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yacsuf
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I just got a letter in the mail saying we are losing our insurance.. is there anything we can do? For context I (20f) and my brother (17m) are both on Texas medicaid. We both have differing medical issues that require us to see specialists, and I myself take multiple medications daily. He will be receiving a foot reconstructive surgery in the next few months, which will be the first of atleast 2-3. We both have our plates full with doctors appointments, lab work, medications etc. To make it worse we got a letter in the mail today saying BOTH of our insurances have been examined and theyve determined we no longer qualify so our coverage will be suspended after the federal health crisis is over. We expected my coverage might be over soon due to my age (we werent exactly sure what the age limit was before I would need to find a new solution, but surely he has not aged out yet as he is a minor?). We dont know how theyve determined our situation has gotten better, if anything financially AND medically it has gotten worse. The bottom of the letter said we could acquire legal representation to appeal the decision or do it ourselves, but where do I even start? and how likely is it that im screwed even if I do try to appeal with or without legal help? What are my options if this doesnt go well for us? Would it help if I got a doctor to write a note explaining I will have seizures multiple times a month without this coverage? Im grasping at straws, because we really cant afford my medical costs and I dont wanna become a burden.
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itaj5ei
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Texas did not expand medicaid benefits under the ACA as many states did. This makes coverage very limited. If your seizures are considered a disability, but you work, there is a buy in option available that's way more affordable than regular market insurance. For your sibling, if their condition is also considered a disability, then they're still eligible but your parents have to apply or dispute the findings as they are a minor. Call first thing tomorrow morning and talk to a person. They're probably purging the coverages held over by the health emergency and that might mean some eligible people have to go thrpugh all the hoops again. According to their website, children with disabilities/medical need can be covered through age 20 if the parents income is low enough. See this site (link below) tonight to read about all of their options and requirements. Read about the buy in options as well. If your parents make a little above the limits for receiving it for free, or you do, then you can buy in and will simply need to reapply if the person you talk to on the phone can't help you change your coverage from free to buy in or extend it as is until you turn 21. Appealing the decision can be difficult and why having legal advice can help. You can call the Texas state bar association and ask for a referral for a consultation and explain your situation. For $35 bucks ish for a low cost consultation (that's what it is in my state), you might get some help with keywords and key phrases to use to help you maintain or get renewed coverages. As well as information that might be needed from your Dr to prove you need the coverage on specific forms. Also, if you are quite low income, but make some money, you might be surprised on how much of a tax credit you get to buy insurance on the marketplace when you don't have an employer offered option. Get a plan with a low deductible and once you've spent that much, all other care is covered for the year. Not ideal, but better than the alternative. You are not a burden for needing medical care. In my state, you'd just be covered. It's just where you are that's the complication. Read here about Texas medicaid rules: https://www.hhs.texas.gov/services/health/medicaid-chip/medicaid-chip-programs-services/programs-children-adults-disabilities
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We have to list that to let you know that you are typically not supposed to be eligible but due to the PHE we are sustaining your Medicaid. After anyone turns 19, we will stop your Medicaid as you have aged out of our program (unless you are a foster child.) There are typically local based programs to help you with insurance like the County Indigent department that works like Medicaid and is also managed by HHSC. We are not an expanded state, so your appeal will be denied when the PHE is not extended.
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yacsuf
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I just got a letter in the mail saying we are losing our insurance.. is there anything we can do? For context I (20f) and my brother (17m) are both on Texas medicaid. We both have differing medical issues that require us to see specialists, and I myself take multiple medications daily. He will be receiving a foot reconstructive surgery in the next few months, which will be the first of atleast 2-3. We both have our plates full with doctors appointments, lab work, medications etc. To make it worse we got a letter in the mail today saying BOTH of our insurances have been examined and theyve determined we no longer qualify so our coverage will be suspended after the federal health crisis is over. We expected my coverage might be over soon due to my age (we werent exactly sure what the age limit was before I would need to find a new solution, but surely he has not aged out yet as he is a minor?). We dont know how theyve determined our situation has gotten better, if anything financially AND medically it has gotten worse. The bottom of the letter said we could acquire legal representation to appeal the decision or do it ourselves, but where do I even start? and how likely is it that im screwed even if I do try to appeal with or without legal help? What are my options if this doesnt go well for us? Would it help if I got a doctor to write a note explaining I will have seizures multiple times a month without this coverage? Im grasping at straws, because we really cant afford my medical costs and I dont wanna become a burden.
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itauoxj
| 1,666,451,363 | 1,666,417,880 | 5 | 2 |
Texas did not expand under ACA. ARE you a legal Primary caretaker to your brother? If you have legal evidence of that you can be categorized under parent caretaker relative. Good luck.
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Under what circumstances did you qualify for Medicaid originally?
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yacsuf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
I just got a letter in the mail saying we are losing our insurance.. is there anything we can do? For context I (20f) and my brother (17m) are both on Texas medicaid. We both have differing medical issues that require us to see specialists, and I myself take multiple medications daily. He will be receiving a foot reconstructive surgery in the next few months, which will be the first of atleast 2-3. We both have our plates full with doctors appointments, lab work, medications etc. To make it worse we got a letter in the mail today saying BOTH of our insurances have been examined and theyve determined we no longer qualify so our coverage will be suspended after the federal health crisis is over. We expected my coverage might be over soon due to my age (we werent exactly sure what the age limit was before I would need to find a new solution, but surely he has not aged out yet as he is a minor?). We dont know how theyve determined our situation has gotten better, if anything financially AND medically it has gotten worse. The bottom of the letter said we could acquire legal representation to appeal the decision or do it ourselves, but where do I even start? and how likely is it that im screwed even if I do try to appeal with or without legal help? What are my options if this doesnt go well for us? Would it help if I got a doctor to write a note explaining I will have seizures multiple times a month without this coverage? Im grasping at straws, because we really cant afford my medical costs and I dont wanna become a burden.
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itdu3fg
| 1,666,468,748 | 1,666,475,771 | 3 | 4 |
Do you or your brother receive SSI or SSDI? If not, you should both apply. He will need his legally assigned adult (parent, legal guardian, case worker if in foster care, etc) to do so for him. In FL, SSDI comes with Medicare (plus Medicaid if your income qualifies) and SSI comes with Medicaid. Since SSDI/SSI are federal programs, I assume (but don't know for certain) that this is the case nationwide. I'm disabled with SSDI + SSI due to income. I get Medicare for free (due to my income), and Medicaid (free). I do not get my medications for free, because Medicare comes with a part D plan. However, I usually don't pay more than about $4. They didn't cover a colonoscopy prep recently, but I'm able to get the prior-auth retrospectively and they will reimburse me.
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Something you should know about ssdi. Almost everyone gets denied the first time around so don’t panic when it happens. At that point I strongly encourage you to get an attorney who specializes in ssdi denials. You should not have to pay up front. They’ll take care of the payment via the back pay you’ll receive from the time you applied. Hope this helps and good luck!
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yacsuf
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legaladvice_train
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I just got a letter in the mail saying we are losing our insurance.. is there anything we can do? For context I (20f) and my brother (17m) are both on Texas medicaid. We both have differing medical issues that require us to see specialists, and I myself take multiple medications daily. He will be receiving a foot reconstructive surgery in the next few months, which will be the first of atleast 2-3. We both have our plates full with doctors appointments, lab work, medications etc. To make it worse we got a letter in the mail today saying BOTH of our insurances have been examined and theyve determined we no longer qualify so our coverage will be suspended after the federal health crisis is over. We expected my coverage might be over soon due to my age (we werent exactly sure what the age limit was before I would need to find a new solution, but surely he has not aged out yet as he is a minor?). We dont know how theyve determined our situation has gotten better, if anything financially AND medically it has gotten worse. The bottom of the letter said we could acquire legal representation to appeal the decision or do it ourselves, but where do I even start? and how likely is it that im screwed even if I do try to appeal with or without legal help? What are my options if this doesnt go well for us? Would it help if I got a doctor to write a note explaining I will have seizures multiple times a month without this coverage? Im grasping at straws, because we really cant afford my medical costs and I dont wanna become a burden.
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itauoxj
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itdu3fg
| 1,666,417,880 | 1,666,475,771 | 2 | 4 |
Under what circumstances did you qualify for Medicaid originally?
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Something you should know about ssdi. Almost everyone gets denied the first time around so don’t panic when it happens. At that point I strongly encourage you to get an attorney who specializes in ssdi denials. You should not have to pay up front. They’ll take care of the payment via the back pay you’ll receive from the time you applied. Hope this helps and good luck!
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yacsuf
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legaladvice_train
| 0.95 |
I just got a letter in the mail saying we are losing our insurance.. is there anything we can do? For context I (20f) and my brother (17m) are both on Texas medicaid. We both have differing medical issues that require us to see specialists, and I myself take multiple medications daily. He will be receiving a foot reconstructive surgery in the next few months, which will be the first of atleast 2-3. We both have our plates full with doctors appointments, lab work, medications etc. To make it worse we got a letter in the mail today saying BOTH of our insurances have been examined and theyve determined we no longer qualify so our coverage will be suspended after the federal health crisis is over. We expected my coverage might be over soon due to my age (we werent exactly sure what the age limit was before I would need to find a new solution, but surely he has not aged out yet as he is a minor?). We dont know how theyve determined our situation has gotten better, if anything financially AND medically it has gotten worse. The bottom of the letter said we could acquire legal representation to appeal the decision or do it ourselves, but where do I even start? and how likely is it that im screwed even if I do try to appeal with or without legal help? What are my options if this doesnt go well for us? Would it help if I got a doctor to write a note explaining I will have seizures multiple times a month without this coverage? Im grasping at straws, because we really cant afford my medical costs and I dont wanna become a burden.
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itauoxj
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itddmcc
| 1,666,417,880 | 1,666,468,748 | 2 | 3 |
Under what circumstances did you qualify for Medicaid originally?
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Do you or your brother receive SSI or SSDI? If not, you should both apply. He will need his legally assigned adult (parent, legal guardian, case worker if in foster care, etc) to do so for him. In FL, SSDI comes with Medicare (plus Medicaid if your income qualifies) and SSI comes with Medicaid. Since SSDI/SSI are federal programs, I assume (but don't know for certain) that this is the case nationwide. I'm disabled with SSDI + SSI due to income. I get Medicare for free (due to my income), and Medicaid (free). I do not get my medications for free, because Medicare comes with a part D plan. However, I usually don't pay more than about $4. They didn't cover a colonoscopy prep recently, but I'm able to get the prior-auth retrospectively and they will reimburse me.
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Is it legal to ask an employee to sleep in the building for several days in a row but only pay them for four hours of labor? My work asked me to sleep overnight to feed some animals that live on the premises, I said I cannot do this, and asked if I'd be paid for all my hours there if I was able to. They said I'd only be paid during the time I was feeding the animals (which only takes an hour per day, so I'd sleep there for four nights but only get paid for four hours of labor) Is this legal? There is also no bed in the building or room designated for people to sleep. There is only a room with a couch where we euthanize animals and the break room couch that everyone sits and eats on, no where else to use as a bed. Both these options seem gross and unsanitary. Everyone I've told this too said this seems insane. So is it insane, and is it legal to ask someone to spend four days trapped at work but only get paid four hours? I live on north Carolina and this was not discussed with before I was hired on, only several months after.
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htkkmg7
| 1,642,710,261 | 1,642,749,761 | 128 | 453 |
Is this some kind of weird situation like a farm where the owner who normally resides there is going on vacation for a long weekend and simply wants someone on premises? Or is this the way things are 24/7/365 that they want randos to just sleep on the couch because reasons?
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If they are telling you where you must be, then you are on the clock. If they tell you that you must be in the building for 96 hours straight and cannot leave, you must be paid for 96 hours. If they tell you that you must be present from 2:00am to 3:00am Friday through Monday, but you can leave when you aren't feeding the animals, then they only need to pay you for 4 hours.
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s8qw05
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Is it legal to ask an employee to sleep in the building for several days in a row but only pay them for four hours of labor? My work asked me to sleep overnight to feed some animals that live on the premises, I said I cannot do this, and asked if I'd be paid for all my hours there if I was able to. They said I'd only be paid during the time I was feeding the animals (which only takes an hour per day, so I'd sleep there for four nights but only get paid for four hours of labor) Is this legal? There is also no bed in the building or room designated for people to sleep. There is only a room with a couch where we euthanize animals and the break room couch that everyone sits and eats on, no where else to use as a bed. Both these options seem gross and unsanitary. Everyone I've told this too said this seems insane. So is it insane, and is it legal to ask someone to spend four days trapped at work but only get paid four hours? I live on north Carolina and this was not discussed with before I was hired on, only several months after.
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htkkmg7
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htj8s3c
| 1,642,749,761 | 1,642,726,115 | 453 | 51 |
If they are telling you where you must be, then you are on the clock. If they tell you that you must be in the building for 96 hours straight and cannot leave, you must be paid for 96 hours. If they tell you that you must be present from 2:00am to 3:00am Friday through Monday, but you can leave when you aren't feeding the animals, then they only need to pay you for 4 hours.
