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zgxox4 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | My mother was sued for doing her job. She owns a preschool. About a month ago my motger was dropping off a kid at his house like she always does, stops the bus at the same position drops off the kid at the same spot , the kid ran through the road without looking and got hit by a car, the driver of the car was sued so they could get money for the kids surgery. After that my mother was sued as well, when my mother called the parents to ask what this is about they said they said that they had to move legally so they wouldnt have CPS (child protective services) take away their child. They also lied saying that they agreed, the driver(my mom) would always wait for the parents to come to the door of the school bus to pick up their child, which is completely false, there was jever such agreement and she never did that with any of her clients... If my mother has a criminal history she will not be able to work and she will lose her bussiness, ehat could we legally so we can prevent this for happening? | izl504p | izkrf8z | 1,670,624,081 | 1,670,618,698 | 12 | 9 | your mother needs to lawyer up yesterday fast she could lose her preschool also no more contact with them at all. | Your mom is very likely partially liable. I would absolutely take the parents case. | 1 | 5,383 | 1.333333 |
9tdg92 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Neighbor is afraid of our dogs and won't rest until she gets us in trouble for something TL;DR Old lady neighbor is terrified of our well behaved dogs who stay entirely in our property, and is just waiting to catch us on any kind of violation because she wants them taken away. Is there anything we can do to safeguard ourselves against a spiteful dog-hater? ​ I live with my family in a rented property outside of Reno, NV. We've been here a little under a year now, and since near the beginning of our stay we've had issues with our neighbor, an older lady. We have three dogs, a golden mix, a collie, and an akita mix. None of them are huge or aggressive dogs, but we have a large fenced property and they will bark at people passing by. They also bark at the neighbor when she is out in her yard, but we try to be attentive and call them in whenever we hear them barking. She also has a dog that barks as much or more than ours, some sort of collie mix. ​ Some months back we received a visit from animal control saying that they'd received noise complaints about our dogs barking too much and being aggressive, and our chickens getting into our neighbor's yard. The officer did a quick inspection and found no issues or violations, and had no complaints about the temperaments of our dogs. He said this was an "educational visit" as there was nothing we were actually in violation of, but warned us to make sure our dogs don't bark too much. ​ We paid a visit in person to our neighbor to see if there was a way we could resolve things on a personal level without involving the law. We told her it would have been more neighborly for her to come to us before reporting issues to animal control, and that we were perfectly willing to make reasonable accommodations. We're very careful not to escalate situations and we tried to be very gentle, but our neighbor did not want to listen to reason. She went on and on about how our dogs were monsters and would "charge her" at the fence, and how she'd had a peaceful life until we moved in and we'd "ruined her paradise", and how our dogs didn't have jobs so they just ran wild. Her friend was even in the house with her urging her to consider our good intentions, but she was just getting more hysterical. We wound up leaving and within the next few days we took steps to fix any potential issues. We used construction netting to fence off an additional 6-10 feet of our own yard all along the property line (which is by no means a small area), started being even more vigilant about bringing the dogs in anytime we heard a little barking or saw the neighbor out in her yard, and requested that the landlord think about putting in a fence, possibly splitting the cost with the neighbor. We haven't heard anything about the potential of a fence, and we don't really have the money to make such a large project happen even if the landlord was ok with it. The netting has given more space between her yard and our dogs, and kept the chickens from getting into her yard (the only reason they did is because she piles all her horse's manure right at the fence near our bedroom window and the chickens liked the bugs in it). She still screams at our dogs and stares daggers at us, but we hoped that was the end of things. ​ Today we had another visit from animal control, which was much more candid. I walked out and got our dogs, who were mildly barking at the officer, but they came up to me halfway down the driveway and I took them inside. Chatting with the officer, he said that he has been getting more complaints. He spoke with her personally and she said, "Can you please just find ANY violation?" The officer said she was very upset but there was absolutely nothing he could see wrong with our animals or the way we were doing things. She apparently then said to him, "Fine, I guess when their dogs come over here and kill my dog, then there will be a violation!" He decided to visit for another "educational visit", but really it was a courtesy to us, informing us that we've got a very angry neighbor who will be watching us like a hawk for any potential issue, all because she's afraid of our good boys. ​ Where we stand now is on the right side of the law, but definitely feeling very nervous. We've had insane neighbors before who have vandalized our property and we had one of our dogs get suddenly ill and pass away after eating something it found just inside our fence on that neighbor's property line. That was a different location and situation, but we're understandably nervous about a repeat occurring. I don't think our dogs would ever do anything without major provocation, but it's really unfortunate that we can't feel comfortable in our own home letting our dogs out into the yard. ​ Is there any sort of action we could take, some sort of personal safeguard beyond just keeping our dogs cooped up inside, or is there someone we should talk to to create an official record just in case something happens? The officer said we'd be in the clear unless our dogs were getting over the fence, but are there any potential pitfalls we should look out for? | e8wvipe | e8wmoif | 1,541,167,957 | 1,541,158,182 | 5 | 4 | >the only reason they did is because she piles all her horse's manure right at the fence near our bedroom window and the chickens liked the bugs in it. This sounds like a violation of city code look into it. Most codes specify how animal feces must be dealt with normally with a minimum distance from property lines. Also invest in a home security system preferably one with sound so you can record the frequency of your dogs barking. It will also allow you to see/hear if your neighbor is trying to get your dogs to bark (like knocking on a fence to rile them up) to try and get you cited. Now on a slight side note, your dogs might actually be charging her at the fence. When we aren't with our dogs many times they have midlife crisis and revert to sudo-pack-derp-wolf mode and might do behaviors they would never do with us present. If you aren't outside with your dogs when she goes into her back yard and this happens a camera would capture this if this is the case (doesn't sound like it though). | Do you think your dogs would bark if there was a fence that completely obstructed their view of the neighbor? Do a search for "privacy fence" and "hurricane fence". This may be an expensive fix and your HOA (if you have one) may not like it. It shouldn't be on you to fix their problems, but it's an idea. | 1 | 9,775 | 1.25 |
9tdg92 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Neighbor is afraid of our dogs and won't rest until she gets us in trouble for something TL;DR Old lady neighbor is terrified of our well behaved dogs who stay entirely in our property, and is just waiting to catch us on any kind of violation because she wants them taken away. Is there anything we can do to safeguard ourselves against a spiteful dog-hater? ​ I live with my family in a rented property outside of Reno, NV. We've been here a little under a year now, and since near the beginning of our stay we've had issues with our neighbor, an older lady. We have three dogs, a golden mix, a collie, and an akita mix. None of them are huge or aggressive dogs, but we have a large fenced property and they will bark at people passing by. They also bark at the neighbor when she is out in her yard, but we try to be attentive and call them in whenever we hear them barking. She also has a dog that barks as much or more than ours, some sort of collie mix. ​ Some months back we received a visit from animal control saying that they'd received noise complaints about our dogs barking too much and being aggressive, and our chickens getting into our neighbor's yard. The officer did a quick inspection and found no issues or violations, and had no complaints about the temperaments of our dogs. He said this was an "educational visit" as there was nothing we were actually in violation of, but warned us to make sure our dogs don't bark too much. ​ We paid a visit in person to our neighbor to see if there was a way we could resolve things on a personal level without involving the law. We told her it would have been more neighborly for her to come to us before reporting issues to animal control, and that we were perfectly willing to make reasonable accommodations. We're very careful not to escalate situations and we tried to be very gentle, but our neighbor did not want to listen to reason. She went on and on about how our dogs were monsters and would "charge her" at the fence, and how she'd had a peaceful life until we moved in and we'd "ruined her paradise", and how our dogs didn't have jobs so they just ran wild. Her friend was even in the house with her urging her to consider our good intentions, but she was just getting more hysterical. We wound up leaving and within the next few days we took steps to fix any potential issues. We used construction netting to fence off an additional 6-10 feet of our own yard all along the property line (which is by no means a small area), started being even more vigilant about bringing the dogs in anytime we heard a little barking or saw the neighbor out in her yard, and requested that the landlord think about putting in a fence, possibly splitting the cost with the neighbor. We haven't heard anything about the potential of a fence, and we don't really have the money to make such a large project happen even if the landlord was ok with it. The netting has given more space between her yard and our dogs, and kept the chickens from getting into her yard (the only reason they did is because she piles all her horse's manure right at the fence near our bedroom window and the chickens liked the bugs in it). She still screams at our dogs and stares daggers at us, but we hoped that was the end of things. ​ Today we had another visit from animal control, which was much more candid. I walked out and got our dogs, who were mildly barking at the officer, but they came up to me halfway down the driveway and I took them inside. Chatting with the officer, he said that he has been getting more complaints. He spoke with her personally and she said, "Can you please just find ANY violation?" The officer said she was very upset but there was absolutely nothing he could see wrong with our animals or the way we were doing things. She apparently then said to him, "Fine, I guess when their dogs come over here and kill my dog, then there will be a violation!" He decided to visit for another "educational visit", but really it was a courtesy to us, informing us that we've got a very angry neighbor who will be watching us like a hawk for any potential issue, all because she's afraid of our good boys. ​ Where we stand now is on the right side of the law, but definitely feeling very nervous. We've had insane neighbors before who have vandalized our property and we had one of our dogs get suddenly ill and pass away after eating something it found just inside our fence on that neighbor's property line. That was a different location and situation, but we're understandably nervous about a repeat occurring. I don't think our dogs would ever do anything without major provocation, but it's really unfortunate that we can't feel comfortable in our own home letting our dogs out into the yard. ​ Is there any sort of action we could take, some sort of personal safeguard beyond just keeping our dogs cooped up inside, or is there someone we should talk to to create an official record just in case something happens? The officer said we'd be in the clear unless our dogs were getting over the fence, but are there any potential pitfalls we should look out for? | e8w97km | e8wmoif | 1,541,133,263 | 1,541,158,182 | 2 | 4 | Install cameras and build a tall privacy fence if you can. Next step would be to threaten legal action. I'm not sure you can in this scenario, but you can sure as hell convince her you can! | Do you think your dogs would bark if there was a fence that completely obstructed their view of the neighbor? Do a search for "privacy fence" and "hurricane fence". This may be an expensive fix and your HOA (if you have one) may not like it. It shouldn't be on you to fix their problems, but it's an idea. | 0 | 24,919 | 2 |
9tdg92 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Neighbor is afraid of our dogs and won't rest until she gets us in trouble for something TL;DR Old lady neighbor is terrified of our well behaved dogs who stay entirely in our property, and is just waiting to catch us on any kind of violation because she wants them taken away. Is there anything we can do to safeguard ourselves against a spiteful dog-hater? ​ I live with my family in a rented property outside of Reno, NV. We've been here a little under a year now, and since near the beginning of our stay we've had issues with our neighbor, an older lady. We have three dogs, a golden mix, a collie, and an akita mix. None of them are huge or aggressive dogs, but we have a large fenced property and they will bark at people passing by. They also bark at the neighbor when she is out in her yard, but we try to be attentive and call them in whenever we hear them barking. She also has a dog that barks as much or more than ours, some sort of collie mix. ​ Some months back we received a visit from animal control saying that they'd received noise complaints about our dogs barking too much and being aggressive, and our chickens getting into our neighbor's yard. The officer did a quick inspection and found no issues or violations, and had no complaints about the temperaments of our dogs. He said this was an "educational visit" as there was nothing we were actually in violation of, but warned us to make sure our dogs don't bark too much. ​ We paid a visit in person to our neighbor to see if there was a way we could resolve things on a personal level without involving the law. We told her it would have been more neighborly for her to come to us before reporting issues to animal control, and that we were perfectly willing to make reasonable accommodations. We're very careful not to escalate situations and we tried to be very gentle, but our neighbor did not want to listen to reason. She went on and on about how our dogs were monsters and would "charge her" at the fence, and how she'd had a peaceful life until we moved in and we'd "ruined her paradise", and how our dogs didn't have jobs so they just ran wild. Her friend was even in the house with her urging her to consider our good intentions, but she was just getting more hysterical. We wound up leaving and within the next few days we took steps to fix any potential issues. We used construction netting to fence off an additional 6-10 feet of our own yard all along the property line (which is by no means a small area), started being even more vigilant about bringing the dogs in anytime we heard a little barking or saw the neighbor out in her yard, and requested that the landlord think about putting in a fence, possibly splitting the cost with the neighbor. We haven't heard anything about the potential of a fence, and we don't really have the money to make such a large project happen even if the landlord was ok with it. The netting has given more space between her yard and our dogs, and kept the chickens from getting into her yard (the only reason they did is because she piles all her horse's manure right at the fence near our bedroom window and the chickens liked the bugs in it). She still screams at our dogs and stares daggers at us, but we hoped that was the end of things. ​ Today we had another visit from animal control, which was much more candid. I walked out and got our dogs, who were mildly barking at the officer, but they came up to me halfway down the driveway and I took them inside. Chatting with the officer, he said that he has been getting more complaints. He spoke with her personally and she said, "Can you please just find ANY violation?" The officer said she was very upset but there was absolutely nothing he could see wrong with our animals or the way we were doing things. She apparently then said to him, "Fine, I guess when their dogs come over here and kill my dog, then there will be a violation!" He decided to visit for another "educational visit", but really it was a courtesy to us, informing us that we've got a very angry neighbor who will be watching us like a hawk for any potential issue, all because she's afraid of our good boys. ​ Where we stand now is on the right side of the law, but definitely feeling very nervous. We've had insane neighbors before who have vandalized our property and we had one of our dogs get suddenly ill and pass away after eating something it found just inside our fence on that neighbor's property line. That was a different location and situation, but we're understandably nervous about a repeat occurring. I don't think our dogs would ever do anything without major provocation, but it's really unfortunate that we can't feel comfortable in our own home letting our dogs out into the yard. ​ Is there any sort of action we could take, some sort of personal safeguard beyond just keeping our dogs cooped up inside, or is there someone we should talk to to create an official record just in case something happens? The officer said we'd be in the clear unless our dogs were getting over the fence, but are there any potential pitfalls we should look out for? | e8w97km | e8wvipe | 1,541,133,263 | 1,541,167,957 | 2 | 5 | Install cameras and build a tall privacy fence if you can. Next step would be to threaten legal action. I'm not sure you can in this scenario, but you can sure as hell convince her you can! | >the only reason they did is because she piles all her horse's manure right at the fence near our bedroom window and the chickens liked the bugs in it. This sounds like a violation of city code look into it. Most codes specify how animal feces must be dealt with normally with a minimum distance from property lines. Also invest in a home security system preferably one with sound so you can record the frequency of your dogs barking. It will also allow you to see/hear if your neighbor is trying to get your dogs to bark (like knocking on a fence to rile them up) to try and get you cited. Now on a slight side note, your dogs might actually be charging her at the fence. When we aren't with our dogs many times they have midlife crisis and revert to sudo-pack-derp-wolf mode and might do behaviors they would never do with us present. If you aren't outside with your dogs when she goes into her back yard and this happens a camera would capture this if this is the case (doesn't sound like it though). | 0 | 34,694 | 2.5 |
