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uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
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Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9gatyn
| 1,653,148,046 | 1,653,142,957 | 50 | 6 |
The Supreme Court has ruled very clearly on right to record being protected under 1 A, freedom of press. Anything he can see from public spaces, or his own property, generally would probably be considered legal or in your States hands. States have little power over 1A activities, but are allowed to place reasonable limits when it comes to time, place, and manner. However, being a minor and recording minors fall into the "manner" clause and States can (and usually do) regulate what is not allowed. Technically, unless the construction would otherwise be barred, he could theoretically put up a pole with a large camera on it and surveil the whole neighborhood. The manner clause would also take what activities he is personally recording into account, such as if he is recording in a perverted or surreptitious way, many States built into their 1A laws exceptions for such behavior as it can infringe on the right to privacy for others. Hence why it is (not only immoral, unethical, not to mention) illegal to film bathroom activities, locker rooms, changing rooms, up a skirt, etc.. The laws have not been updated to match the technology though, and the courts are limited to enforcing laws on the books, so legislative bodies like Congress are all like SO old and have no concept of how far tech has come in their life times and do not make such things a priority. Police are never a good solution unless a specific law has been broken, but even then the person is generally released without meaningful change to their behavior because police do not exist to help people, but to be the physical enforcement of the law. I'd recommend a lawyer, and building additional height to the fence line or planting tall growing trees as best solutions to the backyard recording. Definitely document clearly EVERY interaction with him. Photos and diary or notebook entries are strong evidence in court, note the time, date, place, manner, his clothing that day, his attitude, if he smells like something (such as alcohol), the weather, etc. The more detailed, the stronger evidence your written testimony has. The more your lawyer will love you, and increases the probability of one to take on a harassment case for you. When you drive get a dash camera that has front and rear viewing cameras so he cannot claim something happened that did not. He said / she said does not hold up to the police, much less the courts. Document. Also, when driving near home, make it your practice to drive 5 mph UNDER the speed limit. If you ALWAYS do that near home, (you'll be safer for one and) you will be able to use that in your favor to show that you are a careful and thoughtful driver that goes to great pains to obey the law and maintain public safety. Bonus points if you splurge on a dash cam that has GPS speed monitoring. Hope this long post helps. Best wishes.
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If you're in public, you have no expectation of privacy. Anyone can film you or take photos of you. If you think he's going to try to cause an accident, maybe get a camera and set it up on your bike.
| 1 | 5,089 | 8.333333 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9i4jaa
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i9h47df
| 1,653,174,692 | 1,653,156,461 | 39 | 38 |
Something that I feel like would actually be a smart idea on your part and you can’t really get in trouble for is talking to a police officer and saying how he’s been recording you and since you are a minor you know that’s already pretty suspicious thing but also say you know he will jump in front of my bicycle try to talk to me try to initiate you know strange conversations that make me feel very uncomfortable and to make him out to be a “” pedophile of course you know nothing that the police will find approve them right but it’ll probably going to leave you alone
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All of this sounds suuuper sketchy on your neighbor’s part—have you considered or asked about filing a police report against your neighbor for this stuff?
| 1 | 18,231 | 1.026316 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9i4jaa
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i9hvras
| 1,653,174,692 | 1,653,170,115 | 39 | 26 |
Something that I feel like would actually be a smart idea on your part and you can’t really get in trouble for is talking to a police officer and saying how he’s been recording you and since you are a minor you know that’s already pretty suspicious thing but also say you know he will jump in front of my bicycle try to talk to me try to initiate you know strange conversations that make me feel very uncomfortable and to make him out to be a “” pedophile of course you know nothing that the police will find approve them right but it’ll probably going to leave you alone
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I have always liked the idea of putting up cheap mirrors on your property but in front of the camera. I put a couple in front of a window that was being watched. The camera just disappeared soon after.
| 1 | 4,577 | 1.5 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9i4jaa
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i9i1qa2
| 1,653,174,692 | 1,653,173,212 | 39 | 11 |
Something that I feel like would actually be a smart idea on your part and you can’t really get in trouble for is talking to a police officer and saying how he’s been recording you and since you are a minor you know that’s already pretty suspicious thing but also say you know he will jump in front of my bicycle try to talk to me try to initiate you know strange conversations that make me feel very uncomfortable and to make him out to be a “” pedophile of course you know nothing that the police will find approve them right but it’ll probably going to leave you alone
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I have definitely seen that getting the community behind you when it comes to "the individual that is weirdly videotaping children, that happens to reside at or near this address" and raising attention about their behavior. Share that with the rest of the neighborhood as a concern or worry, or have your parents raise the issue publicly.
| 1 | 1,480 | 3.545455 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9hxhkw
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i9i4jaa
| 1,653,171,008 | 1,653,174,692 | 6 | 39 |
Can you put up a fence or hedges?
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Something that I feel like would actually be a smart idea on your part and you can’t really get in trouble for is talking to a police officer and saying how he’s been recording you and since you are a minor you know that’s already pretty suspicious thing but also say you know he will jump in front of my bicycle try to talk to me try to initiate you know strange conversations that make me feel very uncomfortable and to make him out to be a “” pedophile of course you know nothing that the police will find approve them right but it’ll probably going to leave you alone
| 0 | 3,684 | 6.5 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9i4jaa
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i9gatyn
| 1,653,174,692 | 1,653,142,957 | 39 | 6 |
Something that I feel like would actually be a smart idea on your part and you can’t really get in trouble for is talking to a police officer and saying how he’s been recording you and since you are a minor you know that’s already pretty suspicious thing but also say you know he will jump in front of my bicycle try to talk to me try to initiate you know strange conversations that make me feel very uncomfortable and to make him out to be a “” pedophile of course you know nothing that the police will find approve them right but it’ll probably going to leave you alone
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If you're in public, you have no expectation of privacy. Anyone can film you or take photos of you. If you think he's going to try to cause an accident, maybe get a camera and set it up on your bike.
| 1 | 31,735 | 6.5 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9h5pj6
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i9i4jaa
| 1,653,157,181 | 1,653,174,692 | 6 | 39 |
Always have a camera/gopro/dash cam/side cam when leaving the house.
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Something that I feel like would actually be a smart idea on your part and you can’t really get in trouble for is talking to a police officer and saying how he’s been recording you and since you are a minor you know that’s already pretty suspicious thing but also say you know he will jump in front of my bicycle try to talk to me try to initiate you know strange conversations that make me feel very uncomfortable and to make him out to be a “” pedophile of course you know nothing that the police will find approve them right but it’ll probably going to leave you alone
| 0 | 17,511 | 6.5 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9gatyn
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i9h47df
| 1,653,142,957 | 1,653,156,461 | 6 | 38 |
If you're in public, you have no expectation of privacy. Anyone can film you or take photos of you. If you think he's going to try to cause an accident, maybe get a camera and set it up on your bike.
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All of this sounds suuuper sketchy on your neighbor’s part—have you considered or asked about filing a police report against your neighbor for this stuff?
| 0 | 13,504 | 6.333333 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9gatyn
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i9hvras
| 1,653,142,957 | 1,653,170,115 | 6 | 26 |
If you're in public, you have no expectation of privacy. Anyone can film you or take photos of you. If you think he's going to try to cause an accident, maybe get a camera and set it up on your bike.
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I have always liked the idea of putting up cheap mirrors on your property but in front of the camera. I put a couple in front of a window that was being watched. The camera just disappeared soon after.
| 0 | 27,158 | 4.333333 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9h5pj6
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i9hvras
| 1,653,157,181 | 1,653,170,115 | 6 | 26 |
Always have a camera/gopro/dash cam/side cam when leaving the house.
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I have always liked the idea of putting up cheap mirrors on your property but in front of the camera. I put a couple in front of a window that was being watched. The camera just disappeared soon after.
| 0 | 12,934 | 4.333333 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9i1qa2
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i9hxhkw
| 1,653,173,212 | 1,653,171,008 | 11 | 6 |
I have definitely seen that getting the community behind you when it comes to "the individual that is weirdly videotaping children, that happens to reside at or near this address" and raising attention about their behavior. Share that with the rest of the neighborhood as a concern or worry, or have your parents raise the issue publicly.
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Can you put up a fence or hedges?
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uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9i1qa2
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i9gatyn
| 1,653,173,212 | 1,653,142,957 | 11 | 6 |
I have definitely seen that getting the community behind you when it comes to "the individual that is weirdly videotaping children, that happens to reside at or near this address" and raising attention about their behavior. Share that with the rest of the neighborhood as a concern or worry, or have your parents raise the issue publicly.
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If you're in public, you have no expectation of privacy. Anyone can film you or take photos of you. If you think he's going to try to cause an accident, maybe get a camera and set it up on your bike.
| 1 | 30,255 | 1.833333 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9i1qa2
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i9h5pj6
| 1,653,173,212 | 1,653,157,181 | 11 | 6 |
I have definitely seen that getting the community behind you when it comes to "the individual that is weirdly videotaping children, that happens to reside at or near this address" and raising attention about their behavior. Share that with the rest of the neighborhood as a concern or worry, or have your parents raise the issue publicly.
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Always have a camera/gopro/dash cam/side cam when leaving the house.
| 1 | 16,031 | 1.833333 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9j1yli
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i9hxhkw
| 1,653,193,499 | 1,653,171,008 | 10 | 6 |
I am not a lawyer. Just a parent that has looked into this because of a creep in our neighborhood. You need to call the police and make a complaint about him filming children in their yard and trying to make physical contact when you are outside out front. If you or your siblings are ever in your swimming suits out back, mention that too. You cannot film people on their private property without consent. Anyplace there is a reasonable expectation of privacy, you need consent. So if you have a privacy fence around your backyard, mention that in the complaint. If the camera is pointed towards any bedroom windows, also include that. It is perfectly OK for a neighbor to have surveillance that films your property that is in public view. States vary on their laws, but pretty much every state has a limit on what they allow and filming children has extra safeguards. Take pictures of the camera from windows in your house that it's pointing towards.
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Can you put up a fence or hedges?
| 1 | 22,491 | 1.666667 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9gatyn
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i9j1yli
| 1,653,142,957 | 1,653,193,499 | 6 | 10 |
If you're in public, you have no expectation of privacy. Anyone can film you or take photos of you. If you think he's going to try to cause an accident, maybe get a camera and set it up on your bike.
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I am not a lawyer. Just a parent that has looked into this because of a creep in our neighborhood. You need to call the police and make a complaint about him filming children in their yard and trying to make physical contact when you are outside out front. If you or your siblings are ever in your swimming suits out back, mention that too. You cannot film people on their private property without consent. Anyplace there is a reasonable expectation of privacy, you need consent. So if you have a privacy fence around your backyard, mention that in the complaint. If the camera is pointed towards any bedroom windows, also include that. It is perfectly OK for a neighbor to have surveillance that films your property that is in public view. States vary on their laws, but pretty much every state has a limit on what they allow and filming children has extra safeguards. Take pictures of the camera from windows in your house that it's pointing towards.
| 0 | 50,542 | 1.666667 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9j1yli
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i9h5pj6
| 1,653,193,499 | 1,653,157,181 | 10 | 6 |
I am not a lawyer. Just a parent that has looked into this because of a creep in our neighborhood. You need to call the police and make a complaint about him filming children in their yard and trying to make physical contact when you are outside out front. If you or your siblings are ever in your swimming suits out back, mention that too. You cannot film people on their private property without consent. Anyplace there is a reasonable expectation of privacy, you need consent. So if you have a privacy fence around your backyard, mention that in the complaint. If the camera is pointed towards any bedroom windows, also include that. It is perfectly OK for a neighbor to have surveillance that films your property that is in public view. States vary on their laws, but pretty much every state has a limit on what they allow and filming children has extra safeguards. Take pictures of the camera from windows in your house that it's pointing towards.
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Always have a camera/gopro/dash cam/side cam when leaving the house.
| 1 | 36,318 | 1.666667 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9ieuo6
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i9j1yli
| 1,653,180,327 | 1,653,193,499 | 4 | 10 |
Get a Dash Cam ASAP. Preferably one that records on motion while the car is off incase he tries to fuck with it
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I am not a lawyer. Just a parent that has looked into this because of a creep in our neighborhood. You need to call the police and make a complaint about him filming children in their yard and trying to make physical contact when you are outside out front. If you or your siblings are ever in your swimming suits out back, mention that too. You cannot film people on their private property without consent. Anyplace there is a reasonable expectation of privacy, you need consent. So if you have a privacy fence around your backyard, mention that in the complaint. If the camera is pointed towards any bedroom windows, also include that. It is perfectly OK for a neighbor to have surveillance that films your property that is in public view. States vary on their laws, but pretty much every state has a limit on what they allow and filming children has extra safeguards. Take pictures of the camera from windows in your house that it's pointing towards.
| 0 | 13,172 | 2.5 |
uuo0z0
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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i9j1yli
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i9iobfj
| 1,653,193,499 | 1,653,185,434 | 10 | 3 |
I am not a lawyer. Just a parent that has looked into this because of a creep in our neighborhood. You need to call the police and make a complaint about him filming children in their yard and trying to make physical contact when you are outside out front. If you or your siblings are ever in your swimming suits out back, mention that too. You cannot film people on their private property without consent. Anyplace there is a reasonable expectation of privacy, you need consent. So if you have a privacy fence around your backyard, mention that in the complaint. If the camera is pointed towards any bedroom windows, also include that. It is perfectly OK for a neighbor to have surveillance that films your property that is in public view. States vary on their laws, but pretty much every state has a limit on what they allow and filming children has extra safeguards. Take pictures of the camera from windows in your house that it's pointing towards.