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If they are only paying you for one hour per day, you only need to be there for that hour. If they want you to be there longer, they need to compensate you for your time
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vt3vpq
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I’m a contractor, I was assaulted and held hostage by the customer, now I’m out of work. Do I have recourse? I am a licensed home improvement contractor in Virginia. I was hired for a condo remodel for $35k. He paid $11k deposit. He has been late with next payment, making up issues, held up the job so I had to pull my crew off twice etc. So the customer was hostile from the start. Yesterday he completely lost it. He was haggling the price again even though it was already in writing. I didn’t budge so He decided that he was taking my tools for money he believes I owe him. He physically rips the tools out of my hands as I’m trying to pack up. I start recording on my phone. Then I try to leave, he blocks the door and pushes me away. I call the police, they are en route. I keep trying to escape 3 more times but he is in front of the only door and every time he pushes, grabs, yells threats.. like using all his strength. I literally plead with him to let me go. I’m recording all this. All in all I was held against my for about 30 minutes until the cops got there. He was yelling, threatening violence, called his wife and said I was punching him, said he’s going to lie and tell the police I punched him. Again, all on video. Not sure if it matters but he the prices I gave him were well below market and the work I had completed so far was top notch, he even agreed. So my question is, what do I do now? I’m a small contractor, this was my only income for the next 2-3 months. Am I entitled to any financial compensation? Any advice I can get will be so much appreciated, this has been very stressful and I just want to be able to pay my bills.
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if511lr
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Was the guy arrested?
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Compensation regarding the job depends on your contract What does your contract say about disputes or canceling
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vt3vpq
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legaladvice_train
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I’m a contractor, I was assaulted and held hostage by the customer, now I’m out of work. Do I have recourse? I am a licensed home improvement contractor in Virginia. I was hired for a condo remodel for $35k. He paid $11k deposit. He has been late with next payment, making up issues, held up the job so I had to pull my crew off twice etc. So the customer was hostile from the start. Yesterday he completely lost it. He was haggling the price again even though it was already in writing. I didn’t budge so He decided that he was taking my tools for money he believes I owe him. He physically rips the tools out of my hands as I’m trying to pack up. I start recording on my phone. Then I try to leave, he blocks the door and pushes me away. I call the police, they are en route. I keep trying to escape 3 more times but he is in front of the only door and every time he pushes, grabs, yells threats.. like using all his strength. I literally plead with him to let me go. I’m recording all this. All in all I was held against my for about 30 minutes until the cops got there. He was yelling, threatening violence, called his wife and said I was punching him, said he’s going to lie and tell the police I punched him. Again, all on video. Not sure if it matters but he the prices I gave him were well below market and the work I had completed so far was top notch, he even agreed. So my question is, what do I do now? I’m a small contractor, this was my only income for the next 2-3 months. Am I entitled to any financial compensation? Any advice I can get will be so much appreciated, this has been very stressful and I just want to be able to pay my bills.
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if51197
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if572m4
| 1,657,150,367 | 1,657,153,084 | 9 | 16 |
Was the guy arrested?
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File a mechanics lien against the property. You might not get paid today, but it will improve your odds of getting paid in the end.
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93hz6b
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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just a random follow-up that may have nothing to do with nothing, but on the random, offchance possibility that your daughter was terribly injured with minimal actual action on the babysitter's behalf, it might be worth looking into something like ehlers-danlos syndrome. i only mention it because i've seen lots of stories of children being injured extremely easily and because i have the disease myself. could very well not have anything to do with anything. i am so sorry you're dealing with this and i'm so sorry your babygirl was hurt
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What a horrible situation. I'm so sorry. > Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. You can contact the detective and follow up, but ultimately the investigation is in the police department's hands. Without knowing the officers involved or the department's priorities and policies, it's very hard to speculate on that. > Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Superficially, it sounds like you may have a viable lawsuit, but a lawsuit doesn't create money out of nothing. If the babysitter is broke, and if most of her income is off-the-books, recovering anything from her may be a lost cause even you prove beyond all possible doubt that she's at fault. I hope you're insured, because that's a far more certain way to get your expenses back on this. > Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? You would be looking for a personal injury attorney. For a small fee, the bar association may be able to refer you to one. Contingency payment plans, where the attorney takes a portion of the award or settlement, are somewhat common for personal injury cases. However, an attorney will evaluate not only the strength of the case, but also the defendant's likely ability to pay, before offering to take a case on contingency: agreeing to get paid when the plaintiff collects from a deadbeat is often a bad business choice. Don't let that stop you from asking, but do keep your expectations in check, and be prepared to talk about other options, such as paying by instalment.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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just a random follow-up that may have nothing to do with nothing, but on the random, offchance possibility that your daughter was terribly injured with minimal actual action on the babysitter's behalf, it might be worth looking into something like ehlers-danlos syndrome. i only mention it because i've seen lots of stories of children being injured extremely easily and because i have the disease myself. could very well not have anything to do with anything. i am so sorry you're dealing with this and i'm so sorry your babygirl was hurt
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I'm not going to touch on the topic of recovering damages here because others have already given input and you're likely to need a personal injury attorney. What I will say is you should be very careful in what you say to the police and social services. It's already a little late since you've given multiple statements, provided your phones and are offering to take a polygraph. However I will say that whether they are giving you any indication or not, you are almost certainly being considered as a potential suspect just as much as the babysitter. The time for a criminal defense attorney to protect your interests really should have been a few weeks ago when this was discovered, but it still should be given thought even now.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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e3deg3r
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e3dxfu7
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Try the Colorado victims compensation fund to help with the bills. https://www.colorado.gov/pacific/dcj/Vic_Comp
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just a random follow-up that may have nothing to do with nothing, but on the random, offchance possibility that your daughter was terribly injured with minimal actual action on the babysitter's behalf, it might be worth looking into something like ehlers-danlos syndrome. i only mention it because i've seen lots of stories of children being injured extremely easily and because i have the disease myself. could very well not have anything to do with anything. i am so sorry you're dealing with this and i'm so sorry your babygirl was hurt
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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just a random follow-up that may have nothing to do with nothing, but on the random, offchance possibility that your daughter was terribly injured with minimal actual action on the babysitter's behalf, it might be worth looking into something like ehlers-danlos syndrome. i only mention it because i've seen lots of stories of children being injured extremely easily and because i have the disease myself. could very well not have anything to do with anything. i am so sorry you're dealing with this and i'm so sorry your babygirl was hurt
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> what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? If the police believe that criminal activity has occurred, they will continue their investigation and refer their findings to the district attorney for possible prosecution. Nothing you can do as it is out of your hands now. > what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? Since *you hired an unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter to care for your daughter, IMO, you have zero hope of recovering *any sort of money for anything*. No attorney is going to take this case on contingency since there is no money to be had from the *unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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Just a note on the polygraph test. Whether it will be admissible in court is up to the discretion of the judge so don't expect much to come from it. As far as I am aware they are usually used to pressure a suspect to confess due to their unreliability in court. I am not saying that they are completely useless and can never be trusted. Just don't push your entire case (if you bring it to court) around the "lie detector".
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just a random follow-up that may have nothing to do with nothing, but on the random, offchance possibility that your daughter was terribly injured with minimal actual action on the babysitter's behalf, it might be worth looking into something like ehlers-danlos syndrome. i only mention it because i've seen lots of stories of children being injured extremely easily and because i have the disease myself. could very well not have anything to do with anything. i am so sorry you're dealing with this and i'm so sorry your babygirl was hurt
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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e3deg3r
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I'm not going to touch on the topic of recovering damages here because others have already given input and you're likely to need a personal injury attorney. What I will say is you should be very careful in what you say to the police and social services. It's already a little late since you've given multiple statements, provided your phones and are offering to take a polygraph. However I will say that whether they are giving you any indication or not, you are almost certainly being considered as a potential suspect just as much as the babysitter. The time for a criminal defense attorney to protect your interests really should have been a few weeks ago when this was discovered, but it still should be given thought even now.
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Try the Colorado victims compensation fund to help with the bills. https://www.colorado.gov/pacific/dcj/Vic_Comp
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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> what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? If the police believe that criminal activity has occurred, they will continue their investigation and refer their findings to the district attorney for possible prosecution. Nothing you can do as it is out of your hands now. > what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? Since *you hired an unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter to care for your daughter, IMO, you have zero hope of recovering *any sort of money for anything*. No attorney is going to take this case on contingency since there is no money to be had from the *unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter.
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I'm not going to touch on the topic of recovering damages here because others have already given input and you're likely to need a personal injury attorney. What I will say is you should be very careful in what you say to the police and social services. It's already a little late since you've given multiple statements, provided your phones and are offering to take a polygraph. However I will say that whether they are giving you any indication or not, you are almost certainly being considered as a potential suspect just as much as the babysitter. The time for a criminal defense attorney to protect your interests really should have been a few weeks ago when this was discovered, but it still should be given thought even now.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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You should probably get a consult with a criminal defense attorney. I hate to be *that* guy and bring extra stress, but if the police are still working to schedule a polygraph for *you*, then they have not yet eliminated you as one of their primary suspects. Polygraph is notoriously unreliable, with both false positives and negatives. In almost all cases, it is inadmissable in court, and the police know all of this. If the polygraph shows that you are truthful, it will not *necessarily* change the course of their investigation, but if it shows that you are lying, it will be used as an interrogation lever; the results of which *are* admissable.
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> what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? If the police believe that criminal activity has occurred, they will continue their investigation and refer their findings to the district attorney for possible prosecution. Nothing you can do as it is out of your hands now. > what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? Since *you hired an unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter to care for your daughter, IMO, you have zero hope of recovering *any sort of money for anything*. No attorney is going to take this case on contingency since there is no money to be had from the *unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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My God, that poor, poor baby. You and your wife must be completely heartbroken over the pain your infant daughter has suffered. I'll lose sleep tonight thinking about it. Please put her health and safety before anything else, whether its money or time or anything. I've been reading Reddit for more than eight years and this is one of the most horrifying stories I've read. Your post, as it's on /legaladvice, only asks about recompense but I'm sure that you and your wife must be stricken by how your child has suffered.
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You should probably get a consult with a criminal defense attorney. I hate to be *that* guy and bring extra stress, but if the police are still working to schedule a polygraph for *you*, then they have not yet eliminated you as one of their primary suspects. Polygraph is notoriously unreliable, with both false positives and negatives. In almost all cases, it is inadmissable in court, and the police know all of this. If the polygraph shows that you are truthful, it will not *necessarily* change the course of their investigation, but if it shows that you are lying, it will be used as an interrogation lever; the results of which *are* admissable.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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You should probably get a consult with a criminal defense attorney. I hate to be *that* guy and bring extra stress, but if the police are still working to schedule a polygraph for *you*, then they have not yet eliminated you as one of their primary suspects. Polygraph is notoriously unreliable, with both false positives and negatives. In almost all cases, it is inadmissable in court, and the police know all of this. If the polygraph shows that you are truthful, it will not *necessarily* change the course of their investigation, but if it shows that you are lying, it will be used as an interrogation lever; the results of which *are* admissable.
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My wife was an uninsured caregiver and was sued. Her renters insurance defended her and paid a very small settlement amounting to attorney fees to take it to trial. It was a BS case where there wasn’t any injury as significant as yours. Friend of kid she was watching got hurt sledding and they took him to the hospital. The mom of the kid didn’t have health insurance and was trying to get money
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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> what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? If the police believe that criminal activity has occurred, they will continue their investigation and refer their findings to the district attorney for possible prosecution. Nothing you can do as it is out of your hands now. > what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? Since *you hired an unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter to care for your daughter, IMO, you have zero hope of recovering *any sort of money for anything*. No attorney is going to take this case on contingency since there is no money to be had from the *unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter.
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In my profession (defense attorney, frequently representing parents who have their children removed due to abuse and neglect, not your lawyer, not licenced to practice in your jurisdiction), lie detectors are not meant to clear a suspect. The police absolutely consider you a suspect. They don't have to tell you the truth about results. They will use this to get you tripped up and start questioning yourself, and the next thing you know, you've "confessed" (I mean, I guess I could have grabbed her leg too tightly when I was changing her diaper), and you're facing a shitload of charges and the prospect of never having custody of your daughter again. Please be careful.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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In my profession (defense attorney, frequently representing parents who have their children removed due to abuse and neglect, not your lawyer, not licenced to practice in your jurisdiction), lie detectors are not meant to clear a suspect. The police absolutely consider you a suspect. They don't have to tell you the truth about results. They will use this to get you tripped up and start questioning yourself, and the next thing you know, you've "confessed" (I mean, I guess I could have grabbed her leg too tightly when I was changing her diaper), and you're facing a shitload of charges and the prospect of never having custody of your daughter again. Please be careful.