9tdg92 | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | Neighbor is afraid of our dogs and won't rest until she gets us in trouble for something TL;DR Old lady neighbor is terrified of our well behaved dogs who stay entirely in our property, and is just waiting to catch us on any kind of violation because she wants them taken away. Is there anything we can do to safeguard ourselves against a spiteful dog-hater? ​ I live with my family in a rented property outside of Reno, NV. We've been here a little under a year now, and since near the beginning of our stay we've had issues with our neighbor, an older lady. We have three dogs, a golden mix, a collie, and an akita mix. None of them are huge or aggressive dogs, but we have a large fenced property and they will bark at people passing by. They also bark at the neighbor when she is out in her yard, but we try to be attentive and call them in whenever we hear them barking. She also has a dog that barks as much or more than ours, some sort of collie mix. ​ Some months back we received a visit from animal control saying that they'd received noise complaints about our dogs barking too much and being aggressive, and our chickens getting into our neighbor's yard. The officer did a quick inspection and found no issues or violations, and had no complaints about the temperaments of our dogs. He said this was an "educational visit" as there was nothing we were actually in violation of, but warned us to make sure our dogs don't bark too much. ​ We paid a visit in person to our neighbor to see if there was a way we could resolve things on a personal level without involving the law. We told her it would have been more neighborly for her to come to us before reporting issues to animal control, and that we were perfectly willing to make reasonable accommodations. We're very careful not to escalate situations and we tried to be very gentle, but our neighbor did not want to listen to reason. She went on and on about how our dogs were monsters and would "charge her" at the fence, and how she'd had a peaceful life until we moved in and we'd "ruined her paradise", and how our dogs didn't have jobs so they just ran wild. Her friend was even in the house with her urging her to consider our good intentions, but she was just getting more hysterical. We wound up leaving and within the next few days we took steps to fix any potential issues. We used construction netting to fence off an additional 6-10 feet of our own yard all along the property line (which is by no means a small area), started being even more vigilant about bringing the dogs in anytime we heard a little barking or saw the neighbor out in her yard, and requested that the landlord think about putting in a fence, possibly splitting the cost with the neighbor. We haven't heard anything about the potential of a fence, and we don't really have the money to make such a large project happen even if the landlord was ok with it. The netting has given more space between her yard and our dogs, and kept the chickens from getting into her yard (the only reason they did is because she piles all her horse's manure right at the fence near our bedroom window and the chickens liked the bugs in it). She still screams at our dogs and stares daggers at us, but we hoped that was the end of things. ​ Today we had another visit from animal control, which was much more candid. I walked out and got our dogs, who were mildly barking at the officer, but they came up to me halfway down the driveway and I took them inside. Chatting with the officer, he said that he has been getting more complaints. He spoke with her personally and she said, "Can you please just find ANY violation?" The officer said she was very upset but there was absolutely nothing he could see wrong with our animals or the way we were doing things. She apparently then said to him, "Fine, I guess when their dogs come over here and kill my dog, then there will be a violation!" He decided to visit for another "educational visit", but really it was a courtesy to us, informing us that we've got a very angry neighbor who will be watching us like a hawk for any potential issue, all because she's afraid of our good boys. ​ Where we stand now is on the right side of the law, but definitely feeling very nervous. We've had insane neighbors before who have vandalized our property and we had one of our dogs get suddenly ill and pass away after eating something it found just inside our fence on that neighbor's property line. That was a different location and situation, but we're understandably nervous about a repeat occurring. I don't think our dogs would ever do anything without major provocation, but it's really unfortunate that we can't feel comfortable in our own home letting our dogs out into the yard. ​ Is there any sort of action we could take, some sort of personal safeguard beyond just keeping our dogs cooped up inside, or is there someone we should talk to to create an official record just in case something happens? The officer said we'd be in the clear unless our dogs were getting over the fence, but are there any potential pitfalls we should look out for? | e8wx0lo | e8w97km | 1,541,169,250 | 1,541,133,263 | 3 | 2 | You should train your dogs not to take food given to them over that fence. Ive heard a few stories about people in your position having their dogs poisoned. | Install cameras and build a tall privacy fence if you can. Next step would be to threaten legal action. I'm not sure you can in this scenario, but you can sure as hell convince her you can! | 1 | 35,987 | 1.5 |
2k3qhj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Update: My bosses refused to pay us for a mandatory 6-hour training seminar. I cited labor law and requested pay. They are now encouraging me to quit and making it clear that I will be let go soon. NEED ADVICE please on how to proceed... Basically, my bosses sent an email detailing their refusal to pay us for a training seminar we were all forced to attend in another city last week. Their reason for not paying us was "clerical errors" from last year and that this was "not in the budget"; directly from the email "In short, consider your meals and education your compensation." Via email the next morning, I very politely and simply cited labor law and requested to be paid for 7.5 hours. As a result, I was pulled aside yesterday twice, once by each of the bosses (there are two, a husband and wife) and told to reconsider my future with the company. The first boss told me to consider this a warning for all of the mistakes I make (this is completely out of the blue, by the way); she said make any more mistakes and you are being let go. A few hours later, I was reprimanded by boss #2 for being a "spokesperson" for my fellow employees in my email. He told me to strongly reconsider my future with the company. He made condescending remarks about my part-time status and the amount of money I was requesting. Also threatened that they would "come after" me if I was let go and tried to get unemployment. I repeatedly and calmly made it clear that all I wanted was to be paid for my time. My bosses have announced that we are all getting "bonuses" out of the blue. I assume this is their budget/tax-friendly way of compensating us for that day. I am content with that, however my bosses have now made it VERY clear (without saying it directly) that I will be let go very soon. It is a matter of time and a matter of what mistake they decide to fire me for. I feel very singled out and bullied. I do not want to be fired. Any help would be very appreciated. | cli2swr | cli1n6s | 1,414,111,494 | 1,414,109,042 | 4 | 2 | Don't be intimidated by filing unemployment. document all these latest conversations - dates/times/ and the day you are fired, go straight to the unemployment office. bring a book, fill out all the tedious paperwork... They do ask one question I thought was funny. "Why do you REALLY think you were fired?" I had a field day with that answer. Boss fought it and I won. So much so, the person who conducted the telephone hearing told me... "you should see the nine page diatribe your boss sent us." | Ianal but have done the unemployment dance with a former employer (they said I quit because I lacked transportation, I was fired for cause but earned enough in my time there for it to be unimportant). File for unemployment if they let you go. If you are denied unemployment through them, appeal it and explain your side. Good luck. | 1 | 2,452 | 2 |
2k3qhj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Update: My bosses refused to pay us for a mandatory 6-hour training seminar. I cited labor law and requested pay. They are now encouraging me to quit and making it clear that I will be let go soon. NEED ADVICE please on how to proceed... Basically, my bosses sent an email detailing their refusal to pay us for a training seminar we were all forced to attend in another city last week. Their reason for not paying us was "clerical errors" from last year and that this was "not in the budget"; directly from the email "In short, consider your meals and education your compensation." Via email the next morning, I very politely and simply cited labor law and requested to be paid for 7.5 hours. As a result, I was pulled aside yesterday twice, once by each of the bosses (there are two, a husband and wife) and told to reconsider my future with the company. The first boss told me to consider this a warning for all of the mistakes I make (this is completely out of the blue, by the way); she said make any more mistakes and you are being let go. A few hours later, I was reprimanded by boss #2 for being a "spokesperson" for my fellow employees in my email. He told me to strongly reconsider my future with the company. He made condescending remarks about my part-time status and the amount of money I was requesting. Also threatened that they would "come after" me if I was let go and tried to get unemployment. I repeatedly and calmly made it clear that all I wanted was to be paid for my time. My bosses have announced that we are all getting "bonuses" out of the blue. I assume this is their budget/tax-friendly way of compensating us for that day. I am content with that, however my bosses have now made it VERY clear (without saying it directly) that I will be let go very soon. It is a matter of time and a matter of what mistake they decide to fire me for. I feel very singled out and bullied. I do not want to be fired. Any help would be very appreciated. | clibff5 | cli1n6s | 1,414,132,634 | 1,414,109,042 | 3 | 2 | OP, I posted this in a thread below but want to make sure you see it. As some have said, taking emails home could bite you. But I believe you need to do it, so *don't get caught when you do.* If and when you need those emails in court, your copies are how you show your lawyer exactly what he needs to look for in the company's email records. I don't know if you can subpoena emails in a labor dispute case, but if you can, your copy tells you exactly which emails to go after. Worst case scenario, if you can't subpoena emails and can't use the ones you took (no idea there either), at very least you can show them to your lawyer to show that you have a strong case. Here are my guesses at the best ways to get that info out, in order of least noticeable (1) to most noticeable (6): 1. Save them to a thumbdrive. (Least noticeable. The computer will have no logs of this file copy. Network guys have to be watching very, very closely to notice anything.) 1. Save just the relevant messages to a small file, ZIP that file and send it to yourself via Google Drive or Dropbox, or some other cloud storage / chat system that supports attachments. Or a friend, via Facebook chat file attachment. (All this will look like web traffic. They'll probably think you're watching YouTube.) 1. Take pictures of the emails using the camera on your phone. Not the best, but you'll get the from-who, to-who, when, and some contents very discreetly. (Just turn off the camera shutter sound effect.) 1. Send your entire email archive (gigabytes) to an FTP account. (The full archive will be very large, easy for a network guy to notice and stop before it completes. If someone's watching network traffic, they might catch you here, but will have to see what your workstation is doing to know what you're up to.) 1. Email specific, relevant emails to a new email address that you create just for this purpose. (This will appear in logs, server records. It will be very obvious that you did this, if anyone looks in the right place.) 1. Print out specific, relevant emails. (Anyone next to the printer can see the emails coming out. Anyone who prints at the same time will wonder why their job is taking a long time. The print jobs will also be logged, and can be viewed later and traced back to you, just like the emails. Also I'm sure the bosses will say it "wastes company resources" and use that to fire you. If the bosses notice the print jobs before they complete, they can stop them and escort you out of the building without the papers.) <--- I don't recommend this option unless you have discreet access to a small "home-office style" printer close to your office or cubicle. The small ones probably don't keep logs. **Here's how you get the messages out of Outlook.** 1. Make a folder to put them in. A thumbdrive is a good place. 1. Do a search that pulls up the relevant emails. For example, search for emails where the From: field is your bosses. 1. Select all of the emails you want to save in Outlook using shift+click or ctrl+click. 1. There are two ways to save them. **Method 1:** Use File -> Save. They will all end up in one big text file. **Method 2:** Drag the emails directly from the Outlook window to the folder you made. They will each save as a separate .eml file, and the file name will be each email's subject line. 1. Right-click that folder you saved all the emails in. Use Send To -> Compressed (Zipped) Folder. They will all get packaged up nice and small. 1. If you can't put them on a thumbdrive, sign up for a Google account and add that zip file to Google Drive. Then just download it when you get home. Or send it to a friend as a Facebook chat attachment. If you need to, you can use these instructions to locate the entire PST file that contains all of your emails. That file will be very big, and will contain much more of the proprietary information that can be a problem for you if you're caught. I recommend this only if the company is not outfitted with a professional I.T. department. If it's just one or two guys barely keeping everything running, they probably won't notice several gigs flying around. If it's a big place and they have a real team and run a smooth operation, and your bosses have alerted them to watch for anything suspicious, there are ways they can notice a big file copy like that. I doubt even the most well-oiled I.T. machine would notice a few emails copying to a Google Drive though. So try that first. | Ianal but have done the unemployment dance with a former employer (they said I quit because I lacked transportation, I was fired for cause but earned enough in my time there for it to be unimportant). File for unemployment if they let you go. If you are denied unemployment through them, appeal it and explain your side. Good luck. | 1 | 23,592 | 1.5 |
2k3qhj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Update: My bosses refused to pay us for a mandatory 6-hour training seminar. I cited labor law and requested pay. They are now encouraging me to quit and making it clear that I will be let go soon. NEED ADVICE please on how to proceed... Basically, my bosses sent an email detailing their refusal to pay us for a training seminar we were all forced to attend in another city last week. Their reason for not paying us was "clerical errors" from last year and that this was "not in the budget"; directly from the email "In short, consider your meals and education your compensation." Via email the next morning, I very politely and simply cited labor law and requested to be paid for 7.5 hours. As a result, I was pulled aside yesterday twice, once by each of the bosses (there are two, a husband and wife) and told to reconsider my future with the company. The first boss told me to consider this a warning for all of the mistakes I make (this is completely out of the blue, by the way); she said make any more mistakes and you are being let go. A few hours later, I was reprimanded by boss #2 for being a "spokesperson" for my fellow employees in my email. He told me to strongly reconsider my future with the company. He made condescending remarks about my part-time status and the amount of money I was requesting. Also threatened that they would "come after" me if I was let go and tried to get unemployment. I repeatedly and calmly made it clear that all I wanted was to be paid for my time. My bosses have announced that we are all getting "bonuses" out of the blue. I assume this is their budget/tax-friendly way of compensating us for that day. I am content with that, however my bosses have now made it VERY clear (without saying it directly) that I will be let go very soon. It is a matter of time and a matter of what mistake they decide to fire me for. I feel very singled out and bullied. I do not want to be fired. Any help would be very appreciated. | clibff5 | cli7im9 | 1,414,132,634 | 1,414,121,044 | 3 | 2 | OP, I posted this in a thread below but want to make sure you see it. As some have said, taking emails home could bite you. But I believe you need to do it, so *don't get caught when you do.* If and when you need those emails in court, your copies are how you show your lawyer exactly what he needs to look for in the company's email records. I don't know if you can subpoena emails in a labor dispute case, but if you can, your copy tells you exactly which emails to go after. Worst case scenario, if you can't subpoena emails and can't use the ones you took (no idea there either), at very least you can show them to your lawyer to show that you have a strong case. Here are my guesses at the best ways to get that info out, in order of least noticeable (1) to most noticeable (6): 1. Save them to a thumbdrive. (Least noticeable. The computer will have no logs of this file copy. Network guys have to be watching very, very closely to notice anything.) 1. Save just the relevant messages to a small file, ZIP that file and send it to yourself via Google Drive or Dropbox, or some other cloud storage / chat system that supports attachments. Or a friend, via Facebook chat file attachment. (All this will look like web traffic. They'll probably think you're watching YouTube.) 1. Take pictures of the emails using the camera on your phone. Not the best, but you'll get the from-who, to-who, when, and some contents very discreetly. (Just turn off the camera shutter sound effect.) 1. Send your entire email archive (gigabytes) to an FTP account. (The full archive will be very large, easy for a network guy to notice and stop before it completes. If someone's watching network traffic, they might catch you here, but will have to see what your workstation is doing to know what you're up to.) 1. Email specific, relevant emails to a new email address that you create just for this purpose. (This will appear in logs, server records. It will be very obvious that you did this, if anyone looks in the right place.) 1. Print out specific, relevant emails. (Anyone next to the printer can see the emails coming out. Anyone who prints at the same time will wonder why their job is taking a long time. The print jobs will also be logged, and can be viewed later and traced back to you, just like the emails. Also I'm sure the bosses will say it "wastes company resources" and use that to fire you. If the bosses notice the print jobs before they complete, they can stop them and escort you out of the building without the papers.) <--- I don't recommend this option unless you have discreet access to a small "home-office style" printer close to your office or cubicle. The small ones probably don't keep logs. **Here's how you get the messages out of Outlook.** 1. Make a folder to put them in. A thumbdrive is a good place. 1. Do a search that pulls up the relevant emails. For example, search for emails where the From: field is your bosses. 1. Select all of the emails you want to save in Outlook using shift+click or ctrl+click. 1. There are two ways to save them. **Method 1:** Use File -> Save. They will all end up in one big text file. **Method 2:** Drag the emails directly from the Outlook window to the folder you made. They will each save as a separate .eml file, and the file name will be each email's subject line. 1. Right-click that folder you saved all the emails in. Use Send To -> Compressed (Zipped) Folder. They will all get packaged up nice and small. 1. If you can't put them on a thumbdrive, sign up for a Google account and add that zip file to Google Drive. Then just download it when you get home. Or send it to a friend as a Facebook chat attachment. If you need to, you can use these instructions to locate the entire PST file that contains all of your emails. That file will be very big, and will contain much more of the proprietary information that can be a problem for you if you're caught. I recommend this only if the company is not outfitted with a professional I.T. department. If it's just one or two guys barely keeping everything running, they probably won't notice several gigs flying around. If it's a big place and they have a real team and run a smooth operation, and your bosses have alerted them to watch for anything suspicious, there are ways they can notice a big file copy like that. I doubt even the most well-oiled I.T. machine would notice a few emails copying to a Google Drive though. So try that first. | Have a look at the recent National Labor Relations Board determination in Plaza Auto Center, 360 NLRB No. 117 (2014). An employee who was fired after complaining about working conditions (including use of profanity) was entitled to reinstatement! Here's a link to a law firm memo about the matter: http://rllaz.com/empolyment-law/nlrb-rules-arizona-non-union-employee-could-not-be-terminated-for-profanity-laden-confrontation-with-business-owner/ | 1 | 11,590 | 1.5 |
