoption with an uncooperative father. He was notified via publication after refusing other service. 7 months later he discovered it was a boy. No one would listen and he was unable to overturn the adoption.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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It is possible that she notified him via publication. It must be published in several papers for a certain length of time. That would be of he were refusing to respond to her or the agency. She had to provide his name and where the conception took place. That is the extent of her responsibility. She is not required to tell him her intent, just provide the information. Source: I have a child up for adoption with an uncooperative father. He was notified via publication after refusing other service. 7 months later he discovered it was a boy. No one would listen and he was unable to overturn the adoption.
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij4bt81
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These are not actionable claims here (against you). The kidnapping is a criminal issue, he can't sue you for it (nothing you have done would sustain any sort of kidnapping charge). The "accomplice to withholding information" claim? Yeah no. That being said, if he finds a DEEPLY insane and stupid lawyer to initiate a lawsuit based on these facts you must get your own lawyer and respond. He cannot get anywhere with this, but you can't ignore stupid lawsuits. A court should dismiss this, but you need to respond (through a lawyers) and request it. I REALLY doubt it will come to that, but it's important to know. I would do nothing until you actually get served with a complaint (which means he has initiated a proceeding). Do not lose sleep over this until you actually know he has initiated a lawsuit. Even then, it's so baseless it won't go anywhere but will require you that you briefly engage an attorney.
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij4bt81
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OK, so different places have VERY different laws on this. In KS, both parents have to sign off to have and adoption go through (at least the ones I have been a part of/seen) and either parent can change their minds for up to a year... Utah, only one parent needs to sign and you have 3 days to change your mind, so the state matters. If you really don't know, likely nothing can be done, but the girlfriend might be in contempt of court if she does not disclose who adopted the baby, mattering on the state... so if I was you I would research your states laws, and consult a lawyer...
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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ij4bt81
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I think whatever money you pay a lawyer for a consultation will be well worth the peace of mind, whichever way this may turn out.
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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Kidnapping is a crime. He can’t charge you with a crime, only the district attorney can. Withholding information… isn’t a thing. He can *try* to sue you for anything, just like anyone else can. If he does, respond accordingly and consult a lawyer.
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wh14gg
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My brother is threatening to sue me for being an accomplice to kidnapping, his ex-girlfriend gave their baby up for adoption. I’ll start this off by saying, I have no idea where his child is. There’s been a lot leading up to this. Long story short, my brother refused to take responsibility for his unborn child, then found out she gave their child up for adoption. There’s a lot more to this on my profile, if you care to look. Now, my family, especially my brother, have been pissed at me because they believe I know where the baby is. Keighla (ex-girlfriend) already said she gave the baby up for adoption but has not disclosed which agency she went to or how the whole ordeal happened. My wife and I helped her throughout the entire pregnancy so he’s using that to claim I know where the baby is. He’s threatening to sue me for various reasons. 1. Accomplice to kidnapping 2. Accomplice to withholding information? Can he do that? I didn’t take his seriously initially but my parents said he’s in contact with a lawyer so I’m absolutely terrified. My wife, Keighla and I are thinking of contacting a lawyer but we don’t want to go through all this trouble if his claims are baseless. What should we do? Contact a lawyer, try and talk to him? I’ll answer any and all questions.
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I'd retain a lawyer for the sheer possibility of needing an RO in the future.
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Shame he now has money for a lawyer,when he could have spent it on supporting his unborn chilld and maybe the ex would not have felt that she had to give the baby up. He doesn't have a case. I'd just sit tight until you actually get a letter from his 'lawyer', and I'd call the law firm on the heading just to make sure it's really from them
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Signed papers and gave deposit to dealership for a brand new car purchase. Showed up today to pick it up and the car is covered in scratches. I walked. Now they're saying I can't get my deposit back. I signed some papers yesterday and made a $1,000 deposit on a brand new car from a Chevy dealership. Car was in perfect condition when I saw it. I arrived today to pick it up and finalize signing, and it's covered in scratches. The salesman called me after I walked and said I won't get my $1,000 deposit back. I have not signed the final documents that I was supposed to sign today for the sale to be done. What can I do to get my money back? Are they allowed to do that? I'm in Ohio.
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What's your definition of "covered in scratches"? If they are swirl marks, ask them to have them buffed out. They could be from the auto car wash. Paint buffing is done all the time and shouldn't cost them much. If they are caught by fingernail and there are many of them all over the car, then yeah, something has happened and it may require repaint. It's understandable that you don't want to deal with that on a new car. Go talk to the salesperson and the sales manager; explain your concern and ask for a replacement vehicle or the refund since the conditions aren't acceptable. You don't need to go nuclear and escalate externally right away.
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Contact state attorney general there should be a consumer protection / public protection division Let the dealer know you will contact them. More than likely they will change their tune. If not follow thru with this dept and the certified letter of demand. Pictures evidence. Texts
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spje5r
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Signed papers and gave deposit to dealership for a brand new car purchase. Showed up today to pick it up and the car is covered in scratches. I walked. Now they're saying I can't get my deposit back. I signed some papers yesterday and made a $1,000 deposit on a brand new car from a Chevy dealership. Car was in perfect condition when I saw it. I arrived today to pick it up and finalize signing, and it's covered in scratches. The salesman called me after I walked and said I won't get my $1,000 deposit back. I have not signed the final documents that I was supposed to sign today for the sale to be done. What can I do to get my money back? Are they allowed to do that? I'm in Ohio.
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hwg7g02
| 1,644,546,579 | 1,644,544,772 | 105 | 25 |
Not a lawyer but I have a neighbor who's is a customer service manager for a dealership. Apparently most dealerships have a customer service manager. It's her job to fix issues exactly like yours before either the manufacturer or legal hears about it. Call and see if they have one or speak to the owner.
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What's your definition of "covered in scratches"? If they are swirl marks, ask them to have them buffed out. They could be from the auto car wash. Paint buffing is done all the time and shouldn't cost them much. If they are caught by fingernail and there are many of them all over the car, then yeah, something has happened and it may require repaint. It's understandable that you don't want to deal with that on a new car. Go talk to the salesperson and the sales manager; explain your concern and ask for a replacement vehicle or the refund since the conditions aren't acceptable. You don't need to go nuclear and escalate externally right away.
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(TX) Inherited a home from my grandma in 2018, but brother and his wife have been living in it since 2020. I inherited my grandma's house in December 2018 when she moved into my parent's house across the street. It's all paid for, so I only pay for the property taxes and utilities. I live 6 hours away, and never intended to live in that house, but my dad wanted to move in after his mom would pass away and they sell their current house. We made a deal that I'll pay the property taxes, but they'll have to pay for utilities, then I'll sell them the house for super cheap ($40,000 in South Texas). Well, their mentally unstable 40 year old child and his 17 year old (at the time) abused and brainwashed girlfriend had moved in without my parents telling me a few months prior to the pandemic. I was made aware of this a few months into the year, so I asked my brother (who I'm low-to-no contact due to his violent nature) if he could pay me at least $200/month for rent. He laughed at the request, and told me that he can stay there for free as long as he wants due to the lockdown. Fast forward until last month, I haven't really paid any attention to the leeches when I receive a call from my mom to kick them out of the house since he's grown increasingly violent towards my dad and are harassing the neighbors. The police have been called numerous times on him, but they'll just leave saying that it's a civil matter and to go through the proper channels to press charges or a restraining order. I've reached out to his girlfriend (who has already given birth to two children) to let her know they're no longer welcomed in the house, and they have until the end of the month to find another place to live. She took that as a threat, and welcomed me to take them to eviction court since they've been paying for the utilities for the past year (another thing my mom didn't make clear for me). It's already pretty clear on the process to evict them. Since I live far away, I was planning on sending them a certified mail and regular mail with a Notice to Quit to give them 3 days to move out beginning on the day they receive the letter, but I just received a call from my dad crying that his son is blackmailing him with SSN fraud. My dad has been a US citizen since June 2020, but since he's 100% disabled he wasn't allowed to work and collect medicare benefits, so he was working under my mom's SSN as a truck driver for a potato farmer. This was their only source of good income as a migrant family. My dad was pleading for me to wait until AFTER February when he reaches 66years and 4 months to be allowed to work with his own SSN and collect Medicare benefits. So my questions are.... should I hold off until February to move forward with the eviction? Does my dad have anything to fear regarding my brother's threats? Since my brother's girlfriend has been paying for utilities (not property taxes), does that give them any claim to the house?
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ivftp5r
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Your father’s disability fraud issue is not going to go away just because he turns a certain age. He already committed the fraud. Waiting until February doesn’t change your brother being able to hold that over his head.
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Is the deed of the house in your name? If it is, you can start a legal eviction process.
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yor1e0
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(TX) Inherited a home from my grandma in 2018, but brother and his wife have been living in it since 2020. I inherited my grandma's house in December 2018 when she moved into my parent's house across the street. It's all paid for, so I only pay for the property taxes and utilities. I live 6 hours away, and never intended to live in that house, but my dad wanted to move in after his mom would pass away and they sell their current house. We made a deal that I'll pay the property taxes, but they'll have to pay for utilities, then I'll sell them the house for super cheap ($40,000 in South Texas). Well, their mentally unstable 40 year old child and his 17 year old (at the time) abused and brainwashed girlfriend had moved in without my parents telling me a few months prior to the pandemic. I was made aware of this a few months into the year, so I asked my brother (who I'm low-to-no contact due to his violent nature) if he could pay me at least $200/month for rent. He laughed at the request, and told me that he can stay there for free as long as he wants due to the lockdown. Fast forward until last month, I haven't really paid any attention to the leeches when I receive a call from my mom to kick them out of the house since he's grown increasingly violent towards my dad and are harassing the neighbors. The police have been called numerous times on him, but they'll just leave saying that it's a civil matter and to go through the proper channels to press charges or a restraining order. I've reached out to his girlfriend (who has already given birth to two children) to let her know they're no longer welcomed in the house, and they have until the end of the month to find another place to live. She took that as a threat, and welcomed me to take them to eviction court since they've been paying for the utilities for the past year (another thing my mom didn't make clear for me). It's already pretty clear on the process to evict them. Since I live far away, I was planning on sending them a certified mail and regular mail with a Notice to Quit to give them 3 days to move out beginning on the day they receive the letter, but I just received a call from my dad crying that his son is blackmailing him with SSN fraud. My dad has been a US citizen since June 2020, but since he's 100% disabled he wasn't allowed to work and collect medicare benefits, so he was working under my mom's SSN as a truck driver for a potato farmer. This was their only source of good income as a migrant family. My dad was pleading for me to wait until AFTER February when he reaches 66years and 4 months to be allowed to work with his own SSN and collect Medicare benefits. So my questions are.... should I hold off until February to move forward with the eviction? Does my dad have anything to fear regarding my brother's threats? Since my brother's girlfriend has been paying for utilities (not property taxes), does that give them any claim to the house?