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Are you male or female? I would fight this very hard if you are female. Go to the police and get a restraining order for him to cease and desist filming you. If you are a male, I think the GoPro camera idea is excellent.
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Neighbor watches us and tries to start accidents. Our neighbor has cameras pointing to our back patio and is watching 24/7. He also video tapes me on his phone whenever I ride past him or his house. I'm only 14 and him video taping me makes me very uncomfortable. He also tries to jump in front of my bike or cut me off, esentually trying to cause an accident. I get a car very soon and I'm worried he might try to target me and cause an accident. The reason he is targeting us is because we set off fireworks that are too loud (they are very much legal). We talked with the police and they don't seem to care about the fireworks. I'm worried what he's going to do with all the footage of me, my sister's, or my parents. Someone please tell me how to handle this legally.
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| 1,653,185,434 | 1,653,218,790 | 3 | 4 |
Are you male or female? I would fight this very hard if you are female. Go to the police and get a restraining order for him to cease and desist filming you. If you are a male, I think the GoPro camera idea is excellent.
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If the camera is mounted in a way that it is spying on your property and not having more coverage of his and only a small portion of your property that is call spying and it is illegal. I would contact the district attorney office
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gud5tm
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Neighbor with a shared fence watches us work every day, and told us to take down our divider that we put up. We are in Tacoma, Washington. We have a neighbor that we share a backyard fence with, a shitty chain link one. They are a ‘halfway house ‘of like 5 or 6 recovering guys, who frequently sit out on their porch. We just got our house and do yard work all the time in the back, and they just stare and stare and stare. We have 3 teenage children and it scares us sometimes. We haven’t addressed that it creeps us out, mostly because we’d rather just stay quiet and keep our neighborhood relationships neutral. So our solution was to put up this divider designed for chain link fence privacy, and grow some rhododendrons, and it blocks mostly everything, it’s great. Today, one of the men told us very defiantly to take that thing off of his fence. We told him all about how it was for privacy and everything, but he was not having it, claiming that it was his fence and we can’t do that, nor can we have our rhododendrons there because they are going to grow to his side. So, is there any way to know if it is his fence? Or if we are allowed to do what ever we want anyways, because it’s on my side? Can we ask him to prove that the fence belongs to him? I really can’t stand the idea of those guys looking at us any more.
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fsi4tj0
| 1,590,982,967 | 1,590,994,033 | 142 | 193 |
Not a lawyer... But common sense says to figure out whose land the fence is actually on. Call your town offices because fences usually require permits... I doubt a halfway house resident has any control unless he is the owner. If it's not your fence I suggest you save up and get one. Meanwhile keep your shrubs trimmed to stay on your side.
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You can put a solid fence up on your property, right next to the chain link. You can also plant your roddodendrons as close to his chain link fence as you would like, as long as it is on your property. If any part of the plant grows over the property line, he can trim that; but he can not come on your property and/or trim any part of your plant that is on your side of the property line.
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gud5tm
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Neighbor with a shared fence watches us work every day, and told us to take down our divider that we put up. We are in Tacoma, Washington. We have a neighbor that we share a backyard fence with, a shitty chain link one. They are a ‘halfway house ‘of like 5 or 6 recovering guys, who frequently sit out on their porch. We just got our house and do yard work all the time in the back, and they just stare and stare and stare. We have 3 teenage children and it scares us sometimes. We haven’t addressed that it creeps us out, mostly because we’d rather just stay quiet and keep our neighborhood relationships neutral. So our solution was to put up this divider designed for chain link fence privacy, and grow some rhododendrons, and it blocks mostly everything, it’s great. Today, one of the men told us very defiantly to take that thing off of his fence. We told him all about how it was for privacy and everything, but he was not having it, claiming that it was his fence and we can’t do that, nor can we have our rhododendrons there because they are going to grow to his side. So, is there any way to know if it is his fence? Or if we are allowed to do what ever we want anyways, because it’s on my side? Can we ask him to prove that the fence belongs to him? I really can’t stand the idea of those guys looking at us any more.
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fshrzah
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fsi4tj0
| 1,590,984,304 | 1,590,994,033 | 80 | 193 |
Also understand that I'd this is a halfway house, they are all likely on parole. Make sure he knows you can discuss his "threats" with his parole officer. Another thing to check is if the area is zoned for a halfway house and if they have the proper licenses and permits. Check with code Enforcement. They need a rental permit from the City, a business license and possible other permits. This covers all kinds of transitional housing, not just parolees.
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You can put a solid fence up on your property, right next to the chain link. You can also plant your roddodendrons as close to his chain link fence as you would like, as long as it is on your property. If any part of the plant grows over the property line, he can trim that; but he can not come on your property and/or trim any part of your plant that is on your side of the property line.
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gud5tm
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Neighbor with a shared fence watches us work every day, and told us to take down our divider that we put up. We are in Tacoma, Washington. We have a neighbor that we share a backyard fence with, a shitty chain link one. They are a ‘halfway house ‘of like 5 or 6 recovering guys, who frequently sit out on their porch. We just got our house and do yard work all the time in the back, and they just stare and stare and stare. We have 3 teenage children and it scares us sometimes. We haven’t addressed that it creeps us out, mostly because we’d rather just stay quiet and keep our neighborhood relationships neutral. So our solution was to put up this divider designed for chain link fence privacy, and grow some rhododendrons, and it blocks mostly everything, it’s great. Today, one of the men told us very defiantly to take that thing off of his fence. We told him all about how it was for privacy and everything, but he was not having it, claiming that it was his fence and we can’t do that, nor can we have our rhododendrons there because they are going to grow to his side. So, is there any way to know if it is his fence? Or if we are allowed to do what ever we want anyways, because it’s on my side? Can we ask him to prove that the fence belongs to him? I really can’t stand the idea of those guys looking at us any more.
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fshvjkq
| 1,590,994,033 | 1,590,986,724 | 193 | 44 |
You can put a solid fence up on your property, right next to the chain link. You can also plant your roddodendrons as close to his chain link fence as you would like, as long as it is on your property. If any part of the plant grows over the property line, he can trim that; but he can not come on your property and/or trim any part of your plant that is on your side of the property line.
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I am not a lawyer: While the determination of who actually owns the fence is a civil matter that the police will not interfere with, if you have put up a privacy divider on your side and they try to take it down that is vandalism which the police should be willing to stop. Sounds odd I know but literally happened to me when a neighbor tried to build a fence well over onto my land. I could stop completion by standing in his way but if I tore down what had already been built I was told I would be charged. Had to get a survey and go before a judge to finally get it taken down.
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gud5tm
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
Neighbor with a shared fence watches us work every day, and told us to take down our divider that we put up. We are in Tacoma, Washington. We have a neighbor that we share a backyard fence with, a shitty chain link one. They are a ‘halfway house ‘of like 5 or 6 recovering guys, who frequently sit out on their porch. We just got our house and do yard work all the time in the back, and they just stare and stare and stare. We have 3 teenage children and it scares us sometimes. We haven’t addressed that it creeps us out, mostly because we’d rather just stay quiet and keep our neighborhood relationships neutral. So our solution was to put up this divider designed for chain link fence privacy, and grow some rhododendrons, and it blocks mostly everything, it’s great. Today, one of the men told us very defiantly to take that thing off of his fence. We told him all about how it was for privacy and everything, but he was not having it, claiming that it was his fence and we can’t do that, nor can we have our rhododendrons there because they are going to grow to his side. So, is there any way to know if it is his fence? Or if we are allowed to do what ever we want anyways, because it’s on my side? Can we ask him to prove that the fence belongs to him? I really can’t stand the idea of those guys looking at us any more.
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fsid72d
| 1,591,005,705 | 1,591,001,891 | 27 | 13 |
Id invest in a couple of small HD cameras. Sounds like if he doesn't get his own way, he might do something to sabotage your privacy.
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I’m not a lawyer but building a privacy fence would be a good idea as chain link fences, even with some sort of a privacy screen, provide very little actual privacy. You can put it right beside the privacy fence but should look into where the property lines are first. The fact that they care about you putting up a privacy screen is sort of concerning, it shouldn’t matter to them unless they’re enjoying watching your family in the yard. I wouldn’t like a house full of men that are either criminals or drug addicts (if it’s a sober house) staring at my children all day if I could do something to prevent it. And you can plant whatever you like on your property, if it encroaches over their property line they can prune it back if it bothers them but they can’t tell you what you can or can’t do on your property. I doubt that any of the men are the owners, I suppose the owner could live there but I wouldn’t expect them to if it’s being used as a halfway house. They shouldn’t have any issues with you creating additional privacy for you and your family in your backyard unless they’re being creeps.
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I just walked into work and was taken down to the office and told my position had been eliminated and I was laid off effective immediately, then handed my last check. I live in California and was given no warning whatsoever of this mass lay-off that effected hundreds of people. Is this legal?
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fjhq1rr
| 1,583,353,075 | 1,583,352,951 | 283 | 71 |
OP, you very well may be covered under WARN which gives employees affected by mass layoffs the right to 60 days notice of the layoffs in order to give you adjustment time, extra training, ability to find a new job, etc. How many people were laid off?
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Not a Lawyer. The CA WARN Act requires employers to give at least 60 days notice of layoffs of more than 50 people in a 30 day period. This applies to contractors and temp workers. I can't see a reason this would not apply to you - you can sue for 60 days pay, and to require them to pay for your health insurance for those 60 days for failing to provide notice. You can report the violation to the California Department of Industrial Relations, or contact a labor lawyer at your discretion. You can report online to the DIR at https://www.dir.ca.gov/dlse/HowToReportViolationtoBOFE.htm
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fdivlh
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I just walked into work and was taken down to the office and told my position had been eliminated and I was laid off effective immediately, then handed my last check. I live in California and was given no warning whatsoever of this mass lay-off that effected hundreds of people. Is this legal?
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fjhpvi2
| 1,583,353,075 | 1,583,352,857 | 283 | 21 |
OP, you very well may be covered under WARN which gives employees affected by mass layoffs the right to 60 days notice of the layoffs in order to give you adjustment time, extra training, ability to find a new job, etc. How many people were laid off?
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How many people were laid off? How many people work for the company?
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fdivlh
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legaladvice_train
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I just walked into work and was taken down to the office and told my position had been eliminated and I was laid off effective immediately, then handed my last check. I live in California and was given no warning whatsoever of this mass lay-off that effected hundreds of people. Is this legal?
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fjhq1rr
| 1,583,352,857 | 1,583,352,951 | 21 | 71 |
How many people were laid off? How many people work for the company?
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Not a Lawyer. The CA WARN Act requires employers to give at least 60 days notice of layoffs of more than 50 people in a 30 day period. This applies to contractors and temp workers. I can't see a reason this would not apply to you - you can sue for 60 days pay, and to require them to pay for your health insurance for those 60 days for failing to provide notice. You can report the violation to the California Department of Industrial Relations, or contact a labor lawyer at your discretion. You can report online to the DIR at https://www.dir.ca.gov/dlse/HowToReportViolationtoBOFE.htm
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[MA] I can't end my nearly 3 year long stint of probation because I was laid off in August and can no longer afford to keep up with the costs, fees, mandatory education and restitution. My probation is supposed to terminate the 7th of December (2 days from now.) I informed my probation officer when I was laid off and she said that she would see about waiving some of the above stated expenses in light of my record of cooperation (zero violations in over 30 months) and that I was let go from work as part of a company wide lay-off (according to her if I had been fired I would definitely NOT get anything waived.) Anyway, I get a call last week from the probation department (my PO is on maternity leave) informing me that I still owe '$xxxx.xx' total and that if I don't pay it by Dec. 7 I have to appear before a judge and request an extension. Otherwise, they'll execute a warrant for a probation violation. I've been to Middleton, done that. Don't need to revisit it. When I asked if this new gentlemen could see the status of any requests or inquiries into having any of my costs waived, he said he would see it in my file if it ever happened and he didn't see it. I'm not looking for a handout. I realize I have to pay the consequences for my mistakes so please save your breath if that's what you came here to say. I just need to know if there is anything worth trying to do in the next 36 hours that doesn't involve an attorney - I can't afford one - which might save me from having to continue my probation. All I really have as ammunition right now is my official call logs from my mobile provider and my contemporaneous notes (from literally ever single call or meeting I've had with anyone affiliated with the court since the begining of my case. My attorney called me Comey from time to time.) Any help is appreciated. Even if it's, "Nope. You're f*cked." At least then I can stop worrying about it.