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My God, that poor, poor baby. You and your wife must be completely heartbroken over the pain your infant daughter has suffered. I'll lose sleep tonight thinking about it. Please put her health and safety before anything else, whether its money or time or anything. I've been reading Reddit for more than eight years and this is one of the most horrifying stories I've read. Your post, as it's on /legaladvice, only asks about recompense but I'm sure that you and your wife must be stricken by how your child has suffered.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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My wife was an uninsured caregiver and was sued. Her renters insurance defended her and paid a very small settlement amounting to attorney fees to take it to trial. It was a BS case where there wasn’t any injury as significant as yours. Friend of kid she was watching got hurt sledding and they took him to the hospital. The mom of the kid didn’t have health insurance and was trying to get money
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In my profession (defense attorney, frequently representing parents who have their children removed due to abuse and neglect, not your lawyer, not licenced to practice in your jurisdiction), lie detectors are not meant to clear a suspect. The police absolutely consider you a suspect. They don't have to tell you the truth about results. They will use this to get you tripped up and start questioning yourself, and the next thing you know, you've "confessed" (I mean, I guess I could have grabbed her leg too tightly when I was changing her diaper), and you're facing a shitload of charges and the prospect of never having custody of your daughter again. Please be careful.
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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> what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? If the police believe that criminal activity has occurred, they will continue their investigation and refer their findings to the district attorney for possible prosecution. Nothing you can do as it is out of your hands now. > what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? Since *you hired an unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter to care for your daughter, IMO, you have zero hope of recovering *any sort of money for anything*. No attorney is going to take this case on contingency since there is no money to be had from the *unlicensed and uninsured* babysitter.
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Just a note on the polygraph test. Whether it will be admissible in court is up to the discretion of the judge so don't expect much to come from it. As far as I am aware they are usually used to pressure a suspect to confess due to their unreliability in court. I am not saying that they are completely useless and can never be trusted. Just don't push your entire case (if you bring it to court) around the "lie detector".
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[Colorado] Our 8 month old daughter came home from the babysitter's house with a severely broken leg. What can we do to protect other kids and get our medical expenses and lost wages covered? Short version: Our infant daughter somehow (possibly maliciously) had her leg broken in two places while being cared for by an uninsured, under-the-table babysitter. What options for legal recourse do we have? A few weeks ago when I picked up my 8 month old daughter from the babysitter's house she had a broken femur and a fractured tibia, though I did not find out she was injured until 24 hours later. We had worked with this babysitter for about 6 months without any serious concerns for our daughter's well-being. Since our daughter was constipated and we didn't know she was injured, I feel horrible that we caused her extra pain by moving her legs around to help her poop. That's when we started to figure out something was wrong. Once we got X-rays the doctors said our daughter had a severely broken femur at the top where the ball goes into the hip socket, as well as a fractured tibia. As if that was not horrible enough, they added that the injuries were consistent with injuries caused by child abuse and that they were classified as "non-accidental trauma." From what we have been able to gather the injuries are likely to have been caused by a yanking or twisting motion, or an impact such as a fall with all the force absorbed through a straightened leg. I called the babysitter to try to get more information about what had happened, and she would only reiterate the same story she gave before, that she saw our daughter sleeping in an odd position with her leg bent up behind her, and that she woke up crying a few minutes later. When we relayed that story to the doctors they all said that rolling over while sleeping was very unlikely to be the cause of the injuries. At that point we believed that not only did the babysitter either injure our daughter or allow her to be injured by someone else, but she also failed to make us aware of the injury when it happened and lied to us about the cause of injury. Because of that we had no idea how severely our daughter was hurt and did not get her treatment nearly as quickly as we would have if we had known. The evening we arrived at the emergency room we had individual interviews with a person from the department of human services as well as filed police reports. Our daughter was scheduled for surgery in the morning to have hardware put in to fix her femur and put her in a giant cast that covers both her legs down to the ankles and goes up to just below her armpits. We were in the hospital for a total of 4 days. On day 3 we had to go give additional longer interviews to a police detective and a social worker. We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective and allowed him to download our phones so he has the text messages with the babysitter as evidence. The social worker also came to our house for a home visit. As the home visit was concluding she said we don't have anything to worry about as parents and her part of the investigation into us as parents would be coming to a close. About a week after we got home from the hospital my wife saw new posts online from the babysitter looking for more kids to be employed taking care of. We forwarded the posts to the detective but did not receive a response about that. He did send an update later on to let us know he is still working to schedule the polygraph tests with us and that the babysitter has refused to speak with him and requested to have an attorney. That was about two weeks ago. As far as we know the babysitter is not licensed or insured. She works or has worked under the table with 4 or 5 other families besides ours. However we believe that the babysitter's own daughter was the only other child present the day the injuries happened. We didn't have any formal contract with the babysitter, just a verbal agreement and some text messages discussing rates and payments. We have not received a final total of the medical bills yet, but I expect it to be at least several thousand dollars. On top of that, my wife and I have both had to take several days of unpaid leave in order to care for our daughter while she is recovering. The weeks we have been able to work we have each only been able to work and be paid for about 30 hours, instead of our usual 40. Questions: Our first question is, what can we do to keep the police investigation moving? We don't want anything like this to happen to any other kids, and we would like to know exactly what happened if it's possible to find out. It has been almost two weeks now since our last contact with the detective. Second, what hope do we have of receiving at least some money to cover our medical expenses and lost wages? The babysitter was not insured as a childcare provider as far as we know, and she and her husband were renting their house so we don't think homeowner's insurance would be on the table. They had also asked for advance payment the week before this happened, so we don't think they have much in the bank. Third, do you have any advice for finding and hiring a lawyer? We don't have much of a budget to pay a lawyer with, but I got the idea that some lawyers will work in exchange for a percentage of whatever settlement is reached. Is that correct? Is a personal injury lawyer the type of lawyer we should be looking for, or some other specialty of lawyer? As mentioned in the post title we are in Colorado. Thank you for reading and for any responses this post gets.
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My wife was an uninsured caregiver and was sued. Her renters insurance defended her and paid a very small settlement amounting to attorney fees to take it to trial. It was a BS case where there wasn’t any injury as significant as yours. Friend of kid she was watching got hurt sledding and they took him to the hospital. The mom of the kid didn’t have health insurance and was trying to get money
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> We both agreed to schedule polygraph tests with the police detective You should absolutely not do this. Polygraphs are pseudoscientific and not diagnostic of whether you're telling the truth--courts have ruled on this repeatedly. It catches a lot of liars, yes, but the false positive rate is too high to be useful, which means that many people who are telling the truth get incorrectly classified as liars. Police use them as an interrogation tool because most people are scared of the polygraph and might be more likely to be truthful. My non-legal advice is to tell the detective that you've read about how polygraph testing is inaccurate and you have changed your mind about doing any interview with a polygraph attached. (I am not a lawyer but have background on the scientific side.)
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My daughters counselor started dating their dad, made me lose custody, put my kids through unnecessary treatment, and was arrested with my ex for domestic A&B in front of our kids. Can I sue?! (In Oklahoma) This is a long story, but I really need advise on it. Without my knowledge, my ex had our 2 daughters, (ages 6 and 7 then) start seeing a counselor. They seemed to like her so I approved. Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. Months later, I lost our custody battle solely based on their counselors testimony. At this time my ex was still living with his wife, but I had my suspicions about him and the counselor but didn't have proof. Last November, my ex and his wife separated, and within a week, our daughters counselor moved in with my ex, and they were "officially" dating. I immediately stopped their counseling. The counselor was fired from her job because of the relationship, and I also found out thar she was a BDSM model that traveled to a town 2 hours away to attend sex parties so her clients families wouldn't find out, and this was because the counselor told me this herself. Last Thursday I received a call at 1:30am to come pick up my girls and keep them safe. When I arrived there were police everywhere. My ex, and his live in girlfriend (the counselor) were both arrested for domestic assault and battery in the presence of a minor. Based on the police report, my 9 year old let the police in, both of my daughters were too scared to go back into the house, and my ex and the counselor are both at fault. Based on my oldest daughters story about what happened, she heard a sexual assault happen, then he punched the girlfriend (counselor) multiple times and the girlfriend bit him 2 times. I was awarded emergency custody the next day. My girls are traumatized. But according to my ex and his girlfriend (the counselor)(they're already back together) they often get physical during sex, and he usually bangs her head against things, punches her, etc. I know I will be getting permanent custody, based on everything, and I've already started the process to have the girlfriends counseling and social worker licenses permanently removed. I don't feel my kids needed the "sexual therapy" she put them through. Also my 9 year old daughter heard them having sex multiple times and compared it to a human being mauled by a bear... I also found out the counselors father and brother are registered sex offenders. My daughters are terrified to talk to a new counselor. I've had to make an appointment with a specialist, which will cost me $100's out of pocket. I'm fine with paying, my kids are my priority, but do I have grounds to sue the counselor? Even though she was fired, her old job, Youth and Family Services, would be liable. Also, the counselors Gma recently died, and the counselor inherited several million from her. I'm not looking to get rich. I just want to be able to get my kids the proper care, pay off my legal fees, and probably home schooling costs because it's looking like that's what I'm going to have to do. (My husband and I have a blended family of 9 kids, so they're not the only kids!!!) (in Oklahoma)
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Lawyer will help you best and I think you can sue them for the help your kids need (no lawyer)
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I am not a lawyer, am a social worker in a different state. Sounds like malpractice to me and I'm glad that you're already going through the licensing board. The social work field has the strictest ethical requirements when it comes to sexual relationships with clients. Talk to a lawyer for sure. Social workers are recommended to carry malpractice insurance. The agency that she worked for should definitely have insurance.
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My daughters counselor started dating their dad, made me lose custody, put my kids through unnecessary treatment, and was arrested with my ex for domestic A&B in front of our kids. Can I sue?! (In Oklahoma) This is a long story, but I really need advise on it. Without my knowledge, my ex had our 2 daughters, (ages 6 and 7 then) start seeing a counselor. They seemed to like her so I approved. Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. Months later, I lost our custody battle solely based on their counselors testimony. At this time my ex was still living with his wife, but I had my suspicions about him and the counselor but didn't have proof. Last November, my ex and his wife separated, and within a week, our daughters counselor moved in with my ex, and they were "officially" dating. I immediately stopped their counseling. The counselor was fired from her job because of the relationship, and I also found out thar she was a BDSM model that traveled to a town 2 hours away to attend sex parties so her clients families wouldn't find out, and this was because the counselor told me this herself. Last Thursday I received a call at 1:30am to come pick up my girls and keep them safe. When I arrived there were police everywhere. My ex, and his live in girlfriend (the counselor) were both arrested for domestic assault and battery in the presence of a minor. Based on the police report, my 9 year old let the police in, both of my daughters were too scared to go back into the house, and my ex and the counselor are both at fault. Based on my oldest daughters story about what happened, she heard a sexual assault happen, then he punched the girlfriend (counselor) multiple times and the girlfriend bit him 2 times. I was awarded emergency custody the next day. My girls are traumatized. But according to my ex and his girlfriend (the counselor)(they're already back together) they often get physical during sex, and he usually bangs her head against things, punches her, etc. I know I will be getting permanent custody, based on everything, and I've already started the process to have the girlfriends counseling and social worker licenses permanently removed. I don't feel my kids needed the "sexual therapy" she put them through. Also my 9 year old daughter heard them having sex multiple times and compared it to a human being mauled by a bear... I also found out the counselors father and brother are registered sex offenders. My daughters are terrified to talk to a new counselor. I've had to make an appointment with a specialist, which will cost me $100's out of pocket. I'm fine with paying, my kids are my priority, but do I have grounds to sue the counselor? Even though she was fired, her old job, Youth and Family Services, would be liable. Also, the counselors Gma recently died, and the counselor inherited several million from her. I'm not looking to get rich. I just want to be able to get my kids the proper care, pay off my legal fees, and probably home schooling costs because it's looking like that's what I'm going to have to do. (My husband and I have a blended family of 9 kids, so they're not the only kids!!!) (in Oklahoma)
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Lawyer will help you best and I think you can sue them for the help your kids need (no lawyer)
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Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. ​ I would start with reporting this person for the relevant licensing board. If they are a psychologist it is here: https://www.ok.gov/psychology/Public/Complaints/index.html From there I agree with everyone advising you to talk to an attorney. There is a strong malpractice argument given the harm to your children.
