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bguacp | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wife moved out while I was work, won't let me see my son now. Hi, new to reddit. Need advice on what do to please.. ​ My wife and I haven't been getting along for awhile. I work nights and came home Saturday morning to a house with only my bed and sectional. My wife while I was at work moved out and took everything. I called her and she came over later that day and agreed to move back in if we went to marriage counseling. Went back to work that night expecting to come home and her and my son to be moved back in. Well i'm assuming with the influence of her family, they talked her out of it because she decided not to move back in and is now refusing to come to the house. Now she is pretty much refusing me to let me see my son. She doesn't respond to my text and when I call her she only wants to meet at a park after work so I can see my son for like 20 min. She refusing to let me take him for several hours, ect. I thought about picking him up from daycare but she took my key to get into the daycare. Also her mother works at the daycare and may refuse to let me take him. ​ My question is what is my legal right to see my son and pick him up from day care if I want to spend time with him while she is at work. And what is my legal right to all the stuff she took from my house? Also I live in Illinois. | elnq0yo | elnks3t | 1,556,115,931 | 1,556,112,553 | 779 | 116 | I'm a lawyer. Get a lawyer. Immediately. Getting into fights about picking up your son, trying to outdo each other by beating each other to the daycare, etc., is a recipe for absolute disaster. This can have very bad consequences, and they're entirely avoidable. Here's what you do: 1. Call a lawyer and make an appointment. Do this immediately. 2. Take the emotion out of the situation. Feel free to try to arrange time with your son in the time between now and your meeting with your lawyer, but don't get aggressive about it. "Hey, I'd love to spend an hour with son at the park so he knows everything is going to be OK." Don't bother taking him out of daycare without discussing with you spouse. This will get cops called, and all manner of nastiness. 3. Protect your bank accounts. This is actually before your calls re: son, but open a you-only account, put your money in it, and switch direct deposit. With your free time, update beneficiaries, etc. Also, save as much money as possible. Necessities are obviously fine, but you're going to have to come up with cash for the lawyer, and there's going to be a whole lot of looking at your finances. Finally, no arguing, name calling, or nastiness. You're blindsided and probably angry, but that will only cause you problems. Keep cool, especially for your son. He's going to need a lot of love and support. Good luck. | You need to see a divorce lawyer ASAP | 1 | 3,378 | 6.715517 |
bguacp | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wife moved out while I was work, won't let me see my son now. Hi, new to reddit. Need advice on what do to please.. ​ My wife and I haven't been getting along for awhile. I work nights and came home Saturday morning to a house with only my bed and sectional. My wife while I was at work moved out and took everything. I called her and she came over later that day and agreed to move back in if we went to marriage counseling. Went back to work that night expecting to come home and her and my son to be moved back in. Well i'm assuming with the influence of her family, they talked her out of it because she decided not to move back in and is now refusing to come to the house. Now she is pretty much refusing me to let me see my son. She doesn't respond to my text and when I call her she only wants to meet at a park after work so I can see my son for like 20 min. She refusing to let me take him for several hours, ect. I thought about picking him up from daycare but she took my key to get into the daycare. Also her mother works at the daycare and may refuse to let me take him. ​ My question is what is my legal right to see my son and pick him up from day care if I want to spend time with him while she is at work. And what is my legal right to all the stuff she took from my house? Also I live in Illinois. | elnq0yo | elnmxym | 1,556,115,931 | 1,556,113,977 | 779 | 64 | I'm a lawyer. Get a lawyer. Immediately. Getting into fights about picking up your son, trying to outdo each other by beating each other to the daycare, etc., is a recipe for absolute disaster. This can have very bad consequences, and they're entirely avoidable. Here's what you do: 1. Call a lawyer and make an appointment. Do this immediately. 2. Take the emotion out of the situation. Feel free to try to arrange time with your son in the time between now and your meeting with your lawyer, but don't get aggressive about it. "Hey, I'd love to spend an hour with son at the park so he knows everything is going to be OK." Don't bother taking him out of daycare without discussing with you spouse. This will get cops called, and all manner of nastiness. 3. Protect your bank accounts. This is actually before your calls re: son, but open a you-only account, put your money in it, and switch direct deposit. With your free time, update beneficiaries, etc. Also, save as much money as possible. Necessities are obviously fine, but you're going to have to come up with cash for the lawyer, and there's going to be a whole lot of looking at your finances. Finally, no arguing, name calling, or nastiness. You're blindsided and probably angry, but that will only cause you problems. Keep cool, especially for your son. He's going to need a lot of love and support. Good luck. | Lawyer. Lawyer. Lawyer. Don't trust your parenting rights to internet strangers. | 1 | 1,954 | 12.171875 |
bguacp | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wife moved out while I was work, won't let me see my son now. Hi, new to reddit. Need advice on what do to please.. ​ My wife and I haven't been getting along for awhile. I work nights and came home Saturday morning to a house with only my bed and sectional. My wife while I was at work moved out and took everything. I called her and she came over later that day and agreed to move back in if we went to marriage counseling. Went back to work that night expecting to come home and her and my son to be moved back in. Well i'm assuming with the influence of her family, they talked her out of it because she decided not to move back in and is now refusing to come to the house. Now she is pretty much refusing me to let me see my son. She doesn't respond to my text and when I call her she only wants to meet at a park after work so I can see my son for like 20 min. She refusing to let me take him for several hours, ect. I thought about picking him up from daycare but she took my key to get into the daycare. Also her mother works at the daycare and may refuse to let me take him. ​ My question is what is my legal right to see my son and pick him up from day care if I want to spend time with him while she is at work. And what is my legal right to all the stuff she took from my house? Also I live in Illinois. | elnimwo | elnq0yo | 1,556,110,991 | 1,556,115,931 | 40 | 779 | I assume you are the legal father and as such you have equal rights to be with your son. I wish you luck | I'm a lawyer. Get a lawyer. Immediately. Getting into fights about picking up your son, trying to outdo each other by beating each other to the daycare, etc., is a recipe for absolute disaster. This can have very bad consequences, and they're entirely avoidable. Here's what you do: 1. Call a lawyer and make an appointment. Do this immediately. 2. Take the emotion out of the situation. Feel free to try to arrange time with your son in the time between now and your meeting with your lawyer, but don't get aggressive about it. "Hey, I'd love to spend an hour with son at the park so he knows everything is going to be OK." Don't bother taking him out of daycare without discussing with you spouse. This will get cops called, and all manner of nastiness. 3. Protect your bank accounts. This is actually before your calls re: son, but open a you-only account, put your money in it, and switch direct deposit. With your free time, update beneficiaries, etc. Also, save as much money as possible. Necessities are obviously fine, but you're going to have to come up with cash for the lawyer, and there's going to be a whole lot of looking at your finances. Finally, no arguing, name calling, or nastiness. You're blindsided and probably angry, but that will only cause you problems. Keep cool, especially for your son. He's going to need a lot of love and support. Good luck. | 0 | 4,940 | 19.475 |
bguacp | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wife moved out while I was work, won't let me see my son now. Hi, new to reddit. Need advice on what do to please.. ​ My wife and I haven't been getting along for awhile. I work nights and came home Saturday morning to a house with only my bed and sectional. My wife while I was at work moved out and took everything. I called her and she came over later that day and agreed to move back in if we went to marriage counseling. Went back to work that night expecting to come home and her and my son to be moved back in. Well i'm assuming with the influence of her family, they talked her out of it because she decided not to move back in and is now refusing to come to the house. Now she is pretty much refusing me to let me see my son. She doesn't respond to my text and when I call her she only wants to meet at a park after work so I can see my son for like 20 min. She refusing to let me take him for several hours, ect. I thought about picking him up from daycare but she took my key to get into the daycare. Also her mother works at the daycare and may refuse to let me take him. ​ My question is what is my legal right to see my son and pick him up from day care if I want to spend time with him while she is at work. And what is my legal right to all the stuff she took from my house? Also I live in Illinois. | elnimwo | elnks3t | 1,556,110,991 | 1,556,112,553 | 40 | 116 | I assume you are the legal father and as such you have equal rights to be with your son. I wish you luck | You need to see a divorce lawyer ASAP | 0 | 1,562 | 2.9 |
bguacp | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wife moved out while I was work, won't let me see my son now. Hi, new to reddit. Need advice on what do to please.. ​ My wife and I haven't been getting along for awhile. I work nights and came home Saturday morning to a house with only my bed and sectional. My wife while I was at work moved out and took everything. I called her and she came over later that day and agreed to move back in if we went to marriage counseling. Went back to work that night expecting to come home and her and my son to be moved back in. Well i'm assuming with the influence of her family, they talked her out of it because she decided not to move back in and is now refusing to come to the house. Now she is pretty much refusing me to let me see my son. She doesn't respond to my text and when I call her she only wants to meet at a park after work so I can see my son for like 20 min. She refusing to let me take him for several hours, ect. I thought about picking him up from daycare but she took my key to get into the daycare. Also her mother works at the daycare and may refuse to let me take him. ​ My question is what is my legal right to see my son and pick him up from day care if I want to spend time with him while she is at work. And what is my legal right to all the stuff she took from my house? Also I live in Illinois. | elnimwo | elnmxym | 1,556,110,991 | 1,556,113,977 | 40 | 64 | I assume you are the legal father and as such you have equal rights to be with your son. I wish you luck | Lawyer. Lawyer. Lawyer. Don't trust your parenting rights to internet strangers. | 0 | 2,986 | 1.6 |
bguacp | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wife moved out while I was work, won't let me see my son now. Hi, new to reddit. Need advice on what do to please.. ​ My wife and I haven't been getting along for awhile. I work nights and came home Saturday morning to a house with only my bed and sectional. My wife while I was at work moved out and took everything. I called her and she came over later that day and agreed to move back in if we went to marriage counseling. Went back to work that night expecting to come home and her and my son to be moved back in. Well i'm assuming with the influence of her family, they talked her out of it because she decided not to move back in and is now refusing to come to the house. Now she is pretty much refusing me to let me see my son. She doesn't respond to my text and when I call her she only wants to meet at a park after work so I can see my son for like 20 min. She refusing to let me take him for several hours, ect. I thought about picking him up from daycare but she took my key to get into the daycare. Also her mother works at the daycare and may refuse to let me take him. ​ My question is what is my legal right to see my son and pick him up from day care if I want to spend time with him while she is at work. And what is my legal right to all the stuff she took from my house? Also I live in Illinois. | elnimwo | elnqph9 | 1,556,110,991 | 1,556,116,360 | 40 | 52 | I assume you are the legal father and as such you have equal rights to be with your son. I wish you luck | First, you need to talk to a lawyer. Call one and set up an appointment. Before you go, make a list of all the stuff she's taken from the house. He'll want that. Right now, you're in a pretty good position, because she's screwed up twice already. Taking all the marital property instead of working out an equal share, and refusing you access to your son. The courts don't like that kind of thing. If you try to self-help (by taking stuff back, or taking your son from day care) then you can look bad, too. It's hard, but don't do that. Wait for your lawyer to get you a temporary custody order. Then, when you pick up your son and her mom refuses, *you* can be the one who can call the cops and show them the judge's order. In the end, you should end up with shared custody and roughly half of your stuff back, but be sure to do it legally. | 0 | 5,369 | 1.3 |
bguacp | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Wife moved out while I was work, won't let me see my son now. Hi, new to reddit. Need advice on what do to please.. ​ My wife and I haven't been getting along for awhile. I work nights and came home Saturday morning to a house with only my bed and sectional. My wife while I was at work moved out and took everything. I called her and she came over later that day and agreed to move back in if we went to marriage counseling. Went back to work that night expecting to come home and her and my son to be moved back in. Well i'm assuming with the influence of her family, they talked her out of it because she decided not to move back in and is now refusing to come to the house. Now she is pretty much refusing me to let me see my son. She doesn't respond to my text and when I call her she only wants to meet at a park after work so I can see my son for like 20 min. She refusing to let me take him for several hours, ect. I thought about picking him up from daycare but she took my key to get into the daycare. Also her mother works at the daycare and may refuse to let me take him. ​ My question is what is my legal right to see my son and pick him up from day care if I want to spend time with him while she is at work. And what is my legal right to all the stuff she took from my house? Also I live in Illinois. | eloyz1w | elo6map | 1,556,142,682 | 1,556,125,860 | 5 | 3 | Get a lawyer now. Do not do anything else. | I am not a lawyer but I would also start recording your conversations between you and your wife. Illinois is a one party consent state for electronic communication. | 1 | 16,822 | 1.666667 |
hxrk70 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | My boyfriend was rear ended while traveling from one work location to another last night. Car at fault took off. Work won't let him take anymore days off. Last night my boyfriend got rear ended while driving from one work location to another. He works for a major gas station (think Exxon/Shell, etc) and was told to help out at another location that needed coverage. During his drive, he was hit by another vehicle, who immediately took off. He chased her but eventually lost her after she got on the highway. He has a dashcam (front view only) so he has her license plate number. He stopped somewhere nearby and called the police. While waiting for the police, another car came by and said they witnessed the whole thing and tried to follow her but to no avail, though they did provide more of a description of the driver to the police officer once he arrived. Since he was covering another location that night, he was told he didn't have any more available days off and worked the rest of the shift. After work, he went to urgent care on base nearby the house since he's in the reserves. He had a ct scan done. Called up his insurance which says he has to pay a $500 deductible in regard to the car, but he hasn't called her insurance since his phone died. He was told to not go back to work for another 5 days, but he doesnt have anymore days available to get off, so hes going to work for the rest of his work week (Friday - Tuesday nights) I'm asking him to stay home, but he's adamant on working even though he keeps having back pains from an old injury he received while in the Navy that's now resurface because of this. He's currently asleep (just got home) so he hasn't called her insurance nor the gas stations corporate office about his accident. Can there be anything done in regard to him staying home and possibly being fired, cost of medical and damage to car? What can I do for him since he's leaving everything to insurance after he filed that police report? Is there anything we can do in this instance? Location: Texas | fz85ob7 | fz8f1bn | 1,595,706,245 | 1,595,709,476 | 5 | 20 | He needs to get ahold of the HR department for his company. Explain what happened and go from there. | Because he was traveling on behalf of his employers between work locations, he may be covered by workers compensation for the medical costs and any time off. He should call HR to report a work related injury. It's possible he is also covered by his employer's insurance for vehicle repairs because he was traveling on their behalf. He should coordinate with HR, and if he can't get resolution from them, consult a workers compensation attorney. | 0 | 3,231 | 4 |