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| 1,544,048,832 | 1,544,049,095 | 5 | 7 |
What's the scale of the amount you need to pay? Do you have any assets you can sell to make the last payment?
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Is it just probation fees? Or does it include restitution? If it's just probation fees, you can ask the judge to convert your fees into community service. Bring that up with your current PO. If your current PO isn't helpful, you could try reaching out to the community service program proactively prior to your hearing to get details about what you would need to do to enroll. Bring documentation of when you lost your last job and the steps you've taken to try and find a new one. i.e. go through your email and make a log of every resume you've sent off or interview you've attended.
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khoe7u
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(California) Manager was taking his time to layoff. While still employed I contracted Covid. When I informed manager, hoping to utilize covid pay, he told me I was laid off 2 days before a positive result but was never told about it. Primary Questions: 1.Do I need to be informed of being laid off? 2. Is there anything to pursue? A quick rundown of the situation. I work overnight with my last shift starting Dec 8th. I was starting a 4 day at home vacation (Dec 9-12), when my region went into a stay at home order. The new manager wanted to stay open with legal workarounds. I did not like this and asked to not return to work during the order. The manager understood and said I would get all my forms figured out soon. On Dec 16th, I had symptoms begin. On the 18th, I was tested. My positive results returning the 19th, late at night. I know my job is offering covid pay so I texted my manager early the 20th informing him of my results. This is the first time I had any contact with a supervisor since the last time. He replies in the message, "have you been reached out to? We will have your check for you on Monday. We did layoffs on Friday." I informed him I had not and asked if that will include covid pay. He said, "I'll have to ask HR as layoffs took place before the results." I asked him to inform HR I wasn't told about being laid off or signed anything. If any more information is needed please ask
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ggnb5oa
| 1,608,601,137 | 1,608,600,917 | 7 | 3 |
You’ve got some pretty solid advice already, but you have to acknowledge your lay off in some way. I had to sign a ton of papers at both jobs I’ve been laid off from in my life. So if there is an HR rep, push back on them
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Do you know if your workplace qualifies for the sick pay provisions of the Families First Coronavirus Response Act (FFCRA)? CA also has some additional protections.
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wowzqq
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legaladvice_train
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdrja4
| 1,660,563,697 | 1,660,571,221 | 99 | 132 |
You could do so using an escrow account - I've purchased domain names for more and never met the sellers by using escrow - but also consider any unpaid taxes would be through the Texas DMV, etc. * https://www.escrow.com/ * https://www.carchex.com/research-center/goss-garage/escrow-explained/ * https://comptroller.texas.gov/taxes/publications/96-254/vit.php
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Buy a different truck
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wowzqq
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legaladvice_train
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdgo9t
| 1,660,571,221 | 1,660,565,851 | 132 | 33 |
Buy a different truck
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Is there any chance you can pay off the debt directly to the bank instead of transfering the money to the seller and the seller paying the bank?
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wowzqq
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legaladvice_train
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdrja4
| 1,660,562,460 | 1,660,571,221 | 22 | 132 |
Is this a business that operates in your area from a fixed location? You're taking a risk here that there is no way to 100% mitigate.
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Buy a different truck
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wowzqq
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legaladvice_train
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdrja4
| 1,660,562,575 | 1,660,571,221 | 17 | 132 |
There is no way to do this that will guarantee that you don't get screwed. If you have doubts it is probably best to find a different truck to buy.
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Buy a different truck
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wowzqq
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legaladvice_train
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdb1xn
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ikdd0nh
| 1,660,562,460 | 1,660,563,697 | 22 | 99 |
Is this a business that operates in your area from a fixed location? You're taking a risk here that there is no way to 100% mitigate.
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You could do so using an escrow account - I've purchased domain names for more and never met the sellers by using escrow - but also consider any unpaid taxes would be through the Texas DMV, etc. * https://www.escrow.com/ * https://www.carchex.com/research-center/goss-garage/escrow-explained/ * https://comptroller.texas.gov/taxes/publications/96-254/vit.php
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wowzqq
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legaladvice_train
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdb88v
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ikdd0nh
| 1,660,562,575 | 1,660,563,697 | 17 | 99 |
There is no way to do this that will guarantee that you don't get screwed. If you have doubts it is probably best to find a different truck to buy.
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You could do so using an escrow account - I've purchased domain names for more and never met the sellers by using escrow - but also consider any unpaid taxes would be through the Texas DMV, etc. * https://www.escrow.com/ * https://www.carchex.com/research-center/goss-garage/escrow-explained/ * https://comptroller.texas.gov/taxes/publications/96-254/vit.php
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wowzqq
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdb1xn
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ikdgo9t
| 1,660,562,460 | 1,660,565,851 | 22 | 33 |
Is this a business that operates in your area from a fixed location? You're taking a risk here that there is no way to 100% mitigate.
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Is there any chance you can pay off the debt directly to the bank instead of transfering the money to the seller and the seller paying the bank?
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wowzqq
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ikdgo9t
| 1,660,562,575 | 1,660,565,851 | 17 | 33 |
There is no way to do this that will guarantee that you don't get screwed. If you have doubts it is probably best to find a different truck to buy.
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Is there any chance you can pay off the debt directly to the bank instead of transfering the money to the seller and the seller paying the bank?
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wowzqq
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ike3sji
| 1,660,562,575 | 1,660,576,361 | 17 | 19 |
There is no way to do this that will guarantee that you don't get screwed. If you have doubts it is probably best to find a different truck to buy.
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You asked him to 3-way with his bank, so he dialed their number and got a rep immediately? And this made it seem legitimate? Sorry bro, this requires more research on your part. Get the VIN and search for the trucks history at least.
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wowzqq
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legaladvice_train
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Looking to purchase a truck from a company. Truck has a lien on it from the bank for 80% of its value. Seller wants me to pay him so that he can use that money to pay off bank loan and get me the title. What is the best way to handle this? Seller does NOT have the funds to pay the truck off himself and get the title. The bank is an online only bank and he would need my money to wire them the money and get the title. Seller is an owner of a seemingly legitimate business and is selling one of their trucks. Seller will be giving me a notarized bill of sale and agreement to pay off the truck and send me the title. Although I’ve heard of this happening multiple times, I feel uneasy. What’s to say his company is on the verge of bankruptcy and he won’t use my money to pay off other debts? I just don’t know. I asked to get the bank on the line and he did. They also suggested to do the bill of sale. Is there anything else I should do?
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ike3sji
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ikdzfm7
| 1,660,576,361 | 1,660,574,570 | 19 | 4 |
You asked him to 3-way with his bank, so he dialed their number and got a rep immediately? And this made it seem legitimate? Sorry bro, this requires more research on your part. Get the VIN and search for the trucks history at least.
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I once did this at the bank where the loan was held. We explained the situation to the banker and they helped coordinate paying off the loan using the funds I brought. I left with the truck and a notarized bill of sale. He left with some leftover cash.
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ymwarv
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Purchased a Home with tenats, now the exsisting Property Manger doesn't believe the rent is due to me becuase the original lease is still on going I purchased the property last month and had spoke to the Property Manager about how their specific company wanted to handle the rent payments and security deposit for when the lease ends, and the contact info for the tenant to schedule necessary repairs. She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". If I'm not mistaken all contracts including the lease are bound to the home not the owner and are transferred due to the law of obligations act. This is in Virginia Please help any and all tips or advice is much appreciated
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iv5tcun
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iv5sclx
| 1,667,661,188 | 1,667,660,749 | 120 | 23 |
Not a lawyer, property manager in a different state. When I purchase a home with tenants and an existing lease, i always work with the selling agent to have the seller take me around and introduce me to the existing tenants as the new manager. I present a letter telling the tenant who our company is, that we are now going to receive their rent, that their existing lease is still in effect until <end date>, how to pay their rent going forward, how to request repairs, etc. Tenants get a detailed letter with it all, as well as a one page bulleted list of the important stuff. On your closing statement, did you have a credit for the security deposit? If the owner held it, you should have, if the management company held it, you should have received a document stating so. Your closing statement should have also had a credit for the daily rent of the home, assuming you were buying mid-month. Is the property manager someone you plan to continue to use? If so, have your closing attorney send the property manager a letter notifying them that you now own the home located at <address> . Then go in and set up your owners account with them and sign a management contract. If the property manager is not someone you plan to use to manage this property, then have your closing attorney send the property manager a demand letter. You need the security deposit, along with copies of all documents related to the account. It should have been worked out prior to closing. You should have received a copy of the existing lease and their accounting page as part of due diligence when you were making your offer. If the property manager continues to be a problem, there should be a licensed real estate broker in both the office you used to buy, the office of the selling agent and the property managers office. The three of them should be able to resolve it all, since their licenses are at potentially at stake if they don’t. A call to your buyer’s agent should get things on the road to resolution,
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You are correct. If you have a property manager who doesn't understand that, you have one inexperienced property manager. Make sure you were talking to the owner or manager rather than a staff person. If the owner insists on holding this position get a real estate attorney to write a letter outlining next steps or take them to small claims court for the deposits and rent due- a loss in small claims will help educate them on real estate law.
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ymwarv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Purchased a Home with tenats, now the exsisting Property Manger doesn't believe the rent is due to me becuase the original lease is still on going I purchased the property last month and had spoke to the Property Manager about how their specific company wanted to handle the rent payments and security deposit for when the lease ends, and the contact info for the tenant to schedule necessary repairs. She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". If I'm not mistaken all contracts including the lease are bound to the home not the owner and are transferred due to the law of obligations act. This is in Virginia Please help any and all tips or advice is much appreciated
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iv5seay
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iv5tcun
| 1,667,660,769 | 1,667,661,188 | 10 | 120 |
There should be a section in your contract dealing with successors/transfers/binding.
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Not a lawyer, property manager in a different state. When I purchase a home with tenants and an existing lease, i always work with the selling agent to have the seller take me around and introduce me to the existing tenants as the new manager. I present a letter telling the tenant who our company is, that we are now going to receive their rent, that their existing lease is still in effect until <end date>, how to pay their rent going forward, how to request repairs, etc. Tenants get a detailed letter with it all, as well as a one page bulleted list of the important stuff. On your closing statement, did you have a credit for the security deposit? If the owner held it, you should have, if the management company held it, you should have received a document stating so. Your closing statement should have also had a credit for the daily rent of the home, assuming you were buying mid-month. Is the property manager someone you plan to continue to use? If so, have your closing attorney send the property manager a letter notifying them that you now own the home located at <address> . Then go in and set up your owners account with them and sign a management contract. If the property manager is not someone you plan to use to manage this property, then have your closing attorney send the property manager a demand letter. You need the security deposit, along with copies of all documents related to the account. It should have been worked out prior to closing. You should have received a copy of the existing lease and their accounting page as part of due diligence when you were making your offer. If the property manager continues to be a problem, there should be a licensed real estate broker in both the office you used to buy, the office of the selling agent and the property managers office. The three of them should be able to resolve it all, since their licenses are at potentially at stake if they don’t. A call to your buyer’s agent should get things on the road to resolution,
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ymwarv
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legaladvice_train
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Purchased a Home with tenats, now the exsisting Property Manger doesn't believe the rent is due to me becuase the original lease is still on going I purchased the property last month and had spoke to the Property Manager about how their specific company wanted to handle the rent payments and security deposit for when the lease ends, and the contact info for the tenant to schedule necessary repairs. She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". If I'm not mistaken all contracts including the lease are bound to the home not the owner and are transferred due to the law of obligations act. This is in Virginia Please help any and all tips or advice is much appreciated
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iv6eep9
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iv5sclx
| 1,667,669,826 | 1,667,660,749 | 42 | 23 |
Not a lawyer - but has owned a number of rentals across several states. Virginia state law requires all property managers to hold a valid real estate license. * https://law.lis.virginia.gov/vacode/title54.1/chapter21/section54.1-2135/ Yes, notify the Virginia DPOR about one of their licensees - and file a complaint. At least talk to the current PM's Broker who holds the broker's license. If they are one in the same person - just file a complaint and let the state deal with them. * https://www.dpor.virginia.gov/Boards/Real-Estate * https://www.dpor.virginia.gov/Report-Licensee Do you really want to have a property manager who does not understand the basics of property management? Easily solve the problem by terminating the property manager's management contract for the property in question, and engage a new property manager. Upon termination, ensure that all deposits, and keys are transferred to you (or the new PM), and that the tenant understands that all future rents are to be sent to the new PM, along with any problems with the property. This is PM 101 - there is some disconnect with their basic understanding of their job and the services they offer. There are a lot of good PMs available. You should not have to deal with this level of incompetence.