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My daughters counselor started dating their dad, made me lose custody, put my kids through unnecessary treatment, and was arrested with my ex for domestic A&B in front of our kids. Can I sue?! (In Oklahoma) This is a long story, but I really need advise on it. Without my knowledge, my ex had our 2 daughters, (ages 6 and 7 then) start seeing a counselor. They seemed to like her so I approved. Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. Months later, I lost our custody battle solely based on their counselors testimony. At this time my ex was still living with his wife, but I had my suspicions about him and the counselor but didn't have proof. Last November, my ex and his wife separated, and within a week, our daughters counselor moved in with my ex, and they were "officially" dating. I immediately stopped their counseling. The counselor was fired from her job because of the relationship, and I also found out thar she was a BDSM model that traveled to a town 2 hours away to attend sex parties so her clients families wouldn't find out, and this was because the counselor told me this herself. Last Thursday I received a call at 1:30am to come pick up my girls and keep them safe. When I arrived there were police everywhere. My ex, and his live in girlfriend (the counselor) were both arrested for domestic assault and battery in the presence of a minor. Based on the police report, my 9 year old let the police in, both of my daughters were too scared to go back into the house, and my ex and the counselor are both at fault. Based on my oldest daughters story about what happened, she heard a sexual assault happen, then he punched the girlfriend (counselor) multiple times and the girlfriend bit him 2 times. I was awarded emergency custody the next day. My girls are traumatized. But according to my ex and his girlfriend (the counselor)(they're already back together) they often get physical during sex, and he usually bangs her head against things, punches her, etc. I know I will be getting permanent custody, based on everything, and I've already started the process to have the girlfriends counseling and social worker licenses permanently removed. I don't feel my kids needed the "sexual therapy" she put them through. Also my 9 year old daughter heard them having sex multiple times and compared it to a human being mauled by a bear... I also found out the counselors father and brother are registered sex offenders. My daughters are terrified to talk to a new counselor. I've had to make an appointment with a specialist, which will cost me $100's out of pocket. I'm fine with paying, my kids are my priority, but do I have grounds to sue the counselor? Even though she was fired, her old job, Youth and Family Services, would be liable. Also, the counselors Gma recently died, and the counselor inherited several million from her. I'm not looking to get rich. I just want to be able to get my kids the proper care, pay off my legal fees, and probably home schooling costs because it's looking like that's what I'm going to have to do. (My husband and I have a blended family of 9 kids, so they're not the only kids!!!) (in Oklahoma)
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ek96rwl
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ek8y1wr
| 1,554,567,604 | 1,554,560,559 | 49 | 6 |
With some of the things coming to light about this counselor, I'd sit my children down and ask them to tell me if anything inappropriate was said or done to them, specifically within the context of the sexual therapy. The way that's phrased bothers me, but that could be my own ignorance. But considering the ways in which this woman and your ex behave, I'd rather be safe that sorry. It could also be grounds for further damages in a lawsuit. I'd definitely consult a lawyer.
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You may find that suing for malpractice is the best option for you.
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ba2dme
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
My daughters counselor started dating their dad, made me lose custody, put my kids through unnecessary treatment, and was arrested with my ex for domestic A&B in front of our kids. Can I sue?! (In Oklahoma) This is a long story, but I really need advise on it. Without my knowledge, my ex had our 2 daughters, (ages 6 and 7 then) start seeing a counselor. They seemed to like her so I approved. Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. Months later, I lost our custody battle solely based on their counselors testimony. At this time my ex was still living with his wife, but I had my suspicions about him and the counselor but didn't have proof. Last November, my ex and his wife separated, and within a week, our daughters counselor moved in with my ex, and they were "officially" dating. I immediately stopped their counseling. The counselor was fired from her job because of the relationship, and I also found out thar she was a BDSM model that traveled to a town 2 hours away to attend sex parties so her clients families wouldn't find out, and this was because the counselor told me this herself. Last Thursday I received a call at 1:30am to come pick up my girls and keep them safe. When I arrived there were police everywhere. My ex, and his live in girlfriend (the counselor) were both arrested for domestic assault and battery in the presence of a minor. Based on the police report, my 9 year old let the police in, both of my daughters were too scared to go back into the house, and my ex and the counselor are both at fault. Based on my oldest daughters story about what happened, she heard a sexual assault happen, then he punched the girlfriend (counselor) multiple times and the girlfriend bit him 2 times. I was awarded emergency custody the next day. My girls are traumatized. But according to my ex and his girlfriend (the counselor)(they're already back together) they often get physical during sex, and he usually bangs her head against things, punches her, etc. I know I will be getting permanent custody, based on everything, and I've already started the process to have the girlfriends counseling and social worker licenses permanently removed. I don't feel my kids needed the "sexual therapy" she put them through. Also my 9 year old daughter heard them having sex multiple times and compared it to a human being mauled by a bear... I also found out the counselors father and brother are registered sex offenders. My daughters are terrified to talk to a new counselor. I've had to make an appointment with a specialist, which will cost me $100's out of pocket. I'm fine with paying, my kids are my priority, but do I have grounds to sue the counselor? Even though she was fired, her old job, Youth and Family Services, would be liable. Also, the counselors Gma recently died, and the counselor inherited several million from her. I'm not looking to get rich. I just want to be able to get my kids the proper care, pay off my legal fees, and probably home schooling costs because it's looking like that's what I'm going to have to do. (My husband and I have a blended family of 9 kids, so they're not the only kids!!!) (in Oklahoma)
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ek96rwl
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ek8u8fs
| 1,554,567,604 | 1,554,556,732 | 49 | 2 |
With some of the things coming to light about this counselor, I'd sit my children down and ask them to tell me if anything inappropriate was said or done to them, specifically within the context of the sexual therapy. The way that's phrased bothers me, but that could be my own ignorance. But considering the ways in which this woman and your ex behave, I'd rather be safe that sorry. It could also be grounds for further damages in a lawsuit. I'd definitely consult a lawyer.
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Lawyer will help you best and I think you can sue them for the help your kids need (no lawyer)
| 1 | 10,872 | 24.5 |
ba2dme
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
My daughters counselor started dating their dad, made me lose custody, put my kids through unnecessary treatment, and was arrested with my ex for domestic A&B in front of our kids. Can I sue?! (In Oklahoma) This is a long story, but I really need advise on it. Without my knowledge, my ex had our 2 daughters, (ages 6 and 7 then) start seeing a counselor. They seemed to like her so I approved. Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. Months later, I lost our custody battle solely based on their counselors testimony. At this time my ex was still living with his wife, but I had my suspicions about him and the counselor but didn't have proof. Last November, my ex and his wife separated, and within a week, our daughters counselor moved in with my ex, and they were "officially" dating. I immediately stopped their counseling. The counselor was fired from her job because of the relationship, and I also found out thar she was a BDSM model that traveled to a town 2 hours away to attend sex parties so her clients families wouldn't find out, and this was because the counselor told me this herself. Last Thursday I received a call at 1:30am to come pick up my girls and keep them safe. When I arrived there were police everywhere. My ex, and his live in girlfriend (the counselor) were both arrested for domestic assault and battery in the presence of a minor. Based on the police report, my 9 year old let the police in, both of my daughters were too scared to go back into the house, and my ex and the counselor are both at fault. Based on my oldest daughters story about what happened, she heard a sexual assault happen, then he punched the girlfriend (counselor) multiple times and the girlfriend bit him 2 times. I was awarded emergency custody the next day. My girls are traumatized. But according to my ex and his girlfriend (the counselor)(they're already back together) they often get physical during sex, and he usually bangs her head against things, punches her, etc. I know I will be getting permanent custody, based on everything, and I've already started the process to have the girlfriends counseling and social worker licenses permanently removed. I don't feel my kids needed the "sexual therapy" she put them through. Also my 9 year old daughter heard them having sex multiple times and compared it to a human being mauled by a bear... I also found out the counselors father and brother are registered sex offenders. My daughters are terrified to talk to a new counselor. I've had to make an appointment with a specialist, which will cost me $100's out of pocket. I'm fine with paying, my kids are my priority, but do I have grounds to sue the counselor? Even though she was fired, her old job, Youth and Family Services, would be liable. Also, the counselors Gma recently died, and the counselor inherited several million from her. I'm not looking to get rich. I just want to be able to get my kids the proper care, pay off my legal fees, and probably home schooling costs because it's looking like that's what I'm going to have to do. (My husband and I have a blended family of 9 kids, so they're not the only kids!!!) (in Oklahoma)
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ekaf6tn
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ek8y1wr
| 1,554,603,896 | 1,554,560,559 | 11 | 6 |
If CPS is opening up a case against your ex, then they might be able to help pay for the counseling. Also, get a copy of the police report and you can try apply for Victim of Crime or Victim Compensation funding, most all states have this fund and they can help with the cost of therapy in some cases. If CPS filed and Substantiated a Petition, that will also work, so include both if you have them. It is probably too early for the Petition to happen yet. Here is a link to the main page for Oklahoma, but they might be administered on a county level: Victim Compensation Also, as you said in your post you plan to have CPS do the forensic interview with the children and that is an excellent idea. If the girls want to talk to you about it, great, but don’t ask too many questions because it might influence them, even though you do not mean to.
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You may find that suing for malpractice is the best option for you.
| 1 | 43,337 | 1.833333 |
ba2dme
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
My daughters counselor started dating their dad, made me lose custody, put my kids through unnecessary treatment, and was arrested with my ex for domestic A&B in front of our kids. Can I sue?! (In Oklahoma) This is a long story, but I really need advise on it. Without my knowledge, my ex had our 2 daughters, (ages 6 and 7 then) start seeing a counselor. They seemed to like her so I approved. Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. Months later, I lost our custody battle solely based on their counselors testimony. At this time my ex was still living with his wife, but I had my suspicions about him and the counselor but didn't have proof. Last November, my ex and his wife separated, and within a week, our daughters counselor moved in with my ex, and they were "officially" dating. I immediately stopped their counseling. The counselor was fired from her job because of the relationship, and I also found out thar she was a BDSM model that traveled to a town 2 hours away to attend sex parties so her clients families wouldn't find out, and this was because the counselor told me this herself. Last Thursday I received a call at 1:30am to come pick up my girls and keep them safe. When I arrived there were police everywhere. My ex, and his live in girlfriend (the counselor) were both arrested for domestic assault and battery in the presence of a minor. Based on the police report, my 9 year old let the police in, both of my daughters were too scared to go back into the house, and my ex and the counselor are both at fault. Based on my oldest daughters story about what happened, she heard a sexual assault happen, then he punched the girlfriend (counselor) multiple times and the girlfriend bit him 2 times. I was awarded emergency custody the next day. My girls are traumatized. But according to my ex and his girlfriend (the counselor)(they're already back together) they often get physical during sex, and he usually bangs her head against things, punches her, etc. I know I will be getting permanent custody, based on everything, and I've already started the process to have the girlfriends counseling and social worker licenses permanently removed. I don't feel my kids needed the "sexual therapy" she put them through. Also my 9 year old daughter heard them having sex multiple times and compared it to a human being mauled by a bear... I also found out the counselors father and brother are registered sex offenders. My daughters are terrified to talk to a new counselor. I've had to make an appointment with a specialist, which will cost me $100's out of pocket. I'm fine with paying, my kids are my priority, but do I have grounds to sue the counselor? Even though she was fired, her old job, Youth and Family Services, would be liable. Also, the counselors Gma recently died, and the counselor inherited several million from her. I'm not looking to get rich. I just want to be able to get my kids the proper care, pay off my legal fees, and probably home schooling costs because it's looking like that's what I'm going to have to do. (My husband and I have a blended family of 9 kids, so they're not the only kids!!!) (in Oklahoma)
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ekaf6tn
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ek8u8fs
| 1,554,603,896 | 1,554,556,732 | 11 | 2 |
If CPS is opening up a case against your ex, then they might be able to help pay for the counseling. Also, get a copy of the police report and you can try apply for Victim of Crime or Victim Compensation funding, most all states have this fund and they can help with the cost of therapy in some cases. If CPS filed and Substantiated a Petition, that will also work, so include both if you have them. It is probably too early for the Petition to happen yet. Here is a link to the main page for Oklahoma, but they might be administered on a county level: Victim Compensation Also, as you said in your post you plan to have CPS do the forensic interview with the children and that is an excellent idea. If the girls want to talk to you about it, great, but don’t ask too many questions because it might influence them, even though you do not mean to.
