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Would I, a 13 year old, be able to legally go behind my parents backs and get vaccinated? I’m from Minnesota. My parents are antivaxxers and have been my whole life. I’ve never been vaccinated. Though, I have siblings who might bring me to get vaccinated, if they were up for it. And hopefully, at some point there will be a coronavirus vaccine. I’m not sure if my parents would get the vaccine though. And I’m worried. So, would I be able to be vaccinated without parental consent with an older sibling?
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fmvopaw
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fmvno98
| 1,586,424,939 | 1,586,423,771 | 17 | 8 |
Minnesota law allows you to get a Hep B vaccine without your parents.
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In general, minors cannot receive medical treatment without a legal guardian's consent. You can discuss your concerns with a doctor, there may be some way around it. If you don't have a doctor, start with your school nurse.
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vl34qv
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idttex4
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idt49wl
| 1,656,264,339 | 1,656,253,197 | 109 | 45 |
I’m an attorney, but not in rhode island. I agree that stepparents likely do not have rights, however, some jurisdictions give some rights to anyone who has been a sole caretaker for a child for more than one year. Also, there is an exception for psychological parents (people who the child treats as a parent despite not being an actual parent) in a lot of states. Call an attorney in Rhode Island immediately and see what you can do.
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Did the father have sole custody? If not, then the Mother might have to petition the courts for temporary custody until full custody can be awarded. If this is the case, I wouldn't just put the child on a plane. If they shared custody, then the Mom assumes full custody automatically. Unfortunately, the courts always believe it is in the child's best interest to be with biological parents first. Was the mother an active parent? regularly scheduled visitation, etc.? If she was absent, then there might be a chance where the courts would consider the step parent.
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vl34qv
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idttex4
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idt3wfc
| 1,656,264,339 | 1,656,253,015 | 109 | 14 |
I’m an attorney, but not in rhode island. I agree that stepparents likely do not have rights, however, some jurisdictions give some rights to anyone who has been a sole caretaker for a child for more than one year. Also, there is an exception for psychological parents (people who the child treats as a parent despite not being an actual parent) in a lot of states. Call an attorney in Rhode Island immediately and see what you can do.
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As has been said here, it's not likely that a step parent can be the legal guardian if the biological mother is still alive. One could still file a claim in family court (or wherever is appropriate depending on the state) seeking parenthood or legal guardianship. But that is a very rare and exceedingly difficult option in a few states and not an option at all in other states. Assuming it's possible, the step parent may have to show that the mother is not fit or not willing or both. The child's wishes are not relevant. And even then it would be up to a judge to agree to take the child away from his/her biological parent. Do consult a lawyer. But another option is to try to negotiate with the mother for visitation, which she most likely and legally doesn't have to provide.
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vl34qv
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idtimkl
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idttex4
| 1,656,259,687 | 1,656,264,339 | 9 | 109 |
Some states will take the desires of the child into consideration based on their age. In Texas, I think the age is 16. This question really needs to be directed to a family law attorney. I would find a really good family law attorney that specializes in custody issues, and book an appointment. Explain the situation, and ask the attorney what your legal options are to gain full custody of your former step child. It could be that the child may be old enough to try and obtain emancipation from his biological mother, which may let you and your husband adopt him. But again, this is really for the courts to decide. Good luck.
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I’m an attorney, but not in rhode island. I agree that stepparents likely do not have rights, however, some jurisdictions give some rights to anyone who has been a sole caretaker for a child for more than one year. Also, there is an exception for psychological parents (people who the child treats as a parent despite not being an actual parent) in a lot of states. Call an attorney in Rhode Island immediately and see what you can do.
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vl34qv
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legaladvice_train
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idttex4
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idtj9p2
| 1,656,264,339 | 1,656,259,963 | 109 | 5 |
I’m an attorney, but not in rhode island. I agree that stepparents likely do not have rights, however, some jurisdictions give some rights to anyone who has been a sole caretaker for a child for more than one year. Also, there is an exception for psychological parents (people who the child treats as a parent despite not being an actual parent) in a lot of states. Call an attorney in Rhode Island immediately and see what you can do.
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Is the mother in PR = Puerto Rico ?? this could change things. Where was the court proceedings for custody and visitation originally granted?
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vl34qv
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legaladvice_train
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idttex4
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idtjg7q
| 1,656,264,339 | 1,656,260,042 | 109 | 3 |
I’m an attorney, but not in rhode island. I agree that stepparents likely do not have rights, however, some jurisdictions give some rights to anyone who has been a sole caretaker for a child for more than one year. Also, there is an exception for psychological parents (people who the child treats as a parent despite not being an actual parent) in a lot of states. Call an attorney in Rhode Island immediately and see what you can do.
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Obligatory 'not a lawyer.' So, she's asking about third party visitation at best, because unless the mother doesn't have *any* custody rights, it's almost guaranteed that the mother will get custody barring something to make her an unfit parent (a super high bar). Something else that's important is looking at the deceased husband's former custody order. The language in there and the jurisdiction in which it was filed will be important. If it was in a third state, that could be relevant. Third party visitation usually means that if the mom and kid are in PR, your gf will be allowed to visit him, but not have him come stay with her for long stretches of time or live with her. It could be limited in a lot of ways. Basically, though, neither PR nor RI recognize step parents as having a right to access their step-child, *but*, silver lining time, both do sometimes grant third party visitation. RI, PR. The Rhode Island website just says you need to show the visitation is in the best interests of the child, but Puerto Rico's standards are more clear: They require clear and convincing evidence that this is in the best interests of the child, which is usually interpreted to mean 'substantially more likely than unlikely.' This will still be an uphill battle, undoubtedly, but because she's been the child's caregiver for a while (correct me if I'm wrong, but even after their separation?), it can elevate her claim beyond just 'step parent' and into 'caregiver,' which is usually a better claim. So, first piece of advice is find the old custody order, and second is get thee to a lawyer specializing in Family Law. Just doing a consult with one will help work out the jurisdiction issue, because I'm really not sure which court you'd be in, then they can give you a better overview of your odds and how to proceed.
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vl34qv
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legaladvice_train
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idt49wl
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idt3wfc
| 1,656,253,197 | 1,656,253,015 | 45 | 14 |
Did the father have sole custody? If not, then the Mother might have to petition the courts for temporary custody until full custody can be awarded. If this is the case, I wouldn't just put the child on a plane. If they shared custody, then the Mom assumes full custody automatically. Unfortunately, the courts always believe it is in the child's best interest to be with biological parents first. Was the mother an active parent? regularly scheduled visitation, etc.? If she was absent, then there might be a chance where the courts would consider the step parent.
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As has been said here, it's not likely that a step parent can be the legal guardian if the biological mother is still alive. One could still file a claim in family court (or wherever is appropriate depending on the state) seeking parenthood or legal guardianship. But that is a very rare and exceedingly difficult option in a few states and not an option at all in other states. Assuming it's possible, the step parent may have to show that the mother is not fit or not willing or both. The child's wishes are not relevant. And even then it would be up to a judge to agree to take the child away from his/her biological parent. Do consult a lawyer. But another option is to try to negotiate with the mother for visitation, which she most likely and legally doesn't have to provide.
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vl34qv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idt3wfc
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idttkbp
| 1,656,253,015 | 1,656,264,402 | 14 | 15 |
As has been said here, it's not likely that a step parent can be the legal guardian if the biological mother is still alive. One could still file a claim in family court (or wherever is appropriate depending on the state) seeking parenthood or legal guardianship. But that is a very rare and exceedingly difficult option in a few states and not an option at all in other states. Assuming it's possible, the step parent may have to show that the mother is not fit or not willing or both. The child's wishes are not relevant. And even then it would be up to a judge to agree to take the child away from his/her biological parent. Do consult a lawyer. But another option is to try to negotiate with the mother for visitation, which she most likely and legally doesn't have to provide.
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Not a legal strategy, but just a suggestion: offer to let the mother get the boy's SSA benefit while he stays in RI to finish high school.
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vl34qv
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legaladvice_train
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idtimkl
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idttkbp
| 1,656,259,687 | 1,656,264,402 | 9 | 15 |
Some states will take the desires of the child into consideration based on their age. In Texas, I think the age is 16. This question really needs to be directed to a family law attorney. I would find a really good family law attorney that specializes in custody issues, and book an appointment. Explain the situation, and ask the attorney what your legal options are to gain full custody of your former step child. It could be that the child may be old enough to try and obtain emancipation from his biological mother, which may let you and your husband adopt him. But again, this is really for the courts to decide. Good luck.
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Not a legal strategy, but just a suggestion: offer to let the mother get the boy's SSA benefit while he stays in RI to finish high school.
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vl34qv
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idtj9p2
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idttkbp
| 1,656,259,963 | 1,656,264,402 | 5 | 15 |
Is the mother in PR = Puerto Rico ?? this could change things. Where was the court proceedings for custody and visitation originally granted?
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Not a legal strategy, but just a suggestion: offer to let the mother get the boy's SSA benefit while he stays in RI to finish high school.
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vl34qv
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idttkbp
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idtjg7q
| 1,656,264,402 | 1,656,260,042 | 15 | 3 |
Not a legal strategy, but just a suggestion: offer to let the mother get the boy's SSA benefit while he stays in RI to finish high school.
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Obligatory 'not a lawyer.' So, she's asking about third party visitation at best, because unless the mother doesn't have *any* custody rights, it's almost guaranteed that the mother will get custody barring something to make her an unfit parent (a super high bar). Something else that's important is looking at the deceased husband's former custody order. The language in there and the jurisdiction in which it was filed will be important. If it was in a third state, that could be relevant. Third party visitation usually means that if the mom and kid are in PR, your gf will be allowed to visit him, but not have him come stay with her for long stretches of time or live with her. It could be limited in a lot of ways. Basically, though, neither PR nor RI recognize step parents as having a right to access their step-child, *but*, silver lining time, both do sometimes grant third party visitation. RI, PR. The Rhode Island website just says you need to show the visitation is in the best interests of the child, but Puerto Rico's standards are more clear: They require clear and convincing evidence that this is in the best interests of the child, which is usually interpreted to mean 'substantially more likely than unlikely.' This will still be an uphill battle, undoubtedly, but because she's been the child's caregiver for a while (correct me if I'm wrong, but even after their separation?), it can elevate her claim beyond just 'step parent' and into 'caregiver,' which is usually a better claim. So, first piece of advice is find the old custody order, and second is get thee to a lawyer specializing in Family Law. Just doing a consult with one will help work out the jurisdiction issue, because I'm really not sure which court you'd be in, then they can give you a better overview of your odds and how to proceed.
