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4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69069h | d691s0a | 1,470,665,182 | 1,470,667,727 | 59 | 63 | I am not a lawyer. There isn't anything stopping CPS from showing up. If they have a report, they investigate. It's everything on your end from that point on that determines whether or not the report was justified. Have your pediatrician print off their growth charts. That will show what percentile they are in and whether your children are malnourished or not. Even having printoffs of all the wellness checks for your children would be helpful. House should be as decluttered as possible. Doesn't have to be absolutely spotless, you have 3 month old twins for crying out loud. Nothing that screams dirty or any funky smells. Cribs should be bumper free following the standard safety guidelines. Business as usual. She doesn't have jack squat. If you have any emails or texts with her threats, print them off for your lawyer. Communications should be writtten from now on. | You may want to consider going on offense. Get a restraining order. | 0 | 2,545 | 1.067797 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d691s0a | d68z14o | 1,470,667,727 | 1,470,663,190 | 63 | 2 | You may want to consider going on offense. Get a restraining order. | If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit. | 1 | 4,537 | 31.5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d68z14o | d69069h | 1,470,663,190 | 1,470,665,182 | 2 | 59 | If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit. | I am not a lawyer. There isn't anything stopping CPS from showing up. If they have a report, they investigate. It's everything on your end from that point on that determines whether or not the report was justified. Have your pediatrician print off their growth charts. That will show what percentile they are in and whether your children are malnourished or not. Even having printoffs of all the wellness checks for your children would be helpful. House should be as decluttered as possible. Doesn't have to be absolutely spotless, you have 3 month old twins for crying out loud. Nothing that screams dirty or any funky smells. Cribs should be bumper free following the standard safety guidelines. Business as usual. She doesn't have jack squat. If you have any emails or texts with her threats, print them off for your lawyer. Communications should be writtten from now on. | 0 | 1,992 | 29.5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d6925m6 | d68z14o | 1,470,668,281 | 1,470,663,190 | 40 | 2 | I would be more worried about her attempting to abduct your twins. Are you guys no contact? | If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit. | 1 | 5,091 | 20 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69ls4n | d69il6l | 1,470,694,042 | 1,470,689,753 | 17 | 10 | Head on over to r/justnomil you'll see that threats like this are actually not uncommon. I have yet to actually hear of a case where the mil was successful. Cps won't just swoop in and take the kids away because there's a crumb on the floor either. Relax. Have an attorney on speed dial just in case. But you should be fine. | > She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. Isn't this grounds for a lawsuit? | 1 | 4,289 | 1.7 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69ls4n | d69dqf6 | 1,470,694,042 | 1,470,683,476 | 17 | 6 | Head on over to r/justnomil you'll see that threats like this are actually not uncommon. I have yet to actually hear of a case where the mil was successful. Cps won't just swoop in and take the kids away because there's a crumb on the floor either. Relax. Have an attorney on speed dial just in case. But you should be fine. | The other advice concerning finding a family attorney is on-point, I would make sure that you find one with CPS experience, as that seems to be the most likely avenue of attack. This is written from the opposite perspective (a NJ attorney that helps grandparents petition for visitation of their grandchildren), but if this article is correct, you will probably stand a good chance against her in court, if things get that far. The major key being that she doesn't have any pre-existing relationship with the twins. Good luck. | 1 | 10,566 | 2.833333 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69ls4n | d69990e | 1,470,694,042 | 1,470,677,782 | 17 | 4 | Head on over to r/justnomil you'll see that threats like this are actually not uncommon. I have yet to actually hear of a case where the mil was successful. Cps won't just swoop in and take the kids away because there's a crumb on the floor either. Relax. Have an attorney on speed dial just in case. But you should be fine. | If you start getting visits from CPS and/or other agencies then keep detailed documentation of every visit. Include who visited, dates & times, etc. If MIL starts filing lots of bogus complaints then showing a log of visits to each investigator that shows up will go a long way towards convincing them that the calls are just meant to harass you. It can also prove very useful if/when any lawsuits, restraining orders, etc. occur. | 1 | 16,260 | 4.25 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d68z14o | d69ls4n | 1,470,663,190 | 1,470,694,042 | 2 | 17 | If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit. | Head on over to r/justnomil you'll see that threats like this are actually not uncommon. I have yet to actually hear of a case where the mil was successful. Cps won't just swoop in and take the kids away because there's a crumb on the floor either. Relax. Have an attorney on speed dial just in case. But you should be fine. | 0 | 30,852 | 8.5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69f4r4 | d69ls4n | 1,470,685,296 | 1,470,694,042 | 2 | 17 | There are all kinds of hacks out there, but I have a hard time believing that an actual practicing attorney would send an email threatening this sort of legal action instead of contacting CPS for the immediate protection of the children. | Head on over to r/justnomil you'll see that threats like this are actually not uncommon. I have yet to actually hear of a case where the mil was successful. Cps won't just swoop in and take the kids away because there's a crumb on the floor either. Relax. Have an attorney on speed dial just in case. But you should be fine. | 0 | 8,746 | 8.5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69il6l | d69dqf6 | 1,470,689,753 | 1,470,683,476 | 10 | 6 | > She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. Isn't this grounds for a lawsuit? | The other advice concerning finding a family attorney is on-point, I would make sure that you find one with CPS experience, as that seems to be the most likely avenue of attack. This is written from the opposite perspective (a NJ attorney that helps grandparents petition for visitation of their grandchildren), but if this article is correct, you will probably stand a good chance against her in court, if things get that far. The major key being that she doesn't have any pre-existing relationship with the twins. Good luck. | 1 | 6,277 | 1.666667 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69990e | d69il6l | 1,470,677,782 | 1,470,689,753 | 4 | 10 | If you start getting visits from CPS and/or other agencies then keep detailed documentation of every visit. Include who visited, dates & times, etc. If MIL starts filing lots of bogus complaints then showing a log of visits to each investigator that shows up will go a long way towards convincing them that the calls are just meant to harass you. It can also prove very useful if/when any lawsuits, restraining orders, etc. occur. | > She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. Isn't this grounds for a lawsuit? | 0 | 11,971 | 2.5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69il6l | d68z14o | 1,470,689,753 | 1,470,663,190 | 10 | 2 | > She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. Isn't this grounds for a lawsuit? | If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit. | 1 | 26,563 | 5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69il6l | d69f4r4 | 1,470,689,753 | 1,470,685,296 | 10 | 2 | > She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. Isn't this grounds for a lawsuit? | There are all kinds of hacks out there, but I have a hard time believing that an actual practicing attorney would send an email threatening this sort of legal action instead of contacting CPS for the immediate protection of the children. | 1 | 4,457 | 5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69990e | d69dqf6 | 1,470,677,782 | 1,470,683,476 | 4 | 6 | If you start getting visits from CPS and/or other agencies then keep detailed documentation of every visit. Include who visited, dates & times, etc. If MIL starts filing lots of bogus complaints then showing a log of visits to each investigator that shows up will go a long way towards convincing them that the calls are just meant to harass you. It can also prove very useful if/when any lawsuits, restraining orders, etc. occur. | The other advice concerning finding a family attorney is on-point, I would make sure that you find one with CPS experience, as that seems to be the most likely avenue of attack. This is written from the opposite perspective (a NJ attorney that helps grandparents petition for visitation of their grandchildren), but if this article is correct, you will probably stand a good chance against her in court, if things get that far. The major key being that she doesn't have any pre-existing relationship with the twins. Good luck. | 0 | 5,694 | 1.5 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d68z14o | d69dqf6 | 1,470,663,190 | 1,470,683,476 | 2 | 6 | If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit. | The other advice concerning finding a family attorney is on-point, I would make sure that you find one with CPS experience, as that seems to be the most likely avenue of attack. This is written from the opposite perspective (a NJ attorney that helps grandparents petition for visitation of their grandchildren), but if this article is correct, you will probably stand a good chance against her in court, if things get that far. The major key being that she doesn't have any pre-existing relationship with the twins. Good luck. | 0 | 20,286 | 3 |
4wq40a | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | [New Jersey] My mother-in-law wants to sue for custody of my children. My MIL and I have not gotten along since day one. She is incredibly toxic and abusive, both to me and my husband. Although we've cut her out of our lives, she still shows up to stir up trouble. She even got me fired from my job, claiming to my boss that I stole out of the cash register. I have 3 month old twins. I received an email from a supposed attorney, claiming they are going to seek custody of my children for my mother-in-law. I called her, and she says she has noticed that they are malnutrioned and have had bruises. These are lies and she has not seen the children since the day after they were born. It's obvious she is just trying to kick up drama but should I worry about this? Do I consult an attorney? I fear CPS might come to our door, and I don't want to be unprepared. | d69990e | d68z14o | 1,470,677,782 | 1,470,663,190 | 4 | 2 | If you start getting visits from CPS and/or other agencies then keep detailed documentation of every visit. Include who visited, dates & times, etc. If MIL starts filing lots of bogus complaints then showing a log of visits to each investigator that shows up will go a long way towards convincing them that the calls are just meant to harass you. It can also prove very useful if/when any lawsuits, restraining orders, etc. occur. | If the attorney who contacted you is in NJ, you can look them up here. If not, many other states have attorney similar services (Google: [state] attorney lookup). This will at least let you know if the person contacting you is legit. | 1 | 14,592 | 2 |
