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9brri5 | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | (WA) Neighbor keeps taking pictures of my car and posting them online Washington state. I live in an apartment complex in Seattle where I rent an apartment. The complex has an underground garage for which I pay a monthly fee (not sure if this is relevant). I own a fairly expensive and new vehicle which is parked on my assigned spot in said garage. On three separate occasions I caught a weirdo neighbor taking pictures of my vehicle. First time, he was in front of the car photographing the vehicle itself, which is fine with me because I thought he probably liked it and whatever. I didn’t approach him. Next two times, as I was quietly walking from the elevator, I could see him taking selfies with my car and having his girlfriend/wife take photos of the weirdo TOUCHING my car. As in, he was pretending to open the door or lean against it. This bothers me because I do not want him to touch my car or take pictures with it. I walked up to them, told him this is not the first time I see him do this and want him to stop immediately. He apologized and walked away. Yesterday, I saw him AGAIN, dressed in a suit and having a photo shoot with my car. This guy is so fucking ridiculous. I went ahead an found his Facebook profile, then his Instagram. Lo and behold, he has like 26 pictures of him and my car where he claims to be his “new car”. This is a grown ass man, not a teenager. I took screenshots but I’m not sure what’s my recourse from here. I know I cannot stop him from taking pictures of my car but how about him touching it and leaning against it? Is posting the pictures online and claiming to own the vehicle illegal? Should I contact the complex or Facebook/Instagram? I am willing to dump money if necessary to take this weirdo to court but I don’t know what the charge could be. | e55y2g8 | e5673am | 1,535,733,866 | 1,535,741,573 | 3 | 6 | There's nothing illegally about what he's going thus far. You haven't incurred any quantifiable damages by him posing with your car and posting pictures on social media. If his antics result in scratches or dings on the car, that you can prove were caused by him, then you could pursue the repair costs. Your options right now are ignore it or invest in a car cover. | I don't think you have much legal recourse, but you definitely have social recourse: contact him, give the information to the apartment complex, take pictures of him doing this. | 0 | 7,707 | 2 |
pdcsy5 | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | I have been told that as a non-US national living outside the US, it is illegal for US companies to hire me as a remote employee. Is this true? Location: Federal. I am a Bangladeshi citizen living in Bangladesh. I am currently searching for work in the field of Data Science, but given the non-existent data science environment in Bangladesh I was thinking of doing remote work. I then read on the /r/datascience sub that, US companies are not allowed to hire non-US citizens and people living outside the US. Therefore, given this law I cannot do remote data science work for any US company. Is this true? | hapegn2 | hapq5ia | 1,630,171,992 | 1,630,176,940 | 8 | 14 | The employer would have to be set up as a company in the country you live in so that they can pay taxes, etc. They would also be subject to that countries employment laws, which vary significantly. It's not that it's impossible, but it's usually cost prohibitive to do so for one remote employee. | It isn't illegal for a US company to hire non US employees, but it can be a pain in the ass to do it legally. So unless they plan on hiring many people this way, most companies are unwilling to go through the hoops to do it. | 0 | 4,948 | 1.75 |
pdcsy5 | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | I have been told that as a non-US national living outside the US, it is illegal for US companies to hire me as a remote employee. Is this true? Location: Federal. I am a Bangladeshi citizen living in Bangladesh. I am currently searching for work in the field of Data Science, but given the non-existent data science environment in Bangladesh I was thinking of doing remote work. I then read on the /r/datascience sub that, US companies are not allowed to hire non-US citizens and people living outside the US. Therefore, given this law I cannot do remote data science work for any US company. Is this true? | harkj05 | hasc45p | 1,630,209,870 | 1,630,231,260 | 2 | 4 | Not a lawyer, but I work and have worked for many large tech companies. We have a lot of staff overseas in many countries including data science. The only time I saw it was a issue, was when I worked for a Healthcare provider ( in tech ) and we ran into issues with the data being stored outside the US. | Generally it's not outright *illegal*, but it can be very complicated legally, to the point where it may not be worth the effort and expense. An employer would usually have to establish some kind of legal business presence in Bangladesh, pay taxes there, and follow all of the local employment laws. This can cost a company a lot of money, as they'd have to hire professionals familiar with the local laws and regulations in addition to paying additional taxes and whatever fees and costs are involved in setting up such a legal presence. If they have an office in Bangledesh already and are looking to expand their workforce locally, that might not be an issue, but if they have no presence there, no company is going to be willing to go to that much effort and expense just to hire a single remote employee. In the data science field, you may also run into security and compliance issues, depending on exactly what data you are working on; there might be laws against transmitting certain types of data outside of certain geographic regions, or internal policies around data security that might be difficult to enforce with a single remote employee in a foreign country. | 0 | 21,390 | 2 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwgypj | dcwh2zg | 1,485,375,567 | 1,485,375,693 | 10 | 168 | Is he a us citizen or not? | Citizenship/legal immigrant status will be super easy to prove if he is in fact lawfully present in the United States. | 0 | 126 | 16.8 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwiyeq | dcwhnp7 | 1,485,377,678 | 1,485,376,304 | 65 | 46 | He should send an attorney to his custody court date to appear on his behalf and to explain his absence. | Does he have a new girlfriend that *is* an illegal immigrant? Perhaps he was arrested for some other violation (bringing in/harboring) rather than being undocumented himself. Otherwise, it should be *really* easy to prove he's a USC. | 1 | 1,374 | 1.413043 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwiyeq | dcwgypj | 1,485,377,678 | 1,485,375,567 | 65 | 10 | He should send an attorney to his custody court date to appear on his behalf and to explain his absence. | Is he a us citizen or not? | 1 | 2,111 | 6.5 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwgypj | dcwhnp7 | 1,485,375,567 | 1,485,376,304 | 10 | 46 | Is he a us citizen or not? | Does he have a new girlfriend that *is* an illegal immigrant? Perhaps he was arrested for some other violation (bringing in/harboring) rather than being undocumented himself. Otherwise, it should be *really* easy to prove he's a USC. | 0 | 737 | 4.6 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwlrnx | dcwut7s | 1,485,380,681 | 1,485,391,481 | 31 | 42 | As friends, you should chip in to get him two lawyers: a family law attorney for the custody hearing, and an immigration attorney for the immigration matter. | This doesn't sound right, ICE do not take people against there will over a tip or complaint. They have the electronic means to verify legal status, they don't need you to prove that. There's likely something you don't know about this person. Source: I work in conjunction with ICE and USCIS | 0 | 10,800 | 1.354839 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwut7s | dcwnqyj | 1,485,391,481 | 1,485,382,834 | 42 | 24 | This doesn't sound right, ICE do not take people against there will over a tip or complaint. They have the electronic means to verify legal status, they don't need you to prove that. There's likely something you don't know about this person. Source: I work in conjunction with ICE and USCIS | I have a really bad feeling that wasn't ICE or any other cops. They would have a warrant. Did he owe money to any bad dudes? Have you contacted ICE to verify he is in their custody? | 1 | 8,647 | 1.75 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwut7s | dcwgypj | 1,485,391,481 | 1,485,375,567 | 42 | 10 | This doesn't sound right, ICE do not take people against there will over a tip or complaint. They have the electronic means to verify legal status, they don't need you to prove that. There's likely something you don't know about this person. Source: I work in conjunction with ICE and USCIS | Is he a us citizen or not? | 1 | 15,914 | 4.2 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwgypj | dcwlrnx | 1,485,375,567 | 1,485,380,681 | 10 | 31 | Is he a us citizen or not? | As friends, you should chip in to get him two lawyers: a family law attorney for the custody hearing, and an immigration attorney for the immigration matter. | 0 | 5,114 | 3.1 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwgypj | dcwxvpb | 1,485,375,567 | 1,485,395,440 | 10 | 24 | Is he a us citizen or not? | Dude, there is something here you don't know. My husband is a naturalized citizen, it takes like 2 minutes to verify his status. I'm a U.S. born citizen, same for me. Those grim bastards in ICE (dealt with them during visa application/verification process as husband came in on a fiance visa) are not about to swoop someone up into custody based on a random tip from an ex if there is literally no substance to it. They will have every 'i' dotted and every 't' crossed, and they will grill and investigate to be sure of their facts. Why would your friend even go with them without a warrant and if he was a natural born citizen? Did he even explain he was born here? Methinks he was brought here young by his parents and they told him he was born here but he wasn't. He probably confided this to the ex and she ratted him out over the custody dispute. And are you sure he does not have a record of any kind? It really sucks for the child, but if he gets a good immigration attorney he may be able to argue to stay here as the responsible parent as child is almost certainly a U.S. citizen. | 0 | 19,873 | 2.4 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcww99r | dcwxvpb | 1,485,393,349 | 1,485,395,440 | 6 | 24 | Does he not have any ID? Get his birth certificate ASAP. Try to dig up as many records as possible such as old school records and such as well. | Dude, there is something here you don't know. My husband is a naturalized citizen, it takes like 2 minutes to verify his status. I'm a U.S. born citizen, same for me. Those grim bastards in ICE (dealt with them during visa application/verification process as husband came in on a fiance visa) are not about to swoop someone up into custody based on a random tip from an ex if there is literally no substance to it. They will have every 'i' dotted and every 't' crossed, and they will grill and investigate to be sure of their facts. Why would your friend even go with them without a warrant and if he was a natural born citizen? Did he even explain he was born here? Methinks he was brought here young by his parents and they told him he was born here but he wasn't. He probably confided this to the ex and she ratted him out over the custody dispute. And are you sure he does not have a record of any kind? It really sucks for the child, but if he gets a good immigration attorney he may be able to argue to stay here as the responsible parent as child is almost certainly a U.S. citizen. | 0 | 2,091 | 4 |
5q5kyv | legaladvice_train | 0.89 | [Chicago, IL] Friend has been arrested by ICE under a false claim that he's an illegal immigrant. Is there a hope to help him? My friend (32/Hispanic/Male) just was taken away by ICE without showing any warrant or documentation. I'm 100% sure his ex (24/White/Female) has filed this complaint against him because she lost the custody. Is there something we, friends and family members can do for him to get him out ASAP? Their final custody date is coming up next week and my feeling are that she'd use his no-call, no-show as a reason to get their child back. Any help? | dcwgypj | dcwnqyj | 1,485,375,567 | 1,485,382,834 | 10 | 24 | Is he a us citizen or not? | I have a really bad feeling that wasn't ICE or any other cops. They would have a warrant. Did he owe money to any bad dudes? Have you contacted ICE to verify he is in their custody? | 0 | 7,267 | 2.4 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1h659p | d1h5sp5 | 1,459,217,279 | 1,459,216,757 | 668 | 82 | 1. You have 0 obligation to your cousin. 2. You are not your cousin's guardian and you dont even have power of attorney to legally make decisions for your cousin. Your cousin is literally an independent adult right now who is not capable of making decisions. 3. You have 0 legal obligation to pay your cousin's bills and if the facility misled you to make you think that the bills are now yours then that facility is ran by assholes scammers. Again, you have 0 legal liability for any of your cousin's bills. 4. You dont need to get a lawyer at all UNLESS....you want to get power of attorney for your cousin or to become your cousin's legal guardian. If you dont want to do these things then dont waste a dime on a lawyer. 5. Your cousin is literally on their own and has Social Security Disability payments. Your options are: A. find a place that will take care of your cousin in exchange for his SSD payments. You can try to find the best place. B. Let your cousin live with you and you try to care for him using his SSD income payments. Get a lawyer to get guardianship or POA. C. Do nothing and let the current facility either decide to let him live there for SSD payments or for them to find a place to ship him to. I suggest option A first and then option C as a last resort. I would not even consider option B. My aunt had downs syndrome and was never capable of any kind of language, basically a 6 month year old for 50 years until she passed away last July. My grandma was a stay at home mom and took care of her 24/7. I can tell you right now, if my grandma passed first. I would find the best home for her to live (with SSD payments) and would not even consider trying to take care of my aunt or paying for her. No way would I sign up to care for someone 24/7. All I can say is good luck and start googling for a care facility that will take your cousin for SSD payments. Do not even attempt to pay this facility $5,500 a month (66,000 a year). That is insane and not your legal obligation in any way. | > and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. This isn't about working for free. It's about a conflict of interest. He likely can't represent your uncle's estate *and* your interests. > Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Potentially, yes. > Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I can't see how that would be even remotely legal, but I'm not a family lawyer and not licensed in either state. | 1 | 522 | 8.146341 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1h659p | d1h5qt3 | 1,459,217,279 | 1,459,216,682 | 668 | 15 | 1. You have 0 obligation to your cousin. 2. You are not your cousin's guardian and you dont even have power of attorney to legally make decisions for your cousin. Your cousin is literally an independent adult right now who is not capable of making decisions. 