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boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enguqf8 | enh86br | 1,557,841,619 | 1,557,847,574 | 4 | 7 | Tell them to take the vehicle to "their friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." You are fine. You sold as is and have nothing to worry about. | Let them sue you, countersue them for the $100 they still owe you (that you have evidence to back up), plus all court costs. They will be out $100 and court costs. | 0 | 5,955 | 1.75 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enh0fnj | enh86br | 1,557,844,227 | 1,557,847,574 | 5 | 7 | On every bill of sale write “As is, where is” just to cover ur bum a little extra | Let them sue you, countersue them for the $100 they still owe you (that you have evidence to back up), plus all court costs. They will be out $100 and court costs. | 0 | 3,347 | 1.4 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enhroga | enguqf8 | 1,557,856,298 | 1,557,841,619 | 6 | 4 | Tell them to fuck themselves or take you to small claims. Cars are sold as is. You got nothing to worry about. | Tell them to take the vehicle to "their friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." You are fine. You sold as is and have nothing to worry about. | 1 | 14,679 | 1.5 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enguqf8 | enh0fnj | 1,557,841,619 | 1,557,844,227 | 4 | 5 | Tell them to take the vehicle to "their friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." You are fine. You sold as is and have nothing to worry about. | On every bill of sale write “As is, where is” just to cover ur bum a little extra | 0 | 2,608 | 1.25 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enhoi47 | enguqf8 | 1,557,855,001 | 1,557,841,619 | 5 | 4 | Buyer beware, as is... contingent on nothing, private party sale. You’re all good. If you feel you’re being harassed, contact letgo, block contact. | Tell them to take the vehicle to "their friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." You are fine. You sold as is and have nothing to worry about. | 1 | 13,382 | 1.25 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enhroga | enh0fnj | 1,557,856,298 | 1,557,844,227 | 6 | 5 | Tell them to fuck themselves or take you to small claims. Cars are sold as is. You got nothing to worry about. | On every bill of sale write “As is, where is” just to cover ur bum a little extra | 1 | 12,071 | 1.2 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enhroga | enhoi47 | 1,557,856,298 | 1,557,855,001 | 6 | 5 | Tell them to fuck themselves or take you to small claims. Cars are sold as is. You got nothing to worry about. | Buyer beware, as is... contingent on nothing, private party sale. You’re all good. If you feel you’re being harassed, contact letgo, block contact. | 1 | 1,297 | 1.2 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enhroga | enhimua | 1,557,856,298 | 1,557,852,227 | 6 | 3 | Tell them to fuck themselves or take you to small claims. Cars are sold as is. You got nothing to worry about. | Nothing about the vehicle or it's condition matters. Unless there is a signed contract for the sale stating expectations of condition or warranty, they have no legal recourse to anything. They would have to prove that you illegally deceived them in some way. | 1 | 4,071 | 2 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enhimua | enhoi47 | 1,557,852,227 | 1,557,855,001 | 3 | 5 | Nothing about the vehicle or it's condition matters. Unless there is a signed contract for the sale stating expectations of condition or warranty, they have no legal recourse to anything. They would have to prove that you illegally deceived them in some way. | Buyer beware, as is... contingent on nothing, private party sale. You’re all good. If you feel you’re being harassed, contact letgo, block contact. | 0 | 2,774 | 1.666667 |
boi2i3 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Being threatened with small claims over $1,200 car we sold Hello all, and thanks for any advice you are able to provide. Location: Louisville, KY area Story: We had an older midsize SUV that we sold last month (April 8th), privately. The KBB value for the vehicle in FAIR condition is $1,444-$3293; the vehicle had 190k miles on it, needed a battery, and was making a grinding sound in the rear when driving. The vehicle did start when jumped however, and was test-driven down our small cul-de-sac. We never took it to a mechanic, and I wasn't sure to be honest what was causing it. Additionally, it had sat for approximately a year to a year and a half, only being driven up and down our cul-de-sac one to two times in that timeframe. We just didn't need the vehicle anymore. We placed the vehicle for sale on LetGo. We were fully up-front about the condition of the vehicle, stating that it was as-is, we had not taken it to a mechanic, and that it needed a battery as well as having sat for a while. We eventually sold it to the buyer for an initial agreed-upon price of $1,200; after looking at the vehicle in person, he waved away the issues, stating he "had a friend who had a shop and did that kind of work." The day of the sale, they showed up with only $1,100, and claimed they didn't have the money to pay the full amount that day, due to needing to get the vehicle insured. They signed a hand-written document which I had notarized with them present that stated they would pay the remaining $100 by the following week. We still signed the title over to them and had it switched into their name at the DMV that day. Since then they have claimed the vehicle had more problems than we stated, such as "mud in the radiator fluid", and that the fuel lines are spraying fuel into the engine bay. They have been harassing my wife and I with phone texts, and messages on LetGo. I told them in text that due to their additional issues I would be willing to waive that $100, to which I got a "Gee Thanks." They are now threatening me with small claims court over the vehicle. Do I have anything to fear, here? We have screenshots of our ad in LetGo, and have not deleted any conversations in text/IM with them. I also still have the notarized payment agreement of which they never fulfilled their end of. | enhx57p | enhimua | 1,557,858,338 | 1,557,852,227 | 4 | 3 | If he does that, countersue in small claims for the $100. In fact, you should do it anyway. | Nothing about the vehicle or it's condition matters. Unless there is a signed contract for the sale stating expectations of condition or warranty, they have no legal recourse to anything. They would have to prove that you illegally deceived them in some way. | 1 | 6,111 | 1.333333 |
71sy5b | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Threatened with ADA lawsuit over refusing service to a bedwetting customer. Georgia Hello /r/legaladvice, I'm posting on behalf of my parents who own a hotel in GA. A customer in the hotel was staying in one of our rooms for about a week and when housekeeping entered to clean the room, they found it smelled heavily of urine and some other strong odors. The customer came to the front office and smelled of it as well. When asked about it, he stated that he wet the bed, but later said that his daughter was staying with him and her baby wet the bed. He was told the hotel would no longer rent the room to him due to the heavy urine smells and odors. After which his daughter said to expect a call from their attorney. The attorney called and stated that the customer was disabled and we were violating the ADA in refusing him service. Is he just blowing smoke up our asses? We told him that if he wishes to pursue legal action, to contact our attorney. I am under the assumption that we would not be required to rent a room to them for hygienic reasons as well as damage to the bed. Is there anything further we should be doing besides waiting until we get served? | dnd7add | dnd7ewf | 1,506,105,229 | 1,506,105,361 | 63 | 92 | I suspect it wasn't an attorney that called you. ADA means reasonable accommodations. Having someone piss in your beds isn't reasonable. Transfer all calls to your manager or corporate. Do not speak to the other party's attorney if they are actually calling. | I highly doubt that was attorney on the phone. No good attorney is going to call up a hotel and threaten them with a suit to allow a client to stay in the hotel longer. I would charge more for that phone call up front than he would pay to rent another room in another hotel. | 0 | 132 | 1.460317 |
71sy5b | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Threatened with ADA lawsuit over refusing service to a bedwetting customer. Georgia Hello /r/legaladvice, I'm posting on behalf of my parents who own a hotel in GA. A customer in the hotel was staying in one of our rooms for about a week and when housekeeping entered to clean the room, they found it smelled heavily of urine and some other strong odors. The customer came to the front office and smelled of it as well. When asked about it, he stated that he wet the bed, but later said that his daughter was staying with him and her baby wet the bed. He was told the hotel would no longer rent the room to him due to the heavy urine smells and odors. After which his daughter said to expect a call from their attorney. The attorney called and stated that the customer was disabled and we were violating the ADA in refusing him service. Is he just blowing smoke up our asses? We told him that if he wishes to pursue legal action, to contact our attorney. I am under the assumption that we would not be required to rent a room to them for hygienic reasons as well as damage to the bed. Is there anything further we should be doing besides waiting until we get served? | dndcjg8 | dnd9els | 1,506,110,909 | 1,506,107,505 | 54 | 29 | Just something else to add. If, if this guy really has a disability that causes him to urinate this heavily, uncontrollably he would wear a diaper or something. You think he's pissing all over his bed at home? He may have just gotten insanely drunk and pissed the bed. No way he's got a case here. | > The attorney called and stated that the customer was disabled and we were violating the ADA in refusing him service. Is he just blowing smoke up our asses? Yes, or demonstrating that even among professions that require 7 years of education, there's still a bell curve. ADA requires an *accommodation.* Meaning that he should be able to make use of the services in a normal manner. For example, an accommodation would be to lower the height of the bed to make it easier to get into, or to put him in a room with handrails in the shower. The ADA does not require you to subject your room to biohazards or damage. You can charge for actual damages. I would very much be charging for the mattress and additional housekeeping expense. | 1 | 3,404 | 1.862069 |
71sy5b | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Threatened with ADA lawsuit over refusing service to a bedwetting customer. Georgia Hello /r/legaladvice, I'm posting on behalf of my parents who own a hotel in GA. A customer in the hotel was staying in one of our rooms for about a week and when housekeeping entered to clean the room, they found it smelled heavily of urine and some other strong odors. The customer came to the front office and smelled of it as well. When asked about it, he stated that he wet the bed, but later said that his daughter was staying with him and her baby wet the bed. He was told the hotel would no longer rent the room to him due to the heavy urine smells and odors. After which his daughter said to expect a call from their attorney. The attorney called and stated that the customer was disabled and we were violating the ADA in refusing him service. Is he just blowing smoke up our asses? We told him that if he wishes to pursue legal action, to contact our attorney. I am under the assumption that we would not be required to rent a room to them for hygienic reasons as well as damage to the bed. Is there anything further we should be doing besides waiting until we get served? | dndy02f | dndvx7q | 1,506,141,513 | 1,506,137,914 | 19 | 8 | I have mixed feeling about this. First, as an adult bedwetter, I can tell you, it's incredibly irresponsible for him to travel without any protection at all. When I travel now, be it to in-laws or hotel accommodations, I always bring high absorbency adult diapers, and plastic pants as backup. I don't wet my bed at home willy-nilly, and I wouldn't go unprotected at anyone else's place. However ... Over the years, I've contacted numerous hotels ahead of time, and not a single one had waterproof mattress covers, nor was any equipped to provide such protection when requested. I don't understand how this isn't a standard for all hotels anyway. Kids, spilled drinks, drunk (or disabled) adults, sex stains, etc., should make this common sense for anyone in hospitality. I used to bring mattress covers with me, and strip and remake the bed upon arrival, then request no housekeeping so I wouldn't lose them. I've decided that's really not my responsibility. It's too much to travel with, and if the hotel isn't going to make an effort to protect their bed, then it's not really on me either. It's not even as though waterproof mattress covers are all that expensive, and the non-woven ones feel like cloth anyway, so patrons wouldn't even notice. Also, I read the reply where you said you had the discard all the bed linens. That's totally absurd. Urine washes pretty easily. A saturated mattress might be beyond saving, but not the bed linens. Even comforters are machine washable (or at least any hotel should be using machine washable comforters). That makes me think you responded in an over the top manner, and that might be why the patron threatened a lawsuit. Honestly, even taking reasonable precautions (the aforementioned diapers), I've had leaks in hotel beds. Personally, I strip the bed, and leave the bedding in a pile for housekeeping, and that's it. I've never been charged for damages. | This is a scam from very beginning. Not only the person who called you is not an attorney, the bed wetting was most likely done on purpose. This guy probably jumps around small owner hotels and does this to scam hotels out of money and services. Protect yourself and don't give him a break. | 1 | 3,599 | 2.375 |
8fojgr | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Being threatened with lawsuit over sexual discrimination in hiring I am moving to a new apartment and I posted an ad on a website stating that I need "two guys with a truck". A lawyer sent me a letter (by way of a PDF attachment) reprimanding me for "gender discrimination" in violation of the Civil Rights Act. I replied back and said that I didn't intend to discriminate, and was just speaking casually, but I would be happy to hire females as well. I also mentioned that I have changed the ad to say "people" instead of "guys". The lawyer then sent me another letter. I'll just copy and paste it here. "Thank you for your response to my letter of April 18, 2018. I appreciate your prompt action in rectifying your solicitation. However, my female client, [name], has attempted to apply for this opportunity and did not receive a response, indicating that you intend to continue your policy of sexual discrimination despite your previous assurances to the contrary. Accordingly, I intend to pursue further action on her behalf. If you wish to discuss an amicable settlement to this matter, please contact my office directly. At this point, my client is willing to settle for a nominal sum. Please be aware that if you do not do so, or if we are unable to reach an agreement, my client will pursue legal remedies." So it's possible that I ignored her client's message, but it was because I had already found someone, and not because of any discrimination. Also, I am not sure if this lawyer knows who I am, but I did send my name and address to several people who replied to my ad before finding someone that worked out. I was thinking of replying back and saying that I probably had already found someone and that's why I didn't reply to her client, but I don't know if that is the best course of action here. Please give me any advice. I'm in Texas if it matters. | dy581xj | dy58e1m | 1,524,969,652 | 1,524,970,076 | 34 | 37 | There's about a 102% chance this is a scam, and that's with a 2% margin of error. | This is a scam. Stop talking to this person. For future reference, you are below both the EEOC and state of TX minimum number of employee standard for claims of discrimination against a protected class. | 0 | 424 | 1.088235 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mk1rw | i8mutpu | 1,652,566,192 | 1,652,571,240 | 65 | 71 | Nothing scarier than an aggressive dog coming your way when you have your child. I agree with everyone else regarding the police and animal control. | You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I | 0 | 5,048 | 1.092308 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mutpu | i8m5o68 | 1,652,571,240 | 1,652,559,540 | 71 | 59 | You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I | In California, strict liability is imposed on owners of dogs for bites. Gather and maintain whatever evidence you have and consult a personal injury attorney. | 1 | 11,700 | 1.20339 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mtb9r | i8mutpu | 1,652,570,523 | 1,652,571,240 | 13 | 71 | Check to see if any of your other neighbors have security cameras that may have captured the incident. | You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I | 0 | 717 | 5.461538 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mgs2o | i8mutpu | 1,652,564,665 | 1,652,571,240 | 15 | 71 | Not a lawyer. But try not to talk to your neighbor. If you see them outside, or if they knock on your door. | You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I | 0 | 6,575 | 4.733333 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mutpu | i8mbd0p | 1,652,571,240 | 1,652,562,171 | 71 | 9 | You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I | Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim. | 1 | 9,069 | 7.888889 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mutpu | i8m8zdx | 1,652,571,240 | 1,652,561,065 | 71 | 6 | You need to get medical attention for everyone’s injuries. Next consult a lawyer, they will look into the neighbor’s assets and insurance policy. If you are lucky, they will have homeowners insurance that does not exclude aggressive dogs. If the policy does exclude the breed/dog, then your best bet is small claims for cost reimbursement. I am very familiar with this scenario (although not in CA) because I was attacked by neighbors dog in my own fenced backyard last year. We received a significant settlement from their homeowners for medical and pain & suffering. I am permanently disfigured now. I | What happened to your dog? | 1 | 10,175 | 11.833333 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8m5o68 | i8mk1rw | 1,652,559,540 | 1,652,566,192 | 59 | 65 | In California, strict liability is imposed on owners of dogs for bites. Gather and maintain whatever evidence you have and consult a personal injury attorney. | Nothing scarier than an aggressive dog coming your way when you have your child. I agree with everyone else regarding the police and animal control. | 0 | 6,652 | 1.101695 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mgs2o | i8mk1rw | 1,652,564,665 | 1,652,566,192 | 15 | 65 | Not a lawyer. But try not to talk to your neighbor. If you see them outside, or if they knock on your door. | Nothing scarier than an aggressive dog coming your way when you have your child. I agree with everyone else regarding the police and animal control. | 0 | 1,527 | 4.333333 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mk1rw | i8mbd0p | 1,652,566,192 | 1,652,562,171 | 65 | 9 | Nothing scarier than an aggressive dog coming your way when you have your child. I agree with everyone else regarding the police and animal control. | Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim. | 1 | 4,021 | 7.222222 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8m8zdx | i8mk1rw | 1,652,561,065 | 1,652,566,192 | 6 | 65 | What happened to your dog? | Nothing scarier than an aggressive dog coming your way when you have your child. I agree with everyone else regarding the police and animal control. | 0 | 5,127 | 10.833333 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8nhy02 | i8mtb9r | 1,652,583,148 | 1,652,570,523 | 