atjaa0 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Brother in-law and sister in-law refuse to return my (stolen) cellphone with my sexual pictures and conversations and already showed contents to other family members and plan on showing to their children one day. I want it back but don’t know what recourse I have. A little backstory: Four years ago I impregnated my girlfriend who was in the process of separating from her husband. We were in the mid west of the time and it was an extremely tumultuous time; I had taken a job on the East Coast And were trying to find a house where she could move in with me To raise our son. As she would not complete her divorce, I saw other people but wasn’t open about this. After a confrontation one day, I showed my gf My phone at her request which had conversations and pictures of the women I sexted and dates. This was extremely upsetting to her, and she took my phone back with her on a return trip to the Midwest without my knowledge. She Went through all my conversations and humiliated me to the people we knew back in the Midwest. She did not talk to me for almost two months. Technically she stole my phone but I didn’t push the issue because I wanted to salvage our relationship. Her brother and sister-in-law helped her out during this time and she trusted them; she gave them my phone because it was too painful for her to keep (I had no knowledge of this). My sister-in-law comes from a Puritanical culture And went thru my phone and she was offended to see the kink sexting on my phone.Fast forward several months and my girlfriend took the plunge and moved in with me on the East Coast. My in-laws were extremely against this move and essentially cursed my 1-year old son and disowned my gf and my son for not following their advice to shun me. They also forbid their two children from having any contact with my girlfriend who is there Beloved aunt. It was a lot of work, but we married and three years later have three kids and a terrific life After our initial struggles. However the in-laws still have my phone, and have since shown the contents to my father-in-law and have tried to show my mother-in-law as well. They told her that they plan on showing their daughter (my niece in-law) when she has grown as well To justify Cutting off all contact with her aunt. We have had extremely limited contact with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law and I have Demanded my phone back twice to no response. I initially did not push the issue Because I didn’t want more drama in my wife and i’s fragile marriage... But now this is a huge source of drama when we visit family in the Midwest and angering to me. They made false accusations about me to famy members two months ago. There is absolutely nothing illegal on my phone, just kinky sexting and pictures that my in laws find offensive And I feel it is being held hostage because my in-laws look stupid now that my wife and I have a thriving family and they want to have something to justify their malevolent actions. What is on my phone is of zero business to them. Any advice on how I go about getting my phone back, as well as any legal repercussions I could take would be very appreciated. I consider my phone stolen by them, but I realize it’s not straight fwd because my wife took it from me and gave it to them. However, I do not know if this falls within the laws against “revenge porn” | eh1ea3t | eh1d3ml | 1,550,852,929 | 1,550,852,087 | 84 | 17 | Whether it falls under revenge porn is going to depend in large part on what states are actually involved. "Midwest" is not a legal jurisdiction. | I don't understand why you didn't remote wipe it | 1 | 842 | 4.941176 |
atjaa0 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Brother in-law and sister in-law refuse to return my (stolen) cellphone with my sexual pictures and conversations and already showed contents to other family members and plan on showing to their children one day. I want it back but don’t know what recourse I have. A little backstory: Four years ago I impregnated my girlfriend who was in the process of separating from her husband. We were in the mid west of the time and it was an extremely tumultuous time; I had taken a job on the East Coast And were trying to find a house where she could move in with me To raise our son. As she would not complete her divorce, I saw other people but wasn’t open about this. After a confrontation one day, I showed my gf My phone at her request which had conversations and pictures of the women I sexted and dates. This was extremely upsetting to her, and she took my phone back with her on a return trip to the Midwest without my knowledge. She Went through all my conversations and humiliated me to the people we knew back in the Midwest. She did not talk to me for almost two months. Technically she stole my phone but I didn’t push the issue because I wanted to salvage our relationship. Her brother and sister-in-law helped her out during this time and she trusted them; she gave them my phone because it was too painful for her to keep (I had no knowledge of this). My sister-in-law comes from a Puritanical culture And went thru my phone and she was offended to see the kink sexting on my phone.Fast forward several months and my girlfriend took the plunge and moved in with me on the East Coast. My in-laws were extremely against this move and essentially cursed my 1-year old son and disowned my gf and my son for not following their advice to shun me. They also forbid their two children from having any contact with my girlfriend who is there Beloved aunt. It was a lot of work, but we married and three years later have three kids and a terrific life After our initial struggles. However the in-laws still have my phone, and have since shown the contents to my father-in-law and have tried to show my mother-in-law as well. They told her that they plan on showing their daughter (my niece in-law) when she has grown as well To justify Cutting off all contact with her aunt. We have had extremely limited contact with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law and I have Demanded my phone back twice to no response. I initially did not push the issue Because I didn’t want more drama in my wife and i’s fragile marriage... But now this is a huge source of drama when we visit family in the Midwest and angering to me. They made false accusations about me to famy members two months ago. There is absolutely nothing illegal on my phone, just kinky sexting and pictures that my in laws find offensive And I feel it is being held hostage because my in-laws look stupid now that my wife and I have a thriving family and they want to have something to justify their malevolent actions. What is on my phone is of zero business to them. Any advice on how I go about getting my phone back, as well as any legal repercussions I could take would be very appreciated. I consider my phone stolen by them, but I realize it’s not straight fwd because my wife took it from me and gave it to them. However, I do not know if this falls within the laws against “revenge porn” | eh1zp7p | eh1d3ml | 1,550,867,533 | 1,550,852,087 | 21 | 17 | See if you have any text messages or other written info that can document that the phone was indeed yours and that they took it and are keeping it from you. This will help document it to police. Also, it might work better to tell the police you need help recovering stolen property, rather than starting out with the picture sharing with family members, though that is, of course and important aspect too. However, be prepared to have to explain your now-wife took it and left it with them. Because that essentially makes her the thief... Not a lawyer. | I don't understand why you didn't remote wipe it | 1 | 15,446 | 1.235294 |
atjaa0 | legaladvice_train | 0.9 | Brother in-law and sister in-law refuse to return my (stolen) cellphone with my sexual pictures and conversations and already showed contents to other family members and plan on showing to their children one day. I want it back but don’t know what recourse I have. A little backstory: Four years ago I impregnated my girlfriend who was in the process of separating from her husband. We were in the mid west of the time and it was an extremely tumultuous time; I had taken a job on the East Coast And were trying to find a house where she could move in with me To raise our son. As she would not complete her divorce, I saw other people but wasn’t open about this. After a confrontation one day, I showed my gf My phone at her request which had conversations and pictures of the women I sexted and dates. This was extremely upsetting to her, and she took my phone back with her on a return trip to the Midwest without my knowledge. She Went through all my conversations and humiliated me to the people we knew back in the Midwest. She did not talk to me for almost two months. Technically she stole my phone but I didn’t push the issue because I wanted to salvage our relationship. Her brother and sister-in-law helped her out during this time and she trusted them; she gave them my phone because it was too painful for her to keep (I had no knowledge of this). My sister-in-law comes from a Puritanical culture And went thru my phone and she was offended to see the kink sexting on my phone.Fast forward several months and my girlfriend took the plunge and moved in with me on the East Coast. My in-laws were extremely against this move and essentially cursed my 1-year old son and disowned my gf and my son for not following their advice to shun me. They also forbid their two children from having any contact with my girlfriend who is there Beloved aunt. It was a lot of work, but we married and three years later have three kids and a terrific life After our initial struggles. However the in-laws still have my phone, and have since shown the contents to my father-in-law and have tried to show my mother-in-law as well. They told her that they plan on showing their daughter (my niece in-law) when she has grown as well To justify Cutting off all contact with her aunt. We have had extremely limited contact with my brother-in-law and sister-in-law and I have Demanded my phone back twice to no response. I initially did not push the issue Because I didn’t want more drama in my wife and i’s fragile marriage... But now this is a huge source of drama when we visit family in the Midwest and angering to me. They made false accusations about me to famy members two months ago. There is absolutely nothing illegal on my phone, just kinky sexting and pictures that my in laws find offensive And I feel it is being held hostage because my in-laws look stupid now that my wife and I have a thriving family and they want to have something to justify their malevolent actions. What is on my phone is of zero business to them. Any advice on how I go about getting my phone back, as well as any legal repercussions I could take would be very appreciated. I consider my phone stolen by them, but I realize it’s not straight fwd because my wife took it from me and gave it to them. However, I do not know if this falls within the laws against “revenge porn” | eh1d3ml | eh2hqkj | 1,550,852,087 | 1,550,880,590 | 17 | 19 | I don't understand why you didn't remote wipe it | File a police report about the stolen phone. | 0 | 28,503 | 1.117647 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr221sf | dr224i2 | 1,512,943,594 | 1,512,943,674 | 18 | 134 | I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory. | Was she representing herself as a medical professional such as a physician or pharmacist? If so, you could report her to the state licensing board. Consult an attorney about suing her, but it’s not illegal to have stupid beliefs, and your family member probably bears most of the blame for listening to her. | 0 | 80 | 7.444444 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr221sf | dr22fb1 | 1,512,943,594 | 1,512,944,004 | 18 | 63 | I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory. | This is going to depend on how this lady represents herself. Is she calling herself a physician/medical practitioner/etc? Even the borderline quackery "health" sites out there selling this will tell a patient in the advanced stages of cancer to user established protocols. If she's promoting herself as any kind of authority that should be stopped. You could talk to your local authorities/your doctors about fraud. I'm going to guess his oncologist wouldn't guarantee that the tumor wouldn't ulcerate, which would make any damages difficult if not impossible to prove. | 0 | 410 | 3.5 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2i0qu | dr2lini | 1,512,961,711 | 1,512,966,115 | 36 | 53 | Best you can probably do is report her to the elders of her congregation and get her run out. | Report her to the FDA. She claimed something cured cancer: she held it out to be a drug (drug in the medication sense of the word). Then she sold it without the drug being licensed | 0 | 4,404 | 1.472222 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2lini | dr221sf | 1,512,966,115 | 1,512,943,594 | 53 | 18 | Report her to the FDA. She claimed something cured cancer: she held it out to be a drug (drug in the medication sense of the word). Then she sold it without the drug being licensed | I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory. | 1 | 22,521 | 2.944444 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2x74z | dr2i0qu | 1,512,990,551 | 1,512,961,711 | 39 | 36 | did she claim the tea treated his disease? that's a very big deal if she did, like decades in federal prison big. | Best you can probably do is report her to the elders of her congregation and get her run out. | 1 | 28,840 | 1.083333 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2i0qu | dr221sf | 1,512,961,711 | 1,512,943,594 | 36 | 18 | Best you can probably do is report her to the elders of her congregation and get her run out. | I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory. | 1 | 18,117 | 2 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr221sf | dr2x74z | 1,512,943,594 | 1,512,990,551 | 18 | 39 | I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory. | did she claim the tea treated his disease? that's a very big deal if she did, like decades in federal prison big. | 0 | 46,957 | 2.166667 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2x74z | dr2mn3e | 1,512,990,551 | 1,512,967,585 | 39 | 5 | did she claim the tea treated his disease? that's a very big deal if she did, like decades in federal prison big. | I am not a lawyer but what about wrongful death, does that work in this case? | 1 | 22,966 | 7.8 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2x74z | dr2nxfr | 1,512,990,551 | 1,512,969,307 | 39 | 4 | did