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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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Former building administrator (now district) from a whole different state. Not sure if this will help. Get a restraining order. In my state our suspensions can only last until the end of the school year (unless it involved a gun) then we have to bring the student back at the beginning of a new academic term. We have to. Legal advice won't like this but the law protects everyone's right to an education, including students who assault or harm others. Even if their presence infringes on their victim attending school. We recommend to parents that they get a restraining order. Our state restraining orders can exclude school, so we have a copy of what the order looks like and we show parents that exact box we need the judge to check to ensure school is included. This will be an uphill battle since you didn't file a police report.
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Not a lawyer, this is not legal advice. It might not be too late to report it to the police. The statute of limitations for civil suits for sexual abuse is “one year after the date of discovery of the abuse, or one year after your 18th birthday (whichever is longer).” source. For criminal prosecution, the statute of limitations is 30 years from the victim's 18th birthday. According to La R.S. 14:42.1, your daughters assault might be considered Second Degree rape source. Highly recommend a look into the source. **Talk to a lawyer** the laws may be different since she is a minor and younger than the age of consent which is 17 in louisiana *edit removed my judgey statement. I’m mad for your kid that she had to see her rapist.
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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Former building administrator (now district) from a whole different state. Not sure if this will help. Get a restraining order. In my state our suspensions can only last until the end of the school year (unless it involved a gun) then we have to bring the student back at the beginning of a new academic term. We have to. Legal advice won't like this but the law protects everyone's right to an education, including students who assault or harm others. Even if their presence infringes on their victim attending school. We recommend to parents that they get a restraining order. Our state restraining orders can exclude school, so we have a copy of what the order looks like and we show parents that exact box we need the judge to check to ensure school is included. This will be an uphill battle since you didn't file a police report.
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I am not a lawyer, but is it possible to look into a restraining order? I am not sure how that works with children or if the fact that they attend the same school would play into it.
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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Not a lawyer, this is not legal advice. It might not be too late to report it to the police. The statute of limitations for civil suits for sexual abuse is “one year after the date of discovery of the abuse, or one year after your 18th birthday (whichever is longer).” source. For criminal prosecution, the statute of limitations is 30 years from the victim's 18th birthday. According to La R.S. 14:42.1, your daughters assault might be considered Second Degree rape source. Highly recommend a look into the source. **Talk to a lawyer** the laws may be different since she is a minor and younger than the age of consent which is 17 in louisiana *edit removed my judgey statement. I’m mad for your kid that she had to see her rapist.
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You do what comments in the original post urged you to do: you get a lawyer, and you contact the police.
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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I am not a lawyer, but is it possible to look into a restraining order? I am not sure how that works with children or if the fact that they attend the same school would play into it.
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You do what comments in the original post urged you to do: you get a lawyer, and you contact the police.
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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Not a lawyer, this is not legal advice. It might not be too late to report it to the police. The statute of limitations for civil suits for sexual abuse is “one year after the date of discovery of the abuse, or one year after your 18th birthday (whichever is longer).” source. For criminal prosecution, the statute of limitations is 30 years from the victim's 18th birthday. According to La R.S. 14:42.1, your daughters assault might be considered Second Degree rape source. Highly recommend a look into the source. **Talk to a lawyer** the laws may be different since she is a minor and younger than the age of consent which is 17 in louisiana *edit removed my judgey statement. I’m mad for your kid that she had to see her rapist.
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The problem is that there is a big hole in the story. Were the police involved? Was the boy arrested/charged/tried/convicted? If no to all of that, then in the eyes of the law, he is innocent and just another juvenile citizen, with the right to attend that school. If he is kicked out, his parents can sue the school, and may have already threatened to do that, which is why he's there. In the absence of conviction, or even an arrest, the school may have no choice. The school may not have a lot of choices, but you do, and the school system should help you with it. In my area, kids can go to any school they want, provided the school system approves it. So football players can go where the best programs are, drama students can go to schools with great drama programs, etc. It makes sense to do that if it gives a talented student a better shot at a better college. Even if they don't have such a program, they can do this for your daughter. Start thinking about another school for your daughter. Why would she want to stay in a school that treated her like this?
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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The problem is that there is a big hole in the story. Were the police involved? Was the boy arrested/charged/tried/convicted? If no to all of that, then in the eyes of the law, he is innocent and just another juvenile citizen, with the right to attend that school. If he is kicked out, his parents can sue the school, and may have already threatened to do that, which is why he's there. In the absence of conviction, or even an arrest, the school may have no choice. The school may not have a lot of choices, but you do, and the school system should help you with it. In my area, kids can go to any school they want, provided the school system approves it. So football players can go where the best programs are, drama students can go to schools with great drama programs, etc. It makes sense to do that if it gives a talented student a better shot at a better college. Even if they don't have such a program, they can do this for your daughter. Start thinking about another school for your daughter. Why would she want to stay in a school that treated her like this?
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I am not a lawyer, but is it possible to look into a restraining order? I am not sure how that works with children or if the fact that they attend the same school would play into it.
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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Not a lawyer, this is not legal advice. It might not be too late to report it to the police. The statute of limitations for civil suits for sexual abuse is “one year after the date of discovery of the abuse, or one year after your 18th birthday (whichever is longer).” source. For criminal prosecution, the statute of limitations is 30 years from the victim's 18th birthday. According to La R.S. 14:42.1, your daughters assault might be considered Second Degree rape source. Highly recommend a look into the source. **Talk to a lawyer** the laws may be different since she is a minor and younger than the age of consent which is 17 in louisiana *edit removed my judgey statement. I’m mad for your kid that she had to see her rapist.
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I am not a lawyer, but is it possible to look into a restraining order? I am not sure how that works with children or if the fact that they attend the same school would play into it.
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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I am not a lawyer, but is it possible to look into a restraining order? I am not sure how that works with children or if the fact that they attend the same school would play into it.
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In your last thread, you said the school reported this to the police. What happened with the police investigation?
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Update: LA] Daughter was sexually assaulted at school, school had her do statement without parent present. Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7kh7qm/la\_daughter\_was\_sexually\_assaulted\_at\_school/ TLDR: Daughter was assaulted at school, we followed the thread advice, and let the school handle it. Today was the first day of the new school year. Last year, the young man that attacked my daughter was removed from the school and did not return. This year, he was back on campus, and not only that, was in a class with her. He immediately was removed from the room when my daughter arrived. But the fact that he was back in the school upset her enough that we had to check her out of school and bring her home. We asked the director of high schools at the school board office what options we had - he said he didn't want to let her transfer because 'she wanted to be there and didn't want to punish her' and asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate. She's feeling a major violation of trust and no longer safe at her school. My husband is using his PTO time to try to get her taken care of, but it seems that a transfer is out of the question. The school let us down in her protection. What do I do now?
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I am not a lawyer, but is it possible to look into a restraining order? I am not sure how that works with children or if the fact that they attend the same school would play into it.
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> asked us to keep her out of school until he could investigate Is the school staff aware of this? What measurements are they taking to keep both kids separated? Make sure your daughter gets all homework and lessons properly communicated. Have arrangements with the school staff her friends to record all sessions. So basically MAKE SURE SHE DOESN'T GET EXPELLED FOR NOT ATTENDING SCHOOL.