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Lawyer will help you best and I think you can sue them for the help your kids need (no lawyer)
| 1 | 47,164 | 5.5 |
ba2dme
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legaladvice_train
| 0.98 |
My daughters counselor started dating their dad, made me lose custody, put my kids through unnecessary treatment, and was arrested with my ex for domestic A&B in front of our kids. Can I sue?! (In Oklahoma) This is a long story, but I really need advise on it. Without my knowledge, my ex had our 2 daughters, (ages 6 and 7 then) start seeing a counselor. They seemed to like her so I approved. Their counselor got a court order to make my ex and I have to do everything she recommended, and at that time that included intense sexual therapy because she said my ex and his wife allowed our daughters to watch inappropriate movies and because they exposed them to sexual situations. I complied, since I was court ordered. Months later, I lost our custody battle solely based on their counselors testimony. At this time my ex was still living with his wife, but I had my suspicions about him and the counselor but didn't have proof. Last November, my ex and his wife separated, and within a week, our daughters counselor moved in with my ex, and they were "officially" dating. I immediately stopped their counseling. The counselor was fired from her job because of the relationship, and I also found out thar she was a BDSM model that traveled to a town 2 hours away to attend sex parties so her clients families wouldn't find out, and this was because the counselor told me this herself. Last Thursday I received a call at 1:30am to come pick up my girls and keep them safe. When I arrived there were police everywhere. My ex, and his live in girlfriend (the counselor) were both arrested for domestic assault and battery in the presence of a minor. Based on the police report, my 9 year old let the police in, both of my daughters were too scared to go back into the house, and my ex and the counselor are both at fault. Based on my oldest daughters story about what happened, she heard a sexual assault happen, then he punched the girlfriend (counselor) multiple times and the girlfriend bit him 2 times. I was awarded emergency custody the next day. My girls are traumatized. But according to my ex and his girlfriend (the counselor)(they're already back together) they often get physical during sex, and he usually bangs her head against things, punches her, etc. I know I will be getting permanent custody, based on everything, and I've already started the process to have the girlfriends counseling and social worker licenses permanently removed. I don't feel my kids needed the "sexual therapy" she put them through. Also my 9 year old daughter heard them having sex multiple times and compared it to a human being mauled by a bear... I also found out the counselors father and brother are registered sex offenders. My daughters are terrified to talk to a new counselor. I've had to make an appointment with a specialist, which will cost me $100's out of pocket. I'm fine with paying, my kids are my priority, but do I have grounds to sue the counselor? Even though she was fired, her old job, Youth and Family Services, would be liable. Also, the counselors Gma recently died, and the counselor inherited several million from her. I'm not looking to get rich. I just want to be able to get my kids the proper care, pay off my legal fees, and probably home schooling costs because it's looking like that's what I'm going to have to do. (My husband and I have a blended family of 9 kids, so they're not the only kids!!!) (in Oklahoma)
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ek8y1wr
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ek8u8fs
| 1,554,560,559 | 1,554,556,732 | 6 | 2 |
You may find that suing for malpractice is the best option for you.
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Lawyer will help you best and I think you can sue them for the help your kids need (no lawyer)
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a0i9qv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
[FL] Two cops stopped me while I was walking home from work. I didn't have my I.d to show them, then one of them tells me its illegal to not have an I.d on me. Is this true? broward county
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eai42rz
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eai3qmz
| 1,543,242,522 | 1,543,242,204 | 87 | 70 |
* no, it's not illegal for you to not have id on you when walking * no, it's not illegal for the police to lie to you
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Honestly, they'll claim whatever they want to make you produce ID. And unless you're filming them a complaint against the officer and his/her department is likely to go nowhere. The rules for the majority of states are fairly straight forward. Police can ask (not demand) ID for any reason they want. They can demand ID and detain IF they suspect a crime has been committed, is in the process of being committed, or is likely to be committed. The disconnect is in theory "you look suspicious" isn't nearly enough of a hook to hang your hat on for detainment. But the reality is that some will do it anyway unless their department has been sued enough times to get the point across.
| 1 | 318 | 1.242857 |
a0i9qv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
[FL] Two cops stopped me while I was walking home from work. I didn't have my I.d to show them, then one of them tells me its illegal to not have an I.d on me. Is this true? broward county
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eahv9c4
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eai42rz
| 1,543,230,792 | 1,543,242,522 | 41 | 87 |
You are required to identify yourself if police have probable cause to ID you, but that does not mean you need to produce any "papers" to do so. The only time you are required to have ID papers on you is if you are driving a vehicle. But even that is not really law, it is something you agree to when you decide to become licensed to drive a car.
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* no, it's not illegal for you to not have id on you when walking * no, it's not illegal for the police to lie to you
| 0 | 11,730 | 2.121951 |
a0i9qv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
[FL] Two cops stopped me while I was walking home from work. I didn't have my I.d to show them, then one of them tells me its illegal to not have an I.d on me. Is this true? broward county
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eai42rz
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eahva38
| 1,543,242,522 | 1,543,230,836 | 87 | 11 |
* no, it's not illegal for you to not have id on you when walking * no, it's not illegal for the police to lie to you
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There is not a requirement for you to have a form of identification on you while you are merely walking out and about. Are you certain they said it was illegal? Or did they just tell you it was weird that you didn't have one on you?
| 1 | 11,686 | 7.909091 |
a0i9qv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
[FL] Two cops stopped me while I was walking home from work. I didn't have my I.d to show them, then one of them tells me its illegal to not have an I.d on me. Is this true? broward county
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eai3qmz
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eahv9c4
| 1,543,242,204 | 1,543,230,792 | 70 | 41 |
Honestly, they'll claim whatever they want to make you produce ID. And unless you're filming them a complaint against the officer and his/her department is likely to go nowhere. The rules for the majority of states are fairly straight forward. Police can ask (not demand) ID for any reason they want. They can demand ID and detain IF they suspect a crime has been committed, is in the process of being committed, or is likely to be committed. The disconnect is in theory "you look suspicious" isn't nearly enough of a hook to hang your hat on for detainment. But the reality is that some will do it anyway unless their department has been sued enough times to get the point across.
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You are required to identify yourself if police have probable cause to ID you, but that does not mean you need to produce any "papers" to do so. The only time you are required to have ID papers on you is if you are driving a vehicle. But even that is not really law, it is something you agree to when you decide to become licensed to drive a car.
| 1 | 11,412 | 1.707317 |
a0i9qv
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legaladvice_train
| 0.94 |
[FL] Two cops stopped me while I was walking home from work. I didn't have my I.d to show them, then one of them tells me its illegal to not have an I.d on me. Is this true? broward county
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eahva38
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eai3qmz
| 1,543,230,836 | 1,543,242,204 | 11 | 70 |
There is not a requirement for you to have a form of identification on you while you are merely walking out and about. Are you certain they said it was illegal? Or did they just tell you it was weird that you didn't have one on you?
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Honestly, they'll claim whatever they want to make you produce ID. And unless you're filming them a complaint against the officer and his/her department is likely to go nowhere. The rules for the majority of states are fairly straight forward. Police can ask (not demand) ID for any reason they want. They can demand ID and detain IF they suspect a crime has been committed, is in the process of being committed, or is likely to be committed. The disconnect is in theory "you look suspicious" isn't nearly enough of a hook to hang your hat on for detainment. But the reality is that some will do it anyway unless their department has been sued enough times to get the point across.
| 0 | 11,368 | 6.363636 |
exvznt
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legaladvice_train
| 0.91 |
Renting a house that has a swing set that the neighborhood kids use. I do not have children. I am afraid of one of the kids getting hurt (caught one of them trying to walk on the top of the swing set like a balance beam). If I put up a "play at your own risk" sign, does that protect me? Pennsylvania
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fgdubca
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fge98vx
| 1,580,686,992 | 1,580,694,274 | 6 | 12 |
Its likely on the landlord, but honestly I would ban everyone, period. Even if you are not financially liable you might have to testify about an injury that you saw or be charged civilly for being an adult and not telling kids to stop doing dumb shit. You already viewed a child doing something stupid, and since anyone can sue for anything, I wouldn’t put it past a parent to sue you because you had prior knowledge of the dumb shit they were doing prior to the inevitable injury.
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The most authoritative answer you are likely to get is by calling your renters insurance company and asking them.
| 0 | 7,282 | 2 |
smcqd4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.8 |
I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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hvwhsbw
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hvvw1zo
| 1,644,206,442 | 1,644,196,233 | 22 | 20 |
If your husband says he'll lawyer up, you have a deeper problem in the relationship than just this house. Contact a family lawyer
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You need an attorney. Generally in Florida any property bought after marriage (including a car, house, etc) is marital property even if it is only in one spouse's name. Unless you bought the house with funds acquired before the marriage or have a written marital agreement your husband has rights to the property even if he didn't buy it and isn't on the deed. It does not mean he is entitled to half of the house, but it does mean he is likely going to have to sign off on a sale.
| 1 | 10,209 | 1.1 |
smcqd4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.8 |
I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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hvvxbhy
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hvwhsbw
| 1,644,196,820 | 1,644,206,442 | 18 | 22 |
This sale wouldn't make it through title and escrow without him signing off on it, since you are married.
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If your husband says he'll lawyer up, you have a deeper problem in the relationship than just this house. Contact a family lawyer
| 0 | 9,622 | 1.222222 |
smcqd4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.8 |
I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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hvwhsbw
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hvvtj8k
| 1,644,206,442 | 1,644,195,089 | 22 | 15 |
If your husband says he'll lawyer up, you have a deeper problem in the relationship than just this house. Contact a family lawyer
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Did you purchase it prior to marriage, or after marriage? Has he invested in the property? If it was purchased or acquired during marriage, was it using non-marital funds (an inheritance, a premarital account that marital funds were never placed into?)
| 1 | 11,353 | 1.466667 |
smcqd4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.8 |
I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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hvvuelq
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hvwhsbw
| 1,644,195,483 | 1,644,206,442 | 3 | 22 |
He can stop the sale if he refuses to sign a quitclaim deed. Many mortgage lenders and title insurance companies won't insure title to a home, even if it's in one spouse's name, without first getting a quitclaim deed from the spouse who is not named on title.
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If your husband says he'll lawyer up, you have a deeper problem in the relationship than just this house. Contact a family lawyer
| 0 | 10,959 | 7.333333 |
smcqd4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.8 |
I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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hvvtj8k
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hvvw1zo
| 1,644,195,089 | 1,644,196,233 | 15 | 20 |
Did you purchase it prior to marriage, or after marriage? Has he invested in the property? If it was purchased or acquired during marriage, was it using non-marital funds (an inheritance, a premarital account that marital funds were never placed into?)
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You need an attorney. Generally in Florida any property bought after marriage (including a car, house, etc) is marital property even if it is only in one spouse's name. Unless you bought the house with funds acquired before the marriage or have a written marital agreement your husband has rights to the property even if he didn't buy it and isn't on the deed. It does not mean he is entitled to half of the house, but it does mean he is likely going to have to sign off on a sale.
| 0 | 1,144 | 1.333333 |
smcqd4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.8 |
I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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hvvuelq
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hvvw1zo
| 1,644,195,483 | 1,644,196,233 | 3 | 20 |
He can stop the sale if he refuses to sign a quitclaim deed. Many mortgage lenders and title insurance companies won't insure title to a home, even if it's in one spouse's name, without first getting a quitclaim deed from the spouse who is not named on title.
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You need an attorney. Generally in Florida any property bought after marriage (including a car, house, etc) is marital property even if it is only in one spouse's name. Unless you bought the house with funds acquired before the marriage or have a written marital agreement your husband has rights to the property even if he didn't buy it and isn't on the deed. It does not mean he is entitled to half of the house, but it does mean he is likely going to have to sign off on a sale.
| 0 | 750 | 6.666667 |
smcqd4
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legaladvice_train
| 0.8 |
I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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This sale wouldn't make it through title and escrow without him signing off on it, since you are married.
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Did you purchase it prior to marriage, or after marriage? Has he invested in the property? If it was purchased or acquired during marriage, was it using non-marital funds (an inheritance, a premarital account that marital funds were never placed into?)
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I own a house in Florida and I want to sell it but my husband does not want to. It’s only in my name. Does he have any rights or can I just sell it. He says he can lawyer up and block me from selling.
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hvvuelq
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This sale wouldn't make it through title and escrow without him signing off on it, since you are married.
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He can stop the sale if he refuses to sign a quitclaim deed. Many mortgage lenders and title insurance companies won't insure title to a home, even if it's in one spouse's name, without first getting a quitclaim deed from the spouse who is not named on title.
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Sold a car and now the buyer wants to sue for selling vehicles with intent to make a profit without being a dealer In Georgia. Recently sold an suv I had listed for sale to a man for his wife on Saturday 9/10. I bought the vehicle on Tuesday 8/23 from a private party, registered the vehicle, payed tax, title, tag, etc and insured it. During this period, I made all the necessary repairs required to make the car suitable for driving, of which included front suspension component replacement, and balancing the tires. During these repairs I noticed rust on the vehicle but it was determined to not be rust endangering the integrity of the vehicle chassis. I also used the car as a daily driver everyday for the time while it was in my possession. When the man arrives to take a look at the car, he states he was a mechanic for 30 years before retiring. He test drives the car for approximately 30 minutes with his wife, comes back, notes a shake at around 45 mph and makes an offer of $4000 for the car. I accept and he leaves. This morning, the buyer messages and requests his money back as well as an additional $100 dollars for him going and balancing the tires on his own and the gas he put in the car. When inquired as to why he wanted to revoke the sale, he stated he had no idea of the rust on the vehicle and did not want to own the car any longer. The rust was notated in the pictures on the listing and the sale is as is. I told him that the sale was as is and that I hadn’t hidden anything from him. He responded later saying that he was suing me for selling cars with intent to make a profit without being a dealer. Now I have sold 3 cars in the last 2 months, this situation being one of them. All cars were bought, registered, and repaired in the same way with the exception of one, which had a lost title and i applied for a bonded title for it. These cars are easily visible on my facebook sellers page and must be how he came to the conclusion I’ve sold more than one car recently. Yes, I do buy cars, fix them and sell them but until now I had no idea it would be a legal issue without a dealers license. My question is, does he have any basis to sue for this, and what exactly determines intent in this situation? He said his lawyer would be sending me all the documentation shortly and obviously I don’t want to make any moves without being absolutely sure he has a leg to stand on.