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ivhynxv
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There's probably an elder abuse agency. Try contacting them to see if they can help your parents. Maybe do it first without giving your name to see if they are obliged to report your father.
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That may be what your father told you but it is not correct. If he is collecting disability in his name, he is still allowed to work under a certain limit. Working under your spouse's SSN is a very common type of fraud, and even though you wait until after he hits full retirement age and he is allowed to work under the rules that doesn't change the fact that he has defrauded the program. If your brother is going to report him now, he will still report him after. The fraud doesn't just go away.
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Ex boyfriend demanding visitation with my daughter ( biological cousin) I have legal guardianship of. This is a complicated situation. I was dating a man for almost a year and living together when my cousin lost custody of her daughter. I wanted to foster my younger cousin and keep her out of the foster system and my boyfriend did not want to. He gave me an ultimatum him or the baby. I chose the baby. She is innocent and she is family. He did not leave. We both got super attached to her and considered her our daughter. It gets messy because he is a functional alcoholic. Our relationship was not very stable after awhile. I wanted to do bigger and better things and he was not improving at all. I fixed my credit and planned on buying a house, he didn’t pay taxes for years. I went to nursing school, his drinking got worse. The pattern did not get better over time. We broke up a few times and he would quit drinking for a few weeks and then ultimately start up again. Permanent guardianship was granted to me and solely me a few years ago. I bought a house by myself last year. I moved out and I left him behind in the house we were renting. Our daughter loves us both very much. She calls him Dad and she calls me Mom. I was still letting him see her and take her when he has his son from a previous relationship. He never paid me any support for her the entire time if that is relevant. I didn’t care about it though, I just didn’t want to interfere with their relationship. Now, he is getting super skinny and sickly looking. He is drunk all the time. I used to try and keep it under control when we were together. I can’t monitor his every minute. He asked me to take her on a camping trip where I knew everyone would be partying. I told him No and he flipped out on me. I found out from her that he had been taking her to the marina most times he had her. All the adults drink there and party while kids run on the docks in life preservers. He acts like we weren’t together for six years and I don’t know what is happening there. His friends and family hate me because I was always against it and refused to go with him to the marina and on the camping trips anymore. I was the controlling bitch but I always got stuck watching all the kids while everyone else was bombed. I asked him to stop drinking and reminded him that I’m her legal guardian and he can’t be drunk when he has her. I had a friend babysitting her for me one day while I was at work. My teenage son asked for a ride somewhere and my friend told him they couldn’t go because she didn’t have the car seat with her for my daughter. My daughter said “that’s ok. My dads friend drives me in his truck with no car seat all the time when we leave the marina.” This man is known to drive drunk. I asked my ex about it and his response was “it was only a couple streets and she was wearing a seatbelt, you are ridiculous!” I haven’t let him pick her up since. I told him when he goes to rehab we can reevaluate. It was the last thing I wanted because I don’t want to hurt her, but I genuinely fear for her safety. Yesterday, I was served with a petition from him demanding to be deemed her “de facto” father and requesting joint custody. If I am her legal guardian and he is not her biological father, what are the odds of him being granted these things? How do I prove his drinking problem if there is no dui ? I can 100% guarantee he will fail a drug test or blood test. He looks like he is on something the last time I saw him. Should I get a lawyer or is it not necessary? He has hired an attorney. I don’t know what to do.
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iz966ai
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You need a family law attorney right away.
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> Yesterday, I was served with a petition from him demanding to be deemed her “de facto” father and requesting joint custody. Google your state plus "bar association" and click the "for the public" link. There should be a link to a referral service. You need a family law attorney. Defending a custody suit is not a self-help situation.
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zetw7l
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Ex boyfriend demanding visitation with my daughter ( biological cousin) I have legal guardianship of. This is a complicated situation. I was dating a man for almost a year and living together when my cousin lost custody of her daughter. I wanted to foster my younger cousin and keep her out of the foster system and my boyfriend did not want to. He gave me an ultimatum him or the baby. I chose the baby. She is innocent and she is family. He did not leave. We both got super attached to her and considered her our daughter. It gets messy because he is a functional alcoholic. Our relationship was not very stable after awhile. I wanted to do bigger and better things and he was not improving at all. I fixed my credit and planned on buying a house, he didn’t pay taxes for years. I went to nursing school, his drinking got worse. The pattern did not get better over time. We broke up a few times and he would quit drinking for a few weeks and then ultimately start up again. Permanent guardianship was granted to me and solely me a few years ago. I bought a house by myself last year. I moved out and I left him behind in the house we were renting. Our daughter loves us both very much. She calls him Dad and she calls me Mom. I was still letting him see her and take her when he has his son from a previous relationship. He never paid me any support for her the entire time if that is relevant. I didn’t care about it though, I just didn’t want to interfere with their relationship. Now, he is getting super skinny and sickly looking. He is drunk all the time. I used to try and keep it under control when we were together. I can’t monitor his every minute. He asked me to take her on a camping trip where I knew everyone would be partying. I told him No and he flipped out on me. I found out from her that he had been taking her to the marina most times he had her. All the adults drink there and party while kids run on the docks in life preservers. He acts like we weren’t together for six years and I don’t know what is happening there. His friends and family hate me because I was always against it and refused to go with him to the marina and on the camping trips anymore. I was the controlling bitch but I always got stuck watching all the kids while everyone else was bombed. I asked him to stop drinking and reminded him that I’m her legal guardian and he can’t be drunk when he has her. I had a friend babysitting her for me one day while I was at work. My teenage son asked for a ride somewhere and my friend told him they couldn’t go because she didn’t have the car seat with her for my daughter. My daughter said “that’s ok. My dads friend drives me in his truck with no car seat all the time when we leave the marina.” This man is known to drive drunk. I asked my ex about it and his response was “it was only a couple streets and she was wearing a seatbelt, you are ridiculous!” I haven’t let him pick her up since. I told him when he goes to rehab we can reevaluate. It was the last thing I wanted because I don’t want to hurt her, but I genuinely fear for her safety. Yesterday, I was served with a petition from him demanding to be deemed her “de facto” father and requesting joint custody. If I am her legal guardian and he is not her biological father, what are the odds of him being granted these things? How do I prove his drinking problem if there is no dui ? I can 100% guarantee he will fail a drug test or blood test. He looks like he is on something the last time I saw him. Should I get a lawyer or is it not necessary? He has hired an attorney. I don’t know what to do.
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iz8iuxo
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> Yesterday, I was served with a petition from him demanding to be deemed her “de facto” father and requesting joint custody. Google your state plus "bar association" and click the "for the public" link. There should be a link to a referral service. You need a family law attorney. Defending a custody suit is not a self-help situation.
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Have you actually talked to that attorney, or has he just told you he’s got one? You were never married, and this isn’t his biological child. Did he ever actually formally adopt her?
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zetw7l
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Ex boyfriend demanding visitation with my daughter ( biological cousin) I have legal guardianship of. This is a complicated situation. I was dating a man for almost a year and living together when my cousin lost custody of her daughter. I wanted to foster my younger cousin and keep her out of the foster system and my boyfriend did not want to. He gave me an ultimatum him or the baby. I chose the baby. She is innocent and she is family. He did not leave. We both got super attached to her and considered her our daughter. It gets messy because he is a functional alcoholic. Our relationship was not very stable after awhile. I wanted to do bigger and better things and he was not improving at all. I fixed my credit and planned on buying a house, he didn’t pay taxes for years. I went to nursing school, his drinking got worse. The pattern did not get better over time. We broke up a few times and he would quit drinking for a few weeks and then ultimately start up again. Permanent guardianship was granted to me and solely me a few years ago. I bought a house by myself last year. I moved out and I left him behind in the house we were renting. Our daughter loves us both very much. She calls him Dad and she calls me Mom. I was still letting him see her and take her when he has his son from a previous relationship. He never paid me any support for her the entire time if that is relevant. I didn’t care about it though, I just didn’t want to interfere with their relationship. Now, he is getting super skinny and sickly looking. He is drunk all the time. I used to try and keep it under control when we were together. I can’t monitor his every minute. He asked me to take her on a camping trip where I knew everyone would be partying. I told him No and he flipped out on me. I found out from her that he had been taking her to the marina most times he had her. All the adults drink there and party while kids run on the docks in life preservers. He acts like we weren’t together for six years and I don’t know what is happening there. His friends and family hate me because I was always against it and refused to go with him to the marina and on the camping trips anymore. I was the controlling bitch but I always got stuck watching all the kids while everyone else was bombed. I asked him to stop drinking and reminded him that I’m her legal guardian and he can’t be drunk when he has her. I had a friend babysitting her for me one day while I was at work. My teenage son asked for a ride somewhere and my friend told him they couldn’t go because she didn’t have the car seat with her for my daughter. My daughter said “that’s ok. My dads friend drives me in his truck with no car seat all the time when we leave the marina.” This man is known to drive drunk. I asked my ex about it and his response was “it was only a couple streets and she was wearing a seatbelt, you are ridiculous!” I haven’t let him pick her up since. I told him when he goes to rehab we can reevaluate. It was the last thing I wanted because I don’t want to hurt her, but I genuinely fear for her safety. Yesterday, I was served with a petition from him demanding to be deemed her “de facto” father and requesting joint custody. If I am her legal guardian and he is not her biological father, what are the odds of him being granted these things? How do I prove his drinking problem if there is no dui ? I can 100% guarantee he will fail a drug test or blood test. He looks like he is on something the last time I saw him. Should I get a lawyer or is it not necessary? He has hired an attorney. I don’t know what to do.
