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r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlvvak5 | hlw5bf8 | 1,637,748,833 | 1,637,756,409 | 16 | 55 | Wait. A doctor diagnosed her and you're buddy got POA? That doesn't sound right. If she has dementia she couldn't sign anything giving that authority. You're friend will likely have to go through probate court to be appointed as a Guardian or Conservator. If you're friend needs help with how to do that or how to start a case against this dealership for exploiting her condition he should contact your states Department of Elder Services. https://dss.sc.gov/adult-protection/adult-protective-services/how-to-report-abuse-neglect/ | So many questions here - So, you don't mention anything about paperwork - does she have some? Could she just be fantasizing about purchasing one? How did she get to the dealership in the first place? In a car? did she trade it in? And you mentioned a mall - a car mall? They do exist, but that is def a question. Since $60k is no slouch amount - how did it get financed? They run your credit right at the table, at least they did when I last purchased a car a few years back. And don't they usually require a down payment of some sort? 100% financing on a $60k car? Uh, no. Look through her financial records and see if she actually took some cash to get this car. Buying a car is a huge deal for many people. It's not something you "forget" you have done very easily. Please make sure she sees a doctor asap. They have meds out there that can delay her issues. | 0 | 7,576 | 3.4375 |
r0ronr | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [SC,USA] My friend's mother has dementia but it hasn't been diagnosed yet. She bought a car the other day and she neither drives nor can afford it. Can my buddy void the sale if The doctor diagnoses her and he gets POA? So my buddy's mother lives with him and his wife ever since his dad passed away. Over the last few years she started to become forgetful, and sometimes forget where she is or what year it is. A doctor hasn't diagnosed her with dementia yet, but he has no doubt. The other day she was at the mall and somehow ended up buying $60,000 car with financing through the dealer. She doesn't remember buying the car and they're supposed to deliver in a few days. He goes to the doctor and the doctor diagnoses her with dementia, giving him power of attorney, can he avoid the sale? Apparently in contracts there's something called "capacity" that you need. If she didn't have it at the time, is it valid? | hlw8m08 | hlvvak5 | 1,637,758,480 | 1,637,748,833 | 21 | 16 | Check the contract. A lot of states have a 72-hour window after the sale to terminate the contract, no strings attached. Don't have time to look up whether or not yours has it, but it's worth a quick look. | Wait. A doctor diagnosed her and you're buddy got POA? That doesn't sound right. If she has dementia she couldn't sign anything giving that authority. You're friend will likely have to go through probate court to be appointed as a Guardian or Conservator. If you're friend needs help with how to do that or how to start a case against this dealership for exploiting her condition he should contact your states Department of Elder Services. https://dss.sc.gov/adult-protection/adult-protective-services/how-to-report-abuse-neglect/ | 1 | 9,647 | 1.3125 |
uymxv8 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Can the owner of a restaurant steal most of the tips and deduct from wages as he sees fit? Ontario, Canada. I work (minimum wage) at a restaurant as a cashier and do tons of other stuff. Is it legal for the owner to do the following: 1- Not giving us the whole amount of tips. We get around 10 bucks every couple of weeks but we know for a fact that the tips were way more than that. Most people tip after using their card so I can see that most customers tip at least 2-3 bucks. Multiply that by the tons of customers at each shift. 2- Deduct from the employee's daily wage as he sees fit. For instance, he would literally get on top of the fridge and wipe his finger across it. If he finds a small amount of dust, he'd deduct like 2 hours from our daily wage. So, now we're working 2 hours for free. Thank you. | ia5di73 | ia52zsf | 1,653,620,578 | 1,653,615,405 | 10 | 6 | 1. In Ontario, employers can withhold or take an employee's tips if they are collecting and redistributing those tips later as part of a tip pool. The employer typically gets to decide who participates in the tip pool and how the tips are distributed among pool members. An employer may only participate in the tip pool (i.e. take some of the tips for themselves) if (a) they are the owner or a director/partner/shareholder of the business AND (b) they regularly engage in the same types of work that tipped employees perform. If the work the owner performs is not something that would typically get tips, they are not eligible to collect money from the tip pool. 2. It is not legal in Ontario for employers to deduct/withhold wages except when it's required by law (e.g. for income tax, Employment Insurance, CPP contributions etc.) or court order (e.g. for child support). You must be paid at least your regular wage for all hours you have worked. Employers in Ontario cannot just decide to deduct wages for things like spilled food/drinks, broken dishes/glassware, dine-and-dash customers, presence of dust/dirt, etc. If the employer has a problem with the way you perform your work (e.g. a problem with the cleanliness of the fridge), they can either address that issue with you or terminate you, but they can't simply deduct an amount from your pay for hours you've worked. | I am not a lawyer and do not live in Canada but I am still willing to bet my paycheck that neither of these things are legal. | 1 | 5,173 | 1.666667 |
olgcm8 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Smashed my finger opening a toolbox on a flatbed truck at work. The tool box was added within the last year. When I initially took off the tip of my thumb, everyone laughed bc they all knew exactly what happened. Unbeknownst to me, It had happened MANY times before. After having screwed up my thumb, in the heat of the moment, I started bitching about there needing to be a warning sign or something! During my rant, I said I’m going to do something so that it doesn’t happen to anyone else. Now, I wasn’t originally that upset about it bc shit happens, but, whilst they were laughing about my fucked up thumb, they informed me that this has happened many times before. The owner said he was the first to do it and it took 6 months to get his thumbnail back. They said that one employee screwed up his thumb and did it twice! They think it’s hilarious. Wait, wait, wait. So, let me get this straight? You guys knew this was an issue and you’re letting people do it?! As a sort a company passage or what?! Ok, now I’m mad. I bought a red construction marker and the next time I was around the truck I wrote on the toolbox “OPEN SLOWLY”. Well, the owner seen it a few days later and was not happy. He asked who did it and I confessed (pfft, confessed. I told everyone I was going to do it, I guess they didn’t think I was serious). He said, “That’s not how we do things here. I run a professional business. I will not have my company vehicles with writing on them. If we need to do something like put up a sign, that’s one thing but we don’t write on my shit. Now I have to find a way to clean or scrub the writing off. That’s unacceptable.” Being safe IS the most professional thing you can do. To be aesthetically professional is not superior to being safe. I don’t even know how many people have smashed there thumb on that damn toolbox but once was all I needed before I realized something needed to be done. Since then, the writing has been cleaned off and nothing has replaced it. What can I do to ensure the proper action is taken? Is there something I can even do besides pestering him about it? I’ve put in my two week notice so I’LL never do it again but what about future employees who don’t know? | h5eeoe5 | h5e6zdm | 1,626,445,244 | 1,626,441,447 | 215 | 129 | Contact osha and also start looking for a new job. Your boss is not very good at safety. | Contact OSHA. | 1 | 3,797 | 1.666667 |
olgcm8 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Smashed my finger opening a toolbox on a flatbed truck at work. The tool box was added within the last year. When I initially took off the tip of my thumb, everyone laughed bc they all knew exactly what happened. Unbeknownst to me, It had happened MANY times before. After having screwed up my thumb, in the heat of the moment, I started bitching about there needing to be a warning sign or something! During my rant, I said I’m going to do something so that it doesn’t happen to anyone else. Now, I wasn’t originally that upset about it bc shit happens, but, whilst they were laughing about my fucked up thumb, they informed me that this has happened many times before. The owner said he was the first to do it and it took 6 months to get his thumbnail back. They said that one employee screwed up his thumb and did it twice! They think it’s hilarious. Wait, wait, wait. So, let me get this straight? You guys knew this was an issue and you’re letting people do it?! As a sort a company passage or what?! Ok, now I’m mad. I bought a red construction marker and the next time I was around the truck I wrote on the toolbox “OPEN SLOWLY”. Well, the owner seen it a few days later and was not happy. He asked who did it and I confessed (pfft, confessed. I told everyone I was going to do it, I guess they didn’t think I was serious). He said, “That’s not how we do things here. I run a professional business. I will not have my company vehicles with writing on them. If we need to do something like put up a sign, that’s one thing but we don’t write on my shit. Now I have to find a way to clean or scrub the writing off. That’s unacceptable.” Being safe IS the most professional thing you can do. To be aesthetically professional is not superior to being safe. I don’t even know how many people have smashed there thumb on that damn toolbox but once was all I needed before I realized something needed to be done. Since then, the writing has been cleaned off and nothing has replaced it. What can I do to ensure the proper action is taken? Is there something I can even do besides pestering him about it? I’ve put in my two week notice so I’LL never do it again but what about future employees who don’t know? | h5efjn0 | h5faio5 | 1,626,445,643 | 1,626,458,842 | 17 | 46 | What do you mean you smashed your finger opening a toolbox? Was it due to your hand placement or a defect in the toolbox? | Everyone stating to contact OSHA is correct, I just want to add that your state may have a state level OSHA program which is who you’d want to contact as opposed to federal OSHA. Searching “your state” OSHA will tell you if you’ve got a state level agency. | 0 | 13,199 | 2.705882 |
39tlzj | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Mom stole a trust fund I didn't know I had, now the IRS is coming after me for unpaid taxes on the withdrawal. [FL/Ontario] When I was a kid, my grandparents would give my brother and I checks for every holiday and birthday towards a mutual fund they opened in our names. My mom always told us we could not access the money until we were 25. A few years ago, I asked her about it and she told me the mutual funds investments had gone bankrupt and there was nothing left in the accounts. Fast forward to Thursday. My dad got a letter from the IRS addressed to me, I asked him to open it as I live in Canada now and shipping could take a while. In it, the IRS demanded the tax(between 3 and 4 hundred) for around $3,600 withdrawn from the account. I was blown away as I had never accessed the account before, I didn't even know my account number or anything of the sort. I called the company that held the account and they told me the account had been cashed out in August 2013. The check had been overnighted to my mother's house in FL. They informed me it was not fraud as my motheris the custodian of the account, and it was assumed the money would be for my benefit. However I was living in Canada by then, and never knew or saw a penny of that money. She did not fill out the 1099B that came with it and so it lapsed under my SS#. Whats my next step? Could I sue her for the original $3,600? Honestly she is a broke crack addict and I never hope to get that money back. She also stole my inheritance from my grandparents and about 5k in US savings bonds from me prior to this. Right now I am mostly concerned that I do not want to pay the IRS for having been stolen from. How do I approach or dispute this with the IRS? After finding out, I also had my brother see his account history with them - same story, 2.5k withdrawn at the same time as my account. The IRS has not contacted him yet. Should he pre-emptively contact them or wait to get a demand letter as well? Is the mutual fund in any way liable? I think the answer is no but feel it should be asked. I am still currently temporary resident in Ontario, US citizen. Brother lives in TX, mom now lives in VA, the account was set up and cashed out in FL. I'm feeling lost and betrayed and any help would be appreciated. Thanks in advance. | cs6df4y | cs6bha3 | 1,434,307,372 | 1,434,303,570 | 103 | 35 | You should contact the IRS, maybe the Taxpayer Advocate if the regular process doesn't work, you should be able to find their contact information pretty easy online. Explain your situation and ask for what sort of proof that they need to get this out of the system. Maybe bank records for the time period when the check was cashed? Your brother should just wait, if they haven't found out about him there's really no need to alert them to it. He might want to collect whatever proof the IRS asks from you and have that ready if they do find something. This isn't really enough money to make it worth hiring an attorney, the attorneys fees will easily be over $400. You can also sue your mother for breaching her fiduciary duties to use these accounts for your benefit. But, if you can't collect it might not be worth it. You'd have to talk to a lawyer in the state where the accounts were, so Florida. Good luck. | Ask in personal finance about the possibility of filing a 1099 as a nominee for income reported on your ID which is applicable to her. For a little more info Google "1099 nominee" and you'll find more info. I'm not well versed on the rules for that, so I'm not sure if it applies in your situation, but if you're not going to get the money from her then she should at least be responsible for the taxes. Hopefully someone better versed in this area of taxation than me can help you with this. You can also call the IRS about your tax notice and just ask them about this. Report to them that the money went to a custodian, or joint holder of the account, and not to you and ask them about this. | 1 | 3,802 | 2.942857 |
7q5ld4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mom stole my college fund left by my deceased great grandfather. (She and the trust fund are in Washington state, I presently live in Oregon.) So, when I was a kid, my great grandfather passed away. He left my siblings and I $20,000 each to use for college. The rule was we could access it as 20 year olds, or we could have receipts submitted to the woman overseeing the funds so as to get paid for anything we paid for out of pocket. (Examples: when I'd buy school supplies and books, I'd send the receipt to my mom so she could send it to the trust fund lady. I did the same with the papers showing my tuition was paid each college term.) At least, that's what I understand to have been the rules. Anyway, I wasn't living in the state for one of my college years, and my mom is listed as someone who's allowed to access the monies, so I trusted in her by giving her scanned copies of my papers, expecting that she would be collecting my funds for me so I could use them for other expenses. Thing is, I never saw a penny of those funds. Whenever I asked about it all, she would ignore the questions or use a general "Gee, I dunno, let me ask" and then never get back to me. This all happened like...6-7 years ago. I was naive 20-year-old who trusted her mom knew what she was doing, because why wouldn't she? I didn't bother her about it again until about a year ago. Prior to this, I went on assuming that my fund was still there, that maybe she didn't send in my receipts after all or maybe she had the money set aside. (Which I feel really dumb for assuming.) She again didn't want to answer me, so I asked my grandma for information instead. She gave me the email address of the woman who's been looking over the trust funds all these years. She informed me it had been all gone since like 2011 or so. Along with that she provided a paper showing all the dates that the fund was accessed, and the amounts taken during each instance. My mom's name is beside EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE DATES, further showing she did access it all and took it for herself. I am furious, because I wanted to keep at least some money in there so it would gain interest. I had plans in place that are no longer possible, because of this. I now have student loans I can't pay back, and I can't transfer to a 4-year like I planned. I cannot get her to pay me back the money. She wanted to send me monthly payments that would eventually amount to what's owed, but it's clear at this point that she isn't going to. Is there anything I can do? Is there any way I can hold her legally responsible for this? I feel like an idiot for trusting in her and should have just kept my college papers away from her. If there's nothing I can do, at least I take a good harsh lesson from all of this. (Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope I did this right. I'm new-ish to Reddit stuff.) | dsmjci5 | dsmlbxd | 1,515,864,123 | 1,515,866,451 | 21 | 61 | I can't give you advice about the trust but i can try to help with advice about the student loans. Head over to /r/studentloans with that part of your situation. | It's very sad when a parent steals from their child :( You should ensure she has 0 financial connection to you, no shared bank accounts, credit cards etc. Perhaps more importantly, check your credit rating to make sure there's been no funny business. Unfortunately, parents who steal from their children in one manner may well do so in another, such as taking out credit in their child's name. | 0 | 2,328 | 2.904762 |