3. You have 0 legal obligation to pay your cousin's bills and if the facility misled you to make you think that the bills are now yours then that facility is ran by assholes scammers. Again, you have 0 legal liability for any of your cousin's bills. 4. You dont need to get a lawyer at all UNLESS....you want to get power of attorney for your cousin or to become your cousin's legal guardian. If you dont want to do these things then dont waste a dime on a lawyer. 5. Your cousin is literally on their own and has Social Security Disability payments. Your options are: A. find a place that will take care of your cousin in exchange for his SSD payments. You can try to find the best place. B. Let your cousin live with you and you try to care for him using his SSD income payments. Get a lawyer to get guardianship or POA. C. Do nothing and let the current facility either decide to let him live there for SSD payments or for them to find a place to ship him to. I suggest option A first and then option C as a last resort. I would not even consider option B. My aunt had downs syndrome and was never capable of any kind of language, basically a 6 month year old for 50 years until she passed away last July. My grandma was a stay at home mom and took care of her 24/7. I can tell you right now, if my grandma passed first. I would find the best home for her to live (with SSD payments) and would not even consider trying to take care of my aunt or paying for her. No way would I sign up to care for someone 24/7. All I can say is good luck and start googling for a care facility that will take your cousin for SSD payments. Do not even attempt to pay this facility $5,500 a month (66,000 a year). That is insane and not your legal obligation in any way. | You need to get your own lawyer and figure out what is left of the estate. | 1 | 597 | 44.533333 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1h5qt3 | d1h5sp5 | 1,459,216,682 | 1,459,216,757 | 15 | 82 | You need to get your own lawyer and figure out what is left of the estate. | > and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. This isn't about working for free. It's about a conflict of interest. He likely can't represent your uncle's estate *and* your interests. > Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Potentially, yes. > Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I can't see how that would be even remotely legal, but I'm not a family lawyer and not licensed in either state. | 0 | 75 | 5.466667 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hadtf | d1hqhwo | 1,459,224,062 | 1,459,264,190 | 16 | 22 | As someone who has had many elderly relatives go through the residential home system, I strongly suggest you get someone close to home to visit him often. Quality of care is GREATLY increased by how often the person is visited. It can make the difference between a real life and being sat in a hall in a wheelchair 18 hours a day, rotting in poo-infected bedsores. Even "nice places" will do this if visitors aren't there to remind the orderlies that the resident is more than an irritant. Please do not let this individual be left on his own. edit: I'm on disability in CA. It's a long, arduous process. There's two types of disability, state (sdi) and federal (ssdi). Your brother most likely qualifies for SSDI. He would only qualify for SDI if he paid into it by working at any point in his life. (Don't discount this possiblity -- he may have had a summer job as a teen or occcupational training that paid.) SDI is much faster to get (a week or two usually), so your family should pursue that application online at his county's website. SSDI is federal and you almost always need a lawyer to get it. You can try to apply online, but they almost always turn everyone down unless you're dying of cancer, AIDS, or are a pregnant homeless woman w/ kids. (Not kidding.) i'm going through Positive Resources, a legal group that works with HIV/AIDS and disabled people mostly in the Bay Area. Idk if they may be able to help you, but I'd suggest emailing or calling them and asking for advice on how to get SSDI for your cousin. SSDI can take months the first attempt, and 1-2 years for the appeals process. There ARE expediated tracks for getting disabilty, and your brohter may qualify for them. He's a v good case and probably has v good records, so the process may go quickly for him. I jsut want you to understand that if he doesn't have disability already, he won't be getting it right away. He should also apply for any other govn't programs appropriate to his situation. There are food stamps (called Calfresh), disabled bus passes, section 8 housing and discount utilities for him and his caregiver, lots of programs if caring for him is going to be a hardship for anyone. There's also respite care, which is when the primary caregiver gets a break and a trained worker takes over for a few days. These programs are usually subsidized or paid by disability. eta: I'm sorry this responsiblity has fallen upon your young shoulders. Your uncle sounds like a v irresponsible person for not setting things up for your cousin long ago. But you're doing the right thing and doing it well, so maybe, once things settle down, your cousin's quality of life may actually improve. I've seen it happen. Just ..... try to talk to your cousin like he's a person? Try to listen to him and explain things to him? | CA Attorney here. Note that this is general advice and not specific to your situation and this doesn't create an attorney client relationship. A handwritten will is called a "holographic will" it is valid as long as the intent is clear and the entire document was written by hand and signed. A will does not pass on an obligation. It simply states the wishes of the deceased. It by itself does not create a conservator ship, guardianship or power of attorney. Typically if litigation were to occur regarding who was to take care of an individual named in the will (as in multiple family members wanted be in charge) the judge would take the will into account but could still appoint someone else if he felt it was in the protected individuals best interest. When a will sets up a "you can have my money if you do X" scenario then if you chose not to do X then you don't get the money. If no one else is named in the will then it would go by the laws on intestacy. Meaning it's all left to his son. If no one steps forward than the public guardian will take control of his estate. A care facility cannot force a relative to pay for care (other than perhaps a parent). A relative would have no contractual connection with the care facility and there is no law requiring a cousin to support a cousin (in CA there are laws that a parent support a child, a spouse support a spouse and to a limited extent a child to support a parent). Hope this helps. | 0 | 40,128 | 1.375 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1h5qt3 | d1hqhwo | 1,459,216,682 | 1,459,264,190 | 15 | 22 | You need to get your own lawyer and figure out what is left of the estate. | CA Attorney here. Note that this is general advice and not specific to your situation and this doesn't create an attorney client relationship. A handwritten will is called a "holographic will" it is valid as long as the intent is clear and the entire document was written by hand and signed. A will does not pass on an obligation. It simply states the wishes of the deceased. It by itself does not create a conservator ship, guardianship or power of attorney. Typically if litigation were to occur regarding who was to take care of an individual named in the will (as in multiple family members wanted be in charge) the judge would take the will into account but could still appoint someone else if he felt it was in the protected individuals best interest. When a will sets up a "you can have my money if you do X" scenario then if you chose not to do X then you don't get the money. If no one else is named in the will then it would go by the laws on intestacy. Meaning it's all left to his son. If no one steps forward than the public guardian will take control of his estate. A care facility cannot force a relative to pay for care (other than perhaps a parent). A relative would have no contractual connection with the care facility and there is no law requiring a cousin to support a cousin (in CA there are laws that a parent support a child, a spouse support a spouse and to a limited extent a child to support a parent). Hope this helps. | 0 | 47,508 | 1.466667 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hqhwo | d1hnt6j | 1,459,264,190 | 1,459,260,355 | 22 | 9 | CA Attorney here. Note that this is general advice and not specific to your situation and this doesn't create an attorney client relationship. A handwritten will is called a "holographic will" it is valid as long as the intent is clear and the entire document was written by hand and signed. A will does not pass on an obligation. It simply states the wishes of the deceased. It by itself does not create a conservator ship, guardianship or power of attorney. Typically if litigation were to occur regarding who was to take care of an individual named in the will (as in multiple family members wanted be in charge) the judge would take the will into account but could still appoint someone else if he felt it was in the protected individuals best interest. When a will sets up a "you can have my money if you do X" scenario then if you chose not to do X then you don't get the money. If no one else is named in the will then it would go by the laws on intestacy. Meaning it's all left to his son. If no one steps forward than the public guardian will take control of his estate. A care facility cannot force a relative to pay for care (other than perhaps a parent). A relative would have no contractual connection with the care facility and there is no law requiring a cousin to support a cousin (in CA there are laws that a parent support a child, a spouse support a spouse and to a limited extent a child to support a parent). Hope this helps. | IamaL, but not in CA or WA. In addition,my father's only sibling was born severely disabled and we as a family dealt with issues similar to this until Uncle B died at age 72. As a severely disabled adult, your cousin will qualify for SSI (income) and Medicaid. Medicaid , as opposed to Medicare, pays for nursing home and residential care. Some facilities will take Medicaid patients, others do not. They are not required to do so. If a paying patient stops paying, there are strong procedures in place to safeguard the patient as a transfer is made to a Medicaid facility. As a cousin, you would not have any responsibility to support your cousin financially. The facility knows the ins and outs of this in great detail. From the information you have provided, it sounds like your uncle wanted whatever money he had to be used to benefit his son. He might have screwed up. Without a valid will, all his property goes to his next of kin which is presumably only his son, your cousin. Your cousin may not be competent to handle his funds and may need a guardian of his estate to do that. That is a different role than guardian of his person which is what it sounds like the facility contacted you about. Medicaid is a means tested benefit. If you have assets you have to spend them to pay for care before Medicaid pays. Absent a valid will, your cousin now has assets. (This by the way is a large part of elder law and estate planning for disabled relatives). However, all this is about money, not your cousin's person. What the facility has told you is that you are expected to make decisions about his person, probably mostly his medical care, but also, if he goes on Medcaid, which facility he will live at. It is better to be formally appointed his guardian if you want that responsibility. There is not much expense and it avoids situations like finding out he is hospitalized 3 weeks after they did surgery or died, moved from Eureka to Bakersfield etc. If you are not prepared for the formal responsibility, all US states /counties have Public Guardians whose job it is to step in and make decisions when a family member can't, won't or is just not there. Some states use different titles, but guardian and conservator pretty common. As a kindness, if your uncle was buried or has his ashes at a cemetery, use some of his money to pre-pay for a spot for your cousin near his dad. You need an elder law lawyer. That is the legal specialty with the most relevant information for your situation. You need one in CA though because, although Medicaid is a Federally funded benefit, each state is allowed to set its own rules on how it is paid out. To find one, I would send you to www.Martindale.com which is the website for an old old lawyer rating service. Filter for a city in California which is near your cousin and for Elder law as a specialty. Good luck | 1 | 3,835 | 2.444444 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hiag0 | d1hqhwo | 1,459,247,843 | 1,459,264,190 | 3 | 22 | my uncle was severely disabled and was abused at various care facilities in CA. my dad was his guardian but lived in OR. having a care manager who was in town was a life-saver. she would check in with my uncle and the facility to make sure the terrible, abusive situations that had happened previously weren't happening and would be an "on the ground" contact person for doctors, social workers, etc. this was especially important as he got older. you should also check what the state of CA has in terms of disability, medi-Cal, etc. i believe we were able to supplement some of what we got from the feds for my uncle. does your uncle have a pension or life insurance? | CA Attorney here. Note that this is general advice and not specific to your situation and this doesn't create an attorney client relationship. A handwritten will is called a "holographic will" it is valid as long as the intent is clear and the entire document was written by hand and signed. A will does not pass on an obligation. It simply states the wishes of the deceased. It by itself does not create a conservator ship, guardianship or power of attorney. Typically if litigation were to occur regarding who was to take care of an individual named in the will (as in multiple family members wanted be in charge) the judge would take the will into account but could still appoint someone else if he felt it was in the protected individuals best interest. When a will sets up a "you can have my money if you do X" scenario then if you chose not to do X then you don't get the money. If no one else is named in the will then it would go by the laws on intestacy. Meaning it's all left to his son. If no one steps forward than the public guardian will take control of his estate. A care facility cannot force a relative to pay for care (other than perhaps a parent). A relative would have no contractual connection with the care facility and there is no law requiring a cousin to support a cousin (in CA there are laws that a parent support a child, a spouse support a spouse and to a limited extent a child to support a parent). Hope this helps. | 0 | 16,347 | 7.333333 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hjs3o | d1hqhwo | 1,459,252,511 | 1,459,264,190 | 5 | 22 | > So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... This is SUPER SHITTY of them. There is no legal way you are responsible for his bill. | CA Attorney here. Note that this is general advice and not specific to your situation and this doesn't create an attorney client relationship. A handwritten will is called a "holographic will" it is valid as long as the intent is clear and the entire document was written by hand and signed. A will does not pass on an obligation. It simply states the wishes of the deceased. It by itself does not create a conservator ship, guardianship