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You are correct. If you have a property manager who doesn't understand that, you have one inexperienced property manager. Make sure you were talking to the owner or manager rather than a staff person. If the owner insists on holding this position get a real estate attorney to write a letter outlining next steps or take them to small claims court for the deposits and rent due- a loss in small claims will help educate them on real estate law.
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ymwarv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Purchased a Home with tenats, now the exsisting Property Manger doesn't believe the rent is due to me becuase the original lease is still on going I purchased the property last month and had spoke to the Property Manager about how their specific company wanted to handle the rent payments and security deposit for when the lease ends, and the contact info for the tenant to schedule necessary repairs. She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". If I'm not mistaken all contracts including the lease are bound to the home not the owner and are transferred due to the law of obligations act. This is in Virginia Please help any and all tips or advice is much appreciated
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iv5seay
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iv6eep9
| 1,667,660,769 | 1,667,669,826 | 10 | 42 |
There should be a section in your contract dealing with successors/transfers/binding.
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Not a lawyer - but has owned a number of rentals across several states. Virginia state law requires all property managers to hold a valid real estate license. * https://law.lis.virginia.gov/vacode/title54.1/chapter21/section54.1-2135/ Yes, notify the Virginia DPOR about one of their licensees - and file a complaint. At least talk to the current PM's Broker who holds the broker's license. If they are one in the same person - just file a complaint and let the state deal with them. * https://www.dpor.virginia.gov/Boards/Real-Estate * https://www.dpor.virginia.gov/Report-Licensee Do you really want to have a property manager who does not understand the basics of property management? Easily solve the problem by terminating the property manager's management contract for the property in question, and engage a new property manager. Upon termination, ensure that all deposits, and keys are transferred to you (or the new PM), and that the tenant understands that all future rents are to be sent to the new PM, along with any problems with the property. This is PM 101 - there is some disconnect with their basic understanding of their job and the services they offer. There are a lot of good PMs available. You should not have to deal with this level of incompetence.
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ymwarv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Purchased a Home with tenats, now the exsisting Property Manger doesn't believe the rent is due to me becuase the original lease is still on going I purchased the property last month and had spoke to the Property Manager about how their specific company wanted to handle the rent payments and security deposit for when the lease ends, and the contact info for the tenant to schedule necessary repairs. She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". If I'm not mistaken all contracts including the lease are bound to the home not the owner and are transferred due to the law of obligations act. This is in Virginia Please help any and all tips or advice is much appreciated
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iv5sclx
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iv728al
| 1,667,660,749 | 1,667,679,730 | 23 | 35 |
You are correct. If you have a property manager who doesn't understand that, you have one inexperienced property manager. Make sure you were talking to the owner or manager rather than a staff person. If the owner insists on holding this position get a real estate attorney to write a letter outlining next steps or take them to small claims court for the deposits and rent due- a loss in small claims will help educate them on real estate law.
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I am a former real estate agent and property manager. When you purchased the home, the lease transferred to you from the previous owner. The lease contract was tied to the property. You have purchased the property, so you have purchased the lease. The property management company was engaged by the previous owner. The contract was tied to the owner. Unless that was part of your purchase agreement, the old management company does not represent you. They are no longer the property manager unless you engage them. You will need to send certified letters. 1) Send a demand letter to the old manager for a copy of the lease and all paperwork including related ledgers. They should also have the security deposit in an escrow account. That needs to be transferred to you. They should let the tenant know the house has been sold. Let the company know you don't require their services. 2) Send a letter to the tenant introducing yourself. Give them your contact information and let them know how you want them to pay rent. If the management company does not comply with any part of it, you'll likely have to have an attorney send a case and desist letter.
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ymwarv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
Purchased a Home with tenats, now the exsisting Property Manger doesn't believe the rent is due to me becuase the original lease is still on going I purchased the property last month and had spoke to the Property Manager about how their specific company wanted to handle the rent payments and security deposit for when the lease ends, and the contact info for the tenant to schedule necessary repairs. She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". If I'm not mistaken all contracts including the lease are bound to the home not the owner and are transferred due to the law of obligations act. This is in Virginia Please help any and all tips or advice is much appreciated
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iv5seay
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iv728al
| 1,667,660,769 | 1,667,679,730 | 10 | 35 |
There should be a section in your contract dealing with successors/transfers/binding.
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I am a former real estate agent and property manager. When you purchased the home, the lease transferred to you from the previous owner. The lease contract was tied to the property. You have purchased the property, so you have purchased the lease. The property management company was engaged by the previous owner. The contract was tied to the owner. Unless that was part of your purchase agreement, the old management company does not represent you. They are no longer the property manager unless you engage them. You will need to send certified letters. 1) Send a demand letter to the old manager for a copy of the lease and all paperwork including related ledgers. They should also have the security deposit in an escrow account. That needs to be transferred to you. They should let the tenant know the house has been sold. Let the company know you don't require their services. 2) Send a letter to the tenant introducing yourself. Give them your contact information and let them know how you want them to pay rent. If the management company does not comply with any part of it, you'll likely have to have an attorney send a case and desist letter.
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ymwarv
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legaladvice_train
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Purchased a Home with tenats, now the exsisting Property Manger doesn't believe the rent is due to me becuase the original lease is still on going I purchased the property last month and had spoke to the Property Manager about how their specific company wanted to handle the rent payments and security deposit for when the lease ends, and the contact info for the tenant to schedule necessary repairs. She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". If I'm not mistaken all contracts including the lease are bound to the home not the owner and are transferred due to the law of obligations act. This is in Virginia Please help any and all tips or advice is much appreciated
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iv7x63v
| 1,667,691,907 | 1,667,693,185 | 5 | 7 |
> She responded, "my contract is not with you it is with the original owners". It is true that you do not have a contract with the property manager, but it is also true that you are substituted as the new owner in all lease agreements. You have a relationship with the tenants automatically, but not with the old property manager. For the time being, you can instruct the tenants to send rent checks directly to you and going forward, you can choose any property management company you like or do it all yourself. The property management doesn't run with the property the way the lease does. The security deposits are usually stored in special bank accounts, in my state the name of the bank has to be listed on the lease. Those accounts should be in the old owners name and they are responsible for turning control of the account over to you.
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“If your contract is with them, then I guess I’ll just be trespassing you and your company from the property.” Suddenly the gears may start turning.
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zu9iqg
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1hwpym
| 1,671,900,603 | 1,671,891,569 | 330 | 266 |
27,000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36,000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork
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Nothing unless he can prove the seller deliberately hid known issues with the car. Used cars are sold "as is" which is why you should always get them inspected before purchase.
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1hugry
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j1if7as
| 1,671,890,329 | 1,671,900,603 | 251 | 330 |
It’s a used car. Unless he purchased a warranty from the seller, buyer has no recourse.
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27,000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36,000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1if7as
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j1hu0mm
| 1,671,900,603 | 1,671,890,071 | 330 | 48 |
27,000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36,000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork
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Second hand or brand new? From a dealer or private sale?
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1i5xws
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j1if7as
| 1,671,896,381 | 1,671,900,603 | 9 | 330 |
Does he not have car insurance?
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27,000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36,000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1i7hav
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j1if7as
| 1,671,897,104 | 1,671,900,603 | 6 | 330 |
Not a lawyer. He’s probably out of luck in Texas unless he is eligible under the manufacturer warranty. Not all manufacturer warranties are transferable under all circumstances.
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27,000 miles most cares have factory warranties to 36,000 miles that carry with the car to a second owner. Check on that side of paperwork
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1hwpym
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j1hugry
| 1,671,891,569 | 1,671,890,329 | 266 | 251 |
Nothing unless he can prove the seller deliberately hid known issues with the car. Used cars are sold "as is" which is why you should always get them inspected before purchase.
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It’s a used car. Unless he purchased a warranty from the seller, buyer has no recourse.
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1hwpym
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j1hu0mm
| 1,671,891,569 | 1,671,890,071 | 266 | 48 |
Nothing unless he can prove the seller deliberately hid known issues with the car. Used cars are sold "as is" which is why you should always get them inspected before purchase.
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Second hand or brand new? From a dealer or private sale?
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1hu0mm
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j1hugry
| 1,671,890,071 | 1,671,890,329 | 48 | 251 |
Second hand or brand new? From a dealer or private sale?
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It’s a used car. Unless he purchased a warranty from the seller, buyer has no recourse.
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1hu0mm
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j1ixte9
| 1,671,890,071 | 1,671,908,631 | 48 | 96 |
Second hand or brand new? From a dealer or private sale?
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I bought a used car and got an extended warranty, it lasted three days before the engine was blowing smoke. The dealership said it wasn’t covered. I talked to the state Attorney General’s office, consumer protection. They had a talk to the dealership, they traded me for a similar car. Even without a warranty, talk to the dealer, if they don’t offer resolution, then talk to the Attorney General’s office. Two hundred miles is absolutely unreasonable.
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1i5xws
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j1ixte9
| 1,671,896,381 | 1,671,908,631 | 9 | 96 |
Does he not have car insurance?
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I bought a used car and got an extended warranty, it lasted three days before the engine was blowing smoke. The dealership said it wasn’t covered. I talked to the state Attorney General’s office, consumer protection. They had a talk to the dealership, they traded me for a similar car. Even without a warranty, talk to the dealer, if they don’t offer resolution, then talk to the Attorney General’s office. Two hundred miles is absolutely unreasonable.
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1i7hav
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j1ixte9
| 1,671,897,104 | 1,671,908,631 | 6 | 96 |
Not a lawyer. He’s probably out of luck in Texas unless he is eligible under the manufacturer warranty. Not all manufacturer warranties are transferable under all circumstances.
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I bought a used car and got an extended warranty, it lasted three days before the engine was blowing smoke. The dealership said it wasn’t covered. I talked to the state Attorney General’s office, consumer protection. They had a talk to the dealership, they traded me for a similar car. Even without a warranty, talk to the dealer, if they don’t offer resolution, then talk to the Attorney General’s office. Two hundred miles is absolutely unreasonable.
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1ixte9
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j1iliya
| 1,671,908,631 | 1,671,903,415 | 96 | 5 |
I bought a used car and got an extended warranty, it lasted three days before the engine was blowing smoke. The dealership said it wasn’t covered. I talked to the state Attorney General’s office, consumer protection. They had a talk to the dealership, they traded me for a similar car. Even without a warranty, talk to the dealer, if they don’t offer resolution, then talk to the Attorney General’s office. Two hundred miles is absolutely unreasonable.
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The car may be covered by Texas lemon law for used vehicles that may still be under warranty. https://www.txdmv.gov/motorists/consumer-protection/lemon-law
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zu9iqg
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legaladvice_train
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1irau4
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j1ixte9
| 1,671,905,920 | 1,671,908,631 | 5 | 96 |
I believe in Texas, used vehicles are sold as is unless otherwise stated. However, there may still be an implied warranty of fitness. Obviously, you made the purchase with the understanding the item was suitable to be used for a specific task. It's a car, so you would assume it would be fit for the purpose of driving, especially purchased from a dealership, not some guy on marketplace. I would absolutely call the dealership first. "I bought a car from you yesterday and it burned down on the highway". That is a kind of extreme that you would think any business would be concerned about and want to address or correct immediately. Edit for typos
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I bought a used car and got an extended warranty, it lasted three days before the engine was blowing smoke. The dealership said it wasn’t covered. I talked to the state Attorney General’s office, consumer protection. They had a talk to the dealership, they traded me for a similar car. Even without a warranty, talk to the dealer, if they don’t offer resolution, then talk to the Attorney General’s office. Two hundred miles is absolutely unreasonable.
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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Things that don’t apply: buyers remorse or lemon laws. Things that do apply: warranty coverage if still covered and then insurance
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I bought a used car and got an extended warranty, it lasted three days before the engine was blowing smoke. The dealership said it wasn’t covered. I talked to the state Attorney General’s office, consumer protection. They had a talk to the dealership, they traded me for a similar car. Even without a warranty, talk to the dealer, if they don’t offer resolution, then talk to the Attorney General’s office. Two hundred miles is absolutely unreasonable.
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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The car may be covered by Texas lemon law for used vehicles that may still be under warranty. https://www.txdmv.gov/motorists/consumer-protection/lemon-law
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So, you bought a used car and it blew up a day later? There's a few different ways to handle this. To begin, if they purchased a vehicle from a private party, you may be out of luck. If the vehicle is still under warranty, not voided in any circumstance, you might be able to get assistance with repairs or even a free replacement. If you purchased it from a dealership, call and explain your situation. Most reputable dealerships would rather take care of the issue vs. letting you spread information that they sold a vehicle that detonated. You wouldn't believe the hoops some will jump through to make sure you're satisfied, as your one experience can turn away droves of potential customers. If you're still not having any luck, contact the vehicle manufacturer, and explain the situation. Search for class action lawsuits that may be in effect for poor design. For instance, Audi had an issue for engine oil consumption, which came from an inherent defect in manufacturing. I believe there was a class action lawsuit, which lead to either free, or marked down repair.