7q5ld4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mom stole my college fund left by my deceased great grandfather. (She and the trust fund are in Washington state, I presently live in Oregon.) So, when I was a kid, my great grandfather passed away. He left my siblings and I $20,000 each to use for college. The rule was we could access it as 20 year olds, or we could have receipts submitted to the woman overseeing the funds so as to get paid for anything we paid for out of pocket. (Examples: when I'd buy school supplies and books, I'd send the receipt to my mom so she could send it to the trust fund lady. I did the same with the papers showing my tuition was paid each college term.) At least, that's what I understand to have been the rules. Anyway, I wasn't living in the state for one of my college years, and my mom is listed as someone who's allowed to access the monies, so I trusted in her by giving her scanned copies of my papers, expecting that she would be collecting my funds for me so I could use them for other expenses. Thing is, I never saw a penny of those funds. Whenever I asked about it all, she would ignore the questions or use a general "Gee, I dunno, let me ask" and then never get back to me. This all happened like...6-7 years ago. I was naive 20-year-old who trusted her mom knew what she was doing, because why wouldn't she? I didn't bother her about it again until about a year ago. Prior to this, I went on assuming that my fund was still there, that maybe she didn't send in my receipts after all or maybe she had the money set aside. (Which I feel really dumb for assuming.) She again didn't want to answer me, so I asked my grandma for information instead. She gave me the email address of the woman who's been looking over the trust funds all these years. She informed me it had been all gone since like 2011 or so. Along with that she provided a paper showing all the dates that the fund was accessed, and the amounts taken during each instance. My mom's name is beside EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE DATES, further showing she did access it all and took it for herself. I am furious, because I wanted to keep at least some money in there so it would gain interest. I had plans in place that are no longer possible, because of this. I now have student loans I can't pay back, and I can't transfer to a 4-year like I planned. I cannot get her to pay me back the money. She wanted to send me monthly payments that would eventually amount to what's owed, but it's clear at this point that she isn't going to. Is there anything I can do? Is there any way I can hold her legally responsible for this? I feel like an idiot for trusting in her and should have just kept my college papers away from her. If there's nothing I can do, at least I take a good harsh lesson from all of this. (Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope I did this right. I'm new-ish to Reddit stuff.) | dsmjci5 | dsmpbb6 | 1,515,864,123 | 1,515,870,980 | 21 | 22 | I can't give you advice about the trust but i can try to help with advice about the student loans. Head over to /r/studentloans with that part of your situation. | The same thing happened to my mom! She sued and won, which enabled her to make a down payment on her first house. But she never spoke to her parents or brother again, and I never met them before they died. Foodforthought. | 0 | 6,857 | 1.047619 |
7q5ld4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mom stole my college fund left by my deceased great grandfather. (She and the trust fund are in Washington state, I presently live in Oregon.) So, when I was a kid, my great grandfather passed away. He left my siblings and I $20,000 each to use for college. The rule was we could access it as 20 year olds, or we could have receipts submitted to the woman overseeing the funds so as to get paid for anything we paid for out of pocket. (Examples: when I'd buy school supplies and books, I'd send the receipt to my mom so she could send it to the trust fund lady. I did the same with the papers showing my tuition was paid each college term.) At least, that's what I understand to have been the rules. Anyway, I wasn't living in the state for one of my college years, and my mom is listed as someone who's allowed to access the monies, so I trusted in her by giving her scanned copies of my papers, expecting that she would be collecting my funds for me so I could use them for other expenses. Thing is, I never saw a penny of those funds. Whenever I asked about it all, she would ignore the questions or use a general "Gee, I dunno, let me ask" and then never get back to me. This all happened like...6-7 years ago. I was naive 20-year-old who trusted her mom knew what she was doing, because why wouldn't she? I didn't bother her about it again until about a year ago. Prior to this, I went on assuming that my fund was still there, that maybe she didn't send in my receipts after all or maybe she had the money set aside. (Which I feel really dumb for assuming.) She again didn't want to answer me, so I asked my grandma for information instead. She gave me the email address of the woman who's been looking over the trust funds all these years. She informed me it had been all gone since like 2011 or so. Along with that she provided a paper showing all the dates that the fund was accessed, and the amounts taken during each instance. My mom's name is beside EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE DATES, further showing she did access it all and took it for herself. I am furious, because I wanted to keep at least some money in there so it would gain interest. I had plans in place that are no longer possible, because of this. I now have student loans I can't pay back, and I can't transfer to a 4-year like I planned. I cannot get her to pay me back the money. She wanted to send me monthly payments that would eventually amount to what's owed, but it's clear at this point that she isn't going to. Is there anything I can do? Is there any way I can hold her legally responsible for this? I feel like an idiot for trusting in her and should have just kept my college papers away from her. If there's nothing I can do, at least I take a good harsh lesson from all of this. (Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope I did this right. I'm new-ish to Reddit stuff.) | dsmssz8 | dsmtzdc | 1,515,874,956 | 1,515,876,326 | 10 | 15 | Speak to an attorney about this but it is likely it will involve criminal charges of theft by conversion if she had lawful permission to access the trust funds, submitted receipts given by you, and then kept the money for her own use. Furthermore it is unlikely that your mother has money or assets to repay you if she felt it necessary to steal $20,000 from her child. | I'm not a lawyer. Your mom did breach her duties as a fiduciary, but the statue of limitations may have run out. Each state is sightly different, but I believe most for most states fraud has a 4 year statute of limitations from when the fraud was discovered or when the fraud *should have* been discovered (if anybody else knows differently please let me know). It's possible that, legally speaking, you should have discovered the fraud 6-7 years ago even though you only actually discovered the fraud a year ago. A Washington State attorney who deals in this area would be the best person to speak to. Edit: Did your siblings get cleaned out too, and if so, did the withdraws take place more recently? Maybe you could all retain an attorney together? | 0 | 1,370 | 1.5 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it1vkp5 | it2juo4 | 1,666,260,946 | 1,666,274,359 | 1,560 | 1,964 | It depends on the terms of the trust That said, if they're mismanaging the trust, it is possible to get the court to appoint a new trustee in some situations. You should talk to a local estate planning attorney asap | Lawyer time. Sure this year investments have lost money but before this, but in the 6 years before that the market has done well. No way is it acceptable to have lost 90% whether it be due to fees or bad investments. I wouldn't just be asking for a disbursement, I would be threatening suit. | 0 | 13,413 | 1.258974 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2juo4 | it26wfu | 1,666,274,359 | 1,666,268,341 | 1,964 | 712 | Lawyer time. Sure this year investments have lost money but before this, but in the 6 years before that the market has done well. No way is it acceptable to have lost 90% whether it be due to fees or bad investments. I wouldn't just be asking for a disbursement, I would be threatening suit. | You should be able to ask for a full accounting too. Might be useful to estimate where the money has gone too. What is their management fee, what other fees, and what payments have the beneficiaries been getting for example. Also trusts this small probably have very high fees. | 1 | 6,018 | 2.758427 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2juo4 | it1zxpz | 1,666,274,359 | 1,666,264,169 | 1,964 | 553 | Lawyer time. Sure this year investments have lost money but before this, but in the 6 years before that the market has done well. No way is it acceptable to have lost 90% whether it be due to fees or bad investments. I wouldn't just be asking for a disbursement, I would be threatening suit. | Is the money being distributed, or is this all investment losses? A trustee has a fiduciary obligation to act in the interest of the beneficiaries. With such a significant loss it would be worth talking to an attorney who deals with trust mismanagement. | 1 | 10,190 | 3.551537 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2bhz3 | it2juo4 | 1,666,270,633 | 1,666,274,359 | 258 | 1,964 | Do you have a copy of the trust document? You’d want to start by reading it and making sure there aren’t other provisions you weren’t aware of. $750,000 to $75,000 sounds like distributions are being made to someone every year. Beyond that, you’re in estate planning attorney territory. | Lawyer time. Sure this year investments have lost money but before this, but in the 6 years before that the market has done well. No way is it acceptable to have lost 90% whether it be due to fees or bad investments. I wouldn't just be asking for a disbursement, I would be threatening suit. | 0 | 3,726 | 7.612403 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2juo4 | it2h51h | 1,666,274,359 | 1,666,273,192 | 1,964 | 34 | Lawyer time. Sure this year investments have lost money but before this, but in the 6 years before that the market has done well. No way is it acceptable to have lost 90% whether it be due to fees or bad investments. I wouldn't just be asking for a disbursement, I would be threatening suit. | you should file a complaint with the broker dealer responsible for the account as well as with FINRA. All firms are required to take these complaints seriously. https://www.finra.org/investors/need-help/file-a-complaint | 1 | 1,167 | 57.764706 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it26wfu | it1zxpz | 1,666,268,341 | 1,666,264,169 | 712 | 553 | You should be able to ask for a full accounting too. Might be useful to estimate where the money has gone too. What is their management fee, what other fees, and what payments have the beneficiaries been getting for example. Also trusts this small probably have very high fees. | Is the money being distributed, or is this all investment losses? A trustee has a fiduciary obligation to act in the interest of the beneficiaries. With such a significant loss it would be worth talking to an attorney who deals with trust mismanagement. | 1 | 4,172 | 1.287523 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2h51h | it2qivj | 1,666,273,192 | 1,666,277,112 | 34 | 118 | you should file a complaint with the broker dealer responsible for the account as well as with FINRA. All firms are required to take these complaints seriously. https://www.finra.org/investors/need-help/file-a-complaint | Let me get this straight, 7 years ago, your FIL left your husband a trust with $750k in it. No distributions have been made and now it’s down to less than $75k. It would be helpful to see the accounting to know what the trustee is doing. But even if the fee was 2% a year, I have no idea how the account would lose 90% in 7 years without a distribution. If everything you are saying is correct, you may even be able to sue the trustee for violating the duty to manage assets in a prudent manner. | 0 | 3,920 | 3.470588 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2qivj | it2m137 | 1,666,277,112 | 1,666,275,276 | 118 | 23 | Let me get this straight, 7 years ago, your FIL left your husband a trust with $750k in it. No distributions have been made and now it’s down to less than $75k. It would be helpful to see the accounting to know what the trustee is doing. But even if the fee was 2% a year, I have no idea how the account would lose 90% in 7 years without a distribution. If everything you are saying is correct, you may even be able to sue the trustee for violating the duty to manage assets in a prudent manner. | You need to consult a lawyer. The solution to distribute the money may not be possible, but you likely have a claim that they are not taking proper care of the trust. Which country/state are you in? | 1 | 1,836 | 5.130435 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2qivj | it2l8v8 | 1,666,277,112 | 1,666,274,947 | 118 | 16 | Let me get this straight, 7 years ago, your FIL left your husband a trust with $750k in it. No distributions have been made and now it’s down to less than $75k. It would be helpful to see the accounting to know what the trustee is doing. But even if the fee was 2% a year, I have no idea how the account would lose 90% in 7 years without a distribution. If everything you are saying is correct, you may even be able to sue the trustee for violating the duty to manage assets in a prudent manner. | Not a lawyer but u should see word by word what’s in the actual irrevocable trust. Some have clauses leaving their full amount to their loved ones after passing. Hire an attorney that specializes in trust funds. I know this as I work in finance with non profit apps. | 1 | 2,165 | 7.375 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2k4qi | it2qivj | 1,666,274,476 | 1,666,277,112 | 8 | 118 | There's a lot of information here we're not getting. What type of institution is handling the investments? What's the money invested in? How is it diversified? What fees and penalties are involved with any early distributions or withdrawals. Are there people/beneficiaries to the irrevocable trust that are violating any particular terms that are not being enforced? How much do the trustees have a right to by administering the estate? As a spouse to the beneficiary, or one of the beneficiaries, to the trust, do you understand that some trusts are set up in a way so as to protect the beneficiary during a divorce? Meaning that just because your spouse is beneficiary to a trust that doesn't mean that you, as a spouse, have a right to the monies within the trust. We have a couple of clients that set up trusts in that manner. Which is to say, sometimes spouses aren't forthright with protected inheritance. I'm not sure you know what kind of questions to ask in regards to what's going on. That's why it's important to talk to an estate lawyer, a financial advisor, and talk to a cpa. I feel like there's a lot of information missing send of what's going on beyond the money dwindling. | Let me get this straight, 7 years ago, your FIL left your husband a trust with $750k in it. No distributions have been made and now it’s down to less than $75k. It would be helpful to see the accounting to know what the trustee is doing. But