or power of attorney. Typically if litigation were to occur regarding who was to take care of an individual named in the will (as in multiple family members wanted be in charge) the judge would take the will into account but could still appoint someone else if he felt it was in the protected individuals best interest. When a will sets up a "you can have my money if you do X" scenario then if you chose not to do X then you don't get the money. If no one else is named in the will then it would go by the laws on intestacy. Meaning it's all left to his son. If no one steps forward than the public guardian will take control of his estate. A care facility cannot force a relative to pay for care (other than perhaps a parent). A relative would have no contractual connection with the care facility and there is no law requiring a cousin to support a cousin (in CA there are laws that a parent support a child, a spouse support a spouse and to a limited extent a child to support a parent). Hope this helps. | 0 | 11,679 | 4.4 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1h5qt3 | d1hadtf | 1,459,216,682 | 1,459,224,062 | 15 | 16 | You need to get your own lawyer and figure out what is left of the estate. | As someone who has had many elderly relatives go through the residential home system, I strongly suggest you get someone close to home to visit him often. Quality of care is GREATLY increased by how often the person is visited. It can make the difference between a real life and being sat in a hall in a wheelchair 18 hours a day, rotting in poo-infected bedsores. Even "nice places" will do this if visitors aren't there to remind the orderlies that the resident is more than an irritant. Please do not let this individual be left on his own. edit: I'm on disability in CA. It's a long, arduous process. There's two types of disability, state (sdi) and federal (ssdi). Your brother most likely qualifies for SSDI. He would only qualify for SDI if he paid into it by working at any point in his life. (Don't discount this possiblity -- he may have had a summer job as a teen or occcupational training that paid.) SDI is much faster to get (a week or two usually), so your family should pursue that application online at his county's website. SSDI is federal and you almost always need a lawyer to get it. You can try to apply online, but they almost always turn everyone down unless you're dying of cancer, AIDS, or are a pregnant homeless woman w/ kids. (Not kidding.) i'm going through Positive Resources, a legal group that works with HIV/AIDS and disabled people mostly in the Bay Area. Idk if they may be able to help you, but I'd suggest emailing or calling them and asking for advice on how to get SSDI for your cousin. SSDI can take months the first attempt, and 1-2 years for the appeals process. There ARE expediated tracks for getting disabilty, and your brohter may qualify for them. He's a v good case and probably has v good records, so the process may go quickly for him. I jsut want you to understand that if he doesn't have disability already, he won't be getting it right away. He should also apply for any other govn't programs appropriate to his situation. There are food stamps (called Calfresh), disabled bus passes, section 8 housing and discount utilities for him and his caregiver, lots of programs if caring for him is going to be a hardship for anyone. There's also respite care, which is when the primary caregiver gets a break and a trained worker takes over for a few days. These programs are usually subsidized or paid by disability. eta: I'm sorry this responsiblity has fallen upon your young shoulders. Your uncle sounds like a v irresponsible person for not setting things up for your cousin long ago. But you're doing the right thing and doing it well, so maybe, once things settle down, your cousin's quality of life may actually improve. I've seen it happen. Just ..... try to talk to your cousin like he's a person? Try to listen to him and explain things to him? | 0 | 7,380 | 1.066667 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hiag0 | d1hnt6j | 1,459,247,843 | 1,459,260,355 | 3 | 9 | my uncle was severely disabled and was abused at various care facilities in CA. my dad was his guardian but lived in OR. having a care manager who was in town was a life-saver. she would check in with my uncle and the facility to make sure the terrible, abusive situations that had happened previously weren't happening and would be an "on the ground" contact person for doctors, social workers, etc. this was especially important as he got older. you should also check what the state of CA has in terms of disability, medi-Cal, etc. i believe we were able to supplement some of what we got from the feds for my uncle. does your uncle have a pension or life insurance? | IamaL, but not in CA or WA. In addition,my father's only sibling was born severely disabled and we as a family dealt with issues similar to this until Uncle B died at age 72. As a severely disabled adult, your cousin will qualify for SSI (income) and Medicaid. Medicaid , as opposed to Medicare, pays for nursing home and residential care. Some facilities will take Medicaid patients, others do not. They are not required to do so. If a paying patient stops paying, there are strong procedures in place to safeguard the patient as a transfer is made to a Medicaid facility. As a cousin, you would not have any responsibility to support your cousin financially. The facility knows the ins and outs of this in great detail. From the information you have provided, it sounds like your uncle wanted whatever money he had to be used to benefit his son. He might have screwed up. Without a valid will, all his property goes to his next of kin which is presumably only his son, your cousin. Your cousin may not be competent to handle his funds and may need a guardian of his estate to do that. That is a different role than guardian of his person which is what it sounds like the facility contacted you about. Medicaid is a means tested benefit. If you have assets you have to spend them to pay for care before Medicaid pays. Absent a valid will, your cousin now has assets. (This by the way is a large part of elder law and estate planning for disabled relatives). However, all this is about money, not your cousin's person. What the facility has told you is that you are expected to make decisions about his person, probably mostly his medical care, but also, if he goes on Medcaid, which facility he will live at. It is better to be formally appointed his guardian if you want that responsibility. There is not much expense and it avoids situations like finding out he is hospitalized 3 weeks after they did surgery or died, moved from Eureka to Bakersfield etc. If you are not prepared for the formal responsibility, all US states /counties have Public Guardians whose job it is to step in and make decisions when a family member can't, won't or is just not there. Some states use different titles, but guardian and conservator pretty common. As a kindness, if your uncle was buried or has his ashes at a cemetery, use some of his money to pre-pay for a spot for your cousin near his dad. You need an elder law lawyer. That is the legal specialty with the most relevant information for your situation. You need one in CA though because, although Medicaid is a Federally funded benefit, each state is allowed to set its own rules on how it is paid out. To find one, I would send you to www.Martindale.com which is the website for an old old lawyer rating service. Filter for a city in California which is near your cousin and for Elder law as a specialty. Good luck | 0 | 12,512 | 3 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hjs3o | d1hnt6j | 1,459,252,511 | 1,459,260,355 | 5 | 9 | > So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... This is SUPER SHITTY of them. There is no legal way you are responsible for his bill. | IamaL, but not in CA or WA. In addition,my father's only sibling was born severely disabled and we as a family dealt with issues similar to this until Uncle B died at age 72. As a severely disabled adult, your cousin will qualify for SSI (income) and Medicaid. Medicaid , as opposed to Medicare, pays for nursing home and residential care. Some facilities will take Medicaid patients, others do not. They are not required to do so. If a paying patient stops paying, there are strong procedures in place to safeguard the patient as a transfer is made to a Medicaid facility. As a cousin, you would not have any responsibility to support your cousin financially. The facility knows the ins and outs of this in great detail. From the information you have provided, it sounds like your uncle wanted whatever money he had to be used to benefit his son. He might have screwed up. Without a valid will, all his property goes to his next of kin which is presumably only his son, your cousin. Your cousin may not be competent to handle his funds and may need a guardian of his estate to do that. That is a different role than guardian of his person which is what it sounds like the facility contacted you about. Medicaid is a means tested benefit. If you have assets you have to spend them to pay for care before Medicaid pays. Absent a valid will, your cousin now has assets. (This by the way is a large part of elder law and estate planning for disabled relatives). However, all this is about money, not your cousin's person. What the facility has told you is that you are expected to make decisions about his person, probably mostly his medical care, but also, if he goes on Medcaid, which facility he will live at. It is better to be formally appointed his guardian if you want that responsibility. There is not much expense and it avoids situations like finding out he is hospitalized 3 weeks after they did surgery or died, moved from Eureka to Bakersfield etc. If you are not prepared for the formal responsibility, all US states /counties have Public Guardians whose job it is to step in and make decisions when a family member can't, won't or is just not there. Some states use different titles, but guardian and conservator pretty common. As a kindness, if your uncle was buried or has his ashes at a cemetery, use some of his money to pre-pay for a spot for your cousin near his dad. You need an elder law lawyer. That is the legal specialty with the most relevant information for your situation. You need one in CA though because, although Medicaid is a Federally funded benefit, each state is allowed to set its own rules on how it is paid out. To find one, I would send you to www.Martindale.com which is the website for an old old lawyer rating service. Filter for a city in California which is near your cousin and for Elder law as a specialty. Good luck | 0 | 7,844 | 1.8 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hjs3o | d1hiag0 | 1,459,252,511 | 1,459,247,843 | 5 | 3 | > So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... This is SUPER SHITTY of them. There is no legal way you are responsible for his bill. | my uncle was severely disabled and was abused at various care facilities in CA. my dad was his guardian but lived in OR. having a care manager who was in town was a life-saver. she would check in with my uncle and the facility to make sure the terrible, abusive situations that had happened previously weren't happening and would be an "on the ground" contact person for doctors, social workers, etc. this was especially important as he got older. you should also check what the state of CA has in terms of disability, medi-Cal, etc. i believe we were able to supplement some of what we got from the feds for my uncle. does your uncle have a pension or life insurance? | 1 | 4,668 | 1.666667 |
4cdclm | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My uncle died, leaving me "in charge of" my mentally disabled cousin in his informal will. I was just contacted by the facility he has been living in for the past 4 years to advise me that I was named as the family member to contact in case of my uncle's death. Where to go from here? in California My uncle died about 2 weeks ago. His son, my cousin, is 24 years old and is severally mentally disabled. He is completely non-verbal and has frequent violent outbursts. He has been living in a small facility for about 4 years now. My uncle has been paying the facility directly the entire time. They are in California, I am in WA state. Last week my mom forwarded me an email from a lawyer claiming to represent my uncle. It includes an "informal" will. "Informal" because it is literally scrawled on the back of some random papers, and the exact phrase in it that pertains to me is "*wut2do22* should be in charge of *cousin* if I die and she should have any of the money I have left over for taking care of him". I emailed the lawyer back, asked him exactly what this meant for me right now and he basically said that he was looking into clarifying a few things in the will and would get back to me shortly, and that if I wanted legal advice as far as conservatorship/etc goes I should seek my own lawyer. The second part of that makes sense, he doesn't work for free, but I do not understand what he meant by clarifying some things in the will. Is a will written by somebody without the involvement of an attorney/notary/typical will people still valid? Am I going to automatically become the guardian/conservator for my cousin? I should add here, that although I love my cousin and am definitely going to be making the effort to be more involved in his life, none of this had been discussed with me at all. My uncle was having medical issues for a while now, and we are not very close. He and my mother don't get along very well, and for better or worse we have not been in each other's lives much. I do not know why he would have said that in his will, other than the fact that I don't know if he has anybody else he could name (ex wife, cousin's mother, died a while ago). So, the facility my cousin lives at called me today and told me that I'm named as the family emergency contact. They were really nice, gave me a bunch of options as far payment extension and charity goes, and told me the due date for the next bill. This place is around $5500/month. I work PT while in school, my income (including my loan) is right around $1200/mo when you divide it up. Even if they halved the bill for this month, I couldn't come close to making it, and then there would be the month after that... So what do I do? Is there some way to keep my cousin in the facility that he's been comfortably living in for 4 years? Am I automatically responsible for him, as a guardian? A conservator? Conservatorship seems like it has a lot to do with financial aspects, which aren't really relevant here as my cousin does not have any assets - and although I do not know what my uncle's financial situation was when he died, he had declared bankruptcy a few years ago and had gotten himself into more debt fairly recently. I'm at such a loss of what to do here. My mom is willing to pitch in some money for a lawyer, but our combined amount we can spend is around $500 right now. And that could just be going to try to pay the bill at the facility, so at this point I'm going to try to look into a law office at the school in a nearby city to see if they could offer free advice. In the meantime, if anybody could shed some light on the situation, that would be much appreciated. | d1hrqmb | d1hiag0 | 1,459,265,818 | 1,459,247,843 | 5 | 3 | In addition to all the other good comments, you need to take a deep breath and start collecting more information. Most people existing at/near bankruptcy can't affort a $5500/mo facility. I'd make sure that this "bill" is the actual monthly cost, and doesn't include any past missed payments, late fees, etc. What arrangements did your uncle have with them for payment? Be careful as you inquire to not indicate you're assuming the bill. It's possible that bankruptcy aside, your uncle or your ex-aunt established some kind of trust for his care. Whoever is executing your uncle's will needs time to assess the estate. You should be in frequent contact, assuming you want to do anything for your cousin (regardless of what option you pursue for his care), but don't expect it to move quickly. Was your cousin signed up for SSD? Was this going to the facility? Does your ex-aunt have any family who would be willing or able to assume guardianship? Since they're divorced, possibly your uncle didn't have a relationship with her family, either. For what it's worth, I suspect you were named because your uncle didn't want to name your mom (due to bad blood) and he had nobody else. My great aunt had nobody but her nephew (my grandfather), they hadn't spoken in forty years, and apparently she didn't want to leave her estate to charity. So she distributed it among his grandchildren- skipping both my grandfather and his children essentially out of spite. | my uncle was severely disabled and was abused at various care facilities in CA. my dad was his guardian but lived in OR. having a care manager who was in town was a life-saver. she would check in with my uncle and the facility to make sure the terrible, abusive situations that had happened previously weren't happening and would be an "on the ground" contact person for doctors, social workers, etc. this was especially important as he got older. you should also check what the state of CA has in terms of disability, medi-Cal, etc. i believe we were able to supplement some of what we got from the feds for my uncle. does your uncle have a pension or life insurance? | 1 | 17,975 | 1.666667 |