hxrk70 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | My boyfriend was rear ended while traveling from one work location to another last night. Car at fault took off. Work won't let him take anymore days off. Last night my boyfriend got rear ended while driving from one work location to another. He works for a major gas station (think Exxon/Shell, etc) and was told to help out at another location that needed coverage. During his drive, he was hit by another vehicle, who immediately took off. He chased her but eventually lost her after she got on the highway. He has a dashcam (front view only) so he has her license plate number. He stopped somewhere nearby and called the police. While waiting for the police, another car came by and said they witnessed the whole thing and tried to follow her but to no avail, though they did provide more of a description of the driver to the police officer once he arrived. Since he was covering another location that night, he was told he didn't have any more available days off and worked the rest of the shift. After work, he went to urgent care on base nearby the house since he's in the reserves. He had a ct scan done. Called up his insurance which says he has to pay a $500 deductible in regard to the car, but he hasn't called her insurance since his phone died. He was told to not go back to work for another 5 days, but he doesnt have anymore days available to get off, so hes going to work for the rest of his work week (Friday - Tuesday nights) I'm asking him to stay home, but he's adamant on working even though he keeps having back pains from an old injury he received while in the Navy that's now resurface because of this. He's currently asleep (just got home) so he hasn't called her insurance nor the gas stations corporate office about his accident. Can there be anything done in regard to him staying home and possibly being fired, cost of medical and damage to car? What can I do for him since he's leaving everything to insurance after he filed that police report? Is there anything we can do in this instance? Location: Texas | fz8f1bn | fz7zl4g | 1,595,709,476 | 1,595,703,750 | 20 | 5 | Because he was traveling on behalf of his employers between work locations, he may be covered by workers compensation for the medical costs and any time off. He should call HR to report a work related injury. It's possible he is also covered by his employer's insurance for vehicle repairs because he was traveling on their behalf. He should coordinate with HR, and if he can't get resolution from them, consult a workers compensation attorney. | As far as the time off work that depends entirely on how long he has been with the company, how many hours worked, does he have PTO? Was he on company time during the accident or just scheduled a shift at another location? | 1 | 5,726 | 4 |
67cqvi | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Am I liable to pay my son's friend's hospital bill? I brought him to the emergency room. In Oregon/Washington USA. My 14 year old son snuck out and got drunk with some friends. One of his friends ("Josh", also 14) was brought back to our home at 2 AM unconscious and barely breathing. I (at this point) did not have his parent's contact information to notify them, but immediately drove him to the emergency room. I provided the hospital with my information, and made clear the situation. The woman at the front desk was able to pull up my information as I'd be a patient there before. She told me that I would not be sent a bill. Just to be clear here, the hospital is in Oregon, but Josh's family live in Washington. I live in Oregon, on the border. Myself, my husband, and our son waited at the emergency room for about 6 hours until Josh's mother was contacted and came in. At this point, Josh is definitely okay. She had a very emotional reaction, and had to be escorted out of the hospital by staff. Basically, yelling at me, my family, the hospital staff, etc. Josh's father then arrives, he and I speak for a moment and he seems upset about the bill. He says that his insurance plan isn't very good. This was roughly 2 months ago and his family has been harassing me to try to get me to pay Josh's hospital bill. The hospital called me and told me that they were told that I'd be paying it; they could not tell me how much it was for due to HIIPA. So I'm not really sure what to do with that information. Apparently Josh has told his parents that he was "not that drunk" and definitely did not need to go to the hospital, and they seem to be buying it. I would think that this would be verifiable by asking the hospital, as he is a minor, but I'm also unsure how HIIPA factors into that. I'm unsure of my liability here. I did make the decision that he needed emergency care, drove him there, and provided the hospital with my information. On the other hand, this is not my child and you generally have to pay for your own kid's fuck ups. I'm having trouble finding good information on this, most of my google searches have turned up individual hospital billing policies or things of that nature. Any advice is appreciated! | dgpf1wr | dgpt13i | 1,493,076,525 | 1,493,095,874 | 182 | 355 | I am not a lawyer - if he's a minor, his parents should be able to find out that information. I would think that tests were done to show levels of intoxication so the medical personnel could treat him appropriately. And I don't see where HIPAA would play into how much the bill is that they wanted you to pay. Sheesh, if I were the parents I would be grateful that you saved their son's life by taking him to hospital. | I'm a physician, not a lawyer. My advice for next time to limit your liability is to call 9-11. You don't need or want to be transporting potentially critical individuals yourself. What if they go into cardiac arrest and/or stop breathing completely while you're driving? What if he wasn't simply drunk but took a bunch of opioids or sedatives along with the booze? What if he starts seizing? As you can probably guess there are a million things that can go wrong in a situation like this, and for every one of them you are totally unequipped and unqualified to handle it. There is also the fact that by you driving him and waiting in the ED, you opened yourself up to questions about proximate supervision/responsibility (ofc only an attorney can clarify this aspect for you). But, it does seem to me that you overexposed yourself here. Next time, let the paramedics come and evaluate the person. They can decide (through their M.D. supervisors via dispatch) how to handle the situation if it isn't obvious. | 0 | 19,349 | 1.950549 |
67cqvi | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Am I liable to pay my son's friend's hospital bill? I brought him to the emergency room. In Oregon/Washington USA. My 14 year old son snuck out and got drunk with some friends. One of his friends ("Josh", also 14) was brought back to our home at 2 AM unconscious and barely breathing. I (at this point) did not have his parent's contact information to notify them, but immediately drove him to the emergency room. I provided the hospital with my information, and made clear the situation. The woman at the front desk was able to pull up my information as I'd be a patient there before. She told me that I would not be sent a bill. Just to be clear here, the hospital is in Oregon, but Josh's family live in Washington. I live in Oregon, on the border. Myself, my husband, and our son waited at the emergency room for about 6 hours until Josh's mother was contacted and came in. At this point, Josh is definitely okay. She had a very emotional reaction, and had to be escorted out of the hospital by staff. Basically, yelling at me, my family, the hospital staff, etc. Josh's father then arrives, he and I speak for a moment and he seems upset about the bill. He says that his insurance plan isn't very good. This was roughly 2 months ago and his family has been harassing me to try to get me to pay Josh's hospital bill. The hospital called me and told me that they were told that I'd be paying it; they could not tell me how much it was for due to HIIPA. So I'm not really sure what to do with that information. Apparently Josh has told his parents that he was "not that drunk" and definitely did not need to go to the hospital, and they seem to be buying it. I would think that this would be verifiable by asking the hospital, as he is a minor, but I'm also unsure how HIIPA factors into that. I'm unsure of my liability here. I did make the decision that he needed emergency care, drove him there, and provided the hospital with my information. On the other hand, this is not my child and you generally have to pay for your own kid's fuck ups. I'm having trouble finding good information on this, most of my google searches have turned up individual hospital billing policies or things of that nature. Any advice is appreciated! | dgplm1j | dgpt13i | 1,493,084,991 | 1,493,095,874 | 129 | 355 | Damn, what shitty parents. Would they rather have their son die of alcohol poisoning? | I'm a physician, not a lawyer. My advice for next time to limit your liability is to call 9-11. You don't need or want to be transporting potentially critical individuals yourself. What if they go into cardiac arrest and/or stop breathing completely while you're driving? What if he wasn't simply drunk but took a bunch of opioids or sedatives along with the booze? What if he starts seizing? As you can probably guess there are a million things that can go wrong in a situation like this, and for every one of them you are totally unequipped and unqualified to handle it. There is also the fact that by you driving him and waiting in the ED, you opened yourself up to questions about proximate supervision/responsibility (ofc only an attorney can clarify this aspect for you). But, it does seem to me that you overexposed yourself here. Next time, let the paramedics come and evaluate the person. They can decide (through their M.D. supervisors via dispatch) how to handle the situation if it isn't obvious. | 0 | 10,883 | 2.751938 |
67cqvi | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Am I liable to pay my son's friend's hospital bill? I brought him to the emergency room. In Oregon/Washington USA. My 14 year old son snuck out and got drunk with some friends. One of his friends ("Josh", also 14) was brought back to our home at 2 AM unconscious and barely breathing. I (at this point) did not have his parent's contact information to notify them, but immediately drove him to the emergency room. I provided the hospital with my information, and made clear the situation. The woman at the front desk was able to pull up my information as I'd be a patient there before. She told me that I would not be sent a bill. Just to be clear here, the hospital is in Oregon, but Josh's family live in Washington. I live in Oregon, on the border. Myself, my husband, and our son waited at the emergency room for about 6 hours until Josh's mother was contacted and came in. At this point, Josh is definitely okay. She had a very emotional reaction, and had to be escorted out of the hospital by staff. Basically, yelling at me, my family, the hospital staff, etc. Josh's father then arrives, he and I speak for a moment and he seems upset about the bill. He says that his insurance plan isn't very good. This was roughly 2 months ago and his family has been harassing me to try to get me to pay Josh's hospital bill. The hospital called me and told me that they were told that I'd be paying it; they could not tell me how much it was for due to HIIPA. So I'm not really sure what to do with that information. Apparently Josh has told his parents that he was "not that drunk" and definitely did not need to go to the hospital, and they seem to be buying it. I would think that this would be verifiable by asking the hospital, as he is a minor, but I'm also unsure how HIIPA factors into that. I'm unsure of my liability here. I did make the decision that he needed emergency care, drove him there, and provided the hospital with my information. On the other hand, this is not my child and you generally have to pay for your own kid's fuck ups. I'm having trouble finding good information on this, most of my google searches have turned up individual hospital billing policies or things of that nature. Any advice is appreciated! | dgphkoa | dgpt13i | 1,493,079,818 | 1,493,095,874 | 82 | 355 | Unless you signed something saying you agree to pay for the bill you're not responsible for it. End of story. The only possible way you could be liable is if they were to sue you for negligence for not properly supervising the kids, or if criminal charges were pressed on you and as part of a deal you agreed to pay the bills. Based on what you've said neither of these scenarios sounds likely to happen. You should probably (in writing), contact the hospital and let them know that in no way, shape, or form have you agreed to pay for these bills. You don't want the hospital to mistakenly send the bills to collections in your name and go on your credit. As far as talking with the other kids parents I would just completely ignore them and go silent. Nothing you can say can help you at this point. | I'm a physician, not a lawyer. My advice for next time to limit your liability is to call 9-11. You don't need or want to be transporting potentially critical individuals yourself. What if they go into cardiac arrest and/or stop breathing completely while you're driving? What if he wasn't simply drunk but took a bunch of opioids or sedatives along with the booze? What if he starts seizing? As you can probably guess there are a million things that can go wrong in a situation like this, and for every one of them you are totally unequipped and unqualified to handle it. There is also the fact that by you driving him and waiting in the ED, you opened yourself up to questions about proximate supervision/responsibility (ofc only an attorney can clarify this aspect for you). But, it does seem to me that you overexposed yourself here. Next time, let the paramedics come and evaluate the person. They can decide (through their M.D. supervisors via dispatch) how to handle the situation if it isn't obvious. | 0 | 16,056 | 4.329268 |
67cqvi | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Am I liable to pay my son's friend's hospital bill? I brought him to the emergency room. In Oregon/Washington USA. My 14 year old son snuck out and got drunk with some friends. One of his friends ("Josh", also 14) was brought back to our home at 2 AM unconscious and barely breathing. I (at this point) did not have his parent's contact information to notify them, but immediately drove him to the emergency room. I provided the hospital with my information, and made clear the situation. The woman at the front desk was able to pull up my information as I'd be a patient there before. She told me that I would not be sent a bill. Just to be clear here, the hospital is in Oregon, but Josh's family live in Washington. I live in Oregon, on the border. Myself, my husband, and our son waited at the emergency room for about 6 hours until Josh's mother was contacted and came in. At this point, Josh is definitely okay. She had a very emotional reaction, and had to be escorted out of the hospital by staff. Basically, yelling at me, my family, the hospital staff, etc. Josh's father then arrives, he and I speak for a moment and he seems upset about the bill. He says that his insurance plan isn't very good. This was roughly 2 months ago and his family has been harassing me to try to get me to pay Josh's hospital bill. The hospital called me and told me that they were told that I'd be paying it; they could not tell me how much it was for due to HIIPA. So I'm not really sure what to do with that information. Apparently Josh has told his parents that he was "not that drunk" and definitely did not need to go to the hospital, and they seem to be buying it. I would think that this would be verifiable by asking the hospital, as he is a minor, but I'm also unsure how HIIPA factors into that. I'm unsure of my liability here. I did make the decision that he needed emergency care, drove him there, and provided the hospital with my information. On the other hand, this is not my child and you generally have to pay for your own kid's fuck ups. I'm having trouble finding good information on this, most of my google searches have turned up individual hospital billing policies or things of that nature. Any advice is appreciated! | dgphkoa | dgplm1j | 1,493,079,818 | 1,493,084,991 | 82 | 129 | Unless you signed something saying you agree to pay for the bill you're not responsible for it. End of story. The only possible way you could be liable is if they were to sue you for negligence for not properly supervising the kids, or if criminal charges were pressed on you and as part of a deal you agreed to pay the bills. Based on what you've said neither of these scenarios sounds likely to happen. You should probably (in writing), contact the hospital and let them know that in no way, shape, or form have you agreed to pay for these bills. You don't want the hospital to mistakenly send the bills to collections in your name and go on your credit. As far as talking with the other kids parents I would just completely ignore them and go silent. Nothing you can say can help you at this point. | Damn, what shitty parents. Would they rather have their son die of alcohol poisoning? | 0 | 5,173 | 1.573171 |
9iild0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My son bought fake Money from a friend and used it, what are his options? A kid at his Middle school was selling fake twenties he bought off amazon. They looked incredibly real, but were a little thick and said copy on a small corner. Anyways my son passed it off to the cafeteria to get ice cream. The other kids did not use there money which they all paid 1 dollar per twenty dollar bill, but since he actually used it he goes to court thia next month. What can be done? Is his life ruined as this is Illinois and it seems it will not go away just because he turns 18. | e6kfqsr | e6kh1et | 1,537,818,351 | 1,537,819,367 | 23 | 102 | Is this an actual court or a school hearing? | Well, the good news is that he is innocent of counterfeiting, as he didn't produce the bills. The bad news is that he is pretty guilty of 'uttering', which is knowingly passing counterfeits. USC 472- "Whoever, with intent to defraud, passes, utters, publishes, or sells, or attempts to pass, utter, publish, or sell, or with like intent brings into the United States or keeps in possession or conceals any falsely made, forged, counterfeited, or altered obligation or other security of the United States, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than 20 years, or both. "(June 25, 1948, ch. 645, 62 Stat. 705; Pub. L. 103–322, title XXXIII, § 330016(1)(K), Sept. 13, 1994, 108 Stat. 2147; Pub. L. 107–56, title III, § 374(c), Oct. 26, 2001, 115 Stat. 340.)" He needs a lawyer. Good news is that he appears to be a juvenile and, I think, unlikely to be tried as an adult. | 0 | 1,016 | 4.434783 |
9iild0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My son bought fake Money from a friend and used it, what are his options? A kid at his Middle school was selling fake twenties he bought off amazon. They looked incredibly real, but were a little thick and said copy on a small corner. Anyways my son passed it off to the cafeteria to get ice cream. The other kids did not use there money which they all paid 1 dollar per twenty dollar bill, but since he actually used it he goes to court thia next month. What can be done? Is his life ruined as this is Illinois and it seems it will not go away just because he turns 18. | e6kh1et | e6keevm | 1,537,819,367 | 1,537,817,286 | 102 | 20 | Well, the good news is that he is innocent of counterfeiting, as he didn't produce the bills. The bad news is that he is pretty guilty of 'uttering', which is knowingly passing counterfeits. USC 472- "Whoever, with intent to defraud, passes, utters, publishes, or sells, or attempts to pass, utter, publish, or sell, or with like intent brings into the United States or keeps in possession or conceals any falsely made, forged, counterfeited, or altered obligation or other security of the United States, shall be fined under this title or imprisoned not more than 20 years, or both. "(June 25, 1948, ch. 645, 62 Stat. 705; Pub. L. 103–322, title XXXIII, § 330016(1)(K), Sept. 13, 1994, 108 Stat. 2147; Pub. L. 107–56, title III, § 374(c), Oct. 26, 2001, 115 Stat. 340.)" He needs a lawyer. Good news is that he appears to be a juvenile and, I think, unlikely to be tried as an adult. | State or federal court? What are the charges? Either way, you need to get a lawyer right now. Defrauding the government and counterfeiting money are serious crimes. | 1 | 2,081 | 5.1 |