even if the fee was 2% a year, I have no idea how the account would lose 90% in 7 years without a distribution. If everything you are saying is correct, you may even be able to sue the trustee for violating the duty to manage assets in a prudent manner. | 0 | 2,636 | 14.75 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2m137 | it2l8v8 | 1,666,275,276 | 1,666,274,947 | 23 | 16 | You need to consult a lawyer. The solution to distribute the money may not be possible, but you likely have a claim that they are not taking proper care of the trust. Which country/state are you in? | Not a lawyer but u should see word by word what’s in the actual irrevocable trust. Some have clauses leaving their full amount to their loved ones after passing. Hire an attorney that specializes in trust funds. I know this as I work in finance with non profit apps. | 1 | 329 | 1.4375 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2k4qi | it2m137 | 1,666,274,476 | 1,666,275,276 | 8 | 23 | There's a lot of information here we're not getting. What type of institution is handling the investments? What's the money invested in? How is it diversified? What fees and penalties are involved with any early distributions or withdrawals. Are there people/beneficiaries to the irrevocable trust that are violating any particular terms that are not being enforced? How much do the trustees have a right to by administering the estate? As a spouse to the beneficiary, or one of the beneficiaries, to the trust, do you understand that some trusts are set up in a way so as to protect the beneficiary during a divorce? Meaning that just because your spouse is beneficiary to a trust that doesn't mean that you, as a spouse, have a right to the monies within the trust. We have a couple of clients that set up trusts in that manner. Which is to say, sometimes spouses aren't forthright with protected inheritance. I'm not sure you know what kind of questions to ask in regards to what's going on. That's why it's important to talk to an estate lawyer, a financial advisor, and talk to a cpa. I feel like there's a lot of information missing send of what's going on beyond the money dwindling. | You need to consult a lawyer. The solution to distribute the money may not be possible, but you likely have a claim that they are not taking proper care of the trust. Which country/state are you in? | 0 | 800 | 2.875 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2l8v8 | it2k4qi | 1,666,274,947 | 1,666,274,476 | 16 | 8 | Not a lawyer but u should see word by word what’s in the actual irrevocable trust. Some have clauses leaving their full amount to their loved ones after passing. Hire an attorney that specializes in trust funds. I know this as I work in finance with non profit apps. | There's a lot of information here we're not getting. What type of institution is handling the investments? What's the money invested in? How is it diversified? What fees and penalties are involved with any early distributions or withdrawals. Are there people/beneficiaries to the irrevocable trust that are violating any particular terms that are not being enforced? How much do the trustees have a right to by administering the estate? As a spouse to the beneficiary, or one of the beneficiaries, to the trust, do you understand that some trusts are set up in a way so as to protect the beneficiary during a divorce? Meaning that just because your spouse is beneficiary to a trust that doesn't mean that you, as a spouse, have a right to the monies within the trust. We have a couple of clients that set up trusts in that manner. Which is to say, sometimes spouses aren't forthright with protected inheritance. I'm not sure you know what kind of questions to ask in regards to what's going on. That's why it's important to talk to an estate lawyer, a financial advisor, and talk to a cpa. I feel like there's a lot of information missing send of what's going on beyond the money dwindling. | 1 | 471 | 2 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2k4qi | it3c1a8 | 1,666,274,476 | 1,666,285,461 | 8 | 14 | There's a lot of information here we're not getting. What type of institution is handling the investments? What's the money invested in? How is it diversified? What fees and penalties are involved with any early distributions or withdrawals. Are there people/beneficiaries to the irrevocable trust that are violating any particular terms that are not being enforced? How much do the trustees have a right to by administering the estate? As a spouse to the beneficiary, or one of the beneficiaries, to the trust, do you understand that some trusts are set up in a way so as to protect the beneficiary during a divorce? Meaning that just because your spouse is beneficiary to a trust that doesn't mean that you, as a spouse, have a right to the monies within the trust. We have a couple of clients that set up trusts in that manner. Which is to say, sometimes spouses aren't forthright with protected inheritance. I'm not sure you know what kind of questions to ask in regards to what's going on. That's why it's important to talk to an estate lawyer, a financial advisor, and talk to a cpa. I feel like there's a lot of information missing send of what's going on beyond the money dwindling. | Licensed Securities Trader with a Brokerage Firm here. Not a lawyer, not strictly legal advice. Just a key detail here: brokers and financial institutions have a mandatory retention period of 7yrs. Spme firms may have longer periods, but are not required to. If you don't know your broker's retention holding period, it's time to gather up monthly, or quarterly statements NOW. If any documents become inaccessible to you to demonstrate the starting value of your account, it may impede your case against mismanagement. The term you're looking for (which I'm sure others have gone over better than I have) is suitability. Advisors and agents have a fiduciary duty to their clients to determine suitable investments. Be sure to check the fees and costs associated with the management, too. A 90% drop over 7 years isn't impossible, but it's rarely easy to do. I'm sorry that this happened to you, and I hope you find the resolution you're looking for. | 0 | 10,985 | 1.75 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it3183p | it3c1a8 | 1,666,281,320 | 1,666,285,461 | 10 | 14 | What kind of investments are in this trust? Stocks and mutual funds are taking a hit right now, but that doesn’t mean you are actually losing money. You only lose the money if you sell those units at the lower cost. Yes the value of the stock or units may be down, but you still hold the same number of them. The companies that you’re invested in.. are they good, stable companies historically? Fluctuating markets are part of the investment game. If there are dividends on these stocks or units, then they should be getting reinvested at the cheaper unit cost. The expectation is that if these are good, stable companies or mutual funds then the market fluctuations will eventually bring the value back up. In the mean time you are buying more units for less which will hopefully mean more gains in the future. Have you discussed this with the financial planners are the institution? What do they say? Have they explained the history of these investments with you? | Licensed Securities Trader with a Brokerage Firm here. Not a lawyer, not strictly legal advice. Just a key detail here: brokers and financial institutions have a mandatory retention period of 7yrs. Spme firms may have longer periods, but are not required to. If you don't know your broker's retention holding period, it's time to gather up monthly, or quarterly statements NOW. If any documents become inaccessible to you to demonstrate the starting value of your account, it may impede your case against mismanagement. The term you're looking for (which I'm sure others have gone over better than I have) is suitability. Advisors and agents have a fiduciary duty to their clients to determine suitable investments. Be sure to check the fees and costs associated with the management, too. A 90% drop over 7 years isn't impossible, but it's rarely easy to do. I'm sorry that this happened to you, and I hope you find the resolution you're looking for. | 0 | 4,141 | 1.4 |
y8u5yh | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My FIL left a subsistential amount of money in a irrevocable trust fund, now the financial institution that is trustee is losing it all in investments This started out at close to almost a three-quarters of a million dollars over 7 years ago and it is dwindled down to less than $75,000. Is there any legal action we can take to get all monies distributed immediately? The will specifies that my husband will receive the full amount at age 63, but by then we are afraid it will be emptied. The institution is Simmons Bank who bought it from a different financial institution. | it2k4qi | it3183p | 1,666,274,476 | 1,666,281,320 | 8 | 10 | There's a lot of information here we're not getting. What type of institution is handling the investments? What's the money invested in? How is it diversified? What fees and penalties are involved with any early distributions or withdrawals. Are there people/beneficiaries to the irrevocable trust that are violating any particular terms that are not being enforced? How much do the trustees have a right to by administering the estate? As a spouse to the beneficiary, or one of the beneficiaries, to the trust, do you understand that some trusts are set up in a way so as to protect the beneficiary during a divorce? Meaning that just because your spouse is beneficiary to a trust that doesn't mean that you, as a spouse, have a right to the monies within the trust. We have a couple of clients that set up trusts in that manner. Which is to say, sometimes spouses aren't forthright with protected inheritance. I'm not sure you know what kind of questions to ask in regards to what's going on. That's why it's important to talk to an estate lawyer, a financial advisor, and talk to a cpa. I feel like there's a lot of information missing send of what's going on beyond the money dwindling. | What kind of investments are in this trust? Stocks and mutual funds are taking a hit right now, but that doesn’t mean you are actually losing money. You only lose the money if you sell those units at the lower cost. Yes the value of the stock or units may be down, but you still hold the same number of them. The companies that you’re invested in.. are they good, stable companies historically? Fluctuating markets are part of the investment game. If there are dividends on these stocks or units, then they should be getting reinvested at the cheaper unit cost. The expectation is that if these are good, stable companies or mutual funds then the market fluctuations will eventually bring the value back up. In the mean time you are buying more units for less which will hopefully mean more gains in the future. Have you discussed this with the financial planners are the institution? What do they say? Have they explained the history of these investments with you? | 0 | 6,844 | 1.25 |
5duon2 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I divorced my husband because he cheated. It was final 5 months ago. I have proof that he had a second side piece and he bought her a condo with joint funds before I filed for divorce. If he didn't disclose the condo purchase during the divorce process is it too late for me to do anything? [SD] | da7hb38 | da7hqu3 | 1,479,595,647 | 1,479,596,312 | 347 | 908 | Check your settlement agreement. My agreement accounts for undisclosed assets and debts. If my ex were to have a surprise condo on the side she bought before we got divorced I would suddenly have half a surprise condo on the side. | Failure to disclose can sometimes result in losing the entire asset. Half because of what you were entitled to and half as a punishment for lying. Talk to your attorney. | 0 | 665 | 2.616715 |
5duon2 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I divorced my husband because he cheated. It was final 5 months ago. I have proof that he had a second side piece and he bought her a condo with joint funds before I filed for divorce. If he didn't disclose the condo purchase during the divorce process is it too late for me to do anything? [SD] | da7sx5g | da7tvpu | 1,479,614,683 | 1,479,616,462 | 27 | 36 | Don't have any advice since your course had already been set at this point, but please post an update! I hope you get that condo from that ass hat, good luck! | Good luck I hope you end up getting the whole condo! | 0 | 1,779 | 1.333333 |
5duon2 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I divorced my husband because he cheated. It was final 5 months ago. I have proof that he had a second side piece and he bought her a condo with joint funds before I filed for divorce. If he didn't disclose the condo purchase during the divorce process is it too late for me to do anything? [SD] | da82rcj | da846bw | 1,479,642,200 | 1,479,647,164 | 7 | 15 | It's not too late. Contact your lawyer. People go back to court for this kind of thing all the time, even it's been a while since the divorce was finalized. | I am not a lawyer In most counties, you can search the GIS or county tax records for real estate by the owner's name. You may want to do that for your county and any close-by counties to see if he doesn't have a 3rd or 4th property that he didn't disclose. | 0 | 4,964 | 2.142857 |
y0q64d | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my job fire me for failing a drug test, but the medication is prescribed by my doctor?? A little context here, I’ve started taking benzodiazepines for anxiety. They are prescribed by my doctor and I don’t abuse them. After taking a normal random drug test I was told I tested positive and they cannot keep employing me. Is this legal? | irvo9zc | irvtp9s | 1,665,489,755 | 1,665,492,768 | 32 | 48 | Dude… your username reveals this is not the full story. We need more info. What did you test positive for and what state are you in? | Your post history from just a few months ago talks about how you've been doing fent/h/blues for at least 3 years and are currently fighting a drug case. Are you sure there wasn't more to your drug test? If your clean (sincerely congrats, I know it's difficult) and it was just a prescription med I would contact the lab and provide them with a copy of your doctors rx. With a valid prescription it should hopefully clear things up. | 0 | 3,013 | 1.5 |
y0q64d | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my job fire me for failing a drug test, but the medication is prescribed by my doctor?? A little context here, I’ve started taking benzodiazepines for anxiety. They are prescribed by my doctor and I don’t abuse them. After taking a normal random drug test I was told I tested positive and they cannot keep employing me. Is this legal? | irw3hdh | irvo9zc | 1,665,497,368 | 1,665,489,755 | 43 | 32 | Your post history 100% shows that you're abusing them. Maybe they saw a much higher amount in your system than should ever be prescribed. | Dude… your username reveals this is not the full story. We need more info. What did you test positive for and what state are you in? | 1 | 7,613 | 1.34375 |
y0q64d | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my job fire me for failing a drug test, but the medication is prescribed by my doctor?? A little context here, I’ve started taking benzodiazepines for anxiety. They are prescribed by my doctor and I don’t abuse them. After taking a normal random drug test I was told I tested positive and they cannot keep employing me. Is this legal? | irwc9ri | irw3k3w | 1,665,501,038 | 1,665,497,402 | 8 | 2 | Not a lawyer but I have never heard of a private company that uses a 10 panel drug test as their 'normal' for randoms and the standard 5 panel drug test doesn't test for benzodiazepines. If they gave you a 10 panel there was probably a reason behind it and it wasn't random. I suspect there's more to the story and the 'more' part probably has a lot to do with your outcome. | If it was a legit lab like you say (Quest), then an MRO should have contacted you to discuss what they found. If you have a legitimate medical reason, then they tell the employer negative, UNLESS they have a safety concern, in which case they would still say neg but with safety concerns. An example of this would be you having a safety sensitive job like driving a forklift and you are prescribed to a controlled substance (like benzo) and/or you have a high amount in your system than for therapeutic reasons. Either way it doesnt add up and I think you are not telling the whole story. | 1 | 3,636 | 4 |