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iz8yfjq
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iz8iuxo
| 1,670,408,093 | 1,670,394,852 | 35 | 32 |
You need a family law attorney right away.
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Have you actually talked to that attorney, or has he just told you he’s got one? You were never married, and this isn’t his biological child. Did he ever actually formally adopt her?
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yr2kel
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Dementia patient was taken by lawyer to get deemed as competent to change legal documents My mom is in a memory care center because she tends to wander and not know where she is or what she’s doing. She sometimes thinks she’s at school and sometimes thinks she’s at a hotel. I have always been the responsible child who went to school, took care of my mom, and paid all her bills. My sister has never had a job and lives 100% off my mom. She refuses to get a job because why work when you can get it for free? My sister hired a lawyer to get her deemed as competent without my knowledge. The facility doctor who rounds monthly has been seeing my mom for 6 months. The lawyer asked the facility doctor to deem her as competent. The doctor would not give the letter of approval. The lawyer picked up my mom and took her to another doctor who was not her regular doctor. The doctor wrote a letter of approval. The lawyer had my mom sign forms revoking my power of attorney and designating my jobless sister as the new POA. She also changed the will to give 100% of the estate to my sister when originally, it was supposed to be split between both of us. 2 days after the forms were signed, I notified the facility what happened. The memory care center had a psych evaluation performed by a nurse practitioner from a behavioral medicine clinic. The NP said my mom was incompetent, confused, and was not in her right mind to be able to change legal documents. Was it legal for a person to take my mom who is not her designated POA to change doctors and order tests to be performed? What should I do? I have gained legal counsel in Alabama to deal with this matter but like some extra advice.
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ivrzd9h
| 1,668,058,846 | 1,668,053,569 | 102 | 49 |
Apart from following your lawyer’s advice to get your mother’s affairs straightened out, you should definitely file an ethics complaint with the state bar association against the lawyer your sister retained. Apart from questions about who that lawyer was actually representing (probably your mother) versus who paid the lawyers fees (probably your sister, possibly out of your mother’s funds), it is absolutely unethical for a lawyer to have an incompetent person sign legal documents. A quickie medical opinion contradicting the established treatment team will not absolve your sister’s lawyer here.
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Nobody here is going to contradict what the lawyer you’ve retained is telling you, but hopefully he’s acting quickly to try to prevent your sister from damaging your mother’s finances. Ask your lawyer about filing a complaint against your sister’s lawyer with the bar association.
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yr2kel
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Dementia patient was taken by lawyer to get deemed as competent to change legal documents My mom is in a memory care center because she tends to wander and not know where she is or what she’s doing. She sometimes thinks she’s at school and sometimes thinks she’s at a hotel. I have always been the responsible child who went to school, took care of my mom, and paid all her bills. My sister has never had a job and lives 100% off my mom. She refuses to get a job because why work when you can get it for free? My sister hired a lawyer to get her deemed as competent without my knowledge. The facility doctor who rounds monthly has been seeing my mom for 6 months. The lawyer asked the facility doctor to deem her as competent. The doctor would not give the letter of approval. The lawyer picked up my mom and took her to another doctor who was not her regular doctor. The doctor wrote a letter of approval. The lawyer had my mom sign forms revoking my power of attorney and designating my jobless sister as the new POA. She also changed the will to give 100% of the estate to my sister when originally, it was supposed to be split between both of us. 2 days after the forms were signed, I notified the facility what happened. The memory care center had a psych evaluation performed by a nurse practitioner from a behavioral medicine clinic. The NP said my mom was incompetent, confused, and was not in her right mind to be able to change legal documents. Was it legal for a person to take my mom who is not her designated POA to change doctors and order tests to be performed? What should I do? I have gained legal counsel in Alabama to deal with this matter but like some extra advice.
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ivs872a
| 1,668,054,935 | 1,668,058,846 | 8 | 102 |
Does anyone know where the original, signed will is and was it witnessed by at least two witnesses?
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Apart from following your lawyer’s advice to get your mother’s affairs straightened out, you should definitely file an ethics complaint with the state bar association against the lawyer your sister retained. Apart from questions about who that lawyer was actually representing (probably your mother) versus who paid the lawyers fees (probably your sister, possibly out of your mother’s funds), it is absolutely unethical for a lawyer to have an incompetent person sign legal documents. A quickie medical opinion contradicting the established treatment team will not absolve your sister’s lawyer here.
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yr2kel
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Dementia patient was taken by lawyer to get deemed as competent to change legal documents My mom is in a memory care center because she tends to wander and not know where she is or what she’s doing. She sometimes thinks she’s at school and sometimes thinks she’s at a hotel. I have always been the responsible child who went to school, took care of my mom, and paid all her bills. My sister has never had a job and lives 100% off my mom. She refuses to get a job because why work when you can get it for free? My sister hired a lawyer to get her deemed as competent without my knowledge. The facility doctor who rounds monthly has been seeing my mom for 6 months. The lawyer asked the facility doctor to deem her as competent. The doctor would not give the letter of approval. The lawyer picked up my mom and took her to another doctor who was not her regular doctor. The doctor wrote a letter of approval. The lawyer had my mom sign forms revoking my power of attorney and designating my jobless sister as the new POA. She also changed the will to give 100% of the estate to my sister when originally, it was supposed to be split between both of us. 2 days after the forms were signed, I notified the facility what happened. The memory care center had a psych evaluation performed by a nurse practitioner from a behavioral medicine clinic. The NP said my mom was incompetent, confused, and was not in her right mind to be able to change legal documents. Was it legal for a person to take my mom who is not her designated POA to change doctors and order tests to be performed? What should I do? I have gained legal counsel in Alabama to deal with this matter but like some extra advice.
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ivs1tl1
| 1,668,069,523 | 1,668,054,935 | 43 | 8 |
it sounds like you need to persue guardianship over your mother, not just have POA. then even with your mom's permission your sister shouldn't be able to act on her behalf. make sure your lawyer knows you think your sister paid for her lawyer from your mom's money.
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Does anyone know where the original, signed will is and was it witnessed by at least two witnesses?
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yr2kel
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Dementia patient was taken by lawyer to get deemed as competent to change legal documents My mom is in a memory care center because she tends to wander and not know where she is or what she’s doing. She sometimes thinks she’s at school and sometimes thinks she’s at a hotel. I have always been the responsible child who went to school, took care of my mom, and paid all her bills. My sister has never had a job and lives 100% off my mom. She refuses to get a job because why work when you can get it for free? My sister hired a lawyer to get her deemed as competent without my knowledge. The facility doctor who rounds monthly has been seeing my mom for 6 months. The lawyer asked the facility doctor to deem her as competent. The doctor would not give the letter of approval. The lawyer picked up my mom and took her to another doctor who was not her regular doctor. The doctor wrote a letter of approval. The lawyer had my mom sign forms revoking my power of attorney and designating my jobless sister as the new POA. She also changed the will to give 100% of the estate to my sister when originally, it was supposed to be split between both of us. 2 days after the forms were signed, I notified the facility what happened. The memory care center had a psych evaluation performed by a nurse practitioner from a behavioral medicine clinic. The NP said my mom was incompetent, confused, and was not in her right mind to be able to change legal documents. Was it legal for a person to take my mom who is not her designated POA to change doctors and order tests to be performed? What should I do? I have gained legal counsel in Alabama to deal with this matter but like some extra advice.
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ivs1tl1
| 1,668,090,824 | 1,668,054,935 | 16 | 8 |
There was actually a ring in Nevada that did this on an large scale. In short, this fraud works by doing it to a LOT of people quickly. I would take that article to your lawyer, and if your lawyer doesn't specialize in elder care and elder fraud, consider swapping to one that does. This fits that pattern of taking seniors to a compliant doctor to get access to their accounts, draining them dry, and dumping them in a compliant facility to drain state/federal resources. I would suggest not only working with your lawyer, but also filing complaints with the Alabama Department of Aging, the Alabama Attorney General, and the National Elder Fraud Hotline. File a bar complaint against the lawyer and a medical board complaint against the doctor that gave approval. You need to also talk **right now** to the facility and make absolutely sure they do not allow her to be moved, under any circumstances, without your express consent. If she has any financial accounts, lock them down. You might also check her credit reports to see if they've done inquiries or started opening up accounts.
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Does anyone know where the original, signed will is and was it witnessed by at least two witnesses?
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y3znua
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Husband has warrant out for arrest from 6 years ago and just found out My husband is a Jr. and his dad got pulled over and they tried arresting him until they realized it was actually my husband that has the warrant. It was from 2016 when he was working at Walmart and dumb in high school and had stole a phone charger and small speaker. He got caught and fired, and had the ultimatum of return the items or go to jail. He returned the items and thought it was a done deal— but apparently they still pressed charges and he had no clue. Now he is working at a bank and really can’t have a shoplifting charge on his record but doesn’t know his options other than turn himself in and bond himself out but having the charge on his record.. any advice?
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isb8vrv
| 1,665,770,440 | 1,665,767,803 | 126 | 75 |
He should contact a criminal defense attorney. It isn't a given that he will need to turn himself in or face any jail time with the limited info here.