2k3qhj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Update: My bosses refused to pay us for a mandatory 6-hour training seminar. I cited labor law and requested pay. They are now encouraging me to quit and making it clear that I will be let go soon. NEED ADVICE please on how to proceed... Basically, my bosses sent an email detailing their refusal to pay us for a training seminar we were all forced to attend in another city last week. Their reason for not paying us was "clerical errors" from last year and that this was "not in the budget"; directly from the email "In short, consider your meals and education your compensation." Via email the next morning, I very politely and simply cited labor law and requested to be paid for 7.5 hours. As a result, I was pulled aside yesterday twice, once by each of the bosses (there are two, a husband and wife) and told to reconsider my future with the company. The first boss told me to consider this a warning for all of the mistakes I make (this is completely out of the blue, by the way); she said make any more mistakes and you are being let go. A few hours later, I was reprimanded by boss #2 for being a "spokesperson" for my fellow employees in my email. He told me to strongly reconsider my future with the company. He made condescending remarks about my part-time status and the amount of money I was requesting. Also threatened that they would "come after" me if I was let go and tried to get unemployment. I repeatedly and calmly made it clear that all I wanted was to be paid for my time. My bosses have announced that we are all getting "bonuses" out of the blue. I assume this is their budget/tax-friendly way of compensating us for that day. I am content with that, however my bosses have now made it VERY clear (without saying it directly) that I will be let go very soon. It is a matter of time and a matter of what mistake they decide to fire me for. I feel very singled out and bullied. I do not want to be fired. Any help would be very appreciated. | clibff5 | cli8eyo | 1,414,132,634 | 1,414,123,123 | 3 | 2 | OP, I posted this in a thread below but want to make sure you see it. As some have said, taking emails home could bite you. But I believe you need to do it, so *don't get caught when you do.* If and when you need those emails in court, your copies are how you show your lawyer exactly what he needs to look for in the company's email records. I don't know if you can subpoena emails in a labor dispute case, but if you can, your copy tells you exactly which emails to go after. Worst case scenario, if you can't subpoena emails and can't use the ones you took (no idea there either), at very least you can show them to your lawyer to show that you have a strong case. Here are my guesses at the best ways to get that info out, in order of least noticeable (1) to most noticeable (6): 1. Save them to a thumbdrive. (Least noticeable. The computer will have no logs of this file copy. Network guys have to be watching very, very closely to notice anything.) 1. Save just the relevant messages to a small file, ZIP that file and send it to yourself via Google Drive or Dropbox, or some other cloud storage / chat system that supports attachments. Or a friend, via Facebook chat file attachment. (All this will look like web traffic. They'll probably think you're watching YouTube.) 1. Take pictures of the emails using the camera on your phone. Not the best, but you'll get the from-who, to-who, when, and some contents very discreetly. (Just turn off the camera shutter sound effect.) 1. Send your entire email archive (gigabytes) to an FTP account. (The full archive will be very large, easy for a network guy to notice and stop before it completes. If someone's watching network traffic, they might catch you here, but will have to see what your workstation is doing to know what you're up to.) 1. Email specific, relevant emails to a new email address that you create just for this purpose. (This will appear in logs, server records. It will be very obvious that you did this, if anyone looks in the right place.) 1. Print out specific, relevant emails. (Anyone next to the printer can see the emails coming out. Anyone who prints at the same time will wonder why their job is taking a long time. The print jobs will also be logged, and can be viewed later and traced back to you, just like the emails. Also I'm sure the bosses will say it "wastes company resources" and use that to fire you. If the bosses notice the print jobs before they complete, they can stop them and escort you out of the building without the papers.) <--- I don't recommend this option unless you have discreet access to a small "home-office style" printer close to your office or cubicle. The small ones probably don't keep logs. **Here's how you get the messages out of Outlook.** 1. Make a folder to put them in. A thumbdrive is a good place. 1. Do a search that pulls up the relevant emails. For example, search for emails where the From: field is your bosses. 1. Select all of the emails you want to save in Outlook using shift+click or ctrl+click. 1. There are two ways to save them. **Method 1:** Use File -> Save. They will all end up in one big text file. **Method 2:** Drag the emails directly from the Outlook window to the folder you made. They will each save as a separate .eml file, and the file name will be each email's subject line. 1. Right-click that folder you saved all the emails in. Use Send To -> Compressed (Zipped) Folder. They will all get packaged up nice and small. 1. If you can't put them on a thumbdrive, sign up for a Google account and add that zip file to Google Drive. Then just download it when you get home. Or send it to a friend as a Facebook chat attachment. If you need to, you can use these instructions to locate the entire PST file that contains all of your emails. That file will be very big, and will contain much more of the proprietary information that can be a problem for you if you're caught. I recommend this only if the company is not outfitted with a professional I.T. department. If it's just one or two guys barely keeping everything running, they probably won't notice several gigs flying around. If it's a big place and they have a real team and run a smooth operation, and your bosses have alerted them to watch for anything suspicious, there are ways they can notice a big file copy like that. I doubt even the most well-oiled I.T. machine would notice a few emails copying to a Google Drive though. So try that first. | Three words - hostile. work. environment. Call the EEOC and your state's department of labor. Hopefully your employer has more than 15 employees (a lot of labor protections are N/A under a certain number of employees). If you are a female, 2x multiplier. If you are a black female 4x bonus on top of multiplier! If you have any type of qualifying ADA condition, you done struck gold. In all seriousness, your employer cannot threaten your livelihood because you brought the application of the Wage and Hours Act to their attention. | 1 | 9,511 | 1.5 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gzxz0 | i9h2ka0 | 1,653,154,500 | 1,653,155,701 | 586 | 909 | > my birthday, social security number, and personal information Why does your HOA want this information? Is there something in the CC&Rs that entitles them to it? If there isn't, they can pound sand. | Skipping the HOA stuff and the lack of a discernible question—**do NOT give your DOJ or FBI criminal history record to the Clerk of the Court, unless the judge orders you to** (and they will not). Those complete documents (including your SSN and other personal info) will become part of the case record and will be visible to anyone who pulls the case file (i.e., the public). That’s a bad thing and will not help your case at all. Edit to add: an advantage to going through a third party background check service is that it avoids revealing criminal records directly to the employer, leasing agent, or whoever is requesting the check. Most services give either a pass or fail result. Some services will give summary information on fails or records of concern, then it’s usually up to the person making the request to follow up further. FBI and DOJ records can have an enormous amount of personal data on them—a lot of that information requires more context to understand what those entries may mean. For example, an arrest for a crime may not result in a conviction that would disqualify an applicant. Without specific knowledge of how to read these records and where to obtain follow up info, an incorrect eligibility determination may result. | 0 | 1,201 | 1.551195 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gqdbr | i9h2ka0 | 1,653,150,140 | 1,653,155,701 | 111 | 909 | Your SSN is not a personal identifier. Don't supply it. You'll win your case. Draw up a cease and desist letter and serve it too them as well. | Skipping the HOA stuff and the lack of a discernible question—**do NOT give your DOJ or FBI criminal history record to the Clerk of the Court, unless the judge orders you to** (and they will not). Those complete documents (including your SSN and other personal info) will become part of the case record and will be visible to anyone who pulls the case file (i.e., the public). That’s a bad thing and will not help your case at all. Edit to add: an advantage to going through a third party background check service is that it avoids revealing criminal records directly to the employer, leasing agent, or whoever is requesting the check. Most services give either a pass or fail result. Some services will give summary information on fails or records of concern, then it’s usually up to the person making the request to follow up further. FBI and DOJ records can have an enormous amount of personal data on them—a lot of that information requires more context to understand what those entries may mean. For example, an arrest for a crime may not result in a conviction that would disqualify an applicant. Without specific knowledge of how to read these records and where to obtain follow up info, an incorrect eligibility determination may result. | 0 | 5,561 | 8.189189 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9h2ka0 | i9gmuds | 1,653,155,701 | 1,653,148,524 | 909 | 108 | Skipping the HOA stuff and the lack of a discernible question—**do NOT give your DOJ or FBI criminal history record to the Clerk of the Court, unless the judge orders you to** (and they will not). Those complete documents (including your SSN and other personal info) will become part of the case record and will be visible to anyone who pulls the case file (i.e., the public). That’s a bad thing and will not help your case at all. Edit to add: an advantage to going through a third party background check service is that it avoids revealing criminal records directly to the employer, leasing agent, or whoever is requesting the check. Most services give either a pass or fail result. Some services will give summary information on fails or records of concern, then it’s usually up to the person making the request to follow up further. FBI and DOJ records can have an enormous amount of personal data on them—a lot of that information requires more context to understand what those entries may mean. For example, an arrest for a crime may not result in a conviction that would disqualify an applicant. Without specific knowledge of how to read these records and where to obtain follow up info, an incorrect eligibility determination may result. | This is completely dependent on the bylaws for your community. | 1 | 7,177 | 8.416667 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9h2ka0 | i9h0lqa | 1,653,155,701 | 1,653,154,801 | 909 | 42 | Skipping the HOA stuff and the lack of a discernible question—**do NOT give your DOJ or FBI criminal history record to the Clerk of the Court, unless the judge orders you to** (and they will not). Those complete documents (including your SSN and other personal info) will become part of the case record and will be visible to anyone who pulls the case file (i.e., the public). That’s a bad thing and will not help your case at all. Edit to add: an advantage to going through a third party background check service is that it avoids revealing criminal records directly to the employer, leasing agent, or whoever is requesting the check. Most services give either a pass or fail result. Some services will give summary information on fails or records of concern, then it’s usually up to the person making the request to follow up further. FBI and DOJ records can have an enormous amount of personal data on them—a lot of that information requires more context to understand what those entries may mean. For example, an arrest for a crime may not result in a conviction that would disqualify an applicant. Without specific knowledge of how to read these records and where to obtain follow up info, an incorrect eligibility determination may result. | So many questions before I can help guide you. Do you own your home? What is the reason they are doing the background check? Did you mention what state this is in? | 1 | 900 | 21.642857 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gnikq | i9h2ka0 | 1,653,148,831 | 1,653,155,701 | 39 | 909 | Are you already a member of the HOA? | Skipping the HOA stuff and the lack of a discernible question—**do NOT give your DOJ or FBI criminal history record to the Clerk of the Court, unless the judge orders you to** (and they will not). Those complete documents (including your SSN and other personal info) will become part of the case record and will be visible to anyone who pulls the case file (i.e., the public). That’s a bad thing and will not help your case at all. Edit to add: an advantage to going through a third party background check service is that it avoids revealing criminal records directly to the employer, leasing agent, or whoever is requesting the check. Most services give either a pass or fail result. Some services will give summary information on fails or records of concern, then it’s usually up to the person making the request to follow up further. FBI and DOJ records can have an enormous amount of personal data on them—a lot of that information requires more context to understand what those entries may mean. For example, an arrest for a crime may not result in a conviction that would disqualify an applicant. Without specific knowledge of how to read these records and where to obtain follow up info, an incorrect eligibility determination may result. | 0 | 6,870 | 23.307692 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gzxz0 | i9hiw82 | 1,653,154,500 | 1,653,163,609 | 586 | 640 | > my birthday, social security number, and personal information Why does your HOA want this information? Is there something in the CC&Rs that entitles them to it? If there isn't, they can pound sand. | I am not a lawyer. I have applied for a job with a company that uses Sterling for pre-employment checks. While I did provide SSN and DOB to the company as part of the process, all information provided _for the purpose of background checks_ was provided directly to Sterling. I would be suspicious of a request that sounds like the HOA wants to be the one to input the data. | 0 | 9,109 | 1.09215 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gqdbr | i9hiw82 | 1,653,150,140 | 1,653,163,609 | 111 | 640 | Your SSN is not a personal identifier. Don't supply it. You'll win your case. Draw up a cease and desist letter and serve it too them as well. | I am not a lawyer. I have applied for a job with a company that uses Sterling for pre-employment checks. While I did provide SSN and DOB to the company as part of the process, all information provided _for the purpose of background checks_ was provided directly to Sterling. I would be suspicious of a request that sounds like the HOA wants to be the one to input the data. | 0 | 13,469 | 5.765766 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9hiw82 | i9gmuds | 1,653,163,609 | 1,653,148,524 | 640 | 108 | I am not a lawyer. I have applied for a job with a company that uses Sterling for pre-employment checks. While I did provide SSN and DOB to the company as part of the process, all information provided _for the purpose of background checks_ was provided directly to Sterling. I would be suspicious of a request that sounds like the HOA wants to be the one to input the data. | This is completely dependent on the bylaws for your community. | 1 | 15,085 | 5.925926 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9hiw82 | i9heyhs | 1,653,163,609 | 1,653,161,668 | 640 | 52 | I am not a lawyer. I have applied for a job with a company that uses Sterling for pre-employment checks. While I did provide SSN and DOB to the company as part of the process, all information provided _for the purpose of background checks_ was provided directly to Sterling. I would be suspicious of a request that sounds like the HOA wants to be the one to input the data. | The HOA is neither your employer nor a financial reporter. Do not share your SSN. Period. | 1 | 1,941 | 12.307692 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9h0lqa | i9hiw82 | 1,653,154,801 | 1,653,163,609 | 42 | 640 | So many questions before I can help guide you. Do you own your home? What is the reason they are doing the background check? Did you mention what state this is in? | I am not a lawyer. I have applied for a job with a company that uses Sterling for pre-employment checks. While I did provide SSN and DOB to the company as part of the process, all information provided _for the purpose of background checks_ was provided directly to Sterling. I would be suspicious of a request that sounds like the HOA wants to be the one to input the data. | 0 | 8,808 | 15.238095 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gnikq | i9hiw82 | 1,653,148,831 | 1,653,163,609 | 39 | 640 | Are you already a member of the HOA? | I am not a lawyer. I have applied for a job with a company that uses Sterling for pre-employment checks. While I did provide SSN and DOB to the company as part of the process, all information provided _for the purpose of background checks_ was provided directly to Sterling. I would be suspicious of a request that sounds like the HOA wants to be the one to input the data. | 0 | 14,778 | 16.410256 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gzxz0 | i9gqdbr | 1,653,154,500 | 1,653,150,140 | 586 | 111 | > my birthday, social security number, and personal information Why does your HOA want this information? Is there something in the CC&Rs that entitles them to it? If there isn't, they can pound sand. | Your SSN is not a personal identifier. Don't supply it. You'll win your case. Draw up a cease and desist letter and serve it too them as well. | 1 | 4,360 | 5.279279 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gzxz0 | i9gmuds | 1,653,154,500 | 1,653,148,524 | 586 | 108 | > my birthday, social security number, and personal information Why does your HOA want this information? Is there something in the CC&Rs that entitles them to it? If there isn't, they can pound sand. | This is completely dependent on the bylaws for your community. | 1 | 5,976 | 5.425926 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gnikq | i9gzxz0 | 1,653,148,831 | 1,653,154,500 | 39 | 586 | Are you already