23 | 13 | As others have said, call the cops, call your local Animal Services, and call a good civil attorney. But to ADD, I would take many, many pictures. Including odd things that may seem like piling on. Take a photograph of the location where you were bitten. Take ongoing photographs of the wounds as they progress. My husband did prosecution for dog bite cases and literally the more evidence, the better. I'd also ask your friend/witness to write down what HE saw, while it's fresh. I watched one of these cases get dragged out a solid year and a half. Write down the entire altercation in writing, while it's still fresh in your memory. If your son is too young to write, have him say what happened on film. This will make it easier for your attorney. I'd also start speaking with a civil attorney if you have any medical or vet bills. If you can't afford one, your local Legal Aid can help. I'm sorry that this happened to you. | Check to see if any of your other neighbors have security cameras that may have captured the incident. | 1 | 12,625 | 1.769231 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8nhy02 | i8mgs2o | 1,652,583,148 | 1,652,564,665 | 23 | 15 | As others have said, call the cops, call your local Animal Services, and call a good civil attorney. But to ADD, I would take many, many pictures. Including odd things that may seem like piling on. Take a photograph of the location where you were bitten. Take ongoing photographs of the wounds as they progress. My husband did prosecution for dog bite cases and literally the more evidence, the better. I'd also ask your friend/witness to write down what HE saw, while it's fresh. I watched one of these cases get dragged out a solid year and a half. Write down the entire altercation in writing, while it's still fresh in your memory. If your son is too young to write, have him say what happened on film. This will make it easier for your attorney. I'd also start speaking with a civil attorney if you have any medical or vet bills. If you can't afford one, your local Legal Aid can help. I'm sorry that this happened to you. | Not a lawyer. But try not to talk to your neighbor. If you see them outside, or if they knock on your door. | 1 | 18,483 | 1.533333 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mbd0p | i8nhy02 | 1,652,562,171 | 1,652,583,148 | 9 | 23 | Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim. | As others have said, call the cops, call your local Animal Services, and call a good civil attorney. But to ADD, I would take many, many pictures. Including odd things that may seem like piling on. Take a photograph of the location where you were bitten. Take ongoing photographs of the wounds as they progress. My husband did prosecution for dog bite cases and literally the more evidence, the better. I'd also ask your friend/witness to write down what HE saw, while it's fresh. I watched one of these cases get dragged out a solid year and a half. Write down the entire altercation in writing, while it's still fresh in your memory. If your son is too young to write, have him say what happened on film. This will make it easier for your attorney. I'd also start speaking with a civil attorney if you have any medical or vet bills. If you can't afford one, your local Legal Aid can help. I'm sorry that this happened to you. | 0 | 20,977 | 2.555556 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8nhy02 | i8mxyoo | 1,652,583,148 | 1,652,572,782 | 23 | 8 | As others have said, call the cops, call your local Animal Services, and call a good civil attorney. But to ADD, I would take many, many pictures. Including odd things that may seem like piling on. Take a photograph of the location where you were bitten. Take ongoing photographs of the wounds as they progress. My husband did prosecution for dog bite cases and literally the more evidence, the better. I'd also ask your friend/witness to write down what HE saw, while it's fresh. I watched one of these cases get dragged out a solid year and a half. Write down the entire altercation in writing, while it's still fresh in your memory. If your son is too young to write, have him say what happened on film. This will make it easier for your attorney. I'd also start speaking with a civil attorney if you have any medical or vet bills. If you can't afford one, your local Legal Aid can help. I'm sorry that this happened to you. | There are a good number of firms in the Bay Area who handle dog bite cases. I strongly recommend you reach out to an attorney and do what he or she advises. I don’t know any dog bite attorneys in your area but I do know some in Southern California if you have no luck and need a recommendation. | 1 | 10,366 | 2.875 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8m8zdx | i8nhy02 | 1,652,561,065 | 1,652,583,148 | 6 | 23 | What happened to your dog? | As others have said, call the cops, call your local Animal Services, and call a good civil attorney. But to ADD, I would take many, many pictures. Including odd things that may seem like piling on. Take a photograph of the location where you were bitten. Take ongoing photographs of the wounds as they progress. My husband did prosecution for dog bite cases and literally the more evidence, the better. I'd also ask your friend/witness to write down what HE saw, while it's fresh. I watched one of these cases get dragged out a solid year and a half. Write down the entire altercation in writing, while it's still fresh in your memory. If your son is too young to write, have him say what happened on film. This will make it easier for your attorney. I'd also start speaking with a civil attorney if you have any medical or vet bills. If you can't afford one, your local Legal Aid can help. I'm sorry that this happened to you. | 0 | 22,083 | 3.833333 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mbd0p | i8mtb9r | 1,652,562,171 | 1,652,570,523 | 9 | 13 | Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim. | Check to see if any of your other neighbors have security cameras that may have captured the incident. | 0 | 8,352 | 1.444444 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mtb9r | i8m8zdx | 1,652,570,523 | 1,652,561,065 | 13 | 6 | Check to see if any of your other neighbors have security cameras that may have captured the incident. | What happened to your dog? | 1 | 9,458 | 2.166667 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mgs2o | i8mbd0p | 1,652,564,665 | 1,652,562,171 | 15 | 9 | Not a lawyer. But try not to talk to your neighbor. If you see them outside, or if they knock on your door. | Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim. | 1 | 2,494 | 1.666667 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8m8zdx | i8mgs2o | 1,652,561,065 | 1,652,564,665 | 6 | 15 | What happened to your dog? | Not a lawyer. But try not to talk to your neighbor. If you see them outside, or if they knock on your door. | 0 | 3,600 | 2.5 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mbd0p | i8nz6u8 | 1,652,562,171 | 1,652,593,955 | 9 | 13 | Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim. | Since everyone is on top of the legal stuff, I just want to take a second to say, OP, I'm so sorry this happened to you. This is unacceptable and should not happen to anyone, let alone just a person with their child and leashed dog in their own neighborhood. This is a traumatic event and I hope you're coping and healing well. One of the scariest things can be a large dog lunging at you/running at you, or attacking you, especially with your child. Best wishes to you, and like everyone is saying, get solid proof of that vaccine. Get this all on record. Absolutely raise hell and do not shut up about it. Sometimes people in a situation similar to yours will not report it, settle outside of AC. You need to report this because this dog has shown known dangerous behavior and needs to be under control before it kills another domestic animal, or lord forbid, a child. If it happens once, it can happen again. The person needs to get their animal under control or surrender it to someone who can. Dogs like this can be rehabilitated, a lot of the time. It doesn't **have** to end in the death of the dog, or any other creatures, as long as there is reporting and it is taken very seriously. Incidents like this lead up to incidents like Kyleen Waltman or jacqueline durand. Some owners with dogs like this do not take the signs seriously, so everyone on the outside needs to make damn sure they do. | 0 | 31,784 | 1.444444 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mxyoo | i8nz6u8 | 1,652,572,782 | 1,652,593,955 | 8 | 13 | There are a good number of firms in the Bay Area who handle dog bite cases. I strongly recommend you reach out to an attorney and do what he or she advises. I don’t know any dog bite attorneys in your area but I do know some in Southern California if you have no luck and need a recommendation. | Since everyone is on top of the legal stuff, I just want to take a second to say, OP, I'm so sorry this happened to you. This is unacceptable and should not happen to anyone, let alone just a person with their child and leashed dog in their own neighborhood. This is a traumatic event and I hope you're coping and healing well. One of the scariest things can be a large dog lunging at you/running at you, or attacking you, especially with your child. Best wishes to you, and like everyone is saying, get solid proof of that vaccine. Get this all on record. Absolutely raise hell and do not shut up about it. Sometimes people in a situation similar to yours will not report it, settle outside of AC. You need to report this because this dog has shown known dangerous behavior and needs to be under control before it kills another domestic animal, or lord forbid, a child. If it happens once, it can happen again. The person needs to get their animal under control or surrender it to someone who can. Dogs like this can be rehabilitated, a lot of the time. It doesn't **have** to end in the death of the dog, or any other creatures, as long as there is reporting and it is taken very seriously. Incidents like this lead up to incidents like Kyleen Waltman or jacqueline durand. Some owners with dogs like this do not take the signs seriously, so everyone on the outside needs to make damn sure they do. | 0 | 21,173 | 1.625 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8m8zdx | i8nz6u8 | 1,652,561,065 | 1,652,593,955 | 6 | 13 | What happened to your dog? | Since everyone is on top of the legal stuff, I just want to take a second to say, OP, I'm so sorry this happened to you. This is unacceptable and should not happen to anyone, let alone just a person with their child and leashed dog in their own neighborhood. This is a traumatic event and I hope you're coping and healing well. One of the scariest things can be a large dog lunging at you/running at you, or attacking you, especially with your child. Best wishes to you, and like everyone is saying, get solid proof of that vaccine. Get this all on record. Absolutely raise hell and do not shut up about it. Sometimes people in a situation similar to yours will not report it, settle outside of AC. You need to report this because this dog has shown known dangerous behavior and needs to be under control before it kills another domestic animal, or lord forbid, a child. If it happens once, it can happen again. The person needs to get their animal under control or surrender it to someone who can. Dogs like this can be rehabilitated, a lot of the time. It doesn't **have** to end in the death of the dog, or any other creatures, as long as there is reporting and it is taken very seriously. Incidents like this lead up to incidents like Kyleen Waltman or jacqueline durand. Some owners with dogs like this do not take the signs seriously, so everyone on the outside needs to make damn sure they do. | 0 | 32,890 | 2.166667 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8nz6u8 | i8ntjkc | 1,652,593,955 | 1,652,590,004 | 13 | 2 | Since everyone is on top of the legal stuff, I just want to take a second to say, OP, I'm so sorry this happened to you. This is unacceptable and should not happen to anyone, let alone just a person with their child and leashed dog in their own neighborhood. This is a traumatic event and I hope you're coping and healing well. One of the scariest things can be a large dog lunging at you/running at you, or attacking you, especially with your child. Best wishes to you, and like everyone is saying, get solid proof of that vaccine. Get this all on record. Absolutely raise hell and do not shut up about it. Sometimes people in a situation similar to yours will not report it, settle outside of AC. You need to report this because this dog has shown known dangerous behavior and needs to be under control before it kills another domestic animal, or lord forbid, a child. If it happens once, it can happen again. The person needs to get their animal under control or surrender it to someone who can. Dogs like this can be rehabilitated, a lot of the time. It doesn't **have** to end in the death of the dog, or any other creatures, as long as there is reporting and it is taken very seriously. Incidents like this lead up to incidents like Kyleen Waltman or jacqueline durand. Some owners with dogs like this do not take the signs seriously, so everyone on the outside needs to make damn sure they do. | r/banpitbulls is a subreddit for victims of pit bull attacks. It has a guide with advice on what to do after an attack. (sorry if this isn’t allowed) | 1 | 3,951 | 6.5 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mbd0p | i8m8zdx | 1,652,562,171 | 1,652,561,065 | 9 | 6 | Get an attorney and have them file a homeowner’s claim. | What happened to your dog? | 1 | 1,106 | 1.5 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8mxyoo | i8m8zdx | 1,652,572,782 | 1,652,561,065 | 8 | 6 | There are a good number of firms in the Bay Area who handle dog bite cases. I strongly recommend you reach out to an attorney and do what he or she advises. I don’t know any dog bite attorneys in your area but I do know some in Southern California if you have no luck and need a recommendation. | What happened to your dog? | 1 | 11,717 | 1.333333 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8prsje | i8ntjkc | 1,652,634,359 | 1,652,590,004 | 4 | 2 | Medical help for injuries, police report and then contact personal injury lawyer that specializes in dog bites and attacks. I was attacked by a 140 lb bull mastiff and am a 5 ft 2 115 lb female. Went to the hospital after talking with the police, got my tetanus shot and then had to get a lawyer. Took about a yr total but got a small settlement from the owners insurance. Medical folks took their part, lawyer got his and then I had a little bit leftover. | r/banpitbulls is a subreddit for victims of pit bull attacks. It has a guide with advice on what to do after an attack. (sorry if this isn’t allowed) | 1 | 44,355 | 2 |
upouin | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | Oakland CA, my Neighbors pit bull attacked me. Next steps? Holding my dog and two year old, my leashed dog was attacked when a neighbor opened her door and let out a small dog and a Pitbull. They began attacking my dog and I moved my toddler behind us- shielding him and screaming. My husband was trying to pull one, and then both of the dogs off of us. A friend (after I screamed SOMEONE TAKE MY SON 5x) took my son to safety. My legs are bleeding from scratch marks and my upper left arm is bleeding from the Pitbull biting me. I have sent the Dr photos and am going on antibiotics. The neighbors confirmed via text that the dogs are up to date on rabies and they apologized. I wrote back- that dog could have killed my son. What should I do? I am in shock. | i8prsje | i8pq689 | 1,652,634,359 | 1,652,633,663 | 4 | 2 | Medical help for injuries, police report and then contact personal injury lawyer that specializes in dog bites and attacks. I was attacked by a 140 lb bull mastiff and am a 5 ft 2 115 lb female. Went to the hospital after talking with the police, got my tetanus shot and then had to get a lawyer. Took about a yr total but got a small settlement from the owners insurance. Medical folks took their part, lawyer got his and then I had a little bit leftover. | X-ray | 1 | 696 | 2 |
vmdlmb | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor refuses to pay vet bill after his dog attacked mine. At the time of the attack it didn't seem serious. But after finding a puncture wound I decided to take my dog to the vet. The bill was $100 and the neighbor will not pay for it. I didn't call the cops or animal control at the time (2days ago). Is it too late to take action? What can I do? | ie0i6tb | ie0k3go | 1,656,387,970 | 1,656,389,059 | 5 | 8 | Sue them in small claims. That's about your only option if they're refusing. | You could also report them to animal control. | 0 | 1,089 | 1.6 |
vmdlmb | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Neighbor refuses to pay vet bill after his dog attacked mine. At the time of the attack it didn't seem serious. But after finding a puncture wound I decided to take my dog to the vet. The bill was $100 and the neighbor will not pay for it. I didn't call the cops or animal control at the time (2days ago). Is it too late to take action? What can I do? | ie22jz8 | ie0i6tb | 1,656,425,742 | 1,656,387,970 | 7 | 5 | Not too late to call the police. You should call them whenever a dog bites anything off their property | Sue them in small claims. That's about your only option if they're refusing. | 1 | 37,772 | 1.4 |
ig2knj | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | [Texas] Neighbors did not want their dog and gave to other neighbor. Now that the dog is up to date on shots, neutered, and housebroken they want it back. My elderly neighbor “Elmer” adopted a husky mix from a family down the street about eight months ago, possibly longer but the vet bills date back eight months. The family bought him for $40 from a Walmart parking lot with no proof of ownership. They never took the dog to a vet and after complained he was “untrainable” and not fit for a home with children. They mentioned wanting to abandon the dog out by the nearby military base so Elmer offered to take the dog until he could “find a home”. Elmer took the dog to the vet and got him a check up that included his rabies vaccination which he received a tag for via mail. He also paid to have the dog neutered. I think there’s been 4 vet visits total and he has receipts for all. Recently the father of the family, upon learning the dog is up to date on its medical care and has since been successfully house and leash trained, thinks that since Elmer initially said he intended to find the dog another home he should give it back to them since they want him now. Elmer evaded the initial request and has since been avoiding them. But the family has been making this a topic of conversation in the neighborhood. I doubt they have any legal standing in the matter but Elmer has a distrustful history with police (no police record on his part afaik) and fears if he keeps ignoring them his dog will be taken from him on the word of a white family. He makes it a point to express these fears to me almost daily and has asked if he should take the dog to live with his sister but it is apparent he would be very unhappy to not have him around the house. He’s also stopped taking the dog on walks around the neighborhood and is driving every day to walk the dog elsewhere. Are there any measures I can help him take to further establish ownership of the dog? | g2r8a7k | g2r8vcr | 1,598,319,440 | 1,598,319,755 | 162 | 595 | He could start by taking to his vet about this. The vet has records and may have practical advice. Also, if something does happen, he has already had a conversation with an independent authority and he can say to police "Call the vet". | They have no proof of ownership. They stated their intention to abandon the dog. They gave him possession and ownership of the dog. Elmer now has a record of ownership in the vet bills stronger than they could claim (he has vet bills vs their word that they own the dog). If they were to call the police, they’d have to prove ownership - doesn’t sound like they can do that. Do not acknowledge any “ownership” on their part whatsoever, especially not in writing. Make sure Elmer knows this. This is Elmer’s dog, always has been. As for strengthening his claim: are there any requirements for pet licenses/registration in your area? Is the dog microchipped? Get both if possible. | 0 | 315 | 3.67284 |