she claim the tea treated his disease? that's a very big deal if she did, like decades in federal prison big. | Especially not in AZ a buyer beware state. | 1 | 21,244 | 9.75 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr37x31 | dr221sf | 1,513,007,646 | 1,512,943,594 | 19 | 18 | In my experience, these types of people are really, really good at getting you to believe they're selling you a cure for cancer without actually saying it. | I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, there isn't much that can be done now. Just focus on spending as much time with your loved one. As of right now, there are no damages. You can sue, but you can also throw your money into a fire. At least the fire would keep you warm. You can tell people that she convinced him and maybe the public opinion of her might change. Just be careful not to get into defamation territory. | 1 | 64,052 | 1.055556 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2mn3e | dr37x31 | 1,512,967,585 | 1,513,007,646 | 5 | 19 | I am not a lawyer but what about wrongful death, does that work in this case? | In my experience, these types of people are really, really good at getting you to believe they're selling you a cure for cancer without actually saying it. | 0 | 40,061 | 3.8 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2nxfr | dr37x31 | 1,512,969,307 | 1,513,007,646 | 4 | 19 | Especially not in AZ a buyer beware state. | In my experience, these types of people are really, really good at getting you to believe they're selling you a cure for cancer without actually saying it. | 0 | 38,339 | 4.75 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2mn3e | dr3ceig | 1,512,967,585 | 1,513,012,437 | 5 | 12 | I am not a lawyer but what about wrongful death, does that work in this case? | The people in his congregation might be interested in the full story and may also be able to offer you some support in these trying times. | 0 | 44,852 | 2.4 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2nxfr | dr3ceig | 1,512,969,307 | 1,513,012,437 | 4 | 12 | Especially not in AZ a buyer beware state. | The people in his congregation might be interested in the full story and may also be able to offer you some support in these trying times. | 0 | 43,130 | 3 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr462tj | dr2mn3e | 1,513,044,191 | 1,512,967,585 | 8 | 5 | I’d love to know what the lady has to say about her tea now...I hope someone in your family has the chance to ask her—perhaps they can shame her enough so that she doesn’t try to sell anyone else on her ‘cancer curing’ tea... | I am not a lawyer but what about wrongful death, does that work in this case? | 1 | 76,606 | 1.6 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr462tj | dr2nxfr | 1,513,044,191 | 1,512,969,307 | 8 | 4 | I’d love to know what the lady has to say about her tea now...I hope someone in your family has the chance to ask her—perhaps they can shame her enough so that she doesn’t try to sell anyone else on her ‘cancer curing’ tea... | Especially not in AZ a buyer beware state. | 1 | 74,884 | 2 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr462tj | dr3fpz3 | 1,513,044,191 | 1,513,015,794 | 8 | 2 | I’d love to know what the lady has to say about her tea now...I hope someone in your family has the chance to ask her—perhaps they can shame her enough so that she doesn’t try to sell anyone else on her ‘cancer curing’ tea... | She didn't do anything wrong unless she pretended to be a doctor by saying it. He made the choice to stop his chemo for the tea. I'm sorry but he's at fault here, she did not force him to drink the tea and stop his chemo. Blaming her will not make it go away. | 1 | 28,397 | 4 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr4ilbw | dr2mn3e | 1,513,059,768 | 1,512,967,585 | 7 | 5 | Do you have papers or emails from her? Can you get statements from others saying that she promised to cure cancer? Print out every email, and send a copy to youself. Find her website, see what it says. Do NOT toss out anything. Verbiage on these things is sooooo important. I am *pretty sure*, if memory of my time selling vitamins proves right, that you can sue. You need proof though. (I am FL based though.) Also, if nothing else, just... trying might help the entire family overcome this. I know this isn’t a lot- y’all have lost years, but this is something to seek justice on. And better to try and fail then to not. Best wishes. | I am not a lawyer but what about wrongful death, does that work in this case? | 1 | 92,183 | 1.4 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2nxfr | dr4ilbw | 1,512,969,307 | 1,513,059,768 | 4 | 7 | Especially not in AZ a buyer beware state. | Do you have papers or emails from her? Can you get statements from others saying that she promised to cure cancer? Print out every email, and send a copy to youself. Find her website, see what it says. Do NOT toss out anything. Verbiage on these things is sooooo important. I am *pretty sure*, if memory of my time selling vitamins proves right, that you can sue. You need proof though. (I am FL based though.) Also, if nothing else, just... trying might help the entire family overcome this. I know this isn’t a lot- y’all have lost years, but this is something to seek justice on. And better to try and fail then to not. Best wishes. | 0 | 90,461 | 1.75 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr4ilbw | dr3fpz3 | 1,513,059,768 | 1,513,015,794 | 7 | 2 | Do you have papers or emails from her? Can you get statements from others saying that she promised to cure cancer? Print out every email, and send a copy to youself. Find her website, see what it says. Do NOT toss out anything. Verbiage on these things is sooooo important. I am *pretty sure*, if memory of my time selling vitamins proves right, that you can sue. You need proof though. (I am FL based though.) Also, if nothing else, just... trying might help the entire family overcome this. I know this isn’t a lot- y’all have lost years, but this is something to seek justice on. And better to try and fail then to not. Best wishes. | She didn't do anything wrong unless she pretended to be a doctor by saying it. He made the choice to stop his chemo for the tea. I'm sorry but he's at fault here, she did not force him to drink the tea and stop his chemo. Blaming her will not make it go away. | 1 | 43,974 | 3.5 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dr2nxfr | dt6lp1j | 1,512,969,307 | 1,516,824,927 | 4 | 5 | Especially not in AZ a buyer beware state. | My aunt did this same thing. Had stomach cancer and decided to stop chemo and just drink the herbal tea instead. She died in a very short amount of time. | 0 | 3,855,620 | 1.25 |
7ix6mj | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | AZ - If someone sells my family member a tea that they claim cures cancer and he stops chemo and dies, can I report her to anyone? My family member is at the end stages of cancer. He had a great 5 year outlook with only 3 chemo treatments needed. This lady in his congregation convinced him that chemo was poison and has been selling him Essiac tea. Then his tumor fungated. Now he only has 2-6 months left and there is no treatment that can save him. Can I report her for his inevitable death? Though I'm petty positive we can't sue, some family members want to sue her, so I'll ask about that too. | dt6lp1j | dr3fpz3 | 1,516,824,927 | 1,513,015,794 | 5 | 2 | My aunt did this same thing. Had stomach cancer and decided to stop chemo and just drink the herbal tea instead. She died in a very short amount of time. | She didn't do anything wrong unless she pretended to be a doctor by saying it. He made the choice to stop his chemo for the tea. I'm sorry but he's at fault here, she did not force him to drink the tea and stop his chemo. Blaming her will not make it go away. | 1 | 3,809,133 | 2.5 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jzkb6 | h8jpcip | 1,628,701,550 | 1,628,697,245 | 1,141 | 763 | As a side note: if he sends you ANYTHING from the law office, especially on the lawyer's letterhead, be sure to contact the lawyer and let them know he is using their letterhead. If it's legit, they will be aware of it. If he is throwing his weight around, he probably will be unemployed shortly after. | He sounds like an idiot. "Estoppel" is one of those words that people who have just started learning about the law like to throw around, usually with a hilarious misunderstanding of what the word actually means. It's like when a high school student takes their first-ever logic class, and suddenly everything on Reddit is a straw man. Unless there's a lot more to the story, you're fine. If you're actually sued, which is unlikely, make sure you respond. EDIT: Estoppel and mens rea. I don't know what it is about those two but hopefully your ex will try to combine them both with "straw man" in an actual legal proceeding at some point. | 1 | 4,305 | 1.495413 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jzkb6 | h8jpo8k | 1,628,701,550 | 1,628,697,379 | 1,141 | 549 | As a side note: if he sends you ANYTHING from the law office, especially on the lawyer's letterhead, be sure to contact the lawyer and let them know he is using their letterhead. If it's legit, they will be aware of it. If he is throwing his weight around, he probably will be unemployed shortly after. | Let's assume for the moment that the guts of his position are: * You promised to be with him forever, * He reasonably relied on that promise, * You changed your mind, and * He has some kind of material losses. Those elements would make a viable promissory estoppel or detrimental reliance claim. However, it's _extremely_ unlikely that anything about your relationship would actually support that claim. Line by line: > You promised to be with him forever, The courts understand context, and a romantic promise like this is clearly not meant to be taken literally. Even if every other element is made out, you should not be bound to the literal meaning of words meant _and understood_ metaphorically. > He reasonably relied on that promise, In what way is it reasonable for someone to place reliance on their partner to never, ever change their mind about a relationship? Breakups are not an unforeseeable risk, and people break up after promising to be together all the time. His reliance on a promise not to break up would, in and of itself, almost certainly not be reasonable. Furthermore, in what way did he rely on it? We'll come back to that. > You changed your mind, and Well, that's actually true. > He has some kind of material losses. It's not at all clear from your post what way he could have reasonably relied on your promise that leads to any kind of material losses. Gifts given in furtherance of the relationship are gifts and he knew it; the costs of therapy if he's upset about your breakup are real but not based on reasonable reliance; the list goes on. If he had given you a conditional gift based on your promise - an engagement ring is a classic example - then that would be recoverable. Conditional gifts aren't magic, though, and he would have been expected to make the conditions clear and to allow you room to reject the gift. Gifts given freely, even if he expected that you'd stay with him, are not conditional on you actually doing so. In short: no, I don't think he can successfully sue you, unless there's something specific to this situation that suggests you did real harm and had no legal justification for it. There probably isn't. His employers may be unhappy to hear that he's using his job at a law firm to add weight to a petty interpersonal dispute. Beyond that, block and move on. In the unlikely event he actually sues, get a lawyer at that time, but don't sweat it until then. | 1 | 4,171 | 2.078324 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jzkb6 | h8jo08y | 1,628,701,550 | 1,628,696,690 | 1,141 | 103 | As a side note: if he sends you ANYTHING from the law office, especially on the lawyer's letterhead, be sure to contact the lawyer and let them know he is using their letterhead. If it's legit, they will be aware of it. If he is throwing his weight around, he probably will be unemployed shortly after. | Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship. | 1 | 4,860 | 11.07767 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jzkb6 | h8jnz0m | 1,628,701,550 | 1,628,696,675 | 1,141 | 68 | As a side note: if he sends you ANYTHING from the law office, especially on the lawyer's letterhead, be sure to contact the lawyer and let them know he is using their letterhead. If it's legit, they will be aware of it. If he is throwing his weight around, he probably will be unemployed shortly after. | Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story | 1 | 4,875 | 16.779412 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jpcip | h8jo08y | 1,628,697,245 | 1,628,696,690 | 763 | 103 | He sounds like an idiot. "Estoppel" is one of those words that people who have just started learning about the law like to throw around, usually with a hilarious misunderstanding of what the word actually means. It's like when a high school student takes their first-ever logic class, and suddenly everything on Reddit is a straw man. Unless there's a lot more to the story, you're fine. If you're actually sued, which is unlikely, make sure you respond. EDIT: Estoppel