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vl34qv
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legaladvice_train
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idtimkl
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idu5gi9
| 1,656,259,687 | 1,656,269,610 | 9 | 12 |
Some states will take the desires of the child into consideration based on their age. In Texas, I think the age is 16. This question really needs to be directed to a family law attorney. I would find a really good family law attorney that specializes in custody issues, and book an appointment. Explain the situation, and ask the attorney what your legal options are to gain full custody of your former step child. It could be that the child may be old enough to try and obtain emancipation from his biological mother, which may let you and your husband adopt him. But again, this is really for the courts to decide. Good luck.
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A family member of mine was the child in a similar situation a long time ago. After years, the non-biological parents offered to send the biological parents the money but the non-biological parents would remain as the primary caregivers for the child. And that was the end of it. They wished they’d realized it was all about money and made the offer years earlier. I’d definitely make the offer after going through the courts if it’s not possible to gain custody. Maybe see if they’ll make your girlfriend the legal guardian if she sends them the money.
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vl34qv
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idtj9p2
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idu5gi9
| 1,656,259,963 | 1,656,269,610 | 5 | 12 |
Is the mother in PR = Puerto Rico ?? this could change things. Where was the court proceedings for custody and visitation originally granted?
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A family member of mine was the child in a similar situation a long time ago. After years, the non-biological parents offered to send the biological parents the money but the non-biological parents would remain as the primary caregivers for the child. And that was the end of it. They wished they’d realized it was all about money and made the offer years earlier. I’d definitely make the offer after going through the courts if it’s not possible to gain custody. Maybe see if they’ll make your girlfriend the legal guardian if she sends them the money.
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vl34qv
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Does a former stepmother have any parental rights after the child's father has passed away if she has been his caretaker for several years? My girlfriend has been watching after her ex-husband's child for a very long time. He's 14 now. The father had medical issues and now that he has passed away and the SSA benefit to the child will increase, the (unstable) mother wants the son to live with her although he never has. They had a plane ticket to send the boy home, but now that the father is deceased the mother insists on him living with her (which frightens the kid because of the unstable environment) my girlfriend canceled the flight. We're in RI, but the mother is in PR. Looking for advice on what questions to ask and what information we should gather. I love the kid and he's flourishing here, straight A's (!), safe and secure home, etc.
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idtjg7q
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idu5gi9
| 1,656,260,042 | 1,656,269,610 | 3 | 12 |
Obligatory 'not a lawyer.' So, she's asking about third party visitation at best, because unless the mother doesn't have *any* custody rights, it's almost guaranteed that the mother will get custody barring something to make her an unfit parent (a super high bar). Something else that's important is looking at the deceased husband's former custody order. The language in there and the jurisdiction in which it was filed will be important. If it was in a third state, that could be relevant. Third party visitation usually means that if the mom and kid are in PR, your gf will be allowed to visit him, but not have him come stay with her for long stretches of time or live with her. It could be limited in a lot of ways. Basically, though, neither PR nor RI recognize step parents as having a right to access their step-child, *but*, silver lining time, both do sometimes grant third party visitation. RI, PR. The Rhode Island website just says you need to show the visitation is in the best interests of the child, but Puerto Rico's standards are more clear: They require clear and convincing evidence that this is in the best interests of the child, which is usually interpreted to mean 'substantially more likely than unlikely.' This will still be an uphill battle, undoubtedly, but because she's been the child's caregiver for a while (correct me if I'm wrong, but even after their separation?), it can elevate her claim beyond just 'step parent' and into 'caregiver,' which is usually a better claim. So, first piece of advice is find the old custody order, and second is get thee to a lawyer specializing in Family Law. Just doing a consult with one will help work out the jurisdiction issue, because I'm really not sure which court you'd be in, then they can give you a better overview of your odds and how to proceed.
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A family member of mine was the child in a similar situation a long time ago. After years, the non-biological parents offered to send the biological parents the money but the non-biological parents would remain as the primary caregivers for the child. And that was the end of it. They wished they’d realized it was all about money and made the offer years earlier. I’d definitely make the offer after going through the courts if it’s not possible to gain custody. Maybe see if they’ll make your girlfriend the legal guardian if she sends them the money.
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Need to relinquish custody of a non-biological child we've had custody of for several years Four years ago, my wife and I received custody of a 4 year old girl we'll name Peggy for the purposes of this post. Peggy is my wife's niece who came from a neglectful household. Peggy was abandoned by her mother as a newborn and left with a relative, to whom the courts granted custody. The bio father has never been in the picture and has always denied that Peggy is his. About four years later my wife and I received word that this relative became depressed and suicidal. We discovered that Peggy was being severely neglected and was living in filthy conditions without power, water or consistent access to food. My wife and I have two children of our own and after talking agreed we could help Peggy. To make a long story short, after multiple trips out of state for court hearings we received permanent custody of Peggy. It is now four years later. Peggy is eight years old. Soon after bringing her home with us, she was physically abusive to our other two children (4 and 5 yrs at the time). Peggy often pinches, hits, kicks and curses like a sailor. Peggy is incredibly destructive, physically and verbally. Peggy is also violent with other children at school. She recently has begun stealing from the family and school mates. She has also been violent with us and the dog. She has also accused my wife and I of abuse which is not true. We've had her to see numerous psychiatrists and therapists where she has been diagnosed with PTSD, Reactive attachment disorder, severe anxiety and ADHD. We are getting to the point where we no longer feel safe with our 3rd child coming in December. She is getting bigger and stronger and more capable of being much more destructive. My wife and I are completely convinced after trying for four years that we just don't have what it takes to help this girl. Nothing we try helps her. We've been given advice from the doctors and family yet all styles of correction have failed over and over again. We're also starting to worry what her accusations of abuse could mean for our other children. We would like to terminate our custody of her. The problem is that the custody case is in Virginia and we live in the Midwest and we have no idea how to begin this process. She has no social worker or any other support/follow-up from the courts in Virginia. Where do we even start in a situation like this? There are no other relatives who can, or are willing to take her on.
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d41pr6s
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You might consider contacting your local child services department and see if they offer respite care or extra help in a situation like this. They are also the people who would end up taking her if you carry through with this decision and there isn't any other available family.
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I'm sorry to hear this; it sounds like a terrible situation for everyone involved. I would start by reaching out to a family law lawyer--either the one who represented you in Virginia (if you had a lawyer there) or else someone where you live now. Also, you mentioned that Peggy has seen therapists, but have you and your wife also sought counseling? This sounds like a very stressful and difficult situation for everyone involved, and speaking with some kind of family counselor would likely be helpful before taking such a drastic step.
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Need to relinquish custody of a non-biological child we've had custody of for several years Four years ago, my wife and I received custody of a 4 year old girl we'll name Peggy for the purposes of this post. Peggy is my wife's niece who came from a neglectful household. Peggy was abandoned by her mother as a newborn and left with a relative, to whom the courts granted custody. The bio father has never been in the picture and has always denied that Peggy is his. About four years later my wife and I received word that this relative became depressed and suicidal. We discovered that Peggy was being severely neglected and was living in filthy conditions without power, water or consistent access to food. My wife and I have two children of our own and after talking agreed we could help Peggy. To make a long story short, after multiple trips out of state for court hearings we received permanent custody of Peggy. It is now four years later. Peggy is eight years old. Soon after bringing her home with us, she was physically abusive to our other two children (4 and 5 yrs at the time). Peggy often pinches, hits, kicks and curses like a sailor. Peggy is incredibly destructive, physically and verbally. Peggy is also violent with other children at school. She recently has begun stealing from the family and school mates. She has also been violent with us and the dog. She has also accused my wife and I of abuse which is not true. We've had her to see numerous psychiatrists and therapists where she has been diagnosed with PTSD, Reactive attachment disorder, severe anxiety and ADHD. We are getting to the point where we no longer feel safe with our 3rd child coming in December. She is getting bigger and stronger and more capable of being much more destructive. My wife and I are completely convinced after trying for four years that we just don't have what it takes to help this girl. Nothing we try helps her. We've been given advice from the doctors and family yet all styles of correction have failed over and over again. We're also starting to worry what her accusations of abuse could mean for our other children. We would like to terminate our custody of her. The problem is that the custody case is in Virginia and we live in the Midwest and we have no idea how to begin this process. She has no social worker or any other support/follow-up from the courts in Virginia. Where do we even start in a situation like this? There are no other relatives who can, or are willing to take her on.
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I'm sorry to hear this; it sounds like a terrible situation for everyone involved. I would start by reaching out to a family law lawyer--either the one who represented you in Virginia (if you had a lawyer there) or else someone where you live now. Also, you mentioned that Peggy has seen therapists, but have you and your wife also sought counseling? This sounds like a very stressful and difficult situation for everyone involved, and speaking with some kind of family counselor would likely be helpful before taking such a drastic step.
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You can try contacting the original court and asking for a copy of the paper work in the custody case, if they are nice they may give you advice on steps to take to terminate your custody of Peggy if you ask. You want to file a petition with the court for permanent relief of care and custody. I am not sure if anyone else has a stake in her custody, but just prepare yourself that you may still be financially responsible for her. I don't know what state you're in or what the whole situation is, and I am not a lawyer but terminating custody doesn't always terminate financial responsibility. Courts will typically always rule in the best interest of the child. There will probably be a hearing for the petition you file, you may want to start thinking of that 'argument' of Peggy's best interest now. I know it is horrible for you, I have had students with RAD in my classroom and it is stressful, terrifying, and heart wrenching. Most people don't realize what it is like to be around a child who doesn't show remorse and tries to hurt you, or takes pleasure in torturing you. Focus on not being able to give Peggy the support she needs, her behavior makes it unsafe to be around other children and she doesn't have the opportunity to develop social skills. Neither you or the school can watch her 24/7 and she is a danger to herself and others. Highlight that you have exhausted all resources available to you in trying to get her help and it has not been effective, she is getting worse. Take any evidence from her school, counselors, doctors, ect. to show that you are not able to help her to the extent she needs. Frame it all around this being best for Peggy, the court wants to see that you are focusing on her best interest so do your best to express that. Don't listen to jackasses who try to shame you. My first job as a teacher was transitioning children who came from residential psych centers into special education classrooms. All of the children labelled RAD (and many had FAS/drug exposure in the womb) escalated their behavior. You're 100% right to be worried, the more intelligent she gets the more manipulative and destructive behaviors will be. She will do significant harm to you and your children if given the chance, she will plant incriminating things, or spread lies. I am sure you already do, but lock all knives, needles, glass or any plastic that can be broken into shards. Many parents with RAD I worked with have dead bolt locks on the outside of the child's bedroom to lock them in at night and prevent them from trying to hurt you while you're sleeping (when my students most commonly struck). Keep her off the computer unsupervised, I have even had kids get CP off the internet and try to plant it on someone else. Social services might be hit or miss depending on where you live. The highest needs areas tend to be starved of social workers/counselors and grossly overwhelmed, but if you live in a more affluent area they sometimes have more time. Just make sure they know Peggy has RAD and is dangerous- as some respite care this time of the year is putting a child in a sleep away summer camp anywhere from a week to a few weeks. The process near me of terminating custody/rights involves social services after someone files to terminate custody with the court or parental rights and there is a hearing. Sometimes states would rather give you supplemental support than take a child into the foster care system, so they want to poke around and see if there is another option that is 'best for the child' before resorting to removal. The best immediate course of action may be to reach out to her doctors and express your concern. Ask about programs or inpatient residential treatment centers for children that might be better able to support her. RAD is a spectrum disorder, it sounds like Peggy is an extreme case even within this rare disorder. They might know best what programs are around, or what may work with your insurance. It sounds like right now you want to get her out of the house and then you can start the process of legal terminating your permanent custody order. A family lawyer is really what you need though. Good luck.