89cn2j | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Mom's neighbor is intentionally being a nuisance to keep her house from selling (so he can buy it cheaper) IA My listed her home for sale two months ago. At that time one of her neighbors offered to buy it for $20k (her asking is 75). He says he plans to tear down the house itself to give him a large yard. When she said no for a month he upped his offer to 25 and then 30k. She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you. | dwqcwpc | dwqe0l8 | 1,522,766,486 | 1,522,767,453 | 280 | 1,001 | You might consider installing cameras and catching this bullshit on camera, where it can be used in court if need be, or in conjunction to a C&D letter. | Ask one of your friends to pose as interested buyers and have them record any interaction with the neighbor (assuming legal in your state). Useful evidence and you could even repeat this with other friends to really paint a picture for the court. | 0 | 967 | 3.575 |
89cn2j | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Mom's neighbor is intentionally being a nuisance to keep her house from selling (so he can buy it cheaper) IA My listed her home for sale two months ago. At that time one of her neighbors offered to buy it for $20k (her asking is 75). He says he plans to tear down the house itself to give him a large yard. When she said no for a month he upped his offer to 25 and then 30k. She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you. | dwqcwpc | dwqheo9 | 1,522,766,486 | 1,522,770,342 | 280 | 680 | You might consider installing cameras and catching this bullshit on camera, where it can be used in court if need be, or in conjunction to a C&D letter. | isnt the realtor suppose to deal with it extremely easily? Hell jus saying - "*and here comes the neighbor who offered $20k for the house and is bit disappointing about being turned so he is trying to be nuisance*" right in front of him as he arrives and not letting him speak and get inside the house... I mean these guys are payed by commission no? So shouldnt they be pretty motivated to reduce his interference preventing them from getting the pay day? | 0 | 3,856 | 2.428571 |
89cn2j | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Mom's neighbor is intentionally being a nuisance to keep her house from selling (so he can buy it cheaper) IA My listed her home for sale two months ago. At that time one of her neighbors offered to buy it for $20k (her asking is 75). He says he plans to tear down the house itself to give him a large yard. When she said no for a month he upped his offer to 25 and then 30k. She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you. | dwqheo9 | dwqepxl | 1,522,770,342 | 1,522,768,075 | 680 | 184 | isnt the realtor suppose to deal with it extremely easily? Hell jus saying - "*and here comes the neighbor who offered $20k for the house and is bit disappointing about being turned so he is trying to be nuisance*" right in front of him as he arrives and not letting him speak and get inside the house... I mean these guys are payed by commission no? So shouldnt they be pretty motivated to reduce his interference preventing them from getting the pay day? | Is she willing to rent it out for a while instead? Some short term pain but it would get your neighbor off her back and make a little bit of short term income too. | 1 | 2,267 | 3.695652 |
89cn2j | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Mom's neighbor is intentionally being a nuisance to keep her house from selling (so he can buy it cheaper) IA My listed her home for sale two months ago. At that time one of her neighbors offered to buy it for $20k (her asking is 75). He says he plans to tear down the house itself to give him a large yard. When she said no for a month he upped his offer to 25 and then 30k. She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you. | dwqheo9 | dwqgus5 | 1,522,770,342 | 1,522,769,881 | 680 | 55 | isnt the realtor suppose to deal with it extremely easily? Hell jus saying - "*and here comes the neighbor who offered $20k for the house and is bit disappointing about being turned so he is trying to be nuisance*" right in front of him as he arrives and not letting him speak and get inside the house... I mean these guys are payed by commission no? So shouldnt they be pretty motivated to reduce his interference preventing them from getting the pay day? | I'd send him a letter explaining that you do not want him interfering with prospective buyers. Send the letter via certified mail so you have a record. If he persists, hire a lawyer and sue for "tortious interference," also known as intentional interference with contractual relations. This occurs when one person intentionally damages someone else's contractual or business relationships with a third party causing economic harm. | 1 | 461 | 12.363636 |
89cn2j | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Mom's neighbor is intentionally being a nuisance to keep her house from selling (so he can buy it cheaper) IA My listed her home for sale two months ago. At that time one of her neighbors offered to buy it for $20k (her asking is 75). He says he plans to tear down the house itself to give him a large yard. When she said no for a month he upped his offer to 25 and then 30k. She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you. | dwqgus5 | dwqhm46 | 1,522,769,881 | 1,522,770,514 | 55 | 142 | I'd send him a letter explaining that you do not want him interfering with prospective buyers. Send the letter via certified mail so you have a record. If he persists, hire a lawyer and sue for "tortious interference," also known as intentional interference with contractual relations. This occurs when one person intentionally damages someone else's contractual or business relationships with a third party causing economic harm. | If he owns a security company it may be worthwhile to verify he does in fact hold a valid license. Also check and make sure he isn't doing anything against the rules/laws regarding the company. Many places private investigators and security companies have different laws regarding what they are and aren't allowed to do. Here's a place to start: http://www.dps.state.ia.us/asd/pi/pi80a03code.pdf If he's simply claiming to have a security company (but really doesn't) you might be extra interested in page 6. Also if he's "advertising" his services in a non-ethical way you might have recourse with your state attorney general. Check here and see if what he's doing falls under what your state might consider unethical and worthy of investigation. https://www.iowaattorneygeneral.gov/for-consumers/file-a-consumer-complaint/ Also found this while searching: https://www.legis.iowa.gov/docs/ACO/chapter/661.121.pdf Specifically see if these have any weight with what he's doing: “Moral turpitude” is an act of baseness, vileness, or depravity or conduct which is contrary to justice, honesty, or good morals. Examples of moral turpitude may include, but are not limited to, the following: 1. Any act or pattern of conduct involving dishonesty, fraud, or deception | 0 | 633 | 2.581818 |
89cn2j | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Mom's neighbor is intentionally being a nuisance to keep her house from selling (so he can buy it cheaper) IA My listed her home for sale two months ago. At that time one of her neighbors offered to buy it for $20k (her asking is 75). He says he plans to tear down the house itself to give him a large yard. When she said no for a month he upped his offer to 25 and then 30k. She is not interested in selling it so low (it was appraised for 82). They got into an argument with him declaring that she's an idiot if she thinks her house will ever sell, she's lucky he's offering her as much as he is, etc. However now he is being an intentional nuisance to keep it from selling. The problem is, as far as I can see most of what he is doing is legal, like intentionally being extremely loud when he sees the realtor show up to show the house (but not breaking noise ordinance for that time of day, so legal). But now he is being intentionally creepy and lying. He has been making a point to go over and introduce himself as soon as he sees the realtor showing the house, and the realtor reports he is blatantly hitting on women and men in disgusting ways, offering them the number for his security company because they'll definitely want something set up since there have been 4 break-ins on this block in the last month (police outright said that's not true to their knowledge). He asked one lady if he could borrow money and very obviously hinted it was for drugs. Mom has spoken with the police who say he's a crappy guy but not technically doing anything illegal and they don't believe she's a candidate for a restraining order. I'm wondering if anyone here has any thoughts - if there's an option other than a restraining order or ANYTHING we can do. Thank you. | dwqgus5 | dwqjly0 | 1,522,769,881 | 1,522,772,154 | 55 | 113 | I'd send him a letter explaining that you do not want him interfering with prospective buyers. Send the letter via certified mail so you have a record. If he persists, hire a lawyer and sue for "tortious interference," also known as intentional interference with contractual relations. This occurs when one person intentionally damages someone else's contractual or business relationships with a third party causing economic harm. | You mom has a case. He is a nuisance , and has caused property value damage (diminution ) . Has a real Estate expert to come to do a report on diminution value. Police does not know all the laws, they only know if there is a basis for arrest. | 0 | 2,273 | 2.054545 |
xdzl3j | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Do I let my neighbor sue me? Do I not pay the plumber? Crazy neighbor. St. Louis, MO. 6 weeks ago, we had crazy, once-in-a-lifetime flooding. We had JUST moved into our new house. Our house was largely unscathed, but we did get some water under the backdoor, which we had to investigate. On August 12th, we called a drain company. **They discovered a broken pipe, in a shared** (according to the land survey) **drainage system between my house and my neighbor’s house**. This system is about 5 feet down and underneath concrete. On August 14th, I knocked on my neighbor’s door to inform him not to worry if someone was looking around the property; I contacted a professional plumber who specializes in these jobs. On August 15th, the plumbing company came over and he talked to my neighbor and my dad (I could not make it to the appointment). He confirmed the broken pipe, gave us a $3,000 proposal and said he could start in a few weeks. He gave me a contract, to which I gave to my neighbor. For the next week, I had to sleep in the basement, making sure that it didn’t flood. Every downpour would cause more flooding because of the recently broken pipe. In Mid-August, my neighbor went on a European trip. I asked him if he wanted me to get the work done OR if I should wait until he got back. He wanted me to wait. I did. They returned on September 7th, and I had the appointment for September 9th. On September 8th, I texted my neighbor. He was good with the appointment the next day, and said he “only” cared that they cleaned up and he agreed to pay 50% of the bill. They came over on Friday, finished the job, and did a GREAT job. It looks fantastic. Most importantly, he texted him when the plumber was there and invited him to come over and voice any concerns. The neighbor said he was “at work” and couldn’t come. **On Saturday, my neighbor stormed over here, insisting that the job was done “completely wrong,” because of two reasons**: (1) the drain pipe between both of our properties was moved about 8 inches, and (2) the 4-inch drain pipe that was there was substituted for a 3-inch pipe. He asked if I would be “held responsible” for any water damage he got in his house, and insisted that I contact the plumbing company and get them to “redo” the job. **Before I did that, I contacted another plumber who did a former job for me. He not only said that the job was GREAT,** he said he would have charged much more, made the concrete look worse. MOST importantly, he said that the location of the pipe and the size of the pipe would “make no difference.” I have a video of this too, that I sent to my neighbor. My neighbor didn’t care. In his words, **“he doesn’t care what any plumber says; he wants his drain back.”** Yesterday, I contacted the plumber who did the job. He agreed to come over. He noted a few important things: * (1) The reason why the drain had to be moved was because the original drain was improperly installed. He added the necessary traps to catch debris, and this caused the drain to be moved. * (2) The concrete is ILLEGALLY sloped, even going into my property. He recommended we contact a lawyer. * (3) The drain in question is NOT meant to catch all the water, nor was it original to the house anyway. No matter the location of the drain (in general), the job will get done the same way. * **(4) He generously agreed to regrade the concrete to alleviate my neighbor’s concerns.** Also yesterday, I met with my neighbor. He said he doesn’t care what the plumber said and asked when he would return to fix the job. To this, I explained what the plumber said. He didn’t care. He noted a few things though: * (1) He wants me and/or the plumber to be responsible for any water damage. * (2) He said that I hired the plumber, and that now I am responsible for his job. To which I said that he was involved through the entire process, that I edited the schedule to meet his needs. I cannot surrender that, even though I signed the contract and made the calls, he gave implicit agreement throughout this entire process UNTIL the job was over. * (3) He asked me to contact the plumber so he could talk to them. I refused, saying that if he has a problem and I don’t, it is HIS responsibility to do this in the shared system. * (4) He wants me to NOT pay the plumber so the plumber can sue ME. I gave them the plumber’s number and they plan on calling them today. I would seriously doubt the plumber will fix the job that has objectively been done well. **What do I do? My neighbor hasn’t paid a dime. I don’t even care about payment anymore, I just want this miserable fuck to go away.** | iofd65m | iofadrb | 1,663,178,590 | 1,663,177,511 | 20 | 8 | Pay the plumber and demand the proper contribution from the neighbor. If they don't pay, sue them in small claims. **I know you don't want to poke the bear but the bear is already poked:** they are already claiming to be "damaged" by your good deeds, thus they are already going to be a shithead neighbor. There's no sense in dealing with a jerk next door *and* going out of pocket on the bill. | You could pay the plumber yourself, then take your neighbor to court for the half that they had agreed to pay, as it sounds like they had texted agreeing. Get a different reputable plumber that you don't have previous dealings with to look at the job. Use the report from new plumber as evidence and that your neighbor had agreed to paying half of it. You seem to actually have a leg up on your neighbor, but take my opinion with grains of salt as I am not a lawyer nor studied law | 1 | 1,079 | 2.5 |
rrmpj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | S/O Rear ended someone who intentionally stopped in the middle of the freeway because they were mad S/O did not initially let them into her lane, how do I handle this with insurance? Hello, Actually not me, but my S/O just had this happen to her. She had a carload full of kids on the freeway, the other driver wanted into the fast lane, girlfriend continued with the flow of traffic. Other driver gets pissed, swerves in and out of the lane, flips my S/O off and drives away. Fast forward about 5 minutes, my girlfriend didn't think anything of it, and suddenly that same driver cuts across three lanes right in front of my girlfriend. With absolutely no one in front of her, the driver slams her breaks. My girlfriend guestimated about a car and a half length between them, she slightly bumps her. No visible damage on the drivers car, while my girlfriends car is slightly damaged but still driveable. Luckily none of the kids were hurt, and my girlfriend gets out calmly to see if the other driver is okay, not realizing that this was the person who flipped her off. The lady in the car proceeds to roll her window down and yell, "That's what you get bitch, I am calling the cops." Girlfriend then goes back to the car, now enraged because she realizes the situation and waits for the cop. He makes a report, my girlfriend explains the situation, he is obviously staying neutral and doing his job, he makes sure everyone has each others contact info/insurance etc. My question is, once insurance gets involved how screwed are we? There is no way to prove this is how it went down, and in my experience the fault is always the driver who rear ended the other. Is there anyway we can handle this differently, short of going back in time and installing a dash cam? | hqjdqxd | hqk2rav | 1,640,866,495 | 1,640,879,285 | 3 | 6 | With her statement on file, your insurance company will probably assign enough liability for the accident on the other party to make them legally barred from getting a settlement. In most states, if the other party is found to have contributed to causing the accident with their negligence, it reduces their settlement. And if they are found to have 50% liability, they are legally barred from a settlement. | This is the epitome of the importance of a dash cam. | 0 | 12,790 | 2 |
wced59 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | New apartment management company illegally raising rent and forcing us out, my roommate can lose their job! So about a year ago this apartment complex got sold to a new company and has been down hill from there. My partner has lived here for 10 year without issue until may of this year. New management sent out an email and called my partner stating that our lease would be up for renewal in July and that the cost would now be $1420. We currently pay $1000 plus utilities. When we said we couldn’t do that her response was we can stay month to month for $1750. So we don’t have rent control in our state but, they must provide 60 days WRITTEN notice that starts on the first of the following month of notice given. They did not do that and instead sent a letter not even a month later saying we owe back rent for about $750 and we had 14 days to negotiate or pay. We sent a letter stating they did not provide accurate notice and an attachment of the state law. To which they said “we sent an email and taped it to your door”. They did not put anything on our door and I have a camera on that door. So this Tuesday we got a 14 day pay or vacate notice on our door and in the mail later that week. Yet they couldn’t do that for the rent increase?! My roommate can lose their job! We have no where else to go and have three cats and most places around us won’t allow them all. I’m beyond mad at this company and when looking them up you see nothing but negative reviews and comments. Someone help us. | iicrrqj | iic48na | 1,659,250,293 | 1,659,235,924 | 10 | 3 | What state do you live in? Many state laws act in favor of tenants over landlords. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 14,369 | 3.333333 |