and mens rea. I don't know what it is about those two but hopefully your ex will try to combine them both with "straw man" in an actual legal proceeding at some point. | Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship. | 1 | 555 | 7.407767 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jpcip | h8jnz0m | 1,628,697,245 | 1,628,696,675 | 763 | 68 | He sounds like an idiot. "Estoppel" is one of those words that people who have just started learning about the law like to throw around, usually with a hilarious misunderstanding of what the word actually means. It's like when a high school student takes their first-ever logic class, and suddenly everything on Reddit is a straw man. Unless there's a lot more to the story, you're fine. If you're actually sued, which is unlikely, make sure you respond. EDIT: Estoppel and mens rea. I don't know what it is about those two but hopefully your ex will try to combine them both with "straw man" in an actual legal proceeding at some point. | Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story | 1 | 570 | 11.220588 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jpo8k | h8jo08y | 1,628,697,379 | 1,628,696,690 | 549 | 103 | Let's assume for the moment that the guts of his position are: * You promised to be with him forever, * He reasonably relied on that promise, * You changed your mind, and * He has some kind of material losses. Those elements would make a viable promissory estoppel or detrimental reliance claim. However, it's _extremely_ unlikely that anything about your relationship would actually support that claim. Line by line: > You promised to be with him forever, The courts understand context, and a romantic promise like this is clearly not meant to be taken literally. Even if every other element is made out, you should not be bound to the literal meaning of words meant _and understood_ metaphorically. > He reasonably relied on that promise, In what way is it reasonable for someone to place reliance on their partner to never, ever change their mind about a relationship? Breakups are not an unforeseeable risk, and people break up after promising to be together all the time. His reliance on a promise not to break up would, in and of itself, almost certainly not be reasonable. Furthermore, in what way did he rely on it? We'll come back to that. > You changed your mind, and Well, that's actually true. > He has some kind of material losses. It's not at all clear from your post what way he could have reasonably relied on your promise that leads to any kind of material losses. Gifts given in furtherance of the relationship are gifts and he knew it; the costs of therapy if he's upset about your breakup are real but not based on reasonable reliance; the list goes on. If he had given you a conditional gift based on your promise - an engagement ring is a classic example - then that would be recoverable. Conditional gifts aren't magic, though, and he would have been expected to make the conditions clear and to allow you room to reject the gift. Gifts given freely, even if he expected that you'd stay with him, are not conditional on you actually doing so. In short: no, I don't think he can successfully sue you, unless there's something specific to this situation that suggests you did real harm and had no legal justification for it. There probably isn't. His employers may be unhappy to hear that he's using his job at a law firm to add weight to a petty interpersonal dispute. Beyond that, block and move on. In the unlikely event he actually sues, get a lawyer at that time, but don't sweat it until then. | Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship. | 1 | 689 | 5.330097 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jnz0m | h8jpo8k | 1,628,696,675 | 1,628,697,379 | 68 | 549 | Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story | Let's assume for the moment that the guts of his position are: * You promised to be with him forever, * He reasonably relied on that promise, * You changed your mind, and * He has some kind of material losses. Those elements would make a viable promissory estoppel or detrimental reliance claim. However, it's _extremely_ unlikely that anything about your relationship would actually support that claim. Line by line: > You promised to be with him forever, The courts understand context, and a romantic promise like this is clearly not meant to be taken literally. Even if every other element is made out, you should not be bound to the literal meaning of words meant _and understood_ metaphorically. > He reasonably relied on that promise, In what way is it reasonable for someone to place reliance on their partner to never, ever change their mind about a relationship? Breakups are not an unforeseeable risk, and people break up after promising to be together all the time. His reliance on a promise not to break up would, in and of itself, almost certainly not be reasonable. Furthermore, in what way did he rely on it? We'll come back to that. > You changed your mind, and Well, that's actually true. > He has some kind of material losses. It's not at all clear from your post what way he could have reasonably relied on your promise that leads to any kind of material losses. Gifts given in furtherance of the relationship are gifts and he knew it; the costs of therapy if he's upset about your breakup are real but not based on reasonable reliance; the list goes on. If he had given you a conditional gift based on your promise - an engagement ring is a classic example - then that would be recoverable. Conditional gifts aren't magic, though, and he would have been expected to make the conditions clear and to allow you room to reject the gift. Gifts given freely, even if he expected that you'd stay with him, are not conditional on you actually doing so. In short: no, I don't think he can successfully sue you, unless there's something specific to this situation that suggests you did real harm and had no legal justification for it. There probably isn't. His employers may be unhappy to hear that he's using his job at a law firm to add weight to a petty interpersonal dispute. Beyond that, block and move on. In the unlikely event he actually sues, get a lawyer at that time, but don't sweat it until then. | 0 | 704 | 8.073529 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8k7irt | h8jo08y | 1,628,704,960 | 1,628,696,690 | 248 | 103 | You have some good responses on estoppel and why that's nonsense in this situation, but I don't see anyone recommending that you get a protective order. This does not involve the police and you do not have to have a lawyer (although some may volunteer to help you). There is extensive information here: https://www.sdcourt.ca.gov/sdcourt/familyandchildren2/domesticviolence That is often the starting point before police are involved. Stalking or harassments can be a difficult case to investigate and prosecute as a crime right out of the gate. However, violating a protective order is a crime and the police absolutely should act more decisively to that crime. | Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship. | 1 | 8,270 | 2.407767 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8k7irt | h8jnz0m | 1,628,704,960 | 1,628,696,675 | 248 | 68 | You have some good responses on estoppel and why that's nonsense in this situation, but I don't see anyone recommending that you get a protective order. This does not involve the police and you do not have to have a lawyer (although some may volunteer to help you). There is extensive information here: https://www.sdcourt.ca.gov/sdcourt/familyandchildren2/domesticviolence That is often the starting point before police are involved. Stalking or harassments can be a difficult case to investigate and prosecute as a crime right out of the gate. However, violating a protective order is a crime and the police absolutely should act more decisively to that crime. | Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story | 1 | 8,285 | 3.647059 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8l6hsi | h8jo08y | 1,628,719,409 | 1,628,696,690 | 159 | 103 | Self Help page for San Diego County Retraining orders: https://www.sdcourt.ca.gov/sdcourt/civil2/civilrestrainingorder Depending on facts, a domestic violence restraining order may be appropriate: https://www.sdcourt.ca.gov/sdcourt/familyandchildren2/domesticviolence | Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship. | 1 | 22,719 | 1.543689 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8l6hsi | h8jnz0m | 1,628,719,409 | 1,628,696,675 | 159 | 68 | Self Help page for San Diego County Retraining orders: https://www.sdcourt.ca.gov/sdcourt/civil2/civilrestrainingorder Depending on facts, a domestic violence restraining order may be appropriate: https://www.sdcourt.ca.gov/sdcourt/familyandchildren2/domesticviolence | Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story | 1 | 22,734 | 2.338235 |
p2fiq2 | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Ex boyfriend is threatening to sue me for breaking up. He keeps throwing around "ESTOPPEL". He also works in a law office. This is in San Diego. I know you can practically sue anyone for any reason, but what can this actually turn into, am I going to be dragged into court for ending a bad relationship? | h8jo08y | h8jnz0m | 1,628,696,690 | 1,628,696,675 | 103 | 68 | Only if he no longer values his pride or his job. He has no legal method to force you to stay in a relationship. | Can't be successfully sued for just breaking up. Make sure you show up/respond though if he tries If there's some financial obligation involved (rent, car lease, etc), that's potentially a different story | 1 | 15 | 1.514706 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htaddhe | htaaixe | 1,642,574,345 | 1,642,572,542 | 4,681 | 562 | The applicable South Carolina statutory rape laws would only apply if the accused is over 18 and the victim is under 16. That has never been and never will be the case in your relationship, so you do not need to prove that you’ve never had sexual contact. (Incidentally, there does not need to be penetration for there to be illegal sexual contact, if the 16-18 gap exists.) Your mom has no leverage over your boyfriend. On the other hand, it sounds like she does have leverage over you and your studies, so bear that in mind when dealing with her. You might share this threat with a guidance counselor at school so they could help you push back on any decision that would negatively affect your extracurriculars. | I don’t see how he could be charged with statutory when nothing happened until you were the age of consent in your state (16). She might try to claim it happened earlier, but what proof would she have? | 1 | 1,803 | 8.329181 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htakmct | htaf4sr | 1,642,579,476 | 1,642,575,532 | 3,335 | 857 | As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info | SC cop. This is not a crime. | 1 | 3,944 | 3.891482 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htakmct | htaaixe | 1,642,579,476 | 1,642,572,542 | 3,335 | 562 | As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info | I don’t see how he could be charged with statutory when nothing happened until you were the age of consent in your state (16). She might try to claim it happened earlier, but what proof would she have? | 1 | 6,934 | 5.934164 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htafi4l | htakmct | 1,642,575,789 | 1,642,579,476 | 75 | 3,335 | Consider the evidence here - it's one person making claims of wrongdoing. Think about her reliability and credibility from the perspective of police, DA, jury, etc. The main danger here is she reports something and gets the authorities involved long enough that they question you/bf and you somehow accidentally incriminate yourselves. If it gets to the point of the police questioning anyone just make sure you/he exercise your right to remain silent and right to an attorney - do not answer questions and do not speak except to insist upon your right to an attorney. Have that plan in mind "just in case" - the way this turns into something it shouldn't is if you/he get talkative with the authorities and say something that can be construed as incriminating. This applies even if it's "just a friendly chat to clear something up/help with an investigation" - not saying the police are bad people, but the common phrase is "anything you say can/will be used AGAINST you in a court of law" - things you say to the police can be used against you even if you don't know how at the time. | As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info | 0 | 3,687 | 44.466667 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htahenp | htakmct | 1,642,577,115 | 1,642,579,476 | 51 | 3,335 | You're over the age of consent. | As your question has been answered I wanted to add another thing I wouldn’t have thought about at your age. With a mother like yours, get your legal documents away from her. She can make your life a lot harder when she’s in possession of your passport, social security and birth certificate. So if you have a way to get those in your hands do it and keep them safe with a friend or family that doesn’t support your mom. Once you are 18, get a bank account (at a different bank) that has only you registered as owner. Freeze your credit so she can’t take out any