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Completely ignore. Youll likely get a letter from a "lawyer". Also ignore this. Until someone appears with a court summons, ignore everything. Answer nothing short of a court order (which he will never get) Eta: in GA, also have bought and sold in GA. Youve done nothing wrong. Always do transactions at your bank's teller window. Always cash. Always a "tail light warranty". Once I cant see the tail lighta, warranty has expired.
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Georgia allows for the purchase/sale of up to 5 cars per year without a business/dealers license. As I understand it, if you tax/title the car it is not included in that limit. However, it may trigger a red flag at the department of revenue. The intent is that your operating a profitable business without paying taxes, and they don’t like that. That said 3-4 cars titled j your name and driven by you shouldn’t be an issue, but if you plan to continue you should look at getting the license. It also allows you to buy from auto auctions like Copart which may be another avenue to find vehicles to flip.
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xdmiw3
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Sold a car and now the buyer wants to sue for selling vehicles with intent to make a profit without being a dealer In Georgia. Recently sold an suv I had listed for sale to a man for his wife on Saturday 9/10. I bought the vehicle on Tuesday 8/23 from a private party, registered the vehicle, payed tax, title, tag, etc and insured it. During this period, I made all the necessary repairs required to make the car suitable for driving, of which included front suspension component replacement, and balancing the tires. During these repairs I noticed rust on the vehicle but it was determined to not be rust endangering the integrity of the vehicle chassis. I also used the car as a daily driver everyday for the time while it was in my possession. When the man arrives to take a look at the car, he states he was a mechanic for 30 years before retiring. He test drives the car for approximately 30 minutes with his wife, comes back, notes a shake at around 45 mph and makes an offer of $4000 for the car. I accept and he leaves. This morning, the buyer messages and requests his money back as well as an additional $100 dollars for him going and balancing the tires on his own and the gas he put in the car. When inquired as to why he wanted to revoke the sale, he stated he had no idea of the rust on the vehicle and did not want to own the car any longer. The rust was notated in the pictures on the listing and the sale is as is. I told him that the sale was as is and that I hadn’t hidden anything from him. He responded later saying that he was suing me for selling cars with intent to make a profit without being a dealer. Now I have sold 3 cars in the last 2 months, this situation being one of them. All cars were bought, registered, and repaired in the same way with the exception of one, which had a lost title and i applied for a bonded title for it. These cars are easily visible on my facebook sellers page and must be how he came to the conclusion I’ve sold more than one car recently. Yes, I do buy cars, fix them and sell them but until now I had no idea it would be a legal issue without a dealers license. My question is, does he have any basis to sue for this, and what exactly determines intent in this situation? He said his lawyer would be sending me all the documentation shortly and obviously I don’t want to make any moves without being absolutely sure he has a leg to stand on.
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Georgia allows for the purchase/sale of up to 5 cars per year without a business/dealers license. As I understand it, if you tax/title the car it is not included in that limit. However, it may trigger a red flag at the department of revenue. The intent is that your operating a profitable business without paying taxes, and they don’t like that. That said 3-4 cars titled j your name and driven by you shouldn’t be an issue, but if you plan to continue you should look at getting the license. It also allows you to buy from auto auctions like Copart which may be another avenue to find vehicles to flip.
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Not a lawyer- But I do work at a used car dealership. From what I read, you can sell 4 cars in a 12 month period without needing a license. If you’re doing more than that you might get fined and/or get a slap on the wrist as a first “offender”. Depending on the year and miles of the vehicle, The only leg he has to stand on is the lemon law, and the rust doesn’t affect the drive ability of the vehicle. But because you are a private seller, not portraying yourself as a business, he can pound sand. You definitely don’t want to ignore any court notices, and attend all request for appearance. This automatically causes them to win by fail to appear. Edited for clarification
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Sold a car and now the buyer wants to sue for selling vehicles with intent to make a profit without being a dealer In Georgia. Recently sold an suv I had listed for sale to a man for his wife on Saturday 9/10. I bought the vehicle on Tuesday 8/23 from a private party, registered the vehicle, payed tax, title, tag, etc and insured it. During this period, I made all the necessary repairs required to make the car suitable for driving, of which included front suspension component replacement, and balancing the tires. During these repairs I noticed rust on the vehicle but it was determined to not be rust endangering the integrity of the vehicle chassis. I also used the car as a daily driver everyday for the time while it was in my possession. When the man arrives to take a look at the car, he states he was a mechanic for 30 years before retiring. He test drives the car for approximately 30 minutes with his wife, comes back, notes a shake at around 45 mph and makes an offer of $4000 for the car. I accept and he leaves. This morning, the buyer messages and requests his money back as well as an additional $100 dollars for him going and balancing the tires on his own and the gas he put in the car. When inquired as to why he wanted to revoke the sale, he stated he had no idea of the rust on the vehicle and did not want to own the car any longer. The rust was notated in the pictures on the listing and the sale is as is. I told him that the sale was as is and that I hadn’t hidden anything from him. He responded later saying that he was suing me for selling cars with intent to make a profit without being a dealer. Now I have sold 3 cars in the last 2 months, this situation being one of them. All cars were bought, registered, and repaired in the same way with the exception of one, which had a lost title and i applied for a bonded title for it. These cars are easily visible on my facebook sellers page and must be how he came to the conclusion I’ve sold more than one car recently. Yes, I do buy cars, fix them and sell them but until now I had no idea it would be a legal issue without a dealers license. My question is, does he have any basis to sue for this, and what exactly determines intent in this situation? He said his lawyer would be sending me all the documentation shortly and obviously I don’t want to make any moves without being absolutely sure he has a leg to stand on.
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Not a lawyer- But I do work at a used car dealership. From what I read, you can sell 4 cars in a 12 month period without needing a license. If you’re doing more than that you might get fined and/or get a slap on the wrist as a first “offender”. Depending on the year and miles of the vehicle, The only leg he has to stand on is the lemon law, and the rust doesn’t affect the drive ability of the vehicle. But because you are a private seller, not portraying yourself as a business, he can pound sand. You definitely don’t want to ignore any court notices, and attend all request for appearance. This automatically causes them to win by fail to appear. Edited for clarification
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I am not a lawyer - No grounds to sue. But he could report you for acting as a dealer without a license if you exceed your states maximum per year sales. Which for GA looks to be 5. As other advice has noted - block and ignore - only worry if you get a visit from officers or served with a lawsuit. If you are over that 5/year limit then apply for a license just to keep yourself clean.
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My mother is slowly killing herself, is there anything we can do? Located in Michigan. This is complex, I will do my best to explain it in as few words as possible. My mother has been an alcoholic as long as I can remember. She has also been diagnosed with Bipolar and Borderline. In 2019, she was the passenger in a very suspicious type of car accident with her ex-boyfriend. She sustained a traumatic brain injury. She continued drinking throughout her initially recovery period and was highly erratic, manipulative, and hostile with her home health aides. Eventually APS got involved and they petitioned the court to appoint her a legal guardian, as she was deemed unfit to make her own medical and financial decisions. She now has a court appointed legal guardian. She lives independently in her own home at this time. Until recently, that was going fine, for the most part. Her bipolar cycles manifest in her alcohol abuse. She will go through several weeks of sobriety and general stability in managing her affairs. Then she has about a 3-5 day period where she is drinking excessively, taking her (prescribed) adderall at all hours of the day/night, and terrorizing her family and friends via text message. Usually it’s short lived and I just ignore her until it’s over. Fast forward to now, which is where my questions will come in. She has been on a drinking binge for about two weeks now. Much longer than normal. And based on the messages she’s sending everyone, she seems like she is losing her grip on reality. She used to just send mean messages but now they are almost unintelligible. She thinks everyone is conspiring against her with her ex-boyfriend who she was in the accident with (there’s a civil suit over the circumstances of the accident). She has always been on the thin side, 5’2” fluctuating from about 100-115, but she is now about 85 pounds and basically only surviving on the calories from alcohol. She’s not eating, just taking amphetamines and gettin drunk for weeks now. She was in the hospital for a kidney infection earlier this week. I contacted her legal guardian to share my concerns and she (politely) said there isn’t a whole lot we can do. People have a right to get drunk in their own homes. She hasn’t committed a crime or harmed anyone else. Even if they put her in an AFC home, she can up and leave if she pleases. They won’t chain her to the bed. Is there anything that can be done to get her the help she needs before she inevitably drinks and starves herself to death? At this point it almost feels like I just have to sit back and watch her kill herself.
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Never hurts to use all avenues in seeking help for her. So lawyer can guide you in maybe another guardian or what needs to be done to getting the therapy she needs. Good Luck !
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INAL, but a paralegal that works with ADRCs in Wisconsin, just so we're clear- laws in Michigan will be different. That being said, I'm not sure that involuntary commitment will be the way to go. I would contact her social worker, possibly the guardian and suggest that protective placement is in order.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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File a small claims case for the return of your stolen property. Also, let them know you’ll be reporting them to the DFI, they could lose their license for not returning stolen property. Also, regardless of that law they can’t sell your iPad, at that point they’d be knowingly selling stolen merchandise. Nothing in that law suggests they can keep it just because they paid for it. I’d let them know your filing a complaint with the DFI and then file a small claims case for return of stolen property.
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I don't know how the pawn shop law hurts you (financially) here. Pay the money to get it back then sue the pawn shop in small claims court for the return of that money.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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File a small claims case for the return of your stolen property. Also, let them know you’ll be reporting them to the DFI, they could lose their license for not returning stolen property. Also, regardless of that law they can’t sell your iPad, at that point they’d be knowingly selling stolen merchandise. Nothing in that law suggests they can keep it just because they paid for it. I’d let them know your filing a complaint with the DFI and then file a small claims case for return of stolen property.
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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I don't know how the pawn shop law hurts you (financially) here. Pay the money to get it back then sue the pawn shop in small claims court for the return of that money.
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The law says you don’t have to pay, this is protecting you not screwing you. You just have to prove it is your property.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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The law says you don’t have to pay, this is protecting you not screwing you. You just have to prove it is your property.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9iw57
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Somewhat related side note. You can report the counterfeit money to the local (probably Cleveland) office of the Secret Service. They take that crap seriously so if/when they identify the thief, you can use that info to add him as a second defendant to your small claims suit.
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I don't know how the pawn shop law hurts you (financially) here. Pay the money to get it back then sue the pawn shop in small claims court for the return of that money.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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You have to prove it is yours but that is the only requirement, the cops are usually clueless about these things and are a bad source of information
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Somewhat related side note. You can report the counterfeit money to the local (probably Cleveland) office of the Secret Service. They take that crap seriously so if/when they identify the thief, you can use that info to add him as a second defendant to your small claims suit.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9gkmk
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Somewhat related side note. You can report the counterfeit money to the local (probably Cleveland) office of the Secret Service. They take that crap seriously so if/when they identify the thief, you can use that info to add him as a second defendant to your small claims suit.
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9gkmk
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I don't know how the pawn shop law hurts you (financially) here. Pay the money to get it back then sue the pawn shop in small claims court for the return of that money.
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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Not a lawyer but managed a pawnshop for a long time. How it typically works is you file a police report and the police pick it up from the pawnshop. I'd let the pawnshop know it's stolen and you have a police report so they don't do business with the person or sell your item. The police will have to be the one to pick the item up and they will hold it for a long time until the case is done. You will not have to pay for the item back and the pawnshop loses out on money, they can go after the thief for the money but most times it's not worth it so they don't. Detectives actually are pretty quick on these cases once you make a police report, they are not quick to get you your item back since they hold it for a long time though. If you got the original ticket and paid to get it back from the pawnshop, you could have your item fast, but you would have to pay going that route and it's often not worth it.
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Not a lawyer and also partially related: The US secret service would be interested in the counterfeit currency, make sure to report it them too.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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You have to prove it is yours but that is the only requirement, the cops are usually clueless about these things and are a bad source of information
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Not a lawyer but managed a pawnshop for a long time. How it typically works is you file a police report and the police pick it up from the pawnshop. I'd let the pawnshop know it's stolen and you have a police report so they don't do business with the person or sell your item. The police will have to be the one to pick the item up and they will hold it for a long time until the case is done. You will not have to pay for the item back and the pawnshop loses out on money, they can go after the thief for the money but most times it's not worth it so they don't. Detectives actually are pretty quick on these cases once you make a police report, they are not quick to get you your item back since they hold it for a long time though. If you got the original ticket and paid to get it back from the pawnshop, you could have your item fast, but you would have to pay going that route and it's often not worth it.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixa7kmc
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Not a lawyer but managed a pawnshop for a long time. How it typically works is you file a police report and the police pick it up from the pawnshop. I'd let the pawnshop know it's stolen and you have a police report so they don't do business with the person or sell your item. The police will have to be the one to pick the item up and they will hold it for a long time until the case is done. You will not have to pay for the item back and the pawnshop loses out on money, they can go after the thief for the money but most times it's not worth it so they don't. Detectives actually are pretty quick on these cases once you make a police report, they are not quick to get you your item back since they hold it for a long time though. If you got the original ticket and paid to get it back from the pawnshop, you could have your item fast, but you would have to pay going that route and it's often not worth it.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixabfq2
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Not a lawyer and also partially related: The US secret service would be interested in the counterfeit currency, make sure to report it them too.