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My (f)cousin is accusing my (m)cousin(her step brother) of molesting her and is threatening to tell police if he doesn't stop visiting us. She was very specific of the date and time that he did it... except he was with me all day the day and time he supposedly did it. What do I do?
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dgw93zc
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What are the ages of the parties involved?
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Do not tell your female cousin about this, otherwise she'll just tell the police a different time.
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686lm4
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My (f)cousin is accusing my (m)cousin(her step brother) of molesting her and is threatening to tell police if he doesn't stop visiting us. She was very specific of the date and time that he did it... except he was with me all day the day and time he supposedly did it. What do I do?
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dgw8fjq
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dgwcegu
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What are the ages of the parties involved?
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Witnesses are often wrong about dates and times. It's possible he did molest her but she just has her dates/times mixed up. Keep that in mind.
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686lm4
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My (f)cousin is accusing my (m)cousin(her step brother) of molesting her and is threatening to tell police if he doesn't stop visiting us. She was very specific of the date and time that he did it... except he was with me all day the day and time he supposedly did it. What do I do?
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dgwcegu
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Who is "us"? Your extended family? Or just your household where presumably female cousin doesn't reside? Sounds extortion-y to me, but probably doesn't met the legal standard in Texas.
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Witnesses are often wrong about dates and times. It's possible he did molest her but she just has her dates/times mixed up. Keep that in mind.
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686lm4
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My (f)cousin is accusing my (m)cousin(her step brother) of molesting her and is threatening to tell police if he doesn't stop visiting us. She was very specific of the date and time that he did it... except he was with me all day the day and time he supposedly did it. What do I do?
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dgwcu7d
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What are the ages of the parties involved?
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Did she say this date and time in writing, like a text or Facebook? If so, lock that down so you can use it as evidence if she decides to change her story.
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686lm4
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My (f)cousin is accusing my (m)cousin(her step brother) of molesting her and is threatening to tell police if he doesn't stop visiting us. She was very specific of the date and time that he did it... except he was with me all day the day and time he supposedly did it. What do I do?
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dgw9wrd
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dgwcu7d
| 1,493,436,483 | 1,493,441,616 | 37 | 84 |
Who is "us"? Your extended family? Or just your household where presumably female cousin doesn't reside? Sounds extortion-y to me, but probably doesn't met the legal standard in Texas.
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Did she say this date and time in writing, like a text or Facebook? If so, lock that down so you can use it as evidence if she decides to change her story.
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Uncle falsely accusing me and my sister stealing money from my grandma. This is the second time actually. About a year ago my grandma gave me money( check) a good amount. Months later he checked my grandmas account and seen money “missing” (he has her info) he started a bank investigation on me and adult protective servies came and talked to my grandma and she basically told him that it was not stolen and they said okay then never heard from then since. Now fast foward he is doing the same thing again only this time I have no idea what he is talking about. The only thing ai can think of is occasionally she will ask me or my sister to pull some money to pay the gardener or go to walgreens to get a few items and such. I think the most we ever pulled out was like $200. She’s elderly and in a wheelchair and we live with her so that’s why she asks us here and there to do things like that. That’s the only thing I can think of. It’s casuing me and my sister so much stress and anxiety because we’re like great again no what? What should we do? I feel powerless. UPDATE today he got in my face about it and shoved me with both hands. I called the police and him and he took of to his house they came and took my statement and asked if I want to press charges. I said yes. Idk if that’s relevant but I just wanted to add that to say how much stress and depression this is causing me.
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OP, any time your grandma asks you or your sister to pull money out of her account to pay the gardener or go shopping for her you need to keep ALL the receipts to prove what you spent the money on. Tell the gardener that you have to have a receipt from him for your grandma’s records. Keep all of these receipts in an envelope or folder and put them in a safe place. Next time your uncle starts accusing you of stealing grandma’s money pull out the receipts and show him where her money was spent. It may be a good idea to also make a copy of all receipts and let a trusted friend or relative keep them as a back up.
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Not a lawyer, does your grandma have a designated proxy ? / is anyone legally in charge of her finances ? Sadly if this is your uncle, then you'll likely need that interaction still for the sake of your grandma
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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Do NOT call the police If approached by police do NOT talk without your attorney present If you want some peace of mind call some lawyers for a consult (usually free) find one you like that is in your budget/takes payment arrangements.... As to why this is happening, could be various reasons, sometimes victims of molestation will accuse an innocent person because it's safer to say that person did it until they are more able to come to terms with what happened and name the actual abuser...could be a very passive person with an extremely domineering "protector"...could be any other reason but trying to figure that out will just cause you more stress and not help you in any way...don't engage with anyone who may attempt to harass you...and IF you say anything about this situation to family members who ask (and honestly I wouldn't even comment on it at all) don't say anything disparaging about the cousin
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Yes, you need to hire a lawyer.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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Despite the other posters saying otherwise, you do not need to hire a lawyer... yet. If the police come to ask you questions, politely decline to answer any questions until you have retained a lawyer. Then, get a lawyer. If you are worried, you can do some prep work by meeting with a few lawyers (most have free consultations) so as to be ready with a name if the police do contact you. Do not, do not, *DO NOT* discuss this matter with anyone in your family, even if they bring it up. There is no reason whatsoever for you to call the police. If she calls the police, they will contact you if they find her complaint credible. At this point, there is nothing to do, except possibly interviewing some attorneys (if you want). Otherwise, do nothing. I cannot stress enough... *do nothing*! Do not talk to anyone about this. Do not try to contact your cousin. Do not call the police. Do nothing.
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Yes, you need to hire a lawyer.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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I am not a lawyer Something similar happened in my life. I was not the accused, but I was married to the accuser. My recommendation is to save copies of any correspondence or posts that they make. The reason for this is that as time progresses, the story might change. The more times the story changes, the more doubt will be cast on it.
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As I always tell people in these kinds of posts, don't trust Reddit when it comes to false sexual assault stuff. Reddit, as a website, is obsessed with the false accusation as a rule, and although it is a real and very dangerous problem there are groups that actively look for posts like this and they will give you bad information. So just listen to the basics. If the police come to you, get a lawyer. If not, do nothing.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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It is not unheard of for a person to be induced to say they were abused after suggestion, if what you are asking is "why is she doing that?". Her roommate suggested that and now she might believe it, even.
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I am not a lawyer Something similar happened in my life. I was not the accused, but I was married to the accuser. My recommendation is to save copies of any correspondence or posts that they make. The reason for this is that as time progresses, the story might change. The more times the story changes, the more doubt will be cast on it.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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I am not a lawyer Something similar happened in my life. I was not the accused, but I was married to the accuser. My recommendation is to save copies of any correspondence or posts that they make. The reason for this is that as time progresses, the story might change. The more times the story changes, the more doubt will be cast on it.
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Wait... you said you're 30, but this is all being claimed to have been done 15 years ago ? so she's claiming you molested her when you were 5 ?... what ? edit: lawyer the hell up quick, even if these charges are false you want a lawyer on your side to help you wade through this. edit 2: .... math fail.. big big major math fail.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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d4shcto
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Yes, you need to hire a lawyer.
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I am not a lawyer Something similar happened in my life. I was not the accused, but I was married to the accuser. My recommendation is to save copies of any correspondence or posts that they make. The reason for this is that as time progresses, the story might change. The more times the story changes, the more doubt will be cast on it.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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Non-lawyer question: Would this be bad enough to contemplate suing for defamation? Not really to collect anything, but just to pre-emptively nip this in the bud and force the issue in a court?
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I am not a lawyer Something similar happened in my life. I was not the accused, but I was married to the accuser. My recommendation is to save copies of any correspondence or posts that they make. The reason for this is that as time progresses, the story might change. The more times the story changes, the more doubt will be cast on it.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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>i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, tl:dr - Federal prosecution is unlikely. I can't speak to state prosecution. You may wish to have a lawyer. The statute of limitations for FEDERAL sex crimes against children was codified in 18 U.S.C. 3509(k) on November 29, 1990 and was tolled until the victim turned 25. On September 13, 1994, that was recodified as 18 U.S.C. 3283. On April 30, 2003, 18 U.S.C. 3283 changed the limitation period to the life of the victim. It appears that the allegation is that the victim was molested around 2000. Since the victim could not turn 25 prior to April 30, 2003 if she was a minor in 2000, then the limitation period continues for the life of the victim. Unless there is further allegations that you or the alleged victim crossed state lines, or you used interstate communications (phone, internet) to entice the victim, then there are not likely to be Federal charges. In addition, the feds do not normally prosecute minors and you would have been 12-15 at the time of the alleged molestation. I don't know Michigan laws on the subject, and you would have to research what they were in 1997-2000. The reason it is worth having a lawyer is that the cops may not come to talk to you and get 'your side' they may just arrest you and lock you up as a dangerous predator prior to trial. I do not know how likely that is where you live but trying to find a lawyer while in prison is more difficult than finding one while you are free and uncharged. The lawyer may also be able to negotiate with the prosecutor, give you good advice on what to do in order to reduce the likelihood of being arrested or held prior to trial, and your option for making this go away.
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I am not a lawyer Something similar happened in my life. I was not the accused, but I was married to the accuser. My recommendation is to save copies of any correspondence or posts that they make. The reason for this is that as time progresses, the story might change. The more times the story changes, the more doubt will be cast on it.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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As I always tell people in these kinds of posts, don't trust Reddit when it comes to false sexual assault stuff. Reddit, as a website, is obsessed with the false accusation as a rule, and although it is a real and very dangerous problem there are groups that actively look for posts like this and they will give you bad information. So just listen to the basics. If the police come to you, get a lawyer. If not, do nothing.