a member of the HOA? | > my birthday, social security number, and personal information Why does your HOA want this information? Is there something in the CC&Rs that entitles them to it? If there isn't, they can pound sand. | 0 | 5,669 | 15.025641 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gqdbr | i9hoecp | 1,653,150,140 | 1,653,166,345 | 111 | 170 | Your SSN is not a personal identifier. Don't supply it. You'll win your case. Draw up a cease and desist letter and serve it too them as well. | I used to represent HOAs in California and am glad I got out of that area of law. However, I never seen any legal reason why an HOA would need a criminal history at all. Is this some sort of development where the HOA has the authority to screen or approve buyers? HOA law is state-specific, so you should take the CC&Rs and other governing documents to a real estate attorney for review. | 0 | 16,205 | 1.531532 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9hoecp | i9gmuds | 1,653,166,345 | 1,653,148,524 | 170 | 108 | I used to represent HOAs in California and am glad I got out of that area of law. However, I never seen any legal reason why an HOA would need a criminal history at all. Is this some sort of development where the HOA has the authority to screen or approve buyers? HOA law is state-specific, so you should take the CC&Rs and other governing documents to a real estate attorney for review. | This is completely dependent on the bylaws for your community. | 1 | 17,821 | 1.574074 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9hoecp | i9heyhs | 1,653,166,345 | 1,653,161,668 | 170 | 52 | I used to represent HOAs in California and am glad I got out of that area of law. However, I never seen any legal reason why an HOA would need a criminal history at all. Is this some sort of development where the HOA has the authority to screen or approve buyers? HOA law is state-specific, so you should take the CC&Rs and other governing documents to a real estate attorney for review. | The HOA is neither your employer nor a financial reporter. Do not share your SSN. Period. | 1 | 4,677 | 3.269231 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9hoecp | i9h0lqa | 1,653,166,345 | 1,653,154,801 | 170 | 42 | I used to represent HOAs in California and am glad I got out of that area of law. However, I never seen any legal reason why an HOA would need a criminal history at all. Is this some sort of development where the HOA has the authority to screen or approve buyers? HOA law is state-specific, so you should take the CC&Rs and other governing documents to a real estate attorney for review. | So many questions before I can help guide you. Do you own your home? What is the reason they are doing the background check? Did you mention what state this is in? | 1 | 11,544 | 4.047619 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gnikq | i9hoecp | 1,653,148,831 | 1,653,166,345 | 39 | 170 | Are you already a member of the HOA? | I used to represent HOAs in California and am glad I got out of that area of law. However, I never seen any legal reason why an HOA would need a criminal history at all. Is this some sort of development where the HOA has the authority to screen or approve buyers? HOA law is state-specific, so you should take the CC&Rs and other governing documents to a real estate attorney for review. | 0 | 17,514 | 4.358974 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gmuds | i9gqdbr | 1,653,148,524 | 1,653,150,140 | 108 | 111 | This is completely dependent on the bylaws for your community. | Your SSN is not a personal identifier. Don't supply it. You'll win your case. Draw up a cease and desist letter and serve it too them as well. | 0 | 1,616 | 1.027778 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gqdbr | i9gnikq | 1,653,150,140 | 1,653,148,831 | 111 | 39 | Your SSN is not a personal identifier. Don't supply it. You'll win your case. Draw up a cease and desist letter and serve it too them as well. | Are you already a member of the HOA? | 1 | 1,309 | 2.846154 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9h0lqa | i9heyhs | 1,653,154,801 | 1,653,161,668 | 42 | 52 | So many questions before I can help guide you. Do you own your home? What is the reason they are doing the background check? Did you mention what state this is in? | The HOA is neither your employer nor a financial reporter. Do not share your SSN. Period. | 0 | 6,867 | 1.238095 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9heyhs | i9gnikq | 1,653,161,668 | 1,653,148,831 | 52 | 39 | The HOA is neither your employer nor a financial reporter. Do not share your SSN. Period. | Are you already a member of the HOA? | 1 | 12,837 | 1.333333 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9gnikq | i9h0lqa | 1,653,148,831 | 1,653,154,801 | 39 | 42 | Are you already a member of the HOA? | So many questions before I can help guide you. Do you own your home? What is the reason they are doing the background check? Did you mention what state this is in? | 0 | 5,970 | 1.076923 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9hor26 | i9ifu01 | 1,653,166,523 | 1,653,180,863 | 2 | 27 | there's a whole industry of companies that do background checks for employers of various industries. whatever it is exactly that those companies do, they've convinced industry that they are a better alternative than what you get when you send fifty bucks to an FBI channeler. they might be making a mistake, but it's not surprising they want to stick with their established practice, rather than let every applicant do their own background check, however the applicant prefers to do it. they don't want to be experts in background checking, and due diligence means they can't trust the background checked to do the background checking. that doesn't mean that HOA needs your info for you to get background checked. there should be paperwork allowing you to contact the checking agency, and allowing the agency to share results with the HOA. | First, check the bylaws to see if they have a contractual right to this information. Second, check with a lawyer to see if this contractual right is enforceable. Third, check with a lawyer to see if a reasonable concern (the law suit) would make a substitute performance (the FBI check) legally permissible. Dollars to donuts no judge would require a specific service be used, but you may have to go to court to avoid it. Fuck HOAs. | 0 | 14,340 | 13.5 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9il74p | i9hor26 | 1,653,183,743 | 1,653,166,523 | 9 | 2 | I can't fathom why an HOA would need a background check. Do you own or rent? | there's a whole industry of companies that do background checks for employers of various industries. whatever it is exactly that those companies do, they've convinced industry that they are a better alternative than what you get when you send fifty bucks to an FBI channeler. they might be making a mistake, but it's not surprising they want to stick with their established practice, rather than let every applicant do their own background check, however the applicant prefers to do it. they don't want to be experts in background checking, and due diligence means they can't trust the background checked to do the background checking. that doesn't mean that HOA needs your info for you to get background checked. there should be paperwork allowing you to contact the checking agency, and allowing the agency to share results with the HOA. | 1 | 17,220 | 4.5 |
uupy31 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | A homeowner's association (HOA) refuses to let me use an FBI background check or a DOJ state background check to prove that I do not have a criminal record. I recently received a letter from the HOA asking for my birthday, social security number, and personal information to be given to a third party who uses Sterling to verify criminal history and credit information. From what I can see, the third part is currently being sued in district court for a consumer credit case. Now, I am waiting for my Pacer code to be able to access the information about the subject. In addition, their reviews are nothing other than one star on every review site. As a result, I refuse to give my information to this third party. When I told the board members of the HOA that I was planning to get a DOJ state background check and an FBI background check to show that I do not have a criminal record, without hesitation, the HOA told me that it was not an option. If the HOA plans to evict me, place a lien on my home, or sue me in civil court, I am prepared to submit the DOJ state background check and the FBI background check to the clerk while I wait for my court date. | i9hor26 | i9j28ss | 1,653,166,523 | 1,653,193,692 | 2 | 5 | there's a whole industry of companies that do background checks for employers of various industries. whatever it is exactly that those companies do, they've convinced industry that they are a better alternative than what you get when you send fifty bucks to an FBI channeler. they might be making a mistake, but it's not surprising they want to stick with their established practice, rather than let every applicant do their own background check, however the applicant prefers to do it. they don't want to be experts in background checking, and due diligence means they can't trust the background checked to do the background checking. that doesn't mean that HOA needs your info for you to get background checked. there should be paperwork allowing you to contact the checking agency, and allowing the agency to share results with the HOA. | This is a terrible idea and won’t end the way you think it will. As a private entity, they can set the terms of what background check they will accept. They don’t have to accept records from a government agency. And then submitting it to the court as evidence? Uhh…don’t do that. One, it’s not relevant because of my earlier statement. Two, that information then becomes public record attached to the case file. Having that out there can only harm you in the future. | 0 | 27,169 | 2.5 |
fqk2fh | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My step dad and mom claimed me as a dependent on their taxes. They say they can. I don't believe they can. 3 questions: Can they claim me legally? Ethically should I let them claim me? Would I miss out on the stimulus money by letting them claim me? My 2019 income: 26,000 Current age: 22 Location: Indiana, USA I work full time, not disabled and have never been to college. I lived with my parents for most of 2019. I paid give or take about half of my expenses (I paid for all food, medical bills, car maintenance, phone they provided me a room in their home and paid utilities.) I moved into my own apartment in the last month of the year in December. I have not yet filed my taxes, but my mom and step dad said they already have and claimed me. | flr33gm | flr34fa | 1,585,411,959 | 1,585,411,975 | 45 | 264 | You are too old to be claimed as a dependent. If you are not a full-time student and are older than 18, your parent can not claim you. | They cannot. File your own return as Single. They will have to amend theirs. Edit: if they try this again, file first. If they eFile after you the IRS will bounce back their return. | 0 | 16 | 5.866667 |
fqk2fh | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My step dad and mom claimed me as a dependent on their taxes. They say they can. I don't believe they can. 3 questions: Can they claim me legally? Ethically should I let them claim me? Would I miss out on the stimulus money by letting them claim me? My 2019 income: 26,000 Current age: 22 Location: Indiana, USA I work full time, not disabled and have never been to college. I lived with my parents for most of 2019. I paid give or take about half of my expenses (I paid for all food, medical bills, car maintenance, phone they provided me a room in their home and paid utilities.) I moved into my own apartment in the last month of the year in December. I have not yet filed my taxes, but my mom and step dad said they already have and claimed me. | flr34fa | flqoblr | 1,585,411,975 | 1,585,401,757 | 264 | 2 | They cannot. File your own return as Single. They will have to amend theirs. Edit: if they try this again, file first. If they eFile after you the IRS will bounce back their return. | ---
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fqk2fh | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My step dad and mom claimed me as a dependent on their taxes. They say they can. I don't believe they can. 3 questions: Can they claim me legally? Ethically should I let them claim me? Would I miss out on the stimulus money by letting them claim me? My 2019 income: 26,000 Current age: 22 Location: Indiana, USA I work full time, not disabled and have never been to college. I lived with my parents for most of 2019. I paid give or take about half of my expenses (I paid for all food, medical bills, car maintenance, phone they provided me a room in their home and paid utilities.) I moved into my own apartment in the last month of the year in December. I have not yet filed my taxes, but my mom and step dad said they already have and claimed me. | flrkuky | flrla50 | 1,585,422,282 | 1,585,422,539 | 8 | 19 | Easy answers: No. No. And yes. The best solution is to file as single, then you're parents will have to amend their return after they're contacted by the IRS (by letter). You can also call the IRS and ask if there are any other things you can do. That said, you might still miss out on the stimulus check, considering it usually takes 21 days for tax returns to be processed, not to mention added time to reprocess the amendment. | CPA here. No, they can't legally claim you. You will have to paper file claiming yourself. The IRS may ask for documentation from both of you and you should easily be able to prove that you don't meet any requirements for them to claim you. | 0 | 257 | 2.375 |
fqk2fh | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My step dad and mom claimed me as a dependent on their taxes. They say they can. I don't believe they can. 3 questions: Can they claim me legally? Ethically should I let them claim me? Would I miss out on the stimulus money by letting them claim me? My 2019 income: 26,000 Current age: 22 Location: Indiana, USA I work full time, not disabled and have never been to college. I lived with my parents for most of 2019. I paid give or take about half of my expenses (I paid for all food, medical bills, car maintenance, phone they provided me a room in their home and paid utilities.) I moved into my own apartment in the last month of the year in December. I have not yet filed my taxes, but my mom and step dad said they already have and claimed me. | flqoblr | flrla50 | 1,585,401,757 | 1,585,422,539 | 2 | 19 | ---
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fqk2fh | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | My step dad and mom claimed me as a dependent on their taxes. They say they can. I don't believe they can. 3 questions: Can they claim me legally? Ethically should I let them claim me? Would I miss out on the stimulus money by letting them claim me? My 2019 income: 26,000 Current age: 22 Location: Indiana, USA I work full time, not disabled and have never been to college. I lived with my parents for most of 2019. I paid give or take about half of my expenses (I paid for all food, medical bills, car maintenance, phone they provided me a room in their home and paid utilities.) I moved into my own apartment in the last month of the year in December. I have not yet filed my taxes, but my mom and step dad said they already have and claimed me. | flrkuky | flqoblr | 1,585,422,282 | 1,585,401,757 | 8 | 2 | Easy answers: No. No. And yes. The best solution is to file as single, then you're parents will have to amend their return after they're contacted by the IRS (by letter). You can also call the IRS and ask if there are any other things you can do. That said, you might still miss out on the stimulus check, considering it usually takes 21 days for tax returns to be processed, not to mention added time to reprocess the amendment. | ---
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sk1hme | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My (22) parent’s tax person said that it is legally required for my dad to claim me as a dependent. I live alone and support myself. If it matters, I am in Nebraska. I have lived alone for over a year and support myself financially. The lady who does my parent’s taxes said since I am a full-time student, it is legally required that my (abusive) father claim me as a dependent. (My father is not the one who told me this.) I feel like there is absolutely 0 way that this is true, or even legal. My dad does not support me in any way other than health insurance. Is this real? I can’t find anything useful. Please help | hviaepa | hvia9ai | 1,643,941,331 | 1,643,941,266 | 87 | 59 | It's never legally required to claim anyone, ever. And in this case he can't anyway. | She's wrong. If you are providing over half your own support (this includes health insurance, tuition, cell phone) they can not legally claim you. | 1 | 65 | 1.474576 |
sk1hme | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My (22) parent’s tax person said that it is legally required for my dad to claim me as a dependent. I live alone and support myself. If it matters, I am in Nebraska. I have lived alone for over a year and support myself financially. The lady who does my parent’s taxes said since I am a full-time student, it is legally required that my (abusive) father claim me as a dependent. (My father is not the one who told me this.) I feel like there is absolutely 0 way that this is true, or even legal. My dad does not support me in any way other than health insurance. Is this real? I can’t find anything useful. Please help | hvk5xjz | hvn1tgd | 1,643,982,255 | 1,644,023,101 | 3 | 4 | While its pretty normal for parents to claim adult, student children, there are a few stipulations that have to be met in order to do. If your father didn’t provide any support to you and if you didn’t live with him during 2021, he’s not able to claim you as a dependent. If I remember correctly, you might still have to declare your father’s income when applying for FAFSA, but that in no way means that he is required (or entitled) to claim you as a dependent. If you file an “independent” return, you should receive a tax credit for the money you spent on tuition, fees, textbooks, etc. The amount should be pretty sizable and could allow you to attend school without financial aid (at least for a semester). The only reason I say this is because your father might try to withhold his income information if/when you apply for FAFSA, and that shouldn’t impact your decision to not allow him to claim you as a dependent. | Wow. I wouldn't use their services if I were your parents. May get a nice audit out of the blue | 0 | 40,846 | 1.333333 |
sk1hme | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My (22) parent’s tax person said that it is legally required for my dad to claim me as a dependent. I live alone and support myself. If it matters, I am in Nebraska. I have lived alone for over a year and support myself financially. The lady who does my parent’s taxes said since I am a full-time student, it is legally required that my (abusive) father claim me as a dependent. (My father is not the one who told me this.) I feel like there is absolutely 0 way that this is true, or even legal. My dad does not support me in any way other than health insurance. Is this real? I can’t find anything useful. Please help | hvlk6ux | hvn1tgd | 1,644,001,661 | 1,644,023,101 | 2 | 4 | Are you still on your parents health insurance? | Wow. I wouldn't use their services if I were your parents. May get a nice audit out of the blue | 0 | 21,440 | 2 |
sk1hme | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | My (22) parent’s tax person said that it is legally required for my dad to claim me as a dependent. I live alone and support myself. If it matters, I am in Nebraska. I have lived alone for over a year and support myself financially. The lady who does my parent’s taxes said since I am a full-time student, it is legally required that my (abusive) father claim me as a dependent. (My father is not the one who told me this.) I feel like there is absolutely 0 way that this is true, or even legal. My dad does not support me in any way other than health insurance. Is this real? I can’t find anything useful. Please help | hvlk6ux | hvnmwmx | 1,644,001,661 | 1,644,033,020 | 2 | 3 | Are you still on your parents health insurance? | She doesn't know what she is talking about. You are not a dependent and he can get in trouble for claiming so. | 0 | 31,359 | 1.5 |