y0q64d | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Can my job fire me for failing a drug test, but the medication is prescribed by my doctor?? A little context here, I’ve started taking benzodiazepines for anxiety. They are prescribed by my doctor and I don’t abuse them. After taking a normal random drug test I was told I tested positive and they cannot keep employing me. Is this legal? | irwilkv | irw3k3w | 1,665,503,594 | 1,665,497,402 | 3 | 2 | Consult an employment law attorney. Depending on a number of factors the company may be within their rights to terminate employment but it would be incumbent on *them* to prove they are within its rights. If you have a legitimate health issue that is being addressed through the use of these medications, that they are being administered by a medical physician, and do not represent a material impairment to the work you are doing it might be a violation of the American Disabilities Act where employers are required to make reasonable accommodations. Even if the medication represented a material impairment to the work you are doing accommodation in the form of finding an alternate position for you to fill may be considered reasonable. That said, if no reasonable accommodation can be made the company would be within its rights to terminate employment. | If it was a legit lab like you say (Quest), then an MRO should have contacted you to discuss what they found. If you have a legitimate medical reason, then they tell the employer negative, UNLESS they have a safety concern, in which case they would still say neg but with safety concerns. An example of this would be you having a safety sensitive job like driving a forklift and you are prescribed to a controlled substance (like benzo) and/or you have a high amount in your system than for therapeutic reasons. Either way it doesnt add up and I think you are not telling the whole story. | 1 | 6,192 | 1.5 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i77fz5o | i77fwf5 | 1,651,610,458 | 1,651,610,429 | 3,200 | 109 | Not a lawyer - I would strongly advise making backups of those recordings and storing them someplace your husband does not have access to. If you feel that threatened and genuinely feel like this tampering was an attempt at your life for control to the inheritance you should also consider finding someplace else to stay | Him grabbing you are chargeable offenses. Go to the police department and make a report. They will tell you if they want your videos. Do not inform him of anything. You can also contact domestic violence centers in your area. They will advise you on how to handle this situation. | 1 | 29 | 29.357798 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i77ilk8 | i784kar | 1,651,611,504 | 1,651,621,089 | 458 | 2,097 | Once you are safe, the first thing to do is to contact a family law attorney in the county where you have your marital home. I would not take any steps until you have spoken to an attorney. This may not be worth pursuing criminally, especially in the context of a divorce where there will be significant assets and child custody issues. | I am not an attorney, but an Escrow Officer here in Washington state. Inheritance is considered separate property unless comingled in a joint account. OP stated she is in WA, but tge inheritance has not been fully disbursed. Do not put those funds in a joint account! | 0 | 9,585 | 4.578603 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i77gy28 | i784kar | 1,651,610,840 | 1,651,621,089 | 307 | 2,097 | Sorry to hear about your ex. It's unlikely that you can obtain criminal charges, but not impossible. You were not sexually assaulted, in most jurisdictions' definitions of the crime, but the act of tampering with your medication may be a crime in other ways. Grabbing and restraining you absolutely was a crime, and you're fairly likely to get traction there. However, before going to the police, talk with the divorce lawyer you're about to hire: having a holistic plan for your exit, rather than taking the pieces of this case-by-case, will usually lead to a better outcome. Since you cannot trust that your efforts to manage your fertility are intact, it is entirely reasonable for you to refrain from sex. If you believe your ex-husband might try to force the issue, or might otherwise be violent with you - and trying to stop you from leaving is at least suggestive - then it's also reasonable to take your kids and stay elsewhere for your own safety. The legal system takes time, and is often imperfect. Taking steps to protect yourself and your family is a priority. Custody, spousal support, division of property, and the rest will follow. Some of it will take weeks. Some of it may take a year or more. It's okay to let it take that time; do not panic and do not rush right now. Do what you need to do to be safe here and now and to make sure your kids are safe, then hire a lawyer immediately. | I am not an attorney, but an Escrow Officer here in Washington state. Inheritance is considered separate property unless comingled in a joint account. OP stated she is in WA, but tge inheritance has not been fully disbursed. Do not put those funds in a joint account! | 0 | 10,249 | 6.830619 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i784kar | i77fwf5 | 1,651,621,089 | 1,651,610,429 | 2,097 | 109 | I am not an attorney, but an Escrow Officer here in Washington state. Inheritance is considered separate property unless comingled in a joint account. OP stated she is in WA, but tge inheritance has not been fully disbursed. Do not put those funds in a joint account! | Him grabbing you are chargeable offenses. Go to the police department and make a report. They will tell you if they want your videos. Do not inform him of anything. You can also contact domestic violence centers in your area. They will advise you on how to handle this situation. | 1 | 10,660 | 19.238532 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i784kar | i78029h | 1,651,621,089 | 1,651,619,061 | 2,097 | 29 | I am not an attorney, but an Escrow Officer here in Washington state. Inheritance is considered separate property unless comingled in a joint account. OP stated she is in WA, but tge inheritance has not been fully disbursed. Do not put those funds in a joint account! | Maybe Washington Criminal Code § 9A.36.050 (1) A person is guilty of reckless endangerment when he or she recklessly engages in conduct not amounting to drive-by shooting but that creates a substantial risk of death or serious physical injury to another person.
(2) Reckless endangerment is a gross misdemeanor. | 1 | 2,028 | 72.310345 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i77gy28 | i77ilk8 | 1,651,610,840 | 1,651,611,504 | 307 | 458 | Sorry to hear about your ex. It's unlikely that you can obtain criminal charges, but not impossible. You were not sexually assaulted, in most jurisdictions' definitions of the crime, but the act of tampering with your medication may be a crime in other ways. Grabbing and restraining you absolutely was a crime, and you're fairly likely to get traction there. However, before going to the police, talk with the divorce lawyer you're about to hire: having a holistic plan for your exit, rather than taking the pieces of this case-by-case, will usually lead to a better outcome. Since you cannot trust that your efforts to manage your fertility are intact, it is entirely reasonable for you to refrain from sex. If you believe your ex-husband might try to force the issue, or might otherwise be violent with you - and trying to stop you from leaving is at least suggestive - then it's also reasonable to take your kids and stay elsewhere for your own safety. The legal system takes time, and is often imperfect. Taking steps to protect yourself and your family is a priority. Custody, spousal support, division of property, and the rest will follow. Some of it will take weeks. Some of it may take a year or more. It's okay to let it take that time; do not panic and do not rush right now. Do what you need to do to be safe here and now and to make sure your kids are safe, then hire a lawyer immediately. | Once you are safe, the first thing to do is to contact a family law attorney in the county where you have your marital home. I would not take any steps until you have spoken to an attorney. This may not be worth pursuing criminally, especially in the context of a divorce where there will be significant assets and child custody issues. | 0 | 664 | 1.491857 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i77ilk8 | i77fwf5 | 1,651,611,504 | 1,651,610,429 | 458 | 109 | Once you are safe, the first thing to do is to contact a family law attorney in the county where you have your marital home. I would not take any steps until you have spoken to an attorney. This may not be worth pursuing criminally, especially in the context of a divorce where there will be significant assets and child custody issues. | Him grabbing you are chargeable offenses. Go to the police department and make a report. They will tell you if they want your videos. Do not inform him of anything. You can also contact domestic violence centers in your area. They will advise you on how to handle this situation. | 1 | 1,075 | 4.201835 |
uhpckm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | I caught my husband tampering with my birth-control…even though he’s aware another pregnancy could kill me. Can I charge him? I have it on video? Along with the ensuing argument where he admits the entire thing. Yes. I’m going to divorce him too, but he is aware that my doctors said another pregnancy would likely be life threatening ei. This could have literally killed me. In the video he admits to knowing it could kill me. Admitting he did it without my knowledge. And admitting he that he had done it before, we had sex a week ago, knowing I would not have consented to having sex with him if I’d known. I feel so betrayed and violated and honestly terrified. On top of everything we recently had an argument about my daughters (2yrs) inheritance and how I was planning on making my sister her legal benefactor (our marriage has been rocky and I felt it was the best choice att). It…is a very large sum. It’s making me think this was more than just ‘wanting to try for a boy’. I just want to know how I should handle this. And if making an assumption like this is crazy. Ive never needed an lawyer or an attorney for anything except this recent inheritance. Which I haven’t fully relieved yet. Also I’ve downloaded our argument in from our network on our camera’s. It also has him grabbing me as I was leaving. Which are bruises now. I just don’t know what to do. Should I go to the police? I don’t even know about how to go about charging him. Do I give them a copy of the video? I’m just don’t know what to do or how to start. I have ptsd from my last birth so I would think I was crazy if I didn’t have him admitting all of it recorded. ​ Edit: (I am also going go to the doctors, to make sure I’m not already pregnant. Since I can’t take plan b unsupervised) | i77fwf5 | i77gy28 | 1,651,610,429 | 1,651,610,840 | 109 | 307 | Him grabbing you are chargeable offenses. Go to the police department and make a report. They will tell you if they want your videos. Do not inform him of anything. You can also contact domestic violence centers in your area. They will advise you on how to handle this situation. | Sorry to hear about your ex. It's unlikely that you can obtain criminal charges, but not impossible. You were not sexually assaulted, in most jurisdictions' definitions of the crime, but the act of tampering with your medication may be a crime in other ways. Grabbing and restraining you absolutely was a crime, and you're fairly likely to get traction there. However, before going to the police, talk with the divorce lawyer you're about to hire: having a holistic plan for your exit, rather than taking the pieces of this case-by-case, will usually lead to a better outcome. Since you cannot trust that your efforts to manage your fertility are intact, it is entirely reasonable for you to refrain from sex. If you believe your ex-husband might try to force the issue, or might otherwise be violent with you - and trying to stop you from leaving is at least suggestive - then it's also reasonable to take your kids and stay elsewhere for your own safety. The legal system takes time, and is often imperfect. Taking steps to protect yourself and your family is a priority. Custody, spousal support, division of property, and the rest will follow. Some of it will take weeks. Some of it may take a year or more. It's okay to let it take that time; do not panic and do not rush right now. Do what you need to do to be safe here and now and to make sure your kids are safe, then hire a lawyer immediately. | 0 | 411 | 2.816514 |
9knw08 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Doctor prescribed me a cream that ruined my life Several months ago, I went to my primary care physician for constant redness on my entire genital area. He looked at my genitals, shrugged and then prescribed me a cream. He instructed me to use it on my genitals for a month until the redness subsided. Little did I know, this cream is strongly frowned upon to use on the genital region. After about five days, I started noticing something odd. The redness wasn't going away and my scrotum and penis started to unbearably burn. I went online to check if this cream was safe to use on the genital region and was met with absolute horror stories. I immediately discontinued the cream and saw the damage it had done. It's been three months since I stopped and my genitals look completely destroyed. I can't sleep at night because I am in constant burning and pain. My penis looks visibly different and so does my scrotum. I read the package the cream came in and it doesn't state anything about not applying it on the genital area. I just don't know what to do at this point. I am constantly in pain and my genitals don't seem to be healing. Can i sue for medical practice? The package should at least explicitly caution users that it should not be used on that area. | e70nqb1 | e70hk3b | 1,538,468,333 | 1,538,456,949 | 599 | 393 | Speak to a med mal attorney | Have you gone back to the doctor? | 1 | 11,384 | 1.524173 |
9knw08 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Doctor prescribed me a cream that ruined my life Several months ago, I went to my primary care physician for constant redness on my entire genital area. He looked at my genitals, shrugged and then prescribed me a cream. He instructed me to use it on my genitals for a month until the redness subsided. Little did I know, this cream is strongly frowned upon to use on the genital region. After about five days, I started noticing something odd. The redness wasn't going away and my scrotum and penis started to unbearably burn. I went online to check if this cream was safe to use on the genital region and was met with absolute horror stories. I immediately discontinued the cream and saw the damage it had done. It's been three months since I stopped and my genitals look completely destroyed. I can't sleep at night because I am in constant burning and pain. My penis looks visibly different and so does my scrotum. I read the package the cream came in and it doesn't state anything about not applying it on the genital area. I just don't know what to do at this point. I am constantly in pain and my genitals don't seem to be healing. Can i sue for medical practice? The package should at least explicitly caution users that it should not be used on that area. | e70vouo | e711h6p | 1,538,483,079 | 1,538,489,217 | 33 | 36 | Make another appointment. With a urologist—not urgent care, not a general physician, not with anyone but a specialist at this point. | I would get a second opinion. It could be the cream, but it could also be whatever was going on before as well and the cream just didn't do anything. You could of had an unknown allergic reaction to it as well and you never even gave the doctor a chance to prescribe steriods or other antiinflammatory. | 0 | 6,138 | 1.090909 |
9knw08 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Doctor prescribed me a cream that ruined my life Several months ago, I went to my primary care physician for constant redness on my entire genital area. He looked at my genitals, shrugged and then prescribed me a cream. He instructed me to use it on my genitals for a month until the redness subsided. Little did I know, this cream is strongly frowned upon to use on the genital region. After about five days, I started noticing something odd. The redness wasn't going away and my scrotum and penis started to unbearably burn. I went online to check if this cream was safe to use on the genital region and was met with absolute horror stories. I immediately discontinued the cream and saw the damage it had done. It's been three months since I stopped and my genitals look completely destroyed. I can't sleep at night because I am in constant burning and pain. My penis looks visibly different and so does my scrotum. I read the package the cream came in and it doesn't state anything about not applying it on the genital area. I just don't know what to do at this point. I am constantly in pain and my genitals don't seem to be healing. Can i sue for medical practice? The package should at least explicitly caution users that it should not be used on that area. | e71d578 | e716n6n | 1,538,499,179 | 1,538,493,770 | 19 | 14 | I'm confused. The issue would be with the medicine not the doctor. "The package should at least explicitly caution users that it should not be used on that area." That makes it an issue with the medicine. The doctor isn't going to know if the medicine doesn't say what the warnings are. But there are so many hoops medicines have to go through, I would wager that you are the victim of a side-effect that is rare, and that the medicine is usually harmless when used as prescribed. You need to go back to the doctor. I am confused as to why you are refusing (per another comment). Left untreated for the past few months you may have legitimately caused irreversible damage. | And in all that time you haven't gone back to a doctor for help? You really don't have a case here. It was probably a well known prescribed cream for your issue, you had a bad reaction which can happen and then never followed up. Not the doctors fault the 1st treatment didn't work. | 1 | 5,409 | 1.357143 |