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(California) Can my husbands ex-wife force him to dress their children a certain way? My husband has custody of his children(girls) from his previous marriage, the children are preteens. His ex-wife wants to take us to court over the way we dress them. They wear shorts,t-shirts,jeans,tank tops,dresses, just normal clothes. Their clothes are also from quality designers. She wants them to dress much more conservatively. For example if they wanted to wear a skirt they would have to wear pants under, not leggings, pants like long cargo pants. And sleeves that reach their elbows at least. No shoes other than sneakers and no designer clothes or even regular clothes they would have to be from places like Good Will or the Salvation Army. This isn't a religious thing, she claims to be a Wiccan. Could she force us to dress them this way? It looks ridiculous and its was too much for the weather they would over heat!
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Stepdad of preteen twins (b,g)... Yeah, the ex is going to completely come unhinged when teen years start. But also i wonder if this could work to your benefit in regards to getting more custody.
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can you please please update if you do go to court? I'm dying to hear what a real judge says about this. poor kids. good thing they have one sane parent (and a bonus parent, who sounds cool)
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(California) Can my husbands ex-wife force him to dress their children a certain way? My husband has custody of his children(girls) from his previous marriage, the children are preteens. His ex-wife wants to take us to court over the way we dress them. They wear shorts,t-shirts,jeans,tank tops,dresses, just normal clothes. Their clothes are also from quality designers. She wants them to dress much more conservatively. For example if they wanted to wear a skirt they would have to wear pants under, not leggings, pants like long cargo pants. And sleeves that reach their elbows at least. No shoes other than sneakers and no designer clothes or even regular clothes they would have to be from places like Good Will or the Salvation Army. This isn't a religious thing, she claims to be a Wiccan. Could she force us to dress them this way? It looks ridiculous and its was too much for the weather they would over heat!
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Stepdad of preteen twins (b,g)... Yeah, the ex is going to completely come unhinged when teen years start. But also i wonder if this could work to your benefit in regards to getting more custody.
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>This isn't a religious thing, she claims to be a Wiccan. Practicing Wiccan here. This is actually the opposite of what I'd expect from a Wiccan. The most conservative I would expect, in general, of a Wiccan parent is to allow kids to wear what their friends are wearing. Socially, many Wiccans are often semi if not all-out nudists and are generally positive about their kids sexually experimenting when ready so long as they do it safely. Point being, wearing risque clothing or wearing nothing at all are often on the table, whenever not inappropriate, in Wiccan families. So I'm actually surprised that there's a discussion not just of modesty, but really weird levels of it. So what the hell? Religious modesty was the only thing I could think of in this case barring sun sensitivity (which I discounted because you'd have mentioned it). What's pushing her to do this then? Also, I'd doubt the truth of her being Wiccan. She may have a degree of conviction, but our religion is chock full of people who claim it as their identity for shock value or attention. This isn't legal advice. It's just messing with my mind a bit.
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(California) Can my husbands ex-wife force him to dress their children a certain way? My husband has custody of his children(girls) from his previous marriage, the children are preteens. His ex-wife wants to take us to court over the way we dress them. They wear shorts,t-shirts,jeans,tank tops,dresses, just normal clothes. Their clothes are also from quality designers. She wants them to dress much more conservatively. For example if they wanted to wear a skirt they would have to wear pants under, not leggings, pants like long cargo pants. And sleeves that reach their elbows at least. No shoes other than sneakers and no designer clothes or even regular clothes they would have to be from places like Good Will or the Salvation Army. This isn't a religious thing, she claims to be a Wiccan. Could she force us to dress them this way? It looks ridiculous and its was too much for the weather they would over heat!
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I'm not in CA, but courts here tend not to like having to deal with nit-picking over petty things. If you aren't doing anything out of the ordinary to provoke her, I'd bet she won't be happy with the result if she takes you to court. If you can request mediation it may help. Even if the mediation doesn't help, in some jurisdictions a mediator will prepare a report for the court.
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>This isn't a religious thing, she claims to be a Wiccan. Practicing Wiccan here. This is actually the opposite of what I'd expect from a Wiccan. The most conservative I would expect, in general, of a Wiccan parent is to allow kids to wear what their friends are wearing. Socially, many Wiccans are often semi if not all-out nudists and are generally positive about their kids sexually experimenting when ready so long as they do it safely. Point being, wearing risque clothing or wearing nothing at all are often on the table, whenever not inappropriate, in Wiccan families. So I'm actually surprised that there's a discussion not just of modesty, but really weird levels of it. So what the hell? Religious modesty was the only thing I could think of in this case barring sun sensitivity (which I discounted because you'd have mentioned it). What's pushing her to do this then? Also, I'd doubt the truth of her being Wiccan. She may have a degree of conviction, but our religion is chock full of people who claim it as their identity for shock value or attention. This isn't legal advice. It's just messing with my mind a bit.
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(California) Can my husbands ex-wife force him to dress their children a certain way? My husband has custody of his children(girls) from his previous marriage, the children are preteens. His ex-wife wants to take us to court over the way we dress them. They wear shorts,t-shirts,jeans,tank tops,dresses, just normal clothes. Their clothes are also from quality designers. She wants them to dress much more conservatively. For example if they wanted to wear a skirt they would have to wear pants under, not leggings, pants like long cargo pants. And sleeves that reach their elbows at least. No shoes other than sneakers and no designer clothes or even regular clothes they would have to be from places like Good Will or the Salvation Army. This isn't a religious thing, she claims to be a Wiccan. Could she force us to dress them this way? It looks ridiculous and its was too much for the weather they would over heat!
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>This isn't a religious thing, she claims to be a Wiccan. Practicing Wiccan here. This is actually the opposite of what I'd expect from a Wiccan. The most conservative I would expect, in general, of a Wiccan parent is to allow kids to wear what their friends are wearing. Socially, many Wiccans are often semi if not all-out nudists and are generally positive about their kids sexually experimenting when ready so long as they do it safely. Point being, wearing risque clothing or wearing nothing at all are often on the table, whenever not inappropriate, in Wiccan families. So I'm actually surprised that there's a discussion not just of modesty, but really weird levels of it. So what the hell? Religious modesty was the only thing I could think of in this case barring sun sensitivity (which I discounted because you'd have mentioned it). What's pushing her to do this then? Also, I'd doubt the truth of her being Wiccan. She may have a degree of conviction, but our religion is chock full of people who claim it as their identity for shock value or attention. This isn't legal advice. It's just messing with my mind a bit.
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No judge will make that order. She can initiate a modification proceeding, but she's going to get nowhere.