smrf91 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex wants to move with daughter from FL to Texas We’ve been separated for about 7 years with no court or custody agreements we have just always split the time and expenses for our daughter 50/50. But now she wants to move to Texas for a job offer and take her with her. We both want to keep her for school and she can visit the other parent on breaks and holidays. So what do I need to do since we cant come to an agreement. | hvyq913 | hvzd1ok | 1,644,252,932 | 1,644,261,800 | 43 | 46 | Having your daughter change schools every year is a terrible idea. Please do not even consider this, it's doubtful a judge would be happy with that suggestion either. | FL Lawyer here, although not your lawyer. You need FL counsel immediately. Jurisdiction is where the child lives/has lived for the past 6 months. If she moves with your daughter before you initiate proceedings, this could change venue to Texas. Typically, when there is a Marital Settlement and/or Timesharing Order, either party needs court permission to move more than 50 miles away. Without Court intervention she could up and leave with your daughter, potentially forcing you to duke it out from over a thousand miles away, and risk having a TX court ruling its in the best interest of the child to remain with Mom in TX. Also, I see in a comment she wants to make a fair agreement without the court.....I dont see that as a tenable option because of the distance, unless one of you capitulates and allows your daughter to live with the other and agree to the long distance "agreement." Once it becomes too burdensome on her and she unilaterally changes her mind to an aspect you agreed on, you'll have no option but to fight it out in a Texas court. Bottom line is....get a lawyer, now. | 0 | 8,868 | 1.069767 |
smrf91 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex wants to move with daughter from FL to Texas We’ve been separated for about 7 years with no court or custody agreements we have just always split the time and expenses for our daughter 50/50. But now she wants to move to Texas for a job offer and take her with her. We both want to keep her for school and she can visit the other parent on breaks and holidays. So what do I need to do since we cant come to an agreement. | hvzd1ok | hvz7qc2 | 1,644,261,800 | 1,644,259,725 | 46 | 18 | FL Lawyer here, although not your lawyer. You need FL counsel immediately. Jurisdiction is where the child lives/has lived for the past 6 months. If she moves with your daughter before you initiate proceedings, this could change venue to Texas. Typically, when there is a Marital Settlement and/or Timesharing Order, either party needs court permission to move more than 50 miles away. Without Court intervention she could up and leave with your daughter, potentially forcing you to duke it out from over a thousand miles away, and risk having a TX court ruling its in the best interest of the child to remain with Mom in TX. Also, I see in a comment she wants to make a fair agreement without the court.....I dont see that as a tenable option because of the distance, unless one of you capitulates and allows your daughter to live with the other and agree to the long distance "agreement." Once it becomes too burdensome on her and she unilaterally changes her mind to an aspect you agreed on, you'll have no option but to fight it out in a Texas court. Bottom line is....get a lawyer, now. | I've been through interstate custody agreements. No matter what your ex tells you no matter how hard she wants to keep it out of court, literally the only thing that protects you in this scenario is a parenting plan on the books with a court. Without that in place she can do whatever she wants. Hard stop. Consultant an attorney and have a parenting plan written up. If she won't sign it begin the process of taking her to court immediately. It will take the better part of the year just to get before a judge. Every minute you wait is a minute you risk losing access to your daughter. | 1 | 2,075 | 2.555556 |
smrf91 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex wants to move with daughter from FL to Texas We’ve been separated for about 7 years with no court or custody agreements we have just always split the time and expenses for our daughter 50/50. But now she wants to move to Texas for a job offer and take her with her. We both want to keep her for school and she can visit the other parent on breaks and holidays. So what do I need to do since we cant come to an agreement. | hvzd1ok | hvymhs0 | 1,644,261,800 | 1,644,251,431 | 46 | 18 | FL Lawyer here, although not your lawyer. You need FL counsel immediately. Jurisdiction is where the child lives/has lived for the past 6 months. If she moves with your daughter before you initiate proceedings, this could change venue to Texas. Typically, when there is a Marital Settlement and/or Timesharing Order, either party needs court permission to move more than 50 miles away. Without Court intervention she could up and leave with your daughter, potentially forcing you to duke it out from over a thousand miles away, and risk having a TX court ruling its in the best interest of the child to remain with Mom in TX. Also, I see in a comment she wants to make a fair agreement without the court.....I dont see that as a tenable option because of the distance, unless one of you capitulates and allows your daughter to live with the other and agree to the long distance "agreement." Once it becomes too burdensome on her and she unilaterally changes her mind to an aspect you agreed on, you'll have no option but to fight it out in a Texas court. Bottom line is....get a lawyer, now. | The legal reality is that without a court-ordered custody agreement she almost assuredly has the rights to up and move herself and your daughter to TX without your consent. Should that happen, there are options, but it is time consuming and expensive and not at all a guarantee that things would turn out in your favor. That will always be a reality without a court agreement. The "standard" for long-distance co-parenting is primary parent keeps kid for school year, kid goes to non-primary parent for \~6 weeks in summer, spring break, fall break/thanksgiving (depending on what's available), and 1/2 or more of winter/christmas break. This is not easy on anyone - its not easy on the primary parent to be the nearly 100% parent most of the year. Its not easy on the non-primary parent to get so little time. And its absolutely not easy on the child. Realistically there's almost no long-distance co-parenting option that's "great," at least not without a LOT of money involved. Also, eventually your daughter is going to have her own life and isn't going to be thrilled that all of her school breaks she spends away from her friends. Is Texas, THE OPTION for your ex as far as you know? Like, is this essentially the only option that works for her financially? What would it mean for you to pick up and follow her? Obviously I know it might seem...outrageous for me to suggest you just pick up and follow your ex several states away when she's the one choosing to move, but if its at all reasonable, the benefit for your DAUGHTER would be immensely valuable. If Texas isn't reasonable for you, but other areas of the country might be, it could be worth a conversation with your ex to say hey, I get that you need to move somewhere for your own financial security and I'd like to support that and our daughter by also moving, but Texas isn't it for me, are there any other options we could look into? | 1 | 10,369 | 2.555556 |
smrf91 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex wants to move with daughter from FL to Texas We’ve been separated for about 7 years with no court or custody agreements we have just always split the time and expenses for our daughter 50/50. But now she wants to move to Texas for a job offer and take her with her. We both want to keep her for school and she can visit the other parent on breaks and holidays. So what do I need to do since we cant come to an agreement. | hvzd1ok | hvyuge8 | 1,644,261,800 | 1,644,254,610 | 46 | 15 | FL Lawyer here, although not your lawyer. You need FL counsel immediately. Jurisdiction is where the child lives/has lived for the past 6 months. If she moves with your daughter before you initiate proceedings, this could change venue to Texas. Typically, when there is a Marital Settlement and/or Timesharing Order, either party needs court permission to move more than 50 miles away. Without Court intervention she could up and leave with your daughter, potentially forcing you to duke it out from over a thousand miles away, and risk having a TX court ruling its in the best interest of the child to remain with Mom in TX. Also, I see in a comment she wants to make a fair agreement without the court.....I dont see that as a tenable option because of the distance, unless one of you capitulates and allows your daughter to live with the other and agree to the long distance "agreement." Once it becomes too burdensome on her and she unilaterally changes her mind to an aspect you agreed on, you'll have no option but to fight it out in a Texas court. Bottom line is....get a lawyer, now. | First, I agree with everyone else who mentioned getting a lawyer. She’s already on the move so the sooner the better. Or… could you also move to TX? Is there any flexibility on your side, and could there be a good opportunity there for you? If you had a great opportunity outside of FL, you’d also want to take it. If you all succeed, that’s a win for your daughter. If you drag each other down, that’ll suck for yourselves and your daughter. Again, this is probably the most impractical, but if you coupd pull it off, you’ll have demonstrated that you do what it takes to be with your daughter, that you support your ex as well, and this may play in your favor if she were to move again and you wanted to stop the move | 1 | 7,190 | 3.066667 |
smrf91 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex wants to move with daughter from FL to Texas We’ve been separated for about 7 years with no court or custody agreements we have just always split the time and expenses for our daughter 50/50. But now she wants to move to Texas for a job offer and take her with her. We both want to keep her for school and she can visit the other parent on breaks and holidays. So what do I need to do since we cant come to an agreement. | hvz7vnm | hvzd1ok | 1,644,259,781 | 1,644,261,800 | 8 | 46 | What does your child want? Surely she should be the deciding vote? According to §61.13, Florida Statutes, one of the factors the court considers when ordering a parenting plan is, “the reasonable preference of the child, if the court deems the child to be of sufficient intelligence, understanding, and experience to express a preference.” | FL Lawyer here, although not your lawyer. You need FL counsel immediately. Jurisdiction is where the child lives/has lived for the past 6 months. If she moves with your daughter before you initiate proceedings, this could change venue to Texas. Typically, when there is a Marital Settlement and/or Timesharing Order, either party needs court permission to move more than 50 miles away. Without Court intervention she could up and leave with your daughter, potentially forcing you to duke it out from over a thousand miles away, and risk having a TX court ruling its in the best interest of the child to remain with Mom in TX. Also, I see in a comment she wants to make a fair agreement without the court.....I dont see that as a tenable option because of the distance, unless one of you capitulates and allows your daughter to live with the other and agree to the long distance "agreement." Once it becomes too burdensome on her and she unilaterally changes her mind to an aspect you agreed on, you'll have no option but to fight it out in a Texas court. Bottom line is....get a lawyer, now. | 0 | 2,019 | 5.75 |
smrf91 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex wants to move with daughter from FL to Texas We’ve been separated for about 7 years with no court or custody agreements we have just always split the time and expenses for our daughter 50/50. But now she wants to move to Texas for a job offer and take her with her. We both want to keep her for school and she can visit the other parent on breaks and holidays. So what do I need to do since we cant come to an agreement. | hvymhs0 | hvyq913 | 1,644,251,431 | 1,644,252,932 | 18 | 43 | The legal reality is that without a court-ordered custody agreement she almost assuredly has the rights to up and move herself and your daughter to TX without your consent. Should that happen, there are options, but it is time consuming and expensive and not at all a guarantee that things would turn out in your favor. That will always be a reality without a court agreement. The "standard" for long-distance co-parenting is primary parent keeps kid for school year, kid goes to non-primary parent for \~6 weeks in summer, spring break, fall break/thanksgiving (depending on what's available), and 1/2 or more of winter/christmas break. This is not easy on anyone - its not easy on the primary parent to be the nearly 100% parent most of the year. Its not easy on the non-primary parent to get so little time. And its absolutely not easy on the child. Realistically there's almost no long-distance co-parenting option that's "great," at least not without a LOT of money involved. Also, eventually your daughter is going to have her own life and isn't going to be thrilled that all of her school breaks she spends away from her friends. Is Texas, THE OPTION for your ex as far as you know? Like, is this essentially the only option that works for her financially? What would it mean for you to pick up and follow her? Obviously I know it might seem...outrageous for me to suggest you just pick up and follow your ex several states away when she's the one choosing to move, but if its at all reasonable, the benefit for your DAUGHTER would be immensely valuable. If Texas isn't reasonable for you, but other areas of the country might be, it could be worth a conversation with your ex to say hey, I get that you need to move somewhere for your own financial security and I'd like to support that and our daughter by also moving, but Texas isn't it for me, are there any other options we could look into? | Having your daughter change schools every year is a terrible idea. Please do not even consider this, it's doubtful a judge would be happy with that suggestion either. | 0 | 1,501 | 2.388889 |
smrf91 | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Ex wants to move with daughter from FL to Texas We’ve been separated for about 7 years with no court or custody agreements we have just always split the time and expenses for our daughter 50/50. But now she wants to move to Texas for a job offer and take her with her. We both want to keep her for school and she can visit the other parent on breaks and holidays. So what do I need to do since we cant come to an agreement. | hvyuge8 | hvz7qc2 | 1,644,254,610 | 1,644,259,725 | 15 | 18 | First, I agree with everyone else who mentioned getting a lawyer. She’s already on the move so the sooner the better. Or… could you also move to TX? Is there any flexibility on your side, and could there be a good opportunity there for you? If you had a great opportunity outside of FL, you’d also want to take it. If you all succeed, that’s a win for your daughter. If you drag each other down, that’ll suck for yourselves and your daughter. Again, this is probably the most impractical, but if you coupd pull it off, you’ll have demonstrated that you do what it takes to be with your daughter, that you support your ex as well, and this may play in your favor if she were to move again and you wanted to stop the move | I've been through interstate custody agreements. No matter what your ex tells you no matter how hard she wants to keep it out of court, literally the only thing that protects you in this scenario is a parenting plan on the books with a court. Without that in place she can do whatever she wants. Hard stop. Consultant an attorney and have a parenting plan written up. If she won't sign it begin the process of taking her to court immediately. It will take the better part of the year just to get before a judge. Every minute you wait is a minute you risk losing access to your daughter. | 0 | 5,115 | 1.2 |
94b54j | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I am being accused of stealing iPads from a computer lab at my community college [MI] I got a call from two directors at the school yesterday requesting that I come in that day to review security footage and discuss an incident involving me. Having no idea what they were referring to I pressed for details and was finally told that they have me on camera going into an empty computer lab that is now missing some iPads, and that they would like to resolve the situation within the school since I am a student but will contact the police if I don't return the stolen tablets. I told them that I don't really care if they call the police because I didn't steal anything and that I am too busy to come in anyway, and that was the end of the conversation. Today, I get a call from an officer who was at the school and apparently had just spoken to these directors and watched the footage. He told me that it was obvious to him from the video that I had left the lab with the iPads tucked under my shirt, and that the school just wants me to return their tablets, and that he will submit the case to the prosecutor's office if I don't. He requested that I come to the police station to speak to him, and I declined, and the conversation ended there. The facts of the story: I stepped out of class to blow my nose, because there is no kleenex in my classroom and I knew from previous experience that the computer lab next door had paper towels available for me to use. I've gone in that lab for that reason maybe 10 times this semester; the doors are always closed but never locked. I don't really know what to do now. I've never been in any legal trouble and I hope it goes without saying that I didn't steal any iPads. I have not seen the footage myself but don't really understand how it can be obvious to a police officer that I was smuggling tablets out of the lab, when I didn't take anything and was wearing an untucked t-shirt and shorts. What should be my next step? What does it sound like will happen next? | e3jmksw | e3jps8z | 1,533,314,465 | 1,533,317,096 | 26 | 212 | Next step would be to get an attorney, and refuse to speak to the police without that attorney present. | **The police are allowed to lie to you about nonexistent evidence.** "We have you on security tapes walking out with the tablets. Confess and we won't prosecute." "We have two teachers and a priest who witnessed you personally commit that theft. Confess and we won't prosecute." "We have GPS tracking data from the tablets that says they are in your house right now. Confess and we won't prosecute." **Don't speak to the police. Get a lawyer.** | 0 | 2,631 | 8.153846 |