9knw08 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Doctor prescribed me a cream that ruined my life Several months ago, I went to my primary care physician for constant redness on my entire genital area. He looked at my genitals, shrugged and then prescribed me a cream. He instructed me to use it on my genitals for a month until the redness subsided. Little did I know, this cream is strongly frowned upon to use on the genital region. After about five days, I started noticing something odd. The redness wasn't going away and my scrotum and penis started to unbearably burn. I went online to check if this cream was safe to use on the genital region and was met with absolute horror stories. I immediately discontinued the cream and saw the damage it had done. It's been three months since I stopped and my genitals look completely destroyed. I can't sleep at night because I am in constant burning and pain. My penis looks visibly different and so does my scrotum. I read the package the cream came in and it doesn't state anything about not applying it on the genital area. I just don't know what to do at this point. I am constantly in pain and my genitals don't seem to be healing. Can i sue for medical practice? The package should at least explicitly caution users that it should not be used on that area. | e716n6n | e72b41r | 1,538,493,770 | 1,538,528,763 | 14 | 18 | And in all that time you haven't gone back to a doctor for help? You really don't have a case here. It was probably a well known prescribed cream for your issue, you had a bad reaction which can happen and then never followed up. Not the doctors fault the 1st treatment didn't work. | > I went online . . . and was met with absolute horror stories. Were any of these horror stories in the form of medical journals, regulatory filings, or prescribing instructions? Postings on some random forum are not going to get you very far in a malpractice suit. Have you been to another doctor? Did they diagnose you with a new condition or worsened condition caused by toxicity/reaction to the drug? | 0 | 34,993 | 1.285714 |
9knw08 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Doctor prescribed me a cream that ruined my life Several months ago, I went to my primary care physician for constant redness on my entire genital area. He looked at my genitals, shrugged and then prescribed me a cream. He instructed me to use it on my genitals for a month until the redness subsided. Little did I know, this cream is strongly frowned upon to use on the genital region. After about five days, I started noticing something odd. The redness wasn't going away and my scrotum and penis started to unbearably burn. I went online to check if this cream was safe to use on the genital region and was met with absolute horror stories. I immediately discontinued the cream and saw the damage it had done. It's been three months since I stopped and my genitals look completely destroyed. I can't sleep at night because I am in constant burning and pain. My penis looks visibly different and so does my scrotum. I read the package the cream came in and it doesn't state anything about not applying it on the genital area. I just don't know what to do at this point. I am constantly in pain and my genitals don't seem to be healing. Can i sue for medical practice? The package should at least explicitly caution users that it should not be used on that area. | e72b41r | e71eow5 | 1,538,528,763 | 1,538,500,437 | 18 | 11 | > I went online . . . and was met with absolute horror stories. Were any of these horror stories in the form of medical journals, regulatory filings, or prescribing instructions? Postings on some random forum are not going to get you very far in a malpractice suit. Have you been to another doctor? Did they diagnose you with a new condition or worsened condition caused by toxicity/reaction to the drug? | Not a lawyer, but some people have a hypersensitivity to the components of the lotion. There is a chance that you're among that group. Is there any reason why you didn't contact your doctor's office when the burning got worse? | 1 | 28,326 | 1.636364 |
9knw08 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Doctor prescribed me a cream that ruined my life Several months ago, I went to my primary care physician for constant redness on my entire genital area. He looked at my genitals, shrugged and then prescribed me a cream. He instructed me to use it on my genitals for a month until the redness subsided. Little did I know, this cream is strongly frowned upon to use on the genital region. After about five days, I started noticing something odd. The redness wasn't going away and my scrotum and penis started to unbearably burn. I went online to check if this cream was safe to use on the genital region and was met with absolute horror stories. I immediately discontinued the cream and saw the damage it had done. It's been three months since I stopped and my genitals look completely destroyed. I can't sleep at night because I am in constant burning and pain. My penis looks visibly different and so does my scrotum. I read the package the cream came in and it doesn't state anything about not applying it on the genital area. I just don't know what to do at this point. I am constantly in pain and my genitals don't seem to be healing. Can i sue for medical practice? The package should at least explicitly caution users that it should not be used on that area. | e71gufa | e72b41r | 1,538,502,182 | 1,538,528,763 | 4 | 18 | I am not a lawyer but I was a med mal paralegal for 4 years. 1) As previously stated - contact a medical malpractice attorney. They'll know how to move forward. 2) Research another doctor, a \*reputable\* one for a second opinion - see if you can find a dermatologist who specializes in genital areas. If you can't find one - whatever med mal attorney you retain will likely know a doctor to refer you to. 3) Request your medical records from your visit with your PCP (when he gave you the cream). You can probably find this online or just call the office and ask for the medical records dept. (Your attorney will likely do this for you) 3) Take pictures NOW of what your genitals look like (I know it seems weird, but you'll need it as evidence. Also - again, I know, its weird, but if you have any pictures of your genitals prior to this issue, that will also be evidence - before the cream vs. after.) 4) Keep the bottle of cream and packaging for further evidence. Essentially, another doctor and a med mal lawyer will be the ones to determine if you have a case to sue. Good luck, hope you recover soon! | > I went online . . . and was met with absolute horror stories. Were any of these horror stories in the form of medical journals, regulatory filings, or prescribing instructions? Postings on some random forum are not going to get you very far in a malpractice suit. Have you been to another doctor? Did they diagnose you with a new condition or worsened condition caused by toxicity/reaction to the drug? | 0 | 26,581 | 4.5 |
rh60i7 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My doctor forgot to stitch me closed after birth I’m unsure how to proceed. I gave birth 3 months ago. I tore and had to be cut. A resident doctor did the birth. The attending left after the baby was out and never looked to ensure the resident closed me. I couldn’t walk after birth for 3 days and you’re supposed to be able to walk same day. I asked the nurses for them to check me or have a doctor come see me because I knew something was wrong. They said I needed to call my doctor when I got home as they “didn’t do that”. They also never pressed on my belly after birth which prevents hemorrhage. I quite literally was just neglected. My mother in law is an OB nurse of 35 years and my husband is a medical professional. Both looked at what remained after birth and both told me I was in fact not stitched closed and had healed from wounds WIDE OPEN. My doctor is now telling me I “healed fine” and to see a physical therapist. I told them how I was left open and they aren’t arguing but won’t admit the clinic did it. I have photos of before and after to prove what they did (weird, don’t judge). They said if I’m unhappy I can see a plastic surgeon but they aren’t offering to pay. They said if I have the surgery I can’t have kids again or would have to have a c section (when I wouldn’t have to if they didn’t mess up) because the surgery would make skin down there too thin to give birth again. I’m only 30 and this was my first baby of what I hoped to be 2 or 3. Even if I had a c section that’s a bigger cost than a normal birth we didn’t plan on unless medical emergency. Again- they aren’t offering to cover the cost of that in the future either. This feels like medical neglect or malpractice to me. I could have hemorrhaged and it would have been their fault. And I ASKED to be checked and they refused. I was discharged without being looked at. Do I have a case? Also, I’m in Tennessee and this happened at a VERY well known and established hospital. | hookzgp | hop61ko | 1,639,596,609 | 1,639,604,731 | 113 | 252 | Not a lawyer, but it is generally agreed that r/legaladvice is not the place for medical malpractice questions Contact your state bar or other state legal organization, most will offer a referral for a free or low-cost consultation. This is real lawyer territory. | Get a second opinion from a surgeon that is not connected to your current hospital. | 0 | 8,122 | 2.230088 |
82sbct | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Update: They're taking my child (pt.3) Hey everyone; You might remember me from such posts as: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7er15w/theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7jb711/update\_theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ And if not, those help to provide ample backstory into what's up now. **Non\-Legal Additional Information:** It's been about three months since my wife's passing. I've seen my daughter once since the service, and I had to beg for that. I attempted to set up a meeting with the father in order to hammer out some details, such as would I continue to carry her on my insurance, phone plans, spotify plans, clothing, field trips, anything that I can do to stay in her life. Unfortunately, he couldn't make the first meeting, continued to ignore me for a week, and then when I chased down his mother, he called me back. This was around Christmas time, and I asked to see her, as my family and I could really use that. He suggested the day after Christmas, and I agreed. Then continued to ignore my requests for confirmation and pleas, until 7:30 P.M. Christmas, to which he asked if I still wanted to see her. I spent two and a half hours with her at my parents home, and it was just wonderful. I felt like her Dad again, but it was too short of time. In that time, I wanted to talk to him about things such as the Life Insurance money going into the college account, additional money and time spent, and he said we'd talk about it. New Year's eve, I sent a message over, wishing them a Happy New Year's, and letting them know if she wanted to call, I'd be up. No response. A week later I traveled for work, and wanted to check in to see how she was doing in her new school \(he pulled her out of her existing school and moved her into a new one\). And that's when I found out I was blocked from any text or phone calls. And pretty much at that point no one in their family would take my calls, so I started to send her letters with pictures. Nothing negative sent in the letters, just keeping her in my thoughts, hoping she's doing okay, keeping her updated on our pets, little and minor changes, etc., but absolutely nothing negative. A friend of mine suggested a law firm local to the area that might be able to help, and they suggested that we go forward with a suit in an attempt to mediate resolution for any time available. He was served last week, and the trial is set for two weeks. They've made a motion to dismiss. **Legal\-Relevant Additional Information:** As for the point of this post, because I wouldn't write here if it weren't additional requests for legal information. We're attempting to mediate a resolution, however in the event they don't go for it, we're attempting to make a case that under KRS 403.270, I could be considered a de facto custodian. It's a long shot, but I want to make sure that I have the relevant documentation or witnesses or information that would help my case. Anyone have any clever ideas or suggested avenues to help? So far, I've come up with Bank statements reflecting: deposits into lunch accounts, school supplies, etc.; Insurance documentation showing I carried her; any conversations between my late wife and I that might reflect monetary plans, vacations, etc.. But if there's anyone else that might have any good ideas, or suggestions that might help\-\-I'd appreciate it. I know it's a long shot, but it's the only shot I've got. | dvcrf3q | dvco5pc | 1,520,474,057 | 1,520,470,441 | 180 | 130 | Any forms where you were identified as an emergency contact. School forms where you were an authorized pickup. Taxes. Co-pays for medical visits. Sports and lessons payments. Insurance documentation. Cell phone plans or other memberships or plans that you covered. Photos of you together. | Do you have any 529 accounts or perhaps you could show that she was named as a secondary beneficiary (after your wife) for your life insurance or retirement accounts? Just trying to think of anything else that may show financial planning on your part. Good luck! | 1 | 3,616 | 1.384615 |
82sbct | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Update: They're taking my child (pt.3) Hey everyone; You might remember me from such posts as: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7er15w/theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7jb711/update\_theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ And if not, those help to provide ample backstory into what's up now. **Non\-Legal Additional Information:** It's been about three months since my wife's passing. I've seen my daughter once since the service, and I had to beg for that. I attempted to set up a meeting with the father in order to hammer out some details, such as would I continue to carry her on my insurance, phone plans, spotify plans, clothing, field trips, anything that I can do to stay in her life. Unfortunately, he couldn't make the first meeting, continued to ignore me for a week, and then when I chased down his mother, he called me back. This was around Christmas time, and I asked to see her, as my family and I could really use that. He suggested the day after Christmas, and I agreed. Then continued to ignore my requests for confirmation and pleas, until 7:30 P.M. Christmas, to which he asked if I still wanted to see her. I spent two and a half hours with her at my parents home, and it was just wonderful. I felt like her Dad again, but it was too short of time. In that time, I wanted to talk to him about things such as the Life Insurance money going into the college account, additional money and time spent, and he said we'd talk about it. New Year's eve, I sent a message over, wishing them a Happy New Year's, and letting them know if she wanted to call, I'd be up. No response. A week later I traveled for work, and wanted to check in to see how she was doing in her new school \(he pulled her out of her existing school and moved her into a new one\). And that's when I found out I was blocked from any text or phone calls. And pretty much at that point no one in their family would take my calls, so I started to send her letters with pictures. Nothing negative sent in the letters, just keeping her in my thoughts, hoping she's doing okay, keeping her updated on our pets, little and minor changes, etc., but absolutely nothing negative. A friend of mine suggested a law firm local to the area that might be able to help, and they suggested that we go forward with a suit in an attempt to mediate resolution for any time available. He was served last week, and the trial is set for two weeks. They've made a motion to dismiss. **Legal\-Relevant Additional Information:** As for the point of this post, because I wouldn't write here if it weren't additional requests for legal information. We're attempting to mediate a resolution, however in the event they don't go for it, we're attempting to make a case that under KRS 403.270, I could be considered a de facto custodian. It's a long shot, but I want to make sure that I have the relevant documentation or witnesses or information that would help my case. Anyone have any clever ideas or suggested avenues to help? So far, I've come up with Bank statements reflecting: deposits into lunch accounts, school supplies, etc.; Insurance documentation showing I carried her; any conversations between my late wife and I that might reflect monetary plans, vacations, etc.. But if there's anyone else that might have any good ideas, or suggestions that might help\-\-I'd appreciate it. I know it's a long shot, but it's the only shot I've got. | dvcsliy | dvco5pc | 1,520,475,346 | 1,520,470,441 | 168 | 130 | I was trying to prove a point when I went to court over a custody issue, so I printed out a calendar where I’d highlighted days my kid was with me (I’m the mom) in pink and days with dad in blue - cliche, yes, but it was a very visual way for everyone to see the amount of time she spent with me vs with him. Do you have a phone bill where you could highlight text messages between the two of you and between kid/bio dad? Maybe just to show the constant communication the two of you had? What about emails from the school or copies of forms or report cards you’ve signed? My husband is at least 50% of those signatures for all of our kids, including his step-kid. | Do you have any 529 accounts or perhaps you could show that she was named as a secondary beneficiary (after your wife) for your life insurance or retirement accounts? Just trying to think of anything else that may show financial planning on your part. Good luck! | 1 | 4,905 | 1.292308 |