wced59 | legaladvice_train | 0.82 | New apartment management company illegally raising rent and forcing us out, my roommate can lose their job! So about a year ago this apartment complex got sold to a new company and has been down hill from there. My partner has lived here for 10 year without issue until may of this year. New management sent out an email and called my partner stating that our lease would be up for renewal in July and that the cost would now be $1420. We currently pay $1000 plus utilities. When we said we couldn’t do that her response was we can stay month to month for $1750. So we don’t have rent control in our state but, they must provide 60 days WRITTEN notice that starts on the first of the following month of notice given. They did not do that and instead sent a letter not even a month later saying we owe back rent for about $750 and we had 14 days to negotiate or pay. We sent a letter stating they did not provide accurate notice and an attachment of the state law. To which they said “we sent an email and taped it to your door”. They did not put anything on our door and I have a camera on that door. So this Tuesday we got a 14 day pay or vacate notice on our door and in the mail later that week. Yet they couldn’t do that for the rent increase?! My roommate can lose their job! We have no where else to go and have three cats and most places around us won’t allow them all. I’m beyond mad at this company and when looking them up you see nothing but negative reviews and comments. Someone help us. | iiej6p1 | iic48na | 1,659,287,724 | 1,659,235,924 | 4 | 3 | There are different things going on here. One being that they didn't give appropriate notice so for the month of July you only had to pay $1000 in rent. If this does go to court you can fight this. But what you can't fight is the rent going up. Your lease has expired. This is now the end of July and you say you have nowhere to go. You've had 3 months knowing the rent is going up. It sounds like the landlord is starting the eviction process because you are refusing to pay the increased rent and not moving out. Having an eviction on your record is going to make it much harder to find a place. | Hi there! I’m the LegalFAQ bot. It looks like you may be experiencing housing issues related to housing or eviction. Come to https://legalfaq.org to find legal resources for renters in each state. You can also find links to local groups that can help you with legal, financial, or other problems at https://legalfaq.org/getHelp. Help us provide accurate advice to fellow redditors: if your post was related to housing or eviction, please like this comment; otherwise, please dislike this comment. *v0.1* | 1 | 51,800 | 1.333333 |
8vk7n9 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Two loose dogs forced their way into my house and attacked my dog. My wife was home but unharmed. I'm in Saratoga County, New York. My wife was getting the mail and two loose pit-bill mix dogs came up to her as she approached our front door. They wouldn't move away so she tried to squeeze past them through our screen door into the house. As soon as she cracked the door, the two dogs forced their way past her into our house and attacked our 10-lb. chihuahua. My wife wrestled our dog free from one of the dogs' jaws and was then chased into a backroom where she locked the door. After a while she heard the dogs leave and rushed our chihuahua to the vet. His jaw was broken on both sides and we had to drive him 3 hours to Cornell Animal Hospital for surgery. The bill, so far, is about $5000. My wife was not injured in the incident, but obviously suffered great emotional trauma and is having panic attacks two weeks later. Our dog is making a slow recovery, and it is has been just awful having to see him suffer like this. Yesterday, the dog warden finally located the owners of the loose dogs. I called a personal injury lawyer but they said they would only take the case if the loose dogs had hurt a person. What are my legal options to make sure we are fairly compensated? | e1nyu94 | e1nz6xi | 1,530,550,618 | 1,530,550,915 | 4 | 11 | Aren't dogs considered property? Couldn't you sue for "damages of property" and also report the owners to the police? | You can file in small claims for the vet bills. | 0 | 297 | 2.75 |
8vk7n9 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Two loose dogs forced their way into my house and attacked my dog. My wife was home but unharmed. I'm in Saratoga County, New York. My wife was getting the mail and two loose pit-bill mix dogs came up to her as she approached our front door. They wouldn't move away so she tried to squeeze past them through our screen door into the house. As soon as she cracked the door, the two dogs forced their way past her into our house and attacked our 10-lb. chihuahua. My wife wrestled our dog free from one of the dogs' jaws and was then chased into a backroom where she locked the door. After a while she heard the dogs leave and rushed our chihuahua to the vet. His jaw was broken on both sides and we had to drive him 3 hours to Cornell Animal Hospital for surgery. The bill, so far, is about $5000. My wife was not injured in the incident, but obviously suffered great emotional trauma and is having panic attacks two weeks later. Our dog is making a slow recovery, and it is has been just awful having to see him suffer like this. Yesterday, the dog warden finally located the owners of the loose dogs. I called a personal injury lawyer but they said they would only take the case if the loose dogs had hurt a person. What are my legal options to make sure we are fairly compensated? | e1nzjb0 | e1nyu94 | 1,530,551,205 | 1,530,550,618 | 9 | 4 | "fairly compensated" in this instance is limited to your vet bills. Sue the owner or make a claim with his home owner's insurance | Aren't dogs considered property? Couldn't you sue for "damages of property" and also report the owners to the police? | 1 | 587 | 2.25 |
8vk7n9 | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | Two loose dogs forced their way into my house and attacked my dog. My wife was home but unharmed. I'm in Saratoga County, New York. My wife was getting the mail and two loose pit-bill mix dogs came up to her as she approached our front door. They wouldn't move away so she tried to squeeze past them through our screen door into the house. As soon as she cracked the door, the two dogs forced their way past her into our house and attacked our 10-lb. chihuahua. My wife wrestled our dog free from one of the dogs' jaws and was then chased into a backroom where she locked the door. After a while she heard the dogs leave and rushed our chihuahua to the vet. His jaw was broken on both sides and we had to drive him 3 hours to Cornell Animal Hospital for surgery. The bill, so far, is about $5000. My wife was not injured in the incident, but obviously suffered great emotional trauma and is having panic attacks two weeks later. Our dog is making a slow recovery, and it is has been just awful having to see him suffer like this. Yesterday, the dog warden finally located the owners of the loose dogs. I called a personal injury lawyer but they said they would only take the case if the loose dogs had hurt a person. What are my legal options to make sure we are fairly compensated? | e1nyu94 | e1o0btx | 1,530,550,618 | 1,530,551,877 | 4 | 8 | Aren't dogs considered property? Couldn't you sue for "damages of property" and also report the owners to the police? | You can sue them. You can also work with the ACO and whatever court manages animal control in your jurisdiction to see if the owner will plead to something that includes restitution. | 0 | 1,259 | 2 |
870i89 | legaladvice_train | 0.84 | My sister got pulled over while driving my car with an expired registration. Hello. About a month ago my license got suspended for 6 months and I told my sister she could borrow it for that time period so she could find a job and I could get to the store and doctors appointments, etc. My birthday was on the 8th and my registration expired but I wasn't able to renew it without getting an SR22 on my insurance. To avoid a long, confusing explanation, there was no way to keep us both insured on my car at the same time. She didn't listen and continued to drive my car after rejecting my offers to just sell it to her and last night (her last night with the car) she got pulled over for who knows what and got a ticket for expired registration and weed paraphernalia in the car (Ohio) and has to go to court. I'm just curious if this is going to come back on me as the owner of the car and what to expect maybe. TLDR: My sister got pulled over while driving my car with an expired registration and I want to know if it will affect me. | dw9nces | dw9quhb | 1,522,000,727 | 1,522,004,504 | 5 | 10 | If she doesn't take care of the tickets, it could. | No idea. But if you have any texts or anything telling her to stop using the car, make sure you save them. And if you *haven't* sent her a text telling her to not-use the car, do so now, just in case something worse happens the next time she takes the car when you're not looking. [Don't make it like "Don't use the car", more like "As I've told you before, don't use the car", which is clearer that you've had this discussion sometime before the text was sent.] | 0 | 3,777 | 2 |
6mefom | legaladvice_train | 0.79 | [Texas] Can the HOA tow my car because it has an expired registration? I woke up this morning to a "Parking Violation" ticket from what I assume is the HOA. It says it was given at 8a (which is false, because I found it at 7:45a, but that may not be important). The reason being. "Stored vehicle expired sticker". It says it will be towed next Monday at 10p. Can they tow from a spot that I pay for? What do they mean stored vehicle? I drive my car at least once a day, so what is the definition of a stored vehicle? I know I need to get my registration done, but I don't know if I'll have the money this week to do it. I guess I might have to? But I guess my question is, can they tow my vehicle for those reasons, or do I have at least some ground to stand on? | dk0wm6g | dk0wnve | 1,499,693,538 | 1,499,693,607 | 7 | 10 | > But I guess my question is, can they tow my vehicle for those reasons Yes. Additionally, your covenants probably *also* allow this, as most do. | The Covenants, Conditions and Restrictions (CC&Rs) in your HOA are binding. If there is a rule that says no vehicles with expired registration are allowed, then you have to obey the rule or the consequences of breaking said rule will be implemented. You agreed to this when you purchased your residence within the HOA. You may pay for the parking space but it is undoubtedly a common element or limited-common element that you don't actually own. As for the time on the citation it was probably rounded up. I don't know about your HOA rules or state towing laws but in my HOA we have to give 24 hours notice in certain circumstances. It's easier to remember when the 24 hours are up at the top of the hour instead the exact moment the ticket was written. This way we guarantee the homeowner had at least 24 hours of notice and not less. | 0 | 69 | 1.428571 |
qp06yd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I was cited with misdemeanor hit and run for hitting a car in the parking lot at work. When I left work I ran over a curb but definitely didn't hit a car. A customer allegedly took a photo of my car leaving. What do I do, Idaho. I had a cop show up at my door last night asking me about an alleged hit and run. The cop explained what happened (explains in title) I was cited and given a court date. I ran over a curb when I was leaving but definitely not a car. What can I do? I am on felony probation and my PO won't be happy to learn of this tomorrow. My probation won't be revoked, but they just don't like any hints of rumblings of any sort of trouble. My car also doesn't have any corroborating damage. Do I call my insurance? I'm at a little bit of a loss on what to do. Edited to add: my work doesn't have any surveillance in the parking lot and isn't surrounded by any businesses. | hjqu7xo | hjqu3f4 | 1,636,331,639 | 1,636,331,583 | 187 | 37 | Take pictures of your car as soon as you can, make sure the metadata has the date of the photos attached. Record what happened, and any other useful details you can think of. Write the date of when you recorded it. Contact your PO anyway, tell them what happened so they don't find out the other way most POs will prefer to hear it from you. Don't answer questions from the police, it will not help you in any way. | Gather any evidence you can. Take detailed photos and video of your entire car in a well lit place showing that there's no sign of damage on your vehicle, and store them in a safe place (make several copies just in case.) If you can, get the date+time embedded in the photos as well in some form so it's clear it's soon after the report (ie, you wouldn't have had time to hide any damage). Like, get a newspaper or something so you can show that the photos were taken on or after the date of the alleged incident. Maybe consider getting a mechanic to look at the vehicle and get a report from them showing no signs of recent damage or repairs (like the ole magnet test looking for filler, etc) Then whomever supposedly witnessed this event will need to describe how you allegedly hit the vehicle, and you'll be able to show that your vehicle doesn't have any corresponding marks or dents immediately after the incident. And hire a lawyer, don't do this solo if you can possibly help it, given you're on probation. | 1 | 56 | 5.054054 |
qp06yd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I was cited with misdemeanor hit and run for hitting a car in the parking lot at work. When I left work I ran over a curb but definitely didn't hit a car. A customer allegedly took a photo of my car leaving. What do I do, Idaho. I had a cop show up at my door last night asking me about an alleged hit and run. The cop explained what happened (explains in title) I was cited and given a court date. I ran over a curb when I was leaving but definitely not a car. What can I do? I am on felony probation and my PO won't be happy to learn of this tomorrow. My probation won't be revoked, but they just don't like any hints of rumblings of any sort of trouble. My car also doesn't have any corroborating damage. Do I call my insurance? I'm at a little bit of a loss on what to do. Edited to add: my work doesn't have any surveillance in the parking lot and isn't surrounded by any businesses. | hjs0skr | hjrwl6g | 1,636,355,147 | 1,636,351,982 | 9 | 3 | In Idaho, you can get a “hit and run” for damaging property (like a tree) with your vehicle and leaving the scene, even if no one else was involved. Police like to follow-up on hit and runs to see If you smell like alcohol when you answer the door. It can also be leaving the scene of an accident.If you damaged the curb, that also may be why they are pursuing you, but they would’ve usually cited you then. I doubt you would hear anything more from the police, but confirm with your attorney. Be proactive with your PO, cause they’ll find out ASAP anyway, and this shouldn’t be a big deal. Source: have been on felony probation, been in an unrelated similar situation, and work as a legal assistant. | If it’s criminal court, they have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that you hit a car. Did the owner of the other car file a report that you hit their car? Was there damage? Were there any other cameras in the area that could tell the story from another angle? I’d get an attorney involved. First rule with cops: Did you shut up and say, “I’ll get back to you with my attorney’s information?” | 1 | 3,165 | 3 |
qp06yd | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | I was cited with misdemeanor hit and run for hitting a car in the parking lot at work. When I left work I ran over a curb but definitely didn't hit a car. A customer allegedly took a photo of my car leaving. What do I do, Idaho. I had a cop show up at my door last night asking me about an alleged hit and run. The cop explained what happened (explains in title) I was cited and given a court date. I ran over a curb when I was leaving but definitely not a car. What can I do? I am on felony probation and my PO won't be happy to learn of this tomorrow. My probation won't be revoked, but they just don't like any hints of rumblings of any sort of trouble. My car also doesn't have any corroborating damage. Do I call my insurance? I'm at a little bit of a loss on what to do. Edited to add: my work doesn't have any surveillance in the parking lot and isn't surrounded by any businesses. | hjs9gzu | hjrwl6g | 1,636,362,694 | 1,636,351,982 | 6 | 3 | Just a side note, typically if you are on federal probation you are not suppose to help any law enforcement agency in any way with any kind of information without going through your probation officer, with that being said although you don’t need one, if contacted by law enforcement again tell them that for your excuse of why you can’t speak with them without your probation officer and attorney present, don’t offer any information like hitting a curb or anything, all they’re trying to do is get you to incriminate yourself anyways. | If it’s criminal court, they have to prove beyond a reasonable doubt that you hit a car. Did the owner of the other car file a report that you hit their car? Was there damage? Were there any other cameras in the area that could tell the story from another angle? I’d get an attorney involved. First rule with cops: Did you shut up and say, “I’ll get back to you with my attorney’s information?” | 1 | 10,712 | 2 |
unrlxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do? | i8a71nn | i8afdg9 | 1,652,332,445 | 1,652,338,453 | 291 | 563 | Get a lawyer and fight it in court. He tries to ruin your life for his benefits. | What country, state, or province do you live in ? >an officer came to my home and served me a restraining order That's how we do it in my state (Washington) for DV restraining orders. It's either the municipal PD or Sheriff's deputies who serve these, rather than private process servers. So you can be confident it's a real filing. >The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. That's good: you have the complaint and you know what it alleges. If it cites any specific events or times/dates you can collect alibi evidence. Please consider the possibility that somebody *else* is stalking and harassing your ex boyfriend and that you are simply being blamed. Read through the complaint and see if that's consistent with its statements. >this is so messed up and not fair. It is. But we've built the emergency restraining order with very few safeguards against abuse in order to also have lower barriers to access for people who need the protection of the court. Even though police were involved in serving the notice, this is very probably an ordinary civil anti-stalking or anti-harassment order, and it is temporary, generally for two weeks. The order should have the date and time for a hearing, where the judge will hear arguments and evidence from both parties about whether the order should be made permanent. The most prudent thing to do is to hire a criminal defense attorney to advise and represent you. Defense attorneys who do this kind of work know the process, know the judges, and know how to present an effective "all these claims are false" defense. Anyone who says "you can sue him for defamation" is (very probably) incorrect. A restraining order petition is subject to litigation privilege and cannot be the basis for a defamation claim. It's already perjury for him to make a petition for a restraining order that knowingly includes materially false statements. It sucks that you'll have to pay the legal bills, but the prudent thing is to hire representation. | 0 | 6,008 | 1.934708 |
unrlxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do? | i8afdg9 | i8adkzk | 1,652,338,453 | 1,652,337,070 | 563 | 47 | What country, state, or province do you live in ? >an officer came to my home and served me a restraining order That's how we do it in my state (Washington) for DV restraining orders. It's either the municipal PD or Sheriff's deputies who serve these, rather than private process servers. So you can be confident it's a real filing. >The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. That's good: you have the complaint and you know what it alleges. If it cites any specific events or times/dates you can collect alibi evidence. Please consider the possibility that somebody *else* is stalking and harassing your ex boyfriend and that you are simply being blamed. Read through the complaint and see if that's consistent with its statements. >this is so messed up and not fair. It is. But we've built the emergency restraining order with very few safeguards against abuse in order to also have lower barriers to access for people who need the protection of the court. Even though police were involved in serving the notice, this is very probably an ordinary civil anti-stalking or anti-harassment order, and it is temporary, generally for two weeks. The order should have the date and time for a hearing, where the judge will hear arguments and evidence from both parties about whether the order should be made permanent. The most prudent thing to do is to hire a criminal defense attorney to advise and represent you. Defense attorneys who do this kind of work know the process, know the judges, and know how to present an effective "all these claims are false" defense. Anyone who says "you can sue him for defamation" is (very probably) incorrect. A restraining order petition is subject to litigation privilege and cannot be the basis for a defamation claim. It's already perjury for him to make a petition for a restraining order that knowingly includes materially false statements. It sucks that you'll have to pay the legal bills, but the prudent thing is to hire representation. | You have like 16 days to appeal it. Don't wait or you lose your chance to speak up for yourself! | 1 | 1,383 | 11.978723 |
unrlxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do? | i8bgppv | i8bfddz | 1,652,363,604 | 1,652,363,031 | 11 | 7 | >I don't have any monetary damages, You do have monetary damages if you hire a lawyer to oppose this and the emotional distress you are experiencing from being served with a false petition calling you a stalker is also compensable. Talk to an attorney about suing him for malicious prosecution/abuse of process or whatever the correct tort is under your state's law. | Get a lawyer. Best advice on this subreddit is always get a lawyer. And show up on time I guess. | 1 | 573 | 1.571429 |
unrlxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do? | i8bgppv | i8batif | 1,652,363,604 | 1,652,360,944 | 11 | 4 | >I don't have any monetary damages, You do have monetary damages if you hire a lawyer to oppose this and the emotional distress you are experiencing from being served with a false petition calling you a stalker is also compensable. Talk to an attorney about suing him for malicious prosecution/abuse of process or whatever the correct tort is under your state's law. | Seek a lawyer to see what your options and when the hearing takes place have all your ducks in a row to get it quashed.Whatever allegations have been made against you disoute them eith whatever proof you have(call history, google locarion info,etc)Good luck to you. | 1 | 2,660 | 2.75 |
unrlxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do? | i8b7ude | i8bgppv | 1,652,359,507 | 1,652,363,604 | 4 | 11 | You need to remove this off your record - period. It will always be present if someone runs your DL - and possibly if they do a check for employment (depending on what you would do) - definitely if a teacher, interacting with kids, interacting with money .... I'd fight back with a defamation suit ... and get an attorney. | >I don't have any monetary damages, You do have monetary damages if you hire a lawyer to oppose this and the emotional distress you are experiencing from being served with a false petition calling you a stalker is also compensable. Talk to an attorney about suing him for malicious prosecution/abuse of process or whatever the correct tort is under your state's law. | 0 | 4,097 | 2.75 |
unrlxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do? | i8batif | i8bfddz | 1,652,360,944 | 1,652,363,031 | 4 | 7 | Seek a lawyer to see what your options and when the hearing takes place have all your ducks in a row to get it quashed.Whatever allegations have been made against you disoute them eith whatever proof you have(call history, google locarion info,etc)Good luck to you. | Get a lawyer. Best advice on this subreddit is always get a lawyer. And show up on time I guess. | 0 | 2,087 | 1.75 |
unrlxy | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | My ex boyfriend filed a fictitious police report about me to hide his affair with his current wife Yesterday an office came to my home and served me a restraining order from my ex boyfriend whom I haven't seen in 2 years. The report claims several lies like that I was stalking them and that he sees me as a threat to him and his wife. My only guess is he got caught doing something he shouldn't be doing and made up an elaborate story to cover his ass with his current wife and I am the scape goat. I don't have any monetary damages, but this is so messed up and not fair. Is there anything I could or should do? | i8bfddz | i8b7ude | 1,652,363,031 | 1,652,359,507 | 7 | 4 | Get a lawyer. Best advice on this subreddit is always get a lawyer. And show up on time I guess. | You need to remove this off your record - period. It will always be present if someone runs your DL - and possibly if they do a check for employment (depending on what you would do) - definitely if a teacher, interacting with kids, interacting with money .... I'd fight back with a defamation suit ... and get an attorney. | 1 | 3,524 | 1.75 |
vzqcj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through. | ig9q4b8 | iga6lao | 1,657,896,365 | 1,657,902,911 | 33 | 118 | You can contact your local police department and ask them what the process is for getting a civil standby. Different departments may have different policies in place. They may require a court order first. | It’s ridiculous that this needs to be said but Texas law does not give anyone the right to shoot other people coming to collect their personal property. | 0 | 6,546 | 3.575758 |
vzqcj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through. | iga6lao | iga0g7y | 1,657,902,911 | 1,657,900,497 | 118 | 9 | It’s ridiculous that this needs to be said but Texas law does not give anyone the right to shoot other people coming to collect their personal property. | Call the police | 1 | 2,414 | 13.111111 |
vzqcj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through. | ig9q4b8 | igbo044 | 1,657,896,365 | 1,657,924,756 | 33 | 44 | You can contact your local police department and ask them what the process is for getting a civil standby. Different departments may have different policies in place. They may require a court order first. | You've already got good advice. The Civil standby IS the correct way to do this. I just want to add that you need to do this ASAP as in most states if you wait too long your property is considered abandoned. I know in my state you only have 90 days. Unsure about Texas. | 0 | 28,391 | 1.333333 |
vzqcj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through. | igbo044 | igaf4lx | 1,657,924,756 | 1,657,906,263 | 44 | 35 | You've already got good advice. The Civil standby IS the correct way to do this. I just want to add that you need to do this ASAP as in most states if you wait too long your property is considered abandoned. I know in my state you only have 90 days. Unsure about Texas. | Contact your local sheriff’s department. They will escort you to get your belongings. If he tries to pull a gun on them, I’m sure it’ll be a much different scenario than he had imagined. Also, that’s a bullshit argument that obviously an uneducated douche bag would make to say “in Texas I can shoot anyone for trespassing as long as their forewarned” LOL. uhhh, like wtf? As an attorney, that’s not an actual thing. In any state. And I’m from texas. There’s all kinds of elements that go into it, which i will not get into but you can’t just shoot people bc they’re on your property. But I dare him to fucking find out. The DA’s office and law enforcement would be all over that shit. | 1 | 18,493 | 1.257143 |
vzqcj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through. | iga0g7y | igbo044 | 1,657,900,497 | 1,657,924,756 | 9 | 44 | Call the police | You've already got good advice. The Civil standby IS the correct way to do this. I just want to add that you need to do this ASAP as in most states if you wait too long your property is considered abandoned. I know in my state you only have 90 days. Unsure about Texas. | 0 | 24,259 | 4.888889 |
vzqcj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through. | igaf4lx | ig9q4b8 | 1,657,906,263 | 1,657,896,365 | 35 | 33 | Contact your local sheriff’s department. They will escort you to get your belongings. If he tries to pull a gun on them, I’m sure it’ll be a much different scenario than he had imagined. Also, that’s a bullshit argument that obviously an uneducated douche bag would make to say “in Texas I can shoot anyone for trespassing as long as their forewarned” LOL. uhhh, like wtf? As an attorney, that’s not an actual thing. In any state. And I’m from texas. There’s all kinds of elements that go into it, which i will not get into but you can’t just shoot people bc they’re on your property. But I dare him to fucking find out. The DA’s office and law enforcement would be all over that shit. | You can contact your local police department and ask them what the process is for getting a civil standby. Different departments may have different policies in place. They may require a court order first. | 1 | 9,898 | 1.060606 |
vzqcj9 | legaladvice_train | 0.95 | Ex boyfriend wont let me get my things from his home So its kind of self explanatory however I (27F) need some advice on how to proceed. My ex (26M) has routinely threatened to shoot my friends if they help me get my things from his home because “in texas he can shoot trespassers especially if theyve been forewarned.” We’ve been broken up for two months and its been a battle of getting him to let me get my things. I live in Texas. How do i appropriately get my things safely? We had an agreement that I was to collect my things tomorrow( a saturday) hes now since revoked this agreement because I wont get back together with him and says “seeing me is too hard so no.” Its not a ton of things but I already dont own much and i really would just like to get my things like originally planned. Can I utilize an officer to help me get my things? How do i do this? This is the most toxic thing ive ever gone through. | iga0g7y | igaf4lx | 1,657,900,497 | 1,657,906,263 | 9 | 35 | Call the police | Contact your local sheriff’s department. They will escort you to get your belongings. If he tries to pull a gun on them, I’m sure it’ll be a much different scenario than he had imagined. Also, that’s a bullshit argument that obviously an uneducated douche bag would make to say “in Texas I can shoot anyone for trespassing as long as their forewarned” LOL. uhhh, like wtf? As an attorney, that’s not an actual thing. In any state. And I’m from texas. There’s all kinds of elements that go into it, which i will not get into but you can’t just shoot people bc they’re on your property. But I dare him to fucking find out. The DA’s office and law enforcement would be all over that shit. | 0 | 5,766 | 3.888889 |
6sj47x | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Friend took car to Jiffy Lube, and they forgot to put oil in it. Drove it same day until the engine seized. Jiffy Lube said they're not at fault because she put some oil in it to try to fix it [Oregon] She was planning on going out of town so she took her car to Jiffy Lube, left the same day. Drove probably 100+ miles and she noticed the engine was running really rough, pulled over, and saw the dipstick was dry. She got some oil and filled it. There were oil shavings in it. Tried to get home and the engine seized. She got stuck out in the middle of nowhere for hours, got home late, trip cancelled. Left her car out in the middle of nowhere and had a friend tow it home next day. She talked to Jiffy Lube the next day, and they said they aren't at fault because she put oil in it, and then tried to drive home. Is that right? My gut says no, but I am not a lawyer. Please help. Jiffy Lube in Oregon, trip was in Washington, if that matters. EDIT: forgot to mention, there was no oil leak, the car was in good working condition. I think it was a 2010 hyundai accent but I am not sure, I can find out if necessary. | dld9r29 | dlddrpg | 1,502,260,259 | 1,502,270,089 | 13 | 43 | Not sure if this helps you out at all but I received money from jiffy lube twice. A couple of years ago I had them do a transmission flush (dumb, never let jiffy lube touch your transmisison) but I did. They either didn't drain it and added some or added way to much, but regardless they put 7 quarts to much in. Discovered that on a road trip when my car was smoking. I thought it was a leaking transmission and that's what jiffy lube said. They said with their process, it is impossible to screw up. After researching and going through diagrams I discovered the leak was coming from an overflow. Valve. My transmission is a closed system transmission with no dipstick but I learned how to check the fluid level. 7 extra quarts came out. I battled jiffy lube and they gave me the flush for free and paid me some money. A few months later my transmission went out. I couldn't prove that they caused it but my mechanic went to battle for me. He proved that an additive they used ruined a lot of the parts that would have otherwise been reusable. Jiffy lube paid me a few hundred dollars again. | My father specializes in claims like this, he's an insurance investigator for the midwest. Basically, insurance companies send a request to his 3rd party company for an investigator to look at a car. Since my father does the area, the company requests him, father accepts, goes to do the job, and sends a professional assessment back, complete with pictures, evidence, etc. My father's a Master mechanic so his word is pretty much taken as law, and insurance companies pay out or decline based on it. This is the type of person your friend needs. She needs to contact her insurance company, make a claim, get the insurance investigator out (She can request a master investigator, someone who can figure out issues like this and whose fault it is), and then let the chips fall. She has a really good case, a 2010 is not too old, not a "soup up" car that kids wanna claim as Jiffy Lube's fault for the kid playing around with testing the limits of the engine, etc. Mentioning the trip planning and that's why she took her car for service prior, may help the case as well because it shows intent for needing the service, might help the case a bit more. Plus a master mechanic can tell the difference from someone trying to pull one over on the insurance company vs someone who has a legitimate case. My dad's gone to court on this SAME EXACT ISSUE a few times now. | 0 | 9,830 | 3.307692 |
37jm2u | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Bought a car from a dealership. Insurance was to kick in June 1st. Police have seized the car because it was used in a murder. No one will refund my money (Ontario) Near the beginning of May I bought a car outright from a registered used car dealership. I paid $5000. I got insurance for it beginning on June 1st and had it towed to my house to park it until the insurance kicked in. 4 days after I bought it the police came with a court order and seized the car. It took me 2 more days of calling the police station before I was finally informed that the previous owner of the car is suspected of killing someone. A couple of weeks later I was informed that significant evidence had been found in the car and since it is now evidence in a murder case the police will be keeping it indefinitely and because they took it legally with a court order they don’t have to reimburse me. The dealership is saying that they bought and sold the car fairly and legally, which I am fairly certain is true, I believe they didn’t know the guy was a murderer so they refuse to give me my money back. The insurance company says the car wasn’t technically insured yet so they don’t have to pay me. What do I do here? I bought the car because I got a new (better) job which I need a car to get to because public transit doesn’t service the area where it is located. The $5000.00 was all I had, it took me over 2 years to save it. The manager and environment at my current job is unbearable and I only stay because I have life insurance here which I can’t get anywhere else due to a pre-existing condition. I am supposed to start the new job Monday. Thankfully I haven’t given notice at my current job, I was planning on leaving Friday without notice (I know it’s awful but they have done some awful stuff to me first). If I can’t get my money back I will have to start over and save for another 2 years while staying at my current job. What can I do? I’m in Ontario. | crngdsv | crna9ca | 1,432,802,002 | 1,432,783,917 | 67 | 52 | Not legal advice, but have you told the people at your new job yet? Maybe they have someone who can carpool with you or help you with transportation in some other way, while you try to sort this out. They hired you, which means they want you to work there, and they may be willing to work with you on this. Don't just give up without reaching out to them. | I'm not Canadian, but the Canadian posters in this sub frequently refer to free legal aid places in Canada. I would give them a call. | 1 | 18,085 | 1.288462 |
37jm2u | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Bought a car from a dealership. Insurance was to kick in June 1st. Police have seized the car because it was used in a murder. No one will refund my money (Ontario) Near the beginning of May I bought a car outright from a registered used car dealership. I paid $5000. I got insurance for it beginning on June 1st and had it towed to my house to park it until the insurance kicked in. 4 days after I bought it the police came with a court order and seized the car. It took me 2 more days of calling the police station before I was finally informed that the previous owner of the car is suspected of killing someone. A couple of weeks later I was informed that significant evidence had been found in the car and since it is now evidence in a murder case the police will be keeping it indefinitely and because they took it legally with a court order they don’t have to reimburse me. The dealership is saying that they bought and sold the car fairly and legally, which I am fairly certain is true, I believe they didn’t know the guy was a murderer so they refuse to give me my money back. The insurance company says the car wasn’t technically insured yet so they don’t have to pay me. What do I do here? I bought the car because I got a new (better) job which I need a car to get to because public transit doesn’t service the area where it is located. The $5000.00 was all I had, it took me over 2 years to save it. The manager and environment at my current job is unbearable and I only stay because I have life insurance here which I can’t get anywhere else due to a pre-existing condition. I am supposed to start the new job Monday. Thankfully I haven’t given notice at my current job, I was planning on leaving Friday without notice (I know it’s awful but they have done some awful stuff to me first). If I can’t get my money back I will have to start over and save for another 2 years while staying at my current job. What can I do? I’m in Ontario. | crnd6aj | crngdsv | 1,432,790,916 | 1,432,802,002 | 27 | 67 | Legal Aid Ontario runs community legal clinics, They might be able to help you. I'm sorry, this sucks. | Not legal advice, but have you told the people at your new job yet? Maybe they have someone who can carpool with you or help you with transportation in some other way, while you try to sort this out. They hired you, which means they want you to work there, and they may be willing to work with you on this. Don't just give up without reaching out to them. | 0 | 11,086 | 2.481481 |