loans on your name. That’s pretty much it to take most tools away from her that she could use to make you miserable. Edit: Edited and added some more info | 0 | 2,361 | 65.392157 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htaf4sr | htaaixe | 1,642,575,532 | 1,642,572,542 | 857 | 562 | SC cop. This is not a crime. | I don’t see how he could be charged with statutory when nothing happened until you were the age of consent in your state (16). She might try to claim it happened earlier, but what proof would she have? | 1 | 2,990 | 1.524911 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htafi4l | htb5pvt | 1,642,575,789 | 1,642,595,165 | 75 | 277 | Consider the evidence here - it's one person making claims of wrongdoing. Think about her reliability and credibility from the perspective of police, DA, jury, etc. The main danger here is she reports something and gets the authorities involved long enough that they question you/bf and you somehow accidentally incriminate yourselves. If it gets to the point of the police questioning anyone just make sure you/he exercise your right to remain silent and right to an attorney - do not answer questions and do not speak except to insist upon your right to an attorney. Have that plan in mind "just in case" - the way this turns into something it shouldn't is if you/he get talkative with the authorities and say something that can be construed as incriminating. This applies even if it's "just a friendly chat to clear something up/help with an investigation" - not saying the police are bad people, but the common phrase is "anything you say can/will be used AGAINST you in a court of law" - things you say to the police can be used against you even if you don't know how at the time. | 16 is the legal age of consent. You didn't have sex until then, there are no charges to be brought. It's not as if this is an adult man preying on a teenager...in that case I'd see things very differently! This is two teenagers with a small age gap, totally normal and fine. | 0 | 19,376 | 3.693333 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htb5pvt | htahenp | 1,642,595,165 | 1,642,577,115 | 277 | 51 | 16 is the legal age of consent. You didn't have sex until then, there are no charges to be brought. It's not as if this is an adult man preying on a teenager...in that case I'd see things very differently! This is two teenagers with a small age gap, totally normal and fine. | You're over the age of consent. | 1 | 18,050 | 5.431373 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htb9okh | htafi4l | 1,642,597,407 | 1,642,575,789 | 132 | 75 | I don't see anyone else mentioning this, but you may be able to get emancipated or have your aunt take over legal guardianship. Especially if you have proof of abuse (including threatening texts) and if you have been living with your aunt (without your mom in the house) for a long time. You can contact CPS or social services for assistance. | Consider the evidence here - it's one person making claims of wrongdoing. Think about her reliability and credibility from the perspective of police, DA, jury, etc. The main danger here is she reports something and gets the authorities involved long enough that they question you/bf and you somehow accidentally incriminate yourselves. If it gets to the point of the police questioning anyone just make sure you/he exercise your right to remain silent and right to an attorney - do not answer questions and do not speak except to insist upon your right to an attorney. Have that plan in mind "just in case" - the way this turns into something it shouldn't is if you/he get talkative with the authorities and say something that can be construed as incriminating. This applies even if it's "just a friendly chat to clear something up/help with an investigation" - not saying the police are bad people, but the common phrase is "anything you say can/will be used AGAINST you in a court of law" - things you say to the police can be used against you even if you don't know how at the time. | 1 | 21,618 | 1.76 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htahenp | htb9okh | 1,642,577,115 | 1,642,597,407 | 51 | 132 | You're over the age of consent. | I don't see anyone else mentioning this, but you may be able to get emancipated or have your aunt take over legal guardianship. Especially if you have proof of abuse (including threatening texts) and if you have been living with your aunt (without your mom in the house) for a long time. You can contact CPS or social services for assistance. | 0 | 20,292 | 2.588235 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htb7l8s | htb9okh | 1,642,596,249 | 1,642,597,407 | 38 | 132 | Romeo and Juliet law applies here, if you were together before he become major and your age difference isn't more than 3 years than there is nothing illegal . | I don't see anyone else mentioning this, but you may be able to get emancipated or have your aunt take over legal guardianship. Especially if you have proof of abuse (including threatening texts) and if you have been living with your aunt (without your mom in the house) for a long time. You can contact CPS or social services for assistance. | 0 | 1,158 | 3.473684 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htbqisy | htafi4l | 1,642,605,090 | 1,642,575,789 | 80 | 75 | Those ages don’t qualify for statutory rape. You should get away from your mom as soon as you can, this is abusive and she needs medical help, and ruining you on the process isn’t your burden to bear. | Consider the evidence here - it's one person making claims of wrongdoing. Think about her reliability and credibility from the perspective of police, DA, jury, etc. The main danger here is she reports something and gets the authorities involved long enough that they question you/bf and you somehow accidentally incriminate yourselves. If it gets to the point of the police questioning anyone just make sure you/he exercise your right to remain silent and right to an attorney - do not answer questions and do not speak except to insist upon your right to an attorney. Have that plan in mind "just in case" - the way this turns into something it shouldn't is if you/he get talkative with the authorities and say something that can be construed as incriminating. This applies even if it's "just a friendly chat to clear something up/help with an investigation" - not saying the police are bad people, but the common phrase is "anything you say can/will be used AGAINST you in a court of law" - things you say to the police can be used against you even if you don't know how at the time. | 1 | 29,301 | 1.066667 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htahenp | htbqisy | 1,642,577,115 | 1,642,605,090 | 51 | 80 | You're over the age of consent. | Those ages don’t qualify for statutory rape. You should get away from your mom as soon as you can, this is abusive and she needs medical help, and ruining you on the process isn’t your burden to bear. | 0 | 27,975 | 1.568627 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htb7l8s | htbqisy | 1,642,596,249 | 1,642,605,090 | 38 | 80 | Romeo and Juliet law applies here, if you were together before he become major and your age difference isn't more than 3 years than there is nothing illegal . | Those ages don’t qualify for statutory rape. You should get away from your mom as soon as you can, this is abusive and she needs medical help, and ruining you on the process isn’t your burden to bear. | 0 | 8,841 | 2.105263 |
s7ixud | legaladvice_train | 0.96 | My mom is threatening to have my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. Please help me I’m begging My boyfriend and I will have been together for 3 years this year. We started dating when we were 14 and 15. We’re about to graduate and we’re going to attend the same college. He’s a great person and he’s so freaking smart. He has a solid 4.0 GPA and he wants to be a scientist. My mom can be great. We all usually get along but my mom was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and she goes from being happy to evil overnight. She swears she loves him like a son and she knows he’ll be turning 18 next month( February 18) but I won’t turn 17 until May 24 and she’s been using that to her advantage recently. I don’t live with my mom bc she decided to move an hour away to be closer to her secret boyfriend so I live with my aunt. So now that I’ve given you the backstory, I’ll bring you to today. My grandpa let me use his car after I got my license bc he can’t drive. Today, he told my mom he needed to be at his doctor which is two hours from where I live but only one hour from where she lives. She was blowing up my phone today saying I needed to come get him bc his appointments are my responsibility not hers and that i needed to get him tonight and have him stay at my aunts house . I never said I wasn’t going to get him, I just wasn’t going to get him to stay the night because there is no where for him to sleep. She completely spazzed and called my aunt, she told my aunt that if I didn’t do everything she wants until I turn 18, she’ll make sure I have a terrible life. She threatened to take me out of sports and band so that I couldn’t get a college scholarship and she threatened to get my boyfriend arrested for statutory rape. We have so much ahead of us. We want a life together. We’re about to graduate. We didn’t even have sex until I turned 16 which is the legal age of consent in South Carolina (where I live). I just want to know, can he actually be arrested for statutory rape and what can I do to make sure she doesn’t legally hurt him? | htbqisy | htbmj0u | 1,642,605,090 | 1,642,603,444 | 80 | 23 | Those ages don’t qualify for statutory rape. You should get away from your mom as soon as you can, this is abusive and she needs medical help, and ruining you on the process isn’t your burden to bear. | What does your aunt say? | 1 | 1,646 | 3.478261 |
v786hv | legaladvice_train | 0.78 | when is a cat considered legally mine in Cincinnati, OH? boyfriends x wife asked us to watch for a couple weeks but months later still hasn't taken it back, he's part of our family now but after a recent argument she's threatening to take him back where he'll be in a cage 24 hrs of the day.. | ibjnyp8 | ibjc69d | 1,654,644,139 | 1,654,638,249 | 12 | 8 | Pets are considered personal property in Ohio. You may wish to check the laws around abandonment of personal property in Ohio online in which they may specify a time period before property is actually abandoned. Furthermore if the owner did not come forward for some time and makes a claim, there may be a clause whereby they have to provide justification for not coming forward sooner - which in this case is unlikely. In theory, she may be able to sue you in small claims court for the cost of the cat, but this is unlikely to happen in practice. Presumably it’s an ordinary cat so it’s not worth very much. However, you have paid for the maintenance of this cat for several months without any notice of when she would pick it up. In good faith you have cared for the cat. Presumably she has not contributed to the cost nor expressed any interest in reclaiming the cat until now. If I were in your situation I would tell her that if she attempts to reclaim the cat, you have conveniently itemized the costs from the last several months - food, litter, vets, medicines. She is welcome to reimburse you in full in return for the cat. | Check with your local animal shelter. In a lot of places you can put the animal in a shelter and if the owner doesn't reclaim it within a certain amount of time ~5 days to 2 weeks, it's an abandoned animal that can be adopted. I've heard of some shelters letting you foster the animal at home during the waiting period. | 1 | 5,890 | 1.5 |
939lzs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice? | e3bmkzs | e3bqfqj | 1,532,996,485 | 1,533,000,348 | 2 | 140 | ---
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939lzs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice? | e3btbsf | e3bmkzs | 1,533,003,268 | 1,532,996,485 | 67 | 2 | Tell them to fuck off, if they send it to collections then ask for proof of the debt. | ---
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939lzs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice? | e3c3c58 | e3c250j | 1,533,014,888 | 1,533,013,175 | 38 | 4 | Did you actually cancel your service previously? As in you sent them the contractually required written notice to cancel at the end of your original term? Did you notice that the original contract you signed with Monitronics has an automatic renewal for 3 more years unless you cancel by x time? Do you live in one of the 40+ states that allow the enforcement of automatic renewals in contracts? | You don't state your location, but if you are in a one party consent state, record your phone call with them | 1 | 1,713 | 9.5 |
939lzs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice? | e3bmkzs | e3c3c58 | 1,532,996,485 | 1,533,014,888 | 2 | 38 | ---
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> Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. > > So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. > > I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. > > 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. > > How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” > > I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. > > Any advice? >