r5zr61 | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | Live-in Landlord wants a toaster oven I purchased, and he has used, removed as it "takes up too much space." It's been there for three years and he is now threatening to kick me out if I don't move it. [CT] I rent an ensuite room with use of the kitchen. The landlord who also lives here has never installed a stove top that works and we've been using a two-burner electric stove which I purchased for over three years. I also purchased at that time a really nice toaster oven. He is now saying that it takes up too much space and wants it removed or wants me to move out at the beginning of the year. He has tried to use installing a new stove top as a bargaining chip. Remove the toaster over, new stove stop. Isn't a stovetop a basic right as a tenant? [CT] Oh, also, I have had to call the police on him twice for assault; Once for throwing shit at me and again when he elbowed me during a heated exchange. | hmq2197 | hmq8r5o | 1,638,313,010 | 1,638,315,937 | 10 | 16 | Do you have a current term lease or do you rent month-to-month? | >Isn't a stovetop a basic right as a tenant? CT] No. Cooking appliances are obviously very common, but a landlord only has [a duty to keep them in good repair if they are present at the beginning of the tenancy. >wants it removed or wants me to move out at the beginning of the year. Your landlord very probably cannot make your refusal to remove the toaster oven a breach of lease that will allow him to evict you. But in Connecticut, a landlord of a month-to-month tenant does not need a reason to simply terminate your tenancy with appropriate written advance notice. Connecticut's advance notice minimum is a shockingly short 3 days, so your written lease may give you more time. >I have had to call the police on him twice for assault Presumably those minor assaults did not result in convictions, or prompt you to move out or request a protection order from a civil court. If you have a fixed-term lease you are still obligated by, you could probably use them as the basis to break your lease without penalty. | 0 | 2,927 | 1.6 |
r5zr61 | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | Live-in Landlord wants a toaster oven I purchased, and he has used, removed as it "takes up too much space." It's been there for three years and he is now threatening to kick me out if I don't move it. [CT] I rent an ensuite room with use of the kitchen. The landlord who also lives here has never installed a stove top that works and we've been using a two-burner electric stove which I purchased for over three years. I also purchased at that time a really nice toaster oven. He is now saying that it takes up too much space and wants it removed or wants me to move out at the beginning of the year. He has tried to use installing a new stove top as a bargaining chip. Remove the toaster over, new stove stop. Isn't a stovetop a basic right as a tenant? [CT] Oh, also, I have had to call the police on him twice for assault; Once for throwing shit at me and again when he elbowed me during a heated exchange. | hmq1enm | hmq8r5o | 1,638,312,746 | 1,638,315,937 | 5 | 16 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | >Isn't a stovetop a basic right as a tenant? CT] No. Cooking appliances are obviously very common, but a landlord only has [a duty to keep them in good repair if they are present at the beginning of the tenancy. >wants it removed or wants me to move out at the beginning of the year. Your landlord very probably cannot make your refusal to remove the toaster oven a breach of lease that will allow him to evict you. But in Connecticut, a landlord of a month-to-month tenant does not need a reason to simply terminate your tenancy with appropriate written advance notice. Connecticut's advance notice minimum is a shockingly short 3 days, so your written lease may give you more time. >I have had to call the police on him twice for assault Presumably those minor assaults did not result in convictions, or prompt you to move out or request a protection order from a civil court. If you have a fixed-term lease you are still obligated by, you could probably use them as the basis to break your lease without penalty. | 0 | 3,191 | 3.2 |
r5zr61 | legaladvice_train | 0.81 | Live-in Landlord wants a toaster oven I purchased, and he has used, removed as it "takes up too much space." It's been there for three years and he is now threatening to kick me out if I don't move it. [CT] I rent an ensuite room with use of the kitchen. The landlord who also lives here has never installed a stove top that works and we've been using a two-burner electric stove which I purchased for over three years. I also purchased at that time a really nice toaster oven. He is now saying that it takes up too much space and wants it removed or wants me to move out at the beginning of the year. He has tried to use installing a new stove top as a bargaining chip. Remove the toaster over, new stove stop. Isn't a stovetop a basic right as a tenant? [CT] Oh, also, I have had to call the police on him twice for assault; Once for throwing shit at me and again when he elbowed me during a heated exchange. | hmq1enm | hmq2197 | 1,638,312,746 | 1,638,313,010 | 5 | 10 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | Do you have a current term lease or do you rent month-to-month? | 0 | 264 | 2 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du324xw | du326g8 | 1,518,366,369 | 1,518,366,420 | 296 | 560 | Update the investigative services you originally contacted, i.e. the FBI and such, then block him. Let the authorities pursue if they wish, it's not your job to play batman. If you give him any kind of information he will just use it in future scams posing as you. He's not giving you a dime back, he's just fishing for more since he got something from you once already. | Forward this to the police. One way this scam works is by reselling the item that was scammed for a profit, this doesn't work so well if he had to pay for it first. He is trying to scam you again, stop all contact with him as long as you have your money. | 0 | 51 | 1.891892 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du33olz | du324xw | 1,518,368,182 | 1,518,366,369 | 492 | 296 | “I do not like scamming service members.” Report to Paypal and then block. Maybe they’ll yank his admittedly scammed money away finally. | Update the investigative services you originally contacted, i.e. the FBI and such, then block him. Let the authorities pursue if they wish, it's not your job to play batman. If you give him any kind of information he will just use it in future scams posing as you. He's not giving you a dime back, he's just fishing for more since he got something from you once already. | 1 | 1,813 | 1.662162 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3cgrg | du324xw | 1,518,377,966 | 1,518,366,369 | 398 | 296 | Yeah, this is a phishing expedition. He has googled around to find you and wants to confirm you're the person he's found. Nothing good will come of this. Do a screen shot and send to the FBI, police and wherever else you made your reports. | Update the investigative services you originally contacted, i.e. the FBI and such, then block him. Let the authorities pursue if they wish, it's not your job to play batman. If you give him any kind of information he will just use it in future scams posing as you. He's not giving you a dime back, he's just fishing for more since he got something from you once already. | 1 | 11,597 | 1.344595 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du34jzy | du3cgrg | 1,518,369,169 | 1,518,377,966 | 263 | 398 | You're already won. Don't turn this victory into a defeat. You know he's 100% a scammer. It's just as likely he hates service members. He's just trying to get more info on you. | Yeah, this is a phishing expedition. He has googled around to find you and wants to confirm you're the person he's found. Nothing good will come of this. Do a screen shot and send to the FBI, police and wherever else you made your reports. | 0 | 8,797 | 1.513308 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3cgrg | du37u31 | 1,518,377,966 | 1,518,372,833 | 398 | 114 | Yeah, this is a phishing expedition. He has googled around to find you and wants to confirm you're the person he's found. Nothing good will come of this. Do a screen shot and send to the FBI, police and wherever else you made your reports. | I would not reply to him. As others have mentioned, giving him proof you enlisted in the military will only be used for nefarious purposes -- either to scam others, or to potentially steal your identity. Also, the fact that you are receiving a refund from PayPal means this guy technically paid for the game, so he should not be sending the game back to you. If you setup a situation in which he is sending the game back to you, he might use this as evidence in a case against you, even if all he sends is a box of bricks. | 1 | 5,133 | 3.491228 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3cgrg | du3acll | 1,518,377,966 | 1,518,375,607 | 398 | 60 | Yeah, this is a phishing expedition. He has googled around to find you and wants to confirm you're the person he's found. Nothing good will come of this. Do a screen shot and send to the FBI, police and wherever else you made your reports. | I see everyone is saying the only recourse is a lawsuit, but can someone explain to me why the scammer couldn't be charged criminally (i.e. Fraud, theft, larceny)? | 1 | 2,359 | 6.633333 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3dl08 | du37u31 | 1,518,379,210 | 1,518,372,833 | 135 | 114 | Paypal is notorious for allowing malicious people access to password protected accounts by very lenient (and questionable) identity verification techniques. Not sure if in the US a military ID is considered legal government ID but it could be a vector into your Paypal and other accounts. | I would not reply to him. As others have mentioned, giving him proof you enlisted in the military will only be used for nefarious purposes -- either to scam others, or to potentially steal your identity. Also, the fact that you are receiving a refund from PayPal means this guy technically paid for the game, so he should not be sending the game back to you. If you setup a situation in which he is sending the game back to you, he might use this as evidence in a case against you, even if all he sends is a box of bricks. | 1 | 6,377 | 1.184211 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3acll | du3dl08 | 1,518,375,607 | 1,518,379,210 | 60 | 135 | I see everyone is saying the only recourse is a lawsuit, but can someone explain to me why the scammer couldn't be charged criminally (i.e. Fraud, theft, larceny)? | Paypal is notorious for allowing malicious people access to password protected accounts by very lenient (and questionable) identity verification techniques. Not sure if in the US a military ID is considered legal government ID but it could be a vector into your Paypal and other accounts. | 0 | 3,603 | 2.25 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3e4mo | du3eigo | 1,518,379,820 | 1,518,380,245 | 68 | 80 | He's going to steal your identity if you give him anymore info | He is going to use that ID to hack your account and reverse the refund and send him his money back presumably. Asking you in the manner he did is simply the most creative means he cohld come up with to get a copy of your ID | 0 | 425 | 1.176471 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3acll | du3eigo | 1,518,375,607 | 1,518,380,245 | 60 | 80 | I see everyone is saying the only recourse is a lawsuit, but can someone explain to me why the scammer couldn't be charged criminally (i.e. Fraud, theft, larceny)? | He is going to use that ID to hack your account and reverse the refund and send him his money back presumably. Asking you in the manner he did is simply the most creative means he cohld come up with to get a copy of your ID | 0 | 4,638 | 1.333333 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3acll | du3e4mo | 1,518,375,607 | 1,518,379,820 | 60 | 68 | I see everyone is saying the only recourse is a lawsuit, but can someone explain to me why the scammer couldn't be charged criminally (i.e. Fraud, theft, larceny)? | He's going to steal your identity if you give him anymore info | 0 | 4,213 | 1.133333 |