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[SF, California] My roommate has paranoid schizophrenia and is unwilling / unable to seek treatment on his own. His delusions have started to become quite problematic. I am the master tenant of our home; what can I do to help him get help and/or distance myself and my fellow roommates from him? Hello /r/legaladvice I am currently living in San Francisco with four other people in a rented home; I am the master tenant and am responsible for delivering the sum of all of our rents to our landlord. We have been living in our current residence for almost a year now; the anniversary of our move into this new home will be in January I'm struck with a rather frustrating issue; my roommate who I've been happy to share a home with for approx. two years now, has started to develop and show signs that his paranoid schizophrenia is intensifying and warped his perception of reality. He's previously been on medication for his condition, but I believe he has ceased following the onset of adverse side-effects. After a minor issue / argument about chores with another roommate, he began accusing them of false and rather heinous misdeeds, at which point it became apparent that he's stopped taking his antipsychotic medications. In the months prior to this, he had become somewhat withdrawn and less socially interactive, but wanting to respect his privacy and his wishes, I and the other roommates had let him be after regularly checking in to make sure he was doing okay. However, the current state of affairs has led the roommate he got into an argument with / accused feeling anxious and unsafe in the home, and temporarily staying with family in the East Bay, rather than sharing the home with him. Last night, I sat down with him and tried to gently encourage him to see a medical professional or go to the hospital for treatment, but he refused; indeed, he seemed like he was unable to entertain the notion due to his delusions: he perceived himself as omniscient, omnipotent, the reincarnation of Christ, etc. Needless to say, this was particularly upsetting to myself, seeing him in such a state, and I called the police to see if they could escort or take him to get help. When they arrived however, they interviewed him, and determined he was not an immediate threat to himself, or the rest of us in the house as he was not acting physically violent, nor had he made explicit threats on our lives, or to do harm to us. They asked if he was taking any medication, and he replied no; he believed that the medication would sever his connection to the aspects of god / the divine, and that modern medicine did not respect or understand his relationship to those things. He has a sister who I am trying to reach out to for help and guidance, but she is laid out with COVID at present, and unable to respond as quickly as I'd like. My question is, what resources or means do I have to help or compel him to get psychiatric treatment? And failing that, what are my rights and responsibilities in seeing him moved from the house to somewhere else where his delusions don't harm or threaten myself or the other tenants?
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You do not have any power to force someone to undergo psychiatric treatment. When you say you are the master tenant, do you mean that you and only you are on the lease? And the other roommates are there as a result of agreements with you? In that case you would be able to evict your roommate. Are your roommates month-to-month tenants, or do you have a lease agreement with them?
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In California you can call 2-1-1 and explain to them what's happening with your roommate and ask if they have mobile crisis services which can come out to your apartment and evaluate your roommate and they can then determine if he needs to go to the hospital or not and they would be able to transport him there. https://www.211ca.org/
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[SF, California] My roommate has paranoid schizophrenia and is unwilling / unable to seek treatment on his own. His delusions have started to become quite problematic. I am the master tenant of our home; what can I do to help him get help and/or distance myself and my fellow roommates from him? Hello /r/legaladvice I am currently living in San Francisco with four other people in a rented home; I am the master tenant and am responsible for delivering the sum of all of our rents to our landlord. We have been living in our current residence for almost a year now; the anniversary of our move into this new home will be in January I'm struck with a rather frustrating issue; my roommate who I've been happy to share a home with for approx. two years now, has started to develop and show signs that his paranoid schizophrenia is intensifying and warped his perception of reality. He's previously been on medication for his condition, but I believe he has ceased following the onset of adverse side-effects. After a minor issue / argument about chores with another roommate, he began accusing them of false and rather heinous misdeeds, at which point it became apparent that he's stopped taking his antipsychotic medications. In the months prior to this, he had become somewhat withdrawn and less socially interactive, but wanting to respect his privacy and his wishes, I and the other roommates had let him be after regularly checking in to make sure he was doing okay. However, the current state of affairs has led the roommate he got into an argument with / accused feeling anxious and unsafe in the home, and temporarily staying with family in the East Bay, rather than sharing the home with him. Last night, I sat down with him and tried to gently encourage him to see a medical professional or go to the hospital for treatment, but he refused; indeed, he seemed like he was unable to entertain the notion due to his delusions: he perceived himself as omniscient, omnipotent, the reincarnation of Christ, etc. Needless to say, this was particularly upsetting to myself, seeing him in such a state, and I called the police to see if they could escort or take him to get help. When they arrived however, they interviewed him, and determined he was not an immediate threat to himself, or the rest of us in the house as he was not acting physically violent, nor had he made explicit threats on our lives, or to do harm to us. They asked if he was taking any medication, and he replied no; he believed that the medication would sever his connection to the aspects of god / the divine, and that modern medicine did not respect or understand his relationship to those things. He has a sister who I am trying to reach out to for help and guidance, but she is laid out with COVID at present, and unable to respond as quickly as I'd like. My question is, what resources or means do I have to help or compel him to get psychiatric treatment? And failing that, what are my rights and responsibilities in seeing him moved from the house to somewhere else where his delusions don't harm or threaten myself or the other tenants?
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This can be a very tricky situation. California does not compel medication (maybe under extreme circumstances? Even then I'm not sure). 5150 tries to get them stable if they have an acute and violent episode, but it's only for a few days and they're limited in what they can/will do. It's mostly useful for people that are going to come to their senses if their situation stabilizes. Mental health services from the city/county can try to have case workers and longer term strategies but it's difficult with someone that doesn't want meds. Police and the court system are of limited utility, mostly intervening only for violence. As for the tenant situation, my friends recently went through something similar (though not in SF). I don't know if the sublet changes anything though. In their case, their neighbor in a shared complex (common back yard, separate houses) went off the rails and got violent and destructive. He basically wrecked his house and made the common areas unsafe, plus stopped paying rent. Even in this case, it took lots of lawyer time, over a year, and a long restraining order process to get him to leave. SF likely has even stronger tenant rights rules. You will likely have great difficulty removing this person if they dig their heels in. Often landlords simply pay tenants to leave because the legal process is so expensive and uncertain. I wish I had better news and advice, but mental illness is a terrible thing with few good solutions. The law is pretty ill equipped to deal with it. I hope your friend can get back on his meds for everyone's sake. It's wonderful that you care and are trying to help, but please take care of yourself. A severely mentally ill person can easily take you down with them. You have a right to your own safety and mental health, don't sacrifice that.
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In California you can call 2-1-1 and explain to them what's happening with your roommate and ask if they have mobile crisis services which can come out to your apartment and evaluate your roommate and they can then determine if he needs to go to the hospital or not and they would be able to transport him there. https://www.211ca.org/
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[SF, California] My roommate has paranoid schizophrenia and is unwilling / unable to seek treatment on his own. His delusions have started to become quite problematic. I am the master tenant of our home; what can I do to help him get help and/or distance myself and my fellow roommates from him? Hello /r/legaladvice I am currently living in San Francisco with four other people in a rented home; I am the master tenant and am responsible for delivering the sum of all of our rents to our landlord. We have been living in our current residence for almost a year now; the anniversary of our move into this new home will be in January I'm struck with a rather frustrating issue; my roommate who I've been happy to share a home with for approx. two years now, has started to develop and show signs that his paranoid schizophrenia is intensifying and warped his perception of reality. He's previously been on medication for his condition, but I believe he has ceased following the onset of adverse side-effects. After a minor issue / argument about chores with another roommate, he began accusing them of false and rather heinous misdeeds, at which point it became apparent that he's stopped taking his antipsychotic medications. In the months prior to this, he had become somewhat withdrawn and less socially interactive, but wanting to respect his privacy and his wishes, I and the other roommates had let him be after regularly checking in to make sure he was doing okay. However, the current state of affairs has led the roommate he got into an argument with / accused feeling anxious and unsafe in the home, and temporarily staying with family in the East Bay, rather than sharing the home with him. Last night, I sat down with him and tried to gently encourage him to see a medical professional or go to the hospital for treatment, but he refused; indeed, he seemed like he was unable to entertain the notion due to his delusions: he perceived himself as omniscient, omnipotent, the reincarnation of Christ, etc. Needless to say, this was particularly upsetting to myself, seeing him in such a state, and I called the police to see if they could escort or take him to get help. When they arrived however, they interviewed him, and determined he was not an immediate threat to himself, or the rest of us in the house as he was not acting physically violent, nor had he made explicit threats on our lives, or to do harm to us. They asked if he was taking any medication, and he replied no; he believed that the medication would sever his connection to the aspects of god / the divine, and that modern medicine did not respect or understand his relationship to those things. He has a sister who I am trying to reach out to for help and guidance, but she is laid out with COVID at present, and unable to respond as quickly as I'd like. My question is, what resources or means do I have to help or compel him to get psychiatric treatment? And failing that, what are my rights and responsibilities in seeing him moved from the house to somewhere else where his delusions don't harm or threaten myself or the other tenants?