9iild0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My son bought fake Money from a friend and used it, what are his options? A kid at his Middle school was selling fake twenties he bought off amazon. They looked incredibly real, but were a little thick and said copy on a small corner. Anyways my son passed it off to the cafeteria to get ice cream. The other kids did not use there money which they all paid 1 dollar per twenty dollar bill, but since he actually used it he goes to court thia next month. What can be done? Is his life ruined as this is Illinois and it seems it will not go away just because he turns 18. | e6lgb4d | e6kfqsr | 1,537,853,582 | 1,537,818,351 | 41 | 23 | Please provide more info on charges and court beyond ‘he’s 12’. Sounds like a joke :(.. 12btw | Is this an actual court or a school hearing? | 1 | 35,231 | 1.782609 |
9iild0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My son bought fake Money from a friend and used it, what are his options? A kid at his Middle school was selling fake twenties he bought off amazon. They looked incredibly real, but were a little thick and said copy on a small corner. Anyways my son passed it off to the cafeteria to get ice cream. The other kids did not use there money which they all paid 1 dollar per twenty dollar bill, but since he actually used it he goes to court thia next month. What can be done? Is his life ruined as this is Illinois and it seems it will not go away just because he turns 18. | e6keevm | e6lgb4d | 1,537,817,286 | 1,537,853,582 | 20 | 41 | State or federal court? What are the charges? Either way, you need to get a lawyer right now. Defrauding the government and counterfeiting money are serious crimes. | Please provide more info on charges and court beyond ‘he’s 12’. Sounds like a joke :(.. 12btw | 0 | 36,296 | 2.05 |
9iild0 | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | My son bought fake Money from a friend and used it, what are his options? A kid at his Middle school was selling fake twenties he bought off amazon. They looked incredibly real, but were a little thick and said copy on a small corner. Anyways my son passed it off to the cafeteria to get ice cream. The other kids did not use there money which they all paid 1 dollar per twenty dollar bill, but since he actually used it he goes to court thia next month. What can be done? Is his life ruined as this is Illinois and it seems it will not go away just because he turns 18. | e6keevm | e6kfqsr | 1,537,817,286 | 1,537,818,351 | 20 | 23 | State or federal court? What are the charges? Either way, you need to get a lawyer right now. Defrauding the government and counterfeiting money are serious crimes. | Is this an actual court or a school hearing? | 0 | 1,065 | 1.15 |
xil0f3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Landlord doesn't give back full security deposit for remodel My roommates and I had an apartment in California which was $3050 a month. We paid a security deposit of $3050 plus the initial $3050 for first months rent. It's been a year later and the lease is finally up and we got our security deposit back 21 days after BUT they only gave us $350 back. On the receipt, there were the usual things like clean up services and painting the walls, but the main source of money loss was the replacement of the carpet (which had been there 12 years before we got the place and already messed up) and a bit of remodeling. I don't understand how they can charge us for that because neither of those had anything to do with us cause how can you remodel a place and charge someone else for it? I was thinking about taking this to small claims court, but I'm not too sure about it. Does anyone have advice? | ip3lio6 | ip3kd86 | 1,663,613,776 | 1,663,613,331 | 40 | 3 | > there were the usual things like clean up services and painting the walls, Did you mark up the walls or leave the place in an unreasonably dirty condition beyond ordinary wear and tear? If not, I wouldn't say these deductions are "usual." > but the main source of money loss was the replacement of the carpet (which had been there 12 years before we got the place and already messed up) How do you know how old it was and did you damage it? >and a bit of remodeling. What remodeling? This is generally part of the cost of being a landlord not the cost of being a tenant. > I was thinking about taking this to small claims court, but I'm not too sure about it. Sue in small claims court for $2700 plus twice the amount wrongfully withheld because the landlord is acting in bad faith. In other words, sue the landlord for $8,100. https://www.courts.ca.gov/selfhelp-eviction-security-deposits.htm?rdeLocaleAttr=en#:~:text=If%20the%20tenant%20and%20landlord,the%20security%20deposit%20in%20damages. You may want to send the landlord a letter first saying return my $2,700 or I'll sue you for $8,100. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 445 | 13.333333 |
xil0f3 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Landlord doesn't give back full security deposit for remodel My roommates and I had an apartment in California which was $3050 a month. We paid a security deposit of $3050 plus the initial $3050 for first months rent. It's been a year later and the lease is finally up and we got our security deposit back 21 days after BUT they only gave us $350 back. On the receipt, there were the usual things like clean up services and painting the walls, but the main source of money loss was the replacement of the carpet (which had been there 12 years before we got the place and already messed up) and a bit of remodeling. I don't understand how they can charge us for that because neither of those had anything to do with us cause how can you remodel a place and charge someone else for it? I was thinking about taking this to small claims court, but I'm not too sure about it. Does anyone have advice? | ip71o8s | ip3kd86 | 1,663,682,646 | 1,663,613,331 | 6 | 3 | Do you have pictures from when you moved in/out? Start looking at older pictures that you might have somewhere with pictures of what you had when you moved in/out. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 69,315 | 2 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | inci348 | inca2kv | 1,662,489,458 | 1,662,486,382 | 36 | 19 | You cannot remove someone's ownership from their property in the way you describe. A divorce **might** take him off the property, and your mother should ask about those options. Be advised that this property ownership is an asset. If he is destitute and his care will be paid by the state in any way you cannot just remove that asset; you'd instead need to find a way to buy out his interest. | Is the issue that you need to make sure your dad doesn't move back in? Because that's something much easier to ensure than finalizing getting him off the mortgage and home. If your mom is talking to a divorce lawyer, having him excluded from the home would be a natural thing to do as part of that process. If she doesn't care about it, you can look into it yourself - consult someone in family law (like a divorce lawyer). Long-term, you can look into a partition as a legal mechanism to force him off the deed / mortgage. You could also look for someone specializing in elder law and see about getting guardianship over your dad, which might give you other options. (This will be highly important if, say, he gets released and isn't mentally capable of taking care of himself and you want to be in charge of that.) | 1 | 3,076 | 1.894737 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | inceynw | inci348 | 1,662,488,266 | 1,662,489,458 | 2 | 36 | RESOURCE ONLY, NOT ADVICE: https://www.pabar.org/site/For-the-Public/Find-a-Lawyer Lawyer Referral, PA Bar assocation | You cannot remove someone's ownership from their property in the way you describe. A divorce **might** take him off the property, and your mother should ask about those options. Be advised that this property ownership is an asset. If he is destitute and his care will be paid by the state in any way you cannot just remove that asset; you'd instead need to find a way to buy out his interest. | 0 | 1,192 | 18 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | inceynw | indyhg8 | 1,662,488,266 | 1,662,510,812 | 2 | 17 | RESOURCE ONLY, NOT ADVICE: https://www.pabar.org/site/For-the-Public/Find-a-Lawyer Lawyer Referral, PA Bar assocation | One resource you may want to look into talking to the psychiatric facility your father is in. They most likely have a social work department and they have an interest in making sure your dad has somewhere to go when discharged. They may be able to help your family navigate this and may be able to connect you with resources you may not even know about, specific to your area. | 0 | 22,546 | 8.5 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | indyhg8 | incvco6 | 1,662,510,812 | 1,662,494,495 | 17 | 2 | One resource you may want to look into talking to the psychiatric facility your father is in. They most likely have a social work department and they have an interest in making sure your dad has somewhere to go when discharged. They may be able to help your family navigate this and may be able to connect you with resources you may not even know about, specific to your area. | Not a lawyer but just to clarify - your dad's name being on the mortgage note is unrelated to his ownership interest. He can transfer his ownership interest (ie quit claim deed, etc) *without* having to do anything with the note unless either 1) your mortgage (the one recorded at the courthouse) expressly prohibits a change in ownership or 2) it is legally required to remove him from the note for some other legal reason (ie settlement agreement, etc). If you did need to remove him from the note, you would generally be required to refinance the loan, which would require you *qualify* for the loan without him. | 1 | 16,317 | 8.5 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | inekdq1 | inejtea | 1,662,520,749 | 1,662,520,470 | 10 | 4 | It sounds like your father may need nursing home care soon which means he may need Medicaid soon. There are implications to property transfers that happen too close to an application for Medicaid. Make sure that you talk to an attorney who specializes in Elder Law and Estate Planning and not just Real Estate. A Real Estate lawyer may not consider the Medicaid look back period! | You may need to have a doctor declare him incompetent and have the courts appoint his wife as his conservator. You should contact a family law attorney. I would look for a firm with multiple departments so the family law atty can discuss the ramifications with a real estate atty. good luck and I’m sorry your family is going through this. | 1 | 279 | 2.5 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | inekdq1 | inceynw | 1,662,520,749 | 1,662,488,266 | 10 | 2 | It sounds like your father may need nursing home care soon which means he may need Medicaid soon. There are implications to property transfers that happen too close to an application for Medicaid. Make sure that you talk to an attorney who specializes in Elder Law and Estate Planning and not just Real Estate. A Real Estate lawyer may not consider the Medicaid look back period! | RESOURCE ONLY, NOT ADVICE: https://www.pabar.org/site/For-the-Public/Find-a-Lawyer Lawyer Referral, PA Bar assocation | 1 | 32,483 | 5 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | incvco6 | inekdq1 | 1,662,494,495 | 1,662,520,749 | 2 | 10 | Not a lawyer but just to clarify - your dad's name being on the mortgage note is unrelated to his ownership interest. He can transfer his ownership interest (ie quit claim deed, etc) *without* having to do anything with the note unless either 1) your mortgage (the one recorded at the courthouse) expressly prohibits a change in ownership or 2) it is legally required to remove him from the note for some other legal reason (ie settlement agreement, etc). If you did need to remove him from the note, you would generally be required to refinance the loan, which would require you *qualify* for the loan without him. | It sounds like your father may need nursing home care soon which means he may need Medicaid soon. There are implications to property transfers that happen too close to an application for Medicaid. Make sure that you talk to an attorney who specializes in Elder Law and Estate Planning and not just Real Estate. A Real Estate lawyer may not consider the Medicaid look back period! | 0 | 26,254 | 5 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | inejtea | inceynw | 1,662,520,470 | 1,662,488,266 | 4 | 2 | You may need to have a doctor declare him incompetent and have the courts appoint his wife as his conservator. You should contact a family law attorney. I would look for a firm with multiple departments so the family law atty can discuss the ramifications with a real estate atty. good luck and I’m sorry your family is going through this. | RESOURCE ONLY, NOT ADVICE: https://www.pabar.org/site/For-the-Public/Find-a-Lawyer Lawyer Referral, PA Bar assocation | 1 | 32,204 | 2 |
x7gak5 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My father is in a tailspin and we need to get him off our Deed and Mortgage Throwaway for obvious reasons. Its been a crazy few weeks. My Dad has parkinsons and has been on meds to increase his dopamine levels. This triggered several delusional, hypersexual episodes. In that time, he sexually assaulted my wife and daughter (his daughter in law and granddaughter, respectively). He has since been admitted to an adult psychiatric facility and we as a family are working with counseling to process this trauma. However we have concerns that he will be released prematurely and we will need to scramble to find him a place to stay. This may mean a nursing home, which we cannot afford out of pocket. The LEGAL issue/question I have is how to best manage our home asset. You see, my parents put a large down payment on our home and moved in with us. Their names are on the Deed and Mortgage note, along with mine and my wife's. My mom has already begun speaking with a lawyer about getting a divorce. But overall, what are some further actions we can take to make sure that no matter what happens to my Dad the rest of us still own this home? Im on mobile so I apologize for any poor wording or incomplete info. If you have addl questions pls ask! | inejtea | incvco6 | 1,662,520,470 | 1,662,494,495 | 4 | 2 | You may need to have a doctor declare him incompetent and have the courts appoint his wife as his conservator. You should contact a family law attorney. I would look for a firm with multiple departments so the family law atty can discuss the ramifications with a real estate atty. good luck and I’m sorry your family is going through this. | Not a lawyer but just to clarify - your dad's name being on the mortgage note is unrelated to his ownership interest. He can transfer his ownership interest (ie quit claim deed, etc) *without* having to do anything with the note unless either 1) your mortgage (the one recorded at the courthouse) expressly prohibits a change in ownership or 2) it is legally required to remove him from the note for some other legal reason (ie settlement agreement, etc). If you did need to remove him from the note, you would generally be required to refinance the loan, which would require you *qualify* for the loan without him. | 1 | 25,975 | 2 |
epewkl | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My husband and I adopted a baby 14 months ago. Baby's biological father claims he was never notified and is trying to vacate the adoption (MA). We fear he may have a case. Going to try to keep a long story short. Obviously we have an adoption attorney but just looking for some outside advice as well. My husband and I adopted a baby girl (who is now 15 months old) shortly after her birth in 2018. Her biological father had said both in person and in writing to her biological mother that he didn't want anything to do with the baby, and he didn't sign the birth certificate. Per MA state law, the father was notified in writing by the court and was given 4 days to respond after delivery of the paperwork was confirmed. He didn't respond and the child was then freed for adoption. We have an open relationship with the child's biological mother, her older children, and her current partner. We have never heard from the biological father but he'd have been welcome to contact us as well. Now in the present, the biological father has resurfaced. He's claiming that he never got notice that the adoption was happening, that he never said he wouldn't have anything to do with the baby, and that the letter informing him of the adoption was sent to an address that he didn't live at anymore (someone signed for it). He was clear in his petition to vacate the adoption that if he had known that she would be adopted by a same sex couple (us), he definitely wouldn't have signed off on the adoption because it goes against his personal values. Our lawyer pretty much told us to let the court handle it and to NOT alarm the biological mom until we absolutely had to, but admitted to never having dealt with such a situation before. Does anyone know anything about this? Like, realistically, is there a case here? This is our child. We're the only family she's ever known. She's my daughter and I'm in knots at the idea of losing her, especially because we lost an older child to cancer shortly before she was born. | fejojzk | fejpla7 | 1,579,181,706 | 1,579,182,563 | 54 | 115 | Varies by state but not signing the BC and having written evidence corroborated by the mother of not wanting the child sounds like a pretty clear case. He had multiple points to get involved and did nothing I would just let your lawyer do their thing and keep track of proceedings/strategy regularly. | Please trust your lawyer. This situation is unbelievably not at all unusual. He is owed some due process but there are many ways it could go based on the facts provided, and anything at this point is just guesswork. | 0 | 857 | 2.12963 |
epewkl | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My husband and I adopted a baby 14 months ago. Baby's biological father claims he was never notified and is trying to vacate the adoption (MA). We fear he may have a case. Going to try to keep a long story short. Obviously we have an adoption attorney but just looking for some outside advice as well. My husband and I adopted a baby girl (who is now 15 months old) shortly after her birth in 2018. Her biological father had said both in person and in writing to her biological mother that he didn't want anything to do with the baby, and he didn't sign the birth certificate. Per MA state law, the father was notified in writing by the court and was given 4 days to respond after delivery of the paperwork was confirmed. He didn't respond and the child was then freed for adoption. We have an open relationship with the child's biological mother, her older children, and her current partner. We have never heard from the biological father but he'd have been welcome to contact us as well. Now in the present, the biological father has resurfaced. He's claiming that he never got notice that the adoption was happening, that he never said he wouldn't have anything to do with the baby, and that the letter informing him of the adoption was sent to an address that he didn't live at anymore (someone signed for it). He was clear in his petition to vacate the adoption that if he had known that she would be adopted by a same sex couple (us), he definitely wouldn't have signed off on the adoption because it goes against his personal values. Our lawyer pretty much told us to let the court handle it and to NOT alarm the biological mom until we absolutely had to, but admitted to never having dealt with such a situation before. Does anyone know anything about this? Like, realistically, is there a case here? This is our child. We're the only family she's ever known. She's my daughter and I'm in knots at the idea of losing her, especially because we lost an older child to cancer shortly before she was born. | fejp2hf | fejpla7 | 1,579,182,137 | 1,579,182,563 | 3 | 115 | Your lawyer is closer to the details and can give you more nuanced advice than we can here. | Please trust your lawyer. This situation is unbelievably not at all unusual. He is owed some due process but there are many ways it could go based on the facts provided, and anything at this point is just guesswork. | 0 | 426 | 38.333333 |