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First and foremost if the police told you that you have to pay they are wrong and never ever in your life take legal advice from the police, seriously never ever. Based on that link you provided it’s pretty clear. Contact Pawn Shop and ask them when you can come down and show them the police report match serial numbers and get your iPad back. If they tell you that you have to pay let them know that under Ohio law you do not have to pay to receive your stolen property back. You have been notified that you have stolen property and it is illegal to knowingly sell stolen property. Let them know you will be stopping by today or whatever to claim your stolen property. State firmly any further questions of payment to them will result in a complaint being filed with the Division of Financial Institutions and a lawsuit being filed to recoup property and legal fees. Record if possible in your state. No follow through with what you said. The law is on your side as long as the serial numbers match up with the official police report if it goes to trial you are good to go
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9x3w2
| 1,669,072,286 | 1,669,066,098 | 17 | 9 |
First and foremost if the police told you that you have to pay they are wrong and never ever in your life take legal advice from the police, seriously never ever. Based on that link you provided it’s pretty clear. Contact Pawn Shop and ask them when you can come down and show them the police report match serial numbers and get your iPad back. If they tell you that you have to pay let them know that under Ohio law you do not have to pay to receive your stolen property back. You have been notified that you have stolen property and it is illegal to knowingly sell stolen property. Let them know you will be stopping by today or whatever to claim your stolen property. State firmly any further questions of payment to them will result in a complaint being filed with the Division of Financial Institutions and a lawsuit being filed to recoup property and legal fees. Record if possible in your state. No follow through with what you said. The law is on your side as long as the serial numbers match up with the official police report if it goes to trial you are good to go
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You have to prove it is yours but that is the only requirement, the cops are usually clueless about these things and are a bad source of information
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legaladvice_train
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixab0r4
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First and foremost if the police told you that you have to pay they are wrong and never ever in your life take legal advice from the police, seriously never ever. Based on that link you provided it’s pretty clear. Contact Pawn Shop and ask them when you can come down and show them the police report match serial numbers and get your iPad back. If they tell you that you have to pay let them know that under Ohio law you do not have to pay to receive your stolen property back. You have been notified that you have stolen property and it is illegal to knowingly sell stolen property. Let them know you will be stopping by today or whatever to claim your stolen property. State firmly any further questions of payment to them will result in a complaint being filed with the Division of Financial Institutions and a lawsuit being filed to recoup property and legal fees. Record if possible in your state. No follow through with what you said. The law is on your side as long as the serial numbers match up with the official police report if it goes to trial you are good to go
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I would have them fill out a police report if the stolen item isn’t returned. Then give the pawn shop it claiming it was stolen.
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legaladvice_train
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9gkmk
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First and foremost if the police told you that you have to pay they are wrong and never ever in your life take legal advice from the police, seriously never ever. Based on that link you provided it’s pretty clear. Contact Pawn Shop and ask them when you can come down and show them the police report match serial numbers and get your iPad back. If they tell you that you have to pay let them know that under Ohio law you do not have to pay to receive your stolen property back. You have been notified that you have stolen property and it is illegal to knowingly sell stolen property. Let them know you will be stopping by today or whatever to claim your stolen property. State firmly any further questions of payment to them will result in a complaint being filed with the Division of Financial Institutions and a lawsuit being filed to recoup property and legal fees. Record if possible in your state. No follow through with what you said. The law is on your side as long as the serial numbers match up with the official police report if it goes to trial you are good to go
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixa4kaa
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You have to prove it is yours but that is the only requirement, the cops are usually clueless about these things and are a bad source of information
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Not a lawyer and also partially related: The US secret service would be interested in the counterfeit currency, make sure to report it them too.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixa4kaa
| 1,669,059,552 | 1,669,069,228 | 2 | 14 |
>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Not a lawyer and also partially related: The US secret service would be interested in the counterfeit currency, make sure to report it them too.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9gkmk
| 1,669,066,098 | 1,669,059,552 | 9 | 2 |
You have to prove it is yours but that is the only requirement, the cops are usually clueless about these things and are a bad source of information
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixabjay
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I would have them fill out a police report if the stolen item isn’t returned. Then give the pawn shop it claiming it was stolen.
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OH lawyer here but not your lawyer. In Ohio small claims courts cannot order the return of your property. You can sue for the value of the property. If you want the actual item back you should file a claim called replevin. Courts of common pleas can hear these cases. Some municipal courts may be able to also. The general rules of civil procedure apply in these courts. Just filing an action may be enough to get it back. Showing up at the shop and demanding its return may be enough also, but I’d be careful if you do that. Ohio is a single party consent state, so you would be permitted to record any conversation you had at the shop.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixabjay
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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OH lawyer here but not your lawyer. In Ohio small claims courts cannot order the return of your property. You can sue for the value of the property. If you want the actual item back you should file a claim called replevin. Courts of common pleas can hear these cases. Some municipal courts may be able to also. The general rules of civil procedure apply in these courts. Just filing an action may be enough to get it back. Showing up at the shop and demanding its return may be enough also, but I’d be careful if you do that. Ohio is a single party consent state, so you would be permitted to record any conversation you had at the shop.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixac8l6
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Out of curiosity, how much did the pawn shop pay for it? If it is a small amount like $100, it might be easier to pay rather than to sue
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Not part of the original discussion but since it was pawned at the pawn shop, the shop should have the seller's information (though, that's based on if they did their due diligence). Do the police have that information? Or better yet, does the Secret Service since they investigate counterfeiting. Getting the USSS involved might just give the pawn shop the initiative to cooperate.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixac8l6
| 1,669,072,096 | 1,669,072,656 | 3 | 6 |
I would have them fill out a police report if the stolen item isn’t returned. Then give the pawn shop it claiming it was stolen.
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Not part of the original discussion but since it was pawned at the pawn shop, the shop should have the seller's information (though, that's based on if they did their due diligence). Do the police have that information? Or better yet, does the Secret Service since they investigate counterfeiting. Getting the USSS involved might just give the pawn shop the initiative to cooperate.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9gkmk
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Not part of the original discussion but since it was pawned at the pawn shop, the shop should have the seller's information (though, that's based on if they did their due diligence). Do the police have that information? Or better yet, does the Secret Service since they investigate counterfeiting. Getting the USSS involved might just give the pawn shop the initiative to cooperate.
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixac8j4
| 1,669,072,096 | 1,669,072,656 | 3 | 5 |
I would have them fill out a police report if the stolen item isn’t returned. Then give the pawn shop it claiming it was stolen.
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Out of curiosity, how much did the pawn shop pay for it? If it is a small amount like $100, it might be easier to pay rather than to sue
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixac8j4
| 1,669,059,552 | 1,669,072,656 | 2 | 5 |
>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Out of curiosity, how much did the pawn shop pay for it? If it is a small amount like $100, it might be easier to pay rather than to sue
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixbadsh
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I would have them fill out a police report if the stolen item isn’t returned. Then give the pawn shop it claiming it was stolen.
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If the iPad is associated with your Apple ID, you should go to the FindMy app on another device (or on iCloud.com) and use Mark as Lost. That will prevent anyone else from activating it without your password, making it useless for anyone who buys it from the pawn shop. You should tell the pawn shop you've done this. More info here. Also, I'd expect that the pawn shop has business insurance that would cover them for loss in the event that they return the iPad to you after having paid for it. So don't listen to any sob stories about how they'll be out some money if they give it back.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixbadsh
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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If the iPad is associated with your Apple ID, you should go to the FindMy app on another device (or on iCloud.com) and use Mark as Lost. That will prevent anyone else from activating it without your password, making it useless for anyone who buys it from the pawn shop. You should tell the pawn shop you've done this. More info here. Also, I'd expect that the pawn shop has business insurance that would cover them for loss in the event that they return the iPad to you after having paid for it. So don't listen to any sob stories about how they'll be out some money if they give it back.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ixawgas
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I would have them fill out a police report if the stolen item isn’t returned. Then give the pawn shop it claiming it was stolen.
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> Apparently, Ohio has a pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. —— > When local law enforcement informs the pawnbroker that you are the true owner of the item, the pawnbroker may return the stolen property to you. The pawnbroker is not required to return your property to you at that time. However, you can sue the pawnbroker to get your property back. > A pawnbroker may attempt to charge you the pawnbroker’s cost of purchasing the item. You are not required to pay the pawnbroker for your own stolen property. Even if you pay the pawnbroker to get your property back, you may still be able to sue to get back the money you paid plus your legal costs for suing if you win. It looks like it doesn’t actually. You just may have to file whatever the Ohio equivalent of an action in replevin is.
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9gkmk
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> Apparently, Ohio has a pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. —— > When local law enforcement informs the pawnbroker that you are the true owner of the item, the pawnbroker may return the stolen property to you. The pawnbroker is not required to return your property to you at that time. However, you can sue the pawnbroker to get your property back. > A pawnbroker may attempt to charge you the pawnbroker’s cost of purchasing the item. You are not required to pay the pawnbroker for your own stolen property. Even if you pay the pawnbroker to get your property back, you may still be able to sue to get back the money you paid plus your legal costs for suing if you win. It looks like it doesn’t actually. You just may have to file whatever the Ohio equivalent of an action in replevin is.
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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z17rzk
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Northeast Ohio] A pawn shop bought my stolen iPad Pro. The police are saying I have to reimburse the pawn shop the money they spent to buy it, any advice or help? I will try to keep this short and sweet. I have been selling things on the side for some extra money. On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. However, he decided to give me counterfeit money instead. I went and made a police report a few hours later (I went to three different police stations until I found the right one). I was able to give them the Model and Serial number. That is how it got flagged as stolen. I called them last week and they mentioned a pawn shop has it. So the good news is I might be able to get it back the bad news is I don't have the money to pay to get it back. Apparently, Ohio has a [pawn shop law/act that kind of fucks me. Any advice on the best way to go about this would be great. Thank you in advance.
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ix9gkmk
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I would have them fill out a police report if the stolen item isn’t returned. Then give the pawn shop it claiming it was stolen.
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>On 11-3-22 (US date) I met with a gentleman who said they wanted to buy the iPad Pro from me for 800 dollars. Isn't that the full retail price of a brand new iPad Pro? Did you list it for sale for that amount or did you list it for less and he then went over asking and offered you $800?
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Employer using a cell phone service jammer in the state of MS As the title says. I have a 9 month pregnant wife that can’t get in touch with me when she goes into labor so it’s pretty concerning. Google tells me that’s a federal offense to use any kind of jamming device against personal devices in the workplace. What can I do to take action against this?
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ivzlz4m
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https://www.fcc.gov/general/jammer-enforcement If the jamming or interference is imminently threatening safety of life, please contact the FCC’s 24-Hour Operations Center at 202-418-1122. https://consumercomplaints.fcc.gov/hc/en-us/requests/new?ticket\_form\_id=39744
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That sounds like a hammer and those are illegal. Contact the FCC and file a report. People get fined a decent amount such as this driver. https://www.cnet.com/tech/computing/man-put-cell-phone-jammer-in-car-to-stop-driver-calls-fcc-says/
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ysiqlb
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Employer using a cell phone service jammer in the state of MS As the title says. I have a 9 month pregnant wife that can’t get in touch with me when she goes into labor so it’s pretty concerning. Google tells me that’s a federal offense to use any kind of jamming device against personal devices in the workplace. What can I do to take action against this?
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ivz8lkm
| 1,668,197,385 | 1,668,191,960 | 272 | 80 |
That sounds like a hammer and those are illegal. Contact the FCC and file a report. People get fined a decent amount such as this driver. https://www.cnet.com/tech/computing/man-put-cell-phone-jammer-in-car-to-stop-driver-calls-fcc-says/
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Are you sure it is a jammer and just not poor or non-existent signals? Some areas with a lot of metal can act as a sort of Faraday Cage.
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ysiqlb
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Employer using a cell phone service jammer in the state of MS As the title says. I have a 9 month pregnant wife that can’t get in touch with me when she goes into labor so it’s pretty concerning. Google tells me that’s a federal offense to use any kind of jamming device against personal devices in the workplace. What can I do to take action against this?