37jm2u | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | Bought a car from a dealership. Insurance was to kick in June 1st. Police have seized the car because it was used in a murder. No one will refund my money (Ontario) Near the beginning of May I bought a car outright from a registered used car dealership. I paid $5000. I got insurance for it beginning on June 1st and had it towed to my house to park it until the insurance kicked in. 4 days after I bought it the police came with a court order and seized the car. It took me 2 more days of calling the police station before I was finally informed that the previous owner of the car is suspected of killing someone. A couple of weeks later I was informed that significant evidence had been found in the car and since it is now evidence in a murder case the police will be keeping it indefinitely and because they took it legally with a court order they don’t have to reimburse me. The dealership is saying that they bought and sold the car fairly and legally, which I am fairly certain is true, I believe they didn’t know the guy was a murderer so they refuse to give me my money back. The insurance company says the car wasn’t technically insured yet so they don’t have to pay me. What do I do here? I bought the car because I got a new (better) job which I need a car to get to because public transit doesn’t service the area where it is located. The $5000.00 was all I had, it took me over 2 years to save it. The manager and environment at my current job is unbearable and I only stay because I have life insurance here which I can’t get anywhere else due to a pre-existing condition. I am supposed to start the new job Monday. Thankfully I haven’t given notice at my current job, I was planning on leaving Friday without notice (I know it’s awful but they have done some awful stuff to me first). If I can’t get my money back I will have to start over and save for another 2 years while staying at my current job. What can I do? I’m in Ontario. | crnhyel | crngpw3 | 1,432,808,902 | 1,432,803,457 | 19 | 12 | I would think about suing the dealership. If they want to claim that they themselves were defrauded by the seller/suspect, then they're free to serve him as a third-party defendant. But I can't imagine you would have a direct claim against said murder suspect. Alternatively, if your area has "lemon laws," look into the possibility of returning the *title* rather than returning the physical car. | I have no help to give here, legal advice wise, but I just wanted to say holy cow, I'm sorry this happened to you. Have an internet hug and good luck. | 1 | 5,445 | 1.583333 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep1twp6 | ep1jop4 | 1,558,996,001 | 1,558,990,048 | 229 | 105 | And please get a permanent restraining order if these exist in your state. I'm not a lawyer | No attorney needed unless you plan on suing him, which if he is broke is pointless because attorneys cost $$$. Report the incidences to the police who will decide what action to take. | 1 | 5,953 | 2.180952 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep1jop4 | ep2jk4t | 1,558,990,048 | 1,559,009,124 | 105 | 129 | No attorney needed unless you plan on suing him, which if he is broke is pointless because attorneys cost $$$. Report the incidences to the police who will decide what action to take. | Yes, Minn. Stat. 634.20 allows his prior behavior to be brought up during trial to a certain extent as "relationship evidence." The prosecutor will have to provide notice before trial, and the judge will probably put some limits on how much you can talk about. The prosecutor will discuss this with you if it goes to trial. | 0 | 19,076 | 1.228571 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep2jk4t | ep1ynlf | 1,559,009,124 | 1,558,998,973 | 129 | 45 | Yes, Minn. Stat. 634.20 allows his prior behavior to be brought up during trial to a certain extent as "relationship evidence." The prosecutor will have to provide notice before trial, and the judge will probably put some limits on how much you can talk about. The prosecutor will discuss this with you if it goes to trial. | You may want to talk to a domestic violence organization, where counselors and legal people can give you more specifics--and non-legal help as well. | 1 | 10,151 | 2.866667 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep2jk4t | ep24bae | 1,559,009,124 | 1,559,001,636 | 129 | 39 | Yes, Minn. Stat. 634.20 allows his prior behavior to be brought up during trial to a certain extent as "relationship evidence." The prosecutor will have to provide notice before trial, and the judge will probably put some limits on how much you can talk about. The prosecutor will discuss this with you if it goes to trial. | Yes, you absolutely can bring up past abuse. It's good you have dated evidence of past abused and shows it's repeated behavior (even if it only happened *once*, it's obviously never ok). Even though you're pressing charges mostly because he hurt your dog, remember that you deserve justice for everything he did to *you*, too. If they end up not prosecuting him, don't take it to mean what your ex did was right or you were wrong for reporting it. Reporting it takes a lot of courage so be proud of yourself. Give your pup a hug for me, and good luck. | 1 | 7,488 | 3.307692 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep3btvy | ep2m86j | 1,559,020,722 | 1,559,010,081 | 13 | 11 | I haven't seen this here yet, but from other posts I've seen I think it's important to mention that you should back up all of your records/evidence and burn the to a CD/DVD (or multiple copies) and give that to the police/prosecutors. If you only have the videos on your phone they can't exactly keep that as evidence unless they take your phone away from you. | Not a lawyer, but wanted to add a suggestion that might be helpful. Many police stations have domestic violence advocates, or you can inquire with a local domestic violence shelter to see if they have advocates to speak to. They do not replace an attorney, but DV advocates are a wonderful resource and support in addition. They are great at listening, finding information that can help you, and pointing you in the direction of local resources. They usually know a lot about the process and help you understand the likely steps. Many will even attend attorney meetings and court with you if you need the extra moral support. | 1 | 10,641 | 1.181818 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep3btvy | ep2t17m | 1,559,020,722 | 1,559,012,478 | 13 | 6 | I haven't seen this here yet, but from other posts I've seen I think it's important to mention that you should back up all of your records/evidence and burn the to a CD/DVD (or multiple copies) and give that to the police/prosecutors. If you only have the videos on your phone they can't exactly keep that as evidence unless they take your phone away from you. | So what he arrested when you called the police? MN automatically puts a No Contact Order or Order for Protection for all domestic abuse cases. | 1 | 8,244 | 2.166667 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep3btvy | ep3a6d0 | 1,559,020,722 | 1,559,020,044 | 13 | 4 | I haven't seen this here yet, but from other posts I've seen I think it's important to mention that you should back up all of your records/evidence and burn the to a CD/DVD (or multiple copies) and give that to the police/prosecutors. If you only have the videos on your phone they can't exactly keep that as evidence unless they take your phone away from you. | If you have any kind of evidence or documentation of his abuse then you can and should absolutely provide that to your attorney or counsel. It doesn't matter if you think it may be trivial or not. If you have something that can support or bolster your claims then it would be prudent to turn everything you can over to your legal representation. | 1 | 678 | 3.25 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep2t17m | ep4ed2q | 1,559,012,478 | 1,559,038,625 | 6 | 9 | So what he arrested when you called the police? MN automatically puts a No Contact Order or Order for Protection for all domestic abuse cases. | First of all, good for you on getting out. Survivor! My 2 cents is push and push and push for some sort of prosecution. IME, the legal system hates domestics. He said/she said. It's hard enough for the survivor to make heads or tails of mind-bending abuse, the legal system often desires to go the path of least resistance. They want it to all just go away. When my exhusband broke into my home and threatened my life, it took an entire year for charges to be brought. Only because I persisted on pressing. I called the DA every few weeks for the entire year. Finally we had a court date. This leads me to my next point. Be prepared for a disappointing verdict. While my ex was charged with disorderly conduct with a domestic abuse enhancer, he ultimately plead no contest and the domestic abuse enhancer was dropped as part of the plea deal. I was allowed to make a statement for the record at court. I pointed at the judge, my ex and his lawyer while I blamed them for perpetuating domestic violence. I said, "YOU ALL are the REASON there is domestic abuse. This man broke into my home and threatened to kill me. You know why women don't come forward and they end up dead? Because of people like YOU. ALL of you men. This is about nothing more than domestic abuse. And the three of you dropped the domestic abuse enhancer. The one thing this is totally about is abolished from the record. Why? So he doesn't have a felony on his record just in case he may want to rent an apartment down the line? Slow clap for the three of you." Ex spent a year doing the requirements of the judgement - probation and anger management. Now? He's had any record of the event totally expunged. Like it never even happened. Ya know what to do? Get a good therapist, read a ton about domestic abuse, and never for one second accept anyone in your life that even hints at taking advantage of you ever again. Best wishes to you. | 0 | 26,147 | 1.5 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep3a6d0 | ep4ed2q | 1,559,020,044 | 1,559,038,625 | 4 | 9 | If you have any kind of evidence or documentation of his abuse then you can and should absolutely provide that to your attorney or counsel. It doesn't matter if you think it may be trivial or not. If you have something that can support or bolster your claims then it would be prudent to turn everything you can over to your legal representation. | First of all, good for you on getting out. Survivor! My 2 cents is push and push and push for some sort of prosecution. IME, the legal system hates domestics. He said/she said. It's hard enough for the survivor to make heads or tails of mind-bending abuse, the legal system often desires to go the path of least resistance. They want it to all just go away. When my exhusband broke into my home and threatened my life, it took an entire year for charges to be brought. Only because I persisted on pressing. I called the DA every few weeks for the entire year. Finally we had a court date. This leads me to my next point. Be prepared for a disappointing verdict. While my ex was charged with disorderly conduct with a domestic abuse enhancer, he ultimately plead no contest and the domestic abuse enhancer was dropped as part of the plea deal. I was allowed to make a statement for the record at court. I pointed at the judge, my ex and his lawyer while I blamed them for perpetuating domestic violence. I said, "YOU ALL are the REASON there is domestic abuse. This man broke into my home and threatened to kill me. You know why women don't come forward and they end up dead? Because of people like YOU. ALL of you men. This is about nothing more than domestic abuse. And the three of you dropped the domestic abuse enhancer. The one thing this is totally about is abolished from the record. Why? So he doesn't have a felony on his record just in case he may want to rent an apartment down the line? Slow clap for the three of you." Ex spent a year doing the requirements of the judgement - probation and anger management. Now? He's had any record of the event totally expunged. Like it never even happened. Ya know what to do? Get a good therapist, read a ton about domestic abuse, and never for one second accept anyone in your life that even hints at taking advantage of you ever again. Best wishes to you. | 0 | 18,581 | 2.25 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep3v2hv | ep4ed2q | 1,559,029,125 | 1,559,038,625 | 2 | 9 | You did not file any police reports I am assuming (those would be the most solid evidence), but if you kept a diary or wrote an email to a friend about what was going on, those documents could be entered into the court proceedings, and then your attorney could ask you questions, verifying what you wrote on specific dates. You can testify under oath about what happened. This is powerful evidence. It is not hearsay if it is your own experience. | First of all, good for you on getting out. Survivor! My 2 cents is push and push and push for some sort of prosecution. IME, the legal system hates domestics. He said/she said. It's hard enough for the survivor to make heads or tails of mind-bending abuse, the legal system often desires to go the path of least resistance. They want it to all just go away. When my exhusband broke into my home and threatened my life, it took an entire year for charges to be brought. Only because I persisted on pressing. I called the DA every few weeks for the entire year. Finally we had a court date. This leads me to my next point. Be prepared for a disappointing verdict. While my ex was charged with disorderly conduct with a domestic abuse enhancer, he ultimately plead no contest and the domestic abuse enhancer was dropped as part of the plea deal. I was allowed to make a statement for the record at court. I pointed at the judge, my ex and his lawyer while I blamed them for perpetuating domestic violence. I said, "YOU ALL are the REASON there is domestic abuse. This man broke into my home and threatened to kill me. You know why women don't come forward and they end up dead? Because of people like YOU. ALL of you men. This is about nothing more than domestic abuse. And the three of you dropped the domestic abuse enhancer. The one thing this is totally about is abolished from the record. Why? So he doesn't have a felony on his record just in case he may want to rent an apartment down the line? Slow clap for the three of you." Ex spent a year doing the requirements of the judgement - probation and anger management. Now? He's had any record of the event totally expunged. Like it never even happened. Ya know what to do? Get a good therapist, read a ton about domestic abuse, and never for one second accept anyone in your life that even hints at taking advantage of you ever again. Best wishes to you. | 0 | 9,500 | 4.5 |
btqh3d | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | (MN) My now ex boyfriend broke into my house, beat me up (a legally disabled person 25F), threw my dogs into a wall, and damaged the property as well as interfering with emergency communications. I've decided to press charges, can I bring up past abuse? Hes been hitting me for almost 2 years I have lupus, legally 80% disabled. my now ex boyfriend has a severe drinking problem, and I was finally able to call the police the last time he went on a rampage. he always took my phone away and locked me inside the house after he threw me around. it's been once a month for almost 2 years. I have decided to press charges along with the state (MN), mostly because this time he hurt my dog. I am curious if i can bring up past abuse, or if I am restricted to just the time when I was able to call the police. I have dated videos and pictures from past assaults. I am talking to an attorney this week, but I'm just curious. | ep3v2hv | ep58k6u | 1,559,029,125 | 1,559,052,114 | 2 | 4 | You did not file any police reports I am assuming (those would be the most solid evidence), but if you kept a diary or wrote an email to a friend about what was going on, those documents could be entered into the court proceedings, and then your attorney could ask you questions, verifying what you wrote on specific dates. You can testify under oath about what happened. This is powerful evidence. It is not hearsay if it is your own experience. | Are you okay? Are your animals okay? You absolutely can bring up past abuse. If you have any proof of threats, those will help make anything look premeditated as well. | 0 | 22,989 | 2 |
cvymbo | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My 11 year old autistic son is being bullied in school to the point he was being physically assaulted every single day. What legal courses of action can I(35F) take if any? I am in desperate need of any advice. Thank you in advance for any help. We are located in New York State. I posted this in r/advice as I need as much advice as possible and it was suggested that I post this here as well to get more accurate legal advice. My son is truly suffering and I need to do whatever I can to help him. Thank you so much for your time and any help. EDIT: Since posting this earlier my son has told me the bullies also spit on him as well. I don't post at all or even comment often but I have been a part of the community for years and made an account less than a year ago. I am not even sure if I have enough karma for me to post this and it not be taken down. I am really hoping it will stay and I can get some advice. Also I am sorry if this is long. I am just beside myself right now and really need to get this out and get any advice I can. I thank everyone in advance for any help you give today. Basically as the title says my son is 11 and high functioning autistic. I am a single mother and have always done everything I possibly can to help him succeed in life. I have always worried if this day would come due to him being diffirent and what I could do to help him if it did come. Welp, he told me over the weekend he was being bullied for the last 3 months of the school year last year, to the point he was being assaulted daily. I just got off the phone with the middle school and was a bit disappointed with the response. It seems their main way to handle this is to try to seperate the boys who pick on him by just scheduling seperate classes from him. They said because of the length of time since the bullying they may not be able to reprimand them at all but they will talk to them. I see them being spoken to by the school without consequences as a means for them to retaliate and get even worse with my son. He is more scared of that than anything which is partly why he waited so long to say anything(due to his autism he has a hard time communicating to begin with). He does not want it to get worse and is scared it will now that they will know he told on them and I agree with him. I know it is several months after the bullying but I want those kids to be reprimanded. I want to be able to pursue whatever I can to get these boys punished to help deter them from continuing this and let them know they will have consequences if they continue. If I can get the police involved I will. Honestly if I could I would beat their little asses. I won't but I wish I could. They made my sons life a living hell for 3 months to the point I put him in counseling because he was getting so anxious, self loathing and depressed(of course I did not know then that this bullying was going on). It isn't just 3 months for him either this continues on for him. He hates himself now and his confidence is just gone. He is scared to go back to school which is why he finally decided to tell me. I am absolutely livid and scared and feel powerless to help my son. I am so angry at myself and filled with so much sorrow at the thought that he was dealing with this alone. I failed him and will be damned if I continue to fail him. There are 3 boys. The first one (he doesn't know this boy's last name)punches him in the arms over and over again literally daily, he doesn't talk to him just hits him. My son had come home with bruises all over his arms several times last year and when asked about it he would refuse to talk about it. He can be pretty active and clumsy so I was a little concerned about it but he gets a new bruise almost everyday so I didn't think much of it. It was not something I thought could be caused by abuse at the time. I so deeply regret not pushing harder about it and pursuing it more. The second boy(my son knows his full name) daily called him gay, a homo and a fag because my son has long hair, he calls him a girl and gay because of it. My son does not get his hair cut because of his autistic sensory issues, he cannot stand it at all. The third boy(his name is known too) threatens my boy. He aggressively tells him not to look at him, not to talk to him. He threatens violence if he does. All 3 of them are friends, egg each other on and gang up on him together. All of this stuff was happening in class. Not the halls, not the cafeteria, not after school. These little shits were doing this right under the teachers noses when their backs were turned. So I am not exactly confident in the schools ability to protect my son. I want to make sure I do everything I can to protect him and put a stop to it. All this being said I absolutely appreciate any advice that is given. I need advice about what I can do to help my son cope with this emotionally at home(he is still in counseling). What he could try to do when the bullying is happening. Advice about how I should handle it with the school. Advice about if I can get police involved in this or not. As I said, just incase this info is needed, my son is high functioning autistic. He has had all the treatment and therapy I could get for him for his autism and no longer is in any. He does not have an IEP or anything like it. He excels academically and now his main struggles are sensory, social and fine motor skills. He doesn't qualify for assistance or therapies as he is not "disabled enough". TL;DR: High functioning autistic son being bullied at school. How can I help him and pursue safety for him at school and consequences for these little shits? Also sorry for any errors I am a bit of a mess right now. | ey7laqk | ey7g3fl | 1,566,888,148 | 1,566,881,916 | 37 | 25 | I am not a lawyer - Did he ever have an IEP, or did they completely mainstream him and get him off it? Is there any chance you could at least get him a 504 due to the anxiety? Who said he isn't "disabled enough"? Was it the IEP team? If so, if it has been more than 12 months since he last got evaluated for an IEP, time for you to request another evaluation in all areas of suspected disability. Do you think he would benefit from an IEP i.e. would having resource room available for a quiet testing environment be helpful or him, or having OT/PT available monthly to help with sensory and motor issues be helpful? Since he is in middle school, talk to the guidance office - they might be able to set up a social skills group for the next school year - they could call it a lunch club or something, have kids who aren't good socially sit together at lunch and talk. Are you involved with Easter Seals? They usually have some programs for kids - might be helpful. | You can file a discrimination complaint with the US Department of Education Office for Civil Rights. | 1 | 6,232 | 1.48 |