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939lzs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice? | e3c250j | e3cys01 | 1,533,013,175 | 1,533,056,015 | 4 | 21 | You don't state your location, but if you are in a one party consent state, record your phone call with them | I had a similar issue with Honeywell. Must be their “customer for life” policy. For life, they never let you cancel. I sent a letter to the president of the company telling them the date of cancellation. | 0 | 42,840 | 5.25 |
939lzs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice? | e3cys01 | e3bmkzs | 1,533,056,015 | 1,532,996,485 | 21 | 2 | I had a similar issue with Honeywell. Must be their “customer for life” policy. For life, they never let you cancel. I sent a letter to the president of the company telling them the date of cancellation. | ---
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> Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. > > So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. > > I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. > > 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. > > How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” > > I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. > > Any advice? >
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939lzs | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Brinks Home Security Refuses to Let Me Cancel and Keeps Billing Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. Any advice? | e3c250j | e3bmkzs | 1,533,013,175 | 1,532,996,485 | 4 | 2 | You don't state your location, but if you are in a one party consent state, record your phone call with them | ---
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> Not sure if this is better suited for personal finance or here. > > So I bought a house like 5ish years ago and got an alarm service through Monotronics. 2 or 3 year contract, good throughout. After 4 years and out of contract I swap to another home security my buddy works for and cancel. We also moved to a new address during the home security swap. > > I get a letter last year saying Brinks bought Monotronics and now we they are covering our home, I think it’s an automated letter and doesn’t apply to me since I canceled and toss it. > > 6 months later I get a bill for 3 months from Brinks for the old address. I call and they won’t let me cancel unless I sign something saying I’m responsible for the past due 3 months, if I don’t sign they keep billing until it’s sent to collections. It’s only $180 but still really seems screwed up. > > How the heck can I get them to cancel my service and stop billing me without signing that paperwork, I’m not responsible for the charges, it’s a legit mistake so I’m not signing anything that says I’m on the hook for it. Not to mention I told that very thing to the Brinks rep and was told the paperwork was only for cancelation and not applicable for any obligation to past due charges, and the FIRST sentence in the small text on the bottom says “By signing this you acknowledge you are responsible for past due charges.” > > I don’t really want to pay a lawyer $1k to handle a $180 dollar mistake but I really don’t want to give these guys any money because the situation is legitimately scammy. > > Any advice? >
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6ivhvi | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Airline cancelled last leg of flight. Then incurred a large amount of costs just get home. Can I sue? Hello all, Asking this for a friend. Please bear with me. So my friend is a recent grad, just married and has a business trip early for a class in Orlando. He flew with American on the way home with a layover in Charlotte, NC. Once there, they end up sitting in the plane waiting to take off for the last leg for 3 hours and end up not taking off because American can't pay for the pilots' time anymore. So they literally all get off the plane because the flight is now cancelled and wait in line to speak to the 1 rep they have on at 1am in the now nearly deserted airport. He finally reaches the front of the line and the person tells him he can take a ride over to Raleigh, NC (2 and a half hour drive) and take a plane from there to D.C., and then to home (30 minute layover, rep promises it's enough time... you can tell right where this is going. Also says you can go online to get reimbursed by the airline). He goes to rent a car. Rental agencies aren't doing anymore 1-way rentals because they're low on cars. He ends up buying a taxi ride, a $300 upfront cost, to get to Raleigh. He gets there at 4am and buys his plane ticket there for $X hundreds (rep again promises it's enough of a layover), I think that was around $250 or so. Once he gets to D.C., he's held at the gate and watches his next flight take off for home. Jumps back in line to speak to another rep. All flights from there back to home were booked, including the ones to surrounding airports. They offered him to be the 5th in line of standby which he knew he wouldn't make it to. So from D.C., he rents a 1-way to drive all the way home, a 6 hour car ride, for $275. Then he tells me he had to pay for it all out of pocket and the airline told him they could only refund the unfinished leg of the trip, not the extra costs that he made to get home. So he's out just over $800 plus the time and whatnot he wasted (and a day of work he was forced to miss). Is there any sort of recourse that he has here? Small claims court? He said he was just going to eat the cost and I thought that was a little bit absurd. I thought I saw someone post here within the last couple weeks about a similar situation but I can't seem to find it so I apologize if this is very similar. Just trying to help my friend. Thank you for reading, I appreciate your time. | dj9nb00 | dj9dn82 | 1,498,166,588 | 1,498,156,841 | 191 | 40 | He is screwed. He rushed home solely because he missed his wife and wanted to enjoy his day off, as you said. He did not have to go to such lengths, sometimes you gotta wait it out in the airport. Or hotel. And the airline will pay. They said they would take care of him getting home. Not "do whatever it takes, it is on us" | >end up not taking off because American can't pay for the pilots' time anymore. How did you come to this conclusion? | 1 | 9,747 | 4.775 |
6ivhvi | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Airline cancelled last leg of flight. Then incurred a large amount of costs just get home. Can I sue? Hello all, Asking this for a friend. Please bear with me. So my friend is a recent grad, just married and has a business trip early for a class in Orlando. He flew with American on the way home with a layover in Charlotte, NC. Once there, they end up sitting in the plane waiting to take off for the last leg for 3 hours and end up not taking off because American can't pay for the pilots' time anymore. So they literally all get off the plane because the flight is now cancelled and wait in line to speak to the 1 rep they have on at 1am in the now nearly deserted airport. He finally reaches the front of the line and the person tells him he can take a ride over to Raleigh, NC (2 and a half hour drive) and take a plane from there to D.C., and then to home (30 minute layover, rep promises it's enough time... you can tell right where this is going. Also says you can go online to get reimbursed by the airline). He goes to rent a car. Rental agencies aren't doing anymore 1-way rentals because they're low on cars. He ends up buying a taxi ride, a $300 upfront cost, to get to Raleigh. He gets there at 4am and buys his plane ticket there for $X hundreds (rep again promises it's enough of a layover), I think that was around $250 or so. Once he gets to D.C., he's held at the gate and watches his next flight take off for home. Jumps back in line to speak to another rep. All flights from there back to home were booked, including the ones to surrounding airports. They offered him to be the 5th in line of standby which he knew he wouldn't make it to. So from D.C., he rents a 1-way to drive all the way home, a 6 hour car ride, for $275. Then he tells me he had to pay for it all out of pocket and the airline told him they could only refund the unfinished leg of the trip, not the extra costs that he made to get home. So he's out just over $800 plus the time and whatnot he wasted (and a day of work he was forced to miss). Is there any sort of recourse that he has here? Small claims court? He said he was just going to eat the cost and I thought that was a little bit absurd. I thought I saw someone post here within the last couple weeks about a similar situation but I can't seem to find it so I apologize if this is very similar. Just trying to help my friend. Thank you for reading, I appreciate your time. | dj9m1bb | dj9nb00 | 1,498,165,213 | 1,498,166,588 | 42 | 191 | If the airline cancels the flight they are responsible for getting him to his final destination and for putting him up for the night if necessary. Not sure your friend should have done what he did. | He is screwed. He rushed home solely because he missed his wife and wanted to enjoy his day off, as you said. He did not have to go to such lengths, sometimes you gotta wait it out in the airport. Or hotel. And the airline will pay. They said they would take care of him getting home. Not "do whatever it takes, it is on us" | 0 | 1,375 | 4.547619 |
6ivhvi | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | Airline cancelled last leg of flight. Then incurred a large amount of costs just get home. Can I sue? Hello all, Asking this for a friend. Please bear with me. So my friend is a recent grad, just married and has a business trip early for a class in Orlando. He flew with American on the way home with a layover in Charlotte, NC. Once there, they end up sitting in the plane waiting to take off for the last leg for 3 hours and end up not taking off because American can't pay for the pilots' time anymore. So they literally all get off the plane because the flight is now cancelled and wait in line to speak to the 1 rep they have on at 1am in the now nearly deserted airport. He finally reaches the front of the line and the person tells him he can take a ride over to Raleigh, NC (2 and a half hour drive) and take a plane from there to D.C., and then to home (30 minute layover, rep promises it's enough time... you can tell right where this is going. Also says you can go online to get reimbursed by the airline). He goes to rent a car. Rental agencies aren't doing anymore 1-way rentals because they're low on cars. He ends up buying a taxi ride, a $300 upfront cost, to get to Raleigh. He gets there at 4am and buys his plane ticket there for $X hundreds (rep again promises it's enough of a layover), I think that was around $250 or so. Once he gets to D.C., he's held at the gate and watches his next flight take off for home. Jumps back in line to speak to another rep. All flights from there back to home were booked, including the ones to surrounding airports. They offered him to be the 5th in line of standby which he knew he wouldn't make it to. So from D.C., he rents a 1-way to drive all the way home, a 6 hour car ride, for $275. Then he tells me he had to pay for it all out of pocket and the airline told him they could only refund the unfinished leg of the trip, not the extra costs that he made to get home. So he's out just over $800 plus the time and whatnot he wasted (and a day of work he was forced to miss). Is there any sort of recourse that he has here? Small claims court? He said he was just going to eat the cost and I thought that was a little bit absurd. I thought I saw someone post here within the last couple weeks about a similar situation but I can't seem to find it so I apologize if this is very similar. Just trying to help my friend. Thank you for reading, I appreciate your time. | dj9dn82 | dj9m1bb | 1,498,156,841 | 1,498,165,213 | 40 | 42 | >end up not taking off because American can't pay for the pilots' time anymore. How did you come to this conclusion? | If the airline cancels the flight they are responsible for getting him to his final destination and for putting him up for the night if necessary. Not sure your friend should have done what he did. | 0 | 8,372 | 1.05 |
ad0jrg | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Virginia - I purchased a house with a home security system, and the company that installed it will not tell me where a malfunctioning loudspeaker was installed. Fairfax, Virginia I purchased a home 5 years ago. Home came installed with a nationally known company's wireless home security system. I did not, nor do I ever want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? | edcjc9e | edcfy5r | 1,546,739,953 | 1,546,737,514 | 241 | 132 | Generally they look like doorbell speakers, or are hidden in your attic. Check out there, and look up the company’s equipment on google. | >What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? None whatsoever. You are not, nor were you ever one of their customer, so they have no obligation towards you. | 1 | 2,439 | 1.825758 |