76prdr | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | [TN] I was fired from my job of 13 years upon returning from short term disability. Now, I am being sued for the cost of a scholarship due to "breach of contract". What happens now and how does the statute of limitations play in (this was 14 months ago)? I considered making a throwaway for this, but I am in desperate need of advice and I am hoping using my real account will increase the visibility of my question. I threw a TL;DR at the end because it's a super long read, but I would love to show my appreciation for any insight/advice by answering any questions you may have about pharmacy/medicine whenever such a need arises on your end (I have an active doctorate in pharmacy)! I worked at a popular retail pharmacy in Tennessee from 2003 - 2016 (13 years) with excellent performance reviews and continuous promotions (no attendance issues as well). I received a scholarship from the company with some fine print in the contract that I must work an equal amount of years at my company as the amount of years I took the scholarship. This was not an issue for me, as this company was my lifelong career plan. In March 2016 (2 years into my ~5 year scholarship/contract), I started having health issues related to some epidural steroid shots/back problems. I went on short term disability from March 2016 through June 2016 due to some bouts with loss of consciousness and incontinence (potential cauda equina). Upon return from short term disability, I was doing fine except for some slight hand tremors. I discovered I was not able to (reliably) give immunizations to patients, and my district manager put me on severely limited hours, based on his interpretation of a newly-updated company policy regarding immunization. While my doctor and I were trying to figure out if these tremors were a short-term or life-long thing, I managed to find my own hours by working across 3 districts, sometimes driving 10-15 hours a week. During this time (June 2016 through August 2016), I felt like my district manager was picking on me for smaller and smaller issues, so I began filing reports with corporate HR. I filed at least 2 reports specifically stating my concern that my district manager was trying to fire me under other/false pretenses because my disability/tremor was inconvenient but (unfortunately for him) was not in itself a fire-able offense. Near the end of August, I came in for a morning shift and almost immediately had to call the district office to get sick coverage for myself (vomiting and diarrhea). My relief arrived and I started to leave for home. The store manager tells me I am not allowed to leave because he had put in a request for me to take a drug test due to me "acting unusual". At this point, I shared with them that I actually needed to go home to clean myself up because I had had a small accident (vomit + diarrhea + desperately trying to hold it in = shart). I would then be happy to report to wherever they wanted me to go, as yes, I probably was behaving *unusual* since it was an *unusual* occurrence for me to sit around with stool in my pants. He told me not to bother with the drug test if I went home first. The next day, the district manager called me to tell me I was being terminated and was not eligible for re-hire for the rest of my life due to failure to comply with the drug test request. I later found out (through friends...not through something provable in court) that the store manager had only requested the drug test because the district manager had heard my call come in to the scheduler for the sick coverage request. The district manager then asked the store manager (whom I had never worked with) to put in a request for a supervised drug test across town. My guess is he knew a humiliating two hour chauffeured and chaperoned ordeal while carrying a bucket to vomit in and reeking of excrement might be something I finally kick back on. I feel lost, helpless, and stupid for deciding to not take action last year. I have always been the type of person that keeps their head down and desperately tries not to make waves no matter how much I get stepped on in the process. I'm sure that it doesn't help on the "speaking up" front that a large portion of my situation revolves around more than one episode of fecal incontinence (rrreeaaallly hoping this ends up being worth not making a throwaway). I really feel like I am in a "fighting city hall" scenario since my ex-employer is one of the top three retail chain pharmacies in the country. So...what is my question/s already? Please weigh in on any or all of the following: To start, some recent background: I work as a teacher now and am not making pharmacist bank anymore. I barely make enough right now to stave off just the interest of my $250,000 federal student loans from pharmacy school. Will I need to bring proof of income/debt or will that even be taken into consideration? How common would it be for a judge to decide guilty but then decide a different amount to be paid? How can I prove I called HR and filed the reports - if I ask for a copy of them do they have to give them to me? I don't really know how to go about getting a lawyer in Northeast Tennessee for this (do I need a disability lawyer? some other kind of lawyer?) and wasn't sure about statute of limitations (I was terminated Aug 30, 2016) and also affordability is an issue here as well (are lawyers' fees income based?). If I sue my ex-employer, is that a separate trial or will it be in the same one coming up for my 'breach of contract"? How hard is it to prove discrimination/wrongful termination in a right to work state? If statute of limitations is over now, what is the best way to handle their suit against me - should I even still get a lawyer? What happens if I say "not guilty", but I don't have a lawyer? There are so many other questions and issues that would make this way too long to type [I never got paid for my short term disability and never got reimbursed for my travel expenses so they technically owed me thousands of dollars during those six months BEFORE I lost my job (probably in the ballpark of $15,000 honestly, but it's been more than a year so does that matter?) and they are suing me for about $15,000 for the scholarship], so please ask me anything that will help you make better sense of this mess! TL;DR After 13 years with a retail pharmacy in Tennessee, I was (wrongfully?) terminated two months after returning from short-term disability and am now being sued for the full cost of a scholarship since being terminated made me unable to comply with their terms. What is the best recourse in a right to work state? (See last paragraph for some possibly related income issues) | dofxt8x | dofy04b | 1,508,162,394 | 1,508,162,649 | 36 | 38 | I'm sorry that happened. If they're suing you for the $15k scholarship, like if that actually goes to court, get a lawyer the minute you find out it's going to court and ask them about countersuing for the $15k-ish that they owe you. | You need to lawyer up, go see EEOC, & file for unemployment. Do you homework before you see him, have a precise calendar timeline of who/what/how/when. Also do you have a pharmacy degree? If you do then your definitely employable, look at some of the government programs which will help you pay back your loans or have loan forgiveness. | 0 | 255 | 1.055556 |
76prdr | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | [TN] I was fired from my job of 13 years upon returning from short term disability. Now, I am being sued for the cost of a scholarship due to "breach of contract". What happens now and how does the statute of limitations play in (this was 14 months ago)? I considered making a throwaway for this, but I am in desperate need of advice and I am hoping using my real account will increase the visibility of my question. I threw a TL;DR at the end because it's a super long read, but I would love to show my appreciation for any insight/advice by answering any questions you may have about pharmacy/medicine whenever such a need arises on your end (I have an active doctorate in pharmacy)! I worked at a popular retail pharmacy in Tennessee from 2003 - 2016 (13 years) with excellent performance reviews and continuous promotions (no attendance issues as well). I received a scholarship from the company with some fine print in the contract that I must work an equal amount of years at my company as the amount of years I took the scholarship. This was not an issue for me, as this company was my lifelong career plan. In March 2016 (2 years into my ~5 year scholarship/contract), I started having health issues related to some epidural steroid shots/back problems. I went on short term disability from March 2016 through June 2016 due to some bouts with loss of consciousness and incontinence (potential cauda equina). Upon return from short term disability, I was doing fine except for some slight hand tremors. I discovered I was not able to (reliably) give immunizations to patients, and my district manager put me on severely limited hours, based on his interpretation of a newly-updated company policy regarding immunization. While my doctor and I were trying to figure out if these tremors were a short-term or life-long thing, I managed to find my own hours by working across 3 districts, sometimes driving 10-15 hours a week. During this time (June 2016 through August 2016), I felt like my district manager was picking on me for smaller and smaller issues, so I began filing reports with corporate HR. I filed at least 2 reports specifically stating my concern that my district manager was trying to fire me under other/false pretenses because my disability/tremor was inconvenient but (unfortunately for him) was not in itself a fire-able offense. Near the end of August, I came in for a morning shift and almost immediately had to call the district office to get sick coverage for myself (vomiting and diarrhea). My relief arrived and I started to leave for home. The store manager tells me I am not allowed to leave because he had put in a request for me to take a drug test due to me "acting unusual". At this point, I shared with them that I actually needed to go home to clean myself up because I had had a small accident (vomit + diarrhea + desperately trying to hold it in = shart). I would then be happy to report to wherever they wanted me to go, as yes, I probably was behaving *unusual* since it was an *unusual* occurrence for me to sit around with stool in my pants. He told me not to bother with the drug test if I went home first. The next day, the district manager called me to tell me I was being terminated and was not eligible for re-hire for the rest of my life due to failure to comply with the drug test request. I later found out (through friends...not through something provable in court) that the store manager had only requested the drug test because the district manager had heard my call come in to the scheduler for the sick coverage request. The district manager then asked the store manager (whom I had never worked with) to put in a request for a supervised drug test across town. My guess is he knew a humiliating two hour chauffeured and chaperoned ordeal while carrying a bucket to vomit in and reeking of excrement might be something I finally kick back on. I feel lost, helpless, and stupid for deciding to not take action last year. I have always been the type of person that keeps their head down and desperately tries not to make waves no matter how much I get stepped on in the process. I'm sure that it doesn't help on the "speaking up" front that a large portion of my situation revolves around more than one episode of fecal incontinence (rrreeaaallly hoping this ends up being worth not making a throwaway). I really feel like I am in a "fighting city hall" scenario since my ex-employer is one of the top three retail chain pharmacies in the country. So...what is my question/s already? Please weigh in on any or all of the following: To start, some recent background: I work as a teacher now and am not making pharmacist bank anymore. I barely make enough right now to stave off just the interest of my $250,000 federal student loans from pharmacy school. Will I need to bring proof of income/debt or will that even be taken into consideration? How common would it be for a judge to decide guilty but then decide a different amount to be paid? How can I prove I called HR and filed the reports - if I ask for a copy of them do they have to give them to me? I don't really know how to go about getting a lawyer in Northeast Tennessee for this (do I need a disability lawyer? some other kind of lawyer?) and wasn't sure about statute of limitations (I was terminated Aug 30, 2016) and also affordability is an issue here as well (are lawyers' fees income based?). If I sue my ex-employer, is that a separate trial or will it be in the same one coming up for my 'breach of contract"? How hard is it to prove discrimination/wrongful termination in a right to work state? If statute of limitations is over now, what is the best way to handle their suit against me - should I even still get a lawyer? What happens if I say "not guilty", but I don't have a lawyer? There are so many other questions and issues that would make this way too long to type [I never got paid for my short term disability and never got reimbursed for my travel expenses so they technically owed me thousands of dollars during those six months BEFORE I lost my job (probably in the ballpark of $15,000 honestly, but it's been more than a year so does that matter?) and they are suing me for about $15,000 for the scholarship], so please ask me anything that will help you make better sense of this mess! TL;DR After 13 years with a retail pharmacy in Tennessee, I was (wrongfully?) terminated two months after returning from short-term disability and am now being sued for the full cost of a scholarship since being terminated made me unable to comply with their terms. What is the best recourse in a right to work state? (See last paragraph for some possibly related income issues) | dofxodw | dofxt8x | 1,508,162,216 | 1,508,162,394 | 17 | 36 | You should find an experienced employment discrimination attorney. Normally you have 180 days after the adverse action to file a complaint with the EEOC. In TN you have 300 days. Judging by your termination date, it looks like your statute of limitations is going to be an issue. | I'm sorry that happened. If they're suing you for the $15k scholarship, like if that actually goes to court, get a lawyer the minute you find out it's going to court and ask them about countersuing for the $15k-ish that they owe you. | 0 | 178 | 2.117647 |
76prdr | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | [TN] I was fired from my job of 13 years upon returning from short term disability. Now, I am being sued for the cost of a scholarship due to "breach of contract". What happens now and how does the statute of limitations play in (this was 14 months ago)? I considered making a throwaway for this, but I am in desperate need of advice and I am hoping using my real account will increase the visibility of my question. I threw a TL;DR at the end because it's a super long read, but I would love to show my appreciation for any insight/advice by answering any questions you may have about pharmacy/medicine whenever such a need arises on your end (I have an active doctorate in pharmacy)! I worked at a popular retail pharmacy in Tennessee from 2003 - 2016 (13 years) with excellent performance reviews and continuous promotions (no attendance issues as well). I received a scholarship from the company with some fine print in the contract that I must work an equal amount of years at my company as the amount of years I took the scholarship. This was not an issue for me, as this company was my lifelong career plan. In March 2016 (2 years into my ~5 year scholarship/contract), I started having health issues related to some epidural steroid shots/back problems. I went on short term disability from March 2016 through June 2016 due to some bouts with loss of consciousness and incontinence (potential cauda equina). Upon return from short term disability, I was doing fine except for some slight hand tremors. I discovered I was not able to (reliably) give immunizations to patients, and my district manager put me on severely limited hours, based on his interpretation of a newly-updated company policy regarding immunization. While my doctor and I were trying to figure out if these tremors were a short-term or life-long thing, I managed to find my own hours by working across 3 districts, sometimes driving 10-15 hours a week. During this time (June 2016 through August 2016), I felt like my district manager was picking on me for smaller and smaller issues, so I began filing reports with corporate HR. I filed at least 2 reports specifically stating my concern that my district manager was trying to fire me under other/false pretenses because my disability/tremor was inconvenient but (unfortunately for him) was not in itself a fire-able offense. Near the end of August, I came in for a morning shift and almost immediately had to call the district office to get sick coverage for myself (vomiting and diarrhea). My relief arrived and I started to leave for home. The store manager tells me I am not allowed to leave because he had put in a request for me to take a drug test due to me "acting unusual". At this point, I shared with them that I actually needed to go home to clean myself up because I had had a small accident (vomit + diarrhea + desperately trying to hold it in = shart). I would then be happy to report to wherever they wanted me to go, as yes, I probably was behaving *unusual* since it was an *unusual* occurrence for me to sit around with stool in my pants. He told me not to bother with the drug test if I went home first. The next day, the district manager called me to tell me I was being terminated and was not eligible for re-hire for the rest of my life due to failure to comply with the drug test request. I later found out (through friends...not through something provable in court) that the store manager had only requested the drug test because the district manager had heard my call come in to the scheduler for the sick coverage request. The district manager then asked the store manager (whom I had never worked with) to put in a request for a supervised drug test across town. My guess is he knew a humiliating two hour chauffeured and chaperoned ordeal while carrying a bucket to vomit in and reeking of excrement might be something I finally kick back on. I feel lost, helpless, and stupid for deciding to not take action last year. I have always been the type of person that keeps their head down and desperately tries not to make waves no matter how much I get stepped on in the process. I'm sure that it doesn't help on the "speaking up" front that a large portion of my situation revolves around more than one episode of fecal incontinence (rrreeaaallly hoping this ends up being worth not making a throwaway). I really feel like I am in a "fighting city hall" scenario since my ex-employer is one of the top three retail chain pharmacies in the country. So...what is my question/s already? Please weigh in on any or all of the following: To start, some recent background: I work as a teacher now and am not making pharmacist bank anymore. I barely make enough right now to stave off just the interest of my $250,000 federal student loans from pharmacy school. Will I need to bring proof of income/debt or will that even be taken into consideration? How common would it be for a judge to decide guilty but then decide a different amount to be paid? How can I prove I called HR and filed the reports - if I ask for a copy of them do they have to give them to me? I don't really know how to go about getting a lawyer in Northeast Tennessee for this (do I need a disability lawyer? some other kind of lawyer?) and wasn't sure about statute of limitations (I was terminated Aug 30, 2016) and also affordability is an issue here as well (are lawyers' fees income based?). If I sue my ex-employer, is that a separate trial or will it be in the same one coming up for my 'breach of contract"? How hard is it to prove discrimination/wrongful termination in a right to work state? If statute of limitations is over now, what is the best way to handle their suit against me - should I even still get a lawyer? What happens if I say "not guilty", but I don't have a lawyer? There are so many other questions and issues that would make this way too long to type [I never got paid for my short term disability and never got reimbursed for my travel expenses so they technically owed me thousands of dollars during those six months BEFORE I lost my job (probably in the ballpark of $15,000 honestly, but it's been more than a year so does that matter?) and they are suing me for about $15,000 for the scholarship], so please ask me anything that will help you make better sense of this mess! TL;DR After 13 years with a retail pharmacy in Tennessee, I was (wrongfully?) terminated two months after returning from short-term disability and am now being sued for the full cost of a scholarship since being terminated made me unable to comply with their terms. What is the best recourse in a right to work state? (See last paragraph for some possibly related income issues) | dofxodw | dofy04b | 1,508,162,216 | 1,508,162,649 | 17 | 38 | You should find an experienced employment discrimination attorney. Normally you have 180 days after the adverse action to file a complaint with the EEOC. In TN you have 300 days. Judging by your termination date, it looks like your statute of limitations is going to be an issue. | You need to lawyer up, go see EEOC, & file for unemployment. Do you homework before you see him, have a precise calendar timeline of who/what/how/when. Also do you have a pharmacy degree? If you do then your definitely employable, look at some of the government programs which will help you pay back your loans or have loan forgiveness. | 0 | 433 | 2.235294 |