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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I believe in Texas, used vehicles are sold as is unless otherwise stated. However, there may still be an implied warranty of fitness. Obviously, you made the purchase with the understanding the item was suitable to be used for a specific task. It's a car, so you would assume it would be fit for the purpose of driving, especially purchased from a dealership, not some guy on marketplace. I would absolutely call the dealership first. "I bought a car from you yesterday and it burned down on the highway". That is a kind of extreme that you would think any business would be concerned about and want to address or correct immediately. Edit for typos
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So, you bought a used car and it blew up a day later? There's a few different ways to handle this. To begin, if they purchased a vehicle from a private party, you may be out of luck. If the vehicle is still under warranty, not voided in any circumstance, you might be able to get assistance with repairs or even a free replacement. If you purchased it from a dealership, call and explain your situation. Most reputable dealerships would rather take care of the issue vs. letting you spread information that they sold a vehicle that detonated. You wouldn't believe the hoops some will jump through to make sure you're satisfied, as your one experience can turn away droves of potential customers. If you're still not having any luck, contact the vehicle manufacturer, and explain the situation. Search for class action lawsuits that may be in effect for poor design. For instance, Audi had an issue for engine oil consumption, which came from an inherent defect in manufacturing. I believe there was a class action lawsuit, which lead to either free, or marked down repair.
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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Things that don’t apply: buyers remorse or lemon laws. Things that do apply: warranty coverage if still covered and then insurance
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So, you bought a used car and it blew up a day later? There's a few different ways to handle this. To begin, if they purchased a vehicle from a private party, you may be out of luck. If the vehicle is still under warranty, not voided in any circumstance, you might be able to get assistance with repairs or even a free replacement. If you purchased it from a dealership, call and explain your situation. Most reputable dealerships would rather take care of the issue vs. letting you spread information that they sold a vehicle that detonated. You wouldn't believe the hoops some will jump through to make sure you're satisfied, as your one experience can turn away droves of potential customers. If you're still not having any luck, contact the vehicle manufacturer, and explain the situation. Search for class action lawsuits that may be in effect for poor design. For instance, Audi had an issue for engine oil consumption, which came from an inherent defect in manufacturing. I believe there was a class action lawsuit, which lead to either free, or marked down repair.
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1jd4hn
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So, you bought a used car and it blew up a day later? There's a few different ways to handle this. To begin, if they purchased a vehicle from a private party, you may be out of luck. If the vehicle is still under warranty, not voided in any circumstance, you might be able to get assistance with repairs or even a free replacement. If you purchased it from a dealership, call and explain your situation. Most reputable dealerships would rather take care of the issue vs. letting you spread information that they sold a vehicle that detonated. You wouldn't believe the hoops some will jump through to make sure you're satisfied, as your one experience can turn away droves of potential customers. If you're still not having any luck, contact the vehicle manufacturer, and explain the situation. Search for class action lawsuits that may be in effect for poor design. For instance, Audi had an issue for engine oil consumption, which came from an inherent defect in manufacturing. I believe there was a class action lawsuit, which lead to either free, or marked down repair.
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Car burned down while driving, time to use the insurance you were supposed to have. I know in the great state of IL any car under 150k miles has a 7 day warranty for major engine/trans repair
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1ih1gr
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The car may be covered by Texas lemon law for used vehicles that may still be under warranty. https://www.txdmv.gov/motorists/consumer-protection/lemon-law
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Things that don’t apply: buyers remorse or lemon laws. Things that do apply: warranty coverage if still covered and then insurance
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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Things that don’t apply: buyers remorse or lemon laws. Things that do apply: warranty coverage if still covered and then insurance
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I believe in Texas, used vehicles are sold as is unless otherwise stated. However, there may still be an implied warranty of fitness. Obviously, you made the purchase with the understanding the item was suitable to be used for a specific task. It's a car, so you would assume it would be fit for the purpose of driving, especially purchased from a dealership, not some guy on marketplace. I would absolutely call the dealership first. "I bought a car from you yesterday and it burned down on the highway". That is a kind of extreme that you would think any business would be concerned about and want to address or correct immediately. Edit for typos
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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j1ih1gr
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Holy shit you friend is why traffic was backed up for 4 hours last night. cops took forever to clear that burning wreck
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Things that don’t apply: buyers remorse or lemon laws. Things that do apply: warranty coverage if still covered and then insurance
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Friend (32M) purchased used car 12/22 and it exploded 12/23. What are his options? As the title states, my friend (32M) from Colorado purchased a used vehicle in the state of Texas with 27,000 miles on it. While driving it back home, the vehicle caught fire and burned down on a west Texas interstate. What are his options?
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Holy shit you friend is why traffic was backed up for 4 hours last night. cops took forever to clear that burning wreck
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Car burned down while driving, time to use the insurance you were supposed to have. I know in the great state of IL any car under 150k miles has a 7 day warranty for major engine/trans repair
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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This isn't a police matter. That would be the best way to make things worse. And ending up in court over it isn't going to help anyone's relationship, either. Your best bet is to convince your son that he'll make more headway with his father by spending time with him and talking about the issue than he will by throwing a grand-gesture fit. Try asking him: What's his objective here? What does he want to achieve? Is his current strategy getting him any further towards this objective? Assuming his goal here is to change his father's mind about natural gas: on occasions when he himself has changed his mind about an issue, what's convinced him? Someone refusing to talk to him, or someone listening to his views and explaining theirs? If his objective is to help the environment: would your ex quitting his job achieve that? Or would someone else just take the job? If that wouldn't make a difference to the environment, what would? Would it make a difference if he could, for example, convince your ex to try and move the company towards more sustainable ways of transporting the natural gas (or something - I know nothing about natural gas)? From an environmental perspective, it looks to me like your son has a golden opportunity here: he's in a position to talk about these issues to someone who's well placed to actually make changes. Why on earth would he want to blow that by making his dad quit his job? It's great that your son wants to make a concrete difference. Fair play to him. But he needs to start thinking about what strategies give him a fighting chance of actually making that difference.
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I don't believe they could do anything for you. But I also don't think your ex has any ground to stand on in family court, at this point your son is old enough to make his own choices (an adult even, in some states) and it doesn't sound like your doing anything to prohibit your ex from getting his son per the custody agreement. You could call family court and see what they advise but I doubt it would come to court and even if it did it would likely be without lawyers depending on the state you reside in. Side note: if all your ex and son do is argue, why is he fighting so hard to take him?
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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Do not call the police on a sixteen year old, who does not want to see his parent, really dangerous, His father has to work out how to rebuild a relationship with his son, not force himself on him, turning this into a battle will never end well.
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This isn't a police matter. That would be the best way to make things worse. And ending up in court over it isn't going to help anyone's relationship, either. Your best bet is to convince your son that he'll make more headway with his father by spending time with him and talking about the issue than he will by throwing a grand-gesture fit. Try asking him: What's his objective here? What does he want to achieve? Is his current strategy getting him any further towards this objective? Assuming his goal here is to change his father's mind about natural gas: on occasions when he himself has changed his mind about an issue, what's convinced him? Someone refusing to talk to him, or someone listening to his views and explaining theirs? If his objective is to help the environment: would your ex quitting his job achieve that? Or would someone else just take the job? If that wouldn't make a difference to the environment, what would? Would it make a difference if he could, for example, convince your ex to try and move the company towards more sustainable ways of transporting the natural gas (or something - I know nothing about natural gas)? From an environmental perspective, it looks to me like your son has a golden opportunity here: he's in a position to talk about these issues to someone who's well placed to actually make changes. Why on earth would he want to blow that by making his dad quit his job? It's great that your son wants to make a concrete difference. Fair play to him. But he needs to start thinking about what strategies give him a fighting chance of actually making that difference.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fi9ulre
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This isn't a police matter. That would be the best way to make things worse. And ending up in court over it isn't going to help anyone's relationship, either. Your best bet is to convince your son that he'll make more headway with his father by spending time with him and talking about the issue than he will by throwing a grand-gesture fit. Try asking him: What's his objective here? What does he want to achieve? Is his current strategy getting him any further towards this objective? Assuming his goal here is to change his father's mind about natural gas: on occasions when he himself has changed his mind about an issue, what's convinced him? Someone refusing to talk to him, or someone listening to his views and explaining theirs? If his objective is to help the environment: would your ex quitting his job achieve that? Or would someone else just take the job? If that wouldn't make a difference to the environment, what would? Would it make a difference if he could, for example, convince your ex to try and move the company towards more sustainable ways of transporting the natural gas (or something - I know nothing about natural gas)? From an environmental perspective, it looks to me like your son has a golden opportunity here: he's in a position to talk about these issues to someone who's well placed to actually make changes. Why on earth would he want to blow that by making his dad quit his job? It's great that your son wants to make a concrete difference. Fair play to him. But he needs to start thinking about what strategies give him a fighting chance of actually making that difference.
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>I have no fucking clue what to do. Yes, I am very sympathetic -- a headstrong 16-year-old can be a very difficult parenting challenge. >The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. so, apparently this is a very difficult parenting challenge facing your son's father. It sounds as if the misbehavior is occurring during his parenting time not yours. So it is his problem to discipline his son. It sounds as if you are not doing anything in particular to undermine his authority as a parent. If he threatens to go back to court over this you might want to point this out. >Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex? My advice to your ex would be to NOT try calling the police -- there are almost no circumstances under which that is a useful parenting technique. My advice to you is to tell your ex that he needs to either put up with the status quo or resolve the problem.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fia0rqj
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This isn't a police matter. That would be the best way to make things worse. And ending up in court over it isn't going to help anyone's relationship, either. Your best bet is to convince your son that he'll make more headway with his father by spending time with him and talking about the issue than he will by throwing a grand-gesture fit. Try asking him: What's his objective here? What does he want to achieve? Is his current strategy getting him any further towards this objective? Assuming his goal here is to change his father's mind about natural gas: on occasions when he himself has changed his mind about an issue, what's convinced him? Someone refusing to talk to him, or someone listening to his views and explaining theirs? If his objective is to help the environment: would your ex quitting his job achieve that? Or would someone else just take the job? If that wouldn't make a difference to the environment, what would? Would it make a difference if he could, for example, convince your ex to try and move the company towards more sustainable ways of transporting the natural gas (or something - I know nothing about natural gas)? From an environmental perspective, it looks to me like your son has a golden opportunity here: he's in a position to talk about these issues to someone who's well placed to actually make changes. Why on earth would he want to blow that by making his dad quit his job? It's great that your son wants to make a concrete difference. Fair play to him. But he needs to start thinking about what strategies give him a fighting chance of actually making that difference.
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I don't recommend calling the police for this, as there's not much they can do. The best approach here is to try and reason with your child. Make sure he understands the legal liability that you face by being in contempt of a custody order. Does he really want to put his mother through a court battle over his stubbornness? This would be a good time to talk to him about how adults handle differences of opinion in a rational way. As a side note, if you're unable to control your child, your ex may have grounds to request a modification to your custody order based on that. I'd recommend not outright telling your ex that you can't control the kid.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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>I have no fucking clue what to do. Yes, I am very sympathetic -- a headstrong 16-year-old can be a very difficult parenting challenge. >The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. so, apparently this is a very difficult parenting challenge facing your son's father. It sounds as if the misbehavior is occurring during his parenting time not yours. So it is his problem to discipline his son. It sounds as if you are not doing anything in particular to undermine his authority as a parent. If he threatens to go back to court over this you might want to point this out. >Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex? My advice to your ex would be to NOT try calling the police -- there are almost no circumstances under which that is a useful parenting technique. My advice to you is to tell your ex that he needs to either put up with the status quo or resolve the problem.
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I'm not recommending this specific law office (I don't know anything about them plus it's prohibited by the rules to do so), but they released this article titled "What to do When Your Child Does Not Want to Visit the Other Parent" It discusses Texas laws and precedents specifically so hopefully it is relevant to your situation.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiamrpf
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You can't be held in contempt for this. The order doesn't bind your son IE if he ignored it at his age nobody can MAKE him go with his father. Many jurisdictions make custody order essentially have no effect once a child reaches 16. If your ex wants to waste his money taking you to court when it would appear you are acting reasonably and attempting to foster the relationship then let him. He will look foolish and waste his and his lawyers time.