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He should talk to a lawyer before he does anything else.
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y3znua
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Husband has warrant out for arrest from 6 years ago and just found out My husband is a Jr. and his dad got pulled over and they tried arresting him until they realized it was actually my husband that has the warrant. It was from 2016 when he was working at Walmart and dumb in high school and had stole a phone charger and small speaker. He got caught and fired, and had the ultimatum of return the items or go to jail. He returned the items and thought it was a done deal— but apparently they still pressed charges and he had no clue. Now he is working at a bank and really can’t have a shoplifting charge on his record but doesn’t know his options other than turn himself in and bond himself out but having the charge on his record.. any advice?
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isbfh2x
| 1,665,769,395 | 1,665,770,440 | 27 | 126 |
If he was under 18 when it happened he might have better options than if it happened as an adult. For a consultation with an attorney, there's usually no fee. The attorney can advise him on what steps to take. If he was under 18 and legal circumstances are right, there might be a possibility of having his record expunged. Whatever the circumstances are, he should definitely consult an attorney first
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He should contact a criminal defense attorney. It isn't a given that he will need to turn himself in or face any jail time with the limited info here.
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y3znua
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legaladvice_train
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Husband has warrant out for arrest from 6 years ago and just found out My husband is a Jr. and his dad got pulled over and they tried arresting him until they realized it was actually my husband that has the warrant. It was from 2016 when he was working at Walmart and dumb in high school and had stole a phone charger and small speaker. He got caught and fired, and had the ultimatum of return the items or go to jail. He returned the items and thought it was a done deal— but apparently they still pressed charges and he had no clue. Now he is working at a bank and really can’t have a shoplifting charge on his record but doesn’t know his options other than turn himself in and bond himself out but having the charge on his record.. any advice?
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isbkbdt
| 1,665,780,170 | 1,665,772,383 | 21 | 13 |
Attorney first. But also many courts will let you set a hearing to have the warrant quashed. You might just call up the court and ask to have a hearing set. The case will get started and the warrant will go away. And since he called and set it up, the judge will likely be more lenient when setting release conditions (probably less likely to take your husband into custody there and then since it was a sort of self surrender)
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He needs a criminal defense attorney ASAP! A good one will be able to get the charge reduced to something like "Disorderly Conduct" or something else that doesn't carry a huge stigma. If he was a juvenile when it happened it might be possible to get a full dismissal of the charge. But whatever you do talk to a good lawyer first, he should probably also do everything possible to NOT have contact with any police.
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
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Has he made money in the market in the last two years or lost money? The S&P is up almost 40% over the last two years. Is it possible he made money but is hiding it from you?
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I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
| 1,607,676,672 | 1,607,704,031 | 50 | 198 |
The first thing you need to do is take control of the household finances. He may have a degree in finance but he also clearly has a gambling addiction. He simply chooses to express it via the stock market rather than through casinos, a lottery, or online gaming. He will need to earn your trust with money again before he's allowed to control more than he needs for the week. If he agrees to let you be in charge of the money then the situation may be repairable. It may involve declaring bankruptcy, but things will be on their way up from there. If he resists, however – and I'm afraid his insistence that he can and will "fix things" tells me he'll likely resist such a move – then you may be left with no other choice but to not only declare bankruptcy but also divorce him, lest you go down with the plane that he insists on captaining right into a mountain. Since all that is arguably more life advice than legal advice, then I will add this: talk to a lawyer specializing in bankruptcies. I fully understand not wanting to actually declare, and an experienced lawyer would be far better able to tell you how to avoid it – and whether it even can be avoided, at this point.
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I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
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I am not a lawyer, just someone who has encountered a similar experience with addiction. I had a close friend once who told his family the exact same thing: that they had “lost all their money in stock” and that’s why they needed the income. In reality, he was coping with opioid addiction and using that as a front. He had sold all of the stock years ago. Seeing as stock is currently relatively booming, it doesn’t make sense he would have lost so much as to steal your wedding ring unless he really chose a select few options and refuse to sell out of them. The point being: especially as you go through any potential divorce processes and consult your lawyer, you need to keep in mind that your husband may be lying about what has happened to this money. If none of it is actually tied up in stock options and was spent at a casino or on something else (sadly, like drugs), it will affect how much of that can be transferred back to you down the line. You may need to do your own investigation.
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I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
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gfdx76r
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I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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Although it's probably going to be painful, you need to understand exactly what yes been doing. If he's been 'investing' in the market, then there is a paper trail of the trades he's made. You need to understand that to see if there is any value left. This "get it all back" idea is probably how he got into this mess -- he lost a little, then tried to get it back and lost more.
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
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gfdjspa
| 1,607,704,031 | 1,607,677,263 | 198 | 9 |
I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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If he spent it all, you may not get much. You are likely to get some sort of alimony/support payments, and 1/2 of whatever is left. You can get a divorce, but hopefully you have a support network of friends/family you can stay with. You can try to reason with you husband, but it sounds like he has a severe gambling addition. If he doesn't get help, he will continue to be dishonest and make things worse.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
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gfeh2fs
| 1,607,704,031 | 1,607,702,291 | 198 | 7 |
I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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I am not a lawyer, but see if you have ABLE or something similar in your area. ABLE is Aids for Basic Legal Equality and might help you with a divorce and other issues. (Mainly housing) You can also call your local Bar Association, they can give you names/places to offer legal help. Sometimes if you go to your local Job and Family Services office (welfare) they can help you too or at least point you in the right direction. I am in Ohio and I don't know if they have some of the same things you do, so I can only offer suggestions based on my own experiences and region.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
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gfe9wty
| 1,607,704,031 | 1,607,698,559 | 198 | 4 |
I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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If he is willing to actually seek help, he needs to go to counseling. His best resources are likely those for gamblers (which is essentially what he has been doing). Any attempt to "fix this" that involves more stock trading is going to result in you falling further into debt.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfeklm6
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gfefhsy
| 1,607,704,031 | 1,607,701,501 | 198 | 3 |
I am not a lawyer but a mortgage professional. Are you on the deed to the house? If so, how did he take out the second mortgage without you knowing? Did he forge documents?
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Go to Gamblers Anonymous and look for a family organization like alanon for good advice on his trading addiction. You can't trust him to fix this. He is not in control of his behavior.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfd8bzg
| 1,607,704,841 | 1,607,667,128 | 72 | 70 |
If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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Has he made money in the market in the last two years or lost money? The S&P is up almost 40% over the last two years. Is it possible he made money but is hiding it from you?
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfema3r
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gfdj6vh
| 1,607,704,841 | 1,607,676,672 | 72 | 50 |
If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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The first thing you need to do is take control of the household finances. He may have a degree in finance but he also clearly has a gambling addiction. He simply chooses to express it via the stock market rather than through casinos, a lottery, or online gaming. He will need to earn your trust with money again before he's allowed to control more than he needs for the week. If he agrees to let you be in charge of the money then the situation may be repairable. It may involve declaring bankruptcy, but things will be on their way up from there. If he resists, however – and I'm afraid his insistence that he can and will "fix things" tells me he'll likely resist such a move – then you may be left with no other choice but to not only declare bankruptcy but also divorce him, lest you go down with the plane that he insists on captaining right into a mountain. Since all that is arguably more life advice than legal advice, then I will add this: talk to a lawyer specializing in bankruptcies. I fully understand not wanting to actually declare, and an experienced lawyer would be far better able to tell you how to avoid it – and whether it even can be avoided, at this point.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfema3r
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gfe0b9h
| 1,607,704,841 | 1,607,692,770 | 72 | 36 |
If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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I am not a lawyer, just someone who has encountered a similar experience with addiction. I had a close friend once who told his family the exact same thing: that they had “lost all their money in stock” and that’s why they needed the income. In reality, he was coping with opioid addiction and using that as a front. He had sold all of the stock years ago. Seeing as stock is currently relatively booming, it doesn’t make sense he would have lost so much as to steal your wedding ring unless he really chose a select few options and refuse to sell out of them. The point being: especially as you go through any potential divorce processes and consult your lawyer, you need to keep in mind that your husband may be lying about what has happened to this money. If none of it is actually tied up in stock options and was spent at a casino or on something else (sadly, like drugs), it will affect how much of that can be transferred back to you down the line. You may need to do your own investigation.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfema3r
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Although it's probably going to be painful, you need to understand exactly what yes been doing. If he's been 'investing' in the market, then there is a paper trail of the trades he's made. You need to understand that to see if there is any value left. This "get it all back" idea is probably how he got into this mess -- he lost a little, then tried to get it back and lost more.
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If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfema3r
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gfdjspa
| 1,607,704,841 | 1,607,677,263 | 72 | 9 |
If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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If he spent it all, you may not get much. You are likely to get some sort of alimony/support payments, and 1/2 of whatever is left. You can get a divorce, but hopefully you have a support network of friends/family you can stay with. You can try to reason with you husband, but it sounds like he has a severe gambling addition. If he doesn't get help, he will continue to be dishonest and make things worse.
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfema3r
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gfeh2fs
| 1,607,704,841 | 1,607,702,291 | 72 | 7 |
If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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I am not a lawyer, but see if you have ABLE or something similar in your area. ABLE is Aids for Basic Legal Equality and might help you with a divorce and other issues. (Mainly housing) You can also call your local Bar Association, they can give you names/places to offer legal help. Sometimes if you go to your local Job and Family Services office (welfare) they can help you too or at least point you in the right direction. I am in Ohio and I don't know if they have some of the same things you do, so I can only offer suggestions based on my own experiences and region.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfe9wty
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gfema3r
| 1,607,698,559 | 1,607,704,841 | 4 | 72 |
If he is willing to actually seek help, he needs to go to counseling. His best resources are likely those for gamblers (which is essentially what he has been doing). Any attempt to "fix this" that involves more stock trading is going to result in you falling further into debt.