82sbct | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Update: They're taking my child (pt.3) Hey everyone; You might remember me from such posts as: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7er15w/theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7jb711/update\_theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ And if not, those help to provide ample backstory into what's up now. **Non\-Legal Additional Information:** It's been about three months since my wife's passing. I've seen my daughter once since the service, and I had to beg for that. I attempted to set up a meeting with the father in order to hammer out some details, such as would I continue to carry her on my insurance, phone plans, spotify plans, clothing, field trips, anything that I can do to stay in her life. Unfortunately, he couldn't make the first meeting, continued to ignore me for a week, and then when I chased down his mother, he called me back. This was around Christmas time, and I asked to see her, as my family and I could really use that. He suggested the day after Christmas, and I agreed. Then continued to ignore my requests for confirmation and pleas, until 7:30 P.M. Christmas, to which he asked if I still wanted to see her. I spent two and a half hours with her at my parents home, and it was just wonderful. I felt like her Dad again, but it was too short of time. In that time, I wanted to talk to him about things such as the Life Insurance money going into the college account, additional money and time spent, and he said we'd talk about it. New Year's eve, I sent a message over, wishing them a Happy New Year's, and letting them know if she wanted to call, I'd be up. No response. A week later I traveled for work, and wanted to check in to see how she was doing in her new school \(he pulled her out of her existing school and moved her into a new one\). And that's when I found out I was blocked from any text or phone calls. And pretty much at that point no one in their family would take my calls, so I started to send her letters with pictures. Nothing negative sent in the letters, just keeping her in my thoughts, hoping she's doing okay, keeping her updated on our pets, little and minor changes, etc., but absolutely nothing negative. A friend of mine suggested a law firm local to the area that might be able to help, and they suggested that we go forward with a suit in an attempt to mediate resolution for any time available. He was served last week, and the trial is set for two weeks. They've made a motion to dismiss. **Legal\-Relevant Additional Information:** As for the point of this post, because I wouldn't write here if it weren't additional requests for legal information. We're attempting to mediate a resolution, however in the event they don't go for it, we're attempting to make a case that under KRS 403.270, I could be considered a de facto custodian. It's a long shot, but I want to make sure that I have the relevant documentation or witnesses or information that would help my case. Anyone have any clever ideas or suggested avenues to help? So far, I've come up with Bank statements reflecting: deposits into lunch accounts, school supplies, etc.; Insurance documentation showing I carried her; any conversations between my late wife and I that might reflect monetary plans, vacations, etc.. But if there's anyone else that might have any good ideas, or suggestions that might help\-\-I'd appreciate it. I know it's a long shot, but it's the only shot I've got. | dvctrqb | dvcze4h | 1,520,476,647 | 1,520,482,884 | 42 | 75 | Do you have records of your involvement with her school or extracurricular activities? | As the child of a stepparent who is amazing and was heavily involved in my life growing up, your situation was always my worst nightmare. I'm so, so sorry this is happening. Is there any chance your daughter can speak with a judge and provide further insight? Or does the court frown on that sort of thing? | 0 | 6,237 | 1.785714 |
82sbct | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Update: They're taking my child (pt.3) Hey everyone; You might remember me from such posts as: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7er15w/theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7jb711/update\_theyre\_taking\_my\_child/ And if not, those help to provide ample backstory into what's up now. **Non\-Legal Additional Information:** It's been about three months since my wife's passing. I've seen my daughter once since the service, and I had to beg for that. I attempted to set up a meeting with the father in order to hammer out some details, such as would I continue to carry her on my insurance, phone plans, spotify plans, clothing, field trips, anything that I can do to stay in her life. Unfortunately, he couldn't make the first meeting, continued to ignore me for a week, and then when I chased down his mother, he called me back. This was around Christmas time, and I asked to see her, as my family and I could really use that. He suggested the day after Christmas, and I agreed. Then continued to ignore my requests for confirmation and pleas, until 7:30 P.M. Christmas, to which he asked if I still wanted to see her. I spent two and a half hours with her at my parents home, and it was just wonderful. I felt like her Dad again, but it was too short of time. In that time, I wanted to talk to him about things such as the Life Insurance money going into the college account, additional money and time spent, and he said we'd talk about it. New Year's eve, I sent a message over, wishing them a Happy New Year's, and letting them know if she wanted to call, I'd be up. No response. A week later I traveled for work, and wanted to check in to see how she was doing in her new school \(he pulled her out of her existing school and moved her into a new one\). And that's when I found out I was blocked from any text or phone calls. And pretty much at that point no one in their family would take my calls, so I started to send her letters with pictures. Nothing negative sent in the letters, just keeping her in my thoughts, hoping she's doing okay, keeping her updated on our pets, little and minor changes, etc., but absolutely nothing negative. A friend of mine suggested a law firm local to the area that might be able to help, and they suggested that we go forward with a suit in an attempt to mediate resolution for any time available. He was served last week, and the trial is set for two weeks. They've made a motion to dismiss. **Legal\-Relevant Additional Information:** As for the point of this post, because I wouldn't write here if it weren't additional requests for legal information. We're attempting to mediate a resolution, however in the event they don't go for it, we're attempting to make a case that under KRS 403.270, I could be considered a de facto custodian. It's a long shot, but I want to make sure that I have the relevant documentation or witnesses or information that would help my case. Anyone have any clever ideas or suggested avenues to help? So far, I've come up with Bank statements reflecting: deposits into lunch accounts, school supplies, etc.; Insurance documentation showing I carried her; any conversations between my late wife and I that might reflect monetary plans, vacations, etc.. But if there's anyone else that might have any good ideas, or suggestions that might help\-\-I'd appreciate it. I know it's a long shot, but it's the only shot I've got. | dwhxt76 | dwhxlk3 | 1,522,359,502 | 1,522,359,300 | 3 | 2 | I am so sorry. I, unfortunately, do not have any legal advice but you are heavy on my mind and I am hoping for the best for you. Truly. | I just read your update, but it’s locked so I can’t comment on it. I am so so sorry. I hope something works out in the future so that you can continue to be a part of her life. | 1 | 202 | 1.5 |
7er15w | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | They're taking my child Hello legal redditors. I need help. And I don't have a lot of hope. On Sunday afternoon, my wife suddenly passed away from congenital heart failure. She was 29. She has an 11 year old daughter. Her daughter's father and her were married a short bit but then divorced. With my wife's passing they said they wouldn't have me disappear, but that's not the message I've received from them. I've been texting my step daughter on the phone I pay for messages of love (" love you kiddo"), and last night I was told to stop texting her and I can have this phone back. They had split custody, 50/50 with not really an amicable communication structure. In the state of Kentucky, are there any laws or guidances for the step parent? My wife had no will written out. Anything that might give me reason or hope to step foot in a courtroom? They're going to take my little girl away from me. The little girl I've helped raise since she was in diapers. I've just lost my wife, and I can't lose her too. | dq6zpo0 | dq6toas | 1,511,366,633 | 1,511,359,547 | 163 | 73 | In Kentucky, step-parents are allowed to petition for visitation. Contact a lawyer immediately. Just a cursory read of the information shows this is pretty complex. You have to prove standing as a parent since you aren't bio related. You may or may not qualify. A lawyer will help you figure it out. It is an uphill battle against a bio parent. Custody would require you to prove a lot more about that bio parents capabilities. | Another thing to consider is where are the grandparents? Even if you don’t have standing, mom’s parents might. | 1 | 7,086 | 2.232877 |
zrhqm0 | legaladvice_train | 0.8 | Trying to breakup with my bf and he says he’s going to take my child and career My (26f) bf (28m) told me he has stuff on his phone that “multiple people sent him” that can get my child (6m) taken from me and make me lose my career. I was trying to break up with him which would involve him also leaving my home. He said it was being I was taking everything from him, and he wanted to show me what it feels like. He gave me an ultimatum that if I gave us a “blank slate,” and put in effort towards our relationship, he would delete the documents/screenshots. I recorded some of this but not all. I have already paid for a certified 30 day notice to be given to him. I’m not sure what to do. I’m also not sure what this evidence would be, but I have a career that easily fires people with little reason. Help. | j13lk6v | j13j8bk | 1,671,626,369 | 1,671,624,914 | 67 | 8 | This is classic manipulation on his part and you need to stand your ground. Legally you’ve given him notice. He doesn’t have recourse except to lie to and threaten his landlord. You need to follow through and evict him, delete and block. | You should reach out to thehotline.org. Be proactive and retain an attorney to create and pursue a court ordered custody arrangement that suits your child’s needs. | 1 | 1,455 | 8.375 |
zrhqm0 | legaladvice_train | 0.8 | Trying to breakup with my bf and he says he’s going to take my child and career My (26f) bf (28m) told me he has stuff on his phone that “multiple people sent him” that can get my child (6m) taken from me and make me lose my career. I was trying to break up with him which would involve him also leaving my home. He said it was being I was taking everything from him, and he wanted to show me what it feels like. He gave me an ultimatum that if I gave us a “blank slate,” and put in effort towards our relationship, he would delete the documents/screenshots. I recorded some of this but not all. I have already paid for a certified 30 day notice to be given to him. I’m not sure what to do. I’m also not sure what this evidence would be, but I have a career that easily fires people with little reason. Help. | j13j8bk | j142uex | 1,671,624,914 | 1,671,634,848 | 8 | 9 | You should reach out to thehotline.org. Be proactive and retain an attorney to create and pursue a court ordered custody arrangement that suits your child’s needs. | You're scared, of course. BF said these things to scare you. It sounds like you're doing everything right by following your lawyer's instructions. At this point, take a deep breath. Don't let the threats get to you. Listen to your lawyer, take care of you and your child. Record everything he says to you, in writing. Dates, times, specific threats. Your lawyer will thank you for that. | 0 | 9,934 | 1.125 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fyna2a1 | fymqjya | 1,595,240,783 | 1,595,221,920 | 145 | 82 | > He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. Bigger rocks. The kind you need heavy equipment to move. | Put up a no trespassing sign at the end of the driveway and on your side of the property line. When the kids show up or he crosses it, call the cops and report it. It sounds harsh but you really don't want his kids injured on your property if they're messing around. As for the trailer, get a current survey (sometimes when homes are sold they just use a recent one and don't actually re-survey, a new one will double check that the property line you are using is correct.) Then, I'd keep calling and having him ticketed until you out in hedges. | 1 | 18,863 | 1.768293 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fynco88 | fynfiy9 | 1,595,243,324 | 1,595,245,852 | 19 | 31 | Sounds like it's time for big ass boundary rocks and cameras facing the property line. | If you’re doing a hedge, my suggestion would be to concrete in some solid metal poles with a quick-set cement in between the bushes. He can pull hedges out, but he’s going to have a hell of a time removing half a dozen metal poles. As long as they’re on your property there should be nothing he can do, and your hedge will eventually cover them. | 0 | 2,528 | 1.631579 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fynodgv | fynco88 | 1,595,252,262 | 1,595,243,324 | 28 | 19 | On another thread there was a similar problem. This one had a tractor trailer driver parked between a row of almond trees on someone else’s property. The owner was an almond farmer and it caused problems with harvesting due to ruts left by trailer. The sheriff told him to post a sign for trailer parking at 100 per hour and to prepay. The sheriff observed the signs and took pictures prior to the next parking. The next time the guy parked the owner called the Sheriff who came out and had truck towed for theft of services. The driver of truck didn’t own truck and the owner paid over 5k for storage and tow fees and deducted from guys paycheck. He never parked there again. Get survey done to verify your property line first. Note updated for spelling and grammar. | Sounds like it's time for big ass boundary rocks and cameras facing the property line. | 1 | 8,938 | 1.473684 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fynodgv | fynlzzn | 1,595,252,262 | 1,595,250,720 | 28 | 10 | On another thread there was a similar problem. This one had a tractor trailer driver parked between a row of almond trees on someone else’s property. The owner was an almond farmer and it caused problems with harvesting due to ruts left by trailer. The sheriff told him to post a sign for trailer parking at 100 per hour and to prepay. The sheriff observed the signs and took pictures prior to the next parking. The next time the guy parked the owner called the Sheriff who came out and had truck towed for theft of services. The driver of truck didn’t own