7wtb56 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [UPDATE] (NC) Sold a board game on eBay for $2025 and being scammed by the buyer (NY) Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7tp5af/nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and_being/?st=JDIXKBZ7&sh=e6296d00 First Update: https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7vwt2u/update_nc_sold_a_board_game_on_ebay_for_2025_and/?st=JDIXKNIZ&sh=f94efc10 Based on the email I received from PayPal I have come to the conclusion that PayPal has refunded me and the buyer was able to keep the board game and his funds. Yesterday the buyer reached out to me using a fake Facebook account. This is also the same one used to scam someone else for KDM. He said this: Hi, this is (name redacted), the person that stole your Kingdom Death. If you can answer truthfully: I will return your items. Were you enlisted in the Military? If you can provide me proof you were enlisted I will return your items back to you. I do not like scamming service members. What should I do with this information? | du3juxx | du3x62w | 1,518,386,068 | 1,518,401,694 | 11 | 13 | I am not a lawyer but it seems like he is fishing for info, I wouldn't tell him anything | I was scammed on a car forum... once others came forward and reported the same, we all put all of the info we could collectively get together and sent it to internet fraud bureau of the FBI. They put an agent on it who took all the info, and with a little work found the guy. One of the shops he scammed that reported added their video of him, and he was put behind bars. I get a restitution check from time to time, I haven’t seen all of the money back or close really, but I’m happy he is in jail... https://www.fbi.gov/scams-and-safety/common-fraud-schemes/internet-fraud | 0 | 15,626 | 1.181818 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1q8c69 | j1q6afr | 1,672,067,305 | 1,672,066,267 | 272 | 72 | Is there a warranty on the last installation? There isn’t any apparent claim related to the inspection. The roof was likely excluded, they noted problems, and any claim would be limited to the amount of the inspection anyway. There isn’t any claim as to the prior owner unless you establish they lied in a disclosure. And it sounds like they likely thought they had solved any problem. | For the most part no. Building inspection limits their responsibility to the amount of inspection. If they missed something you’d be entitled to that. Sellers just have to disclose known defects and truthfully telling you roof is 4 years old wouldn’t be a liability. You would need to prove they knew it had to be replaced and didn’t tell you. | 1 | 1,038 | 3.777778 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1rkrm2 | j1ql5h0 | 1,672,088,957 | 1,672,073,275 | 46 | 32 | The big question is: did the prior home owner get scammed, or are you getting scammed? Any roofing contractor, when asked if a roof needs replaced, will always answer with “yes”, then give you a great price on a new roof. (That is to say, a great price for them.) And they will replace the roof, go out of business, and a new crew of guys will show up in five years to repeat the whole process again. If you are worried, hire an inspector that specializes in roofs that doesn’t sell roofs. If he thinks the roof is a problem, then it’s probably a problem. (When business is slow, roofers cruse neighborhoods for new owners and warn them about their roofs.) | Unless your inspector was specific roof expert, I would say you’re out of luck there. Home inspectors look for defects, which he found and the previous owner had fixed. They are not charged to be experts in every area. Sadly looks like you are going to be responsible unless you know and can prove the previous owner deliberately withheld knowledge that the roof was in terrible shape outside of that leak. | 1 | 15,682 | 1.4375 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1rkrm2 | j1qhkk0 | 1,672,088,957 | 1,672,071,661 | 46 | 21 | The big question is: did the prior home owner get scammed, or are you getting scammed? Any roofing contractor, when asked if a roof needs replaced, will always answer with “yes”, then give you a great price on a new roof. (That is to say, a great price for them.) And they will replace the roof, go out of business, and a new crew of guys will show up in five years to repeat the whole process again. If you are worried, hire an inspector that specializes in roofs that doesn’t sell roofs. If he thinks the roof is a problem, then it’s probably a problem. (When business is slow, roofers cruse neighborhoods for new owners and warn them about their roofs.) | I think your only option might be to look at what your home owners insurance covers. This isn't the best advice but if you do have home owners insurance, do not tell the adjuster when he comes out that you believe it is leaking from bad workmanship. Tell them the roof was great until all the snow or rain or whatever. They need to know that the roof was fine until a bad weather incident. However, they are trained to look for certain aspects that point to weather damage, such as a blown off/missing shingle, bent shingle from the wind, dented shingles from hail. As far as a flat roof goes im unfamiliar with that. You'll been to check to see if flat rubber roofs are excluded in your policy. Look at your policy and call your agent and tell them the snow has caused it to leak and you need them to look at it. Supply them with the receipt of when the roof was last done and thats its. Don't tell them your thoughts of why you believe it's leaking. Good luck | 1 | 17,296 | 2.190476 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1rkrm2 | j1qg03x | 1,672,088,957 | 1,672,070,938 | 46 | 4 | The big question is: did the prior home owner get scammed, or are you getting scammed? Any roofing contractor, when asked if a roof needs replaced, will always answer with “yes”, then give you a great price on a new roof. (That is to say, a great price for them.) And they will replace the roof, go out of business, and a new crew of guys will show up in five years to repeat the whole process again. If you are worried, hire an inspector that specializes in roofs that doesn’t sell roofs. If he thinks the roof is a problem, then it’s probably a problem. (When business is slow, roofers cruse neighborhoods for new owners and warn them about their roofs.) | In a similar situation where the home inspector missed something major, I was able to get the cost of my home inspection refunded. | 1 | 18,019 | 11.5 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1ql5h0 | j1qhkk0 | 1,672,073,275 | 1,672,071,661 | 32 | 21 | Unless your inspector was specific roof expert, I would say you’re out of luck there. Home inspectors look for defects, which he found and the previous owner had fixed. They are not charged to be experts in every area. Sadly looks like you are going to be responsible unless you know and can prove the previous owner deliberately withheld knowledge that the roof was in terrible shape outside of that leak. | I think your only option might be to look at what your home owners insurance covers. This isn't the best advice but if you do have home owners insurance, do not tell the adjuster when he comes out that you believe it is leaking from bad workmanship. Tell them the roof was great until all the snow or rain or whatever. They need to know that the roof was fine until a bad weather incident. However, they are trained to look for certain aspects that point to weather damage, such as a blown off/missing shingle, bent shingle from the wind, dented shingles from hail. As far as a flat roof goes im unfamiliar with that. You'll been to check to see if flat rubber roofs are excluded in your policy. Look at your policy and call your agent and tell them the snow has caused it to leak and you need them to look at it. Supply them with the receipt of when the roof was last done and thats its. Don't tell them your thoughts of why you believe it's leaking. Good luck | 1 | 1,614 | 1.52381 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1ql5h0 | j1qg03x | 1,672,073,275 | 1,672,070,938 | 32 | 4 | Unless your inspector was specific roof expert, I would say you’re out of luck there. Home inspectors look for defects, which he found and the previous owner had fixed. They are not charged to be experts in every area. Sadly looks like you are going to be responsible unless you know and can prove the previous owner deliberately withheld knowledge that the roof was in terrible shape outside of that leak. | In a similar situation where the home inspector missed something major, I was able to get the cost of my home inspection refunded. | 1 | 2,337 | 8 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1qg03x | j1qhkk0 | 1,672,070,938 | 1,672,071,661 | 4 | 21 | In a similar situation where the home inspector missed something major, I was able to get the cost of my home inspection refunded. | I think your only option might be to look at what your home owners insurance covers. This isn't the best advice but if you do have home owners insurance, do not tell the adjuster when he comes out that you believe it is leaking from bad workmanship. Tell them the roof was great until all the snow or rain or whatever. They need to know that the roof was fine until a bad weather incident. However, they are trained to look for certain aspects that point to weather damage, such as a blown off/missing shingle, bent shingle from the wind, dented shingles from hail. As far as a flat roof goes im unfamiliar with that. You'll been to check to see if flat rubber roofs are excluded in your policy. Look at your policy and call your agent and tell them the snow has caused it to leak and you need them to look at it. Supply them with the receipt of when the roof was last done and thats its. Don't tell them your thoughts of why you believe it's leaking. Good luck | 0 | 723 | 5.25 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1rmi0k | j1qg03x | 1,672,089,738 | 1,672,070,938 | 6 | 4 | As usual here, most people are just guessing. OP, there could by an implied warranty of workmanship in your state. I’m a lawyer but not in your state and I have no idea if the rules governing construction in your state. For $40k, it’s worth a $500.00 consultation with an attorney who has substantial experience in construction. If it’s clearly done poorly, you may also be able to sue on a number of other grounds that aren’t necessarily related to a warranty. Don’t listen to people telling you that you’re SOL, I’m not sure you know that yet. $40k is easy for a rando on the internet to spend for you, but I certainly wouldn’t toss that money away without checking all my options. | In a similar situation where the home inspector missed something major, I was able to get the cost of my home inspection refunded. | 1 | 18,800 | 1.5 |
zvoe50 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Entire roof needs to be replaced 6 months after moving into a new home. Any options? [NY] Roof is just 4 years old. What it comes down to is that the roofers who did the roof w/ previous owner were highly incompetent. I had multiple roofing contractors come by who all immediately said that the roof is basically a joke and needs to get fully replaced. My home inspectors noted signs of leaking around skylights but nothing otherwise. The seller claimed the new roof fixed said leaking and provided receipt of the roof being done 4 years ago. I know NY state is a generally "buyer beware" state but after looking at $40K+ costs to repair I'm curious if I have any options here. | j1qg03x | j1rpj0c | 1,672,070,938 | 1,672,091,097 | 4 | 5 | In a similar situation where the home inspector missed something major, I was able to get the cost of my home inspection refunded. | 40k for a roof? How big is this house? | 0 | 20,159 | 1.25 |
tr11m8 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | My brother is in a US federal prison and the Dr.'s there threw out all of his diagnosed medical conditions so they don't have to treat them. What can I do to help him? My younger brother (M40) is currently serving time in Federal Bureau of Prisons Terra Haute. Before he was picked up on federal charges he was diagnosed with Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, blood clots and Cauda Equina Syndrome (CES). The CES is believed to be caused by a possible tumor or scar tissue from a previous injury in his spinal column. All of this was being diagnosed and studied by the UW Health system and Froedtert Hospitals as to a cause and treatment options for his conditions that had him in a coma twice along with other medical emergencies including travelling blood clots. Blood clots have been a constant struggle for him and his mobility and bodily functions are deteriorating as I write this. He can barely walk and cannot use the bathroom normally because of the CES. If untreated, my brother's body will poison him because he no longer has the physical means to expel his bodily waste and he could die a slow and agonizing death. The prison medical team refuse to listen to my brother regarding his conditions and will not contact the previously mentioned hospitals to get his medical records in order to treat him. They did their own diagnosis and said there is nothing wrong with him and refuse to treat him. That's it. When he tried to get some help and report his mistreatment, he was put on lockdown for 2 weeks. It's frustrating, I know my brother is in prison and deserves to be there for his crimes but I don't think he should be made to suffer constant physical pain, sickness, and humiliation while serving his time. Is there anything I can do to help him? I tried contacting the prison about his conditions and I even volunteered to find a way to retrieve his medical records for them and all I have been met with is silence or promises of call backs that never come. I don't want my brother to die this way. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you | i2nhk91 | i2mrgh8 | 1,648,598,924 | 1,648,594,134 | 42 | 41 | Prison handbooks outline the grievance process required for disputes. Your brother needs to start the process internally, and follow the deadlines carefully. Going though the grievance process is required to file a section 1983 lawsuit A copy of the inmate handbook can be found here (PDF warning) https://www.bop.gov/locations/institutions/thp/THX_aohandbook.pdf Where anyone can file a complaint to the organization that accreditates their medical staff Division of Accreditation Operations Office of Quality Monitoring The Joint Commission One Renaissance Boulevard Oakbrook Terrace, IL 60181 Or 1-800-994-6610 Fax: 630-792-5636 Or E-mailedto [email protected] A decent DIY primer for section 1983 lawsuits to help your brother articulate his wording on the grievances. https://www.jailhouselaw.org/overview-types-lawsuits-and-prison-litigation-reform-act A more DIY guide on the inmate grievance proccess, because the inmate handbook doesn't cover it very well.. https://www.washlaw.org/pdf/BOP_Grievance_Guide.pdf Medical care, or lack thereof, is covered by the grievance proccess (not that the inmate handbook really explains that). The only way you would be able to make a legal issue out of it (if jcaho fails to help) is following the grievance proccess, the court won't accept a lawsuit otherwise. That said, he needs to keep meticulous notes on everything and keep to the deadlines. One grievance doesn't cover all the issues, every time he's denied a specific treatment he needs, or a specific medication, he needs to file a grievance against the medical staff involved.. | Like others have said, request the medical records from his hospitals, reach out to his attorney, and speak to a social worker at the prison. On top of that, you could consider contacting your congressman or senator. Every congressional office has a constituent services team that handles issues between constituents and federal agencies. Fundamentally this is an issue between a constituent and a federal agency, and a congressman may not enjoy having a constituent denied medical treatment. While it could be a worthwhile thing to do, I’d also caution by saying to speak with the attorney first - make sure they know that’s one thing you’re considering so they can advise if that’s a proper course | 1 | 4,790 | 1.02439 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkb3i0 | ebk9ngl | 1,544,538,770 | 1,544,537,386 | 193 | 169 | It’s still a scam. Just because the funds are available doesn’t mean the check cleared. Your bank will be taking all of that money back soon. | The check is a fake and will eventually be cancelled by your bank. | 1 | 1,384 | 1.142012 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkb3i0 | ebk9m6v | 1,544,538,770 | 1,544,537,352 | 193 | 24 | It’s still a scam. Just because the funds are available doesn’t mean the check cleared. Your bank will be taking all of that money back soon. | > Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy No, it's illegal. It's fraud. It's a felony. In this case, you're the scammer. | 1 | 1,418 | 8.041667 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkb3i0 | ebk9o1o | 1,544,538,770 | 1,544,537,402 | 193 | 3 | It’s still a scam. Just because the funds are available doesn’t mean the check cleared. Your bank will be taking all of that money back soon. | ---
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> Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him.