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If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfefhsy
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gfema3r
| 1,607,701,501 | 1,607,704,841 | 3 | 72 |
Go to Gamblers Anonymous and look for a family organization like alanon for good advice on his trading addiction. You can't trust him to fix this. He is not in control of his behavior.
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If your name is on the house I question whether the second mortgage is valid without your signature. Did you sign any loan paperwork for the second? Or did he just tell you he borrowed against his half of the house? I would check to see if that is legal in WA (long time WA resident and RE investor in WA.)
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfe0b9h
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gfdx76r
| 1,607,692,770 | 1,607,690,448 | 36 | 34 |
I am not a lawyer, just someone who has encountered a similar experience with addiction. I had a close friend once who told his family the exact same thing: that they had “lost all their money in stock” and that’s why they needed the income. In reality, he was coping with opioid addiction and using that as a front. He had sold all of the stock years ago. Seeing as stock is currently relatively booming, it doesn’t make sense he would have lost so much as to steal your wedding ring unless he really chose a select few options and refuse to sell out of them. The point being: especially as you go through any potential divorce processes and consult your lawyer, you need to keep in mind that your husband may be lying about what has happened to this money. If none of it is actually tied up in stock options and was spent at a casino or on something else (sadly, like drugs), it will affect how much of that can be transferred back to you down the line. You may need to do your own investigation.
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Although it's probably going to be painful, you need to understand exactly what yes been doing. If he's been 'investing' in the market, then there is a paper trail of the trades he's made. You need to understand that to see if there is any value left. This "get it all back" idea is probably how he got into this mess -- he lost a little, then tried to get it back and lost more.
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfe0b9h
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gfdjspa
| 1,607,692,770 | 1,607,677,263 | 36 | 9 |
I am not a lawyer, just someone who has encountered a similar experience with addiction. I had a close friend once who told his family the exact same thing: that they had “lost all their money in stock” and that’s why they needed the income. In reality, he was coping with opioid addiction and using that as a front. He had sold all of the stock years ago. Seeing as stock is currently relatively booming, it doesn’t make sense he would have lost so much as to steal your wedding ring unless he really chose a select few options and refuse to sell out of them. The point being: especially as you go through any potential divorce processes and consult your lawyer, you need to keep in mind that your husband may be lying about what has happened to this money. If none of it is actually tied up in stock options and was spent at a casino or on something else (sadly, like drugs), it will affect how much of that can be transferred back to you down the line. You may need to do your own investigation.
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If he spent it all, you may not get much. You are likely to get some sort of alimony/support payments, and 1/2 of whatever is left. You can get a divorce, but hopefully you have a support network of friends/family you can stay with. You can try to reason with you husband, but it sounds like he has a severe gambling addition. If he doesn't get help, he will continue to be dishonest and make things worse.
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfdjspa
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gfdx76r
| 1,607,677,263 | 1,607,690,448 | 9 | 34 |
If he spent it all, you may not get much. You are likely to get some sort of alimony/support payments, and 1/2 of whatever is left. You can get a divorce, but hopefully you have a support network of friends/family you can stay with. You can try to reason with you husband, but it sounds like he has a severe gambling addition. If he doesn't get help, he will continue to be dishonest and make things worse.
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Although it's probably going to be painful, you need to understand exactly what yes been doing. If he's been 'investing' in the market, then there is a paper trail of the trades he's made. You need to understand that to see if there is any value left. This "get it all back" idea is probably how he got into this mess -- he lost a little, then tried to get it back and lost more.
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfdjspa
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gff0l5v
| 1,607,677,263 | 1,607,709,675 | 9 | 23 |
If he spent it all, you may not get much. You are likely to get some sort of alimony/support payments, and 1/2 of whatever is left. You can get a divorce, but hopefully you have a support network of friends/family you can stay with. You can try to reason with you husband, but it sounds like he has a severe gambling addition. If he doesn't get help, he will continue to be dishonest and make things worse.
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sounds like a post for r/wallstreetbets
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gff0l5v
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gfeh2fs
| 1,607,709,675 | 1,607,702,291 | 23 | 7 |
sounds like a post for r/wallstreetbets
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I am not a lawyer, but see if you have ABLE or something similar in your area. ABLE is Aids for Basic Legal Equality and might help you with a divorce and other issues. (Mainly housing) You can also call your local Bar Association, they can give you names/places to offer legal help. Sometimes if you go to your local Job and Family Services office (welfare) they can help you too or at least point you in the right direction. I am in Ohio and I don't know if they have some of the same things you do, so I can only offer suggestions based on my own experiences and region.
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfe9wty
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gff0l5v
| 1,607,698,559 | 1,607,709,675 | 4 | 23 |
If he is willing to actually seek help, he needs to go to counseling. His best resources are likely those for gamblers (which is essentially what he has been doing). Any attempt to "fix this" that involves more stock trading is going to result in you falling further into debt.
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sounds like a post for r/wallstreetbets
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfefhsy
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gff0l5v
| 1,607,701,501 | 1,607,709,675 | 3 | 23 |
Go to Gamblers Anonymous and look for a family organization like alanon for good advice on his trading addiction. You can't trust him to fix this. He is not in control of his behavior.
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sounds like a post for r/wallstreetbets
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kaw9sb
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legaladvice_train
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfe9wty
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gfeh2fs
| 1,607,698,559 | 1,607,702,291 | 4 | 7 |
If he is willing to actually seek help, he needs to go to counseling. His best resources are likely those for gamblers (which is essentially what he has been doing). Any attempt to "fix this" that involves more stock trading is going to result in you falling further into debt.
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I am not a lawyer, but see if you have ABLE or something similar in your area. ABLE is Aids for Basic Legal Equality and might help you with a divorce and other issues. (Mainly housing) You can also call your local Bar Association, they can give you names/places to offer legal help. Sometimes if you go to your local Job and Family Services office (welfare) they can help you too or at least point you in the right direction. I am in Ohio and I don't know if they have some of the same things you do, so I can only offer suggestions based on my own experiences and region.
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kaw9sb
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(Washington) I just found out my husband has taken a second mortgage on our house, emptied our bank account, our savings and has $25,000 of debt on our credit card - all spent on the stock market When I say that I had no idea I'm being honest. I was blindsided by this. Over the past almost two years, my husband of seven years emptied our savings account, put over $25,000 of debt on our credit card, taken a second mortgage on half of the house, is in default for both mortgages, our car and our other bills and has drained our joint bank account as well. He's even sold anything of value that we had, like his watch, my jewelry or one of our laptops. He showed me statements for payments and our accounts. I didn't know they were not real. He has a degree in finance and one in business so while I thought I was involved I let him take care of it. I didn't know he wasn't being truthful. He said he started buying and selling stocks for fun and it got out of control but he's going to fix it. He posts on different online places about his 'hobby' with other stock traders. I went to stay with a friend. Besides some clothes and my ID I didn't even have much to take. The place I worked is out of business because of Covid so I lost my job two weeks ago. To top it all off I'm about a month pregnant with our first child. I have no money because he spent it all. He told me my engagement ring was being cleaned but he sold it and our wedding rings. I want to divorce him but I have no money for a lawyer. I don't know where to start.. I've never needed one before this. Can I get a lawyer to work up front while I look for a job? We've been married for seven years. What will happen with the divorce and dividing things up if he spent it all? My final question is can I work out a payment plan for the credit card and the mortgages and everything else we're in debt/default on since my is on them too and it will wreck my credit otherwise?
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gfefhsy
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gfeh2fs
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Go to Gamblers Anonymous and look for a family organization like alanon for good advice on his trading addiction. You can't trust him to fix this. He is not in control of his behavior.
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I am not a lawyer, but see if you have ABLE or something similar in your area. ABLE is Aids for Basic Legal Equality and might help you with a divorce and other issues. (Mainly housing) You can also call your local Bar Association, they can give you names/places to offer legal help. Sometimes if you go to your local Job and Family Services office (welfare) they can help you too or at least point you in the right direction. I am in Ohio and I don't know if they have some of the same things you do, so I can only offer suggestions based on my own experiences and region.
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Employer gave us $20 gift certificates. Found out only after the fact that the $20 will be taken out of our checks. Is this illegal or just a shitty thing to do? I live and work in Wisconsin. My employer gave out $20 gift certificates to buy a turkey for Thanksgiving. I didn’t need mine, so I gave it away to another coworker. I found out today that the $20 will be taken out of each of our next checks, so it wasn’t really a gift. Is this illegal or just a dick move?
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I’m going to guess that your paycheck will show a $20 increase, and then a $20 charge. That allows you to be taxed on the $20 without getting it in cash. That said, something like a $20 Turkey would usually fall under the “de minimis” threshold for taxable compensation…
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More likely it’s accounted on your pay check for tax related purposes instead of a deduction from your check.
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Employer gave us $20 gift certificates. Found out only after the fact that the $20 will be taken out of our checks. Is this illegal or just a shitty thing to do? I live and work in Wisconsin. My employer gave out $20 gift certificates to buy a turkey for Thanksgiving. I didn’t need mine, so I gave it away to another coworker. I found out today that the $20 will be taken out of each of our next checks, so it wasn’t really a gift. Is this illegal or just a dick move?
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The literal answer is **no**, they cannot pay part of your salary via gift card. Under the FLSA they must make all payments “in cash or negotiable instrument payable at par.” *29 C.F.R. §531.27*. But I suspect that's not what's actually happening here. A much more likely scenario is that your company is giving you this gift on top of your normal pay. If they were to give you a turkey itself it would be what the IRS considers to be *de minimis*, meaning too small or trivial to be worth considering. But while turkeys would fall into the holiday gifts category, which is too minimal to be worth taxing, a gift card is different. The IRS considers all gift cards to have cash value, and therefore requires you to pay tax on it just like your other income. That means that even though the $20 of the gift card are a free gift, the taxes on that $20 worth of value still have to be paid by *you*. All that said, it's pretty common for employers to pay for a tax gross up which should cover the taxes on gifts they gave. If your employer is paying for the gift, but not the taxes on the gift, it's a pretty shitty thing to do; but doing so is not illegal.