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A person suffering from paranoid schizophrenia is likely to go off medication at times in their lives due to unpleasant side effects and limited or changing efficacy of medications over time. I’m very sorry for your friends struggles with his mental health. You are a good friend for trying to help him. Unfortunately he needs to be on his meds or he will struggle mightily and will likely not be able to maintain housing with you. That is precisely why so many folks who have such a serious mental illness end up homeless. Sometimes being in crisis can cause a person to then seek treatment and to have better insight into their illness. But lack of insight or recognition of their illness is one of the most debilitating parts.
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Try calling adult protective services. Although they might not have power to do anything, they will CERTAINLY know what can be done in this situation and what resources are avaliable
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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I was social worker for the state for 4 years in AZ and only left this year. Leaving a child in the car unattended would absolutely result in a CPS/DCS/DHS /whatever acronym your state uses investigation. If they found that you knew this occurred and did not take protective action, you could be involved with them sooner than you think. I’m not trying to scare you, I’m trying to warn you that this is extremely serious. The temperature is much higher in AZ, but it is still August. Children die from being the car for too long and it’s a weekly occurrence. There are many, many investigations opened because of this. “It was just a minute,” or “I saw him the whole time,” is not going to fly with a family court judge. You need to call your local child protective services hotline. If it happens again and your ex is caught, it will not go well. I see your husband spends winters in AZ. If he is there now, call SOS-CHILD. Edit: Colorado’s hotline number is 844-CO-4-Kids. 330am edit: Did not realize this post was in the legal advice sub, I’m just lurker. Obligatory I am not a lawyer. This is only one point of view, and I know what would happen on my end once we received a report like this. Edit: I’m adding this from my post further down because it is really important for people to know and government (policy) makes it difficult to understand. Family law does not involve a jury, it’s an entirely different standard and the judge makes the decision on whether or not DCS remains involved with a family. You are not innocent until proven guilty, it’s by a preponderance of the evidence. No one is going to take your word for anything. If that sounds scary, that’s because it is. No one wants child services involved and I hate to advocate for the system because it is super fucked and problematic (why I quit), but if the kid is in imminent and immediate danger (like maybe dying in a hot car) something has to give. All of that to say this is based on my admittedly biased experience in a field that has different laws in every state. Frequently I’d end up asking myself if putting the kid in foster care is really better than home, but the law really doesn’t give a shit about my feelings on the matter. AZ really advocates for in-home services, meaning the children are allowed to stay in the home and are not removed (highly dependent on several factors), which I guess is better than nothing. Also social workers do not get paid by how many children go into care how does that even make sense, it’s a burden on the tax payer (and we pay taxes).
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You said it’s “his month.” Is this court ordered? I feel like you could definitely take him to court and get a different custody agreement if you wanted to or even charge him with child endangerment if you wanted to go that route. I don’t feel like there’s really a justification for leaving a kid in a car these days. It’s common knowledge you shouldn’t do that.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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I would definitely contact a family lawyer *first*, before going to the police or CPS. However, you will want to ask that lawyer up front when you should call the police and what you should say - or better yet, if they can be present when you talk to the police. The reality is, calling the cops and/or CPS on the other parent still puts you at risk, and you want to protect yourself. Definitely start working on that custody order, and this is worthy of an interim custody order. A custody order can be more than who gets the child when, it can also explicitly order who can watch the child, what day care arrangements are required, etc. For example, his mom's judgement seriously should be questioned by the court that she didn't turn him in and that she thought it was OK. I had a friend who left their child in the car accidentally and the child overheated and passed away. It does not take long to happen, and it is frighteningly easy to get distracted, forget, and come back to a dead child. Even if there are mitigating circumstances (parked in the shade, relatively cool day, left car on with A/C running), small children are not good at shedding heat and cannot escape the car, leaving them at huge risk from the slightest change in circumstances (A/C dies, no longer in the shade, day warms up).
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You said it’s “his month.” Is this court ordered? I feel like you could definitely take him to court and get a different custody agreement if you wanted to or even charge him with child endangerment if you wanted to go that route. I don’t feel like there’s really a justification for leaving a kid in a car these days. It’s common knowledge you shouldn’t do that.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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On a completely side note, get a parenting plan in place. A 2.5 year old should not be spending an entire month with a parent. They need more stability & a primary caregiver.
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A few things actually cause me to worry about your son's situation. First of all, in Oregon, you cannot leave a kid that is unable to get out of their car seat themselves in a car alone for any amount of time at all. Second of all, a month on month off schedule for a 2.5 year old can be SO DAMAGING to his development (I'm a mental health professional intern... I'm not just talking from nowhere)!!! A 2.5 year old needs consistency and to be with their primary caregiver most of the time. Oregon rules even say that children under 4 should spend no more than two or three nights away from their primary caregiver at a time. So much so that my ex wanted to go for week on week off with the kids (2 and 3 at the time) and Oregon voiced their disapproval.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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Listen to me, if you know about behaviors like this and you don't report him, you can also be held responsible for this abuse. Make a report even though you only know of it via what she said, get an attorney, and get something set out via the courts to protect your child. A month on and a month off is not the best schedule for your kid, and with actions like that you need to be filing for sole custody with supervised visitation to protect your child. Get an attorney. Make the report so you can hopefully gain immediate possession of your kid. If they don't remove the kid to your custody until things are settled via the courts and you know he has left the kid with a care taker while he goes to work, go get your kid. Either one of you without an official custody order in place can take and withhold the child from the other so be aware that he can also take the kid back if you leave him with a care taker. This is why you get things set via the courts immediately with children. At the very least you need to file for emergency temporary custody until the courts can rule officially and more permanently. I am not a lawyer but I'm involved in the social work system.
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On a completely side note, get a parenting plan in place. A 2.5 year old should not be spending an entire month with a parent. They need more stability & a primary caregiver.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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On a completely side note, get a parenting plan in place. A 2.5 year old should not be spending an entire month with a parent. They need more stability & a primary caregiver.
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You need to get a court order. You do this by filing a petition to determine parental rights with the court. That will make your shared parenting mandatory, require child support as appropriate, and give you teeth to enforce your rights. As far as leaving the child in a car, you really should see a family law attorney right now. That is dangerous and being able to see a child as they die really is no protection at all. It sounds like ex doesn't understand the risk and could obviously do it again. You may be able to get full temporary custody while the case moves through the court based on that.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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On a completely side note, get a parenting plan in place. A 2.5 year old should not be spending an entire month with a parent. They need more stability & a primary caregiver.