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It is not unheard of for a person to be induced to say they were abused after suggestion, if what you are asking is "why is she doing that?". Her roommate suggested that and now she might believe it, even.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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Wait... you said you're 30, but this is all being claimed to have been done 15 years ago ? so she's claiming you molested her when you were 5 ?... what ? edit: lawyer the hell up quick, even if these charges are false you want a lawyer on your side to help you wade through this. edit 2: .... math fail.. big big major math fail.
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As I always tell people in these kinds of posts, don't trust Reddit when it comes to false sexual assault stuff. Reddit, as a website, is obsessed with the false accusation as a rule, and although it is a real and very dangerous problem there are groups that actively look for posts like this and they will give you bad information. So just listen to the basics. If the police come to you, get a lawyer. If not, do nothing.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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Yes, you need to hire a lawyer.
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As I always tell people in these kinds of posts, don't trust Reddit when it comes to false sexual assault stuff. Reddit, as a website, is obsessed with the false accusation as a rule, and although it is a real and very dangerous problem there are groups that actively look for posts like this and they will give you bad information. So just listen to the basics. If the police come to you, get a lawyer. If not, do nothing.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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As I always tell people in these kinds of posts, don't trust Reddit when it comes to false sexual assault stuff. Reddit, as a website, is obsessed with the false accusation as a rule, and although it is a real and very dangerous problem there are groups that actively look for posts like this and they will give you bad information. So just listen to the basics. If the police come to you, get a lawyer. If not, do nothing.
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Non-lawyer question: Would this be bad enough to contemplate suing for defamation? Not really to collect anything, but just to pre-emptively nip this in the bud and force the issue in a court?
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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It is not unheard of for a person to be induced to say they were abused after suggestion, if what you are asking is "why is she doing that?". Her roommate suggested that and now she might believe it, even.
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Yes, you need to hire a lawyer.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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Non-lawyer question: Would this be bad enough to contemplate suing for defamation? Not really to collect anything, but just to pre-emptively nip this in the bud and force the issue in a court?
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It is not unheard of for a person to be induced to say they were abused after suggestion, if what you are asking is "why is she doing that?". Her roommate suggested that and now she might believe it, even.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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Wait... you said you're 30, but this is all being claimed to have been done 15 years ago ? so she's claiming you molested her when you were 5 ?... what ? edit: lawyer the hell up quick, even if these charges are false you want a lawyer on your side to help you wade through this. edit 2: .... math fail.. big big major math fail.
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Yes, you need to hire a lawyer.
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Cousin from fifteen years ago has falsely accused me of molestation to my family I don't know where to begin, except this morning i received a text from an aunt saying her daughter has accused me of molesting her some fifteen years ago. All I know: - my cousin's roommate suggested me as the molester after my cousin said she was molested in the past and roommate said she "looked uncomfortable" around me and my wife at a super bowl viewing 1.5 years ago - cousin now tells her parents it's true after roommate told them it was me - this supposedly took place 15-18 years ago, details unknown, but apparently happened when my sister and i both babysat their at the time five kids - cousin is now going to therapist to deal with depression -rarely saw them, last interactions with cousin was two years ago, when she stayed with wife and i to watch our newborn - they're a religious family, all seem to have an average of ten kids, rural areas - apparently informing other family This all is reported as happening 15+ years ago, no idea why they would do this. I'm thirty now, with two children of my own. Do I need to call someone, or the police, or anything? We don't have much money and in Michigan, i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, except alienating the family, who are awful anyway. I'm terrified, I'm a good person who loves my children - why is this happening and what can i do?
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>i can't tell if they can even make trouble so far from an accused date, tl:dr - Federal prosecution is unlikely. I can't speak to state prosecution. You may wish to have a lawyer. The statute of limitations for FEDERAL sex crimes against children was codified in 18 U.S.C. 3509(k) on November 29, 1990 and was tolled until the victim turned 25. On September 13, 1994, that was recodified as 18 U.S.C. 3283. On April 30, 2003, 18 U.S.C. 3283 changed the limitation period to the life of the victim. It appears that the allegation is that the victim was molested around 2000. Since the victim could not turn 25 prior to April 30, 2003 if she was a minor in 2000, then the limitation period continues for the life of the victim. Unless there is further allegations that you or the alleged victim crossed state lines, or you used interstate communications (phone, internet) to entice the victim, then there are not likely to be Federal charges. In addition, the feds do not normally prosecute minors and you would have been 12-15 at the time of the alleged molestation. I don't know Michigan laws on the subject, and you would have to research what they were in 1997-2000. The reason it is worth having a lawyer is that the cops may not come to talk to you and get 'your side' they may just arrest you and lock you up as a dangerous predator prior to trial. I do not know how likely that is where you live but trying to find a lawyer while in prison is more difficult than finding one while you are free and uncharged. The lawyer may also be able to negotiate with the prosecutor, give you good advice on what to do in order to reduce the likelihood of being arrested or held prior to trial, and your option for making this go away.
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Non-lawyer question: Would this be bad enough to contemplate suing for defamation? Not really to collect anything, but just to pre-emptively nip this in the bud and force the issue in a court?
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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You need a criminal defense attorney. You should not talk about this to anyone or answer questions from anyone other than your lawyer. Your belief that this will all be cleared up by a forensic examiner talking to a child and expecting that child to testify fully and accurately when they may possibly not even understand what they are being asked about is naive.
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Get in front of this. Hire a lawyer. Do exactly what they tell you to do. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SPEAK TO ANY AUTHORITIES WITHOUT YOUR LAWYER PRESENT. It never ends well. Good luck.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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I have an attorney but not your attorney. This is very scary and very unfortunate, and it’s not all that unlikely either. Sometimes it will play out and work in your favor, but without an attorney, you are taking a risk that is just too expensive to take. This would be the time to take out a personal loan or obtain a credit card to pay an attorney or even a second mortgage or something because you really need an attorney who can get more information and fight for you. Kids memories can be manipulated and you may need to hire your own psychologist and things like that, but an attorney would be the only one that would be able to recommend the right course of action here. You could try reaching out to the legal aid society in your area, but I don’t think they usually take this type of case. But it’s worth a quick call if you are low income. Definitely call your insurance and see what kind of help they might offer as well. I’m sorry this happened to you.
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You need a criminal defense attorney. You should not talk about this to anyone or answer questions from anyone other than your lawyer. Your belief that this will all be cleared up by a forensic examiner talking to a child and expecting that child to testify fully and accurately when they may possibly not even understand what they are being asked about is naive.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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Get in front of this. Hire a lawyer. Do exactly what they tell you to do. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SPEAK TO ANY AUTHORITIES WITHOUT YOUR LAWYER PRESENT. It never ends well. Good luck.
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>I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer... I'm sorry, but you cannot afford to forego legal counsel here. Get a lawyer.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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>I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer... I'm sorry, but you cannot afford to forego legal counsel here. Get a lawyer.
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I have an attorney but not your attorney. This is very scary and very unfortunate, and it’s not all that unlikely either. Sometimes it will play out and work in your favor, but without an attorney, you are taking a risk that is just too expensive to take. This would be the time to take out a personal loan or obtain a credit card to pay an attorney or even a second mortgage or something because you really need an attorney who can get more information and fight for you. Kids memories can be manipulated and you may need to hire your own psychologist and things like that, but an attorney would be the only one that would be able to recommend the right course of action here. You could try reaching out to the legal aid society in your area, but I don’t think they usually take this type of case. But it’s worth a quick call if you are low income. Definitely call your insurance and see what kind of help they might offer as well. I’m sorry this happened to you.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydebnj
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>I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer... I'm sorry, but you cannot afford to forego legal counsel here. Get a lawyer.
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You need an amazing lawyer. Seriously do not skimp on this attorney. Child sexual assault criminal trials are not fair to the accused. It doesn't matter that there is no evidence. The word if a child is enough to lock you up. Take this seriously and don't skimp on the lawyer. Best of luck.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydtw72
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As others have said you will need a lawyer. Get a lawyer before doing anything. DHS is terrible.
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>I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer... I'm sorry, but you cannot afford to forego legal counsel here. Get a lawyer.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydtw72
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You absolutely need to get a lawyer, hopefully the system works and you will be cleared, but the cold truth is with allegations like this sometimes simply the accusation can destroy lives regardless of the outcome.
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>I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer... I'm sorry, but you cannot afford to forego legal counsel here. Get a lawyer.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydmd65
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iydtw72
| 1,669,827,192 | 1,669,830,064 | 8 | 493 |
Just to be clear you have no blood relation to anyone in this situation? Where is your child (blood related) right now? If they are trying to take custody of your child in your house you need legal advice 2 weeks ago. Take immediate advantage of your legal aid for starters and see if they can offer any advice on this matter. If they say not to worry about it, huge red flag in my book. Move on to other low cost legal services that you can find. Just note, legally they cannot remove your child without a court order unless they can show your child is under immediate threat. As stated, do not agree to any meetings without a lawyer present, do not sign any agreements without legal review. Child testimony is notoriously sketchy. I would attempt to gain access to the interviews which they are basing your accusations upon. If they refuse to grant you access, have a lawyer contact them. Good luck and let's hope this doesn't turn into a witch hunt.
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>I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer... I'm sorry, but you cannot afford to forego legal counsel here. Get a lawyer.
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z8n7hm
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyddv0t
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iydebnj
| 1,669,823,811 | 1,669,823,996 | 18 | 63 |
As others have said you will need a lawyer. Get a lawyer before doing anything. DHS is terrible.
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You need an amazing lawyer. Seriously do not skimp on this attorney. Child sexual assault criminal trials are not fair to the accused. It doesn't matter that there is no evidence. The word if a child is enough to lock you up. Take this seriously and don't skimp on the lawyer. Best of luck.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyedb3i
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iyddv0t
| 1,669,837,507 | 1,669,823,811 | 53 | 18 |
GET A LAWYER. Go into debt for it. Money comes and goes. You going to jail as a child molester will get you killed. And NEVER, I MEAN NEVER SPEAK TO ANYBODY ABOUT THIS. Even if it seems like the most trustworthy person, you gotta realize people are gonna think you’re guilty even after proved innocent and people want you to trip up and say shit that they can use against you. NEVER EVER trust a cop. EVER.
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As others have said you will need a lawyer. Get a lawyer before doing anything. DHS is terrible.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydpg7s
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iyedb3i
| 1,669,828,370 | 1,669,837,507 | 8 | 53 |
You absolutely need to get a lawyer, hopefully the system works and you will be cleared, but the cold truth is with allegations like this sometimes simply the accusation can destroy lives regardless of the outcome.