ad0jrg | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Virginia - I purchased a house with a home security system, and the company that installed it will not tell me where a malfunctioning loudspeaker was installed. Fairfax, Virginia I purchased a home 5 years ago. Home came installed with a nationally known company's wireless home security system. I did not, nor do I ever want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? | edcfy5r | edd4ibj | 1,546,737,514 | 1,546,756,216 | 132 | 193 | >What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? None whatsoever. You are not, nor were you ever one of their customer, so they have no obligation towards you. | Used to be an alarm technician. Check in your cold air returns; we used to put them in there sometimes. Can't say I've ever dealt with a self-powered siren. It could be in your soffits. Edit: Ha! Cold air return it was! | 0 | 18,702 | 1.462121 |
ad0jrg | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Virginia - I purchased a house with a home security system, and the company that installed it will not tell me where a malfunctioning loudspeaker was installed. Fairfax, Virginia I purchased a home 5 years ago. Home came installed with a nationally known company's wireless home security system. I did not, nor do I ever want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? | edd4ibj | edcy81h | 1,546,756,216 | 1,546,750,505 | 193 | 36 | Used to be an alarm technician. Check in your cold air returns; we used to put them in there sometimes. Can't say I've ever dealt with a self-powered siren. It could be in your soffits. Edit: Ha! Cold air return it was! | You can't make them help you since you have no contract with them. You could call back, hope for a different person and turn on the charm to see if they'll tell you what they know. Otherwise, a couple hundred dollars is a drop in the bucket when you're moving into a house. Just hold your nose and pay them. | 1 | 5,711 | 5.361111 |
ad0jrg | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Virginia - I purchased a house with a home security system, and the company that installed it will not tell me where a malfunctioning loudspeaker was installed. Fairfax, Virginia I purchased a home 5 years ago. Home came installed with a nationally known company's wireless home security system. I did not, nor do I ever want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? | edcy81h | eddcfh4 | 1,546,750,505 | 1,546,765,234 | 36 | 63 | You can't make them help you since you have no contract with them. You could call back, hope for a different person and turn on the charm to see if they'll tell you what they know. Otherwise, a couple hundred dollars is a drop in the bucket when you're moving into a house. Just hold your nose and pay them. | I currently work for a small local alarm company in a different state. The location of the speakers, and any notes they may have on the *previous homeowner's* account (read as others have said, not yours) are the intellectual property of that alarm company. They have no obligation to you. On a much more serious note. They also will not take on the responsibility of walking a potential burglar through disabling a security system over the phone, when your name does not match the address in their computer systems. If you are nice, they may have a procedure to have a police officer come out to verify you are the legal resident of the home. They are still under no obligation to help you after doing this. | 0 | 14,729 | 1.75 |
ad0jrg | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Virginia - I purchased a house with a home security system, and the company that installed it will not tell me where a malfunctioning loudspeaker was installed. Fairfax, Virginia I purchased a home 5 years ago. Home came installed with a nationally known company's wireless home security system. I did not, nor do I ever want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? | edddqb6 | edds9us | 1,546,766,654 | 1,546,782,728 | 6 | 10 | I dont know why.....but I'm getting Vietnam flashbacks go working as a phone operator for Vivint last year.... If it is this company that was installed in the house I might be able to give some ideas on what is making the noise. | Look in any exposed support beams in your basement as well. One of ours is attached there and strangely hard to see unless you know what you are looking for. Also, definitely the attic. 15 years ago wireless systems were not yet super popular. There's probably a wire to follow somewhere. Another option would be to call a locally owned company and see what their service call fee would be to find it. | 0 | 16,074 | 1.666667 |
ad0jrg | legaladvice_train | 0.98 | Virginia - I purchased a house with a home security system, and the company that installed it will not tell me where a malfunctioning loudspeaker was installed. Fairfax, Virginia I purchased a home 5 years ago. Home came installed with a nationally known company's wireless home security system. I did not, nor do I ever want a home security system. At the time of purcahse the home security system was well over 15 years old according to the previous homeowner. After the home purchase was complete, that week, I removed all door and window sensors, as well as (what I think was) the main control panel, its little power supply, and the telephone back up connection. There is no where else in the house that even begins to resemble anything related to a home security system. Well apparently, somewhere in this 4,000 square foot house, there are two hidden loudspeakers that are hard wired to the house's power as well as having small, "long lasting" back up batteries. From what I can tell, at least one of the speakers is malfunctioning and making a seemingly random alarm noise for a few seconds, a few times per week. Apparently it has to do with a dying battery. I called the home security company, and after numerous conversations, they have confirmed that they likely know (based off some installer notes in the previous homeowners account) where the two loudspeakers are located, but they are refusing to tell me where they are located. The conversation typically turns to them trying to sell me a more modern system. They also said that they could send out an installer technician for a few hundred bucks to "discretely and safely remove the loudspeakers," but again, refuse to just read back the installer notes. I just want to know where these loudspeakers are. What are my options here to forcefully compel these assholes to tell me what the notes on the home's account say? | edds9us | eddeksf | 1,546,782,728 | 1,546,767,740 | 10 | 4 | Look in any exposed support beams in your basement as well. One of ours is attached there and strangely hard to see unless you know what you are looking for. Also, definitely the attic. 15 years ago wireless systems were not yet super popular. There's probably a wire to follow somewhere. Another option would be to call a locally owned company and see what their service call fee would be to find it. | I would think you could use an EMF meter or something like it. Sometimes they hide those things in your drywall-good luck. | 1 | 14,988 | 2.5 |
3rhnfk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Home Builder sold his business in the middle of building my home. New builder says it will cost more than the contracted amount to finish. I am building a home on my private land that I own outright located in Gwinnett county Georgia. I hired a builder to build the home. The construction loan is in my name since I own the land which was used as an asset towards the loan and turns into a regular 30 yr mortgage at completion. The builder wrote a contract which the bank requires for the loan, stating the house will cost $237,000 to complete. I am to pay $30,000 cash (down payment) towards construction and the bank loan is for $207,000 which comes out in 5 separate draws during construction. The builder has suddenly sold his business at the beginning stages of construction and is starting a new building business. I am at the point where I have paid $20,000 cash so far. The contractor building the home wants to finish the house, but says there is no way to finish the home within the $237,000 price on the contract. He says they messed up and priced the build to low. They are estimating the home to go $10k to $20k over. My question is who is responsible for this contract now? Should I be looking to sue the builder? Any advice or anything I might be missing? I will try to provide any additional details if needed. Thanks in advance. | cwo500w | cwo4huz | 1,446,647,431 | 1,446,646,488 | 41 | 25 | >...*at the beginning stages of construction...* How far along is construction? You might be better off to demand refund of the funds paid so far in return for canceling the contract, and then go and find a new builder under a new agreement. The builder might prefer this arrangement to the headache and costs of a court case which would enforce completion of the agreed contract, and you wouldn't have to worry about 'revenge' construction. | The problem you have, as another poster mentioned, is that forcing them to lose money is going to result in short cuts everywhere and the cheapest material possible. If you can afford (have the cash/can get the loan increased) to meet the builder at a higher price - even if lower than they want - you might want to. But I'd insist on sitting down and going over their calculations line by line and making them explain where the old builder messed up. It's possible some assumptions and lack of communication happened - for example the new guy is assuming granite counters and solid interior doors but you told the old guy laminate and cheap hollow core. | 1 | 943 | 1.64 |
3rhnfk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Home Builder sold his business in the middle of building my home. New builder says it will cost more than the contracted amount to finish. I am building a home on my private land that I own outright located in Gwinnett county Georgia. I hired a builder to build the home. The construction loan is in my name since I own the land which was used as an asset towards the loan and turns into a regular 30 yr mortgage at completion. The builder wrote a contract which the bank requires for the loan, stating the house will cost $237,000 to complete. I am to pay $30,000 cash (down payment) towards construction and the bank loan is for $207,000 which comes out in 5 separate draws during construction. The builder has suddenly sold his business at the beginning stages of construction and is starting a new building business. I am at the point where I have paid $20,000 cash so far. The contractor building the home wants to finish the house, but says there is no way to finish the home within the $237,000 price on the contract. He says they messed up and priced the build to low. They are estimating the home to go $10k to $20k over. My question is who is responsible for this contract now? Should I be looking to sue the builder? Any advice or anything I might be missing? I will try to provide any additional details if needed. Thanks in advance. | cwo3vvl | cwo500w | 1,446,645,257 | 1,446,647,431 | 15 | 41 | You need to get a lawyer to help you examine your contract and see what you can do. The company that bought out your builder is still responsible for the contract. The question is whether they have *any* leeway to up the price, and if so, whether those conditions actually apply in your case. Someone not properly estimating the costs of the job shouldn't come down on you. | >...*at the beginning stages of construction...* How far along is construction? You might be better off to demand refund of the funds paid so far in return for canceling the contract, and then go and find a new builder under a new agreement. The builder might prefer this arrangement to the headache and costs of a court case which would enforce completion of the agreed contract, and you wouldn't have to worry about 'revenge' construction. | 0 | 2,174 | 2.733333 |
3rhnfk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Home Builder sold his business in the middle of building my home. New builder says it will cost more than the contracted amount to finish. I am building a home on my private land that I own outright located in Gwinnett county Georgia. I hired a builder to build the home. The construction loan is in my name since I own the land which was used as an asset towards the loan and turns into a regular 30 yr mortgage at completion. The builder wrote a contract which the bank requires for the loan, stating the house will cost $237,000 to complete. I am to pay $30,000 cash (down payment) towards construction and the bank loan is for $207,000 which comes out in 5 separate draws during construction. The builder has suddenly sold his business at the beginning stages of construction and is starting a new building business. I am at the point where I have paid $20,000 cash so far. The contractor building the home wants to finish the house, but says there is no way to finish the home within the $237,000 price on the contract. He says they messed up and priced the build to low. They are estimating the home to go $10k to $20k over. My question is who is responsible for this contract now? Should I be looking to sue the builder? Any advice or anything I might be missing? I will try to provide any additional details if needed. Thanks in advance. | cwo3vvl | cwo4huz | 1,446,645,257 | 1,446,646,488 | 15 | 25 | You need to get a lawyer to help you examine your contract and see what you can do. The company that bought out your builder is still responsible for the contract. The question is whether they have *any* leeway to up the price, and if so, whether those conditions actually apply in your case. Someone not properly estimating the costs of the job shouldn't come down on you. | The problem you have, as another poster mentioned, is that forcing them to lose money is going to result in short cuts everywhere and the cheapest material possible. If you can afford (have the cash/can get the loan increased) to meet the builder at a higher price - even if lower than they want - you might want to. But I'd insist on sitting down and going over their calculations line by line and making them explain where the old builder messed up. It's possible some assumptions and lack of communication happened - for example the new guy is assuming granite counters and solid interior doors but you told the old guy laminate and cheap hollow core. | 0 | 1,231 | 1.666667 |