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If he does this again, call the police. That is called child endangerment. The inside of a car can reach over 120°F in almost no time, especially if he is working inside a busy convenience store; his perception of time will be way off. Edit: just found this https://www.actionnews5.com/2019/06/26/breakdown-why-heat-inside-car-can-be-dangerous/ https://goodcalculators.com/inside-car-temperature-calculator/
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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Call CPS yesterday. If you do not the court will ask you why you did not. Think about it like this: would you rather your kid be in foster care while they figure out how to get you full or more custody, or be dead? Get a lawyer ASAP.
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On a completely side note, get a parenting plan in place. A 2.5 year old should not be spending an entire month with a parent. They need more stability & a primary caregiver.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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On a completely side note, get a parenting plan in place. A 2.5 year old should not be spending an entire month with a parent. They need more stability & a primary caregiver.
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I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuwzuv
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Listen to me, if you know about behaviors like this and you don't report him, you can also be held responsible for this abuse. Make a report even though you only know of it via what she said, get an attorney, and get something set out via the courts to protect your child. A month on and a month off is not the best schedule for your kid, and with actions like that you need to be filing for sole custody with supervised visitation to protect your child. Get an attorney. Make the report so you can hopefully gain immediate possession of your kid. If they don't remove the kid to your custody until things are settled via the courts and you know he has left the kid with a care taker while he goes to work, go get your kid. Either one of you without an official custody order in place can take and withhold the child from the other so be aware that he can also take the kid back if you leave him with a care taker. This is why you get things set via the courts immediately with children. At the very least you need to file for emergency temporary custody until the courts can rule officially and more permanently. I am not a lawyer but I'm involved in the social work system.
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A few things actually cause me to worry about your son's situation. First of all, in Oregon, you cannot leave a kid that is unable to get out of their car seat themselves in a car alone for any amount of time at all. Second of all, a month on month off schedule for a 2.5 year old can be SO DAMAGING to his development (I'm a mental health professional intern... I'm not just talking from nowhere)!!! A 2.5 year old needs consistency and to be with their primary caregiver most of the time. Oregon rules even say that children under 4 should spend no more than two or three nights away from their primary caregiver at a time. So much so that my ex wanted to go for week on week off with the kids (2 and 3 at the time) and Oregon voiced their disapproval.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuwzuv
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You need to get a court order. You do this by filing a petition to determine parental rights with the court. That will make your shared parenting mandatory, require child support as appropriate, and give you teeth to enforce your rights. As far as leaving the child in a car, you really should see a family law attorney right now. That is dangerous and being able to see a child as they die really is no protection at all. It sounds like ex doesn't understand the risk and could obviously do it again. You may be able to get full temporary custody while the case moves through the court based on that.
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A few things actually cause me to worry about your son's situation. First of all, in Oregon, you cannot leave a kid that is unable to get out of their car seat themselves in a car alone for any amount of time at all. Second of all, a month on month off schedule for a 2.5 year old can be SO DAMAGING to his development (I'm a mental health professional intern... I'm not just talking from nowhere)!!! A 2.5 year old needs consistency and to be with their primary caregiver most of the time. Oregon rules even say that children under 4 should spend no more than two or three nights away from their primary caregiver at a time. So much so that my ex wanted to go for week on week off with the kids (2 and 3 at the time) and Oregon voiced their disapproval.
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wliugl
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuwzuv
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ijutnqx
| 1,660,226,754 | 1,660,225,308 | 40 | 10 |
A few things actually cause me to worry about your son's situation. First of all, in Oregon, you cannot leave a kid that is unable to get out of their car seat themselves in a car alone for any amount of time at all. Second of all, a month on month off schedule for a 2.5 year old can be SO DAMAGING to his development (I'm a mental health professional intern... I'm not just talking from nowhere)!!! A 2.5 year old needs consistency and to be with their primary caregiver most of the time. Oregon rules even say that children under 4 should spend no more than two or three nights away from their primary caregiver at a time. So much so that my ex wanted to go for week on week off with the kids (2 and 3 at the time) and Oregon voiced their disapproval.
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If he does this again, call the police. That is called child endangerment. The inside of a car can reach over 120°F in almost no time, especially if he is working inside a busy convenience store; his perception of time will be way off. Edit: just found this https://www.actionnews5.com/2019/06/26/breakdown-why-heat-inside-car-can-be-dangerous/ https://goodcalculators.com/inside-car-temperature-calculator/
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wliugl
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuwzuv
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ijuqzo3
| 1,660,226,754 | 1,660,224,104 | 40 | 4 |
A few things actually cause me to worry about your son's situation. First of all, in Oregon, you cannot leave a kid that is unable to get out of their car seat themselves in a car alone for any amount of time at all. Second of all, a month on month off schedule for a 2.5 year old can be SO DAMAGING to his development (I'm a mental health professional intern... I'm not just talking from nowhere)!!! A 2.5 year old needs consistency and to be with their primary caregiver most of the time. Oregon rules even say that children under 4 should spend no more than two or three nights away from their primary caregiver at a time. So much so that my ex wanted to go for week on week off with the kids (2 and 3 at the time) and Oregon voiced their disapproval.
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I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijur6rv
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ijuqzo3
| 1,660,224,196 | 1,660,224,104 | 21 | 4 |
Listen to me, if you know about behaviors like this and you don't report him, you can also be held responsible for this abuse. Make a report even though you only know of it via what she said, get an attorney, and get something set out via the courts to protect your child. A month on and a month off is not the best schedule for your kid, and with actions like that you need to be filing for sole custody with supervised visitation to protect your child. Get an attorney. Make the report so you can hopefully gain immediate possession of your kid. If they don't remove the kid to your custody until things are settled via the courts and you know he has left the kid with a care taker while he goes to work, go get your kid. Either one of you without an official custody order in place can take and withhold the child from the other so be aware that he can also take the kid back if you leave him with a care taker. This is why you get things set via the courts immediately with children. At the very least you need to file for emergency temporary custody until the courts can rule officially and more permanently. I am not a lawyer but I'm involved in the social work system.
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I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuty39
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ijvljun
| 1,660,225,437 | 1,660,236,286 | 12 | 15 |
You need to get a court order. You do this by filing a petition to determine parental rights with the court. That will make your shared parenting mandatory, require child support as appropriate, and give you teeth to enforce your rights. As far as leaving the child in a car, you really should see a family law attorney right now. That is dangerous and being able to see a child as they die really is no protection at all. It sounds like ex doesn't understand the risk and could obviously do it again. You may be able to get full temporary custody while the case moves through the court based on that.
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Here in colorado is ILLEGAL to leave your child in the car while unattended. You need some proof of this and then call his local CPS. Do it before he’s not okay.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijutnqx
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ijvljun
| 1,660,225,308 | 1,660,236,286 | 10 | 15 |
If he does this again, call the police. That is called child endangerment. The inside of a car can reach over 120°F in almost no time, especially if he is working inside a busy convenience store; his perception of time will be way off. Edit: just found this https://www.actionnews5.com/2019/06/26/breakdown-why-heat-inside-car-can-be-dangerous/ https://goodcalculators.com/inside-car-temperature-calculator/
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Here in colorado is ILLEGAL to leave your child in the car while unattended. You need some proof of this and then call his local CPS. Do it before he’s not okay.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijvljun
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ijuxs8w
| 1,660,236,286 | 1,660,227,082 | 15 | 8 |
Here in colorado is ILLEGAL to leave your child in the car while unattended. You need some proof of this and then call his local CPS. Do it before he’s not okay.