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GET A LAWYER. Go into debt for it. Money comes and goes. You going to jail as a child molester will get you killed. And NEVER, I MEAN NEVER SPEAK TO ANYBODY ABOUT THIS. Even if it seems like the most trustworthy person, you gotta realize people are gonna think you’re guilty even after proved innocent and people want you to trip up and say shit that they can use against you. NEVER EVER trust a cop. EVER.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyedb3i
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iydmd65
| 1,669,837,507 | 1,669,827,192 | 53 | 8 |
GET A LAWYER. Go into debt for it. Money comes and goes. You going to jail as a child molester will get you killed. And NEVER, I MEAN NEVER SPEAK TO ANYBODY ABOUT THIS. Even if it seems like the most trustworthy person, you gotta realize people are gonna think you’re guilty even after proved innocent and people want you to trip up and say shit that they can use against you. NEVER EVER trust a cop. EVER.
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Just to be clear you have no blood relation to anyone in this situation? Where is your child (blood related) right now? If they are trying to take custody of your child in your house you need legal advice 2 weeks ago. Take immediate advantage of your legal aid for starters and see if they can offer any advice on this matter. If they say not to worry about it, huge red flag in my book. Move on to other low cost legal services that you can find. Just note, legally they cannot remove your child without a court order unless they can show your child is under immediate threat. As stated, do not agree to any meetings without a lawyer present, do not sign any agreements without legal review. Child testimony is notoriously sketchy. I would attempt to gain access to the interviews which they are basing your accusations upon. If they refuse to grant you access, have a lawyer contact them. Good luck and let's hope this doesn't turn into a witch hunt.
| 1 | 10,315 | 6.625 |
z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydz13i
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iyedb3i
| 1,669,832,018 | 1,669,837,507 | 3 | 53 |
Call your local bar. They can direct you to the right attorneys. Otherwise, lawyer up big time and don't talk to anyone but your lawyer about this without clearing it with said lawyer first
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GET A LAWYER. Go into debt for it. Money comes and goes. You going to jail as a child molester will get you killed. And NEVER, I MEAN NEVER SPEAK TO ANYBODY ABOUT THIS. Even if it seems like the most trustworthy person, you gotta realize people are gonna think you’re guilty even after proved innocent and people want you to trip up and say shit that they can use against you. NEVER EVER trust a cop. EVER.
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z8n7hm
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| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyddv0t
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iyep92a
| 1,669,823,811 | 1,669,842,080 | 18 | 32 |
As others have said you will need a lawyer. Get a lawyer before doing anything. DHS is terrible.
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>My question is how do I go about clearing my name? OP as others stated, find a good attorney now to stay ahead of the situation. The sad situation is that the investigators involved in child molestation cases are used to everyone proclaiming innocence, including the guilty. And the accusations alone are enough to damage your reputation, etc. Getting a good attorney now to start advising you and helping you through the entire process will also help you stay calm and keep you from any missteps that might hurt your case.
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydpg7s
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iyep92a
| 1,669,828,370 | 1,669,842,080 | 8 | 32 |
You absolutely need to get a lawyer, hopefully the system works and you will be cleared, but the cold truth is with allegations like this sometimes simply the accusation can destroy lives regardless of the outcome.
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>My question is how do I go about clearing my name? OP as others stated, find a good attorney now to stay ahead of the situation. The sad situation is that the investigators involved in child molestation cases are used to everyone proclaiming innocence, including the guilty. And the accusations alone are enough to damage your reputation, etc. Getting a good attorney now to start advising you and helping you through the entire process will also help you stay calm and keep you from any missteps that might hurt your case.
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| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyep92a
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iydmd65
| 1,669,842,080 | 1,669,827,192 | 32 | 8 |
>My question is how do I go about clearing my name? OP as others stated, find a good attorney now to stay ahead of the situation. The sad situation is that the investigators involved in child molestation cases are used to everyone proclaiming innocence, including the guilty. And the accusations alone are enough to damage your reputation, etc. Getting a good attorney now to start advising you and helping you through the entire process will also help you stay calm and keep you from any missteps that might hurt your case.
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Just to be clear you have no blood relation to anyone in this situation? Where is your child (blood related) right now? If they are trying to take custody of your child in your house you need legal advice 2 weeks ago. Take immediate advantage of your legal aid for starters and see if they can offer any advice on this matter. If they say not to worry about it, huge red flag in my book. Move on to other low cost legal services that you can find. Just note, legally they cannot remove your child without a court order unless they can show your child is under immediate threat. As stated, do not agree to any meetings without a lawyer present, do not sign any agreements without legal review. Child testimony is notoriously sketchy. I would attempt to gain access to the interviews which they are basing your accusations upon. If they refuse to grant you access, have a lawyer contact them. Good luck and let's hope this doesn't turn into a witch hunt.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyejhq7
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iyep92a
| 1,669,839,880 | 1,669,842,080 | 6 | 32 |
Get a criminal defense attorney. Never expect DHS/CPS to be honest. They are an organization with several proven instances of corruption, falsification of evidence and perjury in court.
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>My question is how do I go about clearing my name? OP as others stated, find a good attorney now to stay ahead of the situation. The sad situation is that the investigators involved in child molestation cases are used to everyone proclaiming innocence, including the guilty. And the accusations alone are enough to damage your reputation, etc. Getting a good attorney now to start advising you and helping you through the entire process will also help you stay calm and keep you from any missteps that might hurt your case.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydz13i
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iyep92a
| 1,669,832,018 | 1,669,842,080 | 3 | 32 |
Call your local bar. They can direct you to the right attorneys. Otherwise, lawyer up big time and don't talk to anyone but your lawyer about this without clearing it with said lawyer first
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>My question is how do I go about clearing my name? OP as others stated, find a good attorney now to stay ahead of the situation. The sad situation is that the investigators involved in child molestation cases are used to everyone proclaiming innocence, including the guilty. And the accusations alone are enough to damage your reputation, etc. Getting a good attorney now to start advising you and helping you through the entire process will also help you stay calm and keep you from any missteps that might hurt your case.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyef3bs
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iyep92a
| 1,669,838,188 | 1,669,842,080 | 3 | 32 |
This is not for reddit this is for your attorney ey that you should of gotten before now. Run, do not walk, to a consultation with a criminal defense attorney and maybe even a family law attorney. Whike someone here might give you good advice you need to get ahead of things with someone who can actually work your case.
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>My question is how do I go about clearing my name? OP as others stated, find a good attorney now to stay ahead of the situation. The sad situation is that the investigators involved in child molestation cases are used to everyone proclaiming innocence, including the guilty. And the accusations alone are enough to damage your reputation, etc. Getting a good attorney now to start advising you and helping you through the entire process will also help you stay calm and keep you from any missteps that might hurt your case.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyeqjdx
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iyejhq7
| 1,669,842,569 | 1,669,839,880 | 7 | 6 |
Contact the State Bar Association and ask for referral to the Modest Means Program
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Get a criminal defense attorney. Never expect DHS/CPS to be honest. They are an organization with several proven instances of corruption, falsification of evidence and perjury in court.
| 1 | 2,689 | 1.166667 |
z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydz13i
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iyeqjdx
| 1,669,832,018 | 1,669,842,569 | 3 | 7 |
Call your local bar. They can direct you to the right attorneys. Otherwise, lawyer up big time and don't talk to anyone but your lawyer about this without clearing it with said lawyer first
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Contact the State Bar Association and ask for referral to the Modest Means Program
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyeqjdx
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iyef3bs
| 1,669,842,569 | 1,669,838,188 | 7 | 3 |
Contact the State Bar Association and ask for referral to the Modest Means Program
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This is not for reddit this is for your attorney ey that you should of gotten before now. Run, do not walk, to a consultation with a criminal defense attorney and maybe even a family law attorney. Whike someone here might give you good advice you need to get ahead of things with someone who can actually work your case.
| 1 | 4,381 | 2.333333 |
z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyesdhz
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iyejhq7
| 1,669,843,272 | 1,669,839,880 | 7 | 6 |
Lawyer now.
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Get a criminal defense attorney. Never expect DHS/CPS to be honest. They are an organization with several proven instances of corruption, falsification of evidence and perjury in court.
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z8n7hm
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iydz13i
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iyesdhz
| 1,669,832,018 | 1,669,843,272 | 3 | 7 |
Call your local bar. They can direct you to the right attorneys. Otherwise, lawyer up big time and don't talk to anyone but your lawyer about this without clearing it with said lawyer first
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Lawyer now.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
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Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyef3bs
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iyesdhz
| 1,669,838,188 | 1,669,843,272 | 3 | 7 |
This is not for reddit this is for your attorney ey that you should of gotten before now. Run, do not walk, to a consultation with a criminal defense attorney and maybe even a family law attorney. Whike someone here might give you good advice you need to get ahead of things with someone who can actually work your case.
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Lawyer now.
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyejhq7
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iydz13i
| 1,669,839,880 | 1,669,832,018 | 6 | 3 |
Get a criminal defense attorney. Never expect DHS/CPS to be honest. They are an organization with several proven instances of corruption, falsification of evidence and perjury in court.
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Call your local bar. They can direct you to the right attorneys. Otherwise, lawyer up big time and don't talk to anyone but your lawyer about this without clearing it with said lawyer first
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z8n7hm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Falsely accused of molesting my stepchild So I’m riding on full emotions as I write this. Several weeks ago my stepchild was found to be molesting their younger sibling and DHR moved them from their legal parent to another family member’s dwelling. I am the accused child’s stepparent and i am separated from the paternal parent and have been for over two years. Got a call today from DHR stating they are doing a forensic investigation and making a safety plan for our mutual child due to accused child’s stating I was the one who molested them. I haven’t and would never do such a thing and I’m scared to death and physically ill just dealing with this. I know the outcome of the forensic investigation with my child will come back in my favor but I am to be under supervised visitations till that case is cleared. My question is how do I go about clearing my name? I’m not financially secure to be able to hire a lawyer but I have legal aide with my insurance but I’m not sure they cover criminal justice. What type of lawyer should I even be seeking? I have no idea why I’m being accused other than the accused child trying to deflect whatever punishment might come their way. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you. Also in Alabama.
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iyejhq7
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iyef3bs
| 1,669,839,880 | 1,669,838,188 | 6 | 3 |
Get a criminal defense attorney. Never expect DHS/CPS to be honest. They are an organization with several proven instances of corruption, falsification of evidence and perjury in court.
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This is not for reddit this is for your attorney ey that you should of gotten before now. Run, do not walk, to a consultation with a criminal defense attorney and maybe even a family law attorney. Whike someone here might give you good advice you need to get ahead of things with someone who can actually work your case.