3rhnfk | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Home Builder sold his business in the middle of building my home. New builder says it will cost more than the contracted amount to finish. I am building a home on my private land that I own outright located in Gwinnett county Georgia. I hired a builder to build the home. The construction loan is in my name since I own the land which was used as an asset towards the loan and turns into a regular 30 yr mortgage at completion. The builder wrote a contract which the bank requires for the loan, stating the house will cost $237,000 to complete. I am to pay $30,000 cash (down payment) towards construction and the bank loan is for $207,000 which comes out in 5 separate draws during construction. The builder has suddenly sold his business at the beginning stages of construction and is starting a new building business. I am at the point where I have paid $20,000 cash so far. The contractor building the home wants to finish the house, but says there is no way to finish the home within the $237,000 price on the contract. He says they messed up and priced the build to low. They are estimating the home to go $10k to $20k over. My question is who is responsible for this contract now? Should I be looking to sue the builder? Any advice or anything I might be missing? I will try to provide any additional details if needed. Thanks in advance. | cwoledb | cwoljfr | 1,446,670,737 | 1,446,670,928 | 3 | 4 | If the new builder does not want to complete the job, your best bet is to hire another company to finish the job and to hire an attorney to recover your damages from the builder that refused to finish. In contracts law, specific performance generally unavailable as a remedy. This means you cannot sue someone to force them to complete their agreed upon performance, because the courts consider this to be to close to involuntary servitude. However, if someone fails to follow through with their end of a contract, you can hire another company to complete the job and sue the breaching party for the extra cost. Also, be aware you will need to mitigate your damages. If you let this issue sit for too long and then it ends up causes more damage because it was not handled quickly, you may not be able to recover for those extra damages. My advice? Talk to a local attorney that specializes in contracts and also search for a reputable company to finish the job. | I grew up in Gwinnett! Not legal thoughts, but building thoughts: Anyways, builders make a lot more than 10% on a home build. They take on quite a bit of risk and have a lot of money tied up and owing, especially since no builder does one house at a time. The lower price might be pushing it past his hoped margin, but there's no way 20k would make the difference between "all good" and "cant even build it". | 0 | 191 | 1.333333 |
s7ror0 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Evil tenants got evicted, 45 day move-out period has passed, they still won't leave. Does the landlord still need a lawyer?? Does our landlord still need a lawyer or at this point (they are officially living here AFTER their eviction date and 45 day move-out period), can they get them physically removed themselves by calling someone? Sheriff? Police? Why is this SO DIFFICULT? (I live in Los Angeles, CA...so...yeah). | htce2lr | htcco0b | 1,642,614,138 | 1,642,613,619 | 17 | 3 | It is time for the landlord to take a copy of the order to the Sheriff and have them removed. | https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/eviction may be useful reading for you to understand the various things that need to happen | 1 | 519 | 5.666667 |
s7ror0 | legaladvice_train | 0.88 | Evil tenants got evicted, 45 day move-out period has passed, they still won't leave. Does the landlord still need a lawyer?? Does our landlord still need a lawyer or at this point (they are officially living here AFTER their eviction date and 45 day move-out period), can they get them physically removed themselves by calling someone? Sheriff? Police? Why is this SO DIFFICULT? (I live in Los Angeles, CA...so...yeah). | htcco0b | htf6y00 | 1,642,613,619 | 1,642,655,654 | 3 | 5 | https://selfhelp.courts.ca.gov/eviction may be useful reading for you to understand the various things that need to happen | Why are you, as a third party, inserting yourself in a landlord/tenant dispute? | 0 | 42,035 | 1.666667 |
702dcd | legaladvice_train | 0.87 | I was at my place of work when I told a coworker that he was bleeding he intentionally wiped his blood on my arm. California What options if any should I do or advice. | dmztr8h | dmzt3by | 1,505,398,414 | 1,505,397,623 | 143 | 69 | Just out of curiosity... why is this not considered assault? If you spit on someone, it is- and they are both bodily fluids. Why would filing a police report not be appropriate here? | That's pretty gross. Depending on the structure of your company, you should speak with your supervisor or HR. | 1 | 791 | 2.072464 |
9uis4w | legaladvice_train | 0.94 | Neighbor is threatening a “restraining order” on us for leasing our guest room through Airbnb For the past 3 months, my mother has rented out her guest room using Airbnb. As she and my dad have gone through a tough divorce, it’s been a great way for her to fill some time, meet new people, and make some side cash. We live in a smallish town on a lake in Massachusetts, making it a great place for people to stay if they want a nice view or a place to crash while seeing the Patriots. However, our neighbor has not taken kindly to it. He is threatening to put a “restraining order” on us for renting out our own property. He “fears for his wife’s safety” because we are bringing strangers into the neighborhood and he is frequently out of town. We have never had loud of disruptive guests. Only one or two people stay at the house at a time, are very respectful, and many are recurring renters. My mother is there most of the time and gets to know every guest. Whether or not my neighbor is racist is unknown, but it doesn’t look good on him that the first time he blew up about this was when we had two Indian visitors arrive at 11pm. We’ve since ensured that all renters park in our other driveway (we have two, one of which is very close to our neighbor’s house). I don’t think he has any legal ground against us, but he’s a fairly wealthy businessman and well-connected. I fear that he can make our lives very difficult regardless. Is there any legal basis for my neighbor’s threats? | e94k6vp | e94k9hf | 1,541,460,162 | 1,541,460,227 | 54 | 69 | Are there any local regulations prohibiting renting through Airbnb? Many localities do have regulations about this. If there are, he could report your mother and she could possibly be fined. However, it sounds like he's talking out of his ass. I do not know of any restraining order he could get that would restrict what your mother does on her own property. | Ignore him unless you’re served with legal paperwork. | 0 | 65 | 1.277778 |
59zb2e | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA. | d9cicoz | d9ciowj | 1,477,723,268 | 1,477,724,378 | 55 | 183 | How does your host attribute those to the fire alarm activation, and not to, for example, your host's decision to breach his lease agreement? The correct response is block and move on. | If the Host didn't want to be evicted, they should have done anything in their power to make sure no airbnb guest would put the Host at risk of breaching their lease. They are responsible for the guest as their short-term sublessor, and unless that fire alarm was purposely tripped, an accident doesn't warrant a demand for damages. Edit: Also see u/calamaririot's comment. | 0 | 1,110 | 3.327273 |
59zb2e | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA. | d9cktep | d9cicoz | 1,477,732,367 | 1,477,723,268 | 150 | 55 | I live in LA and I've had two friends stay in Airbnb rentals in the city who have been harassed for the same thing (owner is renting and says that something that caused no damage is going to get them kicked out). I'm pretty sure this is a scam, as both times, the owner of the rental wanted THOUSANDS of dollars, despite no posted rules being broken, and no damage being done. The person who rented the property needs to call Airbnb and file a complaint. That's what I told my friends, and Airbnb took care of everything. | How does your host attribute those to the fire alarm activation, and not to, for example, your host's decision to breach his lease agreement? The correct response is block and move on. | 1 | 9,099 | 2.727273 |
59zb2e | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA. | d9cktep | d9ciz8r | 1,477,732,367 | 1,477,725,328 | 150 | 22 | I live in LA and I've had two friends stay in Airbnb rentals in the city who have been harassed for the same thing (owner is renting and says that something that caused no damage is going to get them kicked out). I'm pretty sure this is a scam, as both times, the owner of the rental wanted THOUSANDS of dollars, despite no posted rules being broken, and no damage being done. The person who rented the property needs to call Airbnb and file a complaint. That's what I told my friends, and Airbnb took care of everything. | They haven't had any damages yet. How can they estimate what the costs are? Especially since you are in England I wouldn't pay anything. | 1 | 7,039 | 6.818182 |
59zb2e | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA. | d9co0by | d9ciz8r | 1,477,744,436 | 1,477,725,328 | 31 | 22 | Who would evict someone for the fire alarm going off once? | They haven't had any damages yet. How can they estimate what the costs are? Especially since you are in England I wouldn't pay anything. | 1 | 19,108 | 1.409091 |
59zb2e | legaladvice_train | 0.93 | An AirBNB guest accidentally tripped fire alarm while staying at an AirBNB host's apartment and host is seeking damages ($$$$). Who is liable? Host is renting a property and is claiming to be at risk of being evicted as a result of the fire alarm being tripped, in turn they fear that they will lose their bond, and also income resulting from future confirmed airbnb guests. They're asking for a few thousand in compensation. Is the guest liable for any eviction and loss of airbnb income? What course of action would you recommend the guest takes? Guest is located in England, and stayed at host apartment in in Los Angeles, CA. | d9co0by | d9cng3v | 1,477,744,436 | 1,477,742,684 | 31 | 13 | Who would evict someone for the fire alarm going off once? | Tell them to take it up with AirBnB insurance? This is a common scam now for AirBnB users to claim a lot of damages or possible damages against their renter. | 1 | 1,752 | 2.384615 |
vcyu3q | legaladvice_train | 0.97 | Landlord keeps entering backyard/garage without permission. Can locks be changed on a rental property? California Currently renting a duplex where the landlord is the neighbor. The landlord lied and said an older couple lived next door, when it was actually him. Didn't find out until the lease was signed and the neighbor conversation was verbal. Since then the landlord would occasionally enter the backyard without permission. The backyards are fenced off, however there is a door which he uses to enter. He told me that it was so the gardeners can tend to both backyards. Gardeners come once a week. Yesterday, the landlord and another person were talking by the front door. It honestly looked like he was about to enter. I think he figured out I was home, he didn't knock or need to talk to me. Today I notice that the landlord would enter the backyard. Then he went directly into the garage which can be accessed through the backyard. By the looks of it, he seemed confident and strolled right in. Then leaving he then looked into the bedroom window where I was. When the property was rented he left no belongings in the garage so he has no reason to enter. Long story short, I do not feel safe, can I legally change the garage locks and front door locks? Thanks! | ich4v9h | ich379b | 1,655,312,343 | 1,655,311,665 | 16 | 6 | Does your lease give you exclusive use of the yard and garage? | What did your landlord say when you told them not to enter the property you are renting absent permission or a documentable emergency? | 1 | 678 | 2.666667 |
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