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Your employer can only deduct from your paycheck amounts that are agreed to by you or if it is part of your employment contract. They cannot just deduct money for gift cards, parties or any other of these types unless you agree to it or if you signed a contract that allows it. Other exceptions to deductions to your pay would be for wage garnishments for taxes or child support. So no they cannot and it is illegal for them to do so. Here is a link to the conditions allowable for Wisconsin. https://dwd.wisconsin.gov/er/laborstandards/wagededuction.htm
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Employer gave us $20 gift certificates. Found out only after the fact that the $20 will be taken out of our checks. Is this illegal or just a shitty thing to do? I live and work in Wisconsin. My employer gave out $20 gift certificates to buy a turkey for Thanksgiving. I didn’t need mine, so I gave it away to another coworker. I found out today that the $20 will be taken out of each of our next checks, so it wasn’t really a gift. Is this illegal or just a dick move?
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Your employer can only deduct from your paycheck amounts that are agreed to by you or if it is part of your employment contract. They cannot just deduct money for gift cards, parties or any other of these types unless you agree to it or if you signed a contract that allows it. Other exceptions to deductions to your pay would be for wage garnishments for taxes or child support. So no they cannot and it is illegal for them to do so. Here is a link to the conditions allowable for Wisconsin. https://dwd.wisconsin.gov/er/laborstandards/wagededuction.htm
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I would look over the check, but when my work would give a $30 gift card it would show up on our checks along with a little extra to cover for the tax. So it could just be a bad explanation that you got along with the gift certificate.
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Update: Someone has been repeatedly vandalizing my car, I can't break my lease or park elsewhere, and police have said they won't investigate even if I catch the vandalism on CCTV. What are my options? Update to my post from about a week ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/985ss5/someone_is_targeting_and_damaging_my_car_good/ I came outside today and noticed that my car, which has already been keyed and broken into once, has a new deep key mark at hand height across my rear bumper (we're talking through the paint and into the plastic). The police essentially said that even if I install a dash or security cam and catch them, they won't take any action. They've already said they aren't patrolling this neighborhood. I'm a college student and can't afford to pay out of pocket to fix continuous damage, nor can I afford the $500 deductible for my insurance or subsequent rate raise. There isn't any gated parking nearby, and my street is the only one with lights, so I can't park on another street and expect the vehicle to be any safer. Both key-ings have occurred while the car was parked on the rental property under a carport. I'm supposed to trade this car in for a lease in the next few months since it's almost out of warranty, and now I'm concerned about the decreased value of the vehicle and likelihood that the new car will be damaged as well. I'm now aware that I likely can't break the lease due to the vandalism, but is there any legal recourse I could take if I happen to get footage of whoever is doing this and it turns out to be another resident? I'm assuming it isn't a stranger since the new damage has all occurred in our private parking. TL;DR: Do I have any options left if the police think the case isn't worth looking into, even if I manage to get a picture/video of the vandal?
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>Do I have any options left if the police think the case isn't worth looking into, even if I manage to get a picture/video of the vandal? Yes, you can sue the vandal in small claims court for the value of the damage they've done.
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> Update to my post from about a week ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/985ss5/someone_is_targeting_and_damaging_my_car_good/ > I came outside today and noticed that my car, which has already been keyed and broken into once, has a new deep key mark at hand height across my rear bumper (we're talking through the paint and into the plastic). The police essentially said that even if I install a dash or security cam and catch them, they won't take any action. They've already said they aren't patrolling this neighborhood. I'm a college student and can't afford to pay out of pocket to fix continuous damage, nor can I afford the $500 deductible for my insurance or subsequent rate raise. > There isn't any gated parking nearby, and my street is the only one with lights, so I can't park on another street and expect the vehicle to be any safer. Both key-ings have occurred while the car was parked on the rental property under a carport. > I'm supposed to trade this car in for a lease in the next few months since it's almost out of warranty, and now I'm concerned about the decreased value of the vehicle and likelihood that the new car will be damaged as well. > I'm now aware that I likely can't break the lease due to the vandalism, but is there any legal recourse I could take if I happen to get footage of whoever is doing this and it turns out to be another resident? I'm assuming it isn't a stranger since the new damage has all occurred in our private parking. > TL;DR: Do I have any options left if the police think the case isn't worth looking into, even if I manage to get a picture/video of the vandal?
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Update: Someone has been repeatedly vandalizing my car, I can't break my lease or park elsewhere, and police have said they won't investigate even if I catch the vandalism on CCTV. What are my options? Update to my post from about a week ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/985ss5/someone_is_targeting_and_damaging_my_car_good/ I came outside today and noticed that my car, which has already been keyed and broken into once, has a new deep key mark at hand height across my rear bumper (we're talking through the paint and into the plastic). The police essentially said that even if I install a dash or security cam and catch them, they won't take any action. They've already said they aren't patrolling this neighborhood. I'm a college student and can't afford to pay out of pocket to fix continuous damage, nor can I afford the $500 deductible for my insurance or subsequent rate raise. There isn't any gated parking nearby, and my street is the only one with lights, so I can't park on another street and expect the vehicle to be any safer. Both key-ings have occurred while the car was parked on the rental property under a carport. I'm supposed to trade this car in for a lease in the next few months since it's almost out of warranty, and now I'm concerned about the decreased value of the vehicle and likelihood that the new car will be damaged as well. I'm now aware that I likely can't break the lease due to the vandalism, but is there any legal recourse I could take if I happen to get footage of whoever is doing this and it turns out to be another resident? I'm assuming it isn't a stranger since the new damage has all occurred in our private parking. TL;DR: Do I have any options left if the police think the case isn't worth looking into, even if I manage to get a picture/video of the vandal?
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Original Post:
> Update to my post from about a week ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/985ss5/someone_is_targeting_and_damaging_my_car_good/ > I came outside today and noticed that my car, which has already been keyed and broken into once, has a new deep key mark at hand height across my rear bumper (we're talking through the paint and into the plastic). The police essentially said that even if I install a dash or security cam and catch them, they won't take any action. They've already said they aren't patrolling this neighborhood. I'm a college student and can't afford to pay out of pocket to fix continuous damage, nor can I afford the $500 deductible for my insurance or subsequent rate raise. > There isn't any gated parking nearby, and my street is the only one with lights, so I can't park on another street and expect the vehicle to be any safer. Both key-ings have occurred while the car was parked on the rental property under a carport. > I'm supposed to trade this car in for a lease in the next few months since it's almost out of warranty, and now I'm concerned about the decreased value of the vehicle and likelihood that the new car will be damaged as well. > I'm now aware that I likely can't break the lease due to the vandalism, but is there any legal recourse I could take if I happen to get footage of whoever is doing this and it turns out to be another resident? I'm assuming it isn't a stranger since the new damage has all occurred in our private parking. > TL;DR: Do I have any options left if the police think the case isn't worth looking into, even if I manage to get a picture/video of the vandal?
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As others have suggested, I would advise you invest in a dash cam. They are not very expensive nowadays. I think if you had video of the vandal the police would probably be more likely to action despite what they said previously. Even if the police don't do anything, knowing when and potentially what the vandal looks like could really help. Maybe it's a fellow tenant who wants to use that spot and you will recognize them. Maybe it's some kids who are doing it after they get out of school and are walking home. You could complain to their schoool. That video could be helpful in many ways even if the police won't take action. ​
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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I’d ask the apartment to send your son the receipt of the carpet cleaning - as proof it happened AND if it did, so you can ensure they don’t use the same company! (As they stink at it….haha….)
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Get a free inspection from an exterminator (or check your lease/pursue it with your landlord if you aren’t sure whether you’re allowed to). I moved into a home that I thought smelled like cat urine; it turned out that I had a rat infestation in the attic and the smell was coming from their urine and droppings. If they find rodents or bugs are causing the odor, pursue that with your landlord.
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xtubx3
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqsonuw
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Get a free inspection from an exterminator (or check your lease/pursue it with your landlord if you aren’t sure whether you’re allowed to). I moved into a home that I thought smelled like cat urine; it turned out that I had a rat infestation in the attic and the smell was coming from their urine and droppings. If they find rodents or bugs are causing the odor, pursue that with your landlord.
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Maybe see if a pen-sized black light will help you find uncleaned areas?
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xtubx3
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqtkxcl
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Maybe see if a pen-sized black light will help you find uncleaned areas?
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Maybe it was a meth lab? I had a student whose book bag reeked of cat urine. He lived in a meth house. He’s now in a proper place with adoptive parents who adore him.
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xtubx3
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqtiwqn
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iqtkxcl
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Not a lawyer, property manager If there is carpet in this home, and they cleaned the carpet, then the pad underneath is soaked with cat urine and likely the sub floor. The only remedy is to remove the carpet, then remove the pad, then treat the subfloor with an enzyme product, then seal the subfloor with a product like Kilz, then install new flooring. It is highly likely they didnt even shampoo the carpet. If that is the case, a UV pet light will show where urine is. If it does, then you can show them. It is also likely that the urine is in the baseboards and the walls. If so, then you can prove the stink is coming from the baseboard and walls. It is not uncommon for the lower 2 feet of drywall to need to be removed, and new drywall patched in. You'll need to get management in the home while it is so stinky. What we do in practice, is to cut out pieces of damaged drywall and pieces of damaged carpet and pad and preserve them in 2 to 4 layers of plastic to take to court against tenants who left similar damage. The issue is that your son already accepted the keys, and while you/he complained, you accepted their excuse. You/he will need to negiotiate to get management to move him to a different unit, so that they can remediate this unit. If they refuse, you might be able to contact the health department of your area and ask for an inspection from them.