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y6b1ku
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Arizona/Florida- My father was abusive towards me as a child. As a result I need expensive surgery. Do I have a case to hold him accountable? This is kind of a loaded post, I’ll try to keep the facts relevant to the situation at hand. My father was abusive towards my brother and I as boys. Our mom traveled a lot and he had a lot of issues. He didn’t strike me with his hands often, but there was a lot of grabbing, dragging, twisting and shoving. I was thrown into a doorframe head first once, had a car door slammed very hard on my head and shoulder another time, and it was common for him to grab my cheeks/jaw very tightly with one hand and yell in our faces. There was much more, but those are just some of the pertinent incidents. I’m now 25, married, 2500 miles away (he lives in Florida) and I haven’t spoken to him in three years. I found out recently that I need to have a bilateral condylectomy, which is essentially a very specialized replacement of the joints in both sides of my jaw. I’ve spoken to every freaking TMJ specialist, every dental/oral/maxillofacial surgeon in this state and others and I’ve asked about the abuse factor. The surgeon who will be performing my procedure has said in regards to the abuse “I’m sorry that happened to you because I’m sure that’s what caused it.” Verbatim. My pain specialist and other professional opinions have also backed that up. I have no other history of head/jaw injuries. The surgery is going to cost me about $70k. I do not have that money. The lending options I have available are a joke unless I want to tank our credit which my wife and I both worked hard and sacrificed to keep in a good place. This isn’t some fluke, I didn’t get cancer or some rare disease. Somebody did this to me, and now I’m the one who has to pay for it. I’m furious and I want to protect my family. The problem is that I’m not sure how much water my case could hold. I tried to tell my mom as a boy but like I mentioned, she traveled and didn’t take me too seriously. I told teachers but he was the choir teacher at my school so nothing happened. We were and upper middle class family from the suburbs, we took trips to Disney. Nobody wanted to believe that we were getting hurt. The cops were never called, abuse was never reported and out of discouragement, I stopped telling people. It didn’t come up again until I was about 18. I have radiographic imaging of my joints currently, but I don’t know how common it is for a doctor to say in court that he thinks it’s abuse or if his testimony would even help. My brother would definitely be willing to testify, I think it’s likely some of my doctors would and possibly my mother too. My father doesn’t have a lot of people in his life who knew him during that time, but my assumption is that I’d need to prove this injury happened specifically because of him and that could be hard. There is also a tremendous amount of emotional abuse in our history if that can help build a case, but again that’s all just testimony. My brother and I had our faces pushed into a toilet full of months-old urine to teach us a lesson since he was mad about having to clean it. He used to film me crying as a six year old to try to humiliate me into stopping. Shortly after my mom left him, he made my 15 year old brother drive him home from a bar at 3am on a school night while he was piss drunk and my brother only had a learners permit. My brother ended his relationship with our father over a decade ago after a physical altercation. My father and I continued to be “buddies” for a couple years before he started to really get unstable and dangerous. He would tell me how he thinks he’s been bipolar (our family has a long history, I’ve been diagnosed) but refused to get treatment. Every time I spent time with him I would have to leave because he’d have loud and tense arguments with his second wife. He made some really inappropriate comments about my girlfriend at the time. He somehow found my brothers new address after ten years of no contact, an address in another state that my father never had when they were in contact, and drove past his house several times in a rental car “just to see it” while traveling in that state. I demanded he leave my brother alone and get help, he literally told me to fuck myself and I haven’t spoken to him since. So those are the facts. I can lay out more in more detail for a lawyer (who I plan to consult either way) but I wanted every possible opinion. Between different states, limited documented evidence and the time that’s passed I’m concerned that I might not have enough and I can’t risk getting into something that could hurt me even more than I already am. I’d appreciate any thoughts/advice that y’all might have. Thanks very much.
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ispks24
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isozp5e
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For personal injury civil lawsuits, the statute of limitations to file your suit is 4 years in Florida and 2 years in Arizona. But it does get more complicated. If you did not know that an injury occurred at the time, then the statute of limitations may not start until you became aware of the injury. So as is often the best advice you can get from reddit, you should consult with a local attorney. You'd be looking for a personal injury attorney, and if you do a quick search for your local bar association they may very well offer free referrals.
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Do you not have health insurance? That surgery shouldn't cost that much with insurance. You can get health insurance on the marketplace - I think open enrollment is soon.
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwyx2h
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dpwyudp
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Yup, lawyer for the suit and arborist for the estimate. Your neighbor is very likely going to learn a really expensive lesson about cutting down trees that are not his.
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It sounds like he trespassed too, I am not a lawyer
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwyu8f
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dpwyx2h
| 1,510,852,210 | 1,510,852,286 | 14 | 337 |
I am not a lawyer, but yes, you are entitled to the replacement cost of the tree. And that can be quite expensive depending on the kind of tree, its age, size, etc. What kind of tree was it?
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Yup, lawyer for the suit and arborist for the estimate. Your neighbor is very likely going to learn a really expensive lesson about cutting down trees that are not his.
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwyudp
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dpwzigv
| 1,510,852,214 | 1,510,852,848 | 125 | 295 |
It sounds like he trespassed too, I am not a lawyer
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VA Code 55-331 effectively sets the _minimum_ you can recover to the value of the timber. However, it doesn't bar you from bringing a claim for a larger amount, if you can support the alleged damages. The key is the clause "in addition to all other remedies afforded by law." Get an arborist to assess the likely value of the tree (any recent photos, or even Google Street View images, will help) and to give you an estimate for the total cost of replacing the tree with another tree of similar age and condition, including the often-expensive post-transplant care needed. Get an attorney to deal with your neighbour. Do not speak with your neighbour without your attorney, at this point. Depending on your attorney's thoughts, you may also want to get a real estate assessor out to estimate the change in value to your property.
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwyu8f
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dpwzigv
| 1,510,852,210 | 1,510,852,848 | 14 | 295 |
I am not a lawyer, but yes, you are entitled to the replacement cost of the tree. And that can be quite expensive depending on the kind of tree, its age, size, etc. What kind of tree was it?
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VA Code 55-331 effectively sets the _minimum_ you can recover to the value of the timber. However, it doesn't bar you from bringing a claim for a larger amount, if you can support the alleged damages. The key is the clause "in addition to all other remedies afforded by law." Get an arborist to assess the likely value of the tree (any recent photos, or even Google Street View images, will help) and to give you an estimate for the total cost of replacing the tree with another tree of similar age and condition, including the often-expensive post-transplant care needed. Get an attorney to deal with your neighbour. Do not speak with your neighbour without your attorney, at this point. Depending on your attorney's thoughts, you may also want to get a real estate assessor out to estimate the change in value to your property.
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwyu8f
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dpwyudp
| 1,510,852,210 | 1,510,852,214 | 14 | 125 |
I am not a lawyer, but yes, you are entitled to the replacement cost of the tree. And that can be quite expensive depending on the kind of tree, its age, size, etc. What kind of tree was it?
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It sounds like he trespassed too, I am not a lawyer
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpx275d
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dpx4rzn
| 1,510,855,404 | 1,510,857,846 | 15 | 87 |
Also consider trying to recover the reduced property value that the tree brought to your lot.
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Welcome to /r/treegaladvice, where we get to be the ones to tell you your neighbor owes you $25,000!!!
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpx4rzn
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dpwyu8f
| 1,510,857,846 | 1,510,852,210 | 87 | 14 |
Welcome to /r/treegaladvice, where we get to be the ones to tell you your neighbor owes you $25,000!!!
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I am not a lawyer, but yes, you are entitled to the replacement cost of the tree. And that can be quite expensive depending on the kind of tree, its age, size, etc. What kind of tree was it?
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwzycc
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dpx4rzn
| 1,510,853,263 | 1,510,857,846 | 4 | 87 |
Hire an arborist.
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Welcome to /r/treegaladvice, where we get to be the ones to tell you your neighbor owes you $25,000!!!
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpx275d
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dpwyu8f
| 1,510,855,404 | 1,510,852,210 | 15 | 14 |
Also consider trying to recover the reduced property value that the tree brought to your lot.
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I am not a lawyer, but yes, you are entitled to the replacement cost of the tree. And that can be quite expensive depending on the kind of tree, its age, size, etc. What kind of tree was it?
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpx275d
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dpwzycc
| 1,510,855,404 | 1,510,853,263 | 15 | 4 |
Also consider trying to recover the reduced property value that the tree brought to your lot.
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Hire an arborist.
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwyu8f
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dpxd0vl
| 1,510,852,210 | 1,510,865,829 | 14 | 15 |
I am not a lawyer, but yes, you are entitled to the replacement cost of the tree. And that can be quite expensive depending on the kind of tree, its age, size, etc. What kind of tree was it?
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In addition to a replacement tree, make sure your settlement includes paying for a qualified arborist/landscaper to attend to the tree until it's firmly established. That's likely at least a year, maybe longer.
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpxd0vl
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dpx77eb
| 1,510,865,829 | 1,510,860,164 | 15 | 14 |
In addition to a replacement tree, make sure your settlement includes paying for a qualified arborist/landscaper to attend to the tree until it's firmly established. That's likely at least a year, maybe longer.
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Lawyer and an arborist. Arborist can give you a good idea of the age of the tree and the exact species. And the cost to replace it. It holds a lot more weight in front of the judge than your belief of it's value. If you have any pictures of the tree, like snapshots of your house, hold onto them for both the arborist and the court.
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpxd0vl
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dpxb8b3
| 1,510,865,829 | 1,510,864,077 | 15 | 6 |
In addition to a replacement tree, make sure your settlement includes paying for a qualified arborist/landscaper to attend to the tree until it's firmly established. That's likely at least a year, maybe longer.
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I agree with the others that you need a lawyer because you may be entitled to full value tree replacement. There are legal precedents for this, so your neighbor may have fucked up much more than he suspects. I disagree on consulting with an arborist though. They specialize in pruning, removing, and treating trees, but not replacing them. I live in woods and have come to know several arborists well, and was told this pretty much verbatim when a similar issue arose. Instead, I recommend contacting a landscaping contractor with experience in replacing mature trees. Use Google to find one, because there may not be one locally.
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpxd0vl
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dpwzycc
| 1,510,865,829 | 1,510,853,263 | 15 | 4 |
In addition to a replacement tree, make sure your settlement includes paying for a qualified arborist/landscaper to attend to the tree until it's firmly established. That's likely at least a year, maybe longer.
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Hire an arborist.
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwzycc
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dpx77eb
| 1,510,853,263 | 1,510,860,164 | 4 | 14 |
Hire an arborist.