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a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebk9m6v | ebk9ngl | 1,544,537,352 | 1,544,537,386 | 24 | 169 | > Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy No, it's illegal. It's fraud. It's a felony. In this case, you're the scammer. | The check is a fake and will eventually be cancelled by your bank. | 0 | 34 | 7.041667 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkbrvx | ebkfweq | 1,544,539,398 | 1,544,542,888 | 58 | 64 | SCAM SCAM SCAM. If someone overpays you for a product or service with a listed/agreed-upon price because they want you to give the "extra" to someone else, it is ALWAYS a scam. If someone wants to be paid in giftcards, it is a scam. Keep your item, block the guy, pretend the money "in your account" isn't there because soon it won't be and you could get overdrafted. | This is a common scam. Be glad that you didn't do anything with that money, because you don't actually have it. Here's what happens: (a) Scammer gives Victim a fake check (b) Victim deposits fake check (c) wthin two days, the Bank makes the funds available to the Victim (d) Victim pulls the money out of the account, gives it to scammer (e) 10 days later, the check hits the bank on which it is supposedly drawn and bounces (f) The Victim's bank gets notified that it's not going to be paid on that check (g) Victim's bank removes the funds from the Victim's account. Frequently, that overdrafts the account (h) Bank goes after Victim for the overdraft ​ You skipped step (d), but (e), (f) and (g) will still happen. ​ \[There is a varient, where the check is drawn on a legitimate account, but the check itself is still fake. When that account owner discovers the fraud, they contact their bank, which rolls back the transaction, and you're in the same position.\] | 0 | 3,490 | 1.103448 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkfweq | ebk9m6v | 1,544,542,888 | 1,544,537,352 | 64 | 24 | This is a common scam. Be glad that you didn't do anything with that money, because you don't actually have it. Here's what happens: (a) Scammer gives Victim a fake check (b) Victim deposits fake check (c) wthin two days, the Bank makes the funds available to the Victim (d) Victim pulls the money out of the account, gives it to scammer (e) 10 days later, the check hits the bank on which it is supposedly drawn and bounces (f) The Victim's bank gets notified that it's not going to be paid on that check (g) Victim's bank removes the funds from the Victim's account. Frequently, that overdrafts the account (h) Bank goes after Victim for the overdraft ​ You skipped step (d), but (e), (f) and (g) will still happen. ​ \[There is a varient, where the check is drawn on a legitimate account, but the check itself is still fake. When that account owner discovers the fraud, they contact their bank, which rolls back the transaction, and you're in the same position.\] | > Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy No, it's illegal. It's fraud. It's a felony. In this case, you're the scammer. | 1 | 5,536 | 2.666667 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebk9o1o | ebkfweq | 1,544,537,402 | 1,544,542,888 | 3 | 64 | ---
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LocationBot 4.31977192 | Report Issues | This is a common scam. Be glad that you didn't do anything with that money, because you don't actually have it. Here's what happens: (a) Scammer gives Victim a fake check (b) Victim deposits fake check (c) wthin two days, the Bank makes the funds available to the Victim (d) Victim pulls the money out of the account, gives it to scammer (e) 10 days later, the check hits the bank on which it is supposedly drawn and bounces (f) The Victim's bank gets notified that it's not going to be paid on that check (g) Victim's bank removes the funds from the Victim's account. Frequently, that overdrafts the account (h) Bank goes after Victim for the overdraft ​ You skipped step (d), but (e), (f) and (g) will still happen. ​ \[There is a varient, where the check is drawn on a legitimate account, but the check itself is still fake. When that account owner discovers the fraud, they contact their bank, which rolls back the transaction, and you're in the same position.\] | 0 | 5,486 | 21.333333 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkbrvx | ebk9m6v | 1,544,539,398 | 1,544,537,352 | 58 | 24 | SCAM SCAM SCAM. If someone overpays you for a product or service with a listed/agreed-upon price because they want you to give the "extra" to someone else, it is ALWAYS a scam. If someone wants to be paid in giftcards, it is a scam. Keep your item, block the guy, pretend the money "in your account" isn't there because soon it won't be and you could get overdrafted. | > Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy No, it's illegal. It's fraud. It's a felony. In this case, you're the scammer. | 1 | 2,046 | 2.416667 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkbrvx | ebk9o1o | 1,544,539,398 | 1,544,537,402 | 58 | 3 | SCAM SCAM SCAM. If someone overpays you for a product or service with a listed/agreed-upon price because they want you to give the "extra" to someone else, it is ALWAYS a scam. If someone wants to be paid in giftcards, it is a scam. Keep your item, block the guy, pretend the money "in your account" isn't there because soon it won't be and you could get overdrafted. | ---
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a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebl5vjd | ebk9m6v | 1,544,562,068 | 1,544,537,352 | 30 | 24 | How people can still fall for this (especially checks- who still uses checks??!) is beyond me. | > Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy No, it's illegal. It's fraud. It's a felony. In this case, you're the scammer. | 1 | 24,716 | 1.25 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebkv3n6 | ebl5vjd | 1,544,554,274 | 1,544,562,068 | 9 | 30 | Never, ever, ever believe anyone on CL who wants to send you 1. more money than you're asking for and 2. tells you to "pay a mover when they show up". If anyone ever claims that they "aren't in town so they're having a mover come pick up said item", tell them to fuck off. It is always a scam and it's the oldest one in the book. Take this as a learning experience and next time, don't even give them the time of day. | How people can still fall for this (especially checks- who still uses checks??!) is beyond me. | 0 | 7,794 | 3.333333 |
a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | ebl5vjd | ebk9o1o | 1,544,562,068 | 1,544,537,402 | 30 | 3 | How people can still fall for this (especially checks- who still uses checks??!) is beyond me. | ---
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> Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him.
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a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | eblug1k | ebk9o1o | 1,544,582,294 | 1,544,537,402 | 4 | 3 | Bank fraud investigator here. Don't withdrawal any of the funds associated with the check. It's going to return/chargeback within 10 business days. Expect to pay an associated fee as well. Should you decide to withdrawal the funds, good luck to you. I deal with these cases frequently and don't hesitate to take every legal measure to collect, scam victim or not. Also of note, the bank will likely close your account, not allow you to open a new one and report you to Chex Systems which will prevent you from opening an account at another bank. | ---
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> Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him.
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a573gy | legaladvice_train | 0.66 | Thought I was being scammed by someone on Craigslist, but now I have $900 more than im supposed to. Can i keep the money? Guy on Craigslist gave me $1100 check for a $150 item and told me to pay his mover when the guy picks it up. Told me to pay the mover immediately with itunes giftcards or cash when he came (at a time before the check cleared). I thought it was a scam and wouldnt let the guy pick it up until the check went theough, which i doubted. Now the check went through and im wondering if i can just keep it because this guy put me through hell.Can I legally keep the money without consequence? I know its kind of scummy but morals arent in question. Also can he still scam me and remove the deposit from my account after I pay him. Edit: I live in New Hampshire. | eblssax | eblug1k | 1,544,580,789 | 1,544,582,294 | 2 | 4 | Scam. Check will bounce. Bank will recover the Check amount from you. Meanwhile you are out the value of the gift cards you have to the "mover". | Bank fraud investigator here. Don't withdrawal any of the funds associated with the check. It's going to return/chargeback within 10 business days. Expect to pay an associated fee as well. Should you decide to withdrawal the funds, good luck to you. I deal with these cases frequently and don't hesitate to take every legal measure to collect, scam victim or not. Also of note, the bank will likely close your account, not allow you to open a new one and report you to Chex Systems which will prevent you from opening an account at another bank. | 0 | 1,505 | 2 |
i57n78 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | A police officer erroneously issued me a ticket for a much more serious offense than what I'm actually guilty of, and I'm just now finding out two years later - WA I'm a California resident but was briefly visiting Seattle two years ago when I rear-ended someone in my rental car. The person in the car in front of me called the cops, the cop comes by and I can't immediately find my valid CA license. Cop wasn't waiting even 5min to let me find it. He's like, whatever, here's a ticket for "Failure to Avoid a Collision" for rear-ending this dude, here's a ticket for "Expired or No License" because you couldn't find your license in time (by that point I had found my license and had it in hand). I'm annoyed, but whatever. I felt that didn't have any choice but to pay the ticket given that I was an out-of-towner, so I did. Two years later, I'm undergoing a driving background check to be able to drive the company car, and I failed. It's now come to my attention that "Expired or No License" doesn't actually mean that you couldn't present your license, but rather that you didn't have one at all, as in, you were cited for driving without a valid license. The ticket I should have received was "Failure to Display License", which is much less serious, and accurately reflects someone having a valid license but they can't find the license in time to show them. How can I resolve this issue after I've paid the ticket and after so much time has passed? I have my driving record which does not show my license as having been suspended at the time, surely they can look this up themselves as well? | g0ncdq4 | g0nccv4 | 1,596,779,714 | 1,596,779,695 | 190 | 79 | When you paid that ticket you admitted to being guilty/at fault of those charges/infractions. You can try to work this out directly with your company by showing them your record shows that you had a valid DL at the time. Maybe Washington has a DMV records correction process. Always read and understand legal paperwork before you sign it. | After this much time? Consider throwing yourself on the mercy of the court via the clerk, who will rightly note that you should've said something at the time. Won't hurt to ask the clerk to ask the judge after providing your documentary proof that you had a valid license at the time, though. | 1 | 19 | 2.405063 |
y58feb | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | California high school is closing all bathrooms. I'm a senior and I go to high school in California and ever since last year my school has been closing the bathrooms all day if they suspect another student is vaping in them. This has been going on for a long time and its getting really annoying. Is it this legal and if so what do I need to do to get them to stop? | isivsy6 | isichxo | 1,665,912,675 | 1,665,897,587 | 870 | 246 | Not a lawyer - California has a public restroom law. > The State of California stipulates that all public and privately owned buildings where the public gathers be equipped with enough restrooms to meet the needs of the public at peak hours. This includes sports and entertainment arenas, amusement parks, community halls and event centers. * https://legalbeagle.com/6300227-california-public-restrooms-law.html * https://www.shrm.org/resourcesandtools/legal-and-compliance/state-and-local-updates/pages/california-equal-restroom-access-act.aspx * https://law.justia.com/codes/california/2009/hsc/118500-118505.html What you do when the bathrooms are closed is pick up your cell phone and call your county health department and report that your school has closed all the restrooms - none are available for students. You can also call your city/county building/planning department. Additionally, you can call Cal/OSHA. Actually, call them all and let the school administrators explain their illegal actions. Look up the phone numbers - all of them, and jot them down on a slip of paper. Copy it and pass it around the school - text, email, pm or whatever. Put them in your phone's directory for easy access. Your parents can also go to the next school district meeting. There is always time set aside for public comment. All they need to do is to ask the question - why are the restrooms at <whatever> school closed? Actually, students at the school can call the school district office and ask why. The first phone call, they will take as a joke. Then after the second, third, and then the 27th call - the district superintendent will call the principal and ask some embarrassing questions. Actually, you really do not have to wait until they actually close the restrooms. Call everyone first thing Monday based on their past actions. Heck, everyone at the school should start calling, everyone on the list - to invite all the public agencies to the closed restroom party. Public agencies love to dog pile on these problems. There is an old saying - Just drop a dime - which means call the authorities from a public pay phone which use to cost a dime. | Tell your parents. How do students go to the bathroom? | 1 | 15,088 | 3.536585 |
y58feb | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | California high school is closing all bathrooms. I'm a senior and I go to high school in California and ever since last year my school has been closing the bathrooms all day if they suspect another student is vaping in them. This has been going on for a long time and its getting really annoying. Is it this legal and if so what do I need to do to get them to stop? | isivsy6 | isiek1s | 1,665,912,675 | 1,665,898,967 | 870 | 52 | Not a lawyer - California has a public restroom law. > The State of California stipulates that all public and privately owned buildings where the public gathers be equipped with enough restrooms to meet the needs of the public at peak hours. This includes sports and entertainment arenas, amusement parks, community halls and event centers. * https://legalbeagle.com/6300227-california-public-restrooms-law.html * https://www.shrm.org/resourcesandtools/legal-and-compliance/state-and-local-updates/pages/california-equal-restroom-access-act.aspx * https://law.justia.com/codes/california/2009/hsc/118500-118505.html What you do when the bathrooms are closed is pick up your cell phone and call your county health department and report that your school has closed all the restrooms - none are available for students. You can also call your city/county building/planning department. Additionally, you can call Cal/OSHA. Actually, call them all and let the school administrators explain their illegal actions. Look up the phone numbers - all of them, and jot them down on a slip of paper. Copy it and pass it around the school - text, email, pm or whatever. Put them in your phone's directory for easy access. Your parents can also go to the next school district meeting. There is always time set aside for public comment. All they need to do is to ask the question - why are the restrooms at <whatever> school closed? Actually, students at the school can call the school district office and ask why. The first phone call, they will take as a joke. Then after the second, third, and then the 27th call - the district superintendent will call the principal and ask some embarrassing questions. Actually, you really do not have to wait until they actually close the restrooms. Call everyone first thing Monday based on their past actions. Heck, everyone at the school should start calling, everyone on the list - to invite all the public agencies to the closed restroom party. Public agencies love to dog pile on these problems. There is an old saying - Just drop a dime - which means call the authorities from a public pay phone which use to cost a dime. | Your parents need to contact the principal/superintendent with their concerns, and promptly escalate if necessary. Schools cannot deprive students of bathroom breaks. | 1 | 13,708 | 16.730769 |