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Call CPS yesterday. If you do not the court will ask you why you did not. Think about it like this: would you rather your kid be in foster care while they figure out how to get you full or more custody, or be dead? Get a lawyer ASAP.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijvljun
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ijv7o2h
| 1,660,236,286 | 1,660,231,051 | 15 | 6 |
Here in colorado is ILLEGAL to leave your child in the car while unattended. You need some proof of this and then call his local CPS. Do it before he’s not okay.
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Your mom witnessed your child left in his truck? Your mom spoke to him and he admitted to leaving the child in his truck while working? Does your mom know how long he was left in the truck? If it's simply your mom spoke to one of his friends who said this, it's not admissible evidence (hearsay). But as others have mentioned, until you file with the family court, there isn't an easy remedy to modify child custody or place restrictions on father's time with child.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijvljun
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ijuqzo3
| 1,660,236,286 | 1,660,224,104 | 15 | 4 |
Here in colorado is ILLEGAL to leave your child in the car while unattended. You need some proof of this and then call his local CPS. Do it before he’s not okay.
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I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijvljun
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ijv4x1p
| 1,660,236,286 | 1,660,229,963 | 15 | 5 |
Here in colorado is ILLEGAL to leave your child in the car while unattended. You need some proof of this and then call his local CPS. Do it before he’s not okay.
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This is unacceptable. If you can talk to him about it, I would start there. If he's not receptive, I'd take that as a sign he'll do it again and I'd start documenting the incident, even if you don't want to go the legal route, yet.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuty39
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ijuzrmi
| 1,660,225,437 | 1,660,227,897 | 12 | 15 |
You need to get a court order. You do this by filing a petition to determine parental rights with the court. That will make your shared parenting mandatory, require child support as appropriate, and give you teeth to enforce your rights. As far as leaving the child in a car, you really should see a family law attorney right now. That is dangerous and being able to see a child as they die really is no protection at all. It sounds like ex doesn't understand the risk and could obviously do it again. You may be able to get full temporary custody while the case moves through the court based on that.
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Not a lawyer -In some states it's illegal to leave any child under a certain age in a vehicle unattended, whether or not the vehicle is running.(2.5 years would definitely apply.)I don't know about Arizona, but as a foster parent/teacher in Illinois I've completed required trainings about this.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuzrmi
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ijutnqx
| 1,660,227,897 | 1,660,225,308 | 15 | 10 |
Not a lawyer -In some states it's illegal to leave any child under a certain age in a vehicle unattended, whether or not the vehicle is running.(2.5 years would definitely apply.)I don't know about Arizona, but as a foster parent/teacher in Illinois I've completed required trainings about this.
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If he does this again, call the police. That is called child endangerment. The inside of a car can reach over 120°F in almost no time, especially if he is working inside a busy convenience store; his perception of time will be way off. Edit: just found this https://www.actionnews5.com/2019/06/26/breakdown-why-heat-inside-car-can-be-dangerous/ https://goodcalculators.com/inside-car-temperature-calculator/
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuzrmi
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ijuxs8w
| 1,660,227,897 | 1,660,227,082 | 15 | 8 |
Not a lawyer -In some states it's illegal to leave any child under a certain age in a vehicle unattended, whether or not the vehicle is running.(2.5 years would definitely apply.)I don't know about Arizona, but as a foster parent/teacher in Illinois I've completed required trainings about this.
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Call CPS yesterday. If you do not the court will ask you why you did not. Think about it like this: would you rather your kid be in foster care while they figure out how to get you full or more custody, or be dead? Get a lawyer ASAP.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuzrmi
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ijuqzo3
| 1,660,227,897 | 1,660,224,104 | 15 | 4 |
Not a lawyer -In some states it's illegal to leave any child under a certain age in a vehicle unattended, whether or not the vehicle is running.(2.5 years would definitely apply.)I don't know about Arizona, but as a foster parent/teacher in Illinois I've completed required trainings about this.
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I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuty39
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ijutnqx
| 1,660,225,437 | 1,660,225,308 | 12 | 10 |
You need to get a court order. You do this by filing a petition to determine parental rights with the court. That will make your shared parenting mandatory, require child support as appropriate, and give you teeth to enforce your rights. As far as leaving the child in a car, you really should see a family law attorney right now. That is dangerous and being able to see a child as they die really is no protection at all. It sounds like ex doesn't understand the risk and could obviously do it again. You may be able to get full temporary custody while the case moves through the court based on that.
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If he does this again, call the police. That is called child endangerment. The inside of a car can reach over 120°F in almost no time, especially if he is working inside a busy convenience store; his perception of time will be way off. Edit: just found this https://www.actionnews5.com/2019/06/26/breakdown-why-heat-inside-car-can-be-dangerous/ https://goodcalculators.com/inside-car-temperature-calculator/
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuqzo3
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ijuty39
| 1,660,224,104 | 1,660,225,437 | 4 | 12 |
I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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You need to get a court order. You do this by filing a petition to determine parental rights with the court. That will make your shared parenting mandatory, require child support as appropriate, and give you teeth to enforce your rights. As far as leaving the child in a car, you really should see a family law attorney right now. That is dangerous and being able to see a child as they die really is no protection at all. It sounds like ex doesn't understand the risk and could obviously do it again. You may be able to get full temporary custody while the case moves through the court based on that.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuqzo3
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ijutnqx
| 1,660,224,104 | 1,660,225,308 | 4 | 10 |
I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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If he does this again, call the police. That is called child endangerment. The inside of a car can reach over 120°F in almost no time, especially if he is working inside a busy convenience store; his perception of time will be way off. Edit: just found this https://www.actionnews5.com/2019/06/26/breakdown-why-heat-inside-car-can-be-dangerous/ https://goodcalculators.com/inside-car-temperature-calculator/
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuqzo3
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ijuxs8w
| 1,660,224,104 | 1,660,227,082 | 4 | 8 |
I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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Call CPS yesterday. If you do not the court will ask you why you did not. Think about it like this: would you rather your kid be in foster care while they figure out how to get you full or more custody, or be dead? Get a lawyer ASAP.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijuqzo3
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ijv7o2h
| 1,660,224,104 | 1,660,231,051 | 4 | 6 |
I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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Your mom witnessed your child left in his truck? Your mom spoke to him and he admitted to leaving the child in his truck while working? Does your mom know how long he was left in the truck? If it's simply your mom spoke to one of his friends who said this, it's not admissible evidence (hearsay). But as others have mentioned, until you file with the family court, there isn't an easy remedy to modify child custody or place restrictions on father's time with child.
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wliugl
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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ijv4x1p
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ijv7o2h
| 1,660,229,963 | 1,660,231,051 | 5 | 6 |
This is unacceptable. If you can talk to him about it, I would start there. If he's not receptive, I'd take that as a sign he'll do it again and I'd start documenting the incident, even if you don't want to go the legal route, yet.
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Your mom witnessed your child left in his truck? Your mom spoke to him and he admitted to leaving the child in his truck while working? Does your mom know how long he was left in the truck? If it's simply your mom spoke to one of his friends who said this, it's not admissible evidence (hearsay). But as others have mentioned, until you file with the family court, there isn't an easy remedy to modify child custody or place restrictions on father's time with child.