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Lawyer and an arborist. Arborist can give you a good idea of the age of the tree and the exact species. And the cost to replace it. It holds a lot more weight in front of the judge than your belief of it's value. If you have any pictures of the tree, like snapshots of your house, hold onto them for both the arborist and the court.
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7dds07
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwzycc
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dpxb8b3
| 1,510,853,263 | 1,510,864,077 | 4 | 6 |
Hire an arborist.
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I agree with the others that you need a lawyer because you may be entitled to full value tree replacement. There are legal precedents for this, so your neighbor may have fucked up much more than he suspects. I disagree on consulting with an arborist though. They specialize in pruning, removing, and treating trees, but not replacing them. I live in woods and have come to know several arborists well, and was told this pretty much verbatim when a similar issue arose. Instead, I recommend contacting a landscaping contractor with experience in replacing mature trees. Use Google to find one, because there may not be one locally.
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7dds07
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legaladvice_train
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[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwzycc
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dpy1pt7
| 1,510,853,263 | 1,510,893,613 | 4 | 5 |
Hire an arborist.
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Oh shit... tree law!
| 0 | 40,350 | 1.25 |
7dds07
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
[VA] Neighbor intentionally cut down a big tree in my yard while I was gone, want to know if I have further options for recovery than just the value of the timber. So a neighbor cut down a large tree in my yard, which he knew was in my yard he just didn't like the look of it, and I'm looking to recover damages before installing a new tree. Brief Googling showed me that VA code 55-331 says that I can recover damages based on the value of the timber. My main concern is whether I can sue for the cost that it will take me to buy and install a new tree, as that seems like it will be more expensive.
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dpwzycc
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dpxucge
| 1,510,853,263 | 1,510,885,262 | 4 | 5 |
Hire an arborist.
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And thus, tree law finds its way to the top once again. Please tell me Virginia has treble damages.
| 0 | 31,999 | 1.25 |
v8eqmi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Landlord was cutting down tree with neighbor Tree fell over and destroyed 5 different vehicles The landlord and the neighbor was cutting down a tree and it fell onto the parking lot and destroyed 5 vehicles including mine. None of them wants to take responsibly for there actions. The landlord says I have to go threw my insurance . But my insurance says to go after there insurance. Pics and videos https://imgur.com/gallery/AHKi16B
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ibq1ljx
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ibpybcr
| 1,654,776,839 | 1,654,774,724 | 1,747 | 103 |
Because you only have liability insurance, your insurer won't help you. Your first step will be filing a claim against *their* insurance. If their insurer refuses to pay, your next step would be filing a lawsuit against the landlord and the neighbor in small claims court. (Assuming the amount of damages is less than your state's small claims limit)
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Your insurer should be going after their insurer on your behalf. That is literally half the reason for having insurance at all.
| 1 | 2,115 | 16.961165 |
v8eqmi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Landlord was cutting down tree with neighbor Tree fell over and destroyed 5 different vehicles The landlord and the neighbor was cutting down a tree and it fell onto the parking lot and destroyed 5 vehicles including mine. None of them wants to take responsibly for there actions. The landlord says I have to go threw my insurance . But my insurance says to go after there insurance. Pics and videos https://imgur.com/gallery/AHKi16B
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ibpzjlm
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ibq1ljx
| 1,654,775,532 | 1,654,776,839 | 13 | 1,747 |
If you have comprehensive coverage on your vehicle, call your insurer back and insist they handle the claim. If they refuse to handle it because other parties might ultimately be responsible for the damage, file a complaint with your state's department of insurance. Refusal to handle a claim for this reason is against insurance regulations in every state.
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Because you only have liability insurance, your insurer won't help you. Your first step will be filing a claim against *their* insurance. If their insurer refuses to pay, your next step would be filing a lawsuit against the landlord and the neighbor in small claims court. (Assuming the amount of damages is less than your state's small claims limit)
| 0 | 1,307 | 134.384615 |
v8eqmi
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Landlord was cutting down tree with neighbor Tree fell over and destroyed 5 different vehicles The landlord and the neighbor was cutting down a tree and it fell onto the parking lot and destroyed 5 vehicles including mine. None of them wants to take responsibly for there actions. The landlord says I have to go threw my insurance . But my insurance says to go after there insurance. Pics and videos https://imgur.com/gallery/AHKi16B
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ibq1oaa
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ibpybcr
| 1,654,776,886 | 1,654,774,724 | 304 | 103 |
First off I would go to both the landlord and neighbor and demand the insurance info. State that there is no other insurance and even if you did that you would still need their insurance info. Point out to them if they don’t give you the insurance info you will have no choice but to sue them. Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised to find out they have no insurance, they should, but ya know… people do lots of things they shouldn’t. Since you have liability only for the car if the landlord and neighbor still won’t give you the insurance info you would have to sue them both yourself. This will require a lawyer unless the amount is within the small claims limit for your state/location that may be an easier/cheaper way go about it without a lawyer. Perhaps talk to the other folks whose cars were damaged. At least one of them probably has comprehensive and you might be able to piggy back on that to get the insurance info. Or at the very least hire a lawyer together to split the cost of pursuing this. You might also try sending both of the a certified letter either written by you or ideally a lawyer stating that they damaged you, setting an amount you are demanding and demanding their insurance info. Basically put them on notice this isn’t going away nd says it in a way they can’t claim they didn’t know. Getting insurance info isn’t the end. Odds are the insurance will try to lowball you and the value of your car. You may end up needing a lawyer anyways to get the fair value of your car. TLDR: Do your best to get insurance info, but you may need to just bite the bullet and hire a lawyer.
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Your insurer should be going after their insurer on your behalf. That is literally half the reason for having insurance at all.
| 1 | 2,162 | 2.951456 |
v8eqmi
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Landlord was cutting down tree with neighbor Tree fell over and destroyed 5 different vehicles The landlord and the neighbor was cutting down a tree and it fell onto the parking lot and destroyed 5 vehicles including mine. None of them wants to take responsibly for there actions. The landlord says I have to go threw my insurance . But my insurance says to go after there insurance. Pics and videos https://imgur.com/gallery/AHKi16B
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ibpzjlm
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ibq1oaa
| 1,654,775,532 | 1,654,776,886 | 13 | 304 |
If you have comprehensive coverage on your vehicle, call your insurer back and insist they handle the claim. If they refuse to handle it because other parties might ultimately be responsible for the damage, file a complaint with your state's department of insurance. Refusal to handle a claim for this reason is against insurance regulations in every state.
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First off I would go to both the landlord and neighbor and demand the insurance info. State that there is no other insurance and even if you did that you would still need their insurance info. Point out to them if they don’t give you the insurance info you will have no choice but to sue them. Honestly I wouldn’t be surprised to find out they have no insurance, they should, but ya know… people do lots of things they shouldn’t. Since you have liability only for the car if the landlord and neighbor still won’t give you the insurance info you would have to sue them both yourself. This will require a lawyer unless the amount is within the small claims limit for your state/location that may be an easier/cheaper way go about it without a lawyer. Perhaps talk to the other folks whose cars were damaged. At least one of them probably has comprehensive and you might be able to piggy back on that to get the insurance info. Or at the very least hire a lawyer together to split the cost of pursuing this. You might also try sending both of the a certified letter either written by you or ideally a lawyer stating that they damaged you, setting an amount you are demanding and demanding their insurance info. Basically put them on notice this isn’t going away nd says it in a way they can’t claim they didn’t know. Getting insurance info isn’t the end. Odds are the insurance will try to lowball you and the value of your car. You may end up needing a lawyer anyways to get the fair value of your car. TLDR: Do your best to get insurance info, but you may need to just bite the bullet and hire a lawyer.
| 0 | 1,354 | 23.384615 |
v8eqmi
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Landlord was cutting down tree with neighbor Tree fell over and destroyed 5 different vehicles The landlord and the neighbor was cutting down a tree and it fell onto the parking lot and destroyed 5 vehicles including mine. None of them wants to take responsibly for there actions. The landlord says I have to go threw my insurance . But my insurance says to go after there insurance. Pics and videos https://imgur.com/gallery/AHKi16B
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ibpzjlm
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ibqhffu
| 1,654,775,532 | 1,654,784,980 | 13 | 72 |
If you have comprehensive coverage on your vehicle, call your insurer back and insist they handle the claim. If they refuse to handle it because other parties might ultimately be responsible for the damage, file a complaint with your state's department of insurance. Refusal to handle a claim for this reason is against insurance regulations in every state.
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Insurance adjuster here: Even if you had comprehensive coverage to where your insurance would be able to pay for your damages, you would need your landlord's insurance as one of the rights of the insurance company is to pursue the responsible party after paying for damages someone else negligently caused. Go to your landlord and the neighbor, advise them that you need their insurance information. If they tell you to go through your insurance, advise them that your insurance had advised that you still need their insurance information. I would recommend not advising them that you don't have coverage for your vehicle, my experience in claims is people tend to treat an uninsured person (and for your damages you are uninsured, even if you have liability) like THEY did something wrong. If they still refuse, advise them that the choice is either their insurance information or you will pursue this direct through them in court. I cannot view the pics and video you posted (my current IP blocks image sharing sites), but if someone is cutting a tree down and it falls on someone else's property, that person is going to be liable. The only thing in question is whether it's the landlord, the neighbor, or both. I also second what someone else said about talking to other folks who had damages. But to add to it: tell them to also give your information to their insurance. When I worked claims like this, it was always great to have multiple persons with damages, videos, pictures, and statements as that allowed me to solidify the liability decision beyond just what my insured told me. But the other benefit of that is that if any of them DO have coverage for their vehicle, then they WILL discover the landlord's information and when they file the claim against the landlord to recover their insured's damages, they'll provide your information as one of the affected parties, which will then put you on the landlord's insurance radar as another party with whom they need to be addressing damages.
| 0 | 9,448 | 5.538462 |
mrbp5o
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legaladvice_train
| 0.97 |
Told my neighbor he could trim back a tree that was going over his fence and he cut the whole tree down and left it in my yard. Last week my neighbor came up to me while I was outside and asked if he could trim back a tree next to our fence and I told him that was fine. I come home from work tonight and he cut the entire tree down and left it in my yard. I understand they wanted to trim the branches on their side of the fence but it seems pretty inappropriate to cut the whole thing down and leave it in my yard. I’m located in Oregon wondering what the legality of all this is.
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gulbec2
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gulfml9
| 1,618,484,660 | 1,618,487,837 | 155 | 265 |
To be clear, the tree was entirely on your property correct? You need to talk to an arborist and get an estimate for the tree. Find photos of the tree. The arborist will give you an estimate of what the tree is worth. Take your neighbor to small claims.