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Maybe it was a meth lab? I had a student whose book bag reeked of cat urine. He lived in a meth house. He’s now in a proper place with adoptive parents who adore him.
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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They probably need to replace the carpet. You can get a black light flashlight from Amazon. If you shine that in tge dark over tge walls and carpets, you will be able to see tge cat pee, if that is what it is. Then you can prove it hasn't been properly cleaned and force them to do something about it, or have proof that you had no choice but to move out, shoukd it go to court.
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Maybe it was a meth lab? I had a student whose book bag reeked of cat urine. He lived in a meth house. He’s now in a proper place with adoptive parents who adore him.
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqsonuw
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iqtrd9n
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Maybe see if a pen-sized black light will help you find uncleaned areas?
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If it was a meth lab you're going to have bigger issues
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqtiwqn
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iqtrd9n
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Not a lawyer, property manager If there is carpet in this home, and they cleaned the carpet, then the pad underneath is soaked with cat urine and likely the sub floor. The only remedy is to remove the carpet, then remove the pad, then treat the subfloor with an enzyme product, then seal the subfloor with a product like Kilz, then install new flooring. It is highly likely they didnt even shampoo the carpet. If that is the case, a UV pet light will show where urine is. If it does, then you can show them. It is also likely that the urine is in the baseboards and the walls. If so, then you can prove the stink is coming from the baseboard and walls. It is not uncommon for the lower 2 feet of drywall to need to be removed, and new drywall patched in. You'll need to get management in the home while it is so stinky. What we do in practice, is to cut out pieces of damaged drywall and pieces of damaged carpet and pad and preserve them in 2 to 4 layers of plastic to take to court against tenants who left similar damage. The issue is that your son already accepted the keys, and while you/he complained, you accepted their excuse. You/he will need to negiotiate to get management to move him to a different unit, so that they can remediate this unit. If they refuse, you might be able to contact the health department of your area and ask for an inspection from them.
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If it was a meth lab you're going to have bigger issues
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqti4r9
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If it was a meth lab you're going to have bigger issues
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They probably need to replace the carpet. You can get a black light flashlight from Amazon. If you shine that in tge dark over tge walls and carpets, you will be able to see tge cat pee, if that is what it is. Then you can prove it hasn't been properly cleaned and force them to do something about it, or have proof that you had no choice but to move out, shoukd it go to court.
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xtubx3
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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If it was a meth lab you're going to have bigger issues
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He can ask for the copy of the invoice and have a third party carpet cleaning contractor come and inspect the carpet and get an estimate on how much it would cost to repair or replace depending on the extent of damages (urine) in the carpet. Then I would give this to management and also forward it to their corporate office.
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqtiwqn
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iqti4r9
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Not a lawyer, property manager If there is carpet in this home, and they cleaned the carpet, then the pad underneath is soaked with cat urine and likely the sub floor. The only remedy is to remove the carpet, then remove the pad, then treat the subfloor with an enzyme product, then seal the subfloor with a product like Kilz, then install new flooring. It is highly likely they didnt even shampoo the carpet. If that is the case, a UV pet light will show where urine is. If it does, then you can show them. It is also likely that the urine is in the baseboards and the walls. If so, then you can prove the stink is coming from the baseboard and walls. It is not uncommon for the lower 2 feet of drywall to need to be removed, and new drywall patched in. You'll need to get management in the home while it is so stinky. What we do in practice, is to cut out pieces of damaged drywall and pieces of damaged carpet and pad and preserve them in 2 to 4 layers of plastic to take to court against tenants who left similar damage. The issue is that your son already accepted the keys, and while you/he complained, you accepted their excuse. You/he will need to negiotiate to get management to move him to a different unit, so that they can remediate this unit. If they refuse, you might be able to contact the health department of your area and ask for an inspection from them.
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They probably need to replace the carpet. You can get a black light flashlight from Amazon. If you shine that in tge dark over tge walls and carpets, you will be able to see tge cat pee, if that is what it is. Then you can prove it hasn't been properly cleaned and force them to do something about it, or have proof that you had no choice but to move out, shoukd it go to court.
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqu0fz6
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If a cat was pissing in that apartment it went through to the floorboards
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I once moved into a house that had this going on, turned out it had been a meth lab
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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They probably need to replace the carpet. You can get a black light flashlight from Amazon. If you shine that in tge dark over tge walls and carpets, you will be able to see tge cat pee, if that is what it is. Then you can prove it hasn't been properly cleaned and force them to do something about it, or have proof that you had no choice but to move out, shoukd it go to court.
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If a cat was pissing in that apartment it went through to the floorboards
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My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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If a cat was pissing in that apartment it went through to the floorboards
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He can ask for the copy of the invoice and have a third party carpet cleaning contractor come and inspect the carpet and get an estimate on how much it would cost to repair or replace depending on the extent of damages (urine) in the carpet. Then I would give this to management and also forward it to their corporate office.
| 1 | 764 | 1.75 |
xtubx3
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legaladvice_train
| 0.92 |
My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqu0fz6
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iqti4r9
| 1,664,762,530 | 1,664,754,102 | 8 | 5 |
I once moved into a house that had this going on, turned out it had been a meth lab
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They probably need to replace the carpet. You can get a black light flashlight from Amazon. If you shine that in tge dark over tge walls and carpets, you will be able to see tge cat pee, if that is what it is. Then you can prove it hasn't been properly cleaned and force them to do something about it, or have proof that you had no choice but to move out, shoukd it go to court.
| 1 | 8,428 | 1.6 |
xtubx3
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legaladvice_train
| 0.92 |
My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqu0fz6
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iqtqbk7
| 1,664,762,530 | 1,664,757,838 | 8 | 4 |
I once moved into a house that had this going on, turned out it had been a meth lab
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He can ask for the copy of the invoice and have a third party carpet cleaning contractor come and inspect the carpet and get an estimate on how much it would cost to repair or replace depending on the extent of damages (urine) in the carpet. Then I would give this to management and also forward it to their corporate office.
| 1 | 4,692 | 2 |
xtubx3
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.92 |
My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqtsgtg
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iqu0fz6
| 1,664,758,813 | 1,664,762,530 | 2 | 8 |
If it is in fact cat pee try Odoban. I have used it for cat and dog smells and it works well.
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I once moved into a house that had this going on, turned out it had been a meth lab
| 0 | 3,717 | 4 |
xtubx3
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.92 |
My son just moved into an apartment and has only been there one night as he works away bi-weekly . There was a strong cat odour when we moved in but they said they had just cleaned and that the smell would go away… it’s only gotten worse and it’s so intense. It’s extremely bad and nearly uninhabitable. I have been going in and tried enzyme cleaners etc.What options do we have now?
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iqtsgtg
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iqu6k4l
| 1,664,758,813 | 1,664,765,416 | 2 | 3 |
If it is in fact cat pee try Odoban. I have used it for cat and dog smells and it works well.
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I experienced this once in a rental. My bedroom and only mine smelled like cat urine. I didn't smell it when I toured the place originally but the first night after moving in the smell was overwhelming. I tried everything. Landlord had the carpet cleaned just before I moved in. No pets were allowed so the landlord was baffled. Finally realized the last tenant before me must have ignored the rule and locked her cat in the bedroom and it used the floor vent as a litter box. That is why it didn't smell as strong until I turned the ac on. Had to have the ducts cleaned. It worked. How the previous tenant lived there like that I'll never understand.
| 0 | 6,603 | 1.5 |
kokcd0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My neighbors are destroying the backyard, their dog has bitten members of my family repeatedly, and they now have a pig in town. This is in WV. We live in town. The neighbors let their kids dig up their yards with shovels. I don’t have footage of them doing it but they have about a 12 by 6 foot hole in the middle of the property they rent. The have now dug up most of the fence line and we can no long let our dogs outside. Even if we could they now have a huge pig outside. They also start giant fires 5 feet from the house and throw gasoline on it which has melted the siding of their garage. I have video of that event and a lot of video of their animals on my property harassing my dogs. They really are unbelievably horrible and are now damaging the property we worked 5 years to save and purchase. I own my home and they rent. I’ve made their landlord aware of what’s happening to my property and theirs (their rental property has a ridiculous amount of damage caused by these people) and the only response I get is the pig will be gone ASAP but it’s been two weeks. What can I do? We paid a lot of money for our home and got out of a very bad neighborhood only to be terrorized by these people. I’m on disability and have limited income and can’t travel much. My SO isn’t rich by any means and she’s terrified as their dog has bitten her twice while she was walking to her car. It drew blood on both occasions but is a small dog so we didn’t make a report. I regret that now. Please help.
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ghro00k
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ghrli2r
| 1,609,540,875 | 1,609,539,541 | 1,402 | 584 |
Call the non emergency line for the police department and ask to file a complaint about your neighbors animals and fires. And everytime that someone is bit call again
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If they are damaging YOUR property, call the police. What they do to the siding of their house or their backyard is not your concern. If the pig violates local ordinances, notify your city via an ordinance complaint and report the loose dog to Animal Control. Consider a privacy fence.
| 1 | 1,334 | 2.400685 |
kokcd0
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My neighbors are destroying the backyard, their dog has bitten members of my family repeatedly, and they now have a pig in town. This is in WV. We live in town. The neighbors let their kids dig up their yards with shovels. I don’t have footage of them doing it but they have about a 12 by 6 foot hole in the middle of the property they rent. The have now dug up most of the fence line and we can no long let our dogs outside. Even if we could they now have a huge pig outside. They also start giant fires 5 feet from the house and throw gasoline on it which has melted the siding of their garage. I have video of that event and a lot of video of their animals on my property harassing my dogs. They really are unbelievably horrible and are now damaging the property we worked 5 years to save and purchase. I own my home and they rent. I’ve made their landlord aware of what’s happening to my property and theirs (their rental property has a ridiculous amount of damage caused by these people) and the only response I get is the pig will be gone ASAP but it’s been two weeks. What can I do? We paid a lot of money for our home and got out of a very bad neighborhood only to be terrorized by these people. I’m on disability and have limited income and can’t travel much. My SO isn’t rich by any means and she’s terrified as their dog has bitten her twice while she was walking to her car. It drew blood on both occasions but is a small dog so we didn’t make a report. I regret that now. Please help.