94b54j | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I am being accused of stealing iPads from a computer lab at my community college [MI] I got a call from two directors at the school yesterday requesting that I come in that day to review security footage and discuss an incident involving me. Having no idea what they were referring to I pressed for details and was finally told that they have me on camera going into an empty computer lab that is now missing some iPads, and that they would like to resolve the situation within the school since I am a student but will contact the police if I don't return the stolen tablets. I told them that I don't really care if they call the police because I didn't steal anything and that I am too busy to come in anyway, and that was the end of the conversation. Today, I get a call from an officer who was at the school and apparently had just spoken to these directors and watched the footage. He told me that it was obvious to him from the video that I had left the lab with the iPads tucked under my shirt, and that the school just wants me to return their tablets, and that he will submit the case to the prosecutor's office if I don't. He requested that I come to the police station to speak to him, and I declined, and the conversation ended there. The facts of the story: I stepped out of class to blow my nose, because there is no kleenex in my classroom and I knew from previous experience that the computer lab next door had paper towels available for me to use. I've gone in that lab for that reason maybe 10 times this semester; the doors are always closed but never locked. I don't really know what to do now. I've never been in any legal trouble and I hope it goes without saying that I didn't steal any iPads. I have not seen the footage myself but don't really understand how it can be obvious to a police officer that I was smuggling tablets out of the lab, when I didn't take anything and was wearing an untucked t-shirt and shorts. What should be my next step? What does it sound like will happen next? | e3kea0y | e3jmksw | 1,533,338,907 | 1,533,314,465 | 35 | 26 | Not a lawyer, but tech support. The school may have software that is managing these iPads (to install apps and iOS updates). The IT department may be able to track the location of these iPads through their management software. This could be something to look into (or have your lawyer look into.) | Next step would be to get an attorney, and refuse to speak to the police without that attorney present. | 1 | 24,442 | 1.346154 |
94b54j | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I am being accused of stealing iPads from a computer lab at my community college [MI] I got a call from two directors at the school yesterday requesting that I come in that day to review security footage and discuss an incident involving me. Having no idea what they were referring to I pressed for details and was finally told that they have me on camera going into an empty computer lab that is now missing some iPads, and that they would like to resolve the situation within the school since I am a student but will contact the police if I don't return the stolen tablets. I told them that I don't really care if they call the police because I didn't steal anything and that I am too busy to come in anyway, and that was the end of the conversation. Today, I get a call from an officer who was at the school and apparently had just spoken to these directors and watched the footage. He told me that it was obvious to him from the video that I had left the lab with the iPads tucked under my shirt, and that the school just wants me to return their tablets, and that he will submit the case to the prosecutor's office if I don't. He requested that I come to the police station to speak to him, and I declined, and the conversation ended there. The facts of the story: I stepped out of class to blow my nose, because there is no kleenex in my classroom and I knew from previous experience that the computer lab next door had paper towels available for me to use. I've gone in that lab for that reason maybe 10 times this semester; the doors are always closed but never locked. I don't really know what to do now. I've never been in any legal trouble and I hope it goes without saying that I didn't steal any iPads. I have not seen the footage myself but don't really understand how it can be obvious to a police officer that I was smuggling tablets out of the lab, when I didn't take anything and was wearing an untucked t-shirt and shorts. What should be my next step? What does it sound like will happen next? | e3kcjug | e3kea0y | 1,533,337,185 | 1,533,338,907 | 9 | 35 | Isn't there some way to get a copy of the tape without talking to the police? | Not a lawyer, but tech support. The school may have software that is managing these iPads (to install apps and iOS updates). The IT department may be able to track the location of these iPads through their management software. This could be something to look into (or have your lawyer look into.) | 0 | 1,722 | 3.888889 |
94b54j | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I am being accused of stealing iPads from a computer lab at my community college [MI] I got a call from two directors at the school yesterday requesting that I come in that day to review security footage and discuss an incident involving me. Having no idea what they were referring to I pressed for details and was finally told that they have me on camera going into an empty computer lab that is now missing some iPads, and that they would like to resolve the situation within the school since I am a student but will contact the police if I don't return the stolen tablets. I told them that I don't really care if they call the police because I didn't steal anything and that I am too busy to come in anyway, and that was the end of the conversation. Today, I get a call from an officer who was at the school and apparently had just spoken to these directors and watched the footage. He told me that it was obvious to him from the video that I had left the lab with the iPads tucked under my shirt, and that the school just wants me to return their tablets, and that he will submit the case to the prosecutor's office if I don't. He requested that I come to the police station to speak to him, and I declined, and the conversation ended there. The facts of the story: I stepped out of class to blow my nose, because there is no kleenex in my classroom and I knew from previous experience that the computer lab next door had paper towels available for me to use. I've gone in that lab for that reason maybe 10 times this semester; the doors are always closed but never locked. I don't really know what to do now. I've never been in any legal trouble and I hope it goes without saying that I didn't steal any iPads. I have not seen the footage myself but don't really understand how it can be obvious to a police officer that I was smuggling tablets out of the lab, when I didn't take anything and was wearing an untucked t-shirt and shorts. What should be my next step? What does it sound like will happen next? | e3ko9no | e3kpqyl | 1,533,349,616 | 1,533,351,337 | 12 | 18 | Do not talk to the police without council present. They can lie to you to get you to "fess up". If you can (even through your attorney), advise the school admins to log into iCloud and use "find iPad". It will reveal the location if they've been turned on or where they were last before "going dark". You can't switch it off without knowing the accounts password. It might make this thing go away with them having red faces if they suddenly discover that the tablets aren't actually with you. | Does your community college offer free student legal aid? Many colleges do. You might be thinking to yourself, "I definitely didn't do it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with letting them search my place, etc." This is, bar none, a terrible idea. Let's say you had weed in your house, or something else illegal, or *anything*, who knows. They could find it and say, "Look we won't charge you with this dimebag if you just admit to the iPads." | 0 | 1,721 | 1.5 |
94b54j | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I am being accused of stealing iPads from a computer lab at my community college [MI] I got a call from two directors at the school yesterday requesting that I come in that day to review security footage and discuss an incident involving me. Having no idea what they were referring to I pressed for details and was finally told that they have me on camera going into an empty computer lab that is now missing some iPads, and that they would like to resolve the situation within the school since I am a student but will contact the police if I don't return the stolen tablets. I told them that I don't really care if they call the police because I didn't steal anything and that I am too busy to come in anyway, and that was the end of the conversation. Today, I get a call from an officer who was at the school and apparently had just spoken to these directors and watched the footage. He told me that it was obvious to him from the video that I had left the lab with the iPads tucked under my shirt, and that the school just wants me to return their tablets, and that he will submit the case to the prosecutor's office if I don't. He requested that I come to the police station to speak to him, and I declined, and the conversation ended there. The facts of the story: I stepped out of class to blow my nose, because there is no kleenex in my classroom and I knew from previous experience that the computer lab next door had paper towels available for me to use. I've gone in that lab for that reason maybe 10 times this semester; the doors are always closed but never locked. I don't really know what to do now. I've never been in any legal trouble and I hope it goes without saying that I didn't steal any iPads. I have not seen the footage myself but don't really understand how it can be obvious to a police officer that I was smuggling tablets out of the lab, when I didn't take anything and was wearing an untucked t-shirt and shorts. What should be my next step? What does it sound like will happen next? | e3kcjug | e3kpqyl | 1,533,337,185 | 1,533,351,337 | 9 | 18 | Isn't there some way to get a copy of the tape without talking to the police? | Does your community college offer free student legal aid? Many colleges do. You might be thinking to yourself, "I definitely didn't do it. There's absolutely nothing wrong with letting them search my place, etc." This is, bar none, a terrible idea. Let's say you had weed in your house, or something else illegal, or *anything*, who knows. They could find it and say, "Look we won't charge you with this dimebag if you just admit to the iPads." | 0 | 14,152 | 2 |
94b54j | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I am being accused of stealing iPads from a computer lab at my community college [MI] I got a call from two directors at the school yesterday requesting that I come in that day to review security footage and discuss an incident involving me. Having no idea what they were referring to I pressed for details and was finally told that they have me on camera going into an empty computer lab that is now missing some iPads, and that they would like to resolve the situation within the school since I am a student but will contact the police if I don't return the stolen tablets. I told them that I don't really care if they call the police because I didn't steal anything and that I am too busy to come in anyway, and that was the end of the conversation. Today, I get a call from an officer who was at the school and apparently had just spoken to these directors and watched the footage. He told me that it was obvious to him from the video that I had left the lab with the iPads tucked under my shirt, and that the school just wants me to return their tablets, and that he will submit the case to the prosecutor's office if I don't. He requested that I come to the police station to speak to him, and I declined, and the conversation ended there. The facts of the story: I stepped out of class to blow my nose, because there is no kleenex in my classroom and I knew from previous experience that the computer lab next door had paper towels available for me to use. I've gone in that lab for that reason maybe 10 times this semester; the doors are always closed but never locked. I don't really know what to do now. I've never been in any legal trouble and I hope it goes without saying that I didn't steal any iPads. I have not seen the footage myself but don't really understand how it can be obvious to a police officer that I was smuggling tablets out of the lab, when I didn't take anything and was wearing an untucked t-shirt and shorts. What should be my next step? What does it sound like will happen next? | e3ko9no | e3kcjug | 1,533,349,616 | 1,533,337,185 | 12 | 9 | Do not talk to the police without council present. They can lie to you to get you to "fess up". If you can (even through your attorney), advise the school admins to log into iCloud and use "find iPad". It will reveal the location if they've been turned on or where they were last before "going dark". You can't switch it off without knowing the accounts password. It might make this thing go away with them having red faces if they suddenly discover that the tablets aren't actually with you. | Isn't there some way to get a copy of the tape without talking to the police? | 1 | 12,431 | 1.333333 |
94b54j | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I am being accused of stealing iPads from a computer lab at my community college [MI] I got a call from two directors at the school yesterday requesting that I come in that day to review security footage and discuss an incident involving me. Having no idea what they were referring to I pressed for details and was finally told that they have me on camera going into an empty computer lab that is now missing some iPads, and that they would like to resolve the situation within the school since I am a student but will contact the police if I don't return the stolen tablets. I told them that I don't really care if they call the police because I didn't steal anything and that I am too busy to come in anyway, and that was the end of the conversation. Today, I get a call from an officer who was at the school and apparently had just spoken to these directors and watched the footage. He told me that it was obvious to him from the video that I had left the lab with the iPads tucked under my shirt, and that the school just wants me to return their tablets, and that he will submit the case to the prosecutor's office if I don't. He requested that I come to the police station to speak to him, and I declined, and the conversation ended there. The facts of the story: I stepped out of class to blow my nose, because there is no kleenex in my classroom and I knew from previous experience that the computer lab next door had paper towels available for me to use. I've gone in that lab for that reason maybe 10 times this semester; the doors are always closed but never locked. I don't really know what to do now. I've never been in any legal trouble and I hope it goes without saying that I didn't steal any iPads. I have not seen the footage myself but don't really understand how it can be obvious to a police officer that I was smuggling tablets out of the lab, when I didn't take anything and was wearing an untucked t-shirt and shorts. What should be my next step? What does it sound like will happen next? | e3kcjug | e3l6hkq | 1,533,337,185 | 1,533,379,314 | 9 | 10 | Isn't there some way to get a copy of the tape without talking to the police? | Odds are you are the last person they saw leave the lab before they realized the tablets were missing, probably the following day. Or perhaps you were one of a few people near the end of the day. They aren't sure how the tablets left the lab since the tablets themselves are not on video. They are fishing. If they had obvious video evidence of you stealing the tablets they would have kicked you out of school and prosecuted you already. Schools don't let students steal stuff and return it. You'd be kicked out at the very least. Do not talk to the police without a lawyer. | 0 | 42,129 | 1.111111 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5pxfs | iu5pvi7 | 1,666,984,470 | 1,666,984,448 | 3,390 | 2,415 | This person is afraid that YOU may scam them. This is a very safe place to exchange. | Sounds like the other person is the one making sure nothing goes wrong. | 1 | 22 | 1.403727 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5psmn | iu5pxfs | 1,666,984,414 | 1,666,984,470 | 1,176 | 3,390 | To avoid getting robbed of a $1.2k laptop, or ripped off with a fraudulent check or bank transfer, this is a pretty common request. Indeed some police departments specifically advertise this service. Of course, you are going to want to thoroughly inspect it before forking over the cash. | This person is afraid that YOU may scam them. This is a very safe place to exchange. | 0 | 56 | 2.882653 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5psmn | iu5pvi7 | 1,666,984,414 | 1,666,984,448 | 1,176 | 2,415 | To avoid getting robbed of a $1.2k laptop, or ripped off with a fraudulent check or bank transfer, this is a pretty common request. Indeed some police departments specifically advertise this service. Of course, you are going to want to thoroughly inspect it before forking over the cash. | Sounds like the other person is the one making sure nothing goes wrong. | 0 | 34 | 2.053571 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5psmn | iu5pz27 | 1,666,984,414 | 1,666,984,489 | 1,176 | 1,392 | To avoid getting robbed of a $1.2k laptop, or ripped off with a fraudulent check or bank transfer, this is a pretty common request. Indeed some police departments specifically advertise this service. Of course, you are going to want to thoroughly inspect it before forking over the cash. | Accepting only cash and requesting to meet in a public place like the police station is common in private sales of items. | 0 | 75 | 1.183673 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5v9yd | iu67eoh | 1,666,986,656 | 1,666,991,769 | 252 | 282 | This is perfectly normal. I am not a lawyer, but I do resell a lot. My preferred meeting places are police stations and banks due to the increased security. The cash is to prevent you doing a chargeback even if everything works fine. I only accept cash, or Zelle. But I could understand someone not wanting to use Zelle to avoid delays and tax responsibilities | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | 0 | 5,113 | 1.119048 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5rz84 | iu67eoh | 1,666,985,319 | 1,666,991,769 | 227 | 282 | Outside of "legally wrong," but they could hand you a non-functional laptop. Turn it on, check it out, and be sure it's what you want and works the way you want before you hand over the money -- because once you hand over the money, the laptop (and any problems it has) are now yours, no take-backsies. | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | 0 | 6,450 | 1.242291 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu6351a | iu67eoh | 1,666,989,931 | 1,666,991,769 | 174 | 282 | I am certain they are looking to protect themselves. That said, $1200 for a used laptop is interesting. You could buy a nice Surface, HP, Asus or Lenovo for that. | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | 0 | 1,838 | 1.62069 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5rkg9 | iu67eoh | 1,666,985,148 | 1,666,991,769 | 80 | 282 | What kind of laptop is this? 1.2k for a used laptop is very expensive. You can get a very good laptop new for that kind of money. What are you specifically looking to get, you may not be buying the right thing for your dad regardless of what the other party wants to do. Also, the seller is trying to not get scammed/robbed as others have commented. If they take a check, there is a common scam that the scammer hands you a bad check and the check bounces after two weeks after they've given you the laptop and they're out the laptop and the money. They want to meet at the police station so they don't get robbed of their laptop. | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | 0 | 6,621 | 3.525 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu67cti | iu67eoh | 1,666,991,747 | 1,666,991,769 | 79 | 282 | This is absolutely the best way to avoid getting scammed on FB Marketplace, Craigslist, etc. and many people will recommend it. They're being careful, and it's a good sign they're legitimate. | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | 0 | 22 | 3.56962 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu664km | iu67eoh | 1,666,991,208 | 1,666,991,769 | 59 | 282 | Make sure you get a receipt from the seller. It doesn’t have to be fancy it can be a piece of paper in crayon stating: “On (today’s date and time), I (seller name) received $1,200 cash from (buyer’s name). It is the payment for (laptop brand with serial number).” Then both of you print, date, and sign it. That’s the only “legal” thing I can think of that could go wrong. Meeting at a police station and paying for cash is a common private seller practice. They don’t want to be scammed. | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | 0 | 561 | 4.779661 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5q1ao | iu67eoh | 1,666,984,515 | 1,666,991,769 | 33 | 282 | There are lots of ways this could legally go wrong. The laptop could be stolen. It could still be enrolled in iCloud or a device management profile. There