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First thing to do would be to get your neighbor to admit in writing that they cut it down. Perhaps an initial text message of "hey, I said you could trim a few branches. Did you cut the whole tree down?!" Keep pressing the neighbor to admit they cut it down.
| 0 | 3,177 | 1.709677 |
x1y1ic
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
A call from another healthcare professional to my pharmacy was a woman (calling as a patient) wanting to know how she could quickly sober up so that she can administer anesthesia to a patient of her own in the next 45 minutes. Is it a HIPAA violation to notify the state or her employer? At 6:45am, I answer the phone and a drunk woman is struggling to collect her thoughts and is simultaneously slurring her words. She tells me, a pharmacy technician, that she is “still really drunk,” but that she has a patient that needs anesthesia and their appointment is at 7:30am. I ask her what her title is and she tells me she’s a nurse. I have our pharmacist talk to her and after suggesting she call-in, the woman refuses because she doesn’t want to get fired. She tells my pharmacist, “Thank god I have good malpractice insurance,” before she hangs up. She never gave us a name, but we used the phone number to look up a profile. Nothing I found could tell me where she works, but this woman is a healthcare professional licensed by the state. This needs to be reported, but will it violate HIPAA?
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imhpy3m
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imhyfxd
| 1,661,928,507 | 1,661,935,661 | 12 | 39 |
Can you escalate the situation to someone above your pharmacist? Either a regional or district manager, your company's HIPAA compliance officer, or your legal department?
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Once you are made aware of situation that has an imminent risk of great physical harm or death, you typically have a professional and legal obligation to notify the police **immediately**.
| 0 | 7,154 | 3.25 |
z1xhpa
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixdauxl
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ixe2hq7
| 1,669,133,557 | 1,669,144,371 | 1,069 | 1,140 |
Not a lawyer They must provide you with advanced notice of any entry that isnt an immediate emergency.
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There are times when they may need to access your unit when you’re not there - for example for regular maintenance on decks or chimneys (which they are required to give notice for) or during emergencies, such as if a fire starts or a pipe breaks in your unit. If they don’t have a key, they would need to break in. You governing documents (declarations, bylaws, rules, or CC&Rs) will probably cover this. I was on a HOA board for my apartments once and we had a woman who didn’t trust our maintenance guy and demanded we return her key. After some discussion, we had her sign a document agreeing that the HOA would not be liable for damages resulting from emergency entry, and we returned her key to her.
| 0 | 10,814 | 1.066417 |
z1xhpa
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixe2hq7
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ixdbt1z
| 1,669,144,371 | 1,669,133,948 | 1,140 | 520 |
There are times when they may need to access your unit when you’re not there - for example for regular maintenance on decks or chimneys (which they are required to give notice for) or during emergencies, such as if a fire starts or a pipe breaks in your unit. If they don’t have a key, they would need to break in. You governing documents (declarations, bylaws, rules, or CC&Rs) will probably cover this. I was on a HOA board for my apartments once and we had a woman who didn’t trust our maintenance guy and demanded we return her key. After some discussion, we had her sign a document agreeing that the HOA would not be liable for damages resulting from emergency entry, and we returned her key to her.
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That depends on the HOA bylaws. It might not be called an HOA but condominiums have a set of general rules they must follow. This is something you agreed to when you bought the place and can change if voted on by owners.
| 1 | 10,423 | 2.192308 |
z1xhpa
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixe2hq7
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ixdkxa6
| 1,669,144,371 | 1,669,137,560 | 1,140 | 32 |
There are times when they may need to access your unit when you’re not there - for example for regular maintenance on decks or chimneys (which they are required to give notice for) or during emergencies, such as if a fire starts or a pipe breaks in your unit. If they don’t have a key, they would need to break in. You governing documents (declarations, bylaws, rules, or CC&Rs) will probably cover this. I was on a HOA board for my apartments once and we had a woman who didn’t trust our maintenance guy and demanded we return her key. After some discussion, we had her sign a document agreeing that the HOA would not be liable for damages resulting from emergency entry, and we returned her key to her.
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It'll depend entirely on the rules of your HOA. Some might require that management has keys to every unit, others allow you to rekey your locks and not give anyone a key
| 1 | 6,811 | 35.625 |
z1xhpa
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixdztwb
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ixe2hq7
| 1,669,143,327 | 1,669,144,371 | 10 | 1,140 |
Well, if you want your door destroyed in case of a medical emergency, fire, gas leak or some other situation where entry into your unit is required, then by all means don’t give them a key. I would however check the condominium bylaws to see what the requirements are. Those would be in the initial purchase documents or available through the condominium/HOA association. They would also have been recorded online when the building was built and registered
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There are times when they may need to access your unit when you’re not there - for example for regular maintenance on decks or chimneys (which they are required to give notice for) or during emergencies, such as if a fire starts or a pipe breaks in your unit. If they don’t have a key, they would need to break in. You governing documents (declarations, bylaws, rules, or CC&Rs) will probably cover this. I was on a HOA board for my apartments once and we had a woman who didn’t trust our maintenance guy and demanded we return her key. After some discussion, we had her sign a document agreeing that the HOA would not be liable for damages resulting from emergency entry, and we returned her key to her.
| 0 | 1,044 | 114 |
z1xhpa
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixeck5p
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ixdkxa6
| 1,669,148,360 | 1,669,137,560 | 66 | 32 |
OP, what is your location? You have avoided answering this and this is much needed information to provide you with the correct answer. Without that information for all we know it could be allowed and there is nothing you can do about it. What you most likely live in is a condo. I see that it was purchased 40 years ago. There is most likely an HOA in the building and it’s probably very well established. The HOA and management company are two separate entities. The HOA chooses the management company and pays them out of dues that are either paid monthly or annually. These dues also pay for maintenance on the building and for common access areas as well as general preventative maintenance. Depending on where you live, this could absolutely be legal. When they changed the doors I’m assuming that they mentioned they will likely need access to your unit from x date to x date. If they are within those dates they have given you proper notice and there is nothing you can do as by living and owning that unit you or your parents have agreed to the CCRs. What you need to do is ask the management company to provide you a copy of the CCRs, or if your HOA has a website I’m sure they can be located online.
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It'll depend entirely on the rules of your HOA. Some might require that management has keys to every unit, others allow you to rekey your locks and not give anyone a key
| 1 | 10,800 | 2.0625 |
z1xhpa
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixdztwb
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ixeck5p
| 1,669,143,327 | 1,669,148,360 | 10 | 66 |
Well, if you want your door destroyed in case of a medical emergency, fire, gas leak or some other situation where entry into your unit is required, then by all means don’t give them a key. I would however check the condominium bylaws to see what the requirements are. Those would be in the initial purchase documents or available through the condominium/HOA association. They would also have been recorded online when the building was built and registered
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OP, what is your location? You have avoided answering this and this is much needed information to provide you with the correct answer. Without that information for all we know it could be allowed and there is nothing you can do about it. What you most likely live in is a condo. I see that it was purchased 40 years ago. There is most likely an HOA in the building and it’s probably very well established. The HOA and management company are two separate entities. The HOA chooses the management company and pays them out of dues that are either paid monthly or annually. These dues also pay for maintenance on the building and for common access areas as well as general preventative maintenance. Depending on where you live, this could absolutely be legal. When they changed the doors I’m assuming that they mentioned they will likely need access to your unit from x date to x date. If they are within those dates they have given you proper notice and there is nothing you can do as by living and owning that unit you or your parents have agreed to the CCRs. What you need to do is ask the management company to provide you a copy of the CCRs, or if your HOA has a website I’m sure they can be located online.
| 0 | 5,033 | 6.6 |
z1xhpa
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixe5bng
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ixeck5p
| 1,669,145,497 | 1,669,148,360 | 7 | 66 |
On top of everything else said, she may be checking to make sure that there is a master key that works for the knox box outside for the fire department to use. Most jurisdictions buildings above a certain size have to have these for emergency access.
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OP, what is your location? You have avoided answering this and this is much needed information to provide you with the correct answer. Without that information for all we know it could be allowed and there is nothing you can do about it. What you most likely live in is a condo. I see that it was purchased 40 years ago. There is most likely an HOA in the building and it’s probably very well established. The HOA and management company are two separate entities. The HOA chooses the management company and pays them out of dues that are either paid monthly or annually. These dues also pay for maintenance on the building and for common access areas as well as general preventative maintenance. Depending on where you live, this could absolutely be legal. When they changed the doors I’m assuming that they mentioned they will likely need access to your unit from x date to x date. If they are within those dates they have given you proper notice and there is nothing you can do as by living and owning that unit you or your parents have agreed to the CCRs. What you need to do is ask the management company to provide you a copy of the CCRs, or if your HOA has a website I’m sure they can be located online.
| 0 | 2,863 | 9.428571 |
z1xhpa
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixe77cg
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ixeck5p
| 1,669,146,240 | 1,669,148,360 | 4 | 66 |
You need to read your CC&R's and rules and regulations.
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OP, what is your location? You have avoided answering this and this is much needed information to provide you with the correct answer. Without that information for all we know it could be allowed and there is nothing you can do about it. What you most likely live in is a condo. I see that it was purchased 40 years ago. There is most likely an HOA in the building and it’s probably very well established. The HOA and management company are two separate entities. The HOA chooses the management company and pays them out of dues that are either paid monthly or annually. These dues also pay for maintenance on the building and for common access areas as well as general preventative maintenance. Depending on where you live, this could absolutely be legal. When they changed the doors I’m assuming that they mentioned they will likely need access to your unit from x date to x date. If they are within those dates they have given you proper notice and there is nothing you can do as by living and owning that unit you or your parents have agreed to the CCRs. What you need to do is ask the management company to provide you a copy of the CCRs, or if your HOA has a website I’m sure they can be located online.
| 0 | 2,120 | 16.5 |
z1xhpa
|
legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
does my apartment manager have a right to the key of my apartment (which I own)? So my apartment complex recently got all new doors and they changed the locks. And this morning I wake up to find the condominium manager in my foyer (inside my apartment) saying she was checking that the locks work. Now, this apartment is not a lease, this is my family's property, and we live here. Does the manager of an apartment complex have a right to my door key?
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ixfo448
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ixdkxa6
| 1,669,169,514 | 1,669,137,560 | 34 | 32 |
Yes the manager probably does have the right to have a key, HOWEVER, it is completely illegal to enter your apartment with no notice or warning. I would complain.
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It'll depend entirely on the rules of your HOA. Some might require that management has keys to every unit, others allow you to rekey your locks and not give anyone a key
| 1 | 31,954 | 1.0625 |
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