truck and the owner paid over 5k for storage and tow fees and deducted from guys paycheck. He never parked there again. Get survey done to verify your property line first. Note updated for spelling and grammar. | Put steel bollards in. He will not be able to move them | 1 | 1,542 | 2.8 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fynodgv | fynlkub | 1,595,252,262 | 1,595,250,435 | 28 | 2 | On another thread there was a similar problem. This one had a tractor trailer driver parked between a row of almond trees on someone else’s property. The owner was an almond farmer and it caused problems with harvesting due to ruts left by trailer. The sheriff told him to post a sign for trailer parking at 100 per hour and to prepay. The sheriff observed the signs and took pictures prior to the next parking. The next time the guy parked the owner called the Sheriff who came out and had truck towed for theft of services. The driver of truck didn’t own truck and the owner paid over 5k for storage and tow fees and deducted from guys paycheck. He never parked there again. Get survey done to verify your property line first. Note updated for spelling and grammar. | Get a survey. Erect a fence or use giant immobile boulders. Put up no trespassing signs. Have his trailer towed. | 1 | 1,827 | 14 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fynlkub | fynlzzn | 1,595,250,435 | 1,595,250,720 | 2 | 10 | Get a survey. Erect a fence or use giant immobile boulders. Put up no trespassing signs. Have his trailer towed. | Put steel bollards in. He will not be able to move them | 0 | 285 | 5 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fynon12 | fynlkub | 1,595,252,428 | 1,595,250,435 | 8 | 2 | If you are a city person and he is a local, you may find that there is a huge difference between what you can legally do and what it is wise to do. Double if you are moving in from somewhere like California (New York or New Jersey in the East). If I were you, I would have a conversation with someone local like a Sheriff, a zoning officer, or a local lawyer who has been around for some time. That conversation would start something like this, “I’ve got a problem. I am the new guy in Jane Doe’s house, and I seem to have gotten off on the wrong foot with my neighbor. I’m wondering if you could give me some advice about what I should do.” Save your story until some asks, “What seems to be the trouble?” Everybody likes to give advice, everybody knows your neighbor better than you do, and everybody In the county has a cooler head than you do at the moment. | Get a survey. Erect a fence or use giant immobile boulders. Put up no trespassing signs. Have his trailer towed. | 1 | 1,993 | 4 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fyocxyl | fynlkub | 1,595,265,113 | 1,595,250,435 | 7 | 2 | 1) Get cameras up ASAP, because this guy is going to be trouble. Make sure they are positioned so no one can access a camera without getting caught on another camera. 2) Get a proper survey completed. 3) Send certified letter stating they have until X date to move the trailer off your property. 4) Find a towing company that will tow "abandoned" vehicles off your property. | Get a survey. Erect a fence or use giant immobile boulders. Put up no trespassing signs. Have his trailer towed. | 1 | 14,678 | 3.5 |
hue7rp | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | (Washington State) What can I do to prevent my neighbor from continuing to park his box trailer on my property? I am at my wits end. We moved into our house last summer. It was a very hectic move with a baby on the way so we didn't immediately notice that the neighbor was parking his box trailer 4 or so feet onto our property line. We noticed his children were frequently in our driveway (not shared, does not have a sidewalk, no easements) and were riding their scooters and physically hitting our garage as some sort of bumper. I asked them to stop and they eventually did (after about a dozen more reminders). Then we started noticing that the neighbor parks his box trailer across the property line (very evident he's doing so as there is a straight line with a difference in rock color) and as a result, is ruining our gravel. In addition, he pulls his three large garbage cans in and out through our gravel since he's blocked his gate with his trailer. We intend to landscape this area and I don't want to deal with him ruining what we put in. Thus far, I have: -left a note with my contact information for him (which he denied receiving although it took about 10 minutes for it to no longer be taped to their front door) asking him to contact me to discuss the property line - placed large/heavy rocks along the property line within the entirety of my side only to have him move them to a pile in the front of the area -and finally, I've told him not to park on my property, allow his children to play in my driveway, or move his garbage cans through the gravel. I did so in person when he came over to confront me about "making it impossible to park." His response was that I am a rude neighbor and that because he's been parking his trailer in that spot for roughly 3 years, he can continue to do so. I told him under no circumstances is he to use my property and has no permission to do so. This evening I went out to see that he has moved the gravel to make it look like he's parked on his side but he's still over the property line by several feet. He also moves the large rocks and then puts them back thinking I wouldn't notice. It may seem petty but I am so flabbergasted by his entitlement and attitude that I owe him my owned property to use free of charge and without permission. This isn't entirely relevant, but I'm a grown adult and the way in which he spoke to me was that of a grown man chastising a child. We intend to put in large hedges but our landscaper has recommended we wait until spring. We do have an HOA we pay for, but they don't enforce anything or respond to calls or emails and don't have a dedicated office to visit. I don't particularly want to go nuclear on him for fear of retribution but I'm not sure how else to get it across to him that I'm serious. What am I legally allowed to do to prevent him from continuing this? | fyog4pg | fynlkub | 1,595,266,653 | 1,595,250,435 | 6 | 2 | Nothing to do with property lines.. but you mentioned HOA isn't responding. Is the HOA executing any of it's responsiblities (besides collecting money)? You may want to talk to all your neighbors about disbanding it. | Get a survey. Erect a fence or use giant immobile boulders. Put up no trespassing signs. Have his trailer towed. | 1 | 16,218 | 3 |
9u0r77 | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | [FL] Girl I matched on Tinder tells me she's 17, ignores my request to wait until she is 18, and sends nudes. WTF So I matched this chick on Tinder, her profile says 18. She messages me and has me add her on a 3rd party app. Nothing much was said but it was definitely a real person not a bot. On the 3rd party app she immediately states she is 17 and starts send provocative pictures as I am typing " Stop " " Message me when you're 18 ". WTF do I do ? I feel like it's either some type of complex extortion scam scheme, or my local police department has a lot of time on their hands. Am I just paranoid ? What should I do ? Note : I immediately cut my losses and blocked her on the 3rd party app. | e90lk0x | e90l9mv | 1,541,305,236 | 1,541,304,914 | 50 | 15 | If the father calls, tell him you’ll get her charged for possession of child porn | I dont think you can get in trouble for her sending them to you against your will... pretty sure she can though... I've heard of lots of teen girls getting charged with distributing child porn by sending out their own pics | 1 | 322 | 3.333333 |
9u0r77 | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | [FL] Girl I matched on Tinder tells me she's 17, ignores my request to wait until she is 18, and sends nudes. WTF So I matched this chick on Tinder, her profile says 18. She messages me and has me add her on a 3rd party app. Nothing much was said but it was definitely a real person not a bot. On the 3rd party app she immediately states she is 17 and starts send provocative pictures as I am typing " Stop " " Message me when you're 18 ". WTF do I do ? I feel like it's either some type of complex extortion scam scheme, or my local police department has a lot of time on their hands. Am I just paranoid ? What should I do ? Note : I immediately cut my losses and blocked her on the 3rd party app. | e90l9mv | e90ynx6 | 1,541,304,914 | 1,541,330,288 | 15 | 25 | I dont think you can get in trouble for her sending them to you against your will... pretty sure she can though... I've heard of lots of teen girls getting charged with distributing child porn by sending out their own pics | It's a scam. Block her and move on. | 0 | 25,374 | 1.666667 |
9u0r77 | legaladvice_train | 0.77 | [FL] Girl I matched on Tinder tells me she's 17, ignores my request to wait until she is 18, and sends nudes. WTF So I matched this chick on Tinder, her profile says 18. She messages me and has me add her on a 3rd party app. Nothing much was said but it was definitely a real person not a bot. On the 3rd party app she immediately states she is 17 and starts send provocative pictures as I am typing " Stop " " Message me when you're 18 ". WTF do I do ? I feel like it's either some type of complex extortion scam scheme, or my local police department has a lot of time on their hands. Am I just paranoid ? What should I do ? Note : I immediately cut my losses and blocked her on the 3rd party app. | e90yf50 | e90ynx6 | 1,541,329,769 | 1,541,330,288 | 7 | 25 | Sounds like a scam. Just heard a police officer talk about this (called it sextortion). Her advice: 1. Block the offender. 2. Report it to the police. 3. Do not delete the messages. (Seems counterintuitive, but cops could use to investigate the scammers.) | It's a scam. Block her and move on. | 0 | 519 | 3.571429 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc2ra4 | hkc5imx | 1,636,727,059 | 1,636,728,316 | 788 | 3,635 | How do you know she had friends run the info? Did she tell you? If so I would go to the police about it. I would imagine that kind of access is logged and against department policy. | According to a LE friend, running someone is a felony if it's not done for official police use. | 0 | 1,257 | 4.612944 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc5imx | hkc3jyk | 1,636,728,316 | 1,636,727,428 | 3,635 | 406 | According to a LE friend, running someone is a felony if it's not done for official police use. | This is not okay to do at all. You should call the dispatch center where she lives and report that someone ran your information. This should all be logged in their system. | 1 | 888 | 8.953202 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc3ngi | hkc5imx | 1,636,727,473 | 1,636,728,316 | 16 | 3,635 | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | According to a LE friend, running someone is a felony if it's not done for official police use. | 0 | 843 | 227.1875 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkd23du | hkcxzjd | 1,636,741,699 | 1,636,740,007 | 2,035 | 950 | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | 1 | 1,692 | 2.142105 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc2ra4 | hkd23du | 1,636,727,059 | 1,636,741,699 | 788 | 2,035 | How do you know she had friends run the info? Did she tell you? If so I would go to the police about it. I would imagine that kind of access is logged and against department policy. | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | 0 | 14,640 | 2.582487 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc8k0p | hkd23du | 1,636,729,641 | 1,636,741,699 | 443 | 2,035 | "Hi! That's super creepy. Please don't contact me again." Then block her. Some social consequences for her action are a good starting point, and it's clear you can't have a trusting relationship with someone who does this. If she works for an emergency dispatch service, look them up online and find their non-emergency number. Call, ask to speak to a manager, and tell them what happened. Possible consequences range from a slap on the wrist all the way up to serious criminal charges, depending on who she works for and what access she abused. | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | 0 | 12,058 | 4.593679 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkd23du | hkc3jyk | 1,636,741,699 | 1,636,727,428 | 2,035 | 406 | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | This is not okay to do at all. You should call the dispatch center where she lives and report that someone ran your information. This should all be logged in their system. | 1 | 14,271 | 5.012315 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkd23du | hkckfsa | 1,636,741,699 | 1,636,734,551 | 2,035 | 145 | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | Ok Not a lawyer but I use similar systems in a different state. Access to personal/criminal record including your name, address, and DOB is almost always a violation when not done for official purpose. In my state, If I were to do what you claim the dispatchers did, I would win myself a free felony charge for each piece of information I unlawfully accessed. Colorado uses a similar system called CCIC that appears to have the same privacy provisions as my state. CIB (Colorado Bureau of Investigations) even has a complaint line in their website to start an investigation. The link is below https://cbi.colorado.gov/sections/crime-information-management-unit/colorado-crime-information-center-ccic If it were me, I would be filing the complaint immediately. This is a serious violation of your rights. While the tinder girl probably has no reason to worry, her dispatch friends do and rightfully so. | 1 | 7,148 | 14.034483 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcptbj | hkd23du | 1,636,736,712 | 1,636,741,699 | 67 | 2,035 | Super easy to do without LEO. www.peoplesearchnow.com Edit: The only thing you can't do freely is look up someone's information based on license plate in the USA | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | 0 | 4,987 | 30.373134 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkd23du | hkcfuyj | 1,636,741,699 | 1,636,732,689 | 2,035 | 64 | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | Its illegal if the friend actually ran your name through the NCIC. Every name ran through that has to be done at the request of an officer with a report number attached to the query. But a lot of dispatch centers have a second local system where they also log information on people they come in contact with and don't need to be so formal when searching people in that system. | 1 | 9,010 | 31.796875 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcwrys | hkd23du | 1,636,739,510 | 1,636,741,699 | 43 | 2,035 | While much of that information is public information, it is usually against agency policy for employees to look up people for their own personal curiosity | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | 0 | 2,189 | 47.325581 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkd23du | hkd1oud | 1,636,741,699 | 1,636,741,528 | 2,035 | 34 | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | In my state at least, it’s illegal to use NCIC for personal reasons and you can be fired and/or charged for doing so. I’m not sure where you’re from but as other have said, file a complaint with said department as they should have records of who ran your information and when. | 1 | 171 | 59.852941 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc3ngi | hkd23du | 1,636,727,473 | 1,636,741,699 | 16 | 2,035 | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | I actually work in a dispatch center for my local PD/EMS. It might vary from state to state but more than likely it is against the law to run anyone without a valid legal reason, usually at the request of a licensed peace officer. All info requests and returns are logged and records kept. And every request is placed under an individual ID so seeing who sent the request should be simple. If you legit feel like this happened then absolutely contact the department this friend of hers works for and make a complaint. If she did it, it’s easy enough to find out. And if she didn’t do it, no harm no foul. Now all that being said, one of the other responders on said she might just be bullshitting you. That’s entirely possible. There are several sites that can show you a scary amount of information on someone and you just need a few pieces of info to start. Plus someone semi smart and dedicated can figure out a lot more than you’d think by sifting through social media posts and accounts. I know, I’ve had to resort to that method several times over the years to track down people for cases. | 0 | 14,226 | 127.1875 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc2ra4 | hkcxzjd | 1,636,727,059 | 1,636,740,007 | 788 | 950 | How do you know she had friends run the info? Did she tell you? If so I would go to the police about it. I would imagine that kind of access is logged and against department