vadxr0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss wants me to put my phone in his office at work I recently started work at a restaurant and they have a strict policy against phones. No big deal, I wasn’t planning to be on my phone anyways, except that they are also requiring me and all the other servers to store our phones in our managers office while we are on shift. I might be a bit paranoid, but I’m not super fond of having to do that. I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. When I tried to voice my concerns, they eye rolled at me and told me I had to do it because it was the policy. What really bothers me is that when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy. This feels absurd. Is it even legal to force this? Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? Any advice would be great! | ic3bgfz | ic1x6bc | 1,655,044,844 | 1,655,007,875 | 674 | 198 | Not a lawyer. You're in an at-will state, so they can fire you for failure to comply with a non-discriminatory policy. This particular reason may not be good enough to keep you from collecting unemployment, especially not allowing you to leave the phone in your car. Frankly, this is a big red flag that this employer is going to pull more shenanigans. If you're working in food service, you shouldn't have that much trouble finding another job, but I won't pretend to know your situation. | Are you allowed to use your phone on breaks? Is the office freely accessible so you can get your phone and use it on breaks? > I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, You could turn off notifications. Or put the phone in a locking phone bag or money bag. >or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. That is possible. You could leave in your car then or leave it at home or find a new job. >when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy Well that's weird, but they probably got tired of dealing with employees lying and saying it was in their car when it wasn't, or "forgetting" to leave it in their car. Or they really fear employees audio and video recording things happening at work or conversations with the boss. Can you deposit a throwaway cheap flip phone in the office each shift and leave your real phone in your car? >Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? What state are you in? I'm not sure it's legal for an employer to require you to bring personal property like a phone to the workplace and deposit it with them as a condition of working for that employer. I can't think of a law it would violate off the top of my head, but it doesn't sound right to me. What if they said "In order to work here, you have to leave your ID and at least $100 cash in the office at the beginning of each shift, you'll get them back when you finish your shift. You can't just leave your ID and all your cash at home, they must be deposited in the office at the start of each shift." I can't imagine that's legal because it's so unreasonable. | 1 | 36,969 | 3.40404 |
vadxr0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss wants me to put my phone in his office at work I recently started work at a restaurant and they have a strict policy against phones. No big deal, I wasn’t planning to be on my phone anyways, except that they are also requiring me and all the other servers to store our phones in our managers office while we are on shift. I might be a bit paranoid, but I’m not super fond of having to do that. I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. When I tried to voice my concerns, they eye rolled at me and told me I had to do it because it was the policy. What really bothers me is that when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy. This feels absurd. Is it even legal to force this? Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? Any advice would be great! | ic3bgfz | ic1wbwo | 1,655,044,844 | 1,655,007,389 | 674 | 35 | Not a lawyer. You're in an at-will state, so they can fire you for failure to comply with a non-discriminatory policy. This particular reason may not be good enough to keep you from collecting unemployment, especially not allowing you to leave the phone in your car. Frankly, this is a big red flag that this employer is going to pull more shenanigans. If you're working in food service, you shouldn't have that much trouble finding another job, but I won't pretend to know your situation. | > Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car If you're at-will, yes. Are you? Where are you? | 1 | 37,455 | 19.257143 |
vadxr0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss wants me to put my phone in his office at work I recently started work at a restaurant and they have a strict policy against phones. No big deal, I wasn’t planning to be on my phone anyways, except that they are also requiring me and all the other servers to store our phones in our managers office while we are on shift. I might be a bit paranoid, but I’m not super fond of having to do that. I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. When I tried to voice my concerns, they eye rolled at me and told me I had to do it because it was the policy. What really bothers me is that when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy. This feels absurd. Is it even legal to force this? Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? Any advice would be great! | ic1x6bc | ic3n3o1 | 1,655,007,875 | 1,655,050,400 | 198 | 604 | Are you allowed to use your phone on breaks? Is the office freely accessible so you can get your phone and use it on breaks? > I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, You could turn off notifications. Or put the phone in a locking phone bag or money bag. >or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. That is possible. You could leave in your car then or leave it at home or find a new job. >when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy Well that's weird, but they probably got tired of dealing with employees lying and saying it was in their car when it wasn't, or "forgetting" to leave it in their car. Or they really fear employees audio and video recording things happening at work or conversations with the boss. Can you deposit a throwaway cheap flip phone in the office each shift and leave your real phone in your car? >Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? What state are you in? I'm not sure it's legal for an employer to require you to bring personal property like a phone to the workplace and deposit it with them as a condition of working for that employer. I can't think of a law it would violate off the top of my head, but it doesn't sound right to me. What if they said "In order to work here, you have to leave your ID and at least $100 cash in the office at the beginning of each shift, you'll get them back when you finish your shift. You can't just leave your ID and all your cash at home, they must be deposited in the office at the start of each shift." I can't imagine that's legal because it's so unreasonable. | The rule is stupid but legal. Non legal solution, get a cheap old phone that doesn't have service and drop it in the office and leave your primary phone in the car. | 0 | 42,525 | 3.050505 |
vadxr0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss wants me to put my phone in his office at work I recently started work at a restaurant and they have a strict policy against phones. No big deal, I wasn’t planning to be on my phone anyways, except that they are also requiring me and all the other servers to store our phones in our managers office while we are on shift. I might be a bit paranoid, but I’m not super fond of having to do that. I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. When I tried to voice my concerns, they eye rolled at me and told me I had to do it because it was the policy. What really bothers me is that when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy. This feels absurd. Is it even legal to force this? Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? Any advice would be great! | ic3n3o1 | ic3dcks | 1,655,050,400 | 1,655,045,786 | 604 | 171 | The rule is stupid but legal. Non legal solution, get a cheap old phone that doesn't have service and drop it in the office and leave your primary phone in the car. | They can fire you for non compliance to their policy if you work in an at will state. Find a new job because of they're going to impose ridiculous rules here they will impose other ridiculous rules. | 1 | 4,614 | 3.532164 |
vadxr0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss wants me to put my phone in his office at work I recently started work at a restaurant and they have a strict policy against phones. No big deal, I wasn’t planning to be on my phone anyways, except that they are also requiring me and all the other servers to store our phones in our managers office while we are on shift. I might be a bit paranoid, but I’m not super fond of having to do that. I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. When I tried to voice my concerns, they eye rolled at me and told me I had to do it because it was the policy. What really bothers me is that when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy. This feels absurd. Is it even legal to force this? Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? Any advice would be great! | ic3n3o1 | ic1wbwo | 1,655,050,400 | 1,655,007,389 | 604 | 35 | The rule is stupid but legal. Non legal solution, get a cheap old phone that doesn't have service and drop it in the office and leave your primary phone in the car. | > Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car If you're at-will, yes. Are you? Where are you? | 1 | 43,011 | 17.257143 |
vadxr0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss wants me to put my phone in his office at work I recently started work at a restaurant and they have a strict policy against phones. No big deal, I wasn’t planning to be on my phone anyways, except that they are also requiring me and all the other servers to store our phones in our managers office while we are on shift. I might be a bit paranoid, but I’m not super fond of having to do that. I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. When I tried to voice my concerns, they eye rolled at me and told me I had to do it because it was the policy. What really bothers me is that when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy. This feels absurd. Is it even legal to force this? Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? Any advice would be great! | ic1wbwo | ic1x6bc | 1,655,007,389 | 1,655,007,875 | 35 | 198 | > Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car If you're at-will, yes. Are you? Where are you? | Are you allowed to use your phone on breaks? Is the office freely accessible so you can get your phone and use it on breaks? > I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, You could turn off notifications. Or put the phone in a locking phone bag or money bag. >or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. That is possible. You could leave in your car then or leave it at home or find a new job. >when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy Well that's weird, but they probably got tired of dealing with employees lying and saying it was in their car when it wasn't, or "forgetting" to leave it in their car. Or they really fear employees audio and video recording things happening at work or conversations with the boss. Can you deposit a throwaway cheap flip phone in the office each shift and leave your real phone in your car? >Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? What state are you in? I'm not sure it's legal for an employer to require you to bring personal property like a phone to the workplace and deposit it with them as a condition of working for that employer. I can't think of a law it would violate off the top of my head, but it doesn't sound right to me. What if they said "In order to work here, you have to leave your ID and at least $100 cash in the office at the beginning of each shift, you'll get them back when you finish your shift. You can't just leave your ID and all your cash at home, they must be deposited in the office at the start of each shift." I can't imagine that's legal because it's so unreasonable. | 0 | 486 | 5.657143 |
vadxr0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My boss wants me to put my phone in his office at work I recently started work at a restaurant and they have a strict policy against phones. No big deal, I wasn’t planning to be on my phone anyways, except that they are also requiring me and all the other servers to store our phones in our managers office while we are on shift. I might be a bit paranoid, but I’m not super fond of having to do that. I’m not comfortable knowing my boss will be able to see my messages that pop up on the screen, or a coworker could come steal my phone since they are kept out in the open. When I tried to voice my concerns, they eye rolled at me and told me I had to do it because it was the policy. What really bothers me is that when I tried to keep my phone in my car instead, or suggested just leaving it at home they told me that I HAD to bring my phone to my shift so I could put it in the office and that keeping it anywhere else, even leaving it at home, wasn’t allowed in their policy. This feels absurd. Is it even legal to force this? Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car instead of complying with their policy? Any advice would be great! | ic3dcks | ic1wbwo | 1,655,045,786 | 1,655,007,389 | 171 | 35 | They can fire you for non compliance to their policy if you work in an at will state. Find a new job because of they're going to impose ridiculous rules here they will impose other ridiculous rules. | > Can they legally fire me for choosing to leave my phone at home or in my car If you're at-will, yes. Are you? Where are you? | 1 | 38,397 | 4.885714 |
smzhet | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | Boss wants me to pay her for fixing my hours? In Texas, USA. I forgot to clock out for my lunch during a shift and told my boss about it near the end of the day so she could correct my timesheet. She said I owe her a dollar for the “extra work”. I know this is not the biggest deal in the world, but is this legal? | hvzkqvu | hvzlm24 | 1,644,264,797 | 1,644,265,134 | 97 | 743 | She must’ve been joking, I hope. | This sounds like a sarcastic but friendly remark that you may not have picked up on. Perhaps ask what to do if a dollar is actually deducted from your pay slip | 0 | 337 | 7.659794 |
smzhet | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | Boss wants me to pay her for fixing my hours? In Texas, USA. I forgot to clock out for my lunch during a shift and told my boss about it near the end of the day so she could correct my timesheet. She said I owe her a dollar for the “extra work”. I know this is not the biggest deal in the world, but is this legal? | hvzmeiv | hvzp001 | 1,644,265,440 | 1,644,266,443 | 18 | 74 | Just say “no thanks” and get paid for your lunch break! | I don’t know her, but I’d bet that was a joke. | 0 | 1,003 | 4.111111 |
smzhet | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | Boss wants me to pay her for fixing my hours? In Texas, USA. I forgot to clock out for my lunch during a shift and told my boss about it near the end of the day so she could correct my timesheet. She said I owe her a dollar for the “extra work”. I know this is not the biggest deal in the world, but is this legal? | hvzmeiv | hvzw68o | 1,644,265,440 | 1,644,269,175 | 18 | 63 | Just say “no thanks” and get paid for your lunch break! | Just say “I put the dollar in the time clock” | 0 | 3,735 | 3.5 |
smzhet | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | Boss wants me to pay her for fixing my hours? In Texas, USA. I forgot to clock out for my lunch during a shift and told my boss about it near the end of the day so she could correct my timesheet. She said I owe her a dollar for the “extra work”. I know this is not the biggest deal in the world, but is this legal? | hvzmeiv | hw0clv9 | 1,644,265,440 | 1,644,275,809 | 18 | 55 | Just say “no thanks” and get paid for your lunch break! | A) was she joking? This is some straight boomer humor that I’ve heard from more than one boss. B) if not, no it’s not legal on the way she has presented it. In some states it’s legal to dock your pay for various reasons—as long as it will not take you below minimum wage—but not to give the money directly to her. I don’t know of a state that makes that kind of deduction legal, but I’m sure in the race to the bottom one of them might. Again though, not legal for you to directly pay her money. | 0 | 10,369 | 3.055556 |