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I'm not recommending this specific law office (I don't know anything about them plus it's prohibited by the rules to do so), but they released this article titled "What to do When Your Child Does Not Want to Visit the Other Parent" It discusses Texas laws and precedents specifically so hopefully it is relevant to your situation.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiaa4fu
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I'm not recommending this specific law office (I don't know anything about them plus it's prohibited by the rules to do so), but they released this article titled "What to do When Your Child Does Not Want to Visit the Other Parent" It discusses Texas laws and precedents specifically so hopefully it is relevant to your situation.
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I’m having a hard time understanding. What’s happening that’s so wrong that your son should be punished, or have the police called on him for not wanting to go to his fathers house? No matter how absurd you think your sons reasoning is, you can’t force him to go. The father wanting to file a contempt complaint seems very unrealistic considering the situation. It doesn’t seem as though your withholding or blocking visitation. I wouldn’t recommend calling the police. They can not help you in this civil/family matter. I’d suggest counseling for your son, although that seems like a stretch as he seems unwilling to resolve the issue (aside from the father quitting his job). Maybe you and the father could sit down with your son and give him the opportunity to explain his reasoning and why it’s so important to him. Let him have his voice. He’s growing into a young man an trying to figure out who he is at this stage in life. Punishment and negativity will probably only make things worse and create [more] resentment between everyone involved. I wish I could offer more, but I understand this is a tricky situation and probably much harder to deal with than what it seems from the post. Good luck and I hope you all can help one another overcome this.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiakhnw
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I'm not recommending this specific law office (I don't know anything about them plus it's prohibited by the rules to do so), but they released this article titled "What to do When Your Child Does Not Want to Visit the Other Parent" It discusses Texas laws and precedents specifically so hopefully it is relevant to your situation.
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this sounds like a parenting/family dynamic issue, not a legal issue. Your son is nearly an adult and it seems apparent from your post you cannot physically force him to go with his father. The police would almost certainly stay out of this because it's not their job to enforce a civil custody order, especially when there's no crime committed or danger to anyone involved. I feel for you and your ex: as a father myself, I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you both. But, I also remember being a teenager and CONVINCED i was right about everything and getting into some fairly spectacular shouting matches with my father. That's part of growing up. My only advice is to try to understand your son, not force him into doing something he doesn't want to do. His methods are crude and juvenile, but they come from a good place.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fia0rqj
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I'm not recommending this specific law office (I don't know anything about them plus it's prohibited by the rules to do so), but they released this article titled "What to do When Your Child Does Not Want to Visit the Other Parent" It discusses Texas laws and precedents specifically so hopefully it is relevant to your situation.
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I don't recommend calling the police for this, as there's not much they can do. The best approach here is to try and reason with your child. Make sure he understands the legal liability that you face by being in contempt of a custody order. Does he really want to put his mother through a court battle over his stubbornness? This would be a good time to talk to him about how adults handle differences of opinion in a rational way. As a side note, if you're unable to control your child, your ex may have grounds to request a modification to your custody order based on that. I'd recommend not outright telling your ex that you can't control the kid.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiapllq
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You can't be held in contempt for this. The order doesn't bind your son IE if he ignored it at his age nobody can MAKE him go with his father. Many jurisdictions make custody order essentially have no effect once a child reaches 16. If your ex wants to waste his money taking you to court when it would appear you are acting reasonably and attempting to foster the relationship then let him. He will look foolish and waste his and his lawyers time.
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You should revisit the custody agreement so that your son's wishes can be taken into account by the court. There is little danger of you facing legal repercussions from your son not wanting to see his father.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiaa4fu
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You should revisit the custody agreement so that your son's wishes can be taken into account by the court. There is little danger of you facing legal repercussions from your son not wanting to see his father.
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I’m having a hard time understanding. What’s happening that’s so wrong that your son should be punished, or have the police called on him for not wanting to go to his fathers house? No matter how absurd you think your sons reasoning is, you can’t force him to go. The father wanting to file a contempt complaint seems very unrealistic considering the situation. It doesn’t seem as though your withholding or blocking visitation. I wouldn’t recommend calling the police. They can not help you in this civil/family matter. I’d suggest counseling for your son, although that seems like a stretch as he seems unwilling to resolve the issue (aside from the father quitting his job). Maybe you and the father could sit down with your son and give him the opportunity to explain his reasoning and why it’s so important to him. Let him have his voice. He’s growing into a young man an trying to figure out who he is at this stage in life. Punishment and negativity will probably only make things worse and create [more] resentment between everyone involved. I wish I could offer more, but I understand this is a tricky situation and probably much harder to deal with than what it seems from the post. Good luck and I hope you all can help one another overcome this.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiakhnw
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You should revisit the custody agreement so that your son's wishes can be taken into account by the court. There is little danger of you facing legal repercussions from your son not wanting to see his father.
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this sounds like a parenting/family dynamic issue, not a legal issue. Your son is nearly an adult and it seems apparent from your post you cannot physically force him to go with his father. The police would almost certainly stay out of this because it's not their job to enforce a civil custody order, especially when there's no crime committed or danger to anyone involved. I feel for you and your ex: as a father myself, I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you both. But, I also remember being a teenager and CONVINCED i was right about everything and getting into some fairly spectacular shouting matches with my father. That's part of growing up. My only advice is to try to understand your son, not force him into doing something he doesn't want to do. His methods are crude and juvenile, but they come from a good place.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fia0rqj
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You should revisit the custody agreement so that your son's wishes can be taken into account by the court. There is little danger of you facing legal repercussions from your son not wanting to see his father.
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I don't recommend calling the police for this, as there's not much they can do. The best approach here is to try and reason with your child. Make sure he understands the legal liability that you face by being in contempt of a custody order. Does he really want to put his mother through a court battle over his stubbornness? This would be a good time to talk to him about how adults handle differences of opinion in a rational way. As a side note, if you're unable to control your child, your ex may have grounds to request a modification to your custody order based on that. I'd recommend not outright telling your ex that you can't control the kid.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiaa4fu
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You can't be held in contempt for this. The order doesn't bind your son IE if he ignored it at his age nobody can MAKE him go with his father. Many jurisdictions make custody order essentially have no effect once a child reaches 16. If your ex wants to waste his money taking you to court when it would appear you are acting reasonably and attempting to foster the relationship then let him. He will look foolish and waste his and his lawyers time.
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I’m having a hard time understanding. What’s happening that’s so wrong that your son should be punished, or have the police called on him for not wanting to go to his fathers house? No matter how absurd you think your sons reasoning is, you can’t force him to go. The father wanting to file a contempt complaint seems very unrealistic considering the situation. It doesn’t seem as though your withholding or blocking visitation. I wouldn’t recommend calling the police. They can not help you in this civil/family matter. I’d suggest counseling for your son, although that seems like a stretch as he seems unwilling to resolve the issue (aside from the father quitting his job). Maybe you and the father could sit down with your son and give him the opportunity to explain his reasoning and why it’s so important to him. Let him have his voice. He’s growing into a young man an trying to figure out who he is at this stage in life. Punishment and negativity will probably only make things worse and create [more] resentment between everyone involved. I wish I could offer more, but I understand this is a tricky situation and probably much harder to deal with than what it seems from the post. Good luck and I hope you all can help one another overcome this.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiaeaml
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fia0rqj
| 1,582,299,251 | 1,582,289,739 | 23 | 4 |
You can't be held in contempt for this. The order doesn't bind your son IE if he ignored it at his age nobody can MAKE him go with his father. Many jurisdictions make custody order essentially have no effect once a child reaches 16. If your ex wants to waste his money taking you to court when it would appear you are acting reasonably and attempting to foster the relationship then let him. He will look foolish and waste his and his lawyers time.
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I don't recommend calling the police for this, as there's not much they can do. The best approach here is to try and reason with your child. Make sure he understands the legal liability that you face by being in contempt of a custody order. Does he really want to put his mother through a court battle over his stubbornness? This would be a good time to talk to him about how adults handle differences of opinion in a rational way. As a side note, if you're unable to control your child, your ex may have grounds to request a modification to your custody order based on that. I'd recommend not outright telling your ex that you can't control the kid.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fia0rqj
| 1,582,296,659 | 1,582,289,739 | 16 | 4 |
I’m having a hard time understanding. What’s happening that’s so wrong that your son should be punished, or have the police called on him for not wanting to go to his fathers house? No matter how absurd you think your sons reasoning is, you can’t force him to go. The father wanting to file a contempt complaint seems very unrealistic considering the situation. It doesn’t seem as though your withholding or blocking visitation. I wouldn’t recommend calling the police. They can not help you in this civil/family matter. I’d suggest counseling for your son, although that seems like a stretch as he seems unwilling to resolve the issue (aside from the father quitting his job). Maybe you and the father could sit down with your son and give him the opportunity to explain his reasoning and why it’s so important to him. Let him have his voice. He’s growing into a young man an trying to figure out who he is at this stage in life. Punishment and negativity will probably only make things worse and create [more] resentment between everyone involved. I wish I could offer more, but I understand this is a tricky situation and probably much harder to deal with than what it seems from the post. Good luck and I hope you all can help one another overcome this.
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I don't recommend calling the police for this, as there's not much they can do. The best approach here is to try and reason with your child. Make sure he understands the legal liability that you face by being in contempt of a custody order. Does he really want to put his mother through a court battle over his stubbornness? This would be a good time to talk to him about how adults handle differences of opinion in a rational way. As a side note, if you're unable to control your child, your ex may have grounds to request a modification to your custody order based on that. I'd recommend not outright telling your ex that you can't control the kid.
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[TX] Should I call the police on my son who is refusing to go with his father as specified in the custody agreement? I have no fucking clue what to do. My son is 16. His father and I divorced some 11 years ago. We have 50/50 legal and physical custody, 2 weeks with him, 2 weeks with me. My ex has a house about 20 minutes away from my place. The custody agreement (unchanged from 11 years ago) states that he is to pick up my son at my house and drop him of there as well. In the last couple of years, there have been some changes to this. Sometimes, my ex picks up my son at school because my son is no longer 5 and he spends a lot of his day in extracurricular activities like any other high school student. Recently, my son has taken a liking to a certain Swedish teenager on an environmental issue. He has started to volunteer in a school club devoted to this specific environmental issue. This has caused problems between my son and his father. His father holds a relatively high position in a natural gas company. My son has come up with the somewhat absurd demand that his father change jobs and not work in this company. Until he does so, my son has refused to talk or interact with his father. He refuses to go with his father when his father picks him up for custody either at my home or at school. He comes back to my place, and he has a key. My ex has repeatedly threatened to make me go to court and try to hold me in contempt. On Sunday, officially, my ex's day for custody, my son did not come out. There was an enormous shouting match. My son is a muscular 6' 1" and weighs about 190 lbs. There is no way that that either my ex (6' 160 lbs and not very muscular) or myself (5' 4" 110 lbs) can get him to do anything physically. At the end of the shouting match, my ex again threatened to drag me to court and try to have me held in contempt of court. I have tried to discipline my son by a) Taking his phone away and giving him an old flip phone. Doesn't work because he just leave the phone. b) Tried grounding him. Doesn't work because he just goes out. Doesn't listen. I can't afford a lawyer because I have a chronic health condition that eats at any extra money I may have. Neither do I want to waste money to go to court for something as absurd as this situation. My ex has constantly called me everyday on this issue. I have not said anything to my son on what I prefer. Although I agree with him on this environmental issue, I think his demand is absurd and stupid. Can I call the police and have them force my son go to my ex?
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fiakhnw
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I don't recommend calling the police for this, as there's not much they can do. The best approach here is to try and reason with your child. Make sure he understands the legal liability that you face by being in contempt of a custody order. Does he really want to put his mother through a court battle over his stubbornness? This would be a good time to talk to him about how adults handle differences of opinion in a rational way. As a side note, if you're unable to control your child, your ex may have grounds to request a modification to your custody order based on that. I'd recommend not outright telling your ex that you can't control the kid.
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this sounds like a parenting/family dynamic issue, not a legal issue. Your son is nearly an adult and it seems apparent from your post you cannot physically force him to go with his father. The police would almost certainly stay out of this because it's not their job to enforce a civil custody order, especially when there's no crime committed or danger to anyone involved. I feel for you and your ex: as a father myself, I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you both. But, I also remember being a teenager and CONVINCED i was right about everything and getting into some fairly spectacular shouting matches with my father. That's part of growing up. My only advice is to try to understand your son, not force him into doing something he doesn't want to do. His methods are crude and juvenile, but they come from a good place.
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My landlord just put his house on the market (GA), and I live in the basement apartment. I came home today to find that all my lights were on and the comforter was rearranged on my bed. I checked my lease and it says 24-hour notice before entrance is preferred if at all possible, but that’s for repairs. What rights do I have with him entering when I’m gone? Another example ... yesterday I had just gotten up and was getting ready for work. I hear a quick knock at the door, then the key in the lock. I had the deadbolt on, which was good. But he wanted to have his agent look at the place. I’m trying to be nice, but this has all happened in less than a week, and I’m just worried that he’s going to keep coming in and out while I’m not there. Any guidance is appreciated!