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ivzbh6i
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ivz8lkm
| 1,668,193,117 | 1,668,191,960 | 246 | 80 |
https://www.fcc.gov/general/jammer-enforcement If the jamming or interference is imminently threatening safety of life, please contact the FCC’s 24-Hour Operations Center at 202-418-1122. https://consumercomplaints.fcc.gov/hc/en-us/requests/new?ticket\_form\_id=39744
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Are you sure it is a jammer and just not poor or non-existent signals? Some areas with a lot of metal can act as a sort of Faraday Cage.
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eisuol5
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Even though you're legally an adult, tell your parents about what happened. At the very least you and your mother should cease all contact & communication with this person. I'd also strongly advise consulting with an attorney to see what steps they recommend taking. You may even have grounds to file charges against her. Trying to extort you for money under threat of filing false charges is a felony in CA (518 PC). Threatening you with bodily harm ('brother is a crazy man') is also a crime (422(a) PC). She could also be opening herself up to a slander lawsuit if she spreads the false accusations.
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are you in a one party state for recording? If so then most certainly get a recording. Also people who attempt to blackmail others are obviously stupid and desperate. Tell her that if she comes sniffing around trying to blackmail you will report her to CPS and the police. Also stop talking to her unless it is for the sole purpose of recording the threats. Also tell your mother, the fact she may not know her friends are using her for money and are willing to blackmail her family is pretty disturbing coming from a 'Friend'
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eisuwkb
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This is straight up blackmail - no ones first thought after thinking their child was sexually assaulted is to be financially compensated. Tell your parents ASAP. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
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Call the police non-emergency number and report her. This is blackmail, and getting the clear extortion attempt on the record can go a long way towards establishing doubt if she decides to file a police report for child rape. Furthermore, try and get a recording of her threatening you. CA law on covert recordings is very interesting and strict relative to most other states but there are some ginormous loopholes you can exploit. https://www.stimmel-law.com/en/articles/secret-recording-conversations-california-crime . Tell your mother, father and the cops in that order. This is your life here, I work in the healthcare field on the biz side. Even if these false accusations were dismissed/found not guilty there is no way I'd ever hire you unless you were literally the only candidate available.
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eit0lu9
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eisuol5
| 1,552,921,312 | 1,552,916,576 | 269 | 34 |
This is straight up blackmail - no ones first thought after thinking their child was sexually assaulted is to be financially compensated. Tell your parents ASAP. I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
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are you in a one party state for recording? If so then most certainly get a recording. Also people who attempt to blackmail others are obviously stupid and desperate. Tell her that if she comes sniffing around trying to blackmail you will report her to CPS and the police. Also stop talking to her unless it is for the sole purpose of recording the threats. Also tell your mother, the fact she may not know her friends are using her for money and are willing to blackmail her family is pretty disturbing coming from a 'Friend'
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eisuwkb
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eisuol5
| 1,552,916,766 | 1,552,916,576 | 157 | 34 |
Call the police non-emergency number and report her. This is blackmail, and getting the clear extortion attempt on the record can go a long way towards establishing doubt if she decides to file a police report for child rape. Furthermore, try and get a recording of her threatening you. CA law on covert recordings is very interesting and strict relative to most other states but there are some ginormous loopholes you can exploit. https://www.stimmel-law.com/en/articles/secret-recording-conversations-california-crime . Tell your mother, father and the cops in that order. This is your life here, I work in the healthcare field on the biz side. Even if these false accusations were dismissed/found not guilty there is no way I'd ever hire you unless you were literally the only candidate available.
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are you in a one party state for recording? If so then most certainly get a recording. Also people who attempt to blackmail others are obviously stupid and desperate. Tell her that if she comes sniffing around trying to blackmail you will report her to CPS and the police. Also stop talking to her unless it is for the sole purpose of recording the threats. Also tell your mother, the fact she may not know her friends are using her for money and are willing to blackmail her family is pretty disturbing coming from a 'Friend'
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eit4hlc
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eisuol5
| 1,552,924,088 | 1,552,916,576 | 61 | 34 |
Are you in Canada or California? You might edit your post for clarity.
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are you in a one party state for recording? If so then most certainly get a recording. Also people who attempt to blackmail others are obviously stupid and desperate. Tell her that if she comes sniffing around trying to blackmail you will report her to CPS and the police. Also stop talking to her unless it is for the sole purpose of recording the threats. Also tell your mother, the fact she may not know her friends are using her for money and are willing to blackmail her family is pretty disturbing coming from a 'Friend'
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitjfgb
| 1,552,928,359 | 1,552,934,204 | 18 | 23 |
I would say tell BOTH parents,and they can get you a lawyer
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I would go straight to the police and tell them what she said. That is straight up extortion, if she honestly believed you abused her daughter and cared about protecting her she wouldn't be seeking money to cover for you.
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitjfgb
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eitdovm
| 1,552,934,204 | 1,552,930,287 | 23 | 7 |
I would go straight to the police and tell them what she said. That is straight up extortion, if she honestly believed you abused her daughter and cared about protecting her she wouldn't be seeking money to cover for you.
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What a bitch. I agree with other commentors suggesting you report this to the cops. I don't want to fill you with any more dread, but if she starts coaching her daughter to lie in order to perpetuate her claim, you want to get in front of that ASAP.
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitjfgb
| 1,552,932,210 | 1,552,934,204 | 6 | 23 |
Call the RCMP and report her extortion attempt. Tell your parents.
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I would go straight to the police and tell them what she said. That is straight up extortion, if she honestly believed you abused her daughter and cared about protecting her she wouldn't be seeking money to cover for you.
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitjfgb
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eitfgep
| 1,552,934,204 | 1,552,931,482 | 23 | 5 |
I would go straight to the police and tell them what she said. That is straight up extortion, if she honestly believed you abused her daughter and cared about protecting her she wouldn't be seeking money to cover for you.
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If one party consent recording is allowed in your area, check this first. I would speak to your mother and have her go over to confront Janet, under the guise of furious mother can't believe her friend would do this. Your mother should secretly record all of this as Janet is likely to either deny anything like this happened or she will admit to some of it on tape. Either way the recording will be of use if the police are called. Just be careful that your mother isn't in on it. I don't know you, I don't know your mother so i can only speculate but divorced spouses of rich people have some times done some messed up things to try get more money from their exes as they can't deal with the drop in lifestyle.
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitdovm
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eitpra4
| 1,552,930,287 | 1,552,938,583 | 7 | 12 |
What a bitch. I agree with other commentors suggesting you report this to the cops. I don't want to fill you with any more dread, but if she starts coaching her daughter to lie in order to perpetuate her claim, you want to get in front of that ASAP.
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Paying money is as good as admitting guilt, and they will come back for more. You need to talk to a lawyer, your parents and the police. Hopefully the state will take her child from her as these are the actions of someone who is a total piece of shit
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitgj9b
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eitpra4
| 1,552,932,210 | 1,552,938,583 | 6 | 12 |
Call the RCMP and report her extortion attempt. Tell your parents.
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Paying money is as good as admitting guilt, and they will come back for more. You need to talk to a lawyer, your parents and the police. Hopefully the state will take her child from her as these are the actions of someone who is a total piece of shit
| 0 | 6,373 | 2 |
b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitpra4
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eitn31d
| 1,552,938,583 | 1,552,936,740 | 12 | 6 |
Paying money is as good as admitting guilt, and they will come back for more. You need to talk to a lawyer, your parents and the police. Hopefully the state will take her child from her as these are the actions of someone who is a total piece of shit
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Get a lawyer asap. Call police and report her. If the police interrogate you, don't freak out. It's just their job. They can't charge you without evidence.
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitpra4
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eitfgep
| 1,552,938,583 | 1,552,931,482 | 12 | 5 |
Paying money is as good as admitting guilt, and they will come back for more. You need to talk to a lawyer, your parents and the police. Hopefully the state will take her child from her as these are the actions of someone who is a total piece of shit
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If one party consent recording is allowed in your area, check this first. I would speak to your mother and have her go over to confront Janet, under the guise of furious mother can't believe her friend would do this. Your mother should secretly record all of this as Janet is likely to either deny anything like this happened or she will admit to some of it on tape. Either way the recording will be of use if the police are called. Just be careful that your mother isn't in on it. I don't know you, I don't know your mother so i can only speculate but divorced spouses of rich people have some times done some messed up things to try get more money from their exes as they can't deal with the drop in lifestyle.
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitgj9b
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eitfgep
| 1,552,932,210 | 1,552,931,482 | 6 | 5 |
Call the RCMP and report her extortion attempt. Tell your parents.
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If one party consent recording is allowed in your area, check this first. I would speak to your mother and have her go over to confront Janet, under the guise of furious mother can't believe her friend would do this. Your mother should secretly record all of this as Janet is likely to either deny anything like this happened or she will admit to some of it on tape. Either way the recording will be of use if the police are called. Just be careful that your mother isn't in on it. I don't know you, I don't know your mother so i can only speculate but divorced spouses of rich people have some times done some messed up things to try get more money from their exes as they can't deal with the drop in lifestyle.
| 1 | 728 | 1.2 |
b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitn31d
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eitfgep
| 1,552,936,740 | 1,552,931,482 | 6 | 5 |
Get a lawyer asap. Call police and report her. If the police interrogate you, don't freak out. It's just their job. They can't charge you without evidence.
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If one party consent recording is allowed in your area, check this first. I would speak to your mother and have her go over to confront Janet, under the guise of furious mother can't believe her friend would do this. Your mother should secretly record all of this as Janet is likely to either deny anything like this happened or she will admit to some of it on tape. Either way the recording will be of use if the police are called. Just be careful that your mother isn't in on it. I don't know you, I don't know your mother so i can only speculate but divorced spouses of rich people have some times done some messed up things to try get more money from their exes as they can't deal with the drop in lifestyle.
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eitfgep
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eitqsoq
| 1,552,931,482 | 1,552,939,484 | 5 | 6 |
If one party consent recording is allowed in your area, check this first. I would speak to your mother and have her go over to confront Janet, under the guise of furious mother can't believe her friend would do this. Your mother should secretly record all of this as Janet is likely to either deny anything like this happened or she will admit to some of it on tape. Either way the recording will be of use if the police are called. Just be careful that your mother isn't in on it. I don't know you, I don't know your mother so i can only speculate but divorced spouses of rich people have some times done some messed up things to try get more money from their exes as they can't deal with the drop in lifestyle.
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Contact the police. Hopefully they can talk to the child before her mom starts putting lies in her mouth!
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b2igva
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[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eiunfnw
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eiut8pt
| 1,552,963,932 | 1,552,969,175 | 2 | 3 |
Nal. As others have said, lawyer and police. While things are fresh, write down exactly what you did that evening and even refer to screen shots ( if you watched something on Netflix etc).
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The advice here is so terrible. Contact a lawyer before you do anything. You do not want to get into a he said / she said. She will obviously deny this and claim you are just doing this preemptively before you got caught. Contrary to 80% of legal advice in this sub, it's not always in your best interest to immediately go and report things to the authorities. It is always in your best interest to get a lawyer.
| 0 | 5,243 | 1.5 |
b2igva
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legaladvice_train
| 0.96 |
[CA] My [18 Male] mother’s neighbour and friend is blackmailing me and falsely accusing me of sexually abusing her daughter Hi reddit. I live with my father most of the time and occasionally stay over at my moms. My mom has a friend/neighbour who lives a few doors down from her, and this friend, let’s call her Janet, has a five year old daughter. Janet and my mom were planning a night out together but was struggling to find a babysitter, so my mother suggested I babysit her daughter until they get back. Of course, I was happy to do so as I love kids and had nothing else to do. Fast forward to the babysitting - we watched TV, I made food for her, put her to bed and spent the rest of the time sitting on their couch until Janet returned home. A day later, before I was leaving to go home to my father’s, Janet approached me and told me that I ‘better compensate her or else she will tell people and the police that I sexually abused her daughter’. And that her brother is a crazy man. I don’t know what to do - I want to work with kids, I’m going to university next year to study medicine (i want to go into pediatrics / emergency medicine) and I have worked so hard to get the right grades needed to pursue medicine. I feel like I’m going to lose no matter what happens. My father is kind of wealthy and I’m not sure if she is blackmailing me because of what my mom has said about money (they’re divorced). Im worried that she’ll report me for a crime I did not commit which will end up ruining my chances of practicing medicine and working with kids one day. I’ve thought about getting a recording of her blackmailing me. Please give me some advice, I’m really worried and I feel sick. I haven’t told anyone yet
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eiuo6gg
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eiut8pt
| 1,552,964,542 | 1,552,969,175 | 2 | 3 |
Wtf is wrong with people
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The advice here is so terrible. Contact a lawyer before you do anything. You do not want to get into a he said / she said. She will obviously deny this and claim you are just doing this preemptively before you got caught. Contrary to 80% of legal advice in this sub, it's not always in your best interest to immediately go and report things to the authorities. It is always in your best interest to get a lawyer.
| 0 | 4,633 | 1.5 |
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