86u02y | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I am a restaurant owner. I discovered that one of my waitresses was raped. She refuses to cooperate with police and they dont want to pursue this any further without more evidence. I have the entire thing on security footage. Ill skip 99 percent of the details. Short version is I offered OT to any employee over 18 to come accept a delivery at 3 am. This waitress literally jumped at the opportunity of extra cash and volunteered first. One of the delivery guys forced her at around 5 am and I discovered her when I arrived at 7 am. The waitress wanted to just forget it ever happened, but I convinced her to at least tell her parents since there was the possibility of pregnancy or STDs. The waitress has stopped working for me, for obvious reasons, and has told me they are just going to let this go. I cant. I was going to respect her wishes, until I learned that this guy has done this before. In my mind if she is not his first victim, then she will not be his last. I made the decision to report it to the police. They interviewed her and originally said that she was assaulted to the police, then recanted her story. The police came to me and told me without more evidence, there is nothing that can be done. I handed over the security footage, all of it for that day, and the guy was arrested. Fast forward to two months later and the guy has not pleaded guilty yet. The victim is afraid that she will be required to testify and is dreading the possibility of a subpoena. Because of this I am being threatened with a lawsuit by the parents of the victim for "emotional distress" and other bullshit terms. Correct me if I am wrong here but unless I actually broke the law to report the crime, they legally cant sue me over this right? By that I mean that any lawsuit that comes forth over this can be easily dismissed because I was reporting a crime that happened right? EDIT: Texas | dw7u5an | dw7v2d3 | 1,521,909,771 | 1,521,910,782 | 342 | 680 | The prosecutor can subpoena the victim and that person will have to testify even if it is emotionally harmful to recall the event. The prosecutor can also subpoena you, and just might consider doing so because you saw the footage and handed it to the police. The victim's family can sue you, as can anybody else for any reason. This won't go very far, though hiring an attorney would definitely make it easier to be dismissed, and possibly extract legal fees for such frivolous use of the court's time. | I commend you for most certainly doing the right thing, both legally and ethically. This girl will most certainly be grateful at some point in her life. Don't worry if it's not that time, yet. Signed, A rape victim that didn't report, and regrets it | 0 | 1,011 | 1.988304 |
86u02y | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I am a restaurant owner. I discovered that one of my waitresses was raped. She refuses to cooperate with police and they dont want to pursue this any further without more evidence. I have the entire thing on security footage. Ill skip 99 percent of the details. Short version is I offered OT to any employee over 18 to come accept a delivery at 3 am. This waitress literally jumped at the opportunity of extra cash and volunteered first. One of the delivery guys forced her at around 5 am and I discovered her when I arrived at 7 am. The waitress wanted to just forget it ever happened, but I convinced her to at least tell her parents since there was the possibility of pregnancy or STDs. The waitress has stopped working for me, for obvious reasons, and has told me they are just going to let this go. I cant. I was going to respect her wishes, until I learned that this guy has done this before. In my mind if she is not his first victim, then she will not be his last. I made the decision to report it to the police. They interviewed her and originally said that she was assaulted to the police, then recanted her story. The police came to me and told me without more evidence, there is nothing that can be done. I handed over the security footage, all of it for that day, and the guy was arrested. Fast forward to two months later and the guy has not pleaded guilty yet. The victim is afraid that she will be required to testify and is dreading the possibility of a subpoena. Because of this I am being threatened with a lawsuit by the parents of the victim for "emotional distress" and other bullshit terms. Correct me if I am wrong here but unless I actually broke the law to report the crime, they legally cant sue me over this right? By that I mean that any lawsuit that comes forth over this can be easily dismissed because I was reporting a crime that happened right? EDIT: Texas | dw7v2d3 | dw7u9z4 | 1,521,910,782 | 1,521,909,915 | 680 | 295 | I commend you for most certainly doing the right thing, both legally and ethically. This girl will most certainly be grateful at some point in her life. Don't worry if it's not that time, yet. Signed, A rape victim that didn't report, and regrets it | You acted legally and ethically. Hopefully one day she'll realize that. | 1 | 867 | 2.305085 |
86u02y | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I am a restaurant owner. I discovered that one of my waitresses was raped. She refuses to cooperate with police and they dont want to pursue this any further without more evidence. I have the entire thing on security footage. Ill skip 99 percent of the details. Short version is I offered OT to any employee over 18 to come accept a delivery at 3 am. This waitress literally jumped at the opportunity of extra cash and volunteered first. One of the delivery guys forced her at around 5 am and I discovered her when I arrived at 7 am. The waitress wanted to just forget it ever happened, but I convinced her to at least tell her parents since there was the possibility of pregnancy or STDs. The waitress has stopped working for me, for obvious reasons, and has told me they are just going to let this go. I cant. I was going to respect her wishes, until I learned that this guy has done this before. In my mind if she is not his first victim, then she will not be his last. I made the decision to report it to the police. They interviewed her and originally said that she was assaulted to the police, then recanted her story. The police came to me and told me without more evidence, there is nothing that can be done. I handed over the security footage, all of it for that day, and the guy was arrested. Fast forward to two months later and the guy has not pleaded guilty yet. The victim is afraid that she will be required to testify and is dreading the possibility of a subpoena. Because of this I am being threatened with a lawsuit by the parents of the victim for "emotional distress" and other bullshit terms. Correct me if I am wrong here but unless I actually broke the law to report the crime, they legally cant sue me over this right? By that I mean that any lawsuit that comes forth over this can be easily dismissed because I was reporting a crime that happened right? EDIT: Texas | dw7suiv | dw7v2d3 | 1,521,908,340 | 1,521,910,782 | 183 | 680 | Breaking the law isn't required before a civil suit. That said, you were doing what you were supposed to do, ie cooperating with law enforcement. If I were you, I wouldn't waste any energy on worrying about this. You didn't have a duty to her to not turn over the tape. You're fine. Edited to add if you get served, dont ignore it | I commend you for most certainly doing the right thing, both legally and ethically. This girl will most certainly be grateful at some point in her life. Don't worry if it's not that time, yet. Signed, A rape victim that didn't report, and regrets it | 0 | 2,442 | 3.715847 |
86u02y | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I am a restaurant owner. I discovered that one of my waitresses was raped. She refuses to cooperate with police and they dont want to pursue this any further without more evidence. I have the entire thing on security footage. Ill skip 99 percent of the details. Short version is I offered OT to any employee over 18 to come accept a delivery at 3 am. This waitress literally jumped at the opportunity of extra cash and volunteered first. One of the delivery guys forced her at around 5 am and I discovered her when I arrived at 7 am. The waitress wanted to just forget it ever happened, but I convinced her to at least tell her parents since there was the possibility of pregnancy or STDs. The waitress has stopped working for me, for obvious reasons, and has told me they are just going to let this go. I cant. I was going to respect her wishes, until I learned that this guy has done this before. In my mind if she is not his first victim, then she will not be his last. I made the decision to report it to the police. They interviewed her and originally said that she was assaulted to the police, then recanted her story. The police came to me and told me without more evidence, there is nothing that can be done. I handed over the security footage, all of it for that day, and the guy was arrested. Fast forward to two months later and the guy has not pleaded guilty yet. The victim is afraid that she will be required to testify and is dreading the possibility of a subpoena. Because of this I am being threatened with a lawsuit by the parents of the victim for "emotional distress" and other bullshit terms. Correct me if I am wrong here but unless I actually broke the law to report the crime, they legally cant sue me over this right? By that I mean that any lawsuit that comes forth over this can be easily dismissed because I was reporting a crime that happened right? EDIT: Texas | dw7suiv | dw7u5an | 1,521,908,340 | 1,521,909,771 | 183 | 342 | Breaking the law isn't required before a civil suit. That said, you were doing what you were supposed to do, ie cooperating with law enforcement. If I were you, I wouldn't waste any energy on worrying about this. You didn't have a duty to her to not turn over the tape. You're fine. Edited to add if you get served, dont ignore it | The prosecutor can subpoena the victim and that person will have to testify even if it is emotionally harmful to recall the event. The prosecutor can also subpoena you, and just might consider doing so because you saw the footage and handed it to the police. The victim's family can sue you, as can anybody else for any reason. This won't go very far, though hiring an attorney would definitely make it easier to be dismissed, and possibly extract legal fees for such frivolous use of the court's time. | 0 | 1,431 | 1.868852 |
86u02y | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I am a restaurant owner. I discovered that one of my waitresses was raped. She refuses to cooperate with police and they dont want to pursue this any further without more evidence. I have the entire thing on security footage. Ill skip 99 percent of the details. Short version is I offered OT to any employee over 18 to come accept a delivery at 3 am. This waitress literally jumped at the opportunity of extra cash and volunteered first. One of the delivery guys forced her at around 5 am and I discovered her when I arrived at 7 am. The waitress wanted to just forget it ever happened, but I convinced her to at least tell her parents since there was the possibility of pregnancy or STDs. The waitress has stopped working for me, for obvious reasons, and has told me they are just going to let this go. I cant. I was going to respect her wishes, until I learned that this guy has done this before. In my mind if she is not his first victim, then she will not be his last. I made the decision to report it to the police. They interviewed her and originally said that she was assaulted to the police, then recanted her story. The police came to me and told me without more evidence, there is nothing that can be done. I handed over the security footage, all of it for that day, and the guy was arrested. Fast forward to two months later and the guy has not pleaded guilty yet. The victim is afraid that she will be required to testify and is dreading the possibility of a subpoena. Because of this I am being threatened with a lawsuit by the parents of the victim for "emotional distress" and other bullshit terms. Correct me if I am wrong here but unless I actually broke the law to report the crime, they legally cant sue me over this right? By that I mean that any lawsuit that comes forth over this can be easily dismissed because I was reporting a crime that happened right? EDIT: Texas | dw7suiv | dw7u9z4 | 1,521,908,340 | 1,521,909,915 | 183 | 295 | Breaking the law isn't required before a civil suit. That said, you were doing what you were supposed to do, ie cooperating with law enforcement. If I were you, I wouldn't waste any energy on worrying about this. You didn't have a duty to her to not turn over the tape. You're fine. Edited to add if you get served, dont ignore it | You acted legally and ethically. Hopefully one day she'll realize that. | 0 | 1,575 | 1.612022 |
86u02y | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I am a restaurant owner. I discovered that one of my waitresses was raped. She refuses to cooperate with police and they dont want to pursue this any further without more evidence. I have the entire thing on security footage. Ill skip 99 percent of the details. Short version is I offered OT to any employee over 18 to come accept a delivery at 3 am. This waitress literally jumped at the opportunity of extra cash and volunteered first. One of the delivery guys forced her at around 5 am and I discovered her when I arrived at 7 am. The waitress wanted to just forget it ever happened, but I convinced her to at least tell her parents since there was the possibility of pregnancy or STDs. The waitress has stopped working for me, for obvious reasons, and has told me they are just going to let this go. I cant. I was going to respect her wishes, until I learned that this guy has done this before. In my mind if she is not his first victim, then she will not be his last. I made the decision to report it to the police. They interviewed her and originally said that she was assaulted to the police, then recanted her story. The police came to me and told me without more evidence, there is nothing that can be done. I handed over the security footage, all of it for that day, and the guy was arrested. Fast forward to two months later and the guy has not pleaded guilty yet. The victim is afraid that she will be required to testify and is dreading the possibility of a subpoena. Because of this I am being threatened with a lawsuit by the parents of the victim for "emotional distress" and other bullshit terms. Correct me if I am wrong here but unless I actually broke the law to report the crime, they legally cant sue me over this right? By that I mean that any lawsuit that comes forth over this can be easily dismissed because I was reporting a crime that happened right? EDIT: Texas | dw7xs28 | dw8nx13 | 1,521,913,809 | 1,521,944,215 | 74 | 81 | It was a crime that happened at your restaurant. You are reporting what happened to you by reporting what happened to her. It’s up to her to then comply with the police. Was she alone at the store? Is that allowed? I know when I was younger and worked in restaurants in NYstate, no one even a manager was allowed to be on premises alone. Can’t recall if that was at anytime or just late. Also not sure if it was law or just policies that anywhere I worked had. | As someone who's worked in trauma victim counseling, I don't want to harp on the OP for having his heart in the right place, but I do want to point something out. For many rape victims the 'damage' is that they've lost power that should be theirs. Forcing them to report often feels, to the victims, like further loss of control. It's important to be sensitive to that fact. In most cases, with an adult victim, I think it's her crime to report or not. I care more about her healing than the rapist suffering (Though, of course I'd really like to see BOTH happen). So if giving her some agency back means respecting her right not to report... that's often best. Now, the fact that you know this is a serial offender and that he's using a legitimate business to get access to these girls... certainly would make me feel like protecting the one victim wasn't my only obligation. I'm not saying you did wrong, just wanting to make sure people think about it when they find themselves in similar situations. | 0 | 30,406 | 1.094595 |
t2fwvh | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Can my mom get in legal trouble if I (17) refuse to go to my last visitation because it interferes with college? We live in Colorado. Bio dad lives out of state I’ll be graduating high school this year but I won’t turn 18 until after college starts. My orientation is not until the end of June, but I’ll still be 17 by then I’ve already told bio dad that it is nonnegotiable that I be in Colorado for my orientation, otherwise I’ll be out nearly a thousand dollars, in debt, and unable to even go to college because that depends on me being able to attend orientation In response to this, he’s said that he is entitled to me every summer and Christmas as he has been for the last ten years. He refused to reschedule the visit because the end of June is the most convenient for him. He said I should have asked him about the visitation dates before scheduling I’ve already looked and the school has no space available for any other orientation sessions. I literally need to attend this specific one and bio dad is refusing to let me So I think I’ll just not go on this visitation. Can my mom get in any serious legal trouble for this? What’s the worst that can happen? This is the last mandatory visit for me, if that changes anything | hyn09m2 | hyltxi1 | 1,645,966,400 | 1,645,936,735 | 485 | 181 | No, she won’t get in trouble. There’s nothing the courts can do if you don’t go. You’re practically an adult and no judge is going to make you see your father at 17 if you don’t want to. Go to your orientation. Send your dad a text message or email again telling him that unfortunately you will not be able to make it due to your college orientation (which usually is mandatory anyway). Note the fee is not refundable and that this is mandatory to ensure a successful college transition. Do this to have a paper trail. The worse that can happen is he will try to take it to court and be laughed out of the courtroom. Enjoy your orientation. | I would work with your attorney and get an adjustment to the parenting plan and visitation. | 1 | 29,665 | 2.679558 |
t2fwvh | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Can my mom get in legal trouble if I (17) refuse to go to my last visitation because it interferes with college? We live in Colorado. Bio dad lives out of state I’ll be graduating high school this year but I won’t turn 18 until after college starts. My orientation is not until the end of June, but I’ll still be 17 by then I’ve already told bio dad that it is nonnegotiable that I be in Colorado for my orientation, otherwise I’ll be out nearly a thousand dollars, in debt, and unable to even go to college because that depends on me being able to attend orientation In response to this, he’s said that he is entitled to me every summer and Christmas as he has been for the last ten years. He refused to reschedule the visit because the end of June is the most convenient for him. He said I should have asked him about the visitation dates before scheduling I’ve already looked and the school has no space available for any other orientation sessions. I literally need to attend this specific one and bio dad is refusing to let me So I think I’ll just not go on this visitation. Can my mom get in any serious legal trouble for this? What’s the worst that can happen? This is the last mandatory visit for me, if that changes anything | hyltxi1 | hynba1f | 1,645,936,735 | 1,645,972,421 | 181 | 348 | I would work with your attorney and get an adjustment to the parenting plan and visitation. | Get it in writing that he's refusing to be flexible with the dates, and that it's an unreasonable hardship (will interfere with college). If you don't go, nobody is gonna care. | 0 | 35,686 | 1.922652 |