are lots of bad things that can happen in a computer purchase. That they've asked to meet at a police station doesn't increase the likelihood of any of these (arguably it may decrease them since criminals don't usually like to get too close to cops) and isn't unusual. It is a common practice to feel safe meeting up with strangers with $2,400 of cash and merchandise on the table. | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | 0 | 7,254 | 8.545455 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu67eoh | iu66t5c | 1,666,991,769 | 1,666,991,507 | 282 | 25 | Sounds Like you found the one in 1 million person on Facebook actually selling a real item and actually willing to follow through with the transaction. They’re being smart it’s the advice I give every person who is selling something —meet at a police station and take cash only. If the purchaser refuses to do so they are planning to scam or rob you | If anything this should help make you feel safe and comfortable about buying from this person. | 1 | 262 | 11.28 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5v9yd | iu5rz84 | 1,666,986,656 | 1,666,985,319 | 252 | 227 | This is perfectly normal. I am not a lawyer, but I do resell a lot. My preferred meeting places are police stations and banks due to the increased security. The cash is to prevent you doing a chargeback even if everything works fine. I only accept cash, or Zelle. But I could understand someone not wanting to use Zelle to avoid delays and tax responsibilities | Outside of "legally wrong," but they could hand you a non-functional laptop. Turn it on, check it out, and be sure it's what you want and works the way you want before you hand over the money -- because once you hand over the money, the laptop (and any problems it has) are now yours, no take-backsies. | 1 | 1,337 | 1.110132 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5rkg9 | iu5v9yd | 1,666,985,148 | 1,666,986,656 | 80 | 252 | What kind of laptop is this? 1.2k for a used laptop is very expensive. You can get a very good laptop new for that kind of money. What are you specifically looking to get, you may not be buying the right thing for your dad regardless of what the other party wants to do. Also, the seller is trying to not get scammed/robbed as others have commented. If they take a check, there is a common scam that the scammer hands you a bad check and the check bounces after two weeks after they've given you the laptop and they're out the laptop and the money. They want to meet at the police station so they don't get robbed of their laptop. | This is perfectly normal. I am not a lawyer, but I do resell a lot. My preferred meeting places are police stations and banks due to the increased security. The cash is to prevent you doing a chargeback even if everything works fine. I only accept cash, or Zelle. But I could understand someone not wanting to use Zelle to avoid delays and tax responsibilities | 0 | 1,508 | 3.15 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5q1ao | iu5v9yd | 1,666,984,515 | 1,666,986,656 | 33 | 252 | There are lots of ways this could legally go wrong. The laptop could be stolen. It could still be enrolled in iCloud or a device management profile. There are lots of bad things that can happen in a computer purchase. That they've asked to meet at a police station doesn't increase the likelihood of any of these (arguably it may decrease them since criminals don't usually like to get too close to cops) and isn't unusual. It is a common practice to feel safe meeting up with strangers with $2,400 of cash and merchandise on the table. | This is perfectly normal. I am not a lawyer, but I do resell a lot. My preferred meeting places are police stations and banks due to the increased security. The cash is to prevent you doing a chargeback even if everything works fine. I only accept cash, or Zelle. But I could understand someone not wanting to use Zelle to avoid delays and tax responsibilities | 0 | 2,141 | 7.636364 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5rkg9 | iu5rz84 | 1,666,985,148 | 1,666,985,319 | 80 | 227 | What kind of laptop is this? 1.2k for a used laptop is very expensive. You can get a very good laptop new for that kind of money. What are you specifically looking to get, you may not be buying the right thing for your dad regardless of what the other party wants to do. Also, the seller is trying to not get scammed/robbed as others have commented. If they take a check, there is a common scam that the scammer hands you a bad check and the check bounces after two weeks after they've given you the laptop and they're out the laptop and the money. They want to meet at the police station so they don't get robbed of their laptop. | Outside of "legally wrong," but they could hand you a non-functional laptop. Turn it on, check it out, and be sure it's what you want and works the way you want before you hand over the money -- because once you hand over the money, the laptop (and any problems it has) are now yours, no take-backsies. | 0 | 171 | 2.8375 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5rz84 | iu5q1ao | 1,666,985,319 | 1,666,984,515 | 227 | 33 | Outside of "legally wrong," but they could hand you a non-functional laptop. Turn it on, check it out, and be sure it's what you want and works the way you want before you hand over the money -- because once you hand over the money, the laptop (and any problems it has) are now yours, no take-backsies. | There are lots of ways this could legally go wrong. The laptop could be stolen. It could still be enrolled in iCloud or a device management profile. There are lots of bad things that can happen in a computer purchase. That they've asked to meet at a police station doesn't increase the likelihood of any of these (arguably it may decrease them since criminals don't usually like to get too close to cops) and isn't unusual. It is a common practice to feel safe meeting up with strangers with $2,400 of cash and merchandise on the table. | 1 | 804 | 6.878788 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5rkg9 | iu6351a | 1,666,985,148 | 1,666,989,931 | 80 | 174 | What kind of laptop is this? 1.2k for a used laptop is very expensive. You can get a very good laptop new for that kind of money. What are you specifically looking to get, you may not be buying the right thing for your dad regardless of what the other party wants to do. Also, the seller is trying to not get scammed/robbed as others have commented. If they take a check, there is a common scam that the scammer hands you a bad check and the check bounces after two weeks after they've given you the laptop and they're out the laptop and the money. They want to meet at the police station so they don't get robbed of their laptop. | I am certain they are looking to protect themselves. That said, $1200 for a used laptop is interesting. You could buy a nice Surface, HP, Asus or Lenovo for that. | 0 | 4,783 | 2.175 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu6351a | iu5q1ao | 1,666,989,931 | 1,666,984,515 | 174 | 33 | I am certain they are looking to protect themselves. That said, $1200 for a used laptop is interesting. You could buy a nice Surface, HP, Asus or Lenovo for that. | There are lots of ways this could legally go wrong. The laptop could be stolen. It could still be enrolled in iCloud or a device management profile. There are lots of bad things that can happen in a computer purchase. That they've asked to meet at a police station doesn't increase the likelihood of any of these (arguably it may decrease them since criminals don't usually like to get too close to cops) and isn't unusual. It is a common practice to feel safe meeting up with strangers with $2,400 of cash and merchandise on the table. | 1 | 5,416 | 5.272727 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5q1ao | iu5rkg9 | 1,666,984,515 | 1,666,985,148 | 33 | 80 | There are lots of ways this could legally go wrong. The laptop could be stolen. It could still be enrolled in iCloud or a device management profile. There are lots of bad things that can happen in a computer purchase. That they've asked to meet at a police station doesn't increase the likelihood of any of these (arguably it may decrease them since criminals don't usually like to get too close to cops) and isn't unusual. It is a common practice to feel safe meeting up with strangers with $2,400 of cash and merchandise on the table. | What kind of laptop is this? 1.2k for a used laptop is very expensive. You can get a very good laptop new for that kind of money. What are you specifically looking to get, you may not be buying the right thing for your dad regardless of what the other party wants to do. Also, the seller is trying to not get scammed/robbed as others have commented. If they take a check, there is a common scam that the scammer hands you a bad check and the check bounces after two weeks after they've given you the laptop and they're out the laptop and the money. They want to meet at the police station so they don't get robbed of their laptop. | 0 | 633 | 2.424242 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu67cti | iu664km | 1,666,991,747 | 1,666,991,208 | 79 | 59 | This is absolutely the best way to avoid getting scammed on FB Marketplace, Craigslist, etc. and many people will recommend it. They're being careful, and it's a good sign they're legitimate. | Make sure you get a receipt from the seller. It doesn’t have to be fancy it can be a piece of paper in crayon stating: “On (today’s date and time), I (seller name) received $1,200 cash from (buyer’s name). It is the payment for (laptop brand with serial number).” Then both of you print, date, and sign it. That’s the only “legal” thing I can think of that could go wrong. Meeting at a police station and paying for cash is a common private seller practice. They don’t want to be scammed. | 1 | 539 | 1.338983 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu5q1ao | iu67cti | 1,666,984,515 | 1,666,991,747 | 33 | 79 | There are lots of ways this could legally go wrong. The laptop could be stolen. It could still be enrolled in iCloud or a device management profile. There are lots of bad things that can happen in a computer purchase. That they've asked to meet at a police station doesn't increase the likelihood of any of these (arguably it may decrease them since criminals don't usually like to get too close to cops) and isn't unusual. It is a common practice to feel safe meeting up with strangers with $2,400 of cash and merchandise on the table. | This is absolutely the best way to avoid getting scammed on FB Marketplace, Craigslist, etc. and many people will recommend it. They're being careful, and it's a good sign they're legitimate. | 0 | 7,232 | 2.393939 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu67cti | iu66t5c | 1,666,991,747 | 1,666,991,507 | 79 | 25 | This is absolutely the best way to avoid getting scammed on FB Marketplace, Craigslist, etc. and many people will recommend it. They're being careful, and it's a good sign they're legitimate. | If anything this should help make you feel safe and comfortable about buying from this person. | 1 | 240 | 3.16 |
yfxt0y | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Some weird requests for a laptop purchase I'm going to buy a laptop for 1200 dollars with my dad. The person selling it has requested that we meet in a police station lobby and will only take cash. Is there any way that this can legally go wrong. | iu664km | iu5q1ao | 1,666,991,208 | 1,666,984,515 | 59 | 33 | Make sure you get a receipt from the seller. It doesn’t have to be fancy it can be a piece of paper in crayon stating: “On (today’s date and time), I (seller name) received $1,200 cash from (buyer’s name). It is the payment for (laptop brand with serial number).” Then both of you print, date, and sign it. That’s the only “legal” thing I can think of that could go wrong. Meeting at a police station and paying for cash is a common private seller practice. They don’t want to be scammed. | There are lots of ways this could legally go wrong. The laptop could be stolen. It could still be enrolled in iCloud or a device management profile. There are lots of bad things that can happen in a computer purchase. That they've asked to meet at a police station doesn't increase the likelihood of any of these (arguably it may decrease them since criminals don't usually like to get too close to cops) and isn't unusual. It is a common practice to feel safe meeting up with strangers with $2,400 of cash and merchandise on the table. | 1 | 6,693 | 1.787879 |
7vx4iu | legaladvice_train | 0.92 | (NE) My parents are both mentally ill and won't have anything to do with me because of their delusions. How can I get my belongings and birth certificate from them if the police can't do anything? I'm 21, and my parents thought I had died when I was away at college, and they both remember having a funeral for me that never happened. I've tried convincing them otherwise, and my dad gets very confused and violent. He's made me leave his home by threatening me with a gun. My mom has been on disability for schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, but my dad has never been this bad. I don't know whether he's on drugs or senile (he's 78). I've tried going to the police, and my parents are experts at lying and talking their way out of it. They made it sound like I was trying to break into their home disguised as their deceased son. The police say they believe me but won't help me retrieve my possessions. They keep stringing me along and saying they'll call me back and giving me no updates after five months. I've been homeless since then and unable to get stable work without a birth certificate. I can't get a new birth certificate without valid ID. My driver's license is over a year expired and they say I can't get a new one without that documentation. I'm just stuck here. | dtvr78e | dtvsmc8 | 1,518,020,207 | 1,518,021,524 | 100 | 150 | Same answer as other sub: Get a certified birth certificate at Nebraska Department of Health & Human Services- http://dhhs.ne.gov/publichealth/pages/ced_bicert.aspx . Get a replacement Social Security card here- https://www.ssa.gov/ssnumber/ | Your parents sound like that have the Capgras Delusion. I'm incredibly sorry you have to see your parents go through this. Getting your birth certificate and SS card replaced is very easy, the other poster gave good info for that. In addition to that, I would reach out to a psychiatrist in your area and see if they'll work with you to getting your parents diagnosed and declared as incompetent so that their estate can be managed, if you so desire. Even if your parents are skilled liars, a psychiatrist specializing in dementia would be trained to notice the signs and assist you in making sure they are taken care of. | 0 | 1,317 | 1.5 |
bgnuni | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | [Ohio] Can my friends mother force her on birth control? She’s not sexually active I’m honestly not even sure how to start with this. I don’t want to give her bad advice because I know absolutely nothing about this. She’s 16 and living in a split custody situation with her father and mother. I don’t really know a more polite way to say that her parents are insane. She has no bed at either house while both her sisters do, her father used to hit her and she’s terrified of him. Her mother knows about all of this and doesn’t seem to care. She’s currently paying for her drivers ed classes while her sisters are having hers paid. She’s not a bad person either for fucks sake. She has a gpa above 3.5, is taking college classes in highschool, and doesn’t do any drugs and hasn’t had sex in her life Despite all of that her parents are now insisting that because being 16 she must be rebelling and sneaking out every night. And because of that has to go on birth control. I know she can’t prove it to them but she’s seriously never had sex in her life. It’s within their rights to make their kid do that right? She can’t exactly prove she’s a virgin to them And if it’s illegal is it even worth fighting against? | elmgf7k | elmc20l | 1,556,070,713 | 1,556,067,629 | 16 | 14 | If they are wanting her to get a LARC (long acting reversible birth control) such as an IUD or nexplanon, those will require consent forms to be signed. If your friend says specifically that she does not consent, no doctor is going to force that on her, regardless of the wishes of the parent. If it is a prescription for birth control pills, well, she get fill the prescription but not actually take them. | In Ohio but not a lawyer. Parents generally have a right to make decisions without a child's approval and it can be well within their rights. Though she may be able to voice the concern to her doctor when going for the prescription. She may be able to speak with Planned Parenthood about the matter as well. However you mentioned her father was abusive. She could potentially make a report to CPS or tell a mandatory reporter (such as her guidance councilor or a teacher.) Though there could be repercussions should she do that and it could impact her ability to focus on school. In my area (Northeast Ohio) there's an organization called Townhall 2 which (if my memory serves me correctly) may have some resources that could help. A similar organization in your area may be of help. It could be wise for her to see about seeing a therapist who may be able to offer some advice as well as help her with some life skills (coping with the impacts from her parents and whatnot.) Either way I wish her the best of luck. | 1 | 3,084 | 1.142857 |
vckwon | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | What can I do about a mentally ill and unsafe roommate? I am in Washington state. I live in a rental home with 4 others all on the lease. One of our roommates is starting to become delusional and is making our whole house uncomfortable. She’s accusing of us doing things like microwaving her pineapple to ruin her food or stealing her clothes and hiding them, just to put them back where she already looked to intentionally make her feel crazy. Cramming sticks in her tailpipe. She’s admitted to having BPD but doesn’t believe in mental health treatment. It’s been getting worse for months as she’s riding out unemployment. (Been fired from 3 jobs in 8 months) She’s also starting to yell and scream at us, even from across the house over things as simple as us asking her to move her laundry from the dryer. I can no longer rest safely in my home. What are all of my options? I’m hoping that just asking her to leave will be enough but I’m also expecting us to come home from vacation with a looted and destroyed house. (I already took a walkthrough video) I read that I may need to request our landlords to evict her. If they say no, what options do I have? | icf7fmx | iceuqrr | 1,655,270,841 | 1,655,263,104 | 179 | 2 | If all five of you are on the same lease, then generally your landlord cannot evict just the single tenant. It's an all or nothing proposition. Depending on your lease term and the protections for tenants in your specific area, when the lease is up they *may* be able to just not renew her lease, but this will be location specific. Depending on the terms of the lease, you may also be able to fund a sublet and move out yourself. If your room mate starts making statements about harming herself or other people, you can call 911. Police and Physicians do have the ability to get her involuntarily admitted to the hospital for a short period of time if she is an immediate danger. Hopefully that will be what she needs to start getting treatment and to turn things around. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 7,737 | 89.5 |