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| 1,603,587,970 | 1,603,587,587 | 426 | 67 |
LL is already misbehaving so I encourage you to get a motion-activate webcam that updloads to the cloud tomorrow and install. Send an email to your LL reminding them that your lease states 24 hours notice and that you expect that to be observed - you can ask to set up a schedule if you're comfortable with that. Stay polite, stay firm. You may want to consider being present when you allow LL to enter in the future, too. Document your communications. You are right to be concerned, seems like he's already violated your space, unfortunately. good luck.
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Consider installing a camera to document who's entering the basement. If this is a regular thing you can attempt to break the lease on account of your landlord violating your quiet enjoyment of the property regardless of whether not he needs to give 24 hour notice before entering. Does your contract say anything about showing the apartment for a sale?
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(NC) I was the victim of a home invasion in February, I reported it to the sheriff's department. I called to get an update on the case, only to find that they have absolutely no record of my report. I had gone to the sheriff's department and spoken in person with a Deputy, who took three pages of notes. He didn't give me a case number before I left. I'm kinda mortified, as the perpetrators threatened to return, and committed at least two felonies against me. One of whom I know is a repeat offender. Is it worth my time to go back to the sheriff's department and re-submit the report? The whole situation has left me with PTSD and panic attacks, and I really don't want these guys to just get away with what they did to me.
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Does your state have a state police or equivalent?
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See if your local sheriff/PD has a victim's advocate — they might be able to help.
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mxkz1t
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(NC) I was the victim of a home invasion in February, I reported it to the sheriff's department. I called to get an update on the case, only to find that they have absolutely no record of my report. I had gone to the sheriff's department and spoken in person with a Deputy, who took three pages of notes. He didn't give me a case number before I left. I'm kinda mortified, as the perpetrators threatened to return, and committed at least two felonies against me. One of whom I know is a repeat offender. Is it worth my time to go back to the sheriff's department and re-submit the report? The whole situation has left me with PTSD and panic attacks, and I really don't want these guys to just get away with what they did to me.
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gvqd06c
| 1,619,287,735 | 1,619,286,783 | 782 | 205 |
Do you remember the officer that responded? You can request he call you on his next shift. I'd ask him...maybe jog his memory a bit. Also ask for the CAD report. It's the incident report that every officer has to fill out when they respond to anything I had to go to the sheriffs department for this recently as I was told the same thing regarding something far less severe.
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Does your state have a state police or equivalent?
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Won unemployment after getting fired for something stupid. Now they want to hire me back. I have a question. (Oregon) I've posted on here a couple times regarding this situation. But anyways, I won unemployment after getting fired. The full story is in my posting history if you want to know about it. Anyways, the company failed to respond to the initial claim inquiry and forfeited their right to appeal. And I just heard, through friends that still work for the company, that they're going to offer my job back. Here's the thing... to me I feel like this is like being cheated on. I don't trust them anymore, I can't forgive and forget what happened especially since I was a good/hard working employee, and I also feel like they might be trying to hire me back to either 1. Report to unemployment that i refused work if I turn them down and cutting off my benefits. 2. Hire me back on so that they can find a way to fire me again So my question is, with continuing UI... is there a way to claim mitigating factors in turning them down? Or would I be screwed if they used this tactic?
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Refusing suitable work from an employer who fired you would be allowed anyway. If it does result in another hearing, that would be considered good cause for refusal.
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Even if this is a real job offer I would think UI would not cut off your benefits if you didn't accept. If that would be the case every asshole boss would be using this tactic.
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UPDATE: Can I (legally) be fired for refusing to date a customer after my boss orders me to? (Wyoming) Original post here So I didn't show up for the date. I work in a store that sells watches and other high end jewellery, so this wasn't a business lunch type of situation. Also I am 23 and the customer is 46. The date was supposed to be at his house, just the two of us. The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. They came and told him to leave but the next day I got flowers and a not from him asking for a second chance at a date. He also phoned me more than once. I had to go to court and get a restraining order, he was really surprised it got granted but the judge was not happy with him. The police were on my side and one of them thinks he (the customer) thought his money would get him out of it. Luckily he has stopped, left me alone and not contacted me since the order came down. My boss did fire me. He also said I was fired for misconduct so I can't get unemployment. I am talking with a lawyer and can't say more at this time. Just wanted to give everyone an update because people were so supportive. Note that I am not looking to sue and get lots of money (like people thought in the my original post), I just want to be able to collect unemployment and to show my boss that he can't treat people like this in the name of profit.
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cwhxwm7
| 1,446,170,946 | 1,446,171,788 | 192 | 1,330 |
well, your boss is in for a world of hurt.
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Do remember that your boss does not decide if you can get unemployment. File for it anyway and if he objects and actually tells this story he will be laughed out. Keep any documentation you may have (if we was stupid enough to tell you to do this/it was the reason for firing in text/email, back it up like crazy).
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UPDATE: Can I (legally) be fired for refusing to date a customer after my boss orders me to? (Wyoming) Original post here So I didn't show up for the date. I work in a store that sells watches and other high end jewellery, so this wasn't a business lunch type of situation. Also I am 23 and the customer is 46. The date was supposed to be at his house, just the two of us. The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. They came and told him to leave but the next day I got flowers and a not from him asking for a second chance at a date. He also phoned me more than once. I had to go to court and get a restraining order, he was really surprised it got granted but the judge was not happy with him. The police were on my side and one of them thinks he (the customer) thought his money would get him out of it. Luckily he has stopped, left me alone and not contacted me since the order came down. My boss did fire me. He also said I was fired for misconduct so I can't get unemployment. I am talking with a lawyer and can't say more at this time. Just wanted to give everyone an update because people were so supportive. Note that I am not looking to sue and get lots of money (like people thought in the my original post), I just want to be able to collect unemployment and to show my boss that he can't treat people like this in the name of profit.
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I'm sorry, but is this not considered quid pro quo sexual harassment?
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> The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. What a moron.
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UPDATE: Can I (legally) be fired for refusing to date a customer after my boss orders me to? (Wyoming) Original post here So I didn't show up for the date. I work in a store that sells watches and other high end jewellery, so this wasn't a business lunch type of situation. Also I am 23 and the customer is 46. The date was supposed to be at his house, just the two of us. The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. They came and told him to leave but the next day I got flowers and a not from him asking for a second chance at a date. He also phoned me more than once. I had to go to court and get a restraining order, he was really surprised it got granted but the judge was not happy with him. The police were on my side and one of them thinks he (the customer) thought his money would get him out of it. Luckily he has stopped, left me alone and not contacted me since the order came down. My boss did fire me. He also said I was fired for misconduct so I can't get unemployment. I am talking with a lawyer and can't say more at this time. Just wanted to give everyone an update because people were so supportive. Note that I am not looking to sue and get lots of money (like people thought in the my original post), I just want to be able to collect unemployment and to show my boss that he can't treat people like this in the name of profit.
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What kind of flowers were they?
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> The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. What a moron.
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UPDATE: Can I (legally) be fired for refusing to date a customer after my boss orders me to? (Wyoming) Original post here So I didn't show up for the date. I work in a store that sells watches and other high end jewellery, so this wasn't a business lunch type of situation. Also I am 23 and the customer is 46. The date was supposed to be at his house, just the two of us. The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. They came and told him to leave but the next day I got flowers and a not from him asking for a second chance at a date. He also phoned me more than once. I had to go to court and get a restraining order, he was really surprised it got granted but the judge was not happy with him. The police were on my side and one of them thinks he (the customer) thought his money would get him out of it. Luckily he has stopped, left me alone and not contacted me since the order came down. My boss did fire me. He also said I was fired for misconduct so I can't get unemployment. I am talking with a lawyer and can't say more at this time. Just wanted to give everyone an update because people were so supportive. Note that I am not looking to sue and get lots of money (like people thought in the my original post), I just want to be able to collect unemployment and to show my boss that he can't treat people like this in the name of profit.
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cwhy8jd
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> The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. What a moron.
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Wow I cannot believe that guy or your boss! Wtf kinda world do they think we live in? Haha Glad you got a lawyer, you better get that unemployment! His reasoning makes no sense! Update us when you have the okay to. :)
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UPDATE: Can I (legally) be fired for refusing to date a customer after my boss orders me to? (Wyoming) Original post here So I didn't show up for the date. I work in a store that sells watches and other high end jewellery, so this wasn't a business lunch type of situation. Also I am 23 and the customer is 46. The date was supposed to be at his house, just the two of us. The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. They came and told him to leave but the next day I got flowers and a not from him asking for a second chance at a date. He also phoned me more than once. I had to go to court and get a restraining order, he was really surprised it got granted but the judge was not happy with him. The police were on my side and one of them thinks he (the customer) thought his money would get him out of it. Luckily he has stopped, left me alone and not contacted me since the order came down. My boss did fire me. He also said I was fired for misconduct so I can't get unemployment. I am talking with a lawyer and can't say more at this time. Just wanted to give everyone an update because people were so supportive. Note that I am not looking to sue and get lots of money (like people thought in the my original post), I just want to be able to collect unemployment and to show my boss that he can't treat people like this in the name of profit.
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Wow. Your boss is a real piece of shit. Good luck!
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What kind of flowers were they?
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UPDATE: Can I (legally) be fired for refusing to date a customer after my boss orders me to? (Wyoming) Original post here So I didn't show up for the date. I work in a store that sells watches and other high end jewellery, so this wasn't a business lunch type of situation. Also I am 23 and the customer is 46. The date was supposed to be at his house, just the two of us. The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. They came and told him to leave but the next day I got flowers and a not from him asking for a second chance at a date. He also phoned me more than once. I had to go to court and get a restraining order, he was really surprised it got granted but the judge was not happy with him. The police were on my side and one of them thinks he (the customer) thought his money would get him out of it. Luckily he has stopped, left me alone and not contacted me since the order came down. My boss did fire me. He also said I was fired for misconduct so I can't get unemployment. I am talking with a lawyer and can't say more at this time. Just wanted to give everyone an update because people were so supportive. Note that I am not looking to sue and get lots of money (like people thought in the my original post), I just want to be able to collect unemployment and to show my boss that he can't treat people like this in the name of profit.
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cwhy8jd
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cwi2wsj
| 1,446,172,384 | 1,446,181,913 | 39 | 107 |
Wow I cannot believe that guy or your boss! Wtf kinda world do they think we live in? Haha Glad you got a lawyer, you better get that unemployment! His reasoning makes no sense! Update us when you have the okay to. :)
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Wow. Your boss is a real piece of shit. Good luck!
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3qscj9
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UPDATE: Can I (legally) be fired for refusing to date a customer after my boss orders me to? (Wyoming) Original post here So I didn't show up for the date. I work in a store that sells watches and other high end jewellery, so this wasn't a business lunch type of situation. Also I am 23 and the customer is 46. The date was supposed to be at his house, just the two of us. The customer actually came to my place when I didn't show up because my boss gave him my address. I didn't open the door but he wouldn't leave even though I asked him to 3 times and I had to call the police. They came and told him to leave but the next day I got flowers and a not from him asking for a second chance at a date. He also phoned me more than once. I had to go to court and get a restraining order, he was really surprised it got granted but the judge was not happy with him. The police were on my side and one of them thinks he (the customer) thought his money would get him out of it. Luckily he has stopped, left me alone and not contacted me since the order came down. My boss did fire me. He also said I was fired for misconduct so I can't get unemployment. I am talking with a lawyer and can't say more at this time. Just wanted to give everyone an update because people were so supportive. Note that I am not looking to sue and get lots of money (like people thought in the my original post), I just want to be able to collect unemployment and to show my boss that he can't treat people like this in the name of profit.
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cwhy8jd
| 1,446,172,691 | 1,446,172,384 | 83 | 39 |
What kind of flowers were they?