y58feb | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | California high school is closing all bathrooms. I'm a senior and I go to high school in California and ever since last year my school has been closing the bathrooms all day if they suspect another student is vaping in them. This has been going on for a long time and its getting really annoying. Is it this legal and if so what do I need to do to get them to stop? | isivsy6 | isiciwf | 1,665,912,675 | 1,665,897,605 | 870 | 32 | Not a lawyer - California has a public restroom law. > The State of California stipulates that all public and privately owned buildings where the public gathers be equipped with enough restrooms to meet the needs of the public at peak hours. This includes sports and entertainment arenas, amusement parks, community halls and event centers. * https://legalbeagle.com/6300227-california-public-restrooms-law.html * https://www.shrm.org/resourcesandtools/legal-and-compliance/state-and-local-updates/pages/california-equal-restroom-access-act.aspx * https://law.justia.com/codes/california/2009/hsc/118500-118505.html What you do when the bathrooms are closed is pick up your cell phone and call your county health department and report that your school has closed all the restrooms - none are available for students. You can also call your city/county building/planning department. Additionally, you can call Cal/OSHA. Actually, call them all and let the school administrators explain their illegal actions. Look up the phone numbers - all of them, and jot them down on a slip of paper. Copy it and pass it around the school - text, email, pm or whatever. Put them in your phone's directory for easy access. Your parents can also go to the next school district meeting. There is always time set aside for public comment. All they need to do is to ask the question - why are the restrooms at <whatever> school closed? Actually, students at the school can call the school district office and ask why. The first phone call, they will take as a joke. Then after the second, third, and then the 27th call - the district superintendent will call the principal and ask some embarrassing questions. Actually, you really do not have to wait until they actually close the restrooms. Call everyone first thing Monday based on their past actions. Heck, everyone at the school should start calling, everyone on the list - to invite all the public agencies to the closed restroom party. Public agencies love to dog pile on these problems. There is an old saying - Just drop a dime - which means call the authorities from a public pay phone which use to cost a dime. | Contact the school board. | 1 | 15,070 | 27.1875 |
y58feb | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | California high school is closing all bathrooms. I'm a senior and I go to high school in California and ever since last year my school has been closing the bathrooms all day if they suspect another student is vaping in them. This has been going on for a long time and its getting really annoying. Is it this legal and if so what do I need to do to get them to stop? | isjbqdy | isiek1s | 1,665,924,437 | 1,665,898,967 | 176 | 52 | I would tell your parents to file a complaint with 1. The School Principal via email. 2. The local Superintendent of Schools in your City via email. 3. The US Department of Education located in DC via online form. 4. OSHA via online form. 5. The Governor via online form. 6. The Mayor via online form. 7. Your local elected officials via online form. Note: All complaints can be filed online. The school is in violation of local law. California Code, Education Code - EDC & 35292.5 - Codes: The Code States: The school shall keep all restrooms open during school hours when pupils are not in classes, and shall keep a sufficient number of restrooms open during school hours when pupils are in classes. Have this code referenced in all complaints. The code referenced can be found here: https://codes.findlaw.com/ca/education-code/edc-sect-35292-5/ Good luck. | Your parents need to contact the principal/superintendent with their concerns, and promptly escalate if necessary. Schools cannot deprive students of bathroom breaks. | 1 | 25,470 | 3.384615 |
y58feb | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | California high school is closing all bathrooms. I'm a senior and I go to high school in California and ever since last year my school has been closing the bathrooms all day if they suspect another student is vaping in them. This has been going on for a long time and its getting really annoying. Is it this legal and if so what do I need to do to get them to stop? | isjbqdy | isiciwf | 1,665,924,437 | 1,665,897,605 | 176 | 32 | I would tell your parents to file a complaint with 1. The School Principal via email. 2. The local Superintendent of Schools in your City via email. 3. The US Department of Education located in DC via online form. 4. OSHA via online form. 5. The Governor via online form. 6. The Mayor via online form. 7. Your local elected officials via online form. Note: All complaints can be filed online. The school is in violation of local law. California Code, Education Code - EDC & 35292.5 - Codes: The Code States: The school shall keep all restrooms open during school hours when pupils are not in classes, and shall keep a sufficient number of restrooms open during school hours when pupils are in classes. Have this code referenced in all complaints. The code referenced can be found here: https://codes.findlaw.com/ca/education-code/edc-sect-35292-5/ Good luck. | Contact the school board. | 1 | 26,832 | 5.5 |
y58feb | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | California high school is closing all bathrooms. I'm a senior and I go to high school in California and ever since last year my school has been closing the bathrooms all day if they suspect another student is vaping in them. This has been going on for a long time and its getting really annoying. Is it this legal and if so what do I need to do to get them to stop? | isiciwf | isiek1s | 1,665,897,605 | 1,665,898,967 | 32 | 52 | Contact the school board. | Your parents need to contact the principal/superintendent with their concerns, and promptly escalate if necessary. Schools cannot deprive students of bathroom breaks. | 0 | 1,362 | 1.625 |
uj4391 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Car got towed by a private company in queens, nyc. Police were never informed that the car was towed and originally thought it was stolen. What do I do? I thought my car was towed at first so I contacted my local precinct who then contacted their tow company and checked the database for towed cars. Nothing showed up. I checked one of my neighbor’s cameras and it turns out that my neighbor (not the same neighbor) called a private towing company to tow my car. I do not know which company towed my car. I do not know where my car is located. I am very angry. What do I do? | i7giysc | i7hencn | 1,651,776,295 | 1,651,789,329 | 25 | 30 | Was your car illegally parked? Blocking their driveway or access? On Private property? | Did you show the police the footage of the tow and give them the name of the neighbor? If your neighbor had someone tow that car and nothing was done according to the law, and no information is in their database, you might try to report that neighbor as the one who stole the car. That neighbor also might not give you the information about where the car is, but having a police officer show up at your door asking for that information is a whole other thing. | 0 | 13,034 | 1.2 |
uj4391 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Car got towed by a private company in queens, nyc. Police were never informed that the car was towed and originally thought it was stolen. What do I do? I thought my car was towed at first so I contacted my local precinct who then contacted their tow company and checked the database for towed cars. Nothing showed up. I checked one of my neighbor’s cameras and it turns out that my neighbor (not the same neighbor) called a private towing company to tow my car. I do not know which company towed my car. I do not know where my car is located. I am very angry. What do I do? | i7hencn | i7gmw45 | 1,651,789,329 | 1,651,777,871 | 30 | 10 | Did you show the police the footage of the tow and give them the name of the neighbor? If your neighbor had someone tow that car and nothing was done according to the law, and no information is in their database, you might try to report that neighbor as the one who stole the car. That neighbor also might not give you the information about where the car is, but having a police officer show up at your door asking for that information is a whole other thing. | See if you car was issued any tickets during the time it was towed. As a NYC resident it is my experience that a blocked property owner has to first find a cop and prove landownership before a ticket will be written. After the ticket is written then a tow can be called. Therefore there must be some traceable record of events. If it was a private tow co. then keep checking the database. | 1 | 11,458 | 3 |
uj4391 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Car got towed by a private company in queens, nyc. Police were never informed that the car was towed and originally thought it was stolen. What do I do? I thought my car was towed at first so I contacted my local precinct who then contacted their tow company and checked the database for towed cars. Nothing showed up. I checked one of my neighbor’s cameras and it turns out that my neighbor (not the same neighbor) called a private towing company to tow my car. I do not know which company towed my car. I do not know where my car is located. I am very angry. What do I do? | i7hencn | i7hajso | 1,651,789,329 | 1,651,787,526 | 30 | 7 | Did you show the police the footage of the tow and give them the name of the neighbor? If your neighbor had someone tow that car and nothing was done according to the law, and no information is in their database, you might try to report that neighbor as the one who stole the car. That neighbor also might not give you the information about where the car is, but having a police officer show up at your door asking for that information is a whole other thing. | Before reporting your car as stolen to your local precinct, just to be safe, call the Queens impound yard and see if it shows up in their inventory: 718-359-6200 (*open till 10pm for your convenience!*) | 1 | 1,803 | 4.285714 |
uj4391 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Car got towed by a private company in queens, nyc. Police were never informed that the car was towed and originally thought it was stolen. What do I do? I thought my car was towed at first so I contacted my local precinct who then contacted their tow company and checked the database for towed cars. Nothing showed up. I checked one of my neighbor’s cameras and it turns out that my neighbor (not the same neighbor) called a private towing company to tow my car. I do not know which company towed my car. I do not know where my car is located. I am very angry. What do I do? | i7h1ngp | i7hencn | 1,651,783,782 | 1,651,789,329 | 3 | 30 | Call the cops and report the neighbor that got your car towed and then get the tow company number from the cops | Did you show the police the footage of the tow and give them the name of the neighbor? If your neighbor had someone tow that car and nothing was done according to the law, and no information is in their database, you might try to report that neighbor as the one who stole the car. That neighbor also might not give you the information about where the car is, but having a police officer show up at your door asking for that information is a whole other thing. | 0 | 5,547 | 10 |
uj4391 | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | Car got towed by a private company in queens, nyc. Police were never informed that the car was towed and originally thought it was stolen. What do I do? I thought my car was towed at first so I contacted my local precinct who then contacted their tow company and checked the database for towed cars. Nothing showed up. I checked one of my neighbor’s cameras and it turns out that my neighbor (not the same neighbor) called a private towing company to tow my car. I do not know which company towed my car. I do not know where my car is located. I am very angry. What do I do? | i7h1ngp | i7hajso | 1,651,783,782 | 1,651,787,526 | 3 | 7 | Call the cops and report the neighbor that got your car towed and then get the tow company number from the cops | Before reporting your car as stolen to your local precinct, just to be safe, call the Queens impound yard and see if it shows up in their inventory: 718-359-6200 (*open till 10pm for your convenience!*) | 0 | 3,744 | 2.333333 |
qf6ee7 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My car was assumed stolen a week ago. I found it tonight in a local grocery store parking lot completely untouched. I’m not sure what happened and I’d like to find out. Location: FL Last week after getting home from work I went on a jog and when I got home my car was gone. (I live in an apartment complex) I called the police, and when they arrived we confirmed the car wasn’t towed, filed a police report, and ultimately reported my car as stolen. I went on with everything, dealing with insurance and all of that, and assumed my car was gone forever. Tonight I went to my local grocery store and to my disbelief found my car in the parking lot. I called the cops and when they arrived we investigated further and opened my car with my keys. All of my belongings were in there exactly like I left them, nothing appeared touched, there were no signs of a break in, and my car started up fine. It truly seemed like no one ever was inside of my car. From the outside looking in it looked like I just left my car in that parking lot and forgot it was there. The whole situation is extremely bizarre. The cops were confused as well. I really would like to determine exactly what happened and am unsure what my next steps are. So my questions for all of you are 1. Any idea what may have happened? 2. What are my next steps for getting security footage both from my apartment and the grocery store? 3. Any other things I should consider/be aware of? Thank you! | hhxqcou | hhxqmb8 | 1,635,126,694 | 1,635,126,828 | 4 | 198 | ---
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> Last week after getting home from work I went on a jog and when I got home my car was gone. (I live in an apartment complex) > > I called the police, and when they arrived we confirmed the car wasn’t towed, filed a police report, and ultimately reported my car as stolen. > > I went on with everything, dealing with insurance and all of that, and assumed my car was gone forever. > > Tonight I went to my local grocery store and to my disbelief found my car in the parking lot. > > I called the cops and when they arrived we investigated further and opened my car with my keys. All of my belongings were in there exactly like I left them, nothing appeared touched, there were no signs of a break in, and my car started up fine. It truly seemed like no one ever was inside of my car. > > From the outside looking in it looked like I just left my car in that parking lot and forgot it was there. > > The whole situation is extremely bizarre. The cops were confused as well. I really would like to determine exactly what happened and am unsure what my next steps are. > > So my questions for all of you are > 1. Any idea what may have happened? > 2. What are my next steps for getting security footage both from my apartment and the grocery store? > 3. Any other things I should consider/be aware of? > > Thank you!
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qf6ee7 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My car was assumed stolen a week ago. I found it tonight in a local grocery store parking lot completely untouched. I’m not sure what happened and I’d like to find out. Location: FL Last week after getting home from work I went on a jog and when I got home my car was gone. (I live in an apartment complex) I called the police, and when they arrived we confirmed the car wasn’t towed, filed a police report, and ultimately reported my car as stolen. I went on with everything, dealing with insurance and all of that, and assumed my car was gone forever. Tonight I went to my local grocery store and to my disbelief found my car in the parking lot. I called the cops and when they arrived we investigated further and opened my car with my keys. All of my belongings were in there exactly like I left them, nothing appeared touched, there were no signs of a break in, and my car started up fine. It truly seemed like no one ever was inside of my car. From the outside looking in it looked like I just left my car in that parking lot and forgot it was there. The whole situation is extremely bizarre. The cops were confused as well. I really would like to determine exactly what happened and am unsure what my next steps are. So my questions for all of you are 1. Any idea what may have happened? 2. What are my next steps for getting security footage both from my apartment and the grocery store? 3. Any other things I should consider/be aware of? Thank you! | hhxqcou | hhxrb58 | 1,635,126,694 | 1,635,127,186 | 4 | 98 | ---
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> Last week after getting home from work I went on a jog and when I got home my car was gone. (I live in an apartment complex) > > I called the police, and when they arrived we confirmed the car wasn’t towed, filed a police report, and ultimately reported my car as stolen. > > I went on with everything, dealing with insurance and all of that, and assumed my car was gone forever. > > Tonight I went to my local grocery store and to my disbelief found my car in the parking lot. > > I called the cops and when they arrived we investigated further and opened my car with my keys. All of my belongings were in there exactly like I left them, nothing appeared touched, there were no signs of a break in, and my car started up fine. It truly seemed like no one ever was inside of my car. > > From the outside looking in it looked like I just left my car in that parking lot and forgot it was there. > > The whole situation is extremely bizarre. The cops were confused as well. I really would like to determine exactly what happened and am unsure what my next steps are. > > So my questions for all of you are > 1. Any idea what may have happened? > 2. What are my next steps for getting security footage both from my apartment and the grocery store? > 3. Any other things I should consider/be aware of? > > Thank you!