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ghsbokh
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ghsfrqu
| 1,609,554,070 | 1,609,556,243 | 193 | 302 |
In addition to all of the great advice, OP, reach out to your municipality's code enforcement office. Code enforcement will make the landlord aware of the multiple code violations which he or she will had to address.
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Call the fire department when they start up fires, animal control for the pig (check that farm animals aren't allowed in city limits with them), and code enforcement for the state of their house and your property line. As for the biting dog, next time you see it roaming call the animal control and inform them an aggressive dog that has bit you before is loose. Always take pictures after a bite and call animal control after.
| 0 | 2,173 | 1.564767 |
kokcd0
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My neighbors are destroying the backyard, their dog has bitten members of my family repeatedly, and they now have a pig in town. This is in WV. We live in town. The neighbors let their kids dig up their yards with shovels. I don’t have footage of them doing it but they have about a 12 by 6 foot hole in the middle of the property they rent. The have now dug up most of the fence line and we can no long let our dogs outside. Even if we could they now have a huge pig outside. They also start giant fires 5 feet from the house and throw gasoline on it which has melted the siding of their garage. I have video of that event and a lot of video of their animals on my property harassing my dogs. They really are unbelievably horrible and are now damaging the property we worked 5 years to save and purchase. I own my home and they rent. I’ve made their landlord aware of what’s happening to my property and theirs (their rental property has a ridiculous amount of damage caused by these people) and the only response I get is the pig will be gone ASAP but it’s been two weeks. What can I do? We paid a lot of money for our home and got out of a very bad neighborhood only to be terrorized by these people. I’m on disability and have limited income and can’t travel much. My SO isn’t rich by any means and she’s terrified as their dog has bitten her twice while she was walking to her car. It drew blood on both occasions but is a small dog so we didn’t make a report. I regret that now. Please help.
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ghs4blo
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ghsfrqu
| 1,609,549,994 | 1,609,556,243 | 58 | 302 |
Do you have photos of the bites? Call animal control, might not be too late to file a report and report the pig as well
|
Call the fire department when they start up fires, animal control for the pig (check that farm animals aren't allowed in city limits with them), and code enforcement for the state of their house and your property line. As for the biting dog, next time you see it roaming call the animal control and inform them an aggressive dog that has bit you before is loose. Always take pictures after a bite and call animal control after.
| 0 | 6,249 | 5.206897 |
kokcd0
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My neighbors are destroying the backyard, their dog has bitten members of my family repeatedly, and they now have a pig in town. This is in WV. We live in town. The neighbors let their kids dig up their yards with shovels. I don’t have footage of them doing it but they have about a 12 by 6 foot hole in the middle of the property they rent. The have now dug up most of the fence line and we can no long let our dogs outside. Even if we could they now have a huge pig outside. They also start giant fires 5 feet from the house and throw gasoline on it which has melted the siding of their garage. I have video of that event and a lot of video of their animals on my property harassing my dogs. They really are unbelievably horrible and are now damaging the property we worked 5 years to save and purchase. I own my home and they rent. I’ve made their landlord aware of what’s happening to my property and theirs (their rental property has a ridiculous amount of damage caused by these people) and the only response I get is the pig will be gone ASAP but it’s been two weeks. What can I do? We paid a lot of money for our home and got out of a very bad neighborhood only to be terrorized by these people. I’m on disability and have limited income and can’t travel much. My SO isn’t rich by any means and she’s terrified as their dog has bitten her twice while she was walking to her car. It drew blood on both occasions but is a small dog so we didn’t make a report. I regret that now. Please help.
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ghschw1
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ghsfrqu
| 1,609,554,520 | 1,609,556,243 | 27 | 302 |
Burning large fires inside city limits is usually illegal.
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Call the fire department when they start up fires, animal control for the pig (check that farm animals aren't allowed in city limits with them), and code enforcement for the state of their house and your property line. As for the biting dog, next time you see it roaming call the animal control and inform them an aggressive dog that has bit you before is loose. Always take pictures after a bite and call animal control after.
| 0 | 1,723 | 11.185185 |
kokcd0
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My neighbors are destroying the backyard, their dog has bitten members of my family repeatedly, and they now have a pig in town. This is in WV. We live in town. The neighbors let their kids dig up their yards with shovels. I don’t have footage of them doing it but they have about a 12 by 6 foot hole in the middle of the property they rent. The have now dug up most of the fence line and we can no long let our dogs outside. Even if we could they now have a huge pig outside. They also start giant fires 5 feet from the house and throw gasoline on it which has melted the siding of their garage. I have video of that event and a lot of video of their animals on my property harassing my dogs. They really are unbelievably horrible and are now damaging the property we worked 5 years to save and purchase. I own my home and they rent. I’ve made their landlord aware of what’s happening to my property and theirs (their rental property has a ridiculous amount of damage caused by these people) and the only response I get is the pig will be gone ASAP but it’s been two weeks. What can I do? We paid a lot of money for our home and got out of a very bad neighborhood only to be terrorized by these people. I’m on disability and have limited income and can’t travel much. My SO isn’t rich by any means and she’s terrified as their dog has bitten her twice while she was walking to her car. It drew blood on both occasions but is a small dog so we didn’t make a report. I regret that now. Please help.
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ghs4blo
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ghsbokh
| 1,609,549,994 | 1,609,554,070 | 58 | 193 |
Do you have photos of the bites? Call animal control, might not be too late to file a report and report the pig as well
|
In addition to all of the great advice, OP, reach out to your municipality's code enforcement office. Code enforcement will make the landlord aware of the multiple code violations which he or she will had to address.
| 0 | 4,076 | 3.327586 |
kokcd0
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My neighbors are destroying the backyard, their dog has bitten members of my family repeatedly, and they now have a pig in town. This is in WV. We live in town. The neighbors let their kids dig up their yards with shovels. I don’t have footage of them doing it but they have about a 12 by 6 foot hole in the middle of the property they rent. The have now dug up most of the fence line and we can no long let our dogs outside. Even if we could they now have a huge pig outside. They also start giant fires 5 feet from the house and throw gasoline on it which has melted the siding of their garage. I have video of that event and a lot of video of their animals on my property harassing my dogs. They really are unbelievably horrible and are now damaging the property we worked 5 years to save and purchase. I own my home and they rent. I’ve made their landlord aware of what’s happening to my property and theirs (their rental property has a ridiculous amount of damage caused by these people) and the only response I get is the pig will be gone ASAP but it’s been two weeks. What can I do? We paid a lot of money for our home and got out of a very bad neighborhood only to be terrorized by these people. I’m on disability and have limited income and can’t travel much. My SO isn’t rich by any means and she’s terrified as their dog has bitten her twice while she was walking to her car. It drew blood on both occasions but is a small dog so we didn’t make a report. I regret that now. Please help.
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ght6jjp
|
ghsm6e3
| 1,609,574,713 | 1,609,559,877 | 41 | 30 |
Not a lawyer, but in veterinary medicine. Please call animal control and report both bites. It is very important to do so, and to get checked out by a doctor given that the bites drew blood. Who knows if the dog is UTD on the rabies vaccine! If not, the dog will have to be quarantined for at least ten days, and also vaccinated. Please take bites seriously, because they are a very serious manner. After enough complaints, these people may not be able to have animals... which sounds like a good thing at this point. Best of luck to you!
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Communicate with their landlord in writing (e.g. email) and save a copy for yourself. Inform the landlord that you are concerned that they are going to burn down your house when they burn down his house. CC the fire chief in your town. Do this every time there is a fire to create a paper trail.
| 1 | 14,836 | 1.366667 |
kokcd0
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
My neighbors are destroying the backyard, their dog has bitten members of my family repeatedly, and they now have a pig in town. This is in WV. We live in town. The neighbors let their kids dig up their yards with shovels. I don’t have footage of them doing it but they have about a 12 by 6 foot hole in the middle of the property they rent. The have now dug up most of the fence line and we can no long let our dogs outside. Even if we could they now have a huge pig outside. They also start giant fires 5 feet from the house and throw gasoline on it which has melted the siding of their garage. I have video of that event and a lot of video of their animals on my property harassing my dogs. They really are unbelievably horrible and are now damaging the property we worked 5 years to save and purchase. I own my home and they rent. I’ve made their landlord aware of what’s happening to my property and theirs (their rental property has a ridiculous amount of damage caused by these people) and the only response I get is the pig will be gone ASAP but it’s been two weeks. What can I do? We paid a lot of money for our home and got out of a very bad neighborhood only to be terrorized by these people. I’m on disability and have limited income and can’t travel much. My SO isn’t rich by any means and she’s terrified as their dog has bitten her twice while she was walking to her car. It drew blood on both occasions but is a small dog so we didn’t make a report. I regret that now. Please help.
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ghschw1
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ght6jjp
| 1,609,554,520 | 1,609,574,713 | 27 | 41 |
Burning large fires inside city limits is usually illegal.
|
Not a lawyer, but in veterinary medicine. Please call animal control and report both bites. It is very important to do so, and to get checked out by a doctor given that the bites drew blood. Who knows if the dog is UTD on the rabies vaccine! If not, the dog will have to be quarantined for at least ten days, and also vaccinated. Please take bites seriously, because they are a very serious manner. After enough complaints, these people may not be able to have animals... which sounds like a good thing at this point. Best of luck to you!
| 0 | 20,193 | 1.518519 |
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