t2fwvh | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Can my mom get in legal trouble if I (17) refuse to go to my last visitation because it interferes with college? We live in Colorado. Bio dad lives out of state I’ll be graduating high school this year but I won’t turn 18 until after college starts. My orientation is not until the end of June, but I’ll still be 17 by then I’ve already told bio dad that it is nonnegotiable that I be in Colorado for my orientation, otherwise I’ll be out nearly a thousand dollars, in debt, and unable to even go to college because that depends on me being able to attend orientation In response to this, he’s said that he is entitled to me every summer and Christmas as he has been for the last ten years. He refused to reschedule the visit because the end of June is the most convenient for him. He said I should have asked him about the visitation dates before scheduling I’ve already looked and the school has no space available for any other orientation sessions. I literally need to attend this specific one and bio dad is refusing to let me So I think I’ll just not go on this visitation. Can my mom get in any serious legal trouble for this? What’s the worst that can happen? This is the last mandatory visit for me, if that changes anything | hynfhxc | hynx70x | 1,645,974,353 | 1,645,981,566 | 157 | 179 | Your mom won’t be in legal trouble. Is your dad required to help pay for college via child support? This is the only part he might fight you on and trying to jeopardize your future to get out of it. I would write him an email and possibly send this as a certified mail through usps. “Dad, I am not available form X-Z dates as I have my college orientation. This is a mandatory thing for my schooling I am required to attend. I’m sorry if those dates are “inconvenient” for you. If you would like me to visit, I can visit from A-Z. From my understanding I actually have a choice and a say in visitations, the fact that you would jeopardize my education for your convenience really does not make you look favorable. It makes me not want to visit at all actually. If you need to be petty and go to court over this. Please know you will just drive me to the point of never wanting a relationship with you again. I’m almost an adult here. It’s up to you, what is not up to you is demanding I skip my orientation. That’s not happening.” | Family law attorney here. Go to your orientation. Tell your mom what bio dad is attempting to do and she can file a motion in court for you to go, or let him file a motion about you not visiting him, and any Judge would absolutely rule in her favor. Even if either motion is not heard until after orientation, it will be fine. You can send your mom your texts to and from your dad explaining your basis for why you will not be going to the visit and his response to you. The courts always rule on what is best for you as the child. Once you graduate high school, the main implication of you still being 17 is that he will have to pay child support until you turn 18, but the court will see you more so as an adult now when determining parenting issues. Your mom will not get in trouble for supporting you attending a very important college orientation. Sorry your bio dad is being so selfish. | 0 | 7,213 | 1.140127 |
t2fwvh | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Can my mom get in legal trouble if I (17) refuse to go to my last visitation because it interferes with college? We live in Colorado. Bio dad lives out of state I’ll be graduating high school this year but I won’t turn 18 until after college starts. My orientation is not until the end of June, but I’ll still be 17 by then I’ve already told bio dad that it is nonnegotiable that I be in Colorado for my orientation, otherwise I’ll be out nearly a thousand dollars, in debt, and unable to even go to college because that depends on me being able to attend orientation In response to this, he’s said that he is entitled to me every summer and Christmas as he has been for the last ten years. He refused to reschedule the visit because the end of June is the most convenient for him. He said I should have asked him about the visitation dates before scheduling I’ve already looked and the school has no space available for any other orientation sessions. I literally need to attend this specific one and bio dad is refusing to let me So I think I’ll just not go on this visitation. Can my mom get in any serious legal trouble for this? What’s the worst that can happen? This is the last mandatory visit for me, if that changes anything | hynmklj | hynx70x | 1,645,977,341 | 1,645,981,566 | 56 | 179 | As a mom of a teenager who declined visits to her other parent at your age, I doubt much will happen here. Your mom is unlikely to get in trouble with the courts if you refuse a visit. By the time your dad could get a court date to pursue this, you might already be 18 anyway. And most important, the purpose of visitation is to give you access to your parents. If a scheduled visit prevents you from going to college, then the order is no longer in your best interest. I just don't think you have to worry here. This is your future, and you are allowed to advocate for it. | Family law attorney here. Go to your orientation. Tell your mom what bio dad is attempting to do and she can file a motion in court for you to go, or let him file a motion about you not visiting him, and any Judge would absolutely rule in her favor. Even if either motion is not heard until after orientation, it will be fine. You can send your mom your texts to and from your dad explaining your basis for why you will not be going to the visit and his response to you. The courts always rule on what is best for you as the child. Once you graduate high school, the main implication of you still being 17 is that he will have to pay child support until you turn 18, but the court will see you more so as an adult now when determining parenting issues. Your mom will not get in trouble for supporting you attending a very important college orientation. Sorry your bio dad is being so selfish. | 0 | 4,225 | 3.196429 |
9467r3 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (WA) Am I opening myself to any trouble for refusing a good offer on my house? My question is pretty straightforward. I am selling my home and we received around 5 offers in 7 days. I wanna sell it quickly because I’m buying another property. For personal reasons, I do not want to sell my house to the people that made the highest offer. They offered $5 over asking. I want to pick someone else who offered asking price. Am I opening myself to any legal trouble? Can the refused ones sue me for something? Thanks! | e3imcvm | e3imj90 | 1,533,268,030 | 1,533,268,227 | 29 | 30 | > I want to pick someone else who offered asking price. Am I opening myself to any legal trouble? Can the refused ones sue me for something? Thanks! This sort of scenario happens often. Te reason is usually due to the financial status of the buyer (example: FHA home loan buyer, and the seller does not want to go through the process of making the property FHA approved). But if the reason you are not taking the highest offer is due to race, religion, national origin, etc, then that is illegal and you can be held liable. | $5 over asking? Lol! It may just as well be asking price so you are free to take any offer that is more advantageous such as all cash versus subject to financing. Seller doesn’t have to divulge which offer he or she took... | 0 | 197 | 1.034483 |
5h7ru4 | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | My ex told my 10-year-old that she could call her at any time and that I wasn't allowed to stop her from doing so [Massachusetts] Is this legally the case? We have joint custody. My daughter was upset and wanted to call her mom (to complain about me). I said she could after she did her homework (she was upset about me requiring her to go to another room to do it). My daughter yelled that she felt uncomfortable and acted as if she had more authority over the situation because her mother told her this. | day62a4 | dayctfp | 1,481,219,938 | 1,481,227,632 | 11 | 67 | Not in this situation, no. Generally, it is good policy to allow the child contact with the other parent while in your custody. Looks good to a judge. However, there are definitely exceptions, such as when the contact with said parent infringes on your time with the child OR your ability to parent as you see fit. When you have custody, you are the parent. That means you can do anything a reasonable parent would do, INCLUDING taking her phone away. Heck, you want to run a hard line with her? Some parents don't even allow their kids to have their cell phones while with them. That's perfectly reasonable for you to do, especially if your daughter is having issues understanding appropriate use of her phone. Parent as you see fit. Just make sure to stay reasonable (such as making sure she has access to call emergency services if alone) and within the bounds of the custody agreement. | As a person training to work with kids, this may be a misinterpretation/literal execution of a wellmeaning piece of advice from your ex. "You can always, always call me if you feel uncomfortable. Dont feel like you have to ask if you dont feel safe," can easily become misused/misunderstood by a child. I comment because, in kindergarten, I called the cops when my older brother took a swing at me because "hittig isnt ok and violence that scares you needs police". You may want to get a school counselor to break down this kind of barrier, that way she knows what is appropriate vs not without it stepping on power balance between you ad your partner. Potentially save a weird CPS visit too, or prevent custody issues in the future. Nuance can be hard for kids, and I wouldnt assign malice when there are so, so many other reasons this happens, especially in an era where abuse/kidnappings are known to happen more from family than strangers. | 0 | 7,694 | 6.090909 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48ii5z | i48hstp | 1,649,639,061 | 1,649,638,733 | 1,205 | 283 | Block him on your phone. If he comes to your home or calls, tell him to only communicate in writing. Don't speak with him. Don't take the car back. Don't offer a partial refund. When you go to court you will be fine. Old used cars with no warranty will have issues. | He had his opportunity to inspect before purchasing. Offer nothing, including sympathy, apology, or explanation. At most, state you represented the car's condition to the best of your knowledge. | 1 | 328 | 4.257951 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48hstp | i48opuv | 1,649,638,733 | 1,649,641,970 | 283 | 1,204 | He had his opportunity to inspect before purchasing. Offer nothing, including sympathy, apology, or explanation. At most, state you represented the car's condition to the best of your knowledge. | If someone mentions they're going to get lawyers involved or take you to court or get the police involved, then all you need to say is this: "If that is the case then I think it is in both if our best interests that we cease communication. I'll wait to hear from your lawyer, goodbye." Then hang up immediately, and wait for their lawyer to send you a letter. Once you receive it, find the lawyers name online (don't trust the numbers and emails on the letter they send you) and ring them to validate that the letter is genuine. Most of the time they'll back off before this point, or they'll draft up a legal letter themselves using a random lawyers name to try and intimidate you. This is why you find the lawyers themselves online rather than ring the number on the letter. If you get to this stage and the letter is genuine, you need to have copies of all communications with the other party, and you should probably get a lawyer involved yourself if you don't know what you are doing | 0 | 3,237 | 4.254417 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48lgw0 | i48opuv | 1,649,640,455 | 1,649,641,970 | 160 | 1,204 | >I looked up the laws in my state Go ahead and share that state with us. Virtually all private party automobile sales are by default "as-is" with no warranty express or implied. A handful of places require a privately sold vehicle to pass an emissions inspection or a safety inspection before selling to a private party. The buyer's extreme claims of a missing heater core and the car being wholly "un driveable" suggest that he's scamming you, rather than simply being a dissatisfied buyer who chose to inspect the car closely only after purchasing it. If you have followed the procedures necessary to sell a car in your state, then tell him no. | If someone mentions they're going to get lawyers involved or take you to court or get the police involved, then all you need to say is this: "If that is the case then I think it is in both if our best interests that we cease communication. I'll wait to hear from your lawyer, goodbye." Then hang up immediately, and wait for their lawyer to send you a letter. Once you receive it, find the lawyers name online (don't trust the numbers and emails on the letter they send you) and ring them to validate that the letter is genuine. Most of the time they'll back off before this point, or they'll draft up a legal letter themselves using a random lawyers name to try and intimidate you. This is why you find the lawyers themselves online rather than ring the number on the letter. If you get to this stage and the letter is genuine, you need to have copies of all communications with the other party, and you should probably get a lawyer involved yourself if you don't know what you are doing | 0 | 1,515 | 7.525 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48opuv | i48nh5n | 1,649,641,970 | 1,649,641,392 | 1,204 | 47 | If someone mentions they're going to get lawyers involved or take you to court or get the police involved, then all you need to say is this: "If that is the case then I think it is in both if our best interests that we cease communication. I'll wait to hear from your lawyer, goodbye." Then hang up immediately, and wait for their lawyer to send you a letter. Once you receive it, find the lawyers name online (don't trust the numbers and emails on the letter they send you) and ring them to validate that the letter is genuine. Most of the time they'll back off before this point, or they'll draft up a legal letter themselves using a random lawyers name to try and intimidate you. This is why you find the lawyers themselves online rather than ring the number on the letter. If you get to this stage and the letter is genuine, you need to have copies of all communications with the other party, and you should probably get a lawyer involved yourself if you don't know what you are doing | No bill of sale? Like even on a notepad man? I’d ignore him. Buyer beware, and if he was so concerned he could have gotten it inspected before he bought it. | 1 | 578 | 25.617021 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48r61d | i499n4f | 1,649,643,125 | 1,649,653,177 | 20 | 27 | Totally a scam, but on the off-chance it isn’t, it’s also possible that with an oil leak he let it run dry. That will destroy the motor. Also, cease contact, don’t return any messages, and wait for his “lawyer”. Most used car sales are “as is” unless there’s a warranty. You should be fine. | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | 0 | 10,052 | 1.35 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48p5fg | i499n4f | 1,649,642,175 | 1,649,653,177 | 14 | 27 | Tell the buyer he bought the car “as-is” and that the sale is final. Then ignore his calls and block him. If he still comes after you, tell him you will report him to the police for harassment or potential fraud. | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | 0 | 11,002 | 1.928571 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i499n4f | i492uee | 1,649,653,177 | 1,649,649,097 | 27 | 13 | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | My friend fell for this many years back when selling his first car. The guy called him two days later and said the transmission exploded and demanded $1k for a replacement. He fell for it… Even though the car was $2k and had over 200k miles on it. He should have laughed, said that sucks and hung up but he didn’t know better. Hell if they keep calling me I would call the police and see if they can have a little chat with them. | 1 | 4,080 | 2.076923 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48v3hx | i499n4f | 1,649,645,036 | 1,649,653,177 | 11 | 27 | If legitimate, I feel for him, but I suspect this is a scam. In every state that I know of, private sales of vehicles are done "as-is" and it is the buyer's duty to inspect the vehicle prior to purchase. Tell him that you were forthcoming with every issue you knew about, he is ultimately responsible for giving the vehicle a satisfactory once-over prior to purchase, and that you have no further business discussing anything with him. Tell him that you don't want him to contact you any further and if he does, you will be reporting him for harassing communications. Keep your receipts of every ounce of communication with him. Ignore/block unless you get served papers, in which case, lawyer up. | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | 0 | 8,141 | 2.454545 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48yqky | i499n4f | 1,649,646,891 | 1,649,653,177 | 7 | 27 | There are very few circumstances that the courts will overturn a used car sale by a private party, especially for a 15 year old car. Usually this had to do with fraud on the part of the seller... The mileage is rolled back, jumping title, etc. Even then, for a private party sale, the fraud has to be egregious for the sale to be rolled back. If you made no outrageous claims in the advertising of the car and the title is good. Tell them to pound sand...it is an "as is" sale. | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | 0 | 6,286 | 3.857143 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i499n4f | i499epq | 1,649,653,177 | 1,649,653,027 | 27 | 4 | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | Tell him to send notices to your Esq | 1 | 150 | 6.75 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i4985wu | i499n4f | 1,649,652,246 | 1,649,653,177 | 3 | 27 | Private party sales are generally deemed final under federal and state law. I don’t think the federal FTC regulated three day right if rescission (cancellation of sale) law covers car sales like this, though your state may provide for it. Regardless, the seller has requested a cancellation of the sale for the reasons stated, and if you refuse he does have the right to take you to small claims court and argue that you misrepresented the condition of the car which may constitute fraud, if he succeeds in proving it. I don’t think he would be able to however, if you can show that you were forthcoming about the condition of the car prior to closing the sale. Since he will likely be coming to court with one or more inspection reports from auto mechanics to prove his claim, it will be helpful if you can show that your original advertisement mentioned the problems specifically, and made clear that the sale was for an as-is condition vehicle. | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | 0 | 931 | 9 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48y5zr | i499n4f | 1,649,646,591 | 1,649,653,177 | 2 | 27 | As Is sale!! | The moment that someone says they are going to sue you, conversations end. All good faith negotiations end. And you should reply back with nothing more than: 'I will accept service of process by mail.' | 0 | 6,586 | 13.5 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48p5fg | i48r61d | 1,649,642,175 | 1,649,643,125 | 14 | 20 | Tell the buyer he bought the car “as-is” and that the sale is final. Then ignore his calls and block him. If he still comes after you, tell him you will report him to the police for harassment or potential fraud. | Totally a scam, but on the off-chance it isn’t, it’s also possible that with an oil leak he let it run dry. That will destroy the motor. Also, cease contact, don’t return any messages, and wait for his “lawyer”. Most used car sales are “as is” unless there’s a warranty. You should be fine. | 0 | 950 | 1.428571 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48v3hx | i492uee | 1,649,645,036 | 1,649,649,097 | 11 | 13 | If legitimate, I feel for him, but I suspect this is a scam. In every state that I know of, private sales of vehicles are done "as-is" and it is the buyer's duty to inspect the vehicle prior to purchase. Tell him that you were forthcoming with every issue you knew about, he is ultimately responsible