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I just found out my Ex left our toddler in his truck while he was working. Our son is fine thank god. My mother (who is still close to my ex) told me with pride 🙄 that he is such a good worker because one of his friends needed help at their store running the cash register so he went to help and instead of finding a baby sitter he left our son asleep in his car seat in the truck and parked the truck where he could look out the window to see it. It is my ex’s month with our 2.5 year old. We are both based in Colorado but in different towns. We have never gone to court for any thing, but this has me stressed out of my mind. Is there anything I can do?
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This is unacceptable. If you can talk to him about it, I would start there. If he's not receptive, I'd take that as a sign he'll do it again and I'd start documenting the incident, even if you don't want to go the legal route, yet.
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I know someone who’s 8 year old was literally taken by CPS and she had to go to court because she left her in the car while she went inside just to pay for something, this is in Georgia but I’m guessing there are similar laws in other states. I am not a lawyer but this is definitely something to be concerned about.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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You are also under no obligation to tell him where you plan to deliver or inform him when you are in any stage of labor.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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No. He can not. When you register, and then once you’re admitted tell the nursing staff and the doctor that you do not want him in the delivery room. They will take care of it from there.
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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No he cannot. The medical staff will certainly be responsive to your wishes if you don't want someone present. No lawyer will take that case, he has no leg to stand on here.
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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Most hospitals let you register as private. This means they won’t tell anyone you are there, or give any updates, room info, etc. If possible, don’t tell him when or which hospital you go to until you are ready to see him. If you already have a hospital picked out, let them know now that you do not want him there. Tell your doctors and nurses as soon as you arrive, they will help you.
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wpw8aw
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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This is an insane threat. Absolutely no one is entitled to watch you give birth.
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wpw8aw
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He can’t try all he wants but he can’t force his way in. You can be registered as “unknown” so no one can call and ask if you’re there. If he comes to say “I’m here for so and so” they will say they don’t have anyone by that name. Hospitals are good at protecting you when it comes to that
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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wpw8aw
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,663,198 | 1,660,665,840 | 147 | 7,390 |
Tell the nurse she will handle it. If he’s there whisper it to the nurse
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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wpw8aw
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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Nope, the medical staff are very good at getting rid of unwanted guests.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikj8lvj
| 1,660,665,840 | 1,660,665,439 | 7,390 | 74 |
He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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No. No one has a right to view your medical procedure at all
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,665,012 | 1,660,665,840 | 57 | 7,390 |
Legally, he can’t force his way. If he’s a bit crazy, He could actually force his way in, but security/police can also escort him out. The hospital will respect your wishes and not let him back if you tell them.
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He absolutely cannot and he’s full of shit. The hospital and your doctor will have your back 100%, and send security (and police if needed) to escort him away if he tries to go in. Even if he was your *husband* you could demand he wait outside and they would block him. Maternity nurses are very used to this and they will not take any shit. They are hardcore. In addition, many maternity wards are very secure with double locking doors and will not allow anyone in that’s not on your “guest list” until you say it’s OK. Giving birth is a *medical procedure* and you have a right to privacy during your *medical procedure.*
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,662,564 | 1,660,661,507 | 1,788 | 1,361 |
You are also under no obligation to tell him where you plan to deliver or inform him when you are in any stage of labor.
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No. He can not. When you register, and then once you’re admitted tell the nursing staff and the doctor that you do not want him in the delivery room. They will take care of it from there.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikj0tmk
| 1,660,661,514 | 1,660,662,564 | 478 | 1,788 |
No he cannot. The medical staff will certainly be responsive to your wishes if you don't want someone present. No lawyer will take that case, he has no leg to stand on here.
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You are also under no obligation to tell him where you plan to deliver or inform him when you are in any stage of labor.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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No. He can not. When you register, and then once you’re admitted tell the nursing staff and the doctor that you do not want him in the delivery room. They will take care of it from there.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikjd12i
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No he cannot. The medical staff will certainly be responsive to your wishes if you don't want someone present. No lawyer will take that case, he has no leg to stand on here.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikjd12i
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Most hospitals let you register as private. This means they won’t tell anyone you are there, or give any updates, room info, etc. If possible, don’t tell him when or which hospital you go to until you are ready to see him. If you already have a hospital picked out, let them know now that you do not want him there. Tell your doctors and nurses as soon as you arrive, they will help you.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikjd12i
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This is an insane threat. Absolutely no one is entitled to watch you give birth.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He can’t try all he wants but he can’t force his way in. You can be registered as “unknown” so no one can call and ask if you’re there. If he comes to say “I’m here for so and so” they will say they don’t have anyone by that name. Hospitals are good at protecting you when it comes to that
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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wpw8aw
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,667,087 | 1,660,663,198 | 1,422 | 147 |
I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Tell the nurse she will handle it. If he’s there whisper it to the nurse
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Also, do not let him have a bracelet for the baby. Then he might have more access than you want. Tell the nurses not to give him one, right off.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikjd12i
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Nope, the medical staff are very good at getting rid of unwanted guests.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikj8lvj
| 1,660,667,087 | 1,660,665,439 | 1,422 | 74 |
I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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No. No one has a right to view your medical procedure at all
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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ikjapwx
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Absolutely not. This is your medical procedure. He has no custody rights in Ohio until the court declares it so unless you are married. Which depending on how toxic he is, you may want to make him take the extra steps. First he needs to prove the kid exists, which they don’t until you get his birth certificate and social. Then he’ll need to prove paternity to get a court order. He can’t come to the hospital to see the baby unless you let him either. It’d be funny for him to try, he won’t even make it to the labor and delivery floor if you don’t give him a room number. I’m sure the front desk has no problem calling the police either. At the very most, they could maybe (strong maybe) let him see the baby in a separate room IF he had a court order. However, nobody can make you allow him in the room before during or after you give birth. Give baby your last name. You can’t change it after the fact.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Legally, he can’t force his way. If he’s a bit crazy, He could actually force his way in, but security/police can also escort him out. The hospital will respect your wishes and not let him back if you tell them.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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As others have said, you have complete control over who is present during your medical procedures. Notify the hospital that you do not want any guests present during your labour or afterward. Maternity departments deal with this regularly. You and your child are entitled to privacy, and the hospital will be able to tell you what protective measures they can take on your behalf. Don't share information where you intend to deliver. You might want to check your phone's location sharing is turned off. Don't post to social media and hide that information from friends or family who might tell him, if that makes you feel more secure. Has he been confrontational like this before? If so, I'm sorry you're going through this. You can always contact the state bar association for a referral to a family lawyer and have a consultation ahead of time (or after the baby is born) regarding your legal rights around the baby, and his.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He can hire all the lawyers he wants. If you, the patient, don't want him there, he won't be allowed in.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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He can’t force his way in if he doesn’t know you’re in labor. Simply do not tell him when you go into labor. Tell your nurse that you do not want anyone to know you are a patient, or even any visitors if you wish. You can wait until you are home and surrounded by family/supportive friends to invite him to meet the child.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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That is absolutely insane. The hospital will honor your privacy. Just inform them.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He can’t force himself anywhere in the hospital. Their main concern will be your health and comfort and the baby’s. If you tell them you don’t want him there they will make sure he’s not there. If he doesn’t want to go, they call the cops.