vckwon | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | What can I do about a mentally ill and unsafe roommate? I am in Washington state. I live in a rental home with 4 others all on the lease. One of our roommates is starting to become delusional and is making our whole house uncomfortable. She’s accusing of us doing things like microwaving her pineapple to ruin her food or stealing her clothes and hiding them, just to put them back where she already looked to intentionally make her feel crazy. Cramming sticks in her tailpipe. She’s admitted to having BPD but doesn’t believe in mental health treatment. It’s been getting worse for months as she’s riding out unemployment. (Been fired from 3 jobs in 8 months) She’s also starting to yell and scream at us, even from across the house over things as simple as us asking her to move her laundry from the dryer. I can no longer rest safely in my home. What are all of my options? I’m hoping that just asking her to leave will be enough but I’m also expecting us to come home from vacation with a looted and destroyed house. (I already took a walkthrough video) I read that I may need to request our landlords to evict her. If they say no, what options do I have? | icfairc | icf8kju | 1,655,273,079 | 1,655,271,645 | 63 | 58 | As is already said it's very unlikely you're able to get only this one roommate evicted. Your best bet would be to see if she'll leave voluntarily and if your landlord would resign a new lease. You can do what's called 'cash for keys' and basically pay her off to leave. If all the other roommates want her out you might all chip in a couple hundred bucks and get enough for her to accept it. It would be less expensive than her destroying the apartment, getting you evicted and potentially losing your security deposit. This would require your landlord to agree, and you'd all be responsible for her share of the rent until/unless you're able to find a new roommate. | The bar for ITA or a DCR referral in Washington state is pretty high (ie psych holds). You should still call the police if there are any threats of violence to herself or others to start a trail which will be extremely helpful if you need to get a restraining order or sue for damages. If you have individual leases you can ask the landlord to evict her but if it's a group lease there's not a lot the landlord can do to her alone. | 1 | 1,434 | 1.086207 |
vckwon | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | What can I do about a mentally ill and unsafe roommate? I am in Washington state. I live in a rental home with 4 others all on the lease. One of our roommates is starting to become delusional and is making our whole house uncomfortable. She’s accusing of us doing things like microwaving her pineapple to ruin her food or stealing her clothes and hiding them, just to put them back where she already looked to intentionally make her feel crazy. Cramming sticks in her tailpipe. She’s admitted to having BPD but doesn’t believe in mental health treatment. It’s been getting worse for months as she’s riding out unemployment. (Been fired from 3 jobs in 8 months) She’s also starting to yell and scream at us, even from across the house over things as simple as us asking her to move her laundry from the dryer. I can no longer rest safely in my home. What are all of my options? I’m hoping that just asking her to leave will be enough but I’m also expecting us to come home from vacation with a looted and destroyed house. (I already took a walkthrough video) I read that I may need to request our landlords to evict her. If they say no, what options do I have? | icfairc | iceuqrr | 1,655,273,079 | 1,655,263,104 | 63 | 2 | As is already said it's very unlikely you're able to get only this one roommate evicted. Your best bet would be to see if she'll leave voluntarily and if your landlord would resign a new lease. You can do what's called 'cash for keys' and basically pay her off to leave. If all the other roommates want her out you might all chip in a couple hundred bucks and get enough for her to accept it. It would be less expensive than her destroying the apartment, getting you evicted and potentially losing your security deposit. This would require your landlord to agree, and you'd all be responsible for her share of the rent until/unless you're able to find a new roommate. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 9,975 | 31.5 |
vckwon | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | What can I do about a mentally ill and unsafe roommate? I am in Washington state. I live in a rental home with 4 others all on the lease. One of our roommates is starting to become delusional and is making our whole house uncomfortable. She’s accusing of us doing things like microwaving her pineapple to ruin her food or stealing her clothes and hiding them, just to put them back where she already looked to intentionally make her feel crazy. Cramming sticks in her tailpipe. She’s admitted to having BPD but doesn’t believe in mental health treatment. It’s been getting worse for months as she’s riding out unemployment. (Been fired from 3 jobs in 8 months) She’s also starting to yell and scream at us, even from across the house over things as simple as us asking her to move her laundry from the dryer. I can no longer rest safely in my home. What are all of my options? I’m hoping that just asking her to leave will be enough but I’m also expecting us to come home from vacation with a looted and destroyed house. (I already took a walkthrough video) I read that I may need to request our landlords to evict her. If they say no, what options do I have? | icf8kju | iceuqrr | 1,655,271,645 | 1,655,263,104 | 58 | 2 | The bar for ITA or a DCR referral in Washington state is pretty high (ie psych holds). You should still call the police if there are any threats of violence to herself or others to start a trail which will be extremely helpful if you need to get a restraining order or sue for damages. If you have individual leases you can ask the landlord to evict her but if it's a group lease there's not a lot the landlord can do to her alone. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 8,541 | 29 |
vckwon | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | What can I do about a mentally ill and unsafe roommate? I am in Washington state. I live in a rental home with 4 others all on the lease. One of our roommates is starting to become delusional and is making our whole house uncomfortable. She’s accusing of us doing things like microwaving her pineapple to ruin her food or stealing her clothes and hiding them, just to put them back where she already looked to intentionally make her feel crazy. Cramming sticks in her tailpipe. She’s admitted to having BPD but doesn’t believe in mental health treatment. It’s been getting worse for months as she’s riding out unemployment. (Been fired from 3 jobs in 8 months) She’s also starting to yell and scream at us, even from across the house over things as simple as us asking her to move her laundry from the dryer. I can no longer rest safely in my home. What are all of my options? I’m hoping that just asking her to leave will be enough but I’m also expecting us to come home from vacation with a looted and destroyed house. (I already took a walkthrough video) I read that I may need to request our landlords to evict her. If they say no, what options do I have? | iceuqrr | icfdxxa | 1,655,263,104 | 1,655,275,756 | 2 | 12 | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | I am not a lawyer - Do you know if you are all on one lease, or if you each have individual leases? If you’re on individual leases, you maybe be able to break your lease early and move out if your landlord doesn’t address your roommates disruptive behavior - tenants in Washington state have a right to quiet enjoyment of their rental units, which puts the burden on landlords to keep the units in safe/habitable conditions, and includes a duty on your landlord to address issues created by other tenants that interfere with your ability to peacefully enjoy your unit. Look up WA State covenant of quiet enjoyment and you should find some helpful info about how to start the process. | 0 | 12,652 | 6 |
y5rqy1 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Ex-girlfriend (bank employee) has accessed my bank account Hi there! I initially posted this question in r/Banking and after following the advices on there, I think I need some legal advice. The story in a nutshell: My ex-gf (a bank employee) has been accessing my bank account from her workplace without my knowledge. I found out about this very accidentally, when talking to my bank. As per suggestions in r/Banking I went to my local branch, sat down with a banker and told them everything. The banker filed a case with the bank's Branch Complaints Escalations dept. After 3 days I got a call from the complaints escalations dept saying that my account has been accessed lawfully, because it was the bank's lead generation software that suggested the banker (my ex-gf) to access my account. I did not agree with the investigation's conclusion and I am planning to take this further. Here's why I don't agree with their decision: 1. It's highly unlikely for a lead generation software to suggest to a branch employee to contact a client who lives 400 miles away. 2. Even if the lead generation software did bring up my account, the branch employee was not supposed to act on it given the fact that she personally knew me. It is in the bank's code of conduct that employees should not access accounts of people they know. Both of the points of above were in my initial complaint, but yet somehow the branch escalations department has ignored them and concluded that there was no wrongdoing. I have a feeling they want to "sweep this under the rug" and I need to take further steps. Here are my questions: 1. If there are any banking professionals reading this, is there any other department in the bank (my bank is in Big 4) that can help me more effectively? I have a feeling that the branch escalations department is being protective of the branches. 2. What else can I do in this case? Is there a government body that I can contact who can further escalate this? I live in the state of California and my account was accessed from a branch that's also in California. 3. Will talking to an attorney be helpful in this case? If yes, what kind of attorneys should I be looking for? Thank you all in advance! | islcox5 | ismvz55 | 1,665,954,171 | 1,665,979,676 | 11 | 21 | This might be somewhere to start, along with this as well. | I am not a lawyer. A complaint to the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau "CFPB" (a federal org) may also be in order. Banks HATE getting complaints through the CFPB. https://www.consumerfinance.gov/complaint/ | 0 | 25,505 | 1.909091 |
65k0ci | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | NJ My cell phone cannot make 911 calls. My carrier is attempting to troubleshoot and is requesting that I try to call 911 after each attempted fix. Is this okay? And if fixed, do I stay on and explain this to the dispatcher? Title says most, I get a generic carrier error message when trying to call 911. Luckily we had a friend in the car who was able to call at the time when we needed to a few days ago. I'm working with my carrier's level 3 tech support to resolve and they keep asking me to try calling after each fix, even though I don't have an emergency. | dgauvmf | dgautdc | 1,492,274,803 | 1,492,274,715 | 1,845 | 71 | 1. Find your county's 911 call center (using Google, or by calling your police department non-emergency number and asking). It will have a non-emergency number. 2. Call the non-emergency number for the call center and ask how to schedule a test call. 3. Test your 911 service. During your call, identify yourself and make it clear that you are making a test call, as arranged. Source. Dispatchers are also able to handle unscheduled test calls, but you may get a talking-to from the dispatcher before they let you off the line. *Do not hang up* until you have spoken to a dispatcher: a hang-up call to 911 can lead to emergency services showing up, and then to a hefty bill. | How would you test it otherwise? It's fine to make an occasional test call. If it goes through, **absolutely stay on the line** and explain to dispatcher. They get test or accidental calls all the time. | 1 | 88 | 25.985915 |
65k0ci | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | NJ My cell phone cannot make 911 calls. My carrier is attempting to troubleshoot and is requesting that I try to call 911 after each attempted fix. Is this okay? And if fixed, do I stay on and explain this to the dispatcher? Title says most, I get a generic carrier error message when trying to call 911. Luckily we had a friend in the car who was able to call at the time when we needed to a few days ago. I'm working with my carrier's level 3 tech support to resolve and they keep asking me to try calling after each fix, even though I don't have an emergency. | dgautdc | dgaxgle | 1,492,274,715 | 1,492,278,322 | 71 | 484 | How would you test it otherwise? It's fine to make an occasional test call. If it goes through, **absolutely stay on the line** and explain to dispatcher. They get test or accidental calls all the time. | Former PSAP (9-1-1 equipment) technician here. This is actually fairly common. Don't hang up until they answer or you get an intercept message or fast-busy signal. Post-dial delay on cell calls to 9-1-1 can be several seconds. Don't expect an immediate connection. The first words you say when dispatch answers should be, "This is not an emergency. *Carrier* asked me to place a test call." After they acknowledge, you might also verify that they show your number as *read your cell number.* Thank them and don't hang up until they indicate that you should. It's best to place these test calls weekdays late morning to mid-afternoon and not during severe weather if at all possible. | 0 | 3,607 | 6.816901 |
xr8vwz | legaladvice_train | 0.85 | (Tx) Dr office is attempting to charge me $250 to fill out a form for disability, I am on Medicaid. Like the title says, I am on Medicaid, and disability, I cannot afford to pay $250 for a form my insurance company is asking every doctor that has treated me since January for (I have a complex disability, this is over a dozen doctors/specialists). What can I do here? Insurance (long term disability) has been having trouble getting records and forms from all of my doctors since August, and they have informed me that if they don’t receive the forms they need by the end of September, they will put my benefits on hold. Dr office informed me that insurance company is refusing to pay the $250 as well. What can I do here? They are calling it a “collateral service charge”. | iqevp8v | iqdd41e | 1,664,483,431 | 1,664,461,728 | 68 | 39 | This may be problem although unlikely: I had a similar problem: the doctor's office staff told me that the disability insurance company refused to pay, and the office staff told me that I had to pay a fee in order to fill out the forms. I called the disability insurance company, and they told me that the insurance company needed the doctor's TIN (taxpayer identification number) to send payment. The doctor just switched offices, and the new office had a different TIN. The office was providing his old TIN which upon verification came out as invalid. Then the office was providing the NPI (national provider identification number) instead of the TIN. Through a circuitous route I was able to find the proper TIN, provided it to the disability insurance company, and get the company to pay for the form. At my next visit the doctor told me to call him personally next time this happens, and he would waive the fee. As it is I currently get a copy of the form, fill it out myself, copying the information from the previous form, bring it to him during the next visit, and he signs the form, gives me a copy and has his office mail it themselves. | findhelp.org sometimes there's organizations/programs available that can help with sudden payments, or in helping you with medical payments/disability issues. What's available wildly ranges between local areas/states. | 1 | 21,703 | 1.74359 |
gpuo9z | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My grandmother and I made a small nature area on her property by transplanting many flowers and other plants and letting it grow. The neighbor decided he didn't like that and mowed it all down when she wasn't home, is there anything we can do about this? | frpc0uh | frou0lz | 1,590,353,946 | 1,590,345,370 | 564 | 200 | This is also destruction of property. In some states it is malicious mischief. Call the police. It’s a crime. The neighbor trespassed onto your grandmother’s property and destroyed her plants. I have seen people prosecuted for destroying $50 worth of daffodils. At least make a report because the neighbor sounds like a jerk who does what he wants. | Location is important She can sue him for the cost of recreating that area/garden | 1 | 8,576 | 2.82 |
gpuo9z | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My grandmother and I made a small nature area on her property by transplanting many flowers and other plants and letting it grow. The neighbor decided he didn't like that and mowed it all down when she wasn't home, is there anything we can do about this? | frowuib | frpc0uh | 1,590,346,733 | 1,590,353,946 | 27 | 564 | if it is on her property you can sue for damages. but keep in mind that people don't like to be sued, and this might make things even more uncomfortable. Has she tried speaking with the neighbor and explaining it was a project that she and her grandchild were doing together? | This is also destruction of property. In some states it is malicious mischief. Call the police. It’s a crime. The neighbor trespassed onto your grandmother’s property and destroyed her plants. I have seen people prosecuted for destroying $50 worth of daffodils. At least make a report because the neighbor sounds like a jerk who does what he wants. | 0 | 7,213 | 20.888889 |
gpuo9z | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My grandmother and I made a small nature area on her property by transplanting many flowers and other plants and letting it grow. The neighbor decided he didn't like that and mowed it all down when she wasn't home, is there anything we can do about this? | frou0lz | frpozsz | 1,590,345,370 | 1,590,360,537 | 200 | 277 | Location is important She can sue him for the cost of recreating that area/garden | Your grandmother has damages, and the neighbor should be responsible for those damages. You should get value for not only the flowers themselves, but the labor involved as well. Find a reputable landscaping company and get them to give an estimate for how much it would cost to recreate things as they were. Once you have that quote, now you have something for a demand letter and can decide whether small claims would work or a traditional civil suit. Can also file a police report for the destruction of property. | 0 | 15,167 | 1.385 |
gpuo9z | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My grandmother and I made a small nature area on her property by transplanting many flowers and other plants and letting it grow. The neighbor decided he didn't like that and mowed it all down when she wasn't home, is there anything we can do about this? | frpozsz | frowuib | 1,590,360,537 | 1,590,346,733 | 277 | 27 | Your grandmother has damages, and the neighbor should be responsible for those damages. You should get value for not only the flowers themselves, but the labor involved as well. Find a reputable landscaping company and get them to give an estimate for how much it would cost to recreate things as they were. Once you have that quote, now you have something for a demand letter and can decide whether small claims would work or a traditional civil suit. Can also file a police report for the destruction of property. | if it is on her property you can sue for damages. but keep in mind that people don't like to be sued, and this might make things even more uncomfortable. Has she tried speaking with the neighbor and explaining it was a project that she and her grandchild were doing together? | 1 | 13,804 | 10.259259 |
gpuo9z | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | My grandmother and I made a small nature area on her property by transplanting many flowers and other plants and letting it grow. The neighbor decided he didn't like that and mowed it all down when she wasn't home, is there anything we can do about this? | frq2jbx | frq7psz | 1,590,368,670 | 1,590,371,920 | 39 | 41 | Is it on the property line? I'm trying to piece together why he would do this? Did he percieve that the flowers were growing over onto his lawn? Was it an easy malicious act for him to commit by mowing just a bit over the line? Or did he full on trespass into the yard with his mower and cut it? | How do you know it was him? Did he admit to it? Did someone see him? Were there cameras or physical evidence? Are you inferring it was him because he's done or threatened things like this before? These are going to matter if you're interested in recovering damages or seeing him prosecuted for his crime. | 0 | 3,250 | 1.051282 |
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