cvymbo | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My 11 year old autistic son is being bullied in school to the point he was being physically assaulted every single day. What legal courses of action can I(35F) take if any? I am in desperate need of any advice. Thank you in advance for any help. We are located in New York State. I posted this in r/advice as I need as much advice as possible and it was suggested that I post this here as well to get more accurate legal advice. My son is truly suffering and I need to do whatever I can to help him. Thank you so much for your time and any help. EDIT: Since posting this earlier my son has told me the bullies also spit on him as well. I don't post at all or even comment often but I have been a part of the community for years and made an account less than a year ago. I am not even sure if I have enough karma for me to post this and it not be taken down. I am really hoping it will stay and I can get some advice. Also I am sorry if this is long. I am just beside myself right now and really need to get this out and get any advice I can. I thank everyone in advance for any help you give today. Basically as the title says my son is 11 and high functioning autistic. I am a single mother and have always done everything I possibly can to help him succeed in life. I have always worried if this day would come due to him being diffirent and what I could do to help him if it did come. Welp, he told me over the weekend he was being bullied for the last 3 months of the school year last year, to the point he was being assaulted daily. I just got off the phone with the middle school and was a bit disappointed with the response. It seems their main way to handle this is to try to seperate the boys who pick on him by just scheduling seperate classes from him. They said because of the length of time since the bullying they may not be able to reprimand them at all but they will talk to them. I see them being spoken to by the school without consequences as a means for them to retaliate and get even worse with my son. He is more scared of that than anything which is partly why he waited so long to say anything(due to his autism he has a hard time communicating to begin with). He does not want it to get worse and is scared it will now that they will know he told on them and I agree with him. I know it is several months after the bullying but I want those kids to be reprimanded. I want to be able to pursue whatever I can to get these boys punished to help deter them from continuing this and let them know they will have consequences if they continue. If I can get the police involved I will. Honestly if I could I would beat their little asses. I won't but I wish I could. They made my sons life a living hell for 3 months to the point I put him in counseling because he was getting so anxious, self loathing and depressed(of course I did not know then that this bullying was going on). It isn't just 3 months for him either this continues on for him. He hates himself now and his confidence is just gone. He is scared to go back to school which is why he finally decided to tell me. I am absolutely livid and scared and feel powerless to help my son. I am so angry at myself and filled with so much sorrow at the thought that he was dealing with this alone. I failed him and will be damned if I continue to fail him. There are 3 boys. The first one (he doesn't know this boy's last name)punches him in the arms over and over again literally daily, he doesn't talk to him just hits him. My son had come home with bruises all over his arms several times last year and when asked about it he would refuse to talk about it. He can be pretty active and clumsy so I was a little concerned about it but he gets a new bruise almost everyday so I didn't think much of it. It was not something I thought could be caused by abuse at the time. I so deeply regret not pushing harder about it and pursuing it more. The second boy(my son knows his full name) daily called him gay, a homo and a fag because my son has long hair, he calls him a girl and gay because of it. My son does not get his hair cut because of his autistic sensory issues, he cannot stand it at all. The third boy(his name is known too) threatens my boy. He aggressively tells him not to look at him, not to talk to him. He threatens violence if he does. All 3 of them are friends, egg each other on and gang up on him together. All of this stuff was happening in class. Not the halls, not the cafeteria, not after school. These little shits were doing this right under the teachers noses when their backs were turned. So I am not exactly confident in the schools ability to protect my son. I want to make sure I do everything I can to protect him and put a stop to it. All this being said I absolutely appreciate any advice that is given. I need advice about what I can do to help my son cope with this emotionally at home(he is still in counseling). What he could try to do when the bullying is happening. Advice about how I should handle it with the school. Advice about if I can get police involved in this or not. As I said, just incase this info is needed, my son is high functioning autistic. He has had all the treatment and therapy I could get for him for his autism and no longer is in any. He does not have an IEP or anything like it. He excels academically and now his main struggles are sensory, social and fine motor skills. He doesn't qualify for assistance or therapies as he is not "disabled enough". TL;DR: High functioning autistic son being bullied at school. How can I help him and pursue safety for him at school and consequences for these little shits? Also sorry for any errors I am a bit of a mess right now. | ey7g4yb | ey7laqk | 1,566,881,963 | 1,566,888,148 | 16 | 37 | https://www.stopbullying.gov/laws/new-york/index.html | I am not a lawyer - Did he ever have an IEP, or did they completely mainstream him and get him off it? Is there any chance you could at least get him a 504 due to the anxiety? Who said he isn't "disabled enough"? Was it the IEP team? If so, if it has been more than 12 months since he last got evaluated for an IEP, time for you to request another evaluation in all areas of suspected disability. Do you think he would benefit from an IEP i.e. would having resource room available for a quiet testing environment be helpful or him, or having OT/PT available monthly to help with sensory and motor issues be helpful? Since he is in middle school, talk to the guidance office - they might be able to set up a social skills group for the next school year - they could call it a lunch club or something, have kids who aren't good socially sit together at lunch and talk. Are you involved with Easter Seals? They usually have some programs for kids - might be helpful. | 0 | 6,185 | 2.3125 |
cvymbo | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My 11 year old autistic son is being bullied in school to the point he was being physically assaulted every single day. What legal courses of action can I(35F) take if any? I am in desperate need of any advice. Thank you in advance for any help. We are located in New York State. I posted this in r/advice as I need as much advice as possible and it was suggested that I post this here as well to get more accurate legal advice. My son is truly suffering and I need to do whatever I can to help him. Thank you so much for your time and any help. EDIT: Since posting this earlier my son has told me the bullies also spit on him as well. I don't post at all or even comment often but I have been a part of the community for years and made an account less than a year ago. I am not even sure if I have enough karma for me to post this and it not be taken down. I am really hoping it will stay and I can get some advice. Also I am sorry if this is long. I am just beside myself right now and really need to get this out and get any advice I can. I thank everyone in advance for any help you give today. Basically as the title says my son is 11 and high functioning autistic. I am a single mother and have always done everything I possibly can to help him succeed in life. I have always worried if this day would come due to him being diffirent and what I could do to help him if it did come. Welp, he told me over the weekend he was being bullied for the last 3 months of the school year last year, to the point he was being assaulted daily. I just got off the phone with the middle school and was a bit disappointed with the response. It seems their main way to handle this is to try to seperate the boys who pick on him by just scheduling seperate classes from him. They said because of the length of time since the bullying they may not be able to reprimand them at all but they will talk to them. I see them being spoken to by the school without consequences as a means for them to retaliate and get even worse with my son. He is more scared of that than anything which is partly why he waited so long to say anything(due to his autism he has a hard time communicating to begin with). He does not want it to get worse and is scared it will now that they will know he told on them and I agree with him. I know it is several months after the bullying but I want those kids to be reprimanded. I want to be able to pursue whatever I can to get these boys punished to help deter them from continuing this and let them know they will have consequences if they continue. If I can get the police involved I will. Honestly if I could I would beat their little asses. I won't but I wish I could. They made my sons life a living hell for 3 months to the point I put him in counseling because he was getting so anxious, self loathing and depressed(of course I did not know then that this bullying was going on). It isn't just 3 months for him either this continues on for him. He hates himself now and his confidence is just gone. He is scared to go back to school which is why he finally decided to tell me. I am absolutely livid and scared and feel powerless to help my son. I am so angry at myself and filled with so much sorrow at the thought that he was dealing with this alone. I failed him and will be damned if I continue to fail him. There are 3 boys. The first one (he doesn't know this boy's last name)punches him in the arms over and over again literally daily, he doesn't talk to him just hits him. My son had come home with bruises all over his arms several times last year and when asked about it he would refuse to talk about it. He can be pretty active and clumsy so I was a little concerned about it but he gets a new bruise almost everyday so I didn't think much of it. It was not something I thought could be caused by abuse at the time. I so deeply regret not pushing harder about it and pursuing it more. The second boy(my son knows his full name) daily called him gay, a homo and a fag because my son has long hair, he calls him a girl and gay because of it. My son does not get his hair cut because of his autistic sensory issues, he cannot stand it at all. The third boy(his name is known too) threatens my boy. He aggressively tells him not to look at him, not to talk to him. He threatens violence if he does. All 3 of them are friends, egg each other on and gang up on him together. All of this stuff was happening in class. Not the halls, not the cafeteria, not after school. These little shits were doing this right under the teachers noses when their backs were turned. So I am not exactly confident in the schools ability to protect my son. I want to make sure I do everything I can to protect him and put a stop to it. All this being said I absolutely appreciate any advice that is given. I need advice about what I can do to help my son cope with this emotionally at home(he is still in counseling). What he could try to do when the bullying is happening. Advice about how I should handle it with the school. Advice about if I can get police involved in this or not. As I said, just incase this info is needed, my son is high functioning autistic. He has had all the treatment and therapy I could get for him for his autism and no longer is in any. He does not have an IEP or anything like it. He excels academically and now his main struggles are sensory, social and fine motor skills. He doesn't qualify for assistance or therapies as he is not "disabled enough". TL;DR: High functioning autistic son being bullied at school. How can I help him and pursue safety for him at school and consequences for these little shits? Also sorry for any errors I am a bit of a mess right now. | ey7i5ru | ey7laqk | 1,566,884,303 | 1,566,888,148 | 9 | 37 | Not a lawyer, and from Canada, but studying education and recently came across a case similar to your predicament when discussing education laws. In the similar case, a school failed to properly respond to a student being bullied by two classmates that resulted in the victim suffering a panic attack and the parents eventually relocating him to a different school/homeschooling him. As a result, the parents sued the school for the cost of transferring/bussing to new school. Teachers are supposed to act as a "vigilant parent", but their duty of care has its limits. A breach of standard can occur if a teacher's lack of supervision results directly in the incident taking place (in this case, the bullying). An example is if the teacher was notified of the bullying, yet allowed both students to participate in a group project together knowing it incited conflict. If you believe the teachers are performing a breach of the standard, you are more than welcome to talk to higher-ups about it (superintendent? I'm not sure how the US school system is structured). However, if the teachers are acting out what was directed from the board/principal/superintendent, then there may be vicarious liabilities in place. In this case, the teacher may not be in the wrong because they are acting on behalf of what the school board was directed, but the directions the school board has given has resulted in a breach of the standard. In this case, the school board may be found responsible in the event of an incident as a result of the bullying. As suggested, injury and police reports are highly valuable in the event that you do take legal action. You mention that he is in counselling- does that have a monetary value attached to it? Discuss with the school what they expect their standard of care to be, and whether they have guidelines and stipulations in place to deal with this bullying. | I am not a lawyer - Did he ever have an IEP, or did they completely mainstream him and get him off it? Is there any chance you could at least get him a 504 due to the anxiety? Who said he isn't "disabled enough"? Was it the IEP team? If so, if it has been more than 12 months since he last got evaluated for an IEP, time for you to request another evaluation in all areas of suspected disability. Do you think he would benefit from an IEP i.e. would having resource room available for a quiet testing environment be helpful or him, or having OT/PT available monthly to help with sensory and motor issues be helpful? Since he is in middle school, talk to the guidance office - they might be able to set up a social skills group for the next school year - they could call it a lunch club or something, have kids who aren't good socially sit together at lunch and talk. Are you involved with Easter Seals? They usually have some programs for kids - might be helpful. | 0 | 3,845 | 4.111111 |
cvymbo | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My 11 year old autistic son is being bullied in school to the point he was being physically assaulted every single day. What legal courses of action can I(35F) take if any? I am in desperate need of any advice. Thank you in advance for any help. We are located in New York State. I posted this in r/advice as I need as much advice as possible and it was suggested that I post this here as well to get more accurate legal advice. My son is truly suffering and I need to do whatever I can to help him. Thank you so much for your time and any help. EDIT: Since posting this earlier my son has told me the bullies also spit on him as well. I don't post at all or even comment often but I have been a part of the community for years and made an account less than a year ago. I am not even sure if I have enough karma for me to post this and it not be taken down. I am really hoping it will stay and I can get some advice. Also I am sorry if this is long. I am just beside myself right now and really need to get this out and get any advice I can. I thank everyone in advance for any help you give today. Basically as the title says my son is 11 and high functioning autistic. I am a single mother and have always done everything I possibly can to help him succeed in life. I have always worried if this day would come due to him being diffirent and what I could do to help him if it did come. Welp, he told me over the weekend he was being bullied for the last 3 months of the school year last year, to the point he was being assaulted daily. I just got off the phone with the middle school and was a bit disappointed with the response. It seems their main way to handle this is to try to seperate the boys who pick on him by just scheduling seperate classes from him. They said because of the length of time since the bullying they may not be able to reprimand them at all but they will talk to them. I see them being spoken to by the school without consequences as a means for them to retaliate and get even worse with my son. He is more scared of that than anything which is partly why he waited so long to say anything(due to his autism he has a hard time communicating to begin with). He does not want it to get worse and is scared it will now that they will know he told on them and I agree with him. I know it is several months after the bullying but I want those kids to be reprimanded. I want to be able to pursue whatever I can to get these boys punished to help deter them from continuing this and let them know they will have consequences if they continue. If I can get the police involved I will. Honestly if I could I would beat their little asses. I won't but I wish I could. They made my sons life a living hell for 3 months to the point I put him in counseling because he was getting so anxious, self loathing and depressed(of course I did not know then that this bullying was going on). It isn't just 3 months for him either this continues on for him. He hates himself now and his confidence is just gone. He is scared to go back to school which is why he finally decided to tell me. I am absolutely livid and scared and feel powerless to help my son. I am so angry at myself and filled with so much sorrow at the thought that he was dealing with this alone. I failed