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qf6ee7 | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My car was assumed stolen a week ago. I found it tonight in a local grocery store parking lot completely untouched. I’m not sure what happened and I’d like to find out. Location: FL Last week after getting home from work I went on a jog and when I got home my car was gone. (I live in an apartment complex) I called the police, and when they arrived we confirmed the car wasn’t towed, filed a police report, and ultimately reported my car as stolen. I went on with everything, dealing with insurance and all of that, and assumed my car was gone forever. Tonight I went to my local grocery store and to my disbelief found my car in the parking lot. I called the cops and when they arrived we investigated further and opened my car with my keys. All of my belongings were in there exactly like I left them, nothing appeared touched, there were no signs of a break in, and my car started up fine. It truly seemed like no one ever was inside of my car. From the outside looking in it looked like I just left my car in that parking lot and forgot it was there. The whole situation is extremely bizarre. The cops were confused as well. I really would like to determine exactly what happened and am unsure what my next steps are. So my questions for all of you are 1. Any idea what may have happened? 2. What are my next steps for getting security footage both from my apartment and the grocery store? 3. Any other things I should consider/be aware of? Thank you! | hhxzidk | hhxqcou | 1,635,131,528 | 1,635,126,694 | 33 | 4 | So my questions for all of you are 1. Any idea what may have happened? Did you forget it? Did any friends “borrow your keys as a prank and freaked?” Is it a newer car? Some older cars pre-chip could be stolen with generic keys. Maybe someone stole it and used it in a shooting 2. What are my next steps for getting security footage both from my apartment and the grocery store? You can call them but they probably won’t bother unless the cops ask for it. 3. Any other things I should consider/be aware of? If it is an older model, someone may have a similar key | ---
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zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izj9622 | izj3u2y | 1,670,597,512 | 1,670,595,162 | 1,859 | 910 | Another commenter has said it but it's worth repeating, your mom should not be talking to the parents or their lawyer directly at all. She needs to talk to her insurance company and get a lawyer | It doesn’t sound like there are any criminal charges pending or contemplated. She should contact her insurance company asap to get an attorney for the civil suit. | 1 | 2,350 | 2.042857 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izj9622 | izj7yst | 1,670,597,512 | 1,670,596,987 | 1,859 | 169 | Another commenter has said it but it's worth repeating, your mom should not be talking to the parents or their lawyer directly at all. She needs to talk to her insurance company and get a lawyer | Your mom needs a lawyer. We don't know what state you're in but some would require a parent or approved adult pick up a child that young from the bus stop. | 1 | 525 | 11 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izj9pmi | izj7yst | 1,670,597,741 | 1,670,596,987 | 464 | 169 | Dropping off preschoolers on the wrong side of a street or without a verified handoff to parents seems risky at best and a terrible idea at worst. Hopefully your mom has liability insurance for her business. If so, she should contact them without delay & verify that they will be defending this lawsuit. If she doesn't have liability insurance that will be handling the defense, she needs a local attorney ASAP. It doesn't sound like your mom is facing criminal charges, but she's potentially facing substantial civil money damages. | Your mom needs a lawyer. We don't know what state you're in but some would require a parent or approved adult pick up a child that young from the bus stop. | 1 | 754 | 2.745562 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izjd8b4 | izk15am | 1,670,599,230 | 1,670,608,479 | 68 | 125 | Your mother needs to lawyer up quickly. If CPS is investigating them, then they are attempting to put the blame on your mother, who is the bus driver, and now she knows their defense because they told her. Insurance company should definitely be contacted if they filed a lawsuit without any sort of discussion beforehand with your mother. A civil lawsuit is not a criminal lawsuit. They're suing for damages and because they spoke to her on the phone, she knows exactly what kind of case they're building. That 1, they are being investigated by CPS, and 2 the only reason they are moving against her is to protect their child from being taken away, and 3, that they are going to state that they had an agreement with the bus driver for her to wait before letting the child off. Means there's a lot more going on from this one accident than meets the eye and your mother needs immediate protection so that liability is not being placed on her. Your mother would have less accountability if she had her bus lights on while the kid was crossing the street. It means the other driver is in a lot of trouble for failing to yield for a bus that has their lights on. | Your other posts suggest you are in Europe. I'd suggest /r/legaladviceeurope. | 0 | 9,249 | 1.838235 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izk15am | izjq8s8 | 1,670,608,479 | 1,670,604,415 | 125 | 63 | Your other posts suggest you are in Europe. I'd suggest /r/legaladviceeurope. | who drops a preschooler off the opposite of the road and doesn't walk them to their parent/guardian? Seems really unsafe and I wouldn't allow my children (if I had them) to be under your mother's care. Otherwise mom has to stop talking to the parents. She needs to contact her insurance. She also needs a lawyer. | 1 | 4,064 | 1.984127 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izk15am | izk0utj | 1,670,608,479 | 1,670,608,380 | 125 | 43 | Your other posts suggest you are in Europe. I'd suggest /r/legaladviceeurope. | Correction: she was sued for doing her job negligently | 1 | 99 | 2.906977 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izk15am | izjpwh9 | 1,670,608,479 | 1,670,604,280 | 125 | 40 | Your other posts suggest you are in Europe. I'd suggest /r/legaladviceeurope. | I think she might have breached a duty of care. You can’t just leave small kids you are responsible for unattended somewhere potentially dangerous. She needs a lawyer. | 1 | 4,199 | 3.125 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izk15am | izjs1mj | 1,670,608,479 | 1,670,605,104 | 125 | 27 | Your other posts suggest you are in Europe. I'd suggest /r/legaladviceeurope. | CPS and the day care regulator should be coming after your mother, not the parents. | 1 | 3,375 | 4.62963 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izjpwh9 | izjq8s8 | 1,670,604,280 | 1,670,604,415 | 40 | 63 | I think she might have breached a duty of care. You can’t just leave small kids you are responsible for unattended somewhere potentially dangerous. She needs a lawyer. | who drops a preschooler off the opposite of the road and doesn't walk them to their parent/guardian? Seems really unsafe and I wouldn't allow my children (if I had them) to be under your mother's care. Otherwise mom has to stop talking to the parents. She needs to contact her insurance. She also needs a lawyer. | 0 | 135 | 1.575 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izjpwh9 | izk0utj | 1,670,604,280 | 1,670,608,380 | 40 | 43 | I think she might have breached a duty of care. You can’t just leave small kids you are responsible for unattended somewhere potentially dangerous. She needs a lawyer. | Correction: she was sued for doing her job negligently | 0 | 4,100 | 1.075 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izjs1mj | izk0utj | 1,670,605,104 | 1,670,608,380 | 27 | 43 | CPS and the day care regulator should be coming after your mother, not the parents. | Correction: she was sued for doing her job negligently | 0 | 3,276 | 1.592593 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izl03uq | izjs1mj | 1,670,622,108 | 1,670,605,104 | 28 | 27 | Dropping off a preschool aged child anywhere that would require crossing a road is incredibly negligent. As the driver and owner, avoiding this was in fact your mother’s responsibility. Even if the parents absolutely demanded it, it should have either not been an option or they should have been required to sign a waiver stating that they understand this isn’t a safe choice and wanted it anyway. The lawsuit likely isn’t the end of this. CPS will likely be involved with the preschool and it isn’t likely to go well. Of course, as others have said, she needs to have a lawyer and she needs to stop speaking to people who are not her lawyer. | CPS and the day care regulator should be coming after your mother, not the parents. | 1 | 17,004 | 1.037037 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izl03uq | izklubc | 1,670,622,108 | 1,670,616,498 | 28 | 18 | Dropping off a preschool aged child anywhere that would require crossing a road is incredibly negligent. As the driver and owner, avoiding this was in fact your mother’s responsibility. Even if the parents absolutely demanded it, it should have either not been an option or they should have been required to sign a waiver stating that they understand this isn’t a safe choice and wanted it anyway. The lawsuit likely isn’t the end of this. CPS will likely be involved with the preschool and it isn’t likely to go well. Of course, as others have said, she needs to have a lawyer and she needs to stop speaking to people who are not her lawyer. | This is an insurance problem. This is why prescools need to carry insurance and why the insurance is expensive. The insurance companies will provide a lawyer if this is a civil matter. Only the state/government can bring criminal charges, if it is criminal then she definitely needs a lawyer but I don't know if that is covered by insurance. Either way it is lawyer time. | 1 | 5,610 | 1.555556 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izl03uq | izkpykf | 1,670,622,108 | 1,670,618,137 | 28 | 11 | Dropping off a preschool aged child anywhere that would require crossing a road is incredibly negligent. As the driver and owner, avoiding this was in fact your mother’s responsibility. Even if the parents absolutely demanded it, it should have either not been an option or they should have been required to sign a waiver stating that they understand this isn’t a safe choice and wanted it anyway. The lawsuit likely isn’t the end of this. CPS will likely be involved with the preschool and it isn’t likely to go well. Of course, as others have said, she needs to have a lawyer and she needs to stop speaking to people who are not her lawyer. | Change the let off route so no child has to cross a road!!! | 1 | 3,971 | 2.545455 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izkvm2p | izl03uq | 1,670,620,287 | 1,670,622,108 | 9 | 28 | She needs to reach out to her business insurance. I’m guessing she has that based on what she does. If she does, she is paying for insurance for things like this, so she won’t get directly sued. The last thing she should do is contact the parents, that could do a lot more harm than good because they clearly will use any and everything they can against her. So tell her not to speak to them again, if they reach out to her she either needs to not pick up and not respond or tell them speak to my insurance. | Dropping off a preschool aged child anywhere that would require crossing a road is incredibly negligent. As the driver and owner, avoiding this was in fact your mother’s responsibility. Even if the parents absolutely demanded it, it should have either not been an option or they should have been required to sign a waiver stating that they understand this isn’t a safe choice and wanted it anyway. The lawsuit likely isn’t the end of this. CPS will likely be involved with the preschool and it isn’t likely to go well. Of course, as others have said, she needs to have a lawyer and she needs to stop speaking to people who are not her lawyer. | 0 | 1,821 | 3.111111 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izkrf8z | izl03uq | 1,670,618,698 | 1,670,622,108 | 9 | 28 | Your mom is very likely partially liable. I would absolutely take the parents case. | Dropping off a preschool aged child anywhere that would require crossing a road is incredibly negligent. As the driver and owner, avoiding this was in fact your mother’s responsibility. Even if the parents absolutely demanded it, it should have either not been an option or they should have been required to sign a waiver stating that they understand this isn’t a safe choice and wanted it anyway. The lawsuit likely isn’t the end of this. CPS will likely be involved with the preschool and it isn’t likely to go well. Of course, as others have said, she needs to have a lawyer and she needs to stop speaking to people who are not her lawyer. | 0 | 3,410 | 3.111111 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izkpykf | izl504p | 1,670,618,137 | 1,670,624,081 | 11 | 12 | Change the let off route so no child has to cross a road!!! | your mother needs to lawyer up yesterday fast she could lose her preschool also no more contact with them at all. | 0 | 5,944 | 1.090909 |
zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izkvm2p | izl504p | 1,670,620,287 | 1,670,624,081 | 9 | 12 | She needs to reach out to her business insurance. I’m guessing she has that based on what she does. If she does, she is paying for insurance for things like this, so she won’t get directly sued. The last thing she should do is contact the parents, that could do a lot more harm than good because they clearly will use any and everything they can against her. So tell her not to speak to them again, if they reach out to her she either needs to not pick up and not respond or tell them speak to my insurance. | your mother needs to lawyer up yesterday fast she could lose her preschool also no more contact with them at all. | 0 | 3,794 | 1.333333 |
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