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I just had a baby recently and when I first got to the hospital they had me go into the room with just a nurse while my husband and mom waited in the lobby so I could "get ready" and the very first thing the nurse asked me was did I feel safe. So even if he forces himself to the waiting room with you the nurses will give you an opportunity to speak without him present and they will take care of everything else. You could even tell the nurses you don't want him staying all day in the recovery room and they will help remove him after a period of time. As someone else said, labor and delivery nurses are bad ass and they take no one's bs. They will 100% have your back.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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No he cannot. The medical staff will certainly be responsive to your wishes if you don't want someone present. No lawyer will take that case, he has no leg to stand on here.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Most hospitals let you register as private. This means they won’t tell anyone you are there, or give any updates, room info, etc. If possible, don’t tell him when or which hospital you go to until you are ready to see him. If you already have a hospital picked out, let them know now that you do not want him there. Tell your doctors and nurses as soon as you arrive, they will help you.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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This is an insane threat. Absolutely no one is entitled to watch you give birth.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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With that level of entitlement, I totally understand why you don't want him there. L&D wards are locked down. Unless you want him there, he's not allowed. You can also register as private so if he thinks you're in labor and calls around, he won't be able to find you.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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No, as all others have said the man has no leg to stand on. However, this sounds like a major red flag to me. Are you two in a relationship? I hope you will be safe after you deliver. Please make sure you are with someone for support and I would suggest not being alone with him.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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He can’t try all he wants but he can’t force his way in. You can be registered as “unknown” so no one can call and ask if you’re there. If he comes to say “I’m here for so and so” they will say they don’t have anyone by that name. Hospitals are good at protecting you when it comes to that
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Tell the nurse she will handle it. If he’s there whisper it to the nurse
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Also, do not let him have a bracelet for the baby. Then he might have more access than you want. Tell the nurses not to give him one, right off.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Nope, the medical staff are very good at getting rid of unwanted guests.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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No. No one has a right to view your medical procedure at all
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Absolutely not. This is your medical procedure. He has no custody rights in Ohio until the court declares it so unless you are married. Which depending on how toxic he is, you may want to make him take the extra steps. First he needs to prove the kid exists, which they don’t until you get his birth certificate and social. Then he’ll need to prove paternity to get a court order. He can’t come to the hospital to see the baby unless you let him either. It’d be funny for him to try, he won’t even make it to the labor and delivery floor if you don’t give him a room number. I’m sure the front desk has no problem calling the police either. At the very most, they could maybe (strong maybe) let him see the baby in a separate room IF he had a court order. However, nobody can make you allow him in the room before during or after you give birth. Give baby your last name. You can’t change it after the fact.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Legally, he can’t force his way. If he’s a bit crazy, He could actually force his way in, but security/police can also escort him out. The hospital will respect your wishes and not let him back if you tell them.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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As others have said, you have complete control over who is present during your medical procedures. Notify the hospital that you do not want any guests present during your labour or afterward. Maternity departments deal with this regularly. You and your child are entitled to privacy, and the hospital will be able to tell you what protective measures they can take on your behalf. Don't share information where you intend to deliver. You might want to check your phone's location sharing is turned off. Don't post to social media and hide that information from friends or family who might tell him, if that makes you feel more secure. Has he been confrontational like this before? If so, I'm sorry you're going through this. You can always contact the state bar association for a referral to a family lawyer and have a consultation ahead of time (or after the baby is born) regarding your legal rights around the baby, and his.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Let him get a lawyer and spend the money to try and get in the room. No chance.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Absolutely not. Tell the nurses you don’t want him in there. They will make sure he doesn’t. My parents just randomly showed up as I was pushing and I remember the nurse asking me what I wanted to do and I told them they needed to go in the waiting room. The nurses were so good at telling them that they thought it was the hospital’s policy 😉 because they were complaining about it afterwards how they were sent home lol. He also cannot force you to make him sign the birth certificate unless you two are/were married and that can get tricky and might require an attorney’s advice. In most states you have sole, full custody until the bio father has had a DNA test and has filed for visitation/custody with the courts. I raised my infant son from 3 months because his father was an abusive alcoholic and there was no other option. The best way to deal with one of these is facilitate supervised visitation but kind of ignore all the threats until they file. Them filing is when you lawyer up. Just don’t prevent them from visitation unless that’s the advice an attorney has given you. Courts don’t play around with parents who prevent visitation. Keep a log of all your interactions, text messages, etc… Listen to your parental instincts, and the labor and delivery room is not the place to feel nothing short of safe. I wish you the very best!
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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He can hire all the lawyers he wants. If you, the patient, don't want him there, he won't be allowed in.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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He can’t force his way in if he doesn’t know you’re in labor. Simply do not tell him when you go into labor. Tell your nurse that you do not want anyone to know you are a patient, or even any visitors if you wish. You can wait until you are home and surrounded by family/supportive friends to invite him to meet the child.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,667,931 | 1,660,668,405 | 22 | 960 |
Let him try to get a lawyer. No lawyer is going to take that case.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,668,405 | 1,660,667,973 | 960 | 19 |
Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Alert your nurses that you do not want him there and they will comply to your request.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,667,078 | 1,660,668,405 | 18 | 960 |
That is absolutely insane. The hospital will honor your privacy. Just inform them.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Like everyone has said, he’s full of shit. I wanted to add to tell your nursing staff and registration that you’d like to be listed as private once you’re admitted. This means that he won’t be able to get your room number from a random front desk person and just show up.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,667,837 | 1,660,668,405 | 18 | 960 |
Talk to the hospital, tell them who all you want in the delivery room and who is not to be there. The last thing that they will want is for you to be stressed out as that will make it harder and endanger not only you but the child. Make it clear to the staff there, and you can do it ahead of time where they have it on file.
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Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,668,405 | 1,660,666,904 | 960 | 14 |
Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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He can’t force himself anywhere in the hospital. Their main concern will be your health and comfort and the baby’s. If you tell them you don’t want him there they will make sure he’s not there. If he doesn’t want to go, they call the cops.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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| 1,660,668,405 | 1,660,667,504 | 960 | 10 |
Married father here: the nurses were *very* clear with me that, even as her legal husband, father of the kid being born, with a happy marriage and no red flags at all, one word from her and I was out the door. Hospitals do *not* fuck around with that shit either. The maternity ward had lockdown procedures, drills, automatic magnetic locks, and security on speed dial. Incidents had happened in the past, and they did not want them repeated.
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He cannot do it . You have the right to tell the nurses not to let him in and they won’t . Regardless of what he says .
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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No one has the right to be in the room with you. It doesn’t matter what claims they might make. It’s no different than if you were having a surgical procedure. This is just a bullying tactic. Be clear with staff that you are being threatened and do not want anyone in that you haven’t expressly invited to support you.
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No he cannot. The medical staff will certainly be responsive to your wishes if you don't want someone present. No lawyer will take that case, he has no leg to stand on here.
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Can my baby daddy force his self into the delivery room? I don’t feel comfortable with him being back there while I’m naked and exposed. I told him he can come in after she’s out and I’m covered up. I live in Ohio but I’ll be delivering in Kentucky. He’s threaten to get a lawyer to try and force his self in.
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Most hospitals let you register as private. This means they won’t tell anyone you are there, or give any updates, room info, etc. If possible, don’t tell him when or which hospital you go to until you are ready to see him. If you already have a hospital picked out, let them know now that you do not want him there. Tell your doctors and nurses as soon as you arrive, they will help you.
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No one has the right to be in the room with you. It doesn’t matter what claims they might make. It’s no different than if you were having a surgical procedure. This is just a bullying tactic. Be clear with staff that you are being threatened and do not want anyone in that you haven’t expressly invited to support you.
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