him and will be damned if I continue to fail him. There are 3 boys. The first one (he doesn't know this boy's last name)punches him in the arms over and over again literally daily, he doesn't talk to him just hits him. My son had come home with bruises all over his arms several times last year and when asked about it he would refuse to talk about it. He can be pretty active and clumsy so I was a little concerned about it but he gets a new bruise almost everyday so I didn't think much of it. It was not something I thought could be caused by abuse at the time. I so deeply regret not pushing harder about it and pursuing it more. The second boy(my son knows his full name) daily called him gay, a homo and a fag because my son has long hair, he calls him a girl and gay because of it. My son does not get his hair cut because of his autistic sensory issues, he cannot stand it at all. The third boy(his name is known too) threatens my boy. He aggressively tells him not to look at him, not to talk to him. He threatens violence if he does. All 3 of them are friends, egg each other on and gang up on him together. All of this stuff was happening in class. Not the halls, not the cafeteria, not after school. These little shits were doing this right under the teachers noses when their backs were turned. So I am not exactly confident in the schools ability to protect my son. I want to make sure I do everything I can to protect him and put a stop to it. All this being said I absolutely appreciate any advice that is given. I need advice about what I can do to help my son cope with this emotionally at home(he is still in counseling). What he could try to do when the bullying is happening. Advice about how I should handle it with the school. Advice about if I can get police involved in this or not. As I said, just incase this info is needed, my son is high functioning autistic. He has had all the treatment and therapy I could get for him for his autism and no longer is in any. He does not have an IEP or anything like it. He excels academically and now his main struggles are sensory, social and fine motor skills. He doesn't qualify for assistance or therapies as he is not "disabled enough". TL;DR: High functioning autistic son being bullied at school. How can I help him and pursue safety for him at school and consequences for these little shits? Also sorry for any errors I am a bit of a mess right now. | ey7yrrs | ey7i5ru | 1,566,906,047 | 1,566,884,303 | 14 | 9 | Call Disability Rights NY. Get referrals to an education lawyer. Join the Council of Parents, Attorneys and Advocates ("COPAA). They have great info on the web, including a directory of lawyers. You and your son have real and enforceable rights. Don't let it stop you for looking if you can't afford a lawyer. Under the law, if you sue the school and win, the school has to pay your lawyer. Knowing this, many good lawyers will consider taking your case without cost to you. It's not charity. They expect to be paid, just not by you | Not a lawyer, and from Canada, but studying education and recently came across a case similar to your predicament when discussing education laws. In the similar case, a school failed to properly respond to a student being bullied by two classmates that resulted in the victim suffering a panic attack and the parents eventually relocating him to a different school/homeschooling him. As a result, the parents sued the school for the cost of transferring/bussing to new school. Teachers are supposed to act as a "vigilant parent", but their duty of care has its limits. A breach of standard can occur if a teacher's lack of supervision results directly in the incident taking place (in this case, the bullying). An example is if the teacher was notified of the bullying, yet allowed both students to participate in a group project together knowing it incited conflict. If you believe the teachers are performing a breach of the standard, you are more than welcome to talk to higher-ups about it (superintendent? I'm not sure how the US school system is structured). However, if the teachers are acting out what was directed from the board/principal/superintendent, then there may be vicarious liabilities in place. In this case, the teacher may not be in the wrong because they are acting on behalf of what the school board was directed, but the directions the school board has given has resulted in a breach of the standard. In this case, the school board may be found responsible in the event of an incident as a result of the bullying. As suggested, injury and police reports are highly valuable in the event that you do take legal action. You mention that he is in counselling- does that have a monetary value attached to it? Discuss with the school what they expect their standard of care to be, and whether they have guidelines and stipulations in place to deal with this bullying. | 1 | 21,744 | 1.555556 |
cvymbo | legaladvice_train | 0.91 | My 11 year old autistic son is being bullied in school to the point he was being physically assaulted every single day. What legal courses of action can I(35F) take if any? I am in desperate need of any advice. Thank you in advance for any help. We are located in New York State. I posted this in r/advice as I need as much advice as possible and it was suggested that I post this here as well to get more accurate legal advice. My son is truly suffering and I need to do whatever I can to help him. Thank you so much for your time and any help. EDIT: Since posting this earlier my son has told me the bullies also spit on him as well. I don't post at all or even comment often but I have been a part of the community for years and made an account less than a year ago. I am not even sure if I have enough karma for me to post this and it not be taken down. I am really hoping it will stay and I can get some advice. Also I am sorry if this is long. I am just beside myself right now and really need to get this out and get any advice I can. I thank everyone in advance for any help you give today. Basically as the title says my son is 11 and high functioning autistic. I am a single mother and have always done everything I possibly can to help him succeed in life. I have always worried if this day would come due to him being diffirent and what I could do to help him if it did come. Welp, he told me over the weekend he was being bullied for the last 3 months of the school year last year, to the point he was being assaulted daily. I just got off the phone with the middle school and was a bit disappointed with the response. It seems their main way to handle this is to try to seperate the boys who pick on him by just scheduling seperate classes from him. They said because of the length of time since the bullying they may not be able to reprimand them at all but they will talk to them. I see them being spoken to by the school without consequences as a means for them to retaliate and get even worse with my son. He is more scared of that than anything which is partly why he waited so long to say anything(due to his autism he has a hard time communicating to begin with). He does not want it to get worse and is scared it will now that they will know he told on them and I agree with him. I know it is several months after the bullying but I want those kids to be reprimanded. I want to be able to pursue whatever I can to get these boys punished to help deter them from continuing this and let them know they will have consequences if they continue. If I can get the police involved I will. Honestly if I could I would beat their little asses. I won't but I wish I could. They made my sons life a living hell for 3 months to the point I put him in counseling because he was getting so anxious, self loathing and depressed(of course I did not know then that this bullying was going on). It isn't just 3 months for him either this continues on for him. He hates himself now and his confidence is just gone. He is scared to go back to school which is why he finally decided to tell me. I am absolutely livid and scared and feel powerless to help my son. I am so angry at myself and filled with so much sorrow at the thought that he was dealing with this alone. I failed him and will be damned if I continue to fail him. There are 3 boys. The first one (he doesn't know this boy's last name)punches him in the arms over and over again literally daily, he doesn't talk to him just hits him. My son had come home with bruises all over his arms several times last year and when asked about it he would refuse to talk about it. He can be pretty active and clumsy so I was a little concerned about it but he gets a new bruise almost everyday so I didn't think much of it. It was not something I thought could be caused by abuse at the time. I so deeply regret not pushing harder about it and pursuing it more. The second boy(my son knows his full name) daily called him gay, a homo and a fag because my son has long hair, he calls him a girl and gay because of it. My son does not get his hair cut because of his autistic sensory issues, he cannot stand it at all. The third boy(his name is known too) threatens my boy. He aggressively tells him not to look at him, not to talk to him. He threatens violence if he does. All 3 of them are friends, egg each other on and gang up on him together. All of this stuff was happening in class. Not the halls, not the cafeteria, not after school. These little shits were doing this right under the teachers noses when their backs were turned. So I am not exactly confident in the schools ability to protect my son. I want to make sure I do everything I can to protect him and put a stop to it. All this being said I absolutely appreciate any advice that is given. I need advice about what I can do to help my son cope with this emotionally at home(he is still in counseling). What he could try to do when the bullying is happening. Advice about how I should handle it with the school. Advice about if I can get police involved in this or not. As I said, just incase this info is needed, my son is high functioning autistic. He has had all the treatment and therapy I could get for him for his autism and no longer is in any. He does not have an IEP or anything like it. He excels academically and now his main struggles are sensory, social and fine motor skills. He doesn't qualify for assistance or therapies as he is not "disabled enough". TL;DR: High functioning autistic son being bullied at school. How can I help him and pursue safety for him at school and consequences for these little shits? Also sorry for any errors I am a bit of a mess right now. | ey8esn3 | ey8l6ct | 1,566,918,438 | 1,566,922,587 | 2 | 3 | In cases like this documentation is your friend - I am not a lawyer, just a father of 2 autistic boys - Have a sit down with administration, before your meeting, write out a complete account from your son and your observations. Place 2 copies in a folder and bring it with you to your meeting. Outline your concerns in writing along with the account of past events. Write on your copy who you met with and date/time. Give them a copy of the documents. Ask to discuss their safe school policy and ask them for a copy of the policy. (This establishes a paper trail) Ask administration if there is a member of staff that your son can approach if he feels threatened (safe space) be specific and get a name - IE librarian. Introduce your son to said safe person and give second copy of events to them. This should help to keep lines of communication open. Just be clear to administration that your not looking to punish just to keep safe. If there is a reoccurrence- bring in the safe person and administration and have a meeting with the kids. Document the outcome and share with administration and safe person. Be sure to “ask for help” and thank them. I understand the anger and frustration of the situation, if administration is unwilling to or unable to assist, document the steps you have taken and escalate to the school trustees. Remember “safe space” - if it’s not safe what is it? | I am not a lawyer, but I am in NY and have two high functioning autistic kids, one of whom is in a state-approved nonpublic school, and both of whom have been bullied in the past. I don't know where in the state you are, but if there are other school options, you could ask for a safety transfer (this works in NYC; I just did one for my kid, but I can't speak for ). You also can request an IEP evaluation at any point, even if you stopped services in the past. While the IEP process might not solve the immediate bullying problems (for which others have given advice anyway), it might get you on the road to receiving specialized services, especially placement in classes that are more aware of the sensory and social needs of your child, individual and group therapy (to work on social skills), etc. (And if you happen to be in NYC, look for things like ASD NEST, ICT programs, and consider requesting an impartial hearing through the Committee on Special Education). This is, as I know from experience, something you have to push for yourself, and it's not always an easy road. But the more documentation you have, the better your chances of the school district siding with you without a fight, or, if it comes to it, for an impartial hearing to rule in your favor. | 0 | 4,149 | 1.5 |
sq8dle | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | My Brother with Autism Is Physically Hurting My Mom and I (Nebraska, please give us advice) My 21-year-old brother who has autism (high functioning) has started becoming more and more physical and I'm worried for my mom's safety. She is obviously his Parent and also Legal Guardian. She says she can't defend herself cause of certain laws that Nebraska has. he is on a wait list for housing, but she has not clue what to do in the meantime. Almost everything she does causes him to get upset and as previously mentioned he is getting more and more physical. We have had to call the police more times than I can count but we are reaching almost 30ish times. I'm scared for her safety and really need some advice on what we can and can't do. All of this has caused her to end up in the hospital (she almost had a heart attack), she stares at the clock when it gets time for him to come home, she flinches when you move to fast, and Shes broken down crying on call with me way too many times. I need help and so does she. What do we do?... what can we do?... | hwjxqoz | hwju63e | 1,644,612,019 | 1,644,610,700 | 58 | 15 | You need to call APS. Adult Protective Services and you need to mention the health and safety of both your mother and brother are at risk. APS has the power to light fires under DHS to get paperwork moving for you. They can, sometimes, do emergency placements. Next, you're going to reach out to Division of Development Disabilities. APS will probably want to get them involved, regardless. What you're interested in is the Developmental Disabilities Waiver. Once this ball gets rolling, you can get on the train of looking into homes. **HOWEVER, if your mother is actual physical danger, you can call 911.** YES, your brother will get in trouble with the law. BUT this will sometimes make the COURT order him to go into a GROUP HOME. Meaning, APS and the Court will be lighting the fire under the Division of DD for you as well. | See if he qualifies for aid with the local regional center or something similar to that. In California, we have regional centers which assists Individuals with Developmental Disabilities. Usually you have to qualify as a child to get services as an adult. However, if there are sufficient medical records from his childhood that a screening can be done now to see if he would have qualified then, it is a good idea to try. If he does qualify for assistance or something similar, they may be able to find a home. As he is an adult, your mother is not responsible for him any more. She can tell the center that she doesn't want him in her home and they could potentially establish a conservatorship over him. | 1 | 1,319 | 3.866667 |
8rkvmh | legaladvice_train | 0.86 | My Brother tricked my dad into signing guardianship of both of them now Mom is in assisted living and dad wants her back home (Alabama) My dad signed over guardianship of my mother and his estate to my brother. My brother immediately had my mother admitted to long term care. My father had no idea what he wS signing. I was helping my dad care for my mom before he had her admitted.now my brother has control over everything and won’t let my dad bring her back home. I am really afraid he will sell my dad’s house and try to admit him in an assisted living out of town. Yes, my parents have money which my brother now controls. I want to bring my mom back home so they can be together for whatever time they have left. I need some advice fast. | e0smjve | e0sez6r | 1,529,191,941 | 1,529,182,951 | 8 | 7 | You can not sign over the guardianship of another party to a 3rd party. If your dad was the huardian then that's not transferable. | Is this a legal guardianship through the courts or a power of attorney? Because a poa can be revoked anytime (although a written notarized statement of that sent to all banks facilities ect will help). Contact a lawyer and ask what you need to do. | 1 | 8,990 | 1.142857 |
vmasri | legaladvice_train | 0.73 | My roof rack ripped off on the highway while two kayaks were tied to it. Hello , I was wondering how this would work out. I own a car which I had a roof rack installed for close to 500$. It's my car and it's all original parts , installed by the same dealer itself. This was installed december 2019 and was covered by them for 24 months or 40k kilometers , whichever comes first. Now with covid being in our lives since a little while , we hardly even used the roof rack since everything was pretty much on pause since the outbreak. We ONLY and by only I mean exclusively used the roof racks for transporting the kayaks. The roof racks are supposed to hold up to 132lbs and each kayak weighs a little less than 40lbs. Earlier today my wife and I were on the highway , rolling 90km/h in a 100 km/h limite , the whole roof rack ripped off completely and LUCKILY , no one was nearby because the two kayaks flew off and stayed strapped on together. Now , we've busted the warranty by 5000 kilometers and 6 months and I don't know if I could claim through consumers protection laws that something worth 500$ should last longter than two and a half years , considering there was only 6 months of usage too. The two kayaks (worth 600$ each) have considerable damage. The roof rack is completely demolished and even the car antenna was clipped. Can I do anything? I'm asking in advance because the dealer that I have to talk with about this has a very bad reputation and I'd like to be prepared. I'm in Montreal, Quebec , Canada. Thanks in advance. | ie0104d | ie010sm | 1,656,379,306 | 1,656,379,315 | 16 | 95 | r/Legaladvicecanada | Unless your insurance covers this, I don't see how anyone else is responsible. You have a duty to inspect your vehicle to ensure its safe before driving. That includes checking the roof rack and the kayaks. | 0 | 9 | 5.9375 |
z7cxku | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Employer hasn't put money in my 401k since Sept 6th and I'm considering taking action I'm curious what my options are for this in Illinois? This is someone I've worked for for about 7 months and my first 401k deduction is the only one they've put in. The owner blames it on the HR person for typos on checks but I've asked 3 times about this, and it's company wide. No ones gotten their money since sept 6th. Any help would be greatly appreciated. | iy5w8zs | iy6t3zb | 1,669,679,564 | 1,669,695,014 | 17 | 54 | One option is to request assistance from the U.S. Department of Labor Employee Benefits Security Administration. | The fact that your first 401k deduction made it to your 401k account but the later ones didn't, and also every employee is in the same situation, convinces me that this is not HR error or incompetence but a sign that the company is in trouble. Management made a decision not to send the later deductions to employees' 401k accounts because they realize that most employees don't check very often. This is a dishonest act of desperation on their part. Others have given you good advice. Start looking for another job because this company is most likely going down. | 0 | 15,450 | 3.176471 |
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