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Wow I cannot believe that guy or your boss! Wtf kinda world do they think we live in? Haha Glad you got a lawyer, you better get that unemployment! His reasoning makes no sense! Update us when you have the okay to. :)
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UPDATE: [Oregon, USA] Retaliation after FMLA Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2vfpij/oregon_usa_afraid_of_retaliation_after_fmla/ Hi- I wanted to provide an update to my previous post (even though it wasn't much of a page-turner) and ask for additional advice about a new turn off events. After my last post, I went to my human resources manager and disclosed my pregnancy as well as my concern about disciplinary retaliation from my supervisor given the circumstances surrounding the last three employees that declared an intention to take a medical leave of absence under OFLA/FMLA. She assured me that I need not worry about that as I have no existing record of being formally disciplined and she would see to it that I was protected from retaliation. She also stated that she would keep my condition private until I chose to disclose it to the workplace, including my direct supervisor. I informed my supervisor and work group about three weeks later, and the performance documentation began promptly the following day. I was put on a formal improvement plan, had my access to my office restricted, had policies and office protocol suddenly redefined for my role, and was subjected to several meetings that were hostile and borderline harassment. It was terrible. I made sure to recap and document most of these events through a series of emails between myself, my supervisor, and human resources. I finally sent an email detailing the dates and incidences during which I felt harassed or persecuted to the Human resources manager and starting that I felt I was being subjected to a hostile work environment. When she was unresponsive, I decided my only option was to resign. Anticipating that I would be filing a complaint with the labor board, I forwarded any relevant emails between myself, human resources, and my supervisor to my personal email address prior to resigning. The day I went in and resigned, I filed an initial claim with the labor board as well as one for UI citing hostile work environment. I have retained those conversations via email in order to provide written documentation supporting both claims, which are progressing at a snail's pace, but progressing nevertheless. Today, I received a letter from my former company's lawyer stating that they are aware that I forwarded emails to a personal email address and it is against the company's confidentiality policy for me to retain or share said emails beyond the duration of my employment. I have until this Tuesday to sign a statement saying I have deleted and destroyed all emails and must provide the Human resources manager with any and all hard copies or they will pursue legal action against me. Is this legitimate, or is this one of those strongly-worded attorney letters that I have read about on here so often and only meant to scare me? Would this be considered illegal distribution of company property, or do these emails belong to me? Thanks in advance for reading and advising. I really don't want to lose these emails.
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crj7hm6
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crj4sv5
| 1,432,460,826 | 1,432,449,216 | 58 | 6 |
Do not under any circumstances delete those emails. Your old company is essentially trying to scare you into destroying evidence. If anything you should be printing them out or forwarding them to tertiary accounts for posterity. Don't sign a damned thing they send you. Get a lawyer and stop communicating with your old company.
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Call whoever you are dealing with at the Labor Department, and ask them what to do. I assume you have already sent them these things, as part of your original complaint?
| 1 | 11,610 | 9.666667 |
3725wf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
UPDATE: [Oregon, USA] Retaliation after FMLA Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2vfpij/oregon_usa_afraid_of_retaliation_after_fmla/ Hi- I wanted to provide an update to my previous post (even though it wasn't much of a page-turner) and ask for additional advice about a new turn off events. After my last post, I went to my human resources manager and disclosed my pregnancy as well as my concern about disciplinary retaliation from my supervisor given the circumstances surrounding the last three employees that declared an intention to take a medical leave of absence under OFLA/FMLA. She assured me that I need not worry about that as I have no existing record of being formally disciplined and she would see to it that I was protected from retaliation. She also stated that she would keep my condition private until I chose to disclose it to the workplace, including my direct supervisor. I informed my supervisor and work group about three weeks later, and the performance documentation began promptly the following day. I was put on a formal improvement plan, had my access to my office restricted, had policies and office protocol suddenly redefined for my role, and was subjected to several meetings that were hostile and borderline harassment. It was terrible. I made sure to recap and document most of these events through a series of emails between myself, my supervisor, and human resources. I finally sent an email detailing the dates and incidences during which I felt harassed or persecuted to the Human resources manager and starting that I felt I was being subjected to a hostile work environment. When she was unresponsive, I decided my only option was to resign. Anticipating that I would be filing a complaint with the labor board, I forwarded any relevant emails between myself, human resources, and my supervisor to my personal email address prior to resigning. The day I went in and resigned, I filed an initial claim with the labor board as well as one for UI citing hostile work environment. I have retained those conversations via email in order to provide written documentation supporting both claims, which are progressing at a snail's pace, but progressing nevertheless. Today, I received a letter from my former company's lawyer stating that they are aware that I forwarded emails to a personal email address and it is against the company's confidentiality policy for me to retain or share said emails beyond the duration of my employment. I have until this Tuesday to sign a statement saying I have deleted and destroyed all emails and must provide the Human resources manager with any and all hard copies or they will pursue legal action against me. Is this legitimate, or is this one of those strongly-worded attorney letters that I have read about on here so often and only meant to scare me? Would this be considered illegal distribution of company property, or do these emails belong to me? Thanks in advance for reading and advising. I really don't want to lose these emails.
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crj8wes
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crj83vh
| 1,432,467,807 | 1,432,463,979 | 29 | 21 |
Ugh what a mess. In the future keep in mind that HR dept exist to protect the company, not the employee. Was there a written policy specifically against forwarding company emails? (My employer implemented this and enabled a feature to screen our outgoing emails, but I am still permitted to print and keep a paper copy of Office correspondence)
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I'm sure the environment was horrible, and it was probably the best decision for your mental health, but you did weaken your case by voluntarily resigning. It would have been better for you to force them to fire you, and to have more evidence of their ill intent. Not that it leaves you with nothing, so you should definetly still proceed. Depending on how spunky you're feeling, talk with your lawyer and decide if you want to find out which state the attorney is liscenced in and file an ethics complaint with the state bar, telling them he is attempting to coerce you into destroying evidence in pending litigation. It probably won't go anywhere, but will certainly get his attention.
| 1 | 3,828 | 1.380952 |
3725wf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
UPDATE: [Oregon, USA] Retaliation after FMLA Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2vfpij/oregon_usa_afraid_of_retaliation_after_fmla/ Hi- I wanted to provide an update to my previous post (even though it wasn't much of a page-turner) and ask for additional advice about a new turn off events. After my last post, I went to my human resources manager and disclosed my pregnancy as well as my concern about disciplinary retaliation from my supervisor given the circumstances surrounding the last three employees that declared an intention to take a medical leave of absence under OFLA/FMLA. She assured me that I need not worry about that as I have no existing record of being formally disciplined and she would see to it that I was protected from retaliation. She also stated that she would keep my condition private until I chose to disclose it to the workplace, including my direct supervisor. I informed my supervisor and work group about three weeks later, and the performance documentation began promptly the following day. I was put on a formal improvement plan, had my access to my office restricted, had policies and office protocol suddenly redefined for my role, and was subjected to several meetings that were hostile and borderline harassment. It was terrible. I made sure to recap and document most of these events through a series of emails between myself, my supervisor, and human resources. I finally sent an email detailing the dates and incidences during which I felt harassed or persecuted to the Human resources manager and starting that I felt I was being subjected to a hostile work environment. When she was unresponsive, I decided my only option was to resign. Anticipating that I would be filing a complaint with the labor board, I forwarded any relevant emails between myself, human resources, and my supervisor to my personal email address prior to resigning. The day I went in and resigned, I filed an initial claim with the labor board as well as one for UI citing hostile work environment. I have retained those conversations via email in order to provide written documentation supporting both claims, which are progressing at a snail's pace, but progressing nevertheless. Today, I received a letter from my former company's lawyer stating that they are aware that I forwarded emails to a personal email address and it is against the company's confidentiality policy for me to retain or share said emails beyond the duration of my employment. I have until this Tuesday to sign a statement saying I have deleted and destroyed all emails and must provide the Human resources manager with any and all hard copies or they will pursue legal action against me. Is this legitimate, or is this one of those strongly-worded attorney letters that I have read about on here so often and only meant to scare me? Would this be considered illegal distribution of company property, or do these emails belong to me? Thanks in advance for reading and advising. I really don't want to lose these emails.
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crj8wes
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crj4sv5
| 1,432,467,807 | 1,432,449,216 | 29 | 6 |
Ugh what a mess. In the future keep in mind that HR dept exist to protect the company, not the employee. Was there a written policy specifically against forwarding company emails? (My employer implemented this and enabled a feature to screen our outgoing emails, but I am still permitted to print and keep a paper copy of Office correspondence)
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Call whoever you are dealing with at the Labor Department, and ask them what to do. I assume you have already sent them these things, as part of your original complaint?
| 1 | 18,591 | 4.833333 |
3725wf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
UPDATE: [Oregon, USA] Retaliation after FMLA Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/2vfpij/oregon_usa_afraid_of_retaliation_after_fmla/ Hi- I wanted to provide an update to my previous post (even though it wasn't much of a page-turner) and ask for additional advice about a new turn off events. After my last post, I went to my human resources manager and disclosed my pregnancy as well as my concern about disciplinary retaliation from my supervisor given the circumstances surrounding the last three employees that declared an intention to take a medical leave of absence under OFLA/FMLA. She assured me that I need not worry about that as I have no existing record of being formally disciplined and she would see to it that I was protected from retaliation. She also stated that she would keep my condition private until I chose to disclose it to the workplace, including my direct supervisor. I informed my supervisor and work group about three weeks later, and the performance documentation began promptly the following day. I was put on a formal improvement plan, had my access to my office restricted, had policies and office protocol suddenly redefined for my role, and was subjected to several meetings that were hostile and borderline harassment. It was terrible. I made sure to recap and document most of these events through a series of emails between myself, my supervisor, and human resources. I finally sent an email detailing the dates and incidences during which I felt harassed or persecuted to the Human resources manager and starting that I felt I was being subjected to a hostile work environment. When she was unresponsive, I decided my only option was to resign. Anticipating that I would be filing a complaint with the labor board, I forwarded any relevant emails between myself, human resources, and my supervisor to my personal email address prior to resigning. The day I went in and resigned, I filed an initial claim with the labor board as well as one for UI citing hostile work environment. I have retained those conversations via email in order to provide written documentation supporting both claims, which are progressing at a snail's pace, but progressing nevertheless. Today, I received a letter from my former company's lawyer stating that they are aware that I forwarded emails to a personal email address and it is against the company's confidentiality policy for me to retain or share said emails beyond the duration of my employment. I have until this Tuesday to sign a statement saying I have deleted and destroyed all emails and must provide the Human resources manager with any and all hard copies or they will pursue legal action against me. Is this legitimate, or is this one of those strongly-worded attorney letters that I have read about on here so often and only meant to scare me? Would this be considered illegal distribution of company property, or do these emails belong to me? Thanks in advance for reading and advising. I really don't want to lose these emails.
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crj4sv5
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crj83vh
| 1,432,449,216 | 1,432,463,979 | 6 | 21 |
Call whoever you are dealing with at the Labor Department, and ask them what to do. I assume you have already sent them these things, as part of your original complaint?
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I'm sure the environment was horrible, and it was probably the best decision for your mental health, but you did weaken your case by voluntarily resigning. It would have been better for you to force them to fire you, and to have more evidence of their ill intent. Not that it leaves you with nothing, so you should definetly still proceed. Depending on how spunky you're feeling, talk with your lawyer and decide if you want to find out which state the attorney is liscenced in and file an ethics complaint with the state bar, telling them he is attempting to coerce you into destroying evidence in pending litigation. It probably won't go anywhere, but will certainly get his attention.
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I just got a letter in the mail saying we are losing our insurance.. is there anything we can do? For context I (20f) and my brother (17m) are both on Texas medicaid. We both have differing medical issues that require us to see specialists, and I myself take multiple medications daily. He will be receiving a foot reconstructive surgery in the next few months, which will be the first of atleast 2-3. We both have our plates full with doctors appointments, lab work, medications etc. To make it worse we got a letter in the mail today saying BOTH of our insurances have been examined and theyve determined we no longer qualify so our coverage will be suspended after the federal health crisis is over. We expected my coverage might be over soon due to my age (we werent exactly sure what the age limit was before I would need to find a new solution, but surely he has not aged out yet as he is a minor?). We dont know how theyve determined our situation has gotten better, if anything financially AND medically it has gotten worse. The bottom of the letter said we could acquire legal representation to appeal the decision or do it ourselves, but where do I even start? and how likely is it that im screwed even if I do try to appeal with or without legal help? What are my options if this doesnt go well for us? Would it help if I got a doctor to write a note explaining I will have seizures multiple times a month without this coverage? Im grasping at straws, because we really cant afford my medical costs and I dont wanna become a burden.
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itaj5ei
| 1,666,410,938 | 1,666,410,166 | 86 | 14 |
Try calling the number they gave you, the people that work there, at least in my area, are amazingly helpful and go out of their way to help solve problems. If you call and get someone who isn't very helpful or knowledgeable, thank them for their time, hang up and call again. Usually there has to be a change in order for them to cancel mid term. It may have to do with income or it could be an internal box that wasn't checked. But get yourself into a zen place mentally, give yourself 3-4 hours to spend on the phone, dial the phone number and be prepared to be super patient and sweet for quite sometime while someone figures out what's going on. Don't volunteer information and don't feel the need to fill empty space with conversation while they're trying to figure things out.
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We have to list that to let you know that you are typically not supposed to be eligible but due to the PHE we are sustaining your Medicaid. After anyone turns 19, we will stop your Medicaid as you have aged out of our program (unless you are a foster child.) There are typically local based programs to help you with insurance like the County Indigent department that works like Medicaid and is also managed by HHSC. We are not an expanded state, so your appeal will be denied when the PHE is not extended.
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