policy. | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | 0 | 12,948 | 1.205584 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcxzjd | hkc8k0p | 1,636,740,007 | 1,636,729,641 | 950 | 443 | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | "Hi! That's super creepy. Please don't contact me again." Then block her. Some social consequences for her action are a good starting point, and it's clear you can't have a trusting relationship with someone who does this. If she works for an emergency dispatch service, look them up online and find their non-emergency number. Call, ask to speak to a manager, and tell them what happened. Possible consequences range from a slap on the wrist all the way up to serious criminal charges, depending on who she works for and what access she abused. | 1 | 10,366 | 2.14447 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcxzjd | hkc3jyk | 1,636,740,007 | 1,636,727,428 | 950 | 406 | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | This is not okay to do at all. You should call the dispatch center where she lives and report that someone ran your information. This should all be logged in their system. | 1 | 12,579 | 2.339901 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkckfsa | hkcxzjd | 1,636,734,551 | 1,636,740,007 | 145 | 950 | Ok Not a lawyer but I use similar systems in a different state. Access to personal/criminal record including your name, address, and DOB is almost always a violation when not done for official purpose. In my state, If I were to do what you claim the dispatchers did, I would win myself a free felony charge for each piece of information I unlawfully accessed. Colorado uses a similar system called CCIC that appears to have the same privacy provisions as my state. CIB (Colorado Bureau of Investigations) even has a complaint line in their website to start an investigation. The link is below https://cbi.colorado.gov/sections/crime-information-management-unit/colorado-crime-information-center-ccic If it were me, I would be filing the complaint immediately. This is a serious violation of your rights. While the tinder girl probably has no reason to worry, her dispatch friends do and rightfully so. | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | 0 | 5,456 | 6.551724 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcptbj | hkcxzjd | 1,636,736,712 | 1,636,740,007 | 67 | 950 | Super easy to do without LEO. www.peoplesearchnow.com Edit: The only thing you can't do freely is look up someone's information based on license plate in the USA | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | 0 | 3,295 | 14.179104 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcfuyj | hkcxzjd | 1,636,732,689 | 1,636,740,007 | 64 | 950 | Its illegal if the friend actually ran your name through the NCIC. Every name ran through that has to be done at the request of an officer with a report number attached to the query. But a lot of dispatch centers have a second local system where they also log information on people they come in contact with and don't need to be so formal when searching people in that system. | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | 0 | 7,318 | 14.84375 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcwrys | hkcxzjd | 1,636,739,510 | 1,636,740,007 | 43 | 950 | While much of that information is public information, it is usually against agency policy for employees to look up people for their own personal curiosity | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | 0 | 497 | 22.093023 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcxzjd | hkc3ngi | 1,636,740,007 | 1,636,727,473 | 950 | 16 | Former cop here. At minimum, this is 100% against any internal policy her agency will have. Probably also against state code. If this actually happened, she'll be suspended pending an investigation, then fired. Not sure how you're going to find the friend or who she works for, but... | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | 1 | 12,534 | 59.375 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc8k0p | hkc3jyk | 1,636,729,641 | 1,636,727,428 | 443 | 406 | "Hi! That's super creepy. Please don't contact me again." Then block her. Some social consequences for her action are a good starting point, and it's clear you can't have a trusting relationship with someone who does this. If she works for an emergency dispatch service, look them up online and find their non-emergency number. Call, ask to speak to a manager, and tell them what happened. Possible consequences range from a slap on the wrist all the way up to serious criminal charges, depending on who she works for and what access she abused. | This is not okay to do at all. You should call the dispatch center where she lives and report that someone ran your information. This should all be logged in their system. | 1 | 2,213 | 1.091133 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc3ngi | hkc8k0p | 1,636,727,473 | 1,636,729,641 | 16 | 443 | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | "Hi! That's super creepy. Please don't contact me again." Then block her. Some social consequences for her action are a good starting point, and it's clear you can't have a trusting relationship with someone who does this. If she works for an emergency dispatch service, look them up online and find their non-emergency number. Call, ask to speak to a manager, and tell them what happened. Possible consequences range from a slap on the wrist all the way up to serious criminal charges, depending on who she works for and what access she abused. | 0 | 2,168 | 27.6875 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcfuyj | hkckfsa | 1,636,732,689 | 1,636,734,551 | 64 | 145 | Its illegal if the friend actually ran your name through the NCIC. Every name ran through that has to be done at the request of an officer with a report number attached to the query. But a lot of dispatch centers have a second local system where they also log information on people they come in contact with and don't need to be so formal when searching people in that system. | Ok Not a lawyer but I use similar systems in a different state. Access to personal/criminal record including your name, address, and DOB is almost always a violation when not done for official purpose. In my state, If I were to do what you claim the dispatchers did, I would win myself a free felony charge for each piece of information I unlawfully accessed. Colorado uses a similar system called CCIC that appears to have the same privacy provisions as my state. CIB (Colorado Bureau of Investigations) even has a complaint line in their website to start an investigation. The link is below https://cbi.colorado.gov/sections/crime-information-management-unit/colorado-crime-information-center-ccic If it were me, I would be filing the complaint immediately. This is a serious violation of your rights. While the tinder girl probably has no reason to worry, her dispatch friends do and rightfully so. | 0 | 1,862 | 2.265625 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc3ngi | hkckfsa | 1,636,727,473 | 1,636,734,551 | 16 | 145 | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | Ok Not a lawyer but I use similar systems in a different state. Access to personal/criminal record including your name, address, and DOB is almost always a violation when not done for official purpose. In my state, If I were to do what you claim the dispatchers did, I would win myself a free felony charge for each piece of information I unlawfully accessed. Colorado uses a similar system called CCIC that appears to have the same privacy provisions as my state. CIB (Colorado Bureau of Investigations) even has a complaint line in their website to start an investigation. The link is below https://cbi.colorado.gov/sections/crime-information-management-unit/colorado-crime-information-center-ccic If it were me, I would be filing the complaint immediately. This is a serious violation of your rights. While the tinder girl probably has no reason to worry, her dispatch friends do and rightfully so. | 0 | 7,078 | 9.0625 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcptbj | hkcfuyj | 1,636,736,712 | 1,636,732,689 | 67 | 64 | Super easy to do without LEO. www.peoplesearchnow.com Edit: The only thing you can't do freely is look up someone's information based on license plate in the USA | Its illegal if the friend actually ran your name through the NCIC. Every name ran through that has to be done at the request of an officer with a report number attached to the query. But a lot of dispatch centers have a second local system where they also log information on people they come in contact with and don't need to be so formal when searching people in that system. | 1 | 4,023 | 1.046875 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc3ngi | hkcptbj | 1,636,727,473 | 1,636,736,712 | 16 | 67 | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | Super easy to do without LEO. www.peoplesearchnow.com Edit: The only thing you can't do freely is look up someone's information based on license plate in the USA | 0 | 9,239 | 4.1875 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcfuyj | hkc3ngi | 1,636,732,689 | 1,636,727,473 | 64 | 16 | Its illegal if the friend actually ran your name through the NCIC. Every name ran through that has to be done at the request of an officer with a report number attached to the query. But a lot of dispatch centers have a second local system where they also log information on people they come in contact with and don't need to be so formal when searching people in that system. | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | 1 | 5,216 | 4 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkcwrys | hkc3ngi | 1,636,739,510 | 1,636,727,473 | 43 | 16 | While much of that information is public information, it is usually against agency policy for employees to look up people for their own personal curiosity | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | 1 | 12,037 | 2.6875 |
qsc4tq | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? (CO) I was talking to a girl on tinder and she had her friends at a dispatch center run my phone number and they revealed my full name, age, etc. Is this legal? If it is illegal am I supposed to do anything about it or just block her and move on? It really creeps me out. | hkc3ngi | hkd1oud | 1,636,727,473 | 1,636,741,528 | 16 | 34 | It may depend what they specifically did, which you don't know. It wouldn't be illegal to look you up (at home) using publicly available information, even information that most people don't know how to find. | In my state at least, it’s illegal to use NCIC for personal reasons and you can be fired and/or charged for doing so. I’m not sure where you’re from but as other have said, file a complaint with said department as they should have records of who ran your information and when. | 0 | 14,055 | 2.125 |
bq3y5x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | In slow process of separating with wife and she’s wanting me to sign house over into her name. I’ll still be living in it for next 2 months. Would this make me a renter? What could she do if I go through with signing? We bought house 3 years ago. Never missed payment. We have joint account and make similar income, (she makes a little more). We never got legally married as we were waiting for her student loans to be forgiven (she’s worked for nonprofit for a decade now), otherwise payments would have doubled. Though I went along with the whole refi thing, she took it upon herself to do legwork and did it in her name, (she claimed my credit score was too low to get approved). I just want do what’s best for my 3 year old daughter and me. But if I sign the house over to her, would I become a “tenant” and then have renter’s rights? Would she have to claim my $ each month for mortgage as income? I’m lost and crushed. [CA] | eo0zoy6 | eo18bty | 1,558,188,328 | 1,558,193,813 | 48 | 85 | Defnitely talk with a divorce/family law attorney before signing. If you were childless it might be worth it to walk away from your share of house, but anything you give now may not be considered by the court in any child support agreements. CA requires 60 days notice to vacate if tenancy is over a year. | If you sign the house over to her, I guarantee you that you’re ass is going to get kicked out. Don’t sign until you pull your credit report by a loan officer who can advise you on your options. You’re dealing with a smart one buddy, trust nothing she tells you. Good luck to you. | 0 | 5,485 | 1.770833 |
bq3y5x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | In slow process of separating with wife and she’s wanting me to sign house over into her name. I’ll still be living in it for next 2 months. Would this make me a renter? What could she do if I go through with signing? We bought house 3 years ago. Never missed payment. We have joint account and make similar income, (she makes a little more). We never got legally married as we were waiting for her student loans to be forgiven (she’s worked for nonprofit for a decade now), otherwise payments would have doubled. Though I went along with the whole refi thing, she took it upon herself to do legwork and did it in her name, (she claimed my credit score was too low to get approved). I just want do what’s best for my 3 year old daughter and me. But if I sign the house over to her, would I become a “tenant” and then have renter’s rights? Would she have to claim my $ each month for mortgage as income? I’m lost and crushed. [CA] | eo13gfq | eo18bty | 1,558,190,784 | 1,558,193,813 | 24 | 85 | Can you elaborate on how you are going through a ~~divorce~~ separation from your wife when you were never married? Edited for accuracy | If you sign the house over to her, I guarantee you that you’re ass is going to get kicked out. Don’t sign until you pull your credit report by a loan officer who can advise you on your options. You’re dealing with a smart one buddy, trust nothing she tells you. Good luck to you. | 0 | 3,029 | 3.541667 |
bq3y5x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | In slow process of separating with wife and she’s wanting me to sign house over into her name. I’ll still be living in it for next 2 months. Would this make me a renter? What could she do if I go through with signing? We bought house 3 years ago. Never missed payment. We have joint account and make similar income, (she makes a little more). We never got legally married as we were waiting for her student loans to be forgiven (she’s worked for nonprofit for a decade now), otherwise payments would have doubled. Though I went along with the whole refi thing, she took it upon herself to do legwork and did it in her name, (she claimed my credit score was too low to get approved). I just want do what’s best for my 3 year old daughter and me. But if I sign the house over to her, would I become a “tenant” and then have renter’s rights? Would she have to claim my $ each month for mortgage as income? I’m lost and crushed. [CA] | eo18bty | eo13188 | 1,558,193,813 | 1,558,190,519 | 85 | 14 | If you sign the house over to her, I guarantee you that you’re ass is going to get kicked out. Don’t sign until you pull your credit report by a loan officer who can advise you on your options. You’re dealing with a smart one buddy, trust nothing she tells you. Good luck to you. | When you bought the house, how did you divide the asset? Generally when two unrelated people (unmarried) buy a home they split ownership of it in some way. Did you do this? If you didn't, and the house is currently only in your name, it's only your house, and vice versa. | 1 | 3,294 | 6.071429 |
bq3y5x | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | In slow process of separating with wife and she’s wanting me to sign house over into her name. I’ll still be living in it for next 2 months. Would this make me a renter? What could she do if I go through with signing? We bought house 3 years ago. Never missed payment. We have joint account and make similar income, (she makes a little more). We never got legally married as we were waiting for her student loans to be forgiven (she’s worked for nonprofit for a decade now), otherwise payments would have doubled. Though I went along with the whole refi thing, she took it upon herself to do legwork and did it in her name, (she claimed my credit score was too low to get approved). I just want do what’s best for my 3 year old daughter and me. But if I sign the house over to her, would I become a “tenant” and then have renter’s rights? Would she have to claim my $ each month for mortgage as income? I’m lost and crushed. [CA] | eo13kop | eo18bty | 1,558,190,858 | 1,558,193,813 | 13 | 85 | Don't sign anything, you'll need to speak to a lawyer about custody arrangements for your daughter anyway. | If you sign the house over to her, I guarantee you that you’re ass is going to get kicked out. Don’t sign until you pull your credit report by a loan officer who can advise you on your options. You’re dealing with a smart one buddy, trust nothing she tells you. Good luck to you. | 0 | 2,955 | 6.538462 |
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