for giving the vehicle a satisfactory once-over prior to purchase, and that you have no further business discussing anything with him. Tell him that you don't want him to contact you any further and if he does, you will be reporting him for harassing communications. Keep your receipts of every ounce of communication with him. Ignore/block unless you get served papers, in which case, lawyer up. | My friend fell for this many years back when selling his first car. The guy called him two days later and said the transmission exploded and demanded $1k for a replacement. He fell for it… Even though the car was $2k and had over 200k miles on it. He should have laughed, said that sucks and hung up but he didn’t know better. Hell if they keep calling me I would call the police and see if they can have a little chat with them. | 0 | 4,061 | 1.181818 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48yqky | i492uee | 1,649,646,891 | 1,649,649,097 | 7 | 13 | There are very few circumstances that the courts will overturn a used car sale by a private party, especially for a 15 year old car. Usually this had to do with fraud on the part of the seller... The mileage is rolled back, jumping title, etc. Even then, for a private party sale, the fraud has to be egregious for the sale to be rolled back. If you made no outrageous claims in the advertising of the car and the title is good. Tell them to pound sand...it is an "as is" sale. | My friend fell for this many years back when selling his first car. The guy called him two days later and said the transmission exploded and demanded $1k for a replacement. He fell for it… Even though the car was $2k and had over 200k miles on it. He should have laughed, said that sucks and hung up but he didn’t know better. Hell if they keep calling me I would call the police and see if they can have a little chat with them. | 0 | 2,206 | 1.857143 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i492uee | i48y5zr | 1,649,649,097 | 1,649,646,591 | 13 | 2 | My friend fell for this many years back when selling his first car. The guy called him two days later and said the transmission exploded and demanded $1k for a replacement. He fell for it… Even though the car was $2k and had over 200k miles on it. He should have laughed, said that sucks and hung up but he didn’t know better. Hell if they keep calling me I would call the police and see if they can have a little chat with them. | As Is sale!! | 1 | 2,506 | 6.5 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49pumg | i48yqky | 1,649,665,407 | 1,649,646,891 | 9 | 7 | he ripped those parts off the car and is trying to get either a full or partial refund so he can make bank | There are very few circumstances that the courts will overturn a used car sale by a private party, especially for a 15 year old car. Usually this had to do with fraud on the part of the seller... The mileage is rolled back, jumping title, etc. Even then, for a private party sale, the fraud has to be egregious for the sale to be rolled back. If you made no outrageous claims in the advertising of the car and the title is good. Tell them to pound sand...it is an "as is" sale. | 1 | 18,516 | 1.285714 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49bsvh | i49pumg | 1,649,654,600 | 1,649,665,407 | 7 | 9 | Private sale cars as sold As-is and unless you willingly and knowingly lied in the ad you placed to sell it: IE: "Runs like new!", "No issues whatsoever", "Clean and in tip top condition". If you didn't lie in the ad like above and said it had some issues, then they can't touch you. My advice if they try and sue, take it to Judge Mathis or People's Court, they will be shut down faster then they can be sworn in and humiliated on national TV. Win/Win | he ripped those parts off the car and is trying to get either a full or partial refund so he can make bank | 0 | 10,807 | 1.285714 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i499epq | i49pumg | 1,649,653,027 | 1,649,665,407 | 4 | 9 | Tell him to send notices to your Esq | he ripped those parts off the car and is trying to get either a full or partial refund so he can make bank | 0 | 12,380 | 2.25 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49iose | i49pumg | 1,649,659,595 | 1,649,665,407 | 4 | 9 | It’s possible he looted the car to sell the parts or swapped them out with his vehicle if the parts matched. | he ripped those parts off the car and is trying to get either a full or partial refund so he can make bank | 0 | 5,812 | 2.25 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49j66d | i49pumg | 1,649,659,966 | 1,649,665,407 | 3 | 9 | It’s a car he paid $4000 for what does he expect? Block his as he dose not stand a chance for any damages. | he ripped those parts off the car and is trying to get either a full or partial refund so he can make bank | 0 | 5,441 | 3 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49pumg | i4985wu | 1,649,665,407 | 1,649,652,246 | 9 | 3 | he ripped those parts off the car and is trying to get either a full or partial refund so he can make bank | Private party sales are generally deemed final under federal and state law. I don’t think the federal FTC regulated three day right if rescission (cancellation of sale) law covers car sales like this, though your state may provide for it. Regardless, the seller has requested a cancellation of the sale for the reasons stated, and if you refuse he does have the right to take you to small claims court and argue that you misrepresented the condition of the car which may constitute fraud, if he succeeds in proving it. I don’t think he would be able to however, if you can show that you were forthcoming about the condition of the car prior to closing the sale. Since he will likely be coming to court with one or more inspection reports from auto mechanics to prove his claim, it will be helpful if you can show that your original advertisement mentioned the problems specifically, and made clear that the sale was for an as-is condition vehicle. | 1 | 13,161 | 3 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49pumg | i48y5zr | 1,649,665,407 | 1,649,646,591 | 9 | 2 | he ripped those parts off the car and is trying to get either a full or partial refund so he can make bank | As Is sale!! | 1 | 18,816 | 4.5 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48yqky | i48y5zr | 1,649,646,891 | 1,649,646,591 | 7 | 2 | There are very few circumstances that the courts will overturn a used car sale by a private party, especially for a 15 year old car. Usually this had to do with fraud on the part of the seller... The mileage is rolled back, jumping title, etc. Even then, for a private party sale, the fraud has to be egregious for the sale to be rolled back. If you made no outrageous claims in the advertising of the car and the title is good. Tell them to pound sand...it is an "as is" sale. | As Is sale!! | 1 | 300 | 3.5 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49bsvh | i499epq | 1,649,654,600 | 1,649,653,027 | 7 | 4 | Private sale cars as sold As-is and unless you willingly and knowingly lied in the ad you placed to sell it: IE: "Runs like new!", "No issues whatsoever", "Clean and in tip top condition". If you didn't lie in the ad like above and said it had some issues, then they can't touch you. My advice if they try and sue, take it to Judge Mathis or People's Court, they will be shut down faster then they can be sworn in and humiliated on national TV. Win/Win | Tell him to send notices to your Esq | 1 | 1,573 | 1.75 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49bsvh | i4985wu | 1,649,654,600 | 1,649,652,246 | 7 | 3 | Private sale cars as sold As-is and unless you willingly and knowingly lied in the ad you placed to sell it: IE: "Runs like new!", "No issues whatsoever", "Clean and in tip top condition". If you didn't lie in the ad like above and said it had some issues, then they can't touch you. My advice if they try and sue, take it to Judge Mathis or People's Court, they will be shut down faster then they can be sworn in and humiliated on national TV. Win/Win | Private party sales are generally deemed final under federal and state law. I don’t think the federal FTC regulated three day right if rescission (cancellation of sale) law covers car sales like this, though your state may provide for it. Regardless, the seller has requested a cancellation of the sale for the reasons stated, and if you refuse he does have the right to take you to small claims court and argue that you misrepresented the condition of the car which may constitute fraud, if he succeeds in proving it. I don’t think he would be able to however, if you can show that you were forthcoming about the condition of the car prior to closing the sale. Since he will likely be coming to court with one or more inspection reports from auto mechanics to prove his claim, it will be helpful if you can show that your original advertisement mentioned the problems specifically, and made clear that the sale was for an as-is condition vehicle. | 1 | 2,354 | 2.333333 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48y5zr | i49bsvh | 1,649,646,591 | 1,649,654,600 | 2 | 7 | As Is sale!! | Private sale cars as sold As-is and unless you willingly and knowingly lied in the ad you placed to sell it: IE: "Runs like new!", "No issues whatsoever", "Clean and in tip top condition". If you didn't lie in the ad like above and said it had some issues, then they can't touch you. My advice if they try and sue, take it to Judge Mathis or People's Court, they will be shut down faster then they can be sworn in and humiliated on national TV. Win/Win | 0 | 8,009 | 3.5 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i499epq | i4985wu | 1,649,653,027 | 1,649,652,246 | 4 | 3 | Tell him to send notices to your Esq | Private party sales are generally deemed final under federal and state law. I don’t think the federal FTC regulated three day right if rescission (cancellation of sale) law covers car sales like this, though your state may provide for it. Regardless, the seller has requested a cancellation of the sale for the reasons stated, and if you refuse he does have the right to take you to small claims court and argue that you misrepresented the condition of the car which may constitute fraud, if he succeeds in proving it. I don’t think he would be able to however, if you can show that you were forthcoming about the condition of the car prior to closing the sale. Since he will likely be coming to court with one or more inspection reports from auto mechanics to prove his claim, it will be helpful if you can show that your original advertisement mentioned the problems specifically, and made clear that the sale was for an as-is condition vehicle. | 1 | 781 | 1.333333 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48y5zr | i499epq | 1,649,646,591 | 1,649,653,027 | 2 | 4 | As Is sale!! | Tell him to send notices to your Esq | 0 | 6,436 | 2 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49iose | i4985wu | 1,649,659,595 | 1,649,652,246 | 4 | 3 | It’s possible he looted the car to sell the parts or swapped them out with his vehicle if the parts matched. | Private party sales are generally deemed final under federal and state law. I don’t think the federal FTC regulated three day right if rescission (cancellation of sale) law covers car sales like this, though your state may provide for it. Regardless, the seller has requested a cancellation of the sale for the reasons stated, and if you refuse he does have the right to take you to small claims court and argue that you misrepresented the condition of the car which may constitute fraud, if he succeeds in proving it. I don’t think he would be able to however, if you can show that you were forthcoming about the condition of the car prior to closing the sale. Since he will likely be coming to court with one or more inspection reports from auto mechanics to prove his claim, it will be helpful if you can show that your original advertisement mentioned the problems specifically, and made clear that the sale was for an as-is condition vehicle. | 1 | 7,349 | 1.333333 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49iose | i48y5zr | 1,649,659,595 | 1,649,646,591 | 4 | 2 | It’s possible he looted the car to sell the parts or swapped them out with his vehicle if the parts matched. | As Is sale!! | 1 | 13,004 | 2 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49tjci | i49j66d | 1,649,668,481 | 1,649,659,966 | 4 | 3 | Two words when it comes to private car sales: Caveat Emptor | It’s a car he paid $4000 for what does he expect? Block his as he dose not stand a chance for any damages. | 1 | 8,515 | 1.333333 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49j66d | i48y5zr | 1,649,659,966 | 1,649,646,591 | 3 | 2 | It’s a car he paid $4000 for what does he expect? Block his as he dose not stand a chance for any damages. | As Is sale!! | 1 | 13,375 | 1.5 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49tjci | i4985wu | 1,649,668,481 | 1,649,652,246 | 4 | 3 | Two words when it comes to private car sales: Caveat Emptor | Private party sales are generally deemed final under federal and state law. I don’t think the federal FTC regulated three day right if rescission (cancellation of sale) law covers car sales like this, though your state may provide for it. Regardless, the seller has requested a cancellation of the sale for the reasons stated, and if you refuse he does have the right to take you to small claims court and argue that you misrepresented the condition of the car which may constitute fraud, if he succeeds in proving it. I don’t think he would be able to however, if you can show that you were forthcoming about the condition of the car prior to closing the sale. Since he will likely be coming to court with one or more inspection reports from auto mechanics to prove his claim, it will be helpful if you can show that your original advertisement mentioned the problems specifically, and made clear that the sale was for an as-is condition vehicle. | 1 | 16,235 | 1.333333 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i49tjci | i48y5zr | 1,649,668,481 | 1,649,646,591 | 4 | 2 | Two words when it comes to private car sales: Caveat Emptor | As Is sale!! | 1 | 21,890 | 2 |
u0uzp0 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | I privately sold a car, and 2 days later the buyer wants me to pay him back because he found out that the car has many issues. What do i do? I sold a VW Passat 2007 for about $4000 and also mentioned the issues it had. It had an oil leak and that’s it. Today, the buyer says that the car is not drive-able and that the engine is from a junkyard and that the heater core is not there and stuff. I told him that I had no clue about all this and him and his full family came to inspect the car. They all liked it and bought it. Now he’s saying that he is going to sue me over it. I looked up the laws in my state which say that a private sale is a done deal, as long as I have 4 documents. I have them all except the bill of sale. Does he have a legal basis to stand on? | i48y5zr | i4985wu | 1,649,646,591 | 1,649,652,246 | 2 | 3 | As Is sale!! | Private party sales are generally deemed final under federal and state law. I don’t think the federal FTC regulated three day right if rescission (cancellation of sale) law covers car sales like this, though your state may provide for it. Regardless, the seller has requested a cancellation of the sale for the reasons stated, and if you refuse he does have the right to take you to small claims court and argue that you misrepresented the condition of the car which may constitute fraud, if he succeeds in proving it. I don’t think he would be able to however, if you can show that you were forthcoming about the condition of the car prior to closing the sale. Since he will likely be coming to court with one or more inspection reports from auto mechanics to prove his claim, it will be helpful if you can show that your original advertisement mentioned the problems specifically, and made clear that the sale was for an as-is condition vehicle. | 0 | 5,655 | 1.5 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hluy314 | hlu8813 | 1,637,726,413 | 1,637,714,102 | 1,381 | 815 | If this is a name brand dealer, I would definitely go in and explain the situation. Especially since she hasn’t taken possession of the vehicle yet. Many places the sale isn’t final until it’s driven off the lot, and many more places have a time frame for return to stop bad reviews and law suits. I would start with reaching out to the dealer and asking to speak to the GM / GSM. | Does she want it voided? Have someone go with her to the dealership and talk to them- if she hasn't taken possession yet then they might just agree without a bunch of legal hoops. | 1 | 12,311 | 1.694479 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlu86tp | hluy314 | 1,637,714,086 | 1,637,726,413 | 105 | 1,381 | It isn't going to be that easy. You need to talk to a civil attorney Does she work? How did they approve a loan for that amount | If this is a name brand dealer, I would definitely go in and explain the situation. Especially since she hasn’t taken possession of the vehicle yet. Many places the sale isn’t final until it’s driven off the lot, and many more places have a time frame for return to stop bad reviews and law suits. I would start with reaching out to the dealer and asking to speak to the GM / GSM. | 0 | 12,327 | 13.152381 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlu8813 | hlu86tp | 1,637,714,102 | 1,637,714,086 | 815 | 105 | Does she want it voided? Have someone go with her to the dealership and talk to them- if she hasn't taken possession yet then they might just agree without a bunch of legal hoops. | It isn't going to be that easy. You need to talk to a civil attorney Does she work? How did they approve a loan for that amount | 1 | 16 | 7.761905 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlv8z3r | hlvbnbp | 1,637,732,379 | 1,637,734,004 | 240 | 270 | Do not take possession of the car. Do not drive it off the lot no matter even with veiled threats of " it is your car now and we are not responsible if you leave it here ". On another note, I doubt the financing paperwork was processed at the mall and I doubt your mother signed papers. | Talk to the dealer. Say that the delivery will be refused. Any reputable business will void the paperwork especially if she says she doesn't remember the purchase. | 0 | 1,625 | 1.125 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlu86tp | hlvbnbp | 1,637,714,086 | 1,637,734,004 | 105 | 270 | It isn't going to be that easy. You need to talk to a civil attorney Does she work? How did they approve a loan for that amount | Talk to the dealer. Say that the delivery will be refused. Any reputable business will void the paperwork especially if she says she doesn't remember the purchase. | 0 | 19,918 | 2.571429 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlv8z3r | hlu86tp | 1,637,732,379 | 1,637,714,086 | 240 | 105 | Do not take possession of the car. Do not drive it off the lot no matter even with veiled threats of " it is your car now and we are not responsible if you leave it here ". On another note, I doubt the financing paperwork was processed at the mall and I doubt your mother signed papers. | It isn't going to be that easy. You need to talk to a civil attorney Does she work? How did they approve a loan for that amount | 1 | 18,293 | 2.285714 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlu86tp | hlvj42h | 1,637,714,086 | 1,637,739,006 | 105 | 219 | It isn't going to be that easy. You need to talk to a civil attorney Does she work? How did they approve a loan for that amount | Capacity is required for all contracts. If she didn’t have capacity at the time of the contract it is legally void. Proving that is another issue. In any case, an interdiction proceeding should be forthcoming ASAP. | 0 | 24,920 | 2.085714 |
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